Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1887-12-17
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| From the Chicago Herald
A foreigner, who had been visiting in America,
went home and wrote book about US a. almost
| all foreigners do. fancy he could not have been
well received over here, for he cut us up most
edectually, and among other things said: "snob-
bishness Il popularity OF the fashionable set In
America, owing, no doubt, TO the fact that people
| there never do know exactly where they stand"
five believe In the equality OF everybody, a. We
claim we do, why should there be even grain OF
| truth In his statement, II we are on level why
do we bow to the possessors Of the mighty dollar
Why de we accept their mandates and their dictas
as our creed and yet rebel all the timer 1t seems
| to me II would be better quietly TO acknowledge
up middle position, or with equal nobleness bend
TO the necessities OF an adverse fate, which points
to lowiy lot In Life. social code here is an ever
varying line, as do those OF older countries, or
where there is court life 70 make and hold GER
tain forms.
Much pain is felt by sensitive people in the mat
ter OF ntroductions, and the pros and of In
PRODUCING and not introducing are discussed with
goes everywhere and, seeing some striking mode,
seizes Il with avidity packs = snugy away In some
Outlines redressed in habliments so new that It
scarcely recognizes itsel to spring upon some IN
esa Among mo- Sna - Is w Ealed ,n society
ter OF Introduction In ones own house, taking as
foundation. nrm and secure, for sucn procedure,
me Is good enough for youH or, in other words ap.
plicabe TO intr0ducti0ns 'The roof tree u the in
troduction.r II you are ladys friend and an.
other person Is her friend also your friendship
should not be hers unless your confidence is), and
you meet that other person ia her house, she Is
sho1d lSs esr1 s that ts
ance OF respectable persons IL thing never TO be
0eminine gender, Of coursel who was asked at
some musicale to assist an elderly lady In pinning
together a rent In her dress Instead OF replying
across the room, but returning almost instantly
with the hostess ana being presented said: II
win gladly assist you now, but could not before,
e snd fes sHre one q Srs c friends
oshded our hostess In doubling the
OF the people she has invited you TO meet under
her roof" have always wanted to finish out this
story, Ia the fairy tale OF the good fairy In dis
guise, by having the older woman some important
parsonage in the social world whom the younger
whatever a pape4 gave US the story efs the nishing
to our imagination. What can be more awkward
than In one OF the small card parties, which are
middle class to see the hostess seize each arriving
guest by the arm and pilot her or him around the
ROOM making known each person assembled by
name? III 1t might be accepted, as 1t Is In the
world OF fashion, that all may chat and be pleas
ant 60 any other or others for the evening, how
much more smoothly The whole thing would 90 on;
III the incoming guest be total stranger, with
pleasant little glance over the shoulder and a
Mrs Brown ladies', and then to some one stand
ing near, "Let me seize the opportunity to make
you two known to each other, at least by name. "
II would be so much easier all round most mark
edy for the entertainers, but what are they to do
when they know positively such and such persons
viii go home seriously offended "because Mrs. -
Another point in this matter should be firmly
imprinted; such chatting with strangers does not
Elephants in even the necessity Of recognition on
another occasion
/ do not recommend the entire ceasing of intro
ducfton, because until II Is generally accepted and
people have become accustomed to the idea, the
result would occasion DUH gloom, silent stiffness,
or no one would know what to DO; the ideas
70 simmer when good outcome Is sure, for Amer
lean people are very receptive and good; sensible
ideas soon meet with favor and acceptance.
have been asked many times II one should
shake hands on being introduced. That Is q mat
ter OF taste. An Englishman on meeting an Amer
lean whom he delights to honor, shakes hands be-
cause he believes that Is the American habit, and
he wishes to pay o compliment by making use Of
II. wonder how he would like TO rub noses with
q New Zealander 70 pay him the same compliment
We have been laughed at for promiscuous shaking
OF hands so much that instincttvely We are ceas-
ing TO do it. STILL particularly among men, the form
set the style whether they should or not Is an
other question:, now curtsey In quite the old
style; men quite az generally taking up the quaint
fashion OF the German military, click their heels
together and make sttn bend from the waist.
was astonished by person asking me the other
day: "Let me see II you bow correctly?n / ex-
claimed In astonishment: II never thought Of
cation found that unconsciously every time
bowed bent the entire body from the ankes-sO
slightly as 70 be almost 1mpercepttble, yet enough
to he noticed II ones attention was called TO the
matter. OF course the effect resulted from cause
and that was due to an old dancing masters in
struction In far-on chidhoOd's days so long ago
that the instruction was forgotten while the les
son was put into daily, nay, hourly use.
SO much more are these little marks OF refine
ment and cultivation noticed and taught nova
days that IL Is worth while to call every ones at
tention to them.
What dancing master may DO for one young
person, mother may with q little care do for an
other, while Dame Nature herself fmplants an
instructive knowledge into the minds of favored
few. TO DOW properly as well as gracefully, per-
ceptible now OF motion should be felt through the
entire body from the ankles
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Dinner Parties,
SOME FONTS UP0N HOW TO GIVE A DINNER.
The Philadelphia Telegraph says: The first thing
to be considered in giving dinner Is its slze and
q careful, thoughtful housekeeper never makes q
mistake. II Is only the needless and inexperienced
who fall into trap here A crowded table ia al.