The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1876-09-10
low We Had Hcttcr Dehnvc.


How We Had Better Behave.
The fact that manuals of etiquette are |
tolerably OF large sale reveals screditable
eagerness on the part Of our young men and |
madens to qualify themselves for good society.
1t might seem harsh to assure the amateurs OF !
correct department that the art Of conforming
In practice to the social rules which prevail at
given epoch Is to be gained only by close per-
sonal relations with the arbiters who have pre-
scrbed or sanctioned them. 1t Ia doubtless
because the dcsidcrated knowledge ~ not OBJ
tainable at first hand that many people are
driven TO look for 1t In books, and the latest at
tempt 10 satisfy this reasonable demand is the
volume slniiled our B,hdriOr, by Mrs. L. Il.
DUFFEY.
We will assume, Therefore, that behavior is
not a mere empirical art, but a science capable
Of coherent aud useful exposition. IL Is obvl-
Gus, however, that a treatise on this large topic
cannot be read with confidence and profit unless
the author IL known to enjoy the amplest op-
portuniues Of information. While, moreover,
the essential principles of good manners arr
doubtless constant and inlexlble. thei; ap3yca-
lions are continually shifting and mGulding
themselves to fugitive conditions. and are often
| profoundly modified from one generation to
another. Under these circumstances It NAV he
/
! tioular point Of etiquette or comp rtment as ON
some questions OF idiom or pronunciation. 1t
! follows that the competent expounder OF this
! nuctultlng science must supplement exhaustive
! means " knowledge with an unerring tact, and
a quick. keen intellect.
We are bound to say that these weighty
/ quafncations are rarely combined with AN IN
cliuAtion to enghtcn those who are less con-
versant with the ways VI polite society. There
/ lived, however about century ago In England
a man accounted the finest gentleman OF his
time and country, who was likewise a person OF
such lively aud bright parts that somebody, bor-
70 wing his pencil wrote the well known couplet:
Accept miracle IN place OF w.t.
See 1.-Two duh lines oy stAnhopss pencil writ
In the vain hope OF making his son no less
! accomplished than himself that great noble
man condescclded TO chronicle his observa-
tons ana opinions on social matters, aud his
/ letters are SIN cited with vast respect by the
survivors OF a former generation. Nevertheless.
fashions have changed a good deal since the
day OF tue Earl OF Chesterfield, and we would
| not recommend to our younger readers indis
Grimm ate compliance with his prcceat.. Un-
/ luckily. no adequate substitute eau be named,
and we have IN fact been prompted To II ,nce
a; this Interesting theme becaIsa the latest
manual on n,Nior b, Mrs. Dufey seems to
IA unsound ana terOiox In some particulars.
while i D. LrosokIugN curt aud ytsue on other
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