The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1886-01-28
TALKS TALKS ABOUT MEN.
How to Choose a Husband.

How to Choose Husband.
DR.. Talmage, of New York, is preach
series of sermons to young people, ant
on last Sunday his subject was "How tt
Choose a Husband" The following i:
an extract:
The text selected was Ruth, l., o.
"The Lord grant you that ye may fuc
rest, each of you, in the house of hel
husband" "This," said the Doctor, lis
the prayer of pious Naomi. She was q
good old soul and knew that the devil
would take their cause in hand if the
Lord did not. She, therefore, prayed
that the Lord might grant unto each oi
her daughtcrs-in.law rest in the house oi
the man that they might ultimately
marry. 1 congratulate the felicity Of
those women who rather than marry and
have an unhappy narital alliance have
had none at all. There has been no lack
of opportunity, but they have preferred
to live without q husband rather than
marry one of the many imbeciles that
abound so plentifully in our cities. Men
who are incapables, nonentities, they
have seen, and they have determined that
they will not ally themselves to one of
them. They have eeen men also who
fauring their courtship were angelic and
after their marriage were diabolical, and
therefore they kept back from marriage.
A woman had better live lonely life a
thousand years than be annexed to one
of the many vultures with which our
modem society is infested. These women
in their single blessedness are angels, and
their coming to our households is of the
morning and their going away is like the
coming of night"
DR.. Talmage here described his "Aunt
Phoebe" as one of these angelic women,
and related number of incidents from
the recollections of his own youth in
which "Aunt PL ebe" played prominent
and a6ectionate part.
"She had had" said the Doctor, $50
many sicknesses, and had had thereby
such view of the next world that she
was heavenly minded. She said to me
one day, "De Witt, twice in my life |
have had such Illuminating views Of the
love of the Lord Jesus Christ that have
tainted away, and it was with difficulty
that recovered. People need not tell
me that there is no heaven; l have seen
ittwice." If, continued the Doctor, "you
want to know what Aunt Phoebe was in
a sick room and in home ask any ofthe
Talmages. Instead Of being the queen
of one household she WAS benediction
to many. When she went out of life
what shout, what benediction there
must have been in heaven, from the
lower floor to the top step! There will
always be large number of women who
will never be married. arithmetic and
mathematics show that that must be 80.
If you ask me why God has given us
more women than men don't know that
I have any answer, except that the "o-
men seem to be the favored Of the Lord,
and then, if you think of it, it is proba-
bly, an arrangement of infinite wisdom,
for you may call to mind that when wo-
man was created it was as an improved
edition Of man.
"There is only one thing that can
correct the disaster of an alliance with q
bad husband, and that is funeral.
(Slight laughter.) The police courts of
the world cannot correct the evil. A
mistake once made about marriage is
made forever. Avoid time alliance
with man who despises the Christian
religion. Beware of such man, for you
surely will have life of wretchedness.
Such man will put your hcme under
the anathema of the Lord God Almighty.
1t may possibly not be necessary that he
should be child of God, but it is nee
essary that he should not be q despiser of
the Christian religion. If you are
engaged to such one your first duty is
to break the engagement. Mywor'ls may
come to you just in time to save your
soul. Marry him AID you will probably
both go to hell together.
"Next, l charge you not to marry a
man of evil habits with the idea that you
can reform him. If you don't reform
him before he gets the prize you will not
do it afterward. You might as we'll plant
a violet in the face of the Northeast
wind.
81 also charge you to avoid lifelong
alliance with man who is so much
occupied in business that he has no room
in his life for anything else. Sometimes
YOU will find man who so spreads him.
self over the sidewalk of life that there
is no room fol any one else. He is Of
that class of men who have disposition
and nature that is protest against
marriage. Marry such a man and it
would be case of bigamy. There are
thousands of women at this moment on
the way to such slaughter.
"Avoid alliance with any one who
proposes marriage through newspaper
advertisements. An audible titter.)
Some women answer such advertisements
for fun. Put arsenic into cup and
swallow it first before you do that, for
you would do yourself less harm. Most
of the men who insert such advertise
ments are moral lepers. If man has
wealth of soul he is better for yon than
if he had a fortune of thousands.
eff you find a man who has never
made any mistakes, who is perfect, who
is Immaculate, don't marry him. 1t
would be swindle for you to do it.
Why you would unite yourself to perlec-
ton, and you are not fit to be married to