Perrysburg journal. (Perrysburg, Wood Co., O. [Ohio]) 186?-1965, 1872-06-07
Hints for Husbands.

THERE is an article afoat in the papers |
entitled Golden rules for wives, which |
enioins on the ladies a quiet submission |
to their husbands wills and whims. But
the art of living together in harmony is
very difficult art; and without confuting
the positions of the author of the afore-
said rules, we offer the following as sub
stance of what wife likes in husband
Fidelity is her hearts first and most just
demand, The act of infidelity true wife
cannot forgive; it rudely breaks the ties
that bound her heart to his, and that tie
can never more exist
The first place in her husbands affec-
tiOns no true wife can learn to do with
out. When she loses that, she has lost
her husband, she is a widow, and has TO
endure the pangs of bereavement intensi-
fed by the presence of what she no
longer possesses There is living mummy
in the house reminding her of her loss in
the most painful manner
A woman likes her husband to excel in
those qualities which distinguish the mas
culine from the feminine being, such as
strength, courage, fortitude and iudg-
ment. She wants her husband to be
wholly man. She cannot entirely love
one whom she cannot entirely respect,
believe in, and rely on.
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band stand high In regard of the commu.
pity, in which thew reside She likos to
be thought by her own sex a fortunate
woman in having such a husband as she
has. She has taste for the respectable,
desires to have good looking front door,
and to keep up good appearance gener-
ally. Some wives, it is said, carry this
too far, and some husbands we know, are
dangerously complaisant in yielding to the
front door ambition of their wives. But
a good husband will like to crafty his
wife in this respect, as far as he can, with.
out sacrificing more important objects.
Perfect sincerity wife expects, or at
least has right to expect, from her hus-
band. She desires to know the real state
of the case, however it may be concealed
from the world. 1t wrings her heart and
wounds her pride to discover that her
husband has not wholly confded in her
A man may prOfitably consult his wife on
almost any project; it is due to her that
he should do so, and she is glad to be
consulted.
Above most other things, wife Graves
from her husband appreciation. The
great majority of wives lead lives of Sc
we're and anxious toll. With unimagina-
BILE anguish and peril to their lives they
become mothers. Their children require,
| incessant care. "Only the eye of God
watches like mother's," says Fanny
Fern in that chapter of "Ruth HAIL.
which depicts with such power and truth
mothers agonizing anXieties. And be-
sides her maternal cares wife is the
queen-regent of a household kingdom.
She has to think, and plan and work for
everybody. If, in all her labors and cares,
she feels that she has her husbands sym
pathy and gratitude, if he helps her where
man can help woman, if he notices
her efforts, applauds her skill and allows
her deficiencies, all is well. But to en-
dure all this, and yet meet with no ap.
! precating word, or glance or act from him
! for whom and for whose she tolls and
BEARS is very bitter.
| A wife likes her husband to show her
all due respect in the presence of others !;
she cannot bear to be reproved or criti-
! csed by him when others can hear it. In
deed, it is most wrong in a husband thus
to put his wife to shame. We cannot
help secretly admiring the spirit of that
French woman, who, when her husband
had so wronged her, refused ever again
to utter a word, and for twenty years lived
in the house "A dumb woman We ad-
mire her spirit, though not her mode of
manifesting it. Husbands owe the most
mothers of their children. No man has
the slightest claim to the character of
! gentleman who is not more scrupulously
polite to his wife than to any other woman
We refer here TO the essential of polite
ness, not its forms we mean kindness
and justice in little things.
A wife likes her husband to be consid-
crate. Unexpected kindness and unso.
lcited favors touch the heart. She ap.
preciates the softened tread when she Is
sick she enjoys the gift from a distance,
and everything that proves to her that
her husband thinks of her comfort and
good.
Husbands, reflect on these things. Your
wife has confided her happiness to you.
You can make it unspeakably wretched,
if you are ignoble and short. sighted Let
the contest between husband and wife be
this-which shall do most for the happi-
ness of the other.-LJe Illustrated.