The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1873-04-30
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TIE Decline 81 F.elleemSan.

HeSS woa& Seega % he gradually IiSSr
resrSpx, II the rev cosaitSeas ef oaE
f hves have Seve&eye1 ~ suitable esiQacste
they have st le&Ss pra<secc1 an iSNNainSee
sels>SGfScSeGey> ~ncpeStraeat hSS hccn
he NSss Ct AcesScsS writers and Il Is
4 hSra 70 Ssy vhesher etiquette hSs Safssrc,i
Goce fNoa prSSxSSA friends OF ff,osa So
tivsesl ScossFS There are EaSRy per
seas wh> think 6iSreSSTI Of ceremony
; sne rreof If SivSRcei SSesS, let
reshieS Is better proved than that noble
Manners hSVe eeea part 81 every noble
age. To acquire them was reckNUcd =
eASf pSrt Ct eiUoStSoa, and only halt,
wlstes rersoas were eNeesed frem The Oh
legations oe etSQeeste, Ne, being cSpS,
he q the ra&nly dignity which reQuiseS
and heSsoSS respecs, they might chatter
and sralrk at viii, bat they were not adj
EassssG - the eQsSlisy which Is elSinsesi by
cur frseSSS-essy professors q impo6te-
Dss& SeoSSl ritual bsS been 50 AhuSed for
The purpose q vanity snd SyoOph&ncy
tbs; Il Is e&sSsr 70 expose its SbSariity
shSa to prove its value. Distinctions Of
rank have played 50 UfSchievouS pSrt
Whenever sSeisl oOvrUpsSon has set in that
II h tempting to fancy tbs; we can sc,
o. with inpler machinery, In reShiy,
koweNer, ruleS Of gesture Sre SlHOSt as
DeceSSSry to Sustain eivility as rules Of
speeoh, and We can hardly realize how we
Shesld endure much further neglect Of
them. particularly when cur free fashions
came 70 be exaggerated by the classes
below Us Mischisf CROUCH comes Of
careless language; but the no-meauinS
snd inpersinsRce Of cur phrases woUld be
restrained in some degree il cur familiari-
tses Of nsnre< were kept within due
bounds.
As cur Speeeh gains in Unintel6gible-
nesS cur bows and ear,eseys, and notably
cur hand shaking, acquire more value.
Unfortunately there would appear to be
Increasing revolt sgSinst e,iQutte and
good manners, Now
EueCErTE Is rHE LAW OF CIVIL ISTEE-
ooCEE
In view Of the expected dsluSe, II mSy not
be worth while TO trouble ourselves about
the coming raee; vet, if our children Sre
to be taugh, anything, or to have any
trzining-wheshsr for life in the bush or
Shsre IN the universal republic they
must De Instructed in eivility, which is
only another name for decent and COM
Portable intercourse with ones fellows,
whoever they msy be. The growing
emancipation Of young people from old
fashioned forms Of respect would seem to
Be making them 80 uncomfortable in society
thSr they are more and more exiled from
It. WHIST does it profit tbst they poSSeSS
al knowledge if they DO not behsve So
eording to their sge Snd condition = Al:
fiction Is dsupsd for the learned little
roGgbS, who woUld have been delighted if
only they had been trained in the habits
Of respect by attention to It's outward and
visible signs ~N4ture Is not altogether
holy thing whatever Squeers aud
Rousseau may assert; she hiss to be re
formed frpu the cradle. and infant school
teachers csn witness how important the
oonduct Of the body Is In training chill
dren We see how charming it Is IN
RuSsizn child to kiss his parents hand,
to reuain standing until hidden to sit,
and listen until asked to speak The dis
eipline Of these Tartars znd CoSsacks is
the sane IN which our Philip Sidueys and
Jaae Greys were trained, which gave mo-
delS to Ysudyke, and
kEFT GREEN THE FAMILY AFFECTION
Thzs vas ence our boast, and We hardly .
do well to neglect Il We certainly pro
vide sufficient discomfort for ourselves
daring those few minutes in which our
BEETLES and our HiIdss, admitted to the
drzEi1gTO0m. endure the niserieS of shy
hess or infiet the miSeries Of rudeness.
bath OF which would have been avoided
i hzbitG1l good nzHHeTs had put every
body In bis right groove The hunors Of
the riSing generatlon are almost past
ioks- re shall soou painfully understand
=hy ozr ancestors sent their sons to learn
behavior IS pages IN other households,
md the Gaelic laws Of fostersge sppIi-
table to prince and peasant may regain
Our few remaining opportgui-
lies Of learniug manners are disappearing
before competitive examination; yet for
50 long As military service IT
naiEs, certain gestures Of respect viii
continue to Be recognized as necessary to
and discipline as Necessary to
Even sGPposing that women and chill
lren were once more to be trained to give
nj require respect, there would stiH r.
min the danger Of thzt Unsuitable famiIi-
rity Ehich i breaking down among men
lore important brezkEsters than those Of
AK and wealth Let Is not fztter our