Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-02-17

| OF MS family. Ihe Wlfe's frlendS, WISHING
to provide her home that he could neithe
mortgage nor sell, had to vest the title in
trustee-as she could not hold it. Hence j
may well be seen that marriage as pre-
scribed by church and State, and fortified
by the bulwark of no divorce, is no less {
failure where such condition of affairs exis
than in States where greater freedom pre-
walls.
But women, as they grow in indepen
dence, and find means to make their owl
| living, and take care Of themselves, arr
| greater gamers in personal happiness by fol
lowing the advice of St. Paul as 10 marriage
than are men. A harmonious happy mar
riage has in it the highest lorm of friend
| ship, the purest and sweetest enjoyment o
life, but in an unhappy union women ufer
as general thing, much more than men
The law is largely against them-they are de-
pendent Tor rmaintenance-they are restricted
by family cares-they are coerced by
society-and debarred by custom from any
course save that of endurance and suffering.
Men go out into the world and find new
friends, fresh sources OF pleasure, and secure
the enjoyments of club. They content
themselves with furnishing the funds ior the
support Of the family, and leave their wives
to unhappiness, knowing that no great
social onus will fall upon them if they
find cogenial companionship elsewhere.
Prince Rudolf has been defended
for his unfaithfulness to his
marriage vows by the press-his sins of in
fidelity have been condoned by the pulpit.
If Stephanie had been unfaithiul, and then
committed suicide, her sins would scarcely
have been condoned-she would hardly
have been buried in the odor of sanctity,
and accorded the highest honors of the
church. No such license to transgress
the law of marriage is winked at in women.
No such fragrant infractions OF domestic
virtue are covered with a mantle of charity
when committed by women. No such de-
fense and justification of marital in6deli-
ty has ever been printed by respectable
papers for any woman Of whatever rank, as
has been accorded to the royal prince of the
Hapsburgs.
WOMAN AND MARRIAGE.
Whatever may be said in the way Of ex-
ceptions, it becomes clearer to women that
marriage, as it stands, brings to them
heavier burdens. drearier lives, more of
suffering, more of worry, more OF sorrow
than celibacy. As way to secure home
and make living regardless of the love
that alone makes it sacred, anything were
better. No state of seryitute could be more
CALLING or more destructive to the lows Of
freedom. In the old days when an ''old
maid" was under the ban, when q woman
who was not married was looked upon as
one who, for lack of beauty or want of at
tractiveness or good qualities, had failed to
please man, women entered upon loyeless
marriages through fear OF the worlds
dread laugh, or the stigma of the
name, or the fear of poverty. But
no such bugaboos trighten intelligent
women into bonds nowadays. They have
tasted of the delights of freedom, the JOYS
of independence. The woman now with
means o her own to be com Portable looks
with pity on the sisters who struggle along
in marriage and are worn out by its carking
cares and burdens. "Would I not be
blooming idiot"-said a bright young
woman, with her salary OF 81, 500 year and
more in prospect-"to resign my place and
get married to struggle along in house
keeping for nothing a week, to tie N.Y.
self down to a nursery, to wrestle with
the servant question, to wear myself
out in steaming kitchen, and all for what
for man? Bah! Don't mention it. 1
have my hours OF work, which 1 enjoy;
have my own money to spend as I please;
have my vacations, my trips OF pleasure
with congenial friends; come, and 60, or
stay, with no man nagging at me, or bossing
me; have my own little home where no
Queen of Sheba could be happier.
Wouldn't be a sublime fool to get msrried?
Surrender, will l, when the right man comes
along? Well, may be will, but hardly, if
know myself. At all events, if I do, the
nan marry will have to be up to the top
notch of man, mark you"
SAD OLD BACHELORS.
That's the way the girls are beginning to
ak OF ma riage. And no wonder, with the
lwful examples of the failures IN marriage
III around. With their talent for home
making and housekeeping, and their ability
% interest themselves in the every day
luties of life, women who remain single for
whatever cause are never so forlorn, or
onely, or at loss -as old bachelors who are
n the sere and yellow leai-especially |
hose who have burned the candle at both |
.nds in their youth.
The picture of these old codgers as they |
haunt hotels and hang along N society, is |
aughable to most people, but there is a
,athos about the old fellows that excites
They do not like to hang back,
" be counted out, but the fact remains that
hey can no longer keep up with the pro-
esslon. Nobody wants to talk with them,
hey are too short and prosy; nobody wants
o listen to their interminable old stories;
lobody has patience with their cranks and
rotchets. The time seems to be coming
yhen to be an old batchelor will be
s approbrious, as subject to ridcule,
IS much point for satires, and subject Of
okes as once was the old maid.
A man who grows old in single state is
morose and iretful and sour and
mbittered and faulthnding, says DR..
ohnson, and he further asserts that though
may have some pains, celibacy
as few pleasures. Marriage should be a
natter of personal choice for both parties.
'ut as divine institution, dictate OF the
aw of love and nature, the single man and
elibate woman both miss something of the
ighest bliss.
For marriage rightly understood,
Gives to the tender and the good
A paradise below"
But the ''old bachelor" misses more than
ne woman as age creeps on. A man is a
andy thing to have in a house, but an old
laid can enjoy paradise without him.
lot so the old bachelor. He has to be
ken in and done for. And the older he
rows, and the more lonely he becomes, the
ore he realizes that he should have married
efore the frosts had settled upon his head,
. time had stamped him as an old stager.
BESSIE BRAMBLE.
Distinction Between Crying and Weeping,
N Francisco Chronicle.1