The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1886-02-12

I want to tell you that the destroying
angel passes by without touching or enter.
ing the door-poss sprinkled with blood Of
the everlasting covenant. Why is it that
in some families they never get along, and
in others they always get along well. 1
have watched such cases, and have come
to conclusion. In the first instance. moth
ing seemed to go pleasantly. and after Q
while came devastation, domestic disaster,
or estrangement. Why, They started
wrong. In the other case, although there
were hardships and trials, and some things
that had to be explained, still things went
on pleasant until the very last. Why?
They started right.
My advice to you in your home is to e1-
ercise to the very last possibility of your
nature the law of forbearance. Prayers in
the household will not make up for
everything. Some of the best peo-
pie in the world are the hardest to get
along with. There are people who
stand up in prayer meeting and pray
like angels, whom at home are uncompro.
missing and cranky. You may not have
everything just as you want it. Some
band and sometimes of the wife to yield;
but both stand punctiliously on your
rights, and you will have Waterloo
with no Blucher coming up at nightfall to
decide the conflict.
Never be ashamed to apologize when
you have done wrong in domestic at
fairs. Let that be law of your house,
hold. The best thing I ever heard of
my grandfather, whom never saw, was
this: That once having unrighteously re-
buked one of his children. he himself hav-
ing lost his patience, and. perhaps. hav-
ing been misinformed of the child's doing,
found out his mistake, and in the evening
of tlfe same day gathered all his family
together and said: "Now have one ex-
PLANTATION to make. and one thing to say.
Thomas, this morning rebuked YOU very
unfairly. l am very sorry for it. I re-
buked you in the presence of the whole
family, and now I ask your forgiveness
in their presence" 1t must have taken
some courage to do that. Il was right,
was it not. Never be ashamed TO apollo
gize for domestic inaccu-acy. Find out
the points: what are the weak points,
il may call them so, of your companion,
and then stand aloof from them. Do NOT
carry the fire of your temper too near
the gunpowder. If the wife be easily
fretted by disorder in the household.
let the husband be careful where he
throws the slippers. If the husband comes
home from the store with his patience all
exhausted. do not let the wife unneces-
sarily cross his temper: but both stand up
for your rights. and | will promise the ey-
eria-ting sound of the warwhoop. Your
life will he spent in making mp. and mar
riage will be to you an unmitigated curse.
Covper said:
The kindest and the happiest pain
VIII lind occasion to foroear:
And something. every day they live,
To pity, and perhaps forgive
advise. also, that you make your chief
pleasure circle around about that home. It
is unfortunate when it is 9th ervise. If the
husband spend the most Of his nights away
from home. of choice. and not OF necessity.
he is not the head Of the household: he is
only the cashier. II the wife throw the
cares OF the household in the servants
lap. and then spends FIVE nights Of the week
at the opera or theater. she NAV clothe her
children with satins and lsces and ribbon.
that would confound a French milliner.
but they are orphans. Oh. it is sad when
a child has no one to say its prayers to,
because mother has gone of to the evening
In India thsy bring chill
dren and throw them to tie crocodiies. and
it seems very cruel: but the jaws of New
York and Brooklyn dissipation are swal-
lowing down more little children to-day
than all the monsters that ever crawled
upon the banks of the Ganges,
I have seen the sorrow of goddess moth. |
er on the death of a child she had neglect |
ed. Il was not so much grief tina. she felt |
from the fact that the child was dead as
the fact that she had neglected it. She said:
If had only watched over and cared for |
the child, know God would not have |
taken it" The tears came not: it was q !
dry. blistering tempest-a scorching simeon |
of the desert. When she wrung her hands |
it seemed as if she would twist her fingers |
from their sockets: when she seized her |
hair it seemed as il she had. in wild terror,
srasped a coiling serpent with her right |
hand. No tears! Comrades of the little |
one came in and wept over the coffin:
nei shbors came in, and the momen. they |
saw the still face of the child the shower /
oroke. No tears for her. God gives tears
IS the summer rain to the pa-ched soul;
but in all the universe the driest and hot
.est, the most searching and consuming
hing is . mothers heart il she has neg
ected her child, when once it is dead. God
nay forgive her, but she will never forgive
herself. The memory will sink the eyes
ieeper into the sockets, and pinch the face,
md whiten the hair, and eat up the heart
With vultures that will not be satisfied,
orever plunging deeper their iron beaks.
}, you wanderers from your home, 60
,ack to your duty! The brightest flowers
q all the earth are those which grew in
he garden Of a Christian household, clam
,ering over the porch Of Christian home.
I advise you also to cultivate sympathy
# occupation. Sir Sames Macintosh. one |
# the most eminent and elegant men that
yer lived. while standing on the very
Height of his eminence, said to a great
ompany of scholars. my wife made me-"
The wife ought to be the advising partner in
very firm. She ought TO be interested in
II the losses and gains of shop and store.
'he ought to have right-she has right
to know everything. II man goes into
business transaction that he dare not tell
is " ife, you may depend that he is on
ne way either to bankruptcy o. moral
uin. There may be some things which he
ioes not wish to trouble his wife with: but
he dare not tell her, he is on the road to
On the other hand, the hus-
and ought to be sympathetic with the
Fife's occupation. Il is no easy thing to