The Bottineau pioneer. (Bottineau, N.D.) 1885-1895, 1889-07-11
FRIENDSHIP
nrother Iaimase Agrees with the Proverb that
"A Nan Who Hath Friends Must Show
Himself Friendly" .

nro'ner Iaimsse Agrees with the Proverb tn,
A man Who Hath Friends Must Show j
Himself Friendly
BROOKLYN, N. Y; June 3O.-At the tai
ernacle this morning, after the pastor. tn
heV. l. De Witt Talmage, D. D., had made o.
exposition Of passage of scripture the cor
gregatlon, led by cornet and organ, sang tn
hymn beginning:
Now l have found q friend,
Jesus ia mine.
DIR. Tain ages subject was: GLOW. r
MAKE Friends" and his text, Proverbs xviii
2 "A man that has friends must show him
self friendly" He said:
ABOUT the sacred and divine art of maxim,
ana keeping friends Ispeak-a subject OF
which never heard of any one preaching
and yet God thought it ofimportance to pu
IL IN the middle of the Bible, these writing,
OF solomon bounded on one side by the pop
ular Psalms of David, and on the other b,
tne writings of Isaiah, the greatest OF tn,
prophets. 1t seems all a matter OF hapbaz
ara now many friends we have, or whethe,
we nave any friends at all, but there is moth
ing accidental about it. There is a Law
when governs the accretion and dispersion
OF friendships. They did not Just happen
SO any more than the tides just happened
70 rise or fall, or the sun. 1t is 6
science, an art, God given
regulation. Tell me how friendly you
are to Others and I will tell you how friendly
Others are to you. I do not say you will not
nave enemies; indeed the best way to get ar.
dent friends is to have ardent enemies, if you
got their enmity in doing the right thing.
uood men and women will always have enc.
mics, because their goodness is a perpetual
rebuke to evil; but this a~ntagonism of foes
Will make more intense the love Of your ad-
herents. Your friends will gather closer
around you bec;tuse of the attacks OF your
assailants. The more your enemies abuse
you the better your coadjutors will think of
you. The best friends we ever had appeared
at some j%uncture when we were especially
bombarded. There have been times in my
life when unjust assault multiplied my friends,
as near as l could calculate, about fifty a
minute. You are bound to some people by
many cords that neither time nor eternity
can break, and I will warrant that those
cords are twisted by hands malevolent. HUI.
mai nature was shipwrecked about ffty-nine
centuries ago, the captain Of that craft, one,
Adam, and his first mate, running the cargo
aground on a snag in the river Hiddekel; but
there was at least one good trait of human
nature that ~waded safely ashore from the
shipwreck, and that is the dis
position to take. the part of
those unfairly dealt with. When it is
being prosecuted, although at the start
slanderous tongues were busy enough, de-
tenders finally gather around as thick as
honey bees On q trellis Of bruised honey
suckle. II, when set upon by the uries, you can
have grace enough to keep your mouth shut
and preserve your %equipoise and let others
fight your battles you will find yourself after
awhile with q whole Gordon Of allies. Had
not the world given to Christ on his arrival
at Palestine q very cold shoulder there would
not have been one-half as many angels chant
ing glory out of the hymn-books OF the sky
bound in black lids OF midnight. Had it not
been for the heavy and jagged and tortuous
cross Christ would not nave been the nd
mired and loved of more people than any
being who ever touched foot on either the
eastern or western hemisphere. Instead,
therefore, of giving up in despair because you
have enemies rejoice in the fact that they
rally for you the most helpful and enthusiasts
tic admirers. In other words, there ia no
virulence, human or diabolic, that can hinder
my text from coming true: "Aman that
hath friends must show himself friendly"
1t is my ambition to projett especially up
on the young q thought which may benignly
shape their destiny for the here and the
hereafter. Before you show yourself friendly
you must be friendly. I do not recommend
a dramatized1 geniality. There is such q
thing as pretending to be en- rapport with
others when we are their dire destructants
and talk against them and wish them calam-
ity. Judas coveredSups his treachery by a
kiss, and caresses may be demon
three-headed dog of he'll, barking at us, than
the wolf in sleeps. clothing, It's brindled hide
covered up oy deceptive wool n it's death
ful howl cadenced into an innocent bleating.
Disraell writes of Lord Manfred, who, after
committing many outrages upon the people,
seemed suddenly to become friendly and
invited them to a banquet. After most of
the courses of food had been served he blew
a horn, which was in those times o signal
for the servants to bring on the desert, but.
in this case it was the signal for assassins to
enter and slay the guests. His pretended
fricndliness was O cruel fraud; and there are
now people whose smile is a falsehood. Be-
fore you begin to show yourself friendly you
must be friendly. Get your heart right with
God and man and this grace will become
easy. You may by your W resolution get
your nature into a semblance of this virtue,
but the grace of God can sublimely lift you
intoi it. Sailing on the river Thamestwo vessels
ran aground. The owners OF one got 100
horses and pulled on the grounded ship and
pulled it to pieces. The owners of the other
grounded vessel waited till the tides came in
and easily aoated the ship out of all trouble.
So, we may pull and haul at our grounded
human nature. and try to get it into better
condition; but there is nothing like the ocean
ic tides Of Gods uplifting grace to hoist US
into this kindliness l am eulogizing. If when
under the fash of the holy ghost we see our
own foibles and defects. Inc depravities We
will be very lenient and very easy with 9th
ers. We will look into their characters for
things c~ommendatory and not damnatory.
IF YOU would rub your own eye q little more
vigorously you would find a mote in it, the
extraction OF which would keep you so busy
Won would not have much time to shoulder
yoursbroadax and go forth to split up the
bean in your neighbours eye. In q Christian
spiritkeep on exploring the characters of
those you meet and | am sure Syon will IND
something in them delightful and fit for a
foundation Of friendliness. You invite me to
come to your country seat and spend a few
DAYS. Thank you" / arrive about noon of
q beautiful summer day. What do
YOU do? As soon as / arrive yon take me
ont unocr the shadow Of the great elms.
You take mo down to the artificial lake, the
spottedtrout floating in and out among the
white pillars of the pond lilies. You take me
10 the stalls and kennels where you keep
your fine stock, and here are the Durham cat
fle and the Gordon settlers and the high
stepping steeds by paving and neighing, the
only language they can speak, asking for
harness or saddle, and a short turn down
the road. Then we go back to the houseand
YOU get me the Kensetts and the Bierstadts
on the wall and take me into the music