The Toledo chronicle. [volume] (Toledo, Tama County, Iowa) 1873-1924, 1877-02-22

" In some instances tnls 0ePeuueuCy, N
: house, for example, whore tlno means
arc limited, is not altOeefher honoFable e
the dependent. The daughter "a = poor
man, or Of one with moderate income,
has two hsnds and her health and modi.
cum 0f intellect, and, if ~ n not needed
at home, IL - blame 4 sl1e do not f1nd
her way 70 become, II not wholly, YET
partially, Independent, and she can render
portion of the weight the flther has 10
carry. II Il Il the mere oTatf6cation o1
pride that hindofs this, her position sbor-
ders on the disgraceful, and no endeavor
to g keep up appearances can justify IT;
and IL Il ID the qualification of ind0lence.
there Is no excuse for her at all. Sonne-s
thing Of the disgrace, too, in such case
attaches TO the parents Of this daughter,
not only that they have not inculcated
principles that would make her sc0rn her
Incidence, but that they have mot from
the outset given the child to understand
that she was to be sell. supporting, and
that there was honor in that path, and
have not strained every nerve to afford
her, moreover, the means, the education,
the special training Of the special t&lent
that, followed up, would make her 80.
That is course they will not pursue with
their son; it Is Q most ehOrt-sighted and
foolish tenderness or shirking Vt respOnsi-a
bility that allows them to pursue Il with
their daughter. They mean 70 leave her
well-to-do in the world, perhaps; they
mean to marry her well, or they are sure,
II she does not marry, that she VIII nave
home with her Drother or win some
sister who does marry. But none OF tne
sisters may marry; the brother's wlle may
q L
not wish Tor her, ana may make that nome
. horror TO her, and the well to-oo porlon
may vanish into thin air; and under an
these poesibllltles It 10 PLAIN tnat Fl most
positive duty Is neglected. py the parenS.
1t seems, indeed, 70 De very general
opinion among mothcrs, ana 1atners 700,
that the boys must oe nelpea, whenever u
= IN the least pracucanie, 70 make way
Tor themselves, but that tine girls can slip
along anywhere ina! tne poys must oe
planted and rooted and watered; put tne
the father has really the directlng ana
governing power, even II ne aDolcates,
men have only themselves to thank lot
the great number OF female dependents.
1t is to this want OF wisdom that so many
wretched marriages are due. that so many
daughters, cruelty assorted, are forced
into q life. long unhappineSS, because, ac-
cording to the ideas of their training,
they have nothing else to do but to marry
-and then bring up their daughters the
same way. iss,..,s..
But when woman has really struck
out for herself, frequently to the conster-
nation of her family, what benefaction
it is to her in mental and moral strength!
How soon her family come to see the
matter as she does, and how sweet she
finds it to handle her own money! The
sister who feels herself, SO far as externals
go, as well of as the sister who has
married, infinitely better off than if she
had married the person repugnant to her,
feeling that some OF the best blessings Of
life could have no blessing In them II
owed to him; the daughter who can ado
her share to the comfort and beauty OF
home; the mother who is able to contrib
ute to the happiness OF her children with
her own hands-none who have not feit
the sting Of their dependence can tell the
glory OF their independence.
It is an independence, too, that has
some charms in it for the wife, and the
happy wife. We have known happy and
honored wives, VINO, ieelmg that some,
tnlng more was needed IN the hOuSeholQ