New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1888-12-02
WHAT IS GENTLEMAN
IS 1T REALITY OR VENEER 2
From The San Francisco Argonaut.

| From The san francisco ATSobdu"
tutes good manners, gendy, etc, is the most fruit
less Every ones idea has the same root and and
| an Englshmans gentleman are very fine things Oh
their Kind and yet they are essentially dneren. ~
of all class distinctions, instead of simplifying mat,
tiers, has hopelessly involved them You are away Us
| coming in contact with people whose views are as
wide asunder the poles, and who are ready 10 nsns
the death for their own pet theories wss
! TO argue on the topic Of what made gentleman,
their social instinct alone pres Gnsn Wsr The
girl was an intelligent Western creation very v aclouS
and alert rc smaE bHmo she believed in
natures nobeman, in the untutored son OF the prae
whose nobility of soul gives him NOBILITY Oh acu0h
Having refinement Of thought being una6ls to
ne TO help some one else-bu from life of secluso1
being uneared in the arts OF society not mo
finger bowls as likely as not to drink out of the
atier-thcre is the man Is he a gentleman" ,.,,s
conviction: =" he Is a fine, splendid fellow-give him
a chance and he VIII be hero But all the same nc
This iT young man was an agreeable and attractive
type of a good-cass New Yorker He was an anus
think himself great and glorious lumInary, moder-
ately selfish, moderately kind to his sisters, conde
80 hs m5tber He had courtly but unaffected
ners, and was handsome and well dressed He thought
own %tr o '' His ideas Of gentlemen sm
lar to those voiced by Bertram's servant MY mas
lie argued that no man could be gentleman unless
| cnnvfSsant with the smallest laws laid down by
society. He might break the commandments
but siealing,and If his manners were unmpeachaoie
MY genileman's merely a matter Of veneer" said
me- The ss" Young lady was in rage but hid 1T with
| skill which according TO her opponents IDEAS would
Ses nc had she had the to be man
:" And yours is all below the surface essyEin
Ta Will III sSe that %ue IS the generally accepted
and the most practical. Your natures noblema nan
is all very well on his prairie, but what would you
think of him If you saw him in ballroom
II suppose genius who wore his hair long and
ate his Vegetables of knife wouldn't be gentle
man? 2"
"oh, no. cheerly; "genluses rarely are'
Then dudes gentleman"
"SometimeS not always
"Thc hostess, alarmed. here lnterfered Ill.,,
Won could S Strife what you are looking for Your ideas
are greatly exaggerated la the west they are 100
nor dude and in the East who is not conversant
with the fluctuations In the fashions OF ssrtstuuS
tough side be saRy sa I Gentleman argument
one IS perpoually being met with the question: what
constitutes good mannersl' The OF Concord has
It that good manners are made up of petty sacf
| fees Aud Dickens says somew here; " take IL
able take it that evcrybodys business in the social
system Is to be cable THIS Is hard common
APPLIED ought to result in m91t pere t manners ~
and ssd %S She She He O5
perfect lady ever She makes you feel
quis!tely wellpleased with yourself You leave her
hfning yourself hero and her divinity for having
discovered it, The woman who In a crowded room
puts most people at their ease has certainly the most
He went on TO say that he thought the lovely
lady in one OF Mrs Burnetts books, who at crowded
and fashionable Washington reception devoted her
self 10 clumsy. bashful hoy, seeking TO put him at
his and make him enjoy himself, lit to fall
| I'm love with on the spot
"You get few young women to do that he said,
they all want t. get into corners with the best-look-
ing mon. But here was beautiful aud attractive
woman. Who seeing gawhy. aW kwart, bashful boy
him and set him at ease. know just how he felt,
Inc art OF making people pleased with themselves
doubleday the most gracious and highly finished
Even the French Canadian women have this peculiar
whom once knew, Who had been and was stlll a
Why. She made them all beucye"j WAS manner
rm. too she could not help lt--that they were the
most absolutely captivating creatures in thc world
happy And She. was a hideously ugly woman woman and
This was Mrs. Poitersf charm before the DAYS OF
theatrical ambition. Mrs Potter enjoyed UNIQUE
popularity throughout New-lork She spread over
the gayest parvenu coterles She was welcome She
was not an unseflsh nor ovable woman she was not
beautiful and not brilliant but she was possessed of
the most happily hatterlng manners and amiable
temper. some girls met her on that illustrous and
we cried Si their ss" aen sr and Is she so lovely >,
~" IFS her manners, my dear. She casts a glamour
cutie fish and had you gripped in her feclsps. The
comparison ,S IS not poetic but It's true She thanks
as fascinating smile as thai with which She ceeis
"a orcign minister"
M. Potters manners eventually became quite ccle
wonder loud In public places wherein lay the charm
and %Sy n ss fact ID. She She ns iva .a
G o same Sn appaS ng amounts
be stylish but It certainly is o not aa Ssss
person who viii stand It for long.