The Red Cloud chief., 1883-06-29

In each Of its revolutions round the
earfh.-ProC fazzf Smyth, m Cham.
ters' Journal.
Nsther and Daughter.
What is the relation that they sustain
To each other? Too often l. il not this
The mother j. the drudge. and the
daughter seltshly enjoys via. the
mother provides for her. In many
households-too many by far-thc pict-
ture presented !. that 81 the mother.
faded before her time. making a slave
Of herself In kitchen or sewing-room:
losing what interest she NAV have had
in literature. in society, in current
events beyond the meresi round II
neighborhoOd gossip; treading. for the
most part, untbanked, a drcary and
endless round II toll. almost. il not
quite, mental. The reverse of the pict-
ture is the daughter, care-free. her
wants for food or clothing anticipated.
her freedom 10 enjoy herself made
ample, her opportunities for study or
for reading made secure, her time pref
~ much at her own disposal. On the
one side is the weary and worn mother
and she il not old yet by any means.
On the other side is the pretty. dainty.
fresh and blooming daughter. We
would not have the daughter one whit
less pretty and dainty and fresh and
blooming; but all this ought not to be
at the price OF the mothers very life.
Yet We are sure. from our own knowl-
edge and the testimony 81 others, that
the picture is not overdrawn.
The relation, then. that too often ex.
lists is that the mother drudgcs and the
daughter enjoys. 1t does not take long
for the daughter Ia become cxacting.
In n very short time it will not he
strange il she is looking down upon
her mother As fitted simply to drudge
for her comfort. She grudges her
mother the place in the parlor. She
does not Al the mothers presence
among her young companions.
Mother is such a dowdy." she SAYS.
"that l cant bear to have her around"
And the mother too often meekly SUBJ
mits TO this social exile.
In many cases, il not in all. the
mother has originally herself to blame
for this. She began by being, not the
mother. with a mothers rights rs
well as duties, but the slave of the little
baby-girl in the cradle. 1t gratified in
a way her maternal pride o lavishiy
bedeck the little fodder. To have the
little girl look pretty" was her am.
bition, and consumed her effort. Once
started, where could she pause in this
course? As the child grew older the
demands naturally became greater.
The ultimate result is seen i'm the pict-
ure We have presented, and which we
know is a true n But the picture is
a very sad one.
Now, what ought e be the relation:
Surely, as different from what we have
pictured As can be. We would not re-
verse it. and make the daughter the
drudge. We are not inclined to be pa
tient with idle and exacting mothers.
who are willing that all the bloom
should he brushed from fresh young
lives before they are fairly expanded.
There are some such mothers. But
surely there is safe middle ground.
Let the mother remember that she
has rights rs well as duties. One of
these rights is to continue To enjoy So
ciety. Society made up Of boys and
girls is slim and shallow enough. 1t
needs the ripeness of maturity to be
thoroughly enjoyable. The mother.
therefore, must not drudge her life away
till she can no more enjoy society. She
must make her daughter understand
enjoymcnts, and is not to be rclegated
to Kitchen or nursery while the Young
miss receives her friends. But il she
expects to be a companion. she must be
companionable. The slave of the cook.
ing-stOve or the needle can not he this.
1t is not the necessary work that we
condemn. but the superfluous-th work
that so many mothers do nj SO fearful a |
cost. that their daughters may .'shine."
Then ii is pre-eminently necessary
that the mother should gain and keep
her daughters confidence. There is
much information in certain important
directions that the daughter ought 10
receive only from her mother. The
mother ought to be the daughters con-
fidante, from whom she has no con. |
cealments. What she can no "tell
mother" she ought not To be willing to
hear. Such ~companionship is good for
both parties. 1t helps the mother to
retain. To some extent, the freshness
and elasticity of girlhood. 1t gives to
the daughter the benefit of mature ex-
perience. Ii would prevent the heart
breaks which come into homes not a
Ii would fores'all the evils into
which youthful heedlessness so often
1t is a beautiful relation when
mother and daughter are each others
The daughters have their part to do.
They are to he helpful. II o natur-
ally inclined TO this, it is their mothers
duty to put it upon them. They are
simply to enjoy the benefits of 9TH
ers' labors. They are to do their part
the economy Of the home, to make
the home delightful. They can hardly
begin too early. They ought to learn
h earliest practicable moment to do
many things for themselves. and to ZEN.
Ter little services to others. The mis-
axe in many homes is that the children
Are too much waited upon. Hence they
selfish and exacting. The
laughter, however, that makes up her
mind that she will do every reasonable
hing that lies in her power to ..help
will find her lot comfortable
md happy.
All. mothers and daughters, how
much you do to mar or make each
'ther's welfare and comfort and peacei
Christian Weekly.
Deserving ~ Svmnathr.