The Pulaski citizen. [volume] (Pulaski, Tenn.) 1866-current, 1876-05-18
LADIES COLUMN.
HAEoLrEN HAROLD, EDITOR.

There is no other period in a fe
males life half so interesting as the
time which elapses between child
hood and womanhood. Beauty,
life, health and purity, combined
with confidence born ofinnocence,
form a picture more attractive than
any ever placed upon canvas. We
gaze upon a picture and drink in
all its beauties, feeling as we turn
away from it that we carry some
part of it with us. How senseless
and unjust would we consider any
one who should condemn us for
this natuaal act. Then how can we
condemn boys for admiring and
lingering near these lovely living
pictures? Old people, while censur
ing young ones folly, should show
some judgment themselves, and not
forget entirely that they were once
young. Boys and girls are too Of
ten treated as if they had no rea
son, while if this faculty was often
Ell appealed to, half the trouble in
managing them would be removed.
1t has not been so long since 1 was
young myself, but l can remember
the many trials young people les
pecially girls) are heirs to, and
sympathize with them accordingly.
AS intimated before, it is natural
for boys to admire the girls, but
they do not know how often they,
by little attentions, cause "vials of
wrath to be poured upon innocent
heads" A young man or boy may
in every way be o girls equal, vet
for reason, often given and well
known, parents object to their
daughters receiving attentions from
the opposite sex until they reach
a certain age Girls not fully init
ated in the ways of the world, do
not know the most delicate way of
refusing attentions that are distaste-
tul TO them because they are taught
it is improper; and for fear of in
sulting when it is not intended, they
often receive advances that are ex-
ceedly unpleasant and disagreeable
under the circumstances. Young
men have a contempt for girls who
are bold and forward; then how can
they expect anything but contempt
and disgust for such conduct on
their part? When young man or
boy knows it is positively against a
parents wishes for his daughter to
receive attentions, and that they
are disagreeable TO her because
improper, it is rude and ungallant
and shows a want OF self respect
Tor him to force his attentions upon
her, it matters not what the sur
roundings may be. A young man
must not presume because he is
much older, or a boy because he is
younger than a girl, that he will be
allowed privileges denied others.
Young people are sometimes so
situated as to be thrown unavoida-
bly, together, but they should not
take advantage of such circum-
tances, they should be reserved and
polite and each will respect the
other more for it. Girls should
remember that modesty is their
greatest attraction, and never by
boldness invite attentions, and when
offered unlimited, they should be
kindly and firmly refused, and nc
young man Of correct principals
can fail to understand and appreci
ate their motive. l do not think
boys and girls should pc kept en-
tirely from each other. If so they
would be poorly prepared for socie
ty when grown; but when they NEE
at such times and places as thei
parents see proper, let them act a
boys and girls, and not try to as
. sumo the role of beaux and bellies
or lovers.