The sun. [volume] (Morris, Stevens County, Minn.) 1882-1895, 1887-07-07
About Early Marriages

About Early Marriages.
An old lady writes to get advice as to
early marriages. Not that she wants
to marry early herself, but she has .
girl who is getting to that age when
she notices serious Intentions" as far
rs she can see them. and the old lady
feels as though something was going to
happen. either an elopement, or we'd
ding on the sly. which will have to be
explained by and by. She says her
girl is seventeen. and the young fellow
who has the symptoms is twenty. and
works at bookkeeping, and Is very
highly spoken of by his employer,
thobgh the young fellow has only
small salary to support wife. She
says the young couple have been going
together year, and she never saw a
couple that thought more of each other.
They consult each others wishes like
old married folks. and he is just as ten
der of her as though she was his wife,
and they discuss the probable expense
of any amusement they may intend in
dulging In, and if the girl thinks the
young man cannot afford to indulge in
anything. she tells him so frankly. and
he thinks the thing over and gives 1t up
cheerfully. The girl is not asham-
ed to tell her young man that she
makes her own dresses, and she sprung
new twenty-dollar spring hat on
him few days ago. which she had
bought the frame for sixty cents, and
the ribbons and flowers for dollar and
half. and trimmed it herself The
old lady says she has been brought up to
discourage early marriages. but she
has in her time seen so MANY
cary marriages that have turned
out splendidly, and so many
late ones that have made he'll upon
earth for those who have married. and
all their friends, that she is almost in
clined to weaken, and let nature take
its course. though she would like to
have the advice of the The Sun before
she commits herself, so she can have
somebody else to lay part of the
blame to il the affair turns out to be
mistake. after the young folks are
married. Well, it is going to be
cholera and yellow fever season, any,
way, and we might as well take hand
in this affair, and if it don't turn out
all right, it can be laid to the germs
and microbes in the air. The proper
ton of early marriages which turn
out we'll are as great as the proper
ton of late marriages. But it
all depends on the persons who mar.
ry. If young fellow is an idiot, and
girl is fool. and they do not show
any appreciation of what the marriage
relation is liable to bring them in the
way of responsibilities, sickness, hard
work, ETC.. and only seem to think that
life is going to be hugging and kiss
ing match, and they begin to talk about
marrying, they should be dubbed, or
kept in separate cages. They should
marry late, and the later the better, be-
cause if they marry late they will not
be SO apt to help populate the country
with driveling idiots like themselves.
If a young man who spends his salary
recklessly. and more too, who does not
know the value of money, and who
runs in debt as easy as rolling log off,
thinks he has fallen in love with girl,
who has got no sense, and who cares
more for dress and outside show than
she does for home, and who does not
care whether the fellow who says he
loves her has dollar, or owes thous-
and, and such gang as that begin to
talk of going to see a minister, that
young man ought to be kicked out OF
the girls house, and sent to the reform
school at Waukesha, while the girl
should be quarantined at the same kind
of school at Sparta, for if they mar
~ the chances are that the man will
desert the girl when she is sick, and
when she becomes we'll again she will
tell him to 60 to the devil, and both
will 60 wrong, and her parents will
reap sorrow. But there are cases where
girl of eighteen is better qualified to
become the wife of deserving and
careful young man of good habits and
honor. than many who are older. If
such couple marry, though they may
be compelled to "skip along" for
good many years, they will attract the
attention of older people who are ad-
mirers of true worth, and before they
know it they will have overcome diff
culties, accumulated enough to make
them comfortable, and will have sur
rounded themselves with true friends,
who will swear that early marriages
are not so bad after all. But If they
make too many pretentions, attempt to
outshine others, and make asses of
themselves, they will always remain
very ordinary people, whom nobody
cares particularly for. From the de.
scription the old lady has given
of her daughter and the young
fellow who is shining around her, The
Sun is of the opinion that they are
thoroughbreds, and that if they marry
they will be a success. Let them start
in with the thorough understanding
that they do not own the earth, and il
they succeed in obtaining any of the
earth they will have to earn it, and not
think that all there is to life is lally-
gagging. and they will come out all
right, just as though they waited if
teen years. A girl should know her
young man long enough to find out
his character. The most trouble about
these early marriages is because young
people who are simply mashed on each
other temporarily, mistake the 'mash"
for old fashioned love that lasts life
time, and rush off and get married be-
fore the mash is off. Better wait q few
Al