Rock Island daily Argus. (Rock Island, Ill.) 1886-1893, 1889-05-01
THEY WORRY AND FRET.
A CHAPTER OF IMAGINARY WOES
THAT eeSgT a WOMAN'S LIFE.

It Is Better to Laugh Than Cry-No Toll
let, However Exquisite, Can Hide the
CzCIouds on n Pretty Face-There Is y
Remedy for Much OF This Fretfulness.
To worry or not to worryi
Not to worry. Worry never helped any
one along, and never made any one happier.
IL does not drive away clouds, nor remove
mountains, nor make the insight clearer, nor
the heart lighter, nor the mind calmer Ii
destroys the temper, the appetite, the diges-
ton and the general health. IL gives tho face
an unhappy expression, affects the complex
ion and makes wrinkles. II worrying wo-
mon could be thoroughly convinced of all
this they would worry less. A worrying wo-
man is burden to herself, and an inhiction
to all those with whom she comes in contact.
IL may not DO an easy thing TO cultivate q
calm and cheerful way of looking at things,
but il can be done. habit once formed Is
one of the most difficult things to get rid OF.
A pernicious habit is tyrant, but habit
that benefits ones self and helps ones neigh
Dor is q delightful commander to serve. The
probation is sometimes long and tedious and
the discipline severe, but when one Is fairly
enlisted in the noble army of the knights of
the cheerful habit the hardest part is over,
and henceforth the line of march is compare
lively easy 1t is always the first steps that
are difficl-t ~ take in virtue as well as in
vice.
LIFE Is TOO SHORT FOR WORRY.
A writer attributes the angularity Of
American women to worry, and says that it
increases with indulgence like anger or appe-
tite or love, or any other human impulse. II
upsets the mind and units it for any kind OF
work, and surely the woman who worries,
who frets continually about trifes, Is to be
avoided. The woman who jumps up in the
midst of a conversation to remove a speck of
dust from the piano; who relates the worries
of her servants to her guests; the woman
who frets because her child has Il rumpled
dress, or because some one brings u little mud
in on the carpet, and about many other sim
liar things that are of the least possible con-
sequence, are wearisome to the last degree.
Life is too short to be spent in this way, and,
generally speaking, we have serious troubles
enough To fly into passion at some triaing
occurrence that is not altogether pleasant,
Is senseless. Look at the other side of it, and
perhaps it may be a ludicrouS side
Most things have a funny side if one will
only take the trouble TO look for it; and If
ono looks, one will be sure to find Cultivate
tho habit OF looking at a thing on every side
until you come to the funny side, and then
enjoy good laugh. 1t is so much better to
laugh than to cry; one feels far happier after
ward, and the laugh has cheering effect on
those who hear it. And, if wrinkles must
come, as they surely will as the years fly by,
let them come from laughter and not from
worry. Be not afraid of laughing wrinkles;
fear only the wrinkles of worry; they are, in
deed, 10 be deplored and fought against No
rubbing will cause them to disappear; time
w m no AaI
but they will not be driven away. And who
enjoys looking at fretful, worried, wrinkled
facet What charm has a Partisan toilet, be it
ever so exquisite, if tho face above it is COW
cred with network of fretful wrinklesl
Since human beings look more at faces than
at anything else in the whole course of their
lives, they should do all they can to make
their own faces cheerful, and as the reflection
Of cheerful face-the light of the counte-
nance" what more expressive way than that
can be devised for speaking of cheerful
faceEwill shine upon all who see it,
DINE WELL AND LIVE WELL
or course, life is full of cares; every one
knows that, and every one has cause to worry
about something If the children are ill, or
the husband has failed in business, these are
things that one naturally worries about
These are the big things of life that must be
borne and about which one cannot help wor
rying.
But it is the little things OF life over which
people worry most and which are not worth
worrying about. A careful houselleeper will
fret about the way her servant enters the
room before company, or passes a dish at
table, and frowns will settle down upon her
face that are seen by the guests who have not
seen the causes. The woman will worry in
cessantly about her health II she has the
smallest ache in any part of her body, or the
slightest feeling of languor, the whole house
hold is upset, and for few hours everything
Is In the widest state Of confusion while the
victim-for she certainly is a victim to her
worrying Observation-Disclosures herself hun
dred times more i'll than she is, and dies many
times before she really dies once
Another woman worries because she is
growing old Oh, dear! Is not every one
growing oldf Is she the only person, that
she should make such fuss about It'll She
will not do this nor that, nor go here nor
there, nor sit in a strong light, for fear that
some one will discover a gray hair or the
tiniest suspicion Of a wrinkle And while
she worries in this way she helps to make
herself look old. She denies herself the pleas
ures Of life because some one may discover
her age; and so the years fly by and she IL
old-old with years and older with worry
Ouuhppy utIsen InaklIH JDOS6 ABOUT
her unhappy; unloved and unlovabls.
One writer attributes as one cause of fret
fulness the habit that some women have of
undertaking themselves Whether it is
from carelessness, from a general indiffer-
ence to food, or on account of having no APP
petite, or because they are too busy to give
the time TO eat the proper quantity that their
system demands, many women are underfed,
and the result is felt in both mind and body
Many women really live on two meals a
day, taking only cup of tea and q slice of
bread and butter at noon. They say 1t Is all
they require and all they want; they could
not eat anything more. But they deceive
themselves, for this is not true. 1t may be
that they Go not want to eat more; but If so,
it is because they have not been properly
trained. Eating is a matter of training as
much as anything else, and as the system re-
quires q considerable amount of food to keep
the general health up to the proper standard,
women should he trained to eat a sufficient
quantity Of wholesome food at regular hours
Three meals day, or even four, are not too
much for some women and meat twice day
is Indispensable to good health. Underfeed-
ing cannot be too severely condemned. 1t
weakens the system, making the victim liable
to an innumerable list of ailments, such as
sore throat, backache and neuralgia, besides
many other ills which, when once fastened
on tho system, are difficult to get rid Of
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