The Arizona sentinel., 1886-03-27
ABOUT MANNERS.
The Importance of Cultivating Grace in
 Action and feeling.

The importance or CulClVdUlHS OrdCc III
 Action and feeling.
 We receive some impressions of the character of person at the first meet ing, and in many cases, judge of them by their actions If they are rude and rough and show adisregard for the com mon propriet.es of life, we would inn mediately think they never had any ad- vantages or had not profted by those they did have. They are few indeed who will look beneath the rough ex- terior and search out the good qualities. We judge greatly by external appear ances, which are often very deceiving owing to the great difference in peoples taste in regard to dress.
 The manners of the people are as widely unlike as their dress. Some please, some amuse and others disgust us. You may be acquainted with per son for years and then know as little, may be less, than of far newer ac- quaintances. They are always polite, their manners unexceptionable, yet you feel that you have no tastes in common; they freeze you with their very politeness, and you never leave their presence without feeling dissatis- fled with everything you have done. In direct contrast to these are those who are timid and gentle; they never hurt any ones feelings intentionally, and have ever kind word for all There is mistaken idea that such people lack force and intellectual power. Such is not the case; scarcely day passes but that you may see the contrary proven.
 In this age of this worlds progress it seems to be quite the fashion to be af- fected, assuming to be something which we are not. In all cases we should be ourselves, and ourselves only, otherwise our every action is deceit. The person who has one set of manners for home and another for society should be summed like an adder. Unless our ac- tions have some true motive they are worthless. That which pleases us in others is not so much the deed or act as the feeling which prompts it. Pure thoughts give elevated and refined feel ings, while evil debases and lowers them. Some seem to think if they have an ed ucatlon they must necessarily have good manners; the education will indeed soften and mold the manners in a cer- tain degree, but not so much as they seem to suppose. We sometimes wonder why some people impress us so much more than others. There seems to be very little difference in the thoughts which they utter, but there is marked contrast in the manner in which it is said One clothes his thoughts in pure and ennobling language, while the other uses language which grates unpleasantly upon the ear, and our feelings imme- diately become antagonistic to what they may say. The one may be as true as the other, yet his manner and language create so unfavorable an impression that i we turn from him to the other, who may be on the opposing side, simply because he is more graceful and pleasing.
 Of how much importance then is it i that we should cultivate grace in our action as well as in feeling. Since po- liteness is of so much importance let us cultivate it, for it will bring us the esteem of our countrymen, and make more smooth the rugged pathway of life.-Mrs. Alice Leiqhton. m Western RnrGI,