Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1888-12-23
lilies, but of men with hearts and

| DULLES, but OF men with hearts and
heads.
The woman who saves up her household
! worries and bodily pains and aches to en-
terrain n husband with on his return
home, drives Il sure nail in the coffin of
cOnjugal happiness.
True marriage means a subjugatiOn of
self, and a losing of ones selfish feelings
in love for another. Every man ought to
have the certainty that he can find peace
and rest from all strife and fret in his
home. Every husband ought to feel
when he turns the key to enter his own
door that he is sure of a sweeter welcome
and more cheerful and reStful atmos-
phere than he has found outside of it. If
each wife would make this the leading
resolve of her life, the world would be
revOlutionized.
l once heard n man say two hours after
his return from a month S absence from
home: ~ have heard more fault-fnd-
ing and fretting since | came back than
III all the time l was away and l did
not blame him that he went out and
banged the door behind him. l heard
another man say once: ''This is my first
rest since l left home. 1 began to feel
rested as soon as opened the door. An
hour at home pays me for all the wear
and tear of week outside. -
Surely those words repaid that wife for
the hours she had borne in loneliness,
worry, and small veXations. They paid
her too, for keeping the fact to herself
that she was suffering with fatigue and
neuralgia.
Had she given her husbund q long dis
sertation of these troubles, it would have
ruined his pleasure and in 10 way bene-
fitted her.
If you are i'll enough to need specially
considerate treatment or attention, tell
your husband, and he will bestow it al
most invariably, for men are, as a rule,
very tender-hearted and sympathetic to-
ward a woman suffering; but the COM
plants that are talked of every hour in
the day cease to excite any sympathy,
and only serve to weary and annoy the
listener.
During the last two months two cases
of reckless and cruel extravaganza in
wives have come under my notice. One
man, the kindeSt of husbands, was suf-
fering from temporary embarrassment in
finances, and begged his wife to econo-
miZe for a few months in their methods
of living. She grew hysterical and ac-
cused him of parsimOny and meanness,
lHItdltitu W 80 IlOhlC " utI ,dut
refused to discharge any of her servants
or to relinquish any of her accustomed
luXuries.
The other wife insisted upon moving
into larger house than her husband felt
able to keep up, and finally, having
gained her point, deliberately ran him in
debt for $500 worth of new furniture.
Such women do not deserve the name of
wife. They have the mercenary spirit of
the mistress, who only cares for money.
The wife should be the first mate of the
ship of matrimony. She should not only
assist in steering the craft through finan-
cial gales, but she should be ever on the
watch to avert danger, and her fine in
stincts should tell her when to tack or
lower sails without waiting for orders
from the captain.
The petty tyrant or nagging wife is,
perhaps the most hopeless case of all.
The most trivial courtesy or attention he
shows another woman arouses nasty
phase of jealousy in her nature, and she
renders herself ridiculous, and her hus-
band is Inundated constantly. She is
forever referring to the time when he
was Il lover, and ''treated her differ
ent - forgetting that in those days she
studied to attract him and now she