The Northern Pacific farmer. [volume] (Wadena, Minn.) 1878-1885, 1883-03-29
CLARA BELLE ON MANNERS.
Latest Fashions as to Department in
the Best New York Society.

the Best New York Society.
Speaking of the manners of good So
ciety, questions of social usage puzzle a
great many women, judging by tho let
ters that are forwarded to ne asking
about such matters. Most of them re
late to cards and weddings, and I may
be instructive generally by answering
several of them. II bride has sent you
wedding cards you should call upon her
in her new relations If she sent out no
cards, you may call, and leave her to de-
eide whether she cares to keep up the
social interchange of visits by returning
yours. If you do not wish to continue
the acquaintance, that is to keep up for
NAL visiting, you can drop it ut this
time as appropriately as at any.
It is perfectly proper for young woman
on assuming new social obligations as
wife to revise her own visiting list and
take proper means to retain only those
names to which she may feel herself
able to do social Justice. An unmarried
woman who has no older sister unmar-
ried has 'Miss' on her cards, without
her initials or her first name. On re-
send your cards to those whom you wish
to have call upon you. If you intend to
remain in the town where you are send
your cards to every one whom you wish
to know. mentioning the day and hour
at which yeu will be at home to receive
freshments, like tea and
cake, at S O. clock. 1t is correct for a
widow to have her Christian name on
her visiting cards. A card with ''accept-
ance" written or engraved upon it is vul-
gar. Write punctilious note in the
third person, accepting or declining. If
q card is turned down in the corner it
means that the visitor called in person.
The man who is stranger to the woman
should leave a card for her as we'll as the
man who had taken him to call. 1t is
visit whether she is at home or not.
Both should leave cards. A girl about
to be married does not put P. P. C. on
her cards. Write your regret or accept
ance or an invitation on sheet of note
paper and put it in an envelope directed
to the person who invites you. IN
less you are to send it by post
one envelope is enough.
Do not write regret or acceptance on
your visiting card; that is vulgar. It is
proper to send card to the bride If you
do not call in person, but it is better
call, and especially must you call on hero
mother, who inyites you. The best
form for acceptance is the simplest.
Miss Smith has much pleasure in accep-
ting the kind invitation of Mrs. Brown
for Thursday, the 18th. The ushers at
day weddings are again wearing pearl
colored kid gloves with black stitching
on the back. The coat is black cloth
Prince Albert frock, and the trousers
are dark gray. Their cravats may be
white Ottoman, black, or dark color,
but must be uniform whatever is chosen.
The bride and groom must wear
gloves, but the groom must not wear
dress suit in the day time, no matter
how the bride is dressed. It. is
not customary to send acceptances of
invitations to weddings unless the card
contains the request to respond, Where
from two to five hundred or more cards
are sent out, the formal response to each
one would be nuisance. The proper
acknowledgment is gift and congratul-
atoms if presence on the occasion is i'm
possible. OF course, if it is q small at
home wedding, where provision is made
for eit-down dinner or supper, the case
becomes somewhat different, as only in
innate friends are invited, and it is desir-'
able to know approximately the number
that will be present. But the cabalistic
letters r. s. v. P. were invented AZ an
intimation that reply is something de-
sired, and would not have ever been
used if life was long enough to send and
receive replies to all notes of invitation.
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