Daily Los Angeles herald., 1881-04-28
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partially true, though not truer
than its converse-that many man
is willing to marry woman of
whom he is not very fond, or, In.
deed, not fond at all. The idea in
3T1cc&od ia1oet man may enjoy
&t6e (Dci ~ ef WON an, AID love to
ss1lirtE with$,hert snd yet be afraid
g fronf prddebtih motives to make
= %E6F0ISWic6.S Ybis frequently hap
3 pens, but far less frequently than
might, be thought; and when IT
happens, the man is cautious and
inchned to reflect on the subject OF
hia aAeoti0ns and afnnlties. But
marriage generally has little to do
with reason, probably because IL
ought to have 80 much to do with
it-being determined, for the most
part, by instinct, impulse, passion.
As rule, doubtless, u man Will
marry any woman with whom he
ia habitually thrown in contact,
9:sDhetr there is no great disparity OF
years or ircumstances between
them, and when she knows how to
humoF his egotism.
The4oid d-fashioned notion that
men look with a totally different
eve on a.womau when they want q
We from what they look on wo-
ksnerally cannot be sustained.
- W61e there ore men ever in
4uest0f q couhubial partner, the
mass of them get such partner
without searching for her. They
are very apt to be surprised into
matrimony, or, at least, into mat
Z. rimonial !. intents-provided, OF
x course, that the matter be not
taken out of their hands by the
woman herself. No man is 80
likely to become engaged as he
who is pursuaded that he will
never be. He is 80 prepared Oh
one side for circumstances Of cer-'
tain kind that he is wholly un-
guarded on the other side for cir
cumstances Of an opposite kind.
a At the very. moment that he Is
c06fldent of'everlastings celibacy,
that he is rejoicing over his flee-
dem, sudden shift in sentiment
al environment, a word, blush, q
tear. q caress, decides his doom.
What kind of woman Is "a man
most likely to marry? A general
answer night be, any kind OF d
woman, the kind being largely de-
termined by .contiguity an oppor-
tunity. A popular notion is that
she who is prudent, conventional
domestic, has the best copjugai
prospects; while she who is iudls-
So Greet, obedisnt to impulse, fond OF
: pleasure, has the worst prospects.
Ancient spinsters noted for prim-
q heseS and matrons OF the solemn
aszs order, inclius to tell light hearted,
r0lTlcking girls that they are
throwing away good chances; that
marrying men are deterret by
their giddiuess from serious con-
sid9tAttpn of the main SUBJECT.
The1e are dra wD, 1t is asserted, to
Industrious, .dsmure, unworldiy
maidens, .who show at glance
that they are mat imoniaily fore.
= ordained. AS u theory this may
esS bSepecious, but facts do not heai
ssgsit 0ut-the contrary. rather. Men
=, prone to CO operative house keeping
: approve of the Industrious, demurt
unworldiy creatures; they thluk
they would make excellent wives
and wonder why come other mai
does not marry them. Bat they
setdom marry such women them
selves.
Why don't they? They couli
not tell if they ahouId try. They
know, however, that they dom
aud that they dJu't want to. There
seems to be Two sorts OF giris-,host
- that ought, because specially fit. tC
be married. and those that pevel
should and never will be, and ye
invariably get married. The for Il
er are usually the demure, indus
triouS unworldiy, dom mestic; to,
latter are the easy, careless, merry
imprudent, fro,icsome, saucy girls
- Of whom men become enamoreC
Tor no reason at all and in spite o
themselves. When man falls iu
love and can't climb out readily
he avails himself of marriage anC
Is often extricated thereby without
intending 1t. He Is no more logic
al in matrimony than in celibucy
the same thing that makes him
= lover turns him into husband
and he ia thrice blessed If be doe:
ssss not discover sharp and suddei
- difference between Lhe two. 1t i!
passion, not reason, an1 is calleC
~ sth6 divine passion. because IL is sc
- thoroughly human.
Men gsne rally like one kind o
woman and love an other kind
The one kind they are commonly
recommended to wed, and don't;
the other kind they are advised
not to wed, and do. Which is the
ssbetter-to take a wife because you
sesltke her, or to take q wife becaus se
you love her, Hymen alone knows,
ana he won't tell. If you do either
=. orsneither, you may repent. There
is no absolute safety in wedlock or
out of it. No mans experience is
good for another man, aud our eX-
perfeDce in erotic affairs is rarely
valuable; for every time man
"a fAlls In love-and he has great
alscrity in this way-the ac-
cident varies, though the effect
Is unaltered. No man can say
what sort of woman wi l
he his wife; and il he be wise lie
won't express any opinion on the
subject. He may cherish many
views and have maUy beliefs there.
- upon, hut the more Of these he has
the less likely they are to be con-
mmed. He who insists, in his
hscneior days. that his wife shall
- ne beauty, is apt to find her plain.
He'who cannot endure a woman
- without intellect surrenders to one
- never suspected of 1t. The devotee
oftorder, discovers himself mated
with the EN- bndiment Of confusion
The stick Ter for elegance sees, when
/. the glamour Of courtship has been
yHmoved, that. he is joined TO
doWdy:
fses Marriage goes, to q certain ex.