Wilmington daily commercial., 1873-08-19
THE HOUSEHOLD.
sVhr nfarrIaEes Deoreaae.

why Marriages Deorouse.
Tho falling of in mArrisges is found In the
.ontraA of population, where the needs of life
.'rass hard. The old-fashioned disinterested-
ness has of late years been losing ground in
,hese places. Thirty or forty years ago 1t was
nlsin sailing q gibbous hat and the Italian OPP
prs we're unknown all worked for living, and
eiS onne we're rich as compared with those Of to-
JSv II has become evident that In cities Hy-
IN ia losing his power yet the goddess who
rsme ont Of the sea.foam continues to exercise
liar wonted charms over men, though they re-
fuse to follow Hymen. There is hide-And-
seek process On the part OF man to avoid sup
nortinQ the women, which would be to the last
dsgree ungeDerous II IL were not In some de-
gree compulsory. Fathers endeavor to dispose
of daughters to those who stand upon condi-
tons. and each tries to shirk the expense OF
Keeping them. Thus REGARD ed, the woman be-
comes a possible encumbrance to & marrying
man and tmost q parasite in her own family
A great number of those who live in luxury in
the metropolis make bO'h ends meet with diff
oulty. Tie head OF the family is stretched on a
financial Wheel, which never ceases
10 turn eve.y day in the year. He is
nressed for what he considers the me-
cessaIies Of life, and spends twenty thousand
dollars year. The capital OF this man who
rpends twenty thousand dollars year, at legal
interest would not perhaps yield him third Of
what he expends thus he is obliged TO work
hard for bis living, and without relaxation. He
IN not il position o help any one but himself
howeyT will ng he may be TO do 30. The young
man making bis way through an ocean OF diff
cultei, AND cali ing heavy ballast in the shape
Of Gibbs and social dissipation, may like the
daughter Of the poor Itch father but he has not
the aIdacity, even II she were willing, to make
the Acrihce, to take her out OF her handsome
nestinto an inferior one. In resisting the mat
rimcnial temptation he has something to say
for himself His knowledge Of life tells him
A. hnr avn nj bnnfa haDDinnpa
which are compensation for tue rasping, wear
ipg daily want of means to provide for every
da' necessal.es and comforts. and that 1t is not
loIg before domestic peace gives way before
tbs teifible pressure. 1t is human, too, Tor
tlB woman IN unguArded moments to make
cmpaI isons between her married aud single
lie in which regrets and reproachee are implied
inot spoken. When matters reach this point
Ills the coup de grace and domestic felicity ia at
81 end.
wants to maj ~ the poor rich girl, Go West but
Lhs is counsel he cannot follow. His lot is cast
here, and through Industry he has reasonable
expectations OF ultimately acquiring modest
competency. 1t would be foolish for him to give
up the bird in hand for the two out West in the
bush, to say nothing Of his likings, which ten to
one favor his present surroundings. Here the
field OF labor is plainly indicated, and he is al
ready 10 the harness. His future being here, he
must submit to the conditions OF life around
him, and accept ctNIhzation as ne mas " THUS
reasoning he turns away from the poor li;h
mans sumptuous dwelling with sign he may
not pluck the coveted flower And II the expect
cd bridegroom iu purple and fine linen, from
Lydian shores, fail to come, the daughter is con-
demned to q life of celibacy II the father has
several suoh who wait in vain, his house, ac-
cordng to the Dutch proverb, becomes Ike q
cellar full OF sour beer
There are three issues out Of the difficulties
which involve marriage in the cities simpler
mode of life the independence which the wo-
man may acquire in self-support and the doWry.
which concei MS rather the parents than the wo-
man herself. f.-Albert Rhodes, in September Gal
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