The Brookhaven leader., 1886-02-18


in some families they never get along, and
in others they always get along well:
have watched such cases, and have come
to a conclusion. In the first instance, moth
ing seemed to so pleasantly, and after a
while came devastation, domestic disaster,
or estrangement. Why? They started
wrong. In the other case, although there
were hardships and trials, and some things
that had to be explained, still things went
on pleasant until the very last. Why:
They started right.
Ny advice to you in your home is to ex-
ercise to the very last possibility of your
nature the law Of forbearance. Prayers in
the household will not make up for
everything. Some of the best peo-
pie in the world are the hardest to get
along with. There are people who
stand up in prayer-meeting and pray
like angels, whom at home are uncompro :
missing and cranky. You may not have
everything just as you want it. Some
times it will be the duty of the huS-
band and sometimes of the wife to yield;
but both stand punctiliously on your
rights, and you will have Waterloo
with no Butcher coming up at nishtfall to
decide the conflict.
Never be ashamed TO apologize when
YOU have done wrong in domestic af-
fairs. Let that be a law of your house
hold. The best thing | ever heard ot
my grandfather, whom never saw, was
this: That once having unrighteously re.
buked one of his children, he himself hav-
ing lost his patience, and, perhaps, hav-
inc been misinformed of the child'S doing,
found out his mistake, and in the evening
of the same day gathered all his family
together and said: "Now ! have one eX-
PLANTATION to make, and one thlng 70 say.
Thomas, this morning | rehuked Won very
unfairly. | am very sorry for 1t. | re-
buked YOU in the presence of the whole
family, and now l ask your forgiveness
in their presence" 1t must have taken
some courage to do that. 1t vas right,
was il not? Never he ashamed to apollo
gize for domestic inaCCuracy. Find out
the points; what are the weak points,
if l may call them so, of your companion,
and then stand aloof from them. Do not
carry the fire of Your temper too near
the gunpowder. If the wife be easily
fretted by disorder in the household,
let the husband be careful where he
throws the slippers. II the husband comes
home from the store with his patience all
exhausted, do not let the wife unneces-
sarily cross his temper; but both stand up
for Y our rights, and | will promise the ev-
erlasting sound of the warwhoop. Your
life will be spent in making up, and mar
riage will be to you an unmitigated curse.
Cowper said.
The kindest and the happicst pair
VIII find occasion t. forbcar,
And something, every day they live,
To pity, and perhaps forgive
advise also, that YOU make your chief
pleasure circle around bout that home. It
is unfortunate when it is otherwise. # the
husband spend the most of his nights away
from home, of choice. and not of necessity
he is not the head of the household; he is
only the cashier. II the wife throw the
cares OF the household in the servants
lap. and then spends five nights of the week
at the opera OF theater, She may clothe her
children with satins and laces and ribbons
that would confound French milliner
but they are orphans. On, it is sad when
a child has no one to say is PRAYERS to-
because mother has gone of 10 the evening
entertainment. In India they brine chill
dren and throw them to the crOcodiles and
it seems very cruel; but the jaws of New
York and Brooklyn dissipation ar swal,
lowing down more little children to-day
than all the monsters that eve" crawled
upon the banks of the Gauges
- ~.
er on the death of child she had neglect
ed. 1t was not so much grief that she fell
from the fact that the child was dead a
the fact that she had neglected it. She said
III had only watched over and cared fol
the child, | know God would not hay,
taken it," The tears came not; it was
dry, blstering tempeSt-a scorching simeon
of the desert. When she wruug her hand!
it seemed as if she would twist her finger!
from their sockets; when she seized hel
heir 1t seemed as if she had, in Wild terror
gIasped coiling serpent with her RICH
hand. No tears! Comrades of the liltlC
one csme in and wept over the coffin
neighbors came in, and the moment they
saw the still face of the child the shower
broke. No tears for her. God gives tears
as the summer rain TO the Ua"cbed soul
but in all the universe the driest and hot,
test, the most scorching and consuming
thing is mothers heart il she has neg.
leCted her child, when once it is dead. God
may forgive her, but she will never forgive
herself. The memory will sink the eyes
deeper into the sockets, and pinch the face
and whiten the hair, and eat up the heart
with vultures that win not be satisfied
forever plunging deeper their iron beaks
0, you wanderers from your home. &c
back to your duty The brightest flowers
in all the earth are those which grow il
the garden of Christian household clam.
bering over the porch of a Christian home
l advise you also to cultivate sympathy
of occupation. Sir Sames Macintosh, ore
of the most eminent and elegant men that
ever lived, while standing on the very
height of his eminence, said to a %res
company of scholars, "My wife made me.'
The wife ought to he the advising partner il
every firm. She ought to be interested il
all the losses and gains Of shop and store
She ought to have a right-she has a RICH
to know everything. If a man goes into
a business transaction that he dare not tel
his W ife, you may depend that be is or
the way either to bankruptcy or mora
ruin. There may be some things which ht
does not wish to trouble his wife with but
if he dare not tell her, he is on the road tc
discontinue. On the other hand the hus,
band ought to be sympathetic with the
wife's occupation. 1t is no easy thing t.
keep house. Many a woman that could
have endured martyrdom as well as Mar
garet, the Scotch girl, has actually been
worn out by house infringement. There