The Maryville times. (Maryville, Tenn.) 1884-1944, 1886-05-19
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a. Important Faeter Good and Refined
Housekeeping.

Housekeeping.
There can be no place where certain
restraints and restrictions are more
necessary than in the narrow, often
Earring confines of home; there is no
place where people feel more unre-
strained, unrestricted. Many a young
couple, new to the delight OF being
one as well as a couple, find exquisite
bliss in making that unity so complete
that al either has, in mind, or matter.
belongs to both. But that system
won't work! No two people, living to-
rether, can by any possibility, preserve
their own happiness, to say nothing Of
their friends, without something OF To-
serve; enough to keep at least, their
self-respect, enough to make both as
colite to each as in the days of their
wooing.
have emphasized that word polite.
WHY is it so many people keep all their
fine manners for the outer world, and
have none left for homer Why do
mothers train their little ones, in every
wav but by example, to be attcays cOur-
teous, and then wonder that they are
sometimes rude? If you fail to say as
surely as to their elders, "thank you, -"
II beg your pardon" or, "jf you
please" to a child, so certainly will
| that ready little wit take on the con-
| viction that politeness is not for every
day use. nor for home consumption.
| No husband has right to read his
| wife's letters, in justice to the friend.
! who wrote them, and the woman whN
| reads. No wife has right TO pour het
husbands coffee, with her bang en-.
twisted in last nights curl-papers. Nc
parent has q right to give away 9
child's play-things without that child
consent hate this everlasting
greedy prating Of ones ''due," bu
these are. instances by the way, OF thu
Injustice ruling our good housekeeping
For YOU see, discourtesy IS the an
tithesis of Justice; not that all injustice
Is rudeness. but all rudeness is Unjust
ice. Why should we show our love
by our impolitenessP l remember
once, when my sister and / were tax
ing our departure, after call upor
two other sisters, we jostled agains
one another at the door. Upon ou
mingled apologies one of the girl
broke with q laugh: "Do you do tina
| to each otherp" she cried. II shoult
never think of begging Lily's pardon!'
| Yet they were we'll hammered youn!
persons too; truly gentlewomen il
their relations to the world. Some on
says:
I'VE have careful thoughts for the stranger
And smiles for the sometime guest.
Yet we vex our own, with look and tone.
Though We love our own the best"
i spoke of reserve as part of polite
moss. A parent can not implant higl
sense of delicacy and honor more sure
~ than by respect for each childish
dividuality as profound as for an equal
have never forgotten an incident il
u my childhood. I was away from HON
Tor few days, and on my return tn
younger ones fell on me at once. Let
ers had come from two or three al
vent brothers, they said, and addresse
10 me; 20, TO all their entrcaties t
ppen them, our mother had said, n
pne could do that but myself. and the
thrust the envelopes in my hand
Could daily lecture have taught tn
precept in so sure q manner as this
practicep
A great many kind and wise peopl
hold some vague idea that nice mar
hers are q mark of insincerity, an
bluntness betOkens truth. don
know by what course of reasoning, e,
pept. as some kind of things are Gale
polite lies, SO all unkind things mu,
be always impolite truths. Other
there are who think they give one tn
highest proof of their esteem whe
they lay aside all ceremony. The
don't stop to consider that perhaps on
likes ceremony. As some one said: :
hate to be made one of the family, fc
It means sleep there in a bed" Or 8
friend of mine phrases it: II don
like those tables where they didn't p,
themselves out for me- Want thel
to put themselves out l want som'
thing good to eatv' This same Sol
regard intimacy as license, friendshi
rs freedom. For my part have lit
love for the friend who knows no meu,
and tuum in hair-pins and tooth-pov
der, criticises my overskirt, wears m
rubbers, and gives advice and sugge
ton unsolicited. 10 such transgre
sion as this last l always want to quo
DR. Johnson: my dear madam, b
lore giving your opinion you shou
consider what your opinion is worth.
There is no relation, in short, in Il
household, whether of mistress or mai
husband and wife. child and paren
hostess and guest, but will be MAJ
more comfortable by the exercise of
title formal etiquette. l don't say
vill cure all evils to which the home
leir; there must be something deep
md truer to do so great a work. B
will make the domestic machine
un more smoothly, and that
hat is well worth trying.-Ruth Ha
Good Housekeeping.
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