The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1889-11-16

is most largely 70 ma .. and the injury to
its dissipation less hurtful TO woman.
FIRST LOVE
First love affects different natures ac-
corning 20 their makeup. II one be already
Of sensitive. gentle and rather soft texture,
this first love is likely to make him actually
Idiotic for a tine. He becomes such a
simpleton that his friends feel that he must
be taken in hand. The wisest Of them IN
dertake TO discipline him, to induce him to
restrain his gush and show so ne trsfe Of dis
erection, but entirely in vain. | know a
man, now OF great note in the land, who
carr ed her letters in his breast pocket till it
looked like large wen over his heart. But
the worst was he would pull
| hem out and read them to
any sort of acquaintance. Ten to one,
ne would visit some one not as familiar, for
no other purpose but to tell the charms OF
his inamorata and to read her letters. He
was a superb scholar and bright every way
but on this topic he was the laughing stock
| Of the town. The whole thing went to
pieces with a crash, for what girls love can
endure such stiffness. He survived the dis
aster without impaired brains, which is
more than sometimes occurs. l never know
| a man to be love-cracked with a second or
| third flame, but the end Of a first love dis
appointment is always serious and some-
times disastrous. 1t may lead only to death
of sentiment and susceptibility to woman's
| affection, or it may dislocate the intellectual
powers or the moral.
But not too mucn can be said Of the'evi
of entering wedlock without the discipline
| OF q first love. Men have sometimes done
this, and they are always untamed, hard
and severe. A man with keen, critical in
tellect can never be satisfied with an ordi-
nary mate. he will do by her as he does
with Smiths last essay-will pick out her
faults and see all her blemishes and fail
ures. The poor woman is only magazine
article that he picks to pieces instinctively.
DE has never had first love teach him
to transform people and things, to give
the rose-color to dullneSs, and to tone
down the monday glare of work-life. He
can not endure such bad habits as ne will
be sure to find in the best of wives. Then,
if we have an imperious disposition and an
| iron will, the consequences are injustice and
misery. On the other hand, man of Pc
culiarly sensitive, loving disposition is sure
to look for first love in his married life.
He has longing for that ideal which he
| has created audaciously out of hand, and
boldly declared he has found, and then
worsbipped. A woman may be thankful
she is not her husbands first love, but that
he had one that, having worshipped, he
humanity, and that goddesses are not in
| corsets.
YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE.
l need not ask you if you remember your
own first love. You could not love her
now, OF course not. She is possibly dowdy
| of the worst sort, married to a coarse fell
low that you marveled she could tie herself
to, and you see now it was all right; or she
is a simple, plain, matter-of-fact wife of a
| matter-of-fact husband, and the farthest
| possible removed from anything ethereal.
| How you ever came to see angels wings on
her is your puzzle. But she served you
admirably. A first love you must
| have, or ought to have, and she was really
a very judicious angel. She did not
| fiirt, nor did she help you to be extravagant
in your fancies. When the spell was off
she became good friend, and has been such
ever since. There is, however, quite
chance that your first love has never
returned your letters and you have never
returned hers, and that you both need to
think over the warm sunrise of your life's
loves, and that it helps your welded state.
| Y our wife is not Jealous, or ought not to
| be. If she is sensible she will be thankful
that someone came before her to open her
| Jimmie's soul and teach him the amenities
| of love; she has him now all the more to
| herself, and all the more of him there is
to have. She would be in sad predica-
ment if he had never had a first love before
| herself.
So you see that first love holds place
wholly distinct and quite unique. It is not
love in the sense Of any other love known.
| 1t is not logical or commonsensical. 1t does
| not show persons in their true light; indeed,
is sure of false coloring and extravaganza.
| 1t is a development of immaturity. 1t is a
part of human evolution. Welded love is
the wedding or welding of two who have
been carried beyond the period when they
can be carried away from reason.
That would make an interesting history
if one could read the loves of the fifty most
rounded strongest characters in history;
but not the first loves, for these would be
almost the same story retold. They rarely
| get into mans biography or are referred
to in his autobiography. He tries to let
them drop out of sight. He counts only
those later grapplings of his heart after
one whom he desires for a life's partner
The ancients never told anything of a man
without giving his love story. How
delightful the story of the patriarchs and
their wanderings after wives and their WOO
| Jugs of kinswomen. But we need not be-
| lieve there was no romance of the other sort
in their lives. They, as we do, hid this
chapter of their lives. 1t does not count in
the same way as the rest of life counts
One would suppose, in reading of the
Orient, that love had been reduced wholly
to matter CT bargain aud economy, yet
there is nowhere else SO much of the idyllic
and romantic.
Our first loves linger with us in associa-
ton with the old schoolhouse ON the hill
They make music with a brooklet that
tumbled down the shady willow bank; they
are remembered as the perfume of the long
gone cinnamon roses they resurrect them
selves in our sombre moods to tell us that
our ideals are as real as the practical, and
that our plain-working life is capable OF
richer phases l think there may be hints
of finer life hereafter. Have you any old
love letters7 Any old souvenirs of you
dream life! 1t was we'll that you once were
soft and dreamy. Do not burn them.
MR.. HOOK WAS CAPTIvATED.