Smyrna times., 1878-02-13
VOLUME XXIII.---NO. sc.

Hs "oulu rather marry his dauOhter IN
man without an estate than to an estate with
out a man. Must we not admit that tbes.
pagans of ancient Greece wore y;sor th,r
many so-called Christian parent who !.
ready 10 sacrifice his daughter on the alta,
OF Mammon, and who gives little thought
10 the man, provided the estate is secured
1t has been satirically said that
Maidens, like the moths are ever caught with oloro
despair
D"V though human woman, under the
present system of unjust discrimination
between her and man in the distribution
OF the rewards of industry, is more fire.
quently necessitous, as we'll as less ouali
ned to struggle with adversely, and more
conhdlng In her nature, and therefore
under stronger temptations to accent the
money in place of heart, yet the stronger
sex Is scarcely less addicted to rnercenorv
designs in marriage. Fortune.huntinc is
not confined to one sex, but it is pursued
by equal zest by both, each eager for
good match-in other words qood Jaroa;n
But Is it good bargain after all? Yon
may have obtained large pile Of gold, but
Is II an adequate price for "A free.born spirit
-tor llte OF love and happiness resigned
and made forever impossible? Mrs. Child
says: never knew marriage exnrassIv
Tor money that did not end unhappilv.
Yet managing mothers and lreartless
daughters are constantly playing the same
unIucky game. | believe that men moro
frequently marry for love than women, be.
cause women think they shall never have a
better chance, and dread to be dependent.
II may judge by my own observation.
marrying fora home is a most tiresome wav Of
getting a living. Prudence will dictate
that marriage should not take place till
there shall be a reasonable prospect of a
comfortable support, but this is not so diff. |
cult to attain as many suppose, and, as a rule. |
need not long delay the happy consumma.
ton, where industry and economy are in.
cited to activity by true love and sustained |
by the hope of future happy home"
There are thousands Of matrimonial al. |
llances in which there is not sufficient |
money on either side to serve as n temnto.
tion' but, which are, nevertheless, mere
contracts OF self interest with which love
has nothing to do. A bachelor, for in.
stance, gets tired of his lonely, dusty apart.
nents, and his dull, unsatisfactory life and
hlnks 1t would be great thing to have
ome one to keep things tidy, to mend his
stockings, to sew buttons on his shirts. and
Keep an eye on his domestic affairs general
y and he looks about for suitable mart.
Ter with just as sharp an eye to business as
he were selecting book.keeper or a
salesman for his shop. Or widower with
family of young children on his hands.
makes up his mind that a wife would he
ess expensive than hired house.k keener
md he sets himself to work to secure one
there IS no great difficulty to find a maiden
oung or old, or a widow who will he clad
exchange the life of paid drudgerv TO
Thlch the poor, unmarried women are sub.
'cted, Tor almost any position which
romlses to secure her a home and the :
of provision for her necessities
o the bargain is closed and the vacant
lace, uninviting as it is, is filled-the one S
arty agreeing to furnish bed and board.
lothes and pin money" and the other !
romising to take care Of the children and h
tend to the dusting and the dinners l.
othing is said about heart. If either "
arty has one, he or she is left in the nm. d
lsputed possession Of it. Such bargain c
lay sometimes prove good one for both n
artles IN a mere commercial point of 81
ew; but oftener it fails, even in that re. Il
'ect, to give satisfaction to either. In anv o
Ise 1t is not marriage in the highest and B
Est sense OF the term, and brings with il Ia
one OF the blessings which welded love st
sures. This is one Of the many forms fl
hich matrimonial traffic assumes, but the al
me false principle underlies them all. In pi
ch it is business transaction, and not pl
non of hearts-the play of Hamlet with m
amlet left out hi
MARRYING FOR BEAUTY.
The poet says: "a thing of beauty is
forever" If this be true, as it is in a -
rtain poetic sense, then a thing of beauty "
a very desirable object to have in ones III
use but pretty face, however pleasant a
look upon, is not always, we are sorry to vi
y, to be relied upon as perennial spring al
happiness. Beauty, or what generally ba
sses for beauty, in the female face, is ne
Ten but feeting charm. Sir Walter WI
leigh, in a letter to his son, very truly pl
IS: Remember that if you marry for te
auty, thou bindest thyself for life to that m
itch will perhaps neither please thee for WI
e year; and when theu hast it, it will be m
thee of no price at ALL" The worship. ti'
RS of pretty faces are mainly of the mas. WI
line gender, though women sometimes WI