Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1884-1886, 1884-07-04
SOCIAL AMBITION.
The Deceits, Devices and Struggles
of Getting Into Society.
Perseverance and P-OdIgallty Of
Those Who Have Faith fn Pecu.
nfOusneSs-A Pacific Million.
aires Mistake
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While money alone will not accomplish so
cial victories, money, united to something
else, will perform proiigies- This is com.
mercial age, and commercial capital, and
money is 50 necessary To the support Of social
movements Of any kind that it can not be ig-
noGed- The mistake of pushing people arises
from their excess Of faith in Iscuniousness.
unsustained and unreieved. II they would
push less, manage more adroitly, and prac-
tice a moderate degree CT patience,
they might produce results that they
hardly dream Of. Society is always
suspicious Of pushers from the simple
fact of their pushing. They may push in
private as much as they like; it is their
open pushing that Injuries them, rendering
their effort vain and defeating their special
purpose If family of large means, with
tact, and without vulgarity, should be soc-
ally ambitious, it might achieve its ambition,
when family Of much larger means Of a
clumsy, pushing disposition would be frus-
trated III all its attempts at advancement
DOLLARS AND SENSE.
Actual instances may be cited in proof Of
this A man with number of millions came
here several years since from the west, and
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OF humble origin and slenderly educated
he is reputed TO have begun life by keeping a
grocery in village of Westchester county
be is quiet III manners free from pretense,
and exceedingly fond Of money. He had
but two children-a girl possessed Of good
sense and good education, without beauty
or briliiancy, and a son not above medioc-
rity, though kind-heartei aud of pleasant
address. Neither he nor his wife seemed de-
sirouS of social prominence or to take any
PAINS 70 secure it. But, after while, the
Young man married the daughter of
a man of historic antecedents, belonging to
one of the most distinguished families in the
republic. The daughter found husband in
| n conspicuous citizen who has made his own
way by ability, perseverance,, force Of char
acter, and self-confidence The western par
venus now move in what is considered the
best circles, and do these no discredt But
! if they had not had great wealth, which rem
dered alliance with them advantageous, they
and their children would have remained out
side the pale 1t is probable enough that the
western Cruesus, who was eminent in the fin
ancial world before coming here to reside,
managed the connubal campaign Of his chill
! dren, as he has managed SO many enterprises
of different, though scarcely more difficult,
nature
DISAPPOINTED PURSE-PRIDE.
Another millionaire broke up his home on
the Pacific slope, decade, since to found
one in this city, with the evident object Of
getting into metropolitan society. His OBJ
ject was too evident, and his purse-vanity
was noisy and offensive. He had not the art
Of hiding his defects, or of deferring TO
otheis and his wife and daughters were de-
void of the instincts which, with the other
sex, often count for more than birth or
breeding They spent deal Of money i'm
pursuance of their design; they hal splen-
did mansion; they had superb carriages;
they bought pictures, books, bric-a-brac
in profusion; they were Respondent at the
opera; they pushed hard, steadily and long;
but all their efforts miscarred. They were
not received by anybody whose recognition
they coveted; they coull not get over the
first barrier erected against them, and they
we're obliged at last TO surrender. They were
greatly disappointed at their failure; they
denounced the society they could not enter,
calling il vulgar vulgar persons are gener-
ally the readiest to apply the word to Others
sordid, corrupt, contemplate, odious, dis
g,isting. They went abroad and settled il
Paris, where they take solid comfort in ahis
ing America and Americans TO whoever will
listen TO them-,Sually their compatriots Of
their own grade
GREAT SOCIAL MISTAKES.
The same mistake is frequently made here
by persons who ought TO know better. They
imagine that money is all that is needed
FOR social position in New York, and with
this belief they quit the interior town OF
village where they have secured their fortunes
to dsport themselves in Manhattan. On
arrival they discover that wealth in the
country is not wealth in the capital; that a
million there is only an independence here;
and that to make a show, which is
their chief aim, requires vast In
come. Still, they are bent on so
doing. They are prodigal to this end,
but they learn ere long that prodigality
brings not what they want. Their costly
drawing rooms are silent; their handsome
furniture is unadmired; their luxuriously
furnished table has no guests Is it possible.
they ask themselves, that wealth will not act
as an open sesame to the best houses: They |
perceive their error in time; but they do not |
avow it. They assume, instead, to get tired |
of New York; they find that it is not health |
full or agreeable or convenient, or some |
thing else, and they remove with their house, |
bold goods to their former home and indulge |
their Imagination in rehearsing their expert |
ence in Manhattan. They often eretend that |
they liked the city and would have been glad |
to stay-they had 50 many delightful friends |
if it had not been for mammals health, or |
papa's business
Ridden TO TIE FEAST.
Repeatedly it has happened that families |
have come here from the country and, with
out introdGctions, or any of tho regular
forms, have given entertainments for notable
persons with whom they had no acquaint-
ance. They coul not see why those invited |
should not accept, since they might be sure
Of good fare and warm welcome. They were
actually surprised when no attention was
paid to their notes, and were overlooking
with Indignation at such rudeness. So igno-
rant Were they Of social laws and social Gus
toms, that they were incapable of under
standing why kindly intent should not
be respected, and polite invitations
answered by personal presence Such
thing would not DO possible
except for the false reputation fastened on
Now York by irresponsible chroniclers, who
maintain that the sole care Of New Workers
is for money: that money will secure any
thing; shield anything: efface anything;
that money is omniScient, omnipresent,
and omnipotent. A large portion of the in
telliGent public, in divers parts Of the coun-
try, appears to lie unaware that the metropo-
lis is ether than commercial The simple
truth is that it is like any other great city;
that it abounds i'll defects, in misgovern-
ment. in greed, selfshness, vice and crime
but il has another side which it is not printed
in the newspapers, and it may lay claim to .
society not entirely mercenary.
Pastors Pointed AnnOtation.
The London Christian World prints the
guide to the service, lately
banded TO the Ensl ish minister in whose pul-