Waterbury evening Democrat., 1889-09-17
HOW TO BE ATTRACTIVE.
A Really Homely Woman May Be Mos
 Entertaining and 2 Eayorita

HOW TO BE ATTRACTIVE.
 A Really Homely Woman May Be Most
 Entertaining and Favorite.
 There IS an old saying that to become
 beautiful one must never look in a mirror.
 remember reading this maxim in a fairy
 tale book when young and credulous enough
 to interpret things literally, writes "Selene,
 in the Baltimore American. My youth did
 not counterbalance my natural feminine
 vanity. Ilonged to be beautiful, because
 In the fairy tales the beautiful maidens
 were always the ones about whom all the
 interest hung. So I determined I, too,
 would follow the injunction laid down by
 the godmother
 l summed the looking-glass studiously
 and 80 pointedly that my older sisters re-
 marked tho sudden change. Iremained un-
 communicative and altered my tactics
 stood before the mirror with my eyes closed,
 so as to mislead them. One day I forgot
 and opened my eyes, when To! instead of
 Deholdlng long, shining ringlets, milk white
 skin and star-like eyes, such as had reward
 ed the girl in the story book, my own plain
 little face looked at me in grieved surprise
 from the mirror. l was, indeed, sorry
 enough sight with my frill awry, my hat on
 exactly backwards! And this, after my ef-
 forts of weeks. Twas then 1 learned that suo "oAAu Was HOLLOW ana my OOll was
 stuffed with saw-dust." That childish ex-
 periencc was not without its influence on
 my character. I became a small cynic
 Now have learned the true meaning of
 the fairy tale.
 The world Of women pays too much heed
 to its looking -glass-the mere physical
 beauty is gazed upon and thought of to the
 neglect of all else, because there is a popular
 belief af1oat that only beautiful women are
 attractive. Women who arc plain, beyond all possibility of ever becoming handsome, still devote their time to their personal adornment, under the impression that by so doing they will become better looking and moro charming, when in reality if they would turn their backs upon their mirrors they might indeed far outshine the beauti- ful women around them. If they would de- vote the time they now waste in vain en- deavors for physical improvement to culti- vating their minds, improving their man. ners and conversation, they would find, like
 the maiden of the fairy tale, that the mirror was Ca delusion and snare"
 The most attractive women in society to- day arc not the acknowledged beauties in many instances. Often we see the homeliest girl in an assemblage the recipient of the most favors, because of her bright manners, her brilliant conversation, or her keen wit. Such one reigns supreme when the in sipid beauty of the season is no longer ad- mired. Beauty is of itself attractive; it pleases the eye and charms the beholder for awhile, but beauty alone will not make woman popular.
 Women are much like flowers; the ones that have beauty and mind, well cultivated, arc like the flowers with beauty and fra grance-they are never-ending sources of delight. Oth,rs are fair to look upon, but a close inspection discovers Q thorn. The third kind are like the homely wall flower, neither handsome or graceful, but so full of sweetness that to be near them is joy mex pressible. So maNy girls, who arc brought up with the knowledge that they are gifted with forms and faces of unusual loveliness, depend too much upon these advantages for their success in llfe. They never realize the necessity of applying themselves to the acquisition of knowledge;- they grow to womanhood with meager educations, no ac- complishmentS, and a much exaggerated opinion of their charms. The result is that they enjoy olhy for a brief time the prestige for which they are so ambitious.
 Some of the plaiGest women ever knew were the greatest favorites. Their presence in room was the signal for good humor ed enjoyment. Time never Jagged when they were of the party. The lack of mere facial symmetry was forgotten when under the spell of their genial influence It is not un- usual to see Q handsome man welded to q homely woman. We have all heard, and perhaps made the remark, "Why, what did such good-Aooking man ever see in that woman to love?" We are thinking of only the outward appearance, when, in truth, the character of such a woman may be so love- ly and attractive to those who know her that none would have her different if they could It Is great pity when a girl allows herself <rNr lSo<,N tod -l~~ her looks. When this is the case it is timo for her to heed the fairy's warning and shun the mirror by thinking less of appear ances and moro of other things.
 1 1know most attractive girl, who is far from pretty. heard her once say ill reply to a remark that she was always so jolly and pleasant: ''Ycs, I have to be so or be considered a nonentity, for you know haven't Madge's beauty to take mo over dull places" And this plain girl, by her own efforts to please, succeeded in. winning friends and warm admirers on every hand She realized her lack of beauty, and know ing that she could never remodel the phys iognomy God had given her, she bent her energies in another direction, and made the most of the heart and mind which it is pos sible for all to develop and improve. In Europe today the Princess Metternich Is always greeted with enthusiasm and ad- miration because of her gracious and win ming manner, although she is universally considered one of the homeliest women in society.
 All women are capable of being attractive If they would only exert themselves suf1- ciently. There Is where the charm of the homcly woman lies-in her desire to make the most of her capabilities. Realizing that she has no beauty of feature, she turns her attention to becoming fine conversational. ist Ca most delightful accomplishment, by the way), a brilliant musician, or making the best of whatever happens to be her spec ial talent.
 Descent Into the Grand Canyon. 'I went to the bottom of the Grand Canyon of the Colorado last winter" said w. T. Hart to St. Louis Globe-Democrat reporter ttand am one of tho few men who