The Daily times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1886-1889, 1889-04-14
THEY WORRY AND FRET.
A CHAPTER OF IMAGINARY WOES
THAT BESET A WOMAN's LIFE.
II l. Better to Laugh Than Cry-No Toi-
let, However Exquisite, Can Hide the
EClouds ON Pretty Tace-Ihere IL
Kennedy for Much of This Eretfulnes-.

let, However Exquisite. Can Hide the
WClouds on - Pretty Tace-There Il n
Kennedy for Much ct This Fretfulnes-.
To worry or not TO worry
Not 10 worry. Worry never helped any
ono along. aud never made any one happier.
Il does not drive away clouds, nor remove
mountains, nor make the insight clearer, nor
the heart lighter. nor the mind caimer 1t
destroys the temper. the appetite, tue diges-
ton and the general health. IL gives the face
an unhappy expression. affects The complex
ION ard makes wrinkles II worrying wo-
mon could be thoroughly convinced Of all
this they would worry less A worrying wo-
man IS a burden 20 herself, and an infection
10 all those with whom she comes in contact.
Il may not boz au easy thing 10 cultivate
calm and cheerful way ~ looking az things.
but it can be done 4 habit once formed y
one Of the most difficult things 10 get rid Of.
a porncious habit is "A tyrant, but habit
that benefits ones self and helps ones neigh
Dor is a delightful commander 10 serve. The
probation is sometimes long and tedious aud
the discipline severe. but when one is fairly
enlisted in the noble army Of tho knights OF
the cheerful habit the hardest part Is over,
and henceforth the line Of march Is compare
lively easy Il is always the first steps that
are difficult to take in virtue as we'll AS IN
vice
LIFE Is TOO SHORT FOR WORRY
writer attributes the angularity Of
American women 10 worry, and says that II
Increase with indulgence, like anger or appe-
tito or love, or any other human impulse. II
upsets the mind and units it for any kind Of
work. and surely the woman who worries.
vino lrots continually about triiles, Is 10 be-
avoided The woman who jumps up IN the
milatOf a conversation TO remove q spcck o.
dust from the piano. who relates tho wOrries
Of her servants TO her guests. the woman
who frcts because Der child has rumplee
dress. or because some one brings little mud
ia on tho carpet. and about many other sim.
liar things that are Of the least possible con
sequence. are wclri.omo 10 the last degree
Lueis too short % be- spent ia this way, and
generally speaking, we have serious trouble
enough To Us into passion m Some uuinf
occurrence that 3, not altogether pleasant,
Is scn,elos- l.ooi. at the other side OF %, and
perhaps 10 mas bee "a ludicroua side.
Most THINGS have a funny side II ono will
only take Tie trouble 10 look for h. and o.
one looks, one ~ili be- sure Co End. Cultivate
tha habit ol looang 40 "a thing on every side
until you como to tie funny side, and then
eui0g good LAUGH 10 ls -o much better o.
laugh than tJcry one feels far happieraiter
ward, and ths laugh ha, "a cheering cict on
those who bear b. And IL wrinkles must
come. as they surely viii as the years ily hy
let them come from laughter and not from
worry. Be- not afraid of laughing wrinkles
fear only tho wrinkles of worry. they are, in
deed. 90 be depl0red and fought against. so
rubbing wil cause them % disappear, time
viii only deepen them. They can be avoided
bat theg VIII not ho driven away And who
enjoy. looking al irctful, worried, wrnklcd
facet What charm has a Partisan toilet, belt
ever SD exquisite II the face above 10 is coy
cred with "a network az fretful wrinkle
Since human beings look more nt faces than
go anything e.-s in the whole course 90 their
lives. they should do all tAey can % make
their own l4.. cheerful, and as the reflection
0l u cheerful ilce-the eight oi the counte
uaucer what more expressive way than that
can be- devised for speaking OF q cheerful
face3-niA shine upon all who sec 90.
DnE WELL AND LIVE WILL
CT course. hie IS fuu of cares, every one
knows that, and every ono ha- cause 90 worry
about something ID the children are ill. COZ
tlie husband has failed ia business, these are
things that one naturally worries about
These arc tie biz things Of life that uIust b.
borne aud about which one cannot help wor
rying
BUTT IS tho little things OF life over which
people Worry most and which are NOT worth
worrying about a careful houscseop1r viii
fret about The way her servant enters the
room before company, or passes dish as
;qhlc, and froms viii sottlo down upon her
laco that arc seen b. the guests who have NOT
seen Tie causes Tho woman viii Worry m
cessautly about her health II slc has the
smallest acLo iu amy part Of her body, or th"
slightest feeling 81 lInguor, tho whole house
hold is upset and for few hours everything
is iu the widest state Of confusion. while the
vctim-lor she certainly is a victim % her
Worrying disposition aginos herself hun
dlcd times more NJ than she b., and dies many
times before she really dies once.
Another woman worries because she Is
growing DID, Oh, dear. + not every one
.he should make such fuss about itf She
wln not do this nor that. nor 80 hero nor
there. nor sit in "a strong light for fear that
some one Will discover a gray hair, or the
tiniest suspicion Of "a wrinkle And while
she worries ia this way she helps TO make
herself look old She denies herself the pleas
ures Of life because some one may discover
her age; and so the years fly by and she Is
old-old with years and older with worry
Unhappy herself and making those about
her unhappy; uul0ved and unl0yablc.
One writer attributes rs one cause Of fret
mlncss the habit that some women have Of
undertaking themselves Whether II Is
from carelcssncss from a general indiiIer
enco 10 food, OF on account Of having no ap
petite, or because they are too busy 10 give
the time 10 eat the proper quantity that their
system demands, many women arc underfed,
and tho result is felt ia both mind and body.
Many women really live on two meals
day. taking only q cup Of tea and a slice Of
bread and butter at noon. They say it is all
they require and all they want, they could
not eat anything more But they deceive
themselves for this is not true 10 may b.
that they do not want 10 eat more; but If So.
it Is because they have not been properly
trained Eating is a matter Of training as
much is anything else. and as the system re
0uircs o considerable amount u food o. keep
the general health up to tho proper standard
women should be trained 10 eat a sufficient
quantity OF wholesome fool 40 regular hours
Three meals day, or even four, are not too
much tor some women, and meat twice day
is indispensable to good health Underfeed-
Ing cannot be too severely condemned Il
veakens tie system, making the victim liable
~ an innsmerable list or ailments, such a.
sure throat. backache and neuralgia, besides
many o,ler lis which, whom once fastened
Ola tic system, are difficult % get rid Of
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