The comet. (Johnson City, Tenn.) 1884-1916, 1886-12-09
MAED AND MATRON.
A Column Of Choice Miscellany
fOr tlae Women.
Hsees EEc Love Her.

If ! could only hear him say once,
just as he used to in the early days of
our married life, that he loves me,
believe | could go to work again with
out feeling that everything is Snch a
dreary failure" said woman to me
once writes Emily Bouton in the To-
ledo Blade.
"You do not doubt his affection" l
asked. 80, | suppose he cares, but he
never, never tells me SC" she replied
with passionate sort of wall in the
tones Of her voice. ave Just go on
week after week, eating and drinking,
dressing, working and sleeping, and
that is all there is Of it. ] often think
he would not care if / should pass en-
tirely out of his life, for he never
seems to notice what | do, never
speaks one tender word to me any
more"
And yet he did care but it was
simply habit he had fallen into, and
unless shocked INTO realization of
what hewas doing the days would go on
and on and the conviction Of his indif-
ference would grow deeper and deep,
er, until the love would go out in her
heart for aye. And then it would be
too late!
| shall never forget the glow of
pleasure that used to irradiate the
plain, stern face OF man | knew, at
some unexpected work of fondess or
caressing action from the wife he low
ed, whose only sin was omission from
sheer carelessness. And then sudden
ly, he folded his strong arms across
the stilled heart, and his ears were
deaf to her voice, and her touch had no
power to awaken him to life. Then
how she regretted the lost opportuni-
ties.
This is the cruel cross of life, to be
Full visioned only when the ministry
OF death has been fulfilled, and in the place
OF some dear presence is but empty space.
What reeollected services can then
Give consolation for the might have been?
Surely the poet who wrote the lines
! have quoted had living realization
of the pain which "the silences" had
cost
1t is not only those who are welded
who forget to keep the fires Of affection
brightly burning by words and deeds
The gay young girl, that strong Wig.
orous youth, both full Of the luxury oI
living that health and animal spirits
give, oftimes forget the loving word
the tender caress, to the mother whose
heart has beaten all these years full
measure OF hope and pride for their flu
ture. When you feel inclined to be
careless, 0, fair maiden and brave
youth, and to give more Of though
and care to those who have never de
MED self for your sake, as she has done
remember that the day is coming
when you will stand "full visioned" be
side her still form, and think bitterly
if you have heart, Of the Amigh
have been.'
And yet it is not only young mel
and maidens who forget to make th,
home hearts glad by loving words an,
.tender actions. Nor is this careless
ness confined to the home circles
Friends held fast to reticence, so ia
as expression is concerned, OF thei
kindly feeling toward each other
They go OH week after week, meeting
often, conscious of the excellencies O
which they DO net speak, full of kind
ness of thought, which may sometime
when chance arises, be put into deed
but too often letting "silences" multi
ply when it would be so easy t
throw them away.
Be not chary ofloving words to dea
ones, nor of pleasant, appreciative one
to those around you. 1t is hard to tel
what the influences of those utterar
ces may be upon the future of the lat
ter, even though they be not OF thos
whom you have gathered into you
heart OF hearts.
Faith in the present good, hope 70
the future, courage to do and dare
those are all often inspired by
chance expression OF kind appre
citation that costs the speaker absolu
tely nothing. do not mean that W
should overflow with praises that al
meaningless, or utter what is untutl
full and misleading, but that we sha
be alert and thoughtful, and no m,
ment when kind words shall
spoken shall slip by an
leave them forever unsaid. We al
all too prone to take things for gran
ed, to Give besides each other day
day and speak of myraid things, b.
seldom say the full sweet words" thi
would have brought gladness to IL
, heart and sunshine to the life OF the
who may perhaps seem to have i
: least need of our ministrations.
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