Democratic Northwest. [volume] (Napoleon, Ohio) 1869-1894, 1886-02-11
HOW TO Be HAPPY.
DIR. Talmage,s Sermon ON "Hus-
band and Wife I'm Harmony
and Out of Tune"
Some Useful Advice ON How to Be Mn.
tuaIly Agreeable, and Make Happy
Homes and Hearts.

In preaching the fourth of his series Of SER
mons on The Marriage Ring" Dr. Talmage
founded his remarks on the subject @Hustaud
and Wife in Harmony and Out Of Tune" on
Amos iii, 8: @Can two walk together unless
they be agreedg" He said;
sNo. Amos, they cannot They will be trip
ping each other up or pushing each other
down. Married life under such circumstances
will be the sounding of perpetual war-whoop.
In this course of sermons on @The Marriage
Ring" l will to-day speak of the mutual duties
of husband In / wife preparatory to discourses
on their individual duties. ....
A church within church, republic within
o republic, world within a world, is spelled
by four letters-home! II things go right
there they go right everywhere; if things go
wrong there they go wrong everywhere The
door-sill of the dwelling house is the founda-
ton Of church and State A man never gets
higher than his own garret or lower than his
own cellar. In other words, domestic life
overarches and undergirds all other life. The
highest house of Congress is the domestic cir
Gle; the rocking chair in the nursery is higher
than throne. George Washington COM
manded tho forces of the Unite1 States, but
Mary Washington commanded George, Chry-
sostom's mother made his pen for him. If q
man should start out and run seventy years in
a straight line he could not get out from under
the shadow of his own mantelpiece. there
fore talk to you this morning about matter
Of infinite and eternal moment when /
speak Of your home.
As individuals We are Fragments God
makes the race in part, and then He gradually
puts US together. What lack, you make up;
what you lack, make up-our deficits and sur
pluses of character being the cogwheels in the
great social mechanism. One person has the
patience, another has the courage, another has
the placidity, another has the enthusiasm; that
which is lacking in one is made up by another,
or made up by all Buffaloes in herds, grouse
In broods, quails in flocks, the human race in
circles. God has most beautifully arranged
this 1t in this way that He balances So
ciety; this conservative and that radical keep
ing things even Every ship must have its
mast, cutwater, taffrail, ballast Thank God,
then, for Princeton and Andover-for the op-
posites. have no more right to blame man
for being different from me than driving
wheel has right to blame the iron shaft that
holds it to the center. John Wesley balances
Calvin's institutes cold thinker gives to
Scotland the strong bones of theology; DR..
Guthrie clothes them with throbbing heart
and warm flesh. The difficulty is that we are
not satisfied with just the work that God has
given US to do The water-wheel wants to
come inside the mill and grind the grist, and
the hopper wants to 60 out and dabble in the
water. Our usefulness and the welfare of So
ciety depend upon our staying in just the place
that God has put u.s. or intended we should oc
cupy
For more compactness and that we may be
more useful, we are gathered in still smaller
circles in the home group. And there you have
the same varieties against brothers, sisters, hus-
band, and wife-all different in temperament
and tastes. It is fortunate that it should be 80.
If the husband be all impulse, the wife must be
all prudence. If cne sister be sanguine in her
temperament the other must be lymphatic.
Mary and Martha are necessities. There will
be no dinner for Christ if there be no Martha;
there will be no audience for Jesus if there be
no Mary. The home organization is most
beautifully constructed Eden has gone; the
bowers are all broken down; the animals that
Adam stroked with his hand that morning
when they came up to get their names have
since shot forth tusk and sting, and growled
panther at panther: and midair iron beaks
plunge till with clottsd wing and eyeless
sockets the twain come whirling down from
under the sun in blood and fire. Eden has
gone but there is just one little fragment left
It aoated down on the river Hiddekel out Of
paradise 1t is the marriage institution. It
does not, as at the beginning, take away from
man a rib Now it is an addition of ribs
This institution of marriage has been DETAINED
in our day, and influences are abroad trying to
turn this earth into Turkish harem or great
Salt Lake City. While the pulpits have been
comparatively SILENT novels-their cheapness
only equaled by their nastness-are trying to
educate, have taken upon themselves to ed
ucate, this nation in regard to holy marriage,
which makes or breaks for time and eternity
Oh, this is not mere question of residence or
wardrobe! IT is q question charged with
gigantic joy or sorrow-with heaven or hell
Alas for this new dispensation Of George Sands!
Alas for the mingling of the nightshade with
the marriage garlands! Alas for the venom Of
adders spit into the tankards! Alas for the
white frosts of eternal death that kill the orange
blossoms! The Gospel of Jesus Christ is to
assert what is right and to assert what is wrong
Attempt has been made to take the marriage
institution, which was intended for the happi.
ness and elevation Of the race, and make it q
mere commercial enterprise; AN exchange Of
houses and lands and quipage; business
partnership of two stuffed up with the stories
of romance and knight-errantry and unfaith-
fulness and feminine angelhood The two
after awhile have reused up to find that in
stead of the paradise they dreamed of, they
have got nothing but Van Amburg's menag-
erie, filed with tigers and wildcats. Eighty
thousand divorces in Paris in one year pre-
ceded the worst revolution that France ever
saw. 1t was only the first course in that ban
quet of hell; and tell you, what you know as
well as do, thatwrong notions on the subject Of
Christian marriage are the cause at this day Of
more moral outrage before God ana man than
any other cause. H.
Thereare some things that want to bring be-
fore you. know there are those of you who have
had homes set up for great many years; and,
then, there are those here who have just es-
! tablished their home They have only been in
| it few months OF few years. Then there
| are those who will, after q while, set up for
| themselves home, ard il is right that should
speak out upon these themes. au,a.
My first counsel to you is, have Jesus in
your new home, if it be new home, and let
| Him who was n puest AZ Bethany be in YOUR