The Baltimore County union., 1884-08-09
How to Rule Men.
Chicqqo Nelcs.

"but L receive great deal. 90 not
believe in entertainments, although l
am mindful that there is very much
stress laid upon 'the socially of refresh
ments'. People do not call on you
for eatables; they can buy their lunch
anywhere. But the society of a culti-
waited lady isnot so easy of access. Peo-
pie want mental food they want to ex-
change theirideas for some newer ones;
they want to talk and laugh and make
you talk and laugh; they want the socie-
ty of some sweet women of sense and
vivacity, who will skillfully draw them
into conversation, and, for the time
being, direct their thoughts from the
subjects that has engrossed them all day.
The woman who has to appeal to her
table-who thinks she must pamper the
appetites of her guests in order to please
t-openiy confesses that she is not ac-
customed to society, and not equal to
its demands.
"Besides, look at the way women en-
tertain nowadays! What does a man
care for ices, cake, frappe, and bouillon?
Truely their own observation should
teach them better. I can get more real
social enjoyment and create more con-
viviality with dozen sandwiches and
two quarts of cider or hot coffee than l
can with ten pounds ofangels' food and
three gallons of ice cream. ] have been
in society for twenty-five years, and
when l have received my most charm
ing companies all served was tea and
waters. If there was gentlemen present
substituted coffee | am great ad-
mirer of card parties and musicales with
not more than ten in the group. About
10 O'Clock l invite them into the di-
ning-room and refresh them without
ceremony. I have dish Of said, and
some nice bread and butter, with
pickel or an olive and a cup of hot cof-
fee. More often l simply put big
dishful of nice sandwiches in the CEN
ter of the little table, and have dozen
bottles of ale brought in right from the
ice-box. That is what men like, and
if you mean to please them that is one of
the menus to use.
''You should never feel obligated to
serve refreshments in the morning or
afternoon, for no well-bred person ex-
poets it unless invited especially to
spend the day. If you ask him to dine
with you, then serve an elegant dinner.
'I think if women only knew how
sweet and lovely they are and how much
they can do with men they would pay
more attention to their personal culti
vation than they do. Why, if a woman
only goes about it right she can do any
thing with man, and make him con-
form to her ideas in every particular.
She has tact, skill, talent, beauty, refine
ment, and, combine her intuition with
her fascinating powers, she can change
his politics, reform his religious ideas,
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she must not be fool, l can tell you,
nor must she forget for an instant the
art and fnessee by which she rules.
"Man is at best a brusque, selfish,
impulsive creature, full of conceits and
vagaries, and anxious to rule and con-
troll. He has strength and he wants to
use it; he has creative faculties and
lives 10 execute. But whatever he IS
he looks to woman for his pleasures, and
the one who can please him can rule
him and do with him what she will. A
woman is young until she is IS, and a
man retains his youth ten years longer,
but after that there is nothing to live
for but home. Life has lost its zest,
and there is no charm in the toys and
amusements of yesterday. You must
admit that a woman marries for con-
venience. She wants home, protec-
ton, immunity from labor and the de-
lights of companionship. Now, If a
man makes this home, if he stands be-
tween her and danger, If nc contributes
the best interests of his life TOR hel
maintenance, he certainly is entitled to
his reward. He wants his home beau
tilted, filled with friends and good
cheer; he wants to be petted, admired,
respected, encouraged and loved. He
wants to be king, in short.
"Oh, yes, you may say pettlng is al
nonsense, but just let me tell you thai
you are mistaken, and if the husband
cannot get that loving affection al
home he will get it some place else
Caresses can be bought like every othel
luxury.
ga wife must be a sweetheart all hel
life. She must never get too old to bt
charming. She must cultivate a swee
temper and an afable manner, and he
only anxiety must be dread of offend
ing her husband. Another thing; sar
casm won't work, it is an unpardon
able offense in the home circle, and
no matter how pertinent in may be,
woman cannot afford ever to say
harsh word to the man she loves.
beautiful? No woman need bt
anything else. If she has poor com
plexion, there are powders and cosmet-
les that defy detection; she can have
beautiful eyelashes and eyebrows; M
matter how poor and coarse her hair IS
it can be remarkably well-kept and Sc
becomingly arranged as to be admired
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ed like so many pearls, and clean teeti
and sweet breath are not so common a
to be despised; white hands and ia
pering, polished nail will atone TO
a very ill shape of hand. What if th'
feet are large, if they are well shod'
If the figure is poor, it can be SO clear
so healthy-looking, and so delicatell
prefumed that your presence will b.
wholesome and refreshing, and, tel
you, clothes makes the refinement tina
belongs to lady or gentlemen. In
deed, the raiment is typical of mucl
that is within. If nature has meagerl
bestowed her charms that is the yer
reason why woman should have. re
course to art. If she cannot shine i
music, painting, or the sciences, sh
can become pleasant, if rot a bri
liant, talker. She can read and observ
and be an authority on current liters
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