The Memphis appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1886-1890, 1887-07-17
WHEN SHE IN ENGAGED.
How q Girl Ought 90 Act when She
Has ecepted.

Harper's Bazaar: Society is very
much TO blame for its readiness to
declare an engagement of without
sufficient reason aud to circulate
rumors prejudicial 10 the gentleman
IL an engagement is broken. This
has often led TO the final disruption
Of relations which otherwise might
have terminated in a happy mar
riage. Unfortunately in an age Of
gold, money has become an important
factor in modern matrimonial en-
gagemeuts. But plenty Of young
hearts find each other out, and, de-
spite the woes Of civilization, the
good old fashion OF marrying for love
is not yet extinct. Once engaged,
the happy pair should avoid all pub.
lie demonstrations OF affection, OK.
cept that they may walk together
arm In arm, aud the young lady may
drive out with her affianced with a
servant behind. She must not, how.
ever, 70 10 the opera or theater with
him alone; she must have q shaperon
IL she would consult the prejudioes
Of society.
An engaged girl should not take
on airs. Some assume n different
manner when engaged;
Diidain an scorn ride SPARKLING IN her eye,
MispriIlnf What they look on aud her wit
Values herself 90 b rhly that 10 her
u matter else seems weak. she cannot love
Nor take no shape MOI, protest Of affection.
She IL 90 telf-tndeared.
She has the air OF a victorious gen.
eral who rides into a captured city.
Fortunately. such conduct is not
usual, but Il is by no means impossi-
bic. Then, again, m engaged girls
conduct toward the family into
which she is about TO enter should
be most amiAble AID respectful.
Some women have but TO smile and
bow TO conquer the world there are
others who must study long and
patiently TO achieve a good manner.
The worst manner IL born Of coarse
indifference and a self sufficient AFRO.
gauce. Breeding, cultivation and
manners come from the heart aud
mind. She is the precious daughter.
in-law who comes into family
bringing all these as her dowry;
who treats her isture family with
even more circumspect politeness
than she would her own; who il 80
enchanting. 80 sympathetic, that the
family do not wonder that Charles
fell In love, aud thoy all welcome
this new addition with almost the
enthusiasm Of a lover.
When an engagement il announced
the family Of the lover all call on that
Of the lady. The announcement
should come from the mother Of the
gentleman, as soon az is convenient
aud proper there should be an inyi.
tatiop extended by the family Of the
young man 10 that Of the young
woman. She then becomes an auto.
crAt; everything Ia referred to her.
She goes out with her future mother
in-law or sisters, and is one OF them
In fact. though not in name; she eau
visit them at their house, but she
must never travel alone with her
lover. Our language Is singularly
deficient; We have no word TO repre-.
sent 6snce aud hancee; my
daughters engaged" is a very awk.
ward phase; my daughters beau
is old fashioned; my daughters
young man" is very countrihed;
my daughters lover is scarcely a
proper phrase, 80 We have 10 beat
about the bush unless We adopt the
French word, for the sake OF conyen.
ience, We will nov use.
A hancc gives his fance q ring,
= diamond generally, ora ruby set
with diamonds. He may also give
her a sapphire or Turquoise. The
etiquette 10 be observed BY a young
man toward his future bride may
safely be left to the intuitions Of his
TO heart.
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