The new Northwest. [volume] (Portland, Or.) 1871-1887, 1873-11-14
Home and its Queen.
By 1. A. HEALD.

BIZ 1. A. HEALD.
It has been truly and wisely said that
"In the present institution of marriage
there are three classes OF wives and only
three: the slave wife, the dependent pet
wife and the compnaion. Gentlemen,
which do you choose? Shall it be the
king and his slave, the king and his ca
nary bird, or the king and his queen?'
Petty home tyrants prefer and create
the first named condition, shallow
Drained fops the second, and the truly
wise, noble and loving, the third.
If, as is generally admitted, the future
prosperity and welfare of our country
depend mainly upon the education and
morality of the rising generation, when
we take into consideration how much
of the care and responsibility is left for
mothers to assume, it is constant won
der and surprise TO me that men can
become so completely absorbed In
blind and selfish grasping for present
wealth and power, that they will allow
prejudice and self-conceit to warp their
naturally better judgment until it as
sumes the form of q hateful tyranny
over their families, especially the life
partners of their sorrows, if not their
joys, who should not only be treated as
equals, whose every reasonable request
which would add to their convenience
and happiness should be carried into
effect, but others, if necessary, sug-
gested to cheer the dull monotOny
of an almost constant routine of Caily
duties. too often only relieved by the
trials and vexations incident TO the care
and training Of a family Of children,
that they may become not only useful
ornaments to society, but an honor TO
the future OF their country. II, then, il
falls chiefly 10 the lot of mothers, wives,
sisters and daughteres to educate and
direct the youthful mind, how suicidal
10 withhold from woman any OppOrtu-
nity to first educate herself for the task,
which We do when we refuse to recOg-
nize
HER NATURAL RIGHT
To a voice in making the laws by which
she is governed; TO engage in any and
every department OF industry she may
choose, on her admission into any sOci-
ety or institution on equality with man.
In this age of progress il is time that
we, as Americans, who are proud Of our
freedom and boast of our gallantry, had
become a little more consistent, liberal
and manly toward TO the opposite sex;
for he who, through seeming politeness,
tips his hat to every well dressed lady
acquaintance he meets, yet is Indifferent
in regard to that respect and justice due
the honest, working girl, perchance en-
ployed at his own establishment at
starvation prices, yet some dear sister
or mothers darling, working day and
night, perhaps at the risk of health and
comfort, to lead a virtuous and honorable
life-such man is a dishonor to mis-
own sex and unworthy of the opposite;
for man has no friend so devoted, so un-
selfish and so kind as our highest types
Of womanhoOd. The truest friend ever
knew was my mother. Were she now
living, and were il in my power,
would accord to her every right to which
/ am myself entitled. Were | to do
otherwise, or accept 4 life partner and
enter u lodge, or any society whatever,
where they were not as welcome as N.Y.
self | should feel that | had proved false
to my highest sense Of Justice and equal
ity.
HOME TYRANNY.
hate tyranny in any form; but most
Of all DO ] despse petty home tyranny
which the law fails TO reach; where JUS
tice and mutual rights are unrespected,
and the stronger holds absolute sway
over the weaker, regardless of the COM
fort and happiness Of the latter, while
the outside world does not seem to pos
sess the moral courage or lawful right
10 interfere. That this, in greater or
less degree, is the case in a large proper
tion Of families no truthful, impartial
observer will deny. Human nature is
about the same everywhere; and, al
though ! have not as yet assumed the
responsibility OF becoming a self-con-
80 II q IL.
failed to notice this usurpation Of un-
limited authority by fathers Of families,
ia my travels north, south, east and
west; and while it continues, and moth
ers and wives are wearing away their
unhappy lives, children OF the present
generation will necessarily be neglected,
aud future generations will deplore that
neglect as they look backward and be-
come sensible Of its effects upon theiI
well-being as wellas the destiny of ouI
Government and institutions
Farmers wives, especially, who art
isolated from society, and whose duties
if constant, keep them chiefly within
doors; whose only hope OF happiness OF
earth, i'm many cases, is centered in theil
own families and homes, feel NOR,
keenly undue restraint, or lack of ap-
probation of lifelong services rendered
Allhu nllAtA7 " AAo etI AAAtlN AANNlN luAl
society and TO places Of amusements
and while ! admit that there are som,
wives who are unworthy of their hus
bands, vet any man who deliberately
induces a girl 10 leave a comfortable
happy home TO enter into a life-part
nership with him through the institu
tion of marriage, and fails TO respect be
rights as an equal ever after (unles
there has been an express understand
ing 10 the contrary, who is unwilling
10 bestOw those little attentions and IA
vors so highly priced by the oppositl
sex, and 90 far toward making up tht
sum total of happiness; who assumes un
limited control ofproperty and children
irrespective of her wishes; in short, whC
lails TO use all reasonable endeayors I,
better her former condition. is a dis
grace TO humanity, usurper, a tyran
can scarcely conceive Of 4 more dis
couraging or humiliating condition 10
refined and intelligent woman 70 h,
placed in than be bound for life 10
coarse, uneongenial companion.
drunkard, or, as is too often the casa
one too selt-conceited and overbea ii n,
to consult the wishes or judgment of
woman, especially his 0wn wife, who's
intelligence, education and bushes
capacities, if not superior, may be eoua
10 his own, and whose only door of es
cane is death, while her only hope {
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