The Democratic advocate. [volume] (Westminster, Md.) 1865-1972, 1874-02-07
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UNDER BONDS.

S@NS3@AN SSAA0S'
II is the custom of society to exact
"bonds" from those whom it entrusts with
public Office or with general or particular
confidence. Everybody is required in
some form or other to "giye security, aud
all do this, whether they are aware of it
Or not. All, we mean, who are successful
in life give some guarantee that they may
be trusted Perhaps this is a fact not
very complimentary to human integrity,
but it shows human wisdom. The best
Security description of "bail' not legal
IL recognized, but all the more sure for
hat, is furnished by marriage. A mar
bed man is usually regarded as more to
be depended upon than bachelor. The
bachelor may drift where fancy or impulse
prompts. The married man, if not abso-
ntely anchored, is always under Sailing
directions" He has responsibilities which
be cannot throw overheard He has the
comfort and happiness Of others in his
Keeping; and in everything he undertakes
i required to answer to those whose inter.
sst he has identified with his own. To
eturn to the first metaphor, his wife is his
ecurity. Circumstances favoring or per-
hitting, mans family is the best war
faut he can offer for the due performance
bf his obligations to others. Here, by the
way, it may be noticed, that no disrespe,t
is intended to bachelors We are speak
ing Of general rules and opinions and
whie we would by no means insinuate a
word against the unmarried fraternity, or
intimate that a man has not perfect
right to remain single, If he has not the
heart to do otherwise-(h heart standing
either for courage or for a6ection)-it
must be conceded that bachelors have the
hardest time of it. They do not give that
kind Of security for their good behavior
shich the great married portion of the
Forld demands. And since they stand
purely on their single merits, they must
FORK the harder to establish their individ-
i responsibility. Their promises to So
ety are like what is known in business
zone name notes"
But your married man has always an
dorser. He is under bail and under
nds You know where to find him.
ven the choice between two men, one
hrried and the other not, all other things
ling equal, and the married man usually
3 the preference. No greater compli.
Pnt could be paid to the female sex than
Is, and Il has, moreover, what all CON-
ments have not, the basis Of truth to
l upon. In these remarks the writer is
ffectly aware that in some respects he
stating rather what should be than what
billy is. For the advance Of luxurious
bits and snowy living has put difficulties
the way Of many who would otherwise
glad to fulfil their destiny and Sind
eir fate" in wives or husbands. It is
ID, despairingly, that at the present rate
living young men cannot afford to be
rried. Then the way of living must be
ong. For to get married is one Of the
pst natural things in the world. To
e extravagantly, inventing suggestions
nts, is unnatural.
The wise men in Congress are saying a
pat deal just now of economy and re-
nchment. The same themes have been
hionable topics everywhere since that
fortunate crash Of last autumn. Wheth-
anything will come out of the Congress
NAL talk is doubtful; but that every
hdividual citizen in his own business may
pnsult prudence is certain. Is II not a
pod time, When the talk Of economy is
fashionable, to consider the subject in
bmmittees Of ticof In these committees
be party of the one part--he-might abate
his bachelor notions Of extravaganza upon
himself; the party of the other part-she
-should lessen her estimates Of the cx-
ense Of housekeeping. The most natural
elation in the world, that of welded life,
as been sophisticated and made unnat-
&ral. Time was that John Anderson and
Is mate "clamb the hills together" and
I'D many "canty time" Nov, in many
ses, John must climb alone, aud get ut
J very top before she will listen to him.
1t mot good time to go back to 6rst
inciples, and let the "help-meet" take
"a while there is occasion for her help
course many people who have minds
"a purposes of their owa, and are not
ite submissive TO the conventional follies
"A the hour, do take this wise course.
nd they are the successful people in the
@orld, husband and wife working their way
b together, and enjoying every acquisi-
[ion all the more that il is the result Of
Eheir joint economy and diligence.
Injudicious, ill-assorted aud hasty mar