The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1889-12-21

| outstanding OF what Is right and bes
in a given case. No parent can have
the truest respect of a child, while
the child knows that he can tease
that parent into compliance with the
child's request, contrary to the par
ent's real or supposed conviction.
For the child's sake, therefore. and
also for the parents, every child
ought to be trained not to tease, and
not to EXPECT any possible advantage
from teasing.
Su3annah Wesley, the mother of
John and Charles Wesley, was ac-
custorDed to say, of her children, that
they all learned very early that they
were not to have anything that they
cried for, and that so they soon learn.
ed not to cry for thing that they
wanted. Who will doubt that John
and sCharles Wesley were stronger
men. for this training, than they
could have been If they were trained
To look upon cfy5n g as means of
securing what was best for them
Who will doubt that Susannah Yves
ley was more of woman, ard more
respected by her sons because of her
unvarying tirmnesS at this point,
than would have been possible if she
had frequently yielded to the pres.
sure of their pite0us crying for that
which it was against her judgment
to give to them? Any parent who
would apply this rule Of Susannah
Wesley to the matter of teasing,
might he sure of a corresponding re-
suit in the children's estimate of the
practical value Of teasing. Any child
who finds that he is never to have
anything for which he leases, will
quickly quit teasing. How simple
this rule, for this department of child
training!
Simple as it seems, however, to be
uniformly positive in refusing to
give to a child anything for which he
leases, it IS not an easy thing to ad.
here to this rule, unvarying, and to
do it wisely. And the trouble in the
case is not with the child. but with the
parent, In order to give promptly,
to child'5 request. an answer that
can rightly be insisted upon against
all entreaties, a parent must do his
thinking before he gives that an
swer. rather than afterwards. Too
often parent denies child'5 request
at the start without considering the
case in all its bearings; and then,
when the child presses its suit, the
parent sees reasons for granting il
which had not been in the mind be.
fore. The child perceives this state
of things, and realizes that the Ques.
ton is to be settled by his teasing,
rather than by his parents indepen-
dent judgment ; and that, therefore,
teasing is the only means of securing
a correct decision in the premises.
Training child not TO tease, is a
duty incumbent upon every parent !;
but. as a pre- requisite to this training
of the child, the parent must himself
be trained. When 81 child asks a
favor of a parent, the parent must
not reply hastily, or thOughtiessly, or
without a full understanding of the
case i'll all its invOiyiNgS. If ne1pS-
sary, he may question the child, in
order to a better understanding of the
case, or he may postpone his answer
until he can learn more about it bat
he must not be over quick to reply
merely as IA means of pushing away
The request for the time being. He
must consider carefully what his Fl al
answer ought to be, before he gives
an answer that the child is tn accept
as final and when the parent gives
that answer. it ought to he with such
kindly firmness that the child will
not think of pressing his suit by
teasing. And thus it is that any well
trained parent can train his child
well in this sphere.-Sundoy School
Times.