Seattle daily post-intelligencer. [volume] (Seattle, W.T. [Wash.]) 1881-1888, 1886-02-26
AsorT wkDLoCK AND wKpsNc
RINGS.
Friend H, Why have you
never married -

Friend H, Why have you
never married -
l. he prompt answer was:
l. cannot afford to. Ihe girls in
my stratum Of society nowadays are
not satisfied without diamonds, seal
skin and opera tickets. and my small
income can't afford that"
30, a warm hearted man travels
the life journey alone, when for bis
owd sake aud for some good won
ans sake he ought 10 be mated.
What H said, half in sport,
has q serious side 10 IT, There is no
doubt that hundreds OF young men
deny themselves q wife (and too often
drift into licentious alliances, because
they cannot support wife who has
extravagant notions Of living. All
the worse for both seXes! Celibscy
Is often as hazardous TO the woman
as to the man. God ordained mar
rage, because He knew that "it is
not good for either sex ito live
alone"
|, Every young woman is not "clean
CA hbr sdOlt1N Vi tA5u Nv
ing there are as sensible girls lett
in this world As there were when
Solomon wrote the 31st chapter of
the Book OF Proverbs A friend OF
mine. who had just learned his trade,
said 10 the young lady whom he
loved
"You are having offers from young
men in handsome circumstances. Ii
you marry me | can promise you, for
while, nothing better than an
upper story of q boardinehouse."
She admired bis frsnkness, and
had sense enough 10 know that the
genuine love of pure and noble
young man was greater prize than
parior carpeted with Wilton and
wardrobe flied with satin and point
lace. She married him, and he
fought his way up TO become . pros
porous head of a firm in Broadway.
II she had sold her maiden heart for
money. she would have cheated her
self d1plorably. There is but one
single. valid motive for wedlock, and
that is pure, old.fashioned love--s
love strong enough to stand any
strain and 70 bear every pressure.
The social malaria of these times
is false idea of mstrimony the
consequent curse OF the day is easy
divorce. Every strand that is cut in
the sacred bond Of wedlock loosens
the fabric of both society and the
Church. Every divorce breeds
practical polygsmy as abominasle as
any in Utah. Occasionally divorces
are justified by the criminal conduct
of one party toward deceived and
long-suffering innocence. "Incom-
pstibiliiy" is no more a valid ground
for divorce than bad digestion or
broken limb. l have watched the
after history OF the hundreds whom
| married, and have usually found
that the misfits were the result Of
hss.y or thoughtless engagements
sometimes in defiance Of parental
wisdom and wishes.
When young people go into an en-
gsgement for life as carelessly as they
go to picnic, they must expect TO pay
for their folly with bitter experience.
With thousands marriage engage
msnt is a matter Of boyish or girlish
caprice. Sometimes wife Is sought
for gross qualification of sensual
appetite sometimes as a shrewd pc
cuniary speculation sometimes to
secure support for shiftless laziness
from a father-in law. Such viola
tions of the sacred core idea of we'd
lock often end In the divorce courts
or 10 some other form Of permanent
separation. IL wise marriages are
made in heaven" then the hasty,
loose, selfish or libidinous sort are
the hsnd-work of the devil. would
like to whisper in every young lady's
esr-never be Ito be had" too
chesply never say yes too hasti-
ly; never accept any man who can
not offer you love without q rival
and q character without Q stain.
Common sense. industrious habits,
warm heart and the Bible con-
science are first requisites. When g
young man can lay these at your
feet, be careful how you say mo "
TO him you may be sorry for 1t. and
by-and.hy take up with sorry stick
from o silly fear of being laughed at
as an "old maid" But the easier
the divorce process is made. the more
numerous will be the hasty, reckless
and ill-assorted marriages.
Probably there never VAS marital
union that did not involve single
particle of friction, and simply be.
cause no man is demi-god and no
woman q stainless angel but even
the few and inevitable frictlons will
not wear on the "rivets IL they are
kept well oiled with unselfish love.
When true hearts are welded In the
Lord, and welded for heaven, they
Can bear an occasional disagreement
CT taste or judgment, or q few dis
appointments, and no, love esch
other one whit the less. What cuts
q wedding ring through the soonest
Ia xvfllful uaulscf