Telegram-herald., 1888-01-23


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say act oaly - tAsss who have made . mis
take IA so.en1a proznsss q m&rrisss 5as -
those n 30 have already 81 tie aitsl keea pro-
nouEced one whea they are t~o, or IA diver
sity of tastes sad hkes &ed ois.skss Gre
nsstheF enc aer two bUt a eoszn--ul3ks TIE
b-St yea can q an s~fUl nistzke And kers
let nae answer lsttsrs thai come from every
state Ct ths American J1lon. and ffom
scIs~s ths ses, ard sxs ceaalng year after
year from usea and women wso are terrific
ally alllsnoed and trsd togefAsr ia bard
kEot. = very hard knot. TIE letters run
somstkiag Ike tbs. What o2xilt / 70 Go,
my hussAad i = draakardT Ny wife Is
CAD about and viii lot stay st kanss."
My companion = ignorant aad hatss books
aud | rxysl Ia tAsTn-@ II like rnsxic azd
piano ssts my husband crazy Il am fond
Of social life and uy companion Is a reclnse."
Il am trying 70 be good ana my lifs long as
sociass IS very bad NAAt SHALL / doi' Ny
answer is there ars certain good reasons Tor
diyorcenlent The Bible rec0Eilizes them.
Good society recognizes t0ern. Eut it must
be tie very last resort, and oDly after ali
reasonable attempts AZ reclamation and Ed-
justrnent have proved a desd failure. When
sEch attempts fail q Is generally becauae *
meddls2Ofne outsiders, and women tsA tLs
wrouged wife how she ought 10 staad On her
rights, and men tell the wTongea husband
how he ought 10 stand On his rights. And
let husband and wife in an unhappy mar
riage relation stand punctilIOuAy On their
| riyhts. aud there viii be no read justment,
and only one thing win be sure 10 them, and
that is a hell on earth.
IL you arc unhaPpily married, in most
| cases advise you 70 make the best you can
| OF an swfully bad bargain. Do not project
| your peculiarities more than IS necessary.
| Perhaps you may have some faults OF your
| own which the other party IN the marital al
| lance may have 10 suder. i3u are in the
same yoke. II yon pull aside the yoke will
only twist your neck. Better pull ahead.
| The world is fun OF people who made mis-
| takes about many things, and among
| other things about betrothal and mar
riage, and yet have been tolerably
happy aud very useful in the strength
| Of God, and by the grace promised
| in every time of need if those who seek il
conquer the disadvanta3eous circumstances.
| | am acquainted with lovely women married
| TO contemplate men, and genial men yoked
with termagants inspired Of the devil And
| yet under these disadvantages my friends are
useful and happy. God helps people in other
| kinds of martyrdom and 10 sing in the fame,
| and he will help you in your lifelong misfor-
| tune.
Remember the patience OF Job. What a
| wife no had At time when he was one
| great blotch Of eruptiens, and his property
was destroyed by a tornado. and, more than
| all, bereavement had come and the poor man
| needed all wise counsel, sho advises him 70
| 20 to cursing and swearing. She wanted
| Kim to poultice his boiis with blasPhemy.
| But he lived right on through his marital
| disadvantages, recovered mis- health and for
| tune and raised q splendid family, and the
closing paragraph of the Book OF Job has
such jnbilsnce that l wonder people do not
| oftene- read it:
$50 the Lord blessed the latter end Of Job
more than his beginning, for he had four
teen thousand sheep, and six thousand camels,
| and thousand yoke Of oxen, and q
| thousand she asses. He had also seven
sons and three daughters. And be called the
name of the first Jomime, and the name Of
| the second Kczia, and the name Of the third
Kerenhappuch. And il. all the land were no
women found so fair as the daughters of JOB,
and their father gave them Inheritance among
their brethren. After this lived job one
hundred and forty years, and Saw his sons
and his sons sons, even four generations
SO Job died, being old and full OF days"
Now, my badly married friend Of either
sex, il job could stand it by the help of God
/ ~ J.-f 10.
reinforcement You have other relations
oh woman, beside the wifely relation. Ii you
are mother, train up your children for Gcc
and heaven. IL you are member Of d
church, help move on its enterprises. You
can get so much Of the grace of God In
your heart that all your home trials viii
seem insignificant. How little difference
does it make what your unrighteous husband
calls you, if God calls you his child anc
YOU are an heiress OF whole kingdoms beyonc
the SKYE
| Iinrlcrse yourself in sorle kind Of outside
usefulness. something that will enlist youl
prayers, your sympsthies, your hand, YOU
| needle Your voice Get Your heart on fri
with love to God and tho disenthrallment o
the human race, and the troubles Of you
home will be blotted out in the glory Of you
| consecrated life. | cry cut TO you, oh woman
| as Paul exclsims in his letter To the Cor
| inthians: "What krOuest thou, Oh wife
| whether thou shalt save thy husbandT Ant
if you cannot save him you can help in tn
| crander, mightier enterprise Of helping saw
| the world Out of the awful mistake of YOU
marriage rise into the subiIness life of self
sacrifice for God and suffering humanity
Instead Of settling down to NOPE over You
domestic woes, enlist your energies for th
worlds redemption.
Some parts Of Holland keep out the oceal
| only by dykes or walls Of stout masonry
The engineer having these dykes in charg
was soon to be married 10 a maiden living II
one OF the villages, the existence Of whicl
depended on the strength Of these dykes
And there was 70 10 a great feast in ore o
the villages that approaching evening Il
honor OF the coming bridegroom. That da
n great storm threatened the destruction O
the dykes aud hence the destruction Of thou
lands of lives IN the villages She
tered by that stone wall The ocea-
was in fun wrath. beating against thu dykes
and the tides and the terror were stu
rising. "Shall I 20 70 the feast,S says tn
sngineer "or shall 20 and belp my work
man take care Of the dykesF' Take care o
the dykes he said - his1eelf; 81 must an
win As he appeared % tbs val the nlci
working there were exhausted and shouted
Here comes the engineer. Thank God
Thank Csoar The wall vas giving way
stone hy stone. ard ti,s engineer had a ron.
fastened around DIS body, snd some Of IN
~orkrnen had ropes fastened around thei
bodies and we're 1T down amid ice wiz
surres that hest tie wall Everything "a
giving wsy More st0ResF cried TIE men
More mortar Bsz the srswcT cam.
There q no n,erer' Then cried "a
engineer. take Of your clothes an
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