Seattle daily post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, W.T. [Wash.]) 1881-1888, 1887-04-17
/ CHAPTER on HIQUET.
poiuting out the Secrets Of
Social Popularity.
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- novuIaFity Of some people In so
- fr5n the cradle 20 the grave, i
....~s.s-.ordinaYy. and 10 their enemies Il
!. s-srpiicshie. The French manage
49, lives by q perpetual p0liteneSs,
---seth;ng Can attention 20 little civili-
- whjch they call $ Ia politesse du
49,, and although with some patri-
~ neople there 4 no conventional
$3.50 80 hsin0us a. possessing for
- raanu.E namely: a manner
-fseh uune .ilioas 20 degree in points
u -SrelBoni,>ss.. 2siquet, and adorned
- grace and ease and charming
- vet does not affect 70 indicate
1900 ar 20 betray an absorbing inter
- 4. Is a. individuals. Yet IL Il q
- 40 manner for society, and Is
~ As Il Overaogs with the little
80 for ones ease and covers those
E,tIs Inequalities which we are apt 10
eall temper.
Eos. THAT Is temper7 II is the eli
usse n the yenal nature. IL may be
80 tropical thing that fiery, viva
s5aa, thing-which, like summer light
-. Jumps out and kills. IL may be
- insidious snake known a. the sus-
sIrsors temper. IL may be the nag
Iae ousrrels0me thing known as bad
fs-per. II proceeds directly from the
Ssolhs q the character. IL il inherit
n Ike cur features, but, like them, it
can b modified.
five must have any ungovernable
sha,ncferistic, = quick temper, easy to
mdden wrath and ready for repent
49,. Is On We must have one ungoy-
sruabie eharacteristicl the most 10 be
desired, for II passes away without
having any sediment behind It, and Is
loIl0wed By repentance which seeks
also 70 make restitution. The nagging
tempsr belongs, il is said, unfortnn-
ately, often 10 religious people. Good
works seem 70 encourage this temper
saint Philip Neri, the most amiable Of
eints. the learned and the noble head
a The 0ratorians. was so afraid Of the
ssHriRhte0usness which comes from a
eonsciousness Of virtue-hence the
weighing Of other peoples sins-that
he took constant pains TO mOrtiiy this
part Of bis spiritual being. Peoplear
apt 70 give the possessor OF this kind
d temper 4 very wide berth. They
may be perfectly Incapable of yielding
% What the world calls temptation, as
"No pleasant sins for me, thank you, -
seems written on their brows. Such a
person will not lie or steal, will nurse
he sick and be kind 70 the poor, and
vet viii have a rock which no Moses
has smitten; q nature as mereiless as
steel 10 the failings Of fallen brother.
Il s not always 30 with saints, how
eyer. Saint Philip Neri was a saint
With q sweet temper, but we have
Known saints who had nagging tenn
peFs aud who made life extremely un-
comfortable for the sinners around
them. There Is in the thus unfortun-
ale " consciousness Of virtue" a sitting
breath 10 the smaller graces and adorn-
ments Of an amiable character. Ego
ism, while il brings a great grist TO
the mill, feeding the brain with enorm-
oas energy and making a man or a
woman succeed because one must and
VII and shall be prominent-this ego
tsm i not an agreeable companion on
The upland lawn or in a country house
OF In society. An egotistical woman
does not get invited 10 the little din
nefs;" she il reserved for the formal
cnes Of twenty four.
In the world Of fashion temper tells.
BulWer wrote something about the
Masquerade Of Hate" as he called
society in London, in which he praises
the women who are born leaders who
vii rise 20 the top like bubbles on the
champagne, who must be women Of
hne temper, To be a hostess requires
this gift, for all people who come 20
one are not agreeable; but a life OF
fashionable experience Is sure TO teach
& woman that il she bears with the
dlsagreeahle she will reach the agreea-
be. These fne-tempered women are
occasionally tyrants, as was Frances,
Countess Waldegrave, who knew how
70 say No when asked for an invi-
tation; Tor temper. 20 be perfect, must
not be too yielding. That is a good
old comparison OF the tempered steel
which, tried in the fire, can be bent but
not broken. We know some rather
Grabbed old fellows who have come out
q the IRE little twisted, like the sa
hre de mon pere. but in the fight viii
still stand by Us. Irritahility. which
comes from the nerves. the health
should not be COMPOUNDED, however,
with temper.
The sweettempered people are the
dearest Joys Of the world. He who
has no personal Seliishness, who rises
70 give you the best chair, who reaches
ier the paper-kniie. who is ever ready
= sing a song, 10 play games. to make
himself agreeable on rainy DAYS. i ant
10 hea great tavorite in the family and
yst this temper. II too Welding carries
crave faults along with IL. George
EliOt, in her novel Of :, Adam Bede ;,
hAs traced the dangers which accom-
psny gentle, sweet, yielding eharac-
tsf Without principle Ii Is sad 10 be-
hsve TIA, The gift Of good temper
III not be enumerated as a virtue
eat me flowers which grow in this un.
ssedea garden persist in sending up
s,ier fragrance, In the beauty 81
NE lihes Christ was born across the
sea, and In this incense some nraver
~ heir forgiveness may reach
Temper, unfortunately. Is much At
NE merry OF circumstances II ear
e soured by adversely. by illness. and
esFeclaily by injustice. Ii can be inn.
I9Ne9 oy selt-discipliue and by adven.
aeoas circumstances. n Adversely
improves the average character. Il
rarely improves the temper. The i,,Si
nI'efed people, taking the average
aase hsd : happy childhood. ro,,d
aealth, moderate prosperity, a Fratffi
tauoh q NE sense Of their own intel
seVs0Ai and moral power such peorl,
~ iater m life, bear very great afffie
sens without loss Of amiahility. Rut
ns average temper il would seen
ealAt These early conditions were almost
essafy % The forgingo 81 an inyincihl,
ssa'ot which. when fully grown. is liz,
ne skin Of the armadillo. inperviou,
70 later shocks.
perfect temper is one which 4
80 tor holiday wear. also Cor rain,
S-ys Sir Philip sidney is sand 70 hav,
aaa such an one 80 aid the A,imira
&c NFichton, - did Mr.. Lincoln. hu
aey are rare. IL is AZ once n,
Naight, damAscened blade. ~upe-l
~ decoration, cleaning in the sun
me best ornament for holiday parade
snd again Il Is iron for defense m
ouiwark 81 the feeble. the Knight
right hand
As We have said they order thi
sing better in France Constan
pei'teness saves the temper We ar
~ alsarmed by an atssInp, 10 pleas
- and poiiteness outlxsts all the oshe
virtues
A torrent .ueens down the r,,,,.-