The Springdale news., 1889-12-06

First love affects different natures according to their makeup. If one be already of a sensitive, gentle and rather soft texture, this first love is likely to make him actually idiotic for a time He becomes such a simple ton that his friends feel that he must be taken in hand. The wisest of them undertake to discipline him, to induce him to restrain his gush and show some trihe of discretion, but entirely in vain. know man, now of great note in the land, who carried her let ters in his breast pocket till it looked like huge wen over his heart. But the worst was he would pull them out and read them to any sort of acquaint- ance. Ten to one he would visit some one not a familiar for no other purpose but to tell the charms Of his inamorata. and to read her letters. He was d superb scholar. and bright every way; but on this topic he was the laughing-st of the town. The whole thing went to pieces with a crash. for what girls love can en- dure such stiffness? He survived the disaster without impaired brains, which is more than sometimes occurs. never knew a man to be love-cracked with second or third flame; but the end of a first-love disappointment is always serious, and sometimes disas- trous- It may lead only to a death of sentiment and susceptibility to wom- ans affection, or it may dislocate the intellectual powers, or the moral
 But not too much can be said of the evil of entering wedlock without the discipline of first love. Men have sometimes done this, and they are al ways untamed, hard and severe, A man with keen, critical intellect can never be satisfied with an ordinary mate. He will do by her as he does by Smith : last essay-will pick out her faults and see all her blemishes and failures. The poor woman is only a magazine article, that he picks to pieces instinetively. He has never had q first love teach him to trans form people and things to give tae rose-color to dullness and to tone down the monday glare of work-life. He can not endure such bad habits as he will be sure to find h the best of wives. Then if he have an imperious disposition and an iron will, the con- sequences are injustice and misery. On the other hand, man of peculiar ly sensitive loving disposition is sure to look for first love in his married life. He has a longing for that ideal which he never created audaeiously out of hand, and boldly declared he had found, and then worshiped 4 woman may be thankful she is not her husband 5 first love, but that he had one that, having worshiped, he learned after all was one of our com mon humanity. and that goddesses are not in corsets.
 l need not ask you if you remem- Der your own first love. You could not love her now-of course not. She is possibly dowdy of the worst sort, married to a coarse fellow that you maryeled she could tie herself to, and yet you see now it was all right; or she is a simple, plain. matter of-fact wife of a matter-of-fact husband and the farthest possible remove from any thing ethereal How you ever came to see angels wings on her is your puzzle. But she served you ad- mirably. A first love you must have, or ought to have, and she was really avery judicious angel. She did not iirt, nor did she help you to be eXtrayagant in your fancies. When the spell was off she became good friend, and has been such ever since. There is, how ever, quite chance that your first love has never returned your letters and you have never returned hers, and that you both need to think over the warm sunrise of your life's loves, and that it helps you in your welded state. Your wife Is not jealous, or ought not to be. If she is sensible, she will be thankful that some one came before her to open her Jimmie's soul and teach him the amenities of love; she has him now all the mere to herself, and all the more of him there is to have. She would be in a sad psedieament if he had never had a first love before herself.
 So you see that first love holds place wholly distinct and quite unique It is not love in the sense of any other love known. It i3 not logical or com mon-sensical It does not show per sons in their true light; indeed, is sure of false coloring and extrava- gance It is a development of imma- turity. It is part Of human evolu- tion. Welded love is the wedding or welding of two who have been carried beyond the period when they can be carried away from reason.
 That would make an interesting his tory fl one could read the loves of the fifty most rounded, strongest char acters in history; but not the first loves, for those would be almost the same story retold. They rarely get