Martinsburg herald. [volume] (Martinsburg, W. Va.) 1881-1920, 1889-11-02


Would you say there was any harm
in any of these pass-times, All! no,
none than in the other. The idea set
up by this talented writer seems to
be that no association of the sexes
should be tolerated unless matrimony
be the object, Nothing having the
appearance of courtship," says the
writer.
Another idea and by the way a
very unfair one is that in these flirta-
lions man does all the wrong and
woman is always wronged and an
u'aesauidble and Manaerited appellation
of being q firt is attached to her name.
Now am opposed to, and agree with
the article when it says its wrong for
young man to monopolize young
lady's time and attentions without
some seriousness and thus cause 9th.
ers to absent themselves. But why
| did not this person 60 on and say it
was wrong for young lady to receive
such attentions for year or 80 when
the man has serious intentions, and
goad him to desperation and propos-
al and then turn up her nose and ut
ter a defiant "No." Now his inten-
lions have been in earnest you will
remember. but since he has been re-
jected he must withdraw his suit and
discontinue his visits and according
to every sense of truth and justice,
but according to the propriety preach
ed by this writer, he cannot do so for
fear that the lady in question will
have an ta,eauia6le and stnnerited dp-
pellation as .firt attached to her.
Women can flirt with men, but men
with women, Oh, no, seems to be an
other doctrine advocated. My opin-
ion is that there is no harm in genuine
Irritation, but that there is in insin-
cere courtship. A man should be
honest enough to make known his
intentions and a woman the same,
but no they choose rather to deceive
even those whom they intend to
make life long companions. Tai
mage says There is SO much count
erfeit womanhood abroad that it is
hard to tell the genuine coin from the
base" He also says Woman is
naturally f1irt the world over" /
might as well say that / imagine
the writer to be a woman. Now to
illustrate how fond of deception wo-
men are, / once knew young man
who paid more than ordinary atten-
ton to young lady, but from cause
or other said attention ceased. After
year or so said young man desired
to revive the dying embers of friend
ship and the lady frankly answered
in the negative. Another young lady
says to her, 81 would have said all
right and had my fun with him." So
this young man would have been de-
luded and his attentions monopolized
by her and thus been kept from the
society of others who perhaps would
have received the same in sincerity
and honesty of purpose. Now this
lady would not have accepted any
proposal of marriage from him. Yet
she would make believe and pretend
sincerity. Yet, nothing wrong about
this. A aComan does it, and when this
young man does find that he has vast
ed year or two and further efforts
are unnecessary, he cannot 60 else
where for fear that this will attach an
anaenria6le and ,aanaerited dpellation to
her name.
Now in regard to young man 60
ing with young lady for year or
more without serious intentions,
word; this matter of marriage is DO
trifiing affair, tits for life. When we
contemplate the deception practiced
by woman, we are surprised. The
cosmetic art, hair adjuster, milliner,
dressmaker, &C., all ply their devices,
what for? To deceive man in many
cases. Their bewitching ways, en-
ticing names and fascinating smiles
are for the same purpose, temptations
so irresistible and allurements so
great, yet false, and multiplicity of
unthought of and might add unnec-
essary artificial means are employed
to deceive, in fact so complicated and
profuse are they, that as another has
eloquently and appropriately said,
Women are a mixture Of artificialities
which leave one in doubt as to where
the humbug ends the woman begins
and how difficult it must be for "an
unsophisticated young man to deciph-
er the physiological hieroglyphics."
When we contemplate the foregoing
it behooves US to feel our way, to go
slowly, to endeavor to get suitable
companion in every way. Tastes,
habits, desire, temperaments, passions,
&C.; no matter if it requires dozen
years to find out, and if it takes so
long to find out such, and these are
not of nature to presage happy
union; 60 elsewhere young man. Bet
ter both would be called flirts than be
yoked together stemming the tide of
dissension and strife and thus live in
the midst of blighted happiness, end
ing perhaps in misery and woe.
Don't be serious too soon" is a
good motto.
A word in reference to his Honor's
wise decision. Would any truly we'll
bred lady ever think of considering
herself engaged to any man without
a proposal or promise of marriage?
Talk of ,aaenria6le and islDaerited dp-
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