Daily globe., 1883-07-01
COURTING.
Some Hints on COWrtShip-FdrOrabIe and
UaafarOrabIe Moments for "POppi9ag the
Question"

C'T0cOTG0te MOnehtS for " Popping the
Question"
From the St. Louis spectatorI
The greatest epoch in a mans life is
court8hip and matrimony, and there can
be no more momentous crisis in his
being than when he makes his declara-
ton of love or when he proposes"
When to make declaration of love is,
therefore, question Of interest to all
men. Men should understand the con-
ditions under which the fair sex become
susceptible. Ignorance on this subject
and want of cool reason and sound
Judgment have swamped many man
who might by little study have become
a social and domestic ornament. More
over mans injudicious selection of the
moment for revealing the sentiment of
love has ruined the life of many woman
who, under other circumstances, would
have welcomed the declaration. The
element Of time is the more important
OF all, and it is not going too far to con-
tend that any man may succeed in rivet-
ing the affection Of any woman upon
himself, or at least in extracting a con-
fession of affection, if he make the on
slaught at an instant when the stom-
achic conditions are favorable to the
contemplation of love in it's personal
relations. That is, if the woman pos
sesses the capacity to affect any one
man, any man, though he be not the
first choice, may succeed in impressing
himself if he know and seize upon the
proper moment. Obviously the worst
time to select is the morning. Novel
lists frequently fall into the error of en-
gaging hero or heroine before break
fast. Whenever you find such situa-
ton, lay the book aside, for the author
is at fault on the fundamental princi-
pies Of human nature. Primarily, even
man will not attempt love-making
in the morning. The operation of
sleep has drawn the blood from his
brain and his imagination is stagnant.
At such time he is punctual and not
romantic, and any women of the world
will tell you that, however ardent her
lover may have been the evening before,
he is an unromantic biped before break
fast. To accost woman at such time
is suicide. A woman must have salts
fed her hunger twice before she is
ready to regard love-making with any
satisfaction. Before breakfasting, her
system is chilled and her blood dis
persed through her body. After break
fast it concentrates itself in the digestive
functions, and it is not until after lunch
that it is prepared to abandon business
activity for a realization of the ideal.
Even then proposition is unsafe I'M
less you are able to detect the instant
when digestion terminates and discon-
tent supervenes. Students of the fair
sex agree that at this moment the con-
ditions are favorable, but nothing is
more difficult to others than medical
men than to recognize the change; and
if this discomfort which RACES upon
every woman at some time in the after
noon is permitted to assume sway before
the declaration is made, the inevitable
result is disappointment. There is but
one way to overcome these conditions,
and that is to project some excursion
for the afternoon, if business or other
untoward obstacles make an afternoon
proposal necessity. But even this
plan is open to serious objections. The
average girl naturally shrinks from al
fresco embraces, and sees an incongru
ity in daylight and love-making. Still,
if the excursion be sufficiently romantic,
she may excuse her preferences; for, as
there is no reason whatever in the love
of woman, there is no selfshness:
and she is, consequently, prepared to
make sacrifices. Marvellous successes
have been attained at such a time,
though many a pleasant driveway has
been strewn with pitiful failures, and
the waves of thousands of lovely lakes
show the wreck of full many a hope
shining through.
Never propose to girl who has been
out during the day or the evening with
another man. Women have not the
versatility of men and cannot as readily
turn from one object to another. Never
propose to woman who has recently
rejected some one else. Woman is nat
urally sympathetic, and in refusing
proffered love she instinctively, almost
unconsciously, devotes herself to life
of celibacy. She should then be care
fully watched until the reaction takes
place, and, assuming her stomachic rela-
tions to life to be normal, she becomes
even better prepared than before to lend
attention to declaration. If she has