The Portland daily press. [volume] (Portland, Me.) 1862-1921, 1887-01-07
THE HOME.
some Advice for Young Men as well
as Young Women.

some Advice for Young Men as well
as Young Women.
Springfield Union. y
what woman should do to make home
happy" "Woman as a reformer," and other
items Of the same nature, in which woman's
duties are pictured as endless, are found in
nearly every newspaper of the present day.
Conclusions naturally follow that women
are very strong in influence, or men exceed
ingly weak and subject to temptation.
The shadows would not be without the
light, but light does not depend for its exis-
tence upon shadow. To-day, as ever mar
riage is book of many chapters written in
most instances with pen of fire. Writers
constantly advise young women and neglect
their brothers. Ones advice to young wife
is to be perfection in dress, pleasant in man
ner, correct in conversation, that she may re-
tain the love of her husband Good looks
are also pictured as essential, and again if
youth is not in the W0man's favor, there Is
great danger of transferred affection, and the
possibility of divorce meets her startled Wis
ion. In short, every man expects, demands
virtue from the woman of his choice; does
he give the remnants Of dissipation in return,
or are all the lords Of creation" perfect?
If so, this is q world Of one-sided misfor-
tune, truly.
Tell your friend that Mr.. g., young man,
say %. has married a lady twice his age, and
note the negative effect it has, yet water does
not run up hill whether the sun in all his
power sheds light, or the moon her more gen
tie rays. A man may be handsome, have pol
ished manners, indeed, he may seem to MIR
ror everything which Is noble, manly and cal
culated to hold woman's love, but Is his
heart right? Are his habits and life all he
would have you think them? One must first
understand what their own nature REFUSES
that they should find in companion whose
being must be so closely woven with ones
very self. One needs a companion. Some
| one to shrae delight in sceneIy, music, poet
| ry, and art, and most of all in the chamber
of secret thought, does one need encourage
ment and sympathy, for there are moments
in ones life when one would pour out theiI
condolences to painters lay figures rather
than to keep them shut up In ones heart.
Speaking from the same standpoint as wri.
tiers who advise girls and women, believe a
man Should be so utterly loyal to his ideal
OF his life that duty would bring all the re.
ward needed. Ii you have set your standard
higher, If you have an ideal, remember Others
have ideas whose mark YOU may not reach
Young man be moral, yirtuous; let youl
life be an open book whic you are not afraid
TO have read id public. Be noble in thought
kind IN action, attentive, polite pleasant
careful of words. Thoughts unexpressed
| may sometimes fall back dead, but God him
| self can't kill them when they're said" Ii
| other words be a model. Don't allow the
| golden idols to change to clay until the objec
| of your choice longs fer the freedom which
| is too often wished for and granted, but re
member ITO be is better than to SEEM" NJ
matter how successfully you seem to cove
| your faults. Love the one TO whom you Civ,
| your life and best endeayors with all the in
tenseness of your heart Be a gentlemen a
home Be as loyal to your love as you woult
have your love be to you, and thank God j
| He has given you strength Of character t
| love with life long. whole souled devotion
| and let constancy stamp the seal of immor
tality, and COMPREHENSIVE semblance .
infnitude, into your very heart.