The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1879-05-11
THE DrnASD ron WIVES
auor.n. uacheIcr Enser for Matrinony-A
TeSns Ca-e-A Jewish Maiden.


At, rcgor1ing marriages I'm May which has
nod, many brides so arrange that their we'd
1i,,s should not take place In TINT month. The
rrerid,cc against May as season for mating.
however dJ.s not seem TO prevail 30 strongly
NOR, rs i'm son,e other countries. tho Statistics
., marriages showing that tho month has its
COLL average ~ matrimonial unions 1t IL.
,pdecl pleasant time Of tho year for starting
~ oe,uunhinl career since May stands between
,be c,ll { our prolonged winter and the fierce
heats " our summer. which n month hence
will probably send tho thermometer up to as
nigh figures ns the mercury will reach between
now and thc Gloss Of the dog days There is no
bet,er soason forthe bridal tour. and the couples |
,rbo follow the later fashion md sccudo them
solves i'm town during the honeymoon can enjoy |
thecitv when II ia at it's bast. II wo except fow |
weeks in tho autumn
pv the ond OF a few weeks from now. n largo |
share Of tho engagements contracted during |
tho win;rr will have eliminated in marriage. |
though many also must still and long be be- |
trothals only for tho times though better than
they were nrc not yet so prosperous that all
lovers can venture to assume the responsible
lies Of matrimony The number OF marriages
reported In the city for the week ending the
Third OF this month was 200. gain Of "a as
compared with tho corresponding week last
year This il very good showing. and, in
decd so far this year there has been pretty
V,eady improvement in tho matrimonial mar
ket which was dull last year. Some Of the most
notable fashionable weddings OF recent years
have taken place since Easter. though tho rich
and prosperous have contributed 10 tho total
only small share Young mon who have been
accustomed to casc. and who find their incomes
decroasol are lookingto fortunate matrimonial
alliances 70. the lettering Of their condition.
and tho fathers Of daughters arc disposed to in
yestigate the financial resources. M we'll ~ the
motives % their would-bo sons in law. But
after all the summer with its long holidays in
the country afrording peculiar opportunities
for the growth Of attachments ard for romantic
pnssagcs "a the great season for courtship. and
we shall doubtless be able 70 report encourag-
ing prospects FOR weddings in the autumn.
As our own correspondence and the statistics
OF the last census prove. there is vast total of
unmarried people of a mnrriageable age in the
community. and their forlorn condition weighs
heavily on the spirits OF very many Of these
men and women. OF the native males in the
State. lS7 s75 were unmarried in 1875. and
sos s2G were married; Of the native females
1873 s2i we're unmarried. and 537 Ola were
married. ~ the foreign males. 1870 800 were UNI
married and $50 795 married. Of the foreign
females l7o7i2 unmarried. and S50.S23 mar
ried. Tho number OF widowed was 2is IT'S and
Of divorced. / $40. The chances OF women are
better in this State than In some others. Massa-
chuseits for instance. where they outnumber
the men by about 10000 since OF the single ma
tive born population tho males are In excess Of
tho females by "a 054 and Of the foreign born
population. single. the males orc still more in
the majority.
Yet we can spare some OF our maidens. who
here pine minated. to solace tho lives Of
the lonely bachelors OF the far Western States
many OF whom have written to THE Sun eK-
pressing their desire to take TO them wives from
the East. Here is one OF these letters. which
eomes from Kansas:
lam ~ Pew; have never Teen married This country
was settled Young ro,iiy. and but few younI
.shss m ma aFe Nv sS i' nv ~ ~, ~
tune that have not been ablc 60 .ecute one as yet
compsis ne to rcmsin here but tai to enjoy ii LeeSus
NJ eipeunsisnces are Such t,i9i csnnot leave hom
without ;seridSe can produce good ,'eo"iw ,s
IKE know how may secure The corre.rcndenee Of
give any sdyssi 10 4 will be nanSiuly r,esiysd
s' 4's s T@It ,h ~ % ssS Se 70 f IL
q the same notion that am. NICHOLSON
We admire the spirit OF our Kansas frient
and think better Of him for his repugnance t,
bachclorhoNl. now that he has so established
himself that he is able to marry But we can
not assist him IN opening a correspondence
with young woman OF like feelings reGardn
single Ito. though that there are many sue
among the feminine readers Of THE Sun "
have abundant evidence. Sometimes happ
marriage has resulted IRON correspondent
between man and woman who are stranger
70 each other and both bent on ma;rimony bu
It is dangerous expedent and the best womc
for wives resent the idea Of being advertise
for. while those not worth having may Jump
the chance. Let our friend come properly In
PRODUCED 10 the East resolved 10 sacrifice some
thing to gain his hearts desire-what goo
thing can he got without an effort land he wi
ind hosts Of girls ready 10 cnpture his hear
and many who would lend a charm 20 h
farm life in Kansas. One Of these he can win
he makes love in the square. manly way
which he writes TO us. But We can't pick out
woman for a wife for him. He must do that Il
himself Kansas is growing to DO one Of IL
greatest States OF the Union. It's advance
population during the last ten years has bee
surprising and when the census OF 1890
taken its number OF inhabitants will give II
political aud material strength second TO few
the States Of the Union. BY all means let OF
friend marry n good wife. and bring up fan
lily to contribute to the honor Of Kansas
From Texas. another great state with MAJ
nlhcent future possibilities. which is now a
racting u large immigration we get the lottt
Of friend who remains unmarried. not b.
cause he is enamored Of the bachelor state. bl
because he is not sure the girl he loves is
love with him. and because she il not hxed
her own mind on the subject. This is the Quei
lion he asks US;
siK lisa woman ever Jealous Of man she does n
lover have been loving gil Tor nearly Two years, al
have Frequently told her She t.wnN- tells me u
does not love me. hut at the same time her ncuo
SPEAK differently SHE has repeatedly told me uAi she Ia
tIt whence she came ana mat she love
him ana did want a. give him Hp She has lived he
yearly and has three or four times gone bai
b. the town where this fellow lives Visiting her peoil
but. what strange 10 i that he, during all III
time. ihs utt came 10 zee her.
She has several lines got angry with me and Ueat
batll. without caurs. that would not hh
anytlns g. do with her. She wuud fco IA greatly VI
Ge.ri, and would ier.evrre ma lrr ATTEMPTS TO treat q
Nel unti would Yield ami would De- friends aga
amer her due amends
kOtwiustautiis SHE te Is she does not love me
byer laJ tIi uar utt.uu 90 81 auoirr ady, howcNt
the Immediately becomes jealous. aud shows II We
psiuy aud uunistakaDi, 10 me Atn certain, Oeyomi
loubt that NHntti doses mot make me Imagine ms
hot long since she said she dii not real
what slr uluught o me, tiht she eNlerienc
telngs Toe different from any she had ever ~
person. that At tnc, She hkcd me as w
any Irrsan could IKE uuutrr that At others she d
Sized me id nr her hie could not t WY she did u
axe me. that she would then seek Geo make angry
ustrratmrUf blt .ulu shea tnul.ished her 0bJc
Ihe issrnhle ANA could not rest until she had
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