The Red Cloud chief., 1889-09-13
SOCIAL GIFTS AND oRAcES.


SOCuAI 0If IS AND GHACES.
he Happiness md Comfort Of Others D.
pend on Our hood Cosd.et
1t requires social gifts and graces.
natural and acquired. to be a pleasant
travelling companion. 1t requires the
o~bliteration Of personal dislikes. and
the acceptasion Of the inevitable with
out comment The moment that COM
plants about environment are heard.
or the absence Of material comforts is
commented upon. that moment the
subtle quality which We call social at
mosphere is disturbed. There is sure
to be some sympathetic person who
will feel distressed because every one
is not comfortable: there will be the
weak one who would never have COM
planned without a leader. or the az
gressive one who will feel called upon
to attempt to improve matters. but
who will instead cause disturbance.
When people are Joined together for
the purpose OF adding to each others
pleasure. it is not wise to begin sub
tracing; the only way to maintain the
right atmosphere is for each to main
tain silence a to the disagreeable that
must be endured. and unite in find
ing sources for congratulation- Find
pleasure. interest at least. in that
which interests the others; treat
the pleasure Of the party a. a
bank to which all must contrib
ute funds. Those possessed Of special
gifts should give freely Of them to the
others. Personal weaknesses. preju-
dices. whims. should b carefully hid
den. For this reason persons Of weak
will or uncomfortable feelings should
never form members of q travelling
party; it is the n condition that
calls for constant watchfulness over
self. constant spur to keep one at ones
highest level Moods are the bane of
social atmosphere, and never more
baneful than when a small number of
persons are thrown together depend
ent on each other for social life. How
often you hear it said. The" or ''she"
was the life Of the party! No one
knows how often this motive force
was maintained at the expenditure of
nervous strength. and by complete
self-sacriice to prevent dullness or
antagonism-
1t is said that it is a rare thing for
a party to return home with the same
regard and respect for each other with
which they left home. This is admit
ting that one Or nor members Of the
party were natural. and. because nat
ural. ill-mannered and selfish. The
one place where sO-called company |
manners iced constant airing is when
travelling in a party. Nervousness
is entirely out Of place. and
destroys comfort The best travelling
is the n who possesses
the greatest powers OF adaptability;
the one who can eat bread and butter
if personal dislike makes the other
food unattractive; the one who can
fiud pleasure in that which gives
pleasure to the rest; the one who has
no personal preJudIces that can not be
forgotten when the occasion arises.
Each member OF a party travelling
together is bound to find a balance in
favor of the advantages offered by the
route. the hotel chosen. the people
met The easiest thing in the world
is to find fault: and it is like the spread
an eDiGernic-hayinp Gained a SLIGHT
foOthold. no one can prophesy where
will end.
See only that which is best in each;
give only that which is best in your
self; and remember that in a travelling
party each individual is but a part of
a whole. whose happiness and comfort
as we'll as development. depend on
how faithfully each has contributed
his share toward accomplishing the
ends for which the whole was formed.
Union.