, 1875-10-17

bewitched our ears WITH as veil as in the fac
tory, the dressnakers' or the aeW3ng girls
rooma. How much rarer an exotic is the
Gentleman,-such as Calvert defines it. The
mistake IL here: We rear up su ideal, almost
from boyhood, grasping Tor the phantom here
and thera. forgetting the real. which must have
faults, znd which can never approach the imagery
OF a wild dreaming. Theb, too, each one should
marry within his sphere. For the laboring msn
on $500 3 year to expect the belle With expecta~
assume control OF his kitchen, bakery, ETC.. TO
assume an entirely new habit Of ll1e, to mate
with one with whom She could not affiliate in-
tellectually, is simply absurd. And Jet they
both may have WAR warm, loving hearts which ;
their equal, forever happy. There are
lives have been cast IN different mo1ds, who
haze been used to work. who would make such
man useful wife First teach = woman to
respect you. to trust you, to have implicit faith
in your honor, then be sure that you know her
well, and lot the love follow. 4 man should be
able to Faase woman up to him. rather than
that she should have to attempt tho almost lm-
possible task of elsvating him. True. genuine
worth need never fear, as indeed it never does,
of not finding its due appreciation and ultimate
reward. Only the conscience -smitten aud un-
savory ones complain. fouNa PHYSICIAN.
METAPHYSICS OF MARRIAGE.
TO the Editor Of The Chtcuao Tribune:
CHICAGO. Oct. 1.-The very many pleasing
effusions which have appeared in your valuable
journal upon the matrimonial question have. in
the main, dealt with the sentimental phase OF it.
may be pardonod, possibly, for attempting to
view it from more realistic plane. Without
belittliug the part which the impulses must
play in all heart-unioDs, and which have been
set forth in SO many shades by your
correspondents It seems to me that consider
alton OF the other poiute-phyalcal. intellectual,
and mo1a--inyolvea in the determination to
marry should give the matrimonial question a
prominence IN reasoning minds beyond that
which aspirants for the honeyed bond are in
clined to accord to it. We're wa to marry merely
for ourselves, and the fruits OF our choice for
good or iii not reach beyond our own
cycle Of breath, We might be pardon
able in selfshness that would lead
us to crafty our own feyered impulses
but where the act Of two young creatures
infusing their natures in the warmth of genti-
mental Affection reaches ont and afects the hap
piness, the health, the intellectually, and the
morality of remote generations, matrimony cer~
tainIy assumes an importance beyond the mere
gratiacahon OF the senses.
fortunately, in this connection. Nature comes
in to assist, by certain fixed rules of hers, our
erring Judgments. ! know it is humilia:lng for
lovers who pride themselves in the belief that
the gqsh Of Their sonng loves nvacs T. the
"ond;tion hnt tSe unconditional work of
= mythical, intangible spirit OF love, to have to
learn that, 2fter all their feyered pulse and fow
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