The Democratic advocate. [volume] (Westminster, Md.) 1865-1972, 1875-01-23

strike, are powers not TO be resisted by
those who design TO destroy. Wherefore
the poor, loving little maid has TO put up
with her loss in the best way she can, aud
to content herself in the future with only
the reflection Of her first feryor.
This is one kind Of match making moth
er aud her We give up willingly to repro
baton.
But there is that other, that wise, careful
aud rational kind, whom VIC admire and
commend the mother who does not en-
courage, like so many tame cats about the
house, young men she would not allow
her daughters to marry if they came to
her and asked her for them; who thinks
it cruel, as we'll as dangerous, to expose
young girls to the certain danger Of falling
in love with raw boys whose character and
career are alike undeyeloped-with unsuc-
cessful men who have nothing but failure
and poverty to ofTer-with fascinating
scamps who would marry as lightly as they
would sign bill, only to make squalid,
senseless, bankrupt home. She knows
that girl nature is susceptible, and, God
bless it infinitely blind and silly. She
knows that her daughters have no true
insight into the real nature Of the men
who autter round them. Nay, even intel.
lectually convince one Of them, if fairly in
love, that the man is unworthy of her
base, false-hearted, loW-minded- she
will cry till her foolish head aches in
accord with her yearning heart but she
will go on loving all the same. Many a
young life has been blighted for all its best
years by some such unwise attachment
the real responsibility Of which rests on
the parents who threw their child into the
way Of danger, and then 10 all probability
rated her harshly when she fell into the
gulf they themselves allowed her to skirt
There is no greater cruelty to young
girls than this of encouraging familiarity
with detrimental" who cannot marry but
who may make love. The driest and
most matter-off fact instance Of matrimony
conducted Ia Frdncdise is better than
this. But this is sin shared by our
whole nation and letting the young choose
for themselves, with the idea that love
match must needs be success, is one Of
the most popular chapters in the unwritten
code. Consequently, a girl with deli.
cate constitution and impractical hands
goes of to the bush, then wonders to find
life 80 hard and nature so cruel, and grad
ually sinks in the struggle. A healthy,
vigorous mountain nymph marries into a
sitting street in the city, and in Eve years
time Is lying in the cemetery, dead for
want Of fresh air and exercise. A luxu-
rious little damssl who can be kept pre-
sentable only by extraneous aid, who cannot
dress her own hair, put on her boots,
button her own gloves, nor bear even in
convenience, not TO speak Of. privation,
joins her dimpled, useless hands in indis.
soluble matrimony with some handsome
impecunious Jack, who has only her beau
ty and his good temper on which to found
his homestead and plant his roof-tree.
Yet all these errors might have been
avoided had the parents done what was
their manifest duty to do, and take care
not to let love run riot over prudence,
inclination over suitability. There is
something little indelicate too, in letting
girls wander too far agate in the matrimo-
nial market without maternal direction
without, we win say, maternal choice as
well as denial. 1t is better that the mother
should both choose and direct, instead Of,
as now, simply occupying tho back benches
and reserving to herself the right of denial
The mischief has been done when parents
are asked for their consent, and the denial
only makes two people miserable who
ought never to have got SO far as this.
Liberty is glorious thing but the liberty
of sorrow, the liberty of mistake, is one
our young people could well do without,
and one from which it is part of the ma
ternal function to shield them -Belgrauiia.