Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1881-04-09
MAY WOMEN vyoOi
Intelligent BiscussiOo of an Er,.
porfanG Problem.
tLibsrai Review.

Intelligent Discussion of an I'm
porfant rrObienR.
tLaberal Review
it ts generally Supposed TO be n dreadful
thing foG "a woman 20 .'Set her cap atr-in
other words. to afteulpG to WOO alsi VIVA
LaH. Ihose VINO air the cheap philosophy OF
Tue time, ana consider that there IS 10 law So
supreue AS etiquette, While they mold the
supposed DEGREES OF the omnip1IenC Mr..
GfuEay IN uetp reverence seem TO imagine
| That IL Is Inc duty OF 9Th 10 hide from her-
! sen tue laca that Sue hA5 heart 0ntit some
! HheXcepuDha6le s0!Gor discovers it To her, aud
aIGeniiy protests that IL Is The one great thing
| Ia Tie World necessary 10 Lis happiness II
| Sue ventured to hint that she vas go anxious
! fof the affection OF some naie that she would
| do any thing within reason to secure him los
| her lord she would he accounted uDmaidenly,s
bold tLd what hot; and &c would, In all prool-
| bhity, De urged that she might be expected 10
| come 10 bad cDd. and serve as an awful
warning to all members of her sex who are
1Iclhea 10 lie uEdiSctp.fned.
But there is, D.yertheI Only too much
| reason 10 believe that femae human nature Is
| so weak and Wayward and impervlOus to the
colcehlrated wisdom Of the ages unaJ the
! emotions which lead 10 uatrimuny do not
always have their origin IN the bosons CT tIn-
| Passi0bed Deaux. Nov aud then II is soiemniy
recGi Ged, II shocked tones ami under the g,.il
ci stcItc5, SO that The terrible fact obtains al
| mCSb as lGuca publicity aS IL it @era pro-
| Claimed by he town-c rteT. and has a peculiar,
| delicious iiayOF impaired 10 IT, that Mrs Brown
| actually tomnit,eG the eno,mity OF making
| love 10 Mr. Brown, Il she did n3J ia plain terms
| invite bim 10 become her husband it IS
con paIatiyely unimp ftaat that she and 1er
| mate appear 10 D. as HAPPY ana 10 get on AZ
we'll together as they would, In all pro oabl N.Y.
| nave GOue II he had been the first ID feel the
STAB OF Master Cuplds dart, and had Warmly
| taken the Initiative III the cour ship. lJ Seems
| 10 be ht Id that the Only plea which may ao-
| pTCpI1atejy be urged ia excavation OF her con-
ouct is that she Teo.cej Ia tue posses sloa OF an
| abutGaLcs OF peif and a certain position
| While lis social stains was as low as Ills purse
was lghI; ana even this plea has to be haadled
| With adroitDesS II iL Is TO become effective.
| Indeed, AT a critical moment wnen they
| have all the touching details OF the exceptional
mater before them; they Will not hesitate TO
! speak III teTIus OF whitening ScOrn OF the Iratl
| female " no Is SO mach the slave or her heart
| that she is acting as II she desired 10 bring 10
her feet man who, from DashfuluesS OR some
| other cause, would tot, seemingly, get there
| but for her stimulating influence. Ii she fails
| LEY rejoice over her downfall, AID feeItng:y
| Gtciaie that she Will merely meet with ner
| dt SefiS II she GegenerateS into nerlected and
| pttuient Ole Mad. White If She Succeeds they
| vigorously DISCOUNT her Triumph Ga the ground
| thstt IL Is Gle OF WHEN any We'll regulated fe-
male ma W, YOU'D be tAofoughly ashamed. Toe
| members OF her own sex, when they cultivate
| JAc power OF intrCspectl0n and are becoming
| mature, should know how 20 make excuses Tor
| her. ale invariably her most vIrulent critics
| Even Dlf H. however, are disposed 20 show her
| no marcy, and there IL, probably. no more lofty
and vigorously indignant creature than the b.
for, but haue!s himself because be
| has not been caught by the
nalt which has been so tsmptingiy placed
neloIe nm. lie Would almost appear TO fancy
| tbai be should, Oh account of the way he has
! escaped the SHARES that have been spread for
him, be placed on the FOIL OF the WORLDS
heroes N0yelists are the most venturesome
| OF beings, and they have tOndness for L0uG-
| Ing cohVeEuonalhy; but there are bounds be-
| !OHd which they dare not go, and tney per-
| ceiTe how hazardous II would De for them to
| outrage popular prejudice by depicting lerones
| VINO TOOK the 1nitlAtlVe ia love affairs.
| Queen OF England Is al liberty to make an
offer to prIhce-iGdeed, it Is not etiq IeEte
| Tor q Prince TO make an off ~ 10 her-DuL she
| occupies quite an exceptional position, and tue
| TACT Is ohe Which heed not 10 be further con
! sldered In reference to the subject, espc oally
! as her marriage may generally be deeuaai to be
| largely Ii fluehced by state consdoration9 Thus
| every thing is against the woman wo3er and IL
| is not surprising that she remains something
| CT q TGl'a aus, and, when her heart proves to5
| strong fol- Der sense CT pr0pTeties, often works
| In cunning and crooked ways, as II she was
| bent Oh deceiying herself and not letting her
| leff hand know or the doIngS Of her right
Yet there Is after all. q good deal OF reason
| ard common sense On her side; so much that tt
| Is surprising the advocates OF the '.wOman'5
rights movement have yet to energetlcaly
| take up the cudges on her Behalf It IS ABSURD
| to suppose that affection muss inevitably be-,
with the man. It is equally absurd that he
alone must be at liberty TO win the being whom
he believes TO be necessary to mis- LIES happi-
ness. Tie Individual who allowed rich prize
to e!ude him because, through some mistaken
notion Of what people IN whom he was In no
way Interested and for whom ne did not care
joJ would think, he would not stretch forth MS
haEd ana grasp it when It was We'll within mis-
Teach, " ouid, very properly, be accounted a tir
SUBJECT Tor Co!ney Ha!cl or RainGiii Why
then, should Il woman BE- eeblrred from doink.
htr pest to stir the sluggish nature OF the being
Wncm she has, with the natural perYerSiEy OF
her sex, fallen In love with, and who would
she has every reason 10 believe, ne worthy Of
hel? she may see that II she VIII hold ouG her
nand he viii take 1t, but That II sne gives no
sign ne Will pass on. ahi tnetr lives. winch she
lonely ttiakS would be exquisite IL BLINDED, il
the lutufe lie far apart.
VIII It not be mel ely elem wisdom for
her TO cone down nom the uncomfortable
pedestal where all ner energies and emotions
are ciuetly cTamped, On which artifcIality has
ptesSicD that the Well-ilrectei IN aldea Only
discovers that she has heart when the right
nan asks for l.. Oh the contrary, we are Oh
opinion that many girls long, With all the in
tenstty OF fresh and ardent souls, for certain
inen as colsorts when no word Of love mas beea
Whispered IN their ears, and when 10 tokea
not few become broken spirited because the
chance OF their bright dreams being realized
vaElshes. AT present woman frequently for
feits her possibility OF bliss from the circum-
stance that she, owing TO her surroundings
AID sense OF what Is expected o. her. felgns
coldness which she is 1ar from feeling when
the man whom she loves, While fearing TO take
the final plunge, evinces some desire TO via
her favor Many would-be husbands hesitate
to say, WIN you marry me?n only because
the negative, and they shrink from 1ncurrtug
what they. would regard as a keen humli.
iat1on. OF course, 1t may be urged that
such craveps are unworthy OF womens
love, out the women have to be considered as
Wen as they, and the fact remains that not
W1thstanoing their obiiqIty OF vision and
coWardice, and the clumsy manner In which
they miscarriage their amours. they would ire
quentiy make true, tender and excellent nus
pandS. 1t Is pity, then, for all parties that
their shortsghtedness and stumbling should
oe permitted TO lead TO such disastrous conse-
quences, and their sweethearts might very well
pe allowed TO help themselves. Men have the
whole world to choose their wives from, but
women may, under the most advantageous
condition OF things. only select their mates
from the comparatively limited number OF men
VINO seek their society and deign to look on
lheln with favor. OF course IL may be urged
that the rough-and- ready system of natural
selection leads TO fever evils than might pe an
ticlpated-some enthusiasts may still maintain
tnat marriages are made in heaven nOtWith-
stanaing the fashion in which female humans
1ty Is hampeted and the ridiculously one-stIed
state OF things prevailing on earth-but that it
leads TO gigantic mistakes is certain, and IL ia
time the weaker sex were given to understand
that under certain conditions they may hello
themselves to crafty their legitimate and nat
ural longings.
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