The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1885-03-17
DOLLIE'S LETTER.
The Way to Manage Hus bands
Economy ir Dress and Other
Matters.
DEAR MILL /:

DEAR MILL:
Every day for the past week |
I have been endesvoring to write, but SO
raapy adverse circumstances have arisen
that have found il impossible TO do so.
In the first place, husband has been quite
I'M aud such a time as | have had trying
to please him since he began TO grow con.
yalescent, is almost unparalleled. ",
course YOU know, Nell, that usually, Will
is pretty good sort If q fellow, aud he
never denies NE anything In the way OF
household expenditures, or Tor dresses
for myself and the children, that he
can afford. H is not particularly fault
finding, either, when he is well, and nam
N. saws he Is the very best sou-in-law she
has. even though sister Mary thinks her
, old tub is The fsvorite, but when ne Is sick,
LEI me- tell Won, he is the crOs'est, most
csntanserous creature you ever heard OF.
Now. for instance, DR.. k was here to see
him the orher day, and he told him TO be
yery careful abnut sitting up too long at a
time Leaf he have a relapse, and what do
.on snnnose3 DIR. K hsd hardly left the
house when Will insisted upoa getting up,
| md lhe,e he sat and sat, for three houre,
in spite Of sll my arguments and all my
c,axisg. He said, she wasn't baby, Dr.
K-wss an old fool and / was another,
and that he meant to sit there, NJ he tCos
roo,n OF courss il hurt my feelings, TO be
called an fold foo" but i bore IL Tor the
time, because ! knew the poor boy vas not
himself. But you just wait till he gets
vii aud see il l don't have q new silk to
nav for il. Will thinks, just like any
other thick headed man, INV dear, that ne
is smsr but indeed his wife-and that's
me, you knows the smartest OF Inc TWO,
in the long run, and can manage him nice
Ily. Anyhow, Nell, believe In managing
a man. Fault fndir g won't work, neither
will GOODNESS or tears. Men haze tears
shove every thing, in vile. Ot course its
mighty nice to wipe the tears oil OF the
link cheek of mans sweeihear; with q
dainty Bit OF lace, sw, city Periuued with
Lubin's best, but bl. IS your soul, wlies
tears are entirely difiei ent, and as heard
an old bachelor say once-sf course ne
ought not TO have known anything about
il. bu, somehow h. did, had BEEN told
by some married man pert aps-that there
wasn't one married man IN hundred
had any sympathy with his wiie's tears,
and the minute she b-gin 10 "sozzl-, thai
Minute he wanted TO swesr, 10 matter
, whether he was church d.scon or not;
For my part, think nobody but a horrid
, brute would swear b. csuse his vile erie
, but ANYHOW. u, YER cry tear before VIII
no matter il he doesn't kiss me and Pc
me quite so much as l think be ought
WHY, actually, Nell, thiEk if woman
xiIl oply 90 about il in tie right way, sh'
can lust manage a man and make him con
, form to her ideas in every particular. Sh'
/ has tact, skill, beauty, refinement and 1
| sbe will combine her intuition with he
{ fascinating powers, she GIN change m
: noli,ics. r. form his religion ideas, aite
: The who'll course Of his life and just shaI'
e his career to suit herself. But now, let In
O tell Won. Nell, she must be smart and sens
}. lille nor must she forget for one singi
e minute The art ard 6beSse by which sh
rLlss. Msnis, at his best, a selfish, brusqn
limpulsive, conceited creature, who thlnk
n, is imme surably superior TO woman
n and the best way for him to ssow bis 81
o neriority. is for him TO rule the roost. n
Y hiss strength, aud he is anxious to use l
=. he has creative cult. $, snd be lives
IL execute them. But Notwithstanding a
o. this. he is obliged TO lock to woman Tor b
N nIeaspres. end the one who can please hii
IN. m. at and maxi him the hsppiest, ca
rnIe Linn and do with him whatever 81
pl.as.s A woman, you know, as aener
! hing. msrries for convenience, OF eours
:, She sometimes thinks she loves her blu
:. b,nd-I thought, and still think L To-
Will-but for al that, sbe marries Tor CO
4 yepience. for home, protection, lmmuni
=. from hustling around and earning her ov
M bread and butter, and certainly, Nell, LOO
at il in any light you please, If a NJ,
makes that home, il be goes out In {
world aud does battle for her main;eDan'
h. n he throws about his home the gnerd
- Of nrotection, he is deserving OF some
I'd He likes his home 10 be nice
y, kept. ard this is his wife's duty; he lis
90 he able to invite friend to dinner ev
- Il !, Is wsstday, without being net wi
- sonr 10, k. or a disdainful apology;
likes to be respected openly, no mat
What the private opinion may be; ne wa
;. . woman 10 give good advice, but ne d.
49,. net want her 10 notice the fact II he deci'
"a 70 take il: he wants To have good col
nJ I ard Iend, he~fsteak, and he don't wi
.nv mention made of the TACT that
- spore~. or that y thin pstch is getting
ible on bis crown. In fact, man va
n h. encouraged and csressed and petit
and made a hero of. OF course, l ku
de Won will laugh at the idea OF great, STR
cen man being "peiied and caressed," but
on me assure you, Neil, dear, that if
lii can't get petiing snd csresses at home,
! TO will 90 where he Can get them, and If {
lie. Won should marry that good looking law!
saw you with the other event
want you to remember "
iI hive tod you. Speaking OF l
vers reminds me that We have conside
'eIs bic reason to feel proud OF the Efforts
ad- s. m 4de in our behalf at Jefferson
!he and Will says that be has won ever
ing msny friends by his manly course 10
matter. suppose you know that the
s,aI de, abroad is that The We lost the {
itaI because Mr.. Noel, Mr.. Smith,
lem Adams. Mr.. kellogg and the Others '
IAN bepuiIed BY the fair sex OF Jefferson
has L., tho asnirations of those ho