New-York tribune., 1875-02-26
OUTDOOR POLIfENESS.

AMERICAN MEMS GENTLENBss TO WOMEN DECREAS-
ING-RUDE TREATMENT OF WOMEN IN PUBLIC
CONvEYANCEs-INFLUENCE OF THE WAR AND A
LARGER FOREIGN POPULATION UPON MANNERS
TO me Edttor Of The Trtbuae.
SIR: The other day / entered Wall-st.
to fad gentleman sitting by the door with the
window down. and smoking. Neither the driver the
stage company of this breach of omnibus eti-
quette; hence fault is theirs. The day OF this
smoking adventure went into INK to deposit some
money for child. II was ten minutes after two o'clock
L" Too late, Madame" mutiered the gentleman at the
desk. But, thought banking hours were from ten 10
three" You Thought wrong them" busily folding
papers and locking drawers. As am only ten minutes
tance" Can't help il, if You came from Boston; IFS
past the hours I left the bank. wondering what had
were wont to think, the American gentleman awavs
TO sb6us ' b9 o9A had eK 5a % compan @
offer, since was really seeking 70 infringe upon the
banks laws But he rude and coarse and unneces-
sariiv Tue same day. again got into an uptown
ear at the starting point. gentleman rushed IN
front Of him. to the right and to the left OF him,
gathered all the straw, ping up around hiEse IT.
When every prospect plsases"
Then man never 30 viie.'
This gentleman, before appropnatng his Deishbors'
straw glanced at three ladies who had entered with
him and sitting and finding the prospect"
beauty or all together pleasing daringy robbed
them. Now. asked myself after these three adven-
tures In one day whose fault all hsl Men clear
ly showing and less Difference to women every da,
But we have had long and exhausting war and are
daily reaping ana more OF its bitter fruits All
wars upheave society its very roots and the strength
Of the upheayal must be according 10 the wars dura
ton Ours lasted four years. Financially we have
brought aOOnt real impovcrlshrient that our people
are still too blind to recOg1iZe Where consumption is
in excess of production the social wheels well the
nnancial must become embarrassed The social wheels
have had severe clOgging IL II not strange
then everywhere should witness great changes
since the wars ending adventurers have come 10 u
from all parts Of abe world aud hitherto poddng and
quiet Americans have become adventurers Love OF
gain love nOtOriety entire and unfortunate change
Of condition and scene, have thrown reeking on me
surface, who, before the war hVed quieI ana
resnactable lives. These daily meeting. Brutt
qualities must be eDgendered hy long dealing WIZ
6orrnrs and we are feeling sep to-day on the
social ladder disastrous and unquetlng the cnect
OF these horrors have been nar New ioas. SSn a. a.
her goodness and grace. has SUI become cepo3i Ior
mneh of the Old Worlds and the New-WOrds b!ackness
and evils. Can We expect IN H. tArh OF an nere' a
~ fhe old-t time poiteness and houkhtiulness' .
II NAV be confirming proof tnat masculine eal!antry
has become common that women ever arceP ~
even nod OF thanks ont " h1t prooi ., .nsI sGo
breeding or their gratitude. No sOcaI IA" mas ever
been written that shall compel man, Doe'use ne 70 S
man to resign what Is Es own 10 woman becduSe rnc
,s a woman; does II mean BIS seln-hhess "neH ne
necTs recognition. means rather MS sense OF po
Uteuess. In street car a man gives hs place 10 q
woman OUT Of the full kudiinr,F oI hls bt6rt me
tbOughtfnly aeknow' edges 10 nise Ia nv dsgneo
able 10 stand than he Is or "ltno1t ant uetnee tt
thought at all, woman sshu,he ".le no - 81 @
md bs must not b.. do not thlus tha' IL s 20 com
mon ar sad for women TO receive tn1se ac' & ol s
cinusuess from nen without recOghiBns lhem Dut II -
CRYING shame that one such hrehe snui, a ~ ., o.,
az great shame as TO pas uhfoco-h'Hed e"' VI I"
greater sacrifice. ~ - ,..,- - .,o ~,
Sometimes think wooa hhe 20 ~ Su - er ~ ~ M bc
rmes-iust for htle while men u inaS u
,hnr,,ht women suDerOr and altogether heip"ss IL
:. as an honor then wait wOuIdt ahd very great
Sonor 70 visit her They always asked or tbis ast prv
nee " DO come aud NE - " You have ~ Oeen 70
- Us for ever so long" hear young glsls SAY ="
ontIsmcn without "a seeming thought that they are
sLeanen,Dg themselves, che opening ali women But
an we have tie old pOeness ana ihe eqgd!iy' 700
- "a 10 the memory OF il thar would Ia4a seeh
80 So fo heal this breach before l. too late wei.
- EnoW no fire can reDded wnose ashes are euihe.
ti.cE Will not men awaken To the pidln rabh lndt Oy
,rasrn0 women with incOnsiieEaieneSs ana Tudestrs
te are inviting incOnserateness and rndeness 10 helI
rn women, and every man Would dNOlu ana VII.
t voen remember tnat II l. nos by rghts they mus
ASoect snrreuder at least. OF place IRON men lhcre
~s No Tcits about it-0nly tenderness ana hnduhtss
re the impeing powers. ana these botn deserve RrAt-
,nSs and fhank, Perhaps in tins Young new year We
ui I'll men ana yoIu IN, turn new leal on TINS
seeI of poiteness the pubic thor0ughIares 70 esch
other.
g,lt- York Feb 90, 1873