, 1873-09-14
SOCIAL SHAMS..
aho O1scomforts Attending Thom
Genuine Lives and Homes.


{" always indulge In tho truth, II possible,
remarked ono Of Hocioty's philosophers: "lt is
Buch boro to havo to live up to He, you
&now."
From which remark 1t would appear that,
George Washington having Departed and taken
his example Of voraoity assd economy with lin,
all idcn Of moral o1srayaganco has become at
4achod to the
LUXURY OF BEING GENUINE,
Eyory man believes, II lle woro only somo other
man, he would find It ensy to be wlnt ho pre-
tondoe. Tho bcggar at tho alloy-gato Is con-
vinced that, II fortune woro kinder to him, ho
could afford to 1.-Two au honest lifo but nj 1t is,
lo must rotiro bohind tho boarl-fouco, md tear
out a)eovo, aud othorwiao defaoo tho new coat
Just bestowed upon him, because tho
professional requirements of mondicancy vii
not admit Of his iudulging in comfortable
clothes. Tho lawyer, rising to bis foot, resolved
to uso his highest oloquonco to procure the ac-
-quittal Of tho prisoner, whom ho knows
to DO a fit subject for tho gnllows
fcela momontary loathing Of himsolf,
aud has an instantaneous conviction that, If
a man Is to DO truo to himself, lo muat DO
minister. On tho contrary, tile minister fcels
that tho ministry is tho only profession Which
will not allow q man to diatruBt HI opinion ho
AAa ouco rrofoBBod, OF BOG on old truth III new
light. 10 1t goes among all classea of mon. As
for woman. she Ii taught from childhood TINT
her social sucooas depends upon her akiltu!
Discrimination. She docs not expect anyone
to helioye IN tho integrity OF her chignon,
Or tue longevity Of her opinions
nrery lecture, book, and daily newspaper I'M
presses npon her tho necessity for artifico. sho
must, Oh no account, reveal hor ago. IA man,
says the witty provorb, Ills as old aB ho fools !;
but woman is as old nB she looka.' OF courso,
4hon, slo strives always to look young. somo-
times, bo It tgrnntcd, it is q pitiable spectacle,
but not 40 ropeilaut and farcical sight "a that
of CO., oar old man carefully combing lis scanty
and gray sidelocks ovor his bald crown, trim
ming his white beard into wouid-bo iaunty
mustacho, donning D bright-tinted butterfly
p sravat. and fondiy quoting tho aphorism, TINT
wuIna.,." We'll, tl!aL is true 1t ho is good mnn,
1nd doeent outlive lls mothor ind sstors.
1hon comes Punch with tho bon-mot. :" A
'Hifos secret; hor opinion Of hor husband"
Certainly. Why ghouIdn't sho keep it d socrot
Arc not tho boots eutitled, "Advice to Ladies'"
"Ilo Perfect Lady," IA Word on the Duties Of
Wives" etc., full of directions how 10 1naunge
. husband" Moreover, TINT word manage"
is always usod in that connection, aud IL u1l-
pleasantly suggestive Of tho tactics Of tho willy
Hlbernlan WHO, being met driving his pig to
market, and askod whittier lie was taking it,
responded aloud, ITO Dublin ~ cooruo," and
tloE added, In o haskily- whispered aside,
"shu1o aud its gon' to Cork that ne are; but III
desayin' the obstinate brute that a1n."
Yet with al this individual sacrifice to tho
falao, thoro III d universal
RESPECT Fon THE REAL,
md Society iB aB keen in its detection as It
il warm i'll itBreception. Tho man who is doing
his work. and doing it conscientiouHly il Buro Of
sympathy, admiration, mud assistance. The itin-
'erant scssors-grinlcr even has been known, by
his honest work, to overcome tho disadvantages
Of his aggrnyating bell, and establish local aud
lucrative reputation. Out in tho auhurbB, thoro
-ls acortaln Scandinavian minister who s pastor Of
apoorly-paying church, and who makoB it pnrt Of
his lsunrecompouscd work to find places for iguor-
mt Swedish mud Norwegian girls. III Ills capacity
Dl mediator between miatross and maid, his duty
calls lttn into handsomely furnished houses aud
into tho presence Of elegant ladies' and yet tho
shabby hat. his travcl~worn boots, and his plain
manner aud queer acceut, never fails to COM
mand moro. genuine respect than is paid to
many popular city pastor. So truo iB it that a
shows his own respect for it, others respect it
also. II he puts Ills work before himself, both
arc respccted; if ho puts himself before his
work. it is q mere chance if both arc not de-
eplhed. When tho orator has studied md maB-
torod oil the arts OF manners, dress, aud rhet-
oric, lie may be popular, aud yet not powerful.
Tho speaker WHO moves tho nlaBscs ID the one who
stands up boforo then forgetful that ho has
ity as tho man who described himself Bimply RS
" the roice of one crying in the wildorncss."
Effective women-Apeakors need and acquire this
faculty Of solt-forgctfnlncss in tho highest de-
audience, is mover still; III always flirting, fun
ming, slmporing, fidling, Whispering, and
doesn't ECO how any woman could get up there
and speak before all thoso peoplc. It seems 60
bold-doe6nt it2 Yet h1ina bravo doesn't Beom
to be at NIL afraid"
We'll, sllo isn't nfraid. She has something to
Boy to all those listeners which it ia important
iGf , thom to hear, ant'' whom she has ead it, slo
Drd 30 3au 1 tue na ntags t,e Now Hs Mummng
b continually wondering f Il her cri@ps "se we're
coming ont, II hor aounccs wore all shaken
down, If her dress was all right behind, and II
a l a II tue gallery o sa %r he
success M is, that, whon she Is spoahng, there is
Aonnces, nor any Charles Augustus.
Dnt tho gIontest advantage attending this liv-
ing fer tho Real is escaping from the intolerablo
SLAVERY OF sNAMY.
You arc no longer Obliged to pauBe aud recall
what you snid upon this subject now uniee dis
cussion, somo woekB or months ago, Tho simple
ber With q thrill OF satisfaction that
an eminent authority haH said, ut
is the fools WHO never change their opinions. It
" LILO sign or a Niso tnnu to reconsider Ills be-
liefs." Also, you are froed from all necessity Of
stimulating admiration for what you can't uu-
derstand. It ID great relief to tho average
human mind to lay down Shakespeare and take
up Harper's Monhly.. It is so much safer
ground for somo people in tho Minstrol-show
than the Art-Gallory; and it is such drendfully
embarrassing business when you ask Old Ve-
neering tho name Of some art goln in his private
gallory, aud he stammers out: "Weil-ah-
renlly-ho thought l,o know, but tho catalogue
was burned up il the dreat Fire, you aeo-and
-ah, yca."
Indeed, modeat profession or ignorance
and 2 tact assumption Of your companon'a
complete knowledge Of his particular hobby, Is
the surest way TO optortain him. Hs is de-
lighted to find listener, aud you nre delighted
enjoys hs own eloquence. At tho ond Of tic
linnor, you are refreshed and informed, aud he
has been pumped aud starved. It was = fair
bargain; ono would rather eat than TALK tho
Ter profer8 rather to talk than eat, and the
hobby y-riler forever after speaks Of his tabto-