St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1887-04-03
SOME TRUTHS OF LOVERS.
The Care the Young Man and His
Girl Take to Look Well to Each

Ihe care tine DUNG w an ana HIS
Girl Take to Look Well to Each
other.
Pittsburg Dispatch.
The young man. when he goes to call
on his lady love. puts on his best duds,
makes his mother or his sisters fly
around and help him to get himself up
in the best form possible. He jaws
them, gets mad, slams things around
regardless of consequences, kicks the
wall because his shoe piEches, and
finally rusheS out looking cross as a
teased terrier. He foregoes drink or
a cigar for fear Of their spelling his
breath, and loads his handkerchief
with the perfume best calculated to dis
guse and smother the faint of cigarette
smoke. The young lady is expecting him,
of course; has had her HAIR done up in
papers all day; the afternoon has been
spent in getting ready to receive him. and
when the parlor lights are burning she
looks a very angel. Had he seen her in
the morning with a handkerchief tied
around her head, heard her complaints of
indigestion and nervous headache, seen her
slovenly morning wrappings, and caught a
few of her tartly expressed views Oh the
conduct of her mother and the family in
GENERAL, uG Woulu nave Utcll Ill Quduudry
as to which region the angel belonged.
In the parlor all is smiles, tenderly lisped
phrases, melting glances and protestations
against all that is rude or disagTeeable and
in favor of that which is gentle and long
suffering. They deceive themselves as
we'll as each other. Probably they do not
mean it, but they do it. Of course the ar
dent youth who reads this will say 1t is not
for him. Those who have had their wings
singed in the delusive blaze are the ones
who will read it with deepest interest and
appreciate it most. They can only sigh
and wonder why some one did not say
as much to them, yet there is much sat
isfaction even in that sigh. It they are
sufficiently philosophical to make the best OF
it. to keep the bright side out, and to per-
sistently refuse to go behind the scenes,
they may get along; but if they give way to
regrets. take to drink or finding fault with
! their mothers n-law, their days of happi-
ness are done.
Persons of ardent dispositions, especially
young persons. should be very careful not
| to allow themselves to be carried too fast
or too far by what they consider true love.
1t may pan out nothing more enduring
than infatuation. The sensations are so
similar at first that an expert might be
bothered for a while to determine which is
which, but time will tell the tale. Love
remains bright alike through sunshine
and storm, and even times cOrroding
breath does not dim its luster. On the
other hand infatuation flashes and burns
with ali intense. brilliant glare. .sdimming
every other light, and paling the glories
that have always been regarded as re-
| splendent. As months pass, however, the
glare becomes less intense. and finally the
| place where the fire was is marked only by
smoldering embers of unhappy lives.
| There are times in the life of every young
man when he thinks his whole happiness,
usefulness and existence itself depends on
marrying a particular lady. He is
| in earnest about it, although he
may be ashamed of himself a
few years later. How fortunate if
something happens to prevent him giving
| way to his matrimonial impulses, because
| he is just as sure to be ashamed OF his silli-
ness married as single. Ii you can induce
married folks to tell you the truth. the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth
about their young days and their love
affairs they will all, with rare exceptions,
tell Of sweethearts whom they regarded as
! heaven-sent. and that 10 amount of reason
ing would have convinced them that they
! cOulu live WltuOuG tuelT COllSldut ,CUfilDdlly.
First love is all right if the lovers are
properly mated. The mere: fondfieSs for
each other, and the lovesickness, which is
usually developed in such cases, Is not a
sure sign of fitness for marriage. There
are scores of bachelors and maids who are
such from disappointment in their first
love. 1t affected them so that they have
been unable to Danish that '.tairest face
and divinest FORM from their hearts
| There is always vacant chair beside them
and an invisible guest at their feasts
These are comparatively rare instances, yet
enough to make respectable exception to
the general rule. 1t is not advisable to
make an engagement until both parties
have arrived at an age when they are able
to be trusted with the transaction of import
ant business. They should have clear
comprehension of the responsibilities they
are assuming. have a well-defned course
marked out through life, and definite
understanding with each other as to how
| they are to live. By following such a
course there is not much danger of making
a mistake.