St. Johnsbury Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1867-1919, 1875-05-21
A Few Words to Husbands.

We have frequently read advice To
wives. and very good advice too. and
aS it costs nothing but little arrange
mcut of ideas often uppermoSt III our
mind. We would like the privilege of
saving a few words t" husbands.
We know there ale many husbands.
noble men. who faithfully perform their
part. who cherish their wives us them
selves. and whose lives are above re-
preach. And We know there are worth
less women living lives of casc. reck
leS>ly spending what their husbands
earn by hard work and care-fraught
DAYS and nights: but il is not of these.
We speak. bul the fan greater class of
working women who bear more than
an equal proportion of lifc'S burdens.
We have read much on the subject
of making home happy. and it is gen
erally considered to he something the
responsibility of which rests wholly
with the wife. All, hut we don't be
licve it. 1t takes more than one To
make home happy. although one can
make it miserable. One great cause of
unhappinrS> in the household seems 10
bc that women do not smile enough.
What if there be nothing to smile for.
We have certainly y seen some oNerwork-
eel anG unapprcciHted ones who to olII
thinking. had not much to smile for.
unless it were that the good God
would presently take them home To
IcSt who made homt neat ALWAYS. and
tasteful. a> they had time and means
L. do il: whose meals were well cook
eel Gt that will preserve lnNc). and VIII"
were models "t economy: but II was Il
thauklcN> service, patiently rendered.
Aud their husbands were not Intention
allN unkind. bat umthinkimg. and prob
ahlN indifferent. lust such men a> the
world i full of men who would very
uuickly detect the first symptoms ot
oNcrW nrk in Il horse. but would suffer
the women they call their wives To toll
until Il malady plN steal. mental. and
perhaps moral is fastened upon them
that no earthly power can rcm"Nc
We have often wondered that husbands
could not see and value more the ser
vices of Il wife. into every ON" of which
is woven :" much of her life sirrugtl
and Vitality. aud why they could not
sometimes bear with Il ha>tN wold ut
tered in WEAKNESS or weakness. toI
which they claim 81 much federation
themselves why thcN cannot some
| times see what il Is that takes the tire
/ from the eye and the elasticity from
! the spirits and. III short. why 81 many
men must expect 81 much in the way
of comfort and encouragement an,
| rive a> little us possible III return.
| 1t is said that Il mau comes in "a
NIGHT. tired from business cares an,
| auuoNauccs to rest and no matte
how cross OF abStractrd he may he. hi:
wife must hc all SMILES and pleasant
ness. What right have Nou. husbands
to drag i'll yorr cares and place the bur
den upon her who, perhaps, was III
half the night with the teethimg chile
while you slept, and whose whole da,
has been one round of never-eudiug
wearying work. And. worse yet. wha
moral right have you to bring hom
the i'll temper Others have caused, an,
vent it ou the woman you protesSed he
fore God and man to love better tha
all the world beside ? why should yo
give her sharp answers and hasty Ian
guage that, if given to business ac
1maintances, would justify them i
t puttingyou from their presence, and sim
ply because she complains. lament tina
: her temper is not us good us 1t used t
| he when Iou married her!
, Surely it was not So with YOU in you
counting days, Were Won not yer
thourhtful of her then ? Were vo
NOT Interested if she had only a head
ache 2-,nd her head never ached the
, ,s if has since or her heart either f,
tLat matter. Did Won not rememb,
I the bnlidovs and hirthdoys with Som
little token. which. however small. wa