Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1885-01-26
gaaies' Column.
A WORD TO GIRLS ABOUT
VISITING.

To begin with, unless you are a
relative or a very intimate friend,
seldom make long visit; for unless
the entire family is Hospitality inclin-
ed long visit viii become irksome,
and you ought never to ''wear out
your welcome" There is an old
saying that visit should be three
days long-''a rest day, dress day,
and press day" This allows hard
ly time enough especially if good
deal of time and money has been
spent in reaching the place but I'M
less you and your friends can feel as
if you were one of the family, never
think of extending your visit beyond
two or three weeks.
Do not expect too much entertain
ment. One of the first visits | ever
made was one of three weeks, on a
school friend. She had planned so
many things for the first week of my
stay (not knowing how long my visit
was to beg that my head was turned !;
and if a day passed without a picnic,
drive, party or excursion, l began to
feel trife injured, and wondered if
they were getting tired of me. Fort
unately came to my senses before
my visit was over, and felt heartily
ashamed of such thought.
Study to be helpful. However
wealthy your entertainers may be,
there will be something that you can
do to add to the general comfort and
happiness. Perhaps you can read
aloud while others are busy with fan
cy-work or sewing; perhaps you can
amuse a child while every one else is
busy, or talk to the deaf aunt who is
shut off from society.
If your hostess keeps only one
servant or "does her own work, !"
there will be no end to the ways IN
which you can tighten her labor.
Making your own bed, busting the
parlor, Smelling peas or stringing
beans are little things; but if one
has a hundred little things to do, it
is a great relief to be saved few of
them. In this way your visit will be
much more enjoyable to yourself as
well as to others.
Be sure to take some fancy-work
with you, that you may not sit around
idle, as if expecting to be enter
tanned.
Always spend an hour or two in
yonr own room unless there is some
thing unusual going on; for however
fond of you your friends may be,
they will be satisfied if they don't see
you every hour of the day.
Be particular always to observe
the hours for rising, and retiring,
and for meals that the whole family
may never be kept waiting for you.
Remember that it is your duty to
be agreeable as possible and that,
too, to your friends, whether you
fancy them or not.
Then don't come home and GOSSIP
about your friends, OF reveal theil
secrets. You have eaten salt will
them. Loyalty should prevent you
ever speaking of anything which you
would not wish to have them hear.
Before leaving let your friends
know that you have enjoyed the visi
and appreciated all the efforts mad,
for your entertainment. And do no
forget, on your return home, to writ,
Immediately of your safe journey.
These are good many things t,
remember; but if you learn then
while girls, you Will be spared man,
mistakes and much modification. Il
visiting, as in all the rest of you
life, put yourself in other people
places or better yet, do unto 9th
ers as you would that they should d.
to you. '-ChrjStidn al Work.