Morning journal and courier., 1888-10-10
PLEASANT WORDS.
Sensible Ladies Will be Happy ThOukl
 They are Unmarried.

They are Unmarried.
 If 1t is possible, as we tried to show in a fosmer book, to be happy though married, almost as much might be said on the possi- bilisy of single blessedness. People may sd- mire the marriage state and yet have their
 own good reasons for not entering it. Un-
 der the dying pillow of Washington Irv-
 ing there were found lock of hair and 8
 miniature.
 Who will say that man or woman ought
 to marry who treasures up such memorials,
 and thinks of all that might have been!
 Some have never found their other selves, or circumstances prevented the junction of these selves. And which is more honorable, life of loneliness or loveless marriagei There are others who have laid down their hopes of welded bliss for the sake of ac-
 complaining some good work or for the sake of father, mother, sister or brother. In such cases celibacy is an honorable and may
 be praise worthy state.
 As there are five hundred thousand more
 women than men in England, it is obviously y impossible that every woman should have 8
 husband. Are all the women who cannot get married superfuous? Certainly not.
 There are plenty of superhous women and of superhuous men also. But you will not al- ways find them among the unmarried. They
 are superfuous women who give themselves to idle pleasure and morbid fancy, and de- spise the activities of the age into which they
 are born; who are 50 lacking in principle
 that they will accept any man in marriage an octogenarian, an imbecile or rake-if
 his establishment be satisfactory; who, an
 ehored in the haven of husbands love and surrounded by the evidences of his practical thoughtfulness, becomes steeped in selfish ness and make their whole life hot pursuit of folly and fashion, interested only in the whim of the hour.
 Let the estimate of woman be changed, so 1 Ak,aE ,I,o 1Ax t,o$ hn ia ir herself. If she be worthless as woman she will be worthless as wife and mother. Let her training be such that, whether married or single she shall have character, ability te 1 stand alone, with value in herself. Then shs will enrich society, and whether wife, mother or celibate she will in no true sense of the word ever become "superfuous woman" Many girl looks on marriage as voca- tion who has never thought of the duties it involves; and think for woman to fail to make and keep home happy is to be 8 I ''failure" in truer sense than to have failed to catch husband. If some of their mars ried sisters make old maids the subject of ridicule these ''unappropriated blessings" may well ask: Is it not better to be laughed
 at for not being married than never to be able to laugh because you are marriedf An Irish magistrate on one occasion asked a
 prisoner before him if he were married.
 itNo" tsThen," replied the magistrate,
 'fit's fine thing for your wife"
 The lives of many unmarried people are
 unhappy because they have failed to find an
 object in life, but when they are more fortu-
 nate their love and powers may be drawn
 out quite as much af those of the married by
 interesting work. They are married to some
 art or utility, or instead of loving one they
 love all When this last is the case they go down into the haunts of evil, seek out the wretched, and spare neither themselves nor their money in their praiseworthy enthusi- asm for humanity. Employment is "pe- rennial fire proof joy" that will always make people happy though single.