The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1888-06-29

Until we gam TINS precious rlgub
Then We can sing in accents free,
The star, the star Of liberty.
-Esissi eta 4. Kiagsosry. 10 Womoa's Journal.
WOMEN AS COMPANIONS.
Come Truths Concsrning the Conduct Of
the ssxes Toward Each Other.
II would seem sometimes as if men
avoided women, when not fervidly in
love with them. Is It only kindled i'm
agination and tumultuOus blood that
render them attractive, and hold the
two for the time. together Is it in
mans tranquil hours, in his perfect
sanity. that woman loses her chief al
lurement? Is she least loved while
loveliest? Do the senses override mind
and spirit. and do these pail when those
are satisfied.
1t is notorious that boys. who appear
barbarous because natural, actively dis
like girls, and can not be coaxed into
their company. They cherish no more
respect than they hold affection for
them. Although they consider them
totally inferior. they feel no pity for
them, merely undisguised contempt.
A tiny creature of four or FIVE, If
called a girl-boy. will flush with anger
and strike his defamer. It is a mortal
affront that masculine babyhOod re-
sents. To see girl sometimes trying
to win the good will of a group of half
grown boys. to any one of whom she is
q queen. is positively touching. She
may appeal to them for the poor privil-
eye of sharing their society with an elo-
quence and tenderness that might move
a hyena: but they will drive her rudely
away with brutality that marks their
age and sex.
Most men furtively laugh and grid at
those who are addicted to feminine so
ciety; who find solid satisfaction in it;
who are courageous enough to avow
their appreciation Of its benefits. They
are wont to speak Of them in the dis
dainful way that urchins speak of girl
boys; to deride them rs effeminate,
weak-minded. danglers after petticoats.
Miss-Nancyish. One OF their severest
epithets. applied to husbands, is hem
pecked. which is easily said and more
easily believed. Men who are not strong
have terror Of the adjective. and act
uAlly cover before 1t. They are often
so afraid Of meriting the approach that
they go to the opposite extreme and
become brutal, which probably i'm
presses them as far manlier. Dread of
ridicule has frequently prevented amia-
BILE but weak men from establishing
companionship with their wives. who
were really companionable.
Far more husbands than bachelors
are members of clubs, and those are
the regular frequenters. Some of them.
having lovely wives and delightful
homes, are to be seen nightly in the
reading-rooms, bar-rooms. giving the
impression that they arc inharmoniOus-
" welded. But they are not. They
are representative; they fail. or think
they fail, to find companionship within
their own walls. and look fo- it in what
IL ordinarily to cultured. refined mind
the dullest. dreariest place in civiliza-
ton. The fact that they take refuge in
. club denotes how deeply bored they
must be to themselves.
Sentimental bachelors. seeing them
there. say: ''How can they prefer this
to tkats I should be so different in the
same circumstances" But, were the
situation reversed. they would show
the same strange taste. They might
be fond. they might become enamored
of the neglected wife: but reaction
would occur in due time. and render
companionship impossible. Men can
not understand why it should be so in
the case of others, but it is clear
enough in their own case.
There would seem to be some justi-
cation for the biting phrases current at
clubs:
After four or FIVE years. mans
wife is the dullest company in the
world
To be in love with : woman Is the
nearest approach TO happiness. and to
be out OF love with her whom you once
loved is supreme misery"
'.Any woman may be interesting. so
long as she is not ones wife"
The fascinating woman always be-
longs to another man. If you get her,
her fascination takes wings"
"A man of the world is at home
everywhere except in his own home"
The honeymoon is thus called be-
cause it is so sweet compared with the
bitter months that follow"
Matrimonial happiness is always
to be found in the mind OF the man
who has not married"
There are two perfect women-one
is dead; the other has not been discov-
cred"
..All the comforts Of q home exhaust
irony
"A well-regulated club is the acme
Of human comfort"
Men enjoy clubs because women are
not admissible"
That is false love which does not in
clude friendship: but Is the love which
the mass of men feel and the mass of
women inspire.
True love, love OF the highest kind,
contains the elements OF friendship,
infused with sexuality; friendship is