Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1882-08-03
BEATTY RULES,

RULE ONE.-h WOllldIl lS power Ill Ille Wollo
is measured by her power to please. Whatev
er she may wish to accomplish she will best
manage it by pleasing. A woman's grand so
cial aim should be to please. And let me tel
you how that is to be done. A woman car
please the eye by her appearance, her dress, hel
face and her figure. She can please the ear by
studying the art of graceful elocutiOn, not
hard to any Of us, for by nature we speak with
finer articulation than men. She can please
the mind by cultivating her Own-sO far, at
least, as to make her good listener and as
much as she will. She can please the fancy
by ladies' wit, of which all of us have share
She can please the heart by amiability. Beau
ty of person is only one feature of true beauty
RULE Two.-Modesty is the ground OF
which all woman's charms appear to the
best advantage. In manners, dress CONVERSE
ton, remember always that modesty must
never be forgotten. There is nowadays a
tendency in women to rebel against old-fash
ioned modesty. The doctrine Of liberty is
spreading among us, for which l thank God
But the first effects of that doctrine on oul
minds are little confusing. We are growing
more independent and more individual. Some
of us fancy that to be modest is to be Old-fash
ioned, and of course We want the newest fash
ions in all things I maintain that a modest
you can no more have true woman without
modesty than true man without courage.
But remember, use the word modesty in a
high sense. Not prudery. Prudery is on the
surface modesty is in the soul. Rosalind in
her boys suit is delightfully."- modest, but not
very prudish.
RULE THREE.-Always dress up to your
age or a little beyond it. Let your person be
the youngest thing about you, not the oldest.
A very important lesson for woman of forty.
The attempt to dress for young almost invaria-
bly, leads to reaction of the spectators mind,
and traces of years become more palpable and
more insignificant. But a slight and graceful
assumption of years in ones dress has all op-
pOSite effect.
RULE FOUR.-Remember that what women
admire in themselves is seldom what men ad-
mire in them. In nine drawing-rooms out of
ten, Miranda or Cordelia, rs novel herOines,
would be voted bOres. Women would say,
1--WE utterly decline to accept these watery
girls as typical of us we want smartness and
life" don't really care much for Miranda
or Cordelia myself Now this seems to me to
caution us against trusting too implicitly OF
too far our own notions about ourselves. An
other source of misunderstanding comes from
the novel-writers. We are the nove-readers,
and the novelist is forced to write heroines to
suit our taste. He does not want to offend
us. Thus it comes about that even the male
novelist is too often only depicting women's
women after all. And believe scores of mod
ern girls are seriously misled for this very rea-
son. They believe they are finding out what
men think Of them, when in truth they are
reading their own notions handed back to
them under pretty disguise.
RULE FIvE.-Women's beauties are sell
dom mems beauties If ten men and women
were to 90 into the same company, and each
sex choose the prettiest woman there, as they
thought, you would rarely find that they chose
the same. If this be SO, we ought not to trust
ourselves even as to our faces without consid-
ering that the sex we are to please must in
the end settle the question, and will settle the
question in it's own way.
RULE SIX.-Gayety tempered by seriousness
is the happiest manner in society. BY which
mean, that in all our gayety there ought to
be Il hint of self-rehection. The most agree.
able women l have met with-and think the
most regarded-have been women Of social po'
sition, who have been trained with due re-
gard for religion. Their worldly education
had made them mindful of grace and liveli'
ness the religious education kept these quail
ties under particular sort of control, which
is perceptibly different from mere good breed
ing. It seems to me that vivacity and spright
liness are greatly enhanced by vein of seri
BUSINESS. Certainly no woman ought to be a
mOcker.
RULE SEvEN.-AlWays speak low. This
is obvious In support OF it l need only quote
Shakespeare, who calls it, ''an excellent thing
in woman"
RULE EIGIIT.-A plain woman can never
be pretty. She can always be fascinating il
she take pains. well remember Il man who
was Il great admirer of our sex telling me that
one of the most fascinating women he had
ever known was not only not pretty, but as
to her face decidedly plain-ugly, only the
word is rude. l asked my friend, "HoW.
then, did she fascinate ?" l we'll remember
his reply. "IIer figure" said he, twas
neat, her dressing was faultless, her every
movement was graceful, her conversation was
clever and animated, and she always tried tc
please 1t was not | alone who called hel
fascinating she was one of the most accepta
BILE women in society ever knew. She mar
ried brilliantly, and her husband, lawyer IL
large practice, was devoted to her-more than
if she had been queen OF beauties" Here
was il woman who, excepting fairly neat
figure, had not a single natural gift of appear
ance. Is not this worth our thinking about
those of us women who care to please and are
not beauties born?
RULE NINE.-Every year women lives
the more pains she should take with her dress
The dress of us elderly danes ought to be
more of science than it is. How often one
hears a woman of fifty say: go, my dressing
DAYS are past ~ "When, if she thought about
it, they have only well begun. At least the
time has come when dress is more to her than
ever. Remember, from forty to siNty-hye is
a quarter of century-the third of long
life. 1t is Il period through which a majority
of grown-up people pass. And yet how little
pains women take-how little thought before
hand-to he charming then
RULE TEN.-In all things let women ask
what will please the men of sense before she
asks what please men Of fashion. l by nc
means intend that a woman is not to nave
regard to the opinion of men of fashion, only
she should not give it the first place. Slit
will carry the men of fashion sooner by meth
ods that please the men of sense than men OF
sense by methods that please men of fashion
And besides, listen to the men of fashion
They always praise woman for things Whlcl
begin to perish at twenty-five. Even the
old men of seventy will talk "a fine girl
deucedy fine figure - And they will call ;
woman rather on the decline, when, II She l:
on the decline, where and what are they
You see if woman lives for the commenda
ton of men of fashion she will, if pretty
piquant, or what not, have reign for tel
years. But if she remembers that she ha
charms of mind and character and taste, al
we'll as charms of figure and complexion, TIT
men of sense will follow her for half century
and in the long run men of fashion will D'
led by the men Of sense.
! How TO STRENGTHEN THE VOICE.-1lov
can the muscles that aid in the resonance OF
the human voice be made stronger? n large
majority of the scholars commence with eX
hausted lungs, and before sentence is tlnlsl!
ed the audience is pained in sympathy Will