The weekly clarion. [volume] (Jackson, Miss.) 1863-1882, 1877-04-25
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But YOU have not spoken of married
life, suggested Chronicle reporter 10
the Intelligent society lady whose opin-
ions on popping the question were given
last week, as he quietly opened his no;e-
book
That Is a very prolific subject-she
began and Is necessarily more serious
one But to Accommodate you, as YOU
seem to have 50 high an opinion of my
knowledge, | will refer to some of the
incidents and peculiarities of married
life. The first foe that marriage meets is
marriage itself. While the pursuit of a
desirable object is in progress, and failure
Is possible, every faculty is strained to-
warl attainment, and every available
auxiliary is brought to bear upon the
same end. There is excitement in it, no
doubt-eXcltement most intense 1t
matters not whether the object sought
be wife or wager. A man knows that
TO win the woman of his choice he must
please her; so he makes it business to
please her. He is interchangeable in it, He
does not mean to be hypocrite His
love is honest, or he thinks it is. Weeks,
months, years pass before the object of
his affection is secure to him. When
marriage cOnsummates his desires and
aims, he is at the end of long and ex
citing race. Possession brings reaction.
Society engenders Indifference. This Is
in accordance with the laws of the human
mind. 1t would be the same if he had
sought long and found at last great wealth.
or high position, or any other prize for
which men strive. But this comes as 4
sort of shock from which there is earlier
or later recovery. With wife, too,
comes certain
Loss OF FREEDOM,
which is irksome to willful natures A
man is very short-si GIFTED creature, an
he never thinks of this until after the
object Of his love is his. Waking thor
oughly to the consciousness that he Is a
married man, he finds in his house a
person who has an absolute claim on his
attention, his time, his affection and his
service. He is surrounded by new con
ditlons; all his movements must start
from Il new centre. Mr.. Jones, before
marriage, could harness his pony and
drive wherever impulse might direct );
but Mr.. Jones, after marriage, is obliged
IL remember that Mrs. Jones is in the
house and would like to accompany him
a fact, considering the way the pony's
head is turned, and the old companions
who live on the way, that is not always
wholly agreeable to Mr.. Jones. A new
item comes into all his calculations. Mr.
Jones is double instead of single Mr.
Jones life, which was once a skein of
| silk, has become a stick of twist and his
strand cannot be separated from the other
without disagreeable consequences. Mr..
! Jones finds himself tied to Mrs. Jones
! for life, and also finds that certain
| freedom of movement which :he enjoyed
before marriage cannot with propriety be
I enjoyed after. This troubles him little.
He has half a mind to rebel. What
| business has woman to interfere with
him? Perhaps he rebels with a whole
mind. Thousands do, and by the fail
ure to adapt themselves nationally to
their new conditions, iraugurate life
Of discord or Indifference. Absorption
/ in business and professional pursuits is
/ perhaps
THE GRAND CAUSE OF EsTRANGEMEN1
between married lives. In France there
| is saying that Tobacco is the tomb oil
love" In America business is the toni
Of love. 1t is hard, if not impossible, foi
two great passions to live in the heart al
the same time. 1t is as difficult to love
woman and mammon as it is to serve
God and mammon. The love of a mar
for his wife must be the grand, enduring
misunderstanding passion of his life, OF
womap is defrauded of her right. The
man who, when his wife is won, turns
the whole interest and energy of his life
into business, making that an end which
should only be a means, is married only
in nanle. There is no narcotism fo
affection like the strong love AID cease
less pursuit of money. Turning gradu
! ally away fFQm the quiet society of theiI
wives and the enjoyment Of their homes
most men yield themselves to the pursui
of wealth, and in the fierce excitement
of their enterprise lose taste for tn
calm delights of domestic life. At tn
close of a days labor they bring hom
weary bodies and worn minds; nothing
is saved for their Homes OF tuefr &iyes
Their evenings are stupid and fretful
and the pillow and forgetfulness are We
coined as a release from ennui. Nh
Jones is quite likely to be what is calle
AN EXCELLENT PRovIDER.
He takes CERTAIN degree of pride i
dressing his wife and family well, ful
nishing them with good house and SUI
rounding them with creature comforts
- F~nc:es, indeed, that by doing this Ii
is testifying his r.cc9ard to Mrs. Jones, an
proving his love for her in yer
. tangible and substantial way. It is L
vain that Mrs. Jones assures him sh
would like more of him and less of hi
provisions. 1t is in vain that she tell
him that if he would give her more {
his society she would gladly excuse man
of the good things which he sends her q
substitute. He does not believe
Glove in cottage" and for his life h
cannot tell what Mrs. Jones finds I
complain of. He is a man of bushes;
and thinks complacently that he hs
passed the nonsense of youth and tn
|. tame delights of early wediock. He hi
come to like strong fiavors, and know,
: although he knows not why, that h
+ + heart is growing dead within him. Th
] l,. - Mrs Homes fail To move hin