Smyrna times., 1884-02-06
Obligations of Guests.
A FEW WORDS To PERSONS WHO
SOMETIMES GIVE OFFENCE
UNKNOwINGLY.


that should warrant an unannounceC
intrusion into the house of either ,
friend or relative unless it is an under
stood matter between the heads of the
household and the visitor that he O,
she can come and go at will, regardless
OF the condition of the family or the
home.
An accidental visitor, who perhaps
mas Just heard of a friends whore.
aoouts in passing through a city.
should be made welcome, for surely the
Vlsit Is as unexpected to the guest as TO
the host and hostess; but there is no
excuse for a premeditated swooping
uown INTO the centre of the family cir
Gle without saying by your leave. y
particularly when invited guests are
IN the house or are daily expected.
Very disastrous results have trans
pred from unannounced visits. as in
the case of lady who, with her three
children surprised dear friend and
wondered at her panied and embarrass.
ed greeting until informed that two of
hef children were seriously ill with
scarlet fever, and although the visitors
renamed but few moments in the in
fected house all three of the children
caught the fever. One died. wbiIa
another was for years sufferer from
consequent troubles with head and
throat.
One can easily imagine the mortif-
cation OF two young sisters who came n
great distance, upon general invita-
Vlon gwen months before, to pay an ex-
1ehded visit to a schoolmate, and upon
going bag and baggage to the house
found the family had removed six
weeks previously to city very much
nearer their own Western home. and
there they were, friendless in a stranoe
city, without money enough for a re-
turn ticket home.
Upon investigation it will he foupd
that people who make such forced
visits have generally some ulterior OH
Ject III view, and reaching out for if
they make conveniences Of their reIo-
uVes and friends without thought of
either incommoding others or of adapt-
ing themselves to the rules and regu-
lations of the household.
=" dreaded to have her come said
a dear little inexperienced house
mother, with two small children, when
referring to fashionable young rcla-
tive she had in courtesy invited TO
visit her. But" she continued. "after
the first day | dreaded to have her 90
she seemed to fit in so nicely"
VI course she helped you a great |
ueal, suggestively said the friend
Well, no" rehectively answered the
little lady. "She did not, and vet
since | come to think of it she did
ohe was always ready for her meals
ana IN the morning when she walked
out for her health she took the children
with her for company and YOU don't
know what a relief it was! Wbv.
made the work fly while they were
gone and when they came back Won
would have laughed to hear her prac-
ice, as She called playing and singing
III hour at time, with the children
sitting as quiet as small mice"
lave company and go out?" Eyes.
ureiy' for the young lady was really
fashionable, and so were all her friends.
'ut her callers always asked for Ross
'hu me and to show our approval Of
Ter company we would go in the draw
ny room for while, and once she in
lsted on my going out riding with her
nd a gentleman friend, whom we
itsrwards invited to atay to dinner
ecause ne was So kind, and he is now
ne of our most valued friends. Yes.n
ne sighed, 'when Lily left I felt
wfully lonesome and the children I
ried."
Young ladies who are supposed or |
rofess to have been most carefully ,
'alned and guarded at home some !
mes utterly ignore all rules of society, '
ne laws of good breeding and even a
now themselves deficient IN innate /
oliteness when visiting, In all cases Y
ne host and hostess take the position
parents or guardians to the guest. b
no Is placed under their protection. v
nd it is mark of courtesy, if nothing
'ore, for gentleman caller to ask for
lie heads of the household either
efore or when he sends his card or =
anne to the guest. G
" He may be engaged to the voung n
dy."
Then the gentleman has a greater O.
ason than aheying the dictates of
'Ilteness for placing himself and his
'ncee in the correct position in the
'es OF her protectors pro tenn. and
Try few men are selfish enough to
'sire their future wives to become the n
ctims of distrust and suspicion by II
elr disregard of the laws Of society. u
again, gentleman has very slight o. ,.
nse Of Propriety who will keep a IL =,
'ang lady up until twelve O'Clock at "
ght' In a strange house, while the a
cary hostess, whose usual hour for re- 81
ing is ten O'Clock, sits up, impatient :,
waiting to close the house. Not az
ly are these late hours to be con- a'
mned, unless justified by an engage "'
ent acknowledged and permission ,
anted by the lady who takes the u'
nee of mother to the young girl, al
{ still greater breach of courtesy,
EN- If engagement exists, is to close
parlor door, thereby not only shut IS
g out callers on members of the ~
nily, but placing the young lady in a
'st e9UiyoGal position. an
Another unpleasant fault of the
visitor is to ignore the din ~ y,
hour, regardless of the fact that st 81
rtain preparations are made, and that ~ ~
is not always convenient to keen the Ie %
'al waiting sometimes two bonrs sn