Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1886-09-02
why Men Don't Marry.

say it boldly and without fear O
contradiction, says writer in the New
Orleans States, there is not man liy
ing who is at all times proof agains
feminine destinations, who has not a
some period in his life's history in
dulged in the hope of realizing his
dreams of domestic happiness. in which
| the face of some real or ideal woman
shone forth as the guiding star to
brighten his life. No man ever in.
dulges in dreams of domestic happiness
outside of his ideal home. The world
is his at all times, in which to roam al
his own sweet will. His experience
teaches him that in all the world can
offer there is nothing so sweet as the
love which lives in the home, gives rest
to the soul and that peace of mind
which the world cannot give; his inner
most soul Graves for it, so satisfying is
it IN its tenderness. True love is the
very mainstay of happiness, and no out
ward ruin ''can wreck the citadel where
the immortal lives Is it the fear OF
the failure to realize such happiness as
this that keeps these dreamers from
seeking it in marriage?
The most inveterate club man, the
bitterest scoffer of ..love in cottage. .
are those men who failed, either from
lack of confidence in their own powers
OF persuasion or want of means in their
youth, to win the one particular woman
they worshiped as their ideal. Disap-
pointment in love is one of the main
causes OF there being so many bachelors
in the world.
There is another class of men who
very cautiously estimate the expenses of
married life, and come to the conclusion
they would be fool to marry a girl if
they could not support her in the style
in which she had been accustomed. +"
and, with wise shake of the head,
determine to let well enough alone.
Often men do not marry because they
are too busy; they become enamored of
their work; every effort of their exist
ence tends to the successful accomplish
ment OF a certain purpose, and mar
rlage does not seem to them essential to
that result.
Many men shun society as they
would some death-dealing plant, from
the very consciousness of their own
helplessness in avoiding being entrap-
ped into serious entang1ements, believ-
ing that where woman wills it she
can do anything, while man is. a
feeble child of destiny who can i'll af-
ford to war against so fair foe. Other
men, from worldly point of view,
have enough money to support one but
not enough for two; they value their
own comfort and position too much to
imperil it by allowing ..any sentimental
nonsense in love affairs to disturb their
mathematical calculations on the sub
ject.
There are plenty of men in the world,
and women cannot complain they do
not see them, for the tendency of the
age is Ito level all barriers between the
sexes. " Girls are allowed to indulge
in all sports that were usually consider
ed invented for the sole pleasure of the
lords of creation. They row, they skate,
they play lawn tennis; they-shall l say
it-yes, they smoke; it is considered
quite chic to indulge in the pleasure of
the weed in the shape of mild cigar
cite. Perhaps it is these mannish ac-
complishment that make men regard
the matrimonial state with disfavor, not
particularly relishing the idea of wife
being match for them in every sense
of the word, even to the extent of her
muscular development