The Brookhaven leader., 1883-07-19


and his inspiration. See that your wife
has some money of her own to SPEND
make her feel that she is partner in
your joys as well rs your sOrrows. |
have seen some cases where they only
came in for the latter. Give up half a
day in the week to visiting, or being
visited by your neighbors, cultivate the
social part of your nature, the emotions
and the Imagination. Always attend
your clEb meetings. Cherish and talk
over your memories and traditions, and
at the risk of being called a
dreamer, build some castles in
Spain and compare them with
like creations of your neighbors.
We all have our castles in Spain,
| only some of us build low-roofed,
windowless structures, where neither
air nor sunshine can come in, and 9TH
ers build them with ornamented turrets
and airy towers. Although the latter
owners have the poorer houses here, as
a rule, think they are better fed and
lodged than the first. We are always
travelling toward our castles, but never
arrive at the portals. 1t is well that it
is so ordered, for if we entered there
would be an end to the pursuit. 1t is
the wrestlN and the pursuit that gives
life its value. When we contemplate
what an infinitesimal point the present
| is, point where the wheel impinges for
a second in the revolution from the past
to the future, we must see how impor-
tant it is that we so live as to create
pleasant memories and light our way
with the beacon of cherished and
reasonable hopes.
MAKE THE CHILDREN HAPPY.
As the glowing sunrise imprints Oh
the mind the character of the day, al
though it may close in clouds and tenn
pests, so does happy childhood give
color to after life, and whatever may
befall them. there will always hang on
the walls of their memories pictures of
pleasant morning, from which the
heart may design a pavilion where hope
may dwell.
Put them to bed early and don't pull
them out before they wish to get up.
Give them as good a chance as a colt
or a short-horn, give them as gentle
treatment and as little restraint
in their harmless sports. Educate
them more by home surroundings
than by books. Let them talk
at the table and have a good time gen
orally, and they will not be counting
the years when they will be beyond your
control. Make them feel that life is
more than scramble, that an intelli-
gent and Over-ruling power has estab-
lished laws which can not be violated
without retribution. Inculcate feelings
of reverence; cultivate them yourself.
Remember there are some things beyond
the limit of logical induction and deduc-
ton. and that faith, when not contra
vened by reason. is as much a part of a
mans life as fact. See that they are
not confined five hours a day in school
before they are twelve years old. In
stead of stimulating precocious ones
who are fond of their studies, hold them
as you would a spirited colt.
Some of your boys and girls will wan,
to go to the university. To the boys
of robust health should say if millions
were at my disposal: VERY well, l
will pay half of your expenses. if you
will earn money and pay the other half.
If college course will do you any
good, it is worth working for" When
at home l would give him work and pay
him for it. If thereby it took him six
years instead of four to get through, he
would be all the better in mind and
body. A boy who is supported by
others through college gets artificial
ideas of life which require years to
cure, if cured at all. If hard and eX-
acting labor sits by him as a compan-
ion, it keeps him in communion with
humanity, and he comes out girded for
the race. The boys whom l have
known in aftcr-life as successful have
had dusty travelling in college. AS for
the girls, | would pay their way. !
would do this as kind of anticipatory
justice, for hardly think they have an
even chance with the boys in our after
life.