Connecticut western news., 1878-06-13
WEDDED LIFE.
Advice to 8 Newly Married Man from an
 Experienced Benedict

Advice to B Newly Married Man from an
 Experienced Benedict.
 FRIEND is to be presumed that you have chosen wife after mature reflection, and not alone from selfish inn pulses. Nevertheless, do not imagine that you can possibly have foreseen all the duties, responsibilities and even trials to which married life may render you liable. In your intimate relation ship and companionship you and your wife will appear to each other in an en- tirely new light. You will find defects in her and she in you, which can only be properly met by one course, and that is mutual conciliation. Strive to see which can exercise the greatest 1eniency toward each other. The secret of happiness in marr1eu nfe IS mutual confidence. Trust one another. Have no secrets from one another. By all means never call in a third party to interfere in any way in any family jars. You will be more than human if you and your wife can always perfectly agree; but while you cannot prevent differences, you can prevent any evil consequences arising from them.
 If you have trouble keep it to yourself and wife. Compromise will secure you undoubted happiness. By all means never allow quarrel to last over night. There is mischief in breeding and pout- ing. Don't be ashamed by yielding when you are in the right. There IS no sacrifice or sef-denial in yielding only when you are in the wrong. You must consult your wife's whims and caprices as we'll as her reasonable desires. Man kind is generally governed by the pas sions, not by the reason There is no excuse for trampling upon wife's de- l sires because you think them unreason- able Women have at times the priv 1 ilege of being unreasonable.
 Avoid personal habits which are of fensive to your wife or, if you cannot avoid them altogether, avoid them in her presence. Keep clear of your wife's relations and have her keep clear o1 yours in all business matters, if possi- ble. If either of you should form an tipathies to the relations of the other those antipathies must be consulted, and if not removed must be respected, ol else your family Jars will be numerous and irreconcilable.
 Let your married life begin with sys. tematic frugality. Devote specific pro portion of your income to the. future oi your family. Your savings will in this way augment almost imperceptibly, and 1 place you above asking favors.
 Live within your means and nobody will know how much you have ahead
 but the moment you borrow cent peo' pie know how poor you are.
 Go it while you are young. The du ties of house and family will come soor enough. Take it easy while you may il your early married life. -
 Be patient, and watch and wait and = pray. Just previous to the birth of you first child you will possibly find you wife fretful, cross, peevish, pouty ant troublesome, just as many good, kind amiable and loving women have beer before her. If such should be the case don't get mad, don't expostulate, don rebuke or reproach her. The best thing you can do is to grin and bear it. Th' first smile of the baby will stop it ant pay for all you have endured. . Don't think yourself immaculate ant set yourself up as pattern for you wife. If she wants to go to church ant you don't, remember that it may not d. you any harm to go to church. Don sco1d your wife, and don't beat you children, if you have any. Teach v U children by example. Be copy for them Excuse them for such of your faults a they inherit. Don't bequeath them hasty temper and then whip them for it Don't gossip before them and punisl them for gossipping. Don't preven chem from romping or having minds c , their own. Don't frighten them wit ghost stories. Don't lie to them. Don you neglect to give them anything yo7 l promise them-even punishment. Don forget that you were 8 child once, an do as you would have others do to you
 Don't get crazy if you have few but
 tons off your shirts. Remember all tn
 time that you are poor, weak mortal
 liable to err, and in all probability n : more perfect than your wife.
 Bathe often, look to your health, an never go home drunk. Yours,