The Cairo bulletin. [volume] (Cairo, Ill.) 1872-1878, 1875-08-22

ooIsieT nlc, NOli you Scc uii Ic"unss
or ifthe sight causes feeling Of remorsc
1t iscrushcd with the thought that their
wants are of no consequence and will
soon be forgotten; cook will not have
them In the Kitchens; nurse will not be
troubled with them more than she can
avoid; now is it to be wondered at, that
boys so soon learn to seek pleasure away
from home. Much harm is done children
through respect to their clothes. True,
there is no pretter sight than clean, well
dressed children. but the restraint put
upon them in order to keep them so.
does not rccompense either mother or
children for he deprivation OF the COM
forts and pleasures they might enjoy, to
say nothing Of the loss of exercise so
much needed for their physical develop
ment. For the privilege of getting out
of the house where there is no freedom,
away from the hated injunction of to
"bc careful not to make a noise,
kick the carpets, or scratch the
furniture children make prom
ises which should never be required,
although made in good faith. in nine
cases out often they will come home with
torn dresses. pants, and with shoes rub
bed out at the toes. On being questioned
they resort to falsehood To hide the shame
of breaking their promises they are de-
tccted, and then require punishment for
two offences instead of one. The effect
on the child is sad indeed. Tor out of a
desire to appear honorable and true. they
become false and meant from the require
mcnt OF such promises, falsohood Is gen
orally the rcsult-tirst to protect their
honor, afterwards il will be done
with design to avoid detection and pun
ishmcnt for the natural desire for limo
cent, childhood sports is too strong to be
resisted. For the mass of children born
in cities there Is no proper exercise,
hence the fact that the children of the
poor are squalid and sickly. while those
of the same class in the country are
plump and healthy. Those of the
Weather class who have means at their
disposal, neglect giving their children
| what ut the beginning is so highly neccs-
sary for their future weliarc--that is.
proper muscular training. May we ask
why: The question may be answered !:
We raise our children as we were raised {;
although we may have the most perfect
confidence in our parent, and
should feel that they used every
advantage they possessed, to give their
children proper training, yet this answer
| will not even satisfy our own consclcncc-,
if We give the subject attention
There has been change aud improvement
in everything, why not in that all inpor
tant matter of rearing and educating ON
children: The marriage relation i, the
most important we are capable of form
ing; 1t should not be merely for the re
ciprocal benefit OF the two persons alon,
who. form it, but also to the manners ant
happiness Of society at large. They
must not feel themselves merely a two
| friends who have agreed 70 S''"'c caci'
Others trials and happiness but rather
~ tI.e founders of n community of ra-
tional beings, who may hereafter found
other small communities, from whom III
nroccs, of time Il multitude may spring
10 this multitude stationed here and
there, according to the allotment o
Drnyilapnn tlny uivn a na Il If ph
the influence Of which may be matter
OF pleasure or pain to themselves auC
those they are connected with, long aftel
they have ceased to act in the prcscn,
scene. The good or evil influence of oul
lives will be felt long after we are for
gotten, or may take such range as to b'
felt where our names will never be
heard. 1t has been well observed by ;
modern writer: THAT the motives L
cXcrtion, furnished by the possession o
children, are as powerful as ever moved
heart or hand, the secret OF many
struggle in lifc's battle may be found a
home the man who has children Deepen
dent upon him will and must struggl,
manfully against the most adverse cir
cumstances. The thought that the io.
of their young lives depends upon hi
cou rage, his perseverance ana energ,
will enable him TO work wonders, an'
achieve what will appear impossibilitie
to the man who has only his own selfsl
needs, his own selfish ambition to urg,
him on; aud there Is 40 sacrifice to-
great for mother to make tor her chill
dren but how often the case, with tn
best intentions parents fail to make honI
paradise, and in consequence Of tina
failure. children are glad to meet with op
portunticS for going out into the worlt
Parents are not necessarily their bc'
guardians, as their selfish love too FIRE,
qucntly blinds them to the interests o
their children. Now, the question ofdi'
ciplinc is the most difficult of all the IL
tails connected with the proper manage
ment OF, children. Discipline commonl
means suppression and correction, by til
most enlightened, the tcachln
of sclfcontrol and obcdienC
by such appeals to the reason as chill
can understand. 1t Is not best to insi
on blind obedience; by giving a reason
child yields much more readily; we oul
. \ srlves nr.for n reason before dOinp an,