The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1887-12-21

IN danger OF throwing away her fairoSt 0p-
portunity TO secure true, solid happiness
just for shadow that shines to bewilder
and dazzles to blind" She begins TO think
that it is but prudent for her to wait until
her lover shall secure the means to enable
them to begin their life in as elegant aud
genteel style es her tastes under fashion
able training imperiously demand, or, at
least. as high q financial position as her
parents. after long years of toll, have at
tanned Just 90 their daughter arrives at an
age to be grated into another stock, for
getting that ''s graft should always be
willing to be graft, patiently waiting
until by legitimate growth 1t has made its
own top" and has become strong enough
by this patient waiting to vie with the
parent tree.
The young girl who, after engagement,
saws Il will not marry until my lover can
provide for me as abundantly at the begin
ming of our married life as my father was
able to at the close of his is sowing sor-
row 'for her reaping by ana by But
blessings will follow her who willingly
goes forth to help build up another home,
knowing that she may encounter many
difficulties, perhaps some hardships, and
may find cause for much self-denial.
While she carries into her new life all the
delicacy and refinement OF thought and
luxury and abundance OF her fathers
less prosperous, it may be straitened, cir
cumstances, and thus both together cheer
fully endeavor to build up O fair and
honorable position by beginning at the
foundation. 1t is the greatest folly to pro-
tract an engagement after the lover has
fnisht education and entered on his bust
ness or profession, until he shall have &C.
cumulsted sufficient wealth to keep his
bird in golden cage.
Begin your life's work together. That is
the true way, and all the sweeter and hap
pier if you begin small. The less style
there is the less of real wealth there is,
the more time and the more need there
Will be TO become fully acquainted with
each others complete character, and q bet
ter opportunity TO learn how to bear aud
forbear, to aid each to tone down or modify
such peculiarities as are in danger of dis
turbing mutual confidence and amiability.
1t is no blot or disparsgement that
there are some peculiarities-they are
found in all characters It is quite right
that it should be so. and If the same ten
derness and courtesy which was so easily
exercised In the days Of courtship, is, by
mutual consent or practice, carried into
married life, the early welded become
more closely assimilated, and find in their
union an ever-increasing happiness which
marriages of more advanced ages seldom
realize after their habits become fixed and
more uDyieIding.
But some young people say, Those
who know us now in our fathers house (if
that early home chances to be one OF lux
ury) would not stoop to recognize US If
they found us in circumstances beneath
those We now are known in. Besides, If
We begin in q small way, with limited
means, we Will be subjected to some coarse,
hard work, and thus lose caste among
friends"
Such friends are not worth regretJing.
Having outgrown babyhoOd and childhood
none can expect to be always Graded in
their parents arms. Those who are of any
real worth will cheertully accept the life
as they find il. Its rough ascents or
iioTery slopes" ii trod together and IN
love, will insure genuine happiness. We
often think one stores up quite as much
real pleasure passing through the rough
places as when walking among the flowers.
We know that the reiTospection is an uu-
failing source of blessed enjoyment.
Work together, plan together, select and
furnish the house or rooms together. Be
one in all home arrangements The less
| talk Of mine and thine the better We
are satisfied that my rights should
be erased from the dictionary which
governs husband and wife, and "ouT
| rights substituted.
But, Notwithstanding short engagements
| and early marriage certainly appear to be
| the most certain road to abiding hapDi-
ness, there are some cases which necessi-
l of dangers and uncertainty. Yet ii
each continue faithful, and sWerve
not from their plighted vows
until the circumstances which compelled
1 delay have passed or been overcome, then
: a long engagement almost invariably end:
i in very happy marriage. A love thai
has not been shaken by the long delay
| and usually involving long absences, ii
not built on sand, but on q rock, ovel
| which floods may sweep and the vino
threaten in vain. If young people were
trained to look upon an engagement as
| solemn contract as binding il Gods sigh
as marrisge, there would be very little
dsnger.
If in early youth, before education i
| completed, and some profession or EN-
ployment is secured, two meet and ar
drawn together, becoming devotedly at
teched, then the engagement, even If o
necessity ii must be long, is the wises
course. Any sacrifice is better than t
relinquish the first love. We firmly be
lieve in first love, given when the heart
young and tender, unstained by too clos
contact with the world and its bewitch
ing, beeuiling attractions. Such love, hor
estly given, and as truly returned, is mex
to q mothers love-the safeguard Of youn
men and maidens. This once secured, tn
world may spresd out all her devices eve
so skilfully and she will not break til
bond.
So, because the first young love is s
sweet, so strong, and, when faithfully M
tured, so enduring, we say, 'Lst it not go,
even if it can be held only by long Ell
| gagement.
/ Mpe HrNpv WApD RFECuEP