The Abilene reflector. [volume] (Abilene, Kan.) 1883-1888, 1888-02-02
MISCHIEF-MAKERS.
Indifferent to Their Tales and You VIII
Soon BE Rid OF Them.


q family who. but for their interference.
you'd be in harmony. 1t doesn't take
much to start them in business
A thoughtless word, inadvertently
dropped, is all they require to put at
variance a whole neighborhood. 1hey
never repeat thing exactly as they
hear it; they are always sure TO aid
something to it. if not in words in in
Election, so there will be no mistake
made in understanding just what they
mean YOU should. For fear you might
be in doubt they arc always eager to eX-
plain Just what they are positive tho
person meant who uttered it To be
sure thew do not intend to make trout
bic. They wouldn't make trouble for
the world. They really don't Ike to
repeat such things, and they do hopo
YOU won't feel hurt, but they think it IS
only right that you should know just
what people say, SO as to be on your
guard. Only they are your friends. they
say they wouldn't think OF telling you.
These people have a very vague idea
of what constitutes friend. Friends
never wilfully hurt the object of their
friendship by carrying mi5chlevou5
stories. Only on rare occasions Will
they repeat any remark heard, in refer
ercc to their friends. to the person upon
whom it was passed. and when they DO
so there are always good reasons that
they should. They never repeat q re-
mark simply for the sake of showing
you that other people don't think as
much of Won as you seem TO think they
do, which is the usual motive OF the
trouble makers. Friends usually work
under the good old adage, What yoH
don't hear will never hurt YOU" and
this is. certainly, one Of the most scnSl-
bic rules known for any one TO live up
to.
Some one makes thougnticSS re-
mark about some one not present. very
often in joke. ana were the person
there ut the time the remark would.
very probably, have been made just the
same, AID passed over Is a JOKE by AL
present, the object of it enjoying II rs
much rs any one. But when the per
son referred to is not present then
comes the opportunity for the trouble
maker. She soon finds time to run u
Mrs. C--'s. to tell her what was sail
about her at Mrs. BIS the last time
she was there, usually adding some
thing to the remark passed on hcr
own account Mrs. C, indignant
and hurt, very often, il tho
heat of the moment, says some
thing that ten minutes later She
would give any thing if she had not ut
tered. This is the troub!e-maker ;
chance, and she does not hesitate long
in improving it. Hurrying to Mrs.
b, she repeats what Mrs. C
said, at the same time Withholding
from her the provocation that brought
out the angry words, and aiding to
this something of her owa coming to
make it apply closer. 1t does not
take many of these visits TO
make these two women the bittercst
of enemies. They meet on the street
and pass each other with scarcely Il LOOK
of recognition. Neither of them has
openly said to the other any thing that
would cause things to be in this state.
Each one feels as though she. alone.
were the injured party, and the other
had willfully wronged her. Both were
excellent friends until the trouble
maker came between them, and. with
her stories and insinuations, gave each
the impression that the other was her
greatest enemy. When this result is
reached the trouble maker is satisfied
to let them get along As best they can.
and turns her attention to the severance
of some other friends.
The above woman is bad enough in
her WAY, and creates a great deal more
trouble than is ever remedied. bat when
she is once known. people who have
had any dealings with her are careful
not to give her a chance TO again work
mischief among their friends. There
is another kind of woman who is really
more dangerous than the above, aud
creates more mischief, though perfectly
oiliviouS, ut the time. of doing so. She
is the thoughtleSs woman who repeats
every thing she hears, simply for the
sake of talking. She is perfectly honest
and open, and never intends hurting
anybody. She wants TO be on the best
terms with everybody, and she usually
is. She always feels grieved when any
words of hers have caused trouble. and
always winds up her regret with: -
declare, shau't repeat another thing,
for nv tongue always runs away with
me. Just feel like biting it out" This
resolution doesn't last long, and in u
little while she has done more mischief
with her thoughtless remarks, and So
she continues and will continue, foT it
is as natural for her TO talk rs il is for
her to eat A woman of this kind Is
hard to match. She is so perfectly free
from any intention of creating trouble.
that a person il apt To be careless in
what they say before her, even though
she may have Internationally msdo
trouble many timo.
1t is too bad that such women rs
these should come between either
friends or relatives with stories 10 sep
arate them. Whether Intentionally told
O. thoughtlessly told, unless the rclater
is trustworthy, they should ncvor for =
moment be given thought. Treat
them all with Al uttcr Indifference, and
they will very soon die ont. When the
professional tsouble-maker finds you