The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1888-08-25
WINNING MANNERS.


why Young People should Strive to Do
vciop Lovable Ways.
The law Of attraction and repulsion
Is everywhere operative in society.
There are some people from whom it
is hard to keep away. They are social
magnets, drawing every one to them.
They are never alone, because their
friends can't let them alone. In acom-
pany, they are encircled with devoted
friends. They are listened to atten-
lively. Every motion is followed and
very often initiated. Your first i'm
pulse, whom you are under the same
roof with them, Is to approach them
and enter into conversation. Every
word, every look and every motion is
an invitation to friendship. You find
yourself unburdening your heart to
them and seeking their counsel. What
an influence they exert on you! You
even wonder how it is that you are so
easily persuaded by them. How you
admire such people! How much you
would give for such a power of person-
al attraction! What would you not
give to surround yourself with friends
in this way! What is the secret OF it
alp Well, we must recognize the fact
that there is personal magnetism
about some people which is q natural
endowment. All have not the same
attractiveness OF face or form, nor
have all the same unconscious drawing
power. But, while this drawing force
is in part gift Of nature, it is very
largely the product of cultivation.
Winning ways are usually developed.
1t is not always perfectly natural to
exhibit grace OF manner. But it is
perfectly possible to cultivate attract
iveness of manner, and studious watch
fulness with earnest effort will do o
great deal to make one attractive. How
much better it is to attract than to re-
pei! No one likes to feel that they are
dislilSed or even unthought of. But
how many there are whose influence is
comparatively insignificant simply be-
cause they do not cultivate personal at
tractiveness. 1t is worth thinking about
and working for. We ought to do
every thing in our power to add to our
influence. There are great many
things which some people are inclined
to ignore which have a determining
power in the matter of personal in
fuencc. Among them we would men,
tion personal appearance. We are ac-
customed to say 'handsome is who
handsome does" But handsome doing
will by no means excuse untidiness.
It is quite the fashion to accuse the
young man or young woman who gives
some attention to dress and personal
appearance generally of being proud
or vain. It is not strange therefore
that young people who are continually
harped about giving too much atten-
tion to their appearance and dress,
should come to feel that there is a
sort of virtue in ignoring these things
altogether. But such is not the fact.
1t is quite as reprehensible to be
slovenly or uncouth, as it is to be vain.
In fact of the two evils the latter is the
least. But there is no necessity for
either extreme. Having made your
self as attractive as possible in your
personal appearance, let your conduct
be affectionately winning. Be grace
full in movement. Be studiously care
full of tho feelings of others. a con-
stant inquiry as to how you can best
promote the happiness of others will
develop winning ways and indefinitely
multiply yOur usefulness -Rey A. Y
Conrad, IN Christian at Work.