Wheeling register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1878-1935, 1880-10-04


ness, as, when some one called on him
soliciting aid for a missionary society,
said; II don't see the importance OF
that institution myself, and therefore
must decline subscribing. But you may
call on my wife. Perhaps she will take
a different view Of the subject, and il So
We will act according to her pleasure"
Such scene as that could not be enacted
in polygamous household.
Where Evenings Are Spent.
Again, all those entertainments are
the foe OF the domestic relation which
take men from their families a majority
OF evenings. | am not ready to make
indiscriminate condemnation OF club
houses. | believe that many of them
have their uses. II had an unhappy
home, or no home at all, | would seek
out the best club house | could find,
buy admission, and spend all my even
ings there in conversation and reading.
But it has always been mystery to me
how man, going TO business at or 9
o'clock in the morning and not getting
home till about the evening repast, u or
! in tie evening, can find much time for
to 8 in the evening man ought to be
able to stand it with his family, or take
some Of them out for purposes OF recre-
alton. | never knew man to be ruined
by being too domestic in his habits, and
spending his evenings at home, while
could give you the roll OF thousand
who lost their morals, and their for.
tunes, and their souls by just the oppo-
site course. When man likes any
place better than his home, lookout for
breakers. How can YOU tell whether
he likes his home better than other
places? BY this rule-a man stays the
most where he likes it the best. One
man out OF hundred has will so
strong and his morality so confirmed that
he can spend every night away
from home for forty years and keep
pure, and honest, and sober. But the
ninety-nine out OF the hundred by such
abSenteeism from home are depleted in
moral strength. and the years are pair
OF stairs to let them down to immortality
and death. Ask the good. honest Chris
tiap woineno of Brooklyn what they think
OF the institutions which take the hus-
band and father and son away night
after night, and for months and for
wears. There are club houses no doubt
very good, and club houses no doubt
very polluted. speak OF neither the
first rate nor the worst, but OF the aver
age club house, when | say it is the
worst Toe OF Christian life in New York
and Brooklyn.
Who 10 Rosponsiblep
But who build most of the club houses
of our great cities? | answer, IN many
cases the women. A woman complains
that the same attentions are not paid
her now, since the marriage day,
that were paid her while
vet the man was supplicating
candidate for her preferences. Perhaps
the retort might be made that you do
not take as much pains to make yourself
attractive now as you did then. That
wife makes an awful and eternal mis-
take who, after marriage, resigns taste
fulness OF attire and all those little arts
which are indescrlbable. but which help
to make up womanly attractiveness.
When YOU greet him at nightiall on his
return from the store, or banking house,
or Office, are you as careful to meet his
admiration as during the first week OF
YOUR acquaintance? The simple fact is
that many women make their charms a
net for one haul and then they throw
the net away. You played the piano
like Thalberg or Gottschalk before mar
rage, and now you cannot play at all.
Ii YOU live sixty years together, you
ought never t. cease 10 he the bride
adorned for your husband. But per-
haps YOU spend the evening fretting
about the servants or decrying the fact
that YOU have it worse than your neigh
bors, or picking at his faults, putting him
into a sort OF infant class over which
YOU are the supervisor instead OF max
ing the house small heaven tor his
perturbed spirit. | believe that unwise
and fretful and jealous women build
one.hai the club houses. Il women
would read newspapers and books,
though but ten minutes day, and be-
come intelligent enough TO hold stout
political arguments as between Hancock
and Garfield and be awake to all the
stirring questions OF the day, they wonId
make their homes a club house to which
outsiders would flock. One intelligent
woman has more attractiveness than
twenty intelligent men. The law suit
has begun. The attorneys on both sides
are ready. The witnesses are in the
court room. The next case on the cal.
endar is club house versus the domestic
circle.
Free Love.
Another mighty foe OF the family re-
lati0n is the prevalent doctrine Of free
love. Newspapers in advocacy OF these
doctrines ill the land. The greatest
argument is that the advocates OF it,with
out any exception, turn out llbertlnes.
Having broken up their own home, they
90 about TO destroy the houses OF others.
This obscene flock OF carrion crows, cav,
cav, cav, on their way to and from the
moral carcases. They are most all spir-
itualists and they get the people OF this
world and the next so mixed up that
they do not know who belong to them
and who belong to the others. Free love
an spiritualism are twin sisters and
their morals are so bankrupt that they
cannot pay one per cent. OF righteous
ness. | can tell the spirits OF the next
world that II they cannot find any
better company than they are said
to pick out on earth, they had better
stay where they are il they have any re-
gard for their reputation. When those
who are united in holy marriage have
special affinity for one outside that
bond, they had better 90 to studying
the ten commandments. Such persons
are Oh the edge OF "A fall about 10000
feet down. But at that distance they
only strike once on the rocks and then
bound of into the unfathonlable.
Easy Divorce.
Another enemy OF domestic relation is
easy divorce. People get reckless about
entering this relation because they
think that ii at any time they desire the
knot united, the law will unite it.