The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-12-13

Can n Lost Love be Rcgainedt
The philosophc mind finds much food for
reflection in the letters which the lovers
write to THE sun They come from the old
and the young, and bear witness To the fact
that the tender passion is one of the most
powerful Influences which sway oar race. A
great poet might study these frank confess
sions with profit, and romanccr could
weave out Of them tale of extraordinary
interest. The insight they give into the
hearts Of the public is clear and true.
II is crcdtablc to the lovers that they
unanimously state their eases with almost
llOmcric simplicity. I his enables the adj
wiser to at once understand their feelings.
and to give the qucstioncrs appropriate
counsel Perhaps the young women some
times exaggerated little, and now and again
n practical joker among men thinks he can
escape our vigilance; but, a. rule. our love
correspondents, who are numbered by the
hundred, are too much in earnest to try to
play any futile tricks. They feel the need of
sage advice. and they therefore 80 detail
the circumstances Of their cases az to enable
Us to give it.
From great pile Of those love confessions
VIZ to-day select a letter from Virginia
gentleman, who proposes fundamental
question. II Is, in brief. Can love which
has once been lost be- rcgaincd2 In pr-
vatc letter, accompanying his subjoincd
communication, he bcgs W. to give him
detailed Judgment upon the matter, and he
shall bc graticd. This Is HE Ease.
sR The courteous. lucid and comprehensive opinions
suhm ti'd through the ever Interesting columns Tue
srN % c many foc,u mlui.c. of tho-, whose tender
passion nvokcs tho aid salient and wise counsel u
dncc me to secA your advice hroush this commumca-
uun
About nyc years since there was Young and charming
dam-cl OF sixteen -umiuors whose mobile quaiit.r. OF
mind and heart clustering AMID thc sweet ai cofios
mumnceurr ui pnerna hoir became to me the sweet
est s"utre q" Nouinnl thouaht Was then bat nineteen
years ct age, bo kwurn. with no other care. hut n,
hooh AMI that culuvatn- the sweetest emotions for
| IriV the Nrnus of ilc Valley
Ibccaue frequent caller at her fathers home durn.
the hrs year Of our acquaintance soon. yes. a,asl
tear toO soon learned love tins ans, creature, whom
| tile scTaI h. might envy
avowed ms most tender emotions for her She toll
me that she uN rociprocatrd love assuring me that
idd not love IN vain that The jewel casket
was IA all canlor mine W. often rode walked and tn
various way passed many b-.iu hours together Then
the autumn Of 1873 came around. nnding the
hAppost though not cnHlged beings now desired and
would have pcHd,d earnestly. but Tor her dear tender
r""s of being too young, that she would me. Her
parents d sir,d that she should nd boarding .ehoo
tor at hast two Soon size told me that she souid
cave home after about three week.. and shuud be a.
ut tor nearly ten month.
The time came for h'r cpnrinrc. twuit no engage
oui, implied cliara.te She asked ma, g., t
love her true and Just AMI live in the hs.f Ncctacv
that our hopes and oys .honi te mutual through .e
visited her nt her ~hoo in Apni. 1874 found her SGT
mobile ana true then expressed my desire for eung a.
New Orleans, whore shouii remain until November
lS73 She wished me harp, ouru an sai. re,f u.
h,r went cioist uus Ia IA, bosom renewed VOWS of
her hd'h,. u"'lhs our SEPARATION many letters were
exchanged VI, renrn 10 her showed me a ti. accom-
p'irhmen- one ~oni hoic to nnL Attending losc,.
bat not ~, Luiu b.inrr
81, sally tells that no LONGER l,sss tnop ,nn
nunial hie as bliss and, with tears declines M, most
earnest aui tender pcaiing-
That can love another !. the STRONGEST ISL, nsc Of
my u,ls me vague h"le nov rcmn.nin- Ia iue shut
the drogs from adversary Thcse poison n,, hours
h} day AMI -uiub,r -li.- though darAn... coniDs
CIV, ' ''N"ci that ma> 'Nirioaie ui. agony Of SOUL
which l. moro t"rtufius than that II lStoN Ton ne
what shah TO- inAt may resuu tho.' vanished hopes.
how may win This darling woman 90 be- nay VIE w.
hi,'- hh-- is dci"ucrn' ON your wisdom Il b
Ross ARnoH. Rockingham county Virginia
We hazard the opinion in this casc that
the charming girl is really in love with our
friend. Since she first gave her heart e.
I'M she has grown to bo a woman. and she
l. troubled with conscientious doubts.
which, by proceeding properly, he may Mt
tcrly dis-ipato. When a young woman SAYS
that she no longer looks on connuhial life
~ bliss she may think she Is telling the
truth, but she is not. Perhaps she finds
that the man for whom ahc had a fancy AT
sixteen dos not satisfy the demands of her
heart nj twonty-une. Perhaps our Virginia
bookworin has woarrd her with talking
love ONT oi his books rather than his heart.
Judging from his letter. hc seems to bee a
very sentimental man. and that sort of in
dNid0al -om"tim"s tires women, who have
sentiment enough Of their own. and expect
men to be strons and sensible
Ahrokworm. too is not apt tn hc pleasing
To the gcnilcr sex. They prefer mon Of nf-
fairs, and the pallor which the midnight oil
produces may not Ice the sort of complexion
they like There is much delight tnieg rot |
out Of good books; but fellow who ustcii-
tatously seek their society has something |
wrong about him, and he is apt 10 be- unfor-
tunate IN his love Affairs We advise our
correspondent To- lose no time in giving NJ |
being "A hookwUrni, aud talking about him |
self as one.
There Is no State in the Union which has |
grander and more varied scenery than Vir-
gnia. The colunsts who pitched their hab-
itatons IN the Old Dominion were men of
taste and dsccrnmcnt, and they were the
progcnltors OF some of the best ablest and |
handsomcst men in the republic; but they
hreathed the tine air of the Virginia hills
and did not coop themselves up in libraries.
We advise our correspondent TO follow their
example.
Can lost love be rcgained OF course
1t can There is always hope SO long IA the
girl has not transferred her affections 10
another; and the man who cannot kindle
anew in her breast the gentle flame does not
deserve TO get her.
The Pay OF Rcvivalisis.