Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1889-04-24
FIRST sEAR OF MARRIED LIFE.
e HONEYMOON AND PLAIN DAYLIGHT.


GOOD ADVICE TO YOUNG CoUPLEs-THE TWO
BEARS ESSENTIAL TO MATRIMONIAL HAP
PINEss-THE IMPORTANCE OF TACT.
An elderly unmarried lady of Scotland,
says the author of ''How to be Happy
though Married. after reading aloud to
her two sisters, also unmarried, the births,
marriages and deaths in the lady's corner
of a newspaper, thus moralized: "Weel,
weel, these are solemn events-death and
marriage, but yeken, they're what we must
"Eh. Jeanny, but ye have been lang
spared" was the reply of the youngest SIS
ter.
However long we may be spared, many
of us do come to day $50 full Of gladness
and so full of palma day only second in
our wedding day. If ever one is to pray,
if ever one is to feel grave and anxious, If
ever one is to shrink from vain show and
vain babble, surely it is just on the occa-
sion of two human beings binding them
selves to one another, for better and for
worse, till death parts them.
The two people most concerned, especial
lv the bridegroom, are on such a day will
ing enough to shrink from vain show and
vain babble, but their friends and relatives
insist on trotting them out aud making them
show their PAGES. Indeed, for man Of shy
and nervous temperament to be married
without chloroform is very painful opera
ton. He may be strong man, but he feels
like Samson when, for the sake of woman
whom he loved, he allowed his eyes to be
put out, and heard the Philistines calling
upon him to make sport for them.
On such occasions the bride is generally
collected aud calm. She understands every
detail of what is to be done as if she had
baen frequently married. Indeed, when l
am in doubt about the superiority of woman
to man, l am always treasured by compar-
ing bride and bridegroom at the wedding
ceremony. There stands the bride as col
lected and calm as If she were going through
an everyday occurrence, while the bride
groom is as nervous as if he were about to
be sentenced for murder. He support her,
indeed! Certainly at the wedding cere-
monies and festivities she is, so to speak,
twice the man that he is.
Suppose, now, the young people have
gone through the ceremony, the breakfast,
and all the rest of it, if not with great eclat,
at least without making fools of themselves
Then hand in hand through Eden they take
their solitary way. They begin the honey
moon-that mouth after marriage when
there ought to be nothing but tenderness
and pleasure.
But even the honeymoon may be spoiled
If too much prolonged, or if the happy cou
pie. instead of taking things easy and en-
joying themselves according to their own
sweet wills, rush into the excitement of
''sight-seeing" every church, picture gal
lery and waterfall in Europe. A bridegroom
took bis wife On a tour of Switzerland for
the honeymoon, and when there induced
her to attempt with him the ascent of the
highest peaks. The lady, who at home
church, was much alarmed, and had tc be
carried by the guides with her eyes blind.
folded, so as not to witness the horrors of
the passage. The bridegroom walked close
to her, expostulating respecting her fears.
He spoke in honeymoon Whispers" but
the rarefaction of the air was such that ev-
cry word was audible. "You told me.
Leonora, that you always felt happy, no
matter where you were, SO long as you were
in my company. Then why are you not
happy now?' eyes, Charles, l did," re-
piled she, sobbing Historically, "but new
er meant above the snow line.''
That is the way not to spend honey
moon, so let US bring the young people
whose fortunes we are following in imagi-
nation down from the snow line and place
them in the cottage or larger house (Which,
let US hope, has not been furnished beyond
their means) where they are to set up mar
ried life in earnest On some evening when
they are sitting in their little drawing-room
on the sofa, not ], 900 miles apart, we would
like to give them few words of friendly
advice.
nj h.
prised nor displeased with yourselves and
each other if your present transport of love
subsidies and gives place to a calmer but
more lasting feeling. The blossoms and
flowers of spring are very beautiful, but the
mature golden fruit Of summer is even bet
ter. Still, you must do all in your power
to keep the hearts you have won. To be
always beloved one must be always agree
able, and SO you must continue to court
each other. Why should courtship end
with matrimony, and of what use are con-
quests if they are not guarded? 1t is mis-
take to think that merely going through the
marriage service will confer matrimonial
felicity. That, like everything else worth
having, must be worked for-must be earn
ed by patient endurance. self-restraint, and
loving consideration for the tastes, and even
for the faults, of him or her with whom life
is to be led.
No man e'er gained happy life by chance,
Or yawned it into being with wish.
THE TWO BEARS.
There are two bears that you must keep,
and two first things about which you must
be very careful. The two bears are bear
and forbear with each other, aud the two
first things are the first dispute and the
first year generally of married life. A man
ootd Of is xrif
having the last word if were sure that it
would be the last The flast word is
the most dangerous of internal machines
Husband and wife should no more fight to
get il than they would struggle for the pos
session of a lighted bombshell. What is
the nse of the last word? After get ing it
husband might, perhaps, as an American
paper suggests, advertise to whistle for a
wager against locomotive, but in every
other respect his victory would be useless
and painful. 1t would be Cadmean vic
tory, in which the victor would suffer as
much as the vapquished. A farmer cut
down tree which stood so near the bound
airy line Of his farm that it was doubtful
whether it belonged to him or to his neigh
Dor. The neighbor, however, claimed the
tree, and prosecuted the man who cut it for
damages The case was sent from court to
court. Time WAS wasted and temper lost,
but The case was finally gained by the pres
ecutor. The last of the transaction was
that the man who gained the cause went TO
the lawyers Office TO execute deed of his
whole farm, which he had been compelled
to sell to pay his costsl Then, houseless
and homeless, he thrust his hands into his
pockets and triumphantly exclaimed. sI've
beat him p In the same way husband and
wife may become bankrupt of heart-wealth
by eDdeavoTing TO get the last word
The first ge&r Of year nairied life, Eve
would Continue. if ths hAppg pair are not
koc. Ii.