, 1881-08-27

nature IN understand their own. The first
are, of coMrsr, tho least dangerous, II tho
lnn$t GontGMptible; the last a1S , tho most
salutcs, like two yachts which, Will neyur
rncD t,or sn1l apart MAKE gt!ntl fun for tho
bystaitlers WIN REM! tho vnri0lis signnls ntld
VIZ !.a9Ts.e; ,S; !. tlo who|s .! te byE!"y They
with l,er for Winnie evening un.lur tho pre-
icneo of llchdnchn. nntl su refuses tn tlancU
with my ot1 but llnaeff tit1d1r the prnteilcU
{ tof efnS ae t'fa toRehsfy hsy 81 '1 m ely sya F's m liz %
tllni.ncst corner 0t that little ptl-rooni mil
he phys with iIcr sfnit "wlll0 sllu twists tigr
bracelets rotl,sl her arms, OF, II sl,n Is quite
eoq snd as k%Ys r. M fr prt 5 2 pefIect"p it, Is,s
lips and eyes .Inove. Wanderers drift into
tho little snilctnary ullnwares. hut nr0 stlrc 10
drift out ut 1t ngain. Tho dcnsest Hre nlndo
e 1s tse 5 ,sY n5s m 1. 'Gt Wnnt' naa and st ls
room, Is f!otlinaly free to, NIL, tteso two hive
llai,rred the snto possession, md II Tho tlnl,-
ctng.room rings with Indignant remarks Or
teurtng commentaries tic two sitting therein
cha ciaStions II NEUTRALITY-SUSPICIOUS. i to ssrtoas
1uyt-t1iaktnE Wllnt llArtlcsSlnH BUTTERFLIES to
ncnrn cups Is to tho capture OF 4 slrutt or
the .racG wherein fat1nrc Is followed BY
This kind of open flirting exists only III En-
glatld md America, WHERE tho wutne1l, nlure
Especially tho unmarried girls. nro frey. Even
where ilErtlng Is allowed to the ltlArriett,-ns
kept alone prisoners, a,id only tl,oir l,lothers
may noyu III tfberty,-gyvl then, when thu
mother Is 49, nn such opel, n,il confessed tlrt.
atlons 60 Of, n s0clcty ~ do In tile two Ernat
rcs,it is fnyorabio. to man,,urs, md even
which there IL nl1cl, to bN said. Ono thing
We cnl. all SEQ, ai,t TINT y tho greater bnlti.
ss ah,,s o q.eGs a %e n f 1 Gdera ia ESs;G Exs
freedom Is 80 ,nuel higher with tho Inter
tnn the fnrnGr, tho consequent ltareAse OF
loldness III tho children Of our cousin.
American men and Aincrican womcn are
perllnps the HoltUst and tnnst uncollpr4nts-
tnEillrts III tho Wnrltl. It must needs 10 so
tti society which. banIslles mothers as
superifu0us, old ladies' MS nltsnnccs, md
any E1n Of clapcroagG as nIiittLsigsmSnf IntL
MI Insult tU human nNtuEe. > We do mt Say
for n moment that, tits unchecked. n'lcon-
trol1ed intercourse bBtweon the yntlt,R men
aMa women " -: America 'sds sds !, to % Eraye nls,
organized system md recognized tone Of
flirting which strikes us, used to more ruti-
ceiico md less freetlona, as odd, to say, tho
EnElisl,,na!l WERE to permit himself to aRy
to n single fnyUretl ono anything like what
any American man would sny to my girl
whatsoever With whom he might. cUnyerse,
cnrcf!lI mothers won'tl keep their daughters
ont Of his way, rs watel,.tlogs guarding tho
la!nbs from p59wilng wolves: Dutthe Ataot- !:
She IS useA to close sailing, nnd gives rs size
takes. Shs Inns n.tle ono Of q party of
youths and tn1idrhs who meet UP Iii tho
mountains for n sumner. and WIN pair oil
day .after day mid fur into the night, among
tho silent forest thinking nothing ot It anl
ere s se @ oes " se H as sfs been MI Used % 70
being taken to tlanctnR pnrttes by the young
iler @ : Il friend len ier the f eccasion. ie mothel
does not 10, md the Rirl Is coufttled to The
care Of her mate chul,eron without hesLta-
ti0n or repHgnnncc.
Human nature demands Enllnntry In such
circumstances rs MI absolute necessity
the inevitable 0ntEroWtll Of occasion; md,
unless slle Is weaker md rnAher tflns, most,
she l,as to take cnre Of herself while paying
By, baek her enter enteeytalntsr t II Als own coin,
ahoyo oil things, showing no fYar., lle,,ce
flirting becD,nes, MS we hAve saltl, both M
organized system OF intercourse and rccog'
nizod fashion AMONG tile AtnerI0nn youth,
certain tiasil and bpldness anu hardness md
discretion alt conlbincd, whereby tho parties
engaged IN the ,present gAino seem alwaya
on the brink of danger aid yot secure.
Another consequence Is TINT English men
md tnnltlens nro ut disadvantage when th0y
mbet with c0npeers from ovur tho wnsor; Tor
tho American men would bo sure to say more
tlnn they meant to SubstnntiAte to tho En-.
glisll girls, and the American girls would
lead tho Engilshil1en further than they meant
to follow; and tic, chances arc TINT there
would be liunrtnctes and tilsappointmenls
for tho moro reaerrpu Ut the two.
We have ilirts enough. however. among
ourselves, and We do rs much harnl to cncll
other ns Is eyer done by outsElurs, whose
ways We misunderstood because wa Judge Of
them By our own. Tho serious tlirt among
us is especially dangerous, md we question
If the boltlest American or the most fmpns-
stoned Italian over did more unhaeo tnan
the quiet, un.lusnonstratlv English fit, who
takes sentiment rs bis ground 0t action and
plRl0nlsm rs his point lAppui.