Mexico weekly ledger., 1878-06-20
Welded LIFE.
ADVICE TO A NEwLY-MARRIED MAN
FROM AN EXPERIENCED BENEDICT.
1t is to be or

FRIEND --: 1t is to be pre-
sumed that you have chosen a wifi
after mature reflection and not alone
from selfish impulses. Nevertheless
do not imagine that you can possibly
have foreseen all the duties, respon
sibilities, and ever trials to which
married life may render you liable
In your intimate relationship ant
companionship you and your wife
will appear to each other in an en-
tirely new light. You will find de-
fects in her, and she in you, which
a only be properly met by one
course, and that is, mutual concllia-
ton. Strive to see which can exer-
else the greatest lenieney toward the
other The secret of happiness in
married life is mutual confidence.
Trust one another. Have no secrets
from one another. By all means,
never call in a third party to inter
fere in any way in any family jars.
You will be more than human if you
and your wife can always perfectly
agree but when you cannot prevent
differences, you can prevent any evil
consequences arising from them. II
you have any trouble keep it to your
self and wife. Compromise will Sc
cure you undoubted happiness. BY
all means never allow a quarrel to
last over night. There is mischief
in breeding and pouting. Don't be
ashamed by yielding when you are in
the right. There is no sacrifice Oh
self-denial in yielding only when you
are in the wrong. You must consult
your wife's whims and caprices, as
well as her reasonable desires. Man
kind is generally gouerned by the
passions, not by the reason. There
is no excus for trampling upon 8
wife's desires because you think them
unreasonable. Women have at times
the privilege of being unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are
offensive to your wife; or, if you can
not avoid then altogether, avoid
them in her presence. Keep clear Of
your wife's relations, and have her
keep clear of yours, in all business
matters if possible. II either of you
should form antipathies to the rela-
lions of the other, those antipathies
must be consulted, and if not re-
moved must be respected, or else
your family jars will be numerous
and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with
systematic frugality. Devote a spe-
ciic proportion of your income to the
future of your family. Your savings
will in this way augment almost i'm.
perceptibly, and place you above
asking favors.
Live within your means and nobody
viii know how much you have ahead
but the moment you borrow a cent
people know how poor you are.
Go it while you are young. The
duties of q house and family will
come soon enough. Take it easy
while you may in your married life.
Be patient and wait and watch and
pray. just previous to the birth OF
your first child you will possibly find
your wife f%retful, cross, peevish,
pouty and troublesome, just as many
good, kind, amiable and loving wo-
men have been before her. If such
should be the case, dent get mad,
don't expostulate, don't rebuke or
reproach her. The best thing you
q do is to grin and bear it, The
first smile of the baby will stop it and
more than pay for all you have en-
dured. rgts
Don't think yourself immaculate
and set yourself up rs q pattern for
your wife. IT she wants to go to
church and YOU don't remember that
it may not do you any harm to go to
church. Don't scold your wife and
don't beat your children, if you have
any. Teach your children by exam
pie. Be a copy for them. Excuse
them for such or your faults as they