Staunton vindicator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1860-1896, 1877-06-01
Early Marriages..

Early Marriages.
| In advocating early marriages Mr.
Beecher, in his last Sundays sermon, said
1.-The woman has to learn how to submit
submit himself The wife is the owner o.
the man; the man is the king Or owner OF
the woman, but it is in love- She has to
learn how to obey, and each has TO learn
how to rule and both of them in love. Now
when men are young the sympathy is free
the emotion is fluent; this education that
should proceed from happy love is facile
but that later in life is difficult. And there
! is another evil; it is that when people form
this connection late i'll life they do not
form household. To merely live togeth-
Ell as man and wife is not forming house
hold. To live together IN two rooms is
not forming a household. When the man
and woman are married they should set W
/ housekeeping for themselves. They take q
responsibility, but they have in their fami
I lily, as children are born to them, the
needed strength and necessities and re-
strctions, and this is invaluable instruc-
tion to young people, and, therefore let m
say still further tilat while | deplore the
boarding house marriages, the hotel mar
riages, the French flat marriages, deplor
ing all these, think they are perhaps not
| so dangerous as where men and women
wait until they can come out in all the1l
glory and lay the foundation of their
| household in pomp and vanity, that theil
children may be born to sumptuous furni
ture and very little liberty, except that
| which the law Of vanity allows. Children
are thus born into bazaar, where every
thing is artificial and unrealistic. Marry
early, but live at once in a separate house
hold, even if that household be small. Fol
ly would have our children not marry un-
til they can marry with abundant wealth
and bring UP their children with the knowl
edge of the groundsWells.
would not take anything on any con-
sideration for the happiness l enjoyed dur
ing the first three years of married life. ]
was settled OF. salary of $500 a year, in
the town of LaWrenceburg, in Indiana. AT
ter about fortnight's boarding took two
rooms in second story Of house without
door or yard before fortunately it had
one behind,) and in those two rooms-the
one of them was my cellar and dining
room together, the front was bedroom, my
library and my parlor together. In these
two rooms l spent the first two OF three
years of my married life. Every day was
set in battle array the question of econo-
INFLOW to live, how to make the most of
what we had, and often how to do with
less. And it was a very paradise below,
as l was young and handsome daughter, J
and to this honr we, both of us, look back
to those early years of married life in such
small quarters as two rooms, as the happi>
est years of our lives. Indeed, may as
well confess it, as am On the confessional
wore Judge Burton's clothes most all the
time and everything we had in the room
was given us. That they were oddly
matched was no fault of ours-they came
from very different ideas of housekeeping.
l look back to those happy years with the
greatest pleasure.
Then there is another trouble, the dis
possession of the mother from the child
through leadership. We must send our
children to school. The mother cannot,
by bearing children, bearing weakness,
bearing sickness. taking care of her own
work, and yet become a minute and faith
full instructor of the child. But no moth
er ought to let the child go to school with
out making herself the partner of that
child and be in sympathy with it every day.
We must necessarily send our children to
day schools and Sunday schools, but let us
see to it that we hold them close to us in
the family w. Y. Herald.