Barbour County index. [volume] (Medicine Lodge, Kan.) 1880-current, 1889-02-20


A Woman'S role IS to seem utterly OBJ
hvious Of her bonnet after the parting look
into the mirror establishes the pleasing
truth that it is settled safely and becoming
! ~, remarks writer in Once Week. The
] man who forgets what he has upon his
head is boor, incorrigibly absent-minded.
! The right manipulation of his hat is like
/ speling-it must be learned early and thor
! oughly, or it comes hard, and is ALWAYS a
skittIsh possession.
A mother habitually indulgent TO her
Children, called her eldest born-a boy Of
ten-back when he had left her on a street
corner The lad covered under the severity
Of eye and accent.
Never dare leave me in the streets
again without raising your hat!" she said.
1t is token of respect you owe to every
woman, and never forget that your mother
is a woman!''
The reproof was doubled barbed. Associa-
ton with mothers and sisters IS excellent
practice in an exercise that can not be
abated without injury to him who takes the
liberty. "The fellow who mods a cavalier
welcome or farewell to his sister at the
window, or in the street, will with the
most gallant intentions, some day, in a fit
OF abstraction, or when hurried by business
into forgetfulness of his company manners,
nod as carelessly to some other fellows
sister, and score point in favor of the
rival whose hand, from the force of early
habit and long usage, moves involuntarily
toward the cap brim at the approach of any
woman whose face is familiar to him.
A nod is not bow.
To nod to a woman is open disrespect.
The mother who carves the two sentences
and the import thereof upon the mind of
her boy builds so much better than she
knows as to merit the gratitude of her sex.
The bob or duck Of the covered head which
salutes comrade of his gender is barely
pardonable, even in America Students in
foreign universities would be sent to Gov
entry were they to practice it on meetingin
corridor or thoroughfare. Equally gen
eral in the older lands, where external
courtesies rank higher than with us, is the
custom OF dofing the hat on passing lady
stranger or acquaintance on the stair
case or in the halls of hotel or other public
building. In witnessing the effect of the
neglect Of the gracious little ceremony in
the country that furnishes the best hus-
bands in the world it is important to re-
strain the regretful sigh:
''These things ought We to have done, and
not leave the other undone!"
The undoing is carried to disgraceful ex-
cess as we descend the social scale The
lower we go the more scanty is the obsery-
ance OF the etiquette and moralities of the
hat, until we are forced to consider the i'm
portant adjunct to the outdoor toilet as an
almost infallible barometer of breeding.
Respect OF the rules regulating it's manage
ment in refined circles is the last sign of
better days and better manners with which
the decayed gentleman parts. When his
hand fOrUPtS fha wa 10 Ha hot hui, I,
very near the foot of the hill What a
slangy lad once called in my hearing 1.-THE
hat trick" is likewise that which the self
made man of plebian extraction is slowest
TO learn. l have seen millionaires forget
to remove their hats in superb drawing
rooms.
One OF the most notifying experiences
Of my earlier married life was the visit to
our country house of distinguished man
than whom the State held none ADLER of his
profession. We had invited several friends
to meet him, and the dinner given in his
honor passed off smoothly The lion roared
In perfectly satisfactory manner, winning
universal admiration. Coffee was served
on the veranda, and the evening being cool.
the great man called for his hat. He
might have asked permission from the wom-
en- present to assume it, we thought, but
orators must preserve their vocal cords from
rust AS the chilliness increased we adj
Journed to the library, where a fire had been
klndled. There, in the assembled presence
or our choicest neighbors, the great man
wore his hat until the hour of separation
The recollection is an agony. The infer
ence, borne out by subsequent discoveries.
was inevitable. He was commoner of the
commonahty and vulgar ingram. 1t ought
to have been impossible for him to commit
such breach of good manners in any cir
cumstances. The varnIsh of surface-and
unaccustomed-c courtesy, like other cheap
and patent dressing, requires frequent re-
newal and can not be warranted to wear.
AS grateful contrast, l offer another au
thenuc incident. A true gentleman, driving
through the country with his wife and chill
dren, stopped at small farm house to in
quire the way. A child on the front seat of
the carriage had a view of him as he knocked
at the door.
'Papa's talking to lady, chirped the lit
tie one 81 can't see her, but l know be-
cause he took off his hat when the door
opened, and is standing with his hat in his
hand"
The ''lady" followed him to the steps as he
returned to the carriage. Her sleeves were
rolled upto her shoulders; she wore shabby
calico gown without collar. Her hair was
suds. Her parting directions were shrilly
nasal and ungrammatical. The man who
appeared beside her as a prince beside a
serf, stood with his noble head barred as in
royal presence.
"How could you!" queried the quick-eyed
occupant of the front seat ''She wasn't a
bit of lady"
"She was woman, my boy; and gen.
tleman is always gentleman for his own
sake.n
men can do no end of pretty things with
their hats" sighed a belle to me- 1.-THE tao
tics of that useful article (masculine) are a
sclence-one of the arts. Yet two-thirds of
them don't half appreciate their privileges
in that line, or suspect their possibilities.
l saw man who calls himself a gentle
man kiss his betrothed the other day, with
his hat set as immovably on his head as if it
had grown there with his growth and
strengthened with his strength
Fancy condition of mind and body that
could make such thing practicable in
Christian land, and in the nineteenth cent
ury.
A LITTLE LEViTY.
A TREAT ODE is a bacchanal and tree
toad is batrachan-both n distinction and