Semi-weekly south Kentuckian. [volume] (Hopkinsville, Ky.) 1883-1889, 1885-05-26
Study Ct Husbands.

we near much about The art OF
winninga husband. Let us take a step
further and make a study of keeping
a husband. II he is worth winning
he is worth keeping. This is wicked
world, and man is dreadfully mortal.
Let us take him just as he is, not as
he ought TO be. In the first place he
is very weak. The wife must spend
the first two years in discovering
these weaknesses, count them on her
fingers, and learn them by heart. The
fingers os both hands will not be tto
many. Then let her study up these
weaknesses, with a mesh for each one,
and the secret is hers. Is he fond of
a good dinner? Let her tighten the
mesh around him with fragrant
coffee, light bread, and good things
generally, and reach his heart through
his stomach. Is he fond of flattery
about his looks? Let her study the
dictionary for sweet words if her
supply gives ont. Does he like TO
hear her talk about his brilliant in
tcllect? Let her pore over the ell
cyclopRdia 10 give variety to the
depth of her admiration. Flattery is
a good thing, to study up at all haz-
ards, in all its delicate shades, but it
must be skillfully done. The harpy
who may try to coax him away will
not do it absurdIy. Is he fond of
beauty? Here's the rub-let her be
bright and tidy; that's half the VIC
tory. Next, let her bang her hair
metaphorically and keep up with the
times. A husband who sees his wife
look like other people is not going to
consider her"broken down." Though
it is common sneer that a woman
has admitted that her sex considers
more, in marrying, the taste of her
friends than her own, yet it must be
considered ludicrous that man lOol S
at his wife with the same eyes that
other people do. Is lie fond Of liter
AIRY matters? Listen TO him with
wide open eyes when he talks Of
them. A man doscn't so much care
for literary wife if only she will Ic
literary enough to appreciate him.
If she have literary inclinatious,
keep them 10 herself.
Men love 10 be big and great 10
their wives. That's the reason why
a helpless little woman can marry
three times 10 a sensible, self-rcliamt
woman's none. Cultivate happines,.
Is he curious? Oh, then you have a
treasure; you can always keep him if
you have a secret and keep it. care
fully. Is he jealous? Then, woman,
this is not for you; cease torluring
that fretted heart which wants you
for its own.and teach him confidence.
Is he ugly in temper and fault-find,
ing? Give him dose Of his own
medicine skillfully done. Is he de.
ceitful2 Pity him for his weakness
treat him as one who is born with a
physical defect, but put your wits 10
work-it is bad case. It's well moi
to be too tame. Men do not waste
their powder and shot on hens and
barnyard fowls they like the pleas.
ure of pursuing wild game-.quail
and grouse and deer. A quail is a
good model for wife-ncat and trim
with pretty swift-way- about, and
} just little capricious. Never lei
yourself become an old story; bC
, just little uncertain. Another i'm.
portant fact is don't be too good; il
hurts his feelings and becomes mono
tonous. Cultivate a pleasant voice
so that this very mortal man may
: have his conscience prick him when
he is in jeopardy; its pleasant ring
, will always haunt him much more
, than would a shrill one. 1t Is hard
, TO do all, besides taking care of tht
babies and looking after vexatiou!
. household cares, and smiling when
he comes home, but it seems necessary
, "To be born woman is to be a born
martyr says a husband who for ten
5 years had watched in amaZement hi
wife treading the wine-press of he
existence. 1t is pitiful sight Il
some men. But if the wife does no
make a study of those things th'
harpy will, to steal away the homo
a from his silver hairs when he is ful
: of years aud the father of sons an(
: daughters. AT the same time, goO(
Q wife, keep from trying any of thes,
Q things on any mortal man but you
a own. These rules are only evolved
S in order to "keep a husband" Tn,
: poor, weak creature would rather b.
t good than bad, and it is woman
!, duty to hold him by every means il
d her power.