The Louisiana Democrat. [volume] (Alexandria, La.) 1845-1918, 1889-06-12
day, and see ifyou don't find it so. !
know of but one remedy, ana that is to

know of but one remedy, ana that is to
remember others II you look at 1t, in
all this world there are only yourself
and other people; yourself-one; other
people-well, something over thou
sand millions / suppose. It seems
fairly absurd to spend ones thoughts
on the one, and forget the millions, yet
that is the way some people appear to
live. You know if you hold cent
close to the eye, it will obscure the sun.
and there have been persons known TO
do that.
Self-forgetting is only another name
for unselfishness. Now / would not be-
unjust to you, but. honestly, ism t SELFISH
ness quite prominent characteristic of
a boy? may. mistake, but 1t does
seem to me as rule that girls are
more apt to deny themselves for others
than boys are. Not because they are
naturally better, but certain facts in
their usual training and circumstances
make them more thoughtful and con-
siderate.
Indeed. a writer already quoted in
these talks says in regard to some mis-
takes in the home training: 1.-The UNI
selfishness of the sisters, and the fond
ness of the mother for her boy. and the
fact that the boy is rarely at home, all
contribute to habit of sacrificing every
thing to the young lads pleasure or
profit which has the worst effect on
his character in after life. Boys
receive from women themselves in tho
nursery. and when they come home
from school in the holidays, regular
education in selfshness.
That is forcibly put. but fear 1t has
much truth in it, and / repeat 1t to you
boys, that you may notice and correct
any such tendency. just see how many
times this week the mother and sister
deny themselves in little ways and at
tentions, which you receive with such
a lordly manner, and without the
slightest notion that any body is put
out for your sake. lam willing to be-
lieve the fault is thoughtlessness, and
the way to correct that is to be thought
full. Thoughtful for the mother and
sister, thoughtful for the comrades at
school, thoughtful for all whom you
meet, caring not so much for your own
comfort or what you esteem your own
rights
Remember that the largest lives,
from whom the Masters down, have
been those filed with thoughts for 9TH
ers This thought encouraged will grow
as you grow, until it takes in all the
world. Then there will be in your heart,
not the one self alone, bat crowding on
it the thousand millions and more Of
others. whose interests md whose well
fare you are TO consider. But boys.
you will not jump into such a self-for-
getting as this, you must grow into 1t.
In the old days Christ told His disci.
pies to begin their work at Jerusalem;
SO I think with us all We must begin
with that which lies nearest just here
in your own homes, in your own school
rooms, on your own Fairgrounds, you
must forget self and remember others.
Look out for number one" is one Of
the meanest precepts Of so-called
worldly wisdom, which deceive with an
air of sagacity and prudence. Within
the covers of the Book you will find an-
other quite the opposite: Look not
every man on his own things, but every
man also on the things of others"
From "Talk with Boys" in N. Y. OBJ
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