Wichita daily eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1884-1886, 1884-07-25
WOMAN AND HONE.
Fl u1IAAA al /
What Dame Grundy Says the Fair
Sex Must Nc Do.
Abopinnatioen. Of che Raek-Hnrd-
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aud Old Maids-NIofnon.
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George Eliot once said to Chicago woman
who was attending summerevenIng recep-
ton at her English home. that if body onsy
knew what NOT to do be would he pntty AT
10 ge. through this troublesome world with
few OF. no heavy scratches That very many
well-meaning people who attempt to make
this pilgrimage socially are scratched, and
BADLY scratched, too there can be no doubt.
Il is not that they lack observation, hut there
are so many incidents coming upon them I'M
aware that novice is really at a ioes TO
know what to do with herself. True, there
are books on etiquette not only for street,
church and theatre, but for sea and land, III
the saddleseat and the carriage, and
to regulate the conduct III almost
every room in the modern home. No pro
vision. however. is made for the ifs and butts
of everyday life, and for the benefit OF the
timorous little traveller whose every step Is
apprehensiye we recapitulate the mandates OF
Dame Grundy under the iacoiic Don't"
Don't refuse a seat in a crowded car or pub
lie conveyance Of any kind IL is not only
the pTerogative but the duty Of a man to ex-
tend that courtesy, and polite acceptance
will not only show that you accept it but APP
preciate his anticipation of your comfort.
Don't make yourself conspicuous by loud
talking or boisterous laughter, and avoid
those petty sk,mishes which so many ladies
playfully engage in when one pays the car-farc
and the other enters into, competition. Those
things hurt the taste OF gentlemen, and what
is more ~ be regretted, hurts the reputation
of the lady who INDUCES in them. There Is
no need to call the conductor gay" II mo-
ton of the hand Will not suffice. address him
by his calling; or, better, request him to
please stop the car.
DSn't give your photograph to men nor ask
for theirs
Don't accept any presents from men unless
they le flowers candies, or al inexpensive
book
Don't allow yourself to lie under ohiiga-
ton 10 any man. 49,. .
Don't drink wine or intoxicants at enter
tainInents. A.snali glass Of wine or cham
payne at the end Of party will he as inrig-
Grating it is harmless, but it does not look
well To see women. especially girls, drink
liquors whenever they are asked.
Don't be the leader of any picnic, surprise
party, dancing club, or the like, especially II
gentlemen are to be present Those organiza-
tons belong to men, and they should have the
privilege also of selecting their own arntse-
ment.
Don't sell tickets for anything outside OF
youi own family circles While your friends
may not like to refuse your irresistible cam
vassing they are very apt to pass adverse
criticism on your lack of circumspection.
Don't flirt for the sake of flirting and don't
encourage any mans attention unless you feel
very certain that his company may not
become disaarceable.
Don't use slang nor in common parlance,
try to be smart by saying curt things and
doing odd ones.
Don't allow man to treat you with any
thing but the greatest respect, nor hesitate an
instant 10 resent AN impertinencc any APP
proach To familiarity Of actipnor speech. A
woman is the sweetest creature the Lord
ever made, and she is not only entitled to,
but should be worthy of the most profound
consideration
Don't GSsocatc with girls who have the
reputation of being loud in their taste or
coarse in their manner. Sucn associations
will IMPURE you in the estimation of right
minded people. - - b 3 ~ ~
Don't take an Introduction, or allow any
man to be presented save through your
brother or father, unless lac first sends n re
quest. and not even then unless you are GER
tain that his acquaintance will be desirable
Don't salute any man on the street who
does not remove his cigar from his mouth at
y,alr approach, nor carry on any conversation
indoors until his head is uncovered.
Don't discuss your family affairs in public
nor speak complainingly of your parents or
relatives Remember they are the best you
can have, and it viii rebound to your interest
us well rs pleasure to hide the faults that can
not bo cured.
Don't write any more letters than you can
possibly avoid, and then say just as little as
Your rhetoric viii enable you. 1t was the
boast of Chnteaubrand that he never wrote a
letter and nerer lost ono.