Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1887-07-16
When She Ii Engaged.
HOW GIRL OUGHT TO ACT WHEN SHE HAS AC

Society, says writer in Harper's Bazaar, Is very
much to blame for It's readiness to declare an en-
gagement or without sufficient reason and to cir
culate rumors prejudicial to the gentleman II an
engagement is broken. This has often led to the
final disruption OF relations which otherwise might
have terminated in happy marriage. Unfortu-
nately in an age Of gold, money has become an I'M
pOrtant factor in modern matrimonial engage
mentS. But plenty Of young hearts find each
other out, and despite the woes OF civilization the
good old fashion OF marrying for love is yet
tinct. Once engaged. the happy pair should avoid
all public demonstrations of affection, except that
they may walk together arm In arm, and the
young lady may drive out with her affianced with
a servant behind. She must not, however, 90 to
the opera or theater with him alone; she must
have u chaperon II she would consult the preJu-
dlces OF society.
An engaged girl should not take on airs. Some
assume different manner when engaged:
Disdan and scorn ride sparkling in her eye,
All matter else seems weak She cannot Iowa
Nor take no shape nor project Of affection.
She Is so self-endeared.
She has the air OF victorious general who rides
| into captured city. Fortunately, such conduct
| is not usual, but 1t is by no means imposslble
Then, again, an engaged girls conduct toward the
| family Into which she is about TO enter should be
most alnable and respectful Some women have
but to smile and bow TO conquer the world; there
| are others who must study long and patiently to
| achieve a good manner. The worst manner is born
OF coarse indifference and self-Suffcient AFRO
| gance. Breeding, cultivation, and manners come
| from the heart and mind. She Is the precious
| daughter-tn-law who comes into family bringing
| all these as her dowry; who treats her future
| family with even more circumSpect pOliteneSs
than she would her own; who is so enchanting, SO
sympathetic, that the family do not wonder that
Charles fell In love, and they all welcome this new
/ addition with almost the enthusiasm OF a lover
| When an engagement is announced the family
OF the lover all cali on that OF the lady The an
| nounCemenL should come from the mother or the
! gentleman; as soon as Is convenient and proper
| there should be al invitation extended BY The
family OF the young man TO that Oh the young
/ woman. She then becomes an auJocrat; every
| thing Is referred TO her. She goes out with ner
future mother-in-law sisters and Is one OF them
in TACT, though not In maine; she can visit them at
their house. but she must never travel alone with
| her lover. Our Language Is singulariy dencient
| we have no word TO represent nance and fancee;
''my daughters engaged" is very awkward
| phrase; "lny daughters beau" Is old-ashioned;
"ny daughters young man" Is very countrited
my daughters lover" Is scarcely proper phrase
so We have to beat about the bush unless We
adopt the French word, for the sake Of convent
| enCe
| iance gives his fancee ring q diamond gen.
| orally, or ruby set with diamonds. He may also
| give her a sapphire or turquoise. The etiquette
| 10 be observed by young man toward his future
bride may safely be left TO the tntuittons Ut his
| heart