The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1885-05-02
Mary Sidney, in Farm Journal.

Many are ruined in their haste to be
rich. They engage in speculative
schemes to this end, and are not al
ways fair and honest in their dealings.
This will not do, my young friends. A
good name is your best possession, and
your dealings must be such as to bear
the full light Of day; for, though you
may be permitted for awhile to sail
under cloud of distrust, and the tricks
you have resorted to for the sake of
gain be temporarily concealed, yet time,
the adjuster, will sooner or later stand
you out unpainted and unvarnished, to
take your deserved position in the esti-
nation of your fellow beings. A thou
sand times better that you should re-
main poor than become rich at such
cost. What are you when you can no
longer be trusted or respected? What
peace can you enjoy when the finger of
scorn is being pointed towards you2
In looking around among those I
have known the past forty years, can
count more unsuccessful families than
truly prosperous ones. Those who have
been successful have invariably been
men and women of modest ambition
and sterling worth. When I speak of
success l do not mean mere riches, for
life is failure if there is nothing but
money to show for it, but mean those
who stand on sound moral and finan-
cial basis, and whose children shape to
continue in the same trustworthy track
in that same intermediate condition
that Agur prayed for: "Give me neith-
er poverty nor riches feed me with
food convenient for me-" &c. You
can not afford to make haste to be
rich; if you have sum to invest, let
safety be more of an object than big
dividends; slow, but sure, is the better
gait; the rainy day will come, and
then you will be glad to know your
hard earned money is secure. Keep
your names off of other peoples raPS-.
Why should you pay the debts OF
others7 The probabilities are that you'll
have plenty of your own to pay, and
do not ask others to bolster you up;
wait until you have some security to
offer besides the name of a friend before
you borrow or buy. OF all Goddess
ways of losing money endorsing takes
the lead. Many man has made beg
gars of his family because he could not
say no when some one he respected
offered him the possible chance to pay
his bills.
Many a family has come to grief be-
cause of lack of cooperation on the
part of husband and wife. Matrimony
is not single-handed game, and they
who win are constantly looking after
their partners interest. Each must
know just how the other stands. Re-
member this, my young friends, and
let whatever family gathers about you
see that there is unity in the dual head
of the establishment. This will win
you respect, and add to your usefulness
abroad as we'll as at home.
The new home you are founding is to
be your little world. In it you are to
find happiness, or you are to 60 through
life without that desirable commodity.
Though the present may be called
"hard times," yet if you will persevere,
struggle along and keep religiously
within your means, the time will come
when there will be an easier road for
you to travel. Life is full of ups and
downs, and there is always some sun
shine in which to make hay.
I will not allude to those immoral
practices that have sapped money and
honor, and wasted countless households.
l have chosen to address my remarks
in this paper to those earnest, Cod
fearing young men and women who
have set out in the world, eagerly seek
ing the right way to peace and compe-
tence; and so spoken only of such
snares as have tripped the best ofpeople,
in the hope that 1t may assist these novi-
tiates on their untried and uncertain
journey. In the language of the poet !;
"The prudent man deiberates,
And counts the cost of every deed,
Caring for safety more than speed:
The boastful hero, blind and rash,
Wishes to shine and make dash.
"With mean ambition he is fred
To see his foolish self admired,
So hurries on and breaks his neck,
Or sees his fortune 60 to wreck
His sun at MONDAY sets in gloom,
And 'Foop is written on his tomb"
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