The Lincoln County leader. [volume] (White Oaks, Lincoln County, N.M.) 1882-189?, 1882-10-28
a STUDY OF HUSBANDS.
BY a Woman, for Women, But Men
HAY Read it With Profit.
From the Argonnnt.


of keeping husband. If he is
worth winning hc is worth keeping.
This is wicked world and man
is dreadfully mortal. Let us take
him Just as he is, not as he ought
to be. In the first place, lie is very
weak. The wife must spend the
first two years in discovering all
these weaknesses, count them ON
her fingers, and learn them by
heart. The fingers of both hands
will not be too many. Then let her
study up these weaknesses, with a
mesh for every one, and the secret
is hers. Is he fond Of good din
ner! Let her tighten the mesh
around him with fragrant coffee,
light bread and good things gener-
ally, and reach his heart through
his stomach. Is he fond of hattery
about his looks! Let her study the
dictionary for sweet words, if her
supply gives out. Does he like to
hear her talk about his brilliant in
tellect! Let her pore over the en-
cyclopfedia to give variety to the
depth of her admiration. Flattery
is good thing to study up at all
hazards, in its delicate shades, but
it must be skillfully done. The
harpy who may try to coax him
away will not do it tamely. is
ne fond Of beauty9 Here's the rub
let her be bright and tidy that is
half the victory. Next, let her
bang her hair metaphorically and
keep up with the times. a hus-
band who sees his wife look like
other people will not consider her
"broken down" Though it is
common sneer that a women has
admitted that her sex consider
more, in marrying, the tastes Of
her fricns than her own, yet it must
not be considered ludicrous that a
man looks at his wife with the same
eyes that other people Go, Is he
fond Of literary matters! Listen to
him with wide open eyes when he
talks ofthem. \ man doesn't so
much care for Il literary wife if only
she will be literary enough to ap-
preciate him, If She have literary
inclinations, let her keep them to
herself. Men love to be big and
great TO their wives. That's the
reason why a helpless little woman
can marry three times to sensible,
self-reliant woman's none. Guilt
vate helplessness. Is he curioul?
Oh, then you have a treasure you
can always keep him it'you have a
secret and only keep it carefully.
If he is Jealous! Then, woman,
this is not f9r You; cease reading !;
cease torturing that fretted heart
which wants You for his own, and
teach him confidence. is he ugly
in his temper and fauit-hndng !
Give him a dose Of his own medi-
cine, skillfully done. Is he deceit
full! Pity him for his weakness,
treat him as one who is born with a
physical defect, but put your wits
to work-it is a bad case. 1t is
well not to be too tame. Men do
not waste their powder and shot on
hens and barn-yard fowls they like
the pleasure Of pursuing wild game
quail and grouse and deer. A
quail is good model for a wife
neat and trim, with a pretty, swift
way about it, and Just little cap
riciOus. Neyerlet yourself become
an old story; be Just little uncer-
tain. Another important fact is,
don't be too good: 1t hurts his
feelings and becomes monotonous.
Cultivate a pleasant voice, so that
this very mortal man may have his
conscience prick him when he is in
jeopardy; its pleasant ring will
haunt him much more than would
a shrill one. 1t is hard to do all
this, besides taking cave of the
babies and looking after yeXatious
household cares, ard smiling when
he comes, but it seems necessary.
$40 be born woman is to be born
a martyr" says husband who for
ten years has watched in amaze
ment his wife treading the wine
press Of her existence 1t is a pitt
Iul sight to some men. But if the
wife does not make a study Of these
things, the harpy will, to steal
away the honor from bis silver
hairs when he is full of years and
the father Of sons and daughters
At the same time, gudcwife,
keep from trying any of these
things on any other mortal man but