The Portland daily press., 1886-11-25
TALKS FOR the HOME.
Lot Of the Unmarried Daughters.
Kate hIatson Post.


Thomas Hughes says there Is a peculiar
charm about the words "one's own" which
II takes man or boy long to find out, but
doubt II there Is a woman who from baby
hood has not recognized that charm. Let Us
then think with more consideration than has
been our wont Of those women who have
never taken upon themselves the pleasures
and cares Of welded life. but whose lives
have been given up to others far more than
have those Of their welded sisters; -.
One such woman has charge Qi nouSe- ..aH
hold whose inmates are an invalid mothef,
feeble grandmother and bachelor Ofoener
She makes home happy for them, and with
what return for this sacrifice ot her Glrl-
hood2 WHAT are her pilviieges. pne can
not order a dinner exactly TO suit herself or
have il served according 70 her own ideas
and to change the hour OF meal or ask
friend in without first holding family con-
sultation would be considered high treason.
IL Il possible that even mothers are little
too selfish and exacting toward their unmar-
ried daughters Of uncertain age" IL would
be decided convenience to the musician Of
the family II the piano could be moved 10
another part Of the ROOM She speaks 30 her
mother about IT, The reply Is: Il see no
reason, Emily, why II should be moved; It
has always been there. When you have a
house Of your own you can have the piano
Just where you choose"
AAbW many tuOthcAo uiil5u tuttI 1tuttHtb
In this way, 1t Is not possible that remarks
OF this kind may have something to do with
the numerous ill-assorted marriages we daily
hear OF? The innate longing Of our woman
nature TO have something to call our own, 10
do with as we like, must be gratifed. and
gratify II we Will In one way or another OF
die In the attempt
Could not mother without loss Of dignity
divide her dominion, giving each daughter q
province OF her own? Even room In which
she can do exactly as she pleases and exer-
else her individual taste will do much to-
ward making her happy, and the daughters
must be made happy as well as the sons.
We hear and read much on the subject Of
making home pleasant for the boys but few
words are ever said about making home
pleasant for the girls. There IL a species
OF Injustice about this which those who
have not observed girls and their ways close
ly may not have seen. They, too, have tenn
tations and many little trials and difficulties
70 overcome and Of them 1t Is required that
they shall be always cheerful and amiable.
There Is another family with one unnlar-
ried daughter still at home. She does much
OF the housekeeping and the family sewing
bnt her recreation. that which she loves
above all else, Is her palette and brush; and
yet even her time Is not her own. She has
not one uninterrupted hour during the day
Patiently day after day she puts aside her
canvas TO ht on her mothers dress or sew on
.IalheI 5 buttons, OF see that the spare room
h - ready for mothers friends, and day
~ aStar .liade ds = 1.yeek after week. the work
81" aLsoi uay anu alas had 10 be put on
siis snS longs 70 40 mbich never comes.
II This 6iiS youne Isiv woman nTs, type Of class
whose burdens are heavy because nizeAk.~slSk -
OF numberless trifles. Can we not by little
more thought for her who thinks SO often for
others add something TO her pleasures.