Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1883-02-07

HOME SECRETs.-The following from q
| valuable exchange contains so much
| wholesome advice that we reproduce it
for the especial benefit of our married
readers. Possibly in the whole rlnge of
human characters there is none more
despisable than that of one who acts as
! n spy or meddler in family matters. There
is certainly none who exerts more deadly
influence on the peace and happiness of
home. Young couples, above all. will
find the acquaintance of such person
almost fatal. and the sooner the connection
between them and such otficous outsiders,
IS severed the better. No matter how
perfect and angelic lovers may appear to
each other, it will be found out after
marriage that they have their differences
of opinions and tastes, and they would
hardly be human if they did not discover
some slight causes of provocation wi h
each other. Such things are as different
from what we call strife or quarreling as
a summer breeze is from n cyclone. but
let one of these otficous people who
delight in prying into family matters
know of them, and the breeze may
possibly become cyclone before it ends
The only safe rule is for married folks 10
keep their secrets to themselves. There
is circle within every household into
which the outsider should never enter.
1t is the shrine, the holy of holes made
sacred by the great love a man and wife
bear to each other, and there they should
agree to bear with each Others failings-
to demonstrate or to complain, to forgive
and make up. No school girl friend of
the wife's, no college chum of the hus
band d's-let them be ever SO dear-should
be admitted into the inner court where
the married couple should stand alone
How many have learned by experience
what bitter thing it is to have u third
person in possession of secret they
would give their lives, almost, to get
back. When cloud St emed to rest for
moment over the sunshine of their married
life, when their hearts were grieved and
their lempers rutlled, they were foolish
enough to confide their troubles to some
caller, or some oflicious friend always on
hand to receive such confidence. And
then, when the cloud passed and the
sunshine came back, and the momentary
bitterness was forgotten in the sweetness
of making up, OBJ what torture it was
to know that stranger knew all! If all
young married couples only knew the
worth of their discretion! They needed
no third person in their love making. and
if, after marriage, they find out, as most
assuredly they will that being human
they connot be faullless, let them beware
of taking any third person to settle their
differences. Let them continue 10 be
after marriage what they were before, al
the world to each other, and if in plucking
the roses of married life thorn would
occasionally wound-if hasty word
provoke nm angry retort, if some thought
less act be construed into unkindness-let
the pain be ever so sharp, it will cease
very soon. True love is plant of strong
growth; it will stand any amount of
passing storms and still thrive in all its
beauty and vigor. But it is extremely
sensitive, and shrlnks from common
touch; and if it is exposed to the rude
gaze and rough handling of passers by. it
will not be long lived. If married people
would keep this treasure to he end of life,
let them settle their own differences and
make up with kiss us they did in their
courtship days, and let the outside world
be none the wiser.