The Daily bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Hawaii]) 1882-1895, 1889-03-23
Is MARRIAGE A EAlLuRE2

nSSVlSS bA uhS DSbdNlhS Nfluu' Oh
Thursday night, in support of the
proposition that marriage is fail
ure -
1t requires more than an ordinary
amount of nerve to come forward
and assert and endeavor to prove
that the greatest fundamental prin-
cipal which rules and governs the
world socially, religiousIy and NOR
ally, is failure; yet shall attempt
it this evening, not with the feelings
of an Iconoclast, but as an humble
seeker after truth, and with an
earnest desire to be convinced that
| am in error.
l would first ask, What is this
marriage!
From time immcmorial, we find
men and women uniting themselves
for the procreation and propagation
of the species. This was, and is,
actual marriage. The various pas
sions, love, lust, hate, indifference,
jealousy, love of change, disillusion~
ment, springing naturally from the
heart, caused and are causing now
the millions of changes, the great
kaleidoscope of life, called mar
riage.
Hence it became necessary for
the worlds good to enact laws, and
it was then that the marriage or
union of two persons became q re-
ligious ceremony called a sacrament,
divine institution, holy compact,
an indissoluble bond, Gods holy
ordinance, while it was actually u
civil human compact made by man
for man, in the general interests of
morality, the rights of primogeni-
ture and the advance of civilization.
That the theory of marriage is
beautiful is an incontroverlible fact.
Let me say right here tonight, that
| regard marriage rs the grandest
of all institutions among men! With
out the firesidc there is no human
advancement; without family rela-
tionS there is no lite worth living.
Let me say right here, and I've
thought Il laundering lot about it.
the grandest ambition that any man
can possibly have is to live and i'm
prove himself in heart and brain, as
to be worthy of the love of good
woman. And the man who has
honestly won, and can keep the
love of one good woman in this
world, L don't care if he dies in a
ditch Il beggar, | say his life has
been q success.
And further | say that the man
who can proudly look around in the
haliowed precincts of his own home,
and see his stalwart sons and beauti.
full daughters gathered around him
in health. love and comfort, need
not wish TO change his old arm
chair for q kings throne.
And | say, that the purifying anC
ennobling influence of true woman
who loves and respects her husband
is the most powerful incentive tc
elevate hun in the social and mora
scale, and her gentle sympathy anc
never ceasing tenderness and self
sacrifice, are ever influencing him t.
better, purer and gentler thought
and deeds.
see that my friend on the othe
side is looking rather puzzled. H
doubtless thinks | got hold of tn
other side of the question, or tn
wrong pig by the ear. Never mind
if you'll only let me finish, I'll ge
there all the same.
l have spoken of marriage as it i
in theory.
+ 1.-TWO minds with but a single thought
: 1.-Two hearts that beat rs one"
E ''The pure minded and industri
Gus husband, who lives but to to
increasingly for his home, and VIII
never leaves his wife, unless to labo
for her happiness and comfort, tn
domestic loving wife who spends he
{, days in adorning and identifying he
Il home and lives only in the hour
when her beloved husband is wit
= her. don't seem to me to be knocl
q ing round everywhere, as far as l.,
Il travelled. If there's many of th.
5. type of husbands and wives in II,
u nolulu, they keep pretty much OF
IL of sight.
q But the solid and unhappy fat
IS remains, and our police courts, OF
~ divorce courts, and our domest
III scandals, are but unfortunate, b,
ie truthful witnesses, that marriage
rs failure.
'h We are told that marriages a
AZ made in heaven. guess it must ha
rs been the chaplain of the fleet,
or some other lying gospel sharp til
he told that lie, and to every man
ch common sense and worldly llno
ledge, it is well known fact, tn
domestic unhappncss and ill-assol
ed marriages is one OF the chi
causes that Till our streets, our lur
ne tic asylums and our jails.
OF Man may ask in marriage, WON
Ike must wait to be asked, is evil No.
ry Why should this he? All thin
ow being equal, why should not "
cy man show her preference as well
lid the man?
he AS II result from this mani;
made by man, Il woman does !
mo- marry the man she loves. but