The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1882-05-10

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self.reliance, and the capabilities that lie
within her TO combat nobly and successfully
WITH opposition in every form.
Aside from the influence of the mother
over the little ones in her owR household,
women can be said TO exert comparatively
little or none. The effect upon young men
deprived ofthe association with good women
can well be imagined, and is not to be Won
dered at that women are not honored with
the homage paid them in our land. Indeed,
it is when we contrast the state of society
with that of our own, that we arc convinced
ours is the only truo and healthtul system.
Young men and women in free and untram-
neled communication, sitting side by side
in the same classes, studying the same
branches in the same schools and Colleges,
and enjoying like advantages everywhere,
learn to know and thoroughly understand
each other, and are thus fitted for life COM
psnionship. That young woman should
be considered so weak as TO need constant
watching. would be hold the greatest insult
to human nature in America, and rightly,
too. for distrust begets distrust with horde
of other evils.
It is not to be disputed that women
are loved and even reverenced by
the Teuton, but the sentiment Is
SO different from that which prevails with,
Us. that we are often tempted to doubt It's
commences. The love of raphsodies OF the
German are simply overwhelming the
LANGUAGE itself seems TO lose all its rough
ness, and becomes beautifully soft and
rhythmic when used IN expressing the ten
der emotions of love. In practical life,
however. one is led to suspect that these
harmonious strains are only the eruptions
of a feverish imagination, and lack endur-
ance. This indeed is not improbable; for
imagination Is ever more active, and its ex-
pressions more extrsvagsnt regarding the
unknown ana mysterious. The lonely cap
tive is for more likely 60 be gushing and ex-
treme in the expression of his passion, than
he who daily sees and communicates with
mis- lady love. AS in other things, obstacles
are the Incentives to stronger efforts.
THE sUPERFLUITY OF WOMEN
in Germany causes men to be al premium,
and consequently they are the sought,
rather than the seekers. Fathers are a.
WAYS on the aui yive to dispose of their
and the attractions of young girls
are ranked according to their dowries.
Before marriage this dowery is talked over
and settled in an unblushing, practical,
business manner; the property being
then invariably consigned to the
husband to be disposed of according to his
own sweet will. The greatest fortune of a
woman's life is the Offer of husband not
necessarily a heart. have been thoroughly
amused on seeing young lady congratulate
ed on her engagement, her manifest pleas
ure reminded me of nothing less than the
satisfaction of one who has drawn the ten
thousand dollar lottery prize. Her lover is
not so proud that he has won her, as that be
has been lucky in making a good invest
ment Yet Americans are reproached by
Europeans as being devoid OF sentiment
with only an eve to the practical business
side Of life. The marriage advertisement
which one sees adj in6nitum in the news-
psper, are quite enough in themselves to
coniute any such theory. OF the many
hundreds which have come under my no
tice, 1 subjoin the following as an exam
pie:
FOR PARENTS AND GUARDIANS.
"a young man, who has completed his
University course has been year in pub
lie efice, but has not served his time in the
army. wishes 10 enter into correspondence
with well-bred and wealthy lady with
matrimonial intint. She must be
willing, if necessary, to support him
sin some degree during his service in the
army, if mis- pay there is not deemed sufi-
eient. Photograph with statement of cir
cumstsnces required" Usually
THE AMOUNT OF DowRY
is specified, and, if woman is advertising
for a husband, she invariably states the
amount of her inheritance. This state of
AFFAIRS has its inevitable result, and not
outstanding the cid notion of the German
home being the ideal one, unsuitable aud
unhappy marriages are distressingly num-
erous. The German may love his wife de-
vOtedly, but can not see the necessity of her
being his equal. Tho very fact that she
knew as much as he, would at once free her
from his domineering rule, and therefore
unfit her for a wife. A woman is not ap-
presiated for her intelligence, and if she
wishes to put herself in the best possible
light before men, she quenches all fire OF
genius and assumes the role OK the blushing,
drooping-eyed maiden. A young mans re-
mark to me that his ideal of wife was a
dunn" one, was not without its signif-
oance
The husband after marriage continues the
process of espionage exercised by theparents,
and in so far is consistent. He prevents the
evils WHICH LoO OiSc1 Ucl0tl Tue GcuCu WO-
man, where marriage gives her emancipa-
ton without a previous preparation or
knowledge of how TO use her freedom. The
German literally rules his household, and
the subsection OF the w9fe is only second TO
that of the children. To our independent
| high minded woman, this arbitrary sway OF
the scepter is CALLING, and breeds no amount
Of discomfort. was not little impressed
one day when l heard a German married
lady say to an American, openly and feel
ingly, 30, if, as 1 look at your husband, /
could say my husbandI" The American
husband, the world over is recognized as the
beau ideal of devotion and leniency, and an
insight into foreign households would carry
conviction to the most Prejudiced minds.
AS to the German girl, with all her draw
backs she is a girl all the same, and sweet
and lovable. Her shyness and modesty lend
her an attraction, which is not without its
charm, and we are forced to acknowledge
"with all thy faults we love thee STILL"
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