The Dickinson press., 1883-07-21
found'dead. He was sunstruck three weeks
ago and had since complained of pains in
the head.
FLIRTING MARRIED. WoME,

FLIRTING MARRIED WOMEN,
Their rollies Painted In Proper Col.
Ors.
San Francisco argonant.
No class of women of the beau monde
do more harm than do those married
women who amuse themselves by carry-
ing on a HARMLESS tlirtation"-a desie-
nation which is a misnomer, for no fir
tation can be harmless where one of the
parties to it is a married woman. There
may be nothing essentially wrong in the
affair; no harm may accrue either to her
her powers of attraction; but her hus-
band il made unhappy, and she becomes
the subject of unpleasant comment. II
is frequently said that pretty young mar
ried women are much more attractive to
gentlemen than it is possible for young
ladies to be. The reason assigned for
that is that men can talk to them with
less restraint, can adopt toward them a
free-and- easy tone, which renders them
agreeable companions. The truth of
the matter is that men nav
with impunity lavish upon married
women attentions which, if offered to
single women, would be decidedly
committal;. and as society men are not
often burdened with money, and are
not prepared to set up establishments
of their own, they avoid the society of
young girls, and joining the train of
some gay, young matron, are contented
with such grains of comfort as she sees
incomprehensible that any man of sense
should be willing to become one of this
retinue, who are permitted to carry nv
lady's shwal, OF hold her fan, in return
for assiduous devotion; but they are
fattered by such distinction-it makes
them fashionable. No unmarried man
should be blamed for carrying on a
filtration with a married woman, when
she takes the initiative, but a woman
should be censured who. having volun-
tarily exchanged the freedom of girlhood
for the responsibilities of a wife, disre-
CARDS her husbands claims upon her
time and attention, and %fritters them
away in a silly Irritation with some
an who, while protesting ardent
and perhaps ss''s' rldicu aHnuen her ne At
his club. If a woman
feels that she is unwilling to relinouish
the attention, which, as a girl, was hers
by right; that the devotion of one man
cannot compensate her for that which
She gives up in marrying him she should
remain unmarried; but being married.
let her content herself with the admira-
ton Of her .sband, and cease to desire
that of other men. I do not mean to
imply that because a woman is married
she should be isolated, and in society
reltgated to the companionship of her
lnh band. There is a certain kind of at
tentlon to which married are en-
TITLED, n which they may receive with
out provoking comment. Talented, at
tractlve. women may draw around them
men OF intellect, welcome them to their
homes, and make themselves the center
Ola cultivated circle; may show that
they take pleasure in their society, and
may accept their chivairous attentions
in a pleasant, frank, without
being at all tiirtatious. But when mar
rled women permit e to pay them
fulsom compliments, to make lovelike
speeches of them, and to show them
marked attention, they depart from that
matronly dignity which is II of their
greatest charms. 1t is alleged by those
who seek to excuse the Irritation ofmar-
ried women that it is very hard for a
olna who had once been a belle to do
without admiration; and another excuse
that perhaps the husband is lacking in
devotion, is uninteresting, and 80 she
she seeks the companionship of men
who are Interesting. Although a gladu.
al diminution of affectionate attention ON
the part ola husband is u great grief to
q wife, it does not warrant her in enga-
glng in a Irritation rs cure for ennui.
There are other more eflicacious meth
DDS ofdealing with recalcitrant husbands,
| and UhiIA a Invinr wifu wbr ~ ,,,rln,t,.j
always ELECTS syEspathv, sympathy gives
place to censure if she becomes a Hirt in
order to avenge her wrongs. No woman
whose love for her husband is true and
deep will care for the attention of other
men; she may like to look we'll and ell
deavor to be bright and attractive in So
Glety but neither by word or look will she
encourage any approach to q Irritation
Women who do encourage such adj
Vances have much to answer for; they
not only wreck their own happiness,
but they exert a pernicious influence
over those with whom they come in
contact, and lower all women in the
opinion of men. If a young man sees
that his wiie's friend prefers his society
to that of her husband, he reflects that
were he to become a "Benedict" in his
turn, very probably his wife would pre-
ltI oIileI Llell W mn, ana he cOnCluueS
that he is much happier as a bachelor,
spending his evenings in the society of
the wives of his friends, since he is so
cordially welcomed. Married women
who are tlirts are often INSCRIPTIONS,
and instead of beng the advisers and
coad.iutors Of young girls in society, they
become their most dangerous enemies
if they think that their preserves are
being trespassed upon. Married wom-
en- should be q power i'll society, they
should take precedence of young girls
by reason of their knowledge of the
world, their savoir faire, their super
ior wisdom; bat when they exchange
the title of "mademoiselle" for that Of
"madame," they should make their
t~utelary divinity Pallas-Athene instead
of Aphrodite.
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