The Pickens sentinel. [volume] (Pickens, S.C.) 1871-1903, 1883-05-24
ADVICE TO A BRIDEGROOM.
Bit of Advice that 1Iay be Followed 70
Advantage.

70 become husband is as serjous n
matter to man as it is for q woman 70
become a wife. Marriage is no childs
play; it brings added care, trial. per
pleXity, vexation, and it requires great
deal of happiness which legitimatclv
springs ont of it to make the balance
in its favor. Very fcw people live hap
ply III marriage, and yet this is not be-
cause unhappiness is germaue to this re-
iatlon, but because those who enter it do
not know, first, how to get married, and,
second, how to live married happily
You have already made your choice
wisely, L am bound to believe. These
qualities of character which have at
tractcd you to choose rs you have, should
make your love grow daily while you live
together.
AS to the second point: If you wish
to live in harmonius union with vour
who, start out with that avowed rccog-
milton of the fact that she is your o0m
panlon and co.partner Marriage usually
makes the wife neither of these. In
many instances, she sees less of her hus-
band than hcfore she married him. He
comes, he goes, he rends, thinks, works,
and under the stimulus of business
brings all his powers and faculties to the
surface, and is developed thercby-not
always symmctrically, hut vigorously
not always harmuniOus'v, but with in
crenainS power. Married men do net
usually shriycl up or put Oh a look of
premature age. but women frequently
do, and it is plain to me why they do.
Married women are shut up in houses
and their chief care is for things that
have no inspiring influences. Their
time IL taken up in meeting the phvsi-
cal necessities of their neutrality-suspicious..
washing dishes, keeping the house ia
order, sewing, receiving companv--nUt
ne of which has in it tendency even
to culture and elevation. Married VIC.
men are devoted to the house, and thj,
means life Of YcXaion and pettincss,
1t gives no sort of stimulus to the
spirit. So the husband, who is ont of
doors, active, interested in measures
which affect the public good, coming
into contact with mon greater than him
self, who inspire him to better purposes
and nobler ends of labor, develops into
manly beauty and grows in character,
Willie his wife ut home, who has as faith,
fully performed her share of the work,
WltherS and decays prcmaturcly.
Treat your wife exactly as yourself
would like to be treated if you had to
live under her circumstances. and you
Will not go far wrong.
DO not entertain the silly notion that
because she Is Of different
gender from yOur own that she is there
fore different in her wants, feelings.
qualities and powers. Do not be the
victim of any social policy. Stand up
bravely for tic rig.t, give your wife a
chance to live, grow aud DO somebody
and become something.
Try to be thoughtful, considcrate and
forhenring. You will have now duties,
and they will bring new trials. Take
good care of your health and hers. BE
simple, both, III your habits be careful
III your expenditures, be Industrious. If
you keep good health and are frugal,
blessings will come from your united
love, and you will grow happier and bet.
tcr day by day as the years pass.