Vermont farmer. [volume] (Newport, Orleans County, Vt.) 1870-1877, 1875-09-10


ing sermon. Do not refuse on the plea that
you cannot hear your "own minister" or do
not believe the doctrine taught; for, If you
are an attentive listener you may treasure
something that will make you better bus
band and father through the week.
I'd. Give her the assurance Of your sym
PATTY in sickness, by spending your leisure
moments at her bedside remembering she
would not leave you at such time never
to 60 TO any place Of amusement nor even
TO call on a friend.
3D. Do not Qblige her TO ask you for
money to purchase her own clothing. If
there IS any one thing which is peculiarly
trying to sensitive wife, it is this. Help
her, too, to have the care Of what is needed
for the household, aud not compel her To
enumerate every article; it is revolving to
her feelings, aud she will reduce her expenses
to the merest trihe rather than do il.
4th. When you subscribe for your own
newspaper, does it ever occur to you that
she may crave some particular book or pa
peri perhaps a monthly that contains the
prevailing fashions" will satisfy her Gf so
God help her, she needs your PITY; but do
not withhold it, you canuot elevate her one
jot by SO doing.
9th. When you are away from home, and
circumstances compel your absence for a
longer period than you expected, send her n
message to explain the cause, if you do not
wish to give her needless anxiety. am re.
minded Of little story Of long ago. and will
repeat IL for the benefit OF some one at the
present time. A young man started to 60
out, after the evening meal, and as he donned
hat and coat said TO his wife "there is going
TO be dance at the hall tonight, and l
think l shall go in little while to hear the
music" She wished he would spend the
evening with her; she had three little ones
to care for, and could not 90 out with him.
but she felt that it would be selfish TO ask
him to stay, aud she only said "come home
early" to which he replied, III will"
The evening passed PLEASANTLY away. She
cleared away the tea things, sung lullaby
songs to the children till their bedtime, and
then took up her sewing Ten, II, IL O'Clock,
and why did he not come. He was not iu-
temperate, she said if so she might account
for his absence. She retired, bat not to
rest or sleep. One two, three, four O'Clock !;
and all night her pillow was wet with tears.
As the morning dawned, she heard the sound
of carriages leaving the hall, and the tramp
Of many footsteps; some low and vulgar
words from some ofthe passers-by, that made
her shudder while she listened. He opened
the door and walked iu, looking weary from
his nights work but not crushed 10 spirit
like herself. Oh how she hoped he might give
her some reasonable apology for his absence
"Had he been called to watch by the bedside
Of sick neighbor' las he was often in the
habit Of doing) she asked mo" he replied,
"they wanted me to stay at the hotel and
assist in waiting upon the tables, aud meant
to have sent you word but you were very fool.
ish to cry all night" Then il he had hum
bled himself, and confessed the wrong flor be
felt it) she might have banished all remem.
brance Of that night from her heart and life,
and suffered no more in consequence, except
from the physical weakness it had already
inflicted. She forgave, unasked, but how
could she forget his thoughtlessuess aud ap.
parent Indifference 10 regard TO it.
9th. Keep her Informed of the amount Of
your income, your Indebtedness, etc; and,
if she is true wife, she will cheerfully con.
form to your circumstances, however humble.
Only give her your full confidence aud she will
be happier with "dinner of herbs and
your love in a cottage, than the luxuries OF
a palace with GOODNESS and distrust.
| The heart than the home Is more,
Tbs loving outyies the living
And SsI the 1sy S.Io i dsSs a. sHId'n stores
Is the spirit immortal when life is DER"
18th. Avoid testing, as you would reptile
that you knew would poison you both. II
may do no injury while you are alone, but
in the company of others, when you begin to
say sharp, witty things, merely to crafty
your organ Of mirthiulness you will wound her
like blast of Simeon from the desert. IL is no
indication of gentleman, aud but few we'll
bred persons will indulge in il; but il it is
inherent in your nature and you cannot get
above it, let 1t be directed to your neighbor,
or friend, but never to your wife. once
CHANGED to be listener to the following dia-
logue "The H family are coming to
town, and will give concert at the village
tonight" said the wife; "and intend to
CO. said the husband 'but shall not want
your company. have promised to take Miss
A" mo matter, | can fud an escort
that will suit me BETTER" she replied. Such
conversations, | have since learned, were
common with them, and the jcsting which
commenced in play has since proved terri
BILE reality. They arc now divorced.
9Th. Do not wound her self.respect, by
expressing surprise at her ignorance it she
should ask you for information on some o.
the common topics oil the day, especially ii
the first years Of your married life, while she
ia devoting every moment to her domestic
duties and the little ones; not giving herself at
hour in a whole week to book or newspaper
You cannot reasonablyexpect her to keep pac
with yourself, who have your long evenings
and sabbaths undisturbed by care. Try TO
get her mind above becoming a mere drudge
Help her mentally and spiritually, encourage
her to read and write regardless Of your owr
physical comfort even. IT has been truly
said that
"The hand that rocks the cradle.
| Is the hand that rocks the world -
and women in the future will prove this NOR
truly than they have done in the past fo
despite all the taunts and insinuations cast
upon those who dare TO advocate the cause
OF woman suffrage, il will yet stem the grea
tidal wave Of opposition, and the "leaven'
which is working will not cease until your
wife stands beside you at the ballot box
Then, at least, you will feel the necessity Of
her enjoying equal opportunities OF improve
ment with yourself; for how degrading t
her nature, aud your own should she z
there so entirely u4dtted as some Of you to-
day.
9th. Lastly,and aboyeAll other things in lif
cherish for her the purest tenderness, such AZ
was exemplifed in the life Of noble mar, who's
memory nation reveres. All who know
something Of Horace Greeley, are aware thai
one Of the prominent traits in his noble, un.
selfish character was his great love for hi