The New York herald., 1877-07-02
HOW TO CHOOSE A WIFE.
Advice to Young Men by
Rev. G. P. Mccarthy.
WEDLOCK, NOT CELIBACY.
Feminine Dress and Adultera.
tons Discussed.

Rev. 3narles p MCCARTHY, pastor Of the American
Free Church. preached last evening in the little
OF the Univ opposite Washington square. His
subject or Ceiibacy, Which Pr and was
taken from tn -secondv verso OF tho eighteenth
chapter OF Prove.Ys-ssWhoso Gndeth a vito 0udsth
good thing and obtaneth favor OF the Lord"
"It is not my deslre," said Mr. McCarthy, "to dis
cuss on the present occasion tho relative merits OF
marriage and celbacy, hut rather TO show that az
other things being equal, the married condition u
that state Of life which, with few exceptions all
should earnestly and hopefully strive to enter no,
only because 1t is the pathway duty but also-wben
rghfiuy and virtuously sought-the pathway Of hap.
| piness and true progress The wiso man says that
house and riches are the Inheritance OF fathers
and prudent wife is from the Lord' F." II can
nardiy DC denied that the tendency Of the pres
ent time 49, so far as men are concerned rapid nc-
nation to sinful ceibacy In other words, whatever
manhood left IN the rising generation
preference Tor questonabiy ''singo-bessednoss az
It Is Called ii we examine tho this some.
what general tendency find that tho sterling advan.
tages OF the married state ignored causes
alleged for extended ccbacy arc not only shallow ex.
cuses, but 10 large number Of miserable SUBJ
teriuges designed TO the Vicious life OF a con.
siderable proportion OF so-calcd ceIebate manhood.
This Is alas too manifest Let examine the stereo.
typed excuse given by the unmarried side of mascu.
line humanity. 1t Is SAID by young men, sswe are IN.
able to support the madens to-day who are aspirant
wives, as we cannot sustain them in the comforts
which they enjoy single In tn cir homos and
dress them In tho expensive fashion which they now
display" brief examination into this statement
will expose It's sophistry. 1t simply amounts to this
81 have not suf1cient means to support a wife and
II this statement were true the conclusion would be
sound 1t Is, however, notorious that those who
make this excuse are found among the most extravs.
CANT and the most vicious livcrs
POVERTY POOR EXCUSE.
The excuse OF poverty under such circumstances is
both mean and selfish, and 1t will be generally found
that this class OF the homo spend upon to.
oacco, drink, dress gambling and other so-caled
amuscments than would keep a wife and family in
alluencc Marriage is tho natural aud normal condi.
tion Of both man and woman If they would attain the
true aim and purpose OF iiie which Is condition OF
vrtuous happiness. This condition in its highest and
most complete form is unattanabc outside OF the mar
riage relationship, and hence conclude 1t should be
the aim OF adult life to seek its
fullest and purest development In suitable
'onjugal ties do not moan say that there are not
large number Of both whose duty It is to alb.
stain from entering this condition Of he chiefly from
physical causes The fact is problem the exposition
lnd solution OF which DO not lie within the limits OF
'ur present subject iurlhcr than that such per-
oh.
ervatlons Outside OF them those who fali 10 enter
nto the holy state OF mairimony my opinion fail IN
her duty TO their COD, to their race and to their
ounry Many alleged may be re.
olved into selfish excuses for declining tho
marriage condition. Ono says, "I lear tha
rou6le and care OF family, with lis ever increasing
esponsibiiities!" ask those who are SO cowardly
re- you healthy and strong, honest and true ana de-
lrous 10 continue virtuous and goody Then. lp tue
amc OF these blessings aud virtues, I ask for what
,ere you sent into this world OF work. respon,
ioityY Was II 10 shirk your share of responsible.
nd drnn
our racer You answer, "Not 80. wouId be wiii,no
0 face the aud undertake. the respons,bi,rv n
ould be sure Of gcttinga wife suited to me in mind
nd temperament IL IS this risk lear. may choose
snrew, w. vxen' careless Negligent and drcssy
~ friends SO mucn OF that oil thing that on this
ONT confess am coward.n
To all such say, Are all you unmarried men sin.
ore IN this your sfatenenty Then accept my advice
nd act upon It. Commence from this moment to give
your spare time IN learning how TO choose u wife
GOOD THE sgA
notwithstanding the irvolty OF female character as
'ecally evidenced in the barbarous fashions of mod
q society there are hundreds and thousands of good
I'd virtuous women in our country worthy to be
wea ivca WITH the purest and best OF our unmarried
'uny men, First, undertake. this great enterprise
your HE as a religious act Go to your GOD ard
ather, and in the name OF His Divine Son tell
'ur trouble, confess the misery aud secret
OF your unholy life as IL stands
\, x for wisdom. and especially the wisdom thai
zen think OF your mother aud the virtues ip her
iich nxed your admiration aud respect Seek In
ur wife neither money nor fashion nor dress but
;al these virtues and you Will lind them II YOU ara
SO III the woman OF your choce. Next be SINCERE
honest IN this bu mess And why? Becauso
20 you viii be out OF tho fashion, this is need.
condition.
according TO the modern method mon and women
* wives and husbands, anu each appears to The
Ter ID disguise The mind and character us well as
BODY are dressed up for the OCCASION and hepce SO
ny marriages OF misery; Tor utter MARRIAGE tho
squerade ceases and the realities 0. life commence
Avoid nattery that is the bestowal Of oxtravagaut
use on the OBJECT OF your choice, and beware aud
~ avoid her II In your intercourse she thinks so
amy oi you or herself as to latter you. II you
e 10 yourself you VIII reject the praises to winch YOU
you are not entitled; and If you true to her do
teach her to he false to herself BY atery for most
men arc easily assaed here. Never Imagine that she
an angel nor forget that she Is a women and
ce ever aud always Gu titled 10 tho devotion and
Dect 0i your deepest manhood. A woman should
thor be sought attor because she is beautiful nor re.
consderatons To the essential conditions OF physi.
ana mental health. dwell upon these lew prac.
i points In the method ot choosing a wifo for truth
lDeis me 10 say that there Is as much adultcraton
his most valuable acquisition as there is IN any ar
Of trade Distinguish between tho true ana the
physically as we'll as morally Tue maiden
pants ana pulls and tries 10 improve her figure BY
"a machinery IN order to obtain q husband, do
res TO figure IN the divorce courts after marriage
she who with similar object view discards
CIVILIZATION, under the protection OF VICIOUS
ion, and makes indciIcate approaches TO the prm.
; Is equally cuipabe.
ION, or rather 'culturcd society," Is In this
ect, most truly deformed and needs decided ROT
alton. Through the power OF this social monster
d fashion wo are forced to act a part not our own
this fashionable hypocrisy u marrying has
too much the countenance of religion.
A SHOCKING TRAGEDY.