Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1887-07-10
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PLATONISM FOR THE GIRLS.
Young Men Friend who Are Not Lovers.
How to Judge Them by the Easiest and
Most Scientific Method.
Mllpdakee HTseonsiR.
Can there be true friendship between
man and woman without love-" This
problem has been sent me for solution by
two Nebraska young women, who naively
acknowledge that a strong personal inter
est prompts their question. Dear girls,
their is nothing more embarrassing than to
be asked for information upon matters con-
corning which there is a great vagueness
in ones own mind. Opinions differ on
this subject, as on all others. What is al
mitigated scorn of B, while c serenely &C
cepts the most attractive features OF the
two and regards their opponents with the
easy federation of one who has the major
ity on his side. For myself, l would
say that in my opinion there is such q thing
possible between man and woman as
friendship without love, and / would
qualify this statement by quoting the
words of an old Illinois farmer of my &C
auaintance: bat it's mighty unsartin,
and powerful rare" If you haxe lived to
the mature age of Is or 20, you have prob
ably had some personal experience in this
mater. Inasmuch rs "a strong interest
causes your desire for light on the subject,
it might be well to look at it from several
standpOints and discover, if possible, the
class of masculine aspirants TO which
George may belong.
First, there is the youth who, rejected
as a sutton, processes himself anxious to
retain at least the position Of friend. IA
a general thing he is rather unsatisfactory.
| He is inclined TO wax sentimental at inter
walls, which is embarrassing-to indulge IN
the fond hope of future surrender, which
is acknowledgement TO grow jealous and
uncomfortable whenever a third person
appears on the scene, which is annoying.
He brings up various "reminiscences
at inconvenient times, acts des-
perate when you snub him, idiotic
when you don't and altogether
his professed friendship alone" is a hOl-
low mockery. As time passes and the
sharp edge of his disappointment wears off
a little, he generally succeeds in finding
some other young who is willing to
take him for better or worse. This rein
states his good opinion of himself, while
simultaneously his estimate Of you under
goes q change as he,Fealizes the wretched
taste You showed in refusing what another
girl found so desirable. lie finally con-
! Cludes that, after all, you were never ex-
actly his style.
The second class includes the warm, ad-
mirlng friend, who has enshrined in his
heart some fair divinity concerning whom
he loves to pour his condolences, his hopes
and fears into your homes on the evenings
| when he is off duty" at the other place,
and you will be RECALLED with ~ interesting
account of his. last conversation with Julia
what she said, what he said principally
what he said), what they both said, and
| why they said oft. There will generally
have been a number of Julia's remarks
which he thinks might be interpreted to
mean that she was offended at something,
and which he has been thinking over since,
but can't exactly understand. These you
will explain, as you are a woman, and OF
course know precisely what Julia meant.
A woman always knows what another wo-
man means. Before interpreting, how
ever, il would be policy for you to
discover by . few adroit questions
Just what explanation he would
prefer, and then announce your opinion ac-
cordingly. This will please him. He will
remain an hour longer explaining to you
the mental process by which he arrived at
that identical conclusion, add when he
goes away he will remark to his friends
th0t you are a sensible woman This
should be reward enough for any one.
During the time the youngman will escort
Julia to theatres parties balls and
take her driving. You will re-
ceiye a full account of these festivities,
and are, of course, expected to be at
home on the occasions when his other
social duties permit him 10 spend an even
ing with you. Don't 90 out yourself, and
| above all, don't let your friend find you
enjoying the society ofanother of his sex.
He doesn't like it. He is not jealous, GER
tainly not. But he can't talk of his IMAM
orata in the presence of a third person,
and no other subject is sufficiently absorb.
ing to claim his interest. This style Of
young man wants to lavish the wealth of
his affection Oh Julia-but he wants, too,
your friendship, your sympathy, and,
above all, your undivided attention. IL
George belongs TO this class-drop him.
Last and best is the genuine bona-ide
friend-Jhe rara avis in the world OF hui
man intercourse. He is considerate, SYM
pathetic and sincere. He does not enter
tain you with IN account of the latest feat
on the bicycle or the record of Jay Eye
See. Neither does he kindly stoop to the
level Of your intellect and discuss the
German or the art exhibit at Blanks. He
will talk to you much as he would to
a refined masculine friend. He talks
Of himself Of course. That is a
popularity TO which each indi-
vidual member of the sex is a victim. He
will reveal to you his ambitions, his
dreams, his plans and-'Oh, wise young
iudge'-not only that, but he is interested
when you exhibit your supply of egotism
and strike the chord Of self. He is the
most charming comrade imaginable; he
will listen admirably TO your singing, gaze
with interest at your painting, and cheer
fully turn your music while You play. He
is always on hand as an escort, and is not
jealous il you go with any one else, though
he has been known to wear q panied, far
away look at such times.
If George belongs TO this class keep him.
He is a friend to be proud of, for he com
bines the affection of a brother with the
attention and courtesy Of a lover, and your
welfare is as much to him as his OWL.
And he will remsin so. Will, probably,
until he msrries, and his wife c%onvinces
him in a few well chosen remarks that the
friendship should cease.
Too Much Enthusiasm.