Arizona citizen., 1873-06-07

So much has been written and so
 many theories have been advanced
 as to the true course to be pursued to
 make home happy, that it would
 seem that the theme was exhausted
 while unhappiness is as prevalent as
 ever. Now the fact is that to make
 home happy, the right kind of mate
 rial is of the first importance; and
 no general rule can be observed and
 carried to @ successful termination
 any more than can 8 system be
 adopted and made applicable to the
 government and control of all the
 different Indian tribes and bands. To
 make home happy, there must be
 mutual love, confidence, forbearance
 and unselfshness, and when such is
 the condition of the household the
 minor details of life become easy
 and whatever calamities may befall
 the family 1t is difficult to keep hap
 piness out. When the reverse condition
 exists no fortunate circumstances of
 life can bring happiness and content
 ment into the house. Wealth posi-
 tion aud ease will not do 1t. The
 skeleton can always be found some
 where whether the outside world
 knows 1t or not But there are some
 things Shat husbands and wives ought to do and there are others they should not do, and we will mention
 briefly few of them. First, neither men nor women should marry without believing they are securing an equal share ill the partnership and can look upon each other with pride in all the relations of life. The first effort should be to make home as agreed ble and pleasant as their means will permit To make cheerful home 1t does not require wealth and we will say here that the most cheerful homes we have ever seen were those where wealth was not; but there were flowers and green trees and singing birds, and everything within and about the house had place and was ill its place and was neat and tidy, while the most gloomy and cheerless home we ever saw was where poor men were never permitted to tread ex- cept as servants, the most elegantly furnished rooms were unused except upon important occasions, coldness and gloom penetrated and surrounded everything, the old watchdog showed his unhappiness by snarling at every one who came in sight and the chil- dren appeared like strangers to their parents Nature designed that man should go forth into the world and make the rough fight of life for his wife and little ones, and it was equally the design of nature that the wife in the mean time should remain at home, and see that all goes we'll while he is away. When he returns as he should at the close of the day there should be mutual desire to see how happy each can make the other; h.. has had his cares and vexations with the out side world and she has had her troub- les i'll her own particular sphere. Each one goes to the other for sym pathy and how happy they can make each other if they will. But if the man returns sullen and sour, perhaps steeped in whisky and seeks to sweeten up his soured disposition by lording it over his poor wife just because he can, he will by such course in time develop anything but happy home. If on the other hand he seeks his 1 home hoping to obtain rest and con- and is met with reproaches and is told by his wife that she and all other women are slaves, that they are to remain indoors to do all the drudgery for men, and then to show her independence takes 1t upon herself to dispute every proposition he may advance if she constantly mourns over the fate of women because they were not born men, and denounces the laws of the country because they cannot vote and hold office, into such home no warming ray of love and happiness ever did nor ever will enter. Rather than have such home we would burrow with the prairie dog where the owl and the rattlesnake make common home. The snarling of the hyena, the bowling of the tom cat, the hissing of the viper, the odor of the skunk, the tomahawk and scalping knife of the Apache, the haatinr bark at the mouth of that