The Hickman courier. [volume] (Hickman, Ky.) 1859-current, 1882-07-28
Old Maids.


1t IS less than forty years since that
courteons gallant and fopling of phrases.
Mr. n. +. Willis, characterized the class
Of single women as 1.-The Dried-ups." :"
One can not imagine writer of equal
reputauen, gentleman of equal breed
ing committing such a discourtesy to-
day. from his point of view it was rs
II hunehhack should be taunted with
his BENT spine, or cross-eyed man with
his ooiiquity of vision; for he assumed
that unmarried women were celibate be-
| cause slhey were so plain, so poor in
charms, so unattractive, that no man
would marry them.
1T Literature and society are better
manneree now, regarding single
women with courtesy and often
with admiration, it is because our theo-
ries about them are made to square more
nearly with our facts. 1t is matter OF
mopbbservation that in every circle
some of = most delightful members are
maider& past their youth. They are
osifssat j aS-yits5z. sssrasiealss hospikahles
charmingly dressed, dimpd1tc, from the
ruff at their throats to the rosettes on
their Slippers. Are these the women
whom men pass by? Or there are those
others who do not choose society, but
who are the dea er nldclLtnd in so many
households, the power behind the throne
greater than the throne itself; the incar
nate Judgment, wisdom, economy, liber.
alitv of the family. Are men so dull that
they do not see how these bountiful ones
hold happiness in their hands and scatter
it broadcast?
Thackeray, that tcndcrest of cynics,
that most serious of testers. declared
that any woman might marry any man,
if she would. And it is certainly true
that most old maids have declined to
paw the price of marriage. The Just
cause and impediment which have with
held them from the holy estate of matri-
monv have been from within, not from
without They certainly do not hold
themselves too good to marry. They
concede that true marriage is the ideal
state But it has been their fortune not
to find that other half and fuliiilment of
themselves, whose coming could alone
Justify the vowing of vows. They are
too honest, too brave, and too pure to
use marriage as a make-shift. And it
IS plain that there cannot be in existence
more thoughtful, more large-hearted,
more self-sacriticing, more modest, ten
der and truthful women than these.
AS Lut NOA40 NVliltS ~ otC NlltNI Il
woman is as separate an entity, as dis
tinct an individuality, as a man, it will
pay less and less regard to her accidents
and more to herself. 1t will not take it
for granted that she has had "disap-
pointment' at tender age, or buried
her Youthful lover or been the victim of
MISUNDERSTANDING if she write her
self lIlss at forty Nor viii it audibly
wonder why charming woman is un-
married after twenty-five. 1t will ad-
mire her for her admirableness, whether
that has had the certificate of some man 5
expressed appreciation or not. 1t will
permit her 10 live her own life.
But though it was the old notion of
feminine ineompletenesS and subjection
which made the lot of single women i
reproach to the unthnking. they them
selves have not-been blameless. Their
patience has been too endless, their
meekness too long-suffering. their sub
mission too complete. Almost with one
accord have they consented to efface
themselves, as the French say, grievine
the while in silence that married sisters
and preoccupied brothers-in-law and gay
Young nieces-alas that even disap-
pointed parents-were so ready to efface
them For there is a certain sanction in
acceptance. When they aequiesce in the
general verdict that they are nobodies,
they enter the final Judgment.
Self-sacrilice is virtue much mis-
understood. TO deny ones self for a
great end, to help the weak, to relieve
the burdened, that IS heroic. But only
to sew for the idle, to take steps for the
inconsiderate, to pamper vanity and
folly with endless services, to be an un-
paid upper servant for inappreciative
kindred. to make ones self of no ac-
count that sel6shness may prosper, this
is slavish. and perpetuates tyranny This
deorades and belittles her who ministers,
as il initiates and misleads her who is
ministered unto.
The single woman may maintain that
precious dignity of bearing which COM
mands respect. If her plate be below
the salt. il is left her to prove that where
MacSreoor sits is the head of the table.
Nor should she slight her dress, and put
away from her the ornaments and graces
of life. They are her armor and de
fense, her argument and appeal. For it
is for her to show, in her own person,
how much more is the woman than the
wife. and how incontestable is her right
to a nlace in the house, in society, and
IN the world.
All women love love. The hope of
home of her own, of fond husband and
the touch of baby hands stirs early in
every maiden's heart 1t is with sense
of loss and hardship that she sees that
hope fade without fruition, when