Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1885-12-26
FOR THE LADIES.
WAYSIDE THOUGHTS SUGGESTIy {
AND REFLECTIVE.
Development of Women-SociaI Eli
quette-Ladics in Partisan So
ciety-Domestic Notes.

Development of Women-SociaI Eli
quette-Ladies in Partisan So
ciety-Domestic Notes.
The assumption that marriage offers to a
woman the highest development is open to
question. The normal condition of wife
| hood and motherhood, with the multiia-
| rious duties involved, is serious drawback
10 industrial, public or professional life.
| To do any consecutive work q single life
| is almost necessary to a woman. The
married woman develops the special quail
| ties of wifehood and motherhood often,
most always, at the cost of general devel-
opment. Family duties, which are again
| an impetus to the career OF men, crush
and annihilate the woman. Marriage de-
mands from her that every thought. every
talent, every project should be subordinated
to its overwhelming claims. In it her in
| dividuality is weakened, and sometimes
absolutely effaced. She has not the time
even to continue those habits of physical
| exercise and healthy recreation which
! maintain the elasticity and yigor of her
| unmarried sister; she cannot command for
herself those conditions of life which con-
duce to health. On the other hand, the
number of unmarried women increases
voluntarily, and not of necessity. The
mental life Of these fortunate and superior
creatures is f ee and untrammeled. The
| single woman's tastes are various and re-
| fined-her opportunities for culdvatiDg
| them practically unlimited. Whether
| it be III the direction of society, or
art, or travel, or philanthropy, or public
! duty, or a combination of many of these,
! there is nothing to hinder her from follow
| ing her own will-no restrictions but those
of her own conscience and right principles.
From her stronghold Of happiness and
freedom she can help the weak and pro-
tect the poor. She is fitted to fill a place
which has always stood empty in the his
tory of the world-that ola loving and tender
woman, armed with official power to re-
dress the wrongs of women and children,
whose nature and necessities are known
only to her. While losing none of the fun
and gayety of life, she is called by religious
conviction to stand face 10 face and hand
to hand with suffering. To be loving and
| tender is her nature but love and tender
ness do not reach their highest expression
in the personal relations. If the love of
1 lI4C iliOlutt SiONS Dy
services to her child, the love of the woman
grows by the protection she gives to many
children and unbefriended, lonely girls
As the mother benefits two or three, the
single woman may benefit thousands.
| When she throws the weight of her intel
| lect, her influence, her enthusiasm, on the
| side of the neglected and friendless, she
| sacrifices these gifts to the noblest pur-
poses of which humanity is capable. The
social, legal, political interests OF women,
| children and young girls are the charge of
| the femme libre of the future. In this di-
rection is found her new and sacred func-
| tom Westminster Review.
SOCIAL ETIQUETTE.
| The difference of national INTERPRETATIONS
| OF etiquette are comically illustrated in a
little story told by lady in Washington So
| ciety. A Japanese gentleman called on her
| one day just before luncheon. AS il was a
| first, and, presumably, ceremonious call,
| she naturally expected it would be brief.
To her surprise, he accepted her invitation
to lunch, and that domestic rite over, he
| still stayed. The hours wore on, and he
| did not go. The lady was wearied beyond
endurance. Dinner time came. The lady's
husband came, and still the gentleman from
! Japan stayed on. He was, as a matter of
necessity, invited to dinner Finally the
gentleman of the house relieved his wife
| for a time in entertaining this apparently
stationary visitor, but, as the evening wore
on, he became so tired and sleepy that he
retired 10 his apartment, and the hostess
| again screwed her courage To the sticking
point and resumed the entertainment of
the guest. AT last, about midnight, the
| japanese, with the most elaborate and alb
| iect apologies to the lady for leaving her.
! took his departure. But the comedy
reached its denouement the next day, when
| a friend, in whom the extraordinary guest
had cOnfided, told the hostess that he said
| he never had such an ordeal before in his
life; that he was SO tired and he thought
| the lady would never let him go, and finally
he was obliged to leave her without her
permission. Then the hostess learned that
in japanese etiquette the lady receiving a
| gentleman gives him the signal for his de-
parture, and it is very rude, in their code.
to leave her till she does this Boston
Traveller.
| oEE OF FASHIONS FoLLIEs.
| Every woman who writes letters. and
| few of them grow too old and Indifferent
| to make up a combination of postcriDts
must now be provided with seal and its
| adjuncts. The outfit consists of a small
tray. and on it a matchbox a lamp, or
candle and stick, box containing sticks of
wax of various colors and the seal itself
| These outfits come in great varieties and
many of them are very handsome The
cheapest are of the polished copper ware
| and the most expensive are made of ster-
ling silver and deliberately ornamented
| The prices run from 81 so up to SIS and
$50 a set. The seals cost about the same
the price varying according to the handle
| Some handles are made of copper, some of
carved wood, and others of ivory and sill
yer. The engraving of the seal plates in
creases the price The stationers and
| jewellers are doing brisk business Just
now in working at coats of-arms, crests,
monograms and initial letters. A mono
gram costs between 81 and 49, and crests
and coats of-arms are charged for according
| TO the amount of delicate detail there is in
| the work. Philadelphia Press
LADIES IN PARTISAN SOCIETY.
1t is impossible for any American not ac-
| quainted with French society to realize how
marked is the difference between the aristo-
cratic and the shop-keeping element in this
country. In America, Sixth avenue and
| Eighth street, SO far as the dress and de-
meanor of the feminine element are con-
| cerned, resemble very closely the same ele-
ment in Fifth avenue and Walnut street
| Whatever difference exists is like the best
qualities of Judic's acting-it consists in
shading Bus N Paris, Madame Dubois, of
the Bouleva Sebastopol, no more resem-
bles the Marq,lise dc Haul Castel in toilet
and demeanor than a chicken resembles a
canary bird. To describe the queer old
woman in dreadful gowns that | have seen
at the Elysce balls in later years would be
to furnish forth material for a cartoon in
| the ChdrirGri. have, for instance, seen an
elderly female in one of the official boxes
at the Grand Opera, evidently the wife or
mother of some great political parsonage
| from the provinces, amusing herself by de-
liberately scratching her head with her
back comb during the greater part of the
performance. The republic lacks ladies"