Wichita eagle., 1889-01-04
Daily = eagle
WOMAN AND HOME.
AMERICAN WOMEN WHO MARRY FOR
HOME ARE NOT so FREQUENT.

Getting a Money Order-American Wives
I'm England-How tho Pudding Served
Her Husband Hints for the House.
keeper, Cook and Nurse.
Marriage is generally spoken of as if
woman were the chief gamer thereby. She
il naturally more inclined to it than man,
because she is more visionary, more hopeful,
more innocent; because she sees in it anchor
age and safety. But she has lately ceased
here, as she long ago ceased in Europe, to
think Of Ii as the sole fulfillment of her des-
tiny, as a source Of support, as the best
means Of securing home. She has now
learned by observation that marriage, for
the sake Of marriage is every way worse
than the dreariest celibacy; that homes SO
gained are such in name alone. Wedlock
is with her no longer an end; she discards the
idea Of 1t from her consciousness until it pre-
sents itself with fervor and force that de-
mand recognition. She does not wait for
suitors; she spurns the notion of exchanging
herself for material maintenance. For this
she depends ON herself, and is sincerer,
stronger, nobler for the dependence. Thou
sands Of tho finest and best of her sex in
every large American city are now bravely
and healthfully at work.
The words "old maid" have recently been
shorn of their terrifying power: they are re-
vered in contrast with the words unhappy
wife" Independence, while it makes her su-
perior to marriage, fits her to be the truest
of conjugal companions. She or he is, per-
haps, best suited to wedlock who can live
without il. She is, by the law Of her sex,
not only homogeneous but monerotic, while
he is polygamous and poiyerotic. As wife
she increases her freedom, though he as a
husband, if he be all that he should, reduces
his But he is so seldom marital model
that he is little restricted With pecuniary
provision be is apt to think his domestic du-
ties discharged. Her duties are innumerable
and endless When be is unincumbered, she
may be oyerborne Few Of the disadvantages
of wedlock fall to his share She has ten
times more motive than he to avoid matri-
nlony, which may be the cause of her jealous
prejudice In its favor. The majority of
women are wholly married; the majority of
men but partially.
Many wives are unworthy; but they are
few compared with unworthy husbands, who
ore largely responsible for their defects.
Marriages are generally divided into har-
these comprise boundless variety In
measure, each marriage must stand for itself,
since no two are exactly alike. The relation
is SO sacredly intimate that many Of its Sc
crets are secrets still Despite daily disclos-
tres, all its veal and all its woe has never
been unveiled Sometimes the ideal is nearly
attained; but such cases are likely to be hal
lowed by silence, while the real, the repre-
sentative, is subject to advertisement
Almost everything countenances marriage
In the United States. If it be failure here,
it must be principally owing to the marriers.
Albeit far from perfect, like everything else,
It is the latest and best form evolved for sex
nal affinity And with US most of the Old
World limitations and restraints have been
removed If we wed unfortunately or I'M
wisely, as any one of US may, ample means
are provided for our retreat. Is marriage
failuref If it be, such host of men and wo-
men are failures themselves, can they, with
any show of reason, expect, by adding fail
IRE to failure, to insure succesSf-Junius
Henri Browne in Forum.