The Douglas independent. [volume] (Roseburg, Or.) 187?-1885, 1883-05-19
Clara Belle ON Manners.

Speaking of the manners of good So
ciety, questions OF social usage puzzle a
great many women, judgi ng by the let.
| ters that are forwarded to me asking
me about such matters. Most of them
relate to cards and weddings, and may
| be instructive generally in answering
several Of them. If the bride has sent
you wedding cards you should call upon
| her in her new relation. IF she sent out
no cards you may call, and leave her to
decide whether she wishes to keep up
the social interchange of visits by return
ing yours. IF you do not wish to con-
tiuue the acquaintance, that Is, to keep
up formal visiting, you can drop it at
this time as appropriately as at any. 1t
is perfectly proper for young woman on
assuming new social obligation as wife
to revise her own visiting list and take
proper means to retain only those names
to which she may feel herself able to do
social Justice s.An unmarried woman who
has no older sister unmarried has "Miss"
on her cards, without her initials or her
first name. On returning to your home
after long absence send your cards to
those whom you wish to have call upon
you. If you intend to remain in the
town where you are, send out card to
every one whom you wish to know, men
tioning the day and hour at which you
will be at home to receive them, and
offer some light refreshments, like tea
and cake, at five O'Clock. It is correct
for a widow to have her christian name
on her visiting cards. A card with ''ac-
ceptance" written or engraved upon it is
vulgar. Write punctilious note in the
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card is turned down in the corner it
means that the visitor called in person.
The man who is stranger to the wo-
man should leave card for her as well
as the man who has taken him to call. It
is visit whether she is at home or not
Both should leave cards. A girl about to
ce married does not put P. 2. G. on her
| cards. Write your regrets or acceptance
of an invitation on sheet of note paper
and put it in an envelope directed to the
person who invites you. Unless you are
to send it by post one envelope is enough.
Do not write regrets or acceptance on
your visiting card; that is vulgar. Jt is
proper to send card to the bride If you
do not call in person, but it is better to
call. and especially must you call on her
mother, who invites you. The best form
Tor aCC6pCauc6 Is the sIuipIost. Az ulSo
Smith has much pleasure ia accepting
/ the polite invitation of Mrs. Brown for
Thursday, the 10Th" The ushers at d y
weddings are again wearing pearl-col-
ored kid gloves with black stitching on
the back. The coat is black cloth
Prince Albert frock, and the trousers are
dark gray. Their cravats may be white
ottoman, black, or dark color, but
must be uniform. whatever color is
| chosen. The bride and groom must
wear gloves, but the groom must not
wear a dress suit in the day time, nc
matter how the bride is dressed. 1t is
not necessary to send acceptances of in.
vitations to weddings unless the card
contains the request to respond. Where
from 200 to 500 cards are sent out. the
formal response to each one would be q
nuisance. The proper aeknowle lge.
msnt lis gift and cong eratulations il
presence on the occasion is impossible
OF conrse, if it is small, at-home we'd
ding, where provision is made for sit
down dinner or supp>r, the case becomes
! somewhat different, as only intimate