New-York tribune., 1883-03-11
gUvJLIATIOyS OF THE GERMAN.
From The Boston saturday Ereaing gazette.


young men saw that they are willing to be subser-
Went to The bellies, but that they wll NOT axe ont
the wall-iowers, and that tnen ohiy way Is 70 NY
MES A knot of young men see some one approach
ing with the word introduction" stamped on be-
neyolent features, and they hug their opera hats
tighter and vanish into ano her room, or even go
home They have a right 70 do as they please, but
let girls exercise the same right men tley see an
unwilling couple OF young men tucked under lead
erjs arm being pulled across hall untll they, as
wall f1wers are reached let them wait until these
knights of society are IN front OF tneHli ana tnsn
dressing-room. 1t would be called "a good
ioke,n the men would be laughed at, and
the girls would still remain wall.ilowersi but
thew would at least have shown the spirit OF q
man. Wall-howers must cultivate self-resDect, and
remember that if they DO not deght aypong mans
course there is fault all round wall nOwers are 10
hlame for being wall flowers Ia belle cannot appre-
cate the situaonl ana u Is 99eT d die a. 20 a 70 Tue
tbon to allow ones self 10 be snubbed IN society
Whv If the wall-hower element Is born In one. 10
makes no matter how many elegant parties sucn
on ons may give at the next German she may not
he asked to dance even once by any one Oh the
Young men who few nights ago drank her VINE
and fed ON her bOned turkey. Ii was not 30 lew
vearsago Then, having gwen party was iul IN
Identification for beng wall hover anu one was
sure of being invited TO dance at least through nan
the season. Now there - quite Is muOu huiniiia-
ton as fun about society,"" r.,.,..
tention could be prevented II IL were eonsdeIed es
taken ont and whirled back T. her seat out that
as il now j., etiquette demands that II eeDtie-
mans chosen partn r oil lbe evening occuPlea no
should stay with the last girl he has taken out un-
nj some one comes 10 relieve hlm ana that as no
one ever comes tine only way Is 10 avoid All but
bellies, even II the hospltalitles oil wam @ nomers
house have been accepted. Tne case IS emoarrass-
ing and wall flowers must organize 10 protect
themselves by publishing their kindly intentions;
'Toy watches must be engrated on OfaceI"ts, ana
ttSS, vS,th onn n, q on the minute hand and the
otber on tie partner, the young lady can tell when
time is up and dismiss her three oner sln,;
here IA as much fault 10 DO tOunu WIN Grdteiui
Girls as with rude men. only the girls are grateiu
from humility and the men rude IRON selhshness.
GRACEFUL cancers, both young men and maldens,
saw "a tbey have not tine TO take out all tue good
dancers why should they take the awhward onesf
SeIGshness again The experts go only 10 have
good tune; the awkward boys and girls Will never
hoya anv chance TO accustom themselves 10 dancing
with all varieties of dancerS, ana survival OF ths
fittest will increase the small but seiect circle oil
the german One wants To be fair TO these bellies
and 6eaus They have natural and acquired rignts;
only 10 their instinct for selt-pleserva ion should DO
ADDED that OF chiyalIy, whlch might DC aho"ea
scope during one-fourth OF an evening.
Akin TO these tights is arOther lnylolable one,
that of inviting as host whom one pleaSes. but IL
a young man joins an assembly OF uancihg eiaSsy
or goes to ball, he abdicates mis- fancled rgnI Ot
snubbnu Assemblies may be characterized as
the enigmatcai." in order that no one SHAH Know
who gives the invitation anu !. y ,ir ion n soa
ket through the great'r part OF the season. ladV
openly takes an evening class, OF al, as'emOiy u
formed
very festive under their n0n-admisslon, but they
80 Ibemseyes most doubtful of their heraldry
hv NyritInV calling aud teasing TO be adm TIED.
IiS mas been already alluded 10. LII mas become sc
ry that reference Il again made 10 tis snoU
hIshness One almost believes tina there IS no 80,
cI.tv beyond iimI,ed range. OnIy nat Is not
trne The consistency OF women Is well known. but
the persstenoy of mothers tor their cllldr MS Oene-
iii rs more astonishing than material. One mlgnt
fancy from sucn pleadings that a beloved daughter
was not only prevented from all opportunities or
marriage, but tnat her whole future aspect to
society until twoscore and ten would be aiecsed by
her youthful entrance OF nOn-enGrarce INTO some
special class or assembly, class wDlcn generaiy
counts less than % hundred and h1ty-and an assem-
bly OF less than SIX hundred; while the population
OF Boston il 35O,0O0. Are all the people wortn
knowing limited 10 certain set Is There ne
society outside of the first Issue of the Blue BOOK
There is no single feature OF American uppish'
ness which gives more occasion for alarm
than tins desire to move IN upper
circles. 1t destroys simplicity, uhuers
values home life makes us look down on average
people aud values opinion only as an expression ot
some special person. rather than Tor the worth OF
of the opinion / have heard as much VIII over
crockery as over china. have heard as much logs
cal reasoning and humble scieh,ihc research anu
reverence out of society as IN It, IUrce-soryD
resluenls can discnss books well as people liners
nre two iacts ever 10 be remembered regarding
society-trst that society exists every ywhee; seo-
onuly that there IL fooiisn ambition every wheio'
which, rightly termed, 10 dlscontentod snoDDisn-
ness AT q certain DEM .-snobDlsh, deaa-iin-
earnest tosucceed literary SEE, the absence OF wen
kno yn writers was conspicuous. whl5 the inpres-
siyeness OF rising talent was oppressive fs.y
one here o professor u was asked. " "Proiessors VI
professionals who will soon De recognized as Great
ing Boston thought" Such sen-contens Is I.any
better happier than distrusting aping Oh aho..o,.
lt mas Its own public. and Ae circles oi sooi'"
strike each other