The Indianapolis journal. [volume] (Indianapolis [Ind.]) 1867-1904, 1886-02-28

Better initiate those women who, having made
mistake in alliance always have vail to hide
imperfectiops and alleviations of conduct to
mention We must admit that there are rare
cases where wife cannot live longer with her
husband. and his cruelties and outrages are the
precursor of enforcement or separation. But,
until that dav comes. keep the awful secret to
yourself Keep it from every being in the uni
verse, except the God to whom you do well to
tell your trouble Trouble only few years at
most, and then you can go up on the other side
OF the grave and say, 20 Lord, kept the mari
tai secret Thou knowest how well | kept it,
and thank Thee that the release has come at
last. Give me some place where can sit down
and rest awhile from the horrors OF an embruted
earthly alliance before | begin the full raptures
of heaven" And orders will be sent out to the
up to the softest seat in the best room of the pal
ace, and let twenty of the brightest angels wait
on her for the next thousand years"
Further, charge you, let there be no outside
interference with the conjugal relation. Neither
neighbor, nor confidential friend nor brother.
sister, nor father nor mother have right to
come in here. The married gossip will come
| around and by the hour tell you how she man
| ages her husband. You tell her plainly that if
| she will attend to the affairs of her household
you will attend to yours What damage some
| people do with their tongues Nature indicates
| that the tongue is dangerous thing by the fact
that 1t is shut In. first by a barrcade OF teeth
and then by the door of the lips. One insidi-
GUS talker can keep whole neigh
| borhood badly stirred up. The Apostle
Peter excoriated these busybodes in other
peoples matters, and St Paul, in his letter to
| the Thessalonians and to Timothy, gives them
sharp dig, and the good housewife will be on the
| lookout for them and never return their calls,
| and treat them with coolest frigdity. For this
| reason. better keep house as soon as possible.
Some people are opposed to them. but | thank
God for what are called flats in these cities.
| They put separate home within the means of
nearly all the population. In your married rela.
tions you do not need any advice. If you and
| your husband have not skill enough to get along
we'll alone, with all the advice you can import
you will get along worse. What you want for
your craft on this voyage is plenty of sea room
charge you, also, make yourself the intefli-
gent companion of your husband What with
these floods of newspapers and books, there is no
excuse for the wife's ignorance, either about
the present or the past. If you have no more
than half hour every day to yourself, you may
fill you mind with entertaining ndjuseful knowl-
edge. Let the merchants wife read up on all
mercantile questions, and mechanics wife on all
that pertains to his style of work, and tho pro-
fessional mans wife on all the legal, or medical
or theological, political discussions of the day
1t is very stupid for man, after having been
| amid active minds all day, to find his wife with
out information or opinions on anything. If the
wife knows nothing about what going on in
the world, after the tea hour has passed, and
the husband has rad the newspaper
ne will have an engagement. and
cases out of ten, when man does not stay at
home in the evening. unless positive duty calls
him away, it is because there is nothing to stay
for. He would rather talk with his wife than any
| one else if she could talk as we'll.
charge you, my sister, in every way to make
! your home attractive. / have not enough of
! practical knowledge about house adornment to
know just what makes the difference. but here is
an opulent house. containing all wealth of brio a.
| brac, and of musical instruments, aad of paint
| inpS and of nOhOlStarV and thpra iS in If O.
| chill like Nova Zembls. Another home. with
one twentieth part of the outlay. and small sup
| ply of art, and cheapest piano purchasable and
yet, as you enter it, there comes upon body
mind and soul glow of welcome and satisfied
and happy domestcity. The holy art of making
the most comfort and brightness out of the
means afforded every wife should study
At the siege Of Argos Pyrrhus was killed by
the tile of a roof thrown by woman, and Ablm-
elech was slain by stone that woman threw
from the tower of Thebez and Earl Monfort
was destroyed by rock discharged at him by a
woman from the walls of Toulouse. But with
| out any weapon save that of her cold cheerless
| household arrangement, any wife may STAY all
| the attractions of q home circle. wife and
| mother, in prospered circumstances and greatly
admired. was giving her chief time to social life.
| The husband spent his evenings away. The
son. fifteen years of age, got the habit, and
there was prospect that the other children, as
they got old enough, would take the same turn
One day the wife aroused to the consideration that
she had better save her husband and her boy
Interesting and stirring games were introduced
into the house. The mother studied up inter-
esting things to tell her children. One morning
the son said: Father, you ought to have been
home last night. We had grand time Such
jolly games and such interesting stories" This
went on from night to night and after awhile
the husband stayed in to see what was going on.
and he finally got attracted and added something
of his own TO his evening entertainments; and
the result was the wife and mother saved her
hon AVID nd han nxy n,,a hAp1
| self. Was not that enterprise worth the at
| tention of the greatest woman that ever lived
since Abigail at the foot of the rock arrested the
| 400 armed warriors!
Do not, my sister, be dizzied and disturbed by
the talk of those who think the home circle too
| Insignificant for a woman's career, and who want
| to get you out on platforms and in conspicuous
! enterprises. There are women who have a
special outside mission, and do not dare to inter
| pref me as derislve of their important mission.
| But my opinion is that the woman who can re-
enforce her husband in the work of life and rear
her children for positions ard usefulness, is do
| ing more for God, and the race, and her own
happiness, than If she spoke OH every great plat
| form and headed a hundred great enterprises.
| My mother never made a missionary speech in
| her life, and at missionary meeting [ doubt
| whether she could have got enough courage to
vote aye or no, but she raised her son John. who
has been preaching the gospel and translating re-
ligious literature in Annoy, China, for about forty
| years. Was not that better thing to dol
Compare such one with one of those die
away, attitudlnizing, frivilous, married CO.
| quettes of the drawing-room, her heaven au
| opera box on the night of Meyerbeers Robert
| le Diable," the Ten Commandments an inccnven-
fence. taking arsenic to improve the complexion,
| and her appearance confused result OF bella
| donna, bleached hair, antimony and mineral
acids, until one is compelled to discuss her char
acter and wonder whether the line between
decent and indecent life is, like the equator, an
| imaginary line
| What the world wants now is about fifty old
| fashioned mothers, women who shall realize
that the highest, grandest. mightiest in
| sttution on earth is the home 1t
is not necessary that they should
| have the same old-time manners of
the country farmhouse, or wear the oldfash-
Toned cap and spectaces and apron that their
| glorifed ancestry wore but l mean the old
spirit which began with the Hannahs and the
Mother Lois and the Ahigails of Scripture DAYS