Wheeling Sunday register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1882-1934, 1884-03-09
THE LADIES' CORNER.
F1oi, am and Jetsam Rescued from
Our Exchanges.
The Etiquette Of WstMg-Mrs. Stanton on
English Wenea-French Treatment
of the Sex-What Women
ere Doing.
The Ethics Of Visiting.

says the American Queen. Many ladies
in New York give a general order OF
"not at home" before luncheon; for, as
they truly say, there are numbers OF
their acquaintance whose time seems to
hang as dead weight weight on their
hands, and, ii they once admitted one
of these desmuvre friends in the morn
ing they would never have any quiet
time for correspondence or reading or
any pursuit in which they are interested.
OF course there are sometimes instances
when such rule Gamble broken through,
as when q friend, in town for only two
or three days, has too little time at her
disposal to adhere to the orthodox call
ing hours, or when lady calls on a
matter of Importance, but such occas.
ions are rare and do not effect the gen.
eral rule.
The orthodox hours for calling are
from three to six in the winter and
three to half-past five in summer; cards
may. Of course, be left later. 1t is not
correct to call before three, for most
people lunch between one and two
O'Clock; if there have been any visitors
the meal is only just over, and it Is an:
noyiDg to hostess to be summoned
from table by the announcement that
too early guest is in the drawing-rOom.
1t is only intimate friends who call after
six in winter or half. past six in summer,
but there is wide margin left for ac-
quaintances, even if the hostess has
not q special day when every one may
be sme of finding her.
1t is great mistake to imagine, as
some ladies seem to do, that they may
take in any friend with whom they are
driving on a lady's lat home" day. 1t
is quite as great a liberty as if they took
her to party to which she was not in
vited. Ordinary visits last from ten
minutes TO quarter of an hour. 1t Is
usual ,hO Tever, when second visitor ar
riveS for the first to take her leave unless
she has only just arrived, Or unless she
is well acquainted with the newcomer.
No exact rule can ever be given in such
q case. Individual tact must decide as
to what is TO be done i'll number OF
instances. This is particularly the case
in Il G matter Of intrOGuctiOhs. Speak
ing broadly, il is more usual not 10 in.
trCduce morning visitors TO each other,
trusting to their SAVIOR faire TO talk
generally, when the desired object is at
tanned. But sometimes introduction Is
desirable, and tn g must be left entirely
to Il tact and judgment OF the hostess
The times of formal visiting are gen
elalIy between New York residents
opce during the winter season and once
during the summer; such visits, OF
course, not including cards left the day
after any entertainment. In the cOun-
try the same rule generally applies,
twice year being ample, excepting be-
tween intimate friends, when, of course,
whether in town or country, there is no
very strict etiquette. In the country
when visitor calls after four tea Is
generally rung for before she leaves;
but in New York, unless visitor comes
when tea is there it is not sent for.
Sometimes, if it is very near the tea
time, the HOSTESS says. wont you
wait for tea?" but no fuss is made
about il. People pay so many visits in
al afternoon, that they are tOlerabiy
certain to find tea somewhere If they
wish for it. First visits should always
be returned Immediately, if possible
within Il week, but other visits may be
retained after fortnight or three weeks.
1t is not courteous in New York to al
low longer time 70 elapse. In the
country, of course, it is different; dis
tances are great, and calls cannot al
ways be made at the exact moment
when they are due.
a Letter from Elizabeth Cady stanton.
A wOman's opinions of women are
always ofpartirular interest. Few if any
women have had wider opportunities of
Observing or are endowed with keen
er snd more judicial vision than Mrs,
Stanton. She is just now visiting the
daughters of Gerritt Smith, and from
the home of these gracious and gener-
Gus hearted American women she sends
the following reflections upon women
abroad, ard the various methods Of
work; Miss Anthony and | have
b I'll received most cordially in public
m;ttirCs, and in the hOspltable homes
OF cur English, Scotch and Irish
IL e LtSs hC npulOu CuSoBGN bALN
suffrage movement are ali of \ high or
Ger, snd most earnest aud energetic in
the work. The wives, sisters, daughters
nf The Bright and Golden families main
iaiu tie luStre Of the sc names in their
devotion to this reform. If we can
Judge of the civilization of a nation by
lis women, England must rank high
above ali countries. The many charm
ing acquaintance | have made there
inspire me with new hope for my sex,
and the memory of them will enrich
the sunset of my life. There are differ
ences in the suffrage ranks; there is in
ours here-a difference in principle, and
as to the manner of carrying on the
work. Mrs. Jacob Bright thinks the
demand for the ballot for 'spinsters and
widows is too narrow in its scope, hence
she and her cOadJutOrs ask the suffrage
ior all women on the same qualitica.
tons as to those on which men allowed
to vote. To exclude married women
from the privilege is to offer bounty
on celibacy, and reflects on the dignity
of the married State. Mr.. and Mrs.
Bright take the same ground John
Stuart Mill did when he champloned the
measure In Parliament" In cOmpar-
ing the careful methods OF the English
in printing their resolutions previous to
the sessions Of conventions, Mrs. STAN
ton prefers the American habit, as she
says: ave print our resolutions after
they have been thoroughly discussed
aud adopted, and these resolutions, from
year to year, take higher, holder ground,
drawn for the express purpose of edu-
eating our women into broader ideas,
and not for the unthinking, unanimous
indosenent Of the convention. Hence,
our conventions are schools for the con-
sideration of the first principles of gov
eminent, where our women are educat-
ed in every phase of the question they
advocate. Miss Anthony and | return
with renewed strength AID vigor to
push on our grand reform. On our re-
Turn we had many conversations on
the responsibilities of American wo-
men in helping to make our republican
institutions, and in fact all that our
National Constitution and Declaration
of Independence set forth In principle.
French Rudeness TO Women
The French may be the politest ma
ton in the world, says q Paris letter,