Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1888-12-09
hing dress before dinner at

is: 'No evening dress before dinner al
clock -
As for the invitations, have them de-
liyered by messenger boys, or by some
| person who takes charge of such things
Gladys asks: ''DEAR PREss-Fail-
ing to find explicit directions in any book
in regard to wedding calls, wish to ask
If the bride must return personally all her
calls, even those which are simply repre-
sented by cards in envelope. On this
point l can gain no information but my
judgment is that nothing further is neces-
sary. The parties receiving wedding
cards having acknowledged the politeness
by returning their own cards would seem
to end the matter. | would like, how
ever, before acting on my own judgment
to feel assured that | am doing right -
1t is not obligatory on bride to return
her wedding calls, except by card. Her
card is herself; therefore, cards do, as
she says, "end the matter - She will j.,
Of course, if she wishes go TO see people,
and later on entertain them; but it is not
essential that she wearies herself by max
ing 200 or 300 calls.
Miss Thomasina Thompson writes !:
''In visiting New York q am in Chica-
go), should I send my card to all my gen.
tleman friends, asking them to call on
me at the Fifth Avenue hotel, or should
my mother do that? What formula
should be on the card? Shall [ mention
the date of my arrival and my depart
ure?''
Mrs. Thompson (not Miss had better
send her card, if she wishes these gentle
men to can, and it is not necessary to do
more than TO write the address on the
card.
"JOhn A. Boulanger'' writes: Chow
is man 10 address a maiden lady in q
formal way? Can he say, Miss Hannah
Robinson, Madam, for she is not
madam. If he say Dear Miss Hannah, )
she viii consider it too familiar. a lady
found fault with me once because L called
her madam, although she was forty
eight. l want to write n formal official
letter to lady of sixty, who is unmar-
ried, and l will be hanged if 1 know how
to do it -
81 A. BE- is right in saying ''Miss
Hannah Robinson, Madam In Eli
gland a single woman is madam after
fifty, so says Hannah More. If he is in
doubt, let him say, in an elegant para
phrase, "'Dear Lady, No one viii be
offended at that.
Sarah Liddens'' asks for Informal
ton as to ''the invitations to a tin we'd
ding, IL they should be on tin and if all
the presents must be tin
No. Address the invitations on note
paper ana give as little tin as possible.
Mary Brown writes: "'Dear PreSs-In
acknowledging a wedding gift from Mr..
and Mrs. Smith, to whom do l address
my note of thanks?
''Do take the lett or right arm of my
father on going to the altar?
'FIn what order should the relatives be
brought up after the marriage for con-
CALCULATIONS?
"When should the clergyman congratu-
late?
''ln sending ont invitations to the we'd
ding 10 friends engaged to be married, is
1t necessary to also invite the tiancee if
am not acquainted with her and she does
not live i'll the same city?'
We will answer the last first. Yes; it
would he respectful to send an invitation
to your friend s intended bride.
Second-The clergyman congratulates
the young pair at the altar.
Third-The mother first, the brothers,
sisters and relatives next. The father
having given his daughter away, is sup
posed to have congratulated her then and
there, but there is no law as TO this. a
bride takes ner fathers right arm, and
he steps to her left, behind her, at the
altar.
In acknowledging a wedding gift from
Mr.. and Mrs. Anybody, write to Mr.. and
Mrs. Anybody. A bride should always
write personal note, az: Dear Mr..
and Mrs. Brown received your charm
ing gift Of pair of mirrors with much
gratitude. Ii was very graceful of you,
and will ever remain to remind me, - etc.
These things naturally occur to most
people. II is only that the questions are
asked that we are privileged to answer to
tie best of our ability.
Mrs. John SHERWOOD.