The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1887-07-21

should young lady allow 4 gentleman, whom
arm around her waist while walking home from q
pArty--it being quite dark? DEwpRor.
My young friend, your question con.
ta!ns its own apswer in liz final words.
There Is in your mind a serious doubt
about the propriety Of allowing such a
privilege 10 one who has no claim upon
you other than that Of IN acquaintance,
albeit he Is one you know we'll, expressed
in the clause, ut being quite dark" So
your query resolves Itself into this: Should
you receive q caress ir4m one who is not
confessedly your lover or husband, II 1t be
given In the dark when no one can find 1t
out2 Most emphatieally, You should not 4!
An Obj proyerb, ! believe 1t comea from
the French, reads, In plain English, some.
thing in this way: When you are in
doubt, don't. That Is, when you are not
sure as to the right or wrong OF q conte,n.
plated action, or as to Its proprlety or I'm.
propriety in moral point OF view, 1t ia
better not to do tho questionable thing,
even though you may afterwards become
assured that 1t was not improper, than to
take step which may bring you intense
regret, and perhaps sorrow. And to moth
Ing does this apply with more force than
to your social intercourse with the oppo-
site sex. NJ, 81, w aaISI.5
OF courue, you would not allow such
familiarity to one toward whom you were
not pleasantly inclined. You may not be
'in love" In the common acceptation OF
the term, but your feeling is somewhat be.
yond indifference, aud may very easily
grow into something stronger. And there
IS where tho danger comes In. Yes, dan.
ger; for no matter how good and pure You
may be, nor how confdant III your own
strength to resist all temptation, this ca.
ress, this magnetic touch OF one who Is
personally agreeable to you, will tond to
arouse emotiong IN your heart that should
slumber until the real prince comes
whose right, through his acknowledged
and proved love for you, 10 ask for ouch
privileges is uudoubted, and to whom will
be your glory to yield them. Until then,
until you arc certain 1t Is he, guard your.
self from such familiarity, refuse to re.
ceive such q caress from any man, no
matter how well you may be acquainted
with him. Ii he seeks your love honors.
bly,, it will BIO time enough Tor you when
YOU have accepted It to allow him 10 put
his arm around you. II it is only mere
paatime, such as young men frequently
indulge in, then you certainly do not want
TO grant him o privilege like that. He
may mean you no shadow .ot harm, but
personal familiarity, founded upon no re.
ation that makes it sacred, is always un-
safe. Many q young girl would have
saved herself q lifetime agony had she
stesdlsssly repelled these advances, how
ever innocent at frat their meaning.
There is nothing, my young friend, that
you should guard 10 acrupulous as your
own womsnly delicacy. Brush the bloom
OF from u peach, rudely touch tho waxen
petals OF q lily and hall their beauty is
gone. 1t ia iInpGssihlo ior you, or any
other woman, TO allow yourself to be
caressed by your young men acquainances,
without losing somewhat of that purity
and modesty that you should wear always
as 8 queen her robea OF royalty. You
will be aure then to preserve, not only
their respect, but what Is OF far more i'm
portalee, that Of self. T. jii3 81 K
Nor need this preservation OF personal
dignity SAVIOR one whit Of prudery. You
can be just as bright, ns merry, and
friendly while aaying by your manner
should it be necessary, Stands Of" As
you can possibly be by permitting these
sentimental demonstrations. They are
not necessary to tho good comradeship
which is oil that should exist or appear to
exist between you and any masculine
friend until you aye sure that you possess
the true and tender love OF tho one man
who has made himself your hearts king,
a love which holdsyou sacred, as any true
man holds tho woman no would make his
wife and tho mother OF his children. And
believe me, even il you are not certain
that this prime loves you NJ you desire to
be loved by him, he will not be- any easier
won should you yield to careases prompt
ed by paeeing mood, but rather repealed
from YOU. for it is human nature not to
value what is easily or eheaply} obtained.
The freedom which girla in this coun-
try arc allowed, compared to the strict
supervision exercised over them upon the
other side OF the water-aB1pervision that
would make suon question Us yours
needlcta-has been the subject of much
and grave discussion as to which method
makes the nobler and truer woman. To
my mind there is no question but thst
our own ia much better. OF course, do
not mean that parents should allow their
daughters to run wild, but by teaching
them sell.reepect that rsnders them
able to take care Of themselves, as want
you, my young friend, to take care oil
yourself, they will develop iuto women,
intelligent, Responsible, capable q and
standing alone, women who are not dolls
nor weak iucapables, ready to succumb to
the first temptstion. Arid this sel{-re-
lance is the more necessary with each
succeeding year, for the number Of girls
and women who either must or. who de.
sire to go out into the world to work side
by eide with men multiply ;a b
p was reading q letter from q New York
correspondent recently which be9sa como.
what upon this subje Tho writer had
been visiting the different institutions es.
tablishod Tor women who are friendleas
but self-defendent, aud one whose life
work had been always with this class,
said Temptation ana vice fall harmless.
y away from girl Of proper training and
fnasincts, no matter where or how she ie
placed" And again: sssi5 5.5
1t all depends on the girl" is the phraee
that was uaed in every place that Invent,
by both men and women; and there we're
those who argued that to weak girls there
Ia as much danger In o village as city.
Ninety nine in. every hundred young wo
men who come to town at once find some
nest to make their home, If 1t ia only 9
room, aud Immediately connect them
solves with some church or association. II
this they differ radically from the young
men who leave home rather than seek il
as! soon as they arc Respondent or in
trouble. i .s;t ,ity5tt: 4 i ~
t".Theie Is more complaint OF miaadveu.
turee, and insulta, and narrow escapes by
foreign girls than by Americana said {
lady in charge Of humane institution
"and In every case I have heard all thu
trouble was due 10 tho stupidity and sloH
brain movement Of tho girl. yesterday
some young man meta German girl whom
We arc helping. He told her she Was ths
image Of his dead wife and asked for hel
name md address. (, She gave him both q