Savannah morning news. [volume] (Savannah) 1868-1887, 1884-02-03
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Europe.
London Society Magasins.
In France the parents make the match
! If not as Ostensibly, vet no less really is
/ this often done in England. 1t is not the
man, but the maintenance which is I'D.
! permost in the parental thoughts. 1t is
! painful to reflect, while taking a survey
of the matches of fifty years experience.
how rarely we ever could detect that the
| character Of a man, otherwise eligible.
Influenced the parental decision. For the
most part, all the evidence offered of a
man being scamp or a prOfligate is set
aside as envy, malice and all uncharita-
| bleness; or else with the remark, ''WeII,
all young men are wild, but they grow
steady when they are married." We once
heard lady, in speaking of a matrimo-
NAL event just coming off, say, Capital
match; tirSt-rate chance for Ellen. Not
at all the sort of man, we all know, that
she ever intended to marry; but not one
woman in twenty does get that" Ger
tainly in this men have an advantage, for
they can choose; the ladies must submit
to the chosen, save in the case of some re-
markable belle who has admirers at COM
mand. But the advantages on the side of
the gentlemen are less than they seem.
Their choice is anything but free, as far as
reason is concerned. They are the victims
Of a natural illusion. They choose from
the charm and fancy of the hour, or the
pride of possessing some Lady Clara We're
de We're, or some simpering dimpled doll,
while in companionable qualities, and
that sunshine of the heart which relieves
the darkest while 1t adds warmth to the
brightest days of this checkered life, are
rarely even named among men as the mo-
tive of their choice. Truly, marriage is
the door that leads deluded mortals back
to EARTH" and, as with many a pretty bar
i'm hot hoo rrrflnf -
window, great is the disenchantment
when we have brought it home.
The married ladies in the ballroom are
the pests of the poor mammas. They have
attained the object of all balls and dane
ing, and yet they have not the grace to
feel for and give place to young girls who
sit in rows against the wall. Men prefer
the married women, and why! They can
indulge in kind Of conversation at which
we should hope that, IN spite of French
novels, the single would turn away. 1t is
strange that the husbands should endure
to see their wives whisked and whirled
and dragged about, we'll knowing that the
sO-called Waiting and galOpading always,
unless unusually well done, degenerates
into little better than unseemly romping:
indeed no one would believe even its InnO-
cence if seen where we seriously believe
it would not be tolerated, in Piccadilly
saloon. A fact: dressmaker who had
seen from an orchestra the dancing now
in fashion, when asked by a lady next day
how she had been entertained, replied
II suppose it's all right in high life, but
in our line of life no young men would
dare to take such liberties with young wo-
men," No, madam, your daughters pros
poets never can be the better for being ex-
posed to such scenes as these, least of all
in the now fashionable costume of a skirt
and pair of shoulder-straps. 1t is not
the sensUOus, but the sentimental, that
should prevail. The free and easy dancer,
not the graceful young lady of proper
dignity and self-respect, takes the lead in
a modern ballroom, and foolish it is for
the really modest and reserved to compete
in such a sphere. Granted, they may en-
JOY it, and you may enjoy it, too. If so,
be happy In your own way. Only, for
Introducing your daughters, and look
ing to the main chance, we can not re-
commend such society.