The Brookhaven leader. [volume] (Brookhaven, Miss.) 1883-1891, 1883-04-05
Department Edicts.

Speaking of the manners of good
society, questions OF social usage puzzle
great many woman, Judging by the
letters that are forwarded to me asking
about such matters. Most of them re.
late to cards and weddings, and may
be instructive generally BY answering
several of them. If bride has sent
you wedding cards you should call upon
her in her new relation. If she sent
out no cards, you may call, and leave
her to decide whether she cares to keep
up the social interchange OF visits by re-
turning yours. Ifyou do not wish to
continue the acquaintance. that is. to
keep up formal visiting, you can drop
it at this time as appropriately as any.
1t is Perfectly proper for young won n
on assuming new social obligations as a
wife to revise her own visiting list and
take proper means to retain only those
names 10 which she may feel herself
able to do social justice. An unn arried
woman who, has no older sister unmar-
ried has :. Miss on her cards, without
her initials or her first name. On re-
turning to Your home after long abb
sence send your cards to those whom
you wish to call upon you. If you in
tend to remain in the town where YOU
are, send out cards to every one whom
you wish to know, mentioning the day
and hour at which you will be at home
to receive them, and offer some light
refreshments, like tea and cake, at five
o'clock. 1t is correct for widow to
have her Christian name on
her visiting cards. A card with sac
ceptance" written or engraved upon
it is vulgar. Write a punctilious note
in the third person, acc pting or, de-
clining. II card is turned down in
the corner it means the visitor called in
person. The man who is a stranger to
the woman should leave q card for her
as well as the man who had taken him
to call. 1t is visit whether she is at
home or not. Both should leave cards
A girl about to be married does not put
p p. G. on her cards. Write your regret
of note paper and put it in an envelope
directed to the person who invites you.
Unless yon are to send it by post one
envelope is enough. Do not write re-
gret or acceptance on your visiting card;
that is vulgar. It is proper to send a
card to the bride il you do not call in
person, butt 10 is better to call, and es-
pecially must you call on her mother,
who invites you. The best form for ac-
ceptance is the simplest: MISS Smith
has much pleasure in accepting the
polite invitation of Mrs. Brown for
Thursday, the l5th.' The ushers at
day weddings are again wearing PEARL
colored kid gloves with black stitching
on the back. The coat is q black cloth
Prince Albert frock, and the trousers
are dark gray. Their cravats may be
white Ottoman, black. or a dark color,
but must be uniform, whatever color is
chosen. The bride and groom must
wear gloves, but the groom must not
wear dress-s1it in the day-tine, no
matter how the bride is dressed. 1t is
not customary to send acceptances of
invitations to weddings unless the card
contains the request to respond. Where
from two to five hundred or more cards
are sent out, the formal response to each
one would be a nuisance. The proper
acknowledgement Is gift and con-
gratulations if presence on the occasion
is impossible. OF course. ifsit is asman
at-home wedding, where provision is
made for . sit-down dinner or supper,
the case becomes somewhat different, as
only intimate fiiends are invited, and it
is desirable to know approximately the
number that viii be present. But the
cabalistio1etters r. s. ". p were in
vented as an intimationa that reply is
something desired. and would not have
ever been used If life was long enough
to send and receive replies to all notes
of invitation. IN " Cor. Csncianats
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