The true northerner. [volume] (Paw Paw, Mich.) 1855-1920, 1873-08-29
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heaven where they two shall be one forever
That is true marriage, for il Is marriage Of
spirit with spirit Their love is woven into
woos OF gold that neither time, nor DEATH nor
eternity can sever. We would say to every
such couple, g Hail and Farewell
4 certain editor editors very generally make
good husbands, stick pin there girls,) having
married Miss Birch, the Devil" of the office
perpetrated the following
Strange, what he hated most when young,
II dearly lovec in r,per yeas!
And birch, WHICH once his boy ~: wrung,
Now proves his solico, Gains 's feaIs;
Ia L rch he fnGs Lis sweetest isS,
Nor hesitates the rod to kise i! "
By many it is thought, that a yonng lady
needs no instruction upon selecting husband,
whereas no subject has more direct connection
with ~. interests snd artior Of frture life,
than marriage. alse notions OF matril my
prevail universally among the young. They
arc as ignorant II the details OF living in this
i9stilu6 AT unjust world a. IN oVl 3 OF the
machiLery OF PIN factory. We take tho POSI-
ton that but few young ladies OF sixteen or
seventeen years OF age are capable OF d'stin-
gushing the difference between the genuine
love OF the heart. and the romantic Workings
OF an unsettled bran Their ideas OF love
and life are too frequently drawn from repre-
hensibl devotion to sentimental poems and
highly wrought fctions Their CHEF reading
is the flash literature of the day. Such pnbl-
cations invariably represent love in almost all
colors but the true ones. Under these clrcun-
stances it is not surprising that many young
ladies' have few If any correct ideas OF married
life. and that there is 30 much bc"rtct1Shing
misery In the results.
"Yes, but says one, (wh, is ws3r IN her
own conceit than her good old parents) - the
man shall marry will be perfectly tree from
all bad habits and associations. l intend to
marry for pure love, and nothing else" Let
us trace this case little further. The lady, or
school Miss, plies at the love tales. and dives
into the sickly sentimental poetry with Increased
greediness. She now begins 10 indulge in long
waking dreams by moonlight, Qr the mani in
the moon" can laugh, lie must have ten thou
sand sources Of fun!) she adopts the language
of flowers and apple seeds, consults "books
of fate" or some modern old Witch OF Endor'
to learn her destiny, in the meantime killing
time in languishing laziness, and sghing like
broken pair OF blacksmith's bellowsl
! She is now most admirably fitted to fall In
love with the fret shallow pated fop she may
meet After time her ideal" is seen and
che longs for an introduction by and by, this
is secured, now che is more enraptured than
ever She cannot sleep at night for thinking
OF the resplendant attributes OF her hearts
deep love, and In building castles where ne and
herself are dwelling in paradise OF delight,
and living on "moonsiine and green cheese I"
She now ceases to eat cabbage and onions for
dinner, but lives on candy and cheNs gum. Sho
may be known at evening parties and balls, he
cause OF the improved style CT her dress; she
cuts it down in the neck several inc! 5e lower
than the old blue laws Of Connecticut" would
have allowed, and daubs her face, neck aud
arms with powder, till she looks like cater
pillar Just escaped from flour barrel! Her
neck aud arms are like Eve's IN paradise. Just
as nude If not as beautiful, aud alas not the
semblance Of blush is to be seen, until sundry
hooks and hidden lacings, becoming impatient
of the restraint put upon them, so oil slmul-
taneously, like crackers in barrel ou the fourth
OF July!
Tho young man proposes an engagement, and
ne represents that with her earth viii be heaven,
without her, more miserable than Tophet, or
the valley of the son OF iiinnom." AZ length
che is married after brief honeymoon che
finds me is deeply in debt, and other features OF
his character begin to develope Themselves
che finds he is reckless, passionate. thriftIess,
loves his old haunts and revelng companions
better than her society. In a word, she wakes
at length to the heart-withering realities OF her
condition-life is now sorrowful bat practical
reality, her wretchedness is complete. AS
months and yeass pass By, they bring increasing
sorrow and tears. aud sue becomes living
spectre,-a floating wreck on the ocean OF HE.
Let us drop the curtain. by saying, this ls no
overdrawn picture 10 rare illustration; it has
it's counterpart iii many cases in society There
Is no city, there is scarcely township, which
does not number among its Inhabitants women,
who have narred on a very short acquaintance,
only to be abused, deserted and left lifelong
sorrow in the families IN which they were feared.
If young ladies would only realize how grossly
indicate, as well ss cuipa5.y rechlosa, such
marriages appear to the eyes OF the observing,
they surely would forbear. y years thorough
acquaintance with the most crcums:sDtlal ac-
counts from disinterested aud reliable Witness
es, of tie antecedants from childhood, are the
very best guarantees Of which any woman who
realizes what marriage Is will require Of
stranger. 1t is well, also, that her parents be
fully satisfied. Marriage Is an undertaking in
which no delay can be so hazardous IA undue
precipitation. The whole secret in choosing
well in matrimony is taught in three words,
VIZ: erpl0ye he character. But tins point we
must defer for another chapter, as also some
remarks on "old maids" and their excel 7ncies.
S,GMA.
vOticc.-I Perry Sisson DO forbid all per-
sons. except Mrs. Electa Ostrander, from har-
boring or trusting, or employing IN any
way whatsoever, or entertaining Mrs. Amanda
NJ Nc,aaop e,a batpo ha lavv xr5Fo 70 par.,.