The Pascagoula democrat-star. (Pascagoula, Miss.) 1878-1920, 1887-03-18
OPINIONLESS WOMEN.

II there is one peculIaIity more
than another for which men ridi
cule women, it is because they, as
Il rule, are so undecided. They
seem hardly to know whether to
stop the car or not; the car once
stopped, they find it difficult to de
eide where to sit down. " hen ask
ed which of several things they
prefer, they are more than apt "nOt
to know" They are said never to
be sure OF just what they want when
they are shopping. In short, they
are declared by all the "tuhny"
men, aud Il good many who make
no pleteusiOns TO being funny, TO
be forever halting between two
opinions, vacillallng, undecided.
This is not surprising in yOung
women, nOr. for that matter, in
young men. Youth is not period
of fixed intentions. IL has not yet
had experience enough to fluid ont
whether 1t likes things or not. But,
when man or woman reaches ma-
ture years, we expect to fluid III
them some settled convictions, and
a little, at least, of That quality
known as "drciSlOu OF character"
without which, it is agreed, no
great success in lite is possible. 10
men, this is usually present TO a
greater. or less degree. In women,
it exists genersli.S IL proportion to
the amount of independence which
they have been obliged to exercise.
The woman who has had TO, or who
has preferred to, earn her own liv.
ing, usually has her share OF deci
sion of character. The woman who
left her fathers home, where she
was always under the tuteiage OF
her parents, tor Il husbands home,
where she is under The direction of
a husband, is usually sadly lacking
in This grand essential.
We say "grand essential advis.
edly. There is seal cely Il day when
one does not read Scathing cIiti.
ciSiciSms, to say othing of the rid.
icnlp, of which we have spoken, of
the women who cannot manage
their servants, and the women who
cannot make their children mind.
A good proportion OF generalship
is de manhed of a woman placed in
the position OF mistress OF 4 house.
hold. or of mother to "a wide.awake
family. 1t is impossible to have
this generalSliip without a good
deal of decision of character. We
insist that the trouble with servants
in this country arises, IN nine cases
out of ten, not so much because the
mistress Is ignorant OF II maids
duties, as is often declared, but
because she is lacking in wise /
decision, that which we have called
generalShip
In order to do her household
work properly then, in order not
only 10 maiDtain the respect Ot tue
but 10 properly dls
charge the obligations laid upon
her as wife, n mother, the bead OF
4 household, aud member OF sOcie-
IN, woman is absolutely sboTn of
Tue chief requisite to success, It she
have not this grand characteristic.
There is prevalent theory that
here must be "headH in every
that with either the
Tather or the mother must rest the
inal authority. II this theory we're
rue, We do not believe that God
vOul I have made marriages ia
v bich atwaiun become lone fiesh,7
and in which reeiproeal duties of,
perhaps, an equally trying nature,
L properly regarded, are laid upon
he man aud the woman. We be-
ieve. aud If there were room
enough in this paper, could bring
nauy an attestrd case to prove our
belief. that the Wisest and best
Iamily government is that in which
a reasonable man marries a reason
able woman, aud no household step
4 undertaken without a consulta-
lion between them, aud a decision
based on the reasOus in the case