Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-05-01
Copyright 1891


tations for parties by adults.
2 Invitations can be sent by mail
recently met on the old friend. and in
lying ,a them babe them geodSys ana shook hands
No. You could not properly have offered to
shake hands with the lady; the initiative should
have come from her.
Will you kindly the proper thing to do in the
SUPPOSE young lady and young gentleman have
aud Is not at home Would it be proper for her to
sseeted state they Of each other through
their friends.
1t would not be proper for young lady to
address a note to a gentleman under such cir
cumstances. Rules. no doubt, are as often dis
regarded as they are observed, but according
to the canons of those fastidious people who
give laws to the social world, young lady can
under no circumstances, correspond with q
young gentleman, unless he is very intimate
with the family, and the correspondence is con-
Quoted with the knowledge of the young lady's
mother.
sentiemen. and If 50 2Sat Styies eNNs 0y
To whom should the present be sent and n To the
prospective bride in her maiden name or mott " WAC
II unable TO attend should regrets be sent to the
%h1G; parents OF 'n0aa JUST card De SENT and 80
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dance with lady. how il gentleman to leave her,
has hS With S' R ss ss es
II would seem he surely should not leave her alone.
l. Z
evening receptions, although few years ago
IL was the universal custom.
2 To the bride and in her maiden name As
the presents are sent before the marriage the
prospective bride has no other name than her
maiden name.
8. 1t is not necessary to send regrets to we'd
ding invitations. Send q card with ''best
wishes" to the bride-elect the day before the
wedding.
4. He might conduct her to some lady &C.
quaintanee with whom he could leave her.
l. What is the meaning of p. P. C. cards!
Is it still the custom TO turn down the corners Of
tached TO bending of various corners
1. p. p c. are the initials for Pour pre,sdre
congo: meaning to take leave.
2. 1t Is not now the custom to turn down the
corners of visiting cards.
LEAVING CARDS.
We would like an answer to 3 few to Us important
Authorities say. Leave card for card" now, what
Is the idea OF leaving card,
Il Hesr yo sS Dc esI II your carriage when
sweriEg he door: supposiLg there is footman,
8. 3 In case member Of the family for whom the
cover your presence in the carriage would she tthe
IHenber net have feel sighted? How the
whether they we're intended call card leaving
4 Do ladies m mourning desiring to re-enter So
ciety leave their cards in person or send them by
D Why is it Necessary to leave cards in person ito
riatve ~ M 1sir ilInsss' surprising
would become Of the card to inquiref"
i. The idea of leaving card is to pay your
respects; card for card, therefore. is a courtesy
In response to courtesy received.
2. There is no necessity for a lady being IN
her carriage when her servant delivers her
card: she can send her cards in her carriage by
her maid or she can take maid with her for
the purpose. If there is no footman. If there
II no fCotnan and no maid and no male COM
Panlon, then the lady must herself deliver her
cards.
3. No; salutations are exchanged and you
drive or
T. They may be sent by post
.. Ii Is not binding any one to send cards
10 inquire 1t Is simply an act of graceful
courtesy.
5. II member of the family answers the
door. then, OF course, the inquiries are made in
person and the card is not delivered.
ADDRESSING BUSINESS LETTERS
You said in recent article always use the nrefx
b. inquiry that II is almost universally omitted by
e5r IN the city told ne he never put II on eusl
pens visiting cards Does not general custom regu-
:. 56iak sou will And ,hst the custom of leaving
invented by undertaken but proper and cour-
apo POPE ave no IL P Of Of fu aSd snd Ten
tIT1 Va IsleFs and by private message inviting
and often long distances business men leave their
Tees and siEPioynept to pay the last tribute Of
tilily, th-y have no opportunity Of calling again
at OF KIM and thoUghifn coyrtesy to let the FANNY
tHqw that their friends them personally as
we'll a. III SYMPATHY al the funeral services. Why
IL not To leave card well as
shoG desire TO know Who pail them the resIec; ar
courtesy by accepting their messaEe or notice. 1t
seems an emir-itIy proper and desirable custom.
i. The prefix MIR" or the afix Esq" is al
ways employed by correct people in addressing
letter to a gentleman. We have a somewhat
extensive acquaintance with business corre-
spOndence, and In our experience il is excep-
a letter ntba
wise. There are, of course, crude people and
careless people who violate every rule and
certain people, such as Quakers, are opposed
on principle to the use of titles of any kind
As TO Mr." on visiting cards, we have no doubt
majority OF American men omit it, especially
IN the west. In England Mr." is invariably
Used without exception; in the United States it
Is only PARTIALLY SO. But among people who
are fastldiOus, who know the correct thing
who maintain rigid social laws, ''Mr" is always
prehxed to the name on a visiting card, and
9Th these people ii Is considered vulgar not to
40 so. But perhaps this custom is more gener-
ally adhered to in the eastern cities than else
where, and there no doubt only among the
higher circles.
2 If the writer thinks the custom of convert
ing funeral into reception decorous and
proper, he Is certainly privileged to do SO. We
can only say that il Is a custom not adopted, SO
lar a. We can learn, in any circles with which
We are acquainted.
WEDDINGS
Should the nshers wear the same Is for q morning
wedding, with or without gloves,
=. The wedding Is to take place where none of the
brides relatives eau attend Who should escort her 10
the altar the chief usheri and who should give her
-
3. What should the groom wear,
l. wedding at O'Clock is o morning we'd
ding. rs the term is socially understood
2 Under such circumstances the bride should
be conducted to the altar by some elderly
friend. who would give her away.
3. morning dress. Prince Albert frock coat
light trousers, white scarf
Is unmarried woman. well along in years ever
called Mrs" in England. in France they are
belirVe al iressed madame instead of madenOiseles
1t is not uncommon for maiden ladies' in
England OF fifty and over to be addressed as
Mrs. This was once a universal custom with
English people and is still maintained although
hot uniformly.
cr.rk II out Of the cup or sup 1t with spoon!
: On the card accompanying . wedding present that
70 Ce sent 70 the house the marriage day. would
3N say with best Wishes" or with congratulations
Ed best wIshes!"
l. Both Of these questions have been an
swered Bouillon must be drank out of the
cup without a spoon.
Z Best wishes" should be addressed to the
bride and congratulations to the groom.
III you address congratulations to the BRIDE
the inference might be that she had done better
Than she deserved, that she is lucky to have
found a husband. With the groom congratula-
lions are proper because this is complimentary
nd