The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1877-05-14

steries in State institutions fodderng thcm by whole
sale or by machinery Is better than nothing but the
true place 10 rear children il the household. Inc
warmth and the brooding OF love Indispensable 70
children Children that not reared in love are not
deep in sensibilities BY no other school can child
learn tho superior truths that lead 20 spiritual life
There Is no other school In the world where This Is
taught except that in which the father the principal
and the mother the chief instructor II IS the parent
Kingdoms only here IS u that food can be found ior
every faculty.
moral truths that pertain to human lic Early In tho
family the principle OF subordinaton is taught and
likely 10 become valued member Of society. IL Is IN
the family that we learn the theory and the practice
OF vicarious suffering The theory OF one suffering Tor
another cannot ut first be understood IL Is when you
look al vicarous suffering IN the household that you
see that there Is nothing V beautiful as The strong
long by the sdc Of the crades Who Is i
that has forgotten gayetys Who watches through
a sickness that Il takes roses IRON her
morning over the helpless babe. Christ
lives Tor US as the mother lives Tor the child;
The family also teaches the true doctrine OF SIN and
penalty The administration Of this IN the family is
beautiful from the very beginning. The mother always
and has right 10 rulc In learning from the family
learn tho doctrine OF the liberty OF law The mo-
child is sick the mother RENTS the law directly
Law IN the family is nexibie Law IS IKE SHOES, you
take new measure Tor every SIX months growth. BY
this we get an insight INTO the WORDS o. Goa ~ WIZ
have mercy those would have mercy" You have
purcr type OF this in the household than you have IN
books OF theology. We learn also from me household
tho nature Of forgiveness Mr. Beecher here
gave illustrations from his own childhood experiences
said he had been quite as much edited ny seeing
his brother Charles whipped as ne had been ny oeinS
whipped himself.
In advocating early marriages Mr.. Beecher said:-
sThe has TO learn how TO submit herself, and
the mas TO learn how TO submit himself. Tho wife
is the owner OF the man. The man IS the KING or
owner OF the woman but Is IN love- she has 10 learn
now 10 obey, and each has 10 learn how 10 rule, and
both OF them in love. Now. when men are young the
sympathy is free, the emotion Is fluent this educa-
ton ina. should proceed from happy love lacilc, but
later lite II is difficult And there Is another evil;
Is that when people form THIS connection
late in lie they DO not form household To merely
live together and wife is not forming house,
hold. 10 live together in two rooms is not forming
household. When the and woman are married
they should up Housekeeping for themselves. rhey
responsibility but they have III their family as
children are born 70 them, the needcd strength anu
strucuon to young people, and therefore et mo say
still further that while | dcploro the boarding
marriages. depior!ng all these. think they are per-
haps dangerous as whore men and women walt
until they out In all their glory and lay the
foundation OF their household In pomp and vanity,
that their children may be born to sumpuous iurn-
and very little liberty, except that which the law
OF vanity allows Children are thus born into bazaar,
where everything Is artificial AMI unrcalls.
Tic. Marry carly, but live at once IN .
separate household oven If that household be small
Folly would have our children not marry until they
can marry with abundant wealth and bring up their
children without the knowledge OF the groundswells.
FOUR HUNDRED DOLLARS SALARY.
would not take anything on any consideration Tor
the happiness enjoyed during the first three years OF
my married life was settled q salary Of $500
year. In the town Of Lawrencdburg IN Indiana. After
about a fortnicht's boarding l took two rooms
fortunately It had behindl and IN those two
rooms-the one OF them was my cellar
and dining room together, the front one
was my bedroom, my library and my paror together.
In these spent the first two or three years
Of my married te. Every day we set IN battle array
the question Of economy-how 10 live, how TO make
tho most OF what we had, aud often how TO do with
less And It was avery paradise below, as was young
ana handsome (.aughter), and TO this hour
We, both OF US, look back 10 these
early years OF married life In such small quarters
rooms the happiest years OF our lives. Indeed,
may well confess Il, AS am on tho confessional
wore Judge Burtons clothes most all the time and
everything we had tho room was given US. That
they wero oddly matched was no fault Of ours--they
from very different ideas Of Housekeeping. |
look back TO those happy years with the greatest
pleasure.
MOTHERS TEACHING.
Then there Is another trouble, the disposscssion
OF tile from tho child through teachership.
We must send children TO school. The mother
by bearing children, bearing weakness, bear
ing sickness, taking OF her work, and yot be-
minute and faithful instructor Of the child.
But mother ought TO let tho child school with
making herself tho partner OF that child and be IN
sympathy with It every day. We must necessarily
send children TO day schools and Sunday schools,
but let 10 It that hold them close 10 US In the
family.