Wheeling register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1878-1935, 1881-08-25
A STUDY OF HUSBANDS
BY o Woman, for Women, But
Men May Read it With Profit
How TO Win and How to Keep,

How to Win and How to Keep
The Arsoaaut #S
We hear much about the art OF win
ming husband. Let Us take steI
further and make stndy out Of keepins
husband. III he Is worth winning ht
is worth keeping. This Is a wickee
world, aud man is dreadiully mortal
Let as lake him Just as he is, not as be
ought to be. In the first place be Is very
weak. The wife must spend the mrs.
two years n, discovering all these weak
nesses, count them on her fingers, ano
learn them by heart. The fingers o
both hands will not be too many. liner
let her study up these weaknesses, with
q mesh for every one, and the secret Il
hers. Is he fond OF good dinnerP Lei
her tighten the mesh around him with
fragrant coffee, light bread and good
things generally, and reach his hear
through his stomach. Is he fond OF nat
terry about his looksT Let her study the
dictionary for sweet words il her supply
gives ont. Does he like to hear her tals
about her brilliant intellect? Let hel
pore over the encyclopedia to give
variety to the depth of her admiration
Flattery is q good thing to study up at
all hazards, in its delicate shades, but
it must be skillfully done. The harpy
who may try TO coax him away will not
do so sbsurdly. Is he fond OF beauty ?
Here's the rub-let her be bright and
tidy; that is halt the victory. Next, lei
her bang her hair metaphorically and
kha a hnohRnh
who sees his wife look like other people
is not going to consider her "broken
down" though it is common sneer
that woman has admitted that her sex
sonsider more, in marrying, the taste oi
her friends than her own, yet il must
not be considered ludicrous that q man
looks at his wife with the same eyes
that other people do. Is he fond oil
literary matters? Listen to him with
wide-open eyes when he talks OF them.
A man doesn'tso much care for literary
wife if only she will be literary enough
to appreciate him. Ii she have literary
inelinations let her keep them to herself
Men love to be big and great to their
wives. That's the reason why hslf-
less little woman can marry three times
to a sensible, selt-reliant weman's none.
Cultivate helplessness. Is he curious
Oh, then you have a treasure; you can
always keep him you have a secret and
only keep it carefully. Is he jealousf
Then, woman, this is not for you; cease
reading; cease torturing that fretted
heart which wants you for his own, and
teach him confidence. Is be ugly IN his
temper and fault finding? Give him a
dose of his own medicine, skillfully done.
Is he deceitful? Pity him for his weak
ress, treat him as one who is born with
a physical defect, but pat your wits 70
work-it is bad case. 1t is we'll not to
be too tame. Men do not waste their
powder and shot on hens and barn. yard
fowls; they like the pleasure OF pursuing
wild gsme-gusil and grouse and deer.
A quail is q good model for a wife-neat
anu trim, with pretty, swift way about
it, and just little caprious. Never let
yourself become an old story; be just
little uncertain. Another important
fact is, don't be too good; it hurts his
feeling and becomes monotonous. Gull
tlyate pleasant voice, so that this very
mortal man may have his conscience
prick him when he is in jeopardy; its
pleasant ring will haunt him much more
than would shrill one. 1t is hard to do
all this besides taking care Of the babies
and looking after vexatious household
cares and smiling when he comes home,
but il seems necessary. ITO be born o
woman is to be born a martyr" Gays a
husband who for ten years has watched
in amazementhis wife treading the wine.
press of her existence. 1t is pitiful
sight to some men. But il the wife does
not make a study of these things, the
harry will, to steal away the honor from
his silver hairs when he is full OF years
and the father of sons and daughters.
At the same time. gudewife, keep from
trying any OF these things on any other
mortal man but yolr own, These rules
are only evolved to order to keep a
husband" The poor, weak creatu:e
would rather be good than bad, and it is
woman's duty to hold him by every
means in her power.