The Memphis appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1886-1890, 1888-09-02

"WVMSs'&S s %Sy@; which i Is !. to a
be Stunned and avoided
They have formed their opinions from
the mnk and file OF people who, recognized
as being in society but not OF II, are con,
s,antly exhibiting that ailectauon ana
ridiculous pompous pride which has done
40 much TO bring society people into con-
temptuous notice.
The press and pulpit are instrumental
In ninving the bittcrcst sarcasms nj society
people.
Thcy arr treated rs II They were n separ'
Ate world unto themselves, while on the
contrary they receive their greatest social
impulse from that natural tendency OF
humanity tot segregation and enjoyment
In using this term society the writer
rcfcr TO that class Of people In all coun-
tries who by birth, education, refinement
aud wealth are the recognized leadcH IN
social customs usagcs and manners.
In any community It is not difficult Ia
nick out those members who are naturally
fitted Tor social leaders. II has boon often
stated that there are open sesamcs 10 social
circles, according 10 locality, that in Bos
ton Il depends upon how much you know
In New York upon your wealth, IN ihlla
delphia upon Who was your grandfather
la the south no one OF these is guar
nntcc OF social success, nor does the al
senco Of wealth prohibit any one from en-
Toying the most exclusive social inter
course.
Society gathers it, forces from the ranks
Of the intellectual and rciinod-at least II
ought TO. hut in what city or IN what
community do they not cry out, we are
as good NJ your
An efforts 10 maintain the purity Of So
ciety have been as futile M the mninic-
nance Of the purity OF the ballot box.
Arnold rule fond being quoted read, ut
takes three generations To make gentle
man from the family not 10 the manner
born, but in our days all men arc born
gentlemen, not made. A witty writer no
Gently remarked Of n certain Northern
city, "fhe families Of brewers OF second
generation arc now admitted to society
and eases Of members OF first generation
mingling with the beau monde have bcci
known
How near the truth doos this snrcasti,
remark roach7 In how many cities nigh
IL not nov be- obscrycd3
In a city ike New York, where wcaltl
and family name have established ono'i
tho sacred "four Hundred" u were az
easy matter 10 select this number, but /,
bring the task nearer home and attempt e
select the wheat from the chat IN this city
would bc counting social ustpcisn from Ia,
oil powerful majority.
COMPOSED, as society here IN, OF yaric,
elements, differing in tastes, In rciincmen
and the necessary SAVIOR iairc, and hone
Of
mcnt. II " not 10 be wondered az that NJ
ciciy is pronounced giddy, foolish an
hollow,
With the exception Of the book clubs
composed rntiu'ly II married women. an
afternoon teas, the younger element hay
complete control of all social icaiunrs hOp
With the gradual Disappearance OF th
mnrricd byllos, the unmarried ones haV
droppcd into q natural sway that bcromo
them most chafmingly A young girl q
fifteen Is - much Of a society woman q
that arc Gs when she ASSUMES II Ia th,
natural courso oi events This early train
lsg in the ways II hcr iutup state an
,qIcndid preparations Tor the dcbutanl,
pctiod. A dcbulnntc now II no longer th,
innoccni, unsophisiicaicd maid which oul
tender imagination las pictured her Sh,
only passes through the first season undo
mflcfancc with the title Of 'dobutantc.
Two winters have made or mafrcd her sue
cess She enters upon her third scisol
either ~ an established iayorto o. as NJ
iuupicnt wall Hover.
Tie dread Of every society girl
Not ~ prevent, but Ia make this wal
Hover stage les, hard h. boar, h ono oi ia,
obligations each member ul society owes 4
every other
What unsrliish lcllc hashad the courag
80 take under her wing ono OF these an
successful girls and devote a "bad LA
hour 60 lrr ENJOYMENT
How many men have looked aud pa,.c
on the other sijo liko tho rharasccs ,
old7
Tho sins most laid nj the door Of socict
arr hypocricy anil jealousy, but has III
confessional ever heard tho acknoWlrlg,
mcnt pas the lips1 n language was give
man a. general Ibis thoughts then -ocict
wns Instituted In order 20 hide one
emotions The etiquette Of aocicty .,
quir,s one b. meet his worst enemy wit
eager warmth aud a. turn the left chcc
10 receive tho punishment inflicted on III
right A great deal has been said ON th
subject OF The written Law OF society, bi
volumes might be filled with the ut
written law,
IL Is the lattor which is the tfucsl test
the gentleman. Any one may commit /
memory the AZ rules OF etiquette an
pass for a Chesterfield. hut ono yiolatio
Of fie genilemanly instinct stamps hil
~ n bOor.
society might iorgivc the man who VII
his soup from the end Of the spoon, bl
lac could scarcely purchase favor aft,
doacHing n lady In the ballroom. II
much stress Is laid upon the "don'is.
whilo Tow realize that the axiom Of eyci
life v Ito DO"
Social entertainments increase each scl
son In number aud clabontcnca Ever
thing changes except the supper. On
might almost fancy hc Is eating the San
fried oysters which remained on his plat
from last season. the chicken salad HI
certainly lost none Of IL acctic taste whic
diringuiahcd Il the season before II
cafe al lait and noir have not oven N
novelty OF being served by different val
cn-
II would me- be difficult at the end Of