St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1888-12-16
MAKING MONEY MARRIAGES
Young Women Cannot Be Too Care
full.
TRADESMAN ABOVE ROUE.
Hrs. Sorrell, of Summit Avenue, Tells
Some Plain Truths to Members
of Her SEE.

To the Editor of the Globe.
Marriages and deaths are among the
most interesting items found i'll the
local columns of newspapers. Old and
young, alike, are sure to read them in
order to learn The names of those who
have become ''flesh of one flesh and bone
of one bone" When the long list of
presents is published women run over it
and examine with minuteneSS the en-
tire rousseau. The elegant bridal
dress, trimmed in the most expensive
and elaborate manner the magnificent
supply of handsome under garments,
costly stockings, gloves, handker-
chiefs and SATIN carriers with golden
clasps. are almost enough to set women
crazy, and we find ourselves Saddened
by the thought that such presents were
not made when we were married. With
such beginning it is reasonable to sup
pose that nothing but one continued
stream of unallOyed happiness will be
the portion of the neWly-wedded pair.
but such is not always the case. Within
the circle of our own acquaintance the
engagement of some lovely young girl
is announced and the first inquiry is, in
regard to the financial status of the eX-
pectant groom. Has he, or his father
before him, become
RICH BY GOVERNMENT CONTRACTS?
Has he large bank deposit to his
credit--if SO, how much? These queS-
tons being answered affirmatively, the
young girl is entitled to congratulations
from all parties as having captured 4
very desirable CATCH" Her good
fortune is measured by the worldly pos
sessions which her affianced is expected
to bestow upon her. The age of the
man, his moral character and habits are
not considered. A red nose, bOated
and blotched face. although evidence
against him in any court of public
opinion, are ignored, for he is rich, and
therefore gentleman. He may be
three times as old as the eXpectant
bride, with bad habits fixed upon
him, and the life the poor girl is
to live is to be "a hell upon
earth, yet the young, innocent woman
is attracted to MIN by the prospect of an
abundance of worldly goods, and she is
willing to sell herself for money. 1t
would be far better to marry some
young. sober mechanic or tradeSman,
than TO risk ones happiness for life
with a roue whose only recommended
ton is his money, but who, so far as
character and the noble traits of man
hood is bankrupt without any assets
whatever.
Young girls should learn that money.
unaccompanied by good habits pleasing
manners. amiable disposition and UNI
Swerving integrity. cannot bring happi-
ness and peace to the home circle. The
character of the man they are to asSOci-
ate with during life, who is to be the
FATHER OF THEIR CHILDREN
and to assist them in rearing the dear
little ones for happiness and heaven.
must, and should be, closely scrutiniZed.
Money is not TO be despIsed. but all the
gold of 0phir could not induce me TO
marry a man did not love-one who
bore on his person evidences OF the dis
soute life he has lived.
The happiness of feeble woman de-
ponds in a great measure upon the
character, disposition and habits of the
man To whom she uniteS herself. Young
girls imagine that they can reform
drunkard and make sober, good hus-
band out of such an one, but permanent
reformationS are few indeed. 4 stream
cannot run above its source, neither
can men rise above their own level.
"A SOW that is washed will return to
her wailow in the mire again. and
man who has wallowed in tie gutter
may be induced to keep out of Ii for
time. but in ninety-nine cases out of
every hundred he will return TO his old
habits again.
When a vessel Is to be sent to sea its
owner is very careful in regard to the
character of the man he places in
charge of il. The applicants are care
fully examined. 1t is not enough TO say
that he is a man. but is he sober and
siillful in the management of a vessel
when tossed by the
WAVES OF THE MIGHTY OCEAN?
So woman. when she embarkS upon
the uncertain sea of life, should know,
beyond all doubs. the character of the
man upon whom she is to rely when the
trials of life come, and when storms
and clouds gather around her.
Young woman, it would be far better
for YOU to remain single all the days of
your life than To marry beneath you-a
fool, a knave or drunkard.
| disagree entirely with many who
recommend woman to 60 forward and
enter into the trades and professions
heretofore considered the exclusive
fields for the operations of men. The
home circle is her especial sphere. for
it is the one in which God designed her
to move. and He has so qualified her for
il that she has power here which she
can have nowhere else. The household
altar is her place of worship. The
forum Is too angry for her. Home is
her place. the seat of her power and
influence. Here. as faithful wife, she
rewards her loving husband for all his
labor. toll and sacrifice for her, and
here. by her gentlenesS. patience and
love. strange to say, makes herself. to
great extent, the queen and arbitress of
the very fate of the man upon whom
she leans for protection. provided she
did not marry him alone for money, and
provided, further. that he is reaSona-
bic man,
AND NOT 4 DRUNKARD.
| do not wish to be understood as eX-
pressing the opinion that women should
under no circumstances engage in any
kind of business. There are many who
must rely upon their own industry to
secure living, and it is to their credit
when they gain livelihood by their
own efforts in some department OF
labor. Which does not tax, 100 severely,
their physical endurance.