, 1875-09-05

goes in the same society with the young lady,
and it takes all bis spare change to keep his
standing there, and Us his salary increases, to
please the lady OF his choice, he indulges him.
self to greater extent, and at the end OF the
rear: though bis salary may hare reached
$4,000. be finds very small balance
to his credit. It is useless to claim he
has no other expensive habits besides
merely an outgrow.h of It, and 20 the years roll
past, aud 28 OF 81 finds him Just where he WIS
at l8-ony he IL confirmed in ext1aEagant
habits be fluids it hard to give up.
On the other hand, il be deprives himself Of
the benefits OF society, and practices ecouomy.
he may at that aye have accumulated .
few hundred dollars- He now enters go
clety, and unless he opens his purse
and freely spends his money, he will
ind be has no business there; that isn't the kind
preference, lead us to be fast, and spendthrifts-
There arc, OF course, a1ceotlons, but regret to
say very few Take any gathering, see Who has
the preference-the young man. modest, respect
full, and not lavish OF his money, or the fast,
tlashy spendthrift-then tell me where the blame
lies. Vary respectfully, Ggs.
ACKNOWLEDGES THE CORN.
To the Editor ef The Chicago Tribune:
CHICAGO, Aug. 30.-As many arc debating the
subject OF matrimony through your columns,
and rs you go kindly allow it, would like also
to make statement. Young men. in some in
stances, have been accused of being ''speud-
tbrifte.9 It is too true. ) They are.
and about nine-tsnths of them : are
not at all calculated Through the habits into
which they faD to be married; for they only
cause some fine, pure-miuded. good girl to lead
life Of sorrow through the abuse and neglect
Of her sc-called husband. And yet. how is the
evil to be remedied? am now 80 years OF age,
have never played game OF billiards lin 90
LOOM, have never tasted in my Life one single
drop Of intoxicating drink, or used in any form
that horribly filthy stuff tobacco.
cannot be counted as oue OF the boys-they
shup me-and while, perhaps, my looks are as
fine Is those Of the majority, and upon all SUBJ
jects am as free in conversation. Jet the girls
will. in the face Of whisky, tobacco-juice, and a
pretty certain knowledge OF other fully as bad
things, fly to the arms Of the "gallant, lively
boys" who are willing to chat about any light,
foolish subject, or fatter than. and leave such
as myself who have an earnest purpose ahead.
and who are wiling to stand up firmly mud
do right, aud speak truth, and live as near
ly as men should live, d halt-cold
shoulder. thereby. at times as it we're,
turning them iuto oxtrayagance and folly.
Young women, when you know thas man
goea where it Is indecent for him to go, or does
that in any form which is not or would not be
deemed right for you to do. don't 60 with him!
II you we're to spend your evenings in saloons,
or even in Walking in the streets with cigars in
your mouths what would your young beau say7
lie would shun you Qn what he
would call decent society ss he
would poison. and Jet he (who has tho hab-
its) claims your attention, respect, aud, What is
more, your hand.
Ia woman mans equal ?-his equal! Yes
poor, abused ones, you ara not only bis equal,
but his superior and far too good for him. Il
you could but have little moro OF his ''grit,"
and turn your back upon him in every mean
thing you know him to do, you would
bring about. = far j better state
OF affairs in general, IN matnmony.
4 woman is expected to be purity aud goodness
or to be cast out and Stunned forever. You
should work for tbs right and true. By your
careless ways you encourage the men in their
foofishness and meanness, aud discourage Ito
some e1tent) the few who try to do differently.
WILLIAM.