Fort Worth daily gazette. (Fort Worth, Tex.) 1882-1891, 1884-01-03
WHY MEN DO NOT MARRY.
Tho English Solution of an Interesting
Problem.

Whitehall Reyiew.1


Problem.
Whitehall Reyiewl
The English marriage market has
become an arena of competition as
Keen u.s. any auction-room. The natu-
raj impulses of woman are disregarded.
Mothers advise prudent alliances, and
discoun enance, by fair means and
foul, love-matches. Girls choke down
their feeling. and aid and ,lbet their
seniors in in encouraging men whoare
catches" throwing off the restraints
which made their grnndinothers
charming. But still the cry goes up,
Men do not marry.n And vet, the
most inveterate club-men, the mocker
at love in q cottage, was
once q youth not 6iaso, TO
whom the vision of home was en-
chanting. Almost every man tries
his hand at realizing some such dream
early in life; out the attempt il usually
nipped in the bud by want of means,
or 10y failure TO win the particular wo-
man on whom his heart Is set He
suiieies acutey; but man il an elastic
creature; in time he mingles again
with the world, not entirely proof
against feminine fascination, but find
ing it almost impossible to set up an
ideal. Matrons with attractive daugh-
tiers can't complain that their girls see
few men. The tendency of the age is
to level the barriers between the sexes;
girls play tennis, they row, they rinB,
they skate, they SIT in the smoking
room, they dance, not only in the
evenings, but in the afternoons.
The natural tendency of such init
mate association would be matrimony
But the fact is, that men who might
have had serious intentions are
frightened OF before liking begets
love There is an all-prevailng fuss
pervadiug the intercourse of young
people which is altogether detrimental.
The Instant pair begin to show any
particular liking for each others So
ciety, the wide world around them is
instantly on the qui vive. The
mother watches, fusses, reports to her
cronies, and too often catechises
the girl, wounding her sense of
delicacy, and making her conscious
and constrained; or, leading her to
imagine herself beloved, when the
mans feeling is only that of pleasure
in the society OF young woman who
does her best to make herself az eea-
BILE Men are usually ignorant how
girls note and weigh the attentions
they receive, nd that they impart the
details of such homage to sympathetic
III envious-feminine ears, thus Civ
ing body 10 vague uo.hings, and brood
ing over trifies till they gather shape.
Meanwhile the man, having said
the pretty things his idea of politen.ss
has prompted, goes away, forgetting
them aud their recipient, while she is
na,.tt A .l,ar i'm, . -
y few soft nothings, q squeeze of the
hand or tender Chances. Women are
not aware, on the other hand, how sim
cerely he may like and and admire a
girl without thought beyond mere
goodwill. And it is precisely the
better kind of man who falls
into the misfortune of raising false
hopes. The man who believes in the
simplicity and candor of women de-
sires their sympathy and values their
regard A man of the world has the
instinct of selt-rresrrvatiou developed
strongly enough for his protection.
The sense OF safety is the real bond OF
many of the alliances now so fashion
able sometimes salutary, often mis-.
chlevous-b between men ana married
women. Kept within bounds. no sus-
plclon attaches 10 them, no hopes are
built upon them. The lady receives the
pGtttS sOias dear to the female creature.
which the husband of long standing
often neglects Fhe man receives the
sympathy grateful to the masculine
creature. Men feel this without ana
lying their continents, and it is
common complaint among them now
adaSs that it is impossible to become
well acquainted with girl without
exciting the too lively anxiety of her
friends. And no wise man proposes
without knowing the character of the
girl be wishes to marry. The mothers
who are so eager for their daughters
establishment are wise, although this
precaution is not only foolish but in
decorous.