Idaho semi-weekly world. [volume] (Idaho City, Idaho Territory) 1875-1908, 1888-03-30
eELATlONS-iN-LAW.
.,,,,es Most Needed to Make
",s,,ity Life Agreeable.

-,,,,.. Most Needed TO Make
fbs FAMILY Life Agreeable.
of The first questions asked of a
pew! ~ rcla ions. and If circum-
pu' ""es compel her to take up her
',' ~ with them, the question is usu-
a ~ alphabetically plying one.
", Tr,nsidering the frequent disagree
Wv ~. we see in families it is hardly
pen' .isinp if we see occasional
s s'adhles among those of different
,,aJ and often totally different train
,Ns The patriarchal system. while it
"s id owe unity to the nation, is not
Vu .hout individual objections. 1t is
W. hardest of all lessons to learn to
w ,Ooommodatc ones own angles to the
angles of others.
W When a newly-made wife goes to
r.o with her husbands people she
7 NV soo loses sight of the fact that she Is
v 'imolv daughter of the house, with
~ more than a daughters privileges.
~ the flush of her new dig
.itv she is apt to for
"a that she is simply on the same
so,inp as her hus band sisters, as far
a.. the management of the house is con-
aoroed. While she should aid her new
mother by every means in her power.
.he can not expect to give orders in
asnendently, but submit to direction.
NJ household can be success with
,wo mstrcsses, and most. assuredly it
/, the part of the younger to defer to
tbe elder, though it may not always
,,pm pleasant duty.
Really and truly we don't think any
,hiuc is more difficult than to live with
ralations-in-law. Even where they
lava one another, there are 80 many
little traits and peculiarities viii CHI
cause internal vexation, if the Earring
s'sments never come to the surface.
There is no remedy for it. save ever
aresent patience and kindlinc IS; and
the model daughter-in-law must stand
sloof from family disagreements She
must never side with John against
Fanny. or throw her weight with her
husband in difference with his
osrents. She must always remain
neutral, or she will widen breaches in
stead of healing them.
We believe that some of the squibs
and Jokes scratched on the walls in
Pompeii make fun Of the mothers-in-
law This estmable member of society
has been an object of derision of CEN
turtles, Just as if it were our fault that
we become mothers-in-law under some
circumstances. Many mother-in-law
is as self-sacrlicing as mother; many
aman has reason to bless the woman
who stands in that relation to him.
There may be scolds and mischief
makers among th EN-, but they would
display the same Objectionable traits
in any other relation. The implied
dislike to mothers-in-la is about as
reasonable as the dislike for those I'M
appropriated blessings. old maids.
We can hardly wonder if the loving
mother shows anxiety for the happi-
ness and comfort of her married dar-
linz. The mistakes in regarding such
interest as officious. This is mistake
on the part of the sol or daughter in
law; and the mothers mistake is in
thinking that her child's household
can not be comfortable without her
constant supervision. A young house
keeper is very tenacious Of her dignity;
he likes the pomp and circumstance
Of domestic management, and the
yOung man just advanced to the proud
position of husband feels all the
dignity OF the patriarchs vested in his
person. So, perhaps, the qualities
most needed among relations -in-law
are consideration, kindness and dis
erect tongue. If only we all possessed
these qualities what gold IN age we
1oud enter upon! - Rural NeW
Yorker.