Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1887-11-06
MEN OR WOMEN.
WHICH ARK THB FRUBST AND MOST UN-
SELFISH FRIENDS.
Rua WbsIsr Wilcox Diseases an Interesting Cues
6op-Visys Of Different WOneE-Sms Enter
taining AnscdOks-Hsa More Ready but
Women More Lss6ngin Their Affections.
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ecdotes and experiences were related. Ihe
msiority of unmarried IN expressed
ouite unanimously an opinion in favor oil
the men. The married ladies were less
o~utspOken, but the greater number Of them
were not enthusiastic in their faith IN mans
friendship for Their soepticism
m,vbt bs attributed to various causes.
Perhsps they knew the geaEs homo better
than their single sisters did. Perhaps
thew did not think il wise 70 encourage the
damsels in their dangerous even II T
theory.
Many On unmarried gIrl is blind to the
~virtneS Of women because she has not time
10 study then. He's horizon Is bounded
nv masculine forms, and she IL quite con-
tent 70 have il so. By and by, when she
concentrates her attention and interest on
one man. and the others disappear like
setting stars at the rise OF the sun, why
then she notices the beauty and fragrance
of those human howerS-women.
heard one young lady, who had fought
q sinVIe-handed battle with the world aud
achieved success, declare that the question
was not even open to discussion IN her
mind. -y-S0
~ think no one is q better judge Of the
matter" she said, than a woman who has
had to make her way IN life. L re-
ceiyei appreciation and encouragement
from men, when women gave me only IN
difference or neglect. Men predicted my
snceess- while women feared l would fail.
Men praised what they termed my courage,
while women criticised what they termed
my bOldueSs."
Another lady declared that she would
invariably 20 10 q man were she IN need oil
friendship or protection IN time OF trouble
0IfI were placed in u compromising SIT
nation. for instance, :" she said, p wished
10 copide in some one, and had only my
own words to prove my innocence, do you
tb;nk would trust myself to the mercy
of woman? No, indeed. And II l had
done wrong and needed n confessor and
counsellor. surely l would 20 to a man.
Women are so cruel to their own sex"
Al this iuacture / remarked that q man
would always protect q oma against
every man bat himself. he would deieno
her from the ceusoriOus comments OF the
world quicker than another woman would
and then spoil it AL by compromising her
name himself.
Hereupon q happy looking married lady
expressed her opinion.
t'You have all given your theories,
ouoth she. Now listen to my experience.
No girl ever possessed more Sentlemeu
friends than l. Nv career was q selt-made
and self-suppprting one also. l, too, found
men far reader with praise aud encourage,
ment than women were. Men p~rotfered
advice ard aid, while women gave it ii
asked. Yet as time advanced l found men
far more selfish in their friendship b
women were. The interest Of my most pla-
tonic male friends noticeably lessened after
nv marriage, and IN several cases turned
into enmity, while women regarded me
with Increased favor.
s'NIen whose respect aud admiration, IN,
mixed with any tender sentiment, / would
have sworn I bad won did not hesitate to
shrug their shoulders and Sneer when
made an excellent marriage and no longer
needed their occasional advice. | really
think a mans Friendship for an unmarried
woman = always, even il UncOnsCiously to
himself. selfish. While she belongs to no
one he imauines she belongs in some de-
gree TO himself. anil ~rsjolces in her pros
perity. When she belongs to another man
all this ceases Women are less enthusiasts
tic in the beginning, but their friendship
wears better.
Il don't know how it Is in the matter
of friendship" a Young lady intorpOsed,
''but | know when | 20 into ANY large
establishments shopping | always receive
better attention and more courtesy from
the salesman than from the sales-girls. ID
Idesira 10 he directed u another depart
ment in the store, always prefer to ask q
man, a. he is more willing and affable in
his manner
A Young girl who had once published a
little book aud sold it on the street to
passers-by said: Men are far kinder
hearted than women. Women looked al
me a. if ! was doing some dreadful and
improper act; men looked at me with
sympathy and interest. In any time Of
distress women look at yOu as if You were
living to them; men wait till they catch
you in a lie, and then tell you Of it.. They
forget and forgive q wrong, too, for sooner
than wOmeu do
HereupOn | remarked that once upon 6
time asked a favor OF 4 gentleman IN the
presence OF two ladies. The gentleman ex
pressed the deepest sympathy and the mos
genuine regret that he could rot assist ME
Both ladies voluntarily offered the sic
which l had not thought Of appealing FOL
to them.
Think if you can once remove all ide,
of possible rivalry from q wOman's mine
she makes a better friend than any maj
living. Tell a woman your successes anC
she may show jealousy; but tell her you
sorrOws and your failures and she IS moveC
to befriend you.
On the contrary, tell n man o fyour sue,
cesSes, and you win his admiring regard
while if you tell him your troubles, YOU
weary him.
One lady said she thought men wer,
more prompt and agreeable, as arule, thai
our own sex in their manner of b~estOwinj
fayors, and it was because they wer
educated to business methods. A woman
often wounded your feelings from no lacl
of kind impulses, but merely from ne
awkwardness in dealing with any mat
ter outside Of parlOr or kitchen. mar
ried lady said she quite conceded wit
the last speaker in regard to the bushes
methods Of the sterneT sex. rhereupol
she related her somewhat unusual q
perience.
81 was an artist" she said, and NJ,
studio was in the same building in whicI
an elderly professional gentleman occupied
an office. He obtained an introduction I
me, aud became greatly interested IN m,
work. He never once INDUCED in th
least sentiment toward me. HIS social an
business standing was excellent he Wa
unusually intellectual, and l quite prize
his friendship and valued his advice an
criticism. Several times he invited me I
lunch with him at midday, almost tn
only hour either of US had free fror
our work for social converse. He wa
many years my senior, and l saw n
improperly in accepting. Well, by an
by my prince anne and carried me away
wife. / had often written to him Of th
nice old gentleman who was so kindly il
terested in ny work. Imagine my humi