The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1886-10-28
FOR YOUNG WIVES.
: How They May Become Successful Home
| Keepers as Well as House-Keepers.

How They May Become Successful Home
Keepers as Well as House-Keepers.
Housekeeping and housekeeping are
two very different things. There is
many a well-kept house that has
scarcely an element of the true home.
There are many beloved and cherished
homes where there is not very good
housekeeping. Housekeeping under
certain circumstances may be sighted,
and there are times when it becomes
the house-keeper's duty, for the sake
of other duties, to make her house.
keeping secondary. but the home
keeping never. "Do you keep house
and take care of your children?" asked
one Young mother of another. mo.
take care of my children and keep
house." was the sensible reply To
rightly proportion the work and care
of home between housekeeping and
housekeeping requires an amount of
wisdom and patience such as no one
who has not tried it can estimate.
Great are the responsibilities of the
young wife; perplexing and dis.
couraging the problems which will
continually arise in the complex home
life of to-day. She will need above all
| things, patience and the ever-sustaining
| power of deep sense of duty. These
are the foundation stones of the home
where love will live and grow and be-
come stronger and more precious with
every passing year.
There is one common fact to which
nearly every young wife must recon
Gle her mind at an early period in her
| married life, and that is that the cares
| of the home, with all their multiplicity
and wearisomeness of detail, will de-
volve chiefly upon her. Her husband
will be mainly absorbed in his business,
if he is good business man. The pc
| culiarity of the business life of to-day
is the strain it puts on the attention
during business hours, so that every
thing foreign to it is almost necessarily
excluded So the young house-keeper
must not be disappointed and become
piqued and pouty if John shows a de-
cided reluctance to attend to any small
matters pertaining to the household.
have known a young wife make herself
unhappy for days over the circum'
stance of her husband declaring some.
what emphatically that he could not
take time to stop at the grocer's on hi:
way to business to order soap and
starch on Monday morning. She said
to herself, and finally said to him, thai
when he was counting her he could
spend an hour any time and rush al
over town to match shade of EN-
broidery silk, or find certain kind o.
rose for her to wear to party. Why
this change, unless he was ceasing t.
care for her wishes and convenience
All such nonsense needs to be pu
aside by firm, good sense. In married
life, as in all other relations of the
home. a great deal must be taken fo1
granted To be constantly on the
watch for little lapses and failures in
attention is like pulling the earth away
from planted seeds in order to see il
they are growing. Not but that little
attentions should be lovingly contin
ued, and the tender plant of love con
stantly and tenderly cherished, but
there should be no suspicion or re
proaches for little inattentions O
omissions that may merely be the re
suit of absorption in cares and tn,
necessary work of life. The best wa.
for young wife to secure lovin!
attention from her husband is to hol'
his love by her gentle and steadfas
kindness and faithfulness, and his ad
miration and respect by the manner il
which she fulfills the duties that fall t
her share in the domestic partnership
This she will utterly fail in doing if sh
becomes querulous, fault-finding, sus
picious, or undertakes to keep calm.
him to account on unimportant matter
in connection with their home life
Helen e. Starrett, IN Chicago interior