Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1888-12-08

anu guBgief III Is very easy 70 get eltner al
amateur or professional prestidigitateur tc
annuse the children, and that. with the Christ
mas tree, Is quite enough. Somebody can play
on the piano and let them dance.
FOR WEDDING.
Mabel Glover" writes: DEAR STAR-Wil
you answer a few questions about weddings
Is 1t perfectly proper for the bridegroom tt
wear evening dress, at a church or house we'd
ding, as late as o'clock. And what should
the brides father wear? Also, how should the
engraved invitations be sent in the same cit,
Wnere the wedding is to take place? Wher
there are large number, should they be de-
livered by hand? If so, by whom"
II your wedding takes place SO late as
O'Clock, and you intend having an evening re-
ceptlon, perhaps the gentlemen should be in
evening dress. But the rule is: mo evening
Dress before dinner at o'clock"
As for the invitations, have them delivered
Dy messenger boys. or by some person who
takes charge of such things.
GLADYS" asks: DEAR STAR: Failing to
nnd explicit directions in any book in regard
to wedding calls i wish to ask if the bride
must return personally all her calls, even those
which are simply represented by cards in en-
velope. On this point can gain no informa-
tion, but my judgment is that nothing further
Is necessary. The parties receiving wedding
cards, having acknowledged the pollteness by
returning their own cards, would seem to enc
the matter. 1 would like, however, before act
ing on my own judgment, to feel assured thai
am doing right"
1t is not obligatory on bride to return he1
wedding calls, except by card. Her card Is her
self; therefore, cards do, as she says, lend the
matter" She will. Of course, if she wishes, go
to see people, and later on entertain them; but
1t is not essential that she wearies herself by
making 200 or 800 calls.
Miss ''Thomasina Thompson" writes: I'm Wis
iting New York Il am in Chicago should / sent
my card to all my gentleman friends asking
them to call on me at the Fifth Avenue hotel,
or should my mother do that? What formula
should be on the card? Shall l mention the
date of my arrival and my departure?"
Mrs. Thompson mot Miss had better SEND
her card, If she wishes these gentlemen to call
and 1t is not necessary to do more than tc
write the address on the card.
MISS AND MADAM,
"Jonn A. Boulanger" writes: How is a maj
to address a maiden lady in formal way? Can
he say, Miss Hannah Robinson, madam fol
she is not madam. II he say Dear Miss
Hannah she will consider it too familiar. A
lady found fault with me once because called
her madam. although she was forty-eight.
want to write formal official letter to lady o.
sixty, who is unmarried, and l will be hanged
If know how to do it."
u. A.. b is right in saying "Miss HANNAH
|. Robinson madam" In England single woman
is madam after fifty, 30 says Hannah Moore. Il
phrase, Dear lady," No one will be offended
at that.
Sarah Liddens'' asks for information as tc
1.-The invitations to a tin wedding, if they should
be on tin and if all the presents must be tin
No. Address the invitations on note paper
and give as little tin as possible.
Mary Brown writes: DEAR STAR-In ac
knowledging wedding gift from Mr.. and Mrs
smith, to whom do l address my note Of
thanks?
do take the left or right arm of my father
ON going to the altar?
In what order should the relatives be brought
up after the marriage for congratulations?
when should the clergyman congratulate?
In sending out invitations to the wedding tC
friends engaged to be married is it necessary
to also invite the fancee if am not acquainted
with her and she does not live in the same
city?''
We will answer the last first. Yes; it would
be respectful to send an invitation to your
friends intended bride.
Second-The clergyman congratulates the
young pair at the altar
Third-The mother first, the brothers. sis
tiers and relatives next. The father having
given his daughter away. is supposed to have
congratulated her then and there. but there il
no law as to this. A bride takes her fathers
right arm, and he steps to her left, behind her
at the altar.
In acknowledging wedding-gift from Mr.
and Mrs. Anybody, write to Mr. and Mrs. ANY,
body. bride should always write a per-
sonal note, as: Dear Mr.. and Mrs. Brown:-I
received your charming gift of pair of mir
rors with much gratitude. 1t was very grace
full OF you, and will ever remain to remind me, -
&c.
These things naturally occur to most people.
1t is only that the questions are asked that
We are privileged to answer them to the best
OF our ability. MRS. JOHN SHERWOOD.