Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-09-29

the same man growing like house-a-fre
because his dinner Is not ready TO the sharp
moment is man whose wife does not repose
npon roses, or howery beds of e se. Before
marriage he would scorn to be hate nj,
would put up with anything rather than
find fault, would recognize q thousand ex-
cuses for shortcomings, but after the
preacher mas pronounced them man and
wife the whole complexion Of things has
been changed. After he has publicly
promised to love, honor and cherish until
''death do us part" he feels quite privileged
to rant around and raise Cain with an aban-
don that would be amazing If 1t were not 90
common. Alter the words have been said
that make the twain one he asserts himself
as''the one" with all of the energy OF which
he 10 capable, and the sovereign power that
the law conlers upon him. or course there
are mulutudes OF exceptions, but we are
talking of the rule.
A woMAN's ELYsIUM.
During courtship is usually the happiest
time Of her life for woman, and to cut
short this season of delight by an early
marriage is piece of foolishness on her
part that she can never all to regret. Long
engagements are deprecated by many peo-
pie, but courtshiD OF two or three years is
lar the best in almost all cases. As gem
eral thing it gives to woman her one un-
allowed taste o, pleasure. her one gala time
in Ii e, her sweetest experience of purest
felicity. The letters then written are love
letters indeed, to be cherished as long as life
lasts--the dreams then INDUCED are full OF
ideal bliss-the future then pictured is
! happiness beyond the power Of dictionaries
f, fr<, nd fha low nf fo
portrayed by the magnetism Of love is
divested OF all the harsh accompanlments
that make existence as Dickens called 1t, q
"demuition grind" Courtshib borrows no
trouble, it has no difficulty in making both
ends meet, it is full of "the light that never
was on sea or land"
Girls, just out Of school, who rush into
matrimony, as il it were the garden OF the
gods, miss this interval of purest Joy, of
richest beatitude. OF rarest happiness. They
marry in haste and repent at leisure. Mar
risge is success when true hearts are wed
and love YIELDS its fetters, but its troubles
and trials are sore tests at times. In court
ship love is paramount, in marriage it often
goes under. A lucky wooing is often long
adding, but there is more pleasure in it
than in the rush OF a wedding which brooks
no delay and which, as result shows, had
better have been delayed forever. A step
in life SO important should never be entered
upon unadvisedly and lightly in any case,
and young women should make q point of
"being engaged" long enough to have q
good time, and to make sure that their
marriage is for better and not for worse.
MArRIMoNY's RESPONSIBILITIES.
Matrimony brings heavy responsibilities
and emphasizes the seriousness OF life, and
oI..s n rr..A~ 4 ea-
ments than the women who thoughtlessly
take upon them its VOWS and assume for
themselves It's sacred and momentous duties.
What women miss most in marriage is
what they most enjoyed in courtship-ap-
probation and the expression and attentions
ofiove. After they have become man and
wife under the law of Church and State, the
husband is wont to wax careless and indii-
ferent. He NAV still love his wife, but he
feels under 70 obligation to show it by word
or deed. If his wife roasts herself In the
Kitchen to get him up good dinner he eats
it without word Of praise or appreciation.
But ifitis not good, he has no scruples about
finding fault.
''I stood my husbands neglect until felt
/ must break down, or die, or fight il of.
concluded to fight, and you may know we
had time of it. taught myself to pay
no regard to his ceusure, and, as 1t never
occurred to him to praise, L thought thou
sands of times that marriage was undoubt-
edly failure, and that was fool for hav-
ing given up freedom and independence for
the ser dom Of such life."
Many women have like experience. and
yet how easily life could be made happy it
men and women could be made to under
stand what bliss is possible, il, instead Of
changing their manners alter marriage,
they would conduct themselves rs they did
in the happy days Of courtship- If a man
in his character as husband were still the
fond lover, the devoted attendant, the ap-
preciative and demonstrative sweetheart,
love would not die, but blaze and blaze
afresh-the sweet dreams would become
realities, the high ideals of marriage would
be materialized. BESSIE BRAMBLE.