The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1885-09-24
WOMAN AND HOME.
Aphorisms Relating to the Laws of Good
Manners,


that of manners! How difficult to define
how much more difficult to impart.
Better for man to pursue them than
wealth, beauty or even talent. If it fall
short of genuis-they will more than
supply all. He then enjoys their advan-
tages in the highest degree, viz, he who
can please, penetrate, persuade, as the
object may require, possesses the subtlest
secret of the diplomatist and the states
man." For the easy convenience of our
readers much pains has been taken to re-
duce to aphoristic form some of the
accepted laws that regulate manners:
Never pick your teeth at table.
Never seal a letter of, introduction.
Remember everything except an injury.
Do not make an ostentation of your
dress.
The grace of patience we'll becomes a
man.
The guest who comes late spoils the
dinner.
True politeness has no time to think of
itself.
Self.consciousness is the essence of
vulgarity.
Good temper is the essence of good
manners.
Do not press favor where you see it
will be unwelcome.
There is no fsttery so exquisite as the
fattery of listening.
The last injury which q man forgives
is wrong to hisself-love.
A sarcasm is like boomerang-you
never know where it may light.
A married lady when she makes call
will leave her husbands card.
A man who talks slang in lady's
hearing stands in need of discipline.
Be careful how you convince your
friend that he has made mistake.
A young lady may give her hand to o
stranger, but will not shake his.
In helping any one at table never use
o knife when you can use spoon.
Pride, ill-nature md want of sense are
the three great sources of ill.manners.
"Learn to hold your tongue. Five
words cost Zacharias forty weeks silence" :"
Give up to cads and snobs the practice
of smoking in the streets or in a theatre.
In passing from the drawing room to
the dining.room fhe lady takes prece.
dence.
Nothing indicates a we'll bred man
more than proper mode of eating his
dinner.
If you meet an acquaintance while
walking with friend do not introduce
them.
A rudeness is worse than a crime; it
is blunder because it is so easy to be
polite.
Never use your knife to convey your
food to your mouth under any circum-
stances.
The most disagreeable talk is that
which turns upon mans or woman's
maladies.
A married lady should treat stranger
with reserve, an acquaintance with re-
ticence.
In making calls do your best to tighten
the af1iction to your hostess. Do not
stay long.
Good manners is the art of making
easy the persons with whom we are
brought in contact.
Gentlemen do not take off their hats
to each other. This is courtesy re.
served for the ladies.
Never make introductions unless you
have good reason to believe that both
parties are agreeable.
In the country gentlemen do not offer
their arm to ladies'; but in large towns
this should be done.
In railroad travelling no gentleman
will address q lady who is unknown to
him unless she invites it.
There are three articles of dress which
eminently show the gentleman =
hats, boots and gloves.
Ladies should remember, that the art
of dressing we'll lies in the happy com
bination and harmony of colors.
Never give letters Of introduction
unless you are prepared to be responsible
for the persons to whom they are given.
Garry your hat and cane (but not your
umbrella) into the drawing room as a
visible sign of your intention to leave
quickly.
Be specially careful in making intro.
ductions to ladies. 1t is an insult if you
present to lady any persons of doubt
full reputation.
There is no policy like politeuess, and
good manner is the best thing in the
world either to get a good name or sup.
ply the want of it. -,
In bowling to lady in the street lift
your hat off your head. DO not allow
bar IN ounnoso that yo,, wear wig and
are afraid to disarraDge it.
The holder of letter of introduction
should send it with his card of address.
The receiver, if he be u gentleman will
call upon you without delay.
If you pass an acquaintance with a
lady on his arm do not nod take off
your hat, so that your salute may seem
to include both your friend and The lady.
Avoid onions; or, after partaking of
them, shut yourself up in the solitude of
your chamber until you are purified. A
story is told of an onion eater who en-