The Dallas daily herald. [volume] (Dallas, Tex.) 1873-1887, 1874-02-22


counted gold, should Johns
mamma be 80 anxious for him TO go
early In the morning In order to play
the spy on Susan's movements why
should he not take his chances ms well
rs she?
Now, girls, my advice Isl Should
any such person show himself, on any
such errand, ut your kltchen-door, at
the freak Of day, and find you the very
qulntessence OF neatness; your face
covered with smiles, and hands with
biscuit-dough, all things favorable, and
should he, his visage aglow with salts
faction, signify that "Barkis Is willln', y
or, In other words, ask you to marry
him-turn your back to him at once
with
A DECIDED NO,
He will make a selfish, lndolent, par
simonious husband, who will, In all
probability, DO asking, three months
after you ARE married, II not sooner,
"What In the world has become ofthat
pound of sugar brought home n
month and half ago?" or, "What did
you do with that quarter Of Il dollar |
gave you last week?'
He will oversee the. kitchen work,
have his fingers in every pie, and weary
you with his everlasting talk of waste
fulncss and extravaganza. In fact
such men as John make the best kind
of husbands; they
TAKE TO MEANNEss NATURALLY.
Many of both sexes are deceived II
Is true; nor can it, taking human ma
ture into account, be otherwise. The
result Is, some go through life with
bowed heads, and hearts full of bitter
ness; while others, If possible profit by
divorce laws; and Others still elope
forthwith, n la free-love; and thus II
will be rs long as the world stands. A
sorry stare of affairs, | admit; but who
is to be censured?
The old serpent, or Eve? Not Adam,
of course, because "rhe woman gave
unto me, and | did eat"
Answer the question rs you may, the
facts are the same; and, If either sex is
to be deceived, disappointed and duped,
] prefer it should be the rougher one.
They easily throw it of; they so out
into the air and sunlight (and Gods
blessed sunlight causes many burden
to he more lightly borne); they mingle
with their fellows; business matters di-
vert their attentions; and they are usu-
ally not so crushed there are eXcep-
tons, it is true) that they cannot enjoy
their cigar the club-room or saloon, or,
it is just possible, the society of some
interesting lady friend, TO whom they
look unutterable things, or ut least
those not lawful to be uttered under
the circumstances, and sigh as they
think of "what might have BEEN"
But, girls, if you marry one who
proves indifferent to you, whose habits
are bad, and whose soul is small, and
you find yourselves neglected and UNI
cared for,
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
Why, wait upon John, care for the
children, and 60 through monotonous
routine of duties with heart full of
pain and every nerve unstrung land
how these little daily duties sting and
irritate when the soul is crying out for
restD, when one would fain bury her
face in her hands, and think, and
weep, until at least comparative quiet
comes; until she can look upward with
the eye of faith, and feel that "Jesus
knows it ALL"
Do not be in haste to marry, nor
fancy it is the main road to happiness.
There are but too many pitfalls in the
way, that are not discovered until it is
too late to retrace ones steps.
There are
MEN WITH NOBLE SOULS,
who live pure, unseltish lives, and who
will shield their loved ones in their
strong arms, and hold them in the in
recesses of their hearts; who
disdain not to show their appreciation
of little kindnesses, and in whose
presence there is no restraint.
Little golden heads are pressed to the
cheek of such man; tiny, dimpleo
hands stroke his hair; even baby crows
a welcome. The wife does not look
askance to see if husband is in good
humor; too well she knows his untir-
ing love. The days golden hours are
when husband and father has come.
Upon such men, be they peer or
peasant, nature has set her seal of
royalty; but such one never in his
life played the part of spy or caves
dropper.
Beware, girls, of these Johns, and
never marry for q home. Be indie
pendent;
CHOOSE SOME VOCATION;
be workers--self-supporting. Pay no
attention to all this talk about being
good housekeepers, nor be afraid to
say that you do not understand it, if
such is the case. Walk in the plain
path of duty if it lie directly through
the valley of humiliation; do not
shrink; light will come by and by-a
change for the BETTER or, mayhap, the
source of delight.
If housework be the duty nearest to
you, do it by all means; but, if you are
permitted a choice, and talents and in
clinations lead you into an entirely diff
ferent path, do not hesitate, nor bury
your gifts in napkin, in order to fit
Yourselves for tie possible contingency
of being elected housewives for John.
Make the most of yourselves; do right
in the sight of God be fully persuaded
in your own minds; and each of you is
A POWER IN YOURSELF.
You are now bearing many self.im-
posed burdens, which help to defeat
your plans for usefulness. Remove
from your heads some of the mum ber-
less superhuities that have long wear
led them; be content to wear shoes
with but a reasonable amount of heel;
if you wish to walk on stills, do not
have them attached in any way to
your ordinary dress; aud, above all
things, abolish, or, If that be impossi-
BILE, at least loosen-the corset, SO that
you can breathe freely; do this, and
you can think and work with ease
rise higher and higher in the vocation
you have chosen; and never fear but
the place you seek will be yours when
you are prepared for it.
God made you girls to be
FREE AND HAPPY;