River Falls journal. [volume] (River Falls, Pierce County, Wis.) 1872-2019, 1881-01-06
Falling in Love.
H.l;ll AIooay;na

Besides the first tumultuOus passion
caused by mere bodily fascination,
there happily are possible some glori-
Gus later fallings in love over again
with the same person for mere lasting
reasons, after the physical charm of
superficial aspect has more or less ex-
pended itself There is scarcely any
limit to the extent to which domestic
association can be freshened by the
progressive discovery of compatabilitics
Of character, or the repeated elicitings
of ever-new admiration on the score of
mental and moral excellence in those
1 nearest to you. The occasions for these
later better wooings are unpredictable;
at times they are long deferred and
I often they ask the suffering of joint
trials to give the opportunity. But,
whenever any reappreciatiOn of height
ened mutual value of this kind takes
place, the friends and acquaintance Of
the parties see, with surprise, that
there is a pair of married lovers on the
hearth. At these rejuvenating times
the faded personal charms my even be
noticed shining forth afrcsh; if with
less ulster, yet with more clearness and
serenity than at the first.
II the physical charm is gone, or if it
was never greatly there, the absence of
it will be replaced by the sweetness of
a wise conviction that it was not indis-
pensable; and if the obscuring Of the
| bodily frame has been caused by
trouble bravely borne. a pathetic rever-
| ence may even exult over the marks,
idOlizing them as dearer than the
| trivial, unearned projections of beauty.
A pair who have passed through much
grief together if only they have gone
| through it well, making some sacrI-
| fees for one another, must in the end
| come to love one another in this quite
but lasting style. The ideal picture of
| human love now family offers itself be-
fore us. In perfect example, youth
| full pair would have their glances first
mutually drawn together and brightly
entangled by the physiological affinities
prompting bodily admiration for mere
| beautv's sake; and, before the rosy
shame naturally attendant on that en-
barrasing confession had quite faded,
a new reciprocal discovery of inner,
more personal merit should succeed !,
while time in its long bringing of the
mixed events of fortune, should ever
and again add new pathetic cOrsecrat-
ings affections from inevitable woes
casingly shared together.
1t is easy to see that in such an IN
stance the mutual attractions, as they
succeed and accumulate, become
knitted closer and closer; they are not
so much renewal. of fitfully weaken
| ing as fuller developments Of it with
strange softenings and heightenings Of
tender and gay and solemn reminis-
cences adding thems elves perfectly at
every stage. But who can nationally
hone for such a complete realization Of
tie ideal love as this? People in gem
eral have to be content with one or the
other of these events. To some this of
the series falls, and to others that; the
humber thankfulness which comes to
be felt by most OF the arrangement
seeming to arise from finding that,
where the first chance has been ga.lssed,
the latter ones may possibly be enjoy
ed in some hap or other of their sue
cession. This throws little light up
on the subtle casuistries Of the matter
Of love. 1t is standing question, for
instance. which each new generation of
maidens persist in keeping alive,
whether any subsequent falling In love
can equal the irst2
Those among the older people TO
whom fortune has been unkind in that
early chance, try hard to get some pos