Saturday press. [volume] (Honolulu, H.I.) 1880-1885, 1882-12-23

u
a few wax matches. OF course a box Of ordi.
nary ucfers would have been far more conve.
nicnt.
BOOKS
Are the most uncxceptionablc Of holiday
gifts; but there is always the danger, in choos.
ing standard woJs, the recipient may have it
already, in his favorite binding, in his own Ii.
brary. 1t should be borne in mind, moreover,
that men prefer books substantially bound in
sober morocco or calf, to the dainty, fanciful
volumes which tarnish in the first reading
Then again. lady cannot give gentleman
n gift Of great value, because he would certain.
ly feel bound to return one still more valuable,
and thus the gih would lose all its grace and
retain only n selfish commercial aspect. What,
then, shall we gve' Here is woman's advan-
tage she has her hands, while men must trans
act all their present giving in hard cash.
She must give something that represents her
own life, and breathes of the qualities and
tastes Of the giver. She can hem some find
handk neutrality-suspicious. always want hand
kerchiefs-and in order to give them intrinsic
value, il their relationship warrants such
favor, she tan embroidcr the name or mono.
gram with her own hair. II the hair is dark,
it has very pretty, graceful effect and the
design may be shaded by mingling the different
hair Of a family We knew gentleman who
for years lost every handkerchief he took to
his Office. AT length his wife marked them
with her own hair, and he never lost another.
Such gifts are made precious by love, time
and talent.
THE hare FACT OF RARITY
Can raise an object, commercially yalueless. TO
an aesthetic level. Souvenirs from famous
places or oil famous people, bouquet of wild
thyme irom Mount liymettus, an autographs
note OF some great parsonage, an ancient Jewish
Shekei or Roman com, some piece Of unique
or curious workmanship from Indian isles or
liindoo bazars, etc-all such things are very
suitable Tor presents to gentlemen and will be
lar more valued than pins, studs, etc, which
ohly represents number OF dollars and cents.
penera'ly speaking, gift only needs to be
wisely chosen to be as acceptable now as il was
IN the days OF solomon. Children may teach
us lesson on this subject worth noting. They
class their presents under two great heads
lhose valuable enough to be stored away in
Their little repositories for precious things, and
those tacitly condemned to be DESTROYED, the
pleasure in the latter consisting in the fun of
destroying them. Now all adult presents are
either
USEFUL AND VALUABLE,
" else they are intended to perish in the using.
Inc latter class are by no means poor presents.
AMONG m h.a oil "a,
suitable gift, because they are Fan assertion
'hat beauty outlveS all the utilities in the
world. Another expression of this class of
presents is something good to eat. There is no
greater mistake than to suppose such presents
are not welcome None bring the piyer more
pleasantly to mind, and il the satisfaction is
short, II IS at least genuine and unalloycd.
Why should there not, also, be a touch of as
graceful sentiment in sending friend case of
VINE oil exceptionally rare bouquet as in send.
ing MN n case OF silver spoons2 Perhaps those
CUTS are best which are acceptable from their
Illness, which are little helps and facilities, and
lit into need. 1t is easy to believe in the Kind
ness OF a Christmas wish thu, is father not only
10 the thought, but to pretty dress or cloak,
or TO some little luxury which the receiver has |
ionged to possess, though perhaps is not usti. |
ned IN purchasing for herself. Such presents |
as these show thoughtful and painstaking at. |
lection they have cost time and consideration
as well as money, and have a peculiar flavor of
sympathy and good nature about them. The |
expression OF pleasant emotions naturally falls |
INTO pleasant and graceful forms, but IL a senti |
meh' OF respect Is also to be conveyed, then the |
gnt should not only be beautiful but also as |
valuable as the donor can afford.
NEVER uNpERvALus
Your own gin; il it is poor, YOU should no,
have offered 1t at all. Avoid, also, such pre-. |
lenses as g could get no better" at was all |
b. had, ete.i and never ask. "How do |
you IKE ~ or Does il ftp" II you give |
book, do not write any names OF elaborate in. |
seript'on IN IT, unless you are certain first. tha,
the book will be well received second thar
the gltl will be rendered more valuable by such
aulosraphie display OF affection. Truly, we
ought not to look giit.horse in the mouth, but |
wehave no RICH, to give things away because we |
nave no use Tor them ourselves. When a thing |
is not good enough for its present ,,osSessor ten
10 one II VIII be OF no service To a friend. 1, |
may, indeed, he given to the poor, but charity |
Is no, friendship. 1t is real hardship TO have |
10 say thank YOU ior what We do no, want. |
ana iof what We know has COS, the piyer
neilher money nor sacrifice Of any Kind. Do |
no. give a person who is socially your equal A
richer present than She is able TO give Won.
she VIII be more mortified than pleased. BE.
tween equals 1t is often an elegance TO disregard
cost and depend ON rarity, because cold cannot
always purchase it. Still, between very rich
people, presents should also be very rich. on
els, Their riches are set above their iriendshin
and generosity,
NkNkR REFUSE A PRESENT
Except under very peculiar circumstance
However humble NJ valueless the pift. aeon,
'he good viii that. dictated it, Acknowledge
inc receipt OF present without the least d,l.S
out do not follow 1t 10y an immediate renlrn
i would impart to the gift am appearance n,
Investment, or exchange, No person ourh, 10
s'e a pfesen, who is apt To retain lively
memory OF his own munihcence. Wha,e,,.,
he receiver feels, the donor mus, no, remem
BET II a. an obligation. Il takes as liberal n
nature to receive As to give--not to show hesi.
aton, not TO be churlish, and think immedi.
i'ep oil having to give one in return; not 10 |
pe sehsiuvey annoyed at the obligation, but
o accept II with frank pleasure, TO look upon
! a, a. 80 much gain'-no, in goods, but In good
si'-and to be glad OF the privilege il accorls
o express our own feelings In a similar way.
But they Who would know
fhs run MEASURE or DELIGHT
~ giving and see the perfection OF grace in i
'shSsssg, presents, mus, give gifts 10 he ln,ls
IN Their reception there will he M ,