, 1875-09-18

To-. world. :. We, II understand,
I'D ehcAAnted tairy lant,
micro pleasure Ia the magic wand.
Mates hours like MINUTES. hanl "sHis. ia hsna, s'an
DAnce by fa light.
g. IL.
NICE. SENSIBLE LETTER.
| 10 TIE Editor q The C"'caqo Tribune:
Dane Coux1Y, Wis., Bopt. 15,-WjJl von ,.+ a
,"'xeFg ~, g;r' hAvo hngor in your tscu1sory pie
ns''"s tasnScd the various printed opinions on
s"u S"ojeet of matrimony In your lssoca Of 8ept s
'e =, iee' Inrolled to saya word or two
49, H'eI !on's telovo marriage in on the de-
'N heieFo Just ~ many people marry
"'''' LAX" tho eearn through but tlero
~ n'o1o p'ni Ia III tho world than tI,ore vera a
' -o'''".i ie' nHns consequently thero NAV ba
.nos" H!1'e'e men and wps.uu drifting about thsn
4osa'a1'y' ohco IN AZ utteu tho world caueea =
0tusA''oh OF toIne sort. This Hono obl,ainu
Pa1'. sopphes W rottlns nice little firl,on
nau"s ,~.u Inc "oF'd IN Slowly cougeaIiug, and
WIN eTontually tuln into Ill tccLer,". .,rh.
human fanhly IL constantly diminishing in a,.,@
afc. aud tie earth viii iu time be poonlcd viii
Pgd'lo* Marriage is Oh the Jec}juo. .n,, tt,o
| hunan family wi! become extinct "a a cnn.a.
a"onee' al! Or theac, and each of tho,a, backod
| ~ FlaAis'leH or tde most convincing character
oat 6'lpposinE the hctlon to be fact, and ths
iae5 10 10 fault nhorn shalt ws place the
| o!ame3 believe that IL the question before
the house, ,s il not? Having arrived at yr.ra
OF discretion, mil having maae mon and woman
study ali my life. am tot Without some ideas
anu opinions upon this all-absol blng topic.
1n thu frat place, youtg ladies' OF tho present
day aFe Too foud Of flirting to look fayoraby upon
marriage 1n o'den times, women did no, pur.
sae sho ea;:;T, Of mathematics. l.atterly they
h.ye n.,te's ~ sfi-" tho result ha. boen div
-, ad'I',i,,, "Hrs, -rssssity, they all run
est'"". ''gs Il .ss seo lor% l e. "'7 %s!tni, ssstc
-hoT many I'roj,uuals she UT has hn
come tho mana Or lilo Girl Of tlo' =: ind d. .ud. M
a. a,.r eonte laencc, tho Youth Of the Period il
eabsti's; Tue glr!e alo A1l hcotinx shuw for
ihan de.ision slren their smiles of ioy, their
.earh o1 woc' delusifo ahino, deluKlyo tow-
Viii ..S", nos ono true n bo'en" aud concludes
Hh1 hcfoln llo ID nnwse. Filtration il siopI~
Z u.stase-IIko Scarlet lover or chicken -pox. il
9!11eHs - the Erow1''up g!rl anywhere from IG to
", Las its run, more u less viruteut and then
rsaseH awav. The worst tlirs very .uftan msLe.
tne oest "lio; Llko tho hgl,-atrung nlty thxt
ea4as1ea single vehicles anl uehea coptrol. vhan
'amea Tea anu mated sue drives so'enditly double.
Auen ahalh Tue young ladIea arc aarued and
if1ghtened by the multiplicity OF uptaupy viva.
and dread taking the fatal step to that bourns,
llum "1ehcs 10 ~dinan returns sAEe throur.ltIo
MIRO u the Divorce Court. They hear tha
Wretched stories OF neglected and ahusnd r,vaa
shey luok OIL tho faded and hopeless counts.
nanceg !' of "o1nen who wero ouce bright, laugh
lhG Hri5, and thoy conclude marriage il q deiusion
chest, dnars, Rnd they will keen c,csr OF h
1ut il they would do al have doue. look fur.
ther than tho surface, they would Ind thetn NINA
~lfes were fully half-otten two-tl1rde-in fault
t.! aon !nolr own unla1lpnese. There has been too
much written and SAID iu late yearp about the
p9of 10 do"n'srodden hbuscd woman OF the land.
omen lave como to belloye il. and arc nyrr
fesds to lay all the blame on masculine shoul.
se;n;;a A"1 GsHs themselves among the martyred
aclnaht4hces eoae dozen unhappy wives
kno" husbands AMI uivea ,nti.n1tejy. md have
osen 1Ae &C. eou:ldant Of tile wives in many OF tie
cnseA. They relate To ns ngg1ayations Of Tia
most trying kind, and at tho same tlue I van
ture u state Ipy belief thns, were the vifo OF
any CLIO OF ten ont Of the twelve husbanda fsup-
pos!ng OF course, that loved tho nau mar
ned AZ they are supposed toy. could he = hat-
py w4te and mako my husband Happy. Women ex-
aEGcfate lltt!o troubles; women i've too much for
& son anu .It 1on.t let thslf mlnds hAro range
enough. They give WY to their noryeu TOO
often, and dou't cultivate tact enough. Ikuov
there arc men no wotnnn cul be happy With, i
kooW tAefe arc brutes. and p'gs. mud blocks Of
WOO ansonE ne so-caled mon of tho land, with
"hon tset, atlonce. OF love arc ako powosloss
10 aneet! But such men usually show their COL
osS hoiure marriage ami 3 woman Of aerse and
Wisdom can avolt tying herself to one Of them.
II she u onco tied. al,o must either submit to
maityrdou, or scpaI ataon.~ But honessIy belioye
tlero In nut au ordinarily Intelligent reupectab1a
eoa 31nd'heatte1 nan on ontth, Who does not
VI ~ '1nas u stoal AlB oraius. but would
make !uslug, good hlsband, If lie married =
woman because he loved her, and she did her
art faithfully. Patience patiopcc: chaarfui.
nesf checrfulness, let that bo wlfe's motto.
!ohos bis scinpos, o1 makes u fool Of himself any
way. lonl! gain nothing by it. MIKE him
a'4an'ca ny your Eertect sweetness and gautle-
nesa. Dou't neglect your toilet. aud scowl. and
your husband praiBos some other woman tittls
moro than IL III guod taHto. Just keep yourself
lsooEIhE your plostleas, and by and BY ho will
u.e aaeoses snss % aomo ono At home has far
s"ooser TACO than any he secs abroad. Dou't
neg Get your accompl, ,shments because YOUR
ha7nana never Praises your singing. or your
ainting' OF your ae"ers. 1lako oxtra ondeayors
20 excel, rather. and by-aud. By le will hear the
pra1so others beHtov upon you, and viii jis-
.o9es tHat no poasesseA wife to bs proud Of.
tnd. aboye al, dout fret and scold over sII Lis
'hoIseom!nFA, or any Of tt1em. I toll you poui-
.Se!y, nothing is ever gaiuod by cross words. il
ou can't win him from hls errors by kisneA aud
orc words. and tact, sud coaxing. you caut bY
co'ape; IT you lurond to go with him TO sba
u nu .. rne 3oaF1noT' 60 IN peace; and i le il
0irls cxpoct too much OF marriage. No glrt
'ves to-day, vonturs to say, who haa seon 20
easa. anu Ahs not had llcr troubles. annoy
ri marry. knowing Of tho cares aud reapcusi-
lt'os marriage incurs; but because their liyos
re- not Alt sunshine, they will whlne over their
eonb!es. Forgetting their added pleasures. It
~ "s4'3 aao" WIZ 1o}a VI uotAos-l0To, VIC 01Ubt
ear tlo paugs Of birth, and the wotry md WoAr
i sleop!ess nights unl days Of anxiety. Va
ant 10 maidf aud wive4 too. There lies tho
rtht fan1t. G,tls want to carry tho freedom
ad ltgAtnrss Of madeslhood into their married
ives, and lecl Hr01lytd because it Koe6. What
hoor folly. Tho lsinty apr!o-t!ossom uuat
sop its fragrant pink leaf before il can beooma
mellow russell!
Girls. there IL no uocd Of yonr being unhappy
Ftyes, II you choose 10 bo happy oues. II yuu
70 true wotuan yoH Claim TO bo, with \
eart u soul, and viii, you can tnko the hand
t some one OF your Ioyoss, aud journey on win
lm 70 tue sud, ha2py IN your double burdens