The Vancouver independent. (Vancouver, W.T. [Wash.]) 1875-1910, 1883-09-20

may be equally disposed to do what is
lawfully required of them. The son who
said, 81 go not, SIR" but "afterward re-
pented and went" was the son who
really did the will of his father.
1t would seem that the first thing for
a parent to do is to get acquainted with
his child, and so to place his mind along
the level of his child's mind and in such
contact with it that he may understand
its workings and so become familiar with
all its approaches. He will then easily
know how to regulate, direct and re.
strain its action, until the child becomes
his own intelligent master, and no more
needs the parental guidance. Most par
ents in general way care for their chill
dren, and are disposed to do everything
that can promote their interests. They
provide home, clothtng and other COM
forts and necessaries, but never give
time for exchange of ideas, of prefer
ences, and for that intimate mutual I'M
derstanding which is the basis of sym
patty and friendship, and which leads
the child to repose the most sacred con.
fidenoes in the parent. There are no
friendships purer or sweeter than those
between parents and children. Sons
who,find in their father an elder brother,
daughters who find in their mother an
elder sister, seldom stray from the paths
of virtue. Said mother: II scarcely
ever played With my children, for I
found that when I did 30 I was after
ward unable to control them" If
that mother had learned to play
with her children without oeasing all
the while to control them they
would not have broken her heart as they
afterwards did, by throwing of, with
their minority, all restraint, and indulg-
ing uDlimitedly in everything she had
forbidden them. The most successful
and beloved teachers and parents are
those who enter most earnestly and
heartily into the sports and enjoyments
of the young in their charge, and
through their affections thus acquire un-
bounded influence over them.
If men and women are but children of
larger growth, children are men and
women of lesser growth. Though
both statements are equally true, we are
much slower to accept the last than we
are to accept the first. However tiny and
puny and young the bsby.man may be,
he's man for a. that" and when he
comes to his estate, the wrongs and in
justices done to the child will be the
wrongs and injustices done to the man,
and will be remembered as such. IF
my father had only given me, when l
was young, the one hundredth part of
the money he left me when he died, /
could have gone to school and could
have made a much better record than
have. He kept me cultivating the farm
when ought to have been cultivating
my mind. But he meant it for my
good" So said thoughtful farmer to
his son. who was first leaving home to 60
to school.
A few heeting years suffice to bring
parents and children to the common
plane of manhood and womsnhood,
where they are all subject to like condi.
tions. Hunger, thirst. weariness, pain,
sickness, death-the burden of life, like
the pressure of the atmosphere which
none escapes-in one form or another
press with equal weight on all. The
parents are for little time permitted to
pioneer for their children, to make q
way for them and to prepare them and
fortigy them for the labors they must
perform, the responsibilities they must
assume, the sorrows they must suffer
to ct the N to act we'll their part in the
great drama of life.-N. Y. Tribune.