St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-07-11
RICH MEMS MARRIAGES.
why Wealthy Man Is Hampere
in Choosing a Wife.

ina Choosing Wife.
Rich men are severely handicapped in the
race for marriage. This will appear at first
glance to be a most preposterous msstate-
ment of the case. Are not rich men run
after by everybody? Are they not welcomed
by parents? Are not daughters dazzled by
their possessions? or if not themselves at
tracted by wealth, are they not soon talked
into proper state of feeling by their rela-
tions? Yes, but that very affirmation
strengthens and supports the original asser-
ton. The chance Of happiness in marriage
is inversely in proportion to the ease with
which a wife can be obtained; in other
words, rich man has less difficulty in mar
rylng than poor man has, but greater
difficulty in finding a good wife. The
saying that 1.-The course of true love never
smooth should be altered thus, In a
smooth course true love cannot be recOg-
niZed."
Many young girl accepts the first man
that proposes to her, because she is touched
| and fiattered, or because, being heart whole
| she cannot refuse to let him try to win her.
| inexperienced in the art of saying no, aided
| by family pressure, leads many a girl into
an uncongeniai marriage. Opposition would
have shown her whether OF not her heart
was really stirred.
| People who make sudden bounds into
great wealth seldom have any sympathy
with those they have left behind. The rich
women who consider their less lowered sis
| ters are either those who, with their hus-
| bands. have risen gradually to wealth, or
| else the real grandes danes, who have no
personal experience OF poverty, and cannot
imagine how it is possible to live on hun
| dredS instead of thousands. These being
| bred with the sense of nobleSSe obiige, and
| taught to think of the duties of wealth as
well as of its pleasures are often far more
| plying than there is any need for. Many a
lady of small means has often been greatly
amused by the tender way in which her
rich friends watch over their sXpenceS.
She finds another and more cynical amuse-
ment in the contemplation of the vulgarity
and newly Undiscovered helplessness of the
metamorphosed madam we have described
before.
A rich man who wants to lead happy
| home life should beware of women who are
| not liked by their own sex; just as girls are
| very foolish if they encourage men against
| whom their brothers and cousins warL
| them. Often the soft, yielding little woman
| is not at all what she appears to be, but is
acting cleverly to attract unWary men; and
other girls may know her to be spiteful.
selfish, and ungenerous. Men shrink from
anybody loud and bouncing, and certainly a
noisy, overgrown woman is not an object
| to admire; but still she may be twice as
sensitive and tenderhearted as her mouse
like, smaller sister, 1t very commonly oc-
ours that little women are tremendously de-
termined whereas the elephantne maiden
takes after her prototype in docility as well
as in size. If men have no sisters suitable
to be consulted i'll so delicate matter as
marriage let them take counsel with some
honest, trustworthy married woman.
| We do not underestimate the great bless
ing of love, but, only recognizing the great
difficulty rich men encounter in making
sure of it, we would warn them against
trusting to inclination only. Their posi-
ton being so extremely critical, they must
take double care to discover if the wives
they choose are really good, generous
women. We would also implore people
who intend to marry to make sure of mutual
respect and great sympathy. Those who
are in perfect harmony with each other
may yet represent widely different notes;
but if they jar at all, or even in the slightest
degree bore each other, then let them draw
back ere it is too late. Loneliness is far
more endurable than an ill-assorted mar
! riage.-The Queen,