New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1885-05-17

The whole duty of man-to man--is embraced in
good manners and IL bad manners were admitted
into Heaven il wonld cease to lie Heaven.
What shall be young womans recroations ana
amusementsT Usually whatever happens TO be
the fashion Amusemcnts come and go ike the
winds whatsoever they list. Real amusement must
generally bring the two sexes together-snch is tne
law of Heaven. No attraction is so strong as the
attraction between men and women, ana IL IS ldio
TO call anything amusement which rules that out
Yet the law of Heaven is law, not anarchy, chaos;
real amusement is always amenable TO order, Dig
nty self-pOssessiOn. Dancing is perhaps the most
decorOus and beautiful of pure amusemenis Rhyth-
mic, graceful imperous demanding exact oDedl,
ence. displaying beauty OF form and motion anu
ard all countries. IL exhibits at once, and Pro-
duces strength and agility. 1t exhilsrates and IL
fatIgnes. in ono sway oil pleasurape actiVitE, rli
ing the body and tranquizing the soul. Tennis 10
an outdoor exeTcise-actve, and II not in excess
most heathful. Croquet IS hut an animated idle
ness TO the unskilful yet in the hands OF MASTER
the balls do leap abont like intelligent creatures
Boating riding rowing, their name is legion one
hestates to strike man when he is down, but tne
skating rink crowded, indiscrimlnate and rather
vulgar Real skating has much to say for itself.
Far the best way is to let the young women select
their own amusments. girl well reared, furnished
habits may be safely trusted TO play at whatever
she likes. And at all good play and by all good
principles, the INTEL gent and atectionate inspeo-
ton of parents and elders is not suffered rs neceS-
sary evil but welcomed rs an additional pleasure,
if not oven demanded, as prerequisite 10
pleasure.
characters l. Imagnaton-to enable her to put
herself instantly into another place. 2. sympathy
which constrains her to make that other happy.
This constitutes the art and the fact OF icing agree
able which is first duty OF woman 3. Intellect
ual activity, 30 much swltter than man as 10 DC
almost different in kind and to be called by another
name-inStinct. 4. Some subtle moral superiority
which gives her special taste for and power over
humanity, involving q special distaste for and
weakness in material things From this 10 follows
that woman is the natural umpire of society the
ideal standard of man. Her purity shond, there
fore be not only spotless but commanding. She
ought not only to be hgh-minded but TO exact high
mindelness. 1t is not enough that she be not de-
graded by society. She ought to eXalt society.
Men are necessarily selfish in business. IL Is
woman's business to ennobe sellishness so that
business itself shall become the skilful servant OF
humanity.
Dearly beloved Withholding the names from this
correspondence you to yourself the right OF
a discriminating publication. Assuming that you
grant the samo liberty to your correspondents, l
send my letter to The NEwYOBK TRIBUNE, In the
fervent hope that, however sacrifice myself, shall
save you as by fire!
Yours in the determination TO be practical at all
costs, TRYPHENA.