The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1886-02-07

are uncompromiSlng and cranky. iou 'n"J
not have everything just as you want It some,
times it will be the duty of the husband and
sometimes of the wife to yield, but potn stano
punctiliously on your rights, and you VIII nave
a Waterloo, with no Butcher coming up at night
fall to decide the conflict
Never be ashamed to apologize when you have
done wrong In domestic affairs. Let that be a
law of your household. The best thing ever
heard of my grandfather, whom L never saw,
was this: That once having unrighteousy re-
buked one of his children, he himself having loss
his patience, and, perhaps, having been misln-
formed of the child's doings, found out bis mis-
take. and in the evening of the same day gath.
cred all his family together and said: NOW, 4
have one explanation to make and one thing 20
say Thomas this morning rebuked you very
unfairly. | am very sorry for It, reouked
you in the presence of the whole family, and
now l ask your forgiveness in their presence.
1t must have taken some courage TO 90 tnat.
1t was right, was it notf Never De
curacy. Find out the points; what are
the weak points, if 1 may call them so. or your
companion and then stand aloof from them DO
not carry the fire of your temper too near the
gunpowder. If the wife be easily fretted by dis
order in the household, let the husband be care
full where he throws his slippers. 1t the hus-
band come home from the store with his patience
all exhausted do not let the wife unnecessarily
cross his temper but both stand up for your
rights, and will promise the everlasting sound
making up. and marriage will be to you an un-
mitlgated curse. Cowper said
The kindest and the happiest pair
Will find occasion to forbear;
And something, every day they live,
10 pity and perhaps forgive.
advise. also. that you make your chief pleas
ure circle around about that home. 1t is unfor-
tunate when it is otherwise. If the husband
spend most of his nights away from home OF
choice, and not Of necessity. he is not the head
Of the household; he is only the cashier 1t the
wife throw the cares of the household in the SER
wants lap. and then spend five nights of the
week at the opera or theater. she may clothe her
children with satins. and lace s1d ribbons that
would confound French mi,liner, but they are
orphans On, it is sad when child has no one
to say its prayers to, because mother has gone OH
to the evening entertainment! In India they
bring children and throw them to- the crocodiles,
and it seems very cruel; but the jaws or New
York and Brooklyn dissipation are swallowing
down more little children to-day than all the
monsters that ever crawled upon the banks of
the Ganges9
/ have seen the sorrow Of the goddess mother
on the death of child she had neglected. 1t
was not so much grief that she felt from the
fact that the child was dead as the fact that she
had neglected it. She said: IF / had only
watched over and cared for the child, know
God would not have taken it." The tears came
not; it was dry, blistering tempest-a scorch-
ing simeon of the desert When she wrung her
hands it seemed as if she would twist her fingers
from their sockets; when she seized her hair 1T
seemed as if she had. in wild terror, grasped
coilng serpent with her right hand. No tears!
Comrades of the little one came in and wept over
the coffin; neighbors came in, and the moment
they saw the still face of thu child the shower
broke. No tears for her. God gives tears as tho
summer rain to the parched SOUL but in all the
universe the driest and hottest. the most scorch-
ing and consuming thing is mothers heart If
she has neglected her child when once it is dead.
God may forgive her, but she will never forgive
herself. The memory will sink the eyes deeper
into the sockets. and pinch the face, and whlten
the hair. and eat up the heart with vultures that
will not be satisfied, forever plunging deeper
their iron beaks. Oh. you wanderers from your
home, go back to your duty. The brightest
flowers in all the earth are those which grow in
the garden of a Christian household, clambering
over the porch of a Christian home.
advise you also to cultivate sympathy Of oc-
cupation Sir James Macintosh one of the most
eminent and elegant men that ever lived, while
standing on the very height of his eminence
said to a great company of scholars "My wife
made me-" The wife ought to be the advising
partner in every firm. She ought to be interest
ed in all the losses and gains of shop and store
She ought to have right-she has right--to
know everything. If a man goes into business
transaction that he dare not tell his wife of you
may depend that he is on the way either to bank
ruptcy or moral ruin. There may be some things
which he does not wish to trouble his wife with;
discontinue On the other hand. the husband
ought to be sympathetic with the wife's occupa-
tion. 1t is no easy thing to keep house Many
a woman that could have endured martyrdom as
well as Margaret, the Scotch girl, has actually
been worn out by house management. There
are thousand martyrs of the kitchen. It
very annoying, after the vexations of the day
around the stove or the table, or in the nursery
or parlor, to have your husband say: "You know
nothing about trouble; you ought to be in the
half CxYvyo fhxyn f inv,f
If the husbands work cover him with the SCOT of
the furnace, or the odors of leather or soap fac
torres, let not the wife be easily Disguised
at the begrimed hands or unsavory
aroma Your gains are one, your interests are
one, your losses are one; lay hold of the work of
life with both hands. Four hands to fight the
battles; four eyes to watch for the danger; four
shoulders on which to carry the trials. 1t is
very sad thing when the painter has wife who
does not like pictures. It is very sad thing for
a pianist when she has husband who does not
like music 1t Is very sad thing when wife is
rot suited unless her husband has what is called
''genteel business" So far as I understand
''genteel business" it is something to which a
man goes at 10 o'clock in the morning, and from
which he comes home at or o'clock in the
afternoon, and gets large amount of money for
doing nothing That is, believe, ''genteel
business" and there has been many a wife who
has made the mistake of not being satisfied I'M
til the husband has given up the tanning OF the
hides, or the turning of the banisters, OF the
building Of the walls, and put himself in circles
whore he has nothing to do but smoke cigars
and drink wine, and get himself into habits that
upset him. going down in the maelstrom, taking
his wife and children with him. There are a
good many trains running from earth to de
struction. They start all the hours of the day
and all the hours of the night. There are
the freight trains; they go very slowly and
very heavily; and there are the accommodation
trains, going on toward destruction, and they
stop very often, and let man get out when he
wants to- But genteel idleness is an express
train Satan is the stoker. and death is the en-
gineer; and though one may come out in front
of it and swing the red flag of danger" or the
lantern of Gods word. it makes just one shot
into perdition. coming down the embankment
with shout, and wall, and shriek-crash.