The workingman's advocate. [volume] (Chicago [Ill.]) 1864-1877, 1877-06-16
HOME AND GRANGE.
MEMS Part in Home Making.

Mems Part IN Home Making.
Most Of the preachments We have seen
from the text Of happy homes have been
aimed at the women. This natural enough,
for they are the home makers of the world; :
and in future number We shall "ioiu in
the chorus, and also say something to the
young folks about their part IN work
from which no slnnslble member Of the
family can be excused. But Just now we
desire to nudge the heads of the households
and ask them how they are performing
their responsible part in the realm II
home. Most men think they have little
to do in creating an atmosphere Of
home Their forte lies in breathing
and enjoying the atmosphere after some
body else has made it and not few can
get along and make known their authority
without ''raising a breeze" in 1t. Men
are too busy, too much pre-occupied, too
impatient and thoughtless, and lit must
be said Of some Of them-too selfish to do
their fair share Of that pre- eminently mil
lenial work, the creating Of happy home,
wherein love relgns supreme and amiabIl-
ity, affection, cheerfulness, JOY and peace
are the natural conditions Of family life
Now, in certain things, man has been a
constitutional shirk from the time Of
Adam If the scientific gentlemen have
left us any Adam-down to tins day Men
will fight for their homes, and make slaves
of themselves to their business 70 maintain
them but like the proverbial man who
would die for a woman, but would never
bring up a scuttle Of coal, they cant tell
what their children are studying at school,
who their mates are, what they are learning
of good or evil, nor hardly anything else
that a father ought to know concerning his
offspring. 1t is So sad fact as to spoil the
satire, when it is said that many father
finds his Sundays and holidays too few e.
enable him to become acquainted with
his boys" But we maintain that man
who hasn't time to be father t. his chill
dreu. with all that includes, has no right
70 have any. He wrongs them, robs him
self, puts an unjust responsibility upon
the mother, and neglects his highest duties
| human and divine.
There are many ways in which a father
may contribute to happy home life that il
seems strange the number of houses should
So greatly exceed the homes. 1t takes SC
| little to make children happy at home that
/ IL is wondrous pity that SO many little
ones are miserable, or uneasy, or dIscun
tented If for an hour after the evening
meal the father should give himself to hi.
I children. would the mother wear out ;,
/ fast, or the children be so laWless, trouble,
some IL uncomfortable What a mlnistr,
for good To both parties Is papas froh,
With the babies What an interest j,
added TO the books, the drawing. the games
or even the studies, If father enters int,
| them
Aside from children, and IN homes her,
haply there are none, men still have a NOR,
direct part than most Of them are read,
to bear, in making the daily life pleasant
We need hardly say that the man Shout,
set the example for the family in patience
cheerfulness, furbt arance, courtesy, an,
all the amiable moods and graces tina
are the soul Of home happiness Tn
sort Of men who display all their suavit,
aud puliteuess on the street and in thei
| business places, and save the storms ant
| sulks. and sourness and all the evil broo,
of dryiish dispositions that they charac
terize by the convenient euPhemism O
moods well. we have our opinion D
them = and if they viii come within rang,
We don I mind expressing II privately tn
we are afraid 1t wouldn't look well in Print
| The whole tribe If home tyrants mel
who make the household reVulve arouu,
| them as the center whose tongues ar,
| uhrCnically "furred in the morning. and
nerves so upset IN the evening that tn,
family must keep silence while they reaC
I and smoke who can't bear the II ise q
innocent and natural mirthfulness VII,
/ have to be toadied and tended and hu
mored they ought all II them To IL
/ doomed TO PASS their days IN shabby-gen
/ tocl boarding houses, wItnour sIgnt Il " fe
Or chlldren-w hash fir breakfast
warmed over pancakes for lunch aud lean
mackerel and centennial hens for supper
with the lodger overhead always learning
/ the trombone and servant girls that stea
the hair oil. They don't deserve home
and no man does VINO viii do nothing t,
make it, For mans rights DO not iuclud,
! the rights to all the comforts # a home
without any of the work Or worry, ur sell.
sacrifice, or thoughtfuiness and Weil-doina
/ incident to its creation and maintenance
A good many men think they have done
their duty if they pay the bills, more Il
| less grudgingly. But one might as vel
try to warm room with fireplace aud a
pair Of silver-plated andir1ns. and 10 fuel
or fire, as to make a home with money.
The money simply makes a place FIR the
home to complete 1t the man must nut
III himself. and the best part II himself al
that. -GOldeH Rule.