The Carbon advocate. [volume] (Lehighton, Pa.) 1872-1924, 1886-01-30
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strongly condemned. II kills sympathy
and fosters a repellant attitude that re-
jects all overtures, however well-irten-
toned they may be. 1t actually in
creases the very evils IL deplores by
keeping them constantly in view. Par
ents and teachers often make this fatal
mistake. Anxious to cure fault, but
thoroughly unphilosopical in their
methods, they harp continually upon
1t and keep reminding the child of its
presence, its enormity, and its dangers,
until at length he comes to regard 1t as
q necessary part of himself. An cS-
perienced educator says, that an infal-
liable way to make boy irrcclainably
stupid, is to assure him constantly that
he is so; and the same thing is equally
true of most other faults. Only through
good can VIC produce good; and, If we
would truly help or improve another,
we must find out the best that is in him,
and from that point must we try to de-
velop that which is lacking. Let us
ever bear in mind that goodness and
truth go hand in hand, and that to dis
cover, to welcome, and to emphasize
the one is the surest way to attain the
other in its fullncss.
-Self-depreciation partakes of the
same character as self-assltmption.
Both come from over-thought of self,
and both vanish when self is merged in
something else. Just as soon as we are
earnestly anxious for some result, We
begin to work for it, without stopping
to guage our powers or to think any
thing at all about them. The mother
who arlently loves her child and de-
sires his best good does not spend her
time in bewaiing heI unfitneSs to take
care of him. She begins at once, and
does her best, and her power grows
with every effort. The business man
with family depending upon him does
not delay providing for them because he
distrusts his ability to do so he forgets
to consider that, and simply pursues
his work as best he can. So in every
instance, if the self-depreciative will
cease thinking about themselves at all,
and devote all their thought and energy
to the duty in hand, they will find Their
strength and fitness for the work grow
with exercise, and the fears which have
stood in the way of success will melt
away.
Women cashiers. s.-The movement
in favor of employing women in al
kinds of work that was formerly done
by men only is one that should be car
ried on with caution, for women and
girls have sometimes been put into situ
ations fer which their sex is unfit, anC
the result has been a reaction against
their employment in capacities where
they are really useful. But of all the
posts as to which women's aptitudes
are the least open to question that O
cashier must be cited first. Women are
excellent money-keepers. While malt
cashiers form gricvously large percent
age among the prisoners brought to tria
for embczzlement, women and girls, be
ing seldom exposed to the same temp
tations as men in the matter of dissipa
tion, betting, gambling or speculation
have very rarely been known to miSap
propriate moneys intrusted to them.
inefficient Work. THE strained Ct
fort to do too much is one cause of th
large amount of slipshod, inefiicien
work that all dcplorc, yet accept. \,
one can give of his best until he ha
learned what to lay aside as well a
what to do. Others fail to give thei
best attempting to do what is beyon
them. They might have succeede,
well, and done the world good servic
in one direction, but, scorning this, the
are doing poor work which neither bene
fits others nor reflects honor upon them
selves, in some other line. Thus first
rate builder who is needed in the CON
munity is sacrificed to make n third
rate architect, who is comDarativel
valuelcss. Men who might have mad
their marks asmechanics become inferio
business men, or others who have ta
ent for commercial pursuits spoil then
selves and value by rushing into profes
sions or politics.
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Why men fall in love.-Men fall i
love, they say, with beauty, with gOOt
ness, with gentleness, with intellectns
qualities, with an agreeable manner
with a loving disposition, and yet "
find them continually falling in loy
with women who are not beautiful, nC
good, nor wise, nor gentle. You'll fin
a hundred reasons given for falling /
love, rarely the right reason-which
commonly simply because man cal
not help it. lie is in love because
man cannot help it. He is in love bc
cause a mysterious force in nature hs
touched him. The woman may |
beautiful, heartless, selfish, untru,
coarse. frivolous. but If the magic {
nature touches him. he sees not one {
these things in their true aspect.
DO not affect motive in love.
is not a question of motive, but Of fac
Don't marry to do good. The end do,
not sanctify the means.
Beauty in a modest woman is liz
fire or sharp sword at a distanc
neither doth the one burn nor the 9th,
wound those that come not too net
them.
The power of drudging at disagree