The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1886-01-29

| Job Of marital selection. the probability n
that nothing but . funeral can relieve Il.
Divorce cases in court may interest the
public, but the love letters of q married
couple are poor reading except for those
who write them. Pray that you be de.
livered from irrevocable mistake.
| Avoid Alliance with despiser Of the
Christian religion. whatever else he may
have or may not have. do not say he
must needs be . religious man, for Paul
| says the unbelieving husband is sanctified
BY the wife; but marriage with q man who
hates the Christian religion will insure
| you life Of wretchedness. He will carl.
cature your habit Of kneeling in prayer.
He will speak depreciatingly Of Christ. He
will wound all the most sacred feelings of
your soul. He will put your home under
the anathema Of the Lord God Almighty.
| In addition to the anguish with which he
will all your life, there IL great danger
that he win despoil your hope of Heaven,
and make your marriage relation an inf.
mite and eternal disaster. If you have
made such an engagement, your first duty
is to break 1t. Ny word may come just ii
time to save your soul.
Further, do not unite in marriage with q
man of bad habits, in the idea Of reform.
ing him. II now, under the restraint of
your present acquaintance, he will not
give up his bad habits, after he has won
the prize you can not expect him to do SO.
You might as we'll plant q violet in the
face of q northeast storm, with the idea of
appeasing it. You might as well run a
schooner alongside Of q burning ship, with
the idea Of saving the ship. The conse-
quence will be, schooner and ship will be
destroyed together. The aims house could
tell the story Of . hundred women who
married men to reform them. II by
twenty five years Of age a man has been
grappled by intoxicants, he is under such
Roadway that your attempt to stop him
would be very much like rum
ming up the track with wheelbarrow
to stop a Hudson River express train.
What you call an inebriate nowadays is
not victim to wine or whisky, but to log
wood and strychnine and nux vomica. All
these poisons have kindled their fires in his
tongue and brain, and all the tears of q
wife weeping can not extinguich the flames
Instead of marrying a man to reform him
let him reform first and then give him time
to see whether the reform is to be perma-
nent. Let him understand that if he can
not do without his bad habits for two
years he must do without you forever.
Avoid union with one supremely selfish
or SO wound up in his occupation that he
has no room for another. You occasionally
find a man who spreads himself so widely
over the path of life that there is no room
for any one to walk beside him. He is not
the one blade of scissors incomplete with
out the other blade, but he il q chisel made
to cut his way through life alone, or file
full of roughness, made to be drawn across
society without any affinity for other files.
His disposition is lifelong protest against
marriage. Others are SO married to their
occupation or profession that the taking of
any other bride 10 case of bigamy. There
are men so severely tied to their literary
work, as was Chatterton, whose essay was
not printed because of the death of the
Lord Mayor. Chatterton made out the fol-
lowing account: "Lost by the Lord Mayors
death in this essay, FL lis Cd. Gained in
elegies and essays, f5 5s." Then he
put what he had gained by the
Lord Mayors death opposite to what
he had lost, and wrote under it:
"And glad he is dead by 6 13s 3d."
When . man is as hopelessly literary as
chat. he ought to be q perpetual celibate;
his library, his laboratory, his books are
all the companionship needed. Indeed,
some of the mightiest men this world ever
saw have not patronized matrimoAy.
Cowper, Pope, Newton, Swift, Locke,
Walpole, Gibbon, Hume, Arbuthnot were
single. Some of these marriage would
have helped. The right kind of q wife
would have cured Cowper's gloom, and
given to Newton more practicability, and
been relief to Locke's overtaxed brain.
A Christian wife might have converted
Hume and Gibbvn to belief in Christian.
ity. But Dean Swift did not deserve a
wife, from the way in which he broke the
heart of Jane Waring first, and Esther
johnson afterward, and last of all evan
esss." The great wit of his day, he was
outwitted by his own cruelties.
Amid SO many possibilities of fatal mis-
take, am not right in urging you to seek
the unerring wisdom of God, and before
you are infatuated? Because most mar |
riages are fit to be made convinces US that |
they are divinely arranged. Almost |
every cradle has an affinity toward some |
other cradle. They may be on the opposite |
sides of the earth, but one child gets out |
of this cradle and another child gets out |
of that cradle, and with their first steps |
they start for each other. They may diverge j
from the straight path going toward the |
north, or south, or east, or west. They may |
fall down, but the two rise facing each
other. They are approaching all
through infancy. The one all
through the years of boyhood is going to
meet tlAe one who is coming through all
the years of girlhood to meet him. The
decision Of parents as to what is best con-
corning them and the changes of fortune
may for . time seem to arrest the two
journeys, but on they go. They may never
have seen each other. They may never
have heard of each other. But the two pill
gr:ms who started at the two cradles, are
nearing. After eighteen, twenty or thirty
years, the two come come within sight.
At the first glance they may feel dislike,
and they may slacken their step; yet
that the world calls fate, and
that religion calls providence, urges them
On. They must meet. They come near
enough to join hands in social acquaint-
ance. after awhile to join hands in friend
ship, after awhile to join hearts. The
delegate from the one cradle comes up the
sast side of the church with her father.
The delegate from the other cradle comes
Up the west aisle of the church. The two
ong journeys end at the snowdrift of the
bridal veil. The two chains made out of
many years are forged together by the
golden link which the groom puts upon the
bird finger Of the left hand. One ON