The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1877-1885, 1880-03-25

often deficient In the art OF accommodating
themselves to a higher social sphere, IS u
question we do not stop to answer Enough
has been said IN utt ttering the voice OF warn
ing on matter that invite the most earnest
foresight. Happily there are cases in which
new and onerOus positions are filled with
tact that IS truly admirable. Though not
OF an exalted origin. some women may be
said to be ladies by nature. They take
kindly to any rise in the condition of their
husbands. Much depends on the upbring
ing Jack Scott and Betsy surtees set up
in the Matrimonial with a cordial unison OF
feeling. Not particularly we'll off at first,
they were for a time contented to sup
pennyworth of sprats. When, by his tai
ents, Jack rose in the world, Betsy rose
with him. for she was of respectable pareu
tage and brought up with style of good
manners Accordingly, when Jack was
made Lord Chancellor and raised to the
peerage, no one acquitted herself better
than the Countess of Eldon.
If one class of women fall short ia their
tastes and habits, fully as numerous class
go so far in their attempts to exceed IN
dress, expenditure, and frivol1ty as to dam
AGE of the character Of the Matrimonial.
Men Of moderate means are afraid to marry,
lest they should be chained for life to wo-
mon who might ruin them by their unregu-
lated and costly indulgences. We are IN
clined to think that this dread more than
anything else prevents men from marrying
in early life, when they are as yet unable
to encounter an expensive system OF house
keeping. They are doubtless wrong IN be
ing SO ntmidated
There are other causes for regret from
having impetuously rushed into the Matri-
monial Beyend all, on one side or other
there may be serious constitutional lnt1rn-
tiles. People take great care to match
horses and other animals. in order to main :
tain pure and vigorous lineage. Little or
| no care is taken on this score when con-
| tracing scheme of matrimony. A young
| man heedlesslv marries into family known
| to be affected with some hereditary disease,
never rejecting until too late on the conse-
| uuences of his act. He fOrgets that II
| physical as we'll as in mental sense the
| sins Of the fathers are apt to be visited on
! the children. With his eyes open, he takes
! to his bosom a wife who will in all lkehood
end her days in an asylum, and whose prog
eny can scarcely fail to share IN her deplo-
! rable infrmtv. Where is the comfort IN
! having family defective in mental qEal
| ications You may endow them with the
! fortune realized by years Of successful IN
| Gustry; but from the fatal taint we speak
| Of, it is out of your power TO bequeath J .
| them brains or common sense
| .Can troubled po,L ted springs
A hallowed stream at ord -
Indisputahly they can not, and the fact
! should be borne in mind III matter Of court
! ship Let not the institution Of marriage
be charged with the calamity. Your own
rash conouct in forming the alliance IS at
fault We may be sorry for You III the
irving circumstances, but the peDalty Of
! indisCTeton its inevitable.
The Vicar of Wakefield tells Us that he
! chose his wife as she chose her wedd;ng z
gown. which was the principle OF Sc &c
TIM one that would wear well. # IN the
article ef marriage you fix on tfimsy ma
| terial take the consequences, and blame no
bsdy but yourself The market is open.
Do not be in a hurry Yet do not put OF
the time because you happen to be unable
to start on high scale OF worldly wealth.
Eariv marriages may not be always com
mendable; but wait, wait, waiting to reach
some imaginary standard is-all other
things being esuaI-by 20 means sound
policy. Burns pathetically sings,
son. why should Fate sic pleasure have
I.ife'a dearest bands untwinlng,
! Or why sweet a flower as love
Dererd on Fortunes .hinng?''