Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1888-01-19

ing themselves to fill almost all of the
stations of life. The question comes,
is this wise thing to permit? Let US
sight in our minds two homes. one in
which the lady of the house is educated
and has some of the accomplishments,
the other in which the lady has knowl-
edge only of the rudiments of educa-
ton. In the former you will find with
out fail an air of refinement. systemat-
ical arrangement of things, refined and
polite language and behavior on the
part of all. This is not only true
where there is plenty of this worlds
goods but also if the home be ever so
humble and the occupants very needy.
While in the latter you generally find
pomp, show, noise, confusion, harsh
language, and but few dainties to make
the home apleasant place to be. From
which of these homes do we look for
the rowdy, the Incorporate boy?
The mother is the first teacher of the
child. She is the counsellor of the hus-
band, and the advisor of the child.
Then ought not she be qualified to read,
way, judge and decide matters as well
rs the men? If she ought, then ought
not the faculties be educated an
sengthened so that she may reach the
correct conclusions. This can only be
done by educating the girl. Book educa-
ton is one of the necessary parts but IT is
not the only requisite. First of all the
parents must educate themselves; they
must learn to control themselves under
all circumstances. This may be quite
task but it is absolutely necessary if
they wish TO be successful. Secondly,
thew must remember that they ever
stand before their children as an ex-
ample which they will immitate TO a
very great extent. Third, they must make
themselves acquainted with as much of
the world as possible, not by travelling
over great extent but by reading,
converSing and observation. They
must make themselves agreeable
with those with whom they come
10 contact, and not live secluded, secre-
tive lives but know their neIghbors and
have many friends.
The parents, too, should cultivate
their tastes such as making their homes
attractive. The time taken TO repair
the fences, clean away the grass and
brush from the fence corners and other
way places is not lost by any means but
1t may prove to be the most proiitably
spent time in mans life. This deem
absolutely necessary in the education of
boy on farm and will cast very
strong influence upon a girl as well.
The stables and other buildings should
be kept as orderly as possible, to teach
economy, neatness and accuracy. Then
the house and its surroundings. All
people can not afford grand house,
but few are so poor that they cannot
have beautiful home. Keep the
house yard free from pigs, fowls, cattle,
horses and yelping ours. Keep the
fence in repair, procure gravel or stone
and lay out walks. Grass the remain
der OF the yard except few beds which
may be reserved for flowers. Plant
few trees which are hardy and trim
them as they grow so not to allow them
to destroy the grass by forming dense
shade. Do not begrudge or neglect the
time for this work. Beautity the home
in every possible way Make it the
most attractive place for your boys and
girls and | am sure you will be well
repaid. Put within their reach good
healthy reading and allow them time
to appreciate it. Take them with YOU
when you go away from home. Take
your boys with you when you 20 to
market. Take your girls with you
when you go shopping. Do not wait
till they get SO large that they feel
ashamed, that they are so green and
awkward. but even allow them to both
er you if you will when they are small
Do not be too strict with your children.
Do not forbid them doing things, but
reason with them, talk earnestly and do
not rule over them think you will
rarely find it necessary to say no, but
if necessary, say it, and if you do say
it stick to it.
We have always been taught that a
girl should make q confident of her
mother but how can she do this if the
mother keeps her confidence from the
girls. Make confidents of your girls.
Trust them and never allow them to
think that you do not think them able
to keep your secrets. Not only should
this be the case with the mother but it
applies to the father as well. Fathers,
make confidents of your girls and talk
and advise with them on all proper sub
jects. Do not be afraid to ask their adj
wise and when they give it, if it is not
IN accordance with your views, tell why
you do not think it good, but be very
careful not to crush their ambition nor
daunt their courage. Mothers, do not
neglect the training of your girls in the
household duties even if it is not neces-
sary it will do them no harm, and NAV
prove one of the greatest blessings to
them Ia after years. Do not think it a
bother, but be very patient and kind
with them. If they make failures, do
not laugh at them, and by all means do
not scold them. but encourage them
and show them if possible wherein the
trouble lies so that it may be avoided
in the next trial. Dress your girls
neatly and nicely but do not over dress
them. Do not teach them that dress
makes the lady but rather that the lady
makes the dress. Teach them the val
ne of money. Do NOT stint them to a
given amount every so often but let
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teach them the proper use of money.
Teach them to take care of what they
have and make the best of everything.
In all this work do not neglect the
book or school education. 1t is as
necessary as any of the others. Give
them all the advantages in this line
possible. If possible, procure must
cal instru ment and allow them instruc-
ton n this branch for it is one of the
best in use to develope their refinement
and amiabilitv. Do not exclude your
girls from society but advise them in
what society to mingle and of course,
choose the best, not always the upper
tens. as they say, but use your reason
and choose the purest, and accompany
them as often as proper and possible.
Teach them to regard you as compan-
ion in whose presence they will feel as
free as with any of their younger
friends. Let us not neglect this great
duty, but make il our chief aim to make
our girls as strong in every way as pos
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