The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-09-09
Once More We Perform Our Duty to the
Lovers.

Once More We Perform Our Duty to the
Lovers.
There Is no duty which lies moro opprcs-
sivcly on the conscience Of n thoughtful cd-
tor than that of advising his readers in mat
tiers Of love.
The family, as wc have before observed, is
the unit of society, and the centre Of its
most wholesome moral and religious influ-
cnccs. Friendship is well, the devotion Of
comrades is admirable but nothing can re-
place tho affection which the family fos-
tiers. All people like to be loved, especially
women. Even the brute creatures apprc-
ciate kindness. and to the best of their abil-
ity repay it with gratitude; while the devo-
ton of men and women to each other. and
to their children, Is one of the brightest
features of human life Hence when the
lovers crowd about us we forget all other
work, in our solicitudc over their troubles.
| II any word we may say shall help them to
| gain the fruition Of happiness, the reward is
greater to Us than to them. Therefore. with
due seriousness, We consider the cases Of
love submitted for our treatment; and they
are many.
The first case is that OF n girl, who writes
without reserve. Her letter, which we have
corrected, exhibits some faults of spelling
and grammatical construction, but these
are minor things over which we do not
dwell. because We see that her heart is right,
and that Is a much more important matter
Our correspondent is a girl Of sentiment, as
the letter she sends Us demonstrates:
"LosFn llo~. August 1877.
"Slr wlyou please give little advice IN this ten.
der a1airi have loved youu, man Tor n number "
doubt wl.O iiIf hf loves
he hos not mic any more ofne than az Others perhaps
not as much. lie has sometimes seemed distant and
cold. hut There /. something about hmm that makes me
thhN Doe d''sn DISLIKE NE, and hi distant ways make
me love him a the more aud more eager win his love
and confidence am not of forward or ircc.inakins
d''1o'iton rather dislike such. but have often
wished That could be- little more sociahc with him.
Rat 'oin iincsicc So shy when I'm IN his presence
That can hardly say word 60 him sull, | uink he
know. hAe him. have loved him from NV nr.t ac.
qunnflucc with HIM. lie has ,hc nfst AMI be. love OF
m, heart linc'er beat for man before rs It beats FOR
him l tty 90 believe he don't for only asa
friend 'ry 10 ioiget him. ! cannot think Of him
every hourin the day.
"aonieumes almost wish that u had never seen him.
and ihcnI wish he were aWa,. near the spwhat .hniI
Dc % another whom don't Dislike. aud who has always
loen -od and knd TO me. should ak bee his wicf
Would % be r-ht 90 ref~ him. hoping and vet duuhtus
whether the other cared that much tor me or nots or
shan live and die maid II eAnno, have my hearts
| wl.hi "PAuESr MAY
This Is a case as serious as it Is interest
ing. and 1t pcrplexes the conscientious OK
| pert. Perhaps PATIENT MAY Is not so much
| in love with this fellow, who seems to i'm
properly appreciate what he has gained in
| her priceless affection, as she supposcs. II
the other man is "A good person, fond Of her,
and Is DESTROYS OF winning her hand, we adj
wise her to take him, providing she loves
him sufficiently. She seems to be Just the
sort Of woman who would make devoted
wife, and who stands in the need Of manly
protection. Still, after careful reflection,
let her follow the dictates Of her own heart
in the matter.
Another case Of love submitted TO us is
full Of difficulty but it may be summarily
treated. 1t is thus presented:
SIR Seeing sou explain very sat iactorily tho com
phoauonsof love Affairs, present your counsel
situation somewhat peculiar or 30 1t appears the
winter
suppose young man of2i years profoundly and ir
rcNsuly ,namorcd with sis OF L. whose prccoc.iy OF
mind Is extraordinarily that while there have been no
disclosures IN words there are evidences of alton;
t"H' 'i,,uh 'ian'es d''imne separation Of many
miles Should he, before leaving. in some Appropriate
WAY maze assurances Of hs great attachment u his in
t'uuon. 20 meet her again 3cf would a correspond
enee Doc adNisalc or should lac trust all fortune I'm
she ha reached the proper axe or srou. con,ii
crauonf BoNA Fipr.r
He should, by hard work and attentive
application TO his cmploymcnts, try to make
sensible man Of himself, and get over the
idea that a little girl is in love with him. If.
when she gets ten or twelve years older, she
cares about you, try and win her; but very
probably before that time she will have mar
ricd somebody else.
The most extraordinary inquiry which
comes to us is couchcd in the subjoined
terms:
"slR nm young man 90 years m age and have
been thrown with Young ladies very often. Now what
troubles me is that have never fallen In love cannot
even conceive what that passion that men.
toned IN your columns hint you cribing what
love Is, and its effect would greatly oblge
Yours respec fully, j. X. MAlRoY"
We shall not undertake to explain to Mr..
MALRoY what love Is. That passion needs
to be experienced TO be understood. We pity
man who has reached the ripe years of
twcnty-six without having enjoyed the peer
less delights which love brings, along with
its inevitable distresscs. If Mr.. MALRoY
has not awakened love In some responsive
heart he has lost the brightest opportuni-
ties of lie. The probability is that he is in
capable OF doing it.
We have treated the cases Of only n few Of
the many lovers who have poured into our
ears the story of the welcome suffering
which tries them, but no case of this sort
shall ever come TO THE Sun unayailingly;
and If we delay answers, it il because we
must give them the thoughtful attention
their Importance merits.