The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1886-02-03

| lead them. because Gney depended on Gnonl-
selves and not on God, there are thousands Of
India women leap on the funeral pyre of a
dead husband. We have a worse spectacle
than that in America-women innumerable
leaping on the funeral pyre Of living hus-
band. Thrust your hand through the cage at
menagerie and stroke the back Of a cobra
from the East Indies. Put your head in the
mouth of Numidian lion to see if he will
bite. Take glassful Of Paris green mixed
with some delightful henbane. These are
safer and healthier fun than answering ad-
vertsenents for q wife. Marry man who
is fortune IN himself Houses, lands and
large einheritancearew well enough, but the whee
of fortune turns so rapidly that throug
some investment all these in few years may
be gone. There are some things, however,
that are a perpetual fortune good man
ners, geniality of soul, kindness, intelligence,
sympathy, courage, perseverance, industry
and wholeheartedness. Marry such a one
and you have married fortune, whether he
/ have an income now Of $50, 600 year or an
income of $780, A bank is secure according
to its capital stock, and not to be judged by
| the deposits for day or week. A man Is
rich according to his sterling qualities and not
according to the vacillation Of circumstances
which may leave with him large amount Of
resources to-day and withdraw them to-
morrow. If q man is worth nothing but
money he is poor indeed. II man have up
right character he is rich. Property may
come and Co. be is independent OF the mar, nan
sell him out He may have more money one
year than another, but his better fortunes
never vacillate.
Yet, do not expect to find perfect man. Il
you find one without any faults, incapable OF
mistakes, never having guessed wrongly, his
patience never having been perturbed, I'M
| 1-ko - 49, foYr,y in hoh
not marry him. Why! Because you would
enact swindle What would you do with
| perfect man who are not perfect yourseff
| And how dare you hitch your imperfectlon
fast on such supernatural excellence! What
companion you would make for an angel!
In other words, there are no perfect men:
There never was but one perfect pair, and
they slipped down the banks Of Paradise to-
gether We occasionally find man who
SAYS he never sins. We know he lies when he
saws it. We have had financial dealings with
| two or three perfect men and they cheated
us wofully. Do not, therefore, look for an
immaculate husband for you will not find
| him.
But do not become cynical on this subject.
who know how to make home happy. When
they come to be husbands they evince no
bility of nature and self-sacrifcing spirit that
surprise even the wife. These are the men
who sit cheerfully in dark and dusty busi-
ness Offices, ten feet by twelve, in summer
time hard at work, while the wives and
daughters are off at Saratoga, Mount Desert
or the White Sulphur. These are the IN, men
who, never having much education them
selves have their sons at Yale and Harvard
| and Virginia university These are the men
| who work themselves to death by fifty years Of
age and 60 out to Greenwood leaving large
estates and generous life insurance
provision for their families. There
are husbands and fathers here by
the hundreds who would die for their house
| holds If outlawry should ever become dom
| inant in our cities they would stand in their
| doorway and with their one arm would cleave
! down one by one fifty invaders, face to face,
| foot to foot, and every stroke demohtlon.
| This is what makes an army in defense OF q
country fight more desperately than an army
| Of conquest. 1t is not so much the abstract
sentiment Of flag as it is wife and children
and home that turns enthusiasm into fury;
| The world has such men by the million, and
the homuncui that infest all our communities
must not hinder women from approaching
the glory Of true manhood.
| was reading Of bridal reception. The
young man had brought home the choice OF
his heart in her elaborate and exquisite ap-
parel. As she stood in the gay drawing-room
and amid the gay group the young mans mans
|
that she was his. Years passed by and they
stood in the same parlor on another fcstal oc-
| casion. She wore the same dress, for busl'
ness had not opened as bright to the young
husband as he expected, and he had never
been able to purchase for her another dress.
| Her face was not as bright and smooth as il
had been years before, and a careworn look
had made its signature on her conntenance.
| As the husband looked at her he saw the diff
ference between this occasion and the former,
and he went over where she sat and said:
"You remember the time when we were hera
before. You have the same dress on. Cir.
curnstances have somewhat changed, but yoq
look to me far more beautiful than you di9
then" There is such thing as conuga
fidelity, and many of you know it in your
OWN homes. imagine the hour for which
you pledged your truth hns arrived. There
is much merry making among your young
friends, but there is an undertone Of sadness
in all the house. Your choice may have been
the gladdest and the best, and the joy OF the
eaglet is about to leave the old nest and IS
preparing to put out into sunshine and storm
Tor itself it feels its wings tremble
somewhat. So she has a good cry
before leaving home, and at the
marriage father and mother always cry, or
feel like it. If you think it is easy to give up
a daughter in marriage, though it be with
4
ly when the day comes. To have all along
watched her from infancy to girlhood, and
from girlhood to womanhood, studious OF her
welfare, her slightest illness an anxiety, and
| her presence in your home an ever-increaslng
! Joy, and then have her go away to some other
| home-aye, all the redolence Of orange bios
SONS and all the chime Of marriage bells and
all the rolling Of wedding march in full
diapason, and all the hilarious coDgratalla-
tions Of your friends cannot make you forget
that YOU are suffering loss irreparable. But
YOU know it is all right, and you have a re-
membrance Of an embarkation just like it
twenty-five or thirty years ago, in which you
were one Of the parties, and suppresslng as
possible your sadness, you say "Good-by"
hope that you, the departing daughter,
will not forget to write often home, for what
ever betide you, the old folks will never lose
their interest in your welfare. Make visits
to them also as often and stay as long as you
can, for there will be changes at the old place
find more gray hairs on fathers head and
more wrinkles on mothers brow, and after
while you will notice that the elastic step has
become decrepitude And some day one OF
the two pillars of his early home will fall and
after awhile the other pillar Of that home
will fall, and it will be comfort to yourself,
when they are gone, you can feel that While
YOU are faithful in your new home you can
never forget your old home and the first
friends you ever had and those to whom you
are more indebted than you ever can be to
any one else except to God-l mean your
father and mother.
The efforts of the Law and Order
league to suppress! the sale of liquor in