, 1881-10-30
Education and Social Culture TO Hand i'll
Neutrality-suspicious. to
=. Dress Well.
The Matrimonial Events Of the Week Here
aud Elsewhere-Prospective
Bliss.
Social fappeninqs-Private Parties and Rc-
ceptions--Whal The Clubs Are
Doing.

1cL u II -1CE: Nt* NJ au s&@AA' *>o+
Therefore I'll none OF it
Such verdict has been rendered time and
again with regard N e,i1uet- Why should w.:
follow airy given rules, or acknowledge an: @s-
1ablishcu Laws, hy~, which VIC must walk. talk,
rise, Or sit: Are VIC. Of the higher class not
born polite. are We hot taught from our ear
lest Childhood. 10 be- respectful one to smother?
Why, then, must We he subject to certain rifles
which leach us TO cultivate artificial expression,
cold foru,ality. and the ceremony or studied
manners which characterize tilr fashionable So
cictr to follow tt.s3,Uic laws which throw 4
deadly chill nycr the i,cs: anu war1ntsf feelings
Of tho hearts system which flt Institutes vanity
xud exclusion for the principles 81 wisdom:
That this is Il great mistake will 5c allowed
l.y all wis. and cultivated peoptc. The great
xal.:c Of the s. social laws is, Ton little
understood. Education is the fos.Cdatinn OF all
guo1. intellectual education has taken the pFt-
tc4leuce for y..ars. enu the distinction Will be
obvious to every one: se:trcEing 1hohEnI anu
discriminating. Judgment must E!te ac1ucs-
eencc 70 the governing laws Of society. These
laws ere too ,nutl, ne.:.ested Instead OF fos-
1er;nS the growth Of <.nl'1re and refinement Tue
middle classes Ss,c1u 10 think the amenities of
society l:elous n..ty u, ,hnsc moving i'll tto very
highest circlcs-thbse crowned Dy wealth. 1iow.
tau enlightened people believe this when VIC
-t,ru to tho Hook OF all lfo"ks-the lHb'e-a1u
lind the elements cC organized society," of la'F.
III 11lo1.tls sta1npe. upon its uagcs: THE maui
fest object OF estueauon is 10 develop the 'ac-
,iitics which tod has given sas--to direct The
Judgment. to discipline The 1ase- TO strengthen
and purify. Ii refine and cnsl:tl.' fs'l:ls'aAou
is the triumph Of tho tuin'l. and rolsic-
Hess IS tue governing: quality wllith
constitutes the specific Difference bcswren
euarsenes$ and futttire'. icil:1ti'1:i1t alld
vnlsa.i'y- Manners. Ia highly cultivated minds
AMI m"ans, are "na1 tlr:sa,, AUD .sra...iuii
IL. ny.
face. Atuuuc1's. uni k;u%tteir 1T he ante-
tiles IF society, are siuns The rtis'isa',onfi ~ p'F
ha.s.,w and refine. Tat u.nsl .na'rfiy manners
are these which hest :cieet the law 81 ,n:e. or
So:!t:,nt,on. TOR our , ;o ieoSst'tr' s;,,... ;,,
taken my s.a.sh,er from: Nis$ --s st'ht."l: !!
Miss - has .:.ssmitt,cd iu4o the schGol 4 !
work on eti1uct- which is positively one of ttie !
studies cacsl class hi,ir,:. to icar., and recitc
different ri.ics .l,c'. q week. cannot aunrd 10 !
nave NV daughter Waste her titnc such arti
ticiul cxtcrn:11s. | hope my daughter Knows /
solnetf1fu. nI DGlittn2S*. ami *he wtii sann BE-
<:,ine oc}uaint:i with the reui:ed rules
think Il prtpa::.1,ou s,n:":c entering society !.
would be less e.,,t,a'las- ing 10 hcr: How much
better TO fec! perfectly s1rr Of 3ust no" you
should do than TIC found wanting 'n the very
threshold: tllt. amenities will then f'c fahi1Ia
aud come, 2s It were, tro urlnciple. :'H.t1nx i
charm by the gF:He attending 'he ars'o:,. @
>" consider these ornamental trlnrhf"S, lo l3
learned after the tnors ntt4'Ssiry trar''neS are
thoroughly intust.atct- ........-
the principle III good brec''ing: II is law which
Elves scnc 10 the mind, anu directs ~ holiness.
1t properly Taught. sta las am :lo,it p';lc-
Jug my daughter in schoo!-scnh her 10 Miss -
III once .
livw different would society ne tt'.lay i thi;;
study were adopted lit schools. VI. shn,,;l lind
mat, from principle. each one would l'c :1ni-
1o,1,.y mindful Of the convenience. rotl!or1,
aud cn!oy;1*nI pf n1hrts. rather thun h> "a oF @ nes
higher classes only. hur we should scc it OH
every hand. |
Courtesy is q Christian accomplishment 10
omit established requirements has often teen
the means at Masking iasltlig EnnOs:tirS. 1.ut
YOU nlay o!Icn'1 in man! vays-i1i your manner, |
nrcssons. even, mag give oifen=e Avoid. Of ..il
Things, y,1lrarty. i VULGAR person cannot cx-
l'ect 70 find eon*euiaty in the les, society. 10
affect l,eclurirr III anything; 10 '.I so is
very bad taste. and but few pc"plt t':ln atoT!
the attempt Always remember that society
requires equality either real or apparent. n!tr
;:.:arest Dhiicsophcrs we're not,, IL a general
sue, men OF gf"ri manners. aud often wc iiu.4
'nen Of $cniss men of great talents. very ha't-
ttst:ial qualities how mitch more brilliant woElt.
their talents appear: huw much the polish and
culture OF stscioty would a!u eau hardly he
not entitled 10 all rniti4 :llns't1g the wcll-irea
withorr culture. ike wealth, "ycner-
astr OG its posst=s:nr. end gives cnvy tt1 nhi.-ct
10 sreer at Wealth Ii 4 great acquisition IN
@s an; on, ' ,asa nl small
shall es,ta gatherings 81 any kiu,t. where ftr-.
In:alty is superseded by an easy aud pleasant
How Of cunvoasxtinn more 10 o,lr taste and in-
:linntion. II is not Inces-:ry for every one 10
lurc 4 carriage befor: he can gain All cntTte
- 12a wa W VIE tie t M n1eHt snS bran1 n1
stars, indeed
Meanwhie. opinion pitas ewlta varying rays
Those lain1ed clouds that th:autify our days. /
4 certain writer tells US that "arleuuon to,st>-
ails is tho trne sign or Il great mind, and that
ae who can, in necessity. consider tho smallest
S the SAME San,s man who can compass tnn
constrained tn say that. in this .pur-
ocular. 100 little attention Is given.
Ms ina any people Mho 9rc;f Se and sysn
points, look anything but dressed. IAN any, /
hing be more painfully ridiculous than to sec Il
si,h one costume: And yet VIC have seen This, !
md. arc soTEy - say os. iny who really has :.
:laIT to be called sensible Il was the srs;!tt ct
Every person should lc as well dressed rs nossi-
DC This is Indispensable in good society. AVOID
occasions, an. never dress in loud auU slarin, !.
manner This Is very vulgar, and not to bc:t.l-
Is being well dressed, We mean that which is | {
appropriate to different occasions. For morn
ny co=1nmc there IS great liberty. and lady
:an 1t :.ll times and unae, all circumstances
ook we'll the present ,not1e OF dress being I
18th becoming and sensible. A wt.l'-1rf- |
soman viii always dress il mode. = person ot
1nry occ1sio1s. >eTft.y, except for full tytrl- !
IL drssr bcs1ca!:s love q display and IS. ,f !.
crtnincd at one time to- wear nothing hut gray;
llso that Lord lsrou.ho1s had great partlality !!
u checked trousers. \ Napoleon or = Bruu.h- | {
III might affect slngular11y- but it was exces- !
lively had ta3tc- even III t1lG'Iu. i different
uruc Is required 1or every season, hI1 ulary f!
occasions demand more or loss elegance OF Toll
t. 10 b. +llcssesi and TO 1,r well trs.SsH4E. arr.
wo quite different things. To ie well dressed ! !;
to he dressed with the most scrlpulolls TASTE,
= ihe occasion requires. but aiwaSs i'll E0..
:onsu]t rol1r cninptcaiu DsEt, figure, age, n3d ! 4
Ositlor. he rather distinguished FOR :or ,111!ct
implicitly: Near your clothes gracefully. as / II
hcu.h they were n,:t.it for y0ll and you were r
comfortable In thc.u.
VIC read OF the torture If evening IrcsS. l.
iii Et'e no reason why shnu4i he in
Misery 'secauSt. she is elegantly dressed. t}n the
thcr band if h:r dress is appropriate, and |
roper consideration has a,cen given IN the
aeilts!nE OF coloES 10 warrant It's bcay hccon- ]
~. she ought to lie very comfortable alto J
ether. tor what Il more attractive Than hca,,-
tfnt: wonlan. Hieg:nlly Attired? We :,rn re- ( Il
nEIcd 0l some grand painting, ur all Italian &
tune Even hnmc1y people dress TO look prct-
! in evening costume and they should fcel Il y
p;de in looking their hest. S.yiLlr
y =: "a AI!ATE1AON1AL EVENTS. j.
a1r. anl Mrs. L. r. Newbrrrr gave 3 most ::
leasant and enjoyable reception THURSDAY Y
vcn!u, the 18th iust- at their parlors On Huh Y
ard street. il honor Of tho marriage OF 1heir y
atsltte1, Anna +: !. Hcngcf. The presents "