The Toledo chronicle. [volume] (Toledo, Tama County, Iowa) 1873-1924, 1876-10-05
To Husbands.

SAYS writer in the Detroit Free
Press:
Husbands love your wives" Don't
neglect and bother and tantaliZe them
because you know you possess the
power so to do. If you only knew
what an exalted opinion your wife has
of you, how she attributes to you
everything good, noble and great, and
puts far from you everything belittling
or selfish, until you, in your stupidity
OF cruelty, force her to acknowledge
the fact of your dead-level, you GER
tainly would take care, if from no
other than a selfish motive, that SO
loving and faithful a subject never
discovered your defects. You can, if
you will, make her very happy or very
unhappy, and with but very little eff
fort either way. To you is attributed
great strength in contrast with her
weakness. Show it then in generous
forbearance with her faults, in loving
recognition for her many little or
great deeds that make your everyday
life so happy. If you see that she is
woman of strength of mind enough to
help you bear somewhat of the burden
of your business, confde in her She
will only too gladly share anxiety with
You, and will love you all the more
tenderly for brayely telling her what
you can and cannot afford. If you
see that she is untitled to trust with
your business affairs, then keep them
to yourself, but do not love her less,
for she is the same as when you first
loved her for her helplessness, for
what is love worth if it cannot endure.
But in all cases when it is possible,
confide in your wife. There is many
woman that is weak and helpless so
long as there is no necessity for her
being otherwise, who, if occasion re-
quired it, would develop a strength of
character before undreamed of.
Be pleasant when you come home
Greet your wife with kiss. Kiss
her anyway, whether she always ex-
poets it or not. Take her out walking
if you can't afford to ride. Be good
natured, and, above all, always attend
church with her. The happiness of
many household is wrecked ON the
rocks of dissension and surliness.
Never under any circumstances so de-
mean yourself as to use profane Ian
guage to or in the presence of your wife
No man that is half man or has one
atom of common decency in him will
swear at woman, especially if that
woman is his wife.
Do not treat your wife rudely for
you do not know how keenly unkind
words and deeds from husband cut
into the sensitive heart of a loving
wife. Especially if you have children
set an example of reverence and kind
treatment Of their mother for them.
Teach them to love her and obey
her, for what "papa does and says" is
of much weight with the little ones,
and you yourself will reap in after
years a harvest of an hundred fold,
the fruitful yield of good and gen.
erous sowing. And so say love your
wife. She is the mother of your chill
dren, and as such is entitled to the
warmest place in your heart.
Never contrast her, to her detri-
ment, with the wife of any of your
friends. You have no right to do so,
and besides, if you should, with the
above result, it would reflect discredit
upon yourself, as it might be the force
of association in each case that made
the difference. There is scarcely a
woman in Christendsm that does not |
know and conceal her husbands
faults, and if she knows that he him
self is waging war upon them for
her sake, she is quick enough to ac-
knowledge it by generous oversight
and forbearance. To condense all 1
have said in few words: Treat your
wife as you ought, and she will be just
fool enough to adore you. I'm
woman and l know.