St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1887-04-17
MEN IN SOCIETY.
why the Genuine Article is Rarely
Present.

New York Graphic.
How to catch men alive for social pur-
poses-that is the real question OF interest
10 the American woman, and very grave
question it is, and if they would drop their
meetings for promulgating the cause OF
womau's rights and for teaching the WIG
Africans to wear corsets and Tor urging Tue
Injurious effects of ginger-pop, anu really
give themselves up to considering inc io"
son WHY American men wont go INTO soci-
ETY. they would be acting 1ar more plactl-
csIlv as well as more sincerely. VI course.
II is easy TO solve ali mysterious social
nhenomena in this country by saying we are
a commercial people. and that answers the
nurnose to a degree in this case, but IL Is
t.rd tn see why that sad fact need throw
ouite such a deep gloom over our efforts aI
feStiyity. ,,,;r,,+
The Observer listened to two Drlght
women discuss the question the other uay'
and the Younger said: The great trouoie
with society. the reason large gatherings
are not successful, is that in the circles
know the right men and the right women
don't meet 20. that is always SO. l
never knew any circles in which they dlo'
said the other. But it is dreadful, per-
sisted Miss: lit is as hard on the one side
as on the other: the bright men VINO won
assist would certainly be glad 10 KNOW liie
women | know. but the women ! KNOW
meet, for the most part only lmposslple olu
buffers and boys at the literary receptions
and evenings they go to. L suppose, sue
continued, THAT it is better III Tue OK
tremelv fashionable frivolous society tiiaV
it is freouented by males and tenales vi .he
same Species" She had been readliig
Charles Reade. you see. .1
ssNot a bit of it, rejoined Madam, II
was talking only this week to young
woman who moves in that society, ana
who is so tired of it that she is all but ready
TO run away with the coachman. why
don't YOU have a good time" l said to her.
"A good time,' replied this daughter OF
sixty millions, does any one suppose
have a good time? Men! don't L see nice
men? / never see a man! Ships, SHIPS,
tell Won. are all that ever come to these
baIls.'n Now the question is, why 90
bright and entertaining men prefer slttlng
at their clubs to dancing with the daughter
of sixty millions, or exchanging badlnage
with a bright and pretty girl without de-
signs? All. there's the rub! Is she With
ont designs. or. that being granted, Is she
to be found at all when looked for? Inc
question of designs is a grave one.
The unpleasant fact is that our cl. CIV
ton has fostered habits OF pursuit Oh
the part of our females that have deVeiopeu
habits of WEAKNESS in our males; we are not
as bad in this respect as the English. but
then again neither have our men the COOL 9S
ungallant habits of self-protection of En-
glishmen. We are also too provincial III
our habit of attaching matrimonial signlh-
canoe to civiIities that should pass as the
mere courtesies and graces of ordinary in
tercoerse, and. thus the dangers to the I'M
married and manageable men in society
are increased. In some circles there IS
considerable and increasing class OF women
to whom marriage is not the paramount
political necessity it has been made in the
past, who are ready to marry when 1t
pleases them and not before, and are not
coerced by bitter necessity or fear OF soclai
obloouv. And it is a pity that their exist
ence could not do something to break down
the general view of women as always on
the matrimonial scent.