The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1885-03-05
Elnprlnents.

Few people, especially among the
youthful, thiuk aud speak OF marriage
with the seriousness which il merits. II
the topic is touched at ali. it is in iocu.
lar manner, aud as Il subject for bndiDage
and amusement. Levlty carries the
young into complications from which
they cannot well retreat. In any other
engagement which connects TWO lives ~
friends, partners, companions, or busi
ness correspondents, caution is exercised,
though the connection be one which can
AT any time be severed upon due notice
but the mnriiage tie, which binds for
lie, and the bonds o; which cannut be
severed without distre.s, DotUriety, and
often shame and scandal is as carrlrssiv
assumed ss II the happiness Of lifetime
were not made Or mArred by it,
or all marriages those which are begun
10y riopement are among the mos, uniur.
tuhatc. II ~ not To- be denied tliat there
are some very rare exceptional case. in
which the parties do not regret the
union; but even in thrS. the wish must
ur irii that there were no memories lii
nc household winch it were better the
children should not hear Of. The ia
rents Of marriageable children have nat
uraI'y aud properly an anxiety c0ucern
'ng their future which the young people
themselves scarcely appreciate. And
when the family records register an inI.
prudent, If not bad example, IA fortunate
escape rather than well considered un
derlaking, it is not to be wondered that
the authority Of parents is not held in
respect.
Whether for good or for i'll, "priyat.
lie" has in these DAYS become impossi.
BILE, except to those WHOSE lives, to all
but their immediate friends, pass unseen
and unknown. Such peaceabIe security
Is among the happiest conditions. But
whoever goes 0u, of the ordinary routine
of life in ts family and social aspects, at
once draws the fire." and becomes the
quarry of the interviewers. There are
persons who like this, and court nUtorie.
~. The real sufferers In such cases are
their friends; aud when an elopement
takes place, their parents and family
connections. With all sensible people,
the acute distress of Tue father and
mother IL present to the thoughts. The
cry Of the poor old king is read between
the lines Of the llippant report:
How sharper than serpent's tooth it is
To have Il thankless child.
For thankless child il must be who will
deliberately and cruelty deceive the pa.
rents, to whom respect aud affection are
due.
1asty and unadyiscd marriages are
bad enough, and fruitful in unhappine-s,
even when the cunsent Of friends j.
wrung from them. 1t is usual to altri.
butte the misery in the world to iutem.
perancc and other vicious habits. There
are, however, causes behind actual
viciouSness. Much of the unhappincss
and want which exist are traseabie to
imprudeut marriages. The woman who
promises 10 love and honor" one If
whom she is not sure that he possesses a
lovcable and honorable character, may
entail upon hersalf lite OF wretched
ness. And tho man who heedlpssly GOV.
enants to keep the life. ns his own, OF the
woman who trusts him. is taking re,pon-
sibili,y of which lie should we'll ponder
the weight. The inexperience OF youth
--scorning tho wisdom OF those who are
capable Of ndvising-wiil often persist.
but, il you must marry, don't run away
u do it, lest you wish att 'rwsrd that you
could only run bnck.-ihidisiphid LED