Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1886-03-11
Gales aud Skftthts.
Training Boys for Husbands.

Training Boys for Husbands.
To marry or not to marry, Is q question
nearly all must answer. To one side 1t 10
an unfair position, for they must needs
choose from those who ask or 60 without,
and the uncertainty Of future opportunities
are so great as to greatly influence the
answer, and so often do after events prove
the mistake thus made, one cannot help
wishing each person was stamped with
the address of their partners for life {; this
much settled ,one factor of mistake would
be removed, and whatever fault-6nding
there must be could not be aimed at eth
er. As such state of things cannot be.
we must make the best of matters as we
find them. No doubt there is trouble on
both sides. but it certainly IS not more
than half ON the side of the woman. The
present rules of society are most favor
able TO both Intentional and unintentional
deception neither party can know much
OF the home life of the other until the ir-
revocable step is taken. Young people
are allowed to mingle together, forming
associations from impulse; taught to be-
lieve love will go where sent, and that
love is blind, and all such nonsense, in
stead of knowing for certainty that rea-
son should Judge all things, and that
matrimony means more than unlimited
| freedom, with some one to constantly an
/ ticipate ones wishes.
! Girls have learned that however sensi-
BILE they may be, unless they can put on
STYLE and look bewitching, ten chances
to one instead of being honored
for it they will be snubbed
and left to languish on the parental bush
until the frosts of tall have come if young
men cannot afford to marry it is their own
fault, for they have put premium on
dress and accomplishments in women, and
it is not their fault all women are not ex-
travagant and selfish, which, thanks to in
nate good sense, is not the case. Were
men not 50 near stone blind on this point,
they would have less trouble in finding
sensible wives, for in everv town there is
at least a score of just as good, economi-
cal, sensible girls, as the good mother,
men are so fond of quoting. She probab-
ly does not excel in roller skating; l
doubt if she knows how to dance, but she
can and does help mother, plays for home
amusement, and enjoys reading of the
more substantial kind, but let me tell you
young man. if you are going to find her
you will need more of a recommendation
than gold headed cane, love of a
mustache and rhine stone pin can give,
or you will fail to win her for a wife 1t
is more than probable she can take care of
herself and will need to see she is gaining
helpmeet before she consents to give up
her liberty and her name. But young
men will not get their eyes open until
mothers take the matter in hand and train
! their boys from the cradle up to be men fit
| for husbands 1t is lamentable
fact that mothers seldom think OF
having this object in view. 1t seems
to be the general opinion that some woman
will be able to live with the man, who, as
boy, possessed such violent temper it
was almost impossible to live with him,
who was coaxed, petted and spoiled from
the cradle up, until by some fairy process
he is to outgrow all these little failings and
develop into a Nan Fit For Husband,
Just as easily as nature gives the downv
upper lip when manhood's estate is
reached. The facts will bear me out in
saying this is not always the case-''as We
sow, so shall We reap"-the ungoverned
boy will make more or less tyrannical
husband.
Mothers cannot too fully realize the
privileges they may have in rearing boys.
Let them cease to envy their childless
neighbor; cease to clamor for the ballot
box, working faithfully the part that God
has given, knowing that to you it may
come to be the power behind the throne,
when in future years many honors may be
showered on the head now pillowed on
your breast. The little boy who now
prattles on your knee, will some day, if
life is spared, have his part to play in the
great drama of life. and how we'll he
takes his place will depend much on the
mother, to whom he now looks for in
structon. Well it is for both mother and
child that if this thought be not lost sight
Of There are few points to be thought
OF in training boys which go long way
towards making men fit for husbands-one
is
| LOVE OF HOME.
Too much care cannot be taken on this
po;nt II SeemS natural for them m Stra Z