The Baltimore County union., 1886-05-08
True Love.
Affection Between Man and Wife that
Never Dies.

A remark was made some time ago
in my hearing to the effect that a
man must be fool to be in love with
his own wife. 1 suppose he worked up.
on the theory that familiarity breeds
contempt, without stopping to make
any exceptions; and then, again, he
was crusty bachelor who had never
known any of the delights of married
life. For man to be in love with his
wife after twenty years of married life
speaks we'll for the wife, who, in one
way or another, can manage to keep in
tact the affection of earlier years. 1t
depends altogether upon what a man
marries for whether or not he will love
his wife in after years. If he is taken
by pretty face, lively manner or a
neat fortune, ten chances to one he will
be disappointed when the beauty fades,
or the manner grows dull or the money
disappears. Even in these cases there
are some matches that turn out well, for
the beauty may disclose some excellent
qualities of heart and mind which will
take the place of the fading charms and
render her lovelier than before, and
poverty has drawn many couple closer
together than ever they were in their
more prosperous days. There are few
who have not some redeeminr quality,
some ennoDilng vrituc winch VIII en-
dear her to her partner and gain the
respect of her entire family. We all
know that many husbands are for from
perfect; but the man l am speaking OF
now represents class of husbands who
come as near the ideal partner of joys
and sorrows as it is possible for a NOR
tai to be. When such man meets a
woman of worth, and without making
the attributes of beauty or fortune the
principal object of his choice, consider
ing rather the suitability of the temper
aments, the inclinatiops, tastes, etc.,
the primal necessity, he will be contin'
ually discovering some new feature oi
inner life to charm him and entangle
him the stronger. 1t takes long time
for men and women to be thoroughly
married. Most of them marry only IN
part, fractionally, sometimes small and
sometimes large, but very few totally
1t takes long years of life together, long
years of experiment, in which each vii
fall out by the way great many times
then draw each other hack again, before
they will both tread the same path witt
the same destination in view. Wher
YOU see a couple of this kind, in which
the deficiencies of the one are made VI
by the other, who really seem made tol
each other, perfect companions intel
lectually, morally and physically, dc
YOU consider that the husband is still II
love with the wife after forty or nifty
years of life together, or nee 9e'Sa
But must the wives, who are not the ful
complements of their husbands, lose
their love and respect because they have
only married fractionally? Decidedly
not; for many man who knows full
we'll what is lacking in his partner, an6
knowing, too, that it can never be sup
piled, loves her for the good that is IL
her, and for the companionship that sh'
has given him. He thinks of all th'
sacrifices that she has raised him from
sick bed, of how she stood by him whel
reverses came and things looked dark
of her patient care of the children, o
her housewifely qualities and of a grea
many other things that make him, Il
spite Of himself, love and cherish her
These considerations overbalance al
Deficiencies that may exist in the matte
of face or form or style or intellect. No
but he might appreciate her more wer
not these things wanting, but for wha
she is and what she has been to him h
loves and reveres her. 1t is a habit
and a very bad one, too, possessed b
Young people, of sneering at old wive
4 and wondering what their husband
ever saw in them. Because a marie
man sometimes in society pays sligf
attentions to silly young girls, the
| forthwith imagine that his home III
must be tiresome because his wife is OF
and faded, and that he must seek r.
freshment outside. In nine cases OF
of ten he does it because he pities the
and hates to see them unattended an
alone. His wife, having his societ
always, is generous and does not mir
the seeming neglect, knowing that
will come back to her for true enJoymel
when tired of the chatter and gigglir
of the young people. Young gihs nee
not sneer at old wives, for the latter, ev'
with all the cares of married life, a
happier than they.
@Prudence will direct US to
cautious what debts we contract; D
when they become due, justice requir
that they be punctually discharged
otherwise we keep possession while a
other has the right.
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