The advertiser. (Wilmington, Del.) 1879-18??, 1879-12-27

hsru seeGib 70 De very special ktnq
Of disposition ut II bottom of these
dose attsch-scnts. One can often tell,
Dor examrfe, that a young woman, Il
che marries, win be sure to fall int
'tdis cosy kind of conjugal relation;
and there 1are sentimental young
women, whose chances OF marriage
seem to be dubious, who strike us as
likely subjects for the exclusive variety
OF feminine friendship. All young
persons with good deal Of gushing
sentiment, who require constant SYM
pathetic receptacle for their abundant
feeling, and who at the same time
are given to lean on others for advice
and help, have the qualification for
this peculiar relation. So, again,
certain mild type of man, who is re-
firing and diffldent, and who at the
same time is given to cherishing him
self and likes to be caressed by, others,
is peculiarly fitted to become dotinR
husband. Perhaps the negative mental
conditions of this curious phenomenon
are still more striking than the positive.
All of us probably have little OF the
disposition which leads to this narrow
species Of fondness. Only we are pro-
vented from drifting into itlby a NUM-
Der Of checks, which in the case Of the
confirmed dotard seem to be inopera-
tive. For example, these absorbing
relations can only be realized when
there Is no great interest and curiosity
felt respecting people in general. Those
who take pleasure in knowing all sorts
OF people, and who like the endless di-
versity of human character, cannot
we'll content themselves with 80 con-
tracted relation as the one we have
described. n, as is sometimes said,
English people have comparatively lit
tie of this wide human interest, this
will account for the apparent fact that
among ourselves these absorbing In
tinaaies are much more frequent than
among the French and Germans. 1t Is
comparatively rare to and In France or
In Germany married couple maintain
ing that exclusive type OF friendship
which one meets with quite commonly
among ourselves. Not only does broad
interest in human nature check these
attachments, but all many-SidednesS
and variety of interest tends TO counter
act the disposition to indulge Ia them.
A man of many ideas and emotional
susceptibilities is hardly likely to find
complete sympathy in any one person.
His numerous tastes mean 90 many
possibilities Of sympathy, and these can
only be realized through u number Of
friendly religions. Unjust be admitted,
however, that the counteracting in
fuences are not always 80 dignifled as
| these. dsssU,rs 7sl+s- rs ema
| selves with a single alta jlfne0s mast,
we should say, be more than ordinarily
free from the weaknesses of vanity end
love Of display. Tile young woman
who is ambitious to shine in society Is
incapacitated for enjoying the retire.
ment of All absorbing friendship. 1t
must be admitted, too, that, as social
intercourse now presents itself, there is
q good deal to be said for retiring from
the large haunts even of so-called re-
fined society, and for limiting one's self
to q few acquaintance whom one can
really know and with whom IL Is posi-
Bile to enter into cordial relations. Yet
this IL hardly satisfactory reason for
giving all ones confidence and imme.
diate sympathy to single individual,
and, in spite of some great modern ex-
smples of such an absorbing single at
tachmcnt,A ft seems pretty clear that IL
will never become the ideal human re.
lation in the eyoa of most cultivated
men and women.-SdtUrdav Rsgis,5.