The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-03-06
Etiquette for Men.

Don't wear clothes that attract atten.
ton, either from their being too much
out of the fashion or too much in it.
Notice the prevailing style OF hats,
clothes and shoes and see that yours
accord with it. A gentleman is we'll
dressed when there is nothing noticeable
about his attire.
Don't wear business clothes to an after
noon reception or dinner in the even
ing. Always put on black coat for
afternoon and wear dress suit for din
ner and at evening.
Don't wear white tie with anything
but dress suit, and don't wear at any
time a gaudy cravat. One of dark or
toned colors 10 generally preferable.
Rich white Lord Stanley cravats can be
worn with dark Prince Albert or cut
away coat in Spring or Summer.
Don't wear large single diamond in
your shirt front at any time. or diamoud
studs in any way noticeable for size.
Small cat's-eye studs are sometimes worn
with dress suit, but small plain gold
ones are preferred.
Don't wear much jewelry at any time.
Don't smoke in the presence of ladies.
Always remove your cigar when bowing
to q lady, and it is even more polite to
throw it away when so doing. 1t is even
questionable taste for gentleman to
smoke in the street at any time.
Don't bow to lady until she has
bowed to you.
This rule, of course, admits Of modi.
ication in certain cases of relationship
or acquaintance when the lady evidently
does not, from some cause, recognize the
gentleman.
Don't shake hands with a lady Oh your
first introduction to her, nor afterwards,
unless she first evinces desire to do 30.
Don't call on lady unless you have
obtained permission to do so.
Don't make your calls or visits too
long. Madam Recamier once said that
sone hour was all she granted to the
most agreeable of men, and that She
could stand nobody longer than that"
Don't fail to send in your card on
your first call, and in fact it is better to
do so always to avoid mistakes, etc.
Don't forget to always raise your hat
when you bow to lady or an elderly
gentleman.
Don't fail to answer notes, invitations,
etc., promptly and don't ever arrive late
for dinner party, and if anything would
prevent your attendance at dinner at
which you have promised to be present,
notify your host or hostess at the hrst
possible moment.
Don't drink to much wine, either at a
dinner, evening party or a ball. This
rule applies at any time, but especially
in society. 1t is good plan either for
gentleman to abstain entirely when IN
society, or to limit himself to certain
small and harmless amount.
Don't express yourself ungrammati-
cally and don't indulge in slang.
Watch yourself most closely in these
two particulars. Nothing condemns q
gentleman SO quickly.
Don't introduce your business affairs
into private conversation. Talking
shop" is always Objectionable.
Don't talk about your grievances. Re-
member that the world cares little for
you and less for your troubles, and above
all don't discuss your personal likes and
dislikes.
Don't adopt afectations of speech or
manner. Especially don't ape the dress,
customs, ideas and speech of foreign
country when they are opposed to or
different from those of your own.
Don't boast about yourself or your &C.
complishments if you have any.
Don't swear or use strong terms of ex-
preston.
Don't talk about your wealth or power
ty, and don't appear extravagant or
miserly.
Don't make your devotion to any
young lady too apparent unless you
really have serious intentions.
Don't fail to be always polite, and
especially so to your elders.
Don't neglect your duty as a gentle,
man to be always just and courteous and
kind.
Don't fail, lastly, to always observe the
feelings and rights of others, which
more than all else marks the true gen.
tleman.-M y World.