The Hillsdale standard. [volume] (Hillsdale, Mich.) 1851-1909, 1876-09-19
any form Of lifcis botter tlaa apathy BY

any formof lifeis better than apath,
and chill Lfius Ihr1 itri t-i ~
! The slovonly hoiAe is no less poten,
IN driving mon into evil than the ana
toetio nome--an experience common
among tne lower classes, where the
squalor and disorder of the small mart.
ments render home aboutthe last place
IN Ine world the man can tolerate. N
women who have soma 90 rear. and
dread the demoralizing Influences OF
Dad associates, ought To- understand
the nature Of Young manhood. 1IJsi n
excessively restless. U js disturbed
py vague ambition, by the thirst for
action, by iongings for excitement. by
ifrePressaole desire TO touch life in
manifold ways. II you, mothers, rear
your sons 30 that their homes ere as
soeiated with the repression OF these
natural instincts. yod will be sure to
throw them into the society that in
any measure eau supply the need of
their hearts. They will not 90 TO the
public house at first, for love OF liquor,
very lew people ever really like the
taste OF hquor. they will go for the
animated and hilarious eompanionship
they ind there, which, sthsy discover,
does so much to repress the disturbing
restlessness IN their breasts. See 10
1t. then, that their homes compete with
public places in attractivenesa. Omen
your blinds by day. and light bright
hres at night. illuminate your rooms.
Hang pictures on the walls. Put books
and newspapers on your tables. Have
music and entertaining games. Danish
those demons OF dullness and apathy
that have 80 long ruled in your house
hold. and bring in mirth aud good
cheer Invent occupations for your
sons Stimuhlto their ambiti ons iu
worthy directions While you make
home their delight, gil them with
higher purposes than mere pleasure. !
Whether they shall pass happy boy
hoods, and enter upon manhood with |
refined tastes and noble ambitions, de- !
pends upon you. Do not blame mis- I
erable bar-keepers IL your sons miscar-
~. Believe IL possible that with OK
ertions and right means, a mother may I
have more control over the destiny OF |
her boys than any other influence
whatsoever.
The influence OF the wife is always
abridged by the facts of the early train
ng OF her husband. He comes TO her
man with his habits formed. A wo-
nan should be sure not 10 marry a man
With depraved tastes; and, with good
and correct habits at the
OF married life, a wife must
lave very weak hold upon her hus-
,and IL she suffer him to- slip away into
In these cases, we can
Inspect either cooled affection, bad
emper, dreary companionship. or
omething in the administration Of the
Domestic life whereby the man ceases
o find pleasure in his home.
II wiz be asked il men, too, are not
for the felicities of home.
Issuredly. They must bring to its
enerous spirit, affectionate regard,
indy temper, sympathetic apprecia.
ion. But. in a large majority OF in
tances, the torpor OF the wife; her
inched economies; her fondness for
egative life, rest and quiet: her dis.
aste for all topics outside Of domestic
mes; her inability 10 20 feel interest in
ie doings OF the world; her general
lex of intellectual activity-slie NAV
o as intellectual, strictly speaking. as
er husband, but she will be interested
a much narrower range Of subjects
is these things that give tho average
lmily circle its deaduess and dullness.
'omen are content with calm, color.
ss life, while mon want stimulating
renend this nascunne ueod, tHcy VIII
ii To exercise that influence which,
ghtfully understood. might be made
ipreme. u
So we say TO these crusading women:
eturn TO your homes Scorn the
fought that you cannot make your
more delightful than bar
,oms. Danish your narrow asceti-
SIN. Make your religion a source OF
leerfulness, and not OF gloom. Con.
ert your houses into temples Of
locent pleasure. Be bright and stim. {
lating companions for your husbands
nd sons Understand at once that
homes have driven more
ion into irregularities than any thing
se, and upon you mainly rests the
sspon sibility for the evils thus arising
We are not asserting that intemper-
nee wonld end with the changes in
10 policy of women that We have J
Intemperance often comes
I causes too subtle for human analy-
Ia. But il in asserted that intemper-
nee is promoted by dram-shops; and
is this influence, this cause OF .
that women are entirely 1
ompetent TO remove, by seeing that !
he hearthstone shall be more seduc- /
we than the Ale-house. F.