Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1888-12-23

France or any Otner s"o powers III
Europe, would have been instantly
cause OF war; therefore, opinions differ
so much that these answers are offered
modestly.
CERTAIN QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED.
The following letters have arrived
awaiting answers:
"Glady' writes: How should q let
ter be addressed to a lady whose husband
Is doctor of divinity, or to the wife of any
gentleman with tile, as general, colonel,
Judge? Also, viii yon tell me the correct
way to take salt from an Individual salt
cellar when an individual saltspoon IS not
furnished?'
A lady does not take the title Of her
husband in this country. Therefore the
wife Of 4 iudge is Mrs. Sutherland, care'
OF Judge Sutherland. Nor in England
has the wife even of an archbishop any
rank. 1t is ''the archbishop and Mrs.
Benson - Here it wouid be ''the bishop
and &rs. Deane - In Germany they
talk Of the ''professor in, and put the
husband 5 title before the wife 5 name,
but it is not the best custom here.
As TO the salt question, as you have an
Individual title to the salt cellar, help
yourself With rour knife. That is the use
of an individual salt cellar.
H van writes: ~ am invited by a
young lady TO attend, with her, a we'd
ding reception given by her friends, With
whom | am not acquainted. DO make
q call on The people VINO give the recep-
ton with her, or Is call on her suiii-
cieut? The cage Is repeated by an invita-
ton from young lady to attend
a dance with her NJ the house of her
7 cd
Do | call on the friends with the young
lady afterwarls?''
1t is not necessary that the young lady
goes with you, but you should call on the
hostess who has invited you. OF course
you could also call on the young lady TO
thank her for the invitation.
'fUrgeut'' writes: 81 am engaged to
marry you lg lady whom l have not yet
introduced 10 my relatives. Now is it
proper etiquette for me TO ask my relatives
to call upon her first or should l take her
TO call upon them:''
OF course your relatives call first on
the young lady, the only exception being
that you might take her to see your
mother. Rut it is generally the rule that
the relatives OF the gentleman call on the
lady.
Tom-Two ladies' have been recently
married one on October 80 AND the Othsr
November 81. The one married first.
holds receptions, the other does not.
Whose place is it to make the first call?
ltrlswer-The lady who gives the recep-
tf6ns has made the first call if she has
sent a card. \ card IS Il call, and the
lady who gives no receptions is bound TO
call on her.
hairlr q
from home some time how should you i'll
form your friends of your return?'
Answer-By sending your card or
writing ilote, or by giving tea.
SecOnd-in writing to- an old servant
how shouldSyeu addgess her and how sign
yourself? -.
This depends on the sort of old servant
that it is If ii is a dear and old valuable
nurse write: "'Dear Matilda, hope you
are getting on well through the winter.
Your grateful friend, MARY SMITH,
Never sign yourself otherwise. To
write your name, MRS. Smith, - is
vulgar. Lady Ely, writing in the queens
name TO a masseuse, wrote: Dear
Charlotte, the queen wishes you to come
to Windsor in April. l hope. your little
grandchild is well. Yours truly,
JANE ELY. -
If you are writing to man servant,
CO. Ter, or any person Of that kind,
be II, "Latimer, received your salts
IA, ~ note,' and so on, bat always
sigi it, MARY Smith never ''Mrs.
Ma Smith. -
Ii ou choose to put it in the third per-
son, on can do so but that i3 iuconve-
niently formal. Never be afraid to sign
your Christian name-make it a title Of
nobility.
Dick Eretzman asks: "'UpOn being in
troduced to young lady, through what
formula should gentleman go? Are
there any words spoken, and if so, what
are they?''
Answer-''How do you do" is the
only formula.
Second Question - "'Supposing you
meet gentleman and lady on Fifth ave-
nue.: you know the gentleman and not
the lady; is ii proper TO bow?''
OF course it is, and to raise your hat
A bow hurts nobody.
J.F. c. asks: "Should napkin be
folded after a meal if you do not intend
to remain for the next meal, as in res
taurant?''
Certainly not. You lose ali proprietor
ship in your napkin after leaving the ia
BILE. To your next question we can only
say that depends upon circumstances.
"Gertrude'' asks: "a friend is
spending few weeks with me. Since
she came / have been asked to an evening
reception, a wedding, a tea and dinner.
Can | ask for invitations for her, as my
friends do not know of her presence here
Could / with propriety take her with me
to any of these houses? If not, does
courtesy to her require me to stay at
home ana to decline all these courtesies?
How shall make the Tequest?'
BY writing note to your friends and
asking for an invitation to all these fes-