Southern standard. (McMinnville, Tenn.) 1879-current, 1888-02-18
BuRpENsoME FRIENDS.
One Of tho Most Deplorable Results of Toe
Great Familiarity.


Great Familiarity.
Somebody will doubtless excl aim
that real friendship is never burden.
and that only the resemblance Of
friendship can become such. But
think moment dear general woman.
You love your friend. you appreciate
all her virtues. you quietly note and
forget her faults, you esteem her opin-
ion. but, oh! you do get SO tired Of her
insisting upon your presence at times
most inconvenient to you and regard
ing any REFUSAL though you seldom
dare to make one. as an intentional
slight to her feelings. That is what
mean by q burden Of friendship.
Then Madame Candid is indeed
your friend; she loved you as tiny
girl. she kissed You on your wedding
day, she believes In you and in your
husband; but you do wish she would
not ask in that peculiarly SYM
pathetic way: ':Now, my child. tell
me how Charley and you are
getting along as regards mon
ey." That is your affair and
Charley's - something you will
talk over with him and with him
alone; but can you be rude to Madame
Candida No; so you casually say,
'Oh very WELL" and hasten to change
the subject. The dear old lady feels
snubbed; and yet you are right for
she is imposing upon you one of the
most Objectionable burdens of friend
ship.
Perhaps of all people the jealous
friend is the hardest to endure. A
letter answered sooner than hers, q
story book sent to another friend. o
bit Of good news told first to some one
else-any trife is sufficient to bring
her to your side in tears. Such friend
exhausts the patience Of female Job.
She usually lacks the common sense,
to see that one friend can not DO every
thing to a woman whose circle Of 40
quaintance is large, and that even
upon the strongest affection too many
demands may be made The jealous
friend Is usually quito interesting ss
first for she Is emotional and proiuse
in her demonstrations of affection;
but In time her disagreeable traits be.
come almost insufferable.
To become an adept in the art Of
friendship-if Friendship may be
called an art.-one must be able to for
get one's-self occasionally, to remem-
Der that absence makes the heart
grow fonder." and to realize that con-
slant companionship. intense curiosity
, and gentle assumption Of proprietor
ship will in time separate the most de-
voted inseparables. A lasting friend
ship must preserve proper respect
that will not allow itself to be imposed
upon; it must be sympathetic, but not
! curious; loving, but not jealous; we'll
speaking, but not talkative. Delicia
= may be devoted to me, but she is not
for that reason obliged TO confide to
the world at large how much think Of
her and how l could not do without
: her. In the younger days of this old
:. planet, when people were few and the
t choice of friendships necessarily lin
!. tied. such friendships might have ex
listed; but now the world will say tina
. Delicia and / are friends to-day ant
: acquaintance or, perhaps, foes to
t morrow.
IS A burdensome friendship is oftenest
t the result of two great familiarity
:. and the wise woman will see its danger
,. and avoid it. for it surely breeds wha
q the old proverb predicts for it--con
tempt -Butterick' s DelineGtor