St. Johnsbury Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1867-1919, 1875-03-12
Praise Among the Married.
BY MRS. VI. A. DENNISON.

uoub1N sweet from the lips of those we
love. 1t chillS the best feelings, awak
ems the highest aspirations, when con-
tlnuou> and sacrificing effort calls forth
no kindly rcturnS-no words of cheer.
of encouragement. The snow is ever
unimprcS>ihle i'll :he deep, hollow re-
cc>scS of thc mountain cliff, where no
Struggling beam of merry sunshine meltS
II with kisses: cold and white il sleeps
in perpetual shadow. till its soft round
ness "OngcaI> into Ice. Aud 50 the
hrHlt, ii forced To abide in the shadow
Of nnWn>. under the continual dropping
of hard, umkiudly words. will aSsmilIte
itself to lis mate. and become Il sad
liStlr>~ heart. lying heavily and cold in
the bosom ihIt should he all filled with
glowing >ympathies.
Husbands often do not know with
what crlSelc>> >olicitude the duties of
II wife and mother are accompanied.
hey leave home early. many of them ::
the routine Of business. the same aS il
WIS yesterday. and will he months to
come. Is 81 thoroughly digeStcd that the
performance l. mca>IIrably without an
/ n0Naucc. They have no heavy or wear
/ my hou>chuld work to do. no frettiur
/ little ones hanging ON to their garments
now {" nurse. NOW to correct. now ia
. instruct. while still the duSting and the
T cleansing. and the preparing of food
must b,' going on. and the little gar
mcmt~ must hr nicely fitted and made.
al all would he untidinrsS and con
fusion. Vet how many an adr"it man
a%"i ""ltIlN"> 10 get through with all
this. Willin" if She i bat appreciated.
al. Il.
endure calmly the trials incident tu her
lot. keeping cane from Il pleasant face
10y Il merry >pmit and cheerful de
unriunr'
But if She never hears the kindly Il
thank l"u. or bchulds the hrautitul
smile that uuutrcrcd gratitude spreads
hp"u the r"umtcmancc "t him tor " hnm
she has t"r>:,hcn all. " hat immct>urnhle
anguish viii she not experience,
W" have "tIru Thought huW poignant
must hc @Ii,t: how heavy the di>ap-
pniulm"uI at thu Young " ilc. " hen She
ht~t learns that the husband oi her
choice i totally Indifferent tu her >Iudird
efforts L" please He hl~ many times.
IN t"lmcr days. pIai~"d the glossy beau
t. OF her sunny hair. and ruIlrd lis rings
of gold aI"und his tiuGcl>. He has yaz-
eel IN hen face until il i stamped upon
The tablets "t his heart. Vet through
utt-I thnU-htlr>>nc>> lie turgct~ nov
thai ii has been Il tialSman of goodness
and panty tn him. OF old associations
have made hIm too much THEN own. tu
play the ioNrl after the. solemn words
Of cctcnuml aIc spoken. He has given
hci his honor. and a home his name.
his mrlIi~: what more can she want?
Gay! ~ the bird upon the tree hv
hcl do"l~idC. docs She 20 caroling about
her W"Ik. The day seems one LONG
Nc,tl har sill twilight does come. and
she awaits the return OF her husband.
lie lI~. perhaps. hut slender resources
hc l. Il llh"lluG man. and their cottage
l. humhlc and l"W-rootcd. How LIGHT
i her step; how happy her brow. Like
Il -kIIiul painter. She has touched and
Ir-t"uchcd all ;lc slender luXuricS nt
hcl home. till they seem to her like the
ad"Iniu@> "t a paradise. She has TASTE.
refinement. a quick perception of the
d,iIrJt, and beautiful. though maNhap
She never has piled her needle ut wor>tcd
tapestry. traced the outlines of IL Singl,
Tree az flower. nT clirittd sweet sounds .
from t.up "r piano.
Ihr H".uth l. bright and red-not a
>prck "t dust visible. She has brought
ont all her boarded wealth: and the |
tables. the new vanished bureau, and /
the armchair back, shine in snowy
.;dlml'nIc. She has placed the little
pictures III the best light. hang up the
wide sampler her child work at school
made all things look cheerful and |
bright. placed Il banquet of brilliant
iI.. t,l,
another III he fire place. and with pleas
ant IuricipationS She awaits his return.
How cheerful everything looks" she
murmur>; land how pleased he will
he, He will commend my care aud
taste"
Presently the well-known step draws
near; >hc flies with Il happy smile to
meet him. and together they enter their
mutual home.
What : II" >lgn of surprise no new
delight on his features +!
Does he receive all her attention us
matter of course something looked for,
expected. easily done, and without
price ! Can he not pay her the tribute
of Il glad smile! Alas he does not he
lieve III praise; his wife must be dis
Interested; must look upon these per
t"rmamccs> a> stern duties if he praise
now, and forget to praise again, they
may Ice discontinued.
She is disappointed. chlrgrincd and
unless taste and perfect neatness are
nldi>pcnS;Ib blc Ia her own comfort. she
gradually wcaricS in we'll doing, when
Il little kindly encouragement, ii little
praise, might have stimulated her to
constant eAcrtion.
Many Il wife becomes careless of her
appearance hecauSe of her husbands |
Indifference. Now in the simple matter
of drc>S-mot 81 simple, either-how |
often men think it beneath their notice |
to approve the choice of their compau-
ions. We once remarked to ii gentle
man that his wife displayed most adj
mlrahlc taste in her attire. and what |
think you was his answer? With IL sigh |
we record it Has she Well. should |
hardly know whether she had on II wash |
gown or Il .tin dress We involun
tarllN dislikcd him, and thought that |
the expression upon the conmtenance of
his partner spoke volumes.
Now We do like to see husband |
notice such things, even to particularly.
We like to hear him give his opinion
as to whether such and such IL thing is
becoming To his wife. We are pleased |
to see IL father Interested in the little
purchases of his children; one who
never SAYS with frown, "Oh, 90 away:
don't care for such things suit you
selves
And i'll household concerns the hus-
band should express bis appreciation of
neatness and order; he should he grate-
I'm far hat h.,,