Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1881-01-19

The following appeared in the paper at
the Waterbury yceum published by Miss
Oracle Pickett:
SOME THINGS THAT ARE NOT IN THE
DICTIONARY,
nor in any hand book of etiquette, either.
The first is this: when You bave said
enough, stop" This is one OF the hardest
things for mankind to learn. Ii YOU get
of II 600 Joke, ten to one you will pro
coed 10 tell 1t right over again, tut nobody
will laugh MeS Time You spoil 1T by rep
etitiun. This is the great error of some
of the most eminent speakers. They
spoil IL good effect by talking alter they
have gone through their subj ct. Il they
could only learn that fine ART of sitting
down! Bat they can't.
When you have once gone over sub
ject, never make any rehash of the points
of argument. People us II general thing
don't like bash. Just So IN conversation
An eminent lawyer was II school commit.
tee, and II lady came to make application
for her sitter AS teacher. Well, she told
her story, showed certificates, said all that
Was to he said and made IL good mprcs
sion. Then there was Il pause. 1t was
time for her to 20, but she did not do any
such thing. Tie committee had olhel
business; he was uneasy; he even got ~
and walked toward the door, but the lad ;
did not take the hin,. She began anc
went all over the su ject again; finally go
up and went towards The door the stoppeo
and talked some more. She opened lh,
door and talked again. and finally left The
man SO disguised that her sisters chances
were spoiled.
The second is, to know when your cal
is ended. No matter how pleasant cal
you have, there comes time when there
is natural pause In the conversation, an,
that is the time for you TO go; but yol
don't go-you stay right along all tn,
same. OF course your friend is glad t,
see you; still she has a thousand and on,
things TO do that very af ernoon; he
bread in the tins may be, all ready fo
in the front chamber, the hired girl ha
let the fire get low, and is out chatting
with teamster over the garden fence
Yet you Stay right on, and on, while you
friend is inwardly suffering ii paroxysn
of tidgets. But if it be hard for you t,
learn WItcn TO 90, it is still harder to learl
how to go. Very few people know hov
10 get up and 90 out of house, takin,
leave in IL proper manner. They will ris
up and try 10 say good bye, but they can
somehow tear themselves off. They tall
and talk some more Then they hold TIN
door open and stand and talk till ever,
one in the room is chilled through; thel
go to the front door and open nev
subject and just begin to spend the day
A certain lady will hold her hostess at til,
door ior more than ! II hour at time
Some OF her friends have taken such cold
that they will last till warm weathe
lhaws them out. Good breeding require
that when you get rea y TO go, you jus
get up and LeaUe. Go right along, "EieU
en- nsarche." Rise up and walk
In making visits and calls it is grea
thing not to overstay your welcome. Es
peclally if your visit is exceedingly pleas
ant and your friends very glad 70 see yo
will you be in danger of overstaying.
And you, young man, when you 20 +
visit your Julalky" of Sunday night
keep good lookout ON the old clock il
the corner, and be sure and observe tn
signs OF the times, and don't, for the lit
OF ye. overslay. There is a proper tim
for you to 20, and il you keep your eye
open you will see when it is. Ever
minute you stay after that lessons you
chances. Your company may be yer,
agreeable ito your Mary Jane, but yoI
put the young lady in IA very embarrassln,
position by staying on and on after
proper time is past. No, sir; it is nc
good manners 10 sit and SIT and sit, lik
un old turkey on nest of added eggs
Till everybody is glad when they hear tn
gate clap behind you. Still, II the oil
man looks particularly good natured, ant
the old lady calls the children out of tn,
room, and the young lady turns the clocl
back, you may notice these things an,
infringe upon these rules just little.