Smyrna times., 1883-05-23
Safe Advice.

A mother residing in a small city at
the north writes to know if the Sun .
can't say something that will induce .
her daughter to quit keeping company
with a young man who gets drunk .
every time he takes the girl to party.
If a mother cannot say anything that
will induce the daughter to give up an
escort who insults her, poor, weak
newspaper cannot do any good.
The girl has got the fever too bad, if
she will not break of an engagement
with such q young man. The girl
should look about her and make in
quiries and see if she can find case in
the experience of her friends where
such young man ever made a decent
husband. 4 young man may SOW
wild oats, and get it up his nose. and
be full as tick at times, and reform,
and become a square, useful citizen
and good husband, but he will never
have 4 spree in the presence of the
girl he loves.
The mere fact of young man taking
girl to party, or a sleigh ride, and
getting drunk, and huniliating her,
and causing her to depend upon others
! for escort to her home, is one evidence
/ that he has no respect for her, and she
/ should break off her engagement and
cut him entirely
! If she puts up with such insult now.
/ before she is married. when she is his
/ wife he will be liable TO leave her to
! look out for herself. and he will get
drunk from habit. Twenty years ago
there were hundreds Of young fellows
in this State who thought it was smart
to take respectable girls to dances and
get drunk, and let the girls ride home
with somebody who kept sober. The
girls would be vexed at the time. but
as the boys were rich, and went in
good society. the girls got to looking
on the spTees as good Jokes, and they
would laugh about it. We know some
of those girls to-day who are earning a
living for several little children BY
hard work, while the smart fellows
that got drunk have filled drunkard' :
graves, or have left their wives and
are wanderers on the face of the earth
If a young man loves = girl as he
should love her to marry her. look o
disapprobation from her, at any act o.
his, will be enough to break him of any
: habit that he has that she does not
like. If the words PLEASE dom
drink, Charley" from the lips o
Charley's girl, is not enough to spoi
his appetite for benzine. Farewell
Charley, forever" should be the mex
and last remark she should ever max,
+ to him.
Marrying men TO reform them ha
E never been a successful enterprise OF
! the part of women. Girls are WORT
too much unmarried to sacrifice thei
p lives to beat sense into the head of an,
: man on Gods foot-stool. Too man
: girls take the chances Of marrying
= young man who has an uncontrolabl
I appetite for liquor, thinking that tn
Z surroundings of home will wean hin
n Such man does not Wean as easily q
: a calf. He will go home only to sobe
up. and then not till the other place
are closed. Five years of such a mai
ried life will make a middle age
woman of the handsomest. sweetes
dispositioned girl that a mother Wa
ever proud of. \ girl will marry sue
Z a man hoping the next year he will |
Il better: but next year he will be wors
,, The nose will begin to get red. th
l. eyes bleared, the clothes carelessl
0I worn. and the wife who would hav
er been such a proud and happy mothe
H. with husband that had sense, becom,
Is ashamed to look at herself in the glas
and had almost rather have a fit
n. sickness than to be visited by any
n her friends, for fear her husband ms
= give them away. Whisky may be q
m right in its place. and we hope it
" but the place for it is not in the stomat
~ of q young man who contemplates ma
II rimony, and the girl who takes such
Of young man for life. for fear the yOuI
he men will all be gone, makes a FOOLS
o. ness of herself, and will regret it
q long as she lives. There are sure to
az sober boys enough for all the girls. al
; > there is no need of marrying a drua
10 ard. and the girl who does so. again
he the advice of her mother, will deser
ed all the unhappiness she marries.
vs NiltrdWkee Sun.