, 1875-02-07

STRAIN upou rutse, time, and brains,
until these lnsatinuo demands Of society lead
them into dshoNesties, which are hushed up II
they have family or friends OF influence
and wealth sufficient to remove the opprobrium
from such mssdceds; il not, they are
ignored and forgotten, and their future is = sad
uncertainty. There aco many excluded from &C.
cial intsrcouso not from their inability to enjoy,
even adorn, society, but because their
CONSCIENCE. GOOD SENSE, OF LIMITED IEANs
will not ALLOW them to give thelr best energies OF
1niud aud every purpose Of lilo to the one sub
ject Of dress and show; after sondiug fey re-
grets they are dropped out Of sight and forgot-
tcn. Should one venture to appear IN last
years dress, however lich and tasteful, its want
Of compliance with the present mods would
stamp ito wcarer Us quito uufs for r,ingling in
tho first circles, and. indeed, it tho wearer be
woman OF true republican simplicity OF manner
and real elevation OF mind aud character, ehe
will find little in these crowded fashionable as
sembles III common with her ideas and tastes.
Consequently, though she may bo cminent|y &C.
cial, capable OF thoroughly enjoying and appre-
ciating healtlfu rational commngling for
pleasure aud prods, ehe is left to tho retirement
of her own home, or tho few congenial friends
chance may thro" in her way.
Let a young lady be over so we'll read, let her
be over 10 sensible and domestic, if she is not
pretty aud stylish, as Miss Woolson 6ays, !" slo
might rs we'll go aud hang herself" Sire certainly
must not expect to vie with those plotty moth
ings who alorn bathrooms, and in whom m OBJ
server would hardly perceive any evidence OF
their possessing reason Or souls. having no high
or object in life than flirting and wattzlng. II
young lady wishes to establish herself in LIE by
BEcUR1Sd HUSBAND
she needs nothing substantial IN character or &C.
auiremcnts the more hippant, helpless, and
purposeless her life, the moro numerous and de-
voted her admirers. 1t ia no woude- mothers,
who consider the marrying OF their daughters
into families Of social position and means the
greatest good that can be secured them, out
weighing every holier sentiment, should feel
that it was useless for them to be anxious. or de-
vote any of their time, which tho gay round Of
fashionable life nbsotbs to the moral mental
training OF their daughters, since the most SD
pcricial requirements, with d certain amount
clothes, nre far better introduc-
zion into fashionable society and faror
of Young or manageable men than any intel
loctual attain11clts, "since ln.ellccs goes Tor
nothing ard externa's for everything which
the following facts illustrate: certain young
ladv, whose fathers means warranted expense
and elegance in her toilet, who was very intel
lieent moderately protty and attractive. appear
ed one evening at q large fashionable party IN
very plain, simple dress Of tho previous season,
Sle VIVA permitted to remain D "wall-loFTcr
tho entire evening. Again. in company wheEo
many Of tho same ac1uaintancos we're met. sho
was uBl,ered iu arraycd in cost1y and elegxnt
impo,tcd drcas, jewelcd and f.iZzed "a In
1node,'' and was the bile OF tao evening Why
will ,aeu Keep nj, sl1cit q
CONTINUAL 71RApE
upon voman's extravaganza aud folly In dress,
when tito vhclu tsujcncr Ut tLsir lives has boon
announcement and approval Of the most lavish
proti,gal,ty? Conformity to the restrictions and
rcl,irc .tlcn:s of fashionable lifo must an .Wer
for lnucn of the present di5santcness. Young
nca ra,:at haya aocie.y and o1citomont OF
soa,o kind aud il daaarrol from thar
which is pura aad elcyating, will sock
it CT lower, r1ore d2paslng Kind
They CONS to orr Western cities ofton from
Eastern homes of culture and refinement, Vhere
they have been surrounded pS tho restraining,
hcaikAtul influences of ei.ter3 and intelligent
lady acluaintances, hare had tbs advantages OF
tho best schools and colleges III the land and
With minds veil t12ined AMI stores OF general
information, are often tho tqual If not eupe,icra
Of their employers in intellect: yet es money,
not 1uosit IS tho nr.stccracy Of American 3d.
ciaty, they seldom Gro admitted to their homes.
and are recognized only IN their paslaess ro'a-
,ions bY the,r employers. Do tao wealthy
bankers, merchants, manufacturers. aod ieall0E
business men here, .who h.yo perhaps risen
from obscurity into position and opaleuce. rec
ocn,ze in ! Christian se1.se their obligations to
these yout e men away from homo and homo ill.,
dac,tce 1..ra tney not left to dit away in!o
whatever eociaty or influences circumstances
may csrry them, to fad such companions ns
chance may give than until they fail into IT.
regular habits, form acquantancas and
fraaucrt places thas thoy. woail Blush to
havo known. not because they ara essentially
low in their tas.es, being ottoa quite tho re-
verse, bu; if no restraining lntnence from With
out holds tham back these beEInnsnHo ctten end
in o1en disgrace, loss OF situation, aud final
rum. If, through friends Of social poaltion, taoy
aro Admitted within ...
THE CHARMED CIRCLE OF FASHIONABLE LITE,
the picture il not mach Brighter, Tor tue salaries
OF bank-c:erks, bookkeepara, and the Like scldon
demands, and either they must sacrifice self re-
snect and honor in their struggle to keep raca
with their requirements, or perhaps escape ex-
trayasances they cannot meet by fa!lluS luto Ems
they should n2t know Young mon TOO often
feel there noed be restraints upon their wees
in order to retain their foothold With tho lovely
butterflies OF society; thar it matters not how
great lbcrtino ho becomes, SO he does not
drink excessively, or has tamlly, station, or IN
nucntial friends to iudorEe him. II lie has rhese
he is cauatepanced, sIauec upon, eagerly acu5ns
after. Even
MOTHERS HAVE BESTOWED
their perhaps vain, pleasurc-loslus but innocent
daughters upon men OF known ltnmoi al1ty
in their wicked ambition fer place and
nocer. Oh, mothers! mothers! how terrible
the guilt that lies at your door. who have sacri-
iced truth. honor, purity, ct this SHRINE Of an
bitiou, and have couutcn2nced, encouraged. o5
this very sacrifice, our young men IN those vlccs
which rob them Of their dignity OF manhood aia
thing it is. Is there no need of reform IN on
social lite when tho most prohlgatc can we'd tie
fares. and purest, calling the contract eron
What q bligntlng effect haso ali these prepara.
tioaa, and outlaJs, end ceremonies, upoa the en-.
ioy1nent they profess to subserye, and upon the
lives and hearts of those who lire bat for them
What time, etreng.h, and talent is given to
these elaborate dressings aud expensive decora'
tio,,s.
What is tho ostenslble object OF social enter
taiuncnts? Is it. not an interchange Of svinpa'
thy aud thought. some converse thas shall mol
bo nere meaning glcss words, but full of interest
and worthy sentiment, lighting up eyes and face
until they shall speak honest, sincere, earnshi
utterances of felIow-feeling, converse that shall
draw rs nearer to one another in q bond OF sym
nathy md affection !? Aud is that what we fee
after ono Of these grand brushes aud splond'd
shows? where Jealousy, onvy, ambition, anc
seeking for admiration arc plainly written a.
over dress, conduct, and management aud whert
the real object mas 0eon to keep up one sconnec
tions. pueh profession, e1:end business, socult
votes. obtain Office, or put in the narAet onet
merriageabls daughters and young lady friends
showing up and showing OF all their fine point:
for the highest bidder. Bacon says, 4 croWt
is not company, and fnces are but gallery O.
pictures, and talk but a tinkline cymbal WHERE
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