The Southern herald., 1886-05-22
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Firmnesu end consideration go car.
dlnal principles IA diaaIplinlng chill
dren. Fifmness Is neeessaly = the
earliest ags. In Al tho care and man.
arement II child much thought
should Be exaFciaed AZ ! very early
age j child win take advantage o .
weak mother. At tho same time Il s
not strength 70 make 4 set q rules and
compel children TO obey them as'lf All
children we're made alike; but waseh
achiId closely, ina out what arc is
natural tendencies, and adapt % them
the few rules necessary 20 thaif needs.
II Il = natural for child - vAat is
food II certsln intervals then feed Il
regularly according % is Natural de-
mands; end % on through the various
things ID which child must " trained:
BY careful observation mother can
soon learn schild1s necessities and
make It's life regular without friction.
The secret Of good discipline lies IN
adaptation Of forces to the nature of
the child. Consideration 81 peculiar
tiles must be made even in very young
children. Seldom two children can be
governed in tho Same way; and Ills i
duty Of parents 70 study their individ-
ualities, otherwise there Is no disci
pline, but the caro- given aggravates
evil tendencies ii them. There can be
no doubt that much Of the naughti-
ness il children Il uninlentionally
taught, or developed m them. When
grown people are 50 far from perfect,
It seems unfair that every apparent
fault Of the child should be made 30
much Of; and many times what seems
wrong IN q child Is only a natural set
under the exciting conditions, and II
we take time TO examine the matter we
shall be more just. injustice and
weakness in parents make sad havoc
with children's characters There is
strong latent force in children which
we must strive 10 control; we can not
change its nature, but BY strength and
patience and thoughtfulness We may
guide It. '5
Oyer-discipline il as harmful as the
lack Of discipline. II may be worse,
for If child is let alone, there Is .
chance for natural development
for good; but II child i con-
tinually prodded with rules and direo.
tions, it may grow rebelli6us, It's
obstinacy is aroused and It's finer feel
ings are blunted. Many a time BY for
bidding we create d desire; as we invite
falsehood by prohibiting something
that the child viii do thoughtIessly,
and can only refrain from doing 81
constant self-cOntrol; and often tho
thing forbidden is Of little consequence
compared with the train of evils i
prohibition introduces. When the
child has disobeyed it IS punished; tho
next time II disobeys it naturally tells
afalsehood to avoid punishment Chill
dren are morally and physically COW
ards, and the greatest care i necessary
to prevent this wealtness from hecom.
ing large element in their character
A thoughtless, wrong actis not 50 bad
as willful disobedience. We may give
child many opportunities to do wrong
in this thoughtless way Il does not
follow that because d another slipsoyer
many Of the small misdemeanors In a
child's life that she is without law OF
order. The strength Of her influence Is
needed for The more important 6cca-
sions. Let child revolve i its own
orbit; when 1t Is out 81 order replace
it with as little disturbance a. possible.
1t win live its own life in spite OF every
thing, and il u the duty of parents 10
see that the conditions surrounding it
are conducive to healthy and pure
growth, and that the faulty traits II has
undoubtedly inherited Be sradicated By
every means possible. Uoea Hoass-
keeping.