The Milan exchange. (Milan, Gibson County, Tenn.) 1874-1978, 1877-10-18
The Great Question of Love.

How shall young man win a maiden
to be his wife? This is a question which
in various forms is submitted to US.
Nor is it surprising that such should be
the case. There is, indeed, good reason
for applauding the course of the youth
who, in the most momentous undertake
ing of his life, seeks the advice of his
elders, distrusting the changeable inn
pulses of his own heart. OF what avail
are superior years if they do not bring
greater wisdom? Shall we in this tenn
pestuous voyage of life selfishly refuse
to give a chart to mariners Jess expert
enced than we? Suppose that every
child who grows possessed the knOwi-
edge of men and things so laboriously
acquired by his father, would not the
millennium be nearer than it now seems
to be?
1t therefore becomes an imperative
duty for an editor to help his readers
out of difficult eases of love, and to ex-
plain to them the principles which
should govern amatOry proceedings.
Many a youth fails in that business, not
| because he is unworthy of the maiden,
but because he does not know how to
make love. He is either too bold or too
timid. He can not see himself as she
sees him, and perhaps when he thinks
| he is wisest she comes to the conclusion
| that he is most foolish. When men,
young or old, are in love, they are liza
BILE to make fools of themselves.
Thus we introduce the subjoined inn
portant letter:
To THE EDITOR OF TIE SUN-Sir: You
give such good advice in the Sun ON love
matters that hope you will inform me how
am to find out whether young lady loves
me or not. She knows that like her very
much, and l think she likes me, but am in
doubt whether she likes some other young
man better. What is the best way to know
BROOKLYN, Oct. 6. I'll. D. NJ.
You must watch very carefully to see
whether she is in love with you or not
1t is not at all safe to assume that a cir
is Indifferent to man simply because
she does not appear to enjoy his atten
tons. Perhaps her fondness is so grea
that she may fear lest she shows it, ever
in ordinary civilities; and thus her con
duct will take on the appearance of cold
ness and reserve, when all the time hel
heart is beating so that she wonder
how it gets its motive power.
How to find out whether she is in low
with you or not? Well, the best way il
to ask her the question squarely, avail
inc yourself of some fitting and auspi
cious moment. But, beforehand, yol
should so exhibit yourself to her tina
she will see thatyou are desirable per
son to marry. To do this it will not b.
necessary for you to pl"T the part of ;
vain and pretentious fellow, or any part
in fact. Behave yourself in natura
and manly way. Girls have their faults
and sometimes charlatans deceive them
but sensible girls, the ones who vii
make good wives, are intolerant o
fraud in a man.
1t is very probable That this girl like
some other young man better than sh
does YOU Why shouldn't sheP Perhap
there are other young men more worth.
of her affection than you are. A persol
can control his acts, and he should d'
so in order that they may conform witt
right and justice; but he can not 81
easily alter his feelings. If this cir
likes YOU better than the other fellows
she will modestly confess it on you
putting the momentous question to her
If she doesn't she will answer you nay
Very likely she prefers some other you'll
who does not confde his love perplexi
ties to US.
Still, we advise you to persist man
fully in the attempt to gain her love
The youth who lags or despairs in tina
undertaking invites disastrous defeat
The true lover is bold and daring, ant
risks all on a single die. Such a nar
wins the respect, though he may no
gain the affection, of a girl.-Ne0 fori
Sun.