Savannah morning news. [volume] (Savannah) 1868-1887, 1885-05-11
SOME MATRIMONIAL ADVICE.
Bill Nye Civ the Girls Some Words of
wisdom.

F.o,,a the Hot Sprit Fses
"HOT SPRINGS, ARK, APal y 1850.
t'MY DEAR SIR Would il be asking too
much for me to request a brief reply to
one or two questions which many other
married women as well as myself would
like to have answered?
"Ihaye been married now for five years.
To-day is the anniversary of my marriage.
When | was single l was a teacher, and
supported myself in comfort. l had more
pocket money and dressed fully as well,
if not better, than do now. Why should
girls who are abundantly able to earn their
own livelihood struggle tn become the
slave Of husband and children and tie
themselves to a man when they might be
free and happy?
81 think too much is said by the men in
a light and fippant manner about the
anxiety Of young ladies TO secure home
and a husband. and sui they do deserve
a part Of IT,, as | feel that do now for as
Stunning a great burden when | was com
paratVely Independent and comfortable.
CHOW, viii you suggest any advice that
YOU think would benefit the yet unmar-
ried and sell-suppOrting girls who ale liza
bic to make the same mistake that | did,
and thus warn them in a manner that
would be so much more universal in its
range and reach so many more people
than / could if should raise my voice?
DO this, and you will be gratefully re-
membered by ETHEL"
1t would indeed be a tough, tough man
who could ignore thy gentle plea, Ethel;
tougher tar than the pale, intellectual
hired man who now addresses you in this
pr vate and undeThand manner.
You say that you had more pocket
hof rVfa W
have since, Ethel, and you regret your
rash step. | am sorry to hear it. You
also say that you wore better clothes
when you were single than you do now.
You are also panied over that. 1t seems
that marriage with you has not paid aHy
cash dividends. so if you married Mr..
Ethel as a financial venture, it was a
stake. You do not state how it has
affected your husband. Perhaps he had
more pocket money and better clothes be-
lore he married than he has since Some
times two people do well in business by
themselves, but when they 90 into part
nerehip they bust higher than kite, if
you Will allow me the free English trans
lati0n Of an EXPRESSION which you
nigh not fully understand II / should
give it to you in the original Roman.
Lots OF self-suppOrting young ladies'
have married, and have to 20 very light
on pin money after that, ard still they do
not squeal as you, dear Ethel. They did
not marry for revenue only. They mar
ried for protection. This is little poll
teal bon mot which ! thought of myself
Some of my best Jokes this spring are
jokes that | thought of myself,
No, Ethel, if you married expecting TO
be a dormant partner during the day and
then TO 90 through Mr.. EthePs pockets at
night and declare a dividend, of course
life is full of bitter, Litter regret and dis
appointment.
OF course / want 20 do what is right in
the solemn warning business, so | will
give notice to all simple young women
who are now selfsupporting and happy
that there Is no statute requiring them 20
assume the burdens OF wifehoOd and
motherhood unless they prefer to do so.
II they now have abundance of pin money
and new clothes, they may remain single
il they wish without violating the laws Of
the land. This rule is also good when
applied to young and self-suppOrtiny
young men WHO wOar good clothes AID
have funds in their pockets. No young
man who is free, happy, and independent
need invest his money in family or car
ry a coicky child 81 miles and , laps in
the night unless he prefers it. But hose
who 90 into it with the right spirit, Ethel,
do not regret it.
l would Just as soon tell you, Ethel, If
you will promise that it shall 90 no fur
Their, that | do not wear as good clothes
as ! did before ! was married | don't
have to. My good clot es have accom-
plished what | got them for. / PLAYED
them for al they were worth, and since |
got married the idea of wearing clothes
as "A vocation has not occurred to me.
Please give my kind regards to Mr..
Ethel, and tell him that, although DO
not know him personally, l cannot help
feeling sorrow for him.