The Ottawa free trader. [volume] (Ottawa, Ill.) 1843-1916, 1877-03-03
Advice to Fit Every Case, and Good Manners
Illustrated.
BY JAY CARLTON.


There is no harm in Quadrille dancng it
is harmless exercise. Hugeins dances,
like Waiting, are gong out OF fashion; and,
indeed, they are the relics Of u iCentioLs Gus
tom imported from the east whore morals are
not good.
| do not think Americans IN railway cars
are more rude than other people. Germans
make the most noise, and Engishmen are
the most selfish. An Irishman is unusually
polite.
No gentleman boasts Of his inirigues with
women. l once dropped man, u foreigner,
because his particular friend boased that he
had bankrupted himself as a lady kiler at
home, and was untrue to his wife in this
country. Was squeamishg
Ii you call at u house and stumble upon an
evening party to which you were not invited,
stay, say ten minutes, pleasantly, and retire
gracefully, even if you feel cut. Do not refer
to the fact, nor excuse yourself
1t IS not necessary tor the Clergyman to
kiss the bride. The custom grows out of an
old French feudal law, wherein the bishop
was supposed to have any right with the
bride that he chose for one twenty-four hours
after the marriage.
Musical women sometimes appear in pub.
lie with low-necked dresses. The best dress
ed woman ever saw on the stage was An
dress and she refused to sing privately be.
fore the Queen in low.necked dress.
Lay nothing on the table but bread. Salt
should 60 on you plate, unless you should
have u saltcellar of your own, as nearly every
body does nowadays. But even at The Inc
restaurants you may have TO use salt from
dish. Use spoon and not your knife DO
not be afraid to call upon the waiter for extra
spoons.
When you enter house for an entertain.
ment, advance to the hostess and salute her.
1t is not necessary to shake hands all around;
in fact that is vulgar. Bow and sit down. DO
not make a fuss about the seat you take.
Make as little "time" as posaIble when you
leave; bnt always be sure to speak to the hos
tess about it.
Eat soup from the side Of your spoon. New.
er twist your arm out so as to bring the point
to your mouth. Do not let a small cascade
dribble from your spoon back into your plate.
Do moi suck soup; make no noise at all. 1t
is dis gushing 10 go into restaurant and hear
hog or IA politician "sluck, stuck ah, stuck"
in measured time as he eats soup or an oyster
stew. You will hold broken chunk of
bread in your left hand, anG eat it without
butter with your soup. Battered bread spoils
the taste of soup.
liz eating fish you will only use fork in
Never put your knife 10 your mouth under
any circumstances. Separate the bones from
the fish with your fork. Ifyou should posi-
bly, get bone in your mouth, quietly remove
it with your napkin as if you were careleasly
wiping your lips. l once dined with man
in the country who took fish bones out with
his fingers and threw them on the floor. Bread
is always to be broken and with fish as with
soup it only detracts from the favor CT the
fish, if it is bultered. Americans butter their
bread all the time. 1t is unnecessy, and
shows poor taste.
A Young lady should be very careful how
she freQuents the rooms OF n male music
teacher Such rooms should be so situated
in public building and be SO open 20 the
public, that no idea Of scandal should arise.
Musical people have greater chances for
immortality than any others, and the history
of music shows that the greater the enthusi.
asm of the musician the more he Is inclined
TO immortality. Gottschalk ran away with a
dozen pupils, and was killed by AN irate hus-
band Copin lived with Madame Sand for
many wears. If girl caOnot abide taking
her music lessons in the presence of rela-
tive she is wrong. Still the question is an
awkward one. Leading music teachers in
New York who know the prophecies, when
compelled To teach at their offices, have I'M
furnished rooms in public building.
Do not stuff your napkin into your collar
so that 1t hangs over your shirtfront Ifyou
cannot eat without frescoing your shirt, you
are not entitled to go into grown-up company.
Bibs are for the nursery. The napkin is for
the knees; but it should not be spread out so
smoothly, deliberately and ostentatously that
YOU seem to be looking out particularly for
your clothes. When fruit Is brought On, new
and cOlored napkins are sometimes used by
peoule who are afraid 10 stain white ones.
A gentleman in wealthy society says he can
always take soup off his moustache with his
tongue; but do not agree with him that II
is the nice thing 10 do like large, timber
napkin. Some people think il is the nice
thing 10 told up the napkin very carefully
and put it prettily back IN a ring, as If il had
to be kept we'll for further use. | think the
better way Is to carelessly leave ltp,rially
folded beside the plate, as if ii wss of M &C
count-DJHjgry Noes.