Helena weekly herald. [volume] (Helena, Mont.) 1867-1900, 1877-06-07
THE FAMILY.
MIR. Beecher's Ideas of Parental
Duty and Marriage.
from the New York World, May 14th.l

nI. OccCucI UssptILcu CWcuVy 'AVC luAoueS
yesterday morning. In the course of his SER
mon he said:
No one need be told who understands the
exceeding care with which the household was
conducted by the Jews. Above all nations
on the earth, and until this day, the Jews
excel in the care of the household. Unlike
any other people, they have been despoiled
until there be no terms equal to the atrocities
they have suffered; they have been scattered
remorselessly, but they have maintained their
essential race stock and their spirit among
the nations, and have come down to our time
marked people for ability and for general
virtue. That they have done so is, believe,
wholly through the administrations of the
family.
The household contains in itself the seed
forms of society in all its after complex de-
velopment; it is the only arrangement by
which children can be cared for and reared
up to noble manhood
The wild beast drops it's young; one licks
and feeds it a little, and there it ends blind
material instinct; but the mother heart knows
that the child that is born into her arms is
not vet born; it is caught up a second time
into the womb of her heart and is born from
the mothers heart. real child of God.
All the Spartan notion about bringing up
! child at the nations expense, and the new
tangled notions of sOcialistic tendency.
rearing children by wholesale-as it were,
fathering them by machinery-are wild and
fatal. The household is the only place fit to
bring up children; two parents with children
united to them by nature, is natures plan;
the father and mother are united to their
children, as God is to His creatures, for they
are theirs; they are born of them aad take
their nature; they are creators and stand in
small spheres related to the family as God
Almighty stands related to the things He has
created, so that parents are Gods; the
warmth, the brooding of love are indispens-
able to the children. 1t is true that some
come up-we don't know how-without much
warmth or brooding; children have elastic
natures, and can do pretty well in spite Of
their parents, but in general children that do
not spring from love or are not reared in
love, are not eminent for sensibility; all the
finer traits are the fruit of the mothers brood
ing. There is no other school in the world
where perfect love is taught except this,
where the father is principal and the mother
chief instructor; it cannot be bought or imi-
tated. SubordinatiOn, order and love of good
government are taught by the family; it
teaches also the meaning of that veKed ques-
ton in theology, vicariOus atOnement; it
teaches also the justice of the divine govern
ment. To say that there is at the head Of the
universe being that evermore strikes in
wrath and indignation, is to elect devil and
call him God. The true meaning Of forgive
ness will be found in the household. Has
child lied? There are great many parents
who when their children tell lies, ought to 60
up to their own chambers and take off their
clothes and give themselves a whipping.
Naughter.) The child lies often to escape
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the true mothers heart only waits until the
wrong is admitted and confessed, and then
opens her arms in forgiveness.
think the treatment of little children is
oftentimes the best lesson for the larger ones.
l think l used to get as much good when
Charles was whipped as when was whipped
myself, and on the whole think l preferred
it. Qaughter.)
1t is much to be regretted that the extrava-
CANT habits of society are compelling men to
be later and later in founding households.
Premature marriage is, of course, to be dis
countenanced; yet marriages while people
are young are fruitful of safety. Those pru-
dental marriages, after thirty or thirty-6ve
years of age, are very. much to be deplOred.
do not say it is not better to do right late
than never, but it is great deal better to do
right early, because not once in a thousand
times are men anu women brought LORetner
without fermentation in moral disposition.
Such is the way in which connections are
formed thtre is so much of chance in it
after all, or of taste, that it is indeed won-
der that these connections are not more often
unhappy; but when persons come together
at the early age of eighteen, nineteen, twenty,
inside of twenty-five, there is a softness, a
pliableness of disposition in them, and they |
adapt themselves to each other as they could
not do in later years. The first step in mar
ried life is to learn the woman has to learn |
how to submit herself; the man has to learn |
how to submit himself. The husband and |
wife are servants; the man is the owner of
the woman the woman is the owner of the
man each has to learn how to obey and how |
to rule, and both of them in love. Now,
when men are young this education, which /
should be presided over by love, is facile and
not difficult, but later in life it is hard to &C.
quire.
THE Suns Washington special says: Mr..
Evarts, in private conversation, has expressed
himself in favor of these four steps in the
commercial policy of the administration
First, the restoration of the silver dollar