The Iola register. [volume] (Iola, Allen County, Kansas) 1875-1902, 1878-04-27
A Word on the Other Side.

and even that cheap commodity by cOur-
tesy addressed "to married people" is
mostly one sided and intended for the
ears of the weaker sex only. We can
scarcely pick up paper without read
ing the oft reiterated Injunction to /" al
ways meet him with q smile" (whatev-
er may be his delinqueneies), to be cal
ways neatly dressed (whatever work
on handy, to "never complain" to him
(whatever the weight of your cares), and
all the rest of it which every body knows
so well.
For the sake of a more evenly bal
anced state of things, let US administer
little of the same dose to the other side
of the house, on the old principle that
"what is sauce for the goose is sauce
for the gander.'
Husbands should always appear be-
fore their wives in neat and becoming
attire. Remember that is one of your
chief attractions during courtship. A
man is not at all beautiful en- dishabille,
and how can you expect to retain a
woman's love if you suddenly drop all
the Establishments that won it? Hus-
bands, be neat. Never come to break
fast with hair looking like ga
fig tree shaken by mighty
wind" or soiled collar and neck
tie all awry. Never lounge
about of late hour in the evening in
stocking feet, sans coat and vest, and
with slouchy suspenders. Had she
CHANGED to see you thus in counting
DAYS, it would have taken avast amount
of romance out of her, depend upon it.
Suppose your circumstances in life are
such that you must assist in doing the
morning Chores" then steal to your
room before she has seen you, and there
change the working-coat for the dress
ng-gown, polish your boots and make
yourself presentable, that no suggestion
of the barn-yard may accompany you
to the breakfast-table. The look of
fond regard that will surely greet you
from behind the fragrant coffee-pot will
be sufficient reward.
Never wear a clouded or angry coun-
tenance in the presence of your wife.
No matter what the cares and annoy
ances of the day have been, before her
you should be all sunshine. Thus you
will make her happy and forget your
own troubles. In her own sphere she
has her petty vexations to bear that
would break the spirit of any man alive.
Don't add the burden of yours too.
If the children are noisy or peevish,
quiet and amuse them with as much
tact as possible, in order that you dis.
turb not their mother, who, in the even
ing, should find that rest and tranquility
that will prepare her for the duties of
another day. Above all, allow no inn
patient word to arise to your lips should
your wife object to your spending money
on such selfish qualifications as ex-
pensive brandies and choice cigars,
while she is economizing in many little
ways. Though you may think her in
the wrong, you had better be ruled by
her wishes, as thus you may avoid flu
ture unpleasantness.
If you wish to be the true companion
of your wife, don't allow yourself to de-
generate into mere drudge and money
catcher. Keep your intellect refreshed
by perusing good books; read the things
she reads, and repeat to her the news,
both political and general, that you have
CLEANED in the world outside her sphere.
Bear in mind that many overtaxed
wives are mere bundles of nerves, SO to
speak, and subject to a thousand and
one limitations that enter not into man
philosophy to even comprehend; there
fore, write it in your heart and prove in
your daily walk and conversation that
ga soft answer turneth away wrath, but
grievous words stirup anger. "-Fannie
b Ward