Wichita eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1886-1890, 1889-08-29
SOME TYPES OF WOMEN.
THE QUIET AND SERIOUS ONE AND
The SWEET LITTLE ONE.

Plea for the Art OK Conversatton-Bu
the Ladies' Must Be Good Listeners as
Well as Internationally of Talent
That Is Born with Is.
Most women are neither angels nor fends,
but something about half way between,
though there are some who incline good
deal from the perpendicular TO one side or
the other. Wen, without this variety life
would be tame indeed They are mysteries
TO some people, and sometimes TO themselves;
surprises. too And as for their character
being formed ct any age, as people VIII tell
YOU, it is all mistake. Character is chang
ing every day; forming, perhaps, bat GER
tainly changing, as every thinking woman
will tell you. New experiences develop hid
den qualities that were hitherto unknown
and entirely unsupported. The quiet. serious
woman, when thoroughly aroused, viii as
touish every oneby her actions, as much as
the calrnness of an irritable person in time
of great danger
How can woman know how she viii Ss5as
or what she VIII do. IN certain circumStan Va
They may say that they would do this or
that, but there are ten chances 20 enc tnat
when the hour comes they viii do just there
verse. There is not much thar is new in the
way Of experiences, sensations, passions,
thoughts or feelings, except rs they are new
TO the individual
SOME ARE ORIGINAL
The arniable, sweet little women pass
through life without being perceptibly affect
ed by any internal tempests, but it may be
because they have great self control. There
ere hidden possibilities that may not always
be read in the face, nor guessed at until the
hour arrives that brings them forth. The
most angelic face ever saw belonged TO
girl of 10, and, to look a. her face, one would
not believe that she WIS nischievous ronlp.
Sweetness of disposition she had, and just one
month after l saw her she met her tragic
death by fire with wonderful heroiSln-
The women who always say and do just
what you feel sure they are going to say and
do, are not brilliant companions; novelties
and surprises startle and please l know
woman who snid OF certain young girl that
she enjoyed her because she never knew what
she was going TO say next The girl was
neither coarse nor vicious in her converse
ton; she was original. 1t is easy enough to
cultivate a certain kind Of fippant repartee
that passes for wit, but originality must be
born in one; it cannot be cultivated. Wo-
men who are not original know this, and
they freely steal the ORIGINAL ideas Of other
women in dress and household decoration, as
well rs those concerning other matters, and
pass them CT as their own.
This is 50 frequently done in society that O
woman often forgcts and exhibits to another
woman as her own the very idea that she mas
taken from this same woman. Such an IN
stance is of common occurrence, as l can tes-
tify from actual experience. However, IN
social life such things are of small conse-
quence. 1t is only in the everlasting war
for bread" that the stealing Of ideas counts,
and women who depend upon their ideas for a
living are learning not TO give them away. IL
may seem selfish 10 keep a money making
idea all to ones self, when 50 many women
need money, but ii is no more selfish than
copyright / know several women who make
comfortable incomes by the manufacture Of
some speciality, some dainty article of fancy
work, or some delicacy for the table, but
they tell no one what Il Is
Art or CONVERSATION.
And speaking OF originality, there is to he
an attempt made to revive the art OF CONVEX
sation, and the saying Of original things.
Some fashionable laGies-probably those
whose beauty Is beginning 70 fade, and who
realize that they must bring the powers of
their mind TO the rescue, or they wiz be left
out in the cold-are TO organize n society
among themselves for the promotion of the
noble art of conversation. After years OF
idle gossip hope they do not expect 70 ac-
guire brilliancy and wiS all at once; but their
attempt Is a laudable one To start a sub
ject, touch upon it on all sides, skillfuDy
drawing out the opinions Of the person 70
whom you are talking. and then drop it at
the proper moment and take up another, -
indeed an art, and one well worth cultivat-
ing. It is, also, one that n man appreciates
in 4 woman, especially at q dinner party.
To 20 from one subject to another before
either has been properly discussed, shows an
i'll regulated mind and IS not conversation.
But do not forget that with the art Of con-
vcrsaticn must also be cultivated the art OF
listening, for the one cannot be carried on
without the other The woman who Listens
well Is quite rs much sought by some az the
woman who converSes wei is sought by
others. To listen with absorbing interest il
the most fatteriug attention a woman can
pay a man, and "A judicious question or ex-
preston of sympathy or interest, az tire case
may require, adds an additional charm 70 the
listener in the eyes Of the speaker.
ia speaking OF talents once % a very young
man he told me that Ae did not caro- for the
''slnali talents" such 81 a taIeIN for music or
for painting; he cared only 70 posses the big
talents, among which he mentioned oratory.
he was descendant Of distinguished law
yer, and Yves Studying Law, but a. / have
never heard Of him as public speaker, and
as lie shortly after our conversation married
the daughter Of q wealthy man, conclude
that ne mas become Indifferent 70 the big
talents, as well as 10 the little ones. 4 genius
can afford 70 sheer at small things, but a. few
Of Us have genius we must cultivate the ~,al
talents and the small arfs-Ecw YORK tstar.