New Ulm weekly review. [volume] (New Ulm, Minn.) 1878-1892, 1887-01-05
Does He Love Her.

caution. Journal.
Does He Love Her.
''If could only hear him say once,
just as he used to in our early mar
ried life, that he loves me, I believe I
could 60 to work again without feel
ing that everything is such a dreary
failure, y said a woman to me once,
writes Emily Bouton in the Toledo
Blade.
''You do not doubt his affection?"
I asked.
20, suppose he cares, but he never,
never tells me SO, she replied, with a
passionate sort of vail in the tones of
her voice. 1--WE just go on week after
week, eating and drinking, dressing,
working and sleeping, and that is all
there's oft. often think he would not
care if would pass entirely out OF his
life, for he never seems to notice what
do, never speaks one tender word to
me any more" .s
And yet he did care; but it was sim
ply q habit he had fallen into, and
unless shocked into a realization Of
what he was doing, the days would go
on and on. and the conviction of the
indifference would grow deeper and
deeper until the love would go out in
her heart Tor aye. And then it would
be toolate!
Ishall never forget the glow ofpleas-
ure that used to irradiate the plain,
stern face OF man I knew, at some
unexpected word of fondness or ca
ressing action from the wife he
loved, whose only sin was omission
from sheer carelessness. And then,
suddenly, he folded his strong arms
across the stilled heart, and his ears
were deaf to her voice, and her touch
had no power to awaken MIN to life
Then how she regretted the lost op-
portunities.
This is the cruel cross Of life, to be
Full yisioned only when the ministry
OF death has been fulfilled. and in the place
OF some dear presence is but empty space.
What recollected services can then
Give consolation for the might have been?
Surely the poet who wrote the lines
have quoted had a living realization
of the pain which ''the silences'' had
cost.
It is not only those that are welded
that forget to keep the fires of affec-
ton brightly burning by words and
deeds. The gay young girl, that
strong, vigorous youth, both full
of the luxury Of living that
health and animal spirits give, Oft
times forget the loving word, the ten
has beaten all these years full meas
ure Of hope and pride Tor their future.
When you feel inclined to be careless,
0, fair maiden and brave youth, and
to give more of thought and care to
those who havenot denied self foryour
sake, as she has done, remember that
the day is coming when you will
stand s'full visioned" beside her still
form, and thinking bitterly, if you
have q heart, OF the "mig have
BEEN
And yet it is not only young men
and maidens who forget to make
home hearts glad by loving words and
tender actions. Nor is this careless
ness confined to the home circles.
Friends hold fast to reticence, so far
as expression is concerned, Of their
kindlyfeelings toward each other. They
go on week after week, meeting often,
conscious Of the excellence OF which
they do not speak, full of kindness Of
thought, which may sometimes, when
chance arises, be put into deeds, but
too often letting ''silence" multiply
when 1T would be so easy and so
charming to break and tothrow them
away.
Be not chary of loving words to-
dear ones, nor OF pleasant, apprecia-
tive ones to those around you. 1t is
hard to tell what the influences may
be upon the future Of the latter, even
though they be not Of those whom
you have gathered into your hearts.
Faith in the present good, hope for
the future, courage to do and dare
these are all often inspired bya chance
expression of kind appreciation that
costs the speaker absolutely nothing.
do not mean that we should over
flow with praises that are meanlngless
or utter what is untruthful and mis-
leading, but that ne shall be alert and
thoughtful, that no moment when
kind words may be spoken shall slip
by and leave them forever unsaid.
We are all TOO prone to take things for
granted to live bg each other day by
day and speak OF myriad things, but
seldom say The, full, sweet words that
would have BROUGHT badness to the
heart and sunshine to the life Of those
who may peri seem to have the
least need of oIr minis tratioDs.