The Newberry herald. [volume] (Newberry, S.C.) 1865-1884, 1874-07-29
THE DRUNNARD'S WIFE.

who Is the wife and the mother
If she be patient, unselfsh, loving,
and true. she can alleviate the dis
treSSes and hcighten the joys Of
the household, past ali calculation.
IF these characteristics be wanting
in her, no skill on the part Of the
other members Of the family: no
comforts which wealth purchases,
can make the household o happy
family. The wife is the pivot on
which all turns.
These admitted facts ought to
make every husband and child do
every possible thing to sweetep
the temper ofthe wife and mother,
to relieve her as far as practicable
OF the burdens which press her, to
remove all obstacles from her way.
and surround her with an atmos-
phere sweet. wholesome and cx-
hiIarating. When We men and
boys have done all We can for her
who is wife and mother, her lot is
hard one. Coarse natures un.
deryalue womanhood, andits great
privations and suiferings. Coarse
men and boys think that they
have the hard side of life, while
"the women," which means wife,
mother, and sister, are only re-
cipients of the results Of the labors
Of "thc men," which means these
great husbands, fathers, and bro
theirs.
1t is time for US to learn better.
Let Young America know that his
sisters can do much better with.
out him than he can without them,
although each sex is necessary to
the completion of the other. Men
are much more helpless beings
than women. It is the women
who make the atmosphere Of
home. But they are very depend
ent on the men. A good husband
helpsa good woman TO be good
wife. A bad husband may cause a
good woman to become a bad
wife. If a sister disturbs her bro.
theirs, life may it not be because
he has embittered hers? We steep
bitter herbs in a fountain, and
| then complain that waters thereof
are not sweet. Think Of woman's
lot. She has to endure all things
and keep still.
Reflect upon what a drunkard's S
wife must endure. She has to at
tend to all domestic duties, and live
without the support and love Of
her husband. In addition, she
must bear the modification which
falls to the lot Of one whose mate
is the slave of - oesotting vice.
Then she is in constant trepida-
ton lest her husband commit some
disgraceful and destructive crime
while be is in state Of inebriation.
She knows that he cannot succeed
in business, and cannot rise in his
profession as q drunkard. cannot
be trusted, however honest his na-
ture. She knows that it is a down.
hill course. 1t may be slower or
faster, but it is a constant descent.
She must increase her exertions
to make and to save, as he increas-
ingIy squanders.
Amid all selfsacrifce, and most
strenuous effort to keep the fami.
ly together, and to maintain de.
cency of appearance, she knows
that all her ingenuities, sacrifice
painstakings, must 60 without the
reward Of appreciation. 1t is al
ways well for . man to set for him.
self the rule Of doing right, be.
cause it is right, and without re
gard TO any rewards it may secure
or may miss; yet God has so made
US that we desire our virtues to be
appreciated.
Every husband knows how he
is sustained and cheered in hls
work by the reflection that his wife
appreciates all his labor in behal.
Of herselfand the family. Womer
seem to need loves appreciation
more than men do, 1t is only tht
worst portion oftheir sex to whom
admiration seems more desirable
than love. The world may be ig
norant Of what a good wife is do
ing.
If her husband only knows il
and admires it, and praises her 70
: it, she is content. How long SD
: will work at pair Of slippers, o
> a smoking.jacket, or a foot-res;
: feeding her heart on the delightfu
: expectation of seeing the gratld
l cation Of her husband When b
; discovers what she has been doin
e for him. A drunkard's wife ha
S none Of this. He isgrowing MOI
and more besotted. Less and lie!
he perceives the beauty of ht
1 character and behavior, as bis sci
b sibilities rocome bluuter and bluI
S ter; what is it to him how thing
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