The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-09-15
THE SUN, SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER IS. 1873


failures. 1t is all we'll enough 10 be daring,
but there is such thing as carrying au-
dacity too far. as the girl finds out when
the bond OF engagement snaps, and she has
to fall back on bootlcss nirtatons in place
OF secured affection. In fine, no engaged girl
ought to llirt.
But is jealousy an Inevitable concomitant
OF love Must an engaged lover necessarily
be jealous Of his sweetheart and il he Is not
40, Is 1t proof that the fire OF the tender
passion burns low in his heart? Should hrs
trust be so complete that lac shall maintain
his serenity undisturbcd by the demon
which lies in wait to rcnd the hearts Of low
crs ? These are the questions addressed US
by II friend:
sir a few evenings ago while spending the evening
with some friends In company with The young lady To
whom am engaged the question arose A. To- tho fact Of
jealousy being natural well necessary concom.
liant Of love holding tat not IN any proof
o ioyc to show feel tie agoncs caused by the green
eyed monster The rest OF the company took sidcs
o. inst nc. basing my argument anon these facts.
trst upon the perfect confidence iha,c in the 20 ns
lads 10 whom ENGAGED. and condly. IN that pas
sage Of the scripnc. Afcricct love castch cut tear
The result was bet winch YOU to decide
"FRpfR,L"
disputablc. IL IL "a natural as hunger or
thirst, and is one of those passions We share
with the brutcs. IT Is simply resentment at
the idea that somebody else is getting the
regard, attention. or advantage we wish to
enjoy ourselves, or 10 which we feel that we
have n rightful title. More or less Of it
Is pretty sure to trouble lovers, accord
ing ~ their disposition is. Though they may
be very sure Of each other, they sometimes
can't help being annoyed at trillcs which
under ordinary circumstances would en-
tircly escape their attention. They even
get sort ot pleasure in Negotiating their
sensitive hearts. for they know we'll enough
that the torture Is unnecessary. There is a
good deal Of qualification in douhting, when
n little explanation is certain TO ds-ip patio
the doubts. That il u kind Of play jealousy,
in which lovers often delight to indulge, for
without it the courtship would move along
too smoothly to bc interesting. and the pro-
baton of the engagement would lack
piquancy But there are also sour or in
tense lovers, who keep lynx eye on their
swccthcarts, and watch them as detectives
watch suspected thief Such fellows are
bound TO be- torn with jealousy, and they
deserve TO Ice. II IL impossible for girl
10 SO behave that their suspicious will
he lullcd. They would shut their sweet
hearts up in n cage, IL they could, though,
likely enough. they are not scrupuou-ly
particular about their own fidelity. They
arc savagcs to bc avoided Of women, and If
their swccthcarts torment them. sensible
people do not mourn
A very young lover is almost Invariably
jealous lie thinks II is necessary TO be- So,
and usually his sweetheart docs not fail to
give the demon something to feed on. But
aftcrward, when he actually and seriously
falls in love- he has grown tired OF the play
thing and conducts himself like a rational
being II a man can't keep the affections
~ n girl he has won, he Is pretty poor
stick or she isn't worth having; and joal-
ousv is a very foolish passion, except So far
IA it prevents the hearts Of both parties
from wandering. Still. lovers are apt To- be
jealous They may think their prize Is 50
valuable that everybody else must be try
ing to steal 1t. even when no one thinks Of
disturbing them ia their pos-rssion. But
people of -cu-c and -clf-cuntrol usually dis
play these qualities when they are in love.
as we'll a. when they are engaged in any
other serious business The woman has
promised 10 marry the man. and he has no
doubts about the wedding coming Of at the
proper time Let the bet be paid IN Accord
ancc with the above decision.