The Red Cloud chief., 1885-07-10
GOOD MANNERS,
Few Rules for Boya. Which They


Some boys think i. efIeminate and af-
fected to be polite and considerable to
Others.
Now ever body likes heartiness in q
boy; but is it not possible for a boy TO
he open and hearty and manly and have
well-bred manner also? l. for one. do
not see why il is not. In fact, some of
the most agreeable boys l have e.er
met have had very good in
deed. but taey were just AS manly, Just
as full of spirits, just a. fond of sport,
just Is genuine BOYS. a. many of their
companions who We're not nearly 20
wcll-bred. Let me ask if a boy is any
more "A manly boy bccau e be Grams his
mouth full when he il eating? j. he
likely 10 play q better hand AT base bali
because he sits at dinner with his eL
bows on the table?
But what are good manners? All of
us know somcth NJ as 10 what they are.
We ali know and practice some OF the
rules OF good breeding. The most of
H. are not u bad as we might be
there Is some comfort in that. have
seen boys jostle people on the sidewalk
very rudcly, but ] have never seen "A
COY so rude that he would Intentionally
run against an iniirm old lady.
Mo-" don't imagine that good man
ncrs MAKE one stiff. or that they make
one uncomfortable, lie a badly fitting
coat Gooc II may be just as
natural As b%d Just as easy
and mattcr-olcourse as speaking or
laughing. This is the sort of good
that we ought Ia have, 80 that
II would be Just rs easy for us to do the
right thing a. it would be to do the
wrong thing. We must make our good
manners second nature; and they
will become anybody's second nature.
If one will take care to practice them.
Let one observe all the Jules carefully
for n time, and by and by one will OBJ
serve the rules without stopping TO
think about them. In fact. II viii be-
come Just as easy 10 be polite As to play
or work.
There aIe a good man rules of good
Manners, what one must not do. and
what one must do. but il seems TO me
that the most important of all the rules
is to be k~ind-hearted- The boy who
does kindly things may make "A few
mistakes i'm little matters. but every
body Will Ike and respect him. The
kind hearted boy who picks up a hat
that an old gentleman has dropped has
done a poi,ie thing. As well a. a kind
hearted thing. And the boy who takes
the trouble TO show a lady the right
way TO 20 has also done a polite IL well
as a kind-hearted thing.
But a boy NAV have a kind heart and
the best intentions in the world, and yet
forge To do some things thai he ought
to do. OF do things that he ought not 10
do. lie NAV, for instance. have a kind
heart. and forget to take of his ha, Ia
ladies: or he may have - kind heart. and
not know that he should not whistle in
The presence of his elders. or drum on
a seat or The wall. or beat with his feet
on the floor, or make noises OF any kind
when other people are b..
There are some very pleasant observ-
anc.s that one should never FORGE. and
which are an essential part of good
Don't forget every morning
to salute all the members of tn family
with good morning. and 1T nigh: up
on retiring good night" gOod-n,gh'
and QGod-morniRq are very pleasant
things To hear. and young people should
never omit them.
When YOU enter your school-room.
saw ..rood-morning" to the teacher. and
good evening" when YOU leave in the
afternoon.
Never burst b~oisterouslv into a room
a Epsay
quietly. and if there is company there,
salute them with a polite bow and q
..good-day" or ''good-morning.' lor
need not shake hands with the visitors
unless they first offer to do SO.
Never interrupt people when they are
talking. Ii is not right for young PEG
ME TO force themselves into a CONVEX.
sation going on between older people
Respond promptly to any question tina
NAV be asked and il You happen Z,
know ANYTHING special about a subiec
under discussion you may a "far
don me-" or Excuse me, MIR. Brown
Cor whatever the name may be), but
and go on 10 say what You have tn say
If there is q willingness shown TO Lister
10 YOU.
Don't lounge. Stretching ones sci
on the sofa or lolling on the chairs i
very bad breeding. Never sit with YOU
chair tipped back. This is very vulgar
Don't be fidgeiy. Don't when in com
pany play with the curtains. or the tas
sells. or with anything else. Don
twirl a chair. or play with the door. O
keep ND a continued restlessness. On
necessary thing in good manners is 4
he ouiet and self-rcstrained when In TIT
presence of other people.
Don't shout every time you want Il
sneak. whether indoors or out SOM
bows fairly shout at play-fellows wh'
are only a few feet of and who cou!t
hear without difficulty everythin!
spoken in an ordinary voice.
Never fail in the school-room to b
respectful to the master. kind to tn
small boys and diligent in your studies
DON'T worry YOUR school-fellows witt
d. tricks. Study hard when you are study
ing; play hard when you are playing
Be always open. cordial. honest. manly
never do q mean thing or . sneaking
thing.
There is no place where bad manner
are 50 d~isagreeable rs at the table. ant
hence society has agreed upon . mum
her of rules that must be observed Il
order to make meal-times IS sociabi'
and agreeable as possible. Let us -
what these rules are.
In the first place. don't take you
seat at the table before the others do
Ladies should always be allowed to tax
their seats frst, and boys should Val
until the rest are seated. or preparing
to seat themselves