Savannah morning news. [volume] (Savannah) 1868-1887, 1886-02-01

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shOuld speak out upon these themes.
My first counsel to you is, have Jesus In
your new home, IL IL be n new home; and
let Him who was guest at Bethany be
IN your households let the divine blessing
drOp upon your every hope and plan and
expectation. Those young people who
| begin with God end with heaven. Have
on your right hand the engagement ring
OF the divine affection. II one of You be a
Christian, let that one take a Bible and
read few verses In the eVening-time, aud
then kneel down and commend yourselves
TO Him who setteth the solitary in fami-
lies. want TO tell you that the destroy
ing angel passes by without touching or
entering the door-pOst sprinkled with
blood of the everlasting covenant. Why
ls 1t that in some families they never get
| along, and in others they always get
along welly have watched such cases,
and have come to conclusion. In the
nrst Instance, nothing seemed to go pleas
antly, and after awhile came devastation,
domestic disaster, or estrangement.
WhyY They started wrong. In the other
case, although there were hardships and
trials, and some things that had TO be eX-
planned, still things went on pleasant
until the very last. Why? They started
right.
My advice to you in your home is, to
exercise to the very last possibility OF
your nature the law Of forbearanee. Pray
ers in the household will not make up for
everything. Some OF the best people
In the world are the hardest to get along
with. There are people who stand up in
prayer meetings and pray like angels,
Who at home are uncOmpromising aud
cranky. You may not have everything
Just as you want il. Sometimes 1t Will
be the duty Of the husband and sometimes
OF the wife to yield; but both stand pune
tiliously on your rights, and you will
have Waterloo with no Blucher coming
up at nighttall to decide the conflict.
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic affairs.
Let that be law Of your household. The
best thing l ever heaTd.Of my grandfather,
whom never saw, was this: That once
having unrighteousiy rebuked one OF his
children he himself having lost his pa
tience, and, perhaps, having been misi1-
formed OF the child's dOings, tound>out his
mistake, and in the evening of the same
day gathered all his family together, and
said, ''Now, l have one explanation TO
make, and one thing to say. Thomas, this
morning rebuked you very unfairly. l
am very sorry for 1t. l rebuked you in
the presence Of the whole family, and now
| ask your forgiveness in their presence"
1t must have taken some courage to do
that. 1t was right, was it not? Never
be ashamed to apologize for domestic
lnaccuracY. Find out the points; what
are the weak points. ii l may call them
so, of your companion, and then stand
aloof from them. Do not carry the fire of
your temper too near the gunpOwder. If
the wife be easily iretted by disorder IN
the household, let the husband be careful
where he throws his slippers. II the hus-
band come home from the store with his
patience all exhausted, do not let the
wife unnecessarily cross his temper; but
both stand up for your rights, and | will
promise the everlasting sound OF the war
whOOp. Your life will be spent In max
ing up, and marriage will be to you An
unmitigated curse. Cowper said
"The kindest and the happiest pair
WIN find occasion to forbear:
And ONE thing. every day they live,
To pity, and perhaps forgive"
l advise, also, that you make your chief
pleasure circle around about that home.
1t is unfortunate when IL is otherwise. II
the husband spend the most OF his nights
away from home, of choice, and not OF ne
cessity, ne is not the head OF the house.
hold; he 10 only the cashier. IL the wife
throw the cares of the household in the
servants lap. and then spend five nights
OF the week at the opera or theatre, she
may clOthe her children with satin s and
laces aud ribbons that would cOnfound
a French millIner, but they are orphans.
Oh, it is sad when child has no one TO
say ITS prayers to because mother has
gone of to the evening entertainment! In
India they bring children and throw them
to the crOcOdiles, and IL seems very cruel;
but the jaws Of New York and Brooklyn
dissipation are swallo wing down more
little children to-day than all the mon.
sters that ever crawied upon the banks
of the Gaagesl
| have ssen the sorrow of goddess
mother on the death OF a child She had
neglected. 1t was not so much grief that
she felt from the fact that the chlld was
dead as the fact that she had neglected il.
She said: "if l had only watched over
and cared for the child, know God
would not have takenit." The tears came
not; it was a dry. differing tempest--a
scOrchIng simeon Oi the desert. When
she wrung her hands IL seemed as il she
would twist be- fin gers rom their sockets;
when she seized her hair IL seemed as il
she had in Wild terror. erssped a coiling
serpent with her right hand. No tears
Comrades of the little one came in and
wept over the coffin; neighbors came
In, and the moment they saw the still
face OF the child the shower
broke. No tears for her. God gives
tears az the summer rain 10 the parched
soul; but in all the universe the dryest
and hottest, the most scorching and con-
suming thing is a mothers heart IL she
has neglected her child. when once 10 Ia
dead. God may forgive her, but she will
never forgive herself The memory will
sink the eyes Deeper Into the sockets, aud
pinch the face, and Whlten toe hair, aad
cat up the heart with cultures that Will
not be satisfied, forever plunging deeper
their iron beaks. on. you wanderers
from your homo, 40 back t0 your duty!
The brightest flowers In all the earth are
those which grow ia the garden Of a
Christian household, clsmbering over the
porch OF Christian home.
| advise you also 10 cultivate sympathy
OF occupation. sir James MAckint0sh,
one Of the most eminent and elegant men
that ever lived, while standing az the very
height Of his emiuence, said to a great
company Of scholars "My wife made
me.n The wife ought 90 he the advising
partner la every hrm. She ought 10 be
interested in all the losses and gains Of
shop and store. She ought 10 nave "a right
she nas a right-tO know everything.
III man goes into "a business transaction
that ne dare not tell his wife of, you may
depend that be IL on his way either 10
bankruptcy or moral ruin. There may be
some things which he does not wish 70
trouble his wife with, but II be dare not
tell her, he is on the road b discontinue.
On the other hand. the husband ought 20
be sympathetic with the wife's Occupa-
tlOn, i is no eAsy thing 20 keen house,