The Bennington banner. [volume] (Bennington, Vt.) 1858-1894, 1889-02-28

a proof of the falseusss of the saying
that marriage is the door that leads de-
ludGd mortals back to earth Love does
survive marriage in far more cases than
is generally known. Experiences like
those of James Nasmyth the inventor
of the steam hammer, and of Dr, Arnold
are not so very uncommon. The former
said about himself and wife, "Forty-two
years of married life finds us the same
devoted 'cronies' that we were at the be-
ginning" DR.. Arnold often dwelt upon
1.-THE rare, the unbroken, the almost
awful happiness" of his domestic life.
Yes, the domestic happiness Of some
of us does at times seen" almost awful" "
when we consider how little we deserve
it. II scenes to be "almost awful, too
when we reflect how in this life at least
it must be rudely disturbed. Mrs. Eliza
beth Fry, when girl, loved her family
10 dearly that she used to wish that
when they had 10 die, two large walls
might press toward each other and
crush them all, that they might die all
igett er and be spared the misery of at
ing. Loving husbands and wives eau
sympathize with this wish.
I1t VIII uOl otpdldNC uSs VIC nave
been 80 happy" These we're the last
words of poor Charlotte Bronte when,
having become Mrs. Nichols and hav
ing lived with her husband only nine
molths, death came to snatch the cup
of domestic felicity from the lips OF the
happy pair, But God has ordained that
even the most loving of husbands and
wives shall be parted IN this world by
the hand OF death. The thought of this
separation should make them very cart-
full to treat each other as they would
wish they had treated each other when
the separation comes. Affections are
never deepeDed, and refined until the
possibility of loss is felt. Whatsoever
thou takest in hand, remember the end,
and thou shalt never do amiss." Spare
all hard words, omit all sights, for the
end will come all to soon. And then
the bitterest drop in the cup of sorrow
which the Survivor must drink will be
the remembrance Of what he or she
might have been and was not to the de-
plrted, who now for the first time, per-
haps, is properly valued.
1t has some time been remarked that
the marriage of a deaf and dumb man
to a blind women would have obvious
advantages. Each of the parties would
acquire an opportunity to pactice little
pantomimic scenes from which ordinary
married folks are debarred When they
duarreIed, for instance-the wife being
unable to see, while the husband could
not hear or spaak-she could hurl at him
broadside after broadside OF steel point
ed Invective, and the poor man could
but stand there, study the motion OF
her lips and fOndly imagine she was tel
ling him how sorry she was that any
thing should come between them. He,
on the other hand, could sit down, shake
his fists and make hid9ous grimaceS. she
all the while thinking he was eitting
with his face buried in his hands and
not remorseful tears streaming from
his eyes. Husbands and wives who are
not deprived of the use of their faculties
might take the hint and resolve not to
use them too keenly on certain occas
ions. In matrimonial quarrel they
need not hear or see everything.
Ifyour lips would keep from slips,
Five things observe with care;
OF whom you speak, to whom you speak.
And how, and when, and where.
Iwould, however, rather end this
paper with words of hope than of de
SPAR. Let me, then remind those who
profess and call themselves Christians
that if they really believe in the resur-
rection they can lcok forward not will =
out hope to.
that perfect marriage day
When earth's lost love shall live once more;
When lack and loss shall pass away,
And all find all not found before.
By the author of"Ho,c to be Happy,
Though Married"