The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1881-12-22
The Sin and Folly Of Scolding.

Tile Sin and Folly Of Scolding.
l. is u sin against God.-It is eyi
and only evil, and that continually
David understood human nature and tli.
law OF God. He says, Fret not thysel
in any wise to do evil. That ia, neyel
fret or scold, for il is always a sin. II
you cannot speak without frotting OF
scolding keep silence.
=. II destroys dGecfiOn.-No ono evel
did, ever can, or ever will love an habita
lretter, fault.6nder, or scolder. Hus
bands, wives, children, relatives domes
tics, have no affection for peevish, fretful
fnult.finders. Few tears are shed owe,
the graves of such. Persons of high
moral principles may tolerate them@
may bear with them. But thew csnnn,
loyo them moro than the sting Of nettless
or the noise of mosquitoes. Many q
man has been driven 10 the tavern. "a
aissipitation, " a peevish, fretful wife.
Many wife has been made miserable
by peevish, fretful husband.
3: II Is the danc Of domestic happiness
A ffretful, peevish, complaining, fault.
iiindinig person in family, is like the con
tinual Chatting of an inaamed sore. Woe
TO tho man, woman or child, who is ex.
posed to the influence Of such temper
IN another Ninetenths of all domestic
trials and unhappiness springs from this
source. Mrs. ID. is of this temperament.
She. wonders her husband is not more
fond of her company; that her children
gives her so much trouble; that domes.
tics do not like to work for her; that she
cannot secure the good will of young
people. The truth is she is peevish and
iretful. Children fear her, and do not
:ove her. She never yet gained the af-
tections of n young person, nor ever
will, till she leaves off fretting.
i. IL defeats the end Of family govern.
mcnt.-Good family government is the
blending authority with affection so as to
secure respect and lone. Indeed this ia
the great secret of managing young peo-
pie. Now, your fretter may inspire fear,
but they always make two faults where
they correct one. Scolding at child,
sneering Mt child, taunting chi,a
treating child as though it had no
feelings, inspires dread and dislike,
aud fosters those very dispositions, from
which many Of the faults of childhood
proceed. mir. G. and Mrs. f. are of this
class. Their children are made to mind
but how? Mrs. f. frets at, and scolds
her children. She 10 severe enough upop
their faults. She seems to watch them
in order to find fault. She sneers at
them. Treats them ss though they had
no feelings. She seldom gives them q
command without n threat, and n long,
running, fault finding commentary.
When she chides, it is not done in dig
nlfied manner. She raises her voice,
puts on a CROSS look, threatens, atrikcs
them, pincnes their ears, slaps their
hands, &c. The children cry. pont
sulk, and poor Mrs. +. has to do her
work over pretty often. Then she will
find FAULT with her husband, because he
does not fall in with her ways or chime
with her as chorus
.. Frctting and scoiding make hlpocrites.
As fretter never receives confidence
and affection, so no one likes to tell them
anything disagreeable, and thus procure
for themselves fretting. Now children
conceal as much as they can from such
persons. They cannot make up their
minds to be frank and open hearted. So
husbands conceal from their wives and
wives from their husbands. For man
may be brave as lion, but he likes not
10 come in contact with nettles and mus.
quitoes.
6. IL destroys ones peace of mind
The more one frets the more he may. A
fretter will always have enough to fire..
at. Especially if he or she has tho
bump Of order and neatness large devel-
oped. Something will always be out OF
place. There will always be some dirt
somewhere. One will not eat right,
look right; he will not do these things
so rs to please them. And fretters nre
generally so selfish ny to have no regard
for ony ones comfort but their own.
z. II is a mark of a rulgar disposition.-
Some persons have so much gall in their
disposition, are so selfish, that they have
no regard for the feelings Of Others. All
things must be done to please them.
They make their husbands, wives chill.
dren, domestics. the conductors by which
their spleen and i'll nature are discharged.
Woe to the children who are exposed to
such influences 1t makes them callous
and unfeeIing, and when they grow up
they pursue the same course with their
own children, or those entrusted to their
management; and thus the race of fret.
ters is perpetuated. Any person who is
in the habit of fretting at their husbands,
wives, children or domeatics, shows
either bad disposition, or else i'll.
breeding; for it is generally your igno.
rant, low bred people that are guilty OF
such thinge.