The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1885-05-28
SOME MATnIE0N1Ab ADVICE.
Bill Nye Gives tha Girls Some words oi
Wisaou. iih-lU t!s5

"HoT SPRINGS, ARK, April @, 1885.
"1fy Dear Sir: Would 1t be asking
too much for me to request brief reply
to one or two questions which many other
married women as myself would like to
have answered2 teH
~ have been married now for Eve
years. To-day Is the anniversary of my
marriage. When was single + was q
teacher, and supported myself in com.
fort. had more pocket money and
dressed fully as c,ell, IL not better, than
I dc now. Why should girls who are
abundantly able to earn their own
livelihood struggle TO become the slava
Of o husband aud children and tie them
solves 20 man Ihen they might be free
aud happy?
II think too much is said by the men
In light and fippant manner about the
anxiety of young ladies TO secure home
aud husband, aud still they do deserve
q part of It, as I feel that I do now for
assuming great burden when I was
comparatively independent an5 oo::fer.
table.
"Now, will you suggest any advice
that you think would benefit the yet un-
married aud self-supporting girls who
are liable to make tho same mistake that
I did, and thus warn them In manner
that would be much more universal in
its range aud reach 60 many more people
than could If I should raise my voice
Do this, and you will be gratefully re.
membered by ETHEL"
It would indeed be q tough, tough man
who could ignore thy gentle plea, Ethel ;
tougher far than the pale, intellectual
hired man who now addresses you in this
private and underhand manner.
You say that you had moro pocket
money before you were married than you
have since, Ethel, and you regret your
rash step. am sorry to hear 1t. You
also say that you wore better clothes
when you were eingle than you do now.
You are also panied over that It seems
that marriage with you has not paid any
cash dividends. So If you married MIR.
Ethel as o financial venture, 1t was o
mistake. You do not state how it has
affected your husband. Perhaps he had
moro pocket money and better clothes
before he married than he has since.
by themselves but when they 20 into
partnership they bust higher than kite,
If you will allow me the free English
translation of on expression which you
might not fully understand If I should
give It to you in the original Roman.
Lots of self.supporting young ladies
have married, and have to 60 very light
on pin money after that, and still they
do not squeal as you, dear Ethel. They
did not marry for revenue only. They
married for protection. This is little
political bon mot which I thought of
myself. Some of my best jokes this
Spring are jokes that I thought of my.
self.
No, Ethel, If you married expecting to
be dormant partner during the day and
then go through Mr.. Ethel's pockets at
night and declare dividend, Of course
life Is full of bitter, bitter regret and dis.
appointment.
Of course want to do what Is right
In the solemn warning business, 30 will
give notice to simple young women who
are now selfsupporting and happy that
there is no statute requiring them to as
sumo the burdens of wifehood and moth.
erhood unless they prefer to do 30. II
they now have abundance of pin money
and new clothes, they may remain single
if they wish without violating the laws
of the land. This rule Is also good
when applied to young and selfsupport.
ing young men who wear good clothes
and have funds in their pockets. No
young man who is free, happy aud inde.
pendent need invest his money In family
CT carry colicky child 27 miles and 2
laps In the night unless he prefers It.
Bns those who 20 into it with the right
spirit, Ethel, do not regret It. ~ is.s
would Just rs coon tell you, Ethel,
If you promise that it shall 60 no fur:
thor, tnat / do not wear rs good clothes
as / lid before was married. ] done
have to. My good clothes have accom-.
r!ished what got them for. played
them for oil they we're worth, and since
got married the idea Of wearing clothes
as q vocation has not occurred to me. rs
Ethel, ana toll him that although I do do
not know him personally, T cannot help
feeling sorry for him.
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