The Findlay Jeffersonian. [volume] (Findlay, Hancock County, Ohio) 1870-1881, 1874-08-28
gonre, Garden and farm


WHY j. II that at some people houses
one always. even on the slightest ac-
ouaintancc. feels at home; while at
other-. the exact reverse Of that feeling
isexperieuced. This j. one Of those things
that j. ever the subject Of remark, and
vet not well understood There are
ladies who. IN their efforts 10 make you
feel at home. really cause yOu the Hi'SI
acute mental suffering, and stiil'i'a'7
the wish that YOU were then within your
own house. They always insist 'iial liis
chair you have just got nic.iy 7','-7'. III
81, r,,,..t uncomfortable piece OI
s,,-,.;,,,r,. ir the house. and insist That
Won at once get up and exchange chairs
with them. 50. to prevent seeming rude,
Won make the exchange, and have Tor
rour relief the consciousness Of feeling
rI,at the lady las located herself III "a
seat she has already pronounced 10 be
the worst ia the house, that you may be
al your ease. Then you are entertained
by disparaging remarks about the house,
the carpet, the unpainted condition "i
the uarIor. and score Of other topics
that interest you no more than an ac-
count Of any other trivial nature, ana
vet you must exert yourself 10 appear
Ia take AN interest in those things that
Of all others concern you the least II
II v4.1 L.
Won expect to find relief at tie IaDl''
Won are most lameDtably sold IheFe
j. an air Of precision about everything
that proves conclusively that 1t l. unIiat-
uraI. Before you have tasted ol your
coffee, the inquiry comes a. TO It's sQIIil9
Won in such a way that you would rather
say yes, even if grain OF sugar or Il
drop Of cream would make it more PAL
atabIe. The demand is made that you
have the choicest bit Of meat on the
plate. and then, If you do not take II all
IN ct one mouthful like u starved dog,
Won are ouizzed a. to its excellence. lOu
feel glad when you leave such Z place,
although you see how hard has been the
attempt to entertain you. Your host
sees you go with a sigh Of relief, and
you know that when the door is shut on
your departure, the hard work o1 en-
tertafning friends is discussed and de-
plored
Now. there is nothing a guest likes so
well as to be left 10 do rs he pleases.
The first thing for host to do is to al
low the visitor to be much at home as
possibIe-to lounge, or turn over books,
look at the family pictures, stroll
through the grounds or over the barn
into the orchard and garden, and 20 do
those things that please the individuals
fancy or crafty the curiosity. Even if
the visit is for half a day, a glance
through the paper during a lull in the
or a nap after dinner,
serves TO tighten the weariness of visit
ing. The sole end sought in visiting is
and the more nearly all can
consult their own tastes, the greater will
be the mutual satisfaction. Perfect sim
Dlicity of manner, unaffected sincerity
)f expression, and a genuine desire on
he part of the host and guest to make
he time pass pleasantly, are sure TO
give TO both the happiness they seek in
.ach others society; or perhaps TO sat
sly them that they must find elsewhere
what they fail to find in each other All
people are not congenial; we have SYM
Iathies and antipathies for which we
;annot be held responsible, and if we
ind the latter called out, courtesy will
lictate their concealment, and good
sense will prevent their being awakened
You can never make your guests con
tented 10y telling them what you have or
have not got, nor by gossiping, nor by
trying to make a show. Be easy and
natural. If the pie was spoiled in baking
don't put it on the table; or if you do,
don't apologize or make talk about il
in a word, make little effort that
your guest will feel at home That is
-he great secret of entertaining.