, 1875-07-17
DamseIs and WedIOck,

trimOny. That these sages so far fail to ac
/; up TO their principles as to frequently immo
late themselves upon the altar Of marriage
may, perhaps, be regarded as proof that hu-
: man nature is not, after all, uttsrly selfish.
Certainly, when they themselves passed into
the demoraliZing condition ct @edlcck, they
are In position to speak more authoratively
of its horrors than they were before, and may
be the better enabled 10 taiE IN glowing terms
Of that delicious freedom aud those pure de-
lights which they have forever lost. That q
few of them do all this ia touching proof OF
that terrible earuestness by which they are,
possibly, inspired and the misfortune is that
the world Seems disposed 10 laugh at them
and to set them down as humbugs OF q pro-
nounced type. This being 50, it is not sur
prisiDg that many of the warnings which
the high-souled philosophers feel constrained
to address to their fellows are like unto the
seed which fell upon stony ground. 1t Is,
alas Il melancholy fact that the majority Of
folks disposed TO look contemptuously
upon all mouitory references to marriage, and
show by their actions that they resOlutely
decline 10 believe that matrimOny frequently
| turns out a tremendous blunder, which has
been more easily made than it can be reme-
died. This sad state of things cannot bnt DO
discouraging TO the philosophers, and they
! are really deserving OF hearty commendatiOn
| because they do not, IN despair, give up their
/ work of exhOrtation, more especially, as in
many cases, they are undOubtly regarded
amiable bOres. Yet, though they are snub-
bed and decried, it is q sad fact that Of the
many marriages which are made large pro-
! portion turn ont miserable failures, and bring
| little but regret 10 those who have entered
into them. It may safely be said in sober
earnest, that there are at the present moment
scores of hearts which are heavy and hum
dreds of eyes which are wet because their
owners failed to take good comprehensive
look before they irrevocably plunged into the
sea of matrimony. Wi h all due Difference
| TO philosophers, it must be written that this
is not so much because the institution Of mar
! riage is mistake, as because it is very little
understood by numerous individuals until
time when the understanding OF IL is of little
use. Angelina and Claude, when they stand
together at the altar, in nine cases out Of ten,
are simply taking each other " on chance"
Now, Angelina may turn out an angel, and
Claude may show that he is an angels oppo-
site, this order of things may be reversed, or,
and this the worst cOusummatiUn Of all
Angelina and Clande may have proved how
dIsagreeable human nature can be before the
| termination Of Il fortmght's honeymoon. If
he couple are unhappy, 1t cannot be said
their being 10 Is entirely their own fault.
| They have but done what the most oil hui
man kind do in putting their hand inlo 4
lottery bag and drawing forth something
| worse than a IneTe blank. Angelina, if she
| had wished TO do so, could never have seen
! Claude except when he WAS ~ much like
! Prince as possible, in order that she might
! be dniy lmpressed and poor Claude would
| have found it equally impossible to have
pouuced upon his adOred Angelina when
/ she was not in fit state and ready, in all
respects, 10 receive him. Angelin, cannot
| be blamed because she hid that little tenn
| per Of hers; neither can Claude le censur-
ed for choosing TO forget that he possessed
number of small vices, Of the minor charac-
ter, which, III a general way, he WAS particu-
larly fond of airing. Nor can either of the
pair be blamed because, like two rogues. each
| chose 10 think he or she was a cleve,er hypo-
crite than the other.
Matrlmony must always result in more or
less disastrous consequences, but there is
reason to believe that if there were less mar
| Iying IN haste, there would be less uepenting
at leisure. Maidens, in particular, are ad-
dicted to rushing headlong into the gaping
vortex OF wedlock. Nor, perhaps, when
| everything Is considered, Is this at all STANCE
As the respectable daughters of respectable
| parents, their circle OF action is yery cir
| cumscribed one, and their means are Of the
| slightest. They have control over no. hing,
even the most important Of their own actions
being directed by others. They may earn
miserable plttance, but it is by indulging in
| drndgery, against which their souls revolt
Matrimony Is the only means by which
they see their happy and humiliating cUndi-
ton may be altered, and truth to say, this
! seems hight royal way 10 the Improvement
Of their state. With husband, they imaS-
| iue they will get the control OF house, the
inmates of witch Will be their willing sub
| jects, the command of pure, and greater
liberty OF action than any single Young lady
can ever hope to enjoy Nor is this all
marriage will raise her, girl thinks, in the
estimation of her friends, and etfeetually
prevent her from becoming what nine wo-
men out of ten have u horror OF, to-wit an
old maid.
Then, in addition to this merely practical
aspect of the case, there is the purely s9nti-
mental one. A damsel may imagine that it
Will indeed be nice TO have husband who
Is never weary of kissing and earessing her,
who is ever ready TO satisfy her smallest
wants, and who lives but 70 please her.
| When a maiden is in the state Of anxiety to
escape from one state of life to nat of another,
it is not surprising that she should often be
deluded to the extent Of imagining herself
in love with youth, when the fact is that
true affection for him forms but q small part
of the impulses by which she Is Actuated.
Nor is il at ali remarkable that she should
sometimes succumb to the first young fellow
| who makes overtures TO her, and, OCCASIONAL
", lead him on to believe that not only is be
very much in love with her, but that she is
also very much in love with him, belief,
which in most cases, there are no oPportuni-
ties Of shaking until it is too late.
Damsels who are unduly eager to get mar
ried expose themselves to serious danger in
addition 10 that indicated. They run good
chance of finding themselves Tilted, OF imag-
lining thst they have been jilted, which
amounts TO the same thing.
Men may, for time, be attracted towards
women who show q marked preference for
them; but, H. rule, they value most that
which there is the most difficulty IN getting.
Indeed, in many cases 1t Is tAe pursuit of 3
prize that renders il attractive rather than
any particular merit OF the prize itself Thus,
though dsnsels may, in their eagefness to
get married, draw men on to a ceriaia stage.
the chances are that the latter will shrink
back before taking the last, inevitable step,
and leave the damsels objects of ridieuie and
compassion TO these who are scquaintsi with
what has transpired- II these latter were
less wishful Of getting msrriei, they would
make fewer mistakes and meet with less re-
buffs than they do pow.-Lbers RsFae0.
II is estimated that there ara over 800 tons
, OF old rubber shoes manufactured into car
! q rings in Boston annually.