The Jackson standard. [volume] (Jackson C.H., Ohio) 1847-1888, 1873-02-27

criminal and fatal violence of husbands
toward wives, and of wives toward hus-
bands which the parties excuse on the
score of "lncompatibility." But the wri-
ter rushes at railway speed to the con-
elusion that this disease Is entirely mod
eFni new development in the social
body and symptomatic of moral degen-
eracy The thing was not heard of in
old times. Our grandfatlfefs and grand /
mothers had no better natures than we.
have and business was as exas sperating,
an1st ae4kiteheH and nurseFy were as tTEF-ll
ing. In their day as in our own. But they
lived together in perfect bliss, and the
demon of "incompatibility" was never
heard OF in their time This, the writer
concludes, was because the marriage
bond was regarded as inexorable New
times have brought new notions which
have found their chief lodgment in the
brains of women. The men of to-day are
as good as their gPandfathers, and would
hold to their marriage for better or
for woFse, although in innumerable in
etancRsgtt1eya have oIItgrown- their wives
and find burden where they bafgained
for help-meet- But women, when they
fancy a husband is not to their liking
pronounce him intolerabIe, and would
break the sacred bond by a divorce or a
dagger. And then We are asked if this
1e because man 5 sense of obligation is
atrohgerg than swomans, and a score of
other questions equally pertinent, or i'm
pertinent the reader may chance to
feel shout them sss io1 -. ez-I ~
IL is little unfortunate that the yri-
ter did not make sure of the facts before
he made his deductions. The fact is that
the trouble and violence which, in our
day Fesuit from what as called incompati-
shii7ty, como for the most part from the
husband. II more women than men APP
ply for divorce it Is because more women
than men are driven to that extreme
measure for self-protection against abuse.
injustice, irritation, and insult. 1t is
very easy for the Tribune to tell US that
these fne-mannered, gentlemanly men
who have outgrown their wives, and find
themselves yoked to duA animals, or
chSldFen who Willebe jeGky and silly even
in white hair, bear their yoke with inf
mite patience and put up with the pratt
tie OF t-eir partners at home with a grace
which saints might envy perhaps the
Tribune knows of such instances. 1t is
wonderfully easy for the OK that has eat
en- his fill in the clover-held, to put up
with short commons in the stall. But
evegySinStapce it. will bring here the,
mad Bas sui4eretl in sileneeNOn hiss wife .
account, we will venture to match with
two in which the woman has suffered
tEAIhaa husband she has srnoTalIy if not
intellectually outgrown, and from whose
tneetmealt=shezhasste 30 saffeFzelailyz martyr
dom. The boot that pinches is ON the
other foot.
But it is all .modern-this incompati-
bility businessi Ask the old people, read
the plfk psyepaperss bprowy'nte seld'
beo4zs, get thofoughly- @acquaifted a With
the actual life OF the old time. and you
find the same elements as now, onfy-1ess
developed and acutely felt. But why 2
Simply Ebecause our gtandmothe efss and
great -grandmotllefs were held IN a 5 tate.
Of social subsection which rendered ex
preston impossible. The woman of a
century ago was drudge She had no
culture. She read no books to speak OF.
ThErF wereEn9 iniaepces appealing to
her reason, and taste, and moral aspira
tions, and social sympathies- Her whole
life was one Of repression. She was
taught from the cradle to the grave that
che Mad no individuality of her own, that
she was made to serve and please and en-
rich another and put her life into iclIitd-
rem which he could dispose of at will
NFttl1ant hee eofAent Shesya1s q polite 6
saT, legal, intellectual noneI1tfty and was
bound by law and religion to submit to
her husbands will The idea of a Voc
man so circumstanced talking about in
-cofDpatibilityE Is an af3Gci4roAisIn- The
whole thing is utterly preposterous. But
because the thing was not ktalked about.
let no one conclude that it did not exist.
sd -enoug h to mHixe the heart sick AL
most every old mansion has skeleton
closet. You cannot walk through an old
graveyard without stumbling over the
mounds heapeG alpon broken hearts and
hillocks that hide unuttered tragedies.
Yes Modern lincoln patti bihtyh I'VE
glory in the fact 1t is something to
have Attaine eosaF state of society in which
the diseases that are most fatal when
they feed upon the heart are drawn te
the surface, where they can be studieo
and cured. Wonan is partially emanci
pated, and partially eduea ted, tooGTh ami
Heaven for so much She begins to fee
the. dignity, the tgortf,T the esaerednese
of her individuality. She begins to re
fuse to be the silent slave of an ignorant
sensual, depraved man, who drags hi.
deftgnTgrt intor her presence, and poi
lutes the sanctuary of home with yict
and violence. She begins to see that thi
obligations of the maFriage contract art
mutual, and yhep he breaks the chair
by the broken links. she begins to5se,
that when two parties naturally and in
evitably grow apart they naNst pull upoi
each other the more they grow and i
one party refuses to hold TO the. othe
and fill the breaslfSiith skindly Office
and sweet affections laws, which ar
stronger than the human wil.-must as
sert themselves at the last and leave tn
naarHiage-bQna Ffsut O rhOllow moelsery
rAndth5s isSshat nlodornJ inc opnpatibi
ity" means
But this modeFhg gSiheompatibility u
merely an incident. 1t grows out of tn
wantTof Rdjustmen b between circuu
stances and Character Our people seer
to fancy that old customs viii do for ne
times, and insist upon dragging the TT.
ditions, and habits, and laws, and restri
tionssof other days downginto an altere
state of things. This is not the worl
that our grandfathers lived in. The
marriage code is NO more suited to OF
intellectual and moral condition tina
their breeches are to our legs. The mo-
ern woman is no longer ignorant nor
slave Subsection Is no Longer. her ID
nor submission her duty. Our word
enltlre, hheTtvs growth. The ffst rrsu
Of this in inherited marriage e atoms
occasionally Instances Of incompatl tliit
When q man who maAss@F Axturesfinl
that his pretty domestic app1rteraIr
thinks, apd feels, and reads, and cri
s-eises bis speech and eonduet by high
tskandard than his ewn and refuses
huInor all his childish whims, and vie