Little Falls transcript. [volume] (Little Falls, Morrison County, Minn.) 1876-1894, 1884-05-09
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& Id ruoyt large towns residents sAll
First on newcomers, b : rule laid down
BY writer in tho Bazar. In Washing
ton this etiquette Is reversed, and new
somsrs cali first on the residents.
Every one. from the highest officials
down. returns these, and after this
ceremony the caller generally finds him-
se.f invited TO the receptions Of the
President and his Cabinet, the houses
Of the officers of the army and navy,
tho Judges Of the Supreme Court, and
those of Senators and Representatives.
Formerly no etiquette WINS necessary at
the White House; every one rushed in
to reception without the formality Of
cards. s.5s
The social arrangements Of Washing
ton are SO eonvenientthat It'll thousand
pitiss that this etiquette docs n0tgo into
practice ali over our land, as no resi-
dent Of a large city can possibly know
whether her dearest friend is in town
unless informed of that fact. This does
not, as some might fear, expose society
10 the entree of unwelcoms intruders.
Tact, which is the only guide through
tho rnazes of society, will always
enable anyone 70 avoid m unwelcome
intimacy or doubtful acquaintance.
should such person call FIRST. Now
the question comes upland here doc
tors disagree-when may lady call BY
proxy, ar when may she send her cardP
and when must she call IN persone
After q dinner-party q lady must call
In person and inquire If the lady Of the
house is at home. For other entertain
ments it is allowable former TO send her
daughter, her governess. or her maid
with her card, or she may send her
for y persons health, cards may be
sent by servants with kindly message.
No first visit however. should be re-
turned by card only. This would be
considered q slight unless it were fol-
lowed by an invitation, But the size Of
New York, the great distances, the busy
life of q woman of charities and large
family, and an immense circle Of friends
often render personal visit impossible.
She may be considered to have done
her duty if she in her turn ask her new
acquaintance TO call on her on speci-
fed dav. We have thus far looked At
the question from the standpoint Of 4
fady who has an assured position and
too many friends. We will now look
upon it frem the light OF a person who
has no Cor very few acquaintances and
no introductions. We have considered
the question: negatively We are all
more or less newcomers in this new
Land; We are all carpet baggers, or may
be; SO we will look at 1t afhrmative1y.
boo a
marry and 60 to Milwaukee; they do
not know snyboay: they are alone.
The husband makes his business friends;
they take seat in q church; they have
house, The young bride feels lonely.
She would like to know MINES. A, j,
and G; but they do not call upon her;
she is afraid to call upon them; she j.
unhappy. She asks what shall she do.
Undoubtedly did Mines. A, g.. and {
know this they would 60 and call.
Certainly the large-minded and kind
hearted would. But they are preoccu.
pied; they know nothing of her; they
are busy. IL 10 a hard position, and
one which Is the cause of much social
strife.
The Count Gurowski, in his book or
America, mentions the fact that "eyery
American woman is afraid of every
other.' He was an old aristocrat, anc
he looked upon our attempts at exclu
siveness with a derisiye scorn. HI
said that the habits of American Life
were those of the burgers of prosperou'
towns like Hamburg and Antwerp, tina
they seldom, if ever, rose much above
contracted elegance, with no entour
age of nobility, but that he would heal
the wife of one respectable doctor talk o
keeping the wife Of another respecta
BILE doctor tout of society,"" as tn
Countess Ida might speak of the pro
sumption of her former dressing.maid
There is an exclusiveness which j
honorable and right. No one can pre-
tend that there is not. No one pretend
that Mrs. Brown or Mrs. Jones is Il
have an unsympathetic person foiste'
upon her She is to select her owl
friends, and she may with propriety
say that Mrs. Clark is unsympathetl<
and not to her taste. There are Mrs
lClarks in this world who show very
great want Of delicacy in forcing them
selves upon society, just as there ar
nervous and timid snobs who are think
ing of the shadowy boundary-line, thei
position; both are to be avoided.
We see no less of caste, however, II
business Of first call, even should
not be returned. A young woman in
new city who has not been introduced
if.she is sure Of her responsibility IN.
that OF her husband, may certainly cal
on her clergyman's family, that OF b
Doctors. and her opposite neighbor,
kind Offices call for her sympathy.