Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1884-1886, 1886-03-19
WOMAN AND HOME.
MARION HARLAND WRITES ON THE
DUTIES OF A VISITOR.

A False, Cowardly and Contemplate Say
ing-"Good Form" at Dinner Parties
Thoughts About Cooking-Women Who
Manage Business-Notes and Items.
The habits of your entertainers and such
incidents of your visit as are less agreeable
than you could desire or might expect, ought
! to be sacred from criticism while you are
with them and afterward You are visitor.
/ not monitor Your mission is to please, not
I to reform abuses Gossip founded on the re-
port Of zone who ought TO know, having been
guest of the family for weeks at a time, Is
50 far beneath contempt that may well be
ashamed to name it as a possible outrage upon
hospitality. Be explicit and courteous In
answering invitations, whether you accept or
/ decline State at what time you will make
Your appearance at your friends house and
how long you will stay. II prevented by IN
( foreseen occurrences from fulfilling an en-
gagement, send Oft your excuses and regrets
instantly that the failure my be nothing more
than disappointment. 1t is actual unkindness
/ to suffer useless preparations to be made for
receiving you and ministering to your wei
fare If your hostess-expectant knows your
tastes and endeavors to crafty them, there
win be an individuality in her arrangements
/ tina. would suit no substituted guest so well as
the one for whom they were primarily in
tended.
As final suggestion, accept the caution
not TO over-praise the appointments OF the
establishment that widens doors and hearts to
take you in. II your own home Is grander,
your means of entertainment IN excess o.
your hosts, the laudation smacks too strongly
of patronage TO agree with sensitive
spirits If your house be cottage by
comparison with your friends mansion.
the anxiety to admire all that pertains
to the latter has a SAVIOR Of sycophancy.
Adapt yourself naturally without question
or comment, to the temporary socket IN
which you are placed
Do mott entreat you by the memory of
personal experiences that CALLED at the time
ike an iIl-fitting shoe, and stung like sand
burrs-exert yourself to be agreeable. The
perfection Of breeding is to make your Ell
tertainer believe that the illumination yor
bring into their home is the reflection of tie
light shed by their own successful hospitality.
Marion Harland in Good Housekeeping.
A Cowardly, Contemplate Saying.
Il woman is at the bottom of every mis-
chief
So say a legion of noodles who know not
what they say, and who think they think.
when they only repeat what they have heard
others say before them
Do these faddists ever reflect that there are
two kinds of people in the world, male and
female, and es they generally associate To-
gether, it is probable that every occurrence
viii directly or indirectly involve some indi-
,iiuals of both sexes!
But unfortunately for the faddists there
are some conditions Of life in which
.leir theory can be thoroughly tested. In
e Californian and Australian gold mining
-,..ions they had no women, and yet if our
memory serves us right their days and nights
we're not altogether passed in halcyon SIM
J.icity, but on the contrary their camps were
scenes OF fighting, stabbing, gouging. shoot
M. lynching and bloody murder generally.
Un board ship they have no women to
make mischief, and yet they are not entirely
ianlblike in their relations, living together in
Jlotherly love and harmony. The soft an
5we- is often Delaying pin, and the hand of
fellowship is frequently at the end of yard
erm.
Now, if the opposite were the popular ex-
preston that there is a man at the bottom of
=. cry trouble, it would be much more diff
vi. 10 cisprove.
No, the oft-Iuoted saying is a false, cow
arily and contemplate one, and a disgrace
% the whole male sex II shows that men are
rs.ia:nci TO assume the responsibility of their
I,rn evil deeds, and meanly try to shuttle
ac:u OF on the shoulders of poor weak
..1-:.cl.-Texas Siftings.