Savannah courier. (Savannah, Tenn.) 1885-1979, 1888-07-05
CHORUS.
WOMEN AS COMPANIONS.
Some Truths Concerning the Conduct of
the Sexes Toward Each Other.


Some Truths Concerning the Conduct of
the Sexes Toward Each Other.
1t would seem sometimes as If men
avoided women, when not fervidly in
love with them. Is it only kindled inn
agination and tumultuous blood that
render them attractive, and hold the
two for the time, togetherP Is it in
mans tranquil hours, in his perfect
sanity, that woman loses her chief al
lurementp Is she least loved while
loveliestp Do the senses override mind
and spirit, and do these pail when those
are satisfied.
II il notorious that boys, who appear
barbarous because natural, actively dis
like girls, and can not be coaxed into
their company. They cherish no more
respect than they hold affection for
them. Although they consider them
totally inferior, they feel no pity for
them, merely undisguised contempt.
A tiny creature of four or FIVE, If
called a girl-boy, will flush with anger
and strike his defamer. 1t is mortal
affront that masculine babyhood re-
sents. To see a girl sometimes trying
to win the good will of a group of half
grown boys, to any one of whom she is
Il queen, is positively touching. She
may appeal to them for the poor privil-
eye of sharing their society with an elo-
quence and tenderness that might move
IA hyena but they will drive her rudely
away with brutality that marks their
age and sex.
Most men furtively laugh and grid at
those who are addicted to feminine So
ciety; who find solid satisfaction in it;
who are courageous enough to avow
their appreciation of its benefits. They
are wont to speak of them in the dis
dainful way that urchins speak of girl
boys; to deride them as eifeininate,
weak-minded, danglers after petticoats,
Miss-Nancyish. One of their severest
epithets, applied to husbands, is hem
pecked, which is easily said and more
easily believed. Men who are not strong
ve a terror of the adjective, and act
ally cover before it. They are often
go afraid Of meriting the approach that
they go to the opposite extreme and
become brutal, which probably inn
presses them as far manlier. Dread of
ridicule has frequently prevented amia-
BILE but weak men from establishing
companionship with their wives, who
were really companiOnable.
Far more husbands than bachelors
are members of clubs, and those are
the regular frequenters Some of them,
having lovely wives and delightful
homes, are to be seen nightly in the
reading-rooms, bar-rooms, giving the
impression that they are inharmonious-
ly. welded. But they are not They
arc representative; they fail, or think
they fail, to find companionship within
their own walls, and look for it in what
is ordinarily to cultured, refined mind
the dullest, dreariest place in civiliza-
ton. The fact that they take refuge in
a club denotes how deeply bored they
must he to themselves.
Sentimental bachelors, seeing them
there, say: 'How can they prefer this
to thatf | should ss SO different in the
same circumstances. But, were the
situation reversed, they would show
the same strange taste. They might
be fond, they might become enamored
of the neglected wife; but reaction
would occur in due time, and render
companionship impossible. Men can
not understand why it should be so in
the case of others, but it is clear
enough in their own case.
There would seem to be some justi-
cation for the biting phrases current al
clubs:
After four or five years, mans
wife is the dullest company in the
world"
ITO be in love with woman is the
nearest approach to happiness, and tc
be out of love with her whom you once
loved is supreme misery
ANY woman may be interesting, Sc
long as she is not ones wife"
The fascinating woman always be
longs to another man. If you get her
her fascination takes wings"
"A man of the world is at HON,
everywhere except in his own home"
The honeymoon is thus called be
cause it is so sweet compared with tn
bitter months that follow
Matrimonial happiness is Away
to be found in the mind OF the mai
who has not married"
There are two perfect women-on,
is dead; the other has not been discov
| cred"
"All the comforts OF home exhaus
, irony"
"A well-regulated club is the acm
: OF human comfort"
Men enjoy clubs because women ar
, not admissible"
| That is false love which does not In
/ clude friendship; but is the love whic
the mass Of men feel and the mass 9
J women inspire
} True love, love of the highest kline
, contains the elements of friendship
: infused with sexuality; friendship
: sexless; therefore. serene and stable, an
| comprehends the comforts OF love with
: out its passion. Many men are incaps
bic of friendship; but the lowest an