Semi-weekly south Kentuckian. [volume] (Hopkinsville, Ky.) 1883-1889, 1887-01-21
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Some Pertinent Advice to Men aud Women
Contemplating Matrimony.
1t is usually a mistake for nswly-
married couple to settle too meas the
relations on either side. OF course,
there are attractions, not to say ad-
vantagcs, in such propinquity, but in
nine cases out of ten they are ont
weighed by the small disadvantages
which one seldom realizes till, like the
little pack threads that confined Gull
liver in Lilliput, they have twisted
themselves into almost indestructihle
letters. If the brides people are the
neighbOrs the young husband is very
apt to grow irritated by, not to say
jealous of, the perpetual intrusion of
the old life into the new existence, of
which he consciously or unconsciously
feels himself the center; whilst, if
means are small, the Young wife, and
often enough her husband also, are
CALLED and worried by the contrast of
the restrictions of their own life with
the Independence and freedom from
care enjoyed by 'lhe girls for whom
father is still banker. In nothing is
this the case more than with reference
to toilet. Madam may be forgiven n
twingc when she finds her stuff and
book-muslin dresses brought in sharp
contact with her younger sisters silks
and dainty lacc-trimmed India musl lin,
even though the recollection of the good
name she possesses, which her sisters
do not, promptly drives away tho
twinge, but the damage is even greater
that monsieur may begin comparing
ones position now and then, as acaen-
tuated by the sisters toilets, and be
either saddened or angered at the
change. OF course these are absurd
trilles, but the older one grows the
more one realizes that il is just the alb
surd trilles, apparently too microscopic
to notice, that give the most tronble
in this life. Not many people carry
Il dagger, either mentally or physic-
ally, but there are very few who do
not, either actually or metaphorically,
bristle with projecting pin-poinis,
which, either from carelessness or I'M
Kindness, tear those who come in con-
tact with theml Again, if the new
menage is fixed near the husbands
people, it is mistress brides turn TO be
pn thorns. Does la belle mere, in the
Innocence of her heart, venture to al
lude to some bygGne taste of her sons.
Young madame at once decides this to
be a broad hint that she has failed in
consulting her new lords wants and
wishes as good wife should. Or does
the young wife show a tendency, will
not say to be jealous, but to keep apart
with her husband, then the sisters are
pretty safe to fancy she is trying to
wean their brother from his old home,
and resent the imaginary injury. II
both sides are really and b, testify low
ing and kindly these ridiculous misun-
derstandings wear off after time, rs
acquaintance and affection increase;
but none the less, these trifles, small
and petty as they are, are amongst the
tiny rocks and shoals, lurking unsus-
pected below the waves Of life, on
which many gallant bark, freighted
apparently with a more than ample
amount of domestic happiness, has
either foundered hopelessly or been SO
damaged as to bear testimony to the
severe injuries received all the rest of
their career. No; before marrying both
sides must count the cost carefully and
weigh to the Httermost the means, not
pecuniary ones only, they possess a
woman, If really in earnest, is pretty
safe to count the world well lost for
love, and to be ready for any amount
of self-sacriiice-at all events, for the
moment. But, unluckily, it is only us
time goes on that she begins to realize
tho price she has to pay, Men usually
know little moro Of the purchasing
power OF money, and so generally have
very much clearer idea of what they
are giving up when they relinquish
bachclorhood. London Queen.