The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1874-04-02
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while false to herself!
No matter what the maze OF pleasure may
be, no matter what the whirl of passion, no
true wife should for day be oblivious to the
fact that there is a record which will sooner or
later appear in terrible evidence against her for
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dividually, would study these precepts, there
would be fewer after-tragedies because of meet
I ing afinities, getting divorced and remarrying.
And vet there is a great deal of heroism in this
world There are men who go home to reck-
less and careless wives, and to ill-kept houses,
who never utter one word of complaint there,
never one word of reproach, nor yet to the
world and there are women who screen the
faults of their husbands, even from their own
children, and bear the burden of neglect with
saint-like fortitude! They love on, and hope
on, to the end. Who among us doubts that
when God sets his seal on their foreheads we
shall know what heroism their silent lives con-
tanned?
Age has much to do with the loss or success
of happiness have always contended this
point I do so still.
think man ought to be fully ten years
older than his wife, There are many reasons,
in justification of this practice. The most forci-
Bile one under consideration is that the sexes
in America do not bear their ages equally.
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lady of the same age. When he is torty-tlve
he is in the prime of life; when she is forty
five she is generally faded, cross and jealous
especially of the inference that might be de-
duced from their suggestive respective appear
ances. Of course there are limits to such
rule, and they should be drawn. For instance,
very old man perhaps had better not marry
at all but if he is determined to embtter the
lives of his relations, think the most sensible
alliance he could adopt is the venerable Gus
tom of wedding his house-keeper; the only
drawback being that of the association which
he enters into with the housekeeper's relations
and connections, if he be an "aristocratic"
gentleman.
But, of all others, the subject of money is
the most difficult to lay down law upon-as
a matrimonial consideration. 1t may be taken
for granted, though I do not positively assert
it. that girls are not in the least grateful to be
married without it for the very reason that it
is human nature-masculine, as well as teml-
nine nature-to believe that we are chosen and
accepted for our intrinsic merits.
Now, a portionless girl is pretty sure to be-
lieve that her attractions in other respects quite
account for the circumstance of husband not
wanting dover with her
b. But still, to put the argument on low ground,
lit is unquestionaby not the best policy to get
married simply for fortune. The cases where
men have paid off their debts by this process
do not look we'll when closely investigated
for, after the debts are paid off, there is still
the wife to live with, who will never forget the
boon she has conferred.
A suitable woman, with money, has an ad-
dtional charm, especially if she belong to a
class who do not regard it as the one aim, OBJ
ject, and result of life.
A good man and worthy husband will
know how to treat, and will treat good and
worthy wife with love and respect. Her image
is reflected in him. No matter how great
man he may be, no matter how austere and
strong-minded he may be, so that he loves her
1t is then, when inspired with divine passion
and divine tenderness for her, that he feels her
influence every day. A power within him,
which otherwise might have sumbered un-
known or forgotten, is exerted by her loving
words and her womanly dependence upon him
for strength.
d. In the language of Bulwer: "Her image
CLOSED in his soul, lures him on to those in
spring tolls by which man masters men,"
To the potent influence of either wifes or
mothers love, how many of our greatest
statesmen and sublimest heroes attribute their
success in life.
1t is not woman alone who must have some
thing to love. Man needs the same stimulant
to raise him from the state of thraldom in
which the cares and anxieties of an everyday
life usually plunge him. Wuat friend can take
with him the place of "a wife? Who can adj
minister consolation as she does, SO free from
suspicion or the hope of interestedness other
than that of holy and tender desire and deep
anxiety to make him happy? Let all the
world forsake and abandon him, let trials come
upon him, let calamities befall him, yet in her
presence, and crowned with her fond affection,
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can always be found.
Some women forget that men have yearn-
ing for disinterested love. All once convince
man that he is beloved for himself, indepen-
dent of his wealth, or his station, or any Of the
advantages of which he may be possessed-let
him see, I say, that he is beloved for himself
and you can make him your slave for life
Men are more generous than women-they
are more susceptible, more confding, more
tender, more faithful, more sincere
Bless good man, or even a bad one with
noble woman for wife, and you will see that
he is capable of performing things that would
discourage him had he not some one to offer
him those little words of consolation and cheer,
that have lightened the burden of many q life
"Never mind the odds against you I'm here,
I believe in you love you p
A man who possesses the affection and the
respect of his wife, founds his domestic life
upon rock which withstands all storms. And
the fault will lie at his own door if he fails to
attain eminence and honor. But if a man
marries, and, by deed or incompatibility, dis
covered too late-fails to possess or to retain
her love if there are no loving eyes to watch
for his coming, no loving arms to encircle his
neck, no loving lips to give him greeting when
he retires from the cares and tolls of the day,
let woman rest assured that to that man ambi
ton and hope and peace and contentment are
lost mirages that float above the desert-sands
of barren and sterile life-a life that has no
ssbeyond" brighter than the grave
And now about house.
In the first place it should not be too large;
husband should never be able to hide away
from the smile or the kiss of his fresh young