The Osceola times., 1882-08-05
FOR THE HOUSEHOLD.

Good breeding gives us certain definite
rules, and while these are observed, soci-
ETY. is possible, else it disintegrates. But
we may, without losing self respect, ex-
ercise vast self control, and not show
that we distrust people, nor that We
vastly like them; we need not wear our
hearts on our sleeves for DAVIS to peck at
Members of the same family should new.
er quarrel in public. This is often done
by two sisters of uncertain lempers, and
the crowd laughs. The French have a
proverb about this, perhaps too well
known 10 be quoted. Never show that
you feel sligSt. This is worldly wise
as well as Christian, for no one but a
mean person will put slight on another,
and such a person always profoundly re-
spects the one who is unconscious of his
feeble spite. Never resent publicly a lack
of courtesy; it is in the worst taste. What
you do privately about dropping such an
acquaintance must be left TO yourself.
To person of a noble mind the contests
of society must even seem poor and furl-
GUS as they think of these narrow enmi-
ties and low political mannuyers, but we
know that they exist and that we must
meet them. Temper, detraction and
small spite are as vulgar on Turkey car
pet and in palace as they are in tene-
ment house; nay, worse, for the educated
contestants know better. We must re-
fleet philosophically that it taxes all sorts!
of people to make world
good people, rank and file; thd there are
small pirates who will boarere are also
ships, and traitors in every d the best
we must be ready for them aarmy, and
show factious or peremptory Neverl
ty in small things Be patient if latabili-
keeps you waiting. Bear, as long friend
can heat or 4 draught, rather thanas you
about your supposed rights; yield fussy
puted point of precedence. All soa dis
has to be made up of these concessciety
they are your unnumbered friends inions;
long run. We are not always wr the
when we quarrel; but if we meet ong
deadliest foe at friends house we our
bound to treat him with perfect civiliare
That is neutral ground. Never, by woty.
or look, disturb your hostess: this is rd
occasional duplicity which is ordered an
the laws of society. And, in all honesty
cultivate graceful salutation, not tty,
familiar in crowd. Do not kiss yooo
friend in a crowd; be grave and decorour
always. Burke said manners were moru
important than laws. Manners are
what vex or sooth, comfort or purify, exc
alt or debase, barbarize or refine NJ by a.
slant, steady, uniform, insensible
operation, like the air we breathe" A
salutation may have great deal Of mean
ing in it. 1t may say 81 respect you, and
wish you we'll" 1t may say 81 love you,
1t may say 81 hate you" In crowd it
should simply say the first. The bow of
young lady shoald be maidenly, quiet,
not too domonstrative, yet not too cold
or forbidding, The salutations of man
TO a woman caDnot be too respectful. II
is to be feared that "old-fashioned cour-
tesy," has no place in the fashionable 80
ciety. There is either coldness or too
great familiarity. The manners of young
men are apt to be too careless. They
emulate the manners of men of the age
too much, not remembering they should
carry in their gentle ways the good man
ners of all ages. A lady should remem.
Der that when a woman's salutation
ceases to be delicate, elegant and finished
she steps down from her throne and
throws away her sceptre. There is no
salutation, however, more dispeasing
than that of too efIlorescent and fiat.
tering subserviency. "He bows too low"
no uld never be said. Avoid being a
snob in private as in crowd.
REMOVING MILDEw.
A lady writes: 81 wish TO benefit some
discouraged housekeeper this hot wealth
er: for, be she ever 30 thorough and vigi-
LIANT, there is a chance of finding, some
morning, that all the fine clothes of the
last washing are mildewed, and then, oh
dearl YOU can't imagine what a heartsick
feeling it gives one when she does not
know what will take it out. Sour milk
will not, if you soak the clothes year,
instrument was discarded because the
witnesses did not sign at the end of the
will. Common sense ought to tell any
one that any important paper ought to
be completed before the signatures are
affixed.
The New York rule as to signing and
witnessing, is that there must be two
witnesses; the testator must sign in their
presence, inform them that the paper is
his will (he need not inform what is in
it) and ask then to witness it, and they
must sign their names and residences as
witnesses at the end of the will. They
usually sign below brief memorandum
certifying that these things we're done;
but this memorandum is not essential.
Keep the will when completed in safe
place. In Massachusetts,, lately, will
was contested because rats had eaten the
signature. lord st. Leonard's will was
lost, and was established only by the
fortunate fact that his daughter was able
to repeat the substance of it from mem.
ory.
A GENTLEMAN who was asked for his