The Manning times. [volume] (Manning, Clarendon County, S.C.) 1884-current, 1886-03-24
Gas Yc Sow so Shall Ye Reap"

70 marry or not 20 marry. Is Z CUES
ton nearly al must answer. To one side
it is IN unfair position. for they must
needs choose from those who ask or 90
witho.:,. and the uncertainty Of future
opportunities are so Great rs to greatly
influence the answer. and so often do
after events prove the mistake thus
made, one cannot help wishing each
person was stamped with the address of
their partners for life; this much settled,
one factor of mistake would be removed,
and whatever fault-tinding there must
be could not be aimed ut either. AS
such q state Of things cannot be. We
must make the best ofmattcrs lis we lind
them No doubt there is trouble on
both sides, but it certainly is not more
than half on the side of the woman.
The present rules of society are most
favorable to both Intentional and unin-
territorial deception: neither party can
know much of the home life ofthc other
until the irrcyocablc step is taken.
Young people are allowed to mingle to-
Scther forming associations from I'M
pulse: taught to believe love will 60
where sent, and that love is blind, and
all such nonsense, instead of knowing
for certainty that reason should Judge
all things, and that matrimony means
more than unlimited freedom, With
some one to constantly anticipate one 5
wishes.
Girls have learned that however
sensible tlfcy may be. unless they can
put on style and look bewitching. ten
chances to one instead of being honored
for il, they will be snubbed and left to
languish on the parental bush until the
frosts of fall have come: if young
men cannot afford TO marry it is their
own fault, for they have put 4 premium
on dress and accomplishments in wo-
men, and its not their fault al women
are not cxtravagant and selfish, which
thanks to innate good sense IS not the
case. Were men not so near stone
blind on this point they would have less
trouble in finding sensible wives, for in
every town there is at least q score of
just as good, economical, sensible girls,
as the good mother, men are so fond Of
quoting. She probably does not excel
in roller skating; l doubt if she knows
how to- dance, but she can and does
help mother, plays for home amusement
and enjoys reading of the more substan-
t;al kind, but let me tell you young
maa if YOU arc going to find her you
viii need more of o recommendation
than gold-headcd cane, love of q
muStache and q rhine stone pin can
give, or you will very likely fail to win
her for wife. 1t is more than proba-
bic she can take care Of herself and will
need TO see she is gaining q hclpmcet
before she consents to give up her liber-
ty and her name. But young men will
not get their eyes open until mothers
take the matter in hand and train their
boys from tie cradle up to be Men Fit
For Husbands. 1t is 4 lameDtable fact
that mothers seldom think of having
this object in view. 1t seems to be the
general opinion, that some woman will
be able to live with the man, who, as a
boy, possessed such violent temper it
was almost impossible to live with him,
who was coaxed, petted and spoiled
from the cradle up, until by some fairy
process he is to outgrow all these little
failings and develop into q Man Fit For
a Husband, just as easily as nature
gives the downy upper lip when man
hoods estate is reached. The facts will
bear me out in saying this is not always
the case-"as We SOW, so shall ye reap"
the ungovcrncd boy will make more
or less tvranncal huSband.-AmcliG 4.
Whitfield, IN Good Housekeeping.