Watertown republican. [volume] (Watertown, Wis.) 1860-1906, 1877-04-11

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loveliest of her sex of the sorrows of
q widower, and she will probably re-
ply: "That is q grief for which he will
soon find consolation" Announce the
engagement of such one In any Cir
Gle of friends, and the feminine por-
ton will Immediately begin to count
the months and years since the death
of his former wife. There will be OBJ
servations upon the transitory nature
of human affections, and the quality
Of forgetfulness which inheres in men.
Yet the severity Of Womanly comment
on a mans second marriage is tenn
pered with mildness, most women be-
ing conscious Of q tolerable pity
for the helplessness and loneh.
ness of male creature left to take
care of himself, or to battle through
the world with children. It is to wo-
men that they look for fidelity beyond
the reach of another love. The widow
who lays aside her weeds, and gives
herself once more to welded joys, is
felt by many Of her married sisters to
have lost caste, and is imagined by
some of the unmarried to have done
them a personal wrong. She has
stepped from the niche, sanity and re-
vered, where her dark days placed her,
and descended to the ordinary COM
monplace level of life. It is not in
India only that the wife is thought
most of who is willing to immediate her
self on her husbands funeral pile.
Equally are there communities in the
United States where she who is "a
widow indeed" occupies station quite
unapproached in its exceptional rever-
ence, and where she who seems to
listen again to matrimonial overtures
is thought to have forfeited little of
| the traditional esteem with which SYM
pathy has invested her.
The foundation of this unformulated
creed of society is built broadly on the
respect We all feel for true love. Love
is strong as death, we say, with sup
plement in our hearts, to the effect that
it ought to be stronger. Its silver cord
should not be loosened, though the
angels stretch it over into the shadowy
land whittier our beloved have been
taken. We miscalculate the length Of
labcrious days, lighted by happy
memories, but dimmed by present
tears. We forget how hard it is to
keep fresh and vivid the impressions
of kisses unrenewed, of touches no
longer tangible, and voices hushed. We
do not estimate the force of the re-
bound by which the SOUL desolate,
weary, unstrung, lacerated in its finest
sensibility, turns to receive the sweet
ness of some gentle compassion, or
some tender comprehension. Often it
is those whose welded lives have been
most united, flowing on like q poem set
to fitting music, who seem soonest to be
ready to rear a new temple on the ruins
of the old. Perhaps in their case the
heart-hunger is the deepest, and the
vacant needs most to be filled. What
ever may be the reason, it is fact be-
You'd denial that many second marriages
so far as the world can see, are more
satisfying and felicitous than the first
were. The choice Of the man in the
maturity of the powers is often quite
other from the selection Of his youth.
| No doubt in 8 second marriage there
is less of the element Of falling in love,
and more of sober Judgment. The
youth was won by the pretty face, with
it's soft curves, its sea-shell tinting, its
swift. bushes and dewy freshness.
Propinquity had much to do with his
decision. He lived near her fathers
house. They sang in the same choir.
They went to the same church.
Neither had emerged from the crudi-
ties of adolescence, or knew to what
manner of man or woman the soul
within them would grow, when they
plighted their troth and took on them
solemn vows. Whether in the close
ness of daily companionship they
would become knit and blended into g.
completeness which is possible only to
quality when love unites it, or whether
they would find life hopelessly halved,
was a problem they could not resolve.
No second marriage ought to be the re-
suit of passing fancy or the product
of caprice. Love should be real and
pure, but it should be deeper than a
sentiment. It should dare to look
open-eyed at the chances it has for de-
velopment into that perfect affection
which is based upon tastes, aims and
education in common.
. Fashion Notes.
BUNTING parasols are the novelty for
spring and summer use.
CAMEL'sHAR grenadine is the novelty