Democratic messenger., 1889-07-06
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.
bR. TALMAGe SAYS IT IS A SACRED
AND DIVINE ART.

Frien,istip an Altogether Different Thing
fr"n nt'eniaiity-Throwing the Mantle of
Charity Over the Defect. In Oihcrs The
Value of Mobile Friends.
BROOKLYN, June 30. AT the Tabcr.
naclc this morning. after the pastor.
the Rev. T. De Witt Ta.nagc. ID. d.,
had made an exposition Of passage
OF Scripture. the congregation. led
by cornct and organ. sang the hymn
beginning:
Nos have found friend
Jesus Is mine
Dr. Taln,agc's subject was ''Ilow TO
Make Friends. and histcxi. Proverbs
xviii. -: ~ man that hath friends
must show himself frihdly." He s:iid:
About the sacred aud divine art Of
making and keeping friends | speak
q subject on which | never heard of
any one preaching yet God
thought il of enough Importance 10
put il in the middle of the Bible. these
writings Of solomon. bounded on one
side by the popular Psalms of David.
aid on the other by the writing, of
Isaiah, the greatest Of the prophets. II
seems all matter of haplaH,rl how
many friends we have. ar whether we
have any friends nj all. but there is
nothing accidental about it, There is
law which governs the accrciion
and dispersion Of friendships They
did not Just happen 81" any more
than the tides just happen to rise or
fall, or the sun just happens TO rise or
set. II is II science. an art. God
given regulation. Tell me how
friendly YOU are 10 others and will
tell you how friendly others are to
you. do not say you will not have
enemies; indeed the best way To get
ardent friends is To have ardent enc.
mics. il you got their cnniiy in doing
the right thing Good men and wom
en- will always have enemies. because
their goodness Is u perpetual rcbukc 10
evil; but this aniagonism OF foes will
make more intense the love Of your
adhcrnts. Your friends will gather
closer around you because of the al,
tacks Of your asSiilants. The more
your enemies abuse YOU the better
your coadjuiors will think OF you.
Tho best friends we ever had appeared
at some juncturc when we were cspc-
cially bombnrlctl. There have been
times in my life when unjust assault
multiplied my friends. as near ms
could calculate. about fifty min.
ute You are bound 10 some poo
pie by many cords that neither
tinc nor eternity can break,
and ] will warrant that many of those
cords We're twisted by hands malcvo-
lcnt. Human nature was slIipwwckcd
about fifty nine centuries ago. the cap.
tain Of that craft. one Adam. and his
first mate. running the famous cargo
aground on n suag in the River Hid.
dckcl; but there was nj least one good
trait Of human nature that wa,lcd
safely ashore from that shipwreck,
aud that is the disposition to take the
part Of those unfairly dealt with.
When il is thoroughly demonstrated
that some one is being prosecuted. al.
though ut tho start slan,lcrous tongues
were busy enough. defenders finally
gather around rs thick as honey bees
on trcllis Of bruised honcysucklc.
II, when sci upon by the furics, you
can have grace enough 10 keep
your mouth shut. and preserve
your cquipoisc. and let others fight
your BATTLES. you will find yourself
after awhile with whole Gordon of
allies. Had not the world given Ia
Christ on his arrival nj Palestine n
very cold shoulder there would no,
have been onc.lalf a> many angels
chanting glory ont Of the hymn bnoks
Of the sky bound in black lids of mid
night Had it not been for the heavy
and Jagged aiId toriurous cr,ISs. Christ
would not have lGcn the admired and
/ loved Of more people than amy being
! VINO ever touched foot on either the
eastern or western hemisphere. In
stead, therefore. of giving up in ,lcs
pair because you have enemies. re-.
joicc in the fact tia, they rally for
you the most helpful aud enthusiastic
admirers In other words. there is NO
virulcncc. human ar diaholic, tia,
can hinder my text from coming true
"a man tlIa, hath fr:cr,ls must show
himself friendly"
YOUR FRIENDSHIP MIST not EE \ PRE-
! TENSE.
/ II is my ambition TO project cspc.
cially upon the young thought
which may bcnignly shape their des
tiny for the here aud the hereafter.
Before you show yourself friendly,
you must be friendly. | do not re
commend u drama,izcd gcnialiiy.
There is such a thing as pretending "a
be EN- rapport with others when we
are their dire dcstruct;,ItS. and talk
against them aud wish them calamity.
Judas covered up his irachcry by Il
rcsounding kiss. AMI circS>,'s may be
dcnoniral. l.cttrr the mytlIolo.ical
| Ccrbcriis. tl,c three headed dog uf he'll,
barking ai us. than the wolf in shccp's
clothing. its brinIllcd hide covered uT
by deceptive wonl. and its dcathful
howl c;idcncrd into an innWrnt blcat
ing. DiSr"li writes of l.oiyl Nam
fred. who. after committing many
outrng,~ upon the people. seemed
/ suddenly Ia become friendly, and in
viicd them Ia "a banquet. After nIosi
Of the courses al fUaAl had been served
he blew a horn. which was in thoSC
times n signal for the servants la bring
on tie dessert. but ia this ease il was
the Sigral for aSS;,Sslns Ia ci.ter and
slay tie guests. Ills pretended friend
illness was cruel fraud; and there art
now people whose smile is II falschood
Before ynu bcgin Ia show Yourself
friendly YOU must bc friendly. Gct
your heart right with God aud man
aml this grace will become easy. You
may by your own resolution get yuul
naiur into scmblancc of this virtue
bml the grace of God can sublimcly
Ii!i ynu into IT, Sailing on the River
ThamncS two vessels ran aground. The
ownrrS al one got one hun
drCd horses and pulled on ib'
groun,l,d ship and pulled il Il
pirC,S. The owners Of the Other
grounded vc.srl waited ill the tide
cur. il. .'i'l r3sily Heated the ship oul
of all ,tna,r. So. We may pull and
haul n. nlr grounded human mature
An unhappy Home.