The Republican. [volume] (Oakland, Md.) 1877-current, 1877-05-26
Husbands and Wives.

Husbands and Wives.
They are just married" was the re-
mark of all the fellow-passengers of a
certain couple on a railway train the
other day, and wherever that couple went
on their journey the same observation was
repeated. There are certain indications
about the recently-wedded which always
betray the happy parties as enjoying their
honeymoon" Though from time i'm
memorial the said moon has been re-
garded as transient, every woman who
marries thinks that her case is to be an ex-
ception, and that the new happiness is
to be continued indefinitely between the
twain until death do them part. 1t is
not pleasant to think that the woman
who thus contides must, in too many
cases, be disappointed She must tind
that the suitor who professed that her
Companionship was the one thing neces-
sary to his happiness will discover that
there are many other things which her hus-
\ band deems pleasant, and with which the
wife has little, if anything, to do. AS a
rule, the less she is interested in his out
door movements the better ne is pleased
Courtship is one thing. Welded life is
another. Indeed, some women 60 so far
as to say that nearly every boy or man is in
a condition of chronic opposition to the
girls or women in the family where he
domiciles. 1t is charged that the lads
would not Ego a counting" if it did not
vex their sisters; and that they would not
marry if mothers were not in some cases
entirely averse to their marriage, and in
others only submissive under protest
The marriage OF {. man is in some sort a
| triumph over his own female kindred
Those kindred submit, as they say sub
mission is woman's lot And they make
| the best of it, and sweeten the inevitable
with womanly gentleness. .r. .
But the husband-what of him? The
new husband is elate with the conscious
ness of having won the girl of his choice.
He has taken wife, all objections to
the contrary Notwithstanding He takes
her on his arm with all The pride of Il
captor and conqueror, Nobody dis
putes his victory. Mother and sisters
become his wife's allies and indorse the
proceeding with all their hearts He is
monarch of all he surveys. There are
no more contentious, for everybody has
Endorsed the arrangement, as if every
body had heartily approved and pro-
NOTED it from the first He might rest
on his laurels-but laurels will not always
keep green, and the dry leaves metaphor
iCally choke him. He looks for new con
quests, and selects his wife for an antag-
onist 1t is not that he does not love
! her He loved his mother. 1t is not
that he would not do any and every thing
! for her that does not interfere with his
own whims and caprices. He did all
| that for his sisters But he rebelled I'M
der their control; and having, boy like,
annoyed them, manlike he annoys his
wife, Evenings at home become wear-
some, and evenings abroad, if his wife
must be with him, are hardly less so.
As he declined to be tied to his mothers
apron. strings" he is fretted by his
marriage-tie. He has pressing business
which keeps him from the tea table, and
which encroaches on his evening hours.
| His wife's looks of remonstrance are con
| sidered fussy,' and her claims upon
him, put in words, are met by protest
And SO the honeymoon frequently passes
its last quarter, with, unfortunately, no
promise of a new moon of the same happy
description in the matrimonial calendar.
Then other affairs come in to engross the
grooms attention-boat clubs, billiards,
baseball, horses, g the lodge" supper
with some of the cold fellows" "poli-
tics" hotels, saloons, and all the rest.
And he just drops in at the theater, you
know, quite accidentally, because Smith
told him of avery particular attraction.
If he had only thought of it at dinner
time, he would have asked Sarah to get
ready. And so on. Mind these are
things that the women find out, though
they may be very cautious in speaking
about them. These are the general
heads under the fears they have that
their husbands like to escape the com
pany which, as suitors, they priced above
every other. The men must answer to
their own consciences how far the sus-
picions are well founded, and in many
cases husbands, even of some years
standing, would perhaps do well TO live
their g attentive" days over again, and
spark their, wives afresh. The change
from the wan and weary or the slightly
martyr aspect which many wives wear
would be a thing as well worth seeing as
any advertised n" attraction" and the
voice of cheerful wife as well worth
hearing as any drama, opera or lecture.
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