The daily Cairo bulletin., 1883-11-27
The Daily Bulletin.
To Husbands.

as yours. John Stuart Mill was cold
blooded philosopher, not blood
cd sentimentalist, and John Stuart Mill
saws that the natural division of labor
In the household, which assigns to the
husband the earning Of the money and
to the wife the administration OF the
home, is an equable division Of labor,
giving to the two, ordinarily, an about
equal share. To dole out money grudg-
ingly to your wife is more than ungen-
erous; it is unjust. The treasury is
common treasury. The property ought
to he common property. You ana
she are, commercially speaking, part
ners. She has right to reasonable
proportion of your income, to have 1t
regularly, to have it without hesitation,
reluctance, or question, to spend it in
her own discretion, and not to be called
upon to account for each dollar before
she receives another. We have re-
ceived lately several letters on this sub
iect on behalf OF wives subjected to
petty and unintentional despotism by
their husbands Some of these letters
one cannot read without q heartache,
nor publish without the hazard OF max
inc the despotism worse. But here is
one we may publish without violating
the sanctity of'wifely reserve. Read it.
sir; then look into, your wife's uncom-
planning eyes, and SEQ what. In the
light of this story, they may have to
say to you of an injustice patiently
borne by her and unconsciously inilict-
ed BY YOU. We hope that this story
may set you to thinking, If ii does,
you will perhaps be ready then to con-
slider practical counsel, how best 10
avoid the irritation of the money ques-
ton in your own home life between
your wife and yourself.
Il had friend, lifelong friend,
who was early left to her own devices,
which were very sensible devices; with
nice property at her sole disposal,
her father having died when she was
quite Young. As we met from time to
time and were on most intimate terms,
the course of her life was familiar TO
| me, even after her marriage, which
was not an early one. Her life seemed
happy and prosperous. used to think,
Her children rise up and call her
blessed; husband also, and he praiseth
her You would have said that all
went well with her; Christian home,
health, wealth, a host of friends. q
good position, and much respect. What
more could be desired9 And yet, see
inc my friend more intimately in those
| later DAYS, saw deep lines, not of age,
and cloud of care that was not natur-
al; heavy, dull look of discourage
ment when her face was at rest, for
which there seemed no outward cause.
was puzzled till, at one time, when at
a visit at the house, there was evident
ly scarcity of money. The scale of
living was liberal, and there was no
stint; her husbands business was pros
porous, though did hear (people will
TALK that he was given to unwise spec
ulation was no traitor, am not
now, but it was all plain, and it came
out TO my unwilling eyes. All my
| friends property was swallowed up.
1t was not all lost, but it was beyond
her control; the very houselwas mort
gagged. One could not see why, for
the business required no very great
capital, and they were still called, and
were rich.
There was the rub: to be called
rich, and to be poor for my friend
never had enough. She was more than
careful in her personal expenditure,
but she was obliged to be liberal when
it was expected Of her--if she could be!
But there was the constant grind For
she had become dependent on her hus-
band for all the money she had and
used, and he was narrow. 1t was un-
just it was wrong, and there was no
need of it; but it is not in the nature of
some men to give up what they once
grasp. OF course she must have money
but never received quite enough; il
must be asked for, and that is not easy
and it was given grudgingly, Habits
grow and strengthen, as we all know,
and therefore there was small hope o'
improvement, but rather the contrary.
| did not find all this out in a day, or a
year, but the revelation came, and with
it an assurance of the wisdom of law
by which women can keep the control
of that which is their own. To be sure
we have known serious understandings
arise when man chose to be disturbed
because woman would trust herself
but not her money, with him; but he
never tried the feeling of absolute de-
pendence.
This is ALL no help came to my
friend. The lines deepened on hel
face, the cloud on her brow fell heavier
as time went on; nothing could be sale
or done. took it for granted she haC
said all that was wise; but some mer
are rocks, or something harder. AnC
; all this time she was defrauded, was
losing the sweet privilege of giving, a:
she would have done, wisely and well
and Of that which was her own.
|, "'Storyp God bless you hav'
none to tell
This was all: and it means, no
separate interests but a common inter
est. If man will trust woman wit
his own life, his home, his children
surely he can trust her with money
the minor thing. The past has taugh
"'How evil Is wrought by want Of though
As we'll as want Of heart"
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