Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1873-10-25

or boistrous, but quietly watch those
around her, and accommodate herself a.
the new circumstances. Modcsty, puri.
tty, and certain respect for ones neigh.
Dor, would then seem to be
THE FUNDAMENTAL PRINCIPLES.
upon which the character of lady oi
gentleman is built; and not few arbi.
trary, social rules. Nor is the levelinp
process nj all necessary to establish this.
Truth is a sine qua non, and also an ut
ter abrogation Of shame. Not that it is
necessary to "wear ones heart upon
ones sleeve for DAVIS to peck at" or to
tell ones private history and possibly
daily sacrifices to the world a. large
/ he modesty Of which we spoke as a
primary element would forbid that, but
presence under any form never confirm
ed posi- ton. When Harriet Beecher
, owe was invited to meet certain celeb
rites at dinner at the Duchess of
Sutherland's she asked "if there were
any special forms to be observed which
she, III her different sphere, would natu-
rally be acquainted with;" and received
Tor answer "Ihe rules of good breeding
"NiS 'CiN hlH'u tue saIDc
ALL OVER THE WORLD"
So far as regards the mere forms Of
society, this is true; but, in spite of her
high estate, in spite of her being born
Ill the purple, the numerous evictions,
upon the estate of the noble lady in
question, OF helpless tenantry. would al.
most lead one to think that Her Grace
might be somewhat wanting in true
womanllness,-mI not be a perfect
lady after our rule.
However, this is our argument that no
perfect good breeding can exist, no
matter how closely the minutip of So
clal etiquette may he observed, when
disregard of the rights, or even Of the
feelings, of the humblest, is allowed to
obtain. When people so far forget
themselves as to he Obtrusive and i'm
pertinent, it may be necessary to put
them down; but the true lady will do it
quietly, gently, and with perfect digni-
ty. If it falls to her lot, as it NAV to
any one of us, to tell another unpleas-
ant truths the manner will soften the
matter, and the wound will be healed as
soon as made
SO we see that ont side accessories
have
LITTLE TO DO
with true etiquette; and that while GER
tain social laws help to oil the machine
ry of life, they are not absolutely in
dispensible to genuine good breeding.
That is matter of the heart alone. and
all the culture in the world will leave n
man snob in the end, if he has not suf-
ticient self-respect to respect others
The little lady says "1hank YOU nat
urally. The little gentleman protects
his sister or her friends. Selfishness is
not consonant with the title, and has
to he some what subdued from its original
natural propositions before one can be
sure of claiming the position rightfully
of perfect lady or gentleman.
OF a Widow.
Mr.. G. Gerad, now of PHILADELPHIA,
but formery American Consul at Cape
Town, Cape of Good Hope, communi-
Gates to the press of the former city the
Following amusing reminscence of his
African consular experience:
There is very singular custom
amelf# the farmers-how to get wife
If tfiN desire to get married you should
first make inquiry whether he lady you
love has IA horse; if SO, you must ask her
whether she has horse for sale. If she
says 'No," then you had better quit the
house at once. She does not like you.
But if on the contrary, she says "Yes,"
it is a good sign, but she will ask you
very high price. If the amount named
is paid on the spot the engagement is
as fully as if the marriage
was consumated by the parson.
"On my arrival at the Cape, did
not know of this custom. wanted to
purchase horse, and | was informed
hy an old Dutch resident that Widow
- had one to sell. followed the ad-
dress given, and soon arrived at the
door OF the window (who by the way,
was not bad looking) l asked her
whether she had horse to sell. She
looked at me very sharp; then asked me
whether / had some letters of intro
duction. | said that was the Amer
lean consul, and would pay cash for her
III t1dt vary. Sdl'i riit ltittIs
are not necessary" paid down the sum
demanded; then, after taking cup of
coffee she sent her horse by her groom,
and hoth accompanied me home. On
the road the groom asked me a thou
sand questions. "Master said he, will
my mis- ress go live with you in town,
or will you come live with us? You
will like my mistress, for she was very
kind t" my old master Qaughing).-
Where will the wedding be? Cooking at
me and laughing) "Truly, thought,
the poor fellow has drank to much or
he is an imhecilc." | felt sorry for
him. When / arrived home found
many people at the door congratulating
me, not for the horse, but for the ac
quaintance of the widow. Truly said
one, you have been very successful
SHE is very rich, said another. real
ly did not know what it all meant, and
| began to be very uneasy, when, to my
great surprise, lady alighted on my
steps, and | at once recognized the wild
ow. She very cody asked me when |
desired to have the ceremony of the
wedding performed.
Then indeed, l fully perceived the
scrape in which | was, and told her
frankly that IL WAS n horse wanted and