The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1889-04-18
WILT THOU BE MINE.
Receipt for Making a Proposal.
Orlando (Fla.) Herald.

OrtanaG lftd.) licfGtG.
A girl may, in the sweetness of her
heart, overlook the clumSiness of q
wooer, aud pledge herself to man whose
offer has not been made in the proper
form; life is full Of such instances as
feminine charity. But the thing will
rankle in her mind, be she thrice an an.
gel, and sooner or later, he will encounter
the rebuff his awkwardness deserved at
the outset, aad suffer the more because
be has hoped to escape his punishment.
How then ought man to propose.
How is he to avoid the method lacking in
adroitness, the which, if he haplessly en-
ploy it, must result in his more or less
immediate discontinue?
WIEN YOU PROPOSE TO LADY, ASK
HER TO MARRY YOU.
You must make it clear that you ask
her, for men have been known to betroth
themselves to Angela, when they really
meant to ask Angela to countenance their
suit to Angela's sister. A proposal is
like bullet from 100.ton gun, a forci.
BILE and weighty missive, which must be
speeded in the right direction and no
other.
You must be sure that you ask her to
marry you, Nothing is easier than for q
bashful man to persuade himself that be
has arranged marriage with Angela,
when in fact he has only secured her
hand for the cotillion. The converse OBJ.
tains, too-it is dreadful position in
which you place yourself, if you wan. to
dance with Angela for an hour, and in
your fervor give her to understand that
it is lifelong partnership which you
propose.
Again you must ask her to marry you.
Make it plain that it is for yourself that
you propose; Miles Standish did we'll on
another tack, but his was an exceptional
case. If Angela had been iu doubt
whether to give her heart to your friend
Billy, and you, in the obliquity of your
wretched delicacy, begin your set speech
with modest disquisition upon Billy's
superior claims to her favor and (men not
uncommonly grow mock modest in the af.
fairs of the heart) Angela may suppose
that it is for Billy that you plead, and be
disgusted with you both, thinking you a
numskull not to speak for yourself, and
Billy doubly afnumskull to let you con-
duct for him a negotiation which every
man should conduct for himself.
AVOID FIGURES OF SPEECH AND CIR.
cuMLoCUr1oNs.
I have heard a man (he subsequently,
married termagant, and served himself
rightly boast that he had never put it in
any woman's power to say to him no,
plumpy. 1t was the habit-of this rufian
when he desired to offer his hand to a
lady, to disguise his meaning in para
BILE; so to put the matter to her that if
she wanted to marry him she might say
so, and if not might avoid the issue.
He was coward, of course, sneak as
we'll. Think oft from. the standpoint of
Angela In leaving himself safe he put
her in the most hideous position imagin.
able. For if she inclined to marry him,
and said 80, she left it quite open for him
to say "My dear Miss Angela, you alto.
gether misunderstood me. When ask.
ed you if you would confde your life to
my keeping I had no such purpose as you
imagine, but intended merely to ask if
you would share my buggy with me to-
morrow evening, and rely upon my
bringing you home in safety without an
upset"
AVOID D1eREss1oNs.