Sharp County record., 1888-02-16

in confidence. COndIgp punishment ia
apt to come upon them an4 they get paid
in their own coin. l could point YOU To
score whom society has let drop yerv
hard in return for their base traffic in
human hearts. As to such men, tbev
walk around in their celibacy after their
hair is streaked with gray, and pretend.
ing they are naturally shOrt-sightad
when their eyes are so old in sin that
tbey need the spectacle3 Of a sept Iagan.
ariau, an eyeglass about No. 5, and think
thew are bswitching in their stride and
overpowering in their glalces, although
thew are simply laughing-stocks for all
mankind. And if these base dealers in
human hearts be females they are left
after awhile severely alone, striving in
very desperation OF agony Of cosmetics
10 get back TO the attractiTeness they
had when they used to brsg how
manv masculine affections they had
slaughtered Forsakan Of God and honest
men and good women, are sure to be all
such masculine and female trihars with
human and vet immortal affections. n
man, o woman, having plighted your
trotE. stick TO it.
saw not only to those who have made a
mistake in so emn promise Of marriage,
but to those who have already at the
altar been pronounced one when they are
two. or in diversity of tastes and likes
and disIikes, are neither one nor two, but
a dozen, make the best YOU can Of an aw.
full mistake. And here let me answer let.
tArs that come from every State Of the
American Union, and from across the sea,
and are coming year after year from men
and women who ara terriically alliauceG
/ and tied together in a hard knot,
very hard knot. The let
ters run something like this: what
ought TO do: my husband IS drunkardw
"Mv wife is a gad-abOut and will not stay
at home" "Ny companion is ignorant
and hates books and | reveI in them" II
| like music. and a piano sets my husband
crazv." 81 am fond of social life and my
| companion is q recluse." II am trying 70
be good and my lifelong associate is very
| bad. What shall l do:" Ny answer is,
there are certain good reasons for divorce
nent. The Bible recognizes them. Good
| society recognizes them. But it must he
the verv last resort, and only after all
reasonable attempts at reclamation and
adjustment have proved a dead failure.
| When such attempts fail it is generally
| because Of meddlesome outsiders, and
women tell the wronged wife how she
ought 10 stand on her rights, and men tell
| the wronged husband how he ought to
| stand on his rights. And let husband and
wife in an unhappy marriage relation
| stand punctiliously on their rights and
| there will be no readjustmen and only
| one thing will be sure to them and that IS
| a hell on earth.
| If YOU are unhappilY married, in most
! cases I advise you, make the best you can
! of an awfully bad bargain. Do not pro-
! iect our peculiarities more than is neces-
sarv. Perhaps you may have some faults
| of your own which the other party in the
marital alliance may have to suffer. You
are in the sam9 yoke. II you pull aside
! the yoke will only twist your neck. Better
| pull ahead. TIE world is full Of people
| who made mistakes about many things,
! and, among other things. about betrothal
| and marriage, and vet have been toler.
ably happy and very useful in the
! strength Of God, and by the grace prom
| ised in every time Of need II those who
seek it conquer the Instantaneous cir
cumstances. am acquainted with lovely
women married TO contemplate
men and genial men yoked with
termagants inspired with the devil And
vet under these disadvantages my friends
are useful and happy. God helps people in
other kinds of martyrdom and to sing in
/ A.. bo baf in vOuY
lifelong misfortune.
Remember the patience of Job. What
wife lie had! At a time when he was one
great blotch Of eruptions, and his prop
erty was destroyed by tornado, aud.
more than all, bereavement had come and
the roor man needed all-wiSe counsel,
she advises him to go TO cursing and
swearing. She wanted him TO pOu)tice
his boils with blaSphemy. But be lived
right on through his marital disadvant-
ages, recovered his health and his fort
une and raised a splendid family, aud
the closing paragraph of the book OF job
has such jub lance that | wonder people
do not oftener read it:
So the Lord blessed the latter end OF job
more than his beginning for he had 14O00
sheep. and 5000 camels, and 1,OO) yoke Of oxen,
and 1000 she asses. He had also seven sons
and three daughters. And he called the name
OF the first. Jemima; and the name OF the sec
ond, Kezia: and the name Of the third, KereE-
happuch And in oil the land were no women
found so fair as the daughters Of job; and their
father gave them inheritance among their
brethren. After this lived job 40 years and
saw his sons and his sons sons. even four gen.
erations SO Job died, being old and full OF
days
Now, my badly.married friend of either
sex, if Job could stand it by the help of
God, then you can stand it by the same
divine reinforcement. You have
other rel ations, O, woman, beside the
wifely relation, If you are a mother,
train up your children for God and
Heaven. Ii you are a member Of
church, help move on its enterprises.
You can get so much of the grace Of God
in your heart that all your home trials
will seem insignificant How little differ.
ence does it make what your unrighteous
husband calls you, if God calls you his
child and you are an heress of whole
kingdoms beyond the sky?
Immerse yourself in some kind of out
side usefulness, something that will enlist
your prayers, your sympathies, your
hand, your needle, your voice Get your