The Dickinson press., 1889-01-05
WHAT WE GIRLS LIKE.
THE TRIPLES OF LIFE WHICH IN
FLUENcE OUR CHOICE.
The Man Who Lacks the Innate Sense of
tho Fitness and Untitness of Things-A
Woman's Admiration-Tamilia Speech.
Clotl,cs-Beauty.

ClotNcS-Iseauty.
was lying in my hammock the other day
by the way, l have it swung across a win
dowed corner of my room these cool autumn
like days-lying there and thinking what the
things werc which women did specially like in
mcn-of course | am writing now of nice
men and nice women-and came to the con-
ciusion that the things which particularly
influence lis in our choice among men were
the little things.
Yes, the little things, the trincs A man
may he an Apollo for beauty, but if he says
mo, maam and ''ycs, ma'am' to you when
he should say 'yes" and "no" adding your
name when necessary, you cannot thoroughly
appropriato him, and he will, for all his per-
lection OF feature, grate upon your keen
sense OF well-bredness much as the squeak of
some organs does when it mngles with tho
music And though the man who wears
diamond studs and pins and diamond ring
flashing on his little finger may be possessed
OF all the virtues under heaven, yet do these
misplaced gems outshinc them all in their
glaring vulgar brilliancy 1t isn't of course,
the jewels themselves. intrinsically, any
more than it is the "me'am' us simple part
OF speech 1t is the lack of that innate sense
OF the fitness and untitness of things-that
dawn of discrimination, | would motlestiv
chrsten lt-which all the sterling qualities
and all the heroic characteristics taken to-
gether Will never outweigh in the scale of
truly refined woman's fancy.
THE MAN WHO WINS.
Ah, not is the man who fails not as to
little things who wins every time. The man
who knows by instinct which side of the
railway car or which end of the boat is the
shady one, instead of gazing hclplessly up
and down to find out, whilst the other man
secures the desirable seats 1t is the ,uan
VIII" mentally fixes the right station to rc,
oil at. and consequently makes no wild
p!ungm yS-gchcraly to retrace us he tliscov-
crS his mistake; the man who knows the cor.
rect entrance ut IL theatre and tho portion of
the house i'll which his seats are located; the
man who can put on your wrap without
turning it inside cut II few times first, who
can get INTO his own topc"at minus the skir.
msh that causes him to appear as if wrcs,
tiihG with some Intangible cnemy-it is this
man, master of the little things of life-who
wins.
The amount of it all is that u woman must
'idn fe before she can love. point Of fact,
genuine admiration OH either side NAV
ultimate divor court than many and many
of the mad "fallings in love- of which we
hear too much, and which are not inapt to
guarantee rs reckless failing OUT again!
If a woman feels insecure about a man-is
not quite positive whether lie will do this.
or that, quite correctly; whether ho will
he dressed rs hetits the occasion, or if he will
he awkward at Il moment when savoir faire
n in Iai,
then he sure she is no more sure of her own
heart, her own feelings than she is of his
!,ossibl behavior 1t is weak of us, will
admit, but 1t is, and the more womanlv pure,
sweet and charming the woman, the more
certainly is tins desire to admire, to bo suro
of the man She gives herself to, 1; necessity of
Ecr nature and n keynote to her disposition
and requirements.
FAMILIARITY OF SPEECH
Another little thing that is intoleral,lc in
some men, otherwise nice enouyh and tllnt is
Tie moment You permit them to know Won
at I'll we'll, that moment they develop that
horrible trait Of an aptitude for familiar in
'.'nacy of speech which no relation in life
"id,r heaven r"n,olcs, or can long stand
3: er the pressure Of Why, because two pco.
:, b"conlc engaged to cucn other or nrt.
t.:aIi'icd to each ether, they should at
.'re drop the little attentions, the little DO.
. i!rss"s, tho li:tlo respects for each others
lrs;.ry and in,llvidnalliics, /, for one, never
could comprehend For my part should
thinl, that tliese relations of life, in order TO
prevent them dcgcneruting, as they too often
do, into the mere convcntionalitics of uu ac-
ceptcd code of society and morals, required
the most gentle Difference to Just these litto
things that Lave vcntured to enulneratc
The closer the relations tho more necessary
the glamour, If you will to call it SO, Of mere
well bredncss ut is nothing else to sustain
them il thc.r supremacy Of mutual afYcc.
tun and reverence
There is another point upon which must
touch in speaking of what we ike in men.
1t is simply, briefly, this--clothcs | know
that some of yon will scout at the mere idea.
but that doesn't alter the case. know and
am i'll n position to speak. There isn't ono
bt of NC in denying it; not one particle
Girls like to see a man, and be seen with ono.
too, who is sinaily gotten up, whose gar
merta have the correct cut md mir, inst as
L.'lvl IS men like to sec and bc seen with u
young wo.laa who is att!icel in charming,
we'll fitting gown, pretty gloves, boots hat.
Il Is Human. girl nature, just precisely rs it
is h!:ilan, man nature.
~! as to beauty. Trust me, all you ugly
ic.iJi.s, sc ,!o:it care that. about it in your
I.rca. We '.ic content to. lnonopoliZc that
o,.i'se.lcs. If you are only manly and bravo
ami tend and nice We are prepared to adore
you.-''AIis, Marigoid' in PittsDurg Bulletin.