Waterbury evening Democrat., 1889-11-26
A WORD ABOUT BORES.
Even the Most incorrigible of the IllS Gan
 Be Advised.

office.
 Certainly, every body is at times | bore. for this question of bores has two | sides. writes IIarllcy Harker in the New York Weekly. There is no such thing l as boring with an auger into granite | block. There is uo such thing as boring l with your finger into d pine log. X so- cial bore must meet a social sensitive. Some men are never bored by anybody: | they arc of .,urh unfaiiing good nature, such philosophic patience and helpful ness toward all. they read mon SO clear ly and judge them so charitablv. that tho | most porSi~tcnt, bothcrsome fellow does not oNasperate nor weary them. They say some sllillful word. they listen, yet go on with their own affairs. they are masters of tact, and they are wise enough to forcsee that the time may come when themselves will want a favor.
 But there are others to whom even q lovely child is a bore. Their best friends bore them more than half the time. These people are in a chronic condition of sclfishness, and every one bores them who fails to contribute something to their ma icsties' comfort or happiness. More than half the bores are not bores at all. In fact we our- selves are boreable-we are hyper>ensi- tive. We want our friendships 10 be all receipts and no outgoes: and if a friend insists on our doing a little something for him by way of amusement in return
 we are bored. l say we: yet not all of us, kind reader, at all times. We mean to give and take generally. But we have our times and seasons of being | over-Scnsitive, when even our dear old | mother herself would seem to bore us II bore you.' said a shabby gentle 1 man to young tinancier in the back l room of a bank some years ago. "To l confess the truth you do, replied the young man, smartly. The old man got l quietly out of his chair, folded up his | patent, which he had been exhibiting,
 and politely took his grip-sac1 and him. self off That patent has now become
 worth it's millions, and the smart young | tinancicr is now at work as a clerk in l the office of the great company of which | the old inventor is president. Had this l tinancicr been less nervous or sensitive
 he might not have so missed his fortune.
 1t is hardly safe to tell any decent
 man that ha borcs you. The result is >tinging. and is rarely forgotten. In
 fact, l think patience to endure being
 bored and not show your fret, is one of
 the happicst qualities of mind for sue
 c2ssfully dealing with mon.
 Who tS q bore? The man with a hobby.
 The tedious unintcrcsting talkcr. The l borrower. The fellow Who boasts and | tells about himself all the while Tine
 friend who can t keep a good situation | six nJh>, and always comes round for
 new letters of introduction. The in-
 yctoracc funny fellow, who can never
 talk sober sense. The homclv woman 1 who gets too near you when conversing
 on her long yarns The dud.}l youth
 who makes q long, long call and sits in
 dumb silence expecting you b do all
 tue entertaining. The man or woman | who calls too often. The person
 who l}crsrrut"S you with genuinely kind
 invitations to como and visit him, and will never take no for an answer. The | fellow who is always oil the contrary
 side. and frcs; up "ith: ''i.ot us argue
 the point" The good soul who is always
 preaching to you ''that Smn!ling is kill l ing you. Tine curious person who picks
 and peeps that h" or Sh" may find out
 q secret th@t you do not wish ID toli.
 The vrry very smart man vino always
 wants to teach you something. The via-
 itor on whose face you see constantly
 written, 'Nhat shah we do next to
 ;l1nUSc ourSIlvcS"" notwithstanding you
 have just jumped from one thing tu an
 other ever since inc or ShC has, been ;s
 guest in tlc house. Tho writer of
 lengthy letters full of r(aIj;tt>ic:,, which
 keep you continually in his drhI. The
 man with nothing to do, who drops i'll on
 you when you have every thing to do.
 The list is capable of addition. some
 persons would bore you who would not
 bore me. am vexcd by some whom you
 call "perfectly delightful Taste has
 much to do with the matter, the hidden
 law of likes and dislikes. Hence I
 never allow myself tQ take another
 persons word tor It.: Iii wait and see if
 1 am hored. some men begin by boring
 you; but they end by cudowing and l blessing you. l know a certain college
 professor who is the most tedious per
 son in the world for the first half day that you are in his company. But after
 that he seems to wake ur: lo let's you
 into his very soul. ills company is the
 finest delight.
 My experience is that they who talk , most about bores are themselves even less careful about trying other people s
 patience than ordinary mortals who do not have so much to say on the subject. Good nature, sound health, a manly or womanly heart. full of sympathy for She
 rest of mankind. is not very often bored.
 We mortals are all hero together on the footstool. Take us as we run. we are not so very different uno from another. : The earth is filling up and elbows are : touching: square miles are being popu- lated We must help and be helped. We must learn to laugh at each others | foiblcs and :ian: the jewel i'll every heart, for there certainly is one. It is going to be a worse world for the oyer- , sensitive soul who is only seeking his own comfort and wants ,,cthing from the rest of jis except what he can make : contribute to his own happiness,
 , Even the most ;nvurrlrih,,, bore can , Do advised. i'rv 'r. Tell him kindly that he Is tiresome on certain lines iou are his friend. Get him right, and l frankly set him right. You will be sur
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