The New York herald., 1879-09-29
"woMAN TIE STRONGER. .

easy 1t IS to follow MIS- Oakcys excellent literary
style is displayed on every page of this little book
'wOMAN rHE STRONGER"
''woman the Stronger (G. p Putnam's sons) is
the title of absurd story, the scene of which is
laid in New York and in the wilds of the West We
introduced to the dranats Persona at reception
given in this city, and curious assembage it is.
The men mostly clerks. and the women are their
sisters and their cousins and their aunts The con-
versatlon among the girls. who principally
blondes. is supposed to be Enthusiastically Ameri
can. They chatter about lawful yolly' things and
'stunners." They talking about marrying, and
one "ruby Tipped" blonde says that she means to
choose her own husband.
"Let my father and mother pick out husband for
mo. Could they tell me or not whether he was good
to kiss? There some things that every one must
try for herself and judge OF for herself.
Another rather truly says of wedding presents that
the question Of getting married nowadays is not
whether people can afford to get married but ''Can
their friends afford it?' At this reception are
young French girl and her aunt who are picking up
information concerning social habits in America.
and they very much interested in this converse
ton. One of these young ladies is Emma Grandin.
"the queen of her set" who is described very
pretty although her face had certain defects among
them unevenness in the lift Of the upper lip
slight lisp" The French beauty. Marie Postee,
was "fne blooded creature" but "she was mod
ern not an antique" Being ntellectual and rather
original she wanted to see America" One chapter s
entitled Flirting" and it is fcarfully and wonder
fully made Charles Grandin, youth Of twenty,
meets Marie for the first time, aud after he has
danced with her he stops to rest in secluded
'.Now. here are. Marie" said he. familiarly.
"safe and snug and out of sight; we cSn talk just
what comes into our heads Hang me IL ever could
enjoy conversation with young lady when an old
was by to listen. Oh. don't doubt she's tho
incest creature in the world that aunt OF yours but
you and must get out of her reach. you know. IL
want to do our flirting as the thing ought to be
done'
Naturally Marie was offended, but she ended by
loving the audacious Charles. who bribed
fectioner at $40 time to bear his letters to her.
When the changes to tho West the story grows
more remarkable still. 1t is o curious book. and
unlike anything elso that we know Of from tho Put
Mans press
ssMANNERs AND TONE OF GOOD SOCIETY"
All those Americans who, when they go to Eng
land. desire to do tho English do. should read.
ponder and inwardly digest the "Manners and Tone
of Good Society,"" by "a Member of the
Arstocracy," published by F. Warne Co..
London. The man woman who follows the
a ground upon the uncertain shores OF the social
W orld. The author impresses tho reader in her
introduction with the terrible consequences of
mitting ''solecism." that he reads tho book to
remember its instructions. individuals who have
'.led secluded or isolated lives. or who have moved
in other spheres than those wherein we'll bred
people move." will find that these pages will put
them rapport with the upper ten thousand. 80
that they need fear nothing. Tho soul toaring
mysteries of card leaving fully explained, and
We arc told the instructions here given may be
''fearlessly followed" 1t Is not good form for
young ladies to leave separate cards. Their names
should appear the same card with their mothers.
DO not have "Mr. and Mrs. Blank" on card. The
husband and wife must have separate cards. Tho
gentlemans small, tho ladies' largo. and both ON
thin cardboard Wedding cards obsolete.
Formal calls should not occupy than
fifteen minutes. and tho conversation should
be Of tho iightcst character. In another volume
this author gives specimens OF tho convcrsation
which should be indulgod in. Introductions
very vulgar. Never Introduce unless there Is some
particular for the introduction. Tho proper
manner of addressing titled persons is given
minutely. The highest lady in the realm Hcr
Majesty the Queen, is addressed as "Maam" by
members of the aristocracy; by tho middle and
lower classes "Your Majesty" Princes and dukes
called 'Pr1ncc ana ''Dukc' Dy their equals ana
Your Highness" and "Your Grace" by thoir infc-
rors. Careful directions are given for dinner par
ties. You are even told how to cat. For example.
that pastry should be eaten with fork. crumbs of
cheese ON crumbs of bread ish with silver knifo
and fork. not with crust and fork. &c., &c. A
chapter devoted to the of certain sur
that prove 30 bothersome to the uninitiated,
but are considered tho shibboleth that distin.
cuisines tho we'll bred man from tho clown.
10 Americans they often prove o Stun
bling block. For instance Majoribanks is
called Marshbanks; Manwaring Mannoring, st.
John. sinjn; Cockburn Coburn; Cholmondcley,
Chumley; Berkeley, Barkley; Brougham. Broum;
Montgomery. Mungumery Abergavonny. Aber-
gcnny; Beauchamp, Deacham; Coquhoun, Koo-
hoon; Duchosne, Dukarn; Bcaconsheld. Dcckons-
field; Dethune. Bceton; Mines. Mills; Ruthvon,
Rven; st. Maur. Seymour. and so on. As one is
apt to bc classed among tho vulgar herd who mis-
pronounces any one Of these well known names no
had better consulc this book II he has any uncer-
tainty In the matter.