The Portland daily press. [volume] (Portland, Me.) 1862-1921, 1878-10-24
lFrom Her latest Novel, friendship
Ouida's Teachings.

Passion must be remembered to be known
A very trustful woman believes in her lovers s
fidelity with her heart; very vain woman be-
lieves in it with her head.
Passion will pardon rage will survive all
sence, will forgive infidelity, will even thrive
on outrage, and will often condoue a crime:
but when it dies OF familiarity, it is dead for
ever and aye
A woman'S violence is mighty power. be-
fore It reason recoils unnerved, Justice uuails
appalled,, and peace perishes like burnt-up
scroll; II is a sand storm, before which courage
can do but little; the bravest man can bat fall
on his face and let it rage on above him.
The untruthfulness of women communicates
itself to the man whose chief society they form.
and the perpetual necessities of Intrigue end i'm
corruptlng the temper whose chief pursuit is
passion. Women who environ mans fidelity
by ceaseless suspicion and exactiou create the
evil that they dread.
man cannot perhaps know all that wom-
an suffers from his infdelity. Hers to him
may wrong his pride and his passions with a
great agony, but it cannot seem all at once to
bring intense humiliation, intense desecration
personal and spiritual, with it as does his to
her. 1t cannot make him ashamed to exist
as it makes her.
The art of pleasing is more based on the ar.
OF seeming pleased than people think of, aud
woman disarms the prejudices of her enemies
Dy the unaffected delight she appears to take
In themselves. You may think very i'll of a
woman, but, after all, you cannot speak very
III Oh ner II she has assured you hundred
times that you are among her dearest friends.
In society women hate one another. Ali the
more because in society they have to smile in
each others faces every night of their lives.
Only think what that il, my dear!-to grudge
each others conques.s, ~ envy each others
diamonds, to study each Others dress, to watch
each others wrinkles, to outshne each other
always on every possible oc ,asiop, big or little.
and yet always to be oblige to give pet names
to each other and visit each other with elabo-
rate ceremonial. Why, women must bate each
other
The old proverb that, between two, ona Ia al.
ways booted and spurred, the other a.wavs cod
died and bridled, is true. 1t Is INT an ns,;nr;,n
of mind, or of character or of .,erson That AZ,
tarmines which shall ride AID which sha1 H.
ridden; 1t is generally rather the result of Ger.
tain nardnt 50 OF temper which determines the
supremacy. Tsker. roughly, it NAV he ssfaiv
preolc5ed tnat It Gill always be the highest ma.
ture which will submit. Often it is tho isde
tnat rules tne hero, the fool that has his feet
Kissed py che genius.
on people who are very clever, or verv
proud, or very careless, neyer-pardon ma.
succeed with society You make a stir in II
perhaps but that never lasts long; you won't
take the pains TO please it; and it soon leaves
you for people who do. witty thing comes
!ueo YOUR heal, ana you say it, careless wnom
IL may mt. You are bored by the vanity of
otner foik, and you show it, indifferent where
you may offend. You won't concliate big little
people, and they in their spite set the big. big
people against you. So the SNOWFALL grows.
ana one day 1t gets large enough and hard
enough TO knock you out of society altogether
feople must make themselves agreeable to he
agreeable to the world; yes, and eat GOOD deal
OF dusI, too; that c0ncede. If they are very
nigh and mighty BY birth and all the rest of II.
0, course they can be as dsagreeable as thew
cnoose, and make others eat the dust always
but II not, there is nothing for it but to toady
The people with fine brains and with pener-
GUS sous VIII never learn that life is, after all,
only game-a game which will 90 to the
shrewdest player and the coolest. They never
see this; not they; they are caught on the edge
OF great passions and swept away bv them'
They cling to their affections like commapders
to sinking shiDs, and go down with them. They
put tneir whole heart into the hands of others.
VINO only laugh and wiring out their life-blood.
They take ali things too vitally in earnest.
Lne 10 10 tnem wonderful. passionate, pa.
tne.ic, terrible thing that the gods of love and
OF death shape for them. They do not see that
co'lness and craft, and the tact to seize acci-
aent, ana sne warIness to obtain advantage, do
10 reality far more in hewing out Successful
future than all the gods of Greek or Gentle.
Ihey are very unwise. 1t is of no use to brealr
their hearts for the world; they will not change
1t. LIE cutie de Phunaanite is one of all Others
which will leave despair as its harvest. Lauoh
like Rabelais, smile like Montaisne; that is the
way to take the world 1t ouly puts co death liza
Sebastians, and makes its Philips not sorrowfnl
to see the boat is filing.