West Virginia Democrat. [volume] (Charles Town, W. Va.) 1885-1890, 1888-05-18

these simple and harmless things
ever effect the man.
If you wish to know how woman
really dscends from poetry t.: prose,
/ will tell you.
1t is not in showing herself wo-
man. in artlessly confessing what
she is, what we all are. mortal, hu-
man; but in showing herself to be
cold and vain, in letting his eyes, so
blind to certain things, and so
sharpsighted for others, discover
her moral iniirmity.
People think it is safety which
so soon kills love; but they do not
appear know to that safety often
comes not from too complete posses
sion. but from toolittle; from feeling
that the woman sinner self will not be
reached, her soul not attained; that
she is empty, vain, and frivolous;
that all quest would discover moth
ing in her.
In true married life, everything is
poetry, and in the person who is
loved everything isnoble.
The proudest of men does with a
good grace whatever he can do for
the woman he loves. And she,
queen of the house, whatever she
may do, does everything royalty.
These are humble functions, but
of great grace and favor.
When you show your. wife your
house and garden, if you have mar
ried wealthy, is the time / pity you.
1t is so hard to satisfy a rich wo-
man. The prettiest things you
show her barely make her smile;
and the smile itself often means,
'Not so bad, but / have seen better"
She on the contrary who is only
rich in beauty, mind, ard virtue,
who with this great marriage-por-
ton modestly thinks that she has
brought nothing with her, who, from
a somewhat poor condition OF life,
passes TO an easier, freer, and more
comfortable one, is full of happiness,
charming in her artless JOY and as
tonishment, in the pleasure that she
takes in seeing, touching apd adapt
ing herself to everything. and say
ing the while: "And this is really
our hOmew
And again she adds: What q
nice house, Everything has been
thought Of 1t almost makes one
believe that it was all arranged be-
forehand, for woman"
Do you imagine that what charms
and touches the feminine heart must
be something costly and luxurious?
Not at all! What pleases them most
is that act of yours which puts eve
rything in the hands of the mistress
of the house, permits her to arrange,
take care of, and keep things in that
order and cleanliness that woman
so much loves. 1t is then that she
feels they are hers, and takes posses
sion of them. They like large cup
boards, deep drawers, good oaken
closets to keep linen in, and little
out-of-the-way hiding places,-they
all like these; but especially those
who have nothing to hide in them.
A happy moment is it for her when
YOU put the keys in her hand.
TO let her have all the money, and
the power to spend it, is certain
means to make her economical, if
she is alone, and left to her natural
discretion. From that moment all
childish longings are checked.
When anything tempts her, she says,
II can buy it. but will wait till
tomorrow. And to morrow she
thinks 30 more about it.
Let us not forget that the best of
Young women often comes TO you
from an cXtravagant mother, who
has humored her every caprice: or
q despotic mother, who, forbidding
her to meddle in household affairs,
has left her in ignorance of the real
value of things, and the relative
worth of money. You must instruct
her. teach her how to defend herself
against the tricks Of trade, the dis
honesty Of servants, etc.
Although you give over to her the
minor matters OF the household, she
will want you TO retain the manage
ment Of its higher interests, to regu-
late the more important receipts and
expenditures. They do not like men
who abdicate too much. By a
charming contradiction they wish to
be the mistresses, but have the man
still master; that is to say, strong,
and worthy of them. They often
take pleasure, even in womanly
things, in consulting him, and hav-
ing him command and decide. 1t is
the sensuality of love for them to
obey, to feel that they are possessed
bv some one who wraps round them
his loving strength, and who some
times gently makes them feel the
spur.
The mere arrangement of our
modern apartments is enough to
hinder a real union. The multitude
of little rooms divides the household,
breaks up the family, isolates the
married pair. Furthermore, tue put
ting of one story upon another, IN
.bo oreot unhealthy barracks in