The Memphis appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1886-1890, 1888-01-23

TO build there until that question was de-
cided. Afterward l understood the title
was settled, and now buildings are going
up all over IL. DO not build your happiness
for this world on character, masculine or
feminine, that has not settled and undis-
puted title TO honor and truth and sobriety
and kindness and righteousness.
o woman, you have more need to pause
before making such an important promise
than man, because II you make mistake
1t is worse for you. II man blunder about
promise OF marriage or 60 on TO an unfortu-
nate marriage, he can spend his evenings
away, and can 90 10 the club or the Re-
publican or Democratic headquarters, and
absorb his mind In city or State or national
elections, or smoke himself stupid or drink
himself drunk. But there is no place of
regular retreat for you, o woman, and you
could not take narcotics or intoxican;s and
keep your responsibility. Before YOU prom
Use, pray and think and study and advise.
There will never again in your earthly his
tory he time when you SO much need
God.
1t seems TO me that the world ought to
cast out from business credits and from
good neighborhood those who boast of the
number OF hearts they have won, MS the
Indian boasts OF the number of scalps he
has taken. II aman will lie 10 n woman and
woman will lie 10 man about so i'm.
portant matter rs that of lifetime's
welfare, they will lie about bill OF goods
and lie about finances and lie about any
thing. Society today is brim full OF gallants
and man millincrs and carpet knights and
coquettes and those most God iorsakcn Of
all wrctches-flirts. And they 10 about
drawing-rooms and the parlors OF watering
places, simpering and bowling and scraping
and whispering, and then return 10 the
club.rooms, II they be men, or to their
special gatherings II they be women. TO
chatter and giggle over what was said 10
them in confidence. Condign punishment
IL apt TO come upon them, and they get
paid in their own coin. could point you
10 score whom society has let drop very
hard in return for their base traffic in
human hearts. As TO such men, they walk
around in their cclibacy, af or their hair is
streaked with gray, and pretending they
are naturally short-sighted, when their
eyes are 30 old in sin that they need the
spectacles OF septuagcnarian, an eyeglass
about No. &, and think they are bcwitch-
ing in their stride and overpowering in
their glances, although they are simply
laughing stocks for all mankind. And II
these base dealers in human hearts be fe-
males, they are left after while severely
alone, striving In very desperation Of
agony Of cosmetics 10 get back 10 the at
tractiyeness they had when they used TO
brag how many masculine affections they
had slaughtered. Forsaken Of God and
honest men and good women, are sure 10
be all such masculine and female triilcs
with human and yet immortal affections.
o man, o woman, having plighted your
troth stick TO III
And here my idea widens and have 10
say not only 20 those who have made n
mistake in solemn promise OF marriage but
10 those who have already ut the altar been
pronounced one when they are two, or in
diversity Of tastes and likes and dislkesare
neither ono nor two, but adozen-make the
best you can Of an awful mistake. And here
let me answer letters that come from every
State OF the American Union, and from
across the sea, and are coming year after
year from men and women who are ter
riically allianced and tied together In q
hard knot, n very hard knot. The letters
run something likc this "What ought |
TO do, my husband Is drunkard2" "My
wife Is gad-about and will not stay at
home" my companion il ignorant and
hates books aud revel in them" III like
music and piano sets my husband
crazy" 81 am fond OF social fife and my
companion Is a rccluse." 81 am trying 10
be good and my lifelong associate Is very
bad. What shall do?" My answer Is,
there are certain good reasons for divorce.
mcnt The Bible recognizes them. Good
society recognizes them. But Il must be
the very last resort, and only after all
reasonable attempts at reclamation aud
adjustment have proved dead failure.
When such attempts fail Il Is generally be.
cause Of mcddlesomc outsiders, and women
tell the wrongcd wife how she ought 10
stand on her rights, and men tell the
wrongcd husband how he ought TO stand
on his rights. And let husband aud wife
In an unhappy marriage relation stand
punctiliously ON their rights. and there
will be no reimbursement, and only one
thing will be sure 10 them and that Is a
hell ON earth.
II you are unhappily married, In most
cases advise you, make the best you can
OF an awiully bad bargain. Do not project
your pcculiaritics more than is necessary.
Perhaps you may have some faults OF your
own which the other party in the marital
alliance may have 90 suffer. You are In
the same yoke. II You pull aside the yoke
will only twist your neck. Better pull
ahead. The world Is full Of people who
made mistakes about many things and
among other things about betroihal and
marriage, and yet have been tolcrably
happy and very useful in the strength oI
God and by the grace promised In every
time Of need II those who seek Il conquer
the Instantaneous circumstances. am
acquainted with lovely women married D.
contemplate men and genial men yokcd
with tormagants inspired OF the devil. And
yet under these disadvantages my friends
are useful and happy. God helps people
in other kinds Of mnrtyrdom and 10 sinp
in the flame, and he will help you in your
lifelong misfortune.
Remember the patience Of Job. What
wife he hadl At time when he wa,
one great bloich Of oruptions and his prop
erty was destroyed bya tornado, and, more
than all, bereavement had come and the
poor man needed all wise counsel, she nd.
vises him 10 90 30 cursing and swearing
She wanted him 30 poultice his boils with
blasphemy. But he lived right on through
his marital disadvantages, recovered hil
health and his fortune aud raised splen.
did family, and tho closing paragraph o.
the book OF Job has such jubiance that
wonder people do not oitener read H.
$50 the Lord blessed the latter end OF
Job more than his beginning; for no had
fourteen thousand sheep, and six Thousand
camcls, and q thousand yoke Of oxen, and
q thousand she asses. He had also seven
sons and three daughters. And he called
the name Of the fst Jcmima, and IN,