Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-05-12

omy advocated BY !Benjamii Ffanklh
and the pinching close-fstedness of the man
who made the eagle on q quarter squeai by
holding onto it with such tenacity. All for
love and the world we'll lost, is VERY
pretty sentiment, ~ as Sam w eller would
say, but it rarely works well in practice.
The handsome, accomplished, charming
young wonlan,of refined tastes who n1arrles
on such income, speedily discovers that to
keep house and live and bring up a family
on such amount means back streets, shabby
clothes and hard work, and if to this is
added selfshness and neglecton the part OF
the husband, she finds that the world and
marriage do not constitute the maze of bliss
so POLITICALLY pictured in poetry and dreams
mot by good deal.
Another man, in addition to all the ex-
cellences and virtues and beauties that
most become woman, wanted his wife to
have an'income of her own equal to his, and
announced boldly that only in such union
could the ideal marriage be found.
THE LADIES TALK.
The sisters on the piazza shouted as these
various ideal wives were presented to their
notice.
"No men are such fools as to write all
that stuff, said one well-to-do sister. "Those
yarns are all made up in the newspaper
offices. II they were true they would SIM
ply show that the trouble with marriage to-
day Is that mechanics and workingnen
generally on small wages want to marry
girls whose education, culture and tasks
unit them for such unions, and who, when
the first glow of happiness has faded, find In
the harsh graspings of poverty nothing but
discomfort and disgust
well, but" said the romantic old maid,
'Iove would sweeten everything. 1t would
give compensation for the hardness and
drudgery to know that it was done through
affection. 1t would keep q wife's heart
warm to know that by her work the man
she loved was made happy
Love! FudgeP said the worldly-wise
woman whose lot had taken her over hot
ploughshares until she had been left the
rich widow of stingy and penurious hus-
band. when poverty comes in at the
door love flies out Of the window, and let no
girl forget it. Marriage is hard enough at
the best for any woman, but with poverty to
boot, it is simply an oft-told tale of hardship,
make-shift, drudgery and perpetual abase-
ment."
"Oh, Sister A., you must not forget that
all men are not alike. There are good ones
and there are bad ones. Plenty of husbands
are faithful, fond and true, and, even though
poor, treat their wives SO well that they are
happier however much of hardship they en-
dure, than they would be with no one to
love-"
''But, is it not pretty cool to demand
beauty, accomplishments, skill in manage |
ment, ability to cook-wise judgment,
thrift, economy, and all other wifely virtues
with the offer of nothing in the way OF re-
turn but the companionship of sap-headed
selfish man. Let another verse be added to
the litany, said another. From all such |
men may the good Lord deliver Us forever |
more"
AN EVERLASTING TOPIC.
As q specimen of mornings talk among |
intelligent women the above is short |
sample, but it shows that the question of |
is constantly under discussion |
everywhere, and since women are now
taking their own part as never before they
have done in the worlds history some
good may be expected from the discussion
BY both sides. Someone says that millin-
sr's and dressmaker's account has often
proved to be the tiny germ of the perennial
thistle that grows up in many homes. But
Is women must have bonnets and gowns
The point is how are they to be secured
without trouble as rank as Canada thistles.
Moreover, when the sense, judgment, thrift
md ability to manage home are deemed
essential why should men marry women
whom they fatter as angels and bow down
% before the ceremony, but afterward they
make it unduly plain that wedlock is
'tate in which they are to do as they please
Ind wives are to plod along as they must
It stands to reason that such marriages are
lot happy, and such wives are not the fond
deals of men as pictured. To reach the
)est happiness in marriage men must alter
heir ideals and manners. They must cease
o expect more than human nature from
women. Both parties are made OF the same
have the same right in the pur-
nit of happiness. If men want good wives
hey must show themselves to be good men.
Bad wives are all too common, but they have
n large measure been made so by the insin-
Gritty of men. Fair square treatment would
make very many women happier and better,
nd as follows would insure greater COM
ort and contentment in the home. The
idlculous ideals of men might not be shown
D be numerous, but
The perfect woman nobly planned
To warn, to comfort and commando
Tould largely tend to the ideal marriage.
BESSIE BRAMBLE.