Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1887-10-13
RELATIONS-lN-LAW.

The Qualities Most Needed to Make
Family Life Agreeable.
One of the first questions asked of a
| newly-made bride is how she likes her
husbands relations. and If eircum-
stances compel her to take up her
abode with them, the question is usu-
ally a sympathetically plying one.
Considering the frequent disagree
ments we see in families it is hardly
surprising if we see occasional
troubles among those of different
blood. and often totally different train
ing. The patriarchal system, while it
| would give unity to the nation, is not
without individual objections. 1t is
| the hardest of all lessons to learn to
accommodate ones own angles to the
angles of others.
When a newly-made wife goes to
live with her husbands people she
| often loses sight of the fact that she Is
simply daughter of the house. with
no more than daughters privileges.
| In the flush of her new dig
| nifty she is apt to for
get that she is simply on the same
| footing as her hus bands sisters. as far
| as the management of the house is con-
| cerned. While she should aid her new
mother by every means in her power.
she can not expect to give orders in
| dependently. but submit to direction.
No household can be success with
| two mistresses, and most assuredly it
is the part of the younger to defer to
the elder. though it may not always
seem pleasant duty.
Really and truly we don't think any
| thing is more difficult than to live with
relations-in-law. Even where they
love one another, there are so many
little traits and peculiarities viii CHI
cause internal vexation, if the jarring
elements never come to the surface
There is no remedy for it, save ever
present patience and kindliness; and
the model daughter-in-law must stand
| aloof from family disagreements. She
| must never side with John against
Fanny. or throw her weight with her
| husband in a difference with his
parents She must always remain
! neutral, or she will widen breaches in
stead of healing them.
We believe that some of the squibs
! and jokes scratched on the walls in
Pompeii make fun of the mothers-in.
law. This estimable member of society
has been an object of derision of Gen.
turtles, just as if it were our fault that
+. we become mothers-in-law under some
circumstances. Many mother-in-law
| is as self-sacrificing as a mother; many
| n man has reason to bless the woman
| who stands in that relation to him.
There may be scolds and mischief.
makers among them. ut they would
display the same Objectionable trai is
in any other relation. The implied
dislike to mothers-in-law is about as
reasonable rs the dislike for those I'M
appropriated blessings. old maids
We can hardly wonder it the loving
! mother shows anxiety for the happi-
ness and comfort of her married dar.
ling. The mistake is in regarding such
interest as officious. This is a mistake
on the part of the son or daughter in
law; and the mothers mistake is in
thinking that her child's household
! can not be comfortable without her
constant supervision. A young house.
keeper is very tenacious of her dignity:
she likes the pomp and circumstance
of domestic management and the
young man just advanced to the proud
position of husband feels all the
dignity of the patriarchs vested in his
person. So. perhaps. the qualitie:
most needed among relations-in-law
are consideration. kindness and dis
Greet tongue. If only we all possessed
these qualities what golden age we
should enter upon! - Rural NeU
Yorker.