Public ledger. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1865-1893, 1881-10-17

The reception Of an engaged girl by
tho family Of her future husband
should be most cordial and no time
should DO lost in giving her q warm
welcome. II Is the moment ofall others
whom she will feel such a welcome
most gratefully, and when any neglect
will be certain to give her tho koenest
unhappiness. !.
IL & the fashion for tho mother Of
the groom 10 invite both the family OF
tho expected bride and herself TO a
dinner as soon after tho formal an
nouncomunt Of tho engagement as
possible. The two families should
meet and should mako friendships at
once. This is important.
IL is TO these near relatives that the
probable date Of the wedding day Is
hrst whispered, in time TO allow OF
much consultation and preparation IN
tho selection OF wedding gifts. In
%opulent families each has sometimes
given the young couple a silver dinner
service and much silver besides, and
the rooms of the brides father house
look like q jewelers. shop when the
presents are shown. All the magnin
cent ormolu ornaments for tho chin
new piece, handsome clocks and lamps,
fans in largo quantities, spoons, forks
by tho hundreds, and Of late years the
fine gilt ornaments, furniture, camels
hair shawls, bracelets--all are piled
up in most admired confusion, And
when tho invitations are out, then can
come in tho outor world with their
moro hastily procured gifts; rare
specimens Of china, little paintings
ornaments for the person--all, oil are
A present is generally packed whore
II IA bought, and sont with the givers
card from tho shop TO the bride
directly. She should always acknowl.
edse is arrival by q personal note
written by herself A young bride
onoe gave mortal oilense by not thus
acknowledging her gifts, She said
that sho had 80 many that she could
not end timo TO write the notes. This
was considered boastful and most un-
gracious.
Gifts which owe thor value TO the
personal taste or industry Of the
f, friends who send are particularly
complimentary, A piece Of omhroid-
cry, a painting, a water color, arc
most ~Aattoring gifts, as they botoSon
a long and predetermined interest
No friend should DO deferred from
sending a small present, one not repre-.
s~enting a money value, because othel
richer people can send a moro oxpen.
siyc one. Often the littlo gilt rcmain'
as a most cndearing aud useiu
souvenir.
As for showing the wedding Ais
that Is a thing which must he lett &
individual taste. Some people dis
approve Of It. and consider It ostcnta
; tious; others have n large room dcvotel
TO the display OF the presents, and
Is certainly amusing 20 examine them
| As for tue conduct Of the betroths
, pair during their ongagement GU
. American mammaS are apt TO be some
y what moro leuient in their views (
: the liberty to be allowed than are Oh
| Euelish. With the latter, no youn
lady is allowed to dine alone with he
, hAncG there must heR servant bchlns
No Young lady must visit the amil
OF her 6auce, unless he has a mothC
c TO receive her, Nor is she allowed |
!. 60 10 the theater alone with him, or [
/, travel under his escort to stop at q
: same hotel, OF 60 relax one OF tho'
: risid rules which = severe chaporo
would enforce aud il must be above
that this severe aud careful atomic
, 70 appearances is IN the best taste,
AS for the engSsement ring moder
: fashion proSeeihes a diamond S%olitalr
which can range in price from $50
5000 The matter Of presentation
4 secret between the engaged pair.
Evening weddineSd do not differ trel
aay Weddings essentially, except tbs
he hrldeesoom wears an eveniu
n arcsS-that is dress coat and whit
vest
1.-The wedding is at home the spat
where tho bridal party is 70 stand
a usually marked oa by a ribbon, an
The CLERGYMAN comes down 10 his rob,
before tue bridal pair. They face hil
4 and he faces the company, HsSSocA
are prepared for them to kneol upoI
Afer the ceremony the clergyman II
tires. aud the bridal party take h
place standing ~toreceive their friend
\. CONGRATULATIONS
should there be dancipgst a We,
DING. tits proper tor the bride TO ope
the sut ouadulle With the best ma
,lthe groom dancing with the 6r
bridesmaid. uisu not, however vel
customary for bride to dance, or {,
, dancing to occur at an evening We,
ding
hi Aftee tie bridal psir return frol
their wedding t0Rr the hudeSmai,
each give them a dinner or a party,
: show some attention, Il they arc T:
$ situated that they can do So II
a memherS 0fthe two families also eat
3, ave adinnor % theyoung couple
ltisAvery convenient and ploaSa'
eustem for the BRIDE to aanoun,
{ with her wedding cards two or mo,
q reoeption DAYS during the winter al,
{ her mxrriacN on which her frien,
. can oall upon her. The certainty
1 6ndins a bride al homo is very plea
b inr. Ga these occasions she does n
wear her wedding dress but rcceiV
5 a. C she had entered society as one
Its members The wedding trappinl
IArea al prt away and she wears a dal
SIX which may be as handsome
}. she chooses As for wsssslS ar ~
ding dress 10 balls or dinner after b,
marriage Il Is perfectly proper 70
/. So ifSho djveSS herself OF her vel
GRANGE Bio SONS
The bride should be vS1y AttonG,
70 her husbands friends. They Vi
i. look With interest upon her iroin q
\ m0moat they hesv al the oassEomou
and It Is in Che worst taste tor her
Sh6W in6i hortnce % them.
QGiet weddings either u church
atthe house ara very much r1oicrrl
hg some Antilles Indeed Jhe fronc.
from WHOM We have learned many.
aud might loSrn more-loSsons
I. Erscs ana good tsstA infinitely prof
\ then,
I For 4 euiet weaaios TIC bri,
dresses in q trsvclin dress and h0l
ma a. aanarts far hlr uhafinr ton