, 1881-11-20

having D,en talked To necessarily for two hours
the stranger ross To take hts leitsc i: co!nFalls
with tho friend, who bad uascnteu hfiasGitt l!A
me.iIately after the antroducton and dla nl'l y
return until ready to depart shortly alteI"arus
tho friend called upon Mme- dc staei al1"
asked:
How did you like my friend? }ou found
him very intellectual, did you not: ,r;,,,
VERY. very returned that lady. with enrnu-
6iasm; " the most entertaining anu caai
man have met III a long tine.
The man was deaf and dumb, but the lady had
enjoyed her own discourse SO WeA 'as suv n'at ..o
not noticed that her visitor had not spoken one
word. This love of talking Is an unpardotaD!c
fault, and will not ndvance your popu1aF1.s. ~
society. Lot good sense and aooa .eG M ,9a a''oe
YOU Alright in this particular. as III all thlties.
Luncheon usually Insts from three ~quaIteFs u
an hour, during which time tue hostess w9u!a
see that each guest WAS de'tcate!I he!PGo ~ -
whatever each one preferred: she Woula a.1a1 nns
ituportune ans one to accept Of any dish whlch
they mad once refused. The antsllatcd poi;te-
ness which urges the hostess to pef5ecute net
guests Ia eat or drink what ther die. not cnoosc.
ar more than fs agreeable, IS now obsolete, anu
has no place in tho modern code OF etidiet:
True polftenrss consists In allowing eacn guest
tn Dartakf OF what is tntI3t a5TechDle 10 MN OF
herself, When wc do meet one OF the venerable
followers OF the old codc--n few exist 10 tnls
duy-we actually suffer under tue pressing ssi, :,
is impossible, unless VIC have the cool enrontery
Of the penguin. Who could refuse the luscious
ashsS ts,ssd sns kdny nSn movs ns s'A who 1i
rcbuke whit so evidently springs from
sincere hospitality? No. VIC must sit and stuff.
even ar tic risk Of our lives. There Is tratil-
non in the old country of a gentleman who was
pressed To such degree by distinguished naval
officer that he fell on his chair fn ut from over
eating. VIC are happy to say That THINKS were
that. Giving abundailtv, mud urging its &c
ccp1nnce 10 IL degrees OF insistancy% IS very WI
gar u,,d marks the breeding Of the person, No
such persecution Is permitted IN inc reilned So
ciety OF the present day.
Luncheon is served Il In Russo or not both
ways being equally good taste. Fruits. 1elles,
mud sweets OF alt kinds would be placed on. the
liable. Wine may be served nt Luncheon or not,
We have noticed ut some of Our best houses, an
absence Of wine on these occasions, and see ~
this tho advantageous working OF one 0f the
most sensible and popular reforms ot the pres
..nt day. Vine, ut large receptions, should be
served for those that desire it-never taking nut
the one kind-hut ut small gatherings the ab-
seuce Of wine is Il marked Improvement. fll-
ger-glusscs are seldom used at luncheon: soup
should be served in small bowls, placed III hne
1hs, dining room as soun as tho
guests are helped to the Joint 1owl
help the guests, assisted by the gentlemen. to
eu1rlGs and sweets; but where tho servants re-
main in the room everything is hanoeu oy Them;
II is et1uafiy fashionable to detain tho servants
or dismiss them, tho latter being considered the
most unccremonious.
The host has n1nny privileges ut q luncheon
party. He need not. unless he setl disposed. 20
in to luncheon, even il he bt i'll the house, un-
less the party were given As i compliment to
stranger, when ho would 9! course make q point
of being present. 1t rests with his INCLINATION
whether ne returns or n1E with his guests to the
drawing room, although it would he more
courteous ia do So On their return tn the draw
ing room, the ladies viii draw On their gloves
quietly aud unobtrs,siveiy- Etiuue, does uo1
allow the F,,es1s to larry longer than twenty or
thirty minutes after their return to the draw
jns-rOo1ll. The hostess will snake hands With
her guests on their departure. The serEnnt
,woud notify the ladies having carriages OF their
arrival The company dsperse, after Il pleasant
hour or SO, passed without ceremony. wherein
they hnye often been permitted to enjoy the
company of persons Of mute and eninence. OF
wit and wisdom, politicians and statesmcn:
+4Ch1ef5 out OF war. and statesmen out ol place
Flowers should always adorn the iunch-tae,le
They should be of choice kinds: ferns aud moss
add grently to Ehc arrangement and ELECT
Sprays Of ferns. mingled with fruit, sive Il r'.-
treshin1 and charming appearance Flowers
never fail to add Measure. They seem to hnve
magic art in inspiring JOY, III their varied tints
uul delicate otors. They are us necessary to
the table US china and silver. and should never
be omitted. They come into social life with
gladness, and present to the eye beauty and
complication which IS truly enchanting: Each
flower has Il beauty peculiar 10 itself WHICH will
readily blend with some other Of Its kind with
exOufEit elect EAF1LLE.