Daily Yellowstone journal., 1888-12-12
TYRANNlEs OF RELATIONSHIP.
Granting favors Because NE Is nns Of
the Family'-In Hot Water.

Granting Tavors Because NE Is tine OF
the Family'-In Ho, Water.
No despotism equals the tyranny
coming Of relationship. Thousands
endure it, yet scarcely think OF il as a
tyranny, much less an injustice.
Thousands infict il unconSciously and
think they al perfectly right IN doing
so.
The son, the nephew, the cousin, is
given a situation in the business,
whatever it may be, simply because he
is q relative. He does not, he dare
not push out in the world and seek a
place as a stranger and on his own
merits. lie leans on the relative, the
uncle, the cousin, who has force, en-
ergy and enterprise, and has thereby
built up a business, TO give him a
situation. He may have no par
ticular liking or interest in the
business. Il is only for him
a means for drawing a salary.
He expects in such situation more
favors than would be granted q
stranger, because he is zone of the
family" He may not ask openly for
such favors, but there are other and
quite us eiiicacious ways of asking and
begging for favors as by word Of
mouth.
II the dependent relative in the sit
lation, through ~recklessness, has lost
,r squandered money; il he has in
some way put himself in a hole" he
has generally some soft hearted rela-
tive in the family to go to and unload
his misery on, who in turn unloads it
on somebody else, and on it progresses
until il reaches the head, and the head,
though vexed and out of patience,
feels he cannot cast off and treat the
dependent relative as he would an en-
tire stranger, and the result is that the
pocketbook is reluctantly opened
again, since something must be done
for the relative who IGN the business,
because he is a relative"
There are no end of losses great and
small, in business, coming Of relatives
placed in positions for which they are
not adapted, and in which they expect
and often are granted i~ndulgences not
given TO one not of kin. Were they
treated according to their real worth
and merit they might not be retained
q week. But they are relatives. AS
relatives it is difficult to discharge
them. There is more than one string
to the bow of the dependent relative.
II would not be 10 the family credit
to have him seen a beggar on the
street. Or, if turned adrift because Of
his incompetcncy, he might do some
thing dreadful 10 himself. Relatives
Of this sort are always threatening TO
do something dreadful TO themselves
when in the hot water wherein they so
frequently contrive to immerse them
selves. They sometimes feel also that
the family will see them through, and
when their spasms Of despair and
omlnous self threatenings are the
strongest there is a certain under cur
rent Of thought telling them that the
family will stand anything rather thar
face the notorlety Of the dependent
relatives dreadful act.
That person is indeed fortunate who
through his or her innate force, en-
ergy and variety Of resources, is abl'
TO go among entire strangers ant
prove his ability TO do some one thin,
well, possibly better than any one else
and who, through his real value, il
placed above the necessity of asking
for place and favor on the ground d
relationship Prentice Milford il
New York Star.