The weekly Union times. [volume] (Union C.H., South Carolina) 1871-1894, 1882-10-13

MARRIAGE.-Onc year of married life
has passed and We have been very happy.
The good advice in DR.. Jacksou's letter has
proved valuable, and his predictions have
been verified have lent or read the let-
ter to many friends, aud wish it might be
published in Me la,cs."
DR. JACKSoN'S LETTER
To BECOME a husband it rs serious n
matter to a man as it is for woman to be-
come wife. Marriage is no childs play
it brings added care, trial, perplexity, vex-
alton, and it requires great deal Of the
happiness which lcgitimatcly springs out of
it to make the balance heavy in its favor
Very few live happily in marriage, and yet
this is not because unhappiucss is germanc
to the relation, but bccaus.. those who enter
it do not know, first how TO get married,
and second how to live married happily.
You have already made your choice wisely,
| am bound to believe. Those qualities of
character which have attracte 1 you to choose
as you have, should make your love grow
daily while you live together.
AS the second point: you wish to live
in harmonious union with your wife, start
out with the avu$cd recognition of the fact
that she is your companion and copartncr.
Marriage usually makes the wife neither of
these. In many instances she sees less Of
her husband than before she married him
He comes, he goes, he reads, thinks, works,
and under the stimulus of business all his
powers aud faculties tn the surface, aud is
developed thcrcby-not always symmetrical
ly, but vigorou>l y-not always Harmonious
| ly, but with increasing power. Married
men do not usually shrivcl up nor put on Il
look ofprcmaturc agc, but womrn frequently
do, and it is plain to me why they do.
Married women arc shut up in houses,
and their chief care is for things that have
no inspiring influence. Their time is taken
up in meeting the physical wants of their
families s-cooking washing dishes, keeping
the house III order, sewing, receiving com
pany--not one Of which has in it a tcndcn.
cy even to culture and elevation. Married
women arc devoted to house, and this means
life Of vcxation and pc,tincss. 1t gives no
sor, Of stimulus to the spirit. SO the
husband, who is out of doors, active, inter
cs,cd in measures which affect the public
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than himself, who inspire him to better
purposes and nOblcr ends of labor develops
into manly beauty, aud grows in character;
while his wife at home, who has as faithfully
performed her share of the work. withcrs
and decays pramaturcly
Treat your wife exactly as you yourself
would like to be treated, if you had to live
under her crcums anccs, and you will not
so lar wrong.
Do not entertain the silly notion that be.
cause she is of a different gender from your
own, that she is therefore different in her
wants, feelings, qualities, aud powers DO
MT be the victim Of any social policy.
Stand up bravcly for the right, give your
wife a chance to live, grow, and be some
body and become something.
Try to be thoughtful, considcrate, and
forbcaring You will have new duties, and
they will bring new trials Take good care
of your hcal,h and hers BE simple, both,
in your habits be careful in your ex?cn.