The home journal. (Winchester, Tenn.) 1858-188?, 1881-07-13
Advice to Female Graduates
and "ouituates
Of 1881.


Now, girls, you have just returned
from school. You have partially, if not
fully, completed the college curriculum.
You have smattering Of French, can
conjugatc u Latin verb, and perhaps re-
peat the Greek alphabet. You know
why it is that prQjectiles come to the
earth instead Of continuing in II right
line. You can tell the distance from
the earth to the sun and give the rea-
tive position Of each planet in our solar
system. You studied the unduIatory
and corpuscular theories of light and
have learned that heat and electricity
are two Of the most powerful and subtle
agents in nature. You have received
long lectures on meteorological phenom-
ena, and can tell the difference between
an mrolite and Il cyclone, or between
the Plcadcs and a Windmill. You can
work the sums in cube root, find the I'M
known quantity in AIgcbraic equation,
and demonstrate the theorems in Geom-
ctry. You are u creditablc performer
on the piano-iorto and can sing "Don't
be Angry with Me, Darling" with IL
thrilling pathos that would touch the
heart Of an animated gate-post. Now,
ifyou have good natural sense and can
write and speak the English language
correctly, you are prepared to enter up,
on the sphere in life decreed to woman
We'll, then. what shall do now? you
will ask. We will tell you. But be-
fore we begin we must say that ere long
you will get married. 1t matters not
how happy your home, nor how devoted
your parents and brothers and sisters,
the thought Of having sweetheart and
getting married will naturally come in
to your minds. DO not be offended at
our bo!dncss, dear girls, in saying that
you must have Il sweetheart, for nature
has planted this desire in your bosoms,
and if you have not this desire nature
has failed to cndow you with the chief
attribute Of womanhood. If you are
not endowed with the principle Of love
your varied accomplishments are worse
than pearls thrown to the swine. Some
man who was addicted to writing poetry
said:
Z" Love is only part of man,
IT'S woman'swholc existcce,"
Or something to that effect. If you are
4 perfect woman you are now at the age
Mt which to love and be loved are the
principal sources Of your happiness. If
your parents object to your having a
sweetheart and trusting your affections
10 the keeping Of some worthy young
man who may sue for your hand and
lcart, they are very much misguided
BY their ignorance Of the fact that it is
rom acting in harmony with natures
avs that we derive the most permanent
pleasure.
Then since nature has decreed that
you shall love some one and that you
hall marry some one-or do worse by
being cotemptible old maid-it is SUI
,remely important that you exercise the
ull power Of your judgment as to whom
'ou should marry. You no doubt have
'our ideal. and if you should meet him
you are sure to fall in love with him.
But, if he should begin to pay his ad-
lresses to you and you are woman of
ense, and possess that keen, penetra-
ing, intuitive perception characteristic
# your sex, you will at once begin to
tudy the intrinsic worth of the man.
lis gaudy apparel, his raving locks, his
charming" moustache and perfectly
legant' manners, are all of minor i'm
ortance when compared to moral
'orth. Beware that external appear
noes lead you not into a lions den.
the story of the spider and
he fly, and the old adage that "all is !
OF gold that glitters." There are many {
Dung men who make a good appear \
nee in society, wear good clothes, drive
Ist horses, and part their hair in the
fiddle, who are as barren of the quail
es of good husband as the Sahara is
estitutc Of the fruits of the tropics. I
Iany brainless jackanapes makes an
.reeable beau who would be an intol-
able husband. BE sure to marry a /
an of sense and energy. 1t is not nee
sary that he shall have a college edu- F
ton, for a college education is of very
tie benefit in the practical issues off I