Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-03-16

''DOS MANY CORRESPONDENTS Answered
WOMEN WHO TRAyEL-wEDDINGs AND REcEP-
T1oNs-PoISTs OF POLIrENEss.
The following questions and answers are
published this week for the benefit Of corre-
spondents:
Al an afternoon card party. where ladies' only are
LIeseht ana l. as hostess 70 70 70 the dining-room
= And on returning To the drawIug-room, do 1 70
8 In taking callers the parlor should lead the
~sy' OF step back and say. llesse step into" etc
]. Yes.
. Yes.
3 Lead the way to the door. open it and in
vlte the guests to precede you.
ShGlid a LADY and gentleman attend a church we'd
Would b. proper for lady wear light Dress opera
cloak and 10 Remove her bonnet
In the evening YES. if preferred. In the
eiternoon II Is not customary. but in some in
stances fuIl dress Is worn by ladies who con-
template attending a reception afterward.
Gentlemen wear full dress at evening we'd
olngs but not at other times.
Will you please me a letter Of congratulations
for a lady friends birthday:
ANY simple form suffices for purpose of
this kind. much. however, depending upon
Your degree oflntimscy with your friend. II
only an acquaintance, your visiting card with
the word Congratulations written upon II
will do. From this point you can elaborate as
taste or inclinations prompt. You can say,
with sincere congratulations, or with
sincere CONCENTRATIONS ana wishing you
many returns of the day" or. Il cOngratu-
late YOU upon your birthday and wish for you
every possible happiness. and so on. These
may be written on your card or sent in form OF
anote. Ii Is not III good taste to send elaborate
congratulations or to be in any way ELUSIVE
Il customary for ladies' wells the theater?
A veil Is for the street. and not for the theater
or concert or other public entertainments.
ADVICE TO TRAVELLERS.
Information is desired by widowed lady and
daughter TO usases of travelling. registering,
whether TO at 30 the Office. whether to wait
meals, what is best to do REGARDING
teein servants Is II .bsSnely neGess,,S Tor lnts
pay the ordinary charges Of hotel do not e. able
If II sthe Iny1riabe custom to do 81"
Upon arriving at a hotel go to the ladies en-
trance. which always leads to a parlOr or re-
ceptiOn room. Send the attendant there TO
the Office with "a statement of what you require.
DO not go to the office. and give yourself no
concern to the registry. which Is not obllga-
tory upon any one. In regard to feeling SER
wants II must BE- said that tits Objectionable
custom l. extending Ill this country. and hence
You viii adj to your comfort by accepting 1t.
dong IN Rome as Romans do. When you are
shown to yOur apartments send for the cham
byrmaid. give her a small piece of silver. lnti-
llate t3at further payment will be forthcom-
ing. ana this will secure her willing services.
The amount to- be paid must depend upon the
length of YOUR stay. but probably dollar VIII
suihCc. There Is no uniform standard OF pay
httie-hOw much l. always nice question.
When Won take yOur seats at table always as
certain whether the waiter in attendance will
serve You regularly; arrange with him to re-
serve your seats for YOU each meal. giving him
small fee. and hand him small fee each day
not less than twenty-five cents. This Twill ST.
cure satisfactory service at table. With the ex-
ceptIOn OF a small fee to the man who takes up
and brings down your baggage no other tip
ping Is necessary. Ascertain of what hours
meals are served. and go to the dining room
at those hours without waiting for notification.
tim" 10 Use the tOOthricks
The toothpick should not be used in public
unless there is absolute necessity for doing so.
IL there Is an obstruction In the teeth that must
be removed shield the mouth with one hand
and remove the object with the toothpick
quietly as possible. taking care not to insert the
fingers.
WEDDINGS AND ANNIVERSARIES.
/. At an ''at home" wedding that is the brides
house, who receives the invited guests
=. Are they introduced TO each other and by whom:
= When the reception follows the wedding cards
incl"sed in the invitation to thst effect. is il
sary when all the guests the receep-
1. Some relative or friend selected for the
purpose.
=. No.
,. Yes. 1t il customary TO engrave on the
cards reception from -" here giving the
hours.
We are TO have reception and dancing the occa-
sending the invitations must they read: "Mr. and
Mrs j. II Brown present" etc, or only: Mrs J. II.
=. How long before the reception the invita-
.; VIII II " in order say the invitations: NO
prs-e,i- received a. none are desired,'
Tor instance, silver gold ETC. as should like to make
my wife an appropriate gift.
I. The invitation should read: Mr. and Mrs.
}. H. Brown. on the thirtieth anniversary of
their marriage" Here follow with day date
hour. and address. follows: "Wednesday
evening. March 10. at 9 O'Clock. 40 John street"
, About two weeks.
). IL Is not IN good taste To engrave mo gifts
received on invitations for a wedding anniver-
sary. but many persons feel it necessary to do
~ or else refrain from giving the entertain
ment. rs they do not wish to appear as solicit
ing presents. There is. however. no necessity
for engraving these words an invitation for
thIrtleth anniversary. as this is not associated
with gIt giving IN the manner that some other
anniversaries are.
l. We have never heard anv designation for
the thlrueth OF other wedding anniversary be-
tween the twenty-hfth and tiftieth. An object
composed of silver and gold would be taste
ful and suitable gift for your wife.
QUESTIONS OF RELIGION
I. am young la,iy engaged to a truly love
We are Of cIosite rrlislOns-he devoted TO his and
with rrsY.Iiion Of iron l. the san- H. sbsoluieIy
ian S,. V, cbTr isT ,d IN any other
Crr-auuy should D. H. my church. told him have
The Esht and THINK the etiquette should be shown TO
:. The man 10 whom I'm engaged also says must
a. young Lady. love- honor. and obey, &c say not
until IN Mrs BLANK Again, am r(ht or wrong
J. IL Il customary to yield this matter to the
decision Of the bride. but circumstances make
differences. In cases where one is a Romanist
and the other Protestant two ceremonies take
place. the Catholic church not considering a
Protestant marriage valid. Some such feeling
may animate High Churchman who cannot
consider "A marriage in an Evangelical church
is admissible. In such a case il would be
proper for the bride to yield TO the wishes of
the groom. In fact. too much stubbornness on
her part does not promise we'll for the future
happiness of the couple.
2. The obligation to love. honor and obey
begins with the marriage ceremony.
i. Which - the proper way for a young couple in
moderate cir ulns;4nres TO send cards
before OF alter marriage, o bOths
= Would u b. the proper thing 20 give a breakfast
or supper later IN the day where only the immeti-
hOuse. f
Is 1t customary to send out wedding cake or cards.
OF both. or how O'
!. The cards are usually sent before mar
mage. But sometimes announcement cards
merely are sent after marriage.
q Yes.
3. Wedding cake is not now sent out. CHESTS
al the reception after the ceremony are handed
small box containing piece of the wedding
cake.
should send special TO the young daugh