Eureka daily sentinel. [volume] (Eureka, Nev.) 1871-1887, 1880-06-09

How They should Judge of Men.
We often read articles giving advice to
girls, telling them that they must learn to
make themselves useful in every possible
way; to learn to cook, etc., that they may
be able to s~uperintend q house when they
have one Of their own, but never a word Of
what kind Of o husband to choose. 1t
would be o very difficult task, I admit,
since a girl seldom, IL ever, has a chance to
choose for herself. It is left with the man
to choose, and the girl to accept the propo-
sal Of marriage or not as she pleases.
Girls are mostly never governed by their
own judgment, but are rather influenced by
their fancy without consulting their reason
or asking themselves il a union with such,
or such a person, will be likely to prove a
happy one to both parties. If he is fine
looking. and wears an air Of self-import-
ance, and has the reputation Of having
money, no matter how obtained, she is
convinced at once that he is just the one to
make her supremacy happy, and she imme-
diately sets about weaving for him the garb
Of perfection, and she fatters him, and
they are both much pleased with the deli
cious morsel. Has it ever occurred.to her
to inquire in regard to his past life? He
may be what he seems, but the chances are
he is the extreme opposite. 1t is more than
likely he has Won the heart of some other
girl, and iattered her till she believed in
him. The novelty has worn away with
him, and perhaps he has betrayed her con-
fidence, and left her to die Of a broken
heart, while he seeks new worlds to con-
quer.
If perchance you meet a fallen sister,
you are sure to hold aside your skirts, for
fear Of contamination and regard her with
bitter contempt as you pass her by. You
walk on q little farther and meet the poor
girls destroyer. You greet him with one
of your sweetest and blandest smiles. You
meet him in the ballroom and allow him
to encircle you, and in his arms he leads
you through the dizzy mazes of the waltz.
Is his breath fragrant with cardamon seeds
or highly favored candies? Then, be sure,
that in nearly every instance, there is
whisky behind the fragrance. It is greatly
FOUR fault that we are what we are. We
know what license we are granted by what
is termed Society" and are not back
ward in taking advantage Of it. II you
demanded different things Of us, and treat
ed us with the contempt we deserve, and
the scorn with which you treat our victims,
we should be better men. We do not wish
to be Stunned by the pure, nor have we
any respect for the demi-monde, and if We
were shut out Of the refined circles for our
misdeeds, we would be sure to mend our
ways.
1t has always been a wonder to me that
women treat a fallen sister as they do. II,
instead OF treating her with scorn, and
sending her down to the lower level by
their contempt, they would take them by
the hand, and advise with them, and lead
them to better and higher things, and
make them feel that they can be forgiven
for a false step, there would be many less
go to irretrievable ruin.
You say that we support them, or they
would not be there. We say it is your
duty not to keep them there, by your kindly
sympathies and encouraging words.
Do men backbite their brother men, be-
cause he has been guilty Of a sinful act,
or has brought disgrace upon himself by
his misdeeds? By no means does he. We
uphold each other, and use our influence
in behalf Of the brother more unfortunate
than ourselves, and l contend it is the duty
VI OfCiy 6OoQ WOhi1a w ubO uOA AAuuCASc
in favor Of the sisters who are more frail
than herself. No one is all wrong, and nc
person has gone to ruin at one leap. Step
by step they have gone the downward
road, till they find themselves at the very
foot. May God pity the u who has
reached that level.
Girls, you leave school with q good many
romantic ideas in your heads, and model
your hero after some character in an over
drawn novel, but if you would reflect q
moment, you will know that such perfect
men never appear on The human stage, but
are all born heirs to human f~railties, and
| find it easier, and much more natural, to
indulge in vices than to be ruled by dis
| erection, and adhere to the right and Just.
1t is natural and right that girls should
wish to make a home of their own to find
a stronger mind than hers to be guided by,
and a wiser person to look up to and to
respect. 1t was SO ordained that man
should love, cherish and protect a woman,
and that woman should love and trust a
man.
Girls, in their blindness, look upon mar
riage as the acme Of earthly happiness,
without thinking whether the object of her
affection has congenial tastes and habits
with her own or giving heed to the all
lLlDOk thnt nuDJCCb Va C4uullty. l. tQCy
would consider this, and be governed by
reason, there would be many less ill-assort-
| cd marriages, and there would be less-neg-
lected wives, who are left to battle with a
| heartless world and to die Of broken hearts.
Another thing would be all important
with me, were q girl. I should first OF
all, wish to know Of his antecedents then
Of his boyhood il he was a dutiful and
| respectful son, and q kind and loving
| brother then, what Is his present mode
of life. Does he drink wines or whisky 7
Does he frequent the saloons and gambling
houses? And last, but not least, what are
| his morals?
II he was tender of his mother, and af6ec-
tionate toward his sisters. If he is q good,
sober, industrious and moral young man,
| with good business tact, and a refined edu.
cation, he will make a splendid husband.
| Never mind his plain face, il the expires.
sion is honest and intelligent. he will
make you much more happy than the hand.
some dandy, with waxed moustache, and
whose hands are white and soft, and who
looks upon himself as one to be looked UP
to and be admired, and who argues that
woman has her sphere, and that man Is
| granted more license than q woman. Such
q man will be very likely to leave you pine
in secret, while he passes his time in an
az innocent game Of cards" playing "only
for the drinks or cigars"
Girls. this advice is gratis, and / have nc
idea it will have the least influence on youi
minds, but it would be better for you II il
had. Your friend, SILAs GRUMPY.
Delegates 60 Grand Lodges.
Says the Silver State The Masonic ant
| Odd Fellows Grand Lodges meet in virgi