The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1886-03-05


reason that 20 often . man ceases to love
his wife 10 because the wife ceases to be
lovable. In many cases what elaboration
Of toilet before marriage and what reck-
lessness Of appearance after. The most
disgusting thing on earth IL slatternly
woman. mean q woman who never
combs her hair until she goes out or looks
like fright until somebody calls. That
man married to one Of these creatures
stays ct homo a. little - possible IL no
wonder. It 10 wonder that such . man
does not 60 on whaling voyage Of three
years and in leaky ship. Costly ward
robe il not required; but, o woman, II you
are not willing, by all hatingenuity Of re-
fnement can effect, to make yourself at
tractive to your husband, you ought not to
complain If he seek in other society those
pleasant surroundings which you deny
him.
Again, charge you, never talk to others
about the frailties Of your husband. Some
people have Q way, in banter, Of elabo-
rately describing to others the shortcom.
ings or unhappy eccentricities Of hus.
band or wife. All, the world will find out
soon enough all the defects Of your com.
panion. No need Of your advertising them.
Better initiate those women who, having
made mistakes in Alliance, always have q
veil to hide imperfections and alleviations
of conduct to mention. We must admit
that there are rare cases where q wife can
not live longer with her husband, and his
cruelties and outrages are the precursor Of
enforcement or separation. But until that
day comes keep the awful secret to your
self. Keep it from every being in the uni
verse, except the God to whom you do well
to tell your trouble. Trouble only . few
years at most, and then you can 60 up on
the other side of the grave and say: 20,
Lord, kept the marital secret. Thou
knowest how well kept it, and I thank
thee that the release has come at last.
Give me some place where can sit down
and rest awhile from the horrors Of an
embruted earthly alliance, before I begin
will be sent out to the usher angels, say
ing: "Take this Abigail right up to the
softest seat in the best room of the palace,
and let twenty Of the brightest angels wait
on her for the next thousand years."
Further charge you let there be no
outside interference with the conjugal re-
lation. Neither neighbor nor confidential
friend, nor brother, nor sister, nor father,
nor mother, have right to come in here.
The married gossip will come around and
by the hour tell you how she manages her
husband. You tell her plainly that il she
will attend to the affairs Of her household
you will attend to yours. What damage
some people do with their tongues! Ma.
ture indicates that the tongue Is a danger
Gus thing by the fact that it is shut in, first
by q barricade Of teeth and then by the
door of the lips. One insidious talker can
keep q whole neighborhood badly stirred
up. The Apostle Peter excoriated these
busybo dies in other peoples matters, and
and to Timothy, gives them a sharp dig,
and the good housewife will be on the
lookout for them and never return their
calls and treat them with coolest frigidty.
For this reason better keep house as soon
as possible. Some people are opposed to
them, but thank God for what are called
flats in these cities. They put up a seper-
ate home within the means of nearly all
the population. In your married relations
you do not need any advice. If you and
your husband have not skill enough to get
along well alone, with all the advice you
can import you will get along worse.
What you want for your craft on this voy-
age is plenty of sea-room.
charge you, also, make yourself the in.
telGgent companion of your husband.
What with these floods Of newspapers and
books, there Is no excuse for the wife's ig-
norancs either about the present or the
past. II you have no more than a half
hour every day to yourself you may fill
your mind with entertaining and useful
knowledge. Let the merchants wife
read up on all mercantile questions, and
the mechanics wife on all that pertains
to his style of work, and the professional
mans wife on all the legal or medical or
theological or political discussions Of the
day. 1t is very stupid for a man,
after having been amid active minds all
day, to find his wife without informa-
ton or opinions on anything. II the
wife knows nothing about what is going
on in the world, after the tea hour has
passed, and the husband has read his
newspaper, he will have an engagement,
and must 60 and see a man. In nine cases
out of ten, when a man does not stay at
home in the evening. unless positive duty
calls him away, it is because there is
nothing to stay for. He would rather
talk with his wife than any one else il she
could tax as well.
charge you, my sister, in every way to
make your home attractive. l have not
enough Of practical knowledge about
house adornment to know just what
makes the difference; but here is an
opulent house, containing all wealth
of bric-a-brac, and of musical in
strument, and of painting, and Of
upholstery, and yet there is in it a chill
like Nova Zembla. Another home, with
one.twentieth part of the outlay, and
small supply Of art, and cheapest piano
and yet, as you enter it,
there comes upon body, mind and soul,
glow Of welcome and satisfied and happy
The holy art of making the
most comfort and brightness out of the
means afforded every wife should study.
At the siege of Argos, Pyrrhus was
killed by the tile of roof thrown by
woman, and Abimelech was slain by q
stone that q woman threw from the tower
Of Thebez, and Earl Montfort was de.
stroyed by a rock discharged at him by
woman from the walls Of Toulouse. But
without any weapon save that of her own
cold, cherries household arrange ment,
any wife may slay all the attractions of a
homo circle. A wife and mother in pros
pered circumstances and greatly admired
was giving her chief time to social life.
The husband spent his evenings away. The
son, fifteen years Of age, got the same nabit,
and there was prospect that the other chill
dren as they got old enough would take the
same turn. One day the wife aroused
to the consideration that she had better
save her husband and her boy. Interest.