St. Johnsbury Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1867-1919, 1886-09-02
MARRYING FOREIGNERS.


MARRYING FOREIGNERS.
The Sad Fate of Nellie (sartoris) Grant.
Baltimore Daily Ne,cs.
The announcement of the approach
ing marriage of another young Ameri-
can society belle to a foreign noble
man, and the great preparations for
the wedding, comes simultaneously
with description from good source
of the unhappy fate of General Grants
pet daughter, Nellie, in the Sartoris
family. The two circumstances meet
with sad points and contrast. Rumors
have prevailed for several years that
the marriage of Mrs. Sartoris had prov
ed unfortunate, but they were for OBJ
vious reasons, discredited. The i'm
mediate family were not disposed to
throw any light on the matter, which,
although in some respects of private
character, had yet deep interest for
the American people. 1t was remem-
bered that Nellie was the old Generals
favOrite child, and that when she be-
came the wife of Mr.. Sartoris he was
not without his misgivings.
The intelligence of her unhappy ex-
perience is brought by relative and
appears authoritative. The condition
of Mrs. Sartoris at her home with her
husbands father in England is describ-
ed as most humiliating. She is treat
ed as a poor relation, and is not per-
mitted to mingle with the other men,
bers of the household, but even takes
her meals alone. Her husband she has
not seen for several years, and he has
not contributed penny to her support,
but for the clothing of herself and
children she is obliged to depend upon
the bounty of her relations at home.
Doubtless nothing but pride induces
notification. The splendor the Sar-
toris-G wedding will be remem-
bered. The General was then at the
height of his fame. He was one of the
most conspicuous and hOnored figures
living. The festivities attending the
nuptials were far more splendid than
those attending the recent marriage of
President Cleveland.
Young Mr.. SartOris was supposed to
be great catch in matrimonial way
rich, blue blooded, and man of
quite brilliant prospects. Since then a
great many things have happened.
General Grant, the victim of Wards
rascality, is dead of broken heart.
His family are scattered, and some of
the members leading an obscure and
precariOus existence. The promising
Mr.. Sartoris is reported to have turned
out dissipated and reckless
CANT on the turf and dissolute in his
assOciatiOns-and caring so little for
his wife and children that he never
sees them. A dreary experience shows
that these foreign matches of American
young ladies rarely turn out happily.
An occurrence the other day throws Il
light on some of the other cases. Miss
Adele Grant, the beautiful New York
er, broke her engagement with Lord
Cairns-the hero of the FOrtescue law
suit-because the latter applied to have
his debts paid before entering upon the
new relation. The cold-blOOded as
surance of demand of this sort shows
sufficiently what an experience was be-
fore the young lady had she complied
with the request of her noble suitOr
and carried out. her engagement
shows, in short, what lucky escape
she made.
While the marriage of Mr.. SartOris
and the daughter of General Grant
was not one for money, present or pro-
spective, the General not having been
at any time a very rich man, there was
the mutual influence of certain pres
tige in the alliance. Mr.. SartOris
doubtless felt that something was add
ed to his dignity by taking to wife the
daughter of so distinguished person
age as Grant, and Miss Nellie Grant,
and possibly her mother, thought it
was no objection to Mr.. SartOris that
he was a member of an old English
family-if not exactly a man of title, at
least one of substance and standing.
Going away to live in a strange land
with a stranger is a hazardous expert
ment for any girl. Mrs. SartOris is on
ly one of the many who have sadly
realized the perils of such step.
Philadelphia Press.
Having fallen upon such an evil fate,
what recourse is left for the neglected
woman to whom self-respect is the
immediate jewel of her soul When
it was suggested by the Grant family
that Mrs. SartOris should separate from
her husband and return to America,
the answer was an instant, peremptO
ry, and conclusive negative. Evident
ly the neglected wife still dreams and
believes that in some way the estrang
ed husband will be brought back to
his allegiance and the old love reviv-
ed. Such a thing would be impossible
with the broad Atlantic rolling be-
tween them and so, like many another
woman whose heart is wrung by per-
sistent neglect, she waits and watches
for the miracle that may never happen.
If she has in effect lost her husband, at
least she will not become an object
of sympathy and cOmmiseratiOn among
those who have known her for a life
time. The feminine habit of mind
which cOnduces to and virtually com
pels the adoption of this course is
characteristic of the sex. All recOg-
nize it's existence, but nobody argues
against it, nor is there ever fault found
with it. The prodigal rarely returns
yet none the less do the weary yet
faithful eyes watch longingly for his
coming in the hope that patience will
at last be rewarded. Women are Opti-
mists by nature, and many American
women who are wives in Europe have
proved that the development of this
feminine characteristic is not checked
by republican institutions and social
customs.