The Daily times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1886-1889, 1889-03-25
WOMAN AND HOME.
now ONE LADY MANAGES WITH "A
HOuSeFuL or GIRLS.

Attraciisencss Of wit and Beauty--shocs Of
Famous Womcn-Thc Mysterious Caskct.
How 10 Care Tor Bird--Thc Game of
who Wears the gins2"
IL is true that family OF daughters Is not
viewed in tho same unpromising light rs for
meriy but It Is stu "a much Of problem
That shall undertake 10 disclose the happy
domestic arrangements Of a friend Of mine
who is the proud mother Of six girls and
boy Now. there arc good mothers aud moth.
ers good only Ia the sense Of domestic scrv.
ant J noel hardly say that my friend-who.
by the way, Is the wife Of a prosperous iron
manufacturer in an adjoining statc-bolongs
decidedly % the first class At an age that
would seem % many almost incredible this
iady's hltic tots are taught 10 put on their
own stockings and shoes and % make their
ordinary every day toilets The toilet hell is
rang fen minutes before tho serving OF each
meal, and the children, without hurry, con.
fusion or the slightest disorder. take their
places az the table, where, with their freshly
washed faces and gentle looks, they remind
ono Of a row Of white lilies
As the little mis- reaches the sth year, she Is
further instructed how 70 mend and take care
Of her own linen and hosiery She is also
encouraged 30 keep her room and bureau
drawers systematically tidy. so that every
article mny bc at hand when wanted. In this
way each child learns its life lesson OF order,
ncatness. economy and responsibility. and
the eldest daughter IS not oppressed with
scmi-m0therly cares for younger children, as
is so often the ptiful case in large families
where a ro,inuc OF servants is not kept, while
ycxatious searches for lost things, with re
poatci inquiries of. "Who has got my this or
nav that" Did Won $50 my 50 and soF-in-
quirics that keep many household in state
OF feyerish uuresi-bccOme out Of the ques
ton
Tho next step is stin moro interesting. II
IS taken when the little girl has arrived at
dc-rc, of proficiency in keeping her clothe,
IN good condition. and Is nothing more OF
Jess than an initiation into the mysteries of
ncr own personal expenses An allowance Is
pad % Der quarterly, aud FROM this sum she
iscxpccted % provide herself with clothing.
school supplies. car fare. church moncy-in
short everything which sho needs. or
course these little women consult mamma a
great deal about their purchases and shop
pin, bui % Is surprising what knowledge
OF business methods. ways and means, and
WAYS of making ends meet. they acquire by
TINS kind Of special training. The manner
for instance in which two of them, with
their mamma as the advisory member Of the
committee, Will appraise an outsrown gar
ment which is always obligatory upon the
next Younger 90 buy-would DO credit 10 an
experienced dealer ia costumes.
am aware that 10 many mothers with
conservative notions about children remain
ing children. this system of my friend may
seem overly systematic, and perhaps even
little harsh "Would not all this business
rob homo of It's chief charm and leave Us
only institutions AMI little clerks and mer
chants" somo one asks.
admit that the idea Of child receiving
everything 10 needs directly from its parents
with mo- forethought on its own part, and no
more notion Of commercial values than the
budding blossom hes of the value of asunray
is invested with much poetic charm Parents
with various degrees of consciousness, enjoy
the typical relation they sustain toward their
cuillreu-civur. over giving. out of re-
source That % the little one seems illlmitablo
But let us look at tine facts Of life without
prejudice. and thin., of the painfully familiar
home scenes iu which We have witnessed chill
drn teasing parents for the whcrewiihai TO
buy some article, ornament or plaything. j.
it les harsh. ask less painful to the child
% boz told $50, | cannot get you so and so,
than that DO should cast zap little account IN
ITS own brain % ascertain for itself whether
or NOT the desired object Is obiainablci
We say nothing of the effect Of this disci
nimo upon the future man or woman ANY
one az all ohservant OF tlo miserable. covet-
Gus cravings Of childish women for finer sur
rounducs than their means can command,
any ono who reads the daily newspapers, and
poud,fe tho stories contained IA them Of rob
bar.es end ombezzicmeuis committed by other
wise respectable men--0ifcn, no doubt com
mittel Tor tuo purpose If gratifying these
sarno childish women-will see IN my friends
system of mcnfaland moral discipline noble
and practical means Of correcting one OF the
great evils ct modern life.
Little clerks and merchants my friends
children are 90 an extent. But ] feel quail
dedto say that their knowledge of affairs
docs not interfere with their happiness or 10
any way mar their lovable qualities rs CHI
dren. Simple. bright, mirth loving dutiiul
and afectionato they all are from the oldest
IA lovely ,rl of I'D, who has Just graduated
from Vass4r college-to the youngest.
Iaus is my friend preparing her daughters
and little son for tho actual work of hic. and
preseryin1 ile while Lar own youth, fresh
ness aul sweet temper. having time for social
enjoyment. time 10 dress and 70 read, timo 70
entertain her husband SO his brief intervals
at home. time 10 look after and relieve cases
of poverty and suffering 10 her ncghbor-
hood. time. ia short 20 be a useful member
of society-Jane Ellis joy in Good House