Omaha daily bee., 1886-10-31
THE BOWERS OF SOCIABILITY.
Timely Advice to Participants in Social
Card Playing.
THE WEEK IN OMAHA SOCIETY.
The Transition from Cards and Tea
Parties TO the Ball Rooms-Thc
Immaculate Young Man of
To-day Social Notes
ana Gossip.
Counsel on Social card Playing.

Counsel on Social card Playing.
.Pittsburg Chronicle-TeIegraph AS the
season for social card playing is at hand,
n few friendly words of counsel may not
be inopportune 1t will save you some
disappointment and possibly irritation if
you realize at the outset that no one but
yourself will take emphatic notice Of the
brilliant plays You make: 1t is not worth
while to delay the board in an eloquent
exposition on the matter. You may make
friends by complimenting your partner
or your adversary on their happy strokes,
but you can never convince any one that
you made a particular play yourself that
was masterly. That is sheer waste of
time. Each one at whist is enamored of
his or her unrivaled performances and
gives no heed to the exploits of any one
else. You will find it also of service not
to hold your partner responsible for all
the bad luck and quietly absorb for your
self all the glory of any success achieved
You will not make the game more agree
able by attributing your advcrsary's vic
tories to good cards and your own de-
feats to bad cards. 1t will improve the
temper OF the game to restrain eNutation
when you lose. There Is philosophy also
in the reflection that all cannot win, and
that if your own failure is n little un
palatablc you have, even if unwillingly,
given some caton and satisfaction to
other parties. If you lose by II mere
scratch, it is not an affair for serious
grief. and if You are really outplayed it
will sharpen yo,:r wits for other encoun-
tersi BE taught by you, enemies was
of some kind is an excellent means of
preserving the peace in these bouts, and
you will reconcile the losers by timely
snack. Civilized people rarely quarrel
whist they are feeding. Finally, it may
be iudiciously borne in mind that the
game is pastimc and not n serious event,
and that whether you win or lose 1t Is not
an affair which determines your place IN
the human scale, or in any substantial
way affects your fortunes in life. If you
take it too much TO heart, you might
abandon whist and substitute doninos.
Short Comings OF Society.
Society with 4 sudden capriciousncss
has ceased from cards and tea-partics
and found its amusement in the ball
room The week has been gay with
dancing parties from all grades of society,
perhaps the most thoroughly happy be-
ing the children's german ut Mrs. III. L.
Clarke's. Children plunge into the cX
filtration of the moment with the joyous
frankness and happy lack of self con-
seriousness that is peculiarly their own.
There is n spoataneity IN the mirth of
childhood, and an ingcnuousness that is
lost with the attainment Of maturity, and
which is probably the reason why people
are wont to look back on their childish
days with half regretfulness, us for Il
state that is MS cflectually dissolved rs
their own childish identity and which
can can never be reproduced in them.
One accustomed to the good old Eng
lish fashion of mingling old and young ut
dancing parties, expressed some surprise
that this eminently sensible and social
custom should be so scrupulously over
looked amongst people professedly in
love with everything English from the
early English to the John Ball product Of
the nineteenth century. 1t is to be feared
that Americans absorb the mannerlSms
OF the mother country without proiiting
by any of its time honored social usages,
many of which would be u real acquisl-
ton to any country old or new or emulat
ing its superior graces OF high breeding
and courtesy. With the exception of the
Jewish club whore old and young seem
equally happy together, and the true
spirit of good fellowship seems to be pro-
NOTED to a greater extent than in any
other club in Omaha, the various clubs
seem to be composed exclusively of young
and often very callow youths, and the
result Is the affairs are marked
by a crudcness that usually
characterizes enterprises from which
more experienced ones are excluded.
Perhaps, howover,it just as often matter
Of preference that the older people and
the men OF substance are absent from
these gatherings. The habitllal fire.
quentcr of the bail room is usually man
Tor whom nature has done II great deal
more in the way OF agility than brains,
and those whose companionship is worth
anything for itself have rs q general rule
outgrown the dancing period and are en-
gagged in the serious work of life. When
recreation does come 1t is not in the in
anIty of the ball room that he seeks it.
The average young man OF fashion. the
dude, Is usually so lacking in gcntlemanly
instinct that he is untitled to do the hon.
ors even OF club party, He has spent
the best part OF the time,
in the afternoon, in bringing
himself to his idea of lady killer, and
when he finds himself in the ballroom,
arrayed in all the glory of II spikc.tailed
coat and patent feathers, his mustache
coaXed TO n bewitching upward curve
and his complexion properly toned down
with powder, he is so lost in admiration of
himself, and speculation rs to the in
evitablc result of his charms on tho OPP
posito sex that he is incapable of per.
forming n single act that would do credit
to ordinary good breeding or point to
the slightest Indication of true manhood.
A German.
Master Henry Clarke gave n german
Thursday evening under the supervision
of Miss Almy. The young people went
through the various figures with an
amount of ease and accuracy that could
not have been excelled. The german
was led by Joe Barker and Alice Ander-
SEN The other dancers were Gretchen
Crounse. Lulu llobbie, Amy Barker,
Mabel Taylor Flora Webster, Helen
Hoagland, May Burns, Shelly Barriger,
Mabel Brown, Edith Preston, Katie
Preston, Nina Marshall, Fannie Gilbert,
Bessie llulburt, Ezra Millard, Guy
Henry, VIII Henry, Paul Hosglaud Sam
Burns, Carl and Ralph Connell, Rae
Hobbio, Robbie Pleck, George Gilbert,
Maj shelton, Ward and Lon Clark, Mas
tor Cnlpotzer.
The programmes were exquisite bear
Ing. figures in sepa and boiling, painted
by Miss Clarke, Among the fayorS many
flowers We're. used, also cunning Japan
ese fans. little painted pitchers, small