Daily globe. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1878-1884, 1880-12-12
Visiting.

When guests arrive Ill response to an
invitation, the mistress and master of
the dwelling, whether mansion or O.
cottage, should spare no pains to make
the visit an agreeable one. Many we'll
meaning people, from over anxiety to
do 80. alter the entire arrangement of
their households, and, in consequence,
fail to achieve their object; for if Wis
itor perceive-and he is almost certain
to do so-that you have changed your
ordinary routine of living, an uncom-
Portable feeling that you are-to use a
homely phrase" putting yourself very
much out of the way" will prevent any
true enjoyment from being felt. There
fore, the hosts first care should be to
make a/visitor aware that his presence is
not disturbing element, and that the
action of the domestic machinery will
not be disarranged in consequence.
This is the truest courtesy, and course
that never fails to put the visitor at his
ease. Let whatever is performed be
done without apparent effort, so that the
effect produced may be that the visitor
finds himself a sharer Of your own home
enjoyments-not that you have to tax
your energies to afford him entertain
ment.
There should, however, be no sort of
neglect on the part of either host or
hostess, and the comfort of a visitor
should be carefully studied. For in
stance, the guests room should be made
| as comfortable and pleasant as possible.
IL the weather is cold, fire in the CRATE
will be felt as most welcome attention.
Do not think it sufficient to ask, "Would
you like fire in your bedroom this
EVENING"" Such an inquiry could hard
ly fail to have chilling effect, and a
negative reply would most probably be
given. It is quite easy to Judge whether
the weather is sufficiently cold to make
| a fire an agreeable addition.
Pens, ink, paper, envelopes, matches,
| and o few books and flowers should find
place. Generally visitors bring their
own writing materials; but, should
these by chance be forgotten, it is pleas
ant for them to find their wants have
been anticipated. For the same reason
aproperly-furnished work-box, with but
tons, scissors, etc., should be provided.
and especially if the visitor is a lady. Ii
WOu1u Uo HlpOSSiUiS W eHuHieriiLS all
these little conveniences, so much de-
pending upon circumstances but it is
just these little things which have the
most to do in making visit an enjoya-
BILE one.
While visitors are with you do not, il
anything occurs to annoy you, trouble
them with the details Of what has gone
amiss. Such q course only tends to
make them feel that they are putting
you to some inconvenience.
On the other hand, the guest, per-
| ceiving something to be wrong, should
abstain from making any remark upon
! it-should appear, indeed, not to have
seen it. Equally reprehensible is il
to suggest changes and alterations tc
the host-to criticize his taste OR cal
his Judgment into question. Or, if his
children should be fractions Or rude, il
is out of place for the guest to remark
upon it, or to find fault with what they
say er do, if the parents do not see fit te
| interfere.
From first to last a rigid observance
of the law "bear and forbear," by hos
| and guest, will be found essential to the
| preservation Of harmony and enjoyment