The morning news. [volume] (Savannah, Ga.) 1887-1900, 1887-12-26
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Bowling, Hands aking. and Such.
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AahCN uc SOuiu iOb nave petll Wtll TtttlNtu
over here, for he cut us up most effectually,
and among other things he said; ''Snobbish-
ness is popularity of the fashionable set
in America, owing, no doubt, TO the fact
that people there never do know exactly
where they stand"
II we believe in the equality of every
oody, as we claim we do, why should there
be even grain Of truth in his statementl
Ii we are on a level why do we bow to the
possesSor of the mighty dollarl Why do we
accept their mandates and their dictas as
our creed and yet rebel all the timei II
seems to me it would be better quietly TO
acknowledge the aristocracy of the rich,
ana with dignity take up middle position,
or with equal nobleneSS bend to the neceSSi-
ties of an adverse fate which points to d
lowly lot in life A social code here is an
ever changing creed; it lives not on in a
straight unvarying line, as do those of older
countries, or where there is court life TO
make and bold certain forms.
Much pain is felt by sensitive people in
the matter of introductions, and the pros
and cons of introducing and not intro
duclng are discussed with lively interest
among many people, The travelling world
goes abroad, goes East, goes to Washington,
goes everywhere, and, seeing some striking
mode, seizes it with avidity. packs it snugly
away in some unoccupied corner of the
mind, and brings it out ioft-times redressed
In habiliments so new that it scarcely
recognizes itself to spring upon some
unsuspecting friends Among what is
called society people, it has become
the habit to waive the matter of in
production in ones own house, taking as a
foundation, firm and secure, for such pro-
cedure, the old sterling pcecept, sWhat's
good enough for me is good enough for you,"
or, in other words applicable to introduce
If you are a lady's friend, and another per-
son is her friend also your friendship should
not be hers unless your confidence isl. and
you meet that other person in her house,
she is guarantee for the others respecta-
bllity; and every one should learn early in
life that the acquaintance of respectable
persons is thing never to be ashamed of.
We have all heard the story of a young
person feminine gender, of coursel who was
asked at some musicale to assist an elderly
lady in pinning together a rent in her dress.
Instead of replying this young person
turned away and rushed hastily across the
room, but returning almost instantly with
the hostess and being presented, said: II
viii gladly assist you now, but | could not
before, as we had not been introduced"
MY DEAR" replied the elder woman,
''graciousness is ever becoming; felt sure
one of Mrs C.'s friends would be glad to
offended our hostess in doubling the reSpec-
liability of the people she has invited you
to meet under her roof | have
always wanted TO finish out this story, Ia
the fairy tale of the good fair in dis
gulse, by having the older woman some
important parsonage in the social world
whom the younger woman hcd longed to
know, but Puck or Life, or whatever paper
gave us the story, left the finishing to our
iO1o erin Whaf ha IL 4
than in one of the small card parties, which
are the popular mode of entertaining among
our great middle class to see the hostess
seize each arriving guest by the arm and
pilot her or him around the room, making
known each person assembled by namei Ii
it might be accepted as it is in the world of
fashion, that all may chat and be pleasant
to any other or others for the evening how
much more smoothly the whole thing would
20 off; how much awkwardnes5 would be
saved.
Ii the incoming guest be total stranger,
wlth pleasant little glance over the shout
der and a slightly elevated voice, the hostess
might say; "Mrs. Brown, ladies" and then
to some one standing near, ''Let me seize
the opportunity to make you two known to
each other, at least by name 1t would be
so much easier all round most markedly for
the entertainers, but what are they to do
persons will 90 home serIously offended "be-
caIise Mrs. - did not introduce usr'
Another poin in this matter should be
firmly imprinted; such chatting with
strangers does not form an acquaintance,
does not involve the participants in even
the necessity of recognition on another &C
casion.
do not recommend the entire ceasing of
introduction, because until it is generally
oooo,nta1 aud OnarNla hoy baantna
toned to the idea, the result would occasion
dull gloom, silent stiffness, or no one would
know what to do; the ideas should be more
widely disseminated and allowed to simmer
when a good outcome is sure, for American
people are very receptive and good; sensible
ideas soon meet with favor ana acceptance
l have been asked many times if one
should shake hands on being introduced
That is a matter of taste. An Enelis iman
on meeting an American whom he delights
to honor, shakes hands because he believes
that is the American habit, and he wishes
to pay compliment by making use of it,
| wonder how he would like to rub noses
with a New Zeaander to pay him the same
compliment. We have been laughed at for
promiscuouS shaking of hands so much that
instinctively we are ceasing to do it. Still
particularly among men, the form is ad-
hered to. Fashionable women, who, of
course, set the style whether they should or
not is another question:, now curtsey in
quite the old style; men quite as generally,
taking up the quaint fashion of the German
military, click their heels together and make
a stiff bend from the waist.
| was astonished by a person asking me
the other day: "Let me see if you bow
correctIyY' / exclaimed in establishment:
~ never thought of such thing. / bow
noturally." But on investigation ] found
that unconsciously every time | bowed |
bent the entire body from the knee-so
slightly as to be almost imperceptible, yet
enough to be noticed If ones attention was
called to the matter. OF course the effect
resulted from cause and that was due TO
an old dan ing masters instruction in far
off childhood's days, SO long ago that the
instruction was forgotten while the lesson
was put into daily use, nay hourly.
So much more are these little marks of
refinement and cultivation noticed and
taught nowadays that it is worth while to
call every ones attention to them.
What a dancing master may do for one
Young person, a mother may with little
care do for another, while Dame Nature
herself implants ar instructive know edge
into the minds of favored few. To bow
properly, as well as gracefully, percepti.
bic flow of motion should be felt through
the entire body from the ankles.
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