Alma record. (Alma, Mich.) 1878-1928, 1889-01-04
TRUE POLlTENESS.
4 Reminder That IL Is Often Missing u
the Home Circle.

the Home circle,
True politeness is founded on consid-
grafton for others, yet it is SO much OF
matter Of form or habit that petite
ness is sometimes shown whore thore
Is no consideration; it Is sometimee
Neglected where there is affection ana
every reason for kindly consideration.
Thus in the intercourse Of near relatives
made familiar with each other with
daily meetings there is naturally
less formality than between people W
are only thrown together by cha.~s4
for n few hours or days at long intervals
But along with the laying aside of FORM
ality some necessary features of polite
ness are sacrificed by relatives and
very close friends. The youth who is
careful 10 salute his lady friends and>
acduaintances according 20 the usages
Of good society sometimes forgets TO
pay the same respect 10 his sister, not
because he is wanting in affectionate,
regard but becatse he has grown so
familiar with her that it seems awk-
ward to him 10 treat her in any formal
way. Yet when he meets her in CON-
pany he should, out OF consideration
Tor her, be markedly polite and atten-
tive. Although politeness necessarily
follows to a great extent set forms, ].
should have its origin in affection for
the individual, or. in a more general.
way. in consideration for others. When
the young man begins to behave at
home with less politencss than he eX-
hibits abroad there is much danger
that gradually he will lose that
consideration for his immediate
relatives which he should have
and exhibit He may begin by
entering the family room without for
NAL greeting; absorbed in his own
thoughts or pursuits, he will soon begin
to leave his II ter and mother to look
out for themse yes in the smaller affase
Of life and gradually but surely he We
cultivate a selfish disposition TO hoIie,
affairs that will make him bad or M
different son or brother. 1t is a smaW
matter in itself whether a young ma
finds chair for his sister or r1oth&
when they would be seated, anticipates
their desire for a glass OF water, chee4
fully helps them TO their wraps an&
offers them the thousand little atten{
tons without which in his absence theH
lONlN ,tN iiPlIE WY NtAl ~ tAitiA Wv n
eXertions. bat il is not q small mattct
when neglect OF such attentions lessen s
his consideration for them, DEVELOPS
his selhshness. and gradually under1
mines the affection that should unite
the family. Politencss in society bCk
TWEEN acquaintance or friends is CO
manded by custom. There is no nec&
10 remind readers that il should be e1
hibited Politeness at home and be-
tween near relatives. even between hus
band and wife, though Of much moro
Importance in every way, is not so OBJ
viously necessary, and il too often neg1
lected. Gentlemen OF what is known as
the ''old school" we're and are scrupll1
lous in the observance Of the forms q
polite society toward their wives and
other female relatives and in the homd
circle, but later generation seemed dis
posed to treat relatives with less foNp-.
ality and respect than il habituaNy
shown TO strangers and acquaintance.
The tendency should be resisted, how
| ever, and every encouragement given
in the home circle 20 IN observance of
the rules OF polite society, modified only
by spontaneous exhibition Of that
greater affection which eXiXts between
the members of a family group.-Balti-
more Sun.