Fayette County herald. [volume] (Washington [Washington Court House], Fayette County, O. [Ohio]) 1860-1???, 1879-09-04
MatrlmOniaI Inrelic1ty.

The primary cause of matrimonial infe-
iicity first arises from disappointment.
The demi-gOd, or angel, as the case may
be, that you have set yourself to worship
is, you find too late, of the earth, earthly.
John is close, lazy, ille-anything but
gOd-like-and Mary is gossipy, frivolous,
not the angel your fancy painted. You
suddenly awake to the conviction that
you have made mistake. James and
Martha would not have been thus and So
Yon believe that Mary does not beautify
the home for you and you alone; has an
eve to self in the adjOinings; is selfish.
While she in turn wonders that you yawn
through an evening with her now, and
grOan like an earthquake if she wants
you to take her out. John and Mary,
Tom and Dick, Harry, Sophia, Jane,
Susan-there is no name to which this
does not apply-you both expect too
much. Love is not eternallY blind ant, ,
in the days of courtship, quite unwit-
tlngly you put your best foot fOPem ost ::
bnt when the irrevOcable knot is tied, lit
tie by little you twain doff your company
manners and appear in your proper per
sons. Perhaps it is right; though life be
| a masquerade, one can't keep his mask on
always; and if one does, some bright evil
will discover something disagreeable
through all disguise Men and women,
| anyway, are but children of a large
growth, and take things with the same
characteristic Indifference as they did
| years ago. You took your doll or your
| top, your toy Work-bOx and the work of
| blocks, with delight; you could not play
enough with them; but in time they are
| put by for other novelties. You trot out
! something new and that is made the de-
| light of the hour; and if. perchance, later,
YOU come across relic of the past, it
| brings up some pleasant recollection, and
| though you become stirred with emotion,
it is emotion tempered with more reason
than when yOu first beheld it.
So it is through life; men and women
have individualities the law of reason
demands that these individualities should
| be respected. 1t is the old law, a law
/ again of bachelor, which says: teWives
/ submit to your husbands etc. But q
| more common sense law directs that both
submit, both rule; and if they begin in
the outset with the idea and conviction
that the two are two as to individuality
but united by one common interest, the
happiness and advancement of each, anG
perhaps the welfare of their children is
Insured. If each would seek to work
hand in hand, head and head, they would
hnd themselves heart in heart driving
over over the same road. Expect little; mai
CalNot always be lover, nor a woman {
s5WeeIheaFt. And never, if you feel ten.
tI1a uel .iess growing lax, reprOach the other
ina. Is the way to bring it back
LIE can be beautiful if we can max,
It so, and why should we not? Forbear
ance on both sides, will do much to max,
and keep 1t beautiful. If not for you
own sakes, can you not be generous for
the sake of your children.
Marriage, which should make life NOR,
beautiful and perfect is sorely perverted
Strive, every pair of you, to make on,
couple less unequally yOked.
ttUon ,, James Gordon Iata Of tho I'm
quirer, in answer to the question, "Wil