The Bolivar bulletin. [volume] (Bolivar, Hardeman County, Tenn.) 1865-1888, 1887-09-02
GIRLS AND BOYS.
COmmon-Sense Hints for Their GuidanOa
in Youthful Hours.

COmmon-Sense Hints for Their Guidanoa
in Youthful Hours.
Young girls rarely are conscious of the
power they exert over theyOung men with
whom they are brought into contact.
Their standards influence the conduct Of
young men while they are in their pres
ence, if at no other time.
A young lady who will allow loud and
boisterous conversation, familiar manner,
inelegant attitudes, careless reference to
church and church members takes down
the barriers that should be main tanned be-
tween herself and her gentleman friends.
It may appear that she makes herself
more attractive by this freedom, but it is
not So No girl is attractive to a gentle
man who does not maintain gentle,
womanly dignity, and by her attitude pre-
vent a slipping away from the incest con-
ventionalities of society. In the deeper
matters-things affecting life in its spirit
ual and moral side-a girl has greater
influence than she dreams.
A very safe rule governing the relations
between herself and her gentleman
friends for a girl to make is to never per-
NIT word, a subject of conversation, to
take place between q gentleman and her
self that she would hesitate to have
spoken or discussed in the presence OF
father, mother or brother, and this will
be no bar to pleasant entertaining and
fun making intercourse, but it will pre-
vent the use of slang, the discussion of sill
ly themes and trifing with subjects that
are, and should be, sacred to every young
man and woman governed by refined and
righte GUS principles.
Girls love pretty things as naturally as
| the bees love sunshine. 1t is not to be
| granted that boys are not susceptible to
| beauty in various shapes also; but to the
| feminine portion Of humanity comes the
| greater share of the love of the beautiful.
| In the home life, where so many girls are
of necessity kept until they are grown to
womanhood, the opportunity for beautify-
| ing themselves as well as their surround
ings is often lost because the father per-
haps, and occasionally the mother also,
| has grown to think that simple prettiness
| is of no possible use. They have out
4 grown their youthful thoughts, follies in
| their eyes now, and have learned to say,
| What's its usel to every thing new.
If 3 girl in her home life be allowed to
| rearranga the rooms according to her
! taste, to bring into the living room plants
| or simply her flowers, to occasionally have
| some new ornament, cheap in many cases
/ il may be, but have its newness a thing of
| beauty, and not have some one saying ::
| tits useless; it can neither be eaten nor
| worn"-she will take much more comfort,
| and care much more for her fathers home
| There are fathers who love their
| daughters-as we'll as they know how-and
! still they never allow them to think money
| or time can be spent on any thing that is
not in itself of some obvious use; they
! pooh pooh at the idea of flower bed; they
! object to vines on the house because they
are rubbish, and the idea of a prettily fur
! nished room, either for the family or for
the daughter herself is unheard OF
! folly.
When these girls go out from the barren
! home life, what wonder that they seldom
! know how to act in pleasantly appointed
! home and more, what wonder that the
| trusting, loving heart sometimes is too
| easily led astray through promises OF q
/ pretty honey r Herald.