Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1889-01-12
LOVES CASTLE.
Making Home Happy and Preventing
Marriage from Being a Failure.

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Marriage from Being a Failure.
EDS. RECORD UNION: The question so
often asked and satisfactorily answered,
What shall we do with our boys?" and
even our girls, seldom gives place to the
query, What shall we do with our hus-
bands?"
In this generation, where on every side
we are asking, rs marriage failure" the
matter is worthy great thought. The
woman whose heart is breaking with the
knowledge that she is losing the husband
OF her youth, does not, many times. stop
aad ask who is too blame. The majority
OF wives do not know the temptations
that daily and hourly strew the pathway
of theif loved ones, and but for the halo of
purity and love that must be thoroughly
woven about them the dear feet must often
stumble if not fall. The wife who sends
her husband from her with tender words
Tor his safety and return-a kiss from the
lips ne has learned could frame 10 false
hood or reproach, is not often the fearful,
neglected one we read and hear of. A
woman to do this, need not be an angel
and though dear, old Samatha Allen
whose broad common sense ideas we all
admit scouts the idea of marriage being
woman's spear" say there is no woman
more admirable than she who wins and
holds good mans love and life.
The law, rs well as consciousness of
duty, compels man to provide his home
and family with all necessary comforts.
but unfortunately there is none save love
that sovereignty which knows no law, that
IN 1ra h &c st-tN th~at Il
out him, in the midst of splendor is mock
cry. Do not seek to compel him, but
make home so sweet that the contrast will
be in your favor. Teach him to know that
he can come heart-sick and weary of the
world and there find peace and rest. In
rare instances there are men incapable of
approaching or barboring a sweet, en-
nobllng influence, but, thank heaven,
they are rare. A soft hand can
often brush away the troubled thoughts,
but there are to-day. in a crowded world of
women Whose hearts are seemingly COW
cred and hidden by the decree of fashion
and custom), care worn, oveTworked men
starving for the sympathy they never re-
ceive at home. What wonder they turn a
wiling, listening ear to any source from
whence 1t comes?
You are good, perhaps even loving; but
be tender. That is the keynote of it ALL A
business man encounters in everyday life
enough OF that which is hard, imposing
enough of the grandeur and wisdom of the
world. What be needs, what he wants and
expects in a WIFE is tenderness.
People may say as they like concerning
praise 10 the face, etc., being open disgrace
and all that to their neighbors and friends,
but it helps so wonderfully in our hum
drum life. A man innately loves praise;
and how much sweeter when he knows it
to be sincere So l say compliment him:
tell him occasionally how nice, how supe-
rior be does look-that he certainly grows
better looking. rather than to note the
thinning hair, the lines that come with the
| lessons of life. 1t won't spoil him-as
some women tbipk-a particle Try it.
Don't make him feel continually that be-
cause he is married he is no longer a Joy
forever. Impress upon his doubtful mind
the importance he is in his home, instead
of thrusting him and his opinions aside,
presenting only the bills
Yes, good husband is something too
rare TO be careless of; yetif half our women
bestowed upon them the care they do their
jewels, there would be more happy homes
fewer believing that marriage is a failure.
And to those who have wealth. let me
say, your wealth is good, but keep your
husband; guard him and make him feel
that be is indeed king of the realm called
Home" ON. B.