Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1887-09-22
WHEN SHE Is ENGAGED.
Pointr to be Remembered by Girl About
to be Married.

Harper's Bazsr.
Society is very much ito blame for it's
readiness 10 declare gu engagement off
without sufficient reason, and to circu-
late rumors preJudicial to the gentleman
If the engagement is broken. This has
often led 10 the flnsl disruption of rela-
tioas which might otherwise have termi-
mated in happy marriage. UnforIu-
nately in an age OF gold money has
become 81 important factor IN modern
matrimonial engagements. But plenty
OF yodns hearts lad esch other
out, and, despite the woes OF civilization,
the good cid fashion CT marrying for love
is not vet extinct. OQCe engaged, the
happy pgir should avoid all public de-
mons .rations Ct election, except that
they might walk arm in ann together,
and the young lady may drive out with
Der sfti1nCed with @ servant behind. She
must not, however, go to the opera or
theAter wish him alone; she must Lave 3
CnapeIon # she would consult the pEeJu-
dices IF society.
An engaged girl should not put en- airs.
Some assume different manner when
engaged.
Dlsdain and scorn ride sparkling in her eye,
MisprizinS wha' theV look on; and he
Valued herself so highly that to her
All matters else seem weak. she cannot love
Nor take no shape nor pro- Jet aor affection,
She is no self endearer.
she has the air OF victorious general
who rides into captured city. FoFta-
netely such conduct is not usual, but It is
by no means impossible. Then, agsin,
en- engaged, girls conduct toward the lam
! ily into which she is about to enter saCu!d
| be most amiable and respectful. Some
women have but TO smile and bow to con-
quer the world; there are others who
must study long and patiently to
achieve a good manner. The worse man
mer is born of i course Indifference and a
self-sutlicient arrogance. Breeding, cu!-
| tiVgtion and manners come from the
heart and mind she is the precious
daughter in-laW who comes into 8 family
bringing oil these as her doTry; VINO
trests her future family with even more
ciTcumspGct politeness than she would
her own; who is 50 enchanting, so sym
pathetic, that tae f.mily DO not wonder
that Charles iell in love, and they all vel
come this new addition with almost the
enthusiasm CT lover.
When en- engagement is announced the
| family Of the lover call on that lady. The
announcement should come from the
mother OF the gentlemen. AS soon as is
convenient and proper there should be 81
invitation extended by the family Of the
young man to that Of the young woman
| She then becomes an 0utocrat; everything
is referred to her. she goes out with hel
future mother-ln-lsW or sisters and /!
one Of them, in fAct, though not in name
she can visit them ct their house, bu
she must never travel alone witt
her lover. Our language is very
deficient. We have no word to repre-
sent fance and fancee; "my daughter il
engaged" in very awkward phase; "my
dnughter'5 beau is an old-f9shioneG
"my daughters young man is verl
countrifed; "my daughters lover" is
scarcely proper phrase, so we have L
beat about the bush unless we adopt Tx
French word for the sake OF conven
ience.
a fance gives his fsncee G Wing, dia-
mond generally, or ruby set with dis
monds, He may also give her aisapphlr'
or turquoise. The etiquette to be OBJ
served by young msn toward his futur,
bride may very safely be left to the intui
tons Of his heart.