Daily Yellowstone journal. [volume] (Miles City, Mont.) 1882-1893, 1888-11-28
TYRANNIss OF RELATIONSHIP.
Granting Fsvors Because He Is One OF
the Family"-In Hot Water.

the Family'-ID Hot Water
No despotism equals the tyranny
coming Of relationship. Thousands
endure il, yet scarcely think Of il as
tyranny, much less an injustice.
Thousands inilict il unccnsciously and
think they are perfectly right in doirg
so.
The son, the nephew, the cousin, is
given a situation in the business,
whatever it may he, simply because he
is a relative. He does not, he dare
not push out in the world and seek a
place as a stranger and on his own
merits. He leans on the relative, the
uncle, the cousin. who has Force, en-
ergy and enterprise, and has thereby
built up a business, to give him a
situation. He may have no par
| ticular liking or interest in the
business. II is only for him
a means for drawing a salary.
He expects in such situation more
favors than would be granted a
stranger, because he is lone Of the
family" He may not ask openly for
such favors, but there are other and
quite as eilicacious ways Of asking and
Begging for favors as by word Of
mouth.
If the dependent relative in the sit
lation. through rcckleSsness, has lost
Jr squandered money; if he has in
some way put himself in hole, " he
has generally some soft hearted rela-
tive in the family 10 60 to and unload
his misery on, who in turn unloads it
on somebody else, and on il progresses
until il reaches the head, and the head,
though vexed and out of patience,
feels he cannot cast off and treat the
dependent relative as he would an en-
tire stranger, and the result is that the
pocketbook is reluctantly opened
again, since something must be done
for the relative who isin the business,
because he is q relative"
There are no end of losses great and
small, in business, coming of relatives
placed in positions for which they are
not adapted, and in which they expect
and often are granted indulgcnces not
given to one not Of kin. Were they
treated according TO their real worth
and merit they might not be retained
q week. But they are relatives. As
relatives it is difficult to discharge
them. There is more than one string
TO the bow of the dependent relative,
1t would not be TO the family credit
TO have him seen a beggar ON the
street. Or, if turned adrift because o
his incompetency, he might do some
thing dreadful TO himself. Relatives
of this sort are always threatening I,
do something dreadful to themselve
when in the hot water wherein they 81
frequently contrive TO immerse them
selves. They sometimes feel also tina
the family will see them through, an,
when their spasms Of despair an'
, ominous self threatenings are tn
strongest there is a certain under cur
: rent of thought telling them that th'
family will stand anything rather thar
! face the notoriety Of the dependent
J relatives dreadful act
That person is indeed fortunate who
through bis or her innate force, en-
ergy and variety of resources, is ablt
10 90 among entire strangers anC
prove his ability 10 do some one thing
well. possibly better than any one else
and who. through his real value, Il
placed above the necessity OF asking
for place and favor on the ground o.
relationship. - Prentice Mullord il
New York Star.