West Virginia argus. [volume] (Kingwood, W. Va.) 1877-1946, 1886-05-28
HOME ETlQUeTTE.
An Important Factor ia Good aud Refined
Housekeeping.

An Important Factor iu Good Rnd Refined
Housekeeping.
There can be no place whero certain
restraints and restrictions are moro
necessary than in the narrow. often
iarring confines of home; thcrc is no
place whcrc people feel more unrc-
strained, unrestricted Many a Young
couple, new TO the delight of being
one as we'll as couple, find exquisite
bliss ia making that unity SO complete
that all either has, i'm mind, or mattcr.
belongs To both But that system
won work, No two people, living to-
gcthcr, can 10y any possibility, preserve
their own happiness, to say nothing of
their friends, without SomCthmgof l--
serve, enough TO keep at least, their
sclf-rcspect. enough To mako both rs
POIrc 60 each rs in the dayso of their
WoOmg.
! have emphasized that word polite.
Why Is it so many people keep MI their
fine manners for the outer world, and
have none left for homcP Why do
mothers train their little ones, in every
way but 10y example, tobc ditC0yS cour-
toous. and then wonder that they are
sometimes rudoP II YOU fail To say as
surely rs to their elders. "thank YOU. -
II beg your pardon or. "if vou'
please To child. so certainly will
that ready little wit take on the con
viCtiou that politcucSs Is not for every
day use, nor for home consumption.
Mo husband has a right to read his
wife's letters, in justice to the friends
who wrote them, and the woman who
reads No wife has right to pour her
husbands coffee, with her bang en-
twisted in last nights curl-papcrs. No
parent has right To give away a
child'S pIay-things without'that child's
consent hate this everlasting.
greedy pratng of ones due" but
these are instances by the way, of the
injustice ruling our good housekeeping
For you see, discourtcsy IS the an
tithcsi~ of Justice; not that all injustice
is rudcncss, bui all rudcncss is miust-
ice. Why should we show our love
by our impolitcncssp remember
once, when my sister and / were tax
ing our departure, after a call upon
two other sisters, we jostlcd against
one another at the door. Upon our
mingled apologies one of the girls
broke with laugh: "Do you do that
to each Othcr?N she cried 81 should
never think of begging Lily's pardonr'
Yet they were we'll hammered Young
persons too; truly gentlcwomen i'm
their relations TO the world Some one
says:
" We have careful thoughts for tho stranger.
And smiles for tho sometime guest
\ ct we NCN our own, with look and tone
IhouEh We love our own the bCst'
spoke of reserve as part of polite
ness. A parent can not implant high
sense OF dclicacy and honor more sure
y than by Il respect for each child i'm
dividuality as profound as for an equal.
have never forgotten an incident i'm
my childhood. ! was away from home
for a few days, and on my return the
younger ones fell on me at once. Let
tcrs had come from two or three alb
sent brothers, they said, and addressed
10 me; so, TO all their entrcatics TO
open them, our mother had said. no
one could do that but myself. and they
thrust the envelopes IN my hand
Gould a daily lecture have taught the
prcccpt i'm so sure IL manner ~ that
practice
A great many kind and wise people
hold some vague idea that nice man
ncrs ARE mark of insinccrity. and
bluntncss bctokcns truth. I don't
know by what course of reasoning. OK
cept a. some kind Of things are called
polite lies, so all mkind things must
be always impolitc truths Others
there arc who think they give one the
highest proof OF their esteem when
they lay aside all ceremony. They
don stop TO consider that perhaps one
likes ceremony. As some one said. II
hate TO bc made one of the family. for
il means sleep there i'm a bed Or as
friend of mine phrases il. 81 don {
like those tables whore they didn't put
themselves out for me- I iO0,lt them
10 put themselves out I want some
thing good TO catn This same sort
regard intimacy as license. friendship
a- freedom. For my part have little
love for the friend who knows no 1,icuJl
and tUnW i'm hair-pins and toOth-pow-
der. criiicisc5 my Ovcrskirt. wears NV
rubbcrs, and gives advice and su0ocs-
ton unsolicited. 10 such transgrcs-
sion as this last ! always want 10 quotc
Dr Johnson MY dear madam. be-
fore giving your opinion you should
consider what your opinion is worth. "
There is no relation. boo short in the
household, whether Of mistress or maid.
husband and wife. child and parent.
hostess and guest. but will be- made
more comfortable by the exercise Of =
little formal etiquette. ] don't say n
VIII cure ail evils to which the home j..
heir; there must bc something deeper
and trucr to do So great 20 work But
DO will make the domestic machinery
run more smoothly. and that surely
ihal is well worth trying rum nm.
tn Good Hohnetc1pug
Unbiased Editorial Opinion.