The spirit of democracy. [volume] (Woodsfield, Ohio) 1844-1994, 1885-09-22
BOYS AND HUSBANDS.
BY O.

BY O.
The boys Of to-day are the men OF to.
mo'rpw. Mothers, train your boys.
There are many womea capable OF
dep and enduring affection. They marrv.
the man they love; they not only honor
aud respect him, but a SO con6da In him,
depend upon bis Judgment and cling to
hin with devotion. ! 3.
Alas! how many OF these tender.
hearted bnt brave women discover even
tuallv thatthelr husbands are selfish aud
mean, or thoughtless and inconsideraie !
Their hopes are shattered and their hap
lpiness impaired. Some OF the weaker,
ones sink into state Of indifference to
their husbands wishes, or, sadder still,
his comfort, or else into state Of con-
stant irritation and fretfulness. And what
wonder is itl
The most affectionate. disinterested
wife cannot, 10 a short time, uproot hab
It's that have been growing for years; for
"habit is second nature"
How can it he expected that boy al.
lowed to he impolite to his sisters and
dsrespectful toward his mother will de
velop into an unsel6sh man2 1mpossi.
BILE! A boy who demands fsvors of his
mother will also demand OF his wife
without thought of thanks for services
rendered or kindness conferred.
A boy uncontrolled at home will Eever
learn TO control himself, cannot under.
stand amenability to law. and can never
comprehend the. duty or the pleasure Of
setting aside self and Administering to
the happiness of others.
A boy allowed the first and best choice
in preference to sisters (sven younger
ones) will never understand true courte.
sy. AS he advances in years he may
cultivate q species of outward, away
Trombone politeEess, but such is not
genuine; it does not spring from gen.
erous motive. hut from selfish desire to
be "thOu9ht we'll of
Selfshness is innate. We cannot help
thinking of our own com 'orts, our own
appearances or the impressions We make
lpon our associates; to degree this is
right, but let US make selfshness subor-
diDate.
A father was seeing bis little family
into car. As toe boys stepped hastily
forward the father placing his hand upon
ones shoulder, remarked: Mother and
sister FIRST, my son." 1t took but mo-
ment. NJ doubt that little boy prodted
by the lesson. II takes hu ldreds OF such
lessons to train the children: but let the
mothers undertake the work cheerfulls,
remembering there is reward awaiting
all faithful .shor, either here or hereafter.
"A word 6Sly spoken is like apples OF
gold in pictures Of silver" Aud "a
word spoken 10 due season, how good ii
isl" How mnch better than long &c Did.
ing after ward! Like the little beas who,
after stealing the beehive, we're remon-
strated with by the mother bear and re.
piled: ''Your words seem useless now
that We understand the case" A short
rebuke or word of aivice administered
at the proper moment effects greater re.
suits than even the mother can estimate
Teach q boy to use such phrases as
"Will YOU please" "thank yoa.""I am
Obliged" beg pardon" please excuse
me-" Let him become accustomed to
such and similar expressions; they will
he OF future use aud soon become habit
ual. Exaggerated expressions are ab-
surl; avoid such as "a thousand par
ions,"." "."ten thousand thanks" 'everlast-
ingly Obliged" etc.
Teach a boy to offer bis mother the
most CON eortable chair, to han her a
fan or glass Of water unasked; also to
ask her, "Can l do anything for youf ?"
Teach q boy that be i, OF use /; it will
make him manly let him know that even
TO "wipe the dishes," 10 order to help his
tired mother, is not menial, but enno-
bling and also commendable. .,
Teach him to share his enjoYmen' s
with his sisters. Teach him to love to
spend his evenings at home. L,t him
have company; the children can have u
"good time" without annoying the ell
ders; but do let them sometimes have a
noisy game without chiding A boy who
PLAYS with his sisters will be much more
tender than one who associates with boy
companions only. Let the mothers and
sisters show they de ire bis companion
ship. Let him be assured Of his moth
er's sympathy and feel that sic is "l.is
best friend on EARTH" Let him caltivs,e
neatnesa aud order. Let him avoid slang.
Help him to respect himself. G We him
something to occupy his time aad employ
his energies. Don turn him out to play
,5ith empty hands; give him q kite or a
ball, an express wagon or a boat, horse
lines or hoop, dry sand, or water and
old clothes.
Tools are Of great service, MY neigh
hor's two boys. With the fathers as list
ance, have built canoe aimee vacation
commenced, and it now awaits their
pleasure floating on the lovely Wissa-
hickon. How our interest 10 that gre .
as the days saw its gradual c ,mp!etiou
And who can imagine the father pride
Boys will do real hard work while play
ing; they need it. 1t is traiuin their
mental faculties ss we'll a. strengt theniuy
their bodies A busy boy is generally
happy.
Mother, shcw your boy you love him !;
but teach him to serve you as we'll as to
take service from you. and your home
will be happier, AMI your boys future
home all the brighter for your patient
training.
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