Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1874-11-12
couRTSHIP AFTER MARRIAGE.

There was much more than mere WILL
cism in the remark of the old bachelor, who
had paid attentions to maiden lady for twen'
ty years. visiting her regularly every night,
when rallied for not marrying: IF 1 were
married I should have nobody to court, and
no place to 60 at night"
He had felt deeply the contrast between
his own delicate and ethereal enjoyments, and
the hard, discontented, fretted life of too many
married people and his answer was irony.
He saw there was something in courtship
which too often exhales and expires after
marriage, leaving cold, dull, monotonous
burden, where all was beauty and buoyancy
before.
Let us see what that something is. In
courtship nothing is taken for granted. Both
parties are put on their good behavior. Love
keeps itself fresh and active by constant ex-
preston in word and act. But strange to
say, courtship usually ends with marriage
Very soon both parties yield to the sense of
possession, and the feeling of security robs
gallantry of motive, and extracts the poetry
from the mind. The beautiful attentions,
which were so pleasing before marriage, are
too often forgotten afterward. The'gifts cease,
or come only with the asking. The music
dies out of the everything is taken for
granted, and the love, like the silver jet of the
fountain that leaped to heaven and denied its
natural outlet, ceases to flow altogether. Then
come dull heavy, hard days, with two unhap-
PLY tied together, and wishing themselves
apart, and not always content with merely
wishing.
This is unnatural and wrong. What mar
ried life wants to give it new tone and sweet
ness, is more of the manner as we'll as the
spirit of the courtship, which comes from the
constant attentions of the parties to each 9th
er. Their affection voices itselfin all possible
ways-every sentence is edged with compli.
ment, and spoken in tender tones. Every
look is confession. Every act is a new word
in the exhaustless vocabulary of love. Kiss
and caress are parenthetic clauses and ges-
lures in the dialect of love. Gifts and sacri-
fees are the most emphatic expressions Of the
spirit, no language can fully articulate and
no devotion declare. And it is the fact that
affection confesses itself continually, in look,
and word, and act, making the voice musical
and the fingers poetic in their touch, and doing
that makes experience so beautiful, the only
EuGu mduy d WOtudu eReT Ou cdILu.
Love must have expression, or it will die.
1t can be kept forever beautiful and blessed,
as at first, by giving it constant utterance in
word and act. The more it is allowed to flow
out in delicate attentions and noble service,
the stronger and more satisfying, and more
blessed it will be-.
The house becomes home only when love
drops its heavenly mama in it fresh every
day, and the true marriage VOW is made not
once for all at the altar, but by loving words,
and helpful SERVICE and delicate attentions to
the end.
ADVANTAGES OF THE ssNO FENCE LAW.''
The "no fence law" is in operation in four
townships in this (Mecklenburg) county. The
law went into effect in March, when the peo-
pie were busy preparing to plant the present
crop. Nearly all succeeded in getting suffi'
cient pasture fenced for the stock kept on
their premises.
The law works admirably. The thought of
never again having to scratch our hands with
hriars and thorns, and tangle our feet with
grape vines while mending our old dilapidated
fences, is too good to entertain one moment
without almost shouting for joy. While those
who work on the old plan of fencing up their
fields, will be busy this winter making rails,
hauling and building them on their crazy fen
ces, we will be clearing up our rich fence rows
for a luxuriant crop another year. And while
they are paying out their money for these re-
pairs we are spending the same in compost
heaps, clover lots, and fall and winter plough
ing
Instead of being disadvantage to croppers,
it has proved the very reverse. The land
owner sees it is to his advantage to provide
his croppers with sufficient amount Of pas
ture for all their stock. If, however, any one
should fail to do this, his more just and wise
neighbor will have the refusal of his hands.
When this law first went into effect, many
of the freedmen threatened to leave the town.
ship; but they are here yet, and until it can
be clearly shown that the negro has an uncon-
querable desire to maui, haul and build rails,
we think he will very likely remain where he
is. Nearly all the trouble we had was on the
line. Some said the fence would be burned
down; others that it would be thrown down
and not allowed to stand but, as far as we
know, not single trespass on it has been
made. Outsiders keep up the fence to save
their stock from the penalties of the inside
law. Insiders keep it up to save their crops
from the depredations of outside stock.
Many persons feared that in fencing up
pastures, country roads would be obstructed
by gates; but, on the contrary, it has almost
totally annihlated the gate system. No wise
man will make his pasture on both sides OF
the road, knowing that the first careless trav'
eler may cause stock to run at large on his
own farm.
Country roads can be so arranged by the
generosity of land owners. as to shorten the
former routes Of travel at least one-third.
When farmer wishes to drive his wagon
over his premises, he is not troubled with the
old system of laying down and putting up
fences. By cutting a few bushes along some
of those places we call glades (Which before
were not worth fencing up,) he can NOW loads
of hay. Hundreds of acres can now be culti-
waited, which before could not be proftably
fenced. A poor man can now buy piece of
land and live comfortably on it, although
there may not be rail tree upon it.-Char'
lotte (N. CO. Democrat
THE SOUTHERN PIANTER.-There must,
and will be, radical change in the conduct
of the next generation of planters. The
younger men are, I think, convinced that it
is mistake to depend on Western and North:
ern markets for their daily consumption, and
for nearly everything which goes to make life
toerable. But the elders, grounded by life:
time of habit in the methods which served
them we'll under a slave regime, but which are
ruiuous nowadays, will never correct them
selves. They will continue to bewail the un'
fortunate fate to which they think themselves
condemned-or will rest assured that they