The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1886-02-17

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am very sorry for it, and as | rebuked you
in the presence of the whole family circle,
now ask your forgiveness in the presence of
all OF them" Could you do that? Not many
of You. There are required grace and cour-
age of very large kind and Of the very best
kind. Yet 1t was right. We all see it was
! right. Find out what are the points, and if I
, companion, and then do not carry
the fire Of your temper too near the gunpow-
der. If the wife be easily fretted by disorder
; in the household, let the husband be careful
where he throws his slippers. If the husband
comes home from business Or from work all
worn out, body, mind and soul, do not let the
wife cross his temper William Casper put it
very pleasantly and very beautifully when he
said
"The kindest and the hapriest pair
Will find occasion to forbear,>
And something every day they live
TO pity and perhaps forgive"
I charge You also, my friends, that you
make your chief pleasures circle around
the home. It is q very bad sign when
man likes any place on earth
better than his own home. 1t is very bad
sign when a woman likes any place on earth
better than her own home. If man spends
the most of his evenings away by choice and
not by necessity, he is not the head of tho
household; he is it's cashier. If a woman put
the cares OF the children, the cares of tho
household in the lap of servants, and then go
Off and spend five nights of the week at the
opera or the theatre, though she may
clothe those children with satins and silks,
and ribbons until it is enough to confounu
French milliner, they are orphans 1t is
anyone by whom they can kneel down and
say their prayers because the mother is off at
the opera or the theatre. That IS occurring
many nights. I saw a mother in grief at the
death Of child that she had neglected 1t
was not so much that the child was dead as
that she had neglected it, She said: "Oh, If |
had only watched and cared for that child
were no tears. 1t was a dry, hot tempest
of sorrow, a scorching sirocco of the desert.
When she wrung her hands it seemed as If she
would twist the fingers from the sockets.
When she seized her hair it seemed as If she
took the coils Of serpent in her grasp But
no tears. The comrades of the little one came
in and wept on the coffin. The neighbors
came in and at the first sight of the still face
the shower broke. But no tears for her. GOD
gives tears as the summer rain upon the
parched heart. But the hardest, driest, most
blasted and most consumed thing on earth is
a mothers heart when her child is dead and
she has neglected it. God may forgive her.
She will never forgive herself Her memory
will sink the eyes deeper into the sockets and
pinch the face and, whiten the
hair and i'd. eat up tn the esds heart r5,nS;an with
deeper and deeper their iron beaks. All,
woman neglectful Of your home, go back to
your duty. I tell you this day, that the
sweetest flowers that grow on earth are in the
gardens of the domestic circle or chamber
over the porch Of Christian home. Have
any of us ESCAPED from such influences OF
kindness and love and mercy in the early
home? What has been the influence that has
kept you and has kept ME many times from
going astray? All! was it not Christian
memory3 Was it not father and mother on
their knees before God in family prayerf
Next to the strong arm Of the Lord God Al
mighty in my life has been my mothers arm
to keep me from passing off into sin and
keep me in paths Of rectitude and peace. Oh,
we never get away from those influences,
and it is not good thing for me to say. this
homes here represented-b your children
to God, yourselves first going to Him, and
consecrate everything about your household
to the Lord who made you and the Lord who
redeemed you'll
charge you, also, to cultivate sympathy
of occupation. Sir James Mcintosh, one OF
the most eminent and elegent men that ever
lived, while at the height Of his prosperity
and fame, standing amid group of philoso-
made me-" And how much some of us hare
been helped and strengthened in the home
circle God knows and you know. The wife
ought to be the advising partner in every
enterprise. She ought to know, she has
right to know everything. Your interests,
your defeats, your victories, your successes,
your losses, your Pangs-they are hers grE
her everything. If a man is going
into business enterprise and he dare not tell
his wife, he is either on his way to bank
| ruptcy or moral ruin. There may be things
that he does not want to trouble his wife with,
but if he dare not tell her he is on the way to
discontinue. Men often say: "Oh, if had
only taken my wifes advice" She came by
a flash OF intuition, to see what was best
| You went by roundabout way of evil expe-
rience to find out what would have been tho
best, and blessed is that man who does not at
| the close of such experience say: 81 told you
so!' Then let the husband be sympathetic
| with the occupation Of the wife. 1t is a
! hard thing to keep house. There are thou
! sands Of martyrs of the kitchen. What an
annoying thing, whas trying thing ii is for
man to come home at night, not knowing
what the wife has suffered in the parlor, in
the kitchen, in the nursery, in the drawing
| room and have her state something that oc-
Cured during the day that has annoyed her
very much, and have him say: "Oh, you
don't know anything about trouble; you
ought to be over in the store half an hour!'
Sympathy Of occupation. If the husbands
work covers him with SCOT of furnaces, or the
odors of leather or the soap factory,
do not let the wife be too easily disguised by
the grimy hands or unsavory exhalements.
Lay hold the work Of life together, oh, man,
OH woman. Four arms to fight the battle Of
life, four eyes to see the danger, four should
painter when his wife does not like pictures.
1t is a sad thing for q. pianiste when her hus-
band does not Ike music. 1t is q sad thing
when the wife thinks her husband has not a
genteel business. A genteel business, as near
as I can understand, is something to which a
man goes at 10 o'clock in the morning and
comes home from at 2 o'clock in the
afternoon, and getsa large amount Of salary
for doing nothing That's genteel bust
ness, and there has been many woman ruined
by wanting tc, get her husband into some
genteel business, turning his back on the
/ tanning of tho hides, or the building of the
somewhere where be could do nothing but
smoke the best cigars OF drink the best wines,
or get habits on him which ruined him,
taking his wife and children down with him
in the same naelstrom If your husband
has an honest busin ass be satisfied with it.
From earth to destruction there are long trains
running all the time--trains that start every
hour of the day and every hour of the night
running from earth to destruction. There
are the freight trains and they 60 very slow
ly and they are very heavily laden. There
are the accommodation trains and they stop
ever and anon to let g man get off when he
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