Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1877-11-03
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A bow says La Fontaine. sis a tote
drawn at sight. You are bound - acSnOwl
edge ii Immediately, ana 10 The full a,no an >
A,CUi d. < 10 circumstances, IL nd be re-
ApJcIUl. cordial civil. or familiar An in
cir. tiol Of the head is OISn sufficient be
tween gent emen, or gesture OF the heu6
u der some circumstance, or tue me ?
Touching OF he hat: hut in bowling t8 a la ~
the ! al must be liit'd. l. YOU know people
shgEtIv. Nou recognize them slightly; II you
know tuem well, you bow with more c0rlt.
alify. The boiy is not bent al all in bowling,
as IN the days OF the old school forms III
politenesS; the II cliEafion of the head is an
that i neces airy. Ones own Judgment oughL
TO be Sufficient a to the empire sSement Ufthe
salutetO1. - bowling TO u lady, the hat is
only lifted from the head. not held out a:
arm 8 length for view Of the interior. II
smoking, the gentleman manages TO with
draw bis cigar before y ing MS hat: or.
should he happen Ia have his hand IA his
POCKET, be must remove IL. Gfptiemen who
are driving are often embafra by bow Ia =
aCquaiDtanCsS. They are obliged to keen a
tight hold OF the reinS, AMI that /. Impossible
II ihey remove heir hats. well-brel for
elgner oUld never dream Of Salut.nE a lady
by raising his whip 10 bis nat. me- les N
gent. men have adopted this custom, but Il
would be Sill better If they would SET tut
fashion OF bOw.ug without foTcnirg the mar
or raising the hand when occupied oy heir
driving. Our ideas OF What constitutes polite
ness IN snch points are entirely controlled by
custom, and If IL were an understood thing
tnat gentlemen who ere driving are not ex-
rected to take of their hats, the simple in
cilDation OF The mead. a IT lie lower, perhaps.
man when the hat is lifted, will - On be ac-
cepted as in good form by all sensible people
1t certal nly Is more respectful form OF salu-
tat'oa than raising the whip. which shock
those who have not become habituated 10
Ia Is modern Innovation.
"A well-bred peron instinctively bows the
moment mat he e. ognfZeS q n acquaintance,
al the instant of The FIRST meeting of the eyes.
According To the rule of courts, and Of goo /
society everywhere, any ole who has been
INTRO duced To You, or any lad " TO whom Won
have been introduced, Is entitled to mis-
mark OF respect. A bow does not entail "A
calling acquaintance, and, to neglect it
shows neg ect in early education, as well RS
a deficiency in cultivation and in the in
sllncts OF gentleman; so that the Truth Of
saint Loup's assertion, that the bow is the
touchstone OF good breeIing, IL made good
A gentleman walking with y lady returns a
DOW made 10 her, lifting his bat not too fsr
from his head 1t is a civiiity to return a
bow, although you do not know the one who
is bOwlng To you. The more cultivated a
person is, the more prompt he will be found
IN such civllitles. Either the one who bows
knows you, or he has mista ken you for same
one else. In either case, You should return
The bow, and probably the mistake will be
discovered TO have occurred from want % n
q ulck recognition on your CIV - part, or from
some resemblance that you bar to another.
In either case, the bow costs you nothing,
and the Withholding of it shows you 10 be
either gauche OF rude. Young people often
wait for the recognition OF the elder
person, having been instructed by books
that II Is the place of the elder to
snow the nfSt recognition. No hooks can
replace the training of parents in such mat
teIS. or the instincts of kind hearts. II en-
lic'r ne pas Sdusir qlte dc SdCOif H2q &c ,;tl on
SAT, was once said by great man; and sho
has ever IL al book On goot manners that
I'D nct hnd giaring errors in it's pages, unless
The Art OF conversation" lie accepted ? The
one Introduction that entities TO recognition,
n?Vlng been once made. IL il the duty of the
younger person 10 recall himself or herself
10 he recollection OF the elder person by
bowling each time of meeting. until the recog-
milton becomes mutual. As persons advance
In LIE. iney look Tor these aitant ions upon
instances That IL is The only way which the
young nave OF showing their appreciation OF
courtesies eStenoed to them by The oil or
mdcle aged. Those who have large circles
OF acquaintance often confuse the face of
Inc young whom they know with the familiar
races which they meet and do not know, and
nom frequent errors of this kind they get
INTO The habit or waiting TO catch some look
or gesture OF recognition. Only persons with
limited acquaintance, or kings and queens
VINO nave chamberlains or nomen cators to
utter In low tones the names OF those whom
they approach, can be expected to remember
the faces and names of all who have been
intro duced to them; and no king, nor queen
nor any man or woman possessing culture
and self respect, would pass knowingly an
without a saluta,ion unless
that person had forfeited the claim which an
imposes.