The Lake Charles echo. [volume] (Lake Charles, Parish of Calcasieu, La.) 1876-1898, 1889-08-16
LEARN THE ART OF LEAVING.
Visitors Who Cannot Realize That They
Arc Making Bores Of Themselves.

VlaltOrB VINO SaEnoE h1a1lAo 1hhI Ehsy
Are Making Bores Of Themselves.
When Nine. de Stael visited Wei
mar with the avowed intention Of
intellectually capturing the literary
lions Of the day-Goethe and Schiller
she made one fatal mistake; she
stayed too long. Goethe wrote TO
Schiller; Mime de Stael is a bright,
entertaining person, but she ought to
know when it is time TO 60" Besides
not knowing when to go, it is evident
from incidents recorded Of her journey
that she did not know how to 60. She
fingered after she had started. II is
related of her that at one place, after
she had ordered her carriage and an.
nounced her intention Of departing in
the morning, she started a conversa-
ton which she vigorously kept up
| until II was SO near noon that her host
and hostess could but press her TO stay
for luncheon. This over, the conver-
satiOn was again resumed, nor allowed
TO flag until il was so near evening
that the strained courtesy OF her en-
tertainers could but suggest that the
horses be taken from the carriage,
which had waited at the gate all day
and that's stay another night, which
she did.
1t is Disraei who, in "Lothair,
puts in the mouth of Theodore the
sentiment that no one should ever say
good by, but in departing fade away
like a summer cloud 1t is probable
that the great statesman and novelist
wrote this after a parting interview
with some one who had bored him
with tedious faFewells who under
stood not the art of leaving. For in
the naFrOwest and choicest circle of
friends and acquaintances there are
usually some persons the pleasure Of
whose visits or calls, whether OF bust
ness or of pleasure, is marred by the
fact that they do not seem to know
how TO 60 For when a friend or
caller departs we are either glad, sorry
or indifferent, II we are glad we de-
sire TO be brief; if we are sorry the
quicker the painful scene is ended the
better; if we are indifferent we
gFudge the draft on our time, if we are
busy, as the most of US are, with the
pressing affairs of life.
The art of leaving is less understood
by women than by men. The habits
OF business, the recognized fact that to
a business man time is money, the
thPong and press and exactingness of
business life all tend to make men who
live in cities the best possible exemp-
lars Of the fine art of leaving quickly
and neatly. A business mans social
call is usually model of good man
neFs in this respect When he has
said what he has 10 say and listened to
what there is to hear he takes his hat,
says good evening"" and is out Of
your presence without giving any time
or chance for the too often tedious and
embarrassing cOmmonpiaces of mu-
tual invitations and promises to call
again which seem TO be kind of So
cial formula with women. In striking
contrast with this neat and skillful
method of cutting short the parting
words of an interview or call is the too
common social practice of visitors who,
commencing TO leave, seem temper
arily to abandon their purposes and
then linger as though it were a kind
OF compliment to the visiting party to
appear loath TO part company. Who
does not dread the visitor who starts,
then thinks OF something else to say;
rises, and then thinks of another sub
ject Of conversation; nearly reaches
the door, and, most probably holding
it open, is aroused to q degree of men
tal bFilliancy that threatens his health
and that of his host or hostess by long
OBTAINING of both in a cold draft while
he discourses2 What tax on the pa
tience and politeness of the listener,
who Vainly strives by asserting in
stantly to every proposition to end the
interview and break the restraining
bond Of polite attention.
The equally annoying counterpart
Of the tedious caller who does not I'M
derstand the art Of leaving, is found
in the person who seems anxious to
detain the caller attempting to leave
and WHO makes protests or Introduces
new subjects OF conversation al the |
critical moment. The art OF leaving
on The part OF the visitor needs 10 be !
supplemented by the art Of letting 90 |
on The part of the host. Welcome |
the coming, speed the parting guest,H |
i classic maxim Of good society
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