Pittsburg dispatch. [volume] (Pittsburg [Pa.]) 1880-1923, 1889-03-24

position-that she is held to be creature
that will serve as an intellectual ornament
or an obedient serf to husbands whims,
caprices and demands.
A girl or woman who aspires to enter
the foreign aristocracy should know that
under the laws of such countries she will
be accounted a nonentity; that, save by
special settlement, her property will go into
her husbands sole possession; that women
are so lightly esteemed that learned Ger
man professor has announced that this
country is going straight to destruction be-
cause the women are not subservient
enough, that they do not vacate the best
chair the minute their husbands appear,
and that they do not rush to find their slip
pers-and sacrifice themselves in every way
to make life comfortable and velvety for
the men.
A SACRIFICE OF FREEDOM.
Women who marry foreigners should
know that the freedom, independence, and
individual rights of women so largely ac-
corded by custom and public opinion in this
country are in continental Europe denied,
and are deemed subversive of the peace of
mdTI1a0e.
known to people who read and have any
claim to intelligence as to what is going on
in the world, girl or a woman who is so
dazzled by title as to marry foreign
alleged nobleman has no more claim on
sympathy than q man who allows himself
to be taken in by bunco game or any other
stvle of fraud that is constantly being shown
up in the daily papers.
Titled foreigners who come to this coun-
try intent upon matrimony are usually-in
the parlance of the street-"on the make, I"
They are proposing to sell share in their
title for cash if such title is genuine, and
if not, they are swindlers of the meanest
sort who count upon the silly ambition and
empty headed conceit of girls who have
more money than brains or common sense.
The foreign count business has been so
often shown up by the papers as spolia-
ton game, or a speculation for revenue
only. that it seems strange that people in
society are so often successfully imposed
upon. Still foolish persons are always
plenty, and among them are many who long
for the distinction of handle to their
names.
1t will be difficult to recall, or to prove,
that any such marriages have been a sue
cess as far as happiness is concerned.
American girls are not usually of the "tame
cat order" When the gloss and glamour
have worn off as they do in the first year of
such marriages, human nature shows up in
women as strongly as in men. Silly or
sensible, American girls have been brought
up to declare independence when any for
eign power attempts to coerce them, or to
trample upon their Just rights. They re-
fuse to submit to the domination, the abso-
lutte rule of foreign masters, and the result
is trouble, misery, and the direst unhappi-
ness. Such marriages based as they are,
are usually found to go wrong, whether
made il heaven or en- earth.
AN IRKsoME BONDAGE.
The wife, when her fond illusions are dis
sipated, when she finds that the empty
honor of name has no power to give the
sweet abiding pleasure and happiness that
only wait upon mutual love and respect
and that the vain pomp and glory of society
can satisfy the soul in its yearning for the
sweets of home and the joys of real friend
| ship, finds the restraints and Journalism and
abject submission of foreign customs irk-
some and uncomfortable to anyone accus-
toned to the freedom of a republic For
eign women by education, training, man
nprs and adaptation are used to tyranny, to
being obedient to husbands, to accepting the
hardships of marriage where the husband
has everything his own way, to dwelling in
humiliation, and becoming, by virtue OF
trials, either self-sacrifcing saints or de-
ceitful slaves; but American women-even
those who are ever sping foreign modes OF
| life-are possessed usually of too much in
dependence to meekly accept such subordi-
nation, and rebellion is, OF course, the nat
ural result.
Every American woman who marries an
aristocratic foreigner and goes abroad to live
should investigate the laws of his country
as regards her status as his wife. If she
| goes blindly into the matter and marries fol
position and title, while he has an eye and a
hand for her money, they may as surely be
expected to come to grief as that the sun
should rise in the morning or the world &c
round on its axis.
A TITLE IS NECESSARY.
But, as things go now. girl in society,
with beauty and money. seems to be &C.
counted failure if she marries a plain
mister in her own country, rather than a
| titled spendthrift, an INSCRIPTIONS gamestel
or mercenary adventurer, who has ancestors
and perhaps tumble-down castle or a blue.
blooded pedigree.
Foreign education has had much to dc
with this reverence for title, and abject re.
spect and ardent desire for place among
the aristocracy of Europe Women whose
husbands have struck oil or rich luck, and
made pile, have an idea that their chill
dren must be dedicated in Europe" to fl
| them Tor tigh life. A French maid, a
smattering OF languages-a little music and
Worth gowns fit their daughters for this
programme. Such marriage is duly pa.
raded in the papers-the people at home are
greatly impressed with the alleged splen.
dor of the match. But the sequel is usually
sad.
The victim of bogus baron or counter
felt count finds little sympathy-sometimes
not so much as might be given-from GEN.
serious world, or the Grundies therin
Served her right-she should have knowr
better-she should have been content with 9
| good American-she should not have al
lowed her ambition to override her common
sense are the remarks thrown in literally
when the crisis has been reached. Friends
too, are unkind. Having by force OF in
| fuence and approval aided and abettec
such a marriage society hesitates none tht
less to denounce it when failure follows.
BAD ENOUGH, ANYWAY.
Our girls should remember that a rea
| Count is bad enough. Even If he has .
bona fde castle and real estate and re
spectacle rent roll, he has drawbacks il
education and training that make him ar
undesirable match Tor an intelligent, inde
pendent American girl, who is accustomed
to be law unto herself, unless he has LIVED
| in this country long enough to know tha
obedience, submission and subsection arr
not the virtues in marriage that ensure thu