The Warner sun. (Warner, Brown Co., Dakota [S.D.]) 1885-1???, 1887-09-23
When She is Engaged.

Society. saws a writer III darpers
Razar, is very much to blame for its
readiness to declare an engagements
off without sufficient reason and to-
circulate rumors prejudiciai to the
Gentleman if an engagement is broken.
This has often led to the final disrup-
t;on Of relations which otherwise
might have terminated in a happy
marriage. Unfortunately in an age OF
cold, money has become an lmportant
factor in modern matrimonial engage
ments. But plenty Of young hearts
fnd each other out, and despite the
woes of civilization, the good old
fashion of marryingfor love Is notyet
extinct. Once engaged, the happy
pair should avoid all demonstrations
Of affection, except that they may
walk together arm in arm, and the
young lady may drive~out with ner
afianced with a servant behind. u
must not, however, go the opera or
theater with him alone; she must
have chaperon if she would consult
the p~reiudices OF society.
An engaged girl should not take or
airs, Some assume a different man
ner when engaged;
Disdain and scorn ride sparklingtn her eye,
Misprizing what they look on; anu her wit
Values herself SO highly that to her
All matter else seemed weak. She cannot
love
For take no shape or project OF affection,
She is so se~lf'endeared.
She has the air of q victorious gen.
eral who rides into a captured city.
Fortunately, such conduct is not u.s.
ual, but it is by no means impossible.
Then, again an, engaged girls conduct
toward the family into which she IS
about to enter should be most ami
BILE and respectful. Some women
have but to bow and smile to con-
duer the world; there are Others who
must study long and patiently to
achieve q good inner The worst
manner is born of q coarse indltfer-
enCe and a self-sutliCient arrogance.
Breeding, cultivation, and manners
come from the heart and mind. She
is the precious daughter-in-law who
comes into a family bringing all These
tS net NO"ll NV lpAG AASL
family with even more CirCumspect
politeness than she would her own;
who is so enchanting, so symnathet-
ic, that thefamilydo not wonder that
Charles fell in love, and they all well
come this new addition with almost
the enthusiasm of q lover.
When an engagement is announced
the family Of the lover all call on that
Of the lady. The announcement
should come from the mother of the
gentleman; as soon as IS convenient
and proper there should be an invita-
ton extended by the family of the
young man to that OF theyoung WON,
an. She then becomes an autocrat;
everything is referred to her. She
goes out with he future mother-in-law
or sisters, and is one of them, in fact,
though not IN name; she can visit
them at their house, but she must
never travel alone with her lover.
Our Language is s%ingularly deficient;
We have no word to represent fiance
and fianeee; 'my daughters engag-
ed' is q very awkward phrase; 6my
daughters beau is ol~d.fashioned;
Tiny daughters young man is very
countIified; my daughters lover" IS
scarcely a proper phrase, so we have
to beat about the bush unless We
adopt the French word, for the sake
of convenience.
A fiance gives his fiancee a ring. q
diamond generally, or a ruby set with
diamonds. He may also give her q
sapphire or turquci2e. The etiquette
to be observed by a young man to-
ward his future 0ride may safely Be
lett to the intuitions OF his heart.