Custer chronicle. [volume] (Custer City, Black Hills, D.T. [S.D.]) 1880-1890, 1887-09-03
YOUNG MARRIED WOMEN.
An English Writer Views Them in Eng
lish Society"

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young married ladies in society exer.
else a great influence, and at the pres
ent day are very much TO the fore,
while a great deal Of what goes on in
the fashionable world may be attributed
TO the power they now WELD for coed
or evil. How frequently is it the case
for young girls who are pretty and
lively to remain comparatively un-
noticed till some man falls a victim to
their charms, and then when they
bloom into pretty young married wom-
en they ut onc become the rage and
fashion, and find themselves run after
and admired by the men who hold Il
high position in the ''smart set,' and
who think that girls, as a rule, are
hardly worth speaking to. This, of
course, is extremely fiattering to their
vanity, and there are many who get
their heads turned by the attention of
those men whom they were wont to
look upon in the light of swells. much
too ''smart" TO pay the most ordinary
attention to them while they were
young girls. The natural consequence
of this is that they themselves began to
put on side" and find 1t convenient to
more or less drop their old friends
whom they do not consider to belong
to the creme de la creme. for
to be rs intimate as formerly with such
as these would be detrimental to their
ambition, Of being numbered among
the most exclusive and successful.
There is also q morbid horror in tAeir
minds of being associated with a ''low
set.' however high-born they may be
and however important a position they
may really hold, for to be thought slew
and behind the times seems TO them
much worse thar TO be called fast, or
rare good FUN" There are many young
married ladies who, wishing to be sue
cessful and admired, have "A strong
sense of honor. if not n strong affection
tor their husbands, who would not on
my cross the line between
RICH, and wrong. Yet they are willing
aud anxious to receive the homage and
open admiration of men, go that the
WORLD may see that they are If the
fashion OF the present day OF havin-
men devoted and constantly dangling
after them. These foolish ones are
contented to do what is considered the
smart thing, knowing as they do that
many in our gossiping and scandal
mongering cociety will attribute to
them the worst of motives, and class
them with those who do not run
~traight;' and, )oner than be out of
the fashion, they will tolerate what
should be most calling and shaming to
them-the thought that by these they
are put down among the free lances.
1t may seem conduct SO %eXtraordi-
nary as almost to amount 20 mania
that young ladies should allow their
vanity to outrun their discre,ion-that,
though they would on 10 account go
wrong. they will sail as near the wind
as possible, and not object to get the
reputation for doing what they would
really scorn to do; but such is the
case. In society there are many young
married ladies who seem to think that
their whole duties in life consist of
going out" as much as possible. and
being as well and extensively dressed
as possible, no matter what their hus-
bands means may be and what bills
they may run up at their dressmakers
and milliners. They are eaten up en-
tireiy BY the craze for society, and it
does not seem to enter into their brains
that they have duties as wives and
mothers. Qdiet evenings at home with
their husbands, who very likely have
been working hard all day, and have
little inclination for constantly going
out ut night. are ''such Il bore" to such
rs these, and the idea that they owe u
du,y to their children, putting affection
aside, and should be with them some
part of the day, strikes them as Ia
dicrous and absurd. There arc some
even who openly avow that they do not
care at All for their children, and that
they are a necessary evil. They must
be brought down for five minutes by
the nurses in the morning and after
that they may be dismissed from
h0ught tor the rest OF the day. When
these young people grow up and are
in their turn being taken out, their
mothers are surprised that they
show little or no affection for, or
obedience to, them. forgetting entirely
that they themselves have failed 10 Law
ish the ordinary care and love On their
oflsprings that the animals do. II not
nn~frequentl, happens that a woman
has married her husband withouta par
tlcle of affection for him, but
SIMPLY for his position and
money, while al the time she has really
been in love with another man who was
not in a sufficiently good pecupiary po-
sition to marry her. Her position is a
most dangerous one, and in many cases
where til. husband is careless. tactlcss
and selfish, it leads to but one incvit-
able result, however good the wife's
resolutions may have been. The has
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