The Daily times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1886-1889, 1888-11-09
TYRlNNles OF RELATIONSHIP,
Granting rayors Because lie l. One Of
tie ramny''-fn Hot Water.


tie ramny'-fn Hot Water
No despotism equals the tyranny
coming of relationship. Thousands
endure IT, yet scarcely think Of !, as a
tyranny. much less an injustice.
Thousands lnilicl ituuconSclously and
think they are perfectly right I'm doing
SO
The SON. The nephew, the cousin, is
given situation in the business,
whatever II may De. simply because mo
Is relative. lie does not. he dare
not push out in the world and seek q
plocc as stranger and ON his own
merits. he leans ON the relative, the
uncle. the cousin. who has force, en-
crgy and enterprise and has thereby
built up a business. 10 give him "A
situation lie may have no par
ticular liking or interest in the
business 1t is only for him
means for drawing salary.
He expects IN such situation moro
fayors than would be granted
stranger, because lac is zone of the
family He may not asl, openly for
such favors, but there are other and
quite as cilicacious ways OF asking and
begging for tayors As by word OF
mouth.
II the dependent relative in the sit
uation. through recklessncss, has lost
or squandercd money; if he has in
some way put himself in hole, no
has generally some soft hearted rel4
tive i'm the family 10 60 20 and unload
his misery on. who ma turn unloads 1t
on somebody else. and on 1t progresses
until it reaches the head and the head,
though ycXcd and ont Of patience,
feels be cannot cast off and treat tho
dependent relative as be- would an en-
tire stranger and the result is that tho
pockethook Is reluctantly opened
Cgain. since something must be dono
fOr tho relative who IS IN the business,
because lee Is . relative.
There are no end OF losses great and
small i'm business. coming of relatives
placed in positions for which they are
not adapted. and ia which they expect
and often are granted iudulgonces not
given t. one not Of kin Were they
treated according To- their real worth
and merit they might not b. retained
q week But they alo relatives. As
relatives 20 Is difficult to discharge
them. There is more than one string
to the bow OF tx dependent relative.
II would not be to the family credit
- have him seen a bcgear on tho
street Or IT turned adntt because OF
hI' incompctcncy, lac might do some
thing dreadful 10 himself Relatives
al this sort are always threatening 10
do something dreadful 20 themselves
when in the hot water whorcln they 20
frequently contrlye 10 lmmene them
selves. They sometimes feel Also that
the family will see them through, and
wien their spasms of despair and
ominous self threatenlngs are tie
strongest there Is "a certain under cur
rent Of thought telling them that tho
family will stand anything rather than
face the notoricty of the dependent
relatives dreadful act
That person is indeed fortunate who,
through his or her inmate force, On
crgy and variety OF resources IS able
10 20 among entire strangers and
prove his ability TO do some one thing
well possibly better than any one else,
and who, through his pal value, ~
placed above the necessity OF asking
for place and favor on the ground OF
relationship - Prentice milford IN
New York Sta;