The Osceola times., 1880-07-03
The Fr.ssescy or Divsrcc.

Glob. Democrat
II is our fAvoriie boat that We live 70
on age Of prusress We claim, with
great .clf-copplacenst that We. are
marching onsard rOrs rspdl, te~srd
that ultimate perfection which hsnan-
itv is .sppopea n he stOlaiss thss any
re,iou. gsnerstisn that ever lived. II
can not bc denied that in The material
world oar onVsrd strides ere prodis-
ious. Neysr lSfbre h@ the vOrlds
popnlstion achieved such Q ns~sfy
over nasurs. lie force. are hsrns~sd IN
the service ~ mss, SD ere doing du'y
in the removal OF olriscles which II hse
placed ia the way of his sspplyins hie
wants. Blu, in the midst OF this mate
rial progress, when Ne turn 10 the ethical |
side of the sccount, we not nnffsqnenls
encounter some ugly facts shich lead no
b. question how Ear our sssuRed advsnos
tossrd = better and purcr esrthly hn
is real. In al article in the North lS's'-
en- R~y,n on Divorces in hsN England
Dr. Nathen Allen prssente etatistis
which show that during the lest ssa
wears the ratio OF divorces ~ marriages
has been steadily on the increase. The
statistics are necessarily Imperfect, bat
are sufficiently accurate 10 make certain
ths fact that, taking the lev Eng gisnd
states together the proportion II
divorces 10 marriages il almost twice
% great o. tsp years wv. There 10 eool
reason W believe that at least a. saaAl
increase in the frequency in divsrcs
would he shown " have occurred in Me
whole country we're similar stAtishcs
=. Al nd al
though there ysrious csHses Which may
partially sccount for 1t, still it mast 10
accepted o. . proof that there 10 some
thing in our modern life which rsndsrs
men and women more and more isosP-
able of living together happily in Me
married state. With liberal allowance
for the effects Of additional grounds Of
divorce which have been incorporated
in the laws, the unwelcome truth 70
mains that our society is gradually pro
ducing . greater portion Of men unfit to
be husbands and = greater portion OF
women unfit for wives.
The social position Of divorced per
sons is not reported, but II it were, there
ia little doubt but that most OF them
would be found to have belonged to ths
so-called better classes. They Who
labor for their bread are seldom troubled
with domestic ushappincss. They begin
married life with st least large apprs-
citation Of its burdens, and seldom fell
one another in its trials. But higher
up in the social scale the incompatibles
become more frequent, and heie mast
be found the causes which lie st the
bottom Of our dcgencracy. Chief among
them is the faulty training OF our boys
and girls, Parents and children are
alike ambitious, and the result is that
the education Of our youth 10 made Ia
subserve the single aim Of getting along
in life. Boys are not taught those
larger duties and responsibilities, the
honorable discharge Of which 10 the
crown and glory of manhood. Their
intellect is crowded To its utmost limit,
and with the stock OF knowledge which
they are able to scquire from the schools,
they are expected 10 be sharp enough "
take care OF their own interests. There
il no time to attend to the domestic side
of their education. That il expected to
come soIhe how; meantime they are
pushed into an ability to cope with the
world, without ever being taught the all.
important lTulll luhl latlll Nv
wolves the serious duty VI fAShioning the
world. As men they are sverse to selk
sacrifice, and their selhshness Yields
only To extreme necessity. To them
marriage proves q restraint instead Of Q
happiness, and where both parties are
equally seli1h, the restraint becomes
intolcrablc. A life of Ilesssrabls sslf-
sacrifice 10 something which they require
to he taught, and which they ofen refuse
10 learn. They have never bestovsd q
Thought on how 10 make Themselves
good husbands end hthers, and sfen
decline 80 learn amer marriage.
But the education ~ girls 10 n i'll more
defective. Although woman has by far
the larger share III ordering and shsping
domcstic life, girls are educated - il
their DESTINY were to take no lot or par,
in il. The aversee rirl expects ia
marry. To that end she 10 taught the
accomplishments which make her mos,
| attractive 10 the susceptible strrncr ser
and her intellectual faculties are cult
| vatcd To W. great an extent a. the pcccs
sity of more superficial scQuIrciscnt'
permit. The future wife and mother
never dreams of qualifying herself fol
! the duties of housewife snd motherhood
| There is no companionship between her
self and her mother. The young peopl,
| have an existence spart from that elder
circle which they eventually expect "a
enter; and the example of home 10 sys
tcmatically disregarded, and often dis
pised, by the future proprietrcSs sf {
| home. The svcrsge glrl's motto 10 "
catch a husband tirt, aud tnrn her ~
! tcntion TO learning how tO Taaks bii
home happy afterwards. But she hst
grown up more selfish than she imse ned
and she often finds that she hes Bsdss
taken 4 dificult tAsk, sad sopstimel
makes no prolonged eAort to master il
Finding herself ignorant Of slso~t every
thing which she ought ~ kRov
che shirks her vifsly duties aAd
content hsrrelf With being . bsrdss
instead Of Q help N her AsstAnd
The girl whose brilliant oDc,a
qualitic. chsrm the circle in which shs
moves, 10 - y wife the meet helpless
creature in the world. Her mora
nature hssa,ecn most hopslessls dvssisd
and she 10 really Q nuisance in the homo
which che oueht 10 adorn. Thsa eonol
the familiar story Of incomJatihility u
temper, and harsh and ssuel treatment
the inevitable eequsl sf disappoist
ment. Beyond . doubt much Of ths %
happiness which attends the hva q
Many persons 10 due 10 the neglect q
home education by the parents, II ths
decline Of hone education 10 . result =,
our rapid pace in material progress, il IL
not pleasant 10 contemplate What N,
society Of the future will bs il this psos
10 kept up.
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