Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1877-06-07

with knowledge of your business.
They also make your labor lighter by
rendering it more pleasant tor your.
self, and by sustaining your self-re-
sDect. A gentleman is as quickly
recognized in one place as in another;
and gives, perhaps, most pleasure
where he is least expected. A good
manner has also great deal of IN
flnence in controlling desirable asso-
Citations outside of your business, and
helps you up in the world in various
ways. Briefly, young man in order
to succeed in life should be willing to
work, should have good habits, and
agreeable manners. With these, and
good health, it is difficult to see how
any one can fail of winning a fair
share of the s'filthy lucre," so neces-
sary to earthly enjoyment. And let
me say, right here, if there is anything
in the world that l think perfectly
splendid. it is such young man. /
have one in my minds eye now. AL
though still quite young he has at
tanned considerable eminence in a
scientific profession; he is cultivated;
his manners are delightful; his life is
pure and simple, and he is thoroughly
manly in every way. never see him
but think how happy that woman
will be who shall get him for her hus-
band. All beautiful ideals of the old
Greek poets come into my head, and
half unconsciously / find myself think
ing of him as young god. That is
because he is SO charming, aud so
entirely satisfactory every way to my
intellect, my taste, and my heart.
Aud why should not men be more Of
ten just as charming, and let us wo-
men have something to love that is
worth loving? If he had just one low
vice, one filthy habit, one coarse trait
about him the charm would be broken
But he will not have this character
is set, as you may set yours. And do
not you believe he will have money
of his own getting? Certainly he
will; enough TO live like man of
| cultivated tastes-to have a real
home, with all comforts and many
Injuries. Possibly he may be rich,
though riches are not his aim in life,
so much as success in his chosen
pursuits. At all events he will not be
poor. His mind is too well balanced,
and his habits too good for poverty.
And now | come to love; and | am
going to talk very plainly about that,
because it is of vital consequence to
all of US and especially to you. You
know you mean to have it in some
shape; that you have said within your
heart often, that life without love was
too cold and barren for you. You
have noticed. too, that the times are
a good deal "out of joint" in respect
to marriage; and you have heard it
said that men avoided marriage be-
cause women are extravagant. AT an
other time you have read somewhere
that women are different now from
the women of the past, aud do not
desire marriage, and so on. All those
things have been written by men. AS
a woman | ought TO be able to tell
you some things that these writers on
the other side do not take into ac-
count. 1t is not that human nature
has changed, but circumstances are
not the same.
A hundred years, even fifty years
ago, life in this country was rather
slow affair. The mail was carried
around on horseback; there was no
telegraph system, no railroads run
ming everywhere, no daily newspa
pers in every house IN the land, as
now. Very little was required in
such times to pay travelling expen.
SEES. OR for arnusements, or even for
dress. People stayed at home q
whole lifetime then, and were con-
tented with very plain way of liv-
ing. There were no places for young
men 10 those days except at some
Preside; either by their fathers or
their own. They could not live by
themselves in lodgings and go to
restaurant for their meals or amuse
themselves in doubtful ways, out of
sight of their friends, of evenings.
| All was open and above board thor.
| Young men inclined TO marry for
many reasons. 1t was The b3st and
happiest way. AMI young women
looked upon marriage as the begin
ming of their Lies work. They knew,
too, In those simple timea, the char
acters of the men they married.
There was ne way of evadlng the
honest scrutiny of their neigh bors,
and the mutual surveillance was
good for them. Men expected to
love and cherish their wives in those
days and women expected to be
loved and cherished and the matter
was considered as definitely settled
from the wedding-day forth. Some
husbands We're tyrannical, and refer
red too often to the word "obey" in
tho marriage service. Some wives
were fretful, and scolied more than
was agreeable. Bat generaily there
was peace, fidelity and aft :ction bs-
tween them.
| Gradually however these quiet fash
ions changed. The world took great
strides forward in what are called
Improvements. Men began To run
| about the world; leaving their wives
behind Every lady can remember
how lately the term "California wild
ow" used to raise q smile if not
sneer. According to usage, it was
the woman who suffered the r..
proach of being q grass widow"
while nobody said anything about
the fact of her being deserted, and
left to contend all Inexperienced
with loneliness, poverty and the
temptations they carry with them
Probably the exodus TO the Pacific
Coast did more to demoralize domes.
tic life 10 America than all other 10
huenees together. Men learned tina.
they could with inpunity sunder
the bonds that held them to families
in the States and live life of reck
less freedom here or. as somatime~