The Newtown bee., 1889-09-27
sEwrows, CONN, FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER a7
sELFIsHNEsS.

thhb biggest, stfouSesb, uShcst Ohe, selt. The sweetest, healthIest roses, the gay est scarlet peoples in the golden corn, of which our dear Alice Cary loved to sing the forget-me-nots and hardy sweet peas tangled and rollicking over the home garden walls--eaeh and all hate this rank, miserable, strongly-rooted weed.
 Does 1t always grow in the 'sQueen's- Gardensgr Just ask the faithful Kings Daughters and the gardeners as they prune and dig, transplant and water, with tears and struggles How it thrives in the beds of mellow earth, hiding the pretty tufts of bloom under their aggres- slve, overbearing headsl
 Sturgeon says to the young people, Don't pray to be kept from the tortures of the inquisition, but for grace to for get yourselves in some work for others.v The fact Is, selflshness thrives best at home. A great philanthropist says, "Iiow much easier to give time, money and patience to the outside world, than to mother, wife and sisters in the smaller homelier duties of busy life.r
 According to Aunt Roxy" it isl ''dreadful true" that "boys love some body else sisters better than their own," and some families seem to carry on a whole system of selfish education from the nursery to the college.
 Dear Joel ''Home Is nice place to han from and rest in" Mary, do hand me the paper" ''Just step to the door and see what mother wants" s'Susie, there's dear, now get me my tennis shoes and mail these letters.n The spoil cd boy talks like that to his sisters now. After awhile, he makes some other pretty girl his willing slave. How hateful and repulsive such man becomes. He wins power and greatness, but never loveli- ness. He may wrestle like Jacob with the angel, but, before the wife he loves, will be defeated and chagrined; the sell fish, lordly boy unconsciotsly becomes the selfish, marrow husband.
 Dante says: s''rhe souls in another For God, for the devil and those for neither; just for themselves Some oi them must be left yet.
 Why should Jack leave the pillows and books on the grass 'sfor the girls to bring ingn Why leave the blacking box in the dlning-room, or the soiled cuffs and hand kerchiefs in the hall for Mary to put away? What ails his strong young arms and stout young legs? How many famil- ies struggle and toll that John and Mary go through college; that they dress to please fastidious taste; that they take their places among the best; and not ont thought Is given to the dear ones who barely have the necessities of life
 Really generous and noble childrer grow apart and selfish from the careless early neglect of home courtesy: Tn, "Good-mornings" and "Good-nights, , the small acts of loving thoughtfulnes flor loves sweet sake.'' ''Uncle Jacob left one million dollars to his five niece and nephews, of whom he said simply "They loved to help one another'
 l know a pretty sister who, after year of nervous disease and suffering, was giy en up by her family and physicians. Tn elder brother took her to a specialist where she entirely recovered her health Years of frugal self-denial, no operas, n dinners, no new books, but frequent wis it's to the little sister. Do you wonde Brother" is all the world to that family He still finds money and love enough t educate his two younger sisters.
 On my way to Colorado, little bab, cried pitifully in the night, disturbing al in the sleeper. Down the dimly lighte, aisle,I saw young man about 20 sittin; on the edge of his berth, with the cur tains drawn back, holding sobbln, child. vainly he rocked back and forth sang softly and low, kissed the fair, sof cheek, held the curly head close to hi neck.
 I said, ''Let me take the baby. Tn used to children.n
 He gave the little sister into my arms with q sad, ''Thank you, madam" an' only said, "She misses our mother so. I Is only two days"
 He told me no story, asked no ques tions, but as the lonely little lamb sighe, itself to sleep on my bosom, I felt very sure that the mother of that boy smile, in heaven as the angels do, with no fear for his future.
 Charles Sumner had page in the Sen ate whose father was killed in battle The young mother and three little sister were left destitute. To the day of tn great mans death, he kept the son in goo, business. He said to Owen Lovejoy on day, 'sThat boy makes child of me; weep sometimes to see the unselfishnes of his heart. Everything he has or en Joys is poured out on his little family; actually have to buy his shoes, for h uses the money to give Bessie slippers never loved child SO in my life, Love joy; yeu and might improve, heyr'
 Selfishness Is SO hateful As 'sthe smil of the hostess is the cream of the feast, SO Is the girl or boy the big, strong steady lamp that glows in the household ton cloudy days or fine" Sunshin within and sunshine without will only b coaxed by-a constant thinking of other moro than yourself. The discipline an culture of home feed only upon it. W, manly tenderness broods over the brotl CT, but protecting comradeship makes til bond sacred and beautiful. They ser, one another with the same delicacy tn, they carry Into other homes, where the are honored guests.
 Maggie says. "Marry that man? Ne CT He loves mel He Is worth millions He Is a brilliant, brainy fellowl but went to college with his sisters. Tho were slaves to the cynical, selfish brot or, mud no son who speaks carelessly
 the old people, will rule over mel"
 How easy to be eyes for mother, to young feet for father, to save them stel and carel Let me bring the papers al