Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1885-02-16
GOOD MANNERS FOR YOUNG
PEOPLE,

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thought that manners were some
thing to be got, but that they just
came of themselves, OF grew up in
side of you, and somehow got outside
and that you need not show You had
them unless you wore your best
clothes and felt just like it. That is
all mistake. They have to be got
and then they have to be worn all the
time; else they will not fit, and slip
off when most needed. Then you
must have ever so many other things
before you can get them; and, even
when you have the others, you can
not be sure you have good manners.
There are a good many rules or
recipes for them. Here are some.
- For BOY.-Hair parted in the
middle; very high collar; big ring;
tight pants; ttooth pick boots;
crutch cane.
For A GIRL.-Frizzes in front and
bob-tail hair behind bracelets in
stead of cuffs; huge "bouquet de
corsage ;" small waist jacket made
by man tailor; narrow skirt.
These, of course, are expensive
recipes. Here is another that costs
nothing:
For EITHER Boy OR GIRL.-Sun-
ny face; gentle voice; quiet colors;
helpful actions; straight figures;
First of ali, you want to have man
ners that will last. You do not want
to borrow them by imitation for
then people will know they are not
yours, and limitations wear out. Much
rubbing shows the real composition
of anything, just as the constant
polishing of plated silver shows at
last the base metal beneath. So if
a boy is at first very polite, but, when
somebody bothers him, or asks him
to do errands, OF rubs them the
wrong way, he then begins to get
cross and rough, he proves that his
polteness was of very thin plating
Good manners must be founded on
simple, sincere purposes; else their
polish soon vanishes. You want to
do all you can to make other people
have good time, and you want a
good time yourself, and to be liked.
You have sense enough to see that
pretty girls are often called horrld,
and that girls with freckles and pug
noses are favorites, and that girls
who wear cheap dresses and one or
two pompons on plain black hat
are more stylish than those who wear
two long feathers, big buttons and
crimson plush. So it is not looks
that make good manners, and it is
not money that makes style.
Style is secret; and | will tel
you what makes it; for it may be
something you want. 1t is first, be-
ing straight whether you are tall o.
short, thin or fat.
Round-sholdered boys and girls
even if handsome, are never stylish
Then it is wearing your hair accord
ing 70 the shape of your head; ant
when your head falls in at the back
putting your hair up SO to hide th
hollow place; and when your fore
head is low, not making it lower b
too much ''frizzing," or banging
for even boys "bang;' and b
choosing the way that is most becom
ing, and always wearing it so, 20
will have a style of your own, whic
is what every one wants. Neve
cover with heavy lace the throat, III
; less it is thin and long; and eve
then do not let the lace be wrappe
: in wads, but let it fall loosely aroun
the neck. Wear your clothes, whetf
I er you are boy or girl, SO that you
, walk suggests the thought of cas-
! motion; and let them never be MOI
e than two shades of the same colo
d When you bow or speak to people
4 do it as if you were glad to see then
b and yet thought they were a gre;
deal better than you, and you wi
4 have cordially and reverence in you
manner, and will be stylish.
- Cool OF "bosslng," or snubbir
ways are never IN frst-clas styl
: The tone in which one speaks to
!, servant shows whether he is frs
= second or third class type.
70 If you want to make other Peep
# and yourself happy, you must not
selfish; and you know what selfis
ness means when you are teasil
- some one; you must be really
:. earnest and not be kind because it
49, fashionable, or because you can g
your own way better; but because
may help some one else, though
may not help you and then you W
tie not have your conscience torment
rs you, which is q great hindrance
IS happiness. But as we cannot get
ed of it, we have to keep it silent,
Oh oheying it right off. else it ev
DIS spois our dreams.
IN Yet if you have simple, since
at purposes. you may not have go
a manners. Do you not often say
he some boy: ooh he is good enoug
'er but he is so awkward? He has ]
he any manners?' Or Of a girl, ''Wl
nut is the use of her being SO good, wi
he she has not any tact?" So you
init that goodness is the first THU
But your toes do not feel much h
j., ter if they are stepped on by az