St. Paul daily globe., 1887-11-06
WONIAN'S LOVE.
Is it True That a Man May Win 1t
by Persistent Effort, No Matter
What She May Say at First?

Theodore Winton in Milwaukee Wisconsin.
Somebody once said-l never re-
member names-that any woman with
out a positive hump can marry any man
she pleases. l believe that any man,
even with hump, can marry any
woman he pleases."
A murmur of diSapprObation arose
from the petticOated listeners.
''And the only requisite is persistence.
with some little measure of Judgment. ;"
The murmur grew to a clamOr, but
the speaker was also woman, and a
very bright one at that. She waited
until the tumult of indignation and
ejaculation had subsidized, and then
preached us the following little sermon
from the above assertion as text:
''Of course, | cannot make this an
absolute statement, but it is very gen.
eral rule, and as such has no more than
the orthodox number of exceptions.
Once in while a won all cannot be
won by merely dog-like following; and
if two men chance to set their affections
on the same object one of them will
eventually have to yield-unleSS they
go to Utah inverted (thOughtfully); but
that does not pertain to the subject.
Usually man has but to get his eye
upon the goal, and then steadily pursue
it through thick and thin, veal and woe.
dcviating only enough to make food for
reflection, slowing up only enough to
! get header for fresh start, and some
time he is bound to get there. 1t may
take years. He may lead to the altar
anything but girlish bride, but the
game, such as it is, is his, and bound to
be his.
Not one woman in thousand can
withstand constant, enduring affection.
She may personally have no prediction
for the man, and her sense may be alto
gether OH the other side of the scales,
but if he tells her she is the one woman
in the world, and continues to tell her,
by words when convenient. by actions
always, he will soon have place i'll her
emotions that no other man has or can
have. In fact (cOnfidcntially) l believe
that wOman's love is generally nothing
but a reflection. Otherwise how is she
usually so enamOred of the man she
mates With? She has no free choice in
the matter. She cannot select what she
naturally likes and admireS, but must
take what is offered. Thus I'believe
that while man usually marrieS a
woman whom he is first attracted to by
admiration, wOman'S attachment has
very seldom that basis. After marriage,
however. the affection of the wife who
took him because he alone offered HIM
self is by no means less than that of the
husband who chose her from among
10000. On the contrary it is unques-
tiOnably deeper, more fervent, longer
lived. But it is not founded on the
same basis. 1t has its roots, not in the
mans virtues and attractions, but in his
feelings for herself. She adOreS him
because he first adored her-a tiattering
| illustration of our lack of vanity, you
see.
"NOw, my friends, none of you can
deny this. There is no one of you but
knows that the moment you find out a
man is in love with you he acquires an
| added interest in your eyes; when he
! vows you are an angel you discover that
| he has good taste at least, and when he
SighS he will die without you, you real
iZe for the first time, probably, what the
body polite might become without him.
! In short. if he is in love with you, you
are to a certain extent and perh; pS only
temporarily at first, in love with him
| but if his ardOr continues, since like
causes produce like effects, he constant
! ly rises in your eyes until finally-well,
| Pope was a defOrmed man and so was
Byron; you don't measure man by his
shoulders. But, girls, you never chose
humpback, physically, Intellectually
or morally. He chose you, and he just
kept after you until he got you"
AT this a couple of the virgin members
of the audience twisted their ring-sets
into the palms of their hands and
thOughtfully spoke of the fashions i'll
| paSSementerieS.