The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1884-02-19
EARLY MARRIAGES.,
Some Popular FnllacI.a on this AbyorL.
Ing subject.

EARLY n ,RalAGEs, DO
Some Popular fniincI.H on this Abyort.
Ing subject.
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The condition Of the very poor, to which
Lord Salisbury, among others, has recently
been directing public attention, is no doubt
the result OF improvident marriages, and,
ii this fact is not more generally admitted,
it is perhaps chiefly because OF the impos.
sibility OF conceiving OF any practicable
remedy. "The period at which love Is
formed for the first time" observes Sir
Walter Scott, lis seldom that at which
there is much prospect Of its being brought
to a happy Issue. The state Of artificial
society Opposes many complicated obstruc-
tions to curly marriages; aud tie chance is
very great that such obstacles prove insur.
m Iuntable." There IL, however, u whole
section OF society in which, although the
o )stacles most assuredly are there, thsy are
simply ignored. Love laughs at impossi-
bililies," and rarely condescends to treat
them seriously until they begin to assume
tn, form Of OLIVE branches clustering
thick and sproutiDg fast; and then usually
the impossibilitv OF satisfactory home Ills
without g little prudent preparation be-
comes dismally evident. 10 respect 10 this
matter, some Of the East end missionary
reports are very curious reading. "rhjs
game young woman" writes one good
mai in his report, referring to the case Of
q Matchbox maker, who for six years had
nothing bnt q heap Of dirty rags to lie On
III nlgh,-"this SAINT young woman I have
been writing about hss married, The
young mans money would only meet the
expenses Of the church feea, go they were
in a fix how TO get the ring. Her landlady,
who has q. tender hear, lent hers. Oi
course, alter hearing how hard up they
were for cash, l was quite prepared no. 10
see any additional furniture, bu. I found
they had treated-thelnselves to a tea.,ray
and a penny pepper box. l should have
liked Mre. D. 10 have seen her proud look
when she put the marriage certificate III my
hend.n
People Of this class know very little
about obstacles to early marriage. 1t is
only in the grades OF society considerably
above Them that difficulties are rarely in.
superable, and opinions always have differ.
ed, and always will differ, as to the advan.
tages or disadvantages which such difficult
ties really constitute. There are some who
are inclined to look on the necessity which
go many young folks are under Of postpon-
Ing marriage ill they verge on middle life,
as q misfortune inseparabie from a highly
Artificial state Of society. On the other,
many sober and sensible people regard
the marriage OF two young persons who
have scarcely completed their teens as some
thing little short ef a scandal, and are &C.
customed to speak Of ages ranging from
twenty to thirty for the bride and
from thirty to forty for the
bridegroom, as though they were guaran-
sees Tor q prosperous and happy married
lie. Young men and women who have
arrived at this time Of liio they consider
likely to "know their own minds They
have given up The eiddy, frivolous pro-
pensities. OF boysand girls, and have come
10 years OF discretion. They undertake
the responsibilities Of married life, it is as-
sumed, with their eyes open, and ought to
w NbIS PlCtAASA v TLlGll LEhu LINT
Drained young noodles who are under the
illusion that love is tbs one and only seri-
GUS busintss Of lie. The course OF true
love never did run smooth, and, it is some
times argued, it is usually best that it
should not, when it acts in very tarly.
This is all very foe, but after all it Is the
elderly, old-logyish view Of things. Very
few marriages are ever planned from this
point Of view, and those that are do not al
ways prove the most fortunate. Wise men
are not always so wise as they think when
they arc pitting their wisdom against the
DEGREES OF nature; and one OF natures de.
crees certainly would seem bs that when
Edwin and &Dgelina have onco fallen ia
love they shall get married as soon as con.
veniently may DO. 1t is q matter OF pretty
general observation, too. that attachments
-of friends and companions as well as
iovtrs-are oil the stronger and more ca
during for commencing early in life.
There is q very common but q very er-
roneous way Of Hooking at such mattera. A
desperate, vehement attachment is formed,
but parents or ciIcumstRnces come In and
forbid the banns, and the two young folks
go different ways. Years afterwards each
is able TO smile at the early infatuation.
The course OF timeGnd events have borne
them in widely different directions. Cir.
cumstancel have made Them by low imper-
ceptible degrees, entirely different in tastes
and habits and character, and thus incline
them to think that they would have been
unsuitable from b e-beginnipg. So it ap.
pears in the cold, clear light OF middle nge,
and when these two wide.awake peraors
hear Of the desperation Of two young lovers,
bent on early marriage, but whose
course has proved impasaably rough,
they pooh-pooh tho matter, and bid them
look forward to tho time when they shall
have made other attachments and see
the mistake they we're on the
point Of making. There can DO no doubt,
however, that young people assimilate to
zach other very much more readily than
those more advanced ia life, and that in
compatibilities often SO apparent to on.
lockers disappear 10 q great extent as time
goes on. Everybody admits the import.
ance Of the compan:onship O young per.
sons, because it is scarcely possible for any
two OF them to associate much together
without becoming in many respects like
each other; whereas later in life nobody at.
taches the same Importance to association
Characters arc formed and not easily i'm,
pressed either for good or evil. AT eight
cen Edwin might have eaaily been broker
into harness., had Angelina taken him II
hand. At eight aud.lhirty the task Is {
very different one.
Tar disasnring erup.lons on the face. III,
uunken eye, the pallid complexion, indicat,
that there is something wrong going on with
To-. E1pel the lurking Toe to health. Aver