The pioneer express. [volume] (Pembina, Dakota [N.D.]) 1883-1928, 1888-01-20
UNHAPPY MARRIAGES.
Reasons for Ordinary Marital Dim.
culties.

UNHAPPY MAHHIAGeS.
Reasons for Ordinary Marital Dim.
culties.
Tho other day, while going over in
tho bridge cars, heard young mar
ricd woman, q bride of u year, relating
her woes to Il much older woman, her
aunt probably. Her husband, accord
ing to her account had been neglecting
her shamefully. No matter how hard
She tried it seemed impossible to retain
his affection, and she had made up her
mind that in future she would trouble
herself very little about him. She be-
came so excited that she took the Ell.
tire car into her confidence, and from
few phrases she let fall. l do not
think the husband was entirely to
blame. yet il lie had had little more
patience aud tact matters might have
mended considerably.
For the first few months of her wed.
dcd life everything went OH very
smoothly-too smoothly, in fact. They
were both too attentive to each other
for it to last. Finally, one day she did
u little more hOuscwork than usual
housewors that she neglected. to finish
very interesting novel that some
kind friend had loaned. Tho timo
slipped away very quickly. and she
found she could not dress for dinner
and prepare the dinner too. so she neg
lected her attire for the dinner. The
DINNER was not us nice as usual, and
when the husband came home and
found his wife looking hot. unti,ly and
cross. instead of being prettily dressed
and meeting him with Il smile. he did
not resign himself to the changed order
OF things very gracefully. Things went
on from bad to worse; the dinner be-
came poorer and poorer. her toilet
more and more disordcry. and of
course, tho house llarmonizu,l with her
attire.
The provcrbial last straw took on
this guisc. In their period of great
calm and happiness the husband often
brought home n friend unexpectedly,
and the wife always made hin. welcome.
He knew the house WAS ALWAYS in good
condition. and as for tho dinner, no
matter where u man went he would
not get one so good. All h hospitablc
desires had been relinqnishc'l recently,
but All old friend of Il $. an, one who
had not visited him since he was mar
ricd. called at his Office one evening
Just rs he was going home and, Of
course. there was nothing lift but to
ask tho friend to accompany him.
There was no time TO scnu unv word
OF the coming guest, and it was with
fear and trembling lie approached his
home.
The house was in total darkncss-a
bad omen, he knew. If there is one
thing above another Il man tletcsts it is
darkness; nothing makes him so cross
or disagreeablc. After lighting up lie
went TO find his wife, and there She was
in the kitchen in the usual condition.
the dinner about half cooked and not
enough for tho extra guest. 1t was
too latc to get in any provisions. the
wife was mad. because she was not
told the friend was coming; the lus-
band angrcr still, and between them
one can imagine tho pleasant time the
friend passed. He fastened his de.
parturc as much as lie could, and after
lie left there was q scene.
The lirst serious quarrel of a man
and wife is terrible thing. In their
hcadlong anger they make accusations
that rankle i'll the mind forever. They
may become good friends again, but
lovers never. Love can not withstand
such - shock. l was considerably in
:crcsted in the rectal of her wrongs,
and l was anxious to know if The
breach had been repaired. Happening
to be introduced to her cOniiiant Il few
days later, asked her how the young
couple were getting along; size looked
very grave, and said she was afraid
their journey to the happy valley was
over, though she entertained great
hopes from 81 visit the girls mother
was going to make to her daughters s
new home.
How many wives are there in this
far City of Brooklyn that arc pursuing
the same course. Most men like wo.
men to be we'll dressed. and during the
courtship no girl would present her
self before her allianccd unless her
toilet was just rs it ought TO be. What
she would not do before marriage she
should not do after. She should be
even mere particular. for the rose
colored spcctacles OF love are apt to get
n little clearer once the marriage knot
has been tied. A woman's husband
and her children are her world, and
should always try to appear before
them at her very best.
When Il husband secs his wife be-
coming careless q few kind words and
q little of the liattcrv both sexes enjoy
may correct il bcforc it has developed
into habit. The worst of il is that
most husbands demand too much Of
their wives. They expect them to be
always smiling and agreeable. no mat
ter what humor they may be in, and
the wifes carclessness may often be
the result of the husbands scllisllncss.
-Brooktym Citizen.