The Ottawa free trader. [volume] (Ottawa, Ill.) 1843-1916, 1883-09-01

tai culture, social pleasures. KIND oiilceS
and the like) rather than suffer whaeis to
them n greater hardship-the continued
presence OF Bridget or Gretchen in their
Kitchens. While there Is no denyingl
that III re is often great difficulty in OBJ
tanning suitable help that there Is al
great abundance OF ineiliciency. much
lack of thrift, sometimes even lack OF
willingness and kindness OF heart. while
in many families, for many reasons,
"helpN is Ut best but n necessary cross
to be borne-yet the subject, like most
others, has its other side, If one will but
take Il candid and impartial view OF II.
One OF the great difficulties in the
way of getting on comfortably with
hired help is, believe, the proncneSs
on the part of the mistress to forget that
Bridget is flesh and blood the same as
herself. and not machine warranted TO
keep in good order and never wear out.
ana this without the lubricatin@ oil OF
consideration or kind words. Partlcu-
LARRY is this the case with those who are
never without he Up in their kitchens.
They forget. if they have ever known,
hov wearing are the long days OF sue
cess We toll; how weariSomc are the bio
washiugs, the tedious ironings. the hard
scruObingS, the hot bakings; or if the
matter is thought upon ut all, II Is too
often only to chafc that the work does
no, progress more swiftly. or to chidc ut
little short cominrs and defects,
While it is generally expected of
Gretchen that she possesses great physi-
cal endurance, it is quite rs frequent 4
demand that her sensibilitics be OF MIMI
mum quantity. She is never 10 show
temper, to flare up or grow touchy ut
commands or reprimands, is never TO
.answer back under any extremity,
but is to "know her place" and keep
lit. The mistress forgetS that the aver
acre Girl, while she has quite rs much
Isensi,iveneSs Ca morbid sensitivencsS if
YOU wilD rs herself, has, ordinarily, far
less discipline and Self-control.
Often the authority of the mistress,
the temper OF the maid and the comfort
of the whole household are wrecked on
the rock of trivialtes. The wife and
mother forgcts or ignores the fact OF
how much more Important to herself
ana family are her life and health, her
vital powers of body and mind, than
whether the skillet is hung upon the
rirht nail. the dishes washed after 4
cast-iron formula, or other of the minor
affairs of life accomplished with utmost
accuracy: hence trivialties-of one
kind or auother-are harped upon until
the girls scnsibility is scared, her tenn
per sourcd and the chance for an agree
able getting along with lrer efectually
swept away.
Amain. where the mistress is not over
severe with Il Girl so far rs hard work is
concerned, she somctlmes-pridlng her
self upon her skill il managing ar
ranges it that the girl never has an hour
that size may rightfully call her own.
Sewing, knitting, patching, piecing,
baby-tending lake up all the leisure
time. and the Girl, if she goes ever Sc
briskly about her morning tasks, has
nothing to look forward to but an after
moon flied 10 its utmost capacity with
other kind of work. This is discourage
line to even the most active and. best
tempered (for we cannot expect Others
to take an interest in our work quite rs
we do ourSclvcsD and Bridget Is likely
to become Il drone dragging out hel
work indefinitely and with very little
regard to tie time in which it should be
done. Tile C0HHry GeHlcMaR.