Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-04-14
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Places.
WRITTEN FOR THE DIsPATCH.1
This week a number of new points on
manners and social usages are brought out
bv the queries of those persons who are an1-
ious to do the right thing at the right time.
The author of Don't" covers a wide range
of subjects in the following answers:
Win you be so kind as to inform mein regard
to the following questions: l. What is the
proper way to serve and prepare lettuceI
Should il be prepared before 1t is brought on TO
the table, or should each individual prepare it
to his taste? 2 How should you address
young man to whom you are obliged to send
note? The gentleman you have met only twice
and the note is one pertaining to an entertain
ment in which you are both interested. g. A
gentleman friend gives an informal card party,
Invitations verbal Is it necessary to call on
his mother or him? And should you leave cards
for both? 4 What is the greatest number OF
times proper for two people to dance together
in one evening? s. Is It ever proper for two or
more young ladies to attend a matinee without
a chaperone? kITTIE.
/ Lettuce can be prepared with a French
dressing, a Mayonaise sauce. The French dress
ing. which is oil, salt and pepper, should be
thoroughly mixed and a little vinegar added
Just before serving. 1t should be prepared in
the salad dish before it is brought to the table
and served either with a course or on a small
saucer for the purpose. At informal dinners it
prepare the salad at the table, as q salad is
better the fresher it is served. 2. 1t should be
written in the third person, Miss B.'s compli-
ments to Mr. s.. and would be" etc. 8, 1t is
incumbent to call upon the genLleman's
mother or leave card. Do not leave card
for the gentleman. 4 Not more than two or
three times. 5. 1t may be proper, but it Is
much more decorous to 90 with an elderly lady.
TITLES ON CARDS.
You said last Sunday it is proper for physi-
clan to have his cards mot business) printed
DR.. Smith or Smith, NJ d. Is it proper for one
who was judge or an officer in the army TO
use that title on his calling cards? If not, is it
proper for one now in the army or now on the
bench to use his title on his cards3
The usage in regard to titles on visiting
cards is somewhat contradictory. Every citi-
zen is entitled by custom to use the prefix
Mr." to his name. but with class is the afix
ESQ" put on visiting card. Officers of the
army or navy always give their titles, as. Col.
]. &. Smith, Q. S. Army, or Admiral Jones, Q.
S. Navy, b 1t no one having the courtesy title
of Honor .blen sho Id use it in this way.
Clergymen use Rev" but the legal profession
has no recognized form for the purpose. The
Justices of the United States Court commonly
print their cards ''Mr. Justice" following with
the last name but judges of other courts do
not as a rule use their official title on their
visiting cards.
-tss-~. TEA GOWNS.
Would it be in good taste for a young lady to
wear tea gown to whist party given at her
own house. HARVARD.
Yes Tea gowns are worn at home on all oc-
casions, such as evening receptions, o'clock
teas, musicales or card parties?
HOW TO USE A FORK PROPERLY.
Noticed some time ago a statement that it
was mark of American Il-breeding to eat
with the fork in the right hand and have the
knife laid across the plate. 1t would be ex-
tremely awkward TO use the fork with the left
hand. Will you please inform me what would
be the method of holding the fork a la mode?
X.Y.Z.
Forks are used in the right hand for all
courses consisting of soft food. Weus the fork
in the right hand for oysters on the half-shelI +
for fish (when served without silver kuife),
with many entrees, and for pastry. In all
dishes served with meat, such as potatoes, peas,
ETC., the fork is retained in the left hand. The
method of holding fork is for the end of the
handle to rest in the hollow of the hand, when
used in the left hand, with the prongs down.
When used in the right hand, with the prongs
up, the handle must rest between the thumb
and finger. The fork is very often awkwardly
used grasped between the fingers of the left
hand. An elegant eater is known as much by
the manner in which he manages his fork as by
cate the right method by description.
A LOVERS sPAT.
When young gentleman calls to accompany
young lady to church which should propose
going? Two LITTLE SIMPLEToNs.
Have the two little simpletons been quarrel
ing? Why could not either of the little sim
pletons say TO the other. "If you are quite
ready shall we not go?' We are not called
upon to tie up our conduct in a number Of for!
NAL rules. A little kindness, a little Difference
o little regard for the convenience of others
will solve difficulties of the kind that has ap-
parently embarrassed the ''little simpletons."
BALL ESCORT.
Should young lady (who unfortunately has
not among her near relatives and friends an
3 bah when the acouaintance with the gentle
man was only from dancing school. of which
both were pupils? She considers him perfect
gentleman, but owing to the fact that she
knows nothing further about him and his sur
rounding circumstances and having never met
him OF been introduced to him at any other
place than the dancing school, she declined to
accept his invitation, though she would much
rather have accepted. Please inform me If
the lady could accept an invitation under such
circumstances and comply with the accepted
rules of proper etiquette. LOUISE.
A young lady should not accept the escort of
any gentleman for ball unless she knows him
thoroughly well. In fact, she cannot, accord
ing to the strict social code, accept the invita-
tion of any gentleman for party or ball unless
she is chaperoned. but the laws of the chaper-
one are of uncertain application in this
country.
EATING OLIVES.
l. How should one eat olives at table? 2 In
going through a crowd who should take the
lead, the lady or gentleman
L Take up the olive with the fingers as you
would grape or a raisin. 2 The man.
VISITING CARDS.
Should the name on visiting card be given
in full. LENA B.
According to the latest fashion the name
should not be engraved with an initial, but
printed in full. Under the operation of the
rule people with only two names have cause to
rejoice. A treble name is often clumsy. What
fine noble ring has the name of George Wash
ington? How different it would sound if it
were George P. Washington, or George Peters
Washington The fad of having the names in
full is, of course, derived from the English,
who commonly write their names in full or
with both initials-as, J. s. Mill, or John Stuart
Mil.
A QUESTION OF SUPPER.
Will you please answer the following ques-
fions through the paper J. Is il considered
proper for q gentleman. At q dancing party,
when refreshments are announced, to take out
whatever lady he NAV happen to be dancing or
cOnversing with; or should he always go out to
supper with the lady whom he escorted to the
party. 2 When a gentleman calls to escort a
lady to some place of amusement, whose place
is to say when to go? DICK.
/. 1t is imperative upon gentleman who has
escorted alady to a party to take her to the
supper room II he is conversing with another
lady when Refreshments are announced he