Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1886-03-03

effect, to make yourself attractive to you
husband, you ought not tn complain if b,
seek in other society those pleasant sur
roundiugs which you deny him.
Again, charge you, never talk to other
| about the frailties of your husband SOM
people have way, III banter. of elaborated.
describing to others the shortcomings o
unhappy eccentricilies of husband or wife
All, the world will find out soon enough al
| the defects of your companion. No need 0
your advertising them. Better initiate thoe'
women who, having made a mistake in affi
| ance, always have veil to hide imperfec
tions and alleviations ofconduct to mention
We must admit that there are rare case
where wife cannot live longer with he
husband, and his cruelties and outrages arr
the precursor of dlvorcement or separation
But until that day comes, keep the awfu
secret to yourself. Keep it from every be
ing in the universe, except the God to won
you do well to tell your trouble. Trouble
only a few years at most aud then you car
go up on the other side of the grave anG
say: go, Lord, l kept the rnar;:e.1 S. = et
Thou knowest how well | kept it. and
thank thee that the release has come at last
Give me some place where | eau sit down
and rest awhile from the horrors of an EN-
bruted earthly alliance, before begin the
full rapJures of heaven" And orders vii
be sent out to the usher angels saying:-
Take this Abigail right up to the softsst
seat in the best room of the palace. and lei
e~enty of the brightest angels wait on hel
for the next thousand yearsP'
Further. Gil irge You let there he no
outside interference with the conjug,.l re-
lation. Neither neighbor nor confidential
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nor mother, have right to Come in here
The married gossip will come around and
by the hour tell you how she manages
her husband. You tell her plainly that
if she will attend to the affairs of her
household you will attend to yours. What
damage some people do with their tongues!
Nature indicates that the tongue is dan
gerous thing by the fact that it is shut in
first oy barricade of teeth and then by the
door Of the lips. One insld,ons talker can
keep whole neighborhood badly stirred
up. The Apostle Peter excoriated these
'bnsybodies in other penple's matters, and
st. Paul, in his letter to The Thessaonians
and To Timothy, gives them sharp dig,
and the good housewife will be on the look
out for them and never return their calls
aud treat them with cpldest figidi5y. For
hhio iOoopii oObbCl hCSp HOuSC d. ocph do
possible Some people are opposed to them,
but / thank God for what are called flats
in these cities. They put up separate
home within the means of nearly all the
population. In your married relations you
do not need any advice. If you and your
husband have not skill enough to get
along well alone, with all the advice you
Can import you will get alon. worse. What
fnr Fl on fhiS 0ca @
plenty of sea room.
l charge you, also, maze yourself the i'll
telligent companion of your husband. What
with these floods of newspapers and books
there is no excuse for the wie's ignorance
either about the present or the past. II you
have no more than half h ur every day to
y urself, you may fill your mind with enve:
tanning and useful knowledge. Let the
merchants wife read up on all mercantile
questions, and the mechanic S wife on all
that pertains to his style of work, and the
professional mans wife on all the lagal or
medical or theological or political discus
sions of the day. 1t is very stupid for a man
after having been amid active minds AL s "
to find bis wife without information or OpIn
ions on anything. If the wife knows moth
ing about what is g 'ing Oh in the world, af
ter the tea hour has pissed, ana the husband
has read the newspaper, he will have an ca
gagement aud must go a"d see man. In
niue cases out of ten, when a man does not
stay at home in the evening, unless Pos. tive
duty calls him away, it is because there is
nothing to stay for. He would rather talk
with his wife than any one else if she cpnld
talk as we'll.
| charge you, my sitter, in every way to
make your home attractive. | have not
enough of practical knowledge about house
adornment to know just what makes the
difference, but here is an opuient house,
all wealth of brio 0-brGc. AM OF
musical instruments, and of painting and of
upholstery, and there is in it a chill-lIke Nova
Zembla. Another home, with one twentieth
part of the outlay and small supply Of art,
and cheapest piano purcbasabe, and yet,
as you enter it, there comes upon body,
mind and soul glow of welcome and salts
fed aud happy domss'icity. The holy ant
OF making the most comfort aud brightness
out Of the means afforded, every Wife should
study.
At The siege Of Argos, Pyrrhus was killed
by the tile OF d roof throan By woman.
and Abimelech was slain by stone that a
woman thew from the tower of Thebt
discharged at him by woman from the
walls of Toulouse. But without any wea
pom save that of her cold, cheer less house
hold arrangement, any wife may slay all
the attractions nome circle. A wife
and mother in prosperous circumsi auces and
greatly admired was giviug her chief time
to social life. The husband spent his even
ings away. The son fifteen years OF age,
got the same habit, aud there was IL prospect
lb..t the other children as they got old
enough would take the same turn. One day
the wife aroused to the consideration that
she had better save her husband and her
boy Interesting and stirring games were
introduced into the house The mother
studied up interesting things to teii lie
children One morning tbs son said: ''Fat.l-
er, you ought to have been home last night
We lad grand Time. Such july games
and such iuteresting storie@." This vent On
from light to nighF, and after IA, while the
husband stay ed in to see what was going
on, and he finally got attracted and added
something of his own to the evening enter
tainments; and the result was that the wife
and mother saved her husband and saved
her boy aud saved herself. Was not that
au enterprise worth the attention Of the
greatest woman that ever lived siuce Abigail
at the foot Of the rock arrested tho four
hundred armed warriors.
Do not, my sister, be dizzied and dis
turbed by the talk of those who th ink the
home circle too Insignificant for woman S
career, aud who want to get you out on
platforms and in conspicu us enterprises =
There are women who have Special out
side mission, and do not dare t interpret me
as dersive If their important MISSION. But
my opinion is that Lhe woman who Can
reinforce her husband in the work of life
and rear her children for positions of useful
ness, is doing more for 6 I'D, and the race.
and her own happiness, than il she spoke
on every platform and beaded hundred
great enterprises. My mother never made
missionary speech in ner life and at
missionary meetiugI doubt whether She
could have got enough 'urage to vote aye
or no, but she raised her sou John, who ha
been preaching the Gospel and translatiIng
religious literature in Annoy, C'ina, To-
about forty years. Was not that a betfT
thing to do?
Compare s,dch an one with one OF th,se
die away. asgtitudiuising, frivolous mauie1
cooaettes OF the modern drawing room, her
heaven AM opera box on the nightof feyer.
beers tEiobert le Dlable, the Ter Com
mandmants an Inconvenience, takin tarseuic
to i'm ps,ye the complexion, and hef1ppear-
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