The Monitor. [volume] (Woodstown, N.J.) 1884-1892, 1886-01-08
THE ROCK OF SIIIPwRECR On wHfCIs
MANY MARRIAGES SPIEY.


many MARRIAGES SPLIT.
The popular idea has long prevailed that
the first year of married life is apt to be the
most beset with rocks and shoals, and that
couples who get through this probation sue
cessfully are pretty sure to cleave to one
another for the rest Of the journey Alas,
| how futile a priori theories are, how apt to
come TO grief when they run bolt against
statistics So far from the tabulated col
nmns OF domestic inielicities. showing that
| the FIST year Of married life is ever the
squally season, they prove overwhelmingly
| that only about the tenth year does the
regular line storm come, aud the shore
gets strewn with martial wrecks Surely
a little reflection ought to lave convinced
any thoughtful man of the probability of
this, without resort 10 statistics An at
tractive young woman can get into pet
good many times and still retain charm
enough to seem adorable A handsome
fellow Of husband, too, can long remain
JOY, pride and triumph to a young wife's
heart, even though many an exhibition of
lack of dignity or chivalrous devotion.
Tie tug of war comes when the couple
have become thoroughly used to one an
other, and seemingly offer no new spices of
variety: when each can monotonously
predict of the other, with all the accuracy
of an astronomer calculating a comet OF an
eclipse, just what he or She will eternally
think, say or do. Now, it is all well
enough for eclipses or comets to come to
time. 1t is rs much their nature to as that
of dogs to delight to bark and bite. Nav
igators and almanac makers would be put
out if they did not, and city clocks would
be of no more nse than boys pewter toy
watches. But Of all the aggravations Of
life, few are So exasperating as the man or
woman who can always be relied on to
come to time with the same old story,
Ali! if, by way of change it were only for
once acute collie instead of chronic head
ache
And Just here comes in the real rock OF
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split. Nature abhors monotony, nature
cries out for variety, and will have if by
hook or crook by fair means or by foul.
Even if people must have tantrums, they can
at least indulge i'll variety Of tantrums, SO
that you can never be sure beforehand which
species will crop out Then there is At
least something fresh and piquant to be on
the look out for. Naturally and nationally
a man who has married one woman of 90
wants to marry another Of 40. and another
of 80, and to live happily with each Not
that any Mormon doctrine is advocated
here The wife may be the same identical
woman every time, only with good deal
of addition TO her at each decade. Indeed,
the only monogamy that it is utterly intol-
cradle is that in which the husband or wife
think to he married for life on the
strength of the sole physical, mental and
moral capital that originally stood up in
the bridegroom's patent feathers n the
brides satin slippers at the wedding ccrc-
mony
lbiN3dlhA Will one Nlit- tHSti, - All III
stitution that has its legitimate claims,
Every man in mature years ought to be
able to look back upon beautiful series Of
welded unions. first with = blooming light
hearted Young creature, taking life on
trust. then with an earnest, devoted moth
err then with sorrowing. heaven aspiring
being. who has stood with him at the
graves Of children then with strong sus-
tanning helpmate whose higher courage sup
ported him when the day of reverses came.
1t is because such numbers Of men and
women do not grow larger and richer.
and SO meet one another rs fresh, new
| gifts of heaven that life's various vicissi-
tudes open up stale, flat and unproftable
| to one another This explains the mean
ing of the line storm that, as statistics
show prevails SO diSastrouslY about the
tenth year of married life. when the
monotony of living with a husband who is
the same old story lie was At the start or
wife who is the same long worn out
grind organ tune without variation,
grows utterly intolerable, and the two
asundcr for a breath Of rehabilitation
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