The morning star and Catholic messenger. [volume] (New Orleans [La.]) 1868-1881, 1872-10-13

There i an article afoat in the papers
entitled Golden Rules for Wives" which
epjoins on the ladies q quiet submission to !
their husbands' wills and whims. But tho
art Of living together in harmony is very !
difficult art; and without committing the
positions of the author of the aforesaid
rules, we offer the following az the sup
stance of what q wife likes in husband
Fidelity is her hearts first and most just
demand. The act of in6delity true wife
cannot forgive it rudely breaks the ties
that bound her heart to his, and that tie
can never more exist.
Tho first place in her husbands affec-
tions no true wife can learn to do without.
When she loses that, she has lost her nus
band, she is q widow, and has to endure
the pan9s of bereavment intensihed oy tue
presence of what she no longer possesses.
There is q living mummy in the house re-
minding her of her loss in the most pain
| full manner.
A woman likes her husband to excel In
those qualities which distinguish the mas
culine from the feminine being such as
strength, courage, fortitude and Judgment
She wants her husband to be wholly man.
She cannot love one whom she cannot en-
tirely respect, believe in, and rely Oh.
wife dearly likes to have her husband
stand high in the regard Of the community
in which they reside. She likes to oe
thou sht by her own sex fortunate woman
in having such husband as sue has. She
has a taste for the respectable, desires to
have good looking front door, and to keep
up a good appearance generally. Some
wives. it is said, carry this too far, and
complainant in yielding to the front door
ambition Of their wives. But good hus-
band will like to crafty his wife in this
respect. as far as he can without sacrificing
more important objects.
+ Perfect sincerity a wife expects, or at
| ,;nh 70 hor I'M
band. She desires to know the real state
, of the case, however it may be concealed
from the world. 1t wrings her heart and
wounds her pride to discover that her bus.
, band has not wholly confided in her. A
! man may profitably consult his wife on al.
most any project it is due to her that be
, should do 80, and she 10 glad to be con.
suited.
Above most other thinge, a wife crave.
, from her husband appreciation. The great
majority of wives lead lives OF severe ane
> anxious toll. With unimaginable anguish
and peril to their lives, they become mo
! theirs. Their children require incessan
r care. "Only the eye Of God watches LIKE
t like mothers" says Fanny Fern, in tina
chapter Of "Ruth Hail." which depicts will
ing anxieties. And besides her materna
= cares wife is queen regent OF househol'
r kingdom. She has to think and plan ami
a work for every body. II, In all her labor
r and cares, she feels that abe has her hus
t bands sy mpaty and gratitude--if he help
> her where man can help . woman-if h
# notices her efforts, applauds her skill, an
d |.allows for her deiciencies-all 10 vel
). But to do all this and yet meet with n
% approaching word, OF glance or act fror
y. him for whom aud for whose sake sh
Z tolls and bears, is very bitter.
d A wife likes her husband to show her a
II due respect in the presence Of others sh
i; cannot bear to be reproved or criticised b
TO him when others can hear it. Indeed,
IN il most wrong in a husband thus to put hi
Of wife to shame. We cannot help secretl
he admiring the spirit of that French w0ma
Id who, when her husband had so wronge
1t her, refused ever again to utter u wore
and for twenty years live in the house
in dumb woman. We admire her spiri
d. though not her mode of manifestipg i
Ut Husbands owe the most profound resPe'
d, to their wives as the mothers of their Chi
- dren. No man has the slightest claim
he the character of gentleman who is nj
ed more scroupulousiy polite to his wife tia
to to any other woman. We refer here to IL
'st esse ntial of politeness, not it's forms; v
nd mean kindness and justice in little thing
A wife likes her husband to be conside
o. ate Unexpected kindness and unsolicits
I'D favors touch the heart. She appreciat
the softenel tread when she is sick oil
u enjoys the gift from o distance, and ever
w. thing that proves to her that her husbal
, no thinks of her comfort and good.
DIS Husbands, reflect on these things. Yo
wife has confided her happiness to so
You can make her unspeakably wretch
CHI if you are ignoble and short sighted. L
he the contest between husband and wi
lar be this-which shall do the most for I
IF Of the other.