The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1885-10-27
Tell Her Again.

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you think she certainly must know it by
this time, tell her again. 1t is to her like
the odd, old story" that with every hear
ing grows more sweet. You remember in
the halcyon days Of youth, how eagerly
you improved every opportunity to con
vince her that she was to you, at least, the
dearest girl in the world, although, for the
life of you, you could not tell half the time
whether your declaration pleased or vexed
her-well, don't you love her as well now
after her five, ten or fifteen years of devo-
ton to you and yours if you really loved
her, you love her better now than ever be
fore; then why not tell her so? Now,
every woman who has read this far knows
what your answer Will be. You will tell
her how every days toll IS lightened by
the thought that what you earn will add
to her comfort and pleasure, and she
knows you love her And, strictly speak
ing, that is true, for if your wife doubted
your love you would probably find it out
or she is an exception among women. And
to mans mind the fact that she once
knew it, and hasn't come to the point of
doubling it is evidence sufficient that she
still knows it. But women are different
from that. There is middle ground to
this question that every woman occupies
sometimes, when she knows and when she
don't know. She would resent from any
living creature the intimation that her
husband did not love her better than any
thing else in the world, and yet she is not
sufficiently satisfied of the fact in her own
mind to make her happy If man could
put himself IN a wOman's place for only
one short week, which experiment, by the
way, Gail Hamilton says no man was ever
yet fool enough to want TO try, he would
find how often woman works by faith in
this matter, doing everything that love
can suggest to make her husbands home
life as happy as possible, even to the exclu-
sion from the conversation of this topic
that is sometimes nearest her heart for
days, for fear of wounding his feeling.
But while he remains man heisn't likely
to know much about these higher sensibi-
lities, and considering the life the average
man IS called to lead, it is merciful pro
vision of nature that he is not constituted
as we are. But while all this is true there
are still some lessons that he might learn
of his wife without detriment to his own
happiness, that would add materially to
that of his wife, and this is one of them
If your talent for love making has grown
dull from long disuse, you will doubtless
make awkward work of it at first, but
brace up rs you did the first time you told
her about ii and she will not misunder-
stand your meaning nor criticise your
rhetoric. Man is selfish creature, and if
he could but once be brought to realize
that it was to his own interest to reform
in this matter, he would turn over new
leaf at once. But there's the rub In
the first place he doesn't realize that he is
not as happy as he might be, and if he did
he would probably attribute it to every
other cause before this. But shut his eyes
to it as he may, it still remains fact that
a woman who does not realize that her
husband loves her now, to-day, not that he
once did love her in the long ago, cannot
be happy in the strict sense of the word,
nor make such home as the Lord in
tended man should enjoy Some of our
readers will appreciate this fact, while
others will not, but very little observa-
ton and study of the subject will convince
the unprecedented mind of what we have
contented ourselves with stating, that the
happiness of a home depends largely upon
the woman at its head, and that no woman
who is wife can be happy without her
husbands love
No woman cares for really handsome
man for that reason alone; in reality they
quite prefer to monopolize the beauty of
the family themselves; but they do crave
their husbands love and they don't expect
that all expression of it will cease with the
wane of the honeymoon. And where it
does, as is so often the case, is it any
wonder that the young wife in society is
fattered by the attention of other men ?
And fattery, even that which the most
respectful attention may be made to con
vey, is formidable foe TO the peace of the
tacituun husband, who deems it compro-
mise of his dignity to be polite and loving
to his own wife And if he wakes up some
fine day to the fact that the love that was
once so fully his, is forever dead, he may
thank his superiority () for the change
But let husband love his wife only, and