The Corvallis gazette. [volume] (Corvallis, Or.) 1862-1899, 1879-07-04
Marriage.

/ Marriage.
Correspondence Detroit Free Press
Many young lady thinks because she
has had an advantageous offer of marriage
she ought to accept it. She doesn't love
been advised by her friends that it is
better to marry man you respect and
learn to love him, than to marry man
you love and learn to hate him." She has
had this dinned into her ears as many
times as she is days old nearly, and almost
learns to think that hating a man is a
natural sequence of love. Respect is very
| well one should have that any way, but
it does not take the place of affection.
Love should precede as well as follow mat
rimony. But suppose subsequent to mar
riage it is awakened for the first time in a
wife, what then? If you don't love, don't
marry. The connubial yoke sets easy in
| the shoulders of love, but it is most gall
ing without this and only sufficient sup
port. A mans first necessity in looking
for a wife, is to find one cheerful, one who
makes good, loving, cheerful daughter
and sister; but above all, one who is phys
ically able to support the cares and duties
which attend that position. Does the
young lady who is too weak to sweep her
| own room, do her own work and sewing,
think that any sensible young man is go-
| ing to ask her Ito be his wife? Some
| young men who are not sensible may, but
what a broken reed she will be to lean
upon when misfortune or trouble comes.
| Young men are fast learning wisdom, and
| find finding that pretty face and form
and snowy accomplishment do not make
the coming wife. Girls are fast learning
| it too, and show their willingness to learn
| by the large attendance at the cooking
| and sewing schools of the Eastern cities.
Many
WEALTHY YOUNG LADIES
Serve an apprenticeship in both millinery
| and dressmaking and make their own
dresses and bonnets. The better educated
| they are in different branches, the better
| taste and common sense they bring to
bear on the particular branch they wish
to excel in. Did any of you ever notice
the difference between the educated and
uneducated housekeeper? The one brings
all her intelligence to bear upon her
| work, the other works with stolidness
| that betrays her sluggish brain. If all
servant girls were educated, one would
save money even at higher rate of wages
| than to employ uneducated women.
Each human being would thrive best
| under the fullest culture and liberty to
grow" Some girls will not marry me-
chanic. I think man of large body and
brain, honest and industrious, is much to
be preferred to kid-gloved young man
| who sports cane, mustache, nobby suit
of clothes-and nothing else. A girl
| might better take to her affections cal
ous-handed, industrious mechanic, hop
ing, with study and her aid, he might
make his way up to be designer or man
ufacturer, as the years passed by. What
too, impedes marriage, is the vanity of
young men. They, as much as the girls,
want to "live in STYLE" No man can
serve two masters" and the noble, loving
girl must stand one side unloved, while
the vonng man worships the pocket-book
and waits for the bank account to
dress and their private luxuries as would
comfortably support two in a cozy, CHEEKY
home. The world is full of bright, fine
looking, educated, industrious girls, who
can dress on 500 year, and "who would
be as faithful as Penlope, and love cot
tage as never Queen loved palace" but
the same world is full of men who attend
theaters (alone) night after night, smoke
costly cigars. drive fast horse, belong to
the boat and ball club, but can't afford
to marry"
| NEVER SINCE THE FLOOD
1 have dated that back far enough to
avoid controversy as to dateS-have there
been better, more sensible, practical girls
than to-day. They dress well, even hand
somely but how, only the girls know.
They don't go around the world pleading
their poverty, their make-shifts, and I
honor them for it. I detest these people
who are always groaning in spirit over
their poverty or misfortunes. Even the
daughters of wealthy parents who have
hardly had a wish ungratiied, marry
| poor men and make the bravest, cheer
| lest little wives possible. Why? because
they married man worthy of their
efforts. A German philosopher says that
| in society where the men are uneducated
| and immoral, the women will be more SO,
as women are what men make them, and
| in turn, men are reacted upon by their
| own molding of women. In that society,
! continues the philosopher, where the
men are industrious and brain-developed,
| the women are more sincere and reasona-
BILE. Therefore man may take his own
share of wrong in human affairs. An
other trouble is, 1--WE marry too young.
This especially applies to the women por-
ton of society. American men seem to
be infatuated to marry girls not out OF
their teens. Before she has hardly real
| lied her womanhood and is just begin
| ming to learn the shades of life, she is
married; after that, as her nature keeps
growing, his, to, they find much incom-
patibility In their union. A woman
changes rapidly from twenty to twenty
i've !; her IDEAS ana opinions aIHOst tuIA q
revolution-and what satisfied her at,
eighteen is not at all to her taste at
twenty-five. If women married at twenty
five and men at thirty, there would be
more happiness in the world, and the
nation would be given new race of men
and women, stronger, physically and mem
| tally; for all know that the stronger the
parents the better the race of children.
Many marry for money. Sometimes one
| is deceived; sometimes both; but these
are cold, loveless, of which both heartily
/ repent. -
Loves Ingenuity.
1 A couple, not one hundred miles from
/ Manchester, carried on their courtship in
j rathera novel manner. A young man