Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1886-08-23
cOurtosiss and Diseourtesle..
Cassell's Magazine.

There are many courtesies which
gentleman should render to lady, the
absence of which is at once felt, and
causes people Involuntary to remark in
wardly 10 themselves, If not aloud to
their friends "That man has not
good Manners passed that judgment
the other evening when l was sitting
with friend by her Preside.
A gentleman was ushered In who
was well known to my friend, but
a comparative stranger to me. He shook
hands with her first, which was, OF
course, the right thing to do, and then,
while speaking to her, he shook hands
with me. The breaker Of this law Of
courtesy was young professional man,
we'll endowed with this worlds goods.
l should not record this little rudeness II
1t was only OF rare occurrence, but |
often notice people guilty OF this dis
courtesy-namely, that OF shaking hands
with one person while they are speaking
to another person. II you wish to say
more than show do you dog" to your
hostess, or TO any one else whom you
greet at first, 1t is less discourteous to
continue your conversation with her fol
few moments before taking notice OF
any one near her, than it is to stretch out
your hand and shake that OF hel
neighbor while your face is turned away
and your lips are addressing another
person.
The discourteous young man to whom
have alluded gave me another reason
for my verdict, and as in this respect also
he is by no means the only offender IL
general society. There are three, II mo-
| at-11a 40 a.
which some people utter or make wheI
they have not learned what has beer
said to them, or when they wish to ex
press assent. These are: What2 Eth
Uh! and cultural sound Of the lette
en-" which cannot be expressed in writ
ing, "I beg your PARDON" or "what di'
YOU say?n are sentences which shoul
: certainly be said when repetition
asked for; and eyes" should not be re
placed by q grunt when an assent is giver
aAThere are numerous little acts which
: man OF courtesy will perform. While h
is calling at house he will rise and ope
the door for any lady who leaves th
room, even If she is an entire stranger t
him; in his own house he will not onl
: open the door of the room, but accom-
pany the lady to the hall door, and ope
that, II there is no servant at hand to d
So for departing guest, whether lad
: or gentleman, should not be lei
to find their way alone. Neitf
er should they be allowed to fin
their way into room. Whe
g YOU act as q host, and your guests accom-
+ pany you into the drawing-room, do nc
, you, my dear sir, follow the practice
q some forgetful or neglectful men, VII
: walk in and march straight up to II
d room, leaving their one guest, or trail
$ as the case may be, to follow and clos
: the door. host should open the do'
: and shut 1t after his guests have entert
: the room.
J, Amongst other small courtesies a ge
q tleman will rise from his chair, hoy
: ever luxuriously comfortable, and off
+ assistance, II need be, to lady
L she goes to put Goals on the fire, or II 81
/ tries to open or close window. Wh'
e he escorts her into a room, he Will s.
/. that she is seated before he looks for
IS chair for himself, when he escorts her
u a table, he will wait to arrange Tor d
lr comfort, hold the chair, or push II oac
g wards or forwards, as required, before
d takes his own seat. And during the me
is he will see that she Is provided Win
r she Is likely to want. The lady Dug
le not to be obliged TO ask for salt, Tor "
lie ter, for another cup OF tea, or, In TACT,
le anvthino that is on the table.