Richland beacon. [volume] (Rayville, La.) 1869-1890, 1888-12-22
TRUE POClTENESS.
a Reminder That il is Often Missing in
the Home Circle.

True pOliteness is founded on consid-
GRAFTON for others, yet it is so much OF
matter of form or habit that polite
ness ~ sometimes shown where there
is no consideration; it is sometimes
neglected where there is affection and
every reason for kindly consideration.
| Thus in the intercourse of near relatives
made familiar with each other with
daily meetings there is naturally
| less formality than between people whO
are only thrown together by chance
for "A few hours or days at long intervals.
But along with the laying aside of form
ality some necessary features of polite
ness are sacrificed by relatives and
very close friends. The youth who i,
careful to salute his lady friends and
acquaintances according to the usages
of good society sometimes forgets I,
| pay the same respect TO his sister. moi
because he is wanting in aifectionate
regard, but becatse he has grown st
| familiar with her that it seems awk-
ward to him TO treat her in any formal
way. Yet when he meets her in com
| pany he should, out of consideration
for her, be markedly polite and atten.
tive. Although politeness necessarily
| follows to q great extent set forms. il
should have its origin in affection fol
the individual, or, in more genera
way. in consideration for others. Wher
the young man begins to behave al
home with less politeness than he eX'
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that gradually he will lose that
consideration for his immediate
relatives which he should have
and exhibit. He may begin by
entering the family room without for
NAL greeting; absorbed in his OWL
thoughts or pursuits, he will soon begin
| to leave his sister and mother to look
out for themselves in the smaller affair
of life and gradually but surely he viii
cultivate selfish disposition to home
affairs that will make him bad or III
different son or brother. 1t is u small
matter in itself whether q young man
finds chair for his sister or mother
when they would be seated, anticipate:
their desire for glass of warn yawtraps and
fully helps thep} thousand little atten-
/ s1 -
! erUfls without which in his absence they
could get along very well by their OWL
exertiOns, but it is not a small matter
when neglect of such attentions lessen:
| his consideration for them, develOpe:
his selfishness, and gradually under
mines the affection that should unite
the family. Politeness in society be
| TWEEN acquaintainces or friends Is de
manded by custom. There is no neet
| to remind readers that it should be eX
| hibited. POlitenesS at home and be
tween near relatives, even between hus
band and wife, though of much more
Importance in every way, Is not so OBJ
viously necessary, and is too often neg
lected. Gentlemen of what is known a
the 'old school, were and are scrupu
lOus in the observance of the forms o
polite society toward their wites an
other female relatives and in the hom
circle, but later generation seemed dis
posed to treat relatives with less form
ality and respect than is habituall
shown to strangers and acquaintance
The tendency should be resisted, how
ever, and every encouragement give
in the home circle to an observance q
the rules of polite society, modified onl
by a spontaneous exhibition of tina
greater affection which exixts betwee
the members of a family group;-Balt
more SUN.