The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1882-10-20
The Women Men Like.

II the popular woman be not a very
high type of woman, her virtues and
faults, it must be admitted, are of an
amiable sort. She is, of all beings,
the most social; delighting in her kind
and dependant upon it for her pleas
ures. Society is absolutely necessary
to her. We do not mean by society
that which is represented by the
highest circles only, in rank, wealth or
intellect, but simply the constant fric-
ton with her fellow beings. Solitude
to her, means desolatiOn; in it her spir-
its languish, her temper sours. The
dread concentrated natures experience
of charging the number of their ac-
quaintances, lest they be distracted
from their purpose in life; the shrink
ing within themselves of the shy before
strangers; the depression of the over
sensitive, weighed down by a sense Of
incompleteness, in the presence OF
varied interests and aims-these are
sensations unknown to the popular wo-
man.
The popular woman is seldom domes-
tic; the arrow circle of home duties
seem to be too limited to absorb that
superintendent energy, and it's routine
is distasteful to her Those sudden
calls that upset the even tenor of exist
ence, and prove so furrying and dis
tracing to groove-loying individuals,
have an exhilarating effect upon her
spirits. The home circle may suffer
from this wide extension of herself, and
feel the lack of that concentrated sym
pathy of woman's heart, which makes
the atmosphere benign; but it, on the
other hand, shares her sense of zest in
life; there is contagion in her incom-
parable enjoyment of the business or
pleasure of the present.
The popular woman is very easy-go-
ing and largely tolerant. Next to her
animal spirits, this indulgent temper
is her greatest charm. We feel at ease
in her presence: there is no necessity
to put ones best foot forward intellect
ually and morally we can heep on our
slippers and relax to the backbone of
our principles. Her indulgence does
not spring from the charity that
knoweth no evil" nor from the cyni-
cism that believes in evil only, but from
her knowledge of man and womankind.
1t is q knowledge not profound or
subtle, but such, as it is, it is varied and
true. 1t has the advantage of being
taken from nature; it is not second
hand, not derived from books or hear
say. The knowledge of human nature,
skin deep though it may be, gives her
the inestimable talent of fattery. She
does not contribute any flashes of wit to
the convention, any number of facts to
the store of learning; but there is a
crispness of originality IN her remarks,
certain raciness of expression that
gives piquancy to her phrases. A gift
peculiar to her is rapid appreciation
of the wit of other; power that makes
it evident to duller brains. She is not
sarcastic, and never on the heights
Slow-witted and commonplace folks do
not fear to hear her. She will not soar
above the level Of their comprehension,
and she will not dart those shafts of
irony, they have an uncomfortable feel
ing that their clever sisters occasionally
level at them. Intellectual folks take
pleasure IN companionship that is
easy and not dull It is an incontesta-
bic fact that people of intellect find re-
taxation IN the society of those who do
not require them to be always pumping
their brains. They like gossip, and
the popular woman is fond Of gossip.