The Hartford herald., 1879-12-10
Cor. Third and Market Sts., Louisville, Ky.
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in its poetry and romance, its thrilling
intercourse, or its sympathy OF purpoee
and endeavor, II Is usually outside not
within the circles of near kindred -
Many reasons may be alleged for tnjs,
the most eogent Of which h probably
the bunting influence Of continual y :
miliarty. Living always togetheFs t1ne
members of one family are ape 70 be-
come monotonous and uninteresting to
one another. Having had such abun-
dant opportunity, they fancy they have
entirely fathomed each other and that
there i nothing more TO find out TheB
Is no longer the attraction Of curiosity
or the stimulus Of variety They are
not vividly impressed nor do they feel
able to impress i'm their turn. So there
comes to be q sameness and insipidity
about home life which h supposed to be
inherent i'm it. The feeling Of useless-
ness of effort deadens effort, and luke
warm spirit of calm good-w:n-is all
that Is even aimed at. That th$E The
case in numerous families be
proved by the change which ths expe-
rienee on the arrival of any valued
guest. New life and energy seem sto
enter with him and pervade the hither-
to listless household; each one feels
new pleasure and an unwonted desire
to please, which are equally exhilarA-
ting, but, after his departure, they UHd-
ually sink back into the old apat6et3e
routine OF course the eager heart Of
youth especially cannot be satisfied
with this; it must put out its tendrils
and cling to something; IL Graves spi-
mated intercourse, warm sympathy,
earnest purpose, strong emotions, and
finds them in outside friendship.
Now, while such attachments are not
to be indiscriminately discouraged,
bringing their special advantage and
pleasures, IL is to be sincerely deplored
that friendships inside the home are 50
exceedingly. rare, and that the young
are 50 generally growing up i'm the idea
that they are impossible There are, Of
course, many honorable exceptions to
this. where not only husband and wife
have been lifelong and devoted friends,
but also parents and children, brothers
and sisters. Yet the careful preserva-
of these instances, and the extreme ne
spect accorded them, proves their conn
parative rarity. Probably each 81 us
can recall few such eases, which stand
out i'm bold relief against the multitudes
of households who consider themselves
highly blessed if they only succeed in
avoiding contention and preservinga
tolerable civility among one another.
Yet il would seem rs II nearly all the
materials for earnest and steadfast
friendship might be found within a cir
Gle already joined by bonds Of instruc-
tive affection and. mutual interest,"
There is sufficient similarity Of tasfe,
purpose and position to win sympathy;
and there is sufficient variety Of age,
sex and circumstance to prevent mo-
nOtony. There Is every opportunity for
elevating a natural kindness into lOftier
affection, for developing the germ Of re-
spect and love into the rich and full
growth of noble friendship. All the
more delicate relations Of sex are full
filled I'm their utmost purity by the
mother and son, father and daughter,
brother and sister. Why, then, should
years spent under the same roof 50
often separate and scatter the affections
of childhood, instead Of eementinx and
strengthening them into the rich and
steadfast friendships Of mafurer life.
Probably the chief eause Of thisf 10
that people rely ON the instrucfiveneps
Of natural affection rs being all-sufi-
cient. without effort. They imagine
that family love Is strong enough To
take care of itself 80 they take but IT.
Mains TO preserve il frum the shorks and
lars of daily life. And they also s(,p-
pose that they are so well known to
each other that IL h not worth while To
preseut their fsirrr side. In All thir
tbey are mistaken. Natural affection
offers n fine foundation ON which Ia
erect the edifice Of n firm and enduring
friendshjp. but II will not rise of itss.lf
We must build il. stone by Stone. III We
would porsess IL. In we haye \ valued
and respected friend. what pains we
take to cherish his frieudshiD! how
carefully we ensleayor To prune away
from ourselves that which vouh dk-
r,lease him. and cultivate tho~e ouaIi-
lies which he admirs-, how we strive
To pratify him by pleasant SURPRISES.
and to avoid all that could wound or
trpuble him, Yet Iet the nmilixr
house door shut us in. and how MANY
of ts take the same paius? Here He
throw Off restraint, we air our worst
side. that has been sedulously hidden.
and allow our better qualities, that have
been i'm full exercise, to all asleep.
How many OF u. anxiously make the
most and the best of ourselves to our
own family: How many of Us regard
the home as the arena for g;riAg, not
getting pleasure, for spreading. not alb
sorbing COMFORT: Ii Is the simpIe
working of a natural and insvitxbSr
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