The Orangeburg democrat. [volume] (Orangeburg, S.C.) 1879-1881, 1880-02-13
One Thousand q Year.

er can live on one thousand dollars
year, orlrather- J. have not been
asked to do so--whether a girl can
marry and live on it. I will be hon.
est wifi you, az you wish this matter
for publication. and state shat any
woman, no matter>ho high her posi-.
>tion, or how elegant her education, Or
tastes, can live comfortably and hap
PLY on that amount, provided that
she gets the right man for: :alhusband,
and that they both truly love each
other after marriage. "' ~ ''
Although young in years (pardon
my not telling :yod'the; exact figures
"a 'woihdn4ss privilege, you knoSw,) I
have stu|lied human natnnre enough,
and the lives of young Hiiiadirried coup
les sufficiently, to feel sure that over
ohe-half of those that marry are dis
oappoi4t@ea il each other afterwards.
This ~is a most unfortunate state d
affairs, but both are equally totblanS
the 'one-for not showir irg p true Eature,
the other for not fully understanding
it, before marriage. Women,,i am
sorryto say, are more given to deceit
before marriage than men, and brutal
tfeatment is frequently their rewaTd.
dfgirls were: only more natural there
w0dld he less trouble, but women
daily marry who are only dressmak
ers', models, and even worse AAifisa a.
lids, who bring to their husbands all
the cares and troubles Of perpetual
,siekness, to add to their business
: afHieEiea. IL !iiEif : SE
What 'nan can respect, much less
love, a woman who is a constant bur-
den to'fhiiitmbb,;a to'himbb, and % who knowingly de.
ceives him at'qEe altaffff' Before wos,!l 5!
me! ,n'sh sshter tle' 'patfiase State, they
Should Be sure that their health is
such that it will stand the trials that
are to follow. Men rarely deceive o
woman in regard to their financial
ability TO support her handsomely;
and this is downright wicked, for it
may take II girl away from home OF
comfort and luxury, to live in Il gar
,fet. Such marriages engender bitter.
hess and Ultimate divorce or:wolae.,
-. =" For; that reason, Z mdi,E;i,to' tells a
woman honestly low much he can af:
ford TO give, without building acas-
ties in the air" which fade before tile
honeymoon: ;'I!g| 6'ught to RECEIVE hef les.
meet lRnd Confidence, for these are
grand foundations TO build on. Il
contend that no happy condition Of
married life can Exist without them.
And yet how many girls marry every
week without knowing anything about
their husbands, save that lie is
,.'splendid," and $50 handsome" and
wake to find that what they need is
not q "pre,ty boy with dainty nous.
tache," but a mana solid creation
Of flesh and blood, with ants Honest
heart, clear head and willing hands
TO la1of for the one he loves. That
is my idea'eof a husband" =" = w
Such a'ia;s q man will never ;s';; willSully dc.
ceive womain'' > Rt;asy'eisr' 4 'is'b be guilty Of the
meanness that "corru,pts SO many
MEMS natureaa &c So,ild;be;pafad M iss
to las!WillliIg !adch hh'anJop' one ,houss-
and dollarsIa year, 10 existing with
one on ten times that amount This
may read like romance, but it is stern
reality: 1f'girls will only take the
aronhle to Investigate for themselves,
they will see that money does not al
ways bring happiness with it. "I{ap:
Piness, our beings end and aim.;s as
Pope so tFu,ffully expresses, ,it--forr r
what is the World to q woman if her
husband is not; her lover, Lee fricpsbj
her counsellor:n her reliance in tie
hour Of trouble, the sharerzof her
Joys when her anxieties are Ger!
But I ann growing eloquent over
the ."'good" husband let us look7onF
tlle opposite picture. OF allitIings
most likelySto ruin woman's life. a
drunken husband is the worst. ] am
not going into q dissertation on this
subject. AL Ifiiaye to say is,"Girls,
never marry a~man who drinks, If
you value your happiness A very
dear friend Of mine came to me once,
and sSia:' "What do you think? l
smelt liquor on Charley when 4 kiss.
ed him~ f'imAeaafiatSiy advised her
hot to marry Hih, for, I argued, if