Wheeling register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1878-1935, 1888-01-26
OF YOUNG WIVES.
MARION HARLANDS TALK to BRIDES OF
To-Day.
The Modern Girl aud Marrlags-A Prose Pastoral
How Men Regard Aatrimony-Childhood
The Band that Holds Together
Welded Hears.
Copyrighted, ISL.

,tOpyrighted, IS>".
II never 20 10 u bridal that it does not
break my heart, " said p man whose
tact AM tenderness Seis WOmanly.
We would not have our girls live single
until lonely old age fluids them destitute
of what makes lie worth havinR-home
and hume lSgts. We believe firmly that
enduring earthly Happiness is otteEsst
in the holy estate of wedlocK; that
a GOOD woman il made better, . noble
man uobler by loving and living with
one another IA wifC and husband
that their affection deepens, and
riperS, aud grows purcr with each pa9-inS
wear until neither isa complete being With
out he other. Aud yet, eyes grown graTe7
with experience look sadly upon the happy
yourr thing who stands on the threshold
of the new world as at the wide gate OF an
Ed,n which clouds and chill and blasting
flies cannot enter. To her bri1ehnOd is tru-
ition. We know it 10 ne probation, for
which the life Of the average girl is not q
p~reparsiory school. Fer no other vocation
is so little specific education received even
sensible and far sighted parents.
This omission, often q fatal one, we may
set iowa As = sinful error s~ntedatipg mar
riagr.
"liau is usually u misiit from the start, W
wrote Emerson, more Cynically than was
tho Eo;.t ~ the calm-brOwed ~metaphySi-
cIaE.
Before deciding that the joining OF mans
hand 10 wOman's In the most Important
relation If human existence Is a mistake,
and Joined hearts o mistit, let rs look ut
some o. the causes of discOrd in the SYM
phony OF tine dlBl life.
The keynote that sets sll ajar IS usually
struck in the earlier months OF marriage.
BY Il curious reyefsal Of conditions, the
ardent weoer of the ante-nuptial idyl be-
m the acknowledgements nus
hand with the gttersnce OF the irreVocaoie
words. Often the pastoral becomes
plain prose, with never Il trope
Or rhyme, by the time the honey
moon WAS over. Ii WAS the sailors bust
ness IL make the world beautiful to his
betrothed during the wOoing. In wedlOck
the wife must bear with her lords caprlces,
minister 10 his comfort, amuse his ull
hours-nr run the risk of losing him.
What husband bethinks himself to EN-
.ertaiu" his Spouse it she il in tolerable
health and spirits2 What good wife dees
not rake together all her sticks and stIawS
of talk and apply the torch OF c~heertuiness
1t the homecoming of her lord? IL
is he, not she, you may he sure, who
drinks his coffee around the edge OF the
morning and evening paper, things wahs o!
wet woUl ia the form of absent minded
mOnusyllahles upon the bonfire aforesaid,
and. when it has sputtered itself quite ont
and the paper is read through, y%awningiy
bethiuks himself that he must "seea man
at the club or elsewhere, or, If very domes
tic in taste, fall asleep on the library sofa
4 woman is born n wife. A man takes
matrimaay into consideration along with
great many other investments. He hopes
earnestly that it will be both pleasant and
profitable. Should ii prove to be neither,
he has borne the shock Of falling stocks,
the disaster Of loss in other cases, without
beng utterly ruined.
Common sepse clear-sightedness IN our
survey of the situation IS not pesSlmlsm'
A failure 10 appreciate the cardinal trntn
that man is not woman, nor woman unan,
is q Jagged reef connecting the Scylla OF
single wretshedneSs and the Eharybdis OF
welded misery, aud lies just under water.
1t may be added that the Gratis "hich
draw the most water because heavily
freighted are apt to fare the worst here.
The citizen who has even an inhnlteslmai
bit of the worlds history to make cannot
give ND his whole lie t. rOurtshlp. His
wife, regarding love-making and marriage
as interchangeable terms, and finding IN
them her life long profession IS at hrst
amazed, then hurt, then angrily jealous OF
whatever divides his attention win her'
This may be elsssed as generic leaionsy.
1t may annoy, or, il he be easy-temPered,
amuse her Iord. 1t inevitably lowers his
opinion of her good sense. Ii to q tender
heart he unites quick perceptions, he Will
keen business" out of her sight to the
best of his ability, generally succeeding so
far as 10 confuse the outline OF what he
carries under his cloak, bat allowing her
to see that there il something there OF pOr-
tentous because unknown bulk.
Specific jealousy is a grsver mistake,
especially when the object Is another wo-
man. Such feeling, unexpressed by so
much as a look, bears the same relation TO
open exhibition OF il as does the innocent
white egg to the fiedged lighting cock. The
thOughtless wiis may play with her hus-