Bellows Falls times. [volume] (Bellows Falls, Vt.) 1856-1965, 1873-10-17
Fault Finding.

A writer in the Rural New Yorker
says:
Grown people are SO apt to forget that
they were once young II is most la
mentable forgetfulness. There is no
need Of the heart growing old. Gray
hairs may be the glory of old age, but
freshness If heart and soul are its beau
ties.
What dear. precious old man is
that Father E. as you call him :"
exclaimed lively young girl, after my
dear precious " elderly friend had bid
US good night ; che seems to know just
how young folks feel, and don't pooh"
and look nonsense at our ambitions and
likes. I'd like to have him for my faith
err. I would he isn't always finding
fault about everything, | know"
How many young men and women do
you suppose are annually driven from
the parental roof by the faultfnding
of father or mother, or both We know
of no statistics to resort OTTO ascertain the
the number, but using our own personal
observation as a basis, the number is
large. More boys leave than girls be-
cause they are boys, 1t is not uncom-
mon for girls to marry because they have
no peace at home. That is one outlet
to them. 1t may give only change :"
of cultivation however. Only few
mornings ago, we had young girl COM
hitting suicide, because of the eternal
wranglipg and faultfnding of her pa
rents.
If we wanted to make a child deceit
fnl or liar, we should find fault with
him about great as well as small things.
If he broke or lost, or destroyed any.
thing, we should give him such lingual
castigation that if similar accident be-
fel him again, he would rather lie, steal
or run away, than to encounter the pa
rental ordeal the second time.
When child We had great number
Of very prominent traits" that were
catalogued off as faults" As we had
propensity for climbing trees and seal
ing ieuces, we naturally made considera-
BILE havoc with our calico dresses. But
being def with the needle we usually
managed to keep "mum" till ironing day
came, when the quick eye of mother or
Bridget would ferret out the mischief.
So ironing day became sort Of Day of
Judgment to US. We could never get
used to being found fault with, and were
often put at our wits end to escape the
wrath we knew would surely overtake us.
1t didn't make US bit more careful,
and all the faultfnding in the world
never made any child more careful.
There are words that will make them
more careful, and thoughtful, but they
are not words of "fault6nding"
Another one of our distinguishing
traits " was what seemed propensity
for breaking eroekery. We had to clear
away the table, and wash dishes when it
took stool to make us tall enough to
get our hands we'll into the dish pan, so
we received several castigations, both of
physical as well as spiritual nature, for
breaking dishes. And until this day,
the sight of girl carrying or lifting
dishes makes Us actually nervous for
fear she will let them fall, and father or
mother viii give her such an lawful
scolding," when she feels badly enough
about it already.
No child, in normal condition, feels
anything but sorrow at misfortune or
losses which accrue from mishaps. But
a generous amount of fault-fnding will
harden some young hearts into sort of
don't-care-ism.1 Sensitive natures will
be so overwhelmed with the dread of the
eternal fault.fndi0g. as to look out for
an escape valve. rather than how 20