The Sedalia weekly bazoo. [volume] (Sedalia, Mo.) 187?-1904, 1878-04-30

How to Live Well and Die Happy.

Il HIND Al Is u oe presumed that
you have chosen wife after mature reflec
ton, and not alone from selfish impulses.
Nevertheless, do not imagine that you can
possibly have foreseen all the duties, re-
sponsibili,ies, and even trials to which mar.
ried life may render you liable. In your
intimate relationship and companionship
you and your vile will appear to each
other in an entirely new light You will
lind defects in her, and she in you, which
can only be properly met by one course.
and that is, mutual Cancellation. Strive to
. see which can exercise the greatest leniency
toward each other. The secret Of happi-
ness in married life il mutual confidence
Trust ore another. Have no secrets from
one another. By all means, never call in
4 third party to interfere in any way in
any family jars. You will be more than
human If you and your wife can always
perfectly agree, but, while you canno. pre-
vent differences, you can prevent any evil
consequences arising from them. Ii you
have trouble kept to yourself and wife.
Compromise will secure you undoubted
happiness. BY all means never allow a
quarrel to last over night. There is mis-
chief in brooding and poutin.. Don't be
ashamed Of yielding when you are sure you
are not in the right. There il no sacrifice
or self-denial in yielding only when you are
in the wrong. You must consult your
wifes whims and caprices rs we'll as her
reasonable desires. Mankind il generally
governed by the passions net by the reason.
There is no excuse for trampling upon
wife's desires because you think them I'M
reasonable. Women have at times the
privilege Of being unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are often
sive to your wife; or, if you cannot avoid
them altogether, avoid them in her pres
ence. Keep clear of your wife's relations,
and have her keep clear Of yours, in al!
business matters if possible. III either Of
you should form antipathies to the rela-
tons Of the other, those antipathies must
be consulted, and ii not removed, must be
respected, or else your family jars will be
numerous and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with SYSTEM
attic frugality. Devote a specific proper
ton OF your income to the future of your
family. Your savings will in this way
augment almost imperceptibly, and place
you above asking favors.
Live within your means, and nobody will
know how much you have ahead but the
moment you borrow cent people know
how poor you arc.
Go it while yon are young The duties
of house and family will come soon
enough. Take it easy while you may in
your early married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch and
pray. Just previous to the birth Of your
first child you will possibly find your
wife fretful, cross, peevish. pouty,
and troublesome, just as many good,
kind, amiable, and loving women have
been before her If such should be the case,
don't get mad, don't expostulate, don't re-
buke or reproach her. The best thing you
you can do is to grin and bear it. The
first smile Of the baby will top it and pay
for all you have endured.
Don't think yourself immaculate and set
yourself up n pattern for your wife. If
she wants to go to church and you don't,
remember that it may not do you any harm
to 60 to church. Don't scold your wife and
don't heat your children, if you have any.
Teach your children by example. Be q
copy for them. Excuse them for such of
your faults as they inherit. Don't be-
qneath them hasty temper and then whip
them for it. Don't gossip before them and
then punish them for sossiping. Dent pre-
vent them from romping or having minds
Of their own. Don't brighten them with
ghost stories. Don't lie to them. Don't
neglect to give them anything yon promise
them - even punishment. Don't forget
that you were child once, and do as you
have had others do to you.
Don't get crazy If you have few but
tons Of your shirts. Remember all the
time that you are q poor, weak mortal,
liable to err, and in all probability no more
perfect than your wife.
Battle often, look after your health, and
never 20 home drunk. Yours,
JOHN.