The Cambria freeman. [volume] (Ebensburg, Pa.) 1867-1938, 1886-06-25
A SPICY LETTER
a Reply On tS,o Subject Of t1s DisenoARns
nf 1Tsrvfago-

A Reply on tS1C inject OF Ells DisenonRns
of Marriage
The following extracts are from q bright
letter written by lndy reader to the New
York World IN reply 60 q correspondent
J. R R, who attributes the q" disiIluEtOn-
rnents Of married life" solely to the neesli-
gence and lack OF interest shown by tho
wifei
" Now have never seen q man who
would not prefer tho morning paper to the
society Of his wife. She may sit at the
head Of the table dressed in the daintieso
and most tasteful OF gowns, serving q wen
ordered breakfast on hand-paiuted china
she may be bright CHEEKY even inteli
gent-aud wives are sometimes Intelligent,
The husband VIII take the breakfHSs ana
the morning paper, and there VII bo
nothing left for the poor wife TO 90 but
TO gaze out Of the window. I have seen
women at the head Of their tables making
the most frantic ATTEMPTS % draw their
husbands attention from the newspaper.
have seen them resort TO all the arts Of
playfulness and coquetry, and finally, as
3 last and desperate resort, come out with
the matter Of tact question What's tho
nova John - 'Oh nothing, nothing,
aud yet II took rtm tho entire breakfast
time 20 read 'rOthing am Inclined to
think that the newspaper IS largely Ucspo1-
sibla for much OF tho marital misery Ia
tho world Tor what woman of ocdinerT
attractiO0e cGn compete with 1--we iguTnals
j. 4 z. tells Us that a husband Is q
wHys drawing contrasts between bis wife
as she L and as sbe wES Moreover, thai
he IS always drawing contrasts between
bis wife and ether women This Is Just
where q great deal Of tho marital unhnp-
ptucss comes N. There - TOO much of
this thing going On oil tho time. a man
FOR EXAMPLE. goes bg Invitation 70 call
upon q Ceutlernen friend. The lady OF the
house has been GVpriscd q his coming.
Sho Is dressed b2couinLyly Tor the oc-ssirz,
and makes herself agreeable. of oouroe
A pleasant impression + UattB upon the
visitor. and he goes home srd fGr the ur,,-
week casts L up ~ his pcog E-t-1 syiiC.
NilO perhaps & worried GuC nUTF2us over
csuthiux baby, an iuott1ielt servant OF
ID servant ut al that no duss nos know
how IL x but Jones Wi&s always looks
yacu r5sSat and tie domestic Ila-hlseTy
of their huzne SEEMS 20 move ou Without a
4 Coo or jar. Il seans 20 be the uatUzu of
the Greruxe mEu TO edunire any Other
Tnq4S~ Vife moro than IL dGoa his own
tlut II after sbc bTfst peEtOi q rhG honey
noon hRs past I Eave a f-iGsld VINO i5
/ q Luc amateur musician she plays ia
{ excellent ta-ste and with much seutlussI,t
GzG feeling cla>s-i- ulE-tc, al Ul-- ggr-s
. from the opeUlLs. as wei ss the higLoy goss,-
} rossr5. caha makes Ler homo bTi4sll Nsssh
. her uTQsCaCe aud cheerful With sD-Ju.Ils-s
. NlcurA Ono evening her husband y-es-t u
call upon tho Aforesaid Jones, amt upon
/ his return he told her thts jones wife
/ played such beautiful piece fDE bt-A tAat
Il was the lOveltcst thing he had CTey
heard and that be wanted hoy 20 81 &c
and learn E-ght away. She asked him
what It WIS aud he said, sSllvery WGvcS
. That piece was gray and tOothises almost
CuloEe she was born.
OF know 81 gEtI5uau who r. always
cI1+icis,uq LIS wife's dress, particularly
her hats and bonueGz- she b t lady Ot -
fined and modest tastes and quite elcEau5
IL appearance. she recently purchased q
winter hat block vetTei II stylish sLsuD
trimmed with white wfngs, RTnasb dcdCasl
and tasteful combination boCCu-isg TO G-E
style Of faoa euU sppTop-lz-u to Gay or beg
costumes She showed Il to her husu&ud
who viewed It with q CCitlc's-eye and pro
nounced u the ugllas5 thing ne had ever
seen, and sold Il she was going % vC8f
! shat thing out she should not 90 with
him 4 few days GgteF she senG the has &c
@ friend explaining che situation aud ssls
. ing her to wear it OvsE 10 her honse IN tht
evening when her hushan1 would bC al
home. The lady did 50. and after she haf
I gone the husband turn1d 70 his vito and
safd: There now, II voc he'd gotten {
hat something Ike thGt yOu would baV7
. shown much better taSee aud tudgnent
. So runs the world.
AZ TO the question o6 dress voneI
should be neat about their p5rS0uai Gp
pearance. They can 30 nesE5 even II tic,
cannot be fine, but as T. a WOnun'g Er1
serving at eli tines o captivating ideaGt
I claim that II s GfTnTily ttnpcssfhsD Tier
is too mnch 'h3gZb ar' abSos toT rae You
eorresDCnflsnt ought 20 know that theT
Is not much b7eolfty aDJut wrystli1g VII
the kitchen fire 10 tho morning, a 1oun q
cannot make the struggle fn an estifed
gown. she cannot Blw8ys be Deet - sue
times, because the kfndlfnc-v0Crod VIII Il
I'D IN her face, aud the soot blaCEen be
dainty hands and apron Thosa rsng
tqin happen fu the,best regulated families
Every woman yyithoU= an income * b
own Is a p8uper This S "a stTuzg word
Uso, but 4 IS the only word thal cCre-
the ground. Nany q woman goes Eith1J
cainty litrhe tr1Hes OF dress ro her rlGn s5
for the wherevithal 20 get tAcui- l naT
always thought II 8 degradation rr.t III
woman t. have - ask ia9 eYesyIhl'.
she wants
and now o. the otrroT SIDE Of th-. "a
Hiusion1nent' h s'uess- O1r friend Ea1
nothing about the husbands throwing O
his discusses : woman likes an hc
husband Just aa well ~ q husband DGIni0
sn ideal wife. 4 man IN bis shirt sloCv
end without collar = not On object al q
niration, euy moro than vito en- dash
bile IS 70 her husband
= Tt seems % be a cOTnTTlun falling OF G
gentlemen after they have been married
littlc while too discard al the httte cou
: tesies which they had been wont 20 she
2 their wives before marriage Then 'pleai
ana thank YOU Is forgotten. Whom
70 o place Of amusement and SCI q Ia
: and gentleman together l can tel In
most every instance whether they sre n
: and wife. II the Ia y drops her proErs
or handkerchief and has 10 stOOp and p
, s. up herself I ray she l. that mans vi
On tho cOutrary. Z the gentleman e ki
!, and polite To her careful about drGugh
; etc, I say tley are not married.
. We heuI "a great deal of talk about
= trials ard cares Of man IN huSiH,
Thev have 70 battle with tie world 1