Helena weekly herald. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1867-1900, 1881-08-04
No. 36
sTUDH OF HUSBANDS.
by San Francisco Woman for Womcu
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From the San Francisco Arponsut

From the San Francisco ArponautJ
We hear much about the art OF acinnino a
husband. Let us take s: step further and
make study out Of keeping a husband. II
he is worth winning he is worth keeping
; This is wicked world, and man is dread
1ully mortal. Let us take him Just as he is,
not as he ought to be. In the first place he
Is very weak. The wife must spend the first
two years in discovering all these weaknesses,
count them on her fingers and learn them by
heart. The fingers of both hands will not
be too many. Then let her study up these
weaknesses, with mesh for every one and
the secret is hers Is he fond of good dinner?
Let her tighten the mesh around him with
fragrant coffee, light bread and good things
generally, and reach his heart through his
stomach. Is he fond cf fattery about his
looks? Let her study the dictionary for
sweet words if her supply gives out Does
/ he like to hear her talk about his brilliant
intellect? Let her pore over the encyclope-
dia 10 give variety to the depth of her ad-
miration. Flattery is y good thing to study
up at all hazards, in its delicate shades, but
ii must be sllillfully done The harpy who
may try to coax him away Will rot do it alb
surdedly
Is he fond of beauty? Here's the rul--
let her be bright and tidy that is half the
victory. Next let her bang her hair tneta
phorically) and keep up with the times. A
husband who sees his wife look like other
people is not going to consider her broken
down. Though it is a common sneer that
woman has admitted that her sex consider
more i'll marrying the tastes of her friends
than her own, yet it must not be considered
ludicrOus that a man looks at his wife with
the same eyes that other people do. Is he
fond of literary matters :? Listen to him
with wide open eyes when he talks of them.
A man doesn't care 50 much for a literary
wife if only she be literary enough to ap-
preclate him. If she has literary inclina-
tiOns let her keep them to herself.
Men love to be big and great to their
wives. That's the reason why q helpless
little woman can marry three times to a SEN
able, selt-reliant wOmans none. Cultivate
helplessness. Is he curious? Oh, then YOU
have treasure you can always keep him if
you have secret and only keep it carefully.
Is he jealous? Then. woman, this is not for
you; cease reading; cease torturing that
fretted heart which wants you for his own,
and teach him confidence Is he ugly in his
temper and fault-fnding? Give him dose
of his own medicine. skilltillly done. Is lie
deceit1ul? Pity him for his weakness, treat
him as one who is born with physical de-
feet, but put your wits to work-it is bad
case. 1t is well not to be too tame Men do
not waste their powder and shot on hens and
barnyard fowls; they like the pleasure of
pursuing wild Gamc-quail. and grouse. and
deer
quail is Il good model 1or Il wite--neat
and trim with pretty, swift way about it,
and Just little capricious. Never let your
self become an old story be just 4 little un-
certain. Another important fact is, don't be
too good; it hurts his feeling and becomes
monotonous. Cultivate a pleasant voice. so
that this very mortal man may have his con-
science prick him when he is in jeopardy
its pleasant ring will haunt him much more
than would shrll one. It is hard to do all
this, beside taking care Of the babies, and
looking after veNatious household cares, and
smiling when he comes home, but it seems
To be born a woman is to be born mar
tyr says 4 husband who for ten years has
watched in amaZement his wife treading the
wlne-presS OF her existence. 1t is pitiful
sight to some men. But if the wife does not
make study Of these things the harpy will,
to steal away the honor from his silver hairs
when he is full of years and the father of
sons and daughters
At the same time, gudcwife, keep from
rylng any OF these things on any other NOR
al man but your own. These rules are
,nly evolved in order to keep a husband"
The poor, weak creature would rather be
rood than bad. and it is womans duty to
,elp him by every means in her power.