News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1886-03-18
THE SUNDAY PULPIT.
NIr. Talmage Tells Wives how to Treat
Their Husbands.

"In this series of sermons on the
marriage ring, said Rev. DIR. Talmage,
Sunday morning, Sabbath before last
told husbands how they ought to treat
their wives, and though noticed that
some of the men squirmed little in the
pews, they took it well. To-day 1 come
to tell wives how they ought to treat
their husbands. / suppose that your
domestic life has been happy, and that
though you may have discovered in
your husband frailties that you did not
expect, you have also discovered excel
lencies that far outbalance them. So
that to-day if I should look into the
heart of one hundred wives and l should
ask them where is the kindest and best
man they know of and they should dare
to speak out, ninety-nine out of one
hundred of them would say, In the
other end of the pew
But, suppose you have been swim
died in the conjugal bargain. Abigail,
spoken of in my text to-day, had hus-
band who was cross and queer and un-
grateful and inebriate So [ do not
want any wife to say within herself as I
proceed in this discourse, That is the
way wife ought to treat perfect hus-
band, for this Abigail had at the oppo-
site end of the table mean, snarling,
contemplate sot, and if she could treat
him SO well, such bastard, how ought
you, wife, to treat the princely and
splendid man who is walking the path
of life beside you?
"To get living IN this, the next to
the last decade of the nineteeth century,
is struggle. If your husband comes
home at night preoccupied, excuse him.
If he does not feel like going for walk
or an entertainment, remember he has
been out all day. You say he ought to
leave all his perturbation at the store,
the shop, the factory or the banking
house, and in my reply is that if man
through the day has been cheated by
business partner, if he has been jockey
ed out of large bill of goods by Gus
toner, if he has had thrown on his table
a protested note, if some one called him
liar, if from morn until night every
thing has gone wrong, he is genius at
of the trouble home. Remember that
his overwork is in the struggle for the
homestead.
'Most men that 1 know, after forty
five years of age, live not for them
selves, but for their families. The high
pressure of commercial life and of pro-
fessional life and of agricultural life and
of mechanical life and of all styles of
business life is home pressure So,
my sisters, if your husband comes home
at night exhausted with all these busi-
ness anxieties, do not nag him about
that, or tell him you might as we'll have
no husband at all. The fact is, he is
dying by inches to keep sup the old
homestead.
81 charge you also, my sisters, that
you make yourselves as attractive after
marriage as before marriage The
reason that a great many men cease to
love their wives is because their wives
cease to be lovely. The most disgust
ing thing on earth is woman slattern-
that is, a woman who does not comb
her hair until she goes out or looks like
6onrag 4 fright h unit until somebody calls. .a2SAs,
do don not by al t12t in2gtefiEfa t nfEa p' ~
make yourselves attractive to your hus
band you ought not to complain if in
other society he seeks the pleasant sur
roundings that you deny him.
'Do not talk of the frailties of your
companion outside your home. All! the
world will find out the defects of your
companions character soon enough.
Do not you take the trouble to adver
tise it.
'sDo not let outsiders interfere with
the conjugal relation. Neither neigh
Dor, confidential friend, brother, sister,
father nor mother has any right to in
terfere here. One insidious talker can
keep a whole neighborhood badly
stirred up. You do not want too many
people coming in, and coming in too
easily. What you want IN this voyage
of life is plenty of sea room, and if one
of the meddlesome steamtugs come up
beside you and lashes fast, the first
thing for you to do is with one stroke to
cut the hawser.
''With all this flood of newspapers
and of books wife's ignorance about
the present or the past is inexcusable.
Though you have only half an hour
day for yourself, you can in that half
hour fill your mind with practical, use
full information.
''Oh, it's stupid for man who has
been out among active business men all
day to come home and find his wife has
no information or opinion about any
thing. The holy art of getting the
most comfort and happiness out of the
means afforded is the art that every wife
ought to study"