The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1885-01-15

land should advocate and take part Il,
them. The finest women DO not approve
| them and ere not SO married. Their del.
icacy reyolts at such pomp, end shrinks
from such violation, Of the plainest nro.
pFiettes. At every wedding Of this kind. !.
the presents are displayed and labeled
and their quality and cost pub!icted In
the newspapers, along With Che full toilet
OF the bridej not her gowns alone; bnt
even her underwear, her stockings, every
ehred of her esote.ic wardrobe. fs this
nice; ID this womanly is this decent
every properly organized person
knows that It 10 not. Such thiugs
would be incredible ;f they we're
not 80 continually done, and done, too
which 10 siill more incredible--byt thoss
pluming themselves on their ladyhood,
Ladyhood In soothl It is evident that
In the social world there are ladies and
ladies'; that what some Of them habitu.
others could not think of doing without
fiery blIsh. :.
Formerly, when BRIDES entire wards.
robe with eyerv connubial detail had
been advertised in the newspapers. it was
assumed thet the prying irreprcBsibie re.
porters, on whose shoulders so many sins.
not their own, arc usually laid, had aur.
Teptitiously obtained the particulars.
This assumption Is no longer made.
Ihe mother, sister or other near kins.
woman of the bride meets the repoYtsrs
eagerly, and furnishes. them with com.
plete Information of the most indelieato
sort, on tho ground that, in matters 90
momsntous, entire accuracy ia absolutely
necessary. The. transparent fact Is that
the bride, as we'll as those related to her,
are resolved to have her bridal, and
everything connected with it, blazoned
before the public, irrespective of. propri.
ETY.. She and ehey might claim that ths
marriages Of titled and prominent per-
sons ia the Old World monarGhies are
copioua!y caronicled, and chat the ma.
Jority of newspaper readers enjoy such
gossip. Ihis 10 true enough but the
Old World monarchies are not egatnpies
and no sensitive man or woman would be
willing to crafty vulgar curiosity unless
petty self.love were aorely involved.
The unsafety Of spectacular wedding
10 shown by the fact that large proper.
tton of marriages provo odisappointments,
often bitter, very bitter, dlsappointments.
1t has been asserted that more than olIa.
half OF them turn out badIy, and that at
leatt two othirds Of them would better
nevor have occurred. This may or NAV
not be correct. There are, unfortunate.
y, no statisticS on this important subject.
But enough is known to clearly denote
certain hazard in every matrimonial ven.
ture; and In many such ventures q posi.
tive peril. It may be conceded that
thoy who possess sufficient means to war.
rant them, financially, in pompoua
wedding -rnany do not scruple to secure
one by credit-would have less prospect
OF serious disharmony than those of
slender income. It Ia easy to zee that
rich couple are not nearly so depend.
ent on ono another as s poor couple;
that their friction 10 necessarily less
that their chances of, of,coatentment, or
silent resignation, are Increased. Power.
ty ia always fearful strain, especially in
marriage, and It In hard ito hide the
strain. Many rich husbands and viYes
who now live In apparent accord, and are
REALIZED happy, from ignoranos OF their
mutual feelings and attitude, would have
Jared apart long ago, had their ciEcum.
stRnces been stFaitencd. s Fl, .,.:
If women insist, as they seem to, on
some grand demonstFation or parade in
ssssEFts &c marriage, isss sissm dsisf il un.
til number of its anniversaries have
passed-tive at least, tho ten would be
better. While couples often adjust
themselves to one another in year or
two, it 10 unwise to believe all peril over
until they have had longer experiences
together. Not intrequently pairs eepa-
rate after fifteen or twenty yeara of wed.
ded bliss; but commonly they find out
much earlier, their irreeoneiliable incom.
patibility. Few have the patience or che
forsitude to bear with ono another's
failings TO such an extent. Bnt the
period of trial should not be less than
ten years, to insure prudence. IL they
have so far borne and forborne, sinned
and guaared, forgiven and been forgiven
-.ali marriage Is o series Of adaptations
and compromises-let them celebrate
their tin wedding with such pomp and
parade as they may Then 2 eyEaill, in
oil probability, have passed the danger
Eeia> end they will hays es:sss = Es;sss!:ss.s ss!!ss
that they have escaped rocks on ghich,
60 many copjugsl ventures have been
wrecked. But all discretion forbids the
cry Of victory ere the first blow has been
struck. S;s5 ss.s .3ss
JuNius HnNRI BROWSE. n