Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1878-08-24
TnE Sc UREr OF PLEASING.

"A man will please more by never Of
Tending than by giving great deal of
delight" In this remark of Doctor John.
sons. says writer in Lippinco,t's, lies the
art OF being agreeable. But nothing is
more difficult than to avoid offending
Most people are offended by trifles. For
instance. persons generally take umbrage
at superior brilliance of conversation.
1.-THE man who talks tor fame will never
please" Even he who talks to unburden
his mind will please only some old and soil
tary friend. Large experience and great
learning. however quietly carried, are
very offensive 10 those who have them not
Clever things cannot be said unobtrusively
enough. A person SO brilliant a. 10 make
others feel that his efforts are above theirs
will be d, tested. Moreover. one OF the
difficulties of being agreeable is that the
small hope OF pleasing destroys all captiva-
ton Of manner. The confident expects-
ton of pleasing is an intalible means If
pleasing. Characters pleased with them
selves please others, for they are joyous
and natural in mein. and are at liberty
from thinking OF themselves to pay sue
cessful attention 10 others. Still, the
self-conceited and the Dragging are never
attractive, self being the topic on which all
are fluent and none interesting. They
who dwell on self in any way-the self de-
niers, the self inprovers-are hateful TO
the heart of civilized man. The Chinese,
who know everything before hand. are per-
feet In selfabnegation of manner. How
are your noble and princely son and your
beautiful AID angelic daughter says
Mandarin Number One. DOG of son
have none. but my cat of daughter is
WELL" says Mandarin Number Two.
To set up for an invariably agreeable
person you must adjust yourself to the
pecuIiarities OF Others. You must talk of
books to book worms; you must be musi-
cal with musicians, scientific with sayants.
Furthermore, you have to make believe
all the time that you are enjoying yourself.
The belle Is lady who has an air of en-
joying herself with whomsover she talks
We like those who seem to delight in our
company. You must not overdo it. and
thus make yourself suspected of acting ;
but do not imagine that you will please
without trying. Those who are careless
OF pleasing are never popular. Those
who do not care how they look invariably
look ugly. You will never please with
out doing all these things and more.
What Pecksniilian business il is to 90
into! Who wants TO refrain IRON smart
spiteful sayings when he happens to think
OF them, TO aDjure laughing at friends and
ridiculing enemies, TO renounce the tart
rebuff. tho keen riposte? Amazing that
any succeed and many do. There are
some gentlemen who are ent rely agree
able" gentlemen all through" like
Robert Moore in "Shrley." They have
order. neatness. dellcacy Of movement,
reticence, incuriosity; their unaffected
English has almost The charm of mus-
cal composition. They are generally men
whose mothers well nagged them when
they were small with perpetual adjura-
tons: Do not bang the door," stop
kicking your feet" stop clinking your
plate with your fork" and so on.
In some inscru,able way, young girls
often attain thorough agreeableness. Look
at lazy little Jane: she has acquired the
who used to be such an angular and hur-
ried little girl she is all quips and cranks
and wrealhed smiles now. Aud meek,
Undetermined Martha. in former days so
difident, blushing and tacituln. has found
out the value OF deierential demeanor
and the knack of being a good listener,
and can sing ballad with pathos and
dramatic effect that eclipse the hghly-em-
belished performances OF other girls.
Ladies who make profession OF pleas
ing become irresstibly allurng. Actress
es have abundant nair, fine teeth. all phys.
ical beauty, because they train themselves
to beauty, though not originally better en-
lowed than most others. Actresses vol
ces are set habilns!ly. not in complaining,
whining, creaking or vociterating KEYS,
but 10 chest-tones clear and calm in quail.
ty. Actresses do not grow old, partly in
consequence OF their constant attention 10
the toilette, patty in consequence of the
fact that they have hope and ambition and
enough occupation and enough rest, and
do not worry over trfles.
To remain young is one of the difficult
ties OF being agreeable. Whoever does
SO is obliged to adopt the Aristoteliau
maxim OF moderation. Piacidly OF tenn
per is necessary to the clear-pencled eye.
brow and the magnolia complexion
Frowns. weeping. excitement. despair and
laughter wrinkle the face. Nature keep.
women's forms Well rounded to extreme
Old age, and their faces remain agreeable
when they take the trouble to keep them
30. The brow, the fair front. need never
be furrowed. OF all we meet in the street,
very lew have tranquil, undistorted faces
the old are screwed out of shape, the
young are going 10 be SO. A we'll. pre-.
served beauty is one who neither pucker.
her face into wrinkles nor mauls it with
her hands; she never buries her knuckles
in cheeks, nor rests cheek on palm or chin
on hand. nor folds her fngers around hel
forehead while reading. nor rubs her Gar
gent.fdded eyes" She wells her face
from the wind; she does not work with
uncovered neck and arms therefore they
90 not become tawny. She avoids i'm
moderate toll. which makes the hair to
iail The features sharp. the skin cammy
and yellow. She avoids immoderale laz
mess, as causing obesity and greas J
complexion OF pallor, lassitude aud los.
OF vitality. Such are the difficulties OF
being aureeable