Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1882-10-20
AaisftllarreDl1s.
WY wesen Fade.
By KATE TREE.

Why women FADE.
BY KATE Tree
An eminent physician and profound
scholar once said that the '.beauty OF wo.
men was like the blossom Of the morning
glory, charming for day only" We
have spent some time in the loyal labor ol
attempting to prove our friend wrong. but
ms criticism finds ready indorsement IN
the Gsces around rs. "a woman should
reach her prime between 40 and co." says
m author of note, but alas, too many have
sunkep cheeks, sallow compilations, and
tired. fretful faces. at that age. The
causes are many; the perils and anxieties
of collaborating and child-trainiDg have
robbed many blooming cheek OF Its
charm of freshness, but even this Is con-
trary to the laws OF nature. When these
sacred duties are understood as they should
be, and proper care is taken not only oil
the body but the mental condition, we
shall see happy, cheerful mothers in every
home.
There are many causes which lie at the
root of this evil, for evil it Is, when the
God-piyen sweetness and freshness leave
. Young daughters face, and hard lines
make her appear older than the grand
mother OF the house.
One cause is fretting or over anxiety
Women, al rule, dwell too much on lit
tie things they magnify trouble, anticipate
its coming, and weary themselves over
trifies. Only short time since we saw
most estimable lady rendered miserable
for DAYS because a carpet-ftter had neg
lected to finish his work neatly. Another
was 80 anxious about some cake she was
making for church fair that her nerves
were quite out of tune and her temper
rufled.
One good woman, the mother Of fami'
". said once in the hearing Of the writer,
that ..she kept awake all night much
worried because she had sealed a bottle
OF some fancy pickles and neglected To
put in certain kind OF spice"
Think of it. In world full OF impor.
tant work, in life crowded with grand
possibilities, a woman making herself
miserable over a jar of pickles.
Mothers fret about their children in the
most foolish and unnecessary manner
Tommy is sent on an errand for his
mother with instruction to return at once
Tommy does not return an hour passes
and still another, but Tommy does not APP
pear. Mamma grows impatient, ther
anxious, then desperate, and at last is il
a state of nervous excitement quite injur
ious TO her health. After the entire fami
" has been disturbed. the police question
ed, and the parents instructed that it "wa'
quite time to punish thst boy; he was
getting the upper hand very fast. Tommy
appears. smiling, whistling. happy.
wise mother would calmly hear his story
but Tommy's mother is unduly excited
and she literally pounces npon the child
The story is terse and simple. Tommy
was obliged to wait. then the gentleman
asked him if he would do an errand for him
and the obiging boy consented; the delay
was greater than he anticipated, and Tom
nv was lawful hungry" That was all. Ht
had neither "been in boat" ''carried of
by some horrid tramp" or had ''strayet
away with wicked boys" as his mamm;
feared. and yet she is i'll with headache
and Tommy, "wishes he was man, ant
folks didn't make such fuss if you wa
out of sight little while"
Boys must be trusted to greater ex
tent than girls in matters of absence from
home. Your genuine. manly boy detest.
restraint and what he calls ''fussiness
Many mother has Disguised growing
son by fancied evils, and these are tn,
fancies which are ''the worm in the bud
to steal away the restfnlness and peace
from pretty or beautiful face. Womer
in the household are too conscientious fol
their own good. II the master of the
house is late and the dinner spoiled, tn,
mistress grieves over the matter with /,
face expressive of deep grief. What doe.
It matterp True. good dinner. wei
served, is a desirable thing. but della,
from unavoidable causes should never
cause the wife to meet her husband with
frown.
When the delay Is unnecessary and OF
repeated the comfort of the entire family
is disturbed and rebuke is desirable.
a remonstrance must be made. let it bt
done in a lady-like, quiet manner. fol
men well know that servants will not tol-
crate Irregularities in their field of labor
and no true gentleman would Willingly
annoy his wife. Our earnest advice t
women, young and old, is, Don't fret.
Life is too important, sacred and grand t,
waste in useless repinings. No man car
uuOeTSt8uu TIE uutuCtouS "otiiNo hh'
cares of householder, and consequently
il Is useless to expect it. He may be kind
indulgent, and even anxious to aid you
but your small cares in the course of !
dav (unless you belong to the exceptions
class and employ retinue of servants,
would fill volume. He is neither cruc
or Indifferent when you tell him that thu
kitchen range has smoked all day; bu
the smoke has not touched his eyes. ant
his temper is not disturbed by repeated
attempts to prepare TODD under such cir
cumstances. Never wrinkle your pretty
brow over it, or sink down in depair. fol
you well know that any great trouble
would find you a marvel of strength
Fretting has ruined more faces than sick
ness and suffering.
Another cause Of early vanishing beauty
10 the want of fresh air. Not an occasion
nj walk or drive. not round of calls or :
little shopping. but regular dcses of good
fresh air. Make it religious duty to SEE
something new every day. something
which viii compel you to walk. and a
the same time divert you. leading
you to forget the unfinished carmen
on your sewing machine. or the i'm
pertinence of your maid-of-all
work. Do not allow yourself an,
liberty in this matter. nor accept any ex
cuse whatever. 1t is right, proper. essen
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