The Arkansaw traveler., 1888-09-15
THE DESIRABiLITY OF LITTLE k
 FAMILY JARS.
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A prominent lady, presiding over a woman's convention, introducing her husband to the audience, said ''Sh6 had listened to his voice for many years and had never tired of It." She hoped the listeners would not be. There is good deal of the perfume. tory complimentary style of introduce tion in that declaration, but ln dcicr- enoe 10 the lady we must accept 1t. Still, one can hardly tail to bo TO- minded ot the comic opcretta, "Nevsr 70 What, never2" "Well, hardly ever" The wife who declares she never tired of her husband's voice Is giving her self the greater iiattery. She ia claim. Ing, in tact, that he never had occasion to deny her requests or dissent from her propositions. Of all tIresome words often repeated the most weari. some are "Eo," even If you put "my dear' to 1t; land "I don't think so," however quietly said. Yet there may be tiresomeness In too constant acqni. essence. To aD.old couple, who boast cd that they had lived man and wife for fifty years and never had a dispute, the listener replied, "whst s d0.s:.;., monotonous life you must have had '"
 Some men, and women, too, are so given to iteration that the hapless listener Is ready 10 put before the noun the wicked adjective with which one of the poets qualities 1t. Now, the husband or the wife whose yokeiellow is prone to prose may have weary time of 1t. Yct as out of the nettIe danger the flower safety may be piucked, out of the vocal ding dong some comfort may bc had. lt is somc- thing, anyway, for wife or husband to find that she or he Is regarded as worth taking to. If you arc tired, don't seem 50. Assume virtue if you have it not, and give the speaker the pleaa- ure of imagining that he or she is en- tertAiniBg you. Don't be or don't seem "tired" when talked to or talked at, and 1t may be that you yourself may be permitted to take the floor sometimes and crate in your turn, if you desire 1t.
 The "pious fraud" may seem 10 in- volve contradiction in terms, but 1t often prevents contradiction fn fact. The interests and occupations of men and women are necessarily various. It is a pious fraud for man and woman to pretend each to be interested iD the others words and thoughts. Very much Of this coDjugaI fraud s repre- sented in \ wife's declaration that she never tires of her husbands voice, and fin husbands bland smile while he wishes his wife would permit the oc. currence Of a "Hash of silence" The French have a hapry proverb about intimate friends. They "learn to lire with each other" There k no more intimate relation than that of husband and wife. And the progress Of the two doctrines of liberty and equality ] hes pnt the woman on . higher plane than Of old, but no higher than nature intended her for. She is mans heip meet, and it is always "meets that the help should share all responsibilities. The helpmeet h not slave, but help who can originate e well ~ follow. In the many and various interests which a9ifste the world--politicaI, social, industrial, moral, and religious --the women have their my, and fl husband and wife have 1lesrped to live" with each other, what 0Ds .ys will neycr tire the other much, though the pious ffaud may sometimes require to bs prscticed.