, 1877-07-14
How courtship and Marriage Are
Conducted in France.
Causes OF the Frequent 1nfide1ity
OF French Wives.
The Littla Girl, the Young Lady, and
the Wife.
Early Brfnging.Up...E Education and Mar.
rfage...Somc Important Hints
for American Society.

rent n1mbcr uI tho Hf9stnttttr Kerifm las tn
lestaEen 10 throw sumo new light upon court |
chip mud marriage IN Frame. As the general
causes which make French marriages what they !
arc commence at very early age, the author OF
tho article began by making the readers thor
oughIy acquainted with specimen Of young
French girls. and, noting the tcndcueics Of the
education they receive, at least tnasmuch as
these tendencies nrc recynt& to marriage.
From the facts obtained from this wotl-fn!or,n-
Cd writer, a,,d from Tatnc.s "Notcs on Paris"
an, able 10 place before The Tn,puaR's read-
ers some interesting facts In regard to tho
causes VI somc of the chief disorders which arc
found In French marriages, aud which too frc-
quenuy
rnog WOMAN TO TSr1DEIl1Y,
the study OF which will serve to poiat out to
Americans Rome of the defects in our own tnnr-
representations, and possibly teach us 4 new
lesson. II will Dc well 10 remember TINT the
class Of marriages herein described arc only
those which occur in that class OF society Which
with us goes under the name OF the "uppcr ten
thousahdn; tho upper ranks arc taken because
they arc more Representative, tnore character
isttc Of their special phase Of culture, and cr-
hibit its virtues aud vices In a stronger light.
THE L1rTtK GIRL.
The little French girls whom one Will see
playing any sunshiny day In tLc Tutlerics gar
dcns, show IN their delncanor, IN their pretty,
eoquettisl little gestures, III their mindfuncssof
bystanders, Ill tho arts OF polite society.
hs mind to call them real children in froeks and
pettIcoats, eager to run. to ronlp, to make q
nuisc; they arc miniature Of full-yrowm ladies',
as clabofatcly dresErd as careful VI thstr flnery.
a. exclusive In the ehorr OF thels ucquaintance.,
"a nattertng OF as malicious In their little
speeches. ......
WHAT SIZE IS TAUGHT.
But again VIC are told that the girl whose
relega.cd to the nursery. she has been A.
custo1ned from tho earliest ags 10 sit at
table With her parents, tO listen to their COLI
yersatlon, to be presented to their friends; she
gestures and infections, to articulate distinctly,
10 bow, TO pay little compliments, and return
thanks for the attentions she receives. ilcr
powers Of millinery havo been encouraged to the
somewhat artificial bearlug aud speeches Of her
MAMMA, the moro she Is appiauded. Her own
little achievements aad remarks are related to
strangers IN her presence; aud tho great I'm.
postanre Of public opinion, tho praise or blnMe
Of others, Is thus constantly impressed upon
her.
otn1uoop.
But, Willie tho cnrly br1n1tn4-up Of the
of our own gir]s, the second stage Of our hero.
iue's educatIon Is Of more sublned and quiet
character. These writer's have told us that her
early cduratton Is likely TO develop her vanity,
sud pu6llc opinion; It is certainly not likely to
develop Ia her auy intellectual intcrcst, Any
worthy ambition that might be her staff and
her solaco throughout life, any revcEeutial scn-
10th our authortits agree that II. viii leave
her supremely ignorant and suprcmcly cultiynt-
cd; tasteful, elegant, learned In conventional.
lilies; incapable q taking up serious book and
train Of rcasoning, but em!ueptly apt to learn
from conversation to a1aut herself to the tone
auu opinions OF tho aociat circle In which shc
moves, quick to pick up rcady.madc dicta on
s!ou offers. with gruoetul huency and unwAycr-
Ing aeif-confllcure.
UNDER CONSTANT SURVEILLANCE.
Ihe yonng @ Frsusi, r. FL > pen1oys 20 natural
1nalds,,. A French girl bclors marriage 10 un-
der constant surveillance; she Is Guarded Just ~
II everybody were Convinced ttas tl'o n.omout
she were left to hcr own tnatincta shc would be
" next TO HI in'posslbittv. Her readiny is
mostly Of derotfopAl character; no editions
arc deemed sufficiently expurxated; no playa
are mura1 enough. Says the Reviewer; Like
special reverence; and use very men who vii.
make hot love to her a. sooh a she IL married.
take oil their shoes before virgin a. II tfieY
EtHod on holy ground, nnd would be ashamed TO
kAF Uue WIN tA4S = utkAk 4lut 4AaAt%
to-" The whole system cover, the mir! al this
time of her existence with III unpeuetF9blt veil.
! AxR MARRIAGE.
And now VIC must look around for bustaud
man leslrous Of . novel sensation, md who hss
! Gown hes wild oats, and spent bis first arlor
! With Lt&ctte. or perhaps With Catiu, aud wlstcs
to lead sobcrer life. preseDts M.nsslf. He 4
h esre To- et1s q "f f,Su t. "NS. 10 Ia aa
that article already; hts palate nceds u newer.
stsonger :p'ec .ia, hu. ,s,m prstty ,og9s; young
sua aish ii tes boe", ., % tSs psssn a.: upos IL;
check, t!mId yet. vtyactous, blush,nk Mt word.
full Of repressed sparkle, liks ehamp49ne be-
for ns S.. sS, Il. Sr:xa :,s him ox saa Ell ut =
~ the trkt In har young hcaEt,-so he the oh.
iect OF all ia awakening eiuot,ona aud dcstrcsl
Her mind f. = blank leaf; 70 much the better;
he will wrEtc upon It what be p1eaacs.n How
we shall presently SHOW; Ia the meantime VIC
AK pari0n for wandering away from our sub-
jeet 10 show that this hotna3e paid to v!rgtnity
In Frunce Is tho sign Of corrupt rather than of
moral age.
MORAL PURITY.
TIM THlrUNKfs readers will agree with the
writer that moral pufft7 should exist In this
married woman as we'll ~ Ia the maiden. and,
thanin the latter. Upon this subject Hal1ac,
| tho celebrated French novelist, Is very out
| spoken. In bis "I'Aytio1a9k d. Marriage" !" lie
| says:
Fsti4b tha ytetus Of Ian virgins rathss than tbs
sacred chastity af q wife and uothet. youu&
gtrl abandoned By her ttuce7 uay stii dcseFvs sll
out eompsasion and respect: aalas bare been
vInlAlcd. eon6denec has been bctrsyed: tho u1.
happy victim 4 stlll innocent; She may stta! b.
| come Q faithfu! spouse. loving mother; aud.
II her past ltfe IL hadoed ty clouds. Ut least
her future may b. bright and purs. What. on the
other hand. arc tbs prospects of iaithle.s wtfsl
.iuxcvrt exemplary hsr sub.eqosnt conduct may
bc. Tho fruits VI Der fault are taedacesbe.
Hut IN Franc public op!ninn IL severe on un.
| married wotlen, willis the pledge Of wle tot
future chastity Il luukctl upon Is naught.
THn MARRIAGE.
Returning 10 our heroine, We IND her married,
sna tho honeymoon over with. The ucxt qucs-
ton is, How wil! the couple sattle down, aud
how will each Arrsnxe bis or hrr lfa 50 to suit
the others wantsl For an answer to these
questions We u ain turn 10 the keyleV.
| AFIEK MARRIAGE
The husband, in ihe Hrst pl4et, Ia dcsirous ot
| quiet, but at first ioes not refnae 70 take hia
Wife iuto society. Alter whtle ha tells her hs
did not get married. with tho pollon OF going to
balls. ho went 70 plenty Of ball. when .. young
bachelor, aud JUDGED grew heartily sick of them,
| IIia cuuccptio1 Ut 1Unlesktc life IL tbat wife