Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1883-11-15
SOME OF THE FINE ARTS OF SOCIETY.

Ii the tine accomplishment Ol speaking
well of others were taught in every house
hold, it would become almost paradislcal
land. But, alas the opposite accomplish
ment prevails. How many heart burnings,
uuarrels and arrangements in families have
arisen from this disposition of speaking evil
of each other! Each of US has his faults.
"There is none that doeth good; no, not
one" and in the actions Of the best of per-
sons there will be occasional errors which
others will perceive, and if they are evil
minded, will publish; and before they have
passed through dozen mouths, they are so
changed that they are hardly recognizable.
The art of speaking we'll Of others can be
easily acquired, and it is a good rule to
make in a household, that the one who crit
icizes others unkindly in the family circle,
or among friends, shall pay small fine to
be.used for some good object. The common
our relatives and neighbors' faults is really
taught in the household by parents and
friends, and the children catch the habit
only too quickly.
Learn to be sociable wherever you 60,
and to speak your lightest words in tones
that are sweet, and with a spirit that is
genial. Think how much pleasure you can
give to others by kindly word, or cheer
full conversation, and reflect how much
sunshine such sociability throws back into
your soul!
Who does not feel more cheerful and con-
tented for receiving polite bow, and a
pleasant ''good morning." with hearty
Shake of the hand? Who does not make
himself happier by these light expressions
of good will? Silence, or stiff, unbending
reserve, is selfish and churlish. The gener-
GUS and polite man has pleasant recog-
milton and cheerful word for every one he
meets, and he scatters sunbeams on his
pathway through life, lights the path OF
others with smiles, and makes the world
bright to those who are apt to find it cold
and forlorn, while what he gives is but a
tithe of what he receives, as his own heart
is kept fresh and warm by the cheerfulness
he eXpends upon others. Life would not
be half as cheerless and lonely if sociabilty
were cultivated as fine art.
The art of living in peace in the family Is
greatly promoted by the constant exchanges
of the little courtesies of life, which are
never unacceptable and never unimportant.
Shall husbands and wives be less mindful
of injuring the feelings Of each other than
those of strangers: Should there be less
effort to maintain sauvity Of manner, gen.
tleness of department, and courtesy OF eX-
preston in the family circle than is expect
ed of visitors?
1t is the neglect of these little courtesies
in home life which fills the saloons and bill
| lard rooms with young men. There all is
| bright, gay and pleasing to the senses and
soon they are drawn into dissipation, and
only look upon their homes as boarding
places, where the physical, necessities OF
eating and sleeping are procured. In early
| life brothers and sisters should be taught
to be kind, obliging and attentive to each
other, and learn the suavities Ofdeportment
which are so essential to the happiness OF
their own lives, and of those with whom
they are connected. Brothers and sisters
thus taught can rarely fail to make pleas
ant homes of their own, where words OF
pickering or strife are never heard. Sweet
smiles and kindly actions are the small
coins of life, and in the aggregate consist
the happiness and well-being Of the whole
| family. Where such households become
the rule, then peace and prosperity reign.
"Better is dinner of herbs where love is,
! than stalled OK and hatred Herewith. p
Daiy Eye6right, IN Country Gentleman.
EX-SECRETA RY YSTANTON.-EX-Dete
| in Chief, VIM. p. Good, confirms the state
ment that the unjust hanging of Mrs. Sur
ratt drove Stanton to despair and death.
| He says:
The day before the death OF Mr. Stanton,
in the latter part of December, 1869, the
writer was sent for by him. Stanton was 4
wreck-palc, haggard, disappointed, miser-
able. He had been confirmed a few days
before as an associate justice Of the United
States Supreme Court. President Grant
had not forwarded his commission, and this
fact gave him great deal Of annoyance,
and made him bitter in his denunciaton of
! Grant.
The writer believes that Stanton did not
receive his commission before his death.
Mr.. Stanton referred again to the hanging
of Mrs. Surratt, and desired to know the
purpose of the writer in obtaining the paper
! from Baker. In his broken-down and de-
pressed condition he declared that he was
| haunted day and night by visions of the un-
| fortunate woman, and that he could not live
under the pressure he was bearing, and to
quiet him / assured him that no publication
of facts in the matter would be made during
his lifetime, and that if l should die frstthe
papers should be destroyed. This tempo
rarily quieted him, and on the day follow
| ing his death was publicly announced.
rs" The Chattanooga Times makes inqui-
ries as to what caused the civil war. Ac-
cording to some historians, adds the Attain
tn Constitution, the war grew out of the fact
that neither side suspected the gun was load
! ed. Hence the explosion.