The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-09-23

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Beloved. BY Mrs. OpIs. OF The Marriage Of Cupid and
Psyche' by Mrs Tenr, or Iaila Rookh or The Loves
Of the Angels by hooRr or The uiaour or Cersar or
hasepps' by B,R0s do not think have lad would
have any more ehect upon her than the
her OF Advertisements in THK suS. But = first class
booknovel 1t might beof the right sort. might accom-
psh something. but It must not he On the Daniel De
ronda order Even tie Vicar Of Wakefield has too
much sentiment and wavcfiey' runs too high in ro
nance for her standard Deerfeld' by Miss MsRrtssAU
comes nearer the thing than any other book know
Of Anything like the love Of PsnisiNA or l,iptx, "r
even GuLS.Hs. would hardly think he read by her
doubt II the patios Of the dying gladiator IN Cde
| Harold ever arrested her attention.
| what want H. hook, or books. that give woman's
exact status IN crehuon-point her duty regard
highest happiness aud true glory consist In oocuryinr
that place aud disehargng that duty. Something like
this. IN my opinion. might II richly rilded with poetic
fancy aud pure s ic counicraci That influence have
| mentioned above I, there such book. and whcrc'
cannot expect you To oei any slccal interest IN
or mine. but whiic have answered many such IN.
quirics douitm more dhcult one has ever been sub
United To YOU. OF ono that was 80 serious to the ques
toner Whether ever marry her Or not one thing am
sure of shall never marry any one else
The truth is. there Juggling md that has often
whispered darn ani dauuius Thought IL my until
II has become cariuly famiiarand Hi4s solluquv IL
frequently IN mind How easy To end the wfct he'd
ness feel. aud have lcti Can there any worse he'll
than has burned ia my own no.om' What 10 pain vi
body compared iu she torture oi the wiudi
"'Mh" falls from an he knows Of bliss
Cares httlc into what abyss
CrtrtrrIR IOrNIY. vs., sept Is" ~ g. 2"
The writer of this letter Is evidently
man Of maturity, Of education and Of intcli-
gcnce. His love is not that Of a boy caught
10y the dimples Of "A prctt face, but is very
| serious mattcr--a ease Qf the sweet disease
which has struck deep. Probably, living in
the country. our distressed Virginia friend
enjoys the society OF few ladies of cultiva-
tion and Of tastes conscnitl with lis own.
| Therefore, when he has found one who salts
iics the demands OF his heart and his
| mind, lac Is dependent ON her for everything
that makes life delightful to him. lie has
! discovered what many men before him have
found out, that strong friendship between
Il bachelor and q maiden pretty invariably
ends In love, on one side or the other: and
| love carries with ii tho desire TO POSSESS
the object Of it exclusively. lie has also
learned that there is nothing like propin-
putty To produce love, especially II n man is
not too busily engaged about other things.
This lady must 10 a remarkable person, 10
stimulate such passion in our correspond
cnt, without returning it, Philosophers
! toll US that love first starts in tho breast Of
the woman aud we are not at all certain
that tins lady is not in love without know
ing II. Let not our correspondent make
/ htlll-- "a 81 IAht li'Ns siAll. a NViHdl Has
I told a man who offered her his heart that
She could Ike him as a friend or love him ~
a brother. hut not as husband; and yet
aiterward she has married him and made
! him good WIFE But this Virginia lady
seems hard to please, for she has already
refused eight or tn men. She also must be
very attractive to capture 80 many hearts.
We will not call her n firt. for as our cor
Respondent describes her. she is II person Of
dignity Of character aud ripen"ss ~ judy
nent, bat we do not regard as admirable
her dislike Of marriage because OF the lahors
and the risks Of it, Such n feeling is not
crcditable 10 a woman. who should welcome
! the trials OF the welded state, and rejoice 10
think that By mating she hrn,s happiness
to another, and gives play to the affections
Of her nature.
Our correspondent Is not IN a frame -
mind best adapted to success in love max
! Ing The French say that to be prosperous
In that business you should employ your
head rather than your heart. That may
seem cynical sayns. bat there ;s "a truth
underlying, It. 4 man who is 50 deeply in
love that his reason fails t. ac;, is apt to
make poor exhibition 81 himself in the
presence Of lis sweetheart, especially il
he has rot into middle life or bovond
| What a woman lltr- In q man Of years Is
strength ana sr,.cout.ol. If. therefore. ne
gets too sentimental al. i ant To- lose her
respect for him Now do you tre,t ihi,
! lady politely and with dignity. ayolaIn., all
! mention Of love nn,l o.pea nlly taking Mains
not 10 exhibit any Of the Weaknesses Of the
tender passion. II shc SAYS that you can
he only friend, let il be so TO all outward
seeming and 10 Your apparent satisfaction.
Do not pestcr hor with avowals Of vour nf-
lce:l1n and entreat.r. FOR hars. pehnye like
Il sensible and self-contnincl gentleman.
| and bear In mind that In urerii, her vuur
hand You have conferred ON her an honor
1t is necessary in those case, 10 keep YOUR
courage up, not to be to, humble. and of ali
things not to be love.slck I'm appo,ranco
| We fear that Won look too fotln,n far her
Let Things drift nlnn, in this wa,. rc.ovor
your mental equilibrium. build nm in her a
new ro4nect for Won. mako Yourself nocos-
sary To her. and likely cnough she will dis