Daily Yellowstone journal., 1889-12-11
LEARN The ART or LEAVING


Are Making Bures oi Thrm-rlvrs.
When Mime de- Stlcl vlsijpl WHI
mar with the avowcd intention az
Intellectually capturing the literary
lions of the day Goethe und Sr.Illu!
she made one fatal mlstaEr she
stayed too long Goethe wrni" a.
Schiller Mime dc Slacl Is a bright
entertaining person, bul She Oug.l lu
know wlIru It d, TIME tu 90 L. 'ligr
not knowing when 10 90, II Il evident
from incidents recorded Of hpr lBurur'
that she lid not know how h 20 She
fingered after she had started 1t l.
related Of lrr that al ono place, ate,
She had ordered her carriage and an
nounced her intentIon Of departing ~
the morning, she started a converse
ton which she vigorously kept GIl
until il Was so near uOOn that her host
and hostess cOuld but press her to stay
for luncheon. This over. the CONVEX
sltion was again resumed. nor allowed
10 llag until II was so near evening
that the strained courtesy of her en-
tertainers could but suggest hal the
horses be taken from the carriage,
which had waited at the gate all day,
and thatshe stay another night, which
she did.
II is DisraeIi who. in Lothian. p"
puts in the mouth Of Theodore the
sentiment that no one should ever say
good-by, but in departing fade away
like a summer cloud. 1t is probable
that the great statesman and novelist
wrote this after a parting interview
with some one who had bored him
with tedious farewells who under.
stood not the art of leaving. For in
the narrowest and choicest circle of
friends and acquaintance there are
usually some persons the pleasure OF
whose visits or calls, whether of bust.
ness or Of pleasure. is marred by the
fact that they do not seem TO know
how TO 60. For when a friend or
caller departs we are either glad. sorry
or Indifferent. II we are glad we de.
sire To be brief; if we are sorry the
quicker the painful scene is ended the
better; if we are Indifferent we
grudge the draft on our time, if we are
busy, as the most Of us are, with the
pressing affairs Of life.
The art of leaving is less understood
by women than by men. The habits
of business. the recognized fact that TO
a business man time is money. the
throng and press and eXactingneSs of
business life all tend 10 make men who
live in cities the best possible exemp.
lars OF the tine art Of leaving quickly
aud neatly. \ business mans social
call is usually a model Of good man
ners in this respect When lac has
said what he has Ia say and listened 10
what there is TO hear he takes lbs hat.
says good evening and is out of
your presence without givingany time
or chance for the too often tedious and
embarrassing commonplace of mu.
tual invitations aud promises TO call
again which seem To he n kind Of so
cial formula with women. In striking
contrast with this neat aud skillful
method of cutting short the parting
words of an interview or call is the too
common social practice of visitors who,
commencing to leave, seem temper,
arily 10 abandon their purposes and
then lingcr as though il were a kind
of compliment TO the visiting party TO
appear loatll 10 part company. Who
does not dread the visitor who starts.
then thinks Of something else 10 say
rises. aud then thinks OF another sub.
ject Of conversation; nearly reaches
the door, and, most probably holding
IL open, IS aroused to u degree of men.
tal brilliuucy that threatens his health
and that Of his host or hostess by long
OBTAINING OF both in a cold draft while
hc discOursesi What a tax Oh the pa.
tience and p~olitCncss OF the listener,
who vaiHly strives 10y asserting in,
stantly 10 every proposition 10 end the
interview aud break the restraining
bond Of polite attention.
The equally annoying counterpart
of the tedious caller who does not un.
derStand the art OF leaving. is found
in the person who seems anxious IL
dctain the caller attempting to leave
and who makes protests or introduces
new subjects Of conversation at the
critical moment. The art Of leaving
on the part Of the visitor needs TO be
supplemented by the art of letting 90
on the part Of the host. "Welcome
the coming, speed the parting guest, v
is a classic maxim of good society,"
Exchange.