The daily dispatch. [volume] (Richmond [Va.]) 1850-1884, 1883-04-22
Fashionable Manners.
CLARA BELLE Oh DEPoRTMENT AND VISITING
CARDS,
lCicinnatl Enquirer. !


Speaking Of the manners Of good society,
questions OF social usage puzzle great
many women. judging By the letters thst
are forwarded to me asking about such
matters. Most OF them relate to cards and
weddings. and | may be instructive gene
rally by answering several OF them. II a
bride has sent you weddng-cardS, YOU
should call upon her i'm her new relation.
II she sent out no cards, you may call, and
leave her 10 decide whether she cares 10
keep up the social Interchange OF visits by
returning yours. II you do not wish to
continue the acquaintance that Il, to keep
mp formal Washington can drop ii at this
time as appropriately a. ut any. 1t Is per-
fectly proper fora young woman on assum-
ing new social obligations rs a wife TO re-
wise her own visiting list and take proner
means to retain only those names to which
she may feel herself able 20 do social justice.
An unmarried woman who has no older
sister unmarried has Miss on her cards
without her initials or her first name. in
returning to your home after long absence
send your cards 10 those whom YOU wish
TO have call upon YOU. Ii YOU intend 10
remain in the town where YOU are, send ont
cards TO every one that You wish To know.
mentioning the day and hour at which YOU
will be at home TO receive them. and offer
some light refreshments. like tea and cake,
at ) o'clock. II = correct for a widow
to have her Christian name on her visiting
cards. 4 card with acceptance" written
or engraved upon it i vulgar. Write a
punctiliOus note in the third person accept
Ing or declining. Iii card is turned down
in the corner it means that the visitor cali
ed in person. The man who is stranger
TO the woman should leave a card for her
a. well as the man who has taken him 10
call. II is visit whether she i, at home
or not. Both should leave cards. \ girl
about to be married does not put y. Il. G..
on her cards. Write your regret or accept
ancc OF IN invitation on a sheet Oi note pa
per, and put il an envelope directed TO the
person VINO invites YOU. Unless you are 10
send it by post, one envelope j. enough.
Do not write regrets or acceptanccS on
your visiting-card that is vulgar II i
proper 10 send a card b the bride il yOu do
not call i'm person. bat it i better 10 call,
and especially must you call on her mother,
who invites you. The best form for accept
ance is the simplest: "Miss Smith has much
pleasure in accepting the polite invitation
OF Mrs. Brown for Thursday the 18th. =
The ushcrs at day weddings are again wear
ing pearl-colored kid gloves with black
stitching on the back. The coat is black
cloth Prince Albert frock. and the trou,er,
are dark gray. Their crayats may be white
Ottoman. black. or dark color. but must
be uniform. whatever color j. chosen. The
bride and groom must wear gloves, but the
groom must not wear dress suit in the
DAYTIME, no matter how the bride j. dressed.
II is not customary 20 send acceptanccs Of
invitations 10 weddings unless the card con-
tains the request to respond. Where from
two 10 five hundred or more card. are
sent ont. the formal response 10 each
one would be a nuisance. The proper ac-
acknowledgement is IA gift aud congratulations
il presence on the occasion j, impossible.
OF course, if il is a small at-home wedding.
where provision is made for a sil-down din
ner or supper. the case becomes somewhat
different, as only intimate friends are inyi-
ted. and ii is desirable to know approximate
~ the number that will be present. BIN the
cabaIistic letters x. ;. V. L. were invented
a. an intmaton that reply is something
desired, and would not have ever been used
il life was long enough TO send and receive
replies to all notes OF invitation.