The west Tennessee star. (Bolivar, Tenn.) 1888-1888, 1888-06-08
AIM TO BE polite.
A Lecture for Boys and Girls as Well

A Lecture for Boys and Girls as Well as
Mothers.
PO1iteness consists in doing the kind
est thing in the pleasantest possible
manner. A selfish person is never
truly polite, because he does not feel
an interest in others, and therefore
is not always able TO assume a gra-
ciOus manner. A person who is never
willing to oblige others at home is as
much of a loss to know how to be po-
lite abroad as he would be if compelled
to speak a language unknown to him.
Politeness. like charity, begins in the
home circle. But it should never end
there. Boys should early be taught
to lift their hats and bow whenever
they meet a lady. Our grandfathers
were taught to bow, and our grand
mothers to courtesy" to every one
they met on their way to and from
school. It was an admirable social
custom, and ought not to have been
allowed to fall into disuse. Boys should
be taught at home to remove their
hats at the door, to clean their feet
on the dOor-mat outside, to walk quiz
city and gracefully across the room,
to sit and stand erect, to speak pleas
antly and frankly. to reply promptly,
truthfully and respectfully when adj
dressed, to keep their hair and clothing
neatly brushed, to consider well-pol-
ished shoes, neat clothes and clean
hands and face just as essential
when no one but the family is
present as when there is company.
| They should be permitted to help en-
l nd
| themselves useful whenever their help
is needed. A boy who is unselfsh and
handy enough to replenish the fire,
sweep up the hearth, bring in wood
and water, or in any way add to the
comfort and convenience of his near
est relatives, without being reminded
of these little duties, is a treasure to
his mother, and has benefited himself
greatly by laying a good foundation
for the performance of all those little
attentions which society exacts from
young men. Every intelligent boy
ought to know that it is against all
rules of good breeding to use prOfane
or vulgar language; to Toll or lounge on
sofas OF chairs in the presence of ladies;
to sit with the feet on a table or back
of another chair; to whistle loudly in
doors; to speak rudely or harshly to those
! older than himself or to any one; to
sit while ladies are standing; to occupy
the easiest chair in the room when there
are others present entitled to it by age,
| infirmity or courtesy; to order friend
or relative as though he were SER
want; to slam doors; to assume a swag-
gering air Of superiority; to quarrel
with any one; or to treat visitors with
ill-bred indifference or contempt
Little girls who wish to be agreeable
must remember that besides observing
all the rules laid down for their BROTH
ers. it is ill-bred to act in sullen or
churlish manner, to say spiteful things,
to ridicule the aged or deformed, to
talk and laugh so loudly as to attract
notice in public. to be petulant, to find
fault with gift or to complain about
the weather or any thing else which is
unavoidable.
Girls, try always to be natural, to
forget self, to be gracious toward every
one, 70 cultivate an amiable disposition,
and to add to the happiness of others.
| If possible, learn to walk in graceful
manner without mincing or taking
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hands, and do not sit in company with
your arms tightly folded as though
they were not intended for use, Con-
versation requires gestures at times.
If asked to sing or play, comply ut
once, if it is in your power to do so.
Be scrupulOusly neat in dress. and see
that your room is always in order.
Avoid all such disagreeable habits as
picking the nose, ears. or teeth
| in company, biting or trim
ming the nails, yawning and APP
pearing bored when any one, particu-
larly an old person, is speaking. Never
| interrupt any one because he is telling
you tiresome story. You can bear
the inflictiOn much better than he can
| endure the wound his vanity will re-
ceive. Always acknowledge an ac-
quaintance, if worthy of your respect,
no matter where he is, or however
shabby his clothes may be- The young
girl or boy who has a polite bow, =
smile and a pleasant word for every
one will be blessed with many friends.
Above all, learn TO be true-hearted and
sincere.
/ A silly, fickled minded person. with
no principles or opinions worth de-
tending or retaining, is, at best a
worthless member of society, and one
who will never have much influence
for good.
VIII not our young readers strive TO
attain the courtesy that begins at the
hearts core and not at the lipsP-
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