St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-05-30
UNIV RIED BELLIES.
Some Reasons why They Are No
Asked TO BECOME wives.

Some Reasons why They Are Not
Asked to Become Wives.
1t is lamentably true that men as rule
do not marry the society bellies What is
the cause of this, when the aim and ambi
ton Of the doting mother is to make her
daughter a society girl, and belle if pos
sible only to find after a few years of
gayety that as a society belle, unless
married at once, her daughter must
give way to some newer divinity,
and, therefore. continue butterfly
unless rescued by some one not in society?
Surely the cause of this dearth of mar
rage in the best society is attributable to
fault inherent in the laws which govern
society, or it must be in the education and
training pardon the world which is given
the society debutante before and to the
belle after she is permitted to penetrate
the charmed (?) circle; is it not because
she is so enconlpaSsed about with prece-
dent upon precedent, fashion upon fashion.
etiquette upon etiquette, with so much of
the mock heroic and so little, if any, of the
genuine home feeling that the average man
who is
IN SEARCH OF A WIFE,
who is looking for home-not simply
companion for his parlor talks-is not this
lHC ICdSOH llldG lOIlS. anu some
times forever. before leading the young and
accomplished ''Ariadne" or her younger
sister in society to the altar? 1t is not so
much the expense of balls and parties and
theaterS and operas, and carriages and sup
pers, that deter the intending connubial
candidate from prOpoSing-though that may
influence in some degree-but think, it is
the latent fear that life with butterfly is
rather unstable and not to be ventured
upon.
1t is true, also, as ''Ariadne" says, that
men dance attendance on them for weeks
at a time, giving compliments and bouquets
and other tokens of endearment, out never
the decisive question, Wilt thou be mine?
Men, who are wearied by a days labor.
even in the most genteel employments,
seek recreation. If it is offered them at
the theater they flock thither and weep
laugh at the mimic life presented; if it be
the billiard hail. or worse, some will tend
thitherward: if society opens its door and
Invites the attention of the young men who,
by their long continuance in it give repeated
evidence that they are in it only for the
amusement or recreation it affords, and are
mot Ion the marry" the fault really
lies at society's door. And this other
land worthy young man, who is
looking for a wife, has entire to
society. finds it gilded circle full of pleas
lure and cOnvvalities, and in the end, when
he comes to marry, he rebounds to the prac-
teal unprosac view of life and will if he
can, select wife from without this circle.
COR take one from within its PALE but not
belle, and one whom he suspects of possess
ing other accomplishments and graceS than
those so laviShly paraded in society.
Am l bearing down too hard on
F"Ariadne' in seemingly shifting the blame
for her unwedded life on herself? | do not
80 intend. My complaint, if any | have to
find, is with the restrictions which society
places upon the Ariadnes; with the false
requirements which it demands, and withal.
for the exaggerated ideas of worth and
value which it instills into its votaries. 1t
is hollow sham,
a MoCKERY.
I know that this feeling of insecurity has
deferred me in selecting wife from among
my own rank; for, while have no reason
to anticipate beyond the ordinary accidents
of life, possible reverse of fortune and
consequent reduction to poverty and priva-
ton, yet, while even well-to-do it would
be of ineStimable satisfaction to me to know
that she who has honored with her hand.
likewise gave me place in her heart, an
was capable of being a helpmeet
Is ''Aradne" willing to stay in such So
ciety for another seven years. only to feel
that she is passed by because the down of
freshness has been worn off her cheek by
the many winters of filtration, and
because her younger successor still
possesses those charms? In con-
conclusion. 1 think it grievous mistake
for young lady Of ''Ariadne's'' age, love-
illness and accomplishments to continue
bound down by the iron rule of this cir
Gle. My advice to her and other Ariadnes
would be to cultivate the graces of a true
home life-thiS does not mean sewing on
buttons Or doing laundry work for a living
though a knowledge of both would en-
nance her manageable value-to mingle
but little with the butterfly throng and by
quiet demeanor and an undemOnstrative
lady-like bearing win to herself some really
worthy man, who is perhaps like myself
weary of society and society bellies, and
longs to find for himself an improsaic gen.
tlewoman to build up home and journey
together to lifes end.-Globe Democrat
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