The Dallas daily herald. [volume] (Dallas, Tex.) 1873-1887, 1887-11-11
UNHAPPY MARRIAGES.
Reasons for Ordinary Marital DIM
culties.

culties.
The other day, while going over in
the bridge cars. l heard a young mar
ried woman, bride Of year, relating
her woes to much older woman. her
aunt probably. Her husband, accord
ing to her account had been neglectng
her shamefully. No matter how hard
she tried it seemed impossible to retain
his affection, and she had made up her
mind that in future she would trouble
herself very little about him. She be-
came so excited that she took the en-
tire car into her confidence, and from
a few phrases she let fall, ! do not
til nix the husband was entirely to
blame. yet If he had had little more
patience and tact matters might have
mended considerably.
For the first few months of her we'd
ded life everything went on very
smoothly-too smoothly in fact They
were both too attentive to each other
for it to last Finally, one day she did
a little more homework than usual -
homework that she neglected to finish
very interesting novel that some
kind friend had loaned. The time
slipped away very quickly, and she
found she could not dress for dinner
and prepare the dinner too. SO she neg
lected her attire for the dinner. The
dinner was not as nice as usual, and
when the husband came home and
found his wife looking hot, untidy and
GROSS, instead of being prettily dressed
and meeting him with smile. he did
not resign himself to the changed order
of things very gracefully. Things went
on from bad to worse; the dinner be-
came poorer and poorer, her toilet
more and more disorderly. and OF
course, the house harmonized with her
attire.
The proverbial last straw took on
this guise. In their period of great
calm and happiness the husband often
brought home friend Unexpectedly,
and the wife always made him welcome.
He knew the house was always in good
condition. and as for the dinner, no
matter where a man went he would
not get one so good All his hospitable
desires had been relinquished recently,
but an old friend of his, and one who
had not visited him since he was mar
ried, called at his office one evening
Just as he was going home, and, of
course, there was nothing left but to
ask the friend TO accompany him.
There was no time to send any word
of the coming guest, and it was with
fear and trembling he approached his
home.
The house was in total darkness-a
bad omen, he knew. II there is one
thing above another man detests it is
darkness; nothing makes him so cross
OF disagreeable. After lighting up he
went to find his wife, and there she was
in the kitchen in the usual condition.
the dinner about half cooked and not
enough for the extra guest. 1t was
too late to get in any provisions, the
wife was mad because she was not
told the friend was coming; the hus-
band angrier STILL and between them
one can imagine the pleasant time the
friend passed. He fastened his de-
parture as much as he could, and after
he left there was a scene.
The first serious quarrel Of man
and wife is a terrible thing. In their
headlong anger they make accusations
that rankle in the mind forever. They
may become good friends again, but
lovers never. Love can not withstand
such shock. l was considerably in
terested in the recital of her wrongs,
and l was anxious to know If the
breach had been repaired. Happening
to be 10 troduced to her confidant few
days later, asked her how the young
couple were getting along; she looked
very grave, and said she was afraid
their journey to the happy valley was
over, though she entertained great
hopes from a visit the girls mother
was going to make to her daughter 8
new home.
How many wives are there in this
fair City of Brooklyn that are pursuing
the same course. Most men like wo-
men to be we'll dressed, and during the
ccsrtship no girl would present her
self before her affianced unless her
toilet was just as it ought to be. What
she would not do before marriage she
should not do after. She should be
even mere particular. for the rose
colored spectacles of love are apt to get
a little clearer once the marriage knot
has been tied A woman's husband
and her children are her world, and
should always try to appear before
them at her very best.
When husband sees his wife be-
coming careless a few kind words and
little of the flattery both sexes enjoy
may correct it before it has developed
into a habit. The worst of it is that
most husbands demand too much OF
their wives. They expect them to be