The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1888-02-03

gatherings II they BE- women, ca chatter
and giggle over what was said to them
in confidence. Condign punishment 10
apt to come upon them and they get paid
in their own coin. could point you to
SCORE whom society has let drop very
hard in return for their base traffic in
human hearts. As to such men. they
walk around in their csl;bacy after their
hair is streaked with gray, and pretend.
ing they are naturally short.sighted
when their eyes are SO old in sin that
they need the spectacles Of . septuagen-
arfan, An eyeglass about No. 6. aud think
they are bewitchinS in their stride and
overpowsring in their glauces. although
they are simply laughing-stocks for all
mankind. And II these base dealers in
human hearts be females they are left
after awhile severely alone, striving in .
very desperation OF agony Of cosmetics
to get back to the attractiveness they
mad when they used to brag how
many masculine affections they had
slaughtered. Forsaksn OF God and honest
men and good women, ore sure to be all
such masculine and female triflers with
human and yet immortal affections. O
man, o woman, having plighted your
troth, stick to it.
And here my idea widens and have to
say not only to those who have made q
mistake in solemn promise of marriage,
but to those who have already at the
altar been pronounced one when they are
two, or in diversity of tastes and likes
and dislikes, are neither one nor two, but
a dozen, make the best you can Of an aw.
full mistake. And here let me answer let.
ters that come from every State Of the
American Union. and from across the Sc 4,
and arc coming year after year from msn
and women who ara tsrrifically allianc~d
and tied together in q hard knct,
very hard knot. This let.
tiers run something like this: "What
ought to do; my husband is a drunkard."
"My wife is gad.about and will not stay
ut home" "My companion ia ignorant
and hates books and revel in them" II
like music. and a piano sets my husband
crazy" 81 am fond of social life and nv
companion is a recluse." 81 am trying to
DO good and my lifelong associate is very
bad. What shall I do:" Ny answer is,
there are certain good reasons for divorce.
ment. The Biblo recognizes them. Good
society recognizes them. But it must bs
the very last resort, and only after all
reasonable attempts at reclamation and
adjustment have proved a dead failure.
When such attempts fail it Is generally
because of meddlesome outsiders, and
women tell the wronged wife how she
ought to stand on her rights, and men tell
the wronged husband how he ought to
stand on his rights. And let husband and
wife in an unhappy marriage relation
stand punctiliOusly on their rights and
there will be no readjustment, and only
one thing will be sure to them and that is
a he'll on earth.
II you are unbappily married. in most
cases I advise you. make the hest you can
of an awfuliy bad bargain. Do not pro.
ject our peculiarities more than is neces-
sary. Perhaps you may have some faults
of your own which the other party in the
marital alliance may have to suffer. You
are in the Same yoke. II you pull aside
the yoke will only twist your neck. Better
who made mistakes about many things,
and, among other things. about betrothal
and marriage, and yet have been toler-
ably happy and very useful In the
of God. and by the grace prom
issd in every time of need IL those who
sock it conquer the disadvanta geous cir
am acquainted with lovely
women married to contemplate
men and genial men yoked with
inspired with the devil And
yet under these disadvantages my friends
are useful and happy. God helps people in
other kinds of martyrdom and to sing in
the flame, and he will help you in your
lifelong misfortune.
Remember the patience of Job. What Q
wife he had! At time when no was ono
great blotch of eruptions, and his prop
erty was destroyed by a tornado, and.
more than all, bereavement had como and
the poor man needed all-wise counsel,
she advises him to go to cursing and
swearing. She wanted him to poultice
his boils with blasphemv. But he lived
right on through his marital disadvant.
ages, recovered his health and his fort.
une and raised splendid family, and
the closing paragraph Of the book Of Job
has such jublance that wonder people
do not oftener read it:
So the Lord blessed the latter end OF job
moro than his beginning: Cor he had 1900
sheep, and 100 camels, ard Co, yoke OF oxen,
and 1000 she asses. He had also screen sons
Of tho first. Jemima; and the name Of the sec
ond, Kezia: and the name Of the third, Keren-
happuch. And in all the land were no women
found so fair as the daughters Of JOB: and their
father gave them inheritance among their
brethren. After this lived Job 40 years. and
saw his sons and his sons sons, even four gen.
erationA So Job died, being old and full Of
days.
Now, my badly married friend Of either
Sex, II Job could stand it by tn. help of
God, then you can stand It bv the Same
divine reinforcement. You have
other relations, o, woman, beside the
wifely relation. II you are q mother,
train up your children for God and
Heaven. II you are q member Of .
help move on its enterprises.
You can get so much Of the grace Of God
in your heart that all your homo trials
will seem insignificant. How little differ
ence does ii make what your unrighteous
husband calls you, il God calls you his
child and you are an heiress of whole
kingdoms beyond the sky?
immense yourself in some kind Of ont
side usefulness, something that will enlist
your prayers, your sympathies, your
hand. your needle. your voice. Get your
heart on fire with love to God and the dis.
Of the human race, and the
troubles Of your home will bs hotted out
in the glory Of your consscrated life.
cry out to you, o woman, as Paul exc'aims
in his letter to the Corinthians: What
knowest thou, o wife, whether thou
shalt save thy husband? And il you can
not save him you can help In tho gran Ter,
mIghtier enterprise OF helping save the
world. Out Of the awful mistake of your
rise into the subIimest life CT
for God and suffering hu-
manity. Instead OF settling down to
NOPE over your domestic woes, en'is.