New-York tribune., 1882-02-15
ALECTURE BY DIR. HALL.
SOME uONnLY ADVICE TO THOSE WHO CONTEMPLATE
MARRIAGE

SOME uONHLY ADVICE TO THOSE WHO CoNTEMPIArE
MARRIAGE.
The Rev. DrJohn Hall delivered an interesting lee
ture last night before the wOrHngmen Of the First
Ward in the Lord Public Reading Room, No. l35
Greenwich-st. Oh the subject " The Day and those
who Keep It," Taking st. Valentines Day and ITS
observances as his theme he made these the basis OF
some hOmcly advice to young people about to be
married, or contemplating marriage.
We do not know, said he the exact origin Of ST
Valentines Day. 1t is said by some that it derives
its origin from the festival Lupercalia of the ancient
Romans. and that the early Christian Church. not
being able TO abolish its observance, wisely Chris
tIanized it and made it comparatively harmless
Another account traces it to Valentinus. n bishop,
or as should say, presbyter. of Rome, who lived
about the year go A. d., and who, having been a
genial kind-hearted man, was afierward made the
patron saint of lovers who gradually came TO
believe that popping the question on
his anniversary was moro apt TO be
successful than at any other time.
Still another theory is that on this day tho birds
choose their mates; but we may dismiss that as
The custom of sending comic or satirica valen-
tines may perhaps he explained on the suppoSltlon
that the person sendlug them takes this rather
fOrcible way of getting nd ut an objectionable adj
mirer whose sensiblitics could not zoe touched III
any other way. THIS is guess of my own. But
may say of them that, as general thing they look
forward 10 wedding as result; and 50 the Gus
tom is, after all, very serious mater Now about
the weddi =; let it not be too expensive; have IL
done decenty and III order, with witnesses
and be sure To give the clergyman fec, for " the
labOrer is worthy of his hire. Then as the mar
nae makes two persons one the next thing is tode-
eide which will he the one. llaughter.I would
not advise you to initiate the woman of my own
country who, being rebuked for administering
castigation TO her husband, replied: " Well the
husband is the head of the WIFE, and haven't the
right to scratch my headT" lLaugltcr.I The family
relationship should be good. Bad families make
bad community. And 70 i say 10 you young people,
enter INTO II Wisely anu pIayertuIiy. Then
after the marriage comes the home. DO not. if
uOs,be, 90 to a hotel or large lodging
house. The poets speak OF the fireSde life, but
modern ways OF living have almost eliminated IT.
poet now would have to write ahont gathering
around The regis er'-an idea very hard TO make
poetical. But, above all things. begin within your
means Choose a healthy locality physically and
morally. Look 10 the ventilation look TO the in
termal order "A place for everything, and every
thing in its proper place." Is homely but true
proVerb.
and wife, parents and Children must he night.
Without that, palace with cOachmen and foot
men could give neither comfort nor peace.
1t often seems If ii were a question with
the children how they should bring up their parents
in the way they should 60. Ills Is all WI .ng. The
boy who learns 10 obey his parents VIII he q good
boy in school and in the office; and when he be-
comes Il man he viii be law-ablIlng cl zen. DO
not make favorltes of your children. Provldc for
them all equally give lnelh an cuHcauOn, ID OkS,
a starr in lie good motives, good example and
GOOD name and though they have nOi hing else,
they will be rich. Perhaps ought not 10 talk
to yon i'll this way, because Americans
are supposed to know everything. ,But,
though / was not born in America, ] have
been here soIne years. have been natnrazcd, and
have voted the straight ticket every time. Laugh
teri And perhaps 1 nave caught some Of the
spuit of the country. In cUnclusun say to you
tnat as there are sh'PwIecks, so there NAV be- and
are homcwrccks, though jealousy, suspicion,
PASSION, lIwlesSucss, drunkenness crime. Guard
against all such hOmewrecks. Put before you the
IDEAL of true home, having in II love and The fear
of God. Ask HIM 10 keep you when you choos-
ing your partner for lie. when you are setting up
your h0me and when you become heads of families.
And be sure that lie who sent His own Son into the
world TO save men will hear you, will bless you,
and will at last bring you to that blessed home,
where there lis neither sOrIow nor parting.