Perrysburg journal. (Perrysburg, Wood Co., O. [Ohio]) 186?-1965, 1874-06-12
Impulsiye People.

No PEOPLE are more to be pitied, and
none are more harshly judged, than those
who to natural impulsiveness add limited
means, a good heart, and that kind of in,
stinctive unselfishness which never takes
count of the difficulties or disagreeables
standing in the way of kind actions-zeal
for others dwarfing consideration for
themselves, and imagination going the
same way. In their honest desire to help
where help is needed they are always
offering more than they can give and un.
dertaking more than they can make good.
Being people of lively imagination, they
sink the details in the result, and over.
look the obstacles standing between them
and the fultillment of their generous de.
sires. They fancy they can clear a noun
tain at leap and ford sea as if it were
millpond; but when they come to meas
ure the height of those inaccessible-look-
ing crags, when they see how the waves
are breaking against their frail boat, they
then have to draw back and say that the
thing is beyond them. On which they
are accused of halfheartedness, un-
reliability, unfriendlness; they are
turncoats and deserters; men of words
and not of deeds-whereofth latest stage
is sudden death, and death indeedi"
They blow hot and cold, and are the reeds
which, leant on, break and pierce the
hands of the leaner. No one remembers
how ardent and how true was the kindly
impulse which placed goods and service
at the feet of the one in need; how desire
ran before power, and how " cannot" has
been forced to wait upon 81 would"
Had the thing been possible with only an
ordinary amount of selfsacrifice it
would have been done; but when it came
to the sacrifice of may be more than the
thing was relatively worth, and of more
than the friend could afford, then the
merest instinct of self preservation,
packed by the dictates Of common sense,
lepped in. The offer, which was to give
one few hours pleasure at the cost of
days OF damage and weeks of pinching or
pressure to the other, is withdrawn-vi-
tuperatiOn, the loss of the warmest strain
OF friendship and the casting of scornful
proverbs Notwithstanding. And in gen.
eral the withdrawal is the right thing.
1t is impossible for some people to see
or hear. of distress in any form without
longing to relieve it. And from longing
to offering it is only the passage of
breath. Is friend illf "Let me sit up
with him tonight" Willingly. Your
sitting up tonight will give ease and a
good spell of rest to the tired watch
Ci9i anu Save lhc SuDsIltute Standing re-
luctantly in the gap, Let us state, how
ever, that the substitute is stout and
sturdy, well-conditioned person who has
the strength of man and can bear any
amount of fatigue without failing or may
be person of leisure, with nothing on
earth to do but ,amuse herself and bury
her hours with as much enjoyment and
little ennui as is compatible with pfopri- |
ETY. If she, watches through the night
she can sleep through the day, and by six
O'Clock next evening will be as blithe as a |
bird. and as fresh as daisy. You, on
the contrary, are frail, fatigued little |
woman with a large family and the afflic- |
tlon OF neuralgia. Every hour of your
day-js occupied with work that can |
neither be delegated nor laid aside.
You have your lessons to give, your arti- |
Gle to write, your part TO study, even your |
puddings to make and your children's |
mouths to feed generally. But you are a
warm.hearted, impulsive little woman,
worn. out atom as you are, and you offer |
great things out of your great soul, which
when searched for are not to be found |
within the compass of your small body.
Your husband, who is not impulsive, and |
whose idea of masculine duty includes
taking care Of you, even against your
will, laughs you and your Quixotic offer
to SCI IN when he hears of it. He will |
have none ofthis folly, he says trench.
antly; you have enough to do with your
own affairs, and he win not suffer you to !