Vermont farmer. [volume] (Newport, Orleans County, Vt.) 1870-1877, 1875-04-23
gaoits Department.
For the VERMONT FARrHR.
Awkward Women.

we nave read about the awkward boys
for some time, yet have learned only what
we knew before. but none the less true.
Perhaps there was some good advice given
which we may profit by. We also noticed
an article relative to the formality of the Ia
dies, which 1 call awkwardness; and on this
point wish to dwell moment, drawing
from my personal experience. Instances
are passing almost every dry in which awk-
wardness and fornality are the most promi.
ncnt features. remember not long since
bowling to n lady stranger the same as l
should to gentleman. was greatly en-
bNrrassed when was given In return only
stare. Being in an evening circle 1t was
more conspicuous and more embarrassing to
me and must be TO anyone than II would
have been had the same transpired on the
street. Such an act is awkwardness in the
superlative degree, let it occur where it will.
Why should not II lady give in return sim
ply m act Of politeness always in placer
should like to see ladies polite enough to
give and return simply an net of recognition
in the evening circle rs well as on tho street,
If there is not so much selfconceit hound up
in their little souls as to render It impossible
for them to Stoop low enough to recognize
one OF equal standing in the. world whether
of their own sex or OF the opposite.
Women can easily overcome this awk-
wardness if they will. Social life is one of
the greatest agencies by which we may ele-
vate our minds and cultivate habits by which
we may become easy in our manners to-
ward either sex under all circumstances. 1t
is not a small accomplishment TO adapt ones
self to move in all kinds of society with ease
and familiarity. Such an accomplIshm ent
will be noticed and noted by all observing
ones.
There meet weekly in the grange hall
thousands of women who stare at the str;Ing-
or time after time. if he or she is not grang-
er.-for they treat their own sex the same.
Why cannot they remember that others de-
sire the same polite recognition that sister
granger gets. But bear in mind say moth
ing against the grange, but approve and hope
| it may further benefit us all.
We would heartily approve of the deli.
cateness of the gentler sex in not being bold
or forward in the presence OF the opposite,
for pure politeness is not the awkwardness
Of looking at gentleman as though yor
would read him through and through when
an attempt is made to form an acquaintance
without u usual introduction, but such Is rath
err work of i'll breeding. do not identify
myself with those who would put down wO-
mans rights, as some may judge from the
tenor of this article, but place them on al
equal footing with man. Woman can de
rive rs good an education rs man, therefore
she is calculated to exert rs great m inhu
ence. either for good or for evil, rs man, anC
she does every day.
Our Vermont girls ought to DO refined
enough to return all politeness shown them
without hesitancy. If is not customary Il
to be affiIble towards every one, at all times
and under all circumstances, then Great,
new customs and manners, for we live in AZ
age of progression. The girls of Vermont
rs class, are very intelligent. some of them
possessing prominent business talent and 4
great many of them apply their talent to
some good end, in the right direction, there
by winning renown that shall last aud be
handed down through many generations.
Vermont is proud of such girls. On the 9th
or hand there are those as deeply Embedded
in sin, and even crime, rs the young men
Vermont is not very proud Of that class OF
her girls. There is still another class oI
Vermont girls, the ladies, awkward WON
en-, )who are foolish enough to think that thu
farmers daughters are not very smart Of
fashionable. In one sense they are right
that is, they are not their kind Of fashonables
but we think good deal better kind. W.
are glad there is this difference. Yet these
"refned" ones will stare with IMMUNITY at 4
stranger. Rather an awkward kind of re
finement we think. Would it not be wei
for our girls to study ease in manners anJ
politeness AS we'll as the boysP Perhaps what
we have said may not edify or prove beuefl
cial to any ono. However, we hope it ma!
not be wholly lost. HARRY.
Rochester, w.. april 5.
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