Custer chronicle. [volume] (Custer City, Black Hills, D.T. [S.D.]) 1880-1890, 1889-04-27


9 Marriage Institution.
Marriage is-and will be until thee EN-
of time. The institution is older thar
priesthood, and as memorable in fact anC
perpetui,y. 1t is as sensible to expenC
breath and ink in discussing the com
parative or positive failure" Of one Oh
The other. Assuming, with our philo-
sophicsl cynic, that the Creator blum
dered in ordaining wedlock, we borrow
from our slangy boys, and ask: "Wha
are you going to do about ity" 1t cannot
be abolished, and il the philosophers
dictum is to be received, there is no best
10 be made OF it, unless we elect to dwell
blindly in the FOOLS paradise. We may,
It is true, accept the incubus as the wise
hunchbsck his deformity, forbearing to
call attention to it and trying to forget
what makes him unlike his kind.
1t is q blessed relief in turning two
leaves to light upon a sentence that gives
vs. hope for the burdened race.
Marriage seems to me to be near
enough perfect"
liant. Let US hope. gratefully, that he
hloy uCVCL = CuuoC w uhOully ~
views.
"Dere's folks wat is all de time 'busln'
de werl' dey live ini' said a Virginia
camp meeting exorter. Now, bredderin,
God made de worl al saw twas very
good. De worl's all right, bat good Lord,
de peoplel'
To illustrete, courtship corresponds to
the diplomatic advances to the purchase
Or exchange of q valuable freehOld-we
will say a warehouse or factory. When
the papers are made out and exchanged
he takes possession as master, not nego-
iator. There is the eIuttant sense Of
ownership, the clarifying in the goodly
tenement, but it is his in peipetuity,
and his manner changes forthwith.
misunderstanding to his way Of
ooking at 1t. For "a fellow" to
curt his own wife would introduce
IN element Of uncertainty that would
mar his satisfaction in what he has
gained. The very loneliness of tone and
temeanor, aud the blunt familiarity
he wife resents with alarm as evidences
o.: inGiffereuCes and want of respect, in
dicaIe security of happiness. DE comes
nome at night to slippers and easy chair;
oegs of from proposed party or opera,
pr social call, and falls asleep before the
fire while she is telling how lonely are
rer days without hin, and how happy
the hours spent in his society. While he
ioZes she lets fall a silent shower Of tears
over the change from the obsequious
suitor TO the careless master.
The tale IS trite, but never tedi pus, for
every page 10 blurred by weeping. The
cause may be imaginary. The pain is
real. Yet, were the truth known, John
never loved wife and home more entirely,
was never more dependent upon them
than when Re finds in both absolute rest
for body and spirit. The wife has to
near dutidg the day the pin pricks aud
briar. scratches of petty worries. The
husband gers Knocked down so often that
he is bruised and stunned by night.
What 90 We wOmen-the busiest of us
in the safe seclu,ion Of the walls built
about us and our little ones by the strong
arms aud stronger hearts Of husband.
and fathers, know of the tug and strees
or the fed into which our past beloved
ones plunge before our parting kisses are
cold upon their lipsS The wife who
tlushes and trembles into Mysteries at q
hasty word from the tired man. distracted
with anx,eties for her welfare and hel
children's, or the co"tiding prattler who
can hardly wait until John lays off his
overcoat in the hall before rushing into 8
frank denial of the fuss with Bridget, OF
the awful fall baby has had, or the
scrape Johnny got into at school, reads
no: wisely. but too well, the injunction
to admit her spouse into partnership in
her every thought.
Such q one felt called in the gospel OF
friendship to labor with q quiet little
woman, who put . fsvorite bit Of china,
when cracked accidentally, upon q cabi
net shelf. the fair side outward, and
"hoped John would not find out wha,
had happened"
lis he apt to be cross about such
thingsH"
.Cro.sp' Tho wife's proud smile an
swered for her. mo, but he would be
sorry. The vase WAS his moth 1t i.
never used, and it is as good to look a
no there on the mantel. 1t is my rule
never to make him uncomfortable un
necessarily
"But if you are in real trouble it is
surely your duty TO share it with him"
If he can help me bear iE-not else
| arm too selfish TO lay my worries upor
him. The sight Of discomfort would bt
less enduraole to me han the Origina
annoyance"
This is the mentor branded ~ conjuga'
heresv In my Old-fashi Jned soul | calico
it wifely heroism.