The Hickman courier. [volume] (Hickman, Ky.) 1859-current, 1878-05-10
Welded LIFE.
Advice to Newly Marrisd Mar iror an =.
pcrieneed Behesrs,

Advice to Newly Marrisd Mar iroc an =,
!. pcrieneed BeNess.
! Friend -! 1t is to be presumed
that you have chosen wife after mature
reflection, and not alone from selfish i'm
pulses. Nevertheless, do not imagine
that you can possibly have foreseen all
the duties, responsibilities, and even trials
to which married life may render You
liable. In your intimate relationship
and companionship you and your wih
will appear to each other in an entirely
new light. You will find defects in her
and she in you, which can only he pro,
| perly net by one course, and that Is
mutual concilistion. Strive TO see which
ean exeyeise tlEe greatsst lenieneS .te4Fsri
! each other. The secret OF happiness in
married lite is mutual confidence Trust
one another. Have no secrets from
one another. By all means, never
call in a third party to interfere
in any way in any family jars. You will
be more than human if you and your
vile can always perfectly agree; but,
| while you cannot prevent differences,
you can prevent evil consequences arising
/ fH&m them. If you have trouble, keep it
d! to Yourself and wife. Compromise will
secur& you undoubted happiness By all
means never allow quarrel to last over
nighs. Mere is mischief in brooding
and poutiNg. Don't be ashamed OF
yielding when you are sure yo,, are in
the right. Th&Te is no sacrifice or self
denial in y eldinG only when you are in
the wrong. You\ must consult y,ur
wife's whims and capZices as well as her
reasonable desires. Mankind is generally
governed by the passions; not by the
reason. There is no excuse for trampling
upon q wife's desire, because you think
them unreasonable. Women have ut
times the privilege of being unreasonable
Avoid personal habits which are often
sive to your wife; or, if you cannot
avoid them altogether, avoid them IN
her presence. Keep clear of your wiie's>
relations, and have her keep clear
of yours, in all business matters if pos
sible. If either of you should form
antipathies to the relations of the other,
these antipathies must be consulted, and
if not removed, must he respected, or
else your family jars will be numerous
and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with sys-
tematic frugality. Devote a specific
proportion of your income to the future
of your family. Your savings will in
this way augment almest impercept-
ibly, and place you above asking favors
Live within your means, and nobody
will know how much you have ahead;
but the moment you borrow a cent,
people know how poor you are.
Go it while you are young. The duties
of house and family will come soon /
enough. Take it easy while you may in .
your early married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch, and +
pray. Just previous to the birth of your
first child you will probably find your
wife fretful, cross, peevish, poutY, and
troublesome, just as many good, kind, I
amisble and loving women have been
before her. If such should be the case,
don't get mad, don't expostulate, don't
rebuke or reproach her. The best thing
you can do is to grin and bear it. The
first smile of the baby will stop it and
pay for all you have endured
Don't think yourself immaculate and
set yourself up as a pattern for your
wife. If she wants to go to church and
you don't, remember that it may not do
you any harm to 60 to church. Don't
scold your wife and don't beat your chill
dren, if you have any. Teach your chill
dren by example. Be a copy for them.
Excuse them for such OF your faults as
they inherit. Don't bequeath them a
hasty temper and then whip them for It,
Don't gossip before them and then punish
them for gossiping. Don't prevent
them from romping or having minds OF
their own. Don't frighten them with
ghost stories. Dent lie TO them. Don't
neglect TO give them any thing you
promise them--even punishment. Don
forget that you were child once, and do
as you would have others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you lave a few but
tons off your shirts. Remember all the
time that you are a poor, weak mortal,
liable to err. and in all probability no
more perfect than your wife
Bathe often, look after your health,
and rever go home drunk. Yours,
JOIN.