The Panola weekly star. (Sardis, Miss.) 1882-18??, 1885-02-28
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'll1uor ms father and ihy mother
BE- thn n.vIno command Among url'
rnlnl nations lhla his hern ibo rule N
ls upt. however so generally observed /
In uuf iay na u should hc Tho rason
f1r thi. Il hard "a rive W. are not a
fr,crent people Thing that pertain ~
tho Divine trr regarded with iudinor
onco, or le,Iiy Worship !, not cou'id
crcd ~ having a claim on our rev
crcnre Among the reasons given u
the fact that We are familiar with events
of such startling magnitude that the
scusn " reverence Ia dullod pr uhlirr.
htcd However this nn, hp, the fact
remains that Il Ia not NJ nll general In
our people but other reasons exist for
its lack toward parents To command
respect we must deserve ". Aud whore
parents fail 10 manicst the traits ~
character which should command re-
spcct, they can not complain II they fail
10 receive H. And the failure to In.
culcatc respect also operates the same
way
The first element in this Is 10 secure
obedience TIL. should bc required
from the very frat. As,y ,yoon ~ u child
/ il old enough 10 understand, the lesson
Of obedience should be- taught But
/ this may bc done In way that inspires
fear and ropulsion rather than cont
| dcnco and love II is not essential to
good government that severity and
harshncss shall he employed; nor is II
required that every movement Of n
| child shall be- subject tO command II
Is nice thing to know Just how far au-
thority should extend and whore II
should stop. Some children are gov
erncd too much. They are made irri-
table and dependent by constant and
useless orders. Rules TO b. observed
may bc laid down and enforced
in u gentle. firm way, until their re-
quiremcnls arc woven into the habits OF
life. In such eases the parents are the
balance wheel that simply regulates tho
family. without confusion or noise. Yet
such homes, thus regulated. are the
most congcnial we have. There Is no
lack Of discipline, but II Is enforced
rather BY qualities Of character than by
commands, and so brings respect rather
than fcnr.
Confidence aud love are quite m cs-
sential rs obedience. And to command
both these requires wcll-balanced
character. There arc parents who mani
fest their love for children by gratifying
every wish and abjuring all authority.
They are surprised, In time, that their
children neither heed nor respect them.
Tho fault IL their own. The very fact
that they exercised no controlling In.
fuencc led TO feeling Of contempt
There was no authority 10 respect, and
no qualities that especially commanded
confidence. A firm, kind hand Is fell
aud appreciated by children. They nr'
keen readers Of human nature. and
know when they are firmly or weakly
governed Such commands rs ar,
given should be 50 manifestly just rs "a
have the approval Of their Judgments
They know when they are wrongly pun
ished. and understand when harsh re-
Dukes arn tho mere outgrowth Of th'
! parents irritation aud not of the c'iild'l
, wrong. Confidence and love cai b'
inspired by sympathetic lrmnci' bet
ter than by mere indulgence. 4
father once said 10 his son. who deserve,
punishment ''my son, II II will bette
, impress you with the wrong ynu liay'
, done, | will expose myself to tnc pan
ishment that belongs 10 you" The la'