Saint Mary's beacon. [volume] (Leonard Town, Md.) 1867-1983, 1873-08-21

standard Of refinement and culture and
social morality. but she vas not going to
put herself out in any way 30 correct the
vices or elevate the the tone of society
There was not muc1 Of the reformer and
nothing OF the martyr in her composition. /"
This is worldly wisdom; but if society
we're altogether made up of such women
there would be little hope for that advance.
ment in politeness which che age demands,
or that correction of its vices which the
thoughtful must desire. Aimee Martin
says, "Wha.ever be the laws of a country.
= is the women Who give the direction, 20
It's manners. "Narolcon sad one 4ay
to Nine. Campan, 1.-The old systems Of
education are good for nothing; what is
wanting in order to train up young people
properly in France?" Mothers" said
Mime. Campan. This word struck the
Emperor. Right" said he: ..thercin
lies complete system of education; and
{ must be your endeavor, Madame, to
hrm mothers who know how to educate
their children"
a most valuable auxiliary to such moth
er the present work will prove, treating
asst does upon topics that belong to a
daughters education. such as preservation
OF health. improvement of time, domestic
economy. dress, behavior to parents. rela.
ti'es gentlemen. teachers. friends. and to
domes'le': conduct a. public places. fe-
male coupanionship. dinner and evening
parties, crcmonious aud friendly visits.
CONVERSATION and mental culture. To re-
turn to the paper on .'Impoli,eness. &c,
the author says. .'But. after all, the read.
er may ask. what's the use Of discussing
the matter? What have We to do with
manners, anyhow?' The reply should
be that agitation and discussion call a:ten-
ton TO the need of reforms. and invariably
precede them This article is filed with
happy illustrations of the subject under
discussion Particularly good is tha. Of
the invalid aud the Shanghai cock. "Ue
doesnt crow all the time-pe,hars he
doesn't crow very often; but never know
when he rW crow. and AIN alwavs afraid
he is going to-" 1t is just this fear aud
dread OF encountering rudcncss which
causes even those who knew better to lie
tenacious upon ceremonious points of c:i-
que,te. 1.-The Christian politcncss which
would lead them to be strict ouy with
themselves and indulgent with others"
must be dispensed with where n dissimi-
larity OF views prevails as to the social du-
ties and privileges Of each. and where dis.
tinctious are made other than those con-
ferrcd by education, cultivation. refine
ment, and morality. The more religious
tane,usly become; for true religion teach
cs him TO forge, himself. to love his neigh
Dor. and to be kindly even to his enemy,
and the appearance OF SO being and doing
in what society demands as good man
ners.'
The haste with which Americans do ev-
erythiug is given as the first cause Of our
impoiitencss as people; and are there
any who cannot recall in their own cype-
ricnce some occasion when either haste, or
ovcr-anxiety, or preoccupation of mind. or
thought!essness, has not caused in them
selves n rudcness of manner in momcu.a-
ry appearance at least? But lady. al
though betrayed by haste or unexpected
events into seeming rudcness, will never
commit prcrciitated one. Fisurative-
ly speaking. this is the ties, between the
true aud false coin current in society
Another and still more general reason
cited for our want Of manners is that 1--WE
have no standard or model Of good man
ncrs. no code to govern our intercourse
with onr equals 1t would generally be
supposed that in every city and town there
would be certain class who. By virtue Of
superior advantages Of education and cul-
tiyaiion. would hold such views in COM
mon with regard 20 their social duties as
would prevent the possibility of any ma
serial differences of opinion concerning
them. Yet We find such variety of
views maintained among those who are
equally capable Of judging Of the require
ments OF politcness as can only be account
cd for from the fact that '.we have no
code nor standard" This authors rem
cdy for impoliteress is to avoid the socie-
ty of the impolite. This brings to mind
the epigram-
''The world Of fools hs'h such store
That he who would mot NEE: IN ass
! Must stay at home and bolt his door
| ana break his iooS'ng-gi+ss.
Thesk is no denying the fact. We are all
more or less impoli,c, and until we take
hold of the evil At the root we shall con-
tinue to distinguish ourselves as nation
by our impoii,eness. A better remed =
than that proposed would be found ir the
training of our young ,ople in n proper
Observance of their duties towards their
elders. each other. and all with whom they
are thrown; TO insist upon the same cour-
tesy in the familiar intercourse of the fam
lily circle as in the company of casual ac-
quaintances and comparative strangers: to
try to teach them TO follow the golden rule
of doing unto others as they would Le
done by. which is the basis Of all rules oi
pcliteness. l, is true that impoliteness i.
very demoralEing. and that when other.
are iound uniformly reniss one is very
ap, TO put in practice the iron rule. "iC
unto others as they do unto you" instead
Of the golden one. Some author has said
that the really bcs. people in the world
ought 10 be among those wbo best know
it, Our late lameu,ed ,ownsman, Thorn.
as Sully. the artist. told US that when il
England the higher in rank the more kind
and affable be found them. There is al
clear water aud plain ssiling in the bcs
circles. This is the advantage Of a cod,
Of etiquette, or What ough; to SQUAD be,
ter "a our republican ears. Ofrules Of good
breeding. That there may be a cnun
try IL which there is no fixed typical 50