Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1873-01-14

done at home.
! know some pale, worn wives
who have married well, ESQ the
world ears) who have no need uu-
satisfied, whose homes are filed with
luxories, whose husbands are re-
ceiving the honors Of the communi,
~, yet whose years are incredibly
weary TO them Tie husband en-
joys his home and thinks very much
OF bis wife, but Is Careful never TO
tell her so Pm plain man he
says TO himself, II never fatter "
Poor weak creatures that we all are
he thinks. We cannot receive even
common justice without danger to
our vanity. He always supplies
what his wife needs, but not till she
asks for it. She prepares little sur
prises for him on bis return home
aud be walks serenely through then
all without Noticing them She is
sick. He waits upon her attentive
lY,but not TILL she is sick. The doctor
prescribes journey and rest. He
willingly accedes to it, but not Till
the doctor does prescribe IL. Aud
when she is gone and home is doso-
late, aud there. is Grape on the front
door, he congratulates himself that
he bas been most exemplary husr
band When all through his life he
has not been guilty Of single pleas
ant surprise. Wedding-days aud
birth days have pass d unuoted The
iron chain f.dull rou ine-each link
like all the rest -she dulifully wound
it about her II would have reliev
ed her of it if she had only asked
Ii was dragging her life down, but
pride and sense OF duty prevented
her asking. She would have accept
ed The relief, however, Ga 80 gladly
if he had only offered it himself
let "a remember that love, espe-
cially Christian love, ia very far
sighted while sel6shness is always
blear.eyed. Let no one call that
love worthy of a Christian age which
cannot anticipate the needs Of others.
Let no one call that true love which
cannot see the wants pOt loved one
till reminded OF them. G I'd does not
forget to give us daily bread until
reminded by our prayers. Cnrist
did not refuse the cross TILL the SUP
| plications Of the world brought Fl i'm
TO it. Il Is the glory of love that il
finds out unrevealed needs; il satis-
ies them unasked; and takes no
honor TO itself for it all, B essed be
God who first taught the world that
truth Such love is hardly1o be ex.
pected every where. BIT if ever
found On earth, it is 10 the sacred
precincts of home.
Still some here are saying in their
b carts, How can man who is worn
do wn with 10 ! be quick to notice all
the little minuti@ Of home life Z How
can ae DO sensitive to aIl the hidden
wants Of those ct home If man
be comparatively free from hard
work and have leisure, be may then
be expected TO cultivate his finer SEN
sibIities.
This is very natural excuse.
There is show of reason in 1t. Ii
John Smith, lawyer. has left his Of
fee in the midst of the most perplex
ing snar OF doubtful case, he is not
apt TO notice how his wife is dressed
as she meets him at the door. And
az j. Smith, farmer, comes in from
the survey ola potato crop almost
ruined by the bug. it is quite natural
10 forget 10 kiss The chlld who runs
to greet him first. Still, note these
few truths.
ltis God who set men in families
G d intended that man should earn
his bread by toll 1t would have
been so, even If sin had not entered
the world. God meant, then, that
all the special benefits Of home, so-
cial, religious and aesthetic, should be
for the laboring man especially more
than for the man OF leisure. God
has ordained marriage IS the union
Of two spirits God intends by this
union TO perfect the pa ures Of both,
that man shall learn from woman
sympathy, meekness and tenderness,
woman shall Ike from man strength
of character and fitmness of mora
will. There is no other relationship
that has such power 10 wreck and
ruin the soul II is sheerest folly,
then, to toll desperately early and
late, TO secure merely the outward
semblance of a home, a mere home
stead. il we thereby lose the inner
sweetness and power Of the home
It there be no sympathy within both
husband and wife are ia danger Of
ruin. God ouiy can save them.
IL is q terrible risk, that 50 many
men run nowadays. this neglectiog
of home for the excitemeots and tolls
of money-get,iug. Yet men work on.
on the plea that it is for their homes.
Not so; for homestead perhaps, but
home they know as little about aud
enjoy as little as ifthey lived at BIO.
tel. Home is word whose depth Of
meaning they cannot appreciate and
ne' er willkHow We call many things
necessities days which are not;
The things truly needed at home are
neglected. love, peace and trust
and the soul starves often in luxe
rious dwelling.
There is another direction in which
this negative selfshness displays it,
self. viz: in the withholding Of praise
and encouragement ehere it is due 1t
u is singular law IN old forms of
lritanlcal discipline, that praise il
q very dangerous thing in home train
ing that child may be corrected
tor his faults severely, but when he
does well he has done no more than
his duty and deserves no praise for
II; indeed. that praise is the same
thing as Aattery. and will make
child vain Now all this is shallow
IN the extreme Worse than that, IL