Savannah morning news. [volume] (Savannah) 1868-1887, 1883-10-13
SOME SOUND ADVICE
About Boys who Drink and the UIr1s
they Marry.

A mother who resides in a small city in
the North writes to know if the editor of
this paper can't say something that will
induce her daughter to quit keeping COM
pany with a young man who gets drunk
every time he takes the girls to a party.
If mother cannot say anything that will
induce her daughter to give up an escort
who insults her, poor, weak newspaper
cannot do any good. The girl has got the
fever too bad, if she will not break off an
engagement with such a young man.
The girl should look about her and make
inquiries and see if she can find a case in
the experience of her friends where such
young man ever made a decent hus-
band. She will not find such case. The
mere fact of young man taking a girl
to party or q sleigh ride and getting
drunk and humiliating her, and causing
her to depend upon others for her escort
home, is one evidence that he has no re-
spect for her, and she should break off
her engagement and cut him entirely. If
she puts up with such insults now before
she is married, when she is his wife he is
liable to leave her to look out for herself,
and he Will get drunk from habit Twenty
years ago there were hundreds of young
fellows in this State who thought it was
smart to take respectable girls to dances
and get drunk, and let the girls ride home
with somebody who kept sober. The girls
would be veXed at the time, but as the
boys were rich. and went in good society
the girls got to looking upon the spreeS as
good jokes, and they would laugh about
it. We know some of those girls to-day
who are earning a living for several little
children by hard work, while the smart
fellows that got drunk have filled drunk
ards graves or have left their wives and
are wanderers on the face of the earth. If
Il young man loves a girl as he should
love her to marry her, a look of
disapprObatiOn from her of any act of his
will be enough to break him of any habit
that he has that she does not like. If the
words ''Please don't drink, Charley"
from the lips of Charley's girl, are not
enough to spoil his appetite for benzine,
Farewell, Charlie, forever" should be
the next and last remark she should ever
make to him. Marrying a man to reform
him has never been a successful enter
prise on the part of woman. Girls are
worth too much unmarried to sacrifice
their lives to beat sense into the head of
any man on Gods fOot-stool. Too many
girls take the chances of marrying Il young
man who has an uncomfortable appetite for
liquor, thinking that the surrounding Of
a home will wean him. Such a man does
not wean as easy as calf. He will 90
home only to sober up, and then not till
the other places are closed. Five years OF
such married life will make a middle
aged woman out of the handsomest,
sweetest dispositiOned girl that mother
was ever proud of. A girl will marry
such man hoping that next year he will
be better, but the next year he will
be worse. The nose will get red, the eyes
bleared, the clothes carelessly worn, and
the wife who would have been such a
proud mother, with husband that had
sense, becomes ashamed to look at herself
i'll the glass, and had almost rather have
fit of sickness than be visited by any Of
her neighbors fol fear her husband will
give them all away. Whisky may be
right in its place. and we hope it is, but
the place for it is not in the stomach of a
Young man contemplating matrimOny,
and the girl who takes such man TOR fear
the young men will all be gone, makes a
fool of herself, and will regret 1t as long
as she lives. There are sure to be sober
boys enough for all the girls, and there is
no need of marrying drunkard, and the
girl who does so, against the advice of her
mother, will deserve the unhappiness she