The daily dispatch. [volume] (Richmond [Va.]) 1850-1884, 1872-03-21
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rhe following letter, fun Of susS'''Tg hs
corses written In rNtrician manu-; It
VIKING IL graceful, sweeping, ana aasu moral
to,ts the story so truly, and teaches = - the
so keenly, that cannot resist s''1ne
Con,mercial. epo,.r.s;yt,, street,
critics:
Dear 1Kr. Perkins: .,a odv;ce on |
WISH W as S:s long been weighing on my
mind. and that is--fiirnng. &c he;npstbat
lhx wv, COO 7 have got the name OF Genis sn"
loa ne thine--a flirt--simply BECAUSE
ae sI1 "t,er my own interests. Par e1dnWe
loon a. ,e,..,tv.-.cyery one says so--and nave
1 ai,l Pr Of admirers. WELL so soon As e
p l.m Gentleman whom l like preuy wen
sJ," IN me two or three times am prousht
. .,N Car examination before my paterna.
~ !. Who ia he - my relative sterniy inquiries.
uMr. Smith. papa" l meekty responu,
telling In ten words all know ABOUT tne
where does he live? What's his fathers
,ane2 WHAT'S his business? How niacu
Soea he make u wear: What ere his habits
Grliow each other in quick SUGGESTIONS anu
NOT he;nc able to answer, steadily set Work
To- discover these important facts, my lather
never thinking of doing for me.
Wen. in two months, by continual pump
ING discover his place of abode-qtllte s'Si-
In three months I discover his fathers
name-John. .uIro,,or ;n Wall
In four, his Businessman ofokef J" " "''
street.
In FIVE, income--uncertain.
In six, habits--ditto!
Now what is le.t for me to do! L nave
wasted three months finding out that 1t Wouiq
no very foolish for me to marry smith. ,
cant help i'll tried hard but ina big Guy
like this. it il hard to find out about ANYBODY,
40 can do nothing but give the case OF emlln
nm. and t1y again. Of course Eve Teatea
NJ. Smith. kindly because, he looked like 2
solid fellow, snd I didn't like to lose Sooo
Now, It happens that, having tried to look
ont for myself i'm this way some dozen times
or so, have drawn down on my devoted
head the opprobrious cpithct of-tllrt-ana
as natural consequence, all your Browns
bows" thinking me fair game for filrtation,
are Overwhelming Inc with their detrimental
attentions, to the disgust OF all the eliglDles.
Now, dear Dir. Perkins, can't you advlse
me on this subject, or at least make BITS
Gr,tndy retract the unenviable name she has
bestowed upon me!
Nv only desire is to pursue my own way
peacefully, and, before l die, marry some
Weil-educa:ed young man with good faml-
", good business, good habits, good income,
good-looking. and good-natured enough 10
make me love him; and surely no girl couio
ask less; could they!
1ny~ uCrIr
-. Noble BROWN.
For.y-strth street, March II.
No. Miss Mollie, no! your experience /
believe to be the experience of almost every
prettv Young lady from Madison square TO
the Park. The mission Of al accomplished
Young lady is to marry brave young fellow
with money enough to support her, ana love
enough in his big, generous heart to make
her happy.
You are not "flirt." You simply show 4
little management. You are doing simply
what your big brother and shrewd father
ought to do for you-euarding against being
deceived. You don't want 10 wreck your
Young life by marrying man whose life Is
pllrposeless, and who is penniless, reckless,
and heaitless.
"What is to he 1one?" ...'
WHY, there should lie confidential relations
between you and your father. don't mean
that he should be an old pepper-and-salt
dronledary, who drives blooded fellows away
by boring them to death with business ques-
tons the first night they call, but as soon as
Mr.. Smith shows the least speck Of devotion,
you should 20 right and tell your father, and
he in gentle and Chesterteldian manner
should make quiet inquiry about Smith
aforesaid. Finding Smith one OF Browns
boys, he should tell you so, and the next
time he called you could be out; while If
Smith was found to be plucky, brave, and
aspiring Young fellow, your papa could say
that, and leave the rest 10 you and Smith
aforesaid.
"What is flirting, anyway"
1t is simply making yourself agreeable. 1t
is compliment to be called flirt. l never
knew n tiirt who wasn't pretty, accomplished,
and whose heart, when once caught, wasn't
big enough and warm enough to make man
worship her all his life. Such being the case,
of course she was fixed out with velvet walk
ing-dresses, camePs hairs, siX-hutton gloves,
and boxes at the opera for the rest Of her
natural existence.
If you call it flirting to become engaged to
fellow and then break such engagement,
and with it an honest mans heart, after cab
baging solitaire and winters supply of
opera and big bouquets, don't. If you call
it flirting for q scamp to absorb year of a
young lady's life, to steal her confding kisses
of betrothcd maidenhood, and then break an
engagement and confiding heart--if you
call that fliltinssI don't. I call such things
criminal, and man ought to be put in the
Tombs fer doing it, just the same as he ought
to be put in the Tombs for any other SWIM
ding confidence game.
Flirting in the New York sense is when
young lady makes herself agreeable, and con-
sequently has lots Of admirers, whom, she
keeps "on string" until she makes up her
mind which one she loves best, and which
one has the biggest and brayest heart.
Flirting with blooded New York fell
lows is when young fellow with heart
full Of splendid hoyishness loves nj!
the pretty girls on the street, until, by
and-by, some sweet angel captures him,
head, heart, and Russian oyercoat, and the
thousand little flirting loves are concentrated
through the focus Of honest love upon the
new object of his alteration. And there
they both stand-Mollie Brown! both
caught, both true and together-one spirit,
they travel down the happy highway of life
TRAyERs AND CLEws.-If any one tells 4
good story here in New York they always
lay it to Mr.. Travels. just as they always used
to lay I'LL the good stories in Washington to
President Lincoln. The last one, on the
swcepstake director OF Erie, they tell as fol-
lows: tGE4
Henry CleWs. the Well-knoWn bald.beaded