Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1885-08-20
TO THOSE ABOUT TO MARRY.

10 THOSE ABOUT TO MARRY.
Some Interesting and Not Improbable
Advice to Engaged Couples.
Punch's advice to those about to
marry was not modified by their age.
disposition or habits. 1t was inexora.
BILE plump. Don't" in any case.
But there is an especial class of en-
gagged couples sitting now apart in
shady groves, or silent together or
porches while the other young people
are playing tennis, to whom we would
fain utter the prohibition in thunder
tones They are the kittenish girls and
immature boys whose fathers have
money enough to enable them to marry
early and to take upon their shoulders
the responsibilities of men and women
while they have the brains of children
The case is frequent one in American
soc ETY.. Americans. as rule, are do
mestic. They are considerable, affec
tionate husbands; tender, faithful
wives. Their idea of good citizen is
first of all, the MARI ed man. To marry
young man is. in the popular idea tc
settle him, TO insure, as far as human
means will avail. his morality and re-
spectab ty in this world and the next
Hence, given an assured income and 6
suitable partner, an early marrige is
not only held to be romantic and
touching thing. but there is an aroma
OF prudence and virtue about it which
commends It to the more sedate and
orthodox part of our populat on.
The marriage takes place haloed by
sort of roseate glow which belongs to
all things of the early morning, or OF
spring, and for wear or two the union
is really true and beautiful. The fancy,
or passion, or feeling which drew these
two young creatures together was sim
cere. and it burns with brjlliance and
lights up their home. and friends, and
the earth around, and the heaven be-
yond with tints of rose. Children.
when they come. are but brighter cen
tiers of rad ance. or rather unreal little
Ariels and Pearls in the unreal fairy
land in which their parents dwell
But IN a short time these married
children begin to grow into adults.
and in ninety cases in hundred they
do not grow alike. The man, out in
the wider air, strengthened by friction
with other men, becomes an active
worker in the world. inhales new
breaths of life from his profession, his
business, his study of facts or men.
The woman's immature body is shat
tered BY the too early drains upon her
strength. she has no time nor health
for culture. for observation, for
keeping up in any way with
her husband. The tie which ex-
lists between them was formed so
early, is so much a part of themselves,
that they can not view it or each other
with the common sense or the cool
Judgment which they could and would
life. Often. too, this tie, which grows
out of the fiutterings of heart produced
by pretty face, sweet voice. a walk
them. The longer they live together
the less they understand each other.
Sometimes the husband or wife meets a
woman who does understand. and
then comes long tragedy, played out
in the home, if they have self-control.
in silence. until death mercifully drops
the curtain.
The marriages of the middle-aged are
subjects of joke for all the world. espe-
cially tor young people. who, arrogant
in the certa nty of beauty and youth
and enthusiasm. suppose that they hold
the title deeds to all the JOY and love in
the world. They greatly mistake.
The man who has carried bravely
TO m;ddle-age the consequences
of his first whim or passion, who
has grown in wisdom. influence and
strength, hampered by silly. vicious or
stupid wife, throws into the love of his
iater life all the force of his matured
intellect and tastes, all the starved.
solitary hunger for true companionship
of his life. Even when no such feeling
enters into the marriage of middle-aged
men and women. they bring to it, if of
the gentle class. as a rule. a sincere
esteem habits of control of temper,
thoughts and tongue. and those w der.
sweeter, more charitable views which
advancing years almost inevitably bring
to sensible, educated people. A woman
in second marriage seldom feels as a
young girl does, that her husband is
bone of her bone, and hence that his
defects are personal hurt to herself.
She always stands. so to speak, little
off from him, and views him with an
affectionate, amused criticism. She had
learned by this time that They. as Mrs.
olipUduG Calls HIGH. are W Dc IIiduc Id
pv. humored and led by certain delicate
wise handling. and she usually knows
the art of it. The husband. in this case.
brings all the experience and the gen.
tleness with which he has learned to
treat all women. In short, if there is
less love in late MARI ages, there is
usually so much more common sense
and habitual politeness that the chances
for happiness are equalized.
OF course. the ideal marriage is that
neither of immature youth nor m ddle
age. The iuste nailieu IS always right
in every disputed question But when
one is at either end it is so hard to
reach the middle.
After all, we are tempted to reverse
Pnnch's counsel and to say to all who
are tempted to marry-do it. Go into
the field and reap your little harvest o.
experience. Whatever the juice, bit
ter or sweet, which you express from
it, it will be your own and will be ;
better tonic and medicine for your life
than that which any other man cal
bring you.-Pai1adelphia Press.