The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1878-10-22
WHAT mosT WOMEN NEED.
some Of the Causes OF Their BAD Manage.
ment and Worse Manner.

WHAT MOSTWOMEN NEED.
some Of the Causes OF Their had Manage.
ment and Worse Manner.
From the Nsv York Nation
What most women need next after
health and power Of acquisition, and the
confidence which springs from having &C
quired something, Is tolerable amount
OF administrative capaclty.-Housekeep.
ing Is a tolerable amount Of administra-
tive capacity. Housekeeping is admins
tration on small scale. 1t includes the
faculty OF getting the most for ones mon
ey, and managing servants and children.
II /. were likely to be mans vocation to
the extent to which 1t Is likely TO be wo'
mans he would undoubtedly beprepared
for 1t by some sort Of apprenticeship.
He would have to learn in some snbordi-
aate capacity the proper mode of buying
and preparing food, and Of procuring and
taking care OF furniture and clothing, and
Of ruling servants. He would be trained
TO receive company by some experience
OF the art OF entertaining both In Its ma.
terial and esthetic aspect. No one would
ever guess, however, from an inspection
OF an average school course, that q girl
was 10 be the head OF that most complex
result Capitalization, modern household,
with It's thousand duties, responsibilities
and relations. No one would ever suppose
that the very end and aim OF q nation ex-
istence, the main use OF It's armies and ma
yies and commerce, and police, and man
ufactures, and inventions, was the multi
plication OF well.ordered parlors with ag::
reeable and efficient women in them, and
vet this Is strictly true. All our toiling and
lighting, and producing ends in this.
When man has set up happy home he
feels, and the whole community agrees
with him, that the best work OF his LIE Is
done.
tits not only good administration, how,
ever, In the ordinary sense OF buying ana
managing and enforcing discipline, that
women are expected to contribute to 1t.
They are expected to make 1t attractive to
the outside world by good manners, and,
In fact, are expected, by their cultivation
OF manners, TO restrain or counteract the
tendency 10 brutality and coarseness
among men, which seems an inseperable
accompaniment OF the regime OF compe-
tition. The foundation OF good manners
Is undoubtedly tact and quick sympathy,
and these cannot BIO implanted by any d.
dactic process; but great deal can, new
ertheless, be done ct school to aid in the
formation OF manners. For example there
il no such hindrance to good manners as
business and pretense-that is, an uncontrol
liable and restless desire to produce the i'm.
preston that you are something other IL
not better, than your natural self. a..
Now, business and protense, the alb.
sence OF modest stiffness and humility,
are all over the country the curse OF girls
schools. The evil reaches its last limits In
the city high schools; o street-car full OF
the older girls OF one OF these institutions,
eager for the notice OF the passengers, talk
ing in loud "hollerin" voices, confident to
the last degree in the power OF their own
attractiyeness, ignorant OF what reserve
means, and anxious that every word they
saw should be heard by everybody within
ten rods, is perhaps as disheartening a
spectacle OF the kind as our civilization
presents, because 1t indicates training
from the boat seats Of education we
have. But the root OF the evil as well rs
the evil itself is to DO found in large num-
Der OF our girls schools The daily at
tempt in which so many OF them are en-
gagged TO cover ground that cannot be COW
cred to make show OF instruction which
cannot be given, and which has no real
adaptation 10 the practical needs OF life,
which every girl secretly intends to forget
as soon rs she is married, naturally creates
an atmosphere OF sham in which good
manners cannot grow, or can only grow in
rare natures. No woman's manners are
so good II she Is not simple, and she can
not be simple after passing some OF her
best years in trying to impose on people
az the professor Of accomplishments
which she really does not possess.
One OF the commonest defects OF wo-
mans domestic character is, as regards
women in moderate circumstances, q false
shame about their mode Of life. Not one
OF them in a hundred has been prepared
by training to meet anything in the shape
Of an unexpected visit or Intrusion with
cheerful courtesy, or even calm iortitude.
On the contrary, the school influence, in
nine cases out ten, has helped to give to
the discovery by stranger that they do
not always dress and eat as they seem to
do on gala days, the air Of calamity which
the strongest natures cannot be expected
to resist. Tho result has been, both in
the United States and In England, almost
to cxtinguish simple and informal hospita-
lily. An average woman, among plain
people, Ia crushed by q friend dropping
Unexpectedly In TO meal and sits at the
table in silent and flushed pain, whereas
her education ought to have prepared her
to meet such crisis with smiling front, II
not with positive enjoyment. Part OF the
drill Of every school ought to be the re-
ception by wife in an old gown, TO din
ner OF corned beef and cabbage, .ofan un-
looked.for guest, thoughtlessly brought
home by reckless husband.