, 1875-10-10

THOUGHTS SUGGESTED BY EXPERIENCE AND
OBSERVATION.
To The Eatto7 o<7ne ca:eaao 7r7dxn<:
Cu.cAoo, Oct. 4.--With much interest have
We read the vast variety Of ideas respecting
n,atrimony which have found space in the COL
umns Of TAE TRIBUNE during the past few
weeks. Being soung man, We find our mind
naturally pouders over the subject which has
agitated the world ever since Eve partook Of
forbidden fruit, SO We are prompted to add q
few thoughts suggested by our experience and
observation.
For the most part these Young people have
e1E1assed what seeing to have been their expert
ence in this ma.rimony basiness without coo-
fning themselves to reason. aud have rushed ill.,
to one OF two extremes but VIC now take stand
between these wldo diversions.
We do not call in question the fact that among
us are many young men who are very e1taya-
CANT and addicted to bad habits; attend thea-
tres, play billiards, smoke Is cent cigars, visit
looms gamble, etc. :; nor do wo defend or justify
them in 80 doing. Yes. but young ladies, are
there not those among you who would
gladly exchange places With these very
same young fops? Not onlv is this true,
but you encourage them iu the same by accept
ing their society, and acknowledge by this that
you admire these careless chaps aud enjoy their
AoctetJ. On the other hand, the fact is too ap-
parent that not few young ladies have similar
iaIlts Just aB serious. Arc not they as o1trnra-
giant, careless. and thought.ess? Why do tney
spend no much time and cash in the preparation
Of drese aud wonder how they 4Dpear on ali oc-
casion5, not excepting the church Now We
young mon will neyer denv that we are fond Of
moderate dressing, Of refined. teFty appearance,
hot enc OF III who don't love music and ad-
mi1o all true accomplishments With which she
may adorn herself. It is this evo1saating change
Of fsehions and coat of thom which We protest
60 strongly against. Then, arc nos both sexes
equally subject to imperfections, if no: in dress
in something else? Human nature is the same
in oil classes-high or low, rich or poor male or
female; and thus it is nos strange that HAIRY
3. Free" hirts around when and wherever he
pleaaes with his ''holy socks, 'kercaiefs," etc.,
money on hats and "puli-bac1s."
Tne main question now comes before u8, viz:
= Who is to blame for marriages boiog On the
decllne:" Tho Top who, on salary OF SEE
week, hasn't dollar TO show for it At the end Of
tho 5oar; or shall tho great obstacle be found IN
the young lady who merely attends to her attire,
recelces callers plays tho plabo. etc.? Not at
all. The oaes on whom We cast the main re-
sponsibi!ity ara tue parents who have brad into
their children these bad ideas OF dress, and
make the true clements Of happy life. And
thus reared from carly childhood, it ia not rea-
sonable to suppose they can lay them aside ss
notice.
These facts being true, the next thing ia how
can better state Of things be produced !? Cor
have already given ous somo va1ua-
bio hints, from which much good may be de-
rived. GRANDMOTHER give us an excellent
example in recent issua Of TIE TRIBUNE.
WHICH shows wise course to pursue. ~ Daisy"
is honest aud wholesome in her suggestions TO
Us, but would 1t not DO profitable for her to add
one or two for the benefit Of her sisters ia 3d.
ciety? For the benefit OF us young men We
may state, first, that VA must not expect to find
IN angel for wife. Poets have sung of q per-
feet soul known as woman,-but they are scarce
" found on earth: Il young man does Eight,
conducts himself properly, and has definite plan
}: action marked out be will not experience Any
,rcas troubla in finding some fair, kindhearted,
Industrious maiden who will share l{o'a tolls
snd comforts with him. A careless, thought !
ese, e1trlvegaat youEg man is not worthy OF
it for the companion Of noble, generous, and t
olous maiden. Neither Is young lady Of sucn
Proper life assocate for an ln-
refined, and pous young man. And |
both should learn, If they have not been so
ausht, that life is more thnn appearance, and !
worthy OF higher and nobler aspirations than |
hess which usually occupy the young minds OF |
he day. 80, then. let young ladies and gentle
nen better understand each other In the future, |
nd not give auy one tue chance to aeain assert |
hat ~ma1ri2ges are on the decline" Respect !
uuy, D.