The Osceola times., 1887-11-05
The Little Things of Life.

The average man fails in life be-
cause he neglects what seems TO him
to be the little things, but which are
really important, not only in them
selves, but in their influence upon the
general development of his character.
This is often especially noticeable in
home life. Ifmany a man who is re.
+garded by the public at large As =
gentleman should act half rs ungen-
tlemanly outside of his home as lie
does inside of it, he would be utter
ly despised. 1t is unaccountable
that people should so frequently for.
get the most common civilities in
home life. Words are spoken to
wife, children and husband, which
the one who speaks them would no
sooner utter to q business friend OF
social acquaintance than he or she
wonld vu, on the right hand. The
effort made to please each other in
the home circle is often even less than
man makes to please his horse OF
his dog; and when such conduct is an
alyzed it is not only found to be un-
gentlemanly but absolutely coward.
". The reason that an ungentle-
manly man at home is not ungentle
manly in intercourse with the world,
| 10 because he does not dare to be SC
with strangers. He is restrained by
the fear of making enemies and thus
,njuring bis business, or from the fear
Of getting himself knocked down.
Ifsome men acted in their intercourse
with men as they act in their own
family, they would getthrashed forty
times day. But they are safe in
the family. There is nobody there
to thrash them. The child must bear
their harsh words and perhaps thri'
blows, because it is perfectly safe tn
indulge in them. Now it does no,
necessarily follow that man who is
unkina to his family is really bad
man, or that he has the least concep-
ton Of the fact that be is cowardly
He is thoughtless; but close alysiS
of his conduct will reveal a state OF
things that will be horrible to him.
In the family relation every "nt
should always be at his best. Tn.
home ought to be haven. 1t ought
to be as near as nearly heaven NJ
possible on earth. There should be
no purposely withered flowers abou'
the hearthstone, and no purposel,
olouded sunbeams. Sel6shness alone
ought to be sufficient to make home
conduct exemplary. Certainly al
want a pleasant home. Certainly al
want smiles instead of ffrowns. HON,
should be just one continual blaz,
of sunshine. But it cannot be Will,
some member of the family circle il
snapping and faslt-6nding and sci
hss. DO people ever 60 more delib
erately and insanely at work to max,
themselves miserable than they de
when they deliberately cloud th'
lights of the only place on eartl
where they have any reason to ex
pect anything like perfect quiet an'
happiness? But man who is a maj
; At home is a better man outside O
his home. We cannot let ourselve
J loose twelve hours a dav, and rul
J wild, and not be more or less loos
, and wild the other twelve hours
! We are too much creatures of habi
for that; and though wa may pass 70
gentlemen in the world, we shoul
be much more gentlemanly and con
silerate If we were gentlemanly an,
, considerate at the 6reside. Then tn
influence upon the children is mat
: ter of great Importance. 1t is bin,
: father who does not see his counter
part developing in his child. Hi
speech, walk, sentiments, oddities
everything are copied; and it is JUS
a perfect wonder that mankind is q
noble as it is when we consider tn,
widespread thoughtlessness, to call I
BY no worse name, 10 our homes
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