Daily globe. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1878-1884, 1878-05-12
NUMBER ll8.
Welded LIFE.
A 1rice to a Ne,rly Married Han from an
Experienced BeMedirf.

Experienced Benedict.
you have chosen wife after mature refec-
ton, and not alone from selfish irnpalses.
Nevertheless, DO not imagine that You can
possibly have 5s<eseen all she duties, re-
sponsibilities, and even trials to which mar
ried life may renaar you liable. In your init
mate relationship and companionship YOU
and your wife will appear to earh other in
an entirely new light. You viii find defects,
III her, and she in you, which can only be-
properly met by one course, and shat is, mu-
tual Cancellation. Strive to see which can
eseseise the greatest leniency towsrd each
other. The secret of happiness in married
life IS mutual confidence. Trust ONE anoth-
er. Have no secrets from one another. By
all means, never call in third party to in
terfers III any way in any family jars. You
will be no more than human if you and Your
wife can always perfectly agree, but, while
you cannot prevent differences, you can pre-
vent any evil consequences arising from
them. f you have troubls. keep it to your
self and wife. Compromise will secure you
undoubted happiness. BY al means never
allow quarrel to last over night. There is
mischief IN brooding and gouting. Don'ti
be ashamed by yielding when you are sure
you are in the right. There IS no sacrifice
or self-delhal in yielding only when you are
IN the wrong. You must conss,lt your wife
whlms, and eaprices as we'll as her reasonable
desires. Mankind is generally governed by
the passions; not by the reason. There is
no excuse for trampling upon q. wife's de-
sires because You think them unreasonable.
Woman how at {ha 80 -,
unreasonable
Avoid personal habits which are offensive
to your wife, or, if you cannot avoid them
altogether, avoid them in her presence.
Keep clear of your wife's relations and have
her keep clear of yours, in all business mat
ters If possible. If either of you should
form antipathies to the relations Of the 9TH
er, those antipnthies must be consulted and
If not removed, must be respected, or else
your family jars will be numerous and ire
concilable.
Let your married life begin with systematic
frugality. Devote a specific proportion of
your income to the future of your family.
Your savings viii in this way augment al
most inperceptibly, and place you above ask
ing fayors.
Live within your means, and nobody will
know how much you have ahead; but the
moment you borrow cent people know how
poor you are.
Go it while you are young. The duties of
house and family will come soon enough.
Take it easy while you may in your. early
married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch and
pray. Just previous to the birth of your first
child you will possibly find your wife fret
full, cross, peevish, pouty, and troublesome,
just as many good, kind, amiable, and loving
women have been before her. If such
should be the case, don't get mad, don't ex-
postulate, don't rebuke or reproach her.
The best thing you can do is to grin and
bear it. The first smile of the baby will stop
it and pay for all you have endured.
Don't think yourself Immaculate and set
yourself up as pattern for your wife. If
she wants to go to church and you don't, re-
member that it may not do you any harm to
go to church. Don't scold your wife, and
don't beat your children, if you have any.
Teach your children by example. Be copy
for them. Excuse them for such of your
faults as they inherit. Don't bequeath
them hasty temper and then whip them
for it. Don't gossip before them and pun
ish them for gossipping. Don't prevent
them from romping or having minds of their
own. Don't frig hten them with ghost
stories. Don't lie to them. Don't neglect
to give them anything you promise them
even punishment. Don't forget that you
were child once, and do as you would have
others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you have few buttons
off your shirts. Remember all the tims that
you are poor, weak mortal, liable to err,
and in all probability no more perfect than
your wife.
Battle often, look after your health, and
never go home drunk. Yours, JOHN.