News and citizen. [volume] (Morrisville, Vt. ;) 1881-current, 1882-09-07
HE PINES FOR LOVE.
Advice to a Young Man in Love.


A Young man comes to US for the
medicine of advice, not to cure heart
wounded because of love, but to soften
heart which never yet has felt the ten.
der passion. He wants to fall in love
but he cannot. He wants to marry,
but he cannot set his affections on any
girl, though he knows many.
But the following letter describes his
case more particularly
"I am 27 years old, OF good connec-
ton, reasonably well educated, not un-
prepossessing in appearance, and accus-
toned to society. While not what is
known as ladies' man. have always
found favor in their eyes. My income
is sufficient to justify marriage. 1 am
strong advocate of matrimony, fond
of children, and long for wife to truly
love. A home of my own with loving
wife seems to me the extreme of earthly
bliss.
yet, entertaining these sentiments
and feeling this yearning to marry, I
see my friends, one by one, marrying
the girls of their choice, leaving me still
in lonely bachelorhood. 1 constantly
meet and intimately know large num-
Der of ladies, city and country, and yet
[ have never in my life felt moved to
marry any particular one. This has
been my case for some years. It is not
because I have not plenty of ladies' So
ciety. have it. It is not because I am
tickle, or do not know my own mind. I
have never had even the approach to a
love affair, and am constant enough in
other matters. I am not exacting. I
am not bashful. While not very sus-
ceptible, I am not unimpressionable. 1
sometimes unwillingly think am heart
less, yet I cannot reasonably so con-
clude. I long for loving wife whose
affection I could return with my pent-
up stores of love; yet all my longing is
in vain. have never seen q woman l
felt even fancy toward. This seems to
me unnatural, inexplicable. I cannot
unravel the mystery of my own heart.
You will earn my lasting gratitude if
you can explain it."
This seems to be strange case, does
it not? A young man of twenty seven,
good-looking, intelligent, accustomed to
the society of ladies, and not disliked
by them, has never sufficiently inter
ested one of them in him to make her
fall in love with him, and by that means
awaken in him a return of her affection
For that, probably, Is about the case.
He has not loved because he has not
been loved. How unfortunate, then, ID
this young man The girls he knows
seem to regard him as a more or less
useful attendant, are not disposed to
find his society tiresome, hold him as a
valuable being In his way, perhaps, but
their hearts do not go out to him. Very
likely they have put him out of their
calculations as confirmed old bachelor,
one fitted to ornament that sad and
lonely state.
It happens so with some men. By
general consent they remain minated,
until weary of their singleness, unless
at last, perhaps, one rushes into the
arms of some designing woman, dis
appointed creature, who takes him cap
tive out of spite, because he is her for
lorn hope IN her stranded condition.
She takes him because she might do
worse.
But a young man of twenty-seven
need not give up hope. There are yet
many chances that he will not be per-
manently relegated to the ranks of the
men whom girls can never regard with
anything like tender interest. His un-
sympathetic nature is against him. He
may be lacking in the ability to charm
woman, though he succeeds IN not
making himself really disagreeable to
the fair ones he encounters.
Still, if he tries to think more about
other people and less about himself; if
he goes forth on his summer vacation to
one of the many places in the country
which are crowded with lovely girls, as
tabled wood with fairies; if he throws
off his repellant reserve, and becomes
as much as possible a simple-hearted
young fellow, cordial, delicate, sympa-
thetic, and trusting, he may escape from
the sad fate which seems to hang over
him, and which SO naturally depresses
his spirits. But it is bad sign when a
young fellow of twenty-seven cannot
fall IN love. No one to love in spite of
feminine loveliness of which examples
are so multitudinous
Make yourself really loved, young
friend, and then you will fall in love
easily enough.