Los Angeles daily herald., 1888-04-29

women. In his intimate relations
with her, he is either too cold or to
demonstrative too frank or not frank
enough. He repulses when he should
encourage, or he encourages where he
should disparage. In other words,
he does not make the slightest effort
to mould her to his ideas; he merely
takes her as he takes his coffee, un-
questioningly. If she has seen and
felt enough to understand him and
his caprices, and 80 can adjust her.
self to him; or if bin | but uneir,ng
perception teaches her to be adapta BILE,
all goes we'll; but if, on the other
hand, neither experience nor
nature have fitted her for COM
partnership, she is doomed to
become affections outcast. The best
husbands, as some one has recently
claimed, are the insipid and effemin.
a.e men who are infinite bores to the
more brilliant of their sex, is
a fact which is readily ac-
counted for. They find at home the
homage that is denied them abroad ;
while the milk-and-water elements of
their tastes make home-spun enjoy
ments satisfying and congenial. Still,
these men are not great favorites with
women. 1t is the men, indeed,
whom men most like, whom women
most like, too. Why? Because, they
are more interesting. If, then, this is
the case, and it is, could not these
men whom women admire educate
these women by whom they are ad-
mired up to their standard? OF course
they could, if they would take the
trouble to do it. Bertha Clay, in "The
EarPs Atonement," tells the story of
a girl whom despite her simple, coun-
try education and his original Don
Juan notions of honor, so
endears herself to her would,
be seducer that through
long years of solitary and constant as
sociation, he not only remains her
lover, but her friend. To be sure,
they were not married, although she
thought they were; but that incon-
gruity made no difference, for the
point the author tried tomake, and
did make, was that the loveliness of
her character triumphed over all
other considerations. So it is
in real life, and the exceptional
men and women who attain to
the perfection of companionship are
always endowed with predominating
mental or moral qualifications. The
sexes are as necessary to the happi-
ness OF each other, as air, sunshine
and water are necessary to plants
and the more completely and nobly
they become cemented together, the
better it is not only for themselves,
but for the world. But to attain to
this absorbing and superior comrade-
ship, it is necessary that they
both understand it and appreciate
each other; and that respect
should form the foundation, and truth
be laid as the cornerstone of the alli-
ance. No woman can be to a woman
what man can; and no man can be
to man what woman can; there
fore he or she who would attain to the
exaltation of happiness, should seri-
ously seek to fit him or herself for,
and when SO fitted to enter, the high
est sphere Of companionship. There
alone can true enjoyment, love and
friendship be found.
One Reason why Women Do Not
Succeed as nIen do
Is because they are hedged in with
duties and responsibilities impossible
to the opposite sex. Few, if any,
men are personally encumbered by
family ties, while almost all women
are weighed down by household cares
or the obligations of kinship. When
q man wishes to make move which
he believes will materially advance
his professional interests, if he can
command sufficient money to enable
him to compass his plans, he
makes it; but if a woman
wishes to take exactly the same
step, she is compelled by the social
and moral codes to which she is sub
jected, to consult, convince and
finally do whatever her friends or her
family see fit. Usually they see fit to
advise the course that is most likely
to retard her progress, and which in
consequence is least agreeable to her :
but then, forsooth, she is a woman,
and so must take her nauseous medi-
cine without groan or grimace. 1t
would seem that whomever fate
created q genius, it ought to create q
path wherein the same can walk; but
such is not the case. Fate
moulds the genius, but the
genius moulds the path. This is
substantially true Of men as we'll as
women but no man was ever requir-
to model, to carve and to adjust the
finished proportions of his life work
as is woman. Suppose she has an
absorbing passion for music, painting
or literature suppose she would rath-
er die than to resign her hope of sue
cess suppose, too, that she has sick
father or mother, or a brother or Sis
tet or child dependent upon her
that her tolls are manifold and her
nights broken by the labcrousi task
of nursing, how can she succeed
yet how can she surrender? For
such an one, though, society has no
pity; it cannot recognize the anoma-
lies of her position, and so it bids her
resign her hope of immortality, and
chain herself down to the irksome
duties Of to-day. Such an alternative
is wormwood to an ambitious soul /;
but many has been the wretched
woman to whom it has not only been
prescribed, but who has been obliged
by adverse circumstances to take it in
allopathic doses. Still, she
must not murmur; oh, no;
she must not even turn cynic, and
demand of fate the solution Of its
mysteries. Such bravado is the priyi-
lege of her brother, who perchance
has not her comprehension or her
power, but whose birth right is the
sovereignty of sex, and who forthwith
is entitled to sit in judgment upon
her heterodoxy of desire. What right
has she to beat her breast against the
rusty bars of her prison cell, conven-
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