The Arkansaw traveler., 1888-09-29
FILTRATION.
Vanity Fair.

Filtration of a strictly proper kind, proper filtration means filtration with view to matrimony; and therefore you should choose your ilirtee with an eye to the future.
 show goes-is the rather heavy. good tempered girl. She should be little greedy-for that will mean care in the arrangement of your dinner. She should be inclined to be father mothers weight is always to be no- ticed-tor then she will probably be domestic and disinclined for much gadding about. She should have a charm of homely kind that does not attract foreigners; and there should be no sparkle or espteglerte or dtd6leric or any other French quality about her innocence. She should be fair, with blue eyes and a white skin that will easily treckle; for then she is not likely Gas otherwise would be the case with the sort of girl l am thinking of) to insist much on picnics and expedi- tions of dull kind in search of rural beauty. She should be very fond of her brothers and sisters, and have one or two bosom girl friends. The more home sentiments and sentimental gush she has expended in her youth the calmer will be her matron dreams.
 Whether she should be ignorant or wise depends good deal on whether you are ignorant or wise. At any rate she must-and this is essential be more ignorant or less wise than yourself. A fondness for dress is not bad thing in it's way but any turk ing extravaganza in this matter should be carefully Inquired into, as it may lead to vanity, and vanity in woman may lead to anything. A friend of mine married charming girl-inno- cence and docility incarnate-who wore boots of an indefinite shape a size too large for her. In moment of imbecility he took her to a good bootmaker and made joy forever of her feet. Here the husband put the wife's foot in it, and ruin came.
 There is some advantage in your fiirtee having accomplishments can amuse herself sketching or playing the piano when you are away, but they should have their limits, or you may find yourself suddenly put in the background, with art and it's profess ors occupying your place in your wife's heart and home.
 Never marry-or fiirt honorably- with a woman who dances well. You cannot ex pect her contentedly to cease her favorite amusement (and no wo- man dances we'll who does not love it) because she marries she cannot, with out your both being ridiculous, dance only with you; and, depend upon it, it is not according to the proper scheme of things that the mother of your children (present or future) should continually gyrate in public with young men about whose morals you naturally have no accurate infor- nation.
 The girl you deem worthy of your hand should be unready, slow and un- certain of speech. She should be cas- fly be taken at disadvantage and should be prone to blush on the smail- est provocation. As 5ick-witted liar is the most form foe 8 young AAAhu O0n OUAC tO "a
 Whether the youh 0ihan of whom am treating should have money is, of course, a matter between you and your banker.
 Having chosen, the first thing is to make sure you will be safe in propos- ing.
 With the right kind of girl this should not be difficult. Of course yOu must sigh and gaze and murmur the usual soft nothings; and you would do well to see whether little pique or jealousy may not be useful now and then. Indeed, this Is indispensable, for if the jealousy seem very fierce the lady will not do. A jealous woman is a crown of thorns to her husband.
 Leading up to proposal is very difficult art, for you have to be care ful that your bridges are open behind you, 50 that the moment you see you are not likely to succeed you can re- treat in good order and without re- ceiving any disastrous volley from the enemy. In other words, it is your object that, if one of the two should look foolish, 1t shall not be you; and if you can only manage that the young lady shall refuse your offer before you have made it, you really want bu: ht- tie instruction.
 Of course if you have got her into this humiliating position deal kindly and humanely with her. Possibly then you may turn her hatred to grst- itude, and O have made . friend fn- stead of . peculiarly bitter foe.