Dodge City times., 1889-07-18
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.
On. TALAAGE SAYS IT IS A sACkED
AND DIVINE ART.
RfsssdshiP an Altogether Different fhlag
Charity Over the Defects In Others-Ths
Value Of Noble Friends-A Discourse De.
lfvered in the Brooklyn Tabernacle.

About the sacred and divine art OF
making and keeping friends / SPEAK
subject on which l never neard of any
one preaching-and yet God thought il
of enough importance to put it in the
middle of the Bible, these writings OF
Solomon, bounded on one side by the
popular Psalms of David, and on the
other by the writings of Isaiah the great
est of the prophets. 1t seems all a mat.
ter of haphazard how many friends We
have, or whether We have any friends at
all, but there is nothing accidental about
it. There is law which governs the
accretion and dispersion of friendships.
They did not just happen So any moro
than the tides just happen to rise or
fall, or the sun Just happens to rise or
set. 1t is science, an art. God given
regulation. Tell me how friendly you
are to others and 1 will tell you how
friendly others are to You. l do not say
you will not have enemies: indeed the
best way TO get ardent friends is to have
ardent enemies, if you got their enmity
in doing the right thing. Good men and
women will always have enemies, be-
cause their goodness is perpetual re-
buke to evil; but this antagonism of foes
will make more intense the love of yOur
adherents- Your friends Will gather
closer around you because of the attacks
of your assailants. The more your enc
mics abuse you the better your coadju
tors will think of you. The best friends
We ever had appeared at some juncture
where We were especially bombarded.
There have been times in my life when
unjust assault multiplied my friends, as
near as l could calculate, about fifty a
20 Ia
by many cords that neither time nor
eternity can break, and 1 will warrant
that many of those cords were twisted
by hands malevolent. Human nature
was shipwrecked about fifty-nine CEN
turies ago, the captain of that craft, one
Adam, and his first mate, running the
famous cargo aground on a snag a the
River Hiddekel; but there was at least
one good trait of human nature that
waded safely ashore from that ship
wreck, and that is the disposition to
take the part of those unfairly dealt
with. When it is thoroughly demon
strated that some one is being prose-
cuted, although at the start slanderous
tongues were busy enough, defenders
finally gathered around as thick as
honey bees on a trellis of bruised honey
suckle. If, when set upon by the fnries,
you can have grace enough to keep your
mouth shut, and preserve your equi ipoise,
and let others fight your battles, you
will find yourself after awhile with a
whole Gordon of allies. Had not the
world given to Christ on His arrival at
Palestine a very cold shoulder there
would not have been one half as many
angels chanting glory out of the hymn
books of the sky bound in black lids of
midnight. Had it not been for the heavy
and jagged and torturous cross, Christ
would not have been the admired and
lovei of more people than any being
who ever touched foot on either the
eastern or western hemisphere. In
stead, therefore, of giving up in despair
because you have enemies, rejoice in the
tact that they rally for you the most
helpful and enthusiastic admirers. In
other words, there is no virulence, hu-
man or diabolic, that can hinder my text
from coming true: A man that hath
friends must show himself friendly"
1t is my ambition to project especially
upon the young thought which may
benignly shape their destiny for the
here and hereafter. Before you show
yourself friendly, You must be friendly.
do not recommend dramatized
geniality. There is such thing as pre-
tending to be en- rapport with others
when We are their dire destructants, and
talk against them and wish them calam-
ity. Judas covered up his treachery by
resounding kiss, and caresses NAV be
demoniacal. Better the NEUROLOGICAL
Cerberus, the three headed dog of hell,
barking at us, than the wolf in sleeps
clothing, its brindled hide covered up
by deceptive wool, and its deathful howl
cadenced into an innocent bleatine.
Disraeli writes of Lord Manfred, who,
after committing MANY outrages upon
the people, seemed suddenly to become
friendly, and invited them to banquet.
After most of the courses of food had
been served he blew a horn, which was
In those times a signal for the servants
to bring on the dessert, but in this case
1t was the signal for assassins to enter
and slay the guests. His pretended
friendliness was cruel fraud; and
there are now people whose smile is
falsehood. Before you begin to show
yourself friendly you must be friendly.
Get your heart right with God and man,
and this grace will become easy. You
may by your own resolution get your
nature into a semblance of this virtue,
but the grace of God can sublimely lift |
you into it. Sailing on the River |
names two vessels ran aground. The |
owners of one got one hundred horses |
and pulled on the grounded shin and |
pulled it to pieces. The owners Of the |
other grounded vessel waited till the |
tides came in and easily floated the ship |
out of all trouble. So, We may pull and ]
haul at our grounded human nature,
and try to get it into better condition;
but there is nothing like the oceanic |
tides of Gods up lifting grace to hoist
us into this kindliness am eulogizing.
II when under the flash of the HOLY |
Ghost We see our own foibles and de-
tects and depravities, We will be very
and very easy with others. We
Will look into the character for things
and not damnatory. If
you would rub your own eye a little
more vigorously you would find mote
IN 1t, the extraction of which would
keep you SO busy you would not have
much time to shoulder your broadax and
go forth to split up the beam in your
neighbor's eye. In a Christian spirit
Keep on exploring the characters of
hose you meet, and l am sure you will
ind something in them delightful and
it for a foundation of friendliness.
iou invite me to come to yonr country
eat and spend few days. Thank YOU,
arrive about noon Of beautiful sum-
ner day. What do you do? As soon as
arrive you take me out under the
hadow of the great elms. You take me
iown to the artificial lake, the spotted
rout floating in and out among the
Ehite pillars of the pond lilies. You
axe me to the stalls and kennels where
Iou keep your fine stock, and here are
he Durham cattle and the Gordon set.
ers, and the high stepping steeds by
,awing and neighing, the only language
hey can speak, asking for harness or
addle, and short turn down the road,
Then We 60 back to the house, and you
Jet me in the right light and show me
he kensetts and the Bierstadts on the
rail-, and take me into the music room.
md show me the bird cages, the canaries
n the bay window answering the robins
n the tree tops. Thank you'll l never
'njoyed myself more in the same length
IT time. Now, why do We not do that
ray in regard to the characters of
'thers, and show the bloom and the
music and the bright fountains? No.
We say come along and let me show Won
hat mans character Here in oraan |