The Democratic advocate. [volume] (Westminster, Md.) 1865-1972, 1874-02-07
Our Olio.
UNDER BONDS.

II is the custom of society to exact
''bonds" from those whom il entrusts with
public Office or with general or particular
confidence. Everybody is required in
some form or other to "give security" and
all do this, whether they arc aware of it
or not. All we mean, who are successful
in life give some guarantee that they may
be trusted. Perhaps this is fact not
very complimentary to human integrity,
but il shows human wisdom. The best
security description of ''bail' not legal.
ly recognized, but all the more sure for
that, is furnished by marriage. A mar
ried man is usually regarded as more to
be depended upon than bachelor. The
bachelor may drift where fancy or impulse
prompts. The married man, if not abso-
lutely anchored, is always under Sailing
directions" He has responsibilities which
he cannot throw overheard He has the
comfort and happiness of others in his
keeping; and in everything he undertakes
is required to answer to those whose inter-
est he has identified with his own. To
return to the first metaphor, his wife is his
security. Circumstances fayoring, or per-
mitting, n mans family is the best war
rant he can offer for the due performance
of his obligations to others. Here, by the
way, it may be noticed, that no disrespe It
is intended to bachelors We are speak
ing Of general rules and opinions and
while we would by no means insinuate a
word against the unmarried fraternity, or
intimate that man has not perfect
right to remain single, if he has not the
heart to do otherwise-(hedn standing
either for courage or for Affection it
must be conceded that bachelors have the
hardest time of it. They do not give that
kind of security for their good behavior
which the great married portion of the
world demands. And since they stand
purely on their single merits, they must
work the harder to establish their indiyid-
ual responsibility. Their promises to So
ciety are like what is known in business
US tone name notes.
But your married man has always an
endoser. He is under bail and under
bonds. You know where to find him.
Given the choice between two men, one
married and the other not, all other things
being equal, and the married man usually
has the preference. No greater compli.
ment could be paid to the female sex than
this, and II has, moreover, what all COM
pliments have not, the basis Of truth to
rest upon. In these remarks the writer is
4 perfectly aware that in some respects he
Is stating rather what should be than what
really is. For the advance of luxurious
habits and snowy living has put difficulties
In the way of many who would otherwise
be glad to fulfil their destiny and "find
their fate" in wives or husbands. II is
said, despairingly, that at the present rate
of living young men cannot afford to be
married. Then the way of living must be
wrong. For to get married is one of the
most natural things in the world. To
live extravagantly, inventing suggestions
wants, is unnatural.
The wise men in Congress are saying a
great deal just now of economy and re-
trenchment. The same themes have been
fashionable topics everywhere since that
unfortunate crash of last autumn. Wheth-
or anything will come out of the Congress-
ional talk is doubtful but that every
individual citizen in his own business may
consult prudence is certain. Is IL not a
good time, when the talk of economy is
fashionable, to consider the subject in
committees Of t,oof In these committees
the party Of the one part--he--might abate
his bachelor notions of extraysgance upon
himself; the party of the other part--she
should lessen her estimates Of the cx-
pense of housekeeping The most natural
relation in the world, that Of welded life,
has been sophisticated and made unnat-
ural. Time was that John Anderson and
his mate "clamb the hills together" and
had many "canty time Nov, in many
cases, John must climb alone, aud get at
the very top before she will listen to him.
Is it mot good time to go back to FIRST
principles, and let the "help-meet" take
hold while there is occasion for her help
Of course many people who have minds
and purposes of their own, aud are not
quite submissive TO the conventional follies
Of the hour, do take this wise course
And they are the successful people in the
world, husband and wife working their way
on together, and enjoying every acquisi-
tion all the more that il is the result Of
their joint economy and diligence.
Injudicious, ill-assorted and hasty mar.