The New York herald., 1879-08-11
her against her wishes. In her next letter she
calls her father to account for encouraging this
riage and speaks of her beauty and intellect.
SHE KNEW SHE WAS AyARIcIous

her son against her wishes In her next letter she
calls her father to account for encouraging this
riage and speaks of her beauty and intellect
SHE KNEW SHE WAS AvARIcIous.
SEPT. Is, 1929.
DEAR SIR-This is the third time that write in
your letter OF the oath of July 1t is my duty
marriage which you propose 10 me for my son. 1
viii give my consent TO il. The opinions you
he never ought to marry in America and that with
my appreciation he never shculd continue un-
changed and will never vary while live; When he
returned. at your request to Baltimore, felt per-
suaded that you would never sanction any marriage
there. because YOU and all the family and himself
were perfectly aware that such marriage would be
in direct opposition to my wishes confidently
presumed that when You perceived any inclination
most important particular you would lay your com
mands on him to change his conduct until you could
receive my answer to the comm uncation you would
make to me on this subject have conscientiously
fulfilled all my duties to my son. tried TO give MN
the education his name ana situation demanded l
have nearly starved myself, at the same time that
was resolved that expense should be spared on
his education and at the time that told him that he
should never have my avarice to offer as an excuse
for bad conduct. am avaricous: this quality was
forced on me by my insulated situation and ny my
necessities; but my love of money never blinded mo
to the true interests OF my son or made me shirk
from the duty of providing for him, ana TO advance
ices BY my exertions procured hia pension
without me he never would have got it, from his
family. Had left him in America he would never
have received that or the legacy from his aunt
have toiled to gain him advantages of every kind
have solicited the interest OF many in his favor and
have spared myself in no way to enrich him or pro-
mote his advancement.
MY ambition my beauty and my intellect united
me for the lite led in America and after my marriage
all those who desired my happiness must naturally
have wished me to be established in Europe. 1t be-
the proper residence for me and for my son.
My position and his bore resemblance to that of
American wives and American sons, and only stu
pidity and meanness of feeling on our part could
nave rendered Baltimore agreeable to Influenced
by this view OF situation. which is that of
one both here and in America, took him to Geneva
for his education and have constantly tried to instl
in his mind the sentiments his name demanded.
marriage with any American woman who has not
very large fortune would be the extreme Of folly
hope that it has not taken place. beg You to do
everything in your power to prevent his marrying
her. Ii it has occurredprobably hurried to prevent
my interference because every there knows that
l have too much sense and too much pride to
consent to it must regret that my son has
thrown away all bright prospects and that he has
committed folly which he will bitterly regret II
he has really been foolish enough to make such
marriage cannot go to America TO dissolve it. be-
the law gives me no right to exercise further
control over his actions.
l can, in this unfortunate event. only verbally
and by letter to every one express my disapproba
ton OF it, This will be justice due TO myself and
did not act thus might be supposed to have con-
nived at the marriage to get rid or my son.
cannot think that either his happiness his inter-
ests have been consulted in marrying him against my
inclination. / should have been the first person
consulted have never shown want OF judgment
in the direction of my own concerns or OF his, and
my refusal to let him be sacrificed in the in
stance Is further proof of the regard have
always shown him. If, without the suggestions of
any one, he has, from want of sense, married
| improperly, fear that he will regret through
| lite my having allowed him to return America.
| If there have been advisers and promoters
| of marriage. which they. knew that
| mother would never sanction and which destroys
all happiness, can only leave them to God and
their conscience. II. fortunately. this marriage is
| not made lay my commands on my son to give it
up. authorize him to make use OF my name in any
way to break it off. At his age and with ais advan
| tages he could marry much better and neither my
circumstances nor his are very bad as to require
| us to charge those people with his maintenance
might have made twenty better marriages than that
proposed for him, but neither poverty nor my insu
| lated position would ever bend my pride TO marry
an inferior. Money is good thng-no one knows
this better than myself-for the possession Of it
would have placed me in very high situations; but
even money, unless the sum be very great. cannot
justify any descending from their rank in lite
The residence Of Baltimore never agreeable to
me. and after this marriage you must all naturally
be convinced that my presence there would be re-
proach to ali concerned in it, and at the same time
very painful to myself. 1t is natural that should
prefer remaining with strangers. when my own
family appear to think so much less Of me. Here
pass for person OF sense and proper conduct;
there am looked upon as u ridiculous old fool, fit
been more respected and more admired everywhere
than in my own family am consulted by strangers
| upon their private affairs and my relations think
| me incapable OF judging for myself.
My son is much too young to know whether the
mode of life proposed for him will make him happy
| and am perfectly certain that in six months he
would bitterly regret having rivetted himself to the
OF wife and family. There is not half money
enough to compensate tor such sacrifice 1t is
perfectly absurd to marry him to any in Balt
more.
COMPLAINS WILLIAMS ''DOT."
In her next letter Nine. Bonaparte reproves her
father for not making better bargain for her son.
and the former of hurrying the marriage to
prevent her interference She also speaks In dis
paraging terms of her sons want OF pride and ambi-
tion, and says she would soon go to Botany Bay
for a husband marry one in America after having
married the brother of an Emperor. She complains
that Jerome the of King has not been treated.
in the affair of his marriage. well the of
shopkeepers who have married American heiresses.
DEAR SIR received the duplicate of yours of the
Path OF july few days since in the postscript you
announce to me that my sons marriage ap-
pointed to take place in the month OF October,
which, of course, means this month. had foreseen
that it would be preciptated to prevent my inter-
ference because you, he. and the whole world know
that my views for him were entirely different and
widely opposed to his marrying m American wo-
man. find, too, that he has been fool enough to
marry her without even getting hold Of her fortunes;
that the principal If he dies belongs to her and that
consequently her children will be left dependent
her. She will OF course marry again, ana they will
then depend on her second husband. This business
has been badly conducted. IL he s deficient ambi-
ton and pride he ought at least have made bet
ter bargain. The principal of her fortune ought at
least to have been secured to her children IL nv son
died before her, and the half him IL she died be-
fore her husband, as well as the whole income for
lite
The whole proceeding has been badly conducted,
and the actors in 1T, afraid OF my appearance, have
been hurried into losing the only advantage noney
which such marriage could afford.
The Williams have completely outwitted you and,
no doubt. have been too happy that they had not
me to bargain with. consider my completely
sacrificed IL he could content himself with living in
Baltimore the fortune Of these vulgar people ought,
Mt least to have been secured to him and to his
children. When he resolved upon marrying ought
to have been informed of it, and my advice asked
about the terms to be MADE with them. / feel
that he has not my tastes and zee that he has
ambition. II, indeed, he Is so humble minded there
is nothing to be said; he would always have been
at liberty to degrade himself but he ought to have
had common sense enough not to leave his posterity
dependent upon his widow, and he ought to
have insisted upon half the fortune and the
whole of the income II he outlived her have been
very unhandsoineiy treated in this business, which
has been hurried to prevent my interference cer-
tany could not have prevented IT. therefore 1t would
have been wiser to write to Inc and ask my opinion
to the terms to be made with these people. OF
IL he feels that he could be content with such
life there is no dsputing tastes, aud have, per-
haps right to insist upon the pride ana ambition
which distinguish me being hereditary in my fam
ily, but at least have right to expect to be