New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1887-07-17
SOCIAL PCSHERS.
Boston Letter to The Proridsaes Journal.

Boston Letter to The frorfdsnes Journal.
That the most humiliating feature of moderl
society is TO be found IN the articles of those who wish
to get onr in the fashionable world has oites
enough been remarked yet there is still room TOT
snobs will resort. We have had good many we'd
dings recently in the Deighborhood OF Boston, and
among other brides OF high social position has been
Miss r. family is rather noted tor ITS exclusive
ness When the invitations tor the wedding were
sent out Mrs. A., woman who is really devoured by
social ambition, not included in the list OF guests
She had met Mrs. x, and had somewhat overs:epped
the strict proprieties of etiquette In the manner 10
which she had called upon that exclusive lady Now.
she was doubtless much chagrined at not receiving
but she was by no means ready to abandon the field
On the dag after the Invitations went out, Mrs. A.
sent Mas E sss IN s pves s'e Of
select circle OF intimate frends, declared that she
would not have the present 1t was urged upon her
that she certainly could not return it..
But will not acknowledge it| she declared
angrily. r,u s..
putting yourself in the wrong You cannot be rude,
and especially to a nobody like Mrs. A."
III don't care" persisted the daughter, will not
invite her anyway. This Is my wedding, and will
have whom 1 please. She can't buy an invitation
with her trumpery old present.
Rat of coarse in the end, Mrs. A. was invited and
she appeared at the wedding with the AR ct being the
who knew the story but Mrs A. is clever enough tc
make tho fact that she there tell TOR good deal
i'm her struggle up the social heights.
pos,o" iady this winter to get to a reception where
she wished to appear. She wrote to the hostess to
had a LADY high in Washington society staying with
ber and that il las much the custom IN washing.
ton to attend receptions uninyted that her friend
had seen no improperly in telling some acquaint-
ances that she would meet them at this gathering.
Tbe note went on to say that as hostess the witer
Was put in so awkward portion that she had
ventured to lay the case before the lady giving the
ENTERTAINMENT, hoping that che would be willing to
send cards herself ahd the stranger On this occa-
slou the scheme failure The note was
ans ered merely by formal regret that the list OF
MIS- IS notc it was impossible TO comply with her
reouest The lady from Washington probably never
Knew of the use mads OF her nama At least she did
NOT present herself at the reception.
And speaking of the Washington vice OF intruding
upon social gatherings which has become 81 much OF
scandal that it 10 strange hostesses at the capa do
cards AZ the door lady OF that city told recently
of her own experience. 80
4 sent out invitations" she ssid q to 500. Any.
where but in Washington that would have meant
About twelve hundred came When supper was
served, mob precp itated itself on the dipngroon.
and OF course the unlimited were hrst on hand Not
very long after went yse to see that the wife of
Senator o. whom especially wanted 10 be polite to,
had something eat. The dining looked as if
1t had been sacked by atamished army l looked
about and said to her: Mrs. O.. there is a candle
on that table you are Russian enough to eat it and
over there is half orange That IL positively all
there was left and the caterer said was fortunate
that the mob did not carry off the dishes and the
furniture Party giving In Washington has coma to
mere opening your house to mob OF people you
wouldn't know tor the world, and tor my part am
sick of it, shall give dinner Parties hereafter. That
will take care OF the people most about and tho
rest must CO."
people do make frantic effort. to get INTO the proper
lets resorng to tricks too snobbiSh and to be
endurable or indeed. believable, did not one know
that they exist