The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1888-11-10

From letters written by sad-hearted wives
| disappointed husban Is, cynical old bachelors
| and few old maids, we would reply in the af
| firmative; and the cases on the bar docket Of
divorces would seem t. verify it. In toe south
thirty years ago, a separation of husband ano
wife was extremely rare, and caused muct
| wonder and Comment. Marriage then meant
until death do us pGr5:" now it seems until we
get tired of each other" We are living in a fast
age, and no time is given to study the DISPOSE
ton and character Of one another.
A man of fine intellectual powers sees pretty
face, is fascinated, his ina .ination eldows her
with every conceivable grace. He never pauses
to inquire if she is gifted with a beautiful soul
if she has mind congenial TO his own; if in the
years to come she will b. a companion to whom
ne can talk of his pursuits and be sure Of an in
tellgent listener. He never asks himself il she
has a mind to grasp ideas on subjects which are
absorbing to him, or if in the long hours of the
eventide, when his minds is engros Sed with in
trlcate theories can this lovely creature under
stand and sympathise with him, OH no: he
never thinks of this. She is beautiful, and that
is all important AS the days come and
go he realizes his mistake. And then
comes the trying ordeal. If he is
a strong-minded conscientious man. he accents
chain which must last through life, and is true
to his VOW made at the altar, for better or for
worse" But the reverse happens frequently;
he gets wearied and begins to bemoan his fate,
to think, and then to talk OF the affinity of
souls;" then comes divorce; and the poor
woman is innocent of all blame; she is Just the
same, Dub ne mas urea Oh so MUCH prtLJineSS
and so little intellect. Thess mistakes are sad,
and are not of rare occurrence. Each one who
reads this can number half dozen such cases
amongst their acquaintances.
And the girls, poor souls, how few of them
have any idea OF the realities OF married lfes
II each party could realize the sacred solemnity
Of marriage, and question the head as well as
the heart, there would be fewer failures. "Per.
feet love casteth out all fear, and where that
exists no Jealousy ever comes. A man cannot
give grosser insult to his wife than 20 BIZ jeai-
GUS OF her No woman endowed with self
respect can forget M forgive entirely husband
husband is piuful object. He proclaims by
his distr,ist. bis Inability Of choosing a woman
OF good principle.
But let us thank God that marriage Is not
failure with people wb0 exercise common
sense and reason. One chief essential is respect
for each other. When this is deficient no pure
love can exist. To thoss rightly mated, time
intensihes their love and respect for each
other, the thought OF parting at deaths portal
is the only expectation they dream Of. When
the rose light of loves young dream lies in
the far OF past, and heads are growing white
with the SHOWS OF LIES wintry wiuds. how
blessed are they who have gone down LIES vale
hand in hand with mistaken love aud conf
dcuce. And we see many such. To us. John is
an old man, many wrinkies seam his careworn
face, but TO Mary he has never grown old. She
only remembers John as her handsome young
lover, who in the far away dead days of the
past made the sunshine of her young life. Oh,
no; marriage is never failure where hearts
are true, and they can say sincerely TO each
other:
sMy deepest sorrow thou shalt share.
And viii strive TO tighten thine"
MRS. X. H. SCHunAKKR.