Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1874-01-17
HONE, SWEET HOME
Married Life and Modern Arehifee-
fure.

ture.
Rev. Dr. Stone, pastor of tho First Congre-
gational Church, in San Francisco, recently de-
livered a lecture on the above subject, which
attracted much attention in California, and de-
servedly 30. Most of it was, of course, specially
suited to the peculiar conditions OF life in that
state, but much of it is equally well adapted,
like the old-fashioned almanacs, to Iany me-i-
dian. We accordingly make room for some
extracts from it, which will well repay perusal
HOME.
There IS hardly another word in the language
that goes straighter and surer to the heart, IA
this word Home. 1t includes the tenderness of
all the Household ties, and the power on the ear
Hest and sweetest local memories. do not bro
pose TO treat the subject as a mere sentiment;
for my aim Is chiefly practical, but to be indii
ferent to that sentiment were piece of stolcism
am not called upon to exercise myself, or to
expect in you. As we speak or hear this word
lts effect upon US will be, at least upon those of
Us who are 10 longer young, TO carry our
thoughts back TO the haunts of our childhood
the nest where we were broodsd in our callow
state, and whence we BATTERED forth, young
hedgisg to try our wings under new SHES and
over strange fields.
BEGINNING RIGHT.
Our young people should marry. II il one
step In the right Erection. But these welded
couples don't plant vine Tx tree and
nestle together beneath the shade. They take
a furnished room, and forage among restau-
rants for their meals. Or worse vet they ioiu
the swarming rOokery OF the board ~ house.
n.
Halter with the incOngruOus AMI fOrt ui:ous ele-
ments that I'LL this den of fugitives. Tuey have
no interest there, nothing at stake, no invest
nent that lures though Esd care, or helps
domestic nurture. They learn nothing OF
household economy, household Identifying or
household rect: Ii is with many an empty,
Idle, indOlent life, that must : rex enteTt AIN
Ment and pastime how and where they can be
folnd- The sacred ministries of mutual bur
den bearing; the development OF personal re-
sources, the charm Of ordering and adornng
their own unshared retreat; the eh .rke of max
ing strong, secure and inviting, fortress of
love and hope the taxing OF brain, and heart
and hand TO brighten and haIlow a sanctuary
which IL all their Own-these are wanting
They become self-indulgent, critical complain
ing perhaps, expert in dissecting character,
hoat on the muddy stream OF uncle an gossip
and carry nothing away, WHEN they DIT to the
next coDglOmerate shslter, but confused and
unsausfying memory, with many q corroding
KKEP OUT OF BOARDING HOUSES.
know how young men feel about these frst
ventures of welded life. How can thew as the
gentle being, for whose wardrobe, appetite and
seciai comfort they have become responsible,
10 share with them some diminutive cottage,
Inc cottage advertises tneir fortunes and posi-
ton, and Classics them as to their social level.
The hotel and the boarding house do not.
Wealth and refinement seek these great estab-
sishment, ard their reelected lustre gilds all the
level even 10 the attic. One boards you know
al grand hotel-eyen If il be close und er the
roof.
Then the new bride verv likely will have her
pre- ferenees. The hotel parlor ia her splendid
I eceptlon room, and the elegant SURROUNDINGS
grace and aeeredit her almost as if they were
her own. She can wear her silks, and Keen her
hands sheAtoed in dainty kid ard her orange
blossoms on her head, as she could not ii she
we're sweeping ana busting IN lodge OF which
sometimes at least, be calico, an ex.emporized
turban supersede the orange wreath, and ad-
yertise not the lady OF elegant leisure, but the
busy and economic housewife.
Young man young woman you don't know
what you are doing. You are making nomelife
distasteful and impossib e. You are not coming
nearer together under the pressure OF q sweet
and Common care; you are drifting apart, with
many an alien element croxdin2 in between
YOU. All, eat your bread together, even if it be
coarse and brown, with no sauce to die il in.
LIE down and rise up and SIT toseth er under
your own roof, ii it be only matched and laid
on unhewn logs. Shun boarding houses as you
would q hospital of incurables. Hired convent
ences all around you, and nothing yours.
Nothing that has any bond with your life.
toll; nothing that holds you tenderly to a place,
with the tie OF unshared proprietOrship; no
memories to feed upon that shall give you one
day pleasant contrasts with later progress
and be joyfully rehearsed as part of your pecu-
liar heritage: Don't Join yourselves to these
wandering Arabs of social life, these rowing
Apaches that gather forage where they have
not titled and take scslps in cruel sport
This L. the first point, then. Settle yourselves
70 hssg,sskeeRln ,S This oldfashioned word, not
brings in the true family life. There you are
in unmatched seclusiOn. Nobody oyerhears
your bedroom talk. NOprying eye looks through
the keyhoie. You dress for one anot her not for
carping or iattering crowd. Your mutual
dependence comes to the front This Is pre-
cious lesson to learn. Il holds the key OF your
most solid happiness. What are you, what NAV
you be each TO each when you have only one
another's faces TO look into2 What are you ca
pablo OF 70 please ana crafty the one companion
surprises you can give to one another. How
you coin your best thoughts and warmest feel
ings into golden speech! You discuss and fix
4 IN aka al
mime In your souls depths for hidden riches
tnat you may lay fresh treasures at one an
othei teet Tor you are all in all to one another
An early and abiding adjustment of sentiment
anu practice IL secured. and ..incompatibili-
.les are forever outiawed. You begin to ex-
YOUR ds,ipst sns Is social social forces and bring In
commonwealth OF society and the sc Ate
STRIKE EARLY FoR HOME!
realized IN the end seen far up the vista vi,h
pillaIed porch and tower and lawn. "a the con-
snnmste NUT OF Ines labor. What will be the
use OF II then? Many defer, through indoIence
pride or ambition. II they buil1 now il must he
in An humble way. II must be the cottage. NOT
the mansion. II will convict the OF nsIrow
means and enforced economy So they VAT
until they shall have acquired ability to do
something creditAble and nne. But what do
nearly over? 1t 10 wanted most AZ the beSin
ming, e shelter and nursery for childhood,
moulding power upon young hearts, a scene OF
broken. The life that hts itself to home must
be plastic, not rigid and frigid. 1t is better to
enter II with gray hairs than not to its doors
no orssiSsk with it. The rooms and firesides keep
more ordsr family histories. There may be
barren order, ugseut It viii be chilling and
ness. rather than warm II. o. silence And ionll-
The sweet disorder Of romplSRR spPy 1rss s,:,
spints, upsetttng stately propriety ~. pnsoe
,sted suhnees, and strewing threshold And W.
dow seat With the litter OF frolic hours is rather
70 Be ehossn; Entering late, you cannot think
Of tarrying long. You will be thinkine OF q
marrow house whose sole apartment YOU are to
occupy by yourself. without one voice or tOuch
Of pleas ant fellOw hip.
Don't build hoesi, II you build early, ~ I
have cOunselled, when there are but no OF Won
you don't want 70 much room, unless You are
hsppiest when farthest apart, in which case cali
ont doOrs" In not vida anon IN for wont M vC,,