The Democratic advocate. [volume] (Westminster, Md.) 1865-1972, 1881-04-30
For Me Democrqtie Adrocate.
FALLING IN LOVE.
BY W. d. BIGGs.

subjected to some laws or controlling forces
but, on the contrary, it seems to be en-
tirely independent of ell law, and the sub
ject only of its own sweet will. The mos
sensible people fall in love in the mos
senseless way possible, and commit, unde
the influences of this singular phenomenon
the greatest absurdities.
Gay, happy girls fall in love, and be
come capable of the loftiest heroism, in
spired with the profoundest wisdom.
The popular notion of the durability Of
first love is great error.
True, there is always a tender associa
ton connected with the memory of early
love, it was so frightened, so timid. Sc
bashful, so different from all sensible cal.
culations
Probably the reader viii remember with
astonishment the stout, matronly woman
whom he meets at church or fair, was
once young, slender girl, whose every
movement he once watched with Jealous
eye, whose eyes thrilled through Every
nerve, whose every motion seemed grace
personiied, and without whom life seemed
a dreary waste-a desert.
There is no definite age at which first
attachment begins to develop itself. 1t
has been said that some children have suf-
fered all the agony of blighted hopes be-
fore reaching their tenth year.
Then again, the farmers pretty daugh-
ter does not marry the awkward, good
natured lad who helped her over the fence
and wrote tiny love notes to her while at the
country school, bnt on the contrary, some
smart, pulled up or spruce young lad from
the city. Why, because, which is often
laughed at as womans reason for doing
foolish thing, but there never was a
man or woman who could give any other
satisfactory reason for falling 10 love, that
has ever been heard Of
Some. people fall in love with the swift
ness and force of an electric shock, while
with others the process is more gradual
The smallest incident sometimes reveals
it, even so small thing as the love of sol
itude or moonlight reverie.
American girls have such an independ-
ent way of doing business, and consider
their occupations and interests so entirely
matters of their own exclusive concern,
that we dare scarcely venture an inquiry.
This statement was verified last sleighing
time, not many miles from this place,
while two ladies were out for drive, and
the horse ran away, upset the sleigh and
threw them both into the snow. Sleigh
riding Is one of those things which de-
pend very much upon circumstances for
their interest.
1t is not, generally speaking, adapted to
lovers at all. They like the "long, linger-
ing walk" in the summers twilight, or the
great happiness of tete tete by the
winter freside, aud have no desire to be
whisked off like fash of lightning, de-
posted in unknown snow banks and their
soft whispers lost 10 the jingle of the bells
1t has been said that all the sleighriding
Of a lifetime should be accomplished be-
fore passing the boundary of the twentieth
and only the memory kept as a
charm and JOY forever
Old maids take warning. To grow old
and frankly acknowledge it, to meet it cheer
fully as an inevitable necessity, and sub
NIT kindly to the loss of consideration, the
little sights, the questionings, the looks
nskanee, or at best, pity Of the still young
and beautiful, is a heroic thing for wom-
IN to do.
What woman ever reached her thirtieth
year without feeling of regret, and even
IF terror? if single. Her figure may
Till be round, her face still smooth, but
The sees lines creeping stealthily yet sure
y around the mouth, the lips have lost
heir freshness, and there is a patter of
mall approaching crows feet near the
corners of the eye. 1t is over and she
Knows it; youth is gone never to come
back. There are woman married and un-
married who will not grow old. They
ight time at every step and try to stave
lin of. They paint and powder with the
yraee aud talent of an artist, except that
n their anxiety to do it thoroughly, they
verde it. But, again, there are women
Who cannot grow old. The charm is said
o lie not in powdering and painting, but
n sunny temper" This is not secret,
lot something that is corked up and sold
or fifty cents bottle, but something that
yeryone may possess.
Young men are not likely to be caught
y girls who are so evidently on the look
ut for chance, any more than an expe-
fenced trout would swim up to bait if he
ouid see the fisherman, and know for
That purpose it had been put there.
1t is no use, girls viii be girls as long
S time shall last; they will commit thou
aud follies; they will get up undying
which will last sometimes a
ay, sometimes week, sometimes year
hey viii have several attacks of the af-
,ctions, just as children have the whoop-
lg cough and measles, during which time
hey imagine they shall never-and they
nall die. But they don't; they live to be-
pine quiet, sensible, generally great
cal too good for the individuals whom
icy called husband" Thank goodness,
ley will wear pretty dresses-wheneve
ley can get them. Are not the ideals of
ZEN always soft-handed, white-robed an
lis while falling in love-but after
ley are married, what then ? They asso-
ate them with six cent calico and peeling
)tatoeS.
Then let the girls enjoy their illusions
I'd decisions as long as they can. Let
lem fit and futter out their brief hour
butterfly existence, which has its own
larm in contemplation and retrospect.
gain, the utilitarian young lady is below
If in society as well as in the matrimonial
arket It's the butterfly that is surround
by admirers, and firts to her hearts
intent.
People often say that such girls do very
ell to flirt with, but they are not the kind
at men choose when they marry-but
at is all nonsense. Men generally fall
love as stupidity as possible, and marry
e object of their affection-if they can.
very curious and fortunate circumstance
is for men that Providence thus arrang-
it.
What becomes of those who are not
rts aud do not marry young. They are
lown as old maids-stAl at the worst, the
i maids lot is not wholly one of hardship
without its compensations. 1t is only
C useless, aimless, repining life which is
e ignoble one; life of occupation and
Dor is generally one of enjoyment also.
comes like flower in the shadow Of d
ok, like daisy in the Wilderness unex--
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