The Andrew County Republican. [volume] (Savannah, Mo.) 1871-1876, 1875-07-23
therefore learns to be brave enough to


look at happiness through anOther's eyes.
This is the only way by which any cir!
can take up the fragments of u lost or un
! requited affection: by teaching herself.
not to forget it-that is impos.ible-but t.
rise above il, unit the sting is taken out
of her sorrow. and it becomes gradually
transformed rom a slow poison into Il Bit
ter but wholesome food.
Besides. though the suggestion may
seem far below the attention of pOetical
people, there are such things as fathers
and mothers. brothers and sisters, and 9th
er net undeserving relations. to whom a
1.-THE of the affection wasted upon some
possibly undeserving young man would
be a priceless boon. And so long as the
world permits there will always be
abundance of helpless, sick, and sOrrOWful
people calling on the s0rrow-stricken one
for aid, and ready TO pay her back for all
she cOndescends to give with that grateful
affection which heals wounded heart bet
ter than any ~thing-eXcept work.
Work! work, work. That is the
grand panacea for sorrow, and, merciful-
", there is no end of work to be done in
this world, if any body will Ito it. Few
households are so perfect in happy self
containedness that they are not glad Oft
entimes OF the help of some lonely woman,
to whom they also apply the sacred con-
ISOLATION of being able 10 hep somebody,
C,l 4I,-- ,,n.l,n- -n,,n bon c,o,, tl,1,r
ing herself blindly into some foolish career
for which she has no real vocation, except
that forced upon her by the sickly fancy of
sorrow for neither art. nor science. nor
religion will really repay its vOtaries if
they take to it, like Opium-eaters, merely
to deaden "lpair.
And here | must own TO Il c, rtain SYM
pathy with those siSterhOOdS-yes. even
Roman Catholic sisterhOOds-whO hold
Out plying arms 10 sufferers like these:
disappointed maidenS, unhappy wives,
childleSs widows, struck by some one of
the many forms of incurable grief which
are so common among women, whose des-
tiny generally seems less TO conquer than
TO endure. OF course the natural duties :,
those which lie close at hand, are safest
and best; but such dOmot come TO all, and
any duties are better than none, any work,
even the p .iEful and often revolving toll of
a Sister of Charity, is safer than idlencS2.
For, say what yOn will, and pity them
rs you may, these broken hearts are ex-
ceedinglv troublesome to the rest Of the
world. We do not like to see our relatives
and friends going about with melancholy
faces, perpetually weeping over the I'M
buried corpse of some hopeless grief or
objectionable wrong. We had much
rather they buried it quietly, and allowed
Us after a due season of sympathy to 90
on u way. Most OF us prefer to be com
Portable if we can. | have always found
those the best-liked people who have
strength 10 bear their sorrows themselves,
without troubling their ~neighbors. And
the sightof all other most touching, most
ennobling, is that of a man or woman
whom we know to have suffered, perhaps
to be suffering still, yet who still carries a
cheerful face, is ii burden to no friend. nor
casts a shadow over any bousehold-per-
haps quite the contrary. Those whose
own light is quenched are often the light
bringers.
TO accept the inevitable; neither to
struggle against il nor murmur at it. sim
ply to bear it-thjs is the great lesson of
life, above all to a woman. 1t may come
late or early, and the learning of it is sure
to be hard. but she will never be a really
happy woman until she has learned it. |
have always thought We of the most
pathetic pictures of wOmen's lives ever
given are TennysOn's Dora"
stime
Went onward, Mary took another mate;
But Dora lived unmarried to her death; -
and Jeanne. in Aud Robin Gray" who
says, with the grave simplicity of q God
fearing ScOt>wOman,
81 daurna think o Jamie, for that wad be a sin
SO 1 will do my best a guide wife to be,
For Aud Robin Gray is vera kind to me-"