The Saline County journal. [volume] (Salina, Kan.) 1871-1893, 1887-11-24
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refinement when we can touch the eK-
action aud repeat the commanding
word which governed all So with ili-
bree ing. We can scarcely say where
IL was unless the daneauor vas as deep
a. q well and as wiis A. a church door;
bat there u Wls. aud we felt ard knew
whether sc were able % define it OF
not No one can 1es rics discori nor
harmony Sowith the mystery Of good
5tee.l.ug-the subtle harmony and
passing aavor Of TIs p9li.elesz L is
heard in on int0natio1-sn indccrion-
IN ths choice Of one worl over another
seemingly IT. twin. bGt with just thrt
d.lIs renee Of application. rather thaa
Rla1ing- which creates the es-
SeHes Of good bres ling. TIE
almost microscopic recognition Of
= stranger-the specialized attention
Of an unootrUsivs kinds its evidence;
the careless neglect Of an apparently
insiguiicaat form is is death-warrant.
To be the only stranger In a room full
ofintimates and 70 be unintrOduced and
neglected is an act Of in-breeding
specially Britannia II by chance one
mors kind-hearted to begin with. and
more polished by friction to 60 on with.
takes pity on the poor social waif sui
stray. and of rs any attention or reels
Of the thread Of q conversation. tha;
person has this marvellous eIsrn We
call good breeding. in which al the rest
have been deficient When you enter .
room and are presented 10 the hostess
her reception Of you proves her good
breeding OF her bad The way her chill
dren meet yOu-the way in which. al
any age beyond the merest babyhood
they speak and hold themselves-is 50
eloquent Of their gentle training or un-
gentle as is n correct accent or a pro
yinciaL No idiOsvncrasy mars the real
essence Of good breeding. and all the
excuses made for lapsss aud LESSONS are
futile A well-brsJ person may be as
shy as hawk and her limbs may be as
awkwardly hung together as so many
crooked sticks badly pinned All the
lane her good breeding viii be evident
and neither her shyness nor her swk-
warlness will tell against IT, Though
lt costs her the well-known
agOnies 70 sustain a connected
conversation. and though by the
very fact Of her shyness her brain will
run dry. she will sustain il with the
most eOnsummate pOliteness, II not al.
ways with the most AIwless hnency.
She will put q restraint on herself and
talk her best bad as thai best may be.
because she Is versed in the art and mys
terry Of good breeding. and thinks Of
others rather than hersslL Bat an i'll
bred person. Il shy. Is simply boorish.
aad makes no trouble 20 conquer the
dumb demon within him. bit gives way
10 Il and lets Il conquer him at It's
pleasure You feel that the excuse
made for him-Or her by those who
want TO smooth over ssperities with
Tarnish-thst excuse Of being so
''dreadfully shy" is no excuse At all,
For you know bY experience how sV eet
and anxious 70 be supple and IT ease
for all the pain it costs her-can be that
well bred bundls Of nerves snd fears,
whoi is as timid es a hare anil a. ssnsi-
tive as a mir .sa. but als1 who is as
thoughtful for Jthers A. ths boor is dis
cegarding.
Cool breeding is the current coin Of
4ocie.y. Hs who is binsr.pt therein
5uahs rot 60 take rank wish sha rest
The deftliring L"ubtd md l.s o.uch
lr1ken IN fall concl tve. s.i., .y;s rht tsed
out Of the street where his better en-
dowsd brethren rarri,l ln their blsi-
ness Wha' ths OLA r11=--rhtr rsrs
a~d rlolee-ia7. .ier, H.t ...th their de-
itHi;irT mem js-5 20 -.1.s olyIr 20 10
- he ili-1red-t1 the p Ip.- VIM OPP
9nss all ynr s4g for the .usrs sake Of
opp sing vol. aud not '1r any thing
approaching 70 2 pri1c.p. g; Gao cpltrs-
dict you daily. and 4, not Apologize
when they are proved ia tic wrong;
who tell you horne truth, oi q biunus
complexion and vinegar aspect; who
repeat ill-nlturcd rcmIrks made ia .'isii
presence. or rrpe2ted 70 them, making
sou feel that yJu arc s:lriel aai
despised yuu know 40, why. and yiii.ied
without the chance given Jon Of ,'lf-
Justification; who abuse your known
friends, and ascribe to the i,l the sins
Of the Decalogue; who Drutally attack
your known principles in religion.
morals, politics; who snesr at your
cherished superstitioRs and fall foTl Of
your confc. sed weaknesses; who tlke
the upper hand Of You generally. not
counting your susceptibilities as worth
the traditional button. Such people as
these-and there are many of them
masquerading as lalies ani gentlemen
Of good position and irrapr1loha5le
credentials-but no matter what their
lineage nor fortune they should bt
cashiered; and society would be all the
aweetsT aud mOre Wholesome for The
want them. Contrast these spinl
heds S0gs, these aggressive thorn
bushes. these stinging mosquitoes and
ranging tarantulas with their oppO-
sltes-ths well-bred and gentle folk
who never wound yon. never tread on
your corns nor offend your susceptible
lses IN any way. and who carefully
carry out Of sight all their own private
liitls Asgs which may be your red
rags. This Is not want nf courage, DO.
Il e good breeding. .-LOafi9H Queen.
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