The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1878-05-23
LADIES COLUMN.
HARoL1NE HAROLD, EDITOR.
Welded LIFE.
Advice to Newly Married Man
from an Experienced Benedict.

Frlend-: 1t is to be pre-
sumed that you have chosen a wife
after mature reflection and not
alone from selfish impulses. Never
theless, do not imagine that you
can possibly have foreseen all the
duties, responsibilities, and even
trials to which married life may
render you liable. In your init
mate relationship and companion
ship you and your wife will appear
to each other in an intirely new
light. You will find defects il her,
and she in you, which can only be
properly met by one course and
that is, mutual Cancellation. Strive
to see which can exercise the great
est leniency toward each other.
The secret of happiness in married
life is mutual confidence. Trust
one another. Have no secrets from
one another. By all means, never
call in a third party to interfere in
any way in any family jars. You
will be more than human if you
and your wife can always perfectly
agree; but while you cannot pre-
vent differences, you can prevent
evil consequences arising from
them. If you have trouble, keep it
to yourself and wife. Compromise
will secure you undoubted happi
ness. BY all means never allow a
quarrel to last over night. There
is mischief IN brooding and pout-
ing. Don't be ashamed of yielding
when you are sure you are in the
right. There is no sacrifice or self
denial in yielding only when you
are in the wrong. You must con-
suit your wife's whims and caprice
as well as her reasonable desires.
Mankind is generally governed by
the passions; not by the reason.
There is no excuse for trampling
upon a wife's desires, because you
think them unreasonable. Women
have at times the privilege of being
unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are
offensive to your wife; or, if you
cannot avoid them altogether, avoid
them in her presence. Keep clear
of your wife's relations, and have
her keep clear of yours, in all bust
ness matters, if possible. If either
of you should form antipathies to
the relations of the other, these an
tipathies must be consulted, and
if not removed, must be re-
spected, or else your family jars
ill bo pnr,arOua IN Il irpocc.p ri 20 Iola
Let your married life begin with
systematic frugality. Devote spe-
cific proportion of your income to
the future of your family. Your
saving will In this way augment al
most imperceptibly, and place you
above asking favors.
Live within your means, and no.
body will know how much you have
ahead; but the moment you borrow
cent people will know how poor
you are.
Go it while you are young. The
duties of house and family will
come soon enough. Take it easy
while you may in your early mar
ried life.
Be patient, and wait. and watch
and pray. Sometimes you will
probably find your wife fretful
cross, peevish, pouty, and trouble
some, just as many good, kind ami
able and loving women have been
before her. If such should be the
case, don't get mad, don't oxpostu
late, don't rebuke or rerroach her.
The best thing you can do is to
grin and bear it.
Don't think yourself Immaculate
and set yourself up, as a pattern
tor your wife. If she wants TO go
to church and, yol don't remember
that it may not do you any harm to
go to church. Don't scold your
wife and don't beat your children,
if you have any. Teach your chill
dren by example. Be a copy for
them. Excuse them for such faults
as they inherit. Don't bequeath
them hasty temper and then whip
for it. Don't gossip before them
and then punish them for gossip
ping. Don't brighten then with
ghost stories. Don't lie to them.
Don't neglect to give them any
thing you promise them--even pun
ishment. Don't forget that You
were a child once, and do as you
would have had others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you have few
buttons off your shirts, remember
all the time that you are poor
weak mortal, liable to err, and in
all probability no more perfect than
your wife. Battle often, look after
your health, and never go home
drunk. Yours, JOHN.
Agar said, "Give me neither pow
nrtv nor riches, ~ and this will ever