The Orangeburg democrat. [volume] (Orangeburg, S.C.) 1879-1881, 1879-06-27
ADVICE TO HUSBANDS.
SAUCE FOR THE GOOSE rs SAUCE FOR
TIE GANDER. {4s

wives," and eyen that cheap. commod-
ity by courtesy addressed "to mar
ried people" is mostly one-sided and
intended for the ears Of the weaker
sex only. We can scarcely pick up
a paper without reading the oft-reiter-
ated injunction TO railways meet him
with smile" (whatever may be his
delinquencies), TO be "always neatly
dressed" (whatever work on handy,
TO "never complain" to him (what.
ever the weight of your cares), and
all the rest of it which every body
knows so we'll:
For the sake Of more evenly bal,
anced state Of things, let us adminis-
ter a little of tho same dose to the
other side Of tho house, on the old
principle that "what is sauce for the
goose is sauce for the gander." f
Husbands should always appear
before their wives in neat and be,
coming attire. Remember that is
one of your chief attractions during
courtship. A man is not at all beau
titul en- disha6ille, and how can yon
expect to retain q woman's love if
you suddenly drop all the blandish-
ments that won it? Husbands, be
neat. Never come tc breakfast with
hair looking like ga fig tree shaken
by n mighty wind" or sohed collar
and necktie all aWry. Never lounge
about of late hour in the evening
in stocking feet, without coat and
vest, and with siouchy suspenders.
Had she CHANGED to see you thus in
courting days, it would have taken
vast amount of romance out Of her,
depend upon it. Suppose your cir
cumstances in life are such that you
must assist in doing the "morning
chores" then steal TO your room be-
fore she has seen you, and there
change the working-coat for the.
blessing gown, polish your boots and
make yourself presentable, thaa no
suggestion of the barn-yard nay ac-
company you to the breakfast-tahle.
The look of fond regard that will
surely greet you from behind HE fra
grant coffee-pot will ba Q sufficient
reward. a.i, II, ,,,, ~,
Never wear clouded az angry
countenance in the presence of yonr
wife. No matter what the cares md /
annoyances of the day have beeps be-,
fore her you should be all sunshine i
Thus you will make her happy and
forget your own troubles. In her
own sphere she has her rpetty avexa-
tions to bear that would break the,
spirit Of any man alive. Don't add
the burden of yours TOO. ,iYin
If the children are Roisy or peevish,t
quiet and amuse them. with as much
tact as possible, ia ORDER that you
disturb not their mother, who, in
the evening, should find that
rest and tranquility that will prepare
her Coz the duties of another day.
Above all, allow no impatient word
to arise to your lips should your wife
object to your spending money or
such selfish qualifications as expen-A
sive brandies and choice cigars, while
she Is economizing in many little
ways, Though you may think her in
the wrong, you had better be ruled
by her wishes, as thus you may avoid
future unpleasantness. H
II you wish TO be the true compan.
ion Of your wife, don't allow yourself
to degenerate into mere drudge and
money-catcher. Keep your Intellect
refreshed by perusing good books;
read the things she reads, and repeat
to her the news, both political AND
general, that you have CLEANED in the
world outside her sphere.
Bear in mind that many oyertaxed
wives are mere bundles Of nerves, SO
TO speak, and subject to thousand
and one irritations that enter not in
to mans philosophy to even COM
prchend; therefore, write it in your
heart and prove in your daily walk
and conversation that "a SOFT answer
turneth away wrath, but grievous
words stir up anger" "-Fannie B.
Ward. t