The Superior times. [volume] (Superior, Wis.) 1870-1912, 1885-06-13
Advice to Lovers.

When the lover has secured g. good
business or entered upon the duties of
his profession, nothing should induce
him to prolong the engagement.
through any foolish desire to accumu-
late sufficient wealth to enable him to
keep his bird in a gilded cage Love
will die out, if held back by any such
sordld motive, long before a satisfac-
tory cage is ready.
Begin your independent life together
That is the true way, and it will be all
the sweeter and happier if you begin
small-at the lowest round OF the lad
der-and hand i'll hand, go upward.
Interpretations display to those who
marry for style and society. The less
attention that is given for mere show,
the more time the young couple will
have to study the home character OF
the one who is to be lifelong compan-
ion, and a better opportunity to
learn how to "bear and forbear," and
tone down such peculiarities as are
not conducive to mutual confidence
and harmony. 1t is quite proper that
each should have their own individual
characteristics and peculiarities. 1t
must be a very insipid character who
feels called to cringe and argue with
every one. But in domestic life, by
showing the same gentleness and
courtesy that was so gracefully and
naturally manifested during the days
OF courtship, yielding little, lovingly,
not sycophantically, one to the other,
the early welded assimulate, and in
their union find an ever increasingjoy,
which later marriages, after the habits
have become fixed and unyielding,
seldom realize.
But if we begin in a small way, when
one has always been accustomed to
elegance and abundance, it will sub
ject us to much criticism, we should
lose caste, and former friends will not
show us any attention.
That does not follow OF course but
suppose it should be so, such friends
can be easily dispensed with-oneis bet
ter off without them. Having both
outgrown babyhOod when you enter
upon Mans and WOman's life you do
not expect to be any longer in your
parents arms. Cheerfuily accept life
as it comes to you. Itsrough ascents,
its fiowery 'slopes" if trod hand in
hand will insure genuine happiness and
we think often secures quite as much
real pleasure when passing on the sto-
ny places, as when walking among the
flowers through the never ending enjoy
ment one may gather by looking back
and talking over the hardships and
battles of their early life.
We are aware that a lover often
takes great delight in selecting the
house that is to be the home, furnish
ing as tastefully and deliberately as
his income will permit, perhaps in the
enthusiasm of the moment going lit
tie beyond a safe limit and then sur
prising his bride, latter the approved
manner of many dime novels) by ush-
ering her into this unexpected estab-
lshment Thesurprise is doubtless eff
fectual, but, although the annoyance
may be concealed, we venture to say
that nine times out of ten it is kindly
felt.
If possible let both act together in
selecting and furnishing the house or
rooms" which is to be welded
loves first home" so that the taste
and judgment of both should be con-
suited not only in engaging the house
but the furniture they expect to have
before their eyes daily. In thus exam
lining and counseling together, they
modify each others tastes, and in the
end are far better satisfied than if
either had done the work alone.-Mrs.
II. ". Beecher, in Brooklyn Magazine.