The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1883-12-20
Some Of the Fine Arts of Society.
SPEAKING WELL OF OTHERS.

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If the fine accomplishment of speak
ing well OF others were taught in every
household, it would become almost n
Paradlsaical land. But, alas the oppo-
site accomplishment prevails. How
many heart. burnings, quarrels and es-
| trangcmcnts in families have arisen from
this disposition of speaking evil of each
other! Each Of us has his faults.
There is none that doeth good; no. not
one" and in the actions of the hest of
persons there will be occasional errors
which others will perceive, and, if thew
aTe evil iindcdh, viii publish; and before
they have passed through a dozen
mouths, they are SO changed that thew
are hardly recognizable.
The art Of speaking we'll of others can
be easily acquired, and it is n good rule
TO make in n household, that the one
who criticizcs others unkindly in the
'amily circle, or among friends, shall,pay
sinai! tine to be used for some good OBJ.
Ject. The common and unchristian
practice of talking about our relatiyes'
ana neighbours faults is really taught in
the household by parents and friends,
and the children catch the habit only
too quickly.
THE ART OF sOCIABILITY.
Learn to be sociable wherever vo,,
go, and to speak your lightest words in
tones that are sweet. and with n aa sn;ri,
that is genial. Think how much niens.
ure you can give to others by indy
word, or a cheerful conversation and re.
fleet how much sunshine such sociahili.
ty throws back into your own SOUL
Who does not feel more cheerful and
contented for receiving polite bow. and
a pleasant good morning" with hearty
shake of the hand? WHO does not
make himself happier by these slight OK.
presslons of good will? Silence. or
stlff, unbending reserve, ia selfish. and
churllsh. The generous and polite man
has pleasant recognition and cheerful
word for every one he meets, and he
scatters sunbeams on his pathway through
life, lights the path of others with smiIes
and makes the world bright to those who
are apt to find it cold and forlorn whije
what he gives is but 1.-THE of what he
receives, as his own heart is kept fresh
and warm by the cheerfulncss he exnends
upon others. Life would not be half as
cheorless and lonely if sociability were
cultivated as fine art.
THE ART OF LIVING PEAcEApLy.
The art Of living in peace in the fami.
ly is greatly promoted by the constant
exchanges of the little courtesies of life
which are never unacceptable and never
unimportnnt. Shall husbands and wives
DC less mindful of injuring the feelings
OF each other than those of strangers?
Should there be less effort to maintain
suavsty OF manner, gentleness or deport.
ment, and courtesy of expression in the
tamll y circle than is extended to yisitors?
1t ls the neglect of these little courte.
sle5 In home life which fills the saloons
anu billiard rooms with Young men
There all il bright, gay and pleasing to
the senses and soon they arc drawn in.
TO dissipation, and only look unon their
homes as boarding places, where the
physical necessities of eating and sleep.
ing arc procured. In early lie brothers
and sisters should be taught to be kind
obllging and attentive to each other to
perform little Offices for each other and
learn the suavities of department which
are 40 essential TO the happiness Of their
own lives, and Of those with whom thew
are connected. Brothers and sisters thus
taught can rarely fail to make pleasant
homes OF their own, where words of
pickering or strife are never heard.
Sweet smiles and kindly actions are the
small coins Of life, and in their aggregate
consist the happiness and wellbeine of
the whole family. Where such honse-
holds become the rule, then peace and
prosperity reign. Bettor is q dinner of
herbs where love is, than n stalled OK
and hatred therewith.-Daisy EyeJri1ht
IN Country Gentleman.