The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1878-05-23
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Experienced Benedict iSus
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From the New York sun9'
FRIEND -: 1t is to be pre,un,,
that you have chosen q wife sfts saae
ture reflection, and not alone from y. "
ish impulses. Nevertheless, do mt y, ' l;
agine that you can possibly have tl -
seen all the duties, responsibilif;ss 'o's
even trials to which married l ifs ~ y
render you liable. In your intims,a
lationship and companionskip yoa Won =,
your wife will appear to each otber;.
entirely new light. You will fnd i !
fects in her, and she in you, which y y
only be properly met by one course :
that is, mutual cancellation. Striyss
see which can exercise the or ,.s
leniency toward each other. The ssss'
of happiness in married life is mu,a.,
confidence. Trust one another. Hs'
no secrets from one another. r. N
means, never call in third party Il ! |
terfere in any way in any family iss
You will be more than human il Won J.,
your wife can always perfectly agree M
while you can not prevent difference,
you can prevent any evil consequeues
arising from them. If you hays troubs
keep it to yourself and wife. Compom;s
will secure you undoubted happiues
By all means never allow a Quarrel I
last over night. There is misehisf l
brooding and pouting. Don't Nj
ashamed of yielding when you are nm
you are in the right. There is no sssr.
fee or self-denial in yielding only Th,|
you are in the wrong. You must cur.
suit your wife's whims and caprices s|
well as her reasonable desires. Man
kind is generally governed by the d.,
sions, not by the reason. There is nj
excuse for tramping upon wiie's al
sires because you think them unreason
able. Women have at times the pry
| ilege of being unreasonable.
| Avoid personal habits which are d.
fensive to your wife; or, if you can hot
avoid them altogether, avoid them n
her presence. Keep clear of your wiesl
relations, and have her keep clear II
yours, in all business matters il posi-
bic. If either of you should form an
tipathies to the relations OF the othsl
those antipathies must be consulted, and
| if not removed, must be respected, ii
else your family jars will be numerou
and irreconcilable.
Let your married life begin with sys.
tematic frugality. Devote specific
proportion of your income to the future
of your family. Your savings willn
this way augment almost impercepdbly,
and place you above asking favors.
/ Live within your means, and nobody
will know how much you have ahead
but the moment you borrow . cent peo'
pie know how poor you are.
Go it while you are young. The d.
ties of house and family will CONF
soon enough. Take it easy while yog
may in your early married life.
Be patient, and wait and watch shd
pray. Just previous to the birth q
your first child you will possibly fnl
your wife fretful, cross, peevish, pouty
and troublesome, just as many good
kind, amiable, and loving women ha1
been before her. If such should be th
case, don't get mad, don't expostalsts
don't rebuke or reproach her. Theoe
thing you can do is to grin and bear !
The first smile of the baby will stop
and pay for all you have endured.
| Don't think yourself immaculate sn
set yourself up as pattern for you
wife. If she, wants to 60 to church On
You don't, remember that it may not
you any harm to go to church. Don
scold your wife, and don't beat Jos
children, if you have any. Teach yosl
children by example. Be copy !
them. Excuse them for such OF yos
faults as they inherit. Don't beques
them a hasty temper and then WI
them for it. :. Don't gossip before tne
and punish them for gossiping. Don
prevent them from romping or haVll
minds of their own. Don't frigaI'
them with ghost stories. Don't 10.
them. Don't neglect to give them !: y
thing you promise .them-eyen punls
ment. Don't forget that you TeEs
child once, and do as you wetld na'
had others do to you. s.nssloa. [. I.
Don't get crazy if you have feE q y \
tons off your shirts. Remember gu
time that you are poor, weak more
liable to err, and in all probaohny
more perfect than your wife. 4
! Battle often, look after your nssu
and never 60 home drunk. foul ",