The Dallas weekly herald. [volume] (Dallas, Tex.) 1873-1885, 1884-03-06
Tho Marriage Problem.

In + ancs the parents make the match.
IL not as ostensibly, yet no lees really Is
this often done IN England. 1t Is not the
m an but the maintenance which Is upper
most In the parental thoughts. II Is pain
iul to reflect, wnilo taking survey OF the
matches OF fiiry years experience. how
rarely We ever could detect that the charnc.
the parental decision. For the most part,
a | the evidence offered OF o man being a
as de as envy, malice and all uuchsr.
itaoleness, or else with the 70
marx, "Well, young men are wild, but
they grow steady when they are married
We once heard . lady. in speaking OF .
matrimonial event just coming of, say,
"Capitsl match; hrst-rate chance for EI-
len. Not at all the sort OF man, We all know,
that she ever intended to marry, bat not
one woman In 20 does that" Certainly
in this men have an advantage, for they
can choose; the ladies must submit to be
chosen, save In the case OF some remarkable
belle who hrs sdmirers at command. But
these advantages on the side Of the gentle
men are less than they seem.
Their choice 10 anything ou. free
Thsy 1I are IL. victims o, natural iila.ion.
They choose from the charm and fancy Of
the hour, or the pride Of possessing some
Lady Clara We're dc We're, or some simpsr-
lug dimpled doll, while oil compsnionsbls
qualities and that sunshine OF the heart
which relieves the darkest while 1t adds
warmth to the brightest days OF this check
cred life are rarely even named among
marriage is the door that leads deluded
mortals back to earth, /" and, as with many
q pretty bargain thst has caught our fancy
In q shop-window, great 10 the disenchant-
ment when We have brought 1t home.
The married ladies In the ballroom are
the pests Of the poor mammns. They have
attained the object Of all balls and dancing,
aud yet they have not the grace TO feel for
and give place to Young girls who sit In
married women, and why2 They can in.
dulge In kind OF conversation at which We
should hope in spite of French novelv
the single would turs away. 1t 10 strange
that the husbands should endure to SEQ
their wives whisked and whirled and
dragged about we'll knowing that the 30.
called wAltzing and gslopading always, un.
less unusually we'll done, degensraIes into
little better than unseemly rompiug; ill.,
II seen, where we seriously believe it would
not be tolerated, in Piccadiliy sal 'os. A
fact: A dressmaker, who mad seen from IN
orchestra the dancing now in fashion,
when asked By lady next day how
she had been entertained. replied: II sup
pose 1t 10 all right In high life, but In our
line Of life no young man would dare to
take such liberties with young women
No, madam, your daus hter's prospects, never
can be the better for being exposed to SUCH
scenes a. these, least OF all In the nov fash
ionable costume Of skirt and . pair Of
shoulder-Btraps. II Ia not the senBuous
but the sentiment that should prevail
Tue free-And.easy dancer, pos the graceful
young lady Of proper dignity and selfre-
spect, taxes the lead in . modern bali
room, and foolish it is for the really modest
and reserved to com pete in such sphere.
Granted. they may enjoy 1t, aud you may
enjoy it, too Ii so. be happy in your own
way. Only for "intr Jducing" your daugh-
ters and looking to the main chance, we
cannot recommend such society.