The Monitor. [volume] (Woodstown, N.J.) 1884-1892, 1884-08-08
MAKING HI PLEASANT AT HOME.

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In daily intercourse constant effort is
made to please by those who love peace.
They best succeed who take the simpler
method of aiming not to displease. To
succeed in the avoidance of offence giving
is the true success. To discover your hus-
bands, your wife's, or your friends spe-
cial aversion, and to keep the discovery to
yourself, while you studiously keep them
out Of sight and hearing either by deed or
word, is true courtesy and friendship.
The relation of husband and wife has
ever been favorte theme for the filings of
satirists, or for the insane jokes of would
be humorists, just as the latter class keep
at the peor haekneyed jokes about mothers
in-law, old maids and boarding house fare.
A recent compiler has been at the pains to
makeupa book ofexcerpts from the writings
of Jean Paul Richter Ofcourse, under its
due head, appear quotations upon mar
rage and married life. AS Jean Paul was
late learner in this field of experience, the
sentences under this head may probably be
classed with bachelor vagaries-of all mat
rimonal dicta the most absurd. A foreign
author should not be held accountable for
translator's bunders, but one must smile
at the following :s''There are very few mar
ried women who will put their hand into
their husbands. and say, There; I'm
good again without a very considerable
hesitation and delay; unmarried women
are much more ready to do it." To do
what For an unmarried woman to put
her hand in her husbands hand would
seem to be of piece with many other inn
practicable things which are demanded of
the people of the feminine gender. And,
seriously, protest may be entered, by
women married and single, against the
foregone conclusion that the woman is
always in the wrong. She naturally, with
''hesitation and delay" assents to the re-
quitement that she must take the position
of the perpetual culprit.
Again Jean Paul says: '''rhe fact is
that the very strongest and toughest of
men cannot hold out, in the long run,
against the everlasting feminine sulking
and undermining" The woman who has
husband everlasting strong and rough
would seem to need some protection against
him. For the sheer sake of little peace
and quictness, man who may have sworn
thousand oaths before marriage that he
of life, comes. in the long rum to let his
wife have hers" ut serves him right is
the verdict What business has a man, be-
fore marriage or after, to swear, even one
man who goes into matrimony, or con-
tracts common friendship, with the idea
that his will and wish is always to be para
mount, soon loses his friends, and would
lose his own wife too if she could decently
get away from him. ..lsl t..
| There are strong likes and dislikes in all
men and women of marked character; and,
as already said, the secret of friendship III
general and of married comfort in particu-
lar is in a mutual avoidance of things dis
agreeable, and in mutual tolerance of
small peculiarities 1t must honestly be
confessed that in the duty of forbearance
women have much the most to do and to
suffer And they do it in the main cheer
fully, or if they sometimes betray their
vexation by silence, who can wonder? The
ideal wife of Richter is one, ''who, with
feelings delicate and tender, and a heart
both pious and wide, should be continually
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Such woman would be an idol in the
house but how does it fare with her when
her idolatrous husband like some other
dolators, beats his idol--if not with actual
-Phila. Ledger. .-..-