Southern standard. (McMinnville, Tenn.) 1879-current, 1886-10-16
FOR YOUNG WIVES.
How They May Become Successful
me-Keepers as Well as House
Keepers.

Helen E. Starrett, in Chicago Interior.
Housekeeping and housekeeping
are two very differedt things. There
is many a well-kept house that has
scarcely an element of the true home.
There are many beloved and cherish
ed homes where there is not very good
housekeeping. Housekeeping I'M
der certain circumstances may be
sighted, and there are times when it
lisa house-keeper's duty, foTthesake of
other duties, to make her house-keep-
ing secondary, but the housekeeping
never. "Do you keep house and take
care of your children?" asked one
young mother of another. "No. 1
take care Of my children and keep
house," was the sensible reply. To
rightly proportion the work and care
ola home between se-keeping and
and home-keepingrequires anamount
of wisdom and patience such as no
one who has not tried it can estimate.
Great are the responsibilities of the
young wife; perplexing and discour-
aging the problems which will con-
tinually arise in the complex home
life of today. She will need above
all things, patience and the ever-sus-
tanning power of deep sense of duty.
These are the foundation stones of the
home where love will live and grow
and become stronger and more prec-
ious with every passing year.
There is one common fact to which
nearly every young wife must recon-
Gle her mind at an early period in
her married life, and that is that the
cares of home, with all their multi
plicity and wearisomeness of detail,
will devolve chiefly upon her. Her
husband will be mainly absorbed in
his business, if he is good business
man. The peculiarly of the bust
ness life of today is the strain it puts
on the attention during business
hours, so that everything foreign to
it is almost necessarily excluded. So
the young house-keeper must not be
disappointed and become piqued and
pouty if John shows a decided reluct-
ance to attend to any small matters
pertaining to the household. 1 have
known a young wife to make her
self unhappy for days over the cir
cumstance of her husband declaring
somewhat emphatically that he could
not take time to stop at the grocer's
on his way to business to order SOAP
and starch on Monday morning. She
said to herself, and finally said to him
that when he was counting her he
could spend an hour anytime and
rush all over town to match a shade
of embroidery silk, or find a certain
kind of rose for her to wear to party
Why this change, unless he was ceas
ing to care for her wishes and conven
fence? All such nonsense needs II
be put aside by firm, good sense. II
married life, as in all other relations
of the home, a great deal must be tax
en- for granted. To be constantly OF
the watch for little lapses and failure
in attention is like pulling the eartl
away from planted seeds in order t,
see if they are growing. Not but tina
little attentions or omissions tina
may merely be the result of absorb
ton in cares and the necessary worl
I of life. The best way for a younl
wife to secure loving attention iron
{ her husband is to hold his love b,
I her gentle and steadfast kindness an,
, faithfulness, and his admiration AM
respect by the manner in which sh
4 fulfils the duties that fall to her shar
t in the domestic partnership. TIL
: she will utterly fail in doing if sh
becomes querulous, fault-finding
: suspicious, or undertakes to keep cal
t ing him to account on unimportar
: matters in connection with their hon
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