The Laurens advertiser. (Laurens, S.C.) 1885-1973, 1886-03-25
"As Yo Sow so Shall Ye Roap."


ton nearly all must answer TO one side
it is an unfair position, for they must
needs choose from those who ask or po
without and the uncertainty of future
opportunities are SO great as to greatly
influence the answer, and SO often dC
after events prove tho mistake thus
made, one cannot help wishing each
person was stamped with tho address OF
their partners for life; this much settled,
one factor of mistake would be removed,
and whatever fault-iinding there must
be could not be aimed ut either. As
such n state of things cannot be, VIC
must make the best of matters as we find
them. No doubt there is trouble on
both sides, but it certainly is not more
than half on the side of the woman.
Tho present rules of society are most
favorable to both intentional and umin-
territorial deception; neither party can
know much of the home life of the other
until the irrcvOcablc step is taken.
Young people arc allowed to mingle to-
Scther, forming associations from i'm
pulse; taught to believe love will GO
where sent, and that love is blind, and
all such nonsense, instead of knowing
Tor certainty that reason should Judge
all things, and that matrimony means
moro than unlimited freedom, with
some one to constantly anticipate ones
wishes.
Girls have learned that however
sensible they may be, unless they can
put on style and look bcwitching, ten
chances to one instead of being honorcd
for it, they will be snubbcd and left to
languish on the parental bush until the
frosts of fall have come; if young
men cannot afford to marry it is their
own fault, for they have put premium
on dress and accomplishments in wo-
men, and its not their fault all women
are not eXtravagant and selfish, which
thanks to innate good sense is not the
case. Were men not so near stone
blind on this point they would have less
trouble in finding sensible wives, for in
every town there is ut least II score of
just as good, economical, sensible girls,
as the good mother, men are so fond of
quoting. She probably does not excel
In roller skating; doubt if she knows
how to dance, but she can and docs
help mother, plays for home amusement,
and enjoys reading of the more substan-
tial kind, but let me tell YOU young
man if you are going to find her you
Will need more of n recommendation
than gold-hcadcd cane, love of
muStache and a rhine stone pin can
give. or you will very likely fail to win
her for wife. 1t is more than proba-
bic she can take care of herself and will
need to see she is gaining n helpmcct
before she consents to give up her lbcr-
ty and her name. But young men will
not get their eyes open until mothers
take the matter in hand and train their
boys from the cradle up to be Men Fit
For Husbands. 1t is q lamcntable fact
that mothers seldom think of having
this object in view. 1t seems to be the
general opinion, that some woman will
be able to live with the man, who, as q
boy, possessed such violent temper it
was almost impossible to live with him,
who was coaXcd, pctted and spoiled
from the cradle up. until by some fairy
process he is to outgrow uli these little
failings and develop into Man Fit For
a Husband, just rs easily rs nature
gives the downy upper lip when man
hoods estate is reached. The facts will
bear me out in saying this is not always
the casc-"as yc SOW, SO shall ye reap"
the ungovcrncd boy will make moro
or less tyrannical husband.-1mclia 4.
Phitfcld, IN cool Housekceping.