Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1887-12-04
ARE WOMEN JEALOUS?
Ella. Wheeler Ssys IL They Are, 1t is the
Fault Of the Men-Enyy and
Jealousy.
Love Bsgets JeaIousy-womsn Made to be
Lsvsd, Petted and appreciated by Man.
Busy Women Seldom Jeaious.
Copyrighted, 1857.

sre used IS synonymous terms, and con-
founded every day by able speakers and
writer's. Yet they are as unlike as wild
animal snd an insect.
Jealousy is often the misbehaved child
of noble parentage. Eavy is always base
born and plebeian. Jealousy often suffers
untold agonies in silence, or strikes bold
blows in the face. Envy stehs in the
darkness and behind the back. jealousy,
TO be, must first look in the face of Love.
Envy can exist without ever having looked
beyond its own reflection. Jealousy may
spring from Interpretation envy must
spring from eelf-adulstion.
l heard it once remarked Of worldly
belle who cou-ted admiration, but
laughed at love, thst she was g strange
paradox; she could not love, yet she ex-
hibited Intense jealousy if any Of her
numerous admirers bestowed the least
attention upon other ladies'. This was
but another illustration of the misuse of
the word. The selfish belle had never
known love, therefore she could not
know jealousy. She was simply envious
Of the power which any woman possessed
to draw her +mirers from her side. She
desired to be a rnonopolist in the affairs
of the hesrt-s Jay Gouldess in the 0f-
fectlonal market, and she resented the
Interference of any small dealer or dab
bier in the stock of love.
Men exhibit this sort of feeling to de-
gree, though their broad and busy lives
prevens them from carrying 1t to the ex-
tent which mars the progress of woman
everywhere.
1 have heard physicians OF excellent
nf0 ND nrr oh 9TH
musicians are VIGOROUSLY envious of one
another; authors. actors, and even bust
ness men, often forget that the world is
WIS never obtained by pulling down an
other man.
But this feeling which takes root in
self and directs its venom towards
other peoples achievements and
possessions is not jealousy. 1t
is only foolish envy-the meanest
attribute Of the human mind; the little
fox which spotls the vines, the rat which
under mines the wall of noble charac-
ter, the moth which destroys the beautiful
fabric Of the soul. II is the child of sell
fishness and the companion of hate Jeal-
ousy is the unworthy child of love-a bad
child, who ought to be governed and
chsstised before he works haIm to his
parent.
Love may exist without jealousy, rs
man may live without offspring. Bat
jealousy cannot live without love any
more than an infant can be born without
parents. As the rule of the world Is that
people beget offspring, so it IS the rule
that love begets Jealousy.
II women are more jealous than men, it
is only because they live more wholly in
the atmosphere Of love
| There are two rare types of woman
who are never susceptible to jealousy.
0ne is the perfectly humble being, utterly
devoid OF individuality, who lives in
state OF wondering Amusement that she
should be the recipient of her lovers
least regard. She Is grateful for q smile
and overwhelmed at word Of praise.
SIZE finds greater joy in loving than in
being loved, and Is faint echo of the
masculine mind in all her opinions
and ideas. She is willing to be
the mat beneath his feet, to eat
the crumbs which fall from his
table, to do his m)ss menial labor
She has the nature of q serf, the devotion
of dog, and IL he neglects her for other
women as he usually does) she never
com plains, as in his will she finds her
only pleasure. Her nature s mild, patient,
and constant, and devoid of passion and
intensity.
The other type of womsny no knows
no jealousy is quite her opposite. She is
radiantly hsppy creature, full of self
confidence, egotism, and satisfaction.
she is pleased with life and with herself.
she loves deeply, and demands SO much
as she gives. She expects TO be told
every day that she is the most
adorable woman on earth, and she
is sure to convince q man of the
fact. 1t never enters her happy head that
another woman could be as charming as
herself, or that she could be displaced in
the affections of any man she loves. See
is woman who has been accustomed to
love and admiration all her life, and she
knows how to keep her lover interested
and amused. She is sure thet he finds
other women dull in comparison with her.
self, and she lends him freely to her
| friends, certain that he will return gladly
to her.
The msjority of women who lead
monotonous existence live in their imagi-
nations and grow morbidly sensitive.
Many ia man ruins the peace of his
household forever by neglecting to speak
the word OF praise which his hungry
hesrted wife hes yesrned all day to hear,
snd bestowing 1t upon some chance caller
or stranger.
The man who fails to notice the care
full toilet his wife has made for his sake,
and compliments The good taste in dress
exhibited by some neighbor, sows the
seed of jealousy in disappointed heart.
Woman was made to be loved, petted
aud appreciated bY man. Whatever else
she may achieve in life, she feels herself
cheated out of her birthrigh. unless this
happiness has come to her. She is jealous
Of whatever and whoever NAV stand be-
tween her and that desired Joy. 1 have
known two mothers who were Jealous of
their own children. Unnatural and ter
rible as this may seem, felt the greatest
sympathy for both women. In each case
The husband utterly ignored the wife for
her offspring. She was o secondary con-
sideratioD, neglected and rebuked where
the children were caressed and appre-
ciated.
heard q woman who was grand
mother remark one Gay that she would
never have lived with her husband an
hour, If he had once told her that he
thought smother woman beautiful or
Interesting. Poor man! of course such
thoughts had entered his mind, and with
what secrecy he must have guarded them
all those years!
Jealousy of such petty type as hers is
surely the dwsrtted and imbecile child OF
its parent. The woman whose life is full
,1f cad vsahl Att Nnco rrix-