The Daily times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1886-1889, 1888-12-13
WHY MEN DON'T MARRY.
THE SUBJECT DISCUSSED BY A
BACHELOR eNcLISHMAN.
Tho Man Who VIII Not Heed the sHest
Looks Of tho Maiiens Fair-Ths Boms
of tho Present Not satisfscfory--Ths
College Quadrangle Recommended,


of tho Present Not satisfacfory--Ths
College Quadrangle Recommended,
There has been a deal Of discussion con.
corning tho question, is Marriage FaiE
urc! This renders timely some remarks 10y
one who fingers outside tho gates OF matri'
mony as did the peri at tho portals Of para
iire-to wit, bachelor. lie explains, With
frank good humor, why be and his class do
not marry. This Is an English bachelor, ani
bis views appear in au English magazine.
But the views and manners OF living Of we'll
TODD bachelors are about the same all over
the world.
What has become Of tho marrying mani
l. he not becoming as extinct as the dodoi
VIII nos future generations Of biologists
gloat over the infrequent discovery Of bis
precious bones in rare r0cl,si Already he -
hard to ind and COY to catch lie liaen' not
to maids who would gladly charm him,
charm they never so wisely, 10 turns stony
glance Of pure criticism on bright eyes and
snowy neclSs; he shuus the ballroom Tor the
billiard room; lac firts, it is true, hut-he
does not propose.
Why is thi5i Surely the daughters should
char1n US today, Just as their mothers
charmed our fathers Are modern maidsle
kind or less fart Yet why does materfam-
ilias remain with herquiver full Of them. and
feel ashamed when she meets her enemy IN
the gatei Materfam.ias has her idea on the
subject. Sho speaks sterny Of clubs. Shs
uses the word "selishne.s' She hints darkly
at tho importation Of foreign notions. She
declares that tho males, being a minority,
have discovered that they possess q fictitious
value through this circumstance.
BACHELOR ADvAsTAGEA
Blu, there are some other considerations as
well As poverty. Poverty does rot weigh
very much IN my OWL case. As | AN giving
my own reasons for celibacy, ! must shortly
describe myself am 81 years Of age; am
a dancing and dining man; am no slaya
70 club | am Nc misogynist; | am moder
ately well to DO ia my profession, and could
marry If l chose. But on the whole, prefer
to remain single. Whyf
Because the sum Of minor eljoymelti
which are the privileges Of tue bachelor ex'
ceeds tho happiness OF even happy mar
riace Take care Of the pence and the pounds
yill take care Of themselves Take care 0.
will be satisfactory. speak only Of myself
and Of men Of my own type. II IL, regret
to say, no uncommon type
First, then, belong to that considerable
class Of persons who have no liking for home
There's no place like home--and thank
heaven there isn'tm such was the sentiment,
Il not the actual phrase, in recent Gaiety
burlesque. It was always applapded 70 the
echo.
Domus means e house az we'll as home II
means a snowy, ramshackle building; With /
water pipes that burst; With kitchen boilers
'ha. leak; with gas meters that tell lea; with
drains that get choloi, with set wants that
break china; with walls and ceilihgs that re. /
quire spring cleaning; with linen, and iron.
mongery, and crockery that insist on incei +
SAINT renewal: with gas rates, and water
rates. and poor rates; with endless petty
anxeties and constant worry.
Paris has been called a city without home. +
Ia America, people live largely Ia holels /
In London, the last fifteen years have pro-
duced a great crop Of palatIal restaurant,
and Of hotels that can be used as Restaurants /
What does tho prosperity Of these institutions /
showl 1t shows that large number Of PEG /
pie do not care 70 dine at home. And there /
is nothing more Of the essence Of home than /
dinner would sooner dine In public, With /
a play Of life and character around me-, ex- I
hibiting itself for my amusement, than solus /
cum sola, IN the single society Of nuo person, 1
however charming. | consider the domestic I
dinner grewsome.
GONE 20 MS LrEry0.
can suggest remedy. Lean Imagine q
number Of families living together in build |
ing constructed aud managed on the principle |
Of a college. There should be common dining
room, a common recreation room, common
garden, common billiard room On each
staircase, around the quadrangle, should live
q family. a college staircase yields sixtaen
rooms--a good sized house. Suppose there
arc dozen families in the one quadrangle
Instead Of dozen women cooks, costing a
large aggregate sum per annur ia board and
wages, there would 10 a chef With bis assist
ants The chef and h5 staff would not cost
half the sum Of the aggregated kitchen
wenches. So in ali other matters Our sys-
TEN Of separate households Is most
wasteful and extravagant as for pri-
vacy, there would be for more pri-
vacy than in an average London
row. There would ba dances anil concerts
for the young men and maidens, there would
be subscriptions to a dozen different maya
zines and newspapers Instead Of a dozen
copies Of the same; there would DO tho ad-
yantagcs Of club life for paterfamilias, aye,
and for materfamilias, too; there would be
plenty Of children for other children to play
With and place for them to do it. There
would be vastly more comfort and vastly less
cost. In all great dead expenses co-opera-
tive principals would eject the usuar reduc-
ton.
Build me, taen, no more flats, though
these are good IN their way; but build me
college quadrangle and perhaps will marry
and i've ther,jn. Till then | will live IN
some one else's house. San Francisco Argo.
nsut.