The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1880-08-06

l have quietly listened to the thoughts ex-
pressed upon the subject of slouchy husbands
and wives. 1 think if our children are well
trained in the habits of neatness and order,
and never be allowed for even little while to
be careless and untidy, the principle will be so
instilled that neatness and system will be part
of their nature.
There is nothing so disgustingly disagreeabIe
to me as garment mended with pins. WheIt
a stitch gives way, a needle and thread used
promptly will save more than nine l have
seen dresses, where ruf1e or fiounce has been
pulled out of place, fastened here and there
with pin. Of course, If one meets with an
accident on the street, there is no other choice
but one should remember to use the needle as
soon as possible l have seen little boys play
ing on the sidewalk almost holding their clothes
together for want of button. Not very long
ago, mother attended sewing circle. Sic
said her little boy, hearing she was going, said
''Well, l hope mamma will mend my pants
fore she goes !" And it is fact that many
women attend societies for sewing, negiect1ng
the comfort and care of the family, really think
ing it Christian duty. If both can be done,
it is well. but never the one to the neglect OF
the other.
1t is a dreadful thing to make
''bugbear" of the father; the child cannot
love or respect the parent ulluST ouCll CltCuih
stances, and mother should never allow 6
child to think she cannot or has not the power
to govern her children; teach child to obey,
because / say so, be it father or mother.
Children, obey your parents, should be IN
delibly impressed.
Constant terror of the father, and dread of
severe punishment, will make child a coward,
and he will do many things in sneaking way
gain the love and confidence of the child, let
him know that you are training him for COM
panion join in his sports sympathize la his
little heartaches in his brainaches at school
and college. Don't expect the boy to be born
man, but help him to become man. Children
have sorrows and cares and perplexities, they
unwittingly get into scrapes, and are perhaps
often painfully sorry ana mortified, ana wish
they could tell father; but father is lawful
strict" and they dare not approach
him, so they try to hide the annoyance, and PEI
haps resort to deception, and, if suspected,
eqlivocate, till the trouble that might hav0
easily been removed becomes burdensome, and
the fear of the parent becomes stronger,
and love grows weaker. think Paul said well
when he placed the two verses i'll one
chapter" Children, obey your parents and
"Fathers, provoke not your children too much"
If you have advice to give let it be between
the parties concerned third party is one too
many, and would be humiliating to the child.
seldom see poor, degraded young man on
the street, but / wonder what his childhood
could have been. hear of the terrible crimes
perpetrated all over the land, and know the
ones concerned were once innocent babes in
their mothers arms. What has driven them to
such terrible sin? Is it alone the child's fault.
Did the parents make fatal mistake? We're
they tryrannical or too lenient? Were the
children driven from home for want of sympa-
thy for want of love?
Is i the duty of minister's wife to serve her
husbands people, to the neglect of her own
family?e Can any mother do her duty to her
children, and attend all the meetings of the
church?
Is it minister's duty to give all of Sunday
and every evening of the week to the church
Of which he is pastor? Have the little ones no
claim upon the father? Ought he not to min
lister to his own household? A child should be
thoroughly acquainted with both father and
mother, and parents should know their chit
dren.
Perhaps in granting a request parent would
do well to think twice before speaking once
not hastily say no when perhaps a little thought
would rightly say yes, and make the child
happy. 1t is, of course, hard to retract when
we have so decidedly refused privilege, but if
we can keep the clouds away without harming
the child it is better to do it. 1t will not be all
sunlight in after years. l fancy many Of our
readers know the fact by experience.
The threads of life become very tangled as
we Journey on, and the knots come, and cares
draw them tighter and tighter. If We could
only prevent the snarls, and have the spindle
run smooth from the beginning, we think life
would be one vast panorama OF beauty; but
these bitter lessons need to come, and we only
have to patiently wait to know the why, and
pluck the flowers as we go, striving to escape
the thorns. AUNT LUCY.
CHICAGO. Ill.