Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1887-03-03

that girl used to certain income in
the paternal mansion may not try life
with suitable partner on half the
amount. She may keep her intellect,
she may keep her refinement, she may
may keep most of the real joys and
blessings of her girihood's home. and
she may add to them many others.
Parents are sometimes a little too
ambitious for their children. Their
sons must marry heiresses, and they
require their sons-in-law to be provid-
ed with an income equal to their own,
not when they started in life together,
but at the acme of their worldly pros
perity. If succeeding generations fol-
lowed in their steps-and it is very
much the style of this go-ahead nine
teenth century-nothing less than a
Midas would be acceptable to fathers
and mothers.
If man loves a girl with all his
heart, so that none other is, and he
feels none other ever will be like her
to him, he loves her well enough to
deny himself for her sake, and to work
for her sake. Nothing will seem to
him too hard to bear for her sake, and
the same will be the reverse of the
medal. The girl herself will be ready
to give up for her husbands sake, if
need be, many luXuries, many cher
ished pursuits, many coveted fancies;
she will be ready to begin and carry
on an earnest, industrious, and, it may
be, even hard life, rather than live
an easy-going and more luxurious life
without him.
Every thing depends on the persons.
One couple may marry on what would
bring another to ruin. To marry upon
nothing but mutual affection is eyre
gious folly; but to shrink from a mar
ried life because it involves large
amount of serious, earnest purpose,
and perhaps of hard labor is as cow
ardly as the other is foolish. If you
are young, vigorous in mind and body,
firm of purpose, and. above all, really
attached to each other, marriage may
be undertaken by you upon a much
smaller income than by those who do
not enjoy your blessings. who have not
your good health, strength and energy,
and, above all, who are not fully per-
suaded in their own minds that life to.
gether now is preferable upon small
means to a prospective union ia posi-
bly, bri ghter days hereafter.
Much depends-we had almost said
as much depends-on the will, head
and heart as on the income. Common
sense, prudence and self-denial are the
essentials and safeguards in union on
small means. With bountiful supply
of these estimable qualities. a married
couple may live more comfortably,
bring up their children more creditably,
and leave behind them better name
than another with double their income,
but half these helps to matrimony.
Women complain that so few men
can afford to marry. Whose fault is it?
The girls go to all the balls extensively
dressed and extensively chaperoned;
they talk-most of them-as if life were
one eternal holiday to them, as if their
fingers were employed at home only in
the most delicate and dainty occupa-
tons, as if their whole time were spent
in a trifling round of visiting or
entertainment. They cloak their real
and better self with volatile senseless-
ness to suit their company, and who can
wonder that the man of moderate income
dare not, however much he may in one
sense admire them, propose to such
girls? He knows that his wife, in her
early married life at any rate, may
have to make pudding, darn socks
or trim lamp. How can he suppose
these apparently aimless, giddy, but
terfy girls would dream of undertake
ing such occupations with heartfelt
delight.
1t is only sometimes, and by the
merest chance, that the man who has
danced, boated, played tennis and
f1irted with these girls, discovers how
sterling and true is the metal that, by
custom, fashion and the mimicry OF
human nature, is overlaid by so much
flimsy tinsel. There are very few men
who by their unaided sense or instinct
recognize the true value of the charac-
tiers that are so disguised and hidden.
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