New-York tribune., 1882-08-13
1HE TAX or MEN AND UouEN. .

From The CorHhH
To two classes We pay court women and tho
aged But the superiority OF women Is perpetually
ucuaccd thew do BOT sit throueu on mtimties Ike
ths old they -ultOrs rs well as severe gns their
vanity is engaged. their affections are 100 apt 10
follow and hence much ol the tdiA between Tue
sexes deCcuerates into something un orthy oi the
name. The desire to please to Sal 8e with par
ficular engaging lu>tre, 10 draw aoc mating pie
tuie OF ouesei uanishes from conversation all that
is sterling anu most OF what IS humorous. A. soon
as % strong current Of mutual admiration begin, 20
now the human interest irlumph- entirely over the
Intellectual. and the commerce ol words CONSCIOUSLY
or moi. becomes secondary To- tie e. ilmelclhs OF
eyes Each simply waits upOn tue other 10 ue au-
mircd. and the talk dWlnuics INTO plattuhlhOuo
piping CoQuetry and fatuty are thus the knell
OF talk. But even bete this ridiculous danger IS
avoided, and a man and woman converse equally
ana honestly something in their nature or their
education fals.hes the strain. An instinct plOupts
them to agree; and where that Is impossible 10
agree TO dItei. should they neglect tie warning
at the first suspicion Ul an argument they Huu
themselves ~ different bemspAeres About any
point OF business or conduct any actual allalr ue-
handing settlement woman Will speaN au'i l91oA
hear and ausw er TgImCuts, not only Win haluIal
W suon. but with candor and logical honesty. but
If the -ubect of debate be something IN the air an
abstraction, an excuse Tor talk, "a logical Aunt
Sally then Way the male debaieG instantly aDahuOh
hope; he may employ reason, ddduce lacts, be sup
plc he smiling, lie angry. all shall avail MN h"th-
ing: what the woman said INST. that unless Sie
has forgotten ia size viii repeat at the end.
Hence 1t the very iuuctures when talk between
men grows brighter aud quicker anu htgns 10
promise TO bear truIt talk between tie sexes IS
menaced with al solution. The point OF difference
f,, mint Ol interest. Is cvaded by the brilliant
woman. under shower of irrelevant cOnYersa-
tional rockies; IL is budgod by tie discreet oman
with rustic of silk, she passes smoothly LOT
ward to the nearest point of safety. III cannot te
discussed, OF NOT ID IT. natural connection IL may
be returned upon after circuit; anu Il prOp"uuueu
as a problem with neither party comnltted 10 a
side 10 may then De gently, lightly, Out IN the eH'
Thoroughly treated. 1his sort oi prestidi9tation,
iurellng the dangerous tOpc out OF sIsht until lt
can bee reutroducrd with safety in an altered sha pc
Is piece OF tactics among the true draw lHg-roOH
queens. 80 -, .tao.
The drawlne-room is, indeed. an artificial place
IL is 80 by our choice and for our sins the suReclou
of women the ideal imposed upon them from the
cradle and wo II. like halT shirt, Win so Mut II
constaucv their mOthetiy. superior tenderness 10
mans vanity aud seh-Importaucc, their MANAGING
arts-the art. OF "a civilized slave among guod-na-
fnted barbarans- all are painful Ingredients and
a hclp to falsifv relations 10 is h0i tlll W. EeO
clear of that amusing artificial scene thar genuine
relations aIe founded or ideas honestly compared.
I'm the gatdeu on the road or The hillside or toe-
a-fe aud apart from nt-Truption-, occasions arise
~ hen we may learn much from any single Moim,!tn
and nowhere more often than IN maFrleu ne
Marriage Is one long conversation, chetkereu ny
disputes. The disputes are SIMPLY Naiuerr~'' tHel
but ingram the differ nee; the heroic hearJ ol
woman prompts Eer at once 10 nail her coiors 10
the mast Iut IN the intervals, almost uucoh-
s.Iously. with no desire TO SHINE. the Whoe mate
rial of life Is turned aud over ideas are struck
ont and shared. the two persons more ana Huie
afnt their notions one To sut the other. ahN lh lhe
pr0c,.4- OF time. without ~ouLd OF trumpet tuey
conduct ach other into new worlds OF thought