The Milan exchange. (Milan, Gibson County, Tenn.) 1874-1978, 1887-01-01
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Some Pertinent Advice to Men and Women
Contemplating MatrimOny.

Some Pertinent ADVICE 10 men anu w omen
Contemplating Matrimony.
1t is usually mistake for a newly
married couple to settle too near the
relations on either side. Of course,
there are attractions, not to say adj
vantages, in such propinquity, but in
nine cases out of ten they are out
weighed by the small disadvantages
which one seldom realizes till, like the
little pack threads that confined Gull
liver in Lilliput, they have twisted
themselves into almost indeStructible
letters. If the brides people are the
neighbors the young husband is very
apt to grow irritated by, not to say
jealous of, the perpetual intrusion of
the old life into the new existence, of
which he consciously or unconsciously
feels himself the center; whilst, if
means are small, the young wife, and
often enough her husband also, are
CALLED and worried by the contrast of
the restrictions of their own life with
the independence and freedom from
care enjoyed by "the girls for whom
'father" is still banker. In nothing is
this the case more than with reference
to toilet. Madam may be forgiven a
twinge when she finds her stuff and
book-muslin dresses brought in sharp
contact with her younger sisters silks
and dainty lace-trimmed India muslin,
even though the recollection of the good
name she possesses, which her sisters
do not, promptly drives away the
twinge, but the damaged is even greater
that monsieur may begin comparing
ones position now and then, as accen-
tuated by the sisters toilets, and be
either saddened or angered at the
change. OF course these are absurd
trihes, but the older one grows the
more one realizes that it is just the abb
surd trifles, apparently too microscopic
to notice, that give the most trouble
in this life. Not many people carry
dagger, either mentally or physic-
ally, but there are very few who do
not, either actually or metaphOrically,
bristle with projecting pin-pOints,
which, either from carelessness or UNI
kindness, tear those who come in con-
tact with them! Again, if the new
menage is fixed near the husband $
people, it is mistress brides turn to be
| on thOrns. Does la belle mere, in the
innocence of her heart, venture to al
lude to some bygone taste of her son S,
young madame at once decides this to
! be a broad hint that she has failed in
consulting her new lords wants and
wishes as a good wife should. Or does
the young wife show tendency, Twill
not say to be Jealous, but to keep apart
with her husband, then the sisters are
pretty safe to fancy she is trying to
wean their brother from his old home,
and resent the imaginary injury. If
both sides are really and honestly low
ing and kindly these ridiculous misun-
derstandings wear off after time, as
acquaintance and affection increase:
but none the less, these trifles, small
and petty as they are, are amongst the
tiny rocks and shoals, lurking unsus-
pected below the waves of life, on
which many gallant bark, freighted
apparently with a more than ample
amount of domestic happiness, has
either foundered hopelcssly or been SC
damaged as to bear testimony to the
severe injuries received all the rest Of
their career. No; before marrying botl
sides must count the cost carefully anC
weigh to the uttermost the means, mo-
pecuniary ones only, they possess. A
woman, if really in earnest, is pretty
safe to count the world well lost fol
love, and to be ready for any amount
of self-sacrifce-at all events, for tn,
moment, But nluckily, it is only a
time goes on that she begins to realizt
the price she has to pay, Men usual!
know little more of the purchasing
power of money, and 50 generally hay,
a very much clearer idea of what the.
are giving up when they relinquisl
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