The Carbon advocate. [volume] (Lehighton, Pa.) 1872-1924, 1882-11-11
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SCIENTIFIC C0URTIN9
BY DiApoSus LicuLUs, LII. D.


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The experience of ages has clearly
: taught MS the importance of courting. II
has also fully convinced both the most
radical and conservative that oil the fe-
licity, utility and blcsscdness, which
mako married life an earthly paradise,
depend npon the truthfulness of court
ing. or tho wisdom of the union. God
vividly pictures to us the relative neces-
sity Of having a companion, when he
says; 1T is not good that the man shall
be alone" He has therefor, created wo-
man MS mans helpmate, and has institut-
cd marriage, The instrument by means of
which man and woman are solemnly
joined together hy tics that death alone
can tear rs mder,
Although the Author Of our being has
imparttd to mah sou I'd Judgment and
ine executive abilities; and TO woman
exquisite os,thetic and moral qualities,
weilock is not necessarily blessing. As
has 50 often been observed, it may be a
living misery, an nndYing death, bitter
cnrse, singing like an adder, and biting
like serpent. Man aud woman, injudic-
ously mated, are, beyond a doubt, the
most miserable and sorrowful specimens
of human wretchedness imaginable.
If the pair be well-mated, and the con-
! tract judiciously formed and strictly ex-
ocuted, 1 feel safe TO say that matrimony
confers the highest blessings incident to
mankind. Marriage is therefore a branch
well worthy Of our attention. We should
study its laws and relations carefully, so
that, should we ever wish to make the
+ transition from ''single blessedness" to
matrimonial bliss" (and that day, 10
many, mry not bS far distaut), we mry
be fully prepared to meet and suymoui
oil tho trials and temptations which.may
beset rig, end.to enjoy all the blessings,
privileges and immunities which kind
+ Providence in His infinite wisdom, pow
er, goodness and majesty may shower
upon us.
The best'way to become acquainted
with the laws which Fgovern and control
this grand social institution OF humanity
is to take'e scientific course in courting.
Just as Eorh-al School education fits
young ladies and gentlemen to train i'm
mortal minds for eternity, so does true,
reliable, scientific courting prepare them
for the stert realities Of married life.
When courting becomes a scheme Of
deception, marriage will be lottery.
Some, being lucky, draw prizes of in-
trinsic value and merit; while others,
holding blank numbers, expect something
and are disappointed. Who -a-jays
courts honestly Perhaps twenty out of
every one hundred.
How is courting mostly conducted? If
l am rightly informed, the plan ia as fol-
lows: While attending places of omuse-
ment, schools or churches, young people
meet each other. A young man spies
"sweet sixteen" or probably eighteen
or twenty, as the case may be,and some
thing in or about her attracts his atten-
tion. II may be her lovely countenauce,
her curly hair, her flashing eyes, her
graceful carriage, or: above all, her bril-.
liant plumage. He looks at her carefully
until, being in part bereft of reason and
Judgment. his. heart Graves for captivGt-
ing her. Seeking an,t introduction, o
friendly. oftentimes nonsensieal chat en-
suss. Next he takes her out sleighing or
carriage riding, visiting his or her friends.
They are now very intimate, and each
strives earnestly and laboriously to bring
the matter to focus, i. O., to catch the
prize. Theysbecome wholly absorbed in
love; dream, sing and compose poetry
about each other, and finally, when their
affections reach their highest stage. they
talk nbou. aesthetics, the starry firma-
ment aud, occasionally, as if by magic,
throw ont hints and give each other
signs and tokens, until each understands
the others captivation.
They are now engaged and soor marry.
Tho subject Of housekeeping next en-
cages their attention. Thenusbaud gets
II cage, furnishes it with all the modern
conveniences. and then he and Lis bird
commence business. For n while they
live happily together, all being joy and
pleasure Soon they find something in
their charac ers whichs is very startling.
The COURT lg love slowly vanishes, and
sorrow. regret and disappointment patur-
allysiollOw, lrstesd of loving and court
ing e.ch other, Gs husband. and wife
should, they now. foster towards each
other the profoundest hatred. Such
union is a curse. They courted by i'm
pulse and not by Judgment; hence the
result
The ostenslble object Of courting, there
fore, is to choose assuitnble companion.
just as a person, who would. like to be.
come a thorough scholar, must study
earnestly aud faithfully for years, SO also
should a young gentleman, who desires
Trustworthy and accomplished spouse,
eourt yonng lady honestly and consci-
entiously for few yearn, and thus ascer-
tain whether her nature comedies with
his, or whether sbo eau sympathize with
with him. If all these things are proper
y done, any young gentleman can rest
assured that he, = will secure a wife, who
wi be an 'ungel Of mercy and sup
port for old age"
Il conclusion, warn and admonish |
all young men TO coIhft honestly, cousci-
entiously and scientifically, and, if your
married life will then not be A success.