Connecticut western news., 1882-05-10
MATRIMONIAL PROBLEM.
A Young Man who Does Not Believe
 in Marriage and His Simple Rea-
From the New York Sum-

In Marriage ana HIS simple hea'
 son.
 From the New York sun.]
 When young fellow comes to us asking advice about getting out of promise of marriage simply because he has begun to grow little cool in his affections for his betrothed, he makes confession of vacillation of which he ought to be ashamed. He shows an unsteadiness of purpose, an instability of mind which bode i'll for him, and which suggest unfitness to bear the re- sponsibility of @ husband, or any other responsibility. He displays lack of the best elements of manly character, of persistency, fidelity, self-reliance and trustworthiness. Any girl is fortunate in escaping marriage with fellow so fiuctuating in purpose. The changea- b1lity he confesses during the engage ment will be likely to impair. or destroy her respect for him after she has be- come his wife, and his character is re- vealed to her more fully. We should f assisting to break up the engagement. But we have no advice to give to such fellows, not few of whom, we are sorry to say, write to us in the hope of getting sympathy.
 One of these changeable young men, for instance, wants to know if he has @ good excuse for breaking his engage ment because he has found out since his betrothal that he does not care to get married at all. He has come to the conclusion, as his letter shows, that ha does not believe in matrimony:
 II am a young man, 25, and wish some advice in a matter of the heart, having engaged myself to a young lady about one year ago, and by the time another year rolls around expect to be- come her bus band. I find that during this year of engagement that have not the love for her I ought to have, and that I am not eager, sometimes moi even willing, to please her-that should prefer to remain always a bach elor. Should tell her this I feel, yes I know, it would ruin her happiness her life, so much does she think of me Therefore I have not the heart to tel her. l am averse to seeing any ont suffer for me. should almost rather suffer myself all my life. Now, on my honor, I am bound, suppose, to unite myself for life with this good and fail one whom I cannot love, and perhapl regret all my life ever married. Rath CT than do anything dishonorable, should do this |; but it seemsthere mus be some way out. Am we'll aware tha some men in my position would grad ually withdraw themselves and quarrel but cannot, I wish to be square ant honest with her. Not to marry her will break her heart; to marry her well, ought not, feeling as I do-woult rather never marry"
 } What sad case If he marries her ) lifelong misery will be his. If he doe not marry her, an early grave will b. her fate. What does he expect of us then? Are we to assist in bringing about her untimely demise, or are W, to condemn this unhappy young man t. miserable existence
 But, in reality, he takes too gloom, view of the situation. Undoubtedly if the girl is as fond of him as h.
 imagines, she would suffer in min, when she found out what a weak an' silly fellow she had bestowed her affec tions upon. But we are not afraid tha she would die in consequence of tn , revelation. She would get over it, an
 despise him. Feelings of repugnanc , would contract in her feelings of disal
 pointment and modification. And a Q for him, whether he marries her or mol Q he will get along, so far as happiness n concerned, about the same.
 The case is not so bad as it seems :, therefore. It is sad, however, that < man of twenty-five should be capable ( < writing so silly letter as this one (
 our correspondent. It is all nonsens :. about his not believing in matrimony Q If he got out of his present engageme1 the chances are ten to one that he woul . be exchanging VOWS with some othe s girl within year. He is evidently o fckle fellow, with much better opinio 5, of himself than his character warrant A very just punishment for him, if l ! breaks his promise, would be to put hi '. where he could not get chance to W; is 8 wife. Then his lifelong misery wou I indeed begin. Do your best toconqu
 your stiffness and vanity, young ma
 That is all the advice we have for yo ]s