Wichita eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1886-1890, 1888-06-17
SOMETHING TO BE NOTED.
BAD MANNERS or CUR YOUNG
FOLKS OF THE FAIR SEX.

FOLKS OF THE FAIR SEX.
Objectionable Ways Which Lessen the At
tractiveness of Maidenhood-A Practice
in Traveiing-aIunchingC Candies in Public
Places-An Unwise Habit.
The traveller of years or wisdom. accus-
toned to much exercise of his powers of
observation, or well acquainted with the
world. will have noticed that the young
women OF this period, and perhaps of all
other periods as well, have one or two
ways of their own which are more or less
to be regretted. and which it would be
well for them to look to and correct while
they may, since once established with
acquiescent usage no habit Is easily to be
overthrow
These ways Of our young ladies are
ways which take of from the pleasant
bloom OF their maidenhood. and give them
often coarse grained and vulgar air.
which none would regret more than them
selves were they but aware of it, for they
must know that few things are more I'M
lovely in young girls than those which
venture ON the bold, the brusque, the
assumption of too much SAVIOR faire, OF
the obtrusion Of themselves upon public
notice
One of these Objectionable ways of our
pretty damsels is habit they have in
3aveling-and one which could hardly
have existed before the days Of railways,
as stage coach authorities would never
have winked at it--of taking not only the
whole Of a seat In the car, but of turning
over the next seat and taking the whole of
that. whether for parcels or for the fair
travellers feet-a custom very observable
in the frequent suburban trains. 1t
would seem unnecessary to remind these
young ladies that only single seat was
paid for by each of them, and that there
fore no more should in decency be occu-
pied by them, on that score alone. But
not only do they take the space that does
not belong TO them, but if another traveller
comes along looking for seat, no motion
of withdrawal from the usurpation is
made; the new conner has to ask if the
place is occupied, and instead of pleasant
answer or reassuring, not to say welcon-
ing smile, receives a grudging negative,
or else no reply at all in words, but in
their place q frown and an angry sweep
ing aside of the parcels As for the feet
Upon the opposite seat when it has been
turned over, it goes without saying that
a lady, young or old, must be exceedingly
i'll or weary, and in a much greater de-
gree than ordinary railway travel sees, in
order to justify her in lifting her feet into
any such position
Another unpleasant habit of our young
ladies is that of munching candies at
matinees, concerts, lectures, at all public
places, in fact, sometimes not even ex-
cepting church, the vulgarity of which
act Ill any public place whatever is ap-
parent at glance-vulgarity of bad taste,
of appetite, and of the display of eating,
as well as of the scattering of the redo
lence Of the candies upon the atmosphere
il many instances, the habit being one
which has inspired the witty pencils of
many among our eminent caricaturists.
4 custom as much worse than this as IN
kindness and want of consideration are
worse than vulgarity is that Of regarding
the late corners of theatres or concert
who enter quietly, anxious to make az
little disturbance as may be, veXed with
themselves more than any one else can be
vexed with thomas if they were some
thing only short of murderers, rising the
while with an air of unspeakable hauteur,
and drawing back as if the touch of their
garments were deflement, assuming a
scorn of the proceeding and the proceeders
which really is only anger at being dis
turbed Of course it is disagreeable to
gather up all ones goods and rise In this
way, but the hardness is SO much
an accident that may happen to US all
that it ought TO be taken in democratic
spirit, and accorded the treatment that it
would be pleasant in turn to receive. cur
best manners, after ell, being but the ex-
preston of true Christianity.
Still another unwise and unpleasant
habit of the young people of the present
and this is not confined to one sex-is
that of monopolizing attention and taking
on themselves the whole burden of con
versation and entertainment, wherever
they happen to be, quite regardless OF the
presence Of their elders and superiors,
who may be thousand times more fitted
to engross listener and Observer habit
which makes the boy seem boorish and
bumptious, and the girl pitiably pert and
forward The young have the world be-
fore them; they viii do something better
with their share if they wait and learn
in silence than if they obtrude themselves
as if they had nothing more to hear. and
wisdom would die with thea. One is
tempted to say that it is enough for the
young to be young, that the beauty OF
youth. the bright color. the full eye, the
velvet cheek, the gay spirit, is enough,
without taking pains TO make 1t ali too
obvious; the rose which bushes by itself
in quiet places of the garden is far more
attractive than the rose that every wind
has rifed and every bee has run1pled--
Haruer's Bazaar