The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1889-01-10

7 ing society WITHOUT din u CnS DtSuuutH6
Of their separation, of their leading dis
tinct lives, of their steady divergence,
: Her; belief may not be correct, but 1T Is
sincere. Hence is she not warranted in
maintaining her position to the last2
81 At any rate, ahe maintains it, though
not without great cost, greater often than
she realizes. Her husband resentsmore
and more bis. dragooning into society.
He never puts on bis dress suit, or orders
the carriage for that purpose, without a
feeling of inward bitterness Of his wife's
exactngness, Of his submission to q
;wrong;s and the feeling finally produces
3 shabituals .dissatis ction and cyniciNm.
His wife is unconsci iously bringing about
what she Is trying to avoid settled dis.
content with her and the esconjugN con-
dition. It were: betteEahe should let him
obey his propensity than thwart it thus;'
for alienation would be slower with free
dom than with fetters.
What a. deal Of mischief: lis society, frt-
volous, hollow, Insignificant society, cap,
able OF doingi The dragooned husband
feels that he Is social l.impostor;; that he
abuses hospitality By partaking Of It in
sperverse spirit. He is In; no mood TO en-:
tertain or be enter tanned. He is bored to
death, and his countenance shows 1t. He
.yawns behind hand or hand dkerchief, and
for the moment fairly despises bis wife,
noticing across the room her animated
manner and obvious graft tifcation.. n..-His
look and air and gait are funereal: Il
he were, burying friend he would, he
sfancies, feel more cheerful. Stealing
Into corner, ever and; anon, to glance
ifurtiVely at his watch he thinks that It
must have stopped. Has there ever be-
fore been so long an EVENING" His wife
indicates that she Is about to leave; but
he knows what that means, and resigns
himself to another, lead footed hour.
Everything must have an end; finally
she departs, and his face for the mo-
:ment Is flushed with pleasure, imme-- q q :
diately dispelled by the remembrance
that there are to be Ave evenings more
of similar boredom, within the. coming
week. Hedreams ofwhat he has under
gone and must undergo In the torture
chambers of society; bis sleep Is broken
and feverish; he rises In the morning
5despondent and irritable. His wife may
dimly suspect the cause; but she lacks
the intelligence, perhaps the magma
3nimity, to relieve him Of his onerous obn-
cation. In the end he will be very likely
to throw 1t of, and 1t will be accom-
panied by no little Of his old affection
and sympathy.
E The women arc few who would make
good their declaration Of surrender
Ing society If their husbands should
fatty refuse to escort them. They think
they would, and for awhile they might
abstain; but the enticement Is too great
to be long resisted First, ihey will so
out alone occasionally; then frequently;
at last regularly. Women who have
3dagooned their ieges for several seasons,
and then acquitted them, may run; the
risk Of losing the early place occupied In
their hearts lls not such loss mutual and
unavoidable, with most couples, In any
ircumstancesD; but they get on far more
comfortably. Is5s.x5
Men love freedom above everything;
and when they have it they are more
amiable and patient than when it Is in
any way curtailed. Husbands who have
been exceedingly disagreeable at. homeSS
SO long as they have felt constrained to
discharge social duties In their own per-
sons, have behaved quite decently after
turning over those duties entirely to their
partners. The average woman gets rid
Of her romance and sentiment by five or
six years OF connubial experience the
first year will answer for the average
man), and prefers domestic peace and
liberation to the cherishment Of the lof-
tiest ideals.-J -Junius Henri Browne in
Chicago America.