The Bottineau pioneer. (Bottineau, N.D.) 1885-1895, 1887-04-07
ADMIRED If NOT LOVED.
The Power Exercised over May \
Vain and Foolish Coquettes.x4$

The Power Exercised I've MakNA.
Vain and Foolish Coquettes.E$a
Theoretically, men hold coquettes in
~detestation. Unfortunately in this work
a-day world theory and practice are
very often out of harmony, and as W
sometimes rise above our creeds, SO
sometimes we fall below them. 1t is
men who sink most frequently below
their cherished theory. for, though the
fact may be disputed, it is the ~coquettes
who absorb the lion share of their ad.
miration. We do not speak here of the
old campaigners who have had their
ding, aud have outgrown the piquant
charms of girlish wiles, but of the young
men who have still to learn by dire ex.
perience that the thraldom of two blue
eyes may be a cruel thraldom and Ia
belle dame sans merci a tickle mistress.
They may not love these capricious
dirts with the best love of which they
are capable; they may not respect them
but they like them and admire them,
and talk to them, and firt with them,
and seem to love them.
Is such an admiration worth the hav.
ng? Perhaps not. But a woman's ma.
lure, which Graves love so intensely, If
The real thing be denied her finds some
,olace in it's brilliant semblance. Paste
diamonds will sometimes serve the pur-
pose of the pure gem. The homage
ind admiration of the many can not
atone to her for a lost love, but to some
legree they will bring salvation 4
crust is better than no bread. .
To some men, notoriety is so neces-
'ary that they would rather be notori-
,us by evil doing than languish in OBJ
;curity, mediocre, and unknown. By
women, who are too often vain and
'elf-conscious, admiration, which is
owes counterfeit, is unduly priced.
They have missed the reality; but while
hey clutch the shadow it is possible to
leceive others as to their real loss; for
lere truth and falsehood are so deity
mingled that dreams will pass for real.
ties and realities for dreams. 1t is
something to know ones self enviable,
f enviable only by reputation. Such
misplaced envy can scarcely fail to fill
hem with scorn and wonder and bit
Ol uCoo9 dl1O you CCAuS I'LL ld2
letism is so potent, they are tempted
o fancy that after all there is some
hing in it. And if the young men Of
heir acquaintance. young men who are
or the most part cynical or frivolous,
prefer paste jewels, who can blame
hem that, instead of striving to be
sterling diamonds, in loftiest aim they
'carcely soar beyond a polished imita-
ion.
Naturally, men turn to women for
he chief pleasure of their leisure
lours. looking to them to sooth and
soften and to render pleasant a thorny
way; but it is not to the women who
lave chosen to become their rivals that
hey care to turn. Such women may
instruct, but u gilded youth do not
v;sh to be instructed. What they de-
ire is to be entertained; and here the
air coquette will serve their purpose.
The woman who has made it her cue
% please is dull; her highest aim
s to give pleasure, and because she is.
content to spare neither time nor pains
he will succeed. Consequently, Of
ihese two classes there is no doubt
which is the more pleasing to creations,
ords. The generality of men-there,
ire of course honorable exceptions
nave a strong prejudice. almost amount
ng to antipathy, against learned
women. They feel their own domain
% be invaded, their oldest and most
cherished principles to be violated, and,
'hough they are too valiant to acknowl-
,dge awe the uncomfortable suspicion,
hat they may be some day called upon
o vindicate their superiority is displeas.-
ng to them. Their cause is good, and
hey have no fear for their inherited
aurels, but long inaction has made
hem indolent, and ease is a pleasant
hing. and they would rather go on in
The good old way, as in the good old:
lays. 1t is hard, after generations OF
1ndisputed sovereignty, that a fight for
t should be remotely possible. Women,
Jay the so-called lords, are charming
in their place, if only they would.
Know their place, and-keep it.
To such men, and emphatically they
ire many, the v~ainest, foolishest CO.
luette is in comparison a, household
lefty. Be it reasonable or not, such
feelings are not unnatural. There iss
something ignominious in the thought.
If being superseded. and by a woman.
Chambers Journal.