Southern standard. (McMinnville, Tenn.) 1879-current, 1887-04-02
be left to two people who had no
community of thought or feeling.

be left to two people VINO had no
community of thought or feeling.
Ifyou see gentleman carefully adj
justing a sunshade for the lady at his
side, or STOPPING to pick up her hand
kerchief, or paying her any of the
little attentions so dear to the femi-
nine heart, you are pretty safe in say
ing that it is before marriage, and he
is trying to win the affection which
six months after marriage he will by
no means try so anxiously to keep.
That couple just before you who are
strolling so leisurely along, the lady
leaning atfectionately on the arm of
her companion, while he stoops with
the fondness and gallantry of court
ship to catch her lightest word, de-
pend upon it are only engaged, or at
best, recently married. A year after
marriage, if they stroll out together
at all, the chances are that he will be
two feet ahead of his wife, and she
will certainly not be on sufficiently
familiar terms with him to take his
arm.
This is quite as often the fault of
the wife as it is that of her husband.
From the very first, let your husband
see that you expect and demand re-
spect, and the chances are you will
get it. BE as good a wife as you
please, and study the comfort of your
lord withtender care and thought, but
do not wait on him hand and foot, or
he will soon take your loving service
as a right, and you will not even get
a servants thanks for it. We do not
say this of all men, but almost any
man may be made such an one by Il
slavish course of treatment.
1t is tiresome fact to reflect upon
that one is obliged to train and dis
cipline ones husband, but it is never
theless fact that must be looked
squarely in the face. You have not
even the advantage that you have
with children of beginning young.
You must take them as you find
them. Self.reStraint is something
that both sides must practice if they
would have a pleasant home life. 1t
is a great mistake to surfeit man
) with domesticity in his early married
, life. A young wife should not insist
on her husband giving up allh male
: friends and all the pleasures of his
bachelor life. Keep your place as
} the companion of your husband, but
do not forbid him all other compan-
: ions. Ones dinner if composed OF
: all sweets would hardly be satisfacto,
ry.
If you find by experience that YOU
husband is apt to be little cross or
returning home from business, dc
2 nothing to rutfie or annoy him and dc
t not attach too much importance t
t any little sharp speeches to which he
' may give utterance; at the same time
; DO not tremble at his lightest word
t and claim all the privileges for your
e self and your moods which you &C
: cord to his.
o OF course, patient reader, you hav,
$ set me down for IN old maid, bu
It alas speak from sad experience, TO
n nearly wrecked my own life ant
o almost spoiled one of the best posi-
; bic husbands by over-indulgence o
| his whims and over attention to hi
l wishes. Fortunately for both Of us
d a friend who was not blinded as
h was by love, opened my eyes to tn
r evil of my ways.
is think, too, that mothers owe it t
e the future wives of their sons to teacl
y those sons the courtesy due to lady
d If affection for you does not promp
o your son to pay you those little at
G tentions which every gentleman
If should pay to a lady, demand then
it from him as your right. Make hin
e feel that you expect them just Il
s much as he expects his dinner, o
. that his socks should be mended ant
k his buttons sewed on. He will valu
/, you more highly than if you hol
$ yourself in less esteem. M. Il. 6.
- 1t Does Not Pay.