The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1885-12-08
Fine Manners for Men.


as follows: Gentlemen should always
bow FIRST to ladies, nurses and priests. A
true gentleman will salute the host, reli-
g1ous funerals, the flag of passing regi:
ment Nuns and priests should be saluted
everywhere, but in the case Of a lady the
place where she Is met with decides whe-
Their she is to be saluted or not When
ever gentleman meets lady of his ac-
quaintance in public place he should
uncover completely in saluting her if he
speaks to her he should remain uncovered
until she requests him to replace his hat
If the lady Is riding in a carriage he
should always salute her, but if she is on
foot he should wait until she has mani
Tested by glance of recognition that she
desires his salutation. At the races, in
the Bots, in the public promenades, gen
tlemen should salute without waiting for
recognition, but they should not return
the salute every time they meet the lady
in the same place during the same day.
When a man meets woman in stair
way, no matter to what class of society she
may belong, he should pause, remove his
hat, and wait until she has passed. Louis
NV saluted all women, without making
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the stairways Of his palace, even when the
woman who passed him was one of the
maid-servants.
I" A deplorable custom has been recently
introduced into the theatres it is that of
gentlemen keeping their hats on while
talking to lady at the door of her box.
At the theater man should never be the
first to salute 4 lady, but wait until, by
her recognition, she has authorized it, If
she speaks to him he should not, no mat
ter how much she insists, replace his hat
on his head until he leaves her. 1t is not
obligatory to call in at the boxes of all the
ladies you may know. For man who
goes out great deal this would be i'm
possible besides, you should not enter a
ladies' box at the theater until you have
satisfied yourself that it Is not already
overcrowded with visitors it is also the
correct thing to enter box only when
you are acquainted with all the ladies in it.
A man should salute ladies as they are
coming out of church, but never inside it,
unless he IS encouraged by glance of
recognition, for a woman should never be
disturbed in her religious meditations. If
a gentleman meets lady on the arm of
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should not salute unless her manner en-
courages him to do SO, and then he should
confine his salute TO profound bow and
pass on without stopping. 1.-THE lady speaks
the gentleman on whose arm She is lean
ing should make slight movement as
though to hold himself to one side and it
Is the place of the lady to introduce the
two men although she need not do so I'M
less she wishes. If two gentleman are to-
gether and one bows to q lady the other
should never bow to do SO is to show a
lack of tact and an impertinent desire to
be presented A well bred man makes no
distinction among women when saluting
them, no matter to what class of society
they belong When he is with lady he
should not bow to any but those whom
that lady knows, excepting, of course,
members of his family.
Well bred men never enter Il salon
after 6 O'Clock p. IN. with their hat in their
hand, although it Is a correct thing to do
earlier in the afternoon In salon ladies
should be bowed to as profoundly as pos
slble, no matter how intimate you may be
with them-th politeness Is not intended
for them, but for the mistress of the house.
You should always wait for a lady to offer
you her hand before taking it; if she is
elderly you may carry it respectfully to
your lips 1t is generally the fashion
when lady salutes a princess with the
grand salut de cour for the latter to
raise her up and kiss her on the forehead.
A lady should be bowed to from the day
she takes her first communion before
that you treat her according to your de
gree of intimacy with her family. Be
tween men the only rule in these matters
IS that the younger should always be the
first to bow, and that the elder should re
turn the salute in the same way that it is
given.
You can enter your club with your hat
on your head, and you should not remove
1t on entering a restaurant or cafe you
can also keep it on in a theatre until you
reach your seat, provided the play has not
commenced, in order that you may be able
to remove it when Won pass in front of n