Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1875-05-10

RULES OF POLITENESS-
In the average country household the
usual rules Of p0liteness are these Not
to put food IN the mouth with knife /:
not to sit IN the house with the hat on !;
not to eat resting the elbows on the Ia
BE not to pass before people when one
can pass behind TO say please" and
thank you; ;" not to spit on the floor;
not to tip chairs back nor rock In the
presence Of strangers; not to make
sucking noise when eating or drinking;
not to stare at stranCers with Wide-open
mouth. and not TO contradict ones Ell
ders." So far 50 good /; but not far
enough The great charm Of pOliteness
lies In the else and naturalness with
which it Is exercised. and while j child
nay be never too old to begin its prac-
tice. 1t can neither scarcely be too young
to begin It.
For the benefit Of such IS may be the
dIseiplinarians Of children, and for young
men and women who would gladly i'm
prove their manners if they knew how,
few rules Of behavior are appended
Cut them cut and post them where they
may be Rad every morning and ponder
ed On every evening. Do not be dis
eoUraged because you ind upon daily
examination Of your conduct that you
fall very far short Of fulfilling them;
but remember that Rome was not built
in day, and persevere. You may be
sure you viii never regret the effort. and
in all probability you viii have frequent
and abundant reason to be most thank
ful.
I. Say YES" and Nc, Madane." in
stead Of sMa'am-"
, Form the habit Of saying Good
morning" and Good night" 70 the men,
bers Of your own family. Among the
best bred people, 1t IS customary to shake
hands upon parting for the night
3. Upon entering 4 room in which
there are people-strangers or other
wise-in the parl0r Of private house
or hotel, recognize their presence by a
bow and 4 Good morning
l. Upon taxing and leaving your
seat at table bow TO the people seated
opposite or near you
8. Do not ask strangers to pass you dish
es at table if there be walters 70 do it.
8. Never man0polize the best seat in i
room if there be others better entitled
to It BY reason Of in6rmIties-
z. In conducting person in or out
Of room, follow, and do not precede
unless the way be dark one.
/ s. Never omit 70 DO kindness, no
matter who the person IN need Of it may
be. Y0u have only 60 imagine yourself
IN his place TO know whether It viii be
acceptable.
I 9. Be very punctilisus about &c
knOWledging fav0rs. If the doing Of
them have involved trouble CT sacrifice,
express your thanks with suitable en-
Phasis.
10. If desiring to make a change in
the temperature or light Of q room where
there are others, first learn If it VIII De
agreeable to them
IL Do not hesitate to prefer assis-
lance 20 any one seeming TO need It.
L. When making IN inquiry Of a
stranger, preface your request with, Il
beg your pardon sir, but can you be 50
kind as to tell NE ?" etc.. ETC.. and thank
him heartily for his kindness
Is If obliged to have a remark re-
Peated- say. Il beg pardon. madame.
but l did rot understand. etc.
H. Do not speak across" a person
to one sitting on the other side, without
ample apology, for It IS a breach Of eti-
quette-
. Is Be careful not 70 give pam to an
other by look word or manner.
Is Respect all honest opinions, 10
matter how they may differ from yours.
L. When Al aged or distinguished
person enters your presence rise out Of
respect to him OF her.
With respect TO the courtesies due
from men to women there are some spe.
cal rules weIl-bred men never Geuar-
D from
l. Rise when lady enters RON and
2 remain 30 until you see that she Is seat
ed or has 10 desire 70 be-
2 Lift your hat from your head and
bow when meeting and parting with /;
lady; also upon passing lady IN hall
or stairs, IN streets and Promenades no
much trequeuted
L 3. Give lady precedence upon e.
{ tenng and leaving a room
: / Do not stand talking 70 ladies' witt
. Jour hat gu Remove your hat whel
Z making purchases Of lady. or In visit
- Ing picture galleries or ether place
'e where ladies' are
2 3 Never eounteuauce II any way