News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1886-02-25
PENALTY OF DIVORCE.
DIR. TALlIAGE SAYS 1T Is THE FIRST
COURSE IN THE MENU OF HE'LL.
How the World Can be Transformed Into n
Turkish Hurem-Husbands and Wives
Who Live in Harmony and Those Again
Out of Tune.


Turkish Hurem-Husbands and Wives
Who Live in Harmony and Those Again
Out of Tune.
The subject of DR.. Talmage's dis
course Sunday was Husband and Wife
in Harmony and out of Tune" " The text
was chosen from Amos, iii, 3: "Can
two walk together except they be
agreed p
No, Amos, they cannot, began the
preacher. They will be tripping each
other up or pushing each other down.
Married life under such circumstances
will be the sounding of a perpetual
warwhoop. A church within a church,
a republic within q republic, a wSrld
within world, is spelled by four let
ters Home! If things 90 right there
they go right everywhere; If things go
wrong there, they go wrong everywhere.
The door-sill of the dwelling house is
the foundation of Church and State A
man never gets higher than his own
garret or lower than his own cellar. In
other words, domestic life overarches
and underlies all other life.
The home organization is most beauti-
fully constructed. Eden has gone; the
bowers are all broken down; the ami
mails that Adam stroked with his hand
that morning when they came up to
get their names have since shot
forth tusk and sting, and growled
panther at panther, and mid-air, iron
| beaks plunge till with cio.ted wing and eye
less sockets the twain came rolling down from
under the sun blood and fire. Eden has
gone, but there is just one little fragment left.
1t fioated down on the river Hiddekel out Of
! Paradise. 1t is the marriage institution. 1t
does not, as at the beginning, take away from
| man rib. Now it is an addition OF ribs
| This institution of marriage has been de-
| famed in our day, and influences are abroad
| trying to turn this earth into a Turkish ha-
rem or great Salt Lake City. Alas for this
! new dispensation of George Sand Attempt
has been made to take the marriage institu-
| tion, which was intended for the happiness
| and elevation of the race, and make it a mere
| commercial enterprise-an exchange of houses
and lands and equipages; business partner
| ship OF two stuffed up with the stories of ro-
| nance and knlSht-erantry and unfaithful-
ness and feminine angelhood. The two, a ter
while, have reused up to find that instead Of
| the paradise they dreamed of they have got
| nothing but menagerie, filed with tigers aud
| wildcats. Eighty thousand divorces in Paris
| in one year preceded the worst reYolut ion that
| France ever saw. 1t was only The first course
| IN that banquet of hell, and tell you what you
| well know-that wrong notions on the sub
| 1ect OF Christian marriage are the cause at
| this day of more moral outrages before God
and man than any other cause MY first
counsel to you is, have Jesus in your new
home, II 1t be a new home, and let Him who
was guest at Bethany be in your households;
let the Divine blessing drop upon your every
hope and plan and expectation. Have on your
right hand the engagement ring of the Divine
affection. If one of you be a Christian, let
that one take Bible and read few verses in
the evening time and then kneel down and
commend yourselves to Him who setteth the
solitary in families. Iwant to tell you that
the destroying angel passes by without touch
ing or entering the homo whose door-post is
| sprinkled with the blood of the ev, rlasting
covenant. Why is it that in some families
they never get elong well and in others they
always get along we'll? 1 have watched such
| cases and have come to conclusion. In the
| first instance nothing seemed to 80 pleasantly,
and after while came devastation, domestic
| disaster or estrangement Why? They
| started wrong In the other case, although
I there were hardsllips and trials md some
/ things that had to be explained, stlh tIn1ing5 I1g
! They started right. My advice to you IN your
home is, to exercise to the very last possibility
| of your nature the grace of forbearance.
Never be ashamed to apologize when you
have done wrong in domestic affairs. Let
that be q law of your household The best
| thing ever heard of my grandfather, whom
/ never saw, was this that once having un-
| righteous'y rebuked one of his children, he
| haps, having been misinformed Of the child's
doings, found out his mistake, and in the
| evening Of the same day gathered all his
! family together and said: Now, have one
| explanation to make and one thing to say.
| Thomas, this morning 1 rebuked syou very
unfairly. am very sorry for it. rebuked
| you in the presence of the whole family, and
| now ask your forgiveness in their presence"
| Never be ashamed to apologize for domestic
! inaccuracy. Do not carry the fire OF Your
|
be easily fretted by disorder in the house
hold, let the husband be careful where he
| throws his slippers If the husband come
home from the store with his patience all
| exhausted, do not let the wife unnecess arily
| or, ss lis temper; but both stand up for your
rights, and will promise everlasting collision.
| Your life will be spent in making up, and
| marriage will be to you an unmltlgated curse.
| If the husband spend the most of his nights
away from home, of choice and not of neces-
| sity, he is not the head of the household; he
| Is only the cashier. II the wife throw the
cares of the household in the servants lap,
and then spend five nights of the week at the
| opera or theatre, she may clothe her children
| with satins and laces and ribbons that woult
| confound French milliner. but they are
orphans. In India they bring children and
| throw them to the crocOdiles, and 1t seems
| very cruel; but the Jaws of New York and
| Brooklyn dissipation, and of other cities, are
| swallowing down more little children to-day
| than all the monsters that ever craWIed upon
| the banks of the Ganges
| Ihave seen the sorrow of a goddess mother
| on the death of a child she had neglected. 1t
was not so much grief she felt from the fact
| that the child was dead, as the fact that she
| had neglected it. She said ''If | had only
] watched over and cared for the child, know
| God would not have taken it." The tears
| came not; 1t was dry, bllsterlng tempest-a
| scorching simeon of the desert. When she
wrung her hands it seemed as if she would
| twist her fingers from their sockets; when
! she seized her hair it seemed as if she had, in
wild terror. grasped coiling serpent with her
| right hand. No tears Comrades Of the lit
| tie one came in and wept over the coffin;
neighbors came in, and the moment they saw
| the still face of the child the shower broke.
No tears for her. God gives tears as the sum
| mer rain to the parched soul; but in all the
| universe the driest and hottest, the II. ost
scorching and consuming thing is a mothers
! tears if she has neglected her child when once
it is dead. God may forgive, but she will
| never forgive herself. The memory will sink
the ewes deeper into the sockets, and pinch
| the face and whiten the hair, and eat up the
| heart with vultures that will not be Satisfied,
| forever plunging deeper their iron beaks Sir
| James Macintosh one Of the most eminent
| and elegant men that ever lived, while stand
| ing at the very height of his eminence said
| to great company of scholars: MY wife
| made me-" The wife ought to be the adTls-
| ing partner in every firm She Ou8htt TO be IN
/ tereBteO
store She ought to have right-she has a
| right-to know everything, If man goes
| into business transaction that he dare net
| tell his wife of, you may depend that he Is on
| the way either to bankruptcy or moral ruin.
| There may be some things which he does not
wish to trouble his wife with; bat II he dare
| not tell her, he is on the road to discontinue.
There are a thousand martyrs OF the kitchen.
| 1t is very annoying, after the vexatlons OF the
| day around the stove or table, or in the nurs-
ery or parIor, to have your husband say, You
| know nothing about trouble; you ought TO be
| in the store half an hour" If the husbands
| work covers him with SCOT of the furnace or
| the odors of leather or soap factories let not
| tho wife be easily disguised at the begrimed
| hands or unsavory aroma. Your gains are
| one your interests are one, your losses are
one; Law hold of the work OF life with Doth
| hands. Four hands to fight the battles, 1oui'
ewes to watch for the danger, four shoulders
| on which to carry the trials. 1t IS very sad
| thing when the painter has wife VINO uoes
| not like pictures. 1t is a very SAD thlh@ lor
| n pianist when she has husband VINO docs
not like music. 1t is a very ad Thing when a
wife is not suited unless her husband mas
what is called ''genteel business 80 Tar rs
| understand "genteel business, IL ls SOME
thing to which man goes at III o cloCA III
the morning and from which he comes houe
at 2 or o'clock in the afternoon ana gets
large amount of money for dong noIhlhB;
| That is / believe, "genteel business; ana
there has been many wifo who has made the
mistake of not being sati fed until the nus
band has given up the tanning of hides, OF uiG
turning of the banisters, or the building OF
the walls and put himself in circles where he
has nothing to do but smoke cigars and drink
wine and get himself into habits that upset
him, going down in the maelstrOm, taking hls
wife and children with him.
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