St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1889-01-19
COURTESY AND A MANS HAT.
Some Anecdotes About Custom
of Society.


Once a Week.
A woman's role is to seem utterly Oh
livious of her bonnet after the parting
| look into the mirror establishes the
pleasing truth that it is settled safely
| and becomingly The man who forgets
what he has upon his head is boor. in
| corrigibly absent-minded. The right
| manipulation of his hat is like spelling
it must be learned early and thor
| oughly, or il comes hard, and is always
a skittsh possession.
A mother, habitualls indulgent to her
| children, called her eldest born-a boy
OF ten-bacS when he had left her on u
street corner. The lad covered under
the severity of eye and accent.
Never dare leave me in the street
| again without raising your hatIi she
| said. ut is token of respect you owe
! to every woman. and never forget that
| your mother is womanr'
! The reproof was double-barbed. AS
| ISOLATION with mother and sisters is eX-
| cellent practice in an exercise that can
not be abated without injury TO him who
takes the liberty. The fellow who
| mods cavalier welcome OF farewell to
MS sister at the window, or in the street,
will, with the most gallant intentions.
some day, in a fit OF abstraction, Or
when hurried by business into forget
fulnesSof his company manners, nod as
carelessly to some other fellows sister.
and score a point i'll favor of the rival
whose hand from the force of early
babit and long usage, moves inYolunta-
rally toward the cap-brlm at the APP
preach OF any woman whose face is fa-
miliar to him.
A nod is not a bow
To nod TO woman is open dtsrc.
spect.
The mother who carves those two SEN
fences and the import thereof upon the
mind OF her boy builds SO much better
than she knows 10 merit the gratitude
of her sex. The bob or the duck of the
covered head which salutcS comrade
of his gender is barely pardonable, even
in America. Students in foreign uni
verSities would be sent to Coventry were
they to practice it on meeting in corridor
or thOroughfare. Equally general in the
older lands, where external courtesies
rank higher than with us, is the Gus
tom OF doffing the hat on passing lady
stranger or acqualntance-On the
stair case or in the halls of hotel or
other public buildings. In witnessing
the effect of the neglect of the gracious
little ceremony in the country that fur
nishes the best husbands in the world.
it is impossible to restrain the regretful
sigh:
"These things ought ye to have done,
and not to leave the other undoneI'
The undoing is carried to disgrace
full excess as we descend the social
scale. The lower we go the more scanty
is The observance of the etiquette and
mOralitieS Of the hat. until we are forced
TO consider the important adjunct to the
outdoor toilet as an almost infalllble
barometer of breeding. Respect of the
rules regulating its management in re-
fined circles is the last sign of better
days aud better manners with which the
deeayed gentleman parts. When his
hand forgets the way to the hat-brim, he
is very near the foot of the hill. What
a slangy lad once called in my hearing
1.-THE hat trick" is likewise that which
the self-made man of plebian extraction
is sloweSt to learn. L have seen millions
aires forget to remove their hats in SUI.
perb draWing-rOOmS.
One of the most notifying expert
enceS Of my earlier married life was tho
visit to our cOuntry-hOusc of a di5tin-
guished man than whom the state held
none ADLER of his profession. We had
invited several friends to meet him, and
the dinner given i'll his honor passed off
smoothly. The lion roared in per-
fectly satisfactory manner, winning
universal admiration. Coffee was served
on the veranda, and the evening being
cool, the great man called for his hat.
He might have asked permission
from the women present to assume
it, we thought, but orators must
preserve their vocal chords from rust.
AS the chillinesS increased, we adj
jOurDed to the library, where fire had
been Eindled. There, in the assembled
presence of our choicest neighborS, the
great man wore his hat until the hour
of separation! The recollection is ALI
agony. The inference, borne out by
subsequent discoveries, was inevitable.
He was commoner of the cOmmOnalty
and vulgar ingram. 1t ought to have
been impossible for him TO commit
such q breach Of good manners in any
The varniSh of sur
face-apd unaccustomed-cour like
other cheap and patent dressing, re-
quireS frequent renewal and can not be
warranted to wear.
As grateful contrast, offer another
authentic incident. A true gentleman,
driving through the country with his
wife and children, stopped at a small
farm house to inquire the way. A child
on the font seat of the carriage had Il
view of him as he knocked at the door.
''Papa's talking to a lady," chirped
the little one. Il can't see her, but /
know, because he took off his hat when
the door opened. and is standing with
his hat in his hand"
The lady followed him to the steps
as he returned to the carriage. Her
sleeves were rolled up to her shoulders;
she wore calico gown without collar.
Her hair was unkempt, her arms and
hands dripped with suds. Her parting
were shrilly nasal and un-
grammatical The man, who appeared
beside her as a prince beside a seTf,
stoop with his noble head barred as i'll
royal presence.
How could you?" queried the quick
eyed occupant of the front seat. "She
wasn't a bit of lady"
''She was woman, my boy; and q
gentleman Is always gentleman for his
own sake"
Men can do no end of pretty things
with their hats" sighed a belle to me.
THE tactics of that useful article (mas-
cuIine) are science-one of the arts.
Y ct two-thrds of them don't half APP
pretiate their privileges in that line, or
Inspect their possibilities"
j saw man who calls himself q gen.
ieman kiss his bethrothed the other
lay with his hat set as immovably on
lis head as if it had grown there with
lis growth, and strengthened with his
strength.
Fancy such condition of mind and
,ody that could make such thing prac-
ieable in Christian land in the nine
eeuth century.
1t Was Scandalous.
De-,