Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-12-29
Pertinent Facts for Young Women VINO
Are in Love to Remember.
LONG ENGAGEMENTS TO BE AVOIDED
rKnrrrnN ZOE rHn DIsPAToH.l J

his society, in reading these mooess susse'-
tions.
To such one would say: Let frankness
aud reserve be your two watchwords.
Courtship is the gay novitiate to sober
marriage, but it must be always remembered
that it is a testing of each others natures,
trial of characters, VIII ich sometimes at the
last moment do not stand the test, are
proven to be unblendable, and the mar
riage never takes place. Reserve In de-
meanor is, therefore, always to be borne IN
mind. a..
There is so much of what is called i'm
nocent Irritation" between young people IN
this country, that an unsophlstlcateo glrl
thrown in the society of young man given
to having attentions without intentions to
the most attractive young girl on the social
horizon. may sometimes be deceived Dy such
A light swain, and mistake for serious court
ship what is only meant for pleasant pass
ing of the time. think this is not often
the case. for a woman's instinct almost In
fallibly tells her with what end man per-
sistentiv seeks her society; still, it does
sometimes happen that very young glri
fancies she is being courted, when, in point
of fact, she is only being trihed with.
MAIDENLY RESERVE.
Ttisa we'll for girl to bear this in mind,
| and not to wear her heart in her sleeve.
| Pnrsuit is a large part of the pleasure OF
the chase. and the thing that has cost US
| the greatest effort to secure Is valued ac-
cordingly.
| live Is beinp sought, no matter how much
Won NAV care for q man, do not let him
| know ii. If he really wants your love ne
will not fear to risk refusal. The man
who keeps his attentions to you secret,
who is not willing that the whole Worio
should know he is your suitor, does not oe-
serve to win you. Ii his vanity Is stronger
than his love let him pass by; he is no true
lover Orlando wanted all the dwellers in
tbe forest of Arden to know the secret of his
love for Rosalind, so he hung verses on the
trees of the wood praising her virtues and
beantv: every woman prefers an honest VI
lando who. whether his love is crowned with
bonn;ness or not. is willing all the world
sbpnId know that he loves her and ha!
chosen her for his own.
The hooks of etiquette give rules OF be
havior for lovers which may be OF use
some people; but the best rule Is IN your OWL
finer instinct.
So much for reserve.
Now tor frankness. -,
:.
]. aalse of your future happiness be frank witt
vour guitor and with your betrothed. If yol
are on the point Of marrying from any Othe
motive-ambition, pique, fear of being a
! old maid. or anxiety TO provide yourself witt
home. YOU need read no farther, for hav
: no advice to give you. except PHnch's ad
vice to those about to get married. Don't
, This lecture is only for true lovers, to n
e others doth it apply.
: Perfect love casteth out fear. If you hav
! hot temper, jealous nature, tendenc.
? to dispute, do not conceal it from your lovei
r for he will be better able to forgive nol
than later OF course you are an angel i
!, his eyes, but all the same, If he be the goo
d fellow he ought to be, he knows very we
q that eiri-angels have plenty of FAULTS
n they did not, would they be fit mates 10
= HIM and his kind forsooth?
SHE BIT THE BAN1sTER.
It Do not play the part of the girl with tt
n abominable temper, whose lover tested he
If patience by bringing her each day tangle
% skein to wind. The task was always accon
i plished with the greatest sweetness. Aft
II thew were married our Petruchio found
% had welded shrew.
"How was it possible that you could hay
had SO much patience with those tangle
.skeins?" he asked his wife.
For answer she led him out into the hal
In and said: iDon't you remember that
used to go out Of the room from time
,e time2"
= ''Yes.''
" well, came out and bit the banisters
Now, girls, do not bite the banisterS; tai
re nv word for it, it's very bad plan.
k frank and natural, and let him see you
ne Won are. faults and all. Not that you are
as sit down under the burden of your shol
comings, and say, II am cross, or jealou
:, or law. or disorderly, and you have got
20 make the best of it." Never, if we live
IL be a hundred years old, can we afford
~ take that point of view.
pl We speak of the battle of life-the bat
o. is mainly with our own shortcomings.
81 cannot give you the advice OF Hamlet. "A
d. sume a virtue if you have it not;D but
70 in all ways to cultivate the virtues, and
to trim down the faults in the garden OF 70
al life.
re 1 know no quality which is more !
portant in establishing normal and hap
of relation between man and woman tn
yh that of frankness. With its help you
of be stronger to conquer those troubleso
se weeds of vanity, selfshness or indirectii
ii lIf the courtship is successful, and the ii
In Of probation is to be long, which IS In its
i'll a thing TO be avoided, 1 should advise {
"a Young girl (the one whose lover is away
he a Journey, and who is reading this advice
le- mine without much idea of following it,,
devote some time of every day to the hou
hold arts.
HELP YOURSELF.
The woman Of my acquaintance who
accomplished more than any other IN