The farmer and mechanic. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1877-1885, 1879-01-23
HONEYMOON
Young Married PeOple---What
Shall they Do-Where Shal
they Go?

w lcu lWO SouHS poopio -
what shall they do This IS the ques-
ton. Shall they go to housekeeping,
or shall they go to Europe! Shall they
start in the regulation idea OF u probes
sional honeymoon, or drive straight
from the church to a domestic fabric;
q cozy cottage, a convenient corner
grocery; a nice outfit n a nursery
Seeing the number of matrimonial
enterprises the last few weeks, and the
number yet to come, this IS a current
topic, and one which may not DE OBJ
scured by the politicians.
There is no great question u mas
two sides t. it as, for example, 1T takes
a man and a woman, or a girl and a
boy to make a marriage. Hence, tins
matter of how to spend the honeymoon
is really a question; happily not with
out philosophers to take charge OF 1t.
HAPPILY, for the benefit of our newly
mated couples, fortune has given us an
interview with one OF these.
In a recently published romance, by
an English authoress as a matter OF
course, no less a person we may say
than Miss Annie Thomas, otherwise,
Mrs. Somebody, we are treated to a
very wise homily OF honeymoons. This
can hardly fail to distress our local
turtles, for, indeed, the common belief
is that the time of the honeymoon IS
one of the most pure and genuine bliss.
But this, it would appear, is a mere
delusion. "Of all the Uncomfortable
periods of a woman's life, that which
Is derisively called the honeymoon is
the most discOmfortable." Presumlng
that Uncomfortable means the same
thing as uncomfortable, one is rather
startled by this to begin with, but
worse follows. ''The aspect Of things,
like an unaired robe, strikes coldly
against heI heart there is no nook or
corner where she seems to have her bit
abiding-place; the smoothness of sweet
custom has departed from her path,
and a rough road of Earring incongrui-
ties is submitted for It." What on
earth are the Earring incongruities thus
mysteriously named And would not
a number of brides look back upon the
lethargic dullness of sweet custom
rather than it's smoothness Why a
pleasant excursion with a lover should
he either jarring or incongruous, we
cannot for the life of us make out.
However, we are assured that every
bride sighs for 1.-THE gracious days of
untrammeled ~singleness; never was she
SO much bored by her old solitude as
by this true loneliness of never being
alone" And then, says the writer in
dignantly, though rather Incompetent
sively we own, "As if it were not
enough to steep her to the lips in
,&,n.opnSc tr,ppo 1ntinc cfranra
habits, strange hopes and fears for a
future yet hidden away in a darkness
far deeper than that of the grave-it is
her fate to be removed away from every
family scene, as if she were plague
spotted, and if her own household had
disowned her." The last few words
sound most uncommonly like nonsense,
and any bride who should be SO foolish
as to feel herself pl~ague-spotted or cast
off because she had gone away with her
husband instead of staying quietly at
home, would deserve to be divorced on
her return.
But, in arranging a honeymoon, is
not all travelling about from place to
place, a clear blunder! Travelling has
a fearfully trying effect OIL the tempter
with most people. 1t makes them
peevish and hasty. They never succeed
in getting the luggage and the tickets
fairly Oft their minds, or else they show
afatuous indifference about them which
is forever causing all sorts Of confusion
and horrid discomfort. Many people,
too, who are thoroughly agreeable in an
ordinary way, display the strangest and
most unsupported traits when they find
themselves among unfamiliar faces.
They begin to give themselves curious
airs, as if they were persons of quality
and consequence in disguise; or they
shrink timorously or deiantly into the
depths of their inner selves. Then,
again, frequent change of scene does
not agree with everybody. Most peo-
pie are %dreadfully worried by being
transplanted from n place to another.
Those who shine most brilliantly at
their own tiresides become clouded over
elsewhere, and repeated changes liter>
ally submerge them in gloom and
mOodiness.
All this shows that for two people to
set off on a trip which entails a number
of longish Journeys and a great variety
of stOpplng-places, is not the proper
plan for allowing each to see the best
of the other; because not one person in
a thousand is seen at his best when
travelling, and a great many are seen at
their very worst. At the same time it
is possible to fall into a grievous mis-
take on the other side. Seeing the dis
comforts of taking a newly -married
wife to a series of foreign hotels, some
men ensconce themselves in sequestered
dells and remote spots in the country, |
or by the seaside. Here you may, per
hans. nave leisure to discover and con-
template the good points of your COM