The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1883-02-02

/ sAnuwhen you awake. you will ind me by
One kiss, and then you must go to bedi''
-Mdrgdret Vdnde0rGt, in Vide Aloake.
OUT.OF-DOOR BEHAVIOR.
One can scarcely take up a paper
nowadays without coming across a
paragraph warning girls against street
| tfirtations. have waited a long time
| hoping some one would speak to the
boys on the subject. but as no one does,
am going to talk to them a little about
it myself.
| have observed that there are always
two parties to a Irritation, and il one is
girl, the other is just as certain to be a
Toy; and if flirting is wrong for one,
why is it right for The other? s. r
, So | said to mischieyous lad once:
"Bob, did you ever flirt on the street,"
ITO be sure / have; lots of times,''n
he responded, with much frankness.
Have you any respect for young
lady who tlirts on the street," l went
on. aa.fA
'They aren't worth shscks," was his
answer ESD
"Why isn't it just as bad for boysP''
I asked.
ooh they are diferentr' said he,
conclusiVely.
:Would you like to have any one firt
with your sister," said /, giving home
thrust.
'.rd like to see any fellow try it,
was the indignant response.
''You should behave toward other
boys sisters as you would have them
behave toward your sisters said |,
applying the Golden Rule with slight
twist to suit the occasion.
American gentlemen pride them
selves, and with reason, on their polite
behavior to women; but sometimes
fear that the rising generation will not
be so courteous as their fathers were
before them. Young ladies now are
often subje ted to annoyances on the
street, or in public conveyances, in the
shape of st4res, bows, ell ow-thrusts,
and attempted conversations which are
very unpleasant Sometimes a girl is
| foolish enough to respond to such i'm
pertinent oVertures, and forgetting her
Womanly dignity, to enter into liirta-
ton; that makes matters worse yet; for
a boy always thinks that he has right
to firt with girl who hirts back at
him. He makes a mistake; he has not
the right, not only because he wrongs
the girl, but because ne wrongs himself
A man can not be truly manly without
he has deeply implanted in his nature a
| habitual respect for woman; and the
boy who practices such imper inences
| whenever he has chance. is undermin-
ing that habit; he is bluning his nobler
sensibilities; he is destroying his moral
tone. Tpis may seem a very serious
view to take of piece of careless nom
sense, but it is a rue one
1t would be pleasant for a lady to feel
whenever sheg out that, in the words
OF an old song which our grandfathers
used to applaud:
Friends in all the old she'll find,
And brothers in the young. te
A generous, protecting care is beau
tful thing for a. man. to give, and an
equally beautiful thing for woman to
receive. r-to-be-remembered is
nameless knight in shabby suit, and
ashocking bad hat, who was passen-
ger in a Fourth avenue horse car one
rainy morning, and who, when a young
girl wished to get out at Stewards with
a big bundle and an umbrella to man
age, stopped the car for her, and with
one quick motion raised the umbrella,
then took the bundle, and carefully
shielding the young girl from the wet,
ran with her up the steps to the store,
opened the door. closed the umbrella,
returned the bundle, responded to her
grateful /" Thank you, sir" with
touch of the hat and smi e, then ran
through the peting storm after his car,
caught it, and disappeared therein.
Equally unforgotten is another gentle
man who, when a Broadway coach
stopped in mud-puddle, which the
same young girl was about to step de-
spairingly into, said frankly: "W ait a
minute. Step on my foot, and I'll swing
you across" and suiting the action t
the word, he P anted his foot in what
was apparently the worst spot of all,
and as she stepped upon it, W tn one
deft swing she was landed safey on the
opposite pavement, and she went onsher
way with thankful heart, sand visions
of Sir Walter Raleigh fitting through
her brain.
My paper has been occupied 81 far
with suggestions as to w you sh uld
behave to other boys sisters, but now,
how shall you behave when you meet
their maiden aunts, their mothers and
their grandmothers? | asked my par
ticular Sir Phi ip Sidney question
once, which I think throws some light
on this point. ! will explain that Sir
Philip is clerk in wholesale hardware
store where they have very long hours
and very hard work. Said l: ''Phil, do
you ala0ayS give up your seat to a lady
if she is standing?''
"Well,'' he answered, ''some nights
when / am fearfully tired | don't give
up my seat to a young lady, but | can t
bear to see an old woman, no matter
whether she is a lady or not, stand
while l sit.
Those whose behavior is regulated by
such a spirit will always be truly
courteous to their elders 1t is shame
to see half-a-dozen young fellows spring
eagerly up to give seat to a beautiful
girl, when they will not stir for worn,
faded woman, with perhaps bundle of
cheap sewing in her arms, and who is
moth any case one-tenth part as able to
stand as the bright, healthy young lady.
They agitated the question while ago
in dear old Boston, whether, if every
seat IN the street-car was taken, and
young man should see his mother
cook enter, he was in courtesy bound
remembering that she was woman as
well as cookie rise and give her his
seat | for one do not see why he
should not.
After all, the truest guide to a court
eous behavior is the promptings of
kindly and thoughtful spirit, and the
best rule for the government of man.
ners is the Golden one. And if our
boys viii cultivate the one. and be
guided by the other, they cannot go far
astray. Eleanor H. Hunter. in Chris.