Barbour County index. [volume] (Medicine Lodge, Kan.) 1880-current, 1889-12-11
A WORD ABOUT eoREs.
Even the Most IncOrrIgible OF the NIX c.
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that friend bores me?" sighed gentle
man as he bowed out q visitor from his
| Office.
bore, for this question of bores has two
sides, writes Harkley Harker in the New
York Weekly. There is no such thing
as boring with an auger into granite
block. There is no such thing as boring
with your finger into a pine log. A So
! cial bore must meet a social sensitive.
Some men are never bored by anybody;
they are of such unfailing good nature,
such philosophic patience and helpful
ness toward all, they read men so clear
/ ly and judge them so charitably, that the
most persistent, bothersome fellow
does not exasperate nor weary them.
They say some skillful word, they listen,
| yet go on with their own affairs, they
are masters of tact, and they are wise
enough to fOresee that the time may
come when themselves will want favor.
But there are others to whom even
lovely child is bore. Their best
friends bore them more than half the
time. These people are in q chronic
condition of selfshness, and every one
bores them who fails to contribute
something to their majesties' comfort or
happiness. More than half the bores
are not bores at all. In fact we our
selves are boreable-we are hypersensi-
tive. We want our friendships to be all
receipts and no outgoes; and If Q friend
insists on our doing a little something
for him by way of amusement in return
we are bored. l say we; yet not all of
us, kind reader, at all times. We mean
to give and take generally. But we
have our times and seasons Of being
over-sensitive, when even our dear old
mother herself would seem to bore US.
81 bore you," said a shabby gentle
man to a young hnancier in the back
room Of bank some years ago. ITO
confess the truth, you do" replied the
young man, smartly. The old man got
quietly out of his chair, folded up his
patent, which he had been exhibiting,
and politely took his grip-sack and him
self of. That patent has now become
worth its millions, and the smart young
fnancier is now at work as clerk in
the Office Of the great company of which
the old inventor Is president. Had this
hnancier been less nervous or sensitive
he might not have so missed his fortune.
It is hardly safe to tell any decent
man that he bores you. The result Is
singing, and is rarely forgotten. In
fact, think patience to endure being
bored, and not show your fret, is one Of
the happiest qualities of mind for suo-
cessfully dealing with men.
Who is bore? The man with hobby.
The tedious, uninteresting talker. The
borrower. The fellow who boasts and
tells about himself all the while. The
friend who can't keep a good situation
six months, and always comes round for
new letters of introduction. The in
veterate funny fellow, who can never
talk sober sense. The homely woman
who gets too near you when conversing
on her long yarns. The dudish youth
who makes long, long call and sits in
dumb silence expecting you to do all
the entertaining. The man or woman
who calls too often. The person
who persecutes you with genuinely kind
invitations to come and visit him, and
will never take no for an answer. The
fellow who is always on the contrary
side, and fires up with: "Let us argue
the point" The good soul who is always
preaching to you that smoking is kill
ing YOU" The curious person who picks
and peeps, that he or she may find out
a secret that you do not wish to tell.
The very, very smart man who always
wants to teach you something. The WIS.,
itor on whose face you see constantly
written, What shall we do next to
amuse ourselves?" Notwithstanding you
have just jumped from one thing to an
other ever since he or she has been a
| guest in the house. The writer Of
lengthy letters full of platitudes, which
keep you continually in his debt. The
man with nothing to do, who drops in on
you when you have every thing to do.
The list is capable of addition. Some
persons would bore you who would not
bore me. l am vexed by some whom you
call perfectly delightful" Taste has
much to do with the matter, the hidden
law of likes and dislikes. Hence !
never allow myself to take another
persons word for it; I'll wait and see il
am bored. Some men begin by boring
you; but they end by endowing and
blessing you. know a certain college
professor who Is the most tedious per,
son in the world for the first half day
that you are in his company. But after
that he seems to wake up; he lets you
into his very soul. His company is the
finest delight
My experience is that they who tall
most about bores are themselves ever
less careful about trying other people!
patience than ordinary mortals who de-
not have so much to say on the subject
Good nature, sound health, q manly o.
womanly heart, full of sympathy for the
rest of mankind, is not very often bored
We mortals are all here together on thu
footstool. Take us as we run, we art
not so very different one from another
The earth is filing up and elbows ar,
touching; square miles are being popu
lated. We must help and be helped
We must learn to laugh at each other
foibles and find the jewel in ever
heart, for there certainly is one. It il
going to be worse world for the over
sensitive soul who is only seeking hi
own comfort and wants nothing from
the rest of us except what he can maxi
contribute to his own happiness.
Even the most incorrigible bore cal
be advised. Try it. Tell him kindl,
that he is tiresome on certain lines
You are his friend. Get him right, ant
frankly set him right. You will be sur
prised to discover how often the bore Il
in perfect ignorance of his offense. 1
he is genuine good fellow, you viii
see him blush with the shame of tn,
information; it will be unspeakabl,
painful to him; he can hardly believI
you at first. But later on he will thanl
you fervently, and he will improve hi
manners, greatly to your own and hi
: own social comfort and welfare. Their
are few of US, however, who are limo
, cent enough ourselves to attempt this