The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1885-05-28
SOME MATRIMONIAL ADVICE.
Bill Nye Gives tho Girls Some Words o.
Wisdom.

"Hor SPRINGS, ARK, April 6, 1885.
"Nv Dear Sir; Would it be asking
too much for me to request a brief reply
to one or two questions which many. other
married women as myself would like to
have answered?
"I have been married now for five
years. To-day is the anniversary of my
| marriage. When I was single T was a
teacher, and supported myself in com:
fort. had more pocket money and
dressed fully as we'll, if not better, than
I do now. Why should girls who are
abundantly able to earn their own
livelihood struggle to become the slave
of husband and children and tie them
selves to man when they might be free
aud happy?
"I think too much is said by the men
| in light and fippant manner about the
anxiety of young ladies to secure home
and a husband, and still they do deserve
part of it, as I feel that I do now for
| assuming q great burden when l was
comparatively independent and comfor-
table. -.
"Now, will you suggest any advice
that you think would benefit the yet un-
married and self-supporting girls who
are liable to make the same mistake that
I did, and thus warn them in q manner
that would be much more universal in
| its range and reach so many more people
than could if I should raise my voice ?
Do this. and you will be gratefully re-.
membered by ETHEL"
It would indeed be tough, tough man
who could ignore thy gentle plea, Ethel ;
tougher far than the pale, intellectual
hired man who now addresses you in this
private and underhand manner.
You say that you had more pocket
money before you we're married than you
have since, Ethel, and you regret your
rash step. am sorry to hear it. You
also say that you wore better clothes
when you were single than you do now.
You are also panied over that. II seems
that marriage with you has not paid any
cash dividends. So if you married Mr..
Ethel as O financial venture, it was a
mistake. You do not state how it has
| affected your husband. Perhaps he had
more pocket money and better clothes
| before he married than he has since.
Sometimes two people do we'll in business
by themselves but when they 60 into
| partnership they bust higher than kite,
| If YOU will allow me the free English
TRANSLATION of an expression which you
! MIGHT not fully understand if should
Dive II tn Won in the original Roman.
Lots of self.supporting young ladies
have married, and have to go very light
on pin money after that, and still they
do not squeal as you, dear Ethel. They
did not marry for revenue only. They
married for protection. This is a little
political bon mot which thought of
myself. Some of my best jokes this
Spring are jokes that I thought of my
self.
No, Ethel, if you married expecting to
be dormant partner during the day and
then 20 through Mr.. Ethel's pockets at
night and declare dividend, of course
life is full of bitter, bitter regret aud dis
appointment.
Of course want to do what is right
in the solemn warning business, so I will
give notice to simple young women who
are now self.supporting and happy that
there is no statute requiring them to as.
sumo the burdens of wifehood and moth.
erhood unless they prefer to do so. If
they now have abundance of pin money
and new clothes, they may remain single
if they wish without violating the laws
of the land. This rule is also good
when applied to young and self.support-
ing young men who wear good clothes
and have funds in their pockets. No
young man who is free, happy and inde.
pendent need invest his money in family
or carry colicky child q miles and 2
laps in the night unless he prefers it.
But those who go into it with the right
spirit, Ethel, do not regret it.
I would just Rs soon tell you, Ethel,
| if you promise that it shall 90 no fur.
ther, that I do not wear as good clothes
as did before was married. l don't
have to. My good clothes have accom-.
plished what ] got them for. 1 played
them for all they were worth, and since
I got married the idea of wearing clothes
as vocation has not occurred to me.
Please give my kind regards to Mr..
Ethel, and tell him that although do
not know him personally, I cannot help
feeling sorry for him.