Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1886-08-29
SOCIAL PLEASURES.
How the Bellies and Bsau1 Have Passed the
Week.
A YOUNG LADY'S QUESTIONS,
In Regard to a Wuman's Duties After Mar
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PERTINENT PERSONAL POINTS

rage.
PERTINENT PERSONAL POINTS,
The following letter from a Wheeling
girl got into the society EDITORS hands by
mistake, so here it is, and below ne
makes an effort to answer it to the salts
faction of the young lady. She says;
81 am a young girl about to enter
the state of matrimony, and after deep
bordering upon a certain question IN
relation thereto 1 have determined to SUD-
NIT it to you, who know everything: Is
it better to be a Mary or a Martha in mes
treatment of a husband? Is it nobler IN
he mind of woman Ito do her wi work,
to prepare sayory messes for her huspanu'
to lay out his clean shirt and good clothes
of a Sunday morning, to make up his Ded,
sweep his room and otherwise tend MS
pbysical comfort, or to have a servant do
all this and have only himself to keep
good natured; to receive him in the even
ing. when he comes in tired, hot and
faded from his work with u smile, and
in a charming costume, looking cool,
calm, lovely. Will he like that even
though the table-cloth be soiled, the tea
weak, the biscuits green, the steak black
and the cucumbers old enough to deed
away land? | know that to present such
a picture of the tea table to u young man,
he would say, deliver him from such a
woman; but does the reality bear his
statement out? DO We not see around US
every day good, domestic, palnstaklng,
loving women neglected, their mlnlstra-
tons accepted as a matter OF course, going
OH from day to day with no word OF praise
from those whose praise is all i all to them,
while the woman who has rested" all
afternoon and at six o'clock appears fresh
and dainty, is petted, waited on and loved,
and should she ever make q cake or fashion
q pudding how pleased he is and how ap-
preciative! Is it mans nature to neglect
and invOluntarily to despise that which
comes to him too easily, and is he made
more agreeable, eager and alert by opposl-
ton; in other words, does he love the sell
fish woman best?
"My grandmother used to tell a story Of
q woman she knew, way off in the years
gone by, whose husband had to go of on n
Journey during bitter cold weather; his
trip was unexpected and had to be made
in a wagon, himself the driver; he had to
start the next morning at daybreak; he
had no mittens or gloves and non were to
be bought. SO his wife started late in the
afternoon to her neighbors to see if she
could borrow yarn to knit him q pair.
| She made the rounds, but no yarn was to
be had, 80 she returned home at night,
tired but not discouraged. She had some
wool in the house, but it was not even
carded, let alone spun; but nothing daunt-
ed, she went to work with a pair of hand
cards, carded the wool, then spun it and
then knitted the mittens. 1t took her all
night, of course, but she loved the man
and was amply repaid to see him drive
off at daylight, his hands encased in warm
comfortable armOr. | heard this story
when q child, then my mind was concen-
trated on the and | thought not of
the man. Now | should like to know
what the man was like. Did he appreci-
| ate such devotion? Was he kind, tender
and true? Was he cOnsiderate of her? Did he
love her and let her see it by his looks and
acts? Or was he cold, did he accept her
care of him as his right and her duty? |
cannot tell, but | like to think of him rs
manly, true and loving. Now, Mr.. Edi-
tor, shall | be like this homely, patient
Martha, or like the lovely, gentle Nary"
The society editor has had little or no
experience in such matters, but he would
advise the young lady that 4 woman might
make heself a model wife by taking equal
parts of Martha and Mary and combining
them into a satisfactory whole. But Of
course if the young lady is about to enter
the matrimonial state, she certainly must
be pretty well acquainted with the nature,
disposition and tastes of the young
man whom she is to make
happy, and knowing this she should
form the combination accordingly. Per
haps the young man may desire q wife
whose composition consists of n predOmi-
nation Of Martha, or rice rersd. She
should be the best judge of that. The
society editor, although 10th to disappoint
the young lady, will not assume the re-
sponsibility'ofadvising any definite course
in such a vital matter, but would suggest
that the young lady secure the necessary
data, and then sit down some fine day and
figure the problem out to her own salts
faction.
The young folks are having an unusually
gay time this summer, and are taking adj
vantage ofthe many opportunities afforded
them. On Monday evening last q very de-
lightful little hop was given by DR.. Z. G..
Myers, at his rooms ON Virginia street,
Island, complimentary to the Misses Geor-
gia and Gertie Collum and Miss Nellie
Merwin, of Philadelphia, who are visiting
Miss Jennie Griffith, on Thirteenth street.
Quite a number of our young society folks
were present and a charming evening was
spent dancing to Prof. Killmeyer's music,
refreshments being introduced at the
proper hour and proving a highly appre-
ciated feature.
The wedding of the week was the mar
riage of Mr.. Thomas c. Burke and Miss
Anna d., daughter of Mr.. Arthur Little,
which occurred on Tuesday evening at the
residence of the brides father, on Fifteenth
street, The ceremony took place at 7
o'clock sharp, Rev. r. Rush Swope, pastor
of st. Matthews p. L. Church, officiating.
Only a very few of the immediate relatives
Of the bride and groom were present, no
cards having been issued. After the hearty
congratulations of those present had been
rendered, Mr.. and MFs, burke left for the
B.&Q depot where they boarded the
7:55 western hound train for Chicago and
other points, and the hearty good wishes
of countless friends followed them. They
will go to housekeeping on Twelfth street
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