Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1873-09-09


his word law. His experience in socia
life had taught him to dstrust IL. In the
selection of wife he had carefully
skinned his own caste of society. think
ing each equally guilty with himself. Sc
he chose tue young girl brought up in
obscurty, uneducated, inexperienced
artlcss as The babbling brook that wound
It's way down through tho peaceful mead.
ows. and whose wit and wisdom and
Judgment and common sense he could
hold in his own parlor and direct at will
With her he trusted his honor, his repu.
tation. his happiness, his children. With
her he thought 10 settle .on his moderate
income con,ented and happy.
Fora lime tue novelty OF his investment
made up for its lack of intrinsic merit
Soon, however, their lines of life began
to diyerge She could not come up to his
caste OF society, and he could not continue
To worship at the shrine Of limited accom-.
! plshments. She had been but imperfectly
educated so the fires in her brain remain
ed latent, and no blast of domestic trials
could develop them. She staid at home,
fed the COW aud chickens. and cared for
her children. lie conversed and rsde with
ladies OF ability and refinement, nrted
and talked confdihgly with sympathizing
maids and mairons. read and talked poll
tics. drank wine, and played polka and
billiards with their husbands and brothers.
She WAS ever on The tread mill Of pow
crty and neglect of labor nhd cares. No
change, no rclaXa;iuu. She WAS never
invited by her husband Out for n day or
IN hour of pleasure. .aad hr never romain-
ed at home willingly and IA good humor.
They had no liltle home garden of their
own; only barren waste without fruits
and flowers. So Sha finally resolved TO
20 outside its walls so high and strong,
and gather food for her hungering soul.
And the world judges so harshly OF what
it knows 50 impcrleclly
May the God of our fathers forgive the
society and the parents who teach their
daughters such beautiful dependence that
= little smalteliug of French and music.
Il bridal trousseau and polished husband
constitute the true woman No woman
should take upon herself the responsible
iiy OF the marriage vows until she Is
competent, BY her Cwn cXertions. in nm
honorable vocation for self. support. Ev-
cry girl should be taught selt-reliancc,
self culture, seli control and sclfrespect.
Every girl should receive q thorough
education in some useful vocation. she is
willing TO spend lifetime 20 attain. The
cpithcl OF "old maid" should be by far less
terrible lhun II mis- mated wife. Her aim
giurs aud ,neurs ui society should be OF
trihing Importance. Her first duty should
be t. herself Then "because he is a man
aud YOU are q woman" equal wages will
not he denied. The public accepts people
al their own valuation or professed com
potency in business affairs. The ladder
OF success is hung between the heavens
and the earth for alt. There is ever room
nj its TOP. Il is the inferior grades who
aie crowded out.
So lung rs women choose to be brain
less toys. they must, however gay their
plumayc, sooner or later become tresome
aud be replaced with others. The great
est mistake in the life of man Of brain
and soul capacity is the choosing for a
wife, u silly.mnded woman. The man OF
culture requires interchange of thought.
Ii he cannot find it in his own home. he
will seek il elsewhere. He does not ever
care to give pearls in exchange Tor peb-
bics. The most intelligent minds are the
best qualified TO impart The highest, pur-
e.t and most lasting happiness.
Parents, yours is responsibility of no
trifiing moment. Educate your daughters
properly. Educate them to live indepen>
dent of matrimony. BY doing so, they
will he the more thoroughly qualified Tor
welded happiness. Intelligent minds in
however humble gaIb or calling cannot
become enslayed. Show them the ex-
lcmes in welded life; its darkest rs well
as its brightest page. Open to them the
door to the heart and hearthstone of the
the young, unihinking, unfortunate wilc.
who in poverty and obscurity is dragging
to forgotten graves. II shilIless, prohigate
husband, aud dwarled, puny, pitiless
children, born in gqualor. and rags, and
filth. Then 20 with them to homes OF
culture and refinement; whose partners
in life are of congenial tastes, habits and
disposition, and whose children are grow.
ing up intelligent, cultivated, refined, an
honor to themselves, blessing to their
parents, an ornament TO society.
With what caution would your daugh-
ters, after attaining any self.supporling
business or profession, accept an equal
partner therein. How much moro cau-
liouslY aud considerably ought they TO
accept partner for life in the more inti-
mate and essential relations OF husband
aud wife. The old adage, "In choosing
a wife descend a step, aud mount step
in selecting a friend" has been handed
down to posterity for reasons which are
obvious. Who can be truer, more
faithful and abiding friend than an intel.