Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-03-10

number of queries gives some advice to
those in the social swim to enable them to
avoid the numerous shoals and rocks with
which society abounds.
A friend of mine is to be married in a few
weeks. The wedding is to take place at the
home of the bride at9A NJ. Immediately after
the wedding breakfast the bride and groom
leave on a short tour. None but the relatives of
bride and groom will be present
First-How should the groom be attired?
Second-Nyould a bracelet be a proper
present for the groom to make the bride?
Third-Before leaving, is it the correct thing
for the groom to kiss the female guests fare
well?
Fourth-What style of ring should the groom
give the bride, the ring ceremony not being in
cluded in the service?
F1rst-A Prince Albert coat light colored
trousers. no gloves.
Second-Nes.
Third-It might be an agreeable thing, but
neither necessary thing nor correct thing.
Fourth-If ring is used IN the ceremony it
should be Of plain gold; If not, then the groom
may present the bride with any kind of ring he
thinks proper, just as he may present her with
any other piece Of leweiry.
LADIES' BoNNETs.
Is it customary for ladies TO take OF their
bonnets at a formal luncheon? II. r. h.
Yes.
TO HER MOTHER.
and is asked to call again, and is not able to
call for quite long time, is it correct to write
her note apologizing for not calling?
Second-Also, is it correct to offer young
lady money for the collection plate if you take
her to church? You KNOW.
First-No. 1t is not correct to address note
to young lady on any subject. II for any
reason an apology is to be sent it should be ad-
dressed to the young lady's mother or guar
dian.
Second-No; decidedly not
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What is the proper attire for gentleman to
wear to a to Z tea. A READER.
Morning Or promenade suit.
CARDS AND CORNERS.
VIII you please inform the writer if the fad
of turning down corners on visiting cards has
gone out of fashion? ARTHUR AwKNs.
The custom is altogether out of fashion.
ANOTHER ARGUMENT SETTLED.
To settle an argument will you please answer
the following:
First-After what hour should a man be in
full dress?
Second-At an afternoon tea (where there
there are many guests, after greeting the host
and hostess and partaking of refreshments is
it improper to leave the house without bidding
your hosts good-Dy?
Thrd-Should you leave cards at an evening
reception and at an afternoon tea?
Fourth-Should husband and wife leave one
card (Mr. and Mrs. or leave individual cards?
w. E. II.
Second-There is no host at an afternoon tea
Tie entertainment is given by the wife or fe-
male head of the household the masculise
members having no part in it. The guest
fhird-Yes.
Fourth-No. They each should leave a card
TEEATER PARTIES.
want to give a theater party for friend; in
tend 10 give a supper before, about p. NJ. Will
you kindly tell me which side of the hostess the
honOred guest should sit? Ought the cha
perone sit at the foot of the table or should the
nance of the hostess sit at the foot or beside
her? lido not want TO send engraved invita-
tiOns or formal invitations to those whom am
inviting. Will you kindly give me a sugges-
tion how should write them? And should we
all meet at the place appointed for the supper
and if so, should the hostess make it point to
4 DAILY READER.
First-The reception before theater party
should be dinner and not supper. Suppers
are entertainments for late in the evening and
may follow butnot precede the theater.
Second-On the right.
Third-She may SIT anywhere.
Fourth-Not by the lady's side-anywhere
else.
Fifth-Send the usual invitation for dinner.
with the words at the foot: "Theater o'clock"
Sixth-Yes, yes.
TWO CARDS.
FiTst-When invited to an afternoon recep-
tion given by two friends, should L leave cards
Second-If cannot go, should send card
to each, and should they be sent in envelopes?
A READER.
GHSb-beaNe Two CaTuS.
Second-Send two cards in envelopes by
messenger or by post
STAG PARTY AMUsEMENTs.
What amusements other than music would
be appropriate at stag party where smoking
and card playing are not allowed?
A stag party where neither smoking nor
cards are allowed must be dreary affair and
tie best thing for everyone to do is to go home.
With no cards and no tobacco, conversation
and story telling are all that is left but con-
NrnrE ion and eanr linz
flourish without the stimulants of good wine
and good cigars
THE BITE IN THE BREAD.
VIII you kindly explain why it is incorrect to
let your spoon remain in your cup while drink
ing your tea or to butter a whole slice of bread
and take bites of it at table?
SOUTH JERSEY.
If your spoon remains in your cur You are
continually in danger of capsizing your tea or
cotfe. by an accidental motion of the hand
This is one reason. Another is that it is ex-
tremely awkward to drink with the spoon in
the cup, and all awkward things are to be
avoided.
Butiering whole slice of bread and biting i.
Is reminiscence of the nursery, and in the
nursery 1t should remain. The habit is clumsy
awkward, distasteful, IneleGant, childish and
opposed to those canons of neat and unobtru-
sive eating which should characterize civilized
man at table. 1t would be Just as proper to
thrust handful of food in the mouth as to
thrust therein vast slice of buttered bread.
NO MISS ON HER CARDS.
am the only daughter at home and I would
like to know when should have Miss on my
visiting CARDS. DAISY.
When you have come out.
THE BRIDE.
First-Who is to select the minister, the
bride or groom?
second-Who is to pay for the cards of invi-
tation? CONSTANT READER.
First-The selection of the Clergyman falls
upon the bride or her family. 1t is usual for
Lhe marriage 10 take place at the church OF the
brides father or at his home, the ceremony
being performed by his clergyman.
second-The cards are sent by the brides
10 do with them, but his friends are naturally
included in the list of people invited.
THESE QUESTIONS ANSWERED.
~. Will you please tell us what's the correct
gloves at noon wedding2 (2l If the rooms
should be lighted should Prince Albert coat
be worn by the groom and ushers? (Sl Should
the bride furnish them-the ushers-with
for themselves?
First-He should not wear gloves.
Second-At a noon wedding the groom and the |
ushers should wear what is called Prince |
Albert coat.
Third-No. The bride under no circumstances,
can have anything to do with the apparel of |
the ushers.
TAKE YOUR CHOICE.
Eirst-In sending regrets to tea. should the |
card be sent by mail or messenger? 2 If by |
the latter, should it be sent between the hours |
of the tea? 3. Should it be directed to the [
host and hostess, or all those receiving? 4
WHAT else should be put on the envelope?
CAMDEN.
First-Either.
Second-Before the entertainments
Third-direct to the hostess. There is no host |
at tea.
Fourth-The name and address Of the host
ess.
BEFORE THE DANCE.
First-When, IN a dance, is the proper time |
to present programmes for filling out the |
dances?
second-who should write the name Of the |
lady?