Bozeman avant courier. [volume] (Bozeman, Mont.) 1872-1882, 1878-05-09

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he fast.
H. Before alld After Marriage.
rs Mrs. Henry Ward Beccher, In Christian Union
tn When 4 young man begins to feel especi
sli ally drawn towards naiden--andby NOR,
m intimate acquaintance this interest ripen.
m into aft. ction-all the politeness and re
is spect .:c can command will be manifested
le when in her presence. The best traits OF
n his character are called out to entertain and
l. honor her, to draw closer the bond OF
d union he desires TO see established. Both,
s. if the interest is mutual-perhaps with no
: desire Of making 4 false ilnpression-are in
C that exalted state OF mind which shows
! them to the greatest advantage. Particu-
: larly is this true rs regards tho lover. TO
G CRAFTY the slightest wish of his chosen no
e effort is felt to be wealisomc. no labor
? burden All self-tlenial for his lady-love is
) accounted as joy and honor His very
} life seems too small an offering.
J Bat how is it when the prize is secured.
and the twain arc made one? Are those
T graceful courtesies, sweet amenities, kind
and watchful attentions, through which
the coveted prize was led to an exalted es-
innate Of the lovers character. to be co.,
tnued by the husband growing brighter
and holier as the years roll on? Will tile
respectful honor and attention which
true gentleman yields to woman be more
scrupulously accorded, be held more ST.
cred, when accorded to the wife? 'sThen
will sweet peace wreathe her chain round
them forever" and the love which buddcd
in youth, and grew deeper and broader
with the after years, will be matured and
perfected in old age, holding them as one
till, separated by death, they meet again
In that better world whereof love is the
light.
But If marriage brings indifference, or
feeling of ownership which is supposed to
eXonerate husband from all attention to
his Wlfe-to release him from the common
est civilities which he dare not refuse to =
other women-thcn there is little hope of d
true happiness in the household The first
year of married life is doubtless. in some
respects, the most critical. No young
people ever became fully acquainted with
each other during the period of courtship c.
and engagement. There is glamour over q
them that hides any disagreeble or inhar- u
moniols pec'sliarity-and every one has
some that will not show well in a strong
lght" We daily see young people accept
The mutual duties of the married state who
ire profoundly ignorant of the life upon o..
which they have so thoughtfessly entered. ov
The husband may understand what is DO
light and honorable among men, but with
mt the first especially if has not been
'rought up with sisters-of what respect An
nd attention wife has right to expect ca,
nd he is bound to give us an honorable =
Gentleman.
w we claim for wives degree Of rcspcct =:
ian gives any other lady, but we also
lain that wives shall be governed by the
anne rule. Both Should be affable. courte- r
us and kind to all with whom they asso-
ate, but for each other there should be a LII
eeper respect and Difference than is ever
zen IN their intercourse with others. how
'er worthy. Yet, in far too many cases.
bitterness and good breeding are folded
way With the wedding tinery. But, till
he children which are growing up around
are taught the sacredness of the obliga-
on those assume whose hands are Joined
wedlock, the horribly disgusting records -,
cruelty and crime that fill our daily pa I"
rs Will continue, and happy homes be
Ike angels visits-few and far between.
Aside from the present misery and strife,
NAT Will be the condition of society, or Of
II country, when the children of these o,
lhappy marriages come to the front and ROOF
ke their places as rulers of our country
q 1ashloners OF society? If the mother
VAN, foolish, irritable and self-willed-in G.,
wise seeking to make home happy. ney- and
yielding to her husbands Judgment or
llng for his pleasure-or if she seeks to So
peaceably and make her family happy. y
every effort is met by GOODNESS, indif
ence or sneers from her husband-will =
the fruits of such examples be shown
the future character and lives of their
dren? -
There can be no happy marriages or
mes If love, pure and sanctified, is not
foundation. So few young people know
at love is! A little romance, good
Il OF pride or ambition, hovers about F.,
m, and they call it lore. ''Of all the sad
ngs in this world, the saddest is the leaf
tells what love meant to be. and the
nlng OF the leaf, to tell what love has
n"-one all blossoms, the other ashes !:
all smiles and gladness, the other ali nRr
rs and sadness. Nothing is so beautiful
nc temple that love builds; nothing is
miserable as the service of that temple
rod be not in it.
there be anything thai young welded
should have as its first vision. it
uld be ladder between the earth and
ven, and the angels of God ascending
descending. and God, over all, blessing
Then there is hope. Begin your house.
life, begin your welded life, with
hol! upon God, and purity. and heay- Ius
and there is hope for you; otherwise. when En-
is your fate! above
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