The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1877-05-10
A Talk to the Bows.

. This morning said, "If. feel we'll
enough to-day, guess I'll write q sister.
ly little talk to the boys. You know !
hardly ever write anything for them, and
of all classes in the world, boys are my
favorites. Give me the boys, the dear,
growing young boys, the hope and prom.
ise of the nation" Just as soon as I said
that the girls began to tell me what to
say. They said, "Don't forget to tell the
boys that If they want their sisters to love
them, they must be good to them, and tell
them their secrets, and not let them take
Elong walks when they could ride as we'll
| as not and they mustn't growl over their
fine shirts and complain over every ima-
ginable annoyance, and find fault about
their food. That it is these habitual
fault finders who grow to be:unsocial and
unloyahle, and finally, detestable bores.R
Summed up, this is what the girls told
me to tell you; boys: 'Don't wear your
hats in the house be careful to keep
clean wash often; see that your hands
are not grimy and your fnger-nails un-
tidy. If you are going to clean stable,
put on old shabby boots kept for that
purpose under the manger. Take notice
how well-bred gentleman sits-how he
manages his two hands, his two legs, and
let him be your example.
Don't ever, ever, when you sit. down,
cross your legs, sprawl, turn the ,soles of
your boots up for inspection, or scoot
down in your chair until you sit on the
small of your back; YOU are q clownish
hoor if you do that, Some men will sit
gee-hawed: ano1er q chair, with an arm
up on the backaof it, and their legs
crossed, until they look no more like
man than, a figure four trap, such as we
soften see ai6ngthe creek bank; Nothing
stamps man q lout sooner than.this.s
.S NOVEL; bred young Lady will tolerate
the company. of 2 yonng man who smokes
in her presence. ltis an insult.-ssNawn-
ling and trotting your heels, and putting
9on Indifferent airs, are likewise insulting;
so. is eating noisily, or smachng your lips,
sor using hair oil and strong perfumery.
Many q good fellow<has got the mitten,
lust because he used pomades and shair
dressing, and lolled his. greasy head
against the wall. I've seen more than
one pair blue eyes snap like e'black ones
soger the pitilesss and 9mm movable spot on.
the wall just back Of the sofa. They.
ealledi IL desecration, or some such-word.
Don't use slang phrases at home, and
then they will never slip off your tongue
away from home, when you are on your
best behavior. Be polite at homes that's
the place to learn good manners; don't
be stingy about saying, "thank you,"
"much obliged" "you're very kind" to
your good mothers and sisters in your
daily intercourse with them. ri
Don't be sneaking. Frequent the So
lciety of sensible women, talk to them
and hear them talk, discuss books and.
public men, and the. topics of the day. If
youdo not understandable topics Of the,
times, 90 to the schoolmaster, or the doc
tor, or your minister, and ask him to ex-
plain and simplify and makeftsplain
enough for your comprehension: That is
thousands better, more creditable toyour-
self, and complimentary to him, than to
nod and pretend you understand when
you do. not. .!tt~: 1890
Among your lady friends be. sure you
don't tintrude your confidence uponthem;
Keep your own counsel; that issso much
better than to bore them with tales about
your poor self-your untoward circrm-
stances-tAe unkindness ofyour Relatives,
The gloomy prospects ahead of you, and
all this kind of talk. They can't assist
you; they have trials perhaps greater
than your own, and you are tax upon
their ready sympathy. ''
: When you enter room or a church,
don't 20 Aoundering in like caught fish, d
slashing to the right and to the left, flag:
ping your coat-tails about like sails. Go
gently and lightly, and respectfully. Go
TO church in good time; that is genteel
and speaks well for your bringing up.
When you make calls, don't stay too
long and weary the ladies; and don't, 1
beg of you, make the longest part of the
call between your chair and the door, .sas !.
some young men do. Don't stand and
finger the door-nob, and act as though
you were examining it to see if it in
finged upon the patent you are medita-
ting. Such tricks are very annoying to
the "girls you left behind you" and very
likely will provoke some sharp remarks
about the time you click the gate latch.