Eureka daily sentinel. [volume] (Eureka, Nev.) 1871-1887, 1880-05-21
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EXTRAVAGANCE.
what n Bachelor Knows About II

men, young men, do not dare marry be-
cause they cannot support such extrava-
gance, etc., and have often wondered why
some one Of them did not take up the
cudgel and pay us back in our own coin.
Since the lecture, delivered by the Hon.
George W. Baker, at the Methodist Church,
on Modern Society, l have thought of the
subject very frequently, and have arrived
at the conclusion that the women are by
far superior to the men in every respect.
First, allow me to ask, why the young
ladies of the present day are mere butter
flies of fashion, rather than like the sub
stantial girls of the past?
According to the laws of nature, a true
gentleman is anxious to make himself
agreeable to a lady. On the other hand, q
lady is DESTROYS Of making herself pleasing
to a gentleman. Then the question arises,
How I'M / to make myself most fascinat-
ing? The answer is, by cultivating graces
of manner, tasteful dress, and appearances
of refinement. To accomplish this, money
and a freedom from domestic cares, must
be the first consideration.
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a brilliant complexion? Poets have rsved
Of them from time immemorial.. Can a
girl retain these while performing the
drudgery of the kitchen? Can she be
tastefully and elegantly attired when cook
ing her papa's dinner, washing dishes,
cleaning stoves, pots and kettles. broiling,
roasting and baking, sweeping and busting,
washing aud ironing? A girl who takes
the responsible position Of "maid Of all
work" must necessarily present in place Of
white jeweled fingers, which we all so much
admire, a hand red and swollen from con-
tact with a hot stove and dish water.
Suppose two young girls stood side and
side, equally beautiful, both possessing the
same accomplishments, one with a pure
heart, loyal and true, but with red, swollen
hands from performing household duties.
which she submits to from a sense Of honor
and love for her parents, who have been
made poor through misfortune the other,
fair and brilliant. a mere selfish butterfly,
with fine dress, jeweled fingers and false
heart, but whose father has money which
would you take for a wife, young man, who
dares not marry / know which one, and
SO do all the girls know, without your an
swer.
While men condemn extravaganza in
woman, they praise and pay Difference to
what leads to the same. A girl, possessed
Of any enterprise or pride OF spirit, does
not like to settle back into q nonentity,
consequently she strives to emulate her
more fortunate sister in dress and manner,
and is condemned for her extravaganza.
A few words in behalf Of the wife and
mother. A man with education and refine
ment marries a true helpmeet. She loves
her husband, and with true, wifely devo-
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parlor, performing all the labor thereof.
Then the children must be kept nice and
clean, their clothes tastefully and nicely
made, husbands clothes all in apple-pie
order, company gracefully entertained, her
own person attractive, everything in its
proper place, and in proper time. Beside
all this, she must find time to attend to his
%lordship's wants, whenever he feels dis
posed to grace the house with his benign
presence. All this he considers her duty
to him, for the honor he has conferred
upon her by giving her his name. Did you
ever think that the meanesI servant in the
kitchen has a much easier position
After a time he becomes rich, and begins
to weary of the wife who has grown old
before her time, and wishes he had a
younger and gayer wife to spend his money
on. This one does we'll as a mother to his
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a Young and gay one would be nicer to end
his independent days with. The poor,
true and faithful help-meet has hard brown
hands, and the husband, who has grown
fastidious with his acquired wealth, looks
upon those poor weary hands with disgust,
and pines for fair, jeweled fingers to clasp.
But l digress. My object was not to
enumerate the cares and abuses heaped
upon woman, but to show to them that
there is one ''old BACH" who knows the
faults of men as well as he knows of the
virtues of women. My mother is a true
type of womanhood. God bless her. 1
have a sister who merits all the love q
brother can bestow upon her. / know
that mother and sister are as far above any
of us, in every particular, as the heavens
are above the earth. If my mother and
sister are pure and good, sensible, honest
hearted women, there certainly must be
many more as good and true.
Young man, do you ever take your pencil
and count the cost of the tobacco and cigars
YOU pay for in the course of a year? Do
YOU enumerate the cost of the whisky you
drink and give way during the same time?
Do you count the cost of each visit to the
Academy of Music, the Adelphi or the
hurdy house? Do you reckon the money
paid to the frail sisterhood, and above all,
do you think where these indulgences are
leading you? / know what these things
have cost you, and l know, too, that the
same money would support a wife very
handsomely, and you would become ele-
waited by associations with q good wife, in
stead of retrograding by evil associations.
| My brother, We travel fast when on the
down grade, aad what shall we find at the
end Of the road but disgrace and a loss Of
self-pespect?
Now, q few words to husbands / hardly
know how to approach you without wound
ing the fine sensibilities of q wife. 1t is
to be supposed that every wife has full
| confidence in the husband of her choice.
To such / will say, / am not speaking to
your husband.
Mr.. A., has your wife been obliged
to leave you for a time, and go where she
could regain her wasted strength, far
away from friends, to q quiet country
place, where she can inhale the pure air?
while you sit and count the cost Of grant
ing her what you call luxuries. Pause and
make q private note of what you paid TO
Julia or Molly, or whatever her name may
be, during her absence. She, true to you
in every thought, while you soil your lips
and heart by contact with the vile. How
could you meet her with a kiss IN her
return, when your lips had been stained
b, the foul breath of q courtesanp How
could you look into the pure, trusting eyes
of your innocent daughter, and imprint a
kiss upon her pure lips, knowing how they
were soiled. Soap and water can never
cleanse them, try however hard you may.
You fatter yourself that you have been
very shrewd and discreet, but do you know
how your neighbors B. and c. passed
their time while their wives were away?
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Do not fatter yourself that you are not
discussed at length, for you are, and your
evil deeds known but too well. Do you
suspect that your wife is ignorant Of all
this? Not by any means is she. Do you
wish me to tell you why she assumes igno-