The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1878-09-12
LADIES COLUMN.
HARoL1NE HAROLD, EDITOR.
Wives.

Will "The Household" permit an
old lady (who has seen more than
three score and ten years to say a
few words on the husband and wife
question. 1 mention the age as an
excuse for deficiency. AS regards
our duty as wives no one will pre-
tend to deny that a wife should in
all cases be respectful to her hus
band. That happiness which is of
the utmost Importance to US, is of
ten the result of seemingly little
things. In this case l think it al
most exclusively so. Young per
sons, when first commencing their
duties as wives, too often neglect
to examine both sides of the pic
ture and it not unfrequently hap
pens that at too late a period
they have become fully aware that
it requires much more assiduous
attention to retain the husbands
affections, than it did in the first
place to gain them. Before marri
age they have as matter of
course) been studiously presented
to each other to the best possible
advantage. They have discovered
only the most beautiful and lovely
traits of character that each pos
sess. After a more intimate ac-
quaintance of everyday life their
faults and blemishes will appear, as
it is known that none of us are
without them.
The young wife does not at first
apprehend the difference between
the lover and the husband. He
may be (perhaps from necessity
engrossed with a multitude of cares
and business, which will render
him less attentive, but she, instead
of repining at apparent neglect,
should make it an important part
of her business to be the more at
tentive. She should with affection
and gentleness study the character
Of her husband, and try to learn in
what way she can best add to his
comfort or lessen his cares. Never
let your brow be clouded by dis
trust, GOODNESS or indifference. If
you perceive any cause for ill-feel-
ing persevere in your kindness, and
it will soon disappear The hus-
band may have trials and veXations
of which the wife is ignorant; he
may sometimes appear in rather a
fretful mood or make some hasty
remark. Be cautious dear woman
how you manage; beware of the
first unkind word; do not speak
sharply in return, but remember
the proverb which says ga soft an
swer turneth away wrath" Do not
cherish the vague idea that to show
yuor independence of your husband
is a mark of dignity. The Deepen
dence of each should be mutual,
and it is the acknowledgement of
this mutual dependence upon which
rests the foundation of their happi
ness. IT'S not necessary the world
should know how much they are
dependent upon each other; but
this mutual dependence should exist,
still 1 would have it more apparent
on the part of the wife.
The husband is the head; they
feel that we're dependent on them, so
we are, and we should feel so too,
and look TO them for counsel and
advice. There is a special duty for
the wife, let her attachments be
what they may. Should it so hap
pen, as it possibly might, that she
was a little the more intelligent, the
smartest in some things, ? would
not have her be too sensible of it.
Never speak degradingly of your
husband. Let us appear blind to
our husbands faults, but diligently
search out our own. Endeaver to
make home pleasant, our tireside
agreeable; be always cheerful if
possible, in our husbands presence,
that he may think home more
pleasant than any other place, Be
assured your efforts will not be in
VAIN. There will be q silent appeal
upon the sympathy of the husband
and you will be cared for indeed. /
think the number of bad husbands
would be comparatively less if the
wife properly understood her rela-
tions towards him. A few lines
from "Adam and Ewes wedding
hymn"
"The woman was not taken from Adams
head, we know,
SO she mnst not be ruler, it's evidently so;
The woman was not taken from Adams feet,
we see,
So he must not abuse her, the meaning seems
TO be.
But the woman she was taken from under
Adams arm,
So she must be pr detected from injury or harm
Cossopolis, Mich. GRANDPA 5.
Self-Esteem.