Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1888-04-15

Some wears ago i saw q very young
couple married. She was quite recently
out OF short dresses, and his handsome
mouth was delicately outlined by little
gosling-down. They stepped up TO the
altar, cattled through the ceremony as
jauntily as they would have repeated
their parts in any other little drama, aud
then came down the aisle in q broad grin
of satisfaction, looking as if they had just
come from n Christmas-tree, he with his
long-coveted drum, she with her much
dreamed-o of doll which could open and
shut its eyes. "Gay, guiltless pair y
Without meaning TO be blasphemOus,
one felt like cxclaiming Father, for
give them They know not what they
dol"
/ once lived in the country near a
young couple who were quite refreshing
IN their innocence. The wife was very
pretty, with large, soft. liquid blue eyes
and hair AS black as the ravens wing.
The husband was somewhat older, and
at least understood how to look after bis
farm. Her time hung so heavily on her
hands while he was thus engaged that
one day, TO amuse herself, she fed her
baby boy on haIf-ripe cherries because
che looked so cute when he made such
funny faces" The consequence was a
violent illness, which might have straight
ened out his baby face and laid him I'M
der the violets but for the timely arrival
of kind old lady who had been Taught
things" from her youth up
A relative Of this young mother mar
ried q city girl and took her out to enjoy
the delights of a rural home. With all
the enthusiasm of Dora she provided
herself with all sorts Of dainty little i'm
plements with which to begin gardening,
and after the long rows of beans and
peas were planted she waited with child
like eagerness 10 see the tender sprouts
peer above ground, to look abroad upon
Il new world. To her utter dismay she
one day discovered that the bulls OF the
beans were showing above the soil, so
she exclaimed "Oh l must have
planted them bottom upwards, where
upon she dug them all up and planted
them right side up with care, but her
loving husband had to wait indefinitely
for his beans. / do not blame these
young people for being liSht-minded and
hippant, for, like Sara Crewe's doll, who
sat up stif1y, "doing her very sawdust
best, ~ they are doing the best they have
ever been taught to do ; but, oh believe
me, there IS no grander truth IN the
werld than that
"Evil is wrought by want Of thought
As well as by want Of heart"
Marion Harland says very Justly that
"no woman need incur the suspicion Of
mercenary motives in making sure that
the man She is marrying is likely to sup
port her decently." Neither should n
Young man be considered penurious if
be should dare to inquire if the woman
70 whom he intrusts his future happl-
ness knows how TO manage that income
TO make it adequate for their wants, or
rather to mould their wants to fit the IN
come.
A man should always Dry to place his
wife IL as comfortable position AS that
which she leaves for his sake, but that
being accomplished it remains with her
not to frittor away his money IN useless
extrayagaDces and icnorant.wsste. The
"lebrgeld y (Or money with which OK
pelience is bought lavished by an ave
rage young couple i'll the first few years
of married life is often enough to start
them quite handsomely.
A very intelligent girl once told me
that she was allowed certain sum every
wear by her father, and from that she
supplied all Of her own clothing and
other little wants. Thus she learned the
value Of money ard to exercise judgment
il her outlayS. because when one buys
IN this way she is more spt to be careful
than when she simply sends the bill to
pa" The consequence OF this early
training was a very systematic. well-or-
dered household when the young lady
had a home of her own.
MANS HAPPINESS.
The thoughtful mother who has made
il her life work to tit her son for career
Of usefulness may well look with anxiety
toward the step which will make or mar
his whole future. Many a noble man Of
rare intelligence has, for some occult
reason. become enamored OF n beautiful
face or sylph-like form. The dream soon
fades away in all It's bewildering beauty,
and he wakes to lace the stern reality
that he is bound for life to one who can
never understand or appreciate him, and
the result is mental, perhaps moral,
DEGRADATION or pitiful enlargement
OF the matches made in haste and re-
pented Of leisure, banded together to
fool the world, like Mr.. and Irs. Alfred
Lamb, whom Dickens so well describes;
of those scarcely tolersting each other,
but dragging out existence in "splendid
misery" or seeking mad diversion by
setting aside the laws OF God and man,
our divorce courts, daily papers, the on
dts Of society furnish ample citation.
The first requisite, then, for a wife Is
fair amount Of intelligence. She should
be neat in personal appearance, looking
fresh in the morning, in good, honest
daylight, which lisa great test Of wom2n's
health and beauty. She should have some
idea of the value of money, and be ablo
t. keep little weekly and monthly ac-
count of the outgoings and incomlngs of
her home. She should have been trained
by her mother to keep her own belong
ings in place, so as TO avoid waste of
time and temper hunting for them.
Her education should not have ceased
with the presentation Of q diploma with
large seals and long ribbons, or dainty
golden medal Her schooling should
have taught her how to think and to read
carefully so as to store her mind with
material for pleasant chats at the table or
il the evenings
She should have taken more than a
casual peep into the kitchen and store
room she should 60 on and up IN the
stages Of cookery until she
reaches "the perfect loaf" which Miss
Acott has so wonderfully described. 1t
is painful fact, but nevertheless a fact,
that the way to a mans heart is right
straight down his throat. There Is no
thing so well calculated to "rile bis
temper or cool the ardor of his affection
as the continual serving up of leathery
bread, scorched meats, dsloppy coffee.
As our Christianity even SO largely de-
ponds upon a good digestion the subject
deserves attention.
Of our inadyertent influence upon
those around us volumes have been and
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