The south Kentuckian. [volume] (Hopkinsville, Ky.) 1879-1883, 1881-05-31
Before Marriage and After.

The following, clipped from an ex-
change, is u sad but true statement OF
the change which marriage too often
brings abou, in the habits and treat
mcnt toward each other OF the pair
who seemed so happily mated. 1t is
TOO often the case that familiarity
breeds contempt. And the tie that
binds Is too often used TO show the
trylnt power rather than the strength
Of love, The truth is that liberation
for each others faults aud sympathy
for each other when subjected TO
trials and burdens is the great desid-
craluln TO welded happiness.
Before marriage the young girl
win generally Know or haye some
idea when the gentleman will come
to see her; she takes great care to
look neat and pleasing, waiting to
receive him in tasteiully-arranged
room. And what OF the youth? No
matter how much "out of sorts" Gas
he is apt to term it) be may feel, he
win dress In his best, look his very
best aud start for the home of his
lady love. Thcy fneet with clasp
oil hands and a pleasant smile, have
OH agreeable evenings visit then part
with a kind good night. l do not
say this is wrong If there is true love
In il; but how different from the
home in after years! We too often
miss the sweet face aud pleasing ap-
pearance OF the young girl in the
wife. And the youth whose only
aim was TO please his lady loye, now
seems to have forgotten all the little
courtesics and gentle attentions that
are needed just as much in the hus-
band as in tho lover to make home
happy. llefinds many other things
to look after, and often utters harsh
aud thougltless words. You may
see the wife Of only q few months in
a slovenly dress, hair uncombed, the
house in disorder, and nearly time
for her husband to come home. 1t ID
no wonder he isnot happy, and may
try to give little advice sometimes
make no excuse for her. She may
have plenty TO do, and more than she
can accomplish; still she can, il she
will, always look neat, and meet her
husband with a smile. N 4
Then, On lhe other hand, the wife
may try to keep the sweet, girlisl
ways of other days about her, buI
her husband will think tohimself
"Now we are married. Mary mus
not expect me to be the. same al
before. ] have no time for love ant
loving ways, now there SO much
resting on me as the head of the
house." He takes no notice of th,
neatly kept rooms, and the nice din
ner to his taste, and the loving wifi
who always meets him at the door
with smile Of welcome home. Ill,
walks in with a frown OH his face
saying, IL wish you would hurry,
have not time TO stop for anything
| to-day" throws his hat In one corner
his coat in another, scrapes his boot
OH the newly polished hearth an(
grmmbles oyer his dinner, then sits
and smokes for perhaps an hour Eye
he is In great hurry oil the while)
and "can't see how he can possibl,
stop'to bring in an armtul Of wood o
a pail Of water to help the paiien
| wife.
And SO the days go by, with neve
a kind word or n loying embrace
and the wife is no longer yonng, he
face wears sad expression, foril
losing the love OF her husband sh
has lost all, so dearly did she love
and so perfectly did she trust him
Al too many are the homes Of thi
kind. Aud why? Where Is the need
would like ii some one would lol
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