Dodge City times. [volume] (Dodge City, Kan.) 1876-1892, 1882-02-23

a general way when irritated. All
faults charged should be specifically
named and the requirement made posi-
tive that such faults must he remedied.
This is the only way consistent with the
dignity of a mistress, and il is too often
rendered nugatory by the fact that mis-
tresses are not in a position to present
an alternative. They are more depend
ent upon servants in our present condi-
ton Of household service than servants
are dependent on them. But at all
events scolding only makes matters
worse, not better.
Scolding is, in fact. the weak expe-
dent either of a character too weak to
energetically remedy or remove evils,
or it is the weapon and defense of the
inferior.
For every evil under the sun
There is n remedy or there's none:
If there is n remedy. find IL.
IL there is not never mind it,.
Here is husband who has certain
habits which irritate and discommode
his wife. She revenges herself by scold-
ing. and by declaring that he always
does such things; that all men are nat
urally selfish and mean. and more words
to the same effect. which is irritation
only Nothing could be more deroga-
tory to wife's influence than such a
course. She should decide either to
force an issue by firmness and deter
mination. and compel a respect for her
rights and wishes in family matters, or
she should make up her mind to over
look such peculiarities and arrange her
life accordingly. Either she must cure
the evil or adapt herself it. but let her
not on any account degrade herself to
scold about it.
But if a scolding woman is so dis
graceful and discordant n factor in a
family, what shall be said of a scold-
inc man? The man who, because BUSH
ness has gone wrong, or customers
have deceived him. or employers have
cheated him, comes home and vents
irritability on his family, is wholly in
excusable. 1t Is amusing to notice how
a scolding man displays in an exagger-
ated form the very weaknesses and fol-
lies that are usually charged more par
ticularly to women. He, too, will gen.
eralize from one fact in a most woman
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will declare that it is always like an
oven; if it is too cold, he asserts that
his wife never has enough fuel put in
the fire; if the table is not up to the
standard, he will wonder why he can
never get decent meal ut home: if the
children are fretful. they are the cross
est, worst-trained children ever known;
if the servants make a mistake. the
whole race Of servants are denounced.
and the denunciation is usually wound
ND with the declaration that women are
not fit to manage servants anyway. and
that their INSTRUMENTATION and failures
are all owing TO women's incompetency
to train and govern them. A man, by
single evenings scolding, can dis
seminate enough discomfort and irrita-
bility through household to make
everybody uncomfortable for week.
Everywhere and under all circum-
stances, scolding has this distinguish
ing characteristic; it is intended to
wound somebody, to hurt somebody. to
make somebody uncomfortable. not
with remedial design, but simply as a
relief to an inward personal irritation.
Its effect on family life is like throwing
sand into delicate machine; it causes
all the parts to CRATE upon each other;
it does no good. but only evil, and that
continually.
The scold, whether man or woman.
in family or socia. life, in the church or
in the State, for the same characteristic
distinguishes scolding everywhere, is an
unmitioated nuisance H. T..