Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1889-02-10
ETIQUETTE.
Attention to the Minor Details of Good
Manners a Proof of Self-Respect.
What to Have for an Informal Lunch-What
Initials Should a Woman Use7 How to
Wear the Engagement Ring.
Written for the Gazette.

of etiquette and manners.
Questions should be addressed to the
editor of TIE GAZETTE
1t will be impossible to answer all ques-
tions, owing to the limited space that
can be given to this department. Mrs.
/ SHERWOOD Will select such questions as
! suggest points of the most general inter-
! est 10 our readers
/ These questions having reached the
4 editor we would answer them TO the
/ best of our ability, promising that as all
/ etiquette in America is in chaotic state
! Gas, witness the recent dismissal of the
English minister, which had it been done
| III like manner between Austria and
| France or any other two powers in
/ Europe, would have been instantly u
cause of war; therefore, opinions differ
! so much that these answers are offered
/ modestIy.
! "'E'' Connecticut asks: .'H person of
! some prominence in q country neighborhoodwh who
/ has lived long time in it leaves the place per
| manently, calling upon many of the families be-
! fore leaving, and does not send card to others
! with whom she has slight acquaintance, would
IL be common sense for those neglected to recog-
nize this lady the street if they should meet
or would it show more self respect not to recog-
! me her2 wise and shrewd old lawyer once
| Sights, because is attaches too much Importance
! TO the neglect. y
Your wise and snrewd old lawyer was
/ right. 1t would be far better to bow and
/ take no notice of the omission, which
| possibly was accidental. If it was inten-
! tional, take all the triumph out of il by
! showing that it has not reached you. Let
! the lightning strike below you always.
|,
| lady and she bows to friend, whom 1 do not
/ know, should raise my hat?'
! Always. Always.
/ On my visiting card should have Mr.;
| George Smith or George Smith, and should
! the name be in scripts
/ Yes, in script, and Mr. George Smith
| is the most fashionable.
Amateur asks if lady should rise to greet
! gentleman.
! Yes, if she is hostess, and if she is
| young she should rise to greet one older
! than herself. She should always rise if
she can to greet a lady.
| If you are in d lady's salon before she
| Is, always rise when she enters it.
/ A first call should be returned within q
week
Etiquette" asks: eff a young lady calls
upon another. the parents OF both having met,
should she leave the cards of her parents? If
So should the young lady's parents return the
call?''
This is matter TO be left TO individual
discretion, although it is much better
taste TO leave one 5 mothers card.
IS. H. asks: Sin introducing ladies to each
other IN private parlor, do You give then their
husbands titles and in addressing them do you
give them their husband s titles? For instance.
IN addressing the wife OF a captain, 90 you say
Mrs. Captain, and speaking to her of him
would you say the captain? -
Yes, certainly you could say ''the
captain, - or Capt Scott; but you could
not call her " Mrs. Captain. No wife
takes her husband s title in America.
Florence asks: ''On which hand should
the engagement ring be worn?'
Always on the third finger of the left
hand, from which finger ga nerve runs
to the heart so says an ancient legend
Constant Reader asks: eff a lady limo
Gently offends gentleman, and, finding that he
is hurt, she sends letter of apology, should he
not answer it. and what is your opinion of him
if he does not answer it?''
We should say he was very rude and
worth letting alone, very decidedly.
''Jans' asks: MARY j. Smith is the wife Of
H. /. Smith. In addressing her is it proper to
write Mrs. H. L. Smith?' But if her husband
dies is it then the rule to write Mrs NJ j.
Smith, -
This is n moOted point It is legal to
write Mrs. M. j Smith, but it is
also customary to leave the widow her
husband name. AS the heroine of
modern novel remarks: "'Women have
no names They are called only by the
name of father or husband i'll whose
houses they happen to be living at the
time. -
'Estelle Peril asks: ''R gentleman CORE
spondent fails to answer, could with propriety
write and ask for an explanation
No Allow no tampering with your
dignity. There are some questions which
better not be asked.
Again she asks: ''When I am staying with
very dear friend and two gentlemen call, with
one of whom I am very well acquainted should
1 accompany my friend to the door when the
gentlemen leave?''
No. Ladies never accompany their
gentlemen guests TO the door.
''N. Warning asks in q most sensible letter:
My husbands young sister and myself are
business people, and received short time
ago invitation to the wedding of young
couple, whom we knew very slightly. also the
announcement of the BRIDES reception day. We
are too busy to find time for calling during the
day, and not sufficiently intimate TO do so in the
their courtesy. What can we do? Shall we send
cards; If so, in what way and what hour?''
Cards should be sent either by post or a
special messenger, in envelopes, on the
reception day, during the reception, or
left by some friend; perhaps the last
would be most cordial and most friendly
Faith Street. writes: f'TyiIl you please in
form me what to have for an informal lunch OF
five or six ladies and how TO serve the same? Is
II proper to offer tea, chocolate cofee2 Also,
should the dessert be put on the table or served |
lunch, but something dainty and inviting -
We should suggest beginning with
bouillon in cups, and then oysters on the
half shell, to be followed by chops and
peas, sweetbTeads or perhaps a filet de
b9uf, birds, salad ana bit of cheese. |
The dessert can be one form of some del |
icate ice, and can we'll be put on the |
table. Coffee is offered by some host |
esses, but rarely chocolate or tea.
OF course the bill of fare can be varied |
indefinitely. Chicken in various forms
croquettes, and ''supreme de volai le -
being the best.
sin Doubt asks: I'm making social calls is
it proper for . 'woman's physician to send up |
her business cards, should she have separate /
ere without her Office hours, and should her So |
cial card bear NJ. ID. or simply Mrs -
We should suppose the same etiquette /
should be observed by a female physician /
as that which marks one of the sterner |