The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1888-10-24
Elizabeth Stuart Phelps saws:

Elizabeth Stuart Phelps says:
The present discussion of the question
is marriage failure? is offensive to good
taste, and harmful to large class in every
community. People do not stop to think OF
the immoral bearings of this matter, and
for one do not wish to take any par. in the
discussion of itn
Laura e. Holloway says:
IF, before the invitation to marriage
comes to woman from man she should
read and thoroughly digest Schopenhauers
Metaphysics of the Love of the Sexes, the
question of failure would scarcely enter into
a discussion of the institution of matrimony
If the subject could be considered judicially
and each young girl be made to realize that
her illusion OF love hides from her the know
ledge that she is sacrificing individually for
the benefit of the species, there would be a
true comprehension of marriage before and
not after the wedding. Marriage is certain
ly failure if the individual is not benefited
and his or her whole nature developed by it.
The act Of marriage concerns innumerable
questions--has to do with the race--and hence
1t is of the highest concern that it should be
esteemed as the most important event in a
human beings life"
Lucy Stone says:
The marriage relation is one of grave re-
sponsibilities, and ought to be entered into
" 18th the clear understanding that the rear
ing and guiding of children will require the
abilities and Judgment of both parents.
Divorces and the death rate among children
are signs that many marriages are failures,
but they do not leaven the whole lump"
Mrs. Madeline Vinton Dahlgren says:
"lf this question could be formulated upon
state of things which does not generally
exist, 1t could be answered with a prompt
negative. But in the present disorganized
and lax state of our divorce laws which
hpl To mo Of
tinuance, is it any wonder that marriage is
held in disrepnte by manys 1t is in the tn
terest of every nation to promote matri-
mony, for upon the family tie rests the very
foundations ofthe state. This eS without
the saying This life is a network OF recip-
rocal relations which we bear to each
other, and which " ecannot escape if we
would, and marriage is the most important
of all. We should not let it be a failure in
any case, it being the foundation stone of
society,""
Mrs. Ella Wheeler Wilcox says:
The system of marriage is all right; it is
the abuse of it that we deplore. When
man and woman choose each other from
mutual love and respect, and strive by mu-
tual sacrifices aud unseifishness to render
married life happy they usually succeed.
The men and women who detase this sys-
tern would debase any system. Women
must be educated to lie larger minded; men
must be compelled to lead more moral lives.
Public censure can bring about the latter !;
parents can improve girls by teaching them
to LOOK upon marriage as something else
than a co ,venence OF necessity. Our do
nestle relations cannot be improved by
selhshness or any greater amount of SEN
suality, and marriage is failure to those
who look upon it as a relationship of
saltshness and shield for immortality
That gifted writer, Lucy Larcom says:
I'm the matter OF marriage, as i'll friend
ship, won an must be herself before she
can be anothers. Sac is first OF all, human
being, with toe right and the duty of dc
veloplng herself such, it may be by mar
riage, it may be without it; or it may be by
the prolonged education of her womanhood
for nobIer matronhoOod Whatever she
chooses, she has no right to give up her own
distinctive personality, her human respon-
sibility. The marriage that requires this
of any woman at any age. is for her mis-
take. Marriage may he regarded as a con-
dition or az education; and locked upon as
the latter, it may be for some young per-
sons the very best in the world. After all,
one might as well attempt to square circle
as to settle the question Of the failure or
success of marriage definitely"
BETSY O'Dow.