, 1873-08-10

many who arc bound together by. marrlago-tica
moss destroyed, md that they should bo allowed
to 90 free. Woro tho bond 1oss easily annullod,
tienoe finally booomo pationoo, and tho mistake
Of youth not 30 frequently provo fatal in its re-
suits. We learn after tew ycnr8 that II Ia uBc-
iesa to ilght, Tho inevitable, 10 wo accept It at
1hst and n,ako tho best Of 1t. still, iii thc proB-
Ont htatc Of Socicsy, 1t would noofn aa II 1t was
QUITE IMPOSSIBLE
lor tho average. young man aud woman Of the
day to follow tho fashton set thom by their
paronta: Tloy cannot have o nest Of their own,
of some other Bird thoy arc ulmoBt cortnin to
como to grief. Hoooty wnnts nothing Of them
aftor they marry, unloss they eau holp keep the
ball rolling. Thoy hayo lost tho stable habits Of
tton d personal self-ronpeot, which might other
WiBe help cBrry t1iom through. 8ocioty ralca
tllem according to tlleir income, and they aro
very apt to accept soclcty'a gauglng, and stand
or fel et thoir 1n '1nonoy.salao Society docs not
when tho wedding g-out1t IL old-fasl,ionca md
worn, thoy are shabby, mud suggest unpleasant
but whilo 1oclety dooB not want thom,
THEY WANT Boo1ETY.
Tho t,l1klo.doyo intorudc answered worry vol for
little; but their sweets have hithorto been like
Gui,ther's or Arnaud's, highly spicod and flavor
oil, and pnre honey soon grows nHuBeating, ea-
pooially IN unlimited quantities. Thoy full to add
to this unsatisfactory stuff little of tho solid
ity Of friendship, ,wllcl, might make "human mr.
tnros daily food" trife more palatablo. AZ
tor years Of Disqualification, il they don't entirely
ont, they may find this out. and mako
tholn most OF their own which ahall bo
. nest indeed. But tho chances aEe against
It: Too often tho husband goes back to
his boon companions, aud tho wlfo either fretB
herself into d stato Of nervous ill-hoa!th and
tompor, or is -reapondontin in a suit for sopara-
tioii or divorce,
Seeing this, is 1t strange that mothers
sEEK WEALTH Fon THEIR DAUGHTERS,
necessary OF. desirable attributo2 hlany q
woman lookod upon as an ,1nBcr1pufous match
makor Boca in . desirable (meaning wealthy)
parti ony Bafety for hor child. Living in tho
i Is impossible for hor not to Sec eee
that this is not q simple or Q heroic
ago. Tint wont out with tho straightforward
chairs Of ollr grand-mothers. Itisquito possible
commenced very simply. We once hoard gray
1airod old gentleman boaBt that, ovor fifty years
ago. ho mud 1iB wifo commoncod housekeeping
gu Slo. They had but two rooms, and his income
fifty years ago; and oven no admitted TINT hia
wife waa never thoroughly happy until abe own
od a high-post, mahogany bodstoad, and chfntz-
curtains for it, as > cost Of 975 or 300. Now,
luo HuUBtlLCLo 1uT tnQS0 tH0 FCoIQB 1nHt no. 1Qr
TINT mans grandchildren. a marble-front house
with nodern improvements and, for tho high
poster, all the unique furniture That French
workman can dcBgn and execute. So this mans
daughter, whom Bho seos hor chlld grown to
wo1nan'B estate,
rAKEs THESE THINGS INTO CONSIDERATION.
Human paturo is tho Banae; hut luxury has
takeu tho place Of simplicity, and most OF our
girls ara brought up in luxury moBt of our
young mon in habits Of self-indulgonco, Look
nr ff14 In hat RI
trinl will bo II her daughter attempts to make
homo OF hor own on narrow means. She Bhrinks
from the misery that Bhe Boes in storo almost
the inevitable consequence Of such trial, and
10 Beeks the golden mean, If it ia to be found,
She admits that Tennyson may laye written Eery
fine poetry when he Baid:
Yea eco thoc old aud formal, ntted to thy po!ty
With little hoard of mazims preaching down
daughters heart.
They dangerous guides. tho fcenga; aha herself
Truly she herself lad suffered. Perish IN thy self
contempt!
But the world is notpoetcal; 1t Is
VERY RUGGED rltoaE
at times and it ia the world as it ls which she
has to do with, not as 1t ought to be, no doubt
How is it to bo with the less fortunate class
Whose income Ia not moro than 81 900 or 81, 600
d year3 A thouaaud dollars is perhaps just
estimate to place upon tho annual income of tho
mechanic. lie, however, moveH in q different
| stratum, and hlR vito is usually selected from q
home where She has learned something practically
Of the duties Of life. They are consent to begin
in small way thoir society does not drop
them; so that, in their station, they have fur
more social enjoyment than III possible to the
class Of whom we first spoke. If they arc less
influenced by the amenitios Of life. they arc less
troubled by ITS exactions. If ligh culture in
many casea produces exquisite pleasure, it also
contains the oloments for easily admitting
oIosT ACUTE JAIN,
| and TINT consequent upon tho verieat trifes. An
| c8ihotic taste may Ge shocked by homo outro
| necessity, produced by comparative poverty, un-
til, porhnpB, eventually tho RenscB become dull
Cd carelcssnoss onsuos, and deterioration quickly
{ollows.
II would appear in many cases to bc az haz-
ardous for tllo vast army Of clorkB whose means
range from II 900 to $4,000 year to many, as
| for those WHO are beltor o1T. They may
! occasionally eecnro tho proper holpmate, and
be themselves ready 10 accept lifo's 1espon-
Bibilities but usually they admire the stunning
| girl, hayo themselves tho usual amount ol
masculine yicos md arc By, no neans roady to
reBign them, or commence home-lifo with tho
| quiet young girl who drcaaos plainly and son-
sby, whom she is to be found.
| i would aeotn, thon, that the future Of our
nation il to bo
nu1LT UP FROM TWO CLASSES:
Tho industrial portion, who are manufacturers !;
and. those who havo acquired sufficient
wealth to mako matrmouy practicable.
Unfortunately, whom that timo has ar-
rived, confirmed habits skopticiBu, d dread
like causoB, hinder these mon from assuming
marital relations. What is to be doue about it I
Az matters stand, it would appear TO be decided
y unwiso for the great majority Of young peon,ie
| to marry. The outlook il not fair ono, and the
question is, How is IT to bo avoided? Will Bo-
ciosy be content with little loss glitter? Will
individuals grow less sof-indulgent2 Or a1e
we indeed sunk into auch q state OF besotted
| eei1BhnoBs aB to be quito willing to accept tho
present condition Of things, with its attendant,
Inevitable oyila2 Who can solve tho problem?