Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1875-04-14
A Talk with Young Wives.

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den which may never be reluquishcd until
we render it back to the Master. Yet, the
troubles Of married people are perhaps easier
10 endure than those which come 10 single
men aud women. For after an. can two pco-
pie who really and truly love each other, who
fud each their greatest happiness in the eff
fort TO make the other happy, be altogether
miserable SO long as they have each other
Life is for all of us, in great degree, what
we ourselves make it, aud especially is this
true in welded life, Every woman's hap
pness, if her husband be not a brute, is UNI
der God, in her own hands, aud the keepers
of it are love and patience. Few men are so
churlish as 10 be unkind to wives whose
chief end in life is to be helpsmeet for them.
Wehave all heard the story Of the old couple
who ascribed their welded bliss 10 the fact
that they kept two bears in the house-bear
and torbcar
Two parties are needed to quarrel, and if.
when sharp word is spoken, the angry re-
Spouse is withheld. the strife dieth out. Is
ii 50 hard 10 hold ones tongue? What
good does a bitter retort do ? The bond be-
tween husband and wife is for lifetime
will it pay TO dispute with one another
The wife is not called upon to reliuquish
all her rights, hut the way to secure these
rights is not to contend forthem. Let them
be taken quietly--as. atmatter of course
while the husbands comfort is cared for as
we'll, guarding the claims of the one from
clashing with those of the other, and the
wife viii usually receive all TO which she is
entitled, if not more.
Every woman should bring to her work as
wife aud mother the same energy of purpose,
the same concentration of talent, which she
expects her husband TO devote TO his profes-
sion in life.
Husband and housemother--our language
holds no words which express the relation so
well as the old Saxon yemacular.
No woman can discharge her duty to her
household properly unless her husband takes
her into his confidence in respect to money
matters. She is often to blame that he does
not Why tcW a woman always run to John
with everything in her department as well
Is his ? Il is right and necessary that hus-
band and wife should take counsel together
often and fully, but how can a man be ex-
pected to know what material is best for
Johnny's suit? and she is poor house
keeper who cannot plan meal without as
sistance. And when, the dinner being
planned and cooked, your own particular
John comes home to enjoy it, let him do so
IN peace. Do not begin at once with the re-
cital Of all the worries and misadventures of
the day. If the matter be aught short of
sickness or death it will keep; and when his
outer man has received the refreshment it
needs be win have fuller stores Of sympathy
TO bestow upon you.
Keep a man comfortable and feed him
WELL" said a wise old lady to the writer,
and you keep him in good humor," which
is not complimentary TO the lords of crea-
ton, but is none the less true.
Happy is the woman whose husband is
truly her better half who when he comes
always brings the sunshine with him; whom
wife, baby, dog, and cat all hurry to greet
Such man is worth working for But
what man can always bring sunshine if he
be sure of encounterng clouds at home 2
Smallpox is less infectious than i'll hulnor.
Fight against crossness as against an evil
spirit. 1t is the little foxes" which de-
stroy the fruitful vines. There are women
who to-day would uuhesitatingly sacrifice
life itself for husband and children yet who
in spite Of this affection mar the happiness
of these dear ones by continual fretfuness
and faulttinding. ! am not insisting upon
the traditional sweet smile" under all cir
cumstances. Angels are rarely found on
earth, but is there no medium between smil-
ing and scowling?
! NANfNfH'i4'NNN'
any gentleman can preserve his affec-
ton for q sloyenly wife passes comprehen-
sion, even if size can retain self-respect.
There is a medium in all things, and dress
should ever be suited to the circumstances of
the wearer A toilet for the parlor should
not be worn in the kitchen; but neatness of
person is no more incumbent in the one place
than the other. A clean collar is as quickly
put on as soiled one, and the few minutes
necessary for brushing ones hair are never
thrown away
The woman who makes her motto: A
time and place for everything, and every
thing in its time and place" and sticks 10 Il,
has conquered fate and if with this Jewel
Of worldly wisdom she have also the "Pearl
of Great Price may worthily wear the
crown which the mother of King Lemuel
sought for his wife.
Let it be your chief earthly aim to please
your husband. Never allow yourself to
think that at is only John, aud don't mat
ter The husband won must also be Kept,
and he who having wooed dainty and at
tractive girl finds himself welded to a
dowdy careless wife, is spindiedi Do not
lay aside all the accomplishments which cap
tivated the lovers they are just as pleasant
to the husband
Fill his needs, in so far as you can, yet do
not fancy that You can be eeeryihmg TO him,
nor fret because you are not A dozen times
day he will forget your very existence
even while working for you but do not
murmur-his love for YOU is none the less
earnest because of this.
Does he stop, think you, IN the rush of his
business to count the throbbings Of the heart
in his bosom Be content, if like that you
are the center of his life; if every outgoing
tide of feeling finds its way back to you
Let him keep his friends, II they be not
evil he may need them some day. and their
clam is 50 different from yours
Never blame your husband to other peo-
! pie, whatever his faults. If they are such
as you can keep hidden from the eyes of the
world, do so. In any case, you will find
them easier TO endure and TO conquer if you
60 forth against them clad in the armor of
silent patience, asking help only from Him
who alone can really help Us.
If, as sometimes chances, the staff on
which a woman has elected TO lean through
lin proves a hopelessly crooked stick, even
then to those who seek comfort at the foot
of the cross come patience and resignation,
with sustaining strength in the grasp of their
arms and healing in the toach of their fin
gers. And if in Gods providence there
comes that sorest Of all trials TO a woman,
when she must appeal to the strong arm of
the law for protection from her husband, the
blow will be less uncomfortable ii it be not
barbed and pointed by the tongues Of hum
dred evil counseles.
To the wife who, loving and believing in
her husband begins her married life with
earnest purpose to him good and not evil
all the days of her life" aud who is blessed
with modicum of brains marriage is sell
dom mistake. Sorrow may-nay, tcW come
pain aud WEAKNESS. There may be times
when heart and flesh fail but shoulder 10 |
shoulder-the husband as the stronger TO the |
windward side-these two will comfort and |
help each other; each better and happier for |
the bond between them their sorrows di-
yided their joys doubled by that curious
moral arithmetic, the key TO which is pos
sessed only by married folk who love and
thoroughly respect each other.
90 women. be true IN your instincts;
O women, he pure In your ilyes,
You mould the future mothers,
You govern the present ~ wiyes."