The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-04-28

| pathies OF youth, which make his own heart
so fervid and sensitive. He feels that he is
an injured, a much-abuscd person; but If he
can't get consolation at home, he knows
| where IL is to be had in full measure. II
may therefore happen that the frowns and
| gibcs Of his relatives will sink him in love
more deeply than ever, and the cords by
which he Is bound to the girl so objection
able to them will be drawn tighter than
before.
Hence it bchoovcs parents who are con-
WINGED that their calow son is making a
fool of himself by forming an attachment
altogether unsuitable and even prepustcr-
Gus, not to squarely thwart his love making.
but TO lead him gently and impcrccptibly
into more sensible path. They should sec
that he is kept busily occupied for nothing
fosters and inllamcs the tender passion like
idlcncss. Propinquity to the adored one
also stimulates it. Therefore, II the mis-
guided boy can be transferred tonew scenes,
he may after a time recover his equiib-
rum. Yet, as rule. parents are wise to in
tcrfcrc rs little as possible In the love Affairs
OF their childrcn though it is entirely proper
and justiiiabc to take pains to see that they
shall be kept out OF the society of young
people with whom they ought not to fall in
love. That, however, is hard to do, for
oftentimes oven the most dutiful daughters
and the most exemplary SONS will by chance
form the acquaintance of persons they
would better not know, and secretly yield
up their hearts to them.
1t sometimes occurs, too. that boy will
be falling in love right under the noses Of
his parents with n woman they would ut
tcrly refuse to take as daughter-in-law.
They are SO much occupied with their own
affairs that they do not observe the in
dications Of his infatuation, and, unable
to perceive that he has reached an age when
mating is apt to engross the thoughts, they
will suffer him to get fairly cntrapped be-
fore they are aware that he is in the least
danger from the charmcr. Then the revela-
tion of his sad state strikes them with dis
may, and it is as much Is they can do to
keep from giving him sound whipping.
Such seems to have been the case Of n
young gentleman of Centrevillc, IN Florida,
who asks our advice:
SIR am deeply IN love with a lady ten years older
than self have loved her de-, oicdly three
years, bat have been afraid until recently To make It
known to her or ash her tobccome wife for fear that
my love would not be- rccprocaicd. lhave ample means
To support wac. and tod her few days oil shc
would consent 10 become my wife size should know
what the troubles and cares o lite We're. amt hay
pincss ON earth could be found should be hers She
p,d by saNin- that she loved rely and
become my wie WAS her greatest earthly desire Nv
happiness after hearns her reply better be imagined
thlli described
Bat whenit was made known to my family it was OPP.
posed most bitterly perfect horror expressed at
the Thought o uur uuou she hcing AIRED headed high
tenn cred. usN AMI cross old mad Of - summers and
a Nou,h ju.t entering my eighteenth year" Why she is
somuch admired by myself cannot tell We have nxed
The dN luui 60 june ISIS, ana II You can spare the
time. accept au invitation To- the wedding But what
most earnestly wish H. Tor YOU To- advise what ~ do
whether should marry her. ana secure Tor myself my
future happiness hyoud Spre>,lnn comply With the
wishc, oi my family AMI seek one who would make
4 moro suitable companion. which ivar would hc
hard to nnd. Ny future bride is now private m.truc.
tres At the rcsiioice OF NY mother GIVE ne Your
advice this subject and be- assured that whatever YOU
ilir. proper VIII do L. W. g.
We must decline our young friends polite
invitation to assist at his wedding. both be-
cause engagements will keep Us in New
York in june and because We think the
wedding had better not take place. Ii Is
responsible task TO advise lover when he
pledges himself in advance to do as We tell
HIM still, we have no hesitation in warming
our friend against marrying the goverucss.
1t may not be true that her hair is red {;
| likely 10 do her justice. and they may call
even beautiful auburn hair red. They may
also deny her the possession Of a sweetness
of temper which is acknowledged and priced
10y those Of her acquaintance who Judge her
without prejudice and without passion.
They may call her cross when it is they
themselves who are irritable. and not she.
Besides, woman at twcnty-eight is not an
old maid, except in the eyes OF younger
people.
But, allowing all this, the governess is not
the wife for our friend. She is too old for him
by far and he Is a great deal too young for
her. Whom he has REACHED his majority she
will be past thirty, and when he is thirty She
Will lc forty, Il mddlc-agcd woman, while
| he VIII b" just beginning To settle down a. Il
| man. And after that time she will be de-
clining steadily while he, if he amounts to
| anything, Will hc steadily advancing She
ought to see this herself, and TO rebuke the
younSstcr for his folly in seeking to marry
II mature woman before his beard is grown.
He is too young to marry, any way, even Il
girl who is his junior; for he Is only u boy
yet, and ought to spend the next few years
in developing his talents, rather than in
playing husband to the governess, or any
other woman. At just about his age boys
are apt to like women "A good deal older than
themselves but no right-mnded woman en-
couragcs their puppy affections, and they
are sure to get over them when their age
increases
Therefore we admonsh our young Florida
friend To cancel that engagement for the
10th of next June at once. The govcrness