San Marcos free press. [volume] (San Marcos, Tex.) 1877-1892, 1878-11-09
4Adrice to Husbands.

The world is full Of "advicc to wives, {"
and even the cheap commodity by cour.
tesy addressed ito married people," is
mostly one.sided and intended for the
ears of the weaker sex only. We can
scarcely pick up a paper without read
ing the oft-reiterated injunction to "al-
ways meet him with smile" (whatever
may be his delinquencies), to be al
ways neatly dressed" (whatever work on
hand); to never complain to him"
(whatever the weight of your cares), and
all the rest of it, which every body
knows 80 well. For the sake of more
evenly balanced state of thing, let us
administer little of the same dose to
the other side Of the house, on tie old
principle that "what is sauce for the
goose is sauce for the gander."
Husbands should always appear before
their wives in neat and becoming at
tire. Remember that was one of your
chief attractions during courtship. A
man is not at all beautiful en- deshabille,
and how can You expect to retain wo-
mans love if you suddenly drop all the
Establishments that won it? Husbands,
be neat. Never come to breakfast with
hair looking like q Zig tree shaken by
a mighty wind, " or soiled collar or neck.
tie all awry. Never lounge about of n
late hour in the evening, in stocking
feet, sans coat and vest, and with slouchy
suspenders. I" Had she CHANGED to see
you thus in counting days, it would have
taken vast amount OF romance out of
her, depend upon it. Suppose your cir
cumstances in life are such that you
must assist in doing the morning
chores" then steal to your room before
she has seen you there and change the
working-coat for the dressing-gown, pol
ish your boots and make yourself pre-
sentable, that no suggestion of the barn
yard may accompany you to the break
fast-table. The look of fond regard that
will surely greet you from behind the
fragrant coffee-pot will be sufficient re-
ward.
Never wear clouded or angry coun-
tenance in the presence Of your wife.
No matter what the cares and annoy
ance of the day may have been, before
her you should be all sunshine. Thus
you willmake her happy and forget your
own troubles. In her own sphere she
has petty vexations to bear that would
break the spirit of any man alive. Don't
add the burden of yours, too.
If the children arc noisy Or peevish,
quiet and amuse them with as much tact
as possible, in order that you disturb
not their mother, who, in the evening,
should find the rest and tranquility that
will prepare her for another day. Above
all, allow no impatient word to arise to
your lips should your wife object to
your spending money on such selfish
qualification as expensive and choice
cigars, while sheis economizing in many
little ways. Though you may think her
in the wrong, you had better be ruled by
her wishes, as thus you may avoid future
unpleasantness.
If you wish to be the true companion
Of your wife don't allow yourself to de-
generate into mere drudge and money
catcher. Keep your intellect refreshed
by reading good books; read the things
she reads and repeat to her the news,
both political and general, that you have
cleaned in the world outside her sphere.
Bear in mind that many overtaxed
wives are merely bundles of nerves, so
to speak, and subject to thousand and
one irritations that enter not into mans
philosophy to comprehend; therefore
write it in your heart and prove it in
your daily conversation that soft an
swer turneth away wrath, but grievous
words stir up anger"
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