The Ohio Democrat. (Logan, O. [Ohio]) 1886-1906, 1888-01-28
MlschIEF.MAKERs.
fndifFsrsnt to Their Tales and You VIII
Soon BE Rid Of Them.

DuSlueSS III ilIe Sc6InS bO De tHe CTeHbiOu
OF discoryi among people or members Of
a family who, but for their interference,
would be in harmony. It doesn't take
much to start them in business.
"A thoughtless word, inadvertently
dropped, is all they require to put at
variance whole neighborhood. They
never repeat thing exactly as they
hear III they are always sure to add
something to it, IL not in words In in
Election, so there will be no mistake
made in understanding just what they
mean you should. For fear you might
be in doubt they are always eager to ex-
plain just what they are positive the
person meant who uttered it. To be
sure they do not intend to make trou-
bic. They wouldn't make trouble for
the world. They really don't like to
repeat such things, and they do hope
you won't feel hurt, but they think it is
only right that you should know just
what people say. so as to be on your
guard. Only they are your friends, they
nay they wouldn't think Of telling you.
These people have very vague idea
Of what constitutes friend. Friends
never wilfully hurt the object of their
friendship by carrying mischievous
stories. Only on rare occasions will
they repeat any remark heard. in refer
ence to their friends. to the person upon
whom it was passed. and when they do
SO there are always good reasons that
they should. They never repeat re-
mark simply for the sake Of showing
you that other people don't think rs
much of you as you seem to think they
do, which is the usual motive If the
trouble makers. Friends usually work
under the good old adage. "What you
don't hear will never hurt you," and
this is. certainly, one of the most sensi-
BILE rules known for any one to live up
to.
Some one makes thoughtless re-
mark about some one not present, very
often in joke, and were the person
there at the time the remark would,
very probably, have been made just the
same, and passed over rs a joke by all
present, the object of it enjoying it as
much as any one. But when the per-
son referred to is not present then
comes the opportunity for the trouble
maker. She soon finds time to run to
Mrs. C--'s. to tell her what was said
about her at Mrs. BIS the last time
she was there, usually adding some-
thing to the remark passed on her
own account. Mrs. c., indignant
and hurt, very often, in the
heat of the moment, says some-
thing that ten minutes later she
would give any thing if she had not ut
tered. This is the trouble -maker's 8
hance, and she does not hesitate long
I'm improving it. Hurrying to Mrs.
B, she repeats what Mrs. c.
said, at the same time withholding
! from her the provocation that brought
out the angry words, and adding to
This something of her own coming to
make it apply closer. 1t does not
take many of these visits to
make these two women the bitterest
Of enemies. They meet on the street
and pass each other with scarcely look
of recognition. Neither of them has
openly said to the other any thing that
would cause things to be in this state.
Each one feels as though she. alone.
were the injured party, and the other
had willfully wronged her. Both were
excellent friends until the trouble
maker came between them, and. with
her stories and insinuations. gave each
| the impression that the other was her
greatest enemy. When this result is
reached the trouble maker is satisfied
to lot them get along as best they can.
and turns'her attention to the severance
of some other friends.
The above woman is bad enough in
her way. and creates a great deal moro
trouble than is ever remedied. but when
she is once known, people who have
had any dealings with her are careful
not to give her II chance to again work
mischief among their friends. There
is another kind of woman who is really
more dangerous than the above, and
creates more mischief. though perfectly
oblivious, Mt the time. of doing so. She
is the thoughtless woman who repeats
every thing she hears, simply for the
sake of talking. She is perfectly honest
and open, and never intends hurting
anybody. She wants to be on the best
terms with everybody, and she usually
is. She always feels grieved when any
words of hers have caused trouble, and
always winds up her regret with: a
declare, shan't repeat another thing,
for my tongue always runs away with
me. just feel like biting it out" This
resolution doesn't last long, and in a
little while she has done more mischiei
with hor thoughtless remarks. and sc
she continues and will continue. for il
is rs natural for her to talk us it is for
her to cal. A woman of this kind i,
hard to match. She is so perfectly free
from any intention of creating trouble
that person is apt to be careless In
what they say before her, even though
she may have unintentionally made
trouble many time.
It is too bad that such women al
these should come between either
friends OF relatives with stories to sep
arate them. Whether Intentionally told
or thoughtlessly told, unless the relatel
is trustworthy, they should mover for a
moment be given thought. TreaI
them all with an utter Indifference, ani
they will very soon die out. When the
professional trouble-p ..ker finds yOs