Wilmington daily commercial., 1873-09-05
THE HOUSEHOLD.



=, Nov often speak OF good manners as an dc-
oomplishment. Ispeak of them az duty What
% :fS q sScsS sGSs :; . i
. reeablo to .nDn a. J3,lohs manners as take Away
rudeness, and remit to the brute creation al
eoarseness. There are great many who feel
that good manners are effemiuate. It is great
feI more beaslty. But When men are ogoRded
l., communities, the art of living il no small aft.
II w to dimish friction, how to promise eabe bt
Intercourse; how to make every part OF mans
life contribute to the welfare and satisfaction OF
those around him how to keep down Offensive
pride; how to Danish the raspings Of sellisines
fton the intercourse of inee. how Ia tnOvd
Autng mon nsl ir.d by various and cOklcting
m ,tiv. 8, And.yet not have coll siona-ths IL the
~ ction of good Manners
IL is not eneminate to be refined. And id this
asa AsA nosmaB siIOua pletliuabihtsAn lheFe may
be peasantry in other countries, there may be
class tn foreign lauds who have opporluni-
ites; there may be those whose toll IL 30 cOptin-
-upus whose opportunities for knowing whatIcoD
situtes good maners are no few and whose i8nOr-
auce is so gross that they are excusableJ but
'' Of ny voice. ~ %" ~ '"i' go
A Tlat man l. "a mechanic ia 20 r. a on WAY he
% HlN uld not be u perfect gentleman, fAtfirH for
i. every American ctizsn, The right 10 be not SIM
.isply a'maRsb go.d hammered maO. i have
'n"seeu men at the Anvir WHO perfect gem
tletnett' Al inSu'of books or msn'of society I
-. H oW no rgasod Why a'mtl who ligs IN tho soil
amau Who works IL metal and woods alpan
who buG17 sbouId not be perfect geptem ,
There ls' nothing in mrcra1uRhi occupal ionsi
which Ia incompatible with the highest cOurtesy
Not only ts'the violation OF good manners in
extusable on ordinary grounds, but IL ii sn-
full. When. therefore,, parents and guardians
and teachers would inspire tho young with de-
sire for the manners OF good soeiety II is rpt to
be thought that they are accomplishing nts Which
may be accepted or rejected Every mdn it
bound to observe the laws OF politeness. II Is the
expression Of goodwill and blindness. 1T pro
notes both beauty in the man who Possesses it,
hnd happlnese in those who are about him 1t
tx A re- nd q
tanning.
There is great deal of contempt EXPIRE ssed
for what il GATED etiquette in society. Now and
then there are elements OF etiquette which per-
haps might we'll DO ridicued but. in the main
there is just reason for all those customs that
come under the head Of etiquette. There is
reason which has regard to tue facility OF flter'
COURSE There II reason in the ayoidA noe of
offence. here Is reason in comfort aud lhap
pines. And no man oAn afford to violate thess
unWTltten customs OF etiquette who wishes to
act ar a Christian gentleman. e.. ~
may speak also, OF tendency whchpslbre
by our insitutions-the want of venerdtion
There various ways in which this wait Of |
veneratlon shows itself. We often hear that i
there is not tn. sanie respect ehowt1 sf11 the
aged that there used to be- We know that |
there is very little respect shown for magistrates
and men in authority. This 10 partly dfe, l
think, to the Institutions under winch we live,
One of the unfortunate effects derived froIb the
early stages Of Democratic training ID the iense |
Of personal sovereignty the feeling thai we |
stand on as high grounds as anybody else Under i
monarchcal institutions men are taught tOrtvere |
the great and glorious in govenm libel feel
ing OF reverence docs not prevail to- any great
eItelit Among hG discern gre4t lack III this L
RESPECT, Children, nowadays ard Brought up
to BE- pert. to DO ,AIlcy, to be almost Without re-
strdut.. They are brought up tp haNe yety lit
tie reg ard either fer their parents or for their
'pnpsrlors.7 Add though there area great hany
Cnristian households where children are rightly
bred ia this regard, it seems to me therd has
been decay OF that t1strncliph Which Vs9d tod
prevail g the tendency Of which Eaa to mako chill!
dren modest and respectful We bring up. our
children to be old and smart and impertineht. /
This courtesy"which carries with 1t RESPECT |
this testimony OF veheratiOifr to the aged Il this
yielding oneself In thodsahd little society rites
for the sake Of making others, happy-oh, what
brightness it.giVes to life what beauty, what
adonment II gives to christi All character.
There many other points that l. might
speak Of The effect of pnnetuality and o der Il
the relations which men sustain to each odheF's
convenience and, neeessities-these and hun
dred other branches Of this subject l might dis
upon but it is not necessary that
should go intDthem, :. haye given such exam
pies AZ / have merely al. specimens, for the |
purpose Of calling your attention to the mihuie,
nes- and carefulneas, with Which tho Scripture
inculcatesAthese things. 1t joins not 'mbrely
the right spirit, but the right spirit panifb sted
IN the most beau tifnf way e.. ''-' 90 co.. ! o.. L.