The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-01-27
Will q Bad Daughter Make a Good
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viii q Bad Daughter Make a Good
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II often happens that though man may
be engaged to a girl for long time, he
really fails to reach true understanding OF
her character. When he comes to marry
her he finds that she is very different in dis
position from what he supposed while he
was playing the part of u lover. The con-
sequence Is sometimes much marital unhap-
pincss. The husband thinks he has been
deceived, and the thought irrtates him.
Yet the fault is usually his own. and he does
not deserve sympathy. He was an unob-
serving lover, else his long engagement
would have enabled him to find out what
sort Of girl he was counting. There are
cases, however where the woman artfully
conccas her real disposition during the
preliminary love-making. only to tear away
the disguise when the knot has been tied.
Here the husband should get all the COM
passion we bestow on people who have been
swndlcd.
But q southern gentleman who asks our
advice in his love affairs. and who thus states
his case, cannot if he marrics his sweetheart,
plead ignorance Of her dispositions
sir have read your paper for several years and
must say At no time have had greater admiration for
" than at present. admire your In defence Of
wfonsed people, and Your dcnunciauon Of the efeatet
wrong crushed the spirits people But that
is not the point Sir abrilliant. beauuf and accom-
phshed lads has UNIQUE sonaby gained possession OF the
citadel Of my heart am fully satisfied my love IL reoip
rocated and woad not hesitate instant to en,hrone
her queen my soul but Tor conduct at home.
which causes little anxiety She will assist In
the household duties, neither Is she kind and gentle
around the family circle TO her interiors but inder
the interest of her shs Is unquesonably
deeply interested my welfare and Judging by her
duet toward mel would make faithful and loving wife.
Now SIR have Sufficient and good to turn from
the idol Of heart and master my grief should iu
n my desire by taking her into my keoping' II you will
give this your early and consideration You WILL
confer lasting favor upon r.
We are not surprised that our correspond
| ent hcsitates before emharking on the sea
OF matrmony with a bride who so conducts
herself in her fathers house If girl
neglccts to assist in lifting the load Of care
| of her mothers shoulders, has no regard to
pay to her father, ill-trcats the servants
| and goes snaring about the house. the
| chances are ten to one that when she gets
home Of her own she will make a nuisance
Of herself there also Very likely she il
amiable enough to our friend for his atten-
tions ilattcr her vanity; but after he had
married her and become an old story like
her parents, she would probably treat him
to an exhibition Of the same qualities which
she now displays as Il careless and migrate
ful daughter.
There are girls who fancy themselves so
far superior to their parents that the mere
privilege Of enjoying their society in the
house ought to be all the old people should
have the assurance to ask. While their
mothers are busy with domestic duties they
sit in the easiest chairs, or lie on the softest
sofas, feeding on cheap and trashy novels,
and cherish the notion that they are very
literary individuals. The household drudg-
cry Is too coarse for such fine ladies AZ they
The business Of their parents Is TO provide
them with nice clothes and To be content
with admitting their handsome appearance
III the intervals oi labor
such girls wish to get married, and there
lore they are smilIhg enough To eligible
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