River Falls journal. [volume] (River Falls, Pierce County, Wis.) 1872-2019, 1875-01-22

ing no break, and needing no phrasing,
is better than life passed in a perpetual
turmoil of pass.on, where there are
scenes and tears, and doubts and bro.
ken hearts, if there is not endless court
ship and fatiguing demonstration. Now,
this quiet trust is just the lesson women
have 20 learn, and in learning which
they make OF mar the happiness of
life. 1t has to come TO all, save in
those very few exceptional cases where
the man is as much woman as his
wife, and enjoys the parade Of emotion.
Fight against 1t as they will, the day
has to dawn when the husband, pre-
occupied with certain grave affairs in
the office, forgets the little caress,
passes by the love.bird name, ignores
the small attention usually given or re-
ceiyed--is in fact the man Of business
preoccupied and bothered, not the
loyer.like husband living only in the
smiles of his darling. This day is the
woman S touchstone OF trust and common
sense. lfshe bears her disappointment
TRANQUILITY, she is safe; if she weeps, sulks,
demonstrates, obtrudes her caresses,
though she makes GOOD her position for
the moment, she has lost ground for
the future. She is no longer the pla-
cid, restiul wife, whose presence soothes
without a word, and whose love re
joices in its silent trust; she is the ex.
igcante mistress whose fancies have to
be attended to, no matter at what cost
OF mental suffering, and who cannot
forego her usual offering of attention
and alteration even for the sake of the
man she says she loves. He on his
part thinks that if she really loved him
she would take him as she is--she
would not find il so difficult to efIace
herself in his hour of trial-and, rather
than add to his burden by her demands
she would help him TO bear that
with which he is already weighted by
her unselfishness and sympathy. Ca
resses and attentions, and all the pretty
follies of love, are for the idle hours
and the cloudleSs sunshine; but the ST.
lent sweetness Of married friendship is
that for which men look in dark days,
and the treasure ON which they rest.
Why cannot women learn reliance |!
they think.
Love-making is only an episode in
the lives of men, if love is as much to
men as to women, and friendship per-
haps more. Women, on the contrary,
would gladly prolong that love-making
to the end Ct their days, and keep the
husband the wooer to the last. Mar
ried to an undemonstrative temper, how
ever warm and true heart, they hold
themselves aggrieved because they are
only loved and not courted. only trusted
and not flattered. They look back
with fearful regret to the time when it
was their privilege TO grant and he was
content to sue, and they do not see
why there should be so much difference
between insecurity and certainty, the
fervor Of beseeching and the ealmness
of content. If they are sillier than
general, they try to spur him into the
old fond demonstration by jealousy
to show him that if he despises, others
honor, and that even marriage may
have its broken fences and its danger.
GUS issues. Sometimes the Tuse sue.
ceeds, but at cost far outweighing the
gain; sometimes it fails, may be from
the mans simple trust and loyal faith
when it has been before now that the
foolish moth has drawn nearer and
nearer to the candle, and has at last
burnt her wings forever, running her
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excitement of being made love to, and
could not accept the quietudc of mar
riage in lieu Of the romance Of court.
ship.
With all this it must, however, be
granted that the passage from court
ship to matrimony, from love-making to
quiet h@ving, is time OF trial TO most
women, and one wherein they need
more selC.command and common sense
than at almost any other moment of
their lives There is no use in deny
ing the facl Of this trial, or in ignoring
the need Of special powers to meet it
but neither can we make light Of the
absolute need for those special powers
and the shipwrech that will cnsue il
they are not to be depended on. 1t
must be remembered, too, that love-
making, however delightful to those
Immediately concerned, is apt to be ex-
ceedingly silly, even to those love.birds
themselves, when they have cooled on
their romance as things which are de.
lightful in the spring become
nauseous in the summer and
revolving in the autumn.
Men feel this: women do not. Many a
gray-haircd sexagenarian wife would be
conscious Of ridicule attaching to her il
her white-headed, furrow-faced, scptua
genarian husband called her Popsy
across the table, or answered obediently
to his own name Of Tommykins. She
would probably feel proud rather than
ashamed, and would hold their JOINT
folly as proof Of their power Of retain
ing homage, and the evidence Of heI
juvenality in spite Of her white hair
But the man who would call her PopsN
and answer to Tommykins would not
be Of the kind one would leave guardian
to ones children, or make the trustee
Of ones fortune, or from whom ont
would look for any course Of action de
handing manly sense or masculine dig
nifty. The time for Popsy and Tommy
lSns went by when the babies began L
come and the cares Of life to thicken
The unripc follies Of love should hay,
dropped o. hen 10 make room for Oh,
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