The Orangeburg democrat. [volume] (Orangeburg, S.C.) 1879-1881, 1880-02-13
One Thousand a Year.

marry and live on it. l will be hon
est WIN you, az you wish this matter
for publication, and state that any
woman, no matter, how high her posi-:
tion, or how elegant her education, or
tastes, can live comfortably and hap
PLY on that amount, provided that
she gets the right man for: :alliusband,
and that they both truly love each:
other after marriage. 80 y ''
Although young in years (partlon
my not telling ,yod the exact figures
"a 'wolhanTs PRIVILEGE, you know
have stuffed human niat;n!Irc enough,
and the lives of young hihiadir;rtod coup
les sufficiently, to feel sure that over
ohe-half Of those that marry arc dis
appoi4tsep in each other afterwards.
This is most unfortunate state 81
affairs, but both are equally to,blanej
the one for not showing g true nature,
the other for not fully understanding
it, before marriage. Women, / am
sorry''to say, are more given to deceit
before marriage than men, and brutal
treatment is frequently their reward:
If girls were only more natural there
'%wGhld be less trouble, but women
daily marry who are only dressmak
crs' models, and even worse-irysa&
lids, who bring to their husbands all
the cares and troubles Of perpetual
'sicknesS, to add to their business
"aintsH!iiei,lihea.' its!ii,lih
what man can respect, much less
love, woman who is constant bur
den to Nb'Ah,, 'adha y who ,|;;nowiipgly I, de.
ceives him at Tie altaff!' Before wo..
men met s'sh,cr the n;arriasc State, ,hcy
Should be Sure that .tieir health is
such that it will stand the trials that
are to follow. Men rarely deceive
Woman in regard to their financial
ability to support her handsomely,
and this is downright wicked, for it
may take girl away from home of
comfort and luxury, to live in Il gar
,fef:: Such marriages engender bitter.
Hess and Ultimate divorce or wo,sc.i
:" For that reason, : mannss sssllio III tells tells a
woman honestly llioSw much he can ar:
ford to give, without building seas
ties in the air.. which fade before tile
honeymoon, 6usht to receive her es !;
p2ct and Confidence, for these arc'
grand foundations to build on. III
contend that no happy condition of
married life can Exist without, them.
And yet how many girls marry every
week without knowing anything about
their husbands, save that he is
'.'splendid," and $50 handsome" and
wake to find that what they need is
not "prctty boy with dainty NOUS
tache," but a mana solid creation
OF flesh and blood, with An honest,
heaft, clear head and willing hands
to labor for the one he loves. That
IS my idch q o husband.
Such am: man will never ;s';;! willcully dc.
eeive woman, /; H5s!fsr' be guilty of the
neanness that corrupts SO many
3hen"s natures. lit would be paradise
to lttse!Eillti. such a man On one lllous-
ana dollars q year, TO existing with
one on ten times that amount This
may read like romance, but it is stern
reality: 1f''girls will only take the
trouble to investigate for themselves,
they will see that money does not al.
ways bring happiness with it. "I{ap:
piness, our beings end and aim,,a as
Pope so truthfully expresses it-for
What is the world 70 q woman if her
husband is not her lover, !reg7 fricnS,i
her COUNSELLOR her reliance in tie
hour of trouble, the slfarer of her
joys when her anxieties are DER!
But | am growing eloquent over
the '.'good" husband; let us look on,
Slle opposite picture. OF allthings
most likely to ruin woman's life,
drunken husband is the worst. I am
not going into a dissertation on this
subject All have to say is, "Girls,
never marry a man who drinks, if
you value your happiness A very
dear friend of mine came to me once,
and sala, What do you think? II
snelt liquor od'' "Chsrlsy i when I kiss.
ed himw Immediately advised her
hot TO marry hin, for, 1 argued, if a
man wilfnot respect a woman enough
to abstain while engaged, lie will mol
40 so after marriage. Ana 90 it
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