The Tiffin tribune. (Tiffin, Ohio) 1868-1887, 1879-03-06

pearaHce;' AM while we need not ain
at extravaganza of costume. Te NAV
/ certainly strive for the comfort Of Z
j. becoming attire, and the reputation OF
a cultivated taste, which Is nowhere Is
clearly apparent rs in the character.
IStic toilet. y lady being asked what
opinion she hal formed Of the cOnYeI-
satlpn Of a certain young gentleman
| replied: do net ask me- ! caa r.
J u-mher nothing Of il, at Ill, but 4
horrible. great, rel, coral ball on his
cravat. which rolled against all ms
| ideIS, AMI knocked them down like
nine pins" You may say that only 4
woman could have been Influenced by
50 tritling an incOngruity, but | have
/ known 4 man To be utterly nOnplussed
10y an inhaTmOuiOus blending Of cOlOrs
in a wOman's dies, or even by 4
wrinkle in the iii Of il. | have almost
too great reverence for General
I Washington to cite him. as AN tx.
ample fOr anything that might be COLL
strued To his disadvantage, vet he did
send TO Europe for his handsome
drab-cOlOred brOa1clOth, and double
gilt buttons for his gOld-laced, super.
! line scarlet cloth WaistcOat, and his
blue surtOut coat" 50 if women are
accused Of 4 weakness of a Paris make
Of gown, they at least have 4 noble
I precedent to quote from.
Macaulay WAS fayOrite in society
because he never forgot Il face, and
with the face, remembered all the
salient points connected with the own
er Of il. And what could be more Hat
tering than being thoroughly remem.
bered by so great i lion, ami 50 AL ac-
! knOwledged gcninS as Maclulay
This facility Of recognition is frequent
I among the celebrated men and women
Of our own time, and creates one OF
| the chief charms of social life.
! The requirements of American soci-
ETY. to-day, are by no means frivolous
it has artistic and literary procliviiies,
| and rs the acknowledged social rulers
are women. and the woman outlook,
| from an intellectual point of Yiew-at
| leaSt-is not bad, we have every reason
to hope for higher social standard of
! manners and morals. If YOU would
understand the morals OF an assembly,
| observe the manners, for they are 50
! closely allied Us to be almost depend
ent one upon the other. TO be natur-
! al is a social rule generally given, but
It Is somehow rather difficult To under
stand exactly what is meant 10y "natur-
al Nothing is more natural let us
hope than mUdesty, but mOdesty for
bids many things that are called
natural Courtesy Is not always nat
ural, therefore an assumed courtesy
were better than a native bOOrishnesS.
and Will spare many a pain or incOn-
! yenience to others, and protect our
| selves from undesirable encrOachment.
y gentleman is always more agreeable
! than bOOT, and lady, by manners,
| by forms, 10y artificial barriers, repelS
the libertine. Even the conventional
| iib, is an Indispensable feature of Do
lite society. Not that | quite agree
with Queen Elizabeth (whO is quoted
as having said "Al, many years 2gOrD
that, a lie is an intellectual way of
meeting a difficulty. 4 lie means so
much more than a iib, and a fib so
much less even than an untruth, and
the conventional beingin SOmeinstlnc-
es the only smooth road over the cob
bleStOnes of life, one is fain to indOrse
this little equtcOgue, and be thankful
for so good a way OF meeting a diff
known many in my time,
fAlAllJAAAOuD VI LAll0 SOIL Vi GlEN-
eTneSS, but they do not see, that he
who has the reputation of it, can do
nothing with il" So one must needs
be careful, and tib it with discretion.
Then there is. what might be termed,
Uelegraphic language, very useful When
only the interested parties understand
it. Mrs. James L. Field has pretty
way of informing her husband-when
dining-if any foreign substance lOdg-
eS upon and mars the perfection of his
TennysOnian beard, which, by the way
is the pride of his life; she will say To
him, My love! g;lZelle in the gar
den; and he cOmprehends at once the
mystic meaning of his lady.
The varied customs of other couE-
tries impress us with their peculiari-
ties, but we seldom consider how for
eigners are amused and puzzled, by
what IS to us, so customary, that there
is nothing odd about it. I shall never
forget, during the Centennial, meeting
a Chinaman at social evening party.
The expression of his face was study.
He had never, before coming to this
country, seen a piano, and here, as he
expressed it, "eYery house had one"
No matter how small the house, it was
sure to have piano. He thought they
must surely be very cheap, though the
size would indicate expense, even for
the wood and carving. And then he
imagined at first, it was a sort of pO-
lite instrument of torture, the young
ladies had to be almost dragged to it |;
he felt so sorry for them. | asked him
how he liked the music, and he actual
ly had the bad taste to compare it un-
favOrably, with their own wild strains,
jingled and out of tune.-FOTney's Pro
greSS.