Custer chronicle. [volume] (Custer City, Black Hills, D.T. [S.D.]) 1880-1890, 1887-09-03

II misfortune. as their whole
worldly education is that they must
make a good marriage, questions of
heart and affection being entirely reIe.
gated into the background. There are
some young married women who have
not even the excuse Of a grande pas
sion, but who, not being happy in their
own married life, are envious and
jealous of young couples who seem to
be so; these lay themselves out to win
the affection of the men and TO take
them away from their wives simply
from malice. The husbands in many
cases are to blame il their young wives
do foolish things, and get talked about
rs through laziness and seltishness they
will not take the trouble to accompany
them to balls and entertainments, and
night after night these young ladies are
seen about alone. And when a young
and pretty woman is always going
about without her husband, there are
lots of incn in London who look upon
her as their natural prey, and do all
they can to get mp IA flirtation-if not
worso-with her. Kven though she
may not lose her self respect. yet their
conduct is likely to put her in an equiv
ocal position, for it is not possible for a
woman to be constantly snubbing men,
nor is it easy. or even pleasant, to have
to be always avoiding them, or leaving
them when they have 'sat OUT long
enough for censorious tongues 10 be-
gin their work, mor especially If her
cavalier be agreeable or amusing. If
the husband were present, it would be
his business; and the gossiping tongues
of society would have nothing to say
on the subject. unless, with their usual
kindness, they remarked, Poor man.
how he is being befoolcd by his pretty
wife, The remark now is often made
that a ball will be Il very
smart one, rs all the pretty
young married women will be
there; and where they are, the good
raen, as they are called, will also col
lect. The present habit OF loose con-
versation may to a great extent be at
tributed to them, rs they allow the men
To say things tina formerly would never
have been dreamed Of. Men now are
what the women made them, and when
they find that they are allowed freedom
OF conversation and unlimited Irritation
they avail themselves of il, and this
cause Is to a great extent answerable
for the general lowering of the tone Of
society NOWADAYS. 1t is thought moth
ing extraordinary ut the present day
tor "A young married woman TO sit out
most of the evening in n qniet corner
of the conservatory with the same man,
or 10 give "A man IA lift in her carriage
part Of the way home. If a young girl
sits out a long time with the same man
OF several occasions, the world imme-
diately says it will be a match, or if
not, that it ought TO be, and that he Is
behaving very badly to her. Why,
then, are we to suppose that a young
married moman may be doing the same
thing constantly without rousing the
suspicious of others.
But notoriety is the prevailing fash
ion, and it is considered agreat thing
cow to be seen in music halls and res.
taurants chiefly used by the demi
monde, not that there is any p~retense
that these places are more amusing
than the theaters, etc, but there is
that feeling, so charming TO many
young ladies of the present day, that
they are doiag something that is out
OF the way and almost wrong. There
Is the same fascination in gong to
these places that there is in residing
French novels of more than doubtful
morality. Let it be but known that
there is a book OFT thac is hardly de-
cent, and the rush for il is Immense
among our young married ladies, ami
even among some Of the elder SPINS
tiers. Indeed, not TO have read any
book that is more indecent than usual
is 10 be out of the fashion. The young
married women's star first came into
the asccndent when certain ladies were
taken up by society for their looks
alone, and not for the position they
held; these were the rage for a time
and to be friends with them and to
copy them IN many ways was the m
bition of many. who, though not pre-
pared to go to the lengths that these
din, did OF object to be classed in the
same category. Fashion must be
obeyed, and it is the fashion to have
cavaliers dangling at their skirts,
and though they would perhaps blush
to own it. they put themselves in
the position of being stigmatized as un-
faithful to their husbands. TO cvince
a decided preference for their husbands
over other men is Anticipated and Out
e date; and, if u real affection exists.
in the present phase Of society, great
care must be taken to hide it abso
lately, except when the young couples
are quite alone. 1t would be absurd
Of course to say all women are alike
and that none of them are sensible and
good wives, who accept the ilattery Of
men at what il is worth; but there is
still this overing tendency in society
of the present day, and there are many
nice young married women who get
their heads turned by the attention
they receive. Even if they do not in
their downward treer lay themselves
open TO anything worse, at any rate
they set the tongue of scandal wagging
at their expense, and what may be but
f%oolishness is looked upon as worse by
the world. They have a great influence