The Hawaiian gazette. [volume] (Honolulu [Oahu, Hawaii]) 1865-1918, 1873-06-25
HAWAIIAN GAZETTE
Rev. III. w Beeeher on Love. Mar
rfm<e- and Divorce.

given 70 an audience crowding the Music
Hall TO Is utmost capacity, and that I" the
discourse was sinirable, both in regard
70 depth Of thought and sentiment, to Its
wealth Of graceful and apt imagery, and
fron the nzny-sidedness with which II
Vas treated We select few passages:
The hecturer began BY saying that he
vss very sorrv for any man TO whose ear
there Eas snv sweeter word than that Of
Hone BIS must have been = sad his
tory 10 whom is sound had no music.
After few feeling illusions to the mex
preside attractions Of home, he said that
the secre; Of is tender memories was 70
Be found only n the divine nature of that
love whose seed was planted in childhood,
za5 whose growth was the tree Of
Efe Notwithstanding the universal grace
z1d Eitching beauty attending the dawn
OF ezrly love, vet this very fact often
furnished food Tor mirth and raillery. 1t
night Be sid BY cyuic that this was 4
kind Of revenge praetioed by grown
people for having been deceived and fool
ed themselves There were some persons.
however, Who had been in love al their
lives who had DO grudge to zvenge, and
vel vozsg love was just IS full Of mirth
70 them a Il vas to the grumblers-with
rs innocent viles, rs noble sympathies,
Is tine 10 come and 90, IS If It had the
whole ocean behind It, It's generosity, Its
Astounding hopes, and it poetry. Yet if
he recollected Alright, when be was IN love
there Vas nothing ludierous about 1t. He
never was 50 earnest in his life 1t was
The point or view that made the difference
The power OF love must not be measured
By Is intensity but BY lis efeets-by Its
be0eseence n bringing into play higher
rzuze Of motives, bv the faculties It IN
folded. BY rs skin IN harmonizing differ
eut natures One grand mistake was in
sEpposing that love begun was love COM
ple,ed- The orchar5ist knew that bios
Sons were not apples, but the lover often
thoaght they were No man could love
With al his faculties At once. If he could.
there would Be less e1citement-the power
OF love equally distributed through the
sozi would produce calm and strength.
When love brought together two inner
eurlv adapted 70 each other, or two who
had been tired in the furuace Of affection,
OF n = vide experience, without which
there Vas 10 true manhood or woman
hood, then possibly love might begin st
the wedding Without such experience, .
however, TIC young people did not know
zzyzhinz- The magistrate married but
marrying vas not mating. Not once in .
Hundred times did two natures brought
SIDE BY SIDE harmonic In every respect. I
OF u0thing were people more ignorant .
than OF human nature VERY rich and .
fruitful natures were often side by side
=Its ve-y barren ones; noble ones with
s0udid one; erquizitely sensitive with
intensely tough
H then spoke Of the amount Of disci-
uIine. OF mutual forbearance necessary to
develop ibo-ough harmony in married
he Men were said 10 fall into love.
ThcF did faT. and many never rose again.
Tsey sboul5 aot faH-they should climb.
Marriage vas : school where men should
20 Tor reconstruction
The lecturer then considered other con-
6i-5uns Of wedlock- and remarked that he
had seen a royal woman marty pigmy,
and IL score Of years she had 50 nursed
hin thai Il was not 5 slender to the
species 10 cal him s man. Most people
Ee-s Only partially married Only those
were thoroughly married whose natures
Eere reciprocal - meeting reason with
reason, and moral affection with moral
that both ruled and both
served The real victories Of love were
1hoss which came late.
VIII reference TO the question Of d.
zo-oe. be sad that married people should
Learn 10 overcome Their troubles within
The h0usebold- Discipline, and suffering,
and self-ooutrol- and mutual forbesrance
gave additional szcredness 70 love, and
would ofen change discord into harmony.
Faoiie divorce might help few sufferers,
bur X was at the expense Of society st
izrre- The remedies Tor the possible
r-oubles OF marriage should be 81 the
door OF entrance, and not 81 is exit He
dep-s1utsd the growing laKitv Of public
sentiment II this matter The household !
Should be = school where two hearts
should iuteIligenilv adjus their differ
Hnres, and then they would not wish to
sepz-ate-
H then oou-overted the opinion that
ths faHiilv ne and the family influence had
iarsne-zte5- He maintained that 1t was
reverse sui az glorious promise as TO-DAY.
Re then cont-asse5 the modern family
ln5sr Chrissisuisy with the family under
Iuiaisu and PsgaHisul, and showed how
Re richncss, and refinement. and dives