The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1885-1921, 1887-02-09
WOMAN AND HOME.
HINTS ON THE TRAINING OF
CHILDREN IN GOOD MANNERS.

CHILDREN IN GOOD MANNERS.
What $40 Did in a Thousand Island
Cottage-The wife's Pocket NIoney-An
Honored TitIe-Don't Blind the Babies.
Paragraphs, Etc.
Some one has wisely said: "The teachings
of childhood are the corner stones on when
to build the foundations of character. Ii
these are laid in wisdom and faIthtulneSS, we
NAV look to see the superstructure rounded
and beautitied by the lesson of hfe's expert
euce"
The training of children in good manners
must be founded on respect and obedience |
But authority should be enforced by parents
without DESTROYING the self-respect of the
child. Every boy and girl has an innate
sense of what is just, and cannot listen TO I'M
kind words without first being wounded ana
then hardened. Nothing has 50 much power
Nth children as love. Be kind and gentle
with them: let them know how dear they are,
and if will be an easy task to control them.
They should always be governed mildly, yet
firmly, thus retaining their respect ana love;
and even very young children will learn TO
,,r,...d their parents displeasure through the
...ar OF losing their affection.
70 speak the truth, to respect age, TO pro-
t...t the weak, to be unselfish and forbearIng
Iii others TO be ashamed of nothing except
..--ony doing are the first lessons children
;,.I be taught and it viii then be easy TO
IA them IN good manners. 1t IS not enough
,,,ch simply: there must be the example of
lily life to enforce the lessons, and surely
,i...t,tive can make so fOrcible an appeal 10
"a, l,arents' heart in favor of selt-dlsclpIlhe
lie desire for the welfare of their children
~. * no sCuI so full of the graces of youth
.. the mother spirit that has gone through
I.,c,., and useful life wrapped III the love OF
li-r children. IN
= is best. in rearing large family OF chill
ION to give them as much liberty as Is COLI
istent with good management, and 10 make
-, few rules of obedience as possible, anu
then TO enforce those given to the very letter
oan,.oofs sbould never be- administered in the
presence of Others particularly to proud
lensitiva children as they do more harm IMAM
GOOD nv causing unnecessary HUMILIATION
The child who is thus respected by its mother
or father is very apt to preserve It's seIi-[e-
.pect through life, and avoid doing aughU
that would incur censure.
In training children in good manners,
,,,otbars often mistake an overflow of spirits,
81 natural Dlavfulness of healthy chlldhood,
fo, r,,deness. and in subduing and correcting
those seeming faults, rob the little ones OF
wholesome exercise and large snare OIL Cilo
sunshine of their lives There Is time TOT
DIaying and even noisy outdoor st)oTIS' Ch1O
develop the young muscles ana strehg Cilel,
the fast growing bodies, and children shouid
not he deprived of this privilege OF their
cbildhood The essential things to be taught
+ber, in DIav is to respect each others rlgnts,
to Drotect the weak, and to be lar even III
their sports Moral courage should be cuItl-
waited in children by teaching them always 10
say boldly and do bravely what they peleNe
is true and right, regardless OF consequence
1sThere is something knightly IN the hear1 OF
every bov, something helpful and woman!y
in the heart of every girl" and these quail
tics should be developed. The synpathleS Oh
ohi1dren are Quickly aroused, and can be
rohtlv directed to their great benefit
Pets are a great source OF pleasure
children and the possession OF them a"aiAeli
and increases the chtvalrous splrlU which on
Iaroes the heart and ennObles the character
IT, core of a dog. q lamb or goat trains
how in all that Is manly; while the pet kU6ei
or bird pives the little girl sense OF respoh
;hiIi+,, and teaches her kindness to the help
less. H., o-
rolling. and children should never De per
nitted to dispute among themselves Du'
49, are early taught forbearance and uI
I4;-t,,oSs in their cOmpanionship with eao
o+La,. This breach of good manners VIII neVe
ha the occasion of pain to the parents Man
ners acouired in childhood are usually It
tanned, becoming, as they do, part OF Oh
character. not to be put aside at VIII. Som
naran+s fancy that it is the duty OF teacher
to improve and form the manners OF Cnel
children. and leave the task to them rathe
4ban burden themselves with 1t, but all WIS
,,,oflers should know that home Is the De-
school for correcting faults and acquiring Cd
.alscon4f.0l which is essential to elegance an
ease of manner.
Few parents, however, ever ANXIOUS 1or I'll
welfare of their young families, comprehen
the Influence of companions for good or evl
Tho choice of children's associates should nevt
bn left TO accident, but should be CAREFUL
selected from among those whose behavior
in every respect becoming. Nothing Will
readily iniure the manners of even the mo
carefully reared children as the constant COZ
panionship of the rude and ll-breo N ,,
evil associates comes the influence OF poo@
many of which are dangerous III their &c
denotes. giving children false views ol u
and cont .ibuting very greatly TO 1ofI1l
manners which are neither becoming nor
trsctive in real life, though t1cy may SEEM
TO the youthful readers. But, while eFli III
result from indiscriminate reading, Whel ca
frIIv selected books may greatly AID a nlotl
in her efforts to cultivate pleasing manners
her. children-Mrs. Eliza r. Parker IN Oe
Housekeeping.
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