, 1875-09-26
ARE THEY AN EQUIVALENT

t16Y mak6 LilaiT IDlstake. !oe uof4uuo AaG& 10.
that weli-to-do gentlemen decline to marry. II
is to these tho ladies address their argument,
and esy, Work hard, economize, accumulate, and
then marry ooe Of lie. We thank you, ladies'.
for the proposition, but respectfully decline.
And why not marry I?
VIE recognize that marriage il = contract there
il no avoiding without diBgrace. The contrac:
involves personal sacrifice, increased expenses,
ara ~ uncertain future. There is 3 repentance
that comes too late. We want fully to conpre-
bend why 10 should marry. As Q mans money
is his own, IN it's expenditure he rightfully con-
suits Ills own interest. II man cannot afford
to marty, certainly he ought not to. Between an
overcoat and wife, he ought to take tho oyercoat.
Otherwise his married life would ensla7e him to
miserable struggle with poverty.
But what Of the man who can afford to marry,
but will not ? That is the man who interests
tho l2diea. You find few such in the country, for
country life needs wife as helpmate and g
companion. But such men abound III cities. At
least thirty moral, well-to.do gentlemen board
It the same hotel as myzet who will not marry
from choice The well-to-do voluntary bachelor
il numerous and increasing class in all cities.
Civilization has diminished the necessity Of 3
homo, nnd hence tho demand. A homo is not
euch superior pleasure Us it used to be- In
c,tiea we fud plenty OF companions, IN tho ho-
All increasing round OF dives, lectures.
and entertainments. Do Ne need wife !?
SLe copcs, necessitatlng economy, per-
sonai sacrifice, increased expenses, and an
uncertain future. The young man OF limited
means concludes thar, as be enjoys Life srlcn-
course is to run no risks. The ladies must meet
the facts. Marriage is indeed ! contract, nnd
before it's burdens are assumed each side must
show an equivalent. Tho question is not so
must whetLer We can anord to marry, ss whether
wo want to, all things considered. Modern civ
iiization has made our life 70 happy TINT TIC can
afford not to marry. What do the ladies say to
this !? We arc not so anxious to marry as we
used to be. Because the hero in the novel you
read Is crazy to marty, do no: suppose all men are
troubled in the came way. Even novelsts are
recognizing the chunge in this respect tha: mod
e1n civilization has produced in cities.
II you put marriage on the ground OF duty. we
deny that It Is our duty to support SOMEBODY
else's daughter, unless We choose to-
II you put marriage on the ground OF "some-
body to lore" wo say that, considering its ex-
penses, sacrifices, and uncertainties, We lore
better our present life.
# you pat it On the ground Of companion
and hclptnate, ne eay we enjoy ever 80 much
the society Of our present companions, and sell
dom need nurse.
it YOU put it on the ground OF O family, TO
anawer that il 70 do well financially, most Of
rs expect. when We are So or 10, and when it Will
involve less sacrifice, then to marry and raise
family.
Modern civilization has created in our cities
u1ote eujoyable life for man than the married
life. or At ieas1 rival. Thousands OF gentle
men, who cannot afford both, prefer to enjoy
thor lives aud money in other Injuries than
marriage. Why should mEn be slave in
work and l. m!ser iu money to support wife
Thv should he abandon certain happiness and
constant joy for an uncertainty? Marriage must
prove itself = superior pleasure, and Thst lady
cao prove marriage an equivalent Tor the eelf-
denial and struggles it demands Of men Of limit
&c u.eeus! We arc not 10 sentimental es to
SUPPOSE that marriage ia tho cniaf end Of mGn
and the Kingdom coino. We have heard OF tho
divorce court. Why fly from ths ills ne hare to
thoss ne know not Of? I; Is question Of dol
lars and cents, and in The cities OF this age our
money can purchase fo7 us the Injuries Of
home, and honorable, constant entertainment.
What need have Of q uife2
Any Misrepresentation Of tho expenditures,
economy, labor. sacr1hca or pleasures OF mar
riaga Is false pre:enaea ANY young man in
judiciously advised into marriage is swindled in
the worst way. Therefore, I hope the public
press will continue impartially the discussion Of
this serious question, and allow the 1aSies to
prove, If they can, TINT they arc m equivalent for
SHE "aA:sEs" Hin.
To tho EHitoe Of The CHICAGO I57bua&:
CHICAGO Sept. ell do assure you that Joa
headed the letter OF 81 Harry B. FREQ" quito right
LAST week. That young man does need staking
down." and most sadly too. would be the Inst
one to make letter personal, but snca Harry
B. Free made his letter OF Sept. 10 80 per-
sonal, I feel called upon to answer him in tho
same strain. am quite sure set forth in my
laat letter, plain enough for the greatest dullard
to understand, how VIC get our clothes. OF
course We are obliged to have new onos scGne-
times, but or dresses are principally old ones
made over again. And whlle I I'm now speak,
ing about our clothes, I may as we'll say that I
expect to hear Of numerous sudden deaths, and
all through "pull-bacAs- They do seem to
trouble you poor mon more than any previous
fashion ever heard Of. and if sono Of you don't
take your deaths through them it will be strange
to me. 1t certainly is noticeable to every one
whom young man parts his hair in the middle,
and it is equally noticeable that that ssme young
man is not troubled with many brains therefore
it is necessary for him to part his hair in the
middle to keep his head On top not his boot
heels.
also know tho g1eatest number Of young
men do wear silk underclothee. and usa
perfume. Wig >? Because + hare had to
mend enough underclothes to know, and have also
seen the handkerchieis perfuIncd. Now I do
not class all alike. l think there are good and
bad Of all gorts. but the girls arc not one bit
worse than the boys. Hind, Harry, am not
giving ground. not one inch. sir! You speak OF
my looking into your "don IT and eeeing worn
otc. L make reply, all the moro
necessity for you to take to yourself wife to
keep them in repair. II you think it rejects any
credit on your se1 to sroak OF your "deus " and
'rage," why, my dear young man. You are vel
come to the questionable honor without inter-
ference from me. And as to going INTO wo.se
places than street-cars without perfuned hand
kerc1,iefa, I tlinl it must be very
wicked person indeed that will deceive
himeelf vhea alone, because it's very
unnecessary thing. and, By using it, you are do
ceiYing yourself aud, II thoso worse places
mean lager-beer saloons billiard-rooras. ETC.,
1hat ara chokin, With smoke md all otAar filthy
smells, say thore is no necessity for you to
ter such places at oil ; and / will answer for my
SEE, and I am quito su1o for your SEE that arc
risht-rniuded, conmon-acnae men. you ers not
1leht-not By great deal You say you are dis
cuesing our extraragance; .ce are discussing
yours; the girls don't want to know wIy you are
hot marrying; it ia p,a:ter Of extreme indifzer-
ence to US, because We CHI do very veil without