Shenandoah herald. [volume] (Woodstock, Va.) 1865-1974, 1874-04-30
cousTsHIp FROM 4 BUSINESS STANDPOINT


Papa observed to his daughters
beau: Jim, if You wait Lou you can
have her but don't want you hang
ing around unless you mean business
If you intend to marry, hurry up for 1
can't be kept awake nights much Ion
r."-Er,
This old gentleman's head was emf
nently level. He first displays an eye
for business and then comfort. The
fact is, there are few parents who
would not rather see their daughters,
happily married than to loose one
nights comfortable repose. But to
speak more to the point not only papa,
whose nightly rest is often broken by
the .dallying of the beaux in the parlor
or the hall until the wee hours of the
morning, but the fair ladies themselves
prefer the business way. This view of
the matter is well Illustrated by an an
ecdote told .by Governor Vance. A
girl, when her bashful sweet heart, sat
in stupid embarrassment and kept
pressing her foot with his under the
table, exclaimed: "John, if you love
me, why can't you say so like man,
and quit dirtying my clean stock
ings!"
There is no room Ieft for a doubt
but that this is tie spirit which anirna.
ties every sensible girl. They Ike
sense, and sensib lie men, business men.
They can bear with the poor fool who
fddles and filmbles around and pays
attention day after day, week after
week and month after month, and will
use HIM as 6on9enfence, an escort, as
partner in dance, if his accomplish
ments lie in his feet instead of his
head, but marry hint never! Except
when she can do ne better, and has to
take him to get rid of him. And the
missy is that if she does that, she viii
fling it in his face to her dying day.
The General who lays seige to the
enemy's capital, if he really desires to
scale the breast works, force tie cree
ton of the White flag Of capitulation,
and penetrate the citadel, goes at his
work in an earnest business may. He
is no laggard, no lounger, but regard
ing that business he 'goes in. So in
courtship. If a man desires to succeed,
he must comprehend the situation at a
glance, and tackle the matter in hand
as an earnest business. He must 90
at it as he would at grubbing, earnest
ly and with will, saying what he
means and meaning what he says. If
there is any created thing a woman
admires it is a man, and the more man
ly he is, the greater the esteem.
Besides, this indefinite dallying
around is not only a loss of precious
time and valuable opportunities, but is
the worst of policies,
The beau of whose ultimate inten
ton the fair object of his alteration has
the least suspicion, is watched and
scanned with lynx eyed scrutiny. His
every fault, foible and short coming is
carefully conned and weighed against
his attractions and prospects. What
man of our day can successfully pass
through SO trying an ordeal! AS in
general, too much intimacy engenders
contempt, so in this case, thorugh
acquaintance, in nine cases out of ten
reveals repulsive points, which lead to
calamity i'll the suit. The moral of this
is, that man should never allow the
lady of his choice to become too well
acquainted with him, if he expects
success and generally, we may add oice
UerSd.
To sum up the whole matter in one
sweeping deduction, the sesame TIC
success in courtshipis comprehended ii
very few words, to wit: short acquain.
lance, half our visits, and striking while
the irou is hoe..