Telegram-herald., 1887-05-01

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la tas pubAc mind against
fspetl.8as OF tbe marriage relation
3Jcis humorous people ID the nsighbor-
iuE s.4ts Of Wisconsin expressed this
prejudice ia bref language. which may
serve vel O. illustrate At place called
Beaver Dam lived lady who married two
husbands la rather quick Succession and
survived them both Ihey were bnriel
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mark 'hsT resting pace. upon which she
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liere s la!i two husbands. oy widow tsrsn,
1eoFge o. ths right aud Henry Ga the ieit.
I2xiug advantage 0t her absence the wags
aidsd snaothsr eoaplet.
Ard s. prFchtnee sac shoull have two more
sac mls1l pant cn8 behind and The other before.
Very many OF the Arguments which may
ce advanced against the custom OF public
weddings souid apply With equal force TO
lavish expenditCre and oyer-Gisplsy. The
tendency OF public customs should, il
siaDtial bat Tor 81 least quarter OF =
century past. it has been otherwise in por-
ti0ns 0f our country. We have made de-
cldsd progress toward the hollow. the de-
ceDiiys the eyanssccnt. limitations have
been siuiOst the rule. and this has particular
application 20 weddings. Perhaps IN gar sh
splsndor the marriage some thirty wears ago
in New York OF Miss Bartlett the daughter
of a nAvsl officer, TO 80 aget Cuban Crlesas
ecliDsed sl 0thers-it having been styled
the diamond weddine" on account of the
wonderful Jewels the groom gave % the
bride. This occasion iirst brought Edmund
Clarence Steadmsn then y young reporter
on The New York Tribune, into notice IS a
pces and lei 20 his challenge 10 fight duel
oy acoasin Of thsyoung aud beautiful bride.
Tho bu. a caild recall the just irony OF
Stsadmaus muse, and give you a sample OF
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'rsn 70 one, aud III 60 Il alone.
Tali those who i've on a rag aud bone
viii fsre Tue 8est wncu thcy come 10 come
ON the other side OF Jordan"
Siucs then, with the era Of suddenly ac-
Quired fortunes, We have had many Affairs
0f the kind, perhaps not as splendid, or as
well ordered, bGt with similar reckless ex-
pen1iture-similaro osteutatious display. The
ate war with its wonderful outlay OF money
secured lSrse fortunes 20 many people.
legna, the opening Of rich mines. vast rail-
road enterprises and the Developments Of
business ia lumber and other resources. all
have operated % make long quarter-cen-
tury field day tor the newly made rich IL
may be accredited % the generosity OF these
fOrlunatss, that they have indusiriously
sought ways and means OF advertis-
ing their success and that those
-avs end means have not always
been refined and well-bred is not surprising
where they had so much TO learn and so
many and unaccustomed cares and rcspOn-
sbilities. And some OF their weddings have
been semi barharlc in splendor, and have
led many very well-meaning but less
fortunate ones, in q financial sense 10
ADOPT cheap limitations. For the rich
and costly decorations OF church Or home
where the nuptials were celebrated. the
imitators substituted borrowed or leased
ones for their elegant equipages, hired
2 as have been substituted; for their solid
gold and silver plate gwen IS presents
spurious thinly washed imitation has been
made to 10 service, for munificent Subsidies
10 the public journals invited to print glow
ing accounts. long drawn out, the enter
pr!sing reporters have been anxiously cul-
tivsted and gorged with Gil sorts OF induce
meuts 10 stomach-acie and dyspepsia, for
he bridal Journeys in special cars and pri-
lands. tie imitstOrs have hied themselves
OF into towns so rural that the public
couldn't discover them there visiting their
relatives. IL IL diaicuit % say which Is
.etst de.i7abie-sn outlay of funds which
cannot be afforded, or a pretended outlay
which IL a hollow cbasm-ether will gcner-
al be condemned aud either might with
great propristy be avoided for there
is a. much difference between the imitation
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there Is between the gO0dy- -goody man and
The good man between the merely polite
man and the gentleman. Many a couple
have been married in an expensive way aud
redaced % the extremes Of poverty within 4
short time; many couple have expended
of had expended for them, sums sufficient
20 establish them in comfort: many sac
/ ridce bas been made Tor such short lived Oc-
I cas.ons which has csused misery, suffering
/ sud tishon0r of financial obligations all be
/ c1uss these occurrences are not conducted
/ on the ssnse common sense principles which
/ lssl people 20 do Just vhat they think best
/ With The zfsirs which most concern them
I selves Bar perhaps the most aosnrd OF al
4 customs is tbs bridal tour. IL is a relic os
oarbansnn ia sami-barharic times the
princess Vas conducted from her own couu-
/ try e. fhst ~ her future lord by reiinue ol
servants. with grand caravan ia grsst state.
J she was rscei ged with pomp and ceremony
+ From this grew up tne custom Of bridal
/ tonrs. 50 - satisfy fbis custom two per
s1Ds must depart their Own homes. b.
I llr0rn too constantly into the society ol
each - ef a. fhev have never hecn before
( f1rue3 a. it yer. into becoming too sudden
f iF aware ol each others peculiarities and
f ssz ee1hie traits. subjected 20 the Cna
+ cisus AMI remsrss of people who vii prT
intg heir Affairs faF enough 90 ascertain
I tasY a.. newly married b Nhirled on thsii
+ Journey Tltn haste they are usually un.
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