Staunton vindicator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1860-1896, 1878-05-10
Welded LIFE.
Advice to Newly Married Man from al
Experienced Benedict.

| experienced DeQeulCG.
We take the following from the New
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FRIEND: It is to be presumed tina
you have chosen wife after mature re-
Election, and not alone from selfish impul
ses- Nevertheless, do not imagine that yor
can possibly have foreseen all the duties
responsibilities, and even trials to which
married life may render you liable. In
your Intimate relationship and companions
snip you and your wife will appear to each
other in entirely new light. You will
find defects in her, and she in you, whic b
can only be properly met by one cou rse,
and that is, mutual Cancellation. Strive
to see which can exercise the greatest len
iency toward each other. The secret of
happiness in married life is mutual conf
dence. Trust one another. Have no Sc
crets from one another. By all means,
never call in third party to interfere in
any way in any family jars. You will be
more than human if you aud your wife can
always perfectly agree, but, while you can
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promise, preventany evil consequences aris-
ing from them. If you have trouble, keep it
to yourself and wife. Compromise will Sc
cure undoubted happiness. BY all means
never allow quarrel to last over night
There is mischief in brooding and pouting.
Don't be ashamed of yielding when you
are in the right. There is no sacrifice or
self-denial in yielding when you are in the
wrong. You must consult your wife's
whims and caprices, as we'll as her reason
able desires. Mankind is governed by the
passions not by the reason. There is no
excuse for trampling upon wlfe's desires
because you think them unreasonable
Women have at times the privilege of be-
ing unreasonable.
Avoid personal habits which are often
sive to your wife; or, if you cannot avoid
them altogher, avoid them in her presence.
Keep clear Of your wife's relations, and
have her keep clear of yours, in all business
matters if possible. If either of you should
form antipathies to the relations of the
other, those antipathies must be consulted
and if not removed, must be respected, or
else your family jars will be numerous and
irrecOncilable.
Let your married life begin with syste
matte frugality. Devote a specific proper
ton of your income to the future of your
family. Your savings will, in this way,
augment almost imperceptibly, and place
you above asking favors.
Live within your means, and nobody will
know how much you have ahead but the
moment you borrow cent, people know
how poor you are.
Go it while you are young. The duties
of a house and family will come soon
enough. Take it easy while you may in
your early married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch and
pray. just previous to the birth of your
first child you will possibly find your wife
fretful, cross, peevish, pouty, and troubl e.
some, just as many good, kind, amiable,
and loving women have been before her.
If such should be the case, don't get mad,
don't expostulate, don't rebuke or re-
proach her. The best thing you can do is
to grin and bear it. The first smile of the
baby will stop it and pay for all you have
endured.
Don't think yourself immaculate and
set yourself up as pattern for your wife.
If she wants to 60 to church and you don't,
remember that it may not do you any
harm to go to church. Don't scold your
wife, and don't beat your children if you
have any. Teach your children by exam
pie. Be copy for them. Excuse them
for such of your faults as they inherit.
Don't bequeath them hasty temper and
then whip them for it. Don't gossip be-
fore them and punish them for gossipping
Don't prevent them from romping and
having minds of their own. Don't fright |
en- them with ghost stories. Don't lie to
them. DON'T neglect to give them any
thing you promise them--ev punishment.
Don't forget that you were child once,
and do as you would have others do to you.
Don't get crazy if you have few but.
tons off your shirts. Remember all the |
time that you are poor, weak mortal, liza
BILE to err, and in all probability no more
perfect than your wife.
Battle often, look after your health. and
never go home drunk.
Yours, JOHN.