Thomas County cat. [volume] (Colby, Kan.) 1885-1891, 1887-11-17
POINTS ON ETIQUETTE.
Styles of Formulas and Cards Affected BY
Fashionable Society.


SO long used. but have far wider
margins on the note sheet than any
yet seen. and are consequently larger.
requiring larger oblong envelops in
stead of The small square ones lately
in favor. The engraving is in plain
clear English script. without ornament
al initials OF monogram. on pure white
paper, though cream tints are also
used. The formula it will be re-
membered, is as follows: MIR. and
Mrs. john Thompson request your
presence at the marriage of their
daughter Margaret Eleanor to Mr..
Charles Henry Jones, on Thursday.
October the twenty-ninth, at half
past three O'Clock, at St. Georges
Church This invitation is sent
out a fortnight or three weeks
before the wedding either by post
o. by private messenger, or else the
bride drives from house to house de-
livering each. The post, however. is
found to be q safe medium, and is
now very generally adopted. We re-
peat here that wedding invitations re-
quire no answer. For out-of town
weddings. the formula given above is
used. with the words, Eat their resi-
dence in Westchester," or other subur-
ban address, instead Of the name of the
city church. At home wedding which
it is desired should be private either be-
cause the family is in mourn
ing or their house is small, in
yitations bearing the usual formula
are sent to the relations and few
intimate friends. Then on the next
day the marriage is announced to all
on note sheets engraved as follows:
MIR. and Mrs. James a. Smith an
n unce the marriage of their daughter
Mary 10 Mr.. John Henry johnson,
Wednesday, November the fifteenth.
1887, Fifth Avenue, New York.
Again. when only few friends
and relatives are asked to witness the
ceremony at home wedding. and a
large reception follows half an hour
later. the invitations sent to all by the
parents are to the wedding reception
OF their daughter. from eight until ten
O'Clock, while the few who are ex-
pected to be present at the ceremony
find card Enclosed, marked: "Cere-
mony at half-past seven O'Clock" If
receptions are TO follow afterward at
the new address of the married pair. a
card inclosed with the wedding invita-
ton is marked: ..At Home, Thurs
days, November the eleventh and
eighteenth. from five until nine
o'clock, 3O09 Fifth avenue An old
form of announcement card still in use
is that inclosing a card bearing the
names of the newly-married as "Mr.
and Mrs. John Robinson" and also a
card with the name of the bride before
her marriage. Their new address NAV
or may not be given, or if the bride and
groom are going abroad, P. P c. may
be engraved in the left-hand corner of
the card containing their names Un-
glazed or vellum-finished cards are
used for such announcements, but
smooth-finished Bristol-board cards
are still used for visiting.
A bride issuing cards for her days of
receiving calls throughout the season
has only her cards marked with the
days and address; for instance, tues
days" in the lower left-hand corner,
with the new address opposite; but she
ol-, in oloca. bar br -lopI's o,rJ ho,r
ing merely his name. The visiting
cards of married lady remain very
large and may be either square or OBJ
long, with the preference for the OBJ
long cards. An unmarried lady's card
is a trifle smaller. while mems cards
are very small indeed.
Both square and oblong cards will
he used for invitations to teas and
evening receptions For an afternoon
tea the card bears the name of the host
css, and just below it that of daugh-
ter whom she may wish to introduce,
or of friend who receives with her
In the left-hand corner Is engraved the
hour, as Tuesday. November the
with just beneath it:
"Tea from four until seven;" in
the opposite corner follows the
address, which should be spelled out
entirely except the number Of the
house. as 100 West Third street."
The words AT Home are used on
cards for afternoon receptions more
formal than teas, and also for evening
parties Ladies who entertain a great
deal keep cards or note sheets en-
graved with their name Chat of the
hostess alone), and below it "At
Home" blank space is then left. on
which the date of the entertainment is
to be written; if this is to be musical.
the word Music is engraved in the
left lower corner: or if there is to be a
dancing party. the word 'Cotillion'' is
used. or else "Dancing;" the address
is in the right-hand lower corner. For
dinner and evening receptions the
hostess provides herself with engraved
blanks. with space left in which
she writes the name of the guest. The
letters '.R. S. V. p" are fast being re-