Alpena weekly argus. [volume] (Alpena, Mich.) 1871-1893, 1883-07-25
Department Edicts.

Speaking OF the manners OF good
society, questions of social usage pulzl @
great many woman, Judging by tie
letters that are forwarded to me asking
about such matters. Most of them ro
late to cards and weddings, and may
be instructive generally BY answering
several of them. III bride has sent
you weddingcards you should call upon
her IN her new relation. III she sent
out no cards. you may call, and leave
her to decide whether she cares TO keep
up the social interchange OF visits by rc
turning yours. Ii you do not wish to
continue the acquaintance, that is to
keep up formal visiting, you AN drop
it at this time as appropriately rs any.
1t is ecfectly PROPRIETOR a young won n
on assuming new social obligations us q
wife TO revise her own visiting list and
take proper means to retain only those
names 10 which she may feel hersel
able to do social Justice. An un arricd
ried has miss on her cards, without
her initials or her first name On re-
turning to your home after long alb
scnce send your cards to those whom
you wish 10 call upon you. Ii you in
tend to leman in the town whore you
are, send out cards TO every one whom
you wish to know. mentioning the day
and hour mt which you will be at home
TO receive them, and offer some light
nc 'reshments, like tea and cake, at five
o'clock. IL is correct for q widow to
have her Christian name on
her visiting cards. A card with sac
ceptance' W itien or engraved upon
it is vulgar. Write II punctilious note
i'm the tn ri person, acc pting or dc.
Ginning. II card is turned down in
the corner il means the visitor called in
person. The IN IN who is n stranger to
the woman should leave q card for her
rs well a, the man who had tn en- him
to call IL s o visit whether she is at
home or not. Both should leave cards.
A girl about to be Marie does not put
T.. p. &. on her cards. Write your regret
or acceptance of an inv tation on n sheet
of note paper and put il in an envelope
directed to the person who invites you.
Unless you are TO send it by post enc
envelope is enough. 10 not write re-
gret or acceptance on your visiting card;
that is vulgar 1t is pro Der to send q
card to the bride if you do not call in
person, but il is better to CALL and cs-
pecially must you call on her mother
who invites YOU ] he best form for ac-
ccptance Is the simplest: IN IS Smith
has much pleasure in accepting tho
polite invitation OF Mrs. Brown for
Thursday, the 10Th" The usher5 at
day weddings are again wearing earl
coiored kid gloves with black st itching
on the back. The coat is n black cloth
Prince Albert frock, and the trousers
are DARK gray. Their cravats may be
white Ottom n, black, or n dark color,
but mus be uniform, whatever color Is
chosen. The bride and groom must
wear gloves, but the groom must not
wear n dress-suit IN the day. time, no
matter how the bride is dressed. 1t is
not customary to send acceptances of
invitations to weddings unless the card
contains the request to respond. Where
from two 10 I've hundred or more cards
are sent out, the formal response beach
one would be a nuisance. The proper
acknowledgement Is gift and con-
gratulations il presence on Che occasion
is impossible. OF course il it is small
at-homc wedding, where provision il
made for q sit-down dinner or ppcr,
the case becomes somewhat different, as
only intimate f lends are invited, and it
is Desirable to know approximately the
number that will be present But the
cabalstic letters II. :. V. p. were in
vented as an intimation that reply is
something desired. and would not have
ever been used if life was long enough
to send and receive re plies to all notes
of invitation.-M T. Con. Cincinnati
EnIuirer.