, 1877-06-30
(" barbara, 10 Wives.

| Why Is It, dear wives, that some of your
homes are unhappy; that sometimes you feI
( like " :aitering by the way side, 50 weary
do you become in thinking of your troubles
and trials, aud You wonder why it can be,
! that in your homes, where happiness should
! reigu supreme, broils and differences should
be the order of the day 7 Now. if you will
kindly allow Inc, let me say the fault often
lies with yourselyes; not always, to be sure,
/ but too often.
! One great cause of unbappiness is TO ba
found il the fac; that there is too much ex-
citement before marriage. OF oogrss In the
eourting days the best foot Is put foremost,
and frequently. after marriage, the veil Is
rudely torn aside, showing ugly faults and
being IN each others society almost CONSTANT
! ly, canno; but develop traits unexpected
as unpleasant But there is only one way 10
do-make the best OF 1t, and don't let the
good qualities be put behind the imperfec-
tiOns. The former are generally undsrrn;od,
and the latter exaggerated; at least 1t Is 20
IN many eases. Never draw comparisons be-
tween $50 and Sos 3" husband and your
own, Tor remember you have not had the
same opportunity OF judging of another
mans faults "a you have of your own hus-
baBd's 5. And the wman whose lot III life seems
so happy, and who in secret you often envy,
may have owsAnd hidden yriefs OF which
you do not dream In nearly every house,
hold there is skeleton, and. even though it
Is not permitted to see the light of day, Its
presence Is nevertheless known and felt
Never expose to another the faults Of your
husband, not even 10 your most intimate
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wife, and are often the source Of much trouble.
Ii you see glarIng faults, draw the veil OF
silence over them If more wives would do
this, there would be much less domestic
misery Tor. many tImes, little things talked
over, become IusguIiied and seem unbeara-
ble, AMI it's always easy 10 find Il ready
listener who Will delight in putting IN a
word here and there To cause trouble II pos
sibe. DJmes, L. affairs shOuld ever be held
sacred from prying eyes \ happy hume Is
II constant well spring Of Joy, lis quiet
pleasures are uutailIng, and none eau deny
that the wife wields the scrPier ihere-then
suppose your tact and mana yrment, good
wives, depends much whether the domestic
machinery runs smoothly; when the wheels
get cloSsed, do not give way to bitter, ugly
feelings; but take "a few kind words, llttle
sound Judgment, and few grains Of good
common sense, mix well together, and you
will have one Of the b-st Of lubricators; ap-
Ply il often, and you will tiud there wall be
no rough places, and The running gear will
not get out of order. These ingredients arc
always iu The house draw on them often,
for there's always enough left 10 fall back
upon
Ii you want your husband to be happy in
his home, let it be IL hosue TO hi,n IN reality;
il be Graves 4uier, do got have house full
of company 10 annoy him; II he comes
home tired and cross, don't gin to tell him
your petty troubles. but exert yourself II =
tie for his Particular pleasure, and you will
room fad that his IDEAS and ways viii COIN
eide with your own. y man always be
ruled by the woman he loves, ii she vii! only
20 the right way about 1t. In short. make
your home happy; do your part braVely
and well, and IN time, II may seem long, but
the time will surely come, yOar worth VIII
be appreciated; and, when your eyes are
closed TO earthly sights and your ears TO
human sounds, those left on earth will call
Won blessed, and in the Book above Will be
recorded " Well done, thou good aad faithful
servant"