Morris tribune., 1887-01-26
SOME TRUTHS OF LOVERS.
The Care tho Young Man and His Girl Take to
Look Well to Each Other.

The Care tho Young Man and His Girl Take to
Look Well to Each Other.
From the Pittsburg Dispatch.
The young man, when he goes to
call on his lady love, puts on his best
auds, makes his mother or his sisters
fly around and help him to get himself
up in the best form possible. He jaws
them, gets mad, slams things around
regardless of consequence kicks the
wall because his shoe pinches, and
finally rushes out looking AS cross as
teased terrier. He foregoes drink
or cigar for fear of their spelling mis-
breath, and loads his handkerchief
with the perfume best calculated to
disguise or smother the taint of cigar
cite smoke. The young lady is ex-
pecting him, of course; has had
her hair up in papers all day;
the afternoon has been spent in
getting ready to receive HIM, and when
the parlor lights are burning she looks
very angel. Had he seen her i'll the
morning with q handkerchief tied
around her head, heard her complaints
OF Indigestion and nervous headaches,
seen her slovenly morning wrapplngs
and caught a few of her tartly-expressed
views on theconduct of her mother
and the family in general, he would
have been in a quandary as to which
region the angel belonged.
In the parlor all is smiles, tenderly
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protestations against all that IS rude
or disagreeable and in favor OF that
which is gentle and long suffering. They
deceive themselves as we'll as each
other. Probably they DO not mean
it, but they do it. Of course, the ar
dent youth who reads this will say it is
not for him. Those who have had their
wings singed in the delusive blaze
are the ones who will read it with
deepest interest and appreciate it
most. They can only sigh and won
der why some one did not say as much
to them, yet there is much satisfac-
tion even in that sigh. If they are suf-
ficently philosophical to make the
best of it, to keep the bright side out
and to persistently refuse togo behind
the scenes, they may get along; but If
they give way to regrets, take to
drink or finding fault with their
mothers-in-law, their days OF happiness
are done.
Persons of ardent dispositions, es-
pecially youngpersons, should be very
careful not to allow themselves to be
carried too fast or too far by what
they consider true love. 1t may pan
out nothing more enduring than IN
fatuation. The sensations are so sim
liar at first that an expert might
be bothered for a while to deter
mine which is which, but time
will tell the tale. Love remains
bright alike through sunshine and
storm, and even times corroding
breadth does not dim its luster. On
the other hand infatuatiOn flashes and
burns with an intense, brilliant glare,
dimming every other light, and palIng
the glories that have always been re-
garded as resplendent. AS months
pass, however, the glare becomes less
and less intense. and finally the place
where the fire was is marked only by
smoldering embers or unhappy lives.
There are times in the life Of every
young man when he thinks his whole
happiness, usefulness and existence It
self depends on marrying particular
lady. He is in earnest about 1T, al
though he may be ashamed OF himself
a few years later. How fortunate If
something happens to prevent him
giving way to his matrimonial lmpul-
h. to %
ashamed of his Stiffness married as
single. If you can induce married
folks to tell the truth, the whole truth
and nothing but the truth about their
young days and their early love al
fairs, they will all, with rare excep-
tions, tell of sweethearts whom they
regarded as heaven-sent, and that no
amount of reasoning would have con-
vinced them that they could live With
out their constant company.
First love is all right If lovers are
properly mated. The mere fondness
for each other and the lovesickness,
which is usually developed in such
cases, is not sure sign or fitness for
marriage. There are scores OF bache-
lors and maids who ares such from dis
appointment in their first love. 1t
affected them so that they have been
unable to Danish that 'fairest face and
divinest form" from their hearts.
There is always vacant chair beside
them and an invisible guest at their
feasts. These arscomparatively rare1n-
stances, yet enough to make a arespect-
able exception to the general rule. 1t
III 70 lrn ryn-
ment until both parties have arrived
at an age when they are able to be
trusted with the transactions of i'm
portant business. They should have
a clear comprehension of the responsi-
biIities they are assuming, have a we'll
defined course marked out through life
and a definite understanding with each
other as to how they are to live. By
following such q course there IS not
much danger of making q mistake.