Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1885-09-02

Some HOmely Advice.

At the outset we quote from recent
sermon delivered by dearly beloved
minister whose reverence for home and
woman is great The sentiment he quoted
was this: "Womau was taken ont of man,
not from his head to rule over him. nor
from his feet to be trampled on BY him,
but from his side to be equal to him. un-
der his arm to be protected. and near his
heart to be loved" A motto we'll fitted
to be hung upon the wall of every home
in the land. And now if you have previ-
ously been frank with each other you are
ready to commence unitedly this new
life. You will first of all apportion your
income as your expenditure will allow.
1t always seems to US that the first year
of married life is BY tar the most trying
one No matter how long the acquaint-
ance and courtship may have been-the
longer the better. we say-it takes at least
one year to become accustomed to each
others individual peculiarities. There
are thousand and one little ways pecui-
ar to lovers, which are liable TO be
dropped when possession becomes actual
| ity. Therefore we commend boarding
for a season as the wisest plan, especially
if the income be at all limited. There
seem 80 many little housekeeping trials
which the Young wife hardly knows how
to meet. that sometimes disagreeable re-
suits ensue At all events, whatever
your home may be, strive to make it to-
gether From the beginning avoid. if
possible, all illusions to "mine" and
thine :" for is it not pleasure to call
things "ours ?"
Let your home be hospitable one al
ways take your friends into your own
home life. so living that they can easily
see that it is simply the extra plate which
is out of the ordinary course. AS child
remember the family motto "Welcome
the coming. and speed the parting guest
is true hospitality, and in my home
was always carried out. My own expert
ence has taught me that real welcome
puts one much more at ease than any
amount of fine cooking.
Some time ago there appeared in one of
our local papers this advertisement:
Wanted. A capable woman to do the
homework for family of four persons
and take the entire charge of two children
the mothers time being fully occupied
with music" We studied long over the
wording of this. There evidently was
husband and father, and two children, all
OF whom were to be left to the care of
hreing, because the wife and mother
was too busy with music to do so herself,
Why did that woman marry at all !? If
her life work was mnsic, let her devote to
it all her energies-l care not how gifted
she may be, but her first duty is to her
husband and children. Our children are,
or should be. a heritage from the Lord
and not an unavoidable incumbrance on
our time and pleasure as so many seem to
think.
1t is high time that. when engagements
are entered into both parties should fully
consider and realize all that naturally fol
lows. and unless they are willing to accept
the situation let them remain unmarried.
The husband should share equally in the
care Of the little ones who call him father
The wife who demands as her right The
freedom she had as maiden, who refuses
to perform her part OF her VOWS at the
marriage altar. should at once learn that
"to love. honor and cherish" were not
idle words. and that to .'honor" her hus-
band involves a great deal which at first
thought seem sacrifice. Underneath these
words of mine lies deep and earnest
meaning which we all would do we'll to
seek and fnd-Good Housekeeping.