Spirit of Jefferson. [volume] (Charles Town, Va. [W. Va.]) 1844-1948, 1883-04-10
MISCELLANEOUS.
Advice 20 q Young nan.

Get married, my boy? Telemachus,
come up close and LOOK me right in the
eve, and listen to me with both ears.
Get married. If you never do another
thing in the world, marry. You can't
afford it? Your father married on n
smaller salary than you are getting now,
my boy, and he has eight children,
doesn't have to work very hard, and
every year he pays a great pile of your
little bills that your salary won't cover.
And your father was just as good man
at your age as you are now Certainly
yOu eau afford to marry. You can't af-
ford not to. No, I'm NJ going to quote
that tiresome old saying that what will
keep one person will keep two, because
it won't. 4 thousand dollar salary
won't keep two one thousand dollar
people, but it will keep two FIVE hun
dfed dollar people nicely, and that's all
yos are, just now, my boy. You need
not vince or get angry. Let mo tell
you, young iuIu who rates in the world
as a FIVE huHdred dollar man, all the
year roun!, Monday "a well as Satur-
dav, the day after Christmas Just as
we'll is the day before; the nth of July
aS well as tie third, he IA going to ratio
hisher every year, until he is a partner
almost before he hoped to DE boOkkeeD-
er. Good, reliable i've hundred dollar
young men are not sach drug in the
nlarket rs you suppose You IN lrry ,and
y'ur wife m'iit bfins tact, and love, and
skill, and domestic genius and wo-
M iniy economy that will early double
your salary. Bat you would have
10 deny yourself many little lux
uries aud ibe:tiesa Certainly you
would; or rather you'd will
lingingig give them up for greater luxu-
Ties. ind You don't want to shoulder
the burdens and cares of married life?
1 see you do not And see what you
do not realize, perhaps-that all your
selfish You haven't given one manly
rea-on for not marrying. II you do
marry, You src going into a world of
new cares, new troubles, new embar-
easements. You are going to be care.
full and worried about many things.
You are going to be tormented with
household cares and perplexities all new
and untried to you. You are going to
be pestered and bothered and troubled.
You Will have to walk the floor with ten
pounds of baby and a barrel full of collie,
when You are nearly crazy for sleep.
You will have to tell stories to the chill
dren when you want to read. You will
have to mend toy for young Tom when
You onght to be writing letters. You
will have to stay at home in the evening
when you used TO go to the club. The
baby will rnmple your necktie and the
other children will trample into your lap
with their dusty shoes. Your wife viii
have so mich to do looking after the
comfort of her husband and children
that sac won't be able to sing and play
for ynu every evening, as your sweet
heart d a. Your time will not be your
own. and you will have less leisure and
freedom f,r ti=hing and shooting excur-
sipnS, CAMPS III The mountains aud Yacht
ing trius siOng the coast, than your
bachelor friends of your own age. /
admit all this. But then, you will be
learning self denial, you viii be living
for some one else; you viii be loving
Some nne better than yo1 love YOUR
self. and more than thousand fold that
cnmPensates fo- all that you give up.
WHY, you want to remain single now,
M boy. just because you are selfish.
And tss. lon ger yon stay single the more
this self haeSs will grow upon Won.
There aie some noble exceptions among
bachelofs, | know, and some mean ones
amoH.- married men; and q selfish
married man needs killing more than
any other man l know, but az a rule
Just loBk around you= own friends and
see VINO are the unselish men; who II
IA that 9ivez up his scat IN a street car
70 a worn tn-not n petty, young girl,
but a hnInely, wUinkled woman in a
Shabby dress; who Is it heads the chari-
ty Subscriptions who pays the largest
new rent; who feeds the beggars; who
finds work for the tramp; who are the
men foremost in unself;sh work? know
your yonng bachelor friends are not
s'ingy- o, no. know Jack Fastboy
paid $3.50 last week for 4 new buggy.
1t Is light as matchbox and has such
narrow seat that he never can ask a
friend to ride with him; and at the
same time Dick Slocum, who married
your sister Alice FIVE years ago. gave
$3.50 for the cyclone sufferers. think
the angels laughed all that afternoon.
nv boy, but don't think It was because
Jack paid $50 for his new buggy: III
you want to shirk the responsibilities of
life, my dear boy. you may; if you want
TO live forty or fifty years longer with
no one under the heavens to think about
or care for or plan for but yourself, 90
ahead and do it; yoh will be the only
loser the Sorld won't miss you nearly
as much as you viii miss the world;
you will hav" = mean, lonely, selfish.
ea-y time, 81 d, unless Won are rare ex.
cep'loa to Suur class. little children will
h1 -5u, md the gods never vet loved
eaJ msn Unom tta children disliksd.
Why are you ill., Why do yon suf-
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