St. Johnsbury Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1867-1919, 1875-05-07
A Talk with Young Wives.
Bl Mrs. VI. l.. HANDY.

1t is with marriages that most
women begin the real work OF lite. TAX
ing up burden which may never hc
rciuTui>hrd until We render il back t"
the Master. Yet. the troubles ot mar
RED people are perhaps easier I" endure
than those which come To single men
aud women. For. after all. can two
people vino really and truly love each
other. who find each their greatest
happin,.>> in the effort To make the 9th
cr happy, hr altogether miserable S'.
long H. they have each other
Lite j. tor ali nt us. in great degree.
" HAT We ourselves make II. and c~pe-
ciaill i this tr,Ic in Wcddcd life. Every
w"maI> happiness. If her husband hc
NOT Il brute. i. under God. i'll her OWE
hands. and the keepers Of II are love
Lid patience. Few men are 81 churli>E
H. To he mkiu 10 wives whose chief
end in life j. to ne hrlpsmret fnr them
We have all heard the story OF the
old compile " ho a~crihcd their welded
bliss to the fact that they kept tw"
hr.I> in the hou>e-bcd,' and ,t0,'bcdF.
Two PARTIES are needed to Il quarrel.
and. if. when sharp word is spoken.
the angry response /, withheld. :hc
strife dI"th ont. l. ii 80 hand 10 hold
ones tongue What good does a bit
ter rcluri dc! The bond hctWeem hus-
band anl life Is tor Il lifetime will ii
p0y Ia dispute With one another
The wife is not called upon to re
linpui>h all her rights. but the way to
secure these rights is not to contend tor
them. Let them he taken quietly
-, ,,.lil.. .h.. I'm
comfort i cared tor as well. guarding
the claims of the one from clashimg
with those of the other. and the wife
will usually receive all to which she is
entitled. if not more.
Every woman should bring to her
work as wife and mother the same en-
ergy OF purpose. the same concentration
of talent. which she expects her huS-
band to devote to his profession in life.
Husband and housemother
language holds no words which express
the relation 81 well as the old Saxon
vernacular.
No woman can discharge her duty to
her household properly unless her huS-
band takes her into his confidence i'll
respect to money matters. She If Often
to blame that he does not. Why wW Il
woman always run to John with every
thing in her department us well us his
1t is right and necessary that husband
and wife should take counsel together
often and fully. but how can a man be
expected to know what material Is best
for Johnny'S suit and she is Il poor
housekeeper who cannot plan Il me;l
without assistance. And when, the
H. ,,l.,l,nnI nd .nnl.aI
own particular John comes home to en-
ioy it. let him do 50 in peace. Do not
begin at once with the recital OF all the
worries and misadventures of the day
If the matter lie aught short of sicknes,
or death it will keep; and when his
Gutter man has received the refresh
ment il needs, he will have fuller storie'
of sympathy to bcStow upon you.
Keep man comfortable aud feed
| him well. said IL wise old lady to the
writer, land You keep him in Il good
humnr.r which is not complimentary tr
| the lords of creation. but is none the
! less true.
Happy is the woman whose husband
is truly her better half who when ht
comes always brings the sunshine Will
| him whom wife. baby, dog, and cat
all hurry to greet. Such Il man is wortf
working for, But what man can al
ways bring sunshine if he he sure ot
encOHnteriug clouds AT home ? Small
poX is less infectious than i'll humur
| Fight against crossueSs us against al
evil spirit. 1t is the little foxes" which
destroy the fruitful vines. There are
women who to-day wonld unhesitating-
ly sacrifice life itself for husband and
children yet who in spite of this af-
fection mar the happiness of these deal
ones by continual fretfulness and fault