The Douglas independent. [volume] (Roseburg, Or.) 187?-1885, 1879-07-12
why Men viii Not MARRY.

The expenses Of women cause matri-
mony to be dreaded by men !; SO many OF
them prefer the splendor of wealth and
the show of enjoyment to the simplicity
of the manners and the pure pleasures re-
sulting from IL Thus wrote aBrisSot," of
New York society many years ago, and
the same might be written with as much
truth to-day. How few there are that
give any thought to the matter, or stop
for moment to realize how this love of
expensive and costly amusements is
growing to be mania. The craving for
excitement, for unsatisfactory pleasures,
for indulgences that not only money can
buy, is bringing sorrow into homes all
over the land.
Men think they can't afford to marry
unless they can find some one who has
plenty of means, and the mass of women
are searching for rich husbands, and both
are wasting their lives in a wretched
manner, and growing false to the better
promptings of their nature all the time.
There are so many women out in the
world struggling to make an honest liv-
ing, going forth TO labor in any calling
that will bring them the means to sup
port themselves and aid others, perhaps,
depending upon their earnings. Refined,
well educated, reasoning girls, that know
life to be earnest, and are by nature, edu-
cation, and wise experience fitted to make
noble wives aud mothers, of whom men can
well be proud, if their selfish instincts did
not blind them to the truth. The noble
army of patient workers are usually
passed by for and preference given to the
dainty creatures clad in purple and fine
linen, who toll not, neither do they spin
who, when reyerses come, sit down
with folded hands and drive their hus-
bands to distraction by their fretful re-
pinings. They have cultivated such
love for expensive dress, pleasures and
show that nothing else gives any delight,
and so that the means aret theirs. to satisfy
their wants it matters not how or from
whence they come. So husbands become
ruined and wives have no inward re-
sourses to fall back upon. The mass of
men are selfish they want their high
toned suppers, their fast horses, their ex-
pehsive wines, their fine favored cigars,
their personal comfort and pleasure faith
fully attended to, and when they marry
they want a wife who either has or is
able to earn enough by singing, writing,
lecturing, or anything that brings in
plentiful amount, so they shall reap no
discomfort by taking unto themselves
helpmeet. If both sexes would only learn
to be resigned and contented with less
show and more reality, come out of their
dreams of friyolty and cultivate more
simple tastes, more true happiness would
fall into the lives that now are SO barren
and meaningless.
If young men were more sensible, they
would not grow into old bachelors wait
ing to find wife who has money and if
girls were brought up to know how to
take care of themselves and and be in
dependent, there would be far less num-
Der of miserable marriages in the world.
Fortunately, we are growing so progress
siye that nowadays women do not feel as
if marriage was the only destiny for
which they are created, and many prefer
to remain single rather than we'd If
money was used to minister higher needs,
and devoted less to glitter and display, to
keeping up an appearance beyond your
means, to entertaining those you really
cared for, instead OF numbers with whom
you had not thought in common,
living would be such a continual unrest
and such an unsatisfactory sort of ex-
istence. The best things are real clear
to the core and most to be desired. Ex-
travagance must not debar men from
matrimony if they choose to look wisely
for the true, noble girls that would help to
make them not bankrupts, forgers and
spendthrifts, but honorable members of
society who are free from false pride, an
ambition to shine in merely fashionable
society !; who can live contentedly within
their means, are not hollow and heartless
and superficial, with hearts deadened by
a life of fashionable and light friyolty, but
are good, tender and true. ELvE.
SHE Took THE Cow.-Over in Wind
fall, says the Upton, Ind, Times, recently,
man and his wife got to that point of
disagreement SO graphically described in
ssBetsy and / Are Out" They decided to
separate, and the assets of the partner
was left, when the father said, "If you