Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-05-11

Uceh seIecteu Tor THIS week:
l. When accompanied in the evening by two gentle
men, neither of whom you regard de trop, is il
proper TO take the arms Of both, should you walk
Independently?
:. Also what should you do IL when promenading in
ball room another gentleman should Join YOU espe
cially u you thoroughly tired of the gentleman
You are with and wish to encourage the newcomer!
should you take both their arms in this case:
D. IL IL proper TO call ON prospective bride after
her cards are out! know her quite WELL and she viii
IeaVe Immediately after the wedding reside in dis
tant state
i. Either take the arms of one gentleman
only, or take the arm of neither. On no ac-
count take the arms of both
2. \ woman who takes the arms of two men
at the same time exposes herself to ridicule.
In the dilemma described you can walk by the
side OF the second gentleman without taking
his arm, or you can disengage your arm from
the nrst gentleman. and either stand cOnvers-
ing with both gentlemen promenade with
Doth- without taking the arm of either. Very
hkely the first gentleman will find an excuse to
leave you with the newcomer. III not there Is
opportunity for the exercise of a womans in
genuIty. Send him for glass of water or to
look for your fan. or to find an acquaintance,
or something of the kind.
8. Only intimate friends can properly call on
sbride after her cards are out.
IN REGARD TO ISvIrATIoNs.
Will you kindly answer question in regard to in
Two lady friends and myself are contemplating Civ
ike very much to have you give US good form for the
This was my idea: Mrs A. and Mrs. b. at home
With Mrs. C.. Wednesday, April "A, p. m. Cards.
These are merely the words, which of course would
DePrOperly distributed upon card or sheet of paper
arr not al home. but are entertaining with me.
The invitation lat home" should come from
the lady of the house. but the other ladies'
cards might be sent with the invitation. An
entertainment given at any house must be as
sumed to be given by the mistress of that house;
a partnership i'll these matters is scarcely ad-
missable. but lady may associate other ladies
with her.
WEDDING AND ENGAGEMENT.
!. In newspaper notice of marriage is it in cool
taste TO have printed the former title of brides father
he having been honorable for number of years
as this: Jane. daughter of Hon. John Smith"
finger of the left hand. believe late answer to sim
liar a. estOnS assigned the engagement ring the
What is the size Of the Zee given clergy
man Tor performing the marriage ceremony:
i. 1t Is often done. but it is of questionable
taste. Honorable" is a courtesy title solely
and hence cannot be claimed or employed by a
person himself or by his family.
z. The engagement ring and the wedding
ring are worn on the same finger, the third of
the left hand.
3. Wedding fees vary according to place and
wealth of the groom; anywhere from five to
twenty-five dollars is the customary fee.
A GENTLEMAS's DRESS.
What color gloves. if any. a gentleman should wear
Ut his wedding, the ceremony TO take place at IL
O'Clock in the day. the bride wearing white silk
grey trousers and Prince Albert coat
III the groom wears gloves they shonld be of
light color. but not white
Why is it improper to a dress in the MORN
The unknown powers that make social laws
have decreed that the dress-coat should be worn
only at night. because il is thought more suita-
Die for evening occasions than for day occa-
slons. But the rule is wholly arbitrary. In
France the dress-coat is worn for all ceremoni-
Gus gatherings. morning or evening At a re-
cent formal breakfast ill New York. the French
consul appeared IN dress suit to the surprise
OF many persons who should have known that
TINS Is the custom in France. The English rule
Is that dress suit must be worn only in the
evening. and American society has adopted this
authority as binding instead of the French.
, l. Please inform me II it is right for a gentleman
having become acquainted with lady at social gather
place Of meeting the desire being for the gentleman
2 Isit an absolute necessity for gentleman to re-
TO follow strict rules of etIquettes
/. A gentleman can always ask for the privi-
iege OF calling upon lady, but not appoint a
place of meeting.
2 A gentleman should ALWAYS remove his hat
when accosting lady.
3. Rules of etiquette are made for all classes
VI course certain social rules are inapplicable
TO persons not IN society. but no man is too low
In rank to take off his hat to lady, to bow to
. gentleman. to give way to an elder to re-
gard the rights of others, to feel self-respect
and show respect to conduct himself with pro-
priety and decency
1; II lady dressing in deep mourning receives
wedding invitation should she send her card together
with her husbands to the mother of the yonnx lady
going 10 be married: 2. Is it necessary to have a
mourning card:
i. She sends her card with regrets.
z II Is customary to have mourning cards
But no one Is under obligation to do so.
THE PROPERTY OF DIAMONDS.
Is it. proper 70: young unmarried lady living in
IN Are not Kline stones crystals and like stones cut
diamond in a ring while behind the COUNTER SHALL
/. No, it is not proper for young unmarried
ladies living in small towns or in big towns to
wear diamonds, according to the theory of fas-
tidious circles.
z. They are in bad taste.
3. 10 the mind of the writer il is not in good
taste Tor any person of the male sex to wear q
diamond ring behind or before a counter. but
II must be admitted that great many Ameri-
can gentlemen adorn themselves in this wav
Just as they wear SNOWY watchchains and con-
splcuous 5carfs; but all displays of this kind
are suggestive of the saloon aud the ward poIi-
tcian- The only proper thing for gentleman
70 wear on his hnger Is seal ring. We do not
see that man position as a clerk changes his
social right to wear a ring. In fact men be-
hind the counter commonly Guido in smartness
all their masculine rivals.
SHAKING HANDS,
Please settle trifing dispute between friend and
myself. and tell whether IL very generay he ma
tom for men To shake hands being Introduced at a
reception or other social gatherings
Men usually shake hands on being introduced
often when it would be IN better taste not 10 do
%. Americans said to be greatly addicted
TO hand-shaklng, but according to the writer's
Observation they are not behind Englishmen
IN this particular. In many off-hand introduc-
lions, occurring in the street or i'm public
places shaking hands is uncalled for but then
IN these cases the Introduction has been nm
necessary or rather forced We introduce too
much. We shake hands too much
IL necessary 10 send up on calling at bouses
Nhere one Is wei acquainted and calls reluentlyy II
seems 10 me that 1t - or CIght 10 be sufficient TO give
the maine 10 the servant vino answers the bell
where person is a frequent visitor at a
house all that Is necessary is for him to send M
his name by the servant
Az private dances when quadrilIes are on the pro-
me dancers supposed to know the forms and
The dancers are supposed to know the forms
and changes. and hence the figures are NOT
usually called
In making call must inquire for all the aa;ss .,
the family or only for the lady particularly wish To
In making formal call it is CUSTOMARY for a
gentleman To ask to all the ladies' of the
family, sending IN or leaving his card for each.
THE PRINCE ALBERT COAT.
J. On what particular occasion is IT ABSOLUTELY re-
enred py strict etiquette that Prince Albert coat