Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1888-12-15

evening
Col. h. L. Swords family have come from
Iowa to Join him here, and they will spend the
winter here with him, They are at prestent o,
the Ebbitt house.
Written for TIE EVENING STAR
ETIQUETTE AND MANNERS.
What to Do and What Not to Do in
| Polite Society.
MRS. sHERwooD's CORRESPONDENCE COLUMN
| cHAPERoNEs FOR YOUNG LADIRs-wHEN TO
LEAVE CONCENTRATION AND HOW THEY
| SHOULD BE SENT.
Mrs. Sherwood will each week answer ten or
twelve questions concerning points Of etiquette
and manners, selecting such as suggest points
I OF the most general interest to readers Of TIE
STAR.
The letters on the subject Of chaperonage
are 90 many that we must try to answer sew
eral under one head.
| For instance, Julia Echo" vrites:
"f teacher, young and pretty, desires to 60
to Bar HarSor for the summer to enjoy her
well-earned leisure, must she have Q chaperone?
Now my case is this. I am young and pretty
woman. work hard ten months of the year.
like to 60 for two months to Narragansett or
some gay place to observe the gay world, Of
which now am a part At Bar Harbor last
year was asked often to drive, to join boating
parties, to 60, as other young ladies did, to the
little dinners. On one occasion lady said to
me: Julia, are You here without chaper one?
1t e1cites remark for 50 young and SO pretty Q
| woman as yourself to come to q gay place un-
attended by an older person
Il said TO her that I had a mother and that to
another vrtth sp< 49, a.
Of dragon would take Just half my money, 90
that as sm thirty-four years old I concluded
that could both travel alone and remain at Q
hotel alone. She acknowledged that my con-
ing unisdylike. STILL she said, you should
have ehsperone or join party This is
more easily said than done; what shall do?
Must give up my pleasant summers because
cannot afford o chaperone, and because q poor
teacher has no fashionable acquaintance to
join?'
To Julia we should say that the best way out
OF her dilemma is either to be 80 independent
as not to care for criticism, or else to find Q
congenial friend who will 60 with her to o
watering place.
Work is an armor of proof. and no young
artist teacher or sewing girl will ever be criti-
cised if in pursuit Of her business. She goes
alone to watering place or hotel. But il
she tries to enter fashionable society she will
be criticised If she is alone. Somebody will
here alone?" OF course Julia cannot explain
to all the boarders, as she has to u.s. the pecu-
liar circumstances. II she could she would not
have to ask the question.
OPINIONS DIFFER.
"a young widow" asks, also, if she can 20
alone to watering place, and says that she was
suspected and watched while travelling alone in
Europe
A lady should always have q maid or COM
anrAv loA =
sary unless she is with friends, and in this
country II is far better that she should Join Q
party or take a companion II she would silence
envious tongues.
"Philadelphia" writes:
I'VE are the most aristocratic society in
America and We elbow our young ladies to 20
out without chaperones. Indeed 0 well be-
haved girl can walk in the streets without
chaperone in the evening and be safe from
insult"
The fashionable society of Philadelphia has
always seemed to US to be very like the best
society everywhere and We have never known
well born Philadelphia girl to 90 out unchap-
eroned, but we suppose our correspondent may
know some segment of the Quaker city Of which
We are geographically ignorant
There 10 no doubt Of the fact that opinions
differ in different parts Of our country as to
the necessity Of a chaperona We can only say
that the fragment Of society known az the
fashionable and respectable believes it proper
C00pDfOQe
If she 10 to enter the portals Of the gayworld.
.'.RaPide" asks: us it proper to send my
visiting card when / give an afternoon recep-
tion, II l have never called, and shall inclose
my husbands card?''
Yes. Never be economical In your polite
ness. Inclose your card and the days ON which
You Will receive. You will thus save yourself
and your friends uuch Inconvenience.
VALENTINE PARrY.
"Dorinda" asks: "Can you inform me how
to conduct a valentine partyY"
No; We cannot We had supposed that the
old bishop, whom Charles Lamb 20 felicitouslv
addresses as "All hail! old Bishop Valentine, In
decent rochet and long sleeves" was out Of
date, II only the dreadful pictured cards,
with loves and doves, and chrome photographic
horrors, could make an antique fashion disrep-
utable, We should suppose valentines had gone
out.
But let Us invent party for Dorinda. Sup
pose you ask your mother 70 invite twelve girls
and let her give each girl two Of her cards, %
that each young lady could invite two gentle
men. Then have clearing house Of cards to
see that you do not all invite the same fortu-
nate young man. Thus You could have an
original party. Make 1t incumbent on each
Have some we'll known perJbn who addresses
the wedding cards put these into envelopes ad-
dressed TO some Of the twelve hostesses Thus
each VIII get two copies Of verses, and Of course
sNSse nos uteuoeo Ior 00r. Here would be q
pretty comedy Of errors and an amusine even
ing.
'Estele Graham" writes: "Pissss rive the
proper form for answering note written In
the nr;t person from young man Wishing 70
CALI also how 70 write 70 . young man thank
| ing him for Shakespeare's plave. Would h Il.
proper to 'sy that should fiis him 70 cali on
note must always b answered IN Tie ar.t
person II Il 10 written in the hrSt person
Therefore Estelle can consult her Dsmms. sn6
i she thinks proper abe can cay: ssDear ~.
Eo%eo-So many thanks for the copy Of
not Robert Elsmers,' Of which have avO con-
ice, and ind It heavy reading. Have yos rssd
VII send 1t TO 700. Mamma says shs WIN s.
happy to Sc you on Tuesday or On Saturday
evening. Truly yours, Z. Graham"
"katinka" writes: I'VE hear that To- and COT.
Zee are not served st Q fashionable luncheon
party. Now, Why h thisT'
Tee Z :srved 8 O'Clock, and = ssPesste
ana very important institution, 20 Il vQcld not
do 70 make De two eoaHick 6oRss = sons-
times served afsss a slabsssts laneAssa, Bot