The Baltimore County union., 1881-12-17

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duties are executed by servants acquainted with
their own homes and interested In their improve
ment. Finding out where 10 put plaque, maxi
ing place for . cabinet, or adding bit BY bit 20
q little collection Of china, leads 10 unexpected
discoveries Of the need of strictsr watchfulness
more direct personal efforts and not few modern
households date the work Of renovation from
"mother's china craze"
must say pity men for not usually having
any part or lot In the home Christmas activities.
There are exceptions. Men Of simple, natural
tastes, and healthy love Of domestic life, who will
look after the Christmas Tree, assistin putting up
the Christmas greens, and even putting the power
of their strong arms into the beating Oh the Christ
mas cake-but these instances are rare. and, a. .
rule, the women Of the household are better pleased
% have q 90. Men are considered rather hslpiss.
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reason is that they are more ready 70 offer advice
\ and opinions, IN regard TO matters with which
they are unaequainted, than lend their strength
where IL is most needed.
IL 10 great comfort 20 have In the kitchen q
handmaid. who u not only willing 10 belp 10 al
neeiful says herseif. but does not object 10 the
presence u here, ia what 90 many 0f this eiass
/ are pleased 10 consider their own domain, with
~hieh even the mistress of the house has right
to interfere" A great many American women,
especially those resident 10 cities. resign all par
iicipaiioB In domestic Affairs, particularly those
| of the kitchen department., because they cannot
SiiuAl Who feigBs there. But this IL q great mis-
take. IL the mistress Of the hspse resigns the
seeptef, che may be sure The maid will take u up.
A better way 10 20 train young servants into the
ways of the hoase-make them part of the family,
% the extent, al least, Of being Interested par
takers Of its of Trjoieing, and pursue the
even tenor and habits Of life A. matter q
course, they will quiekly adapt themselves 10 the
circumstances. IL they are adaptable an !, IL not,
the quicker they are got rid oi the better.
IL A. ..aN sN. a.
character Of the Christmas festival gives 90 IL one
of its greatest charms: bat IL alec uiiens greatly
the circle q its aciisitiss. After all the thnkng
and the buy ing the esttibg aud the making. the
keeping carefully, aud handling disersetiy, right
IN the nidst of the eh0yping aud mixing, the l
cleaning and the decorating, CONES the necessity
for ssniing assay ChFistInas cards aud ChFisimas
PACKAGE. Christmas hampers and Christmas bss-
ks;s. some of these 10 distant friends s0ne
10 poorer neishbofs. ani some. perhaps, 20 insti-
,Eions that rely upon the charitable for "Chrst-
mas Trees" and "chrisimas Dinners." The SO
taaa uho attend, % al the.e du;iss, uho brinyg
up her children % be her a.sistan;s 10 performing
them. u doing work for which Ia the fatufe they
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have laid the foundation q \ useful and happy
life besdes SLING the memory oi their yoEth uith
the mOs; pleAsarabie associAiions. Such boys and
girls never become vicious for they wiil have
an unfailing stock q suesi and wholesome insa- |
snees % draE from AID. Il any lapse shoald occur.
NAA fAFNtt " leNAAteA 70 the FtElt PAIN tf J
the memory q their home life and the desire . I
feproduee and peFpstuate u.
Not the least u the chrstmAs inaaenees 10 this.
that II strengthens heas ties and in these days
q clab laXEfy, Of iEdisitaAl seldshhess q temp.
tA;ions TO y0uns men o. live for themselves alone
until too late 20 retrieve their mistake. ii 10 e
great impoFtsnce % every good means 60 in 4
the atfraetiseness of domestic life and dif
ferehtats n from the gFsgaroas life q the hotel.
eiab and restaurant TIT. can be doae By per
sonAi effort the part Of woman only By
sPeeiss u heroie effort shoala IL be done. u need
bs. In the face q disc0aragemeui aud seeming 4
Bnn-a appreciation. Al things are beet done from l
a sense q duty. aud because they the right 4
things q be done. for thea they - relied i
upon permanently While IL they are . matter % Il
caprice. 10 please ourselves somebo1y else. the
act stops uitk the non existence of the motive.
Let every one de;eFmins 20 make Christmas for
some ore else. even " u does ret cone 60 herself
from the hands q others. We may nOt receive the
special Chrisinas gin but sc cannot be deprived
q the larger thfis;mss. that grand old ChristmAs
that tiis the air. that walks the streets that shines
through radiant eyes. thA, speaks through posm
and story. that fngs oai in chimes that Inspired.
that tnest beautiful of all anthems. ages Ani ages
Aco, % Peace Earth. and Good viii 10 Nee
Can words ever be made 90 mean more than these
predicate q fatar~ divinei Tkis is the
note which has sounded through all the centarie.
this u uha, Christmas mas; alsays mean for
Let a. bear ii constantly in miHd let il make sur
NhenElte more kiuif cur e9f1s more gentes our
hearts mere free from se'hshness aud bitferaes..
ima gine what the World wsald be IL Il Vas all
peaee. and coed will; Il wosld be heaVsa, Let
~ not add 10 the notes q discord that mar a.
Let not our Christmas at any rate be tainted With
uHwot,hine.s bot let us keep u bright that
good wetaan's dollars; che. uhtn . friend
marked their eieArnes.. shl crispness, when she
wss paying tos Chri'taAs purchases. said; "ls..
dont like 10 pay for gifts With dirty OF dis
agared money save my bEiehses, and ciesnsst
msnsy to give away. and 10 pay for gifts TOT
sonehos IL seems like 0eerins my best even
though the sum be small that give. or pay"
That l. the true spirit. aud u Is this whish
makes all labor In connection With Christmas.
light. But we eannos kcrp Chris,mas ~erthiiy "
we do not live mp 20 u ;hrough the year. We all
kn0s the woman nos n days uhe elves mp 10 her
blue china" she subordinate. other things TO her
passion for the aesthetic idea. lie, as make pas
sion e duty .-ef the Christmas idea; let shape
expenditure thst the social festival. will have
their place and let Us put personal labor. aud
personal service into our Christmas. tide celebra-
tan. 80 that u will express our love- and no; be
mere dram upon other person's pocket lavish
display of their generosity.
This u not intended excuse for the sel6sh
ness of men uho appropriate the whole sf the in
come, and gradsinsly dole gu, shat !. required.
aud no more treating their hAfd. wives
With less confederation than servant maids. and
refusing oftcn the most reasonable demands Tor
such fands as Eeelei ter family festival and
social purposes. Saeh men arc not ~ o. be hns
bands OF fathers; they not q, 10 participate in
the miiienniai strain whieh al this one season ef
the year rises from many hearts and their
wiSes. and those dependent upon them, sub
jects for the pFofoandest pity. Unfortunately. u
Is not because women fail In duty that men are
hard; often u 10 the hes, women Who are tortured
By hardness. and meanness. on the part cf their
husbands; and vics serss. the sel6sh indolent 40
man, Who receives the most kindnsss and indul. /
genee at the hands of her husband. But this 10
not because goodness creates Its opposite bat be-
cause nature In bringing together opposites, pre-
serves the euilibrium of ts forces and leaves the
individual man and woman to deal with them a.
best they may.
Al have something 10 bear; bat do not LEI Il
mar our efforts 10 make Christmas joyfal season;
or prevent Us from an endeavor 20 obtain that Il
mastery over ourselves, our own passions, our own
tendencies 20 evil will most surely bring nearer
that happy time when peace and good vii shall
reign upon the earth.
ec-ne was bachelor, had Travelled extensive.
ly and could speak any language. dead or alive.
bat when be rcturncd home the other day and /