Mohave County miner., 1889-04-06
WOMAN AND HOME.
WY YOUNG FOLKS ARE lOATh TO
PLUNGE INTO MATRiMoNY.
Getting Ready fos sickness--iesraips 10
work-Dress-A Mistake Parents Make.
A Happy wifs--Heslth Hisss--Notes Tor
tho Housewife.


A Happy wifs-nesith Hiass--Notes Tor
tho Housewife.
Ask a young lady who Ia yearning for her
own vine and fig tree, and husband, by
way Of an adjunct, why IL Is that tho men
are NO leath 10 take unto themselves partners
for better or for worse. and she will reply:
"oh! tho men are selfish. They want tospcnd
all their money upon tbens1eses. They like
the Injuries OF ceIibacy. They like their
club lilo with all It's comforts. They want
10 provide themselves with everything that
10 calculated TO make a man satisfied with
himself and tho world ut large" This Is the
reply that the interrogation viii get In most
cases. There may be varieties OF expression,
according 20 the individual, but the tenor Of
the answer is not far removed from this.
Ask the yoaps man who Is "A lit subject for
the matrimonial market why IL Ii that the
men do not marry nil he will say: "Ol the
women are NO foolish. They wan. TO enjoy
themselves They want 10 wear fibe clothes,
keep uy wi all the fashions, hav0 servants
70 10 tine work for them and 1.-Two like tho
wives OF niilliouaires II the .gomen were
not SO foolish more men would get married.
IL they were less capricious there would be
less anxiety felt about The married state. Az
1t il the young ui.I with moderate income
IL afraid 10 plunge in the vortex Of matri-
mony for fear that financial bankruptcy may
lie tie outcome This will 10 the reply la
nine cases out Of ten.
Here We are between two grindstoncs.
Bot when onc investigates the question la
careful way the conclusion is inevitable that
there IL ground for complaint on both sides.
The young man Is certainly selfish. lie
forms habits ia his bachelor days which Ger.
taiuly would no, become him Gs q married
man. He has lis club aud tho club claims
good deal Of Isis time and thought. He does
nut rs general thing take his wife TO the
club with him. Therefore she naturally ob.
jcc;s To cIuis and thinks that they are horrid.
II the young Benedict would make his home
his club house and his wife his cIubfeIlow,
there would be much less ground for com
plaiut than there now il. But TO most young
men, who even in a married state pine for
little bit Of freedom, club life Of this kind
would he too iuonotonous. Again, there IL
some ground for the complaint that the
yonng man Is too fond OF his own comfort.
That is undoubtedly true. Bus man Is very
largely creature Of habit. He forms tastes
and habits in celibacy which he cannot shake
of Too often when lIe has a wife lac graft
fes those tastes even il TO do 80 he Is com
PEELED to sacrifice his wife's comfort. This Is
not right A woman when She marries takes
the step In some cases for the want Of con.
genial coinpanionsiip; In others TO better
her condition. But, leaving the material as
pect Of the matter cut of sight, a woman who
marries does not at once like TO begin life
ofienial and self abnegation.
The young man has n good deal to com
plain about, too TIE education Of q young
woman is often far too superficial, and,
therefore, useless. 1t does not fit her to be
tue true hclpmeet OF q man. II Is calculated
to make her an ornament, not q useful being.
The average society woman is well defined
by tho philosopher Thomas Carlyle In
his 'tSartor Resartus" as piece Of
celestial art which he glories to sur
vey in galleries, but which he has
lost all hope Of purchasing. The young
woman too often is educated TO be parlor
ornament, TO dress well, TO pose effectively, to
play the piano little, and to have smat-
tering In those branches Of education which
are purely ornamental. A wife Of this kind
Is not what the young man wants who IL Just
starting out upon his career. He must have
some one TO help him save. In order to do
this the wife must know how TO work, and
must not be afraid to work. That they do
not is, perhaps, not so much their fault as it
Is the fault of society and Its standards.
Women like to share the burdens OF those
they love. They are willing TO put up with
very much of inconvenieoe, Withstand any
tribulation, providing it will help along the
one that is loved and cause him to feel happy.
When II comes TO question Of sacrifice, or
moral or even physical courage, the woman
In three cases out of fve is superior to the
man. She will bear more pain uncomplain-
ingly and will oomplacently battle with an
noyances that would almost drive q man
crazy. Most women would be true help
meets II they bad chance. But from their
ehildhood's days they are taught to have
wrong view Of life, and TO ignore the sub
stantial In favor Of the artificial.
This Is wholly wrong. Men and women
were created TO be joined in matrimouy. 1t
is wrong TO keep them apart 1t Is not only
wrong TO the individuals Of the two sexes,
but IL is fraught with danger TO society.
Where there are the most happy marriages
there the standard Of purity will be the high
est. Where there are tho least marriages
the standard Of impurity will be the highest.
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