New Ulm weekly review. [volume] (New Ulm, Minn.) 1878-1892, 1886-09-15
why Men Don't Marry.


Issy it boldly and without fear of
contradiction, says writer in the
New Orleans States, there is not a
man living who is all times proof
against feminine destinations, who has
not at some period In his LIES history
mduged in the hope OF realizing his
dreams OF domestic happiness, in
which the face of some real or ideal
woman shone forth as the guiding
star to brighten his life. No man ever
INDUCES in dreams OF domestic happi.
ness outside OF his ideal home. The
world is his at all times, in which to
roam at his own sweet will. His ex-
perience teaches him that in all the
world can offer there is nothing so
sweet as the love which lives in the
home, gives rest to the soul and that
peace of mind which the world
cannot give; his innermost soul
Graves for it, so satisfying is it
in its tenderness. True love is the
very mainstay OF happiness, and no
outward ruin 'scan wreck the citadel
where the immortal lives" Is it the
fear OF thef failure to realize such hap
p!ness as this that keeps these dream
ers from seeking it in marriage?
The most lnveterate club man, the
bitterest scoffer OF "lovein acottage,"
arc those men who failed, either from
lack Of confidence in their own pow
ers OF persuasion or want of means
in their youth, to win the one par
tlcular woman they worshiped as
their ideal. disappointment in love
is one OF the main causes of there be-
ing so many bachelors in the world.
| There is another class OF men who
very cautiously estimate the expenses
of married life, and come to the con.
clusion they "would be fool to mar
ry a girl if they could not support her
in the style in which she had been &C.
customed," and, with wise shake OF
the head, determine to let well enough
alone. Often men do not marry be-
cause they are too busy; they become
enamored OF their work; every effort
! OF their existence tends to the success
full accomplishment OF a certain pur-
pose, and marriage does not seem to
them essential to that result.
Many men shun female society as
they would some death-dealing plant,
from the very consciousness OF their
own helplessness in avoiding being en-
trapped into serious entanglements,
| believing that where a woman wills it
she can do anything, while a man is a
/ feeble child of destiny who can i'll at
ford to war against so fair q foe. 9th
er men, from a worldly point OF view,
have enough money to support one
but not enough for two; they value
their own comfort and position too
much to imperil it by allowing "any
sentimental nonsense in love affairs"
to disturb their mathematical calcu-
lations on the subject.
There are plenty of men in the
world, and women cannot complain
they do not see them, for the tenden-
cy of the age is "to level all barriers
between the sexes" Girls are allowed
to indulge in all sports that are usual
| ly considered invented for the sole
| pleasure of the lords OF creation. They
row, they skate, they play lawn ten
mis-; they-shall l say it-yes, they
smoke; it is considered quite chic to
indulge in the pleasure of the weed in
the shape of q mild cigarette. Per
haps it is these mannish accomplish
ments that make men regard the mat
rimonial state with disfavor, not par
ticularly relishing the idea OF a wife
being a match for them in every sense
, OF the word, even to the extent Of her
muscular development.