New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1889-04-14
THE CLUB AND MATRIMONY.

Ario Batess Boston letter to The Providence Journal
The town seems 20 b. fun Of club s men Of ssTsns
to tho material from which they have bean manufae.
0u, ns e the the, DsSs ~ sRe co
spicaOusy man who Is Informed Of an that gong ,1
S1 70 e 0 s.ts the es e @ on
the news OF the community. Perhaps this tends to .
vide range OF sympathy out Is mpoSIOo ssbs ~
gossiping ,,.,,., :.
rusty and too much absorbed in the things that went
on in my own little circle, and as my wife had 70
Clubs &c s0 for G Whole WnsP ana when wife
homo again she threatened to have me put IN hospital
was that when came to think the matter over
found that she was right
the matter but there is q good deal of truth In it
Another characteristic Of the cub man is his easy
ably likely to Snd himself and hiS readiness to fan
Il is part of his daily training 20 be exercised In this
sort Of readiness and he soon become. almost cosme
poltan simply from being thrown In with so many sorts
He IS not unlikely to have picked up at the sams
With various alcoholic beverages which would not be
fully approved by people OF strict IDEAS on thls SUP
eSG he tS Se influence Of LIQUOR. at last to any
extent visible to the naked eye; but ne Is apt 20
s tS SSS int %Soy desraSe upon the vsorsns
cocktail for HIS tveliness and TO keep his stomach
a state OF oXcitement Nn1ch IN tne DnS run 10
likely 20 tell upon his digestion not upon his temper
OF course this IS by no means universal and u Is
really saving little more than would In any case Be
true OF The ordinary about town. It Is not 50
much consequence Of club Life rs II Is natural
Pepbaps the best feature OF this sort Of m, Is the
cathoiclty IL gives, the freedom nom stffncss and
formalty and the power of entering into the interests
this by loss of earnesness which Is almost SURE to
70 ssS n vs ont Of or aSd belief
The typical club man Is tolerant because he Is In
deed earnest about nothing u there Were anything
DO his own comfort but a. hts own comfort consists
80 largely IN being placid and unexcited, Il follows
defends even his Independence and win his Is, q
course, tho fault Of the ago a. well as of the Individual
bat Il comes to light In club hfe IS It does nowhere
There are gres. many men who and IN club iis e
their own homes, who able on given income to
1--we far iuxuriously with the aid OF these insa-
said that this fact hndered marriages and very likely
this is true Men who are accustomed to hay,n sg
70 sssp up an establishment. naturally think sod
deal SosSsS they give up the cs%fS S sSss esyS sos
aged on an economical basis II It were the fashion
TO DO very much I'm love, ss IL was IN the Gays ni gur
they doubtless S Would ss less soSsss
that bachelor existence Is on the whole likely %
DO more comfortable than the married s,s n on n.
selfish, but 1t is undoubtedly the one taken ny
many of our manageable men, and IL Is dlnout |"
A man belongs to ono Of the several clubs here
which have restaurant they get for moderate sha
a capital dinner, with the best of company, varied
from day TO day and when they contrast this with
dinner OF herbs In their home, they do not always
find me prospect sufficiently alrtng 10 DO ready to
az would like 10 be married. man sad In my
hearing not long since but am more fond Of good
dinners and good company than am of domesucity,
and i've concluded to worry a'ony with my clubs
And am inclined 10 believe that he belongs TO n
nretty large class some OF whom have reasoned tho
hing ont In this way and some OF whom only feel
II vaguely. =. =. .o,,., r.h.n a.. a,a,
ara yeftn9 along life. Thcn many OF their friends
havs married and have homes Of their own. and ulo
nv iIttIe tbe club seems 10, lose Its delight Tho
Hnaiv h,eheor somehow hnds himself stranded. aud
efsbess M had made dherett decision long years
hsfo,s won certain amount OF apprcvai IN dis
cussion NJ this sort by laying down the prinepis
that while q man misht manage TO have mono vey
and perhaps more agreeable time by remaining single
,rtif ia was forty, the trouble is that when 10 y
mrtv he fnds that no should have been married ton
wears and the truth seems 10 me to be an mportans
nsNobody nowadays thinks of attempting to live With
o,,t a club, especially II no DO single, and 10 Is ewlpg
10 hIs that II Is necessary to have so largo pumbs
~ eirbs TO keop AL satisfied. One who Is At al
Familiar with Boston can place man pretty exaDiy
nv knowing what his clubs are, and tho same fh'ps
HI N course, true anywhere. ss4s sss !
ggJ cannot afford 20 belong 10 my club Is not ps
eoasntiy the confession OF young professional mead
Fbai. % tbs othsr hand. csnnot afford nat ~
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