River Falls journal. [volume] (River Falls, Pierce County, Wis.) 1872-2019, 1877-06-07
Husbands and Wives.

"They are Just married" was the re
mark of all the fellow passengers ola GER
tain couple on railway train the other
day. And wherever that couple went on
their Journey the same observation was
repeated. There are certain indications
about the recently welded which always
betray the happy parties as enjoying their
honeymoon" Though from time inn
memorial the said moon has been regard
ed as transient, every woman who mar
ries thinks that her case is an exception,
and that the new happiness is to be con-
tinued indefinitely between the twain
until death do them part. 1t is not pleas
ant to think that the woman who thus
confides must, in too many cases, be dis
appointed. She must find that the sutton
who professed that her companionship
was the one thing necessary to his happi-
ness will discover that there are many
other things which her husband deems
pleasant, and with which the wife has lit
tie, if anything, to do. As a rule, the less
she is interested in his outdoor move
ments the better he is pleased.
Courtslip is one thing. Welded life
is another Indeed, some women 90 so far
as to say that nearly every boy or man is
in a chronic opposition to the girls or
women in the family where he domiciles.
1t is charged that the lads would not
g 90 counting if it did not vex their
sisters; and that they would not marry if
mothers were not in some cases entirely
averse to their marriage, and Others only
Submissive under protest. The marriage of
man is in some sort of triumph over his
OWL female kindred. These kindred sub
nit, as the say submission is womans
lot. And they make the best of it, and
sweeten the inevitable with wOmanly
gentleness.
But the husband-what of him? The
new husband is elate with the conscious
ness of having won the girl of his choice.
He has taken a wife, all objections to the
contrary Notwithstanding. He takes her
on his arm with all the pride of a captor
and conqueror Nobody disputes his
victory. Mother and sisters become his
wife's allies and endorse the proceeding
with all their hearts. He is monarch of
all he surveys. There are no more con-
tentions, for everybody has Endorsed the
arrangements if everybody had heartily
approved and promoted it rom the first.
He might rest on his laurels-but
laurels will not always keep green, and
the dry leaves metaphorically choke him.
He looks for new cOnquests, and selects
his wife for an antagonist. 1t is not that
he does not love her. He loved his mo-
ther 1t is not that he would not do any
and everything for her that does not in
terfere with his own whims and caprices.
He di all that for his sisters. But he re-
4 III IL, hot
boy like, annoyed them, man like, he
annoys his wife. Evenings at home be-
come wearsisome, and evenings abroad,
if his wife must be with him, are hardly
less so. As he declined to be tied to his
mothers apron strings" he is fretted by
his marriage tie: He has pressing bust
ness which keeps him from the tea table,
and which encroaches on his evening
hours. His wifes looks of remonstrance
are considered "fussy," and her claims
upon him, put in words, are met by pro-
tests. And so the honeymoon frequently
passes its last quarter, with, unfortunately
no promise of new m Don of the same
happy description in the matrimonial
calendar.
Then other affairs come in to engross
the groom's attention-boat clubs, bill
lizards, base ball, horses, -" the lodge" sup
per with some of the odd fellows, "pol-
itics," hotels, saloons, and all the rest.
And he just drops in at the theatre, you
know, quite accidentally, because Smith
told him of very particular attraction.
If he had only thought of it at dinner
time, he would have asked Sarah to get
ready. And so on. Mind these are things
that the women find out, though they may
be very cautious in speaking about them.
These are the general heads under the
fears they have that their husbands like
to escape the company which, as suitors,
they priced above every other. The men
must answer to their own consciences how
far the suspicious are well founded, and
in many cases husbands, even of some
years standing, would perhaps do well to
live their " attentive" days over again, and
spark their wives afresh. The change
from the wan and weary or the slightly
martyr aspect which many wives wear
would be thing as well worth seeing as
any advertised attraction" and the voice
of cheerful wife as well worth hearing as
any drama, opera or lecture.-Phitadel-
Dhid Ledger.