The Cheyenne daily leader. [volume] (Cheyenne, Wyo.) 1870-1884, 1876-04-09
On Founding 3 Home.

thsl secure a Rome, which is, 4 house TO
I've IN, and the proper people in it 70 COM
pose the foundations Of home life. Diree-
uons rs TO house d-eeoration or skilful
cookery, or the control Of cook OF chamber
maid, are Of very little account, if the peo-
PIE who SIT down in their pretty rooms day
by day find their hearts torn by jealousy,
or their brains rasped by nervous irritation.
Let Tom and Amelia turn from the altar,
resolving to start fair and give themselves
the largest chance of a clear understand
ing OF each other. and. in consequence, of
future happiness Let them turn their
backs on clearinghouse, shut their eyes
TO all considerations Of style. be deaf to all
hints of Mrs. Grundy's expectations, and
buy or rent a house within their means. II
they are too poor for a house. then a fiat ; il
not q fiat, q room ; or. if the worst comes
to the worst. let them hire. like our friends
at Rudder Grange, q canal boat ; only let
them go to housekeeping, and 90 It alone.
Comfortable quarters, perhaps. are offered
them in the house of one of their parents,
who very naturally try to keep the young
birds just mated a little longer in the old
nest. especially if they are w~ell-to-dopeople,
to whom the addition to the family will be
only a pleasure, and no burden. Amelia's
husband not being able TO support her in
the style to which she is accustomed, what
can be more proper than that they should
occupy part of her fathers mansion, and
reap the benefit of well-trained servants,
carriages and s%umptuous fareP Or some
other motive Of economy or affection die
tates their plans. Amelia's mamma being
q widow, and devoted to her child, why
should she live alone in her house, peopled
for her, perhaps, by ghosts of the beloved
dead? Why not take the spare room in the
young peoples house and make part of their
new life? Or it may be Toms unmarried
sister or bachelor uncle who comes in to
make a third in the partnership Just begun.
Now thisnew conner may be the most clever,
amiable. dearest soul in the world, and the
arrangement one dictated by prudential
motives and affection but ninety times in
q hundred it is destructive of the fine tone
and temper Of the newly-formed household.
The first year Of married life is a passage,
at the best, over dangerous quicksands no
matter how intimate their knowledge of
each other was before marriage, husband
and wife have now to find each other out
in q thousand new and unexpected phases,
and to adjust themselves each to the othef
in the habits, tastes. even language of
every day. 1t will require all the tact and
the patience which love gives to enable
them to do this, and the interference, even
the presence. of a third party, is always a
disturbing element. The more near and
dear the relations of this third party, the
more apt are they to come between the wife
and husband. Unfortunately. too, the
whole tone of married life usually receives
its keynote from this first year; and SO in
variably damaging is the influence of out
siders upon it, that the best recipe, prob
ably. to insure a happy marriage, would be
to make a holocaust Of all kinsfolk on
the wedding day. As that is not practi-
cable. let Amelia and Tom live as much
apart as is possible for at least twelve
months, selfish as such reserve may appear
to their families.
After they have become in a measure one,
and the uncertainty and disquietude of the
storms and sunshine of early marriage have
given place to a settled home atmosphere,
the occasional presence of strangers has
usually q wholesome influence. With the
companionship of a guest now and then,
Tom and Amelia are less likely to find their
thoughts and opinions grow stale and
tedious. Charity, too, assumes, no more
beautiful form than in q gracious hospi-
tality, especially to those who are needy in
body and mind. We know certain house,
holds where there is always to be found an
orphan girl going to school with the other
children, or a helpless old black "Aunty"
in her chair by the kitchen fire. or some
other wnif warmed and sheltered from the
cold without. We remember a certain
young girl who, like most virginian women,
was skilled in houscwifery. who took into
her fathers house, one after another, girls
Of fourteen from an adjoining mill, and
trained them herself as scamstresses and
cooks. teaching them to read and write at
the same time. Before and after her mar
riago she fitted and placed eight women
in useful, honorable careers of life. The
home. when founded, should always be large
enough to give some creature needing help,
or it may be too small for any blessing to
rest upon. which falls like dew from above.
Rural Ne1r YorEer.