Rock Island daily Argus. (Rock Island, Ill.) 1886-1893, 1888-10-11
WOMAN AND HOME.
WHY YOUNG FOLKS ARE LOATH TO
PLUNGE INTO MATRIMONY.


settinS Ready for Sickness-Learning to
work-Dress-A Mistake Parents Make.
A Happy wife-Heai,h Iiinls-Notes for
the Housewife.
Ask young lady who is yearning for her
5wn vine and zig tree, and a husband, by
way of an adjunct, why 1t is that the men
are so loath to take unto themselves partners
for better or for worse and she Will reply:
''Ohl the men are selfish. They want to spend
all their money upon themselves. They like
the luxuries Of celibacy. They Ike their
club life with all its comforts. They want
to provide themselves with everything that
is calculated to make a man satisfied with
himself and the world at large This is the
reply that the interrogation will get in most |
eases. There may be varieties of expression,
according to the individual, but the tenor OF
the answer is not far removed from this.
ASK tba>young man who Is a fit subject for
,the matrimonial market why it is that the
men do not marry and he will say: "Ol the
women are so foolish. They want to enjoy
themselves. They want to wear fine clothes,
keep up with all the fashions, have servants
to do the work for them and live like the
wives of millionares. II the women were
not so foolish more men would get married.
If they were less capricious there would be
less anxiety felt about the married state As
it is the Young man with moderate income
is afraid to plunge in the vortex of rnatrl-
r,onv for fear that financial bankruptcy may
he the outcome This will be the reply in
nine cases out Of Ten.
Hpre we are between two grindstones.
But when one lnvesti yates the question In
carefcl way the conclusion is inevitable that
there is round for complaint on both sides.
The vour- nan is certainly selfish. He
forms habits II his bachelor days which GER
tainly wouId not become him as a married
man He has hi, club and the club claims a
rood deal of us time and thought He docs
ut as = a--ieral thing take his wife to the
,kTS< Wtth nm Therefore she naturally OBJ
iects to clubs and thinks that they are horrid
In Young Benedict would make his home
his club house and his wife his clubfeliow,
there would be much less ground for COM
plainr tpan there now is. But to most young
men who even in a married state pine for a
Tttla hi If freedom, club life OF this kind
wourd be- too ruouotouous. Again, there is
youue man IS too fond of his own comfort.
That Is undoubtedly true. But man is very
1,r,.si, a creature Of habit. He forms tastes
aud blbi,s in eel Ihary which he cannot shake
off Zoo often when he has Il wife he graft
fes those tastes even If 10 do 50 he IS com
neIlsd 10 sacrifice his wife's comfort. This i:
not ri hit. \ woman when she narries take
the step in some cases for the want Of con
genial comuanionship; in others to bette
her condition But, leaving the material as
rect of the matter out of sight, woman wit
marries does not at once Ike to begin lif
of denial and self abnegatlon.
The young man has good deal to com
plain about. too The education of youn
woman Is often far too SUPERFICIAL and
therefor. useless. II does not fit her to b
the true hepmeet OF . man. 1t is calculate
TO make her an ornament, not useful being
The average society woman is well define
bv the philosopher Thomas Carlyle
his '.Sart0r Resartus' as piece {
celestial I which he glories to SUI
yey in galleries, but which he hf
lost all hope of purchasing The youn
woman too often Is educated TO be parl(
ornament. to dress well. TO pose effectively,
play the piano little, and to have a sma
terinr- in those branches of education whit
are r,ureIv ornamental \ wife of this XII
is not what the young man wants who Is u
starting out upon his career. He must ha'
some one to help him save. In order to
this the wife must know how 70 work, Al
must not be afraid 10 work. That they
not is, perhaps, not SO much their fault us
is the fault Of society and its standards.
Women like to share the burdens Of the
they love. They are willing to put up vi
very much OF inconveniece, Withstand Al
tribulation, providing il will help along t
one that is loved and cause him TO feel hapF
When it comes 70 a question Of sacrifice,
moral or even physical courage, the WON
in three eases out of five is superior to I
man. She VIII hear more pain uncompla
inglv and will rompacently battle with {
noyances that would almost drive m
crazy. Most women would be true he
meets if they had chance. But from tn
childhoods DAYS they are taught to hav
wrong view of ife and 10 ignore the 81
gtantial in favcr Of the artificial
This is wholly wrong. Men and won
were created to be joined in matrlmony.
is wrong to keen them apart. II Is not OF
wrong to the individuals Of the two sex
but it is fraughJ with danger TO socie
Where there are the most happy maria
there the standard Of purity will be the hi
est. Where there are the least maria
the standard Of impurity will be the high
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