The Northern Pacific farmer. [volume] (Wadena, Minn.) 1878-1885, 1879-11-06
Women Who Get "No End to Offers
IF Mo rrioro

The women who get 'sno end Of offers,''
or at least who say they do, are dis
tinct class from these. They act like the
lighter and more worthless sort of mar
ried women, who systematically labor to
make the "men come on with the de-
termination that if they will only come
on they shall speedily have to leave.
They want provender for their empty
vanity, and that is all. It would be a
waste of valuable compassion to extend it
to men who are the victims of this sort of
strategy where married women are con-
cerned. They must be rather greenh orns
if they do not take the length of the lit
tie foot of this sort of lady as soon ever
she commences operations. It is an old and
well-recogniZed game, which we recon-
mend no one to play, but the law of
which is we'll established, and which any
simpleton ought to DO able to master.
The first and only law is that there is no
necessity for "fair play" How to hum
bug, circumvent, and finally let down the
other, is the essence and whole of it. It
is far more dangerous game for the wo-
man than for the man for two reasons.
If he be very dexterous he may possible
pique her irto state of mind hardly
distinguishable from love; and in any
case she runs the risk of her reputation
being no better for the experiment. He,
at most, will suffer some transitory dis
appointment. But we are not much con-
cerned to inquire what becomes of
couple Of gamblers who keep cards up
their sleeves, and nei her of whom intends
to pay the stakes if they get too high.
But an unmarried woman runs, Or seems
to run, much less risk, at the same time
that she may infict an incalculabie
amount Of suffering and damage.
An honest man naturally assumes that
girl IS ingenious at any rate in her af-
fections. He has right to suppose, if
she displays preference for nm, that
she entertains it; and if she exhibits this
sentiment beyond certain point he is
entitled to conclude that she will accept
as lover, and finally as husband, in
case his means are sufficient to Justify
him in aspiring to the responsible posi-.
ton Of the head OF household. He has
every cause of complaint if, after leaving
him to believe himself engaging, young
lady refuses to be eng aged to him. It
cannot but be notifying to man to feel
affection for a girl, which she shows no
symptoms of returning; yet this is lot
to which no brave man would demur
1t has happened to some of the best, the
most virtuous, the most distinguished,
and even the most fascinating of the male
species. But it must be something more
than notifying to man to fall in love
with girl who, all the time she was
leading him on was calculating what a
triumph il would be to drive him off.
That there are girls who do this is Ger
tain; and they are the girls who get the
E'no end OF Offers" Once girl permits
herself to indulge in this pastime, habit
soon becomes a second nature, and she
ends by being as incapable Of loving
man as of not wanting men to love her.
After time she ends her career of
Disseminating them by herself becoming
anything but enchanting. She gets
"blown upon," and the result of her nu-
merous offers IS that she. cannot find
husband. 1t is not that men are afraid
of being rejected by her, but rather they
would dread being accepted. She may
still maintain all the department of a
successful firt, and some men may vet
lirt with her. But they 60 no further.
She must console herself with her doubt
tul "reminiscences. Her passion for hon.
age has survived in all its intensity; but
it is fire fed with but very little fuel. It
will then be found that she seeks COM
fort in imagining that men are still pro-
posing to her; and she drops mysterious
hints as to lovers who have still to be
discarded. People smile and pity her.
Yet she scarcely deserves to be pitied.
She forgot that admirable truth,
He comes too near who comes to be denied,n
And, after having spent her lite IN deny
ing Others, she has passed to the middle
age in denying herself.