The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1884-01-10

l am going to tell you this week abou
some Of our social rules here which govern
Everything we do, and which, understand
fdiffer in many respects in other cities, &c
that you very probably may not be aware
Of them oil. The subject was suggested &c
me the other evening at Kitty Jones'
where went 10 go with her TO the Patri'
archs' ball. You know Kitty has some
Baltimore cousins, and one, very pretty
|gir), had come on for the ball, and it was
also her FIRST visi. 10 New York. Kitty was
lust putting the finishing touches to her
hair-you remember how that girl does
love to prtnk-when Ida Catrol!tou, the
Baltimore girl, suddenly said: "Isn't 1t
most time Tor Charlie Tompkjns TO come
for you, Kitty" "What do you mean?
almost ga,ped Kitty. "Why, isn't he going
to dance the german with lSou, and doesn't
lie consequently take youto the ball aud
backw In response to our horriied ex.
clanations that dear, innocent, little Bal
timorean then and there proceeded to tell
uB that at home, whenever man invited
her to dance the german at bali; it meant
that he should take her TO the ball room
and home again alone. Just fancy Mr.. r.
and skipping home from the Patriarchs
at 9 o'clock in tho morning, or BIB and
Ii iss Rimmer appearing a. the +. O. D. @.
together!
We'll, then, you must know that the only
place 9 man and girl can 20 together in
New York without a chaperone il to
church, and then, too, only in the daytime.
don't mean to cay that this rule Is not
often broken and .oftener evRded, but it ia
still the rule which governs society people,
and girl always run certain risk when.
ever she breaks it. You may, OF course,
walk with man on the avenue or Broad.
way, but not after dark unless you are
coming home from "tea" or afternoon re-
ceptioH. Perhaps I had better adopt Bob's
plan in giving advice to his friend last
week, who. by the way, is getting along
very well, and put tho rule as-dont's:
Don't offer to shake hands vixen man is
Introduced 10 you, and don't feel it neces
sarv to do so when he says good bye unless
he first extends his.
Don't feel it necessary to bow TO man
YOU have met at ball or q party alter
ward pnlees you want to continue his
acquaintance.
Don't aaow any man 10 be introduced to
you unless by your brother or father, until
you have iirst given your permission.
Don't give this permission unless you
are sure he will bs a desirable acquaint-
auce. ,.5
Don't write, except when it cannot be
avoided, 10 men. Make all your notes &C.
knowledgIng cour!eafes, ETC., short and to
the point, and don't indulge in any cores
pendence without your mothers full
knowledge and peEmission.
Don't make yourself conspicuous at any
time by loud talking or laughing.
Don't wear much jswelry; plain ring or
1.-TWO, perhaps bangle and one or two
handsome pins, are quite sufficient. -
Don't speak disrespecin!ly or complain.
inglY OF your father and mother, or OF any
thing they may do, and don't discuss your
family Affairs in general conversation.
Don't over dress yourself. Wear the
most tasteful dresses you can, and have
them made in the fashion, but not 20 much
go as to attract attention.
Don't give your photographs to men, and
don't ask them Tor theirs. ''577
Don't accept any presents from men save
! flowers OF bonbons, and don't allow even
these 10 be sent often by the same person.
Don't allow yourself to be under obliga.
tons to any man. -
Don't use the terms lady and gentleman
friends, or even lady and gentleman, when
man or girl or woman will answer. This
rule, Of course, admits OF modification.
Don't, encourage any mans attentions
unless you feel you may be able to become
fond Of him, aud don't Tint for the sake Of
flirting. 7T
Dsn't boast that you don't read the
newspapers as many girls do nowadays.
Don't think it necessary to read all the
daily or weekly journals contain, but keep
yourself informed on the art, literary, co.
cial and political topics Of tho day.
Don't fail to always try to be honest and
just and generous, aud above all, womanly.
Don't Try to be masculine, aud avoid any
tendency in thought, action or speech
that might gain for you the appella!iou Of
''strong.minded."
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