Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1888-12-02
Good Men with Bad Manners.

him; he always Looks at ne when he TALKS
to me-" Aud Kitty with laugh ard
E'pcoi-bysr was oat of the Car and gone
II was on an elevated rsjlrosd train the
other day that l thrs CO. a glimpse OF
Kitty's basis Of judgment OF s,me msseu-
line friend. Was it af!e: all so capricious
az il seemed? It ia said man often mar
riss a well.t1rned wrist, a peculiarly
pretty shade Of hsir, OF even a sbspeJ
no,e, the one attractive belonging blaNog
his fancy 10 far greater extent than ne
realizes: aud Miss KITTY could only sum
up her likiTg fer Mr. G. in the one tAct
that he lot ken at her whsn he talked to
her.
This h BIT of looking off over the shcul-
der-snywheIe hut in The listeners lace
is che that is employed by some men foT
the same reason probably 10 which most Oh
their shortcomings socially may be as
cribs5, namely, that men do not IS rule
consider serious sly and 10 detail the matter
of pleasing ,.,:.o
Tne a7erage woman is natuTa ly polite
and courteous; the average man mrca lie S
sn, even if his instincts be ell right, because
he dee, not take the pains 70 BE-. Lo2k
over the list of your male aCquslntances
and you will be surprised to fad how many
of them need ard have your to!e'a'lor.
'Don't mind A. = brusq1eness," you say o.
one; sits only his way" And OF another;
''B. is a pics allow when you get used to
him. O: of 8 third: "C.'s bark ID wore
than his bit,; he has noble hesrt," mesn-
ing that every one Of the three is ro'or-
ious!v rude in some respect and will un-
doab :edly create a most aiver e impression
uron first acquaintance; always he Will
need qusl flying The fault with such
men lies really more among their friends
than with themselves. Tney get telerA-
ton on every side and presently cone to
exact it; they @ through lie as some poo
ple 90 through a crowd, with elbows
; q Jared, giving TO those on every SIDE
dig and poke, and the crowd let's them
There ia another way of going ttrJui II
crowd. also, to follow out the comparison,
q way to icOk ahead and calculate your
chances, to slip around tbs and under the
arms of that man without trsadlrg on sn7
ones tos0, to loiter moment behind some
towering figure and watch an Oppor' unity
to pass him rather than rush on and use
him az q b.ttering ram. By the latter
method ycu get out Of the crowd just as
soop, lerhaps SEQ Ter, aud you do not leave
in your wake as does the Fquarirg elbow
man train of irritation and indignation.
The moral is Obvious.
To 20 back to Miss Kitty's judgment,
it would be OF il finite help TO young
man who really desires to secure 3 pleas
log manner and address in his bearing to-
ward women to Look upon himself with
tx cir eyes for while. He would fl id first
that he: cannot bs tO) unwilling in re
spsct toward q young woman. Avoid any
thing and everything in speech and action
that approaches tlippsnttamlllarlty. The
true woman Iesents this, as the French
say. to the til OF her rails. Some your
men are derelict in this particular who
would be surprised, angry indeed,
to be told OF thu fact. l eat 10
crowded ballroom not iorg sgo
and kept my eyes and ears open.
saw Young man pick a fan out o.
one young laiy's lap, lem over in front Of
her ard tsp a secoad young lady, by DO
means ig1ily, on the shoulder with it to
attract her attention / saw another ap-
pros CO a group of yOIpg ladies' aud, de1b-
erate!y pnsh into her hair a silver arrow
that was slightly loOsered. l am happy 70
say that the young msn was prompt y re,
buked do not think be will soon fO'ge'
tho lcok of freeing dignity with which
the young woman turned. Thanks"
sha ga d without a sn lie, Il shall net need
my maids services now"
A third yourg man, passing near LADY
and h escort, WHO were slowly crossing
rh9 floor, izei tine two long IibSois
which fo.ted from hsr gaUz, wrap and
made pretense to drive with them until
q too-uugentle touch uron the silkCn reins
apprjsed the Young woman Of what was
going 90. TIE Nervousness Of each o.
these Offenses was in proportion to the
knowledge and pretensions Of the offend
era. In village 60 liable" while they
were no more t. be justified, they might
have betn looked for. Another Ie,ic Of
village msnrere, by the way, is the babi'
so MANY mn have of taking woman's
arm. Who that hos sten woman pr0.
PEELED a'ong the street by some male
escort exactly as if she were q bath
chair has not felt Ike stcp?irg the
compile TO e1clsim empIst'cnlly, Don't"
It may be said this custom does MOI OBJ
tsin in good metropolitan society; it Goes
rot indsel wholly. Watch an audience
leaving any of our fashionable thestres,
however, and it can be s:en at or CO in
what circles it does obtain. Aninvaiid or
a great-grardfAthtr or q Broadway police
man may take young lady's arT-n1
ore else. 1t is essentially mark Of no
breeding; one Of the things like eating
with ores koife, which is done and dCne
daily by Ie,ple VITO ought to know
better, for which there IS positively nc
excuse.
Dignity is vital principle of all social
intercourse. Do rot tif9nd it. A charm
ing courtesy and cordiality IS possible
without the slightest lapse from an almost
severe forWaiity.
Do not, however, mistake stiffcess for
dignity or stupid silence FIR quiet ele
gance of manner. If some of the statues
in dress suits and monCcles who pose
about the threshold and in conspicuous
corners of drawing and ball looms could
know with what Co-t:mpt aud i1dig laticn
they ale regarded by their hostssses and
her guests cf her own sex it might really
dislodge them from their complscent pad
estsls.
go" said a girl Willingly, ifsomewhat
to her pa tner the other even
ing, as one Of TIE statues languidly Offered
to care for her bouquet while she waltzsd,
'they really also serve who only stsnd
ard wait-for supper" N. q. ".