Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1889-11-05
Tar AIR or LEAVING.

When Madame ds ~tael visited Wei
mar with ~. aNowci Intention 20 In
trllcctually capturing the literary Hons
- thr day-Gcothc ani Schillcr-shr
made one fatal mistake. she staid too
long. .ald the Chicago Tribune. Goethe
wrote tu schiller Madame dr Niael la
bright. entertaining pcrs0u. beat .he
ought o. know Nhru u l. time tu 20.
Besile. not knowing whcu a. go, it l.
evident from incidents recorded of her
tourney that he did not know how a.
%. She fingered after she had started.
n L. related ~ her that no one plac" tirr
.hr had ordered her carriagr and an-
nouncvd her Intention ~ departing In
The morning he started u ccntrrsaiion
which .hc vigorously kept up until u
va. .o near nuou that her ho.t anil hosi-
90. could bat prr.. her to stsy for luncl-
run. This over the conversation Was
again resumed. nor allowed o. DAG un-
til II Was 80 near evening that the strain
~l rourtssy ~ her entertainers could bat
.uger.t that the hor.cs D. taken FROM
the carrlagv, which had waitrl AZ the
gate al daV. aud that he stay another
night. which she dii.
II h. Di.racu Who. ln "lotlnlr,' puis
In the mouth ~ Thciora the sentiment
that no one should ever say g"od-hy'
beat Ia departing should fade away Ike a
summer cloud. II l. probable that The
great statesman ani novelist wrote this
after parting inicr,ieN With some one
" be- had bor,,l him With tedious iarr-
wells-Who Understood not the art 81
leaving for Ia the nhrowc.i and
chnlcrst circle 10 friends aud acguaint-
an,,r. there arr usually some persons the
pleasure of whose Ni.lts or calls, Whrth-
rr ~ business. or 10 pleasure, l. marrr,l
by the fact that they do not .rem to
know how 90 20. For when a friend or
caller depart. we arr either glad, sorry
or Indifferent. N wr are glad ~ dcsirc
a. l,c brief. N We are -orry the quicker
the painful scene 9. ended the better, II
We ar indifferent We guidgc The dram
ON our time. II Wc arr hu.y, a.. the mosi
of "a. are, With ihc pressing affair. 81
life.
The ART of leaving 8. lr.. understood
by women than los men. The habits 81
business. the r,coguife,i fact that a busi-
nc.. mans time i. money, the ihrong
ani pr,... aud eNactingnes. 81 busincs.
lie, all tend to make men Who I've IN
the citie. the b-.t possible rNcmplar- 81
the due art of leaving quickly and neat
Ia. \ business mans social call y usu-
ally n0del of guod manners In this
respect. when be- has saii what BE- has
"a .ay and listened io What there !. io
hear. he take- hi hat. say- "GO0i even
ing." d" and l. oui ~ your prcssncr With
out giving any time or chance Tor the
too often tedious aud embarrassing COM
mouplaccs of mutual Invitations and
proml.es 90 call again which seem io De-
a klud ~ social formula With women.
In striking contrast with this neat AMI
.killful method ~ cutting short the part
ing worls ~ an Interview or call l. the
too common -ocitl practice ~ visitors
who. commencing to leave, seem tenn
porarily to abandon their purpose aud
then linger as though II were a Kind ~
compliment to the visited party to ap-
pear loath to part company. Who does
not dread the Nslior Who starts, then
think. of something else to say; risc.,
aud then thinks ~ another subject ~
conversation: nearly reaches the door,
aud then has another revelation; reach
=. the door, and, most probably holding
II open, l. aroused to degree ~ mental
brllliancv that threatens his health and
that ~ al. host or hostess by long de
tainlng of both Ia a cold draught while
he di.coursesf What tax On the pa
tiencc aud polliene.s of the listener, Who
yainly strives, by asserting instantly to
every proposition. a. end the Interview
and break the restraining bond Of polite
attention.
The equally annoying counterpart of
the tedious caller Who doe. not under
stand the art IT leaving, j. found Ia the
person Who seems anxious to detain the
caller attempting Ia leave, aud who
makes protests or Introduces new sub
Icct. ~ conversation az the critical mo-
ment. The art of leaving on the part ~
the visitor needs Ia be- supplemented 10y
the art of letting 90 ON the part Of the
host. "WclcOme the coming, speel the
parting guest" I. classic maxim of
good society. These autumn day. are
suggestive Of the propricty Of observing
and practicing both of these aris, hut cs-
pecially the fine art of leaving.