Madison times. (Tallulah, Madison Parish, La.) 1884-1???, 1885-07-18
WESLEY AND HIS WIFE .

WESLEY AND HIS WIFE. s
A Letter Hitherto Unpublished Show
His Domestic Troubles.
John Wesley was married In FEBRUARY
175l, to Mrs. Mary Vazeille, "a merchants
widow in Threadneedle street." who
possessed a fortune of about $4,000,
secured to herself and her four children.
He was 4s, she Al. His biographer, the
Rev. [. Tyerman, says of their marriage
that it twas, in a high degree, an act of
folly: and. properly enough, to the end CT
life. both of them were made to suffer
serious penalty" Mary's life ended ten
wears before her husbands. She died in
1881. after having made him miserable
for thirty years. Wesley survived her,
living to the ripe age ofSS. In worldly
way he had gained nothing by his mar
rage. 1t lost him his fellowship at Ok
ford and at least temporarily alienated
his brother Charles and his wife. His
domestic infcEcities are set forth in de-
tail in the following curious letter hith-
erto unpublished:
"CoLEEoKD, October %, 1759.-DEAR
MOLLY: l will tell you simply and
plainly the things which / dislike. If
Won remove them, well. If not, L am
but where was. / dislike your showing
any one my letters and private papers
without my leave. This never did any
Good vet, either to you or me, or any
one. 1t only sharpens and embitters
your own Spirit. Andthe same Effect it
naturally has upon Others. The same it
would have upon me, but that (by the
Grace of Cody / do not Think of it. 1t
can do no good. 1t can never bring me
carer, tho it may drive me further of.
And should you do as you often threaten
me, then the matter is over: L know
what have to do. In all this you are
fighting against yourself. You are frus-
trating your own purpose, if you want
me to love you. You take just the
wrong way. No one ever Was forced to
/ love another. 1t can not be. Love can
only be won by softness. Foul Means
! avail nothing. But you say, Il have
) tried Fair Means and they do not sue
ceeG.' If they do not none will. Thef
you Rave only to say, This Evil is of the
Lord. / am Clay in His Hand
$ Il dislike, 2, Not having the Command
,, of my own House; not being at liberty t.
/ invite even my nearest Relations, 81
e much as to drink Dish of Tea wiihou
disobliging you. dislike, 3, The beins
1 myself Prisoner in my own House; th'
t having my Chamber door watched con
S tinually so that no Person can go in o.
q out, but.such as have your Good Leave
dislike, 4, The being but a prisoner a
a large, even when / go abroad, inasmucl
d as you are highly disguised, if l do no
= give you AN Account of every place l g
, to and every Person with whom con
t verse. l dislike, 5, The not being SAT-
s in my own House. My House is not m,
Castle. l can not call even my Study
! even my Bureau, my own. They ar
i liable to be plundered every day. Yo1
say, Il plumber you ofnothing but Papers
: l am not sure of that. How is it posi-
BILE should? i miss money, too, and b.
that will steal Pin will steal a Pound
| But were it so, Scholars Papers are hi
e treasure; My Journal in particular. Blu
e l took only such Papers as relate to Saral
Ryan and Sarah Crosby That is no
4 true: What are Mr.. Landley's Letters u
4 Them? Besides, you have taken Part
} of my Journal which relate to neithe
r One nor the Other. L dislike, 6, You
Treatment of my Servants tho, indeed
they are not properly Mine). You'd al
that in you lies to make their Lives ,
Burden to them. You browbeat, harrass
rate them like Dogs, make them afraiC
to speak to me. You treat them will
; such Hautiness, Sternness, Sourness, Sur
illness, Immature as never were known
in any House of mine for near dOZeI
I years. You forget even Good breeding
and use such course Language as betit
none but Fishwife.
81 dislike, Z, Your talking against m,
behind my back, and that every day an(
: almost every hour of the day, maxim.
my faults (real or supposedly the standins
topic of your conversation. l dislike, 8
I your slandering me, laying to my charg'
things which you know are false. Sucl
are Ito 60 but few days back That
beat YOU Which YOU told James Burgess
That rode to Kingswood with Saral
Ryan, which you told Sarah Rigby; ant
that required you, when We were frs
r married, never to sit in my presenc
without nv leave. Which you told Mrs
Fry and several others; and stood TO j
before my face. dislike, 9, your com
o mon custom of saying things not true
d To instance only in two or three parti
culars. You told Mr.. Ireland Mr.. Vaz
. zilla learned Spanish in fortnight
> You told Mr.. Fry Mrs. Ellison was tn,
e author as to my intrigue in Georgia
. You told Mrs. Ellison You never sait
=, any such thing, you never charged he
with it, You also told her, That L haC
s laid plot to serve you as Susannah wa
f served by the two elders 1 dislike, 10
q your extreme, unreasonable bitterness
to all who endeavor to defend my char
acter las my brother, Joseph Jones
' CLAYTON earthly, breaking out even int
d foul, unmaunerly Language, such as ough
4 not to defile gentle woman's lips if sh'
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