New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1883-10-22
MR. COLLYER On DIVORCE.
THE GREAT EVIL AND CURSE OF THE LAND
VARIOUS PROPOSED REMEDIEs-ADvIcE TO fooNu
MEN AND MAIDENs.


gathered to hear him furnished additional evidence
If the profound public interest which is felt in the
snbiect of divorce and which has been largely
awakened by recently published articles IN HE
TRIBUNE. Mr.. COllyer took for his text Exodus
TX. Ia. Thou shalt not commit adultery" ZIG
spoke in part as follows:
The question of marriage and divorce Is one on WHICH
no minister can be silent who will watch the drt OF our
modern life in this good land OF ours, ana noe as ho
must how easily the most sacred promise is proAen a
man and woman can make each TO the other we must
mint new edition of the marriage service we can DO
no better and make room. have been asked 10 40
once for this play this ribald fancy or ugly ier az
the case may and instead OF saying long as 10
both shall live" say SO long II suits you TO 90 So
In touching this question 1t VIII De Oh no use W
cite the facts and figures that come to us from all quar-
tors IN sbov how this great evil is growing from year to
year and how this curse spreading through the homes OF
ur nation and may one day sap the foundations OF its
life For yOu must have noticed that the
evil is not confined 10 the frontier or To the
vida and half wild West. II here in the
East which has come we matn TO years OF discretion
and should know 10y this time what these things mean Tits
return to lower and life both civil and reli
eous such thing done, save for reasons sacod as
heaven or cruel hell, In town OF thousand
inhabitants Il like the little pitted speck In gar
nercd fruit which eating inward slowly Inoulder' ALL
The thing for light which should never
weigh for moment with those who take each other for
better and worse Then such begin TO weigh Ike
lead on others who don't get along together quite AZ they
expectcd when the days not long enough for them
10 talk of their impending felicity their mother tongue
rich enough TO supply terms OF cndearmen-especiay II
their education included the French SO they begin TO
look asapce at the yoke they thought To be always
Cupids bow bound about with and to say in their
hearts 81 hate TO think of il, but If we cannot
be 10 each other what havo been we had better part
and then, the next STEP to plot for such pafg'
mn. FHIEV HnNU
DO they know what they about-this man and
woman when they drift toward such disgrace and shamef
Do we know what are about when we make hght OF
IT, and welcome them with smiles when they come ana
say ave have found another woman to our mind
and want you to marry us ogan"i They prove by, by
T%Gh and d''p pick 't my %ordsl that it was
they twain were not one all but and save for the
law which may still protect them, their innocent children
WHO are SET to guard these sancttes Of nature and OF
God say by our action, That Il al right ana pro
the benedicton on what they have done "1Sn
they come the some eITand again. Thls Is tAo
first great fatayi the second Is as pad OF worse
The generation beg ms to count marriage SoII %
rolckng holiday about which they need feel no great
note once more that in the discussion Of this question
year in and year out three remedies are proposed TOT ms
disease Tie first is that this Is true instinct which leads
men and women TO seek remedy IN the divorce
afresh IN such way have pointed out; and that
any other would be unworthy those who dare TO
think for Themselves and make that which crooked
straight But say this Il free love over again indtrH
very poor mask know very Wen there may Dc mar
q marriage which is not Qny lmpiISonins M.
for life in dungeon natb, DG' to DO with the easy
going divorces which are becoming the disgrace ana
Shame OF our land and nation They mean at TIC best
Thai we are not willing to take the worse # IL should come
with the better. They mean, at the worst what u''
The second remedy is to "hear the Church" This
men like the preacher IN Trinity Chapel Deu.'s
in and advocate, aud think that IN their own way OF
longing a hi. question they right Because gwen
Church with due authority ana thc power 10 w.
and You can work wonders OF goOu anu EVIL evil
and are sure TO do both. We have no such
Church, and trust never shan have The "oIla has
had enough OF that, and viii have no more IN our ue
sin our churches OF reformed faith and communion
do this; they can say We Wll MOI conHelh' tn Us
refusing To give their sauctiOn, matter Whugei- hu
The churches nauguratc revolution by Stern! M
ssting on the sanctty Of the marriage laws. save for
| such reasons az have indicated m
The lind remedy Is IN TIE law The law can DO some
thing sill II is like the wafer troubled about ~
our houses; it VIII rise higher than IT, mean level IN
pusiye force OF public virtue II is because hs virtue has
! grown sluggish and stagnant In states | cannot
name that divorce has come to hc about ~
easy "a lying Tie law all the same, can do something
III Li7 - a., tEe couf Instructions moi 10 issue
license 10 those who under the legal age except by
request OF their natural guardians. Make II an offence 10
br5 false witness ON this point and for ministers 10
marry those who come to them without such license
THr PRIMAL REMEDY.
sti the primal remedy for trouble lies not In the
doc1nas Of the Church making laws we shouldeyadc
III
! in training the new generation TO feel how deep
! and sacred and enduring this bond must
| be- and how no disaster con well be greater
than 70 break II when II T. made. that none who
hear MS will rush needles, into marriage which Ii indeed
lottery things are dnHlng now Dut "Le thy 'n!,
low their hearts will also use thelr heah. Dcca9se AN
weddings disastrous which nave no ROOT III sooh sense
an" r I1I Wedding attended eighteen years ago.
in which the young man was soldier Just come rom
tno T7' tie had fallen Instantly and woullv in love
| ia larsn ~ "a
grand passion. tried TO reason with him. II was no
use and he wept when hesated about II, so gave IN
to the soldiers tears The end rs sc now must have
been disaster believe IN love at FIRST sight hut DO not
when wedding is the result years OF mutual Hiding
which has rPened s,o tho pnTe ana true s,o love
hood That suppose in S1l'|m E%s7ly ,,crs II
where the first intnaion OF what will happen some day
appears the shape Of apples aud other icace ont o.
But tie weddina which holds good Tor lifetime Is awaye
one in which both sides know what they are about and
cauuO; bought sold al the mere bidding OF the blind
gc ,,,,e marriage has divine element in it, because
there i, "A divine reason for IL in our human constitution
and Of kin true religion, because religion means tue
III What II should be- the blessing God IL already
within that which pray for His blessing 10 descend
and ali t1e matches to my mind, made IN Heaven.
| say again that the first step Is to make
sure that this r. not IT,, a. ,s,1 oee d game
first Importance for the players not TO reveal theT hands
WHAT con TTUT 5 A TRUE wEDDI G.
So OF all that Is needed TO make true wedding honesty
| and reality and sweet and pure intimacy
stand among the first thingg. Wcdlock rhymes
sadly indeed with deadlock, II VIC arc not
| very fortunate when leave those qualities out.
The truest welded life bloom only out of the trues
unwedded life, and the man must be as pure as the
! woman. The women who begin by thinking whom they
| win marry and end by wondering who will marry them.
had better make up their minds as the nuns say that TINS
! is not their vocation. The young man who insists
! on seeing life, he says, before he narTies,
NAV end by seeing the death OF all he Will hold most dear
Your seeing life may be just the building Of closet 10
hold the skeleton when you make home ana win wife
bid YOU youthful uss the Scripture says II you
would the puest and most perfect boon we can ever
win. a good wife and good home.
N marriage holds noble aud beautiful troth, II Is
noble and beautiful 10 marry when the true time comes
II ai truc matches are made in Heaven they most
haupy who say, will Try to be worthy one OF these
machesl Ii is only 10 the pure that all things are pure
MR.. TALNAGE'S OPINION or HEAVEN.