Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1886-03-11
ABOUT MANNERS.
The Importance of Cultivating Grace in
Action and Feeling.

We receive some impressions of the
character of person at the first meet
ing, and in many cases, judge of them
by their actions. If they are rude and
rough and show adisregard for the COM
mon propriet.es of life, we would i'm
mediately think they never had any adj
vantages or had not profited by those
they did have. They are few indeed
who will look beneath the rough ex-
terror and search out the good qualities.
We judge greatly by external appear
ances, which are often very deceiving
owing to the great difference in peoples
taste in regard to dress.
The manners of the people are as
widely unlike as their dress. Some
please, some amuse and others disgust
us. You may be acquainted with per-
son for years and then know as little,
may be less, than of far newer &C
quaintances. They are always polite,
their manners unexceptionable,
yet you feel that you have no tastes in
common; they freeze you with their
very pOliteness, and you never leave
their presence without feeling dissatis-
lied with everything you have done. In
direct contrast to these are those who
are timid and gentle; they never hurt
any ones feelings Intentionally, and
have ever kind word for all There is
mistaken idea that such people lack
force and intellectual power. Such is
not the case; scarcely day passes but
that you may see the contrary proven.
In this age of this worlds progress ii
seems to be quite the fashion to be af-
fected, assuming to be something which
we are not. In all cases we should be
ourselves, and ourselves only, otherwise
our every action is deceit The person
who has one set of manners for home
and another for society should be
Stunned like an adder. Unless our ac-
tons have some true motive they are
worthless. That which pleases US in
others is not so much the deed or act
as the feeling which prompts it. Pure
thoughts give elevated and refined feel
ings, while evil debases and lowers them.
Some seem to think if they have an ed
ucation they must necessarily have good
manners; the education will indeed
soften and mold the manners in GER
tain degree, but not so much as they
seem to suppose. We sometimes wonder
why some people impress us so much
more than others. There seems to be
very little difference IN the thoughts
which they utter, but there is a marked
contrast in the manner in which it is%
said. One clothes his thoughts in pure
and enrolling language. while the other
uses language which CRATES unpleasantly
upon the ear. and our feelings imme-
hately become antagonistic to what they
may say. The one may be as true as the
other, yet his manner and language
create so unfavorable an impression that
we turn from him to the other. who may
be on the opposing side, simply because
he is more graceful and pleasing.
OF how much Importance then is it
that we should cultivate grace in our
action as well as in feeling. Since po-
likeness is of so much Importance let US
cultivate it, for it will bring us the
esteem of our countrymen. and make
more smooth the rugged pathway of
lfe--MrS. dice Leighton, in Western
Ra1rdt.