St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-01-18
Dr.. Talmage Gives Young Women Prepar-
ing for Marriage Some Very
Timely Advice,
Putting in a Good Word for the Young
Men Already Welded to Morality
and Christianity.
Mr.. Beecher DIscourses Upon the
Soul Life rs Distinguished From
the Bodily Life.
The Spiritual Light and Life OF the
World Bred and Developed
by God.
Dr. TaImage's Sermon.

uidkc , ScIulon THIS morning was on Inc
Choice OF a Husband, taking as his text
Ruth, l., o: The Lord grant you that We
may find rest. each of you in the house OF
her husband" He said: | applaud the
celibacy of a multitude of women, who.
rather than make unfit selection have made
none at all. 1t has not been a lack
Of opportunity for marital con-
tract on their part, but their own
culture and refinement and their exal ted
idea as 10 what husband ought to be, have
caused their declinature. They have seen
SO many women marry imbeciles or rufiianS.
or incipient sOts. or life time incapables, or
magnificent nOthings, or men who before
marriage were angelic and afterward dia-
b0lic. that they have been alarmed and
stood back. They saw so many boats 90
into the maelstrOm that they steered into
other waters. Better for a woman 10 live
alone, though she live a thousand years,
than to be annexed To one of these mascu-
line failures with which society is surfeited.
The patron saint of almost every family
circle is some such unmarried woman, and
among all the families of cousins she moves
around, and her coming In each house is
the morning. and her going is the night
Deliberate before you rush out of the single
state into another, unless you are sure of
bettement. Deliberate and pray. Pray
and deliberate. AS 1 showed you in my
former sermon, man ought 10 supplicate
DIVINE GUIDANCE
in such crisis; how much more important
that you solicit il! IL is easier for a man 20
find an appropriate wife than for a woman
to find good husband. This is matter
of arithmetic, as l showed in former dis
course. Statistics show that in Massa-
ahn - tot h.t
a majority of hundreds of thousands. Why
this is, we leave others to surmise. 1t
would seem that woman is favOrite with
the Lord. and that therefore he has made
more of that kind. From the order of the
creation in Paradise, it is evident that
woman Is an improved edition of man.
But whatever be the reason for il, the fact
is certain that she who selects husband
has 4 smaller number of people TO select
from than he who selects a WIFE, There
fore woman ought to be especially careful
in her choice of lifetime cOmpaniOnshp.
She can not afford 70 make a mistake. If "a
man err in his selection, he can spend his
evenings at the club and dull his sensible
titles by tobacco smoke, but woman has no
club-TOOm for refuge. and would find it
difficult To habituate herself 10 cigars. If a
woman make a bad job of marital selection,
can relieve it. Divorce eases i'm court may
interest the public, but the love letters of a
married couple are poor reading except for
those who write them. Pray God that you
be delivered from irreYOcable mistakel
Avoid
APPLIANCE WITH A DEsPIsER
of the Christian religion, whatever else he
may or may not have. / do not say he
must needs be a religious man, for Paul
says the unbelieving husband is sanctiied
by the wife; but marriage with q man who
hates the Christian religion will insure you
life OF wretchedness. lie will caricature
your habit of kneeling in prayer. He will
speak depreciatingly of Christ. lie will
wound all the most sacred feelings of your
soul. He will put your home under the
anathema of the Lord God Almighty. In
addition 10 the anguish with which he will
fill your life, there is great danger that he
will despoil your hope of heaven. and make
your marriage relation an infinite and
eternal disaster. If you have made such
engagement, your first duty is to break it.
My word may come just in time to save
your soul. Further. do not unite in mar
rage with a man of bad habits i'm the idea
of reforming him. III now, under the re-
straint Of your present acquaintance, he
will not give up his bad habits, after he
has won the prize you cannot expect him
to do so. You might as well plant
violet i'm the face of a
northeast storm, with the idea OF appeasing
it. You might as well run a schooner along
side of burning ship with the idea of saw
ing the ship. The consequence will be
schooner and ship will be destroyed to-
gether. The almshOuse could tell the story
OF bundled women who married men to
reform them. If by % years of age man
has been
GRAPPLED BY IETOXICANTs,
he is under such Roadway that your at
tempt 10 stop him would be very much like
running up the track with a wheelbarrow
to stop a Hudson River express train.
What you call an inebriate nowadays is
not victim to wine or whisky, but 10 log
wood and strychnine and nuX vomica- All
these poisons have kindled their fires in his
tongue and brain, and all the tears of a wife
weeping cannot extinguish the flames. In
stead of marrying a man to reform him, let
him reform first and then give him time to
see whether the reform is TO be permanent.
Let him understand that If he cannot do
without his bad habits for two years he
must do without you forever. Avoid all
proposed alliances through newspaper adj
vertisements. Many women, just for fun,
have answered such advertisements.
and have been led on from
step to step to catastrophe infinite. All
men who write such advertisements are vii
lains and lepers-all. without a single ex-
ception. ALL All! Do you answer them
just for fun? / will tell you safer and
healthier fun. Thrust your hand through
the cage at a menagerie. and stroke the
back OF cobra from the East Indies. Put
your head in the mouth of a Numidian lion
to see if he will bite Take a glaSsful of
paris green mixed with some delightful hen
bane. These are safer and healthier fun
than answering newspaper advertisements
for wife. My advice is, marry a man
who is
A FORTUNE IN HIMSELF.
Houses, lands and large inheritance are
well enough. but the wheel of fortune turns
so rapidly that through some investment all
these in a few years may be gone. There
are some things. however, that are a per-
petual fortune-gOOd manners, geniality Of
soul, kindness. intelligence, sympathy,
courage, perseverance, industry and whole
heartedness. Marry such one and you
have married a fortune. whether he have an
income of $4,000 a year or an income of
$500. A bank Is secure according to its
capital stock, and not TO be judged by the
deposits for day or week. A man is
rich according TO his sterling qualities, and
not according to the vacillatioD of circum-
stances, which may leave him with large
amount of resources to-day and withdraw
them tomorrow. II a man is worth moth
ing but money he is poor indeed. Ii man
have upright character he is rich. Prop
erty may come and go. he is independent of
the markets. Nothing can buy him out.
nothing can sell him out. He may have
more money one year than another, but his
better fortunes never vacillate. | imagine