The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1889-05-29
BEWAREOF WIDDERS.
Rev. Mr.. Scharr Breaks His Heart
for One.
HE ALSO BLOWS OUT HIS BRAINS.
He Ignored the ExDerie ace of Sir Roger de
COverley, Uncle Toby and Old
Man Weller.
social % NE HERAIp- -Examiner pispateh.l

Especial to THE HERALD--Examiner Dispatch.
s1LTIMoRE, May 28.-Not because O.
financial difficulties did the young assistant
pastor of st. Pauls, Baltimore, Rev. H
Greenfield Scharr, kill himself Sunday
morning; not because of the suicide of his
friend at McKeesport, Pa, for whom he
had endorsed note for 81 900; money was
a minor consideration. He did it because
he loved and could not marry the woman
for whom he was ready and willing to for
sake the church. He died for thelo of her
for whom heshirked duty, and because dis
missal stared him in the face. Had he
lived, he would have been a lover without
a companion, pastor without charge.
From his papers and letters it is evident
that the young pastor had made up his
mind to die at least a day before he killed
himself The papers reveal his secret de
pordeIcy.
Some months ago, while pursuing his
duties as assistant pastor of one of the
fashionable churches of Baltimore, the
young minister met a woman in the con-
gregation, handsome, wealthy and refined.
He took a strong fancy to her. This fancy
grew to admiration and then this infatua
ton expanded into love deep and sincere.
His affection was reciprocated Nothing
remained to make him supremely happy
but his marriage with Mrs. Margaret NJ.
Smith.
Scharr was frequent visitor to Mrs.
Smkfh's home, 1919. North Charleston
street, Baltimore. Often they were seen
together. Tender messages of love were
every day sent by the minister. He was
light-hearted and went about his work with
cha f,,1
days were full Of sweet happiness, and at
night he dreamed as only lovers dream. Al
though Mrs. Smith insisted that their en-
gagement should be kept secret, he hoped
IL might be made public soon. They were
to be marriedin the autumn, the letters say.
He wrote a friend, the Rev. G. H. KiRsolo-
high, of Philadelphia, informing him of his
engagement, saying the lady was a widow,
and expressing wish to have a parish of
his own. Kinsolohigh wrote him his con
gratulations, concluding with promise TO
look for parish for the young pastor. This
was May 13.
Mrs. Smith had written her friend and
she upbraided him for telling of the engage
ment. That was the beginning of the end.
'SClhdrr chafed under the secrecy of his en-
gagement, and demanded that it be made
public. Mrs. Smith objected, and said she
could not marry. Here is her letter in an
swer to one written by her lover, taking
1er TO TASK IOr ner decision:
Dear Harry: I am so sorry I
have ever caused YOU any pain.
Believe me when I say l would a
thousand times rather suffer myself
Since have known and loved you, l have
at tiInseOeen very happy and have let my
mind ~ hnder TO the elimination of that
happin ess in building castles in the air: but
again have thought that the event could
never happen, and l tell you now, dear
one, there would be serious objections to
our marriage from my family. My brother
here in Baltimore cares very little about |
me- / should never MIND much his opinion |
one way or the other, but my brother who |
is coming this minute l love very dearly, |
and would never marry without his con- |
sent, unless he was perverSe in the matter |
and had no ground. My uncle does not |
want me TO marry; still l am independent |
and can do whatsoever | will, but | cannot |
marry yCV or any one now. If you are |
willing 10 let me lcye you as l do and feel |
that cannot help doing what l am, for you |
are dear TO me; l say if you are willing for
this state of relationship to exist without
an engagement shall be happy to receive
you always. But / must tell you, for it is
due you thatI should, that for the present |
and probably for sometime longer. | can
not think Of marriage. For that reason l
told you last night not to write to
Mr., Kinsolonigh until later I have
at TINES let my heart run away with my
better judgment, but IL was sweet at times
20 be so loved by you. But I must be frank
and candid, .cost what it viii, you and,
whilst l love you very dearly, 1 cannot at
present think of any nearer or dearer re
ationsbap. What the future win bring
orthH God only knows. Tell me tonight,
lear One you are willing to see me in the
sweetest bonds Of the true relations of one
who loves another without any engagement
between US. Do not be worried. No other
nan has claim tos my hand. | verify be
ieve no one ever will So, dear Harry, |
whilst you stand first in my affections, be
Kind enough to grant my request that the
holy bonds of matrimOny will never be
lamed among US until the time comes when |!
can look you in the face and say, Harry, /
am ready now No one has ever spoken
me word or reference to your coming so
,ften to see me, .; = l should think you
would not dare to zion it. If anything I
has been said, it has been only of pleas
ng character. Margaret"
On this letter he had written: Il could {
axe a short walk with You on your way /
.ome from Mr.. Wyatt's. This same woman s
romised tn marry me in the autumn. J
Greenfield Schaar." i
The pastor replied begging for the love
e thought he had lost. Monday, May 20, I
frs. Smith sent this note:
''1214 North Charleston street, Baltimore I
y 1 y
shall look for you tomorrow night, and l
Iill write you a long letter tomorrow
.lorning at 10 o'clock. There are several 1
ersons waiting to see me in the parlor, so c
God bye. Yours, Margaret +
There was TO be a convention at Wash I
lgton of the clergy of the diocese of Mary
md. DR.. Hodges, pastor of st. Paul's, /
ras a candidate for membership on the 2
landing committee. 1t was Scharrs place b
b go and aid Hodges. No one knows the | i
zruggle he had but himself If he went to Il
ne convention, he would not see Mrs.
mitl1t for several days. If he stayed, he q
,ould incur the displeasure of DR.. Hodges, I
no needed every vote to place himself on k
ne committee. p
Love conquered. Though he knew he L
build not marry the woman of his choice, d
remained in Baltimore. Tuesday even /
20 he called on her Taking out long q
tier. he read it TO her. In it he said: II
hould be in the convention at Washington 81
OF only duty compels me, but love for DR. +
edges and his success should have made O.
e 90, / tried to do my duty and go, but d
build not, and cannot go. Like Gagged a,
in walked the floor all night and all this b
.ly NV honor, good sense and reputation Il
a priest are at stake. Now, so lag as l al
ave the power to dc right, just so al
ng will / endeavOr to have Justice u
1ne you and me. 1 want to review S
whole relationship between US 30 that tC
~ can see why l am so worried and can
)t get, not even for a moment, the cruel D
ought out Of my mind that you either do d
It understand the reason for my present 50
atement or you have deliberately planned pr
get rid of me, allowing me to fall into the N
epest humiliation and stand in the esti al
alton of my friends in position thatI ht
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