Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-03-23
tCopyright 1881

1t would be consideredindecor unless the
lady is i'll, or is overcome by the heat
LIST. On which side of a lady should n gentleman
walk in the street.
"a. should gentleman in making brief call leave
his overshoes at the door if they are not muddy
LIST. On the eurbstone side.
I'd. He should leave his overshoes in the hall
under all circumstances
In making short call should the overcoat be left in
the hall and the hat kept in the hands What is proper
in this cases
The overcoat should be left in the hall: the
hat may be kept in the hand.
Please tell the writer. through THE STAR it, in pay.
my VISIT OF COINCIDENCE II Is the correct thing to
bereay shall do So In making sueh calls Th have
sometimes passed pleasant half hour chatting upon
my sympathy when the lady Would burst into srs
Placing NE III very awkward position.
visits OF coincidence are proper only when
there exists a genuine intimacy between the
visitor and the bereayed. but cards with words
OF sympathy may be sent. When a visit is
made after death the name of the deceased
should not be mentioned first by the visitor
1st What book is best instruct as to the correct
YEA &c Also artangenent OF sideboard. side table,
"a Is it correct 70 have clsret only other
kd OF wne for dinner. and should il be served with
every course and for dessert also: should the waitress
pour !; IN ne glasses or should each guest
3D. How should peas tomatoes and other vegetables
fth; How shonld chicken salad be served. and in
WI; klil OF dish should 1t be the table? Is it
.,;i In sendng card by post should the small en-
'eoic tllaiiliGg the card be placed i'll large one:
lst. IT we are not in error The Bazaar Book
OF Decorum gives information of this nature
! 3D. II is usual to have more than one kind of
WINE, but at less formal dinner one kind only
is often served. 1t is usual for the waiter to
fill the glasses.
3D. Passed around by the waiter
18th. Lettuce salad only should be served at
DINNER, and eaten with fork. Chicken is only
! for suppers or collatous.
| 9th. A second envelope is not necessary
THANKS.
Is it in accordance with table etiouette res TO say
thank your when you ask for and one passes you
| dish or asks You to repenish your Plate? Now,
MAINTAIN it is improper, that thanks ahcIys.
servants but ought thank another at table.
Every service of the kind should be acknowl-
edged by thanks i'll some way. either with
thanks expressed or by an inclination of the
mead. According to English rule. you say
think you to servants and thanks to
! equals.
II lady and gentleman are introduced in company
ana erward meet the street which is proper Tor
| TO bow TO the LADY, -
The lady must salute the gentleman first
gentleman IS not expected to recognize lady
III pubic until she has recognized him.
!. live in small quiet city, where though we have
many parties and balls yet do such strict
h a. people 20 IN iarger cites as for example in
enan escorted lady thither yet each desired to
= At The close Of the walk should the lady necessa
riiy thank the gentleman f9r his ESCORT
dance during the evening ITO whom she has not been
Is II proper Tor lady TO ask to be introduced
gentleman by another
dress be suggested to a wondering ignorant.
First. A lady should return from a party or
ball with the same escort that took her there
1t Is not uncommon for gentlemen to escort
LADIES' home III the manner mentioned, but il is
not in accordance with the rules or custom of
| the best society,
Second. Certainly
Third. In introductions the gentleman is in
PRODUCED to the lady; when there has been no
| to exist.
Fourth. No; gentlemen seek introductions to
| ladies.
| Fifth. A dress made of white tarletan with
silver paper at intervals in the form of iccles
| for the character of Hitter is an effective and
inexpensive costume. The hair should be pow
dered. dress of cream-colored cheese cloth
with silver tillet for the hair is suitable for
any classical figure.
AZ an informal EVENING party Fiven4n honor Of
hostess IN receiving the guests, should the ladies'
but when party is given in honor of any per-
son or persons they should stand by the side of
the hostess in order that the guests NAV be
presented to them.
AN INFORMAL HOP
There was an informal and impromp tu hop given at
hotel by young lady to a young lady visiting her:
the lady invited the young gentlemen and requested
them to invite certain young ladies' And in that way
my daughter who is only miss" and not OUT in
society. but dances quite we'll, was invited Sioud
the note OF invitation which also requested the favor
OF her company, from the gentleman have been adj
her mother: would have been better form If the
gentleman had explained the invitation the miss
daughter TO the hop: Should the mother have accom-
panied the gentleman and her daughter chaperone:
The whole affair appears to have been very
irregular. The invitation to your daughter
should have been through her mother and she
should have accompanied the young lady to the
entertainment as her chaperone. according to
strict rule in cases of the kind. In this country
however, the law of the chaperone is very I'M
certain, and. it must be admitted is more often
disregarded than observed
s. X wishes to know if it is not very bad etiquette
for two persons to with each other French
OF person or persons, who does not understand the
converse in English: "
S. X. is right. 1t is in exceedingly bad taste
for persons In company to converse in a lam
guage or to use terms with which others are
not acquainted.
DANCING.
II at an informal party gentleman who acquainted
with most of the other guests but who is introduced
to youne lady for the first time should ask her 10
dance folr or nye times in succession, would il be
proper for the lady 10 herself at the end OF that
time, or must she wait for the gentleman to do so.
1: Is not proper nnder any circumstances for
IA lady and gentleman to dance together four or
five times i'll succession. The lady should excuse
herself Ill dancing even twice in succession
with the same gentleman.
LIST. When ices served at the table should the
dish he placed III the plate and the cake to side or
the dish placed side and the plate used for cakes
I'd am IN university town and the society some
what formal met some young ladies at enter
tainment, desire to call, what shall do!
1st. Either method is proper
I'd You cannot call on ladies under these
circumstances without being invited to do SO.
Some persons acquainted with the family must
ask permission to introduce you.
l. i have lady friend vino is visiting in the city
am not acquainted with the family with whom she
visits. III calling ner should ask for her friend
If SO, when should ask!
. In using finger bowls should you wipe your fin
i'll the napkin You have been using if napkin
is placed under the bowls instead Of doyley you
supposed to use ifs
with knife and forky What is the proper way eat an
oranse: Could you give me the name of irstclass
etiquette book:
/. Yes. You should send two cards up when
you call.
2. You are to use the napkin sent with the
finger bowl.
8. Fruit is served with silver fruit knife.
4. Oranges may be served partly peeled and
quartered, each guest taking q portion when
passed around, or cut the orange crosswise and
eat the piece with a spoon. The latter is the
southern method.
4 Mrs Sberwoods ssMapners and Soo;.,