Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-05-04
Written for THE EVENING STAR.
ETIQUETTE AND MANNERS.
What to do and What Not to do in So
ciety.

Two gentlemen differ to the propriety of wearing
shoes during the day time. Please state
| II 1t Is good form 20 do so.
| Formerly patent-leather shoes were consid-
cred In questionable taste at any time. GEN.
tiemen OF nice instincts dislike all excessively
poilshed surfaces. such as glossy cloth. over
pressed hats or highly glazed linen. But recently
| patent leather has become much used for even
| ing wear. Perhaps the fact that Lord Cole
| ridge IN his recent visit to this country always
wore patent leather on dress occasions nav
nave had something to do with the fashionable
| revival OF tins material. But to oar mind moth
| ing is so suitable for evening dress as shoes of
| hne calf skin or morocco. The latter is espe-
clally quiet and elegant. For the promenade
nothing Is III such good taste shoes of fine
calf skin. But in the country patent leather is
| convenient Dust, dew or the friction of grass
either OF which soon render calf SIX unpresenta-
BILE, has no hurtful effect on patent leather:
dust Is easily brushed of moisture does not
| AFFECT the polish, and the friction of the grass
in rsmble through a meadow really improves
! the appearance of the leather. With patent
leather in the country one never needs the boot
black, and this adds much to ones comfort on
| rural visit.
Isit proper for lady to bow speak first TO gen
enaq Of her acquaintance in passing the street
| The ladyshould always speak first as we have
| repeatedly said. II is the lady's province to
recognize an acquaintance or not, as she may
! prefer.
Il l: If young gentleman should escort lady home
MN mn II SO. IN what manner.
| prothef-ln-law upon their marriage:
| l. Of course the lady should thank him. It
would be exceedingly ill-bred not to do so. 1t
Is underlined to accept any service or any kind
ness without acknowledging il by thanks.
| z. Ii a lady does not know how to congrat-
ulate her sister or any member of her family
| upon her marriage, we doubt if any instruc-
tons would aid her. Put your arms around
your sisters neck, kiss her and wish her much
happiness. Shake hands with your brother-in-
law and wish him much happiness.
| CHURCH WEDDINGS
| 1. In case of a church wedding where there is a
maid of honor, bridesmaids and groomsInan how does
the bridal Party go from the house and how advance
When is desired exclude all but invited guests
presented at the and how should they read.
Or; II not, what course is adopted
lily where there are and daughters in society,"
Smith and wife. or Mr.. ana Mrs john smith,
1. The bridal party should leave the house
in the following order: In the first carriage,
the bride and her father in carriages that fol-
low the bridesmaids Members of the family
usually precede the bridal party to the church.
| At the church the ushers head the bridal party
| to the altar; the bridesmaids usually come
next, and then the maids of honor, but COM
monty there are not both bridesmaids and
maids of honor. Then comes the bride upon
| the arm of her father or elder relative. The
natural place of the maid or maids of honor. if
there are also bridesmaids, would be after the
| bride, but individual taste and preferences
govern these details. very few marriages being
in all particulars exactly alike. The groom
and best man enter from the vestry and stand
at the altar, the groom in readiness to receive
| the bride from her fathers hand. The brides
| maids take their place at the side of the bride,
and the maids of honor behind her. After the
| ceremony the bride and groom lead the process
sion out.
2. If it is desired to exclude all but invited
guests cards of admission must be issued.
Print on the card the name of the church and
date and hour of ceremony.
3. For each married couple in a family one
invitation may be sent. Each single adult
member OF the family should receive an invi-
| tation.
4. Mr. and Mrs John Smith," always. "Mr.
John Smith and wife," never.
WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS.
Will you kindly favor me with the benefit OF vour
| advice on the followings
1. am about to be married and shall send announce
men h out to my friends whom hope will call upon
evenings at home very uncertain INV wife wbe s
perfect stranger viii have to entertain How ought
Home" or sResidencey e. NC "0iaeu-'n0ua " De AT
2 Knowing more than one person in afsmy should
SEND an 10 each person or to the head
er the e house only And in case Of ladies whose moth
.: How soon after receiving these calls should we
4. II a person on whom you called gave a large re-
cePtion to winch every Tom. Dick and Harry in,
he desired to cease the acquaintancey
ANY, was s censared few evenings ago after public
70 the eating on NATURAL
mSdf s of rating them T.. Was tS sTn 81 tho
snts What Is done in the Of business reatOns'
associates Should address to the gentleman only?
l. The circumstances you mention should not
alter the form of the invitation. You issue your
cards AT Home" giving place and time, and
| this is all.
| g To each adult person Counting married
couples as one). 1t would be proper and grace
| full to include the mothers of the ladies under
| such circumstances
| g. About two weeks.
4. 1t would bear that INTERPRETATION unless
| the omission was by accident.
3. Saratoga chips can be eaten with the fingers
| in the same way that biscuit or cakes are eaten
In fact, there is no other way
| 6. In sending invitations always include the
wives OF married men, whether you know them
| or not.
l. At an evening marriage at the church. if the bride
is not to be given away it customary the bride to
2 There are two bridesaids ahd awo eroorsmen
it customary for the ladies stand one side and
me gentemen on the other or should the couples not
3 What are the most fashionable flowers for the
4 Is it fashionable for the groom and ushers to wear
s. What kind of neckties should the groom and ush-
g. Should the groom and ushers wear plain or pique
shirt bosom!
MORE ABOUT WEDDINGS.
1. The bride should not according to present
social customs, walk with the groom to the
altar. If she is not to be given away she must
walk alone. Sometimes the bride is escorted
to the altar by her mother, this, of course,
when there is no male relative.
2. The ladies stand on the side the bride
stands and the groomsmen on the side the
groom stands.
8. Lilies of the valley, white roses, white
lilacs. in fact, any white flower
4. They may do as they prefer.
5. If a morning wedding white scarfs. if an
evening wedding white lawn neckties. White
satin silk for a necktie is considered vulgar
6. Plain shirt fronts by all means No kind
of decoration for gentleman's linen.
THE UsHERs.
l. What the duties Of usher at large wedding
ceremony in a church. and reception at the house
aferward Is there prescribed style Of dress for an
usher?
z. understand that it is expected of bridegroom
to pay for the gloves and necktie of the best man
Is this the usual custom! II SO. who makes the
purchases
l. To conduct people to seats to precede the
bridal party to the altar, and at the house to |
introduce friends to the bridal pair and per- |
form generally the duties of master of cere- |
monies. In dress an usher does not differ from |
other gentlemen, but a slip of white ribbon |
ha in he INIT hole