, 1880-07-04
SPOILED CHILDREN.

EHect OF bringing Up Children Badly
Inese arc the spoiled children of the world
whose tate Is to get the bost of everything with.
out regard to their deserts Others may be
warm, may shiycr with cold, may be weary, may
DC ILL., but they must not complain. The burden
| of lamentatton comes from those who wcrc
| never 100 warm or too cold, never weary or Ill,
! put VINO tremhlc lest in some cruel way they
snould DC forced to suffer, and thus provide
against 1T beforehand. 10 these spoiled children
the system Of things in general has no other de-
sign than to give them comfort In particular.
And by some subtle law Of attraction the good
things Of the world are almost certain naturally
to gruvitate toward them. They sleep we'll; thoy
dlne well; they are pctted by everybody; they
nave no despnirs; they never suffer from othsr
people 8 miShnps.
woman who marries one Of these spoiled
cnllaren may be sure Of an opportunity to prac-
tlce all the feminine virtues: She is .ccrtain to
nave been very much In love with him, for he
was hanqsome. could dnnce and flirt to perfcc-
~ 1on' anu was the very ideal OF charming lover.
Inc little dash OF seltishncss in his antenuptinl
trnPer4olsness anu tender tyranny pleased her,
Tor 1t seemed to be the expression OF II more
ardent love than that Of everyday men. 1t de-
ness OF heart whether she soon wakes 10 to the
TACT that sho mas married being destitute OF
syimpathy. tiu wholly careless and ignorant of
others needs and requirements full OF caprices,
allowing every impulse to carry him away, and
thoroughly bent On having his own will and bend
iaG sas, everybody about him to hts own purposes:
betI-rcnunclauon aud absolute devotion and
seit1sncrtttce are natural to women Of Il certain
quahty OF intellect ind heart, and possess the
ni9st powerful charm to their imagination, pro-
ridcu they can have dash uf romance or
ki.ldling of sentiment Hence this form Of
mart nartyraom offers the female sex the pose in
which It has sat for Its portrait oil tho centuries
since civilization begau, and the picture stands
out lmpressiveiy against a background we ull
can recoT'!lzo AS school for hcroism nothing
can equal marriage with spoiled child
But, although probably quite US many in
Stances may oc found IN one sex us in the other,
ne ehnr:lctertstics Of Il spoiled child are dis
tilctfy Feminine, and In no measure belong to
ROBUST masculinity Thus, for q study. let us
take gtrl who from her cradle has found every
iInlng = subordinate to her princess-Iike 'vhin's
1Hehnauons, and caprfces. and has had her wny
W smiles and cajoleries, or sobs and tears, rs
the ease may be. She finds out at an enrly age
petted and pampered than to be forced 70 shift it
Tor herself She learns that nm ensy little pjtful
curve Of her coral Lips and upward glance Of her
naby orhs is answered by certaiu manifestations
OF tenderness and concern: thus she "makes |
eyes,, hfrts, as it were, before she can talk, and
studies tue art Of successful tyranny. The nurs-
eFy-ln tact. the entire hOllse-retoice9 when she |
rc1oices and trtmbles when she wceps. She !
wants everything she sees, and sulks ut any su-
she sulks bewtehintly. Wherever she goes She
carries an imperious sway, and keeps her foot |
well on the necks Of her admirers.
young lady Thatis her destiny, aud to the
proper fulillment Of it her family and friends
ha itand r ready 9 t9 deggte themselyes ms i may be
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per- that her fnselfmtons have palled II little
upon them. and that her mysterious inability to
put up p. with the lot Of everyday mortals and
their patience They want her to marry, and, |
VIII without wasting any empty wishing upon re-
self. She is not likely to have unattuipable
ideals; what she demands is continuation Of
her petted existencs,- lifelong adorcr to min
lister to her yanities and desires. to find her aI-
ways beautiful, always precious. and to smooth
away the rough plates Of life for her:
~, Nqthng hd Gun be msre f bewtehng than shets
seem more desirable to an admlrer than tho
possession Of the beautiful creature who. with
OH ia eeay and
!rdor. and appears 1hote like spirit Of fire ana
lew than q real wofnsn: 1t seetns, TO him tho
,onfcsscs that she never nkos whnt she has, but
Always Graves what she has not,-that she hates
nyy Wsb nd ad shn hna St kes
lounce. She Is unreasonable, and he loves her
bewitches him; she is obstinate,
md he loves to feel the strength of her tiny
Eill as II it were the manifestation of some
force In her nature. Her scorn for
COMMON It, things her rfastidiousness her inditrer-
nee to the little obligations which compel less |
ntnty and spirited creatures,-an act as chains
nd rivet bis attachment to her.
=, 4 4 few months Or later. when she has become his
Ter caprices, at her fRsttdiousncsB and expen-
iveness, from an altered standpoint, her whole
ght- He no longer finds her charming when
he has an incuraole restlcsness and 1nelar-
holy; her pretty, ncgattons OF the facts life .
f u mind undiscipifhed by any actual knowl-
dgc that she is y n human creature subject to
ae same ln'Ss as other hunlnn creatures" Ho
az hitherto considered that her scurn for the
on1mon and usual indicated III appreciation or
be rarest and loftiest, but abe seems to have
s nc ea Of a5 e ssxs ef fe ss
kes everything tlwarfed to stt her own STAT
re- It Is not by compliance that her husband /