Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1888-03-11
WOMEN COMPANIONS.
MEN WILL BE THEIR LOVERS But NOT
THEIR FRIENDS.
Genuine ConradeShip Between the Sexes IS E2-
remslg Rare-HgsbaEis and Bachelors
The True Man sid Woman.
j. Il R.o,ene IN Cosm1.o,tan.

time, together IS il il mans Tranquil
hOura, in his perfect sanity, that woman
loses her chief Gllurement, l. she least
loved while ioveliest ? Do the senses over
ride mind aud spirit, and DO these pail
when those arr sat SIZED?
1t is notorious that boys, who appear
barharous because natural, actively dis
like girls, and cannot be cOaxed into their
company. They chsrish no more respect
than they hold affection or them. Al
though they consider them totally inferior,
they ieel no pity for them, merely undis-
gu,scd contempt.
\. tiny creature Of 1 or ,, il called 2 gil.
boy, will flush with anger and strike hia
de:amcr. II IS a mortal aAront the mas.
culine babyhood ~resents. 70 see a
girl sometimes trying "a win the good
will ii a group of lali-CroWn
boys, TO any one of whom she is
a queen, is positively touching. She may
appeal to them for the poor privilege Of
sharing their society with an tlCquence
and tenderness that might move n hyenl;
but they will drive her rudely away with
q brutality that marks their age and sex.
Most men fuTtivelY laugh ard grid, At
those who are addicted to feminine society ,
who find solid satisfaction in il; who are
courageous enough 10 ay0w their apprecil-
ton OF its benefits. They are wont to speak
of them in the GisdaiHful way that urchins
speak of girl .boys; to deride them as effsm-
mate, weak minded, DANGERS after Detti-
c0ats, Mis7-NaIcyish. One of their Sc
ycrest epithets, applied to husbands, is
henpectcd, which is easily said, and more
easily believed. Men who are not strong
have a terror of The adjective, aud actually
cover before it.. They are often so afraid
Of mcIiling the reproach that they 90 to
the opposite extreme and become brutal,
which probably impresseI them az far
manlier. Dread Of yidiculc has frequently
prevented amiab!e but weak men from
establishing CompanlOrship with their
wives, who we're really ccmpaniopab!e.
Far more husbands than bachelors are
members of clubs, and those are. the regu-
lar frequcnter7. Some Of them, having
lovely wives and delightful homes, are to
be seen nightly in the reading rooms, card
rOOmF, bar-rOoms, giving the impression
that they are inhaTmoniously welded.
Bat they are not. They are representa-
tive, they fail, or think they fail TO lind
COmpauiOuship within their own walls, and
look for ii ia what is ordinarily to a cul-
tur5d, refined mind the dullesi, drcaIicst
place ia civilization. The fact that they
take refuge in a club denotes how deeply
bored they nust he at hoa.o, ard kat
miserable company they must be to them
selves.
Sentimental bachelors, seeing them there,
say: ''Itow can they prefer this to that"
81 should be so different in the same cir
cumstances. " But, were the situation re
versed, they would show the same strange
taste. They might he fond, they might
become namored Of the neglected wifi;
but reaction would occHr in due time, and
render Companionship impossible. Men
clrnot understand why il should be 90 in
the ease OF others, bat it is clear enough
in their own.
There would seem to be some iuslifca-
tiou for the biting phrases current at the
cuba.
'Aftgr four or five years a mans wife il
the dullPst company 10 the wOlli
ITO he in love with a woman IL the
nearest approach to happiness, end TO be-
out Of love with her whom you have once
loved Is supreme misery
Any Oma may be interesting, so long
BIS she IL not ones wife
THE fascinating woman always belongs
to another man. II you get her, her las-
c~ination takes wings
"A man Of the void il At home every
whore except IN his own house.
The honeymoon is thus called because
it is so sweet compared with the bitter
months that follow
Matrimonial happiness is always to be
found in the mind Of the man who has not
married"
There are two perfect women-one il
dead; the other has not been discovered. "
"Ait the comforts OF & home exhaust
%ircny."
"a well regulated club is the acme of
human comfort"
"Men enjoy clubs exceedingly because
women are not admissible
That il a false love which does not in.
Guide friendship: but is the love winch the
mass of men ieel and the mass of women
inspire.
True love, love Of the highest kind, con
tains the clements Of friendship. infused
with scxualityi friendship i s~ev!es-; there.
fore ser.ne and stable, ard C~umWjehcnd4
the comforts of love without its passion.
Many men are Incapable Of friendship; br.
the lowest and the htsest thiak Themselves
capable Of love.
Compauionship ia, above all, voluntary,
uurcstrained, ObeyI2g The lay Of tctnperI-
ment and the lCrvOT Of individuality.
Men, in their relations to women, are
conventional, Grtful, anxious 10 create an
impression; women, in dealing with men,
sacrifice everything in their effort 20 he
agreeable, hide nature and perveGt truth
with this intent. There j. no chance Tor
cOmpanionship between them, it cannot
breathe in 20 artificial Al atmosphere.
Men alter their language tosuit women.
You get no more idea Of their sentiments
OF actions from what they say 70 women
than you 10 Of the real woman from what
she says to men. When a Woman suddenly
appears in q company Of men they change
their speech completely and conceal their
nature in prescribed forms and hollow on
5GyaCces. II the Foundation Cf compa5-
ioHship conld be laid in such society the
suPtrstructuTe could not be reared; the CD
portunity would be lacking and the COM
meGCement would remain a. a sign If fail
ure-as a warning to proceed no further.
As has been said, men and women have
been and are companions; but they are I
the elect. Still, they offer examples, and
disclose what may be done. In our own
country women are freer, more respected,
more honored, more nearly mems part.
ners, than in a0y ether. This is the snrest
evidence of our high civilization. Com
partnership will increase here as the sexes
advance, and, in the great plan Of devel-
! Opment, grow a~ndrogynous.
Neither knows what il missed by want
of companionship one with the other. The
true has learned its ]preciousnoss
from the true man; and when she says: IL
love and am loved she feels the sense OF
companiOnship forevermore.
DID IL Himself.
Washington Critic.
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