Saint Mary's beacon. [volume] (Leonard Town, Md.) 1867-1983, 1874-01-15
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Whether this ann vas.to be. largss foy
smaller was q matter Of secondary impof-
takceA,hat must depend on thc s6eSsie
daassylsS lirssfL Lbas The cseentiaf sAs~S
was thasit shsaldnsoms 10 tho xia asse@
i.rly. % that she shpsll nos morg lAyasR
make special request for n than her
husband would have to ask her Toe M
dinner This ladys own husband xas.
as happen to know. Of a most cenefess
disposition. Vas devotedly attached ,ehsr
and denied her nothing. ..,.ts.g,,.
She herself was most accurate and
careful m snager. There was everything
in the household 10 make the financial asS
rangemcn,s fow smoothly. ietshe saA
to mc :, Il suppose no man can possibly
understand hoy sensitive woman, shrinks
from asking Pr money. If I can prevent
il. INV daughter shalt never have 10 ash
it blf,hcy do their duty rs wives and
mothers. they have a right TO their share
of the joint income. within reasonable
limits; for certainly. no money could buy
the services they render Moreover. they
have a right to share in determining what
those reasonable LIMITS are"
Now i, is so happened that I had nv
self gone through an experience which
enabled me perfectly 70 comprehend this
feeling. In carly life vas for time ID
the employ Of q kind friend who paid M
fair salary. but At definite periods; l
was at liberty to ask him for money vhcu-
cycr needed it. This seemed to me, 10
advance. a mos, agreeable arrangement:
bat found it qui,c otherwise. hproved
to be vcry disnerecablc to ask for monss,
it made every dollar seem special favor,
i, brought up all kinds Of misgivings as
to whether he could spare it without in-
conveu;crcc; whether he really thoagh
my services vorth it. and so on. My EN-.
ployer was thoroughly upright and no.
Die man, and was much attached to him,
DO not know that 10 ever refused or
dcmurred when asked FOR money. Til"
annoyance was simply in rhc process at
asking. and this became so great that
often underwent serious Inconvenience
rather than ask. Finally. at the years
end, surprised my friend very much by
saying that would accept. IL necessary.
a lower salary. on condition that it should
be paid on regular days. aud as matter
Of business. The wish was at once grant
ed, with the reduction; and my employer
probably never knew wha. rcliSf it vas
to me- .'
Now il young man is liable to feel
this pride and reluctance towards mcr"
employer. it is cnsy to understand how
many women may feel the same even in
regard to a husband. Aud fancy that
those who feel it most are often the most
conscientious and high minded womcn.-
II is unreasonable to say Of such persons.
"Too sensi,iver' "Too fasiidious s'--.
For il is this very quality Of finer sensi-
,iveucss which men affect TO prize IN wo-
men, and wish to protect at all hazards.
The very fac. that husband is generous;
the very fact that bis income is limited:
these may bring in conscience and g'a'i.
tude to increase the restraining influence
Of pride, aud make the wife less willing
to ask money Of such husband than X
he were a rich msn or mean one. The
only digui6ed position in which a man
can place his wife is to treat her ut LEASE
as well as he could treat n hOusekeeper.
and give her the comfort OF a perfectly
Gear and definite arrangement as TO mon.
ey matters. She will not then be under
the necessity Of ncrving herself to solicit
from him as favor what she really needs
and has right 20 spend. Nor will shc
bc-Acr.uring herself. on the other side.
with the secret fear lest she has s.kea
too much and more tan they can really
spare. She will in shor'. be in the posi-
ton Of a woman enl wife, 10. Of child
or toy.
have carefully avoided using the word
".llowance" in what have said, because
that word SEEMS 70 imply the untruc anl
mean assumption that the money is al the
husbands 10 give or withhold as hc vii.
Yet have heard this sort OF talk from,
mcn sho were living on wife $ property.
or a wi!e's earnings; from men such ~
keepers Of boarding houses. who worked
n little, while their wives worked bard ,
| and from men. snch rs farmers. who work.
cd bard and made their wives work hMd-
er. Even in cases where the wife has n"
direct part in the money making. the in
direct part she performs. If she takes faith
full charge Of her household. is 30 essen
iial. SO beyond all compcnsation in men :
ey. taat it IL an. utter shame and iinpcr-
t;uence in the husband when he speaks ol
"civins' mnuey to his wife as II !, were
an &C, Of favor.
/ I, i. M more an act Of favor than when
I the business maAsger of = drm pays oa'
money 10 The rnscen partner who directs
the indoor business or runs the machine.
rv. Re the jOins income more or less.
the wife has a ciai'a to her aonorsble
share. and that ss n matter ofrigit. w,th-
on, the daily ignoriny Of sanding in a PC
ti,ion for.
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