The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1881-04-19

light about this rs there il about
justice. and honor and honesty. and
that We can hardly 60 wrong if We
ourselves are honest and honorable,
aud fair about this most essential
step. ia our whole human life. When
marriage brings misery. a. rule We
can trust il Is not Gods providsu ce. bot
by our Owe improvidence- mention
this a. the first reason Why troubles
come winch never can IL. fairly met.
ans; worthy young men ani women
g., 80 badly misma,-.; tlrst the whole
habit of young people toward each
o;ner before .hey mi:ry IL a habi. Of
- .amsry deception. They set them
5 .ves To deceive the very elec; wnen
;,.ey ale ia each others company by
puiiins on All appearance which is no
mote true to their real nature than
the noble uncle We see IN the old
Comedies was true, who fi,ngs his
thousands about as il h., bankers
balance was splendid joke las i, is)
We rise ia life, and move from the
farm to the city, exchange the
kitchen for the drswiny-room. Iiusey
wool-ay for silks and blue jeans for
broa1cloth. The young gentleman
Games in his Sunday best and takes
the young lady to the concer, or the
opera walks home with her from
c.,u rch aud stays to tea, admires her
"n the piano and her opinion Of the
-, new poem Or story, and she ad-
nires his lamb like temperate curly.
:nnncent lamb. God forgive them
( Il is game of cards in which it il
Of the frs, Importance to both no, to
reveal their hands. but the revelation
Comes when it Is too late, that il was
all sad mistake. Now, of all thugs
needed to make true marriage, it
Seems to me that honesty and reality
ar'! z certain sweet an! simple
intimacy stand among the FIRST.
Young women make nets instead Of
cages. Dean Swift said, and he ought
to have said y"ung men also. 1t is
all well enough that We should appear
at our best in those days, Just as in
the spring a Iovelier iris changes the
FURNISHED dome but this mask We
wear is not our hest. Oar best is the
good homes, average. 1 hold steadily
and steadily say that the gaoi
matches are those in whic:, we have
been homes; and sincere.
wEDi.oCK AND DEAD ocK.
Great trouble Genes again out of
The mistake which has always been
made-;,nd. suppose, which always
vii! be-.hat the attraction which
end. in wadiock may H. an outer
rather than an inner fitness; So that
an attractive face and form. though
there b. no answering soul, shall
count for more than the finest graces
of miad and soul. 81 one. il NAV
he. mariies a doll and the other a
dolt, 10 find in no long time they
have made mistake lifetime can j
not upmake, and that weiiock rhymes !
very sadly with deadlock. 50 you
shall take this for an axiom. true Is
the Stars, tina: there is 70, Intimate
ans: ultimate fitness in fancy man
aud woman IN make them husband 1
and wife, except a certsin H.n-ss IF /
minI. heart and characier or the low.
ing longing out If which this mar /
come, Beauty will ALWAYS I've a primal /
attraction. and it always should be. !
for Goa has made beauty. to be a
blessing. Yes, and somewh here in this
worl'; for the beauty .hst il merely in
form and features there a'e those vino
will rejoice with great joy and never
repent. and great beauty NAV gu
with grea. worth. But ip this mos,
Serious step two human beings can
take. all these questions are swept
aside and wait for that Of intimate fii-
ness to he settled first. Are Won
not of dark to blonde.
and under line to the over line in
stature. hut Of thought and feeling.
of habit and tendency oi life and
soul? Because We can no more alter
these things a q rule than
We can alter animals. Nor need
the man he either the better or the
greater hall. l know of very happy
in which the husl,s nd and
wife are both public speakers; and
the wife told me once how she had
been 10 speak ia a town where they
gave her fine fes and asked her to
come again, and a week after her ..
husband went to The same place, and
hey gave him half as much and did
not ask him TO come again and he
'eeme,! TO enjoy the story as much ~
his wife did. Then. again, I will .
venture to say that rs q rule We can
rust, the truest welded life can only
,ome ont of the fruest unwedde,l
life, and il ia too much Of a risk for |
woman who has had half a dozen
erious affairs of the heart
o wed with a man who has :.
lone litt!a else than SOW his will oats.
nd then feel sure they are going to !. !.
make happy match out of the
Of such a motley. Who shall
scend into the hill of the Lord. who
hall abide in His holy place? He
hat hath clean hands and a pure :
cart. who hath not lifted up his =
,ul with vanity. nor sworn deceitful.
=. You say that means religion. T
~ il means misfitness for frue we'd '
ingas sure as it means anything I'M. !.
e. Heaven.
EQUALS IN ALI. THINGS. :,
lean enter into no particulars. ] a
Al Only say to the young man that p
hat he calls seeing life may very s.
ften be called seeing death rather, 81
nd the building q closet to keen q !!
zeIiton in the Holy of HOLES. Purity j,