Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1885-01-22
MEN Al DINNER.
Hints TO Men--lIow to Dress aud Act In Po-
lite society.


Men should use as little ieweiry as
possible. The watch chain should not
go around the ne X, and should be at
tachcd as high in the vest as ii viii
reach. One ring may be won on the
third finger of the left hand. Three
studs in dress shirt are to be pre-
ferrcd to one. Scarf pins should be
plain and never worn IN knotted scarfs.
Imitation jewelry, particularly mock
diamonds, are the extreme of vulgarity
Wear your hair short and longer on
the top than at the sides and back of
the head. Part it high up. in the mid
die if yon choose. Wash the hair fire.
quently with soap and water. and new
er use pomatums or oils of any sort. If
you wear full beard keep it well
trimmed, as well as the hair: if Won
shave, shave every day. Cut your beard
so rs to give regularity TO the outline
OF the face, and learn to shave Your
self. Keep the nails moderately long,
pointed, and serupulously clean. Go
regularly to a dentist to have the teeth
examined for cavities and brush them
at least twice day.
A few hints on the wearing of clothes
will suffice. A full dress suit-a swal-
low-tail coat, black or white single
breasted vest, white necktie, stand up
collar, high black hat. and light kid
gloves should never be worn until
evening, just before dinner A white
necktie should never be worn except
with full dress suit, save by clergy
men and elderly men. Black trousers
should never be worn except in the
evening. Double-breasted frock coats
should always be of black material. At
public entertainments the opera
-double-breasted coat, dark trousers,
and light kid gloves are worn. AT home
the first consideration with everybody
is comfort; but no gentlemen will ev-
er sit down 10 table in his shirt sleeves
Perhaps the dinner table is, of all
places, the one where man can least
afford to ignore social observances,
| and here the well-bred man and the
ill-bred man are most strongly con-
trasted. An invitation to dine should
be promptly replied to, whether you
accept or decline. 1t Is sufficient to
say:
Mr.. - has the pleasure to accept
Mr.. and Mrs. IS kind invitation to
dinner on the -
If the invitation be declined some
good reason should be stated:
MIR. - regrets that owing to a
previous engagement he can not have
the pleasure of accepting Mr. and Mrs.
IS kind invitation for the -
Having accepted an invitation, be
punctual. On arriving pay your re-
spccts to the hostess first of ALL II she
cares to greet you in that way she will
make SUI Ii an advance. When you
leave don't take leave of the whole
company individually. 1t is enough to
bid Your hostess and her family adieu
/ there is a lady with you she does not
enter the drawing-room on your arm,
but little in advance of you. Wa tiers
only wear gloves to dinner parties
You viii not choose the lady YOU take
in TO dinner-that is your hostess priv
ilege. Sit close to the table when you
get there, and don't use your napkin
as bib. Don't play with the table
implements. Take soup from the side
of the spoon. Keep the handles of your
knife and fork exactly in the palms Of
your hands. The fork is used to con-
vey all food to the mouth that does not
require spoon. The knife is only used
in this way by the low-bred people. If,
however, you happen to get in such
! party, use the instrument as the rest
do. He who advised us ITO do in Rome
as the Romans do" was true gentle
man. 1t is better to cat asparagus
with fork, and never gnaw green
corn from the cob. Cut it off with a
knife and eat it with fork. Cheese is
never touched with the fingers, but eat
en- with fork on bit of bread. Bread
should be broken. Cultivated people
never butter large slice of bread and
bite into it. Never use your own knife
or ork to help another, or put your
own knife into the butter or salt. Re-
move fruit bits and skins from your
mouth with the left hand. Take hold
of wine glass by It's stem, and never
drink from saucer or blow on bev-
eragc to cool it. Masticate with your
mouth shut. and don't talk with a full
mouth. When you talk of wine say
simply ''claret. or port" never
''claret wine, ''port wine" Finally,
if you would act well abroad be care
full TO observe the prop ieties at home.
If man would appear like a gentle
man, he must walk, stand, and sit like
one. In all attitudes he should avoid
all appearances of self-consciousness
Therefore, among stranger, he will
stand erect and still, and not loll or
lounge on n chair. In bowling. take
plenty of time, Don't jerk the hat oil
and sling it back as soon as possible.
A well-bred man removes his hat in e
presence of ladie' in any rooted pub
lie place, and when he does them,
though strangers, favor Unless you
are well acquainted with woman let
her bow first; but between old acquain-
tances such ceremony is nee less. When
walking with male acquaintance you
must salute his lady friends by raising
your hat also. Never stop long to con-
verse in the street. Don't smoke in
public places where there are women,
unless such is the custom OF all fire.
quenters. A cigar in a mans mouth
in the daytime, on the street, vulgar
ICES his appearance. Remember that
a gentleman is always introduced to
lady; never otherwise unless in the case
of the President. If you are at a dane
ing party dance. II you can't dance
we'll stay at home. Don't play cards
among strangers for money, and al
ways kee a lookout for the opportnni-
ty of doing courtesy. An observance
of these hints will enable most men to
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