Los Angeles daily herald., 1888-07-30

inOmaSeS, with their cnlnS IN Cno air
"Shen they married they were quite
sickening with their love, and now
they are just as horrid with theil
quarrelling. Turtle doves and cal
and dog - and then you say
love can last and does" Evidently the
poets words, "They sin who tell us love
can die," have no weight with these
Schopenhauers of sentiment. What we
call love, too, they baptize by another
name, neither so cleanly nor 80 holy
they laugh at the high-fown romanti-
cism that would object.
If we want our love to last we must be
careful how we give it, and take some
pains to find out that the lock of our
treasure-casket will hold. If we want ii
to remain with ourselves, when orc,
81 ven, we must make ourselves worthy
of it and be sure that it shall have due
nourishment from our virtues. That is
the whole gist of the matter. Setting
aside the psychological fact of Unborn in.
constancy natural to some-a fact as
incontrovertible and as irremediable as o
hump on the back or a cast in the eye
the love that lives is the love that
is worthily bestowed and nourished.
1t has nothing to do with a pretty
face or handsome figure. It is inde-
pendent of costly presents, fine dresses,
gay amusements, grand surroundings.
It is possible in palace and in a cottage /;
and even education and artificial refine
ments are more adjuncts than essentials.
Born of mutual attraction in the begin
ming, it is continued on other and
broader and deeper lines. Fitness takes
the place of that first mysterious attrac-
ton, and esteem is the golden chain
which binds the wings of love, so that
he cannot fly. That which at first was
instructive, and therefore by its nature
temporary and tentative, becomes at last
as strong as the law of gravitation which
pulls planet and keeps it steady in its
orbit, though other stars exist to which
the. loose-holding meteorites flock,
and where the eccentric comets lose
themselves. Every one must needs ad-
mire. and respect the noble and the
worthy, but who SO much as that person
who has loved in hope, before fuller
knowledge translated that hope into GER
tainty? If you live with dearly-loved
creature, and day after day, year after
year, you come ever on new traits of
generosity, thoughtfulness,
honor sincerity, what not, how can you
help loving him or her with ever increas-
ing fidelity and sincerity! People who
never disappoint your expectations-peo-
pie on whom you may rest as on rock
that shall never be moved-people who
never give way to small tempers nor lit
tie meannesses, who are under command
of their reason and governed by their
conscience-people who love others
more than they do themselves
should we not love them forever if we
love them once? 1t would be impossible
to "change the venue" once it was estab-
lished.
In married life respect is as essential
as the air we breathe and the bread we
eat. Personal liking without this respect
lasts only its allotted time. That time
may be different with different tempera-
ments, but it has it's end with all. Only
of habits and nature
can keep it ever unrolling like an end
less band-ever moving the great
of emotional life. It is
too much to expect from even
the most loving, the most united, that
there shall be no hitch anywhere: There
must be bitches. The most perfect me-
ever made owns at times to dis
Lurbances not always traceable to overt
causes. What, then, can be expected
from that more sensitive arrangement of
human life and emotions, which the
smallest touch-a look-throws out of
gear? But given mutual respect-given
The nature and the temper which desire
the right, and the difficulty is removed
as soon as it appears London Queen.