Saint Mary's beacon., 1876-11-09

world: nor il Il easy 10 discern between
the true and false. s.
Can there be love 1t frss siehfs O.
this question there - much diGkrence.
Of opinion. 7rue lore must Be fouuded
on respect and esteem. Such qsalilses
- inspire these are not Discover
able IN . moment. The tancy nav
be pleased 1t isst sight, sad tbs nav
lead 70 lore. The commoa received
opinion among young Iadies l. that frsl
love can Be the only true one; and ~
- eresfIy Pleased when their: e6ms<
sess tell them that they never 6sed
before. Young ladies ! IF any e6ntlo<
mon of fwenfy-one yesrs tells yoo III
be never lssed anyone but yooesolE,.
receive his assertion with great eGnlfo6
unless yos have seen him everg ~
and evening for the past ten years. ana
wssched him eIo~ely through the vhole
decade! Love y the 6rst step 10 maf-
riage, and - such Of the utmost impor-
lance. Without Il. married life must
Be . continued scene Of wretchedpess.
Nothing can compensate for its sbsence.
But there san< impostant parenthesis
between love sad giatrimony. and that
10 courtshiP. This subject has greatly
perplexed the wisest and best Of our
rsse. If any man could invent . per-
feet system Of eourtship, secure . Pc
tent tor for Il and could warrant il io
succeed in every case, his. fostuae
would be made beyond Ill possible eoe-
tingeneies. He might very readily,
and st good prices, dispose q State,
county and district rights. Observa-
ton and experience have taught thsf
no system can apply TO sll cases. -
ladies differ very widely IN tsste, dis
position. education and social position.
Some are more easily approached On
this subject than are others. They ore
oil. however BY comraon courtesy. sup
posed to have nothing to do with court
ship. but to listen to the earnest
appeals. Of the iove.siek gentleman.
and to whisper very modestly Eyes" or
"no." Some Of the pleasantest hours
Of life have been those enjoyed during
the period Of courtship. The present
has been full ofjoy. and the happy pair
have seen nothing but bliss in the fl.
ture. It is. unfortunate that such 10Y
should be interrupted by lovers quar-
rels. Other things produce ripples on
the surface Of the usual placid stream
Of matrimony. Few men can make q
proposition Of marriage without great
embarrassment. When lady or gen
t!eman are mutually interested, neither
are likely to notice the embarrassment
of the other. But even then. mirth-
loving girl knowing that she was mol
the 6rst or chief speaker. may enjoy
the evident confusion of her lover.
Flirting was given brief discussion.
The lecturer said he would not say all
he thought regarding the f1irt. He left
those who indulge in such cruel and
dangerous pastimes to the accusations
Of their own consciences. believe,
he continued, that the low estimate
placed on the character Of women, BY
many bad men, is the result of the reck.
less manner in which some women have
trified with the hearts Of their admirers
A male firt is despicable.
Long courtships do not generally turn
out well, nor is It best that they should
be too short. After court.hip come,
marriage, though not always, as some
may learn. to their sorrow. Those who
are suitably married should be very hap.
py. But lifelong union Of parties,
between whom there is no congeaiaiity
must be the source ofindescribable mis-.
ery. One source Of unhappiness among
married people is found in the fact thai
they DO not properly consider nor make
due allowance for the peculiarities aud
weaknesses of each. Some men rem
der their wives unhappy by the disccn.
tinuance, soon after marriage, Of the
delicate attentions which were paid
them in the period Of courtship. La
dies should also remember that after
marriage it is their duty to retain and
strengthen the affections Of their hus-
bands. The question is often asked, al
what age should persons marry: Not
too young. l answer. The tastes are
not then thoroughly formed, nor the
Judgment matured.
The reverend lecturer closed with an
appeal to young ladies' to examine the
moral characters Of their admirers, and
to the young men, to look for good sense
in their partners.