The Orangeburg news. [volume] (Orangeburg, S.C.) 1867-1875, 1874-05-23
SATURDAY MORNING, MAY 23, 1874

many reasons, in justification Of this
practice. The most forcible one under
consideration is that the, sexes III Amer
ica do not bear their rgcs equally
Say n man Of twcnty.threaf years
marries lady of the same age When
he is forty-ive he is in the prime of
life; when she is forty five she is general
ly faded, cross and jealous especially
of the inference that might be dsduced
from their suggestive respcctivdAppear
anccs or course there are lights to
such rule, and they should be drawn.
For instance, a very old man perhaps
had better not marry at all bntTf he is
ctcrmined to cmbittcr the liyei Of his
rclasions, think !hc most scnsible a |
lance he could adopt is the ve4srablc
custom Of wedding his house lseepar;
the only drawback being tha. Of the
association which he cn,ers iuto with
the housckccper's rciatious and conncc
tions, if he be IN "ar;stocratic" ".gentlc
man
But, of all others, the subject Of mon
cy is the most difficult to lay 1qsn law
upon q matrimonial consideration
It may be taken for granted, t!&sgh I
do not positively assert it, that &srls are
not IN the least grateful to be Barrie
without it; for the very reasonsthat it
is human naturc-masculine, aSswcll as
feminine nature 10 believe thatjwe are
chosen and accepted for our Intrinsic
merits. s IL
Now, portionless girl is pretty sure
to believe that her attractions n other
respects quite account for thescircum
stance of a husband not wanting dcwcr
with her
but still, to put the argumant on
low gro und it 10 upqucstionably not the
best policy to get married silnaly for a
fortune The cases where Ysu have
paid off their debts by this ploccss d.
not look well when clesely inrzlitii,;,,etta "a
for, after the debt= are paid &c, Ilsse,is
still the wife Il lire with, who viii
never forget tie boeu she has con
fcrrcd
a suitable woman, with money. has
an additional charu, esp .ci.lly il she
belong to class who do not regard il as
the one aim, object, an3 result Of life.
a Go'd man and worthy husband
Will know how t, treat ana will treat :,
good aud worthy wife with love and
respect Her image is lenectc in hin.
No matter how great a man lie nny be.
no matter how austere and strong
minded he may be, so that he loves her!
1t is then, when inspired with divine
passion and divine tenderness for her.
that he feels her influence every day.
A power within him, which otherwise
might have sumbercd unknown or for
gotten, rs exertcd by her loving words
ond her womanly dependence upon hin,
for strength.
In the language of Bulwer: "Hcr
image CLOSED in his soul, lures him Oh
to those inspiring tolls by which mau
masters men,"
10 the potent influence of either n
wifc's or a mothers love, how many Of
our greatest statesmen aud sublimcst
heroes attribute their success in life.
1t is not woman alone who must have
something to love. Man needs the same
stimulant to raise him from the state of
thraldom in which the cares and anxi
cites Of an every day life usually plunge
him. What friend can take with him
the place Of a We? Who can ad
minister consolation as she does, so free
from suspicion or hope Of intcros tedncss
other than that Of holy and tender
desire and deep anxiety to make him
happy? I.ct aii the world iorsakc and
abandon him, let trial. come upon him ,
let calamities bc!all him. yet in her pre-
sence, and crowned With her foul aiicc
ton, harbingcr Of love aud tra.b and
devotion can always be found.
Son.o women forget that men have a
yearning for disinterestcd love. All
once convince man that he is beloved
for himself, independent Of his wealth,
or his station, OF any Of the advantages
OF which he may be possessed let him
SEQ, / say, that he is beloved for hin,
self, and yea can make him your slave
for life