The Atlanta constitution. [volume] (Atlanta, Ga.) 1885-19??, 1888-10-09

No black robes OF darkness and mourning
Should be worn for spirit like thee
Only solemn thanksgiving and blessing
That you from earth's sorrows are free.
For Heads "That the Cap Fits"
Nor many Sundays ago our minister an
nounced that on the next Sabbath he would
preach on the subject of "Luke-warmness."
When the time arrived it was q miserable
rainy day. From early morn the rain poured
In torrents but as usual few of the faithful
assembled for the morning service, but so few,
that the minister concluded not to give them
the sermon prepared, but short talk instead
Some Of the congregation felt disappointed
and thought after coming through wind and
rain they were entitled to the sermon. After
tbe service one Of the members asked him why
he did not preach on the subject announced,
and in rather complaining way said: eve
thought we were entitled to it for our trouble
In coming The reply was II did not preach
Che sermon for the reason that those l wished
most particularly to hear it were absent; there
were certainly no luke-warm members among
my hearers this morning." This answer more
than satisfied the complainers. I was re-
minded of this little incident when lady said
to me not long since: "Why don't you write
something that would do the husbands good;
they need a rap now and then. You show the
wives their faults and tell them how to correct
them, why not the men?"
Like the minister, I cannot get at them;
they don't read what woman writes; most
men would think it waste of time, and the
few that do, are the clever, appreciative sort
that don't need scolding.
There are some men that often wish could
'see themselves as others see them % cross.
impatient and disagreeable at home, but very
different outside; nothing that is done by tho
patient, Woodworking wife is ever done exactly
right
/ overheard a conversation between two
ladies. One had only been married eleven
months; the other five years, The subject of
the conversation was dress the younger lady
had worn the year before during the courtship.
She was regreting that it looked too shabby to
wear, and said how much her husband had
admired her in it as girl; she concluded by
saying: ''I do wish 1 could get another dress
that he would like me in as we'll" The other
lady quietly remarked: "Wen, you will never
do it. No matter how much woman tries to
please her husband after marriage although
he may admire her), she never looks to him
Just the same as she did before marriage"
/ could but wonder if this was true, if as we
fear it is in many cases, why is it? Usually
we prize most what is hardest to obtain, but it
seems that a man as soon as he becomes pos
SCISSOR Oh inc NUtHdu lllab E0 IsS leIJ no effort
or attention undono to win, he begins to leave
off the little attentions that makes the hap
piness of woman's life. When first married
there is no place so attractive as home; he
finds the evenings so pleasant spent with his
young wife, but how long does this continue?
With many home is always attractive, but
alas! the larger number stay away and find
their pleasures OUTSIDE the home circle. Whose
falt is it? Not the woman's, for she waits and
watches and makes every sacrifice to keep her
husband at her side. Women are almost fools
In their love and devotion to their husbands
Think of the case that has just been tried in
New York; a fiend who gouged out both of his
wifes eyes; did it deliberately, and yet when
the poor creature was brought into court as q
witness, with her sightless orbs bandaged up,
she stated that it was an accident-that in the
dark she had run against his outstretched
hand. This is only one case there are thous-
ands of others, where woman's love and de-
yotion will outlive everything. Then the
fault must fall on the man 1t is the nature of
o man to be restless, and reaching out for some
thing new and out of reach. Then again men
love to congregate together and have good
time talking OF those things that interest them;
they may not intend to neglect their wives
and cannot understand why they object to be-
Ing left alone. A man has no business to
marry unless he studies the character and dis
position of the woman who is to be his COM
panion for life, and when he does understand
It, it is his duty to make the same sacrifices for
her pleasure and happiness that she is willing
to make for his. But this is the secret of the
whole matter naturally selfish, made
so often by the foolish indulgence of mothers
and wives, and they expect all and give moth
Ing; they look upon their wives as necessary
TO their comfort, but are not willing to put
true value upon them.
There has been a great deal written in the
papers lately as to whether marriage is a fail
ure or not. The question need never be dis
oussed if men would do their duty Whore
marriage is a failure, it is from some fault Of
one Of the contracting parties, and most often
falls upon the man. II men were less indif-
ferent and kept their company manners for
their wives, less immoral, and more temperate;
II women would never nag or quarrel, but
make their husbands respect them by assert
ing their rights with dignity, and not be i'm
posed on, marriage would never be failure.