Arizona weekly citizen., 1887-12-10
FRENCH MARRIAGES.
SENTIMENT CONCERNING PERSONS WHO MARRY 4 SECOND TIME.

A Memorable Series of Sermons-Ruies
 of Good Taste and Etiquette-simple
 Attire of the Bridc--silvcr and Golden
 Wedding
 French nnrriage customs aro now well known, SO fer as they relate to first mar riages. hut as rsguryls second marriages very little has yet been written. Perhaps thess marriages lack th1 romantic element which in all human affairs is the sauce pi4uante that a1ifts the flavorr This may explain why so little notice is taken of thc;l. There Is Q de- c.led disposition in France to regard tlioss who marry el secoudes nOces as rari--.et s.nnCga or as imbecil,s Guutslrvlng c sym pathy. The pJpulnr -utimcut OF llc saf'e-t is to the effect that @ persOn has only Jne right tO bc born oEce, tO marry once and O die once. Thlse who show @ wish to undergo any of theso 0perutious twice are suspected of r-ourrlandiz1. It must be CdmittcI Eow're', that public opinion re-pectiUg s-coEi rrBr- riac,es Is much moro generous with regard 70 the man than with regard tO the woman. There Is a social and religious prejudice arainst the second marriage of women, especially when the5e have reached middle age and have children
 The religious prejudice was remarkably illustrated q few years ago Dy Peru DiG01, sghso. in the course Of the memorable series fl sern.ons that be preached in Paris, and which obtained for him the severe ceusure of the general Of the DJminicans and tempOrary relcsation to O little island in the MsditerrG- mean as his penanoa, attacked the practice Of the second marriage Of women with e vehe- nance that profoundly astOathed the congrs- Qation, among whom were some people who considered the sermon grossly personal at- tack. Tho eloquent DOEinican had not done what the Latin prOverb advises toe discreet cobbler to do-he had gone beyond bis last He had no authority to Use pulpit for abus- ing women who entered for the second time the matrimonial state. The sermon WIS printed in extenso in some Of the papers, and made Q prodigious connection People asked why tbs Dominican father was so hard upon women and 70 leaient toward men The dls- cuszioa took a turn that was not exactIy theological Now, although Pere Didon was very inprudent in expressing his opinions SO strongly, be nevertheless caught up and put into words floating religious idea, and one thas i5 by no means ol recent datA
 GOOD TASTE AND ETIQUETTE
 There are certain rules Of good taste and etiquette with regard tO second marriages in France which arc usually observed by the educated classes Tbe whole ceremonial must be quiet and unostentatiOus. Tue festive pre- paratiols must be on a modest scale lt Is not considered becoming for the bridegroom and bride to sppenr very happy. They mud be sedabe and calm, with an expression of re- cueillemeut in thelr faces Something Is due to the memory Oi the dear dopaFtot This b specially tbe case fl lady k . widow. Shs does not take from her finger the ring placed shere by her first haSoand- Hor second spouse would be considered man of bad feeling and tad taste If hs objected Co this mark of re- spect paid to his predecessor. Moreover, If the lady has children sbe 0rst ring must be Te- tzinod out oi regard for tue memory of tbeiE father. and she wOuld be passing slight upon them by taking it ol. II these childre1 are grown up they must not keep aiOof from the wedding party, but must be present at tho ceremony. They are not expected to look joyful, but their abscnce would give riSe to soandeL The religious services must ba very snple-vf.houf floral decorations og singing The widow at her second marriage must not wear gray or rnuve, for such colors would be suggestive of hali mourning, which her second husband nigh: not take to he Q delicate alusio1 Co himself Rose color is also forbidden, on tho ground thlt it Is too gay. Tbe hcaddTCss shOull he g black oT white niantilla. with few flowers scattered over it-ocrtainly not orange fowers, which can only be worn once on sach occasions, noF chrysanthcmuI1s and scabiouses, which aIe termed ~yyiioWs' nowersS A breakfast o5 dinner folloEs the religious csrvmony, but DO bell is given in the case or a second mar riG-e.
 Silver ulor-iagce are voTy pleasing fstl vais in France. When a couple hove com plctei twenty-five years of married li-e tL. evant is celebrated with al the show oi jly and festivity PcSih,a In the first Flaae. there Q religion ceremony in church, which has good deal of Cue outward form of a genuine wedding The lady 5 again called the bride, and LsI toilet is superb, sup- posing Der position in tbs world just.cas iJ. The flowers which SIC L. expected Co wear are lar5o white O. eyG5-s-IoEn iu Flll-- us rUiIos marsuar!tss- Tho br.3cgroom wears e. trcss coal The pair are su-rOgn,.e1 by tL-ig ehiiiTen and sTGndchi.drea-if thers areany. All re!ati08s sTe invited, for q grand family muster Is co15ideFed osSonti1L A dlnnlr Is given, followod LT a ball, which Is Openad by the newly TonarTicd coOple, the lady dancing with her eldest son ali her husband with bis eldest daughtoT. Golden weddings are much 1 rlrer than silver weddings Death only Gi- l0vs very enall proportion of ul0rTied peo- plc to live fifty years together. Toe cere- | mony Is tho same as iu tue case of silver 1 weddings. There are now great-grandchild- l ren as weli es gTendchildrea present, and the l old people open the ball with the eldest of the | last generation Of their decendants-PaEis l Cor. Boston Transcript