The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1877-1885, 1879-04-10

made a criminal Of the
before he reached manhood Aea
As a rule, the eccentric
of matrlmony are ma>euGr1
the noticibie and ont af
Wherever there is rov.. '',
opportunity of tyranny ana
sense OF power is t. san 'ie
irresistible temptation to al
man marrles a young. mo.
contiding creature. whom. .''l.r
INTO his hands with a t%earl@
his goodness, and e>pec.aur
ending love for herself Il.
the slave OF her pretty rs,,
adorer of her manifold .'>
throughout their cougt~h;
should she not expect a conr,
such alteration But some r.r".
after marriage for all the tr;I.
have paid before. and GeiaI.
bling a> a wife the woman nj "
bowed down 10 a. aeWcetEfa,+
seen men take pleas ire IN
tive pam; mental and phgsa
wives. have seen a rrerr,.
sensitive woman smile IN her i,..
face with a selt-control thar va
Gus, when her nerve, w,r.
with the shock OF som, rr1.
jokc, or her heart sore with H.
some cruei speech. ii wa.nn. 81,
had offended him, or that I'm =
he did not love her: bat sba I.H
him, and why should not he ~,
the humor took him.
| knew a man once. who r.u..-.
self a gentleman, and wa,tak,n
who made a practice Of HAL.
boots III his wiics bedroom.
i was particularly di>agrecsI.
lie had the reputation. ouf>,L.
ing a devoted husband.
Another man, when hi, Wifi
mention OF some courteous arfar,
the part OF a mere acquainra.-.
wered her ca,ele>slv =
"Oh. yes he could afford t.I..
tie doesn t have to pay Your L,.,r
One might multiply cNars..
nauseam OF such natrimoniala, -..
and, no doubt, the genfIrr
furnish the quota of u~ngtac,or,
and deeds. Women are mot M
ing angels: some of them are rs,.I
GIVING thrust for thrust and than.
even those who take the init,r,..
the unIoNely warfare. But. a..
the two sides to this. as 10 ever.
ton. the fact remains. thar
greater power hes with them. (...
the conclusion Of the whole man,
that instead OF being in haste to n...
girls should take coun,cIS Of ~cyr,r..
and study well the dispositions or 81.
men who seek them, before giyin.
body and soul into their Keeping.
With the best mutual intention.
the largest amount 81 mutual .
.bearance, there viii alwav, be d..
enough friction between two indn...
souls that, tied together. must rcrt
accommodate their motions such f.H.
:aprlce or necessity OF the other 1n..
5 INFINITE sweetness to be di>.or..#
WITHIN the circle OF the marriage
)ut 1t Is a ~talisman that bring, lie
worst as well as the best thing, IT, +
lnd no bitterness is so bitter A. that at.
Ovele>s union, no chain 80 aaIln. p.
the unequal marriage cham. Br-e
the reproach Of virginity. and ..
bliss Of independent old naa.
lood, than the cares and trials and Ice
of witchood. un'c-, tL-
re lIghtened, not only by tcndcrm m.
Election, but by the mutual ,rmnanr
nd comprehension that maxi a hut
and $ rule over his wife the ler.
ompletlon Of her desire toward him.
" Where these conditions exist. ut.
asslon Is refined of ,cltiShnc>>. and '.e
pens INTO the tender and rcru.r
lcndshIp which only happy maria.
produce, and which ace cannot 81.
: daily familiarity rob Of it, ~n....
y%eetness; where mutual respect. l...
pom mutual dignity. is ,|u,taincI. ..
here sympathy Of tastes. and Il 5.E
llance Of intellectual qualitie~. mo.a
arriaGe Il certainly the ideal hannl...
the world does not lack for
Gus examples Of such rounded p
e have the Raleighs. the fau-h##-
c RussclIs. the IIutcliu~oI-.
and Browning>. with "a u.
my Of lesser lights, earlier and ...
SNOW Us what @rcatncS. II a.Das
developed b. conjueal ,ympath. a..
lat c"inpensatlng delight it ato.-
trials.
TO BE CoNTTNUED.