Western cyclone., 1886-12-02
Home Manners.
Industrialist.

Industrialist.
To those who notice particularly the
small things in life, there is marked
difference between the man who observes
the little niceties and the one who goes
through the world with his elbows out,
hitting everything in his way and bang
ing against every corner with all the
force of his motion. He gets the hurts
that come, and he hurts everybody in his
way. This blundering person is usually
intensely sensitive, but he carries that
sensitiveness out of sight, and tries, by
being little rough and by pretending
not to care, to cover up many of the
wounds he receives. If the homes of the
land were more mannerlv homes; if little
children we're taught to gracefully give
up to each other; if gentle ways we're
encouraged and consideration for each
others rights insisted upon,-we would
find fewer grown people who seem to
forget that there are any rights except
my rights" and less of rough speaking
that carries with it lasting hurt.
The little children are easily taught to
be always graceful-they fall almost
unconsciously into the nice ways of a
home if they only have pleasant examples
that it seems almost sin of omission
not to give them that ease of manner
which will be such help in giving them
happy lives,
We have very ittle sympathy for the
mother who is mortified at the cbild's
awkardness, which is manifestly from
ignorance. We may see plainly that the
mother knows how to conduct herself in
company, but the ignorance of the child
proves very clearly that the home man
ners have been neglected. While we
ought to do our best always for those
dearest to us, we often are most careless
before them, reserving our happiest
moods, our prettiest ways, our most
pleasant words, for the stranger, who
would scarcely care to think of us again !;
while we are careless with the home
ways, and feel that the home people will
understand all about things anyway.
Table manners are often noticed
among strangers. Now a-days a young
person who handles his knife and fork as
though he were afraid of them, and does
not seem to know what napkin is for,
impresses us with a sense of dissappoint-
ment, and We feel he has lost much of
the comforts of life; for what is more
uncomfortable than to feel conscious of
not knowing what to do next? MANY
take to the little graceful ways when
they are thrown among cultivated peo-
pie, even if they have had none of them
at home; but the majority of people who
grow up uncouth and uncultivatad in
manners remain so all their lives, or if
they take the easier manners at ell, they
are much more likely to be assumed.
These must come from an innate sense
Of kindliness, or they fail of their pur-
pose,-which should be always the
promotion of peace and brotherly low
That sense of kindly spirit is easily
cultivated in child by having before
him only gentle way and pleasant
word for every one. The opposite is
quite as easily encouraged by showing
him sharp criticizing manner and a
fault-fnding disposition.
Easy manners go far towards making
easy tempers. We are not constantly
annoyed with ourselves, and, knowing
just what to do, we don't seriously
annoy others.
In the home and the schools, when the
children are forming their habits, are the
places and the time to grow into easy
ways, and to form manners that will
carry them comfortably in that respect
through their lives. The examples set
before children will determine their
future manners.
Little things make up all our lives,
and the one little thing" Of personal
m'nners is one of the great things in
happiness.
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