Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1888-12-09
Treated as Wives-Different Types Of
Girls-LoYe and Sentiment After
Marriage ault-Finding Husbands.
Wives Should be Allowed to Pay Their
Own Bills = What Husbands
Should DO.
Written for the Gazette.
Copyrighted 1888. ,

fkYiSIOH1llf he has done that he Is
NZTyySSSn grand success. If he has
nos done that, and it is his
own fault, though he be the highest in the
land, he is a most pltiable failure.
wonder how many men, in the mad
pursuit for gold which characterizes the
age, realizes that there is no fortune
which can be left their families so pre-
cious as the memory of a happy home.
/ heard daughter say, with bitter
ness, one day: al never knew a happy
hour in nv childhood Ny father was so
cross and severe he crushed my mothers
spirit and destroyed our youth. Nothing
can ever recompense me for that. -
What memory for a daughter
to carry through life! 1t is
no uncommon case. I have known
several men who were objects of terror TO
their families. Laughter ceased, mirtn
was silenced, callers iututively took
leave, when the master of tue house ap-
preached. l wonder what such men live
for? | can imagine no honor that can
compensate for the loss of love of those
nearest to US.
l think more American men than
women marry Tor love. Yet there are
fewer good husbands than good wives,
take the land over. In many cases the
wives spoil good husbands by foolish nag
ging and illiberal faults, which [ haze
already mentioned in a letter to wives
Now / want to talk to the husbands, and
hope they will cut out this letter and
carry it in their pocket-books, aud
read it aloud as often as they have my
advice to Women as Wives
If you married beauty and belle, or
very popular young lady even, you no
doubt felt highly elated over your con-
quest, and il was your intention to make
her happy. But perhaps you did not
realize that an extra eXertion on your
part would be necessary as time rolled
on Ardent lovers too often and too
quickly become Indifferent husbands not
Indifferent in heart, maybe, but indffer-
ent in action. The girl who has been
sought, and admired, and praised by
crowd of enamored SWANS during he.
single career, cannot help feeling heart
aches and repiningS if she is unnoticed Or
neglected a wife. It will not 90 to let
her take it for granted that you still care
for her or still admire her. You must
tell her so sometimes-the Oftener the
better. 1t may seem foolishuess
to you, but it is often mat
ter of life and death import to
a wife-a few fond, admiring words
from husband S lips. 1t will not cost
you anything, and it will make her
happy Praise her discretion, her good
sense and her dignity, and tell her that
these qualities are dearer to you than her
beauty, and, mark my words, she will
strive to deserve your praise with renewed
ambition. If she does not she will be
very light weight indeed. See to it that no
man pays your wife sweeter compliments
or appreciates her beauty or worth more
than you do. There are men who stand
ever on the watch for pretty neglected
wives, ready to whisper words
of compassion and pity in their
ears. Be on your guard that
your wife does not find such men relief
from the neglect or fault-fnding she re-
ceIveS at home. If you have married
girl full of sentiment and romance, il
will require something of an effort on
your part to make successful husband
and to keep her happy. She will not be
patisfed to settle into proSaic and COM
monplace domestic life. She will not be
happy in hearing you only talk of bills
and economy, no matter how excellently
you take care of her, OF how good 4 home
YOU provide for her. She will want
little sentiment mixed in, and al
though you may feel it is unnec-
essary now that you are married, it
will be worth your while to do a little
love-making occasionally. Tell her that
she is the best wife in the world, and that
you are sure no one else on earth could
make you so happy as she has done.
You have no idea, being man, how
much joy such words bring to wife $
heart.
There are woman who may laugh at
this idea, and declare they do not want
their husbands TO talk such Stiffness to
ried for homes, however, not the ones
who married for love. If your wife gave
you q natural, warm, romantic passion
of her heart, she will desire and appreci-
ate a continuance of your love-making
after marriage.
Few OF us realize the great benefit of
endearing words in our homes.
l have seen cold, formal, loveless
household transformed by the advent of
one demonstrative and aGfectionate mem
Der into its midst. She talked the love
she felt for all those about her, used en-
dearing and afrectionate expressions in
her daily conversation, and this habit,
laughed at, even sneered at, at first, be-
came contagious, and with the use OF the
love words the love came We cannot
use oaths without becoming protane; we
cannot use slang without becoming
coarse, and we cannot use affectionate
words without becoming affeCtionate.
Let the husband who is Ill the habit of
speaking words of stern or formal COM
mand to his wife begin 10 practice little
In this line. When ne would say, "Come
here, Mary.' let him compel himself TO
say, "Come here. dear wife,, and, as
sure as he is a man, anG not brute, his
heart will feel Il softening and tender
emotion toward that wife as he speaks the
words, and her own wall thrill with hap
piness. 1t costs so little 10 dc these
things, and it gives such wonderful dlvl-
deuds.
If you come home and find something
out of place il the house, OF not to your
liking, do not let it be the first thing you
mention. Try and find something TO
praise and appreciate, and then speak of
the matter that diSpleases you and ask to
have it attended to. | have seen wives
toiling hard all day to get the house Ia
order and the table appenzingly spread
for her lord Is return, and when he came
EAave heard Shim find fault because!a
child's shoe or toy. had been allowed to lie
unnoticed, in the hall; the poor wife
cole &c If her whole davis labor WAS