The Tiffin tribune. (Tiffin, Ohio) 1868-1887, 1878-12-26
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think Of them. provided they retain
the gnOd viii Of their particular pets
They are whimsical. and take %,
special likes or dislikD- Tor fh" s1I1
men whom they mtr,. e.. ~t,.r.
irctiy splendid. ami - :ue. procerd
90 make fools Of themselves over bath
parties. Now there B. Huthiu. upon
which q Young uaU j. Su sensitive a.
this mailer Of being treated with p1-
R lite consideration by the y0Ing Wu-
man ut his acquaintance; and / knoH
Of nothing which viii tend more GER
tJinlN L. make q Young man hateful
than Io treat him - DO he were 50
There anr 4 multitude Of y0ung men
. whose self-reSpect Is nurIurrd, whose
ambition i quickrned, and whose
I hearts are warmed with q genial lir-
. by those cDnsiderale TtcUgHitiOns on
/ the part uf their female acquaintance
+ which assure them that they have i
position in the esteem Of those with
whom They associate the sweetest
hopes and happiness Of life. TUhe rut
iul HO good csItI-T J. t1 receive Il wound
which Is not easily healed.
The duty, therefore, which | would
. iucrlc.tte i that of systematic polite
ness. II Nou know Young imam. bow
tu him when yOu meet him. He viii
not Dow 10 NoH first, for hr waits foT
your recognition. lie do+s not know
whether You rstrem him of sufficient
value Ia be recognized. II yuu IrasS
him without recognition, rOu
SAY To him, in 4 Language which III
feels with a keenneSS which you can
not measure, that you consider him be-
meath yuHr notice. You plant ia his
heart Immediately prejudice against
yourself. You disturb him. lnu
hurt him. and this. too, lei me
admit. very frequently without
design. Iuu arr sensitive NUHr-
self. and aIe afraid hr has for
gotten yuu. lOu think, perhaps. thIt
hr would not like 10 notice NoII, and
would soi like to have Nou notice him.
There Is a good deal "i this kind oi
thing. doubtless, hut IL Is all wrong.
There is no man vino will not return
yuur bow. and feel the better for y0ur
smile; AMI if the Young man receiving
the attention IS poor, and has his pnSi-
liUn ia the world Ia win, and feels that
he has not as many attractions, per
SOnal or circUmStmiiIl. as others, you
have made his heart light. and
awakened toward yourself Il feeling of
a cordial good will. akin. IN many i'll
stances, to gratitude.
4 yOnng woman who i afraid of
compromising her pOSitiOn 10y recO.-
niZing men out of her set, or out Of 4
certain line of genteel OccHpal ions.
shows by how frail Il tenure she holds
her own reSpcrlahility. lu fact. she
demonstrates herself la he u regular
goose. could name To- YOU W0men
who have not only Il recognized hIIt a
commanding position in the hest
society, who are aS uniformly and SyS-
tematically polite la the clerk who
sells them silks, as To the pets of their
circle, who have a how and a smile for
all with whom they have ever been
thrown into personal relations. and
who, 10y this very p0liteneSS more than
by any other Self-rNpresSiOn, Vindicate
their place among those whom society
calls ladies. There is kind word for
them in every Young mans mouth;
and no Young man would ever think
Of presiming upon such pOliteness for
the Indulgence Of an offensive f;I-
miliarity. such women have a sacred
ness in his eyes that no other women
possess, and he would offend them in
no way for the world.
The advice have given YOU in these
matters is partly for the benefit of
your sex, and partly for mine | be-
lieve that there should be a far more
rational mode Of intercourse between
young men and young women than at
present exists. / believe that every
legitimate attraction that your society
hns gps- Oh b..
uncOnStTained. | believe that there is
no good reason why a young married
woman should be more attractive to
bachelor than yourselves, and that in
the degree in which they are more at
tractive, do y0u wrong yourselves and
the young men of your acquaintance.
/ believe that il is well for you and
well for young men, that they should
be attracted 10 you by afrank behavior
on Your part, which will place
them at their east. and eNeT-
else Upon them all that good infiu-
ence which pure, strong. OutSpOken
female nature is well calculated to
exert. Young men and young women,
To use a catch phrase of the day, are
lin the same boat" But q few years
will pass away before they will he the
bosom companions Of each other. and
the fathers and mothers OF the land
II matters everything to them that
they understand each other. and to
this end. in my Judgment. an inter
course betw een them should bt eStab-
liShed upon 4 very different basis from
that which is now maintained bv SOci-
ety. ID should hr more simple, more
ample. more natural. more truStful.
and more heartily COnsiderate. There
is nothing in the history of the race 10
prove that anything has ever been pre-
served or won to virtue hy Il system
Of essential falsehO0d, or a policy of
c0nstraint. Many Il girl
feels this. and will feel il Ia her diving
day. TOtIea Young woman up Ia the
meanly cautious cnnvrntiOnalism Of the
day. is To prepare her ;Is Il helpless sac
rilice Ia the first designing villain who
inSinuatPs himself into her confidence
Many a woman grnanS to-day in bond
age l0 a drIrnkard. lihertine, ur a
dOlt, Who only needed Ia have been al
lowed Ia know men better Ia have ST.
cured Il proper companion.
] say, then, Ia lOIl young NO!nrn. rr-
form this thing altogether. Ii is in
your hands. | give ynu the idea;
leave yOu t0cIrTy il into practice. You
do not need that ! should tell yOu how
To do il. lf You are not vicious, there
Is nothing for YOU. ia N0ur mind and
heart, To conceal. BE simply YOUR
selves, taking all possible care To make
yourselves what YOU should he. Learn
Ia think kindly Of all young men, save
those whom You have reason 10 believe
possess black hearts and foul inten-
tiOnS-th0Se who are enimieS of yOhT
sex and social purity. Treat every
young man well. both for his sake and
your own. You shall thus he the light
of many eyes. and your kind heart,
thorough good manners, and transpar-
ent nature. cannot fail 10 attract To.
you those whose true nobility is the
most strongly touched 10y that which
is best in wOmanhOOd. One of those
will become your companion, am in
clined To think, if human nature mean-
while. 90 not suffer some remarkable
change-TimOfhy TitcOmb. Spring.
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