Connecticut western news., 1885-01-14
More Dependent Than Independent

Editor NerS, DEAR SR:-It is more in sorrow than in anger that I take up i my pen to comment upon an item from this place last week.
 Any one c.,n see the underrurrent ot disappointment and recognize the arbi- trary disposition that permeates the whole letter. What can the writer of such an article know about independ- ence Let us see how much independ ence there is about him.
 Firstly. How independent he must have looked sitting on the edge of hIs bed, ill cold room, sewing buttons on his shoes; he says shoes, but candidiy speaking don't believe 1t was his shoes; 1 think he fibbed there in the beginning and if were bettor would bet that he used carpet thread and alarming need le, because 1t has big eye and waxed his thread at that, and could not bite of the thread to save his life. :" Secondly.-He does not have to get up first and build the fire, stand around shivering til! breakfast is ready. I pre-
 sume also he is just the sort of man that
 would not if he was married; probably
 he would forget the kindlings over
 night as well.
 Thirdly.-He is willing to draw ul his chair and make one for the time be
 ing, of your family circle and enjoy thu. comforts of 1t also, but he is too muel,
 f a coward to make one of his own
 Why is It Is 1t possible that om 1 bachelor friend, with his strong anu
 >inewy arm, feels incompetent to d.
 more than take care of himself ? Evel,
 if he tells you so, when you ask him,
 you do not believe it and he does not
 The fact is he Is so welded to his pipe
 and billiards, his going out and his com
 ing in, when he has a mind to, that h,
 Ireads the idea of any change that ma,
 perhaps, interfere with one atom of his
 own individual comfort, and so one faiI
 face after another is allowed to drift by
 and he sees others taking these goldell
 chances till he gets discouraged and at
 last indifferent. g. Fourthly.-Supposing this nice young man should get sick, where Is his inde-
 pendence then ? All the care and at tention he could get would be what Ii,
 could pay for, not that, but probabl, he has friends enough who would not see him suffer, but hired help and eveI the best and kindest attentions iron friends would be poor consolation t, nim then. How different would he fee 8 If loving hands could sm poth his rum
 pied pillow and hold the glass of wate. g to his feve. ed lips; to have loving eye l. watching for and anticipating ever, want and ministering to its gratifca tion and thus be surrounded by an at e mosphere of love and affection, hm m, :, poor independent friend is never likel, to know anything about unless he seek some other avenue i'll which to air hi : independence, than in a public boar,
 ing house.
 Look around us here, in this village k and see the number of such young mel and what are they good for Ever o 'e "f them capable and ought to b = wi. ling to support family of their own n but no, they prefer the shncks of thu l fe and go on year after year, ploddin t the same old rut, caring for no on
 but themselves and by and ny they vii find out that no one cares for then U They will become cross and disagree $ able and in everybody's way.
 l. One thing is certain, they are respor e sible for great deal of dependene, l. which it is their duty to relieve, and 'l si ,cer ly hope that now leap year Il past, and they have the acting power i
 their hands once more, that they wi
 exercise it ill such manner as will ca
 forth praise and thanksgiving frol
 many now neglected and waitin 70 heart. VIRGINIA. I Lakeville, J..n. 9, 1885.