Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1887-07-24
SOcinl pUshprs.


That the most humiliating feature Of
modern society is to be- found IN the
artjfc,s OF those who wish to "Cgt on
i'm the fashionable world has often
enough been remarked: yet there Is
still room for amazemeut at the ingcnu-
itv Of the devices to which the snobs
viii resort. We have had good many
weddings recently in the neighborhood
Of Boston, and among other brides Of
high social position has been Miss Y,
whose family is rather noted for It's *
cusiyonoss. When the invitations
for the wedding were sent out
Mrs. A., woman who Is real
.y dcyoured by social ambition,
was not included in the list Of
Guests. She had met Mrs y, and had
somewhat oyerstcppcd the strict pro-
prioties Of etiquette in the manner in
which She had called upon that cXcu
sivc lady. Now, she was doubtless
much chagrined at not reccivinga card
for a wedding which was to be a very
large one, hut she was 10y no means
ready 10 abandon the field. On the
day after the invitations went out Mrs
\. sent Miss y. valuable and we'll
selected piece of plate as n wedding
gift. Miss Y, in the privacy OF a CIR
Gle Of intimate friends, declared that
she would not have the present 1t was
urged upon her that she certainly could
not return IT.
But will not acknowledge it, 80 she
declared anerily.
Gut then, my dear her mother
aaid, "you viii be putting yourself in
the wrong. You cannot he rude, and
especially TO nobody like Mrs. A..
~ don't care, persisted the daugh-
ter. 81 will not invite her, anyway.
THIS my Wedding, and will have
whom please. She can't buy an invi-
tation with her trumpcry old present
Eut of course, III the end, Mr.. \.
Was invited, and She appeared at tae
wedding with the air Of boing the mo-:
intimate friend of the family. itahus,J
those who knew the story. bat Mrs. =.
is clever enough a. make th, fact t.a!
She was thcrctcll for good a.a! iu A.r
struggle up the social heights.
4 still more amazing trick was -
,oitcl 20 lya Boston lady this winter
To got to n reception where She wished
10 arlcar. She wrote 10 the hostess a.
whom she had never even been Pr
stnt,d, that she had badly high ~
Washington society staying with her,
and that If was So much the custom in
Washington to attend receptions uniu-
yitcd flat her friend had seen 40 im-
rIcuidy in telling some acquaInt-
anccs frat she would meet them
st tbs gathering The note went
IN TO say that as hostess the
writer Was put in 50 awhw4r.
position that she had ycnturod
to lay the case before the lady giving
thc entertainment, hoping that she
would be- willing to send cards % her
self and the stranger On thisoccaSlon
the schcmc was failure. The not.
vas answered merely bya formal rcgr.'
that the list of guests having been made
up before the receipt Of Mrs. s
note il was impossible to comply with
her request The lady from Washing
ton probably never knew Of the Use
made of her name. At least she did
not present herself Mt The reception.
And speaking of the Washington vie.
# intrudiug upon social gatherings,
which has become SO much OF q scan lal
that It is strange hostcoses ut the CAPT
tai do not in sclf-dcfcnce resort to the
device Of demanding cards at tsc door,
a lady Of that city told me recently Of
her own experience.
Il sent ont invitations, sle sad.
"to 500 Anywhere but IN Wa-hInr-
ton that would have meant about G)J
guests. ordered supper for 1000.
About 200 came. When supper was
served, "a mob precipitateditNelf on the
diniug-room, and, Of course, the unn-
vited were hrstou hand. Not very long
after went myself to see that the wife
Of Senator O., whom especially wanted
10 Ic polite to. had something To-
eat. The diuing,room looked as
| If if had been sacked 10y fam
lsh,d amy. ! looked about and ! said
fo Ter. Ms O., there IS q candis on
that table. if you are Russian enough
! tO cat il. ana over there is hall an
0euec.' That is positively all That Wa,
.,lt. ana the catccrr sad WAS forth
iato that themoh I'D not carry OF the
dishes and the furniture. Pariy-glyin@
IA Washington has come to mere open
.ug vour house 10 a mob OF people You
wouldn't Know ior the world, and for
py part AIN sick OF it. shall civ,
dinner parties hereafter. That VIII
take care Of the people ! most care
u out. ANA therC,t must 80.
Happily We have not come t. this III
Boston, Int people do make frantic 81
forts to get into the proper sets, resort
ing to tricks too snobbiSh and mean 70
be endurable, or, indeed, believaJle,
did not one know that they exist