St. Johnsbury Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1867-1919, 1879-02-07
Etiquette.
THE ART OF GOING AWAY.

THE ART OF GOING Avail.
Tt has been said that one OF the most
important social accomplishments, is
that of entering room gracefully out
to our mind that of leaving one easily
and iudiciously is to be preferred: 1t is
painful to see people anxious to beat
retreat from call or visit, and yet ap-
parently as unable to escape as rats IN a
trap, although nothing bars their egress,
and all persons concerned would gladly
dispense with their company. The art
or science of departure both from local.
ties and positions is worth STUDYING III
great as well us little matters. 10 I'M
derstand how to bring to an end morn
ing call or public career requires, I'D
lesser or greater degree, the exercise OF
the same faculty. No visitor is likely TO
be popular who has not the tact TO
leave at the proper time house al
which he may be staying. One OF the
greatest difficulties in bidding farewell
to a host is to convey to him the I'M
preston that you have enjoyed your
self. Expressions of thanks for Il pleas
ant visit are apt to have a stereotyped
and conventional ring about them. A
bOspitable man likes to know that his
friends have been happy; but when
each of them mutterS sort OF nttle
grace on his departure he feels that they
are but paying him an ordinary social
commitment. for he knows that they
thank their entertainers whenever they
90 as regularly as they tip the servants.
indeed. we once heard of an absent
minded and nervous man, who, as he
inf no
to convey him to the station, inadver-
tently tipped his host and thanked the
butler for his pleasant visit.
MOkE SOCIAL DIFFERENCE NEEDED
AMONG YOUNG FOLKS.
Without going back to that buckram
time of .'Sir" and "Madam," we think
that our young people might practice
with advantage little more formalIty
and Difference than they do at present.
They may mean no harm they say
they do not, and we will not insist on a
different reading; but it strikes an I'M
partial bystander, and one uninitiated
into the ways of the house, as strange,
to say the least of it, when he sees a
well-looking young man come swinging
through the garden gate, stopping to
DICK Il mower lOG HIS DulIOH-uOiC dS IL hC
we're the son of the house, and making
his entrance by the window rather than
by the door like any other decently-be
haved body; when the girls cry with
one voice, "Oh, here's Charley-dear
boy, so glad !" and he answers back,
'Well Loui halo Lottie, you've done
your hair differently to-day. How aw
fully jolly you look !" Forthwith the
three cluster in corner together and
ignore all other visitors who may chance
to be there already; or to come after
ward. But if the visitor should be cone
of their own kind" some Jack OF Harry
of mutual acquaintance, then the trio
becomes Il quartette, unless it diSsolveS
into Il couple of duets, when the foul
meander off into the garden or the bill
iard-room if the girls can possibly es-
cape their duties us assistants to mann
ma. If they cannot, they go on sitting
in their corner whispering together
laughing in sudden bursts, or breaking
into isolated sentences such as: 'Ol
Charley, what fun !''-'Oh Harry, how
quite too jolly that will he !'-while tn,
Young men drawl out: Eyes, awful fun
won't it be, Lottie If only the govern
or does not cut up rough !" or Eyes
you'll look stunning lis vivandier
Loui, and I'll be the corporal"