The daily Cairo bulletin. (Cairo, Ill.) 1878-1???, 1883-12-19
How to Make Acquaintance.

ton this etiquette is reversed, and new
corners call first on the residents
Every one, from the highest othciais
down. returns these, and after THIS
ceremony the caller generally finds HIM
self invited to the receptions OF the
President and his Cabinet the houses
of the officers of the army and navy,
the Judges of the Supreme Court, and
those of Senator'S and Representatives,
Formerly no etiquette was necessary at
the White House; every one rushed IN
to a reception without the formality OF
cards.
. The social arrangements Of Washing
ton are so convenient that 1t is thousand
pities that this etiquette does not go into
practice all over our land, as no resi-
dent of large city can possibly know
whether her dearest friend is in town
unless informed of that fact. This does
not, as some might fear expose society
to the entree OF unwelcOme lntruders'
Tact, which is the only guide through
the mazes of society, will always
enable anyone to avoid an unwelcome
intimacy or doubtful acquaintance,
should such person call first. Now
the question comes up-and mere noc-
tors disagree-when may q ia'ty can ~
proxy, or when may she send her card'
and when must she call in person.
After dinner-party iaIy inu's .aii
in person and inquire II the lady Oh the
house is at home. For other entertain
ments it is allowable former 70 sehu her
daughter, her governeas' OF hel maui
with her card, or she may sehd ner
card by mail. in sending 10 inquire
for person health c..ras may no
sent BY servants with kinaiy message
No first visit, however, should % re-
turned by card only his wonid DO
considered slight unless 1t were iol.
lowed by an invitation. But the SIZE OF
New York, the great distances the busy
life of a woman OF charities ana large
family, and an immense circle OF friends
often render a personal visit impossiole,
She may be considered to have done
her duty if she in her turn ask her new
acquaintance TO call on her on sPeci-
fed day We have thus far looked al
the question from the STANDPOINT vi
lady who has an assured position ana
too many friends. We will now look
upon it from the light OF person VINO
has no Cor very few acquaintance and
no introductions.. We have considered
the question negatively. we are all
more or less newcomers IN this new
land we are all carpet-DaggerS' OF may
be; so we will look at 1t amrmati'eiy'
We will suppose that young coupie
marry and 60 to Milwaukee; they 90
not know anybody; they. are alone
The husband makes ms business iflehus'
they take seat in church they nave
house. The young bride reels lonely
She would like to know Mines A, d.
and G; but they do not call upon her;
she is afraid to call upon them she Is
unhappy. She asks what shall she 40,
Undoubtedly did Mines. A, b, and =
know this they would 60 and call
Certainly the large-mlnded ana KIND
hearted would But they are preoccu-
pied; they know nothing OF herr they
are busy. 1t is hard position, and
one which is the cause OF much social
strife.
The Count Gurowski, in his book on
America, mentions the fact that every
American woman is afraid of every
other" He was an old aristocrat, and
| he looked upon our attempts at exclu-
siyeness with derisive scorn. He
said that the habits of American life
were those Of the burgers of prosperous
towns like Hamburg and Antwerp, that
they seldom, if ever, rose much above
contracted elegance, with no entour-
age of nobility, but that he would hear
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