The Democratic press. [volume] (Ravenna, O. [Ohio]) 1868-1901, 1888-12-13
How to BE Interesting.

Most persons, it may be admitted,
cannot become interesting without an
effort. The Drawer knew a man Of an
inquisitive but not primarily an orig
lnal mind who was always a most en-
tertaining companion on cunt of
his information, upon whi he drew
modestly, and without boring any
body. whenever it was needed And
having the habit, he kept himself fill
ed up by reading and observation. The
society of man of this sort never
pals. ii, of course, he has been well
enough brought up to be personally
agreeable. While it is not possible to
prescribe rule by following which
girls may become entertaining and al
ways desired members of society," it is
safe to say that person Will
never be interesting unless she is inter-
ested.- To be interested in something
outside of ones self is a necessity Of
the situation. That always with any
companion makes a point of interest.
There has been growing complaint
this season-and it is one of many sea-
sons standing-of the scarcity of
young men at the resorts, and it has
also been limited that the young men
who did appear were uninteresting.
This is the fault of the young men, for
the young women have been as attract
i've as ever. But it must be kept in
mind that however devoid of enter
tanning qualities men may be at GER
tain age, from lack of experience and
of any actual taking hold of life Cor
from the idea that they know it. alb.
they will soon plunge into work, either
business or a profession, that will in
terest them, teach them a knowledge
of human nature and of affairs. and
then they will become, in one degree
and another, Interesting persona
Where will the young women be then
who have been content to rely' upon
the charms of youth and beauty, and
have cultivated no interest in any
thing beyond the more or less artifi-
cialiies of being. agreeable in a con-
versational society? No partnership
goes we'll unless all the parties con-
tribute something to it. Marriage is
no exception to this, as a great many
people have discovered, even those
who do not accept the cynic's defini-
tion that marriage is intended for dis
cipline. Love being. of course the
attraction in marriage, good comrade-
ship is the working capital, and good
comradeship between uninteresting
people is an impossibility. unless each
is too stupid to find out what the other
lacks.
This goes upon the assumption
perhaps it is strained one in these
days-that getting married ought to
be an object to be considered in pre-
paration for life. But the argument
for a girl to make herself interesting
by gaming information and by throw
ing herself enthusiastically into some
sort of pursuit is still stronger if she
intends to remain single. or remainsso
by chance For to be destined to ones
own company when one is uninterest-
ing and devoid of external interests is
a dreary outlook. On the other hand,
it is feared that modern education will
be pushed so far. and girls will become
so interesting, that they can find no
equal mates? There sometimes seems
to be this danger. But it can at worst
only be temporary. Boys are very
quick to ''catch on" Git is their own
phrase) to new idea, and whatever
course girls take. they are reasonably
certain to draw all men after them.
The world has been so arranged
Charles Dudley Warner, in Rditor's
DrGoer of Hdrper's MdQaztne.