The Grenada gazette., 1887-12-31
euRDENsoME FRIENDS.
Ono oftho Most Depl0rable Results Of Too
Great Familiarity.

Ono Of tho Most Deplorable Results Of To,
Great Familiarity.
Somebody will doubtless exclain
that real friendship is never burden
and that only the resemblance o
friendship can become such. Blu
think moment. dear general woman.
You love your friend, You appreciate
all hcr virtues you quietly note and
forget her faults, you esteem her opin.
ion, but. oh! you do get so tired of her
insisting upon your presence at times
most inconvenient to you and regard
ing any refusal, though you seldom
dare to make one. as an intentional
slight to her feelings. That is what
mean by " burden of friendship.
Then Madame Candid is indeed
your friend; she loved you as a tiny
girl, she kissed you on your wedding
day. she believes in you and in your
husband; but you do wish she would
not ask in that peculiarly sym.
pathetic way: '.Now, my child. tell
mo how Charley and you are
getting along as regards mon.
ey.' That is your affair and
Charley's - something you will
talk over with him and with him
alone; but can you be rude to Madame
Candid? No; so you casually say,
"Oh vory WELL" and hasten to change
the subject The dear old lady feel.
snubbed; and yet you arc right. fol
she is imposing upon you one Of the
most Objectionable burdens Of friend.
ship.
Perhaps Of all people the Jealous
friend is the hardest to endure. A
letter answered sooner than hers, a
story book sent to another friend, a
bit of good news told first to some one
clse-any trifle is sufficient to bring
her to your side in tears. Such friend
cxhausts the patience of a female Job,
She usually lacks the common sense
to sec that one friend can not be every
thing to woman whose circle of ac-
quaintance is large, and that even
upon the strongest affection too many
demands may be made. Tho jealous
friend is usually quite interesting at
first, for she is emotional and profuse
in her demonstrations of affection;
but in time her disagreeable traits be.
come almost insufferablc.
To become an adept in the art of
'ricndship-if Friendship may be
called an art-one must be able to for
,et one's.self occasionally, to remem-
'er that absence makes the heart
,row fUnder." and 10 renli8e that con.
tant companionship, intense curiosity
md a gentle assumption of proprietor
hip will in time separate the most de.
'oted inseparables. A lasting friend
hip must preserve proper respect ,
hat will not allow itself to be imposed ,
pom; it must be sympathetic, but not ,
urious; loving, but not jealous; we'll I
peaking. but not talkative. Delicia ,
,ay be devoted to me. but she is not {
'r that reason obliged TO confide to !;
he world at large how much ! think Of ,
er and how I could not do without 8
er In the younger days Of this old g
lanet when people were few and the
hoice Of friendships necessarily lin. t
ed. such friendships might have ex. s
ted; but now the world will say that s
elicia and I are friends to-day and G
,quaintances Or, perhaps foes to- 0
0rrow.
A burdensome friendship is oftenest D
e result of two great familiarity; /,
I'd tho wise woman will see its danger +,
I'd avoid II, for it surely breeds what II
9 old proverb predicts for it-con. k
mpt --Buttericks Dclineator. A