Wilmington daily gazette., 1872-06-14
p,om the Central Presbyterian
LETTER OF ADVICE.
From, rss,,s,, rsr 3, e Ssr FL e;rYssa.. pnIYsser o."

My DEAR CHILp,-You are this day 10 take
the most important step in your life; az iar a.
,he human relations are concerned, and a. !
wish to give you some parting words Of counsel,
take this method a. one most likely TO enable
YOU to recall wha, have to say. You are to
mite your lot with man who loves you ten
lerIy and truely, and who, as fsr a. can see or
know, is fully worthy of your love and conf
dence in return. can truly say that everything
I have seen or heard Of him tends TO exalt HIM
in nv esteem, as Jesus did of the young ruler
"one thing" only "thcu lackes,;" and that one
thing he nay soon poasess, ii you are faithful to
him as a Christian. Your happiness, under
God, regald to be ia your own hands, and You
have as good a prospect OF it ~ ia usually &C.
corded to ,ls in this uncertain world, il you are
bu, faithful 10 God, TO your husband, and t.
your.eia the discharge OF your various duties.
You will MAKE great change in leaving the
pustng scenes OF a city, for the-quiet and lone
lines, Of lie on plantation, and it may take
YOU some time 10 be fully prepared Tor and re-
concled to the change. But it Is kind OF life
in which ynu may improve, a. you could not in
city, both mentally and 81 iri.ually, and in
which YOU may have peace and quiet happi-
ness, that no other life can give
But there are few points in which quarter
of century's experience gives me some advan.
u
may be OF great value to you, if you will give
earnest heed to my counsel.
|. Remember that love is the very essence OF
your new relation, and you must seek to cherish
true and warm love to your husband, prefer
ring him to all other persons, AMI letting him
see clearly that you do thus prefer him. lndif-
ference, even OF manner, has chilling effect on
love, and wnen love is gone the marriage tie be-
comes real bondaye, often the biuerest in life,
because indissouble. .-..g
2. Never deceive him, even in the smallest
matter. Better be blamed by him for something
you have done than be guilty ofa deceit, which
would destroy his confidence in you, and bis
respect for you. BE open aud unreserved in al
YOUR acts, aud have no secrets that he cannvt
share, aud have no conidan, that would require
YOU to keep anything from him. Never do
say or write anything that YOU are unwilling fol
him to know. Ii he ought not TO know it, il Is
not proper for you 10 do it. This ia a matter O
IMMENSE importance 10 you, and inlplore you
to observe it, have seen bitter fruits from III,
neglect Of it, and urge it on you.
8. Avoid all disputes with him, even OIL triv
ial matters and in mere jest. His will, by God
appointment. il 10 he the governing will, ant
obedience is what the Bible requires; and IN III,
end you will be FAR more sure Of having you
own way, by thus SUI u,i.ting TO him, for thi
will induce him to udy 10 meet your wishes.-
have not known happy couple where thi
ruiz was neglected, and rarely an unhappy one
wh,rs ii was observed; for the the simple reasol
tina, II is Gods way, and hence the best.
4 Never try to practice OIL his love BY rous
ing hi. JEALOUSY, even in sport Better be to
Reserved IN your Intercourse with gentlemen
than do that which would rouse this evil spiri
that ~ often led 10 scenes Of SORROW aud eve
b!o1l l.hed. Be content with his love. and ever
homo able man will respect aud admire you 70
il.
5, Try to become acquainted with the sui
Jects that interest him, that you may be able
Converse intelligen,ly and pleasantly with hi
and his friends
e, Spend as much time as you can in reat
ing, 50 as to enlarge your mental culture.
= Study " master the details Of your dc
mes'lc duties as soon as you can, that yo
may answer the description Of yirtn0l
woman In Prov. xxi.
g. Cultivate gentleness and sweetness {
EMper, manner and speech. This can On
or Done by keeping down selRshness, On
haPpy around you. Thus you will best ad
vance your own happiness for others wi
J. Be Industrious. sSS %s'pi Il will save you fro'
many an hour VI ennui
~ Strive after more piety Your hu
oalu saiVation may greatly depend on you
walk and conversation. Be light to lea
MIN t' the cross and q stumbling block
his way y
If you will give careful heed to these ail
PIE points, will look for bright and hapE
Gays before you, and feel that the pain
with you and your husband and his househD
maslng youta sunshine aud a Joy to them 4
ms shall miss you ut home, but remember y,
aally ata throne Of grace, and hope TO mr.
yoa again on earth, and forever In heaven.
Your affectionate fathl