St. Paul daily globe. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn.) 1884-1896, 1884-12-20
HUSBANDS.
ence-H0tc Nm Should be Treated
so as TO Keep Them ga Domestic

swell, that's done in very few words, -
she said laughing; ''give him the latch key,
kiss him good night and tell him TO co me in
when be likes, as you are going 70 bed, and
that man will be In leading strings forth.
with.''
/ agree with my friend that hers is asplen-
did recipe; still l have an idea that | can
give one quite as good and one having more
nobility of purpose. There is nothing living
so easily managed as the average man but
then the wife must understand diplomacy
and be tacticau 10 the tips Of her fingers.
WHAT violence or tears can never accom- plish
tact will. have always thought there is
something radically wrong in the marriage
tie, but what il is becomes a difficult matter
TO define when searching into bottom facts.
Men, as a rule, marry women for love, yet
we see every day these one time happy doves
drifting apart and acting as though separa-
ton would be the happiest end for both. To
marry for love simply is absurd. Unless
there is large amount of respect on either
side the flame Of love soon dies out, leaving
barren manor for the jewellers thereon.
/ really think those marriages are happiest
where there is less flame aud passion aud
more quiet respect to the first place, since
there is always certainty OF love following
in the after time, for we must respect first
what we finally love.
However, supposing you have a husband
whom you wish To twirl round your little FIN
ger, you must first love him with ali your
heart, with all your SOUL etc, etc, and the
love you feel will make It possible to put up
with ali those little discrepancies which crop
out in mans nature when you come 10 live
with him; for the best Of men become mo-
notonous after while. In the first place
should your husband be man In business,
who comes home tired 10 death, cross aud
worn out, do not at once entertain him with
the troubles you have gone through during
the day. Do not rehearse the shortcomings
of the servants or the dsobedience OF the
children. Meet him with a smile, kiss him,
take his hat and overeoat from him aud let
him severely alone until he has toned down
his irritablity with a good dinner; after
which be will be in a position 10 listen to
anything you may have to say: but always
found it an excellent plan TO hide disagreed
bles entirely from a husbands notice. Men
don't want TO have a repetition OF annoy
ances at home when they have so many in
their daily path outside, aud, believe me,
the effect of keeping household squabbles
out of your husbands knowledge wonder
fully enhances your value as a wife. ] have
seen so many arrant fools fly at their hus-
bands the moment they entered the house
and there and then give detailed account
Of the troubles of the whole day, even TAX
ing to tears as an argument on their side
and Oh! how men hate tears; how they de-
test household details-snd, being naturally
selfish, in fact hate anything that puts them
out at home; and they are right The bread
winner ought to be relieved from domestic
jars.
OF all things, when your husband comes
home, see that his dinner is well cooked.
Don't make a row becauae the meat is uu-
derdone or burnt TO a stick. Rather go into
the kitchen yourself and see that everythin z
is CONNIE q fdm. You don't know how a
man appreciates a loving welcome and a
good dinner after the toll of the day. Put
yourself in his place, each woman who has 10
toll for fatherless flock. You don't like to
come home to a cloudy atmosphere and an
ill-cooked meal. You think you are at least
entitled 10 serene comfort at home, and If
you don't get it you rebel Why not men
alsol Nothing on earth fetches a man like a
good dinner and a well dressed wife pre-
siding. The husband who can look forward
to such a state of things every day OF his life
will never tire of home, and the wife who
studies his comfort will have little difficulty
in managing him according to her will
Men are gregarious animals, and will wan
der in spite of all allurements, but they are
selfish enough to remain where they are best
treated, and by taking little trouble for a
year or two of married life the years that fol-
low will, as a rule, find the husband always
glad to 60 back to the pretty home where
smiles await him and the dinner
spoke of.
There are so many women who object TO
being ''bossed," as they call it. My dear
ladies, you can always be boss if you take the
trouble. By giving in you get your own
way as you never would by fighting
for it, And, after all, II is better to feel you
respect your husband so much that TO give
in TO him Is not difficulty. or course am
now speaking of the right kind of man.
There are some men such perfect brutrs
that no kindness has any effect upon them.
When you are unfortunate enough 10 catch
such one, divorce him at once and take
care how you choose the next. Nine men
on; of ten are manageable, II you 60 the
r.gtt way about it, aud one great point is to
act after marriage exactly as you did before.
Arguments and contradiction are vital enc
mics to married peace. Should you wish for
anything particularly. don't insist upon it
after refusal. or course you must have it,
but bide your time. Some women are persis-
tent and ask: "Wby NAV | notl Why won't
you do as / ask youm and lrritate the man.
Rather bide your time, make an extra good
dinner of his favorite Dishes put bow on Of
the color he likes, make home and yourself
sweeter than ever. You'll get II sure, even
if you have TO wait Also, when you want
him to do any particular thing which you
know will be for his good, for heavens sake
90 not say edo it.n Rather drop hint that
you think SO and so would be a good thing to
do. Jet him interested, and then let the
subject drop. / venture TO say that in a
short time that man will do precisely rs you
wished; he will never permit you 10 think be
has traded the least bit on your common
sense. Now, some women under such cir
cumstauces would crow over the husband
with ~ told you so, and now come TO my
way OF thinking" Absurd, ladies, absurd
never let a man know you rule him in ali
things, If you can.
l believe that it is perfectly possible to
keep your husband so perpetually in love
with you that he rather likes being ruled
than not. Never ask for a new dress till
after dinner, and never press your husband
to buy what he can't afford How many
men are brought to ruin through the extrav-
agauce of a silly, exacting wifel The reason
| say postpone requests till after feeding
time is because man is so partial to good
food that If it is good, and be has enough of
it, his temper will be so heavenly afterward
that in very gratitude he will be prepared
to do anything in the world for you. Never
be jealous without cause. To be jealous of
the young lady whom your husband sees
home, inwardly wishing her at the devil
and himself in bed, is simply putting
thoughts into his head which would never
have entered otherwise. At the same time,
remember the prayer, LEAD US not into
temptation" and 10 not, on any account,