St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-12-19
FALLING IN LOVE.
The Instinct by Which Each Person
+ Selects Desireabie Mate.

Selects a Desireabie Mate.
In minor matters it is of course uni
versally admitted that short men, as rule,
prefer tall women, while tall men admire
little women. says the FOrtnightly Review.
Dark pairs by preference with fair: the
commonplace often runs after the original.
People have long noticed that this attract
ion toward ones opposite tends TO keep
true the standard of the race; thev have
not, perhaps. so generally observed that it
also indicates roughly the existence in
either individual of desire for its own
natural complement. 1t is difficult here to
give definite examples put everybody
knows how, in the subtle psychology
of falling in love there are IN
Vulnerable minor elements, physical and
mental, which strike us exactly because of
their absolute adaptation to form with our
selves an adequate union. Of course we
do not definitely seek out and discover such
qualities; instinct works far more intui-
lively than that; but we find. at last, by
subsequent observation. how true and how
trustworthy were its immediate Indications
That is to say, those men do SO who were
wise enough or fortunate enough to follow
the earliest promptingS of their own hearts,
and not be ashamed of that diYinesU and
deepest of human intuitions, love at first
sight
How very subtle this intuition is, we can
only guess in part by the apparent capri
ciuuSneSS and incOmprehensbility of its
occasional action. We know that some
men and women fall in love easily, while
others are only moved to love by some very
special and singular combination of pecul-
aritieS. We know that one man is readily
stirred by every pretty face he Sees while
another man can only be reused by intellect
ual qualities or by moral beauty. We
know that sometimes we meet people
possessing every virtue and grace under
heaven, and yet for some unknown and in
comprehensive reason we could no more
fall in love with them than we could fall in
love with the ten commandments. | don't.
OF course, for moment accept the silly, rO-
mantle notion that some men and women
fall in love oniv once in their lives. or that
each one of us has somewhere on earth his
or her exact affinity. whom we must sooner
or later meet or else die unsatisfied. AL
most every healthy normal man or woman
has probably fallen in love over and over
again in the course of a lifetime Except in
case OF very early marriage) and could
easily find dozens of persons with whom
they would be capable of falling in love
again if due occasion offered. We are not
all created in pairs, like the exchequer
TALES, exactly intended to fit into one an
others minor ~idiosyncrasies. Men and
women; as a rule very sensibly fall in love
with one another in the particular places
and the particular societies they happen to
be cast among. A man at Ashby-de-la
Couch does not hun; the world over to fnti
his pre-estabiished harmony at Paray-le
Monial or at Denver, Col. But among the
women he actually meets, vast number
are purely Indifferent to him; only one or
two, here and there, strike him in the light
of possible wives, and only one in the last
resort (Outside of Salt Lake City, approves
herself to his inmost nature as the actual
wife of his final selection.