The daily gazette., 1875-07-01
For Girls who Expect to Marry.

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in women as much as any other gift
The robust, masculine half is so con
stituted that it soon gets tired of the
pettish complaints (even though wei
s0unded) of the weaker feminine half
Sentimental, delicate Miss Araminta
languidly rising from lounge to meet
her devoted lover, may look marvel
ously poetical in her white robe and
ribbons, and, by weakness alone, forge
another link in the mighty chain OF
love which binds his heart to hers. But
year later, when the married man
sees at his breakfast table a sallowed.
faced ,untidy being in loose wrapper,
who has laid awake all night with
conc Of those dreadful sick headaches. d"
he fails to see the poetry of Mrs.
Araminta's appearance. so let all girls
partake of every active exercise not
absolutely unfeminine, and trust to
their. being able to get Into or our of
a carriage with light and fraceful
step, which no drilling can accomp-
lish, Let them rise early and retire
early to rest, and trust, that their
beauty will not need 10 be coined into
artificial smiles in order to secure q
welcome, whatever room they enter.
Let them ride, walk, run, dance in the
open air. Encourage the merry and
innocent diversions in which the young
delight; let them, under proper gui :
dance, explore every hill and valley ;let
them plant and cultivate the garden,
and make hay when the Summer sun
shines, and surmount all dread of
shower of rain or the boisterous wind; !;
and above all, let them take no medi-
cine except when the doctor orders it.
The demons of hysteria and melancho-
ly, so terrible to combat in married
life, might hover over group of young
ladies so brought UP; but they would
not find one of them upon whom they
could exercise any power.
People in this world must make their
own sunshine. Discouragements too
often overtakes those whose lives pass
Ia petty details of commonplace exis-
tence, The mother, whose narrow
round of duty confines her to the range
of two or three rooms; the private tea.
cher, whose life passes in the monoto.
ny of the school rooms; the mechanic,
whose days are filled with activity that
never varies-these typical individuals
find 1t hard to keep buoyant, hopeful,
fresh and resolute. But this is Just
what they must do, or dwindle into
ciphers. OF all things, when the mood
of dlsceuragement overtakes one, he
should think of anything and every.
thing else than his own troubles and,
more than this, should take measures
at once to follow new currents of
thought and feeling. Sometimes the
mood is purely the result of bodily
conditions, and requires for its cure
sleep, or exercise in the open air, or |
change of diet, or simple waiting till |
it passes away of itself. When it |
ssrings from causes not connected |
with the body, the the cure must be |
spiritual or intellectual. An intense
ly Interesting novel, visitation smong |
the poor, constant intercourse with |
fresh minds, change of scene, travel,
the study of piece of science new to |
patient, anything that will absorb the
brain and keep 1t from consuming it.
self is goob medicine. The world is
full Of sunshine and beauty. "It is
right, meet and our bounded duty, that
we should open our hearts to all the |
soothing, healing, ,invigorating infiuen-
ces of the sky that bends over us in
unchanging love, the ton thousand in
Vulnerable insects, the ten thousand |
voices with which Nature speaks TO
him whose ears are opened to receive |
her gentle teachings.
Yes-people in thisworld must make |
no means as difficult as has been sup
posed. There are many things we may |
make for ourselves If we try. Much |
of women's attractiveness may be of |
her own making. Personal attractions
most girls possess, at any rate in a suf- |
ficient degree to render them attractive
to somebody; for, although there are
standards and models of beauty, yet
these do not prevail with all persons.
There is something wonderful in the
difference of aspect which the same
face wears to different beholders,-
Probably the philosophical explanation
of this is, that what is hidden to all
others, becomes Immediately and in |
stinctively apparent to the eye OF love. |
How can moderately good looking /
girl increase her attlactionsP By cul- |
ture. She must cultivate her mind. |
An ignorant and illiterate woman,
even if she attracts the attention, |
cannot retain the interest of an intelli-
gent man. She must do this by study, |
by reading, by reflection, and by ia
miliar conversation with the most
highly educated persons with whom
she comes in contact. But the heart
mus. be cultivated as we'll as the head.
"Of all things" exclaimed most ele.
giant andrefined gentleman, after near.
" lfetimes ia miliarity with the |
best of society, "of all things, give
me softnessand gentlenessin woman"
A harsh voice, a course laugh trihes
like these have suddenly spoilt manya
favorite first impression.
The cultivation of the heart must |
be real, and not feigned. A woman
who studies to appear, rather than to
be:gooi and generous, seldom succeeds
in deceiving the opposite sex in these
respects. She who in truth seeks ear
nestly to promote tie happiness of
those around her, is very apt to soon
obtain admire amOnp man No wo. |