St. Paul daily globe., 1885-12-27
FINE MANNERS FOR MEN.
A Partisan Chat as to the Little Civ.
ilities Due to Miss and Madam.

A very witty and Intelligent Parsienne
of high social rank, has recently declared
as follows: "Gentlemen should always bow
first to ladies, nurses and priests A true
gentleman will salute the host, religious
funerals, the flag of parting regiment.
Nuns and priests should be saluted every
where, but in the case of lady the place
where she is met with decides whether she
is to be saluted or not. Whenever gentle
man meets lady of his acquaintance in a
public place he should uncover completely
in saluting her; if he speaks to her he
should remain uncovered until she requests
him to replace his hat. II the lady is rid
ing in carriage he should always salute
her, but if she is on foot he should wait
until she has manifested by glance of
recognition that she desires his salutation
At the races, in the Bois, in the public
prOmenades, gentlemen should salute with
| out waiting for recognition, but they should
not renew the salute every time they meet
the lady in the same place during the same
day. When man meets woman on the
stairway, no matter to what class of society
she may belong, he should pause.
REMOVE HIS HAT,
| and wait until she had passed. Louis XIV.
| saluted all women, without making any dis
tinction, and uncovered himself on the stair
way of his palace even when the woman
who passed him was one of tile maid serv-
ants.
IA deplorable custom has been recently
introduced into the theaters; it is that Of
gentlemen keeping their hats on while they
are talking to lady at the door of her box.
At the theater man should never be the
first to salute a lady, but wait until, by her
recognition, she has authorized it, If she
speaks to him he should not, no matter how
| much she insists, replace his hat on his
head until he leaves her. 1t is not obli-
gatOry to call in at the boxes of all the
ladies you may know. For man who goes
| out great deal this would be impossible;
besides you should not enter ladies' box
at the theater until you have satisfied your
self that it is not already overcrowded with
visitors; it is also the correct thing to enter
| box only when you are acquainted with
all the ladies in it.
"a man should salute ladies as they are
coming out of church, but never inside it,
| unless he is encouraged by
A GLANCE OF RECOGNITION,
for woman should never be disturbed in
her religious meditations. If gentleman
meets lady Oh the arm of another with
whom he is not acquainted, he should not
salute unless her manner encourages him to
| do so, and then he should confine his salute
| to profound bow and pass on without
| stopping. If the lady speaks. the gentle
| man upon whose arm she is leaning should
| make slight movement as though to hold
| himself to one side and it is the place of
the lady to introduce the two men; although
| she need not do so unless she wishes. If
| two gentlemen are together and one bows
| to lady the other should never bow; to do
so is to show lack of tact and an imperti-
nent desire to be presented. A well-bred
| man makes no distinction among women
when saluting them. no matter to what
| class of society they may belong. When he
| is with lady he should not bow to any
| one but those whom that lady knows, ex-
cepting, of course, members of his own
| family.
''Well-bred men never enter salon af-
| ter o'clock p. m. with their hat in their
hand, although it is the correct thing to do
so earlier in the afternoon. In salon la
dies should be bowed to as profoundly as
possible, no matter how intimate you may
be with them-the politeness is not in
tended for them, but for the mistress of the
house. You should always wait for lady
! to offer you her hand before taking it; if
| she is elderly you may carry it
RESPECTFULLY TO YOUR LIPS.
1t is generally the fashion when lady
| salutes princess with the grand salut de
| cour, for the latter to raise her up and kiss
| her on the forehead A lady should be
bowed to from the day she takes her first
communion; before that you should treat
her according to your degree of intimacy
with her family. Between men the only
rule in these matters is that the younger
| should always be the first to bow, and that
| the elder should return the salute in the
| same way that it is given.
''You can enter your club with your hat
on your head, and you should not remove
| it on entering restaurant or cafe; you can
| also keep it on in theater until you reach
| your seat, provided the piece has not COM
menced, in order that you may remove it
when you pass in front of ady."-Paris
| Letter in New Orleans Picayunne.