Wichita eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1886-1890, 1889-05-28
ADVICE TO WIVES.

How They May Put Their Husbands in
Trim and Continue to Hold Them.
Never marry but for love. but see that thou
lowest what is lovely.-Ovid.
If the man who loves her won't adj
mire her she'll find some one who will
Perhaps she isn't beautiful, but the
woman never lived who was not graft
fed by a compliment to her person
rendered by graceful word or implied
by homage in a glance. Men too often
pooh-pooh as silly weakness or vanity
what is really part of the strong con-
trast in mental character which links
the sexes in magnetic affinity. Her
love of dress is but one phase of her
higher nature in appreciation Of the
beautiful and harmonious in color. /
have known women so exquisitely at
tuned that to simply look at a pansy or
rose was to thrill their whole being as
with the chords of a harp. A woman
thrives on admiration. Without it
the springs in her nature nourish fret
fulness and frowns; the homely womaa
becomes homelier through neglect t.
water the flower in the heart.
Why should not the husband be-
always the lover? May it not be traced
to lack of proper study of the relation
ship? | believe women fail to hold
their husbands devotion by too COM
plete surrender. Their very excess of
love and self-sacrifice defeats their
aim. A woman should study the OPP
posite sex. A woman is governed
through her emotions to a great ex-
tent, man through his senses. Her
affections are deeper. quieter and
more constant His are turbulent, less
deep-seated and more easily Influenced
by passion woman's influence over
man is measured by her personal
magnetism. If she fails to hold her
husbands loyal love she has either
yielded herself too entirely or failed
in other ways to charm his senses,
either physical or spiritual. or both.
There is more magnetic power in
the graceful turn of ribbon about a
woman's throat than in well-ironed
shirt bosom or well-darned pair of
socks, although the latter are not to
be neglected. A pretty ankle on the
street will catch the admiring gaze of
many benedict who daily sees a
prettier one at home. The novelty
and charm suggested by stranger
spices his senses, appeals to his
imagination. A wife has a rival in
every other woman. If she be fool
she becomes jealous and shows it. If
she be a sensible woman she besieges
the fort with the same kind of weapons
the legitimate arts of her sex.
Wives make themselves too cheap
What men command as right or come
to regard as a matter of course they
soon learn to place low estimate
upon. Woman rules over the heart
and desire of man by divine right.
She is the queen of civilization, before
whom all mankind bend the knee in
homage-when compelled. To grant
as favor what she really desires to
give is an art which once attained
makes woman mistress of the field.
The subtlety of the sex exerted on
these lines makes every wife largely
the fashioner of her own domestic
paradise or hell, just as she may
wisely use the knowledge. True
marriage is yet a far-off ideal. Few
grasp its hidden meaning and fewer
still have will and courage TO develop
all that may be gained in human
happiness by striving to approximate
the true idea--Milton Allen, in Cleve-
land Union.