Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-10-06
The Duchess Gives Reasons Why Some
Persons Should Not Wed.
EVILS OF IMPROVIDENT UNIONS.
Love in q Cottage and No Funds Only
Beautiful Sentiment.
HEREDITY THE CHIEF BAR TO MARRIAGE
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clally with regard 10 tne Te4dtIoHS AS'As
between the sexes.
Marriage. where there is decided i'm
purity in the blood on either side, should
be forbidden by parents or guardians. In
SANITY. scrofula, consumption (another form
ofthe last-named disease), all should be re-
garded as bar to matrimony.
A severe dictum, no doubt, DESTROYING the
happiness of many, but if faithfully ad-
hered to for halt a century or so, would cer-
tainly stamp out great deal OF the disease
that now deeimates and renders miserable
the homes of many. The happiness of the
few should give way to the good of the
manv, aud if those unfortunately marked
out by nature to be the modern lepers OF
society could have the courage to sacrifice
themselves. unspeakable would be the bene-
fit to mankind
But to preach to others is an easy thing;
when it comes to ones own turn to be sac
rifced, we find ''the whole head is sick and
the whole heart faint" and we rebel Wiz
lentiv against the fate that would chain us
to circumstances.
In truth, when a man loves q woman with
all his heart and mind, it is a cruel rendlng
of soul and body to separate him from her;
vet, if he or she carry within them the sad
those other well-known hereditary diseases
that destroy humanity, surely it is an in
iquity on their part to deliberately transmit
the same to posterIty.
EVILS OF HEREDTTY.
1t is the little children, the flesh of their
flesh, who suffer-irresponsible beings
brought into the world without desire OF
their own, without even their permission
being asked. Poor little childrenl oftimes
doomed from their birth to suffer mourn
fully, and without reproach, the cruelest in
dignitles that nature has in store for her off
spring. And it is not only they who suffer.
The mother, the father, whichever it may
be that has given the terrible curse, how
keen must be their remorse as they see the
child of their love dwindle slowly into
consumptiEe grave ere yet life has opened
its full charms for ii, or else, dragged from
their despairing arms TO an asylum, to end
its life in secresy and non-comprehension of
anything that makes our daily life bearablel
There are, however, other hindrances to
marriage, more easily to be disposed Of
want OF money! We all know melancholy
instances Of those married lives, begun in
all good will, on love alone, without a
penny to support that airy little fellow
whose wings are so suggestive of power to
fiv away and rid himself of all response
bilitv and unpleasantness at moments
notice. Those melancholy instances should
be warning to US, and, hope, sometimes
are but in spite of all warnings, improvi-
dent marriages are as frequent still as they
are universally disastrous.
Love is delightiul-the one real gift of
life, but ii should not be abused. For
young man to marry young woman with
no settle means of sustaining her through
o,,+ bo G0 odd co fho+ proridapoa
NAV allot them on this terrestrial plain, ap-
proaches almost to a crime in the estimation
of any thoughtful person.
Here again, tine children come inr They
throughout must be the real suffeaers-those
fragile beginnings of a mighty end" as
Mrs. Norton has it.
A wANToN CRUELTY
What a wanton cruelty it is to bring into
the world little souls that should be saved,
to expose them to nothing but the buffets
and misfortunes of world that has SYM
pathy only Tor the rich and "well-to-do," as
the phrase goes. No money to educate
them, scarcely enough food to rear them
heartily, a chance of college forever in the
background, even though the father may
have been a college man in his dav, and
therefore cognizant of all the advantages TO
be derived therelrom. How sad for the
father; how doublv sad for the child! A
bright boy, perhaps, who would prob
ably have distinguished himself had
opportunity been given him. Surely
the mother and father of that child, who
have deliberately wilied him to a lie of
poverty and insignifcance. must feel the
strongest pangs of remOrse as they gaze on
him and note the dawnings of genius that
might have made his name ring gloriously
in the arena of the world, mad they the
means to help him forward in his career.
Of all kinds of selfshness, the man who
makes an improvident marriage is guilty of
the greatest. For the mere indulgence of
his desires be condemns to misery many
soul. When the world is little more per-
feet, hope there will be a law forbiddIng
people to marry unless they can show
sufficient income wherewith to keep up the
dignity of the married state.
HINDRANCEs TO MATRIMoNY.
Another strong hindrance to matrimony
is difference in religion. People of oppos-
lite religious beliefs would do well to avoid
erch other. If one is a Roman Catholic.
the other Protestant, an unSpoken and
often carefully concealed, but nevertheless
strong, antagonism must exist in either
bosom. Each thinks the other in the wrong:
each feels eager to defend his or her own
religion. One with each other as they NAV
be on all other points, there is ever a reser-
walton in the background, a secret differing
that destroys the harmony, the perfect con.
fdence that should be the mainstay of the
relations that bind together the man and
his wife.
Sadder still, however, is it for the man or
woman with strong spiritual beliefs to wed
9TH T.roa lo5
ably pull along together pretty well (thougb
what guides them, heaven alone Enows).
but for one human cresture with an earnest
sense Of the reality attaching itself to the
divine, to elect to spend a long life with
another who thinks only of the extinction
that, in his estimation, awaits the lower and
higher animals alike, must be but SORROW
full thing. Here, too, great gulf is fixed
between the complete trust that married
hearts should know.
There are many minor reasons why GER
tain people should not wed with certain
other people. But they are not under
standed of the people, as rule. Others.
again, know and dare all things. 1t is ex
traordinary how many rush to the alter with
their eyes open 70 faults fatal to married
happiness. Incongruity of temper tears
larger holes In wedlock than any other fault
we know; yet you will see daily two people
utterly unsuited, barely able to comprehend
each others character, and totally unable to
deal with them, sign the bond that con-
demns them for life to the closest intimacy of
all.
You will see, too, the clever, earnest stu
dent select as his bosom companion the
silly, frivolous child barely out of her
school room. without depth Of mind, with
out the vaguest sense of responsibility, and
with nothing to recommend her save her -,