Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1888-03-24
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CONDUCT BEKsgIF-IS TIE BALLRoox-PREsESrs
-raK GUARDIANSHIP OF PARENTS
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American girls are in a very peculiar position.
More is expected OF them than OF any girls In the
world ana they know, from the moment they are
old enough 70 reason the subject, that there Is
no position TO which they may not aspire. Shop
girls Qet them honestly call themselves by that
respectable name, not adopt the miserable vul-
garity OF SCALES iady7 have risen 10 be the wives
of governors and S'natOrS: indeed, they have
helped Their husbands 20 become governors and
senator's and 10 is said that the wife OF OF our
Presidents was q seamstress, who taught her hus-
band 20 read and write. Whether this Is little
exaggerated or not we do not pretend TO say; we
ali know that the lowliest station may be- and
often Is exchanged for the highest in our land and
that the American people are all workers, except
Ing here and there a luxurious woman. II we all
work, work Is ennooed- We are all earning money
I'm Various srvitudes called law medicine, divini-
~ literature, art, mercantile business; we are all
clerks. servants, seamstresses, nurses, TO some
body, therefore work Is no bar 70 social advance
ment
WHAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT Do
still, as social advancement requires elegance,
polish, leisure. money and good luck, We do not
all achieve the positions OF governor. Senator
or Presidents wife. The fact remains however,
that we ought to Mt ourselves for these POSSIBLE
suddenly called on by that curious master OF
monies, whom we name fate, 10 take the front
seat. We also desire 20 be women OF refinement
learn how TO adorn daily life by gentle manners
even II we only MI that "place OF honor, the
private station" The whole business OF society
and It's elegance purity and advancement Is In the
hands OF women: therefore the young lady first
entering society Is a person 10 whom Is invested
most valuable trusts She must be careful
paint her cheeks or dye her hair. She
must remember that the complexion is a
Health and exercise must send the bloom out
ward. Paint never deceiyes any body; IL is certain
- give ,ne lace neret air SO OF mar DYE
young woman who does these things soon be-
comes marked character; all men discern the
true from the false at glance. Let her beware OF
strong perfumes. They are intensely vulgar. They
all In poor taste, even In her note paper. 4
box OF oriental orTfs root the dressing table, or
amongst her linen, a healthy clean fragrance ike
VIOlets anu hottie OF German cologne is all that
a Young girI neeus after c.eanlinessJ TO make her
the sweetest thing on earth" Indeed she needs
nothing bur the latter Orrls root even can be DIS
pen-ed with Cleanliness Is the foundation OF all
elegance. all beauty, all refinement, all physical
merit and health. The subject of cold or warm
baths must De carefully approached, however. To
MIGRATING and delightful OF all the ways OF begin
ming day. A healthy girl who can take cold
hath and q horseback ride. and then eat gooc
breakfast, Is almost sure 10 be healthy and happy
CARE or BODY AND MIND.
But all cannot do these things with impu-
nifty. Many girls have lost their health with too
much physical exercise. Many are too delicate for
robust training A physician should be consulted,
and "a young girl should obey him: for a woman
needs her health. absolutely, and II is great mis-
fortune IL she Injuries IL early Wet feet draughts,
and abrupt changes from heavy TO lighter dress
should be avoided. girls mother, If she IS all
that she ought TO be- viii take OF her. but all
girls have not prudent mothers. some, alasi have
none at all American girls are very much lert TO
take care OF themselves. Let them learn what a
precious thing In body and mind they have TO take
care Of To the daughter OF rich and influential
m lrAn WI "a hQEf
all this advice may seem unnecessary. She goes
from one sheltered port TO another. She has been
the time comes for her to be launched into So
eiety she mas the important event heralded
i ior her for months. Dresses are ordered
there Is the most extensive leaving Of cards on ali
desirable acquaintances. To such a young lady
no advice Is necessary except that she should obey
her mother and be a good girl; that she should
Keep her ballroom engagements, avoid clandes-
tine meetings with young gentlemen, and all fool
loud. or talk while .aria" Is being sung at the
opera. She must watch her own manners, that
may be misunderstood: II they are cold. haughty'
and repellant she will have very little slcces LEI
her strive for that modest .jus.e n,i,ieu which is
50 charming In everything. She should be cour-
teous; let her cultivate graceful bow and SMILE
which Is nattering. There is no insincerity In
that. She should consider her voice (often In
America apt TO be loud, nasal and unpleasantl.
our climate Is against us In the matter OF voice.
hing hnsii'n a women have great advantage over US
nunciation than we have. And then as for the
great questions OF love and marriage-these they
IL IS reasonably certain that her bark viii noat
saily In 70 the comfortable port Of a happy mar.
mage and successful future.
YOUNG WOMEN WITHOUT START
But now we must contemplate the reverse of |
this picture. Our young country is full OF beaut-
full young women who have no such start In life |
They may have excellent and weu-to-do parents
who are not In society" or they may be without
parents 70 help them on. These questions Of how
when they get there; how they shall behave when
once in-all these questions OF etiquette so puz-
ling 70 u all must be comprehended answered |
and conquered by themselves alone The first adj,
vice 10 ! beginner Is this: Respect your parents
love thea nrst and always; regard your mother
ton 10 her family she has forgotten 10 be elegant
Nothing Is 50 often quoted against q girl as the
Without rhal grace no girl can nope TO be lady.
adsrespectful daughter Is the most vulgar OF peo.
PIE young girl Is motherless she must select |
ehaperon 70 take her into society. Nothing Is so
imperative as this. Yet many wel-meaning girls |
forget 1t or ignore It. and endeavor TO make ca
very emosrrassine misianes s sn}enS leads 70
southern lady, several years ago, fndlng herself |
alone IN the world, having money, deliberately |
I've she was an orphan; but she found without
Cllncuity more respectable couple glad TO
parties, 10 accompany her 10 Homburg and Osten1.
size went through several seasons OF delightful life
dOIOdu universally respected Finally she married
ohs OF ner own countrymen and could dispense |
with the father and mother. All young Americans
AT nOt SO sensible as she was. Remembering the |
needowm which young girls enjoy here they
thlhk they can enter society abroad with the |
same lmpunity- IL Is not So A young lady in |
ltay loses her position II she is ever seen walking
tne streets alone "Mademoiselle In France is not
carriage, about az In England the young N I'M.
Married girl must have a governess, a mother a !
enaperoa or a Maid with her always
AS FOR COMMON ETIQUETTE
women imbioe that with the air. They soon
learn that they should have plain card with the
miss" before the name; they learn how
70 write pretty note, how TO dress-that comes
by instinct II any are ignorant on this point LET
Us quosS inc olo French proyerb "Femme sotte Sc
cOcquail Ia cote" foolish woman Is known by
her nnery. She soop learns In England that she
can 80 nowhere alone, except on horseback and
-, aen groom must accompany her. In England
tns sose.ness goes with the young lady To walk
Ih shopping and other excursions but her functions
end before the grand dinner ball. lady must be
selected for that office. When parents vino have
not been In society wish 10 Introduce a dauYhter
.ney can with perfect proprety give a ball or
other entertainment, and invite many peoDIev nom
Ihey nave not previously visited II these people
w choorc 10 come no self-respect Is lost IL Is
.leIei! a FORM OF saying on the part OF some OF
I'm tnat their ACQUAINTANCE is large that
LuI Enoogh people will come In nine cases OUT
VI Yen, III Insre Is no moral objection 10 ths in
villng party. The greater danger "a thai the |
yOuhs lazy VIII nave too many people and some
very Objectionable ones ~ ~
NOTES or WARNING
several mOtherless young ladies who have had
10 INTRODUCE themselves In New York have done ~