The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1887-06-24
AN INDEPENDENT" MAN.
Married Existence in Boarding Houses
~ Means of breaking Down the Real
Eelicities of Life.

Married Existence in Boarding Houses
~ q Means of breaking Down the Real
felicitiss of Life.
Nothing is more usual in New York
than for the man Just married 10 take
his young wife to no other home than a
clearinghouse. He does it with the
most laudabie intention in the world,
and with the fixed determination TO GO TO
housekeeping Just as soon as his i'm
proved prospects will justify him to in
dulge in an increase of expenditure. At
present it is so nice TO sitdown to the table
without any harassing fear Of butchers
bills. no wranrlc with unframed servants,
no fear of a mother iu-law's superior Wis.
dom in household affairs putting your YER
dant experience TO the blush 1t is SO
pleasant to go Of just when you feel like
it, on little flying trips to the country. or
visit to some friend, without a single
DOUBT or care behind. You can calculate
Just to a nicely what yourexpenses amount
to, and consequently, indulge in many and
uujustifisble little extravagances which
had been a great deal better bestowed in
a more useful cause. And, SO. at the end
of the year, though intensely weary OF it
all, you have drifted into this irrespoIsr
BILE, py-go-lucky kind OfeXistence, with.
out any more definite course Of action than
whea you first started.
Your wife, deprived of all those charm
ing little duties which constitute the chief
pleasure Of a married woman's life-those
nice little plans for beautifyiug and embel-
fishing her home, in which her faculties
for the comfor Of her surroundings find
full scope-has either grown inert and list.
less or she has found other interests with
which to occupy herself. At the best, it is
a vague, purposeless, dragging along Of
one day to another, in which routine has
70 part The most important task OK
her life is how to kill time most effectually,
or to dispose Of the day in the least tire
some manner. Her proper vocation is
m ssing; she knows no other duty than
that of self indulgence, till, finally, when
the time arrives for you to give her a
home, she has lost all inclination for il,
AMI prefers TO live on as she has begun.
Perhaps, after this, the cause for so
many divorces is not far to seek. There is
no country in the world where people have
SO little veneration for their household
gods, as in America. The most luxurious
and elegantly appointed homes are broken
up-geuerally for the most trivial reason
in the world with the same facility as
one would fold up tent, without the least
IA WIN VIC enooS1AA
and one familiar objects, endeared by long
usage and association. Thus the ruling
power receives fresh impetus from year
TO year. and there is no fear Of a decay Of
its supremacy SO long Is people will not
recogpiz, that the chief welfare Of q
nation depends upon home influence and
association - to the wife the home;
to the husband the task Of pre-
viding for it II the former shirks
her part Of the marriage contract,
it is surely excusable in tho
husband to shirk his respon sibilities. Tns
wholesome influence OF numerous obligs
tons. The necessary sense Of weighty re-
sponsibilities, the benefcent restraint OF
home ties and duties, have no part in his
life The edge is taken OF his ambition,
because the chief incentive thereto is
missing. He is q regular nomad, with a
nonsd's idea Of life. Its obligations and
duties press but lightly on him, and he can
pitch his tent wherever he pleases. rs
landlady is the only person he fears. be-
cause on her depends his material comfort.
That is why he alternately cajoles and
tiatters her, meekly bows his head under
her coarse despotism. abisctly sccedes
to her extortionate demand in raising
him" submits to the most humliating
impeftiuence from the servants, and, in
short lives perpetual life on safference,
while vainly trying to delude himself into
. belief that he is freeborn man and a
independent citizen--N y Graphic.