Democratic Northwest. [volume] (Napoleon, Ohio) 1869-1894, 1886-02-04

poisons have KIN led their fires in his tongue
and brain, and all the tears Of a<wife weeping
cannot extinguish the flames. Instead OF mar
rying man to reform him, let him reform
frst, and then give hIm time 70 see whether the
reform Is TO be permanent Let him under
stand that IL he cannot do without his bad hab-
its for two years he must do without you for
ever
Avoid union with one suprcmely selfish or so
voun up in his occupation that he has no
room for another You occasionally find man
who spreads himself so widely over the path Of
life that there is no room for any one to walk
beside him. He is not the one blade Of q scis-
sors, incomplete without the other blade. but
he is chisel, made 10 cut his way through
life alone, or file, full Of roughness, made 10
for other files. His disposition is q lifelong
protest against marriage Others are 50 mar
ried to their occupation or profession that the
taking Of any other bride is q case of bigamy.
There are men as severely tied to their literary
work as was Chatterton, whose essay
was not printed because Of the death Of the
Lord Mayor. Chatterton made cut the follow
ing account: sLost by the Lord Mayors death
in this essay, pound IL shilings and pence.
Gained in elegies and essays, pounds and
shillings." Then he put what he had gained
by the Lord Mayors death opposite to what he
ha lost, and wrote under it: sand am glad he
is dead by g l3s Cd" When a man is as
u
perpetual celibate; his library, his laboratory,
his books are all the companionship needed
In eed, some of the mghtiest men this world
ever saw have not patronized matrimony.
Cowper, Pope, Newton, Swift, Locke. Walpole,
Gibbon, Hume, Arbuthnot were single Some
of these marriage would have helped The
right kind of wife would have cured Cowper's
gloom, and given tp Newton more practicable
ity, and been a relief to Locke's overtasked
brain. A Christian wife might have converted
Hume and Gibbon to belief in Christianity.
But Dean Swift did not deserve wife, from
the way in which he brok the heart of Jane
Waring first, an Esther johnson afterward,
and last of all @vanessa" The great wit of his
day, he was outwitted by his own crueltes.
Amid SO many poss bilities of fatal mistake,
am not right in urging you to seek the uner-
ring wisdom of God, and before you are infat-
uated? Because most marriages are fit to be
made, convinces us that they are divinely ar
ranged Almost every cradle has an affinity
toward some other cradle They may be on
the opposite sides of the earth, but one child
gets out of this cradle and another child gets
out of that cradle, and with their first steps
they start for each other. They may diverge
from the straight path, going toward the north
or south or east or west They may fall down,
but the two arise facing each other. They are
approaching all through infancy. The one all
through the years of boyhood is going to meet
the one who is coming through all the years of
girlhood to meet him. The decision of parents
as to what is best concerning them and the
changes of fortune may for a time seem to ar
rest the two journeys; but on they go. They
may never have seen each other They may
never have heard Of each other. But tho two
pilgrims who started at the two cradles are
nearing After eighteen, twenty, or
thirty years the two come within sight. AT the
first glance they may feel dislike, and they
may slackea their step; yet something that the
world calls fate, and that religion calls provi-
dence, urges them on and on. They must
meet They come near enough to JON hands
in social acquaintance, after O while to join
han s in friendship, after a while to join
hearts. The delegate from the one cradle
comes up the east side of the church with her
father The delegate from the other cradle
comes up the west aisle of the church. The
two long journeys end at the snowdrift of the
bridal veil The two chains made out of many
years are forged together by the golden link
which the groom puts upon the third finger of
the left hand One on earth, may they
be one in heayen
But there are 80 many exceptions to the gen.
eral rule Of natural affinity that only those are
safe who pray for a heavenly hand to lead
Them. Because they depended on themselves
and not on God there are thousands of women
every year going to the slaughter. In India
women leap on the funeral pyre of a dead hus-
band. We have worse spectacle than that in
Amerca--women innumerable leaping on the