Richmond democrat., 1885-06-11

So well pleased was one Of our ladl
readers "a married LADY, on reading
our remarks IN commenting on com
mcnL from the Plattsbutg Register
Lever, two weeks agu, that she sen,l'
us word that ilattcrs us too much. She
declared that we were "mo,lrl hus-
band
nut We are mt. Far frnm IT, Every
man ia selfish ami seldshnrsS mars
many married lives Husbands are
thoughtless, too, because they have
allowed scllishnca5 to grow upon them.
How many wives who read the DsNo-
GRAFT can look back aud remember the
time when their husbands 0hen ar
dent lovers would jump to anticipate
their slightest wish Now the same
m,1i will not only fail to do any jump
lug or anticipating, but will turn Il
deaf ear tO wishes expressed. Wife
wants bonnet, a hit Of ribbon, or
other millinery goods with which TO
deck her person and makchcrsclf more
prcsentablc for (shc hopcsl tho special
qualification and pleasure Of husband.
She remembers the colors he adored
her in when he kissed her that mooa-
light night down by the spreading elm
whore they had sat for hours aud
planned their future. But the husband
of to-day evidently has lost his admi-
ration for pretty things that adorn u
woman and thinks beauty uuadorned
Is most adorned lie hands out none
of the partnership funds In answer to
the request, but delivers an opiuion
instead and growls and grumblos
about the scarcity of money. Then he
goes to town, aud ten to one he throws
away more money for something for
tnmsclf than would buy what his wife
wanted. Like the angel that slio Is.
she believes oil tho hog said. aud before
lie returns home she has concluded to
make over, turn inside out, revamp
her old clothes aud get along without
buying what she needs,
1t is n fact that nearly every wires
daily thoughts are for the comfort and
welfare ur her husband. For him she
prepares the most uppetiziug viands.
for him is set the easiest char and in
the most comfortable place in the
room. lie finds his slippers beside the
chair aud his willing slave standing
ready 10 take the apparel lIe dotfs.
Aud right here is where wives make
Il great mistake. They wait on their
husbands too much. 1t encourages
that sellishnrss which makes men
thoughtless and unjust. Let the big
lubbers wait on themselves while
aud make them wait ON you "a little.
But what is the Use of giving this
adyiceY The average wife has got
into the harness and has become so
accustomed TO it that she wouldn't get
out Of IL if she could. She thinks her
husband perfection, yet she knows he
is guilty of the sins Of omission and
commission we speak of.
>" oui i'uy illtllu we SHY, no, we
are not model husband, but we strive
against some sins that too ipany hus-
bands are guilty of. We hold that the
average wife Is more economical than
the average husband, and that she |
should be treated as business partner. |
What man would expect his partner in |
slru unn1G O IA. 30, a..
every cent he expended and explain |
the why and wherefore of the expen- |
diture? We once overheard a poor. |
haggard looking woman-who had |
raised a family of children and worn |
herself out drudging for her farmer |
husband and his numerous progeny
ask for ten cents to buy u cheap pair
OF hose that lay on the bargain coun- |
ter of the store they were trading in. |
In \ gruif whisper there came to our |
ears the query where's the dollar
and fifteen cents gave your The
woman's whispered explanation was
that she had bought such and such |
articles of dress for the children. |
the man drew out several
pieces of silver and carefully selected
Il dime and pushed it into her hand.
We felt like kicking him into the river
close by and throwing rocks at him
until he drowned Instead of doing
SO we went to our office and wrote
column on "Niggardly Husbands"
and, rs several of our lady friends re-
marked afterward, the way we shook
EN- up was caution. Perhaps the
article did some good, as perhaps this
one will. If only the conscience of one
selfish husband is quickened aud he Is
brought to realize that he has violated
his VOW made at the altar when heaven
appeared to him to have opened its
portals and sent an angel to bless his
life-if only one sinner, we say, is re-
claimed, one back-sliding husband
brought TO realize how cusscd, con-
founded selfish and mean he has been,
we shall be well repaid for the time
and space given to these remarks.
Aa End 90 Home scrapins.
N WaV