The Hawaiian gazette., 1874-04-01

From Jersey TO japan
In lneaments Of light IT'S shown
That culture makes the man.
All that man has, hopes, can have
Past, future, or possessed,
Are fruits that culture gives-Or gave
At industry's behest"
A great many uncultivated persons
make grave mistake in Judging others
perhaps cherished friends of their youthful
days-as proud and scornful because they
do not meet them with that cordiality and
high respect which is extended to others
who have improved their advantages for
social and mental culture. At the pres
ent stage of society, social culture is of
more value than mental culture and scien-
tific attachments, without the advantages
of the former 1t is not so much what a
person says; but the manner in which
he says it seems to be the browning con-
comitant. The world will Judge person
by his actions and colloquial language,
which are the exponent of his culture. If
PERSONS early education were neglected;
if his language and manners in early life
were copied from ignorant, vulgar and
boorish associates, whose dialect abounds
in slang phrases and inelegant forms of
expression, an air of rudeness will cling
to him from early youth to hoary age, and
will always be ready, when in the society
of the refined and cultivated, to crowd
out whatever culture nay have been ac-
quired by rigid selfdiscipline. Oil and
water will not unite. Pour an ounce of
each together into bowl and the two
substances will separate as quickly as pos
sible, and will continue apart, because
there is no affinity between them. 1t is
precisely thus between ladies and gentle
men of high social culture, aud others
whose manners are rough and uncouth;
whose ways and actions are staggering
and inelegant; the affinity between them
is nominal when compared with the incli-
nation on the part of the cultivated and
refined to repel the proffered intimacy of
the vulgar and ignorant. "Birds of a
feather will flock together;" while there
will always be mutual repulsion between
those that are of antagonistic habits. The
uncultured and vulgar may attribute cold
neglect or unfriendly Sights to self esteem
and contumely; but in most instances, the
true cause is want of culture. A genteel
and cultured lady always feels ell at ease"
when required to spend only few mo-
ments with those whose early education
was greatly neglected and whose compan-
ions all through life have been uncouth
and boorish. Uncounted wealth and SUI
perior scientific attainments can never
atone for the neglect of early social cul-
ture. 1t is practically impossible for any
one to wear the uncultured garb of vul-
garity for six days in the week, and on
the seventh lay it aside, as soiled gar
ment is cast off, and assume the genteel
the elegant manners, and the
pure and refined language of him or her
who scorns all slang phrases, and who
employs the most respectful language
when addressing subordinates, and the
most refined expressions when conversing
with intimate friends. As the rich grace
of charity must always be manifested in
the home-circle first, so gentility, refine
ment, and that social culture which the
highest circles of virtuous society de |
mand, must be commenced in the nursery,
must be guarded and developed through
all the important periods of early child |
hood and youth to mature manhood and |
womanhood, or the unhappy victim of
vulgarity and of unrefined manners must
forever after find his level among those
who cannot be induced to believe that
their rude speech, coarse and harsh ex-
pressions; unrefned manners of to-day,
sxalt themselves as an insurmountable
barrier against the operation of every cul-
.ivated Snd refined thought, word and
action of tomorrow. A man or woman,
boy or girl, must be in the home circle
he same refined and genteel person that
be or she desires to be when among those
who pass for the very personifcation of
yentility and refinement. He whose early
education has been neglected until man.
hood, whose manners and language were
nodded by coarse, boorish, vulgar and
profane employers, will have a lifelong
ask in persistent efforts to rise to the
realm of the refined and cultured. Yet,
BY unremitting persistence in selftraining,
when one is alone as well as when in re-
ined society, the harsh and boisterous
one of voice may be so softened down
hat the refined may not feel inclined to