Crystal River current., 1887-03-26
SOME risUTHs or LOWERS.
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From the Pittsburs Dispatch.
The young man, when he goes to
call on his lady love, puts on his best
duds, makes his mother or his sisters
fly around and help him to get himself
up in the best form possible. He jaws
them, gets mad, slams things around
regardless of consequences, kicks the
wall because his shoe pinches, and
finally rushes out looking as cross as
a. teased terrier. He foregoes q drink
or a cigar for fear of their spoiling mis-
breath, and loads his handkerchief
with the perfume best calculated to
disguise OF smother the taint OF cigar
ette smoke. The young lady is ex-
pecting him. OF course; has had
her hair up in papers all day;
the afternoon has been spent in
getting ready to receive him. and when
the parlor lights are burning she looks
very angel. Had he seen her in the
morning with handkerchief tied
around her head, heard her complaints
OF Indigestion and nervous headaches,
seen her slovenly morning wrappings
and caught few other rtartly-expressed
views on the conduct of her mother
and the family in general, he would
have been in a quandary as to which
region the angel belonged.
In the parlor oil is smiles, tenderly
lisped phrases, melting glances and
protestations against all that is. rude
or disagreeable and in favor of that
which is gentle and long suffering. They
deceive themselves as well as each
other. Probably they do not mean
it, but they do it. OF course, the ar
dent youth who reads this will say it is
not for him. Those who have had their
wings singed in the delusive blaze
are the ones who will read it with
deepest interest and appreciate it
most. They can only sigh and won.
der why some one did not say as much
to them, yet there is much satisfac-
tion even in that sigh. II they are suf-
ficiently philosophical to make the
best of it, to keep the bright side out
and to persistently refuse togo behind
the scenes, they may get along; but if
they give way to regrets, take to
drink or finding fault with their
mothers-in-law, their days OF happiness
are done.
Persons OF ardent dispositions. ea-
pecially young persons, should be very
carried too fast or too far by what
they consider true love. 1t may pan
out nothing more enduring than in
fatuation. The sensations are SO sim
liar at first that an expert might
be bothered for q while to deter
mine which is which, but time
will tell the tale. Love remains
bright alike through sunshine and
storm, and even times corroding
breadth does not dim its luster. On
the other hand infatuation flashes and
burns with an intense, brilliant glare,
dimming every other light, and paling
the glories that have always been re-
garded as Respondent. As months
pass, however, the glare becomes less
and less intense. and finally the place
where the fire was is marked only by
smoldering embers or unhappy lives.
There are times in the life OF every
young man when he thinks his whole
happiness, usefulness and existence it.
self depends on marrying a particular
lady. He is in earnest about it, al
though he may be ashamed of himself
a few years later. How fortunate II
something happens to prevent him
giving way to his matrimonial impul-
ses, because he is just as sure to be
ashamed of his Stiffness married a.
single. If you can induce married
folks to tell the truth, the whole truth
and nothing but the truth about their
young days and their early love af-
! fairs, they will all. with rare excep-
tions, tell of sweethearts whom they
regarded as heaven-sent, and that no
amount of reasoning would have con-
vinced them that they could live with
out their constant company.
| First love is all right If lovers are
properly mated. The mere fondness
for each other, and the lovesicknesk,
which is usually developed in such
cases, is not a sure sign or fitness for
marriage. There are scores of bache-
lors and maids who are such from dis
appointment in their first love. It
affected them SO that they have been
unable to Danish that .'fairest face and
dlvinest form" from their hearts.
Ihe-e is always vacant chair beside
them and an invisible guest at their
feasts. These are arecomparatively rareln-
stances, yet enough to make a respect
able exception to the general rule. It
Is not advisable to make an engage
ment until both parties have arrived
at an age when they are able to be
trusted with the transactions OF i'm
portant business. They should have
clear comprehension Of the response
bilities they are assuming, have q we'll
defined course marked out through life
and definite understanding with each
other as to how they are to live. By
following such a course there il not
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