Daily globe. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1878-1884, 1882-05-28
HUSBANDS AND WIVES.

II SBANH5 AND N4FES'
Husbands love your wives, and be not bitter
against them-Colossians iii: 10.
Marriage, without doubt, was intended
by the Creator to be, next to the relation
of God and man, the most sacred one
possible for human beings to enter INTO.
a relation which comprises helpmeet,
companion, friend, cannot be otherwise
than tender and sacred, involving, too, all
the issues of this life and reaching on to
the life beyond. That the plan of the
Creator has miscarried by reason Of sin
Is painful fact, the multitude OF I'M
happy and disgraceful marriages in every
community attest to this. The fountain
from which flows such bitter streams is
the perverseness and selishness of human
nature. Men and women make wrong
choice from ignorance, or actuated by
mean motives, or influenced by friends
they marry, and from dream of
happiness they wake to misery. The
devil has no fairer field for his operations
than IN such home.
The Apostle Paul, DESTROYS of aiding
the members of the early church to
be blameless in their homes as well
as IN the church, gave them
instructions looking to the accomplish
ment of that purpose. "Wlves submit
unto your husbands" Husbands love
YOUR wiyes'' 1t is worthy of notice that
he never urges wives to love their hus-
bands, so that the inference must be that
a lack of love was not fault Of the
wives in St. Pauls time.
There are many reasons why man fails
in his love for the woman he has chosen
for his life's companion. One is his lack
of respect for all women. From his child
hood he has grown up with an oVer-ween-
ing sense of his own superiority to his
feminine companions. He may be only
brainless fop, but the bigger fool man
is the less respect he usually has for
women. After marriage; when the pro-
sale realities of daily life dispel the TO-
nance of the situation, his selfish nature
asserts itself, and his wife finds herself
only q sort of upper servant to minister to
HIS comfort There are. scores of such
husbands The best of everything in the
house IS reserved for them, ''the children
must be Quiet-father is home"
the mother has had them all
day, but ssthat is what she
is for - If retrenchment IN living is
necessary, instead of giving up cigars
and standing treats with his friends, he
breaches economy to his wife. His ward
robe suffers no diminution while she
turns and makes over and repairs as best
she can TO present a respectable appear
ance. OF course if he loved her it would
be pleasure to make sacrifices for her
sake, but instead he permits her to love
him, and that ought TO satisfy any reason
able woman.
There are better men than this class,
who need to heed the apostles injunc-
ton They are popular men, whom the
world is never weary of praising; the elo-
quent clergyman, the brilliant lecturer,
the great actor, the smart, witty writer
ard the successful business man. They
90 home from the scene of their labor
and success with the praise of men and
the fla;te ry OF women still sounding in
their ears, and find their wives quite I'M
prepared for hero worship. They admire
their husbands, but constant state of
admiration is terrible strain for the
average intellect and the cares of
home and children will command
attention, besides, if the men loved
their wives as themselves they would find
some worthier object than themselves to
admire, but snch self-love and worship
results only in Indifference and neglect.
The small, mean man seldom loves his
wife. When he was lover he made
quite show of generosity, and in the
ardor of his passion money was regarded
but secondary to his desire of winning
her. But when the wedding day is over,
money comes to the front again. and be-
sides there is nothing to be gained by in
vesting in books, flowers or rides. AS a
newly married man calamity remarked
to his wife, "My dear, l furnish you
beefsteaks now instead of bouquets"
Usually the mean man is meaner 10 his
wife than to any one else. He regards
hel, in one sense at least, as part of
himself; she knows his meanness and he
never troubles himself about her opinion
of him. Said husband of this kind, al
reckon my wife has good time; she is
warmed by my fire, eats at my table, and
I make her an allowance for
clothes. Pretty fair, isn't it."
"Do You allow her as much
as you spend for cigars and
other triflesi" asked friend. "Of
course not. Who makes the money!"
Of course his wife despises him. No