The Osceola times., 1883-11-10

always leave out the word obey, unless
the Bride or groom request 1t. But l oc-
casionally put it in for the benefit Of the
husband"
Rev. William Burnett Wright said :
THE obligation Is absolutely equivalent
upon both man and wife. | omit the
word obey because it has no binding
force in practice. Both parties covenant
alike, and can conceive of no cause that
will tend to break up the harmany Of
domestic relations greater than to have
children feel that their mother is slave
to the father. There is no form in our
church that we are obliged to subscribe
to; therefore we violate no rule in omit
ting the word obey"
Rev. DR.. Webb stated that in his faith
some use the word "obey" while others
do not II generally use the words love,
honor and cherish" but / think the pre-
valence ofthe terrible evil of divorce may
cause a return to the use Of the word
obey,' so that, as far as forms and words
can make it, the ceremony should be
more binding, am some times reques-
ted to use obey in the service, bat not
frequently"
Rev. A. j. Gordon said there was no
ritualistic form for the clergyman of the
Babtis. faith to use. $50 far as know,
| L.a ivA xyidy al itrdU.
ment as to what form he adopts. l
almost always use the word obey, but
have no special reason to give for so
| doing"
Rev. Minot j. Savage said emphatic
ally: al never nsed the word obey" and
and never intend to use it. ! can see no
reason why the wife should obey the
husband any more than the husband the
wife,"
Rev. @. P. Clifford said he sometimes
used the word "obey," and sometimes
not, but generally used the regular Epis-
copal marriage service. "The word obey
in the ritual. if used, doesn't amount to
much, for if the wife loves her husband
she will obey him in all things that are
right, and if she don't love him il will be
a bad year for him."
Rev. George Landor Perrin said: 81
never used the word obey and think it
is not customary in the Protestant chur-
ches of to-day. ] always use the words
love. honor and CHERISH / have never
been asked to use the word, but frequent
ly have been requested to leave it out of
the service"
Rev. w. w. Downs, of the Bowdoin
Souare Baptist Church, said: 81 do not
know what others may do, but for many
wears have used the word. with the ad-
dition of in love- In other words, say
obey in love- which thereby robs it of
all objection. The true husband will not
ask his wife to obey except in love, and
the true wife is always ready to do that.
Occasionally / have been asked by the
lady, and always do So"
Rev. Charles G. Grafton, of the Church
of the Advent, Mount Vernon street,
said: az would not pretend TO set myself
up over the Scripture, which says plainly
that the husband is the master. The
book Of common prayer prescrlbes it, and
| think it is satisfactory"
Rev. Horace W. Bolton, of the Grace
NJ. f. Church, Temple street, said: u
lett the word obey out years ago. =!
don't know any reason why one should
agree to obey more than another"
Rev. s. T.. Herrick, of the Mount Yer
non Congregational Church. Ashburton
place, said: 81 have no set formula
sometimes use the word, and sometimes
| don't. In many cases have thought
that the husband should be the one that
promised to obey instead of the wife, and
in these cases l have left the word ont
| am free to say that in my judgment and
as the event proved, the wife vas the
controlling influence, although the hus.
band did not know it, and was better fol
not knowing it."