The New York herald., 1878-02-25
MARRIAGE IN FRANCE.

LADY IN PAR1sIAN SOCIETY DEFINES HApPI-
NESS WHY WOMEN wED-now HUSBANDS
ARE SECURED FOR ANXIOUS GIRLS.
PARIS, Feb. 10, 1873.
An aged Parisienne, living in the Faubourg ST. Ger.
MAN, lately made remark which deserves TO be re-
corded She Is of those fair who have seen
great dcul OF society and fought out many campaigns
therein. She possesses moreover. a fund OF that
wisdom peculiar to women OF the world, which, when
united with happy turn Of expression, adds ph and
numor to their philosophy. Having been led to talk
about happiness In circle OF her intnes gentleman
told her that IN hs opinion the definition OF happ
ness ito owe no man anything" He
happens 10 DO over head and ears In
debt, but the fashionable ola lady took
a different Wow Of this excellent principle and sad:-
"Y0u wrong NO one on earth can MAINTAIN that It
ia possible be free from Obligations. There are, for
instance, two iormalites In daily life which compela
man place himself position Of Indebtedness to
his fellow What would he do ir he hac no
one to marry and no one bury himf" The
word ssmarier' In French 40 mate," to nnd a
wife; does refer merely to the clergyman who
performs ths marriage ceremony. Now, this inability
TO bury ones self is undenisbla believe 1t has not
yet boon controverted and probably never will bs.
But this Partisan notion OF man giving himself up
10 be msrried sminsnty practical There IL NO
use IN trying to ridcule Frencnmsn out OF It. II
would only serve to convince him that Anglo. saxon
views are not the French and that they
are not halt rational, there ore will take things
as they are and describe the various ways which
people get married hero.
HOW PEOPLE MARRY.
There Is, hrst, the marriage de conuenance socond,
the marriage d'tnctination third, the marriage de
raison These belong to the regular OF events
The three irregular viii not require to bo
lyzed They the marriage de Ia main gaachs, the
marriage eztremis and the marriages mirtssthe lat
ter between OF different religious professions.
II is excessively dacul 70 ascertain which Is the
best 10 recommend. Non who have only had one
vile havo naturally only tried one way, and, rs rule
generally complain oil II. When have come across
widows widowers who havs had occasion to try
TWO or three different ways l have noticed That tho
one they Lnced was the worst proved the best
after all Women who have married young oiton
throw light on the subject bu, the deceased hus-
6eud Is always spoken oil q superior KIND oil man,
and lne Dest OF men, whereas widowers never
70 OF In rapIures about their dcfunct wives
HAPPY FUTURE sTAyE-cOMPARATIvRLY
II the dead could speak we should know whether
matrmony really Is blessed state, or even state Ia
wnicn nian may be biessed Tho following Is some
what detrimental 10 TINS theory. lady mad lost her
husband, but she had lett OIL her mourning and wont
topartcs Beng asked by one OF those RenIlemen
who attend soIrees mediums who she would IKE TO
ecu In SPIRIT ana having replied, "My p0os James,"
the departed suddenly out Of tho centre OF tue
carpet. ss were, ana Stood before the whole CON.
pauy:-
.Oa James. tell Toe are you happy'"
avery"
"Mucn happier"
"raen. James. you mus. be In heavena'
"No; I'm III hell"
This ~ am aware, DEPRESSION, but IL illustrates
hgurativoly the difference between married mems
state OF mind after they have gven up thor mortal
flesh ani tn st which prevails before marriage.
MARRYING foR FORTUNE, FOX LOVE AND FOK NOTHING.
| will now explain what Is implied by the different
sorts OF matriuony aUOve mentioned. The marriage
de ono where The chei points considered
are position, fortune anu nmiy. The age OF the
contracting parties IL OBJECT at all seventy 4nay
we'd seventeen. Tho mariags dinclinaton Is one
where love has joined tue hands OF hope
iu couple without any consideration OF means. rne
drdge de rdis0n unitcs persons OF ripe age rip0 ex
pcrience ana comfortable Income; persons who can
get without some one TO sew their buttons,
thread their needles aud make their coffee; persons
who, feeling no incnstion for each other, nevertho-
loss expect that when the ring nas been put on that
particular nnger they will be propped up as they 60
down MIL by the partner who bears up longest
A FRIEND OF THE FAMILY.
Whichever Of the foregoing ways ue adopted NO
marriage take place without a mdyteuse
mayieuse Trend OF the fay who has no Interest
IN making up matches beyond that OF enjoying IT.
he introduces ngle men To single girls Ia spirit OF
am iaUle socitude Tor their good; the usually
scharming fellows" who sue may have mot at the
soasidv and who nave connded in her; tho young
ladies have boen OF scnool convent Tor half the
last season. These affairs are generally commenced
with conversaion III tue following style between Ia
Are you ANXIOUS, my uosr uelcue. thai Berthe
should make grand match? You know she has only
IN income of 10, 900 rancs"
mo. providing Berthe marry man who knows
how 10 prssenter' himself IN socie:y and hs have .
good temper"
"rhen have husband for her; he 10 thwty-two
his means iorty-seveD); he enjoys excellent health
lhe weighs $50 pounds; he has good name. never
sn0res. &c"
"Ho will do" replies the mother.
The day this gentleman IS introduced Berthe IL told
not TO bite her nails wnsn her gloves on; she 10
ol A I'M eueo n wi All n
meet ana look al each other. From this day the
mareuse lives III larry wnirl Of vsiling shopping
ADVISING and accepting attentons untii the wedding
Jay rises, when he shares almost many honors US
the bride herself while the bridc's mother Keeps IN
the background.
DISPENSED WITH.
The Didrieuse Is equally Indispensable for nsdrtdge
dtncitndon; but in these the love-sick couple
are The nrst 10 seek her and mpiore her servioea
Sne Is entrested 10 soften the hearts OF parents who
opposed to the Jolly Of 'such matcn.n One Of
the two Is going to jump OF the Arc dc rriomphc or
BastiIe Column or over the Pont dcs Arts II the
isthsr on The one side and the mothor the
otncr Will not rclenI marieuse never has y hard
heart sue reasons with the young people. but cannos