Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1885-01-24

spend his time much more protitably il
reading good books or cultivating the so
ciety of intelligent men, which is generally
more accessible, and through which HI
can more easily find his way to good femal,
! society.
| Above all, man should never choos,
commonplace woman for wife. II,
should marry a woman who will stimulate
| him to exertion, stir him to find out hi.
| weak points of character, in order to amend
them one who would be ambitious for hi.
success in life, and bend all her energies IL
aid him in whatever sphere he is placed
No woman, with the proper spirit, want:
to feel that her husband has been a failure
She realizes that she lives in reflected
light, and she wishes the luminary TO be a;
bright and brilliant as possible There
fore, there is no sacrifice that such a woman
considers too great, if it tend to her hus
bands prosperity or success.
1t is an old aphorism that woman car
never elevate a man, but wife exertss q
more powerful influence over her hus.
bands destiny than is generally believed
or admitted. How many instances do We
know, within the small range of our &C.
quaintance, where a strong man, overcome
by business cares and disappointments
would have given up in despair, and fallen
,, beneath his heavy burdens, but for the
timely encouragement Of noble, loving
woman, who stimulated him to new life
! with brighter hopes and higher ambitions
Such woman is to be valued as her
weight in gold On the other hand, how
many noble lives do we see ruined, proud
names soiled with infamy and polluted by
disgrace, from an unfortunate marriage to
a silly, commonplace woman, wEo possessed
no attraction but pretty face and GER
tain dash of manner; or, perhaps, she did
not have even the charm of beauty to
recommend her, but only bank account,
so great as to obscure all mental and moral
deficiencies
Marriage is the most important step in a
mans life and next to death it deserves
the deepest consideration yet how few in
entering the bonds of matrimony pause to
reflect upon the serious obligations they
assume. Not only is the entire happiness
of their own lives at stake, but that of an
other; and if the union is not based upon
perfect congeniality of taste founded upon
sincere respect and affection, how can any
thing but misery he the result? As gen
eral thing, men naturally shrink from the
attempt to obtain companions who are
their superiors They do not seem to I'M
derstand that really intelligent women,
who possess the most desirable qualities,
are generally most deficient in selt-esteem,
and hold their charms in modest estlma-
ton. a man need not fear but that he
can obtain such a wife if he desire. That
is, if he is honest and honorable, if his
character is spotless, if he is energetic and
industrious, with a fair degree of grace and
sense and can love approximately, he can
marry almost anybody worth having.
While young man may not be the equal,
in every sense, of the woman he desires to
marry, the mere fact that he wishes to pos
sess and associate his life with a superior
woman, gives evidence of characteristics
that entitle him to the greatest considera-
ton Yet, it is but natural for an am
bilious woman to desire her husband to be
superior to herself, and it is better
for her to obtain one with
greater intellectual ability, if by
coming in conflict with higher mind
she will be stimulated to brighter and
broader development. The characteristics
that superior women most admire in men
are boldness, courage, devotion, decision,
and refined ciyility, accompanied by broad
views Of life and generous impulses. To a
high-souled woman there is nothing more
disgusting than a little, mean selfishness,
and no matter how many other character
isties man may possess, they will be en-
tirely overshadowed in her estimation the
moment these traits become discernible.
While young man may not admire, or
seek for his superior, let him at least find
his equal, for no greater misfortune could
befall young man than to marry his in
ferior, and thereby deprive himself Of the
most refining and elevating influences that
could surround him.
Above ali, no woman without q sympa-
thetic heart is fit to be the companion of
any man; she may possess beauty, wit,
learning and wealth, but if she
has cold, Indifferent disposition, without
true Christian charity for the faults and
Of others, she cannot elevate
herself above mean aims and low ambi-
tons; she cannot educate her children to
be noble men and women; she cannot in
hours of adversely sustain her husband, nor
can she bear with patience his petulence
induced by the vexations of business
neither will she be able to resist the temp
tations of gayety and dress.
A noble woman is most surely also
woman: and in making the
of a life companion q young man
should look for nobility of soul, regardless
of wealth, beauty, or accomplishments. He
can then feel sure OF one friend, who will
cleave to him through all things, notwith-
standing the eensure of untold Millions
Anna NJ. Gale, in the Electra.