Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1889-08-25
AS TO MARRIAGE.

| AS TO MARRIAGE.
Says one, who ought to know: az agree
in way with the matchmaking mammas.
Marriage, even as a failure, is more to be
desired than single-blessedness as sue
cess. 1t is always negative success-the
being single Its woes, its worries, its
troubles, its griefs are intensified because
they are borne alone; and | can tell you
there is great deal of truth in a remark
made by young matron, that she would
rather have Jack, even when. drunk, to cry
out her woe to- than to have to take them
out on a maid with hair-brush And
some of us haven't even the maid. To be
sure, Jack in his cups may not be a
thing of beauty or of grace, but he's her
own. Jack cross may be hard to persuade
into amiability; but when you are cross
he undertakes the same task. Jack happy
makes sunshine for you, and, nine times
out of ten, Jack being drunk, Jack being
cross, or Jack being happy, depends on
yourself. You see, | am little bit in
clined to take the mans side-because L
| know so many women. | am an ardent
advocate of marriage, good, bad or indif.
ferent, and believe that the making of it
good, bad or Indifferent is largely in the
hand that wears the wedding-ring"
GOVERN YOUR TEMPER.
Do you remember, my dear matron, what
your feelings were Immediately after you
had spoken the first unkind word to your
! husband? Did you not feel ashamed and
grieved, and yet too proud to admit it :?
Just that was, is, and ever will be your
evil genius 1t is the temper which la
bors necessarily to destroy your peace,
which cheats you with an evil delusion
| that your husband deserved your anger.
when he really most required your love.
If your husband is hasty and hot-tempered,
| so much the more need of an example of
patience and forbearance on your part, to
/ chide as well as teach him. Your violence
may ALLEVIATE his heart, and your neglect
impel him to desperation. Besides, it is
the worst possible policy in the way of
| gaining your point, for one smile will do
more toward winning him over to your
way of thinking than twenty frowns.
ever mind suffrage and all that sort of
thing. Let the men of the country man
age its laws, and attend to the Treasury,
and elect its officers; but let the women
see to it, and especially the wives, that the
men are SO well and wisely governed that
they never suspect the leading string.
A woMAN's EYES.
A woman's eyes, those tell-tale windows
of the soul, are the best of all indexes to
her character. She may govern her words
| and train the expression of her face, but
| by the agency of the eye she can never
palm off impudent boldness for courage or
tricky stimulation for modesty. To the
base woman her eyes are her worst enc
mics, as to the pure woman they are her
best friends. A pretty face is far from
| being the best gift for girl and though
| female beauty is not to be undervalued, it
| is very often overvalued A well-known
| employer, who has about two thousand
| girls in his store and work-rooms, was
asked whether a pretty girl could sell
more goods than an ordinary-looking one
After some hesitation, he answered doubt
| fully, "9es, if she has other qualifications
besides" Beauty alone, he said, will
never lure money from careful customer; :;
and when a girl is too conscious of her
| good looks and depends upon it for her
| power to please, it is sure to become a
hindrance. The intelligent mind, the
winning manner, the earnest purpose are
| the 'other qualifications which give sue
cess.
A LESSON TO SHOPPERS.
| A lady of my acquaintance, who is a
most persistent as well as pretentious shop
per, although she buys very little, was
taught useful lesson the other day. After
| she had teased the shopman of a millinery
establishment beyond the limit of forbear-
ance having everything imaginable pulled
down and spread out for her, only to be
criticised and commented on, and his word
| disputed, she at last, after two long hours
purchased 6 cent spool of cotton and
ordered it sent to her. Soon after her ar
rival home she was surprised, and her
neighbors intensely interested, by the
| spectacle of a common dray, drawn by four
horses, proceeding slowly up the street and
| stopping at her door. On the dray, with
bare arms, were a number of stalwart
laborers. The were holding on vigorously
| to some object that she could not see 1t
was puEziing affair, both to herself and
| the staring neighbors. After a deal of
| whip-cracking and other impressive cere-
monies, the cart was backed against the
curb. There, right end up in the center
| Of the cart, calmly reposed the identical
| spool of cotton that she had purchased.
With the aid OF plank it YVES finally
rolled, barrel fashion, to the pavement.
After mortal struggle it was at last up
ended by the six stalwart men on the
| purchasers doorstep-and the fact that she
came out little later, in towering rage.
and kicked it off into the gutter, did not
detract from the effect Of the lesson.
BIRTHDAY GIFTS.
In German families favorite birth
| day gift is what is known as 'swonder-
bal" !" and is made by winding a skein of
yarn or worsted into ball, and hiding
little gifts here and there within it.
Select yarn that You know will be useful :;
take the prettiest present for the found
alton, and wind until it is covered. Then
put in another, cover that, and so on
until all the gifts are hidden. OF course
they cannot be found until the yarn is
knit of, hence these balls are sometimes
said to be for lazy people. Certainly the
stocking or mitten grows much faster
when every little while a pretty present
| drops out. Such ball usually affords
amusement for the whole family, especi. /.
ally if the gifts are from different indi-
viduals and no one has seen any ex-
cept his own.
A pleasant work for old ladies and in
valid children is found in the making of
what are called "baby's balls' At the
end of the lawn-tennis season the balls
that have seen good service become bat
tered and soft and are discarded as no
longer useful. In New York an energetic
caterer for bazaars has collected hundreds
of these, covered them with bright worsted,
and sells them for 25 cents each, for
babies TO roll about. For church fairs,
you viii find that tray full-red, green,
orange, pink and blue balls, piled one
above another, labeled "Baby's balls ~
will go off like hot cakes. The making
Of them is easy and pleasant. Hold the