The Columbus journal., 1882-02-01
1. /. Ge.sle.a.:

what L. q 6ealleaan:
1t il almost q definition OF q gen.
tleman to say he is one who never
iDflicts pain. This description is
both refined and, AZ far as il goes,
accurate. He is mainly occupied in
merely removing the obstacles which
hinder the tree and unembarrassed
action of those about him ; and he
concurs with their movements rsth-
or than takes the initiative himself.
His benefits may be considered the
parallel to what IRE called comforts
or convenience in arrangements Of Q
personal nature; like any easy chair
or Q good Gre, which do their part
in dispelling cold and fatigue,thOugh
nature provides means of rest and
animal heat without them.
The true gentleman In like manner
carefully avoids whatever may cause
. jar or . jolt in the minds of those
with whom be Is cast ; all clsshing
of opinion, or collision OF feeling, all
restraint or suspicion, or gloom, or
resentment his great concern being
to make every one at their ease and
at home. He had his eyes on all his
he is tender toward the
bashful, gentle towards the Distant
and merciful towards the absurd
he guards against unreasonable ailu-
sions or topics which may irritats /;
he 10 seldom prominent in converse
ton, and never is wearisome. He
makes light Of favors while he does
them, and seems to be receiving
when he is comforting.
He never speaks of himself except
when compelled, never defends him
self by . mere retort; he has no ear
for Islander OF gossip. is scrupulous
in imputing motives to those who
interfere with him and interprets
everything for the best. He is new
er mean or little in bis disputes,
never takes unfair advantages, never
mistakes personalities or sharp say
ings for arguments, or insinuates
evils which he dare not say out.
From . long sighted prudence he
observes the maxim Of the ancient
sage, that We should conduct our
selves toward our enemy az If he
we're one day to be our friend. He
has too much good sense to be af-
fronted at insults. and is too well
to remember injuries. He
lie patient, forbearing and resigned,
on philosophical principles. He sub.
mits to pain, because il is irrspars-
BILE to death, because it is his desti-
ny. II he engages in controversy OF
any kind, his disciplined intellect
preserves him from the laundering
1iscourtesy Of better. perhaps, but
lees educated minds, who. like blunt
weapons, tear and hack instead OF
cutting clean, who mistake the point
In argument, waste their strength on
trifes, misconceive their adversary,
and leave the question more involy-
ed than they find it. He may be
right Of wrong in bis opinion, but
he is az simple as he is forcible, and
as brief ss he is decisive. Nowhere
shall we find greater candor, consid.
Grafton, indulgence. He throws him
self into the minds of his opponents,
he accounts for their mistskes, he
knows the weakness of human rea-
son, as well az it's provinces and it's
limits. If he be an unbeliever he
will be too profound and too large
minded TO rldlcule religion or to set
against it; he Is too wise to be Q
dogmatist or fanatic in his infdeli-
ty. He respects piety and devotion /;
he even supports institutions as
venerable, beautiful or useful, to
which be does not assent he honors
the ministers Of religion, and it con.
tents him to decline its mysteries
without sssailing or denouncing
them. He is q friend of religious
federation, and that, not only be-
cause bis philosophy has taught him
to look upon all forms of faith with
an impartial eye. but also from the
gentleness Of feeling, which is the
attendant on civilization.