The Bennington banner. [volume] (Bennington, Vt.) 1858-1894, 1889-02-28
MARRIED AND AFrERwARD.
Bride And Groom, Wedding Day An
HOnaYmnOn.

Bride And Groom, Wedding Day And
Honeymoon.
An elderly unmarried lady of Scotland
after reading aloud to her two sisters,
also unmarried, the births, marriages
and death in the lady's corner of news,
paper, thus moralized. "Weel, weel
these are solemn events-deaih and
marriage, but ye ken they're what we
must all come to-"
"Eh, Mics Jeanny, but ye have been
long spared" was the reply Of the
youngest sister.
However long we may be spared,
many of us do come to what we had
come to-a day $50 full of gladness and
so full of pain"-a day only second in
Importance to the day Of birth-in a
word. to our wedding dav. II ever one
is to pray, if ever one is to feel grave
and anxious, if ever one is to shrink
from vain show and vain babble, surely
it is Just on the occasion OF two human
beings binding themselves to one an
other, for better and for worse, till death
part them.
The two people most concerned ,espec-
tally the bridegroom, are on such a day
willing enough to shrink from vain show
and vain babble, but their friends and
relatives insist on trotting them out and
making them show their faces Indeed,
for man of shy and nervous tempera-
ment to be married without chlorofoTm
is very painful operation. He may be
strong man, but he feels like Samson
when, for the sake of women whom
he loves, he allowed his eyes to be put
out, and heard the Philistires calling
upon him to make sport for them.
On such occasions the BRIDE is gener-
ally collected and calm. She unders ands
every detail of what is to be done as if
she had been frequently m Irred. In
deed, when l am in doubt about the
superiority of women to man. am al
ways treasured by comparing bride and
bridegroom at the wedding ceremony
There stands the bride as collected and
calm as if she were going through on
every day occurrence, while the BRIDE
groom is as nervous as if he were about
to be sentenced for murder. He sup
port her, indeedl Certainly at the we'd
ding ceremonies and festivities she is,
so to speak, twice the man that he is.
Suppose, now the young people have
gone through the mony, the break
fast, and all the rest of 1t, if not with
great eclat, at least withou, making
fools of Il themselves. Then hand in hand
through Eden they take their solitary
way. They begin the Honeymoon
that month after marriage when there
ought to be nothing but tenderness and
pleasure.
But even the honeymoon may he
.poiled il too much prolonged, or if the
happy couple, instead Of taking thing
easy and enj ,ying themselves according
to their own sweet wills, rush into the
excitement of sight seeing" every
church, picture gallery and waterfall in
Europe. A bridegroom took his wife
on wedding tour of Switzerland for
the honeymoon. and when there induc-
ed her to attempt with him the assent
OF the highest peaks. The lady, who at
home had never accended hill higher
than a church, was much alarmed, and
had to be carried by the guides with her
eyes blindfolded, so as not to witness
the horrors Of the passage. The bride
groom walked close to her. expostulat-
ing respecting her fears. He spoke in
honeymoon whispers, hut the rare
factions of the air was such that every
word was audible. "You tuld me, Leon
ora, that you always felt happy no mat
ter here you were, so long rs you were
in my company. Then why are you not
happy now?' Eyes, Charles, | did, "
replied she, sobbing hystericaIly. "but l
never meant above the snow line
That is the way to spend the honey
llOOut 81 lCl no JOub6 iNOPAN
whose fortunes we are following in i'm
agination down from the snow line and
place them in the cottage or larger house
| (Which, let us hope, has not been fur
nished beyond their means), where they
are TO set up married life in Garnet. On
some evening when they are sitting in
their little drawing room the sofa. not,
| 900 miles apart, we would like to give
them few words of friendly advice.
And first we would say: I'D not he
surprised nor displeased with yourselves
and each other ifyou present trans
port of love subsidies and gives place to
a calmer but more lasting feeling. The
blossoms and flowers of spring are very
beautiful, but the mature golden fruit
of summer is even better. Still, you
must do all in your power to keep the
hearts you have won. To be always be-
loved one must be always agreeable, and
so YOU must continue to court each
other. Why should courtship end with
matrimony, and of what use are con-
ouests il they are not guarded? II is a
mistake TO think that merely going
through the marriage service willcon-
| Ter matrimonial felicity. That, like
everything else worth having, must be
worked for must be earned by patient
!endurance-self restraint, and loving
consideration for the tastes, and even
for the faults, of him or her with whom
life is to be led,
| No man eer gained happy life by chance,
| OryAwned II into being with a wish
There are two bears that you must
keep, and two first thing about which
you must be very careful. The two
bears are bear and forbear with each
other, and the two first things are the
first dispute and the first year generally