The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1886-03-04

home. They have only been in it few
months or a few years. Then, there are
those who will, after awhile,. set up for
themselves home, and it is right that |
should speak out upon these themes.
My first counsel to you Is, have Jesus in
your new home, if it be new home; and
let him who was guest at Bethany be in
your household; let the divine blessing
drop upon your every hope and plan and
expectation. Those young people who be-
gin with God end with heaven. Have on
your right hand the engagement ring OF
the divine affection. II one of you be
Christian, let that one take Bible and
read few verses in the evening time, and
then kneel down and commend yourselves
to him who setteth the solitary in families.
want to tell you that the destroying
angel passes by without touching or enter
ing the door-post sprinkled with blood of
the everlasting covenant. Why is it that
in some families they never get along, and
in others they always get along well? l
have watched such cases, and have come
to conclusion. In the first instance, moth
ing seemed to go pleasantly, and after
while came devastation domestic disaster,
or arrangement. Why? They started
wrong. In the other case, although there
were hardships and trials, and some things
that had to be explained, still things went
on pleasant until the very last. Why?
They started right.
My advice to you in your home is to ex-
ercise to the very last possibility OF your
nature the law of forbearance. Prayers in
the household will not make up for
everything. Some of the best peo-
pie in the world are the hardest to get
along with. There are people who
stand up in prayer-meeting and pray
like angels, whom at home are uncompro-
missing and cranky. You may not have
everything just as you want it. Some
times it will be the duty of the hus-
band and sometimes of the wife to yield;
but both stand punctiliously on your
rights, and you viii have a Waterloo
with no Blucher coming up at nightfall to
decide the conflict.
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic aft
fairs. Let that be a law of your house,
hold. The best thing / ever heard of
my grandfather, whom I never saw, was
this: That once having unrighteously re-
buked one of his children, he himself hav-
ing lost his patience, and, perhaps, hav-
ing been misinformed of the child's doing,
found out his mistake, and in the evening
of the same day gathered all his family
together and said: SNOW have one ex-
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Thomas, this morning rebuked you very
unfairly. / am very sorry for it. / re-
buked you in the presence of the whole
family, and now I ask your forgiveness
in their presence 1t must have taken
some courage to do that. 1t was right,
was it not? Never be ashamed to apollo
gize for domestic inaccuracy. Find out
the points; what are the weak points,
if may call them so, of your companion,
and then stand aloof from them. Do not
carry the fire of your temper too near
the gunpowder. If the wife be easily
fretted by disorder in the household,
let the husband be careful where he
throws the slippers. II the husband comes
home from the store with his patience all
exhausted, do not let the wife unneces-
sarily cross his temper; but both stand up
for your rights, and will promise the ev-
erlasting sound of the warwhoop. Your
life will be spent in making up, and mar
riage will be to you an unmitiga.ed curse
Cowper said:
The kindest and the happiest pair
VIII find occasion to forbear;
And something, every day they live,
To pity, and perhaps forgive.
| advise, also, that you make your CHIEF
/ pleasure circle around about that home. Il
| is unfortunate when it is otherwise. If the
| husband spend the most Of his nights away
| from home, of choice, and not of necessity
he is not the head of the household; he il
only the cashier. If the wife throw the
cares of the household in the servants
! lap, and then spends five nights of the weel
| at the opera or theater, she may clothe hel
| children with satins and laces and ribbons
| that would confound a French milliner
but they are orphans. Oh, it is sad wher
child has no one to say it's prayers to
because mother has gone off to the evening
entertainment In India they bring chill
| dren and throw them to the crocodiles. and
4! it seems very cruel; but the jaws of New
York and Brooklyn dissipation are swal.
lowing down more little children to-day
than all the monsters that ever crawled
upon the banks of the Ganges!
have seen the sorrow of a goddess moth
er on the death of child she had neglect
ed. Is was not so much grief that she fell
| from the fact that the child was dead a,
the fact that she had neglected it. She said
"If had only watched over and cared fol
the child, / know God would not hav,
taken it," The tears came not; it was Z
dry, blistering tempest-a scorching simooI
| of the desert. When she wrung her hand
| it seemed as if she would twist her finger.
! from their sockets; when she seized hel
hair it seemed as if she had, in wild terror
| grasped coiling serpent with her RICH
! hand. No tears Comrades of the littl
one came in and wept over the coffin
! neighbors came in, and the moment the1
! saw the still face of the child the Shove,
broke. No tears for her. God gives tear
as the summer rain to the parched soul
but in all the universe the driest and hot
test, the most searching and consuming
thing is mothers heart if she has neg
lected her child, when once it is dead. Coz
may forgive her, but she will never forgiv