The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1886-02-18
How to Marry.

The following is Philadelphia ply
sician's advice to young man prospect
ing for wife:
When the adult age is reached-what?
As truly as every positive requires a mega
tive, every knife its fork and that oppo-
sites attract, so, too, with the "genus
homo" like birds they must mate, and it
is not good for man to be alone. The
great event of a mans life is to seek and
resure sweetheart and then have a we'd
ding day Now, to choose q proper
wife and companion is the puzzle Of
puzzles in every mans experience. Some
choose for beauty, others for accomplish
ments, and Establishments, some for wit
and manners, aud the average young man
for money and family, but after all love
supported by prudence and discretion,
other things being equal, should act as
the all.inspiring motive. Happiness fol.
lows love and wealth cannot buy happi.
ness, but happiness is an attribute beyond
purchase.
1t is safe for US to say nowadays far
too many mothers are culpable for en-.
couragiDg matrimopy when they know in
their heart of hearts that their daughters
are subject to organic disease; this is to
be severely deprecated and frowned down
upon wherever aud whenever seen. On
the other hand, the presumptive swain
who contemplates Hymen's knot and is
himself shattered wreck is nothing
short of q criminal.
Marriage is indeed a serious. question.
Next, the salt of common sense is an
important necessity. Since marriage
resolves into permanent covenant iusti-
tuted by God, to be broken only by
leach, and not like loose pair of shoes
that can be put on in the morning and
removed at night, it is an issue that
should occupy the mental, the moral, the
spiritual, the practical and the conse.
quential deduction Of all thinking peo.
pie to the soberest degree. The civil
law may separate but it cannot sever.
A divorce is blot on the page of his
tory and about it there is always a bad
smell. Any one who espouses the con-
iugal yoke with the prospect of divorce
ahead weds an ignis tatuus Hence a
man should choose his wife as did the
sainted Primrose of"Vicar of Wakefield"
memory, who choose his as she choose
her wedding grown, not for fine, glossy
surface. but for qualities that would
wear we'll. A woman is either the for
tune or bankruptcy of mans future.
All tailors cut the coat according to
the cloth, which suggests how young
folks should consider the circumstances
of each other. 1t is wrong for strug'
Cling young man, without money or in
iuence in the world, to we'd girl ofafllu-
ence and wealth. fnstered in the lap of
luxury by kind and loving parents, when
the same conditions cannot be extended
her in the future; but then it is wrong
for her to encourage such young man
unless she is willing to share Ills strug-
giles and misfortunes as an equal yoke.
fellow and companion. The word wife
means weaver. !. c., a wife along with
her husband the web of life.
There are too many young girls
brought up under the present regime of
society, so called, who, by indulgent
mothers become imbued with false no.
tions, aud filter their time IN learning
useless trihes, until their muscles atrophy
and leave them mere automatons to pose
for the entertainment of visitors like
over. dressed parlor dolls under a glass
case. They lace, powder, affect frivols,
study how to make conquests, etc; in
short, assume all the evils of prevailing
fashion. These creatures die young of
tight lacer's liver or ennui. Young men
beware
There is no object so fascinating as Il
pretty-faccd, intelligent woman, but then
a woman to commend herself as an
eligible candidate for matrimony should
be usefui as we'll as ornamental. a model
wife is an economist, bread saver,
while her husband is the bread winner.
A little domestic drudgery is homely
antidotc against disease and often makes
fine wife aud mother out of Il mere hot
house plant. advise n thorough
knowledge of kitchen economy (Dody's
Dcmesticity), for far too many girls now
adays enter marriage long before they
have even learned to spank papi er box.
Any one who follows this cour sci will