Wheeling register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1878-1935, 1881-04-20


in which il is OF the first importance &c
both not to reveal their hands-but the
revelation comes when il is too late, thai
il was all a sad mistake. Now, o. al
things needed to make true marriage
II seems TO me that honesty and reality
and A certain sweet and simple intimacy
stands among the first. Young women
make nets instead OF cages, Dean Swii'
said, and he ought TO have said young
men also. 1t is all well enough that We
should appear at our best in those days,
inst az in the spring a lovelier iris
changes the FURNISHED dome; but this
mask VIC wear is not our best. Our
best is the good, honest average. L hold
steadily and steadily say that the good
marches are those IN which we have
been honest and sincere.
wEDLccK AND DEADLOCK.
Great trouble comes again out OF the
mistake which has always been made
and, suppose, which always will be-;
that the attraction which ends in wed
lock NAV be an outer rather than In.
ner fitness; so that an attractive face and
form, though there be no answering
soul, shall count tor more than the
finest graces OF mind and soul. SO one,
il NAV be, marries o doll and the other
a dolt, to find in no long time they have
made a mistake lifetime cannot I'M
make, and that wedlock rhymes very
sadly with deadlock. So you shall take
this for an axiom, true as the stars, that
there is no intimate and ultimate MT
ness in fancy man..and woman to make
them husband and wife, except certain
fitness OF mind, heart and character or
the loving longing out OF which this
NAV come. Beauty will always be a
primal attraction, and it always should
be, for God has made beauty to be a
blessing. Yes, and somewhere in this
world for the beauty that Is merely IN
form and feature there are those VINO
will rejoice with great joy and never
repent, and great beauty may 90 with
great worth. But in this most serious
step two human beings can take, all
these questions are swept aside ana
wait for that OF intimate fitness to be
settled first. Are you counterparts, not
OF dark to blonde, and the under line TO
the overtime IN stature, but OF thought
and feeling, of habit and tendency OF
life and soul? Because we can no more
alter these things as rule than we can
alter animals. Nor need the man be
either better or the greater half. L
know OF very happy marriage, IN
which the husband and :wiie are both
public speakers, and the wife told me
once how she had been to speak in q
town where they gave her fine lee ana
asked her to come again, and week
after her husband went to the same
place, and they gave him half as much
and did not ask him to come again, and
he seemed TO enjoy the story as much
rs his wife did. Then again, will
venture to say that, as. a rule we can
trust, the truest welded life can only
come out of the truest unwedded lie.
and it is too much OF risk for woman
who has had half dozen serious affairs
of the heart to wed with a man who
has done little else than SOW his wild
oats, and then feel sure they are going
to make happy match out OF the weav-
ing OF such motley. Who shall ascend
into the hill of the Lord, who shall abide
in His holy place? He that hath clean
hands and pure heart, who hath not
lifted up his soul to vanity nor sworn
deceitfully. You say that means religisn.
| saw it means mistitness for true we'd
ding as sure as it means anything under
heaven.
EQUALS IN ALL THINGS.
/ can enter into no particulars. ! can
only say to the yonng man that what he
calls seeing life may very often be call
ed seeing death rather, and the building
a closet to keep a skeleton in the Holy
OF Holes. Purfety and truth toward
each other from the day you plight
your troth TO the day you die are also
the sure foundations on which true
marriage rests. | touch no impossible
mountain peak of purity when tell you
this, and | touch no slime OF indelicacy.
| only say that true love is as pure
and delicate always as 1t IS when the
heart is first smitten with the sweet
pang, in which we find this is the man
and this the woman we have been look
ing for, and as the good Bishop Hugo
used to say, though he did live in what
We call the Dark Ages, the true vile
and mother with the true husband and
father always stand in their original
purity before God and the angels. Then
there is one more question which
touches US with its unrest and always
will make trouble, as it should. The
woman is still placed by law and Gus
tom on the footstool, while the man is
on the throne, while they should sit
side by side full summed in all their
powers" That day will come, and
until it does come We must keep Its
warning star shining through our own
windows. They are the great races who
give a great place to the mother and
wife. And when we do this the woman
is the rare exception who does not
prove worthy the place. No man can
begin to solve the problems OF life by
himself alone outdoors, even let'alone
indoors. When Joseph Fry proposed
to Elizabeth Quincy and she rejected
him he got good old Quaker to speak
a good word for him, and after he had
spoken it he said, "What message shall
| now carry from thee to Joseph? Is
there no hope?" "Only in this" + liza
Detu sdlu, tNaI "Olhah ai"o.o nO'uo
herself free to change her mind" "Then
thee will have him." her ancient
friend concluded, "and l will tell him
TO come right along. lie came and she
became Elizabeth Fry, and that was the
last of changing her mind. Shegre TO
be great woman because her husband
gave her great space and would not be
content that she should not ill it.
Every man, We used to say in the
"Dales" has TO ask his wife whether he
shall get along, and our friend Mrs.
Payson used to say that she saved one
quarter OF the living and earned another
quarter. and say it would be grand
factor in the agreement between the
man and woman that they should stand
on perfectly equal ground down to the