Mexico weekly ledger., 1881-06-30
HOME TROUBLES.
Household Dept. in Toledo Biade.l
Like ships that sailed for sunny isles,

AAAG SoSpS tuat 21lie0 Tor sunny isles.
But never came to shore"
Their names are legion. With Aowin,
sails. the fairest breezes, the bluest skie
and the smoothest waters, there seems n,
earthly reason why the blessed haver
should not be reached. And yet, the,
never come to shore. Worse still t
think Of, the tempest which drives then
to the bottom is largely of their OWL
creating. The cloud, not bigger than
child's palm, that appeared above the
horizon, is watched and nourished until
it spreads we the whole heavens, shut.
ting away all of the glorious beauty that
shone upon their launching, and storm and
darkness drive theEa farther and far.
Their away from the Sunny isles"
These ships freighted with precious
treasures, waited with soft breezes,
smiled upon by everything beautiful,
and then lost in midnight blackness, or
if the storm is outridden float unwieldy
hulks shorn Of their grace and loveliness,
are simply types of hundreds and thou
sands of the marriages in our land which
begin with the brightest hopes and end
in despair. And It does not help the
matter to think that the misery, which
may or may not be patent to the world,
might have been avoided.
Is there NO remedy? Wan and weary
wife and mother, looking 80 hopelessly
through the drifting years, it rests per
haps in your own hands. We do not
want to add one pang to those you suffer
daily, and yet the surgeon, ere he can
cure. must apply the knife, cutting deep
sometimes and close to the vital parts,
Years ago when . bonnie lassie-how
changed you are now-smiling and hap
py you gave yourself and your future
into the hands of the man who, with
loving words and fond caresses, had won
your maiden heart. Little thought of
the responsibilities you assumed went
with the act. Life with him must be
full of sunshine. The lover would be
the lover still, patient with your whims,
watchfui of your words, devoted and ad.
miring always. You did not recognize
the fact that he could not nor would not
always be keyed up to the state which call
ed forth such passionate manifestations
OF his love, normal as a wooer, abnormal
as a winner. You could not understand
that apparent alteration might change
into a tender. fervent but undemon.
s~trative affection, and you not be the
loser; that though feryent rhapsodies
were gone, the heart of the plain, matter
oi-fact business man was more truly and
ship.
Not understanding this change from
the adorlng lover to the prosaic husband,
And 1t comes in nine cases out of ten
what did you do? Look back and think.
without stopping to consider whether
the man who had gathered your young
life into his, did exactly right or not
we mean to talk sharply to him by.and- I
by-haTe you done the best that was
possible to accommodate yourself to cir
cumstances, to make the home freside
pleasant, and win the dove of peace to
brood over the family circle7 Did you
not chafe and fret, at first inwardly, and
then outwardly at the change, until it
has become a habit to take a distorted
view of your whole life, and its sur
roundings? Do you not make your hus-
band and children feel that you are in
some sense a martyr, whom they are
continually, though unintentionally,
crucifying? Are you not a perpetual
killjoy. to them either by your gloomy
or your irritable, peevish words?
not the habit of feeling yourself in
. sense Injured, begotten q correspond
ing habit of fretting, which has grown
as natural as to breathe? Do you not
let little things make you lose your pa.
thence and say hard, harsh things that
must sting and sting long after yon have
forgotten them, if they strike upon a
sensitive heart, either of husband
or child7
If your home is not a happy one-if
your married life seems a failure-if
your husband grows more and more in.
different, mentally ask these questions,
md do not spare your own pride in the
Then 60 to work and conquer
That will be a victory worth
Cultivate smiles instead of
frowns; pleasant words instead of fretful [
Dnes. ;
1t may bet is possible-that it is too !
late to revive the love that has died out
of your husbands heart. God help you, I
# that be so, but it is more likely that it
IS only chilled, and will revive again un- +
Ter the sunshine of your good nature. .
And in any case, you will be lifting .
yourself into a better, purer atmosphere,
where you can help your children far ,
more than when fretfully ploughing
through a slough of despond. !