The Daily times. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1886-1889, 1888-07-29
EVERYDAY PETTINESS.
VARIOUS WAYS IN WHICH TIME
SEEMS TO BE WASTED.

preciou. Hours Lost in Discussing Hue~
t,ons Of Inferior Importancc-Litt'e
Excuse for Cosby Gabble-Callers
Who Fore Us-Ignorant People.
have been trying to enumerate al ieiS,
, payt of the ways in which lie sips lhVo III
significance: for until we know the new we
shall no. lad the remedy. Gossip unqnHs-
,ionably tIkcs n high place in the lis1 OF ihe".
tai and moral worth. By gossip 90 NOT
mean the vulgar racking Of neighbor
character or qualifications with delight az
the sport Of backbting. This sort oi Dusi,
ness | rank no higher than cock fighting ana
buU batting. Whoever engages in 1t Is
either too coarse to comprehend the values
Of tine. or is nauseatcd by each indulgence
until cured or ruined The confirmed back
bitter is so thoroughly diseased that she or he
may be ranked with phthisical patients-noe
TO bc cured or not worth the curing
But gossip is something a great deal moro
general than backbitins. 1t is the appica-
ton Of thc mind 10 questions OF positively IN
ferior inn ortance 10 the exclusion Of matters
Of permauent value OF course it Is not easy
from vo;r standpoint 10 judge of what
should 30. conycrsing 4 man i quite sure
to Ue,r questions of womans dress-per-
hans of dress altogether. But with VI II IN
wolves art, and develops the peculiarly fem
mime capacity OF approaching btnees ~ FORM
and color. Bat clearly there is a vast deal
of intellectual waste on small topics. This Is
somewhat excus1hlc at parties, when the
mind is stupciicd. often. IN Its abnormal 90
sire to please or shine. when wc are com
uellcd - converse with those whose into iec-
tual taste wo know nothing Of. Perhaps 1t
il, for this reason hat it has COM 90 bc held
as IN breeding 10 introduce ans topic OF
WEIGHT Can not society move VIII a
bicLar cradle conversation, The effect at
nre.ent !, To- send sensible people home WIN
a feeling of distress and loss, while iAc val III
are made 10 consider that vaPdity has
value
LITTLE EXCUSE TOR GAB9LE.
In or home lifo and general social rela-
tons there is far less excuse for COSBY
oabble Those who are unable to converse
evccp, on trash should be clasScd with the
ash barrel scavenger and denied the PRIV
legc of controlling any portion OF our time
Voarc PRIVILEGED by nature to exclude inc
gossip from any household familiarity.
/ With these scavengers | class the borea VINO
/ lack all valuation of the time OF other Pc"
ple. persons who do not gossip, but IN reaiity
10 rn.hinr and compel Won to do the same
An homes, person, man OF woman, should
have the DAYS apportioncd with great nicely
70 occupancy and use For the unexpected
and unforeseeable interruptions one may
allow Justly an hour a day. For probable
i,.or.riIntions another hour. To avoid tho
loss Of t,yo or three more hours requires boti
foct and decision II IS perfectly right tC
roquir, all callers to report themselves, end
~ rcul4 ,o many of them mot az hone, OF
an equivalent.
/ There j, no substantial reason Why ouI
F ca,l.r- -loald not only send in carl. bn'
should also add the object OF The call anC
s,oo.fr tie amount Of time desired This
placed on a card, viii cause the applicant
/ little time and trouble, and VIII save th'
recipient vast loss. Is all the social obiiSa
+ ton or the side of the visited | thinl, not
I believe no one has a right to ask ono min
ute Of our time without apology and eXpia
nation Nv time is my money. One hour i
worth cash value whoever takes II from
me takes from my income as well as my
/ comfort This il is not righteous 10 demand
nor right for me 10 allow. There are claims
of friendship These are compatible Will
/ work True friends VIII not rob each other
] There is compensation IN such cases
WITH IGNORANT PEOPLE.
lam pot 80 confident what reward or com
uonsation there may be for our necessary
DEALINGS with ignorant people. and as q rul'
+ th., in ladies an the help we can employ
. Tho mrrowncss of their vision makes it i'm
possib'a Tor them 70 sc, or feel with us, anC
. if ,yc cot on with them 40 AL! we must CONF
down to their Lowell and tail, from their stand
point This MAJ not be altogether injurious
for Ue are likely TO get too far away iron
the nas.,s. and lose al communicating
power More than that, the highest menia
/ life is TOO strictly brain life. /; is an ~
vaiula,c power to be able 10 drop down a
times iato a more physical and simple lie
provided orr doing 50 does nOt involve sensl
Gus degradation That danger is constantly
near, ami must be carefully guarded against
Too close familiarity with the CROSSE
sort is Overwhelmingly fatal Bat We ma
90 50 far as to be kindly and friendly, an,
help TO lit to a higher plane. But nothing
is moro difficult than honestly to secure TN
real friendship Of people morally and intel
/ lec,ual.y our interiors The largest generos
/ itv aud most kindly treatment Will not maxi
! a firm friend Of one who cannot understand
YOU. And as a rilo the ignorant can nevG
/ understand the cultured They may unler
stand the moro ignorant, but can use X
mental measure greater than that possessed
by Themselves. Mary f. Spencer in Globe
Democrat.
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