The Bossier banner. [volume] (Bellevue, Bossier Parish, La.) 1859-1952, 1877-08-30
STRATEGY OF CotuRTsHIp. ;
How to Make Love and Win Your Charmer.
from the New York SUM-

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tFrom the New York SUM-
The proper manner in which to ad-1
dress a young lady who has won your,
affections is subject for much serious
and thoughtful consideration The
business.is exceedingly delicate. A false
step at the beginning of the courtshipi
maybe irretrieyable; atoo rude approach
may jar on her fine susceptibilities a
rough hand may scatter the petals ofthe \
flower of love; yet too deliberate and
composed s1itor might outrage the fair
ones sense of what the occasion requir7
ed from him. A nice mixture of ardor
| and reserve, timidity eand iandacity, is |
what the swain must display. He must
! seize the fit moment, plunge precpitately
in, and, risking all sen the. desperate
charge, await the issue of victory or de-
feat. He 4ifust remember that even
though the girl isprepared to surrender,
she will not come to terms unless he
| opens vigorous warfare on her affecl
tions, and displays the intrepid courage
of an indomitable soldier in the ranks
of Cupid. si1 lib oErdg5r ,S.i{1
1t is required of y lover that he shall
be modest regarding his own merits,
absorbed, in the pursuit. of his sweet
heart, regardful of all her varying
moods and fancies, assiduous in his atl'
! tentons, and quick to. interpret her OUT,
T spoken thoughts and feelings. To do
this he must think mot Of himself, but
of her; and her transcendent grace and
7 loyeliness must make his ow1i poor
merits seem, by contrast, little better
than actual faults. Once he gets into
this state Of mind, the lover begins to
be in a proper conditionlfor prosecuting
his suit, for then he is ready to hazard all
1 to win SO priceless aftreashre; not that
he deserves to wear the kohinoor of his
imagination, but that his very humility
and consciousness of his lack of desert,
and his determination to keep the jewel
safe forever, may secure for him, as a
. free-win gift, the custody of the prize.
:. If he enters upon the task with a cool
self-conidence, thinking he has only to
reach out his hand to pick up
the precious gift of his sweetheart's s
love, he is likely to find that his conceit
and impudence. have cost him dear,1 and
| to retire discounted from the interview.
: Girls demand that they shah be won !;
they do not stand ready to be taken at
ID short notice, and by fellows who fancy
:, that they are iffesistible.i Such lovers
deserve to be raped severely over the
, knuckles; and if they retire from pro-
, posing the momentous question, smart
, ing severely and deeply ohagrined, they
get no pity from us. = - ~ - =
.. A lover who writes from North Care-
. lima is. not that sort of fellow, and there
t we have given fmueh study to his case,
which we are happy TO think is hopeful.
, The best way of getting at the facts OF
, his situation is to print his letter, which
I is FULL. and presents all the data neces7
sary for The forming Of an intelligent
: Judgment This is the confessioni OF
our North Carolina friend:
SfR-About six months ago formed the
| acquaintance of beautiful and gay young
+ lady. was so forcibly struck with her APP
pearance and beauty that / could not resist
the temptation to visit her. On my first visit
said nothing, but passed the compliments
of the evening. On my second visit asked
her wouldshe grant me the kind favor te
allow me to visit and correspond with her
Ny request was granted. In about thret
: weeks / addressed the following letter tt
/, her:
l MISS So: The obligation under which
D placed myself by your generous confidence
. and affectionate expression of regard induces
> me to assume the pleasure of opening thu
5 correspondence between you and myself. :.
: know not of any lady who ever yet hOnOret
= me with her company for whom l have
!, greater regard than yourself; and the agree
Y able hours have spent with you can 1, not p,
equaledE unless they are repeated. When
Ssfeo yoa s"s i na WAS % my se q &c
v with integrity and honor. And, indeed. !
I pect any thing else from you in return. Pleas.
/ allow me to return to you my sincere thank
:. for the kind favor from you'in granting mi
: the privilege to visit and correspond.
n Respectfully, -if ------.
l.. In about the same length OF time receiy
ed the following reply:
: Mr.. --- / take tie earliest opportunit.
/, | of acknowledging the receipt OF your lette
l of the sth inst and the Obligations i feel Il
: you for the sentiments expressed IN my be
(. l,es personal regard to be eeoasidersd; these
: must refer to the superior knowledge of m
O parents, and if the result of these inquiries i
=. such as my presentiments suggest have NJ
t doubt nay happiness will be attended to bya
/ permission to decide for myself. hope if M
parentsrshould see cause to decline the pro
. posed favor OF your alliance it viii not produc
such n disu.nion between ss as TO deprive
: Questions-First.i Do You think the word
: kind favor-were Improper? Secondly
Don't you think that it was improper for m
Y to ask the questions to visit and correspon
J, both at the same time? Thirdly. Don't yo
think that have encouragement? g<.
! We fail to see any thing Objectionable
= in this amatory correspondence. o
both sides it is marked by dignity an
v reserve, and has certain business-lik
e 7 character which eommends them t
VIA practical mind. We should say fro1
reading IT that our correspondent wohhl
q at least make a discreet Hover, and th
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