, 1881-12-11

rise before the timid in formidable statcliaess.
.ss nnr1-o,1s expectancy await it. Evon to the
most rigid ccremontalistS perhaps he Eetenuny @
Is moment Of dread Marriage IS ,eti, WITH
EnUt 1t isworthy OF much more consideration
1huu It receives, rs n1any* nany can testify ntaSi
wears Of misery And yet nundreas i riE,,t vc
!, brilliant complexion. or handsome 1aGe, a aau
for0etful that other charms are required tna4
those externals which please e. me ey u whrEe
nd sy1upathy, no harmony exists, love eanuot
live; selflshness crecps in, nlline III! i!s uaaes'
desnife ones efforts. These arc grave mistakes,
which forbearauce only can regulate.
What though the storms Of life may start
And threaten us with dark despair;
II there is sunshine in the heart
The bow Of promise will be there
The et1ouet observed at weddings is invariably
the same, whether they bc very gfand h3s or 'Gr ,s
euglgemcnt In the papers. as we do Heoauss'
Thc American custom is to make the engage,
one il at loss for u precedent wherein this has
nor becn ali that was required to start The DAN
a-roIling which carried tho news US speeduy
meut is announced the lady does not
Innate H ffiends She will either leave visiting
With whom she intends to continue On % visiting
terms, previous to the seading Of wedding cards
Of Man{ S o ass
n"m 1,,,.n for instance has passed away, 10 give
place TO that is REGARDED @ as , great tin im
r. now the sole supporter Of the bridegroom.
Invitations are issued in tho unleen names 81
the brides parents These arc very bean1ituliy
gotten up By art statloncrs. Some are periectly
niafn. while others bear coatof-ar1ns. crest, or
monogram. according TO the taste OF the party
order1ng them. Either way IS A eanaay ,a,,t13t gooo
is used on the Invitations, II must be placed up
On the wedding envelope also; Erers1htng must must
must bc creafn-white; no two colors arc, per,
1nissible. Tho invitation, Al Home, and
ushers Or church cntds arc 1nelosea 10 1ne '5
the person to whom it is to be sent Is written.
This is fnciosed in anotner envelope, with the
correct address written IN full ana senl " post-
: weeks before the day appointed for the wedding
Invitations for house wedding, combining GER
card. with u card inclosed bearing the brides
maiden nnmc; or, II the ceremony Is to take
place in tho presence Of the family, with te"
exceptions. the invitation cards to Re reception
only arc issued, with a cArd ioclosed, us before,
with the brides maiden name. To those friends
whose presence. is desired at usev re ceremony y
Flowers are necessarily part Of tho wedding
ding dccorndon. hus had its day. Its place has
Dcen taken by the four-leaecd clover. much
prettier design and more appropriatc. OPT ~ N9t
florists last year did not bcur bud, those coil
1cu,platinz matrimony need not apprehend any
difficulty to procuring n no%eff We; 1 nappy a',r
Roses ytoEets, anu tho lilies of the vnliey-the
sweet companions OF the bridc-can all be got
the bridal decorations. The favorits the tea
mink, Marcchal Neils, or the rerlo dc 1ordnn
:. Bring flowers and plenty of them, to we'd
ding festival: they are sweet cEnblcms Of purity
:providcs tho bouquet for the bride and for the
bridesmaids; these should be sent q few bonrs
Sr4a1
:, each bridesmaid present which should DC sent
the day before the wedding. It is strict etiouct
the bride and himself to convey them from the
church, but it is not often followed. as the
brides father usually places bis own eslrsiare IT,. nt
pose. 1t is equally fashionable to have brides
maids or not: this is n matter OF fancy. 4 very
pretty way is for the bridegroom TO meet hts
bride at the altar, whittier she Is conducted by
her father, who, after giving her to the bride
groom. takes bis place among TIE quests. r me ,,
church and stands little in til. rear, ut his
right. during the service. TIC marriage bel! Is
<sti!t in great favor. also the tor7.i arch which
gram is another pretty piece smlax IS mus
pensabte in tho arrangement q honqnets
and and e.iests quests arrive m e. at the church before the
bride; IT d house. wedding, they will all be as
semblel before the bride enters the room where
the ceremony is to take place 1t is EotAi tnste
for the bridegroom to wear flower in his but
1on-hole, as he does not wear wedding favor.
ding favors If she has no bridesmaids, but If
there be bridesmaids they will distribute the
favors- Each lads or gentleman viii wear INC
coat. at some very fashionable weddings, where
the parties have great wealth. the wedding - f.
1jbbon att;lched. But the little 1loseghy OF
.brcast-knot Is quite US pretty
Each present TO the bride should bear card
with the name Of the Giver. 1t IS no: now con-
eidercd fashionable to display the gifts, but II
is done to great extent, in defiance OF the new
law: Where the presents are dlspfaysd it i!d mas
Every one who is invited TO a wedding should
make the bride present. 1t is the rule to do 50
The guests who have not had an opportunity
Of congratulating the bride should. OH being
shown into the drawing room, at once uakt
their way to her and otter the proper con9ra:1l-
lar1uns, which consist In shaking han0s and say
ing a few appropriate words to both the bride
and BRIDEGROOM. The oid-fsshioned custom oi
When leaving the church. Inc bride and bride.
Etuom should walk very lefsurcly. 1t Is court
eous TO pause moment to SPEAK 70 any aaai'
1nute friends who may happen to be near. Tit
bridegroom will moi and smlle 10 his friends III
hi. meets their recoKuuons. An awning ant
used. either at Il Church wedding or nous'
wedding. 1t is 4 great breach Of etlauet aut
courtesy to permit q wedding invitation to q
and tll-breeatng to do So The usual visiting
card inclosed in IN envelope and sent By mail l.
the guests arrive for the wedding reception, th
gentlemen will leave their hats IN the hall, re
moving their gloves at the same time. Ladies d.
not remove their bonnets at Wedding break
fast; they remove their gloves at the table. Th
breakfast is either laid ou. in the dininS-roou
or library. and = grcat p1ofusion Of flowers, Ut
ranged with artlstic Skill should he the attract
IKE feature. The bride and bridegroom ente
i hrst, the bride leaning on the bridegroom's lef
arm: then the brides father, with the bride
Eropm's mother; then follows the bridegroom
father with the mother Of the bride. The bride
mother md the brtdegrpom's mother takc tn
precedence after the bride ut all weddings
No precedence is allowed the bride the frs
three months utter marria9c. as In The old dny:
ways supposed to be a1niabie. and at no: time i
life is she elevated on SO nigh pedestal as o.
the day Of her wedding She receives the com
plitnents and hopes Of future felicity with-a
ever ready smile, which Is as becoming as tn
maiden blush. the roses, and the orange bios
SONS which she wears.
TIC health Of the bride and bridegroom i
.1rot,nscd hsc fhe father of fha bride fha mos