Telegram-herald., 1889-09-25


more AID more u ths successful aaen u
the times. a1d learns more snd nsEs
aDouI shslf daily lives. Lhs stronger BE-
coEass as convictions ILat Ihe men %
Ehom fortune smiles have Eheir wives
a. often - lhank as tie fzEes MArri4ss
is certainly aot a failure smoHg states
llsn- Doubt II il is a failure. - aay
lers rsar failure, With shs nlen ~ho
achieve sslccess Ia any neld of human
sudeagor. Though Il Is szsy - dedacs
from ths divorce statistics that. ta4iAs
she country through. one nlarri-se ~
dozen sn1s Ia separation. the fEJ infer-
snce from thls Being that fof every di-
sOrce there are four or ave csheF matFi-
noniai mistts, giving the startling total
of 50 per ceaL q failures, no such ruis
applies u the successful nsn as class
Tia aan who achieves political or
ether success Ia these days does 80 u the
tace of nerce competition. II be would
reach the summit. = ssnatCrship, seat
Ii The cabinet. or on the supreme bench,
o. high place amguS the members ~
the house u representatives.. hls life
uaust Be record OF successes. A single
failure, one mistake. Is often fatal. Tie
race - to the strong, the victory 70 the
enduring. aud hence the man who makes
a mistake in thAt most important Of al
undertaking.. thas most serious OF al
contracts, ul2trImOny, generally lnds
himself outrun BY his more fortunate
fellows A little philosophy Ike thi.
- n. - - o.,
which Is impressed on the mind OF every
person who well knows many Successful
men.
No place Ia this country IS equal 10
Washington for study OF the influence of
wives upon the fortunes of ambitious
men. and it Is a genuine pleasure 10
write down the fact thai the wife seems
stronger and more potential the closer
her work Is scanned. With surprisingly
few exceptions the great public men OF
today are happily and successfully mar
ri@d. Not only happily, which means
love and peace in the household. but
scccessfuily, in the sense that they have
life partners worthy OF them, partners
who are intellectual Is well as moral
helpers. When one sits down and calls
70 mind the famous men who owe much.
very much, TO their wives, whose wives
have helped make them, the number OF
sucn Is soon seen 10 DO striklngly large.
some OF these may be properly named
here.
There are exceptions to the rule, Of
,ourse, men Of power and genius, who
have pulled themselves up, though
weighted down by partnership with wo-
men not their equals. with women who
have little character, small intellects, de-
hcient emotion and bad instincts. None
OF these will mention by name, because
it would he highly improper to do SO;
but could point the pen toward a num-
bcr OF successful men who deserve all
the more credit for their accomplish
uients from the fact that their marriages,
though not productive Of positive unhap-
uiness. have resulted in failure in the
broader sense.
Another fact which the student of
sociology will do well 10 consider is that
a surprisingly small number of success
ful men are bachelors. | cannot call TO
mind in congress a dozen men who never
married. though. OF course, there may
be more than that. and there are also a
number of wid0wers. It appears TO be
pretty vel understood in this country
that 0achelorhoOd is positive handicap
70 the ambitious man, particularly II he
is politician. The people look upon a
bachelors life as thing incomplete,
lacking, suspicious. Bachelors now in
congress say they could be more t4sily
reelected. could. with less expense and
effort. hold their own at home, had
they wives TO help them. II it is
true that q wife Of tho right sort
Is help 20 a statesman at home, IL is
doubly true Of his efforts at the capital.
Here the good wife-the gifted. intui-
tive. Intellectual wife-is Jewel. There
are many prominent public men who
bavs wives that shine in society. make
friends for them, help them hold the
friends they have; there are many, too,
whose wives help them think. The man
with no wife at all IS az great disad van
tage. the man who does not marry joins
those other unf0rtunates. the misfts. in
giving comfort 10 pssslmistS who hold
that marriage IL failure. samuel J.
Tiden would have been more
popular man had he married: 50
would James Buchanan. and though
Grover Cleveland was elected president
when bachelor. and defeated after he
coming a benedict. no one viii deny
thas bis marriage 10 handsome France.
Folsom GAINED him new popularity and
brought him closer e. the people
psvy Burns. whose bouse. the firs'
bulls IN Washington. still stands Jlsl
south q the White House. cnce said Z
vsr7 suggestive and rather imPertiueui
th.n- to George Washington. The fa
tAer oi his country had been trying 4
bus Burns land % build the Fedora
Cit7 upon. but Burns was oblurate ans
irritable. and the negotiations were a
times conducted IN rad humor. Finally
the oid Scotchran exclaimed. "W ha
would vou have amounted 20. GeorE'
Washington. II it hadnt been for th'
widow Custisg- The sugxestiveness o.
this remark viii be apparent when on.
remembers that Wasbiagton's msrriag'
was certainly the best stroke of goos
luck that could have come % him Ar th'
time II is really serious question 3
Washington would have become a grsa
nan but for this fortunate marriage
Els vie brought him wealth. bet5eres
bis social position. gave him opportu
uitv ard throughcut hfe vas hIs help
n1cpf aud wiser. The wives 4 the prs
ilerts. With fsv exceptions. have heeI
vorthr partners = great men. AaisSs
A,sras vas one = the ciever-st wcTneT