Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1886-02-22


leave IL all at the store or bank OF shop,
You might as well tell storm on the At
antic TO stay out there and not touch
the coast nor ripple the harbor. he"
member he Is not oyerworking so much
for himself as he Is overworklng Tor you
and the children. II Is the effect oil his
success or defeat on the homestead that
causes him the agitation. The most OF
men after forty-fye years OF age live not
for themselves but for their families.
They begin 70 ask themselves anxiously
the question: Chow II Ghonld give out,
what would become OF the folks at homer
Would my children ever get their educa-
tionT Would my wife have to 20 out
into the world TO earn bread for herself
and our little ones? My eyesight troubles
me, how II my eyes should failp My
head gets dizzy, how II I should drop IN.
der apoplexy?" The high pressure Of
business life and mechanicallife and ag-
| riculturaI life is home pressure.
Some time ago a large London firm
decided that II any OF their clerks mar
ried on salary less than
Gi50, that is $3.50 year, he
should be discharged, the supposition
being that the temptation might be too
great for incorporation. The large
majority OF families In America live by
utmost dint OF economy, and To be honest
and yet meet ones family expenses Is the
appalling question that turns the life Of
tens of thousands OF men into martyr
dom. Let the wife Of the oyerborne and
exhausted husband remember this, and
do not nag him about that, and say you
might as well have no husband, when the
fact IL he Is dying by inches that the home
may be kept up.
] charge also the wife to keep herself
as attractive after marriage MS before
marriage. The reason that so often a
man ceases TO love his wife is because
the wife ceases to be loyable. In many
cases what elaboration Of toilet before
marriage and what recklessness Of APP
pearance after The most disgusting
| thing on earth Is Il slatternly woman. !
mean a woman who never combs her
hair until she goes out. or looks like u
| fright until somebody calls. That a man
married to one Of these creatures stays
at home as little as possible is no wonder
IL is wonder that such man does not
20 on a whaling voyage of three years
| and In leaky ship. Costly wardrobes
are not required; but o, woman, II you
are not willing, by all that ingenuity and
refinement can effect, to make yourself
attractive TO your husband, you ought
not To complain II he seeSs in other so
ciety those pleasant surroundings which
| you deny him.
Again, charge you, never talk to
others about the frailties of your hus-
| band. Some people have way, in ban
ter, of deliberately describing to others
the shortcomings or unhappy eccentrici-
ties of a husband or wife. ALI the
world viii find out soon enough all the
defects of your companion. No need
of your advertising them Better imi-
tate those women who, having made
la mistake In alliance, always
have Il veil to hide imperlections and al
| leyiatlons OF conduct TO mention We
must admit that there are rare cases
where wife cannot live longer with her
husband, and his Cruelties and outrages
are the precursor OF enforcement or
separation. But until that day comes,
| keep the awful secret TO yourself Keep
1t from every being In the universe, ex-
cept the God to whom you do well to tell
your trouble. Trouble only few years
at most and then you can go up on the
other side Of the grave and say, 80 Lord,
kept the marital secret Thou knowest
how well kept 1t, and thank thee that
the release has come at last, Give me
some place where | can sit down and
rest awhile from the horrors of an en-
| bruted earthly alliance before begin the
full raptures of heaven" And orders
will be sent out to the usher angels say
ing; "Take this, Abigail, right up to the
softest seat in the best room of the pal
ace, and let twenty OF the brightest
angels wait on her for the next thousand
years"
Further; / charge you let there be no
outside interference with the conjugal re-
lation. Neither neighbor nor contlden-
tial friend, nor brother nor sister, nor
father nor mother have a right TO come
In here. The married gossip will come
around and by the hour tell you how she
manages her husband. You tell her
plainly that II she will attend TO the at.
fairs Of her household you will attend 10
yours. What damage some people do
with their tongues Nature indicates
that the tongue is dangerous thing by
the fact that 1t Is shut in, first by barrl-
cade Of teeth and then by the door of the
lips. One insidious tnlker can keep q
whole neighborhood badly stirred up.
The Apostle Peter eXcoriated these busy
bodies in other peoples matters, and st.
Paul in his letter to the Thessalonlans
and to Timothy gives them sharp dig, and
the good housewife Will be ON the lookout
for them and never return their calls and
treat them with coolest frigidity. For
this reason better keep house as soon as
possible. Some people are opposed to
them, but thank God for what are called
flats In these cities. They put up a sepa.
rate home within the means of nearly all
the population. In your married rela.
lions you do not need any advice. II
you and your husband have not skill
enough TO get along well atone, with all
the advice you can import you will get
along worse. What you want for your
craft on this voyage is plenty of sea
room.
! charge You also, make yourself the
! Intelligent companion OF your husband
| What with these floods of newspapers
and books there is no excuse for the wlfe's
| ignorance either about the present or the
past. II you have no more than hall
hour every day to yourself you may on
! tat. s,.l