The aegis & intelligencer. [volume] (Bel Air, Md.) 1864-1923, 1880-01-23
Advice to Husbands.

The world is full of "advice to wives" and
even the cheap commodity by courtesy adj.
| dressed to married people" is mostly one.
sided and intended for the ears of the weaker
sex only. We can scarcely pick up paper
without reading the oft-reiterated Injunction
to "always meet him with smile (whatever
may be his delinquencies y to be "always
neatly dressed" whatever work on hand y TO
"never complain to him" (whatever the
| weight of your cares,) and all the rest of it,
which everybody knows so well. For the
sake of a more evenly balanced state of things,
let us administer little of the same dose to
the other side of the house, on the old princi
pie that what is sauce for the goose is sauce
for the gander"
Husbands should always appear before their
wives in neat and becoming attire. Remem-
Der that was one of your chief attractions dur
ing courtship. A man is not at all beautiful
en- dishabille, and how can you expect to re-
tain a woman's love if you suddenly drop all
the Establishments that won it? Husbands,
be neat. Never come to breakfast with hair
looking like fig tree shaken by mighty
wind" or soiled collar or necktie all awry.-
Never lounge about at a late hour in the even
ing, in stocking feet, pants, coat and vest, and
fSla sqUsJDfIndeEs Had she CHANGED
taken vast amount of romance out of her,
depend uponit. Suppose your circumstances
in life are such that you must assist in doing
the morning chores" then steal to your
room before she has seen you and change the
working coat for dressing gown, polish your
boots and make yourself presentable, that no
suggestion of the barnyard may accompany
you to the breakfast table The look of fond
regard that will surely greet you from behind
the fragrant coffee pot will be sufficient re-
ward.
Never wear cloudy or angry countenance
in the presence ofyour wife. Nomatter what
the cares and annoyance of the day may have
been, before her you should be all sunshine.
Thus you will make her happy and forget your
own troubles. In her own sphere she has
petty veXations to bear that would break the
spirit of any man alive. Don't add the burden
of yours, too.
If the children are noisy or peevish, quiet
them with as much tact as possible, in order
that you disturb not their mother, who, in the
evening, should find the rest and tranquility
that will prepare her for another day. Above
all, allow no impatient words to arise to your
lips should your wife object to your spending
money on such selfish qualifications as expen-
sive and choice cigars, while she is econmiz-
ing in many little ways. Though you may
think her in the wrong, you had better be
ruled by her wishes, as thus you may avoid
future unpleasanmess.
If you wish to be the true companion of
your wife don't allow yourself to degenerate
into mere drudge and .money-catcher Keep
your intellect refreshed by reading good
books; read the things she reads and repeat
to her the news, both political and general,
that you have cleaned in the world outside
her sphere.
Bear in mind that many over-taXed wives
are mere bundles of nerves, so to speak, and
subject to a thousand and one irritations that
enter not into mans philosophy to compre-
bend; therefore, write it in your heart and
prove it in your daily conversation that soft
answer turncth away wrath, but gricvous
words stir up anger-BOb Bu,dette