Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-03-05

What to Do and What Not to Do In
Society.

society.
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LoSo couRrsHrrs AND SLOW PRorosALs-A
DAScER's PosIrIoS-FoRMAL AND INFORMAL
sofPkRs-A cAuDLE PATTY AND GUESTS.
The following questions have been selected
Tor reply this week:
TX. E s." asks: .s
should the young lady call the relatives Of her
nance. or should they cali on bert
Ihey should call on her first, Of course.
"A Gentleman" asks perplexing question:
mo-, s, e. marry lady She has consented but viii
Tor me to ask them without her consents :
We should say yes at first glance, but cam
not, on second thoughts, decide so delicate a
question.
countryman says: II wish to know II IL Is silly or
Hal Or IN speaking Of any married woman as lady
Its a joke, of course, to call any American
woman by title, but harmless one, as IL de-
ceives no one.
As TO SHAKING HANDS.
asks: as it proper to shake hands when intro
II is the hearty American custom to do so,
and very cordial and charming, but it is not
etiquette abroad. However, if the hand is Of
fered respectfully, no one is offended. 1t is a
very disagreeable habit. however IL the hand
shaker Is very strong, and brushes the bones Of
q lady's hand
A. II. w-The proper dress of groom at a
4-o'clock wedding is always Prince Albert frock
coat, gray or pearl-colored trousers, colored
necktie. or white Lord Stanley, and light gloves
-. b. s." asks: (which should be engraved ON the
engagement ring, the 1entlemafs ladys nitials.
The initials of both with the date should be
engraved
coURTsHIP AND PROPOSALS.
on To n. Cha tofs abi
cut 70 s, ,asnsh both PARTIES an opportunity Of nnS
before the fnsi word Is SPOKEN. II that be So
n4t harIn can there be in young man paying atten-
out lady s1 months or year s'en with
We never heard this question asked before.
u supposed that the gentleman goes on pay
ing afte ntion for six months, six years, II the
young lady can stand him. until they both de-
eide that they cannot live without each other.
Stili, q dilly-dally sutton must expect some tine
day to see the object of his hearts desire stolen
from him by man who knows his own mind
better. Dean Swift said that mans atten-
lions to a lady should ''never be so violent as
TO alarm, or vague as TO be misunderstood"
IL should be generously done on the mans
part, for he is the only one who can make a
choice. Women have to take what comes, but
men can pick and choose.
ing Is il proper o her to issue an invitation to an
evening dance or card party without mentioning their
OF course it is not All invitations should be
In the name Of the mother.
,.T " sheP pss So asks rs it proper for young
@ they Roms
Ask him to CALI"
She should not go to a dance with young
gentleman without her mother or a chaperon,
and they should take him.
TAKE Up THE RUGS.
Jane" asks: SIS it proper to put crash carpets
The practice Of putting crash over carpets
proved so unhealthy to the dancers orHaccount
Of the fine fuzz which rises from it in dancing,
that 1t is now almost wholly abandoned and the
parquet floors are so almost universal. and dane
ing so much more agreeable on them, that ladies
nave the rugs taken up and allow the dancing
on the floor.
She also asks: should have tea room open at a
In the majority ofluxurious houses tea room
ts open from the beginning to the end of a
dance, where bouillon, tea and coffee are served
with plate Of sandwiches for those who cannot
eat heavy suppers. A large bowl of iced lem
onade should also be there, as this is the most
grateful refreshment to all dancers
Jack Spidersn asks: what shall do on entering
First find your hostess and her daughters,
then find your host if you can, a most difficult
undertaking. Young men are very much to be
censured however, who do not find their host
and pay him every respect. Pater familias is
sometimes thought to hold very low place in
his own house, and indeed to be good for moth
ing but to draw checks. This would be indi-
hardly refer to il. No man should leave another
mans house after accepting his hospitality
without bowling to his host.
FORMAL AND INFORMAL suPpERs.
Camilla" asks; "what is the difference Between q
formal supper and an Informal one?r'
An informal supper may be placed on the
table and left to the guests to partake of with
aFt he
or theater. 1t might consist of oysters on the
half shell, pair of cold chickens, salad of
chickens or Holsters, or of celery and lettuce.
The champagne, ready for opening, could be
gentlemen could serve the ladies. The sherry
and claret could be left on the table.
formal supper has every characteristic of a
dinner, except the soup and fish.
The table should be laid as for a dinner with
centerpieces of fruit or flowers Three kinds of
wine should be put on the table-sherry, Ma
deria, Burgundy-or il the host prefers, only
claret and champagne need be offered The
guests should find oysters on the half shell with
little forks before them.
Then cups of bouillon with little gold spoons,
or the more popular clam juice, now SO fashion
able, chicken croquettes or lobster farce NAV
well be the second course. Sherry should be
served with this. The third course may be filet
de beut or canvas back dicks mushrooms on
toast, broiled birds and tomato salad pate de
fole gras or any telied meats; after this the ices
and dessert. For the gentlemen brandy cordials
and for the ladies creme de meuthe
The Germans would offer you wild boar head
cheese, pickles, goose flesh, dried sausages.
cheese and salads for supper every evening.
The French are light eaters and their suppers
are very light. But in England the suppers are
very heavy. The Princess of Wales eats a
hearty meal-mutton chops, eggs on toast and
everything she ikes-for supper every night
Americans have not such digestion.
MARIA" asks: How should informal dinner invita-
BY the Lady herself in the first person, as:
MI DEAR Mrs. SMIIH.-Will you and your
husband dine with us on Monday at 7 O'clock
Only small party. Yours cordially,
HENRIETTA TEMPLE.
cAUDLR PARTY
''Mrs Young Mother asks. .pow shall y+vs .
caudle party. whom shall invite and what sha ri vs
themf" ~ = i ei'e
The caudle party is given when young mas
ter or miss Is about six or eight weeks old. The
csudle should be made by an old and expert
enced hand, as it Is delicious if wen made
Ii is oatmeal Cruel boiled to a fine jelIy. with
spices, Madeira or rum, spices, raisins. cur
rants and citron- 1t is q sort of elongated
plum padding, which one can drink. This
beverage should be supplemented by splendid
spread. and the most intimate friends and the
family invited
II the baby and the mamma are well he
should be taken to church to be baptized and