San Marcos free press. [volume] (San Marcos, Tex.) 1877-1892, 1878-10-19

the parents in such matter. d.,
ill-will may defeat the purpose1 men
engagement and cause, tho oil ne
agony. Neither mpst ths3ievsr much
Impatient, when tha father pushIs'oN
quiries alto his. Material Souditi@ ~,
business prospects. He must mat aaa
clean breast of his affairs, and not As .!
cite suspicion by any thing tbo, * es'
proaches duplicity.1 The old sentIsm ap'
has right to know all about him asa
he isn't tit to marry the girl unless b Guy
willing to tell the whole story NJ Ms
FERROUS beings may make vdry ronSarN'
SWANS, but they almost invariably tuss
out shabby husbands. Therefore ,Sa
'prosaic questions Of her father ara NJ t tSs
greatest value TO the girl, who NAV bar avg
been duped by a fraud. a.. s
{ H.happens often, too, that the lou;s,
course OF friendship between bacS S'
elor and maiden will at length run IN
to love. The trouble about affection ~
reached, however, is that it NAV be fs,,
by one of them and not by the other.
and in most such cases the woman il tbs
sufferer. The woman waits in vain f.,
the proposal she expects, and to which
she is ready to give.a favorable answer
and at last she finds she has no EXCHANGE
in kind for her affection, and perbass
has to tremble at the wedding OF the r.
responsive man to another. n i''i''
This is bad business, and oir,
should. AVOID getting into such entangle
nlents, land, men. should. not lead them
into them. 1t is a mean thing for fell.
low to pay marked attentions to GIRL
and wantonly tantalize her with doubts
as, to whether they express love or not
Yet the womansiis often enough the
chief one to blame in such affairs. for
she encourages the attentions in the
hope OF stimulating the tender passion
in the man. Then, if she fails, she has
no right to. find fault with him.. The
fish didn't bite-that is all. s,.l
A young lady asks our advice about
what she shall do with young man
who fails to speak up, though he has had
plenty of opportunities to exercise his
speech, and presumably would get an
affirmative answer if he ventured to put
the momentous' question:.
4 SIR: Your supreme sense Of equity
prompts me to ask the following:
"When man has kept steady company
with a lady for two or three years, and he
has never, had the manIinessI to tell her
whether he means friendship or matrimony
his attentions having led her friends to be.
lieve he means the latter-wOuld it not be
right and proper for her to tell him that
their intimacy must cease unless he can tell
her what she is tolunderstand by his latten.
tions? Do you not think lady is wanting.
in self-respect to tolerate such asSurancey
vu.Hrvl GAN INTERESTED PARTY"
y There is nothing to do in such case
as this except for our correspondent to
gradually withdraw herself from the So
ciety Of the young man who is SO reti-
cent about love. She can'tt take him by
the throat and compel him to make her
proposal of marriage. She can only
wait until he chooses to make it. But
if she entertains for him the sentiments
she seems to express In her letter, she
ought to let him sec that she doesn't
wish him dawdling about her any
longer. Moreover, she isn't in
a fit frame, of mind towards
him to marry him, even if he did
unfetter his tongue. She needn't tell
him plumply that his intimacy with her
must cease-that would look like fishing
for an offer, which is all unmaidenly
business-but she can stop the intimacy.
Then, if his attentions have really meant
what she wished them to mean, he may
wake up to the idea that lovemaklng
which doesn't end in an offer OF mar
riage can not be pursued Indefinitely. NO
lady of self-respect tolerates impertinent
assurance in a man, nor does such a Ia
dy choose her intimate friends among
men she deems lacking in manlilness'
Still, our correspondent would probably
think far better of this fellow, and doubt
less she would have good reason to 40
so, if instead of lowering on the brink
of love he plunged into the current ana
hazarded the consequences. A man VINO
is not brave enough to do that is 2 poor
Specimen of humanity, and deserves 70
be Stunned of women. But OF allthlngs
don't exhibit any signs of pique to Inns
slothful swain. That would only pe W
feed his self.love.-NeU York san.