The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1879-06-05
LADIES COLUMN.
HARoLINE HAROLD, EDIToR.
A Word with the Girls.

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! "He is not, morally, all / could
wish my husband to be; but l
know l can have more influence
with him than any body else, and /
am going TO marry him" These
were the sentiments expressed by a
friend when telling me of her en-
g9gement to Mr.. b. | wanted to
tell her she might find herself mis-
taken after a while, but / did not,
for the time Of the wedding was set
so l only wished her world of
happiness, and we parted. They
are married now and happy, so far
as the world knows anything to the
contrary. She was a girl with a
true, loving heart, and / doubt not
has tried many ways to induce her
husband to accept her views OF
right and wrong. But l think she
has about as much influence with
him as she would have with stone.
He seems to be treading In the
same path as he used to be. / fear
that she is rather drifting out in
the world with him than he going
with her.
So, girls, remember il you cannot
exert good influence over a man
before you marry him, you have no
assurance that you will be able to
afterwards. If he is incorporate,
marrying him will not reform him.
Promises for the future will not do
20 risk your life's happiness upon.
Wait till you know he has reformed.
Tell him land mean it, too) that he
must either give up you or the wine
cup. If he prefers the latter, then
you are well rid OF him and will be
happier to know the extent of his
affection tor you. Give him up.
He will not die of a broken heart,
even though he affirms his inten
tion Of SO doing. Neither will you,
for there is some one else more
worthy waiting for you to bestow
your affection upon.
A writer asks if 1t is improper for
young ladies to exchange photo
graphs with their gentlemen friends.
This is a question which may have
arguments on both sides. My
opinion is that, while it may not be
improper, it is not at all advisable.
Amy young lady who gives her pic
ture to a gentleman, does so at the
risk of having her face made the
subject of many joke. A young
man generally carries the photo
graph of his lady friends with
him, and they are brought out on
every occasion that presents itself.
Each feature and expression is crit
icized. Doubtless they afford HIM
a vast amount of amusement. Ifl
you are pretty and popular it may
do very well for a while; but wait
till something happens TO break the
bond Of friendship he has so posi-
lively promised to hold sacred,
and where is your picture? How
much does your friend value it?
l have a number of photographs
of gentlemen friends, but they sell
dom get one iii return. You say
that is very selfish; but l do not
think so, since they seem so wiling
and anxious to scatter their pic
lures among their friends. l do
not object. They fill up the vacant
places in my album, and are not
carried around in my pocket for
private exhibition two or three
lines a day. prize them and. take
care of them.
Some gentlemen, l know, have
700 much genuine politeness to
u axe fun of the pictures they have
received, but l imagine such are
very scarce. You see, the gentle
men are so deceitful, we never know
how to take them. They flatter a
lady talk to her of her beautiful hair,
angelic eyes, and so forth and so on,
merely to see of what kind of com
position she is made. Girls, do not
be too easily affected by little pre-
tended fattery. The Bible says:
"a flattering mouth worketh Iuin."
So bewarel Man loves with reser-
walton; but woman, poor, trusting |
creature, gives all her heart at once.
If the ladies' are deceittul-which is
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Tense. They must put on an air of
towards gentlemen; for,
if they love a man ever so dearly,
they dare not let anybody know it,
much less him, or he would become
with them immediately.
Did l not hear good, motherly
woman in our neighborhood, say
ing. in regard to a girl who had
fallen deeply in love with a young
man, "Well, If l did care any
thing about him, l would not let
him know" And does not one of
our noted writer's thus express him
self: "Do anything but love; or,
if thou love, and art a woman, hide
thy love from him whom thou dost
Never let him know how
dear he is"
Now, my friends, can you blame
the girls if they do sometimes hide
their true feelings under the mask
Of deceit.
In answer to the question of la
lies receiving presents from their
would.be gentlemen friends, L do
not approve of the practice AL
Derta in Rural World.