The Stark County Democrat. [volume] (Canton, Ohio) 1833-1912, 1886-01-21
CHOOSING A HUSBAND.
Second of the Series of Sermons
by DIR. Talmage on "rhe
Marriage Ring"


| Tihh OF borm0nh on ''lhd marriage lilnB," tho
subjeol being '1ho Choice OF a Husband, '
Selecting his teKt from Ruth l., 0-'flho Lord
| grant you that 20 may hnd roat each OF you, In
| the house OF her huaband''-the preacher said
This was tho prayer OF pioue Naomi for Ruth
and orpah, and 10 an appropriate prayer now
| Ia behalf OF unmarried womanho0l Naomi,
tho good old soul knew that the devil would
take their oasea IN hand II God did not 80 ahe
prayH 'The Lord grant you that 20 may find
| rest each ofyou In tho house Of her husband" :"
In this aefies Of sermona on "Iho Marriage
| Ring" last Sabbath gave prayerful and Chris
| hAn advice 70 mon In regard 10 the selection OF
q wife, and to-day give the same prAyerful
| and Christian advice 10 women In regard 10 tho
| selection OF husband, but In all these ser
mons saying much that hope will be appro-
| pirate for all ages and all classes
Iapplaud the celibacy Of multitude OF wo-
men who, rather than make unit selection,
have made none al all II has not boon a lack
| OF opportunity for marital contract ON their
part, but nielr own culture and refinement and
lhoiT exalted ldoA an 10 what husband ought
| to be have caused their decllnaturo, They
have seen 30 many women marry imbeoilon, or
TuiiAna, or lnolplent sog, or oincapablea.
or magnificent nothlnga or mon who before
marriage were angelic and aftorward dlabol0
that they have been alarmed and stood back
They saw no many boats 20 into tho maelatrom
woman to live alone, though she live thous.
and years, than 10 be annexed 10 ono OF those
masculine failures with which society 10 sur
foitel Tho patron saint OF almost every fam
lily circle Ia some such unmarried woman, and
among all the families Of cousins she moves
around, and hor coming In each house Ia tho
morning and her going away ID the night
In large circle OF Kindred perhapg twenty
families In all, was an Aunt phdnbe Paul gave
A laiiaH aI IulraHuaitan a "a aua whom ha aalla
'Phwbe, our alator, ~ she wont up from Con-
ohroa 10 Rome, commanding her for her kind
ness and Christian service, and implorlng for
her all courtoaioa, think Aunt Phmbo was
nam0d Aftor her, Was there sickness In any
OF tho houaoholdo, she wan thoro, ready 10 III
up aud count out tho drops OF medicine Was
there marriage, hho helped deck the bride for
the altar, Was thoro now soul inoarnatod,
hho was th0ro tO rejoice Al the nativity. Was
thoro a sore bereavement she was lhore to con-
sole Tho children rushed out NJ hor first APP
peAranoo, crying IHere comes Aunt Phgbe,"
and but f0r parental Interference th0y would
have pulled hOr down with tholr car0ahon, for
she was not very strong, and many severe Ill
noeaoH had giyon her enough glimpaoa Of tho
noxt world 10 make hor heavenly minded Hor
table was loaded up with Baxtor'a "Aainte
Rest" Doddrldgo'H "liiho aud Progress" jays
Morning and Evening Exoroiaon,' and John
which have fitted out whole generations for tho
heayon upon which they have ontorod,
1De Wit, ah0 said 10 mo ono day, "twico In
my life have been no overwhelmed with tho
love OF God that | tainted away, and could
hardly bo roauacltatOd, Don't toll mo thero Ia
no hoayon, ! have soon II twice. II you
would know how her presence would sootho an
anxiely, Or nv burden, or ohoQr borrow, or
leave q bloealng Oh oyofy room IN tho house,
ask any OF tho lalmagoa sho had hfriod at
hOr early home, taking caro- OF an invalid
falhOr, until tho bloom Of lifJ had somewhat
faded, but she could interest the young folks
with nomo throo or four tondor passages In hor
own history no that we oil know that II was
not through lack OF opportunity that Bh0 was
not the quoOn Of one household instead Of bong
bouedicuon on 4 whole cirOl0 Of households,
Az about ~ years OF ago Hho madc hor last
visit 70 my house, and whom nho sat In my Phil
adclphia church | was moro ombarraseo athor
presence than by all tho audience, because /
folt that In religion had got no further than
tho II q, whilo aho had learned tho whole
alphabet and for many yoare had ilnahod tho
Y and u Whom she wont out OF this llo into
the noxt what shout thOro must have boon In
hoayon, from the front door clear up 10 tho
back seat In tho highest gallery | saw, tho
olhOr day, ~ tho village oomotory OF Bomor-
yillo, N, j., hor resting place, uio tombstone
having on II the words which thirty yoarn ago
hho told mo ah0 would like IL have inscribed
thorO--namoly ~lho morning comoth,"
Had she u mission In tho worldY Certainly
Az much 40 Caroline Horeehol, tlrgt amAUaon-
ala for her iluatrloua brother, aud then his as-
HiHtant In astronomical calculations, and th0n
discovering worlds for hOraOlf dying NJ GS
yoare OF aga, still busy with tho BlAra an Dho
bpOd beyond thomi az much Aa had Floronco
nightingale, tho nerno OF tho Crimoai or dracO
Darling, tho horaowoman OF the Longatono
lighthoueo or Mary Lyon, tho toaohor Of
Moro tho Christian authoNsa OF England, or
Dorothoa DiA, tho angel OF mercy for tho IN.
BAnoj or Anna Ethoridgo among tho wounded
Of Blaokburn'a ford; or Margaret DrockinrIdgo
NJ VlckBburg, or Mary Shelton, distributing
roeoa and grapes and cologne IN western hos
pitalai or thousands OF other gloroua womon
liko thOm, who never took tho marriage saora-
mont Appreciate oil this, my aistor, aud II
will mako you deliberate bOfofo you rush out
OF tho single state into another, unloee you arc
euro Of botlormont
Deliberate and pray Pray and deliberate
An ! showed you IN MY former sermon, u man
ought 70 nupplloato dylno guidance In such
orisiai how much moro important that you no.
lioit itl II 10 oaalor for man TO And an ap-
proprit0 wlf0 than for woman 10 find n good
husband This In q motlor OF arithmetic, aa |
showed In my formor diecourao Statistics
show that In Massachusetts and Now York
Rtatos womon have majority OF hundreds Of
thousands Why this Ia wo loayo othOrH 10 sur
misc, II would SOON that woman Ia favorltO
with tho Lord, and therefore llo has mado moro
OF that kind From the order of tho creation
In paradise, II In oyldont that woman IN an lm-
proved edition OF man, llut whatever bo tho
reason for u, tho fact Ia certain ihr' aho who
solocB husband han aqmallor number Of poo
plo 10 aoool from than no who aoloola WIFE
Therefore woman ought 10 DO especially
careful IN hor choice Of llfotmo companion
ship, hho cannot AFFORD 10 mako mistake II
man orr In hiu selection ho can np0nd hla
eyoninge NJ the club aud dull hn eonsbIlitloa
by tobacco smoke, but woman has no club
room for rofugo and would find n dlnlonlt 10
hebtuato horsolf 10 oigarA II woman mako
bad job OF marital selection the probability 10
that nothing but funeral can rolioyo II Dl-
yorco oasoe IN court may interest tho public,
but tho l0yo-0tlora OF d married couple Rro
poor reading oxcopt for those whoswrilo thcm,
Pray God that you bo delivered from irrovooa-
bio miHtakO
Avoid Alliance with doaplsor Of tho Chris
ihn roliglon, whatOyOr OlHo hO may hayO or
may not have, do not say he must moods bo
q religious man, for Paul saya the unbolloylng
husband Ia eanctilod by The wlfoi but marriage
with man who hatce tho Christian religion
VIII hlhNIo luU " lllo VI WInlOnoulloHh ITO Will
oaricaturo your habit OF knooling In prayer.
lilo will speak doprociatlngly OF Christ lIo
will wound all tho most sacred feelings OF your
soul lilo will put your homo undor The anath.
oma Of tho Lord God Almighty In addition 10
the anguish with which ho will All your lifo,
thoro " great danger that ho will doepoil your
hopo OF hoayen, and mako your marriage rola-
ton an Infinite aud oternal dieaslor II you
have any such engagement, your frat duty ~ 10
brook IL My word may como just In timo 70
hny0 your soul
Furthor do not unto In marriage with aman
OF bad habIta In tho idoa OF reforming him II
now, undor the restraint Of your present no.
quaintanco, ho will not gIyo up hia bad habits,
hftor ho has won the prlzo you cannot expect
him 10 do 40 You might M woll plant q violet
IN tho ia,o OF a northeast storm with tho doa
Of. appoasng IL You might az woll run a
schooner alongside Of burning ahip with tho
Idea OF saving tho nhlp Tho consequence will
bo schooner and ahip will bo doalroyod TO-
gothor ! almehouno could toll the story OF
. hundred women who married mon 70 reform
thom II ly 20 years OF ago man has beon