, 1889-05-04
THE MAN WHO FAsclNArEs.
Tho Qualities He Must Possess TO Win and
Keep n Sensible Woman

Tho Qualities He Must Possess to Win and
Keep n Sensible Woman
He is not necessarily a handsome
man. Many fascinating men are also
most ugly. Wealth, social position,
rank arc all fascinating in and of
themselves, but to a true woman they
do not mako the man himself more at
tractive. To fascinate women a man
must depend entirely upon his own re-
sources.
What are they7
First, he must be q man of some
brains. The empty headed young
''chappies' never fascinate. They may
amuse, servo as a bit Of entertainment
for an idle hour or so, but beyond
that they have no special value. They
are to be put in the same category
with matinee tickets and bonbons-
useful whilo they last, which isn't
long.
He must be a man of spirit. A wo-
man soon has nothing but good ma
tured contempt for q fetch-and-carry.
Tho man who will permit himself TO
be made n makeshift, who is content
to DO smiled on n moment frowned
on the next who will patiently stand
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waltzes with another-can never fas-
climate q m In these days of pro-
erosion, advancement, equal rights,
1t is rather daring to say n women needs
q master. Yet in one sense she does.
Not a petty tyrant, jealous, suspicious,
unreasonable, but n man of spirit, of
strong will rendered by justice and
kindliness; n man who will not permit
q woman TO snub him more than once;
q man who will demand and receive
respect and n little soupcon of fear
from m
Well thus, given a man of brains and
spirit, what next7
The man who has no sentiment need
not expect TO fascinate. By sentiment
n understands something far re-
moved from sentimentalism. Senti-
ment is divine; sentimentalism, alb
surd. He who can draw the limo
between the two is a wise man. All
women love sentiment. If they do not
possess 1t themselves they love n lingo
of itin u man. Sympathy comes hand
in hand with sentiment.
The man who understands a womans
looks, who does not need to have the
whole story blurted out, who can read
between the lines, who can give gen.
tie, tendersympathy and appreciation,
will find that he has taken n long
stride toward possessing tho gift OF
fascination.
A slight dash of cynicism often
works wonders. Not pessimism. What
woman loves gloom and despon-
dcncy7 The cynieism that rightly ex-
erted will discover to n woman much
of tho folies of lifei that, knowing
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from her path, is very effective.
A chntterer never fascinates. The
man who talks, talks, talks aimlessly,
at random, in mentally maudlin fash
ion, is but n bore. The man who can
say much in little, who speak volumes
with eyes rather than lips, who can
express everything in n look or a ges-
ture-he is successful with women.
He should have the artistic temper
ament, Phlegmatic, cold blooded men
fascinate sometimes, It's true, but it is
the fascination of the serpent. Aman
should be warm of nature and of
heart, atfectlonate, not ashamed TO
show his love in every act. On the
other hand, he is careful TO restrain
his ardent dcvotion-to remember the
flneness and delicacy of n woman's
nature.
The passion that wakes too bold and
undisguised becomes odious and re-
voting.
The man who wishes to f~ascimate
should make n careful study and
thorough analysis of that mysterious
and complex thing-a woman's ma
turo. He should remember that it is
Of finer fiber than his; that it is SEN
sitivo and easily hurt; that it is proud,
and will hide its injuries; that it is
f%orgiving, and will generously par
don; that it is often Maynard and
needs kind rcproof; that it is contra
dictory, and must DO humored; that it
demands much and must be satisfied.
Edith Sessions Upper in Once a
Week.