, 1875-09-26

to be saxed," because they would refuse. and
pretty quick, too, II be Was nos the right chap
pray let NE beg OF you not to run aw4y with
that idea again. because We are not in such a
dreadful way to get married as sou aeem to
imae,ue. You ask whera ia should be il you
did not ask. In Just tho sanae place as eyer.-
quito Is con.ented aud cheerful, and as said
BEFORE probably great deal better of.
Let tho girls keep on striving to mako you
repent CT your extravaganza. for it i. very Ee!-
dom good WORK la net crowned with Bnccesa,
or else not take you at ALL Il Ii qulte true Ne
are all dependent on each other. moro Of less !:
but, ss regards tho question matrimonial. the
Of them you have proved it only too forcably
bv writing OF YOUR rags. l tell you, "HarrJ."
Won eeem pretty we'll yersed in the ways OF the
rirls since you vTito about both city and coun-
try, for you have not got ooth clty end country
sis.ar5. so you must either be ona Of those poor.
deceived young E1eu, OF elso an unpElncpied
Now, let Us rart good friends. Is H. B. r."
Only. IL Tou he'd no. knocked the girls so hard, I
should not have rsppod your knucslas 60 IN
nerclfully, NETT1E ".
VERY NEATLY SAID, SIR.
10 the Editor Of The Chicado 7fl6n'l::
CHICAGO, Sept. 23.-After reading all the let
ters upon the marriage question which have ap-
pcared in your paper, and inEardlY digested
Them. with what benefit to myself it yet romaius
to be seen. havo determined to take dab ut it
and rive the bachelors and maide my experience
oud ita LESSONS To begin, I am desirous to take
unto myself wife. There being no doubt about
that and taking that fact al text, let us SEQ
why wish to marry and take upon mo its bonds
Tor bondagc). Among numerous
list Of friends and scquaiataucos,
I can count only three young married
couples, to about fifty single ladies' md gectle-
men, some Of whom ought to be married soon.
or their time will pass, and they will become, as
one Of the ralc-a in your paper puts it, ''left."
Now in studying the condition and modc Of 1iv-
ing Of these threo couples, in contradistinction
to tho single, am convinced in my own mind
that those in search Of husbands aud wives
i. e., the single onos-srend moro money both
in dress and living than the married. And
it cannot ho otherwise, 60 long as
the ladies' persist in their draaghts
u.on the purse = OF the young
nan who is paying them Borne attention. It is
the custom Of this country, no matter Il the
isthor Of the lady be worth millions, and the
gentleman clerk in his Office On 913 per week,
II the daughter goes to theatre or concert IN LIS
company, he has. because it ls the custom, to
c;sburse halt his weeks wages, or moro, or de-
prl7o himself Of the benefits Of society. What
father or mother in Eurupe. OF mora e6pecialy
England, who, seeing their daughter WAS pleased
to accept the company of O gentleman IN the
circumstances stated, would permit him to pay
her expenses Many time I recolect my
mother refusing to allow her daushters to ACCOM-
psny gentlemen to places Of amusement unless
her elrs paid for their own tickets at least. 1
think see the sneer OF the society girl at this
assertion, but it ia nevertheless feet.
But il the ladies' cost the gentlemen money,
so co the gentlemen GAUSS expense to tho lady.
I. is noticeable thing in social life that the
best dressed lady go:s tho most attention, and
go they all sslva to excel in thle rs far rs their
mems 20. Let the gentlemen cultivate the So
cietv Of ladio8 who exhibit moro mind than
dress, more regard for purity Of life AID actions
than shallow display, and, mt word for it, they
will cacse revolution in the minds OF the
society girl that Will rebound to their advantage
tan-fo!d, do not mean to advocate the
expulsion Of all taste or expense in dress,
for beautiful form looks still more beautiful il
clothed ia becoming and etylisa garments, and =
PLAIN faco o. n4ur7 does not lose anything by +
little extra ei1splay but what wish to uIgo is
don'r Ia: dress before intellect and, By doyoting
s:l your time to the best dressed, cause expense
to those who, having more brains than money,
yet wishing for . far share Of attention, are
obliged to put themselves on short r2t:oDB in
o:hez things 70 enable them to compete With
tloso who have more money thsn brains.
Bat, Mr. Editor, here I'M making long di-
Fression from what started out to gay, and am
afraid have already taken up TOO much space;
but the subjee: ia very tnucing, and Que forgcts
the original question in the mult!tudinous Bide-
issues OF the discussion. Still, That have said
may cause raoro attention to be given to the per-
tincnt question OF "too much expense in mar
rage" and the 1naidens and bachelors may poa-
sibly fud out, IS have. shat what it costs to 60
the rounds Of winter in society would keep 4
couple in a cozy nome Of their own, and not SO
very shabbly either SR PERTMAI-