Staunton vindicator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1860-1896, 1888-11-23
WHAT WE GIRLS LIKE.
'HE TRIPLES OF LIFE WHICH IN
FLUENcE OUR CHOICE.

the Fitness and Unfitness of Thinss-A
Woman's Observation-Disclosures Speech.
Clothes-Beauty.
was lying in my hammock the other day
by the way, have it swung across WIN
dowed corner of my room these cool autumn
like days-lying there and thinking what the
things were which women did specially like in
men-of course l am writing now of nice
men and nice wonderland came to the con-
clusion that the things which particularly
influence us in cur choice among men were
the little things.
Yes, the little things, the trifes A man
may be an Apollo for beauty, but if he says
''no, ma'am" and Eyes, ma'am" to you when
he should say Eyes" and "no," adding your
name when necessary, you cannot thoroughly
appropriate him, and he will, for all his per-
lection of feature, CRATE upon your keen
sense of well-bredness much as the squeak of
some organs does when it mingles with the
music And though the man who wears
diamond studs and pins and q diamond ring
flashing on his little finger may be possessed
of all the virtues under heaven, yet do these
misplaced gems outshne them all in their
glaring vulgar brilliancy. 1t isn't of course,
the jewels themselves, intrinsically, any
ludu III Is UD0 lIie DIS d ltli .
of speech 1t is the lack of that innate sense
of the fitness and unfitness of things-that
dawn of discrimination, would modestly
christen (which all the sterling qualities
and all the heroic characteristics taken to-
gether will never outweigh in the scale of
truly refined womans fancy.
THE MAN WHO WINS
All, mott is the man who fails not as to
who knows by instinct which side of the
railway car or which end of the boat is the
shady one, instead of gazing helplessly up
and down to find out, whilst the other man
secures the desirable seats. It is the man
who mentally fixes the right station to get
off at, and consequently makes no wild
plungings- generally to retrace as he discov-
ers his mistake; the man who knows the cor
rect entrance at theatre and the portion of
the house in which his seats are located; the
man who can put on your wrap without
turning it inside cut a few times first who
can get into his own topcoat minus the Skin
mish that causes him to appear as if wres-
Ting with some intangible enemy-it is this
man, master of the little things of Iife-who
wins.
The amount of it all is that woman must
admire before she can love. In point of fact,
genuine admiration on either side may
oftener be trusted as an insurance against an
ultimate divorce court than many and many
of the mad "fallings in love- of which we
hear too much, and which are not inapt to
guarantee as reckless failing out' againl
Ii a woman feels insecure about man-is
not quite positive whether he will do this,
or that, quite correctly; whether he will
be dressed as BELTS the occasion, OF if he will
be awkward at moment when SAVIOR faire
seems almost prime factor in being at all
then be sure she is no more sure of her own
heart, her own feelings, than she is of his
possible behavior. 1t is weak of us, will
admit, but it is, and the more womanly pure,
sweet and charming the woman, the more
certainly is this desire to admire, to be. sure
of the man she gives herself to, necessity of
her nature and a keynote to her disposition
and requirements.
FAMILIARITY OF SPEECH.
Another little thing that is intolerable in
some men, otherwise nice enough and that is
the moment you permit them to know YOU
at all well, that moment they develop that
horrible trait of an aptitude for familiar in
timacy of speech which no relation in life
under heaven condones, or can long stand
under the pressure Of Why, because two peo-
pie DeCOlue eHSdReu W edcu OIneT, or are
married to each other, they should at
once drop the little attentions, the little DO
licensees, the little respects for each others
privacy and Municipalities, I, for one, never
could comprehend! For my part I should
think that these relations of life, in order to
prevent them degenerating as they too often
do, into the mere conventionalities of an ac-
cepted code of society and morals required
the most gentle Difference to just these little
things that l have ventured to enumerate.
The closer the relations the more necessary
the glamour, if you will to call it so, of mere
well bredness lit is nothing else) to sustain
them in their supremacy of mutual affec-
ton and reverence.
There is another point upon which must
touch in speaking of what we like in men,
1t is simply, briefly, this-clothes. I know
that some of you will scout at the mere idea,
but that doesn't alter the case. know and
l am in position to speak. There isn't one
bit of use in denying it; not one particle.
Girls like to see man, and be seen with one,
too, who is smartly gotten up, whose gar
ments have the correct cut and air, just as
much as men like to see and be seen with
young woman who is attired in a charming,
well retting gown, pretty gloves, boots, hat.
1t is human, girl nature, just precisely as it
is human, man nature.
And as to beauty Trust me, all you ugly
fellows, we don't care that! about it in your
faces We are content to monopolize that
ourselves. If you are only manly and brave
and tender and nice we are prepared to adore
you-''Miss Marigold" in Pittsburg Bulletin.