The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-04-10
Young Men and Maidens.

1t is n common and startling remark
| nowadays that young men cannot afford
| to marry. If this he true, society is in
great danger. If only the rich can take
to themselves wives, not only will tho
race dwindle, but it will dwindIe through
the vicious channels. | am inclined to
! think that the aphorsm is satanic, and
therefore 4 lie. / do not believe that
young nen cannot afford to marry, any
more than they could not afford to, fifty
or n hundred years ago. L believe that
society, with all its ingenuity in the
devils service, cannot 80 order things as
to prevent the EOneSt union of young
men aud maidens, and married life.
God has not constituted marriage as the
normal condition of humanity, and then
rendered the condition mn impossibiIity
to the mass of mankind. The order to
Noah's posterty, BE fruitful and multi.
ply" WAS nc special appointment of the
rich as the inherit0rs of the earth. God
has no respect for persons, aud if it were
possible to conceive of parliality in God,
We should say that he leaned TO the side
of the poor. The Scriptures take it for
granted that every man has wife and
every woman has n husband, ercepGs er.
cpir',ris. Any idea that resists this Sex.
uai sympathy is perverse and pestiferous.
| nave seen many cases Of this sup
posed can't afford to marry disease, and
examined many, and always found symp.
toms proved another COMPLAINT altogetb.
er. Tbs diagnosis HAD been utterly
false. 1t was don't-want-io-mnrry
trouble that was ctlecling the patient.
This %as The story torinnsa had dwelt
in marble halls and clothed herself in
acres of purple or fine linen. Marriage
with her means thousand year. Sol
look at my two thousand, and can't afford
to marry. Formula wise, and truthwise,
it is this Foolish girls wish to live idle.
pampercd and fashionable lives, and
foolish young men are seeking after tho
foolish girls. In such complication,
marriage loses it's meaning; and i; is
very natural for young men t. say, II
cannot afford to marry" The truth is
be can't afford to marry after the style
aforesaid, and he does not wish to marry
in sensible style, to which his two
thousand would say Amen. But there
are others than foolish girls in tie world.
There are girls of simple tastes, of mod.
est mien, industrious habits, and unset.
fish hearts. You are not apt to find them
in the highways or in conspicuous places.
They make the best wives in the world,
while the Saratoga thing makes tho
worst. Look for them at home not in
society-that 6zzling, bubbling caldron.
where pride, vanity and vapitiity, sea.
soncd with vice, sputter into ass initiation.
Find them helping in nursery, pantry,
kitchen, not saun:sEns wlla b.. zen stare
on irequented promenade, or dandling
among French novels in the boudoir.
Don't be desperate, my dear fellow,
and say there is no such girl ss describe.
know better. / don't blame you for
thinking so when you judge from tha
article that lies around loose in the city
OF New York. But change your sphere
OF observation. Go into quieter paths.
Don't be dazzled by mere plumage.
Parrots and pcacorks are not nightingaies.
The true girl has To be sought for. She
does not parade herself as show goods.
She is not fashionable. Generally she is
not rich. But o what heart she has
when you find her! so large, and pure,
and womnnly! When you ee it, you
wonder it those snowy things outside
were really women. If you gain her
love, your two thousand ufc u mi!iiont
she'll moi ask you for carriage and
first class house. She'll wear simple
dresses and turn them when necessary,
with no vulgar magnifcence to frown
upon her economy. She'll keep every
thing neat and nice in your sky-parlor
and give you such welcome when you
come home that you'll think your parlor {
higher than ever. She'll entertain true
friends on a dollar and astonish you at
the ,hought-how very little happiness
depends on money She'll make you
love home (if you don't you're n brute)
and teach you how to pity while you
scorn poor, fashionable society that
thinks itself rich, and vainly tries to
think itself happy.
Now do not, pray you, say any more,
II can't afford to marry" Go, find the
true woman, and you can. Throw away
that cigar, burn up that switch. cane, be
sensible yourself aud seek your wife in
sensible way.--Rer. Z: ID. Gaip,ege.