The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-10-17
THE pERPLEyITTEs or LOVERS.
Also the Proper Thing. TO DO Under Various
Circumstances.

crly answer their questions much thought IL
necessary. and a thorough Knowledge OF the
human heart is Indispensable A bunglcr n
careless person. or one who lacked conscience
might do these pcrplexed and agitated souls
much injury. Only really wise and sound adj
vice should be offered TO lovers. and 1t is rcaui-
site for the adviser to remember that lac is
dealing with very delicate subject. and with
young men and madcns whose susccptibilities
are of the kcencst. Tho first case we shall trent
is that Of maiden who Is too modest to exhibit
her love. 1t is thus presented by her:
sm lam Young lady. ave % and have hcen focrn.
cnmranv ak months with Young man whu work. IN
mS %iich SCsVe ' Vow Sie lin IN ~ T i @ o,
not show It, lmusl say ect rather cold tovari nm tor
lam q VERY loving Disposition anl feel yer, bal To
coggagcnent uhan what do tieel - thoue hit you'd
= hold ON ny patti Should og' loving {" hun Dear
ui.caw ThsJ young man th'rA 10 c did not work with
plainly Please direct ia AL that rs necessary. nnl
greatly obIge Jfs,n.
II Miss Jessie really loves this young man.
that she has consented to marry him three
months hence. it will not he at all improper for
her 10 manifest her affection TO him. with due
modcsty and proper maidenly reserve. Do not.
however, do this where you work. The shop Is
not wsuitable place for that sort OF thing. Os-
tentatous love making before other people il
who have to work should do their spooning out
Of business hours.
The next question concerns the tender pas
sion OF youth, who writes thus:
siR. lam young man, sixteen yosrs ~ arc Now do
yon think would he rg or me TO Keep company win
every W believe that my affection l. returned
JAcOB X. WA.SlR
Master Wagner. you are too young to think OF
making love, or Of marrying. Boys Of about
your age are apt to fall in love. or to think thcy
do. with women older than themselves; but no
sensible girl will encourage tho sentiment
Write to us when you get twcnty-one or so. and
we will help you in your love affairs. but mean
time try to improve your mind See that your
habits are good. and learn to do your work vol.
so that when you are old enough to think OF
marrying you will be able 10 support wife and
to keep her respect.
Here is case OF possible nckleness on tho
part Of young fellow:
SIN. am Young lady % years agc. I have an
dcnt admire ami who has b'en tor the last three ar>
oeen ooSine icrwaid 10 iha, time and now am ioi he
paving attentions to another young lady also, though
CONSTANT RAIDER
Perhaps you may be wrong about his paying
attentions to the other girl. He may be only
civil to her. while his admiration for you is as
strong rs ever. Do not exhibit any jealousy Of
her to him. That would be 10 show your hand.
and you don't want TO do that. PERHAPS some
Sunday evening no will ask the momentous
question: but il he waits too long in coming TO
time. and keeps up his attentions TO the other
girl. you might reasonably receive some other
young fellow on Sunday evenings. Hc should
be made 10 understand that a man can't pru-
| IDENTITY pay attentions ~ two girls at the same
| time.
| The next case Is that ~ young man whose
sweetheart proposes tc give him up:
srR, Icnsagcd myself to Young lady two years ago
being away home Mt the time for health distant
ScqT In The neanu he orr ,,ers het sr. NJ iin
and sincere INTENDED not 10 marry until Jaw way
,xlected .aon go On and mar, her On the i.'h OF
Augu, last received note from her stating that al
Inmi n ms, s'u ,, TY'n' Wan ,su'e pH a. me
they had been and the change NOT thronlh a, ko
NEE for a. present. Aul Is" She showed rarualty io no
swored Inca ON ihc 9sd o. August aud received rcpy on
ne lgih o September tai re Thought she had met one
ssScd Ir hand n mStmouy hut r., She wi.Ge t" e DE-
we've ali could oTe A. ty 81. SSs saw i nc
| tcws me nsni, ami ai~ays want, TO- aud hnds nq mut
anxious to hear what you would advise. RlADlG
We arc afraid it is all up with you there; and
It II just as well. for she preyarcated about the
reason for wishing to be released from the en-
| gasemcnt Some fellow ON the spot stepped in
aud stole your jewel Send her back her letters.
dismiss her from your thoughts. and think
! about some other grl. You need not hope to
win back the one you have lost ~ writing to
her. The man near at hand has you at II disal-
! vantage. We do not think well Of her for play
M YOU the trick. but perhaps she got tired Of
| being courtcd 10y letter. when she found She
! could get "A lover who addressed her In pers 0n
Stll. il she had been really in love with you. and
was faithful girl, she would have kept her
] trtth -ual fliu.rs. t4ffsu Intf..u
Here is q case where girl was justified in
| turning on IA shabby lover:
SIR Iamina very emlarras.ln. position Ater keep
ini ,'ni,nE Ny man ,.nc mont, nni nnl,ns rrad
INV at'a,hmcni 10 a worthy. hut poorer scntlcnan /
save some q the thins. ,o rom MN SUI ns sleeve
ANA Tho wretch who ,rtcd lot another lie ha
t6c sc,r EGi,ons wcrc ms AMI he viii sne me- ior he
value Of The other presents, unlc s. return them 10 hl
LnLlK MIXER NJ 81 Riyinsion street
O. return him his sleeve buttons. by all mcans
Ii is. indeed. customary when an enlargement
IL broken up for the parties To it 10 return the
letters and presents which have passed. between
them; but no one. except mean fellow, would
talk about suing girl for the value of his pres
cnts. Yet, it is only Just to say that it must be a
Little calling for man 10 see another fellow
wearing the sleeve buttons lie gave girl while
| she was engaged 10 him.
The next case is that Of a w,dower:
sra lam mddc-aeed man; have been married hut
with lady in uh- cat. that dearly love ; IT, |
ani Sic ha. ucvcr lard oi Inn, iui o,c aiI tia VA,
g-s n T. 1 it S e si c sai ' s
& M ff W., S l', 1". ,e nr ''T ng y No.,
good home and enonl to take cave oi her ovou tunA
ACoSsTANl READER
She docs wisely not to marry a.;aln until sho
| is sure her husband is dead. cl,e there ul.tlt