Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1878-01-14
gatlies' Column.
HINTS TO VISITORS.

Try, without being too familiar, to
make yourself so much like one of the
family that no one shall feel you to be
in the way; and. at the same time, be
observant of those small courtesies and
kindnesses which all together make up
what the world agrees to call good man
ners.
Regulate your hours of rising and
retiring by the customs of the house.
Do not keep your friends sitting up
until later than usual, and do not be
roaming about the house an hour before
breakfast. If you choose to rise at an
early hour, remain in your own room
until near breakfast-time, unless you
are sure that your presence in the par
lor will not be unwelcome. Write in
large letters, in a prominent place in
your mind, "Be punctual." A visitor
has no excuse for keeping whole fami-
ly waiting, and it is objectionable neg
ligence not to be prompt at the table.
Here is place to test good manners,
and any manifestation of ill-breeding
here will be noticed and remembered.
Do not be too ready to express your
likes and disllkes for the various dishes
before you. The wife of a certain
United States Senator once visiting ac-
quaintances at some distance from her
native wilds, made lasting impression
upon the family by remarking at the
b-oa kfast-oapre that "she should starve
before she would eat mush," and that
she 'never heard of cooking mutton be-
fore she came East"
If you are tempted to go to the other
extreme, and sacrifice truth to politeness
read Mrs. Opie's Tale of Spotted
Spratts," and you will not be likely to
be insincere again.
1t is we'll to. remember that some
things which seem of very little lmpor-
lance to you may make an unpleasant
impression upon others, in consequence
of difference in early training. The
other day two young ladies were heard
discussing gentleman who had grea.
many pleasant qualities. "Yes," said
one, ''he IS very handsome, but he doe
eat pie with his knife" Take care thai
no triAe of that kind is recalled wher
people are speaking of you
Keep your own room In order, and d.
not scatter your belongings all over tn
house. If your friends are orderly, i
will annoy them to see your things GU
of place and if they are not. their owl
disorder will be enough without adding
yours.
Make up your mind to be entertaine
with what is designed to entertain you
If your friends invite you to join ther
in an excursion, express your pleasur
and readiness to 60, and do not act a
though you were comforting favor il
stead of receiving one. No visitors ar
so wearisome as those who do not NEE
: half way whatever proposals are mad
for their pleasure. Be contented
I amuse yourself quietly in the house, {
: to join in any outside gayeties to whic
you are invited, and show by your maj
, ner that you enjoy both.
: If games are proposed, do not sa
that you will NOT play. or would rattle
look on; :" but join with the rest and Z
the best you can. Never let FOOLS
> feeling of pride, lest you should NJ
make SO good an appearance as tt
others, prevent your trying.
= If you are not skillful, you will
y least show that you are good natureC
and that you do not think yourse
/ modest when you are only proud.-S
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