Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1884-02-21
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ETIQUETTE FOR MEN.

Don't wear clOt1eS tllaC aturaCC aCtenIlOll,
either from their being too much out of the
fashion or too much in it, Notice the pre-
vaiing style of hats, chothes and shoes and
see that yours accord with it. A gentleman
is we'll dressed when there is nothing notice
able about his attire.
Don't wear business clothes to an after
noon reception or dinner in the evening.
Always put on a black coat for afternoon
and wear dress suit for dinner and at
evening".
Don't wear white tie with anything but
dress suit, and don't wear at any time a
gaudy cravat. One of dark or lOW-tOned
colors is generally preferable. Rich white
Lord Stanley cravatS can be worn with a
dark Prince Albert or cut away coat in
spring or summer.
Don't wear large single diamond in
your shirt front at any time, or diamond
studs in any way noticeable for size. Small
cat's-eye studs are sometimes worn with
a dress suit, but small plain gold ones are
preferred.
Don't wear much jeWelry at any time.
Don't smoke in the presence Of ladies.
Always remove your cigar when bowling to
a lady, and it is even more polite to throw
it away when so doing. 1t is even question
able taste for a gentleman to smoke in the
street at any time.
Don't bow to a lady until she has bowed
to you.
This rule, of course, admits of modiica-
tion in certain cases of relationship or &c
quaintance when the lady evidently does
not, from some cause, recognize the gentle
man..
Don't shake hands with lady on your
first introduction to her, nor afterwards,
unless she first evinces desire to do so.
Don't call on,a lady unless you have OBJ
tanned permission to do so.
Don't make you calls or visits too long.
Madam Recamier once said that zone hour
was all she granted to the most agreeable of
men, and that she could stand nobody
longer than that"
Don't fail to send in your card on your
first call, and in fact it is better to do SO al
ways to avoid mistakes. etc.
Don't forget to always raise your hat when
you bow to a lady or an elderly gentleman.
Don't fail to answer notes, invitations,
etc., promptly and don't ever arrive late for
dinner party, and if anything would pre-
vent your attendance at dinner at which
you have promised to be present, notify
your host or hostess at the first possible mo-
-ment.
Don,tdrink to much wine, either at. din
ner, evening party or ball. This rule ap-
plies at any time, but especially in society.
1t is good plan either for a gentleman to
abstain entirely when in society, or to limit
himself to certain small and harmless
amount.
Don't express yourself ungrammatically
and don't indulge in slang. Watch yourself
most closelyin these two particulars: Moth
ing condemns gentleman so quickly.
Don't introduce your business affairs into
private conversation. "Talking shop" is
always Objectionable.
Don't talk about your grievances. Re-
member that the world cares little for you
and less for your troubles, and above all
don't discuss your personal likes and dis
likes.
Don't adopt affectations Of speech or man.
ner. Especially don't ape the dress, Gus
toms, ideas and speech of foreign country
when they are opposed to or different from
those of your own.
Don't boast about yourself or your accom-.
plishments if you have any.
Don't swear or use strong terms OF express
sion.
Don't talk about your wealth or poverty,
and don't appear eXtravagant or miserly.
Don't make your devotion to any young
lady too apparent unless you really have
serious intentions.
Don't fail to be always polite, and espe-
cially so to your elders.
Don't neglect your duty as a gentleman to
be always just and courteous and kind.
Don't fail, lastly, to always observe the
feelings and rights of others, which more
than all else marks the true gentleman
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