Reporter and farmer. [volume] (Webster, Day County, Dakota [S.D.]) 188?-1946, 1884-08-07
EARIY MARRIAGES:
The Two sidss Of the Picture Matrimonial
Small Incom 20, 1asty Weddings and
Long Rcgrets-The Dancing Nan'svalus
In Society.

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Ths Two sidss of the Picture Matrimonial
Small rncom 20, 1asty Weddings and
Long Rcgrets-xhe Dancing Nan'svalus
In Society.
Philadelphia Press
So long as the cat is left in company
with the cream Jug theeream viii be alb
sorbed," and so long as young people Of
both sexes are allowed to meet freely in
social intercourse there viii be more or
less marrying and giving in marriage.
1t is greatly to DO feared that with
the proyerbial thoughtlessness of youth,
the young people will not stop to con
slider the question Of ways and means,
nor calmly calculate whether they shall
be able 10 gather sticks in sufficient
quantity TO keep the matrimonial pot
boiling. Tom, with d lovers ardor,
will probably forget to inquire. before
marriage, whether Jemima Is capable
Of cooking dinner, while Jemima, on
her part, is just as likely 10 be left in
blissful ignorance whether Tom has a
bank account, outside of his salary,
which will ensure there being d dinner
TO cook as we'll as a kitchen wherein to
cook it.
1t is all a mistake to say that two
people % live as cheaply rs one; for
proof controyertive you have only toask
for rates at any clearinghouse
For example, Augustus manages to
support life quite endurably on his sal
asy Of $40 or Sl5 per week; perhaps
even maintains a certain position in So
ciety thereon, but he would never dream
of asking Augusta ia shareit. III heidi,
Augusta, with her worldly wisdom,
would think him demented or tipsy. Six
dollars a week pays for hIs bedroom on
the fourth faor of the respectable board
ing house, which he patronizes, or, per-
haps he rents q small furnished room,
and trusting TO occasional invitations
to dinner, takes his meals on the Euro
pean plan. The rest of his salary, with
close economy, keeps him in clothes,
gloves and cigars, with at occasional
theatre ticket and admission to the OPP
era on gala nights. His weil-kept dress
suit does not often need renewal, and
dancing men are always in request at
parties.
But what on earth could he do with
a wife? Angels and ministers of grace
defend US. Where are Augusta's
dresses TO come from? How is even
the board bill for two, instead of one,
to be paid? How could they expect
people" to visit them? So he dances
on, hoping vainly to find a rich wife,
while she, ON her part knows that her
duty to herself requires that her hus-
band shall be able TO give her at least
the Injuries to which she has been ac-
customed and keeps detrimentals at a
safe distance.
ORR they forget themselves so far as
to marry, in all probability both of them
are miserable, since neither can help
looking back with longing eyes
TO the world whence they have shut
themselves by their wedding.
To insure happiness IN married life
there must be perfect support, thorough
sympathy as we'll as sincere affection
between the twain who have been made
zone flesh" When there is wealth and
10 spare, less may answer, but for the
welded pair who, while two in heart,
must bear the priyations of poverty as
one, life is hard indeed. While love
may not actually "sweeten sugarless
tea," it undoubtedly does much to rem
der the cup less n~auseous. That woman
can not be altogether unhappy who
knows that she is the light Of her hus-
bands e~yes-that man capnot be utterly
discouraged who knows that, come what
may, his wife believes in him thoroughly.
While it is not always q safe expert
ment, a man, if he be worthy the name,
will often work the harder, and win sue
cess in the face of apparently insur-
mountable obstacles because he has Civ
en- hostages to fortune. More than one
man has won his laurels chiefly because
he could not bear TO disappoint the
woman whose faith in him might have
moved mountains, when left to himself,
he had probably sat down content with
a little success.
A good wife is seldom, il ever, ahind-
rance to a man, md it has passed into a
proyerb that marriage either makes o
mars a man." at is not good for man
lstill less woman) to be alone" and,
however willingly single blessedness may
have beon chosen, there are few who In
such case do not sometimes feel how
hard a thing it is TO look at happiness
through other peoples eyes" Still
marriage is by no means TO be lightly
entered into. A q wise old lady used
TO say, never marry anybody until you
are quite sure that you cannot be COM
Portable without them.
But if two people be Of sound health
in mind and body, love each other
truly, and have a reasonable certainty
of an income sufficient to keep the wolf
from the door, let them not fear to
marry, provided always that they are
willing to give up all attempt at fash
ionable display, and without dread Of
Mrs. Gruudy, steadily TO live within
their income and for each other.
The famous speech of Micawb2r on
domestic finance should be framed in
gold as a wedding gift TO every young
couple-it contains the whole secret in
a nutshell.
In marrying under any circumstances
do not hope for happiness pure and
simple; il is not to be fosnd on earth.
Married or single, you will have trou-
BILE, and the troubles of married life,
being less selfish, are usually easier to
bear. When two people love each
other truly, troubles serve only to bind
them closer together; certain it is that
gold tried in the fire can never more