Reporter and farmer. [volume] (Webster, Day County, Dakota [S.D.]) 188?-1946, 1885-10-08
OyER.SENSITIVENESS

,Tbere, that's the second time I've
a,st Mrs. Adams within a week and she
has not noticed me-" said Mrs. Clark
i her friend and neighbor, Mrs. Sum
osr. as they left the store of Jordan,
Marsh & Co., Boston. "If that's the
ray she is to treat her husbands par
isb;opers, she'll make herself unpopu-
lar. and hurt DIR. Adams influence be-
SIDES"
(which was Mrs. Adams2" inquired
Ms. sumner, "the lady in brown, who
food at the embroidery counter? l
noticed you looking at her several
times"
ayes. that was Mrs. Adams, and I
don't understand whyi in the world she
did not speak to me-" replied Mrs.
Clark in a most emphatic tone.
,Don't be too harsh in your criti-
cisms, suggested Mrs. Sumner. Isn't
il possible she did not e your"
Didn't see mel" said Mrs. Clark,
su~eerineIy. How could she help see
ing meg Why could not she see me as
readily as Isaw her? Ihavenot heard
that her eyesight was poor, haveyoug
But will tell you what / have heard.
Mrs. Bates told me that she came ola
very aristocraticfamil in Providence,
who think more OF books and literary
society than OF anything else, and she
was wondering what sort OF n minis
ter's wife she would make. But she
will find that it will never dofor hertz
put on such airs here in Boston, that
i, unless she does not are whether
people like her or not"
20, you don't mean all that" said
Mrs. Summer, in a quiet way. II fear
you are getting a little excited, and
prelldging Mrs. Adams. How DO you
know but she is an absent-minded per-
son, and was SO absorbed in her pur-
ehases and her own thoughts as to be
Obvious OF all about her? or, she
may be near-sightcd, and | know that
n~ear-sighted people are less observing
than Others, owing, probably, to the
TACT that they do not expect to recog-
nize friends readily. Now, | am near
sighted myself, and so / have great
sympathy for such persons. My son
told me once that he should think |
would lose all my friends, for / so Of
ten failed TO recognize them on the
street. And then, more than that, /
forget names, and am frequently NOR
tilted when meeting friends to find |
cannot call their names"
"You have plenty of excuses" re-
Joined her friend, "but | don't believe
Mrs. Adams iseither absent-mindedor
near-sighted. | just think Mrs Batesi is
right, and shehas made upher mind to
have a few select friends, and sort of
gnore the rest OF us, and | will insist
that It is not the thing for a minis
.ter's wife to do" and Mrs. Clark with
out being aware of it, had raised her
voice so high that two younggentlemen
passing them as they walked down
Washington street, remarked:
Hello there trouble. Some poor
minister's wife is being hauled over the
Goals, and quitelikely her husband will
have his resignation sent in to him
sooni'i
Like enough responded his com
panlon. But then, they are always
criticised, ministers and their wives
100. They are either too strict or too
liberal, too extravagant or too econ
omical, too well dressed or too plain
y dressed, too aristoeratic ortoo pie
belan, too reserved or too free, and 30
Ioh, and so on. | tell you it would
axe more grace than | am possessed
|oi to go into that business"
Ihe ladies soon stepped into a res
taurant for lunch, and while sittinga Mt
table waiting for their orders, contin.
Mrs Summer said: II agree with
|you: Mrs. Clark, that it is a part OF a
minister's wife's duty to make herself
Isgreeabieand affable to all, although /
Know some disclaim that they haveany
uatles IN the church beyond those Of
private members. But in all my ex-
sperienee a pastors wife and children
ean help or hinder the work and the
inluence OF a pastor, by their conduct,
a~mnheasurably. Yet, while | allow all
tais, do not think you ought TO make
,ae assertions You have made about
IN: Adams, until you are better ac-
with her. Let me ask YOU
question. What reason could
Ars' Adams have for not wishing to
0ognize You and speak with your"
70 good reason, am sure" said
,aIs, Clark, 81 consider myself every
10y as good as Mrs, Adams. / don't
ar now much of a blue blood she
nov, another question:" said Mrs,
gunner, with a smile upon her face.
ivu nave met Mrs. Adams but once
y tSlee have your"
lwlce" replied Mrs. Clark, "and |
saould think that was enough 10 he
sUoghlzed. | met her once at the re-
psioh We gave them ut the church,
~. weeks ago, and again at the
aech on Sunday. She was not at
,onne when We called. Now, let meask
sOa = question. How many times do
49, espect to meet persons before
f~eeognlzing themg"
ina depends" said Mrs. Sumner.
SoS really, doyou think Mrs. Adams
sIsou'u unexpected to remembertwo or
H., es hundred people whom she has met
s = Lew times2 think K Would lie
afkable If she remembered one.
Sra MI oithem. Accordingto my think
m, you should not have waited for
~ speak to you, but have advan-
Ihs sourseli and spoken your name, so
smp'sht themore readily recall YOU"
MN then again." said Mrs. Shn1ner.
NM = quizzical look. "you cannot
fpose that she has been able to se-
shat literary clique as yet, and
IA 10 You know but she chose YOU
M. one when she met you. Come.
confess you have been q little
|uds; and foolish, aud reserve your
Lyls~ehI Tor q few weeks at least.
kssea sthat old adage. "A wrong con-
AL ! half.rearessed !, Mrs. Adams
Eas sbe \ N the city less than a month
'rree weeks yesterday since