The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-04-03

some night and say: "Well, my dear,
you are right; that man swindled me ou'
of my last dollar" 1t is not because
woman is wiser than man. 1t is because
God has given her that peculiar intuition
in regard to human character. Now, you
have NJ right to go into an enterprise
which involves the homestead or the ed
ucation of your children or the fate OF
YOUR entire fsmily without home consul
tation. OF course all this implies that
you did not marry fool. If at the mar
riage altar you committed suicide you
had better keep all your business affairs
in your own heart and head. But let us
hope that you have sound common sense
presiding iu your household. How
much wife may help husbands busl-
ness affairs was we'll represented in. the
case where the wife saved from the
allowance OF herself and the allowance
of the family certain amount of money
for q rainy day. After some time the
husband, coming home, said: "Well,
Pm going to suspend payment tomorrow
A few dollars would get me through, but
can't get the few dollars, and I'm going
to ruin" That evening the wife said !;
az wish you would hunt up the definition,
of the word independence in Webster's
Dictionary. Hunt it up for me-" He
opened Webster's Dictionary, aud found
the word independence, and right oppo-
site was slOO bill. "Now," she said, "I
would like to have you find the word
gratitude" He turned to the word graf
itude, and there was another Sl0O bill !;
and before the evening was past she ask
ed him to read verse of certain chap.
tor in the Bible, and there were $500, and
before the evening had passed the man
had financial relief to tide him over his
disasters. You call that dramatic. l
call that beautifully Christian.
IN ALL EXPENDITURES
there ought to be consultation. Do not
dole out money to your wife as though
she we're a beggar. Let her know
how much you have or how little. APP
peal to her intelligent judgment and she
will be content, and your own disposition
will not be irritated. As long as you
keep mystery about your business mat
tiers she will wonder that the allowance is
80 small. No honorable woman wants to
spend more money than can be afforded.
Come into consultation with her on this
matter. Show what are all your neces-
sary outside expenses; all the money
you must have for cigars and dinners at
Delmonico's, and how much it takes for
the clubhouse and the political cam
paign, and then have her present all the
domestic expenses, and then, after con-
sultation, do your best. It is bad sign
when man dare not tell his business
transactions to his wife. There is some
thing wrong. Suppose you that the gl'
gantic forgeries which have been enacted
! in this country would ever have taken
place if the wife had been consulted ?
The wife would have said: "Slop! let
US live in one room in the poorest house
on the poorest street of the poorest town
and have nothing but dry bread rather
than that you should make yourself cul-
pable before God and the law" In the
vast majority of cases where there has
been exposure of great frauds the w''e
has been the most surprised person IN
the community. A banker some time
ago misused trust funds. and he went
from fraud to fraud and from knayery to
knavery until it was necessary for him to
leave home before daylight. His wife
said: "Where are you going?" 81 am
going to New York." said he, "and going
on the early train." "Why, isn't this
sudden ?" she asked. ooh, no; expect
ed to CO." and then he left the room and
went to the room where his daughters
slept, looked upon their calm faces for
the last time as he supposed, and started
And he was brought back by the Con-
stables of all outraged law, and he is now
ia the pepitentiary. Do you suppose
that man, with a good wife as he had, an
honest wife as he had, a Christian wife,
as he bad, could have got into such an
enormity if he had consulted in regard
to her wishes? Consultation is the word
j domestic consultation.
Again, in order to domestic happiness
there must in the conjugal state be nc
secrets kept one from the other. What
one knows both must know. 1t is bac
sign when one partner in the conjuga
relation is afraid to have the letter:
opened and read by the other partner
Surreptilious correspondence is always
dangerous. If a man comes to you ano
SAYS: 81 am going to tell you a grea
privacy and don't want you to tell any
body, not even your wife, say to him
"NVell, now, you had better not tell me
for shall tell her as soon as get home.'
There must he no secrecy of association
You ought not to be unwilling to tel
where YOU have been and with whom
YOU have been. Sometimes an unwls'
wife will have lady cou6dant whom sh'
makes the depository of privacies whlcl
they are pledged to keep between them
selves. Beware! Anything that implie
that husband and wife are two and no
one implies peril, domestic peril soc'a
peril, mighty peril. In the vast ma