The Red Cloud chief., 1883-06-08

The OAulseles u Marriage.
OF courur nj SIC ETY. IL Interested In
he marriage question Though mar
n ses Involves s-sisas rrsf osssbilifies 70
all parties directly coecened- vel our
lorrf.fhers gvn~rsliy met the quessioa
with r-solstiou and courage. Fifty
years ago every young man and woman
gOl married. off now and thSn one
faded or DegIee<ed his high speiAi duty.
IT, term ..old mrhelor' oe .'old maid
vas applied IN der.sion. Nothing -
tt lack Of n personal attraction was
supposed to interfere with . woman's
opportunity for . ..setsiement in life"
while the man who chose To live singiy
YES looked upon ss = curmuds~on or .
crank. unworthy 1t public respect.
This prejudice against old bachelors
and old maids has beca transmitted
even to this generation. though either
those who from Necessity or choice arr
wearing u sre gwen . higher Plaee IN
public esteem than their predecessors.
Il being admitted that there II ample
excuse in many instances for preferring
the condition of single blessedness.
The earnest and industrious Young
man would like . wills. bat shat Is h.
going h do sith her. The young
In his nj station has been
brought up 10 despise labor; she has sc-
quired q smaitering of what are called
accomplishments; she has an ardent
realizes that Ia him marriage with the
woman of his choice would only cause n
swelling Of his expenses. To answer the
demands If fashion alone. to IN amount
equal to or exceeding his income, and
ne therefore postpones the matter as
one that he actually dreads and is
afraid a. undertake. II he succeeds in
his vocation. be rises out of his station
to a higher one in society, and the
woman Of his earlier choice is left be-
hind with all her accomplishments and
cultivated tastes. II be is unsuccessful
he either becomes Respondent and q
victim of vicious habits, OF, having in
creased in wisdom. he steps down the
social ladder and takes q wife from
the ranks Of those who have
learned the lesson of industry from
their necessities and are earning their
own living. With such a wife. con-
tented in the sphere Of home. and no,
ambitious to shine in social life. the
poorest young man. il industrious and
sober, will be able to get along
There are thousands Of such couples in
every part Of the country. who to-
gether have solved the riddle Of sue
cess by steady industry. economy and
perseverance,, and thus, in spite III lack
Of early education and accomplish
ments. are able to look down upon
many who once ounted themselves
their superiOrs. II is true that they
sometimes are annoyed by being classed
As "shOddy," but this they can endure
10 long as they have the CONSCIOUSNESS
that their prosperity has been honestly
earned and is all paid for. And they
date the beginning Of it all to a wise
choice in marriage, and. in consequence.
they are happier and more contented
together than il they had begun by try
ing to meet all the exactions Of society
and in consequence remaining the
victims Of grinding poverty.
The problem of marrying wisely is no
less one of embarrassment to young
women than young men. They see
those whom they would like TO admire
becoming addicted to fast habits
drinking. smoking. gambling: owning
and driving fast horses. spending their
incomes mt the opera or its equivalents.
despising honest industry. seeking posi-.
tons which permit the wearing Of good
clothes and save the hands from sOiling,
but allow no incomes sufficient for the
support Of q family. Such young men.
i'm the language Of n lady who has stud
led the social problem tor the benefit Of
the younger persons Of her sex, ''are not
worth marrying" She might have
added that il would be dangerous to
marry them. The first condition in mar
ried life is the assurance Of a sufficient in
come for a comfortable support. The
young couple trained to work and with n
firm determination TO continue working,
whatever society may think, need have
no misgivings upon this point, for the
income will be sure To cOme. But il
one member of the marriage firm de-
spises work and is ambitious Of social
distinction. there will be failure and
misery, and this will be aggravated all
the more il both are troubled with the
same aspirations. A working young
man can not afford to marry a fashion
able young oma unless she is able to
bring him the income of an inheritance
Of from $4,000 to 310O. 900. And no
young woman ran afford TO marry u
young man ''of the world" because.
whatever may be his wealth and how
yer safely it may be secured. his per-
sonal habits and tastes will in the end
bring q kind and degree If misery for
which no money q compensate
Woonsocket (R. H. Patriot.