New-York tribune., 1886-11-07
BRINGING UP CHILDREN.
EDWARD EVERETT HALE'S IDEAS.
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reonls in he world choose them for my life rom
panons For better for worse for cher 'or poord; II
This resolution will ut frat c"At Mrs. Jones s,ne
seons sef-denias n she Ia living IN the owh 49,. 49,
girls" rhat separation howerer really came th" day
she married. md she promised ten VIII wiz h, q,
deal OF soemnity, that she would meet II an '' '"
Before she makes his resoIution to take the case %
rrocrrssIve euchre rart7 Monday evening she s'avs
at home AMI the children with her Ihey are VIZ.
with her. They hate to 60 anywhere else htb o, ~
he anywhere else. In hor -ehoid 10 10 r,.r,s
a central lamp on Iares table. soon as supp-r
is done; children, per'ectiy by svse'n 1rs s, her
store. of ainmen Domnoos che x rs ~
lac. Nominated for years Each child has pencil
ready cut and a shee of 10 draw urOn az cert
as he would hav- bad bread ana mllE a. S,pe,, ot
cOlnred For the little children shr mas an .l
simpler ARRANGEMENTS OF tse Fndsrgsrvni tnr no bnriea
IN her but pleasure. to the evenings enter
tafnment Tar,ei a nuudred fol . whirh takes care OF
tsef where such provision made for It; she becomes
TIE right and Of zach hoy and girl, m're Ihah g'- ~
more than philosopher. than friend She has her
reward. Far those children grow irto a pass,n ,le
love for her. They know how young shs Is ana u"M
per'ect her symrathy with them. And every w"ra
she has 10 sneak them Of warning. OF advice: OF
request or command Is 10 tell She mas IL ade her
As we live II is no ways easy for a father to do
exactlr the thing in the same way bul Iet @ n.'
remember this mother did that the children are bone
OF ns bone lood OF his blood, that his life Il tner-
let him he on the lookout for chances TO have them
fames Nfni. the autnor " the Of India and
frat ed"r or me Westminster her'e'c was mah q.
letters Lteraturs. the writing Of books was h'
business ,....o..,. =.
father from his chiidrea 1t i this How zen Is u ~
to a how Don't disturb your father because he Is
Rur Min never said o. He sat at end Of the study
table his sat at the other. The boy studied 1's
H aud ns d1 and % nis s~ far er told hm on the otter
hand II the father mad LIST OF generals or OF snps 20
copy DO not u, a"U. ne bat is ts wav in wncn Jonn
stuart NJ II trained. and. n all the machinery oi
our generation. hign schOo intermediate schools
second primary third secondary schools
have not observed any hai mas lmproVen on 'hdV
specinen o. tra'nn for ltera IRE and literary WORK
r great advantage OF arm WORK as .cns,, IoI , ,
ira nj O' i that it admits so 'any chanc l"r
do it, the hoy h the fat er holds the
plough or the li'tle hoy drops tue rot't9es w.l,e
hgrer boy and the father them ami make the s
Where there's a will there's way. Ani the iathrr
who will re,L"mher tnat he has better rant 70 III. son
will lie on the lookout for good occasions for e0l anor
shin -, ,o,,r or, with n, rarean rod 10
measure the lines where hey are going to make tue new
reservoir. Yon come with u"
Of seventh power he VII say. Father am , veiy
but have 10 present to-noroF man OF nay
we can rememter written IN.
grow. how 10 have his without apIearinE r"
interfere wi. the scipllne or the school lie dOrs bot
80 rar iowever He t,kes the nov with him. and
th hov enters in.o his life Because the boy Is his boy,
tn bDy soes with him about hi- business II
rv they both bed hour earlier than n.ual
the nex, morning ant the father shows the boy how
IN tretc the aper for the how IN mix bis nt'
how ~ measure hi- paral- IA and merilians The prn
cinr again IL companonshp Just a. FAR as panion-
shir possible. He enters into MS poys pursuits ana
All nis does not mean that the sbusness ieducstiop,
or any business the Onse IL carried on Oy what wa
cal in New-Enelnd n cauens. The REGULATION Of efuca-
non AMI the re ,uaton all th@ affair." OF the family
ar. To be made bv the aher and tht m'hHr II theY
are sensible people they explain. Iarculiry to the
elder chill ren their for MAKING this or that de-
cis they 10 Thu that may De tne eAs"r or ne
children adapt themsel es u the decision ana t"y
must not give tn house reason 10 think hat
il has the upper no lss or that IL " the two
nfo effect Tt hardly To DISCUSS here the
reasons for this statensnt w no ~ IA
aroe 10 I'd The e,ecn;ve orcr must be- in the hands
wond consult with tine wilr nor tue wife with me
husband. hut thnf In simple trdth anu not IN NE apbOr
Put II thev are 10 exnlan the children.
there must he reasons TO explain Ihey must not
m ngs have certa derrmin atoms II does follow,
even that these determinations are the same FOR one
Here is Harry. for instance. who evidently has a
,aeultv for language. br is slow In mathematics and
oue ind erent ward nature Most schoo masters
viii want to let boy where h runs easily and
and on his mat em.tca .t dies But other teachers,
espe,Ially those Of the kind who Ike TO MAKE school
he vof ks n difficulty To develop his dormant activities
Oh those sidrs and 10 ma a, 49, 20 pa I unadsted -
We should never forget that we send these children to
school not much H. learn facts as to learn now to
le IN item OF course, there are some central facts
which they must learn: as that rec times thrre IL
nine and that spell. sb But the principal business
~ einca on is to boy and girl with aptitude desire
and strength 10 follow each the right way, the line OF
life which he or H. have 10 follow. II IL somewhat
ri.ky To give them eleven weeks OF botany, eleven
weeks OmOlogy.' eleven weeks OF keo"gN,,
q spanish in six lessons" Italian In sir Lessons
French in six lessons II mssn that they shall gam.
in Young the persistent power OF enduring 10 tue
eud 10 wnch only docs victory romr.
Fathers and mothers must remember what Mr.. Ham
erton SAYS vulgar parents are ant TO forget IL Is ts
That child may 20 ~ tasle e- facuue@' ana
consegueut urli.po-i;Ion- entirely unlike your
20 far as matter- depsrd on ue-crh res uehly
happens that child inher1t- GnaIle, from grand
fater or grandfather which 40 not appear n the
gener.rons between. >ow Il this happens your prob
mother wh1 mas = ia ghter inst Ike herself. or
wien a father mas "A who shares all his tastes and
habits nd ias directly INTO hs e'ncerhs. Dne @ otsn
sees parents puzzled in the problem thus pre-
seuted sthrm, and quite at oss now " no-, IT, hut
az gOu nave found out tha thrte sucn uHrr
ence IA make VI has been describe the problem
Is easier. Put yourself IN h p,ce is tle rye
which applies here ~ II apples 10 every oner ous %
IN Christian ethics The whole matter = very Wi dis,
cussed IN dr. Hamerton.s essay on FaIh"rS ana eons
The hest abstraction for father is to deserve ana
receive loyal and unfing respecL rom ms son rrom.
No. TINS Is not quito the hest not lue the surer he
satisfaction OF paternity Shall reveal the secret tntt
honorable and worthy fathers TIER proiouhaes,,
uapuness is able them-eves 10 respect thelr sons
II i Oi the Franc"na bopKs INA. ne rue - la al
down or family education. which really abprs ID ~
LEGISLATION and in all life II you grant grant cneel
fully; II you refuse, refuse hnaly Ihis meaus 'uio
vor chdren are u that nave not given
your directions thoushtessy. an tnat importuty oa
what tnev would call teasing II not gong 10 cuange
til. e,isIon As you watch the children on a hotrI
piazza summer, IN their lhlercour-e WIN ,i,s ,
mot ers tell in IA minute whether tue mothers
live Dy tins rule do Ohe set Of chiiren Will 4
prct carry points by making fuss enough aDou
fl-t wnc tie other set will accept tie ineyaDlr al
once an make their arrangeintn nts accordingly Ins
latter may be SAL in passing are not only ths
brtter children of the two, but tDry are IN fHct Tue
hspper; they get a great deal more out OF lie. -,
II Is oD-erye however that the two parts OF nr
Abbott- rule belong together II you mean To refuse
nually In thIs case you ought TO grant literally IN thaL
And TINS Ir from wretchrd plan uf barter. IL Il NOT
yOn say. BOUGHT the right 10 foroii youi 7M
ming to-day by letting yOn nshing yeslerlay lh",
a. All very yr tehed anl II can But YOU do want to ierl
Yourself your children to feet lhai on te
whole YOU have great confidence IN them TO spraA
very seriously you know they children of Coo ana
that you trdst them very largely. II they leri
that becadse you have granted Nberally-they VIZ
the refusal that you have reason
for refusal. that they mIst assent To H. IL -
innnrfanf TINT ineY shDuI understand tnat " !,