, 1879-07-26
uAsTY uAnnnon AND IT'S EVILS.

CHICAGO, July co. find that cannot resist
tic tcmutatton after all; must add my mite
to the subjects OF marriage aud divorce.
TO commence At the root think that our
young men and women ruah Into marriage
wlthout s'ngls thought Of the future. Their
minds think but OF tho present.
II IL = solcmn, sacred act ono which requires
much care, thought, and tleliheratton. Marry
in haste, and repent at leisuro." But too often
tic repentance br!nge With 1t a sting more bitter
than death, An agony mora terrible than words
can express.
Ono Of The Home writer's has said3 "Thero
should always b two bears in tho family, bear
md forbcas." And she 10 right; Without them
what is homet Too napJ have said, - hus-
e1ef essp tse swoetsas Il haS t msht b. sS aieped
n little. bccauso neither ono is expected to bo
tile satac. Variety Is the splco OF life. a wlfo
docs not expect to he told every hour IN the daT
worid" I No; but when she has 'G dressed M herself
with care. for her husbands cyes, aud he looks
at her tndIfFcrent1y, or only looks to blaine, I'd
]ika to knnw II She TAN 10 expected to bear It
without nlurmnr, especially when ho can open
his mouth enough to nay that " Mrs. So-and-eo
nlwnys dresses With such exquisite taste.h
Now, II nby be that hs does not realize the
wound which these words would give 10 a sea-
sES 4a, out bs 5 ss : srs s se:F, I s'y ssf
care, land oh to how much misery "don't
her, o,f,.ra will not, and she listens while
others tell her she looks eharmlnF. It Is not
II Ii tile fatal want of appreciation which
wrecks and ruins 50 many hotnes. and ,makcs
outcast many mAn or woIlal, who arc un-.
contctous Of their own wroos-tloIng.
Hod pity neglected vile, md tbiuk We all
know sonse Of tlirm.
There Is not mnn or woman living, II they
would but acknowledge sflc fact, who docs not
feel all the better foc little n'erited praise.
lesson, will work all illn harder to do better,
uml ute the children Of larger growth any
wserl Harsh, unkind words will do no good
Iscason quietly Il You can. II you cannot, then
walt u little until tic calm comcs for como It
must, antl II reason will not DO listened to- then
bc silent, mud you will certainly hare nothing to
regret.
''spccc1, Is eilvcn, but silence Is golden"
Divorce is blessed boon.giycr to many IN.
lapny, suffering creatures OF God, and who
would dare desptsc III Not NC who tco so much
Of IT., n,ll SO much need Of 1t too, every day.
Not NO who SEQ noble. suffering women bear
burdens which strung mcn would sink under:
women who for tl.n sakc Of the children God
ns glycn tirni struggle on In lie battie Of lie
until they fnut AlId fall by the waysidc.
Ah my friends, II wo rould once look "behind
the acenes,n how would We scorn many whom
now VIC smile upon. a..
:" Each heart knoweth its own bitterness"
and nnly God knows how deeply the bitterness
is burned into those heaEtA. l do not bcltoyo
tint God ever Intended that two should 1.-Two
together whose natures continually clash.
Matches {at least Ill Of then) canno. be made
In IIcayets. else wo would not see 10 much
misery.
Then, too. husband and wife may 1.-Two
growing M around thctn and atfll DO as far
npart lii many thlngs as though they were entire
strangcrs to each other. Tie Aucr sensibliitcs
were untouched.
1t may DO too late, but II you still care, study
your own heart, ind nut tue want, understand
yonr parthor's diaposltfon, mud conform to It
Fotnewhat; willis they, Hhcn they sec that you
hanpy homes you may have.
RALPH Nackatraw, ana sorry for you; but II
your sweetheart truly loves you, you ran speak
kindly tO her, and perhaps you will induea her
to learn soma OF the lntrtcacles OF tho culinary
| art And above al. dear buy, Il you do marry
| her, be pat!ent With her irat effUtts. young
hnusckccp0r t,as irving posltton, and smile,
| than you think Tor, anu docs 30 much good.
Just here let me remark that do not think
It right tn 1udEs the mother's position by the
| ehiluta actions. How many children arc 1uiet
| and reserved uatusa!lya T1cY may inherit This
from the m1ll,cF: II 10, must she be callod u
slave aud her huaennt1 tyrant, bucause sba
rhouses to be lndy.like, lnudest, and reserved
tnauy Of them, too forward, too impertinent.
1t is relfef 10 meet . reserved, retiring chtId.
"Do unto olhers ps ye' would that others
should do unto you" AL, II more OF Our mar
| rlcd {olka did this, tBcrs would be feHer dk.
yorccs, less unhapplucss. 1ovn A ths matn-
spring Of marriage; without Il what is lilef-a
desetti wilderness. MAKioA MA1.