The Pickens sentinel. [volume] (Pickens, S.C.) 1871-1903, 1883-08-09
JUST THE SAME,
Mother's Story of Her IittIo Ono and IL,
Punishment.
From Our Continentl

lFrom Our Contnentl
Nearly all mothers must meet. sooner
or later the problem of how to rcbuko O.
punish sensitive child without wound
ing or destroying his sclf-respcct. (Thc
term self-rcspect here includes that mild
form of sclf-cstccm which often fortifics
| child against discrCditable acts.) With
different tcmpcraments entirely different
| methods arc necessary. Two children
in the samc family often need opposite
modes of treatment. I therefore attempt
| to lay down no general rule, but venture
| t" give my own successful solution in one
difficult case, hoping that it may prove
| ut least suggestive in other and similar
| ones.
early found sclf-rcspcct to hc tho
basis of all good manifestations in my
little daughtcr-thc cornerstone upon
which alone | could build firmly. If I
make the mistake Of correcting her fau,i
IN such way as to lessen her sclf-rrspcct.
everything seemed to givo way beneath
uS-l had nothing left to build upon.
When she was three years old, I was
startled into deep consideration of this
matter. Up to this time she had been
so habitlally and chccrfully obcdicnt
that L rarely corrected her, and she lived
IN Il Joyous atmosphere of approval very
sweet to her soul. From tho height of
conscious rcctitude she obcyed with the
air of noblcssc obligc, and her prompt
and loving acquicscencc led us TO believe
that no difficulty lay in tho path of her
development. But one day, in sudden
freak of temper, she did wrong, very
wrong, and I. amazed and shocked, re-
bukcd her quickly, little thinking how
wrong it was for me to say, "You
naughty girl Mamma does not love Won
when You do so ~ Instantly my loving
little daughter was transformed. She
screamed, pushed me away, and soblcd
herself into quiet at last in n far corner
Even after comparative cheerfulness was
restored sho rrpollcd all my advances,
tnd carried a strange, hard look in hcr
tnce while she played with her dollics.
ignoring my presence.
Within few hours sho disobcvcd nlc
again, and, in reply to gentle rcbullc,
said sullrnly: GO not carc-mamma moi
love me = From that time, for two
days, she showed n dogged, hateful spir-
:S, willfully disoboying me- and always
saying: not care; not want to hc
good !" or, 81 not good girl; mamma
not love mel"
/ saw, too late, that by calling her
naughty, and making her think my love
withdrawn, I had brought tho sensitive
little soul TO despair. Self.rcspect and
public respect were lost. She had no
motive for good behavior. The three.
ycar-old desperate was equal to any vii
lainy. She despiscd the blandishmrnt
of the mother who did not love her
Her lips were mresponsive to my kiss
She was absolutely cold and unapproach
able, yet with most pathetic look OF
misery haunting her eyes.
Finally, [ knelt on the floor beside
her, and very tcnderly explained that,
however naughty she might be, mamma
loved her just the same; that nothing
she could ever do would stop mammals
loving her. An incrcdnlolls, hcsitant
look was her only response. then d.
lated on my theme, saying always that I
should love her "just the same"
"Jnst the samc?" she repeated wonder
lngly. So, at last, I won my rebel. She
chung to me convusvely, aud kept ask
ing in soft, delighted voice such oucs-
tions as these: eff strike, does 90 love
me just de samc?" And when T said
that it would make me sad that [ might
he compelled to punish her, but thHt I
should love her just the same, she W, uld
hug and kiss me in an ecstasy. For the
next twcnty-four hours she continued 10
prOpound, with wistful look, new comm.
drums of childish infancy. nlwnvs ending
with, "and Oo'd love me Just d. samcp'
At last she was fully rcassurrd. and
ever since, through all vicissitudcs Of
discipline, she has had perfect confidence |
in my unshnkcn love.
REFORMING BAD BoYs.-The Rev. DR. |
Wayland, of the N0ti0u0i BaJ1tia, has
been Investigating as to the morals o!
persons who were inmates of tire Elmira
Rrformntory. He claims that their cx-
pcrlcnce Ill that institution has n ten
'%""y to work genuine reformation in
th"m. As proof of this he states that
rntty-hlrcc per cent. of them have
show after leaving the Rcformatory
that tnrir reformation is sincere. DR..
Wayl md says that he suspects that not
man OF our colleges could show that
nin't. three per cent. of the graduates
had turned out well.
CLOSE FIaURrNo.-Patti, at So, 900 a
night. will get about S. a breath in
'Lncia. She is on the stage, by tho
watch, just sixty-two minutes during the
hrce acts. This gives her $50 and some
odd cents every minnie. The average
rate OF respiration is about eighteen
minute, so that for each breath is paid
"a. IA. In "Tmaia" there Nre 200 words
md $500 notes, so that Patti is paid
"a. 10 word and $1.76 note.