Clinch Valley news. [volume] (Jeffersonville, Va.) 18??-2019, 1888-07-20
HOW TO ENTERTAIN.
Tho Thoughtful Kindness That Mnkcs
Women Agreeable.
from Homo knowledge.

women Agreeable.
from Homo Knowlcdec.i
To be bello ono neod not be beau
tiful. OF course beauty adds, but it is
not essential; but tho great quality to
possess is tact-that almost undeiin.
able word. We often hoar it remarked
that such one is clevor conyersa.
tionalist Worry young mon or won,-
en- aro seldom thus commended. DO
cause they do not know what TO talk
about in society. These aro good rules
to go by: Seldom speak OF yourself
unless you are asked to do so; but try
and talk of things that arc of interest
to the person with whom you nre talk
ing.
If you arc convorsing with an artist
talk OF art; ask his views of art, but do
not attempt to know rs much about il
as he does; appear Ms if ho were
teaching YOU something, whethor no id
or not. This is case in which to "as.
sumo n virtuo il you have it not" il
ever thero was. Ii you are talking with
n musician, writer, or whoever it may
DO, tho same rulo applies. Above all,
avoid seeming superior: mover converse
ON subjects beyond the depth OF tho per.
son you are addressing, and be good
listener. The most populur woman ia
she who observes oil these rules, wheth-
or she be the prettiost or not This is
what makes belle; sho Weighs woll hor
words, and never makes faux pms.
~ remembor ono evening ut recep.
tlon well-known Now York belle hnd
just sung charmingly, and had taken
her seat amid great applause. Another
young Indy rose to sing; sho wns norv-
ous and awkward. 1t would have been
llnintoresting under any circumstances,
but directly after tho other, who had a
delightful voice, it was almost painful.
Tho listeners began to talk, shrug
their shoulders, etc. Not 30 our bollc;
tho less attentive others were, the moro
80 she became; sho leaned forward
and encouraged tho singer by her ap-
parent groat interest till, by hcr strict
attention, she compelled others to list
on: When tho song was finished, our
belle went to tho singer. Sho could
not truthfully praise hor efforts, but
sho did say: "What beautiful song !!
Who wrote it2 Who is the composer
Would you consider it an oncroach-
ment if I asked you to permit me
to add it to my repertoire ?"
Don't you suppose Tint nervous singer
thinks our bello tho most charming
woman she ever metz OF course she
does. And what docs she care if all
tho rest wero inattentive 30 long as the
iayorite OF tho occasion appreciated it !?
Alta largo ball once given in Dol
monico's well-known bill room, gem
tcman from Philadelphia was present
who, though of good family nnd pleas
ing mnnnors with intimatcs, was still
rather awkward and ally before so
many ladies. IIe looked bored and un-
happy rs he snt, apparently neglected
by all; oven those who secured his in
vitation soomingly did not know oxact.
ly how to enab!o him to onjoy tho
evening. A certain we'll. known beauty.
who also possessed much tact saw his
loneliness and determined TO overcome
it. Sho asked to DO presented to him,
when she kindly, without boing tho
least abashed. said: "Nlr. b, j have
80 much desired to moet you; nll tho
other mon have used up their small
talk on me; you look 80 thoughtful |
am sure you arc ablc to talk somothina
better."
Thus his very awkwardnoss by hor
tnct she turned into compliment.
'heIi oho ouiu BIO WIS tlTcU OF rOmnln-
ing in ono spot, would no mind prom
enading around the ballroom with her :?
She know he was only too desirous to
do 80, but she acted rs if lie wore do
ing her great favor instead of him
receiving favor from her. She aske
his favorite ambitions, sports, books.
etc., and he asked hors in return, but
she easily led the conversation back to
himself. They woro the observed of
Mi rs they walked along together,
seemingly so engrossed with each 9th
cr. At last when my bellies partner
came to claim her for tho next dance
she first secured ono of tho 6rottiest
girls in tho house for our dinident
young man; she had absolutely made
him tho fashion, and he was found TO
oe delightful companion when he