The Cincinnati daily star. [volume] ([Cincinnati, Ohio]) 1875-1880, 1880-01-20

the legitimate aspiration of every heart,
masculine or feminine, and she w9uld ex.
change all that she has in life for that
which she thinks would render her at
tractive to the opposite sex; not so much
perhaps, for the sake OF marriage as for
the sake of their attention and compan-
| ioBship.
There is a good deal of jHstice in her
deduction, but it 10 mot wholly sound.
Handsome women do have many advsn-
tages in Life over hemely ones, but not
80 many as she thinks, and there is in
the actual facts much consolation for
hemely women.
Beautiful women, pretty women,
women whose faces are 80 nodded that it
is pleasure to look At them, have the
advantage in the beginning of an 40
quaiptance, and they have the constant
advantage in large social gatherings, like
ball, in that their faces attract notice.
1t is magnificent thing to be beautiful,
and women themselves are probably as
susceptible to the charms of female beau
ty as men are. Mrs. Harriet Beecher
Stowe somewhere lets out the secret that
many homely girl has laid her head on
the pillow at night and cried herself to
sleep because she was not pretty. And
there is genuine cause of regret that
there is not some better means of COM
pensation.
A beautiful woman almost always has
a crowd of gentlemen lowering about
her in social gatherings, soliciting her
smiles. Strangers eagerly seek to be pre-
sented to her. Her acquaintances are
proud of her, and proud to be counted
as her friends. There is that inexplica-
BILE charm of symmetry which dazzles
aud draws at the first glance, always act
ing to increase her retinue Of admirers.
TIE strong features of it is that it is a
parent to the glance, and acts from the
first moment of sight; whereas tame is
required to discover the possibly su-
perior mental and other endowments of
her palmer sister.
But, after all, the advantage Is only
temporary. 1t is like the college diploma
handed to boy, useful to give him a
start in life, but entirely useless, in the
absence of his own ability, to keep him
going Probably no pangs are SO keen
as those of beautiful woman, destitute
of other attractive qualities, at seeing
her gentlemen friends forever brief in
their acquaintance, slipping but a week
or month the honey Of her looks, and
then quietly leaving her. "They become
tired Of me SO easily" one said not long
since. Of course they do. The tendency
of the age is for mental as we'll as physi-
cal companionship in men and women,
and handsome women 80 seldom possess
the former. They commit the fatal error
of supposing that their beauty and their
figure are to accomplish for them shat
tremulous task of securing friends,
and possibly husband; and they find
when late that men Of this age have other
needs from wife than purely domestic
ones. The husband must have a person
who is capable of understanding him, as
we'll as of being herself understood; who
can at least sympathize with his aspira-
tions if she can not share them; and who
has intellect enough to appreciate what
he has, even if she have no desire to
equal it. Especially is this last needful
to man whose tastes and aspirations are
at all intellectual. The wife of such q
man must be sufficiently a Judge Of intel.
ligence to know that if her husband does
not attain financial SUCCESS in life he has
at least deserved it, and is fully worthy
of respect from her. For if, in addition
to the slight of the world, there come
the unsympathetic coldness and contempt
Of his own home, into what pit will he
have fallen? '
It is a trite but a thorough maxim,
Beauty is but skin-deep." That is g
strange mental change which comes ovel
man when he realizes it. Beauty has
been to him, probably, the all-in-ail, and
he has cared for no feminine character
which did not possess it. But after ht
has satiated and cloyed his taste witt
beauty which had nothing else, ane
found that while dessert is all very we'll
} it will not do for a steady diet, he recoil
on himself and performs a sort of menta
summersault. Life is a serious business
} and there is good deal of it, and whel
it comes to the crisis of taking wife
the average man will not allow beauty
unadorned with mind, to weigh to-
much. 4
One trouble with social life in this vi
. cinity is the lake winds and the climat
generally. They ruin compilations, an,
make physical beauty 30 scarce that it j
! in high der-and. It does not feel tn
necessity Of adding any other accom-
! plishment, and t7at is perhaps the rea
son why 20 few handsome women hav
} any other distinctive positive qualities
: tion. A little healthy competition woul'
. be good thing fot society.
q Life ana Death TIA ming IN Trifles
4 The haphazard of life and death va
illustrated in many ways by the Ia
q Bridge calamity. One lady, who ira,
! eled with her maid, had ordered \ ca
e for the morning train, which reached il
| destination in safety, but the cabma
: oversight, and they were obliged to TAX
! the next train-the one which was burie