The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1883-12-13
BELLEVUE, La. THURSDAY, DECEMBER 13, 1885,

the lady. ''The plain girls flatter the
men. and so please their vanity: while
the handsome ones wait to be battered
by the men, who haven't the tact to do
it. There have been cases, however,
in which the situation presented here
has been. reversed, and plain, even ugly
men have succeeded in making them
selves SO agreeable to young ladies as
to become their accepted suitors. Here
is a. case in point. When Sheridan
first met his second wife, who was then
Miss Ogle, years of dissipation had
sadly distigured his once handsome
features, and only his brilliant ewes
We're left to redeem a nose and cheeks
too purple in hue for beauty. tsWhat
fright exclaimed Miss Ogle, loud
enough for him to hear. Instead of be-
ing annoyed at the remark, Sheridan
at once engaged her in conversation,
put forth all his powers of fascination,
and resolved to make her not only re-
verse her opinion, but actually fall in
love with him. AT their second meet
ing she thought him ugly, but certainly
fascinating. A week or two afterwards
he had so far succeeded in his design
that she declared she could not live
without him. Her father refused his
consent unless Sheridan could settle
fifteen thousand pounds upon her;
and, in his usual miraculous way, he
found the money.
Those who have read George Eliot's
"Felix Holt will remember how Felix.
though himself a rough, unpublished
workman, gained the love of a refined
and delicately reared young lady, not
by fattering, or even attempting to
please and crafty her, but by chiding,
depreciating and almost despising her
because she read Byron and knew moth
ing of the heavy mental pabulum on
which he was wont to feed. She at first
was dreadfully vexed and offended; but
by-and-by she came to believe that Felix
had grand moral ideal, beside which
her own wasfrivolous and insignificant;
and striving to emulate his exalted
motives and views of life she made him
her beau ideal, with, of course, the usual
result In theory, or in novel, this
is. no doubt all very fine; but in every
day life the mode of procedure adopted
by Felix Holt would be, to say the least,
decidedly risky, and would very prob
ably end disastrously. 1t is always
safer to risk little tiattery.
Happy is the wooing ., "a
{ ~ That is not long doing"
says the sold eouplet; but modern
counselor thinks it necessary to qualify
the adage by the advice: ssNeyer
marry a girl unless you have known her
three days, and at picnic. :" In this,
as in other matters, it is always desira-
bic to hit the happy medium. Marry
ing in haste is certainly worse than
too protracted courtship; though the
latter has its dangers, too, for some
thing may occur at any time to break
off the affair altogether, and prevent
what might have been happy union.
1t may always be concluded there is a
screw loose somewhere if Matilda is
overheard to say to her Theodore, as
they steam up the river with the. .ex-.
.cursion: ''Don't sit so far away from
me, dear. and turn your back on me SC: /:
people will think we're married.
a friend of Robert Hall, the famous.
English preacher, once asked him re-
gardlng lady OF their acquaintance:
"Will<she make good wife for mep''
''Well," replied Mr.. Hall, "I can
hardly say--I never lived with hertz
Here Mr.. Hall touched the real test of
happiness in married life. It is one
thing to see ladies on '.dress'' occa-
sions and when every effort is being
made to please them; it is quite an
other thing. to. see them amidst the
varied and often conflicting cireum-
stances of household life Chambers
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