Delaware gazette and state journal. (Wilmington, Del.) 1883-1902, 1888-11-01

According to the rules of New York, an
| invitation of any hiud requires an answer,
and this must be cent ut the earliest pos.
| sible moment. When the invitation Is
| engraved the anRwer should be written az
exact as the note received, for example
AIR. and Mrs, Howard Belport
! request the pleasure OF
| MIR. and Mrs. Hobart Harrison's
| company nt dinner on Tuesday, January
| goth, 1t 2 o'clock, to meet the Hon. Mr..
| and Mrs. Broadtop.
10 Capulet avenue.
The word company" is used in an In.
vitaiion to dine, out 'pressnee" is pre-
fsrred in an Invitation to wedding.
The reply is written thus:
Mr.. and Mrs. Hobart Harrison
accept with pleasure
Mr.. and Mrs. Howard Bellport's
Invitation to dinner at o'clock Wednesday
evening.
January goth.
The refusal must be worded in like
manner and expressive Of disappointment.
| In some localities, when cards are the In.
| yitations, no answer Is sent unless 1t be
regret still isis always better form to
write formal note, and under no cir
Gun stances should '.regrets" or accept
ance" be written on o lad,'s visiting
card, as that is considered an insult to
| the hostess.
Sometimes, after an invitation has been
accepted. something unforeseen prevents
the participation In the festivities. At
| such times card must be cent al the
hour for the entertainment to begin, but
1t must be speedily followed by an ex.
| plsnatory note.
Never more than 10 days must elapse
before the cards Of all thoae who have
been invited, whether this invitation WAS
accepted or not, are to be left by some
member of the family upon both host aud
hostess, also upon any one for whom the
entertainment may have been Riyen. Ac-
oording to London card etiquette gen.
tieman should leave hiH cards for both
host and hostess the day after an enter
tAinment. A single lady member of the
family may perform this social duty Of
returning cards Of thanks and oonara,u.
lations on the success of the fete, because
in the hight OF gay season pressing en-
Sagements compel division OF these for
maitties. A gentleman may leave the
lady's card at house of sorrow but never
after festivity.
On all formal calls Indy must leave
her huaband's cards, but il is no longer
stylish for both names 10 be engraved on
the same card, unless Immediately after
.EltrAss
Csfaa mnst NiEbfs "a Gyos ! Il in the
hHi when entering 1s.e tptiun.
An invitation card and reply to IL may
60 by post, but card Of sympathy or
congratulations cannot.
7 IDpt flravjnnu IA N I,pfn g.
presentation or debut she, with her
mother and elder sisters, IL she has any,
pay vista, or at least leave the.P own
cards, with their fathers aud brothers'.
on all those whom they intend to invite
TO the iestivity.
During her first year in society ste has
no card OF her own, but her name is
engraved below that Of her mother OF
chaperone.
Just word about the Significance OF
turning down the edges Of cards: The
whole lets hand side TUNED down means
that tue Gail Is intended for every mem.
Der OF tho household. II the hostess be
not at home, turning down the upper
! figot hand corner signifies that the card
Was left in person, while the lower left
hand corner turned down conveys lie
message ct coincidence snd sympathy to
bereaved family. Tho Rrst call upon o
new acquaintance redui-es the leaving Of
cards for every lady I The househnsd, al.
ways accompanied by The husbands card
a lady should never usa tile slightest
suggestion of her husbands social or TO-
litieal position oE diatinc.ions yet IL ia
perfectly proper for others to apply them
10 her, nut she never ASSUMES than her
| hu a. IL -
not wish to be honutsd On his account.
but for her own graces snd att0ipments.
Introducing
Mrs. Felix Graudcourt
is written on the upper left hand ccrne,
of the visiting card. This Ii epcI5 sed M
an envelope with that of tho lady desir.
; ing the presentation. This envelope
mast be Of fac quality end either posted
or sent by messenger.
: II q young lady 10 to be married ehe
must leave her cards in person abou,
! three weeka before The event, but ghs
. does not visit. Her motksr's card mus;
aeeompiny her own. This sign;acanca q
this is clear. She wishes to retain thejl
i, friendship in her new relation
If a pentlem IN coy6t n lsd7,a aconRint
| Ne-~N 49, hSsAFS7 4Ao bfAlu hb ikGE TSAtt4HnCt
! and her mother or ohaperone, but neye,
! the Young lady, will send an invitation it
him TO visit the family or 10 be present
. OF an entertainment, after which i. !,
his duty 10 Gull aud pay his respects. Il
her list Ct acquaintaneGa SO too !GYgs az
! notice need be tnken of the CaGG etsd i,
! will wait for q recognition from III,
= ladies Of the housshold when tbf,
: meet again. II the acquaintance il res IL
desirable prompt acknowledgement O
his desire TO become acquainted IL I'D
1 mitted in some refined and acceptable
: form.
i When leaving the city r. P. O. card
q should be sent TO all thoee who are in
d debted to her for a call and for retarnip
5 cards with an at homo day upon tier
should be sent Immediately.
We have only tried to point out th
forms positively necessary to a high eocis
Intercourse, and We hops that these fs,
|, words may sufficiently lubricate the man
= wheels OF WilminRton's social life, tbs
= future jars and misunderstanding wi
: be impossible.
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