Custer chronicle. [volume] (Custer City, Black Hills, D.T. [S.D.]) 1880-1890, 1888-02-04
to their excellcnccs only make the mora
immortal his own perfidy.

TO their excellcnccs only make the more
immortal his own perfidy.
NO EXCUSE FOR MISTAKES.
But suppose should make mistake
says onlc man or woman. "and | find II
out after the engagement and before mar
riage?" My answer ia, you have no cX-
cuse for making a mistake on this subject.
There are SO many ways OF finding GU oil
about the character and preferences and
dislikes and habits Of q man or woma..
that il you have not brain enough 10
form a right judgment in regard to him
or her. you are not SO fit n candidate for
the matrimonial altar as you are for an
idiot asylum. Notice what society your
especial friend prefers, whether he is in
du,triUus or lazy, whether she is neat or
slatternly, what books arc read, what was
the style Of ancestry, noble or depraved,
and if there be n unsolvcd mystery
about the person under consideration
postpone all promise until the mystery is
solved.
Jackson's Hollow, Brooklyn, was part
OF the city not built on for many years,
and every time | crossed it ! said to my
self or to others, why is not this land bull.
on? found out afterward that the title
to the land was in controversy and NJ one
wanted to build there until that question
was decided. Afterward | understood
the title was settled and now buildings
are going up all over it. DO not build
your happiness for this world on u char
acter. masculine or feminine. that has not
a settled and undispu,ed title to honor
and truth and sobriety and kindness and
righteousness.
PAUSE BEFORE MAKING A PROMISE.
y woman. YOU have more need 10
pause before making such an important
promise than man, because if you make a
mistake it is worse for you. If "A man
blunder about marriage or 20 on to an
unfortunate marriage, he can spend his
evenings away, and can go to the club or
the Republican or Democratic hcadquart-
ers, and absorb his mind in city or state
or national elections. or smoke himself
or drink himself drunk. But there is
no place Of regular retreat for you, o
woman, and you could not take narcotics
or intoxiconts and keep your respectable
ity. Before you promise. pray and think
and study and advise. There will never
S'A'' ~ ohi q IL 'IPt,i w ihhht
when you SO much need God.
1t seems to me that the world ought to
cast out from business credits and from
good nc~ighborhoods those who boast OF
the number of hearts they have won, as
the Indian boasts Of the number Of scalps
he has taken. If man will lie to a
woman and IA woman will lie to a man
about so important a matter rs that of "A
Etatimn'a welfare thpy will ln ahnI,t a
bill Of goods and lie about finances and
lie about anything. Society today is
brim full Of g~allants and man-millincrs
those most God-forsaken OF all wretchcs
i1irts. And they 20 about drawing
rooms and the parlors of watering places,
simpcring, simpcring and bowling and
scraping and whispering, and then return
to club rooms If they hc men, or to their
social gatherings if they he women, TO
chatter and gigglc over what has been
said to them in confidence
CoNGGN PUNISHMENT
is apt TO come upon them and they get
paid in their " coin. could point
YOU to IL score whom society has let drop
very hard in return for their base traffic
in human hearts. As to such men they
walk around in their cclibacy. after their
hair is streakcd with gray, and pretend
ing they are naturally short-Sighted when
their eyes are 50 Old in sin that they need
the spcctaclcs of a soptuagcnarian. an
cycgiass about No. :, and think they are
b~ewitchivg in their stride and ovorpow-
cring in their g%lanccs, although they are
simply laughing stocks for All mankind.
And il thcs" base dealers inhuman hearts
be females they are left after awhile Sc
vcrcly alone, striving in a very despcrI-
ton OF agony Of cosmetics 10 get back to
the attr&ctivenoss they had when they
used 10 hrag how many masculine ailcC-
tons they had slaughtered. F0rsakcu Of
God and honest men and good women,
are SURF 10 be all such masculine and fc-
male %tri,lcrs in human yet immortal aiTcc-
tons. q. man, @, woman, hayingplight-
cd your troth stick TO il.
And here my idea widcns and | have
to say not only to those who have mace a
mistaken bat solemn promise of
MARRIAGE,
hut 10 those who have already at the altar
been pronounced one when they are two.
or in diversity Of tastes and likes and dis.
likes are neither one nor two, but u dozen
make the best you can of an awful mis-
take. And here let me answer letters that
come from every state of the American
union, and from across the sea, and are
coming year after wear, from men and
women who are tcr"itically allianced aud
tied together in Il hard Knot. The letters
run something like this: What ought |
to do? My husband is a %drunkard."
MY wife is a CAD about and will not stay
at home My companion is ignorant.
and hates books, and | rcyel in them.
II like music, and a piano sets my hus-
band crazy Il am fond Of social life,
and my companion is a rcclusc."
II am trying to be good, and NY
lifelong associate is very bad. What
shall d0r' My answer is, there are Ger
tain good reasons for enforcement. The
Bible recognizes them. Good society
recognizes them. But it mus be theverv
last resort, and only after all reasonable
attempts ut reclamation and adjustment
have proved a dead failure. When such
attempts fail il is generally because Of
meddiesomc outsiders, and women tell
the wrongrd wife how she ought to stand
on her rights, ana men tell the wronged
husband how he ought 10 stand on his
rights. And let husband and wife in an
unhappy marriage relation stand puncti-
lousy on their rights, and there viii be
no readjustment, and only one thing will