The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1889-06-01

day, and see fyou don't find it So
know OF but one remedy, and that Is to
remember others. If you look at it, in
all this world there are only yourself
and other people; yourself-onei other
people-well, something over a thou
sand millions l suppose. 1t seems
fairly absurd to spend ones thoughts
on the one, and forget the millions yet
that is the way some people appear to
live. You know if you hold a cent
close to the eye, it will obscure the sun,
and there have been persons known to
do that.
Self-forgetting is only another name
for unselfshness. Now | would not be
unjust to you, but honestly, ism selfish
ness quite a prominent characteristic of
a boy? | may mistake, bus it does
seem to me as rule that girls are
moro apt to deny themselves for others
than boys are. Not because they are
naturally better, but certain facts in
their usual training and circumstances
make them more thoughtful and con-
siderate.
Indeed, a writer already quoted in
these talks says in regard to some mis-
takes in the home training: THE I'M
selfishness of the sisters, and the fond
ness of tho mother for her boy, and the
fact that the boy is rarely at home, all
contribute to a habit OF sacrificing every
thing to the young lads pleasure or
profit, which has the worst effect on
his character in after life. Boys
receive from women themselves in the
nursery, and when they come home
from school in the holidays, regular
education in seltishness."
That is forcibly put. but fear it has
much truth in it, and | repeat it to you
boys, that you may notice and correct
any such tendency. just see how many
times this week the mother and sister
deny themselves in little ways and at
tentions, which you receive with such
a lordly manner, and without the
slightest notion that any body is put
out for your sake. / am willing to be-
lieve the fault is thoughtlcssness, and
the way to correct that is to be thought
full. Thoughtful for the mother and
sister. thoughtful for the comrades at
school, thoughtful for all whom you
meet, caring not so much for your own
comfort, or what you esteem your own
rights.
Remember that tho largest livAs,
from whom the Masters down, have
been those filled with thoughts for 9TH
ers This thought encouraged will grew
as you grow. until it takes in all the
world. Then there will be in your heart,
not the one self alone. but crowding on
it the thousand millions and more of
others, whose interests and whose well
fare you are to consider. But boys
you will not jump into such q self-for-
getting as this, you must grow into it.
In the old days Christ told His disci-
pies to begin their work at Jerusalem;
so | think with us all we must begin
with that which lies nearest. just here
in your own homes, in your own school
rooms, on your own Fairgrounds, you
must forget self and remember others
Look out for number one," is one of
the meanest precepts of so-called
worldly wisdom, which deceive with an
air of sagacity and prudence. Within
the covers OF the Book you will find an
other quite the opposite: Look not
every man on his own things, but every
man also on the things of others. ~
From Talk with Boys" in N. Y. OBJ
server.