The Cheyenne daily leader. [volume] (Cheyenne, Wyo.) 1870-1884, 1878-05-12
On Founding a Home.

First secure . home. which Is. q house to
live in. and the proper people in it 70 com.
pose the foundations Of home life. Dir1c-
tons as to house decoration or skilsul
cookery. or the control Of cook or chamber.
maid. are Of very little account, II the PEG
pie who sit down in their pretty rooms day
by day End their hearts torn by jealousy.
or their brains rasped by nervous irritation
Let Tom and Amelia turn from the altar.
resolving to start fair and give themselves
the largest chance Of q clear understand
ing Of each other. and. in consequence, OF
future happiness Let them turn their
backs On boarding houses. shut their eyes
to all considerations Of style. be deaf to all
hints Of Mrs. Gruniys expectations. and
buy or rent a house within their means. II
they are too poor for q honse. then q fiat II
not a fat, q room or. II the worst comes
TO the worst. let them hire. like our friends
1t Rudder Grange. a canal boat ; only let
them 60 to housekeeping. and 90 Il alone.
Comfortable quarters, pcIkaps. are offered
them IN the house Of one Of their parents.
~ho very naturally try to keep the young
birds Just mated a little longer in the old
nest, especially Il they are well-to-dopcople.
TO whom the addition to the family will be
Gully q pleasure. and no burden. Amelia's
asshand no. being able 70 support her in
.hs s:y'e TO which she is accustomed. what
IAN be more proper than that they should
oscupy part Of her fathers mansion. and
scap the benefit o: wcii-trained servants.
srriagcs and suinptecus faref Or some
other motive Of economy or affection die
;ates their plans. Amelia's mamma being
a widow, and devoted 10 her child, why
should she live alone in her house, peopled
for her. perhaps, by ghosts Of the beloved
deadf Why not take the spare room in the
young peoples house and mako part of then
new lifer Or il may be Toms unmarried
sister or bachelor uncle who comes in to
make a third in the partnership just begun.
Now thisnew confer may be themost clever,
amiabie. dearest soul in the world, and the
arrangement one dictated by prudential
motives and affection but ninety times in
o hundred it Is destructive Of the fne tone
and temper 81 the newly-formed household.
The FIRST year Of married life Is n passage,
at the best, over dangerous quicksands; nc
matter how intimate their knowledge Of
each other was before marriage, husband
and wife nave now to find each other out
mi thousand new and unexpected phases.
and TO adjust themselves each to the otho,
In the habits. tastes. even language Of
s+sEJ daJ- II will require all the tact and
the patience which love gives to enable
them to do this, and tho interference, even
he presence. Of a third party. is always .
disturbing element The more near and
daar the relations Of this third party. the
more apt are they to come between the wife
and husband. Unfortunately. too, the
whole tone Of married life usually receive,
its ksy-note from this first year; and SO in.
variably damaging ia the influence Of out.
ddsrs upon II. that the best recipe. prob.
ably. 10 insure a happy mlrriage. would be
10 make . holocaust Of all kinstolk on
wedding day. As tina. is not p,actf.
cable. let Amelia and Tom live as much
apart ~ is possible for AZ least twelve
months. sel6sh as such reserve may appear
to their families.
After they have become int measure one,
and the uncertainty and disquietuie Of the
storms and sunshine Of early marriage have
given place to o settled home atmosphere.
the occasionAl presence of strangers has
usually q wholesome influence. With tho
oompanionship Of a guest now and then,
Tom and Amelia are less likely to find their
thoughts and opinions grow stale and
tedious. Charity, too. assume no more
beautiful form than In o gracious hospi.
tally. especially to those who are needy in
body and mind. We know certain house.
holds where there is always to be found an
orphan girl going to school with the other
children. or a helpless Old black "AuntyD
IN her chair by the kitchen fro, or some
other waf warmed and sheltered from the
cold without. We remember q certain
young girl who. like most virginian women
was skilled in housewifery. who tool into
her fathers house. one after another. girls
Of fourteen from mn adjoining mill. and
trained them herself as seamstresses and
cooks. teaching them to read and write at
the same time. Before and aftor her mar.
iage she fitted and placed eight women
in useful. honorable careers Of life. The
home. when founded, should always be large
enough to give some creature needing help,
or 1t may be too small for any blessing to
rest upon. which falls Ike dew from above.
-Rnral Nsp Yorker. -
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