Woman's chronicle. (Little Rock, Ark.) 1888-1???, 1889-09-28

deal for the glorltlcatlon OF work.
A Want of Tact.
From Womans Illustrated World
We hear about mans lnhumanity to man, but
nothing about women's nhumanity. sit aston
ishing how much bitterness has been caused by
almost unintentional rudeness. An exchange puts
the matter in its true light when it says: sWomen
stab each other daily in conversation without in
tending to be malicious" Tact is, perhaps, the
rarest and most valuable of gifts She who has it
can get on happily without any beauty and almost
without brains. She who has it not cannot get on
at all without constant attriton. She hurts where
she would heal, and wonders at the resentment
that follows her well-meant efforts There are
several "Don'ts' which should be considered
whenever two or more women are gathered to-
gether. For instances: Don't say to friend
GLOW stout you are growing. y No woman likes
to be told that she is growing or has grown stout.
If it be fact she is doubtless aware of it and
anxious to keep others from discovering it. You
would not think of saying to her, allow ugly you
are growing" yet what you have said is Of very
much the same nature, for most women consider
any approach to stoutness as so many steps taken
in the direction of the loss of beauty.
If you are really polite you will do all in your
power to turn your friends thoughts from any
distressing or annoying channel.
Don't say GLOW thin you are!" either, for both
women and men loathe to be told that they are
either stout or thin. Unless you can say elbow
well you are looking!" it were better to make no
remark on the personal appearance of your friend.
Don't tell a friend who has on a particularly be-
coming gown or bonnet that she looks ten years
A., 4, =, houo
seen her wear. That is at best but dubious
compliment. You mean it to be fattering, but it
is equivalent to saying, "All your other gowns are
unbecomlng and make you look DID," No woman
wants one garment praised at the expense of every
other that she possesses. Don't tell her, either,
that it is the most becoming thing you have ever
seen her wear That is an impeachment of her
taste heretofore, though you probably have no such
thought.
If you should notice bit of black court-plaster
on friends check, don't try to be witty by point
ing to it and asking her if she had been lighting.
Nothing could be less delicate. 1t forces her to
speak about it, and that certainly cannot be agree
able to her. She knows it is there certainly or IL
would not be there, hence it is superfuous as well
as offensive to speak of it.
In these days, when hair changes its color with
greater facility than the leopard changes its spots,
don't ask friend if her hair was not lighter or
darker some years ago when you first knew her.
Such question may be embarrassing to her, ana
may force her to explain what is entrelylher own
affair. Whatever pertains to ones toilet is oil
strictly private nature and the well bred stranger
Oh friend intermeddeth not
When elderly persons are don't present tell how
YOU dread and hate the thought of old age
Don't introduce subjects of conversation which
could prove offensive to any one present
In society, though you have beauty grace
wealth and learning, and have not tact-you have
nothing.