Richmond dispatch. [volume] (Richmond, Va.) 1884-1903, 1884-11-21
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.Wb,t ere you goiBg 10 writc ABOUT
this week ~ said my most paTticnlar lady
friend. and have only very lew OF !n,,
order. "The Management OF hrspands'
"Wsl. that's done In very Few words
she saId, laughing; "give bin the iatcn-
hey. kiss him goodnight, and tel MN 70
come In when be likes, ~ YOU are gong 70
bed. and that man Will be in leading Strings
4 agree with my friend that hers is q
splepdid recipe: still have an idea that
esn Give one quite as good and one having
more nobility Of purpose. THERE'S moth
| tu @ living 80 easily managed ~ the average
man. but then the wife must ,indefs'snd
| dinlomacy and be a taetician 70 the tips OF
her fingers. What violence or tears can
never accomplish tact will. have always
Thought there Is something radically
wrono In the marriage tie, but what
n IL becomes difficult mailer "
! define when searching into bottom
facts. Men. as rule. marry women
/ Tor love, vet we see every day these one
| time.happy doves drifting apart and acting
AZ though separation would be the happiest
end for both. To marry for love simply Is
absurd. Unless there is a large amount OF
rcspeet on either side tue flame OF love
| .oon dies out. leaving a barren manor Tor
! the dwellcrs thereon. i really think those
marriages are happiest where there - les.
/ flame ana passion and more quiet respect
| In he first place. since there - always
certainty OF love following In the after
| iimc. For We must respect first what we
finally love.
However. supposing you have husband
whom YOU wish 10 twill around your litfl,
finger. you must first love him WIN an
| your heart. with all your soul, ETC.. etc.
| and the love YOU feel viii make II posNpic
10 put I'D with all those little discrepancies
which crop out in mans nature when You
come % live with him; for the best OF men
become monotonous after awhile. Ia The
first place. should your husband he a
man in business, who comes home
| tired 10 death, cross, and worn-out-
| do not nj once entertain him with the
troubles You have gone through during
the day. DO not rebearse the shortcomings
Of the servants, or the disobedience OF the
children. Meet him with smile, kiss
! him. take his bat and oyereoat from him.
| and let him severely alone until he has
toned down his irritabili.y with good
dinner; after which he will he In position
| 10 listen to anything you may have to
saw: but always found II an excellent
plan 10 hide disagreeables entirely
| from a husbands notice. Men don't
want to have a repetition OF annoy
ances at home when they have 80 many IN
! their daily path outside, and, believe me,
| the effect OF keeping household sqtiabbies
ont OF your husbands knowledge wonder
| fnlly enhances your value ~ a wife. have
! seen 30 many arrant fools fiv at their hls-
bands the moment they enter the house,
| and there and then give a detailed account
| of the troubles OF the whole day. even TAX
. ing TO tears as an argument on their side
I and @! how men hate tears how they de-
/ test household details-and. being naturally
selfish, in fact hate anything that puts them
out at home: and they are right. The
bread-winner ought 20 be relieved from do
nestle jars.
or all things. when your husband comes
| home. see that his dinner is well.coOked
I Don't make row because the meat i I'M
| derdone or burnt 10 a stick. You don'i
| know how q man appreciates loving wei
| come and q good dinner after the toll OF
the day. Put yourself in his place, each
woman who has 10 toll for fitheries'
/ flock. You don't like TO come home to a
/ cloudy atmosphere and an ill-c00ked meat.
| You think YOU are at least entitled 10 Sc
rene comfort at home, and IL you don't get
| # YOU rebel. Why not men also
Nothing on Garth ietchcs man like a
GOOD dinner and wcll-drcssed wife pre-
| siding. The husband who can look for
/ ward 10 such state Of things every day o
| his life will never tire OF home. and The
wife who studies his comfort will have III
tie difficulty in managing him according u
her will. Men are grcgariouS animals
/ and will wander III spite OF all allurements
/ but they are selfish enough 10 remain
where they are best treated. and by taking
| a little trouble for year or two OF married
life the wears that follow will, ~ arule, inC
the husband always glad 10 90 back to thu
/ pretty home, where smiles await him anC
I The dinner ] spoke Of.
There are so many women who object Il
beng " bossed," as they call il. My dea
ladies', YOU can always bc boss ii you TAXI
the trouble. BY giving in you get You
own way as YOU never would 10y iightln;
for it. Aud, after all. il - better TO fee
YOU respect your husband so much that 10
give in 10 him is not q difficulty. OF cours'
am now speaking Of the right Kind o
man. There are some men such periec
brutes that no Kindness has any effect upol
them. Nine men out Of ten are manage
able, ii YOU 90 the right way about II, ant
one great point Is Ia act after marriage eX
actly rs YOU did before. Argument an'
contradiction are vital enemies 10 marrici
peace. Should you HislI for anything par
ticularlv, don't insist upon 1t after refusal
OF course yOu must haze II, but bid
your time. Some women are perSiSten
and ask: '.Why may not, Why won
YOU do as | ask yOu;" and irI1tate tlt
man. Rather hide your time, make an cN
ira good dinner OF his iayOrite dishes. pu
bow Oh OF the color be- likes, make hOm'
and yourself sweeter than ever. You'l
gel il sure, even ii you have 10 wait. Also
when YOU want him To do any particull
thing which you know will b. for his good
for Heavens s4kc do not say do IT,
Rather drop a hint that YOU think 80 an
so would he good thing t. do. Gc' hiu
interested. and then let the subject drop
INenture 10 say that in short time tia
man will do precisely ~ YOU wished II
VIII never permit you 10 think he has trade
the least bit on your cOmmOn sense. Now
some women under .Uch circumstance
would crow over The husband with 81 toll
you so. and now come 10 my way OF think
ing.r Absurd, ladies. absurd; never bet
man know You rule him, yet rule him in a
things, II YOU can.
| believe that II i perfectly possible
keep your husband so pcrpetuaily in low
with YOU t6at ne rather likes TO be rule
than not. Never ask Tor a new dress ii
after dinner. and never press your hlr
band to buy what he can't afford. ilo'
many men are brought 10 ruin throug
the extravaganza OF silly, cXact,ng vii,
The reason say postpone requests till aft,
feeding time is because man is 80 parti;
to good food that II it is good, a"d he Ia
. enough OF II, hi, temper "ill be - hesVcul
, afterward that in very gratitude h
will be prepared to DO anything in IL
+ world for YOU. Never be Jealous with0l
cause. TO be Jealous OF the young lad
, | whom your husband sees home. inward
. ! wishing her at the devil and himself in be-
F.: Is simply putting thoughts into his hca
+. which would never have entered 0tbc
/, wise. At the same time, remember n
q prayer, Lead It's not into temptation" an
do not, On any account, trust yCl
husband with auy one who has a
great respect for herself. | NAV say iru
no woman, but tr,ls, your husband TIL 20
=. find him out. II any Young woman 20
A for him tske the threelesged stool 10 he
!, and make yourself So doubly agreeable
!, the man that he will never dream Of loo
. ing At another Oh. what an easy task Il