, 1881-11-20
The Weddings Of the Week-Those
Who Are Contemplating Mat .
r1mouy.
The Usual Melange OF Receptions,
Club Parties, and AL
That.
Gossip for the Ladies--The --latest Frivol
tiles Of Fashion-Personai
Notes.

oa,ara, round of entertainments and hospftnli-
tlcs. We vii: give chapter on the uncereno-
NOUS ana lncohsequea''a' .'tt'e "'@. i"e".-'o
ron. Small funcheons are given on many oeca-
r'ous a,u ~ ~ h>s,"sa md counanr nrcsent
st0' ......~,, " G. n,,,h rests
are -ready conSershuona1isls' % l,''e" tels
with the hostess on these OCCASIONS tuat, u''eos
naturally clever. witty and sparkling to q GER
ao.-',o~, e,e, .,o,1 .,,,e,vor tt, aco,;ra that
'"4'1 VIZ ~ aoe ...s... ~ ,,1- r..ot,--
ing and entertaining. Just what to say and how
IN sav IT ou these occasions Is an art in itself.
.s 60, T. ~ 1o1 ,.bo baa hat.on,c ,,,oticIent.
aua napps .,,!..,ae ~ ,,,t a11 ,,r1scnr a1 their
It is her privilege 10 put al prese'lt a. encn
ease without the lenst appearance u oes@Rn'
There is no formal circle to petrify the stranger
W n.s ea 49,, n'ora ~ w. f.sh,a,s 1ho rhcatre the
concert are all discussed with wit and intelli Hi;
At pleasure, Then docs the hostess particularly
shine, With her it rests whether the entcrtain-
nent be duil or bright and animated; with Il lit
TASTE and refinement she can lead her guests
Into an easy md tlowing channel Of light, happy
conversation 1.-THE tone Of good conversation e
says Kousseau, "is flowing and natural:
without noIse-" Well-brcd persons are neitner
boIsscrous nor loud in speech or manner:
Neither 40 theY affect grent weakness. and
speak in SO low d tune as to be almost inaudlble,
requiring the guests tn drop their knites and
forks and place their hands to their ears. like
Ntsia in the Storm II they hope to catch single
,<nrd. Hnpp,iy for us Of the present time both
afYecta,1on and coarseuess are rarely seen among
,snitured pconIe: both are positively vulgar. We
read Of the .td,sxressiug coarseness'' and ''es-
sentiai vuearity.. which marked the fashIon~
teenth century, and VIC find that such behavior
disgust of ali sensible people.
That the voice tan he cultivated ia speaking
as well as Ia singing. should be remembered and
fh$- .rrtfrr {Ct1
universal. pnd the speaking voice as ussduous-
" cultivated as the Singing voice. What more
shocking to our nerves than sharp, loud, ringing
1onesY What m,>re beautiful and southing thttu
= snft- low rcnIie. melod1ous voice? .;uth
Duren Anne aut Queen Mary were distinguished
TOR their clear an6 distinct Prs'nuaca non. tbe!r
ion. Under tie careful training Of Mrs. Bet
1erfon. an actress. they acquired these
important accomplishments. Do not litter
lfrrlnr your conversation, and call that
SORT of establishment laughing. Moth
In: Is more refreshing and Pheasant to the ear
tnan a musical laugh We onee heard OF
lime She laughed. This is 4 musical laugh ln-
tlced mt 'oI:e Which we would hardly recom-
sneats q yacans aiuI. Dnt in his day We are
toid that Increment wes carried to positive
rudeueas. even afuonr the mobility. The sweet
..s. ,anrext 1-nIce rn,,st sf, chnicn ar1i correct
~, ~, trbar araIt, It's sTeetncssS VII
xar7,y s surely indicated BY .coarseness Of Ian
guaRr. Refined and pure words und ideas come
heart.
70 the simple home words Of our language. with
cosrcct sud accurate grammatical distiuctncss.
Avoid stateliuess at luncheon party: though
the conpanv should scarcely descend to hitar-
i,V m -estratnt or shadow Of formality should
a nr,ear.
Wn ara now speakfne of small luucheons
,arga 1,,nchnnns 1ra nrnner]y hnnn,1efs They
fate 1l,ar rhsrarfac hv Invitations being offi-
..iailr issued For banouets or receptions q
m,ci, more elaborate prorrain is arranged
These enrerfaiuments ARE given usually on oc-
rssiors snch as fhese- lawn.tennis Dartfc5 or
some sen:-ofiiciai OCCASION. The Iuncheon
proper does not lake The character Of banquet.
cIfher given ycrunifv or written on cards., rs
Observation-Disclosures viii allow. 4 few days' notice
only is reo,1iSed. and q weeks notice the longest
fir;n mx.,a;tv given Mnnr hos1esscs rive rheir
friends carre blanche fnyf,ations to Iilnchecn
hnt ss r11ie ladies a., nor avail themselves ri
this privilege. or facoa de parier. but await a
-, rhe con,rsrr' dn evnti themselves very nffen
II rhese nrotYerad ,nst,iraI;fies and ar,. rener-
;ud,cs When a pentieman = drofs in Is this
ma ad ;nanner ali cerennov Is waire1 and
he js ernectei n otfe- a11entiof and take any
p,dce tnd ~ @ ~ en en
rnr1,n~ 70 r1ioaefrrhat- snec;ni attention he
eSnwn ncr ~ IN 1he moI1er ~ niscc at tnhie and
tisEepnr,si 3iaea i.s "n,cn eahho' 'es ~
o'9 The host,ss. when giving tnv,tar,ons for a
luncheon ] psrss, would endeavor to eouaize her r
s s, sh ~ 80, -. .sss,t ~ ". snnathiv
az present .ne naeas passes ~ ~. as ,n suo.s ;;
Tletd !, rot;n.-oe 10 h1si ass - .r,ant .ass.
oss ~ an.iaen eiWa.s eSs,., ~ ,rn idr ~ ~
,e @ as i 4tani - 49, e ,H, a"1, .s,.astN -. .uo
Tha ns,a, ho,,r fnr i,,nchnon is nsc,rt and
1eess - oct ~ oris-u .s,h,, ,"r a, ,n;r ea
.,+as 70 Va riTo sar ai1hnr1h ,.,nct,,,1,,r I.
t ua9 ;,.tn -. -. l. g t., tn,tn a nh,r. 80
% nos ~ a.. .. - - - 80 49, oun ,,.
tGspSIt 80 - - c ! ;n ~ @ t - ~ .+ :. N
q . eo :. ~, W. eu3 - " @ @ ~
expeces uie- ng se1sau. ~ouu rs ~ maorn
1ug cai's, S pt.sTue :s ' LII ~ .n,. ~ G
Ioom: 1ne ssnoI WI nen W "nnuun:eu . .e A rs ~
Y nloE.i1k Gultss auu " cssteu ~ .uu 1usseas,
IL tue Kucsis "ete uot acfuaiAlea, uo Aostcoo
Wou!o inhsouuce tnent Aakue SEVERN 4ntIo~
oucuons ~ once. ms!eau ol sepalsney, LUIS ~
1ng tne 1niorHla! nous VI naahluE unn'poItslt1t
lntfooncuons: snouid quests 1e ihslteu 20 naeet
tnaI eacn one present nus an lntrouucuou 70 tne
snaneeI" LaolGs ~ "ot tetnost: Luelt o'uuets @
OF wraps az iuncueon' unless the wrap ny very
WARM. "1tn II wnulo pe remover 10 tne ain!ne
roon, oeiofe elttlnC Gown 10 tnp1e' tne !auy ~
tue same une removing hef gloves. Al guests
put, should guest DC un: ortunate enough 10
arrive !a1c, nc VIII pc SHOWN 1nto tne olnlnE
room At once 1enttcmeh VIII carry tneir nats
Wtn'tnem III tue ofaW!ne-1poiu, II tue patt5 uc
Abma4 one' uut lar-c one. suey Will leaEc
iaetu ~ l1e ul4i!. rpm ten " ulteen minutes
Is 1ne 1ltne usuatls alioweu oet"ecn ING ARRIVAL
" guests anu Inc serving ol Hneneon.
wnich nusI oe sefved punctunlF nj
tue hour namea. Inc servant an
HouHces iuHcueon ny saying. LuHchenn
IS served II mhn servant: or Luncneon IS
On the tAble, ma'am- IT u maid servant. the
1o.ner oe1mx 100 pretentlons wnere outicr is
not Kept IL hostess will usk. on the announce.
Guests proceed TO the d.ning- room singly. or
side by SIDE. no ceremony OelnR OBSERVED eI-