The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1877-10-11


imum of sense, and the maximum
of nonsense. 1t is right and good
that woman marry, if she marry
wisely, but it is not right that she
marry simply because she is a wo-
man. 1t is not to marriage per SC
that we object, but it is to the idea
that every woman may, can, must,
might, could, would or should mar
ry, no matter what the circum
stances that surround her.
Ii a girl be true hearted and pure
she wishes and intends to marry.
When she tells me she never means
to do so, know she is telling me
a falsehood or is not natural wo
man.
In the heart of every woman,
deep down it may be, yet pure and
undying is the longing for the peace
and love of a Home-for the heart
of some true man TO glorify that
Home with Love Most women, l
think, are happier, and better as wife
and mother than they would other
wise be-provided they have chosen
a man who fills their life with love,
and their home with the strength of
his presence.
But alas! so many women do not
choose wisely, and / earnestly be-
lieve that if a girl were left as free
as a man in the matter of marrying
there would be not SO many cases
of divorce, nor unhappy homes in
our fair land. If she felt that there
was no special need that she be in
haste about choosing a husband-if
she were given a few years to sound
the depths of her own heart, so as
to know what were the requirements
of her nature, she would bring to
the choice a wisdom and honesty
that no undeveloped girl Of seven
teen can possibly possess.
But the thought that she is ex-
pected to marry hurrles many girl
into a marriage that in her maturer
years she would never make.
A man feels that he can marry
at any time-that he need be in no
hurry-a woman ought to be left
with as much freedom.
1t is absurd for a woman to feel
that all her education, all her beau
ty, every good gift of heart or brain
are only snares with which to catch
q husband. She ought to feel that
she is being educated to make a
good woman, because God meant
that woman should be good and
lovely, and not merely to attract
the opposite sex. To my thinking,
the woman who would make the
happiest marriage, and in whose
love a man would be most blest, is
the woman who feels that, if Fate
so determine, she could go through
life alone, with brave heart and
fearless.
The charms that are cultivated
only to catch husband, will be laid
aside as soon as he Is caught Love
should be spontaneous-else it is
no love at aIl-marriage should be
the result of the coming together
of kindred souls, and not a thing
Of calculation or design.
A true marriage is the most beau
tiful thing on earth-a marriage
that proves mistake, what Pande-
monium can compare with it? Next
to religion there is nothing that
should be more earestly considered,
and / shudder to think how
thoughtlessly this sacred relation
is entered into.
ga loving woman finds Heaven or hell,
On the day she becomes bride.n
And yet young girls, through lear
of old-maidhood, take upon them
selves the sacred name of wife with
little thought beyond the bridal
trousseau and the wedding tourl
If girls would seek, not to marry
early, but well-if they would re
member that the hand over which
Hymen holds sway is not land Of
perpetual sunshine and flowers
how far better it would be- Then
there would be more happy wives.
and fewer sad women, who look at
us with hungering eyes that tell of
a lifelong disappointment.