The Saline County journal. [volume] (Salina, Kan.) 1871-1893, 1888-06-07
Observation-Disclosures.
The Best Way OF Settling Troubles OF An
Sort with Your Frlsnda.

The best Way OF Settling Troubles OF Any
Sort with Your Friends.
When there is a trouble of any sort
between two persons, the probability
is that there is some cause Of blame on
both sides II is rarely the case that
one person is alone at fault. the other
being free from any error whatsoever.
Yet, as a matter of course. it Is easier
for each person to see where the other
has been wrong than to see what
wrong there has been on his part In
view of these truths. II each person
keeps his mind on the observed. or
supposed. faults Of the other. he will
not be likely TO perceive his own er-
ror; nor yet to see the proper way Of
removing the new barrier. which any
trouble between two persons is sure to
rear. II. on the other hand. he sets
himself deliberately and persistently TO
the finding just where and how he was.
or might have seemed. TO blame. he
will probably soon recognize some
thing in his spirit, or words. or man
ner, which he regrets. and for which
he will wish 10 express his regret
to the other. BY this means. each
Of the two will be blaming himself
and excusing the other; aud thereby
the barrier will be removed. and per-
haps a new bond Of union will be Sc
cured in its place. There is positively
no exception to this rule Of duty. In the
case Of two persons whose relations
are in any sense the relation Of peers.
The surer one Of these persons Is that
he meant no wrong. and the surer ne is
that me other was in the wrong. the
more important IL Is that he shuts his
eyes. for the time being. 10 the faults
Of the other. aud that he open his ewes,
for the time being. in a scrutinizing gaze
on himself. and his recent course. in
order 10 learn his real or his seeming
want Of absolute perfectness Just here.
He will. indeed. prove his sad lack
OF diScernment in n study Of himself
under such circumstances. IL he do not
thereby find some point wherein he was
clearly at fault. or wherein he must
have seemed 10 the other to be n fault.
Even IL he feels confident that nine
tenths Of the trouble was caused by the
others error. IL j. his duty 10 bring up
his One-tenth into exclusive promi-
hence so far a. he is concerned. and
10 be explicit in acknowledging IL and
in expressing his regret for il. Posi-
bly, In the course Of his investigations
he will come 10 see that at least nine
tenths Of the trouble. instead Of one
tenth. grew out Of his errOr-as that
error now stands before his mind. Nor
Is il less important that each person
should try TO see what credit is de-
served by the other for his forbearance,
or his kindly consideration in the pro-
gress Of the misunderstanding between
the two, and to make grateful mention
Of that 10 the other. II. in this way,
each party 70 a misunderstanding. or
to any other trouble between two per-
sons. recognizes Il rs his duty 10 con-
slider his own faults and the others
merits. and 10 lose sight Of his own
merits and Of the Others faults. there
would be little trouble from any
troubles between the two; aud better
understanding Of each other would be
result Of every successive misunder-
standing between the tWo.-s.S S. Times. |
The Unity CIuD of Denver recent.,
addressed letters 70 the leading minis /
ters. lawyers politicians and literary /
men Of the State asking each to fur
nish list Of ten novels he considered .
the greatest The result showed the |
favoTite novels 70 Be. in the order ,
named: lies Aiserables." David
Copperfeld.' - 'Seariet Letter" ''Ivan-
hoe. Vanity Fair. "ROmola."
ssJane Ayre." adam Bede." 'Bsn
anr'' and Uncle Toms Cabin"