The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1888-08-04

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and dispirited by his wandering,
capricious disposition. He is fond
of home-at least he says so-but he
is tonder of other places, and spends
more time in them. Many husband
eats and sleeps at home, but goes
elsewhere for changes and recreation;
and he is considered good husband,
too. He may think his wife absorbed
in domestic affairs, interested in
minor matters that do not concern
him, incapable of entertaining his
lordship. If it be SO, it is generally
his own fault; but, in most cases, his
thought has no basis, and is masked
pretext for self indulgence. Were his
wife whatever he assumes she is not,
he would find excuses for going out
regularly. She might be companion
able, and yet he would not seek her
companionship, which depends, at
least, on the dual number. He often
seeks it in queer localities and with
queer people, and seems conscious
of it, because he is inclined to say
that monotony is such a burden that
it should be lightened by contrast.
Man is, it must be acknowledged,
Still semi 'barOarous, as is shown by
some of his tastes and not few of
his pleasures. Woman, VINO is civil
lized, and, in the main, enlightened,
feels this savagery III him without
comprehending it, and marvels at its
existence. 1t constantly wounds and
shocks her; but the feeling she re-
serves, having learned that self-re-
preston is the price she must pay
for the maintenance of peace. If man
should ever become as civilized as
she, companionship between them
may cease to be uncommon. But,
even then, she will be So much his
superior morally that he will be
tempted to walk on lower levels, and
will relapse into atavism. AS now
constituted, there are leisure hours
in every day when he shuns the so
ciety of his wife and ch ldren and
the rehnements of home for rough
contact with the outer world and
rude pastimes of bis choosing. Part
of this he may call business, without
which he would be wretched, and
part belongs to the side he sedu-
lously hides from the woman he es-
teens. If strictly domestic, he is
prone to withdraw into himself; he
seldom makes his wife the partner of
his occupations, and frequently
spends his evenings browsing on the
sofa. He may appear devoted to hi,
wife without trying to form her, or
regarding her in any way as his COM
panion.
In truth, nineteen out of twenty
husbands never dream of camradery
with their consorts' 1t comes not,
as they believe, within the boundary
Of their duty or disposition. As
lovers, they imagine that they can
never bear separation from their
sweethearts; but, after the honey
moon, the heydav of passion calmed,
their notion of eternity becomes
greatly limited. They contrive to
pass evenings of every week from
their dovecote, without visible traces
of suffering or sorrow in their mein.
They grow prolific of excuses for
self exile from the paradise they had
SO fondly pictured. Ere the first
year of their marriage has ended they
are rarely seen in each others COM
pany, save on formal occasions, and
the predicted close companionship
is mournfully unfufilled. Men ex
plain the inconsistency of their ante
cornubial and post-connubial days
by asser,i ing that those represented
emotional intoxication, and that these
represent the lasting return to So
briefly, the prevalence OF reason, and
common sense. Reason and common
sense, forsooth! How these terms
are abused that we may fit them to
our weakness and prejudice, in hope
to give them the semblance of
strength and wisdoml
1t would seem sometimes as if men
avoided women, when not fervidlv
in love with them. 1t is only kin
died imagination and tumultuous
blood that render tn m attract, e,
and hold the two, for time. to-
gether? Is it in mans tranquil hours,
in his perfect sanity, that women
loses her chief allurement? Is she
least loved while loveliest? Do the
senses override mind and spirit, ard
do these pail when those are satisfied?
1t is notorious that boys. who appear
barbarous because natural, actively
dislike girls, and can not be coaxed
into their company. They cherish
no more respect than they hold affec-
ton for them. Although they
consider them totally inferior, they
Ieel no pity tor them, merely
undisguised contempt. A tiny
creature of four or five, if called
a girl-boy, will flush with anger
and strike his defamer. 1t is mortal
atfront that masculine babyhood re-
sents. To see girl sometimes striv-
ing to win the goodwill OF group Of
halt-grown boys, to any one OF whom
she is a queen, is positively touching.
She may appeal to them TOR the poor
privilege OF sharing their society
with an eloquence ana tenderness
that might move hyena; but they