The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-04-03
DOMESTIC HAPPINESS.
TALMAGE's DISCOURSE.

Ter States, DR.. Tamage returned and
npied his pulpit. He preached on
Dmes,ic Happiness" taking his text
ssp Ephesiaus v, 33: Let every one
particular love his own wife even as
Sl SELF, ard the wife see that she rcyer.
her husband" l."
II this good advice, said DE-. Tnlmage,
"a man who never married. He lived
IS 10 alty.eight years Of age III eminent
She!orhood. Indeed, il was better for
to remain in single life, because he
at on snch rapid missionary expcdi-
h4 tl.a! no companion could have en-
4 he'd tie hardship. Cclibacy, in some
a., is better. Such persons accom-
AN. under such circumstances, that
ch could not be accomplished in the
er style of life. have known men
81 have remained unbalanced in order
. they might take care of the chill
936n of deceased brother; and what
,sald become of the world without the
'ss sacrifice and helpfulness of the maid
aunts can not imagine. Among the
zhtcst queens Of heaven will be those
20 took care Of other peoples children.
for the household which has not
ayhiu an easy call an Aunt Mary
sE,w that there are caricatures and un-
e ant things sometimes said, but SO far
ls8 my observation goes they are quito
IEES1ia in disposition to their married sis.
The state of celibacy honorcd
Jim by such persons as Macaulay and
shiDgton Irving iu literature and
8 renee Nightingale and Miss Dix in
Hslanlhropy.
But while Paul remained in the single
,3e he kept his eyes open and lie look
BIZ upon the calm sea Of married life
IS upon the chopped sea of domestic
turbation. He comes forth in my
to say: "Let every one in particu-
love his own wife even as himself, and
wife sec that she reverence her hus.
id . implying that the wife ought to be
& Able so that there might be something
oyc and the man ought to be houora.
so that there might be something to
erence. 1t is most congratulatory
that the vast majority Of people
the married state are well mated.
len the news is first announced in the
sidc world Of the betrothal there may
3urprise and seeming incongruity, but
the years pass by it is demonstrated
lsst the selection was divinely arranged.
IRE may be great difference Of temper
ent, great difference of appearance,
at difference of circumstances. The
guine and the phiegmutic tcmpera-
# BITS make appropriate union-the
nde and tho brunette, the quick and
iii slow, the French and the German.
Rhe machinery of domestic life there
,ssho more need for the driving wheel
In for the brakes. That is the best
r. n Sson generally which has just the opp
ss. The best argument il behalf Of
friagc as divine institution is the
$50 that the vast majority of conjugal
stion,hips are the very best things
81 could have happened. Once in a
lie there is a resounding exception to
good rule, the attempt being made to
Try fire and gunpowdcr with the
sA Aseqnent explosion in
TIE DIVORCE COURTS,
in the vast majority Of instances the
ssliugal relation is beautiful illustra-
of what the Psalmist said when he
Jared: "God setteth the solitary i'll
Ailics." Taking it for granted then
4 you are well-mated, i proceed to
81 + you some prescriptions for domestic
9pincss.
Au nd first Of ali, l remark & spiEil Of
Apromisc mus. be dcNaiuaa,. You
st remember that you were 20 or 30
rs forming indcp udent HABITS and
ling your own WY. In the marriage
ae these habits mu be brought into
lord, and there may be some ingenuity
;essary. BE determined to have your
p way, and there will be no peace.
the rule be: In all matters of mpral
hciple your determination shall be
,, and in all unimportant matters,
81 low. Whatever you may think of
word compromise in politics, without
1promise there is no domestic peace.
5reat many people are willing to com.
mise it you will do just as they want
IN to do, but there is no compromise in
f. The rule ought to be: In all do.
tic matters, all social matters, all
@esiastical matters, all political mat
.sS firm adherence to fundamentals, easy
Fender in non. ess entails. BE not TOO
sud or too stubborn to give up. Com
mise ! ompromise
remark again that in order to secure
heslic happiness there must be spir'
consultation. The home ought TO
~ cabinet where ull the affairs Of the
'ehold and all the affairs of business
Ga come under comparison. inspection
~ ~ advisal That is an absurd rule we
II abroad in the world that men ought
sa3er to take their business home. Ten
3usan financial failures would have
h avoided If men had consulted with
{9r wives. In the frat place woman
~ acapacity to judge of moral charac,
VI which man has not. Befure you