The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1888-04-18
AS SEEN BY THE OTHER SEX
ELLA wAEElees VIEWS OF mEN.
Some Vital Points in Which They Differ
From Women-Their Idea of Love and
Their Fondness for Yirtue-Fas-
citations OF Mems Society.
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In AZ article written by me some months
ago, entitled 'Men as Friends" 1 made
some assertions which have been widely
copied, criticised and misconstrued
Urged to explain myself with greater
clearness, have consented to undertake.
more elaborate dissertation on that most
interesting of themes-Tnan.
More or less selfish in his frienship for
the fairer sex, man has a smaller amount
OF envy and malice TO encounter and
overcome in his overtures toward his own
sex.
woman instinctively looks upon an
other woman as possible rival. A woman
who has not loved finds pleasure, If N :
satisfaction, in the adulation of the world
at large, and it is her nature to expect and
demand it, and she resents even the sug-
gestiOn OF interference in her domain.
A man seldom cares for this sort of
thing. He prefers the individual devO-
ton OF several feminine hearts, and re-
CARDS no man, however popular, as his
rival who does not modest him IL his al
flares d'amour.
When the average woman loves, how
ever, all is changed. Absorbed in her
passion, she ceases to desire miscellaneous
When the average man loves, nothing
is changed He simply adds one more
pleasure and interest to his life.
It is the exceptionally noble man, stir
red by an exceptionally strong passion,
who throws his past behind him like
worn-out garment, and dedicates his fu-
ture to the woman of his choice. Men are
by nature no more vicious than women,
but they are much vainer, and require
more constant stimulants 10 their self
love
A woman commits folly for love of her
tempter. A man commits il because il
fatters his vanity TO be tempted, while he
despises the temptress.
A mans business training teaches him
10 be cautious in his intercourse with the
world, vet he Is rarely suspicious by
ture. 4 woman, on the. contrary, seems
to be born with suspicion IN her heart.
I have seen a big, brawny fellow who
had done battle in the worlds great marts
all his life as ingenious and sweet-natured
toward his kind as a child; and l have
seen his dainty wife, who had been care
fully reared in the shelter OF poor home,
regarding every sister-woman and brother
man with suspicion, and demanding ere
dentialsgef responsibility before admitting
them toIher favor.
Men are delightfully."- frank and cordial
with one another.
There is nothing which causes a lone
some woman who Is compelled 70 take a
long journey unattended regret her sex so
much as the enviable freedom from for
mality among her male travelling COM
panions Yet woman who undertook TO
treat her sisters with the same off-hand
good nature would be directly frozen to
death.
E,x.sr,-r- t,e~o NO., uaav,, 20 10 ~, I,attor
terms with one another than we are. You
have only to glance into the respective
ladies' and gentlemen's parlors at hotels
to see this The men greet each other
cordially, cluster together, and converse
for hours. and evidently enjoy themselves.
The ladies dissolve into cliques, and
their association is restricted and marked
by reserve, formalitv and eRn'i. woman
endures the society OF another woman
only as means OF killing time until she
can be in the society OF man.
There is such a fascination about the
masculine sex, that a woman viii sacrifice
the companionship OF her most cherished
lady. friend to share the society OF 4 man
TO whom she il utterly indifferent in her
heart. Indeed, she may consider him
terrible bore, but the fact that he is a man
renders him more interesting than her
most brilliant lady friend.
4 man, on the contrary, prefers the So
ciety OF his own sex, unless the lady in
question possesses some special charm for
him, or he fancies that he sees in her a
possible conquest.
\ man will lie TO protect another far
sooner than a woman will. Not that he
loves his fellow-man more, perhaps. but
dreadsa lie less, maybe.
Some one has said that there is an innate
nobility in man which causes him to love
virtue in woman. | believe this is true.
Every human being, man or woman, IN
his Utmost soul loves truth and purity.
Man illustrates his great love for virtue
in the same spontaneous way that nat
ural woman illustrates her Unborn love for
infant She never sees it without want
ing to take IL
There is far more pleasure in convers-
ing with man than with woman. He
is far more liberal in his ideas, more gen
erous in his appreciation, less liable TO
criticise unkindly. But you must not tell
him 80, even by act, else he viii spoil all
the pleasure YOU have derived from his
conpanionship II you do not tell him so,
You pique his vanity into certain destruc-
ton OF the friendship.
Man Is as dangerous as he is agreeable.
A man will keep Woman's secret, If he
believes he alone shares it, unless his
vanity tempts him n boast oil his con-
quest, which il too frequently does Yet
he is more pitiful and charitable toward
her than the average woman is, and he
ought TO be, since he is the cause OF all her
sorrow.
Men relate their adventures and follies
to one another, while women conceal
them. Yet men seldom reveal their in
most hearts, or speak Of their most sacred
feelings among men-indeed, there seems
to be a sort of shame-faced reluctance with
them 10 confess they have..any sacred feel
ines. There is nothing a woman feels
greater pride in confessing 10 a friend
than her love for her husband. II she is
fascinated with another man, she will do
all in her power to hide the secret from
the world Many a man, on the other
hand, will hide his love for his wife, rs if
be were ashamed Of it, and even invent
tales OF his adventure TO convince his
friends that he is regular Don Juan.
The world will not materially improve
until men regard this matter in different
light, and realize that the immortality OF
fatner reflects as much disgrace upon a
family as the immortality Of a mother.
The love and respect OF true man is
all that makes the pain-filled life OF n
woman worth living. Wealth may give
her garments Of beauty, pleasure may
lead her into paths Of delight, the world
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