The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1889-11-16
PHILOSOPHY OF FIRST LOVE.
Is it Only Preparation for Better Love
to Come?
From the st. Louis Globe-Democrat.


From the st. Louis Globe Democrat
There are those who hold that love is
simply love, and that one can love a thou
sand times, and each time as deeply, truly
humanity and spiritually, with the same ex-
altation and freshness. But 1 hold that
there is in that first stir of the emotion by
the opposite sex turn given to life, color
to our emotions and a lasting bliss to our
whole being that never is given again. One
may love more wisely the second time and
with more lasting devotion, but only the
first love can give the absolute thrill
of unalloyed bliss and open the
world to you as place of joysome
work. and worship. You are suddenly
awakened from boyhood apd boyishness,
from responsibility and a carelessness con-
corning the future to feeling of marvellous
responsibility. Behind you is the school
and play and obedience and the fathers
house; ahead is exquisite pleasure of work
ing for and tenderly guarding a wife, and
there is the new home to which your imag-
ination summons only flowers and song
and peace and content. Your love has
not yet had single jar. Here is perfect
thing.
The first love is rarely ever welded. 1t
is not so intended Her mission is TO pre-
pare the way for a rational love and a safe
~
the nature of things is temporary, and has
nothing in its home-making. The married
love is economical, deliberate and practi-
cal; the first love is neither of these. 1t
| sees the world i'll false light, because not a
| full light. the color of all things is no
longer the red of lifes sunrise, nor is it yet
| the yellow of sunset; it is rose color. If
| our first loves we're often welded the
result would be vast amount of misery.
Marriage would indeed be failure The
| worst of all are early marriages, and the
next worst are late marriages. Those that
are very early are sure to be lacking in
common sense. The first experiences are
babyish and the result is childish quarrels.
| The two contend over trihes, and as for very
late marriages. here again there is quarrel
| ing over trifies, because each one has learned
| to have uudisputed sway over personal mat
| ters The ideal marriage follows soon after
the first love has faded and the disappoint-
ment of burst bubbles and vanished air
| castles has well healed.
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN.
If, unfortunately. the first love ends in a
speedy wedding, there is, first of all, the
bosh and nonsense to bs got rid Of. l do
not mean that the gush of Fl st affection,
the overflow and flooding of spring tender
ness, are in themselves nonsense when car.
| ried over to our work-a-day world. They
have their place, but not IN the family. If
they get there they have to be got rid Of
And the coming down from airy castles to
| cottages in some vast wilderness, and
from that to plain city flats, with a daily
round of dreadfully prosaic duties, is
neither easy nor often successful. The
chances are that the change will come as a
collapse and all affection will fall fat into
disgust. The woman is likely first to come
to the practical issue, and will either
despise the spoony style of her partner, if
he be young and tender, or she will play
pettish part, as she was used to do with her
mother.
AEwoman rarely, though sometimes,
| takes first love In tue serious way that the
boy does. She is never more different
from man than at this point. She is more
| accustomed to affection and to its out
bursts. While it is true that girl who
has loved is often unfit to be true partner
! with one, yet it must be understood that q
girl is always in love. Her friendships are
of the same nature as love. Most girls are
by nature prepared to serve as our first
loves.
A man can have only one first love; 1
venture the surmise that girl can have
several. In this WAY noble girl is able to
break in and tame and render manageable
half a dozen lads. l think know one or
two old maids who we're peculiarly bur-
! dened in early life wit lovers, but every
one Of them first lovers. They were sensi-
BILE enough to comprehend this, and instead
of selling on one of the susceptible youths.
marrying him out of hand and SO securing
an escape from old maidism, they did
what was sensible and right, and are the
happier for it. But they keep souvenirs of
those days aud look over them with a very
gentle touch. Indesd, think those first
loves served then and still serve to keep
their hearts warm. The benefit Of first love