The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1877-1885, 1881-05-05
Seeing Through Anothers
Eyes.

III Iiit u 49,
or done-if only we could see the cas-
as the other sees it; if we could lool
at it through his eyes, And many
word or act of ours would have a very
different look to others if they coulC
see the case through our eyes.
A fair judgement of our fellows /
not common, nor easily arrived at, be
cause of our habit OF looking at thei
course from our standpoint instead o
from theirs. And for the same reason
We ale misunderstood and judged un
fairly by them. l. seems TO US verl
foolish for a little boy to cry his eye
out because his mother Wants blm Z
wear fancy stockings, ora PLAID ciott
cap: bnt If we could know the public
sentiment on those points III the wnrlt
Of bGyhoOd outside OF his home, W.
should see that actual martyIdon
would require h.rdiy more of coura
peous independence and self abnega
than are necessary for that boys stan
ding out in such d matter against TIT
opinions of those whose commentator
he is most desirous of securing. The
dash Of bitterness with which some ex
cellent personsin humble life Yill speal
of what are called 1.-The best circles
in society, appears to us to Indicate {
most unchristian spirit. But If only
we were made to realize the n o.
dcsoIatenesS which comes to one of IN
nate refinement, ard of nOblest asplra-
tons, who Is shut out by the accident
of birth, or through the fluctuations oil
l,rs,x-r from ithaca aSCnnI1tlnn- and
companionships for which that person
is pr cminently fitted in mind and
heart; if only We understood what the
sense of Injustice must be to one who
is pushed aside and actually looked
down upon by interiors; we should
not wonder at any show of strong feel
inc against such misfortune and n
fairness. And so all the way in life.
If the man of capital could see the
laborcr's case as the labOrer sees it if,
oil the other hand, the laborer could see
the capitalists position as it appears
to the capitalist !; if the northern man
could borrow the sOutherner eyes for
but a glance at the southern question
OF If the s%outherner could but once see
social and political questions as the
northerner sees them if men of oppO
site parties, or of different theological
views, could look at the truth as their
opponents look at it if men and wo-
men of clashing opinions could only
change eyes for a little time, how
much easier it would be for all to be
fair in their judgements of others, how
much more there would be Of kindly
and charitable Judging
In their conduct as well as in their
opinions. others are misjudged by US
because of u not seeing through their
eyes; and similarly we are misjudged
bv them. We may wonder that a friend
does not speak out his feelings more
healthy; and that if he loves US he
does not say so. Oar emotions play
visibIy on our faces. Our likes and
dislikes find instant an emphatic ex
preston in words Why is it not so
with himl If we but knew the warmth
and depth of hat friends affection,
and the causes which repress its utter
ance, We should never ask such a ques-
tion as that: we should never think Of
calling him cold and unresponsive.
He. on the other hand, may wonder
tina: we are so intense and demonstra-
tive, and may even question if our feel
ings can be as profound and CONTROL
ing as his own. If he understood the
pressure that is on US from our very
innermost nature, he would never think
of saying that We show more than we
feel, or are Intentionally toe free and
outspoken. There are hearts which
ache almost to breaking because they
cannot speak, knowing all the time
that they are counted lacking in real
warmth and true tenderness because
of their enforced silence. And there
are hearts which grieve because they
cannot be silent when their unavoida-
bic outbursts of feeling are sure to be
misunderstood, and to give discomfort
to dearly loved ones. Oh, if these diff
ferent natures could but change eyes
while passing judgement on each 9th
er. \ certain view of a question of
duty prompts one to words and actions
timely as that friend sees the case but
which are the only wise and proper
course as the other sees it. A harsh
follows, where heartlest APP
prevail would be given if only the
friend could see through the eyes of
friend. One person has no doubts
which another person bannot conceive
of as possible. One has temptations
unknown to the other. Ore has fears
to which the other is a stranger. One
magniies dangers which the other
brushes away with contempt. One is
familiar with important facts bearing
on the case about which the other
knows nothing. If in every case of
misunderstanding or misjudgine Zach
could see the environment, the difficult
ties, the perplexities. and the infiuen
cling thoughts and opinions, Of the
other, how much of injustice would
obviated; how much of pain and regret
would be relieved or done away with,
KANSAS PRoHIBITIoN.-WHAT Gov.
ST. JOHN SAYS OF t While in Chic
ago the other day Gov. St. John, of
Kansas, was interviewed. Said the
interviewer:
Governor, what is the condition of
the prohibitory law in your %state?"
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