West Virginia Democrat. [volume] (Charles Town, W. Va.) 1885-1890, 1888-05-04
MARRIAGE.
for the DEMOCRAT.

made these our hearts: He gave US
these our affections; and through
them the Spirit speaks. Aspiring
| totheir Source, they rise up like the
white smoke and bright fame, while
| on earth, if left unmastered, they
| burn. suffocate, and destroy. Yet
they have their natural and inno-
cent outlets even here; and woman
may warm herself by them without
| scorching, and yet be neither a wife
nor a nun."-Miss Manning.
Fortunate is he who rescues q
woman, who frees her from the
weakness imposed upon her by Sc
clusion, from so much misery, so
many drawbacks! Happy he who
instructs her, elevates her, strength
ems her, and makes her his own!
For in delivering her, he also deliv-
ers himself.
In this mutual deliverance man
must, of course take the initiative.
Heis stronger, in better health. He
has a solid education. He is favor
ed by the laws. He has the best
occupations to himself. and earns
much more than woman. He is his
own master; if not suited in one
place, he can go to another.
But once delivered by you, from
what will she not rescue you in re-
turn? Let US enumerate.
From the scrvitude of your base
passions: If your home is a happy
one, you will not go under the
smoky lamps of a ball-garden in
quest of love,nor to the street for in
toxication.
The servitude of weakness You
will not drag yourself feebIy along,
like your pitifu! comrade-that
young old man, so pale, debased and
broken down, whom the women rid
icule. True love will preserve you
from this, and concentrate your
strength.
The servitude OF melancholy:
He who is strong and does a mans
work, he who in going out to his
daily toll leaves at home beloved
creature who loves--and thinks Of
him alone, is by that very fact in
spired with cheerfulness, and he is
happy all the day.
The servitude of money: Re-
ceive for truth this exact mathe-
matical maxim:-Itoo persons spend
less than one. You will see this
when, on Saturday night, the man
brings home his weeks salary. and
she puts aside the necessary por-
tion to feed and clothe the children,
she leaves for her husband enough
for his little indulgences; and for
gets no one but herself.
l sec many bachelors who remain
such from sheer fright at the ex-
pensiveness of matrimony, and yet
spend infinitely more than mar
ried man after all. They live very
dearly at the cafes and restaurants,
and at the theatres. Havana ci
gars, smoked all day, are to their
solitude an extravagant necessity.
Why do they smoke? TO for
get," they say. Nothing can be
more disastrous.
We should nerer forget. Woe to
him who forgets evils, for he never
seeks their antiootes. The man, the
citizen who forgets, ruins not only
himself but his country. A blessed
thing is il to have by your hearth
stone q reliable and loving womsn,
to whom you can open your heart,
with whom you can suffer. She
will prevent you from dreaming or
forgetting. We must all suffer, and
love, and think. In that is the.true
life of man
If the wife has no female friends
whose rivalry incites her to extrav-
gance in dress, she spends almost
nothing. She reduces all your ex-
penses to such degree that the
formula given above is no longer
correct. Wemust not say two per-
sons" but -four persons spend less
than one"
When the marriage is judicious,
entered into with forethought, the
wife, far from being hindrance to
liberty Of action, is, on the contrary,
its natural and essential element.
Young man, if you have a good
wife ard a good trade, you are free;
mean by that that you can 60
abroad or stay at home. as you
please.
With an occupation and a wife
comes the first accession of freedom.
After that come others. l say an oc-
cupation, not a luxurious art. Have
an art besides, if you will; and if
you have, 80 much the better. But
first, you want an art which is use
full to all. Whoever loves and wish
es to support his wife, does not in
dulge his personal pride in this
matter, nor does he lose time in
seeking the exact line between Art
and Trade-a line which is, in re-
l.