Semi-weekly Louisianian. [volume] (New Orleans, La.) 1871-1872, 1872-01-28
4 Great Mistake Of Young Men in Society

4 Great Mistake Of Young Men in Society.
One of the most serious and ri
diculous delusions under which some
young men labor, who cultivate the
society Of ladies, is the impression
that the fair ones prefer to be all
the time laughing during the hours
they pass in sentlemen's company.
Their manner oil conducting conver-
sation shows that these gallants con-
slider everything the stupedest bore
to their Dulcineas but jokes, white
lies and idle teasing, and conse-
quently they grin themselves and
endeavor to keep the ladies con-
vulsed from the moment they SIM
per, "how-d'ye do, Miss Mary Jane?"
to the Growing of ten o'clock by the
sleepy chanticleer. If q stenogra-
pher could stand behind the curtain
and take down an hour of this wit
froth, what a mess it would be to
read! Such purs-such "stories" to
keep the conversation agoing-such
bare Aattery to make the fair ones
blush and futter-such misuse Of
language-it would be laughable if
it were not so hard on the poor
girls who must gable with the
geese and be foolish with the fool
Agreater mistake was never made
by these young men, who, we know,
really mean to be agreeable. Ladies
enjoy certain degree of pleasantly
and badinage as the spice to social
intercourse; but they do not like
that conversation which is all nom
sense and levity. By nature most
seriously inclined than men, their
choice is the conversation which is
made up mostly of sober sense.
Hence it is they are so often heard
to complain that this visitor "is too
foolish" or that one "such a great
flatterer," and praise in correspond
high terms the visitor who pleases
their self-respect by leading to
themes better suited to their tastes
and education. The man always
stands highest in the esteem of Ia
dies who talks to them as if he did
not consider them so many children
to be amused with the jews-harps
and doll-babies Of thought, and
makes fun and merriment at the
exception instead of the rule.
The habit we allude to is notice
able often in places of public amuse-
ment. Hardly do they get seated
before this class of beaux commence
their everlasting nonsense, turning
to levity everything on Gods green
earth, and rarely giving their un-
happy companions ga flash of blessed
silence" even when the music sounds
or the programme eliminates. Dc
they think it a breach of etiquette
to be sometimes silent? Are they
afraid Of being called bashful if they
do not chatter through the play
When they learn that their female
friends don't want to be laughing
all the time, but yearn for sober
face at least once a year, theil
: chances for preferment will improve
9 and the poor girls themselves viii
bless their stars for the discovery
: There are butterflies, of course, who
are never SO happy as when silly
Our remarks apply to the ladies
generally.
Be pleasant, young gentlemen
: have your hearty laughs; ease tn
t sweet creatures about marrying
(they like a little of that;) but don
be monkeys. Fun is healthy, bu
there is SO much of it in the worlt
r that is empty, the jaws ache will
the continual exercise. Be like
e good hotel i change your diet
Moonshine and silly-bub will ruiz
any table in the world culinary o
colloauial.-ColumbIs lnder.
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