The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1886-01-29

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" that through some investment Il
these in few years may Be gone. There
are some things, however, tAat are per-
petual fortuns-good manners, geniality
Of soul, kindness, intelligence, sympathy,
courage, perseverance,, industry and whole
heartedness. Marry such . one and you
have married fortune, whether he have
an income now Of $4,000 Q year or an
income Of 500. A bank is secure accord
ing to ita capital stock, and not to be
judged by the dspo its for q day or .
week. A man is rich according to his
sterling qualities, and not according to the
vacillat:on Of circumstances, which may
leave with him . large amount Of re-
sources to-day, and withdraw them to.
morrow. II man 10 worth nothing but
money he 10 poor indeed. II . man have
upright character he is rich. Property
may come and go; he Is independent Of
the markets. Nothing can buy him out.
He may have more money one year shan
another, but his better fortunes never
vacillate.
Yet, do not expect to find perfect man.
II you find one without any faults, in
capable Of mistakes, never having
guessed wrongly, his patience never
having been disturbed, immaculate
in speech, in temper, in habits, do
not marry him. Why! Because you
would enact q swindle. What would you
do with a perfect man who are not perfect
yourself! And how dare you hitch your
imperfection fast on such supernatural ex.
cellence? What q companion you would
make for an angel! In other words, there
are no perfect men. There never was but
one perfect pair, and they slipped down
the banks of Paradise together. We occa-
sionally find man who says he never
sins. We know he lies when he says il.
We have had financial dealings with two
or three perfect men, and they cheated US
wofully. Do;not, therefore, look for an
immaculate husband, for you will not find
him.
but do not become cynical on this sub
ject. Society has Q great multitude of
grand men, who know how to make home
happy. When they come to be husbands
they evince a nobility Of nature and
. self-sacrificing spirit that surprise
even the wife. These are the
men who cheerfully sit in dark and dirty
business offices, ten feet by twelve, in sum-
mer time, hard at work, while the wives
and daughters are of at Saratoga, Mount
Desert, or at the White Sulphur. These
are the men who, never having had much
education themselves, have their sons at
Yale and Harvard and Virginia Univer-
sity. These are the men who work them.
selves to death by fifty years Of age, and
go out to Greenwood, leaving large estate
and generous life insurance provision for
their families. There are husbands and
fathers here by the hundreds who would
die for their households. II outlawry
should ever become dominant in our cities
they would stand in their doorway, and
with their one arm would cleave down, one
by one, their invaders, face to face, foot to
foot, and every stroke demolition. This
10 what makes an army in defense of a
country fight more desperately than
an army of conquest. 1t is not SO much
the abstract sentiment Of flag as it is the
wife and children at home that turns en-
thusiasm into fury. The world has such
men by the million, and the homunculi
that infest all our communities must not
hinder women from approaching the glory
of true manhood.
Twas reading of bridal reception. The
young man had brought home the choice
of his heart, in her elaborate and exquisite
apparel. AS she stood in the gay drawing
room and amid the gay group, the young
mans eyes filed with tears of joy as he
thought that she was his. Years passed
by, and they stood at the same parlor on
another festal occasion. She wore the
same dress, for business had not opened as
to the young husband as he had
and no had never been able to
purchase fo- her another dress. Her face
was not as bright and smooth as it had been
years before, and careworn look had made
its signature on her countenance. As
the husband looked at her he saw the diff
erence between this occasion and the for
mer. and he went over where she sat and
said: "You remember the time when we
were here before. You have the same
dress or. Circumstances have somewhat
changed, but you look to me far more
beautiful than you did then" There 10
such q thing as conjugal fidelity, and
many Of you know it in your own homes.
But, after all the advice we may give
you, we come back to the golden pillar
from which we started, the tremendous
truth that no one but God can guide you
in safety about this matter, that may de-
eide your happiness for two worlds, this
and the next. So, my sister, put your
case where Naomi put that of Ruth and
Orpah when she said: 1.-THE Lord grant
that We may find rest, each Of you in the
house of her husband"
Imagine the hour for which you pledg. |
ID your troth has arrived. There is much |
among your young friends, |
but there is an undertone of sadness in all |
The house. Your choice may have been |
The gladdsst and the best, and the joy of |
he whole round Of relatives, but when
young eaglet is about to leave the old nest |
md is preparing to put out into sunshine
md storm for itself, It feels its wings
;rernble somewhat. She has q good cry
before leaving home, and at the marriage
iather and mother always cry, or feel like
t. II you think it is easy to give up a
in marriage, though it be with
brightest prospects, you will think differ.
,ntly when the day comes. To have ali
long watched her from infancy to girl
rood, and from girlhood to womanhood,
tudious of her welfare, her slightest ILL
less an anxiety, and her presence in your
lome I'D ever increasing joy, and
hen have her 60 away to some other
lome-aye, all the redolence of orange
and all the chime of marriage
'ells, and all the rolling Of wedding march
n full diapason, and all the hilarious con-
Of your friends, can not make
,ou forget that you are suffering loss ir-
eparable. But you know it is all right,
md you have . remembrance of an en-
just like it twenty five or thirty