, 1881-11-13

say say; to the servant: My naln.. is Jones''
ms wouhl be coarse and rude. lie would
say: 'Mr. Joncs.'' No matter how inti-
mate lady or gentleman is III tile house OF il
hy the servant, whether the hostess Is in the
tlraWlng-rnom or nut Servants will not
KNOCK ut the drawl1ig-ruom uonr, but open it
nj once, even it the lady Ut the house is re-
eelvihs. The only d'Wrs in Il llouse ut which
It Is proper fur servants to knock befnre ELL
tcrlng are those OF the beti-chanlbcr or dress
lnT-rODn.
4 gentleman when calling will always
take his llat and caIe III tile drawing room.
lie holds them until lie has seen and Shaken
hold them gracefully in his hand until lie
takes his leave or place his hat on the 11oor
CLOSE 1T his side. At formal calls tile gentle
mali will remove his overcoat Or not, accord-
should lie do so, anil never removed in the
strawi1iE-roonl. But it Is not usual to re-
move it. for the tew minutes that etluuet
allows him to remain: 4 gentleman should
never put his lat Oh in the presence OF the
OH in the hail, but should any ladies hap
pen III the hall, he will Instantly rc-
iIlnve it, Ut, should lie be tile last VISITOR and
the hostess pay hin. tile compliment 10 step
into ths: hall, or even to tue door, with MN,
in his hand until lie las reached the pave
nlcllt. In the halls Ut hotels or public build
inSs gentlemen should remove their hats IN
the presence Of ladies' lloiiti. them in their
tho n.auy polite conrtcsies wEicl, mark the
true gtutIplnall. az; homes " Of all kinds
the ruiz: of carrying the hat i'll the drawing
rom il reversed. Gentlemen leave their hats
eli the l!ail-1,ble before entering the draw
i,ls-roo1l, tile Invitation constituting the dit
terence. il several visitors arc present
wien visitor is announced, lie Will nlakchlS
way t. the hostess. who will shake hands with
him. either rising or ,itti1sy-tle former lS
considered The must courtcous-:iid they Will
at once fall into III easy conversation, the
other visitors joining. The last co!ner re-
cciyrs Il little more attention when lie first
enters, bit, ii the hostess possesses TAFT, she
will converse with all in such Il way that
visitors will take their leave rs soon as they
gracefully can. shaking hands with the host
css who. ii she DC Il lady, will rise ami Rug
tile drawn:-roptl bell, 81 that the serv-
ant will bc i'll readiness to open
the hall door. Should gentleman be pres
ent. he will rlSe. cross the roo and open the
drawing -ruo1n tIour fur the lady to pass out,
whether he b. acquainted or not: II the most
is present i; morning calls, it will be polite
fur ,ii!, to see tie visitor OUT ii the drawing
rt>pll he nn tile grniltl floor, Ur If on the stc-
o,kI floor. to the heal Ut the stairs. 1t is
compliment for the host 10 ser Il laly to her
carriage, rs etlati+.t only requires that he
nlrll THE drawing-r,oln door Tor ller. Two
"
met 1T :. morning call anti c0llyerSe1 to-
setllcr. will merely bow. II they have been
fursuerI! in1rsai,lcett, they will bow the same
wi.en !caying, unless the acquaintance has
ripcl'e.l suddenly, tbrnush previous knowl-
particular care to welcome her guests
promptly anu EASILY. Nothing. gives more
pleasure than a cheerful prompt, and kindly
greeting. 1t cannot be described. but Is
genuinely felt Tho stranger is 1T once 1T
Ladies' Ill mnrnills calls slln'lld nut Kiss
cael1 other This mode vi S;ilutatiun is very
well :,Llong sisters AND brothers. parents
and children, AND even more distant rtla-
1ivrS ii Thought proper. uf It Is not efl'iuct
arltn= friends al.1 aclual.l1ancci. The kiss
should be an emblem of affection. Hyrun
assures us that kissin" was known in l'a1:s--
disc. 1.-The kiss IF peace' was Il mark Ut
love. So it should be. and not. !; silly Gus
tom, which allows people who often care
very little for each other, WHEN ct''tlfrg in.
co11I:,ct to embrace with all the feryor Of
;iTrt.u,n. lit may be Il beautiful CUSTOM
one writer says il is. ''ail if we were not SO
wicked in this nineteenth century we should
days Of ynud Queen Drss it was the hight of
puiteucss Il, kiss your lei1lbor's wife, a1ld
t,,r Era!,tf;lters tell lis tlll-, oil entering 1t
room, they kissed all the ladies present as Il
'isa1:er nf course LII FRANCE anu Germany
gentlemen embrace and kiss each otIlcE.
1t is Il very innocent thing, 10 doubt,
but VIZ are Heartily glad that. the custom
does NOT prevail here. We are told that
I.t.icesle: uftcl1 kisst:d the Virgin Queen oll
the iius and that s'le took ituu'tc heartily"
Tile foolish l,ai,it uf people kissing every
time they nnec1 is evidently commended by
Erasmus, wl.u writes: 1.-The English have II
custom which call never he suttclrnt!y coni-
lteud.u. On yo;,r arrival, youarc welcomed
with kisses: if you return, the embraces are
repeated; wherever you meet, you are greet
e. t'eS T! il nal'ins nisi but n Kissing We Sincerely
pity the visitors. The ordeal WIS enough TO
make them |Sl.tlvel ul lhls pelutii,tl :11 l,t
symbol should BE- reserved for those vi Sill
c*r.ly love each .'tller, anu when pure hat
ur:l fteIiug calls into life and actpn our
syn1pa;llies with clch other. \ Kiss !should
spring from sn noble sentiment, So exalted
;ln Impulse, that, when lis pron,ptln5s are
,,l,tyt,I. we feel The happiness, tho joy, OF a
responsive, loving heart.
The llypDcrit. the iillpOstOr, amt our dead
liest foe all the form 1T custom III refer
cslce IL it. aud cloak uiclr dishonesty anu
iucalillcss by its ttse. '.'
The kiss Is not practicctl in good society,
except among those who are hound by bonds
vi love. 1t is never vulgar to Dc loving, ami
love that is real love vii! show itself. IN
this matter eti1nct will not Interfere. As
every good act!ol ctilcs spontaneously from
the heart. it is Il Christian law that the kiss
ln. held more slrrct. Could tic importance
Of this highly cUn!nci.aanIe law be more
generally Known, aiM more universally car
riet1 out, !lpw 1nuch unplcasaiine>s might oe
ayoitlei, and how lll,ny delicate nerves
s;,aret! repeated shocks. To have every oIl
woman ynu know rush up to you. and.
throwing her arms AROUND your heck, KISS
yuu with I'LL The ;erloralld affection III youth,
il disgusting, and ra!'s the llo!er. the more
sacred. e,nbiclD, wilen exchanged between
trie. sincere hearts, OF aH Its si,ictTtty anu
S;.cretlucSs. otFlf.lE.