Omaha daily bee., 1889-10-27
THE VALUE OF A CHAPERON.
Young Girls Should Be Guided By
Older Heads.
True RULES OF ETIQUETTE.
They Are Founded on Good Sense and
should Not BE Disregarded BY
... the independent Amer
'-i.t lean Maiden.
Girls, Chaperons.

chapefon lor any young glTl HuSN hsoureuS
be the mother she who has broodcd over |
her fedgling when baby with tender de- |
votion, who has watched her sweet bud OF
promise mature, who has from year TO year
assisted the development of the being con.
fided 10 her care.
AS the skilful gardener knows well in ad-
vance the effect he seeks to produce upon
his flowers by assiduous culture,, knows
even the delicate shading TO be looked for as
each petal expands, so goou mother holds
in her heart hidden lore, connected with
the life OF her child, all unknown TO the
rest OF the world. she may not be able to
communicate this knowledge to others,
for il is hers by the sacred right Of intui-
ton.
This prcrogative of guidance q mother
NAV always Justly claim. ~ is part OF the
holy mystery OF motherhood.
To our apprehension this matter of mater
nal chaperonage does not seem an adoption
to the artificial requirements of the social
world, but rather an inherent rght-a nat
ural claim, which n wise and careful mother
cannot well forego.
AT the very time when her child is
launched forth from the safe and sheltered
home moorings into the
SWIFT AND DANGEROUS CURRENTS
of the voyage of life, the mother is most
needed to pilot her dear charge past all
uuicksands and sunken ROCKS.
She can supply by her knowlcge the ignor-
o,co oe uoutb
.,,,t 80, , .hool, o.ha, o,on.
"ou'u noo ASK "nS 'uoo,- ., nio'u1' ouap-
eroh her uauBnter, ouo ratner iorpuiaVo my
question ln TO- why snouiu ho1uer ho1
chapcron her daughters
tim II viii he found more diNicult 70 proye
fha negutiva ana yvhen the subiect ia once
I,roneriy understood IL must be conceded
tbat n mo,her ehould assurodlv continue her
c.ro
There eyists no reason why she should not
Rut the question becomes rather more
comnlicated perhnps when the mother NAV
have died or when from any cnuse. IL he
comes imnosssible for her to perform this
intv
TyS,n tho Amer,c.n cir, asserts herse,f
She has been reared to ain Indepenaence of
tbonrht aud action which makes her dissntis
Red ,vitb All resira MT
She constrnes chaneronape as esrionaVe
She declares rhat she will not ,olernte be
inc watched and nvers that sbe mpst ne al.
lowed entire freedom and liberty of action.
nnd aho nsserts maj her own nercent,ons of
,iuht n nd wrong and her innate deIj,acv of
sentiment are all that is needed to make il
onite an fc for her To 90 wherever and when.
aver ahe chooses and IN do whatever she
wills m do
Now this Ia true and H. ia not true
Il, tho Rrst nlncc in ia a mistake IN con-
found choneronage with esnionnue
TO suppose that a chaperon is a spy on
ones actions is n peryersion of the proper
fnnc,ions of smch an oilics,
= a chaneron ia e;tner a mother or co
.lected matronlv friend. whose tender inter
ast ~ friendiincss 10 tho hest sunrnntoe
oSains, misconstrnction e'''' any
"a ,,onn,, grl ia snnnosed IN l,a
20 - e. - - - 49,
'.ag oeithhrS'' A'iAr,1 A,O .oHf intN''
These are very loVable traits, which Will
doubtless some day contribute to the happi-
ness of home circle OF her own; but Just
IN proportion as these attractions exist they
become dangerous without guidance from
their very nature, and on account OF the in
experience OF youth.
Then young girls, even II ever 30 carefully
trained, as to understand the nicer conven-
tloualltlsS thaI reSulute the ponte world,
are inclined to be needless, and carried away
for the time being by tho exhilaraton OF n
gay lie. Ihus, Win the pest aisposltion 10
do only what is proper, they commit errors
that IN measure misreprcsent them, and
winch they aiterward rcgret.
Now, 1t is obvious that the dlgnihed pres
ence OF matron who loves them, or is all in
terested In them, would check all inadvert-
ent indlrection from the outset, ana thus In
the END greatly contrioute TO thelr future
Wet-being ana happiness.
The situations are lnnumerable that sug-
gest themselves Where such safeguard
would be the greatest Kindness.
The French have pithy saying, that sit
is the first step that costs" How true! AT
what cost of vain and unavaiiing regret
might the wise chaperon spare needless
grill
A facility of broken engagements as well
MS OF divorce would seem TO 20 hand in hand.
IL is in either case broken troth.
Now one OF the special duties OF the
mother or the chaperon is to guard their
marriageable wards as far as possible in re-
ceiving the attentions of men.
An engagemene, announced or unau-
Dounced, is always more or less compromis.
ing, aud should In honor be deemed sacred
promise not 10 be violated unless for grave
and most serious reasons.
young girl unguided is not very apt to
weigh all consequences and the future Is TO
her very dreamy. she
LIVES IN HER EMOTIONS
and in the present, ana sadly needs the aid OF
par VI rosmk Spoooao'ou p' oyes " mahe nei
,rho.a ara so manv Ii,t,e tbi,ys which or.
rot so tr;viai os thsy ,vonid ssen ,yha,o y =
,,a,r 'p" ~ indoemcnt 10 needed For ,nst"mca in
.inn,ot,asnr a1 rncaiyins, nrosants t. i -,
stona ,bo, y gentleman has tho nri,e,ara ~
ouSinr IA ao1ysra and nerhana !, ttha trIe,S
sSie ia S,ynu nstahIished hores ~ hnn.-nons "
ia AZ 20 nresants hagino " ,aono,, ,taio
haw sus. oro oS course ont Of ,he nnnst;nn '"'ue
So, III no greouent accen,ancet of aHnn ,booo