The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1889-03-14

be cowed by older people, when those
people are harsh and unjust to them
neither must they allow their own
little playmates to make rude speeches
to them without q retort. 1nstill
this sort of courage and independence
into children aud you give them good
weapons for battling with the world all
their lives. My children, you know, are
not pert, and, if they show the least ag-
gressiveness, I correct it and teach them
the difference between self.assertion and
rudeness.
"I make my children my companions
in my home. They are always around
me, and sometimes when I feel badly l
want them away, but l will not allow
myself to express the wish, because their
place, and the best place for them, is
| right about my knees. believe in whip
ping children very little. My Oldest
child I whipped more than any, and now
think it was because I was so young and
inexperienced, and really knew so little
about children. As each baby came I
found there were easier and more efec.
tual ways of conquering them than by
the rod. I think it's horrid to whip q
child after they become old enough to
understand reasoning, and if they are
too bad naturally to be ruled by other
punishment or sensible talk, whipping
will do them no good. It is like giving
morphine, the medicine may do tempora-
~ good but it does not eradicate the
disease. A good mother investigates the
cause of her chi,d's short comings then
proceeds to study the best methods of
eradicatlDg them. --
"Then there is ol7FF,zzs'3.:. @h my
children that may seem odd in these
days. always serve them first. Don't
I remember the pangs that used to grasp
my poor little empty stomach when I was
made to wait hours for my dinner till the
grown folks were through Children are
80 hungry and 80 impatient. It's merely
physical question as who can wait most
comfortably, they or the grown folks,
and as I've been a child I know. There
fore help them before myself. believe
that the only thing that would make me
whip one of them now would be if be
told me story, but none Of them will do
that. Children are not apt to tell you
stories if you trust them and treat them
as your equals"
GRANDMorHER's VIEW OF IT.
II don't believe in whipping children
at all" said a lady who reared an only
child in a most beautiful way, and who
is now grandmother. ri never whip.
ped my child" she continued. II may
have been that she never needed such
severe punishment. 1t doesn't seem to
me that little girls ought ever to be
whipped. I used to punish my daugh.
ter, if she diaobeyed me. I would keep
her at home for week, to deprive her of
some pleasure l knew she loved. When
you punish child this way, it gives her
time to think over the wrong she has
done and regret it. Whip child and
she suffers one moment and forgets her
pain the next, but deprive her Of her
playthings or her little paymates for
several days, and it makes an impression
that will last.
1T ACTS WITH DIFFERENT EFFECT.
Another lady doesn't think itanything
to whip little girls if they deserve it, and
that punishment in this way must be
decided by child's disposition. She
says: "Some children can never be
conquered. I used to whip my boy, but
it did him no good. He was always more
stubborn and rebellious afterWard. He
never grew repentaut or improved under
such punishment nut found I could
do anything with him by kindness and
affection. Ny girl, though she had a
lovely disposition, often needed whip.
ping, and such treatment agreed with
her. Two minutes afterward her arms
were around my neck and she was beg
ging my pardon. | only had to whip
her when she was very small. l don't
believe in whipping children after they
grow to understand. A mother has to be
governed by the disposition of her
children, more than by her own theo.
ries."
This is true and there are children who
need an occasional switching, but it is
also true that civilization has happily
done away with the old time mauling of
tender young bodies. To be allowed to
"jus grow" like Topsy is far better for
the majority of new born humanity
II
than to have that growth stunted or
ruined by the rod as it was in olden
times.
God made all things to grow upward
and reach to the light of the sun, and to
those unto whom is intrusted the care OF
these small human plants, He says,
"untold the leaves of their natures with
gentle hands, and open their hearts to
| the light of love and truth with kiss" ;"
MAUDE ANDREWS.
Cancer.
am satisfied that Cancer is hereditary
in my family. My father died of it, a
sisler of my mother died of it, and my
own sister died of it. My feeling may be
imagined, then, when the herrible disease