The Newberry herald. [volume] (Newberry, S.C.) 1865-1884, 1879-06-18
JOE PREy7'YEN'G
A WORD ON THE OTHER
SIDE.

wives" and even that cheap CON-
modify by courtesy addressed "to
married people" is mostly one
sided and intended for the ears Of
the weaker sex only. We cac
scarcely pick up a paper without
reading the oft,relterated injunc-
tion to Railways meet him with q
smile" (whatevcr may be his de-
linquencies), to be "always neatly
dressed" (whatever work on
band), to "never complain" to
him (whatever the weight of your
cares), and all the rest of it which
every body knows SO we'll.
For the sake of more evenly
balanced state of things, let us ad-
minister little of the same dose
to the other side Of the house,
on the old principle that "what is
sauce for the goose is sauce for the
| gander." 49,.
Husbands should always appear
before their wives in neat and
becoming attire. Remember that
is one Of your chief attractions
during courtship. A man. is not
at all beautiful en- dishQbille, and
how can you expect to retain a
woman's love if you suddenly
| drop all the establishments that
won it ? Husbands, be neat.
Never come to breakfast with
hair looking like ga fig tree shaken
by mighty wind" or soiled collar
and necktie all awry. Never
lounge about of late hour in the
evening in stocking feet, sans coat
and vest, and with slouchy sus-
penders. Had she CHANGED to see
you thus in courting days, it
would have taken a vast amount
Of romance out of her, depend mp
on it. Suppose your circumstan.
ces in life are such that you must
assist in doing the morning
Chores" then steal to your room
before she has seen you, and
there change the working-coat for
the dressing-gown, polish your
boots and make yourself presen-
table. that no suggestion Of the
barn-yard may accompany you
to the breakfast.table. The look
of fond regard that will surely
greet you from behind the fra
grant cofee-pot will be sufficient
reward.
| Never wear clouded or angry
countenance in the presence of
your wife. No matter what the
cares and annoyances of the day
have been, before her you should
be all sunshine. Thus you will
make her happy and forget your
own troubles. In her own sphere
she has her petty vexations to
bear that would break the spirit
of any man alive. Don't add the
burden ofyours too. "
If the children are noisy or
peevish, quiet and amuse them
with as much tact as possible, In
order that you disturb not their
mother, who, in the evening,
should find that rest and tran
guilty that will prepare her for
the duties Of another day, Above
all, allow no impatient word to
arise to your lips should your
;. wife object to your spending
money on such selfish gratihca-
tions as expensive brandies and
choice cigars, while she is econ
}, omizing in many little. ways.
Though you may think her in the
wrong, you had better be ruled by
her wishes, as thus you may avoid
future unpleasantness.
If you wish to be the true COM
. panion of your wife: don't allow
yourself to degenerate irto mere
drudge and moncy-catcher. Keep
YOUR intellect refreshed by Pc
rusing good books; read the things
she reads: and repeat to her the
news, both political and general
, that you have CLEANED in the
world outside her sphere.
f Bear in mind that many over
? taxed wives are mere bundles Of
, nerves, so to speak, and subject to
, O. thousand and one irritations that
, enter not into mans philosophy
to even comprehend; therefore,
write it in your heart and prove
in your daily walk and converse
, tion that "a soft answer turneth
, away wrath, but grievous words
5 stir up anger r.''-Fann1e B. Vera.