New Ulm weekly review. [volume] (New Ulm, Minn.) 1878-1892, 1886-10-27
a Bachelors Lamenrl
Lone Bachelor in the Boston Globe.

"A Bachelors Lamenrd
"Lone Bachelor in the Boston Globe.
In the Globe of recent date was
reprint of a letter entitled "a Bellies
i Lament The fair unknown regrets
: seven weary years of social toll. She
! is twenty -four, and has been hattered
and complimented, and with the slight
est encouragement might now have
been q loving wife. She says: sit is
lamentably true, that, like many an
other girl, my ears havegrown so accus.
toned to compliments that they are
only empty, meaningless sounds, for
!; despite the victory woman achieves
every time somebody tells her she is
beautiful, particularly when she knows
; there is truth in the assertion, the
fact remains and overwhelms her like
an avalanche from which there is
no escape that among all the
knightly gallants not one of the
praiseful throng has the manli-
: ness or courage to ask her hand in
marriage" She points out the folly
and figures the expense OF this f1utter-
; ing around-the-light without-coming-
to-the-point business and adds: ''Isn't
1t simply heart-rending for a girl Of
my years-and my qualifications, too,
may add-tO contemplate? Is it
any wonder I sit in my room every
day after a night of decoilete dressing
and silly Waiting, and shed bitter
tears because, though men hatter,
they refuse to think well enough of
me to marry me?" 1 truly sympa-
thize with the young women; but let
me ask: els the lot of the young men
who hatter but dare not wed lovely
damsels of her stamp any more envi-
able? How often have not return
ed from a full-dress rout, Invested my
self of the infallibe "spike tail,' es.
consced myself comfortably with my
/, slippered feet on the mantel, fired the
final cigar-philosophized. Through
the curling smoke see visions OF the
fair being upon whom I've expended
| my best efforts at persifage only all
, hour since. I think how coy
it would be were she to be
gazing at the dying embers OF
the hearth, sitting on a low stool
by my side, and how tenderly I'd kiss
those pretty shoulders that l but an
| hour since compared with those ofthe
Venus at the Louvre The picture is
so enchanting even seriously specu-
late upon the possibility of making it
/ real. A little sober reasoning and it
is all dissolved into smoke even like
the cigar, the remnants OF which [
throw among the blackened Goals. Pm
% and a struggling barrister. The
battle is not won. I've reputation
to make--position to gain. Evesfair
daughters OF to-day do not cast their
lot with struggling young men. win or
lose, rise or go under. The young
lady OF the period is too we'll trained
to do anything that is not strictly
good form, don't you know, and it is
not good form to give away to senti-
ment to the extent of marrying man
who has not wealth or position. If it
is not an absolute drinking foreigner
with title, it is a 5O-year- old
millionaire, with a neck the size
Of her waist that can successfully
bid for the favors OF the fair
maiden OF to-day. She will listen to
your tribute to her beauty. She even
grows connoisseur in the matter of
the quality OF your compliments. She
is not stupid and you must sharpen
your wits in order to invent palatable
food for her vanity. She waltzes with
you, f1irts with you, even INDUCES in
tender little scenes with you; but mar
ry you-dear, no; "he's such dear
fellow, but then he is so wretchedlY
poor, and one must wed brilliant,
party you know" l do not know
where the fault lies; but that marriag..
among the better bred people is be-
coming beautifully less cannot be de-
MED. That the effect upon both sex
es is demoralizing is equally apparent.
l know scores ofyoung men with brains
and education who shun society and
the fashionable young woman for the
reason that they we'll know that mar
riage cannot be thought of until much
later in life with women in her sphere,
and to follow in her wake an admir-
ing swain is a thankless and costly
task fraught with more vexation
| than pleasure. The result is that in
most large cities there are lotteries of
young men-and usually the best ones,
too-who live rather fast lives, and in
consequence when they do marry at a
late day are unfit to be husbands and
fathers. know scores of young men
who would be willing to maryland
in many cases it would be their saliva
tion-could they find young women
of equal social attachments who would
brave the struggle with them. The
lives of most of these young men can
be boiled down as follows: A more
or according to disposition gay
bachelor life, and if not wrecked by
the wayside, when they get fat, Aabby
and bald, brilliant wedding with an
ambitious bud, short honeymoon,
mutual disgust, big funeral, interest
ing young widow-tra la.
Those Newly Cultivated Persons.
From the Octo Der Atlantic.
The nouveaux riches, as class,
have been q, good deal before the nllh.