Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1873-11-05
A Study from Life.


She marries for love, not to gct place,
a station, OF a competence. But her love
is not a Jonah's gourd. 1t is not hero
worship Of an ideal created by her own
imagination. She loves a man whose faults
she is wise to see, and strong, in love- to
bear with Hers is love that can suffer
long and be kind
Married, tho hope Of maternity brightens
her future 'verd when God gives to her
the most sacred earthly token Of His love
He ever vouchsafes to mortal. babe, the
Joy Of her womanhood seems to her to be
full Ilenccforth, four words fll up the
measure Of her lifc-homc, husband, child,
God. For she believes that the home is
more than the state, the mothers Office the
highest on earth, and to train children in
The image Of God a grauder work than to
make laws or interpret them.
She is happily free from the feverish love
Of public applause which often corrupts and
debauches the masculine conscience She
breads publicity. The love Of her husband,
the reverence Of her children, constitute the
crown to which she aspires.
She is by nature and by taste an artist.
She loves beauty, and her deft fingers, in
structed by love, learn to produce it. She
docs not think that to be plain is to be
homoly. She loves flowers, pictures, statu.
ary, tasteful dress. Her home may be poor,
hut it is beautiful; her dress plain, but it is
never ugly She does not have curls for
company, and curl-papers for her breakfast
table; best parlor ornate with purchased
elegance, and a sittng-room in perpetual
chaos For beauty she studies nature, not
the fashion plates. She thinks God under
stands the human figure better than the
miliner; aud she is not Darwinian enough
to believe that the wasp furnishes the mode
for her own form or that Of her daughters
She hates shams She bears no malice
except to q lie. A lie acted is only lesi
iutolcrable than a lie spoken. She prefer
to wear her own cap rather than her neigh
boris hair, and has as little inclination t.
be a peacock in society as to be a jackdav
at home. Her life, as her love. is withou
dissimulation.
She never quarrels, rarely disputes, sci
dom discusses. The wisdom that is from
above is first pure then peaccable; anC
she is very wise. 1t takes two to make
quarrel and, come what may, she will mo-
be one Of them. She answers with neither
sharp words nor sulky silence Love is {
; lightning-rod that disarms all thunder
clouds and she is well equipped Bu
she is not without a will of her own-no
she. She does not believe that her HUSBAND
is king who can do no wrong, nor an in
fallible pope who can make no mistakes
She is Often wiser than he, and she know
it; and she has the grace to stand up 70
her own opinion against all her world tha
= is, her home companions. But she believe
= that two cannot walk together unless the
be agreed and when her husband is nc
man enough to yield to her, she is woma
enough to yield to him. Any head is bette
than none and she yields allegiance to tn
head Of the household when she does not i
real opinion, yield to his inferior judgment
When she yields it is cheerfuly, in tn
submission Of love to love, not in that 0
weakness to power.
She does not believe that God made me
: to serve, and women to be served and eel
tainly she does not believe that He mad
= women to serve, and men to be serveC
She is no mans servant; no man is her
Z They are co.workers She is not ashame
= = to be found in her working clothes,
nursery, kitchen, or cellar. She has
:, little inclination as time for folded hands
aud however many servants her husband
purse may put at her disposal, she is the
o true mistress, and buster, though with
g higher industry, than they all arc. H'
. children imbibe her spirit. And it is h'
husbands fault, not hers, if they sit at oai
z in the parlor while she tolls in the kitche
II She knows the depth Of her husband
u purse, and never touches the bottom of
e She breads debt, because it brings care
Z, his brow and dishonor to his name. 81
q would rather eat dry bread than borrowt
y butter
&c She shares her husbands cares he shar
a hers. She proves her love by putting b
't end Of their mutual burdens on his shou
e ders; and every burden is lightened
both by the common bearing Of it, 1t is
u poor love that coddes husband, unless
+. is weak in body or in mind.
Is Busy though she be, she makes lelsu
- for herself, leisure to sit down quietly
u repose with her husband and her chidre
IL She will not suffer her cares to absorb he
H. She is less anxious to be good hou:
% keeper than a good home-kceper; and S
a' gives, not merely her energies, but helse
o. to those whom she loves. So courtsh
,S !, lasts all through the married life; and
~ husband never goes elsewhere to find
or quiet and congenial companionship which
ln denied him at home. In brief, she is Ma
~ and Martha by turns, and knows when
~ be each.
When at last death summons her, s
a feels no fear. She bids good-by to thu
'n whose guardian angel she has been, with
y forebodings for herself, and few for the
Is since she trusts both them and herself
ln' the hands of the same Heavenly Faith
u, ~ But when she is gone, the light Of tn
IN household is extinguished for the Chr
W that has been in her has made her as
., incarnation of Him who is love to those !
Nv loved Aud long after her chair is vaca
:. the memory Of her presence fingers,
H. inspiration and the restraint Of the lon
children and the lonelier father; and
ro hope Of possessing her appreciation and
ceiying her glad greeting in the great
o1 Of resurrection, is the strongest as 1t is
w. holiest motive Of their lives, next to
ro hope of the appreciation and the welcome
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