The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1880-01-24
WHO TO MARRY ?
From tie Chicago Inter- OfcaH.

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4 variegated and haphazard experience,
a discriminating author in England is
prepared to lay before an admiring lot
of girls rules and regulations by which
they can select good husbands. This is
extremely gratifying, and eligible young
ladies, clone, lorn" widows, mothers
with manageable daughters, and all
other persons in search OF husbands, will
gain comfort and consolation from its
pages. John Bull is supplied with his
religion by Dean Stanley, his science
by siG:Iicy and Tyndall, his politics by
Beaconsfield and Gladstone, while his
wife's dress is GU, by the pattern of the
royal family. About the only thing left
the average Bfi,on in which he could
exercise original thought was the selec-
tion OF 4 wife, but now even that luxury
is to be furnished TO order. The modes,
individual who thus aspircs to do the
marrying and giving in marriage for the
British Isles begins by telling the girls
to always select "a husband who likes
lounging in his garden" and enjoy
"Small occupations" and "haS an in
iinity of acquaintance" bu: no friends.
Having evolved these great matrimonial
aXioms, he next cautions young ladies
against what are commonly called ''do-
mestic husbands, and, indeed, through
out the work speaks with poorly disguiS-
cd contempt of this class, usually deem
cd such treasures. In doing so he has
made 4 mistake. Such 4 statement
nigh, be applicable to France, or even
to England, in the time of the Georges.
bu; in the England OF to-day, as well is
in this country, the domestic husband,
so-called, is not the man Of petty inter
csts and trivial occupations, but the man
OF keen interests and absorbing pursuits.
to whom home, and the wife and the
children and the closing -ou; OF external
pressure, bring the sense of rest. More
especially is this the case in America.
where the strain upon all men engaged
in the active walks of life is 50 much
greater than il is in England.
II is not necessary for the Inter- Ocf6p
to come to the defense OF the domestic
husband. for this book on Hho IL .Kay.
~ has raised great stir, and il is feared
the people OF Great Britain will soon be
divided into two sections. one waging
war against men Of active habits Is hus-
bands. and the other against theman Of
''small occupation" who "likcs to
lounge in his garden" But the writer
in favor of the active husbands seems
just now to have the best of the argument.
He says, in substance. let woman ;
first requisite be 4 man whose home will
be to him rest. and the mans frs, OBJ
ject he a woman who can make him rest
ful. The fact OF i mans home being 4
rest to him implies that he has many in
tercstS, cngrossing occupations, plenty
of people to fight. and constant sirug-
gle TO maintain himself against the
world. Thi, is the really domestic man.
in the wiic's scrsc. who enjoys home.
who makes friends of his family. who
rcli>hcs prat,lc. who. in fact. feels in his
small circle rs though he were in
4 heaven Of caso and rciara;ion.
But this writer goes further. and de-
clarcs that man with outside interests.
and struggle TO keep up. is nine times
ont of ten 4 domestic man-tha; is, i
man in whom wife and household can.
If they like, awaken keen affection OF the
enduring kind. The worst of all huS.
bands, according To this cssa, si, is the
one who seems so nice. but who finds
everything but social excitement SO in
sipid As TO make him rs "cantankcrous
rs many pretty dog. Such fellow
after strange goddcsscs," as Mr.. Trollope
neatly puts it, but he grows weary OF
home. where everything is So same and
so tame. and so like flat beer that he be
comes absolutely unhappy in it.
As this author eXhoris women who
wish for domestic happiness never to
marry ''loungcr," 4 "plcasurc.sekcr."
or 'fribble," so he says io men with
the same ycarning. never marry "a fool
of any sort or kind" There is no bur
den on earth like foolish woman tied
10 competent man unable 20 be his
sweetheart, because she cannot help
dreading him unable TO be his conf
dant, because she cannot understand
him, unable TO be his friend, because
she cannot sympathzc with his ordinary
thoughts. The situation for him is a
most unfortunate one.
Tie writer further informs his readers
that some men absurdly ovcrratc ''house-
hold capacity" which they talk so much
about, and he boldly declares that any
able woman could learn TO manage a
household in three months. In this he
sees the rock on which thousands of mar
rying men split Fairly cultivated them
selves, men seem TO secretly dread intel
ligencc in women. They are apt TO
fancy that foolishness is gentlenesS, and
sometimes, in an outburst of confidence.
will say they do not want the clcvcrneSs
to be on the wife, side. In short. some
men do not want to he seen through.
and fancy, with strange and touching
humility, that il they are they will not
be loved. In other words, they believe
that clever woman will be incapable
Of worshiping them. There never was
a theory more unreasonable, yet il is
difficult to make some men believe it.
Clearly there is more capacity Of affec-
tion, Of domesticity, and of self-sacrifice
in the able than in the foolish, for cul-
tivation diminishes seliishness. Intel
ligcnt women, and capable, busy men,
are the demand of the age, and united
they make the best husbands and wives.
DaS-You can almost tell that young
man has been ground through school
of elocution when you hear him get
up and rccitc, Crock tin theke radlc
OF thckc cap" We don't know wha,
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