The sun. [volume] (Morris, Stevens County, Minn.) 1882-1895, 1887-09-15
Family Feuds.

Every Kind OF topic Is populaflY con-
2eded to come within the province OF
newspaper discussion and criticism; and
certainly we know of none in which
the community can be more largely IN
tercs ed than u one that is intimately
associated with the happiness of almost
every individual.
family troubles date with the most
tr vial acts or causes. predspositlon
TO Jealous or suspicious state Of mind
on the part of husband and wife leads
by rapid steps to few differences. A
trifling remark. dropped without
thought, often leads to as wide an al
ienation as do in other cases the gray
est troubles. Parties would pause in
perfect establishment if they would on
ly occasionally revert to the commence
ment of their future unhappiness.
They would have too much pr de to
believe that they had so completely
resigned themselves 10 the manage
ment of the most contemplate circum-
stance.
We say the first step in the path of
disatiection, taken by either man or
wife, s the very step to be guarded
against; or, when taken, to be retract-
ed at the earliest opportunity. We
think we speak the experience Of
every one whose unhappness is trace
able to it. But the first error is rarely
sought to be repaired. 1t brings
modification and chagrin with it, and
stutfy resolutions grow up, GOODNESS
comes on apace. hard looks lead fast to
hard words, indifference induces stud
led separation. and the remarks of
busy bodies intervene to complete
work they would perhaps have vainly
tried to commence of themselves.
There is no class of persons in the
community so utterly despicable, so
beneath common regard, as public
busy bodies. We find them always at
hand in full numbers. They are al
ways ready with peculiar services
wherein they can detect a crevice in
which to drive the entering wedge of
their mischief. They are perfect pests
in society, of no service of any des-
cription, but of incalculable i'll. They
eat their way into the IA character of
families as moths eat into clothing. In
the gu Sc of friends, and with the cant
of hypocrites fresh from their lying
lips, they manage to get to the bottom
of other peoples affairs, for the plain
purpose of trading on the capital of
which they may be the successful and
unpercelved thieves.
If man or his wife have in a mo-
ment of unexpected haste taken a
single false step, even if neither feel
inclined at the time to put matters
right again, one error at least might
be avoided that is too commonly the
pledge of an endless train of misfor-
tunes thereafter; and that error is, for
the party who imagines himself or her.
self wronged to hasten to lay open their
difficulties to a third person. Who is
this third person that is so readily to be
found. and so kind as to listen to these
foolish little grievances? Evidently no
other than one who has by his or her
previous acquaintance too often volun-
teered to become the receptacle of all
the family news that might be thrown
in the way.
ncters living. either to promote or to
save the happiness of married couple.
Though oil is on their lips and honey
flows from their tongues. their hearts
are surcharged with venom, and their
whole purpose rankles with malicious
envy. They are the ones that go about
from house to house, ready at any time
to smother warm affections, glad to see
differences arising and trouble brew
ing, letting fall random hint here and
q misch EFF breeding remark there,
gloatng with an inhuman pride and
satisfaction over the unhappness they
have the power 10 create, and serving
steadily every moment the devils COM
mands in better livery which does not
belong their wardrobe. If man and
his wife could agree but for a moment
TO forget their own minor differences,
and take in hand the efforts these
monsters in society are making
to increase them, we pledge our
selves that the reunion formed
for routing the common enemy would
sweep away all former vestiges of their
troubles. A married couple play the
part of insanity when they take pains
to introduce foreign elements of mis-
chief under their roof. The first COM
selves after the solemn one of matrimo-
ny is to repel any and all advances
from the gossipping busy-bodies who
live off the domestic happiness of 9TH
ers. Else they may find themselves in
an unguarded hour, in the meshes of
persons whom at the outset they would
properly despise, and running for adj
vice to characters whose richest deserts
would be an election from the house.
1t is comparatively easy, we know,
to speculate on these matters. and in
cooler moments to give up to Il little
philosophy. 1t might, however, be
made quite as easy to accustom our
selves, all of us. to look at these things
in just the same temper on all occa-
sions. If married people, and particu-
larly young married people, would be-
gin with driving off these intri guing
and wanton Observation-Disclosures. these Cos
sips. who defile the family circle with
their very tread. these scandal-manu-
facturers. whose tongues discharge
their vile loads at every house in which
their presence is tolerated, these nui-
sances to every respectable communi-
ty. they would have gained one point
at the start that is only gained with ex-
ceeding difficulty afterwards. AT any
rate, those who see others rushing
blindly into the plan of these charac-
tiers should at all times be willing to
sound a warning american Cultiua
tor.
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