The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1882-08-03
Sillv Sentimentalisnn.

In an article entitled "Trifing, +"
called attention to the meanness
of young men who win the affection
of young ladies merely for pastime.
But if young men do wrong, it must
be admitted that they are often en-
couraged to do so by the ladies.
Those young ladies who are most
trified with are those who are Silly
sentimental. l have no doubt there
are many young men who begin to
court n lady with honest intentions,
but turn their courtship into tri
fling, because the lady disgusts
them with her sickening sentiment
alism. A thoroughly honorable
man is honorable under the most
trying circumstances, but there are
many men who are neither very
good nor very bad. These men can
be encouraged to do right, or they
can be easily tempted to do wrong.
Benny Benson is a young man of
this type. He was counting Betsy
Baxter with the honorable intention
of marrying her. Betsy was pretty
and bright, and Benny, having
saved from the frCits of his labor
sufficient money to buy 4 little
home, thought there was nothing
lacking to complete his happiness,
except the charming Betsy. Betsy
had several nice beaux, but none
of them wanted to marry. Betsy
was getting to be nearly as antigua
ted as Miss c. NJ. Hope, or Miss
Louise, and thought the time had
come for her to marry if possible.
She took particular pains to charm
Benny. Whenever Benny went to
see her after their engagement, she
greeted him with n kiss. Benny
liked this kind of greeting. There
are but few men living who would
not like to be kissed by a pretty
woman. "The first kiss of love-"
was particularly delightful to Ben
ny, as it is to everybody else. The
second kiss was sweet, but it was
nothing in comparison with the
first. About the sixth kiss, Benny
began to think that Betsy parted
with her kisses too freely. He did
not think she was doing just exact
ly right. But time passed rapidly
on. Benny began to disrelish kiss
es that could be gotten so easily.
He did not take trouble to note
whether his own conduct was strict
lv honorable, but he took great
pains to see whether Betsy was do
ing just right or not. Benny
reasoned thus: ''Betsy had several
beaux who were as handsome as l
am. They courted her long time.
Nav she not have kissed each of
them as freely as she kissed me?
Now it will be embarrassing to
meet after my marriage several
young men who have kissed my
wife. / will break my engagement
with Betsy, and marry woman who
will kiss only one man-her hus-
| band"
Now Betsy may have been a no.
BILE girl. She may have kissed
none but Benny, and kissed him
only because she loved him with all
her heart. But these facts would
not change Bcnny's reasoning or
conduct. She lost her lover and
her kisses, because she could not
help kissing him.
Now Benny might not have done
as he did, if he had had a delicate
sense of honor; but there is no
doubt in my mind that the vast ma
iority of men would do under the
circumstances just as Benny did.
Whatever latitude a man may al
low for his own conduct, he will al
most invariably hold a woman
strictly to what is delicate, modest
and womanly,
However eloquently n lover pleads
for n kiss, if it is granted, MS rule,
the lady falls in his estimation. II
there were no disappointments, nc
sorrow, no temptations, no troubles
and no hcartbreakings in this life
we could not fully enjoy heaven
when we get there; so, if the course
Of love were always smooth and
easy, if we should get surfeit o.
kisses and caresses in our engage
mcnt, marriage would be robbed o
half its charms.
A long time ago a man and wo
man were told that they should no
eat the fruit Of a certain tree. a.
soon as the command had beer
given, the woman's curiosity led he
at once to taste the fruit. From tha'
day to this, curiosity or the dew
has played a conspicuous part in TIN
affairs of men and women, especial
ly women. When a man can sc
kisses. he doesn't want them; bu
when he can't get them, he want
them lil1e-well, the devil makes hin
want them.
Young ladies commit the most er
rors by being too sentimental; how
ever. there are some young men who
on account of having but httl
brains, deserve a lecture on thi
point.
A young man once showed me
letter to his sweetheart. He spok
of her in terms so fattering tina
they would have made an angC
blush. Most women can endure
little fattery, but no intelligen
modest woman likes to be contlnr
! ally and extravagantly praised.
When Cromwell was having hi
I portrait painted, he told the arts
. that IL he left out a scar, he woul
not be paid. Cromwell wanted I
q be painted just as he was. 1t is
! with every true woman. She doe
: not wish TO be praised for qualiti'
she knows she does not posses
Stiffness should be left out
a courtship, as it should be out
Il everything else Bon Ami of De
h ison. Texas, in Rural World.