The Ouachita telegraph. [volume] (Monroe, La.) 1865-1889, 1881-06-03
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1t has been an old complaint with
men Of a grave and serious turn of
mind, that women do not caro- much
for gifts Of mind, and that any young
fop with few ideas but fair presence
can take Il girl away from the most
gifted of ugly philosophers. Attrac-
lions of person always impress; attrac-
tiOns of character very often, mental
attractions very seldom, indeed.
But if this be true in regard to women
it is quite as true in regard to men.
There was a capital little article going
the rounds of the press recently in
which it was shown that men seldom
marry women they like, but rather
women that they admire. At a party
pretty girl without single idea in
her head will captivate twenty men,
while a serious and sensible one with
out remarkable attractions will be
neglected all the evening.
There is, of course, natural cause
for things, which confirms to a certain
entent the theory of physical selection
and the survival of the fittest. 1t
might be supposed, however, that per-
sons of opposite sexes but OF the same
character would naturally be drawn
toward each other. Such is not the
case. We find the most gifted women
marrying men without any culture;
while the scholarly and brilliant mem
bers of the masculine class generally
seek pretty and snowy wives rather
than highly intellectual ones. There
is also a certain small class who motto
ing these things, and despairing of be-
ing able to find suitable companions
remain unmarried all their lives.
Their natural reason and tastes prompt
them to seek the love of cultivated
persons; their whole physical being
urges them to seek beauty. They
would be very happy could they find
both allied in the person OF a wife or
husband; but all the chances arc against
them. Whether thought is inimical
to beauty we do not pretend to decide
but it is at least certain that great
intelligence is seldom coupled with
remarkable physical attractions in the
civilized world. Moreover the law of
natural selection seems to be constantly
working against such unions. Learned
men are continually Tilted or refused by
cultivated women in favor of some
mentally commonplace but handsome
rival; and women Ofgenius are bitterly
disappointed to find bewitching but
Anticipated girls preferred to them.
Those inclined to marry persons they
only admire and have a sincere friend
ship for, seem to fear that they would
be unhappy all their lives, whereas the
opposite is generally the fact, Those
who marry persons that inspire them
with passionate love, imagine they
will be- very happy; ana unfortunately
they very seldom arc.
So far from being true that passionate
love is an Indispensable preliminary to
Il happy married life, tho contrary is
generally the rule. Marriages contract
ed under the influence OF reason rather
than passion arc generally very happy,
when reason is the influence upon both
sides. Tho man says to himself, per-
haps: "This is an Intelligent, kind
hearted, gooa-natured, healthy girl.
who feels the deepest and trucst friend
ship for me; and although am not
crafty in love with her, l know that
will never find any other woman who
could make me happier She, per
haps, reasons: "lIc is not the type of
man I have dreamed or--not my hero;
but he is good and kind, and sensible
and Industrious, and 1 could never find
Il better husband" They marry rather
through friendship than love; but
association dccpens the friendship into
that affection which makes each ncces-
sary to the others existence, and which
never grows cold, but strengthens with
time. The love that is passion burns
out as quickly as straw fire The
love that is friendship comes later; it
is longer in developing, but the richest
fruits take the longest to mature into
delicious ripeness.-N. O. CIy Item.
a woman ut Cape Girardcau, Mo-.
who had suffered from :, husbands
neglect, traced him to barroom,
where he was playing cards with sevc-
raj companions. Setting a covered