The Brookhaven leader. [volume] (Brookhaven, Miss.) 1883-1891, 1887-09-01
GIRLS AND BOYS.
Comm on sense Hints for Their GuIdanc
In Youthful Hours.

Common-SCnse Hints for Their Guidance
In Youthful Hours.
Young girls rarely are conscious of tine
power they exert over the young men with
whom they. are brought into contact
Their standards influence the conduct Of
Young men while they are in their pres
ence, il at no other time
young lady who will allow loud and
boisterous conversation, familiar manner,
inelcgsnt attitudes, careless reference TO
church and church members takes down
the barriers that should be main tanned be-
tween herself and her gentleman friends.
1t may appear that she makes herself
more attractive by this freedom, but it IS
not so. No girl is attractive to gentle
man who does not maintain a gentle,
womanly dignity, and by her attitude pre-
vent slipping away from the incest con-
ventionalities of society. In the deeper
undertakings affecting life i'll its spirit
ual and moral side-a girl has greater
influence than she dreams.
A very safe rule governing the relations
between herself and her gentleman
friends for gill TO make is 10 never per.
NIT word, subject of conversation, TO
take place between gentleman and her
self that she would hesitate to have
spoken or discussed in the presence Of
Ire no bar TO a pleasant, entertaining and
| fun making intercourse, but it viii pre-
| vent the use OF slang the discussion of sill
| ly themes and trifing with subjects that
| are, and should be, sacred to every young
| man and woman governed by refined and
righteous principles.
| Girls love pretty things as naturally as
| the bees love sunshine. 1t is not to be
granted that logs are not susceptible to
| beauty in various shapes also; but TO The
| feminine portion of humanity Genes the
/ greater share OF the love of the beautiful.
In the home life, where so many girls arc
| OF necessity kept until they are grown TO
| wonanhoOd, the opportunity for beautliy-
| ing themselves as well as their surround
| ings is often lost because the father PR
| haps, and occasiona ly the mother also,
has grown to think that simple prettness
is of no possible use. They have out
| grown their youthful thoughts, follies in
their eyes now, and have learned TO say,
What's its usei to every thing new.
II a girl in her home life be allowed to
| rearrange the rooms according to her
| Il ste, to bring into the living room plants
| or simply her flowers, to occasionally nave
| some new ornament, cheap in many cases
il may be, but have its nswness thing Of
beauty, and not have some one saying:
It's useless; IL can neither be eaten nor
| worn"-she will take much more comfort,
| and care much more for her fathers home
There are fathers who love their
daughters-as well as they know how-and
still they never allow them TO think money
or time can be spent on any thing that Is
not in itself of some obvious use; they
pooh pooh at the idea OF flower bed; they
object to vines on the house because they
are rubbish, and the idea Of . prettily fur.
nished room, either for the family or for
the daughter herself, is an unheard Of
folly.
When these girls go out from the barreA
home life, what wonder that they seldom
know how to act in pleasantly .appointed
home and more, what wonder that the
trusting, loving heart sometimes is too
easily led astray through promises Of .
| pretty home.-M y HGad,