The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1888-11-03
UNCOMFORTABLE WOMEN.


respects to everybody, against whom
nothing particular can be said.
They do not lie nor cheat nor steal,
they dress well and are educated and
all that, and yet one cannot spend
half day in their company without feel
ing uncomfortable. Why7 Well, 1
can't explain, Eut I've had such exper-
fences. One soon feels his inferiority
in such presence, and where is the
person made happy by that feeling?
And where is the person that always
wants to give up their own plans and
wishes when there is giving up to be
done by somebody
The uncomfortable women does not
make many very warm friends. If she
visits you, and she usually takes to Wis
iting as naturally as a duck to water,
you can depend on having your family
arrangements upset. She will in some
undefnable but polite way let it be
known that it is much pleasanter for
her to eat and sleep at the hours she is
accustomed to at home, than to con-
form to the rules of your house. She
will be taking bath when you ring for
breakfast, or nap when dinner is
ready, or be taking walk when the tea
hour arrives. The convenience of the
family she is visiting is the last idea that
gets into her head, even if it gets there
at all. If you serve mush or truit-or
pudding at the first of the meal, she will
want hers the last; if you choose the
last you will be told sweetly that eve
always eat it first" When you drink
tea she will want milk, and when coffee
is your beverage she'll choose tea. You
are made comfortable { p by the thought
that you don't have anything as she is
used to having it.
You can't hold very satisfactory con-
versation with her, for she'll break into
your choicest sentence with some re-
mark of her own, evidently not having
paid the least attention to what you
were saying. len chances to one if you
have bed in the house that will Just
fit her back. If yours are soft she'll be
used to hard. If you use sackings or
spiral spring, she much prefers wire of
Stats, and so all through her visit you
are made to feel that she is only "put-
ting up" with you and your ways and
things. You have tried to please, but
the conviction is upon you that your
efforts were a failure. l sometimes
think "it don't pay" to visit with people
who live in fine houses with all the
modern improvements. l live in an
antique farmhouse century old, but
it is neat, roomy, and healthful, and I
feel that my friends ought to cheerfully
endure for few days what answers my
purpose all the time and so they do as
a general thing, but once in a great
while l am called upon to entertain one
of the uncomfortable variety and so
pernicious is her influence that it strs
up feelings within, that have no righ.
to entertain towards others who may be
entirely different. l once entertained
for nearly week one of these elegant
ladies, and her husband and baby and
nurse, and when she left she quite cor.
daily invited me to "call in and see
her sometime when l was in the city,"
1t has been fifteen or more years ago,
but I've never yet found time to call,
and my duties so increase with years
that it don't look as if l ever should.
When you return the uncomfortable
woman's visit how do you find things?
If you arrive early in the day she was
not expecting you so soon, if late she
has given you out and gone off riding
or shopping. You eat at her hours, or
not at all, and what is placed before
you or 60 without. 1t is more than
likely that you'll not find a drop of
water in your bedroom pitcher, and
soap and towels minus likewise. You
are given house-room and that is about
all. One could excuse inattentions
from other people, for it is often sore
tax on busy housekeeper to attend to
all the little details that 60 to make a
visitors stay pleasant, but you feel
little sore when you remember how ex-
acting she had been in your home, and
how you bent all your habits to please
her. But never mind "let not the sun
go down upon your wrath ; anger rest
eth in the bosom of FOOLS" 1t is bet
ter for you than for her. You will win
many loving friends by your habitual
kindly ministration, while hers will be
few and far between. The great searcher
of hearts gives unto every one of US ac-
cording to our works and the friendly
offices performed for others, even
though not returned by the recipient,
will be set down for your benefit in the
column headed Whatsoever a man SOW
eth that shall he also reap"
From your standpoint and mine, kind
reader, it would seem just as easy to be
agreeable as otherwise. 1t costs moth
ing when things don't just suit, to hold
the tongue, although it is sometimes
little wearisome. l am sure l should
never criticlse or give hints for any
change to be made tor me, no matter
how Jared when visiting friend. A
highly valued gentleman friend OF mine
once said: "Those who have every
thing nice and comfortable at home,
are not so apt to complain when away;
they can afford little discomfort then,
for they know it will be all right when
they return" 1t is often noticeable
that these shallow genteel people who
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