Wichita eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1886-1890, 1889-11-14
W0MAN'S WORLD.
Matters of Interest to the
Daughters of Eve.
THE HAND THAT GUIDES
Training the Coming Leaders of
Thought and Action.
TO DEAL WITH THE REFRACTORY

A New York Woman on the Boston Shop
Girl-About Dinners and Dining-Board-
ing Schools in I.O3-Eemedies for Sleep
1essness-A Chaperone Bureau in New
York a London Girl on "Wasted
Kisses'-Edect of a Well Told Tale.
Little Helps for the Rousekeeper and
Nurse-Good Fireside Reading.
Not long ago / overheard a conversation
between two boys Of perhaps 10 years of age,
which struck me very forcibiy One said to
the other, Are you going fishing todayy'
no" replied the second boy, mother won't
let me-" Fudge" said the first boy, con-
temptuously, tease her and tease her, and if
she won't let you go, lie down Oh the floor
and kick. That's the way do. Then she
will let you 60"
Ny first thought was one of Indignation
against the little rascal; my second, no, the
child is not to blame. If he knows he can
get what he wants by teasing, why should he
not teasea Or, if kicking upon the floor will
change his mothers no into yes, he would
be a very foolish boy if he did not kick If
he did not know he could get what he wants
by teasing and kicking he would not do it,
The mother has only herself to blame for her
boys naughtiness. l believe that right here
lies three-fourths of the trouble, anxiety and
wear upon the nerves in the bringing up of
children. Let your no mean no always and
it will be accepted as final, but if sometimes
it may possibly mean yes, you may rest as
sured that you vii! not be the one to get the
benefit of the doubt. But think before you
say mo-
Remember that what seems to You a foolish
tri1e may mean a great deal to your little
one, and to be deprived of the pleasure VIII
cause bitter disappointment When she
comes to You trimming over with some an
ticipated scheme that promises such lots of
fun, enter into the plans with interest, and
be CHAD with her. If it seems to YOU not a
feasible thing. do not say SO, but ten her YOU
must think it over Then think it over care
fully, and the difficulties may disappear. If
not, and you find it sroud be unwise to grant
her req''"st, tell her SO lovingly, giving her
the rea:o..S why it would not be best, and tell
her how sorry you are that you must denv
her. If you have taught her by your daily
actions that her mother is her truest friend
If she knows that you love her so well that
you will grant Der every happiness that is in
your power, II 1t is hest that she should have
it, she will accept the DECISION, because
mamma knows" and, though the lips may
culver and the eyes fll, there will be no
scene" no outbreak of temper such as all
mothers dread.
child brought up close to the mothers
heart, with perfect confidence in the strong
mother love, will give her unquestioned ODE
dience when that obedience is necessary, be-
cause 1t will not enter her mind to doubt the
love in the demand. Share your children's
Joys as well their sorrows, O mother Be
a child with them when you can, and the
battle is half Won
In dealing with children little strategy
may sometimes be used with marvelously
good result, and before the self-willed little
puss realizes what she is doing the point at
issue has been SO skillfully turned that she
has done exactly what you wished her to do
and forgotten to rebel over it.-A D. Fogg
in Good Housekeeping.