Wichita eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1886-1890, 1888-08-11
WOMAN AND HOME.
WHAT HUSBANDS CAN DO TO
MAKE WIVES HAPPY.

All Sorts Of Hints for the Household, Par
Tor and Kitchen-Care Of Children's
Feet-The Belle as d Wife-Pet Dogs.
Items.
A writer talks upon the other side of q
question often discussed. She thinks those
dispositions about the duty Of the wife to
make home happy are all well in their way,
but very pertinently asks if it does not some
times occur to the writers that the husband
has aught to do with the matter of making
home happy. She thinks it takes something
more than well furnished house, abundant
wardrobe. well filed larder, yea, even than
full purse, to keep womarly heart al
ways in smiling order.
BE not ashamed to be lover like; do not
fancy it is not becoming to middle aged PEG
pie. All the world loves a lover is true
saying, and the elderly married lover is as
much admired, if not more, as the young
lover Except some occasional soured spin
ster, or unhappily married elderly people,
all hearts warm to the man who is not afraid
nor ashamed to show that he loves his wife
The girls envy her and pray heaven to send
them such one::' the young men learn a
leSSOU Vi latLllUIIcSS, ptoiltS uO4Oi
him; he wins golden opinions from all.
is your wife plain, quiet, old fashioned'
Let her but feel that she is dearest OF all the
world to you, in spite Of it all, and then a
little tender urgency and encouragement
will induce her to amend herself SO far as
she can. She does not wish you to call her
beautiful if she is not, but only to know her
self as dear to you as if she were, inasmuch
as you chose her rather than any more beau
tiful woman at first.
SIS she growing elderly, diseased, de-
formed, unfortunate in any wayi All, re-
member that she gave you her best years,
her best strength; that in loving service to
you health and youth have been lost, and
love her all the more. 1t is moro for yonr
sake than her own that she nlourns over
fading face and whitening hair and hating
STEP She sees changes in you, no doubt, but
loves you none the less for the thinning hair
the burrows on your brow, the changes in
face and form from your sturdy youth; but
you arc only the dearer to her. In pity,
man, in honor, in all manly nobility, give
her back love for love, truth for truth.
"You are all in all to her. If you fail her
nothing can make good the loss. Your adj
miration, your appreciation, are worth more
to her than all the world If she had every
other good gift, and the love of all other
hearts, and the praises of all nations, it
would be void without your affection. Is it
not worth wnile to appreciate such love as
this and retain it IS it not prize to be cher
ished?
Then strive always to be patient, be SYM
pathetic. Sometimes children may have
been disobedient and trying; sometimes the
big boy, in the plenitude of the wisdom of
archaeological, has secuted her advice
contemptuously; sometimes the grown girl
has sneered at mothers notions Teen, if
you have it in you to comfort and cheer her,
to make her feel that she is indeed dear and
honored and wise and precious to you, then
are you well worthy Of just such a crown of
honor as her heart crowns you with Then
if you can show her that she is as dear to
you as ever, you have done q deed that God
will smile upon
'Many a man says: My wife ought to
know / love her without my talking about
it. have proved that did, not only by my
choice itself, but by years of careful provid-
ing and faithful adherence
Every true. but do not fear to say go Man
cannot live by bread alone, nor woman
either. In no relation Of life is it satisfied
without definite tokens of appreciation You
comfort your minister's heart with thanks
for helpful sermon; you give friend q
warm hand clasp and expressions of esteem;
you delight the heart of your little child
with fond embraces and sweet names; nay,
you call your dog good fellow and pat his
bead; you pet your horse, and these, too,
aDDreciato kind words Do as much at least
for your wife Is you did for tho friend o.
servant.
"And by all that is true or noble or good,
adjure you, suffer no outsider to comment
upon her peculiarities, to depreciate or slight
her because Of them by look or word. Who
SO does disrespect of her does double dishonor
to you. Allow no criticism of her; you chose
once; stand by your choice. Even If it were
mistaken, then pride would bid you let no
one know it"-Arthurs Magazine