The Pickens sentinel. [volume] (Pickens, S.C.) 1871-1903, 1885-04-16
WOMAN cos =.
a fruitful Cau1" Of Domestic Unhnppi-
n"ss-rhe Trying Ordeal of Fitting
New Drexses.
opera and Other Full-D 'ssI T ,ilrta and
Their MISUNDERSTANDING Things
Woman Can Do.
TIE CHARITY SYSTEM,

| TIE CHARITY SYSTEM.
When domestic unhappincss exists
in family it generally happens that
| the case may be traced 70 money nat
tcrs and to the unequal division of the
common funds, says the Louisville
Courscr-J0nrnn. Probably ci.ht wo-
men out of len who ;ira married and
have 10 other visible means Of Sul,port
than II husband %rc dependent upon
that husbands generosity for every 5
cents they have to spend. The idea of
husband benz generous to his wife
Is quite as ab,uvl as it would be for
any other business partner TO be gem
eroilS to his aS&n:i:itc. y widpwcr with
house fu.l Ot children has TO pay q
good round sum to some hp,lsclccpcr
for attending 10 Tie same duties his
wife performed for her board, lodging
and clothes lie does not ryamble
when the bouScEccpcr comes for her
salary. nor a>k her what she did with
all 'hc money he gave her last month,
nor inquire in an ag;rrv"i tonu of
voice il $50 wont do instead OF $40.
No, she has earned her money, he re-
spevts her right to ii, and h" pays her
like q man. When his v lie WAS house.
keeper he paid her like :; husband. 1t
is triC he gave her liberal credits at
dry-%oods shops, nrili .ci~'. and dress
makers. Iiic-" jT.v.lr -rS constituted
his ideas of f"ln;Il,ic Iii ). What need
had she Of money? Such thing as
giving her, or rather sharing with her.
portion OF the product Of his labors
rs one Of Il domestic firm never occur
red to him. He was quite willing to
trust her to keep the honor of his homo
and name, to raise his children; but n
doubt rs to her business capacity never
crossed his mind. That she would
tool!shiy waste money if she could get
/ hc:;! VI il Was his forrgonc conc ',ision,
although tVr years she mad MANAGED
| his home, and with un"Xamplcd econ
| ohll he !" now ao!c to appreciate she
is dead. 1t is not an uncommon thing
for Il woman to have TO worry her hus-
band for | cents for car fare to take
her to church. When you sec wo-
man carry her "pocnct moncv," 4 dina
or so, tucked n :hr p " of ncr glove.
you may concl!lc she AS Il husband
OF this description. For proud-spirit-
ed, naturally Independent woman to
have to beg, bargain, aud ha.,"le for a
few dollars from her .us uInI is one of
the most degrading miSiDrluncs that
c"n bcfal her. 1t is true some women
40 not mind begging for money or the
/ having to explain in elaborate detail
| the why and wherefore of the demand;
and other women look ut the partner
ship business in n still broader view.
and do not hesitate to apply for that
which is manifestly their due, but op-
| poaGG 70 these Lncrc Is Z large majority
of wives to whom it is an internal NOR
titication to ask, day after day, year
after year, for money from their own
husbands. A friend of mine who has
been married for forty years has to
hurry every morning after her husband
as he leaves the dining-room to try and
get from him money for the dinners
marketing. This has been going on
during all those years, and if by any
chance she should fail to run after him
he would quietly march down town
and not leave cent. 1t often takes
the greatest tact, courage, patience,
and gcntlcncss to coax from him suf-
hcient money to by for herself or her
children the clothes demanded by the
customs OF dcccncy and civilization.
IL Is not possible that woman, how
ever 1orgivng, can feel altogether un-
reSentful toward such a man. Down
IN her lonely heart of hearts she feels
the lndlSnty put upon her. 1t is all
very well to argue that ii a woman has
credit at the storcs-and can buy
clothes, shoes, hats, wraps-she has no
need for money. Those who argue
this should just try dose of such treat
ment themselves. Why need a BODY
1--we II once in while they may not
have the innocent pleasure of indule-
ing IN book or magazine, bit of
chlnawarc. a useless odd or end that
will wear its welcome out maybe, but
that is so tempting to buy. A man
may bc miser, but he doesn't feel the
need of it because he has in his pocket
money which he can just take out and
spend for cigars, an orange, lunch,
soda water, or the papers. He is not
like the woman, who. if she wants to
spend 80 cents on herself, has to run to
her husband and ask him rs urcat
favor and piece of generosity to give
her the pitiful sum. The young wife
who has the courage to demand at tho
beginning of her married life n weekly
or monthly allowance of money-which
shall be proportionate to her husbands
income-may be saving herself from a
lifetime misery. Any woman who
submits to tho charity system-the
board, lodging, and clothing plan-is
as much to be blamed as she is to be
piticd