The Grant County herald. (Big Stone City, Grant County, Dakota [S.D.]) 1879-1883, 1880-12-18
Friendship and Love.

Men learn to look at woman as though
she were an entirely different animal
from man. They either set her up as a
goddess and reverence, almost worship
her at a distance, or they place her entire
ly beneath their level, simply as an lnte-
rior creature, to be admired for her hand
some plumage or her grace and ease of
carriage. Why not accept woman as the
purer and holler part of man: created to
bear with man and tor mar the cares and
vexations of this trying lites Scarcely
man exists who has not one or more par
ticular. confidential male friends. At
clubs these may always be found togeth-
er. In business, in politics, the ideas OF
the one are shaded to greater or less
extent by the ideas of the other. Such
companions may widely ditter IN temper
ament, in habits, IN tastes. but the fact
of their trusting, consulting and betriend-
ing one another, draws them together
with an almost sacred bond. Always
be friendly with all, conh dental
with a very few, is surely an ex-
cellent maxim; but why cannot this
confidential friendship exist between the
sexes2 Why cannot men and women OF
similar ages contract these attlnltles! Not
every man on coming to years OF maturl-
tv desires to marry lmmedlately many
such, should they deslle it, have not the
means. What are these to DO. They
may have none Of the expensive habits 50
denounced by BAY Court, nor yet be
members Of a club; vet they are too non
orabIe to marly ana thus impose the eN
nense OF an additional family upon the
PARENTS of either themselves or thell
wives. Such a one as this, il No1la seem
has no business anywhere IN society and
| II struck me that to such class probably
belonged the Bachelor. How IS he L
attain Dr.. .Iohnsan's elegance IN the llttlt
! things. thus ignored as he IS by so-callee
polished society. 1t is only by rubbing
the marble slab with the smoother ston,
that it becomes the polished surface tina
deearates our mansions. Our girls ar
taught to look down On this class VIII
ayoy no intention q marrying as mo
eligible. They may favcr them with
passing smile, but any effort to be partle
ularly agreeable is q pure waste OF tim
and energy. That toycatch husband
is the end Of their existence IS early IL
culcated and that thence they must thro'
themselves like a putty ball at ever
mans head. until they find one sol
enough to adhere. Our young men, mean
| while, until they are ready to marry. mus
content themselves with each other
! society in other words, must remain OF
Of society. Such it is who often gro'
bitter against society Have they NJ
considerable cause for growing sof II
me tell you that one or two goodhearte'
/ noble minded triends-''contidentl
friends" | have termed them-ot Il
other sex would be the salvation OF > ma
such a one, who, careless, IS gradual
but how surely drifting to the ba'
] Friends. indeed who might not be ab
TO understand all his business cares
r political ambitions, but yet to whom !
5 miuht contide some of them and be SUI
5 OF hearty sympathy in the one case,
t patlent and often an apt scholar
!. the other. Men undoubtly do III
= women and women Just as surely DO Il
c men until il is all educated out OF 30
by deluaed or selfish parents and &C
S respondingly educated state OF soelet
IS Young men and young women can
s friends. without ever being more to @
II anothe and by being such would ma
the better husbands and wlves-to otl
a women and men, prehaps-tor nayi
It learned that beneath handsome clothl
I and society formality there often lurk
heat as true as steal, trusting and to
r. trusted " \. Times.
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