Rutland weekly herald. [volume] (Rutland, Vt.) 1859-1877, 1873-02-27
Written for the Rutland Herald
DiscipIine---'rhe True uetbos

Discipline---The True method.
Family discipline is based upon .r
thority. Unconditional obedience =.
children to their parents is demanded =
the very relation which God has ordains5
With this announcement, will rsf.,
to one important fact, which is too ofts,
overlooked in discussing this ouesfi,-
Obedience in the child is not ike ar.
love and faith, in8tinctice. Every chs
knows how to take his food, and ,p,r.
to his mother with instructive copfider,.
for protection and sympathy. in thebe,,
of fright and danger. Affection a..
springs up in his heart spontaneogar
He cannot be taught TO love bis motb..
Love and confidence are the native
stinct of every cbild's heart. But n,
so with obedience. The mother issor.
times grieved that her darling, 50 sfFs,
tionate, so confiding and 50 depen5sr,
does not always and instantly obey be-
wishes and commands. But I can t.n
her the reason. The child has no ns.-
raj impulse in that direction; has -
idea Of submission. The habit Of o5as
ence is yet to be created under pareas
discipline, and is wholly the work 81
education-
-. Hence, it must follow that insu5r
nation in the family is not 50 much "a.
fault Of the children as Of the p8raat.
Had the mother, fully CONSCIOUS Of b- .
right and duty in this regard, emplgr
her authority and strength to secure 70.
conditional obedience TO her comma1b
during the periods of infancy and eli.
hood, stubbornness would be unkn5r
in that family. Should she then beoa-.
angry with her children, for faults who
her own neglect has cultivated e.
encouraged ? The child must q.
taught obedience. The mother &.
failed to enforce that lesson, 81
hence, her disappointment and gas
Let her then, without delay, and al 81.
expense. correct this evil, and esta5
in her family the important princea
that it is the right and duty OF parent
to command, and Of children 20 0bsr.
And if this can be understood 'front.'.
beginning, gentle measures alone wu
secure the desired object. But pa-a.
in the exercise of mistaken kinl1a
sometimes fail to check the first illas
tions Of characterization, and thus IT,
control over their children. and laru
foundation for misrule and ruin WH
so often follows.
And how should this authority De ar
eIcisedI
The first object to be secured star-
vent the evil Of disObedience. An4H.
Is accomplished not by Threatening. z--
ging or bribery, but by gentle. geugu
and firm management. AutL0rityi1
family, like gravity in the mate-
world. must always be the c0ntroll
power. but it IS generally conceded
power behind the throne. - alwgu
acknowledged and constant il its il1..
enCe, but its sceptic IS invisible II oE--
ates without friction, and holds 10 s-'-
lection the conflicting and struggling
passions during the moulding and to--.
ING periods of childhood and youth
Authority IS mild ana gentle 81 ~
more effective aspects. Nael .-
mother makes it the basis Of her -aTa-a.
ment. it is not necessary for her 10 ~
sumo sternness and severity towards r
children. OF to command them 10 a5--
and abrupt manner. The more EeI.-
courteous and kind in her czpressla-s
the better. if it is understood hy then
as the mandate Of authority, to be l
stantly Obeyed.
The reasons for her requirements
be explained by the mother, when Sd.
can properly leave the child 70 re-=-
upon the course of conduct reCOmme-
ed. with a view of securing his approx.
But. if a question Of obedieDce =
pending, no reasons should be give
The principle Of simple submission .
authority must then be settled, and T-
ling obedience secured. Reasons sba-
never be given as inducements 10 cle-
ence. If the mother stops to parlpy viii
the rcbellious child, he viii surely -sa
the victory.
Nor is this doctrine inconsistent wis
indulgence. L AE llAtttAlE4 may --Aa.-
her children in all that is beneficial are.
harmless, and forbear with their faults
and vet exercise over them absolute as
supreme control Indeed this very. a
diligence strengthens her authority, a
when Justly and gently exercised CFs
them. il serves 10 increase their love an.
confidence in her But when mate-a
authority is sacrificed in an attempt
win and hold childish affection. ii i, 81
ways failure. The children enjoy. q.
the time the mothers excessive ln-rr
gence, but but soon learn her weakDes,
As years roll on insubordination h.
comes intolerable and severe pu1--
ments necessary. Then they come
view here imbecility with mingled t-e
tons Of pity and contempt.
Indulgence, without government, d
ways tends to this result and just le-
the mistake is made in family disclp.l-a
The only way to gain the lasting l1T
and gratitude Of children is 10 gar.
them.
Nor IS there any antagOnism betEe.-
free indulgence and absolute control g
course they must be restrained in ever
thing that is injurious or dangerous, a..
they may be Igrstified TO any extent, ala
safely, in everything that is harmless, 81
long as they cheerfully yield 10 ackno'-
edged authority.
Another principle of great impo-taa.e...
underlics family discipline. The e1.-
must never gain any desired object p
disobedicnce must never be gratlfe4 q.
doing wrong. The favOrs bestoTs-
must reward only fidelity and subms
sion. And still further, inconTenlele5
priyation or pain must attend and 10.
low every act of wrong doing. TN: ,
according to the Divine plan, after W1ls.-
family government should be models-
PARE1s.
CAKES AyfEs.-The committees ID
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