The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1885-01-31
MANAGEMENT OF HUSBANDS.
A Womaa OF Expsrienee Gives Her opin-
ion on tho Important Subject.
"Wbat are YOU going to write about

lduy liiSH'l, anu L have olliy WY N"
of that order. The management Of
Husbands" | replied.
"Well, that's done in very few
WORDS she said laughingly; "Give
him the latch key, kiss him good night
and tell him to come in when he likes,
as you are going to bed, and that man
will be in leading strings forthwith"
! agree with my friend that hers is
splendid recipe still ! have an idea
that | can give one quite as good, and
one having more nobility of purpose.
There Is nothing living SO easily man
aged as the average man, but then the
wife must understan diplomacy and
be a tactician to the tips Of her fingers.
| What violence or tears can never &C
complish tact will. | have always
thought there is something radically
wrong in the marriage tie, but what 1t
is becomes a difficult matter to define
when searching into bottom facts.
Men, as rule, marry women for love,
yet we see every day these one-tlme
happy doves drifting apart and acting
as though separation would be the hap
piest end for both. To marry for love
simply is absurd. Unless there is a
large amount OF respect on either side
the flame of love soon dies out, leaving
a barren manor for the dwelling thereon.
| really think those marriages are the
happiest where there is less fame and
passion and more quiet respect in the
first place, since there is always GER
tainty of love following in the after
time, for we must respect first what we
finally love.
However, supposing you have hus-
band whom you wish to twirl around
your little finger, you must first love
him, with all your heart, with all your
SOUL" etc, and the love you feel will
make it possible to put up with all
those little discrepancies which crop
out in mans nature when you come to
live with him, for the best of men be-
come monotonous after a while. In
the first place, should your husband be
a man in business, who comes home
| tired to death, cross and worn out, do
not at once entertain him with the
troubles you have gone through during
the day. Do not rehearse the short
comings of the servants or the DISC
bedience of the children. Meet him
with smile, kiss him, take his hat and
overcoat from him and let him severely
alone until he has toned down his If
ritability with a good dinner, after
which he will be in good position to
listen to anything YOU may have to say !;
but | always found it an excellent plan
to hide disagrceables entirely from a
husbands notice. Men don't want to
have a repetition of annoyances at
home, when they have so many in their
daily path outside, and, believe me,
the effect of keeping household squab-
bles out of your husbands knowledge
wonderfully enhances your value as a
wife. | have seen SO many arrant fools
fly at their husbands the moment they
enter the house and there and then
give a detailed account of the troubles
of the whole day, even taking to tears
as an argument on their side-and o
how men hate tears how they detest
household details-and, being nalur-
ally selfish, in fact hate anything that
puts them out at home and they are
right. The bread winner ought to be
relieved from dome stiG jars.
OF all things when your husband
comes home, see that his dinner is well
cooked. Don't make row because
the meat is UNDERGONE or burned to a
stick. Rather go into the kitchen your
self and see that everything is CONNIE
| ii 1u1,L You don't know how a man
appreciates a loving welcome and a
good dinner after the toll Of the day.
Put yourself in his place, each woman
who has 10 toll for fatherless flock.
You don't ike to come home to a
cloudy atmosphere and an illcooked
meal. You think you are at least en-
sitled to serene comfort at home, and
if you dol.'t get it YOU rebel. Why not
men also?
Nothing on earth fetches man like
a good dinner and well-dresscd wife
presiding. The husband who can look
forward to such state Of things every
day OF his life will never tire of home,
and the wife who studies his comfort
will have little difficulty in managing
him according to her will. Men arc
sregarious animals, and will wander in
spite OF all allurcments but they are
selfish encush to remain where they
are best treated, and by taking little
trouble for a year or two of married
life the years that follow vii, as a rule,
fad the husband always glad to SO back
TO the pretty home where smiles await
lin and the daner | spoke of.
There are SO many women who OBJ
ject to being ,.hossed," as they call it.
Nj dear ladies, you can always be boss
if You take the trouble. by giving il
you get your own way as you never
would by fighting for it. And, after all,
it is better to feel you respect your
husband SO much that to give in to him
is not a difficulty. OF course l am
now speaking of the right lind of man.
There are some men such perfect
brute5 that no kindness has any effect
upon them. When you are unfortu-