, 1881-11-06
What the Code Of Etiquet Requires
ri Of the Hostess and Her
50 Guests. :
marrying and Giving in Marriage-Sun-
dry Social Happeaings-Per-
sonais.
What the Fickle Goddess Fashion
Demands of Her .Votaries.

as we'll rs by the comparatively few gentle
men that frequent :Eenl. The gentleman, ot
leisure should always aeceu: all At-1lo:ae u
il4yita.ion rs he will tind himself rewarded
for tie effort, Fiyc-oeltcl. teas are the most
social of all entertainments. There yt'u meet
your friends: and converse at will Upon all
subjects: there :ll:ske. new actluantanceS, rs
more ii1roluctions are given al = o'clock
teas than ut AMY other class ut entertain
1nt.llts There plans are formed Tor future
ciyilities. Tin on: occasion We net L gentle
man 1T .'clOck lea whom We nIlist Gull
fess we We're astouiStied tn sec lie WAS one
Of that SORT uf ptuple who could no; endure
sinai! gatherings, particularly where ladies
were in the majority. This gentleman was
remarkably well balanced, thought very
,utlcl, al the s. illness" OF things, and Il +
n-c!ucl1 tea seemed very uneven tas he
expressed it, affair."
"lIow is it you are here's we asked.
lie reIiietl III the courteous manner hab-
it.1aI 10 him: 81 received I'LL 'At-llone
card, and is have very recently acquired 4
habit oi doing things first aud thinking "f
them atterward, am here Had | cohsid-
cred before came. should never have Ills
cnye:etf the real enjoyment Of all hour spent
al 4 :,-,"cIocs tea
Even in the hight OF the season. when large
dinners. balls, and formal receptions are alb
Surbi1g attention, rs il to run away for 4 few
hours and have 4 little social converse. we
find ladies not tlisinc!ilesl to respond II All
'A1-IIolue." There is all air Of comfort.
home sociability, eheerfnlness, yivacity. 2'ld
welcome which hovers over ts'e tiny cup of
IA and the inviting biscuit which eau only b..
otI1,l there. The large and cerenIonious )
3'clock tea ii i'll reality reception, Or after
noon concert, as professional talert is ell
sagetl and good music IS giyell- at these
are Serycu i'll the diuisl.-rooni. The
tea is served from silver urlls.
Sherry, champagne. and claret are the
winrs usesi bi; the great reform in the Use
0f wines has luaI!c 1t i 1ll1i1tr nf tastt.
whether they are Introduced nj ) o clock te;ls
cr ,lt,t Tea and cnfee are always served,
and ices, fruit. fancy biscuits. and cakes
with thin hreau and butter. Polreu meats
art. sometimes Introduced. Plates sli,yltt
Ept be used except fnr ices, fruit Or sand
wiclleS. The guests arrive from llalf-pas1
until & clock. In this respect great liberty
is allowed, as pulct is not Of any ii!l-
portalce ut teas. Each guest ca!s remain as
long ar short il time AS lie or she pieases. II
2 fAtiy's ,,lail is kept. she Is called into the
dlIffatyruosn, with the other maid servants.
10 pbur uut anu hand tue cups of lea or, cof-
fee to the guests. TI.e gentlemen help tilell-
Selves To wine and other refreshments and
make themselves Of service to the ladies.
Cards for 5 o'clock teas are issued OH the
lIome'' card. The i,:t,l,t of The person i'll
yitstl is written at the tup of the card, and
usually In the right-ha1d corner. Tile
hours fur receiving are written IN
the left-lla,ld corner. from ! TO !
expected tile word Music - would be added
ut the bottom of the card. All ) o'clock teas
are styled - At l,onles'' on the visitig-cardS.
The cereMoniouS, semi-ccrenloniouS, and
friendly all come under the same ianie, At
home" But, i'll referring to such gather
i1lgS, we nlust not say - Al iloiles,7 but - >
O'clock teas.': In conversation they are Al
ways referred to as afterlloVli or O'Clock
teas, and it would be quite as improper, when
card Afternoon tea" tl!ous'. verbally the
guest would he invited 10 all afternoon tea.
AZ cere,noniouS teas the hostess receives her
guests Mt the drawins-room door, shakes
hands with eae!, vlsito1' 9rd @ tie ladies' pass
moves her wrap and returns to the drawing
room. Gentlemen should leave their hats
and oyercoats i'll the hall. When music is .
given. conversation should cease, or be car
ried on in so low tone is hardly to be no-
i'll the drawng-roo1M: the refreshments are
served standing. 1t is eti4uet for the
guests to move around the room, and assist
the hostess in entertaining. \ gentleman
W!l' i9ot i, !4 ..i1 iel "
tie ain.noo1, ont WIZ afe4!"usa neI u
tle ut<a ~, 9 '''e' 1ei'ea''el''9 ""'e
oeSi pa,!aheI ~ ". o,,o,,,, H.,
Inv, ih'iat"as ~ e!etoi'ons ~. leas s1!ohiu ue
!ssueu t"o Neehs ue1o!e tne t!ilelAi!lllleht
Is 70 Elke pl1ce t'uesLs Should ~ ~ tI!e
dlii1ng-rot'l pelWeei 1ne ln1ersals q music
n!lo % SINGING: ny tG,, imt,lo1is ale l,sita ~ u1e
il.lHle ~ l.. lne nos!eSs. i. Is not slIic.y r.
4n!Ieu ~ euqtGt .ltl an answer snot4u oe
selt1 out IL ius - niI;'e 20 oe ptes'rt. ~
Woi!u W iN,li1e u se!t: heL eHcuaeS ION
~ ~ !t:t,l 1,'a !'sMtt s!'t oe Se"t ~ posl'
IL .. '. Is scldoii WIll'eI ~ t!ie cor
1fef VI aA .-1l-11n'ne caIu: ne iollet 1of
q ftftnlontous lea Is iHi4 concert, OF car !
rage. dress Dlalnonis, except on ule I'LL |
gers, should mol pc worn. =. ~ lAc1, AL ao-
sence Of jewelry is III better taste than tile |
of too iiucli. |
Atse!nitere1nonlou teas refreshments are !
strved III the draWlng-rt,oiii. The lady of /
the house pul.rs the tea from silver teapot.
lea is never dispensed ly mald-scrsanis |
WHEN served i'll the ttrawing-roon- Tlss: laws !!
ri etiQ,le1 require that the ladies Of the house
pay this compliment to their guests Tilt: |
hostess may make herself very popular 1T Il !
semi i-ttre,n0n"l,s tea. Her ever-reatly smile, !
'lcr winning grace. her sparkling CONVERSE !
tlor. her delicate yet agreeable consideration
lor all present her tact high spirits. kindli
lrsS toward the young t;ttfit.s- whom she
takes special care IT, :an,iSe, her ge;ltIeness
and courtesy toward the elderiy--all com
;',ne 10 make her 4 general favorit with her |
i3N1t sex, as well rs the gentlemen. and lend !