Omaha daily bee., 1887-11-06
tarily offered the aid which l had not
fbourht of appealin Or for tO them

tarlly Offered the ald WhlCn L nau nOU
thought of appealing for to them.
/ think If you can once remove all idea
of possible rivalry from II woman's mind
she makes better friend than any man
living. Tell woman your successes,
and she may show jealousy; but tell her
your sorrows and failures, and she is
moved to befriend you.
On the contrary, tell man OF your
successes and you win his admiring re-
gard; while if you tell him OF your
troubles you weary him.
One lady said she thought men were
more prompt and agreeable, as a rule,
than our own sex in their manner of be-
slowing favors, and it was because they
were educated to business methods. A
woman often wounded your feelings
from no lack of kind impulses, but
merely from her awkardness in dealing
with any matter outside Of parlor or
Kitchen. A married lady said she quite
conceded with the last speaker in re-
gard to the business methods of the
sterner sex. Thereupon she related
her somewhat unusual experience.
II was an artist" she said, ''and my
studio was in the same building in
which an elderly professional gentle
man occupied an office. He obtained an
introduction to me, and became greatly
interested in my work. He never once
INDUCED in the least sentiment toward
me. His social and business standing
was excellent, he was unusu-
ally Intellectual, and 1 quite
priced his friendship and valued
his advice and criticism. Sew
eral times he invited me to lunch him
at midday, almost the only hour either
of us had free from our work for social
converse. He was many years my sem
iOr, and | saw no imprOpriety in accept
ing. Well, by and by my prince came
and carried me away wife. | had often
written to him of the nice old gentle
man who was so kindly interested
| in my work. Imagine my humilia-
tion when bill was sent
in for the lunches to which the
nice old gentleman had invited me!
Surely these were thrifty business meth
DDS indeedl I have about made up my
mind that man seldom or never shows
a lady who is in no way related or de-
pendent upon him. marked and contin-
ued kindness, unless he expects some
sort of a return for them"
| When / pondered over all had
| heard, and placed my own personal ex-
mOny, my conclusions might be classi
| fed something as follows:
j. Men are more enthusiastic anC
| ready to espouse the cause of woman
| than her sister women are.
2. Women, when their interest il
finally won, are more lasting in theil
friendships.
3. There is an instructive rivalry be
tween women, which until it is over
come by the bonds of sympathy, is bal
to true, unselfish friendship.
4. There is an instructive attraction
between men and women which is u ba
to safe and unselfsh friendship.
5. Men expect more in return for thei
favOrs than women do.
6. Men are far moro agreeable to ap
prOach IN any matter requiring cOurtes
and politeness.
7. Women are far safer and more re
liable friends in the long run.
8. The friendship of men noticeabl
decreases after u woman marries.
.. The friendship of women nOticea
bly, strengthens after a women marries
10. A good and efficient man is bet
ter friend and advisor than a wea
woman. e.
4 IL. A good and efficient woman is
better friend and advisor than a wea
man.
II. There is no rule which govern
the matter.
ELLA WHEELER WILCOX.