Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1877-06-07
THE HER A Id.
Some Old -fashloned advice to Young
Men.
From the oregonian.

| have come to the conclusion thai
mutual ignorance of each others feel
ings and opinions lies at the bottom
OF the too frequent misunderstanding
between the sexes; and while 1t gives
occasion for unhappiness, even foi
contempt. it prevents the desired sep
aration quite as often. Some persons
seem to think, and 1 believe some
argue, that men and women have a
sort of instructive knowledge OF each
others nat lres, and that therefore
there is very little danger of conflict
between them. "Two halves OF one
whole" is the popular notion, and a
very romantic and pretty notion, If 1t
did not so often happen not to be
true.
Let me tell you something: | never
knew but one man who seemed really
to understand women; and / never
knew a single one but thought he
knew ali abont u.s. More than that
they insist that they know US great
deal better than we know ourselves !!
Fortunately, or unfortunately, as the
case may be, they. succeed in con-
vinring some of us of this singular
fact, and at the same time in inducing
us TO act up to their idea of what we
are, think aud feel And further, the
popular prejudice is in favor of those
women so convinced. As If nature
had placed our hearts and brains in
the persons Of any of the opposite sex
with whom we might chance to be
thrownl But We know that nature
has done nothing of the kind. She
has made each distinct, with certain
points of likeness and unlikeness, of
attraction and repulsion, in order that
singly we may have completeness
of our own; or that joined together,
each may borrow something that the
other had not Now, if men under
stand as better than we do ourselves,
as they would have US think, 1t fol-
lows, by the same rule, that we un-
derstand them better than they do
themselves am tempted for this
once to assume that this is the fact,
and To try TO convince you that |
know better than you do what is good
for you With such starting point
to reason from a good deal might be
said, but | will conine my remarks to
subjects that have in view your hap
piness, relatively, rs well as ours.
The objects Of mans life are chiefly
these four:
l. Money.
III. Love.
III. Ambition.
Nv. Reputation.
In this age of the world, money IS
indispensable as being the represent
alive Of everything else. 1t means
cnlture, home, love, ambition, all that
we most desire TO enjoy How, then,
shall we get 1T? BY work, aud only
by work unless you have inherited it
from some one else who worked for
Won OF work there are great many
kinds, that all come under two sub
divisions head work and hand work
You have only to decide what suits
You best, and begin at it as early as
possible II is very important that
you should not lose time on mistakes
in this matter of choosing an occupa
ton. II is also important that you
should really respect labor, and not
hesitate to take hold OF anything that
promises well because you fear it is
not the occupation of a gentleman.
When you look about you, you will
perceive that it is not what men have
done to make money but their success
in making it, that determines their
position in society Consider, then,
IN what honorable pursuit You are
likely to succeed best, and give to
that the energy and enterprise of your
youth. II Won are to be n mechanic,
learn your trade well, so as to COM
mand the highest wages. If trades
men, study the laws of business and
the history of trade in order to know
when and how to make good ventures.
II farmer or stock raiser learn all
about the conditions necessary for the
best results, by inquiry. by expert
ment, by reading. Should you prefer
one of the learned professions, and
feel that you have ability in that line,
resolve 10 stand at the head of your
profession. whatever it may be. 1t is
work ard striving that brings sue
cess.
Perhaps, as sometimes happens,
you cannot afford to study for pro-
iession, and you have not capital to
set up in any business; you are "loek-
ing for situation" That is the very
poorest beginning of any, bu. may
nevertheless lead to something better
after a while. Do not look too long,
however. Nothing damages a young
man Ike being out of situation for a
long time People begin to look up
on him az worthless, or unlucky, or
both, and do not want TO employ him.
1t is better to work for nothing than
not to work at all. The moral effect,
and the appearance is so much better
when 4 young man is known always
to have something to do. A young
man came to lady friend of mine
with the confession of his poverty.
and his need Of means 10 keep him
from starving.
"Why, go to work. says she.
81 have loked the city through for
something TO do, and cannot find any
thing" was his reply.
"Well," said she, "you 90 down to
Mr.. IS store, and tell him sent
you. just help around at anything
there is to be done. cheerfully, and
heartily, and come up here for your
meals Don't say word about pay"
He obeyed this lsdy's Instructions,
and in less than a week he was put in
a good place. He might have waited
around months had not this hint been
given Of course do not say that
everybody could do the same, but
there is the principle-a willingness
even an anxiety to work, for work.
sake. Business men have no end oil
applicants for places coming to them,