St. Landry democrat. (Opelousas, La.) 1878-1894, 1878-05-11
Welded Life.
ADVICE TO A NEWLY MARRIED
MAN FROM AN EEPE-
RIENCED BENE-
From the New York Sun.


| [From the New York Sun.
t FRIEND -: 1t is to be presumed
that You have chosen wife after ma
: ture reflection, and not alone from sell
y fish Impulses. Nevertheless, do not
: imagine that you can possibly have
foreseen all the duties, responsibilities
and even trials to which married life
may render you liable. In your iEti
mate relationship and companionshiI
. you and your wife will appear to teach
t other In an entirely new LIGHT. You
will find defects in her, and sle in you
which can only be properly met by one
course, and that is, mutual Cancellation.
Strive to, see which can exercise the
, greatest S, leniency toward each other.
The secret OF happiness in married life
is mutual confidence. Trust one
another. Have no secrets from one
another. BY all means, never call in a
third party to interfere in any way in
any family jars. You will be more
than human if you and your wife can
always perfectly agree, but, while you
cannot prevent differences, you can pre-
vent any evil consequences arising from
them. IT you have trouble keep it to
yourself and wife. Compromise will
secure you undoubted happiness. By all
means never allow a quarrel to last
over night. There is mischief in brood
ing and pouting. Don't be ashamed of
yielding when you are sure you are in
the ri ght. There is no sacrifice or self
denial in yielding only when you are in
the wrong. You must consult your
wife's whims and caprices as well as
| her reasonable desires Mankind is
generally governed by the passions
not by the reason. There is no excuse
for trampling upon wifes desires be-
cause you think them unreasonable.
| Women have at times the privilege of
being unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are
offensive to your wife or, if you can
not avoid them altogether, avoid them
| wife's relations, and have her keep
clear of yours, in all business matters
if possible. If either of you should
form antipathies to the relations OF the
other, those antipathieS must be con-
suited, and it not removed. must be
respected, or else your family jars will
be numerous and irrecuncilable.
Let your married life begin with sys-
tematic fraugality. Devote a specific
proportion of your income to the future
of your family. Year savings will in
this way augment almost imperceptibly,
and place you above asking favors.
Live within your means, and nobody
will know how much you have ahead !: !
but the moment yon borrow cent peo
pie know how poor you are. |
Got it while YOU are young. The du- |
ties of house and family come soon |
enough. Take it easy while you may |
in your early married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch and
pray. just previous to the birth Of
your first child you will possibly find
your wife fretful, cross, peevish, pouty,
and troublesome, just as many good,
kind, amiable, and loving women have
been before her, # such should be the
case, don't get mad don It expostulate,
don't rebuke or reproach her. The best
thing you can do is to grin and bear it.
The first sruile Of the baby will stop it
and pay for all you have endured.
Don't think yourself immaculate and
set yourself up as a pattern for your
wife. If she wants to go to church and
You don't, remember that it may not do
you any harm to go to church. Don't
scold your wife, and don't beat your
children, if you have any, Teach your
children by example. Be a copy for
them. Excuse them for such of your
falts as they inherit. Don't bequeath
them a hasty temper and then whip
them for it. Don't gossip before them
and punish them for gossipping. Don't
prevent them from romping or having
minds Of their own. Don't frighten
them with ghost stories. Don't lie to
them. Don't neglect to give them any
thing you promise them-even punish
ment. Don't forget that you were a
child once, and do as you would have
had others do to you.
Don't get crazy il you have few |
buttons off your shirts. Remember all I
the time that you are a poor, weak NOR I
tai, liable to err, and in all probability {
no more perfect than your wife.
Battle often, look after your health,
and never go home drunk.
Yours. JOHN. t
Stolen money takes wings. The fate 7
If the fortunes accumulated by Tweed =
and Brigham Young may, perhaps, !
each this moral. Tweed, leaves, so
lis secretary asserts, fortune of $4,000, !
lot one-thirtieth of the amount that he !
when he gave up an honest = =
ife to become a public plunderer. Brig
lam was more fortunate; he, at least, /
lung on to the money that he stole Il
rom the Mormon Church until his
leath. He fondly believed when be .
lied that he left his large family Well
provided for. It has turned out quite
he opposite. The Mormon Church has =
,een investigating its books, and finds,
the fact that Brigham
efused to keep any accounts between
imself and the Church, SO as better to n n
rey on it, that the estate Of the dead n
Prophet is indebted to the Church of tt
he Latter Day Saints for ever 81 100000,
eing it's full value. Moreover, the
rustees of the estate have been re-
giously bulldozed by the MormOns,
nd have made preparations to surren-
er all the old mans property at once.
he Young children are fighting this
roposed plan as best they can; but G
here seems to be but little hope for G
hem. After Brigham's estate has paid F
Or the old mans peculations, the chill J,
rem will have scarcely $4,000 left to Z
iyide between them, and as there are -
ONE thirty or forty of them, there will l.
OF be much left to each child.
Here, at least, are two stolen fortunes
nat have taken wings and flown away.
WHERE RELIGION FAILED IN THE
[oUR OF NEED.--At night old Gumbo
Tas accustomed to retire to his lonely
abin to light his tallow candle and pore ~
yer a dog-eared, dilapidated Bible. g g
nd, as he read, he would q. ~ brief in, b.
rivals s.,ss.use ana devoutly exclaim with
sarful, appraised eyes: "1Oh! cum the al
God angel of the Lor' an take poor E
Jumbo home to rest" It happened of b,
dark night, when by the light of his u
alloW dip he was intently studying his IL
ible, there came three solemn, meas
red raps on the Cabin door. Gumbo III
card and grew pale with fear, and i'm ~
lediately, with spasmodic jerk, blew al al
ut the light and demanded to know hs