Telegram-herald., 1886-04-22
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b. isuose the siis mother. las 1sel slp-
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A son-ia-l4E 8aes saerie4lly fsnarked
that oae af ll. reasons = bg A1am aad Eve
Eere ~ supr enlsly bappY in their terrestrial
par4.ilse sas rhas ao mother LAS existed
.n their iay ana eshaoioglsls aad anti
4larans both sustain che ars unlent thai
directly the m0fher-ia-las came into exist
snce train of aliseries origin ated ~hich.
however severe. have happily nCl yet driven
the steraer ssx 20 universal y0~ ~ cell
bay.
70 support the alsa that ulothe rs-Ln-law
have never been fAv0rably regarded eth
n0l0lists tel "a that a sing aiar custom.
which enActs that q man shall never look
uu0n the lace of his m3gher-iu- iaW after he
IS once married. prevails anon gst namer-
ous savage peoples apparently widely sun
dered 0y geographical distribution and dif-
6erences 0f race. The custom obtains among
the Calfres Of South Africa. among several
of the Australian tribes. and sm 0ng many
PoiynesiAns a fact which some people
assume 10 point 70 cou mon origin OF
these races. bat which others look upon as
testimony 5f the existence of natural
iaw. as a piece OF wisdom indigenO us 10
each Of these countries. aud the direct
growth Of individual experience The GUS
tom being found la such wide ly separated
continents a. Africa and Aus tralia Is con-
.idered as proving that IL must have been
suggested bv some common necessity OF
human nature. and reasons are not wanting
/ 90 shoE why savages discovered it va, bet
Ter for a man not % look upon has mother
/ in law Primarily. say the supporters OF
/ this theory because his mOther-in-law Was
/ a picture In auuci patton OF what his wife
was likely 20 be Before maria ge, a man :
mind may not be open 10 the cold processes
I Of comparison. bat after wards he begins 10
consider Nhat sort Of a bargain he has made
l and II his mOther-in-law has not improved
/ With age the chastity possibility OF his wife
I becoming ike her rises before him. Hence
/ these savage tribes prescribe the rule that
never after marriage should man see his
/ motheT-in-laW and this IN tIme became a
\ social law or custom.
/ 10 has been more than once fiippantly sug
/ gested that this lesson of a venerable ex-
/ perience might be accepted and the custom
/ adopted here, whilst Others, equally regard
/ less OF social aad other consequences have
/ advocated the institution OF a kind of Suttee
| arrangement. which should bind the British
matron by social prOpuety 10 close her
| mortal career upon her daughter mar
| riage Apart from the suggestion only
| beng available in cases where one daughter
/ alone blessed a marriage, there Is the more
| important consideration that 10 eliminate
/ mOthers-in-law altogether from society. even
III it were possible, would be most disastrous
1 in its effects. l. her presence really always
| - disagreeable 30 baneful 10 enjoyment
Il Is her advice never needed The world has
\ ALWAYS sided against her; 10 does not stop 10
consider the double characteristics of legal
l maternity which are involved when both
sons and daughters marry il still persists
J n viewing her only in her character OF
/ wifes mother. and repeats and revivIhes
/ from time "a time all the malicious denun-
/ Citations Of witty epigrams that have become
associated with her name.
Thackery even. who, with his large know
/ ledge OF the world aud of the human heart,
/ might have been expected TO be more
lenient 10 the unfortunate race Of mothers
| in-laW goes ont Of his way 20 draw the
| horrible Mrs. Mackenzie. plying his sweet
| sillv little Rosie and the much injured wives
/ OF her acuuaintances. without rejecting that
I they might in their turn become mothers
| In law Does not this fact suggest food for
reflection % the young husbands OF today
/ who a quarter Of a century hence may md
/ loving wives unavOidablv drifting into
| mOther-in- -lawhood2 And again, Is il not
/ rather unreasonable ln Young man 10
| object to her VINO has had the greatest share
{ in moulding the character and training the
/ habits Of the one woman he has chosen from
all Others % be his companion for life, How
strange it is. when one looks the question IN
the face. that a lady who Is considered
harmless enough until her children marry,
should after that happiest of family events
be elevated 20 such painful pedestal OF
disagreeabieness.
Asa matter of fact. i'm spite Of all that
n0vslsts and plavwrights have written. the
m0ther-in-law Of sons get on with them far
better than with their daughters-in-law
There are plenty OF instances IN every
[ ones knowledge wnere men are deeply at
/ fached 20 their sifes mother and she 20
them. but 10 is not every daughter-in-law
I who really becomes a daughter % her par
snts bv maria -e. She may az the same
I time he on excellent terms with her father
in law So much 40 that one NAV hazard
the supposiuOn that in every position IN
life people IF opposite sexes get on best to-
/ ypther The mother-in-iaw Is often prone
I to think no girl is good enough for her
darling boy and thus begin her new rela-
I t0nship with a prejudice which the
aaughter-in-law. confident ia the love her
husband bears her, may 10 nothing to dis
pei.
grey beard once remarked that it would
save bali The family sguahbles of a genera
fion if Young wives woaid bestow a modi
cum Of The pains they one took 70 please
their lovers In trying to 90 attractive e
their mothers in-law and the advice igh'
be- followed with advantage in many cases
As rule in NAV be- said that sons ol
daughters .n-law who complain Of theil
wife or husbands mother. are not them
selves such zood husbands or wives a. the
might %. A man who has cranky, frac-
tiors temper may iet oH his v~Tom on hi
naotber-in-lav because he dar not or car
NOS vsnt 70 upon anybody but bis wife 81
. h pr mother and in the same way a Youn.
married woman who fails IN cOntroiin.
her servants who let's Master Tommy over
pst himself and who runs into a thoussne
Foolish evtravazanees. may lag every dis
agreeable thing 20 fhe door o.
her motherin Isw-the upset In th