The Arkansaw traveler., 1885-07-18
WESLEY AND HIS WIFE.
New York Critic.

John Wesley was married in FebruarY, I75I, to Mrs. Mary VAzeille, "a mer- chants widow in Threadneedle street" who possessed fortune of abou $50 900, secured to herself and her four children. He was forty. eight, she forty-one, His biographer, the Rev. L. Tyerm an, says Of the,r mari ge that it "was, in high degree, an act of folly; and, properly enough, to the end of life, both of them were made to suffer serious penalty" Mary's life ended ten years before her husbands She died in I78I, after having make him miserable for thirty years, Wesley survived her, living to the ripe age of eigh ty eight. In a worldly way he had gained nothing by his marriage. It lost him his fellowship at Oxford and at least temporarily alienated his brother Charles and his wife. His domestic in- felicities are set forth in detail in the fol- lowing curious letter hitherto unpub- hshed
 "CoLEFoRD, Oct. B, I75o
 "DEAR MOLLY-l will tell you simply and plainly the things wch. dislike. If you remove them, we'll. If not, am but where was. l dislike your showing any one my letters and private papers with out my leave. This never did any Good yet, either to you or me, or any one. It only sharpens and embitters your own Spirit And the same Effect it naturally has upon Others. The same it would have upon me but that (by the Grace of God) do not think of It. It can do no good. It can never bring me nearer, tho it may drive me further of. And should you do as you often threaten me, then the matter is over. l know what 1 have to do In all this you are fighting against yourself. You are frustrating your own purpose, if you want me to love you. You take just the wrong way. No one was ever forced to love another. It cannot be: Love can only be won by softness: Foul Means avail nothing. But you say,' have tried Fair Means and they did not succeed.' If they do not none will. Then you have only to say, This Evil is of the Lord: am Clay in His Hand.'
 dislike, 2, Not having command of my own House not being at liberty to invite even my nearest Relations, so much as to drink Dish of Tea without disobiiging you. l dislike, }. The being myself Prisoner in my own house: the having my Chamber door watched con- unuAlly so that no Person can go in or out but such as have your Good Leave. dislike, 4, The being put prisoner at large, even when go abroad, inasmuch as you are highly disgusted, if do not give you an Account of every Pace 1 go to and every Person with whom l con- verse. dislike, 5, The not being safe q nuyn M xnnfx Castle. l cannot call even my Study, even my Bureau, my own. They are H. able to be plundered e'ery day. You say, plunder you of nothing out papers l am not sure of that. How IS it possible should l mss money, too, and he that will steal P n will steal a Pound But were it so, a Scholr's Papers are his treasure; My Journal ID parti cular. But t'ok only such Papers as relate to Sarah Ryan and Sarah Crosby That is not true: = What are Mrs. Landey's Letters to them i? Besides, you have taken Parts of my Journal which relate to neither Oaenof the Other. l dislike. 6, Your Treatmen, of my Servants (tho' indeed they are not properly Mine). You do all th at ID you lies to make their Lives a Burden to them. You brow-beat, harass, rate them like Dogs, make them afraid to speak to me You treat them with such Hautiness, Sterness, Sourness, Sur hness, ili-nature as never were known in any House of mine for near dozen years You forget even Good breeding, and use such coarse Language as belts none but a Fishwife.
 "I dislike, :, your talking against me