The Cambria freeman. [volume] (Ebensburg, Pa.) 1867-1938, 1885-03-06
DOMESTIC UNHAPPIyESs.

When domestic unhappiness exists IL q
family it generally happens that the case
may be traced to money matters and to fh-
unequal division Of the common funds
Probably eight women out Of ten who are
married aud have 10 other visible means Of
support than q husband are dependent uuo-
that husbands generosity for every dv.
cents they have 70 spend. The Idea or
husband Deing generous to his wife is quite
as absurd as it would be for any other brsf-
ness PARTNER to be generous to his associate.
A widOWsr with a house full OF children has
10 pay a good round SIN to some house
Keeper for attending to the same duties his
wife performed for her board, lodging and
clothes. he does not srumble when the
hOusekeeper comes for her salary, nor ask
her what she did with all that money he
gave her last month, nor inquire in an sr-
gTieyed tone OF voice il thirty dollars won't
90 instead OF forty dollars. No she has
earned hex money, he respects her right o.
it, aud be pays her like a man. When bis
wife was hOusekeepCr be paid her like
husband. Il is true he gave her liberal
credits at dry goods shops, mIlIiners and
dress makers. These privileges constituted
his ideas OF feminine bliss. What need had
she OF money! Such a thing as giving her.
or rather of sharing with her a portion os
the product of his lab0rs as one OF the do
nestle firm never occurred 10 him. He waz
quite willing to trust her to keep the honor
Of his home and name, TO raise his children
but a doubt as to ber business incapacftv
never crossed his mind. That she would
fUOhshly waste money il she could get hold
of it was his foregone conclusion, although
for years she had managed his home, and
/ with uneXanpled economy he is now able %
appreciate since she is dead. It is not an
uncommon thing for a woman TO have 10
wOIry her husband for ten cents for car fara
E to take her TO church. When you see q pyo-
man carry her pocket money" a dime o.
/ 20, tucked in the palm Of her glove, you
may conclude size has n husband OF this
description. For prOnd spirited, naturally
independent woman to have TO beg, bargain
and haCgle for few dollars from her bus-
band is one of the most degrading misfor-
tunes that can befall her. It is true some
+ women do not mind begging for money or
/ the having TO explain in elaborate detail the
why and wherefore Of the demand and
other women look at the partnership busl-
ness in still broader view, and do not hezi-
tate to apply for that which is so manirestly
their due, but opposed 70 these there Is q
. large majority Of wives to whom o. ls an
. eternal modification % ask, DAY after DAY.
year after year, Tor money from their own
. husbands. A friend Of nine who has been
married forty years has 20 hurry every
morning after her husband as he leaves tire
] dining room 20 try and get from him money
for the dinners marketing. This has been
going on during all these years, ana 60 by
any chance she should fail 70 run after him
he would quietly march of down town and
1 not leave cent. Il often takes the rrcltc-t
. tact, COURAGE, patience and Rentleness O.
coax from him sufficient money % buy fJ.
( herself OF her children the clothes demandeE
/ by the custom Of leeency and civilization.
I Il is not possible that woman, hoveye-
/ foreiviuE, can feel altogether unresentfr
toward such man. Down in her lone v
heart Of hearts she feels the indignity p--
upon her. It is all very well to argue thlt
/ if a woman has credit at the stores-and caa
buy clothes, shoes. hats. wraps-she has ue
need of money. Those who argue a.
I sh0Gid Just try a dose OF such treatme~H
/ themselves. Why need a body live 2 or a
/ iU while they may not have the f8nOcel-
/ pleasure Of indulging IN a book or magazine.
I bit cI chinawaTe, useless odd or end tf g
[ Will wear its welcome ont maybe, but that s.
50 tempting 70 buy. A man may be miseT.
bat ne doesn't feel the need of il because ll
has g. his pocket money which he can iu-l
take ont and spend for cigars, an Gran --
luuca, soda water or the papers. He is uUt
ike the woman who if sHe wants g. 50 nH
City cehts on herself, has to run to her bus
band, aud ask him as a great favor aul
piece Of generosity % give her the pit -lf
I sum The young wife who has the ccure za
% demand. az the beginning OF her narl e
. .lie, . weekly OF monthly allowance "
EOney-which shall be prOpoTtiOnate 70 ltI
husbands income. may be saving hers
! from a lite-ilHg misery. ANY woman -rI
Z submits to ihs charity system the boar "a.
lodging and clothing plan--is as much fr Pa
blamed as sic j. O. h0 pitied --Lol
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