Sacramento daily record-union. [volume] (Sacramento [Calif.]) 1875-1891, 1882-09-02
TIE EALK OF HEN AND woMEE.
The COrnhill. |

liEt SOEuHlli
The two classes we may court women
and the aged. Bat the superiority of
women is peTpetuaily menaCed they do
not sit throned on inhrmities like the old :;
they are the suitors as well as the sover-
eigns; their vanity ia engaged, their affec-
lions are too apt to follow; and hence
much of the talk between the sexes de-
generates into something unworthy of the
name. The desire to please, to shine with
particular engaging luster, to draw fas.
cinatlng picture of ourself, banishes from
conversation all that is sterling and most
of what is humorous. As soon as a strong
current Of mutual admiration begins to
| flow, the human interest triumphs entirely
over the intellectual, and the commerce Of
words, consciously or not, becomes second
AIRY to the commencing of eyes. Each
simply waits on the other to be admired,
and the talk dwindles into platitudinous
! piping. Coquetry and faulty are thus
! the knell of talk. But even where this
| ridiculous danger is avoided, and
man and woman converse equally
and honestly, something in their nature
or their education falsities the strain. An
instinct prompts them to agree and where
that's impossible, to agree to differ. Should
| they neglect the warning, at the first sus-
| plclon OF en- argument they find themselves
10 different hemispheres. About any point
Of business or conduct, any actual affair de.
| handing settlement, a woman will speak
and listen, hear and answer arguments, Tot
only with natural wisdom, but with can
| dor and logical honesty, But if the sub.
Jet of debate be something in the air, an
abstraction, an excuse for talk, logical
| Aunt Sally, then may the male debater in
| stantly abandon hope he may employ
reason, adduce facts, be supple, be smiling,
| be angry, all shall avail him nothing !;
what the woman said first, that (unless she
| has forgotten It'll she will repeat at the end.
| Hence, at the very jupcture when talk
between men grows brighter and quicker
and begins to promise to bear fruit, talk
| between the sexes is meuaced with dissolu-
| ton. The point of difference, the point of
| interest, is evaded by the brilliant woman,
under shower of irrelevant conversa.
| tionai rockets it is bridged by the dis.
Greet woman with rustic of silk, as she
| passes smoothly forward to the nearest
point of safety. 1t cannot be discussed,
or not in its natural connection. 1t may
be returned upon after circuit; and ii
pr0pounded as a problem, with neither
party committed to side, it may then be
gently, lightly, but, in the end, thoroughly
treated. This sort of prestidigitation,
juggling the dangerous topic out of sight
until it can be reintroducsd with safety in
an altered shape, is a piece of tactics
among the true drawing room queens
the drawing room il, indeed, an artificial
place; it is so by cur choice and for our
Sins the subsection OF women, the ideal
imposed npoa them from the cradle and
worn, like hair shirt. with so much con.
stancy their motheTiy, superior tender.
ness to mans vanity and seli-importauce,
their managing arts-the arts of civilized
slave among good natured bar oarisus all
are painful ingredients, and all help to fall
sify relations. 1t is not till we get clear
of that amusing, artificial scene that genu-
ire relations are founded, or ideas honestly
compared. IL the garden, on the road or
hillside, or tets tetG and apart from inter-
ruytions, occasions arise when we may
learn much from any single woman, aud
nowhere more often than in married
life. Marriage ia one long CONVEX
satiop, checksred by disputes. TIE
disputes are simply valueless they
but ingram the difference the heroic
heart of woman prompts her at once TO
nail her oolors to the mast. But in the in
tervals, almost unconsciously, with 10
desire to shine, the whole material of life
is turned over and over, ideas are struck
out and shared, the two persons more and
more adapt their notions one to suit the
other. and in the process of tire, without
sound of trumpet, they conduct each other
into new worlds of thought.