Ellsworth American. [volume] (Ellsworth, Me.) 1855-current, 1872-02-22
Advice To rathers.


'.advice to fathers g.
Boys will be about what their parents
make then. Asparents. we are lxins the
character Of the next generation, by the
present education and training Of our
children. Solomcn's idea is. that 'if we
train up child in the way he should 60.
when he is old. he will not depart from IL. IS
Solomon was right; and the reason whv
there are so many ruined boys. is. that
they are trained up the wrong way. and
continue TO walk in Il.
Mr.. Beechers advice to cooks about
making coffee is. to see how they make
it at hotels and victualing saloons. and
then make 1t as they DON'T
| This is good rule to govern fathers Ia
training. and educating their boys. Sc,
how the most of your neighbors bring uT
their children. and then bring them up "A,
they don't"
/ Josh Billings saws. that the best way tc
bring up boys at the present age. is te
bring them up the other way." There 1,
some sense in this remark. and il is worthy
I OF consideration.
Fathers will do we'll to remember that
| they we're little boys once. and then call te
mind what their feelings and wishes were
in their boy hood DAYS.
Boys need play. work, aud study. Tn,
social. intellectual, and mu scular power,
need development Bows need what pla,
they can enjoy, but not enough 30 a to
get sick Of it. and 60 into mischief.
Many fathers are stoical-almost unfeel
ing. They have either forgotten. or never
/ knew that boys need amuscments, con.
sequentiy. they take no pains TO proyid,
for the wants of their boys in this respect
Boys are often len to procure their owr
amusements, and not being allowed L
have their boyish sports at home. they 2,
Into the shops, and to the corners OF III.
streets, and spend their evenings an,
stormy days, and siealthilv anus. them
selves in society well calculated 10 ef,ec
their ruin.
Ii fAtbers will make home happy for
their boys, 80 that they iii love home. :,
that when the hour for play comes. the,
can lind more rea sport. and enjoyment a
home. then anywhere else; then. they vii
thoroughly. and fully. educate their owl
children. II. fathers fail al this poin;
than their boysOwill be educated by elias
Of teachers. that will be quite likely {.
ruin them. They will be scaQsled to vice
and become reckless. and perhaps ruined
A majority OF our drunkards are made il
this WAY.
Fathers should invent amusement. 10
their boys. and show a real interest In the,
plays Where this is done. boy will SCOT
outsrow their desire for childish amusc
ments. aud lay them aside a. they Ia,
aside their children's hats. boots an,
clothes. when they are outgrown. In ,hi
way. they become men much earlier il
liir. and hen they 20 out into the world
Instead OF resuming their childish sports
they will look upon ihrn . anon, III
things that are past, aud remember IN
home OF their childhood with pleasurabl
emotions
BOYS need work. They should no, b
forced TO work. but be encouraged {,
by the hope of reward. They shout,
have something that they can call ihri
own. We are 80 constituted that ~
don't want 10 chop. unless we can see tn
chips n.y.. This Is true of boy:. The,
want some motive 10 inspire action, All,
persevering industry. Boys will work wei
enough under a healthy and inspirin.
stimulan,. Hold out reward to the boy
and he win soon be q Eiaa. not q mer
tool. Fathers make men OF your boys.
Boys should study. II fathers are in
terested In books, the boys will be interest
ed. You must consul, their taste not YOU
own in selecting books and papers for you
boys. Furnish them with the kind Of read
ing adapted TO their age. A they increas
lnyesrs and knowledge. change their book
and papers. Don't put an OK yoke on you
steers, nor compel the oxen TO wear
steers yoke. Exercise the same goo,
sense ia the education Of your boys. tina
you exercise with regard 10 the OK AM
horse. Boys are more valuable than any
thing tia: e>E De purchased with money
They need 10 baye lLsli courage strength
eucd. and kept up. Your boys. are you
real treasure. they are your most yaluabl
Jewels. That man Is rich indeed. who
rich ia good boys. ysthers confer yer,
small favor on their boys shsn they jus
le2ye them few thousand dollars. but
very gres, favor when they make men O
them. Fathers. give TO your boys wha
cannot be stolen from them. zoe 10
yoa selves. and then you will know that
i, ~ oil done.
Don't drive boys to school. but so In
spire them with the love of learning a
home. that they will love the school
When they do well, commend item for il
Enquire about their studies. Listen patient
Is to MI their questions. and answer theI
correctly If you can. Correct their errors
aud wrong doings, in Il way that will nc
break down their spirits. Keep their couI
age up. Have it understood that your boy
know something. Ask their advice abOu
business. Set them at the work of think
Ing upon business matters young in lif,
Get them OUT OF the ''old ruts" as soon a
, you can. Talk With them MUCH. in man
things, be their equals. To lift them up I
you. you must come down to them. IL
your boys make confidant of you. TAX
them into your heart and keep them Their,
Discipline your boys without scolding.
they love you. they will obey you. Father
take care Of your osn boys.
Yours. &C.. NUNsoN.
SoRRID6EwOCK. Feb. IA, 1874.