The Dickinson press., 1888-11-03
HOW CITY FOLKS GUARD AGAINST
UNPLEASANT AcQUAINTANCEs.
sotcs of IL Home Circle Conversation.
Taken in by n Charming Fellow-A
Nice Looking Couple-An U%nsophisti-
,,fo1 y-:,,u No.

.'otcS Oh u nome Circlc conversation.
Taken in by n Charming Tellow-A
Nice Looking Couple-An %Unsophisti-
Gated view-Notes.
Notwithstanding the true American free
dom of approach and readiness to accept tho
advances of others which perhaps exists in II
greater measure in New York than else
where, there are yet certain bounds of in
timacy which may not be passed until time
has ripcncd acquaintance into confidential
friendship. The man one meets daily at the
Office, in the store, on the elevated railroad
or at tho club convcrses freely after intro
ductiou, and both gives and receives pleasure
by daily talks, but he is not invited to visit
the homo circle, nor does he give such an in.
vitation until long acquaintance has fumili.
arize each party with the circumstances of
of the others life.
In n recent home circle conversation the
writer asked the question: Glow long and
well should one know Il person before COM
hitting himself to confidential fricndshipi'
The answers. rs was to be expected, were as
different as the natures of those who made
them. II call judge a man tolerably well ut
sight" said I'M impetuous New Englander,
not yet familiar with metropolitan ways.
If he has al honest eye and n good face, is
not marked with n rummy nose, and talks
seusibly, ] should not be afraid to ask him to
my home. He might turn out badly some
time, and | might be ashamed of having
known him, but that cannot be helped. One
never knows the whole of anybodv's life his
tory" There was an ominous pause after
this ~cffusive statement. 1t was not pleasant
to express less generous sentiments, but the
countenanccs of the auditors showed that
they could not agree with him..
WFULL X IN.
"You will find that you cannot go on that
rule here" said one who has lived longer in
this city. ~ used to feel just that way and
acted accordingly, but now l make it a rule
never to invite an acquaintance to call until
/ have known him f%avorably at least three
months. If | am introduced to n stranger
and like his appearance, | try to be cordial
to him during that time. Not hearing
anything against him, or seeing any
thing wrong about him, l then give him an
invitation. l was awfully taken in once by
one Of the most charming fellows in the
world. He looked like n prince and talked
like an angel, but he is in Canada now and q
bank down own mo,lrns for him anC. several
thousand dollars which he stole. Since then
/ have not been hasty in making friends
"Three months is not nearly long enough
said II bright, chatty lady, the sister of Il well
known clergyman. Ben ther brothcr and l
have to meet all sorts of people in ourclurch
work, and we always wait a year. Most of
our friends did so with us and they were
right, judging by our experiences. Ono of
the incest and daintiest of little women moved
into the fiat next to ours soon after brother
was called here, and | told him | meant to call
-, T,Ji],tt ,n i,,.t tl,. l,,,,,nn r l~l g..
90 homc and take care Of mother during u
sickness. One day after l had got back l
happened TO pass her door while she was say
Slang words in one minute than in all my
life before. You can guess that l decided
not to make her acquaintance
You We're perfectly right in saying that
Il year is not too long, said another lady,
picking up the conversational thread.
when We lived OH street we had for
near neighbors us nice n looking couple rs
ever were Seen. The man went to his bust
ness every morning, and tho woman was
singing over her work all day long. Myhus-
band thought they were nice, and so did L,
but we learned better before long. Ono
night they had Il supper party that began at
10 O'Clock and ended ut Gaybreak. Every
ono must have been drunk, for they sang md
shouted SO that nobody else in the house
could get wink of sleep. After that we
heard them scolding each other every night,
and at last something exploded like n cannon
cracker between them. Both commenced
divorce proceedings, and the wife was turned
out of tho house because she couldn't pay her
rent and the husband would not"
IN "A VERY QUEER WAY.
"No doubt all Of you arc right from the
point Of view of personal interest" said the
unsophisticated New Highlander, who las not
yet realized that personal interest rules tho
best of us in an inordinate measure. "You
have had bad luck, but most people are good
and well disposed. Now, I've just mado
some new friends iii a very queer way, and l
mean to stick by them until l find they are
not oil right. Last night when l was going
up the stairs of my boarding house in my
usual dumheaded, absent minded style, /
turned into the room below mine by mis-
take. Thinking, of course, that l was in my
own room l was dumfounded at its appear
ancc, with trunks piled up i'll the corner and
ladies' dresses hanging i'll the open closet. A
low, sweet female voice struck on my ear us
l stood there amazed. There, baby it said,
lis papa and before l could turn her arms
wero about my neck. Then she saw what
a4'"e A'llNhSN 'Ait aNNSlIIi my stpOlOSA,
though not very graciously at first. We arc
good friends now, l am glad to say, and
laughed over the accident this morning."
a general comparison of notes was made
at tho end of this funny story. The conclu-
sion reached was not perhaps the best, but
most people will think it Il prudent one. All
kinds of people 1.-Two in this great city. Not
only are there good angels with good faces,
and bad angels with bad faces, but there are
also good men and womcn whose counte-
llances would convict them of any crime,
and evil disposed wretches who look as if
they belonged to heaven rather than
on earth, and who talk as swcetly as il "but-
ter wouldn't melt in their mouths" Every
man and woman rightly limits tho list of in
innate friends to the rule of congeniality.
Well disposed, decent, law abiding people
very properly avoid those who have not sim
liar virtues. In q large city active and STIR
ring people meet new acquaintance every
day. These ought to be received pleasantly
and politely, but may in common fairness
be compelled to wait until time has proved
their desirability as friends.-New York
Press.