The commonwealth. (Scotland Neck, N.C.) 1882-1884, 1883-07-12

attention, and fritters them awar in
sillv Irritation with some man, who
while protesting ardent adoration.
secretly condemns her, and perhaps
ridicules her at his club. If woman
feels that she is unwilling to relin-
quish the attention which as girl
was hers by right; that the devotion
of one man cannot compensate her
for that which she gives up in marry
ing HIM, she should remain unmarri-
ed but, being married, let her con-
tent herself with the admiration Of
her husband. and cease to desire that
OF other men. / do not mean to imply
that because a woman is married she
should be isolated, and in society
relegated to the companionship Of
her husband. There is a certain kind
of attention to which married women
are entitled, and which they may re-
ceive without provoking comment.
Talented, attractive women may draw
around them men Of intellect, well
come them to their homes. and make
themselves the centre of a cultivated
circle may show that they take
pleasure in their society, and may
accept their chivalrous attentions in
a pleasant, frank manner, without
being at all flirtatious. But when
married women permit men to pay
them fulsome compliments, to make
lover-hke speeches to them, and to
show them marked attention, they
depart from that matronly dignity
which is one OF their greatest charms.
1t is alleged by those who seek to ex-
cuse the firtations of married women
that it is very hard for a woman who
has once been a belle to do without
admiration and another excuse, that
perhaps the husband is lacking in de
yotion, is uninteresting, and So she
seeks the companionship of men who
are interesting. Although a gradual
diminution of affectionate attention
on the part of husband is a great
grief to a wife, it does not warrant
her in engaging in Irritation as
cure for ennut. There are other more
eficacions methods of dealing with
recalcltrant husbands, and while a
loving wife who is neglected always
elicits sympathy, sympathy gives
place to censure if she becomes fiirt
in order to avenge her wrongs. No
woman whose love for her husband is
true and deep will care for the atten-
tions of other men; she may like to
look we'll, and endeavor to be bright
and attractive in society, but neither
by word or look will she encourage
any approach to Irritation. Women
who do encourage such advances
have much to answer for; they not
only wreck their own happiness, but
they exert perniciogs influence over
those With whom they come in con-
tact and lower all women in the opin-
ion of men. If a young man sees
that his friends wife prefers his so.
ciety to that of her husband, he re-
fleets that were he to become s'Ben.
edict" in his turn, very probably bis
wife would prefer other men to him,
and he concludes that he is much
happier as batchelor, spending his
evenings in the society of the wives
of his friends, since he is so cordially
welcomed. Married women who are
firts arc often unscrupulous, and in
stead of being the advisers and coad
Q tutors of young girls in society, they
become their most dangerous enemies
if they think that their preserves art
o being trespassed upon. Married wo
. men should be power in society
, they should take precedence of young
! girls by reason of their knowledge o
! the world, their savoir fare, thei
:, superior wisdom but when they ex
~ change the title of ''mademoiselle'
! for that of madame" they shoult
make their tutelary divinity Pallas
Athene instead of Aphrodlte.-Sa'
Francisco Argondut.
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