The interior journal. [volume] (Stanford, Ky.) 1872-1881, 1881-10-21
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most cordial, aud no time should he lost II
giving her a warm welcome. II is th'
moment Of all others when she will fee
such q welcome most gratefully, and whe'
any neglect will he certain to give her the
keene-t unhsppine-s.
II l. the fashion for the mother Of III,
groom 10 invite both the family Of III.
expected bride and herself 10 q dinner q,
soon after the formal announcement Of the
engagement a. possible. The two families
should meet and should make friendships
at once This Is important.
IL l. to thes. near relatives that the
probable date Of the wedding day is first
whispered, In time to allow Of much con
-ultaiion aud preparation in the selection
of wedding gifts. In opulent families
each he. sometimes given the Young couple
q silver dinner service aud much silver
besides, aud the rooms q the bride's
father. house look like a jewelers. shop
when the presents are shown. All the
magnificent ormolu ornaments for the
chimney piece, handsome clocks and lamps,
fan. in large quantities, spoons, forks by
the hundred, aud Of late years the 6ns
gilt ornaments, furniture, csmsl's hair
shswl-, braoele,s-sll are piled up in mos,
admired confusion. And when the invita-
ton. are out, then can come in the outer
world With their more hastily procured
gift. specimens Of chins, little paint
ings, ornaments for the person all are in
order.
A present !. generally packed where IL
!. bought, and sent With the River's card
from the shop to the bride directly. She
should .l~sys acknowledge IL. arrival by
q personal note written by herself A
young bride once gave mortal ohense by
not thu. acknowledging her gifts. She
said that she had 50 many that she could
not ind time to write the notes. Thi. vas
considered bo.siful aud most uusrscious.
Gi6. which owe their value 10 the per.
sonal taste OF industry Of the friends who
send a.. particularly complimentary. A
piece Of embfo'dsry.s painting, awaier-
color, are mo-, hattsring gifts, as they
beloken long aud Predetermined interest.
No friend should he deferred from send
Ing a-msll present, one not representing
money value because other and richer
people can send more expensive one.
ohsn The little gll' remains az most en-
dsar'ns aud useful souvenir.
nor sho~'"s tue wedding gus, 'hst !.
'h'"g which mus oe lett TO individual
taste some people d'-apPro's OF IT, ana
oon.'dsf ~ o-'enia''ousi others have
iAFEs ro"" devoted 10 the display OF Tue
presents aud " Is certainly smnsing 10
s'A"'ns them
A' tor the conduct OF The engaged par
d"f'ng Their engagement our american
mammA' are apt 10 he 'oins~hat more
'en'sn' IN Their 'is~' OF the liberty TO be
a''@"eu 'hsn are 'he thgi'h' wan the
'A's'' 10 Young iAdy |" allowed TO dine
A'ons VAN he' FlH'ee' mere must De
ssf'sntoeh'hd' NO Young lady must visit
IA 'hs A"'ls oil hsr AaAes, Unless he has
mother !" receive her Nor Is she allow
ed 10 ~ To The 'hea'er alone With him, or
10 ua's' under his escort to stop at the
.slie hotel OF ~ relax one OF those rigid
rule. ~h''h severe ehaPsfon would en-
iores; snd I" must he allowed that this
severe and careinl attention to appearances
Is IN The best Taste
IS 'o' Tue engagement ring modern
'..hio" pre'er'oe' a diamond solitaire
~h'eh can range IN price FROM $50 to
s<'"'V, ihe matter OF presentation "s
secret between the engaged pair
Evening weddings do not diner from
Gay weddings essentially, shoep, that the
ofisegroom wears an evening ire---thst
IT, dress coat aud white eravat, black
Pah'aioon' and vest
u 'he wedding |" 81 nome the space
where The bridal paHy Is to stand is
usually marked oil by a ribbon, and the
clergyman comes down IN his robes before
the oridsi pair They lace him, aud he
faces the company. iiassocks are prepared
Tor then TO kneel upon. Alter the eere-
mohy the clergyman relire-, and the bridal
party take his place, standing TO receive
their friends congratulations.
should there be dancing at wedding,
u Is proper Tor the bride 10 open the hrst
i"adfiils with the best man, the groom
isne'"s with hrst bridesmaid. IL Is not,
ho~e'sr very customary Tor a bride to
iahes' OF Tor dancing to occur at an eve
hing wedding.
Alter the bridal party return from their
wedding tour the bridesmaids each give
them dinner OF party or show some at
'sn'ion' II they are so situated that they
can do So The members Of the two
families also each give dinner TO the
young couple
II " nov very convenient and pleasant /