The Bolivar bulletin. [volume] (Bolivar, Hardeman County, Tenn.) 1865-1888, 1883-02-01
OUT-OF.DOOR BEHAVIOR.

One can scarcely take up a paper
nowadays without coming across a
paragraph warning girls against street
iirtations. / have waited a long time
hoping some one would speak to the
boys on the subject. but as no one does
[ am going to talk to them little about
it myself.
have observed that there are always
two parties to a Irritation, and if one is a
girl, the other is Just as certain to be
oy; and if flirting is wrong for one,
why is it right for the other?
So | said to a mischievOus lad once;
Bob, did you ever tlirt on the streetH'
ITO be sure | have; lots of times"
he responded, with much frankness.
Have you any respect for young
lady who hirts on the street," l went
on.
They aren' t worth shuc'S," was his
answer
"Why isn't it just as bad for boys?"
| asked.
"Oh they are diferent"' said he,
conclusively.
s'WouId you like to have any one flirt
with your sisterP' said l, giving home
thrust
..pd like to see any fellow try it,"
was the indignant response.
You should behave toward other
boys sisters as you would have them
behave toward your sisters,' said ],
APPLYING the Golden Rule with a 81 ght
twist to suit the occasion.
American gentlemen pride them
selves, and with reason, on their polite
behavior to women; but | soniet mes
fear that the rising generation will not
be so courteous as their fathers were
before them. Young ladies now are
often subie ted to annOyances on the
street. or in public conveyanCes, in the
shape of stires, bows, el Ow-thrusts,
and attempted conversations which are
very unpleasant. Sometimes girl is
foolish enough to respond to such inn
pertinent OYertures, and. forgetting her
wOmanly dignity, to enter into hlrta-
ton; that makes matters worse yet; for
a boy always thinks that he has n right
to hirt with a girl who hirts back at
him He makes mistake; he has not
the right, not only because he wrongs
the girl, but because he wrongs himself
A man can not be truly manly without
he has deeply implanted in his nature a
| habitual respect for woman; and the
boy who practices such imperiinence5
whenever he has chance. is undermine
ing that habit; he is blunling his nObler
sensibilities; he is destroying his moral
tone. This may seem very serious
view to take of piece of careless non
sense, but it is a true one
It would be pleasant for a lady TO feel
whenever she goes out that, in the words
| of an old song which our grandfathers
used to applaud:
Friends IN ali the old she'll ind,
And brothers in the young.
A generous, protecting care is beau
! tiful thing for a man to give, and an
equally beautiful thing for a woman to
receive. Forever to- be remembered is
| a nameless knight in shabby suit, and
! a shocking bad hat, who was a passen-
! ger in Fourth avenue horse-car one
! rainy morning. and who, when young
| girl wished to get out at Stewart with
! big bundle and an umbrella TO man
age, stopped the car for her, and with
one quick motion raised the umbrella,
then took the bl ndle. and carefully
shielding the young girl from the wet,
ran with her up the steps TO the sore.
! opened the door. closed the umbrella,
! returned the bundle, responded TO her
oratef THANK YOU, sir" with n
| touch of the hat and a smi Q, then ran
| through the peltinp storm after his car,
caught it, and disappeared therein.
| Equally unforgotten is another gentle
man who, when a Broadway coach
| stopped in a mud-puddle, which the
same Young girl was about to step de-
spairingly into, sad frankly: " W ait a
| minute Step on my foot, and L II swing
you across and suiting the action T.
the word. he p anted his foot in what
was apparently the worst spot Of all,
| and as she step ed upon it, W tn one
deIt swing she was landed sac y on the
| opposite pavemo mt. and she went on eT
| wav with thar kful heart, and visions
f Sir Walter Ra "a fitting through
her brain.
Nv paper has been occupied s. far
| with suggestions as to b W you sh uld
behave to other boys sisters, but nov,
! how shall YOU behave when YOU meet
their maiden aunts. their mothers and
| their grandmothers? | asked my par
ticuar Sir Phi ip Sidney a question
once. which / think throws s me light
on this point. will explain that Sil
Phil D is a clerk in a " holesale hardware
st re where they have very lcng hours
and very hard y ork. Said /; 'Phii, dc
you nlo0ays give up your seat TO lady
if she is standing?'
"WeL,' he answered, ''some nights
when l am fearfully tired l don give
up my seat to young lady, but can
bear 10 see an old woman, no matter
whether she is a lady or not, stanc
while / sit.
Those whose behavior Is regulated by
such a spirit viii always be truly
courteous to their elders 1t is a shame
to see half-a-dozen young fellows sprln-
eagerly up 20 give a seat TO beautllu
girl, when they will not stir Tor a worn
faded woman. with perhaps bundle o
| cheap sewing in her arms. a2d VINO j