Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1873-07-07
The Difference between Our WOmer
and those OF Europe" We uns "
Carry OF the Palm.

the same time there is no civilize
country where they have greater priv
, ileges and more attention shown {
= them. AS a general rule, an America
- will put himself TO more inconvenience
, to Oblige a lady than will the erdinar
Englishman. He is expected to be gal
= liant, and to bestOw his attentions grace
' fully, or be looked down upon as a poo
: craven who is unfit for deeeut society
In travelling, lady has always the bes
place. Sometimes it is given to ne
voluntarily, and sometimes she asks 70
2 il. The railway conductors make it
= point to find every lady a comfortabl,
3 seat, while they leave the men to lOol
out for themselves 1t is by no mean
unusual for a lady in a railroad ca
} to tell a gentleman that she prefer
his seat TO her own, and to ask him Il
change. l have seen gentleman Sc
cure bis seat in train after the recOg
niZed English mode, by leaving his great.
coat and his newspapers behind him
and have seen lady enter the car in
his absence, cram the coat and the pa.
pers in the light Luggage rack overhead
and sit down mistress of the position
When a train draws up at q station, and
there is a crowd Of passengers, the men
fall back and give precedence TO the
women. II they should forget them
selves in the hurry Of the moment, il
will only be to receive a lesson in polite
ness from the nduct0r, and to be asked
! firmly TO "let the ladies go first, please. -
Any storekeeper will have a gentleman
to attend upon a lady without regard to
the order of arrival, and in the same
way be will neglect a Chinaman or even
] - naurn o. I have ayrraarfar0aH 4,
/ time, to receive the orders of a white
man. To his English force Of charac-
ter the American adds unquestionably a
/ good deal Of French politeness, and the
latter quality is especially noticeable
when he is in the presence OF wo-
men. The American workman
performs a hundred little house
hold duties that his English brother
would leave to his wife; and the wife
herself, through ingenious Yankee ap-
planes, is saved much of the physical
toll that is so hard burden in the life
OF her English sister. The workman
who would allow his wife TO brush his
boots, or who would not brush his wife's
boots, would be considered as only a
shade removed from the wife-beater;
indeed, the boOt-brushing business is
something which a domestic servant
would consider hardship to be asked
to undertake. All over the country
women are employed in various
branches of light labor; but whether il
is that a woman diSlikes to do business
with one of her sex / do not know, but
here, quite as we'll as in England, the
drapery firms prefer men for their as \
sistants; and so, with all that is high |
spirited in their natures there are stall /
wart Americans by the thousand who 1
do not consider themselves out
of place selling laces and silks, |
and needles and thread, in establish |
ments which a gentleman customer |
rarely, il ever, enters. The young
women and the young men of the States 4
enjoy greater amount Of intimacy than /
is ailowablei n England. They are per
mitted to mix together more freely, and 1
to correspond TO their hearts content. |
Their intimacy may be very close, but /
il does not follow that they are Ten /
gagged" Promises of marriage they /
may make which are never fulfilled, 4
hat he breach of the same rarely drives I
either party into the courts. There are
10 lovers walks" but there are 'lov-
eIs lrives.' 1t is the delight of the |
American lover to p0ssess or hire
tea.- Jf tr0tung horses and 90 buggy
riding" When lovers do marry it is |
not essential that they commence
As likely as not they
will 60 to a hotel or a clearinghouse.
This saves expense TO the man and
trouble TO the woman; and there are
many cases in which families break I'D
house and GO into hotel, simply be-
cause the cares of looking after a
house, light as they are TO an Amer
lean as compared with many an
English wife, are considered trouble
some An American home differs very
little from an English one. The chill
iren are more pTecOciOus, and frequent
" the mistake is made Of sending the
girls out into society when they should
De at school; but then, one must give an
American mother her due, and say that
While she is anxious that her daughters /:
lhall be accomplished in the European !
iense, she j. not less desirOus for them j
o be at least gSod needle-wOmen and !
air cooks. It Is no part Of q mothers :
iuty 10 find husbands for her daughters, I
lOr is il one Of the big brothers. af- {
iictiOns 70 he his sisters protector in the '
want Of some one else to I'LL this inter I
sting place. IL IS the young wOman's [
y L
nale acquaintance for herself and Ii is J
er boast that, unprotected, sshe is pro- I
ected the most. She undertakes the {
1ngest journeys alone in safety; goes to f
laces OF amusement as she wOuld 90 to 5
hnrch without a companion, if it should I
e that she prefers to go in this n
'ay; and she registers her name in S
Otel books a. the end of her solitary b
lima ffnaV fa 80.
snse regarded as singular OF bold. 1t Fl
admitted that she knows better than I
er parents the young men of her "set" a
HON she likes best, and l think il is d
wing to the miXgd-schoOl system that 81
le young people OF America, as they a
row up, associate more closely than v
o the young people Of England The 81
)uversaiiOu, too, is not all One-sided. b
n her favOTite "Chickeling" the young 3
.dy may perform OpeTatic airs with L
exterity and taste, but l question n
neither her male friends do not take b
lOre pleasure in listening TO the music /
her voice; for she is sprightly and z
.nsible talkeT, and is never more q
lighted than when gentlemen fancy L
lat they have 10 reduce the level of
leir conversation to suit her. A recent
rticle in the Pal Nal Gazette, urging -
Iat the sexes have less sympathy with .
ach other than is generally believed, Z
annOt apply 10 America, where the :,
)ciety Of women is sought after by =
Oung men and old more than =,
le company Of their own sex. n
our true American has many Il
lults, but Hngallantry is not :,
ne of them, nor can it be said
an American lady that she is help
IS. An American is by no means o
enuTiOus. He spends his money freely. Z
lie lives and dresses well; has unusual v
: 8 comfortable home; and where a o
wife is seen 1t all it may be v
ken for granted that she is not an q
meTicali. Even ia the humblest houses a
le meals are served with q neatness il
nd cleanliness that are unknown ia in- is
lmeTabie English homes. The house b
ife, again, is helped in her domestic
'rangements by her grocer, who sup
les her with goods made up in the il
satest of parcels. Her -four il sold in W
impact cOttOn-bags containing ten or T.
ity pounds, with the brand of the -four ~
arked on every bag; spices are sold in ol
nall or large bottles; and nothing is
.livered loosely OF in simple paper
rappings that viii result in waste if so a
ade up. Social meetings between Ia
maricans at each others houses are bal
4 50 common as in England; Ia
t il is not unusual for an n
lleriean to ask q friend to stay
tb him few days, even if the fEiend