Alpena weekly argus. [volume] (Alpena, Mich.) 1871-1893, 1876-03-15
Married POiiteness.
"win you'" asked pleasar

voice.
And the husband answered:
"Yes, my dear, With pleasure"
1t was quietly said; the tone,
the manner, the look, were per-
fectly natural and very aiIectionate.
We thought, how pleasant that
courteous replying must it be to
the wife! Many husbands of ten
years experience are ready enough
with the courtesies Of politeness to
the young ladies Of their acquain-
lance, while they speak with
abruptness to the wife, and do
many ride little things without
considering them worth an apology.
The stranger, whom they may have
seen but yesterday, is listened TO
with Difference, and althouth the
snhject may not be Of the pleas
ATTEST nature, with q ready smile ;
while the poor wife, if she relate a
domestic grievance is snubbed or
listened to with ill-concealed inl-
patience. Oh, how wrong this is
all wrong.
Does she urge some request
"Oh don't bother me-" cries her
gracious lord and master. Does
she ask for necessary funds for
Snsy's shoes or Tommy'S hat
"Secms to mo you're always
wanting money!" is the handsome
retort. Is any little extra demand
ell by his masculine appetite, it is
ordered, not requested.
Look here, l want you TO do SO
aud so-jnst SEQ that it's done :"
and or marches Mr.. Boor, with a
bow and q smile Of gcntlcmanly
polish for every casual acquaint-
ance he may chance 10 recognize.
When we meetwith such thought
lcssness and coarsencss, ON
thoughts revert to the kind voice
and gentle manner Of tho friend
who said: "Nes, my dear, with
pleasure 81 beg your pardon,
comes as readily to his lips when
bv any little accident he has dis
concerted her, as it would in the
presence Of the most fashionable
stickler for etiquette. This is be-
cause he is a thorough gentleman,
who thinks his wife in all things
entitled TO precedence. He loves
her best-why should he hesitate
to show it not in sickly, maudhn
attentions, but in preferring her
pleasure, and honoring her in pub
lie as well as in private. He knows
her worth, and why should he hes
itate to attest it, "And her hus-
band he praised her." saith holy
writ: not By fulsomo adulation,
not by pushing her charms into
notice. but by speaking rs oppor-
tunity occurs in O manly way Of
her virtues.
Though words seem little things,
and slight attentions almost value
less, yet depend upon it they keep
the flame bright, especially il they
are natural. The children grow
up in better moral atmosphere,
and learn to respect their parents
as they see them respecting each
other. Many a boy takes advan-
tace Of the mother he loves, be-
cause he sees often the rudeness OF
his father. Insensibly he gathers
10 his bosom the same habits and
the thoughts and feelings they en-
gender, and in his turn becomes
the petty tyrant. Only his mother
why should he thank her father
never does. Thus the home be-
comes the seat Of disorder and un-
happiness. Only for strangers are
kind words expressed, and hypo-
critics so out from the hearth-stone
fully prepared to render justice,
beucvolence and politeness TO any
one and every one but those who
have the justest claims. All! give
us the kind glance, the happy
Lomestead-,ho smiling wife and
courteous children Of the friend
who said 80 pleasantly:
"Yes, my dear, with pleasure