Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-03-09
ETIQUETTE AND MANNERS.
What to Do and What Not to Do In So
ciety.

What to Do and What Not to Do In So.
ciety.
socIKrY's RULES LAID DOWN BIZ THE AUTHOR OF
PULLING QUESTIONS DIscUssRD-TEAs, AT HOMES,
THEATER PARTIES, RECEPTIONS, WEDDINGS, ETC
The following questions have been selected
for reply this week:
friend Of mine is 10 be married In q few weeks
The wedding is TO take place at the home Of the bride
at q. Immediately after the wedding breakfast
the bride and groom leave on short tour. None but
die relatives of the bride and viii be present
J. How should the groom be attired?
2 Would q bracelet be the proper present for the
groom 70 make the bride,
Before leaving is it the thing for the groom
10 kiss the female guests FAREWELL
4. What style of ring should the groom give the
bride. the ring ceremony not being included in the
ssrvices
1. APrince Albert coat, light colored trousers,
no gloves.
q Yes.
8. II might be an agreeable thing, but neither
Unnecessary thing nor a correct thing.
L II ring is used in the ceremony it should
be OF plain gold; il not, then the groom may
present the bride with any kind OF ring he
thinks proper, just Is he may present her with
any other piece of jewelry.
customary for ladies to take of their bonnets at
Yes.
TO HER MOTHER.
1. II gentleman calls ON a young lady and Is asked
to call again. and is not able to call for quite long
time il correct to write her note apologizng for
not calling,
Also. is it correct to offer young lady money for
the collection plate II you take her TO church,
i. No. 1t is not correct to address a note to
eyoung lady on any subject II for any reason
an apology Is to be sent 1t should be addressed
to the young lady's mother or guardian.
z No; decidedly not.
What is the proper attire for gentleman to wear to
Morning or promenade suit.
VIII you please inform the writer IL the fad of turn.
ing down Corners on visiting cards has gone out Of
The custom is altogether out of fashion.
ANOTHER ARGUMENT SETTLED.
To settle an argument will you please answer
the following:
I. After what hour should be in full dress'
After an af5s t tea whsTe there are many
bddin. vents y mPr3ger to leave the house without
-. . should You leave cards at an evening reception
a should husband and wife leave one card CAIr and
MIS- or leave individual cards.
l. After 6p. m
q There is no host at an afternoon tea. The
entertainment is given by the wife or female
head OF the household, the masculine members
having no part in it. The guest should bid the
hostess good evening on leaving.
g. Yes.
w. Aucy ctCu ledNe y CdIu.
THEATER PARTIES.
Iwant to s theatsr party for friend: intend to
sh de u tS Se the yGe na e
should sf Ought the chaperone sit at the foot d the
table should the hancee at
tons or formal Invitations to those whom invt
and And Should We 81 ss sGT hs
pace sppointed Tor the supper and II SO should the
sHestss '0-D' " 10 'N'ie Ni'' " receive nef
l. The reflection before theater party should
De dinner and not a supper. Suppers are en-
tertainments for late in the evening, and may
follow but not precede the theater.
2. On the right.
3. She may sit anywhere.
4. Not by the ladys side-anywhere else
. 5. Send the usual invitation for dinner, with
the words at the foot: ''Theater at o'clock"
6. Yes. yes.
l. Whe1 invited to an afternoon reception given by
TWO TWO Trends n sh9uld leave cards for both;
should they be sent in envelopes:
j. Leave two cards.
2. Send two cards in envelopes, by messenger
or by post.
What amusements other than music would be appro-
PIRATE e at s,sJ party where smoking and card playing
stag party where neither smoking nor cards
are allowed must be a dreary affair and the
best thing for every one to do is to go home
With no cards and no tobacco conversation and
storytelling are all that is left but converse
tlon and storytelling are not likely to flourish
cigars.
THE BITE IN THE BREAD
VIII you kindly explain why 1t incorrect TO let
a sOPn reLaln IN your cup while drinking your
il at tables '-o' - VI TAU AHu N'Ae oi'ss 0i
If your spoon remains in your cup you are
continually In danger of capsizing your tea or
coffee by an accidental motion of the hand
This ls one reason. Another is that il is ex-
tremely awkward to drink with the spoon in
the cup, and all awkward things are to be
avoided.
Buttering whole slice of bread and biting
IT Is "Reminiscences Of the nursery and in the
nursery II should remain. The habit is clumsy
awkward. dlstasteful, inelegant. childish and
opposed to those canons Of neat and unobtru-
slye eating which should characterize civilized
man at the table. II would be lust as proper
to thrust handful Of food in the mouth az to
thrust therein vast slice of buttered bread.
know am I the 0n SsS at home and would like
When you have come out.
THE BRIDE.
1. Who is to select the minister bride or vroom,
z. Who Is TO pay for the cards Of invitationy
The selection Of the clergyman falls upon
the bride or her family. 1t is usual for the
marriage to take place at the church of the
brides father or at his home, the ceremony
being performed by his clergyman
2. The cards are sent BY the brides parents
or guardians. The groom has nothing to do
with them, but his friends are naturally in
cluded in the list Of people invited.
THREK QUESTIONS ANSWERED.
l. Will please tell what the correct thing In
the matter Of the groon-vearing gloves at a noon
Seddins' 2. II the rooms should be lighted should
3 should the BRIDE furnish tSsm the u ana ashers
sSyes and nscktes. or do they arrange for them
seiSes' ESQUIRKR-
j. He should not wear gloves.
2 AT a noon wedding the groom and the
ushers should wear what is called the Prince
Albert coat.