St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1884-11-05
"a GENTLEMAN"
a Fetc Useful Hints for Young Hem
Alfred Ayres in The Mentor.
HOW TO WALK.

ing he should, above all, avoid everything /
that is unnatural OF that smacks Of self-con- |
sciousness. How often do We see men in
the street whose every movement tells us
their minds are chiefly on themselves One
throws his chest out a Ia dhldOH, while an
other walks with an abnormal stoop, but
both delight in kind Of rolling, staggering.
gait and An unnatural swing Of the arm
We all know, when we see such man, no
matter what his appearance in other respects
may be, that be Is a person Of low breeding.
Not only Is a mans walk an index Of his
character aud OF the grade Of his culture,
but it is also an index OF the frame OF mind
he is in. There is the thoughtful walk and
the thoughtless walk, the responsible walk
and the careless walk, the workers walk
and the idler's walk, the ingenious walk and
the insidious walk, and so on. In word,
what there is in US we all carry in essentially
the same way; hence the surest way TO have
the carriage of gentility is to have gentility
10 carry.
MAKING BOW.
In public the bow is toe proper mode Of
salutation, also under certain circumstances
it should be familiar, cordial, respectful or
formal. An inclination Of the head or a
gesture with the hand or cane sufiees be
! tween men, except when one would be spe-
cially deferential to age or position; but in
saluting lady the hat should be removed.
A very common mode OF doing this in New
York, at present, particularly by the young
e: men, is TO jerk the hat of aud sling it on
as hastily as possible. As haste is incom-
patible with grace, and as there is an old
pantomimic law that "every picture must be
held'' for a longer or shorter time, the jerk
and-sling manner Of removing the hat in
! salutation is not TO be commended. The
| enaDresseDsezst man puts into his situations
is graduated by circumstances, the most de-
ferential manner being TO carry the hat down
the full length Of the arm, keeping il there
until the person saluted has passed. II =
man stops 10 speak 10 a lady in the street be
should remain uncovered, unless the con-
vers alton should be protrScted, which 1t is
sure not TO be, IL either OF the parties knows
and cares to observe the proprieties.
A well-bred man, meeting lady in pub
| lie place, though she is a near relative-wife,
mother or sister-and though he may have
parted from her but half an hour before, will
salute her as deferentaIly as he would salute
a mere acquaintance. The passers-by are
| ignorant of the relationship, and TO them his
deterential manner SAYS: ''She Is lady,"
/ RULES FOR INTRODUCTioNS.
20 fyou meet an acquaintance in the street
whep you are walking with friend, DO not
introduce them; nor should you ever intro
duce people in public places, unless you have
! good reason TO believe that the introduction
will be agreeable nay. more, is desired by
both parties. The universal introducer is a
very unpleasant person 70 associate with. In
| introducing persons it is the lower that Is in
troduced TO the higher, and, as a rule, the
younger to the older, the gentleman to the
lady.
PUBLIC NUISANCE.
Another disAgreeable habit is that OF GO
ing about singing, humming or whistliny.
The man thpt habitually does either Of these
either in the street-no matter what the hour
i'm the halls of hotels, as he goes up and
down stairs, or in his own apartments, when
there is any one within hearing, has the
manners of boor, and deserves the Gala
boose for disorderly conduct.
SMOKING AS GENTLEMAN.
There is no one thing Derhads, in which
the difference between the well-bred man
and the ill-bred man more appears than In
the manner in which, the place where, and
the time when they smoke. The well-bred
man does not smoke, nor Goes he seem to
smoke, to show of, whereas the ill-bred man
very often smokes in a self-conscious man
ner that seems TO say: ''Look at mel see
how skilfully my lips hold this cigar; how
can shift it from one side Of my mouth tc
the other without touching 1t with my fingers
and how well can artieulate with it in my
mouth; in short, look you, what perfect con-
troll have over my labial muscles, and hGv.
= a.
low bred young men-very many-that ap
pear TO smoke only TO display their, imagined
grace and skill, whe n, in fact, in smoking
as they do, where they do, and when they dc
they but publish their vulgarity. Such men
are certainly not of the sort that Shakespeare
accuses of having ''vaunting ambition
AS they smoke chiefly for show, q poor cigal
answers their purpose as well as good one
consequently, they usually buy OF the kind
that are sold at the rate of two for a cent.
The well-bred man on the contrary, the
gentleman, the man that smokes only for the
love of it, puts but as much of his cigar in
his mouth as is necessary in order TO draw it
keeps it in his mouth no longer than is nee
essary, and never fails 10 remove IL when b.
talks, or passes any one toward whom h
would be respectful, especially lady. Fur
Their, our best bred men never smoke in an,
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ror in any public place where smoking
likely 10 be offensive TO others.
Ee,a 'eA THE BooR IN PUBLIC.
Finally, if you remain to the end Of per
formance, remain indeed TO the end-remail
in your seat and remain quiet until the las
word has been spoken, OF the last note Ia
been sung. Be not one of those INBRED pei
sons that when the end approaches begin I
make ready to go, or perhaps get up and pusl
past others, disturbing everybody IN the house
players as well as auditors, in their selfs
haste to reach the door. / repeat: You hav
no more right to disturb others at place G
amusement than you have 10 pick their pock
cts, for when you disturb others you rob Their
OF part of that for which they have pal
I their money.
lg WHAT A GENTLEMAN WILL DO.
D. If you would be worthy to live among vel
fbred, right-thinking people you Will Away
consider the interests, respect the rights an
E study the comfort of others. For example,
you visit readlng-room where the aim is s
TO keep the newspapers that any particula
one can be easily found, you will always
D careful to put those you read back in the
= proper places; you will never scratch a mate
on anybody's wall or woodwork; you wi
n never spit on anybody's floor, whether carp
eted or not; you will never walk over the VI
holstered seats of place Of amusement, an
so on. The doing or the leaving undone {
little things is the sure index Of q man
e breeding or of his lack Of it.
, CURE FOR PILES.
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