Washington standard. [volume] (Olympia, Wash. Territory) 1860-1921, 1880-01-02
Afterwards.

Most wives after o year or 30 of we'd.
ded life, submit to themselves, if not to
one or two personal friends an uu Wise
confidence. by the way-that husbands
differ essentially from lovers in their
department toward the chosen OF their
hearts. The "sweet. small courtesiesn
which rendered tue lover so irresistible
are forgotten or put aside, and the hus-
band makes anybody else welcome to
perform such Offices FOR his' wife. no
long as he is allowed the enjoyment, Of
his newspaper and cigar, and general
freedom and ease. Is it the husband
who turns over the wife's music, opens
the wife'sI parasol, runs on the wife's
trivial errands from this room to that?
On the contrary, the friend, the guest.
the casual stranger, the next one handy.
is tho convenient person on whom these
little duties devolve in too nl,ny I'M
stances. .t. ~-'r' 'Fal
The wife's reign was short enough;
and now, she who was sovereign LADY,
must minister to the wants of her form
er slave now her lord. She does not
doubt her. husbands fealty she knows
that he is ready for all the big things
Of life but she, who longs for the
every day demonstration of love would
rather have the little things, TO her
it is not the great sacrifice, the all-dayi
work and WEAKNESS that constitute evi:
dence Of affection; he would be doing
that for some other woman whom he
would have married, probably; il he
had not married her; but what,iwas
evidence Of love before marriage, is to
her that evidence now,i and only that
just these little cares OF which her ,hus.
band feels himself anowably relieved,
the things. that warmed her igirhsh
heart, the things that he wouldbe doing
for her, and her. personality alone And
how lie is indifferent dhds careless, not
only when they are ALONE, J but worst
stang of allr-when IN company.
Woman's pride is usually eqhal to
her love. She cannot beati!that the
warld should see herr husbands neg
lect Of her she wants people TO see,
BY IFS outward demeahor, that she has
been able to preserve his dove, She
small attentions. Of other men 10 not
compensate for his neglect. -, 9, -
A'husband has athousana ihtetests
in the, world besides himself; u wife
has only her husband, Her loye for
him AMI his neglect, OF her make her
life and thoughts too narrow for endut!
ance. II q I ;.ga2 .,to;iHoW i r.
1t must he admitted that women are.
sometimes to blame for this state Of
utfAirs; - vixen or a slotcn can not hope
to, retain her husbands loye tppd re.
spect. But, AS a rule it is the man,
| not the woman, who ignores Tho little
oourtesies which sweetdh Life. Itis the
wife who tries, to make home what it
should be, and herself as lovely an OBJ
ject as may be in lier lords eyes and
1t is often by this very course Of hers
that this neglect has come about. She
has pampered him till he forgets to
pamper in turn Yet she rarely makes
complaint the wife with self respect
or spirit makes no demands; what love
does not render as q free-will offering,
she will go without but if her hus-
band knew what she suffered in the
going without. it wonld never be with
held, for his neglect usually has its
origin in thoughtlessness or perhaps
his parents did not early teach him
how ito behave" ou / ra. l,...i