The Emporia news. [volume] (Emporia, Kan.) 1859-1881, 1874-06-19
RELIGION AND ARCHITECTURE.

want OF all Greek and Roma
buildings with which we are d
e quainted is the absenee-in a fe'
and unimportant cases-of the pyl
amidal form. The Egyptians kne'
at least the worth of the obelisk
but the Greeks and Romans hardl
, knew even that; their buildings 81
flat-topped. Their builders WeI
conteDted with the earth as it wa
, There was great truth involved i
! that; which l am the last to denN
But religions which, like the Budd
hist or the Christian, nurse a nobl
ing a letter so some friend Ion
way off, about f'some body" ala
somebody" 10 nobody. She write
poetry, everybody does something
or other; she writes q hymn abou
him. But one evening ali incarnat
form stands beside her and presse
her hand, and her ideal merges int
the real; Romeo becomes Jim
Even after marriage Jim is investeI
with a glamour of romance; he i
q prince in her eyes. But chang
begins to creep in. Her dream
ideal in some respects seems noble
than her husband. The dream o
her sad soul in her ideal husband
her real husband IS awfully real
She walks in the moonlight will
the ideal. who is number /, while
the real eats meat with his knife
smokes, growls if his beefsteak il
overdone or too rare, and compares
his table with somebody's else
She composes n poem on EnocI
Arden, a great deal sadder thar
| Tennyson's. The worst of it is
Jim the real is compelled to meet
Romeo the ideal. If Romeo would
only stay in his niche in the grand
cathedral where she has enshrined
him, ii would be well enough, but
he comes into Jim's house, and
drives Jim to desperation by talk.
ing at him through her lips, tells
him how different other husbands
are, how clean their collars are,
how much pin money and how
many new dresses they give Their
wives, until Jim is driven to poor
cigars and poorer beer. / believe
i'll ideals, but sometimes they be-
come intolerable bores. Much do
nestle sorrow is due to domestic
dreams. A satirical French writer
gives the following statistics of do
nestle life in Paris: Wives seek
ing separation from their husbands,
l,l32 husbands seeking separation,
2,3iS; husbands living in hostility
to their wives, 1875; husbands
comparatively happy, l27; really
happy l3.
The model husband does not con-
stitute a model home, anymore than
a straight even rail, well laid down
makes a railroad. The model wife
is as necessary as the model hus-
band. Socrates could not with all
his patience and gentleness make q
happy home with Xantippe.
Husband is an Anglo Saxon
word it means the home band, and
used To be written that way.
There. is one class of husbands
who arc iron bands. They rule the
house with the iron band of au-
thority. This husband is a mon
arch in the house. In former
times, his wife could be thankful
for her life, and she was not always
sure of that. That iron band of to-
day has not such unlimited power
as that, but he is pretty autOcrat /;
his wife dies often of a broken
heart, and his children feel his tyr
amy. OF such a father the Irish
boy said, ale threats me as if
wur the son by another father an
mother" In the parlor, st a party
Ironband has smiles and soft
words, but never for his home.
Silverband governs his house
hold by prudence and policy, he
lacks only one thing-love. lie
has excellent taste. his wife hates
the very word aesthetics. lie mar
ried in haste or for policy. 1t must
be an awful thing to court and mar
ry on principle. Imagine q rose
made of an excellent quality of red
flannel. Silverband is not pleased
with his wife. He never GuarreIs
with her, but they "argue." He is
strict in his financial policy. He is
displeased if she doesn't dress taste
fully. He never offends or scolds
her in company, but he lectures her
at home, on her manner, her lam
guage, her dress; he out caudles
Mrs. Caudle. His wife cries at
first, but cultivates resignation, and
repeats his lecture at the sewing
society, initiates Silverband's man
ner and voice, and helps the So
ciety.
."Goldband" rules by love, a
jointed and flexible chain around
the house. Its first strand is kind
ness. Goldband asks for love and
gives love, he sows love aud reaps
love. There are many uncomforta-
bic things in matrimony that call
for patience and kindness, but love
is equal to the demand. The baby
wakes and cries at one o'clock, and
Goldband gropes about in the dark
for the cprdiari he gets hold of Lu-
bins extract and but for the moth
er's watchfulness would have a
spoonful of hair-oil down the baby.
lie finally gives it dose of mucil-
age and sets off in a nipping frost, a
mile and half, for the doctor, but
Goldband does not regret the band
or the baby. Self control is anoth-
er strand in the chain. Goldband's
peril is when he comes home at
night, weary and seeking cheerful
rest, to find the children noisy and
restless, the baby sick and cross
and dinner late. But his love and
will are equal to the occasion.
Another delicate thread Is con-
sideration. He remembers that his
outside life is one of activity and
variety, in strong contrast with the
monotony of woman's life at home,
and carries his world into his
home. Goldband makes home his
sphere, and it does not degrade
him, it is never unmanly to be use
full and tender.
One word to the deutschland.
The day fades, the evening comes
on aPace and ye lie down. AS tn G
widow aud orphaIs gather around
how precious to them will be the
! thoughts of the love anu tenderness
they have lost. And too, there
comes a day when the fire on the
hearth goes out, sleeps IN the ashes
the pattering feet that come tC
meet you are still the face thai
greeted you does not turn to yoT
now. When that day comes, may
memory have no stern reproof fol
you.
THE OLD, Old SToRY.-A small
wedding reception party on Rich
mond street, Cincinnati, yesterday
was broken up by another frightfu
coal oil accident, which will, with
oat doubt, result in the death of tn,
young bride, Mrs. John Vanden
burg. She was married last Tues
day, and was yesterday entertaing
few friends at her new home. T.
replenish her coffee she had left he
friends a few moments, and hat
gone into the kitchen where sh
found the fire smeuldering. Sh
had no time for q slow process @
kindling, SO, snatching a coal-oi
can hard by, began pouring its con
. tents in the stove, with almost tn
uniform result. The can burst, he
clothing was saturated with oil an