The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1886-03-12

Wholesale. So, while the private home
may brood into life an occasional falsity
and take . long time to do it, many Of the
boarding houses and family hotels afford
. swifter and more multitudinous style Of
moral incubation, and one old gossip will
get Oh the nest after one hours brooding,
clucking . flock Of thirty lies after her,
each one picking up its little worm Of juicy
regalement.
II is NO advantage to hear too much
about your neighbors, for your time will
b 20 much occupied in taking care Of their
faults that you will have no time to look
after your own. And while you are pull.
ing the chickweed out Of their garden yours
and MULLEN stalks.
Ono of the worst damages that comes
from the herding Of so many people into
boarding houses and family hotels is in /.
flcted upon children. It is only another
way of bringing them up on the commons.
While You have your own private house
you can, for the most part, control their
companionship and their whereabouts;
but. by twelve years Of age, in these pub.
lie resorts, they will have picked up all the
bad things that can be furnished by the
prurient minds Of dozens Of people. They
will overhear blasphemies and see quar-
rels, and get precocious in sin. and what
the bartender does not tell them, the
porter or hostler or bell-boy will. Besides
that, the children will go out into this
world without the restraining, anchoring,
steadying and all controlling memory of
. home. From that some Of us who have
been blessed Of such memory have escaped.
It grips man for eighty years, il he lives
so long. Il pulls him back from doors into
which he otherwise would enter. It smites
him with contrition in the very midst of
his designations.
As the fish already surrounded by the
long, wide net swim out to sea, thinking
they can go as far a. they please, and with
gay toss Of silvery scale they defy the
sportsmen ON the beach, and after while
the fishermen begin to draw in the net,
hand over hand and hand over hand, and
It is . long while before the captured
fms begin to feel the net, and then they
dart this way and that, hoping to get
out, but find themselves approaching the
shore and are brought up to the very feet
of the captors, so the memory OF an early
home sometimes seems to relax and let
men out further and further from God, and
ten years, twenty years, thirty years; but
some day they find an irresistible mesh
drawing them back, and they are COM
PEELED to retreat from their prodigality
and wandering, and though they make
desperate effort to escape the impression,
and try to dive deeper down in sin, after
awhile are brought clear back and held
upon the Rock of Ages.
If it be possible, o father aad mother,
let your sons and daughters go out into
the world under the semi-omnipotsnt
memory of a good, pure home. About
your two or three rooms in q boarding.
house or family hotel you can cast no
such glorious sanctity. They will think
Of these public caravansaries q an early
stopping place, malodorous with old vict-
uals, coffees perpetually steaming, and
meats in everlasting stew or broil, the
air surcharged with carbonic acid, and
corridors along which drunken boarders
come staggering at one O'Clock in the
morning, rapping at the door till the af-
frighted wife lets them in. Do not be
guilty of the sacrilege or blasphsmy Of
calling such q place home.
A home is four walls inclosing one fam.
lily with identity of interest, and q
privacy from outside inspection 50 COM
plete that it is world in itself, no one en-.
tering except by permission; bolted and
barred and chained against all outside in
quisitiveness.
The phrase so often used in law books
and legal circles Is nightly suggestive
every mans house is his castle-as much
so as though it had draw0ridge, porto ullis,
bastiopA and armed turret. Even
the officer of Tie law may not enter to
opened unto him; burglary, or the in.
vasion Of it, q crime SO offensive that the
law clashes its iron jaws on any one who
it.
Unless it be nece ssary to stay for longer
or shorter time in family hotel or board
ing house-and there are thousands Of in
stances in which it is necessary, as
showed you at the beginning-unless in
this exceptional case, let neither husband
nor wife consent to such permanent resi-
dence.
The probability is that the wife will have
to divide her husbands time with public
smoking or reading room, or with some
spider in search of unwary flies,
and il you do not entirely lose your hus.
band it will be because he is divinely pro.
tecsed from the disasters that have
thousands Of husbands with as
good intentions as yours.
Neither should the husband, without i'm.
perative reason, consent to such . life I'M
less he is sure his wife can Withstand the
of social dissipation, which
sweeps across such places with the force of
The Atlantic Ocean when driven by Sep.
tember equinox. Many wives give up
heir homes for these public residences, 50
hat they may give their entire time to
operas, theaters, balls, receptions and
evees, and they are in q perpetual whirl,
ike q whip.top spinning round and round
and round, very prettily, until it loses its
squipoise and shoots OF into . tangent.
But the difference is, in one case it is 8 top
and in the other soul.
Besides this there is an assiduous accu-
of little things around the private
home which in the aggregate make q great
while the denizen Of one of these
public residences is apt to say: "What is
he use: l have no place to keep them il I
should take them" Mementoes, bric-a-
orac, curiosities, quaint chair or coy
OUNCE, upholsteries, pictures and a thou
and things that accrete in home are dis
,arded or neglected because there is no
in which to arrange them. And
ret they are the case in which the pearl Of
domestic happiness is set.
You can never become as attached to the
Of q clearinghouse or fam
otol IN %hoso $hipOa th~f vovp rNvs