Daily Kennebec journal. [microfilm reel] (Augusta, Me.) 1870-1975, 1877-07-02
NO. 155
AFTER THE WEDDING TRIP.

They are just married. was the re-
mark of all the felow-passengers of a
certain couple on railway train the other
day. And wherever that couple went on
their journey the same observation was
repeated. There are certain indications
about the recently welded which always
betray the happy parties as enjoying their
honeymoon" Though from time i'm
memorial the said moon has been regard
ed as transient, every woman who mar
ries thinks that her case is to be an
exception. and thatthenew happiness is to.
be continued indefinitely between the
twain till death do them part. 1t is not
pleasant to think that the woman who thus
conides must, in too many cases, be dis.
appointed. She must find that the suitor
who prolessed that her companionship
was the one thing necessary to his happi-
ness, will discover that there are many
other things which her husband deems
pleasant, and which the wife has little if
anything to do. As rule the less she is
interested in his outdoor movements the
better he is pleased. Cou~tship is one
thing. Welded life is another. Indeed,
some women 60 so far as to say that
nearly every boy or man is in condition
of chronic opposition 10 the girls or wo-
men in the family where he domiciles. 1t
is charged that the lads would not "go
cou. IL lg" if it did not vex lheir sisters;
and that they would not marry if mothers
were not in some cases entirely averse to
their marriage, and in others only scbmis-
sive under protest. The marriage of q
n an is in some sort a triumph over his
own female kindred. Those kindred sub
init, as they say submission is womap's
lot. And they make the best of it. and
sw eeten the inevitable with womanly gem
tlenee3.
But the husband-what of himp The
new husband is elate with the conscious
ness of having won the girl of his choice.
He has taken wife, all objection to the
contrary notwithstanding. He takes her
on his arm with all the pride of captor
and a conqueror. Nobody disputes his
victory. Mother and sisters become his
wife's allies and endorse the proceeding
with all their hearts. He is monarch of ali
he surveys. There are no more conten-
tions, for every body has endorsed the ar
rangement, as if everybody had heartily
approved and promoted it from the first.
He might rest on his laurels-but laurels
will not always keep green, and the dry
leaves metaphoricaIly choke him. He
looks for new conquests and selects his
wife tor an antagonist. 1t Is not that he
does not love her. He loves his neither.
1t is not that he would not do any and
| everything for her that does not interfere
| with his own whims aud caprices. He did
all that for his sisters. But he rebelled
under their control: and having boy Like,
annoyed them, man-like he annoys his
wife. Evenings at home become weari-
some, and evenings abroad, it his wife
must be with him, are hardly less so. As
he declined to be tied TO his mothers
"apron-strings" he is fretted by his mar
| riage tie. he has pressing business which
! keeps him from the tea-tabe, and which
encroaches on his evening hours. His
wiie's looks OF remonstrance are consd-
cred 'fussy," and her claims upon him,
put in words, are met by protest. And so
The honeymoon frequently passes its last
quarter-with, unfortunately, no promise
vi a new moon, of the same happy des-
crption in the matrimonial calendar.
Then other affairs come in to engross the
groom's atiention-boat club, billiards,
base ball, horses, ''the Lodge" supper
with some OF the ''od fellows" "poiitics,"
hotels, saloons, and all the rest. And he
just drops in at the theatre. you know,
quite accidentally, because Smith told him
OF very particular attl ction. III he had
only thought of it at dinner time. he would
have asked Sarah to get ready. And so
on. Mind, the o afe things that the wo-
men find out. though they may be very
| cautious in speaking about them. These
| are the general heads under the fears they
have that their husbands like to escape the
company which, as sutors, they priced
above every other. The men must an-
swer 10 their own conscences how far the
suspicious are we'll founded. and in many
| cases husbands even of some years. stand
ing, would perhaps do well to live their
attentive" days over again, and spark
their wives atresh. The change from the
wan and weary, or the slightly martyr as
pect which many wives wear, would be
thing as well worth seeing as any adver-
| tised ATTRACTION and the voice of
cheerful wife as well worth hearing as any
drama, opera or philadelphia
Ledger.