The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1880-10-16

loved his cigars and club suppcrs, III
common with his associates, and taught
his family to believe all these things es-
sential to his position. lie was consider
ed a gentleman among gentlemen, and
may have no glazing vices; and finally,
when his vitality was exhausted, a course
of nursing and doctoring, together with
the funeral expenses becoming Il gentle
man, and 4 ''good fellow > at that, strip
his family of everything they can COM
mand; yet the sanctity of the grave
shields him from their censure and ours.
Let us, however, instill into the coming
man different principles, the manliness
of self-reliance, and, if he assumes the
responsibility of a family, the true man
illness of caring for them to the best of
his ability, until they are qualified to
take care ofthcmselvcs, and securing them
them, if possible, against or dependence
if he We're suddenly removed from them
There are many who ought to be men.
who pay tic slightest possible attention
10 these claims, and yet they assume to
be gentlemen, thinking their appearance
and good fellowship. and q certain free
and easy manner. will establish their
claim: but unless there is behind this Il
proper care for the welfare of their
| households they go through life as mel G
! frauds-there is 30 true manlineSs in
them. much less g,hHmanlincsS In
| doubtedly the man of this type is aware
of this fact himself, and unwi>ely makes
the more strenuous effort to disguise it
| by extraordinary assumption.
Without wishing to encourage the
common mistake that women by right
may fold their hands and depend upon
some man of near or remote relationship
to support them simply because of their
sex, | would nevertheless, for their own
sakcs, teach my boys TO shield women
wherever they can from hardship or ex-
posurc. And this duty becomes impera-
tive when he takes her from her parents
care, with the promise to them. To her.
and to his Maker, that he Will kindly
care for her: nor is the obligation less
toward those for whose very existence he
is responsible.
Ii is marvel to me that So many men,
seemingly tender i'll their care for their
wives and little ones. should be so utter
| ly careless as to what will become OF
them if they should become disabled or
| die. Accumulation of money with /,
view to riches and display, is at the cN-
pense OF man and woman's better quail
ties: there is always some worthy pllr-
pose to which our oyprabundancc ought
to be applied, and at no time in the fu-
| ture will such comfort as we can afford
| give us more satisfaction than in the
present. But we can never afford to use
all We have; there must be steady aud
regular provision for misfortune to which
We are liable, or else. sooner or later.
somebody suffers.
The great temptation that aSSailS both
men and women is the seeming necessity
to live as other people do. II we could
once rise above that weakness. there
would be less difficulty about shaping
our expenses so as to bring them within
our income. This yielding to prevailing
customs or fashions among our associates
where We know We cannot afford it is Il
more common and ruinous vice than gam
bling or intcmpcrance. and yet there is
scarcely remonstrance raised from press
or pulpit .-lmertcaa FarmCr.