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many young men of easy fortune, and no
beyond that of the easy life of
an English gentleman, you lose the sturdy
purpose which should animate you daily.
Remember that America is not England.
No one is born to titled greatness or to
any other greatness here; he who gets it
must achieve it, and he who cannot
achieve it in some form is of small consid-
Grafton. We have no idle class, and /
trust that we may never have. An idle
life is worthless and unhappy life.
Never go to balls or parties in term
time, and avoid late wines and suppers
at all times; they always iniure the
health, and without health life has scarce
a pleasure.
From his birth Samson drank neither
wine nor strong drink, and those who are
trained for the ring initiate his example
During our late war it was conclusively
proved that those who drank water only,
escaped disease and endured fatigue far be-
yond the others.
l cannot too strongly urge upon you the
importance Of early retiring to rest. In
vestigations into the causes of longevity
have shown that early sleep and early
rising are among the chiefest reasons for
long life, and science has revealed the fact
that the magnetic rays of the sun are
widely different in the morning from
those of the declining day. As the sun
goes down, most of the beasts and birds
seek their place of rest, many of the
flowers and plants and trees fold their
leaves and the large sun-fower, which
IoOl-c tOtUar1 ha :
is turned to greet him in the morning to-
ward the east. AS he approaches to usher
in the day, all nature, from bird to flower,
seems animated with invigorated life.
Then the mind of him who has had re-
freshing sleep awakes with its best
thoughts, its wisest plans, its largest capa-
bilities. But this can come only to him
who has spent the midnight hours in
sleep. Sleep restores the nervous forces
of the exhausted brain, and the best con-
stitution will soon be shattered and the
best mind will become unstrung if sleep is
neglected. 1t is Justly called
Sore labor's bath,
Balm of hurt minds, great natures second
course,
Chief nourisher at lifs's feast"
Third-That economy is virtue, and
that extravagonce is a vice, never forget.
You never see aman of 40 who regretted
his economy; you will see plenty who
mourn their early extravaganza. Lavish
expenditure never wins respect. 1t may
win temporary hatterers, who despise the
fool they fatter Pay every debt you
owe, but
g either a borrower nor q lender be.
For n lpcas bctb h fca1F IL !
Let not your vanity ever tempt you to
spend money. English young men are
awake; they laugh at the foolish Amer
leans who are so lavish. Remember that
your hope, your pride, your life, is to be in
America. A country whose future is un-
imagined and whose greatness and power
viii surpass any empire in the world. You
are to be part of it; and, if you do not
one day go as ambassador from the greatest
republic that has ever been to the most
powerful and advanced kingdom in Eu-
rope, you will fail of your possibilities and
of my hopes.
Do not listen to the twaddle about the
decadence Of England; she is not in decay.
but in the full vigor Of robust manhood.
Great nations do not commence their fall
until their morals are corrupted. AS yst
England has a sturdy moral sense, courage.
and capacity for self-denial and for brave
deeds; she believes in God and truth and
justice. She has many faults and weak
nesses. She is not moving forward with
the colossal power of this younger, bolder.
more rash and fearless America; her civil
ization is in advance of ours, but she has
inherited many prejudices coming down
from old centuries which retard her pro-
gress and from which we IRE free.
l would deprive you of no innocent
pleasures; that is not pleasure which in
jures the health, .iades the mind. and
makes you feel meanly and weak, and un-
equal to the labor which is to fit Won for
manly life.
Study well whatever the college course
requires, and never say that this or that
will be Of no use. All is of use which
disciplines and strengthens the mind
When training for a boxer, you strike the
sand-bag; you would not tell the trainer
that you do not expect to fight sand-bags
in life, and hence you Will not strike them
now. You lift weights to strengthen YOUR
hands; you do dry work to strengthen the
head and remember that you must do it ::
no one else can do it for you; as we'll
might you get some one else to strike the
sand-bag or lift the weight which was to
strengthen your muscle
Duties well done every day, and diff
culties surmounted as they arise, grow
easier continually, and finally become last
ing enjoyments.
Never play cards for money. It is no
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and it is pain to lose your own. The habit
is always bad, and oftentimes fatal; never
acquire it.
Dress like a gentleman; never be pc
culiar or fashy, but dress as becomes YOU.
not as becomes some one else. Never talk
about your expenses or your money, and
never be ashamed to live with economy;
on the contrary, be proud of it. Your
business now is to acquire knowledge, and
you need not be anxious to display yours,
to older men; but always try to
learn of them.
Never say to another what it would be
unpleasant to have him say to you.
Remember that good manners are of
great Importance. Manners should be
frank and easy, with dignity.
ANOlu idNhiiISY tOdu my ways DIS you
would the foul fend. Never fawn to a
prince or swagger to peasant. Be courte-
Gus and manly everywhere and to every
body.
Let your manner be quiet; nothing is
more underbred than a furried address
with a face wrinkled all over with grin
ming delight.
The countenance can express pleasure
and welcome without idiotic contortions,
and when these appear, whether in the
son Of a duke or drayman, they are in
tensely vulgar.
You cannot have good manners in the
drawing room if your habitual manner is
bad the habit will betray you; let the
habit be always good.
Far better that you look frigid even,
than that you degrade your countenance
with silly hilarity.
Be gentleman, feel like a gentleman,
and you will look and act like one.
Sometimes you will be neglected and
your vanity will feel wounded. Never let
this annoy you; be absolutely sure that in
due time all will come right, and that you
will have all the consideration which you
merit. No one can do you any permanent
injury but yourself. The world is so con-
'tituted that it is not in mems power to
respect from lofty character, real
ability and good conduct.
You may be invited to ball or dinner