The Pascagoula democrat-star. (Pascagoula, Miss.) 1878-1920, 1887-03-18

hitherto edrcated, to reason, dnt
the early detection OF their deiicien
cy by husbands, who find any Sc
riOuS consultation with them, upol
family or other affairs, out of til,
question and partly 10 the natu
"l arrogance of men, who. unles
very highly cultivated, despise th
lHea of accepting the counsel of ;
woman, no matter though the sub
ject which it cOncel MS be one of vi
tai interest to her, and one to which
Sue may have given close aud val
liable study.
There are, no doubt, other reasons
which prevent the ideal of famil,
government from realization very
often among us; bnt we believe
that mOSt thoughtful persons viii
agree that the two causes. whicl
We have specified, may be laid mos
OF the failures to consult together
which are observed in the heads u
households.
To the latter of tile canSes we
believe it to be attributable that
women are so shamefully lacking
decision. 1t is true that men have
been brought up to believe that
they must be "heads of their own
households" and that they must
early look for and subdue any ap.
pearance OF independence in wilr ;
aud this is usually easy, for women
love peace, and it is so much easier
to give up and make mal good.
natured, than to hold our, even
when Que knows 1t is right to hold
ont, if the precious husbands tenn
per is going to be tried thereby.
But if women are ever going to
get the respect OF their husbands
aud of society, they must some
tunes "hOld 0Ht,' even tt there is "a
little uupleaSautneSs to pay for II.
We do not counsel the breakin up
the family peace, nor any course
which will prOducca serious schism
but no woman should be forever
giving up to a man, especially when
she sees clearly that she is right
aud he is wrong; yet thousands
aud thousands of women do this
every day. Do their husbands love
them any better for it No; they
only depiSe them.
AT il great concert, recently, IN a
casino where all he s'ats were tree,
IA gentleman entered with a lady,
undoubtedly his wife. They looked
AS though they might have been
ied, perhaps, ten years. He
bad red side whiSkerS and an air as
who shonld say. IL allow nobody
To dictate to me, assure you" She
was modest, gentle, pretty little
woman, with about rs much spirit
us Il rag doll. They moved slowly
np the aisle, and the gentleman
finally drcldrd to stop at certain
row OF seats. They were all empty
aPd. he wife stopped at the second
one aud 'TU0kcd tlHjdly up at her
husband. lie trOwned Hid shook
his head. She walked along tNO
seats further aud then lOnked mp
again appealingly into his face. He
ShOuk his head again impatiently.
She moved two seats further and
looked up again, but lie had paused
at HE seat she had stopped at he
tore, aud brckOned to her in the
most SuperciliouS manner i'll the
wOrl to come and occupy it. She
retraced her steps. still with IL sub
miSSive aud utterly spiiitlpss air,
aud sank lntO the seat he indicated.
That man probably thought, il bis
course had not become so hdbitual
to him that he thought nothing
whatever abOnt it, that lie bad in.
IlIcatell to the On-lOoking multitude
his masculine superiority but he
had simply made himself ridiculous,
and han made his wife an object of
sympathy. Was it not plain to be
'een that if she had had originally
my will of her own, he had long
Iince taken it out OF herf
Now, ii some women we know of
lad bad such an experience as that,
hey would, OF course, have endured
ut the.time; "Scene" is abom.
nable, and no self-respecting wO.
han will have one at home or
broad. But, as the old prOverb
avs: There are more ways of kill
hg cat than choking it to death
nth bntirr.' When she went out
nth her husband, similarly, again,
he would say-tOr be would now
be ia a good humOr aud
pady to take a little cbhfiing-
Now, my dear, before We go up
he aisle, you tell me just where
Ou want to sit, and | will sit there
r perish in the attempt" He would
OF have tried the head shaking and
",lOdge" again, he sure,
nd, ten 10 one, be would laugh
tile shameiacedly. MeR have been
nown to on such occasions.
A few triumphs IN the matter of
pinIOn have u most salutary effect
J giving a woman the respect of
pr husband. A noted doctor of
ivinity has discovered this fact.
e has wife who is as quick-wItted
I'd as sensible as he is. They have
.veral bright childrel, aud their
is one Of the happiest in
.merica; but Mrs. Dominic has
,meiimes con6dentially remarked
rat weq do get dreadiully AFRO
ant aud disagTeeable, even the
est Of them, unless they are 'tak-
D down once 10 q while.