New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1874-08-11
PASTORS AND PEOPLE.

A MANS VIEWS ON THEIR IMPROPER RELATIONS
THE sACREDSEss OF THE MARRIAGE RELATION.
To the Editor OF The Tribune.
SIR: There is something wonderfully i'm
prCssye TO 10 the Olden injunction Whom God has
joined let no man put asunder, and there Is deep
lesson in it which venture TO say has never been pro-
muigated from any pulpit IL IS that the relation OF
husband and wife should sacred and involaOe, not
to interfered with any degree by human being
H. as believe 1t intended that marriage should
be entered into the most solemn and mOmenous step
in nenot taken merely because two people. under the
influence OF lmpulsve sentiment believe they can DE
happy together because, after trying and proving
themselves they know that they cannot be happy With
out each other: II, believe, It was intended that
marriage when contaminated should be dissolved
for one reason only that the husband and wife
should be one In the sight Of God then certainly for
any one the position OF mediator or adviser
husband and wife. crime, and for either
husband or wife seek accept such mediation Is
violation OF the very OF the marriage covenant
firmly believe that 10 was intended that the conf
OF husband wife should be for each Other only
that every question: every difference in opinion or con-
vlctions. no how trivial the question or differ
ence should be made the subject OF consideration De
tween themselves exclusively, and never under any
pretext be carried elsewhere. II husband or wife can
take counsel as against other in any matter even
the smallest 81 domestic details OF any one be 1t the
relative, the closest friend the sacred unity Is
broken and unhappness is sure 20 follow.
II these premises true follows that the relations
which exist churches between the minister aud
MS pensioners false and pernicious. mean 10y
such atoms, ministerial visits the female members
OF the IN the absence OF their husbands and
family cOuidences the minister under the
idea with many that minister by virtue OF his
office IS the proper recipient OF condolences. be-
eye that there radically wrong IN all this
and that people beginning TO realize the fact
II vii. not be denied think, that would be clearly
wrong r any other than minister TO visit other
mems wive. in their husbands absence wrong If for
no other because both parties would be exposed
Diso0nstrucon and scandal. venture 70 say that
no right minded least OF all married man, would
make such visits aud thar right minded woman would
desire such This being 20 laymen, Is there any
thug that renders proper and rsht for minister TO
make such receive sucn cOnhdenccs Minis
tiers neither less than men, they belong 70
pro- OF which It more be SAID that ali It's
members are pure and because the profession
high one than It can ma said that all la Tyers are
honest and honorable because the aim Of the law Is to
secure justice.
They have more claim 20 exemption from the OPP
GRAFTON VI the great principle Of nonlnererence De-
tween husband and wife than any other man or woman
IN the community They should DO the last people IN
the world, judged by their professions VINO should De
Instrumental IN putting asunder what God mas JOIned
Tie doctrine mat the minister u the proper dnd SAFE
attIser family matters Is tue dangerous doctrine Of
the cOuf. 5sIylal, makes Of man more than man eau
ever claim amt Is snare and temptation 10 those
who by reason of weakness most readily De cOu-
WINGED that there something meritOrlOus IN seeking
advice, who stand most In need OF protection
against temptation. 10 Is de 70 say mat suth Nt"s
are pruts; instances where good hds resulted
from suen minis eral offices manY and the evil re-
slt- few ". are not taught seek tempt atom tha;
We may resist H. bat pray that We may not DO led
into temptation.
ffy 81 the marriage relation, ana keep fr from our
lives aud homes The opportunity FOR evil. should De
cherished the SHE "a OK honor which should De dearer
fbql MO e.. ".
Nsr York, Aug 10. io-i