The Salt Lake herald. [volume] (Salt Lake City [Utah]) 1870-1909, 1883-11-28
A STUDY OF HUSBANDS.
By a Woman for Women, but; Men
May Read it with Profit.

| We hsar much about the art of
winning husband. Let us take a
lstep further and make a study of
keeping husband. If he is worth
winning he is worth keeping. This
is wicked world, and man is a
dreadful mortal. Let us take him
as he is, not as he ought to be. In
the first place he is very weak. The
wife must spend the first two years
in discovering these weaknesses.
count them on her fingers, and learn
them by heart. The fingers of both
hands Will not be too many. Then
let her study up these weaknesses,
with mesh for every one, and the
secret is hers. Is he fond OF a good
dinner? Let her tighten the mesh
around him with fragrant coffee,
light bread and good things gen
orally, and reach his heart through |
his stomach. Is he fond of fiattery |
about his looks? Let her study the |
dictionary for sweet words, if her
supply gives out. Does he like to
hear her talk about his brilliant in
tellect? Let her pore over the ency-
clopedia to give variety to the depth
of her admiration. Flattery is a
good thing to study up at all hazards,
in all its delicate shades, but it must
be skillfully done. The happy who
may try to coax him away will not
do it absurdly. Is he fond of beauty?
Here's the rub-let her be bright
and tidy; that is half of the victory.
Next, let her bang her
hair metaphorically and keep up
with the times. a husband who
sees his wife look like other people
is not going. to consider her "broken
down." Though it is common
sheer that woman has admitted
that her sex consider more, in marry
ing, the tastes of her friends than
her own, yet it must be considered ,
ludicrOus that man looks at his :
wife with the same eyes that other
people do. Is he fond of literary
matters? Listen to him with wide
open eyes when he talks of them. A :
man doesn't so much care for a lit
erary wife If only she will be liter
Try enough to appreciate him. If 3
the have literary inclinatiOns, keep d
hem to herself. d
Men love to be big and great to II
heir wives. That's the reason why n
/ helpless little woman can marry {;
hree times to sensible, self-reli> z.
mt wOman's none. Cultivate help
essness. Is he curious? Oh, then {
you have a treasure; you can al I
Ways keep him if you have a secret .
nd keep it carefully. Is he jeal- 9
us? Then, woman, this is not i,
or you; cease torturing that fretted It
cart which wants you for its own, a
nd teach him confidence. Is he Z
gly in temper and fault-fnding? A
i've him dose of his own medi- b
inc, skllfully done. L. he deceit "
I'll? Pity him for his weakness; \
reat him as one who is born with a h
hysical deformity, but put your T.
tits to work-it is bad case. 1t tt
well not to be too tame. Men do n
OF waste their powder and shot on N
ems and barnyard fowl; they like :.
he pleasure of pursuing wild game IL
quail and grouse and deer. A G.
uail is good model for a wife T.
eat and trim. with a pretty, swift 10
'ay about it, and just little capri OF
GUS Never let yourself become &C
4 old story; be just little uncer> at 81
Viz. Another important fact is, tt
0n't be too good; 1t hurts his feel ~
lgs and becomes monotonous. Gull .
vate pleasant voice, so that this
cry mortal man may have his con- tt,
,ience prick him when he is in It
opardy; its pleasant ring will o.
aunt HIM much more than would ID
shrill one. 1t is hard to do all a.
lis, besides taking care of the -
abies and looking after vexatious 10
1usehold cares and smiling when he q,
)mes home; but it seems necessary.
70 be born a woman is to be born til
martyr" says husband who for r.
n years has watched in amazement a
is wife treading the winepress of :,
Or existence. 1t is a pitiful sight 2!
some men. But if the wife does -
ot make a study of these things,
le harpy will, to steal away the
onor from his silver hairs when =
3 is full Of years and the father of W
ms and daughters. At the same Gil
me. guide wife, keep from trying :
~ of these things on any mortal
an but your own. These rules are
lily evolved in order to keep q =
lsband." The poor weak creature y
ould rather be good than bad, and
is a woman'S duty to hold him by
very means in her power.