Wichita eagle., 1888-08-16
UNDESIRABLE FRIENDS.
HOW CITY FOLKS GUARD AGAINST
UNPLEASANT ACOUAlNTANcES.
Notes Of . Home Circle Converxstioa.
Taken In by q Charming Feilow-A
Nice Looking CoupIe-Ap Unsophista-
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Taken I'm by Charming Feilow-A
Nice Looking CoupIe-AD Unsophista-
| Gated viev-Notes.
Notwithstanding tie true American free
| dom OF approach snd readiness 10 accept the
advances Of Others which perhaps exists IN q
| greater measure in New York than else
| where, there are yet certain bounds Of in
timacy which may not oe passed until tiIrs
has ripe-ed acquaintance into confidential
| friendship. The man one meets daily at tho
Office, IN the store, on tie elevated railroad
| or CT the club conve-ses freely sf.a- intro
ductlon, and both gives and receives pleasure
| by daily talks, bus BE is not invited 70 wish
! the home circle, nor does he give such an in
vitatlon until long acquaintance has farr,ili-
arized each party with the circumstances Of
/ OF the Others life
| In = recent home circle conversation rs
writer asked the question: "EIow bong ard
( well should one know a person before com.
hitting himself 70 conliCisatial friendships
| The answers. Is was ~ be expected, were "A
| different Us tie natures Of those wko raads
! them Il can judge man tolerably well al
/ sight, said an impetGous New Highlander,
not yet familiar with metropolitan wavS.
III he has al homes. eye and a good face, q
not marked with Il ruianay nose, and tal.Ss
sensibly, should not be afraid 10 ask him "a
my home. He might turn OUT badly sons
time, and | might De ashamed Of havins
known him, but that cannot be helped. Ont
never knows the whole Of anybodys life h:s
tory There was an ominous pause aftei
this ELUSIVE statement II was not pleasant
60 express less generous sentiments. but the
1y.afR If
they could not agree with him.
AwFULLY TAKEN IN
"You viii fad that You cannot 60 on that
rule here said one who has lived longer in
this city II used 20 feel Just that way ard
acted accordingly. bat now l make it a ruls
never to invite an acquaintance 10 call uatI
have known him favorably at least three
months. II ! atm introduced to stranger
and Ike his appearance, | try 90 be cordial
TO him during that time Not hearing
anything against him, or seeing any
thing wrong about him, ] then give him an
invitation was swfuliy taken in once by
one OF the most charming fellows in the
world He looked like prince and talked
like an angel, but be is in Canada now aud .
bank down town mourns for him ant several
thousand dollars which he stole Since then
Il,
Three months Is not nearly long enough
said bright, chatty lady. the sister of a well
known clergyman. "Ben (her brother and [
have to meet all sorts Of people in our church
work, and We always wait a year. Most OF
our friends did so with us and they were
right, judging by our experiences One OF
the nicest and daintiest Of Little women moved
into the fiat next 70 ours soon after brother
was called here, and told him meant To call
on her. didn't go just then because / had ID
go home and take care of mother during a
sickness. One day after I had got back
happened TO pass her door while she was say
ing good by TO friend aud ] heard NOR,
Sang words in ono minute than in oil my
life before You mess that 1 decided
not to make her acquaintance"
''You were perfectly right In saying that
year Is not too long" said another lady.
picking up the conversational thread.
Wben we lived On - street we had fer
near neighbors as nice a looking couple rs
ever were seen. The man went % his hnsi-
hess every morning, and the woman WA
singing over her work all day hong. nv hus-
band thought Sboy were nice and so did I.
but We learned better before long Ore
night they had a supper party that began as
10 o'clock and ended at daybreak Every
one must have been drunk, FOR they sang a,d
shouted so that nobody else IN The ho1lso
could get wink OF sleep. After that we
heard them scolding each other every night,
and at last something exploded lka a cannon
cracker between them. Both commenced
divorce proceedings. and the wife was tucIlei
out OF the house because she couldn't pay her
rent and the husband would not
IL VERY QUEER WAY
'No doubt all Of yoa arc right from tn.
point Of view Of personal interest, - said tho
unsophisticated New Englander, who has DO.
yet realized that personal interest rules the
best Of US in a. inordinatS measure. you
have had bad luck, bat mos. people are good
aud well disposed Now, I've INST ulads
some new friends N very queer way. and
mean 10 stick by them until / find they ars
Il Oil right Last ne ~ when / WA goius
up the stairs If my boarding house in my
usual dnInbeadcd, absent minded style I
turned into the room below mtns by mis-
take. Thinking, ., course, that was In mr.
own room | was dumfoundcd at IL appear
anco, with trunks piled Up in the corner aad
ladies dresses hanging "a the open closet. 4
low, sweet female voice struck on my eru "a
stood there amazed There, baby it SAID,
Is papa and before / could turl. her arra.
were about my neck- Then sho saw VIVA.
bad happened aud accepted ny apology,
though not very gracious,y az Grst. We ara
good friends how. / am gled u say, ssd
Lnughed over Che accide;l. this morning.
A general comparison q notez WA ulsds
1t the end Of this funny Nor, The conciu-
sion reecbed was not pcvbass Tho best, tsIs
nos. people will thank it prudent oae- Al
dr,ts OF peofle live IL this great city. Not
Jnfy are thero good angaIs with good faoes,
md bad ongek with bad faccs. b1t there ara
1ko good mn and woTDan Ehoes counts-
laDces wonid convict them Of auy crime,
I'd evil Disposed wry:ches who look - II
hey belonged 20 heaven rather than
n Garth, and Who talk 80 sgceely Is II but
er wouldn't mel: in their r.uthzH Eyvry
pan and WOMAN rightly limits the Lit Of H.
innate friends % the r1bs of conceniAlity-
= al disposed, decent, ia- abiding peoyls
cry properly evoid tSo@e rho havs not earn-
lar virtues In q large city active and STIR
Ius ps0pie roess nsu sc4nz<afs2ees evsxy
lay. Thsse oush. 10 - received yieasall.ly
nd politely. bit nay II COMMA fstrrz1
% cUupeiled 70 ssSz Ggt1s tiass hes prv,>d
her dsx.xsbiity frisneA-iev ysrx
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The sevsfiss Ia seese<y.
The professional character of Yrvcch ~.