Lexington weekly intelligencer. (Lexington, Mo.) 1871-1887, 1881-05-21
WEARING MOURNING.


in ysur good paper to answer few
questions for Wsarer of Mourning.
She is correct in her inference that
Alpha would have the question OF our
present mode of wearing mourning Gag
itated through all tho press, and that all
would coincide with her." Yes; of
course should like to have all the
world coincide with me, or with reason,
rather, in this respect. But l epine the
day is a long way of; the worlds brain
doesn't stop to think OF. reason nuch,
but rushes blindly on. Such revolu-
ton as this would be cannot be effected
ina short period OF time; the habit has
too strong hold upon US; and. as habit
is said to be nature seven-told. it is
easy to perceive we are pretty we'll
bound. But, as it is, have knewn Of
some whose hearts and hopes have been
sorely crushed by the relentless hand OF
death, and yet they did not put on
mourning; they considered it paying the
dead more respect to spend the meaey
where it would do more good. 1 am
glad there are some among us who think
and act thus.
shall answer my good friend. Wear
er OF Mourning in the affirmative whore
she asks, "Was she slave 10 :custom
and fashion," OF course l was, and
knew it at the time, but was unable,
then, to brook the popular tide of GUS
tom. l might say, too, that followed
the dictates of my heart, but who, OF
what, was the hearts dictatorp Was II
not customp presume the heathen's
heart dictates to him that self torture
and the various other follies which he
practices in the name OF his religion
saves him from perdition, and paves his
way to heaven. But does such ignorant
superstition make it so? Isn't it custom
as we'll as ignorance that causes ths
heart to thus dictate? 1t Is not always
safe to follew the dictates of the heart
we should first look into its recesses
and see why the heart dictates.
As for the "gaudy, elaborate toilet,
l never make that kind at any time; bu
suppose l did. 1 should know how tt
msdify it according to the demands o
proprietY without an entire change o
wardrobe. 1 did not say or Intimate
that pleasure should be sought to diver
the mind from ssrrowIng tor the dead
nor yet do think seclusion should b.
sought for the purpose Of nursing griel
But we should seek the consolation tha
is offered in religion, which IS the mos
i respectful and truest mode of wearing
, mournlng-mourn for our shortcoming
and seek to do better, that we may b
prepared to undergo what those whsr
, we mourn Tor have just undergone
l This is the mourning that the dead
I could they speak to US from the othe
, world, would have us put on, and tha
= our Heavenly Father would have us pr
a on. This is the kind OF marked respes
, that should be shown by all. The ou
, ward habillment avails nothing. There
q fore. l answer that it would be consi
q tent to attire oHe's self in the. SAN
D wardrobe that was worn before tt
: grim Destroyer had crossed the thresI
c cid. NY friend says, Mourning coul
q be moderated somewhat and still b
d mourning" Moderated? How?
n i'll comprehend her meaning, we a
o very nearly agreed. She suggests mo
n GRAFTON; l, modification. In this ca
j. moderation is good. but modification
II better. Modified and still be meurnir
is what said, and now say.
l have no objections at all to the &C
10 or-black is not necessarily refecti'
Il OF griet; but to the useless expense e
1t tailed in making the change. Theug
le if there were no extra expense attache
.r a badge similar to that worn by m,
10 would much more tittingly accord wi
1t the dictates OF propriety and reason.
IT the band OF Grape recalls the tend
le memories tor man, and brings them
al ''ThrongnE to the view
OF the dear one that has lett u.s."
,d why will it not for woman as well?
a. ALPHA