The Daily bulletin. [volume] (Honolulu [Hawaii]) 1882-1895, 1886-03-26
Chs @aily g atletia.
FRIDAY, MARCH &c, 1886.
HOW TO MARRY.

what? As truly rs every positive
requires negative, every knife its
fork and that opposites attract, so,
too, with the genus homo, like birds
they must mate, and it is not good
for man to be alone. The great
event of mans life is to seek and
secure sweetheart and then have o
wedding day. Now, to choose o
proper wife and companion is the
puzzle of puzzles in every mans
experience. Some choose for beauty, |
others for accomplishments and
Establishments, some for wit and
manners, and the average young
man for money and family, but after
all love, supported by prudence and
discretion, other things being equal,
should act as the all-inspiring motive.
Happiness follows love, and wealth
cannot buy happiness; it may con-
tribute to its existence, but happi-
ness is an attribute beyond pur-
chase.
As a physical adviser, no marriage
should occur unless both contracting
parties are healthy subjects to be
good animal is the highest gift in
nature. A marriage has vast respon-
sibility Ringing upon it, the future
procreation of our species, the per-
petuation of the human family;
therefore no man wants to become
the father of race of pigmies or
deformed dwarfs-physical cripples
to the disgrace of himself, his
wife and his progeny. God forbid!
Let man consider this well. First
of all, then, see that the prospective
wife be thoroughly healthy girl
and fine animal. 1t is safe for us to
say that nowadays far too many
mothers are culpable for encourage
ing matrimony when they know in
their heart of hearts that their
daughters are subject to organic
diseases. This is to be severely
deprecated and frowned down wher-
ever and whenever seen. On the
other hand, the presumptive swain
who contemplates Hymen's knot and
himself shattered wreck, is moth
ing short of criminal. Marriage
is, indeed, a serious question.
Next the salt of common sense is
an important necessity. Since mar
rage resolves itself into permanent
covenant instituted by God, to be
broken only by death, and not like
loose pair of shoes that can be put
on in the morning and removed at
night, it is an issue that should
occupy the mental, the moral, the
spiritual, the practical and the con-
sequential deductions of all thinking
people to the soberest degree. The
civil law may separate, but it cannot
sever. A divorce is blot on the
page of history, and about it there
is always q bad smell. Any one
who espouses the conjugal yoke with
the prospect of divorce ahead weds
an igniS .fdtatus. Hence man
should choose his wife as did the
sainted Primrose of "Vicar of Wake
field" memory, who chose his as she
chose her wedding-gown, not fol
fine, glossy surface, but for qualities
that would wear well. A woman j;
either the fortune or bankruptcy Of
mans future.
All tailors cut the coat according
to the cloth, which suggests how
young folks should consider the cir
cumstances of each other. 1t il
wrong for struggling young man
without money or influence in tn,
world, to wed girl of afiluence ant
wealth, fostered in the lap of luxur.
by kind and loving parents, whe
the same conditions cannot be ex
tended her IN the future; but the
it is wrong for her to encourage sue
young man unless she is willing t
share his struggles and misfortune
as an equal yokefellow and compar
ion. The word wife means weaver
i. e., wife should weave along wit
her husband the web of life.
There are too many young girl
brought up under the present regim
of society, so-called, who, by indu
gent mothers, become imbued wit
false notions and frltter away thei
time in learning useless trifles, unit
their muscles atrophy and leave theI
mere automatons 10 pose for tn
entertainment of glass case. The
lace, powder, affect frivols, stud
how to make conquests, etc.
short, to assume all the evils {
prevailing fashion. These creature
die young of tight-lacer's liver (
ennui. Young man, beware!
There is no object so fascinatir
as pretty-faced, intelligent woman
but then woman to commend he
self as an eligible candidate Fl
matrimony should be useful as we
as ornamental. A model wife is {
economist, a bread-saver, while h
husband is the bread-winner.
A little domestic drudgcry is