Iron County register. [volume] (Ironton, Iron County, Mo.) 1867-1965, 1880-05-06

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There u no invitation 50 common. and
none q seldom accepted, as this free
and-easy tender of ones homo TO .
guest. From the way In which many
peopls conduct themselves in their own
homes-what with their pecvishness,
tardiness, slovenliness, surliness, and AL
the other dreadful nesses-we shouldn't
care to have the invitation taken very
literally by them in any home In which
we have part or lot; but Is It not practi-
cable, and would II not be pleasant all
around, to have agreeable people feel
more Eat home than they often do in
their friends honest y 4. } NV
All visitors feel that in some places
there Is an atmosphere that Is congeniai
and pleasant, and conducive to freedom
and enjoyment, while in others-though
the welcome be Just N warm and the
friends no less kind and dear-they arc
never unconscious that they ara. visitors.
The house Is in an abnormal condition
of spick-and-span orderliness, TO start
with; and one feels that in no home are
the papers and books always picked up.
the work put out ofsight, and everything
kept with its best foot forward. In most
sensible, not to say cultivated, families.
the essential vulgarity of loading down
the tables with an unusual and necessary
variety of food, because friend chances
to be present, Is no longer seen; but In
too many the entire matter of the family
eating is made to turn upon the guests
appetite or readiness. How entirely " at
home'' one feels {" this is writ ifonical,"
as A. Ward used to say) to come down
to breakfast a quarter, of an hour late and
find pater faniilias reading the adver-
tisements in his crlmpled morning paper,
with one eye wandering to the clock;
the housewife with the shadow of q
frown upon her politely unpuckered
brow, and the children palpably cross
from waiting! The guest shouldn't be
late, of course, but he often takes that
liberty when ut home, and would feel
much better TO find the family Mt the
table than waiting for him. The con-
seriousness of throwing everything out OF
gear in the family machinery makes one
realize very uncomfortably, that he Is
not at home" ..-.
Then the children are often. kept on
"dress parade" during the presence of
transient guests. 1t causes pain 10 q
child-loving and sensitive man to know
that the children are debarred Of their
natural and blessed freedom by his pres
ence. His own little ones at home climb
to his back or knee, tease for stories,
play games, and have a good time after
supper; and while the average parent
doesn't take so much interest in other
peoples children, no one. not so utterly
selfish that his comfort does not deserve
to be considered, likes TO see children
robbed of any of their little rights and
customs by stupid conventionality. re-
quiring them to be dressed up and keep
still.
1t may further be truly said Of hospi-
tally, that O. . rule, Z" entertaining"
does not entertain. Public men are not
the only people who like plenty Of let
ting alone. The friend into whose homo
our coming means only an extra plate
and chair ct the table, and room at the
fireside; whose easy chair IL ours for
resting or chatting; whose homo
circle Is enlarged, not broken up, by our
entrance; whose greeting shows that he
Is conscious of receiving as well a. i'm
parting pleasure; who preserves his own
and recognizes ours; over
whose roof-tree waves the Dag OF free
dom--isn't this the place whore We al
love IN Oop.-(JoLlle,a RuII mas .fa,rr