St. Landry democrat., 1878-05-18


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Welded LIFE.
Advice to Newly Married Man from an Ex.
perenced Benedict.
Friend -: 1t is to be presumed
that you have chosen wife after mature
reflection, and not alone from selfish inn
pulses. Nevertheless, do not imagine
that you can possibly have foreseen all
the duties, responsibilities, and even trials
to which married life may render you
liable. In your intimate relationship
and companionship you and your wife
will appear to each other in an entirely
new light. You will find defects in her,
and she in you, which can only be pro-
perly met by one course, and that is,
mutual Cancellation. Strive to see which
can exercise the greatest leniency toward
each other. The secret of happiness in
married life is mutual confidence. Trust
| one another. Have no secrets from
one another. By all means, never
call in q third party to interfere
in any way in any family jars. You will
be more than human if you and your
wife can always perfectly agree; but,
while you cannot prevent differences,
you can prevent evil consequences arising
from them. IF you have trouble, keep it
to yourself and wife. Compromise will
secure you undoubted happiness. BY all
means never allow quarrel to last over
night. There is mischief in brooding
and pouting. Don't be ashamed of
yielding when you are sure you are in
the right. There is no sacrifice or self
denial in yielding only when you are in
the wrong. You must consult ysur
wife's whims and caprices as well as her
reasonable desires. Mankind is generally
governed by the passions not by the
reason. There is no excuse for trampling
upon wife's desire, because you think
them unreasonable. Women have at
times the privilege of being unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are often
sive to your wife; or, if you cannot
avoid them altogether, avoid them in
her presence. Keep clear of your wife's
relations, and have her keep clear
Of yours, in all business matters if pos
sible. II either of you should form
antipathies to The relations Of the other,
these antipathies must be consulted, and
If not removed, must be respected, or
else your family Jars will be numerous
and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with sys-
tematic frugality. Devote a specific
proportion Of your income to the future
of your family. Your savings will in
this way augment almost impercept.
IDLY, and place you above asking tavors.
Live within your means, and nobody
will know how much you have ahead;
but the moment you borrow cent,
people know how poor you are.
Go it while you are young. The duties
Of house and family will come soon
enough. Take it easy while you may in
your early married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch, and
pray. Just previous to the birth of your
first child you will probably find your
wife fretfnl, cross, peevish, pouty, and |
troublesome, just as many good, kind, |
amiable and loving women have been
before her. 1t such should be the case, |
ion't get mad, don't expostulate, don't
'ebuke or reproach her. The best thing
you can do is to grin and bear it. The
irst smile of the baby win stop it and
pay for all you have endured.
Don't think yourself immaculate and
vet yourself up as q pattern for your
wife. Il she wants to 60 to church and
you don't, remember that it may not do
you any harm to go to church. Don't
'cold your wife and don't beat your chill
lren, if you have any. Teach your chill.
iren by example. Be copy for them
Excuse them for such OF your faults as
hey inherit. Don't bequeath them
1asty temper and then whip them for it.
Don = gossip before them and then punish
hem for gossiping. Don't prevent
hem from romping or having minds Of
heir own. Don't frighten them with
yhost stories. Don't lie to them. Dent
neglect to give them any thing You
Promise them--even punishment. Don't
orget that You were child once, and do
. you would have others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you have q few but
ons off your shirts. Remember all the /,
ime that you are poor, weak mortal,
liable to err. and in all probability no
more perfect than your wife.
Battle often, look after your health,
nd Eeyer 80 nome drunk. Yours, I
JOHN. Il