The Abbeville press and banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1869-1924, 1885-11-18
Management.

The details of home work make q great deal
of unpleasantnpss and fatigue, II they are not
discharged under will regulated. good man
agememt. In large business enterprises the Inc
necessity for system is manifest to oil, but we
arc too much inclined 10 believe that home
duties can he looked after at wilt, or I'm order
in which hap-laZard circumstances present
them Such u course will always bring neg
greatly increase labor and bring WEAKNESS,
fretfulnesS and regret. In the home, Where
all hearts should be as one, nothing should
he allowed that tends to destroy the happi,
feeling and affection Of the family. AS, the
wife IS responsible tor the character and In
fluences of the home, rs we'll as the reguii-
ton of its duties, let her be the mistress that
manages in the spirit Of It's work.
We will not under take TO established
system of rules by which household should
be governed; circumstances are not Sl1nclent-
ly"unifOrm to warrant universal ;pplcatlol oi
a special government to the homes OF our peo-
pie. This much, however, we can say, the gov,
crnment should be positive, systematic ana
uniform. In dealing with servants and chill,
dren, women are TOO much inclined 10 ylelo
to requests that are hurtful; to induigencess
that bring trouble, and to a carelessncss that
provokesand makes additional annoyance.
Demands should never be made II they are
not reasonable, proper ana necessary anu
they should never be yielded, unless the CIT
cumstances az positively forbid their eXecu-
ton. Indulgence In wrong never resulted IN
good: ond a colnpromis of duty never work
ed for The best. BE careful in your cNactlons,
to see that they are just and need to be ell
forced, before they are demanded, and then nc
firm enough to insist upon and compcl ope.
diencc. No system of governments IS wise IL II
Is not lust: nor can 1t be successful II II Is not
positive and uniform. Regularity and sys'
tenn will save much fatigue. The day S du.
ties ought to be begun at II regular hour, iet IL
bc early or late. Meals should be served oy
the clock. and every member OF the house
hold should be in place at the time: Every,
thing In the home should have its place, and
be kept there. What an annoyance to nccd
a broom and not know where to f1nd ~; now
provoking to start to church when Georges
hat cannot be found and Susie's gloves are
misplaced 1t is not pleasant to prepare lot
tea, and find the dishes have been left oVcl
from dinner and have now TO be washcu
How all the home Is set agos when the pan
try key Is nlislui1. and we have crimtnati0ns
and recrminations as to the last party using
it, and everybody on search Just because Oh u
little currlessncss and the lack of manage
ment. Johnnie became engaged IN MS play
and neglected 10 20 tor the calves, the milk
ing was thrown into the dark; the cook conld
not prepare the toast; tea was made late anu
an engagement for the evening was dlsap
pointcd; all because of q little indulgence III
play beyond the proper time: Study tne du.
Ties OF The home determine upon the best
methods of dscharging them. have regula'
tOns that command respect and compci ooe
dicnce. SyStematiZe every dcta1l; let the
spirit Of order prevail and the children VIII
be Obpdicut and atlrctiOnate; the servants
respectful and useful; the wife. In the besi
sense, will be the mistress Of her nome. ant'
the husband happy in the beautiful system
that regulates lis entire household.