The weekly Floridian. [volume] (Tallahassee, Fla.) 1867-19??, 1889-01-08

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O'Aer Points on tie Mr,jagc Question
Oa my. L is 20 du! do wish something
would happen"
The above pctuant aud careless remark cs
capped from IAe ruhy lbs OF one o! my fair young
friends q lew afternoons since She wa, com
torlably reclining in 4 softly cushioned rocker,
and had ia>, 'h,own aside new novel which
hal failed to interest her
The remark startled me and opened up NJ W
train "f thought. Il has been running in my
head ever since, ana has inspired me to use il
tS a text IN this letter
The girls OF to day--sociciy giils, moan are
100 IN t"l'nt. They have no object in If. o'hcr
than TO arpe'r b"wilchinr aod 10 plan 'or the
capture If wealthy lnsb }ni. That is one
reason why there are 50 many affirmative an
swe'st t. th@ query, " Is marriage failure ?" The
o,G style grnu ne love matches are growing in
deed rare, and without pure mutual love no
mar!jng' can be other tlr.n failure | speak
not from personal experience, but from olscrva-
lion. know some married couples who, to
The casual onookcr appear t. be in ihr seven
heaven of marital bliss, vel in the Que, seclll-
SION OF nom" they take no more notice Of each
other than il they Were entire Strangers Why
Is lhlS? Simply because their tastes differ,
ncihcr undc sands the other, and IN many
cases The wife is To blame. Ol you need not
hold up your hands and put on such look of
holy horror. Ii | am a woman, | am not
pr'jndiced in favor of my but what | can
see their errors. Too many wives expect newly
wed husband to giv- up all of his accustomed
pleasures, clubs, companions, free and easy male
gatherings, etc, and devote himself entirely to
her cntr tainment. This is unreasonable
Hab'l IS strong master and Mr.
New Husband cannot make an entire
charge in Lis plans f,r pistme and
pleasure snch short notice If" hubby"
happens ~ rcil;,ln nut 2 i!iIr- latr. sTl,. wv
Wife will meet nm at the door with an injured
look in her eyes and W i'll perhaps pout and
nope around the house for a Whole week alter
ward, This is wrong. 1t makes the man feel
uncomfortable and embarrassed He may love
lis wife devolely, but for fear She will fly off,
and say something cross. he avoids her, and she
takes it into her head that he is cold and cruel,
and then She becomes really distressed, and Of
ten crys until her poor eyes are red and swo!-
len. There is nothing like starting the married
lite right. BotE husband and wife should be
unsclnsh to some extent, and be willing 10 make
little sacrifices to b,ing pleasure to the other. The
wife should make home attractive and pleas
ant that the husband will find it much nicer IN
her company than amoag his Old associates II
this IS done his old habits will be dropped and
his evenings will be spent in his wifes company.
Yes, girls, instead OF primping and novel read
ing, and flirting and angling for beau, you
want to pay more attention to your education
as a hOusekeeper. You should learn TO make home
attractive you should study human nature. Yes,
anu above all else, you should know yourself
Look at your own faults, AID try to CutgrOw
tlcm. Always be kind considerate and modest.
Strive TO cultivate an even and sweet temper
and afler while some worthy young man, whom
vou can love and respect, will come along and
WOO Won for youisclf-no; because Of your being
CAV and having infatuated him. A marriage Of
this kind can never b, a failure.
Nv friend, who SO rccklessly wished for some
thing to a ppcn, is bright girl naturally,
but She cannot ev II darn stocking she knows
nothing of cooking, and never does any fancy
work She is never happy unless in some gay
circle with half dozen silly tops hanging around
living on her smiles How can such girl as
this ever expect to marry happily
Then anoiher fbing-this way of wishing
for something I" happen is wicked Something
is always happening, and we are often punished
for such wish by having something very un-
pleasant TO happen TO US.
Methnks can hear my young friends whis-
pering, "The sour old maid. What does she
know about marriage that she should lecture u.s."
But you must not think that girls. l am talk
ing for your benefit. | may be an old maid, but
I am not sourcd. | want you all TO marry and
to live happily. 1t can be done, and in this, as
in all else, you are the architects of your own
fortune.
Make home bright and attractive BE cheer
full. Study your husbands whims and humor
him in them, and take my word for it you will
be among the most enthusiastic in declaring
that marriage is not ii failure
Now, having spun ont on this suh]ec' 80 long,
will not begin on another in this letter but
leave you To think and profit by the hints
herein contained until next week. BESSIE.
900 for 81.