The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1884-04-10
Young Men and MaitlenS.

1t is common and startling remark
nowadays that young men cannot afford
to marry. If this be true, society is in
great danger If only the rich can ia ke
to themselves wives, not only will the
race dwindle, but it will dwindle through
the vicious channels. am inclined to
think that the aphorism is satanic, and
therefore lie. do not believe that
young men canno. afford to marry, any
more than they could not afford to, fifty
or Il hundred years ago. believe that
society, with all its ingenuity in the
devils service, caunot so order things as
to prevent the honest union of young
men and maidens, and married life.
God has not constituted marriage as the
normal condition of humanity, and then
rendered the condition an impossibility
to the mass of mankind The order to
Noah's posterity, "Be fruitful and multi.
ply" was no special appointment of the
rich as the inheritors of the earth. God
has no respect for persons, and if it were
possible to conceive of partiality in God,
we should say that he leaned to the side
of the poor. The Scriptures take it for
granted that every man has n wife and
every woman has a husband, c.rceptis ec.
cipicndis. Any idea that resists this SEX
ual sympathy is perverse and pestilerous.
| have seen many cases of this sup.
posed can't afford to marry disease, and
examined many, and always found symp-
toms proved another complaint altogeth-
er. The diagnosis had been utterly
false, 1t was a dou't-want-to-marry
trouble that was enecting the patient.
This was the story Formosa had dwelt
in marble halls and clothed herself in
acres of purple or fhe linen. Marriage
with her means thousand year. So
look at my two thousand, and can't afford
to marry. Formula. wise, and truthwise,
it is this Foolish girls wish to live idle,
pampercd and fashionable lives, and
foolish young men are seeking after the
foolish girls. In such a complication,
marriage loses its meaning; and it is
very natural for young men to say, II
cannot afford to marry" The truth is
be can't afford to marry after the style
aforesaid, and he does not wish to marry
in a sensible style, to which his two
thousand would say Amen. But there
are others than foolish girls in the world.
There are girls of simple tastes, Of mod.
est mien, industrious habits, and unset
fish hearts. You are not apt to find them
in the Highways or in conspicuous places.
They make the best wives in the world,
while the Saratoga thing makes the
worst. Look for them at home, not in
society-that 6zzling, bubbling caldron,
where pride, vanity and vapidity, sea.
soncd with vice, sputter into assimilation.
Find them helping in nursery, pantry,
kitchen, not sauntering with brazen stare
on frequented promenade, or daudling
among French novels in the boudoir.
Don't be desperate, my dear fellow,
and say there is no such girl as l describe.
know better. 1 don't blame you for
thinking so when you judge from the
article that lies around loose in the city
of New York. But change your sphere
of observation. Go into quieter paths.
Don't be dazzled by mere plumage.
Parrots and peacocks are not nightngales.
The true girl has to be sought for. She
does not parade herself As show goods.
She is not fashionable. Generally sheis
not rich. But O! what heart she has
when you find her! so large, and pure,
and womany! When you see it, you
wonder # those snowy things outside
were really women. If you gain her
love, your two thousand are Il million!
she'll not ask you for 4 carriage and a
first class house. She'll wear simple
dresses and turn them when necessary,
with no vulgar magni6cence to frown
upon her economy. She'll keep every
thing neat and nice in your sky-parlor
and give You such welcome when you
come home that you'll think your parlor
higher than ever She'll entertain true
friends on dollar, and astonish you at
the lhought--how very little happiness
depends on money! She'll make you
love home (if you don't you're q brute)
and teach you how to pity while you
scorn poor, fashionable society that
thinks itself rich, and vainly tries to
think itself happy.
Now do not, pray you, say any more,
II can't afford to marry" Go, find the
true woman, and you can. Throw away
that cigar, burn up that switch cane, be
sensible yourself and seek your wife in
sensible way.-Reu. I, D. 7alnaage.