Barton County democrat. [volume] (Great Bend, Kan.) 1885-1915, 1887-01-27

As1s OF the Sad Results OF supersensitivs-
ness and Carelessaess.
It's We, not they. who are in fault,

When oil the world seems wrong. 90
So many of Is are apt to pass Unjust
sentence upon the world at large if one
little factor of it happens to cross our
I paths in . way unpleasant TO us In
deed, there are not few of us who areo
so choleric as TO believe that our best
friends are plotting against us. if they
dare take the liberty of differing from
| us on any subject, and unless we can
have this thinking, active, throbbing
world narrowed down to fit our own
| sings, We pronounce it going to the
osd.. Now, this is an unhealthy stateS
OF mind, and is traceable in a large de-
gree 40 selfishness; for the view weget
OF the world depends much up9p the
spectahD-3 through which we look at it.
II We peer out at it through our bitter
ness, selfishness, or uncharitableness
we wiz seem to see those unlovely
qualities in others, while in reality We
are the faulty ones. and not our fellow
creatures; and if, instead of condemn
ing others, we would look more impair
italy into the causes of the unhappy
state OF affairs, we would find that our
proneness to impute unworthy motives
to others in their actions toward us
has been az the root of much ofNhe
trouble. Observation has taught me
that the two chief reasons for mental
misery are oversensitiveness on the
part OF half of the world, and lack of
thought, or tact, on the other half. 1t
is those afflicted with oversensitivesna-
lures who are quick to take offense at
all imaginary Sights. They are for
ever on the lookout for something to
feel I'M ured about, and invariably per-
suade themselves that the motives
which would have actuated them in a
certain course of conduct must have
Influenced the one who has offended .
them. This inclination to fix Rnkind
motives upon the words and deeds of
our friends and acquaintance" has
caused Us more zeal heartaches than it
was ever intended we should SITTER.
The motive is, after ali. the thing to- he
weighed, and if We know that the I'M
kind word which wounded was not pre-
nBetlitated nor intentional, are we
not wrong to ourselves and ootheBs to
invest it with Il harsher meaning and
take it to heart as much as though it
weT espitefully said2 Indeed, thereiSno
sense nor reason in our narrowing up
our feelings by imaginary thrusts and
stabs while there are so many stern
realities which make the old world
seem out of gear.
IT, then, the sensitive part of tile
world suffers, it is the thoughtless hall
whicb is in most instances to blame, for
more sorrow is caused by the carelessly
thOughtless than ever wae wrought by
the Wickedly heartlass; and yet many
plead this self-sams misunderstanding,
al did not think" as an excuse for
their wrong-doing. Our prayer-bo6i1s
teach us that ''sins of omission rank
in enoFmity with ''sihs of commission
No. Ons who is not possessed of oer-
tain. amount of thoaghtfAness or 6lct
can atnain to that degree of perfection
which endears her tojthe heart of every
one:. In the society world it makes the
successful hostess, for what is more e
Charming to meet together with those
whom a nice discrimination has, Sc
lected because of compatibility of tastes
and requirements. The same thought
fulneSs guides the conversation fnoml
topics which would prove embarrass-
ing. and invests the hostess with. the
happy faculty of always saying the
pleasantest thing possible and making
hen guests satisfied with themselves as
we'll rs her.
This is an attribute which may be
cultivated by those who have. gone SO
far Through life Needless of the.feelings
of others, for there VIII come times
when this unifor1u carelessness will tes-
tify against them in the absence o4
hn1f g.. 81.
exercise of u kind thoughtfulness is n04
limited in its province to the-center fig
ures Of the social circle, as the home i5,s
above all places, the one. in which il
shoiad never be brgotten. Each meRz-
Der az the home Knows whas is the seno
sitive point Of zach of the. Others, and
remembering this, and avoiding always
these reefs of danger, the daily intvr-
course Of families might be more hAr-
monious than we frequently finR 1t.
But the most careful person may al
times uncOnscioasly foush hidden
spring OF sOIuDw Or bitterness liz an
other by SONS light alllAsion, ana inn
nIediateiy the wounded one feels aage1
and coRtempEfOr the speaker, so quick
~ does she bAiieve an luaworthylzfbtiYe
suggested tse remark. Thus, in all the
world, these two grieas play in7o each
others hsnds, stirring up strife be- o
tween the dearest fsiends, estEangine'
the memb<rs Of one household. and
making shis lovely world, Eith its
beauty and sweetness, appear as wholly
NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS. Cre American.
ConnvbiH Sarcasm.
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