Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1888-12-08

Mrs. Sherwood will each week answer ten or
quette and manners, selecting such as suggest
points of the most general interest to readers
of The STAR.
The following letters have arrived awaiting
answers:
Belle Monell' writes: SIS it proper to put
p. P. c. on lady's calling card when she is
making her farewell calls, Just before leaving
city which has been her home, when she does
not intend returning to that city, or is PFC
put on her card when she is only temporarily
leaving her city home for a country residence
or a visit to Europe?'
P. p. c. is especially used when a lady is
leaving for length of time. or. as YOU say,
when she Is leaving city which has been her
home. A lady rarely sends out p p c. cards
for the summer, or for a short trip to Europe
A lady visiting Washington from Chicago could
put p. p. c. on her cards, if she had not time
to pay all her last visits. if she were leaving
Chicago or Washington for residence elsewhere
sponded TO? Should any notice be taken of an
nouncement cards.
No. James. You need not notice either ex-
cepting by calling on the hostess and the bride.
Your card is all that is necessary.
Mrs. Mincing" asks several questions:
First-''Is ii proper for house servants to
wear caps and aprons, and who furnishes
them?''
1t is both proper and neat The lady Of the
house furnishes them and they remain her
property when the servant leaves.
Second Have finger bowls gone out Of
fashion,
No. They never go out Of fashion. They
are as necessary as knives and forks.
Third-'Would six finger bowls be enough
for party Of twelve or fourteen people?'
No, Mrs. Mincing, finger bowl for each
guest Is as necessary as plate.
HIGH TEA.
Caroline Sutherland asks: 'what is a high
tea and how did the name originator
high tea is a meal combining dinner and
supper, and is given generally on Sunday even
lngs IN city houses. 1t Is made up Of cold
dishes. like ham. tongue, chicken, salads, and
with the accompaniment Of hot biscuits iel-
lies. sweetmeats and SO on. tea, coffee and
chocolate. 1t is rather a southern institution,
and While remarkably good. is perhaps the
greatest promoter Of indigestion imaginable.
Ii Is called high tea because il is supposed 10
promote hilarity
Pilgrims Progress asks: ''If a gentleman
| asks lady II he may call on her and she An.
swers Yes should he call within a week. and
should he call second time, or even a third
II she Is not at home? And il she il at home
and receives him cordially, how many times
may he call?''
We sympathize with this pilgrim" and adj.
wise him to call twice, and then to give it up
at home and treats him kindly he NAV cali
| again, but not often enough to make himself !
\ bore. II she does not treat him cordiallv ve
advise him not to 60 again.
/ What care how fair she be-
II she be not kind 10 me."
A QUESTION OF THE HEART
Henrietta Irving asks a more troublesom.
question. She says: For nearly q year hav,
been corresponding with gentleman whom
have never seen. He is the friend Of INV uncle
| who wishes me to marry him. He Saws b,
| loves me. and he has seen me often. Now.
am in love with another young man, whom
| have seen. Sometimes think I love the latte,
too much to wait for the other. What would
you advise me to do? Wait for the first (wh,
is the best MATCH or encourage the lasseri
| Which is etiquette?'
Alas. Henrietta, this is a case where etiouett,
fails. but We should advise you not to encour
age the one whom you have not seen
Emma Spasm:" should thank youn,
man who escorts me home from the theater?
Decidedly.
send your card to the lady by Q servant, o
simply give your name and leave the card OF
the stand before going awayr'
III you are calling on lady for the first tim
| and are not known to her, send in your card
but 1t is not necessary to do that after you d
know her. Ii you ask her to tea leave you
card on the table in the hall. After that simpl
send up your name.
Young Mother asks: II wish to give
Christmas party to q number of children who's
parents l do not know. Now how should
write the invitations? What shall do 10
them when they conner MY object 10 to anus
my own little daughter Of eight years old"
we should advise prettily engraved card
Mrs. foungmother at home, Christmas day, 9
O'Clock Will be happy to see the Misses an
Master Tilinghast Christmas tree, dancins