Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1881-12-08
THE SIN AND FOLLY OF SCOLDING.


THE SIN AND FOLLY OF SCOLDING.
l. Ills a sin against God-It is evil, and
only evil, and that continually. David un
derstood human nature and the law of God
He says, Fret not thyself in any wise to do
evil. That is, never fret or scold, for it is
always sin. If you cannot speak without
fretting or scolding keep silence.
2. 1t destroys ofection.-No one ever did,
ever can, or ever will love an habitual fretter,
fault. finder, or scolder. Husbands, wives,
children, relatives domestics, have no affec-
tion for peevish, fretful, fault.6nders. Few
tears are shed over the graves Of such. Per.
SONS of high moral principles may tolerate
them-may bear with them. But they can
not love them more than the sting of nettles,
or the noise of mosquitoes. Many a man
has been driven to the tavern, to dissipation,
by peevish, fretful wife. Many wife has
been made miserable by a peevish, frettul
husband.
3. It's the bane of domestic happiness-A
fretful, peevish, complaining, tault6nding
person in a family, is like the continual
cha6ng of an infamed sore. Woe to the
man, woman, or child, who is exposed to the
influence of such temper in another! Nine
tenths of all domestic trials and unhappiness
springs from this source. Mrs. D. is of this
temperament. She wonders her husband is
not more fond of her company; that her
children give her so much trouble; that do
mestics do not like to work for her; that she
cannot secure the good will of young people.
The truth is she is peevish and fretful. Chill
dren fear her, and do not love her. She
never yet gained the affections of young
person, nor ever will, till she leaves of fret
ting.
4. 1t defeats the end Of family government.-
Good family government is the blending gu.
thority with affection so as to secure respect
and love. Indeed this is the great secret Of
managing young people, Now, your fretters
may inspire fear, but they always make two
faults were they correct one. Scolding at
a child, sneering at child, tauntiDg child,
treating child as though it had no feelings,
inspires dread and dislike, and fosters those
very dispositions, from which many of the
faults of childhood proceed. Mr.. q. and
Mrs. F. are of this class. Their children are
made to mipd-but how? Mrs. F. frets at,
and scolds her children. She is severe enough
upon their faults. She seems 10 watch them
in order to find fault. She sneers at them.
Treats them as though they had no feelings.
She seldom gives them command without
threat, and a long, running, fault finding COM
mentary. When she chides, it is not done in
dignifed manner. She raises her voice,
puts on a cross look, threatens, strikes them,
pinches their ears, slaps their hands, &c. The
children cry, pout; sulk, and poor Mrs. F.
has to do her work over pretty often. Then
she will find fault with her husband, because
he does not fall in with her ways or chime
with her as chorus.
s. Fretting and scolding make hypocrites.-
AS fretter never receives confidence and
affection, so no one likes to tell them any
thing disagreeable, and thus procure for
themselves a fretting. Now children con-
ceal as much as they can from such persons
They cannot make up their minds to be
frank and open-hearted. So husbands con-
ceal from their wives and wives from their
husband. For man may be brave as lion,
but he likes not to come in contact with net
ties and mosquitoes.
6. 1t destroys ones peace Of mind.-The
more one frets the more he may. A fretter
will always have enough to fret at. Especi
ally if he or she has the bump of order and
neatness largely developed. Something will
always be out of place. There will always
he some dirt somewhere. One will not eat
right, look right, talk right; he will not do
these things so as to please them. And fret
ters are generally 80 selfish as to have no re-
gard for any ones comfort but their own.
7. 1t Is mark Of vulgar dtsposation.-
Some persons have SO much gall in their dis.
position, are so selfish, that they have no re.
gard for the feelings Of others. All things
must be done to please them. They make
their husbands, wives, children, domestics,
the conductors by which their spleen and i'll
nature are discharged. Woe to the children
who are exposed to such influences 1t
makes them callous and unfeeling, and when
they grow up they pursue the same course
with their own children, or those entrusted
to their management; and thus the race of
fretters is perpetuated. Any person who is
in the habit of fretting at their husbands,
wives, children or domestics shows either a
bad disposition, or else ill-breeding; for it is
generally your ignorant, low bred people that
are guilty of such things.
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