The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1877-05-10
A Talk to the BOYS.

|. This morning said, eff, feel we'll
enough to-day, T guess I'll write a sister,
ly little talk to the boys. You know !
hardly ever write anything for them, and
of all classes in the world, boys are my
favorites. Give me the boys, the dear,
growing young boys, the hope and prom.
ise of the nation" Just as soon as / said
that the girls. began to tell me what to
say. They said, "HDon't forget to tell the
boys that If they want their sisters to love
them, they must be good to them, and tell
them their secrets, and not let them take
tlong walks when they could ride as we'll
sas not; and they mustn't growl over their
fine shirts and complain over every ima-
ginable annoyance, and find fault about
their food. That it is these habitual
fault finders who: grow TO be:unsocial and
unlovable, and finally, detestable. bores.1
Summed mp, this is what the girls told
me to tell you, ;boys':- "Don't wear your
hats in the house be, careful to keep
clean; wash often; see that your hands
are not grimy and your fuger-nails un-
| tidy. If you are going to clean stable,
put on old shabby boots kept for that
purpose under the manger. Take notice
how well-bred gentleman sits-how he
manages his two hands, his two legs, and
let him be your example.
Don't ever, ever, when you sit down,
cross your legs, sprawl, turn the .solcs of
your boots up for inspection, OF scoot
down in your chair until you sit on the
small of your back. you are a clownish
boor if you do that Some men will sit
I Egee-hawedi alsoYer a chair, with an arm
up on the back Of it, and their legs
crossed, until they look no more like a
man than figure four trap, such as we
Iaoften see along;the creek bank. Nothing
stamps a man q lout sooner than-this.'
No well bred young lady will tolerate
the company, of q Young man who smokes
LIN her presence. H Is an insult.asYawn-
ling and trotting your heels, and putting
Ion Indifferent airs, are likewise insulting !;
so is eating noisily, or smacking Your lips,
Eor using hair oil and strong perfumery.
Many 8 good fellowrhas got the mitten
just because he used pomades and hair
dressing, and lolled his. greasy head
against the wall. Eve seen mere. than
one pair. of blue eyes snap like'black ones
foger the pitilesst and immovable spot on,
the wall just back of the sofa. They.
called;it desecration, or some such word.
Don't use slang phrases at home, and
then they will never slip off your, tongue
away from home, when you are on your
best behavior. Be polite at home,i that's
the place to learn good manners don't
be stingy about saying, "thank you,"
"much Obliged" ''you're very kind" to
your good mothers and sisters in your
daily intercourse with them. J; 4a:i
Don't be sneaking. Frequent the So
ciety of sensible women, talk to them
and hear them talk, discuss books and
public men, and the, topics of the day. If
you9 do not understand the topics of;the'
times, 60 to the schoolmaster, or the doc.
tor, or your minister, and ask him TO ex-'
plain and simplify and make itsplain
enough for your comprehension. That is
thousands better, more creditable toyour
self, and complimentary to him.. than to
nod and pretend you understand when
you do not. f,.5e: ss7.s-:s
Among your lady friends be, sure you
don't intrude your confidence uponthem;
keep your own counsel; that 1880 much
better than to bore them with tales about
your poor self-your untoward circnm
stances unkindness of your reksives,
the gloomy prospects ahead of you, and
all this kind of talk. They can't assist
you; they have trials perhaps greater
than your own, and you are tax upon
their ready sympathy. ~
When you enter room or church,
don't go Aoundering in like caught fish,
slashing to the right and to the left, flag:
ping your coat-tails about like sails. Go
gently and lightly, and respectfully. Go
TO church in good time; that is genteel
and speaks well for your bringing up.
When you make calls, don't stay too
long and weary the ladies; and don't, l
beg of you, make the longest part of the
call between your chair and the door, eeas;. esss
some young men do. Don't stand and
finger the door-nob, and act as though
you were examining it to see if it in
fringed upon the patent you are medita-
ting. Such tricks are very annoying to
the "girls you left behind you" and very
likely will provoke some sharp remarks
about the time you click the gate latch.
IF YOU sit in q rocking-chair while ma