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l.. "A traveller was badly hurt in a rail
road aceident-two ribs broken and
other injuries. He wentto the office of
the company to complain. ''Whatr
cried the Office clerk, lyon want to
make row about so small a matterP
Not month ago twelve of our passen-
gers were killed and we didn't even
hear a word of complaint from any of
themr'-Pssek- q gJTJl w "a
[. "A gang OF burglars were a burgling
at Long Island the other day, and they
stole set of Appleton's Cyel0pedia.
This showsthat there is comElenda-
BILE thirst for knowledge among this
class of night workers that has hitherto
been unsupported. No doubt these
cracksmen came from Boston. When
an enterprising burglar isn't burgling
he likes tolie a basking in the sun, with
the Cyclopedia volumes him encircling,
to read the books all over, one by one.
detroit Free Press. Hrr,.r
The Art and Mystery OF Married Life.
The Sacred art and mystery of living
together as husband and wife. 1t touches
the deepest springs of human happiness
and SUCCESSFUL rr
When the novel reaches its last chap
ter; when the wedding-day crowns the
happy story of love and cOurtship, then
begins for man and woman the real test
of what they are; then is thrown upon
their own hands the question of what
the future is to be. In q true marriage.
the sweet season of romance that pre-
cedes the bridal day is but the harbinger
of better things to come. But the secret
is easily missed. It is missed oftenest
probably through the man fa-lt. The
first and great lesson of marriage is that
the thought of another is to come be.
fore the thought of self, The reyela-
ton which true love makes is this: One
sees in another soul such beauty and
attractiveness that its service is pre-
fcrred to the service of self. No emotion
which lacks this high element deserves
to be called love. The desire of pos
session, the longing for intimate and
habitual compromising, these come in,
too, and make part. But higher than
these there is that complete and joyful
self-surrender in which a woman ap--
pears so lovely to a man that to make
her happy becomes his strongest desire;
and woman sees in q man such no.
bility that she can gladly devote her
life to him. That is the holiness and
the raptuTeVOf true lOye.tr.l,AEF
The problem of married hfeis to main
tain the nobility and elevation of this
early sentiment. The chief require
ment is simple enough. 1t is only, put
your wife or husband before yourself in
your thoughts and choices. To the wife
this lesson Is generally emphatically
spoken by the circumstances into which
marriage brings her. 1t gives her as
her chief business the making of home
for her husband and afterwards for her
children. The event of her day is his
return from work. Her work is to make
him comfortable and happy. His sat-
isfaotion and appreciation are the stand
ard of her success or failure So she is
put at once into an outward relation of
service. Often there is a ningling of
hardship in that. Before the wedding
day she was queen; herwill and wish
were law. Her lover made it his first
thought to please her. Nowi must be
her first thought to please him. His
main occupation lies no longer with her,
but with his daily work! He may be
ever so devoted and tender, but most
of his time and much of his thoughts
must now 20 elsewhere. Her great
business is his comfort and happiness;
his great business is something apart
from her. And he will never begin to
know all she does for him. His man
nish eyes miss half the little details of
work that go to carrying on a house
hold in comfort. He will be a some
what rare man if he ever fully7cOmpre-
bends the broad tact that her Individual
life is merged in service 10 him. 1t is
the wOman's lot to do more than she
gets credit for The heart S wages for
work is appreciation and few wives get
full pay. 1t is when some sense of these
things breaks upon theh woman in
the early months of. her married
life that she stands face to face
as probably never before-with her
destiny. And what destiny offers her
IS service a hard gift to look upon at
first. Declined or grudgngly taken it
will wound and bruise lifetime
through. Bravely accepted it will tenn
per the whole life to celestial sweetness. /
1t is Just here that the wife has the adj
vantage over the husband that outward
circumstances set straight before her /
the lesson of self-renunciation and serv-
icein the househoid;Tas they dOnosset I
it before him. His face. must turn .
towartt his daily work (. There his best
energy isspenb rand vitality drained
When hec9meS-, home he wants rest. F..
He feels himself, IN a'meisilre, off duty. .
And here he gets the full comfort of a
good wife, 'andrthe home that the good !
wife makes fHe Is taken in and rested. /
and shieHedlfronl annofance and en-
compassedt by hunflHeds gentle, minis
tries. Here he can forget the tolls Of /.
his day, OF. renew them in a serener |
light; finding here , giadness for his /
success and comfort for his failures .
and sppreciation, where Others have /
him. ~ Here body and soul .
find refreshment and he is Sent out
new man for the morrOw's struggle. I
And If his wife is not allowed TO give
him this. she is cheated as much as he .
is. This is her happiness and reward;
this is what crowns her work. Yet this /
resting time has its danger. Who has
not known menAvho were sPoiIef1 by I
the GOODNESS oftteir wives? men who
allowed themselves to receive until they /
utterly forgot to giYe?. The more gen
erously and gladly a wife gives the-t
more watchful should the husband bet
that he makes die return. fT ,at
TIE foe Of married @tappf1ess is mat |
tention. The real wrong to the wife, I
the real failure of the husband is when I
he becomes uhconscious of what she is