The Osceola times., 1886-04-03

but the wise, the discreet mans reti-
cence is the thing l am approving.
| say he is a hard man to compete
with; because you do not know what
he is going to do. He holds his
tongue. He is going to surprise you.
You can only guess his plans.
There are few men to whom it is
safe to talk. Letters written ''conf-
Dental" are always the ones that are
sure to be shown to everybody. You
tell man a secret, uttering it as ea
mers matter Of COURSE, and he will
forget it in an hour. But YOU lend
emphasis to it by saying: snow do
not speak of this" and he is sure to
remember what you impart; then it
burns like a fire in his heart until he
tells it. Every body leaks. Now, if
you wish to do something in trade,
hold your tongue.
''But wish to ask advice?"
"Tben you will fail. If it is a
thing you have to talk over with 9th
er men, some one of those men will
steal your thunder. Some one will
be in the field before you, having
never thought OF the scheme till you
asked his judgement about it; but
then he began to think of it, and the
first you know he has gone off and
done it before you.
l tell you tins IS lonely world.
Every man has to paddle his canoe.
Every man must be an inventor of
the methods of his own success. Ev.
cry man must be an explorer-that
is, if he would find all FL Dorado.
This is the true and permitted
self-love. This is the right every
one has Of looking after number one.
1t is not selfshness. You think out
your plan. You investigate all the
chances. You do your own lying
awake nights, not asking any one
else to take this fret and care for you.
Then you act on your own response
bility, taking all the risks. That is
right.
! am not denying that one should
take good advice. All young pco.
pie should. Youth is not capable
If acting alone, any more than it can
'ufTcr alone. If We call on our pa
ents when We are sick or in any
.roubla we ought surely to give them
he opportunity of fadvising us before
We get into trouble. Elise we are
ours. Here and there, all
Trough life, most men have one or
wo trustworthy friends with whom
is safe to consult. The married
nan who cannot consult with his
wife and take advantage Of u woman's
intuition, is an unlucky dog.
But the talker is the fellow who
las given away more chances Of sue
'css than he ever used himself.
Scores Of men have tliriven OH his
vasteiul wits. He has blmrtcd out
What some other fellow has utilized
/ hundred times. The talker is
lfraid of his own brains. lie talks
o see what other people will think.
lie wishes to use some other head
besides his own. He is brilliant in
conception, but deficient in the judi
'ial faculty. He does not believe in
'imsclf. lie will talk you blind to
convince you, and yet go away him
elf unconvinccd. He lacks self-reli-
nee.
Did it ever occur to you how diff
icult it was for another man to give
'ou advice? How can he see all the
POINTS of your case as you yourself
AN see them? You have been study
ng the matter, in all its minute de-
ails, for weeks. You try to tell an
'ther person the situation by talking,
alking. You cannot. After all
'our talk you will have to act for
'oursclf. OF course ] am speaking
# men and women of ripe powers,
lot of extreme youth. The grave
rises of life are the ones ] am con.
idering; and those ought not to be-
ong to youth.
And you will find truly wise men
'cry reluctant to give you advice. 1t
5 dangerous process. After all
he talk, they almost invariably warn
'ou to do about what you think best.
I'he advice of free talker is not
worth much; he will turn you off a
,ard of it, like the man who will
'block your hat while you watt" and
hink no more cf you. The silent
mans advice is weighty. Better fol-
ow it-ifyou do anybody's. Indeed,
Is most men are takers, advice is
,heap. But advice which costs
hought and may cost money, if not
more, is hard to find.
1t you talk little with men and
much with God, in prayer, you will
get on best. Let other men talk to
you. Butyo talk with yourself. 1t
is more convenient in the long run.
What you say to yourself is buried.
What you say to yourself you can
retract tomorrow il you wish. You
can express one opinion to yourself
one moment, and quite the contrary
the next moment. Self knows all
the circumstances, makes all allow
ances, and will forgive and forget,
If necessary. But other men will