The weekly miner. [volume] (Butte, Mont.) 1878-1881, 1881-09-20
STUDY OF HUSBANDS.
By Woman for Women, But Men
May Read it With Profit.

husband. Let us take step further and
make study :.of keepl a husband. If
he is worth winning he is orth keeping.
This is wicked world and man is dread
fully mortal. Let lis take him just as he is,
not as he ought to be. In the first place he
is very weak. The wife must spend the first
two years in discovering all these weaknesses,
count them on her fingers and learn them by
heart. The fingers of both hands will not be
too m ny. Then let her study up these
weaknesses, with a mesh for every one, and
the secret is here. Is he fond of good din
ner? Let her tighten the mesh around him
with fragrant coffees, light bread and good
things generally, and reach his heart through
his stomach. Is he fond of 1attery about his
looks? Let her study the dictionary for
sweet words, if her supply give out. Dceshe
like to hear her talk about his brilliant intel
lecl? Let her pour over the encyclopedia to
give variety to the depth of her admiration.
Flattery is a good thing to study up a all
hazards, in its delicate shades, but it must be
skillfully done. The harpy who may try to
coax him away will not do 1t absurdly. Is he
fond of beauty? Here's the rub--let her be
bright and tidy; that's half the vict ry Next,
let her bang her hair metaphorically and keep
up with the times.
husband " no sees his wife look like 9TH
er people is not going to consider her "broken
down." Though it IS common sneer that
woman has admitted that her sex consider
more, in marrying the tastes of her friends
than her own, yet it must be considered lu-
dlcrous that man looks at his wife with the
same eyes that other people do. is he fond
of literary matter? Listen to him with wide
open eyes when he talks Of them A man
doesn't SO much care for literary wife if she
will only be literary enough to appreciate
him. lfshe has literary incinalions let her
| keep them to herself. Men love to be big
and great to their wives. That's the reason
why helpless little woman can marry three
times to sensible, self-reliant woman's
none. Cultivate helplessness. Is he curious?
Oh, then you have treasure; you can al
ways keep him if You have secret and only
keep It carefully. Is he Jealous? Then,
woman, this is not for you; cease reading;
cease torturing that fretted heart which wants
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Is he ugly in his temper and fault finding?
give him dose of his own medicine, skiIlfu!-
| ly done. Is he deceittul? Pity him for his
weakness, treat him as one born with phvs-
ical defect, but put your wits to work-it is a
bad case.
1t is we'll not to be too tame. Men dent
waste their powder and shot on liens and
barn yard fowls; they like the pleasure of
pursuing wild game-quais and grouse and
deer. A quail is good model for wife
neatand trim, with pretty swift way about it.
! and just little capricou Never let YOUR
self become an old story be Just little lln-
certain. Another important fact is, don't be
TOO good ii hmts his feelings and becomes
monotonous. Cultivate pleasant voice, so
that this very mortal man may have his con-
science prick him when he is in jeopardy its
pleasant ring will haunt him much more than
a shrlll ore. 1t is hard to do al! this, besides
taking care of the babies and looking after
the veXatious hoU> ehold cares and smilirg
when he comes home, but it seems necessary.
"lo be born woman is to be born a mar
tyr" says a husband who for ten wears has
watched in amazemeut his wife treading the
winepress of existence. 1t is pitiful sight
to some men. But if the wife does not II axe
a study OF these things, the harpy will, to
steal away the honor from his silver hair
when he is full OF years and the father OF
sons and daughters. AT the same time, GUIDE
wife, keep from trying any of these things ON
any other mortal man but your own. These
rules are only involved to order, to "keep &
d, husband The poor, weak creature woult
rather be good than bad, and it is woman
E duty to hold him by every means in her pow
er.-Sdn Francisco Argona,t.