Union County courier. [volume] (Elk Point, Union County, D.T. [S.D.]) 187?-1913, 1884-05-21
The Marriage Question.


Ia France the parents make the
match. saws London S .citty. Ii not AS
as oslensiblv, vet no loss really is this
often done in England. II Is not the
man, but the maintenance. which IS
uppcrm )st in the parental thoughts.
Ii is painful to reflect, while taking
survey OF the matches OF fifty years
experience. how rarely we ever could
detect that the character of man.
otherwise cligib g. influenced the pa
rental decision. For the most part. al
the evidence offered of q man being a
scamp or prciiigaie is set aside as
envy, malice. and, al unchar!.abit ness.
or els. with the remark: "Weil. all
voung men are Wild, cut they grow
s.cadr when tLcT are married. we
once heard lady. in speaking OF a
matrimonial cvcn just coming oa. say:
Gap Ia. ma ch; tirst-ra;e caance Tor
E en-. Not u, al the sort OF mHn. we
sis know, that sic ever intended to
MARI, uut no. one woman in twenty
does ret that Cergain.y IN this me?
haYe an advantage. for they can choose;
The ladies' must submit TO be chosen.
save in the case OF some remarkable
But these advantages on the side OF the
gentlemen are lces than they Seem.
Their choice is anything but Tree as far
az reason IS concerned. Thev are the
victims OF . natural Illusion. They
| choose from the casrn anu fancy OF
| the hour. or the pride OF possessing
some Lady Clara Vrre de We're, or
some simpering d mpled doll, while All
the companiouablc qualities and that
sunshine of tho heart which relieves
! the darkest while il adds warmth TO
/ brightest days of ihis chHckertd l.fc are
rarely even named among men as the
motive Of their choice. Truly ''mar'
riagc is the door that leads deluded
! mortals back 10 earth, and, rs with
| many pretty bargain mat nas cHugh;
our fancy in saop window. gr nj Is
| the disenchan, mcut when we have
| brou Ill il home.
The married ladies in the ballroom
are the pests of tie poor m&mmas. Tney
have attained the ol ject of all balls
and dancing. and yet tncy have not the
| grace 10 feel for and give place tc
| Young girls who Sit in rows against the
walls. Men prefer the married wo
men, and why? They can Indulge in
kind OF conversation at which We
hons ihal IN ssrille 81 Ecsnc.a -nlxe4 : II.
single would turn away. 1T is strange
that The husbands should endure to SCI
their wives whisked and whirled ant
dragged about. we'll knowing that th'
so-cailed wai,zing and gnllopadiny ri
ways, unless unusually well done, de
generates into little better than I'm
seemlv romping; indeed, no one woul'
believe in its Innocence if seen, wher
we seriously believe it would not b
tolerated, in Piccadilly saloon.
fact: a dressmaker who had seen fron
an orchestra the dancing now in fash
ion, when asked by lady next da
how she had been entertained, replied
II suppose it is all right in high life
but in our line of life no young ma
would dare 10 take such liberties wit
Il -ro..nr w7ornen. ''--- No, madam, YOU
daughters prospects never can be bel
ter for being exposed TO such scenes q
these. least of all in the new fashion
able costume Of skirt and pair c
shoulderstrans. 1t is not the sensIor
but the sentimental that should pr
vail. The free-and-easy dancer, nc
) the graceful young lady of proper dig
nifty and self-respect, takes the lead
modern bathroom, and foolish 1t
l.. for the really modest and reserved
compete in such sphere. Grantee
they may enjoy it, and You may enjo
il, too. Ii so, be happy in yoar ow
way. Only for Introducing you
daughters and looking to the ma
chance, we can not recommend sue