Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1884-09-18
Married Life-Roardjny,Uousas

! NOtLIuB ID more usual IN new 1Ork
than for the man just married to take
his young wife to no other home than
Il clearinghouse He does it with the
most laudable intentions IN the world
and with the fixed determination to go
honsepeeping just as soon as his i'm
7 proved prospects will justify him to in
dulge in an increase of expenditure. At
. present it is so nice to sit down to table
without any harassing fear of butchers
! or bakers bills, no wrangles with I'M
| trained servants, no fear of mother-in
laws superior wisdom in household af-
fairs putting your verdant experience
to the blush. 1t is so pleasant to go off
just when you feel like it on little fly
ing trips to the country or a visit to
some friend without leaving a single
doubt or care behind. You can calcu-
late just to nicely what your expenses
amount to, and consequently indulge in
many and unjustifiable little extrava-
gances, which had been great deal
better bestowed in a more useful cause.
And so at the end of the year, though
intensely weary of it all, you have drift
ed into this irresponsible happy-go-
lucky kind of existence, without any
more definite course of action than when
you first started. Your wife, deprived
of all those charming little duties which
constitute the chief pleasure of a mar
RED woman's life, those nice little plans
for identifying and embellishing her
home, in which her faculties for the
comfort of her surroundings find full
scope, has either grown inert and list
less, or she has found other interests
with which to occupy herself AT the
best 1T is vague, purpo less dragging
along OF one day to another, in which
routine or method has no part. The
most important task of her life is how
to kill time most eifectually, or to dis
pose of the day in the least tiresome
manner. Her proper vocation is mis-
sing, she knows no other duty than that
OF self-indulgence, till finally when the
time arrives for you to give her home
she has lost all inclination for it, and
prefers to live on as she has begun.
Perhaps after this the cause for so
many divorces is not far to seek. There
is no country in the world where people
have so little generation for their house
hold goods as in America. The most
luxurious and elegantly appointed
homes are broken generally for
the most trivial reason in the world
with the same easy facility as one would
fold up tent without the least com.
Function in parting with the thousand
and one familiar objects endeared by
long usage and association. Thus the
ruling power receives yearly fresh i'm
petus, and there is no fear of a decay of
its supremacy so long as people will not
recognize that the chief welfare of
nation depends upon the home influence
and associations-to the wife the home;
to the husband the task of providing
for it. If the. former shirks her part of
the marriage contract, it is surely ex-
cusable in the husband to shirk his re-
sponsibilities. The wholesome influence
of numerous obligations, the necessary
sense of weiehty responsibilities, the
beneficial restraint of home ties and
duties, have no part in his life The
edge is taken off his ambition, because
the chief incentive thereto is missing.
He is a regular nomad with a regular
nomad's idea of life Its obligations
and duties press but lightly on him, and
he can pitch his tent wherever he
pleases. His landlady is the only per-
son he fears, because on her depends
his material comfort. That is why he
alternately cajoles and flatters her,
meekly bows his head under his coarse
aespotism, abjectly accedes to her ex-
tortionate demand in raising him."
submits to the most humiliating imper-
tinenreS from the servants and in cbort
lives a perpetual life on sufferance,
while vainly trying to delude himself
into a belief that he is free-born man
and an Independent citizen.-New
York Graphic.