The Monitor. [volume] (Woodstown, N.J.) 1884-1892, 1886-11-05

The course taken by Mrs. Victoria
Schelling in running away from her hus-
band is very logical consequence of such a
Il marriage as hers. She was an undutiful
daughter, and nov she proves to be An un-
trustworthy wife. She is as careless of
her responsibilities as a wife as she was
indifferent to her obligations as a child.
Her offence did not consist in marrying
her fathers coachman. There is no law,
divins or humane. against that, and in this
republic men rise TO wealth and conse-
quence from positions no higher than that
Of Schclling. Abraham Lincoln was a
rail splitter, Andrew johnson was a tailor,
John Jacob Astor was a huinbled German,
and Cornelius Vanderbilt started as a poor
boatman. There are very few fortunes in
America which were not earned by their
than two generations old.
But the daughter of Mr.. Morosini mar
ried in utter disregard ofller parents, with
out having consulted them, and with the
knowledge thatshe would fill them with sor-
row and modification. They had reared
her with infinite tenderness, and yet when
she was grown to womanhood she desert
ed them as if their devotion and watchful
care were as nothing compared with her
selfish caprices.
There are multitudes of young people
who toss their heads and say that it is no.
body's business besides their own whom
they marry. We are in love, they cry, and
of course we shall marry. But it is by no
means true that simply because a man and
a woman are in love they ought to get
married. 1t is a foolish and a dangerous
step for them to venture upon matrimony
without love but it may be equally rash
and im%prudent for them to go into matri-
mony for no other reason than that they are
fond of each other. The love may have
no sufficient basis of respect TO assure its
permanence, and difference of training, dis
position and association may causc them
to be unequally yokcd together. Inherit
ed disease, mental, moral, or physical,
may make the lives of their children a
curse to themselves and to the community.
And they may not be ready to marry be-
cause of other and prudential reasons. The
bars to marriage are many.
A marriage, too, is the business of other
people besides the two who propose to get
married. There are two families to be con-
sidered, for is not a new member to be
brought into them? A daughter is to be
given to the keeping of another than her
parents and is not that a transfer in which
they nave an interest SO deep that they
should be consulted as to it? The COM
munity also has its rights and it takes care
to enforce them by law; for the title to pro-
perty and the maintenance of the offspring
ofthe union are involved. Last, the child
rem to come of the marriage are possible
or probable parties whose rights must be
guarded in the contract.
So, you see, young people, that mar
rage is a very serious business, in which
many others besides yourselves have a
right to be considered. Therefore, when
you propose marriage, take all the steps
| openly and with due regard to every body
who is now or who is likely to be affected
by the contract. Then the chances that
you will repent of the step as Mrs. Schell-
| inc has done, will be reduced to minimum.
| Matrimony is an honorable state, therefore,
take care to go into it honorably.-Tt
San.