Daily globe. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1878-1884, 1882-02-12
GOOD MANNERS.

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would
that men should do to you, do ye even SO to
them.-MArTHEw7 Tiki
Morals and manners, (which give color
to life, are of greater Importance than
festations. Good manners, as they are
called, are neither more nor lessthan good
behavior, consisting of courtesy and
kindness, for benevolence is the prepon-
derating element in all kinds of mutual
~ beneficial and pleasant intercourse
among mankind. The root and source
of all benevolence and courtesy is the
maxim or command of Christ. ''All
things whatsoever we would that men
should do to you, do you even so to
them
To form ones manners after the best
models certain things are requisite. One
of the most prominent of these is civility,
common civility, (Which costs nothing
and buys everything" To do as he would
be done by compels man to be courteous
in all the little affairs of life,
not because it pays, but because
he likes ciyility himself The action
must not only be kind but the manner of
its performance must be kind also. A
generous act grudgingly done has lost half
its value. No person can consider HIM
self gentleman, or a man of gentle
manners, who performs kindness grudg-
ingly or strives to lessen another's self
respect by saying disagreeable things.
Gruffness is no mark of Christian or a
gentleman, neither is patronizing cOnde-
scension. If good manners consist in
doing unto others as ye would have 9TH
ers do unto you, anything which offends
the pride or wounds the feelings of 9TH
ers, must be avoided.
To be well hammered one must show
respect for the opinions Of others. To
quarrel with person because his opinions
are different from ones own is the sub
Unity of puppyism, if ''dogmatism is
puppyism gone to seed" If one man
thinks for himself let him give another
the same privilege.
Another essential to good manners is
to use power with gentleness and for
bearance. No gentleman or gentlewoman
DULLES those who are not in a position to
resist. a tyrant is always coward, and
a coward is never gentleman. The
street gamins understand this fact, for
they dub boy coward who strikes one
smaller than himself 4 man, whose
presence in his home is like bias: from
the North Pole, chilling all it reaches, is
a snob, unworthy the name OF gentle
man. manners are the ornament Of
action" but, when the way Of doing a
thing is considered and cultivated with
out noble motive, the person becomes
only affected and foppish. How to enter
a room gracefully, or receive guests in a
gracious manner is worth knowing, and
in the worlds opinion they and other
like accomplishments are the very es-
sence of fine manners. But how often
does lady receive her visitors most
kindly and on their departure criticise
them with merciless severity. A person
whose rule of manners is the Golden Rule
can accord as gracious welcome but
can never indulge in adverse criticism
"Put yourself in his place" and then act
accordingly. Any modes of action
founded on any other principle than this
are only the whims of fashion, or the ca
prices of her votaries. What gentle and
gracious manners one would have who
persistently governed himself by our Saw
ior's rule. "He would speak no sland er,
no nor listen to it;'' he would not be
guilty of mean low acts; he would be
considerable to his interiors as we'll as his
equals, and respect their self respect; he
would be in every sense a gentleman.
Such manners possess monied value
and are essential to a mans success.
They win the confidence and love of 9TH
ers. Lord Burleigh said to Queen Eliza
beth "Win hearts and you have all mems
purses" The judgments and likings of
men are mainly formed from outward
conduct. Thus all things prove that the
young can find no book of etiquette so
complete and reliable as this: ssIn all
things whatsoever ye would that men
should do toyou doye even so to Them
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