Roanoke daily times. (Roanoke, Va) 1886-1890, 1889-11-20
BY w, II. Il

By w. II. K
I wonderc if those wives who are
always complaining and lamenting
that their husbands spend so many
of their evenings from home have
ever seriously examined. their
own conduct to see if the fault may
not, perhaps, be with themselves, and
the remedy in their own hands.
In the first place, a man, after work
ing hard all day, naturally desires
rest, peace and recreation in the even
ing, and if he cannot find them III his
home he will seek them elsewhere.
For example, man comes home in
the evening, worn out in mind and
body, longing for rest and peace, and
is met by wife untidy in dress, long
in face, and who, almost immediately.
begins a dissertation on the woes OF
the day, the trouble she has had with
the household affairs, the naughti-
ness of the children, and the endless
delinquencies of the servants. lie Is
entertained in this way all during
the evening meal, and should he
at last lose his temper, and
in words more forcible than ele'
CANT, tell her to shut up, she is the
most injured woman in the whole wide
world, and her martyr-like silence and
face are even harder to endure than
her querulous complaints. Is it any
wonder that the man should flee from
such a home and such wife?
Just for experiment, let the wife
adopt the following course:
When the time draws near for her
husbands return. so and array her
self as attractively as she knows how.
For woman can make no greater
mistake land, unfortunately, 1t Is a
most common one), than to become
Indifferent as to how she appears be
fore her husband; that is, If she
wishes to retain his love. 1t is just
as important to appear attractive III
the ewes Of the husband as III the eyes
of the lover, and many man has
wondered, m,serably, if the slovenly
untidy wife can really be the sweet
tastefully-dressed girl who won his
heart, and the first falling off in many
q husbands affection may be traced
to this very cause.
Then she should meet him with q
smiling face and cheerful, affection
ate greeting. No matter what may
have been the worries of the day, lei
her put them out of sight, remem
bering that her smiling face, ano
cheerful, afTectionate words OF greet
ing NAV 90 Il long way towards lifting
the burden of the far heavier trials he
has borne, perhaps. during the day
and let her also remember that quern
lous complaints and cherries home
have driven many a man, already bur
dened with anxiety, not only out OIL
the house but to desperately drown
his sorrows in the wine cup. 1t may
require a little self-control on the
wife's part to appear happy and
cheerful when she is Worn out from
the worries of the day, but she will be
amply rewarded and will also find
that those worries will not appear
half so bad than if she had spent the
evening brooding over and lamentin4
them.
Then she should consult her hus'
bands taste in the preparation of the
evening meal, for there is no surel
way to q mans. heart than through his
stomach, and though it may be a
wash day he does not want to sit down
to an unappetizing meal, and, If he Il
forced to do SO, it is more than likely
he will want to run down to the club
for a little snack later. And then
have his own especial sanctum bright,
cozy and tidy, his papers and
pipe close to his hand, and
his slippers in CONSPICUOUS
place. Nothing irritates man more
than to have his little luxuries mis-
placed, and then to be told, that the
room was so filthy it had to be
cleaned, and that Sarah had burnt
the papers, and put his pipe and
slippers somewhere out of sight, fol-
that old pipe was disgrace to the
mantel and slippers looked so untldy
under the table" He will under such
circumstances, probably, consign1
Sarah to an uncomfortable place, and
take himself off to the club to read
( the papers in peace.
Then the children should be SO
trained that they be comfort and
pleasure to the father when he is at
home and not bore and nuisance.
Many man gets out Of the house to
escape from noisy, troublesome. unruly
children.
Then let her bring her sewing and
sit with him, tell him the little bits OF
news and all the pleasant things that
have happened during the day, OF
listen with interest, feigned or other
wise, to the political news from the
paper. and his views upon them, for
there are few men who are not fond OF
airing their views, and though they
may like to argue, they also like a
smiling, admiring acquiescence to all
they may choose to PROFOUND.
Let wife follow, perseyeringly, the
above directions, and if they fail it is
hopeless case and nothing will keep
that man at home in the evenings.