The Jackson standard. [volume] (Jackson C.H., Ohio) 1847-1888, 1882-03-23
chronological Journal.1
Falling I'm Love.
BY ELEANOR KIRKE." "

! with lover Well-knOWn writer Wht
ought to have known better inquiries
E Certainly y very little with the mawk
ish sentimentality passing current al
love, but everything with the genuine
: article.
Il wouldn't give much for hear
that is governed by the head" lady
! once remarked to the writer.
, why not?"
,, "Oh! l can't bear the people who
, cut and dry everything before they
make up their minds" was the reply
Il like folks who are generous and
impulsive, and come to conclusions
without the fuss of thinking"
1t was no use to say to this illogical
young lady, who was even then break
ing her mothers heart by her willful-
ness, that it could not have been an
accident that placed the head at the
top; in other words, that gave reason
the seat of honor; for she knew little,
and cared less, about such subjects.
The fact was, he girl was sin love-"
as she herself was not slow to admit.
Now, let US look at this case, and the
writer is sorry to say that it is by no
means an isolated one, and see what it
means. This young lady was the
idolized daughter of wealthy and in
dulgent parents. As her mother in
her great trouble admitted, ELLA had
never been crossed in her life" a
statement which proves these loving
parents to have been very active pro-
moters Of their own misery. This
young lady at seventeen imagines her
self in love with a man who has liter
ally nothing to recommend him to
the favorable notice of any sensible
human being. He was not only not
attractive in person, but was coarse to
yulgarity in speech and manner, and
so wretchedly ungrammatical as to
make him very uncomfortable COM
panion for any one who respected the
teachings Of Lindley Murray. He
could dance, however, and sing COM
ic song to a banjo accompaniment,
and was well versed in theatrical lore;
but in everything that makes a man
manly this man was utterly lacking
The girls parents naturally disap-
proved of their daughters choice.
And as this was the first time they had
ever Pic themselves in opposition
to her wishes. there was nothing to be
gained by it now. At last, it came to
the mothers ear that her daughter had
really yielded to the persuasions of
her so-called lover. and had promised
to marry him privately. if her parents
did not give an immediate consent to
more respectable ceremony.
In free country. among free insti-
tutions, of which marriage is certainly
the freest. and most disastrous, it
would hardly do to turn the key on a
young lady, even though she were de-
termined OH this one certainly sure to
compass her own destruction. So it
came to pass that these parents, as
many others have done, and many
more will do. gave their child, in
whom their fondest hopes were CEN
tered, to the care of man with whom
they would not be willing to tru-t the
family silver. A short time, and Ella
wakes up. if not to the crime she has
committed, at least to the foolishness
of the step she has taken, and few
months find her again under the pa
rental roof. driven to it by the brutal
ity of her husband.
Now, why was it that the advice
and judgment of this girls parents
were so willfully disregarded 9-or to
pnt it in another way. how was it pos
sible that girl born of refined pa
rents, and living in an atmosphere of
refinement. could stoop to such vul-
gar fellow?
Scientific students talk about mag
netism in such cases, and it may be
that the subtle something Is sometimes
responsible for the mischievous senti-
ment, and it's diabolical results. We
know that unprincip pied men are often
the most polished, and given good
looks, good manners and apparent no.
bllity of character, it is not hard to
understand how trusting woman
may be imposed upon. But when
these are all conspicuous by their ab-
sence, as in the case just cited, there
seems no way of accounting for the
iDfatuation.
Elias mother would think it very
hard, as well as unjust. to be charged
with the calamity that has wrecked
her own life as well rs her daughters;
but Elias discipline should have COM
menced in early youth.
Indiscriminate novel-reading, to the
exclusion Of all that was earnest and
practical, was one prolific cause of the
final result. The mother knew that
this was most pernicions, but rather
than seem unkind or unindulgent, she
allowed it to go on, trusting to sense
of right which she believed to be in
nate, to bring her ont unscathed and
uncontaminated. The truth is, if
this young woman had been properly
instructed, there would have been no
more danger of her imagining herself
in love with this coarse villain, than
there would have been of her commit
ting suicide. The subjects which
should be carefully discussed with
girls are usually avoided by mothers.
thine enough for them to wake up to
the wickedness of the world" says
one. by and by my daughter will
have her own experiences, and | pre-
fer to let her dream on till they
come" says another. 1t is impossible
to conceive of greater foolishness
Intuitions which would be keen and
reliable if properly set to work. are
by such means rendered worse than
useless. This is the way it stands in
plain English.
II have had my trials, and | know
my daughter will have hers, but rath-
er than violate any principle of modes