Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1877-05-07
gatlies' Column,
WOMAN A LADY.

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not afford. Delicacy is thing which
cannot be lost and found No art can
restore to the grape its bloom. Famil-
iarity without love, without confidence,
without regard, is destructive to all that
makes woman exalting and ennobling.
The world is wide, these things are small;
They may be nothing. but they are all.
Nothing? 1t is the first duty of woman
to be lady. Good breeding is good
sense. Bad manners is in woman i'm
morality. Bashfulness is constitution
al. Ignorance of etiquette is the result
of circumstances. All can be condoned,
and do not Danish men or women from
the amenities of their kind. But self
possessed, unshrinking and aggressive
coarseness of demeanor may be reckoned
as a States Prison offence. and certainly
merits that mild form of restraint called
Imprisonment for life. 1t is a shame
for women to be lectured on their man.
ners. 1t is bitter shame that they
need it. Women are the umpires of
society. 1t IS they to whom all mooted
points should be referred. To be a
lady is more than to be prince. A
lady is always in her right inalienably
worthy of respect. To lady, prince
and peasant alike bow Do not be re-
strained. Do not have impulses that
need restraint. Do not wish to dance
with the prince unsought for; feel differ
emily. Be sure you confer honor. Garry
yourself SO loftily that men shall look
up to you for reward, not at you in re-
Duke. The natural sentiment of man
toward woman is reverence. He loses a
large means or grace when he is Obliged
to account her being to be trained in
propriety. A mans ideal is not wound
ed when a woman fails in worldly wis
dom; but if in grace, in tact, in senti-
mcnt, in delicacy, in kindness she should
be found wanting, he receives an inward
hurt.
The WIRES PIN-MoNEY.-We do not
KNOWS at he possible for a man to I'M
derstand a sensitive, high spirited
woman's reluctance to ask for money,
because he can't put himself in her place.
1t would require an impossible stretch
of the imagination for him to conceive
what his feelings would be, if he were
compelled to ask somebody when he
wanted new hat, or coat, or a pair Of
shoes. Perhaps he might be able tc
approximate to something near her state
of mind, if he could recall his abiect
terror, when as a boy, he approached
his father to crave the boon of a few
extra dollars. A lady said to us: "a
have lain awake half the night dreadinl
the stern necessity of asking my hus
band for money next day." Anothe
said: "If ! was absolute mistress o
even the paltry sum of one hundred dol
lars year, SO that | could spend i
without feeling responsible to anybody
/ should feel that great weight ha
been lifted off me-" A wife who doe
her share of the work for the family
and by careful management and contriv
ing adds to the common fund, is entitle
to her share of the profits, and the d
vision should be justly and cheerful
, made by the head of the firm, as to an
other partner. If women were so recog
, nized and trusted, many whose SOU
are now tormented about the vexe
question of their rights" would be col
tented, happy keepers at home. TO
edo Blade