Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-10-20
LOVES YOUNG DREAM
Rudely Shattered by the Trials and
Vexations Of Housekeeping.
SOME MISTAKES MADE BY BRIDES.
Bad Policy of Furnishing House Accord.
ing to Manual.
THE BABY KINGS REIGN OF TERROR
WRITTEN FOR THE DISPATCH. !

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keeping for the first time, and-so to speak
-on "their own hook" This charming ex-
perience of the holy estate of matrimony
never comes but once, and that is when in
the heyday of youth and young loves
dream, young couple with minds crowded
by blissful anticipations enter upon life as
husband and wife in home of their own.
The greatest charm of going to house.
keeping is not given to those who wear off
the first freshness OF mutual love in board
| ing house, or in a sojourn with friends or
relatives, though even with these the change
| from such lite to their own house has much
of pleasure, even if only due to novelty and
the sense of freedom and independence. 1t
is a luxury to get away from the prying
! eyes of the other boarders-to get away
| from the necessity of being agreeable
to bores, to escape from the tireless
tongues of the idle women who chronicle
small beer" and retail scandals with the
prefacing remark, "Now don't you ever let
on told you"-to be released from the stale
| jokes and long stories of the conceited man,
who will tell them over a dozen times and
expect his hearers to be amused and enter
tained. So, after certain amount of board
| ing. the picture of home of ones own, with
all its roominess and freedom and privacy,
| fills the imagination of most people with
fairest hopes of joy and happiness.
But the first beauty and richest pleasure
of founding a home is at the outset, when
bride and bridegroom go to housekeeping at
once, when they are SO thoroughly in love
| with each other that all mistakes are con-
sidered jokes, only to be laughed at, and all
mishaps are regarded as matters to be borne
with loves philosophy. At this time
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| pictures, arranging books and otherwise
making himself generally useful after
| his days work in business, while
the happy wife fits about intent
upon helping, and making beautiful their
little home. They work cheerily together,
and not cloud is to be seen, not jar to be
heard, not shadow to be perceived. They
never dream that the days will come when
the loving husband will no longer be will
ing to smash his fingers in doing work for
which he has no capacity for love, or too
lazy to do stroke after his daily toll is
over. Going to housekeeping-just at first
develops in many men powers hitherto
unknown. They show an ability for house
hold work before undreamed of. They bring
their great minds down to its small details
with marvellous adaptability.
SOME GOOD HUSBANDS.
Some of the most prominent citizens OF
Pittsburg began to do the family marketing
when they went to housekeeping, and are
splendid hands at it yet They can 90
about the market places and dicker as to
chickens, and eggs, and butter, and
sundrles, with as eager an interest for get
ting the best article for the least money as
though they were engaged in big wheat
deal, or contract for a million dollars
worth of steel rails. Famous lawyers get
up early on market days, so as to secure a
bucket OF the best 'smear case" or to get a
couple of pounds of the sort of sausage that
goes off before the sun has fairly
got above the rim of the horizon.
Noted business men may always be
seen in the market early, getting the cream
of its contents and the pick of the country
mans products. Though it is to be hoped
there are few of the millionaires who econo-
mize on their families by simply getting
soup bone and materials for cheap boiled
dinner, when they themselves are to dine
elsewhere. Then there are some men so
much in favor of home rule that they give
the orders to the cook, and insist upon buv-
ing their wives clothes. They are SO de-
terInined to know how the money goes that
the wives they have solemnly vowed before
high heaven to endow with all their worldly
goods have hardly a quarter week for
pocket money and car fare.
But all this closeness and grind and down.
right stinginess does not develop in the first
stages of marriage and housekeeping. Then
all is rosiness and bliss.
The bride, who is rich, who has had a
fortune of greenbacks and wedding presents.
who has money enough to order all she
wants, and go to housekeeping in perfectly
elegant STYLE" has none of the pleasure of
the average woman who goes into her own
little house, and proposes to do her own
work. The former, with servants to do all
that has to be done, who has the option of
ideness with novels, or fancy WORK, or So
ciety calls. misses the happiness of the wife
who has just work enough to maintain her
in high health, and whose pleasure it is to
keep her house in tidy and beautiful trim
for the enjoyment of the man she loves.
Any number of books, and manuals and
household magazines tell how to go to house, |
keeping with the greatest economy, and yet |
have all that is really necessary to good |
living, but very much of the sage advice is |
balderdash and stuff A writer on domestic |
economy laid great stress on the point Of |
furnishing the kitchen first and letting the |
parlor go, if money was not plenty.
MISTAKES OF BRIDES.
Have everything that is needed in the
kitchen was the chief commandment, and a
bride, we are told of, accepted it as good
gospel and proceeded to live up to it. So,
with housekeeping list in hand, she laid
in so many utensils for the kitchen that
sure enough there was nothing left
for the parlor. But very mahy Of the things
were articles that would only come into
play perhaps once in year, that cluttered
up the pantry and shelves, and were more OF
a nuisance than anything else, and served
for nothing so much as reminders of her
folly, while the pretty parlor she had so
often contemplated in building her castle in
Spain did not materialize for many a
day. Another housekeeper relates as her
mistake, that she furnished the. whole
house at once, when they went to
and thus, with their limited
means, they got inferior furniture, and
articles that came within their pile.
As consequence she relates, we have got
a lot OF old stuff that will stay by US forever,
because we cannot afford to give it away or
send it to auction, which amounts to about
the same thing, or to make bonfire of it on
election night when our party goes in with
a fat majority.
The best way, as we take it, for the aver
age man and wife to go to housekeeping is
to buy at first only the essentials, and get
them as good and substantial, and as much
to their taste as possible. Then as expert
ence shows they are needed and the money
is at hand other things can be added. New
things once in while renew the first pleas
ure and will be more appreciated when
they come in answer to strong desire and a
real necessity supported by the requisite
cash.