Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-02-24

Mrs. NJ. Z. W. Sherwood:
Suburb" asks: Finding 1t impossible
toobtain sufficient time to call upon friend,
and wishing to send a card, how should it
De sent, by mail or by messenger"
A card sent BY mail is equally respectful
as one sent by messenger.
THE LADY ON HORSEBACK.
"Reader" asks on which side of the lady
he should ride also, how to help her on her
horse. n
To help lady on put the ciasped hands mder
her foot while she catches the horn of the sad
die. Lift her as she jumps. Ride on her right
hand.
THE CONFIDENTIAL LADY.
IT K" asks: "How can teach the average
American woman mot the well-brcd one) to
keep her hands off me? If they are glad to see
me they catch hold of me. If they tell me any
thing funny or surprising they end with a
grasp OF my arm or shoulder IT they have
confidence they keep hold of me the whole
time. What shall do to avoid it without giving
offense?"
This evidently comes from a foreigner. It
would be impossible to answer 1t except TO say
that it is always much more polite not TO touch
the person. IndiscriminaUe kissing among
women is 10 be avoided.
Bow1NG TO A HUSBAND.
at. R." asks: "If lady calls on me without
her husbands card and L return it without
meeting her husband shall bow when meet
him in the street,
No, probablynot as he might not know who
you were.
MET In THE SCHOOL.
George l.. A" says: "a gentleman meets
some Young ladies in . school or class of in
strucIiOn, music, painting and shorthand,
where all parties are pupils. Would 1t be
proper for him, after the acquaintance has con-
Iinued about month. TO ask permission to call
on one of the ladies, or to ask her to accompany
him to the thestcr?n
1t is quite proper for him to ask leave TO call,
but he should not ask TO take ber 10 the theater
without her mother or some older friend.
THE MAID or HONOR.
Marion Meredith" asks: miss Eusilda
wishes Miss Leila as her maid of honor at her
wedding How should she ask her?
By calling or her and asking the favor person
ally.
THE WORD FRIEND"
What erms should be used if lady friend
and gentleman friend are ohjectionable?'
Simply friend.
A GENTLEMAN's ARM.
"a Constant Reader. a lady may take the
arm of q gentleman, but for I gentleman TO
vulgar and Objectionable walking down Fifth
avenue.
To Chestnut HiIl'' we simply answer no.
THE WEDDING TOUR.
''E. 3. NJ" saws: "A young man expected to
be married in a few weeks. The wedding takes
place in the parlors of the brides parents, in
the presence of the near relatives OF both fami-
lies. Immediately after the wedding breakfast
the newly married couple leave on their tour"
THE GRooMs DRESS.
what should the groom wear -
Answer-Prince Albert frock coat colored
necktie, dark gray or rearl-colored trousers,
pearl-colored gloves.
THE RING.
THE wedding service is not to INCLUDE the
We know Of no wedding service without
ring.
AN EMERALD RING
"Would an emerald ring be appropriate?n
No. Emeralds are unlucky according to Will
lam Blacks novel OF Three Feathers"
BRACELETS AS PRESENTS.
''In making present should one or pair of
bracelets be given?n
That depends on your generosity One brace
let is. if handsome enough.
RECEPTIONS AND YOUNG MEN.
young Girl" asks: "WiIl you kindly inform
me if. when invited to an evening reception, 1
can take an escort without consulting The host
ess previously? Also, when paying reception
calls must escort go with me?"
No. A young girl should never take young
hostess; nor should she go about with one to
pay visits.
LETTERS TO MINISTER'S.
A reader asks:
How shall a lady present business letter of
introduction to gentleman abroad and how
should letter be presented to a Minister in
foreign lands?
Cali at the legation. leave your letter, card
and address. II your business letter is a letter
of credit drive to the bankers.
REGRETS.
81, Norristown," asks:
"Can acceptances and regrets be engraved, !
leaving space for the name?'
We have never seen it done.
YOUR CARD TO THE SERVANT.
"Rachel Dean."-Send up your card, as, if |
the servant does not know you she will make |
a mistake in the name. frequently.
THEN WEAR A PRINCE ALBERT COAT.
"Suebe."-A groom who starts Immediately |
on his wedding tour should be married in a |
Prince Albert coat and dark trousers, giving I
himself time to slip on a travelling coat If he /
wishes.
PREcEDE THE LADY.
Country asks if a gentleman precedes a
lady through a crowd?
Yes, of course. Also:
''Should not people have z footman at a |
Party to open tie front door, especially if there
be intricate locks?
OF course they should.
THE SEAT OF HONOR.
.Globe der."-When a gentleman and |
lady take friend to the theater they generally
give her the seat between them.
As for a clergyman's titles it would be better
10 say, Rev. John Smith, d. ID.
RETURN THE CALL
"Uncertainty" asks: ~ have friend visit.
ing me, and her friends when calling upou ner
have left cards for me- Most of them are un-
known to me. Should return their calls?
''Chicopee Falls"-That is question which
must be left to your own sense of politeDess
"Inquirer."-It is never a gentfeman's dutv
70 escort ladies home unless the hostess shouid
ask him TO do so.
LEAVE YOUR CARD.
stranger in the City" asks: "Does an invita-
ton to tea call for an acknowledgment"
No; 60 or leave card. Street Costume
CALLS.
What are the proper hours for ladies to make
their calls on each other?
Between 2;3U and o'clock.
AT THE AFTERNOON TEA.
"a Country Girl' says: II have an invitation
Co q tea next week, in the evening, from to 10
Should dress as for an afternoon tea?'
No. Dress in evening dress, and do not leave
. card. Call next day and leave card. The
hours alter the whole thing.
''Richard Hare."-A gentleman IS always in
full dress in the evening, for any entertain
ment.
no PERMISSION NEEDED.
Lillian asks: "If at an evening party a gentle
man wishes to dance with lady, is 1t necessa- |
ry for him first to obtain permission FROM her
chaperonP'
No. not If he has been properly presented to
her by her mother or chaperon.
USE BLACK EDGED CARD.
'Debutante" asks: when q family recently
thrown into mourning receive cards from their
society acquaintances how should they send re-
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