Southern standard. (McMinnville, Tenn.) 1879-current, 1886-03-06
MARRIAGE AS A BARGAIN.
Genteel Idleness the Road to Perdi-
tion---S sympathy of Occupation
as a Means of Securing
Happiness.

Many people went to hear L. De-
Witt Talmage on Sunday who were
unable to obtain seats, and a number
could not even gain entrance to the
Tabernacle. The popular preacher
continued his discourses on "The
Marriage Ring" He chose his text
from Amos-"Can two walk together
except they beagreed?" "No, Amos,
they cannot" said Mr.. Talmage, "for
they will be either tripping each other
up or knocking each other down.
Under such circumstances the marri-
age relation would be a constant war
whoop.
"Man never rises higher than his
garrett or descends lower than his Gel
lar. The rocking chair is higher than
the throne. George Washington COM
manded the United States army, but
Martha Washington commanded
George. AS individuals we are only
fragments. God makes us in parts
and puts us together in the house.
Our respective defects and virtues are
the cog wheels of the social system.
Birds are gathered in fiocks, buffaloes
in herds, the human race in the fami-
ly circle.
''The trouble is we are not satisfied
with where God puts us. Married
people should consider their tempera-
ments. If the husband is all impulse
the wife should be all conservatism.
Eden is gone. The bars are down.
There is only one fragment left, and
that is the marriage institution. This
institution has been DETAINED in our
time, and influences are abroad to
turn this nation into Turkish harem
or great Salt Lake City. Alas for
this new dispensation of George Sand.
The whole desire seems to make mar
riaSe matter of commercial enter
prise. The young people who are
bargained off look to it as a novelty
that will be pleasing. Eighty thou
sand divorces in Paris preceded the
greatest revolution the world ever
knew. / have noticed the young
people who start in God end in heav-
en-"
"Prayers can't do everything
There are men who pray like angels
and who rule with a tyrannical hand
at home. There must be give and
take. A man who does not know
how to apologize is not a man. The
woman who does not know how tt
apologize is not a woman. If the
wife is fretful, let the husband bt
careful where he throws his slippers
Make your chief pleasures at home
If man from choice, and not necessi
ty, spends most of his evenings away
from home he is not the head of TIT
family-he is but the cashier. If a wo
man puts her children in the lap o
servants, although she clothes then
in finery that may confound French
milliner, they are orphans.
"Cultivate sympathy of occupation
The wife ought to be the advisin,
partner. Your losses are hers, ant
your gains are hers. Blessed is tn
woman who in times of trouble doe
not say: Il told you so.' There ar
thousands of martyrs in the kitchen
The husband should make proper al
lowance for the labor of the wife
There should be four eyes to see an,
four shoulders to lift the burden.
is sad thing when painters wifi
doesn't like pictures. 1t is a sa
thing when musicians wife doe
not like music. 1t is a sadder thin
when wife thinks her husband ha
not genteel business. From cart
to destruction there are long train
running all the time. The freigf
trains move slowly, and are heavil
laden. The accommodation trains IL
men off at every station. But gente'
idleness is the expressitrain of whic
Satan is the stoker, death the COZ
ductor, and perdition the destination
There are two classes which will /
destroyed-those who have nothin
to do, and those who have somethin
to do but are too proud to do it,"
In closing, Mr.. Talmage describe
the home of a wealthy young coupl
adorned with all that money coul
buy, with beautiful music, gay dance
and the queen of the home seate
upon throne decked with flower
But when the guests had departe,
and when the music was silenced,
the question of" Where is happiness:
the answer came from the close
piano, at is not here )" from the We
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