The morning star and Catholic messenger., 1878-12-29
TIE MODEL HUSBAND AND VIE.
Boston Pilot.

| Boston Pilot.
| The course of lectures at the Rooms of
the Cathohc Union of Boston, was inau-
gurated by splendid lecture on the above
subject by Professor w. J. Philips, of
New Jersey. Professor Philips was for.
merry an Episcopaliau clergy man, and was
received iuto the Catholic Church some
years ago. Until recently he has been
| professor of English literature at Seton
Hall college, in South Orange, n. j. He
was introduced to his audience by Father
Bodhsh, who was associated with him in
| the Episcopal ministry. After briefly
alluding to the charm and the sauctity Of
home, and presenting picture of what
christian home should be, the speaker
remarked: Why are not all homes as God
intended them to be In my researches
and stndies, l have found that the fault
lies chiefly with the husband-the first to
ind fault, the fret to scold, the first to
bring over the domestic hearthstone the
cloud of dissatisfaction and discomfort To
an unkind word, AL unkind look, though
unintentiOnal, can be traced the cause of
the flight of the brightness and the warmth
OF the sunshine of the honey moon. Now,
the wife expects juat the opposite of ali
this. She is woman, and her feelings
are not to bs tritied with. The heart that
was opened to her in courtship must not
! change its aspect in the more practical
phazes OF married life. When the wife
mods her husband in hurry to leave homo
in the morning for his place of business
when she finds that he is in haste to leave
her at night to meet his friends, or atteud
meeting; when, may hap, he comes home
to her half drunk, or wholly drunk when
she notices all these things, then patience
ceases to be virtue. She does not show
her sorrow openly. Oh no, he may treat
her dlsdalnfully he may slight her con-
tinualiy, but even then beams from her
face the smile and the spark of the old love.
In hon
night her pillow is wet with sacred tears
She who has left home for him deserves
better than all this. You can mould the
woman who loves You as you please. Here
the speaker administered a scathng re-
buke to the man who dares to beat his
vile. He advised the wives of wfe-b
ers to tie their husbands up in sheet, aud |
call in all the women in the neighborhood |
and stick pins and needles in him until he |
was dead. And, said he, no Jury would |
convict them of nanslaughter, as the brute |
who would lift tis hand to strike wo-
man did not possess those qualities which |
go to make up man. Keep your mar
riage vows. The root of all the discord |
of married life may be traced to the break |
ing of vows as their first cause. The man |
forgets the promise that he has made |
to love and cherish her whom he has taken |
for better or worse. He violates the sacred |
command of the Church. He abuses his
toA ShCA AL bcbo SIo Gu6 uHKR0T1 |
that pierce her heart. Men belttle love.
They take advantage Of the long suffering
nature and the purity of the love of a wo-
mans soul. We cannot detract from the |
power of beauty. 1t has been called the
armor of woman. It may call forth pas
sion and "frst love" but this is not real
love. A person thus afflicted loses reason,
becomes intoxicated, puts her between
God and himself; he tramples upon the
advice and morals of the Church. Pure |
ove is spiritual, unselfsb, and is attracted
more by internal than by external beauty.
The model husband and wife will never
allow breach Of the respect and tender
1ess which they owe to one another to
occur. They will not allow single word
'r glance to mar their early love. A man
not a model husband) comes home at
light and kisses his children, and makes
much of them, and then Gays to his wife:
We'll, old woman, how is everything Z"
1e don't mean it. He Gays he loves her
ust the same, only he can't show it. But
he feels it and it cuts her to the quick.
he must have constant evidences of his
ove. She wants him to kiss her twenty {
i've times a Gay. No matter what your
rife may be, she is your wife, aud she is
ntitled to every mark of affection. Many
woman who deserves it is made TO fret
,r the want OF it. Mere kindness is due
ven to animals. That ia not enough for
oman. He must be affectionate and
OF by fits aud starts, like mercury tha.
ses to fever heat to day aad freezes to-
Iorrow. The model husband never
sases his devotedness. He loves her L
hen the charms of beauty have flown be- {:
re blighting disease, he loves her when O.
se has made her bat shrivelled shado RI
her former self. a,
The lecturer drew beautiful word
cture of silver wedding in which the q
lsband, a Philadelphia merchant, apos
iznA fA ln toll In,
z and feeling eloquence. Professor Phil NJ
= then took up the other side of the
hjoct, and showed what essentials were .
,crssary in order to make model wife of 70
~omnn. He spoke of the love a woman lcl
oI!d cultivate in berself for household a.
lties. He remarked on woman's rights
st woman had wrongs which should be Of
GIFTED. Unequal wages was one of them,
d to illustrate he referred to the wages EEE
at are paid to female school teachers in ~
N parisOn to those that are paid to men. !
Ie 80 called woman's rights associations p,
st aim to take woman out of her true >