Frostburg mining journal. [volume] (Frostburg, Md.) 1871-1913, 1888-07-21
HOW TO ENTERTAIN.
rhs Thoughtful Kindness That Makes
Women Agreeable.
from Home knowledge.

! The thoughtful Kindness That Makes
Women Agreeable.
from Home knowledge
To be belle one need not be beat,
tilul. OF course beauty adds, but it is
not essential; bit the great quality to
| possess is tact-that almost undefin-
| able word. We often hear it remarked
that such a one is clever converse
/ tlonallst. Very young men or wom-
Ell are seldom thus commended, be-
cause they do not know what to talk
about in society. These are good rules
to go by: Seldom speak of yourself
unless you are asked to do SO; but try
and talk of things that are of interest
to the person with whom you are talk
ing.
If you are conversing with an art ST
talk of art; ask his views of art, but dc
not attempt to know as much about il
as he does; appeal as if he were
! teaching you something, whether he is
or not: This is case in which to cas-.
sumo a virtue if you have it not" il
ever there was. If you are talking with
musician, writer, or whoever it may
be, the same rule apples. Above all,
avoid seeming superior, never CONVERSE
on subjects beyond the depth of the per-
son you are addte ,sing, and be q good
listener. The most popular woman is
she who observes all these rules, wheth-
er she be the Drettiest or not. This is
what makes belle, she weighs we'll her
words. and never makes faux pas.
- remember one evening at recep
ton a well-known New York belle had
Just sung charmingly, and had taken
her seat amid great applause. Another
young lady rose to singi she was merry
Gus and awkward 1t would have been
but tectly after the other, who had q
del ghtful voice, it was almost painful.
The listeners began to talk, shruS
their shoulders, etc. Not so our belle;
the less attentive others were, the more
SO she became; she leaned forward
and encouraged the singer by her APP
parent great interest till, by her strict
attention, she compelled others to list
en-. When the song was finished, Our
belle went TO the singer She could
not truthfully praise her efforts, but
she did say: "What beautiful song
Who wrote it? Who ia the composer?
Would you consider it an encroach-
ineat if I asked you to permit me
to add it to my repertoire?"
Don't you suppose that nervous singer
thinks our belle the most charming
woman she ever metz OF course she
does, And what does she care if all
the rest were inattentive so long as the
Tiyorite of the occasion appreciated it?
At a large ball once given in Del
~,
'eman from PHI ladelphia was present
who, though of good family and pleas
ing manners with intmates, was still
rather awkward and shy before SO
many ladies. lie looked bored and I'M
happy as he sat, apparently neglected
by all; even those who secured his in
vitation seemingly did not know exact
ly how to enable him to enjoy the
evening. A certain we'll known Geauty,
who also possessed much tact, saw his
loneliness and determined to overcome
it. She asked to be presented to him,
when she kindly, without being the
least abashed, said; MI. b, | have
so much desired to meet you; all the
other men have used up their small
talk on me; you look 30 thoughtful |
am sure you are ablo to talk sometime
better"
Thus his very awkwardness by her
tact she turned into a compliment
Then she said she was tired of remain
Ing in one SPOT, would he mind prom
enading around the ballroom with her?
She knew he was only too DESTROYS to
do SO, but she acted as if he were do
ing her great favor instead of him
recei ing favor from he. She asked
his favorite ambitions, sports, books.
etc, and lie asked hers in return, lut
she easily led the conversation back to
himself. They were the observed of
all as they walked along together,
seemingly so engrossed with each 9TH
er. At last when my bellies partner
came to claim her for the next dance
she first secured one of the prettiest
girls i'll the house for our dllident
y. ung man; she had absolutely made
him the fashion, and he was found to
be delightful companion when he
was at his ease.