Union County courier. [volume] (Elk Point, Union County, D.T. [S.D.]) 187?-1913, 1884-05-21
The Marriage Question.

Ia France the parents make the
match. saws London S}ctrty. Ii not as
as ostensiblv. vet no less really is bis
often done in England. 1t is not he
man, but The maintenance. which is
uDpcrmp St in the parental thoughts.
Il is painful to ref 'ct, while taking a
survey OF the matches Of fifty years
experiences. how rarely We ever could
detect that the character of a man,
otherwise eligible influenced the pa
rental decision. For the most part, all
the evidence offered Of q maj being -
scamp or n prciiigale is set aside rs
envy. malice, and al uncharitab}encss.
o. els3 with the remark: "Weil, all
Young men are wild, cut they grow
steady when thcr are married. We
onco heard a lady, in speaking OF a
matrimonial ovcnl just coming Old. say:
Cap Ia ma oh; tirst-raic chance Ior
z en-. Not III al the sort CT man. we
ell know. thar size ever intended TO
marry, uut no: n woman III twenty
does ret thai" Certljn!y IN this nier
haze an advantage, for they can chooses;
the ladies' must submit TO be chosen,
awe in the case OF some remarkable
bcile who has adm rcrs at command.
But these advantages on the side OF The
gentlemen are less than they Seem.
Their choice is anything but Tree as far
| as reason IS concerned. They are the
victims OF q natural Illusion. They
choose from the charm anu fancy OF
the hour, o. the pride OF possessing
some Lady Clara V're lie We're, or
| some slmper!ng d implied doll. while All
the co~mpaniOnabie qualities and that
sunshine of the heart which relieves
the darkest while it adds warmth 10
brightest days Of Ibis checheIed Life are
rarely even named among men as the
motive of their choice. Truly mar
riagc il the door that leads deluded
mortals back 10 earth" and, as with
MANY .a.ereity shargain tt.at !ias csuShi
, our fancy in n SHOP window. CT ,at is
| the disenchan:nlcnt when we have
brou hi it home.
The married ladies in the ballroom
are tho pests Of tie poor mailnlas. Iney
have attained the oil jcct of all balls
and dancing, and yet tney have not the
grace to feel for and give place tc
| young girls who Sit in rows against the
walls. Men prefer the married wo-
G and why? They can indulge in
a kind Of conversation ut which W
hope that in spite Of French moves til,
single would turn away. 1t is strange
that the husbands should endure to see
their wives whisNed end whirled ant
dragged about. we'll knowing that tn,
so-cailcd Waiting and gnllopading 81
ways. unless unusually well done, dc
generates into little better than un
seemlv romping; indeed, no one woul,
believe in its innocence if seen, wher
we seriously believe it would not b
tolerated, in a Piccadilly saloon.
fact: a dressmaker who had seen from
IN orchestra the dancing now in fash
ion. when asked by a lady next da,
how she had been entertained. replied
II suppose it is all right in high life
but in our line of life no young rua
would dare to take such liberties wit
Young women" No. madam. YOU
daughters prospects never can be BET
ter for being exposed to such scenes a
these, least OF all in the new fashion
able costume of a skirt and q pair 9
shouldcr-straps. 1t is not the sensuou
but the sentimental that should pre-
vail. The free-and-easy dancer. nc
the graceful young lady OF proper dig
nifty and self-respeet, takes the lead ]
q modern bathroom. and foolish it
for tho really modest and reserved ,
compete in such a sphere. Grantee
they may enjoy it, end you may EMO
ii, too. II so, be happy in your ow
way. Only for Introducing you
daughters and looking to the mai
chance, VIC can o. recommend sue