The Pickens sentinel. [volume] (Pickens, S.C.) 1871-1903, 1886-03-18
"As Ye Sow so Shall We Reap,"

10 marry or not to marry is n uucs.
uon nearly all must answer. To ono side
" ls an unfair position, for they must
needs choose from those who ask or 90
without. and the uncertainty of future
opportunities are so grca, rs to greatly
influence the answer ard so often do
after events prove the mistake thus
made, one cannot help wishing each
person was stamped with tho address of
their partners for life; this much settled,
ono factor Of mistake wonld be removed
ana whatever faull-inding there must
be could not be aimed ut either. As
such state of things cannot he. ,yc
must make the best of matters as we find
thcnn. No doubt there is trouble on
both sides, but it certainly is not more
than half on the side of the woman.
lhe present rules of society are most
favorable to both intentional and min-
tcntlonal deception: neither party can
Know much of the home life of the other
until the irrcvocablo step is taken.
Young people arc allowed to minrlc TO-
Scther forming associations from I'M
pulse; taught to believe love will go
where sent, and that love is blind. and
all such nonsense, instead Of knowing
Tor certainty that reason should iudro
all things, and that matrimony means
moro than unlimited freedom. with
some one to constantly anticipate ones
wishes.
Girls have learned that however
sensible they may be. unless they can
put on style and look brwitchinc, ten
chances to one instead of being honorcd
for it, they will be snubbed and left to
lanGuish on the parental bush until the
trosts Of fall have come: if vounr
men cannot afford to marry it is their
own fault, for they have put premium
on dress and accomplishments in wo-
mon, and its not their fault all women
are not cNtravagant. and selfish, whicl,
thanks to innate good sense is not the
ease. Were men not So near stone
bllnd on this point they would have less
trouble in finding sensible wives, for in
every town there is ut least score of
Just rs good, economical, sensible girls,
as the good mother, men arc SO fond of
quoting. She probably does not excel
in roller s kating; l doubt if she knows
how TO dance, but sho can and does
hclp mother, plays for home amuScmrnt,
and enjoys reading of the moro subStan-
tal kind, bat let ne tell you young
man II you are going to find her YOU
Will need more of a recommendation
than T gold-hcadcd cane, a love of a
mustache and Il rhine stone pin can
give, or you will very likely fail to win
her for wife. 1t is more than proba-
bic she can take care of herself and will
need TO see she is gaining a hclpmcet
before she consents to give up her libcr-
ty and her name. Bat young men will
not get their eyes open until mothers
take the matter in hand and train their
boys from the cradle up 10 be Men Fit
For Husbands. 1t Is y lanicntablc fact
that mothers seldom hiNk of having
this object in view. Ii seems to be the
general opinion, that some woman will
be ablo to live with the man, who, rs Il
boy, possessed such violent temper il
was almost impossible TO live with him
who Was coaXcd, prttod and spoiled
from the cradle up, until 10y some fairy
process he IS TO outgrOw I'LL these littlC
failings aul develop into Man Fit Fol
4 Husband, just as easily rs nature
gives the downy upper lip when man
mood : estate is r""chcd. The facts will
bear me out in saying this is not ALWAYS
the case --'';is yc SOW, so shall We rtaD''
the ungorcrn"d boy vii! make a moro
or less tvrannical husband. .InC!it Il.
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