The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1873-03-29
Young Couples.


was created" al women must accept that
article OF belief as containing the sum total
OF their duty to themselves and man. Men
preach it, and urge 1t on those within their
reach. Yet statistics prove that they them
selves would rather have it o one-sided
affair; since they are VIGOROUSLY growing
cautious and dilatory, not to say averse to
marriage. And what heart, however stout,
can contemplate without qualms an exist
ence whose pleasure is limited to ST. Mar
tins Summer OF q honeymoon, followed by
alterations OF tropical storms and Arctic
frigidityl Man is not prone to choose
darkness and the shadow OF death for his
abode, while floods OF golden sunshineawait
whomsoever cares To scale the heights.
Yet women are seen ready to sacrifice self
respect and peace OF mind to secure mar
riage whose happiness is TO wane with the
moon; content that there should be no re-
newal OF its spiendor. The brighter light
that should shine beyond, is forgotten, until
chill, awful and rayless as the Arctic mid
| night san, it sinks forever in hopeles gloom.
Marriage is not the end Of woman! Where
1t is accepted with awe, as part OF her des-
tiny, it is her new birth in higher life.
And the same training lies before her moral
ly as that which gradually developed her
from the helpless, silly, petted baby into the
perfect woman. But tell bride that she
must look to the day when unmixed senti-
mentality will be as fascinating as the ba6-
bling of an idiot, and she will indignantly
assert that being helpmeet for man means
renouncing every charm and prerogat!ve.
No wonder she clings to rhapsodlcal ravng.
No wonder she strives to exclude the ra-
tional life. No marvel that Sampson, lies
shorn and feeble, the secret source OF bis
strength cut oil By his own Delilah.
Young people, with very little capital or
knowledge of the business, rush simulta-
neously into matrimony and solitude. and
consider every interruption to that tete d te!e
OF platitudes a mortal injury. The repe.
tition OF the most simple word causes 1t to
grow strange and uaEstural. So isolation
and familiarity result In the dolorous expert
ence OF Aphonse and Ceestine, who, in un-
interrupted communion, found detects that
had never before been suspected. Alphonse
discovered q mole on Celestine's cheek.
When he was discourteou5 enough to men,
ton it, C6estine did not know whether he
was referring to her or to her little dog, he
squinted so abominablyl The mole became
monstroslty, the squlnt deformity, until
the doctor was consulted. He prescribed a
little variety OF intercourse, and they were
made whole again.
Even on purely intellectual basis tete-d-
teLes may become wearisome. Witness Hor.
ace Walpole and Mad. DudefaDt. Intel
lectualy enamor ID, they retired to her cha.
teau to enjoy that communion OF soul which
the noise OF Paris might have disturbed.
Walpele, who could certainly talk enough,
complained that he was bored to death in q
few hours. Before day had passed they
fled apart In mutual disgust The plant
against 'towours perdrir" has reasonable
basis. Some practical man tested it. The
victim, who was very partial to partridges,
was bound to confine himself to that diet for
thirty days. Long before that period had
elapsed, he begged to forfeit the money that
was to be his reward, loathing partridge as
the Israelites did the quail, while the covet-
ed flesh was yet between their teeth.
The grand climacteric and the period OF
teething are not as dangerous to man as
the transition from the lover state into that
OF husband and wife. Ignoring the fact that
union is strength, they are content with its
conventional semblance. After the brief
period during which love. making is endur-
able, instead OF uniting their aims and
efforts for one definite object, they ind
themselves growing only farther apart. She
hcontracts.to to the size of her nursery, while he
ISexpands in larger life. At last no common
Interest binds them, save household eXpen-
|ses and the welfare OF children. Many have
reason to sympathize with the French lady
lIwho said: ''The first year OF my marriage
81 adored my husband! could have eaten
shiml The second year-Iregretted that l
''had not"
"seli-knowledge, seli-reverence, selfcon-
stroll These three alone lead man to sover-
"eign power" And these are unattainable
to miserable pride and self-sufficiency.
And Without them marriage must be pur-
gatory, without hope OF transfer. To know
ones sell would be the sum OF human wis
dom. 70 know ones mate would secure
| happiness. Yet no one claims to have this
knowledge, save In partial, one.sided
way. Instead Of mutual concessions and
earnest endeavors to maintain peace, we
have vague suggestions OF unrest, and an
irresistible tendency to bang the door while
living In an edifce whose timbers are as
weak as-most resolutions. 'Bear and
"forbear," 30 universally preached, is at