Wessington Springs herald. (Wessington Springs, Aurora County, Dakota [S.D.]) 1883-1891, 1886-03-19

lux WISH damages that comas
from the herding of so many people into
boarding-houses and family hotels Is IN
nicted upon children. 1t is only ana, ,er
way of bringing them up on the commons
While you have your own private hons .
you can, for the most part, control tha;r
companionship and their Whereabouts
but by twelve years of age, in these mn
lie resorts, they will have picked up ali the
bad things that can be furnished by the
prur'ent minds of dozens of people. Tbev
Will overnear blasphemies and see mar.
rels, and get precocious in sin, and what
the bartender does not tell them. tho
porter or hostler or bell boy will, Resides
that, the children will 90 out into tb;s
~oria without the restraining anchoring,
steadying and all controlling memory Of
a home. From chat some of US who have
been blessed of such memory have escaped.
IL grips a man for eighty years, if he lives
SO long. 1t pulls him back from doors into
which he otherwise would enter. 1t smites
him with contrition in the very midst Of
his designations.
Ii it be possible, o father and mother.
let your sons and daughters go out into
the world under the semi omnipotent
memory of a good, pure home. About
your two or three rooms in a boarding.
house or a family hotel you can cast no
such glorious sanctity. They will think
of these public ~caravansaries as an early
stopping place, %malodorous with old vict.
uals, coffees perpetually steaming, and
meats in everlasting stew or broil, the
air surcharged with carbonic acid, and
cOrri6OrS a1cn~ 1rh;ph lr,o1o. I...l-.
come staggering at one O'Clock in the
morning, rapping at the door till the af-
frighted wife let's them in. Do not be
guilty of the sacrilege or blasphenly of
calling such a place a home.
A home is four walls inclosing one fam.
lily with identity of interest, and a
privacy from outside inspection so COM
plete tha\it is a world in itself, no one en-
tering except by permission: bolted and
barred and chained against all outside in.
l. quisitiveness.
The phrase so often used in law books
and legal circles is nightly suggestive
every mans house is his castle-as much
so as though it had drawbridge, portcullis,
redoubt, bastion, and armed turret. Even
the officer of the law may not enter to
serve a writ except the door be voluntarily
opened unto him; burglary, or the in
vasion of it, a crime so offensive that the
law clashes its iron jaws on any one who
attempts it.
Unless it be necessary to stay for longer
or shorter time in family hotel or board
ing house-and there are thousands of in
stances in which it is necessary, as l
showed o at the beginning-unless in
this exceptional case, let neither husband
nor wife consent to such permanent resi-
dence.
The probability is that the wife will have
to divide her husbands time with public
smoking or reading room, or with some
coquettish spider in search Of unwary flies,
and if you do not entirely lose you hus-
band it will be because he is divinely pro-
tected from the disasters that have
whelmed thousands of husbands with as
good intentions as yours.
Neither should the husband, without i'm
perative reason, consent to such a life UNI
less he is sure his wife can withstand the
temptation Of social dissipation, which
sweeps across such places with the force of
the atlantic Ocean when driven by a Sep
TENDER equinox. Many wives give up
their homes for these public residences, so
that they may give their entire time to
operas, theaters, balls, receptions and
levees, and they are in a perpetual whirl,
like q whip-top spinning round and round
and round, very prettily, until it loses its
equipoise and shoots off into a tangent.
But the difference is, in one case it is a top
and in the other a soul.
Do,;l,, All, %l,o,,o =. ~
mutation OF little things around the private
home which in the aggregate make a great
attraction, while the denizen of one of these
public residences is apt to say what is
the use? have no place to keep them if l
should take them" Mementoes, bric-a-
brac, curiosities, quaint chair or cozy
lounge, upholsteries, pictures and a thou
sand things that accrete in a home are dis
carded OF neglected because there is no
homestead in which to arrange them. And
yet they are the case in which the pearl OF
domestic happiness is set.
You can never become as attached to the
appointments of a clearinghouse or fam
lily hotel as to those things that you can
call your own, and are associated with the
different members of our household, or
Win scenes Oh uuflllluS Import Ill your t1O-
nestle history. Blessed is that home in
which for a whole lifetime they lave been
gathering, until every figure in the carpet,
and every easement of the window, has a
chirography of its own, speaking out some-
thing about father or mother, or son or
daughter, or friend that was with US
awhile.
What a sacred place it becomes when
one can say: "In that room such a one
was born; in that bed such a one died; in
that chair I sat on the night l heard such a
one had received a great public honor; by
that stool my child knelt for her last even
ing prayer; here 1 sat to greet my son as
he came back from a sea voyage; that was
fathers cane; that was mothers rocking
chair. What a joyful and pathetic con-
gress CT reminiscences!
The public residence of hotel and board
ing.house abolishes the grace of hospitali-
ty. Your guest does not want to come to
such a table. No one wants to run such a
gauntlet of acute and merciless hypercriti-
cism. Unless you have a home of your
own YOU will not be able to exercise the
best rewarded of all the graces. For ex'
o,o;so If this GRACE what blessing came to