Watertown republican. [volume] (Watertown, Wis.) 1860-1906, 1875-11-03

whose brain cannot rise above the con
temptation of the butchet's book;
learned professor, grave and solemn
and butterfly, whose whole idea 0
life is fun and frolic; pretty girl and
heavy father: these discordan
couples are sent down in their
temporary chain gangs to make
the best they can Of the task be-
fere them; but the host and host ess
who know perfectly we'll the idiosyn-
cracles OF each, care nothing for the
discomfort to which they have DOOM
ed both. Indeed, if they have dis
like to anyone they have invited
which seeming anomaly is by no means
rare--they take extra care to give
him Or nei as companion to the ore
who will be the most uncongenal of
the assembly.
1t is surprising to note the number
OF social; Subtle, but none the less ruff
fianly affropts that well-bred people
permit themselves to offer to others
Are you talking happily? your hostess
swoops down on you and takes away
your companion as prize too precious
for you to retain. This is an affront
common from women to women, es
| peclally where the one to be annoy
ed is of the kind with whom gentle
men like to talk. She is to be taught
that she must not expect to monopo-
lie the gentlemen. With that won-
derful eaivete Of vulg arlty not uncom-
mon among English ladies, gentle
men are the confessed bonmes bouches
of a room, and to be allowed only to
the favorites of the hostess. Those
| whom it is desired to snuh are inter-
rupteo in their conversation, and made
| to feel that they have not been asked
to amuse themselves, but because OF
social necessities with which personal
ity has no concern If this happeps
as it most likely may, to woman OF
| middle age; or to one OF mediocre
means, 1t naturally causes great deal
of indignation and heart burning; which
is exactly what lady offending de-
sires. It. is meant to humiiate, and
to carry ont its intention. We once
knew lady who was obliged for self
respect to give up going to certain
| house because of this. The hostess
had the craze of not allowing any
pleasant person not to converse with
her. So soon as she saw her talking
to man or woman with brains, she
swooped down and divided the pair,
giving as substitute the most Uniform
ed boy or girl in the room. Yet the
guest was woman who, for reasons,
had the right to expect good compan-
ionship, and the hostess was by posi-
ton and education lady. For all
that, she was not ashamed to make her
guest understand that she was trans
crossing the liberty allowed her if she
accepted the attentions eff pleasant
people-of woman of mark or man
of distinction; either Of whom would
be hauled off to some ore else thought
more worthy of the honor, while she
was turned down to her lower place.
Another form of making you un-
comfortable is by outrageous praise.
You are fattered till you feel your
gorge rise at the insolent contempt
that is involved. You know that not
one hundreth part is truly your de-
serving, and you know too that what
you do deserve you do not receive;
but to abash and irritate you by over
praise on points unmerited is as good
way of annoying you as any other,
aud one that cannot be resented like
fat contradiction say, or sarcastic ridi-
Guile, like depreciation, contempt, Or
favorite method telling you what
has been said against you. This de-
lightiul way for the polite rufian to
air his spite and disfavor To repeat
all sorts of disparaging remarks, with
the nvariable rider that be, your In
formant does not believe a word of
what he tells you, and that be upheld
you manfully when you were being
traduced, does two things at once
makes you understand that you are
rated, as you deserve, very meanly,
but that your informant was devoted,
unselish, faithful, and threw In his
lot with you to his own manifest dis
advantage. For this is the meaning
of those blatant boastings wherein the
man who tells you to your Lace wi a.
has been said behind your hack, takes
credit to himself for the way in which
he defended you. He threw to the
winds the dishonor, more or less in-
tense, which rested on him by reason
of his advocacy. All for friendship
and the world we'll lost according to
him; and whether you vince at the
idea Of man mourning obliquy to
share in your disfavor, or at the sud
den insight given you Of your disfayor
at all, SO little suspected, has not
feathers weight of Importance with
him. His aim was self-glorifcalion;
and if you are hurt, insulted, wounded