The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1878-08-18
THE ours rIoys or rnE LOVERS
shan - Man Marcy Woman he doe. not
Love out Of pity f-IIasto Regretted
A man is ccrlalnIy in u bad box who

A man is certainly in u bad box who has
so managed that no has got woman in love
with him and enabled her 10 entertain hopes
that he viii marry her. when all the time ms
own heart rs untouched. aIi he has never once
thought " winning her fora vile or ~ arous-
Ing her affections Sometimes artful women
viii ASSUME that the most ordinary civlIiti's
have u serious meaning and construo polite
speech into an orcr II marriage and so get
weak follows into their power They cannot
induce tho men 20 make tho love 40 they mako
IT for both sides and both tender and accept tho
Offer. Before their victims are aware that they
are fairlv rnught in the meshcs they are rCccly-
ing congratulations ON their engagement and
are treated By She victorious Charmcrs as their
assured possession Such n situation is very
awkward for mnn and Il oftcntimcs requires
all his courage to get out Of il, and even then "
the woman il def lent IN pride he escapes Only
~ the expense Of ron N 81 promise suit. the
casre OF mon who are actually married against
thoir will WHO hclplcssly drift into mairimony'
are more numerous than may be- supposed
brit such marriages arc not necessarily UNI
happy. Tor the superior aggr'~sivene-s 81 the
vito may mako ~ for tho lack OF strength oi
charu ter ON the part Of the husband. who
might have gone single unless woman iad
thrown tho hal.cr over his head AMI dragged
him TO the altar.
II man. however finds that his merely
friendly attentions 10 n woman are being con-
strued into cyprcssi ions II love for her he does
not feel and kndllug an affection he can never
return the hes, thing for him 20 10 IL 20 Keep
away from hor The moro ho r'ays around her
the worse no c0mplicates matt r.. Here is n
man who for ten years has been getting wo-
man in love with him without intending il. and
who Is now IN distress because his honor or his
rity may compel him 20 marry her;
SIN. ycnrsa.o bearded in a ,anily where there wat.
",.',i'.r' .,, p 90 'i, family aul was always ur.,i
ecgn a-a NY, i.Yn h.. g. -. n ~. mne ,.. 3'a
have .ae 50. it ,,g,i irsoy aea nro'hsriy i''st
et,cd ,,f ino ''no O., i,ld ny osn sister li 10 more
". a,s s,,' r, eo, a,,.r y NAV in@
''y'"'IT '''l e'l,' l,yt ,,, Size ,,r, me- t..r.
aul tha,e rc,Dnnid M.u h,rmotc o. les ier ,eHrs,
~ ~, , r ',n, Il, AZ, ,,ev ca,na home rian
i0W AIT Wien 'hc cs.ic 10 SEQ me 4iisr my rcl"n
ii'r.. tros.n Town 'iuv I,aw .h, san heJl ni' nlt
,"i"'' ''f 40 ''''."l VA -,' w airt M,t,;
vc' turirt. cam. h,'k on ''comnt ol n,, health f,ld
@ ~ Nv m H. W''.y r ,r,S S,i '', , 70 r
,lenl. ', ls' "e ",i, lowers SIG ha, 'nd g. other,
Wic .in ac .,,,,,, t., s5.ne o i,r irylis Of ooln.
h,r .......t .,,.......,,. .,., ,... .., .u a.
iaiy o.i.r,i u, .,l and va, refused believe On ne.
I.. l.t| tt
soul But ,ui scri uiglAly w,.h thc other lad,. AMI
G "i" yosT ,U, st Se E saSS Hin
lo,c win ne Other lady
ever ~ mat iit,i her for vie 10 not lasc Tie
iahy never , n na,, ,ai,fi sr'piN ~ NM gn
other lay beside, t,c ou, WHOM offered ni,. WHO
D, y' i,S u" a., ' n,' i ', w, AN, al' '.i t ,'
noi"lc.. - love Gen l.N per am -hc ,oy, ,,' m'ie'
i, h,ins ai..u ,,t,i Ae I'D a. iri,ni 1ut n,i ~.
'd} yS, MI En."r wi,ai pi,.i DO" WV ' '.,t o.,
love h,r, live t,cu i..6on5rtii, l. h,r IRON ud.
& ,' an, y' ne Mn hes. 40 81 . Mi', '.i
h. and ,ae knows Il have ra'on 70 t,iuk ,ie
o. hcr ani ici q, stav a. nave ii To- ,,s III
M,lr fich womb buy sood rome for my .1etd ana
no, a. AL. Ought 10 h,c I'M e. on account Vt t. aly
lAS' ' ' n',s" 70 any 9n. VIZ . ,,,'i5 unl
inss hy Is liicr i've me some al,i,c 10 mo n,iicr
"r'">NN
man WHO allows himself to get into the false
position IN which YOU find yourself shows
graf deal If weakness. and really hardly
knows his own mind. II you suspected or
knew Your friendship for this mature woman
WIS getting her love In return. and you didn't
wish the love. WHY did you keep up the attcn-
tions, When YOU found that her aoluaintun"es
regarded YOU az fooline' her. and YOU were
MlfY !'"' sne eApee.eu you TO propose 10 her,
her 81 lhe impression 10y your own iolIy and
Iil"c'io'oh YOU nav" Drought lhe fouple on
yourself But il would b" wors" folly 20 marry
th' lndy Simply o" OF plN' und @ha ought not
70 tax you. Tor you would be aEro"ning nus
bahH' i'reNer i"h'hiihS your lost owes II she
Hn,,. tJ a''I so" '''s 1' WA a,'
no" S"" H'' ma I''"'l- uouEh she
- now 80 VIZ" n'N"hc'" IN years
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