The Marlboro democrat. [volume] (Bennettsville, S.C.) 1882-1908, 1885-06-10
marrying Daughters on,

marrying Daughters on,
In H'rance the parents make the
match. If not as ostenstbly, yet no less
really Is this often done III England.
1t Is not the man, but the maintenance
which is uppermost III the parental
thoughts. 1t Is painful to reflect, while
taking a survey of the matches Of fifty
years. experience, how rarely we ever
could detect that the character OF man,
otherwise eligible, influenced the paren-
tai decision. For the most part, all the
evidence offered of Il man being scamp
or II prOfligate Is set aside as envy, ma
lice, and all uncharitableness; or else
with the remark, swell, all young men
are wild; but they grow steady when
they ale married." We once heard a
lady, in speaking Of q matrimonial
event just coming off, say, ''Capital
match; iirst-rate chance for Ellen. Not
at all the sort OF man wo all know, that
she ever, intended to marry; but not
one woman In twenty does get that"
Certainly IN this mon have an advan-
tage. for they can choose; the ladies
must submit to he chosen, save In the
case Of some remarkable belle who has
admirers at command. But these ad-
yantaa:gses cH the side &C tho gcntiosica
are less than they seem. Their choice
is anything but free, rs far as reason is
concerned. Thoy are the victims OF q
natural illusion. They choose from the
charm and fancy OF the hour; or the
pride of possessing some Lady Clara
We're tle Vere, or somo simpering dim
pled doll, Willie all companionable quail
ties, and that sunshine Of the heart
which relieves the darkest while it adds
warmth to tho brightest days or this
checkered life, are rarely even named
among mon as the motive Of their
choice. Truly marriage is the door
that leads deluded mortals back to
EARTH" and, as with many q pretty bar
gain that las caught our fancy in a
shop window, great is the discnchant-
ment when we have BROUGHT it home
The married ladies III the ballroom
are the pests Of the poor mammas. They
have attained the object OF all balls and
dancing, and yet they have not the
grace TO feel for and give place TO young
girls who sit in rows against the wall.
Men prefer the married women and
why2 They can indulge in a kind of
conversation at which we should hope
that, in spite Of French novels, the
single would turn away. 1t is strange
that the husbands should endure to see
their wives whisked and whirled and
dragged about, we'll knowing that the
so.callcd waltzing and galopading
always, unless unusually we'll done, de-
generates into little better than unseen.
ly romping, indeed no one would be-
lleye even in its innocence il seen where
we sel ously believe it would not be
tolerated, in Piccadilly saloon. a
fact: q dressmaker who had seen from
an orchestra the dancing now in fashion,
when asked by a lady next day how she
had been entertained. replied: II sup
pose it is all right in high life, but in
our line Of life no young men would
dare to take such liberties with young
women" No. madam, your daughters
prospects never can be the better for
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