The Dickinson press. (Dickinson, Stark County, D.T. [i.e. N.D.]) 1883-1927, 1889-07-06
FROM THE OTHER SIDE.
A LECTURE FOR HUSBANDS ON
HOME DUTIES, BY A WOMAN.

C"nrtesics That Mean Something When
They Are Reciprocal-The Head of the
Household Is Often Too Exclusive in His
Contluct-Why Not Ec Sociable. at Home?
One Nn seldom pick up paper of miscel-
laneous reading without coming across ad-
zee to wives to spend the major part of their
existence i'll striving to retain their husbands
love and admiration. Unquestionably this is
right, and no good wife with good husband
but will find it her supreme delight as well
rs duty, to daily strengthen the sweet cords
that bind them together But there are other
sides to the question-shadowy, gloomy sides
and it is toward those wives who arc con-
signed to dwell perennially in the gray, SOM
Der lives their lords and masters make for
them that am in,pelled to say my say
Meet him at the door with n smile and
liiss"-that is all old. beautiful and sensible
piece of advice that every wife in this coun-
try ought to bc encouraged and able to carry
cut from the very depths of her heart; but,
alas! that only the husbands who are in the
minority deserve
WHISPERING IN THE HUSBANDS EARS
Suppose-and | call upon hundreds, aye,
thousands, of wives i'll our midst to witness if
| do not draw picture they recognize all too
rea'lly-the wife has been up and down all
night with the croupy baby, while its father
lay comfortably asleep. Well, take this wife,
who, after the nights anxiety, loss of rest and
fatigue, has to get up and prepare breakfast,
attend to all her usual duties with a splitting
headache, caused by slccpneSSness and consc-
qucnt irritability of the stomach, thnt utterly
loathcs the idea of even toast and coffee
while her handsome, well dressed, well
fed husband goes Off for the day with II
"Wcl, I'm off; take care Of yourself.' Think
yon she will feel much like meeting him with
bright, cheerful, sunny smile and kiss
when he comes in, perhaps n half hour later
than usual, with his greeting: Haven't YOU
had dinner yet! What did You wait for mo
for: You know tetest having you wait"
| wish | could get tho ear of the general
masculine public for just II littlo while and
whisper into it that perhaps it would bcqulte
as well if the husbands took little moro
pains tn retain their wives respect aud atfec-
tion. According TO the inevitable law of
nature II woman cannot be happy unless
somebody loves her, cnthrones her, crowns
her and lets her know in uunlistakabc Ian
gua&5c that such is the case. have heard
men say: 'Of course love my wife. What
do you take me fora brute! Well, no; not
cN'ttilN SUCH IL uetcSlitDlc tlllnr, OF lilaI ttr.
cate, ladyliko little wife of yours never would
have married you. But there is /; rcsem-
blance between you and that q,la(lrupe,l in
the TACT that brutes never speak their fccl-
ings. OF what Use to me is n gold mno in
Australia or n diamond field i'll Brazil if the
riches oI them are not qunrric,t! Where is
the sense or reason of your loving Your wife
if you never speak it, or look it, or act it! In
fact, you don't love her if You do none of
these things; for if there is II trucr aphorism
than that murder will out" it is that love
cannot lao concealed.
ann well aware of the argument in favor
of the sterner Sex-that they are all day OK
posed to the friction of business, and, when
night comes, they ought to bo received into a
quiet, peaceful, happy homc where they
may don slippers and smoking jacket, and
read or doze on the library lounge until bed
time. Very good But your wife is all day
Subjected to something far worse than tho
contact with business annoyances, and that
/, the monotonous, endless routine of dulne,.
tic drudgery, which, home keeper, home
lover that she is wears and tears on the SCH
sltivc nerves in a way fcw men appreciate.
When evening comes, the babies arc asleep,
size wantsa little exhlarating change, some
thing rather more elTervcsccnt than the
pleasure of feeling alone in the same rooms
siie has occupied all day watching tho hand
some features of her rcc,lmbcnt lord, or inn
meiscd in the columns Of a newspaper
ON THE COSTLY MONUMENT
Now, which shall it be! Tho husbands
comfort or tho wfe's! gan tell you tho re-
suit II will bo tho survival of the fittcst,
and, as he is the stronger physically and gets
plenty of air and exercise, tho chances are
nine hundred and ninety-nine out Il thousand
that before his eldest child is in its teens
there will be Il costly monument i'll somo 81
lent Resting place" Sacred to the memory
| of my beloved wife" While, if Gods own
truth were carved on that pure, white cross
in letters Of blazing gold, they would read:
~ woinan's life wasted; n heart disappoint-
cl unto ,leath hopes destroyetl-by little
tLin!,s.''
Yes, little things! know II husband,
hriht, intellectual man, who is killing his
wife by his PHILOSOPHY, he calls it, that he
never fails to air upon every occasion when
his wife is i'll distress OF disappointment or
trouble. No matter how kccny she feels an5
pain. physical or emotional lie invariably
f!c,zea her with his formula: "Well, what
are you going to do about ty' Never low
inS word OF sympathy, II kiss or Il carcss-and
yet he'd be iilsuted if you told him he didn't
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tone Of voice and look that she will carry
witn her into eternity.
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often Is, and is depressed physically, for he
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