Semi-weekly south Kentuckian., 1885-10-30
WESLEY AND HIS WIFE.
rhs Great Preacher Figuring AZ an OBJ
jectOr In His Marital Relations.


rhs Great Preacher Figuring AZ nm OBJ
jectOr In His Marital Relations.
Great men are not always fortunate
In their wives. Here is letter written
by John Wesley to his wife, which a
correspondent has brought to light
John Wesley waymarred in February,
1851, to Mrs. Mary Vazille,, "a mer-
chants widow in Thrcadneedle street."
who possessed a fortune of about $780,
900, secured to herself and her four
children. He was forty-eight, she forty
one. His biographcr, the Rev. L. Tyer-
man. says OF their marriage that it
was. In high degree, an act of folly
and, properly enough, to the end Of
OF life. both of them were made to suf-
fer serious penalty"
COLRPoID, October "a, 1769-Dear Molly
will tell you simply and plainly the
things web. ] disl.ke. If you remove
was dislike yoursbowIng any one my lot
lers ind private papers without my leave.
This mover did amy Good yet. either 70 you or
ne or any ono. IL only sharpens and emblt-
tcrs your own Spirfu Aud the same Eject II
naturally has upon Others. The same as II
would have upon me, but that (by the Grace
Of Cod do not think OF 1t. 1t Gun do no
Good. ltcan never bring me nearer. tho II
may drive me further OF. And should you
do as you so often threaten me, then the mat
ter is over. know what have to do. In
all this you arc nghting against yourself.
You are frustrating your own purpose, II
rou want me TO love you. You take Just the
wrong way. No one was ever forced TO love
smother. II cannot be: Love can only be
won BY softnoss; Foul means avail nothing.
But you say, Il have tried Fair Means and
they did not succeed" II they do not none
will; Then you have only to say, This Evil
ls Of the Lord: nm Clay In his hand"
] dlsllko,2 Not having the Command of my
own House;no bong at liberty to invite even
my nearest Relations so much as 10 Drink q
Dish OF Tea without disobeying you. ] dis
like, ., The being myself q Prisoner in my
own house; the having my Chamber door
watched continually so that no Person can
20 IN or out, but such as have your Good
cave. dislike, 4, The being bnt prisoner
at large, even whep ] go abrond, lnasmuch-
rs you arc highly disgusted II do not givo
you an Account Of every place | go to and
every person with whom converse. dis
like, J, The not being safe in my own House.
My House Is not my Cnstle. ] can not call
They are liable 10 be plundered every day.
You say, 81 plunder you of noting but Pa
pers." / am not sure of that. How is Il pos.
slble shouldr miss money, too, and no
that will steal u Pin will steal Pound. But
were Il so, Scholars Papers are his Treas
ure; Ny Journal in particular. ..Dut took
anly such papers as relate to Sarah Ryan
and Sarah Crosby" That Is not true: What
are Mr.. Landey's Letters 10 Theml Besides,
you have taken Parts OF my Journal which
relate to neither one nor the Other. dis
llko, o, Your Treatment OF my Servants tho
indeed they arc not properly minel. You do
all that in you lies to mako their Lives a
Burden TO them. You brow-beat, harass,
rate them like Dogs, make them afraid TO
speak to me. You treat them with such
Hnughtiness, Sternness, SOurness, Surliness,
1ll.nature, as never wore known in any House
OF mine for near dozen years. You forget
even Good breeding. and use such coarse
Language as befits none but Fshwife.
dislike, ], Your talking against me behind
my back, and that every Day and almost
every Hour of tho Day; making my Faults
(real or supposed the Standing Topic Of
your Conversation. dislike, y. Your Sland-
ering me, laying at my charge things which
you know are false. Such are ito 20 but a
few days back) THAT beat you" Which you
told James Burgis. That rode to Kingswood
Rgby Rss sasn ana SoS oS
were irst married, never to, sit in my pres.
enoe without my leave. Which you told
Mrs. Lee, Mrs Fry, and several others; and
stood TO it before my face. ! dislike, Q,
not true. To instance only in two
or three Particulars. You told Mr.. ireland
"Mr. Vanilla learnt Spanish In Fortnight"
You told Mr.. Fry Mrs. Ellison was the
author Us 10 my Intrigue In Georgia" You
told Mrs. Ellison "Yon never said any such
thing; you-nevesnehnrged her with It." You
also told her THAT had laid Plot TO serve
You as Susannah was served by the two
measurable Bittorncss to all who endeayor
70 defend my Character lus my Brother
Joseph Jones. Clayton Carthyl, breaking out
even into foul, unmannerly Language; such
as ought not to defile GentlowOmuns lips
II she did not belleve one Word OF the Bible
And now; Molly, what would any ono nd
wise you to, that has a real Concern for youI
Happlness2 Certainly. !, To show, rcnd
touch those Letters no more; II you did not
restore them to their proper owner; 2, TC
allow me the command of my own House,
with free Leave TO invite thither whom
| please: Q, To allow me my Liberty there
that any who will may come TO me. without
Lot or Hindrance; 4, To let me go whore
| please, and to whom please, without giving
an Account to any: 5, TO assure me, YOU viii
take no more of my Papers, nor anything o.
| mine, without my Consent: ., To treat al
| the servants where you are (whcther yol
like them or not with. Courtesy and Hu
manlty, and not speak, If you speak at ALI t.
| them, as well as with others, with good.naturc
| aud Good manners: Z, To speak no evil o
me behind my back; q, Never to accuse IN,
| falsely: U, 10 be extremely CAUTIOUS OF say
ing anything that Is not strictly true. both u
TO the Matter and Mnunor; and, 10 To avoit
| all Bittcrnness OF Expression. till you cal
| avoid all bitterness OF Spirit.
These are the Advlces, which now Civ,
| you In the Fear of God, and In tender Low,
| to Your Soul. Nor Gun give you a StrOnge
Proof that am, your afectlouato husband
JOHN WESLEY.
Mary's life ended ten years befor
her husbands. She died in 1881. afte
having made him miserable for thirt,
years. Wesley survived her. living t,
the ripe age of lightweight In
worldly way he had gained nothing b
his marriage. 1t lost him his fellow
sh p at Oxford and at least temporaril
alienated his brother Charles and hi
wife.-M Y. Critic.