, 1874-02-14
TO THE GIRLS.
Some Advice by a Woman.
Susan VS.. John,

before hare eontrtred happen It tho house d
late she lies III bed in the morning You should AN
to surprise her, that you can SEQ her ii he1
orningdress and observe her occupation when -hc +
not expecting you. II possible, you should bewhtro
Jon could plainly hear the morning b..
tween TIVE her md her mother Il she naturea
pend upon 1t. s."-Irareriy.
Profound, truly; particularly the declaration
that the old lady is older than her 500, or she
couldn't be his mother. Good adyice it may be ;
but, girls, how arc you to become enlightened
CONCERNING 5ouS2
Or are you to take it for granted that he is ill
right? Perhaps you consider it q matter OF
minor Importance that you should know about
him beforehand. Seeing HIM three OF four times
before breakfast will not help you, should you
; attempt to investigate. How can you find out
his disposition and habits3 How are you to
know whether he Intends to support you, or
whether he has planned for you to gain liveli-
| hood for both? Perhaps he can almost tako
care Of himself. aud you may help little.
It is generally understood that each takes tho
| other for better Or worse surely neither should
look for or expect perfection. Even wore it pos
I Hible to obtain, who. in their sober senses, on
| mature consideration, would for moment wish
it? Who could abid9
PERPETUAL. RErEoAcu?
| Who would not willingly - nay, glad1J-3ea
such treasure take to itself wings aud ay away
! to Heaven
Now, so long as Susan cannot follow John to
bus haunts, in order to gain information in regard
to his habits, mode OF life and various other lit
tie items; cannot tell whether the gallant and
| aflcctlonate lover will wear the bonds matrimo-
| NAL right rQyaIy; does not know whether tho
| fret and worry OF everyday life will develop no.
bier traits and loftier aims. if, On tho CONTRA
IT, that shall prove bat tlross TINT ehe counted
| old.-why should Johns mamma be 90 anxious
| for him to 50 early in the morning in order to
| play the spy on Susan'a movements? Why
| should he not take his chances Us well as she?
Now, glrls, my advice ls: Should any such
person show himae1f, on any such errand, q:
your htchen-door, at tho break of day, and lind
you the very quintesscnce OF neatuess. your face
| covered with smiles, and hands with biscuit
dough. all things favorabte. and should he, Ills
| viEago aGlow with satisfaction, signify that
- Rarkis is "ilGn, or, in other words, ask you
| to marry him,-turn your back to him Ut once
| with
He Will make selfish, indolent. parsimonious
husband, who will, in all probability, bo asking,
three months after you are married, it 10:
! sooner, :: What in tho world has become Of that
pound Of sugar brought home month and q
quarter Of . dollar gave you last week."
He will Oversee tie kitchcn-worlf, have his
fingers in evory pie, and weary you with his
everlasting talk Of wastefuIness and extraEa-
very worst kind Of husbands; they
TAKE TO NEASNEss NATURALLY.
Many Of both sexes are deceived, it is true;
nor can it, taking human nature into account, bo
otherwise. Tho result is, some 80 through life
With bowed heads, and hearts full Of bitterness;
while others, il possible, profit by tho divorce
laws; and Others still elope forthwith, "a free
love; and THUS it will be so long as the world
stands. 4 sosry state of af1airs, I admit; but
who is to be censuIed7
Tie old Serpent. or E7o7 Not Adam, Of
course, because Tho woman gave unto me, and
Al Answer the question as you may, tho taets are
hs d nna plsef IS 70 shona
the ropgher one. They easily throw it OF; they !.
go out into the air and sunlight land Gods
blessed sunlight causes many = burden to bs
more Lightly bornel; they ningle With their
and they are usually not 90 crushed (taere arc
exceptions, il is true) that they cannot enjoy
their cigar, the club-roo or saloon Or it is just
possible, the society OF some interesting lady
friend, to whom they look unntterahle things, or
ut least those not lawful to be uttered under tho
circumstances, and sigh as they think Of "what
might have been."
!. But, girls. il you marry one who prores 1ndit~
ferent to you, Whoae habits are bad, and whose
soul is small, and you find yourselves neglected
and uncared-for,
WHAT CAN rou Do2
Why, wait upon John caro- for the children,
aud 60 through monotonoua routine OF duties
with heart full OF pain aud every nerve u1~
strung land how these lttle daily duties sting
aud irritate Wien the soul is crying out for
rest! y. when ono would fain bury her face in her
hands, and think, and weep, until st least COLI
parnti7e quiet comes; until she can look upward
with the eye OF faith, and feel that "Jesua
knows it all"
Do not be in haste to marry, nor fancy it is tho
main road to happiness. There arc but too many
pitfalls in the way, chat are not discovered until
it is too late to 1etrace on6s steps
MEN WITH NOZZLE SOULS,
who live pure, unselfsh lives, and who will
shield their loved ones in their strong arms, a1d
fo1d them in the innermost recesses of their
hearts; who disdain not to show their apPreei1-
ton of little kndnesses, and in whose presence
there is no restraint.
Little golden heads are pressed to tho eheez
OF such man tiny, dimpled hands stroke hls
hair; even baby Crows welcome. The VIE
docs not look askance to see II husband u IN
good humor; too we'll she knows his un:ir1ns
love. The days golden hours aro when husband
and father has come.
Upor, such men, be they Peer or peasant
Nature has set her seal Of royalty but such
one never in his life played the part Of spy Or
cavesdropper.
Beware, girls, Of these Johns, and never ma3
for home. Be independent;
CHOOSE so21E VOCATION;
be- wo1kers.-self- supporting. Pay no attention
to all tlfA Ealk aD0ut 0elH6 boa0 4oAecA1etS11
nor be afraid to say that you do not uuderstano
it, il such is the case. Walk in the plain pasno1
duty if it lie directly through tho valley OF hu,
initiation do not shrink Light will come BY ano n
by,-a change for the better; or, mayhap 'aa
work considered burden may anon prove
source of delight ~
It housework be the duty nearest to yon, doH
By all means but, it vou are permitted aenoEe'
and talents and inclination lead yon INTO an ~
tirely-dinerent path, do not hesitate, nor gosJ
your gifts in napkin, io order to 1T yonrsel.eaa
for the possible contingency Of being eeesea
housewives for John. Make the most OF yon1-
solyes; do right in tho sight OF God; be aol!
persuaded in your Own minds; and each ot 5oD
il
4 POWER IN YOURSELF.
You are now bearing many eelf-iu'Posea pm
deus, which help to defeat your plans fos u ~ r.
fulneas. Remove from your heads sono o. ~
nu1nberless superhuities that have long Heaaes
them; be content to wear shoes with OUT 10.
eonaDte amount Of heel; it you sEish 70 "Ak -
stills, do not have them IN any way astacnet
your ordinary dress and, shove ali things, apoI.
isl--or il that be impossible, It least lcoss ~
the corBet, go that you can breathe freei} ~
this, and you can think aud WORK WITH easo
rise higher aud higher in the vocation yea nss+
chosen; and never fear but the place Fga ~
will be yours when you are prepared Tor II.