Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-02-09

The following questions have been selected
this week by Mrs. Sherwood for consideration,
as being Of general interest:
'E-" asks: IF . person Of some prominence In Q
country neighborhood who has lived o long time in
it. leaves the place permanently calling many Of
the families before leaving, and does not send . card
to Others with whom she has q slight acquaintance.
would IL be common sense for those neglected to
ogniEe this lady the street they should meet
would ii show self respect not TO recognize her
wise and shrewd old lawyer once said: 1T is not
best to show resentment at sights attaches
too much importance to the neglect"
Your wise and shrewd old lawyer was right.
1t would be far better to bow and to take no
notice of the omission. which possibly ac-
cidentaL If 1t was Intentional take all the
triumph out Of il by showing that il has not
reached you. Let the lightning strike below
you, always.
Virgil" asks: Suppose I am walking with lady
raise my hat.'
Always. Always
9 On my visiting card should. I have "Mr. George
smith" or George Smith," and should the name be
Yes, in script, and Mr.. George Smith is the
most fashionable.
Amateur asks if lady should rise to greet gen.
Yes, if she is hostess and if she is young she
should rise to greet one older than herself She
should always rise, if she can, TO greet a lady,
If you are in a lady's salon before she is, al
ways rise when she enters it,
A first call should be returned within a week.
"a, Etiquette" asks: "If young lady calls upon an
Gsner the parents Of both having met SHOULD she
lady's parents return the cally' 'N''e
This is a matter to be left to individual dis
erection, although it is much better taste to
leave ones mothers card.
HUSBANDS rrrIEs
s. H." asks: In introducing ladies to each other in
y parlOr. q bair h,Sl .lo
tes and in addressing them do you give them their
husbands ttles' For instance in addressing the
ing to her of him would you say the captainy'
Yes, certainly, you could say ''the captain. /"
or Captain Scott; but you could not call her
Mrs: Captain" No wife takes her husbands
title in America.
Florence" asks: "On which hand sbou,d the ON
eaeement ring be worm"
Always on the third finger of the left hand.
from which finger "a nerve runs to the heart, |"
so says an ancient legend
tends Reader asks IF lady innocently Of
and what H 9r sPoogs should he not answer it,
we should say he was very rude and worth
letting alone, very decidedly.
Jams" asks: "Mary J. Smith is the wife of n Z
rule to write Mrs. NJ. j. Smith," ~ '''eN '"e
This is mooted point. 1t is legal to write
CUSTOMARY
leave the widow her husbands name. As the
heroine OF modern novel remarks: "Women
nave no names. They are called only by the
name OF father or husband in whose houses
they happen to be living at the time"
fail 81 PERL asks IF gentleman correspondent
| an explanations' ~ anu AsA ior
No. Allow no tampering with your dignity.
mere are some questions which better not be
asked.
Again she asks: "when am STAYING with n very
a irend and two gentlemen call with Of whom
friend to the door when the gentlemen leave!5 49,
NO. Ladies never accompany their gentle
men guests to the door,
LEAVING CARDS.
IN. Waring' asks in a most sensible letter: envy
husbands young sister and myself are business peo
pie and we received short time ago an invitation 10
slightly also the announce of the brides rT
non day; We are too busy to find time for calling
IN the evening. We wish 70 show an appreciation Of
If in what way and at what hour i We SEND cards
Cards should be sent either by post or a
| special messenger, in envelopes, on the recep-
ton day, during the reception, or left by some
friend; perhaps the last would be most cordial
and most friendly.
Faith Street, writes: aswill you ple..e ,n,o-, m.
what to have for informal lunch of 1--WE or six ladies
oEw 70 the same Is i proper TO offer
an lunch Su sss table do
viting." oA'n's Ana IN
We should suggest beginning with bouillon i'm
cups, and then oysters on the half she'll to be
followed by chops and peas, sweetbreads or
perhaps flet de bout, birds, salad and a bit
Of cheese. The dessert can be one form ~
some delicate ice, and can well be put on the
table. Coffee is offered by some hostesses, but
rarely chocolate or tea
OF course the bill of fare can be varied indefi-
nltely. Chicken in various forms, croquettes,
and supreme de volatile" being the best.
I'm Doubt asks 'In making social calls is IL proper
office hours and should her social card bear M D. or
We should suppose the same etiquette should
be observed by a female physician as that
which marks one of the Steiner sex. The BUSH
ness card is never used socially.
THE roorHPIcK QUESTION.
Mrs. R." writes: "Do well-bred people use tooth.
picks out Of the dining board at hotel where
there are so-caed fashionable people, men and women
picks the Of which is dsasreesSs to reneS per
We should not expect these ladies and gen.
tlemen to bring their tooth mugs and brushes
into the parlor, or their toothpicks. All these
little personal matters must be left to the good
taste Of individuals. However. il cannot be
called a crime to be bad hammered; il is only
disagreeable.
Attention to these minor details Of good
manners is a proof at once Of self respect and
OF our respect for our fellow creatures. Thew
soon become matters of habit, of second ma
ture. To the well bred they are second nature.
No one who is DESTROYS Of pleasing in society
should neglect them.
Bertha Oppenheim" writes: 81 am Q German eov-
erness living in Philadelphia. have brought letters
70 many distinguished learned men from my father
who professor in Heaelberg. Shall call and de-
these lettersl Those have sent by post have not
been answered Mrs. NJ, with whom live says; NO
lady calls on gentleman unless professionally or on
cially.' Now, what am TO dos"
1t would be proper for the German govern
ess to call, with her letter, on a lawyer doctor.
or clergyman, send in her card and letter, and
await his pleasure. Gentlemen in business,
as In banks or large stores, do not like TO be
interrupted, but doubtless, after seing her let
ter, they would not object to seeing her.
BOWLING ETIQUETTE.
"selina" writes: II lady bows 70 me warmly one