Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-03-17

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the replies both interesting and instruc-
tive:
First-At an afternoon card party, where
ladies only are present, am l, as hostess, to
60 to the dining room first, or to follow the
guests, directed by a servant?
Secondhand on returning to the drawing
room, do go first?
Third-In taking callers into the parlor,
should lead the way, or step back and
say, "Please step into. etc.?''
MISS IGNORANCE.
First-Yes, go first.
Second-Yes,
Third-Lead the way to the door, open it
and invite the guests to precede you.
Should a lady and gentleman attend a
church wedding in full dress?
Would it be proper for lady to wear light
dress, opera cloak and to remove her
bonnet?
In the evening yes, if preferred. In the
afternoon it is not customary, but in some
instances full dress is worn by ladies who con-
template attending a reception afterward.
Gentlemen wear full dress at evening weddings,
but not at other times.
BIRTHDAY CONGRATULATIONS.
Will you please write me letter of congratu-
larions for a lady friends birthday? N. II. E.
Any simple form suffices for purpose of this
kind. much, however, depending upon your de-
gree OF intimacy with your friend II only an
acquaintance your visiting card with the word
"Congratulatons" written upon it will do.
From this point you can elaborate as taste or
inelinations prompt You can say, with sim
cere congratulations" (" or "With sincere con-
gratulaGons, and wishing you many returns of
the day." or, u congratulate you upon your
birthday, and wish for you every possible hap
piness" ard so on. These may be written on
your card or sent in form of a note 1t is not in
good taste to send elaborate congratulations or
10 be in any way etfusive.
WHEN Wells ARE WORN.
Is it customary for ladies to wear wells to the
theater? IGNORANCE
A veil is for the street, and not for the thea
ter, or concert or other public entertainments.
WEDDINGS AT HOME.
First-At an ''at home" wedding that is at
the BRIDES house. who receives the invited
guests?
SecOnd-Are they introduced to each other
and by whom?
Third-When the reception follows the we'd
ding are cards inclosed to the invitation to that
effect or is it necessary when all the guests are
to remain to the reception?
First-Some relative or friend selected for
the purpose.
Second-No.
Third-Yes. It is customary to engrave on
the cards Reception from -" here giving
the hours
CONDUCT OF ENGAGED COUPLES.
First-I am young lady engaged to man
truly love. We are of opposite religions-he
devoted to his, and with resolution of iron; I,
the same. He absolutely refuses to have the
ceremony performed in any other than his own
church. 1 desire and demand that the cere-
mony should be in my church. I told him I
have the right, and think the etiquette should
be shown to me Am 1 right or wrong?
Second-The man to whom I'm engaged also
says must, as young lady, love, honor and
obey etc. L say not, until I'm Mrs. Blank
Again, am right or wrong? A
FIrst-It is customary to yield this matter to
the decision of the BRIDE but circumstances
make differences. In cases where one is a
RomanisT and the other Protestant two cere-
monies take place. the Catholic Church not
considering a Protestant marriage valid. Some
such feeling may animate a High Churchman
who cannot consider marriage in an Evan
gelical church as admiss3b bic. In such case it
would be proper for the bride to yield to the
wishes Of the groom. In fact, too much stub
borness on her part does not promise well for
the future happiness of the couple.
Second-The obligation to 'love, honor and
obey" begins with the marriage ceremony.
WEDDING CARDS.
First-Which is the proper way for a young
couple in moderate circumstances to send out
marriage cards, before or after marriage or
both?
Second-Would it be the proper thing to give
q breakfast, or supper if later in the day,
where only the immediate families are to be
present, and that in private house?
Thirds it customary to send out wedding
cake or cards. or both, or how? J.F
First-The cards are usually sent before
marriage. But sometimes announcement cards
merely are sent after marriage.
Eecond-1es.
,Third-Wedding cake is not now sent out
Guests at the reception after the ceremony are
handed small box containing piece of the
wedding cake.
NTRoDUCTIoNs AT TABLE.
When seated at the dinner table gentleman
comes in. On being introduced to him by the
hostess I find that he is back of me. Should L
put myself in an awkward position by twisting
my head around to speak to him or should |
leave my seat at the table AL
An introduction should not be given when
persons are seated at table. If an Introduction
is forced upon one an inclination of the head
and word are all that is necessary. One
should not rise from the table, or twist around.
or attempt to shake hands, as anything of the
kind is very disturbing to other people at table.
AvARIETY OF TOPICS.
First-"Vivian" wishes to know if a young
lady should invite gentleman, or should he
ask permission to call.
Second-In introducing minister should he
be addressed as Mr. or Rev.?
Third-Would it be considered bad form for
q couple not engaged to attend church to-
getherf
First-The invitation to call should be ex.
tended by the mother. If the gentleman asks
permission to call the young lady can assent by
her mothers permission.
Second-In Introducing clergyman his title
reverend or doctor, should be mentioned, but
while, if doctor, he may be addressed as such
as a reverend merely he should be addressed as
mister.
Third-Ne.
DINNERS AT HOME.
If one has no servants and wishes to give q
dinner to ones relations and intimate friend:
how should it be served? Should all the dishes
and desserts be placed on the table and should
the hostess assist the host in serving them'
What would be suitable and Gainty for such 9
dinnerf BESSIE.
First-If there are no servants a dinner il
courses is impossible. The dessert, excepting
the fruit, should stand on a side table. TIL,
fruit may be placed in the middle of the tablt
as a decoration. The host should carve tn,
meat, the hostess serving the vegetables ant
the dessert, and by necessity she must remoy,
the dishes for the dessert
Eecond-The principal dish might be of roas
or boiled fowl, and served with Italian maca
roni and mashed potatoes, baked, followed b.
salad. For dessert Roman punch, biscui
glace OF ice cream with cake, followed by fruit
nuts and raisins.
ESCORTS AT THEATERs.
"Dick," Martins Ferry. o., writes: When
accompany my girl" and her sister or chum t
church OF playhouse, where should sit-be
tween them or next to the aisle?
In church it is customary for the escort {
sit next to the aisle; at the theater or concer