New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1887-10-23


There are thols1u Is of country yet in WI, city
likc-hOmc, IN tie sIhIrh, ot oar itr-" c.tle, today
where twenty years ago they msht L2'" Decu M u"i"l
By tens Nor l. this only the natural effect from tIc
Of ever increasing population. We are lcdLiug
sweet mt. ho do. life that Of I!giiul l., ro.. DO
% certain extent amidst the rash an push AMI
crush OF American business. We are tircl OF seeing etr
lace ""' "~-'' us III Ia, c!oNlV' III mo- o" -
moro tuNlouS. more sharp more rnrc>iu than tic Last
enjoyment without untold riches are realizing moro
AMI more td nncuse fortunes are nor the only emf of
made pleasant u comfortable Income, AMI We gather
friend, about to be happy together. For certain
csi IN he
II aamttc,l of course. that for any standard or de-.
large IN The United states a, in l.ncanL but orr
country is ton large too young 10 have developed all It's
they have done 10 cIch tic men OF space
there; aud must wait many years for this thing 10
baiance itself Meantime we are philosophical enough
10 kiss each JOY a. II IlcS.
rae ur,j thing one r,aizes being invited to m
time and stay unrl certain time. There l.
Indefinite invitation. Come AMI u.iEc Us Nis Murn-
over voa can, lclyln- on. win fccgtanty that one
would bee welcome. and very decided uncertainty.
should whenever one could. a. 10 whether ones
visit would not he very i-iimed 40: starts with
definite iLct AMI cin,c lueuty WITH something 20 lay
hold OF ami bc az about a knowledge naf one -
wanted at such a time .int for 20 Ong.
An EusllsnmIn hastily and correctly, from habit re-
nature aud replies NJ once thus I'm his turn giving his
host that certain oi Knowing shall be happy 10
come to yoi on The day You STATE, ana can aIl'ihSe 10
take or perhaps his host has suggested train II II
Is far ahead Ia sttc positively. ho adds viii IN
how Of INV r , RE ho, then i ready his plans
formed the guest i, SIRE OF hts welcome and the
visit starts oil Win pleasant ease. Ii be cannot 20 lac
declines a. promptly and as definitely. But when an
American receives such an invitation What Is us
course Very apt Is he to THINK: Ihat pleasure III
too busy 10 write today. Anyway must have "A Few
days to ink II over an the invitation Is pushed ASIDE
for a convenient season Meantime tue hosts arc
Uncomfortable and wondering WAY ,oHnl 80 does MOI
Wrio 49," ia and received our letter -" III We Only
knew that oO-and 50 could not come We would lnNIto
else" At last our American writes. Does 10
either decline accept Americans are positive
rdccabog business Dut where social life Is concerned
II Is only the women who are at all punctllOs no, no
Could reply 10 letter ut once, anu even
now certain II we can accept II; VIII let You
know IN few days, ar worse stu Don believe Mo
10 come on the 10TH How would no
25th suit YOU Fancy the of the host.
has asked one else for that date! Or again,
and tn shame be IL said this IS often done: CanOs
when you say but think can arrange II later VIII
let you know"
On the thoughtlcss assurance OF such reply paoseth
belief the people who make II are often. III other
thin the most unassumng PERSONS OF course II ~
Cu due to thong tlessncss anu tie habit OF tue and 10
regard social duties secondary and ununportant
Many AN American hostess has had her lunch table
half tue afternoon and her dinner walt an hOur 0r
the arrival of guest who agreed Ia cone but iOrgot 10
state the hour After ALL III life II Is tue niue Things
Witch constantly rub against the gram ana thc hoSts WIZ
are pat out and inconvenience by uncertainty can
glad the guest who causes sich annoy
ances he who says when he will come anu COMES
when he says. -. ,,,
that old ruc DO unto others rs you would ave them
do you" And Americans should learn TO be more
positive about these little things. BE sure 10
accept decline an invitation To a house ylst as
promptly AMI positively one 10 dinner ana 10 cS
nctly agree about the time OF arrival no materu
should the prove little more convenient 10 90
an hour or two earlier or Later.