The Nevada picayune., 1885-07-16
Courtesy and Good Breeding.

There would be fewer broken friendships in this world of ours and fewer tender hearts made sore, were intimate friends and relatives less negligent of the small courtcs- ies of life. This neglect is tho foundation of misery in marriage. and many serious and life long arrangement has begun. not so much from want of affection, as from lack of that delicate and in. stinctive appreciation of the feel ings of others. Finding fault un. less absolutely obliged to do so, is another cause of arrangement and another indication of bad breeding. No one is perfect and due allow ance should be made with all, for some little wrongs and irregular ities Even the most hightoned gentlemen and ladies, who would scorn to do an uncivil act where strangers are concerned, fro. quently forget the courtcsies due their intimates and, in thoughtless- ness or carelessness, or, in the belief that these loving friends will overlook the incivilties, act with q rudencss that is positively shabby. They forget the feelings of their friends and, by some thoughtless word or act, inflict a wound that years cannot heal and leave a blo. upon friendships record that a life time cannot erase. Then there is another kind of illbreeding which is doubtless the basest and most despisable of all others. which shows selfish disp position, a mar. row mind and low nature. That is refusing to repair wrong con- mitted or to accept proper repara- ton for a wrong that has been in- flicted. Often in life we will find narrow minded, selfish and shal. low people whom q little praise makes foolish and a little power tyranical, low bred persous who become bigotted by conslderati on and kind treatment and whom only coarse and rough treatment can make civil or keep within the bounds of courtesy.
 There is much in the manner of doing a thing which accordingly makes it pain or pleasure. Even very kind and generous ac- tions are often so uncouthly per formed as to cause the recipient more pain than pleasure while . reproof or denial may be so sweet ened by courtesy and almost to de. prive it of no pain and mOrtifica. tion.
 Genuine good breeding is always inclined to form a favorable judge. mcnt and to credit others with being prompted by worthy motives; it does not wish or seem to know, moro about people than they desire should be known, but 1t is always prepared. when necessary, to take an interest in the affairs of others while self is never suffered to un. duly intrudc.
 With most persons, show of respect begets respect and kind. ness and difference bring their just rewards, while rudeness and sell fishness disgusts. In our world there is much unavoidable discOm- fort and unhappiness and it should therefore Do deemed the duty of every one to cultivate those gra. cious manners under whose influ. ence the restless and dissatisfied grow more content. With these surroundings, tho diflident become encouraged, the invilids become amused, the sad become cheerful, the young become inspired with self respect, the old become bright and hopeful. and, in short. beams of sunshine spreads everywhere and increase a thousand fold tho a arorooafn Of human hoppipaua -