The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-07-29
Marriages..

The question Of the advisability Of mar
rying still agitates our readers. both single
and welded. The Good Book saws it is
not well for man to be alone and so men
themselves have thought since that en-
chanting morning in the garden of Eden,
when ADAM woke up and found his rib gone.
but in its stead the lovely EVE, in the full
bloom Of womanly beauty. Yet that mar
riagcs do not all turn out well everybody
knows In The Sun, bctwiXt the announce
ments Of marriages and those of deaths we
print the sad record of the divorces, as We
are in duty bound TO do. since this is paper
t. which people turn to get all the news. We
wish that the courts did not have reason TO
perform the duty Of unloosoning the bonds
Of matrlmony. but the cruelty and the in
fidelity Of husbands and wives compel the
Judges to do that work, and The Sun TO re-
cord their action. But as whole, married
people get on well together, and though they
may sometimes fret, they are better of than
single folks, and life brings them larger
share of happiness. The unit Of society is
not the man or the woman, but the family.
These valuable thoughts occur to us as we
read the subjoincd letter from frank and
outspokcn lady who honors us with her con-
ildence:
Sir You Let that BOYLE woman have her blow about
marriage Now want 10 say word Ihave been mar
rcd ten years My husband is good man and cares tor
ne. aud care Tor lin great deal, but still have al
ways regretted h,iue married, Tor woman tits little
better than condition OF slavery and If was single TO
morrow. and had the means to support ny self would
not marry the best man living Yours truly
IASNAn JAM GuzER, late WINNER
FHiLsprLrni,. Jul, 70
We should like TO refer the case Of Mrs
QUEER to our poctical contemporary,
CnILDs, A. NJ, who has an important charge
in the Philadelphia parish but we fear that
his thoughts are so fixed on the grave that
he would deem such reference untimcly
If Mrs. QUEER has been married ten years
to Il good man, who cares for her, and for
whom she cares, and yet is DISCONTINUED with
matrimony, her case is very perploXing
one She speaks of her condition as little
better than slavery If she gave US the
facts regarding it, we might be able to say
| whether she speaks wisely or not. Perhaps
the affairs Of the family are not Prosperous
amt Mis-. GUZrR has 10 work hard, but SO also
must Mr.. GUzER labor, for they are equally
concerned as TO the welfare of the children
we hope they are blessed with n number of
them-and perhaps he might also complain
Of his state, though he docs not write tOus re-
gardlng it, Indeed, il is a question whether
Mr.. QUEER quietly pursuing his avocations,
| is not person more deserving of sympathy
than Mrs. QUEER writing to Us in complaint
Of marriage. Is she a good wife Z does she
bear their common matrimonial sorrows
with proper hcroismf Is she moro con-
cerncd that he ard the others dependent on
her for happiness shall get the good things Of
life than that they shall be allotted to her ;
II she is not, she Is doomed TO discomfort,
whether she be poor or rich.
| In TRUTH our sympathcs do not go out to
Mrs. QUEER On the contrary, we regard
her as singularly lucky woman, with II
good husband and an opportunity to cX-
press her love and devotion in the diligcnt
performance Of her daily duty ohim and to
her children. If she were single tomorrow,
| she says, she would not marry the best man
| living But she is mistaken, She would
probably marry again, and might find that
| she had made worse choice. Indeed, ii
MI GUzIR came along, and sought her
| hand, she would probably take him, and re-
now her bondagc.
The question as TO the fitness Of school
| mistrr-,rl for wives we discussed the other
day ina manner which receives the con.
! incubation Of one Of tho number, who thus
writes 10 US.
fm IVA. Ilpa., to notice IN this mornings issue OF
lf ,tN,}ou tnl remarks relative to the desiralhhy OF
school hall,,sa witt, H..n- one OF the craft know
| whereof ,.'l.. whrnl sJ> tiny have more 10 recon
u,l '''m t.n lit.N.f rHf other class As lo't then
morale Noi,ll,flo.icN,,. ntauI
,'Wft".'' an s""' nmnarof' o"l. ur"n-l NECESSITY
hWd amy ''Dunm"N . lhr di,ciNlN.ns of o'h"ls helm
Part Of t,r profession. thDN ,alif learn T. di-ciln,