Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1885-04-07

Recipe for Ruling Men.
LECTURE TO WOMEN By A WOMAN WHO
HAS STUDIED MANKIND.

HAS STUDIED MANKIND.
II do not entertain MUCH" said lady
who had been an acknowledged leader of
Chicago society for twenty-five years.
"but receive good deal. 1 do not be-
lieve in entertainment. although l am
mindful that there is very much stress
laid upon the sociality of refreshments.
People do not call on you for eatables (;
they can buy their lunch anywhere. But
the society OF cultivated lady or gentle
man is not so easy of access. People
want mental TODD; they want to exchange
their ideas for newer ones they want to
talk and laugh. and to make you talk and
laugh; they want the society OF some
sweet women of sense and vivacity, who
will skillfully draw them into converse
ton. and for the time being. direct their
thoughts from the subjects that have en-
crossed them all day. The woman who
has to appeal to her table-who thinks she
must pamper the appetites of her guests
in order to please-openly confesses that
she is not accustomed to society, and not
equal to its demands.
besides, look at the way women enter
tain, nowadays! What does man care
for ices, cake, frappe and bouillon? Tru-
ly, their own observation should teach
them better. can get more real social
enjoyment and create more cOnviviaiity
with dozen sandwiches and two quarts
of cider or hot coffee than | can with ten
pounds of angels food and three gallons
of ice cream. have been in society for
twenty five wears, and when | have re-
ceived my most charming companies, all
| served was tea and waters. If there
were gentlemen present | substituted
coffee
Il am great admirer of card parties
and musicales with not more than ten in
the group About ten O'Clock l invite
them to the dining room and refresh them
without ceremony. have dish of salad
and some nice bread and butter, with a
pickle or an olive and cup of hot coffee
More often simply put big dishtul of
nice sandwiches in the centre of the little
table, and have a dozen bottles of ale
brought in right from the ice-box. That
is what men like, land il you mean to please
that is one of the means to use.
You should never feel obliged to serve
refreshments in the morning or afternoon,
for no well bred person expects it unless
invited especially to spend the day. If
you ask him to dine with you, then serve
an elegant dinner.
81 think if women only knew how
sweet and lovable they are, and how much
they can do with men. they would pay
more attention to their personal cultiva-
ton than they do. Why if woman only
goes about i: right she can do anything
with man. and make him conform to
her ideas in every particular. She has
tact, skill. talent. beauty, refinement. and
combine her intuition with her fascinating
powers. she can change his politics, re-
form his religious ideas. alter the whole
course of his life, and shape his career to
suit herself But she must not be fool.
| can tell you, nor must she forget for an
instant the art and finesse by which she
rules.
"Man is at best a brusque, selfish, i'm
pulsive creature, full of conceits and va
carries, and anxious to rule and control.
He has strength and he wants to use it
he has creative faculties and lives to exc
cute. But whatever he is. he looks to
woman for his pleasures, and the one who
can please him can rule him and do with
him what she will.
"A woman is young until she is 25 and
a man retains his youth 10 years longer,
but after that there is nothing to live for
but home. Life has lost its zest. and there
is no charm in the toys and amusement OF
yesterday. You must admit that a wo.
man marries for convenience. She wants
home. protection. immunity from labor
and the delights of companionship. Now
if a man makes this home. if he stands
between her and danger, if he contributes
the best interests of his lite for her main
tenance, he certainly is entitled to his re-
ward. He wants his home beautified
filed with friends and good cheer. he
wants to be petted, admired, respected.
encouraged and loved. He wants to be
king, in short.
"Oh, yes, you may say petting is all
nonsense. but just let me tell you that you
are mistaken, and that if the husband can.
not get the loving affection at home he will
get it some place else. Caresses can be
bought like every other luxury.
"A wife must be sweetheart all her
life. She must never get too old to be
charming. She must cultivate sweet
temper and an affable manner, and her
only anxiety must be dread of offending
her husband. Another thing; sarcasm
won't work it is an objectionable offence
in the home circle, and. no matter how
pertinent it may be. woman can not af
ford to say harsh word to the man she
loves.
Beautiful No woman need be any.
thing else. If she has poor complex.
ion. there are powders and cosmetics
that defy detection; she can have
beautiful eyelashes, and eyebrows
no matter how poor and coarse hel
hair is, it can be remarkably well KEPT
and so becomingly arranged as to be ad
mired; the most irregular teeth can bt
polished like so many pearls, and clear
teeth and sweet breath are not so com
mon rs to be despised; white hands anC
tapering. polished nails will atone for 8
very i'll shape of hand.
what if the feet are large, if they are
well shodp If the figure is poor, it car
be so clean, so healthy looking and sc
delicately perfumed that your very pres
ence will be wholesome and refreshing
and tell you. clothes make the refine
ment that belongs to lady or gentlemen
Indeed, the raiment is typical of much
that is within. II nature has meagrely
bestowed her charms that is the very
reason why a woman should have recourse
to art If a woman cannot shine in
music. painting. or the sciences, she car
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