The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1888-01-04

wife from her husbands irritability and
unjust censures than his professed affeC
ton for her. And more's the pity! It i.
often the case that polite, deferential at
tentions will be more frequently proffared
by gentlemen outside the IA mily circle
than from her husband. Do any need Ia
be told whereuDto this leads? The daily
papers are full of what may follow.
But cruel, unnatural and mean as this
is, it is not always confined to the mascu.
line in the household. We wish we could
prove that q lady never ANSWERS back, "
when s'Teviled, revileth not again. never
returns railing for railing, sharp retort
for bitter word, or meets discourtesy with
equal neglect and indifference. We blush
TO acknowledge that the wife is perhaps as
often responsible for the beginning of evil
in this respect as her husband. Public
opinion has as strong bold on her as on a
man, even stronger, as woman has more of
that kind of pride which holds her back
from the open exhibition of the irritation
that is driving her almost furious than q
man. She will not allow the public gessips
to hold her uD to the gaze of the world if
self-resiraint is possible,
But all the courtesy and amiability, the
Difference and respectful attention exhib.
tied in public or to friends outside, are
worthless to man or woman if the same is
not mere earnestly extended to each in
the sacred precincts of home. Love that
shines in the most kindly acts, respectful
attentions, quick to see what may be need
ed or gratifying-the most perfect at home
or nowhere. All that is found outside
should be but the overflow of that which
is unchsnging and perpetual in the charmed
circle Of home. There is where we must
Set k for the true lady. and gentleman. II
not fully developed and sacredly main
taiped there but prominently exhib-
tied elsewhere, the sentiment is spurious
q counterfeit. Tender as may be the ex.
bibition of that spirit which is the spark
from Gods altar that kindles the home
IRE, fond, and loving, and caressing as
may be its revelation, it never degenerates
into that cver-familiarity that is the bane
to the best and Doblest emotions.
II young people, whether brothers and
sisters, husbands and wives, would but give
this idea respectful attention, look at
II candidly instead Of calling it sentiment
tai talk; If before they quite decide to throw
1t aside as of no importance they would
look around them, lot governed By Cos
sipipg reports, but by what is going on
daily right before their eyes, if they would
caudidly examine lie as ii moves on around
them, they would soon guard against that
familiarity which they cannot bnt see IS in
J
not the true diamond; 1t destroys true re
hnement, develops the coRrser. harder parts
oftheir character, breeds not only contempt
bat. in the lend inevitable GOODNESS and
estraneement This idea once accepted as
true, how soon we should see & large in.
crease of refinement, genuine politeness-
the genuine gentleman and lady. We
should find them wearing these higher
and more noble attachments more as an
everyday working garment than fancy
dress only exhibited at parties, balls. and
state occasions, and then folded up and
locked out of sight never more 10 be pa
Tsded till needed for public exhibition.
Those bound together by natural ties or
by marriage need to exercise all the gentle
ness and forbearance, the courtesy and af
fectionste politeness that they possess, ir-
creased and purified by careful nurture.
MRS. HENRY WARD BEECHER,