Daily Republican., 1883-10-30
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Whitehall Review.

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An English marriage market ha
become an arena Of competition AZ kee
a. an auction.roOm. The natural in
pulses OF women are disregarded.
| Mothers advise prudent alliances, an
discountenance, by fair means and fou
love-matches. Girls choke down thei
feelings and aid and abet their senior
In encouraging men who are catches,
throwing off the restraints which mad
their grandmother charming, but still
the cry goes up, Men do not marry.
| And yet the most inveterate clubman
the mOcker at love In cottage, WA
once youth not blase, to whom tn
vision Of o home was enchanting. AL
most every man tries his hand at realiz
ing some such dream early in life, but
the attempt is usually nipped In the
bud by want Of means or by failure tC
win the particular woman on whom his
heart is set.
He suffers acutely, but man is an
elastic creature. In time lie mingles
again with the world, not entirtly
proef against feminine fascination, b 1t
tin ing 1t almost impossible to set up
an ideal. Matrons with attractive
daughters cannot complain that their
girls see few men. The tendency OF
the age is to level the barriers between
the sexes girls play tennis, they row,
they RINK, they skate, they sit in the
smoking room, they dance not ou,y iu
the evenings but also during the after.
moons.
The natural tendency of such IT..
mate association would be matrimony.
But the fact Is that men who might
have had serious intentions are fright
ened off before liking begets love.
There is an all-prevailing fuss prevail.
ing the intercourse Of youag people
Which is altogether detrimental The
instant a pair begiu to show any par
ticular liking for each others society
the wide world around then is instantly
on the qui vive. The mother watches,
fiisses, reports to her cronies and too
often ca.echizes the girl, wounding her
sense Of deicacy and making her con-
scious and constrained, or leading her
to imagine herself beloved, when the
mans feeling is only that of pleasure in
the society of young woman who does
her best to make herself agreeable.
Men are usually ignorant how girls
note and weigh the attentions they re-
ceive, and that they impsrt the details
Of such homage to sympathetic (if en-
vious) feminine ears, thus giving body
to vague nothings and brooding over
trities till they gather shape. Mean
while the man, having said the pretty
thi gs his idea of pOliteness has prompt
e1, goes away, forgetting them aud
their recipient, while she Is expecting a
declaration as the result OF few soft
nothings, a squeeze of the hand or
tender glances. Women are not aware
on the other hand, how sincerely he
may like and admire girl without
thought beyond mere good will. And
1t Is precisely the better kind of man
who falls into the mis- fortune of raising
false hopes-the man who believes in
the simple ty and candor of women,
desires their sympathy and values their
regard.
A man of the world has the instinct
Of self-preservation developed strongly
enough for his protection. The sense
of IA fety IL the real bond of many of
the alliances now no acknowledgements.
times salutary. often nischievous--hs'
tween men and married women. Kept
within bounds no suspicion attaches to
them, no hopes are built upon them.
The lady receives ths petits soins due
to the female nature, which the hus.
band Of long sanding often neglects;
the man receives the sympathy grateful
to the masculine creature. Men feel
this withoutanalyzing their sentiments,
and 1t isa common complaint among
them nowadays TIN it is impossible to
b come well acquainted with "a girl
without exciting the too lively anxiety
of her friends. Aud no wise MAN pro
poses without knowing the character of
the girl he wishes to marry. The moth
ers " to are 80 eager for their daughters
establishment are wise, although this
is not only foolish but ill.,
decUrous.