The Jackson standard. [volume] (Jackson C.H., Ohio) 1847-1888, 1877-11-01

a nlan ct quick tact aud of nu tact What
ever by au intrryi..w which he -ays one.
t,ok place b-iwrcn L.,rd Palmrrston Hn.l
Mr. B-hDes the sculptor. Al the last
sitting which Lord Palmsrsion gave him
Behnes Opsn-u the cunvsrsation with
ANY news, my lord. from Franre7 How
DO We stand with Louis NAPOLEON 2 The
Foreign Secretary raised his ey, bfuws
Tor an instant. aud quietly replied .
Really. Mr.. Behnrs. ] don't know ]
have not seen the newspapers! Brhue-,
with much talent. was one of the many
nirn who entirely missed their way Ia
lie through wasn't Of tact
Nowhere is there room for the display
ot good manners so much NJ IA cnnvrrss
tion. Wrll-manurrpd people do not talk
too much. Remembering that the first
| -yllAbie of the word conversation j. con
(~Itn.) that IL means talking with anoIh
er. they abstain from l,cturing. and arr
as ready to li'trn as To be heard They
sre neither impatient TO interrupt other
nor un~a-y when interrupted themselves
| kuo~ing that their aurcdots or sharp
reply will keep. or need not fnd utter
ante at all. they give full attention To
their companion. and do not by their
l""ks vote him bore. or AT least su in
trrruptiOn To- their own much better ~
marks. But beside the rule. that We
should not be- impatient To get ia our
| word. that few brilliant flashes OF silence
! should occur in our conversation, another
/ rule II. not To- take tor our thrme-Our
| selves We must ren-mb-r that, a. a
| rule. W" aud our concerns can be of no
more Importance tn other men than they
and 'h"ir concerns are to u Why then
| should we go over the ahusls Of our lives
/ generally aud OF our ds-ras-s in Particu
! lar To comparative strangers; why revi..w
I the hardsbIps We have suffered 10 money
matters. in love, in our prniession, or
/ loudly boast of successes in esch Of these
| departmental Why. lastly. should the
/ pride that apes humility induce "a, To i-h
/ tor compliments 10y talking al nauscam oi
our iauits2 We need not say that los
| gossip or scandstheariug is quite incom
/ pAiiblr with good ninnn-rs The occa.
SONS of silence" say Bishop Butler, "nr..
nbvious-nAm.ly when man has moth
/ ing 10 s4y. or nothing but what il better
unsSid; better either in regard Co snn-
particular prisons he l. prrs..nt with, or
frnni ifs hsiug Nh interruption Co cnnvrr-
s-tinn Of a more agr. eal,l+ kind. or bet
/ ter. lastly, wit regard To- himself
4 we'll hammered man is courteous o.
all sorts aud cnnditinus oi uirn ll, j.
respectful tu his Inirriois a. we'll ~ to
bis equals aud -uyrriuT- llutATing the
| imsRe of God ~ every mzu. he gpsd
mannsrS ar not reserved tor lh.' lew who
can psy fnr them. or who make them.
selves f..aird Like tie s-utle rumn-r
arr, his eivIlity plays r"und all alike
Il The love and admiration. saw C.nru
King-ley. which that truly brave And
lIving man Sir Sidney Smith ~un ir'.m
every one. r'cb aud p"ur, with ~h"m b.
came in contact srrms To have sri-rD
from the one fact. that without, p.-rbsp-.
having Hny such c"nse'nus mt ntt"n. BE-
Ir--st,-d r,ch and ,,,.or hi- own >, ryant..
end the nablrnIrn his lue.t,. al k'', and
alike couri+uu.ly copsid~fHt.iy. curer-
iully, aff-ctlOnaiely-so irayins "a Ll...s
ng nni r.sping a bl-rsing wh-rrvrr h-
w'ut. Certainly the working classes Of
England. however respectful they may
b- t0 lhn-r whnm--Olt-u tor interested
r~asous-thcy call "th'.ir hettrrs, are isr
from bring sufficiently polI;. To each
other Why should not British lal0rrr-
when they m-et take off th-ir hats To
..sch Dthrr. and cpuItrOu-ly ak after
Mrs Hardwofk aud family There 0.
not momrHt of their lives the ,njny
n.ut of which might not b.. snhahc. Il
by kiudliuess OF this SOrt-ih the work
shop. ip the street. or st LOm~
We know that extr-ni-, meet. and
there j. db ovrrciviiIty that b~com.s lr--
than civil. b.cause IL iufc-s people Co st
contrary TO thrir inclinatious. Well
hammered people chu-ult the wishes oi
uthrrs Father than their own. They do
not procrrd in tyrsnnical msnn"r To-
prescribe what their friends -hall eat and
drink. nor do they put them IA th" awk
ward position oi having To an-w-r q
Al.
msnt. wnrn guests refuse an offered
ciyility, We ought not to press t. when
they d.sir'. To- leave our huu-'.. IL !, really
b,d MANNERS To lock tha stahlr-duor. hid.
their hats aud nave rrcnur-e To similar
nrtiiic.- to prevent their dong -. A.
how. v,r. til. gal of ho-Dit,,lity without
know l,.dge il a good fault, and one tot
too common, there i perhaps no need To-
say .nure about il. IL leans 10 virtues
side.
We must not confouud etiquette with
good manners, ior the arbitrary rules Oi
the former are very often absurd aud
d FIR in various Ag-s and countri'-s
whereas good manners FOUNDED a. they
sre on cOmmon-srnse, are always and
everywhere the same Ii would b. in.
y'dous to illustrate this assertion from
the society OF our own Country. - We
etiquette from japan. la The Goit'e
Lie. the following account j. given by u
resident ~ the Japzn-se court. When
one cuurti. was insultrd 10y another, be
vino bore the insult turn.d round tu thu
in~ultnr, and qGrtly uncov-ring th-
stomach. ripp.-i himself op-n. The
sggrsssor. by an iu-xurAble law OF III
au-tte, was bound to follow the lead. aud
So th.. two die Tue most h,.ari-r.uIius
lo"k ever witnessed was one gwen ty a
j tplnrsP. who. having been iusultrd 10y
All Am.Ticfn. Carried out the rule. *
p-cting hI- upIHurnt tu follow suit Bat
the Yankr,. Would ,io not hing of the sOrt;
aud the Jspsi,rsr rxpir, Il 10 Hgnni-s--
not from the turtute e his wound, tut
from b.-ing a sacrifice tu 20 lO'li-h aud
uudrri.r,-d "a i..llnW--Wiiil-t th, Ani-ricHu
L. X. Il at him ga a ui.z 81 wuu,t'f 10
u were not - .Ai. w.. niiEht laugh 80
-uch accounts uf r,li toriur., A. we'll A~
~ I,..ogls ~ eur own scqun'ntauc" ~ii".
.yutsh pp.ns cunvrutiOnaiiiy. arr ever nu
the rack about 'thr right 10 dO, about
good form
Bu; tbis .ort 0t folly should not L.iud
uS TO the value uf gsnd maun-rs ~ dis
tiagui-hed from rt'qJ-ttr
Manners are not IDLE. hut 'hs iruit
-. uuuir nEiuFs anu % loyal tuibd.
Were IL not iur tnc oil oi c.ythiy. how
c1uli TIA" Wheels of society continue To-
work? Money. tal"Bt. rrnk. these are
keys that tdru some l1css hut ktudusrs
or . sympathetic manner u n master key
that can open all. 10 VIRTUE itself Of
tends wR.n coUplrd with q iorbidding
mznnrr." how great must be the power
o. winning mahu-Ts, such As steer b.
tween bluntL--,s and plain d'aiinl. hr