Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1882-09-24
WOMEN OF THE HOUSEHOLD.


of the embslmer, and thence TO the grave
but he believed that the souls OF the de-
parted lived on; that the justified, absorbed
into Osiris, hoaied over the heavens IN the
vessel Of the sun. IL that was their pleasure,
or that they colld appear on earth In any
form they chose 10 take upon them, and mat
it was given them 10 exert powerful innu-
ence on the current oil the lives OF surviving
friends and kindred.
n after all. these ancient Egyptians were
the ones to enunciate the correct theory OF
the great mystery, let us hope that for the
sake of surviving friends and kindred some
exceptions will be made TO the general rule.
Notably a certain reverend gentleman
with a tendency toward ALTERATION, who I'M
dertakes 10 tell US what kind OF women the
weary world Mants.D What, With The never
ending crusades sgainst women, the volumes
of alks with women, stalks al, TO and about
women" advice 10 wives aud all the rest OF
It, one would be led to suppose that the
plaques of Egypt were as nothing by com
parison with such pestiferous sex. A little
wholesome advise to husbands would be
palatable by way of variety, and anybody
who is fond Of tit-for-tat might amuse HIM
self describing the sort OF men the weary
women want.
Now l am not a partisan who proposes
taking an ultra-feminine view of the case,
starring out with the proposition that all
women are suffering angels and all men
tyrannical masters. l know there are women,
and very many of them in this mixed world
of ours, who are nothing better than 80 many
mantua-makers' advertisements, and when
ever / come across such / am seized with
the desire to take them by their daintily-
appareled shoulders and shake them into a
sense OF their responsibilities SO creatures
with souls. know, also, that there is an
other class of females who seem querulously
conscious that woman has a sphere outside
OF the bonnet-box, but who go about per-
forming their duties as women and wives IN
such a roaring-lion fashion that one Is
tempted to turn 10 the nonentities as tine
Lesser of two eyils. There is siIll another
class, alack-a-day, a very large class, who
imagine that the world can only be kept in
its groove by a peculiarly feminine process
known as "naggiUg." The art of nagsing
has been reduced 10 a science, classified
"a the "nag importunate," the mag insinua-
tive" and the mag polite" The advocates
OF the "nsg inportunate" hold that you
must never ''let up" on q point you have set
your head on gaining. The mag insinu-
tive" affects the meekness OF msrtYrdom, and
the mag polite" use the diplomacy Of
smiles aud ooaxing. And whenever come
across these nagging sisters oil mine, l sigh
for the power 10 legislate for the restoration
OF the duckiog stool or any other obsolete
instrument for bringing refractory females
to a sense of their unreasonableness. Thus
much 10 prove that l do not write in the
spirit of partissnship.
do not know in W lat section of the country
the Rev John /. w. Ware may have lived, but
it surely could not have been where he could
look upon the wearied, care-Worp, anxious
faces of Southern matrons and witness their
heroic and neVsr-ceasIng struggles TO stem
the tide of maddening household troubles
that emancipation has brought upon them
and yet write so bitterly of habits of
negligence, Incidence, extravaganza" ETC.
"WaDted-women 10 grapple with the ques-
ton of servantsi 1t is not mans question e.
This ia her question; this problem she is to
solve. She has made the trouble and she
should find the cure" (Mr. Ware, you are
a wretch) "Man has not made il; the age
has not made il; neither Biddies nor Dinahs
have made ii. The woman in the parlor
alone has made it." (Mr. Ware, you are
two wretchesD Those are cruel and unjust
words every one OF them. You ask us in
our weakness and Ignorance 10 grapple with
a question that is furrowing the brows and
whitening the heads of our fathers, hus.
bands and brothers. The labor in the field
is but the servant question ON a larger
scale. Let them in their superior
wisdom settle the larger question and we
household cabinets. 1t is no; mans ques-
toni Look at the bewildered vacillation
between the coolie, the negro, the Swede, the
German; look at the universal system OF
guess. work that pefvades the troubled labor
problem; look at the thousand and one dif-
ferent contracts our half-crazed planters are
forever copjuring up, each one hoping 10 hit
on one little more popular fhan his neigh
boris, and then say it is not mans question.
int hn al hos nd
the troublew So narrow view of so vast
subject could only have been taken by some
exceedingly bilious and dyspep;ic old gen.
tleman. - =
Mr.. Ware says that the weary world wants
)romen, snd | say that the weary women
vANpt men. They want men of large hearts
and generous sympathies, men who can
recog kize and appreciate weman's efforts
Tor what they are worth, men who are willing
to strengthen the tagging household drudge
with an occasional well done, thou good and
faithful servant" men lsrge-natured enough
10 bear patiently with a woman's short
comings.
Southern women are not prone 10 fsunt
their wrongs in the face of the world. They
are not advanced eRnngh TO cIamor for po-
litical rights yet 10 ably great extent; Never
theless they have their rights, and such as
they are they claim them.
They claim as their right, my lords,
to be dealt with kindly, patiently aud
forbeariugly during the great social revo-
luton, out of whole chaotic confines
they have SO far Mailed to eliminate
order. They claim it as their right,
my lords, not to be exempt from any
portion of the extra trouble aud labor in
volved by the new order of things, but TO
have their efforts, weak and unwise though
they may prove, valued as efforts meriting
reward in the shape of kindly appreciation.
They claim il as their right, my lieges, that
you do not visit on their innocent heads the
faults that belong to the age, the Mr.. Wares
of this world TO the contrary notwithstsnd-
ing.
That gentleman says, in substance: Only
let woman be everything on earth but what
'he is, and ''she who is said 10 have lost US
Eden will have gained us paradise;" and, l
Iay, soon men turn from their eager
of the mote feminine TO the
Beam masculine, we will be as nesr paradise
rs it at all desirable for creatures with finite
powers OF enjoyment. MOTHER GOOSE.