The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1881-07-12
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A Philosopher Upon Unfortunate
Unfons-Aboat the Kind Of
Womea Hen Marry.
San FRANCISCO Areonaut.
It 10 said that marriages are made in
Heaven, but l am quite sure that
we're Heaven allowed 10 argue ip its
defense. it would politely decline such
responsibility. 1t is . time-honored
sdsee, TO b ssra, bat like many old,
unauestioned theories in medicine. it
is apt to fall to the ground upon
receiving due attention, and certainly
our faith in the infallibility Of
Heavenly powers would receive many
. rude shock, could We bring ourselves
to believe that al the ill-assortesl
unions upon this earth were due to
their mature deliberation and diepen-
satiOn. Ouids was never on . better
track than when she took 500 pages
or % to illustrate the truth OF the say
ing: "a young man married IL
man that's married" for undoubtedly
to this fact sloue 10 owing the IN
fortunate result Of many matches. A
mans ideal at twenty-five or twenty
three is no way similar to that ut
thirty, but at the former age, being
young, hot-blooded, he falls in love
with . pretty face and smisble dis
position, proposes, and. If eligible. il
accepted. During the next seven or
eight years, if be be man Of intel
Iect. he swaksns slowly to the idea
being young he is not apt to bs swak-
ened at oDce-that the woman he has
married, although she may be rs
pretty as ever, a. sweet rs ever. is in
no way suited to him rs q companion.
Some men have forbearance and nobil-
i ty enough to conceal from their
wives the fact of their disappointment.
but man is selfish man at best, snd
such exceptions are rare. Later on
perhaps be meets the woman whom he
recognizes rs his equal IN every re-
spect, with whom be feels an entire
sympathy of the baain rs we'll as of
the heart, . woman even prettier,
perchance than his wife, am no de-
fender Of ugly women-and younger
in years, though ages beyond in intel
lect and force of Characteristic wO-
man. in short, in whom he recognizes
his ideal.
There is no happiness in marriage
unless there be entire intellectual
sympathy and equality. A marriage
founded on respect and admiration of
mental powers is apt to turn out far
better than that which has nothing
but love for its foundation. Uufor-
tunately, very bright girls are no,
ap, to attract men of or near their
own age. Their brightness too often
finds IN outlet in sarcasm, a sharpness
of repsrtee. and, perhaps. touch of
pedsntry, They recover from all this
when they have seen more Of the
world and human nature I; but it does
not injure while it lasts. not only hid.
ing the latent. urpevelcped powers
beneath, but what is worse. making
the young men afraid of them. A
moderately pretty but thoroughly
amiable girl. girl who never gets
into . temper or says disagreeabie
things, . girl in whose company one
need make no effort and still not ap-
pear a fool. is apt 10 make more havoc
in 3 young mans heart than her
clever sister. Her youthful admirer
is attracted by her innocence. by
her freshness, both of character
and appearance, and imagines him
self hopelessly. irretrievsbly in
love. He marries in spite of
the warning Of his friends that
be is ''too young" is happy for a
while in her unvarying sweetness OF
disposition-unless that, tOo, prove a
and . snare-and, later on, |
finds out bis mistake. Perhaps,
As he grows older, he realizes that he
has abilities above the common, am
bition develops itself, and. as his de-
sire increases to make his name known
among men, be finds himself hampered
with . large family and a woman who
has degenerated into q mere mother
Of his children, nothing more. Then
he meets the wsman Who, if he had
waited, would have heen not only q
but a help to him in the
thousand ways in which a clever
woman can help an ambitious, rising
man, and he curses his luck. There
fore, it is not 20 bad . thing as mothers,
usually think, for q young man
to fall in love with married woman.
He cannot marry her, no matter bow
much he would like to. and. lack of
possession keeping love alive for q
length of time, be does
not recover from the attack until his
character and experience are more
natured. Then when he is ready to
ell in love again he is more apt TO
Know what he wants. 1t wOnld not
Ne . bad idea we're there a law pro.
anv man marrying before he
8 thirty, for not until then has he I
eally arrived at years OF discretion, I
whatever he may think to the con. ,
rary. l have heard mothers say ]
hat they would be glad to have their =
ons marry rs soon as they become Of
&c, and while still IMMERSED in the
rays Of ibis wicked world. l doubt 5
'hether they are right. A man is
'ouud to SOW his wild oats at some :
eriod or other; If he does not in the !
eginning. he most assuredly will later o
q. Every man must have his fling. E
I'd it is better to have it at once and q