The Columbian. [volume] (Bloomsburg, Pa.) 1866-1910, 1888-04-06
Why Men Don't Marry.

ARE YOUNG MEN soARcEi Is IT EXTRA
vAGANCE? ARE THE BOYS BAsHFUL?
The annual discussion of why NOR,
men do not marry is going the rounds
of the papers. Some OF these find tn,
reason in the dress and expensive habit.
of the young women. But that is no,
the conclusion of the New York Press
'The truth is," says the Press, ''tha,
this country over, there are not in any
community, large or small, enough Of
bright, energetic, honest, straightfor.
ward young men to marry the good,
home-loving aud prudent young women
to be found there. So that if the girls
marry at all, about third or half of
them must be cheated, not because they
wish to be, but because they cant help
it. The young men are not worth
marrying So this cheating is inevit-
able"
There is doubtless some truth in this,
especially in some of the larger cities,
like New York, but the Press makes
too sweeping statement when it in
oludes al places, great or small, in the
statement. There are, 1C- htless, many
places where honest and straightfor-
ward young men are about as plenty az
good home.loving and prudent young
women. Still, it is doubtless true that
the increasing extravaganza and cost of
living and the desire Of young couples
to begin life where their fathers leave
of, effectually frighten many a young
man who would be able and only too
glad to start home in a modest way
commensurate with his limited income.
In laying the sin of extravaganza at
the door of the fair sex VIZ do not wish
TO be understood as implying that the
young man of the period is free from
it. =" If marriage is really GO
ing out of fashion the fault is not con.
fined to either sex. and as the blame is
divided, SO must the responsibility be.
Let there be less extravaganza on both
sides and more frankness in regard to
money matters, and wavs and means
generally, between those who contem.
plate matrimonY, and we shall hear less
of this periodic question, "Why don't
the men marrys"
We sent out few days since a note
of inquiry to number of bachelors in
the city, asking them to give us, conf
dentially aud briefly for publication, the
reason why they never married. Over
one-half of them have answered, and
we give our readers some OF the causes
assigned:
'"Am only As years old. Consider
myself too young"
Haven't been properly urged"
''Some other fellow married the girl. |
! owe him debt of gratitude. She
made it lively for him"
III, ard that m, fiancee snored, ard
] broke off the engagement"
my best girl had fits"
"Came very near being married once;
] asked girl, and she said no"
"Tbe happiest man i ever saw was
one who had Just been divorced"
~ had friend who was married
lie sent me a book called Don't"
81 know man who put his resigna
tio1 at the club the same day the invi-
tations to his wedding were sent out.
In three months he was reelected to
the club, and now spends his evenings,
from 8 until IL o'clock, with the boys.
This makes me wonder
"Am afraid 10 get married. know
two or three young married men who
congratulate each other when their
wives 60 ont of town. Think they
ought not to do so, but there must be
some cause"
"Find considerable difficulty in bring
ing my diverged rays of affection to a
focus owing to the beauty and charms
of so many of the girls.