Telegram-herald., 1889-05-27
SUCCESS IN MARRIAGE.
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Lacy ara vsry raw a4feElz-s tadeed unless
the wfe l4zes hod cf those means N.tn
tas had Il creslor, bgl-1i1g Up ogL IL
them &c IS s1d zssccl--aoas lcFec AID
nesdsd 6y both. Aud = woman ul1st pat
her soul iuto ner E0Gse, cE u - = ho-oU
lid sounding shell
A. sAlga 4s We m1st rate Lae accomplish
meat Of gooa Eo4se2eep.us, ir = lot al IA
tas making 0I a home. AnOE Lady wl0
was 4 mar &sc failure IS = house Zee per - 40
wss the IDOL Of her husband. aad whO
graduated 10 the world q family % GccoG-
p.isbsd sad hon0red ch-ldren- And there are
women ~ho IA pala and weakness are cOu-
naed 20 their own rooms, YET WHO manage
g. e0li the power ia al orderly house ana
a1 ls tuu Of love-lighs aad happiness sun
eieEt f0r the comfort sf a. wao cross us
threshold.
IL j. the quality OF recognizing and filing
need that Is the essential quality OF success
Ia marriage Practically, II a man comes
home from business with q heaaGche, hun
gry for blE Of sympathy and love, and
good deal Of quiet, and nnds his wife in
raging excitement over an elaborate dinner,
and IS ordered 70 keep out OF the way ani
amuse thscAildren I'll the great proceeding
Is eliminated, he IS abou, - unfortunate as
the m4n who brings college friend home
TO dlnner and fads his wife in wrapper and
slippers deep IN a French novel. But the
woman who spies the coming friend from
the window slides oGsof her wrapper in a
twinkle and appears upon the scene IN due
time with q soul cheering cup Of French
coffee. IS the woman VINO makes her Lus-
band cnvied anOag men
Unfortunately wOmea have hobbies, and
ride and ride and never perceive that they
are boring their companions 10 death.
There are men who would 80 10 war TO be rid
OF paper flowers, hair fowers, rugs, tides
and what not; and there are men who think
art and music are inventions OF the evil one
10 make people miserable. Amy one, any
where, who cultivates a hobby at the ex-
pense Of other peoples comfort is making o
failure Of life; but true pollteness of the
heart between friend and friend, man and
wife, will obyiate the danger OF overdone
amusements.
Il is easier 70 forgive y;rtuous excess OF
zeal, and IL IL mostly excess Of zeal for ex-
cellence OF some kind that causes some
/ women 20 be more exclusively housewives
/ than wives Of men. The greatest charity
I should be extended 20 a woman W no makes
\ her house so perfect in detail and pol
/ ished IN appearance that her friends go into
/ it with fear and trembling, for she is af.ict-
l ed with virtuous zeal, and has only over
drawn a very good thing. Housekeeping
has its fanatics and martyrs as well as any
| other good cause.
/ But housekeeping conducted "a means
/ OF happiness an q comfort, either in a cabin
or a palace, Is q science that no wife car
neglect IL she wishes 20 sustain the law o1
mutual helpfulness in marriage
4 wife expects her husband upon mar
rage to begin a course OF toling for hei
support without remission or any suspen
sioa Of responsibility, aud why should hi
not expect her TO aspire TO the greatest
/ excellence IN home-masiugl Just here is
/ where the wedge Of dissolution frequently
enters. A woman fails TO give as much q,
she recelves-that Is, she works from com
pulsion moro than from desire 10 keep VI
her sido Of the partnership with dignity
and grace
But one says: 81 work oil the time;
work like slave" Yes, my dear, you dc
work ike a slave-iust like a slave, and not
like a responsible being seeking an end anc
not tho means. You have braided littl;
Eva's dress uy and down and silover, which
does not help little Eva, and your husband
would have Appreciated you more had yor
/ speot your evenings with folded hands anC
/ happy face in your rocking g-chair by HI,
side. You spend hours Of time on unneces
sary things and forget the essentials ofyoul
/ partnership. which Is 10 evolve as muci
/ peace and comfort IS possible out Of youl
materials
The science OF good housekeeping IL
these days, when we can buy SO many con
veuiences, il not 50 much superiority il
any one thing as general excellence il
every thing. We DO not need cookIn <
schools for girls SO much as schools wner'
al branches of home-making are taught, IL
order TO preserve the balance OF usefulness
In the girls mind. y man does not want 4
marry a chef de cuisine, and it is 10 won
der the papers make fun Of cooking schools
To learn ono department Of Housekeeping
% tho neglect OF every thing else IS ruinous
II woman "a 10 marry, there IS nOthin.
50 much to DO valued as good health ant
good sense and q very loving heart, ant
then IL viii follow that she Will adapt her
se.f 20 the calls upon her ability. When
woman marries for n life OF ease and d0esn'
get II, there Is certainly no remedy ia he
case 40 long "a she forgets that life is
+ struggle anywhere, and feels that sh'
should be excused from helping 20 carr
the burdens Of those by whom she may b
surrounded.
The mutual bearancc aud forbearanco O
lfe Is "a greatly the secret OF happiness Il
marriage "a ia any thing else. We have {
tolerate unpleasant things in our CON
panicns ia any relations Of life, and VII
tFy 20 build UP law OF marriage in an
other wayi
Will Hogs In Florida
Speaking Of the wild hogs Of Fl0rida-
correspondent of tho Providence Jourua
ssvs. The hogs are tse fercest creature
IN tho wi.ds of Florida, and when asss..e
boldly attscx any thing r "a a cougar % q
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