Weekly expositor. (Brockway Centre, Mich.) 1882-1894, 1889-01-03
AN ESTIMATE OF MEN.
Ella Wheeler Wilcox Tells How They
Are Regarded by Women.

Tor the falrer sex, man has smaller
amount of envy and malice to encount-
er and overcome in his overtures to-
ward his own sex. writes Ella Wheel
er Wilcox in the ST. Louis Gio6e-Demo-
crat.
A woman instinctively looks upon
another woman as a possible rival. A
woman who has not loved finds pleas
ure, if not satisfaction. in the adula-
ton of the world at large, and it is her
nature 10 expect aud demand ii, and
she resents even the suggestion of in
reference i'm her domain.
A man seldom cares for this sc-t of
thing. He prefers the individual de-
volion of several feminine hearts, and
regards to man, however popular, as
h rival who does not modest HIM in
his ofaries d'anlOur.
When the average woman loves.
however, all is chglged. Absorbed in
passion. she ceases To desire miscellane-
Gus admiration. and lives only for the
one.
When the average man loves, moth
ing is changed. lie simply adds one
more pleasure and interest to his
life.
1t is the exceptionally noble man.
stirred by IN exceptionally strong
passion. who throws his past behind
him like worn.ONt garment, dedicates
his future to the woman of his choice.
Men are by nature no moro vicious
than w1nen. but they are much vain
or, anuVreqRire more constant stimu-
lants TO their self-lOve.
A woman commits folly for love of
her tempter. A man commits it be-
cause il tlatters his vanity TO be tempt
ed. while he despises the temptress.
A mans business training teaches
him to be ca-sious in his intercourse
with the world. yet he is rarely sus-
pic Gus by nature. A woman on the
contrary, seems to be born with sus-
picion in her heart.
| have seen big. trawny fellow,
who had done battle in the worlds
great marts all his life us ingenious and
sweet-natured toward his kind rs
child. and have seen his dainty wife,
who has been carefully reared in the
shelter of pure home. regarding every
sister-woman and brother-man with
suspicion, and demanding credentials
of responsibility before admitting tn EN-
10 her favor.
Men are delightfully."- frank and cor
dial with one another.
There is nothing which causes lone
some woman, who is compelled to take
a long journey unattended. regret her
sex so much ms the enviable freedom
from formalty among her male travel
ing companions. Yet woman who
undertook to treat her sisters with the
same off hand good nature would be
directly frozen TO death.
Everywhere men seem TO be on bet
ter terms with one another than we
are. You have only to glance into the
respective ladies' and gentlemen par
lors at hotels to see this. The men
greet each other cordially, cluster to-
gether and converse for hours, and evil
IDENTITY enjoy themselves.
The ladies dissolve into cliques, and
their association is restricted and
marked by reserve. Formally and
ennUi. A woman endures the society
of another woman only as means Of
killing time until she can be in the So
cietv of man.
There is such fascination about thu
masculine sex, that woman will
sacr iic the companionship of her most
cherished lady friend TO share the So
ciety of a man TO whom she is utterly
indifferent in her heart Indeed, she
may consider him terrible bore. but
the fact that he is man renders him
more interesting than her most brllli-
lady friend.
A man, on the contrary, prefers the
society of his own sex, unless the lady
in question possesses some especial
charm for him, or he fancies he sees
in her possible conquest
man will lie TO protect another far
sooner than woman will. Not that
he loves his fellow-man more, perhaps,
but breads lie less, may be.
Some one has sa that there is an
innate nobility in man which causes
him to love virtue in women. | believe
this is true. Every human being, man
or woman, in his Utmost soul, loves
truth and purity.
Man illustrates his great love for
virtue in the same spontaneous way
that natural woman illustrates her
lnDOTH lONc lOT All infant. DIG never
sees it without wanting to take il!
There is far more pleasure in con-
versing with man than with wo-
man. He is more liberal in his ideas,
more generous in his appreciation. less
liable to criticise unkindly. But you
must not tell him so, even by act. else
he will spoil all the pleasure YOU have
derived from his companionship. If
you do not tell him so. you pique his
vanitr into certain destruction of the
friendship.
Man is as dangerous as he is agree
able.
A man will keep woman's secret il
he believes he alone shares it, unless
his vanity alone tempts him to boast
of his conquests. which it too frequent
ly does. Yet he is more charitable to-
ward her than the average woman is,
and he ought to be, since he is the
cause of all her sorrow.
Men relate their adventures and fol-
lies to ono another. while women con-
ceal them. Yet men seldom reveal
their Utmost hearts. or speak of their
most sacred feelings among men-in-
deed, there seems to DO sort of
shame-faced reluctance with them to
confess they have any sacred feelings.