Maryland independent. [volume] (Port Tobacco, Md.) 1874-current, 1885-01-30
The Father at Home.

Some fathers fail to gain tbo;r chill
dren's confidence 4 Y an appare7t iacL 80
sympathy. On the 9th hand, few Young
people ever take the ol5le to put them
selves in their fathers j ace-t6 IMAGINE
how he must feel this or that behavior
how a disrespcctful word or look ins,,Its
him, or how vo untary confidence i
priced him. There by are many thinos mn
doubt, which boys and girls do uot
care to speak Of before their father. bnt
they do not know how hurt Dater tamilja,
feels when conversation i STONED uto,,
his entering the room, when he Is madr
to feel that he is not one of the rircle
that he Is a power to be respected and
propltiatedi but no more Nery often i
man has himself to blame FER This stata
OF things, but not always. often if i
mere love Of secrecy which make Girls
especially exclude their father as much
as possible from KNOWLEDGE Of tbeir
doings, their friends their confines and
golngs, their fears and hopes. Will come
hls tetlcence must be necessary Conf
dences would only be met with susnicion
or blame or ridicule But most men have
a tender spot in their hearts. even for the
weakness and foolishness Of their oyn
flesh, and feel panied when thew are
silently CONDEMNED as unworthy Of conf.
denee. Pater fdmiljas may he too nrond
to show that he feels hurt. He NAV wran
himself up in dignity and affect 4 ron
tempt fer the trining concerns IT sbn
girls he may even repel the first advances
but his heart may be excleimina bitterly |
against the GOODNESS and hardness with I
excludes him from the knowledge Of his
daughters mind and heart which is Given +
TO halt dozen school girl friends +
girl owes much to her father. even if he
mas not beenall to her that a parent ought
to be. lie has had to work hard yrrv
probably, that her bread and butter migbt
pc secure, lie has borne cares. anxipties.
struggles, temptations, at which aHs Fpr
but guess-uf which she can form M teal
conception. If he is hard and unsymna.
thetlc some allowance for the nervous II.
tltatloh o. an oyerworked or anxious nab
may surely BE made And Girl never
we believe, has any conception how pre-
clous she IS IN her fathers ewes. Rou0h
words and cold or angry looks NAV seem
to disproye it, but it is true nevertheless
More even in a sense, than his wife she
appeals to his protective care He may
seold or slight her, but let any real harm
threaten her and she will see that 10
touch her is to touch the apple Of his eve
The day comes, no doubt, When her allie
gianec and sympathy are transferred to
mother In right of a still higher claim.
There is little wonder if poor pater taiai-
las looks askance on him at first and is
slow to admit that he is the one at whose
coming his reign must end. 1t is the way
Of nature, and it must be so. But 1t il
hard. A father often loses more on his [
daughters marriage than her motherdoes.
My daughters my daughter all her life. "
But fathers right changes ehtitci4 When
the ring Is put on the finger. Till the
fairy prince comes, then, let pater tdn,i. |
las be considered and deferred TO- and if |
necessary, humorel. Let him not be
made to feel that bare duty is to be paid
to him. Let him not feel himself
stranger in his own house. For many
little sacrifice, many a gentle or patient
word, unnoticed, unacknowledgcd at the
tlme and soon forgotten by her who rem
ders it, lives in the memory Of him who
receives It, Warer}B