The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1877-1885, 1885-04-22

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xArrElF kSovLEDGE F EIlQl hIIL
What q rare giit Is that Of manners,
Iaw dificY.t 10 define how much mo e
3iF7rrIr to Itapartl Better fol- a man 10
ra..a.- them thar wealth, beauty, or
rsIanf they vii. more than supply all.
"a attegtion l. too minute, no labor too
exaggerated. which tends 70 perfect them.
H. who eni0y. their advantages III the
bigLe-t degree he who can please peue-
rate. persuade. a. the object may re
onira-rg.-e.,e. the subtic-s secret q
r'bn d~ipIomati-t and the statesman, ami
wants nothing bur opportunity 10 become
great
! ,bla m~aaDer,2 Even he who Is the most
DESTITUTE Of them-nay. who PROCESSES L..
/ je.pi.e them is uucOn-ciou>ly 9"ayed
hy trcir influence. ii they are not always
/ = rro,t oh The sincerity OF the posses~or,
The lack of them Is the absence OF one
! frnly Chris ian grace; for coed breeding
in n~ersoua! intercourse, Is the observance
If The command. DO TO others a. you
would that others should do to YOU; and
| II il for this reason that the truly good
man must be a truly pOIte mau.
BY pyIteness we mean the gAto''ol ~
/ 5ica5lGu of good breeding. 1t may be
| defined a. that mode Of behavior, winch
not only gives 10 offence, put Witch l.
generally pleasing to our ieiIo" c'e4~AlGS
10 our intercourse with Inc WORM ,Hts
specIes Of civIlty Is Imperative. we
have n, right TO give offence BY language
or actions TO others AMI we are 9ouhu 20
conduct ourselves ~asreeab!y 10 the rea7
5uable and set rules OF society
We must here stop TO POINT ont an
err Il, which Is often committed bot! ia
| a|piuIou and practice, and winch cohoiGls
in ceniyuudtng the @en''ei1ah WIN 'no
man 81 ia-hjna No TWO c~hafdc'C'' can
b III ne dr-tInct than these Gocd SENSE
aeI self r,- rect are the FOUNDATIONS OF
the ouc-uotorlety and lH~iiuehce the oo-
iects If thg cher Men o. t}9hlol aieio
d. seen everywhere; q Pa'e q mere
qcaHcauD is the r,rrcst th'"9 4f'te, Hrui4,
mel va, a man OF fashion, ont IL "oulo
b. a ~rervel-Ion OF terms 10 apply TO nm
hat very expressive word III oul IAN
guage, gentleman. lhe requisites to
compose his last character, are natural
ease OF manner dlgnlty ana sel-posSeS,
sion-a respect Tor all the deeeAGIeS o'
lie, and perfect freedom ifoih III "Heo'"
ton.
One OF the maXlmS OF uoethe was
Respect Tor self governs our norallty :;
respe. t for others our behavior though
possessing the brightest menta! endow-
mento one Is apt to be over looked IL
society, Ifthc prophecies OF the demeanor
are not attended to. 1t Is not meant,
however, that the external department
should be studied in preference to the
Improvement OF the mind; bat hat b0th
should be cultivated together. On thlN
point it may be sufficient to say that,
while a g~cntcel address and pohte air are
absolutely essential to the demeanor 70
secure AT once admiration and esteem, 1t
is the Improvement Of the mind which
should ad9rn the department.
Owing to their natural desire to please,
aided bv their agreeable manner and
courteous address, women are usually
more amiable than men. They have
more refinement, tact, and dclcacy, and
are certainly gifted with q nicer dlscrlml'
nation than the stronger sex; they have
a finer perception Of the correct, and
are quicker in detecting the weak point:
in the character and department
Lot not any man JnlaulnD that lt VIII
EASILY aconire those qualities which will
constitute him a gentleman. 1t is neces-
.arv. not only to exert the highest degree
Of art, but to attain also that higher
accomplishment of concealing art. The
serene and elavated dignity which mark
that character, are the result ct uutlrlng
and arduous effort. After the sculptor
has attained the shape Of proprlety, 1t
ii tla, ,AH b =
the chisei. A gentleman" says a cele-
brat,i French author, is one who has
reI.c ed deepy uron all the Obligations
which belong to his station, and who
has applied himself ardentIy to fulfill
them with grace"
Nothirg Is more true than the remark
of Polonius that the apparel oft be-
speaks the man First impressions are
ant TO be permanent; it is, therefore, of
importance that they should be favor
able. The dress of an individual is that
circumstance from which Won first form
vour oninion, It is even more prominent
than manner II Is. indeed. the only
thing which is remarked in a casual en-
counter or during the first interview.
II therefore. shnuld he he first care in
nranarioy for society
What STYLE IS to n thoughts. dress is
To our persous. It may SUNNY the plac.
Of more solid qualities, and without it
the most solid are of little avail. Mum
hers have owned their elevation to their
attentirn to the toilet. Place. fortune,
marriaoc have all been lost hy neglecting
II
Van must study IN make vour drps.
conforn to vonr ace and natural oxterinr.
m II III
he aor, cable on another.
P~ie without importunity. gall Mt
without being offensive. attentive to the
comfort of all. emnloying a wel-rerulated
kin6pess. witty at the prorer times. dis
Greet. induIcent. generous: he who exer-
cises, in his sphere, a high degree OF