New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1889-01-21
MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE.
WHAT DIR. coLLYER THINKS OF THEM
REMEDY FOR THE PREVALENT

SUGGESTING A REMEDY FOR THE PREVALENT
LOOSE IDEAS ON THE SUBJECT.
aMarrlaee and Divorce was the subject Of the Rev.
DR. Robert Coyer's sermon yesterday morning in the
Church OF the Messiah, and tho congregation stencu
n him with deem interest His text was Ecclesastes
* o. sIaye ioyfully with the wife whom thou
lovest,s and he said in part as follows:
There is question Of deeper moment tnan MAJ ma
reading about in the returns OF tho divorce courts,
marriage failure, and Il so what then we lovs 70
think that husband and wife stand for moro than
father or mother children, because these are inc
fountain head We have to wonder, however; wne,ne.
the new generation not looking on marriage as
sort of ronckng holiday business, because they Iee
that II they like they can throw OF the Yoke anu run
free AT the altar they answer that they VIII De
frue 10 their vows but they do so, It seems 10 me,
with the mental reservation as long as seems goou
to U.S. The time comes ser ssa bceS dreaming III
They say If cannot be 10 each otner as we VET
we had better separate ana tnSy s sgan but SIN
with a mental reservation. When the eyl assumes
It's worst form It means free love ana the lust herO
under a very ragged disguise. -
What has brought us to this evil passl | am
not here TO lay down the law I believe, however
10 sever than 10 maintain OF some OF those have
known, the long torment Is not 10 DO toia ~ hut
q beII nm earth But this has nothing to do Win
the disgrace and shame of our time In me ru ss
MAI ONE eve wife NAV say to hsr husband things
she would not allow any woman 70 say tSSas hocn
remedies -
claimed that IL Is natural for people 70 ENJOY ue
matrimony when they tired OF them, ana that AZ
In the course Of time this matter VIII tshe car VI
itself So will fire take care OF ITSELF Inc Chioss0
Are took care OF itself, but 1t burned up my chcn
and sent 5000 souls for refuge on tne PraaIuS A
Another remedy suggested Is tho law NY InV 9Sth
were turned toward this by paper al the Nnetee ~
Century Club by member OF the bar VINO urgeu INA tne
fhe oueson of divorce should not be lett 10 lhe I1Vf
ishness and wisdom Of each particular stare t the
laws Of some states an injury ana shane 40 VIZ,
whole Republic and the mother OF dry rot DlvOIcs
e there as casy as lying third remedy suggested
is the Church, but the Church can only declare ua
n will insist on the sanctity of marriage vows "hio
She cannot punish, she VIII try 10 nOwn down thss
easv- going spirit The great, and had almost SAD
The sure REMEDY IS not In having one law out IN Vur
homes 10 teach the young that marriage Is DS'iv
Institution Make the new generation take h9te GO, y,
this that while they follow their hearts they shoua
follow their heads also In marriage believe III i4Ne
M FIRST sight not I'm marriage at first sight but rainier
IN the AXIOM about marrying I'm haste There saOuln
no honesty and sincerity as we'll a. sweet anu pure
Intimacy At a freside maid once. gave nouco Una,
sha was about 10 be married. hope he Ia COCO
man some one said. / hOrc so. toO.D was her re-
ply al have not seen him, but my sister has
We must teach and you must learn young iilehus,
that the truest and best welded hto can bloom only
ont of the hest and purest unwedded lo The remedy
lies not in any doctrine Of as-youplease, nor
finally in the ensctmens Of the law, which cannot
lie In the church, but with you and me ana yours
and mine, and in this shall We be pioneers Only
to the pure arc all things pure Only TO the true loving
heart are all things possible All true love pIent
with reverence as heavenly light Is bient win
heavenly dew.