Mower County transcript. [volume] (Lansing, Minn.) 1868-1915, 1875-04-22
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POiffcncss.

Politcness, a due and proper regard that
is Tor the feelings, wishes, and pleasures
ofother people,;is the thing, that, perhaps,
Of all others renders life the easiest and
rleasantest; tits the Oil that enables all
the wheels Of the complex machinery Of
social life 70 work satisfactorily. What
a pity tits then that it should be disrc-
garded as it SO frequently is IN domestic
life, the place where of all others its soft
ening influence is the most required. The
constant intercourse Of home life causes
unsuitable tempcrs and dispositions to jar
each other in a manner hardly possible
in general society-how unwisc then it is
to relinquisA the one quality which acts
as a species Of buffer between antagoDis-
tic peramcnts. Besides, it is cardi-
nal mistake to regard politeness, as so
many unfortunately do, as a species Of
''compapy manner" 10 he assumed or re-
linquished simultaneously with our best
clothes; it is, properly considered, most
valuable quality, involving sclfcontrol,
some unseltishness, and certain regard
for the feelings Of Others We wish we
could regard it as by any means COM
mon virtue in the home circle, but fear
/: is very far indeed from being so; neith-
er men nor women are biamelcss in this
respect, but owing to their gentIer and
softer natures women are less frequent Of
Tenders than the lords Of creation. Still
they frequently allow themselves license
in saying unpleasant things to their own
immediate belongings, that they would
never take in the hearing Of a stranger.
They argue ''It is hard if you can't say
what 700 think 10 your own husband Or
sister, or other relative' Granted-bu;
! the very same thing, if necessary may be
said in different ways-why not select the
one which will neither wound the feel
ings nor rouse the temper of The listener
Many Of the bitterest and most irreparable
disagreements in married life have arisen,
| not from any want Of absolute affection,
but from a carelessncss On one side or the
other, frequently on both, as to the mar
ner in which subjects on which there may
be difference Of opinion are remarked
upon. 1t is almost impossible that two
people can, even though they be husband
and wife, think alike on every subject
the probabilities are that ON many tiieii
opinions will be widely different. Why
however, should they not be as politel.:
| tolerant Of each others views in private
as con,cntionality would force them tc
be in public? Why should tie w;tc's s1
preston Of opinion be received Will!
MARY, don't be q fool" or the husbands
with, Really, John. you are quite toe
silly'? We have already said the men
are the worst offenders, perhaps because
they care less for, and consequently think
less Of, the small courtesics Of life than
Go women. Still this reflection hardly
consoles & woman when she first finds he,
husband punctilio;s in helping every
! other woman over the raised stile, where
he leaves her TO climb a fiyc-barrcd gate
unassisted; nor is she free from a certain
feeling of modification when she finds be
considers it too much trouble 10 dress fol
dinner with her alone, OF to vouchsufe an
answer to question should he have tic
newspaper in his hand.-Scottish Ameri
can.