Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1887-06-04
w0MAN's WORLD.
GRABBED HUSBANDS AND DIS.
COMMENTED WIVES.

ChADbED HUSBANDS AND DIS.
COMMENTED WIVES.
How to Give the Nerves a Rest-Es-
thetic Underclothing and Other
Matters of Interest.
One often reads or hears it said that the
peace and happiness of the household de-
pend upon the wife or mother. The asser-
ton is not strictly true. As the mother is
or should be with her children more, her
influence is greater than any ones else
but does not the fathers daily example
sometimes counterfeit that influence? Chill
dren, says Golden Rule, are close observers,
and are apt imitators of their elders Should
the father be addicted to the habit of fault
finding, especially in regard to the food set
before him at meal time, and the weary,
discouraged wife-in the vain attempt to
defend her reputation as cook-arouses his
ire by making excuses, then the children
of the family will be listeners to an angry
tirade-or what is worse-a quarrel, if the
| mother has not complete control of her
temper-and, of course, they will be apt TO
follow the example set before them, and
| discord will reign in the family. That is
not an attractive picture of home life. vet
in some families such scene is enacted al
most every day. Men often mar the hap
piness of wives and children by fault-find-
| ing, and surely they add nothing to their
| own peace of mind by indulging in it. 1t
is Just as much the husbands duty to sit
down to the table with a cheerful, sun
shiny face, and make the best of the food
set before him, as it is the wife's duty to
keep the house in order and prepare the
meals regularly.
Woman's efforts to please in the matter
| OF cooking are rarely appreciated, or. if so,
she hears no word OF condemnation. Men
| do not seem to realize how much wom-
| ans heart hungers for words of praise from
her husbands lips. If she prepares some
! dainty dish to tempt his appetite, he is too
careless to note how eagerly she waits to
know if he likes it. Appreciation is one
| of the best incentives the world affords.
After the labors incident to the preparation
OF meal, how it seems to rest wife to
hear her husband say How nice and
light your biscuits are or, Wife, this
| meat is cooked to suit my taste" or other
approval repay her for her trouble.
Just try this for once, careless husband.
| and see II your wifes face doesn't light up
| and all traces of WEAKNESS disappear on
the instant. Oh, think of the MANY things
you can do to brighten her life. A little
appreciation by one she loves goes a good
way toward making woman happv.
Many weary wife drags out her life I'M
| appreciated, scarcely finding word of
sympathy from her husband.
" He has careful words for the stranger.
And smiles for the sometimes guest
But oft for his own the bitter tone
Though he loves his own the best"
That such mans home is unhappy is
mainly his own fault.
RESERVE YOUR NERVES.
A writer in Good HousekecDinq advises n
habit OF wholesale negligence in the fol-
lowing pleasant fashion, and it is advice
worth bordering upon. The too exacting
housekeeper is sometimes a greater trial
than a sloven:
Although we know there are many wo-
men who do work entirely alone it is very
hard indeed for one woman to take down
bedsteads and shake carpets and move
heavy furniture, not to speak of taking
down and moving stoves, yeti have known
women to do all this and more, but to some
it would be physically impossible, and
many who do it ought not to do it. They
may suffer all the latter part of their lives
from abuse of the inexhaustible energy
which leads them to overtax themselves
To women so situated and so constituted. |
would give the advice which fear they
will not, perhaps cannot, follow. Guilt
waite wholesale habit of negligence 1t is
better the stove remain up all summer if
heavy than you sh ould move it; better
61St for 60.
you should lay up for yourself an early old
age.
Not that housework, scrubbing. cleaning,
even beyond what is looked upon as a
woman's limit, is hurtful, if not
carried beyond your strength. If you can
trust yourself to cease when you are really
and heartily tired, when rest is refresh
ment; but too many women work just 10
finish this or that, long after fatigue has set
In. Their bodies may not feel much more
tired than they were an hour or two earlier.
but instead of cheerful physical fatigue,
when 1t is real comfort to sit down and
rest, and laugh and talk perhaps, and read
something pleasant instead of this good
feeling has come nervous fatigue, a very
different matter; the least word irritates us,
and when we finally cease it is not TO rest
with cheerful talk or reading. and delici
oCs sense of work done and repose earned.
but we SINK down too tired to rest, feeling
worn cut. i'll, and ready to cry rather than
laugh.
We may get over once such abuse as this.
or two or three times, but by degrees this
nervous irritability will become not rare
experience consequent on rare fatigue.
but will follow even very little exertion,
anu the result be the shattered, pallid wo-
man, faded and worn out long before life's
prime, aud probably the time will then
have come for her when she not only is not
able to do very much, but she is unable to
refrain from trying to do Therefore say,
If the work that seems so necessary causes
more than a healthy fatigue, let it go.
Keep the house broom clean;" do lust
what must be done and reserve Your nerves
for your husband and children 1t is your
duty.
GOOD TASTE IN THE HOME.
Don't swamp your homes.is Rose Terry's
advice to women. No, not even your par
Tors with all kinds of homemade finerv.
splint wail-pockets, crotcheted waste bags,
patchwork tides. dead leaves, empty birds
nest, alum baskets, vases made out of flow
er pots, psper flowers; all these are too
fimsy, too utterly without excuse for be-
ing;' try and make the colors of YOUR
house harmonious; if you have a red and
yellow Garnet don't mako a vnlIou, ro,r r,,,.