The New Orleans bulletin. [volume] (New Orleans [La.]) 1874-1876, 1874-06-07
SO NICE TO BE ENGAGED.

difference, as a general thing, between the
conduct of the young betrothed man and
the young betrothed woman. He, the bra
vel and stronger of the two, is utterly con
fused aud bashful, and seeks to make a
secret Of the fact. She, on the contrary,
tries to parade it, is proud OF it, assumes a
certain air of proprietorship over him, and
offers to her friends little delicate conf
dences as to how nice it is TO be engaged
and how dreadfully jealous he is if she looks
at any one else.
| The cause of this is Just one thing: the
man is in love; the girl is not.
I | have studied human nature. I have
looked into the depths Of hearts. | Ia ye
made man and woman the study of my life,
and | aver that the girl in love is Tarer
than a black rose. She has simply for her
lover exactly the feeling that the young
! mother has for her baby She has an
anxious desire to see to him for life; to
make sure that he is comfortable that his
| buttons are all right, and that his food is
what it ought to be. She understands that
he is in love with her, and reioices in the
knowledge. The idea of losing his love is
madness to her, but of herself she does not
| understand it.
A woman who is not selfish, and gre edy,
and mean, who does not smile on any one
who can g rive her fine clothes aud grand
establishment, overtlows with the mother
feeling all her life. She expends it on her
dolls in childhood, on her poodle, or her
kitten, or her canary atterward and, when
the time comes, on her lover. Many mau
would lose great deal Of his conceit and
vanity if he knew ust how the girl whom
he supposed to be in love with him really
felt. She, also, would be surprised to bear
that she was not in love at all, hut only de-
lighted to have some one in love with her,
and in measure awakened to the hnowI-
edge of that love which she will some day
give her children. 1t is the best sort OF
love, too and when a mans wife really loves
him as his mother used to love him, she
makes him happy.
But [ think it is time that some one who
knows the truth should tell it, A good
woman's love is something to be happy in
not the tleeting gallantry that man calls by
that name, but pure and high affection,
and with so much of the motherIy and pro-
tecting in it that have often heard little
year-od woman say of six footer
of two hundred pounds weight, and a briga |
dicr general to boot: "Oh, isn't he dar-
ling, cunning little thing' Just as sweet
as sugar-Aunt Mary IN the Ledger.
FOR WIVES.
10 domestic happiness the wife's influence
is much better than her husbands; for the
one, the h!St cauSe-mutual love and conf
dence being granted. the whole comfort Of
the household depends upon trities more i'm
mediately under her jurisdiction. By her
Of small sums, her husbands
and credit are created or de-
stroyed. No fortune can stand the leakage
Of extravagances and mismanagemenU; and
more is spent in trtles than women would
Easily believe. The one great expense,
whatever it may be, is turned over and care
Eully reflected on ere incurred; the income
s prepared to meet it; but it is pennies
sliding away which do
mischief; and this alone the wife can stop,
or 1t does not come within mans province
There is often an unsupported trihe to be
aved in every mans household.
1t ~ not in economy alone that the wife's
attention is SO necessary, but in those nice
les which make a well regulated house An |
unfinished cruet stand, a missing key, q I
shirt, soiled tablecloth, mus [
ard pot with it's old contents shaken hard I
nd down about it, are really nothings; but
ach can raise angry words and cause dis
omfort. Depend upon it, there is agood |
cal Of domestic happiness about a we'll
ressed mutton chop, or a tidy breakfast t
able. Men grow stated of beauty, tired of t
lusic; are often wearied Of conversation, Z
owever intellectual; but they can always |
ppreciate well swept hearth and smiling !
onforts. t
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