The Wahpeton times., 1889-08-08


and honored children, And there are
women who in pain and weakness are
confined to their own rooms, yet who
manage to hold the power in an order
ly house and fill it full of love-light
and happiness sufficient for the COM
fort Of all who cross its threshold.
1t is the quality Of recognizing and
filling need that is the essential quality
of success in marriage. Practically, if
a man comes home from business with
a headache, hungry for a bit of sympa-
thy and love, and good deal of quiet,
and finds his wife in raging excite
ment over an elaborate dinner, and is
ordered to keep out of the way and
amuse the children till the great pro-
ceeding is eliminated, he is about as
unfortunate as the man who brings q
college friend home to dinner and finds
his wife in wrapper and slippers deep
In a French novel. But the woman
who spies the coming friend from the
window slides out of her wrapper in a
twinkle and appears upon the scene In
due time with a soul cheering cup of
French coffee, is the woman who
makes her husband envied among men.
Unfortunately women have hobbies,
and ride and ride and never perceive
that they are boring their companions
to death. There are men who would
20 to war to be rid Of paper flowers,
hair flowers, rugs, Tides and what not;
and there are men who think art and
music ARE inventions Of the evil one to
make people miserable. Any one,
anywhere, who cultivates hobby at
the expense Of other peoples comfort
Is making a failure Of life; but true
politeness Of the heart between friend
and friend. man and wife, will obviate
the danger of overdone amusements.
1t is easier to forgive virtuous excess
OF zeal. and it is mostly excess of zeal
Tor excellence of some kind that causes
some women to be more exclusive
housewives than wives of men. The
greatest charity should be extended to
woman who makes her house SO per
feet in detail and polished in appear
ance that her friends 60 into it with
fear and trembling, for she is afflicted
with virtuous zeal. and has only over
drawn very good thing. Housekeep-
ing has its fanatics and martyrs as we'll
as any other good cause.
But housekeeping conducted as q
means of happiness and comfort, either
In a cabin or palace, is science that
no wife can neglect If she wishes to
sustain the law of mutual helpfulness
In marriage.
A wife expects her husband upon
marriage to begin course of toilinp
for her support without remission or
any suspension of responsibility, and
why should he not expect her to aspire
to the greatest excellence in home
making? just here is where tho
wedge of dissolution frequently enters.
A woman fails to give rs much as she
receives-that is, sheworks from com.
pulsion more than from desire to
keep up her side of tho partnership
with dignity and grace.
But one says: II work all the time;
I work like a slave" Yes, my dear.
you do work like slave-just like q
slave, and net like responsible being
seeking On end and not the means.
You have braided little Eva's dress up
and down ana all over, which does not
help little Eva. and your husband
would have appreciated you more had
you spent your evenings with folded
hands and happy face in your rocking
chair by his side. You spent hours Of
time on unnecessary things and forgot
the essentials of your partnership,
which is to evolve as much peace and
comfort rs possible out Of your mater
ials.' .@s,'l :
The science Of good housekeeping
In these days, when wc can buy so
many conveniences. is not SO much
superiority in any one thing as q gen.
eral excellence in every thing. We
do not need cooking-schools for girls
SO, much as schools where all branches
OF homc-making are taught. in order
to preserve the balance of usefulness
In the girls mind. A mum does not
want to marry a chef dc cuisine, and
1t is no wonder the papers mako fun of
cooking-schools. To learn one de-
partment Of housekeeping to the neg
lect OF everything else is ruinous.
If d woman is to marry, there is
nothing SO much to be valued rs good
health and good sense and a very low.
ing heart, and then it will follow that
she will adapt herself to the calls upon
her ability. When woman marries
for q life of case and doesn't get it,
there is certainly no remedy in her
case SO long as she forgets that life is
Q struggle anywhere, and feels that
!, she should be excused from helping to
! carry the burdens of those by whom
she may be surrounded.
The mutual bearance and forbear-
anee of life is as greatly the secret of
happiness In marriage as in anything
else. We have to. tolerate unpleasant
things in our companions in any rela.
lions Of life. and why try to build up a
sylAw Of marriage in any other way?
Rather Bright. Wasn't It?
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