Alpena weekly argus. [volume] (Alpena, Mich.) 1871-1893, 1872-09-17

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all projections. She must be richly
lowered, but know nothing of the
value or vulgarity Of wealth; she
must be young, yet have all tho
wisdom Of age; beautiful, yet
totally unconscious of her charms
prudent, but not penurious mod
est, but not prude; clever and
accomplished, but innocent and
unassuming she must have brains,
not in excess, her intellect must re-
main exactly five degrees below her
husbands, 50 as TO avoid the inncon-
venience and confusion that would
naturally cnsuc if hers ever rose a
point above his and unhappily al
lowed him to feel for an instant an
uncomfortable scense of inferiority.
SuCn II uIau'S idea of a purrecu
woman, and with such he might
drain to the dregs the cup of hui
man happiness; but, failing in this,
he is poor, disappointed creature,
wounded in heart, soured III dispo-
sition, and tossed like a derelict
ship to and fro on the ocean of
life. We arc not now going into
mans character or mans merits,
nor dispute his right to such
partner, if he by any chance meet
with her. We should be the first
to offer our congratulations on so
fciicitous Il union, and pray that
this even balance might be pre-
served to the end of their days, and
when their final hour approached,
that death itself might not divied
them. We simply assert that such
a being is not to be found-that
this immortal woman does not exist.
The immortal soul of man yearns
after the beautiful, the good, the
true and suffering, sad humanity
answers him with sorrow, weakness
and impcrfcction. He feels that vir-
tue, after all, is the right thing and
if he cannot have it in himself
cannot just live up to the mark
that he ought to attain to-he
thinks it highly desirable that
some one should. He can enjoy
the virtue that is achieved by prac-
ticc and self-denial in another, and,
in some incoherent way, expects
, some part of the blessing to fall
on his head and attend his steps.
| Doomed to disappointment, he will
= cover his own delinquences by
heaping reproaches upon woman.
j Many a man starts upon his we'd
i ding tour with the conviction that
/ an angle is his travelling companion
that he has found the impossible
= woman who had condescended to
/; cast in her lot with his, who regards
her idol with blind admiration. But
; even in the midst of the bridal
/ feast, how often has a mans hand
written on the wall, weighed in
the balance and found wanting -
and the man upbraids an angel for
, not possessing the qualities that
never existed save in his own dis
torted brain Putting, then, the
impossible woman aside, let man,
with due caution and a prudent
, regard to consequences, seek the
possible, looking first for q warm
heart and a clear head, and as much
amiability, beauty, youth and
, money as he can combine with
them: let him keep the heart
warm by love and tenderness, and
develop the sense and judgement
by respect and confidence; and if
she should happen to have a pre-
ponderance of intcllect--which,
with all due respects to manly
power, is the case sometimes--let
him regard that priceless quality
not in a spirit of mean, petty rivalry
but as a gift from heaven, a joint
possession by which botE may be
better, both wiser and happier.
Whatevcr sense they have between
them they will want it all. Lifc's
journey is long, life's burden is
great; let them be satisfied to
beguile the one and share the
other-content if step by step and
side by side they can move along
together, and thankful if CLEAN
of sunshine sometimes falls upon
their path.