The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1885-08-05

man has any right to monopolize young
woman as to deter others from showing her
the ordinary courtesies of life. And no
young woman has any right to encourage
attentions she does not intend to reciprocate
Therefore, do not allow yourselves such ex-
elusive rights in one another as to cause un-
pleasant criticisms to be made by outside
parties. Many lifelong distrust of human
nature, as many lifelong heart-ache Also
would be avoided were these condi-
tions of social intercourse observed
Ii, as the outcome of such obedience
true affection is developed let an engage
ment be entered into adTisedly, discreetly and
seriously, for its abiding consequences are
almest as weighty as the marriage vow itself.
Let your engagement be made known as soon
as can be consistently, for it is one of the
things which it is considered harmless to
deny, and much mischief sometimes ensueS
from such thoughtlessness."
The unsuitable attachment is what
makes the trouble and leads to the divorce
courts. But, says a young lady, chow am
to know whether am forming suitable at
tachment or not?" 1t is such an important
matter that you must find out. If the prop
osition was to buy an estate worth large
sum of money, the seller would very properly
make suitable inquiries regarding the pur-
chaser. In proportion to the lack of prudence
and carefulness on the part of the parties to
the contract, there is just that much risk of
making an unwise bargain. Every
man and woman has a certain moral
value in every community. That value is
always known, or approximately so at least,
among those with whom he or she moves
and associates. That character can be al
ways inquired into and the facts established
so firmly that no one need err therein. If
there is any mystery about the person that
your heart is interested in-an indefinable
longing to know more about her or him that
fails to be gratified, there should be great
prudence in making the next step toward a
marriage engagement.
In Miss Hookers article the lady treats of
other matters that may be called more prac-
tical. She says on one point: eve are often
told that marriages are contracted much
later in life than they used to be, and that
this seems the better way, but we doubt its
being any wiser course than that of earlier
days, when in country towns especially, the
young men married soon after attaining
their majority, choosing their wives from
those in their own station in life, which is
always the better plan. In this case the
young woman knows that it is some work
and not all play in the combined home life
Another point or two is also treated by
this lady and as matters of the kind are al
ways entertaining and often instructive, we
conclude as she concludes. She says: 80
great is the love of display in dress in many
instances that young men DESTROYS of making
'homes in the world are deferred therefrom
often-times on this account. So that another
caution is to be specially emphasized, seek not
to misledd yOpf lOrer il this matter. DO not pre-
tend Indifference to dress that you do not feel.
Above all thinks be frank at the outset in
this matter of expenditure, and let the item
of dress always conform to the acknowledged
income. Arrays having this understood pre-
vious to your marriage 1t is ten fold more
manly and womanly to treat this subject in
a sensible manner during your courtship,
than to allow it to become source of annoy
ance LATER"