Washington standard. [volume] (Olympia, Wash. Territory) 1860-1921, 1884-07-04
ETIQUETTE FOR MEN.
some Necessary Points for n Young
Man " hO Desires to Enter Society.
New York World

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Ion't Near clothes that attract ct.
tentlon. either from their being too
much quito the fashion or too much in
it. Notice the prevailing style of hats,
clothes and shoes and see that yours
accord with it. 4 gentleman is well
dressed when there is nothing notice.
able about his attire.
Don't wear business clothes to an
afternoon reception or at dinner in the
evening. Always put on black coat
for afternoon and wear dress suit for
dinner and at evening.
Don't wear white lie with anything
but dress suit, and don't wear at any
time gaudv cravat. One Of dark or
low-toned colors is generally prefera-
ble. Rich white Lord Stanley cravats
can be worn with dark Prince Albert
or cut away coat in spring or summer.
Don't Wear large single diamond in
in your shirt front at any time or dia
mond studs in any way noticeable for
size. Small cat's-eye studs are some
times worn with dress suit, but small
plain gold ones are preferred.
Don't wear much jewelry at any
time.
Don't smoke in the presence of ladies.
Always remove your cigar when bowling
to a lady, and it is even more polite to
throw it away when SO doing. 1t is
even questionable taste for gentleman
to smoke i'll the street at any time.
Don't bow to a lady until she has
bowed to you.
This rule, of course, admits of modi-
fication in certain cases of relationship
or acquaintance when the lady evi.
IDENTIFY does not, from some cause, recog-
nize the gentleman.
Don't shake hands with q lady on
your first introduction to her, nor after
wards. unless she first evinces o desire
to do so.
Don't call on lady unless you have
obtained permission to do so.
Don't make your calls or visits too
long. Madame Recamier once said that
zone hour was all she granted to the
most agreeable of men, and that she
could stand nobody longer than that. I"
Don't fail to send in your card on
your first call and in fact it is better to
do so always to avoid mistakes, etc.
Don't forget to always raise your hat
when you bow to lady or an elder
gentleman.
Don't fail to answer all notes, invita-
tions, etc, promptly and don't ever
arrive late for dinner party, and if
anything would prevent your attend.
ance at dinner at which you have
promised to be present, notify your
host or hostess at the first possible
moment.
Don't drink too much wine either at
a dinner, evening party or ball. This
rule applies at any time, but especially
in society. 1t is good plan either for
q gentleman to abstain entirely when
in society. or to limit himself to GER
tain small and harmless amount.
Don't express yourself ungrammati-
cally and don't indulge in slang. Watch
yourself most closely in these two par
ticulars. Nothing condemns q gentle
man SO quickly.
Don't introduce your business affairs
into private conversation. Talking
shop" is always Objectionable.
Don't talk about Your grievances.
Remember that the world cares little
for You and less for your troubles, and
above all don't discuss your personal
likes and dislikes.
Don't adopt affectations of speech or
manner. Especially don't ape the
dress, customs, ideas and speech of
foreign country when they are opposed
to or different from those of your own.
Don't boast about yourself or your &C.
complishments if you have any.
Don't swear or use strong terms of ex-
preston.
Don't talk about your wealth or pow
erty, and don't appear extravagant or
miserly.
Don't make your devotion to any
young lady too apparent unless you
really have serious intentions.
Don't fail to be always polite, and es-
pecially SO to your elders.
Don't neglect your duty as a gentle
man to be always just and courteous
and kind.
Don't fail, lastly, to always observe
the feelings and rights of others, which
more than all else marks the true gen
tleman