Rock Island daily Argus. (Rock Island, Ill.) 1886-1893, 1888-11-01
WHAT WE GIRLS LIKE.
THE TRIPLES OF LIFE WHICH IN
FluENCE OUR CHOICE.

The Man Who Lacks the Innate Sense of |
the Fitness and Unftness of Things-A |
woman's Observation-Disclosures Speech. |
Clothes-Beauty.
was lying in my hammock the other day |
by the way, have it swung across Win
lowed corner of my room these cool autumn
like days-lying there and thinking what the
things were which women did specially like in
men-of course | am writing now of nice
men and nice wonderland | came TO the CON
cusion that the things which particularly
influence us in our choice among men were
the little things
Yes, the little things, the trifies. A man
may be an Apollo for beauty, but if he says
mo, ma'am" and yes, ma'amn to you when
he should say Eyes" and no. adding your
name when necessary, you cannot thoroughly
appropriate him, and he will, for all his per-
lection OF feature CRATE upon your keen
sense of well-bredness much as the squeak of
some organs does when it mingles with the
music. And though the man who wears
diamond studs and pins and diamond ring
flashing on his little finger may be possessed
of all the virtues under heaven, yet do these
glaring vulgar brilliancy 1t isn't of course,
the jewels themselves, intrinscally, any
more than it is the mean" as a simple part
of speech. 1t is the lack of that innate sense
| of the fitness and unfitnesS OF things-that
| dawn of discrimination, | would modestly
| christen (which all the sterling qualities
| and all the heroic characteristics taken to-
| gether will never outweigh in the scale of
truly refined woman's fancy.
THE MAN WHO WINS
All, mott is the man who fails not as to
little things who wins every time The man
| who knows by instinct which side of the
| railway car or which end of the boat is the
shady one, instead of gazing helplessly IN
| and down to find out, whilst the other man
secures the desirable seats 1t is the man
who mentally fixes the right station to get
off at, and consequently makes no wild
plungings to retrace as he discov-
ers his mistake; the man who knows the cor
rect entrance at theatre and the portion of
the house in which his seats are located; the
man who can put on your wrap without
turning it inside cut few times first, who
can get into his own topcoat minus the Skin
mish that causes him TO appear as ii wres-
lilu5 WIN spiilt iillStIEibit tIttlN-iL Is IllS
man, master of the little things of life-who
wins.
The amount of it all is that woman must
adm re before she can love. Inpornt of fact,
a genuine admiration on either side NAV
oftener be trusted as an insurance against an
ultimate divorce court than many and many
of the mad "fallings in love" of which we
hear too much, and which are not inapt to
guarantee as reckless failing OUT again
If woman feels insecure about q MANS
| not quite positive whether he will do this,
or that, quite correctly; whether he will
be dressed as BELTS the occasion, or if he will
be awkward at a moment when savoir faire
seems almost a prime factor in being at all
then be sure she is no more sure of her own
heart, her own feelings, than she is of his
possible behavior. 1t is weak Of US, | will
admit, but it is, and the more womanly pure
sweet and charming the woman, the more
certainly is this desire to admire. to be sure
of the man she gives herself to. necessity Of
her nature and keynote to her disposition
and requirements
FAMILIARITY OF SPEECH
Another little thing that is intolerahle il
some men, otherwise nice enough, and that il
the moment you permit them to know vol
at all well, that moment they develop thai
horrible trait of an aptitude for familiar in
timacy of speech which no relation in lif.
under heaven condones, or can long stanC
under the pressure Of Why, because two PEG
pie become engaged to each other, or ar
married to each other, they should a
once drop the little attentions, the little 10
Licensees, the little respects for each other
aYl ind, .3Y,e1i e.
could comprehend! For my part / Shout,
think that these relations of life, in order {,
prevent them degenerating, as they too ofteI
do, into the mere conventionalitles Of an &C
cepted code of society and morals, REQUIRE,
the most gentle Difference to just these littl
| things that | lave ventured to enumerate
The closer the relations the more necessar,
the glamour, If you will 10 call i; so, of rrer
well bredneSs Qt is nothing else, to sustain
them in their supremacy of mutual afTec
| ton and reverence.
There is another point upon which nus
, | touch in speaking of what We like in men
1t is simply, briefly, this-clothes, l know
that some of You VIII scout at the mere idea
but that doesn't alter the case. know am
am in position TO speak. There isn't on
bit Of use III denying it; not one particle
| Girls Ike TO see a man, and be seen with one
too, who is smartly gotten up, whose gar
ments have the correct cut and air, Just a
| much as men like To see and be seen with
young woman who Is attlrcd in a charming
well fitting gown, pretty gloves, boots, hat
1t is human, girl nature, just precisely as
is human, man nature.
And as to beauty, Trust me, all you ugl
fellows, we don't care that about it in you
faces We are content to monop3l1ze tina
ourselves. If You sire only manly and BRAY
!, and tender and nice we are prepared to ador
: you-'Mss Marigoldn in Pittsburg Bulletin