Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1888-04-15
ESTIMATE OF MEN.
ELLA WHEELER TELLS HOW MAN IS
REGARDED BY WOMAN.
Mems Ideas OF Love-Fascinstions Of Mons
society-Man's Love Of virtus-Han's
Love and Respect is woman's
Existence.
rFor the pI.pa,ch-copyrighted, 1881


clearness have consented to undertake
more elaborate dissertation on that
most interesting of themes-man.
More or less selfish in his friendship
for the fairer sex, mGn has q smaller
amount OF envy and malice to encounter
and overcome in his overtures toward
his own sex.
A woman instinctively looks upon an
other woman as possible rival. A wo-
man who has not loved finds pleasure, If
not satisfaction, in the adulation of the
world at large, and it is her nature to
expect and demand it, and she resents
even the suggestion OF interference in
her domain.
A man seldom cares for this sort Of
thing. He prefers the individual devo-
ton OF several feminine hearts, and re-
CARDS no man, however popular, as his
rival who does not modest him in his az
flares glamour.
When the average woman loves, how
ever. all is changed. Absorbed in her
passion, she ceases TO desire miscella-
neous admiration, and lives only for the
one.
When the average man loves nothing
is changed. He simply adds one more
pleasure and interest to his life.
1t is the exceptionally noble man,
stirred by an exceptionally strong pas
sion, who throws his past behind him
like a WORKOUT garment, and dedicates
his future to the woman of his choice.
Men are by nature no more vicious than
women, but they are much valner, and
require more constant stimulants to their
self-love.
A woman commits folly for love OF
her tempter. A man commits 1t because
it hatters his vanity to be tempted, while
he despises the temptress.
A mans business training teaches him
to be cautious in his intercourse with the
world, yet he is rarely suspicious by ma
ture. A woman, on the contrary, seems
to be born with suspicion iii her heart.
have seen big, brawny fellow who
had done battle in the worlds great
marts all his life as ingenious and sweet
natured toward his kind as q child and
/ have seen his dainty wife, who had
been carefully reared in the shelter of q
pure home, regarding every sister
woman and brother man with suspicion,
and demanding credentials of respect
ability before admitting them to her
favor.
Men are delightfully."- frank and cor
dial with one another.
There is nothing which causes lone
some woman who is compelled 10 take
long journey unattended regret her sex
30 much as the enviable freedom from
iormslity among her male travelling
companions. Yet woman who under
took TO treat her sisters with the same
off-hand good nature would be directly
frozen to death.
Everywhere men seem to be on better
terms with one another than we are.
You have only to glance into the respect
i've ladies' and gentemen's psrlors at
hotels to see this. The men greet each
other cordially, cluster together, and
converse for hours, and evidently enjoy
themselves.
The ladies dissolve into cliques, and
their association is restricted and marked
by reserve, formality, and fnnW. A
woman endures the society OF another
woman only as a means of killing time
until she can be in the society OF man.
There Is such a fascination about the
masculine sex that woman will sacrifice
the companionshipof her most cherished
lady friend to share the society of man
to whom she is utterly indifferent in her
heart. Indeed, she may consider him
terrible bore. but the fact that he is
man renders him more interesting than
her most brilliant lady friend,
A man, on the contrary, prefers the
society Of his own sex, unless the lady in
question possesses some especial charm
for him, or he fancies that he sees in her
a possible conquest.
A man will lie to protect another far
sooner than woman will. Not that he
loves his fellow-man more, perhaps, but
breads lie less, maybe.
Some one has said that there is an in
nate nobility in man which causes him to
love virtue in woman. | believe this is
true. Every human being, man or wo-
man. in his Utmost soul loves truth and
purity.
Man illustrates his great love for virtue
in the same spontaneous way that a natural
woman illustrates her Unborn love for an
infant. She never sees it without want
ing to take il
There is far more pleasure in con-
versing with man than with a woman.
He is more liberal in his ideas, more
generous in his appreciation, less liable
to criticise unkindiy. But you must not
tell him so, even by act, else he will
spoil ali the pleasure you have derived
from his compsniOnship. If you do not
tell him so YOU pique his vanity into GER
tain destruction of the friendship.
Man is as dangerous as he is agreeable.
A man will keep womans secret, If
he believes he alone shares it, unless his
vanity tempts hun to boast of his con-
quest, which it too frequently does.
Yet he is more pitiful and charitable to-
ward her than the average woman is, and
he ought to be, since he is the cause Of
all her sorrow.
Men relate their adventures and follies
TO one another, while women conceal
them. Yet men seldom reveal their in
most hearts, or speak OF their most
sacred feelings, among men-indeed,
there seems to be a sort of shame-faced
reluctance with them to confess they
have any sacred feelings. There Is
nothing a woman feels greater pride in
confessing to friend than her love for
her husband. If she is fascinated with
another man she will do all in her power
to hide the secret from the world. Many
man, on the other hand, will hide his
love for his wife, as if he were ashamed
of it, and even invent tales OF adventure
to convince his friends that he is a
modern Don Juan.
The world will not materially improve
until men regard this matter in a diff
feerent light, and realize that the i'm
morality OF father reflects as much dis
grace upon a family as the immortality
OF mother.
The love and respect of a true man is
all that makes the pain-flled life OF a
woman worth living. Wealth may give
her garments of beauty, pleasure may
lead her into psths OF delight, the world
may admire her, and Fame may crown
her with glory, but unless she has the
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