Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1888-01-22
SINS OF YOUNG Wives.
Marion HarIand's Talk to Brides OF
Io-Day--The Modern Girl
and Marriage.
rA,rps that Often Follow The Marta
Csremony-How Men Regard Nat
rimoDy-The Young Wife's
Jealousy.
c.udhood the Band that Holds Together
wedded Observation-Disclosures an Evil.
Plain Every Day Talk to Young
wives,
Copyrighted, 1881.

rCtl! lonely OIu eSC Huu5 SnoiI oSS-ltuaS
Il What makes life worth having-home
and bome-Ioves. We believe firmly that
enduring earthly happiness is oitenest
f7vud il the holy STATE of wedlock; that
GOOD woman is made better, noble man
no5,er 0Y loving and living With one an-
otber as wife ard husband; that their af-
lection deepels, and ripens, and
oroWs purer with each passing year,
Until neither is q complete being with
an. the ether. Aad yet, eyes growu
o7sysr win experience look sadly upon
t3e happy young thing Who stands On the
t1rsgrc.d OF the new world SO a. the wide
rsse OF su Eden. which clouds and chill
Ird blasting fires cannot enter. 70 her
5-fjeh1od Is fruiu0n. We know it to be
mediation, for which the life Of the
tve.age gill is not a preparatory school.
For 10 other vocation is SO little specific
education received even from sensible
srl f.r-sigatcd parents.
T1is omission, often fatal one, we
r1sy set down as Z sinful error antedetilg
marriage.
"Msn ia usually misft from the
s.art," wrote Emerson, more cyuicSlly
man VS. the wont Of the caIm-Orowsd
metapbyslCian.
Before deciding that the Joining Of
MANS asGd TO Wcmsn's in the most i'm
pCrtaut relation Of human existence is g
mistake, and jolned hearts misf', let Us
Io0k a. some Of the causes Of discord IL
the symphony Of the dual life.
The keynote that sets all sjlr is usual
" struck IN ths eaTlier months Of mar
rage. By g curious reversal OF c0ndI-
tloDs. the ardent WoCer Of the ante-nup-
Hal idyl becomes me DhiI0sOphic&lly-c0I-
tented husband with the Utgerance
If Inc irrevocable words. Often
the pastoral becomes piaiR prose, with
never a trOpe or rhyme, by the time the
honeymoon is over. IL YVES the gpitor's
business 20 Ioske the world beautiful TO
his betrothel during the W0oing. Ia.
Wgdl0ck the wife must bear with her
lords CspriCeS, minister 10 his comfort,
smusc his Guu hOu.s-or run the risk Of
losing him. What husband bethinks
h.mssif TO "eEtcTtain" his spouse If she
ae 80 t0Ierable health and spirits? What
good Tife does rot rake together ell her
sticks and straws OF talk and epply the
torch OF cheeTfulRess 81 the home com
lng OF her lord? 1t is he, not
she, you may be sure, who drinks
mis- coffee around the edge of the
morning and evening paper, fings wads
OF wei wool in the form Of absent
minded m0nosylls0les upon the bonfire
Aforesaid, and when it has sput,ered itself
quite cut and the paper is read threagh,
yawqlngly bethinks himself thSt he must
"seet man" at the club or elsewhere, crs
II very domestic in taste, falls asleep on
the library sofa. d
woman is born vile. A MAJ takSs
m1tfinony into consideration along WsSh
Z CREST many other investments. He
hopes earnestly that il will be both
pleas int and profitable. Should il prove
to be neither, Dc hiss borne the shock Of
falling stocks, the disaster Of loss in
other cases, without being utterly ruined.
Common sense clearsightedness in our
survey Of the situation is not pessimIsm
& failure TO appreciate the csrdinal truth
that man Is not woman, nor woman msn,
is s Jagged reef connecting the ScyllS OF
single Indebtedness and the Charybdis
Of welded misery, aud lies just under
water II mSy be Sdded that the crafts
which draw most water because heavily
tTeigltGd Sre apt 10 fare the worst here.
The citizen who has even en- iu1initesi-
nal bit o. the worlds history to make
cannot give up his whole life to
courls5ip. His wife, regarding love-
making. and marriage as inter
chapgesble terms, and Aiding in them her
lifelong profession, is at first amazed,
then hurt, then augrily jealous of what
ever divides his attention with her. This
msy be clsssed as generic jealousy. 1t
msy annoy, or, II he be tempered,
smuSe her lord. 1t inevitably lowers his
opinion Of her good sense. II to s tender
heart he unites quick perceptions, he will
keep "business" out of her sight 10 tbs
best Of his ability, generally succeeding
so far SIS 10 confuse the outline Of what he
carries under his cloak, but allowing her
70 SEQ shst there is something there OF
portentous, because unknown, bulk.
Specific jealousy is s graver mistake,
especially wh9n the object is another wO-
man. Such feeling, unexpressed by so
much As look, besrs the same relation
to open exhibition of 1t SIS does the in
pCcent white egg to the fiedged hghtiRg&
Geek. The thoughtle6s wife may pisy
with her husbands jealousy of her HARM
less 1irIdtions with other men, knowing
his honor 10 be safe in her hands. The
sOsurdity of the idea that she cou d ever
love anybody else as she does him appeals
10 her sense of humor. A msn's first i'm
pulse on discovering that his lawful part
ner objects 10 his admiration Of another
woman Is one of fierce impatie1ce-s
cdamping Of the bit. At the second
check, he takes it between his
teeth. In proportion to his resentme Mt
OF interference with his liberty Of action
ne loses respect, If not affection, for the
wculd-be tyrsnt. Desrer TO him than
wife, child, or honor is the acknowledged
right Of independent sctiOn. 1t rsnks
with 'life, liberty, and the pursuit OF
happiness"
The young wlfe's best friend is the one
who cOunsels her TO be sloH-div1nely
siow-in admitting that her husband pre-
ferS another woman to herself, and should
the conviction be forced upon her, to
conceal her knowledge OF it to the death
even the death of her own heart
snd hope. Tesrs, entcesties, in
vective, but Yves ken ner hold and strength
en- her rivals Nd supplanted wife, from
the days OF Deianira until now, ever sue
cessfully "dOctored her spouse into s
return TO allegiance. Tie best thing she
can hope for is TO retain his respectful
regard, q show OF which may delude the
world into belief in his constancy, or,
at worst, in her ignorance CT his infidelS
ity. Then, should the truant come back
OF his own free will, or because disap-
pointed In lola or Cleopatra, there sre
no abattis OF "scenes," NO guIlies of al,
ienation to .entangle his feet. -
Another olunder into which inexperi-
ence trips is forgetfulness Of the simple
truth that the love which is worth win
at