Connecticut western news., 1875-09-10
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A Few Sensible Remarks from a Preacher -,, for Young Ladies as Well as Men,

A Few sensible Remarks from a Preacher r, for Young Ladies as Well as Men
 Rev. Easterline, of Reading, delivered the following sensible lecture on mar riage lately: .,- ''' --,.,. .I S We'll, you should not marry while too young. Our brains must first develop, and so must the physical man and moral nature, and we ought to have some prac- tical experience in life and know some thing about its stern realities A young lady is not fit to take charge of house. hold until she is twenty y-two or twenty three or twenty-four years of age, and Q young man is not qualified to enterupon the responsible duties of the head of 8 family until he is at least twenty four years of age, and twenty eight years won't hurt him. A young man has boy -ish ways until twenty one years old, and has only theoretical knowledge of life, Some young men when they graduate from our theological institu lions hardly know what hay rake is. They have only book knowledge. They may know what good dinner is, and that is all. Early marriages are the cause of a great deal of misery, of nu- merous suicides and murders. The young couples lead dog and cat lives until they get tired of each other and life itself, because they have had no proper ideas of the duties of married life. Some young ladies are in such haste that they get married before they have made dish rags toward housekeep- ing, and join their fortunes to young man who hasn't as much as 8 set of spoons, and no experience of the stern realities of life. The young ladies spend all their money for clothing, and the young men, beside their clothing, must spend large sums for cigars and ale, for very few young men can live in this nineteenth century without having their bitters to invigorate mind and body. Go into the family of couple who mar ried too young, and you will find about three chairs, four children and little table with nothing to put on it. You should not marry blood relations, as un- healthy children will likely be the re- suit. Two very boisterous and excitable persons should not join their fortunes together. When one is boisterous the other should be calm. Some women are always ready for fight and looking out for a quarrel, and are living hyena lives. The duty of the husband is, first to govern, and second, to provide, and it is the duty of the wife to obey and as- sist. The husband is to love his wife, and if he loves her he will properly SUD- port her and her children, end if she | meets him with pleasant smile when | he returns home from his arduous work and wrestling with the world, and not ask him to make the fire and do other | things which she ought to attend to her self, there would be less frequenting of beer saloons and less card playing, and the husband would provide more good things for his family and set better ex ample to his children.
 Young men of fine tastes and small incomes, are supposed to decline mar riage at present, because they cannot find wives who shall at the same time be Minervas and good cooks. The present age appears to demand too much. Wives are expected to combine all the house. wifely talents of our great-grandmoth- CTS, with the intellectual advancement which comes of Cambridge examina- tions.
 We believe that marriage, even upon $1, 200 year, is an excellent and indis- pensable institution. But there is, in addition to the complaint made by young men upon the extravagant ideas of the young women of the period, just the slightest chance that they may ex- pect too much.
 All young men are not poets, nor scholars, nor musicians because they hap pen to keep books, dispense medicines, or sell dry goods. Just as little can they expect the average girl to concen- trate all the virtues and accomplishments in her little person. If she is extra smart, can cook dinner, rock 8 cradle, fix up dress, superintend the house. work, and then come up smiling, talk literature and science, and dash off a fugue of Bach's to entertain her hus-
 bands friends in the evening, what has
 he got to show upon his side of the
 house9 A twelve hundred dollar man
 has no right to expect anything more
 than twelve hundred dollar wife. II
 she can cook and keep the house in or
 der, let him do the talking, play the
 piano, and attend to the auctuating
 emotions of the baby. Fair play is 2 jewel. If he gets the jewel, let him not
 forget that his wife is fairly entitled tc
 fair play.