Mexico weekly ledger., 1878-05-09
Welded LIFE.


Welded LIFE.
FROM AN EXPERIENCED BENEDICT.
FRIEND-: 1t is to be presumed
that you have cho sen q wife after
mature reflection, and not alone from
selfish impulses. Nevertherless, do
not imagine that you a possibly
foresee all the duties, responsible
ties and even trials to which married
life may render you liable. In your
intimate relationship and companion
ship you and your wife will appear to
each other in an entirely new light.
You will find defects i'm her and she
in you which a only be properly
met by one course, and that is mu-
tual Cancellation. Strive to see
which can exercise the greatest lem
iency toward the other. The secret
of happiness in married life is mutual
confidence. Trust one another, have
no secrets from one another. By all
means never call IN a third party to
interfere in any way in any family
jars. You will be more than human
if you and your wife al always per-
fectly agree, but, while you cannot
prevent differences, you a prevent
any evil conse quenees arising from
them. If you have trouble keep it to
yourself and wife. Compromise will
secure you undoubted happiness. By
| all means never allow a quarrel to last
over night. There is pisinhsf" in
Df6cdfig Ekhd pouting. Don't be
of yielding when you are
sure self-denial in yielding only when
you are in the wrong. You must con-
suit your wife's whims and caprices
as we'll as her reasonable desires.
Mankind is generally governed by the
passions not by the reason. There
is no excuse for trampling ON the
wife's desires because you think them
unreasonable. Women have at times
the privilege of being unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are
to your wife or, if you can
not avoid them altogether, avoid
them in her presence. Keep clear of
your wife's relations, and have her
keep clear of yours, in all business
matters, if possible. If either of
you should form antipathies to the
relations of the other, those antipa-
thies must be consulted and if not
removed, must DE respected, or else
your family jars will be numerous
and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with
systematic frugality. Devote a
specific proportion of your income to
the future Of your family. Your
savings will In this way augment al
most imperceptlbly, and place you
above asking favors.
Live within your means, and no.
body will know how much you have
ahead but the moment you borrow
a cent people know how poor you
are.
Go it while you are young. The
duties OF a house and family will
come soon enough. Take it easy
while you may in your early married
life.
Be patient, an6 wait and watch and
pray. just previous to the birth of
your first child you will probably find
your wife f~retful, cross, peevish,
and troublesome, just as many
good, kind, amiable and loving women
have been before her. If such should
be the case, don't get mad, don't ex-
postulate, don't rebuke or reproach
her. The best thing you can do is to
grin and bear it. The first smile of
the baby will stop it and pay for all
you have endured.
Don't think yourself immaculate
and set yourself up as 8 pattern for
your wife. Ifshe wants to go to
church and you don't, remember that
it may not do you any harm to go to
church. Don't scold your wife, and
don't beat your children by example.
Be a copy for them. Excuse them
for such of your faults as they in
herit. Don't bequeath them a hssty
temper, and then whip them for it.
Don't gossip before them and then
them for gossiping. Don'tI,
prevent them from romping or having
minds of their WI Don't frighten
hem with ghost stories. Don't lie
10 them. Don't neglect to give them
anything you promise them-even
punishment. Don't forget that you /
we're q child once, and do as you !
would have others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you have q few
off your shirts. Remember @
II the time that you are a poor, weak :
liable to err, and in all prob
ibility no more perfect than your =
life. h