St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1888-10-07
TO BE OR NOT TO BE.
A Minnesota POetess Advises
Girls Regarding Matrimonv

A Minnesota POetess Advises
Girls Regarding Matrimony.
Written tor the Globe.
Of all subjects which can ever arise
upon the tieeting panorama of time tn
invite social attention and claim critical
analysis. the most interesting to lovely
woman OF every age will doubtless he
this thrilling, thraIling, all-alluring.
fever-girt and fervOr-tensioned agita.
ton which unveils her heaven ar
reveals her hell. Just as the godS-Of
ciaY-decree: TO be or NOT tn ba
married. For man 49, Daufl Fsan
the great gOurmand. sold his
OIrthught Tor a square meal: and the
act Is Characteristic Of the sex tn tbis
day There is. inelegant and harsh
though the unVaTniShed fact must souDd
10 delicate feminine ears. 4 wonderful
annuity between the masculine throne
OF aHectlOn and the masculine seat of
digeStlon. Therefore. girls. if Won @ n
not tOregO the whole ESauian Dersua-
slon' beware at least. the dvSpeptic
scloii' LOT yea. L say unto yOu, his WAYS
are dark and full of bile.
Had Esau been a woman. be vvonId
doubtless have sold his birthright- 80
many d0-fOr a kiss. and hav,. foTgo++e9
All ABOUT MS hunger in the bliSSfnl-bar-
gain. But this Is an age of eoUajitI,
ana all that Is changed. The brainy
Droad-eXperienced woman of TO-DAY
challenges man in the field of Iahor
even as she challenges him in the ranks
OF aHecrOn, giving out of her Dew-wOn
independence and keener Observation
no more than he deserves. no more tnan
she receives. '-''--
10 be- or not to be-aye. that is the
question whether it's better for the
Elrl OF the period to become an old maid
OF the perlod-infiuential. self-resnect-
ing. selt-sustained and self-reliantN0
simply TO escape the opprobr1um hurled
at SpinsterhOOd. to be a chained com
planning, caTe-embittered matron OF tba
period. Marriage is a sacred calling
ana Il serious One-nOt to be LIGHTLY an
tered. 1t IS not Jest. a license or a re-
leaSe-d Knot to be lawfully tied and
laWiessiy slipped, ad libitum. ad infni-
tun. All too soon the hapless victims
VINO do not realize this before marriage
learn afterward that. in the same fur
i've VEN, with rapid veal hide the
germs OF pallld woe; then-periury.
PROSTITUTION or the divorce courts.
me Ola MAID who darkly hides away
-ANttAA q UIOhEU dream ana
bravery smiles above ii. is never onite
an unhappy atfair-she has the past to
believe IN; whereas. had she married
the lover of the past merged into the
husband of the present. the future
might have become the death of faith
despair.
Inc number of meSallianees con-
Tacted. even in this enlightened era.
are numerous enough to make the
angels of heaven draw back aghast at
mortals' wayWardness, and resign their
posts in disgust.
BY mesalliance [ do not mean the
English definition. Won know-.a union
OF patrlclan blood with plebeian bone
We. who are all patrician. left such dis
tlnctIons long ago to the cads that are
no more. With us, a mesaIIianee can
only mean mental incOmpatibilitv. Take
tlme-consider well. for it is a step Won
can never recall. and you have nothing
TO lose but everything to win by little
caution. girls.
MARTHA EILEEN HoLAHAN.