Arizona weekly enterprise., 1889-08-24
SOCIAL ETIQUETTE.

How to Be Model Visitor-A Ready
 Adaptability the Important Requisite.
 "It is not an easy task to live in other pco- ple's houses, to alter your own breakfast hour, to sleep in an unaccustomed bed, to eat at unusual periods, to await the hostess plea sure about the carriage, to talk to the stupid son or daughter, or to endure the brilliancy of tho petted one It is a servile condition to be visitor, even under the most compliment tary circumstances Thus Harper's Bazar sums up disadvantages which many a guest to country houses will realize ill the coming season, and adds the following hints to who ever may tempt the mingled pleasure and pain of prolonged visiting:
 Tho model visitor, let us suppose, is gifted with a ready adaptability; she has jest enough anecdote and not too much. the exact amount of good looks and an absence of dis agreeable encumbrances Ifneed be, she may join the guild of the guests for life. To those childless homes where visitors are desired for company, how often is she asked and how amiably does she comport herselfl
 In these households, more numerous than the uninitiated dream, she is, if she conform to certain common sense re Sulations, received with open arms, as Q beneicent angel. To this end she must first of all come when she is asked, remain her Stipulated time, and cheer fully say good-by at its end. Punctuality is the first article in the code. Never should a visitor presume on her popularity to keep l people waiting. Every family is entitled to its idiosyncrasy.
 ] Ono host is afraid of his coachman, and he cannot bear to have the carnage wait; an other is tied to the breakfast bell; another l expends his extraneous activity in getting ] Io fo4 41,o toI al ri | acknowledges these peculiarities and bends to them. Is she sure to never abuse the weather | Certain hosts feel that they own the weather they are responsible for it. A visitor should have a resource for Q rainy day. Model hosts are mortified if it rains, or if it is too hot to show off their views, or their greenhouses toe | dusty to look at their improvements, or toe damp for drive Never, therefore, when il 1 a country house, abuse the weather, for your hostowns it. Find something pleasant to say of even a prolonged drizzle.
 The sensible visitor never notices the family jars. If there is an antagonism over dog | or a cat, do not take sides. Avoid partisan ship about the tree which madame wishes cut down, and which monsieur swears shall not be. Even very loving husbands and wives | may have their occasional little frictions which it is the part of the common friend tC quietly ignore. Above all else, let a guest beware of taking sides in the passing tiff, which will subside of itself if unnoticed We can all abuse those we love, in a tempo rary fit of irritability, but we do not like others to do so Nor must we see any defect: in the servants of our friends. Our self love is so sensitive, it sends out so many tentacles that one cannot be too careful on these points In short, if visitor is not disposed to bt sympathetic, amiable, agreeable, self con tained, self possessed, unselfish, sho would better stay at home.
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