Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-07-01
THE ART OF ALL ARTS
DR.. De Witt Talmage breaches in the
Brooklyn Tabernacle on
HOW TO MAKE AND KEEP FRIENDS.
To Be Loved One Must Love others and Be
Ready to Sympathize.
PROPHETS OF EVIL HAVE NO FRIENDS

this morning, after the pastor, the Rev. T.
De Witt Talmage, ID. D., had made an ex-
position of a passage of Scripture, the con-
gregation, led by cornet and organ, sang
the hymn beginning:
Now have found a friend,
Jesus is mine.
DIR. Talmage's subject was "How to Make
Friends" and his text, Proverbs xviii. "a:
"a man that hath friends must show him
self friendly" He said:
About the sacred and divine ART Of making
and keeping friends 1 speak-a subject on
which never heard of anyone preaching-and
yet God thought it of enough Importance to
put it in the middle of the Bible these writings
of Solomon, bounded on one side by the popu-
lar Psalms of David and on the other by the
writings of Isaiah, the greatest of the prophets.
IL seems all matter of haphazard how many
friends we have, OF whether we have any
friends at ALL but there is nothing accidental
about It There is a law which governs the
accretion and dispersion of friendships. They
Qld not Just happen so" any more than the
tides just happen to rise OF fall or the sun lust
happens to rise or set. 1t is a science, an art
aGodgiven regulation. Tell me how friendly
you are to Others and l will tell you how
friendly others are TO you do not say you
Will not have enemies; indeed. the best way to
get ardent friends Is to have ardent enemies, if
you get their enmity in doing the right thing
Good men and women will always have enc
mics, because their goodness is a perpetual
Tep9ke to evil; but this antagonism of foes
Will make more intense the love of your ad-
herents.
YOUR FRIENDS WILL GATHER
closer around you because of the attacks of
Sorr assailants. The more your enemies abuse
you the better your coadjutors will think of
you. The best friends we ever had appeared
at some juncture when we were especially
oombarded. There have been times in my life
when unjust assault multiplied my friends, as
near as could calculate, about so a minute.
You are bound to some people by many cords
that neither time nor eternity can break, and
viii warrant that many of those cords were
twisted by hands malevolent. Human nature
was shipwrecked about SO centuries ago, the
captain of that craft, one Adam, and his first
mate, running the first cargo aground a
snag in the River Hiddekel; but there was at
least one good trait of human nature that
waded safely ashore from that shipwreck. and
that is the disposition TO take the part of those
unfairly dealt with.
When it is thoroughly demonstrated that
5ome one is being prosecuted, although at the
start slanderous tongues were busy enough, de-
lenders finally gather around as thick as honey
bees on trellis of bruised honeysuckle. If
when set upon by the furies. you can have grace
enough to keep your mouth Shut and preserve
your equipoise, and let others fight your bat
Ties you Will hnd yourself after awhile with a
whole Gordon of allies Had not the world
given to Christ on his arrival at Palestine a
very cold shoulder there would not have been
one-half as many angels chanting glory out of
the hymn books of the sky bound in black lids
OF midnight Had it not been for the heavy
ana Jagged and tortuous cross Christ would
not have been the admired and loved of more
people than any being who ever touched foot
on either the Eastern or Western hemisphere.
Instead, therefore, of giving up in despair be-
cause you have enemies, reioi .e in the fact
that they rally for you the most helpful and
entnnslasuc admirers. In other words there
1s no Virulence, human or diabolic, that can
hinder my text from coming true: "a man that
hath friends must show himself friendly"
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS.
II is my ambition to project especially upon
the young thought which may benignly shape
their destiny for the here and the hereafter
Before you show yourself friendly you must be
friendly. do not recommend a dramatized
geniality. There is such thing as pretending
10 be en- rapport with others when we are
their dire destructants, and talk against them
and wish them calamity. Judas covered up
his treachery by resounding kiss, and caresses
may be demoniacal Better the NEUROLOGICAL
Cerberus, the three-headed dog of hell, bark
Ing at us, than the wolf in sleeps clothing its
hrindled hide covered up by deceptive wool
and its deathful howl cadenced into an inno-
cent bleating.
Disreeh writes of Lord Manfred who, after
committing many outrages upon the people
seemed suddenly to become friendly and in
vited them TO a banquet After most of the
courses of food had been served re blew a
horn. which was in those times a signal for the
servants to bring on the dessert but in this
case it was the signal for assassins to enter and
slay the guests. His pretended friendliness
was cruel fraud; and there are now people
whose smile is a falsehood Before you begin |
70 show yourself friendly you must be friendly |
Get your heart right with God and man and
this grace will become easy. You may by your
own resolution get your nature into semblance !
of this virtue, but the grace of God can |
suolimely lift you into it. Sailing on the river
Thames two vessels ran aground. The owners |
of one got loo horses and pulled on the |
grounded ship and pulled it to pieces. The |
owners of the other grounded vessel waited till |
the tides came in and easily hoated the ship |
out of all trouble. So, we may pull and |
haul at our grounded human nature, and try TO |
get 1t INTO better condition; but there is |
nothing like the oceanic tides of Gods uplift- |
ing grace to hoist us into this kindlness / am |
eulogizing. If, when under the flash of the |
Holy Ghost wesee our own foibles and defects |
and depravities. we will be very lenient and
VERY EASY WITH OTHERS.
We will look into the characters for things
commendatory and not damnatory. If yon
would rub your own eye a little more vigor-
ously you would find a mote in it, the extrac-
tion Of which would keep you SO busy you
would not have much time to shoulder your
broadax and 90 forth to split up the beam in
your neighbor's eye. In Christian spirit keep
on exploring the characters of those you meet
and am sure you will find something in them
delightful and ft for a foundation of friendl- |
mesa You invite me to come to your country |
rive about noon of a beautiful summer day. !
What do you do? As soon as I ar |
shoao s,ve you take me out under the
take me down to the artificial lake. the spotted |
trout floating in ana out among the white pill |
lars OF the pond lilies You take me to the |
stalls and kennels where you keep your fine |
stock, and here are the Durham cattle and the |
Gordon settlers, and the high-stepping steeds |
by paving and neighing, the only language /
they can speak, asking for harness or saddle, |
and short turn down the road. Then we go |
back to the house, and you get me in the right |
light and show me the Kensetts and the B.er-
etadts on the wall, and take me into the music
room, and show me the bird cages the cana
ries in the bay window answering the robins In
the tree tops Thank youi l never enjoyed
myself more in the same length of time.
Now, why do we not do that way in regard to
and the music and the bright fou ntains? No
We say come along and let me show you that
mans character. Here is a green-scummed
frog-pond, and there's a filthy cellar, and 1
guess under that hedge there must be a black
snake Come and let us for an hour or two re-
gale ourselves with the nuisances. Oh, my
the virtues and this habit once established of
universal friendliness will become as easy as il
is this morning for syringa to food the air
with sweetness, as easy as 1t will be further on
in the season for quail to whistle up from the
grass. When we hear something bad about
Somebody whom always supposed to be
good, take out your lead pencil and saw: t.I,et
me seel Before / accept that baleful story
against that mans character, / will take off
ton which belongs to the man who first told
he story; then will take of Is per cent for
he additions which
THE SPIRIT OF GOSSIP
fnevery community has put upon the original
story; then will take off 25 per cent from the
fact that the man may have been put into cir
cumstances Of overpowering temptation. So
have taken of rs per cent. But have not
heard his side of the story at all, and for that
reason take OF the remaining 25 per cent"
Exclse me, sir don't believe a word OF it.
But here comes in q detective maxim, so often
quoted: "Where thero is SO much smoke there
must be some fire." Look at all the smoke for
years around Jenner. the introdacer of vaccin-
alton; and the smoke around Columbus the
discorerer: and the smoke around Martin |
Jutllss. and Sayonarola, and Calico. and Paul
and John, and Christ, and tell me where was
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