, 1876-09-16

&1AOu&n tu0b S WALL 6AFO WHO'LL Pl~0S~AS'
A frequent source Of unami0bility arises
from persons expecting things to be done
according to their idea, and being annoyed
il they are not SO. Reflect, however, thas
none but yourself could do anything
exactly according to your particular fancy.
because no two persons have minds
or ideas exactly alike. Be content, there
fore, if it is done approximately to your
taste, and do not insist on forcing your Will
upon others.
1t is a good thing to have rules in a
household, and to require punctually of
meals, etc. But such rules cannot always
be perfectly observed without tyranny,
and to sacrifice love and good temper In
requiring a stern of observance of external
rules is to sacrifice the greater to the
less.
Occasionally. i'll temper starts up, and
then sharp words are said, and temptations
to say sharper ones arise. At such times
be on your guard Tor returnJ do not re-
tort, or return trailing for railing" Noble
far and more Christians; to bear the un-
kind word In silence, or gently to remon-
strate. Consider, also, that then is the
opportunity for improvement. Your slum-
beTing evils, are like SO many robbers, or
wild beasts, i~nfesting q fair country, and do
ing perpetual mischief. When they thus
show themselves and offer you battle, seize
the opportunity for resisting them and thus
Kidding your heart Of these deadly enemies
to your peace.
In conversation, when a remark is made
that you do not agree with, it is often
best-if nothing essential is invOlved-to
let it pass rather than oppose it. Bitter
~ouarrels have often arisen from ELECTIONS
having been offered to some trifing re-
mark. Avoid fault finding whenever
possible. Let everything pass that is un-
important, and when it becomes an i'm.
p~efative duty to speak, do it gently aud
without passion, choosing a fitting Oppor-
tunity for your reproof.
Be in the habit Of saying "Yes,"
rather than "No," to any request. unless
Of course, something wrong. In other
words, cultivate the disposition to oblige,
and crafty the wishes Of others when you
can.
When disturbed by what others are
doing-as reading aloud for nstance--seek
to prevent the disturbing effect, not by
checking them, but by removing yourself,
r~etairing to another part of the room, or in
som other way. This may not always be-
practicable, but is generally SO, and it is
an important means to the development of
q forbearing and amiable disposition.
Do not settle down seIdshly to any pri-
vate amusement or occupation, dreading
to be disturbed by others. We may fire.
quontly have duties to perform which
require retirement, and perhaps solitude,
but If we delight to be alone for the mere
purpose of hugging our pleasures to our-
selves, we are encouraging a spirit of sell
6shness, and we shall be almost sure to be
disturbed under such circumstances.
Be considerate in regard to domestic
arrangements, and do not disturb the ordi-
nary routine Of your household. unneUsa-
rily.
If you are anwell, do not think yourself
entitled to be cross and Grabbed on that
account, giving those around you needless
trouble. Remember that sickness has its
duties as we'll as health, and one of these
is to try to be patient and pleasant, and TO
talk and think as little as possible about
yourself and your ailings.
Do not blurt out your wants like c
pesvisA child, without regard to the feel
ings of Others. II you come in cold or
wet, do not make q parade of your small
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