The Arkansaw traveler., 1885-04-18

IBtl Nye, in New York MetcuEy.l I, "Eshei" has written lekter to me and asked fur printed reply. Leaving of the opening sentences, whsch ! would no' care to have fall into the hands of my wife, her note is about as follows:
 My n..,s,,, Fes' $. :sss. Tender part of le,,e. omitted for obvious reasons.l Would is be asking too much for me to reQuest brief re- ply to one or two questions which many oeheE married women as well as myself would like | te have answered.
 | | have been married now for Eve years, To-day is the anniversary of my marriage. When was siagle 1 was q teacher aud sup ported myself in comfort. had more pock- et-money and dressed fGlly as well # not bet ter than do nov. Way should girls who are abundantly able to earn their own live lihood struggle to become the slave of hus- band and children aud tic themselves 10 . man when they might be free and happsf think too much is said by the men in a | light and fiippant manner about the anxiety | Of young ladies to secure home and bus band. and still they do deserve a part ot it. as feel that do now for assuming great bur den when was comparatively independent and comfortable.
 Now, will you suggest any advice that you th,nk would benefit the ye, unmarried and self supporting girls who arc liable to make the 1 same mistake that did and thus warn them universal in it's range and reach 50 maAy more people than 1 could if 1 should raise my voicef Do this and you wili be grase- fully remembered by ETHkL.
 It would indeed be tough, tough man who could ignore thy gentle plea, Ethel ; tougher far than the pale, intellectual hired man who now addresses you in this private and underhanded manner, un- known to your husband. Please destroy this letter, Ethel, as soon as you see 1t in print, so that 1t will not fall into the hands of Mir. Ethel, for if 1t should, am gone. If your husband were to run across this letter in the public press, could never look him in the eye again.
 You say that you had more pocket money before you were married than you have since, Ethel, and you regret your rash step. am sorry to hear 1t. You also say that you wore better clothes when you were single than youi do now. You are also pained over that. Jlt seems that marriage with you has not paid any cash dividends. So # you married Mir Ethel As a financial venture, it was mis- take. You do not state how 1t has af fected your husband. Perhaps he had more pocket money and better clothes before he married than he has since. Sometimes two people do well in business by themselves, but when they go into partnership they bust higher than a kite, if you will allow me the free English translation ot Roman expression which you might not fully understand if 1 should give it to you in the original Ro- man.
 Lots of self-supporting young ladies have married and have to go very light on pin money after that, and still they did not squeal, as you, dear Ethel They did not marry for revenue oHly. They married for protection. (This Is a politi- cal bon mot which thought of myself Some of my best jokes this spring are jokes that thought of myself
 No, Ethel, if you married expecting to be dormant partner during the day and then to go through MT. EthePs panta- looms pocket at night and declare a divi- dend, of course life is full of bitter, bitter regret and disappointment.
 Perhaps it is also for MT. Ethel. Any how, l can't help feeling papg of sym pathy for him. You do not say that he is unkind or that he so far forgets him. self as to wake you up in the morning with harsh tone of voice and ayearling club. You do not say that he asks you for pocket-money, or if so whether you give it to him or not.
 Of course want to do what is right in the solemn warning business, so l will give notice to all simple young women who are now self-supporting and happy that there is no statute requiring them to assume the burdens of wifehood and motherhood unless they prefer to do so. If they now have an abundance of pin money and new clothes they may re- main single if they wish without violat- ing the laws of the land. This rule is also good when applied to young and self supporting young men who wear good clothes and have funds in their pockets No young man who is free, happy and independent need invest his money in a family or carry a colicky child twenty seven miles and two laps in one night unless he prefers 1t. But those who go into it with the right spirit, Ethel, do not regret it.
 would just as soon tell you, Ethel, if you will promise that it shall go no far ther, that do not wear as good clothes | as did before I was married. don't have to. My good clothes have accom-. plished what 1 got them for. played them for all they were worth, and since got married the idea of wearing clothes as vocation has not occurred to me. Please give my kind regards to Mr. Ethel, and tell him that although l do not know him personally cannot help feeling sorry for him. Very sincerely yours.