New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1880-08-29

eol,o,, Lie sis,or's bovs and girls The way 10
hoor;,oss opd comfort for single middle aSeu
women would be made much easier II ui"o,'"'
method gas pursued by parents to"a,u '"oH
daughters while they are sill young. No'","r'
of course, can recompcnse woman Ior 'l.o 'o''
in her life of the love Of husband anc cmiuio"
but there is no reason why, added to TINS Di'ter
ness. she should always have the Illumination o.
dependence. Half the terrors of single lie
70 a woman lie IN the fact that she viii never
have home of her own, but must remain
dependent on father and brothers; the one too
MANY in the household; the beneficiary on
sufferance in the family, though she actually
work twice as much as the nghtluI members
father naturally sets his boy on his own feet at
coming of age; but as naturally ne keeps
his daughter dependent on himself. IL Is
pleasure. perhaps, to him to give her her gowns
and pin-mOney at Thirty as when she was tiiiee.
He does not reflect that she has the longing
equally natural to every man ana woIhah' ~
take her own place in tie world to be rooted
plant. not parasite. The difficulty Is easily
solved If the father is wealthy, let INN settie
absolutely upon his daughter when she Is Oh
MARRYING ace the am omit he would have given
her as dover instead of doing out the interest
rs constant gifts if he is n poor man. let MN
give her some trade or occupation by WHICH
she can earn her own money. ms couS
would obviate the meIcenary necessity OIL Dlli
riace which rises night and day Delole the
renniless, dependent woman.
THE dangers of middle-age to married man
or woman are of a totally different kind. Inc
risl, is that instead of growing selhsb through
4 |, wholly
in those of their children. just at tbe age
when man begins to get himself well Ill manu.
TO CROW broader in his views, sweeter IN his
temper. to lose the acridity, the posltiveness'
the inability of youth to generalize the oe-
tailed experience lie has galned--to he H. III u
wold. to accomplish the work he llau pi'hheu
TO do IN the 0rld--he begins, IT he ~ Il fathci,
to set himself wholly on one SIDE Ton the sake OF
the fum1e little men and women ABOUT Ma
table. His great picture is never painted, bis
epic is never written, the best work OF when he
is capable is never done he gives himself mp
to not boilers in order to bring mp another man.
who perhaps may be inferior to himself. ms
is the work which has been going on since the
beginning Of the world. We make much OF TIE
Mclean who robs her breast OF few drops OF
blood for her young, but the great rule oil nu-
mauitv has been that one generation OF middle
AGED people sacrificed their chances then hopes,
their work for the world. for THEN children The
great oak ciumbLs ard dies that the ground
NAV be richer for the saping. If is just Sc
Guence. But it may be- carried too far, and 1t
is carried further in America than III any other
country. Fathers ard mothers have night OF
development which they themselves are bound
L.. fl,f.i oft pl,l 10 q, al a.
waite his children If lie stops his daily suicidal
grind long enough to consider that he also
Is a human being whose character and work IN
the world will probably be quite as he'll full as
the boys for whom he is sacrificing all his time
and opportunities. One is sometimes tempted
70 wonder whether in the lives to come there
will not be some place where tie an billions and
hopes and thwarted possibilities Of the middle
aecd may have the chances which here, fifty
enough, are reserved for the young.