Washington standard. [volume] (Olympia, Wash. Territory) 1860-1921, 1882-03-17
Social Etiquette.

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ushered into drawing room. or sit
ting-room, the usual salutation is, ''How
do YOU do" The answer is not, "1hank
you. am very WE'LL" but "How do you
do" When leaving, the visitor says
d" Goodbye" and the hostess repeats
d" Goodbye"
When the health of either hostess or
visitor is inquired after. it is after say
ing, How do you do" which should
be said with no infections of the voice.
and without speaking the name of the
person addressed. GoOd-morning"
is used when addressing. or when TAX
ing leave. of business or other acquaint-
ances with whom you have nothing in
common in a social way.
The salutation is said to be the touch
stone of good-breeding. Between gem
tlcmen nod suiiiccs; but if lady is
walking with you or with the one to
whom YOU bow, the hat mustbe slightly
lifted. A well-brcd person bows in
stiuctively the moment that he reoOg-
nizes an acquaintance.
Bowling once in passing on public
promenade or drive, is all that civility
requires. In subsequent meetings the
eyes may be averted, or if more than 4
mere acquaintance, one smiles slightly.
A bow of ceremony should not be ac-
companied by broad smile; but unless
you are bowling to 4 superior in age or
station you should let beam of good
will Tighten your eye.
Gentlemen inraridbig offer the right
arm to ladies, when it is necessary to
give the arm, instructions to the con-
trary notwithstanding. This rule is the
same on the street, without regard to
the wall, rs it is in the parlor. at mar
riages, At all entertainments and on all
other occasions. A lady does not take
the arms of two gentlemen; nor does a
gentleman offer both of his arms when
walking with two ladies. American gen.
tlcmcn do not smoke when driving or
walking with ladies'.
lntroductions are not made on the
street. unless q lady is walking with her
host or hostess; in which case if either
meet friend an Introduction would be
given. When two persons are intro
duced in house both bow Slightly and
commence conversation. A gentleman
is introduced to = lady; - Mr.. Grey.
Mrs. Birch" is the form.
Young ladies are taken up to be in
troduced to elderly ones and the I'M
married to the married. A gentleman
when introduced does not offer his
hand to lady, rs that is the lady's
privilege. The mistress of house
shakes hands with every one who is in
trOduced to her in her own home
whether the person is brought by
common friend, or comes by invitation.
She would not shake hands with visit
or who came TO call on guest, unless
she had some special reason for doing so.
A gentleman rides on the right side
of lady. a lady keeps the right-hand
side of her carriage, unless another
lady older than herself is driving with
her. A gentleman does not permit
lady to sit with her back to the horses,
even though she be younger than him.
self, when he can, by taking that seat,
give her one facing the horses.
Never speak of your children as
"Miss Ethel" or "Mastcr Harold"
excepting to servants. Give them their
Christian names.
Gentlemen should precede ladies. to
clear the way, in a public hall, unless
there is an usher preceding them. In
entering drawing room. the lady pre-
cedes the gentleman, but never takes
his arm.
To yawn in the presence of others, to
beat time, to hum or whistle, to lounge,
to put your feet on chair, or to do
anything which shows Indifference, sell
iishness or disrespect, is unequivocaily
vulgar. Snuilling. eXpectoration. hawk
ing, scratching the head, gulping. pick
ing the teeth and blowing the nose,
should be avoided in society.
Avoid saying "you know" Essays
he," and "says she," when narrating
incidents. Do not speak of absent per-
sons by their Christian names. Above
all, never name any one by the first let
ter of his or her name. as "Mr. e." for
"Mr. Grey" This is vulgarity which
married persons sometimes use.
A lady who sits cross-legged, or side
ways on chair, who twists her trink-
cts, or picks at anything. and man
who sits across his chair, bites his nails
or nurses his leg, manifests an unmis-
taxable want of good breeding. Both
should be quiet, easy and graceful in
their carriage.
Well-bred persons never elbow their
way in a crowd, nor force themselves
in seats at concerts and lectures, which
are already full; nor do they talk and
laugh in tones SO loud as to disturb
others.
When you have jostled or incommo-
ded person, be quick to say, g beg
your pardon" ~ thank YOU" is now
the form, instead of Thanks" when ac-
knowledging any attention. Thanks"
has become vul garism from the abuse
of the word.
In railway cars no one has 4 right to
more than one seat unless more than
one is paid for. TO beat time, shuttle
the feet, or make any monotonous
noise, which is nuisance to fellow
travellers, shows bad breeding or neg
lect in training.-MrS. II. o. Hood, in
Youths Companion.
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