The daily dispatch. [volume] (Richmond [Va.]) 1850-1884, 1876-08-23
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Requisites FOR i HAPPY MARaIAaE.- "A
certain sort of talent is almost indispe
for people who would spend years together
and not bore themselves TO death. But the
talent, like the agreement, must be for anu
about life. 10 dwell happily together they
should be yersed In the niceties OF the heart,
and born with q faculty for willing compro-
mise. The woman must be talented rs
woman, and it will not much matter al-
though she Is taiented in nothing else. She
must know her faetier de femme, and have
q fine touch for the affections. And 1t Is
more important that q person SHOULD be
good gossip, and talk pleasantly and smartiy
OF common friends and the thousand and
one nothings OF the day and hour than
that she should speak with the tongues OF
men and angels; forawhile together by the
fire happens more frequently in marriage
than the presence Of a distinguished foreign
er to dinner. That people should laugh
over the same sort OF iests, and have many
a story OF /" grouse in the gun-room," many
an old joke between them which time can
not wither nor custom stale, Is a>better pre-
paration for life, by your leave, than many
other things higher and better sounding IN
the worlds ears. You could read Kant by
yourself il you wanted, but you must snare
a joke with some one else. You can forgive
people who do not follow you through phil
osophical disquisition, but to find your wife
laughing when you had tears in your eyes, or
staring when you were in a fit Of laughter,
would 60 some way toward dissolution OF
the marriage. I know woman who, from
some distaste or disability, could never so
much rs understand the meaning OF the word
politics. and has given up trying to distln-
guish Wings from Tories but take her on
her own politics, ask her about other men
or women, and the chicanery OF everyday
existence-the rubs, the tricks, the yanities
on which life turns-and you will not IND
many more shrewd, trenchant, and humor-
Gus. Nay, to make palmer what have in
mind, this same woman has share OF the
higher and more poetical understanding,
frank interest in things for their own
sake, and enduring establishment at
the most common. She is not to
be deceived by custom, or made 10
think mystery solved when II
! is repeated. have heard her say she could
wonder herself crazy over the human eye
brow. Now, in world where most OF us
walk very contentedly in the little-lit circle
OF their own reason, and have to be re-
minded Of what lies without by specious
and CLAIMANT eXceptions-earthqua erup-
tons OF Vesuyius, banios floating IN mld-aii
at senance, and the like-a mind so 1refn
| and unsophisticated is no despicable GIT: l
will own I think it better sort OF lnlna
than GOES necessarily with the clearcst views
on nubIic business. It will wash. 1t will
find something to sayat an odd moment. IT
has in it the spring OF pleasant and quaint
fances. Whereas I can imagine myself
yawning all night long until my jaws ached
and the tears came into my eyes, although
nv companion on the other side OF the
hearth held the most enlightened opinions
on the franchise or the ballot CornhA'
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