Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1884-12-03
TIE DecIsnc eG 7sacrimony.
From the New York Mail.

From the New York Wall.
The present eXtIayagant way of living proba-
bly, has much to do with the present falling off
IN the matrimonial field Girls brought up to
every luxury. men with no idea Of honest work
but only Of pamperng their own luxurious
tastes, are not the people to JOIN hands for the
tremendous responsibilities of wedlCck and the
Vicssitudes of life. What in the name of all
that reasonable could the modern dude do to
support family in comfortable circumstances
or more to keep the wolf from the door. But
he has no thought of matrmUny; he puts all his
small brain upon the tit OF his clothes and the
inSipldty of his drinks. He enjoys the society
OF ladies'; O, yes, he affects the girls very
much but into his small heart there never
cTeeps more than nlilk-warm liking for them.
And the girls, Let them be ever so idly
brought up. let their minds be carefully weeded
Of all germs of common sense as
they grow, yet there is an innate
love OF the noble in every pjr;.s
heart that would forever prevent her from fall
ing in love with dude: but if she did happen
to there is not one dude in a thousand would
have the courage TO find it out. And again. the
higher education OF women makes them more
independent more cauabe of a choice. With
it their happiness is more in their own hands
and thus il is found that most divorces are
among the class Of people who still hold to the
custom of an idle life for women. In olden
tit.PS, 10 marry was CONSIDERED almost as sure
fate as to die. The farmers rosy dau.hter spun
the flax or patted the butter into shape with
sweet smile playing about her pretty lips for
soon she knew she would i'm her own home pat
her own butter and spin her own flax. In the
city. the belle lOunged through the day among
flowers and perfumed notes from many adorers.
unable to decide which should be her choice.
Yet positively certain of choosing one But i'm
we Olden time it was considered point OF
extreme honor to be true TO ones sweetheart
Ii one were false to every one else one must
be true to ones lover. In these DAYS honor
is almost a lost art. To be able to deceive
is considered an evidence OF greatest excellence.
To believe what one is told. to trust the honor
OF a given word. is considered as almost imbe-
Gle innocence and simplicity. TODAY there is
no consideration, but advantage. Will it be
step further on in worldly way is the question
which presents itself, Sometimes The answer
Is positively IN the negative. if may be allowed
the term, and very often it is doubtful The
lOve-atteTmarriage literature of the day is a fair
sign OF the times. To marry for advantage or
convenience. and afterwaTd to love ''fOr loves
sake only" is the most accepted plot Of the
more recent words. And this reacts upon So
ciety with a sUbtlety equal TO that Of the flower
pollen which has been discovered by Dr. Mac
kenzie to be the cause Of hay-fever. One cannot
see its action. vet the result is there The want
OF trust and sanctty in the marriage tie the free
opening to women OF other interests and sources
of happiness. and her increasing ability TO stand
alone. are some Of the causes which are filling
our land with single, but capable and useful,
women