San Antonio daily light. [volume] (San Antonio, Tex.) 1886-1907, 1887-03-25
Hints that Should be Needed.
EDITOR LIGHT:

Your correspondent made
several suggestions which the parents
Of marrisgeable daughters would act
prudently and wisely In needing The
habits Of young men either
qualify or disqualify them for
domestic life. Dissipation and
disoluteness In husbands are fatal to do
mestic happiness and occasion half the
separations and divorces that occur.
Where young men are dissipated and
dissolute, marriage is not likely to pro-
duoe permanent change In their habits
and without such change, their wives
will be miserable, perhaps be neglected
for . prostitute. Girls rarely have any
knowledge Of the habits OF the young
men who visit them, and too many OF
them, In the infstuation Of love, imagine
they will be able to reform their hus-
bands, and realize when too late that
they overrated their influence and UNDER
rated the tenacity Of vicious habits
when deeply rooted. The result is life
long agony and misery. The marriage
they expected to render them happy,
proves curse to them. The wife of a
druDkard cannot enjoy happiness.
In the first place, she feels herself de-
graded by the brutalizing habits Of her
husband, and no wife likes to feel she is
an object Of pity to her friends. Then
she 10 constantly uneasy and apprehen-
sive about her husband, fearful Of his
being arrested for being drunk-or of
his being crippled, or killed by some &C.
cident, or In q personal difficulty, and
this constant fearfulness Is alone enough
TO Danish happiness from her breast.
Drunkenness blunts all the seDsibilities
OF the man and destroys all refinement
Of feeling, even where t,does not render
husbands quarrelsome, harsh and
unkind towards their wives
which 1t most generally does.
A woman 10 stark mad who knowing
ly marries . drunksrd. Ii would be bet
ter Tor her not to have been born. III mar
rage does not render Q woman happy,
IL 10 curse to her.
No wife can be happy who has Just
grounds for believing her husband Is un-
faithful to bis marriage vows. Ifyounp
men are dissolute, they are not apt TO be
reformed BY msrriage-the old habits
will resume their dominion.
Parents should see to Il that Young
men who are dissipsted and dissoiute in
their habits and profigate In their man
Ders, do not visit their daug But
the enforcement Of this rule would de.
prive your daughters Of all male So
ciety you say. trust the case is not
neal, as bad a. that; indeed feel sure it
10 not; but granting that Ii is, young
girls would be benefited By being rid Of
the society Of sots and libertines, who
swing like pendulums between the sa-
loon and the brothel. Society owes IL to
ltself TO maintain the standard Of mo-
raiity and 10 enforce dscorum, and par
ents are the proper parties to perform
THIS task. Girls are untrue to them
selves when they lavish their smiles
upon immoral and dissolute young men.
Let sOoiety frown upon and sbuI ont
dieslpated and dissolute young men, and
this social quarantine will produce the
best effects, IL will encourage sobriety
and morality, and shame vice and profii-
gacy. Parents who pay no attention 70
the habits OF the men who visit their
daughters are grossly recreant to their
duty, and may, by this carelessness, rem
der their daughters miserable for life.
BILL.