Signal-Copiahan. (Hazlehurst, Copiah County, Miss.) 1885-1888, 1885-12-03
&" Observation-Disclosures
She Teaches s.e~ and ,WSA$-
How to Shine In Society.

How to Shine In Society
"Ah," said the lady. "you are .
rcporter-an interviewer this with a
triiling b,ft significant change OF man.
ner. "And my advertisement aroused
your curiosity" she continued, repeat
ing the reporters words; 81 might
have guessed that" she added. half to
herself; then. after moments cogita-
ton. she looked up. "lt is over three
years now since began my business
or profession. whichever you like, and
until lately have never advertised.
And this Is my first interview. Well,
you saw on my door M. Blank. In.
s,ructor.' and that tells the story.
That is just what am. 'lnstructor-at-
large am sort Of gcncral.ntil.
ity parsonage. human encyclopedia
o, modern information. q sort OF hand.
book of society aud business, a crys-
taliza,ion. rs II were, of the ethics OF
the yariou, occupations of life. l am
all things to all persons. assist q
young woman to buy a bonnet and
choose u husband. teach o young
man to tic his cravat and write his
loyc.letters. I am the lacking ingre.
don't to the lives Of more men and
women in this and other cities than you
would believe IL told their sum In
round numbers.
~ young lady is entering society.
She is fresh from school, has never been
out. and is green in q thousand little
ways that will mar her success at the
opening of her career. Her mother Is
dead, perhaps. or Is not accustomed to
fashionable. social usagcs. am APP
pealcd to and take charge of the do
butantc from hcr opening ball. Little
details that other girls learn from en-
barrassing experience my pupil Is at
once proficient in. Watch the average
girl leave carriage. for instance 4
With head thrust forward she climbs
awkward.s out and must pare ;''m"'
ment on the curb to resume equilibrium.
Now watch my charge, leaning slightly
back, one foot touches the step aud
with an easy natural motion the other
finds the pavement and the figure is at
once erect and well poised. In all de.
tails of card etiquette and note writing,
in the duties of hostess and visitors. In
the simple act of easily returning bow
upon the street. in the choice OF suitable
flowers and costumes for various wear.
in the parlor or ballroom, in the the
atcr or at church, my charge has tho
advantage of knowing just the proper
thing to do; and 60 further. give
her little hints OF small talk, teach her
how TO receive compliment aud re.
bukc idle ilattery. correct faults OF pro-
nunciaton and manner OF speech. give
her, in short, the aid to case and SELF
possession, which comes from confident
knowledge and mature experience.
"She goes to an opera one night, so
do !. The next morning discuss It
with her, pointing out its beauties and
defects, giving her an intelligent idea
of criticism, all of which serves her OK.
ccllen,ly at dinner the same evening,
when two hours of conversation arc be-
fore her. Such as she term my regu.
lar customers. also have any number
of persons who come to mo for single
prescription only"
"You have men, too, you say" sug-
gested the reporter
"Nlore than women. was the prompt
reply. you can not realize until You
have investigated the number Of young
men in metropolitan society whose early
advantages have been limited. They
come to New York. make their way
financially, and get into society. There
they arc soon in deep water. have
guided scores through threatening
shoals to smooth sailing. A man Is
asked on his first yachting trip. He
does Tot know what 10 wear lsell
him and impart little useful nautical
knowledge besides Another IS about
to take out a young lady for the first
time. He is full Of trepida:ion and
questions, help him choose the
flowers he will send, and II men arc
wearing gloves advise with him upon
the,color to select for his wear | re-
mind him he must sit opposite. not be-
side. mudcmoisclle 10 the carriage. and,
in fact. help him through all the little
details whose observance constitutes
the agreeable escort Conversational
ly. too. come to the rescue OF the
embarrassed and diliident male.
suggest topics and instruct him on little
fashionable phrases and tricks OF speech.
do this by actual object lessons. Shall
we try oncP"
The reporter could only acquiescc.
"Well, then, / am Miss L.. whom you
have just brought in to dinner. We
are all seated. the oysters before us and
tho footnian saying over cur shoulder;
Hook or sh,rryP' What would be your
venture on the little ripple Of small talk
that must babblc gently on through
soup. fish. entrees. and desserta"
IL should probably ask Miss A. II she
was fond OF oysters" said the reporter.
brilliantly.
20. fie! you never would II you were
. pupil Of mine. You would glance at
the graceful flower piece In the center
of the table and comment easily on :hs
beauty Of the flowers and applaud the
good taste which prompted the uss Of
flowers appropriate to the season rather