Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1887-04-22

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grows impatient of the conversation of q
frivolous wife, especially II she disturb
his mental occupations, but the woman
often feels pleasure in the homage of q
commonplace husband, if only he be an
homes and Considerate fellow, and with
her, more Than with man, pity is akin 10
love- Hence it is that there are probably
more clever and highly gifted women who
throw themselves away, as the phrase is,
upon good natured simpletOn, than of
talented men who fall in love with women
who are not in intellectual sympathy with
them
GIRO" INSTANCES THAT MAY EQUALIZE.
There are many cross divisions in this
matter of inequality. The marriage of y
wealthy fool 10 penniless girl Of great
Intelligence out no money is an unequal
marriage on both sides, YET, viewed math-
ematicaliy, II may be an equal bargain
The FOOLS money VIII be very useful TO
her and her Intelligence will be very Use
full to him. The marriage thati is equal in
every point of view-that Is, in the socisl
standing of the families to which the hus-
band and wife respectively belong, in the
material possessions of each, in the physi-
cal constitution and chances OF longevity,
IN the temper and disposition, in the
tastes and requirements, would not neces-
saTily be happy or desirable marriage.
When DR.. Paley, the famous author of the
Evidences Of Christianity was intro
duCed by Bishop Darlington TO his wife
the worthy bishop remarked that Mrs. Bar
rlUgtOn and he hsd never had the slightest
difference of opinion upon any subject dur
ing q union of fifty years. Mighty dull
was the reply of PAley. And who shall
say he was not righ,?n
LIFELONG AFFECTION.
"The equal marriage does not depend
upon Sameness, but upon the eQuipOise Of
qualities, and the happiest marriages are
those in which there is q Continuance of
warm affection through life rather than an
ecststic fever of passionate love at the
start. Such Ted-hOt fires are apt TO burn
out too quickly, and the wife or husband
- sometimes painfully reminded of the
prOvero that familiarity breeds contempt
A happy marriage is that which wins from
the surviving partner such tribute as
was paid by David Garrick's widow after
his death: He was more than nv nus
band; he was my lover to the last"
AYOUEG MANS QUESTION.
In the same same Magazine appears an
editorial on "YOUDg Men and Single
Life" aprOpOs of the arguments for and
against matrimOny that have been going
the rounds of the press. The writer re-
cognizes the advantages Of single life for
some men as well as for some women. He
says:
1t is an ineXCusable sin for any young
man of hereditary i'll health or deformity
TO assume marriage, and TO such 2 one
single life has advantages, even though it
| holds out few pleas res. But that young
man who is possessed with every bOdilyand
mental equipment, and marries not, fails
in one OF the most palpsble duties of life.
| He deprives himself of life's most refined
and exalted pleasures, of some of it's
strongest incentives to virtUre and actiy-
ity, and sets an example unworthy of imi-
tatiOn. Nothing has, or should have, 8
greater refining and moralizing influence
on young man than marriage If he
remains unmarried he lays himself open
| to alluring vices that have no place in
his eye or mind when his attentions and
affections are centred upon devoted
wife. Marriage changes the current of q
mans feelings and gives him center for
his thoughts, his affections and his acts,
1t renders him more yirtuOus, more wise.
and is an incentive TO put forth his best
and social circles. 1t is conceded that
marriage will increase the cares of q
young man which he would not encount, =
if he remained single, but it must be
granted, on the other hand, that it
heightens the pleasure OF life. If mar
riage, in some instances within our
knowledge, has seemed to be but HIN
drance to certain success, the countless in
stances must MT be forgotten where it has
proved TO be the incentive which has
called forth the best part of mans nature,
reused him from selfish apathy, end in
spired in him those generous principles
and high resolves which have helped to
develop him into a character known,
loved and hOnOred by all within the sphere
OF its influence. Matrimony, it is true, is
chargeable with numberless sOliciUudes
and responsibilities, and this all young
men should fully understand before en-
tering upon it, but it is also full of 10y
snd happiness that is unknown to the
bachelor.
JEREMY TAYLOR ON MARRIAGE.
In conclusion the author Commends to
all young men choosing between matri-
mony and single blessedness the advice of
quaint Jeremy Taylor, who savs:
Marriage hath in it more safety than
single life hath; it hath more care; it is
more merry and sad it is fuller of lows
and sorrows; it lies under more burdens,
but it is supported by all the strength of
love and charity, which makes those bur
dens delightful. 1t is a school and ex-
ercise of virtue, and though it hath cares,
yet single life hath desires which are more
troublesome and more dangerous, and
often end in sin, while the cares are but
exercises Of piety.
Good Crops.