Daily Republican., 1879-08-07
How - Make Home H Happy.


There are so many mis- serable unhap
py homes, that people may we'll doubt
whether it is possible that home can be
happy any more. A lady of intelli-
genee has been giving this question
some study and taking a philosophical
view of the subject, as met in the ordi-
nary affairs of life, she writes to west
ern paper the result Of her thoughts on
the subject of making home happy, and
illustrates her meaning by relating a
portion of ner own experience.
"My husband" says she, "is great
smoker; he loves to play cards, domi-
noes and chess; he is at perfect liberty
to smoke in any room in the house, and
am always ready and willing to join
him in the different games. endeav-
or in every way to be not only help
mate, but coppanion to him, and the
result has been that have and enjoy
his society; hs prefers spending his
evenings at home with me to seeking
other society. cannot understand
why women will run the risk OF losing
their hus stands society and love, mere
ly for the sake of gratifying an over
fastidious taste. Ii they do not like
tobacco, did they object to his using it
during the days of courtship' And if
they did object then and failed, Why
did they marry! If men will not give
up such habits at the solicitation OF
their sweet hearts, it is not likely they
will be persuaded out of them by their
wives: therefore, think it unwise for
woman to risk her happiness by
quaireling with her husband over a
venial fault, the existence and extent
of which she knew and perfectly un-
derstood before she took upon herself
the duties Of wife"
O. course there are many who are
amongst the tidiest of housekeepers,
who will hOot at svch an idea as sug-
gested by this lady, but it is evident
that though they may know how to
keep everything tidy and neat, and to
keep every thin. in its place, they have
not struck upon the true philosophy of
making and keeping that beautiful
home happy.
1t is the little chronic complaints and
fault findings, tn. continual looking on
the dark side Of the picture of life, and
ageneral anticipation of dreadful things
happening in the future that make
homes as dreary and chilly as a wilder
ness, swept with the winds of destruc-
tiou. The great majority of divorce
cases grow out of the merest tribes,
which might be easily overcome by
guarding against incompatibilty OF
temperament, and little disposition on
the part of ea;h to make some little
sacrifice, even if such sacrifice should
not measure up to ths social conven-
tionali.ies of the times.
We are reminded of lady who was
apparently shocked at tn. remark of a
friend she was visiting, shortly after
she had moved into newly furnished
house. The parlor had been handsome
ly carpetted and no expense had been
spared in its appointments for ease and
comfort. The children were playing
around with an abandon which boded
no good to the brussels and rep.
A strong aroma of tobacco smoke
pervaded through the housr, the hus
band had just finished his evening ci-
gar with his usual hours chat with his
wife and children in the parlor, before
going down the street to finish the bust
ness Of the day. The visitor was surpris-
ed that her friend would "permit" her
parlor to be turned into smoking room
and nursery.
at is my husbands parlor," was
her prompt and somewhat spirited
reply; ''it was furnished with the
money he earned for his comfort as well
as mine and the children's, 1t was
made for use, and not to be kept clos.
ed or opened only for the accommoda-
tiOn of transient callers. would rather
he did not smoke, but as it seems
great solace to him, prefer he should
90 so in my company instead of driv.
ing him to seek other and less conge-
nial associates. The gambos of the
children may wear out our carpets, but
We prefer that to driving them on the
st cot for amusement at the risk of
forming evil associations that may
cling to them through life. We can
better alfori new carpet than to take
any such risks"
In snch home as above described,
divorc. layer will never be needed.
There are scarcely any who have MT
their little faul.s, and all are aware IN
them, therefore they should practice
forbrarance and take things as they
find them.
W. do not wish to encourage the use
Of tobacco in any form, but it is far
batter to have The best parlors in the
ronse constantly scented with the
aroma of long nine Havana, then to
run the risk of compelling the husband
who enjoys his smoke, to seek NOR.
rong-ni'l company in the cigar shops
or the Oar.roOm.
In LOOKING over the editorial of the
"H-raid" this morning we are Re- mind