The Pascagoula democrat-star. (Pascagoula, Miss.) 1878-1920, 1885-08-07
LETTER FROM MOBILE.
Correspondent D~emocrat-star, .
MOBILE, August q, 1883.


Dizziness reigns supreme. t"ll'
ure follows failure, and hard times
ORC ramnant. We sit in our places
of business and sigh and groaIl, anu
wish. and moralize. How many +"
moor fellow these times wishes ne
conld throw off the yoke OF married
blessedness and jump into single
cusseducss again. What strange
fatality attacks young girls anu
BOYS alike, especially OF the poorer
classes TO want to marry. Many OF
them can offer no good reason Tor
it. Like some politicians they want
a change for sake of change; anu
never stop to consider the cost: II
Is said that marriages are made III
heaven. WHAT terrible bOsh. VINO
60 foolish as to charge heaven .
The thousands OF miserable con,
tr1cts entered into, or the untold
misery that is caused Oy. tnems
How can 1t be otherwise. A young
couple agree to get married ineS
have health to start with, ana mats
all tbey do have. The young man
fails to recognize that he oe
the bread winner OF the partner
shin. and as time rolls on ana new
members of the firm come III Orlhs.
inc no capital, he soon learns tnaC
sorrows, troubles and prlvatlons are
Sure TO come, aud this is where the
misery begins. God alone knows
where it euds. Love is something
beautiful, and it must have SUI
ronndiugs 10 harmonic with H.
7 can y be made to believe that
amid years of continued grinding
ooverty, of~SReutai toftures IN
known to ANY bat those VINO expe,
,ience t6cm that love a thrive
rand develop. 1t must have some,
thing to nourish 1t; and IN Goas
, name what is there Ill these struS'
oles IN u or retain lite, in the
bare skeleton of Il sentiment, io'
that is what love is under such
i treatment. And with many RON
e the look OF Indifference to the shWt
emitting word is but a short step
/, from the determinations TO words
! of contempt, to the neglect ol
u of home is but another, aud lloth-
inc is left of affection but a selltl,
meut of respect between each othei
as the parents of their children
= And what is the result OF such d
marriageR Two wrecked lives Win
II scarce a single hope on earth. Iit
/. fact is, that i'll too many cases, mar
Il riage is entered into without any
forethought or preparation. WINE
y it is the most important step w
can take in life, it is sometime
thought of so little moment tina.
d no time is taken to ascertain eac'
others htuess or disposition, Du
= blind leading the blind, they can
not see Tither their steps are cent.
n inc. until afterwards, they e ohi,
x too plainly, the pitfalls it is too lat'
8. RI uvuid, Verify, "Fools rush i
- where angels fear to tread" NO
:. is this mistake confined to the poor
It There is mauy Il skeleton in tn
IL homes of the rich. They may E'av
~ their homes and lock up their Ske
lie etot, and 20 ont in society with Sun
ling and laughing faces, while ID
-, world looks on aud says: mo
al bappy they must be-" aud ''ho
til they love each other" but wiIe
re they return to their homes the
a.. skeleton meets them at the dos
- and keeps their company day an
'"e NIGHT. Its motto is indeed, "Fait
IN inf INTO death" Then there is Wit
ms tho French call IA "misalliancC
cir A Young man, we'll educated,
is. good family, OF high ambition, WI
natural good ability, sees a pref
face. becomes infatuated, and
the time forgets everything but
of beauty. Beyond that he kno'
ing nothing, apparently cares nothin
marries her, aud love RUS riot u
iii the novelty is over, and tn
awakens to the realization that
is chained to one who an never
VII a companion, and that each belo
the TO a different social world lie ca
eed not sink to her level, he cant
the raise her to his. The result is, b
she is neglected, he seeks elsewb'
iue the congeniality denied him
To home. She feels the neglect, CO
Of. plains, seeks company of her o
luse social grade, aud jealousy, disgra
.ovo divorce and misery follow natuI
IL in the train OF these misera
NC hasty marriages. Even 1t it emf
} as here it might not be so bad, bul
lace nearly every case there are c
lem. dren to reap the social and me
whirlwind their parents have so
Marriage is a religious d!
and should not be entered
hastily, but each should form ah
THIS estimate of the duties and resi-
} in. sibilities of married life, and St
well each others disposition
:. temperament before taking
y" final step that renders further St
re- useless, aud by so doing, ful
Club years of misery may be avoi,
slim aud the end and aim of MARI
,lar. attained. So mote it be.
Ecu