The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1883-01-21
Advice to a Widow.

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Sir: loa give young Io,.s Auvcs 10y NOT "'os.
,,vsa wiSov sor n,y,our wear, choosing single
blessedness have been married several times
that period Now regret my decisions as fnd grown
up children no COMPANY I.f parents nave oa, ."o
y. which .hsli accent, Tn. nr,t 4. from
gentleman about 90 years of ase-near my age But he
has nineteen grandchildren What should we do IL they
all came to see oneet Iho next one sooa aes
no m;s, Si. ha haS married .om. one Younger twenty
or thirty years from now The third ono 10 older than
any of but he can't be called old at all, being
only TO- don't call any one old till 30 unless they have
,s ,S IN . ,. nan.. IN, ,ns
and crippled more than powder and ball makes work for
the doctors Thank COP, took any and expect
to live all the days OF my lie; ana when was young
nono'eu my pA'sn' a,u "1' "
Judgment. m
"MILroN, Del"
It ia plain that the author OF this letter has
not mistaken tho temper md purpose OF
THE SIM. II shines indeed for ALL whether
thew be rich or Door. homely or beautiful,
Young or old The inexperienced never seek
it's counsel in vain. and oven save old stagers
often profit by its benign wisdom. We have
Ind many matters referred to us touching
the doubts OF younp people as TO the adyis-
ability of some important move in their
career. especlally with regard to matrimony.
but we believe this il the first time we have
ever received the compliment OF solicitation
for advice upon that question by person
Of experience. who has already investigated
We can't infer from this ladv's note Of in
ouiry that her first and thus far her only ven
ture in marriage turned out so badly az to
cause her to lose her usual confidence In her
own Judgment. but we suppose she now in
yites the counsel OF THE sun upon what ut
anv time in life should be regarded as the
most important stem possible. because. no
longer possessing wide margin of youth in
which to correct errors she feels that Soc
ond marriage must be entered into only with
extraordinary caution. We confess we can
not advise this lady with the same sentiment
OF satisfaction that we feel in responding to
the appcal of an INQUIRER who submits her
anxieties to lis In the feryent enthusiasm OF
true love- To be able to clear away all fanci-
full doubts. and to remove apparent obstacles
in such cases. affords us degree OF pratifica-
ton which can only be surpassed 6y that of
the religious or civil officer. as it NAV be.
whose privilege It is to pronounce the final
bencdiction which causes two loving
bcarts tn LOCALLY boat as one. Rut this Indy
after having lived in sinylo hlcssodncss for
twenty-four wears. thinks avain OF marriage.
merclv bcca,,se sbe feels lionel Van the society
Of bcr sole remaining child and not because
she has again fallen in love. From the list OF
three candidates furnished to us. n selection
must be made ONLY ON n cold and dispas.
STONED Judgment for there il nothing in tho
letter to Indicate n decided preferences ON the
pnrt Of the writer for any one OF them.
Well we will advise her all tho same. The
first gentleman is about her own age. but has
nineteen grandchildren. The second is much
vounper-as she saws. n good dcal yo,npcr.
and the third Is much older. being seven
tv Now. with regard to the nst gentleman
we cannot give our approval. Putting her
own aue MT fiftv-flve. wa think bis seventy
wears would make rather too great an inc
quality in the case Of marriage so long do.
fcrrcd Wa cannot LET tho occasion noss
however. without attostinp orr annrobation
Of this lndv's refusal To cali this suitor nm old
man. Gentlemen OF seventy cannot properlv
be classed in such n category. Wa don't
know exactly where the dividing line be.
tween voutb and ACE rcallv lies Int we ara
convinced that seventy 1. not the noint
Against No there ia the same obicct,on
His noe would not suit. We are told no Is
much Younger than the ladv herself md
that vii, nover do Vet wo wsb to sav tbot
wa do NOT in tina Ieost share tho nonnIor
nrciudice which altogether dIsonnroves ~
q marriaoe simnlv because tho husband Ia
vounger than Tho vito Wa have Lno,yn y,
many cases Of most felicitous matches NJ
that cbsractar Rnt n ia n hozordous mndor.