Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1873-03-20
Living Together.
From the Lady's Journal.

/. Dispositions differ TO such al ex-
tent, that for two persons to live to-
gether happily for ten, twenty, or
thirty years. would seem incredible,
did not occasional cases authenticate
the statement. BY living together
happily. we do not understand a
calm, passive existence, upbroken by
a single dissenting word or look, be-
cause persons who succeed in winning
such reputation are incapacitated for
happiness, since they can adapt them
selves to so stupid a mode of living.
Occasional differences Of opinion in-
dicate mutual vitality, and, when
backed by common sense and self
control, are no drawback to q peace
ful life.
Living together ip it's most impos-
tant relation-namely, the marital.
is an art which can only ripen into
perfection through the possession OF
certain requisites on. the part Of tile
wife. Among these an even temper,
a clear head. a certain pretehse, are
the most important.
AS wives, women can yield the
.sceptre, but must never let even the
tip end of it be seen. The secret lies
in quietly having II all their own
way, taking good care to let the enc
my think be is master of the posi-
tion. We use the word enemy here
to imply not enmity Of husband to
wife, but of man to womans assump-
ton of superiority, =
There are genuine good husbands,
and there are opposite extremes;
| These latter can be forced to be good
husbands, in spite Of themselves.
Men possess less stamina than is gen.
orally credited to- them, ana are so
easily moulded by feminine influence,
that good, loving wife can refine
and ennob'e the most hardened spe-
cimen of n husband if she studies
his pecuharities and lays seige to
them.
There are irritable men by nature
who are denied t..e privilege of be-
ing irritable. There are penurious
men; whose houses overflow with ev-
cry luxury money can purchase
They cannot understand themselves
they suspect this undertow Of power
but it is too strong for them, They
can find no reasonable cause of com
plant their homes are models of at
tractive comfort; they love to dwell
therein, they pine for them when alb
sent. Their slippers are always ready
for their weary feet at night; the
biscuits are nowhere so light, the cof.
fee nowhere so deleetable, as on their
OWN cosy breakfast tables; they are
the happiest of men, and all because
their wives have the sense to apply
military tactics to the household
regime, and reap the reward of their
management by living peacefully
with men, who, in the hands of les:
skillful women, would be simply de
testable. ,~.-.,y.. .
Without any disparagement to the
opposite sex-utterly 'discountenanc-
ing Mrs. Caudle, Xaniippe, and SIM.
liar viragos-we do protest against
any woman meriting "a husband I'LL
she knows how to manage. one.
| An old lady once. remarked to us
eff you ever have husband, re.
member three separate advices, which
7 have learned from experience
Never question him about his .busi
ness till he first breaches the sui 'ct
never trouble him with domestic af
fairs when you seea shadow on hi
face and last, always have his din.
ners smoking hot in the very nick o.
tine"
Matrimonial felicity would be
strikingly enhanced were these SEN
8 ble advices accepted aud follow I'D
1t in the delusion that. man is a
demi god to be fawned on and fatter-
el, but most complex mixture OF
good and evil. Simply held in dn-
rance, a formidable beast; but rightly
managed, a blessing to the. family
circle-a blessing TO the world