Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1888-12-15
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HAVING CARDS.
"R Durnham" asks: III guest who has
bssn staying in your house departs without
being sbls 70 return her calls should you leave
her card with yours when making those calls9
In case You see the ladies should the card be
left with the sefvant7 Should you refer to the
fact or simply lesve her card on the table?''
The leaving Of the card ON the table IL quite
enough. Society II too busy for explanations,
and unless there has been some especial mes
:sge, or some reason why you should explain,
there II no necessity for explanation.
MRS. Blank" writes:
"Suppose 4r. and Mr.. Smith and Miss Smith
are all invited to tea and only Miss smith can
go, shall she leave all the cards on the hall
table or shall she enclose them in an envelope
and direct to the hostess, to show that they did
not call in person, and If the hostess incloses a
card OF Q friend who IL staying with her should
| . card be left for the friend?f
quite tmmatertal If cards are left
not The fact that they are there is quite
enough. And it would certainly be civil to
leave one for the friend, if her card were in
Frederick" writes:
g! am country maid, and know very little,
put am going to be married at home inform
ally next month in broadcloth travelling dress.
Ought to wear gloves? I must take one of
immediately, You know, to have nv wedding
ring put on. Now, why should put them on
We advise q bonnet and gloves, although
Fredericas objection has point in it.
INVITATIONS.
"Portis, writes from Denver:
"Does an afternoon reception composed
mostly Of ladies in bonnets and street dresses
deman a call afterward, or simply card?"
custom with us is not q little in doubt In
our western cities We are sometimes at variance
with New York etiquette, but we all wish to
make that our standard, SO far as we can, in all
matters pertaining to good breeding.
NOW, when an informal acquaintance il out
OF the city, and We know it, should card be
sent to her? Also, when family Is in mourn
ing, should We send cards? Would 1t not look
somewhat heartless to invite q family when q
death has Just occurred? Does hostess confine
herself to her Indebtedness when entertaining
generally?
No, hostess does not confine herself as to
ner indebtedness, to answer the last question
first. A hostess invites those whom she likes
and wishes 70 know. As to families in mourn
ing. the cards are sent as usual, although not
immediately after Q death; o certain time, of
course, should be allowed to elapse.
Az for the friend who is out of town, It would
be proper to send the cards. to a large party or
reception, as she would find them when she
returned.
This matter Of invitations has become 10
largely mere matter of respect that it il as
well to send cards to ones list Of friends
without inquiry as to whether they are in
town, or in Europe, or in mourning, or what
not. person Is never offended at receiving
q card. Any mark Of attention and respect
is agreeable to the feelings. 1t is better to
err ON the right side. Mrs. JOHN SHERWOOD.