Alexandria gazette. [volume] (Alexandria, D.C.) 1834-1974, 1880-02-19
Timely Hints for Girls.

III women would give as much thought TO the
Keeping mans love a. they do to tho WIN
ming OF If, how muAh happier they and their
husbands would be.
But many women appear to think that thoy
have sec ,mplishcd their mission in lilo as soon
as tho nurtial bonediction is pronounced, and
that aitcrward Nil they have to do is to fold
their bands and enjoy tho reward Of their en-
torprise, wheD, in fact, their real duties have
Cnlq Just commenced. And If, instead Of be-
ginning an hnrrassing and costly rivalry with
their married friends in dress aud the display
ot their establishments, they would think moro
of gratifying tho tastes CT their husbands. who
earned tho nl0noy they sro so eager 10 throw
away. there wAulG not bo 80 mapy miserable
end'nHs ci matrimonial enterprises az of pref
chi. 10 keep lover is really harder than to
got one, and "A husband who Is not also lover
b(cJmes at last simply the moned partner,
whose presence is endured, but not desired.
& great mistake made by maby women is
that of nGgltc,inS their dress End personal ar
pCararc, alter msrrlaac. ii woman goes
about the hCu4n Hith her hair always in crimp
'Gg pl0a. Il t0Jn dress, without q collar, aud
shoes that have Dlitntr tics nur buttons; If sic
IS always in q stsIe cf shatby aud dishevclcd
demoraEzati0n as though sho we're indifferent
10 hfr hasbotd's regard. ard had les: her OVID
taste aad sell respect, she need not bo surpris-
ca II he turas sSide 10 admire the Neilies and
AaiHIia', who always look pretty and attractive.
l. ls rot ha!terine tc man when bis
wta oo!y haauti6ea and adelns herself
bic.uso other gcntlemen are expected to
sec her. 10 be elways loved, sho should
apncarn aud he always lovely, und s!cveuy sp
pearacc2 destroys the sweet Illusions and potent
charms whiCh work their spells on taste. and
fancy, AID the spring of affection in the heart.
L! sha is wlso she will improve herself, to grow
as he sr1ws, in EiiTd and iu life, and not BE- loft
behiGd like scVnllcss flower when ber sirlish
beauty Is eoac. Arm ia arm, as to tho altar,
sho should 60 will, him through life. 10 be
ortgroWn il 10 b0 pillsd CT ignored; at any rate,
to Lose that lu!l sud sweet ocmpsniolship which
IS :hc joy aud blessing Ct Q true marriage. And
dhc should try to make her homo attractive to
her husbRsd, AID fnd her own greatest bspps-
ucss with him there. Most men Iovo their
hnncs and would rather stay quietly in these
thso he dragged out continually, even to hear
that divine R3oth" or that "beVitching Neil
son. Aud il women do not mako themselves
communicable thcE husbands will bo likely TO
hctk, STEAL &c Their own private saEc.ums. il
they DO Ent bGhkc themselves to gaycr scenes,
In search If cnnpanions less slirleas which
genial nnaai0Eship often leads to c)nvviaity
and dissipation, and makes, in tho end, wreck,
Of what might hayo been happy home.-
a woman must have very littlo ambition if she
VII! submit quietly to this; yielding 10 attrao-
uvencss 10 roll of tobscc), glass of cham.
pagnr, cr !. aot Of gamblers. Let her cultivate
her own charms. aud keep herself as attractive
as possible If her husband loves music. lot
her sing to hm, even if his tasto il atrouous,
and he Iry'rrs Captain .Jinks" to Reethovan's
Adelaide. lt will not hurt her. and may
keep him lr5m going where less deairablo com
ranlnaS would sirg it fer him. II he is fond of
reading she should not soold every imo he
briggs book home, and reproaoh him for buy
INK II iFstcad Of the oar rings or other fincry
sho IL pining Tor. with tho insinuation that be
can always lind money for tho qualification OF
hs own selfish tastes. Snch remarks arc not
likely to ircreasc mans tenderness for his
gnnIo Wit. lIat her try to mako her
homn worry paradise, it not n PALACE. and If
rord dinner moro fully roahgea her husbands 3
ideas oi lIiyslum than books, uusic, or agreeable
cohscfRa.ion, thou, it sho ia sensible, shc will
cyart hersclt to display her skill and farination
IN lhE EHstrrG0m!c hnd culinary ar!S. Good
dinners arc ~ innrcant AZ cxcsllert. and have
wonderfully genial influcpco up line mascu-
linz mind. 1t is better to hold husband by
tho pa'atc than not at all. and tho hearts Of
S9ma I.icn oaa DO reached ln no other way. In.
iced, Ii sometimes seems ~ If tho stomach and
the heart Wcra 0Ia and the Same thing.
III Il woman choose TO marcy sho certainly
ought TO know hat she is not entering the gates
OF paradise quito yci. She should make up her
iuinA 10 great deal ct endurance, for tho best
uan in the world will have iaib!cs and pecu
iiaritles against which her 0wn will ba Ruro 10
clash; aud e.ch Rust bear with tho othor until
tho di cord ceases, Gnd d pleasant harmony pro-
walls. For it s;lo succeeds 10 keeping the love
OF 3 true. good man. she certainIy will fnd
sweetness enough ia the tender homoliko atr
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