Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1889-11-08
AS TO HOSPITALITY.
Some Difference ga Opinion Regarding
the Rights of Host and Guest.
From the PHILADELPHIA Press.

From the Philsdelrhis Press
An esteemed contemporary says: as IL or is
i not the thing for young men who have been
invited to ball 10 sneak upstairs during the
entertainment and order the hosts waiter TO
bring up brandy and soda and cicsrs for their
private delectation? At first blush this riddle
looks easy. Bat it is not, for itso happens that
there are moro girls in society than men. and
that men are essential to society," Further
more, the men, by the grace Of some peculiar
endowment, are the leaders OF the society OF
the country, and they have got in the habit of
looking upon the little smoking room. the
brandy and the soda as their Jus. perquisites.
Otherwise they could not lead and suffer
being so constantly bored rs they are Their
duties are by no means trivial God has
not always blessed them with conversational
brlillancy, but they have a supreme sense
OF their duties to the rest of the world. and
WITH never-fail.Lg regularity they show them
selves at their posts, doing their duty in fault
less uniform. Being but few in numbers. it is
manifest that their little comforts should be
looked after; and so il has grown 10 he a
fashion in the highest circles TO have n private
smoking AMI drinking room attached TO every
worthy entertainment, in order to relieve the
pressure on the leaders caused by living cease
lessiy up to the highest standards of very good
FORM
ARUDE BARBARIAN FROM THE WEST.
who Is passing his Iovitiate in society, has
lately disturbed its absolute harmony and
quiet. He provided the necessary ball on the
most srmptuous scale, even TO the smoking
room, but omitted the little bottles. Then
when he learned. during the middle OF the feast.
that two noble young anchorites had forsworn
the trivolities he provided. and were feasting
upstairs with priviiy ordered miristrations from
the iarder, he few into towering rage and
thrust the harmless gentlemen out of the
house. He showed his ignorance OF the usages
OF polite society by further rcmarking that
they were acting in way that was unbecominS
to gentlemen"
proves OF the action of the barbarian from tie
west. But let us put case: Did he invite them
for his pleasure or for theirs? If for his he was
right IN expecting them to enjoy themselves in
his way: II for ;hslrs he should most certainly
allow them TO enjoy themselves in their own.
Much American hospitality is false hospitality
1t Is based on error. Ii does not spring from
true hospitality-the desire TO give pleasure to
each guest who Is entertained-but toe often
comes from a desire to reflect glory on the host
His thoughts, in wholesale fast ion, run thus
(the host may be and often is a retired whole
saler): Given, mass or block OF people saw
twenty. at a country house. Gi-en, certain
hours games and forms of amusement which
should amuse a mass or block of people. This
mass or block of people. my present guests.
snail be gwen these games or forms of anuse-
nent ut the hours which please me. These az
Engagements should please them. III they are
not pleased they are unworthy TO be my guests
and may go hang. | shall then get another
mass or block of people who will be more
duclle to the vail of Gorsius Midas"