Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-05-05
o male relative. 2 The ladies stand

there is no male relative. 2 The ladies stand
on the side the bride stands, and the grooms-
men on the side the groom stands. 8 Lilies of
the valley, white roses white lilacs, in fact any
white flower. 4 They may do as thoy prefer
s. If morning wedding. white scsrfs;
if an evening wedding, white lawn neckties
White satin or silk for . necktie is considered
vulgar. g. Plain shirt fronts by all means. No
kind of decoration for gentleman's linen. 2.
Wedding cake is always rich plum cake,
white frosted.
l. What are the duties Of an usher at large
wedding; ceremony in church, and reception
at the house afterwardf Is there prescribed
style of dress for an usherf Q, I understand
that il is expected of bridegroom to pay for
the gloves and necktie of the "best manT Is
this the usual customf nso, who makes the
purchases?
]. To conduct people to seats to precede the
bridal party to the altar, and at the house to
introduce friends to the, bridal pair and per-
form generally the duties Of master OF cere-
monies. In dress an usher does not differ from
other gentlemen, but O slip of white ribbon
may be worn in the button-hole Of his coat as
an indication of his office. The bridegroom
generally gives the best man o scarf, and some
times a scarf-pin accompanies it but not gloves.
YoUNGsTowN, o., April l5, 1883.
ARMY ETIQUETTE.
sIR-Permit me to set you right in regard to
the question Of the service as to the using of
titles on visiting cards by officers of the army.
], Socially, in the army, there is no rank recog.
nized below that Of captain. 1t is considered
very bad form for an officer TO address another
as lieutenant; it is always mister" OF
course, in the presence of enlisted men or on
duty, he would be called lieutenant; otherwise
simply 'Mister." An officer below the rank Of
captain would properly register his name at
hotel, and have his visiting cards printed, John
Jones' q. s. A. If of the rank of Captain or
Major or Colonel, as the case might be, John
Jones' U. 8. A. This is a custom as old rs the
army itself; and like many other customs, art-
cles Of war and regulations, are derived from
the English army; very naturally, as the care,
full reader Of the history of this country will
readily appreciate. 2 In your answers to cor
respondents in yesterdays paper, you are quite
vague in your description as to how fork
should be held. 1t is simply impossible to eat
peas with the fork in the left hand, prongs
down. ] turn the fork prongs upward in sucha
case, or transfer the fork to the right hand. I
prefer the former method. II you can only
convince respectable people of the vulgarity OF
braiding the fingers of the left hand around
the handle of the fork, you would be doing a
good service. 1t is q hopeless task, however, to
teach people who are naturally vulgar the
rehnenlentsi they don't want to learn how 70
do things right, and are egotistical enough to
believe that their way is just as good as any
other way. Very respectfully, ETC.,
g. b. CRossMAN,
lLste of the U. s. Az
!. This does not controvert what We said
about visiting cards. Equals and interiors do
not as you say, address officers below captain
by their titles, but all of inferior rank do SO.
Officers, however, print their titles on their
visiting cards in the manner described; that is,
they do If they 90 the right thing, which is as
follows: Captain John Smith, U. s. A." In
signing his name or entering his name upon
hotel register or any other kind of register, the
officer then writes his name in this wise: John
Smith, Captain, U. s. A." The form upon a
visiting card is always the form In which man
is addressed, and not the form of his signature.
1t is for this reason that 1t is proper always to
put the prefix "Mr." upon gentleman's visit
ing card, unless he has some other title. q Our
is right about eating peas, which
cannot be done except with the prongs upward. |
He is also right about the desirabilIty of con-
Vincing people that it is vulgar to braid, as be
expresses it. the fingers around the handls of
a fork. how to handle the fork can be shown
clearly only by the aid of a series of draFiugs,
showing right and wrong methods but broad
which we hope is net vague"
may be made as follows: As-a rule carry the
handle of the fork in the follow of the hand,
but when used in khs right hand, with the
prongs upward, tie handle may rest between
the thumb anS, fOrehnger.
- WHO PAYS?
Is is proper for young lady to permit gen.
tleman to pay for her theater ticket7 In
smaller towns it is certainly prevailing GUS
tom for young men to invite young women to
90 to the theater, paying for the tickets and |
accompanying them without chaperone
II an invitation for the theater comes from
the gentleman it is proper and customary for
him to pay for the tickets, But when an inVi-
tation comes from a lady, which may some
times happen, it is proper forher to furnish the
tickets.
l. Is it very improper at a dinner to cut green |
salad, such as lettuce or chicory? 1t seems to |
me almost necessary. q When cheese is served |
as distinct course, how is it to be eatenf Is
it considered the proper thing here, to put a |
B. At q boarding house or hotel should the gen. |
tie man rise, when lady leaves the table.
BoARDER.
l. Lettuce or chicory loses its quality by being |
cut Therefore knife should not be used |
unless necessary. 2 Cheese is not usually |
served as q separate course, but If it is, it may
be eaten, we suppose, in the manner mentioned. |
But cheese is commonly served with or after |
coffee, accompanied by crackers 1t is the one |
article that may be eaten with knife, accord |
ing to scme authorities. A small piece is taken |
upon the end of silver blade and neatly car |
ned to the mouth. s. This is hardly expected |
st a boarding house or hotel table, but some |
boarding house tables are of the nature of |
private tables, and in such cases il would be q |
graceful thing to do.
THE AUTHOR OF "DoN'T.n