Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1882-01-05
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SOCIAL ETIQUETTE.

When friends meet or visitor is ushered
into drawing-room or sitting-room, the usual
salutation is, "How do you do" When leav.
ing, the visitor says Goodbye" and the host.
ess repeats "Good.bye." w
When the health of either hostess or visi.
tor is inquired after, it is after saying "How
do you do" which should be said with no
infections of the voice, and without speaking
the name of the person addressed. "Good
morning" is used when addressing, or when
taking leave, of business or other acquain-
tances with whom you have nothing in com.
mon in a social way.
The salutation is said to be the touch.stone
of good breeding. Between gentlemen nod
sufices but if lady is walking with you or
the one to whom you bow, the hat must be
slightly lifted. A wel.bred person bows in
stinctively the moment that he recognizes an
| acquaintance.
Bowing once in passing on public prone
made or drive, is all that civility requires.
In subsequent meetings the eyes may be
averted, or if more than mere acquaintance,
one smiles slightly. A how of ceremony
should not be accompanied by broad smile
but unless you are bowing to superior in
age or station you should let beam of good
will Tighten your eye.
Gentlemen invariably offer the right arm
to ladies, when it is necessary to give the
arm, instructions to the contrary notwith.
standing. This rule is the same on the street,
without regard to the wall, as it is in the par:
lor, at marriages, at all entertainments and
on all other occasions. A lady does not
take the srms Of two gentlemen nor does
gentleman offer both of his arms when walk.
ing with two ladies. American gentlemen do
not smoke when driving or walking with
ladies. ... .....
Introductions are not made on the street,
unless lady is walking with her host or host
ess in which case if either meet friend an
introduction would be given. When two
persons are introduced in house both bow
Slightly and commence conversation. A
gentleman is introduced to lady: "Mr. Grey,
Mrs Birch," is the form.
Young ladies are taken up to be be intro
duced to elderly ones. and the unmarried to
the married. A gentleman when introduced
does not offer his hand to lady, as that is the
lady's privilege. The mistress of a house
shakes hands with every one who is intro
duced to her in her home-whether the per-
son ia brought by a common friend, or comes
by invitation. She would not shake hands
with visitor who came to call on a guest,
unless she had some special reason for doing
so.
A gentleman rides on the right side of a
lady. A lady keeps the right hand side of
her carriage, unless another lady older than
herself is driving with her. A gentleman
does not permit lady to sit with her back to
the horses, even though she be younger than
himself, when he can, by taking that seat,
give her one facing the horses.
Never speak of your children as "Miss
Ethel" or master Harold" excepting to
servants Give them their Christian names.
Gentlemen should precede ladies, to clear
the way, in public hall, unless there is an
usher preceding them. In entering draw
ing room, the lady precedes the gentleman,
but never takes his arm.
To yawn in the presence of others, to beat
time, to hum or whistle, to lounge, to putyour
feet on chair, or to do anything which shows
Indifference, sel6shness or disrespect, is une'
quivocally vulgar. Shutting, expectoration,
hawking, scratching the head, gulping, pick.
ing the teeth and blowing the nose, should be
avoided in society.