Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1885-07-04
WESLEY AND HIS WIFE.
A Curious Letter showing wesley's Denies.
tic Troubles.
New York Critic.l

A Curious Letter showing wesley's Denies.
tic Troubles
New York Critic.l
John Wesley was married in Feb
ruary, 1851, to Mrs. Mary Vazeille,
- yerchants widow in Threadneedle
strses," who possessed fortune OF
about $4,000. secured to herself aud
her four children. lie was forty-eight,
she forty-one. His biographer, the
Rev. L. Tyerman, says OF their
marriage that it "was, in high CS-
gree, an act Of folly; and, properly
enough, to the end OF life both OF them
were made to suffer serious penalty"
Mary's life ended ten years before her
husbands. She died in ISL, after
having made him miserable for thirty
years. Wesley survived her, living to
the ripe age Of lightweight. In
worldly way he had gained nothing by
his marriage. 1t lost him his fellow
ship at Oxford, and at least Temporal
rily alienated his brother Charles and
his wife. His domestic infelicities are
set forth in detail in the following Gu
rious letter, hitherto unpublished:
CoLEFoRD, October %, 1862
Dear Molly will tell you simply and
plainly the things which | dislike. IL
you remove them, well. If not, am
but where | was. dislike your show
ing any one my letters and private pa
pers without my leave. This never did
any Good yet, either to you or me, or
any one. 1t only sharpens and embit-
tiers your own Spirit. And the same
Effect it naturally has upon Others.
The same it would have upon me
but that (by the Grace Of God
| DO not think Of it. 1t can
do no good. 1t can never bring
me nearer, tho it may drive me further
off. And should you do as you often
threaten me, then the matter is over. |
know what | have to do. In all this
you are fighting against yourself. You
are frustrating your own purpose, if
you want me to love you. You take
just the wrong way. No one ever was
forced to love another. 1t cannot be.
Love can only be won by Softness.
Foul Means avail nothing. But you
say, | have tried Fair Means and they
did not succeed If they do not, none
will. Then you have only to say, This
Evil is of the Lord am Clay in His
Hand
II dislike, ., Not having the Com
mand Of my own House not being at
liberty to invite even my nearest Rela-
tions, so much as to drink Dish Of
Tea without disobliging you. dislike,
3. The being myself a Prisoner in my
own House the having my Chamber
door watched continually so that no
Person can 90 in or out, but such as
have your Good Leave. | dislike, 1,
The being but a prisoner at large, even
when | go abroad, inasmuch as you
are highly disguised if | do not
give you an Account Of every
place | 60 to and every Per-
son with whom | converse. i dis
like. 5, The not being safe in my own
House. Ny House is not my Castle
| cannot call even my Study, even my
Bureau, my own. They are liable to
be plundered every day. You say, Il
plumber you of nothing but Papers.
! am not sure of that. How ~ It pos
oiblc should? | miss money, TOO,
and he that will steal Pin will steal
Pound. But were it so, a Scholar,
Papers are his treasure My Journal
in particular. But took only such
Papers as relate to Sarah Ryan and
Sarah Crosby That is not true
What are Mr.. Landey's Letters to Them
Besides. you have taken Parts of my
Journal which relate to neither One mol
the Other. | dislike, 6, Your Treat
ment Of my Servants tho, indeed,
they are not properly mine). You dc
! all that in you lies to make their Lives
Burden to them. You browbeat,
harass, rate them like Dogs, make
them afraid to speak to me. You treat
them with such Hautiness, Sternness,
Sourness. Surliness, Immature, as never
were known in any House of mine for
near a dozen years. You forget even
Good breeding, and use such course
Language as BELTS none but Fish.
wife.
~ dislike, !, Your talking against
me behind my back, and that every day
and almost every hour Of the day
making my faults (real or supposed the
standing topic Of your conversation.
dislike, 8, your slandering me, laying to
my charge things which you know are
false. Such are TO 90 but a few days
back, That beat you Which
you told James Burgess. Thai
| rode to KingswOod with Saraf
Ryan, which you told Sarah Rig
by; and that | required you, when we
were first married, never to sit in my
presence without my leave, which yor
told Mrs. Lee, Mrs. Fry, and seyera
others, and stood to it before my face
| dislike, Q, your common custom o
saving things not true. To instanc,
only in two or three particulars: Yol
told Mr.. ireland Mr.. Vanilla learned
Spanish in a fortnight You tolC
Mr.. Fry Mrs. Ellison was the
author as to my intrigue il
Georgia. You told Mrs. Ellysor
you never said any such thing ; yOu
never charged her with it, You alsc
told her that | had laid a plot to serv'
you as SuSannah was served by tn
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