The New York herald., 1873-12-08
rease each other in the engaged period DO nothing

now.
MAKE DIVORCES FREE,
so that people Will make lie long courtship rom
beginning to end. Ii may he possible tnat under a
perfect system these benefits might accrue. Had
not we better begin at the other end, and put
angels with flaming swords at the door by which
We 20 n instead OF at the door OF eXitY Let US
see II we cannot make Others regard marriage as
a solemn thing. Engagement should be made a
period probation, and IL the bonds are not close
enough they should pe severed. would not go
back 10 any old law OF divorce. plead lor liberty;
not for simple pastoral melody, but for
grand symphony OF Beethoven; wouii
weave a network OF golden cords instead
OF having all nye upon single tnreau,
and make marriage such sacrament
that no thought OF separation would enter Mar
rage is only one ol the sacraments OF home. IL Is
simply impossible that people should understand
each other during the short period OF engagement.
When they step over the threshold ol marriage
they enter into another world. Everything is ab-
soiutely new. What preparation could they maker
All marriages are fractional. Some are married
with heads, some with hearts, some with rings,
some with fortunes ana some for convenience, but
very few are married from top to bottom. People
should marry each other as much as they can IL
the routine lie that is hard TO bear the long,
dusty highway hard to traverse. People talk about
living
The coldness is bitterness unspeakaoe, and II
one has the capacity 10 live divided life the other
has heart hungry for what 1t cannot obtain. 10
make themselves one alter marriage should be
done by careful study. They should compare notes
and respect each others minds; then II there are
any points OF affinity, they should be cultivated Dy
finding out what tastes correspond Let them play
simple games--chesS backgammon anu cards;
anything that viii iring them closer together and
make home happier. Another sacrament Is the sa-
crament of obedience. Home Is founded upon
mutual respect 1t must be admitted that those
same table have rights and privileges that must
not be violated or iniringed upon. Tne
c'ild in the cradle mas rights. as well as
agreement IN all pursuits aud great deal or
letting alone under the principle OF liberty. The
iather used TO have absolute control OF his iamiy,
ferent. The old law says, Husbands, love your
wives, and wives, submit to your nusDands.n The
bands, respect your wives.u The Old law says,
''Chldren, honor your parents;' the new law
SAYS, Parents, respect your children" see now
helps most VINO has most; he stoops the lowest
who stands the highest. The mother works nn-
compiainingly ior her children, aud the iather
slaves Tor the family. Here is man
whose vie has been ior many years an IN
valid and cripple cripple. He Is. IS man OF Of
highest society. Ii is not what he dreamed OF
wnen youth and it is not what he would choose
il he mad the power TO atei his destiny. When he
goes out into the gayetes OF the world IT is TO pluck
a hover to put upon her table. Sometimes the
reverse OF tins is the case, and the womans heart
Is iuu OF bitter memories and regrets. The unshed
tears, instead ofrolling down the saddened cheeks
drop silently into the recesses Of the heart. An.
other sacrament is the sacrament OF Dlrtn II IS
mother.n When life becomes autumnal and the
winds sigh and howl, when the leaves that have
as we stand surrounded and see the friends OF our
youth dropEIng away, how we cling to those that
remain. When the news came to US OF the
LOSS OF THE WILLIE DU HAvRE
were horror-strnck to think that many pe0
pie should be called from their Derths to death
one ol It's most fearful FORMS The slumbers
that were broken so suddenly by the collision
and the turmoil OF the sea are continued IN the
chambers OF the everlasting deep. Think Of the
orphaned ones wandering over the earth with
nothing but memories II shows us how feeble ia
our tenure upon lie. Remembering this, will
try 10 be grateful for our happy homes and help
others 70 make theirs what they should be.