Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1886-10-02
HUSBANDS MUST NOT STAY AT
HOME.


- N UNI AVE SIAx Al
HOME.
An Essay by the Author of"How to be
Happy Though Married"
From the London Queen.
Men about home all day are fidgetty, grumpy
and ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS Objectionable, in
short. This Is the case very often with authors,
or parsons, Or painters; but it Is particularly
| apt to be SO with the unemployed, such, for in
stance, as officers and business men, who have
retired or who are out OF harness for a short
Time The spirit OF mischief is never at q loss
tor job for pater-famiiias, IL it catches him
idling and lounginy about-neither at work nor
at play. 1t stirs up his bile and irritability,
and incites him to the reform of domestic
ABUSES. 1t kindies his sanitary ardor, and sends
MN poking and smiling about incon yeniently
INTO All the odd corners OF the establishments;
OF sets MIN about the curtaiiment of house.
Keeping expenses or the amendmeB MT OF various
uninethodical household procedures, all of
which, however right and proper, tend to dis
turD domestic peace and Quietude and tn make
the women of Tie house devOutly pray for the
time when business shall call the disturber
away I'LL toward evening. We have known
Clever men who were always thinking OF new
aheorles ana lads about the management OF
chhureh and other parts of family government.
Sucn men torment their wives, and injure the
health OF their children when they allow these
theories TO interfere with common sense and
practical experience. The following case will
Illustrate what is meant. A certain family had
the Youngest members i'll with measles. The
scriptions Tor their benefit the doctor ordered
that the room In which the patients were should
De Kept Tree from drauRhts OF cold air. Every
thing went on comfortably, and ali were con-
vaiescent but the two youngest, one about
tnree years OF age and the other hf-
teen months. To them their father came
one day in January; the temperature was
nigher than usual. he wore q great coat and
mad walked last, about a mite up hill at noon
"A Ha yr.tS md chnn
ne entered the SICK chamber he found it
Sitting. Being busting sort of man and very
opinlonated he ordered the children and their
nurses o leave the''stitingchamb Der, where none
but sa.amanders could live, land go in to another
room where the air Was pure, and sweet, and
COOL Remonstrances were vain, anu the poor
patients were packed OFF to unaired bed
room. Within one hour the youngest child
Was affected with Group, and in u lew more tue
three days, victims to pedantry and Oh
stlnacy. But the peaantry and obstinacy
would probably never have had such
fatal results II the father had not been idiing
at home.
man can never pull with his wife until he
learns not 10 interfere With What does not con-
Germ MIN. lie VINO can trust his vile should no
more Ineddle win her home concerns than She
should poster him with questions about ms BUSH
ness There Will be no peace Ii lie poke over
The weekly bills. insist upon knowing how
much each thing Is per pound, anu what he is
going 10 nave every day Tor dinner. Ii Is, in
ueeu, almost a sine qua non of domestic felicity
tnat piter iainiIIas SHOULD be absent from nome
at least Six hours in the day. jones asked MS
vile: Nv ny IL a husband ike dougn?'' He ex-
pecteO Sue would give IL up, and ne was going
to tell her that IL was because "A woman needs
him, but she said it Was because 10 WAS hard IN
get Oft ner hands.
vi course. like every other good rule this one
ol hoh-lnierVenllon.mayb be carried TOO far, as il
want told him That his house was on fire. "Gu
To your mistress; you know l have no cuarge oi
houSehoid matters No doubt occasions will
arise when Al husband will tie only too cad to
take counsel with Ills wife in business cares:
Whiie size may have 10 remember all ner Lille
ionS, Win gratitude and love, some season OF
siekiess or amiction when he filled his own
place ana hers LOO, ashamed of no wOmanisn
task, and neitner irritated nor humilialed by
ever sucn trivial household cares.
lazy very mucn given to gadding was sud.
denly taken i'll at home one DAY auu sent ner
husband In great haste Tor tue doctor. The
ooedient nissu ran part OF the way tnep re-
turned to put this important query: "My dear
wnere shaii find YOU when 1 get bacA?" We
have NO sympathy with women like this wuo
are never AT nome" except On their in vitation
carus; nevertheless, We cannot but see that, III
husbands need vacations, SD do wives, We do
not agree WITH the old writer vino said that :.
women ehouid OnIy leave home three times in
her iiie-to Ue cnrlsteued, married and buried
DOCTORS tell US thai more women break down
mentally tnan men, aud they also tell US that
tnIs Is BECAUSE they have more cares To carry
anu have to carry them continuously. When
mans work Is done, he can locK IL
up III Dis Once and put The key In his pocket.
But vile never locks her work up till sleep
comes and LurnS the Key upon it. Her work is
hCNci Ooucy duu Ia Sue does not want
casiOnai monday, VINO does? And sne cannot
get II AT nome. The more quiet and resI1ul
the nome Is u her fanny, the more evidence
THAT IL Is d care, ii not burden ~ ner A house.
Keeper can no more take a vacation In her
hoiIie than a merchant in his counting room
or "a prime minister In his COUNCIL Chamber
dusbanus, then, should occasionally try AMI
Induce their wives III they are good oues il
VIII not De easily dOne) To Take a snort holiday
away from home where they can nave tue aux
ury vi not Knowing what diuner Letore
they see II, ana go To Steep without listening
win one ear Tor the cry OF The children
iihout goiug SD lar as LacordaIre. VINO in his
letters 10 young people fixes the age o seven a,
the perlou Tor weaving 10y from the delights
Oh home lie. We still think win nim that a
Time does COME when he should prosecute mis-
studies and meet the trials vi lie away from
hOine The shelter Oh the parental root ii never
4uitted, becoines eDerVating. Boys are too
In ucu al home VINO never meet their EQUALS or
encountef rivals and hard Struggles Some
motners believe that they are exhibiting the
proper maternal feelings" III Keeping their
Children al home wnen they should send them
iofth mo the wori where alone they can he
taught the virtue oI seli-dependeuce. NoLuing
Is better Tor young man than 10 love ms
nome; cut II oy Staying too nlacn at home his
ACTIVITY and euLei prise are Checked, then one
vi tile greatest oi mes blessings has become a
curse.