Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1889-09-08
TO WIN A GIBBS LOVE.
Useful Rules for the Guidance o youths
Who go Counting.
Men Fail in the Accomplishment of a Great
Desire by Disregarding Minor Details.
Useful Hints.
st. Joseph Herald.

wolves to make a conquest of a girl S
heart. The amount of furrowed thought
that has been spent on this subject
through all ages and by men of every de-
gree Of wisdom and wit, would have
solved the wisdom of the sphinx. And
still the method by which steady sp-
proaches may be made and success guar
anteed is more of a nebulous uncertainty
than an exact science. If some con-
summate master of the art of
pleasing girls were to draw up a
code of tactics on how to lay
siege successfully to young lady's ap
precautions it would probably prove
fatal at every trial by another man.
Not a rule in the entire code but would
have to be modified to suit the phases
and varieties of ever changing woman.
By leaving the grand maneuveTs re-
quired to win q woman to each man to
determine by experience there are many
general maxims which, if applied by
young man anxious to please girl,
would in nine cases out of ten go straight
to the mark and help to start somebody g
heart in q fiutter.
Very slight things affect important is
sues. A girl who is on the point of ex-
periencing a romantic sensation over an.
admirer Will sometimes feel it freeze
up if her devoted persists in hitch
ing his tTOWsers legs above his shoe tops
far enough to make an expose of his
stockings when sitting. A lover whose
good night speeches are simply irressta-
bic will undo more than the effect of his
words by stumbling over an ottoman or
two in taking his leave, and half yes
has been known to be withdrawn on the
spot when a retreating sutton elected
Morse power yelps from a pet poodle by
stumbling over him when retiring from
the room
In winning a girl IS heart if is the trifles
which are the great things. Lamentable,
but true. The average girl is not pleased
or propitiated by any amount of wordy
speeches. If a man understood her he
would realize the necessity of numberless
maneuvers, feints, marches, sudden as
saults, retreats, ambuscades, saliies and
detours, besides a steady seige, carried
out as coolly and determinedly as a cam
paign.
< Every girl adores a hero. Very few
iTnen are built that way, while others are
.hampered by lack of events that would
otherwise test the heroic. Nevertheless,
the very ordinary man with some adToit-
ness, knowing the instinct of the sex,
will secure the same admiration by
assuming an ever-pTesent air of
boldness and self-confdence. OF
course this is trying, for if he likes a
girl he wants her to like him, which
makes him anxious and probably more
uncertain and indecisive before her than
all the rest of the world To betray a
timOrous feeling toward her hazards her
whole admiration for his superior cour-
age.
A girl likes to lean when she knows she
has something to lean on. If masculine
strength yields before her she follows UP
her advantage, and delights to tantalize
her helpless victim, banishing him mean
while from the pedestal reserved for he
role manhood. Every man, by force of
will, can be predetermined in small
things, and he is rarely tested in others.
,SeIf-assertion and quick decision are the
ordinary outgrowth of present strength,
but as soon as a man fails to assert him
self before a girl she will assert herself,
and he is virtually crushed.
The average girl is also immensely sus-
ceptible to- style of composed action,
which in a man constitutes grace.
Grace in a man, which is recognized 'by
the absence of awkwardness, Is not a
combination of curved lines, with sinu-
Gus movements gliding into each other;
as in a woman; it is the unerring fitting
of movement to purpose: the alienation
of perfect compOsure with pointed ac-
ti6n. When a GIRLS escorted byAa man
who she Knows will do the right thing at
the right time and place she has feeling
that ever want will be looked after, and
she relaxes into gratified comfort. If he
betray awkwardness or self conscious
ness she will pity him and wish he had
left her at home.
1t Is not the amount of attention {. man
shows girl that pIeases her so much as
the kind and manner of showing it
Through sheer perversity of sex girls pre-
fer elaborate nothings and elegant trifes
to useful and material favOrs. She likes a
present of IOrgnette IN preference to a
box of gloves. She enjoys the minor de-
tails incident to an evenings entertain
ment more than the programme. A small
favor impulsively bestowed pleases her
more than carefully planned Injuries. A
man plants in fertile soil who turns &C
a busy time in the day to walk a
block with the girl he meets by
chance, or invites her and her mamma
to lunch on their shopping day, or con-
trives a novel bit of amusement when he
fluids her in ladylike bliss. He must give
all these attentions, however, the air of !
hurried conception and immediate execu-
ton. a girl is then inevitably impressed |
that she is somewhat of q favorite, but |
OF the extent makes her !
eager. Even the most royal favors |
should be rendered in an Off hand way,
as if they were nothing to what the do
nor might offer. 1t appeals directly to !
the girl nature TO be shown that diver |
sion is lost sight of III her company.
CaudOr is an estimable virtue in every |
body except young man who wants |
to please girl. Too much of it |
in expressing unreservedly his fond |
ness. before he is entirely certain !
of his standing, robs a sutton |
of the degree of the unattainabIe, which |
is generally a taking quality with girls. |
Not that he should conceal q genuine |
liking entirely;' he should allow simply |
glimpses of tito occasionally appear on |
the surface. The sutton is a wise one |
who, instead of pouring out his whole |
devotion in Il uniform stream, exhibits a |
sample of it frequently enough to show |
some depth, but not frequently enough !