The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-09-22
Hnsbands and MiNes.

A sensible man does not need a very long
or a very wide experience Of the world to
teach him the folly Of intcrmcddling i'm the
ordinary quaircls Of husbands and wives.
In those squabblcs the onlcious pcaccmak-
or, however good his intentions. is pretty
sure to Increase the coniugal difficulties,
even II he himself retircs from HE work
with Il whole skin.
Kind friends Of tho unhappy pair will,
therefore, usually consult the dictates OF
prudence Il they let a husband and wife who
have got IN tangle get Themselves out ~
the scrape in the best way they can. Even
pastoral odmonitions are more likely e.
comrlicatc the snarl tnan to restore order
The troubles always vastly increased when
an unmarried man or woman attempts to
set tr..us- 10 rights or To- soften tho aSpcr-
ties Of the situation with the oil Of sym
pathy. An old maid or a gushing young
bachelor is the worst sort Of person 10 inter-
ferc in conIugal spats.
Indeed, anybody be he pastor, deacon,
doctor lawyer, or confidential friend, who
is foolish enough TO open his ears t. the
matrimonial confessions Of his unfortunate
or irritatcd married friends, and who has n
foudncss for the giving Of advice, is bound
to get himself into trouble Sometimes
however, such an intcrmcddlcr will dc some
good, for the cmllttored pair may transfer
to him the auimo,ty which RIFLES thcpcaco
II their home. and grow quite harmonious
again under the influence of common an
tipathy There il no. greater nuisance in
society than one 81 those sympathetic ma
turc- who provoke the condolences of silly
or hy-togical women who enjoy revealing
what BrECHER calls their "truc inwurd-
ness We regret To- say that among these
oycrIowing souls are found many minis
tiers, some of whom have Of late years given
public exhibitions Of their proficiency at tho
business.
Husbands and wives get on well enough
together, with very few exceptions, and,
taking marriages as a whole, the welded
are rs fifty mated rs IL j. practicable for
them to bee under mundane conditions. We
read a good deal about divorces. but in the
circle Of mans acquaintance unless lie
happens to affect the society OF free lovers
aud other people emancipatcd from sense or
deconcy, the cases Of divorce are rare,
Neither is the number of couples who find
metrimony burden and source of sor-
| row Il llIBc one. MhllldSc ld~pN blN illtll'
and sourcd old bachelors othe contrary not
w.thstanding, is the most successful in-titu-
tlon Of human society, and We shall do our
best to encourage it,
But every once in while we get from cor
respondents accounts of their matrimonial
troubles, which show that they are really
badly off in the welded state, and might inn
prove their tompcrs AMI secure moro paacc
OF mind by trying tho effect If period Of
separations If husband and vile cannot,
| by mutual concessions and long forbcalancc,
| by patience with each others innrmitcs Of
! disposition, and especially by trying to let
each othor alone, secure even a moderate
degree Of domestic tranquility; II one OF
the other will persist In destroying the
peace and making Il pRndcmonium Of the
home, the case Of that welded pair is very
bad. They evidently were not made to live
together, and yet for the eaKo Of social
appearances, or out Of regard for their chill,
dren, they may ,eol Obliged TO stay in the
same house, though you might as well tie q
cat to dog Instances of this sort, how
ever, are ordinarily soon over Like
balky and kicking horses, husbands ant
wives who are always on the war Datl