, 1873-03-23

aaushter after she is 20 years old, becomes less On
DeF in lis ctsee Of acquaintance, ma many W unarTis mn
. . women, between the ages Of 30 and 90, pei
tips oer even ,r.o;ar' olsr' who have practically
own lives than they had when they were lit :.
I'll; It Is seally monstrous m s., Trons but It seems to
those who arc most responsible for it, It perhapa
question whether the real tysannies in this life
those that sTo accredited such. There ccrtanl
more than even tyrants know
In the ideal household OF father cnd mother arr
sdu children, the one great aim Of tho parents ou
| freedom and independence which they have misset
the opportunity Of SECURING In ho1cs Of their own
The loss Of this thing aloue Ia btterer drop II
the loneliness Of many al unmarried woman than pa
rents c:pcct-!!y fathers rpt even to dream,
and clothes. aud lodgings are SO exalted in unhnkng
| estimates.
III: H. as she SAYS, has been hopeless
knight~errant of oppressed bo7hood all her life,
S'BoYa NOT ALLOWED"
il ono OF the brightest Of her talks. We give it
entire;
long, with large black letters oa whito ground
"Boys not allowed" looked ut 1t for moments
IN soF Of bewde5ed snFprito: m did oGs quite com
stood It. WAS whiting IN large railway staucn where
many trains connect, and mozs Of the passengers
| from the train in which WIZ wero eating dinner
In hotel near by. entirely alone III the car,
| with tho exception Of one boz, who perhaps II
years old. made an involuntary ejaculation Al read
va NOs N"eN~N N~
"Litne boy,"eatd I, solennIy, " do you that
! sign ?"
He turned his head, and, reading the onuous wnrn-
ing, nodded his head, but said nothing:
"Boy, what does It mean ~ said T. BoFs mnEt be
allowed 10 come into this railway station There are
two standing In the doorway directly under the
sign" ., ,,..
He left his seat, and, coming to mine, edged in past
and, putting his head out Of tho window, read the
sentence aloud II contenptuous tone. Then he Of
/ fcrHd which took and he proceeded to
tell ne VIA. be thought Of the sign
tis everywhere but the sign up before.
Il don't make any difference though. whether they put
the sign up or not. Why, in New York tyou live in
cars for boy 10 gel en. Nobody thinks anythfngM
! hurt a. boy; but .hey5e glad enough to 'nllow' US
| "Do you live In New York I" interrupted I for
did not wish to hear the poor fellows list Of naerea.
which knew by heart beforehand without bis telling
having teen hopeless knght-erraot Of oppressed
Yes, he lived IN New Fork, and he "went to
school" and he had I" two sisters" And
Se talked on that sweo ready trnstfui talk which
natural; only from childrens lips, until the
"twenty minutes for Refreshments" we're and ho
dinners In Tint breath Of time, hurryng back to
their eeats- Among them CAME the father and mother
II hs Where @ s
~Eow, where ts Tint boy7 Just Ike him! We might
haze & Ioss eTeEy one Of these h nags gs:oa ~. .,.,
~ could See the bags all the time Nobody camc
into the car"
al told not to leave the seat sir. What do you
mem By such conduct !" ea:d the father.
Oh, no, papa" said poor Boy, "you only told me
came into bis ace which told oaiy Too vel 1 un-
dor how severe regime he lived. interposed hastiy
"I ~. afraid Am the cause Of your little soma lear-
ing hs seat. He had very still till spoke to him
and helievoI ought to take al tie blame"
The parents evidently uncu1tured, shallow peo-
ple. Their irritation with him was merely surface
Ve1aon, which had no real foundation in deep prIn
cple. They became complainant sad amiling at my
FIRST wo-d and Boy escaped with look Of great relief
to another seat where they gave him simple luncheon
Of eaIcratus gingerbread "Boys not allowed"
sell ard upon that text sat sadly taedliat1ng al tho
way from Springfield to Boston.
How true 1t was as the little follow had said, that
" it don't make any difference whether they put tho
sign up or not!" No one can watch carefully any
average household where there arc boys md not
th1t thero thousand little ways il which boys'
comfort freedom preference will be dsregardcd when
the grls' will be considered This s partly Intentional
edy the advantage OF making the boy realize early
and keeny tha. manhood ia to bear aud to work, and
womanhood IL to be helped and sheltered But this
should be ncucaed, not inflicted asked, not seized
shown and explained, not commanded. Nothing esn
be than the growth in boy of tender chyarous
Of it be rightly and gently nuztured. But the
coruQon method ia quite other tunn t1is It begins
too harHhly, and at once with assertion or assump-
ton:
mother never thinks aza Of any consequence"
sad deaF n boy to me, the other day. She's all for
This was not true; but there was truth in it, And
am very that tho seldshness, the lack Of real
courtesy, which We go plainly and pitiaby IN the
behavior OF the Average yotng today Is the slow,
certain result of of Just such feelings this child
expressed. The boy has to scramble Tor his rights.
Naturally, he ia too busy to think much about the
rights Of others. The keeps up the habit and
negatively selfish without knowing tt. |
Take for instance, The one point OF the minor cour.
testes Ut dare to call any courteses minor} Of
daily intercourse. How many people there |
who hnbitually speak to . boy Of 10, u, or IA, |
&r o{.&
or cider?
~ like Mis- said this same dear boy 10 me-
All never is one such word thrown away on Il low
ing open-hearted boy. Men know that safe through
al tho wear and tear Of life theT keep far greener the
memory Of some woman some man who WAS kind
to them In their boyhood than Of tho friend who helped
or cheered them yesterday.
Dear. blessed noisy. rolllcting, tormenting, COM
much like, without suspccting It, his breezy pres
ence in the housel Except for him, how would er-
stoned out OF our way, letters carEiea, t#Ino and
knives kept ready, lost things found, luncheon
meeting butterflies, and BIRDS ness, and brch-bar
got, the horse taken round to the stabie borrowed
Dear. patient, busy Boy! Shall ne not someumes
answer his questions7 Give him comfortable seat
Wait and not reprove him till after the company has
gone Let him Near bis best Jacket, and buy him
laf as many necktes hi5 sister has Give him
loney even II there is not enough to 60 round Lis
en- oleraby to his little Dragging, and hep him do"
lii su1na7
With .udden shrn scream the engine slipped OF
N rldersck aud the glided into tho greatgrtu
ty-staon, looking a Tue grimmer for its tsnf'ing
lights. Tho nns.eB Of people who were Whiting and
he masses OF people who had come nurged toward
sch other nhe two Rreat waves, and mingled in
nent. caught sight OF my poor little friend, Boy,
Glowing his fatheT, struggling along in the croxd,
arTyIng two heavy cs1pe-bags, q strapped bundle, |
nd two umbrellas and being sharply told to *Keep
ID close there"
"Hs" rail /, rayngel7, to myself, "doing porte7s'
7ork is not OF the things which tbo5s' are mot
uowed.'"
The last talk is called II
''wASTED-A HOME"
Club-llfe in Chicago hns not yet become tho
read destroyer Of wifely happineas that It is |
D New York aud London. bnt theee fell institu-
ions are multiplying, and, If Chicago wives {
ope to maintain successful rivalry with their i
ttractions, let them hasten to study II. H.'a'
lords Of wisdom Men, she says, "are vide
wake and gay at clubs and races, and sleepy ,
nd morose in their own houses; ''sons lead !
YES independent Of their fathers. and apart I
rom their sisters and mothers;" "girls run
bout as they please, without care or guidance" {
his state OF things is "a spreading social evil"
nd men are at their Wits end to know what is !
} be done about it, {