The clarion. [volume] (Jackson, Miss.) 1883-1888, 1884-06-18
HOW TO RULE MEN.
A Lecture to Womsn by Woman
Who Has Studied Mankind.

Who Has Studied Mankind.
From the Chicago News.
II do not entertain much, said lady
who has been an acknowledged leader
of Chicago society for p years, but l
receive a great deal. | do not believe
in entertainment, although am mind.
| full that there is very much stress laid
upon the sociality of refreshments" T"
| People do not call on YOU for eatables
they can buy their lunch anywhere.
But the society of a cultivated lady or
gentleman is not so easy OF access.
People want mental food; they want to
exchange their ideas for some newer
ones; they want to talk and laugh, and
to make YOU talk and laugh; they want
the society of some sweet women OF
sense and vivacity, who viii skilfully
draw them into conversation, and for the
time being direct their thought from the
subjects that have engrossed them all
day. The woman who has to appeal to
her table-who thinks she must pamper
the appetites of her guests in order to
please-openly confesses that she Is not
accustomed to society, and not equal to
its demands.
s'Besides, look at the way women en-
tertain nowadavsl What does a man
care for ices, cake, frappe and bOuillon?
Truly their own observation should
teach them better. | can get more real
social enjoyment and create more con-
yiviality with dozen sandwiches and
two qnarts of cider or hot cotfe than
can with ten pounds of angels food and
three gallons of ice-cream. have been
in society for twenty-five years, and
when have received my most charm
ing companies all served was tea and
waters. If there were gentlemen pres
ent | substituted coffee. / am great
admirer of card parties and muslcaies
with not more than ten in the group.
About ten o'clock invite them into the
dining-room and refresh them without
ceremony. | have a dish of salad and
some nice bread and butter, with a pickle
or an olive and cup of hot coffee:
More often ! simply put big dishlui OF
nice sandwiches IN the centre OF the mt
tie table, and have half dozen bottles
of ale brought in right from the lce-boX.
That is what men like, and if you mean
to please them that is one of the means
to use.
"You should never feel obligated to
serve refreshments in the morning or
afternoon, for no wellbred person ex-
poets it unless invited especially to spend
the day. If you ask him to dine with
you, then serve an elegant dinner.
'I think if women only knew how
sweet and lovely they are and how much
| thev can do with men they would pay
more attention to their personal cultiva-
ton than they do. Why, if Il woman
only goes about it right she can do any
thing with a man, and make him con-
form to her ideas in every particular.
She has tact, skill, talent, beauty, re-
fnement and combine her intuition with
her fascinating powers, she can change
his politics, reform his religious ideas,
alter the whole course of his LIE, and
shane his career to suit herself. But
she must not be fool, | can tell you
nor must she forget for an instant the
art and finesse by which she rules.
"Man is at best brusque, selfish, i'm
pulsive creature, full Of concerts and
vagaries, and anxious to rule and con
troll. He has strength aud he wants tC
use it: he has creative faculties anC
lives to execute. But whatever he is ht
looks to woman for his pleasures, anc
the one who can please him can rule
him and do with him what she will. a
woman is Young until she is twenty-five
and a man retains his youth ten year'
longer but after that there is nothing
TO live for but home. Life has lost iti
zest. and there is no charm i'll the toys
and amusements of Yesterday. You
must admit that Il woman marries tol
convenience. She wants a home, pro
lection, immunity from labor, and The
delights of companionship. Now, II 9
man makes this his home, If he stands
between her and danger, II he con
tributes the best interests of his life FOL
her maintenance, he certainly is entitled
to his reward. He wants his homo
beautified, filed with friends and gooC
cheer; he wants to be petted, admired
respected, encouraged and loved. liz
wants to be king, in short.
ooh, yes, you may say pettlng Is al
nonsense, but, just let me tell you tina
you are mistaken, and il the HUSBAND
cannot get that loving affection at hom'
he will get it some place else. Caresse
can be bought like every other luxury
"a wife must be sweetheart all he
i, life. She must never get too old to b
charming. She must cultivate swee
temper and an affable manner, and he
I only anxiety must be dread of offend
3 ing her husband. Another thing: sal
J casm won't work; it is an unpardonabl
: offence in the family circle, and, no ma
J. ter how pertinent it may be, woma
0 cannot afford ever to say a harsh wor
to the man she loves.
J, beautiful? No woman need be an!
y thing else. If she has a poor con
d plexion, there are powders and cosmetic
that DEFY detection; she can have bea'
e tiful eyelashes and eyebrows; no matte
r how poor and coarse her hair is, 1t ca
be remarkably well-kept and so becon
d ingly arranged as to be admired; Il
d most irregular teeth can be polished iii
a so many pearls, and clean teeth and
n sweet breath are not so common as
y be despised; white hands and taperIn
y polished nails will atone for very
II shape Of hand. What if the feet a
y large, if they are well-shOd? If the flgu
% is Door. it can be so clean, so health
! looking and SO delicately perfumed tn
le your very presence will be wholeson
K and refreshing, and | tell you, cloth
make the refinement that belongs to
lg Iadv or gentleman Indeed, the raime
ut i typicai of much that is within.
nature has meagerly bestowed b
ut charms that is the very reason why
ed woman should have recourse TO art
ie she cannot shine in music, painting,
rs the sciences, she can become pleasa
h. if not a brilliant, talker. She can re
I'd and observe and be an authority on CT
de rent literature, and if she will but stu
OF The whv and wherefore Of things a
ng the very best points in her friends, :
IT. can make for herself circle that viii
lrs the very envy Of her prettiest compe
y tor.
ho "For instance, we viii suppose she
On invited to theatre or a concert. l
gs her procure programme in advaI
to and make a study of the play, the acto
the music. or the artists. Let her ha
re some interesting matter to talk abo
The gentleman goes to the expense
an the entertainment and has q right
he expect that the lady he has favored v
t. show her appreciation in some way.
mt t4NaturaiS Oh, / hate natural peop
on They are rude, curt, needless, and P
ng sumptuous. / like people to anticip
rs. nv pleasures. like to hear th
Ity saw pretty things, to use pretty !
Sc g1age, and to acquire pretty mann'
ok One need not necessarily be a. .hypocr
vs, but if there is any choice prefer
Ter polite hypocrisy Of the French TO
e., rude caldor Of the Britons."
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