Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1878-09-25
Miseellanu.
The Secret Of Pleasing.

"a man will please more by never Of
Tending than by giving great deal of de-
light" In this remark of Doctor John
sons, says writer in Lippncott's. lies
the art of being agreeable. But nothing
is more difficult than to avoid offend
ing. Most people are offended by trifps
For instance. persons generally take UNI
bragg Mt superior brilliancy of conversa-
ton. The man who talks for fame will
never please" He who talks to unhurden
his mind will please only some old and
solitary friend. Large experience and
great learning, however quietly carried
are very offensive to those who have them
not. Clever things cannot be said unob
trusvely enough. person so brilliant as
10 make others feel that his efforts are
above theirs will he detested. Moreover,
one of the difficulties of being agreeable
is that the apprehension of offending and
the small hope of pleasing destroy all
captivation of manner. The confident ex-
pectalion of pleasing is an infallibe means
of pleasing Characters pleased with
themselves please others, for they are joy
Gus and natural in mein. and are at liber-
ty from thinking of themselves to paw at
tention to others. Still, the self-conceited
and the Dragging aye never attractive. self
being The topic on which all ARE fluent an d
none interesting. They who dwell ON sci
in any way-the self-deniers, the self
mprovers-are hateful to the heart of civ
ilized man. The Chinese, who knew every.
thing beforehand, are perfect in self
abnpgation of manner. " How are your
noble and princely son. and your beautiful
and angelic dauehterP" says Mandarin
Number One. l." Dog of son have
none, bnt my cat of daughter is WE'LL"
saws Mandarin Number Two.
To set up for an invariably agreeable
person you must adjust yourself to the
PECULIARLY of others You must talk of
books to bookworms; you must be musical
with musicians, scientific with savants.
Furthermore, You have to make believe you
are enjoying yourself The belle is lady
who has IN air of enjoying herself with
whomsoever she talks. We like those
who seem to delight in our company. You
must not overdo it, and thus make your
self suspected of acting; but do not
imagine that you will please without try
inp. Those who are careless of pleasing
are never popular. Those who do not
| care now lUey IOOh lnNdIEtbIJ lOOh ugly
You will never please without doing all
these things and more.
What a Pecksniftian business it is to &C
into! Who wants to refrain from smart.
spiteful sayings when he happens to think
of them, TO abjure laughing at friends and
ridiculing enemies, to renounce the tart
rebuff, the keen ripoSte. Amazing that
any succeed! and many do. There are
some gentlemen who are entirely agreea.
BILE" gentlemen all through" like Rob-
ert Moore. in Shirley" They have order
neatness, deicacy of movement, reticence
incuriosity; their unaffected English has
almost the charm of musical compost
ton. They are generally men whose
mothers we'll nagged them when they
were small with perpetual adjurations
" Do not bang she door" d" Stop kicking
your feet, y" Stop clinking your plate with
your fork" and so on.
In some inscrutable way young girls
often attain thorough agreeableness. Look
lazy little Jane; she has acquired the