The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1889-07-01
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.
A MAN THAT HATH FRIENDS MUST
SHOW HIMSELF FRIENDLY.

SHOW HIMSELF FRIENDLY.
Talmage Teaches a Lesson From Prov
eros - Assaults of Enemies Often
Make Il Man Friends-Man's Is Inclina-
ton to Show Up the Worst Side Of
Other Mems Characters "A. Per.
centage Basis on Which Bad Esti-
mates Should Be observation-disclosures
OF Kind Words and Kind Thoughts.
BROOKLYN, June 30.-At the .TaberaaeIe
this morning, after the pastor, the Rev. +.
DE Witt Talmage, d. D.. had made an ex-
position of passage of scripture, the con-
gregation, led by cornet and organ, sang
the hymn beginning:
Now have found friend.
Jesus Is mine.
Dr. Talmage's subject was: "How TO
Make Friends" and his text, proverbs
Xviii, "a; "a man that hath friends must
show himself friendly" He said:
About the sacred and divine art of max.
ing ana Keeping friends l speak--a sub
ject on which 1 never heard any ons
preaching-and yet God thought it OF
enough importance to put it In the middle
OF the Bible, these writings of Solomon.
bounded on one side by the popular psalms
OF Davld, and on the other by the writings
OF Isaiah, the greatest OF the prophets It
seems all matter Of haphazard how MANY
friends we have, or whether we have any
friends at all, but there il nothing
accidental about 1t. There is a
law which governs the accretion
aud dispersion of friendships. They did
not Just happen so" any more than the
tides just happen to rise or fall, or the sun
Just happens to rise or set. Ii is a science,
an art, God-given regulation. Tell me
now friendly you are TO others and. VIII
tell you how friendly others are to yous I
do not say you will not have enemies: in
deed the best way to get ardent friends is TO
nave ardent enemies, * YOU get their en- .
unity In doing the tight thing. Good
men and woman will always have
enemies, because their goodness IL
. perpetual reouke to Levill but
this antagonism of foes will
make more intense the love of your adj
herents Your friends will gather closer
around you because of the attacks Of your
assailants The more your enemies abuse
you the better your coadjutors will think
of you, The best friends we ever had an.
peared at some juncture when we were
especially bombarded. There have been
times in my life when unjust assault multf-
late, about fifty minute. You are bound
to some people by many cords that
neither time nor eternity can break.
and | will warrant that many of those
cords were twisted by hands malevcleut.
Human nature was shipwrecked about fifty.
nine centuries ago, the captain of that
craft, one Adam, and his first mate, rum
ming the famous cargo aground on a snax
In the river Hiddekel; but there was at
least one good trait Of human nature that
waded safely ashore from that shipwreck-
and that is the disposition TO take the part
OF those unfairly dealt with. When 1t is
thoroughly demonstrated that some one ia
being prosecuted, although at the
start slanderous tongues were busy
enough, defenders finally gather around
as thick as honey bees ON
trelis Of bruised honeysuckle. liz.
when set upon by the furies. you can have
grace enough to keep your mouth shut and
preserve your equipose, and let others fight
your battles, you will find yourself alter
awhile with whole Gordon Of allies Had
not the world given to Christ on his ar
rival at Palestine a very cold shoulder
there would not have been one-half as many
angels chanting glory out of the hymn
books OF the sky bound in black lids OF
midnight. Had 1T not been for the heavy
and Jagged and tortuous cross, Christ
would not have been the admired and
loved OF more people than any being who
ever touched foot on either the eastern or
western hemisphere. Instead, therefore, Of
giving up in despair because you have enc
mics, rejoice in the fact that they rally for
you the most helpful and enthusiastic
admirers. In other words, there is no viru-
lence, human or diabolic, that can hinder
my text from coming true: "a man that
hath friends must show himself friendly.D
1t Is my ambition to project especially
upon the young thought which may be-.
nignly shape their destiny for the here and
the hereafter. Before you show yourself
friendly, you must be friendly. do not
recommend dramatized geniality. There
IS such thing as pretending to be en- rap-a
port with others when we are their dire
destructants, and talk against them and
wish them calamity. Judas covered up his
treacbery by a resounding kiss, and caressez
may be denomiacal. Better the mvtho-
logical Cerberus, the three. headed dog OF
hell, barking at US, than the wolf in sheep,g
clothing, It's brindled hide covered up
by deceptive wool, and its deathful howl
cadenced into on innocent bleating DisraeH
writes of Lord Manfred, who. after
committing many outrages upon the peol
pie, seemed suddenly 70 become friendly.
and invited them to banquet. After most
of the courses of food had been served
he blew a horn, which was in those times a
signal for the servants 10 bring on the des-
sert, but in this case it was the signal for
assassi IS to enter and slay the guests. His
pretended friendlineSs was cruel fraud.
and there are now people whose smile Is
falsehood. Before you begin to show yonr-
self friendly you must be friendly. Get
your heart right with God and man. and
this grace viii become easy. You may by
your own resolution get your nature into q
semblance Of tnis virtue, but the grace Of
God can sublimely lift you into it. Sailing
on the river Thames two vessels ran
aground. The owners of one got one hun
dred horses and pulled on the grounded
ship and pulled it to pieces The owners Of
the other grounded vessel waited till the
tides came in and easily hoated the ship out
of all trouble. So, we may pull and
haul at our grounded human nature,
and try to get it into better condition: bu1
there is nothing like the oceanic tides Of
Gods uplifting grace to hoist us into this
kindliness am eulogizing. If when under
the fash OF the Holy Ghost we see our own
foibles and defects and depravities, we will
be very lenient and will be very easy with
others. We look into their characters for
things commendatory and not damnatory.
II you would rub your own eye
little more vigorously you would find
a mote in it, the extraction of which
would keep you so busy you would
not have much time to shoulder
your broadax and 90 forth
To snlit nm the beam in yOur uaiVhhoris ave