Keowee courier. [volume] (Pickens Court House, S.C.) 1849-current, 1878-05-02
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,ADyioE TO "A NEWLY MARRIED MAN FROM IAN |
ExpRRlENcED DHHsDior. e.

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s FRleND Il is to be presumed that
you have chosen q wife after mature reflection,
and not alone from aelish impulses. Never
theleBs, do not imagine that ou can possibly
have foreseen NIL the duties, responsibilities,
and oven trials 70 which married life may
render you liable In your intimate relation.
ship and companionship you and yoaf wife
light. You will find defects in her, and che
in you, which can only be properly met by
ono course, and that is mutual conoiliation.
Strive to see which con exercise tho greatest
leniency towards each other. The secret Of
happiness in married life s mutual confidence.
Trust ono another. IIave no secrets from
ono another. By all means, never oall in q
family jars.
You will be more than human, If you and
your wife can always perfectly agree. but,
whilo you cannot prevent differences, you can
prevent any OWL consequences arising from
them. Ify you have trouble. keep il to your
self and wife. Compromise will sooure you
undoubted happiness. BY all means mover
mischiof,n brooding and pouting, Don't bo
ashamed Of yielding wien you dro suro you
are in the right. There Il no sacriace or
| self-denial in Yielding only whom you are in
the wrong. You must consult your wife'e
whims and oapriocs as we'll as her reasonable
desires. Mankind is generally governed by
the passions; not by the reason. There is no
| because you think them unreasonable. Wo.
men have at times tho privilege Of being uno
reasonable. ttsa
Avoid personal habits which are offensive
| to your wife; or, If you cannot avoid them
altogether, avoid them in her presence
Keep clear your wifo's relations, and have
her keep clear of yours, in all business
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form antipathies to the relations Of each other
those antipathes must be consulted. and If
not removed, must be respected, or else your
family jars will BIO humorous and irreconcili>
bio.
Let your married life begin with systematic
| frugality. Devote q specific proportion Of
your income to the future of your family.
Your savings will in this way augment almost
impercoptiply, and place you above asking
favors.
Live within Jour means, and nobody will
know how much you hGve ahead; but the
moment you borrow o cent people know how
poor you nro.
Go it while you arc young. The duties Of
q house and family will como soon enough.
Take it easy while you may in your early
married life.
Be patient, and wait aud watch and-:pray.
just previous to tho birth Of your first child
you will possibly find yonr wife fretful, cross,
pcevish, pouty and troublesome, just its many
good, kind, amiable and loting women have
been before her. If suoh should be- the case.
don't got mad, doa't OK expostulate, don't sebuko
or reproach her. Tho best thing you can do
is to grin and bear it. The first smile of the
baby will stop it and pay for oil you have
endured.
Don't think yourself Immaculate and Sc,
yourself up as q patrn for your wife. If
she wants to 60 to church and you don't
remember it may not do you any harm to gc
to church. Don't scold your wife, and dom,
beat your children, If you have any. Toach
your children by example. Be copy to,
them. Excuso them for such of your faalt-
rs they inherit Don't bequcath them husty
temper and then whip them for it. Don't
gossip before them and punish them. for gos'
slipping, Don't prevent them from rompine
or having minds Of their own. Don't frights
en- them with ghost stories. Dof't lie tc
them. Don't neglect to give them anything
you promise them-even punishment DOM
forget that you wero child onoe, ind do as
you would have had others do to you.
Don't got crazy If you have q few buttons
OFF your shirt. Remember all the time thu
yoa are poor. weak mortal, liable to err
and in ali probability no moro perfect thar
your.wi(c.
Bathe often, look after your health, ant
never 60 homo drunk. Yours, JOHN.