Wichita eagle., 1889-01-03
SOCIAL cRucIEIxloN.
Husbands Who Go Into society aud Are
Made Nise-abis Thereby.

Made Miserable Thereby.
Tho subject Of going into society to-
gether Is one of endless discussion be-
tween men and their wives; these favor
ing. pressing, insisting on IL; those OPP
posing. ridicuhng. protesting against IL
Women often carry their point hy de-
clarinS that if their husbands viii not 40
out they viii not. either Just or gem
erous man is averse To keeping his wife
at home simply because he considers
social entertainments of any and every
kind stupid and disagrceable. He knows
that she delights in them, and that for
her 10 relinquish them is positive sac
rifice There Is no more reason why she
should stay away than why he should go;
and. therefore, he goes. but goes relac-
family, with Ill will, and, as II were, by
coupulsion.
1t may seem singular that she should
permit him 10, knowing as she does how
hateful the thing is 1t seems downright
selfish in her-and women are rarely
selfish-but she believes that she cannot
afford to release him; that her frequent-
ing society without him is the beginning
of their separation. of their leading dis
tinct lives, Of their steady divergence.
Her belief may not be- correct. but il is
sincere Hence is she not warranted IN
maintaining her position 10 the lasts
At any rate, she maintains IL. though
not without great cost, greater often than
she realizes. Her husband reseuts more
and more his dragooning into society.
He never puts on his dress suit, or orders
the carriage for that purpose. without a
feeling of inward bitterness of his wifes
cxactingness, of his submission 90 a
wrong; and the feeling finally produces
habitual dissatisfaction and Cypieisn.
His wife is unconsciously bringing about
what she is trying to avoid-scttied dts
content with her and the conlngal con-
ditiou. II were better she should let him
obey his propensity than thwart il thus;
for alienation would bic slower with Tree
dom than with fetters.
What "A deal of mischief is society. fri
volous. hollow, insignificant society, caIp
able of doing Tho dragooned husband
feels that he is a social impostor: that iso
abuses hospitality by partaking Of it Ia
pcrverse spirit. He IS IN no mood % en-
tertain or be entertained He is bored TO
death. and his countcnance shows II. He
yawns behind hand or handkerchief. and
for the moment fairly despiscs his wife,
noticing across the room her animated
manner and obvious qualification. Ills
look and air and gait are funeral II
he were huryiug a friend be would. be
faucies, feel more cheerful. Stealing
into . corner. ever and anon. 20 Fiancs
fnrtivcly ct his watch. he thinks that II
must have stopped. Has there ever b.
fore been so long an evening" His wife
indicates that she is about to leave. but
he knows what that means. and resigns
himself 10 another lcadcn-foOted hour.
Everything must have an end; finally
4. a IL q
ment Is flushed with pleasure. ig1me-
diatcly dispelled by the remembrance
that there are 10 DO five evenings rnors
Of similar boredom within the coming
week. lie dreams Of what be has under
gone and must undergo IN the torfurs
chambers 81 society. his sleep Is brokea
ard feveTish; he rises in tho morning
respondent and irritable His wife may
dimly suspect the cause; bfIt aha lack,
the intelligence. perhaps the magma
uimity, t. relieve him OF his oucrous obli-
cation. In the end be will - very likely
10 throw il of. and it viii be accon-
panied by no little Of his old affection
and sympathy.
The women are few who would naaha
good their declaration Of surrender
ing sOcieiy IL their husbands ehosild
fatty refuse To Escort them. They think
they would. and for while they might
abstain; but tiie enticemeut - too grsat
10 be long resisted First. they viii 90
out alone occasionally; then frequently:
az last regularly Women vito hays
dragoonel their iiegez FOR sevcTai sessons.
and then acquitted them. may nin the
risk of losing the early place occupied IN
their hearts tis not such los mutual and
unavoidable. with most couples. n any
circufastauccsiJ. bat they ct On far rsoTe
comfortably.
Men love freedom ADORE everthisg,
aud when they have it they are usore
afniable ard Ii-tieuz than when IL l. IN
any way curfailetL Husbands who have
been exceedingly disagros,abie 81 home.
20 long as they have felt constrained %
discharge social duties IN tbsir own per
cons, have behaved quite decentiy Eftef
turning over those duties entirely % Their
partners. The Average woulsn rets I'd
81 heT ROMANCE and sentiment By Gss or
SIX years of oonnubssi e1psTfsacs gtz1s
frf year viii answer for Ghs aseTass
man, ard J1efeEs domestic peace sz.4
liberation 20 the cberishmeat ri the To-
tsESt iaeals.-Juntus Henri Browne