The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1886-02-19

| Of the first part and the party Of the Sec
ond part really bound themselves to do.
Different ministers Of religion have their
own peculiar forms Of marriage ceremony,
but il you have forgotten what you prom
Used at the altar of wedlock, You had bet
ter buy or borrow an Episcopal prayer
book. which contains the substance of all
intelligent marriage ceremonies when 1t
says:
Itake thee to be my welded wife. to have
and to hold from this day forward. for bet
| ter or for worse, for richer or for poorer, In
sickness and In health, to love and to cher
ish till death us do part. according to Gods
| holy ordinance, and thereto I pledge thee
| my troth.
Would it not be a good idea to have that
| printed in tract form and widely distrib-
uted.
The fact is that many men are more kind
to everybody else's wives than to their
own wives. They will let the wife carry a
heavy coal-scuttle upstairs. and will at
one bound clear the width of parlor to
pick up some other lady's pocket handker
chief. There is an evil which 1 have seen
under the sun, and it is common among
men. namely, husbands in filtration. The
| attention they ought to put upon their own
| wives they bes.ow upon others They
smile on them cOyly and askance and with
| a manner that seems to say: 81 wish was
| free from that old drudge at home. What
| an improvement you would be on my pres
emit surroundings" And bouquets are
sent, and accidental meetings take place,
| and late at night the man comes TO his pro-
sale home whistling and hilarious, and
wonders that the wife is jealous. There
are thousands of men who, while not posi-
lively immoral, need radical correction of
their habits in this direction. 1t is mean
ness Unreasonable for man by his be-
havior to seem to say to his wife: "You
can't help yourself. and will go where I
please, and admire whom l please, and I
defy your criticism"
Why did you not have that put in the
bond. Oh, domestic Shylock: Why did you
not have it understood before You were
pronounced husband and wife, that she
should have only part of the dividend of
your affections, that when. as time rolled
on and the cares of life had erased some of
the bright lines from her face, and given
unwieldiness to her form. you would have
the reserved right to pay obeisance to
cheeks more rubicund and figure 1.-THE and
more agile, and as you demanded the last
pound Of patience and endurance on
her part. YOU could. with the
emphasis of an Edwin Forrest or q
Macready. have tapped the eccentric quar-
riage document and have said: cts in
the bcnd!" Ii this modern Rebekah had
understood beforehand where she was
al, H..
camel drivers to turn the caravan back
ward toward Padan- aram. Filtration has
its origin either in dishonesty or licentious-
ness. The married man who INDUCES in
it is either fraud or rake. However
high up in society such one may be. and
however sought after, would not give a
three-cent piece. though it had been three
times clipped. for the virtue of either the
masculine or feminine fiirt.
The most worthy thing for the thousands
of married men is to 90 home and apollo
gizs for past neglects. and brighten up
their old love. Take up the family Bible
and read the record of the marriage day.
Open the drawer of relics in the box
inside the drawer containing the trfnk-
cts of your dead chhd. Take up the
pack of yellow covered letters that were
written before You became one. Rehearse
the scenes of joy and sorrow in which you
have mingled. Put all these things as fuel
on the altar. and by coal OF sacred fire
rekindle the extnguished light. 1t was a
blast from hell that blew it out. and a gale
from Heaven will fan it into blaze.
1t pleases me- greatly to hear the |
unconverted and worldly husband say |
about his wife, with no idea that |
it wiz get to her ears: "There is the most |
godlv woman alive. Her goodness is per-
petual rebuke to my waywardness. Moth |
ing on earth could ever induce her to do a |
wrong thing. hope the children will take |
after her instead of after me. If there is |
any Heaven at all, am sure she will go |
there"
Ave. my brother. do you not think it !
would be a wise and safe thing for you to
join her on the road to heaven? |
You think you have happy home
now, but what home you would
have il you both were religious! What a
new sacredness it would give to your mar
ital relation, and what new light it would
throw on the forehead Of your children. In
sickness, what a comfort! In reverses OF
fortune. what wealth! In death, what a
triumph! God meant You to be the high
prizes. OF your household. Go home to-day
and take the Bible on your lap, and gather
all Nour family vet living around you. and
those not living will hear of it in flash,
and as ministering spirits will hover
father and mother and children gone. and
all your celestial kindred. Then kneel
down. and if YOU can't think of a prayer to
offer. will give you PRAYER, namely:
Lord God, I surrender to thee myself
and my beloved wife. and these dear chill
dren. For Christ's sake forgivs US all the
past and help US for all the future. We
have lived together here: may we live to-
gether forever. Amen and amen!r Dear
me: what stir it would make among your
best friends on earth and il heaven,
Joseph H.. the Emperor. was so kind
and so philanthropic that he excited the
unbounded love of most of his subjects.
He abolished serfdom. established tolera-
ton and lived in the happiness of his peo-
pie. One day while on his way to Ostend
to declare it free port. and while at the
head OF q great procession, he saw a wom-
an at the door OF her cottage in detection.
The Emperor dismounted and asked the
cause Of her grief. She said that her hus-
band had gone to Ostend to see the En-
peror and had declined to take her with
him, for, as he was an alien, he could not
her loyal enthusiasm, and that
it was the one great desire OF her life to
see the ruler for whose kindness and good
ness and greatness she had an unspeak-
able admiration: and her disappointment
in not being able to go and see him was
simply unbearable. The Emperor Joseph