Washington standard. [volume] (Olympia, Wash. Territory) 1860-1921, 1888-05-04
An Estimate Of Men.
ELLA WHEELER TELLS HOW NAN is
REGARDED BY WOMEN.

| ELLA WHEELER TELLS HOW NAN Is
REGARDED BY WOMEN
New York, April 13.-[Spccial
Correspondence. In an article writ
ten by me some months ago, entitled
Men as Friends" / made some asser-
tions which have been widely copied,
criticised, and misconstrued.
Urged to explain myself with great
er clearness, l have consented to take
IA more elaborate dissertation on that
most interesting of themes-man.
More or less selfish in his friendship
for the fairer sex, man has u smaller
amount of envy and malice to encoun-
ter and overcome in his overtures to-
ward his own sex.
A woman instinctively looks upon
another woman as possible rival.
A woman who has not loved finds
pleasure, if not satisfaction, in the
adulation of the world at large, and it
is her nature to expect and demand it,
and she resents even the suggestion OF
interference in her domain.
A man seldom cares for this sort of
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votion of several feminine hearts and
regards no man, however popular. as
his rival who does not modest him in
his affairs d'amOur.
When the average woman loves,
however, all is changed. Absorbed in
her passion, she ceases to desire mis-
! cellaneous admiration, and lives only
for the one.
When the average man loves, moth
ing is changed. He simply adds one
more pleasure and interest to his
life.
1t is the exceptionally noble man,
stirred by an exceptionally strong
passion, who throws his past behind
him like worn out garment, and
dedicates his future to the woman of
his choice. Men are by nature no
more vicious than women, but they
! are much warmer and require more
constant stimulants to the self love.
A woman commits folly for love
Of her tempter. A man commits it be-
cause it flatters his vanity to be
tempted while he despises the temp
| tress.
A mans business training teaches
him to be cautious in his intercourse
with the world, yet he is rarely sus-
picious by nature. A woman, on the
contrary, seems to be born with sus-
piciOn in her heart.
have seen a big, brawny fellow
who had done battle in the worlds
great marts all his life as ingenious
and sweet natured toward his kind as
child; and l have seen his dainty
wife, who had been carefully reared in
the shelter OF a pure home, regarding
| every sister woman and brother man
with suspicion, and demanding Gre
dentials of respectability before adj
mitting them to her favor.
Men are delightedly frank and cor
dial with one another.
There is nothing which causes a
lonesome woman who is compelled to
take long journey unattended re-
gret her sex SO much as the enviable
freedom from formality among her
male travelling companions. Yet
woman who undertook to treat her
sisters with the same off-hand good
nature would be directly frozen to
death.
Everywhere men seem to be on
better terms with one another than
We are. You have only to glance into
the respective ladies' and gentlemen's
parlors ut hotels to see this. The
men greet each other cordially, cluster
tnuotbor and ,U,,ya~oa Co. lo,,.. IL
evidently enjoy themselves.
The ladies dissolve into cliques, and
their association is restricted and
marked by reverse, formality and
ennui. A woman endures the society
OF another woman only as means of
killing time until she can be in the
society of man.
the masculine sex, that woman will
sacrifice the companionship of her
most cherished lady friend to share
the society of man to whom she is
utterly Indifferent in her heart. In
deed, she may consider him u terrible
born, but the fact that he is man
renders him more interesting than
her most brilliant lady friend.
A man, on the contrary, prefers the
society of his own sex, unless the lady
in question possesses some special
charm for him or he fancies that he
sees in her possible conquest.
"A man will lie to protect another
far sooner than woman will. Not
that he loves his fellow men more,
perhaps, but breads lie less, maybe.
Some one has said that there is an
innate nobility in man which causes
him to love virtue in woman. l be-
lieve this is true. Every human be-
ing, man or woman, in his inmost
soul loves truth and purity.
Man illustrates his great love for
virtue in the same spontaneous way
that natural woman illustrates her
inborn love for an infant. She never
sees it without wanting to take it!
There is far more pleasure in con-
versing with man than with a wo-
man. He is more liberal in his ideas,
more generous in his appreciation,
less liable to criticise unkindly. But
you must not tell him SO, even by act,
else he will spoil all the pleasure you
have derived from his ompanionship.
If you do tell him SO, you pique his
vanity into certain destruction of the
friendship.
Man is as dangerous as ne is agree
able.
A man will keep woman's secret
if he believes he alone shares it, un-
los. b,s vo ,,;fy top,pte hin, m bcact ~,f
his conquest, which it too frequently
does. Yet he is more pitiful and
charitable toward her than the aver
age woman is, and he ought to be
since he is the cause Of all her sor-
row.
Men relate their advantages and
follies to one another, and women con-
ceal them. Yet men seldom reveal
their inmost hearts, or speak of their
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