Washington standard. [volume] (Olympia, Wash. Territory) 1860-1921, 1881-04-15
Uncle Ned'S Talk to His Nieces.
WOnlan'S Journal.

There are some things which I do
not like to see. For instance, when
my wife Susan and I were Jogging
along the road, the othar night, we
met Mable and Harry coming home
from an afternoon drive, and, ill.,
stead of sitting up properly in the
carriage, Mabel seemed to be in his
arms. The graceless scamps did not
mini us any more than couple of
chick rs, for they did not change
their position nor seem scared nor
ashamed to be looked at.
L" 1 never!" said l, as soon as we
got by. She ought to be ashamed
of herself" said my wife Susan.
Mabel and Harry are mere boy and
girl. If she does not know any bet
t'r, nor have any more modesty nor
delicacy than to be driving over the
country roads with young fellow S
arm around her and her head on his
shoulder her mother had better keep
her at home washing dishes and
mending stockings.
The other day, when was wait
ing at my son Johns door. a merry
lassie from the next house was chat
ting in the parlor With an old, young
man, who is quite beau for all the
ladies'; all at once he pulled her
down il bis lap and kissed her, and
she did not seem angry at all. |
suppose l am "oll-fashioned' in
my ideas, but it did not look we'll.
If | was going to marry that girl, l
should not like to think such fellows
had kissed her when they chose. l
tell you, girls, such doings are in
bad taste; they are countrified and
ill-bred if they are not improper.
Suppose the man is respectful and
means nothing bad. Such familiari-
ties are like brushing Oft the delicate
dew from the grape, by careless
handling. Keep your sweetness for
the real lover, and let Tom, Dick
and Harry understand, "hands off.
You can be gracious and winning
and lively, and yet repel personal
liberties. Some gentlemen can nev-
er do anything for you, never offer y
courtesy nor how an attention with
out touching your hand, taking you
by tho shoulder, or getting hold of
you in some way. They are not men
of genuine delicacy and reverence
for women. They are fond of ladies'
society, but they do not make wo-
men better, nobler or purer.
Look out for the man who wants
to make tsister' of you. What
right has he to use all lovers free
dom and intimacy of intercourse and
give you only the thousandth part of
his heart? Such man has usually
q great many sisters" y our ca
resses and ailtctionate familiarity are
worth a great deal more than he gives
YOU in return. Frank and friendly
and helpless you may be, and yet
keep a maidenly reserve of your fa-
vOrS.
And beware of the man who talks
love to you, and SO claims right to
caresses and familiar freedom, yet
never asks you to marry him. A
lover, who never means to be a hus-
band, is a mean man. He pretends
not to believe in engagements, and
so does not bind himself in any way,
but expects from you a lovers priv
ileges. You give him everything, :,
and he gives you-what he has often
given and is even now giving to
o Tiers who believe in him as foolish
ly as you do.
You need not be prudish, that is
an atfectation of modesty and delica-
cy; be modest, refined, pure and de-
licate. Make rudoness, coarseness
and personal liberties impossible in
your presence; make men better by
being better yourselves.
A TRAMP was looking wistfully into
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