The news and herald. (Winnsboro, S.C.) 1877-1900, 1887-12-17
CARING FoR GUESTS.
II is ETcee dinghy Easy to Make Them
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II is Eyceed dinglys Easy to Make Them
iB ,ia Uncomfortable. a4i
May name a.few- Of the plans rrsor-
ted to by we'll meaning, but mistaken
people, to make their homes 80 decided
~ iunattractlye, to any one, !. that the
lime required for social pleasures takes
almost nothing from their, lifetime?
One Of these ways is the habit OF con-
stantly calling attention to (by excus.
ing) all the shortcomings aud draw
backs to the hospitality being dispensed.
The hostess who habitually does this,
Is troublesome person to visit, whether
she "fears that the smallness Of her
rooms must cramp you," or deplores
"the 'shabbiness of the furnlture,n or
is worried 'lest the noise Of her child
ron will make you long to be at home
again." or excuses the manner in
which meals are served. si 1t may be
that most Of these things would pass
annoticed, or trouble you very little,
II only the mistress OF the house would
not plaintlvely proclaim them. taxing
the powers; OF tho, polite guest to the
very utmost to protest that they were
not noticeable. or to coin some little
fiction as to the disorder being excus-
able, and growing tired and worried
over the effort TO cover up the poor
management Of the hostess, and her
1mpollteness ALSO for it is impolite TO
tax q guest in this double way; she has
her own share rs we'll as that Of the
hostess to bear, and it is little wonder
Ii In future she keeps away from such a
tax. Perhaps we enter q house Where
draperIes or cobwebs seem to he the Or
der'of the day. What dc we care If
such Is the state oftheir walls? Very
few OF us care at all, il only our own
homes are neat. IL such is the taste OF
the dwollers there you are willing it
shall @beN gratilied. But to b. told to
''only look atstheml'', anu to be asked
4"if this is not q disgraceful condition of
thingsr" or told, II am sure you Will
tell how carelessly we live. now, WON'T
you?" is rather embarrassing. ..t
So. intending to make yourself agree,
able, you observe that ''cohwebs are
rather pretty and quite graceful, and
you rather like them," and such like
inanities as this. "'They do collect 30
fast this weather" knowing these must
be the collection Of months. and then
you collapse. for the effort is severe,
and the hostess Keeps on saying:
perfectly dreadful! You are not
used tospch things. ana I, shan,t sleep
to-nlght Tor thinking of the condition
IN which you found my rooms.''
2i 1f>you are fond Of careless housekesp-
Ing, tits entirely your own affair, but
} to impress it on your guests is an ex-
pertinent you. Will not iad successful
Tor they will not stand it often. The
teexc,using hostess is particularly annoy.
Ing at meals, and often obliges hei
guests to eat Of unsavory, or ilLcooked
dishes, in the effort.to save the feelings
OF one who deserves Qttletor no) con,
sideration.. 5E..
i. Unless you eat extravagantly she is
sure the meal is ''badly prepared. -
mot to your taste,' s'oyerdone,o
"underdone," and she 'tjust knows YOU
Will starve." Don't make people at
your table eat more than they wish to,
particularly don't urge on them any.
thing that IS one atom questionable, b7
debating its merit, and SO sending q
challenge to a polite person to accept
more OF it Gas a proof Of its superior
quality than is agreeable or profitable.
Even If an entire meal should prove q
failure 1t is better to order II quietly
away than to load the stomach Of youa
victim with UNBEATABLE food. The tenn
Dorary discomfort of being little un.
satisfied sat Is soon cured, while eating una
digestlble fooG carries its reminder in
physical suffering for several days. ,@
These is another very common form
of victimizing your guests talking
about things OF, people they don't know,
never have known, and under no cir
cumstahces will ever be likely to. come
In contact with. 1t leaves the visitor
SO entirely outside or any chance to in.
teEest himself in the conversation;
leaves him so entirely alone, that lie he
is not intimate enough to take a book
or a nap, so as to wait for change in
the topic Of talk which he can under
stand and Join III, lis position is often
embarrassing, always. tlresome. and not
one to accept willingly many times.
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