The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-10-06

me Tor hor husband aud hat us time said .omeih NJ
hstmy eremsnreS would ot admit Of NV getting
married. having my mother and itie sister dependent
can without giving offence. break ny our Acquaintance
ship which wish for no lonreri am % year. aI 9nd
thosc already IN my care. FAirbrUi.
We have no advice for a fellow In your cit
uaton Why you so acted ma to give the
girl the hopes. II she has them2 She will be
well rid of you.
sra am young man ~ year, Of age, and am keeping
connany win Young lady almost three Years my
am unit for business during the day and am unable TO
soicitn your advice in hi, matter THIS The Young
LADY sat nrssSnt under a. sngssement WIN I've sane ,
cach others company more often than perhaps lovers
Of me lately she acts very inlicrcnt nnd sir
deprived Of such prize. then, sr. my life would be a
Now. IT, do yoq tnink her reason. Tor acting indner
where may chance meet her that passion which /.
pcnt W within my bosom seems 70 burst ,ort ~ all its
l,4 qdi Ny fr'n'" nature Is TOO n'ry ana cannot con
do how shall act so that she win treat me lover,
not as poor ignorant fool that am A. Durur
Doubtless you do damage your chances BY too
much spoonnG. Sensible girls are apt to
regard that as an infection. and they grow tired
OF It and the fellow who INDUCES in such
sentimentallsm. Stick to your work and lenvo
lovemaking to your leisure hours. Yours ia
probably sort OF puppy love. at the best. just
now. but. perhaps. when you get few years
older Il will grow into something else. and then
your sweetheart will receive your protcstntions
Of affection more Rrncousy. But let her alone
when she Is Mt work IL you wish TO keep her
patience from wearing out. and calm down
your head and subdue tho tumult in your
bosom. Likely enough you will be rs badly in
lovo half dozen times again.
Our American girls expect their lovers TO
keep under good discipline. and to control
themselves so rs 10 behave sensibly. n least be-
forc people. and they prefer acts OF dc 'otion to
frenzcd declarations Of H. A calm. attentive.
tondor. solicitous. dutful. and brave demeanor
is thnt which should distinguish lover. 1t is
mistake for him to fly of his balance every time
he sces his sweetheart for sho will grow to re-
gard him in ridiculous light. light under
which love soon fades away in her heart.
sla; have been deeply in lo,c with ayoung man for
Young to Hsrfy we decided 70 Wait an We Were we , Ill.,
Older. '"''''' wv ''''''' " w" W. '''' "'''
Now he says he love, me we'll n. ever" but he
doesn't ne 90 lett good chance pass NJ he IL poor
and viii never marry any one till he can do well by her
He has considerable property now for man ami
says he ever doc. Civ. me up viii be because he
all my heart and don't feel as though ever could love
amy one else am he loves me- but too generous
st considered bad unincky Tor two sisters marry
two bro,hersi ihaye heard so COLORADO
II you are satisfied he has only your welfare
in view in Offering to give you up stick by him
and tell him you are ready TO wait. 1t Is not n
bad sign when young man Is apprcciatvc Of
the responsibilities OF matrimony. though II n
girl really loves him and he loves her he is
foolish 10 break bis engagement with her be-
cause he doesn't happen to have at hand tho
money TO support her. He should rather be
stimulated to harder work to gain the means to
maintain n wife. There is no bad luck in tw1
sisters marrying two brothers.
sn About one year ago boarded in family. where
sngaeed TO another man who li,sd abcu, eisht miles
sy. she Away. liked my ooss also and from tic I'm,
went there my love tor her has been ucreRsns and she
sarcd and she she Is going to s,or me other fellow
eye. tia, minute now WHAT want Y" Nov Of o you "S'
get her. or should quit at onccf
Are you not little afraid that some other fol.
low will como along whose looks she will like
better than yours, and that she will then play
you the same game she has played tho mnn
you have cut out2 The time FOR you to consider
and to ask questions was before you did the
counting not after success had crowned your
efforts. Now you seem TO be in for H. and you
three must settle the matter in the best way you
can. The uckiest Of the party is the old lover
though he may not think 80. Very likcly you
are not nny better looking than he. and perhaps
II we saw You both we should prefer his looks
but you had the advantage Of him In being on
the spot. while no was eight miles away with a
fathless girl to help you along
SIN have been keeping company with n Young TAI,
for about nlnc months She t. Of good family md con
necuons was very fond of her nni ~ her people ana
herself gave me every encouragement know that she
would marty me II asked her. when We mr.; l~cau,
acquainted was rather precipitAic and osi IN
-Nmg her Know that wished our acquaintance last
visited her ~ invitation. AZ her homr Her parent,
e,ciNed me kindly and nv visits continued md
are stll kent mp But am going from the suhe
on when want Your advice. tisH very delicate mat
ter and hope will trnt accordingly some uis
ago 'ound ont that she AFFLICTED with very ii,a.rota
bic and unilcasnnt breath ! say Africi.d la.causa
think tits an affection own that hen onnd nu tn
tact made me very uneasy shudiercd ami could not
speak FOR moment | had to seen the same NJ usual
ani THIS to me wasNrry irving. rs hate hNro.r,v
After eaNing her asked lrNstt What could be Tic
81 H. or II II temporary " rcrlnnuent
ont not the cnue ~ least 70 it, being purhr, W
permanent After taking time hni out am sorry 10
say thnt believe n permanent Now. slr. what would
YOU advise me a. dos am scarcely able 10 decide az
myself have no friend a. whom rnud or would ron
NOE 81 delicate matter, and therefore Nuur advice
Is there any cure for THIS affection disease or what
herself IL not aware ct IT, Would It he well IL ie her
Would you advise me 10 marry herr have known "A
lifelong GOODNESS between man and wife caused b, TIN.
thing | would mn Ike Auv,htng Ike fitaf viii,
mn nor '" Hblr 20 low ana think much ~
alter marriage as before IT. CuNsrANr r. ,ntH,
See doctor about the matter. II YOU thin,
best. and wait for Developments You are
hardly in the mood Of mind to marry her yet.
Only be careful to keep your own breath free
from the fumes OF alcohol and OF tobacco