The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1881-12-13
MORE MATRIMONY.
The Second Lecture o. Mr.. Van
Wagner on This Live
Subject.


Of ma,rilnouy and marrisge. The maiis o,
We little church will have to ic extended
to the four lines oil tine lot II Mr.. Nan
Wagner continues the live and interesting
character oil his sermons, AZ there !, every
Of people las, night exhibited 2 degr.. Vi
interest and a,tcntion rarely Ia Ice seen in
aide Of 3 church Til. sermon itee!f was
one OF the best ever heard III Sedalia.
The second chapter al Genesis eight. entii
we're, furnished the pertinent .ext OF tho
evening: And the Lord tod said, IL is
not good that the man should be alone
I will make him helpme.t for
him" Mr.. Van Wagner said: a,
the commencement oi nay lecture
this evening l wish to dwell more fully on
some points which | only partially de-
velor-d on last SUNDAY evening. Where
parents and friends are opposed Ia your
marrying 8 daughter or q son. Instead OF
being angry, sour, stubborn about a., OF
eloping or marrying secretly, make your
sell worthy Of him. or ner, or them. Pa
Genc-. good nature, poiiteness, viii gen
orally win them over. If they Sec You
really hsve affection ior each other snd
that you are worthy, obs.scie. viii gem
orally vanish. A worthy Young man OF
correct moral habits, OF industry sIr! en-
srgy. however poor; a worthy Young LADY
VI high character. lafy-iike, sweet i-Il-
p.red, good, will generally viz over The
old folks la time
RICH: here let ne lay - parents
however much vou Gay regret III
attachment your daughter has fO,med.
Or your sou; and though You NAV fsei
hound to break it Of! by all honorable
means, never. because 81 AL engagement, or
even marriage, turn child from your
door, forbid them your home, die"~n tr,in.
Ii engaged, they will be indignant, sad Are
ten times as apt 10 get married IT married
the deed is done, and or h3rshn.ss wall
not help matters. Severity Ifs aisxrs =
mistake What reason ami kindue IS will
not do, nothing will DO Never turn your
own flesh and blood from your door, how
ever erring they may be; never disc1u Il
child. 1t is terrible cruelty, ami yon will
zee and feel YOUR mistake some iav. Mike
the best of blunters- real or imagine, 81
NE part OF your children.
While, 81 said on last Sunday night
engagements should not be hasty ar c"n-
cealed, still, as q rule, they shouid n"; be-
too long. There are some exceptions
70 this rule, As where a young man is no:
yet capable of supporting vile, or has not
yet finished his studies. or where the Young
nan or young woman cannot leave home.
or are needed by their parents Il is WRONG
TO leave them under such circumstance
There are MANY beautiful instances oi Inen
and women waiting for years for ONO snoth-
or. But when no serious hIndsr2nc.. pre-
4 In n-a..
The matter is settled, aud it ought 10 hc
eonsumated. Some young people, Sener-
ally young men, do the plighted one gres,
wrong by delay, or changing the tine on
this pretext Or that. They keep the Young
lady out Of society, and harm her future
ch,nees Finally ooliness comes between
them and the engagement Is broken.
would say to all young ladies. when
there is no valid reason, no serious obsis-
Gle, and lover is in no hurry TO marry, hs
u not worth Visiting for. Drop him.
Do no. keep company with one you would
not be willing TO marry If YOU found al
lection in your heart for him or her. Make
that rule. Not that YOU are under any
obligations to marry the gentleman or lady
you occasionally keep company with. But
neither give 20, nor receive the attentions,
of one whom II YOU loved you would be
unwilling 10 uarTv. A man not good
enough 10 be your husband is not good
enough to be vour escort. L w0maa YOU
would H.; n.arry ~ nit aoyd enough for
you 70 keep company with. O course,
you may properly give attentions 20, and
receive the attentions OF, those who are
not to your taste Tor 8 husband or vile.
But ii under d. circumstances cUuld you
bring yourself TO marry them, refuse their
company.
Nothing is more wrong than 20 manifest
affection for one when YOU DO not ieel or
mean il. This is done sometimes to keep
the company vi another 10 The exclusion
Of everybody else, and sometimes out VI
pure meauness. some like 20 traffic IN hG-
man hearts-hsve half dozen hearts a. Il
time under control, and some are set
usted by still baser motives. thousands
have been trifed with in this manner. IL is
great wrong and brings untold suffering
70 thousands OF hearts, dries up the best
and noblest feelings and causes persons 10
lose faith in every body. In this matter be
6ncere aud earnest.
Do not keep company TOO long with one
you do not intend TO we'd. A couple must
associate together enough 70 know their own
hearts, and each others tastes. In your re
lat;or.s with esch other be your true selves.
Be natural, sincere, frank and ou:spoken
Do not feigh or assume anything. Be above
every artifce and trick. Make yourselves
agreeable, attractive and pleasant, of cours..
Do not pretend to be pious, unless you are
rich, unless you are; this or that acquire-
ment or expectation nniess you have. Let
L. cno huf vnu Ststtrul
deceit has led TO many unhappy marriages.
If man does not want you just as you are,
II lady does not want you just as you are,
you ought not to want them. When man
buys horse he wants to know what be is
getting. So does man when he gets a
wife, or wife q husband.
Do not form an engagement or marry If
you can help it. True love is omnipotent,
almost. II seeks cOnsummation in mar
riass. 1t listens to no hindrances, is OBJ