The Iowa plain dealer. [volume] (New Oregon, Howard County, Iowa) 1867-1895, 1889-03-28
TRUE HOME LIFE.
Tho Kind Of Family Government While
Leads to HapDfneAs.

Tho Kind Of Family Government Which
Leads to Happiness.
What ID the central point Of true
home life? Is not this the question
which we should each, as home-build-
crs. ask ourselves? What are the
things Of all that we do. daily, week
~, or returning 10 their appointed
time, which are not only not neces.
sary but arc harmful to the true home
life? 1t may be that the only reason
for doing certain things is because
the preceding generation has done the
same things, and that, too, in very
mechanical ways. 4 mother holds
her first child while it sleeps upon her
lap; it becomes accustomed to it
When she grows stronger she must
lay il down to do necessary work; ii
frets and cries and refuses to take its
maps. The mother is worn out ia her
efforts to do the work and quiet the
cries; so she carries the child about In
her arms 1t is slow to walk. She
becomes nervous and irritable, toward
her baby, even. Her second child is
cross and restless. She bears and
rears several children. All through
these years the mistake pursues and
wears her out. The children are not
taught to depend upon themselves and
be helpful.
This mother does non-cssential
things and leaves the essential undone.
Her mental growth stopped long ago;
alas for the time when the little chill.
dren find that mother can not help
them in their little studies. and alas
for the mother who has let the knowl-
edge Of her gi.lhood slip from her, and
has not added to it both for herself
and family! What is more beautiful
to see than great sons and daughters
asking mothers opinion of some
point which they are in doubt about,
which they bling to her to have set
tied before they return to school? To
have them hasten eagerly to tell her
upon their return that their work was
right?
Sometimes it is through suffering
only that a woman learns that there
are many things which need not be
done. 1t is often in these times Of
forced quiet that she sees most clearly
that real living is not q part Of her
home life. After her experience is
gained and she has but little strength,
she can then think what she should do
with the strength which still is left to
her.
Temporal wants and pleasures must
be considered, and indeed planned for.
but there are many things done 10
the way of cooking food unwhole.
some through its richness, which
should be made rarely, i ct all.
Sacrifices which take away rest and
sleep to keep up pride in dress OF
some adornment, should never be
made.
Let children be taught that they
may have fussy clothes when they CAR
make, iron and keep them in order.
the mother and daughters, this plan
| is pursued. She found that when her
daughters Were old enough to iron
much-ruffied white dresses they pre-.
ferred plain ones.
Nothing can take the place OF neat.
ness and order. These depend much
upon good management, for one car
always be cleaning, yet never clean,
always arranging, yet never in order.
Sometimes ones own spirit is rest.
less, which is the secret cause of the
lack in the divine part of u true home
life.-Pauline Adelaide Hardy. in
Good Housekeeping