Saint Mary's beacon. [volume] (Leonard Town, Md.) 1867-1983, 1878-08-08
Wedded LIE.


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chosen : wife after mature fs8eetion,
and not alone from selfsh Impulses.
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| " 49, 10 each other IN N entires
IS aew light. You will end defects
ID heys and she iii voc which can only be
properly met by one course, and that il
mutual cOaciliaii0n. Strive 10 see which
eane3erCise the greatest leniency toward
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married Life i mutual confdence. Trust
one anOtheF. Have no secrets from
one another. By all means never call
in third party to interfere in any way
in any family Jars. You VIII be more
than human IL you and your wife can al
ways perfectly sgree; but while you can
not prevent differences, you can prevent
any evil consequences arising from them.
IT. you have troublI keep il to yourself
and wife. Compromise viii secure you
undoubted happiness. By all means
never allow quarrel 20 last over night.
There is mischief in brooding and pout-
ing. Don't be ashamed by yielding when
you are in the right. There is no sacrifice
or self-denial in yielding only when
you are in the wrong. You nitist consult
your wife's whims and caprices as well
as her reasonable desires. Mankind is
generally governed by the passions, moi
by the reason. There Is no excuse for
trampling upon q wife's desires because
you think them unreasonable. Women
have al times the privilege OF being
unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are Of
iensive to your wife or il you cannot
avoid them altogether, avoid them In
her presence. Keep clear of your wife's
relations and have her keep clear Of
yours in all business matters, If possi-
bic. If either of you should form an
tipathies to the relations of the other
those antipathies must be consulted,
and If not removed must be respected, or
else your family jars viii be numerous
and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with sys-
tematic frugality. Devote a specific
proportion OF your income to The future
Of your family. Your savings will in
this way augment almost imperceptibly,
and place you above asking favor.
Live within your means and nobody
viii know how much you have ahead:
but The moment you borrow cent
people know how poor you are.
Go il while you are young. The du-
ties Of house and family will come
soon enough. Take II easy while you
may in your early married life.
Be patient, and watch and wait and
pray. Just previous to the birth Of your
first child you will possibly find your
wife fretful, cross, peevIsh, pouty and
troublesome, just as many good, kind.
amiable and loving women have been
before her. If such should be the case
don't get mad, don't expostulate, don't
rebuke or reproach her. The best thing
you can do is TO grin and bear it. The.
first smile of the baby will stop ii and
pay for all you have endured.
Don't think yourself Immaculate and
set yourself up as pattern for your
wife. II she wants TO go to church and
you don't, remember that it may not do
you any harm TO 90 10 church. Don't
scold your wife. and don't beat your
children, if you have any. Teach your
children by example. Be copy for them.
Excuse them for such of your faults as
they inherit. Don't bequeath them a
hasty temper and then whip them for it.
Don't gossip before them and punish
them for gossipping. Don't prevent
them from romping or having minds of
their own. Don't frighten them with
ghost stories. Don't lie to them. Don't
you neglect to give them anything you
promise them-evenpunishment. Don't
forget that you were child once, and
do as you would have others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you have few but
tons of your shirts. Remember all the
time that you are poor, weak mortal,
liable TO err, and in all probability no
more perfect than your wife.
Battle often, look to your health, and
never 90 home drunk.