The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1886-03-04
Manners for Boys.


Manners for Boys.
Poor fellows! How they get hectoTec
and scoldered and snubbed, and how
continual is the rubbing and polishing
and drilling which every member Of the
family feels at liberty to administer.
No wonder their opposition is aroused
and they begin to feel that every man's
hand is against them, when, after all, il
they were only, in quiet way, informed
of what was expected of them, and their
manliness appealed to, they would readi'
ly enough fall into line.
So thought "Auntie NJ" as she pointed
out the following for little twelve year
old nephew, who was the eight of her
eyes," if not always the Joy Of her heart,
for though good-natured, amiable boy
in the main, he would offend against the
"proprietios" frequently.
First come manners for the street.
Hat lifted in saying ..'good-by" or
elbow do you do"
Hat lifted when offering seat in a Car
or in acknowledging favor.
Keep step with any one you walk with.
Always precede lady up stairs and
ask her if you may precede her in passing
through crowd or public place.
Hat off the moment you enter street
door and when you step into a private
hall Or office.
Let lady pass first always unless she
ask you to precede her.
In the parlor stand till every lady in
the room is seated, also older people.
Rise if lady comes in after you are
seated and stand till she takes seat.
Look people straight in the face when
speaking or being spoken to.
Let ladies pass through door first,
standing aside for them.
In the dining room take your seat after
ladies and elders.
Never play with knife, fork or spoon
Do not take your napkin in bunch in
your hand.
Eat as fast or. as slow as others and
finish the course when they do.
Rise when ladies leave the room and
stand till they are out.
If all go out together, gentlemen stand
by the door till ladies pass.
Special rules for the mouth are that
all noise in eating and smacking of the
lips should be avoided.
Cover the mouth with hand or napkin
when obliged to remove anything from it.
Use your handkerchief unobstrusively
always.
Do not look toward bedroom door
when passing. Always knock at any
private room door. These rules are i'm
peratiye. There are many other little
points which add to the grace of gen.
tleman, but to break any of these is
almost objectionable.
"Did you make up all these rules,
auntie?" said Roy, as q copy neatly
printed by type writer was placed in
his hands.
"Make them up? No. These are just
the common rules of society that every
gentleman observes. You will not find
your father failing in one of them ?"
"Well, but he is a man." said Roy,
deprecatingly.
"And do you not wish to be a manly
boy?"
Roy said nothing, but it was noticed
that the rules were placed very carefully
in his drawer.
Some months have since passed and
auntie has had the pleasure of hearing
repeatedly the remark, "What a manly,
thoughtful little nephew you have," as
one and another observed his polite and
careful attention to others.
Perhaps there are some other boys who
will like to cut out these rules and read
them over now and then, keeping, OF
getting some good friend to keep a record
of their success or short. comings in the
observance, always remembering that the
mothers, sisters and aunties are the
"ladies" to whom these attentions should
be shown, and not merely to tine guest
and stranger Yonksrs Gazette.