The Monitor. [volume] (Woodstown, N.J.) 1884-1892, 1885-08-14

great importance. Manners should be
frank and easy, with dignity.
Avoid fawning, loading ways as you
would the foul fiend. Never fawn to a
prince or swagger to a peasant. Be cour-
teous and manly everywhere and to every
body.
Let your manners be quiet nothing is
more undcrbred than Hurried address,
with face wrinkled all over with grin
ming delight.
You cannot have good manners i'll the
drawing room, if your habitual manner is
bad the habit will betray you: let the
habit be always good.
BE gentleman feel like gentleman
and you will look like one
Sometimes you will be neglected, and
your vanity may feel wounded never let
this annoy you; be absolutely sure that in
due time all will come right and that you
will have all the consideration which you
merit No one can do you any permanent
injury but Yourself The world is so con-
stituted that it is not in mans power to
withhold respect from lofty character, relia-
bility and good conduct.
You may be invited to ball or a dinner
because you dance and tell good story ;
but no one since the time Of Queen Eliza
beth has been made cabinet minister or a
lord chancellor for such reasons
Tie years of youth are short, and the
pleasures of youth perish in manly life.
Reputation, power, and the consideration
which comes of ability, attachments and
good character are what the man from
thirty to seventy eovets. Nothing but
the well spent years of early life can
secure these.
| would keep .;ou from no cnjoyments
suited to your age which are not injurious
to your real happiness and your future
success.
You have health and good constitn-
ton, and you have no inherited tendencies
to any vice. 1t is easy for you to do right,
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five you will desire what others value at
that age. and SO at every future stage of
life | mean what the higher order of men
value.
Live each year in the way which will
best fit you for the next year, and thus
you will lead a happy life, life which
will secure to you the happy life to come.
Feel always a manly pride that you are
an American, and that your future is here.
have a letter from the Dean to-day, i'll
which he says: Your sons improve
ment has really astonished me- Con-
tinue to astonish the Dean and delight
me.
This shows that You have the ability
and that there will be no excuse and no
pardon if you are not faithful in the
future.
Front time to time | shall hear from the
Dean, and also from your tutor, and they
will tell me all and only the truth They
will reveal your shortcomings, if you have
them, as well as your merits. You accept
too many invitations from your fellow
students. This will weaken Your ener-
gies and prevent your success, beside,
YOU will become bore, which avoid, as
you would the plague. Short visits do
not bore.
When we last met you did not carry
Yourself erect You seemed to think that
you were awkwardly tall, and you tried
to look shorter, this is mistake, you are
nineteen years old and scarce more than
six feet high that is not too tall-but If
you grow to any height, carry yourself
erect.
When you have done the duties OF the
day. and done them well, take your pleas
ures. which will be all the more keen ;
and when you have well finished the labors
of the term, you will enjoy the vacation a
thousand times the more by reason of your
successful toll.
| 90 not need in this letter, TO repeat the
warnings against those petty vices, temp
tations and follies of which have SO often
spoken.
God bless and keep and guide my boy.
Your ever devoted FATHER.