The Tiffin tribune. (Tiffin, Ohio) 1868-1887, 1875-11-04
TEHILE SOCIETY.
What Oar fOung Men Eaat-Thark
eray's Advice 10 Youth.

What Oar f0ung Men Eaat-Thark-
eraJ's Advice 10 Youth.
The keen satirist of soeietyis little
sins, vanities and sillinesses-the
hearty humorist, whose mirth sets US
8 laughing in the midst of depression,
iAnd whose unaffected pathOs moves
fus to teArs when we are least i'm tue
kmelting mood, to-wit: William
Aakepeaee Thackeray-never put his
pen to better use than when he wrote
these wise words:
at Ii better for you to pass an even
Ting once or twice 3 week in a lady's
tdrawing-room, even though the con-
Fersation is rather slow, and you
know tire girls songs by heart, than
in club, tavern, or in the pit of a
Theatre. All amusements Of youth to
which women are not admitted, are
deleterious in their nature. All men
who avoid female society have dull
perceptions, and are stupid, or have
ketupid or gross tastes, and revolt
against what is pure. Your club
ewsRgerers, who are sucking the butts
OF billiard-cues al night, call female
Society Insipid. Heaaty has no
eharms for blind man music does
not please poor beast, who does not
know one tune from another and as
. true epieure is hardly ever tired OF
water-Anchovy and brOwn-bread and
butter, I protest can sit all night
talking to q well-reguIated, kindly
woman, about her girl coming out, or
her boy at Eton, and like the even
ling's entertainment. One of the great
benefits man may derive from wO-
mans society is that he is bound to be
llespectful to them. The habit Ia Of
great good to your moral man, de-
pend upon it. Our education makes
US the moet eminently selfish men IN
the world. We fight for ourselves,
we yawn for ourselves, we light our
pipes and say we won't go out, and
prefer ourselves aud our ease and the
greatest good that comes to man from
womanls society Ia, that he has to
think of somebody besides himself, to
whom he Is bound To ba constantly
attentive and respectful"
This is the soundest kind OF sense,
and spoken as the brilliant novelist
could speak when he dropped his cyn.
icism and tried to plant truth In some
which will be bettered by it. Young
men of America to-day, especially,
need Just such direct advice. They
are dangerously apt to catch the spirit
of the times, which Is to get ahead,
and keep moving and looking out for
humber one; TO rush hotly along
with everybody, and, ifthey can, over
everybody, In the terrible race for
riches. Why, what rough and rude
fellows soma of them are How they
go stamping abont with their you
can't-humble-mef faces talking stern
Iy and staring defiantly, for all the
world as IL they were dealing with
wild manlacs, who might spring upon
and tear them Of a sudden
Up in fuming billiard rooms, down
in stesming and slippery saloons, in
the theatre and club-rOoms, they
swagger and swear-always surround
ed by men-men-men. Talk to them
OF women, and they will hiceup her
in dirty ditty-of evening calls, and
they will fCrcibly denominate them
bOres-of quiet parties, aud you will
be interrogated about apron strings
and sugar candy. or course, these
gay, Ting-eyed, loud, offensive-smell-
ing chaps grow intensely selfish, All
their FOughneSs goes unpublished, and
! they fight about with their fellows,
until they are sucked in by the whirl-
pool of excess, and die beastly deaths.
Every young man should be frighten-
ed il he fluids himself able to sneer at
female society, or unable to secure
comfortable evening without mascu-
line ASSOCIATES, or ahashed by girls
gaze, snd struck speeehless by the
sound of her voice,
Well, the winter Is coming along,
with its seductive enoOuragements to
sin and folly, its thousand bright
temptations, and its promises Of man
/ ly sport in dazzling dens OF all kinds.
All how many good resolutions of
young men fall and fade in the light
of the long winter evenings-the light
which streams from the yawning
play-houses, and gambling hells, and
Inirrored parlOrs in back streets, all
ablaze with the metricious glare and
glitter OF harlotry. And so we earn
estly entreat the boys to take Mr..
ThaoKerayis advice to heart seriously.
Look about for nice, gentle, sensible
girl. Don't 90 to the lustrOus BALI
| EOOuR auu pun OuI hCA va lnC
foot, and thinnest waist, and gayest
laugh, although she will do you twice
as little harm IN an evening as your
strOng-lunged companions. Have a
sweetheart by all means, and learn to
love to be with her. and away from
the low haunts ofdissapatiOn. If you
are blest with sisters, don't always
have to meet somebody down town
when they ask you to take them out
of an evening, or plead special en-
gagements when they are to have q
! little company at home. Get neat,
| true picture OF the face you like very
much, aud carry it about with you.
Look at 1t now.and-then, whenever
you feel yourself getting gruff, and
want to be sharp and ugly-spoken, or
inclined to drop into a gin palace to
drown ennui. Accept every invita-
ton you receive to spend an hour or
two in ladies' society, forgetful OF your
billiards and brandy-and-soda, and
parquet seats. You will very soOn be
astonished at your docility and gentle
mapners-yoq, who were q while ago
as coarse and loefish as your friend
Tom or Dick.
Don't believe the stuff they will tell
you about all women being reckless
and ruthless firts; sad fishers of
compliments manikins OF dress
makers, all shallOwness and insipid-
ity. The girls Of the present date,
notwithstanding their tied-back dress
es, and eoquetries, extravSgan t no.
tious, and inaptitude for the solemni-
ties OF living, are infinitely better
companions for you than the contem-
porsry boys. with their incessant ci-
gars and cocktails, profanity, late
sprees, general fierceness and con-
tempt for all that is puritanicsi,
seriptural, good and pure. Take Mr.,
ThackeFay's advice, we repeat. Go to
see the girls. 1t can't do you any
harm, and may do wonders towards
making you healthy, happy, long
IIIy cd and useful man.