Savannah morning news. [volume] (Savannah) 1868-1887, 1883-11-26
A STUDY OF HUSBANDS.
Some Suggestions by a Woman for
Women
The Ar0ORdut
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The Ar0Onaut
We hear much about the art of winning
a husband, Let US take a step further
and make study of keeping husband.
II he is worth winning he is worth keep
ing. This is wicked world, and man is
dreadfully mortal. Let us take him Just
as he is, net as he ought to be. In the first
place; he is very weak. The wife must
spend the first two years in discovering
these weaknesses, count them on her fin
gers, and learn them by heart. The fingers
on both hands will not be too many.
Then let her study up these weak
nesses, with a mesh for every one. and
the secret is hers. Is he fond of good din
nery Lether tighten the mesh around him
with fragrant coffee, light bread and good
things generally, and reach his heart
through his stomach. Is he fond of fiat
terry about his looks: Let her study the
dictionary for sweet words, if her supply
gives out. Does he like TO hear her talk
about his brilliant intellect? Let her pore
over the encyclopedia to give variety to
the depth of her admiration. Flattery is
good thing to study up at all hazards,
in all its delicate shades, but it must be
skillfully done. The harpy who may try
to coax him away will do it absurdly.
Is he fond of beauty? Here's the rub
let her be bright and tidy; that is half of
metaphOrically, and keep up with the
times. A husband who sees his wife look
like other people is not going to consider
her "brOken down." Though it is a COM
mon sheer that a woman has admitted
that her sex consider more, in marrying,
the tastes of her friends than her own, yet
it must be considered ludicrous that a
man looks at his wife with the same eyes
that other people do. Is he fond of literary
tn i'm wifi do
eyes when he talks of them. A man
doesn't so much care for literary wife if
only she will be literary enough to appre-
ciate him. If she have literary inclina-
tions, keep them to herself.
Men love to be big and great to their
wives. That's the reason why helpless
little woman can marry three times to a
sensible, self-reliant wOman's none. Gull
| tiYate helplessness. Is he curious? Oh
then you have treasure; you can always
keep him if you have a secret and keep it
carefully. Is hejealOus? Then, woman,
this is not for you; cease tOrturing that
fretted heart which wants you for its own,
and teach him confidence. Is be ugly in
temper and fault-inding? Give him a dose
of his own medicine, skillfully done. Is
he deceitful? Pity him for his weakness;
treat him as enc who is born with a physi-
cal defect, but put your wits to wOrk-it
| is bad case.
1t is well not to be too tame. Men do
not waste their powder and shot on hens
and barn-yard fowl; they like the pleasure
of pursuing wild game-quail and grouse
and deer. A quail is a good model for a
wife-neat and trim, with pretty, swift
way about it, and just a little capricious.
NeVOr let yourself become an old story,
be just little uncertain. Another i'm
pOrtant fact is, don't be too good; it hurts
his feelings and becomes mOnOtOnous.
Cultivate pleasant voice, so that this
very mortal man may have his conscience
prick him when he is in jeopardy; its
pleasant ring will haunt him much more
than would shrill one. 1t is hard to do
all this, besides taking care of the babies
and looking after veXatiOus household
cares and smiling when he comes home,
but it seems necessary.
$40 be born a woman is to be born a
martyr" says a husband who for ten
years has watched in amazement his wife
treading the wine-press of her existence.
1t is pitiful sight to some men. But if
the wife does not make study of these
things, the harry will, to steal away the
honor from his silver hairs when he is full
oil years and the father of sons and daugh-
tiers. At the same time, guide wife, keep
from trying any of these things on any
mortal man but your own. These rules
are only evolved i'll order to ''keep a hus-
band" The poor, weak creature would
rather be good than bad, and it is wO-
mans duty to hold him by every means in
her power.