Weekly Chillicothe crisis. (Chillicothe, Livingston Co., Mo.) 1878-19??, 1880-07-15

: gether as husband and wife! 1t touches
the deepest springs of human happiness
and success.
When the novel reaches its last chapter;
when the wedding-day crowns the happy
story of love and courtship, then begins
for man and woman the real test of what
they are; then is thrown upon their own
hands the question OF what the future is tc
be. In a true marriage the sweet season
of romance that precedes the bridal day is
but the harbinger OF better things TO come
But the secret is easily missed. 1t is
missed oitenest probably through the
mans fault. The first and great lesson ol
marriage is that the thought Of another is
to come before the thought Of self, The
revelation which true love makes is this:
One secs in another soul such beauty and
attractivencss that its service is preferred
to the service of self. No emotion which
lacks this high element deserves to be
called love. The desire Of possession, the
longing for intimate and habitual COM
panionship; these come in too, and have
o. part. But higher than these there is
that complete and joyful selfsurender in
which woman appears so lovely to man
that to make her happy becomes his
strongest desire; and woman sees in IA
man such nobility that she can gladly de-
vote her life to him. That is the loft
mess and the rapture Of true love.
The problem OF married life is to main
tain the nobility and elevation of this early
sentiment. The chief requirement is sim
pie enough. 1t is only, put your wife or
husband before yourself in your thoughts
and choices. To the wife this lesson is
generally emphatically spoken by the cir
cumstances into which marriage brings
her. 1t gives her as her chief business the
making Of home for her husband and
afterwards for her children. The event Of
her day is his return from work. Her
work is to make him comfortable and
happy. His satisfaction and appreciation
are the standard of her success or failure.
So she is put at once into an outward re-
latiOn of service. Often there is a mingling
OF hardship in that. Before the wedding
day she was queen; her will and wish
were law. Her lover made it his first
thought to please her. Now it must be
her frst thought to please him. His main
occupation lies no longer with her, but
with his daily work. He may be ever so
devoted and tender but most OF his time
and much of his thoughts must now go
elsewhere. Her great business is his COM
fort and happiness; his great business is
something apart from her. And he will
never begin to know all she does for him.
His mannish eyes miss half the little de.
tails OF work that 90 to carrying ON house
hold in comfort. He will be somewhat rare
man if he ever fully comprehends the
broad fact that her individual life is
merged in service to him. 1t is the wo-
mans lot to do more than she gets credit
for. The hearts wages for work is appre-
citation, and few wives get full pay 1t is
when some sense of these things breaks
upon the woman in the early months Of
her married life that she stands face to
face-as probably never before-with her
destiny. And what destiny offers her is
service. A hard gift to look upon at
first! Declined or grudgingly taken, it
will wound and bruise Il lifetime through,
Brayely accepted, it will temper the whole
life to celestial sweetness. 1t is Just here
that the wife has the advantage over the
husband, that outward circumstances set
straight before her the lesson of self
remuneration and service in the household,
as they do not set it before him. His face
must turn toward his daily work. There
his best energy is spent and vitality
drained. When he comes home he wants
rest. He feels himself, in q measure, of
duty. And here he gets the full comfort Of
u good wife, and the home that the good
wife makes. He is taken in and rested
and shielded from annoyance, and encom-
passed by hundred gentle ministries.
Here he can forget the tolls of the day, or
review them in serener light; finding
here gladness for his success, and comfort
for his failures, and appreciation where
others have misiudged him. Here body
and soul find retreshment, and he is sent
out new man for the morrow's struggle.
And if his wife is not allowed to give him
this, she is cheated as much as he is.
This is her happiness and reward; this is
what crowns her work. Yet this resting
time has its danger Who has not known
men who were spoiled by the goodness Of
their wives? men who allowed themselves
to receive until they utterly forgot to
givep The more generously and gladly
wife gives, tie more watchful should the
husband be that he makes due return.
The foe of married happiness is inatten-
tion. The real wrong to the wife, the real
failure of the husband is when he becomes
unconscious Of what she is doing for him,
and what she is in herself A man should
every day see in his wife the woman she
is. Whatever purity, sweetness, woman
illness he once saw in her, and thrilled at
the sight of, whatever fuller and richer
growth the years have brought, these
things he should see in her continually.
Not mere part of the domestic machine
should she be to him; not even n mere
comfort and convenience and pleasure to
himself-her soul, in its full stature should
come home to his constant thought.
Whatever charm Of face or manner, what
ever womanly grace, whatever quickness
of thought or delicate sympathy, would
strike strangers notice, ought fafbetter
to be seen and priced by him, her husband.
1t is little to say that her face ought to be
as beautiful each day to his eyes as if they
looked upon it for the first time; it should
be far more beautiful because he has
learned to see through its windows the
soul within. And in the same way the
wife should look upon her husband. 1t is
this true yet tender regard which makes
the right atmosphere for the soul 10 ripen
in. Few things touch us so deeply as to
be understood. But to be understood and
loved; to have the best that is IN us made
full account of; to know that our faults,
too, are open to that sweet and gentle
gaze; to long to be worthy of love so pure
and high that only our highest ideal self
can deserve it-what other influence can
so strongly draw us toward all noblest pos
sibilitiesP This is the work of true mar
riage; to reveal two souls to each other in
their ideal beauty, and then to bring that
ideal to realization.
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