The Democratic advocate. [volume] (Westminster, Md.) 1865-1972, 1879-12-13
Advice to Husbands.


The world is full Of "advice TO wives"
and even the cheap commodity by cour-
tesy addressed ''to married people, is
mostly onesided and Intended for the ears
OF the weaker sex only. We can scarcely
pick up paper without reading the Oft
reiterated injunction to always meet him
with a smile" (whateyer may be his de-
inquenciesD to be "always neatly dressed"
Cwhatever work on hand) to tnever com.
plain to him" (whateyer the weight Of
your eares,) aud all the rest of it, which
everybody knows so well. For the sake
Of more evenly balanced state Of things,
let US administer little of the same dose
to the other side of the house on the old
principle that "what is sauce for the goose
is sauce for the gander"
Husbands should always appear before
their wives in neat aud becoming attire.
Kelhember that was one Of your chief at
fractions during courtship. A man is not
at all beautiful Gu dishabille, and how can
you expect to retain woman's love If
you suddenly drop all the Establishments
that won it2 Husbands, be neat Never
come to breakfast with hair looking like
Gig tree shaken by mighty wind" or
soiled collar or necktics all awry. Never
lounge about of late hour in the evening,
in stocking feet, pants, coat and vest,
and with slouchy suspenders. Had she
Glanced to see you thus in eourting DAYS,
it would have taken vast amount of ro-
nance out Of her, depend upon it. Sup
pose your circumstances in life are such
that you must assist in doing the "morn-
ing chores, then steal to your room before
she has seen you and change the working
coat for dressing gown, polish your boots
and make yourself presentable, that no
suggestion of the barnyard may accom-
pany you to the breakfast table. The
look Of fond regard that will surely greet
you from behind the fragrant coffee pot
will be sufficient reward.
Never wear clouded or angry counte.
nance in the presence Of your wife. No
matter what the cares and annoyance Of
the day may have been, before her you
should bO all sunshine Thus you will
make her happy and forget your own
troubles. In her own sphere she has petty
yexations to bear that would break the
spirit Of any man alive. Don't add the
burdens Of yours too.
If the children are noisy or peevish
quiet them with as much tact as possible,
in order that you disturb not their mother
who, in the evening, should find the rest
and tranquility that will prepare her fol
another day. Above all, allow no impa
tient word to arise to your lips should your
wife object TO your spending money OF
such selfish qualifications as expensive anC
choice cigars, while she is economizinl
in many little ways. Though you may
think her in the wrong, you had better b.
ruled by her wishes, as thus you may avoit
future uDpleasantness.
If you wish to be the true companion
Of your wife don't allow yourself to degen
crate into mere drudge and money catcher
Keep your intellect refreshed by reading
good books; read the things she reads AM
repeat TO her tho news, both political an'
general, that you have CLEANED in th,
world outside her sphere.
Bear in mind that many oyertaxed wive
are mere bundles Of nerves, so to speak
and subject to thousand and one irrita
tions that enter not into mans philosophy
to comprehend; therefore write it in you
heart and prove it in your daily converse
tion that a "soft answer turneth ava,
wrath, but greyious words stir up anger.
Bob Brdette.