The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1880-10-23

though he treats me ike child, and l
will not be governed, and that's the end
of it."
Hetty James was petted girl who,
naturally amiable, had been INDUCED
in her every wish by very fond parents.
She had welded, as most girls do, ex-
pecting to find perfection, and had
awakened to the fact that marriage has
duties as well as pleasures; that for
most of US, whether men or women, it
becomes necessary to adjust our plans
or desires to others needs; to have no
will of our own unless stern principle is
involved. Love is, in its best sense, a
sacrifice, yet one that pays.
No man marries with the plan OF
giving his whole life to selfish ends,
whether it be to pleasure or even study
or philanthropy, and ever makes life a
success. That end is attained only by
considerate thought for others, little at
tentions such as one gives constantly in
the formalities of social life, and CRATE
full appreciation. The man who lives
for self, had better thousand times re-
main unmarried than to tie another into
bondage. The woman who has only
her own personal ambition in view
usually proves curse rather than a
blessing. To live for others is the only
true life in society, the church, but,
most of all, in the home, and failure to
do it has been the ruin of tens of thou
sands.
"You don't think it mended matters
to tell Wilbur James you hated him, "
said Mrs. Chester.
"No," said the young wife, slowly.
"Let me tell you an incident in my
life, Hetty, of which 1 rarely speak, but
which has taught me a lesson, such a
one as pray may not come to many.
Ten years ago, when l married Mr..
Chester, L was very much like you.
Both my husband and myself had strong,
ungoverned wills, and were quick in
temper. When our baby was two years
old friend came to visit us, and to-
gether we planned for days excur-
sion.
Gel wouldn't take the child,' said
Mr.. Chester; the jaunt will be long,
tiresome one, and would rather you
would not CO.
"'But have promised, l said, 'and,
besides, it won't harm me at all or the
baby either
"Words soon passed between us, and
then tears came, but the stormy debate
ended with the assertion on my part
that would 60, and take the baby, too,
come what WOULD
Hetty's eyes opened in astonishment
as she looked at the gentle woman be-
fore her.
"lt was a warm but windy and disa-
greeable day, one of those in the late
spring when you are dressed too warmly
for summer and too thinly for the cold,
and get tired easily had a sense of
dissatisfaction when Mr.. Chester left the
house, half angered at him and half at
myself, yet had said l was going, and
l should lose any power l had if l gave
up now. That day [ shall never forget
The baby grew tired and fretted, and
my heart and body both ached. Those
long hours when l tried to be cheerful,
even jubilant, with my friend, 1 should
be glad to efface from my memory. My
husband met me kindly at tea, but there
was gulf between us.
"That night our baby was restless and
feverish, and the next day and the next
he grew worse. My husband was we'll
nigh delirious with grief. This was our
only child, and imprudently had been
the cause of his illness. He failed rap
idly. 1t is agony to live over again
those babymoanings as he looked up
into my blanched face, appealing for
ease from his pain. With clasped hands,
the past forgotten, Mr.. Chester and l
knelt beside our darling child, saw the
eyes close with long, last look for help
which we could not give, and then asked
each others forgiveness and Gods.
"That week aged me more than all
the years that have come since then,
but l learned a valuable lesson at bit
ter cost. Other perplexing times have
come in life, but / have learned to say,
as | overlooked them or perhaps yielded
some point, 1t isn't q matter of life and
DEATH so it has not paid to have dis
sension or be self-willed. l have found
that most things come right and best
with little waiting. There are only a
few matters in life that are of vast i'm
portance, and in minor things what does
it signify whose will is law? Not that a
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yield. Kind reasoning usually makes
one sex as ready to surrender as the
other, but where no principle is involved
peace is the better way at almost any
cost. Gentleness is as mellowing as
sunlight in its influence. Few persons
can be driven in this world; almost all
can be led. Try the motto l have had
for years craven on my heart, 1t isn't
a matter of life and DEATH"
81 see," said Hetty, "where the mis-
take lies. But never can ask Wilbur's
forgiveness. 1 never can humble my
self like that. He ought to ask mine. -
go Hetty, Hetty! the world will be a
rough one if pride masters you like that.
Good:by, my child"
And Mrs. Chester, still young, but
rich with life's experience, went out of
the dainty room and left the young wife
alone.
After all, Wilbur James was a noble
man, she said to herself-too willful at
times. But who has not faultsP She
had left father and mother for him, and
the molding of his character was
argely in her hands. If she kept his
affection she might develop him about
as she chose. Could she really ask his
forgivenessp