Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1881-07-27
Hints TO Young Visitors.

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Good as she came into my room this morn
ing with her face beaming full of Joy.
"And what makes you so happy ?" |
asked as / laid down my pen and waited for
an answer.
al have Just received letter from Mamie
Whites mother, and she has invited me to
spend my vacation at her house. You know
they have lovely place in Maplewood. /
am going as soon as school closes"
gave Daisy my heartfelt congratulations,
and knowing that she had never been away
from home before-that she was young, i'm
pulsive, and sometimes thoughtless-I gave
her few kindly words regarding her visit
how TO make herself beloved during her
stay, so that the lady who had been so kind
to her should not regret her invitation. She
thanked me sincerely for my suggestions,
and said she would try to remember them.
As she danced out of the room, happy as
a bird at the prospect before her, / thought
to myself, perhaps some other dear girl
might be benefited, also by few timely
words on the subject of visiting; and so
| concluded to give the hints gave Daisy
to the public. We know they are all good,
well-meaning girls; but sometimes they may
be perhaps lille Moughtless. The schools
will soon be closed, and many of the tired
schoolgirls will go away to visit their
friends. 1t is human nature to love appro-
bation-to wish to be held in esteem by new
acquaintance. That can only be won by
attention to number of little things it is
the little things of life that count highest.
Hannah More has said
The sober comfort, all the peace which springs
From the large aggregate OF little things
On these small cares of daughter. wife, or friend,
The almost sacred joys OF home depend.
Here, then, are half dozen "short and
simple rules-the easy way to happiness /:
l. In your friends family you will find
many ways in which you can make yourself
useful. Seek to find them. Be on the con-
slant lookout to help somebody. If there
are little children about you, interest your
self in them. Be patient with them and if
the mother is overburdened with their care
relieve her for an hour or so she will APP
preciate it, | can assure you.
2 Always be in time for the meals. 1t is
very annoying to have the table waiting for
visitor who did not heed the rising bell or
who thoughtlessly permitted her rambles to
take her away AT the usual time the family
gather at the table. Your hostess will be
too polite and courteous to sit down until
you come consequently whole house is
acknowledgements are hindered from do
ing their work, and the hostess herself is
oftentimes detained from some pleasure she
had planned.
3. The more you see of the world, the
more people you will find in it who need
repairing" Everybody has pecularities,
and they may annoy you but do not try to
make any repairs, or have side.talks with
your intimate friends about the infirmities
Of others. Remember you cannot regulate
yourself as you would like to do, and must
have charity for others faults. Gossip is
the mother of mischief. The word dropped
about a friend may be no longer than a
midge's wing, yet in few days it may have
become elephant on your hands. If any
one has suffering point and most
everybody has-be careful not to let it ap-
pear that you know or remember it. Vic
tor Hugo has beautifully said, " Is there not
something truly evangelical in this deicacy
which abstains from sermonizing, moraliz-
ing, and making illusions ? And is it not
wisest sympathy when man has a suffering
point not to touch upon it at all 2"
4. You will probably meet in your circle
Of acquaintance some girl who is not as at
tractive as the rest. Perhaps she is poor,
md cannot dress as well as you do, and
ees like retiring into the background. Al
ways take opportunity to make such one
feel at ease by mauifesting your interest in
her happiness-a delicate thoughtfulness
she will never forget. Remember that
Kindness to do and say
The kindest thing in the kindest way.
| Sydney Smith has said, mankind are al
ways happier for having been happy; so
that if you make them happy now, you can
make them happy twenty years hence by the
memory of it,"
5. When out on excursions, take care OF
your Own wraps and parcels. Do not leave
| your parasol or shawl on the top of hill or
a mountain where you lunched, and forget
it until you get down into the valley. Then
| you discover your loss. Of course some gal
liant young man will offer to go and get it
for you; but it is not pleasant thing to ask
| him to do, or even to permit him to do. lie
may be obliged to climb so fast as to be al.
most out of breath, and perhaps the whistle
| Of the train will sound before he is half way
| down the mountain, and he must run as for
| life in consequence Some girls act as If
they thought their gentleman friends were
hat-racks TO hang shawls, parasols, travelling
bags, and all superfuous luggage upon, and
IRE not ashamed TO call upon them to do
| tiCii
o. Some girls think it is showing an in
| dependent spirit to "snub" or "cut" Gas
they term it) young men who pay them at
tentions Nothing can be farther from the
truth. If young man whom you do not
wish to associate with offers you attentions,
decline them in kindly, lady-lke manner,
| Your own good manners will always pre-.
serve you from other peoples ill manners
| Life is too short to indulge in unpleasant
feelings towards others, or to be wanting in
kindness and courtesy. Those to whom we
are thus rude may not resent the imputa.
ton, but they do not forget it,
1t is little rift within the lutte
| That by-andby will make the music mute.
After all, the golden rule, " Do unto 9th.
ers as ye would that they should do unto
you," is the best everywhere, in city or
country, summer and winter. That makes
the true lady and the true gentleman. 1t
will make you as much at home in the most
polished society as in the most humble walks
Of life. If you follow that, you can never
go astray.