The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1884-04-18
4 PAPER
Rad Jsfors the Bristol and Paris Formers
Cub April 8, 1884,
By MIS-. REy. H. NJ. CoRsBTE.
listed by vote Of the Club !


We meet together month after month for
improvement and sociability.
Farmers wish TO learn the best methods of
cultivation Of farm crops, caring for stock,
and the best kinds of stock TO keep: farmers
wives to learn the best methods Of house
keeping and also to break up the monotony
of farm life and have respite from the
threaimill of hard work, TO which only too
many are bound increasingly. While it is
well to consider all these things. and desira-
BILE that we attain the highest success possible
in our callings, there are also certain graces
Of mind and heart which are OF equally great
importance, and ask your attention to night
while depart somewhat from our beaten
track and consider some of the elements es-
sential to secure cheerfulness and content.
ment in our homes. One important element
in this attainment is courteous, kindly
spirit.
II is the small courtesies that strike deep.
est into tender and appreciative heart. 1t
is little kindly acts and compliments Of seem.
ingly slight significance that render those
around US happy. Often have We seen a
whole household made miserable by one
churlish spirit Nor does the influence stop
in your own home. 1t is great mistake to
think you can be cross and Grabbed by your
own Preside and appear the polished lady or
gentleman elsewhere. The churl in spirit,
however he may veil his deformity, will at
times expose glimpses of his true nature. To
secure happy home all its inmates must
cultivate spirit of genileness and kindness,
and every action must be governed by the
laws of courtesy. 1t is the gentle g If you
please, my child" that sends him cheerfully
about his task 1t is the gruff !" Go along, do
as tell you, and be quick about it, or I'll
give you sound thrashing," that sends him
with an angry brow and an ache of bitterness
in his heart that is not forgotten till long,
long after the words are muttered.
It is the pleasant g thank you," with a
look Of appreciation, that repays husband
or wife SO richly for any service rendered,
and it is the cool Indifference. or +" / think
it's about time this should be attended to !;
seems to me you re terrible slow" that sends
the husband from the house, wondering
g where is the loving girl wooed.' or sends
the wife about her work heavy hearted.
A kind word or smile Of tenderness can
never give pain, but we can never know what
anguish may be inflicted by harsh word or
look.
By their continued use husbands and wives
are embittered until affection actually ceases,
children are hardened and become cross and
selfish toward each other, resenting any at
tempted control, and becoming fixed nuis-
ances in their own homes and unfit associ.
ates for others. Did you ever think how the
wind may blow and buster and beat upon the
snow and ice of winter, and they only grow
harder and colder? But notice when the sun
shines upon them softly and gently, they
melt and trickle away. So with the dispo-
sition of hayward and rebellious child.
Scold and threaten as you may, it will con-
tinually become more stubborn, but "'twill
melt like the snow on the Apprentices breast
when sunbeam falls light on its fancy.
crowned crest.
When the voice of father or mother or friend
falls upon its ear in tones Of unmistakable
gentleness s'Twill bend the stubborn will,
twill melt away the iciness, twill fall upon
the listening ears like the music of heaven
When it has been necessary to check the
impulses, or defeat the plans Of a child old
enough to reason for himself, although your
superior age and judgment may show you
conclusively that it is for the child's best in.
terest, the laws of courtesy will suggest that
you do your duty firmly, but gently state
your reasons let him see it's for loves
sake and then stop. Don'tkeep on hammer
ing and pickering over it, You have put in
the leaven. give it time to work.
A pleasant way Of saying things is much
surer to bring about good results.
Henry Ward Beecher once told an anec-
dote of an old Quaker and young man full
of fire, both of whom had gone out preach
ing.
When the Quaker lectured everything ran
along very smoothly, and carried the audi
ence with him. When the young man lee
tured there was a row and stones and eggs
1t became so noticeable that the young man
spoke to the Quaker about 1t.
He said Friend, you and | are on the
same mission and preach the same things
how is it that while you are received cordial
", get nothing but abuse ?'' The Quaker
replied, q will tell thee. Thee says if you
do so and so you shall be punished, and say
g My friends it. you will not do SO and SO,
you shall not be punished" They both said
the same things, but there was vast differ
ence in their manner of saying them.
True politeness can never be attained
by any ARTIFICIAL rules of etiquette. It
must be nurtured, tended and cultivated
at home, with fathers and mothers to set the
example. Under such Influences child |
will appear in society at an early age with |
more ease and grace than all studied forms |
can give him in Lifetime
VIM Matthews says: "While coarseness
and gruffness lock doors and close hearts, |
courtesy, refinement AMI gentleness are an
open sesame at which bolts fly back and doors |
swing open" Where kindness and courtesy
is constantly cultivated the whole mind is |
imbued with it, giving it health and cheer
fulness and indelibly stamps its impress on
The face? Making the rules of cordiality and |
kindliness the controlling principles of our
actions will win in the end
Be careful of little things, little words, lit
lie deeds.
We are strangely affected by things of
seeming small consequence, and little evil
seems to have so much more power to show
itself than little good. A Scottish essayist
somewhere puts this idea very forcibly. One
drop of foul will pollute whole cup of fair
water, but one drop of fair water has no pow.
CE w dppECCAduLy lMpIUFC CuP VA lUuAs
Sharp pain present in tooth or toe will
make the whole man miserable though all
the rest of his body be easy, but if all the
body be suffering an easy toe or tooth will
cause no perccptible alienation. So our
may be pleasant and happy,
our house well kept, our minds full of cheer
aud comfort, our hearts light and free from
care, but let few bitter words fall on our
ears and how quickly all is emblttered.
Another and very strong influence for hap
piness is tidiness. There is no doubt butthe
absence of this quality is the cause of very
much of uneasiness and confusion, yes, and
Of evil and suffering, in homes and In COM
munities The recognized fact that our
minds are so easily affected by trivial things
will make it clear that we must be affected
by tidiness or untidiness. A
house kept in confusion and tumult will keep
The minds of the inmates in the same condi-
ton, and the same will hold good in every
department. Doesn't it give you, gentlemen,
q very comfortable feeling to see your barns
look neat, to see your barn yards in good
your fences in good repair and
your gates we'll hung? When you 60 out to