Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-05-19
OUR SUMNER GIRLS.
Rose Terry Cooke Talks to Them of
Watering-Place Temptations.
THE KIND OF COMPANY TO AVOID.
How Flirting Girls Cheaper Themselves in
the Eyes of'Men.
DON'TBEOYERBEARIKGT TO OTHER GIRLS
rwRIrrEy ron THE D1sPArcH.l

WRITTEN FOR THE DIsPATcH.l
Summer is y-comen in" says the old
English ditty, and soon the girls of our land
will be crowding in swarms to seaside and
mountain, to springs Of healing-though
| they do not need those waters-and to hooks
| in the forest where great barns have been
built beside some lonely lake, and ehristened
summer hotels. Joy go with you, pretty
creaturesl May all your new garments
come out of those voluminous trunks un-
Wrinkled and fresh; may each one Of you
have quite the prettiest attire at the place
you choose to abide in; the corner front
room at every hotel; the best beaux and the
gayest season.
After all these good wishes will you, my
dears, listen to few words of caution and
advice? And that my words may seem less
general will address myself to each Of
you, my pretty readers, sIngly, as if you
and were talking to each other.
This is, perhaps, your first season at
watering places; you are just out of school,
and as giddy as most girls, but I will do
the very few girls who will listen to their
elders advice.
In the first place, my dear, would coun-
sci you to be very careful about your con-
duct toward the young men you will meet
I will take it for granted that you are
pretty, and, perhaps, a little gay and
thoughtless as we'll. If 1 have pictured you
correctly, remember that to be thoughtless
counteracts being pretty. You know the
proverb? "As jewel OF gold in q swine's
snout, SO Is a fair woman without discre-
tion," and no modern proyerb vender or
mender ever said truer thing. Do be dis
Greet; do not think that young men are the
only delightful people in the world, or act
as if you thought so. Keep them at proper
distance; no man likes or respects girl who
runs after him, defers to his opinions, lets
him say rude things to her, and takes little
liberties of speech or action.
SILLY FLIRT.
Long ago / knew a young girl who had
such good opinion of her fellow-men that
whenever one came into the house she put
on all the graces she could muster, sidled
up to them, cast down her eyes, or gave
little appealing, soft glances, smiled at
every meaningless word, and became gen.
orally fool in her aspect and conversation
She giggled and primmed up her mouth
with an expression of such terrific sweet
ness / always wanted to laugh aloud when
I saw her.
In the street she would go round corners,
into shops, by hotels, walking abroad seek
ing whom she could firt with in a manner
SO absurd that all the youths who were at
first attracted by her became disguised and
left her to herself. The girl did not mean
any harm; she liked young mems society,
as most girls do, but men are made to pur-
sue, not to be hunted down. This Door girl
cheapened herself from the beginning, and
was never respected. Don't forget, my
dear, that now is your time to establish your
character for life as well-bred, charming,
modest girl; do not, I beg Of you, lose the
opportunity.
Again, don't go out driving, or walking,
or sailing alone with any young man. Per-
haps you will tell me that girls all do it.
Not well-bred girls, my dear; if you have no
real chaperon take another girl with you.
Half the scandals and tragedies of women
begin in their cefelessness about this-Ysry
thing. And over all, do De most particular
about the young men with whom you asso-
ciate. Avoid ffast" men as you would
lepers. Men who are dissipated are in
herently low; no matter how rich, how hand
some, how highly placed in whst is called
society, such men are no associates for
pure, young girl. You do not know any
thing about their real lives and characters,
and tbey know you do not; they take ad-
vantage of your natural and lovely inno-
cence, and admire it; though they know
themselves they are not fit 10 touch the hem
Of your dress even.
AVOID THE BLAsE DUDE.
Do your part toward making society what
it should be by your marked avoidance Of
young men who drink. gamble, or have
bad reputation in any way. If every girl
would do this we should have very differ
ent state of things in the world. No girl
who accepts high standard of character by
which to select her friends or her associates
will do such revolving thing as TO elope
with her father'e coacbman or her neigh
boris groom, and thereby lose all that makes
q woman's life desirable. You have doubt
less been too well brought up to be in dan
ger of any such fatal step; but you may be
Just as thoroughly shipwrecked by marry
ing an elegant, wealthy, good-lookiug youth
from any First family" il he is not man of
high principle and pure life, as by allying
yourself with servant having no such ad-
vantages.
1 must say another thing about your
clothes.
Don't be too fine; simplicity and exquisite
fresh neatness are more attractiye in girls
costume than any extravaganee of fashion
or costliness OF material; but even the
plainest dress may be made Haunting By its
immodest style.
Again, be kind and sweet and forbearing
to other girls; do not deprive them OF their
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