Alexandria gazette. [volume] (Alexandria, D.C.) 1834-1974, 1877-05-15
''Alefan0rla 6azttte
TUESDAY EVENING. MAY -.
Early Marriages.

10 advocating early marriages Mr. Beecher,
10 his last Sundays sermon, said 1.-The Wo.
man has to learn how to submit herself, and
the man has to learn how to submit himself.
The wife is the owDcr Of the man; the man is
the king or owacr OF the woman, but it is in
love. She has TO learn how to obey, and each
has 10 learn how to rule, and both OF them IN
love. Now when men arc Young the sympa-
thy is free, the emotion is fluent; this cduca-
ton that should proceed from happy love is
facile, tut later in life it is difficult And
there is another evil; it is that when people
form this connection late in llfe they do not
form household. TO merely live together IS
man and wife is not forming a household. 10
live together 10 two rooms is not forming a
household. When the man aud woman are
married they should set Up housekeeping for
themselves They take u responsibility, but
they have in their family, as children arc born
10 them, the needed strength and necessities and
restrictions, and this is invaluable instruction
to young people, and. therefore let me say still
further that while deplore the boarding house
marriages, the hotel marriages, the French Hat
marriages. deporiDg all these, think they are
perhaps not so dangerous as where men and
women wait until they can come out in all their
glory and lay the foundation Of their house
hold in pomp and vanity, that their children
may be born to sumptuous furniture and very
little liberty, except that which the law Of vani-
ty allows. Children are thus born into a ba-
Ear, where everything is artificial and unrealS.
tic. Marry early, bat live at once 10 a sepa.
rate household. even if that household be
- small. Folly would hare our children not mar.
ry until they can marry with abundant wealth
and bring up their children with the knoWl
edge of the groundswes.
would not take anything on any considera
ton for the happiness | enjoyed during the
first three years of my married life. | was set
tied on a salary of $500 year, in the town oil
Lawrenceburg, in Indiana. After about fort:
nights boarding took two rooms 10 o second
story of house without door or yard before
fortunately it had one behind, and in those
two rooms-the one oil them was my cellar and
dining room together, the front one was my
bedroom. my library and my parlor together.
In these two rooms spent the first two OF
three years Of my married lille. Every day
was set 10 battle array the question Of econ
omy--how TO live, how to make the most
of what we had, and often how to do with
less. And it was q very paradise below, az |
was young and handsome (laughter,) and to
this hour we, both OF US, look back TO these
early years OF married llte 10 such small quar-
tiers as two rooms as the happiest years OF oul
lives Indeed, may az we'll confess it, as
am on the confessional, wore Judge Burton
clothes most all the time and everything We
had in the room was giveo US. That they were
oddly matched was no fault OF ours-they came
from very different ideas of housekeeping. |
look back to those happy years with the great
est pleasure.
Then there is another trouble, the disposses.
sion Of the mother from the child through
leadership. We must send our children to
school. The mother cannot, by bearing chill
dren, bearing weakness, bearing sickness, TAX
ing care of her own work, and yet become a
minute and faithful instructor Of the child. But
no mother ought TO let the child 90 to school
without making herself the partner Of that
child aud be in sympathy with it every day.
We must necessarily send our children to day
schools and Sunday schools, but let US see to it
that we hold them close to us 10 the family
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