The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1880-03-19

Rev. james v. White delivered the
twentieth Of his course oilectures to young
women to a large and attentive congrega-
ton at the Poplar Street (Cincinnati) Pres
byterian Church last Sunday evening.
Honorable Courtship" was the subject
announced, and he treated It in an exhaus.
tive manner from biblical standpoint.
There were many interesting passages en-
bodied in the lecture, OF which the follow
ing Is an abstract:
II is really amazing to know how little
ifreal good and how much Of real evil
comes OF conversation among mothers on
the subject OF their daughters courtship
and marriage. And when they talk TO
their own daughters directly ii is so mer-
cenary, SO selfish and trifling, or, on the
other hand, so unnatural, 30 unsympa-
thetic and In spirit OF complaint, OF fault
finding and denunciation. that more harm
than good accomplished. Therefore the
necessity OF some more instructive and en-
couragiDg words from the pastoral teacher
in Gods house.
Beware Of two lovers at the same time.
In the approach OF an engagement there
should be no unnatural coyness, nor the
least want of open frankness. Nor is
there need Of any formal and set phrase.
Love has Its own unseen wires OF com.
munication and its own peculiar modes Of
expression, 80 that 1t avoids intercourse.
| II these ways OF loves own are not estab-
lished and In working order, you may
well hesitate. But l think no true wo-
man need mistake in these affairs Of the
heart. Nor should she ever SO demean
herself, dishonor her Creator, and belle
her own nature as TO resort to books and
stories, to fortune tellers or love potions
either for aid or qualification on the sub
jeCt OF love. There Is no good in them.
That there is often infinite mischief, and
always more or less OF Generalization, all
history and experience clearly teach.
Flirting, fondling and kissing among
young men and young women not mar.
ried or betrothed Is botL unseemly and
Injurious In the highest degree. The
bloom OF the peach Is thus destroyed. It's
beauty, its attIactiveness, and its worth
are demoralized and diminished. No man
should desire it, no woman should allow
1t. It is sad draft on future privileges
and future happiness, which can never be
repaired and should not be permitted.
1t lis folly beyond measure and beyond
repair for young woman who has had 9
hall dozen affairs OF the heart, and younI
man who all his best days has been SOW
ing wild oats, to expect true happiness in
welded life.
Beware OF the mere romance Of love
which comes OF lovesick stories in much
OF the reading OF the day; and OF sill!
chat, and joke, and inuendo, among younl
people-and older ones also, who are font
Of prying into other peoples matters-ant
especially OF match makingl Shun al
luck books, and talk, and people, as yol
would one infected with q dreaded dis
! ease!
/ said beware OF the romance Of love
especially would l caution you against &C
. cepting "love at first sight" 1t is no
Gods way. II is always supremely haz
Q ardous, and often no less ridiculous ant
fatal. "Love at first sight" Is but to-
often dissipated at second sight. Thos
who marry in haste are but too frequent
~ left to repent at leisure:T The "honey
: NOON of love Is also but too often FOL
lowed by "bitter moon" Of unearthl'
glare, circling round and round in endless
nonotony OF searching, whitening, blast
ing beams, with no cheeryl dawn OF CON
ing day.
show OF 1t in any way. II would be a
ofIense to true love, and derogatory to
true woman. Mother might be informe
perhaps dear sister. That's enough
!, II an engagement ring Is worn modest
!. and tenderly as symbol merely to war
!. intruders, there is no objection.
!. Courtship should not be protracted to
/. long before an engagement No ma
10 ought to seek for wife until he Is wei
); nigh ready to take her to his own homt
y Nor will he do It'll he is thoughtful, jud
i. cious, and true, unless you tlirt and tiatte
. him against the true interest oil both. y
!, proper manhood will offer or persist !
q any peculiar attentions unless there
:. reason TO think them agreeable TO Ii
II party addressed.
:. Nor Is Il wise for the afIianced parties
= y see each other too frequently between u
d engagement and the time oil marriag
. Nor yet to be writing each other TOO olte
y Il. or too freely. An occasional, but regult
note, with simple and uncostly love tokel
n now and then, Is all that true wisdo
3. would advise or allow. The sweet, ar
y " simple, and peculiar delights OF marie
G life which love demands are not to be tt
freely anticipated.
nv special caution to you is this, do n
, trust TO married life for the cure OF bi
J, habits In your "intended," that you Ct
not cure before marriage. Thousands
voung women permit themselves to be
ceiyed in this respect. "0hl can ma
ACE him when we are married, they 50
"a, You can't, in any ordinary case, Al
j. YOU will find 1t 50, to your grief, II "
No man who has not manhood or 10
l. anonoh for one woman to lead hi
/, abandon any bad habit, or bad compar
y N order TO secure her for wife. certain
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