Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1882-12-10

Men willing 10 please and to be pleased
always command a premium in the worlds
busy mart. Pleasing manners, true courtesy
and genuine politeness have made both fame
an fortune for men in all ages of the world
ard yet the human family act as though
discourtesy and rudeness promoted hap.
piness and success. II is strange that
there is so much incivility in the world
VIXEN pofitere's pays so much batter. The
celebrated William Writ wrote letter
to his young daughter on what he called
'the small, sweet courtesies of life" In
this charming letter the great jurist, among
other things, advised his daughter 10 heed
those little courtesies in which there is
no parade, and which manifest themselves
in little acts of attention and giving others
the preference in every little enjoyment.
manners maketh a man." said the old
Saxon philosopher, and The same truism has
been reiterated through the centuries for the
benefit of successive generations. soil your
mird and your manners," was the advice
of Chesterfield, the great teacher Of cour-
iesy and politeness. In these days of SELF
apt TO overlook, or certainly undertake, these
apparently trivial matters of delicate atten-
ton, unselfsh action and obliging speech
which mark the man or woman truly polite.
Too often we 80 far forget ourselves as TO
gauge our acts Of courtesy by the social po-
sitioD, success, or pocket book OF those with
whom we come in contact. Some people put
on and off their politeness like an outside
garment. Such person obsequiously gives
up his seat in the crowded car 10 the richly
dressed lady, but puts on an occupied air So
some poorly-dressed woman, markel-basket
in hand, keeps herself in an upright
position only by frantic grasps at the car
strap. III clerk, he bows with all defer
enee 10 the lady of wealth, but rudely snubs
the uncouth lzborer. POliteness OF this sort
is merely superficial, skin deep, kind of
social varnish 'or whitewash-a mere coen-
terfeit of real courtesy. Daily experience
shows that courteous acts may ofteniimes
noticeably promote our advancement in life.
A dullard with polite manners may succeed
when men OF ability, but with boorish ways,
may fail. Mr.. Winans, OF the North, years ago,
wasthe owner OF small shop for the manufae-
ture of locomotives, bat he secured lucrative
from the Russian government by
treating its agents with civilily after they had
been shown with indifference through the
larger shops before they had made known
heir errand to this country. By being thus
civil to stranger, Mr.. Winans laid the
- II s.
June. People, perhaps, ought to be more
charitable and overlook awkwardness,
incouth language and gruf manners in
Derfon of solid worth. 1t Is sometimes so
ifler time, but 80 much are-we governed
~ our FIRST Impressions that we Judge of
persons by their appearance and demeanor
Give a boy address and accomplishment"
avs Emerson, sand you give him the mas
cry of palaces and fortunes wherever he |
oes." The great French orator, Mirabeau,
Fas famously ugly-looking man, said to |
esemble "Iiger pitted with smallpox" and |
et such were his gracious mapners that he |
Tas beloved even by his most bitter OPP
'onents Genial and polished manners have
lade many tricEster successful in swim
ling honest people out of their property.
Few people have the frmness TO refuse the
ollie requests OF polished stranger. His
ur hearts. Whether used for a good or a
ad purpose, we are poorly prepared to
Tithstand the blsndishments Of a person
winning address Vixen true politeness
priugs from a deep love for our fellow
len, it is potent in its sway over the
uman heart Such wss the gracious court
y of the French bishop, Fenelon, that
English gentleman once said
rat The had TO run away from him 10 pre-
ent his making him Christian" Bold
nd courageous men have ever been distin-
uished for their uniform courtesy. Il is
his powerful lever which some men WELD
gain sccess to hearts which they would
if1euce. Paul made bold to declare "the
hole counsel of God" in vigorous language,
ct never failed of dign fed courtesy and
racious gentleness. Even an old English
oct speaks reverently OF the Savior "a "the
rat true gentleman that ever breaihed"
len of genius and learning, like DIR. John
IN. Lander and Carlyle, gained the respect
the world, yet, with all their talent and
lnduess OF heart, were often rude, g5uff and
10 agreeable. Who says that the influence
such men would not hsve been doubled
they had possessed that gracious manner |
hich distinguished Arnold, of Rugby fame.
hen he treated poor woman so politely
lat she felt that he bad treated her as If
lie was LADY, True courtesy takes root
ON within and not from without 1t can
ever be learned by mastering the stiff rules
some book ON etiquette. Wemsy read
hesterheld until we know his xims by
cart, and yet only make ourselves offensive
ridiculous. Courtesy, happily defined as
'eal kindness, kindly expressed" is of slow
'owth. 1t takes root In goodness, sincerity
I'd refinement. Little by little 1t comes to
lie surface in that understandable everyday
caring which makes the truly courteous
an or woman. 1t is a rare accomplish
en,, because it implies a self-denial-a |
astery Of ones self. Such accom- plishment,
nked with ordinary talent and tact, is a
,wer in itself. 1t is the magic key which
,locks the cold, selfish hearts OF people
be Duke Of Marlborough wrote bad
nglish, and spelt il worse" but his fascin-
ing smile and winning tongue gained him
ore victories than did his sword.