Evening capital. (Annapolis, Md.) 1884-1910, 1885-07-23
THE POWER OF PATIENCE.
BY 7. s. ARTHUR.

have o very excellent friend who
married some ten years ago, and now has
her own cares and troubles in domestic
establishment consisting of her husband
and herself, five children, and two SER
wants. Like large majority of those
similarly situated, Mrs. Martinez finds
her natural stock of patience altogether
inadequate to the demand therefor; and
that there is an extensive demand there
for viii be at once inferred when men,
ton that four of her five children are
boys.
/ do not think Mrs. Martinet's family
government by any means perfect, though
she has certainly very much improved it
and gets along with far more comfort to
herself and all around than she did. For
the improvement at which have limited,
] take some credit to myself, though l
am by no means certain that, were /
situated as my friend is, should govern
my family as well as she governs hers.
am aware that maiden lady, like my
SELF, young or old, it matters not to tell
the reader which, can look down from
the quiet regions where she lives and see
how easy it would be for the wife and
mother to reduce all to order in her tur-
bulent household. But / am, at the
same time, conscious of the difficulties
that beset the wife and mother in the in
cessant, exhausting, and health-destroy-
ing nature of her duties, and how her
mind, from these causes, must naturally
lose its clear-seeing qualities when
most they are needed, and its calm
and even temper when its exercise
Is one of the most consequence. Too
little allowance, am satisfied, is made
for the mother, who, with shattered
nervous system and suffering, too often,
from physical prostration, is ever in the
midst of her little family of reckless
spirits and compelled to administer to
their thousand wants, to guide, guard,
protect, govern, and restrain their evil
passions, when of all things, repose and
quite of body and mind for even brief
season would be the greatest blessing
she could ask.
Ihave seen wife and mother thus
situated betrayed into hasty expires
sion or lose her ef-command so far as to
speak with fretful impatience to child
who rather needed to be soothed by
calmly spoken word; and have seen
her even-minded husband, who knew
not what is was to feel pain or to suffer
from nervous prostration, reprove that
wife with look that brought the tears
to her eyes. She was wrong but he was
wrong in a greater degree. The over
tried wife needed her husbands sub
tanning patience and gently spoken coun-
Gil, not his cold reproof.
Husbands as far as my observation
gives me the ability to judge, have far
less consideration for, and patience with,
their wives then they are entitled to re-
receive. If any should know best the
wife's trials, sufferings, and incessant
exhausting duties, it is the husband, and
he, of all others should be the last to
censure, if, from very prostration of
body and mind, she is sometimes be-
trayed into hasty words that generally
do more harm among children and do
mestics than total silence in regard to
what is wrong. But this is digres-
sion.
One day called to see Mrs. Martinez
and found her in very disturbed state
of mind.
81 am almost worried to death, Kate p
abe said, soon after came In.
You look unhappy / returned.
AsWhat has happeneda''
what is always happening, she re-
piled. Scarcely daY passes over my
head that my patience Is not tried to the
utmost. must let everybody In the
house do IHst as he or she likes or else
there Is disturbance. am not allowed
to speak out my own mind without some
ones being offended
sit is a great trial, as well as response
bility, to have the charge OF . family. = 1
remarked.
Indeed, and ron may wen say that.
No one knows what it is but she who
has the trial. The greatest trouble il
with your domestfes. As ; class. they
are with Jew exceptions. dirty, careless.
and impudent. 1 sometimes think it
gives them pleasure 70 interfere with
your household arrangements and throw
al into disorder This seems especially
70 . the spirit of ms present cook ny
husbana j. particular about having his