The Bolivar bulletin. [volume] (Bolivar, Hardeman County, Tenn.) 1865-1888, 1888-02-03

parIors Of watering places, simper.
ing and bowling and scraptn and wis
pering, and then return to tae clan
rooms if they be men, or to their special
gatherings il they be women, Go chatter
and giggie over what was said e. them
in confidence. Condign punishment is
apt to come upon them and they get paid
in their own coin. I could point you to
score whom society has let drop very
hard in return for their base traffic in
human hearts. AS to such men, they
walk around in their cahbacy after their
hair is streaked with gray, and prstond'
ing they are naturally short-sighted
when their eyes are so old in sin that
they need the spectaclss- of a septuagen-
arian, an eyegass about No. 8. and think
they are bswitchiug in their stride and
overpowering in their glances, although
they are simply laughing g-stocks for ell
mankind. And iR these base dealers ia
human hearts be females they are left
after awhile severely alone, striving IN q
very desperation of agony. OF cosmetics
to get back TO the attractiveness they
had when they used to brag how
many masculine affections they had
slaughtered. Forsaken of God and honest
men and good women, are sure 20 be all
such masculine and female triflers with
human aud yet immortal affections. O
man, o woman, having plighted your
troth, stick to il.
And here my idea widens and have TO
say not only to thoss who have made n
mis- take in solemn promise OF marriage,
but to those who have already at the
altar been pronounced one when they are
two, or in diversity Of tastes and likes
and dislikes, are Mother one nor two, but
a dozen, make the best you can oe an ave-
full mstake,-ARd here let me answer lets
American Union, and from across the sea,
and are coming year after year from mon
aud women who are terriflcally. alliancod
and tied together in hard knot,
very hard knot. The let-
tors run something like this; ''What
ought to do; my husband is drunkard?"
"My VIE Is a gadabout aud will not stay
at home0 "Afy companion is ignorant
and hates books and revel in them" II
like music and piano sets rDy9husbnnd
crazy" II am fond of social life and my
companion Is a recluse." ~ am trying to
be good and my lifelong associate is very
bad. What Shall I do?'' Ny answer is,
there nre certain good reasons for divorce
ment. The Bible recognizes them. Good
! society recognizes them. But IL musb DO
the very last resort and only after aH
reasonable attempts at reclamation and
| adjustment have proved a dead. failure.
When such attempts fall it Is generally
because of meddlesome outsiders and
women tell the wronged wife how she
ought TO stand on der rights, and men tell
the wronged husband how he ought to
stand on his rights. And let husbaWd and
wife in an unhappy marriage relation
stand punctiliously on their rights and
there will be no readjustment and only
one thing will be sure 70 them and that is
a hell on earth 4sr.
If you are unhappilY married, Utmost
cases 4 alvise YOU, make tho.hest you can
of an awfully bad hhrgnin. Do not pro-
! ject our pecuiarities more than is neces-
sary. Perhaps you may have some faults
of your own which the other portY in the
| marital alliance may have TO suffar. You
are in the sams yoke. IL you pull aside
the yoke will only twist your neck. Better
pull ahead. The world Is full of neople
who made mistakes about many things,
and among other things about bstrothal
and marriage, and yet hnye heen toler-
! ably happy and very useful in the
strength of Col, and by the grace prone
| ised IN every time OF need if those who
| seek It conquer tho disadvantagoous cir
cumstances. 1 am acquainted with lovely
4 women murried 10 con iemptiblo
men and genial mon yokcd with
! terma rants fnspr red with the dovil. And
| yet nnder these disadvantages my friends
| are useful and Happy. God helps people iE
other kinds of mnrtyrdom and % sing in
the flame, and be viii help you IN your
! lifelong misfortune.
| Remember the patience OF Job. What a
wife he hadI At time when ho was ono
! great blotch of eruptions, aud his prop
erty was destroyed by a tornado, and,
moro than all, bereavement had come and
! the poor man needed Hll-wtse counse-
/ she advises him m-to go to cursing ana
swearing. She wanted him TO poultica
/ l. F,oFft 70
right on. through his mRrital disadvant-
ages, recovered his health and his fort
une and raised a splendid family. mud
the closing paragraph of the hoolcoR job
has such iub lance that / wonder peopls
do not oftenef read IL:
So the Lord blessod the latter end or Jos
! more than his beginning: for hc had 1901
sheen, and 5000 camels and ,0ol yoke ~ oxen,
and 900 she asses. I1o h=a also seven sons
/ and three daughters. And be called the name
| OF the first. Jcmina; and tile name Qf the scc'
! ono Kczia: and the name of the third, Kcren.
hAppuch. And in an the land were no women
found SO fair ns tho daughters Of Jor; and their
father gave them inheritance among their
brethren. After this lived Job $50 yenrs, and
saw his sons ana his sons sons. cFcnfopr gen
erations. So JOB died, being old and fun Of
days. a3s
Now, nay badly-married fri2nd Qf either
sex, IL Job could stand it bv th2 help Of
God, then you can stRnd II ~ fho so1ie
divine reinforcement. YOU have
other relations, o, woman, beside the
wifeIy relation n you arc nioihes,
train up your children fQr Sod and
! Heaven. If you are a member Of r.
Church, help move on its snterpr seH.
You can get 50 much ofr rLho greeq of God
IN your heart that al your homo q ial5
| will seem insignificant. How Htfle diher'
ence dpesftTualce vgirat your unrightooug
husband calls you, II Cod catlSgyou his
child and you are an heires8 Of WHOLE
kingdoms beyond The sky
Immerse yourself in soma kind of OUT
side rsefulness, something that will enlist
your prayers, your symputhies yoar
hand,your needle, Your voice. f3at y0nr
heart ON fire with love 70 God and the dis
enthrnilment Of the human rnc6, Hhd tile
troubles Of yonr h0mewll bs if ottgi ONT
In the glory OF Your cang fc-atfd lie. I
cry ont 10 Won. q pvorna u, ans Paul e5.c'ni iutt
in his ietter to the Cpaln' hiahs: what
knowcst thou, o wife, whether thou
shalt save thy husbands Andlf you cHu
not save him You can help in tao rrander,
! mlghticr cuterprise Qf help.ng 8nve the
world. Oat OF the nwfh miatRke Of your
marriage rise into the Eiiilliniet life Oh
seltsacrifioe Tor God aud suffering hn
| uIanity. Tnsfead On settling down tf
mope ever yoas d9nsstIe woes, sulisl
your energies for the worid'7 redemp
! ton.
Iu tbst effort yoa viii forget or o.
helped h. bear your own trials. and IN 70
little willie God viii tnke gOa uo out of
gOut disturbed aud narrowing gun5ugni
: reiaton of earth into EaRveas "a I tht
! hnpper because of prcecdinE dIatsess.
When Queen Eizabeth rf England wnf
expiring # was Arranged thak the exact
Z moment Of her deatif sheu'd bg swDN @d
60 the people bv the droTHdng of q snpr'idra
ring from the-sgindepgs-il -ilttsa-ttre-s nnudf pt
nu officer, WHO carried it ~ the op - his
speed t. Eing James of fc5flhHd. li
your departure fcam TIE s.eanq OF yoar
} earthly woss. " yon ore realy to 20 WI