Connecticut western news., 1883-10-24
WHAT TO MARRY.
Not Wealth nor Beauty, but Virtue, Truth
 and Sincere Affection.

Not Wealth nor Beauty, but Virtue, Truth
 aud Sincere Affection.
 Rev. c. c. Goss delivered ill New York an interesting sermon on "The Mistakes Respecting Courtship and Marriage"
 The importance of the subject, the preacher said, can only be appreciated by those familiar with the infelicities of married life. Our public journals teem with incidents of domestic troubles. Di- vorce is getting to be about as much an institution as marriage. The causes of this are found in the sickly sentimental ism of our so-called story papers, the representation of artificial life i'll the scenes of the stage and want of proper instruction as to life's duties and re- responsibilities from the pulpits. If ever the circumstances demanded free, bold utterance in respect to the ills of the married relation it is at the present time, and we need expect no better state of. .sthings in domestic life till the pulpit, kthe press and the stage unite in turning the tide in better direction.
 First, 1t is mistake for young people to marry simply for beauty. Beauty, often, is only skin deep, and serves as veneering to cover up de- formed heart and soul. Some of the most homely persons we have are 1D- wardly the most beautiful. Such was
 Annie Steele, the tender poetess of Eng land. Such was Watts, the great poet, of whom q lady said that she admired the jewel but abhorred the casket. Seek, fthen, for partner in life who possesses
 the inner beauties of virtue, truth, and
 true affection. Such will cause tho
 countenance to be all radaint, not witl
 cosmetics, but with that which will abide
 amid the stern realities of life.
 It is mistake to marry simply fo
 social position. This marrying of sur
 roundings rather than of partner is thu
 bane of married life. For 8 young mal
 to marry from such base motive |
 simply to add one to the family, bu
 that one is often consummate fool
 and cat and dog life is generally tht
 consequence. Those who marry simpl.
 external surroundings deserve nothing
 better than selfish, calculating, design
 ing woman, who will shoot missiles o
 anguish and sorrow into their souls al through life. Young men iu seeking wife should look onl y at the individual
 Internal qualities, not external circum stances, should influence them. A gil who helps her mother cheerfully, care , for her brother and is kind and atfec tionate to her father is one to make
 loving wife. A young man who love
 and cares for his sister generally has
 tender, loving regard for his wife. Wit :. such there may be glittering surround ings, but beneath that is the ring of tn true metal, which sounds more swet , and harmonious as life progresses. Motives of wealth too often operate r. the selection of life partners. This l the case in respect to both sexes. "Dl |, she marry we'll p is often asked-that q did she marry long, full purse. \ d matter how honest, industrious, respec h able he may be. There are no tern h strong enough to cypress contempt f
 any two-legged creature who, not havll " inherited wealth aud not having brail l. enough to make it, will go to work wi "a cold deliberation to marry 1t. This Ina ,o ing one eye on woman and the other w her purse is base hypocrisy. Them m tocles said he would rather marry 1e daughter to man without money tn h. to money without the man. A true m o. lives for his wife rather than on h. h. Independence is the prime idea of tr ne manhood. Barter this away by livi e, on your wife's money and you beco he simply serf.
 al In the practical duties of daily life ne poor creature who married money ( xt has to live on it undergoes terri en crucitixion. Married life to him is a 'n- thing but paradise. He is always tic fawning sycophant or the self-willed es, rant, and in either case the difficulty gre creases. The trouble was not so m he in the act of marriage on his part as He the motives which prompted it. He on, not SOW affection, hence he did not r of it; but he sowed sordid selfishI en which produced an abundant cror fell sorrow, strife and regret.
 na- Young men, banish all ideas of ma by ing wealth Earn it, then you will egs preciate it and know how to save it. m. you cannot bring a dowry of gold nds wife, bring her pure heart and an nto tarnished reputation. Bring her wh tide Greek maiden once said she would b mes to her husband, "What gold cannot ave chase-a heart unspotted and vi ove without stain, which is all that ing seconded to me from my parents" ser wife who has what Dr. Watts
 "Wealth above what earth can g inal and lasting as the mind" Then the married life be pleasant and a, in n able, and the end be peaceful ant sort umphant
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