The Tiffin tribune. (Tiffin, Ohio) 1868-1887, 1879-03-06
The Requirements Of Society.


! lively love company, and according 10
the pleasure and Difference we be-
! stow upon society. we have returned to
us that attention which promotes So
| cial intercourse, and is the foundation,
! of all interchange of ideas. Forum
| atcly for the intellectual progress
| of our ambition, We are not restricted
to amy one set of people, nor to either
! sex; experience proving, when this has
/ been the case, rs III the Oriental
| countries, that both men and women
| live in comparative ignorance. Books
| and papers being Il discount, and con-
| yerSatiOn confined, within the limits
Of gossip and scandal, they live an ami
| mai existence and enjoy life in that
! sense only. After having read Thirty
! iL the HuFeHl, written by the wife of
! kibriZli-Mehcmet PaSha-One cannot
! help but glOrify the accident of birth
| that has gwen us 50 broad field of
| enlightenment. However, Eastern wO-
men. despite their ignorance, are by
/ no means the slaves of men. 1t is
/ rather remarkable to learn that their
| influence over husbands and Sons is
sufficient to command obedience. An
/ instance is related of the famous Ibra-
mm, PdSha of Egypt, who, in some
| trivial WAY, displeased his aged moth
or; she punished him by emitting the
| ceremony of asking him to be seated,
| in her presence, thereby compelling
| him to stand for an hour, "a severe
| punishment for an Oriental" Yet he
! waS az that very time absolute aTbiter
of life and death throughout Egypt.
Still the Whim Of this old woman be-
| came his law, because she was his
mother. \ famous French writer
SINS truly:
"RcligiOus laws and manners in
vain seek to ShrOud in serYitude and
i'll mystery the women of country (;
for nature, beauty, and love will re-
store them to their own proper place,
expressly made for them in the heart
| Of man"
! That the world owes Us living, Is
IN exploded theory, and an excuse no
| longer fOr lsZineSS; SO the idea that
| we, merely as individuals, are indiS-
! penSable to society, cannot be enter
| tanned Us preteXt fOl Il Deggarly ac-
! count Of attractions. \ young lady
from Philadelphia, while visiting BOs-
| ton some time since, remarked upon
| the extreme youth of the young ladies
| there, as compared with those of New
| York, Philadelphia, Baltimore and
| Washington, and the Western cities.
"Why, Miss Jennie is twenty years of
age, and still Il school girl~ One Of
| Massachusetts prominent actresses be-
! ing present, and hearing the remark,
answered, by stating, that girls in the
club were not thrust upon society
| until they We're prepared to contribute
something of value to il. The social
world demands of us that we shall
bring il our best, be it what it may
and unless we show an appreciation of
! these demands we surely ought not to
complain, if society ignores us. | have
heard fine amateur musicians lament,
that they owed their social popularity
10 their musical talent, and that there
by they lost the actual compliment of
Of numerous invitations. So the fine
c0nVcrSatiOnalist, will beWail the wit
he is called upon 10 supply. To enter
/ tain dull people, assuming also that he
| is being made a convenience Of. Not
at alive are all sought for the pleas
anteSt side that our good fortune may
enable us to exhibit Whit matter
whether it be music, eloquence, beau
ty. wealth or toilet, | am well ac-
quainted with lady who makes Il
boast of looking her best always, Il am
no accession in any other way'-she
addS-"SO constitute myself an Orna-
ment, as it is the best | can dO'-and
she does it well. On the other hand a
| gentleman once succeeded in making
| himself the funny man," wherever he
went. Consequently invitations were
| shOwered upon him; he never had a
/ spare evening. and although he was
more frequently, than not, made the
butt of the occasion, it was a long
time before he discovered that he was
lmaking 4 fool of himself, for the
amusement of others. lie stopped his
antics. and invitations no longer
poured in; he lost his popularity.
/ CONTEMPT for money is parIlOnable
lsin, and-the man Of the world gains
much importance by the profuSion of
his generosity; il may be dangerous
trait to himself, but society in this par
ticular is 10 reSpecter of persons, be-
in@ satisfied TO reap the benefit of Il for
tune rs long as it lasts, and in no wise
ashamed to refuse the hand of wei
come, when adversely follows. The
wealthy man who boards his money is
really more dcSpiSed than the spend.
thrift, though the latter he known tu
live on credit. There are men in s0-
cietv to-day. who are marked ~ he
longing to this claSS. and vet, because
thew fill the measure of present social
requirements, either by agreeable man,
neT or some other captivating trait
I their presence is not only endured, but
sought.
When Nine. de b hunted to the
Prince de Cont. one of the most eX'
travIgant men in his time, that SHE
I would like a miniature of her canary
bird set III a ring, and he offered t.
have il made for her, she felt the ne
cesSity of accepting the offer only OI
condition that the miniature be SCI
plain, without any jewels. Apparent
IN the ring was plain, and twas quite
accidental that Nine. de b aScer
tanned that the painting of the birC
was covered with a large diamond
made very thin, to- serve as a glass
the diamond was returned to tn,
: prince, who had it ground to powder
and used il tn dry the ink on the not,
: which lac wrote TO Nine. de B Oh
= the subject. While We have no layisl
, galIantrv like this in the nineteenth
, century. we have wealthy men VIII,
really do advance the good Of SOcietl
+. by the use of their wealth in adOrning
+ enlivening. and ennobling social life
5 they are often. il Is true. accused o
, undue display. and of indulging in al
, the luXuries. while thousands ar
r starving around them. The industrie
; of the world depend largely upon thl
I very expenditure. and if one is not {
4 reap the benefits of wealth, why striv
p for it: We can keep warm WithOu
o furS, we cankeep cool without line lin
T ems. \ woman can be beautiful il
=. calico. and a man elegant in nhomespuI
l but why hide the light of purse un
e der a bushel, any more than the ligh
4 of the eyes, or the mind :" Pc
II lite society requires Us to dTes
# well. and that there is certai
II significance in the cut of a carmen
e. the tie of a ribbon, or the fit OF a GLOW,
Il 10 one will deny Gail Hamilton saw
K that, Though the Lord lOoketh on III
Ie heart. man looketh On the outward al