The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-04-03
DOMESTIC HAPPINESS.
TALmAGE's DISCOURSE.

sence of two weeks, naVlnS t1aFeieu
about 5000 miles and having visited
Iowa, Kansas, Nebraska, Missouri and
other States, DR.. Talmage returned and
occupied his pulpit. He preached on
domestic Happiness" taking his text
from Ephesians ", 3d. "Let every one
in particular love his own wife even as
himself, and the wife see that she rever-
ence her husband.
All this good advice, said DR.. Talmage,
s by q man who never married. He lived
onto 6Ay.eight years of age in eminent
bachelorhood. Indeed, it was better for
Paul to remain in single life, because ne
went on such rapid missionary ezpedl'
tions that no companion could have en-
dured the hardship. Celibacy, in some
cases, is better. Such persons accom-
plish under such circumstances, that
which could not be accomplished in the
other style of life. I have known men
who have remained unbalanced in order
that they might take care OF the chill
dren Of a deceased brother; and what
!. would become Of the world without the
selfsacriice and helpfuluess of the maid
en- al,uDts I can not imagine. Among the
brightest queens of heaven will be those
who took care of other peoples children.
Alas for the household which has not
within an easy call an Aunt Mary ! l
know that there are caricatures and un'
gallant things sometimes said, but SO tar
as { my observation goes they are quito
equal in disposition to their married SIS.
ters. The state of celibacy honored
again by such persons as Macaulay and
Washington Irving in literature and
Florence Nightingale and Miss Dix IN
philanthropy.
But while Paul remained in the single
state he kept his eyes open and ne LOOK
ed off upon the calm sea of married life
and upon the chopped sea of domestic
perturbation. He comes forth IN my
text to say: .Let every one in particu-
lar love his own wife even as himself, and
the wife see that che reverence her hus-
band = y implying that the wife oughtto be
loyable SO that there might be something
to lore, and the man ought to be honora'
ble 50 that there might be something to
reverence. II is a most congratulatory
thoneht that the vast majority of people
in the married state are we'll mated.
When Che news is first announced in the
outside world of the betrothal there may
be surprise and seeming incongruity, but
as the years pass by it is demonstrated
that the selection was divinely arranged.
There may be great difference OF temper
ament, great difference Of appearance,
great difference of circumstances. The
sanguine and the. phlegmatic tempera-
ments make appropriate union-the
blonde and the brunette, the quick and
the slow, the French and the German.
In the machinery Of domestic life there
is no more need for the driying-wheel
than for the brakes. That is the best
union generally which has just the OPP.
sites. The best argument in behalf OF
marriage as divine institution is the
fact that the vast majority of conjugal
relationships are the very best things
that could have happened. Once in a
while there is resounding exception to
the good rule, the attempt being made to
marry fire and gunpowder with the
consequent explosion in
THE DIVORCE COURTS,
but in the vast majority of instances the
copjugal relation is beautiful illustra-
ton of what the Psalmist said when he
declared: "God setteth the solitary in
families" Taking it for granted then
that you are well-mated, I proceed to
give you some prescriptions for domestic
happiness.
And first of all, 1 remark spirit ol
compromise must be dominant. You
; must remember that you were 20 or &c
wears forming independent habits and
having your own WY. In the marriage
state these habits must be brought into
accord, and there may be some ingenuity
necessary. Be determined to have your
own way, and there will be no peace
let the rule be: In all matters of m2ra
principle your determination shall Dc
iron. and in all uniuportant matters
willow. Whatever you may think o.
the word compromise in politics, without
compromise there is no domestic peace
A great many people are willing to com
promise if you will do just as they want
You to do, but there is no compromise II
that. The rule ought to be: In all 40
mestic matters, all social matters, al
ecclesiastical matters, all political mat
tiers, firm adherence to Fundamentals; eas!
surrender in non. essentials. Be not 'oe
proud or too stubborn to give up Com
promise compromise!
Iremark again that in order to secure
domestic happiness there must be sp'r'
/. of consultation. The home ought Il
be cabinet where all the affairs OF tht
household and all the affairs of business
life come under comparison. inspection
and adyisal. That is an absurd rule w'
hear abroad in the world that men ough
never to take their business home. lei
THOUSAND financial failures would hav'
been avoided if men had consulted Will
their wives. In the first place woman
Ia. o,nocitv to Judge of mora! charac