The Monitor., 1885-07-31
MATRIMONIAL.
why fhe Decline of the Estate Is ~
Marked at the Present Time.


Marked at the Present Time.
The present extrayaGant way of living
probably has much to do with the present
falling off in the matrimonial field. Girls
brought up to every luxury. men with no
idea Of honest work. bnt only Of pamper-
people to join hands for the tremendous
responsibilities Of wedlock and the vieissi-
tudes of life. What in the name of all
that's reasonable could the modern dude
do to support family in comfortable cir
cumstances, or more, to keep the wolf from
the door? But he has no thought of mat
rimony; he puts all his small brain upon
the fit of his clothing and the insipididty of
his drinks He enjoys the society Of lad
les; oh, yes, he affects the girls very much,
but into his small heart there never creeps
more than mil1-warm liking for them.
And the girls, Let them be ever SO idly
brought up, let their minds be carefully
weeded of all germs of common sense as
they grow, yet there is an innate love Of
noble in every girl S heart that would for
ever prevent her from falling in love with
dude; but if she did happen to, there is
not one dude in thousand would have the
courage to find it out And again, the
higher education of women makes them
more independent, more capable of choice.
With it their happiness is more in their
own hands and thus it is found
that most divorces are among the
class of people who still hold to the
custom of an idle life for women. In cid
en- times, to marry was considered almost
as sure a fate as to die. The farmers rosy
daughter spun the flax or patted the butter
into shape with sweet smile playing
about her pretty lips, for soon she would in
her own home pat her own butter and spin
her own fax. In the city, the belle lounged
through the day among flowers and per-
fumed notes from many adorers, unable
to decide which should be her choice. yet
positively certain of choosing one. But in
''ye olden time it was considered point
of extreme honor to be true to ones sweet
heart If one were false 10 every one else.
one must be true to ones lover. In these
days honor is almost 4 lost art. To be
able to deceive is considered an evidence of
greatest excellence. T'o believe what one
is told, to trust the honor of given word,
is considered as almost imbecile innocence
and simplicity. To-day there is no con-
sderation hut advantage. Will it be step
further on in worldly way, is the ques-
ton which presents itself. Sometimes the
answer is positively in the negative. if may
be allowed the term, and very often it is
doubtful. The love-after-marriage litera-
ture of the day is a fair sign of the times.
To marry for advantage or convenience,
and afterward to love ''for loves sake
only" is the most accepted plot OF the
more recent works And this reacts upon
society with subtlety equal to that of the
flower pollen which has been discovered
by DIR. Mackenzie to be the cause of hay
fever One can not see its action. yet
the result is there. The want of trust and
sanctity in the marriage tie, the free open
ing to women of other interests and sources
of happiness. and her increasing ability
to stand alone are some of the causes
which are filling our land with single, but
capable and useful women. Wargiret
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