The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1877-11-17

stood by everybody that engaged persons
cannot DO expected to contribute much, II
anything, to the general pleasure Of the
people among whom they live. They are
cngrosscd in each other, and, as rule, they
prefer to exchange views between them
selves, and not with the rest Of the house,
hold. They have much to say which they
know Is OF little interest to the people about
them, though of the worry highest interest to
themselves. Perhaps they desire to discuss
the arrangement Of their future home. Per-
haps they are anxious to get each others
opinions on favorito authors. IL may
be that there are phases Of love which
they have not gone over in previous CONVEX
sations Possibly they wish To get new assur-
ances OF one anothcr's undivided Affection
Indeed, there are many subjects engaged
people are satisfied they ought to be suffered
to examine apart from society. However,
they should not be go selfish as to occupy
the parlor to the exclusion Of everybody
else They should remember that though the
family is willing To give up some comforts
out of regard to their exceptional condition,
1t cannot be expected that they should he
made utterly miserable ON thoir account.
change of their ideas in the parlor. and
somebody else comes in, unless that person
liz ready to leave, they should proceed To act
like other people, and not conduct them
selves as If il was an outrage TO enter the
room where they are After decent delay,
II they wish 10 continue their conversation
they might gracefully retire and take u
walk, and then keep up their sentimental
talk. That is an easy thing to do.
We say decidedly that 1t is not proper for
the young man to close the blinds before he
enters the house to call ON the young lady.
1t is the business Of the family to close or
open their own blinds, and no ono else Is
privileged, not even an accepted lover, to
touch them from outside. If the young lady,
when he has been ushered into the parlor
suggests to him that the open blinds annoy
her, it Is the part of politencss for him to
rush with alacrty To crafty her. other
wise he would better leave the blinds alone
As to whether the inmates OF the house
should knock on the parlor door and wait
outside moment or two before entering.
when the lovers are in the room. there is
ground for discussion. They should not toe
expected to do it. If they do it, they pro-
will cause embarrassment, and they ought
not to proceed on any such supposition. No.
II lovers cannot so conduct themselves in
the parlor, open to the whole household, as
to render 1t possible for any one else 10
enter it, they ought to be taught to behave
differently. Still, some consideration will
be shown them by kindhcarted people, who
will take pains to let them be alone on oc-
casions, and manage to sit in some other
room than the paror.
The German system Of having the lover
spend his evenings with his sweetheart in
the presence Of the whole family has much
To commend IL, though the hearty Germans
tolerate degree Of caressing familiarity be-
tween the lovers under such circumstances,
which would be odious 10 our people. Per
haps it Is just as well that engaged people
should be put under more restraint than
they are in many circles Of American co.
ciety. But We trust much to the discretion
Of our girls.