Arizona weekly citizen., 1889-06-15
SOMETHING TO BE NOTED.
BAD MANNERS OF OUR YOUNG FOLKS OF THE FAIR SEX.
Objectionable Ways Which Lessen the Al tractiveness of Maidenhood-A Practice in Traveling-Sfunching Candies in Public Places-An Unwise Habit.

in Travelins-SfunchingC Candies in Public
 Places-An Unwise Habit.
 The traveller of years or wisdom, accus- toned tO much exercise of his powers of observation. or we'll acquainted with the world. will have noticed that the young women of this period, and perhaps of an other periods as we'll have one or two ways of their own which are more or less tO he regretted, and which it would De we'll for them to look to and correct while they may. since once established with acquiescent usage no habit is easily to be overtllrown.
 These ways of our young ladies are ways which take of from the pleasant bloom of their maidenhood, and give them often q coarse grained and vulgar air, which none would regret more than them selves were they but aware of it. for they must know that few things are more un- lovely in young girls than those which venture on the bold, the brusque, the assumption of too much savoir- -faire, or the obtrusion of themselves upon public notice.
 One of these objectionable ways of ouI pretty damsels is a habit they have in traveling-and one which could hardly Sp as stage coach authorities would never have winked at it-of taking not only the whole of seat in the car, but of turning over the next seat and taking the whole oi that. whether for parcels or for the fair travellers feet-a custom very observable in the frequent suburban trains. It would seem unnecessary to remind these young ladies that only a single seat was paid for by each of them, and that there fore no more should in decency be occu- pied by them on that score alone. But not only do they take the space that does not belong to them, but if another traveller comes along looking for seat. no motion of withdrawal from the usurpatiOn is made; the new conner has to ask if the place is occupied, and instead of pleasant answer or reassuring. not to say welcom- ing smile. receives & grudging negative, or else no reply at all in words, but in their place frown and an angry sweep ing aside of the parcels. As for the feet upon the opposite seat when it has been turned over, it goes without saying that 6 lady, young or old, must be exceedingly i'll or weary. and in a much greater de- gree than ordinary railway travel sees, in order to justify her in lifting her feet into any such position
 
 ladies is that of munching candies at matinees. concerts. lectures, at all public places, in fact, sometimes not even ex- cepting church, the vulgarity of which act in any public place whatever is ap- parent at aglance-vulgarity of bad taste. of appetite, and of the display of eating, as well as of the scattering of the redo lence of the'candies upon the atmosphere in many instances. the habit being one which has inspired the witty pencils of many among our eminent caricaturists. A custom as much worse than this as un- kindness xnd want of consideration are worse than vulgarity is that of regarding the late cot-ers of theatres or concert who enter quietly. anxious to make as little disturbance as may be, vexed with themselves more than any one else can be vexed with them-as if they were some thing only short of murderers, rising the while with an air of unspeakable hauteur, and drawing back as if the touch of their garments were deflement. assuming scorn of the proceeding and the proceeders which really is only anger at being dis turbed. Of course it is disagreeable to gather up all one's goods and rise in this way, but the tardiness is so much an accident that may happen to us all that it ought to be taken in democratic spirit, and accorded the treatment that it would be pleasant in turn to receive, our best manners, after all, being but the ex. pression of true Christianity.
 Still another unwise and unpleasant. habit of the young people of the present and this is not confined tt one sex-is that of monopolizing attention and taking on themselves the whole burden of con versation and entertainment, wherever they happen to be, quite regardless of the presence of their elders and superiors, who may be thousand times more fitted 70 engross listener and observer-a habit which makes the boy seem boorish and bumptious. and the girl pitiably pert and forward. The young have the world be- fore them; they will do something better with their share if they wait and learn in silence than if they obtrude themselves as if they had nothing more to hear, and wisdom would die with them. One is tempted to say that it is enough for the young to be young, that the beauty of youth, the bright color, the full eye, the velvet cheek. the gay spirit, is enough. without taking pains to make it all too obvious; the rose which blushes by itself in quiet places of the garden is far more attractive than the rose that every wind has rifed and every bee has rumpled.- Harper's Bazaar.