The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1889-12-21
lining a Child Not to Tease.

lining a Child Not to Tease.
talld who never "tease3" Is {
fastEA yet no child ought to tease
IL pa does tease, the blame of hi.
te# properly rests on his parents
ratte' than on himself. The paren
w9Q Ralizes this fact will have ar
aats Stimulus to the work of train.
IL s child not to tease; and nc
pnx4of the work of child.trainine
issf5pier. or surer of its result, than
tease" is ito pull" ito pull"
Ag." "tO vex Tor carry) with
lmNEunity." A child leases when
ne Us something from his parents
anQ US to get it at the first asking.
e us and tugs at his parents, in
~ ne of dragging them to his way
o4 liking, or to a consent to his
what he wants in spite of
tRfI fferentA thinking. He hopes
| Gus 81 carry them itltn The llsa 81
wv hseNMsasf ki5 ia,sFs- ls.
mites, Whatever their view of the
case may have been. to begin with.
Ii a chill could have what he wan
ted at hisfirst asking. he would not
tease: TOT there would be no room
for his tesing. If child never So.
cureu anYhlng through teasing, he
would not come into habit of teas
lngi for there would be no INDUCE
ment to hin to tease. When, there
fore. a chile is accustomed to tease,
1t is eviden that he has been trained
by MS pareitS to tease, instead of be-
ing trained by them not to tease {;
and they are to bear the responsible
ity and blame of his leasing.
Many a child does not expect to
get what HI wants, if it is out of the
ordinary Inc of his daily needs. un.
less he teases for it: therefore he
counts teasing part of his regular
duty in life, as truly as "beating
down" the city shop keepers on his
prices is supposed to be the duty of a
shopper from the country. fla child
asks for "A slice of bread-and-huttqr.
or a bit of meat, at the family table,
or fora glass of water between meals,
he expects to get it at the first ask
ing. Teasing for that is not in his
mind As necessity. But if wants to
stay at home from school without
any reason for it, or TO start off with
some of his schOolmates on long
and hazardous tramp on a Saturday,
or to sit up an hour later than usual
at night. or to have a new sled or
yelOcipede or bicycle, or to go to the
.SsFas or to hear the MINISTRIES, like
als'he other fellows, "-he is not so
sur of gaining his request at the
frs asking. So, when the answer
M" comes back to him. in such a
CAS-, he meets it with the appeal, do
| letme. Oh. do! and then he enters
upon nerve struggle for the mastery
over his parents at his point, with
the idea in his mind that it is a
single question of who shall be most
PERSISTENT in adhering to his side of
the conflict.
There are few children who always
SUCCEED in carrying their point by
teasing; but there are fewer who
never succeed by this means. Most
parents give way, sooner or later. in
some of these conflicts with their
children. 1t may he that they are
less determined than their children,
and that they are simply tired out
by the teasing. 1t may be that they
are moved by their children's earn
eslness in the matter, and that they
yield because of their tenderness to-
ward the little pleaders. 1t may be
that their first answer to the appeal
is a thoughtless one, and that their
fuller considering OF the matter leads
them to see it to be right to reverse
their impuIsive decision. Whatever
be the parents reason for their course
in such case. if they give a mega
tive answer to their children's first
request, and an affirmative one in re-
spOnse to more or less teasing on the
children's part, they train their chill
dren so far to believe that teasing is
an important factor in a child's pro-
gress in life; and of course they are
responsible for their children's con-
tinuance in the habit of teasing.
1t is misfortune to a child TO sup
pose that teasing is essential to his
gaining point that he ought to gain.
A result of such view III his mind
is, that he looks not to his parents
wisdom and judgment, but to his
own positiveness and persistency. as
the guide of his action in any mooted
case of personal conduct; not to
principles which are disclosed to him
by those in authority, but to i'm