Springfield globe-republic. (Springfield, Ohio) 1884-1887, 1886-02-07
THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND.
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soul. kindness, intelligence, sympathy,
courage, perseverance, industry and whole
heartedness. Marry such one and you
have married fortune, whether he have an
income now of fifty thousand dollars year
or an income of five hundred dollars.
bank is secure according 10 the capital
stock, and not to be judged by the deposits
fer day or week. A man Is rich ac-
cording to his sterling qualities, and not ac-
cording to the vacillation Of circumstances,
which may leave with him a large amount
of resources today and withdraw them to-
morrow. Ii man Is worth nothing but
money. he is poor indeed, IL man have
upright character, he is rich. Property
may come and go, he Is independent of the
markets. Nothing can buy him out, moth
ing can sell him out He may have more
money one year than another, but his bet
ter fortunes never vaciilate.
Yet, do not expect to find a perfect man.
If you find one without any faults, incapa-
BILE of mistakes, never having guessed
wrongly, his patience never having been
perturbed, immaculate In speech, in tenn
per, in habits, do not marry him.
Why? Because you would enact
swindle. What would you do with
a perfect man, who are not perfect yourself?
| And how dare yeu hitch your imperfection
| fast on such supernatural excellence? What
| a companion you would make for an angel
In other words, there are no perfect men.
! There never was but one perfect pair, and
they slipped down the banks Of Paradise
together We occasionally find man who
saws he never sins. We know he lies when
he saws it. We have had financial dealings
with two or three perfect men, and they
cheated us woefully. Do not, therefore,
| look for an immaculate husband, for you
will not find him.
But do not become cynical on this sub
| ject Society has great multitude OF
grand men, who know how to make home
happy. When they come to be husbands
they evince a nobility of nature and a self
sacrificing spirit that surprise even the wife.
These are the men who cheerfully sit in
dark and dirty business offices, ten feet by
twelve, in summer time hard at work, while
| the wives and daughters are off at Saratoga,
Mount Desert, or the White Sulphur. These
are the men who, never having had much
education themselves, have their sons at
Yale and Harvard and Virginia University.
These are the men who work themselves TO
death by fifty years Of age, and go out TO
Greenwood, leaving large estate and gener-
GUS life insurance provision for their fami-
lies. There are husbands and fathers here
| by the hundreds who would die for their
households. If outlawry should ever be
come dominant In our cities, they would
stand in their doorway, and with their one
arm would cleaye down, one by one, fifty
] invaders. face to face, foot to foot and
every stroke a demolition. This is what
makes an army In defence of country
fight more desperately than an army of con-
quest. 1t is not so much the abstract SEN
| timent of flag as it is wife and children
and home, that turns enthusiasm into a
fury. The world has such men by the mil
lion and the homonculi that infest all our
communities must not hinder women from
appreciating the glory Of true manhood.
| | was reading Of bridal recep-
ton. The young man had brought
home the choice of his heart, in her elab-
crate and exquisite apparel. As She stood
in the gay drawing room, and amid the gay
group, the young mems eyes filled with
tears of joy as he thought that she was his
Years passed by, and they stood at the same
parlor on another festal occasion. She
wore the same dress, for business had not
opened as brightly to the young husband as
| he expected, and he had never been able to
purchase for her another dress. Her face
was not as bright and smooth as it had been
years before, and careworn look had made
| its signature upon her countenance- As the
husband looked at her he saw the difference
between this occasion and the former, and
he went over where she sat, and said: You
remember the time when We were here be-
4 fore. You have the sgme dress on. Cir
| cumstances have somewhat changec, but
YOU look to me far more beautiful than YOU
| did then" There is such thing as conju-
gal fidelity, and many of you know il in
your own homes.
But. after all the good advice we may
give yon. we come back to the golden pillar
from which we started. the tremendous
truth that no one but God can guide you in
safety about this matter, that may decide
your happiness for two worlds, this and the
aext So, my sister, l put my case where
Naomi put that Of Ruth and 0rpah when
she said: The Lord grant you that We may
find rest, each of you in the house of her
husband"
imagine the hour for which you pledged
your troth has arrived There Is much
merrymaking among your young friends,
but there Is an undert0ne of sadness in all
the house. Your choice may have been the
gladdest and the best, and the joy of the
whole round of relatives, but when young
eaglet is about to leave the old nest and Is
1 pItpdIlllS " put Out iBto oullciliit anu
storm for itself, it feels its wings tremble
somewhat So she has good cry before
leaving home, and at the marriage father
and mother always cry, or feel like
it If you think it is easy to give up a
daughter in marriage, though it be with
brightest prospects, you will think differ
entity when the day comes. To have all
along watched her from infancy to girlheod,
and from girlhood TO womanhood, studious
of her welfare, her slightest illness and
anxiety, and her presence in your home an
ever increasing joy, and then have her go
away to some other home-aye. all the re-
dolence of orange blossoms, and all the
/ chime of marriage bells, and all the rolling
of wedding march in full diapascn, and all
the hilarious congratulations of your
| friends. can not make you forget that you
are suffering a loss irreparable. But you
know ii is all right and you have a remem-
brance of an embarkation just like 1t
twenty-five or thirty years ago, in which
you were one of the parties, and. suppress
ing as far as possible your sadness, you say:
Goodbye"
hope that you, the departing daughter,
will not forget to write often home; for
whatever betide you. the old folks will
never lose their interest in your welfare.
Make visits to them also, as often and stay
as long as you can, for there will be
changes at the old place after q while.
Every time you 90 you will find more gray
hairs on fathers head, and more wrinkles
on mothers brow, and, after while, you
will notice that the elastic step has become
decrepitude. And some day one of the two
pillars of your early home will fall, and
after while the other pillar of that home
will fall, and it will be comfort to yourself
if, when they are gone, you can feel that
while you are faithful in your new home