The Wichita city eagle. [volume] (Wichita, Kan.) 1872-1883, 1879-04-10
The seauny side.

A recent cssayist points out in sem
tence the reason of domestic infelicity.
ssThc seamy side Of the cloth is often re-
served for the special edidcation of the
home circle" The husband, defcrentiai
and polite to his outdoor friends and
business associates, is, if not abrupt,
careless and perhaps imperious in MS
household intercourse. The wife, VINO
has received her callers with wonderful
suavity, and permitted them to leave
with the impression that she is Just
lovely" drops the company mask pc
fore her children and her husband. The
man and wife, who are held in law and
gospel to be one, demonstrate that there
can be repulsion as well as attraction IN
matrimony as in magnetism. The chill
dren, who are on their good behavior
when the mothers of other children are
observing them, show how completely
thew can reverse the picture when no.
body but their own parents are looking
on.
Sincerity has its admitted place at the
head of all the virtues. Its for its very
insecurity that this domestic unpleas-
ness should be abolished. Usually the
husband loves his wife. the wife her
husbsnd, and children love their par
ents. Let any real pain or misfortune
happen to either, and this latent affec-
ton is then made evident. Why should
il be latent affection, concealed at all
ordinary times and evident only when
the most its exhibition can do is not to
increase happiness but to alleviate PAIN
In word. why should the "seamy side
only be obvious in the household, while
among strangers the best aspect of thu
cloth is always presented! If it II
worth while to conciliate people To-
whom YOU care comparatively little, wh!
Is il not also worth while to be in pleas
ant relations with your own relations
i Yet, in the families which are consid
cred happy, this consideration is too OF
: ten overlooked. We talk of the hard
heartcdness of uncivilized tribes, as
: in them alone women were called upo
y to bear the heaviest burdens. Yet tn
,. same view of the relative burdens G
women. children and men seems to b
held '.by saint, by savage, and by sage.
I. The Indian warrior despises domest
re duties as beneath him. His is the "n'
re- ble- following of the chase and the wa
fe path. He leaves with the wife the dali
y wearing, weary drudgery Of life, wit
r. out the expression of pleasure at the r
a. suit of her labors.
or How much better is the civilized IN;
y. who comes home to his domestic tel
ur proud of the mctaphorical scalps he h
or won in the battles of life? How mu
OF less i,nperious is he when he lets hims'
ST. down from his outdoor dignity to I
slip-shod indifference of home, and tur
his coat as he enters ''seamy side on
And what woman is there who does n
on perceive and inwardly resent the met
ry morphosis! 1t is perfectly natural III
be what in himself the man Over-rates
nd woman should under-rate and I'll
ill while he looks without appreciation
we her sphere, she looks on his with an
me swering feeling. There are, howev
m two sides TO the subject. Perhaps I
Inc equality" which is claimed for the Sc
lrt es may include an equality in this wa
me of consideration for each other.
tic. There is an operation among need
rs. women called .fclling' seams. 1t me;
for 1.-THE ladies will correct if wrong)
ETY. overlapping and stitching the ed'
di- down to remove roughness. And tn
md is an operation among tallors cal
..prcssing." which aims at the same
iect in a manlier mode. If the won
10 would all fell the scanning sides
OF life. and the men ''press" their rot
zeal edges down, good many of the irrl'
in ing inequalities of the domestic Gil
fly, would become very smooth indeed
bic result would repay the labor, and as
,nly fles make the sum of life. the total wo
Ii he a fair balance on the right side. I:
-;o. handsome dividends for father. mott
-, children. and all the hOuschOld.-Ph
""e | deIobi0 LPtI1er.