Smyrna times., 1872-12-18

disruption of relations, you are yet always in (
hot water with them privately on the ground
of wounded affections. If you do not offend |
their social dignity you hurt their love; and |
with the best will in the world to make them
happy you find, to your sorrow and dismay,
that you only succeed in making them wretched. |
If it is your wife who is one of your sensitive
folk, your days are clOuded with gloom and
your nights are deluged in tears You forget
the ordinary salutatiOn when you came in, or
the ecOvenanted leave-taking when you went out.
You called her " Maria instead of " PopSy,
and you did not look up from your book when
she asked you to admire babys new frOck.
| You said that her cousin played divinely, and
you praised her sisters excellently y-arranged
menu. For trifles such as these the sensitive
partner of your cares and joys makes her life
burden to herself and you, aud wishes, in
an agony Of grief, that she had never been
born Or may be, she prophecies her speedy
demise under the cruelty OF your conduct,
and then you will regret her and with you
had treated her better. If, on the other
hand, your sensitive friend is a man with
neither a saint nor an angel, but just a good
natured, mOtherly- minded woman for bis wife,
the same sympathy is played to variation Of
the original air. He is seen to be madly Jealous
OF every good looking fellow within hail, and
to be always prOddng himself with the suppo-
sitiOn that his adored j ulia would have been tar
happier had she married A b or instead OF
him. lie asks her this question twenty times q
day; but twenty answers in the negative do not
satisfy his craving, or convince him that he IL
fighting with a shadow by his jealousy. a
frank word, friendly look, do more to builC
up his sensitive suspicion than dozen as
severations can destroy; and woman Of al
easy going disposition and an unaffected man
ner, married to a man of this kind, is wOma
who knows by experience the weight and mean
ing of moral torture that never comes to al
end. Sometimes your sensitive folk, bound to
gether in matrmOny, quarrel over the chi
dren, and make mlserles out OF their little live
and loves taking il as a personal slight
Jacky goes to mamma instead of to papa, or
Fanny holds out her hands to papa whe
mamma has her in her arms. The not unfr
quent result of this particular form OF folly is
iavoritiSm in the nursery that, may be, colo
the whole after-relations between parent al
child, and that is as unjust as absurd. But
all arises from sentiveness, they say, if yC
put them to the question:; and the answers,
most of the tribe, reason and juStifcatiO
Whether it is the children, however, over who
they quarrel; or Julia supposed retrospect
preference for A b and c. or Maria's despa
r at her husband cruelty in forgetting his mat
tinal greeting or her customary prcnomen
Popsy; or whether it is that pride end selis
ness hold the chariot rens instead OF thattrcm
IOuS love and nervous humility which neitf
know peace nor give it, the fact remains
to same. Sensitive folk are always in hot wa
Ii with some one or another, and those who
OF not quench their annOyanccS in tears are 81
are to burn them out in the fire of wrath. And
and latter method is just as absurd as the form