Connecticut western news., 1881-04-20
ABOUT GETTING MARRIED.
How the Thing is Arranged Among
 tho City Aristocracy.

How the Thing is Arranged Among
 tho City Aristocracy.
 Harper's B0znr in some advice about getting married says: The wedding presents, which ill the houses of rich and popular brides are wondrous fine and costly, are frequently shown. In New York one of the men in large jewelry house comes up to arrange them on large table or series of tables, and the silver and gold and diamond orna- ments, the sets of silver, tho faces, the china, and the gilt ornaments for par Tor, the Dresden toilet table sets, the fans, and the clocks and lamps, are freely criticised. A plain-looking, watch ful man stands near the diamonds ; this is Q detective in plain clothes who is at tending to the safety of these valuables, for thieves break through and steal, sometimes even clad in purple and fine linen. Some families object to the dis play of the presents, and the brides in- innate friends alone arc allowed the pleasure of beholding them.
 The bride writes & note, over her own hand always, to thank the sender of each gift.
 In the days of betrothal the young lover must "ask papa," of course, for his daughters hand, as soon as the young lady has allowed him to believe that she will say "yes.'
 Ii he is favorably received he gives his fnncce (we have no synonym for this word in English) diamond soli- taire engagement ring, paying for it anywhere from $2O0 to $1,O0O. This seems to be indispensable, although it is to be regretted that the responsiveness of modern betrothals and weddings is keeping many young men from wedding the girls whom they love.
 Some very opulen5 grooms are adopt ing the English fashion of giving three gypsy rings instead of the diamond sol itaire, which sre hoops of diamonds, rubies, and eapphires. These form 6 beautiful ornament for the third finger of pretty hand.
 The wedding ring is still the old, strong, pure circlet of virgin gold, with the posy within, and the initials of bride and groom, the date, and anything else which the parties choose. The manner of announcing engage ments seems to be frequently this: The groom steps into his club, and tells an intimate friend; the lady writes to her intimate friends, and her mamma has the day before informed all the grand | parents, the aunts, and cousins. It then flies on the wings of the wind; it is caught up by Jenkins; it appears in the newspapers. The young couple give it Q final endorsement by walking arm ill arm in Fifth avenue.
 | Weddings in the evening arc in the same order as the morning wedding, with the single difference that ill the morning the gentlemen are dressed in frock coats and gray trousers, while in the evening they are, of course, ir dress suits of solemn black, with white neck, tie, and, in fact, full evening dress. The bride makes no difference in he1 dress be it morning or evening, she is in full dress, with lace, diamonds, snd flowers.
 For wedding at home, which is SC much preferred by some people, the most convenient place for the clergyman to stand is arranged by the lady of thl house. and cushions are laid down fol the bridoand groom to kneel down upon The clergyman stands facing the com pany, while the pair to be married stand with their backs to the guests Aftor the ceremony the clergyman TO tires, and the bridal pair take hi place.
 The favorite fashion for spring wed dings is to dress the bridemaids in short
 waisted muslin frocks, long gloves, an( poke bonnets.
 For a widow or an elderly person
 bonnet at her wedding is de riguest, and veil out of the question. Many el
 derly brides wear dark velvet or sill
 costumes and bonnets to church-ar
 married, so to speak, in travelling COS tune. Such brides dispense with bride maids.
 There is sunptuary law against ar
 bearing at wedding in mourning.
 the brides mother is widow she shoul , lay aside her cap md veil on that oe h casion. In England tho very uncon n promising color bright red is considere l. wedding mourning, that is, the bride v mother or sisters, if ir deepest mourn a ing, will wear the color of Jacquem <, not rose to the wedding and still be SUI
 posed to be paying the true respect # the departed.
 n A bride should never be married n black or put on black travelling co o tune.
 '1 CuItiyating Wild Rice.