The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-03-06
Etiquette for Men.

DODt wear clOtneS tDat attTacL atleD
ton, either from their being too much
out Of the fashion or too much i'll it.
Notice the prevailing style Of hats,
clothes and shoes and see that yours
accord with it. a gentleman is well
dressed when there is nothing noticeable
about his attire.
Don't wear business clothes to an after.
noon reception or a dinner in the even
ing. Always put on black coat for
afternoon and wear dress suit for din.
ner ana at evening.
Don't wear a white tic with anything
but dress suit, and don't wear at any
time gaudy cravat. One of dark or
low toned colors is generally preferable.
Rich white Lord Stanley cravsts can be
worn with dark Prince Albert or cut
away coat in Spring or Summer.
Don't wear a large single diamond in
your shirt front at any time, or diamoud
studs III any way noticeable for size.
Small cats-eye studs are sometimes worn
with dress suit, but small plain gold
ones are preferred.
Don't wear much jewelry at any time.
Don't smoke in the presence Of ladies.
Always remove your cigar when b0wing
To = i..iy, and il is even more polite 10
throw it away when SO doing. 1t is even
questionable taste for gentleman to
smoke ir the street at aEy time.
Don't bow to lady until she has
bowed TO you.
This rule, of course, admits OF modi-
fication in certain cases of relationship
or acquaintance when the lady evidently
does not, from some cause, recognize the
gentleman.
Don't shake hands with lady on your
first introduction TO her, nor afterwards,
unless she first evinces desire to do 30.
Don't call on lady unless you have
obtained permission to do so.
Don't make your calls or visits too
long. Madam Recamier once said that
zone hour was all she granted to the
most agreeable Of men, and that she
could stand nobody longer than that"
Don't fail to send in your card on
your first call, and in fact it is better TO
do 80 always TO avoid mistakea. e.c.
Don't forge: to always raise your hat
when you bow to a lady or on elderly
gentleman.
Don't fail to answer notes, invitations,
etc., promptly and done ever arrive late
for dinner party, and if anything would
prevent your attendance at dinner at
which you have promised to be present
notify your host or hostess at the frs,
possible moment.
Don't drink to much wine, either at q
dinner, evening party or ball. This
rule applies at any time, but especially
in society. 1t is a good plan either for
gentleman to abstain entirely when in
society, or to limit himself to a certain
small and harmless amount.
Don't express yourself ungrammati.
cally and don't indulge IN slang
Watch yourself most closely in these
two particulars. Nothing condemns q
gentleman 30 quickly.
Don't introduce your business afiairl
into private conversation. Talking
shop" is always Objectionable.
DON'T talk about your grievances. Re.
member that the world cares little fol
you and less for your troubles, and above
all don't discuss your personal likes ant
dislkes.
Don't adopt afTectations of speech OF
manner. Especially don't ape tho dress
customs, ideas and speech of n foreign
country when they are opposed to o.
different from those Of your own.
Don't boast about yourself OF your &C
complishments if you have any.
Don't swear or use strong terms Of ex
preston.
Don't talk about your wealth or power
ty, and don't appear extravagant o
miserly.
Don't make your devotion to any
young lady too apparent unless yo,
really have serious Intentions.
Don't fail to be always polite, ant
especially so to your elders.
Don't neglect your duty O. a gentle
! man to be always just and courteous ane
kind.
Don't fail, lastly, to always observe tn,
feelings and rights of others, which
more than all else marks the true gen
tleman.-N. y. World.