Martinsburg herald. [volume] (Martinsburg, W. Va.) 1881-1920, 1889-05-25
the MAN WHO FAsciNATEs.
The Qualities He Must Possess to Win and
Keen a Sensible Woman

The Qualities He Must Possess to Win and
Keep a Sensible Woman.
He is not necessarily handsome
man. Many fascinating men are also
most ugly Wealth, social position,
rank are all fascinating in and of
themselves, but to true woman they
do not make the man himself more at
tractiye. To fascinate women man
must depend entirely upon hisown re
sources.
What are theyl
First he must be a man of some
brains The empty headed young
''chappies" never fascinate They may
amuse, serve as bit of entertainment
for an idle hour or so, but beyond
that they have no special value They
are to be put in the same category
with matinee tickets and bonbons-
useful while they last, which isn't
long
He must be a man of spirit. A wo-
man soon has nothing but good ma.
tured contempt for fetch-and-carry.
The man who will permit himself to
be made makeshift, who'is content
TO DO smiled on one moment, frowned
on the next, who will patiently stand
and hold my lady's fan while she
waltzes with another-can never fas-
climate a woman. In these days of pro
erosion, advancement, equal rights,
it is rather daring tosay women needs
a master. Yet in one sense she does.
Not petty tyrant, jealous, suspicious,
unreasonable, but man of spirit, of
strong will rendered by justice and
hndliness; a man who will not permit
woman to snub him more than once;
man who will demand and receive
respect and a little soupcon of fear
from women.
( Well thus, given man of brains and
spirit, what next2
The man who has no sentiment need
not expect TO fascinate, BY sentiment
one understands something far re-
moved from sentimentalism. Senti-
ment is divine; sentimentalism, alb
surd. He who can draw the line
between the two is wise man. All
women love sentiment If they do not
possess it themselves they love tinge
OF in man. sympathy comes hand
in hand with sentiment
The man who understands woman's
looks, who does not need to have the
whole story blurted out, who can read
between the lines, who can give gen
tie, tendersympathy and appreciation,
will find that he has taken n long
stride toward possessing the gift of
fascination.
A slight dash of cynicism often
works wonders. Not pessimism. What
woman loves gloom and despon-
dencyl The cynieism that rightly ex-
erted will discover to woman much
of the folies of life; that, knowing
danger thoroughly, would brush il
from her path, is very effective
A chatterer never fascinates. The
man who talks, talks, talks aimlessly,
at random, in mentally maudlin fash
ion, is but bore The man who can
say much in little. who speak volumes
with eyes rather than lips, who can
express everything in look or "A ges
ture-he is successful with women
He should have the artistic temper
ament. Phlegmatic, cold blooded mer
fascinate sometimes, It's true, but it is
the fascination of the serpent. A man
should be warm of nature and of
heart, atfectionate, not ashamed to
show his love in every act. On the
other hand, he is careful to restrain
his ardent devotion--to remember the
fneness and delicacy of a womans
nature.
The passion that wakes too bold and
undisguised becomes odious and re-
voting.
The man who wishes to fascinate
should make careful study and
thorough analysis of that mysterious
and complex thing-a woman's ma
ture.. He should remember that it is
of finer fiber than his; that it is SEN
sitive and easily hurt; that it is proud,
and will hide its injuries; that it is
forgiving, and will generously par
don; that it is often Maynard and
needs kind rcproof; that it is contra
dictory, and must be humored that it
demands much and must be satisfied.
Edith Sessions Iupper in Once "A
Week.