The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1880-02-19
ONE THOUSAND A YEAR.
Matrimonial Bliss OH Small Capital-The
Views of Practical Girl on n momcntous
Oucstion-How Little Can u Man Marry
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Views of n Practical Girl on n momentou'
Oucstion-How Little Can u Man Marry
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And you want me to tell you whether
1 can live on one thousand dollars year
or rather-as l have not been asked to dc
so-whether girl can marry and live OH
it. I will be honest with you, as you
wish this matter for publication, and state
that any woman, no matter how high hel
position or how elegant her tastes, ca
live comfortably and happily on thai
amount, prorided that she gets the right
man for husband, and that they both
truly loved each other after marriage
You see have emphasized some Of my
words, and in them you will find the Sc
crct of the whole affair.
Although young in years (pardon my
not telling you the exact igures-a wo'
mans privilege, you know,) 1 have stud.
led human nature enough, and the lives
of young married couples sufficiently, tc
feel sure that over one-half Of those that
marry are disappointed in each other
afterwards. This is most unfortunate
state of affairs, but both are equally tc
blame, one for not showing true nature
the other for not fully understanding il
before marriage. Women, 1 am sorry to
say, are more given to deceit, before mar.
riage than men, and brutal treatment is
frequently their reward. If girls were
ouly more natural, there would be less
trouble, but women daily marry who are
only dressmakers' models, and, even
worse--invalids, who bring to their hus.
bands all the cares and troubles of perpct.
ual sickness, to add to their business anx-
ieties.
What man can respect, much less love
a woman who is constant burden &c
him, and who knowingly deceived al
the altar? Before women enter the mar.
riage state, they should be sure that theil
health is such that it will stand the trials
that are to follow. Men rarely deceive
in this respect. They sometimes deceive
a woman in regard to their financial
ability to support her handsomely, an6
this is downright wicked, for it may take
a girl away from home Of comfort and
luxury, to live in garret. Such marriages
engender bitterness and ultimate divorce
or worse.
For that reason man who tells a wo'
man honestly how much he can afford tc
give her, without building "castles in the
air." which fade before the honeymoon
ought to receive her respect and conf
dcnce, for these are grand foundations tc
build on. / contend that no happy con-
dition of married life can exist without
them. And yet how many girls marry
every week without knowing anything
about their husbands, save that he is
Splendid" and $50 handsome" and wake
to find that what they need is not "pretty
boy with dainty moustache," but MAN
"a solid creation of flesh and blood, with
an honest heart, a clear head, and willing
hands to labor for the one he loves
That is my idea of Il husband.
Such man will never wifully deceive
a woman, never be guilty of meannesse:
that corrupt so many mems natures. II
would be paradise to live with such a
man on one thousand dollars year, tc
existing with one on ten times thai
amount. This may read like romance
but it is reality. fgirls will only take
the trouble to investigate for themselves
they will see that money does not always
bring happiness withit. Happiness, oul
being, end and aim," as Pope so truth.
fully expresses it, for what is the world
to woman if her husband is not hel
lover, her friend, her counsellor her re-
lance in the hour of trouble, the sharel
of her joys when her anxieties are DER.
But am growing eloquent over the
good husband let us look on the opposite
picture. Of all things most likely to
ruin q woman's life, drinking husband
is the worst. / am not going into a dis.
sertation on this subject all I have tc
say is, "Girls, never marry man who
drinks, if you value your happiness" A
very dear friend of mine came to me once
and SAID: "What do you think? ]
smelt liquor on Charlie when / kissed
him !" 1 Immediately advised her moi
to marry him, for, argued, if man will
not respect q woman enough to abstain
while engaged, he will not do so after
marriage. And so it proved. She
thought she couldn't do without him, and
so they married, and moved into an ele.
CANT mansion. He was rich; but how
long did it last2 Just three years. And
now she is widow, with sickly child
and living of her parents!
Girls, don't be afraid to test your lovers
If they are true and manly, they will
come out "like refined gold" Get his
opinion on all the subjects that concern
your married happiness. Don't trust to
his doing as you wish after marriage, you
had better find out whether his likes and
dislikes suits you before hand, for mar.
ried life is made up of mutual conces'
sions, and you will have to do your share
of giving way, which, for one that truly
loves you, must be, indeed, pleasure.
Another thing, if you don't like tobacco,
never marry man who smokes or chews,
for know woman whose husband made
her life terror to her by these DISCUS
ting practices.
/ don't intend giving you any figures
about this housekeeping business, for
peoples taste differ. Some would be
content to live in Il twelvedollar house
and keep a splendid table; others would
prefer twenty-dollar house and live on
palmer food.
There is no trouble about a man and
wife living very comfortably on one thou:
sand year, iflhc wife has any practical
sense. A fool or q slovcn can't do it.
"How is man going to find such a wo'
man out ?" hear some readers exclaim
every easily" The fool will betray her,
self by her nonsensical replies to any
sensible questions on this subject that
you may ask her, and the sloven will ex-
hibit her impcrfections in her toilet. A
sloven's hair is never tidy or well coinbed
Neither will she brush her teeth care
fully. If she is too lazy to do these
her habits generally will be slothiul, fol
if that which everybody can see is neg
lected, what can we expect of that which
is hidden? An untidy girl generally ha:
dirty cars. If she reads this, she will
wash them, for n week-perhaps! a