Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1887-12-31
Some Sensible Suggestions Valuable 20
Young wives.

From the New York journal Of Commerce.
The whole human race may be divided between
those who are helpful and those who need TO b
helped Among the latter there Is q vast multi
tude who are not personally responsible for theil
condition Of helplessness. Man is born into the
| world as q dependent being, and II he was MOI
mfnfstered to and cared tor by others he would
certainly perish. The young OF the brute creation
come independent OF such FOSTER care, and may be
on their own account But for many years the on
spring OF human parents must be nursed and foS-
tered, or sink at once into an unttmely grave.
IN eddtlon 10 the young there are the crippled
and aged wno aT toe feeole
on the verge Of the grave, who require and de.
serve the care OF Others. Our modern civilization
whether we attribute 1t to Christian ethics or to
refined senSlbility, Is much more thoughtful fol
All these classes than the old-time culture In its
pest estate. There was a tenderness toward the
young, although the infant life was formerly less
valued than IT Is In our days but all the rest OF the
helpless We're left to suffer in greater less de-
In behalf OF those who Without oUa Their e own
volltlon are utterly helpless and must perish but
Tor the ministry or others is never unheeded. The
the orphans that furnish retreats for the imbecle
ana insane. that open the hospital doors Tor the
SICK and wounded and that provide homes for the
WOrnout veterans OF both sexes who are untitled
Tor further conflict, arc among the best endowed
ana most heartily supported OF our benencent IN
II the world had on its hands for support and
maintenance only those who are thus commended
10 our pity the burden OF life would be much
iignter Tor all who are disposed to earn their own
living. But the childish at their extreme OF life
the unsound In mind or body, the impotent SUI
lereIS on Deds OF pain and languishing, form but
small part or those for whom 9th rs must labor.
ana tne proportion OF the helpless as 1t seems to
Us, Is increasing every year. We are not now re-
lerlng SO much TO those who by trick, device, or
speculation live upon their fellows without adding
any thlng by their own labor to the common stock
ol physical or mental comforts. II the great body
nov supporting themselves by the adroit method,
ceieDrated In ancient fable OF using and clustering
Olner nandS 10 supply them with the rOasts they
VIII not burn the tips OF their own fingers to OBJ
TAIN, were put TO honest labor on their own ac-
count the hard times among the INDECENT at the
DOtUOm OF the Industrial scale would almost wholly
disappear But these schemers who live by the
milton.
In every home where the domestic circle is un-
broken the head OF the house Is called the bread
winner, ana In large number of this class
throughout the length and breadth OF the land he
Is the only one under the roof who contributes
materially TO the common support. No wonder
tnat many who are thus handicapped fail in the
struggle for bread after their best endeavor, and
20 10 the wall. A wife, the mother OF five chill
ulen, SUED her husband the other day for separa-
tion He had never been unkind he had no ex-
penslVe habits, he was not accused OF fdleneSs or
VI Wasting Ills Income, and he was devoted to his
family The referee before whom the case was
tried was surprised that nothing whatever was
brought against the defendant save that he had
not Deen able to provide his wife with all the
luxurles she had enjoyed I'm her paternal home,
and tnat her flve daughters not as richly APP
pareed out OF his slender purse as many Of their
n neign u, IL never seems 10 have occurred 10
one OF these six fault finders that there might be
reasonable limit TO mans earnings falling short
OF provision sufficient 10 satisfy all their desires,
or TO ask themselves II they could not In same way
lend helping hand to the bread-winner in his
enort TO put the daily loaf on the table at which
tney sat with SUCH stalwart appetites.
We KNOW mat In approaching this view OF the
subject we are treading on dangerous ground. But
We never could see any reason why so many wives
the board the husband Is expected to spread for
them and fancy that all which ought to be ex-
pected OF them Is TO pose as an ornament to tia
household. II wife Is to be a helpmeet In any
thing more than In name she ought to feel some
responsibility to aid iii the common tasK We
Know tnat In many homes the weary round OF
SOCIAL duties, The care or the servants and the
Worry with the children consume the time and
strength OF the wife so that she can give no
tn a 10 the wise counsel she might bring as
her contribution TO tie business affairs that wear
upon the life of her husband. But II she is not
helpful to him In some real and tangible way he
unsuccessful
And what shall we say OF the children? fond
mother whose chief ambition ever since she was
married has been to make a wise expenditure OF
her husbands income, but who never mas Thought
that she could In any way enable him to add to II,
SAID the other day, snow that my daughter has
grown up, she Is such care and expense TO us ~
Another, In the same social circle VINO mad trIler
view OF what both wife and children ought to be I'm
a nome, speaking TO other listeners said: "My
4auehler mas grown SO as TO be quite a help to me
never could do with one servant II 1t were not Tor
neri Inere Is pinching to make both ends meet
In the former home: In the latter there fS thrtYt
anu increasing prosperity. There are thOuSa. ads
Oh women OF all ages to-day who as Idle and as
helpless nell, s as painted ship upon painted ocean
who have brain and muscle, and would have not
only increasing vigor and more confirmed health,
Dut quckened sense OF the great realities or lite
ana keener relish for all tnat makes existence
deslraoe II they would no longer sit to be fed like
the uhnedSed Nesting, but take some active part
tne VIC. that DleSseS the world. Service of some
lu0 Is an That ennnhlnS Ueing.