National Republican., 1888-01-23

pit, and platform, and printing press all speak |
word Of unmistekeble and thunderous pro
put clear out into thin poesy and light rea ling |
the marital engagements Of Pctrarch aud his |
Laura, Dante and his Beatrice, Chaucer aud |
his Phillippa, Lorenzo de Medici and his Lu. |
oretin, Spenser and his RoSalind, Waller aud |
his saccharssa, not realizing that " was the |
style OF their engagement that decided their |
their prolgacy. All the literary and military |
reign cannot blot out from from one Of the
Infamous behavior toward Seymour and |
Philip ana Melville an Lester and
swift ever rustied thronRh eonsecrated places
cannot hide from intelligent people of all ages
the fact that by promises OF marriage which
and the heart of Stella after an engagement of
fourteen years, and the poetic stanzas he dedi-
Gated TO their excellenees only made the more
immortal his own perfdy.
But suppose 1 should make a mistake"
says some man or woman, and lind II out
after the engagement and before marrage?"
MY answer is, you have no excuse for making
mistake on this subject There are so many
ways way OF finding out al . about the character
man or woman that II you have not brain
enough to form right Judgment in regard to
him or her, you are not so flt a candidate for
the matrimonial altar az you are for an idiot
asylum. Notice what society your especial
friend prefers whether he Is industrious or
lbLys WutlnpT Sne IL ucHt OF blHtteTDlY, WnhL
books are read, what was the style of ancestry
noble or depraved, ana II there be any un-
solved mystery about the person under con-
sideration postpone all promise until the
.Jaok;on's Hollow, Brooklyn, was part of the
city not built upon for many years, aud every
others, why Is not this land built on? / found
out niterwaid that the title to the land was in
controversy and no one wanted TO build there
until that question was decided. Aftorward
understood the title was settled, and now
SnSngs nGr are gGns up AZ 6 SySF It, DO not
SeteT, mas ywSscnme or feminine, thSt has not
settled ard undisputed title to honor and
truth and sobriety and kindness and right.
eousness.
| o woman, you have more need to pause be-
fore making such an important promise than
| man, because If you make inistakeit is worse
for you. If a man blunder about promise of
| marriage or go on TO an unfortunate marriage,
| he can spend his evenings away, and can 90
| TO the club or the, Republican or Democratic
| state or national elections, or smoke himself
stupid or drink himself drunk. But there is
no place of regular retreat for you, o woman,
and you could not take narcotics or lntoxicauts
| and keep your respectability. Before you
| promise, pray and think and study and advise.
There will never again in your earthly history
be n time when you so much need God.
| II seems to me that the world ought TO cast
| out from business credits and from good
of hearts they have won, as the Indian boasts
| of the number of scalps he has taken. If n
| man will lie to a woman and a woman will lie
TO man about so important matter as that
| of liietime's welfare. they will lie about
| bill of goods and lie about finances and lie
about anything Society to-day Is brimtul of
| gallnnts and man.milliners and carpet
knights and coquettes, and those most God.
forsaken of all wretches-tirts And they go
about. drawing rooms and the parlors of
| watering places simpering and bowling and
scraping and Whispering, and then return to
| the club rooms If they be men, or to their
special gatherings ifthey be women, to chat
| or NM oil fuUl Nj n n thaf1N IN
| confidence. Condign punishment Is apt to
come upon them and they get paid IN their own
coin. could point you to score whom society
| traffic in,human hearts. As to such men. they
walk around ia their celibacy, after their hair
ln ES aRd bsr sGy are
old in sin that they need the spectacles of a
| septuagenarian, an eyeglass about No. s, and
think they are bewitching in their stride and
overpoweIing in their glances, although. they
are simply laughing stocks for all mankind.
| And II these baEe dealers in human hearts be
females they are LEFT after while severely
OF cosmetics to get back to the attractiveness
they had when they used TO brag how many
Forsaken of God and honest men and good
women are sure TO be all such masculine
and female .triflers with human and yet i'm
mortal affections, o man, o woman, having
plighted your troth stick to it -
| And here my idea widens and have to say
not only to those who have made mistake In
have already atthe altar been pronounced one
when they are two, or In diversity OF tastes and
likes and dislikes.are neither one nor two, but
| dozen-make the best YOU can OF an awful
mistake And here let me answer letters that
| come from every state ofthe American Union,
and from across the sea, and are coming year
rically allianced and tied together in hard
knot, a very hard knot. The letters run some
banGE IS 9uEhS S wife a0 is sad
about and will not stay at home" MY com
pnnion is ignorant and hates books, and 1
sets my husband crazy" II am fond Of social
life and my companion is a recluse," al am
trying to be good 39S wSo my life l9nG associate
sons for divorcement, The Bible recog-
ni2es, them. Good society recognizes them.
| But 1t must be the very last resort, and only
after al reasonable attempts at reclamation
and adjustment have proved dead failure.
When such attempts fail y Is generally be,
tell the wrOnged wife how she ought to stand
on her tights, and men tel the wconged hus,
let husband and wife IN an unhappy marriage
relation stand punctiliously on their rights,
and there will be no readiustmcnt, and only
one, thing Will be sure to them, and that is a
hell on earth.
If you are unhappily married, in most cases
] advise YOU, make the best yon can of an aw'
fully bad bargain. DO not project your peeu.
liarities more than is necessary. Perhaps you
may have some faults of your own which the
other party in the martial alliance may have
TO sniier: You are In the same yoke. lfyou
pull aside the yoke will only twist your neck.
Better pull ahead. The world is full of people
who made mistakes about many things, and
among other things about betrothal aud mar
riage, and yet have been tolerably happy and
very useful; in the strength of God and by the
grace promised in every time OF need If those
who seek it conquer the disadyantageous cir
cumstances. am acquainted with lovely
women married to contemplate men, and
genial men yoked with termagants inspired of
| tI.A lAul ANaH unt ND tgaA AN.aV.
ages, my friends are useful and happy. God
helps people in other kinds OF martyrdom
and to sing in the flame, and He will help you
In your lifelong misfortune.
Remember the patience of Job. What wife
he had AT time when he was one great
blotch Of, eruptions and his property was de-
stroycd by tornado and, more than all, be-
reavement had come and the poor man needed
all wise counsel, she advises him to go to
STSnE and b S% She Wanted him
| lived right on through his marital disadvan-
tages recovered his health and his fortule
BOOK of JOB has se sb
lance that wonder people do not oitener
read II;
more than his beginning, for he had fourteen
thousand sheep, and six thousand camels. and
thousand yoke OF oxen, ana thousand she
daughters And he called the name of the
first Jemima, and the name OF the second
Kezia, and the name of the third Kerenhap-
puch And in all the land were no women
found so fair as the daughters OfJob; and their
father gave them inheritance among their
brethren. After this lived job ahundred and
forty years. and saw his sons, and his sons
sons, even four generations. So job died, be.
| ing old and full OF days"
Now, my badly.maTrled friend of either sex,
ifJob could stand 1t by the help of God, then
you can stand II by the same divine re enforce
ment You have other relations, woman,
beside the wifely relation. II you are a mother
train up your children for God and heaven;
| ifyou are member OF a church, help move on
| It's enterprises You can get so much of the
| grace of God in your heart that all your home