The New Orleans bulletin. [volume] (New Orleans [La.]) 1874-1876, 1875-08-29
HUMAN GROUPINGS.

ga well-known fact that some people may bt
mentally, morally, almost physically e1tin
guished by the mere presence OF some others
The same principle works much subtler enects
How many people we only know as belonging te
their family. as one of "set" as in some way
connected with O. her people, taking their hue
and look from them Try to imagine how differ
entity persons would be seen by us if it were pos
sibie to suspend this inter-grouplng OF them.
Some would not be recognizable. We know
scarcely ANYBODY quite alone; we are all grouped
more or less. Many individuals positively owe
every bit of interest and Importance they possess
to this fact. If they were not coupled with some
body else nobody would be aware OF them; they
might just wei. not be.
In some of the grosser instances you may de-
tect the thing You find yourself habltually
speaking OF person, not directly but indirectly;
he always recurs to you as the brother OF so-and-
80; or you hear HIM always alluded to as Jones 8
friend, as il any other mans sty and name was
the only title he had any claim to. large num-
Der of people go about in the world whom others
can only recall and identify in this vlcarlous way.
They are dealt with always as the sons OF their
fathers, the brothers of their sisters, as cousins
of cousins, or as the companions OF better-known
people. Never are they thought ABOUT or spoken
Of on their own account. 49,
In the case of business firm, one partner Will
often b. the merest reflection or shadow OF an
other, with not a whit more slSrlhcance TO any
body than il he were named outright Co, and
i
this holds goods OF married pairs. The only way
in which hundreds of men can ever hope TO be
spoken to is as Mrs. So-and Sos husband. Hear
ers would scarcely comprehend who was meant
il the lady was not started first IN their Ideas,
bringing in the gentleman in his right place, be-
hind her Some cases there are, on the other
hand where woman has no place IN talk and
excepting as Mr.. So-and-So's WIFE.
So it is all through the circle OF the family
relationships. Not few young ladies' have
I II aIac, in, np
mems eyes for having brothers who were
jovial fellows, envied companions. Some young
mems only passport in so,lety Is that
they have fascinating sisters. More than
one handsome lady-llke mother has married on
family of rather insipid daughters, simply be-
cause her own shadow fell on them IN an Elusive
way. The young men who were the
must have found 1t difficult to be-
lieve their own senses at the changed aspects of
their idols seen Oh hearths OF their own
1t was no mystery II they only had UNDERSTOOD
it, grouping did it..
The wooers bad had their minds filed with
the satisfactory presence of the capable prosper
GUS mother al the time they believed they were
thinking only of the daughters. In the same
way sons can never be quite clearly made out the
noodles and loungers they really are 80 long as
people see them at short intervals by the side OF
their shrewd honest, Industrious, successful
fathers. The same influence operates IN otner
instances where it is even less suspected, 1t
1eightens and emoelishes vile it does not alto
yether delude To see young, pretty and ellel-
de woman Just little concealing herself behind
sister, only year or two older, who is happily
married, moving in pleased content amidst
he elegant comforts OF her own still fresh
lnworn home, the eligible ones brother-in-law
lpon the hearth, properly looking proud of his
domestic felicity, is grou ling which makes the
-oung lady almost irresistible to an unengaged
male beholder 1t is picture within picture
t is bud sho wing behind an open flower, 81
emily asking the sunshine OF look, smile.
word from you to burst into the same maturity.
f baby should have come under the happy
oof, and the unwedded sister, modestly, inno-
emily confusedly takes the little marvel into her
rms but for moment, the last art OF grouping
las been attained. The young man who can re-
list one sister as seen in the glowing reflections
f another who is happily married Is more than
uman.
The principle unluckily works in a reverse way. |
Numbers of persons suffer greatly from being
nhappiy grouped with others in this way. How
he association is made in the minds OF observ. |
rs is not always to be understood In some in |
tances sing moments exposure does 1t, like |
photograph. Persons are seen together on |
ne occasion, and for ever af,er are remembered |
ointly-are always spoken OF in breath. On |
or life. time and the public are not aware OF it, |
hey must often be visible together, but nobody |
ees them both at once AS rule, however, If
mans friend goes wrong, 1t will take the man
msel months or years to dlsengage himself
rom the coupled Renaissance.
The shadow of their family falls on not few |
nost unju.tly. Children suffer for parents,
arents for children; they may all be injured
ogether; one can not be thought OF without the
theirs obtruding. random young fellow,
lightly girl, broken-down father, sometimes
attract the public regards till they
ONE, in most unfair way, to give the general
ommon aspect to the household, although they
lay be the very least of all entitled to be its rep
esentatives. Where there is distinct family
keness to help the grouping, the injustice done
often cruel. If one sister goes about untidy
lany, no matter how neatly they may keep
may seem, as they appear in turn,
!, be more or less fresh from hastily -rectiied
evelment.-London Graphic.