The Lake County star. [volume] (Chase, Mich.) 1873-current, 1874-04-23
A Few Words 10 a LOve-sIck Young
Girl.

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Your state of mind Is blissful n,
doubt and most natural. All the res
of the girls are enjoying the sam,
sickness in its various stages, or hOp'
to soon.
1t is so nice to have a real beau al
to yourself, and to know that he love-
you because he says so as often or al
late every night as he is permitted by
your parents or guardians to call.
1t Is all right. BE happy and built
Us many "castles in Spain" as yOu
will, only let them have a slight
groundwork of common sense anC
reason. Your joys are of course damp
ened by some troubles as all earthly
joys must be; but there is one griev.
ance which it is wise to guard against
and that is the objection of your par.
ents to your choice. OF course you
think you Know best what you need
and want to secure peace of mind and
prosperity for life. But generally
speaking you do not. Your mother
has not passed through forty or fifty
years of life for nothing. She Cal,
give you many wise word and saw
ing counsel. She has been right
where you fare, and knows how the
matter will result. She too was
courted and tiattered by love-sick
swains, and she remembers where
she would be, had she harbored every
shiftleSS fellow who came around.
DO not be too ready to accept the
first offer, unless you are sure it is the
right one.
A young man may have charming
manners and yet be very poor mate
rial for q husband. His hair may
curl excruciatingly and yet cover a
head not calculated to win much in
the battle of life. His eyes may he
heavenly, but better adapted for look
ing unutterably killing on q Sunday
night than discovering way to earn
a dollar.
OF all things do not fool away your
time with man who never earned
his living in his life, unless he is
rich, and has always been sick, and
unable to work. Money is no excuse
for idleneSs in young man.
IfyOu are in love with Il poor young
man, who neither has employment,
nor tries very earnestly to obtain
work, give him up. He will not do
to count on in the emergency Of shell
ter, clothing and bread, together with
the condiments which complete the
condition signified by the word
"HOme."
1t may cause you pain to tell him to
go. But it is easier to suffer a severe
heartache all by yourself, than to risk
the anxiety and trials of matrimOny
with poor stick of a man at your
side.
When your mother demonstrates
against encouraging the addresses of
a man, the girl who refuses to listen,
is laboring under temporary insanity
unless that mother has by neglect
and indifference not deserved her
daughters confidence.
Mothers have been known to plead,
with tears and prayers, that their
daughters should take heed and not
throw themselves away upon dubious
chances for even kindness and the
comforts of life, for which they re-
ceived impudence, ingratitude, dis
obedience, brutality. A sweetheart
makes some girls intOlerable at home
who were once kind, thoughtful and
dutiful.
They feel so cranky because they
have a beau. A colt fed on oats does
not sniff the air higher, or antic along
with less sense or reason. Neverthe-
less it is exquisite to be in love, If
your lover is worthy of your conf
dence. There are two classes of men.
Those who will always earn good
living in spite of everything, and
those who are always looking for
work and never finding it. The first
class are ready to take the best chance
they can find be it ever so humble,
and hope and work to something bet
ter.
They save little money every
year, and after Il while they have
goodly sum i'm the bank, without
troubling anybody for assistance or
sympathy.
The man with whom looking for a
situation has become chronic, takes
the cream off the pan of life, if he can
sponge it out of somebody who works
for q living. He rises late in the
morning and complains If his coffee
is not hot and Of proper flavor. lie
will not accept any mean offer. A
nice berth, fitted with brocatelle and
we'll gilded he must have, or nothing.
Such man will set day after day,
month after month without cent In
his pocket and picture an elegant
home before the .sanguine mind of
young girl, and she poor, little sim
pletOn, thinks he can move mountains
because he is her lover.
1t Is all very well to say you are
willing to work and help him. Mar
riaee brings conditions whereby a
woman cannot always work. She
must have provident and industri-
Gus husband or in sickness when it Is
too late, the wolf at the door will ST.
lencc the voice of love.-Elm OrlOu.