Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1888-03-24

a woman wear lace and satin, when she should
wear cloth ana foUiard, she ruins the effect OF
subsequent Splendor. Young wuTnen are prettier
for simple aid plain clothes; their evening dresses
should De llghI ana not too much trimmed; the
less jewery the better nor should they load them
selves down with bouquets In a country where
the press Is so unlicensed as IL Is 10 ours young Urls
should even be shy OF their accomplishments. II
seems strange commentary upon the usual gal
lantry OF American men that when they take 10
newspaper writing ali their respect for women
society ii she has talent for private thesIrieals
Tor reclt uons, ior music II she can play well on
ehe koln Tue harp, or the BANJO she had better be
yon1 her family circle. II seems in the present
age 10 oe opening door for all sorts Il attacks
upon the gifted girl
THE DEBUT.
IL Is not wise for girl on her FIRST entrance into
society, to join In every dance at her first balls.
She must be reticent, modest, and draw back a
little. A mother should endeavor 10 attend balls
With her daughter, and lucky IL Is for the daugh-
Bnt mothers say. ave are not invited there Is no
room for Us" Then the daughters should not 90.
II Is very poor American vuigarity 70 not invite
limit the Invitations the father should go with his
daughters For who else is 70 escort them TO their
carriage, take care OF them II they FAINT, or look
TO their special or accidental wants? young
lady should enter society with determination TO
De polite, particularly to her elders small sacri-
rces little courteses kindly spirit, self-control
an allowance for the failings OF others, these
should all accompany young lady on her en-
IL seems like an act OF supererogation to sug-
gest 10 an American girl who has 10 make her
own way into society that she should not be push
ING. And yet there have been young girls with
that fault girl who Is so bent her own pleas
ure that she ignores deiicacy and toadies the FASH
ionable glvers OF entertainments, who takes ad-
vantage OF a generous hostess TO gain more favor,
who has that audacity which calls itself eccen-
tricity, such q woman may succeed for the mo-
ment but her success Is not q solid one.
SELF-AGGRANDIZENENT
There is no vice in the young which Is so un-
forgivable as a long-headed idea OF seif-aggran-
dizement. A giriOf whom IL is said that she Is
determined TO succeed and that she does not
much care how, will have foolish hour OF noto-
riety but no satisfactory position. There are in
stlnctS In the humblest understanding which will
tell both no tess and guest where TO draw the line
No guest hints 10 her hostess that she would like
TO be invited. No young girl must take the first
step toward person socially more prominent than
herself. II She is pleasing and well-mannered
somebody will find her out. "A violet by a messy
stone, half hidden from the eye,"-betrays itself
by It's fragrance, and is apt to be looked for.
There Is, TO be sure, tyranny In all large cities
called the fashionable set whose object Is to keep
somebody else out. These leaders are too much
feared and dreaded but ir young girl just enter
ing society desires too much to enter this Set she
viii surely he snubbed, for this set lives by snub-
bling. Let the aspirant wait patiently and culti-
waite perfect self-respect. The whole autocratic
entangle easily. There Will come up new shuffie
OF the social cards; a modest and serene cOur-
tesy, ciyility which is not serv1le, and philO-
SOphical spirit, tin tured with sense OF humOr,
will carry young lady into the best society.
NJ. F. W. SHERWOOD.