The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1886-05-01
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EVERYONE READ THIS
elbow to Be Happy, Though
Married.


Understanding About Husbands
Some Good Anecdotes.
A marvellous book, truly, is the one
bearing the title of GLOW to be Hap
py, Though Married." written by
graduate in the University Of Matri-
mony, and published by the enterpris-
ing firm Of Scribner's Sons, New York.
Yet, strange though the title be, the
volume contains more practical advice
and sound nformation-told, too, in
readable, spicy way-than could ever
be gathered from the endless discourses
of our nineteenth century preachers.
1t deals with problem which agitates
many Of us. The joyous, fleeing
hours of courtship pass, the happy
drives through the parks cease, the
deep glow of true love cools, the rosy
sunshine Of the wedding feast is cloud
ed, and we sometimes find ourselves
not happy, though married. Our darl-
ing Gwendolen has manifested impos-
sible capabilities for literature, ceramics
or art; original virtues spontaneously
spring into existence until our minds
are racked from sunrise to shutdown,
wondering what strange misfortune will
happen next. All the bright dreams
have vanished, and we wander to our
daily business in grand, gloomy and
peculiar frame of mind. Weep not, O
noble matrimonians, the panacea for
your ills has been found at last. "For
marriage, like government, must be a
series of compromises" and however
warm the love of both parties may be,
it will very soon cool unless they learn
the Golden Rule of married life: "To
bear and forbear." Husband and wife
should burn up in the bonfire of first
love all hobbies and little ways that
could possibly prevent home from be-
ing sweet.
A married pair should be all the
world to each other. Sydney Smiths
definition of marriage is well known ::
at resembles pair of shears, so Joined
that they cannot be separated, often
moving in opposite directions, yet al
ways Furnishing any one who comes be-
tween them" Certainly, those who 90
between deserve to be punished and
in whatever else they may differ, mar
ried people should agree to defend
themselves from the well-mesnt,p perhaps,
but irritating interference of friends.
The wife, on her part, ought not to
be less DESTROYS than she was in the
days of courtship of winning her hus-
bands admiration, merely because she
now wears upon her finger golden
pledge of loye. Why should she give
up those pretty wiles, to seem fair and
pleasant in his eyes, that were suggested
in love-dreams Instead of lessening
her charms, she should endeavor to
double them, in order that home may
be to him who has paid her the great
est compliment in his power, the dear
est and brightest spot upon earth-one
to which he may turn for comfort when
sick of business and the weary ways OF
men generally.
George Eliot tells US that marriage
must be a relation either of sympathy
or of conquest; and it is undoubtedly
true that much of the matrimonial dis
cord that exists arises from the mutual
struggle for supremacy. They go to
church and say 81 will" and then, per
hapS, on the way home one or the
other says Il won't" and that be.
gins it.
"What is the reason" said one Irish
man to another, that you and your
wife are always disagreeing?'
Because, replied Pat, eve are both
OF one mind she wants to be master
and so do l."
Each young couple that begins
housekeeping on the right basis brings
the Garden of Eden before man once
more. There are they,two alone love
raises wall between them and the
outer world. There is no serpent there
and, indeed, he need never come, MOI
does he, SO long as Adam and Eve keep
him at bay but too often the hedge OF
love is broken just a little at first by
small discourtesies, little inattentions,
small incivilities that gradually but
surely become wider and wider holes,