Juniata sentinel and Republican. [volume] (Mifflintown, Juniata County, Pa.) 1873-1955, 1889-06-26
Making New Frfends-
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Younger brJthsr whom love very dear
~, and TO whom l have been a poor
ort of foster-father since our father
ind. My b. other nodded to fellow
lcloss the street whom / knew to be OF
rather dubious character. | Was sur
prised that c. knew him. He was
anything but Square man IN busi-
ness. or of clean name in social circles
-ix years ago / shook him." and he
Cnew better than TO nod 10 me, though
1 thought saw a leer Of exultation in
his handsome, bad face, as much as to
say to me, You perceive that l am in
with your pet brother"
How did this happen? It was one of
IA ise new friends" that we all make
every few days Scarcely a week goes
by when We do not fall in with a fresh
face. The voice, the manner, and the
novelty of ideas differing from those of
our circle, charm US. We get tired of
the old set. That is We know about
their compass, have heard all they have
To offer; and while deep in our hearts
We prize the faithful friend long proved,
yet We want novelty. We want It In a
preacher, a singer, or an actor. Why
not the same law In chat and converse
uOng y new man amuses US like a new
book. We do not at first agree TO ado,
us lut1S, we Only lllcslll 10 near Nl1l nc
has 20 say. We may be even suspicious
Of him; but If he IS bright aud ready, lac
Interests US before We know It. We
lind ourselves remembering his opinions,
and thinking over afterward what he
sail.
y stranger invests with n more plaus-
ib.e attire ideas that we had rejected.
We did not know but We were wrong;
We'll review our conclusion IL IS not
so much a new thing that he says, rs it
IS a new voice that says IL, aud "A new
cast of mind that moulds II and pats it
out. \ new friend is always dangerous
To your old conclusions. You can never
fOr,ell how this is coming out, this
lunching together, this walking home
together, this comparing notes and
swapping ideas with your engaging new
found friend. But you may depend
upon it., the friendship will not leave
you the same that it found you. The
originality, the diversity, the oddity of
the new man will warp you, unless you
break with him soon.
A new friend feels more free to ex-
press his opinions, after lie ge. into you
enough l mean, to air himself at all
All his old acquliutances have become
tired of him-especially of his whIms
and yagaries. lie IS talked out with
them; but your ear IS new spout into
which TO pour lie brushes up all his
myths and romance, his somnambulisms
and dreams for which lie has had no
market Of late; and he unloads the gal
vanized mess into You. You listen, too,
from courtesy, for you are not familiar |
enough to say ''nonsensel shut up.'' /
\ GU stand and take it. He grows |
eager in his speech. He likes you. You /
leud him an ear. You give him time.
lie will follow you up and I'LL you up
In exchange he bears your old stuff
every mind has some old trash II beg
your pardon reader.) You have lust
elegant times" together swapping hum
bugs. He knows that he IS humbug-
ging you. You know that you are i'm
posing on him: but neither Of you IS
for you DO not really intend
to make = long friendship, such rs you
would not want to befoul with fabr.-
cations, and il doesn't matter. How
little We realize that II is by such inter
change of foIbles and pet hobbies that
We may become involved in a compul-
SoTy intimacy before we are aware of
IL Why. yoU. have related TO the fel-
low what IL will not do to leave IN the
hands Of All enemy. You have contided
~ hIm your week side, 50 has he TO /
you. Then the devil wields these two |
weak sides in 4 miserable bondage.
y new friend is problem. Shall we
make noneI Our old friends are dying
and moving away. We ourselves may
Oe IN a new community where we have
no choice, unless we mean to lie In soli-
tude. We are every day thrown into
the society of fresh acquaintances, and
there's AS big fish in the sea as ever
were caught" IL is true that the very
best friend OF your life you may have
never met yet lie will appear tO-mor-
row, out OF the masses of the unknown,
the man who Will stand by you, like Il |
hero, and be the purest gold that you
ever handled. 1t is possible that this is
the case. The most casual circumstance
may lead to this sacred relation; you run
your umbrellas against each other at
the corner of the street in wintry storm. J
and so the acquaintance of Daniel and
Jonathan begins.
Well, It is best to take what other
people say for full weight about new
acquaintance. You like him? How
do his old friends like him? What SOFT
OF name has her Surely you cannot
be the first one to discover this gold
minel He is SDmeone's friend before he
IS yours; suppose you inquire. Then,
too, 1 think it generally appears, on in
quIry, that ''really splendid friend"
has been pretty we'll taken up already.
He has his friends who value him. He
Is not looking about on whom to bestow
lie is bestowed already, till his
his hands, heart and hours are about
tuH. He will, in other words, take you | ,
In slowly. \ genuine gold-mine friend
IS In no haste with you. Be suspicious
of the man who rapidly becomes intI-
matei who forces you to know him |
through and through. His goods are
always-yes always-all IN the show
window. One man may be mistaken
about another; but town full of men
are not likely to be mistaken; they have
sized him up pretty accurately.
Don't take up with cast-off friend
ships Of other people, any more than
with cast-on clothes or cold y.ctuals.
Indeed, not so much 50. 1t may be
that real poverty compelS that; but no
one, no good man, no decent youth is so
hard pushed for friends that he need
snatch the ''no-goodsn of a club or a
society, or village. Make new friends,
but do not 90 INTO the Wholesale manu-
facture OF them. There is no urgent
need of a patent electrical friend manu-
featuring machine. No patent way has
or even will be discovered, tried and
proved. Indeed, friends grow; and not
like mushrooms, but like century plants
and oaks. The winning card OF an adj
is always an intimacy. The
makes his victim feel that all
the years of life he has been searching :
lp and down the eayth, thus far in vain,
10 hnd a heart on which to bestow his
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