, 1884-12-11

lcor. san Francisco News letter.
However, supposing you have a husband
whom you wish TO twirl around your little
finger, you must first love him with all your
heart. with NIL your SOUL etc, etc, and the
love you feel will make it possible to put up
with all those little discrepancies which crop
out in mans nature when you come TO live
with him; for tho best Of men become monot-
onous after a while. In the first place, should
your husband DO n map of business, who
comes home tired to death, cross, and worn
out, do not at once entertain him with the
troubles you have gone through during the
day. Do not rehearse tho shortcomings Of the
servants or the disobedience Of the children.
Meet him with a smile, kiss him, take his hat
and overcoat from him and let him severely
alone until he has toned down his irritability
with a good dinner; after which he will be In
n position TO listen to anything you may
have to say; but l always found 1t an excel
lent plan to hide disagroeables entirely from
n husbands notice. Men don't want TO nave
a repetition OF annoyances at homo when
they have 10 many In their daily path out
side, and, believe me, the effect Of keeping
household bubbles out Of your husbands
knowledge wonderfully enhance your value
as a wife. have seen so many nrrant fools
fly at their husbands the moment they enter
the house, and there and then give a de
tailed account of the troubles of the whole
day, even taking to tears as an argument
on their side-and Obi how men hate tears;
how they detest household details-and, be-
ing naturally selfish, in q fact hate anything
that puts them out at home; and they arc
right. The breadwinner ought to be TO
lieved Of domestic jars.
OF all things, when your husband comes
home see that the dinner Is well cooked.
Don't make n row because the meat Is under
lone or burnt to n stick. Rather go into the
kitchen yourself and see that everything is
CONNIE II faut You donit know how q man
appreciates a loving welcome and a good
dinner after the toll of the day. Put your
self In HIS place, ench woman who has to toll
for n fatherlesa flock. You don't like to
come to a cloudy atmosphere and an i'll
cooked meal. You think you are at least en-
titled TO serene comfort at homo, and II you
don't get 1t you rebel Why not men alsoi
Nothing on earth fetches a man like a good
dinner and n well-dressed wife presiding.
Tn husband who can look forward TO such a
state Of things every day OF his life will
never tire OF home, and the wife who studies
his comfort will ave little difficulty In man
aging him according to her will Men are
gregarious animals, and will wander In spite
Of all a~llurements; but they are selfish
enough TO remain where they are best
NAgaA@of aAA ~ tAhAAh "a ~ ~ n
year or two Of married life the years that
follow win, as a rule, find the husband
always glad TO 90 back to the pretty home
whore smiles await him and the dinner /
spoke OF.
There are 20 many women who object to
being "boesed," as they call IL My dear
ladies, you can always be boss II you taxi
the trouble. By giving in you get your own
way as you never would by fighting for it
And, after all, II is better to feel you re-
spect your husband SO much that to give in
to him is not a difficulty. OF course, l am
now speaking Of the right kind Of man.
Thore are some mon such perfect brutes that
no kindness has any effect upon them. When
you are unfortunate to catch such a one, di-
vorce him at once and take care how you
choose the next Nine men out of ten are
manageable, II you go the right way about
II, and one great point is to act after mar
riago exactly as you did before. Argument
and contradiction are vital enemies 20 mar
ried peace. Should you wish for anything
particularly, don't insist upon 1t after re-
fusaL
OF course you must have It, but bide your
time. Some women are persistent. and ask:
"Why mag Inotl Why won't you d. as 1
ask your and irritate tho man. Rather
bide your time, make an extra good dinner
Of his favorite dishes, put on the color hs
likes, make home and yourself sweeter than
ever. You'll get It sure, even II you AVE to
wait. Also, when you want him to do any
particular thing which you know will DO for
his good, for heavens sake do not say do
it." Rather drop a hin that you hin so
and 30 would be a good thing to do. Get
him interested, and then let tn subject drop.
l venture TO say that in a short time that
man will do precisely as you wished; he Will
never permit you to think he has traded the
least bit on your commcn-sense Now, some
women under such circumstances would
crow over tho husband with II told you 30,
and now you come to my way Of thinking"
Absurd. ladies, absurd; never let a man
know you rule him, yet rule him in all things,
N YOU can.