The weekly Union times. [volume] (Union C.H., South Carolina) 1871-1894, 1880-07-02

as Netther Maryy0ty nor Gio0y az Mar.
rtayc."
Woman might BE- defined as strange
contradictory, delightful creature, who, at
oil times, in all places, and in all circum.
stances, feels the deepest interest in wed.
dings. This interest is largely independent
OF marriage rs an institution, being concen-
trat"d on the ceremony, the form of the
serious sub stance that is to follow. In her
great concern for weddings, woman shows
marked sexual distinction from man, who,
as rule, cares nothing for them, regarding
them, in fact, rs bore. He is not 80 in.
sensible, OF course, as to consider wedlock
alphabetically. He may account it more
solemn than death, with which, according
to contcmporancous cynic, all our sorrows
end, while with wcdlock they only begin
But of the mere wedding he would have as
little as possible, ranking that best which
Is the brlefest, simplest, least conspicuous.
Most men, however fond of their brides,
hate the ceremony, and arc vastly relieved
when 1t is actually over. They may be too
polite to say so, but they are pretty apt to
feel so. DESTROYS as they may be for mar.
rlaSc, getting married, especially in promi-
nent, elaborate way, irks them exceedingly.
They so dislike to figure even at their own
wedding that many of thom would not take
any part in it could they be conveniently
spared. But they are painfully conscious.
like the murderer delayed on the road to
the galows, that the execution cannot 20
on without them. They almost always look
nero melancholy at wedding than at
funeral, and any ordinary observer would
wonder why they arc there if he. did not
know the coaxing, urgent ways of sisters,
swccthearts, and wives, particularly when
the overture to the scrio comic opera Of
matrimony is to be socially performed
How totally different is all this with wo
men, whether young or old, married or sin.
gle, civilized or savage. The nuptial pas.
sion is universal with them; they will forget
woes and pains for chance to assist at a
wedding, whose very namo awakens a tu
multi in their breasts and thrills them with
expectation Who has ever seen a woman
un Wiling to attend wedding? Any woman
who should not respond with alacrity and
fcrvor to such an invitation must either be
out OF her sexual senses or at the point of
death. She must bc--but what's the use
The noun substantive woman has, in no
known language, any such dcclcnson.
May and June are the marrying months.
They arc chosen because they arc likely to
be pleasant nearly everywhere, anu because,
in this country they prcccdc the period
when people so out of town Very few
women would be willing to quit the city,
thought it were broiling and most unhcalth.
full, while more connubial visions were to be
had. Many are tarrying now, despite the
of mr. ha,f ,nl c,,lt, T., A.
son that the matrimonial activity still con-
rnucs. And what season can be so joyous
aud cnjoyrblc, so precious, SO fascinatingto to
the feminine mind, the world over as the
connubial season? 1t might be thought
that after n woman had been satisfactorily
married and fairly settled in life, she would
be indifferent to the marriage of Others,
especially when in no manner related to her
by blood or sympathy. But her own mar
riage rather whcts than appcascs her appc.
tito for seeing anybody and everybody else
married
She revcls in the very thought of pro.
spcctive wedding; the nearer it approaches
the greater her excitement, the more diff
cult her self: f:control. She talks about it
continually; discusses it in all its ramifica.
tions; spcculatcs upon its rcmotcst posi-.
biltics What will the bride wear? How
will she look ! How will the groom bear
himself? How many bridesmaids will there
be! What will be the foIm of service
Where will they go for bridal tour Will
they board or keep house ? How many
and what kind Of presents will they have
These are a few Of the thousand and one
questions with which the typical woman
tormeuts herself weeks before the ceremony
has taken place. She dreams of it with
eyes shut and eyes open she tries to arrange
it in her own mind; her ideas of how it
ought to be arc cxhaustlcss she has nuptia
plans enough to supply young ladies'
is sure to be there before the hour named,
no matter what the weather or how great
the distance Ordinarily she is tardy or
rather fussy in dressing, and very apt to bc
behind time but never at wedding. Her
premature punctuaiity can be relied on !; for
she fears if she were only punctual, that
something might escape her. She wants
to be on the spot before the performance
begins she is anxious to catch the first
flush of the occasion, TO scc the invited
guests come in, and to fix in memory each
seam and fold Of every new gown.
Although She has absorbed scores of we'd
dings all essentially alike, every wedding
has Il fresh charm Cor her, and floods her
with fresh emotions. She watches the glow
ing, nervous, uneasy bride the brides
mother bathcd in tears at the consumma
tion of what she has probably strivcn long
and wistfu!ly to insure the stiff, disturbed
bridesmaids the whole Of the solemn farce,
rs if it had never been before She adorcs