The Abbeville messenger. (Abbeville, S.C.) 1884-1887, 1886-03-16
TALMAGESSUNDAY TALKS
HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND.
Woman Sphere. Her lights, Her Wrongs
and Her Duties.

on 1.-The Marriage Ring" was preached
by DIR. Talmage, on Sunday, and the
subject was, "How to Choose a Illus.
band"
The text selected was Ruth, j., @
''Thc Lord grant you that We may find
rest, each of you, in the house of her
husband" This" said the Doctor,
sis the prayer of pious Naomi. She
was Il good old soul and knew that the
devil would take their cause in hand if
the Lord did not. She, therefore,
prayed that the Lord might grant unto
each of her dauEhtcrs-in-law rest In the
house of the man that they might ultl-
matcly marry. congratulate the fc-
licity of those m who rather than
marry and have m unhappy marital al
lance have had nonc at all. There has
been no lack of opportunity, but they
have preferred to live without u hus-
band rather than marry one Of the many
imbccilcs hat abound so plentifully in
Il cities. Men who arc incapablcs,
noncntities, they have seen, and they
have determined that they will not ally
themselves to one of them. They have
seen men also who during their court
ship were angelic and after their mar
riaSc were diabolical, and therefore they
kept back from marriage. a woman
had better live IL lonely life n thousand
years tia be annexed to one of the
many vulturcs with which our modern
society is infested. These women in
their single blcsscdncss are angels. and
the coming to our households is of the
morning and their going away is like
the coming Of night"
DR.. Talmagc here described his "Aunt
Phpbc rs one OF these angelic women
and related II number of incidents from
the rccOllcctions Of his own youth in
which ''Aunt Phoebe played u promi-
nent md affcctionatc part.
"Shc had had, " said the Doctor, so
many sickncsscs, and had had thereby
such Il view of the next world that she
was heavenly minded. She said to me
II day, de Witt, twice in nv life ]
have had such illuminating views of the
love of the Lord Jesus Christ that have
tainted away, and it was with difficulty
that recovered. People need not tell
me that there is no heaven; | nave seen
it twice. IT," continued the Doctor,
you want to know what Aunt Phnbc
was in q sick room and 4 home ask any
OF the ThlmaTcS. Instead of being the
queen of one household she was n bcne-
diction 70 many. When she went out
of life what Il shout, what a b~cnedictlon
there must have been in heaven, from
the lower floor to the top step! There
will always be a large number of women
who will never he married. Arithmc-
tic and mathematics show that that must
be so. If YOU ask me why God has
given us more women thar men | don't
know that | have any answer, except
that women seem to be favored of the
Lord, and then, if you think of it, it is
probably an arrangement of infinite wis
DOM, for YOU may call to mind that
when woman was created it was rs an
improved edition of MAN.
"Thcrc is only one thing that can cor
rect the disaster of an alliance with a
bad husband, and that is a funeral. The
police courts of the world cannot correct
the evil. 4 mistake once made about
marriage is made forever. Avoid a
time alliance with a man who dcspiscs
the Christian religion. Beware of such a
man, for you will surely have a life
your home under the anathema of the
Lord God Almighty. 1t may possibly
not be necessary that be should be a
I'LL vi Sot. Dul IL IL HCCcSSiTS Jl;lL 1C
should not be Il dcspistr of the Chris
tian religion. If you are engaged to
such a one your first duty is to break
the engagement. My words may come
to you just in time to save your soul.
Marry him and you will probably both
60 to hell together.
"NcXt, l charge you not marry q man
of evil habits with the idea that YOU
can reform him. If you don't reform
him before he gets the prize you will
not do it aftcrward. You might as we'll
plant n violet in the face of the north
east wind.
81 also charge you to avoid n lifelong
alliance with Il man who is so much oc-
cupied in business hat he has no room
in his life for anything. else. Some
times you will find a man who so spreads
himself vcr the sidewalk of life that
there is no room for any one else. He
is of that class of men who have n dis
position and n nature that is a protest
against marriage. Marry such a man
and it would be a case of bigamy. There
are thousands of women Mt this moment
or the way to such slaughter.
"Avoid alliance with any one who
proposes marriage through newspaper
advertisements. Can audible tittcr.)
Some women answer such ADVERTISE
ments for fun. Put arsenic into n II
and swa low it first before you do that,
for you would do yourself less harm.
Most of the men who insert such adver-
tisemcnts are moral lcpcrs. If a man
has wealth Of soul he is better Cor YOU
than if he had n fortune of thousands.
"If you find n man who has never
made any mistakes. who Is perfect, who
is immaculate. don't marry him. 1t
would be n swindlc for you to do it.
Why you would unite yourself to per-
fpction and vo, oro my ~ RI Go N,o,rio1