The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1878-10-15
OuIda's T~eaehings.

From Her --latest Novel, HFriandshIp,n
Avery trustful woman believes in her
lovers fidelity with her heart; a very vain
woman believes in it with her head.
Passion will pardon rage, will survive
absence, will forgive inidelity, will even
thrive on outrage, and will often condone
q crime; but whenit dies of familiarity, it
is dead for ever and aye.
A man cannot perhaps know oil that a
woman suffers from his infdelity. Hers
to him may wiring his pride and his pas
sions with a great agony, but it cannot
seem all at once to bring intense humilia-
ton, intense DISSERTATION, personal and
spiritual, with it as does his to her. 1t
cannot make him ashamed to exist, as it
makes her.
Passion must be remembered to be
known.
The untruthiulness Of women commu-
nicates itself to the man whose chief seci-
ETY. they form, and the perpetual necessi-
ties Of intrigue end in corrupting the
temper whose chief pursuit is passion.
Women who environ a mans fidelity by
ceaseless suspicion and exaction create the
evil that they dread.
A woman's violence isa mighty power;
before II reason recoils unnerved, justice
quails appalled,, and peace perishes like a
burnt;up scroll; 1t is!a sand-storm, before
which courage can do but little; the
brayest man can but fall on his face and let
it rage on above him.
The art OF pleasing / more based on the
art Of seeming pleased than people think
Of, and a woman disarms the prejudices OF
her enemies by the unaffected delight she
think very i'll ola woman, but, after all,
you cannot speak very i'll of her II she has
assuredyou a hundred times that you are
among her dearest friends.
The people with fine brains and with
generous souls will never learn that life is,
after all, only algame--a game which will
go to the 'shrewdest player and the coolest.
They never see this; not they; they are
caught on the edge of great passions and
swept away by them. They cling to their
affections like commanders to sinking
ships, and go down with them. They put
their whole heart into the hands OF others,
who only laugh and wiring out their life
blood They take all things too vitality in
earnest. Life Is to them n wonderful, pas
.sionate, pathetic, terrible thing that the
gods Of love and OF death shape for them.
They do not see that GOODNESS and craft,
and the tact to seize accident, and the
ywariness TO obtain advantage, do in reality
far more in hewing out q successful future
than all the gods OF Greek or Gentle.
They are very unwise. 1t is OF no use to
break their hearts for the world; they will
not change it. lie Guile de rhumanite Is one
ofiall others which will leave despair as its
harvest. Laugh like Rabelais, smile like
Montague; that is the way TO take the
world. II only puts to death its Sebas-
tians, and makes Its Philips not sorrowful
to see the boat is filling.
q You people who are very clever, or very
proud, or very, careless, never-pa pardon me
succeed with society. You make a stir
in 1t, perhaps, but that never lasts long;
you won't take the pains to please it; and
1t soon leaves YOU for people who do. A
witty thing comes into your head, and you
say, careless whom it may hit. You are
bored by the vanity OF other folk, andyou
show It. indifferent where you may offend.
You won't conciliate big little people, and
they in, their spite set the big, big people
against you. Sothe SNOWFALL grows, and
n day it gets large enough and hard
enough TO knock you out OF society al
together. People must make themselves
agreeable to be agreeable to the world;
yes, and eat q good deal Of dust, too; that
I anrRaln II thau aRa vary hinh md
mighty by birth and allithe rest Of it, OF
course they can be as d~isagreeable as they
choose, and make others eat the dust al
ways. But II not, there is nothing for it
butte toady,