The sun. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1833-1916, 1876-08-12

| and TO which taste in dress greatly adds.
| But If the people our correspondent
daughters describe M stylish depend
entirely for their style on their dress, OK
| hbiting in their faces and actions COARSE
ness of life and check, they are examples
| of what Is called "bad style" and the
| girls should avoid them, and avoid imi-
tating their ways. When man or woman
| dresses in violation OF good taste, he ought
| 90 he easily detected by n cultivated person.
Wenext take up series of questions,
| all delicate, aud most of them exceedingly
| difficult TO answer in brief compass, yet nll
of great importance in social sense. They
are sent us by n gentle correspondent, who
calls herself Connecticut Girl."
"1sn. propcr for alady to Hiss gcnilcm'n good
nient when she been carriage riding with himP Or
pfvt igT laSy Z, zee tnaa some on ner
It proper for lad, to fcich gent down her
fetch him DOWN. 2nd it proper Tor the lady to te
@ N n Sa 'sriage. or 70 ws6 Th 3 to 'he
proper Tor her to invite him to come asaiu2"
We trust that this Connecticut Girl APP
peals to us, not for the purpose of discomft-
ing some hated rival by obtaining our rep
rotation of hernctions but in order to reg
uate her own conduct. A lady may kiss Il
gentleman after she has been curriage rid
ing with him under certain circumstances,
but they are very few. If she is engaged
to him we have no objection, nor have we
If he is a near relative. Otherwise she had
better resoutely refuse TO do it, for that is
a foolish maiden who throws away her
kisses. lady may pick up a gentleman
when she is out driving in the country but
as IA rule she should not do ii, unless she Is
satisfied il is proper TO do so. We say de-
cidedly that there ia no improperly in
lady's fetching a gentleman TO her house
to go to a PRAYER meeting when he asks her
to do il. She may thereby save his SOUL
and win his heart and SO long as she gets
him TO the prayer meeting, we don't care
how she takes him, In a carriage or on foot,
nor do we mind the distance. She may in
vite him TO come again, if he has exhibited
in the prayer meeting signs of religious
conviction. Otherwise, she may do rs she
chooses about IT.
Another lady correspondent propounds
a delicate problem:
~ sentlcnin stays at a adys housc for seven or
nlgh a. hs and his parents want her to 90, T. It proper
Tor her To 10 p
We should need to know all the circum-
stances before we could commit ourselves
here. Under one set of circumstances it
would be very proper, under another very
improper. II he came on a visit to the
lady's house, duly invited by her parents,
he was all right. II without any regard TO
him his parents invited her to visit them,
all right. Otherwise, all wrong. The wise
rule is to avoid the suspicion of evil. In
matters of social propriety always give
yourself the benefit of the doubt. Another
thing, the character of tue young man has
good deal TO do with the question how
to treat him; but we advise maidens not to
assume on hasty generalization that
young man is nice. He may seem so, and
| yet be very bad.
ADoLPHUs FITZGERALD, Jr. asks us these
| questions:
An other subjects can comprehend hut these girls,
The blue eye Of pretty maidcn indicate truth? Then.
what docs the PACK on spssk OF, i,eng young aud
al city So charms my SOIL ihcse dainty. hilhiep
H. Shoie DAY long Should Goose one Of them Tor
wife. how should 80 about lt2'
We are not surprised that Mr.. FIrz-
ovp.rn X fasciuated with our New York
girls. He would he mscnsible TO beauty. a
dolt. bat, n stone, If lac was not. As TO
their eyes, they are no sure indications OF
their characters. He talks OF not compre-
hending them. We can assure him that IL
he should spend his life IN the study of our
girls, when he was Old, gray haired, and
decrepit, he would say he had not yet
learned the rudiments OF IL. To get q wife.
first deserve her, then make her see that
You do, then make her fall in love with
you. good beginning would be to de-
clare your fixed purpose of voting for
TILDEN and Reform.
! Here We must stop. We trust that the
engagement rings will soon be bought,
and be placed on the fair fingers; that
rivalry Will cease, and that cloudless we'd
ded happiness will be the enviabe lot of
oil.