Morris tribune. [volume] (Morris, Minn.) 1880-2000, 1884-04-02

ness but your own,
Do be dignifed; keep your place and make
your associates and dependents keep theirs.
Do remember that servants are made of
the same material as you are; little coarser-
grained, perhaps but the same in essentials;
| lone touch of nature makes the whole world
kim"
DO respect their feelings and attachments;
let the pretty parlor maid have her lover
openly; she will have him any way, and if
you do you may save her a lifelong misery.
DO forget your clothes as much as possible.
Do try and forget yourself; as for your
husband, forget that you married him, and
remember that he married you; he will then
probably do the reverse.
DO, If friend drops i'll occasionally, leave
things just as they are. If the tidy is off the
chair back, what does it matter? A news
paper on the floor, even is no absolute dis
grace.
Do let your husband smoke if he wants to-
You can easily accustom yourself to the
smoke of his cigar, and it will keep him out
of mischief and-quiet. If your curtains
smell after it let the air blow through the
room.
Do let him read the newspapers at the
breakfast-table. 1t is unsociable, but then it
is only trifle after all, and he likes it,
Do let him know more than you do once in
while. 1t keeps up his self-respect, and you
will be none the worse for admitting that
you are not exactly infalible.
Do pay your servants }sularly.
Do keep accounts do live within your al
lowance; do, for the sake of everybody,
yourself included, know exactly how much
you have to spend, and save something cut of
it if you can.
Do date your letters.
Do have an open fire, if you can manage it;
and do have the hearth swept up every time
! Goals are put on.
Do be courageous; do be self-respecting;
inane creature, pretty to look at, and Of no
further use.
Do wear real jewelry or none at all.
Do read something better than novels or
cook books.
Do remember that the interest of life is
not centered in your home circle; do familiar
ize yourself with outside events.
Do read something the papers besides
fashion notes and society columns; have
some knowledge of what is going on in for
| egn countless.
Do be a companion to your husband, if he
is a wise man; and if he is not, try to make
! him become your companion; raise his stand
ard; do not let him lower yours
Do respect your husbands prejudices; do
respect his relations, especially his mother!
she is not the less his mother because she is
your mother in-law; she loved him before
you did.
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| Justly and Charitably."
| Boston Globe.
"The supreme art of life, above all other
arts, is the art of living together justly and
charitably-no other thing so taxing, requir-
ing 80 much wisdom, so much practice, as
how to live, with our fellow men,"
So said the Rev. Mr.. Beecher in his sermon
last Sunday. No need to comment on its
truthfulness. If he had merely said "iving
together JUSTLY" without the "charitably," it
would have had as much truth in it as most
people could put into actual operation. If
the men and women of this world treated
each other always with simple justice there
would be no need of charity. But in the
estimates they make of one another, in all
those common relations of life in which peo-
pie meet together or brush against one an
other, justice, simple justice, is the excep-
ton. What is called charity" and 'charita-
ableness" is only a sneaking, inadequate con-
science fund which injustice pays over to the
victims she has already defrauded of their
| just dues
| To be more definite: Notice two people
talking of third, and in nine cases out Of
ten the unkind things they say will overbal-
ance the kindly and appreciative. And
when an unkind or even injurious rumor gets
abroad about any one, nine people out of ten
will accept it as truth before it is proven.
Now, there is no particular reason why peo-
pie, when they comment incidentally on an
| absent persons characteristics, should not
speak of the noble and commendable ones
rather than of the ignoble. But they don't
That is injustice. If they spoke about his
goodness and kindness and largeness of heart,
it would not be charity, or charitableness, it
would be common justice.
Said gentle, tender-hearted little lady
the other day: "Why are people so unnec-
essarily bitter and severe? Now, there is my
friend, Mrs. A. She has some marked faults,
but her good qualities are equally marked
and much more numerous. Well, have to-
day spoken with four different friends, and
they have every one referred sneeringly or
sarcastically to her faults. They are
good friends, war N friends of hers, and if
she were in trouble would do all they could
for her. Now, what should like to know is,
why they cannot see that she is just as good
kindly and warm-hearted on one side as she
is disagreeable on the other and set one over
against tie bother to balance it, or, rather,
overbalance it."
And that is a very typical instance of the
way people talk and feel. They will not have
mastered ''the art of living together justly"
until they have learned to feel both sides of a
friends character at the same time. Then
they will find that if they give justice,
charity will take care of itself.