The weekly Union times. [volume] (Union C.H., South Carolina) 1871-1894, 1882-10-13

MARRIAGE.-One year of married life
has passed and We have been very happy
The good advice in DR.. Jackson's letter has
proved valuable, and his predictions have
been verified. have lent or read the let
ter to many friends, and wish it might be
published in Me Ia,os."
DIR. JAcKsoN's LETTER.
To BECOME husband it as serious a
matter to man rs it is for woman to be-
come wife. Marriage is no childs play
it brings added care, trial, perplexity, vex.
alton, and it requires great deal Of the
happiness which legitimately springs out of
it to make the balance heavy in its favor
Very few live happily in marriage, and ye,
this is not because unhappiuess is germane
lto the relation. but becaus- those who entc,
it do not know, first how TO get married
and second, how to live married happily
You have already made your choice wisely
| am bound to believe. Those qualities of
character which have attracted you to choose
as you have, should make your love grow
daily while you live together.
AS the second point lfyou wish to live
in harmonious union with your wife, start
out With the avowed recognition of the fact
that she is your companion and copartner.
Marriage usually makes the wife neither of
these. In many instances she sees less of
her husband than before she married him
Tie comes, he goes, he reads, thinks, works,
and under the stimulus of business all his
powers and faculties to the surface, aud is
developed thcreby-not always symmetrical
ly, but viGorousl y-not always harmonious
ly, but with increasing power. Married
men do not usually shrivcl up nor put on a
look ofprematurc age, but women frequently
do, and it is plain to me why they do
Married women arc shut up in houses
and their chic f care is for things that have
no inspiring influence. Their time is taken
up in meeting the physical wants of their
familics-cooking, washing dishes, keeping
the house in order, sewing, receiving com.
pany-not one of which has in it a tendcn.
cy even to culture and elevation Married
women are devoted to house, and this means
lille OF vexation and pettiness. 1t gives no
sort Of stimulus to the spirit So the
husband, who is out of doors, active, inter.
csted in measures which affect the public
good, coming into contact with nen great cr
than himself, who inspire him to better
purposes and nobler ends of labor, develops
into manly beauty, aud grows in character
while his wife ut home, who has as faithfully
performed her share of the work. wthers
aud decays prematurely.
Treat your wife exactly as you yourself
would like to be treated, if you had to live
uuder her crcums ances, and you will not
so far wrong.
Do not entertain the silly notion that be-
cause she is of a different gender from your
own, that she is therefore different in her
wants, feelings, qualities, and powers Do
net be the victim of any social polio
Stand up bravely Tor the right, give your
wife chance to live, grow, and be some
body aud become something.
Try to be thoughtful, considerate, and
forbearing. You will have new duties, and
they will bring new trials. Take good care
of your health and hers. BE simple both,
in your habits; be careful in your exoen.
ditures be industrious. Ifyou keep good
health, and are frugal, blessings will come
from your united love, and you will grow
happier and better day by day, as the years
pass. Faithfully yours,
JAMES G. JACKSON.