Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1889-01-13

ment, but there may be reasons why she
cannot be asked.
''Goood Feeling asks: .'Is it cor
rect or incorrect TO leave the card of the
sender of wedding gifts at the house, or
should il be attached to the gift?
Always attached to the gift.
'sMary Templeton' asks, ssShau I
acknowledge the receipt of a gentleman :
card, received at New Year 5, by sending
mine back?
No. A lady does not send her card to
a gentleman. She accepts the attention
silently.
Fitzpatrick asks: eff a lady wishes
to make present to person rather be-
low her. in station should she send her
card, with her initials, or should she put
her full name?''
She should put her fuIl name, as the
card with her initials would look rather
dubious 1t would not be respectful TO
the person honored with the gift, and
might be misinterpreted ON her side,
while honesty, eandor and good feeling
are seldom misinterpreted.
&C. In. - asks: what is a good
name for the gentleman TO whom one is
engaged? Shall l say my intended?'
That sounds stiff. Shall say the gem
tleman 1 am engaged to?' That is very
long. What is the best form2 and is
there not better phrase than keeping
company or counting?
Our language is very poor in theSN
equivalents In France a gentlemah
who aspires to lady's hand is called "a
Defendant, - but we have no exact name
for the beau. - As for counting it is a
good, old fashioned, pretty word, much
better than ''keep;ng company
Winifred Johnson asks: s'Is it
proper to marry within the year of
mourning? If so, what does the bride
wear? Should she give a reception? IL
so, do the guests come in black? Does
her mother wear blaek?''
1t Is the custom TO wait year, but il
there are reasons why a wedding should
take place before, the bride wears a
white dress to be married in and can re-
sumo her mourning after. At the we'd
ding receptions in England the bride 5
mother would wear red and resume her
mourning the next day. No one should,
however, go to "A wedding in a heavy
crepe veil; the thing is incOngruous.
Mourning can be laid aside for the day
and reception be given if the bride
choose, but wedding given by family
whose loss is recent does not generally
include reception.
''K. - asks. 'sIs coffee served dur
ing dinner with cream and sugar? -
Never. Black coffee is served at din
ner.
"Amy'' asks: ''How soon must 1
answer letters of coincidence? l have
about 100, and do not feel like answer
ing them -
The afflicted should never be expected
to answer letters They should be al
lowed to wait until they feel like writing
They should receive all the words of
earnest sympathy which kind hearts
could poor out, but nothing should be
demanded of them.
tsDebutante writes: s'Are big bou-
quets in fashion, and how do you carry
such?''
Monstrous and inconvenient bouquets
are in fashion. They are the sealps
which the modern belle or brave wears at
her belt, to tell of her eonquests too
often They also tell of a ruined and
fallen foe Several young ladies nave
adopted the plan of attaching their boa
on the arm.
ssMargaret Sidney asks: care bro
cade silk napkins, edged with lace,
proper, and where can one buy them?'7
We should prefer linen, which can be
washed The use of linen for dinner
tables is one of the oldest of fashions, and
one of the most universal. The early
Italian tables were served with
such beautiful drawn work napkins
that we cannot reach them to-
day. Queen Elizabeth's napkins
were OF linen, edged with lace, made in
Flanders, and were an important item of
expense i'll her day book. Fringed, en-
broidered and cOlored napkins made OF
silk are used by Chinese and Japanese
magnates. These articles are, however,
washable or are eleansed by detergents
not known to us.
But brocade cannot be washed, so we
should think 4 brocade napkin would be
very Inappropriate.
"a Mamie'' writes: 81 have just moved
into very grand house with two foot
men, and [ do not know what to tell them
to do. -
When the foOtmen are-in attendance
the head footman anwers the bell, waits
on his mistress when she drives out, ear
ries notes, assists the butler, lays
the table and cleans it and
washes china, glass and silver.
The under fOotman makes the fires,
cleans boots, trims and cleans lamps,
opens the shutters and the front door,
sweeps down the steps and does the rough
er part of the work before the family are
up. Both should be without mustache,
clean shaven and clad in neat livery The
linen should always be immaculate when
the foOtman appears to wait on the fam
lily.
The same lady asks: tfWhen should
the servants leave the room at dinner?
The servants retire after handing the
dessert, and few minutes free CONVEX
sation is allowed The lady of the house
gives the signal for rising. The gentle
men no longer remain in the dining room,
but join the ladies for coffee immediately