The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1878-09-19
HOME LIFE.
A Little plain Talk to both of the Sexes
BY MRS. W. R. oUA1Ls.

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thought proper to appoint me to enter
tain you; for brief space of time on this
occasion, I shall epdeayor to do so, not
fselip g9that can either entertain or in
strE.e, yet as member of this Grange
I shall shrink from no task assigned me.
Not being thoroughly initiated into the
duties of farm life, I have thought proper
to speak of our duties in home life.
Home is woman's sphere, and it is
4 considered her most suitable place, there
fore it deyolves on us to contribute in no
small degree to its happiness. Here is
the place of confidence we should
pour out the unreserved communications
of our con6ding hearts. Everything
should be done quietly aud systematical-
ly, and with an intent to produce happi-
ness. Let q man travel where he will, if
be has kind wife aud pleasant home,
his untrayeled heart Will fondly turn
towards it, and he will await with almost
impatience the pleasant hour that will
restore him to his home and loved ones.
a happy home is the only place of rest
which man has on earth for the cultiva-
ton of his noblest sens;bilities; there
fore. ne should spare no pains to render
ita pleasant place. Cheerfulness is'one
os the essential elements of true happi-
ness. Let our husbands return home at
might after the arduous duties of the day
tired and a little cross, and find every
thing ready for his reception, good
cooked and we'll arranged supper, with
every dish and spoon in its place, the
children with clean faces, all ready to
take their respective places at the table
when called, and, 10 fact everything in
itl proper place, what an air of pleasing
cheerfnlness will petyade the house, as
vol as the breasts of all, and he will be
ashamed to appear cross even if he felt
it. While, on the other hand, on his
return at noon or evening, let him find
the water-bucket empty, the house un-
swept, With the broom and various other
articles lying in the floor, the children
crying, the wife out of humor, and every
Z thing In q stir to get the meal ready in
time, and nothing in its proper place-a
dinh OF two gets. broken, one of the chill
dien boxed, the dog gets kicked out OF
the door, and add his howls to the chill
dren's medley, who could blame him for
feeling just q little cross7 And not only
would it cause him to feel unpleasant,
but it would affect the peace and harmo-
ny Of .he entire family. !, y 49,, =
Life is in q great degree Just what We
make it. You can take any joy, and by
turning is around find trouble on the
other side. So let us endeayor always to
look on the bright side of life, remem-
bering athat every cloud has it's silver
lining NY experience has been that
I've been most happy when contributing
to the happiness of Others. A. strict OBJ
servance of the golden rule, and the ad-
vice given BY our worthy Chaplain at
our initiation, will add no little to cur
pleasure. We are naturally, generally
speaking, more cheerful than the sterner
sex, If our husbands are low-spirited
: let US endeapor to cheer them, and !
!, think there is no better way than to
make home a cheerful and happy place.
It tis!said that "woman alone was formed
to bless the heart of man; to, soothe his
breast when, keen distress has lodged his
poisoned arrow there"
We should also strive to make home a
pleasant place for our children. Much
more, in my opinion, devolyes upon the
mother in, training children than the
father. She is with them all the while,
whenfhes is, often away. The character
of the man and woman is formed in the
little, boy -or;girl. A. tree may receive its
impress whensas mere twig a few inches
high When 8 cion is intended for 8
fruit tree the nurseryman takes. great
careito force it into an upright posture
trains. and trims it very carefully so that
twill be symmetrical in its appearance
How much greater should be our vigi'
lance and. endeayors to guide Alright the
tender and formation state of principles
sentiments and habits which make uI
the sum of human life, and fix destiny
for.ali life to come. The natural love ano
respect felt by every child towards it
mother, the feeling of dependence, the
entire confidence realized, gives to the
mother an influence over the child more
potent than all the world beside. These
powers and influences bring with then
untold responsibility. We must be wha
we desire our children to be; do onl!
whaewe are willing for them to do, ant
usn only language such as we willing
for them to use. Our lives are th
moulds in which their characters ar
cast. Impressions are made on thei
minds in youth around the freside tho
neither change nor time can eradicate
Then, we must make their surrounding
pleasant; early inculcate in them Low
for books which will improve their minds
IF we encourage them to read or stud.
history, philosophy and the sciences, the
will never have taste for novels tha
teach no moral lesson, but serve only .
interest and amuse for the time. Let u
take the advice given us when initiates
4 into the Grange; let us adorn our rura
homes with fruits and flowers, thereb
making it not only place OF labor, bu
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