Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1887-05-02
FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE.

when Husbands Grow InCorrIgible They
Ought 80 be Tossed Out at the window.
''FOr better, for worse" is the heading
of an article in The Forum for April, from
the pen of the author of "John Halifax,
Gentleman" The writer begins by
pointing out the fppancy with which
these words are usually repeated, and the
pity which young creatures feel for those
who stand outside the gate of matrimony.
They are to be pitied, she says; for "sin-
gle life is necessarily an imperfect life"
nevertheless there are only units among
the thousands who have known the rap
ture of love who live to know the "COm-
fort of marrlage''-the unity of interests,
the entire reliance, the faithful compan-
ionshp, and the certainty that nothing
but death will ever separate.
The worldly side of marriage has been
much discussed. Our author takes the
mo-, Il and spiritual and the Womsn's side
of ne question. 1t is mans prerogative
to WOO and win; if his marriage turn cut
to be a mistake he has ordinarily only
himself to blame. Women are prone to
yield to persuasion; poverty, pride, dis
appointment and other more ignoble
motives tempt myriads of them to marry
in haste, etc, and they wake up to find
themselves like the creature fallen into a
bog, where the more it struggles the
deeper it sinks. Aud her struggles are
for the most part dumb. Not always
MIDDLE AGE OF MISERY.
Scores of silly women dwell upon the
minor miseries of life instead of taxing
them-and the husband-"for better, for
worse" and striving by all conceivable
means, by patience, by self-denial, by
courage when necessary, and by silent
endurance always, to change worse into
better. This can be done, and often is
done. If we who have lived long enough
to look on life with larger vision than the
young are often saddened to see how
many of the most passionate love marri-
ages melt away into 8 middle age Of
misery, we have also seen others which,
beginning In error, and possessing all the
elements Of future Wretchedness, have
yet by wise conduct, generally on the
wife's side, ended in something not far
short of happiness. Every woman who
marries has to learn, soon or late, that no
TWO human beings can be tied together
for life without finding endless difficulties,
not only in the world outside but in each
other. These have to be solved, and gen
orally oy the wife. She must have a
strong heart, sweet temper, an unlim-
tied patience and, above all, power to
see the right and do it.
GALL WORSE AND NO BETTER"
The writer follows these remarks by
the declaration that she does not write
for those whose matrimonial lot is the
average one, but for those to whom mar
rage has turned out Gall worse and no
better;" who are bound with a heavy
chain, the iron of which enters their
very soul, and from which death holds out
the only hope of escape. The question
raised is how long women should endure
the chain? The opposite question, as to
how man should deal with bad wife,
is not considered. "Men are the law
makers, and can be trusted 10 take care
OF themselves"
NEW VIEWS OF WOMAN.
Public sentiment has changed since the
days when Christianity taught that wo-
man was absorbed by man, "bone OF his
bone and flesh of his flesh" with no
rights of her own, bat there is still a
lurking feeling IN favor of the man and