Shenandoah herald. [volume] (Woodstock, Va.) 1865-1974, 1889-01-04
THE PARTNERSHIP OF MAR
RAGE.
DON'T COMPLAIN ALL THE TIME
MAKE THE BEST OF THINGS.
A.. Ernnl. 1 nalia

Mrs. Frank Leslie.
The people who marry and the
people who complain are generally
young-that is to say, they marry
before %, and they complain before
80. To be sure, having begun to
complain at this age, they keep on
complaining for a good many years
partly from the love of a grievance
Inherent In human nature, an d
partly because, having made up
their minds that the path is thOrny
they look out for the thOrns and
take pains to scratch themselves
on each one. But the discomfort
begins in yoath-let us say during
the first five years of matrimony-
and it should be treated as one of
the diseases incident to youth, in
stead of being allowed to become
chronic.
Young people of both sexes have
a most exaggerated idea of their
own Importance. Caesar must have
been young, even for bis years,
when be so naiyely remarked : "The
world was made for Caesar )" but l
have seldom met either girl or man
under % who was not obviously
under the same impression, and it
Is in the height of this delusion
that the two come together as nan
and wlfe-often with the same re-
suit as when the MacGregor aUd
the Campbell, with their following,
met in the narrow streets of Edln-
burgh, and, each claiming the
"Crown of the Causeway' as his
undoubted right, passed the rest
of the day in fighting out tue qdes-
ton, until each chleftain, sorely
wounded, was carried to hls Owd
quarters, resolved to fight it out
again and yet again while life
lasted.
No, my dear gIrl, and also my
dear boy, the world was not made
for either of you-Dot even the little
world OF the new life you haye just
entered upon with such flourish OF
trumpets. The house is not yours,
nor yours, no matter in whose name
the title deeds are drawn. 1t is
ours. and must be managed in
scrupulous consideration of our I
tastes and wishes and comfort.
Just at first this will be very easy,
for in the case of dIscrepant tastes
it is 80 delicious Iu the honeymoon
to say: Have it your own way
darling; what pleases you plesse'
me, and to reply: No, no, have II
your way for isn't your way my
way now, love!
Very nice for the honey moon
but the secret, my dears, is to keel
1t up, and not to allow all the con
cessions to come from one side
bat remember that, with ali thu
"darIingsr and gloves" thrown in
this is a very practical business
partnership upon which you arr
entering, and that mutual respect
mutual concession and mutual In
terests are the basis OF the concern
Neither of you is going to b.
quite satisfied, neither Is going Il
be quite happy; both are going Il
meet with some severe dlsappolnt
ments in each other and In the neV
life. But the secret of preventing
the marriage business becoming
failure is the same largely iu
fluencing all other business part
perships; hostility to your partne
means injury to your mutual In
terests, and, il that partner turn
out not quite the sort ofcompanlo
YOU expected, make the best II
stead of the worst of him, and seeI
t by mutual concession and consit
l Grafton, to work barmoniously Il
Cether for what you know to b
0 your mutual interest, and profit
9 the heyday fife aud the assure
9 comfort and repose OF old age.