The daily herald. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1886-1887, 1886-12-02
WOMAN AND HOME.
HINTS ON THE TRAINING OF
CHILDREN IN GOOD MANNERS,

uonored Titlc-Don't blind the Babies.
Paragraphs, Etc.
Some ono has wisely said: @The teachings
of childhood are the corner stones on which
to build the foundations of character. II
these are laid in wisdom and faithfulness, we
may look to see the superstructure rounded
and beautiiied by the lesson OF 1ife's expert
ence.n
The training Of children in good manners
must be founded on respect and obedience.
But authority should be enforced by parents
without destroying the self-rcspect of the
child. Every boy and girl has on innate
sense of what is just, and cannot listen to UNI
kind words without first being wounded and
then hardened. Nothing has so much power
with children as love. Be kind and gentle
with Them let them know how dear they are,
and it will be an easy task to control them.
They should always he goycrned mildly, yet
firmly, thus retaining their respect and love;
and even very young children will learn to
dread their parents displeasure through the
fear OF losing their affection.
To speak the truth, to respect age, to pro
tect the weak TO he unselfish and fOrbearing
with others, to be ashamed of nothing except
wrong doing are Che first lessons children
should be taught, and It win then be easy TO
train them IN good manners II is not enough
to teach simply; there must be the example Of
the daily life 10 enforce the lessons, and surely
no motive can make so forciblc an appeal &
the parents heart in favor of self-disciplinC
: MS the desire for tho welfare of their children
There is no soul so full of the graces of you'll
as the mother spirit that has gone through
a long and useful life wrapped in the love Of
her children
IL is best, in rearing n large family of chill
dren, to give them us much liberty as is con
sistent with good management, and TO make
as few rules Of obedience as possible, and
then to enforce those given TO the very letter
Reproofs should never bo administered in the
presence of others, particularly 10 proud
sensitive children, as they do more harm than
good 10y causing unnecessary humiliation
The child who is thus respected by its mother
or father is very apt to preserve it's sclf-re
spect through life, and avoid doing aught
that would incur ccnsure.
In training children in good manners
mothers often mistake an overflow of spirits
u natural playfulness of healthy childhood,
for rudencss, and in subduing and correcting
these seeming faults, rob the little ones OF
wholesome exercise and n large share of the
sunshine of their lives There is time for
playing, and even noisy outdoor sports, that
develop the young muscles and strengthen
the fast growing bodies, and children should
not be deprived of this privilege of Their
childhood. The essential things to be taught
them in play is TO respect each others rights.
to protect the wcnk, and TO be fair even in
their sports Moral courage should be cult.
waited in children by teaching them always to
say boldly and do bravely what they believe
is true and right, regardless Of consequences |
"Therc is something knightly in the heart of |
every boy, something helpful and womanly |
in the heart of every GIRL and these quail !
ties should be developed. The sympathies of |
children are quickly aroused, and cen be |
rightly directed to their great benefit
Pets are a great source of pleasure 10 |
children, and the possession of them awakens |
and increases the chivalrous spirit which en- |
larges the heart and cnnobles the character. |
The care of dog, a lamb or goat trains |
boy in all that Is manly; while the pet kitten |
or bird gives the little girl sense of respon- |
sibility and teaches her kindness Co the help |
less.
Nothing Is more demorali2ing than quar- |
reling, and children should never be per- |
mittcd 10 dispute among themselves but II |
they are early taught forbearance and un-
sclfishness in their companionship with eaoh |
other, this breach of good manners will never
be the occasion of pain to the parents. Man
ners acquired in childhood are usually re-
tanned, becoming, as they do, a part of She
character, not TO be put asideat will Some
parents fancy that 1t is the duty of teachers
to improve and form the manners of their
children, and leave the task TO them rather
than burden themselves with it, but all wise
mothers should know that home is the best
school for correcting faults and acquiring the
self-control which is essential TO elegance and
ease of manner.
Few parents, however, ever anxious for the
welfare of their young families comprehend
tho influence of companions for good or evil. |
The choice Of childrens associates should never
BIO left to accident, but should be carefully
selected from among those whose behavior is
in every respect becoming Nothing will SO
readily injure the manners OF even the most
carefully reared children as the constant com
partnership Of the rude and Inbred Next to
evil associates comes the influence Of books, |
many of which are dangerous in their ten |
denotes giving children false views of life, |
and cort ibuting very greatly to forming
manners which are neither becoming nor at |
tractive in real lifo, though they may seem 80
to the youthful readers. But, while evil may
result from indiscriminate reading, when care |
fully selected books may greatly aid IA motheral
in her efforts TO cultivate pleasing manners inv
her children-Mrs Elm II. Parker in Good
Housekeeping