The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1889-07-04
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.
Or. TAlMAGE SAYS 1T is A SACRED
AND DIVINE ART.

Friendship nm Altogether Different Thing
fr"m Geniality-Throwing the Mantle Of
Charity Over the Defects In othar.- -TEs
Value of Noble Friends
BROOKLYN, June 30.-At the Taber-
ntcle this morning, after the pastor,
the Rev. I. De Witt Talmagc, D. D.,
had made an exposition of passage
Of Scripture, the congregation, led
by cornet and organ, sang the hymn
beginning:
Now have found n friend
Jesus IL mine.
DIR. Talmage's subject was "'How TO
Make Friends" and his text, Proverbs
xviii, "a: "a man that hath friends
must show himself frindly." He said:
About the sacred and divine art of
making and keeping friends / speak
a subject on which l never heard of
any one preaching-and yet God
thought it Of enough importance to
put it in the middle of the Bible, these
writings Of Solomon, bounded on ono
side by the popular Psalms of David,
and on the other by the writings of
Isaiah, the greatest of the prophets. 1t
seems all a matter of haphazard how
many friends we have, or whether we
have any friends ut all, but there is
nothing accidental about it. There is
n law which governs the accretion
and dispersion OF friendships. TIey
did not "just happen SO" any more
than the tides just happen TO rise or
fall, or the sun just happens to rise or
set. 1t is a science, All art, a God
given regulation. Tell me how
friendly you are to others and | will
tell you how friendly others are to
you. ] do not say you will not have
enemies; indeed the best way to get
ardent friends is TO have ardent enc
mics, if you got their -enmity in doing
the right thing. Good men and wom-
en- will always have enemies, because
their goodness is perpetual rebuke to
evil; but this antagonism Of foes will
make moro intense the love Of your
adherents. Your friends will gather
closer around you because of the at
tacks Of your assailants The more
your enemies abuse you the better
your coadjutors will think of you
The best friends.we ever had appeared
at some juncture when we were espe-
,cially bombarded. There have been
times III my life when unjust assault
multiplied my friends, as near as
could calculate, about fifty min
ute. You are bound TO some peo-
pie by many cords that neither
time nor eternity can break,
and j will warrant that many of those
cords were twisted by hands malevo-
lent. Human nature was shipwrecked
about fifty-nine centuries ago, the cap
inin of that craft, one Adam, and his
first mate running the famous cargo
aground on snag i'll the River Hid
dckel; but there was ut least one good
trait of human nature that waded
safely ashore from that shipwreck,
and that is the disposition to take tho
part Of those unfairly dealt with
When it is thoroughly demonstrated
chat some one Is being prosecuted, al
though at the start slanderous tongues
were busy enough, defenders finally
gather around as thick as honey bees
.on trcllis OF bruised honeysuckle
If, when set upon by the furies, you
ycun have grace enough to keep
your mouth shut, and preserve
your equipoise, and let others fight
your battles, you will find yourself
after awhile with whole Gordon of
allies Had not the world given to
Christ on his arrival at Palestine a
very cold shoulder there would not
have been one-half as many angels
chanting glory out OF the hymn books
of the sky bound in black lids of mid
night. Had il not been for the heavy
and Jagged and torturous cross, Christ
would not have been tho admired and
loved Of more people than any being
who ever touched foot on either the
eastern or western hemisphere. In
stead, therefore, of giving up in des
yair because you have enemies, re
loice in the fact that they rally fol
you the most helpful and enthusiastic
admirers. IN other words, there is nC
Wirulcnce, human or diabolic, thai
can hinder my text from coming true
a man thatahuth friends must show
himself friendly
YOUR FRIENDSHIP MUST NOT BE A PRE-
TENSE
II is my ambition To project espe
cially upon the young thought
which may bonignly shape their des
tiny for the here and the hereafter
Before YOU show yourself friendly
you must be friendly J do not re
commend dramatized geniality
There ia such thing as pretending tC
be en- rapport with others when W.
are their dire destructanis, and tall
against them and wish them calamity
Judns covered up his ueachery by {
1csounding kiss, and curesses may b,
dcmoniacal. Better the mythologica
Ccrberus. the tlIce headed dog of hell
barking at us, thau the wolf iii sheep
clothing, It's briudlcd hide covered NJ
by deceptive wool, and its deathfu
howl cadenccd into an innocent blcat
iny Disrael writes of Lord Man
frSd. Who after committing man.
ouuagc3 upon the people, seemed
suddenly TO become friendly, and in
NitNd them TO banquet. After mos
OF the courses of food had been serves
hc blew D horn, which was in thoS
dimes a signal for the servants TO bnni
on tho dessert, but in this case it wa
the signal for assass;ps 20 enter am,
slay the guests. III, pretended friend
illness was a cruel fraud; and there ar
now people whose Gmlo is falsehood
Before YOU begin 10 show yoursel
friendly vou must be friendly. Gc
your heart right with God aud man
may by Your own resolution get you
nature into q semblance OF this virtue
but the grace of God can subl!mel
lift YOU iuLo il. Sailing on the Rive
Thames two vessels ran aground III
owners OF oue got one hun
drrd horses and pulled ON ia
grounded ship aud pulled 1t
pieces. The owners OF the othe
grounded vessel waited I'll the uae
cmnc in and casil v tloated the ship ON
of all trouble So, we May pull an
hacl at our grounded human nature
and Inv TO ret it into better condition
but there Is nothing like the oceani
tides of Gods uplifting grace TO hoE
us into This kindliness am eulogizlnE
II when under the flash of the Hol
Ghost ve see our own foiblcs and d.
fccts aud depravities, we will be yer
lenicnt and very easy with other
We will look into their characters Il
things commendatory and not dan
natory. If you would rub your ow
eve a little moro vigorously yC
would find a mote in il, the C
traction of which would keep you
busy YOU would not have much tin
60 shoulder your broadax and go fori
50 split up the beam in your nelg
boris eve. la Christians spirit kc'
on exploring the characters OF tho
YOU meet, aptI am sur6 You will lii
something in them delightful and
for foundation OF friendlipess. "
inyita lne TO come TO your country Sc
and spend few days. Thank yo
arrive about noon OF a beautif
summer day. What do you doi
soon as arrive you take me on; und
ihe shadow Of the great elms "
take me down TO the artificial LAX