Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-03-16
2 Not when a card is personally left.
g. In an envelope big enough to hold the
INTRoDrCrIONs AT TABLE

ward rostiG by twisting y head around to speak to
An introduction should not be given when
persons are seated at table. II an introduction
IL forced upon one an inclination of the head
ana word are all that is necessary. One
should not rise from tie table or twist around
or attempt to shake hands, anything of the
kind IS very disturbing to other people at
table.
l. VIVIAN wishes to know II 9 young lady should
invite gentleman or should be ask permission to
2. In introducing minister should he be addressed
3 Would it be considered bad form for couple not
engaged to attend church together.
l. The invitation to call should be extended
by the mother. Ii the gentleman asks permits
sion 20 call the young lady can assent by her
mothers permission.
2. In introducing a clergyman his title, rev.
erend or doctor, should be mentioned. but
while. if doctor. he may be addressed as such,
as reverend merely he should be addressed as
mister.
3. No.
Is i. proper to say thirty dozen or thirty dozens'
and the father dies should the junior still be written
after the sons nanIes
l. Usage sanctions both FORMS
2. No.
sit proper to wear full dress vest with Prince
No. A dress waistcoat which is a waistcoat
OF broadcloth, cut low, is proper only with a
dress coat.
sERvASTLEss DINNER.
II one has servants and wishes to give dinner to
ones relations and intimate friends how should it be
served Should all the dishes and desserts be placed
on the table and should the hostess assist the host in
such dinner
/. IL there are no servants dinner in courses
Is impossible. The dessert, excepting the fruit,
should stand on a side table. The fuit may be
placed in the middle of the table as decora-
non. The host should carve the meat the hos
tess serving the vegetables and the dessert and
by necessity, she must remove the dishes for the
dessert
2. The principal dish might be Of roast or
boiled fowl. and served with Italian macaroni
and mashed potatoes, baked, followed by a
salad. For dessert q Roman punch, a biscuit
glace or ice-cream with cake, followed by fruit,
nuts and raisins.
Dick" Martins Ferry. Ohio writes: When ac-
next to the aisle.
In church it is customary for the escort to
sit next to the aisle; at the theater or concert
an outside seat Is commonly chosen by the
man. Take that seat which would enable you
to aid them best in Of danger or an emer-
gency. and rccollect that two young ladies at
an entertainment love dearly to chat together.
which they cannot do If you are between them
l. II attending a club reception where there is dan
eng and caf- laying Is 1t proper to relnoYS TIE gloves
while playing cards:
=. At supper, il the gloves reach to the elbow?
- What KIND Of slippers and hat color OF gloves
should be worn w.th black lace dress!
/. OF course remove the gloves for card
playing.
2. The gloves may be removed for supper.
D. Tan-colored gloves and slippers to match.
PoLITENEss.
1. Is it polite for stranger at ball, without in
PRODUCTION. to approach lady and ask her dancer
.. Is it not proper to ask the door manager for
Introduction before:
l. Such a proceeding would SAVIOR not only
OF impoliteness but of impertinence.
2. Strictly speaking. introductions should
come from some friend Of the lady.
l. Kindly inform me of the proper form introduc-
inc a lady and gentleInan and gentleman to gentle
:! Please suggest. if you can. some sor. of enter
happens ON last day Of July. Am AFRAID party
wouldn't do. II being 50 WARM during that month
s. Mnen MAKING friendly visit is it proper to wear
gpon being introduced to lady teither young or
elderly Is II proper to offer to shake hands.
/. Gentlemen should always be introduced
to ladies-'Miss Bell permit me to introduce
my friend, MIR. Green and young men to elder
men.
2. If in the country have garden party: if
In town nothing in midsummer can be in order
but music. conversation. and ices.
8. In making brief, formal visits wear gloves;
In friendly visits the gloves can properly be re-
moved.
4. No. The proffer of the hand should always
be made by the lady.
Is it proper for young man who has been married
about two years to cit with his wife the opera and
ing to HIMSELF
No, il is not proper; in fact. il is unspeaka-
bly, vulgar. Such an exhibition would justify
the worst things Mrs Trollope and other Of
our English critics have said OF American man
ners.
II you admire an actor actress. and wish TO meet
MN or her az the case may be- simply TO exchange
few words and express your admiration to the object
of IL, what means should you employ and such
favor usually accorded any one who may ask it:
Emphatically do not employ any means to
bring such an end about. 1t would be vulgar
and pert. If you chance to meet an actor or
actress In society. express the pleasure you
have felt in seeing them act but do not seek
them; do not devise means to meet them. for
this would be lacking in self respect and the
reticense that becomes young woman.
l. Will you be kind as to tell young housekeeper
if il is the correct tlipg to serve supper from side
table and how to set the supper table when the meal
50 served
l. II is not easy to answer these questions:
they are too vague. The kind OF supper and
nature of the occasion are not explained. Or
binary suppers are served from center table.
but If a side table is more convenient there is
no reason why it should not be used As to
setting the table. that must depend on the
viands; hot dishes at each end. cold cuts inter-
spersed between. varied by salads, fruits, &c.
l. breach Of etiquette for ladies to applaud the
atrical performances:
gentle applause IL not lnlprOper-1uSt
enough to indicate a persons pleasure in the
performance. such as a gentle clapping of the
hands. Anything loud or violent would be in
decorous
DISGUSTING HABIT.
Do men rank gentlemen who indulge In the habit
Of spittng and is not exclusively American prac-
tce Certainly public place is free from the
cradle nuisance. The sidewalks unit for decent
pedestrians. and yet well-educated men just as
often the offenders poor. ignorant men, who not
supposed to know letter. Have We women redress
III this matter:
The excessive splitting habit Of which you
speak is exhibited nowhere except in America.
and too much cannot be said in its denuncia-
gentlemen spit everywhere, except, perhaps in
a ladies' parlor. They empty their filth on the
floors of public vehicles. compelling women to
drag their skirts through it, they spit in public
passages, in halls on stairways, on the side
walk. everywhere and anywhere, with fairly
brutal disregard of every consideration of de-
cency. Much OF this expectoraton il due to
tobacco chewing. a most disgusting habit. COM
mon TO our countrymen only, and carried to
such an extent i'll some parts OF the country as
to render life there almost intolerable The
women of the country should unite in q crusade
against this habit They should form associa-
tions and take united action against It, de-
nouncing it everywhere, refusing to associate
with men who practice it, creating by every
means in their power public sentiment against
its indulgence. for it is d habit that brands us
before the world.
Would you kindly tell the significance of the DIFF.
ferent anniy ersaries of the weddings!
1t is not clear what this correspondent means
by the significance of the anniversaries referred
II =