Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1882-11-23

scted it was the wife's duty to cause her sisters
* top their running in and out and informed
d mother and all her relatives for her husband,
an a,oht never to get married. In fact, the trou
pie IN ne ~, 5f bsd consented to 20 with her
Hnshsnd and live with him ana Tor him, ana the
Bill would never have been meg. IL a IN mel ouIy
70 have done so. married life was lie oil mu-
raj sacrifices and forbearance. Neither party
could insist on bis or her iull rlgnts Inc causes
1fes If it should be held that the quarrels and
Rmisun derstandings of the parties in the present
80 nee were sufficient ID award her separation
I'D sena rate maintenance. judge could separate
Almost ali the families in the countryl There
W. Moore from living together Left TO them
seiTes and working for themselves, they could de-
3eruline to make mutual sacrifices for the sake Of
Icing the peace they had lost II so. they
would find in q few years that married HE was
mueh happier than life OF divorce 10 them,
undeserved
IT Uould also be Il most excellent remedy
for many Young people contemp a,ing matrl-
mony. and linked together by that somewhat
nrecarious tie called an engagement, II they
would read and heed the good judges words
of warning.
THE DESPAIR OF THE SITUATION,
however. is this: Two persons who hsve
previously manifested no sigus OF insanity,
suddeuly meet and fall in love with each
other. By some strange faiuliy, they at the
same time lapse into condition oil blank
| foolishness which continues until the mar
risge ceremony is performed. Then they
gradually recover and drift back into their
PROPER personalities, and all the disagreeabe
and repulsive qualities which have been
concealed, lest their exhibition might preju-
| dice the accomplishment OF their mutual
| purpose, shine out with renewed luser. The
| man. who a few months before would break
| his back to pick up his mistress's hand.
kerchief, allows his wife to bring bod oil
coal upstairs; aud the woman who before
| marriage devoted hours 10 her toilet When
she expected her lover, goes about like 8
slattern after marriage. Intercourse be-
fore msrriage is a constant series OF decep
lions on bo!h sides. The lover thinks hi;
mistress 4 Venus. The mistress thinks hel
lover an Apollo. After marriage, so grea
are the shocks Of discovery, it is fortunate i
| both lover and mistress do not seek theii
Veuuses and Apollos where they should not
Perhaps all this might be helped If Their.
were only a mutual understanding that al
these courtesies and graces are justitiAble de
ceptions Certainly it would be long siel
tow ard domestic happiness ii candidates 10
matrimony could only be made 10 under
stsud in COME manner that there is nothin,
80 hard in this world as for two persons Il
live together IN harmony, TO sink their pc
| culiariIies and TO conform themselves Il
each other, so as to get along without col
Iision. As this cannot be expected, however
until some remedy is discovered for the at
TACK of idiocy which lasts during The en-
| gsgement period the next best thing 10 jus
| what Judge Tuley did-nsmely: to inform
the 81 willD wives and "you-shan't" husband
that their undigni6sd and silly pickering
are not cause for divorce.-Ch Chicago Tribune