The weekly Union times. [volume] (Union C.H., South Carolina) 1871-1894, 1880-07-02

Women Eajoy Heaoe. where There
as Neither Aar'ying nor Gioiny IN Mar
riayc."
Woman might bo defined as strange
contradictory, delightful creature, who, at
oil times, in all places, and in ali circum.
stances, feels the deepest interest in we'd
dinSs. This interest is largely independent
OF marriage as an institution, being concen.
trat"d on the ceremony, the form of the
serious suo stance that is to follow. In her
great concern for weddings, woman shows
marked sexual distinction from man, who.
as rule, cares nothing for them, regarding
them, in fact, rs bore. He is not so in.
sensible, OF course, as to consider wedlock
alphabetically. He may account it more
solemn than death, with which, according
TO contemporaneous cynic, all our sorrows
end, while with wediock they only begin.
But OF the mere wedding he would have as
little as possible, ranking that best which
Is the briefest, simplest, least conspicuous.
Most men, however fond of their brides,
hate the ceremony, and arc vastly relieved
when it is actually over They NAV be too
polite to say so, but they are pretty ant to
feel so. DESTROYS as they may be for mar.
rage, getting married, especially in a promi.
ment, elaborate way, irks them cxceedinsly
Ihey so dislike TO figure even at their own
wedding that many of thom would not take
any part in it could they be conveniently
spared. But they are painfully conscious
like the murderer delayed on the road to
the gallows, that the execution cannot 90
on without them. They almost always look
micro melancholy at wedding than at
funeral, and any ordinary observer would
wonder why they are there if he, did not
know the coaxing, urgent ways of sisters,
swecthearts, and wives, particularly when
the overture to the scrio comic opera Of
matrlmony is to be socially performed.
HOW totally different is all this with wo.
men, whether young or old, ma, ried or sin.
G!ie' civilized or savage The nuptial pas.
sion Is universal with them; they will forget
woes and pains for a chance to assist at
"cdding, whose very namc awakens a tu
mutt In their breasts and thrills them with
expectation Who has ever seen a woman
unwilling to attend wedding? ANY woman
who should not respond with alacrity and
fcrvor to such an invitation must either be
out OF her sexual senses or at the point of
aeath. she must be--but what's the use
Inc noun substantive woman has, in no
known language, any such deccnsion.
, May aad June are the marrying months
They are chosen because they arc likely to
be pleasant nearly everywhere, and because,
in this country, they prcccdo the period
when people go out of town. Very few
women would be willing to quit the CITY,
thought it were broiing and most unhcalth.
ful, while more connubial visions were to be
had. Many are tarrying now, despite the
premature heat and sultriness, for the rea.
son that the matrimonial activity still con-
tInucs. And what season can be so ioyous
aud enjoyable, SO precious, so fascinating to
the feminine mind, the world over, as the
connubial season? 1t might be thought
that after woman had been satisfactorily
married and fairly settled in life, she would
be indifferent to the marriage of others,
especially when in no manner related to her
by blood or sympathy. But her own mar.
riage rather whets than appeases her appe.
tito for seeing anybody and everybody else
married.
She revels in the very thought of pro-
spectlve wedding; the nearer it approaches
the greater her excitement, the more diff.
cult her self She talks about it
continually; discusses it in all its ramifica
tions; speculatcs upon its remotcst posi-.
bilitics. What will the bride wear? How
will she look ? How will the groom bear
himself? How many bridesmaids will there
be! What will be the foim of service?
Where will they so for bridal tour. Will
they board or keep house? How many
and what kind Of presents will they have ?
These are few Of the thousand and one
questions with which the typical woman
torments herself weeks before the ceremony
has taken place. She dreams of it with
eyes shut and eyes open she tries to arrange
it in her own mind; her ideas of how it
ought to be arc exhaustlcss she has nuptial
plans enough to supply a young ladies'
seminary. And when the day comes she
is sure to be there before the hour named,
no matter what the weather or how great
the distance. Ordinarily she is tardy or
rather fussy in dressing, and very apt to be
behind time; but never at q wedding. Her
premature punctua!ity can be relied on for
she fears, if she were only punctual, that
something might escape her. She wants
to be on the spot before the performance
begins; she is anxious to catch the first
flush of the OCCASION, TO Sc, the invited
guests come in, and to fix in memory each
seam and fold Of every new gown.
Although sh has absorbed scores of we'd.
dings, all essentially alike, every wedding
has fresh charm Cor her, and foods her
with fresh emotions. She watches the glow.
ing, nervous, uneasy bride; the brides
mother, bathed in tears at the consumma.
tion of what she has probably striven long
and wistfu!ly to insure the stiff, disturbed
bridesmaids tho whole of the solemn farce,
rs if it had never been before. She adores