Union County courier. [volume] (Elk Point, Union County, D.T. [S.D.]) 187?-1913, 1884-03-19

Afxed Company, Learning, Reddnts.
I'm mixed companies, whoever is ad-
mitted 10 make part of them. for the
time at least, is supposed to be on .
footing of equality with tho rest; and,
consequently, as there is no one par
ticular object of awe and respect, peo-
pie are apt to take greater latitude in
their behavior, and to be less on their
guard; and SO they may, provided it be
within certain bounds, which are upon
no occasion to be transgressed. But,
upon these occasions, though no one is
entitled to distinguished marks of re-
spectevery one claims, and very Justly,
every mark of civility and good breed
ing. Ease is allowed, but carelessness
and negligence arc strictly forbidden.
II . man accosts you, and talks to you
ever SO duly and frivolously, it is worse
than rudeness, it Is brutality, to show
him by q manifest inattention to what
be says, that yon think him fool or .
N}0nkhcsd, -and not worth hearing. Il
who, of whatever fauk erJy .uo,...~
entitled, in consideration OF their sex,
not only to an attentive but to m off,
cious good breeding from men.
Too Ready Friends. upon your
guard against those who, upon every
slight acquaintance. obtrude their un-
asked and unmerited friendship and
confidence upon you; for they probably
cram you with them for their own eat
ing; but at the same time do not rough
ly reject them upon that general sup
position. Examine further. and see il
those unexpected offers flow from .
warm heart and silly head, or from
designing head and cold heart; for
knavery and folly often have the Same
symptoms. In the first case there is
no danger in accepting them, Ualeant
qudntuns Valere possunt. In tho latter
case, it may be useful to seem to as-
cept them, and artfully to turn the bat
terry upon him who raised it.
There is an incontinency of friend
ship among young fellows, who are As
sociated by their mutual pleasures only,
which has very frequently bad consc-
quences. A parcel of warm hearts and
inexperienced heads, heated by con-
vivial mirth and possibly little too
much wine, vow, and really mean at
the time, eternal friendship to each
other and indiscrcetly pour out their
whole souls in common, and without
the slightest reserve. These conf
dences are as indiscreetly repealed as
they are made; for new pleasures and
new places soon dissolve this i'll ce-
mented connection, and then very i'll
uses are made of these rash conf
dences. Bear your part, however. in
young companies; nay, excel il you can,
in all the social and convivial Joy and
festivity that becomes youth Trust
them with your love tales, if you please,
but keep your serious views secret.
Pride and Iedantry.-The costly lib
crality of q purse-proud man insults
the distresses it sometimes relieves; he
takes care to make you feel your own
misfortunes, and the difference between
your situation and his, both of which
he insinuates to be justly merited;
yours by your folly, his by his wisdom.
The arrogant pedant does not commu-
nicate, but promulgatcs his knowledge.
He does not give it to you, but he ip-
ilicts it upon you; and is (if possibie)
more anxious to show you your own ig-
norance than his own learning. Such
manners MS these, not only in the par
ticular instances which have mention
cd, but likewise in all others. shock
and revolt that little pride which every
man has in his heart, and obliiera.e in
us the obligation for tho favor confer
red, by reminding US of the motive
which produced and the manner which
ACCOMPANIED il.