Port Tobacco times, and Charles County advertiser. (Port Tobacco, Md.) 1845-1898, 1881-09-09
Married and Marred

The greatest, wisest, meanest OF
mankind contributed. among other
s,lld chunks of wisdom 70 the pro-
verbs ofthe world. this: tha; - Young
man married Is young man marred.
lvo or three centuries have not been
necessary 10 Justify the melancholy
axiom. though the Casc Of domestic
snfrlliciiv iu high life al Astoria may
serve 70 illustrate the truth Of IN,
maxim, The brief aud pungent mar
ried history of Mr.. Charles Wesley
Ayers is one which ought to sct young
pcople thinking, sysn 'aangh thought
aad been :. Sir 10 'lm. Kricfiv
paraphFasiug the history Of their
honyymoon. VIC may state 1t thus:
Nr. Ayers. youn- man good family
tnl blessed G}th moucy, married Miss
Cole. similarly CIrcums;anCtd. -Four
..vAs ago their wedding tour ended.
Instead Of starting house OF their
nwu, or Eoi0g To live with their
F parents. they chose the worst course
possible, aud boarded. Mr.. Ayers
loved quiet and scclusion; Mrs. Ayrcs,
having TO intellectual resources, loved
company and friyoIity. l!er bus
T band would not take her out as mach
IS she desired, aud doubtless therc
were plenty OF frivolous fellow board
#crs eager To take his place. torgetIul
that married life has It's rssTonsiblll-
ties, and that happiness in the con
Iugal state can be attained only by
mutual sacrifice and fOrbearance, Mrs.
/ Ayers went her gay way aud the hus-
band brooded in melancholy over his
notwithstanding. The wife became
gaycr as he grew more unhappy. They
obviously knew little OF one another
and soon cared less. Within a few
weeks they took their meals separate
5lg. Then the bride-with that
latuity which is not uuccnmen among
brides took of the wedding ring
which she regarded rs the fetish
which held them together. and desert
ed her husband. Her brother found
her aud took her home. There she
gave way to Mysteries and was pro
. tHbuuIth tlSdiif. w ttlii ~ no OI itle
Of sane mind would act as she has
acted; but If devotion TO glddv excite.
ment and 50 called pleasure is evi.
lence of insanity, how many Young
matrons can get clean bill of talth
from the iunacy commissioners
Natrimouey Is serious thing-young
people seldom understand how serious
until too late The husband who is
not prepared to forego his bachelor
pleasures: the wife who is not con.
yinced that her days of gayety are
over. are utterly untitled for the mar
ried state. There is something to bt
said in favor Of early marriages, and 4;
great deal against them. Perhaps
when the young people are wise and
tconslderate an early union Is desirable
but youth and wisdom are not synony
nous term. 1t is the curse Of matri.
monv that the most serious step in i
Young mans or young woman's life
is ordinarily taken at the instance o.
passion, and " hen that subsidies out
ragged reason, taste and common sense
conspire to ayenge themselves by The
inhiction of purgatorial torment. Al
least Young women ought to know
their future husbands, and prospective
bridegrooms should take care not tt
be quite ignorant as to the dispositions
and tastes of their wives, AS it is
: the serious consequences of marriag,
seem to be regarded as unimportan
) III the indulgedce of Il mere desire fo
transient happiness. Odin gave hi
. right eye for wisdom most men ex
change their whole lives for gain o
! it,