The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1882-09-07
MAKE HOME ATTRACTIVE.

' '"SSS lloCeeulDES.
MAKE HOME ATTRACTIVE.
-. Essa5 Tsi; Ivy Hiss Jennie Kosauo,d
ueiore Tho Associate Grange at Ceda,
wreath hnd Published by Reuue,t a.,
the Grange
There are very few persons in the world
10 whom the pleasures of happy home
are imperceptiblc. Those who are for.
tunate enough to gain one regard it as
the well spring Of all true happiness
ana are generally wise enough to value
u accordingly. While TO those who have
IL not, 1t forms the basis Of many an air
castle. But it is far easier to desire this
incs,lmable blessing than to secure l..
ne real elements of beauty and at.
tractlveness in homes are not fine houses.
cosby fences, or any apparently costly
improvements. They are rather cozincsS.
heatness, simplicity and that general air
springlng from all these, aud from the
real love of home. The charm which
we often realize without analyzine it,
comes Of affectionate care and attention
ihere are some homes which impress
.ne visitor at once as being full of socia-
oiiity and kindiiness which delight him
ana Lead him almost to wish his own lot
had been cast within its shade; me feels
that the people who live in it, love it.,
that 1t has no interest too insignificant
to be neglected.
1t Is affirmed that woman alone must
be the maker of homes, since mans &C.
cupatlon necessarily lies out side, hers
within. There is much truth in this
view. Then through her influence the
nome Is attractive or repulsive, happy or
miserable, but whatever be the result the
responsibility rests on both it requires
all their abilities and industries to main
tain awcll ordered peaceful home. "Not
only must hand and brain construct the
home, but the heart must inspire it," by
patience, self-sacrilice, sympathy, and
contentment.
1t IS not SO much wealth and learning,
nor toll and idleness, as tone and temper
that makes life joyous or miserable. and
renders home happy or wretched. If the
fathers aud brothers are busy men they
see the family rarely enoug h; they ex-
Pcct to find rest; they feel their labors
should be recompensed by comfort and
ease, and they ought to see home wear
ing its sunniest aspect. Of course, then,
they will leave the troubles and vexa-
tions of the day to take care of them
selves, entering into the plans of home
with pleasure, and thus contributing a
share to the home happiness, for if some
strive to make it pleasant and attractive
and others only to enjoy its blessings,
disappointment is sure to follow. 1t is
the little kindnesses we confer far more
than those which are done for us that
promotes contentment.
Do not live in the least cheerful and
dullest of your rooms. Few people
know, and do they care, how you live
you will not surprise them by opening
fine parlur5, kept only for company. Let
your home be for the benefit of those
who live in it; warmth and light arc far
better than fine furniture. OF course
one may have all good and comfortable
things, and beautiful surroundings, if
there be plenty of the wherewithal if
not, a woman with taste, ingenuity and
industry, and with her heart in the mat
ter, can make almost any place CHEEKY.
The more beautiful home can be made
the more attractive it becomes. BY all
means have some little plant to grace the
rugged surroundings of the front yard.
The least flower or shrub will be some
and form pleasant object for
the eye of the most Indifferent beholder.
There are some mistakes made in the
management of even "well ordered fam
ilics," especially those living in the
country, where they are exposed to SO
little friction with the outside world.
One is a dislike of change; the old
folks cannot understand why their ways
good old fashioned ways suited SO we'll
to their own middle ages-are heavy
yokes and bonds to the younger mem
bers of the family. 1t seldom occurs to
them that the minds of youth require
change Of place, range 0: thought, and
different companions.
They often care for no wider views
than their own we'll titled fields, and
would think the boys and girls insane to
find the hills monotonous and the sur.
intoierable. The boys usually
manage to push their way out, but the
live on tho same dull life, no
one guessing at the restless discomfort,
which few short inexpensive pleasure
trips might have satisfied. Is it not
probable that such medicine might cure
much of the irritability, crossness, and
languor of both body and soul, and thus
many of the rough places in future life
be made smooth, and their happiness
kept from ship If the parents
could only be wise enough to make their
intercourse with the children lift them
out of the '.ruts" of dull planning and
the change would be pleasure
and an advantage to both. 1t is the
everlasting monotony OF our work, the
same things over aud over every day,
that wears upon ns mentally quite as
much as bodily. The same dishes ap-
pear on our table the year round. Mother
cannot guess why father and the boys
relish even badly cooked meal abroad,
and reserve no appetite for beef and ap.
pie. e.pie at honie. Cf COURSE feed should
not wilfully be made an object OF per.
petual anxiety and Importance, for all
should be very careful that their minds
may not become narrowed by the neces-
sary attention to the details Of house
keeping. Rusty knowledge must be
frightened up by constant use. There
are u gondly number who wish for better
things, and if they will only commence,
will find themselves accumulating knowl.
edge from year 70 year, and that, too,
without sour bread or dusty furniture.
Do not say we haven't time for reading
and improvement, when we let slip 30
many chances or waste them over some
frivolous story.
Above all things in our homes we
should cultivate our disposltions-be
cheerful and contented-remembering
there is no place in the wide world like
home. 1t is the dwelling place Of our
hearts treasures, and to make It attrac'
tive should be the aim Of every one.