St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1886-06-12
RAB, THE BRILLIANT.
She Regrets the Decay of la Grand
Dam5," Although the Conditions
Favor Her Growth.
American Women Fitting in Every Re
quirement to Lead the Women Of
the World in Manner.
Something Regarding the Secret OF
Successful Visiting and the
Way to Acquire 1t.
A Dramatic Family Row With Wig
orous Action and a startling
DeuOuenent--Gos


New York Letter.
NV Dear Dorothy: The town seems in
. state that might be called transitional,
for nobody is just quite certain what 1t is
that is demanded from them. The trees
and flowers in the parks are much more
decided, and so are the blossoms in the
country. In the meantime we are all ac
cepting this singular fact with more or less
resignation, and concluding that modistes
and miIliners may have full sway, and we
will also have little time to gather
strength for the summer campaign. A
great deal is owed to the doctors (lnore,
in some instances than people are willing
to tell, but surely when they brace you up
in the early part of the season, assure you
of the decided good your complexion and
ewes will gain from their treatment, does it
not seem as if that would be enough to
make gratitude to them q very positive
feeling? Then grateful patients might
erect monuments to their memory. How
ever, that could not be done until they
We're dead, and then objections might be
made to that mode OF expression, for the
laughing world would think that the
patients were grateful because they were
still alive.
l have, my dear, managed to pay my
visits, and my list is full of marks that sig
nifty duty done; consequently l am very
bitter about women who neglect their
duties A number of visits on women are
wonderfully improving; they start one on
the thinking line. Induce an analysis of
the wOmen-that is all right all that is OBJ
jectionable being self-analysiS, as we are
prone to call inOrdinate vanity. One of the
most charming women in the world said to
me: The gTande dame is a rara avis" l
was forced not only to agree with her. but
began to lock around and to wonder if she
would not be entirely out as far as the
next generation is concerned. 1t seems
shame. Without any capability myself, [
do think the woman who is thoroughly
LA GRANDE DAME"
is too fine a flower to be allowed to die.
With greater beauty than the English
women, and with more natural refinement
with all the wit of the French women and a
better and wider education, the American
woman ought to be la grande dame in her
perfection. But she will not-She is too
nervous, wastes her vitality on too many
things, and has the weakness to be gov
erned by positive likes or dislikes. She
may not express them. but she is more
under their influence than she would like
YOU to know. A delicious gentlewoman
whose draWing-rOom seemed the one salon
of the time, is credited with saying: The
secret of making visitor feel at ease is to
make him certain of Importance in your
ewes. That you have felt that all the
pleasure of the evening is helped by him.
and that your delight in his presence is
great" Now, that is pure charity-the
best in the world. But, can a woman capa-
BILE of this be formed Of girl who laughs
loudly in public place, who has no wit to
offer as an excuse when she interrupts
other people, and who evidently imagines
BY her constant talk about herself that
everyone is Interested in her conquestS and
her adOrers?
She is the exact opposite of the best type
of American girl the one who, with every
thing else to be desired, is spoiled by her
nervous anxiety to do too much. It is all
told in the story of the man who was asked
by Boston woman If she could do moth
ing for him, and who wished that
AMERICAN WOMEN
would content themselves with existing
and being charming, and not so overcome
with the desire to be philanthropic. Oh!
Dorothy. how preachy l am getting; but.
you see, l feel this very much, and
thorough interest i'll anything certainly in
cIlleS one TO SefnlOniZInS.
Mrs. GRoche has been here and we had
very good time together. We were hunting
chairs. | am sure that if l have seated
myself once l have million times, in an
effort to find an easy chair. If it were
comfortable at the back, then [ would have
to argue with Rose Roche about the length
of legs peculiar to the family, for it would
either allow for very short or very long
ones, Then, if the legs Of the chair and
the legs of the family were harmonious, the
back would be dreadful, catching you in
such way that you believed Immediately
in the fore-ordained punishment of the
man who made it. One man, who sold
chairs. had all inclination to be compliment
airy, and told me that in a certain very eX-
pensive and altogether hideous combination
of gilt and pale blue brocade | looked
s'quite Venusy." Now, what do you sup
pose he meant? Rose thought he only
wanted to sell the chair and Jack
regards him as an IDIOT but you see
the compliment is not paid to them.
In another case they could not understand
that we preferred trying before buying, and
q weak-eyed. pale-faced 'gentlemanly" in
dividual," with an enormous locket on his
watch cham. said that it was odd. WHY
odd? The Roches would have to endure
the chairs if they were not agreeable, and
certainly all care should be taken in the
first place There was once comfortable
rhair-I know it. because I sat in it. l
have never visited that house since for fear
that l should ask them to give it to me.
1t took one into its arms, seemed to cuddle
you and in its way you were sure it was
saying: Tired little woman! I'll rest
you" Now, that chair is possessed, not
only by some other people, but by good
ypirit-I think masculine one, for do
not believe feminine spirit would embrace
one so heartily. Talking of sitting down,
how few people sit well in a carriage.
THE AVERAGE WOMAN
is bolt upright,a looks straight ahead with
the general air of having taken an extra
dose of ramrod tea. The Individual woman
half Tolls. half sits upright and looks what
the darkies call ''slinky." The woman
with pretty foot usually devotes her at
tention to seeing that her feet are well
placed on the cushion of her victoria. while
the upper part of her body is usually so
drawn that the best comparison to make is
that she looks like the letter S. The special
woman is The one who sits easily, holds
her parasol well. is straight without being
stiff, has her feet properly placed without
their requiring continual attention, and is
charming picture of repose Education
cannot teach woman how to sit well in
carriage; it must come to her in the same
way as she learns how to kiss Nobody
teaches her; she just understands. Cen
turtles of carriages do not make graceful
women, and the parvenu of yesterday
whose wife bent over the washtub the day
before, may tomorrow place herself more
gracefully in her carriage than will all the
We're de Veres in the world. The reason
why? Nobody knows.
While Rose was here we went to see the
Floyds, and really had most awful time.
OF course, you know that they have been
in great deal of trouble but it has upset
them all so that they sieze upon you for
confidante in way that is embarrassing.
We were invited to high tea and went:
the consequences We're awful: the hostess