The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1889-11-07
9Haeraptt gatelligetleet,
A TALK ABOUT HUSBANDS.
some Women AIT their Views Upon the
Subject.

There Is one thing that young woman
who has but recently gone and gotten
hsraelfmarried, should be advised against,
that is, any sentimental effusiveness upon
copjugal happiness in the presence OF
women who have been wed sometime.
No matter how happily mated these
danes may be, they feel in duty bound to
snub any expression of faith and content,
ment on the part of bride Of a few
weeks. They like to tell pleasant little
stories concerning the fidelity of implicit
ty trusted husbands, their fonduess for
night keys, club suppers, carda, their
peculiar exactions, eccentricities, and so
forth.
I chanced the Other day to drop in up.
on circle of these matrons when two.
weeks bride called. The subject of mar
riage vas brought up, aud the bride
yentured to assert that it was not always
q failure.
Then there was an expressive shrug al d
cynical smile from her listeners, one q
whom said:
"Oh, but you've only been married a
short while. It's all very pretty now, if
it would only last"
"Well," hopefully, "it has lasted with
my mother and father some twenty odd
years."
"1t's an inheritance, then. Why, l
wish I'd inherited peculiarity OF that
kind from my parents"
"Pm sure"-this from sympathetic
dame-"that the lore between your
husband and yourself has very firm
foundation. think you both have the
elemente of faithfulness that will make it
eternal"
"Eternall" this from a woman who had
| no cause whatever to doubt her husband'a
affection. "Don't talk 10 me of the
eternity of love-at least of a mans loTe
l. don't believe in the fidelity of any OF
them"
"What, not in your own husband 2"
"OE, [ think he's true, but wouldn't
swear to it. He might go astray il
he we're sorely tempted. Men are &c
weak. They are naturally strong in
fondness for every sort of sin. I've seen
so many instances where women's trust
was basely deceived. / knew woman
who believed implicitly in her husbands
devotion for twenty-five years when she
opened letter from famous actress
wherein she thanked him with many lov.
ing epithets for horse and cart and 8
set of Russian sables."
"Ah!" exclaimed panied female
voice, II might have forgiven the horse
and cart, but I never could have recover
ed from the Russian sables ~
eyes, but the wife did, Notwithstanding
the fact that she hadn't had new frock
all season. Women are such fools, you
know"
"Yes, and the biggest ones are these
nimby. .pamby things who follow thei,
husbands about the house and wait upon
them like slaves"
At this every eye was turned auspi'
ciously upon the cause of this conversa'
ton who blushed guilty and braced uE
for defense.
"I think it's righ. to wait on ones bus
band some," she protested mildly.
"No they shouldn't be waited on at all
That's the first lesson man must be
taught, to wait on himself when he cores
home."ss
"But suppose he is tired. and has been
working hard all day, while you have had
comfortable, easy timel'
'That makes no difference. There
will be plenty of times-when you will be
quite as tired and he'll come in and ex'
pect to be coddled just the same"
Maybe you are right, but I've started
out to wait on my husband, to attend to
his little wants at home, and do hope
shall never feel too tired to keep it up
A woman has the comfort and privacy oi
1
her home all day. She is surrounded by
pleasant books, charming pictures, every
thing to delight eye and mind. A man
has>but few hours of this paradise. The
rest is dingy Office, hard work and irk'
some responsibility. His home ought to
mean rest, absolute rest for mind and
body, and certainly it is pleasure for hi:
wife to look after bis comforts and
thrust aside for his sake little petty home
cares"
"It simply spoils men and makes them
regard their wives as convenient appeu.
dages."
'Maybe it does; but did you ever no.
tice how easy it is for the kind Of women
who care for young fellows comforts to
get married-young girls who have hospi.
| table homes where men can come and be
at eaHe, where they can smoke and where
the girls get lunches and make candy for
them? I believe very few men who mar.
~ that sort of women care much for the
club life. People are always talking
about men not liking to stay at home.
Upon my word I don't blame them when
they have to gel their own dressing gown
and slippers and take the babies whenever
they cry. / never had my sympathy SO
intensely excited as by poor little man
WHO had this kind of fate. He VAS an
awfully hard worked fellow with whin.
ey little wife and horribly spoiled little
child to support. The minute he came
in-pale and sired, with face full of
trouble and veIation, the baby vas thrust
into his arms and he mas asked to do a
dozen or two things for them both. His
patience and unselishness had the sub.
Unity of martyrdom."
ssYes, but this was g rare case most