, 1875-10-10


have wayercd eud hesitated With regard to con
tributing my little noise to the ereat matrimonla
warfare now raging in your columns. 4 certair
| dlfldcnce in coming before the public, and
want OF faith in my own powers, havo heretofors
| restrained me-; but she who can remain in tht
| silent background efter having once read tbs
| iodelicare SUD ungautlemanty assault: of ''RarrJ
3. Free" in your Issue OF last Sunday, is un
| worthy the name Of woman. The great ma jotitJ
Of your masculine correspondents hare carefully
observed the decorum By whose laws commu-
nieation in d public newspaper should ba con.
trolled. But Harry B. Free" forgetting that
| freedom and Iceuss ara many miles aBnnder,
hns in his last contribution, violated every
neral bond and so,al obligation.
| Whoever psrusea his letter will be at once
struck By the utter barbarity and perfect heart-
| lessness OF the whole production; but II in
/ thought SUD feeling ho ia 4 Goth, his views On
| the question Of mat:ilnony should deeply brand
! him q perfect Turk. Mohamnaed Khacan
lounges in tho malket-place, buying 3 slave.
| The 6eautiful Persian, with burning blushea aud
! downcast eyes, stands before him. Khacan lazl-
ly 1dnlires her points, observes tie beauty Of
her modest countanance, remarks the supple
| be, while the beautiful Peraian Standing there
b.fore him dare not so much Us lift her eyes TO
| he7 maater's 6c-utinizing face
And ''Hazry B. Free in rop!y to 'Nettie IT."
does not pretend to answer her charges; be
| questions her right to ptefor them. Says be,
aoh, now. yon know We are not oiscossing our
! own extravaganza, but yours. 4 fellow has q
right to spend his money as he choos-
es he earns it We are not discussing our hab-
ita but yours. Man is thu superior being we
ara not marrying each other, but you. 1t be-
hooves you, therefore, to desist from your in
pertinent inquiries into our tastes aud habits,
and to wait in patient siloace until some man
shall be pleased to purchase you"
o, sistcrs, my blood bolls to know that such
sentiments a,e given publicity, to see that such
uproble and unmanly words ere uttered in the
coIuEus Of great newspaper! Our tastes, our
thoughts, our habits, are searched out down to
the daepest receEses our foibles and folies ara
held up to tho laughter and fid'cule of mock
ing world. Shall 8 veil be eendorly drawn to
shield froni public gaze the faults and vices Of
our young men? Shall all comments on their
little eccent:icities be buried iu amysterious aud
ccaoless ailence? I ASH fair Judgment for
young mao aud young woman both; lot it not
be said that woman SHALL stand in fear OF q
righteous tribunal!
! have, thus fer, confined nv attent,on to what
sppeaEs to be the chief article Of Is Sir Harry's"
matrimonial creo3. now desire to briefly no.
tice two Of our young friends little logical
eccentriei;ies. He speaks
The young man Of to-day is living too comfortably
low to tie himself up to woman Of fashion.
The R1rl want to know why We do act marry,
aud tell them 1t is their fashionable foibles that
dre.d it makes difference how much we spend our
money We enrn It, and II can't afford the ad-
ddt!onal luxury Of wife VIC won't have it.
It is quite refreshing to find one young man
who is not victim to grinding poverty. How it
royives my hope that the present state Of things
is not quite as deplorable As REPRESENT
ed How grntfying to loarn that ono
young, man is lvlag, not in luxurious
maEulHcencc-oh+ no! nor in ariEtocsatc
afa Fcrhf5 h.,t Govt
ably" It would seem, too. that he has little
surplus to srend. for he earned it." Will
Harry" disclose enough OF his mode OF life to
enablo us to correctly interpret that word "com-
fortab1y"2 He has spent his money as ho has
chosen may We be allowed to decide upon the
wisdom OF his course?
An! Harry, Harry, why shield yourself bo-
hind the post of female extravagance, when the
fence OF beloyed bnchelorhood so near at hand.
will so much more easily sctsen you? Come out
At orco. and cay that you do not marry, not be-
cause you cannot support D wife,-for, with part
Of the sum spent in living comfortably" you
know you au,-bat becauEeyou cannot resign tho
dear delights OF bache}orhood, in order to pus
under the yoke Of married life. To Harry"
and to the Editor, respectfully,
QUEEN Bess.
4 BACHELORS OBSERVATIONS
70 The Editor Of Tile Ctseaoo tribune:
CHICAGO, Oct. 4.-As the testimony is pretty
well in on THIS seemingly difficult question,
:" Why our young people do not marry would
Like to present few observations which the
discussion has suggested.
It is evident after reading number Of COM
uunications which have xppeared, that some OF
your correspondents have very crude idoas Of
this Whole matter, and that they have
imagined q great mauy improbable and
foolish things. Firnt, it is not
very probable that any lady OF refinement and
wealth 1s going to re]inquiBa all the Advantages
and comforts she enjoys to become the wife Of
somo poor mercenarg aspirant to her wealth,
who is too often unable to provide respectable !
support for himself, aud WHO would have impu:
leuce enough to expect her to provide gen. |
teel living for him, else be satisfied with bis
Inadequate fare None but man devoid of |
character would be willing 10 be parasite upon |
he possessions Of q conGdlng wife, and but tow |
men would 10 willing to call a |
woman away from = life Of af11uenco |
md ease, to share the bu1dens and |
uncertain comforts Of his ''cottage |
,y the sea, !" unless abie to maintain her in the
,auna condition in which he found her. II more
PERSONS. when contemplating matrimony, would
.oudne themselves to their owu circle and stn-
.ou in life. We would hear less about tho difti-
:alt.es OF married life. Almost every poor girl
sith pretty face and little intellectual capacity,
md, perhaps, less Housekeeping ability, imagiues
hat she 10 specially fitted to be the wife of some
ich man. failing, however, to coua;der that she
las nothing to offer him in return for tho riches
le is expected to lavish upon her.
Tlere are other essentials OF vastly more i'm |
,ortance than pretty faces. Beauty, Ike the |
lower Of the field withers away, but mind OF
uture and soul Of Christian beauty endureth I
oreyer- Then on the other hand. young meu