The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-06-26
BILL ARP.
He Rumlnatcs Ever Love, Courtship and
Marriage.
Atlanta Constitution.

| sey' ASoso nuu SOutteuip. lueu come
the engagement ring and blessed inter
Val OF fond hopes ano happy dreams anc
that is never to be forgotten-a day tha
new life. Then comes the license tbt
permit of the law which says you MAJ
marry, you may enter into bonds. ThI
state approves 1t and the law allows i,
and it will only cost you a dollar and 8
quarter. Cheap, aint it. and yet 1t may
and the happy pair stand up before him
to prayer and benediction, aud they are
one. In moment the trusting maid has
lost her name and her free will and is
tied fast to man. Well, he is tied fast
too, 80 it is all right all round reckon
but somehow always feel more concern
ABOUT the woman than the man. She ia
helpless sort Of a creature aud takes
the most risk, for she risks her ALL
We gave him cordial selcome into
the family, and we kissed her lovingly
and bade them goodbye, and the chill.
dren threw n shower Of rice over them
and an old shoe after them, aud thew
were soon on their way to the land of
flowers. She was not our child but was
almost, for Mrs Arp was the only mother
she ever knew and we love her.
sat in my piazza Illuminating over the
scc2e and l wondered that there we're as
many happy marriages as there seem to
E:., Partners foT life ought 10 be congo.
NAL and harmonious in 80 many things.
when men make O partnership in bust.
ness they can't get along we'll if they are
unlike in disposition or in moral princi.
pie, or in business ways and business
habits. But they can't dissolve aud sepa.
rate at pleasure and try another man.
a man and his wife ought TO be alike
In most everything. It is said, that folks
like their opposite, their counterparts, and
so they do in some respects. A man
with bluo eyes goes mighty nigh
distracted over woman with hazel ewes,
l did, and I'm distracted yet whenever
look into them. But in mental qualities
and emotional qualities and tastes and
habits and principles and convictions
and the like they ought to class together.
Indeed 1t is better for them to have tho
same politics and the same religion, And
so have observed that the happiest
unions as general thing are those where
the high contracting parties have known
each other for long time and have as.
simulated from their youth in thought
and feeling. When a man goes Off to
some watering place and waitzes few
times with charming girl and falls des.
perately in love and marries her off hand
it is long shoot and a narrow chance
for happiness. Why, we may live in The
same town with people and not know as
much about them as we ought to.
never made any mistake about nv choice
OF partner for the dance of life, but I've
thought of it a thousand times that if
Mrs. Arp had know l loved Goldfish and
got up by daybreak every morning she
never would have had me. 1t was nip
and tuck to get her anyhow and that
would have been the feather to break the
camel's back. Well, Pm mortal glad
she didn't know it, though am free to
say that if had known she slept until
the second ringing of The first bell for
breakfast and was fond of raw oysters, it
would have had O dampening effect on
my ardor for q few minutes. only n few.
Aat have seen s0mo mighty clever peo.
pie eat oysters raw and eleep late in the
morning. But still q man and his wife
can harmonize and compromise a good
many of these things, and it is beauti.
ful illustration of this to see Mrs. Arp
cooking Goldfish for me and fixing it all
up 30 nice with eggs and cream, and it
IS touching evidence of my undying
devotion to her to see me wandering
about the house lonely and forlorn every
morning for an hour or two, and forbid.
ding even the cat to walk heavy while
she sleeps. That Goldfish business comes
to me honestly from my fathers side, and
my mother put up with it like good,
considerate wife, and we children grew
up with an idea that it was good. I've
heard of young couple who got married
and went off to Augusta on o tour, and
the feller stuck his fork into Goldfish
ball and took bite. He choked it down
like hero, and when his beloved asked
what was the matter, replied: "Don't
say anything about it, MANDY, but MS
er-e ss Eou are born there Is so.nstE:.o..
dead il: The bread"
Well, we can make compromises about
all such things as habits and tastes, but
there are some things that won't compro.
mise worth cent. If a girl has been
brought up to having good deal of free
dom and thinks it no harm to 90 walt.
ing around with every pay Lothario who
loves to dance, and after she gets feller
of her own, wants to keep at L and have
polluted arms around her waist, she had
just as we'll sing farewell to copiugal love
and domestic peace, for it is against the
order of nature for loving husband to
stand it, and he ought not There is
another thing that ought to be considered,
and that is age. A few years makes no
difference, but an old man had better be
careful about marrying q young wife.
he won't be happy but about two weeka,
and then his misery will begin and il
will never end. 1t may be better .or a
woman to be an old mans darling than a
young mans slave, but she had better
be neither. When young girl marries
an old man for his money she has zone
back on herself, for money don't bring
happiness. Money helps, but money
with dead weight is a curse-an agpra.
votion. | was talking one day to an old
man, q Frenchman, who had made a
hermit of himself and was living all alone
in the woods, and he said "Mine friend
l bav make one grand meestake. Mine
first wife whom marry ven vas young
vas an angel from heaven, God bless her,
but mine last wife vas q devil from;
and he pointed downwards. II vas old
aud she vas young. I had money and
she bad none. marry her in haste and
repent at my leisure. l try TO live vid
her for tree years but we were not com.
patible. 1t was against de order OF
nature and I fiud myself fool and a
prisoner, and 60 geeve her half my
monies and run away from her and hide
in this Wilderness and here will I live and
here will I die, and ven I 20 oop 70 St
Peter and tell heem how dat vomau
devil me on earth de good man will open
de garden rate and aev emma In N, x