Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1887-08-26
o,pRwoRsHIP OF WOMEN.
,a Girls to Do If Mon Refuse to
6bH Marry?

o-;.hin the 4ass
VIII me dissemination toward matri-
b9 ,9T Of the s'eFsge young society man
4 Of tbs Ci' serious problem, What shall
/ t1s Ts'! ri,h our girls? has been forced
ne 40 w attention OF many parents.
upon Nv sunnly of manageable young
TIE far in excess of the demand. A
siies l,,roited number has been ex-
5aT nnder favorable circumstances,
p0E.su. ,o msioritY OF the marriages !
l b1l tne girls with foreign |
Of a.hor thsn Englishmen, has not |
e!;i satisfactory. The titled French
proFeGr. .IIsn or. German who seeks an
ISL, :tsn bride is most frequently apt TO |
so.srLiSenced By other motives than those
&c IAN smstory. If the wlfe's fortune be |
Pn.s.! settled on her, the husband gen
:ac Ir 'ccIontrives to support existence with
sis.! will make himself scarce on con-
isI' . - n suitable allowance; #, how
t!'.yIs sr fortune is surrendered 10 his
t's.'; -it is not likely to benefit her long,
ssgP.Iis affection proba DIV follows the dis
81 -. .-snce of what chiefly attracted it.
sIE.'o principal causes have led to the
w.. in mstrimeny among fashionable
as.-.,Dr,5.be fashionable circles in New
D end to q less, though still to con-
lu., he degree, some of the other large
:.1'-- The first is the increased comforts
V =. diminished expenses of bachelor life;
s-1.scond is the oyerWorship to which
- b.ve accustomed our women The
w. Wv with which suites were Sc
80 in the first bachelor apartment
80 49, built in New York soon led to the
--.'.ton Of large number of similar
..-1ctures In these, suits Of two, three
"-,ore rooms can be had at cost
...Is exceeding what man used to have
new for one large furnished room in =
~sI situated lodging house. Some of
..ssa houses have restaurants attached,
- in others the occupants can arrange
IN the ianitor for the supply of light
.-ss5tsst.
The number OF clubs has increased al
.3s- proportionately with that of the
.-.r,ment- houses At his club the men,
~ finds an amount of comfort, often of
I-vnry. tnRt only an enormously rich man
.orld furnish for himself. Here he can
iinp and lunch at price that little more
,s,n covers the cost OF the provisions.
Many Of the clubs have sleeping rooms
srar the public ones, and thus offer eX-
,ep,ional advantages to bachelors. A
:i1gle man, with an income of $500 to
s3510 year, can live well and dress
we'll II properly started, he can have an
unlimited amount OF social gayety,and an
o,c.sionsl bonbonnlere at Christmas is
ii the return he is expected to make for
he irnumerable hospitelities received.
Now, suppose that he is sufficiently in
lore with some girl to be willing to CUR
render the greater portion of his little
,onfOrts to the desire to make her his
wife, is he likely to find her willing to
ucept hin? Most probably not!
and if she should accept him, have her
siucation and training been such as
70 make her q helpmate to him. Again
lie answer Is negative. In considering
5e wherefore of these negatives, the
second principal cause, before stated, is
naturally reached.
The daughters OF wealthy, luxurious
esTeuts enter into the competitive strug-
gle Of lsvishing thousands Of dollars or
balls snd dinner parties, because they are
in0ued with the idea that spending
money is the "be all and end ell" of ex-
i:.ence. Their position depends on
taeir not allowing themselves to
be 0utdressed, "outenterteined" or "out-
s,yetied" by any Of their friends. To be
less "in evidence" is IN their opinion, &c
sink In the social scale. To marry and
I've in 6 boarding house, or in 8 cottage
M removed from the sacred precincts OF
hslon, is anninllati1n No matter if il
were to be for only few years, while the
husband should be msking his fortune
.1ch descent could not be contemplated
The society young lady wants to begin
leT married life On 8 scale that hel
parents are ending theirs. Declining tC
recognize any other possibility, she has
never taken steps to learn anything about
domestic duties, and is entirely lguoran
Of the way to make dress or trim {
bonnet. she employs the most expensive
Of .radeSpeOple, probably spends double
VIA. an English nobleman's daughte
would, and wastes more on ice cream
candy and flowers than the entire in
come Of a working woman who hs
70 maintain the appearance of
Aly. II she goes to the theater O
opera she must have carriage, q corsag
2oCQuet, new gloves and supper after
RSFd. None Of her toilet must be seel
100 often, snd she must be registered il
Lie summer st some expensive resort o
g 10 Europe. Her parents pet and in
aage her in every way; her bachelo
fends adore her, and she receives almos
much worship as did god
cesS in the days of Greece AM
home. Very probably she i
.'etty, highly educsted, accomplished
0fsht and attrsCtive-a delightful part
LEI Tor dance or Irritation, and very
likely an excellent wife for an eXtremel'
.ea man. But ask her to come dow
ION her pedestal, to be the helpmate of
lsn OF moderate means, to cut hersel
"oSe from the acQuaintances that Cal
WY De kept up while she is wealthy, t
SaFe IN his struggles, and to rise or sin
WIN hlm, and she will, most likely, pc
E'ely and firmly refuse.
Is difficult to foresee what tn
:Enedy for this state of affairs will be
is unprecedented, because in Europea
sOuntries Glass prejudices have, as rule
sep! people, in sets. Mere wealth sci
.on suhices to move family out of it
U"sInsl set, and the girls are content t
Ilry anu remain in the circles t
Nalch they have been accustomed, with
WI trying to push themselves into highe
Yves II the proportion OF unmarrie
sSs continues to increase among Us, q
certainly seems likely to do, we sha
.Ioosoly find that the French custom {
N dot-which has hitherto been col
ssIefed n-American-will be the indis