Springfield globe-republic. (Springfield, Ohio) 1884-1887, 1885-03-29
WOMAN AND HOME.
HINTS AND HELPS FOR KITCHEN,
PARLoR AND HOUSEHOLD.
oid-fashioned Eare-A EaiI-Eoom Pre-
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS of Our GirIs-Ead
Ereedims-How to Get Along
with Servants.



When a servant first comes 60 mo say TO
her something like this: Il, 1T us begin ri yht.
Put at once out OF your mind any idea that
there are to be two parties in this house.
am not going 90 take any advantage Of YOU,
and shall expect that you shall take none
OF me- II you find anything which you dis
Ike IN the situation do not talk about il to
outsiders or 10 the other servants in the
mouse Come straight 1p me anl we will
taik II over quiet y. ami il possible arrange
matters SO that We shall all be suited"
When girl comes to NE first for orders |
say TO heI: DO the tHin,; / want done for
once III your own way. 1t is very possible
that Is a letter way than mine If it
proves so, You may go ON as YOU have been
In the habit Of doing, but If my way is the
better snail expect you 10 change and do
II henceforth exactly as l shall direct you"
lock up nothing. A houSekeeper who
Knows what her weekly bills should be can
teii at once II she is being cheated, ana viii
take steps accordingly. do not think any
Natchfu!ness can prevent di honesty if "A
servant chooses II cheat her miStre 5. and |
would not keep for q moment servant
from whom l felt it necessary to locl up
any thing, and l certainly should insult no
young womsn of whom | knew no evil by
treating her from the first ms if she were a
thief whom It were necessary 10 circumvent
In her dishonesty
About company | feel differently from
most miStres>es We have no right to shut
up young women IN our dreary back kitch-
ems and expect them to work cheerfu,ly and
heartily without some social pleasures and
privileges If the girl feels that the house
she lives in is her home She will take some
interest IN IT. and If her home She has GER
tainiy right occasionally to welcome her
friends there. Ii this is freely admitted by
the mistress there viii he no slynesS. and the
Interest the gir., takes in the household viii
prove Ii better incentive than the
eye of a taSk-mistress. feel this especially
In the case Of young men visitors. l thilk
1t almost immoral 10 drive girls by onr
strict rules to meet their lovers and admir-
ers In the streets. We married and we ex-
pect our daughters 10 do 50. We should
take interest enough in our servants to find
out something Of the character OF their visi.
tors. II the young men whom they lie ire to
see are sober and Il ady and mean honestly
by them they have. | think, as good right
to receive them a proper hours in their neat
kitchens "a our daughters have TO receive
their guests in the drtwing-ro1m | have
had number of girls who let me only TO
marry, ami each one Of them had my free
permission 10 see her friend where she ought
to see him. in her own kitchen
My servants very soon feel that am Their
friend When they are ii they come to me
for advise; when trou ls befalls them am
interested To know all about it. i hear of
the father down with fever. or the little
idiot brother, OF the sister who is diving OF
consumption, the bad harvests. the pay
ments that must be made, or even of the
lovers with whom they have quarrels The
poor things are often very sad when they
only appear to be sullen.
Rememter how young and unframed they
are, away from home and relatives and sur
rounded by many and strong temptations
Try and help them Il is easy to break them
OF lying by uniform patience with their slips
and blunders. Set them such good example
OF selt-control that they will grow 5hamei
of their i;s Of temper They will rarely say
anyihing saGcy, unless provoked by hasty or
impatient speech on the part Of tie mistress
Perhaps it seems that this involves a good
deal oI trouble. but not half 50 much as the
constant changing of seryGntS and the worry
and vexatIon OF mind from which so many
mistresseS constantly suffer The servants
l have bad have not been exceptional by
any means-juSt ordinary young women
but with warm hearts. susceptible to kind
ness and rational treatment, and l can truly
say that ! have found in them faithful |
friends and loyal servants, watchful of my |
interests, careful Of my goods, kind i'll sick |
ness and sympathetic ia trouble.