The Warner weekly sun. (Warner, Brown Co., Dakota [S.D.]) 1883-1885, 1884-11-28
Young Wives.
the Brooklyn Times

From the Brooklyn Times.
When a girl is at home, even although
she may have to earn her W living,
she has very little care upon her mind,
and in cases where the daughter has
nothing to do excepting what may
please her fancy to perform, she is en-.
tirely dependent upon her mother and
assumes no responsibility whatever.
This is all very nice for the girl, but ]
doubt if it is wise, as the contrast when
she is married is so great, as to some
times cause her to regret having taken
the step. A mother who always takes
charge of everything at home and cares
so tenderly for her daughter as to re-
lieve her entirely from any anxiety, is
doing her too great a kindness. /
have heard young wives express de
sires to go back home again, not because
they did not love their husbands, or were
unhappy, but because everything was sc
different. Instead of leaving everything
for mother, who was accustomed to do
ing easily that which years of expert
ence had taught her, they are compel
led for the first time in their lives to
act independently course which is so
very hard ut first, and is sometimes very
discouraging. 1t is impossible to have
| nothing but pleasure in this life, and
we should not grumble at the little
trials that only sweeten JOY when they
come. A married couple constitute "A
little world by themselves in which
each one plays a separate part, and the
young wife must simply try to study
and perform her share In the most
creditable manner The sooner she
falls into the position she has chosen
for herself the happier she will be, and
will soon cease to wish for her old
home and single life. Even if she were
to go home for q while she would soon
wish to come back if her husband is a
kind and loving one. 1t is simply the
great change that perplexes and be-
wilders her-from being taken care
of to take care of others. She is
now one of the heads of the house
hold, the queen of the home, to rule,
counsel, comfort, enlighten and cheer
the family circle of which she is the CEN
ter. She knows this before she mar
ries, but she then sees nothing but the
bright side, and does not stop to think
that all the pleasures of that little cir
Gle must be earned before they can be
enjoyed. But / do not want to brighten
young women from entering the mar
rage relation, as 1t is the happiest
life when rightly lived. The young
wife soon cheerfully accepts the IN
evitable responsibilities that are a part
of her new life, and feels proud of her
ability to assume them. Ask that same
wife a year or two hence and she viii
laugh at herself for the fears she had
on entering her new sphere, and viii
assert that she would not want to be-
single again. Husbands should bear
patiently with their young wives, and
not expect them to do in the same
manner what their mothers can do only
after many years of labor. 1t is q ter
rible thing for a young wife 70 hear
that "my mother can do so and so.
When she is his mothers age she may
do better. Mutual forbearance,
study Of each others little idiosyncra
sizes, looking over trifling faults, vii
g0 far toward making a home a haveI
ofrest, and give one aforetaste of eterna
happiness.