The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1885-02-26
The Father at Home.

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Some fathers fail to gain their chill.
sympathy. On the other hand. few
young people ever take the trouble to
put themss YES In their fathers place.
To Imagine how he must feel this pr lhst
behavior, bow disrespectful word or
look insults him, nr voluntary conf.
dence is priced by him. There are
many things, no doubt, which BOYS and
girls dp not care 10 speak Of before their
father; but they dn not know how hurt
pdfer tdmnids feels " hen 81 conversation
IL stopped upon his entering the room.
when he IL made to feel that he la not
one OF the circle, that he is power to be
respected and prupitiated, but no more.
very often q man has himself to blame
Tor this state of things, but cot always.
Often it is mere love uf secrecy which
make girln especially exclude their f,,her
As much US pns,ible from knowleape Of
their dulngs, their friends. their comings
and gn!n,gs, their fears aud hopes, With
-ntne this reticcnce must be nece.sary.
Con fideuccs would only be met with
-uspicon or blame or ridicue, But
must men have a tender spot in their
hearts, even TOR the weakness and foolish.
nrss of "their own flesh" and feel
painrd when they are silently cond. mned
ns Unworthy of confidence. Pater fam;.
ids may be too proud to show that be
ieels hurt. He mny wrap him-elf up in
dignity aud uGrct contempt for the
trlling cnncerns OF the girls; he may
even repe! the first advancea, but his
heart may DC exclaiming bitterly against
the colduess and hardness which excluded
frnp, tho IS IA 4
ter's mind and heart which is given 70
half dozen school girl friends. A girl:
owes much to her father, even If he has
not been all to her that u parent ought to
be. lie has had to work hard, yery
probably, that her bread and butter
might be secure. He has borne cares.
hnxielle', struggles, temptations, at
which she can but guess-0f which she
can form no real conception. If he Ia
hard and unsympathetic some allowance
for the nervous irritation of an oyerwork.
Ell or anxious man may surely be made.
And agih never, we believe, has nny
conception how precious ahe Ia in her
fathers eyes. Rough words and cold or
angry looks may seem TO diaproyeit It, but
1t is true nevertheless. More even Ia a
sense, than his wife, she appeals to his
t'"seSt'S SuiS' A4C bCOlu VI D2IRUG
her, but let any real harm threaten her
and she will see that to touch her is to
touch the apple OF his eye. The day
comes, no doubt, when her allegiance
aud sympathy arc transferred to ano,her,
in right Of still higher claim. There ie
little wonder If pour pafcr .familias looks
askanco on him at fret and is slow TO
admit that he 10 the ut whose coming
his rcgR must end. 1t 10 the way Of
nature, and it must be 80. But il 10 hard.
A father often loses more on his daugh.
ter'a marringe than her mother does.
My daughters my daughter all her life.n
But fathers right changes entirely
when the ring is put on the finger. Till
the falry prince comes, then, let pater;
Jdmihas be considered aud deferred 10,
and II necessary, hundred. Let him
mt be made to feel that bare duty is to
be paid to him. Let him not feel him.
self stranger In his own house. For
manya little sacrifice, many q gentle O,
patient word, unnoticed, uuacknowledged
at The time. and soon forgotten by be:
who Eenders 1t, lives in the memory of
him who receives it JVdveTfy