, 1884-07-20
WOMAN AND HOME.
What Dame Grundy Says the Fair
Sex Must Not Do.
denominations OF the Backyard
words TO wives, Husbands
and Old Maids-mormon-
Lsm's Woe-Gleanings.

George Eliot once said to a Chicago woman
who was attending a summer-evening recep-
ton at her English home, that if a body only
knew what not to do he would be pretty apt
TO get through this troublesome world with
few or no heavy scTutches. That very many
well-meaning people who attempt to make
this pilgrimage socially are scratched, and
badly scratched, too, there can be no doubt.
1t is not that they lack observation, but there
are 50 many incidents coming upon them IN
aware that a novice Is really at a loss to
know what TO do with herself. True, there
are books ON etiquette not only for street,
church and theatre, but for sea and land, in
the saddle-seat and the carriage, and
to regulate the conduct in almost
every room in the modern home. No pro
vision, however, is made for the ifs and butts
of everyday life, and for thu benefit OF the
timorous little traveller whose every step is
apprehensiye we recapitulate the mandates Of
Dame Grundy under the laconic "Don'tn
Don't refuse a seat in u crowded car or pub
lie conveyance of any kind. 1t is not only
the p~rerogative but the duty Of u man TO ex-
tend that courtesy, and a polite acceptance
will not only show that you accept il but APP
preciate his anticipation Of your comfort
Don't make yourself conspicuous by loud
talking or boisterous laughter, and avoid
those petty skirmishes which 50 many Indies
EN1 NHbNb 49, az chAt ~ a. III AAAO
and the other enters into competition. Those
things hurt the taste OF gentlemen, and what
is more to be regretted, hurts the reputation
OF the lady who indulges i'll them. There il
no need to coll the conductor say II a mo-
ton OF the hand will not suffice, address him
by his calling; or, better, request him to
please stop the car.
Don't give your photograph to men nor asl;
for theirs.
Don't .ccort an,, 5000 .,r 49,, ,,n1as.
they be flowers, candles, or an inexpensive
book.
Don't allow yourself to be under obliga-
uon to any man. 81
Don't drink wine or in%toxicants at enter
tainments. A small glass of wine or cham.
payne at the end Of a party will be as invig-
Grating us 1t is harmless, but it does not look
we'll to see women, especially girls, drink
liquors whenever they are asked.
Don't be the leader of any picnic, surprise
party, dancing club, or the like, especially if
gentlemen are to be present. Those organiza-
lions belong TO men, and they should have the
privilege also of selecting their own amuse-
ment,
Don't sell tickets for anything outside OF
your own family circles. While your friends
may not like to refuse your irresistible can
wasting, they are very apt to pass adverse
criticism on your lack OF circumspection. y
Don't fiirt for the sake of flirting, and don't
encourage any mans attention unless you feel
very certain that his company may not
become disagreeable.
Don't use slang nor in common parlance,
try to be smart by saying curt things and
doing odd ones.
Don't allow a man to treat you with any
thing but the greatest respect, nor hesitatenn
instant TO resent as an impertinsnce any APP
preach to familiarity of action or speech. A