St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-01-18
Dr.. Talmage Gives Young Women Prepar-
ing for Marriage Some Very
Timely Advice,
Putting in a Good Word for the Young
Men Already Welded to Morality
and Christianity.
Mr. Beecher Discourses Upon the
Soul Life as Distinguished From
the Bodily Life.
The Spiritual Light and Life of the
World Bred and Developed
by God.
DIR. TaImage,s Sermon.
Special to the Globe.

mage's sermon this morning was on The
Choice Of a Husband, taking as his text
Ruth, i, 9: The Lord grant you that We
may find rest. each of you in the house of
her husband" He said: l applaud the
celibacy of a multitude of women, who.
rather than make unfit selection, have made
none at all. 1t has not been a lack
or opportunity for marital con-
tract on their part. but their own
culture and refinement and their exal ted
idea as TO what husband ought to be, have
caused their declinature. They have seen
50 many women marry imbeciles or ruffians.
or incipient sots. or life time incapableS, or
magnificent nOthingS, or men who before
marriage were angelic and afterward dia-
bOlic, that they have been alarmed and
stood back. They saw so many boats 90
into the maelstrOm that they steered into
other waters. Better for a woman To live
alone, though she live a thousand years,
than to be annexed to one of these mascu-
line failures with which society is surfeited
The patron saint of almost every family
circle is some such unmarried woman, and
among all the families of cousins she moves
around, and her coming in each house is
the morning. and her going is the night.
Deliberate before you rush out of the single
state into another, unless you are sure OF
betterment. Deliberate and pray. Pray
and deliberate. AS l showed you in my
former sermon, a man ought to supplicate
DIVINE GUIDANCE
in such crisis; how much more important
that you solicit il! 1t is easier for a man TO
ind an appropriate wife than for a woman
to find good husband. This is a matter
of arithmetic, as / showed in a former dis
course. Statistics show that in Massa-
chuSetts and New York states women have
a majority of hundreds of thousands. Why
this is, we leave Others 10 suTmise. 1t
would seem that woman is fayOrite with
the Lord. and that therefore he has made
more of that kind From the order of the
creation in Paradise, it is evident that
woman Is an improved edition of man.
But whatever be the reason for it, the fact
is certain that she who selects husband
has a smaller number of people 10 select
from than he who selects a wife, There
fore woman ought to be especially careful
in her choice of lifetime cOmpaniOnship.
She can not afford To- make a mistake. If a
man err in his selection. he can spend his
evenings at the club and dull his sensibil-
ities by tobacco smoke, but woman has no
club-rOOm for refuge. and would find il
difficult to habituate herself 10 cigars. If
woman make bad job of marital selection,
the probability is that nothing but funeral
can relieve it. Divorce cases in court may
interest the public, but the love letters of
married couple are poor reading except for
those who write them. Pray God that you
be delivered from irreyOcable mistakel
Avoid
APPLIANCE WITH A DESPISER
of the Christian religion, whatever else he
may or may not have. i do not say he
mn ~ no ha q rali for nrNl
says the unbelieving husband is sanctified
by the wife; but marriage with a man who
hates the Christian religion will insure you
life of wretchedneSs. He will caricature
your habit of kneeling i'm prayer. He will
speak depreciatingly of Christ. He will
wound all the most sacred feelings of your
soul. He will put your home under the
anathema of the Lord God Almighty. In
addition TO the anguish with which he will
fill your life, there is great danger that he
will despoil your hope of heaven. and make
your marriage relation an infinite and
eternal disaster. If you have made such
engagement, your first duty is to break il.
My word may come just in time TO save
Your soul. Further, do not unite in mar
riage with a man of bad habits in the idea
of reforming him. Ii now, under the re-
straint of your present acquaintance, he
has won the prize you cannot expect him
TO do SO. You might as well plant
a violet in the face of
northeast storm, with the idea OF appeasing
it. You might as we'll run a schooner along
side of burning ship with the idea of saw
ing the ship. The consequence will be
schooner and ship will be destroyed to-
gether. The almshOuSe could tell the story
of a bundled women who married men TO
reform them. If by % years of age a man
has been
GRAPPLED BY INTOXICANTS,
he is under such headway that your at
tempt to stop him would be very much like
running up the track with a wheelbarrow
to stop a Hudson River express train.
What you call an inebriate nowadays is
not a victim to wine or whisky, but to log
wood and stryehnine and nux vomiea. All
these poisOns have kindled their fires in his
tongue and brain. and all the tears of wife
weeping cannot extinguish the flames. In
stead of marrying a man TO reform him. let
him reform first and then give him time to
see whether the reform is to be permanent.
Let him understand that if he cannot do
without his bad habits for two years he
must do without you forever. Avoid all
proposed alliances through newspaper ad-
vertisements. Many women, Just for fun,
have answered such advertisements.
and have been led on from
step to step to catastrophe infinite. All
men who write such advertisements are viii
lains and lepers-all, without single ex-
ceptiOn. ALL All! Do you answer them
just for fun? will tell you safer and
healthier fun. Thrust your hand through
the cage at a menagerie, and stroke the
back of cobra from the East Indies. Put
your head in the mouth of Numidian lion
to see if he will bite. Take a glassful of
paris green mixed with some delightful hem
bane. These are safer and healthier fun
than answering newspaper advertisements
for wife. My advice is, marry a man
who is
4 FORTUNE IN HIMSELF.
Houses, lands and large inheritance are
well enough. but the wheel of fortune turns
so rapidly that through some investment all
these in few years may be gone. There
are some things, however, that are per-
petual fortune-gOOd manners, geniality of
soul, kindness, intelligence, sympathy,
courage, perseverance, industry and whole
heartedness. Marry such one and you
have married a fortune whether he have an
income of $4,000 year or an income of
$500. 4 bank is secure according to its
capital stock, and not to be judged by the
deposits for day or a week. A man is
rich according to his sterling qualities. and
not according to the vacillation of circum-
stances, which may leave him with large
amount of resources to-day and withdraw
them tomorrow. II a man is worth moth
ing but money he is poor indeed. Ii man
have upright character he is rich. Prop
erty may come and 90. he is independent of
the markets. Nothing can buy him out.
nothiuO pan sell him 0ut He may have
more money one year than another, but his
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