Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1886-01-25

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enough 10 earn livelihood for a
Iurrly. No bureau 81 statistics can tell [
~ the number OF women who, after mar I
rage, have to s0pport themselves and |
their husbands II the husband becomes !
invalid II Is beautiful thing to see a wife ,
uncnmplainiugly, by needle or pen or
yardstick or washing machine, support the I
home. But these great, lazy masculine [
louts that stand around with their bands I
ia their pockets, allowing the wife with |
her weak arm TO fight the bnttle of bread, 1
need 70 br rcgurgltatod from society. /
There aye innumerablc instances IN these
cities where the vile pays the rent and
meets all the family expenses and fur
nsshes the tobacco and the beer for the
lord of the household. M wonder pa
rents put on all the brakes to stop such
a train OF disaster They have too Gsten
seen the gold ring put on the finger at the
altar turning out To be the iron link OF
cnain uf domestic servltVde. What a
farce IL is for a man who cannot support
4imself aud not worth a cent in the world
to take a ring which he purchased by
money stolen from his grandmother's cup
board aud put 1t on the finger OF the bride
saying; "With this ring | thee wed and
with all ny worldly goods thee endow.n
viii nlarry men knowing nothing ABOUT
them NJ merchant or merchantess
would sell a hundred dollars worth OF
gouds on credit without knowing whether
the customer was worthy of being trust
ed. No man or woman would buy
house with iucumbrauces OF mortgages
and Hens and Judgments against IL uncan-
celed, ana VET there is not an hour Of tue
day or night for the last teB years there
have not been women by hasty marriage
intrusting their earthly happiness 70 men
ABOUT whose honesty they know nothing,
or who arc incumbered with liens and
judgments and first mortgages aud second
mortgages and thlrd mortgages of evil
habits. No wonder that in such clrcum-
stances parents, in coDjugating the verb
IN question, pass from the subiunctiye
mood to the Indicative, aud from the midi
catiye TO the Imperative. In nearly all
the cases OF es, apade that you will hear
of the rest OF your lives, there will be
headlong leap over the barriers of pa
rental common sense and forethought.
"6tolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten
in secret is pleasant. But he knowetb
not that the dead are there
We also deplore these fraudulent
espousals and this sneaking exchange of
single life for married life, because II is
deception, anG that is corroding and
damning vice. You must deceive your
kindred, you must deceive society, you
must deceive all but God, and Him you
cannot deceive. Deception does not in
lure others so much as it iriures our
selves. Marriage Is too important o ori.
sis In one's life to be decided by sleight
OF baud or u sort OF jugglery which says:
presto change! Now you see her and
now you don't" Better wait Tor years
for circumstances to improve. Time
may remove all obstacles. The candi-
date fnr marital preferences may change
his habits, or get Into some trade or
business that will support nome, or the
memorable father and mother may be pro-
NOTED TO celestial citizenship. At the
right time have the day appointed. Stand
at the End OF the best room in the house
with Joined hands and minister Of religion
before you TO challenge the world that
'if they know Of any reason why these
two persons shall not be united, they
state 1t nov or forever hold their peace"
and then start out with the good wishes
of all the neighbors and the halo of the
divine sanction. When you can 90 out
of harbor ut noon with all flags fly wing, do
not try 20 run a blockade ut midnight.
! In view of all this charge you to break
up claudestine correspondence IL you are
engaged in IL, and have no more clandes-
tue meetings either at the ferry, or on
the street, or at the house of mutual
friends, or at the corner of the woods
Do not have letters come for yOu to the
pustoGcc under assumed address. Have
no correspondence that makes you un'
easy, lest someone by mistake open your
letters. DO not employ terms of endear-
nrnt at the beginning and close of letters
unless you have right To use them. That
young lady is on the edge of danger who
dares not allow her mother TO see heI
letters.
II YOU have sensible parents take them
into your confidence in all the affairs OF
the heart. They will give you more good
advice III one hour than you can get from
all the world beside in five years. They
have tolled for you so long and prayed for
you SO much that they have your best
interests at heart. AT the same time lei
parents review their opposition to pro-
posed marital alliance, and see, II their
opposition Is founded on a genuine wish
for the child's welfare or on some whiu
or notion or prejudice or seldshness
lighting a natural law and trying to make
Niagara run up stream. Mr.. Pitt
: tho PRIME minister Of England, wa'
always saying wise things. one day Stl
Walter larquhar called on him in great
perturbation. Mr.. Pitt inquired whaI
was the matter, and Sir Walter told hlu
that his daughter was about to be- mar
ried To one not worthy of her rank. Nj
Pitt SAID; ''ls the Young man OF respect
: able familyPn "Yes.n els he respect.
; able la hlmself?n ''Yes.n "Has he AT
estlmable character?" "YeS.n "Why,
: then, my dear SIR Walter, make no oppo
sitioun The advice WAS taken and a
happy married life cnsued, Let minis
tiers aud officers of the law decline ollici
ating at clandcstiue marriages. When
they are asked to date marriage certii
cate back, as we all are asked, let then
peremptoIily decline to say that the cere
muuy wac In November Instead of Janu'
AIRY, or decline TO leave the date blank
lest Others fh out the record enormously
Let II law be passed in all our states, AS II
already has la some of the states, making
q license from officers of the law neces
sary before we can unite couples, and then
lunke II necessary TO publish beforehand
IN the ncwspap ~, as IL used To be pub,
Ia Tho Mr. IsntsIout cbnr.,hoa