St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1887-03-06
Good Advice tnHusbands.

Don't expect perfection in your wife; the
pest OF women, as well as men, are faulty.
Don't depend on your wife to exercise all
the forbearance; it is equally the husbands
duty. You wooed your bride with tender.
loving words; don't withhold them from the
wife. Don't tell your wife that she has
no head for business" when she questions
you; little aid may enable her to develop
so fair talent as to prove useful in some
perpleXity. Don't read the daily
paper to yourself, chuckling over
the sharp editorials, but read it aloud;
your wife will enjoy them, though in the
press of daily cares she finds little time her
self for the recreation. Don't consider that
because you have married and given your
wife the great honor of your name, she
must be your willing slave; the honor Ie-
ceived is fully equal to that given. Don't
look with suspicion upon all your wife's
actions, but cheerfully accord to her the
same freedom you desire for yourself. Don't
transform yourself into a domestic
whirlwind or tempest if household
matters are not just In accordance
with your views; fault finding is poor
encouragement to do better. Don't quote
my mother. sister or aunt" as model for
your wife; very dear those parties should
be- but the wife infinitely dearer. Don't
forget that you sometimes may be mistaken
in memory or Judgment; errors do not
always lie on the wife's shoulders. DON'T
entertain the idea that your comfort
is the first and chief considerations
you are but one of the family. Don't
keep business matters from your wife;
ii she knows IN just what condition your
finances are, you can depend upon her dis
erection. Don't ridicule your wife, however
weak and foolish she may really be. how
ever vain or hOmely; you once made her
believe that she was infinitely more pre-
cious than aught else the world ever held,
and to you she should ever remain
so. Don't allow cloud to settle
upon your face whenever your wife asks
you for money; woman seldom
rushes, with her eyes open. into reckless ex-
penditure; but it costs something to keep the
pot boiling and the chill from the home at
mosphere, and even your wife needs money
in order to do this. Don't for one moment
forget that you promised to love and cher
ish, and that there is a deep significance in
those two words; they mean more
than the giving Of food and
shelter for those every wife
earns. Don't ever speak of your wife's
faults to others; as her husband, it is your
sacred duty to hide from and not parade
them to the eyes of any one Don't forget
that woman as swell as man is reasoning
and reasonable creature; she is just as much
accountable to her Maker and society
for acting in accordance with the dictates
of her conscience as is her husband.
Don't consider your duty as her husband
ended when you have provided for the
mere temporal wants of home; there are
other duties for which you will be held re-
sponsible. Don't forget that when you
are growing brighter and keener from
contact with the world, your wife
is spending her days without these ad-
vantages; if you desire to have her to keep
pace with you in the walk of life, special
pains must be taken to give her intellectual
refreshment and change. Don't repulse the
fond endearments of your wife, whatever
your mood may be; woman's nature is
such that it needs the sun
shine of love to keep it strong
and healthy. Don't call upon anyone-least
of all, relatives-for advice in regard 10
your conduct towards your wife; deal
justly, tenderly and truly by her. remem-
bering that in the presence of God and the
angels you have taken her for better or for
worse.