The true northerner. [volume] (Paw Paw, Mich.) 1855-1920, 1873-09-05
For the True Northerner.
Short Chapters on Matri-
mOny.
CHAPTER Y

that the whole secre. OF choosing well IN n>atr1-
mouy was taught in three words, viz erpiore
the character. Ii the character OF the candl-
date be seriously at fault, let EN- sltde.' To
possess unblemsLed and responsible character,
implies the presence OF uprightness, integrity,
and consistency, and the world constantly iden-
titles it with these things; frmnoss stability.
and strength. are indispensable elements in the
constitution Of character. II these things be
not found in the case of the man soliciting your
hand and heart, you had as well - stand aloof y
from investing your dearest interests with
man lacking the above elements of well de-
veloped manhood.
Again, violent love-it, Il wonder IL that
bears any resemblance or relation 10 cat
tit!") is always the result OF ignorance. For
there is not daughter OF the woman who
! pluclied the forbidden apple, that has really
merit enough to justify romantic love. though
thank heaven there are multiplied thousands
who may and do inspire that gentle esteem
which ls vastly to he preferred, woman
worshipper derives bis mistake from ignorance
! OF the female world. and so aso OF tie woman
batter, for 1t female character we're fairly under
stood by each It would be found too good to be
hated, and not sufficiently divine TO be idoized
and adored There is evidently tack oC brain
in all such cases, and | would suggest to our
State authorities the erection of an asylum for
the radical cure of the diseases named for less
than this will fail to reform some of the evils
that result from the causes we have specified.
For instance, a certain maiden Il out west,
determined and anxious to elope with her ''lov-
yer" but finding broon.-stick in the hand OF
her mother an obstacle, actually had the old
lady securely locked up, and with her "adored"
drove trlumpbantly to the clergyman's where
the knot was tied. Hard to stop some of our
western girls from obeying the urgent dictates
of "hyfalutinated" romantic love I have
somewhere met the following a. n bachelors
opinion OF modern girls. II will no doubt be
pronounced hbelous and atrocious IN the ex-
treme, but thank heaven for the Freedom Of
the Pres"
Ever ranging, constantly changing
sometimes teasing. sometime pleasing.
Often hoaxng sometimes coaxing:
No expressing, how much dressing
Little knowing, little sewing,
Novel reading, dainty feeding
Idle dreaming, sudden screaming;
Often walking, loudly talking,
Lap-dos dotng, Byron quoting.
Piano playing, gems displaying,
Body bracng, tightly laCng
Dandy loving, white kid glowing.
Thin shoe wearing, health Gespairing.
Ever sighipg almost dying
What blessed wives, 60 cheer mems lives
The author of the foregoing is perhaps the
same individual who sad that Adams wife
was called Eve because when she appeared
mans day OF happiness was drawing to close,
The ladies' should seek ont that cristv old
bacheor---shave his head-crop bls cars-pin
back his eye-brows-and conpcl him TO walk
harc-heade1 70 SAT Lake City"-and let all
the women cay Amen.
The foowug things We regard as absolutely
necessary to happy communal home; Integ-
rity must be the arcGitect. ana t!diness the up
holsterer. 1t must 10 warmed uy affection,
and lighted up with cheorfuinoss Industry
must be the vaatilator, renewing the atmo-
sphere day 10y day. while over al. as q protect
ing canopy and glory, nothing viii suiii e but
the blessing OF God.
1t is the rife that makes tho ho0,c, and the
homo makes tho nam. Whenever we see a
man walking among men jiGmeiess we take It
for granted that the angel who keeps his feet.
is the angel OF home, n "tip-top" bamelss ,,ite.
good wife should be like three things, which
things should not be like her. First. she
should be like a snail, to keep witha her own
house. But che should not be like a snail to
carry all she has upon her back. Second, she
should be like an echo, to speak when spoken
TO. But should not be like an echo, always tc
have the last word. Third, she should be Ike
a town clock, always to keep time regularly
But she should not be like town clock, tc
speak 80 lond that all the town can hear her.
With such wife as this, (and all old bache
, lors should make a note OF this) il is declared
that man can get sixty-nine and half stat
ute miles" nearer I" Kingdom come" than from
any other point land down in modern geog
raphies. Do you say that 1t is ridiculous t
talk thus of married life ? Then may HEAVIER
mend and Addison help you to cultivate you
taste. Life, my bachelor friend, is grea
poem and in well assorted marriage will b
: iouDd some OF its sweetest starzas.
However, il you still fail to appreciate on
remarks, We must utter our convection tha
your heart is rapidly becoming ossitied, ant
that there is not IN its rocky depths sngl
cleft wherein flower may bloom as a swee
memorial OF gentler period in your existence
You should lose no time, but immediately see
4 an interest IN the prayers of tho church. "
l fear however. that Ne "Mene, nene, tekel
OF your destiny ls already written and whel
you really think you are about to 'kick III
bucket, send for Sigma" and he will writ
your epitaph free gratis, for nothing!
, Nothing brishtens true womans life hk
. love She will do anything, bear anything
!, suffer anything, for the sake Of a husband VIII
truly and tendery loves her, and whose hear
: is one with hers. Where such love ends. widow
: hood begins. The woman who has husban
who is not ,ctolly hers, mourns the loss of
companion, aud endures the presence OF
y mummy. But where conjugal fidelity and los
c exist. poverty, privation, and toll are welcomes
i gladly for the JOY of love. But this love mus