Saint Mary's beacon. [volume] (Leonard Town, Md.) 1867-1983, 1876-11-16

people! Say what you will in regard to
their possible goodness Of intention
disguise and palllste their defect as best
you may in your superabundance OF
charity-still the fact remains that they
are among the most disagreeabIe OF
mortsls, and inflict an immeasurable
amount ofunnecessary suffering. There
Is indeed, roughness born of igno-
rance, or lack Of cultivation which NAV
be counter-balanced by genuine good
qualities and thorough-kindness Of heart.
But NO one has a right to make himself
rough and forbidding, from the notion
that bis savage neglect of the "small,
sweet courtesies of life," so essential
to its proper enjoyment. will be mista-
ken for honesty. Who has not writhed
under their savage thrusts, or recoiled.
as from an unexpected blow at some
sharp. sudden sallys
Gross and vulgar as may be their real
composition, immeasurably inferior in
the finer qualities, they yet have power
to wound far deeper than any mere out
ward hurt. "A wounden spirit, who
can bear!" You enter their bsnefui
atmosphere-perhaps, feeling bright and
hopefui-things may indeed have gone
somewhat awry, but you trust to luck
Tor Providence to set them all right
again, but suddenly the battery opens
upon you.
1T is all your own fault-your care
lessness, heedlessness, or want of COM
mon sense!'
"You hadn't orter do as you do"
why don't you do as you'd CT
teri"
II is astonishing how natural it is for
.uch folks to want to regulate other
peoples affairs, and how ready they
are with their judgment OF cases, while
entirely ignorant Of the circumstances.
You may pluck up sufficient spirit to
resent the insult-for such it is, or. il
nervously sensitive, and tired out with
physical ailments, it may be 1.-The las,
feather which breaks the camel back"
Your finer organization >hrinks from the
rude assault; any cherished remnant o.
selt-complacency withers, as flower,
chilled by an unumcly frost. Be-
tween their hard, boasted common
sense" and your nervous, impressiDle
nature, the contest for the time is une-
quail. Your feelings are cut to the
quick, and all the deeper because done
with dull, biunted weapon. The re-
mainder OF the day, perhaps is embit-
tered, and often afterwards you will re-
call, with pang, this sharp passage in
your experience, particularly ii the wan
ton intlictor Of your pain is one YOU
have esteemed and trusted but can
scarcely again regard with the cordial
warmth cherished before.
The advantages Of a genial manner
and winning address can hardly be over
estimated. Politeness always pays:
there is hardly anything which costs 80
little and goes 80 far. In mere. world
ly sense it is a good investment. The
mere semblance Of a ready good will j.
often preferable to the bru>que, for
bidding manner which repels and chills,
even II stratum of roug IN honesty and
kindness underlies it. But deception
is not necessarily an accompaniment MT
of agreeableness. "a man may smile
and smile, and be a william" but smiles
are not necessarily mask tor villainy.
The sunny beaming Of the frank. open,
countenance-which diiiuses balm and
healing TO the weak and des sponding,
is quite different thing from its villain
Gus counterfeit. There are those born
to smooth over the rough places in life s
pathway; who see the best Of every
thing and everybody-geniai, gentle
natures, who turn to the light as in
stinctively as tiowers-snd find the sun
ny side OF everything. God blessings
on the tender, sympathetic soul.