Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1883-10-25
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COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE.

COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE.
At the Twenty-third Street Theatre, New
York, last Sunday evening, the Rev. c. c.
Goss delivered a sermon on "The mistakes
respecting Courtship and Marriage" which
is thus reported by the Herald:
The importance of the subject the preach
er said can only be appreciated by those fa-
miliar with the infelicities of married life.
Our public journals TEEN with incidents OF
domestic troubles. Divorce is getting to be
about as much of an Institution as mar
riage. The causes of this are found in the
sickly sentimentalism of our so-called story
papers, the representation of artificial life
| in the scenes of the stage and the want Of
proper instruction as to life's duties and re-
sponsibilities from the pulpits. If ever the
circumstances demand a free, bold utterancc
in respect to the ills of the married relation
it is at the present time, and we need eN-
pect no better state of things in domestic
life till the pulpit, the press and the stage
unite in turning the tide in better direc-
ton.
BEAUTY ONLY SKIN DEEP.
First, it is mistake for young people to
marry simply for beauty. Beauty, often, IS
only skin deep, and serves as veneering to
cover up defOrmed heart and soul. Some
of the most homely persons we have are in
wardly the most beautiful. SuchWas Annie
Steele, the tender poetess of England. Such
was Watts, the great poet, of whom lady
said that she admired the jewels but alb
horred the casket. Seek, then, for part
ner in life who possesses the inner beauties
of virtue, truth and true affection. Such
will cause the countenance to be all radiant;
not with cosmetics, but with that which
will abide amid the stern realities Of life.
DON'T MARRY FOR POSITION.
1t is mistake to marry simply for social
position This marrying of surroundings
rather than of a partner is the bane of mar
ried life. For young man to marry from
such a base motive is simply to add one to
| the family, but that one is often consum-
| mate fool, and cat and dog LIE IS gener-
ally the consequence. Those who marry
simply external surroundings deserve moth
ing better than selfish, calculating, design
ing woman, who will shoot missiles OF an
guish and sorrow into their souls all through
life. Young men in seeking a wife should
look only at the Individual. Internal quail
| tiles, not external circumstances, should in
fuence them. A girl who helps her mother
cheerfully, cares for her brother and is kind
and affectionate to her father, is the one to
make loving wife. A young man who
loves and cares for his sister generally has a
tender, loving regard for his wife. With
such there may be glittering surroundings,
but beneath that is the ring of the true met
al, which sounds more sweet and harmOnl-
GUS as life progresses.
MARRYING FOR MONEY.
Motives of wealth too often operate in the
selection of life partners. This is the case
in respect to both sexes. Ibid she marry
well?'' is often asked-that is, did she mar
ry a long, full purse. No matter how hon
est, industrious, or respectable he may be, he
| is of no account if he is lacking in money.
There are no terms strong enough to express
contempt for any twO-legged creature who,
not having inherited wealth and not having
brains enough to make it, will go to work
with cold deliberatiOn to marry 1T. This
having one eye on woman and the other
on her purse in base hypocrisy. Themis-
tocles said he would rather marry his daugh-
ter to man without money than to money
without the man. A true man lives for his
wife rather than on her. Independence is
the prime idea of true manhood. Barter
this way by living on your wlfe's money
and you become simplya serf. In the prac-
tical duties Of daily life the poor creature
who married money and has to live on 1t
underpoes ind a terrible crucifixion. Married
| life to him is anything but paradise. lie
is always the fawning sycophant or the self
wiIied tyrant, and in either case the diff
Guilty increases. The trouble was not SO
much in the act of marriage on his part as
in the motives which prompted it.. lie did
not sow affection, hence he did not reap it !;
but he sowed sordid seltishness which
produced an abundant crop of sorrow, strife
and regret.
MORE PRECIOUS THAN GOLD.
Young men, Danish all ideas of marrying
wealth Earn it, then you will Appreciated 1t
and know how to save it. If you cannot
bring a dowry of gold to wife, bring her a
pure heart and an untarnished reputation
Bring her what a Greek maiden once said
she would bring to her husband, "What
gold cannot purchased heart unspottcd and
virtue without stain, which is all that de-
scended to me from my parents" Get a
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