The Pascagoula democrat-star. (Pascagoula, Miss.) 1878-1920, 1882-07-14
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Accepting this very personal my
self as the mouth piece of a class
who have right 10 "A hearing, say
first: No amount of InisconceptiOn
OF your motives alters the truth
that our social as our domestic
atmosphere is what women make
it. Andit our best women give over
the attempt to refue and reform
men, they will become Turks aud
Yahoos. Next: Respect yourself
body aud spirit. There is untold
might of influence in the fearless
purity of Il nature that, having no
affinity for evil, passes ii uncon
seiously by. Smile as brightly rs
you please; enjoy sensible talks
aud harmless fun, aud be as happy
with the boys as the Lord meant
you aud them to be together. But,
from first to last, never forget that
your duty to them aud to you de
mands that both shall be better for
the association. Ii mans work is
like that of the more majestic forces
of nature-tides and glaciers aud
stormy wiuds fulfilling His word,
yours is the gradual but potent
ministry of dews aud showers aud
sunlight. Regard and regulate the
drift of little things, the thistle
down of thought aud action. Go to
your needle and knittiHg.werk tor
lessons in the slow accretion of in.
huence and result the disasters Of
uniastened threads and stitches
dropped and overlooked. For exam
pies: The man who presumes 50
far upon his privileges as u frequent
visitor rs to cross your threshold
with his hat upon his head or q
cigar in his mouth who lounges
at half-length upon the sofa, or
helps himself to an easy chair when
the ladies present are less lnxur.
iously seated; who sits unmoved at
your grandmother's entrance, and
sees you or any other woman tug
at refractory blind or window Cor
move u heavy piece of furniture;
who drop, unauthorized, the "Miss"
IRON your name; who is fond OF
holding aud pressing your hand, or
seizing you by the waist or arm in
what then Grasses to be innocent
frolic-may become gentleman
through your tacttul discipline. He
may now, as we said recently, know
no better.
81 wish he would not mean quite
so we'll, aud do II little betterw said
Il young lady to me u little while
ago.
A highly respectable youth, see
ing IN the course of Il call upon her,
that his sock had slipped down,
coolly laid his foot upon chair,
pulled np his trouser leg, readjusted
the offending garment, composed
his pantaloon, aud put his foot down
without interntting his talk.
"IIe Is the sole support of Il wild
owed mother, my dear,n pleaded |,
family. Whatever his solecisms
in demeauor, he always means
well.n
Upon which succeeded her plain
i've retort.
: In truth, the marvel is that the
majority of our young men are sc
well behaved, when we remember
the herding Of schools, colleges,
stores and business Offices, and how
few of them remain under the pater
nal roof after the age of fourteen
If you girls do not come to theil
help iu a resolute, sisterly spirit
not only iu the polishing OF the
shell, but in the elevation of the
inner man, the race of gentlemen
must diminish direfully. There are
peculiar elements of strength and
proteetion on the Que side, confid
ingness on the other, and certain
romantic tervor of attachment in
the friendship-pure and simple
between a man and woman that
cannot, from the very nature o
things, enter into the intimacy oI
one girl with another, or into the
sturdier comradeship of men. Hu
man nature knows none sweetel
aud more stauuch. Believing, as
do, in the value and happiness Of
such attachments, | am 10th thai
the young people | love should bt
denied the benefits of tue same. il
there no power of common sens,
and will that can give MS, instead
Of prudery and coyness, OF suspec
ton, e0quetry, maneuvres, gossip
heart -burnings, unworthy triumphs
worn and callous bruised affection,
the free, frank association thai
meditates and distrusts no snare
Intercourse that shall unseal springs
OF healing and refreshment to u,
as to our brothers?
Believe me, dear girls, our Father
has made no grander creature than
an upright, large.souled, tender
hearted man. 1t is hard to get al
, the knowledge and understanding
of his real nature under the present
constitution of society. Still, the
i genus is so worthy of study and
: esteem that you do well to strive by
tho exercise of what is best and
highest IN yourselves to develop the
! latent germs OF true manliness in
! even unlikely "boys.p There may
be animprisoned angel in the block
But, remember--want az. space
obliges me to be aphoristic 1thal
: public opinion conAelnus strongly
and Justly, speculation for private
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