Public ledger. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1865-1893, 1882-10-05
ne Pines for Love.
New York Papor


He Pines for Love.
New York Paper.
A young man comes TO US for tn
medicine Of advice, not to cure
heart wounded because Of love, bu
to soften a heart which never yet Ia
felt the tender passion. He wants I
fall in love, but he cannot. He want
to marry, but he cannot set his affec
tons on any girl, though he know
many.
But the following letter describe
his case more particularly;
Il am twenty-seven years old, o
good connection, reasonably we'll edu
Gated, not unprepossessing in appear
ance and accustomed TO society
While not what is known as a ladies
man. | have always found favor il
their eyes. My income is suficien.
to justify marriage. | am a stronl
advocate of matrimony, fond O
children ard long for a wife to truly
love. A home of my own with a Low.
ing wife seems to me the extreme o
earthly bliss.
Yet, entertaining these sentiments
and feeling this yearning to marry,
see my friends, one by one, marrying
the girls of their choice, leaving me
still 10 lonely baehelorhood. | con-
stantly meet aud intimately know q
large number Of ladies, city and coun.
try, and yet | have never in my life
felt. moved to marry any particular
one.
This has been the case for some
years. 1t is not because | have not
plenty Of ladies society. l have it.
1t is not because | am tickle, or do not
know my own mind. | have never had
even the approach 20 a love affair, and
am constant enough in other matters.
| am not exacting | am not bashful.
While not very susceptible, | am not
unimpressiouable. | sometimes I'M
willingly think | am heartless, yet |
oannot reasonably so conclude. | long
for a loving wife whose affection !
could return with my pent-up stores OF
love; yet all my longing is in vain. ]
have never seen a woman | felt even a
fancy toward. This seems to me
unnatural, lnexplicable; | cannot un.
ravel the mystery of my own heart.
You will earn my lasting gratitude il
you can explain it."
This seems TO be a strange case, does
it not? A young man of twenty
seven, good looking, intelligent, accus.
toned to the society Of ladies', and not
disliked by them, has never sufficient.
ly interested one of them in him tC
make her fall in love with him, and by
that means awake in him a return Of
her affection.
For that, probably, is about the
case. He has not loved because he
has not been loved. How unfortunate
then is this young man! The girls he
knows seem to regard him as a more
OF less useful attendant, are not dis.
posed to find his society tiresome.
hold him as a valuable being in hi,
way, perhaps, but their hearts do not
go out to him. Very likely they have
put him out Of their calculations as
confirmed old bachelor, one fit to or.
nament that sad and lonely state.
1t happens with some men. By
general consent they remain unmateC
until weary of their s~iDgleness, unles,
at last, perhaps, one rushes into thu
arms Of some designing woman, a dis
appointed creature, who takes hin
captive out Of spite, or because he il
her forlorn hope 10 her stranded con.
dition. She takes him because sh,
might do worse.
But young man of twenty sever
need not give up hope. There are We
many chances that he will not be per
~msnently relegated to the ranks of thi
men whom the girls can never regard
with anything like tender interest
His unsympathetic nature is against
him. He may be lacking in the ability
to charm a woman, though he succeeds
in not making himself really disagree.
able to the fair ones be encounters.
Still, if he tries to think more about
other peple and less about himself; il
be goes forth on his summer vacation
to one of the many places in the coun.
try which are crowded with lovely
girls as a tabled wood with fairies, if be
throws off his repellant reserve, anC
becomes as much as possible a simple
hearted young fellow, cordial, delicate
sympathetic and trusting, he may
escape from the sad fate which seems t
hang over him. and which so naturally
%depresses his spirits. BUTT is a bad
sign when a young fellow of twenty.
seven cannot fall in love. No one L
love in spite of the feminine lovelinesI
Of which examples are SO multitudi.
nousl
Make yourself really loved. younI
friend, and then you will fall in low
easily enough.