The Jackson standard. [volume] (Jackson C.H., Ohio) 1847-1888, 1875-01-28

As in the building of a house, brick and
stone are held together by mortar; so
the members of all happy households are
Joined together by love. But notwith-
standing the great merits of love, still
reason must be conjoined with it in -ju-
venile culture. "Reason is to love what
pair of spectacles is to near-sighted
man" Occasionally love is blind and
needs the eyes of reason. A good mother
possessing true maternal affection often
errs by permitting love to rule her bet
ter judgment. How many a mother has
ruined her wayward boy by first forbid
ding, thon arguing, then consenting
then apologizing for an act, rather long
series of acts that her son well knows his
mothers judgment and conscience utterly
condemn. Boys have truer appreciation
and penetration of character than pa
rents are wont to believe. The fresh in
stincts of childhood lead them to form
Juster conceptions of what is right or
wrong than grown people. Then, 1 en-
treat you, beware how you practice de-
ception with your children who are the
most successful detectives. By such
treatment your son becomes addicted to
falsehood, the bane of manhood When
you make promises, be careful to fulfill
them. If you forget the candy today, be
sure and not forget it next time. If you
do, your "forgets" will appear willful,
and your child's confidence will be di-
minished. Make certain your promises
and firm your commands. Whenever
you have shown the propriety of any
particular action that you have requested
or required; do not by any means. in
single case yield your claims to parleying,
teasing, coaxing or crying. 1 have now
in my mind a case in which little cor
poral spanking would perhaps have been
iustifable. Charlie was about two years
old, promising and l might add beau
tiful son; for every frstborn is hand
some. Along in the night sometime, he
awoke, and having seen some acorns on
the previous day, he concluded he must
have the fruit of the oak that night The
promised the nuts in the morning but to
no purpose. Whenever parent enters
the field of argument, the victory is inev-
itably the child's. Charlie knew how to
bring the acorns; so he began to cry.
Papa yielded to the crying. He arose,
dressed himself, went to the woods, and
scratched among the leaves until he Sc
cured the acorns for his loving SON. 1t is
enough to say that Charlie always had
what he wanted ever afterward
think it right to please and make
children cheerful and happy, but it is not
prudent to yield under such circum-
stances as above related
In conclusion, I wish to point out a
much neglected parental duty of vital
Importance. 1 will suppose the parents
to be very fine people. They have son
who has always been an obedient and
exemplary boy, respected by all. But
when he has reached his teens" say
sixteen, to the surprise and grief of his
good parents, they notice a marked
change in their noble boy. He is not
like he used to be. He appears despond-
ent, and is inclined to be disobedient and
stubborn. He seeks company that he
had hitherto Stunned. In short he is
going to ruin. What is the cause of this
woeful change? My friend, your boy S
manhood is dying for want of little
honest praise. Your son never heard
from his father, the cheering words
"Well done my SON." Why? because
you are afraid he might become vain.
But suffer me to say, that for every boy
who receives an excess of praise from his
father, there are at least ten who are
oftentimes thoughtlessly, but not the less
that is due them. Now do not under
stand me to speak of the silly nonsense
of hattery Honest encouragement is
one thing and base fattery is quite an
other. Give your children and wife sensi
BILE, honest, hearty commendation, when
they deserve it, and thus will you Tighten
their loads, brighten their hearts, anG
give them new hopes and zeals. Father
your boy wili act up to the estimate pu
upon him, at least he will try. 1t is wei
to point out with kindness his faults, bu
it is better to utter ''weIl DONE" now
and then. Parents, with all your knowl
edge of rearing your progeny, with al
your strivings for their welfare. expec
disappointment, and look for pain; fol
your children are of an evil stock.