Salt Lake evening Democrat. [volume] (Salt Lake City, Utah) 1885-1887, 1885-05-12
s.THE TRUE GENTLEMAN"
Rev. Mr.. ThraII,s Third Lecture to
Young Men.

Rev. Mr.. Thrall delivered the third lee
ture of his series of lectures to young
men, in the independence Hall, last Sun
dav evening. Awell-filled house greeted
the reverend gentleman, showing tina
his efforts in behalf of young men arr
being appreciated. The following is al
outline of his lecture, entitled
"THE TRUE GENTLEMAN"
In order that there should be true
gentleman, there must be true man
Fine manners without a good heart are
like stovepolish They are laid on cold
Heat and use destroy their brllllancy.
The true gentleman must be man OF
character.
It is wonderful, however, how far mere
external manners will go in this world.
People are like Gagged animals-they like
TO be approached with delicacy. A man
of weak character and small intelligence,
4 if possessed of tact and courtesy, will
often succeed when gruf, blunt man OF
twice his moral qualities and intellectual
/ abilities will fail Dress and address
amount to a great deal in the effort to get
on in the world Society is made up OF
personalities personalities that have
/ their preiudices, their obstinacies, their
/ iealousies and their conflicting interests.
In influencing these personalities and
! leading them, insinuation generally goes
/ farther than push, persuasive manners
skill and consideration avail far more
than brute force.
! The secret of good manners lies in the
rule, "Put yourself in his place" Rarey
became great horse-trainer because he
had the ability to imagine himself
horse and treat his horse as a horse.
Shrewd men of bad intentions conceal
their villainy under the garb Of gracious
manners and smooth courtesy. The ser
pent in the garden would not have sue
ceeded in persuading Eve to eat the APP
pie if he had not addressed her like
gentleman.
Now, that which can make bad men
seem good and give a semblance OF
strength even to the weak, men of char
acter and ability cannot afford to ignore,
much less despise. Some manly men
affect to ignore manners as beneath them,
but something essential to perfection is
felt to be wanting in these men. Habit
ual courtesy is mark of the highest CIV
ilization.
Men should cultivate good manners, or
rather, 90 deeper, and cultivate good
breeding. Be well bred man. In the
broadcast sense, good breeding lies in Il
thorough-going sense of the universal fit
ness Of things.
In order to be a gentleman, man must
learn his own true place in life and ma
ture, and he must keep that place He
"a hoi &c, Hr,f hot
he is something, and he combines true
dignity with true humility.
The Judge who, clothed with the ma
jesty of the government and armed with
the will of the people, knows how to bear
personal insult without resentment, and
can yet permit the law to have its way
without weakness, exhibits this funda
mental quality of-the true gentleman.
The conceited man is not true gentle
man, neither is the cringing man nor the
immoral man nor the irreverent man.
Fundamentally, then, the gentleman
must be self-respecting, yet humble. But
this rule must 90 further. The true gem
tleman in his finest development prac-
tees the golden rule, ''Do unto others as
you would that they should do unto
you" He even practices the
higher Interpretation of that rule.
DO unto others as they wish YOU
to do unto them. The gentleman's first
instinct is to put himself in another's
place and act accordingly. He is not sus-
plclous, enyiOus, much less malicious; he |
is delicate in his instincts, never undulv !
familiar, generous and self-sacrifcing. He /
is not a gossip, a news-vendor, traducer |
OF character, and he never needlesslv |
says or does anything that may wound |
another's feelings.
The Alaska Indian Alexy, who sacri-
feed his life in the endeayor to obtain !
food for the rest of the expedition, and !
who went hungry that he might bring in
the more birds for the party, was a gem
tleman. General Grant, who ordered !
the Union troops to cease firing cannon |
In celebration OF his victory over Lee, lest !
they wound the feelings of their prison
ers, was gentleman. A gentleman must
be magnanimous.
Measured by this standard, a gentle
man will treat everything, first. as
1t deserves to be treated; second.
as he deserves to treat it. The first act is
Justice, the second introduces the sweet
SAVIOR OF mercy, it involves truth, honor.
'elf-respect, magninimity, delicacy, and
introduces the important element of per
'onal worth and dignity.
Such quality can not be put off or on
With fine clothes and to suit the occasion.
true gentleman is always a gentleman,
wen among Doors. This quality COM
Dletes the work and makes the man a
gentleman.