The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1880-02-19
ONE THOUSAND A YEAR.

Matrimonial BliGs on Smell Capital-The
|. Yicws OF q Practical Girl on O momontous
Questiou-lIow Little Can u HEN Marry
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And you want me to tell you whether
l can live on one thousand dollars year,
or rather--as have not been asked to do
so--whether girl can marry and live OH
it. will be honest with you, as you
wish this matter for publication, and state
that any woman, no matter how high her
position or how elegant her tastes, can
live comfortably and happily on that
| amount, prorided that she gets the right
man for husband, aud that they both
truly loved each other after marriage.
You see | have emphasized some Of my
words, and IN them you will find the se-
crct Of the whole affair.
Although young In years (pardon .ny
not telling you the exact fgures-f. wo-
mans privilege, you know,) / have stud
led human nature enough, and the lives
of young married couples sufficiently, to
feel sure that over one-half Of those that
marry are disappointed In each other
afterwards. This is most unfortunate
state of affairs, but both are equally to
blame, one for not showing true nature
the other for not fully understanding IL,
before marriage. Women, am sorry to
say, are moregive,. to deceit, before mar.
riage than men, and brutal treatment Is
frequently their reward. If girls were
oufy more natural, there would be less
trouble, but women dali, marry who are
only dressinakers' models, and, even
worse--iavalids, who bring to their hus-
bands oil the cares and troubles ofperpet-
ual sickness, 10 add to their business anx-
ieties. W.
what man can respect, much less love,
woman who is constant burden TO
him, and who knowingly deceived at
the altar2 Before women enter the mar
riage state, they should be sure that their
health is such that it will stand the trials
that are to follow. Men rarely deceive
in this respect. They sometimes deceive
woman in regard to their financial
ability to support her handsomely, and
this ia downright wicked, for 1t may take
q girl away from home Of comfort and
luxury, tolivein garret. Such marriages
!, engender bitterness and ultimate divorce,
or worse.
For that reason man who tells a wo.
man honestly how much no can afford to
give her, without building castles in the
| air." which fade before the honeymoon,
ought to receive her respect and conf
dence, for these arc grand foundations to
build on. 1 contend that no happy con-
| dition of married life can exist without
them. And yet how many girls marry
every week without knowing anything
| about tieir husbands, save that he is
Splendid" and $50 handsome" and wake
to find that what they need is not "pretty
boy with dainty mopstnche," but MAN
"a solid creation Of flesh and blood, with
an honest heart, clear head, and willing
| hands to labor for the one he loves.
That is my idea of husband.
Such man will never wilfully deceive
a woman, never be guilty of meannesses
that corrupt SO many mems natures. II
| would be paradise to live with such q
man on one thousand dollars q year, to
| existing with one on ten times that
| amount. This may read like romance
but it is reality. 1fgirls will only take
| the trouble to investigate for themselves
| they will see that money does not always
bring happiness with it. "Eappiness, oui
being, end and aim," as Pope SO truth.
fully expresses it, for what is the world
to q woman if her husband is not hei
lover, her friend, her counsellor her re.
lance in the hour of trouble, the sharel
of her joys when her anxieties ere DER.
But am growing eloquent over the
good husband let us look on the opposite
picture. Of all things most likely to
ruin womans life, drinking husband
is the worst. am not going into a dis.
| sertation on this subject all I nave to
| say is, Girls, never marry man who
drinks, if you value your happiness" A
very dear friend of mine came to me once
and sand: What do you think2 /
smelt liquor on Charlie when I kissed
him !" / Immediately advised her not
to marry him, for, Iargued, if mau will
not respect woman enough to abstain
while engaged, he will not do so after
marriage. And 30 it proved. She
thought she couldn't do without him, and
80 they married, and moved into an ele.
CANT mansion. He was rich; but how
long did it lnstH Just three years. And
now she is widow, with sickly child,
and living Off her parentsl
Girls, don't bo afraid to test your lovers.
If they are true and manly, they will
J come out "like refined gold" Get his
opinion on all the subjects that concern
your married happiness. Don't trust to
his doing as you wish after marriage, you
had better find out whether his likes and
dislikes suits you before hand, for mar.
ried life is made up of mutual conces.
sions, and you will have to do your share
ofgiving way, which, ffor ouo that truly
loves y0u, must be. indeed, pleasure.
Another thing, If you don't like tobacco,
never marry man who smokes or chews,
for know o woman whose husband made
her life terror to her by these DISCUS
ting practices.
l don't intend giving you any figurea
abont this housekeeping business, for
peoples taste differ Some would be
content TO live in a twelye.dollar house
and keep splendid table; others would
prefer twenty.dollar house and live on
| palmer food.
There is no trouble about man and
wife living very comfortably on one thou.
| sand wear. If iha wife has nnv nractic.l
sense. A fool or sloven can't do it.
"How is man going to find such wo-
| I1'5.1. uus / near come readers exc.aim
Every easily" The fool will betray her.
self by her nonsensical replies to any
sensible questions on this subject thai
! you may ask her, and the sloven will ex,
hibit her impcriections in her toilet. A
sloyen's hair is never tidy or we'll combed
Neither will she brush her teeth care
fully. If she Is too lazy to do these
her habits generally will be slothful, fol
If that which everybody can see is neg
lected, what can we expect Of that which
is hidden? An untidy girl generally hal