The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-07-26

over, there is forced on US still another
question relating TO love and matrimony,
and that is, Is it worth while to marry
at all?
A short time ago, II will be remembered, n
youth engaged to be married TO an "angcl"
came to us in distress because thrcc-quar-
tcrs Of his welded friends cndcavored to dis
suadc him from taking wife, by repre-
scntng that the bliss of matrmony was
overratcd, that. in fact, The estate was one
Of much unhappincss. We sent him away
with the advice To pay no heed TO these
grumbling husbands, but to proceed to mar
ry his girl like "a man, and we assured him
that the life of the welded was both happier
and moro useful than that OF the single
provided husbands and wives restrained
their scliishncss, and each regarded the
feelings Of the other. But these words
though so wise and true have failed 10 meet
II response in one heart. Ii Is the heart of u
married woman, who thus tells the story of
her wrongs:
SIR beg leave to diner with your your
RESPONDENT who 81 ned Nnmc-akc Of H. G.. have been
mAlricd many years and must canidly say that there
has not been ndny my life that have not regretted
1t To add Ia my other misfortune. have had To main
tain bed Ridden hubbard. who tell sick two years after
my marriage and even before he taken -ck was
very poorly supported II all very well Tor you to
counsel marriage. but you should Mt least give heed to
the married. they must KNOW little about IT, Please
excuse Tor Whiting to you as could not let The sub
JcCt pass without EXPIRE ssiils myself
Yours truly. Mrs JAM BorLr"
We are sorry that Mrs. Boyle has had SO
trying an experience Of matrimony. A wife
with hcd-ridden husband is very unfor-
tunatcly placed. Her affection for the man
Az disabled makes his suflcrings a great
cause Of solctudc in her, and she has not
only to do with two hands the work Of four
hands, provided the family is poor, hut also
TO do it with heavy heart. She of course
cannot blame a husband so afflicted, but
must tcndcrly sympathi2e with him in his
misfOrtuncs and try. IN the intervals of her
labor, to southc his pain. Docs Mrs BOYLE
look at the matter in this light Docs her
work, redUubled 10y reason Of Mr. BOYLL's
bed-ridden condition, seem light compared
with the trouble which weighs ON her heart
because the partner of her joys and SORROWS
groans under the aflliction of disease
Judging from her letter, we should say
that such were not the feelings of Mrs.
BOYLE, but that she the rather frctted at
her husbands state and found fault with
he would probably prefer being at work to
lying in bed. Now, let us say to Mrs. BOYLE
that though we are sorry for her, we are
more sorry for Mr.. BOYLE. who has to bear
both disabling illness and the complaints Of
wife who regrets having married him
because he didn't turn out strong
and healthy even after taking him
for better or for worse, in sick
ness or in health. We fear that If Mrs.
BOYLE has II bed-riddcn husband, Mr..
BOYLE has II wife who docs not make him
rs happy as possible in his gricvous illness.
1t is very hard for family II the
head Of II is permanently laid up, and
his labor made unavailable; but such n mis-
fortune offers no argument against mar
riage, and we regret to see "A wife using II as
one though we agree with her In thinking
that with her disposition she would have
done better if she had remained single.
Another subject Of debate is propounded
| by another woman. 1t is whether school
teachers make good wives She takes the
Affirmative. and uses the argument. in an
swcr to one Prof DICE. who seems to have not
| thought 50 well of the qualifications for
| matrimony Of the teachers that a woman
who can support herself honorahly and COM
fortably makes n better wife than one who
dsvotcs her time to her mirror and to con-
situations with dressmakers. We do not
disagree with our correspondent. School
mistresscs may make admirable mlstross"s
of families. aud that They do distinguish
themselves rs wives may be proved by many
practical examples. Sometimes they may
get little set in their ways, If they have
d. welded the birch; but take them rs Il
WHOLE the sohoolmarms deserve husbands
fully as much as other women, AMI are just
about as likely TO make them happy. We
hope all OF them who wish to he married will
find lovers, aud meet with the purcst joys
and satsfactions in welded life