The Monitor. [volume] (Woodstown, N.J.) 1884-1892, 1886-02-12

will you, doctor ,"
Marriages! are you married ?"
no"
"Why not ?"
Cant get anybody to have me-"
"Did you ever look into a woman's eyes
and lose your peace of mind the moment
she turned away?'
''Not to any extent
''Then you have never known what love
is. There are many people married who
would be better of separated, and many
good men and lovely women whose union
might make the world better and brighter.
There are two phases to neutrality-suspicious.
ical and spiritual. think all these elopc-
ments and loves at first sight are born Of
passion and are nevcrorrarely lasting. The
best marriages are those founded on friend
ship. 1t is a give and take. Each preys
on the other, and only those who possess
much can meet the requirements of a lifc's
companionship. | am not sure that the in
tellcctual marriage is not the ideal me
II believe the best and happicst matches
are those in which there is a correspondence
of aye, a similarity of pursuits, if you
like. and their must be an equality of taste,
culture, education and refinement. If one
in a leisure hour reads a book and gives a
synopsis to the other in criticism there is
a similarity of taste; and ifpicturcs, music,
or any of the arts or sciences interest them
there is another tie. The trouble is. so
many married people have nothing to give.
They mistake gossip for conversation. The
wife wonders why Mrs. D. has such fright
tnl tastes and descants on the cost of Miss
B. S engagement ring. The husbands OBJ
scrvations are exhausted on the new car
rage of his old business friend and the in
come of his competitor.
Il do not recognize love, as some very
intelligent writer's do, rs the means en-
ployed by nature for the propagation of
the race. To be sure, nature makes solne
provision. as is seen in the fascination We
all feel for handsome men and beautiful
women. No man wants to marry a puny,
Unhealthy hOiilii, bti III tiN ht4i0h oily
herself to a consumptive or physical wreck
unless there is some large compensation
in the way Of family position or money.
Strong, healthy men and neat, wholesome
women can get married if they wan TO.
Every man of 2S and every woman of IS
should be married, because the man is bet
ter for the cares of a home and the woman
at that age feels the need of love, protec-
ton and domestic independence. But
there is SOM great wrong in society which
makes his affinity impossible. Right here
in Chicago there are thousands and thou
sands of good, worthy aud industrious
young men working for 5000 and 81, 1000,
who would gladly marry ifthey could over
come the aversion they have to asking a
woman to share an income which scarcely
covers their own wants. The amount
would only provide a small flat for a home,
which even fancy cannot improve, for their
is neither hope nor promise of any better
The girl such a man would
like to marry could not retain her lowell
ness and contentment in a suite of rooms
on a back street, with the meagre support
that must of necessity accompany.
Il know the people try to talk down
false extravaganza and talk up the sturdy
beauties Of honest economy, but You can't
transfer a girl who has been well reared
do not say lu~xuriously, but well reared
to a poor, whitewasllod little fiat, destitute
Of the commonest comforts of refinement,
and expect her to he happy or serene. II
is not done because il can't he done.
Roses de moi bloom in cellars. This Is not