Democratic Northwest. [volume] (Napoleon, Ohio) 1869-1894, 1886-02-11


wrong In the other case, although there
were hardships and trials, and some things
that had 10 be explained, still things went on
pleasant until the vs-y last whyi They
started right
+ Ny advice 10 you In your homo Is 70 exercise
70 the very last possibility Of your nature the
hw Of forbearancet Prayers In the house
hold will not make up for everything. Some
Of the best best people in the world are the
hardest to get alorg with There are people
who stand up in prayer-meetings and pray like
angels who at home are uncompromising and
cranky. You may not have everything Just
as you want it Sometimes IL will be the duty
OF the husband and sometimes Of the wife TO
yield; but both stand punctiliously on your
rights, and you will have a Waterloo with no
Blucher coming up at nightfall to decide the
conflict
Never be ashamed TO apologize when you
kaye done wrong in domestic affairs. Let that
be a law of your household The best thing I
ever heard of my grandfather, whom never
saw, was this: that once having unrighteously
rebuked one of his chill rem, he himself having
lost his patience, and perhaps having been mis-
informed of the child doings, found outhi mis-
take, and in the evening of the same day gath
cred all his family together and said, sNow
have one explanation to make, and one thing 10
say. Thomas, this morning l rebuked you
very unfairly. l am very sorry for it re-
buked you in the presence of the whole family,
and now ask your forgiveness In their pres
ence" 1t must have taken some courage to do
that 1t was right, was 1t not? Never be
ashamed to apologize for domestic inaccuracy.
Fin out tho points; what are the weak points,
if may call them so, of your companion, and
then stand aloof from them. Do not carry the
fire of your temper too near the gunpowder.
If the wife be easily fretted by disorder in the
household, let the husband be careful where
he throws his slippers. If the husband come
home from the store with his patience all ex-
hausted do not let the wife unnecessarily cross
his temper; but both stand up for your rights,
and will promise the everlasting sound Of the
warwhoop Your life will be spent in making
up, and marriage will be to you an ,Inmitgated
curse. Cowper says:
The ki.,!est an the happiest pair
Will find occasion to forbear;
And someth nc, every day they live,
To pity and perhaps forgive.
advise, also, that you make your chief
pleasure C rel around about that home 1t ls
unfortunate when it is otherwis,. If the h,is-
band spend the most of his nights away rom
home, of choic,, and not of nece sty. ! G is
not the head af the liou"ehold; he is only the
cashier II tIe VT throw tic cares of the
household il the ervauts lap, and then spend
five nights Of the week at the opera or theater,
she may clothe her children with satins and
laces and ribbons that would confound a
French milllner but they are orphans. Oh, il
is sad whom child has no one to say its prayers
to because mother has gone OF to the evening
entertainment! In India they bring children
and throw them to the crocodies, and it seems
very cruel; but the jaws of New York and
Brooklyn dissipation are swallowing down more
little children to-day than all the monsters that
ever crawled upon the banks Of the Ganges
have seen the sorrow Of goddess mother
on the death of child she had neglected II
was not so much grief that she felt. from the
fact that the child was dead as the fact tina. she
had neglected it. She said: @If hsd only
watched over and cared for the child, know
God would not have taken it" The'tears came
not It was q dry, blistering tempest
scorching simoom of the desert When she
wrung her hands it seemed as if she would
twist her fingers from their sockets; when she
seized her hair it seemed as if she had in wild
terror grasped q ossiling serpent with her right
hand. No fearful comrades Of the little one
came in and wept over the coffin; neighbors
came in, and the moment they saw the still face
of the child the shower broke. No tears for
her. God gives tears as the summer rain to the
parched soul; but in all the universe the driest
and hottest, the most scorching and consum-
ing thing is mothers heart, if she has neg
lected her child, when once it is dead. God
may forgive her, but she will never forgive
herself. The memory will sink the eyes deeper
into the sockets, and pinch the face, and whiten
the hair, and eat up the heart with vultures
that will not be satisfied, forever plunging
deeper their iron beaks. Oh, you wanderers
from your home, go back to your duty! The
brightest flowers in all the earth are those
which grow in the garden Of Christian house
hold, clambering over the porch Of Christian
home
advise you also to cultivate sympathy of
occupation. Sir James Macintosh, one of the
most eminent md elegant men that ever lived,
while standing. at the very height Of his emil
nence, said to great company Of scholars:
my wife made me" The wife ought to be the
advising partner in every firm She ought to
be interested in all the losses and gains of shop
and store. She ought to have o right-she has
yight-to know everything. II man goes
into business transaction that he dare not tell
his wife Of. you may depend that he is on the
way either to bankruptcy or moral ruin. There
may be some things which he does not wish to
trouble his wife with but if he dare not tell her
he is on the way to discontinue. On the other
hand, the husband ought to be sympathetic
with the wife's occupation. 1t is no easy mat
ter to keep house. Many woman that could
have endured martyrdom as well as Margaret,
the Scotch girl, has actually been worn out by
house management There are o thousand
martyrs Of the kitchen 1t is very annoying,
after the vexations Of the day around the stove
or the table, or in the nursery or parlor, to
have your husband say: sYou know nothing
about trouble; you ought to be in the store
half an hour" Sympathy Of occupation! II
the husbands work cover him with the SCOT Of
the furnance or the odors of leather or soap
factories, let not the wife be easily disguised
at the begrimed hands or unsavory aroma.
Your gains are one, your interests are one,
your losses are one; lay hold Of the work Of
life with both hands. Four hands to fight the
battles; four eyes to watch for the danger; four
shoulders on which to carry the trials tits a
very sad thing when the painter has wife who
does not like pictures It is very sad thing
for a nianist whau she has n husband who