Orleans County monitor. [volume] (Barton, Vt.) 1872-1953, 1873-07-21
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A Clergyman,s Address to Married
Persons at the Altar.

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We take the following from an old BIZ
BILE, SO old that we find no date any
where between its leaves:
The duties between man and wife are
various and important. They suppose
the union not of persons only, but also
and principally of affections. It is not
joining of hands, but of hearts, which
constitutes marriage in the sight of God.
This alone brings and preserves the
sexes together, and both sanctifes and
perfects this most solemn and sacred
connection. But where this is wanting,
the mere cohabitation of man and wom-
an, in spite of all the ceremonies in the
world, is nothing better than legal pros
titution. The Office says, and with great
propriety, that, so many as are coupled
together otherwise than Gods word doth
allow, are not Joined together of God,
neither is the matrlmony lawful.
See, then, that no motives of interest
OF convenience deceive you into notion
that you love one another while you do
not. 1t is not the bare form of vowing
i'll the most solemn manner at the altar,
that can possibly give sanction to false
hood. or render innocent such mercenary
lies.
Trife not, | charge you, in this awful
instance, with the God of Nature, truth,
and your own heart, and your own CON-
fort! Surely Of all kinds and degrees
of prostitution, that which screens itself
under cover of the law, is the most Grim
inal and she who give her hand to the
man whom she does not in fact prefer to
the whole world, is almost as worthless
to ali intents and purposes as a common
prostitute. God never winks at the Vi
olation of nature, nor suffers it to take
place with impunity. But this must be
the case in every marriage where mutual
attachment is wanting. And the family
is uniformly cursed with the most SUBJ
stancial wretchedness. where there SUBJ
sists no love between the heads of it.
You, who are the husband. must treat
your wife with delicacy and discretion.
Nothing in nature is so endearing, so
winning, so captivating, as tenderness
nothing creates aversion so soon, so
strong, so inveterate, as rudeness, indif-
ference, or disrespect. She is the weak
er vessel, and depends on you for protec-
tion and comfort, in all her difficulties
For your sake she has left her friends,
her connections, and all the world, and
should she meet with tyrant instead
of lover, she may repent of this as
long as she lives. Never incense nor
insult her: and as You wish to keep
your own temper and peace, ruffie not
hers; for crossness and asperity, espec-
tally when they settle into moroseness
and i'll nature, are the qualities of a saw
age, not of christian. Never, on any
pretence whatever, squander that in
dress, drinking. or dissipation, which
you should lay by for the benefit of your
family. Be- all the laws of God and
man, of justice and love, they have an
exclusive claim on whatever you car
earn; and every unnecessary indulgece
which you give apart from them, is al
their expense and injury. Consult your
wife, especially in all cases of difficulty
it is her interest as we'll as duty, to give
you the best advice she can. Never
; keep her ignorant of your circumstan
ces: this has been the undoing of mil
lions of families. The wife who deserves
the name, will never fail to economic
when she knows that her partners cir
cumstances require it. Be not mucl
uneasy though the world should some
times think she has her full share of in
fuence. Women of good sense seldom
abuse their husbands confidence. AM
you will see few happy families in whicl
the wife is either slave or a cipher.
Mutual happiness is your mutual oh
ject; yield therefore to one another
Be ye equally yoked, is the command Q
God; let neither seek basely to thro,
an undue weight ON the others shoul
: ders. Suffer no interference from an
quarter whatever to interrupt your ha1
mony: you are connected for life
Nothing can separate your fate in thi
world; 0, let nothing divide your affec
, tions. Regard each other with the full
est confidence the least spark of sus
picion from either, must forever bias
the comfort of both. There can be n
harmony where there is no faith.
A wife should not only love her hus
band, but on every occasion shew hil
all the attentions in her power. Stud
by every means to make his house con
Portable and inviting. Where the trea:
: ure is, there will the heart be also, an
| mans presence, as we'll as his hear
! will always be the most. where he hs
the most pleasure. And | will ventul
!, to assert it as fact incontestible, tn;
he who finds home paradise, will Sc
: dom stroll into the wilderness of tt
e world While on the other hand.
8 scolding wife and a hot house have dri
j en- many wretched husband to a ta'
ern, where cards, women, and wine hay
a settled his own and the destruction
his family
l In word, be habitually loving ar
; kind to one another. Have no separa
secrets, nor allow yourselves any airs
mystery but open out your whole hear
! to each other. Conceal as much as po
sible one another's foibles, and cultlva
It habits of afabllity, forbearance, al
y good nature. Never be sullen. or in
pet with each other, especially in Il
presence of strangers. And, to say a
e. in all, love and live together as the hei
1T of glory; and may the richest blessin
It of Almighty God be your mutual pc
tion both in this world and the next.
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