Barbour County index. [volume] (Medicine Lodge, Kan.) 1880-current, 1884-11-28

Nnf Dttlmcnt8 RrescriDCo Dy CuStOm Tor
Those Bercft Of Friends or Relatives
The Mourning Styles OF France aud I'm
gland Generally Followed in This Coun-
neutrality-suspicious. Every MOurner's Pre-
rOgative-LetterS of Sympathy-Recrea-
ntiOn and Return TO Socioty.
BY con mon consent the wearing of
black and withdrawal from society
have come TO be the proper mode of
mourning the dead. just how much
black shall he worn and Just how long
the seclusion shall continue are unset
ted questions. Many persons, es-
pccialiy those who allow their grief to
become morbid, make their lives one
long chapter of grief by habituatlnS
themselves To black garments and SOM
Der surroundings. Others entertain
con- sc!entious scruples winch prevent
the adoption of mourning garb under
any circumstances. and their convic-
tiOns are respected.
Ieriods OF mourning differ In differ
ent countries, and the American Gus
toms partake somewhat of all. Mourn
ing according to the French, is classi-
fed rs deep, ordinary and half. In
dep mourning only wool and Grape
are permissible, and not even a black
linen collar is tolerated. Tor ordinary,
black silks of lustreless finish are COM
bincd with wool If SO desired, or the
Grape Is merely removed and the stulls
trimmed with the same material. For
halt, black is worn with white collars
and cuts, white ~ith dead BLACK trim
mings, Or gray, purple and lavender
may be worn singly or combined with
black. In England, deep, second and
and half mourning are lecognized, but
the textures are about the same as
those selected by the French, deep
mourning being solid black. eithel in
stGfis alone, such as bomGazine or
ca .hmere, or combined with Grape;
gay or mixed back is reserved for sec
Ond; aud black, white. lavender and
purple ior the haa-m0mn.ng.
TWO iEAISs.
The time for wearing black depends
altogether Oh the degree of kinship. a
vile moUrns her husband two years,
dur ng which time sbe wears deep
mOurning six months, ordinary the
same period, and half-mourning n
year. That is the regulation time oil
sorrOw in England. and is usually
adopted in America II woman has
passed middle life, or prefers TO con-
slider her years aud condition Ia dress.
lnvendcrs and white arc ignored and
neat black in any material substituted.
She may If she likes wear deep mourn
ing the :ull term, or even retain Grape
and merino all her life. but unless
this garb is rich it is unsightly, be-
cause of the plainncss with which II
shows wear and emphasizes dust creases
- N rrNe Qf AZ toll kae
woman can select In Paris six
months deep black. six months ordinary
and six weeks of black and white, with
grny or lavender for a change. are con-
sider,d sufficient, after which widow
dOns black satin respondent with Jet,
aud IesJmes cOlors Immediately after
her first formal appearance in society.
The programme ior Monsieur is even
shorter. He takes of his gold watch.
chan, diamonds and cuff buttons, re-
placing them with a silk guard and JET
ornaments. He wears deep mourning
three months, and half mourning the
same length of time. In the higher
walks OF trench society black outfit
Is worn during the first period, and only
n Grape band on the hat the latter part.
But whore economy has to be consid.
cred the demonstration Is confined TO
the toilet accessories, such as handker-
chiefs, hosiery, ties, ,ewelry and sta
tionery. and the weed Is manipulated
50 that when the prescribed time has
expired. 1t is not more than an inch W de.
A sister or brother is mOurned one
month in deep and one ip half black;
an aunt or uncle three weeks ia half;
and a cousin two weeks A parent is
mourned for not more than q year, but if
there Is family Of children the time is
shortened 10 one or three months, and
not unfrequently il is discarded entire
ly after the funeral. Young children
are never put in black. and young
women adopt gray and mixed goods.
Here, as in England. q widow does not
wear deep mourning longe than year
unless she has decided 70 retain the
color all her life, in whi h case heavy
mourning is worn two years, and alter
that only woods are used in the trous-
seau.
The period OF mourning would be for
a first cousin six weeks-three in black
and three half mourning; for q second
q usin, three weeks. for a nephew OF
niece, three months. Put the mourning
for these relatives does not, after the
funeral wecs, ncccssitate scclusiOn from
society.
RELATIVE.
At the dccease of an aunt or uncle
for three months black would be worn,
but IN this case fortnight at least
would elapse before going out' was
resumed; a. the death Of q great aunt
or uncle mourning would be worn two
n onths; for second cousins and distant
CONNECTIONS. such as relatives by law,
three weeks is the duration of black;
for brothers and sisters six months is