Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1885-06-29
gadiss' Column.
TALKING.


homes than the one who always has
something pleasant to say and does
not hesitate to say it? To whom does
hostess feel so grateful as to the
man or woman on whom she can de-
pend to keep the ball of conversation
rolling, whose bright and interesting
talk will be sure to delight all who
listen?
But while we admire the gift. /
fear we are inclined to look upon
it simply as 'gift of fortune with
out realizing that to be a successful
taIker lies within the reach of most
of us.
Some people talk we'll without eff
fort; but that is no reason why
others should be unwilling to make
an effort. 1t is fact that many of
our best takers have made themselv-
es so by sheer force of will and hard
work for most minds require spec
ial training in order to impart knowl-
edge, just as much as to acquire it.
Perhaps we shall say, "We are too
old we have never given any time
nor thought to the matter, and we
cannot change now"
That is poor excuse; but if we
are not willing to work for ourselves,
then let us turn our energies with re-
doubled force to the training of our
children in this particular.
1t is natural for children to talk.
Any one who has lived in the house
with boys and girls, or who has
watched them on the streets going to
and from school, knows that silent
ones are the exceptions. Chatter,
chatter, chatter, is the rule, and SO
interested are they that they find it
hard not to take more than their
share in the conversation. Many of
them can talk exceedingly well.
Leaving out good deal of slang and
some gobjectional expressions, for
consciseness, wit and point, we
might 10 advantage take lessons of
many schoolboy.
In some families children are con-
stantly reminded that they "should
be seen and not heard" that ISL
lence is golden" that "they always
talk who never think" and by many
such checks their natural love of
talking is discouraged. AT first they
scarcely hear or heed such remarks
but ere long they become sensitive.
; and when told that they like to hear
| themselves talk, OF that they'd better
keep still till they can think of some
thing worth saying, they gradually
draw further back into their shells
, till at length the parents are troubled
t because their children do not tall
enough.
Children certainly ought not tt
. monopolize the conversation. Mucl
of their talk is far from interesting
F.. but repression is not the remedy. W.
e ought rather to cultivate and ehcour
age talking, while we make sure tina
. it takes the right course and form
0 If children can talk easily, there il
y no reason why they should not tall
e we'll. Let them see we are interested
in what they are saying, and the.
~ will be pretty sure to talk in wa,
which they think will increase OF in
. terest.
Quick perception, the faculty o
seeing things in their proper relation
an appreciation of the humorous sid
T. of life, all are necessary for success
y in conversation.
ly But while these are necessary, the.
are not in themselves sufficient. Tn
III selfishness is most important facto
ne if one would succeed in making hi
% . conversation agreeable to others
is One must not talk for his own pleas
of ure, or he will inevitably become
" bore. Thorough unselfshness
Is necessary that he may readily adar
no himself to the diverse people wit
n whom he is thrown, that he may b
~ willing to omit all things which woul
m hurt the sensitive or injure the ur
ng fortunate.
hy In short, our object in talkin
should be to give pleasure, enjoy
ment, profit to those about us-n6
to impress them with the amount W
nn know, the many things we have seer
ers or the volumns we have read.
Try But the chief thing still remains
DIV be said. He who would talk mus
have something to say, and he WI
would have something to say ma
,dy read and study. The trouble is, OF
h a., children and young people are NJ
!, it given good books of history, biogr
fe- ply, travel, popular science, etc
and then induced TO read. We a
oft growing up a race of empty-heade
nse callow youth, and where the brai
ere are few the tongue cannot we'll wa
n ar5s Christian at Work.
ELS
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Dis Dis the lovely peldryoniunas, allow t
ug- pots to become thoroughly dry befo
watering, and give period of re
Jugs after blooming.
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$40 best when partially protected fro
the suns rays. Comparatively f,
lex,
ons. varieties will retain their distinct
and markings in exposed situations.
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strong plants before frost comes,