New-York tribune., 1884-03-09


of society is very complete organization. Inc
moment a man is known 10 one of the brotherhood
| "a desirable acquaintance he quickly becomes
| known 10 a wide circle The beginning oi nay
wards ascendencv must date from the nrst intro
tons-however they came about Here was new
I talker a man who could enliven dnner-table' ahu
/ be was welcome accordingly. His supremacy ana
I authority came later He took immense pains. lie
/ amassed facts He knew everything about every
! body. His memory marvellous ia It's tehaol'y.
Later in life, people who did not like HAYWARD us'u
! to say he was asked everywhere because ne was
( feared everywhere. No doubt lie was feared.
man who knew enough to sha'tei
/ or at least TO shake half the reputations IN the
room might well be feared But that Il only an
! incidentally no means the foundation OF esseh'iai
support of his position
The truth. or part of the truth. is thai he cultl-
waited conversation and every OtheTelement Of social
success as a fine art. He studiedat and pract9ed II
! "a Millais and Tadema study and practise painting
| II was the business of his life. He talked on d
SYSTEM the first rule of which was never TO seem
! TO talk on a system. The rarest of all conVersa-
tiona powers Is the power of relation or narrative
/ The least prolxitv or confusion Is fatal. hayward
went 10 the point of a story an arrow goes 20 IlS
mark: not less swift and direct and sure. lie kne"
something on every subject. hut he was never dl
| dactic and never pedant1c. He had prorouhdI'
meditated on La Rochefoucauld's remark, that CON
! hdence supplies more than wit TO the burden o.
! talk He would be heard, and he would be ad-
| uired. and be was. Ii was never monooCue. He
detested nonologue and used to say that Macaalay
was insu9portable He cared little for the roputa-
! ton of mere wit and drollery he despised.
! DespOtic, an enemy might say. Very likely hc
was Certainly as age came upon him the dIsilk'
TO interruption grew, and possibly 1t sometimes
became intolerance. There is story OF Sunday
dinner al Straw berry Hill which heard more than
once An eminent Frenchman was among the
guests H had a Frenchmans ideas about conver-
sation aud perhaps a Frenchman's ambition 70
shine He talked well and much. He cut into
Hayward best stories, and such was his own ski.
as a racOnteur. helped no doubt, by The irasAhc>,
and novelty Of his stories and his style, that h'
held the table and fairly talked the EnglIslnnaIi
down. After dinner. Hayward went up to his
hostess and said TO her with that familiarity
which was his habit: Lady WaldegraVc,
Won really must not have Count X here
TO dine again" But why, Nj HAYWARD
Because he spoils conversation The anecd0te
was one which Lady Wadegrave herself told. with
the friendly gOod-nature she invariably showed 70
HAYWARD She was his friend TO the last. When
people talked If giving him IN, she always an
4wered: Never. He has been my friend and he has
amused vOu all for forty years. She might have
added. save for politeness sake. that Hayward wa,
much more likely to give them mp than they him.
There were people who insisted they bad heard a
his stories that he had grown tlreSome that ey
were going TO drop him, and 80 on. But his socla'
prestige survived TO the last.
HAYWARD had anupathleS, urged those who had
an antpathy for him. such things are likely
enough to be reciprocal but | don't think II wa
true OF him I'll the IN which II was meant he
hated things rather than people; qualities and de-
fects of character. He could not endure man to
ne slovenly of mind, Inaccurate loose IL talk.
When such one came in his way, still more II h.
put himself in his way, Hayward was mercIless. II
Il pretenGer undertook tn contradict him, or sci INN
right OF 10 tell story wrongly, woe unto lin.
hayward would breakiTon him, correct him, reteh
his story accurately in half the words. and leave
hIn with a rambling sense of having made fool of
himself which lasted long. That l. the origin Of
half the enmities 10 Hayward to he heard
Of in London right and left. 1t mattered
not in what company the fool betrayed
lis folly Hayward feared nobody. 1t was one
secret Of his success He made his courage and hi
power felt uy friends and by foes. He aJi3cAc.
/ ord Beaconsteld lone man whom he really hated
iust rs freely as he attacked Lord Baacon>ned
atest parOdist and parasite. He delivered his Grill
cisms on Carlyle with much liberty of speech as
if he was gbbeting (which ne often did >ome NV
YreteuIer whom Carlyle himself would have 9!oe-
fully Joined ia dis,ecrng. Probably he meyer
wrote an article which gave him keener de ight
han anthememorable paper IN win n he convicted D.
raeii Of appropuauug without credit passage from
Thcrs's culogy on Marshal +. CIR and eu1odFne |
il in hs own speech on the Duke of Wellington. f.
added zest to his task that he was able TO demon
irate that the passage had not been borrowed from
Thers. hut was bodily transfer OF an iucorrnrf
translation which had appeared in JEc l0wMg /
C.ronic7e As 10 CARLYLE, Hayward thought. per- /
hans that some Of the honor bestowed ON Carlyle !
for introducing Goethe ard German literature in |
general 10 the English public belonged 70 himself
As il did some also 10 Coerdge lie would equally |
insIs-. He denied TO Carlyle the originality hi, |
disciples claimed for him. The only or tual book /
Carlyle ever wrote, cried Hayward, was Sartor Re |
sartus. and the only original idea in thai Is bor-
rowed from the Tale of a Tub" II would be diff |
cult to deny that the substance of the Clothes |
Philosophy Of Herr Geu,csdr0cK had previously |
beer expounded by Swift. I am sorry 70 >Iy thar
Mil was one Of the objects of Hayward dislike.
and that his conduct 70 Mill VIII uot admit Of |
complete defence.
Nobody knew better than Hayward. however
intOierant he might he what wa, due 10 the com
al a country house, asked my hostess who were ~
be the Saturday 10 Monday party. She mentioned |
Hayward and two other we-known men, both of
them in a way, good takers. and neither supposed
TO IKE the third, nor Yet each other She
in cODsteTnatOn when She heard this, but IL was
too late To make any change, aud the three duly
arrived. As they were all three zen Of the world
and of good breeding, there was no particular rea-
son for alarm except that the party might not
go off" well. In poIut of fact nothing
could have gone oil better, The three
were civil to each other, of course, and the two
wi hose meeting was most dreaded became almost
friendly Dinner passed off without IA single COZ
lisOn between Hayward and either Of the other two.
So did the more perilous hours IN the smokinC-room
after the ladies' had gone 10 bed Ii Is pleasure 70
recollect that the only point on which Hayward
grew warm was IN behalf of great American.
one Of the party said something in dspaTagemeIt
of Franklin. about whom he evidently knew moth
ing / SAID what | could. and Hayward broke in
with cry of encouragement: "You are right
YOU are perfectly right. Franklin was right; no !
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