The Orangeburg news. [volume] (Orangeburg, S.C.) 1867-1875, 1874-05-23
[From the Cincinnati Weekly Times.
Marriages and Homes.
By NELLY MARSHALL M'ArEE

Livery woman cntcrtains her own
positive, peculiar, and distinct idea.
upon these two subjects, Marriages and
Homes.
Niue, if candidly expressed in these
modern times, may seem bizarre aud
oufre, but they can. at least, claim the
distraction Of being tie moral aud social
convictions of an Intelligent human
being.
10 give full oppose OF my opinions
will probably find myself assuming, in
my essay, the form of a minister's ser
mon-with secondly" and "thiruly,
and, for aught know, n ''itthly" an !
"sixthly," before the "lastly' comes, /,
for the subjects arc two whose bare
contemplation awakcns my thoagh., aud
fires my heart with a divine glow.
Somewhcrc-a long while ago-I
read 4 paragraph not longer than my
little fnger, but it was so full of con
dcnscd soul and sense that committed
it to memory. 1t ran thus:
"Six things are requisite to create a
sharpy home, Intcsri,y must be the
architect, and tidiness the upholstcrcr
1t must be warmed by affection, aud
I.uhfnI I'll, n,r,
dustry must he the vcn,ila or, renewing
the atmosphere, aud bringing in fresh
salubrity day by day; glory aud a
canopy, nothing will suffice except the
glory Of Cod"
This paragraph awakened me to
sincere study of social aud marital re
lations as they tlo and as they Should,
exist; aud my study has enabled me to
crystalline into an c.s,y the convictions
born Of that profound contemplation.
OF course, I conine myself within
the strict jurisdiction of the feminine
sphere; aud do this consciously an
ndviscdly, because know what onyht
to he required OF men AS consc
Iuence | address my own sex, collective
ly aud individually.
Young ladies cngroSscd with the ilca
OF biidal wells, aud orange blossoms, anl
handsome f,nusScuU.r, seldom if ever
give thought, unless vaguely. to the
hal pincss ard cnntcn,ment th.t is to
colne-or is not to comc-as Il lite long
crown of glory, after the marriage cere
mony .and honeymoon are over and
gone.
Sometimes they choose lazy men !;
sometimes they fall in love with n
moustaohe, or "a fast young man who
dances gracefully and rides horseback
well, whose pantaloons are fashionably
cut, whose boots are always well polish
ed, whose hair is pomaded and artificial
ly, curled and who perfumes himself
with Lows and Buzin's, aud Lubin' S
extracts, .ns Rimmel perfumes his gilt
edged paper and embossed envelopes -
to distraction who loafs around and is
afraid to work, for fear Of spelling his
hands or his clothes; who is always
"going out to see man. who dislik es
water as much as a dog does when
afflicted with hydrophobia and who
has abolished the Seventh Command
ment ninety mine and one times; en-
bret, a good ior nothing dandy, who,
once we'd, is likely to make his wife un
happy as long as she lives.
Others "iall in love" with street.
concentrating gentry, or such ilk as
hang around church doors on Sunday
'to see the girls come out"
If girls of eighteen had only cxpcr
iencc and judgment that generally
comes to them by the time they arc
twenty five, these louusen would dis
appear ilom the iirco Of the earth like
frogs when the first snow falls. But
alas! they have not, aud consequently
the severe and bitter recipe will never
be given them MS II curative test.
Modern dcmoiseNes do not know how
to make such parlor knights "stand in
the cold" nor how to give them "tbe
mittcn." And go they marry lazy
fiippant, ood.for- nothing young mon
und settle themselves down, sooner OF
later, to lives of sorrow, dis appointment
AMI 'chasrin, instead Of urging them
first TO 60 to work oarnesty and honest
ly, aud .endeavor to be sober aud indus