Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1889-02-10

DfuSues INTO the l1dTfOF, OF lHeH IOOlll-
picks. All these little personal matters
must be left to the good taste of individu-
ais. However. it cannot be called n
crime TO be bad mannered; it is only dis
agreeable.
Attention 10 these minor details of
good manners is "A proof at once of self
respect and our respect for our fellow
creatures. They soon become matters of
habit, of second nature. To the well
bred they are second nature. No one
who is DESTROYS of pleasing in society
should neglect them.
Bertha oppenheim'' writes: 81 am Ger
man governess, living IN Philadelphia I have
men from my father, who IS professor in
Heidelberg. Shall call and deliver these let
tiers? Those have sent by post have. not been
answered. Mrs. M, with whom | live, says:
No lady calls on q gentleman unless profession
ally or officially Now what am to do?''
1t would be proper for the German gov
erness 10 call, with her letter, on law
yer, doctor or clergyman, send i'll her
card and letter and await his pleasure.
Gentlemen in business, as in banks or
large stores, do not like TO be interrupt
ed but doubtless, after seeing her letter,
they would not object to seeing her.
selma writes: IF a lady bows to me
warmly one day and coIdly the next can l con-
slider her well-bred person2
No, that lady must be considered as
too capricious to be we'll bred That So
ciety is bad whose members, however
tenacious they be of forms of etiquette
and elaborate ceremonial, have one code
OF manners for those they fancy or deem
their equals and another for
those whom they esteem TO
be Of less Importance by reason
of age, pecuniary condition of relative
social influence. Bad manners are the
noncomitant of a mind and disposition
which can be none too perfect, and the
fashionable woman who Sights and
wounds people because they cannot min
ister to her ambition challenges merci-
less criticism of her own shortcomings.
But it is good sign for America that
people with audaciously bad manners
rarely injure society-they simply iniure
themselves. 1t will be seen that ia shon
has many classes and many rules of pro-
baton and admission; but truly good
society is that in which people have both
virtue and good manners, with wit, tact,
accomplishments and amiability
gentleman of ST. Louis writes a
striking letter, which is too long to quote,
but it opens up very important ques-
ton. He says he is at the head of a very
large business, all his partners, clerks,
assistants, etc. being respectable dem
Oeratic citizens. Now, when his wife or
any ladies enter, he asks if he shall in
troduce these gentlemen, and if SO where
shall he stop? Shall he introduce the
cashier, and not the stenographer This
is case for kindheartedness, rather than
for etiquette.
We Should think that in business hours
these gentlemen would hesitate to be in
troduced. 1t would interfere with bust
ness, but we cannot decide. Would it
not be better for the gentleman to sepa-
rate business and pleasure, to give re-
ception and to invite these gentlemen,
where in social way he could present
them to his wife, rather than to attempt
introductions in business hours?
NJ z. W. SHERWOOD.