Savannah morning news. [volume] (Savannah) 1868-1887, 1886-01-18

I the luneral Dyre of "A llNtU9 husband.
| Avoiu all proposed alliances through
newspaper advertisements. Many wo-
men, just FOR fun, have answered such
! advertisements, and have been led ON
from step 60 step TO catastrophe infinite.
All the men who write such advertise
ments are villains and lepers-ali, with
out single exception. All! All! DO
you answer them Just fOr iung l will tell
you safer and healthier fun. Thrust your
hand through the CAGE at a menagerie
and stroke the back of a cobra from the
East Indies Put your head in the mouth
/ OF a Numidian lion To see II he will bite.
Take a glassful OF Paris green mixed
with some delightful beubane. These are
safer and healthier fun than answer
INK newspaper advertisements for wife.
My advice is: Marry man who is a
fortune i'm himself. Houses, lands and
large inheritance are well enough. but
| the wheel of fortune turns sorapidiy, that
through some investment all these in "A
few years may be gone. There are some
things, however, that are perpetual
tortune-gOOd manners, genialitv OF soul,
kindness, intelligence, sympathy, cour-
age, perseverance,, industry and whole
heartedness. Marry such man and you
have married a fortune. whether De nave
an income now OF $50.0 year OF an iu-
come Of $500. A bank is secure accord
ing TO its capital steck, and rot TO be
judged by the deposits for day or week.
a man is rich according TO his sterling
qualities, and not according TO the yacil-
lati0n of circumstances. which may leave
with him a large amount of resources to-
day and withdraw them tomorrow. II "A
man Is worth nothing but money, he is
poor indeed. II a man have upright char
acter, be is rich. Property may come and
@, he is independent of the markets.
Nothing can buy him out. nothing can sell
him out. He may have more money one
year than another, but his better fortunes
never vaCillate.
Yet, do not expect to ind perfect man.
IT You find one without any faults, inca
pabie OF mistakes, never having guessed
wrongly, his patience never having been
perturbed, immaculate in speecn, in tenn
per, iu habits, do not marry him. Why?
Because YOU would enact swindle.
What would you do with a perfect man.
who are not perfect yourself? And how
dare you hitch yOur lmpertectiOu fast on
such supernatural excellence: What
companion you would make for an angel!
In other words, there are no perfect mon.
There never was but one perfect pair, aud
they slipped down the banks of Paradise
together. We occasionally find a man
who says he never sins. We know he
lies when he says it. We have had tnan-
cial dealings with two or three perfect
men, and they cheated us WOefuliy. Do
not, therefore, look for an Immaculate
husband, for you will not find him.
But do not become cynical on this sub
jact, Society has a great multitude OF
grand men who know how To make home
happy. When they come to be husbands
they eyince nobility of nature and a self
sacrificing spirit that surprise even the
wife. These are the men who cheertuliy
sit in dark and dirty business offices, ten
feet by twelve, in summer time, hard at
work while the wives and daughters are Off
at Saratoga, Mount Desert or the White
sulphur. These are the men who never
having had much education themselves,
have their sons at Yale aud Harvard and
Virginia University. These are the men
who work themselves to death by fifty
years Of age, and 90 out to Greenwood,
leaving large estates and generous lite
insurance provision for their families.
There are husbands and fathers
here by the hundreds whs would die for
their households. II Outlawry should ever
become dOminnat in our cities, they would
stand in their doorway, and with their
one arm would Cleaye down, one by one,
fifty invaders. face TO face, foot TO foot,
and every stroke demolition. This is
what makes an army in defence Of a c9un-
try fight more desperately than an army
OF conquest. IL 10 not so much the alb
stract sentiment OF flag as it is wife and
children and home that turns enthusiasm
into "A fury. The world has such men by
the million and the homuncull that infest
all our communities must not hinder wO-
men from appreclating the glory Of true
manhood.
/ was reading Of a bridal reception.
The young man bad brought home the
choice Of his heart, in her elaborate and
exquisite apparel. AS she stood in tue
gay drawng-rOOm, and amid the gay
group, the young mans eyes filled with
tears of JOY as be thought that she Was
his. Years passed by, aud they Stood at
the same parior on another festai Occa-
sion. She wore the same dress, tor buei-
ness had not opened as brightly TO the
young husband rs be expected, and he
had never been able TO purchase FOR her
another dress. Her face was not as bright
and smooth rs 10 had been years before,
aud a careWOrn look had made is sigma
ture on her cOuntcnance. As the hus-
band looked at her he saw the difference
between this occasion and the former,
and he went over where she sat. and said
'IOu remember the time when W were
here before. You have the same dress on.
Circumstances have somewhat changed.
but YOU look 10 me far more beautiful
than Won did then" There is such a
thing AS coniugal hdellty, and many
OF you know II in your own homes
But, after all the good advice we may
give YOU, we come back TO the golden pill
lar from which we started, the tremen-
dOus truth that no one bat God can guide
YOU iu safety about this matter that may
decide your happiness for two worlds, this
and thc next. 30, my sister, 1 put your
case where Naomi puo that Of Ruth and
Orpah when she said: The Lord grant
you that ye may Gnd rest each Of you, in
the house OF her husband
Imagine the hour for which you pledged
your trOth has arrived. There Is much
merrymakinZ among your young friends,
but there ls an uudert0ne Of sadness in all
the house. Your eAoice may have been
the pl8ddest and the best, and tle JOY of
the whole round Of relatives, bat when "a
young eaglet is about to leave TIE old nest
and is preparing % pat out into sunshine
and storm for itself d. feels its wings trem-
bic somewhat. So she has good cry be-
fore leaving home, aud at the marriage
father and mother always cry, or feel like
t. NJ you think DO is easy ~ give up "a
daughter ina marriage, though it be with
brightest prospects, you VIII iHink differ
cully when ne day comes. To nave All
along watched her from infancy % girl
hcod. aud from girihood 10 w0manhOOd,
studIous oi her welfare, her slightest ill-
noss au anxiety aud her presence in your
home an ever increasinRJoy' anu tDen have