The herald and mail. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 1873-188?, 1878-07-12
woNEN MAKING LOVE.
Some Suggestive Hints to the Gentle
Sex.
New York Sun.

Many young women write to us,
asking for instructions as to how they
shall win men for whom they have
conceived an affection, but who show
no responsive feeling CharlatanS sell
love powders To such enamored maid
ems, under the pretense that if they
give them SurrcptitiOusly to the blind
or Indifferent objects of their regard,
the attachment they feel will bc re-
ciprOcated. But no powders ever
made were able to kindle love in the
breast of a man. Only the charms,
graces and virtues of a lovable woman
can start that flame, which, once it
blazes forth, is apt to be a consuming
fire.
There is, indeed, very little for a
girl to do who has fallen i'm love with
man who is unaware of the warmth
of her feelings toward HIM, or care
less as to whether they are warm or
cold. She is foolish if she thrusts her~
self on him, and she makes a mistake
if she does not let him have the initia-
tive in the formal courtship; though
it is entirely proper and consistent
with the feminine nature for her to
attract him to her by modest arts, for
philosophers say that women are the
their dignity may demand that they
shall be courted, yet Oftentimes the
prize has been won before it has been
really sought.
Such is the case of a Western girl, ,
who thus writes us:
"Sir: ] am an old maid - yEars old
am tailOress by trade, and if = he
lieve everything that is toll. me ] am
very pretty.
NOW, sir, as you give such good
advice To everybody that writes to
you, have come to the conclusion
that | will write To you in the time of
trouble, as | prefer your advice to that
at any friend | have in the world.
al never had proposal i'm my life
L am Obliged to own. There is young
man in this neighborhood whom /
love with all my heart, but he never
pays me the least attention, nor seems
TO care cent for me. l have asked
him great many times to take me
home from meeting bees and quilting,
but he always finds some excuse not
to. don't know whattO do about it.
How can l make myself attractive to
him and make him propose, for if l
don't marry this young man my heart
will break. | could not live without
him.
IA friend of mine said that ought
not to ask him to take me home. Isn't
that proper? And tell me what other
young ladies do when they set their
hearts on any young man. wrote
him letter once, and told him what
/ thought Of him, but he never an
swered il. Please advise me what to
to do. A WESTERN GIRL"
You do wrong in making such adj
vances to the fellow, for by so doing
you stir up his vanity and give him
the idea that you are throwing your
self at his head. Never do that open
ly, though many adroit girls, fuller of
arts than you, evidently, do success
fully make love to men without their
object being understood. Widows,
however, are greater adopts at the bu-
siness than maidens.
Let him be the one to propose his
escort home from the bees and quilt.
ings, and not you. a woman is put
in very mOrtifyiny position when
she asks u fellow to give her his COM
pany and he refuses her what he
ought to esteem a privilege. All you
can do is to make yourselfas agreeable
as possible to him, and wait for the
result. You will never win him by
sending him love letters for which he
does not ask. On the contrary, if
you continue to ito so, he will be like
ly to regard you as an infatuated and
Troublesome old maid, i'm desperate
straits to get married. The girls who
succeed III obtaining proposals for
marriage are usually the ones who are
surprised when they come; or at least
they pretend to be surprised,