The weekly register. [volume] (Point Pleasant, Va. [W. Va.]) 1862-1909, 1882-12-20
sweethearl's and wives.

"HN 1u"uAVhSi "Ath pdItlculul
reference to women, DR.. Madeira, 4
Jewish Rabbi, said;
Injudicious marriages are causing
much unhappinessin the world. In
the first place as to the social posi-
ton Of the parties. While we are nc
great stickler for social position, yet
it is necessary that some attention
should be paid to it. While it is moi
very important with man, it j,
with woman. A husband takes his
own social position, whether it is tc
lift her up or drag her down to it,
The woman who marries beneath her
is apt to cut herself off from the old
associations Of friends aud faInily.s<
She will be made to feel this very
bitterly; and in many instances the
result is that, seeing her friends and
family looking down upon her bus.
band, she comes finally to recognize
his inferiority and regard him with
disgust. God intended that a wife
should look up to her husband with
a trustful and uffectionate respect,
and not to look down upon him as
her inferior. Such marriages are
not fortunate.
The sweetheart relation should be
guarded very carefully, because when
once formed there is such glamour
upon the eyes that they can not see
things as they are. After marriage
it is too late. 1t is difficult thing
for the young lady tobelisve that the
young man of her choice has had bad
habits. If any one has the frankness
to tell her Of them, she either thinks
there is some mistake about it, or
that her informant is actuated by
malicious motives, or that her be.
trothed will now lay them aside
Some heroic maidens say: swell, |
will marry him despite his bad hab-
its. | will marry him and reform
him" There may be a few such ca
ses Of reformation, but in nine cases
out of ten the man goes to the dogs,
and takes the devoted young woman
along with him. If she had known
at the outset the style Of man he
was, she would not have suffered her
heart to become interested in him;
but aflerward she has not the moral
strength to conquer her attachment.
B0t vicious habits are not the only
ones that wreck the happiness of mar
ried life. There may be bad temper,
there may be untruthfulness and in.
sincerity, there may be corseness,
there may be habits which are not
domestic, there may be an arbitrary
and tyrannical disposition. There
may be many wrong dispositions that
wreck the happiness of married life.
If young ladies were a little more
guarded in coming into what we
term the sweetheart relation, there
would not be so many wives with
crushed spirits and broken hearts.
Let me advise you rs to the be
havior becoming this relationship.
The sweetheart relationship antici.
pates marriage, whether as yet it has
progressed to engagement or not. In
view of this, We would remind you
that you should in all respects bear
yourself in such way as to win the
respect and confidence of the man
you expect to call your husband
Many foolish girl, IN the intimacy
of the sweetheart relationship. has
utterly lost the confidence of the man
who had come to admire her, al.
though be himself may have been
most at fault. No man of self respect
and pride Of character will be will
ing TO marry the woman in whom he
has not entire confidence. She who
is not unapproachably modest as u
sweetheart will be justly liable to
suspicion as wife,
If Young ladies knew how almost
every immodesty they suffer comes
to light and is made the subject of
gossip and Of jest, it would make
them careful, even if their native
soli-respect and pride Of character
were not sufficient. Perhaps mar
riage does not take place between
you and the man who makes you the
subject of his attentions, lam sorry
to say that men are not always as
manly as they ought to be in regard
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