The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-11-25

THE suns advice to the lovers meets
with great favor, and it seems to COM
fort many souls agitated by the tender
passion. The letters sent us by the lovers
continue to increase in number, all of them
exhibiting entire confidence in our judy
mcnt. One note OF dissent. however. comes
from a medical gentleman, as follows:
Sir. am an D OF - and although there /. no
reason for me 10 complain the cruelty OF tie ladies'
yet hitherto remain uncnslnvcd In my profession
man OF ordinary attractions mind and person seldom
lacks gocily number Of rather announcement wouihe
feminine iutmatcs and perhaps for that ana iurther
reasons am somewhat Of my sogonst
This sentence am certain will call forth yonr criu
eisrn that conccitcd puppy and 1t quite probable
am Hut the declaration will explain my question why
YOU hard the when you give YOUR ad'ice'
inquirer tells he no longer loves where
his affections all remained and he desires advice
honorahy to escape You respond that he is tickle tel
low unworthy Of any wonans love Let lady address
you similar question. and you advise her 10 break at
with her admircr she i he d snt love him
This Is an instance Of ineNpcnhle parality which oc
ours whenever the occasion arises and you adyi-e SINH
larry or rather In analogous way Whenever there isa
question Of a wumaus action
IL. tins merely galantry your part. or arc youa
woman yourscfi l am aware that am subject to the
worst damnauon for tins slight 10 the ladies' but then
only a crusiy Old bach, OF no account
puppy, for we do not so regard him. He
seems to be an intelligent fellow, hut he
lacks discernmcnt in matters Of love. Doubt
less silly women do sometimes worry med
zeal men with their affection, hut that Is no
reason why our correspondent should be
woman-hatcr There Is no class of profess
sional men who 50 much need good wives a.
physicians. Families are much more likely
to trust married than single one
| Still. IL takes a good many years for ply
stefan TO build up a practice. and very likely
the reason our correspondent has not mar
| ried l.. not that he hates women rs lie SAYS
h" does and perhaps thinks h" docs. hut hc-
cause lac has not yet won the position in the
medical profession he would like TO get.
Why do we blame m,n for jilting girls,
and advise women To marry only those they
love- even II 4; involves the throwing over
board of accepted lovers; A. matter Of
fact, we do not always do this. Just like
the doctor, when he l. called 10 treat case
Of sickness, we make a diagnosis Of each
case Of love submitted to u-. and treat il IL
its symptoms require. But the reason why
girls have greater privileges than young
men in love is that they are the ones OF
whom love is asked while the men are the
suitors for their tender regards II young
man lays siege to girls heart he ought I,
know what hc is about, and 10 he prepared
IL accept bravely the Consequences 81 vie
tory or defeat The girl, on the contrary
may find on reflection that she has not beer
captured after all, and feel that she has til,
right to dismiss the fellow, in favor o.
somebody else who has won her heart
still, we always treat girls who are iirt'
with proper severity They cause untol,
misery and are bad examples to their sex
but if girl is convinced -h" does not love
the man to whom she has engaged herself
She is not obliged to marry him, though per
haps she is more in love than she thinks
and she ought not TO pain and mortify he
lover by turning him of, unless she is yer!
sure that he is not the man for her.
In some cases. where Il fellow has been de
ccvcd by a woman he may rightoousl,
rule men ought to stick by thei
promises which they should be careful NO
, 10 make unless they are sure they can keel
them.
With these remarks, we must leave on
correspondent to decide for himself whcthc
, il Is our native gallantry or feminine s."
, which influences us TO be more lenicnt {
women than to men in love matters. advis
, ing him that he get over his hatred fo
, women. as he will be- likely to do when h
, grows older, for they are not hateful at al
4 but both more beautiful and more charmin
than the stcrner sex.