The Columbus journal., 1880-12-15
HEART AEEINITsES.
Prof. .. S. Fowler's Lecture on
Love, Courtship. selection,
and Marriage.

of fair ladies and gallant men, whose
faces were lighted up in eager antic-
ipation of what Prof Fowler had TO
say OF love. courtship, and marriage.
The lecture was of great length, and
we are unable to give more than
brief abstract of il. After referring
TO the subject of love, at some length,
aud its various influences. he came
a. the consideration OF the selection
of coniugal companions, and said, In
substance:
The true basis of love and selec-
ton is similarity. Nature must keep
her genera and species apart. Ii the
lion aud the lamb were To amalga-
mate, their species would he spoil
ed. You never knew much happi-
ness to exist between a white man
aud an Indian squaw, because their
tastes are so different. The savage
man should marry the savage wo-
man, the Turk should marry Turk,
the Christian. a Christian, &c. Not
only s0, but the same kind OF Chris
tiam. the Baptist a Baptist, the
CampbelIite Campbellite, aud the
Know Nothing a Know Nothing.
Laughter.
| appeal 10 you TO know if, when
YOU love, YOU do not love some one
in sympathy with You? There are,
of course. some exceptions. You
sometimes see long, lean, lank Mr..
Stork married to a heavy, plump
Mrs. Partridge. Then you find the
heavy, coarse-grained elephant mar
ried 10 the fine, nervous and sus-
ceptible angel. This is well, because
her over-vitality is exhausted by his
powerful animal nature, and their
offspring is better than they. This
is a point well worth your cOnsid-
Grafton. for no sin L. so great as that
of cursing your children with poor
bodies by an ill-advised marriage.
Wherein you are medium in any
respect you may marry medium, but
wherein you are extreme in any
temperament or predisposition, mar
~ your opposite. If your hair is a
bright red, marry a black-haired
woman. Ii il is medium, yOu may
marry shade darker, but if your
hair curlS. don't marry a lady who
has curls unless they can be easily
taken Off Laughter. | think |
have made this so plain who is, and
who is not adapted TO you, and this
is the most important problem of
Your life.
Men are always the poorest judges
OF themselves. The conceited man
is the last TO find out his conceit, and
the humble man the last 10 realize
his humility.
''oh. wad> some power the gifIie gle us
To see ourserS a. ithers see us
Phrenology teaches this: there is
nothing more valuable than knowl-
edge of ones self.
To you, young men, | would say,
ascertain whether or not your lady
love can make good bread, for if she
can't YOU will have TO eat great
deal OF dough; and ii so, il will be
no matter, tor il will only be dough-
heads eating dough. Laughter.
The plain fact is that bread has to
be baked, and you can draw your
Inference. Then, again, see To IL
that your lady love is healthy.
There are two causes of the female
weaknesses of to-day. First, fash
ionable habits; aud here ! would
say, girls. be healthy first, and then
lust As fashionable as you please.
Another is female boarding schools.
They take our daughters and pack
them between brick and mortar
walls, and tell them they must not
romp or take exercise, because il is
not lady-like, and many of them are
literally educated to death. The
want of American society is robust,
healthy mothers, and the longer you
live the truer YOU will find this re-
mark. The first element of q hus-
band is manliness. With them, You
have all; without them, you have
nothing. Young ladies, you may
take il AS fixed fact that il yOuI
beau is capable of mistreating hii
washerwoman, he will treat you the
same way.
la courtship, the first great error
of Young folks is that they court by
the quarter. They love here a littlc
sud there little, whereas the first
law OF true love is permsnency. A
man may love his wife ever so much
but ii he dallies with other women
IL will kill this love for the wife, OI
her love will Kill the other; it j,
impossible for "A man TO love two
women at the same time. Now wher
you whispered love 10 your sweet
heart, WAS il not an exclusive love
Suppose a lover says, Kate, love
YOU for this, that or the other, but
love Lotts for something else; whs
does Kate say? Why, she tells him
Away with your love; | don
want IT," BE careful when you be
gin To love, and unless marriage II
,..,t,r nhipcf do NOT continue III