Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1882-12-07

some one else. 10 not Oe respondent. Be
courageous, and some day perhaps you will get
there. At present the horizon is little bit
fOggy.
AS you say. she may be so giddy that she
doesn't want steady company. There is glim-
mer of hope in that. She may be waiting till
she gets over the agony and annoyance Ofteeth-
Ing before she looks seriously into the matters
of matrlmOny. If that should turn out to be
the case we are not surprised. Give her a
chance to grow up. and in the meantime go
and learn the organ grinders's profession, and
NIX yourself so that you can provide for
family. Sometimes girl only II years old is
able to discern that young intellectual giant
like you is not going to make a dazzling sue
cess of life as husband. Brace up and try to
forget your sorrow. and you may be happy yet
s'Tennyson,s Awful Play,
Mr.. Smalley writes to the New York Tribune
of the damnation of Tennyson's awful play:
when Eva asks Edgar to marry her he re-
plies that marriage is a feeble institution which
will pass away with priestcratt into the abyss;
that natures lesson is the true one. under
whose law the birds pair merrily for the season.
and part not less merrly when the season is
over. The brutality of such speech from
lover to his mistress brought a storm about his
ears. The pit had for some time shown signs of
impatience; and after this they broke into loud
protests. The unhappy Edgar none the less had
to proceed with still more unlucky speech:
marriage in itself! Well, when the great
US and all Europe, shall have washed away
thrones and churches ranks. conditions and Gus
the rest-why, then, the man and the woman. be.
ing free to follow their "eective affin.ties" will
each bid the old bond farewell, not with tears,
but with smiles, not with mutual recrmination,
but with mutual good Wishes with no dread OF
the worlds gossip, and no necessity for conceal
I'M the children ~e
"A shout Of derisOn greeted the last sentence
and it is probable that nothing could then have
saved the play. Discussions about the influence
OF heredty upon himself. and quotations from
the Republic of Plato did not help matters. The
laughter became infectious and general and
what was worse, it was the pathetic speeches.
or the speeches meant to be pathetic at which
the laugh was most frequent. Every note
touched was false one. When Edgar meets
Dora in the second act, he justitieS his sud
den fancy for her by her resemblance to
his old love Eva, and in one of those perilous
soliloqu!es with which the piece is stuffed. at,-
vanccd to the fOotlights aud remarks: 'Surey
! mus have loved Eva more than knew-poor
dead Eva, drowned through me- but to make
amends, soiU ,ced Miss Dora if possible"
THE house saluted this solemn declaration
with shrieks Of laughter. New and original be-
yond dispute is the notion that lover who
ruins one sister in the first act is to make
amends by marrying the other in the second.
Down to this point the pit. though uproarious
enough. had put some sort of curb on it's license
out of just respect, let us hope to the great
name and great age of Mr.. TennysOn. But
from this moment the scene became an Orgie
VI all means OF damning a play, none is so fatal
and SO pitlless as that which is known as guy
ing it..
The Confidence That should Exist BE.
tween Husband and Wife.
The only possible secrets. saws Louise
Chandler hot fx,,>
should be those which are confined to either
one of them by Others While some people,
who call themselves worldly wise, will laugh at
the idea of such perfect confidence as this i'm
plies. others still, especially the newly married
who have had small worldly experience, will be
shocked that l should suggest the keeping of
any kind of secret by either wife or husband
from the other. am not prepared to say that
these last are not the wiser of the two. Only in
that case, when any confidelfce is proffered to
either husband or wife, the recipient of it should
make his or her position clearly understood.
Somewives and some husbands are large-mnded
enough and free enough from jealousy not to
be troubled by the knowledge that a confidence
has been bestowed in which they cannot share.
and then there can be no harm in such conf
dence.
But no personal secret can fifty belong to one
only OF the two people of whom love and law
have made one flesh. The very ideal of mar
riage had been realized by that old Judge who
had knelt for 80 many years to say 9 last prayer
at night beside his wife that when at last She
had left him his lips were dumb. and without
her he could not even open his heart to God.
One frequent cause of trouble in married life
Is want OF openness in business matters. A
husband marrles pretty, thOughtless girl, who
has been used to taking no more Thought as to
how she should be clothed than the lilies of the
Held He begins by not liking to refuse any of
her requests. He will not hint. SO long as he
can help It, at care in trifling expenses does
not like to associate himself in her mind with
disappolntments and self-denials. And she who
would have been willing enough. in the sweet
eagerness to please her girlsh love. to give up
any Whims or fancies Other own whatever. falls
into habits of careless extravaganza. and feels
nersel injured when at last remonstrance
comes. How much wiser would have been per-
feet Openness in the beginning
I'VE nave Just SO much money to spend this
summer. Now shall we arrange matters thus
or tnus, was the question: heard a young hus-
band ask his still young bride not long ago: and |
all the womanhood in her answered to this de-
mand upon 1t, and her help at planning and
cOunseling proved not thing to be despised |
though hitherto she had ''fed npon the roses and
lain among the lilies of life." l am speaking |
not OF marriages that are no marriages-when |
Venus has welded Vulcan because Vulcan pros
pered at his forge-but marriages where two |
true hearts have set out together. for loves |
sake to learn the lessons of life and to live to-
gether till death shall part them And one of |
the first lessons for them to learn is to trust |
each other entirely. The most frivolous girl of |
all 1.-The rosebud garden of girls if she truly |
Loves, acquires something of womanliness from |
her love, and is ready to plan and help, and |
make her small sacrifices for general good. Try |
her and you will see.
But If you fail to tell her just how much you
nave, and just what portion OF it can properly |
De spent, and what portion should be saved for |
the nest-egg, In which her interest is not less
than your own, then you cannot Justly blame |
her II she Is careless and self-indulgent, and |
wastes to-day to want tomorrow.
There are thousands Of little cOurtesies. also |
that should not be lost sight of in the cruel can.
dor OF marriage. The secret of q great social |
success is to wound no ones self-love. The |
same secret will go far toward making marriage |
nappy. Many woman who would consider it |
an objectionable rudeness not to listen with an |
air OF interest to what a mere ACQUAINTANCE is |
saying will have no least scruple In showing |
her husband that his talk wearies her. Of |
course, the best thing is when talk does not |
Weary-.when two people are SO unified in taste |
that whatever interests the one is of equal in |
terest to the other, but this cannot always be |
the case, even in happy marriage: and is It not |