Port Tobacco times, and Charles County advertiser. (Port Tobacco, Md.) 1845-1898, 1875-10-22

"Men are often unreasonable ana
cruel my child; but that is no justifi-
cation for wives being so also. 1t
would be very easy, however, for you
to be just to baby, and yet to be nice
ly dressed when Edward came to break
fast or returned to dinner. All hus-
bands like their wives to look neat,
but Edward is even fastidious. On
the other hand, young mothers are too
apt to neglect their husbands for the
sake of baby. They forget that, until
baby was born, their husbands were
everything to them. 1t would be too
much to expect of man; he would
have to be more than mortal, if he did
not notice, and occasionally feel, the
change, and sometimes think it neg
lect."
"But I'm sure I love Edward just
as much as ever," said Kate, looking
up, her large eyes dilated with surprise
and little Indignation. "And it's
very unjust of him to think l don't
because of baby" And she burst into
tears again.
Perhaps he is little to blame, my
DEAR" said her aunt, kissing her.
What | say is, that it is not so very
strange he should feel hurt. Consider!
Love is to be judged, like everything
else, by its works. If Edward finds
you no longer paying any attention to
your personal appearance; if he sees
that you take offence when he hints
that he would like you to dress as you
used to, is it absolutely cruel, or even
unnatural, on his part, that he should
think you hardly can love him as you
used to love him? He reasons, re-
member, that, if you did, you would
have some regard for his comfort. And
further, if baby is made the excuse
for this, he becomes, not exactly jealous
of baby, but occasionally the least bit
cross. You must not forget, darling" "
and she fondly stroked kate's hair,
''that have had husband and chill
dren myself. though heaven saw fit
long ago." she added, with sigh, 'to
take them"
She waited for moment: and then,
as the wife made no reply, she went
on.
Il think | see how it is. love both
Edward and you. l believe l can
judge fairly between you. Your hus-
band has seen this untidiness in you
has hinted what he felt, and you
have resented it. This has been, per-
haps, in the morning. Instead of for
getting all about it before night, and
! meeting him, when he. came home to
dinner, with smiles, and in your incest
dress, You have been reserved, and
perhaps, on purpose, just the least bit
careless in your toilet. Few words
have been spoken between you; the
constraint has grown more and more
painful; Edward has sought refuge in
the newspaper; you have said you must
90 to baby. and have left him without
the usual kiss; and then he has lost
his temper. and gone ont to spend the
evening. When these scenes happen
often, the wife becomes soured in heart,
if not in looks, and things, as a natur-
al result. go from bad to worse. 4
wife" continued Mrs. Beverly, should
try to look at these matters, not only
from her own point of view, but also
from that Of her husband. There are
very few questions to which there are
not two sides. In so important an
affair as domestic happiness, it is more
desirable than ever to be right; and
this we can never be if one looks at
every subject of difference solely
though ones own eyes. We sometimes
think others selfish, when We are quite
rs selfish ourselves"
Much of this had its effect on Kate,
who, after all, was sensible, kind
. hearted woman. She replied by press
ing the speakers hand.
''If am right" said her aunt, ''as
to the origin of this misunderstanding,
there is no reason why the neglect of
your husband should continue longer
than your coldness. Be the first to
make advances. do not say you are
the most to blame; | do not ask you,
on that account, to take the initiative.
But it is always more womanly-nay,
more Christian-like, for wife to be
the first to relent."
"What must do?" whispered Kate,
her face still hidden in her aunt's lap.
), "Come down to breakfast tomorrow
in your neatest dress, and with your
hair nicely arranged. Do not be late,
as you have been. Get up in time to
have baby off your hands. Be as
cheerful and pleasant to Edward as if
nothing had ever happened. Let the
past few weeks be ignored entirely.
Meet him in the evening in your fresh
J est attire, and have everything about
the room cheerful; if you can, let there
be something for dinner to show you
remember his likings, and are thought
full for his comfort and happiness.
Why, my dear, it is the easiest thing
for wife to retain husbands love.
If she will only show the same interest
in him that she exhibited for the lover,
all will be WE'LL"
"But what of baby the meantime ~
asked the young mother.
"You have the whole day, darling,
to devote to baby; surely that is e.
nough. The little fellow is a dear,
sweet child; but you must not let him
monopolize all your time. You must
think of your health, and, yes! of your
good looks, as in your health; and of
; your husband, and of your future
happiness, which depends, in so great
a degree, on your husband. Be assur-
ed, my daughter, you will act in this
, way, Edward will love even baby bet
ter. Only be your old self for one
week, and your truant will be won
: back again"
Kate took her aunt's advice. The
: next morning she was down before her
| husband; had seen that the breakfast
table was perfect in all its arrange