Barbour County index. [volume] (Medicine Lodge, Kan.) 1880-current, 1889-06-12

tnar point ne would better cease intercourse
with them rather than carry it on at the ex-
pense Of that good understanding which is
the basis of all true friendship. A friend
ship accompanied by incessant irritation
VIII sooner or later come to an end. and the
sooner that end is reached the better. Mu-
tual confidence is the only sound and
nealthy basis for cooperation in any enter
prise. When we cease to have confidence
In eacn other, 1t Is time that the connection
should be broken. The other method of
keeping up relationship out of which the
heart is gone, and so producing a continual
friction, Is slow torture to which death is
far preferable.
Thoroughgoing sympathy makes friction
impossible, and is at the same time the
foundation rock on which all great success
Is oullded. No man can cooperate, heart
and soul, with another unless he has svm-
pathy with his aims and spirit. He can not
even understand what those aims and
spirit are without the power to put himself
IN the others place and see things from his
point Of view. Great enterprises ro
through to success when men come into full
sympathy with each other in their devotion
to great purpose. Such a sympathy is
silent but infallible interpreter between
men VINO may differ in many points, urge
diverse methods, even possesses antago-
n1st1c temperaments, and yet be perfectly
harmonious through their harmony in some
central purpose.
Every great work is, in a certain sense. a
compromise. No man is able to achieve a
great thing with his own unaided hand. At
some point or another he needs the helm of
others, and when he needs that help he
must concede something to it. 1t is only
under q despotism or under some form of
slavery that one man arbitrarily imposes
his will on another. In that case there ia
no friction because there is no individuality
no consciousness of manhood, none of the
barriers OF self-respect. Mutual conces
slons are the price which men must nav for
cooperation, and in the end they gain more
tnan they lose, for many a man who has
genius Tor ideas is helpless without the
practical skill which can give them shane
and form. In the shaping and forming the
idea is generally modified to advantage.
Men who work together and without fric-
ton must respect each other. There ia
nothing which creates so effective an esprft
de corps, which develops so thorough a
discipline, as the common respect of each
man Tor the place, responsibility and
authority of every other. If a mans per-
sonalIty and authority are not respected in
adepartment of business, it is time for
him to insist on the proper recognition of
both; or if his superior has not yet learned
the primary business principle of respect
ing the personality and the authority of
subordinate, it is time that he went back to
the kindergarten and made a thorough
study of the first principles of success.
1t mutual confidence, mutual sympathy.
mutual concession and mutual respect are
studiously cultivated, friction will disappear
and success be achieved Where men are
hand-in-glove in proper relations, and in the
proper spirit toward each other, friction is
impossible.