Nashville union and American. [volume] (Nashville, Tenn.) 1868-1875, 1874-05-17
A W0MAN'S DIARY.
New York Times, May II.

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Chambers, General Term. Gen. An
thon, counsel for the defendant, con-
tinued the cross-examination of Mrs.
Brinckley. She related how she had
Travelled from place 70 place under the
name of Mrs, Lawson, sometimes in
company with Mr.. Brinckley, and at
others alone, or with some other es-
cort. In st. Paul she stopped at the
international Hotel, registering as
Mrs. Lawson. Mr.. Brinckley was not
with her at that time, but she met some
old friends, and joining their party,
went to Minneapolis. In that city she
lived three months, staying at the
principal hotels. There she was known
and introduced as Mrs. Lawson. AZ
ter leaving Minneapolis she returned
to st. Paul. At this point she was in
terrupted IN her testimony 10 permit
Mrs. Harriet Blanchard to be sworn,
as she wanted to 60 out of town on an
afternoon train. Mrs. Blanchard testi-
fed that she kept a boarding house in
Sixteenth street, at Broadway and
Union square. Bayard Taylor and other
well known gentlemen had boarded
with her. In the summer of 1864, Mr.,
Brinckley called and engaged board
and rooms for himself and his wife.
The terms were agreed upon, and their
baggage was sent around to the house.
When Mr.. and Mrs. Brinckley reached
the house, Mrs. Blanchard met them
in the hall. Mr.. Brinckley stepped
forward and introduced the complain
ant to Mrs. Blanchard as his wife. At
another time Mr.. Brinckley came to
her and asked whether she could tell
MN where his wife was.
At the close of Mrs. Blanchard's ev-
ldence, Mr.. Brown, counsel for the
complainant, arose and said that he
held in his hand journal which had
been kept by Mrs Brinckley, record
of some Of her thoughts and acts. He
would read extracts which would be in
troduced as evidence in the case. In
the journal of July 5, 1865, the writer
says that when they MIR. and Mrs.
Brinckleyl are in Europe she tends to
acquire German and Italian. As soon
as Hugh that is Mr.. Brinckley) sells
his cotton in Canton, she viii again be
united 10 him. She bewails her lone
illness, and frequently speaks Of her
deep love for her husband.
Under date of Aug. IA, 1866; she
quotes from Byron and Bacon, and
speaks of ill-assorted marriages. "Well
may many repine at their condition.
Unhappy marriages are common every
where, and IN ali classes, but neverthe-
less the marriage relation is still con-
tinued, and is upheld and honored in
all countries. 1t is the manner of con-
tracing marriages that causes so much
Unhappiness. But few are based upon
the true principle Of a complete inter
change of feeling of true love. Some
marry for hpusekeeper, and some to
obtain home. Some marry a nurse,
who may gently soothe their sick hours.
Many marry for riches, and more for a
social position. Many yield to the in.
fuence of friends and refuse to consult
their own feelings in the interchange
All these marriages are nearly certain
to result IN calamity, unhappiness and
separation. The woman who unitS
herself to a man whom she does not
love, though the ceremony be solemn
lied by thousand priests, commits q
sin in the sight of God, and perfumes
herself by promising to love, honor and
obey man for whom she does not feel
the slightest affection. One reason of
this Is, because young women know so
little OF the world as it really
Is. The trash that young people
read at the present day is so emo
tional, 50 devoid of truth, and filed
with false and exaggerated opinions
and ideas, that they soon begin to con-
tract those opinions, and loOk upon all
things connected with love and the
married state with a false, romantic
view. Young persons believe that to
fall IN love is to be happy, and to Sc
cure the object of their desires by mar
riage is to insure a life of unalloyed
happiness. With the adult woman it
is different. She will not suffer her af-
fections to be engaged unless she be
certain that the man is worthy of her
regard. Many men go into ecstasies
over beautiful eyes, a well-rounded
arm, a fair face, luxuriant growth OF
hair Sometimes they marry these
charms, and soon find that q single
pimple has destroyed their love. How
many men have been won by single
grace" She continues by saying that
she believes that Hugh really loves her
He tries in every way to make her hap
Ply. He has won her love, and she did
not love him half so well at first as she
now does. 1t is the duty of every
woman to please her husband. No
woman can be happy without she makes
her husband happy. She always desir.
ed to be pleasure to her husband. She
closes that entry by saying, ''God grant
that we may soon be together"
Under date of Aug. Is, 1865, she
speaks of a Col Sawyer, who has made
many gallant speeches to her which she
did not like. She says, in conclusion,
that she does not care how much mar
loves her, nor how many adore her
but when man begins to talk at her,
then she does not like it. She was will
ing that all the men should love and
adore her if they did not express that
love and alteration to her by words.
On the Odd of August she again
writes that Hugh sends his letter with
a kiss to baby. Hugh would be so de-
lighted to have a child. There is nc
tie between married persons like a
child The affections center mutually
upon their offspring, and bridge is
formed between the parents hearts
that nothing can break down OF
weaken.
st the ST. Charles Hotel in New Or
leans, Aug. %, she writes: Hugh let
for Canton to-day. When Hugh is at
home she has nothing to do but to
please him. He spends all his time
with her at home. and they do nothing
but eat, drink, sleep, and love. She
speaks of her loneliness in the great
hotel, knowing no one, but feels better
satisfied than in St. Louis. She goes
on to say Hugh leaves nothing undone
that could in any way contribute to his
wife's happiness. In New York all was