The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1881-05-26
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Intelligent Dlseuusion OF an Important
Problem.
From Tie Liberal Repie.p.

II IL generally supposed to be dread
ful thing for woman TO sect her cap at"
in other words, to attempt TO = 20 and
win-n man. Those vino air the cheap
philosophy Of the time, and consider
that there is no law so supreme as
etiquette, while they hold the supposed
DEGREES Of tho omnipotent Mrs. Grundy
in deep reverence, seem to imagine that
it is the duty Of girl to hide from her.
self tile fact that she has Il heart until
some unexceptional suitor discovers it to
her, and ardeltly protests that it is the
one great thing in the world necessary to
his happiness. II she ventured to hint
that she was SO anxious for the affection
of some male that she would do anything
within reason 10 secure him for her lord,
she would be accounted uumaidenly,
bold aud what NOT !; and it would, in al
probability, be urged that she might b.
expected to come TO bad end, and servo
as an awful warning to all members Of
her sex who are inclined to be undiscip.
lined.
But there il, nevertheless, only too
much reason 20 believe that female hu-
man nature is 60 weak and wayward and
impervious. 70 the concentrated wisdom
Of the ageS that tho emotions which lead
to- mntrimoDy do not. always have their
origin lii the bosoms Of impassioned
beaux. Now and then, it is solemnly
recorded, In shocked tones and under the
geil Of secrecy, 80 that the terrible fact
obtains almost as much publicity as lift
were proclaimed by the town papers, and
has peculiar, delicious flavor impaired
to it, that Mrs. Brown actually commit
ted the enormity Of making love to Mr..
Brown, IL che did not in plain tarms
invite him TO become her husband, Itig
comparatively un!mportant that she and
her mate appear TO be as happy and to
get On as well together as they would, in
all probability have done If he had been
tho first to feel the stab of Master Cupid'y
dart, and had warmly takeE the initia,
tive in tho couftship. It seems to be
held that the only piea which may up.
propriately DO urged in extenuation OF
her conduct is that che rejoiced in the
possession OF an abundance of pelf and
n certain position, while his social status
waa % low as his purse was light; and
even this plea has to be handled with
: adroituess If it is to become effective.
Indeed, st o critical moment, when they
have all the touching details of the ex,
eepfioiiht matter before them, they will
not hesitate to speak in terms Of wither.
ing sc0rn Of the frail female who 10 SO
much the slave Of her heart that she 10
acting aa IL she desired TO bring TO her
other cause, would not, seemingly, get
there but for her stimulating iniinueenSce. S
If she failsthey rejoice over the, down
fall, and feeIingly declare that ahe win
merely meet with her deserts If she de.
generates into neglected and petulant
old maid, while if she succeeds they Wig.
oronsly discount her tribunals, es .Es
ground that Is is one OF which any vGll.
regulated female would be thoroughly
ashamed. The members of her own lex,
when thcS cultivate the power of intro.
spection and are becoming mature, ahould
know how to make texcuses for her, are
Invariably her most virulent critics.
Even men, however, are disposed 10 chow
her no mercy, and there is, probably, no.
more loityand vigorously indignatl crea4
ture than the being who feels that he has
been ''angled" but fiatteEas .himaelf be-
cause he has not been caught by che butt
which has been so temptingly placed be-
fore him. He would almost appear to
fancy that he should, on account Of the
way he has escaped the enares that have
been spread for him, be placSd on the
rol of the worlds heroes. Novslists are
the In0st yenturesome Of beings, and
they have foEdness for donting Couvcnt
tionality; but there are fb5unda beyond
which they dare not go, and they per-
Ceiye how hazardous 1t would he for
them to outrage popnlGf prejudice by
Z depicting heroines who took the initia-
tive In love affairs. Aquesn of England
10 at liberty to make an ..ofFarn to q
prince indeed, it ID not etiquette for
prince to make en- ''oiiagpn to heg-.-butsne
occupies quite an exceptional position,
ars the fact Is one which need not 10 IS
further considered in reference TO the
anbiecs, Ssneeiz.ly as lssr TfGes: ID q aap4
generally be teemed " be lergeiy infitisi
cnced by Stata conaideratio ions. :. Il Thus,
everything Is against the woman 9aoeer.i
and it 10 not rprigi ng I hat Hiie a9t1 1Rinh
something OF Q ydflG dpis, and when her
heart proves too sirong for her aenao of
prophecies, often works in cnnniag aud
crooked ways, as If ahe was bant on de-.
Ceivtpg hessaif, aud not letting her LETT
hand know Of the doings or her right.
Yet there ias alter all, d good deal of
Teason aIid common sense on her side:
80 much that Il IL enrprising of the adgd.'
Gates Of the Hwofnan.s Tighlsn movement
have ret 10 ensFgetically take up the
8 euagaIf ~ nor behalf. Is Is absurd 10
auppnse that affection must inevitable
begin With the n1ap It is eaualIy absurd
that he alone must be &C liberty TO win
the being whom he believer to ba IitcSs.
ssfy u hig life's Happiness. The ifidi.
pidlal who allowed rich prize to elnle
him because through some iiiiataken no.
/ ton of what people in whom he was In
no way Interested, and for whom lie did
not care q jot would t!sihk, he tsouslsnos
stretch forth bis hand and grasp ieshen
1t Hss well within his reach, would, very
: +. Il III silbiecE Tor
tho asylum. YhY then, should q Wo-
man b4 debagred from doing her beat to
Stir the slssggish nature OF Tho being
ghOssa Ahe lfaa, with the natuFg,l pervors
9 sEty pf y 1g aex, fallep il lore With ara
who would. she hes every reASnn to he
lieye, be worthy OF her I? ShA 5niag ss;s
that if she will held ont her hand lae NJ
take II, but that III shs gives no sign he
8 ri Il ri and fti cir lives which shp
loudly Ehinhs Eepld be sxaulsite 1.
blended ia The future, lie far apagt,
8sl I'll It not be rasEeiY element arg sgis.
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