St. Landry democrat. (Opelousas, La.) 1878-1894, 1888-10-20
TRUE PoLITENESS.

True politeness is founded on cons'd-
Grafton for others, yet it is SD mnch
matter of form or habit that pollttness
il sometimes shown where there IL u"
consideration. 1t is sometimes neglect
ed where there is affection and every
reason for kindly consideration. inns
in the intercourse of dear relatives made
familiar with each other by daily meet
ings there is naturally less nima'i,y
than between people who are only
thrown together by chance for f."
hours or days ut long Intervals. bu'
along with laying aside OF tormalty
some necessary features OF po!'telless are
sometimes sacrificed by relatives anu
very close friends. The youth who is
careful to salute his lady friends ana ac-
auaintances, according 10 the usagss of
good society, sometimes forgets to pay
| the same respect to his sister. not be-
| cause he ia wanting in atf-ctinnate re-
gard, but because he has grown 80 ram
| liar with her thai it seems awkward to
| him to treat her in any formal way. 1et
| when he meets her in company he sfiouiu
out of bis consideration for her, be marx
| eddy polite and attentive, says the Bal
finlore Sun. There are some famlIles
not nnticeably impolite in society, whose
| members drop all G0nventiODailties IN
thier home intercourse they scarcely
| greet each other on entering the nieaR-
fast room; make no apnlgy 1T they leave
| the table before the family meal Is con-
cluded, and generally disregard the set
rules they observe IN the presence or
strangers. If they meet each other III the
street nr i'm company careless n"l sur
fees for recognition. The near ieiaiiVe
is left to care for himself or herself,
t,i1 ft, at TAM i
the comfort of acquaintances for whom
there ia no real regard. Such conduct
should bn avoided on account OF It's re-
hex action. Although politeness neees-
| sariiy follows tOa greatextent set forms,
it should have its OF igin in affection tor
the individual. or, i'll more general
way, in consideration for others. When
the young man begins to behave at home
| with leas pDilteness than he exhibitr
abroad there is much danger that grad
nally he will ,Ose that consideration fni
his immediate relatives which he sloul'1
have and exhibit. He may begin by Ell.
,erine the family room without formal
greeting; absorbed ia his own thoughts
ar pursuits he will soou begin 10 leave
; his sister and his mother 1" look out fo'
themselves in the smaller affairs ut life
and gradually but surely he will cniti
. that will make him bad or Indifferent
snu or brother. 1t liz a small matter il
itself whether a young man finds cflal
for his sister 0r mother when they won i
he seated, anticipates their desire for
: glass of water, chez, fully helps them II
: their wraps and ntfrrs them the thnu
sand little attentions without which ani
IN his absence they could get along Yer.
we'll ny their own exerilOns. but 1t Is no
! IL small matter WHEN neglect OF such at
tentDns lessons hia consideration Il"
hem, develops his settishurss, and grad
, ually un,i.rmnes the affection tina
should unite the family. POliteness il
society between acquaiutanceso or TREND
, ia demanded 10y custom. There is M
, need to- remind readers that it sliOHld h
!, exhibited. Pniiteness at home and he
tween near relatives even between hus
+, band and wife, though of much NOR
Importance in every way, is not 80 oh
: viously necessary and it !s too often neg
: lecte,i. Gentlemen of what IL knnH IL a
J the sold school" were and are scrupulnu
in the observance of the forms of poli'
society towards their wives and "the
female relatives, and in the home circle
but the later generation seems disposed
{ to treat relatives with less formality an
respect than ia hahilually shown {
. strangers and acqnaintances. The ten
dency shunld he resisted, however, an
\ every announcement giv.s,n in the HON
s circle to an observance ~ the rules o
polite society, modified only by spnn
toneous exhibition of that greater afffrc
: ton which exists between the member
p of family group.