The Orangeburg democrat. [volume] (Orangeburg, S.C.) 1879-1881, 1880-03-05
Common Observations.

Editor Orangcbu1y Democrat:
have read n piece headed, zone
Thousand q Year," and signed GA
Practical Girl;" but cannot agree
with her that women practice more
deceit than men. ] don't wish to ar
que, nor say anything disrcspectful
or notifying, but am constrained in
justice to my sex, to attemrt . few
random remarks. First, l shall speak
Of love, "lhnt dreamy, potent speil,
that beauty filings around the heart !:
| know its power, alas! too well, It's
going, love and / must part, Men
love money more than women. 1t
has Il greater charm and stronger
inllacnce over them than any thing
else. There are exceptions Of course,
but like true affection, rare. Invari.
ably on inquiring about women,
whether young, widows or old, they
scarcely eyer fail 10 ask this question,
els she worth any money! if answer
ed in the affirmative, the reply will
be, ooh, | will try and get her."
Inc money is the Object, and nothing
is said about that passion, which like
honesty, much talked about but little
understood. There are, no doubt,
mrn III your town, who are paying
half Of their salary for rented
house; instead Of being honest with
their wives and say, 81 can't afford
it, VIC must live in :: couple Of rented
rooms till VIC can do better" AIatri-
mony, in my humble estimation, is
purely delicate business trarsac.
lion. Zach party should be natural
and unsophisticatcd in their likes and
dislikcs. TO speak freely Of The dis
posilional characteristic Of each other,
and if in i'll health, say so. Men as
Z class tell no secrets on the sex,
and should not women do the same !?
If man wishes to marry well, and
suppose all think they dc, he is spo-
ken of rs gentleman in every sense
Of the word ; attends church regular
ly, ahcctionate, not given 10 strong
drink and everything that is praise
worthy. But alas as soon as he is
married, @ whisper Comes e,caling
through the cir, such one is in debt,
he docs not live happily with his wife,
he is seen pretty often at the bar,
and SO il goes. Who is to blame,
Mr. Editor? The women every time?
All, no! fear deceit has been foster
ed, The bubble has exploded, Spread
ing sadness and disappointment
around their llrcside. Nothing is SO
cruel in my eyes, as to see a wicked,
dcccilful man drag down az his wife,
pure, good woman. One who has
been accustomed to every luxury and
kindness, TO be deceived, ill-treated,
halfstarved end despised, by one
who has taught her to love him.
My second and last point Will c on
drink. There are, no doubt, little as
women arc aware Of IL, the fcwes:
Dunbcr Of men who do not drink ard
"nO man runs 1runcnkncss alone :"
"Ih@t is one of the carrion crows
that 90 in q flock" Signs of bar
rooms can be seen moving along the
streets. Yes, it is called by fancy
names, lis true, but alas ! how many
arc deceived with Mountain Dew.
But no more. Would that there were
more purity in all classes and men,
who are the "lords Of creation" made
in the likeness Of God, if they disrc-
gard the counsel Of the pure and good
let them alone. | am done; und if
too sevcre, it cannot hurt the good
and true.
| have made many observations in
my short life, and hope you will give
space to this article. am your well
wishcr and constant friend.
JOHN Iron.
February 21st, 1880.