The true northerner. [volume] (Paw Paw, Mich.) 1855-1920, 1887-04-27
DIFFICULT TO SUIT.
Beginning n COnrtship.

Having selected his victim, the next
thing the young man-for the first
pages of the pamphlet are devoted to
the stern sex-must do is to begin his
courtship. The method of procedure
depends upon the kind of girl to be
dealt with. She may be a stranger or
the parties may be acquainted. She
may be a hayward co iuette, domes-
tic young lady, a prude, proud strip
of a thing, an actress, blue stocking,
q widow, or worse than all the others
combined, an old maid. The triple
widower tells how to tackle them all.
He seems to have an experience with
everything in petticoats.
"To pave the way" he says, "for O
courtship, young man must study
carefully the part he has TO act His
aim, in all these preliminary proceed
ings, must be to do that which is neces-
sary, and at the same time prevent
suspicion of what he is driving at. No
jewelry or articles of dress should be
given as presents in this stage of pro-
ceedings, as she would immediately
suspect your object. These must be re-
served until you are an accepted lover.
After thus preparing the girl TO approve
of you as lover, the next proceeding
should be to ascertain whether her
parents or friends would object. You
friend whom you could make your con-
fidant. He might easily find out how
the land lay without putting any direct
questions, for there would be no harm
in limiting that John seemed to have
Partially for Lucy and he wondered
whether there was anything in it, etc.
If the feeling of the family could not
be got at in this manner, a more direct
course should be pursued. Whenever
you are persuaded that the family of
the girl are agreeable to the arrange
ment, you can then begin your regular
courtship. Some coup es, after the
preliminary steps before described,
would run naturally into q courtship
without knowing when it really COM
menced; but if the girl is shy it may
be necessary TO have the matter per-
fectly understood. On one of your
visits you will say to her; L heard
something to-day which / am afraid
will make you feel bad for the moment,
even if 1t does not cause you up-
happiness What is that?' size
naturally inquiries. You reply. Mr..
Brown says that people talk about
us that it is rumored that / am
very thick about here-am paying You
serious attentions-that it will be a
match, and all that sort of thing. I
told him was afraid was not az lucky
as that If the girl is pleased with
the announcement you will know il by
her answer. If she does not answer at
all you can continue your speech by
saying: Il did not contradict the re-
port. and hope you will not be angry
when | say that wish it was true If
she still remains silent, or if she speaks
kindly to you, you should follow ND
your advantage by frank declaration
of your passion-not in hackneyed,
novel-reading phrases, but in matter
of-fact form, to wit: Lucy, you must
excuse me for telling you that 1 find
your society more and more agreeable
every time we meet-indeed, think I
should be unhappy to be deprived of
it; and If / am allowed to continue nv
visits, may not consider them those of
an accepted lover?' On her answer or
on her silence (Which is the same thing)
depends your fate. If you are thus
accepted the whole business is through
with, unless q future quarrel should
part you. 1t is true you are not EN-
gagged, but that will naturally follow"
--Erchange.