The Marietta journal. [volume] (Marietta, Ga.) 1866-1909, 1883-12-06
MISTAKES IN MARRIAGE.

people to marry simply for beauty.
Beauty often is only skin deep, and
serves as veneeriDg to cover up
deformed heart and soul. Some of
the most homeIy we have are in
wardIy the most beautiful. Such
was Annie Steel, the tender poetess
of England. Such was Watts, the
great poet, of whom lady said she
admired the jewel but abhorred the
cssket. Seek then partner iu life
who possesses the inner beauties of
virtue, truth and true affection -
Such will cause the countenance to
be all radiant; not with cosmetics,
but with that which will abide amid
the stern realities of life
1t is a mistake to marry simply
for social position. This marrying
of surroundings rather than of a
partner ia the bsne of married life.
For young man to marry from such
base motive is simply to add one
to the family, but that one is often
q consummate fool, and cat and
dog life is generally the consequence.
Those who marry simply external
surroundings deserve nothing better
than a selfish, calculating, designing
woman, who will shoot missiles of
anguish and sorrow into their souls
ell through life. Youog men in
seeking a wife should look only at
the individual. Internal qualities,
not external circumstance, should
influence them. A girl who helps
her mother cheerfully, cares for her
brother, and is kind and affectionate
to her father, is the one to make a
loving wife. A young man who
loves and cares for his sister gener-
ally has tender, loving regard for
his wife. With such there may not
be glittering surroundings, but be-
meath that is the ring OF the true
metal which sounds more sweet and
harmonious as life progresses.
Motives of wealth too often oper>
ate in the selection of life partners,
This is the case with respect to both
sexes, Did she marry we'll 7 is often
ask ed-that is, did she marry long
full purse. No matter how honest,
industrious, respectable be may be,
he is of no account if he is lacking
in money. There are no terms
strong to express contempt for any
two legged creature who, not having
Inherited wealth and not having
brains enough to make will go to
work with the cold elaboration to
marry it. This having one eye on a
woman and the other on her purse
is base hypocrisy ThemistOcles
said he would rather marry his
daughter to a man without money
than to money without the man. A
true man lives for bis wife rather
than on her Independence is the
prime idea of true manhood. Barter
this way by living on your wife's
money and you become simply a
serf. Ia the practical duties of dali
Iy life the poor creature who married
money and has to live on it under
goes a terrible cruci6xion. Married
life to him is anything but a para
disc. He is always the fawning
sycophant or the self willed tyrant,
and in either case the difficulty in
creases. The trouble was not 80
much in the act of marriage on his
part as in the motives which prompt
ed it. He did not SOW affection,
hence did not reap it; but be sowed
a sordid selfishness which produced
40 abundant crop of sorrow strife
and regret.
Young men, Danish all ideas of
marrying wealth. Earn it, then
you will appreciate it and know how
to save it. If you cannot bring
dowry of gold to your wife, bring
her a pure heart and an untarnished
reputation. Bring her what Greek
maiden once said she would bring to
her husband, what gold cannot pur-
chase-a heart unspotted, and vir-
tue without stain, which is that de-
scended 10 me from my parents.'-
Get a wife who has what DR.. Watts
call wealth above what earth can
grant and lasting as the mind.'-
Then will married life be pleasant
and agreeable, and the end be peace>
fol and triumphant.