The weekly Union times. [volume] (Union C.H., South Carolina) 1871-1894, 1883-07-06
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AUNT, T,MALINDY'S LETTERS.
No. 6.

you that most ginerally young women banker
after the blessed state Of matrimony. feel
certain that you're fully convinced that told
the truth, for you aD:, every other Twin woman
who amt married can, If you will, bear witness
10 what I've said. for you oil want to marry and
are, tryin>to marry, and will marry the very
FIRST good chance that comes along your way.
You needn't snigger, and blush, and hide your
face, for know what I'm talkin about. Amt
womanH Wasn't young once, and didn't
think, ard feel. and hope, and plan, and do
list like any other modest young woman of the
"eh ycs' l nts9:..s-asz e..;,:: wnen sy
mon give me chance said "yes" and SO we
get married, and nm glad said eyes" I'd do
1t agin under the same provocation. When a
person wants rabbit the first thing is to ketch
i'm and it's the same way about husband; you
must first ketch i'm. Aud let me tell you, it
ain't every woman that knows how to ketch o
husband. Sometimes they think they've got
i'm when he has no idee of bein captur'd.-
There's many a slip between the cup and the
lip BE careful, or you may fnd this true in
your case. Never count man you rn till you re
married to i'm, for If you do you may fud to your
sorrow, when il is too late, that a lover is like
the person that owes you money, never on
hand when you want i'm, or like the grasshop.
per, he.was here Yesterday but to day he's gone.
Now as the husband must first be ketch'd
will say few things on that subject.
How shall manage to ketch a husband is q
question almost every young woman tries to
answer. Sone of 'em answer it wisely and suc.
cessfully, aud some fail to answer it, or s'pose
they fail. for they don't marry.
woman should never let the world think
that she's q huntin q husband. If she does
she'll likely have to keep on huntin to the end
OF her natural life. woman should never
be husband hunter. Just let her keep herself
pure, and make herself attractive, and a hus-
band will be almost shure to hunt her. When
q man thinks that all he has to do is merely
ask woman to marry i'm and she will thank
fully throw herself into his arms, he's not very
likely to do the askin. There's Sarah Seekim-
hard; she never saw man in her life 'thout
settin her cap for i'm from the jump, 60. She'd
bow and curtsy, and ogle, and look cunnin and
innocent, and smile, and talk finiky, and try to
look sweet u til the poor fellow'd git disgusted
and leave her alone in her glory. Yes, he'd
leave 'er, but not till after he'd had heap of
fun at her expense. If o Woman don't want to
die on old maid shed better not let man think
she's tryin to marry i'm; for no matter how
much he likes 'er the very mint he finds she's
tryin to ketch i'm away he'll 90 and leave'er
daddin around is not good way to ketch q
husband. No man wants to marry q woman
that goes visitin eight days in every week
It's right to 90 to see your neighbors now and
then, but o woman who's always on the pad is
not the woman to make good wife. She's q
good match for :he fellow who spends all his
time lyiu round the corner grocery whittlin,
and piayin checkers. and tellin long. winded
stories. They ought to marry, for its pity to
spile two houses with 'em. Home is the best
place for woman to show rael worth. MANY
woman makes good show away from home
who at home is cross and sloutchey, and selfish,
and anything but nice; but that woman who
stays Mt home and tries 70 do her whole duty
there, will stand good chance Of winin the
love of some true man.
Some girls seem to think that the bolder they
nre the better the young men like 'em, and the
sooner they'll marry. Now, II q man who tries
TO make woman out of himself is contempt a.
Die, woman who is bold ana tries to be like o
rakish man is disgustin. girl who uses slang
Is not the kind I'd choose for wife, il was n
man. No matter how mucli thought of a girl
II I'd hear her sayin "Pll bet." and "you bet;
and "Id smile and "How's that for high" and
other slang, I'd be shure not to marry her, for
woman who uses vulgar language, and oil slang
is vulgar. is not the kind Of q woman I'd want
for wife. don't care how pretty she d look
nor now graceful In person she was nor how styl.
ish she'd dress, If she was in the habit Of using
siang, that'd be enough for me, she couldn't be
my wife. Nor would marry o man that used
slang, for he'd be shure to be vulgar rake a,
heart.
Don't be too frse with your lover, ifyou want
i'm to marry you. Better be little too distant
Than . little too free. No man will have much
respect for woman If she's in the habit of
throwin her arms round his neck an. bu0pin
I'm and kissin i'm, and sottin on his lap, and
sayin her heal ON his shoulder, and actin the
part OF a iove-sick fool. That's not the way to
win mon. Keep your arms from round your
sever's neck, you will be jist as well off il you
don't kiss I'm, nor allow i'm to kiss you.
chair Is almost 90 comfortable to set on as your
lovers lap and since I've o. me to think of II I
oieevo you'd better set on q chair, and there
mo need Of restin your head on his sboulder
Nthout you're sick. Set up like sensible girl
and tax u i'm 10 e-rlpin sensible way. BE
reserved In your manners, Vet i'm see that you've
let's ofssslf respect, for he WV respect you in
tbs same proportion that you feepect yourself
I'll give you some rules. snd IN you'll follow
ssn you'ii hnd sem : great help to you
Never forgit that you must give an account to
God for every sction Of yonrlif therefore walk