Alma record. (Alma, Mich.) 1878-1928, 1886-11-12
Stated AT Home" Days.

The fashion of AT Home days is
gaining favor rapidly with those who
once condemned it a. formal end sub
versive OF genuine friendlincss. The
woman who cngraves the name OF
certain day. afternoon or evening on
her visiting cards as the tine when she
is ready and glad to receive calls, says,
in effect, that she appreciates the desire
of her acqua ntanccs TO see her; sets
too high value on their time and hers
to risk the loss of a visit. She, further
more. marks her recognition OF the du-
ty of hospitality by resigning n stated
portion Of the week to the performance
of the grateful task. Her visitors are
never doubtful rs to the chances of ip-
conyenicncing her or finding her within
doors. She belongs. by choice, on that
day to al who VIII come, and, being
prepared to receive them. will be disap-
pointed if they stay away. Any one,
except very intimate friend, is guilty,
however mwittngly. of impertincncc
in presenting himself ut any other sea-
son unless by special permission. PEG.
pie who have never taken the pains to
think twice of tbs view OF the subject
have way of saving, Let me call some
time when | can see more Of you-haye
you all to myself: lhats reception days"
One must be very sure OF his own Mt
fractions who thus proposes. unlimited.
to absorb the cnt re attent on. for even
an hour. of an always busy and useful
mistress of family. Ii She. with full
ct knowledge of her occupations and
desires. choose to appoint the seasons
for receiving the outer world. her wish.
es viii be respected by weli-bred ao
quaintances 1t argues presumption
and fatuous self-conce't for one TO as,
sumo that she can never be unwclcomc.
The opposite extreme of treating =
guest with too Little ceremony, is ia
burden him with attention. Some
kindly folk would seem TO imagine that
their friends part with individuality 40
soon as the shadow of the hospitable
roof cnyclopS them. The determine
ton TO amuSe, 10 feed. TO fill them.
body and mind. with entertainment dur
ing every hour of their sojourn is OBJ
vous at every turn. To ms st that hs
whom YOU delight TO honor shall eat
twice as much as he wants and does
not know what he prefers to take op
his plate, should sec III ngs he cares
nothing for; drive when ne would rather
walk; sail when he abhors aquatic
sports from the depths of an agoAized
stomach; tina, he shall bc diverted when
he desires TO be alone with his own
thoughts for one precious half hour OF
the twcnty-four that make up his wax
inc day-3n benevolent torture
Study your friends ! kes and procliv.
ties. addressing Your ingenuity to tho
attempt to make him happy in his woy,
instead of forcing HIM to fcign satsfac-
ton with yours. 1t is quite as possible
TO bore him by giving him a surfcit Of
your society as by allowing him to seek
amusement in reading, or n solitary
ramblc in the direction chosen by him.
self. IL he comes TO you tired, let him
rest. Should he be loquatious. listen
while he has his say. So far from con-
sdeifng You stupid because you sit by,
attentive and mute while he turns his
heart and brain inside out, he will be like
ly to commend you as the prince of con-
versationalists. The definition of Bore,
Zone who talks so much of himself
that he gives you no chance to talk of
yourself" is one of the best things that
has been said in this century. See to
it that you are the bored, rather than
the bore, when the relations are those
of host and visitor. Marion Horlaud,
~ Good Housekeeping.