The New Orleans daily Democrat. [volume] (New Orleans, La.) 1877-1880, 1878-04-14
FALLING in LOVE.
EFFECTS OF THE TENDER
PASSION.


EFFECTS OF THE TENDER
PASSION.
Saturday Keviewj
Among the events which people are agreed
In regarding as hopelessy mysterious falling
70 love holds a conspicuous place. When
young woman passes into this condition O
venture to explain the occurrence Broth
ers and sisters view with speechless won
dar the new phenomenon, Even parents
and married friends are considered rash il
they attempt to take matter-of- fact view OF
the case. Personal appearance does not an.
pear to assist one in understanding. the mys-
4 tories Of this process. Married sisters and
aunts habitually look at the event as having
= difference In the wonder Of the person q
i relatives and friends, corresponding with the
dinerence OF their experience The mar
r1ed friend sees nothing astonishing In the
1aGs o. sb ass on1 IN Love Viewed in
particular direction OF the fall In the
present instance. That Is to say she ia
Y ~ a loss to account for her friends par
glcnlar selection. Younger and unmarried
h friends again, especially junior sisters,
regard the whole event with mixture OF Gu,
B I1usity, awe and tender emotion. Very likely
1hey themselves have acquired q kind of re-
nected sentiment toward the hero of the hour.
and thus they are able imaginatively, to view
the situation with some amount OF Intelligent
AsympAthy. The most perfect form of amaze
ment, however, iB exhibited by the unmarried
q male portion Of the happy persons circle Of
u lrienus. MARRIED men may. In view of such
"a m occurrence. be more affected with cynical
q amusement than with wonder but the untried
4 bachelor feels himself completely staggered
py the spectacle. Unlike his young sisters,
Be is not accustomed to an imaginative CON
II AtrnCtlOn Of the occurrence, and when the mis-
Il gni0youS Cupid wills that his brother or chum
SHALL undergo this mental metam orphoss. he
9p1es into impotent bewiiderment. The sight
81 his former companion at the club or the
Ineatre precipitated into condition of seryile
dev0tion to what appears to him an ordinary
y pretty woman fills him with blank astonish-
ment II he is of O reverent turn OF mind. he
may possibly experience a thrill of awe In
4 presence 81 secret which ne has not yet been
permitted TO fathom. More probably, how
1 even, ne will regard the event as the result of
Il temporary mental alteration. Only in this
ny will he be able to fit 1t into his conception
SOk the order OF the world
While the experience of falling In love Is
mus regarded with wonder ab extra it Is ant
20 excite scarcely less degree OF this emo
4 lion Ia those who are its conscious subjects
A;kne practical young man who has just passed
RfhrUugh this novel mental condition probably
reviews the process with considerable aston
lanment. He Is quite at loss to understand
NOW 1t happened. He feels himself entangled |
"a the soft silken meshes, yet he cannot ex-
pam 20 himself how he came into the sit
EaH, ne will probably hold that he was coerced |
Ehy some supernatural force, or, to express it |
|!n his own plain English, that he Couldn't
help y. Very different Is the feeling enter
young woman. All her early training and |
habits have prepared her to veil the expert |
&anoe Of falling In love Ia an impenetrable OBJ |
<5euTity. She has for years looked to this hour
a sense OF the mystery pervading the
Subject has given perhaps certain
%1midity TO her bearing. And when the
Hlmly anticipated occurrence actually takes
elace she is placed In an almost overwhelm-
ng sense OF It's profound mystery. A con-
&0lOusness OF being the subject Of something
like o supernatural influence gives her a new
&ense of dignity. She feels herself raised by
ne unreasonable interval above the crowd Of
mortals. The feeling Of hav-
ING been called to undergo so rare aud strange
sM experience Is apt to prompt Inconvenience
8smands upon others. The favored person
&atnrally thinks that the attainment of SO
mysterious knowledge entities her to new
Rind Of respect with its accompanying ser
Ices.
Though the process of falling In love Is thus
Med IN mist OF romance, more especially
me female mind. traces Of more matter
Tact conception OF the subject are not want
HUI. Even the most enthusiastic believer in
sacred charm which encircles this section
Hxhuman life Is apt to betray at times GER
q amount OF ordinary common sense in re-
III teens who romances on this theme shows
u Arly enough that she is familiar with some
Il he natural conditions Of the experience.
knows, for example, that there are certain
lmstances peculiarly favorable to falling
i've; and the feeling of awe with which she
Dmarily regards the possibilityin her own
grows into visible fiutter of excitement
IA she is packing up for her annual visit
Atvn during the season, or for her sum-
a "trip to the seaside. So, too, she Is able
E eak with considerable minuteness before
IA las to the qualifications OF the particular
IA who is to be the instrument Of bring [
9Out the miraculous event in her own '
ould be interesting to know what part {
ocess of falling in love is destined to /
the future history of mankind. A re- |
the past development of the custom, I
1mitive times to our own enlightened
ggeStS the reflection that it has tended q
VIZ me a slower and more conscious opera
is not many people who now tumble
r. ~ and recklessiy into this condition of
culture, seems to have the effect of
lining the process of falling into one Q
ildiEg. To refer again to Somewhat 7
{&SoRotlS mental experience culture seems =
AXE less frequent both sudden forms of :
ING IN love and sudden conversions And
II change is plainly due in large measure \
ES growth Of volitional force. All falling in =
sis, OF course, the direct effect of an invol- =
Try and emotional impulse; yet negative
III will may perhaps besaid to be involved T
LIE non-repfeSs1on OF this Impulse. AS
s zse advance in intellect and character the ii
dancy Of the will increases, and the am h
E sentiment is only allowed to attach it. n
III an object very slowly and after the
#zst critical investigation. 1t Is necessary n
yopt the ultra prosaic supposition that
III selection will ever become purely n
ntary action. 1t Is commonly said that Ii
S and more and more persons now 10
81 for definite objects, such as wealth. r
Il position or domestic adornments yet
ornal mode OF selection is still held to
be the play OF an instructive emotion as r
What the higher culture seems to do Ii
! and above STRENGTHENING the controll- CT
bower OF viii, Is to make this emotion 0,