Vermont farmer. [volume] (Newport, Orleans County, Vt.) 1870-1877, 1875-10-15
Live Cheerfully.

lent articles IN the American Grocer, one OF |
which is the following g,-..-
Que Of the most important things in bring. |
ing up children to be good men and women
is to have them live in genial home. at
mosphere. Boys, and girls too for that
matter, are so constituted that they must
have fun. They cannot always be kept un-
der, and their jolly, healthy spirits repressed.
And it is the invariable rule that if they
don't get what to them is an actual neces-
ity supplied at home, and in abundance,
they will go elsewhere for it, and, very
likely in thus being allowed to choose for
themselves, get into vicious habits which,
growing stronger year by year, are not by
any means easily to be shaken of when the
maturer Judgment of the man recognizes the
folly OF habits formed 10 youth.
If every one does his part, it is easy to
have pleasant, merry home. One cannot
do it alone, but by using little considera-
tioh, and cultivating CHEEKY temper, moth
ing is easier or simpler And the father
also must remember that his duty to his
children is something more than the mere
providing them with bread be must take
an interest 10 what they are doing encourage
and help them, play with them in fact
keep so we'll acquainted with then that at
any time When they are inclined to 60
wrong, they may come to him, knowing that
they may trust in his judgment to help
them over the rough spots. The fathers
special province is to look after the boys he
understands them better than the mother
and vies Uersa.r mos
Judging from what we have observed, we
should say that it is the head Of the house
on whom the most OF the blame should fall
He is engrossed in business cares, worried
by the problem constantly before him OF
how to support his large family, and make
provision for his old age besides, and for
gets his boys have other wants far more inn
portant than their nero physical needs.
Instead of going outside, or each draw.
ing into himself, the whole family should
get their society from each other, cordially
enjoy each others company, and find their
best amusement there. Many little things
will conduce to this end One is to have
plenty Of games around the house, and let
the parents join in them with the children.
Another aud far more important is, we think
the cultivation OF musical taste in your
children. Let them have as much music as
possible. Invite people who can play aud
sing bright music, and let the children hear
it. There is nothing to prevent children
with ordinary taste and ear from taking up
music as naturally as reading and writing,
The notes and the alphabet could be learned
with equal ease at the same time. In fact,
music in any form is one of the greatest ad.
ditions to the social pleasure Of home.
Perhaps the hardest and most necessary
Of all the varied duties of the housekeeper
is to preserve cheerful temper under all the
difficulties Of household work. Work will
sometimes dSag, fires will not burn, bread
will not bake, yeast will not rise, the chill
dren will do some irreparable piece of mis-
chief, and either one Of these things will be
"the last straw" to the mother and house.
keeper. who has been on her feet since
early morning, doing the hundred aud one
little things which no one else thinks Of,
and whose nerves have been tingling with
the excitement of hurry and the strain Of
trying to remember TO do twenty things at
once. All at once, this last little thing,
which is too much, occurs, and the usually
. patient aud placid mother breaks oHt into a
} real tempest of fret. No one has noticed
the previous strain. and no one is prepared
Q for the outbreak, and the result is that il
sets the whole family by the ears. Each
one feels personally aggrieved. If the hus-
J band is in the house, the chances are that
8 he gives utterance TO two or three very. short
aud energetic words, aud leaves the room
and the house for the space Of ten OF
7 twelve hours, and when be does return
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been very much injured. The children say
to each other, GLOW cross mother is y
and she. poor woman, has to work herself
Q out Of her fret and her self.mOrtiicatou
4 aud reproach as best she may, laying the
lesson to heart all the WHILE aud blaming
herself for suffering the penalty, in loss Of
self.control, for too much hurry and anxiety
with her work. The remedy for all this is
o, dear ambitious and conscientious mothers
and housekeepers. in not trying to do SC
much. 1t is certainly the fault of half the
natiys-bofh women Of the country, that they
/, try to do too much, and to do that too much
too fast. Half the patients in the female To-
$ sane asylums to-day would be useful, happy
Q members of society if they had learned that
0 lesson twenty years ago.
!, There is that in the nature Of homework
Z and the bringing up Of families, which de-
: mands incessant effort, and that effort i
4 apt to come upon one person in every family
i Very often that one loses her natural sleep
: in the case Of a baby, and yet the days.
II thought and work must 90 on Just thu
y same. Now, instead Of squirting herself up
10 10 do all this, the mother should deliberatel,
@ try 10 take care of heraelf aa we'll "a n
Q others. She should make 1t habit TO Ii
It down and rest an hour or two Of ever,
Ie day, and, as rule, the moment she find
lie herself feeling fretfOl, she should accept tn