The Indiana State sentinel. [volume] (Indianapolis) 1868-1895, 1879-07-30

is strange that what is supposed to refine and
elevate the race, and ameliorate its hideous-
ness and pain, should make Of its masters
such cats and dogs
perhaps Ricardo will have scientific
turn" said her father.
81 hope SO, replied Dick; ga turn for some
thing that will save her from the Hemans
theory of love, tits woman's whole existence.
I'm not an experienced fellow. as You know,
Jim, but, in thinking a good deal about
Ricarda's future, I have speculated and OBJ
served not little; and one conclusion that l
have arrived at is this: in marriage woman
is placed at great disadvantage compared
with her husband, because her all is staked
on love, while his is not This makes the
balance between them uneven. She goes
up, gushes over, and for the first six months
wonders, and has her little spells of weeping
ut her husbands comparative indifference for
the demonstrations attending love-making.
Because he doesn't kiss. cares, and shower
upon her endearing epithets every other mo-
ment, he falls short of her ideal of things
and she thinks something is wrong and it is
only after long and painful experience that
she learns that, while he loves as deeply as
does she, there are also for him other things
| in life to be thought of. He may be as deep
in love as water in well, yet he tires of
daily going through with the love
alphabet He likes things to be taken for
| granted. He wants his wife to accept his
sunutterable devotions as the man did who
pinned his prayers at the head of his bed,
and upon retiring and rising would say,
Lord behold my sentiments So I hold
that if woman has an aim in life, distinct
from love- but consonant with it, she will be
| the happier as a wife, and give her husband
more happiness too, because she is made by
it more companionable. Love feeding con-
tinually upon itself must consume itself
Like everything else, it must have space,
air and soil, in which to strike deep and
broad its roots, and shake out its branches to
the sun. The difference between the love of
a woman of broad culture and that of one
who knows nothing but to love, and wants
to do nothing but to love- is like that between
an oak in an open field ard Jerusalem
cherry-tree in geranium pot"
james smiled quietly throughout his
friends talk, ard then said:
at is clear that you have never been af-
ficted with grande passion, Dick"
mo, / never want to be- People of the
grande passion sort are the ones who get di-
vorces They rise in love, instead of fall in
it-their head is first immersed and they re
made blind and deaf and dumb, TO every
thing else I'd rather get it as the Baptist
does his immersion, feet first
.As regards the Hemans theory" said
James, "you might go further, and pro-
nounce love, being lin mans life a thing
apart as fallacious as l know it so to be. a
mans life is spun of many threads, but lying
, underneath may be from view-but in
terweaving and Frightening all the others
it runs like a band of gold, the one strong
enduring, unrusted, and unfading thread
, among them. | suppose there are as many
f theories of the ideal woman now-of the
, Venus of to-day-as in the olden times
While your italian prince makes a savante
of his daughter, an Austrian nobleman edu-
Gates his protegee on an entirely different
plan; he removes her from everything prac-
tical teaches her only illusions and to de-
lude; to fit through life like butterfly resi-
ing upon nothing more than flower; tc
; sing, to love- to display her beauty, and to
= do all with an entrainment, for life is short
, and time fees Although some great mer
r have married their cooks. and Others theil
: housemads, yet / apprehend they found il
, those women the very kind of companions
e ship or comradeship they most needed, an6
: which they nowhere else found. Just what
, | it is in a women that endears her beyond al
e expression to aman, is the subtilest of al
things. 1t cannot be defined, and Will,
t emanating from hundred sources, maybe
: cannot be said to be the produc
d of any one of them. All women ar,
h lovable to all men in some degree. neve
e saw one yet, no matter how debauched il
s life, in whom 1 could not find something t,
e love. / remember that my mother and IN,
wife were women; that all we have of goot
IT in us we owe to the love of women for us
o We must do all we can to elevate the stand
Is ard of women, because upon their nobilit,
&c rests our manhood. 1 believe that. And a
/ the same time / believe that the develop
is ment of a woman in character and life de
| tha g h,
a relations to man as wifs and mother Yo
Of never knew Lizzie, and so could form n
l. idea of what it was in her that so bound m
Y, to her, and will always bind me- She was
e. country girl without liberal opportunities 70
er education; refined in manners taste. an
c, speech. She trusting, loving, and tru
e to those she could trust; had nice discrim
nation of character, and did not hesitate t
70 manifest her likes and dislikes She was az
complished in all household duties; was dill
gent, discreet modest That was what 81
N was rs girl, and what she was as woman
., She loved those she loved to the heart-breal
n ing point. and yet she was not demonstrativ
10 She grew into my heart, and / think, yes
know, no one could ever take her place
h have often met women more aecomplishe,
er handsomer, and more dazzling, who wei
10 for the time to me what she coul
- never be- but l never met one who
a qualities of heart and life 1 would like
have exchanged for hers. I thoroughly
: lieve in educating woman to the furthermo
10 point"
lg Because" interrupted Dick, 'she is so 10
ut able, you would have her gracious qualiti
d. spread out like a sticking-plaster to cover
much as possible of the masculine ugline
in that defaces the world"
d. mo, not that; but because the develo
lie ment of her mind in no sense shrinks h
er heart. The divine Spirit has taken care
Id that since her creation, and, although she
or, a princess of wit and learning, she is Just
1T ready now to follow the man she loves in
as ruin as was Eve to follow Adam from t
o. island to the mainland, as recorded in t
3" Vedas. As an illustration, there was Maj
il Schurmanns, that most learned and famo
MS woman of Holland, who imperiled even h