The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-04-03

interests in that mans keeping" Ten or
fifteen years pass by. You come home
some night and say: "Well, my dear,
you are right; that man swindled me out
of my last dollar" 1t is not because
woman is wiser than man. 1t is because
God has given her that peculiar intuition
in regard to human character. Now, YOU
have no right to 60 into an enterprise
which involves the homestead or the ed.
ucation of your children or the fate OF
your entire family without home consul.
tation. OF course all this implies that
you did not marry fool If at the mar.
rlage altar you committed suicide you
had better keep all your business affairs
lii your own heart and head. But let US
nope that you have sound common sense
presiding in your household. How
much Il wife may help husbands bu.i
ness affairs was well represented in. the
case where the wife saved from the
allowance of herself and the allowance
OF the family a certain amount Of money
for rainy day. After some time the
husband, coming home, said: "Well,
I'm going to suspend payment to morrow.
A few dollars would get me through, but
| can't get the few dollars, and I'm going
to ruin" That evening the wife said !:
Il wish yon would hunt up the definition,
of the word independence in Webs,er's
Dictionary. Hunt it up for me-" lie
opened Wehsser's Dictionary, aud found
the word independence, and right oppo.
site VISA slcG bill. now" she said, II
would like to have you find the word
gratitude" lie turned to the word graf.
itude, and there was another $lO0 bill
and before the evening was past she ask.
ed him to read verse of certain chap.
ter in the Bible, and there were $500, and
before the evening had passed the man
had financial relief to tide him over his
disasters. You call that dramatic. l
call that beautifully Christian.
IN ALL EXPENDITURES
there ought to be consultation. Do not
dole out money TO your wife as though
she were beggar. Let her know
how much you have or how little. Ap-
peal to her intelligent judgment and she
will be content, and your own disposition
will not be irritated. AS long as you
keep mystery about your business mat
ters she will wonder that the allowance is
SO small No honorable woman wants to
spend more money than can be Afforded.
Come into consultation with her on this
matter. Show what are all your neces.
sary outside expenses all the money
you must have for cigars and dinners at
DelmOnico's, and how much it takes for
the clubhouse and the political cam
paign, and then have her present all the
domestic expenses, and then, after con-
sultation, do your best. 1t is bad sign
when 4 man dare not tell his business
transactions to his wife. There is some
thing wrong. Suppose you that the gi-
gantic forgeries which have been enacted
in this country would ever have taken
place if the wife had been consulted?
The wife would have said: "Slop! let
us live i'll one room in the poorest house
on the poorest street Of the poorest town
and have nothing but dry bread rather
than that you should make yourself cul-
pablc before God ard the law" In the
vast majority Of cases where there has
been exposure OF great frauds the wife
has been the most surprised person in
the community. A banker some time
ago misused trust funds, and he went
from fraud to fraud and from knavery to
knavcry until it was necessary for him to
leave home before daylight. His wife
said: Where are you going7" II am
going TO New York." said he, "and going
on the early train" "Why, isn't this
sudden ?" she asked. "Oh, no; expect
ed to CO." aud ;i:ea lie left the room and
.yent 10 the room where his daughters
slept, looked u.on their calm faces for
the last time as he supposed, and started.
And he was brought back by the Con-
stables of an outraged law, and he is now
in the penitentiary. Do you suppose
that man, with good wife rs he had, an
honest wife as he had, Christian wife,
as he bad, could have got into such an
enormity if he had consulted in regard
to her wishes? Consultation is the word
domestic consultation.
Agsin, in order to domestic happiness
there must in the conjngel state be 10
secrets kept one from the other. What
one knows both must know. II is bad
sign when one partner in the conjugal
relation is afraid to have the letters
opened and read by the other partner.
Surrepti,ious correspondence is always
dangerous. If man comes to you and
SAYS: IL am going to tell you great
privacy and don't want you to tell any
body, not even your wife," say to him:
"Well, now, you had better not tell me,
for shall tell her as soon as | get home"
There must be no secrecy Of association.
You ought not to be unwilling to tell
where YOU have been and with whom
YOU have been. Sometimes an unwise
wife will have lady confdant whom she
makes the depository of privacies which
they are pledged to keep between them
selves. Beware! Anything that implies
H., ,,,.Louj and wife are two and not