The Stark County Democrat. [volume] (Canton, Ohio) 1833-1912, 1881-09-15
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MATRIMONY.
A Plain Talk to the Girls About the Most Import
ant Epoch In their Lives.

Girls you want husbands. Don't deny
it it is silly. 1t is like the earnest dec.
laration of the mother who is managing
her daughters through Saratoga, New
port and an endless round of parties, but
who declares constantly, in the most
earnest way, that she has no more girls
than she wants, that she could not con.
sent to lose one of them, and who, at
,ength, when pressed to part with dear
Arsbells, gives reluctant and painful
assent, and who may be seen on the
wedding day penetrated with irreconcils.
BILE great at parting with her dear child.
Girls, don't join in this farce You want
husbands. You think of them by day
and dream of them by night. You talk
of little else. Think on and dress on.
Even if you never get them it will make
you better and nobler to think about
them. On our side of the house we are
thinking and dreaming Of you, and, al.
though We may never marry, our heart
will be warmer and purer for having
been filled with thoughts Of you.
Stand with me at my Office window
and see a lady pass. There goes one
Now isn't she pretty obieCtP A big
hump, three big Jumps, a wilderness of
Crimps and frills, a hauling up of the
dress here and there, an enormous, hid.
eous mass of false hair or bark piled on
top of her head, and on the very top Of
that, a little nondesCript thing, orna-
mented with little bits of lace, birds
tails, ETC.; while the shop windows tell
us of the paddingu, whalebones, and
springs which occupy most of the space
within that outer rig, In the name of
all the sweet, simple sentiments which
cluster about home, would ask how a
man is to fall in love with such a com.
pound doubled and twisted, starChed,
comical, artificial, ouch me not, wiggling
curiosity. This dress checks your move.
With that wasp waist your lungs,
stomach, liver and other organs aqueez
ed down out of their place and into one.
bslf their natural size, and with that
long trail dragging on the ground, how
can a man of sense-who knows that life
is made up of use, of service, OF work
take such partnerP He must 5e des.
perate to unite himself for life with such
a deformed, fettered, half breathing or.
nament, If 1 we're in the matrimonial
market, l might marry awomsn that had
but one arm, or one eye, or no eyes at all,
If she suited me otherwise; but 80 long
as God permitted me to retain my senses
| ,ould never join my fortunes with
those of woman with a small UaiSt.
A small waist l am a Psychologist,
and know what small waist means. 1t
means the organs of the abdomen jam.
med down into the pelvis; it means yhe
organs of the chest stuffed up into the
throat it means weak back it means
delicate, nervous invalid it means q
suffering patient, and not a vigorous
helpmate; they will get an invalid to
take care Of Besides this, bad health In
you, just 6 in men, makes the mind, as
we'll as the body, weak and efeminate.
You have no power, no magnetism. l
know you giggle freely, and use big words
such as "splendi )" lawful" etc.; but
this does not deceive us; we see through
al, that. The fact is, you are superficial,
affected and silly. You have none of
that womanly strength and warmth
which are go assuring and attractive to
men.
My dear girls, if you would get hus
bands, and sensible ones, you must dress
in plain, neat, becoming garments, and
talk like sensible, earnest sisters. You
say you don't care, you won't dress to
please men, etc. Then, as l said in open
ing this sermon, I am not speaking to
you. 1 am speaking to such girls as
want husbands and would like to know
how to get them. You say that tie most
8 nsib emen are ,razy after these bu,.
t., aiep of ia hion. I beg your pardon, it
is not so. Or asio ally, even brilliant
m II may marry a weak, silly woman
But to say, as l have heard woven say
hundred times, that the most sensible
meu marry women without sense,is sim.
ply absurd. Nineteen times in twenty,
sen ible men choose sensible women.
grant you that in company men are very
likely to gabble and toy with these over
dressed and forward creatures, but as to
going to the altar with them, they beg to
be excused.
Among the men in the matrimonial
market, only a small number are rich
and in America these very rarely make
good husbands. But the number of
those who are beginning lite, who are
filled with noble ambition, who have a
future, is very large. These are worth
having. But such will not, dare not, ask
you to join them while they see you so
idle, sill and 80 gorgeously sttired.