The weekly Union times. [volume] (Union C.H., South Carolina) 1871-1894, 1883-07-06
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AUNT MALINDY,S LETTERS.
No. 6.

who amt married can, if you will, bear witness
10 what I've said, for you all want to marry and
are tryin,to marry, and will marry the very
FIRST good chance that comes along your way.
You needn't snigger, and blush, and hide your
face, for know what I'm n talkin about. Amt
Ia woman? Wasn't young once, and didn't
think, and feel, and hope, and plan, and do
ji,t like any other modest young woman OF the
Well, yes, wanted 10 marry, and when 81.
mon give me chance said "yes" and we
get married. and am glad said Eyes" I'd do
it agio under the same provocation. When a
person wants rabbit the first thing is to ketch
i'm and it's the same way about husband; you
must first ketch i'm. Aud let me tell you, it
ain't every woman that knows how to ketch q
husband. Sometimes they think they've got
i'm when he has no idee of bein captur' d
"Thcrc's many slip between the cup and the
lip" Be careful, or you may iud this true in
your cusc. Never count u man you rn till you re
married to i'm, for if you do you may find to your
sorrow, when it is too late, that a lover is like
the person that owes you money, never on
hand when you want i'm, or like the grasshop-
per, he.was here Yesterday but to day he's gone.
Now rs the husband must first be ketch'd 1
will say few things on that subject.
How shall manage to ketch a husband is a
question almost every young woman tries to
answer. Some of 'cm answer it wisely and sue
cessfully, and some fail to answer it, or s'pose
they fail. for they don't marry.
woman should never let the world think
that she's huntn a husband. If she does
she'll likely ha'e to keep on huutin to the end
of her natural life. A woman should never
be q husband hunter. Just let her keep herself
pure, and make herself attractive, and hus-
band will be almost shure to hunt her. When
n man thinks that all he has to do is merely
ask woman to marry i'm and she will thank
fully throw herself into his arms, he's not very
likely TO do the askin. There's Sarah Seekim-
hard; she never saw man in her life 'thout
settin her cap for i'm from the jump, go. She'd
bow and curtsy, and ogle, and look cuunin and
innocent, and smile, and talk fniky, and try to
look sweet u til the poor iellow'd git disguised
and leave her alone in her glory. Yes, he d
leave 'cr, but not till after he'd had heap of
fun At her expense. If woman don't want to
die on old maid she'd better not let man think
she's tryin to marry i'm; for no matter how
much he likes 'er the very mint he finds she's
tryin to ketch i'm away he'll so and leave'er
Gaddin around is not good way to ketch a
husband. No man wants TO marry woman
that goes vistin eight days in every week
It's right to go to see your neighbors now and
then, but a woman who's always OH the pad is
not the woman to make good wife. She's
good match for .he fellow who spends all his
time iyin 'round the corner grocery a whittlin,
and playin checkers. and tellin long. winded
stories. They ought to marry, for its pity to
spile two houses with 'em. Home is the best
place for a womaa to show rael worth Many
q woman makes good show away from home,
who at home is cross and sloutchcy, and selfish,
and anything but nice; but that woman who
stays at home and tries 70 do her whole duty
there, will stand good chance of winin the
love of some true man.
Some girls seem t. think that the boldcr they
are the better the young men like EN-, and the
sooner they'll marry. Now if man who tries
to make a woman out of himself is contempta-
bic, woman who is bold ana tries to be like q
rakish man is disgustin. girl who uses slane
is not the kind I'd choose for wife, if was n
man. No matter how mucl, | thought of girl
if I'd hear her sayin "I'll bet" and "you bet'
and "Id smile" and "IIow's that for high" and
other slang, ia be shure not TO marry her, for o
woman who uses vulgar language, and all slang
is vulgar. is not the kind of @ woman I'd want
for wife. don't care how pretty she d look,
nor how graceful in person she was nor how styl.
ish she'd dress, if she was in the habit Of using
slang, that be enough for me, she couldn't be
my wife. Nor would marry q man that used
slang, for he be shure to be q vulgar rake a,
heart.
Don't be too free with your lover ifyou want
i'm to marry you. Better be little too distant
Than little too free. No man will have much
respect for woman if she's in the habit of
thrown her arms round his neck am. huggin
i'm and kissin i'm, and scttin on his lap, and
layin her heal on his shoulder and actin the
part OF love-sick fool. That's not the way to
win nan. Keep your arms from round your
lovers neck, you will be jist as we'll off if you
don't kiss i'm, nor allow i'm to kiss you. A
chair is almost as comfortable to SEE on as YOUR
lovers lap; and since I've me to think of it
oleevc you'd better set on a chair, and there's
no neeI of restin your head on his shoulder
'thout you're sick Set up like sensible girl
AMI talk TO lin in ain sensible way. BE
reserved in your manners Net i'm that you vc
lots of self respect, for he wNl respect you in
the same proportion that you respect yourself.
I'll give you some rules, and if you'll follow
'em you'll find EN- great help to you:
Never forgit that you must give an account tc
Sud for every action of your life, therefore walk
4prightiy every day of your life.