The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-10-06
GROoMs. BRIDES. AND LOVERS.
Wedding Tours-Mnrrinses Of Roman Cath
oiics and Protestnnts.

In the newspapers is not very largo Just now
We encounter in the streets few happy couples
from tho country on their bridal tours. their
faces radiant with the light Of the honeymoon.
and their eyes more kndlcd 10y tho sight OF one
another than by the contemplation Of the won
ders OF the metropolis; but they are not often
seen. though always detected by the expert
enced observer. Between this time and Christ
mas. however. the number Of these ecstatic
travellers will increase. and whom spring comes
they will HE hither rs surely MS the birds.
The old wedding tour for New Workers. and
for the newly married to the north. south. and
west Of US. who could afford the expense Of the
journey. was to Philadelphia and Washington.
and If the season invited. to Niagara Falls.
famous as the scene Of many a honeymoon.
The travellers moving southwark would put up
Mt the Continental Hotel at Philadelphia. visit
the Mint. Independence Hall. and the few other
notable places in that dull and fat city. stroll
through Chestnut street at nightfnll. and gladly
depart when tho appointed hour came. Reach
ing Washington. the proud husband would
enter the names Of himself and bride on the
register OF Wizards Hotel. and afterward the
two would spend many hours in visiting tho
! Capitol. the White House. the Treasury Depart
ment. the Smithsonian Institution, and In gazing
! at the other sights presented NJ - seat Of Cow
crnmcnt 4 few pairs extended their honey
moon journey to Richmond. where there wero
many interesting things TO be seem but most OF
the bridal tourists were content to visit New
York. Philadelphia. and Wa. hington and after
the lapse Of two or three weeks they re-
turned to their homes 10 settle down like other
people. Nowadays. however. many OF the newly
welded make no tour at all. hut after the cero-
mony and the reception. II they have one. bo-
| take themselves to some quiet country place. or
I at once seek the quarters provided by the groom,
! there 10 remain In comparative seclusion until
such time as they shall choose to emerge into
the gay world. There are also thousands OF
grooms and brides who can spare neither the
time nor the money for n honeymoon Of idle
ness. The parson ties the knot the Witnesses
offer their congratulations. the pair hail street
car and ride 10 their homo. and the next day
the man is again at work. and perhaps the wo-
man. too. resumes her business OF bread earn
ing. May be. after all, these last enjoy their
honeymoon Just NJ well as tho rest. and un-
questionably tho conduct OF many OF them dur
ing II is more sensible.
There werc 1872 marriages reported in New
York during the week ending Sept %. Proba-
| bly, "A good many more took place. for some OF
our min sters are very datOry in the matter OF
tho return Of the weddings at which they
ofncia;e. and Of all our vital statistics those
relating to marriages are the most de-
ncent whilc those Of deaths arc nearly
absolutely perfect. 1t Is n very easy
thing TO get married in this State. and
sometimes men who thought to deceive women
by what thcy fancied was an unbnding cere-
mony. or by pledge which they meant to break
and to be legally justified in disrorarding or by
only an outward seeming OF matrimonial
union. find at length that they are. indeed. as
fast tied in the eve OF the law rs IL IN ordained
minister had oficlated ut the wedding. 1t is
tho theory OF our system TO put as few obstacles
ms possible in the way Of marriage. and. on the
whole. it works well. though occasionally here.
rs elsewhere. people marry in haste to re-
pent at leisure. But no laws men can make
I will insure matrimonial happiness
The best way to bring that about is to take
care that the person you marry is one to whom
YOU are suited and who is adapted TO you. and
then TO behave yourself after the wedding. bear
ing In mind also. that whosocver tries TO havo
all things in his own way Is bound TO be disnp-
pointed. and that other people have rights.
nerves. temper. selnshness. moods. aches and
pains. and frets and worries rs well as you.
But before marriage the hearts OF many people
are torn with anguish because OF fear OF not
reaching the goal Of matrimony Just as after
ward they are irritatcd. perhaps. by not flndn
the end attained so delightful as the chase was
inspiring. We get from our correspondents not
only fonltNSlDuS OF tfOuule IN the WOOlnK. Dut
also cries Of sorrow in tho possession. In nearly
every case. however. their woes are but light
ffiictions. soon healed. or only imaginary ills
conlured up by morbid iancies or an exaggerated
sensitveness. Here is the first question:
ss The object Of my rurr't hearts pure., love lisa
Catholic while persua,on that Of n. rresby,eran.
o. Shn.t Now, under ine careumsianes.-~ YOU know
wed her or not ruH DARK AND BLoopr GEovsD
You write in a cantnG way and the woman
will be wise II she refuses TO marry you under
any circumstances. No Roman Catholic priest
will marry a Catholic to a person Of another
faith without obtaining that persons express
stipulation that the children which may be the
fruit OF the union shall bc brought M ms Catho-
lies. In no event can priest marry Catholic
to an unbaptized person. Knowing the rule do
as you think best about taking your hearts
purest love TO wife but give up writing like a
hypocrite. and try to outgrow the narrow. stupid
prejudice which leads you TO infer that because
a woman is a Roman Catholic she cannot be
bride Of Christ" as you say
Sui am desperatey in love with a young lady and
have every suppose that she returns my
f at h home a %s : h. sss n Sset and "
lns ana some accuse him o murder aud her mother IL
such andy Hcr father ihreaicnci to shoot NE Il /
% nc I mi ca anS am syG YET sS and her
water over my bes hat This young lady also knows
man whom she knows t. be the only and worst enemy
that nave. We are all IN moderate circumstances she
ia taihgs while my family are rroicstants She -
cNfeciingN iofnnl rciasing Ia shake hands when
meet after Ions partition. aud calling me- M which,
Hndef most ami cslcerllv these circumstances. very
unnl,gslnt 70 NO The idca of your sweetheart calling
You Mr. SAe proved her love for by attcml ting
20 ave my NE sud love her well enough 10 die for her
and aside rom hcr association with my enemy and her
excessive tormaitN, have nothing To complain Now
under all these adverse circumstances would advise
me In ntinuc attentions 20 herr Having taken
invaluable paper a good while. have. OF course,
siSsr
What We have said above about Professionals
marrying Roman Catholics applies TO your case
also. AMI We will add that II both the man and the
woman are deyotedy attached to their respec
tive faiths. it Is ordinarily advisable to dis
courage such marriages. for they ara pretty
sure 10 lead TO trouble. Your sweetheart is n
little formal we acknowledge. but formnlity IL
better than too great familiarity. and perhaps
she prefers To wait until She is alone with you
before calling you sammy Sam. or Samuel as
YOU may wish. That is nothing against her
1t Is really something in her favor. and shows
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