The Atlanta constitution. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1885-19??, 1888-05-29


How many men there are who make the
great mistake Of thinking if they provide
comfortable home for their wives and the
luxuries of life, that they have done their duty,
and congratulate themselves that they are
good husbands. But alas that may all in its
way be very agreeable but it does mol consti-
tute a good husband. a loving woman wants
more than food and clothing She wants con-
genality of feeling, the delicate attentions
that won her heart, and occasionally, at least,
some little demonstration of affection And
yet how soon after marriage does man settle
down into hum-dum style of living, looking
upon his wife as necessity to his happiness
pretty much as he would regard his easy chair
and slippers and gown essential to his comfort.
A woman often longs for an appreciation OF
her efforts to please, and how earnestly does
she desire the entire confidence of her hus-
hand, and yet how many men think they are
doing their wives the greatest possible good by
keeping from them all information connected
with their business, and as it often occurs
death comes and the poor wife knowing moth
ing is compelled to rely on others, and is often
defrauded of all she possesses from want of
knowledge of her husbands affairs. Then too,
many men leave their wives to seek social
pleasure elsewhere; the wife feels neglected
and that she is no longer able to please him as
she once did, and the consequence is she is I'M
happy and ceases to make an effort to retain
him, and thus her love is destroyed. The man
looks at his comfortable home, the con-
yenences by which his wife is surrounded and
wonders at the change and what more it is
possible for him to do. Alas! how few men
really understand the loving heart of the
woman who has left all-home, parents and
friends and cast her lot in with his for "weal
Or woe,' until death burst assunder the bands
that bind her. How little it cost to say kind
words to such wife-words of encouragement,
words of appreciation. Many woman adorns
herself TO please her husband, and how her
eye brightens at his look of approval; a simple
recognition of pretty dress or a becoming hat
gives her pleasure, for it is his admiration
alone that she covetS. Think of the many
sacrifices loving wife makes and makes them
most willingly and in many cases they are
made alone for him, and yet not appreciated.
A man hash right to participate or enjoy any
pleasure in which his wife cannot iein him. l
shall never forget a remark made to me once
by an old lady; she was admiring breach
was wearing. and | said it was a present from
my husband on the anniversary of our mar
rage and remarked: cit is little thing, but
he gives me something always on that oc-
casion" She said "Ahi my child, a
woman's life is made up of little things, and
it is the observance of these sweet little
amenities due, to loving wife, that make the
chief happiness of married life" have never
forgotten it, for it is only too true, and if only
husbands would reflect they would see that it
takes but little to insure happiness 10 their
wives. AS some writer has beautifully ex-
pressed it, "The heart of woman needs
gentle words, loving smiles and kind attentions
to keep it alive, as q delicate flower needs air,
sunshine and moisture. A man should never
nnder any consideration, tell his wife an I'M
truth, however innocent it may appear to him.
Unless She can believe in his truth as firmly as
she believes in her religion. in her God, she
cannot be happy. Wretched is the family
where the demons of suspicion and doubt
abide"