Public ledger. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1865-1893, 1883-05-25
TnE AIR OF COURrsHrp.
How the Charming aeIIes Nan.
age 90 mHke all Glasses of Low
ers Feel at Home.


in the matter Of proposals. One liv.
ing in the vicinity Of Grand avenue.
whose offers equal her years in num-
Der, attributed her triumphs to a
careful cultivation OF the premonitory
symptoms in her admirers. II do not
commit myself" she explains, but l
lawfully put them in the notion of
saying tender nothings, which you
know are the stepping stones to pro-
posals For instance, timid admirer
is made to understand, by word or
look, according to the progress be has
made iI my good graces, that l am
glad to see him If another caller
should follow l should not arouse No.
is suspicious by treating him the
same way, but give No. 2 my hand.
and oil course he feels what ! intend
him to-that No. l is nuisance 1t
IS rare that | have to manage three at
once who have been developed into
the acute condition that would be
spoiled by lack of tact on my part,
1t a third comes in later | am studi-
ously indifferent until by low aside
| can gently find fault with him for
not calling oitener or sooner. When.
ever | observe that a proposal is
pending ward it of until | get into
my favorite chair-that blue satin
one with the very low back which YOU
see sitting by the window. High
backed or side-arm chairs are often
fatal OF declarations of the tender pas.
sions, and attitude is an important
matter. | manage to have book or
sketch OF some sort in my hand.
This brings him very close to me to
see what | am pointing out. His LETT
arm then has no alternative but to get
out OF the way, you understand, and
it he has skill my right hand will be
appropriated before he declares him
self, so that | can't pretend any longer
to doubt that he is IL earnest. Then,
OF course, there is nothing for me to
DO but to become as graciously cool as
l can under the circumstances. The
only disagreeable thing for me is that,
having aroused his emotion, | feel
such an interest in seeing a satisfac-
tory conclusion that the brief second
| enjoy the climax is far too short for
my reward, aud dislike rapid transi
tions OF feeling. Once while occupy.
ing crimson rocking chair | was
surprised by gentleman whom l had
thought but slightly interested in me
dropping on his knees in a frerzied
declaration. | think that lovers are
unconsciously Influenced by colors,
and that woman should Affect sub.
dued or brilliant shades as he may be
respectively impetuous or cautious, 50
as to preserve harmonious balance. :"
A Chestnut street debutante says
she doesn't like to be courted by
sepulchres-old beaux with growing
bald spots and ill assorted teeth, they
are always ready to criticise women
for repairing deficiencies OF figure or
complexion, yet actually they do more
making up in the end, and then expect
the girls to be devoted to them. She
likes live young men whose eircula-
ton is good and who are earnest lovers.
80 far she has not received an offer of
marriage, but thinks she would enjoy
that most where the lover in a ro-
nance comes up behind her as she
stands in conservatory or bay window
and takes her in his arms, as he whis>
pers the words she has been longing
to hear. Then she would hide her
face on bis shoulder and experience
the heroine's all-overish feeling that
one Of the girls insists gives a woman
a weak back, and is not a good thing
to practice.
The Laclede contains pretty little
widow, who declares that a man of
sense rarely uses the word adore" in
oOurtship. Those who do SO gen
orally adore no one but themselves.
She Tepertly received written pro
posal from gentleman whom she had
noticed several times in the elevator,
and she explains: II didn't ike it,
and refused to have an introduction
aiteEward. If be would only stop to
think about it he might understand
how | feel. | don't believe in mar
riage without genuine regard on both
sides, and if he had but managed to
make my acquaintance discreetly By
degrees, working up into that tvmuI
tuously delightful pegiOd OF awaken,
Ing interest which we call love, |
might have given another answer.
My first husband won me by sending
a box of confecticns in which was hid
a diamond ring with our initials out
inside and on engraved link on the
reverse side Of the shaft. When he
came that night wore it on the
proper anger, aud, though no words
were exchanged on the subject, we
grew into the habit of discussing our
wedding day, so that the end seemed
perfectly natural. | like modesty in
a man. The more he LOCKS Aad tho
less be says in eourtship The surer he
may be of winning, and you know
there's no time like a slow promenade
in the moonlight to encourage sept;S
ment." = -''V''
One Of the society GIRLS whose en-,
gagament has been announced, denies
that the man said to beinterested has
ever proposed. Indeed, she doesn' I
know anything about it. "The pleas
ure Of getting a love letter" she
adds, lis only excelled, / fancy, BY
the act of answering it. But that
hasn't been the way | have been ap>
preached byadmirers. They seem to
think that personal attentions are
more mpfessiYe and safer. One Of
my friends received a written proposal
and the postscript said that If she re-.
fqsed bis otfer TO please return him
bis letter. He had even enclosed two
three cent stamps, which made her
so angry that she not only sent back
the letter but the stamps too. About
three month"; S(teywsSd 0She Of the