St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-06-14
Rachelor,s Lament.


In the GLOBE of Il recent date was a reprint
of a letter entitled "a Bellies Lament" The
fair unknown regrets seven weary years of
social toll. She is "A, and has been f1attered
and complimented, and with the slightest en-
enlargement might now have been 81 loving
wife. She says: Its lamentably true that
like many another girl my ears have grown
so accustomed to compliments that they are
only empty, meaningless sounds, for despite
the victory d woman achieves every time
somebody tells her she is beautiful particu-
larry when she knows there is truth in the
assertion the fact remains and overwhelms
her like an avalanche from which there is no
escape, that among all the knightly galants
not one of the praiSeful throng haS the man
illness or courage to ask her hand in marriage
She points out the folly and figures the ex-
penSe of this, futtering-around-the
INTERCHANGEABLE business and
adds: isn't it simply heartrending for girl
OF my years-and my qualifications too.
may add-to contemplate! Is it any wonder
sit in my room every day. after night of
decolette dressing and silly Waiting, and
shed bitter tears because, though men flatter
they refuse 10 think well enough of me to
marry me? / truly Sympathize with the
young woman; but let me ask, is the lot of
the young men who fiatter but dare not wed
lovely damsels of her stamp, any more envi-
ale? How often have | not returned from a
full dress route, Invested myself of the infal-
Hable'spike TAIL esconsced myself cOmforta-
bly, with my slippered feet on the mantel fired
the final ar-philOSOphiSed. Through the
curling smoke see visions Of the fair being
upon whom I've expended my best efforts at
persHlage only an hour since. l think how
coy we would be were she too be gazing at
the dying embers on the hearth, sitting on h.
low stool by my side, and how tenderly I'd
kiss those pretty shoulders that but an hour
since comp AIRED with those of the Venus at
the Louvre. The picture is so enchanting
even seriously speculate upon the possibility
of making it real a little sober reasoning
and it is all dissolved in smoke even like the
cigar, the remains of which throw among
the blackened Goals. I'm 20 and struggling
barrister. The battle is not won. I've q
reputation to make-position to gain Ewes
fair daughters of to-day do not cast thier lot
with struggling young men, win or loose, rise
or GO under. The young lady of the period
is too well trained to do anything that is enot
strictly good form don't you KNOW, and it is
not good form to give away to sentiment to
the extent Of marrying man who has not
wealth or position. If it is not an absolute
drinking foreigner with title, it is fifty year
old millionaire with neck the
size of her waist that can successfully hid
for the favors of the fair maiden of to-day
She will listen to your tribute to her beauty.
She even grows connoisseur inHthe matter of
the quality of your compliments. She is not
stupid. and you must sharpen your wits in
OrQef TO invent palaCaDlo 1000 Tor her vanity.
She waltzes with you, fiirts with you even
INDUCES in tender little scenes with you but
marry you-dear no. he's such dear fellow
but so wretched poor and one must wed a
brilliant part1 you know" do not know
where the fault lies; but that marriage
among the better bred people is becoming
beautifully less cannot be denied. That the
effect upon both sexes is demorallzfng is
equally apparent. l know scores of young
| men with brains and education who shun So
ciely and the fashionable young woman for
| the reason that they will know that marriage
cannot be thought of until much later in life
with women in her sphere, and to follow in
her wake an admiring swain is a thankless
and costly task frought with more vexation
than pleasure. The result is that in most
large cities there are coteres of young men
and usually bright ones, too-who live rather
fast lives and in consequence when they do
marry at a late day are unfit to be husbands
and fathers. l know scores of young men
who would be willing to maryland in many
cases it would be their salvation-could they
find young women of equal social attain
mentS who would brave the struggle with
them.
The lives of most of these young men can
be boiled down as follows: A more or less
according to disposition-gay bachelor life;
and, If not wrecked by the wayside when
they get fat, flabby and bald, brilliant we'd
ding with an ambitious bud a short honey
moon, mutual disgust, big funeral, interest
ing young widow-tra la. LONE BACHELOR.