Perrysburg journal. (Perrysburg, Wood Co., O. [Ohio]) 186?-1965, 1880-03-05
Women, Through Their Strong Affections
are What Men Make Them.

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are What Men Make Them.
Why are wives what they are, and
not what they might, could and should
beP Because in nine cases out of ten
it is for want of temper or judgment in
the man. We have all heard of the
cautious individual who would see his
wife's grandmother before he took the
irrevocable vow. He was quite right.
A man desiring TO enjoy the delights
and consultations unknown to a single
condition, prepared to love and cherish
under all calamities and changes,
would do well, if possible, to learn a
little of the early training of the wom-
an he desires to make his partner of
his joys and the consoler of his sorrows,
and to have some knowledge of her in
domestic relation.
1t seems hard in this our day to find
the medium between the fashionable
wife all frivolity, dress and excitement,
and the female virtues, or the woman
without tact; but there are women, of
many of whom, it may be truly said in
Scriptural language, "the heart of her
husband doth surely trust in her." How
often are these woman linked to the vi
cious and the unsuitable, are obliged
to shut their eyes TO facts, and when
love is gone, live on enduringP Mar
riage to them has been a desperate
thing, curse and slavery, instead of
the nearest approach to perfect happi-
ness permitted on earth.
Of the drunken ruffian, quick with
blow, we have nothing to say-he is
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that perish, and as rule, belongs to
the extreme lower class; but among the
so-called gentlemen there is the over
bearing, tyrannical husband, at whose
voice children and servants flee, soured
probably by difficulties in his business
or profession, but surlily keeping his
trials from his wife, and snappishly re-
senting all her attempts to win his con-
fidence. Who so capable as she to
soothe and to aid by her womanly tact
and discrimination, made keener by its
concentration in her little world
home; and have we not sacred warrant
that the wife is help-mate for the man,
not slave to minister to his material
wants only, whilst he grudgingly doles
out his money, never dreaming that the
order of his house is only arrived at
by thousand little domestic cares so
heavy in the total, yet labor of love
when lightened by kind, husbandly in
terest. This man acts as if he were de-
void of affection himself and grossly
presumes on his wife's early inculcated
sense of duty.
Then we have the henpecked husz
band. Now the censorious world con-
fnt ~ t,olxr 1otT he nt nd
discusses the anxious, irritable wife; it
never troubles itself to consider the
weak vascillating man he must neces-
sarily be in his safest condition. He is
never-ceasing anxiety to his wife who
knows he must either be a fool or a
scoundrel. She tolls early and late
with brain and fingers to rectify his
sins of omission. Her pitiful tender
ness must always follow him and hold
his wavering mind in check lest his self
ish folly should bring more troubles into
the household impoverished by his care
less indifference, leaving his wife to fight
the battle of life single-handed. He is
only amiable when gratified, loving
when spared difficulty, giving few
flattering words of praise at his wife's
clever management-mo painful than
pleasing, for she knows their value
ill-tempered if forced to do anything he
dislikes, and coarse in his taunts about
nagging and pickering. If she is
righteously and sternly compelled to
give ugly names to his procrastination
he will occasionally cry peccGUi, there
by firmly believing he has washed out all
his ssins and may begin them again on the
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cannot take the inferior attitude which
all womanly women take real delight
in, but must unpoetically fulfill Wads-
worth picture of
"a perfect woman nobly planred,
To warn, to comfort, and command"
Then last but not least, we have the
salt of the earth-great and gifted, ten
der and true men, whose lives are
spent in making strong resolutions
which they seldom fail to carry out.
A husband from this class is at peace
with himself; therefore gives Joy to
others, bringing home light and COM
fort at all times and under all circum-
stances. Self-governed, he justly ex-
ercises rule over his wife, whose hap
piness it is to anticipate his wishes
and acknowledge his supremacy. Ex-
cepting the few in whom the faint of
moral baseness is hereditary, men
know full we'll that women, through
their strong affections, are what men
make them.
1t is also want of faith in man that
makes women unjust to each other,
preventing the friendships there might
be between them, so sacred and help
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she really is. AS Byron says: MAN
to man so oft unjust, is always so to
woman. ."-LGrld and Water.