Millheim Journal. [volume] (Millheim, Pa.) 1876-1984, 1882-08-17
Beauty Rules.

Whatever she may wish to accomplish she
will best manage it by pleasing. A woman's
grand social aim should be to please, And
let me tell you how that is to be done. a
woman can please the eye by her appear
ance, her dless, her face and her figure.
She can please the ear by studying the art
of graceful elccutlon, not hard to any OF
,ls, for by nature we speak with finer arti-
cuation than men. She can please the
mind by cultlvating her own so far at
least, as to make her good listener; and
as much further as she will She can
please the fancy by ladies w.t. of which
all of us have share. She can please the
heart by amiabllity. Beauty of person Is
only one feature of true beauty.
Rule Two. .-Modesty is the ground on
which all woman's charms appear to the
best advantage. In manners, dress, con-
versation, remember always that modesty
must never be forgotten. There Is now O.
days tendency in women to rebel against
old fashioned modesty. The doctrine Of
liberty Is spreading among us, for which
thank God. But the first effects Of that
doctrine on our minds are o little confus-
ing. We are growing more independent
and more ndividusl. Some of us. fancy
that to be modest Is to be old-fashioned,
and of course we want the newest fashions
IN all things. maintain that modest
woman Is the reply of my sex to brave
man-you can no more have true woman
without modeSty than q true man without
courage. But remember, use the word
modesty IN high sense. Not pruderY.
Prudery Is on the surface; modesty is in
the soul. Rosalind IN her boys suit is de-
ightfully modest, but not very prudish,
Rule Three. dress up tv your
age or little beyond it. Let your person
be the youngest thing about you; not the
oldest. A very important lesson for women
of forty. The attempt TO dress for young
almost invariably leads to a reaction in the
spectators miud, and the traces of years
become more palpable and more signifl-
cant. But slight and graceful assumption
of years in ones dress has an opposite ef-
feet.
Rule Four. Remember that what wo-
men admire in themselves is seldom what
men admire in them. In nine drawing
rooms out of ten, Miranda or Cordelia, as
novel herolnes, would be voted bores.
Women would say, 1--WE would utterly
decline to accept these watery girls as ty-
plcal Of us; we want smartness and LIE" 1"
| don't really care much for Miranda or
Cordelia myself. Now this seems to me
to caution us against trusting too implicitly
or too far our notions about ourselves.
Another source of misunderstanding comes
from the novel-writerS. We are the novel
readers, and the novelist is forced to write
heroines to suit our taste: He does not
want to offend us. Thus 1t comes about
that even the male novelist is too often
only depicting women's women, after all
And i believe scores of modern girls are
seriously misled for this very reason. They
believe they are finding out what men
think of them, when in truth they are read
ing their own notions handed back to them
under pretty disguise.
Rule Five.-Women's beauties are sell
dom mems beauties. If ten men and ten
women were to go into the same company,
and each sex chose the prett1est woman
there, as they thought. you would rarely
find that they chose the same. Ii this be
so, we ought not to trust ourselves even as
sex We are to please must in the end settle
the question, and Will settle the question
Ia its own way.
Rule Six.-Gayety tempered by serious
ness Is the happiest manner In society. By
which mean, that IN all onr gayety there
ought to be q hint of self-recollection The
most agreeable women | have met with -
ard think the most regerded-have been
women of social position, who have been
trained with due regard for religion. Their
worldly education had made them mindful
of grace and lIvellness; the religious edu-
cation kept these qualities under partlcu-
lar sort of control, which is perceptlbly
different from mere good breeding. 1t
seeEs to me that vivacity sprghtllness are
greatly enhanced by vein of seriousness,
Certainly no woman ought to be a mocker.
Rule Seven. Always speak low. This
is obvious. In support OF 1t / need only
quote Shakespeare, who calls it IAN excel
lent thing in woman"
Rule Elght-A plain woman can never
be pretty. She can always be fascinating,
il she takes pains. / well remember a
man who was great admlrer of our sex
telling me that one of the most fascinating
women he had ever known, was not only
not pretty, but as to her face decidedly
plain-ugly, only the word Is rude. 4
asked my friend, "How then, did she fas-
clnate2" i well remember his reply. ''Her
hgure," said he, "was neat, her dressing
was faultless, her every movement was
graceful, her conversation was clever and
animated, and she always tried to please.
1t was not alone who called her fascina-
ting; she was one of the most acceptable
women in society ever knew. She mar.
ried brilliantly, and her husband, lawyer
in large practice, was devoted to her
more than if she had been queen of beau
ties" Here was woman who, excepting
a fairly ne4t figure, had not q
single natural gift of appearance. Is
>oot this worth our thinking about by those
of us women who care to please and are
not beauties bornf
Rule Nlne.--Every year woman lives,
the mere pains she should take with her
dress. The dress of us elderly danes
ought to be more of science than 1t ia.
How often one hears q woman of fifty say:
80, my dressing days are pastl" When,
if she thought about it, they have well be-
gun. At least the time has come when
dress is more to her than ever. Remem-
Der from forty to sixty-fve is quarter of
a century-the third of long life. 1t is
the period through which the majority of
grown up people pass. And yet how lit
tie pride women take--how little thought
beforehand--to be charming then!
Rule Ten. in all things let woman
ask what will please the men of sense be-
Foro che ocbc uhut will y1ooco man of Foeb