New Ulm weekly review., 1887-03-16
The Art of COurtShiD.

"A WIlO0i Ill tll0 OC. LOUIS UlOD6-DeIll-
ocrat, who recently discovered a fugi-
tive copy of book published a quar-
ter OF century ago and entitled
"Courtship Made Easy" furnishes the
world an interesting summary of con-
tents. The work purports to have
been written by man who was thrice
widower and contains certain su. =
gestions to be utilized by ladies in af-
fairs of the heart. The triple widow
er seems to take it for granted that
all girls know how, and whom, and
when, and where to court, and gives
them hints in only two matters-man-
aging beau so as to make him pro-
pose marriage and the delicate and
skillful methods required to trap a
bachelor. Anent the first he says:
"The usual plan to bring about a
proposal of marriage from a backward
youth is an appeal from the lady to
her father or mother. There is not
the least impropriety in the demand
| OF parent as to the intentions of s
suitor. Some young ladies are too
sensitive to make such an appeal and
| to these we would recommend the fol-
| lowing course: When your lover
makes his stated visits, turn your
conversation to the subject of mar
riage as often as possible-gossip
about your newly-married friends and
those who are supposed to be en-
gagged. If you know OF a positive en-
gagement that exists, state that fact;
and if the couple SO engaged have had
but g brief courtship commend their
promptness. If thelover is inclined to
make q proposal and is not exceeding.
| ly stupid he will take hints which you
can easily give in these conversations.
Another plan is TO make him jealous
| by pretending to receive the attentions
of some other gentleman OF your ac-
quaintance. But this is more difficult
and is sometimes dangerous. There
is no impropriety in a lady's taking
| any reasonable measures to induce
her beau to make his proposal when
he is either backward, slow, or bash
full"
These methods may be applied at
the proper time to "old bachelors"
as we'll as to young men. Bachelors
are not easily caught. They are nat
urally distrustful OF women and eau
tious regarding their advances. They
are afraid to propose marriage and
will ''fy off the handle if hey sus-
pect, any design on the part of the Ia
dy who is sewing on their buttons or
hemming their handkerchiefs. There
are only two ways OF trapping them
one is by endeavoring to make them
pop the question, the other is by pop
ping the question yourself. if you are
a female and want the ssOld BACH"
Here, girls, is what you must do to
induce him to propose:
You should take occasion to paint
the delights of "a home'' in glowing
colors. Speak of your married friends
| who live happily, and whose homes
| are like little paradise, and all that
sort OF thing. You need not allude to
the "little cherubs" tall, as bachelors
are not particularly enthusiastic in
their favor. Indeed it would be we'll
to select such married friends for
models as have not been blessed
| with offspring, if you know OF
any. After a.. thorough 1nitia-
tion of your bachelor lover into these
matrimonial mysteries, you may ex-
pect his proposal; but if he still neg
lects to make it, repeat some earnest
picture Of a happy home, and state to
him frankly that it is your ambition
| to become the mistress Of such a par
adise-that you have never, until our
acquaintance with him, realized the
TACT that man lived on this earth
! who could make home for you hap
py, etc.
| These were the arts and blandish-
ments Of thirty years ago. They are
mott in existence now-not in the neigh
borhood Of st. Louis at least and it
is doubtful if the remotest corners OF
the earth narbor them. They were
sweetly simple and innocent arts, just
like the simple, honest. innocent, slow
/ going folk for whom they were written.