The daily dispatch. [volume] (Richmond [Va.]) 1850-1884, 1883-12-05

By WOMAN FOR WOMEN, But MEN NAT READ
1T WITH PROFIT.
From the Argonaut.I

From the Argonaut.I
We hear much about the art OF winning
husband. Let US take a step further, and
make study Of keeping husband. IL he
,s worth winning he Is worth keeping.
This Is n wicked world, and man II dread
fully mortal. Let us take him Just as he
ia. not as he ought 10 be. In the first place
he il very weak. The wife must spend the
first two wears In discovering these weak
nesses. count them on her fingers, and learn
them NV heart. The fingers OF both hands
will moi he too many. Then let her study
nm these weaknesses. with mesh for
every one. and the secret IL hers. Is he
fond NJ a good dinneri Let her tighten
the mesh around him with fragrant coffee,
lIobt bread. and good things generally, and
rescb his heart through his stomach. Is he
fond 81 fattery about his booksy Let her
study the dictionary for sweet words II her
sunnly p1yes out. Does he like TO hear her
tall about his brilliant intellectY Let her
more over the encyclopedia to give variety
10 the deartb OF her admiration. Flattery
Il good thing to study up at all
hazards. i'm all its delicate shades,
but IL must be sklfully done. The
harry who may try TO coax him away
will not do Il absurdly. Is he fond
Of beauty? Here's the rub--let her be
bright and tidy; that is half OF the victory.
Next. let her bang her hair Wetaphorlcaily
and keep up with the times. A husband
who sees his wife look like other people Is
not going to consider her broken down"
Though il is q common sheer that wo-
man has admitted that her sex consider
more. I'm marrying, the tastes OF her friends
than her own, yet it must be considered
ludicrous that a man looks at his wife with
the same eyes that other people do. Is he
fond of literary matters? Listen TO him
with wide-open eyes when he talks OF
them. A man doesn't so much care for
literary wife II only she will be literary
enough to appreciate him. II she have
literary inclinations, keep them to herself.
Men love TO be big and great to their
wives. That's the reason why helpless
little woman can marry three times TO
sensible, self-reliant woman's none. Guilt
yate helpessness. Is he curious! On,
then YOU have treasure; you can always
keep him if YOU have secret and Keep IL
carefully. Is he iealousS Then, woman,
this is not for you; cease torturlng that
fretted heart which wants you for its own
and teach him confidence. Is he ugly In
temper and fault-finding? Give him
dose OF his own medicine, skilfully
done. Is he deceitiuli Pity him for
his weakness; treat him as one who
is born with a physical defect but put
your wits to work--it is a bad case. IL
IS We'll not to be too tame. Men do not
waste their powder and shot on hens and
baIn-yard fowls. They like the pleasure
OF pursuing wild game-quail and grouse
tc an nnnH model
Wife-neat and trim, with pretty, swift
way-about. and Just little capricious.
Never let yourself become an old story; DE
lust little uncertain. Another important
fact is don't be too good. II hurts his
feelings and becomes monotonous. Cuitl-
Gate pleasant voice, so that this very
mortal man may have his conscience PRICK
him when he is in jeopardy. Its pleasant
ring will haunt him much more than would
a shrill one. 1t Is hard to do all this, be-
sides taking care OF the babies ana look
ING after veXatious household cares, and
smiling when he comes home, but IL seems
necessary. ITO be "A born woman Is TO
be born a martyr" says husband who
for ten wears has watched in amazement
his wife treading the wine-press OF her
existence. 1t is pitiful sight to some
men. But II the wife does not make
study of these things the harpy will, to
steal away the honor from his silver hairs
when he is full Of years and the father OF
sons and daughters. At the same time,
good wife, keep from trying any OF these
things on any mortal man but your own.
These rules are onlyevolyed in order TO
keep a husband" The poor weak crea-
ture would rather be good than bad, ana
1t is woman's duty to hold him by every
means in her power