The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1881-11-05
Social Etiquette.

ushered into a drawing-room, or cit
tinp-room, the usual salutation is, ssHoy
do You do" The answer is not, sTbanl
YOU, am very WE'LL" but 'How do vol
do When leaving, the visitor say,
Goodbye and the hostess repeats
Goodbye
When the health of either hostess o.
visitor is inquired after, it is after saw
inc. " How do you do;'' which shouic
be said with no infections of the voice
and without speaking the name of thu
person addressed. 60 Good-morning
is used when addressing, or when tax,
ino leave. of business or other acquaint.
ances with whom you have nothing il
common in q social way. 3f f
The salutationis said to be the touch
stone of good-breeding. Between gen
tlemen nod suflices; but if a lady i;
walking with you or with the one tc
whom You bow, the hat mustbe slightly
lifted. A well-bred person bows in
stinctively the moment that he recog-
nizes an acquaintance.
Bowling once in passing on public
promenade or drive, is all that civility
REQUIRES. Ill SuOoCHOShO A1AOCblllOS buO
eyes may be averted. or if more than a
mere acquaintance, one smiles Slightly.
A bow of ceremony should not be ac-
companied by broad smile; but unless
you are bowling to superior in age Oh
station you should let beam of good
will tighten your eye.
Gentlemen Invariably offer the right
arm to ladies, when it is necessary TO
give the arm, instructions to the COZ
trary Notwithstanding This rule is tie
same on the street, without regard to
the wall, as it is in the parlor, atn0r-
riages, at all entertainments and0n all
other occasions. A lady does MT take
the arms of two gentlemen; nor does a
gentleman offer both of his arps when
walking with two ladies. American gen.
tlemen do not smoke when diving or
walking with ladies.
lntroductions are not mate on the
street. unless lady is walking with her
host or hostess; in which c,se if either
meet friend an introduction would be
given. When two persons are intro
duced in a house both bow Slightly and
commence conversation. "a gentleman
is introduced to q LADY," Mr.. Grey,
Mrs. Birch" is the form.
Young ladies are taken up to be in
troduced to elderly ones and the I'M
married to the married. A gentleman
when introduced does not offer his
hand to a lady, as that is the lady's
privilege. The mistress of house
shakes hands with every one who is in
troduced to her in her own home
whether the person is brought by a
common friend, or comes by invitation.
She would not shake hands with visit
or who came to call on a guest, unless
she had some special for doing so.
A gentleman rides on the right side
Of a lady. A lady keeps the right-hand
side of her carriage, unless another
lady older than herself is driving with
her. A gentleman does not permit a
lady to sit with her back to the horses,
even though she be younger than him.
self, when he can, by taking that seat,
give her one facing the horses.
Never speak of your children as
"Miss Ethel" or "Master Harold, "
excepting to servants. Give them their
Christian names.
Gentlemen should precede ladies. to
clear the way, in public hall, unless
there is an usher preceding them. In
entering drawing room, the lady pre-
cedes the gentleman, but never takes
his arm. ~ i
To yawn in the presence of Others, to
beat time, to hum or whistle, to lounge,
to put your feet on a chair, or to dc
anything which shows indifference, sell
fshness or disrespect, is unequivocally
vulgar. Snuffling, expectoration, hawk
ing, scratching the head, gulping, pick
ing the teeth and blowing the nose,
should be avoided in society.
Avoid saying "you know. Essays
he" and Essays she,'' when narratine
incidents. Do not speak of absent per-
sons by their Christian names. Above
all, never name any one by the first let.
ter OF his or her name, as "Mr. e." fol-
Mr.. Grey" This is vulgarity which
married persons sometimes use.
A lady who sits cross-legged, or side.
ways on chair, who twists her trink.
cts, or picks at anything, and man
who sits across his chair, bites his nails
or nurses his leg, manifests an unmis-
taxable want of good breeding. Both
should be quiet, easy and graceful in
their carriage.
Well-bred persons never elbow Their
way in a crowd, nor force themselves
in seats at concerts and lectures, which
are already full; nor do they talk and
laugh in tones so loud as to disturb
others.
When you have jostled or incommo
ded person, be quick to say, ~ bee
your pardon. +" " / thank you,'' is now
the form, instead of Thanks" when &C.
knowledging any attention. Thanks
has become vulgarism from the abuse
of the word.
In railway cars no one has a right to
more than one seat unless more than
one is paid for. To beat time, shuttle
the feet, or make any monotonous
noise, which is nuisance to fellow
travellers, shows bad breeding or NEG.
lect in training. Mrs. II. o. Wood, n
YOUTHS Companion.
There is society in Europe known
as the Rhenish Cigar-tip Collecting AS