The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1886-03-10

can sit down and rest awhile from the horrors
of all embruted earthly alliance before be-
gin the full raptures OF Heaven. ana oraers
will be sent out to the usher angels saying;
"Take this Abigail rightup to the softest seat;
in the best room Of the palace, and let twenty
of the brightest angels wait on her for the
next thousand years"
Further, charge you let there be no out
side interference with the conJugal relatlon.
Neither neighbor, nor rcontidentlalfr frlend, nor
brother. nor sister, nor father, nor motner
have right to come in here. The married
gossip will come around and by the hour tell
YOU how she manages her husband. You
tell her plainly that if she will attend to the
affairs of her household you will attend to
yours What damage some people DO with
their tongue! Nature indicates that the
tongue is dangerous thing by the fact that
it is shut in, first by a barricade of teeth and
then by the door of the lips: One insidious
stirred up. The apostle Peter excoriated
these busy bodies in other peoples matters,
and st. Paul, in his letter to the Thessa-
| lonians and to Timothy, gives them sharp
dig, and the good housewife will be on the
oo!,n',t for them nn1 nnre' return their COILS
! Ia I'd treat them with coolest frigidity. For
ms reason uerter Eeep house as soon as pos IL
BILE. Some PEOPLE are opposed to them,
but I thank God for what are
called flats in these cities. They put a
separate home within the means of nearly all
! the population. In your married relations
! you do not need any advice. If you and
your husband have not skill enough to get
along we'll alone, with all the alvi ce you can
import you will get along worse. What you
want for your craft on this voyage is plenty
of sea room.
I charge you also make yourself the intel
| ligent companion of your husband. What
with these floods Of newspapers and books
there is no excuse for the wifes ignorance
! either about the present or the past II you
have no more than half hour every day to
yourself you may fill your mind with enter
tanning and useful knowledge Let the mer-
| chants wife read up on all mercantile
! questions and mechanics wife on all
that pertains to his style Of work,
and the professional mans wife on all the
legal or medical or theological or political
discussions of the day. 1t is very stupid for
a man, after having been amid active minds
all day, to find his wife without information
or opinions Oh anything. If the wife knows
nothing about what is going on in the world,
after the tea hour has passed or the husband
| has read the newspaper he will have an en-
gagement and must go and see a man. In
| nine cases out of ten when man does not
stay at home in the evening unless positive
| duty calls him away it is because there is
nothing to stay for He would rather talk
! with his wife than any one else If she could
| talk as well.
charge you, my sister, in every way
to make your home attractive. l have
not enough of practical knowledge
| about house adornment to know just what
makes the difference, but here is an opulent
| house containing all wealth of bric-a-brac,
and of musical instrument, and of painting,
and of upholstery, and yet there is in it a
chill like Nova Zembla Another house with
one-twentieth part of the outlay and small
supply of art and cheapest piano purchasable,
and yet as you enter it there comes upon
body, mind and soul glow Of welcome and
satisfied and happy domesticity. The holy
| art of making the most comfort and bright
ness out of the means afforded, every wife
should study.
At the siege of Argos Pyerhus was killed
by the tile of q roof thrown by woman, and
| Abimelech was slain by stone that a
and Earl Montfort was destroyed by
rock discharged at him by a
woman from the walls of Toulouse. But
without any weapon save that of her cold,
cherries household arrangements, any wife
may slay the attractions of a home circle.
! IA wife and mother in prospered circum-
| stances and greatly admired, was giving her
| chief time to social life. The husband spent
his evenings away. The son. fifteen years of
q
prospect that the other children, as they got
| old enough, would take the slme turn. One
! day the wife aroused to the consideration that
! she had better save her husban and her boy.
/ Interesting and stirring games were intro,
| ducei into the house. The mother studied
up interesting things to tell her clildren. One
! morning tho son said: "Father, you ought
to have been home last night. we
| had a grand time. Such jolly games and
such interesting stories" This went on from
| night to night, and after while the husband
! stayed in to see what was going on, and he
| finally got attracted and added something Of
| his own to the evening entertainment, and
| the result was that the wife and mother saved
! her husband and saved her boy and saved
! herself. Was not that an enterprise worth
tho attention Of the greatest woman that
| ever lived since Abigail at the foot of the
! rock, arrested the hundred armed warriors:
Do not, my sister, be dLzzied and disturbed
! by the talk of those who think the home cir
Gle too insignifi>ant for a woman's career,
and who want to get you out on plat
firms and in conspicuous enterprises.
! There are women who have spec
/, ial outside mission and do not dare to in
terpret me as derisive of their important mis-
| sion. But my opinion is that the woman who
can reinforce her husband in the work Of life
and rear her children for positions Of useful
ness is doing more for God and the race and
| her own happiness than if she spoke on every
! great platform and headed a hundred great
Enterprises My mother never made a mis-
sionary speech in her life and at missionary
meeting doubt whether she could have got
enough courage to vote aye or no, but she
raised her son John, who has been preaching
the gospel and translating religious literature
in Annoy, China, 1or about forty years. Was
not that better thing to do?
| (t0mnara Snch all one with one OF these die
away, attitudinizing, frivolous, married CO.
quettes of the modern drawing room, her
heaven an opera box on the night Of Meyer
beers Robert lie Diable," the ten command
ments an inconvenience, taking arsenic
| to improves her complexion and her appear
ance, confused result of belladonna, bleached
hair, antinony and mineral acids. until one IS
compelled to discuss her character and won,
der whether the line between decent and
indecent life is, like the equator, an imagi-
nary line.
What the world wants now is
about $4,000 old-fashioned mothers,
women who shall realize that the
! highest, grandest, mightiest institution
on earth IS the home. 1t is not necessary
that they should have the same old-time
manners of tbs country farm house or wear
the old-fashioned cap and spectacles and
apron tn It her gloritiei ancestry wore, but
mean the old spirit which began with the
Hannahs and the mother Lois and the Abb
| gals of scripture days and was demonstrated
| on the homestead where some of US were
reared, though the old house long ago was
! pulled down and its occupants scattered
| never to meet until in the higher home that
| awaits the families of the righteous. While
there are more good and faithful wives and
mothers now than there ever were, society
has got wrong twist on this
! subject and there are Influences