The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1880-05-07
wORLDLY WISDOM.



Extract IRON one q Thaekgy's Esays.
II is only few men who attain sim
plicity in early life. This man has con.
ceited seli.importanee to be cured Of; thai
has his conceited bashfulnessto be ''taken
out of him, as the phrase is. You have a
disquiet which you try to hide, and you
put on a naughty, guarded manner. You
are suspicious Of the good will Of the com.
pany round about you, or Of the estima-
ton in which they hold you. You sit
mum at the table. It is not your place to
put yourself forward, You are thinking
about yourself; that is, you are suspicious
about that parsonage and everybody else;
that is, you are net frank; thst isc you are
not well-bred that is, you are not agreea-
BILE. l would instance my young friend
Mumiord as q painful example-one OF
the wittiest, cheeriest, cleverest and most
honest OF fellows in his own circle; but,
having the honor TO dine the other day at
Mr.. Hobaueh's, where his excellencv the
Crimean minister and several gentlemen
OF honor and wit were assembled, Mum.
ford did not open his mouth once for the
purpose OF conversation, but sat and ate
his dinner as silently as q brother Of La
Trappe.
He was thinking with too much distrust
OF himself land OF others by consequence
When Mumford Is an honest iogy, like
some folks, he will neither distTust his
host or his company or himself; he will
make the best OF the hour and the people
round about him; he will come tumbling
over head and heels for bis dinner, but he
will take and give his part Of the good
things, join in the talk, and laugh unai-
fectedly, nay, actually tumble over head
and heels, perhaps, II he has talent that
way; not from wish TO show of his pow
ers, but from sheer good humor and de.
sire to oblige. Whether as guest or as en-
tertainer, your part and business in society
Is to make people as happy and as easy as
you can; the master gives you his best
wine and welcome; you give, in your turn,
q smiling face, disposition to be pleased
and please; and, my good young friends
who read this, don't doubt about yourself
or think about your precious person.
When you have got on your best coat and
waistcoat, and have your dandy shirt and
tie arranged, consider these as SO many
settled things, and 60 forward and through
your business.
That is why people in what Is called the
great world are commonly better bred
than persons less fortunate in their condi-
ton; not that they are better in reality, |
but from circumstances, they are never |
uneasy about their position in the world;
therefore they are most honest aud simple; |
therefore, they are better bred than Growl- |
or, who scowls ut the great man def |
ance and determination that he will not |
be trampled upon; or poor Fawner, who
goes quivering down on his knees, and |
ticks my lords shoes. But l think in
our world-at least in my experience
ers.
1t will be seen by the above remarks
that desire to shine, or to occupy mark |
ed place In society, does not constitute my |
idea Of happiness, or become the character
Of discreet fogy. Time, which has dim
med the luster OF his waistcoats, allayed
the violence Of his feelings, and sobered
down his head with gray, should give to
the whole OF hes life quiet, neutral tinge;
out OF which calm and Teposetul condition
the honest old fogy looks on the world,
and the struggle there OF women aud men.
I doubt whether this is not better than
struggling yourself, for you preserve your
interest, and do not lose your temper.
What Is the great use Of
succeeding? Failing? Where is the great
harm? 1t seems to you matter OF vast
interest, at one time OF your life, whether
YOU shall be q lieutenant or q colonel
you shall or shall not be invited
10 the Duchess party-whether you shall
yet the place you and hundred others
sre trying for-whether Miss - will
have you or not; what the deuce doesit all
natter q few years afterwards? Do you,
Jones, mean 10 intimate desire that
history should occupy herself with
your paltry personality? The future
loes not care whether you were captain
,r q private soldier. You get card to the
Duchess party; it ia not more or less
han ball or breakfast like other balls or
breakfasts. You are half distracted because
Miss won't have you. and takes the other
elbow, or you get her las did Mrs.
Pacifco), and find that she isquite differ
,nt thing from what you expected. Pshaw
These things appear as naught-when
lime passes-time the consoler-time the
the gray satirist, whose sad
mile seems to say, Look, o man, at the
'anity OF the objects you pursue, and Of
,nnfGalf who nnr6ue them