The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1880-07-29
The Art and Mystery Of Married Life.

The sacred art and mystery of living
together as husband and wife! It touches
the deepest springs of human happiness
and success:
| When the novel reaches it's last chap.
J ter; when the wedding-day crowns the
happy story of love and courtship, then
begins tor man and woman the real test
OF what they are; then is thrown upon
Their own hands the question of what
the future is to be. In true marriage
the sweet season of romance that pre-
cedes the bridal day is but the harbinger
OF better things to come. But the secret
is easily missed. ! It is missed oftenest
probably through the mans faelt The
first and great lesson of marriage is that
the thought of another is to come be-
fore the thought of self. The reyela-
ton which true love makes is this: One
sees in another soul such beauty and
attractiveness that its service is pre-
ferred to the service of self. No emotion
which lacks this high element deserves
to be called love. The desire of pos
session, the longing for intimate and
habitual companionship, these come in,
too, and make part. But higher than
these there is that complete and joyful
self-surrender in which woman ap-
pears SO lovely to man that to make
her happy becomes his strongest desire;
and woman sees in man such no.
bility that she can gladly devote her
life to him. That is the loftiness and
the rapture of true love.
The problem of married life is to main
tain the nobility and elevation of this
early sentiment. The chief require
ment is simple enough. It is only, put
your wife or husband before yourself in
your thoughts and choices. To the wife
this lesson Is generally emphatically
spoken by the circumstances into which.
marriage brings her. 1t gives her as
her chief business the making of a home
for her husband and afterwards for her
children. The event of her day is his
return from work. Her work is to make
him comfortable and happy. His sat
isfaction and appreciation are the stand
ard OF her success or failure. So she is
put at once into an outward relation of
service. Often there is mingling of
hardship in that Before the wedding
day she was queen; her will and wish
were law. Her lover made it his first
thought to please her. Nowit must be
her first thought to please him. His
main occupation lies no longer with her,
but with his daily work. He may be
ever so devoted and tender, but most
OF his time and much of his thoughts
must now 60 elsewhere. Her great
business is his comfort and happiness;
his great business is something apart
from her. And he will never begin to
know all she does for him. His man
nish eyes miss half the little details of
work that 60 to carrying on house.
hold in comfort. He will be a some
what rare man if he ever fully compre-
hends the broad tact that her individual
life is merged in service to him. 1T is
the woman's lot to do more than she
gets credit for. The hearts wages for
work is appreciation and few wives get
full pay. 1t is when some sense of these
things breaks upon the woman in
the early months of her married
life that she stands face to face
-as probably never before-with her
destiny. And what destiny offers her
is service. A hard Gift to look upon at
first. Declined or grudgingly taken it |
will wound and bruise q lifetime
through. Bravely accepted it will tenn
per the whole life to celestial sweetness. |
1t is just here that the wife has the ad-
vantage over the husband that outward /
circumstances set straight before her
the lesson of self-renuneiation and sery- /
ice in the household, as they do not set /
it before him. His face must turn