The Columbus journal., 1881-12-14
Getting Married.


nifty to fill young minds with just
and pure ideas concerning it is par
TALLY lost, aud from the habit of
treating matrimony as 3 horrible
tragedy.
Marriage has its social side. Per-
sons rise or fall, or are kept from
falling, in a great measure, by the
companions for life whom they Sc
lect. MIR. Imall would never, by
himself, have amounted to much,
but he had the good fortune to mar
ry a capable, energetic girl, and the
result is the Imall family stand
among the foremost in the town.
Marriage has its prudential side.
When the young people set out in
disregard of the first principles of
honest living, they lay the basis of
many a bitter sorrow. When self
denial, forethought, and careful CAL
culation are made at the beginning,
and even over-mastering affection is
made to bend to practical wisdom,
they have laid foundation for safe
future prosperity. Tom Fawcett
was desperately in love with Miss
Green, but he knew just how much
il would take to "set them up,"
however modestly. He told her his
ideas and plans; he got savings
bank book; she kept it for him; it
was a salutsry check on any little
extravagances to which he might
have been tempted. Mr.. Fawcett
now keeps four domestics, and
makes every one of them keep a
savings-bank book.
Marriage has an intellectual side.
A man with a handsome face and
figure, but without brains or any
wish for knowledge, makes it hard
for a wife of average capacity to
maintain the "looking up" attitude.
On the other hand, a refined and ed
ucated woman with an active mind
lifts up a man who has inherent
force, though, perhaps, without early
advantages. A wise young fellow
ought to say to himself, "When that
hair is less thick and glossy, when
that cheek is paler, when that eye
has less lustre than now, will there
still remain a mind that will stimu-
late and strengthen mine 2"
Marriage has a moral side. Harry
Bell admired his "girl,' but he did
not respect her. There was nothing
wrong about her, but he did not in
bis heart do honor to her principles.
She dazzled others, she fascinated
him, he was proud of her in society.
But that was all. When he had his
home and his wife in it, he did not
keep away the men whose looseness
or cosrseness would shock a good
woman. Wit might be wicked, but
she enjoyed it if il was witty. So
his tone was not kept up, but let
down and unfortunately, the "boys"
are bad, and the girls are "not turn
ing out WELL" L. might have been
different if Mrs. Bell had set up a
higher standard of goodness.
Marriage has a personal side. A
little high temper, little dull mo-
roseness, a little looseness of the
tongue, a little-s very little-jeal-
ousy of disposition, may be the ruin
of two lives that ought to have been
happy as one. Dear Edith was a
lovely girl, but her girl friends
knew that she had temper of her
own; and, unfortunately, now that
she-temper and all-is Charles, be
knows il, likewise. He is most eau
tious in her company. A man who
carries about a bag of pun-powder
needs to avoid sparks. She might
blow him up. On the other hand,
Dick Brown is, in many respects, a
nice fellow, extremely precise in
manner, but so jealous that his
wife's own relations are watched,
snubbed and at length driven from
his house by him, lest they shsuld
get the affections of his wife. He
has, in various small ways, "cribbed,
csbined and confined her," till a
sprightly, warm hearted girl, with
frank manners and an honest nature,
Is changed into restrained, timid,
hesitating woman. 1t is pitiable to
see her side-long glance at him, that
she may find out whether, unob-
served, she may cordially receive an
old friend of her childhood. Dick
might scold her sideways all the
evening if she showed too much
warmth.
These and many such matters are
little thought of by too many young
persons, and hence, the incompati-
bility," the "unplessantness" and
qusrrels ending too often in separa-
ton. The union was formed under
the influence of admiration, or self
love, or ambition, or sordid gain,
and it was not happy. All, Mr..
LOCKER, you may buy gold too dear.
There is a curious felicity some
have in the circumstances of their
marriage, which gives them a good
send-of. They do not surprise any
one when it is announced. People