Connecticut western news., 1881-11-09
THE YOUNG MOTHER.
How to Develope Patience.

The patience of mother is 8 growth, development, just as truly as lan- guage is. Many young mother has found with surprise and misgiving that she is deficient in the quality which she somehow expected would come to her with her baby; she fears that she is lacking in the true spirit which moves and controls motherhood; she thinks there must be something radically wrong ln her nature when she finds that the mothers arms, which are said by the poet to be made of tenderness, are made also of muscles, that tire and ache as the child lies within them, and that the weight of a little head upon her breast is not always easily borne. She wishes she dared ask some older mother if she too were ever tired of holding her baby; if she too feels once in a while as if she would give anu4his.cr--A-e-PoSse TUT one night of the sweet, untroubled sleep of her girlhood; but she dares ask no one, for, more than anything else, she dreads to be thought an unnatural mother. It would help her if some wiser woman, knowing her heart, could say to her: "You are tired; now comes the reaction from the strain of body and mind which new duties have brought upon you; the day is not distant when you will feel different about all this;" and she might be able to give the clear meaning of the injunction to ''let pa tience have her perfect york;" to help her see that patience is not an accom- plished fact, something that one may get, at once and wholly. One way to help along the perfect work is to dwell in one's mind upon the wide distance there is between the little child and the grown man; to prevent oneself from ex- pecting too much of the child, and to cherish the belief that in many cases the irritating and querulous complaints of a child grow out of some inner trouble you do not comprehend.
 Many a poor child has been whipped and sent to bed and been looked upon as transgressor of the moral law, when he was suffering from indigestion. Children are sometimes so filled with pain that they cannot fix their minds upon the cause, or point it out, and so are punished for ugliness when they are already suffering as much as they can bear. What wonder that we see so many abnormal characters, so many men and women who seem warped and twisted out of all proper form, when we consider the misconstruction to which they have been subjected as children Two ladies were one day walking down the street with little boy three years old. He was certainly very naughty boy. He cried for nothing; his face was flushed, and every time his mother held his hand close to hurry him along as he Jagged behind, he cried out in au unbecoming manner. His mother was impatient and said to him, "You know I never whip you unless you are very naughty boy, but think I must when we get home, you behave so badly. The child cast his eyes imploringly ur at her and cried on. She discovered by and by that his hand felt feverish in hel own, and looking down at it saw that one of the boys finger-nails was torn off and was hanging by little thread of flesh. Every time she had taken his hand she had tortured him, and he wal suffering so intensely that it never oc cured to him to explain that as the cause of his misdeeds. That mothers heart sank within her, and she felt tha no sermon had ever preached so loudly to her of the beauty and value of pa tience. We need to use very carefully our power over our children, and no often render ourselves liable to re breaches such as father received fev days ago from his two-yearold daugh ter: 'Papa must not shut baby up il
 the bed room when she is naughty, fo papa is great big man and baby lit
 tie girl"