Vermont phÅ“nix. [volume] (Brattleboro, Vt.) 1834-1955, 1873-01-24

snuH out love affair that promises to give
her girl good one Is unspeakably selfish.
We have had two courtshps in our Kitchen
followed by weddings In the parlor, and /
take comfort in thinking that there are two
Irish American homes whose Deatness and
thrift are a rebuke and stimulus to the
families around them, because Of the ideas
Maggie and Kate received from me. And
find that, though IT is hard to have girl
taken sick, and to be obliged to wait on her
and look after the work too, such an ex-
perience sometimes has Its compensations.
A girl who Is suspicious OF other favors
surrenders her heart to your kindness In
preparing savory dishes to tempt her ap-
petite, and in otherwise minislering to her
slck-room necessities. After Kate's run
of fever she was fastened to me till her
marriage, though before that she was al
ways taking offence at some little thing
and threatening TO leave. Mrs. Lyman
took care of me when 1 was SICK was the
one answer, ever after, when she was Of
fered places with less work and larger pay.
always try, too, to make girls room
pleasant. She may have been used to bare
walls and bare floors, but she will appreciate
a carpet, and pictures and brack cts. And
with a cheerful room to take her girl friends
to, she will be less apt to roam the streets
with them, evenings. Mr.. Lyman says he
should get to be as cross as bear, if he
stayed night and day In his office where he
does his work, and insists that girl needs
pleasant retreat where she can get away
from the sight of hers"
"But after ALL" 1 ventured to suggest,
with most girls now w-a-days indulgence
seems to be wasted. The more favors they
receive the more they expect, aud with the
first offer of better wages they will leave
you"
"They have a right to leave IL they can
do better somewhere else" she replied
land generally they ought to. If they give
good measure Of work for their wages, we
have no further claim on them. But think
they do apprecte kindness-or, rather, love;
for kindness is not enough. My girl has
right to my love- and that is very differ
ent thing from my indulgence.
lizard work to love some that have
seen r. said my wife with an incredulous
shake of the head.
"But our Christian duty, nevertheless.
isn't it7" answered my cousin. ave
must be good to the unthankful and the
evil and in this, as in every other rela-
ton, love grows on the loving things we
do. l think it is worm at the root of our
kindness to girls that we bestow it expect
ing to receive as much again, and feel
wronged If 1t Is not returned in full with
interest. And it Is a common fault that we
forget the limitations under which their
characters have been formed, and do not
make sufficient allowances for their faults.
NobleSse obiige, you know. If Mary speaks
to me in angry impatience, is my self-re-
spect so fragile that she must be dismissed
to save II If meet her fault finding with
an unruffied spirit, If I candidly own mp
to my thoughtless provocation, or pleasant
ly explain, and leave her to see that she
was in error, may l not win my sister ?
If she has not attained seli-control, the
more need is there that should lead her
| by patient pleasant ways into IT. And,
| really, il 1t a vital matter that my girl
should always be in good humorH 1t may
do her good, as it does the rest of US weak
lings, sometimes to pout little. If l must
reprove her, how easy, yet how wrong to
speak impatiently! 1 find it better to save
my reproof until some quiet hour when
both of US can look at the matter most
calmly and fairly. And l think it Is with
hired girls as with children, that criticism
Is all the better to be thickly sugar-coated
with commendation and encouragement
At any rate, faut-finding that is a mere
escape valve for the present ill-humor is
worse than useless.
"After ALL" she continued, In a tone that
quvered little with feeling, ~ dom
know as II is of so much consequence thai
we should be we'll served by our girls, as
that we should give them good service our
selves, steadily seeking to lift them into &
better womanhood. We women get en-
thusiastic over "the work of the Board" ir
Papal lands, and almost wish we coulc
give ourselves, along with our prayers anC
our fairs, to the work But here it is brough
right to our hands A missionary expect
the conversion of native who becomes
member of his family. He asks no bette
opportunity for reaching him with Chris
| tldIl inHutuCeS. hHu SoInetl1neS tHlTt
we Christian women ought to evangelz
our foreign population by evangelizinj
these young women, the mothers of tn
next generation, who are steadily filterinl
through our homes into homes of thei
own"
Mrs. Lyman is not my cousin, and he
name is not Mrs. Lyman. But her opin
ions are of value just so far as there Is rea
son in them. And after putting them dow
on paper-a test which some opinions, tina
may sound very plausible in talk, will nc
stand-they still seem to me worthy of con
sideration by those who must live withi
the limit of small incomes and who wis
to live as Christianly as they can.-Christid
Union.
VENTRILooUIsM EASILY LEARNED.-Ac
| cordinu In q W rit or In tha Chicauo Advannf