Democratic Northwest. [volume] (Napoleon, Ohio) 1869-1894, 1886-04-29


To marry or not to marry. Is . ques-
ton nearly all must answer. To one side
it is an unfair position. for they must
needs choose from those who ask or 60
without and the uncertainty Of fufnro
opportunities are so great rs to greatly
influence the answer. and so often do
after events prove tho mistake thus
made, one cannot help wishing each
person was stamped with tho address Of
their partners for life; this much settled,
one factor of mistake would be removed,
and whatever fault-finding there must
be could not be aimed at either. As
such a state Of things cannot be, we
must make the best of matters as we find
them. No doubt there Is trouble on
both sides, but it certainly is not moro
than half on the side of the woman.
The present rules of society are most
favorable to both Intentional and unin-
territorial deception; neither party can
know much of the home life Of tho other
until the irrevocable step is taken.
Young people are allowed to mingle to-
gether, forming associations from inn
pulse: taught to believe love will 60
where sent, and that love is blind. and
all such nonsense, instead Of knowing
for a certainty that reason should judge
all things, and that matrimony means
more than unlimited freedom, with
some one to constantly anticipate ones
| wishes.
Girls have learned that however
sepsible they NAV be, unless they can
nut on style and look bewitching, ten
chances to one instead Of being honored
for it, they will be snubbed and left to
languish on the parental bush until the
frosts Of fall have come; II young
men cannot afford to marry it is their
own fault, for they have put premium
on dress and accomplishments in wo-
men, and its not their fault all women
are not extravagant and selfish, which
thanks to innate good sense is not the
case. Were men not so near stone
blind on this point they would have less
trouble in finding sensible wives, for in
every town there is at least score o.
lust as good, economical. sensible girls
as the good mother, men are 80 fond O
quoting. She probably does not exec
in roller skating; doubt If she know
how to dance, but she can and doe
help mother, plays for home amusement
and enjoys reading of the more substan
tial kind, but let me tell YOU youns
man if you are going to find her yol
will need more of Recommendation
than gold-headed cane, love of |
mustache and rhine stone pin cal
give, or you will very likely fail to win
her for wife. 1t is more than pr0ba
BILE she can take care Of herself and will
need to see she is gaining q helpmee
before she consents to give up her libeI
ty and her name. But young men vii
not get their eyes open until mother
take the matter in hand and train thei
boys from the cradle mp to be Men Fl
For Husbands. 1t is a lamentable fac
that mothers seldom think Of havin,
this object in view. 1t seems to be tn
general opinion, that some woman wi
Be able to live with the man, who, as
boy, possessed such violent temper
] was almost impossible to live with hin
who was coaxed, petted and spoile
from the cradle up, until by some fair
J process he is to outgrow all these littl
failings and develop into a Man Fit Fc
Husband, just as easily as natuI
gives the downy upper lip when mai
!. hoods estate is reached. The facts wi
bear me out in saying this is not alway
the case .as We SOW, SO shall ye reap
I the ungoverned boy will make mol
or less tyrannical husband. - amelia 4
Whitfield, in Good Housekeeping.