The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1878-09-13
nrsnANps Nor LoyEns.
A Plea for wives.

I HUSBANDS NOT LOVERS.
A Plea for Wives.
Yes, this is o queer world! Queer at
least in the sense that husbands are moi
Iloyers. And pray, why not? ! am
grieved and indignant to-day that such Is
the case, and while writing l have in
minds eye q woman, not one OF your
poor, puny milk and water women either
but one whom God has endowed with his
srandest- faculties in the grandcst sense,
and one especially which predOminates
all others, that Of bencyolence. This wo-
mans husband was certainly one Of the
most loving OF lovers. | do not say that
even now, after ten years Of married life,
he really neglects the comforts Of his wife
and family, or that he stays from home,
or that he fails in any way 10 provide for
his family all the comforts that his means
will allow; he is not stingy- OF his money
but OF himself, economies his society
too much for the comfort OF his family;
is afraid OF the noise OF his children,
cant stand it." in fact. They are not
rude children, either, but healthy, noisy,
! frolicsome boys, all but baby Nell, who Is
two years old, and chubby and sweet Us q
baby can be. Papa thinks she Is u dari-
ing, uutil something occurs that ups,ets
her temper, when she bravely asserts her
rights, in baby fashion, by crying; then
| he il OF: cant stand it." cannot see,
for the life OF me, why 1t Is, Just as soon as
the children get into trouble, into chill
dren's Guarrels, and fights, and squabbles,
that mamma is the only one that can make
peace and again restore quiet. She Is ac-
custoined to IL; "she knows exactly what
thew need" But how does she become
ACCUSTOMED to it2 All, by practice.
What is there that q lover will not do
for the woman he loyesP Why, the only
trouble is he can never find half enough
TO do; he Is not saving OF his company,
either: where else does he spend so much
time as in her society? All the little wants
that 20 to make up the daily life are ut
tended, and every wish anticipated. All
this before marriage; then why not more
SO after marriage? Surely the wife should
be more dear than the maiden.
The husband, not lover, comes home,
gets his daily paper, and betakes himself
TO the ouietcst spot he can find, and he
"hopes the children will not bother him
with their noise and gabble." So he reads
: in the auietudc, by tho hour-whilc the
mother does her utmost to keep the chill
dren at distance, $50 that the noise may
not offend papa" Who Is papa more than
mamma that his wishes must be so strictly
regarded? He sees little OF them oil the
week; she il with them hourly. Would
It not be good idea for papa to give her
tho daily paper once in great while and
take the children clear out Of hearing, that
she too could see how pleasant a thing a
little quiet is?
/ say this woman Of whom / write is
benevolent. She thinks naught OF her
own comfort, so accustomed is she to deny
herself, in order that her family may be
happy. have known her to spend al
most whole days in her room with the
children, when papa was home, trying in
every conceivable way to entertain and
amuse them, in order that papa should
spend q pleasant day OF 1t. He did not so
much miss her society thought Of the
loss in this wise: "0f course, It can't be
helped; she, I suppose, must sec to the
children" Yes, but II you were not so
nervous and afraid OF the noise, she and
the little ones might have spent most OF
tho day with You on the green sward.
Home must be made attractive for the
husband, or why should he not go where
il is pleasant for him? Everything must
DO tidy and tasteful, the meals well cooked
and on time, the shirts snow white and
glossy, or else there arises cloud in the
domestic horizon. Man, did you ever, just
once, stop and think how many. many
things your wife sacrifices, and all for your
comiort2 She grows old and yellow and
wrinkled, oil through hard service, toryou,
in order that you may be comfortable, that
home may be q pleasant plaec. Is i al
ways pleasant place for her? See II you
can make it more so. II she grows sour,
and her intellect rusty, is it not because OF
her Matching and darning, and the over
lasting sewing that COOS on from year to
wear, and grinds tho lie slowly hut surely
out Of woman? You arc oyorworked,
must needs run off during the warm
weather for little recreation, and how
pleasant Is the cool mountains, or the
breeze from the grand old ocean. Could
YOU take the time, while in your best hui
NOR, your dainty toilet and your pleasant
rambie, to lift the curtain, you, think,
would see at home tired, oycrworked,
and in most cases patient woman hurry.
ing through with everything in the way OF
household drudgery, that things may be
gotten through with before your return.
The fruit season Is about this time at its
height, and tho mercury stands ut about
7Oo In the shade. wonder what is the
temperature Of the kitchen with Its BOOM
ing Tires, while the process OF canning, pre-
serving and jelly-making goes on? You
will not think OF this next winter when
YOU emerge from the frost, toss off your
wraps, and enter cheerful warm dining
room 10 eat some Of these same dainties'
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