The Beaufort tribune and Port Royal commercial. [volume] (Beaufort, S.C.) 1877-1879, 1877-05-31
HUSBANDS AND WIVES.
Sharp Criticism Of the Lords Of Creanon-
Wives, Sacrifices Without Compensafin
Advantages.

Wives Sacrifices Without CompensafinR q
Advantages.
"They are just married" i" was the re
mark of all the fellow passengers OF a
certain couple on q railway train the
other day. And wherever that couple
went on their journey the same obserya-
ton was repeated. There are certain IN.
dications about the recently welded
which always betray the happy parties
as enjoying their honeymoon" Though
from time immemorial the said moon has
been regarded as transient, every woman
who marries thinks that her case Is an
exception, and that the new happiness Is
to be continued indefinitely between the
twain until death do them part. 1t Is
not pleasant to think that the woman
who thus confdes must, in too many
cases, be disappointed. She must hnd
that the suitor who professed that her
companionship was the one thing neces-
sary to his happiness will discover that
there are many other things which her
husband deems pleasant, and with which
the wife has little, If anything, to do.
AS rule, the less she is interested III
his outdoor movements the better he is
pleased. Courtship is one thing. We'd
ded life is another. Indeed, some women
90 so far as to say that nearly every boy
or man is in condition of chronic op-
position to the girls or women IN the
family where he domiciles. 1t is charged
that the lads would not ego courting
if it did not vex their sisters; and that
they would not marry if mothers were
not in some cases entirely ayerse to their
marriage, and in others only submissive
under protest. The marriage OF man
is in some sort triumph over his own
female kindred. These kindred submit,
as they say submission is woman's lot.
And they make the bestof ii, and sweeten
the inevitable with womanly gentleness.
But the husband-what of him ? The
new husband is elate with the con-
sciousness of having won the girl OF .hls
choice. He has taken wife, all objec-
tons to the contrary Notwithstanding.
He takes her ON his arm with all the
pride of a captor and conqueror.
Nobody disputes his victory. Mother
and sisters become his wife's allies and
indorse the proceeding with all their
hearts. lie is monarch of all he surveys.
There are no more contentious, for
everybody has indorsed the arrangement,
as if everybody had heartily approved
and promoted it from the first. He
might rest on his laurels--but laurels
will not always keep green, and the Dry
leaves metaphorically choke him. He
looks for new conquests, and selects ms
wife for an antagonist. 1t is not that ne
does not love her. He loved his mother.
It is not that he would not do any and
everything for her that does not inter-
fere with his own whims and caprlces.
He did all that for his sisters. But he
rebelled under their control and hay-
ing, boy like, annoyed them, man. like,
he annoys his wife. Evenings at home
become wearisome, and evenings abroad,
if his wife must be with him, are hardly
less so. As he declined to be tied TO- his
mothers "apron strings" he is fretted
by his marriage tie. , He has pressing
business which keeps him from the tea
table, and which encroaches on his even
ing hours. His wife's looks of rennon-
STRANGE are considered ''fussy," and her
claims upon him, put in words, are met
by protest. And so the honeymoon ire
auently passes its last quarter, with,
unfortunately, no promise Of new moon
of the same happy description IN the
matrimonial calendar. 1
Then other affairs come in to engross
the groom's attention-boat clubs, bli.
liards, base ball, horses, "the lodge.
supper with some OF the cold fellows,
"politics," hotels, saloons, and all the
rest. And he just drops in at the thea
ter, you know, quite accidentally, be-
cause Smith told him of very particu-
lar attraction. If he bad only thought
of it at dinner time, he would have asked
Sarah to get ready. And SO on. Mind
these are things that the women find out,
though they may be very cautious In
speaking about them. These are the
general heads under the fears they have
that their husbands like to escape the
company which, as suitors, they priced
above every other. The men must an
swer to their own consciences how far
the suspicious are well founded, and IN
MANY cases husbands, even of some
years standing, would perhaps do well to
live their " attentive " days over again,
and spark their wives afresh. The
change from the wan and weary or the
slightly martyr aspect which many wives
wear would be thing as well worth see,
ing as any advertised !" attraction" and
the voice of cheerful wife as well
worth hearing as any drama, opera or
lecture.-PhiIadelphia Ledger.