The Dickinson press., 1888-11-10
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T..rh-i.rcs>-t Nistah" Parents sIasc.
;isar. n'igc-straim :,i"is-Netcs FOR
"A. Ho"s.~icc.
" a.otns lady who is yearnins for her
,~t e!Ge nd fl tree. and Il husband, by
a.! adjunct. wl!Y Ii i That the mon
i..r.5. s',i 10 tlkc unto themselves partners
to- ,.: a. for worse. ;3.d size viii reply:
"O '3q.l rcsclli-h. They want tospond
IL IT, til-.;.r upon ,Aei. sel.c-. They like
g.. :a.- -. c~oloa.y. They like Tier
e. ~" l,a -! lis comforts. They want
i gsht, themselves with everything Tint
lated TO make Il man satisfied with
l. d anltac world At large" This Is the
j, lsi ia. interrogation viii ct in mos;
81 ....Yr imav he val'ictiys .; oppression.
a a'. as rpthc Individual. In. Tic tenor Of
u 10y i, upf Tar removed ilu!i This.
Lac No.:nS man who Is K" fit subject for
Tia pis:ii,aolial market Why il i, that The
melj, liot marry and he VIII say: 20! the
wpa.en are 50 foolish. They want 10 enjoy
themselves. They want Ia wc@. inc clothes,
k :, ~ vita Il! the fashions. L:iNc servants
Il "a the work. tcI them and hive like tho
wives Of m.ilionaircS. Ii the omo were
not 50 foolish more men would set married.
Ii they ~ IT loss canricious there "ould lie
los anxiety icit about tie married tate. As
j. >t.c Ntiug man with II moderate iuco,lc
is "fr!it &, plunge in the yortrS I'll Matri-
lnoas .or ieag tlla, financial bankruptcy may
tc tau uu,co.uc." This will ira tac reply in
MiEc CASE, CIT OF ten.
Here wc are between two gli!tlstoucs.
But when one inyeSti atos the question IN I,
calc.u. way the conclusion is inevitable tlr,.
thee /; ground Tor co,nyliint on ho;!l S'Gr..
III .,oans man is certullll, selfish. lie
to;las habits in his bachelor days which GER
ta.!... would rot become him Is a married
lHa:L. H. lias his club and IL" club claim, Il
gpCl dsii Of ..is time aud thought. He does
IL asa general thing take his wife To the
cub with lin. Therefore She naturally Oh
.iccts ~ ciuGs and thinks that they are horrid.
L. the !oulig Benedict would MAKE his home
iis club house and llS wife his ciu:f,lluw,
,aolr would hr much less ground for com
plant than there now is. But Ia most Young
lnci, who even in Il married state pinc for Il
l!ttir bit If freedom, club life Of this kind
would IL TOO mono .olous. .Ngall, ,hege is
sa...c ground for tic complaint that the
Noaag man Is too fond 81 lis own comfort.
It4: is undoubtedly trUe. But man i, very
lalsciy q creature oi habit. lie forms taste,
a.ai atits III ~ceiioaey which he cannot shake
III. ,oo often wh,i lie has u wife be sYat.
is tAo.e tastes even ii to do 50 he is COM
leiied To sacrifice his wifc's comfort. This is
MOI ri ut. y woman when she inarrirs takes
the step III some cases for tn" want ul con.
genial compal!ionship; in others 10 better
iler condition. But, leaving The material rs.
pet Of the matter ont @! sight, Il woman who
li!jilrios does not at once like t. begin Il life
of GENIAL and self abncgat!ou.
The young man has Il good deal To com.
lia.n about, too. Inc education Of n youl.9
Woman is often far too superficial, and,
III %ictorc, useless. 1t docs not tit her to he
tAe true ~lcli!noct OF a man. Ii is calculated
10 make lcl' an ornament, not Il useful being.
Tile average society woman is we'll defined
~ tho philosopher Thomas Carlyl. in
ii> "Sartor itcsarius' as Il piece al;
celestial art which he @lorics To sur
vry in galleries, but which he ha,
LIST all hope of purchasing. The youlis
woman too often is educated to lr Il parlor
o!lamcnt, to dress well, to posec Effectively, 10
Play the piano II little. and to have Il s.!lat-
tcrlns in those branches of education which
are purely ornamental. y wife of this ki.i
(. lot what the young lnan want who is iu>t
starting out upon his career. He must have
some one to help him save. In order To do
this the wife must know how In work, a!n!
,uust not he afraid TO work. That they do
not is. perhaps, not so much their fault us i
is the fault of society and its standards.
Women like to share the burdens of lhcsc
they love. They arc willing 10 put up with
very much of inconveniccc, withstand any
,.ibulation, providing it will help along tn"
ono that is loved and cause him uirel lnppv.
Wien 1t comes to Il question Of sacrifice, or
moral ur even physical courage. Tie woman
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