The Leavenworth weekly times. [volume] (Leavenworth, Kan.) 1870-1880, 1872-04-04

hat all he had ever c0ntended for in rela-
ion to marriage and divorce had already
zen granted in desultory installments by
'ome one State or another. He repudiated |
he thought Of attacking the sancity Of mar |
riase, and wound up with glowing eulogy
1pon the matrimonial allIance-when it was
based on nature and Gods law-as the most
sacred institution of society.
Domestic ViPases.
From the Chicago Post
Wives. provoke net your husbands to
wrath.
People talk much nowadays Of the loose-
ne.s Of the marriage-tie, the scandalously
fckle nature of man, his general infidelity
and consummate wOrthlessness. But it
seems to the Table-Talker that there are, at
least, two sides to this question. That the
social system which permits or encourages the
easy making and no les easy unmaking Of
marriages, with scarcely q thought Of the
grave responsibilities involved, is somewhat
to bhme for unhappy results, must be adj
mitted. That there are bad men and bad
wsmen, he admits. But, in the majority Of
cases Of everyday life, he cannot but think
that mutual WEAKNESS, infdelities, neglect,
separation, are traceable to natural causes
which the wife herself can generally avert.
Man oy and large" is not q bad fellow,
for al. ais conceits and prejudices. Having
married woman. he has pledged his word
to protect her, to make her comfortable,
to b. faithful to her, and for the sake Of
his word-which would impel him to pay a
eambl,n, debt, even; though his opponent
had played falsely-he il inclined to DO his
Almost every man bears some love to the
woman he marries before he marries her, be
it for her face, her figure, her disposition,
her talents. He has a sense of proprietor
ship in her which makes him jealous-jeal-
ousy is a high compliment for a husband to
pay-and DESTROYS that she should always
be seen at her hest, since the admiration oil
others is an implied compliment to his good
taste, and sort Of I congratulation OF his
good fortune. He has knocked about, too,
in his bachelor life, from boarding house to
hotel, from saloon to billiard hall, and is
really anxious to settle down. He feels thai
4 palace of neatness tenanted by . fairy in
calico is q perfect heaven. Now, the wife
that he secures, in seven cases out of ten, il
reared to the belief that to secure q husband
| il the end and aim of life. After that, thu
deluge. Accordingly, she dresses, talks
laughs, plays, sings, fiirts, cgles and gener
| ally lays herself out to get husband, and
having got him, relapses into aimless moth
ingness, or only puts on her company fac
| for admirer. Hwomen were half as charming
after marriage as before it th,
divorce business would be practically annihi
lated. This is the way divorces are brough
about. The husband, maEfuily, though
with an effort, eschews the social cocktail
and the CHEEKY cue. He makes good resolu
tons. All goes happily for a few weeks
then there fall from his eyes, as it had beef
the scales. Ny lady, having got husband
gets careless. Instead of an angel in Gallo
and fine linen, to pour out his coffee of morn
ines, he bolts diabolical witch's brew,
perfect Mechary Of eofee-alOne. Ny lad
thinks that early rising does not agree will
her. Or if she is up, she Is slip-shod, he
dressing gown is rumpled, and perhaps rag
Red, her hair is tied in an untidy kno: at tn
back of her head, some Of it, perhrps' play
Craken in his cup. Ofeveninss there is bu
q slight change for the better. The averag
husband, not icing model Of neatuess,
more particular that his human chatte
should be the incarnation of trimness, an
the pink Of perfection. Like mistress, lik
house. The psrlOrs begins to look slatternly
he finds u book under the what-not Oh Sat
urday, Just where be kicked it on Tuesday
He compares Mr.. Smith now with the Mis-
Jones Of awhile ago. Whele il the prett
girl who lived only to please, and who's
dressing was a benediction? She was
. hypecrite, he thinks; she never cared any
thing for him. Then he finds that she fall
into that fatal error Of believing that any
. thing is good enough for home and nothin
good enough for company. He was disaI
| pointed at first; now he is distrustiul 81
cares nothing for him, that is evident, but sh
dresses TO kill when Robinson calls. A
right, madam. Home losing its attractions
he drops back imperceptibly into the oil
groove. Women wonder why thei: husband
Ego into filthy saloons" The fact is til,
the saloon il not filthy. As far as neatnes.
taste, warmth, light, soft carpets, picture,
all can make it, it is attractive. A ma
, finds company there, or can observe lif'
And then Aspasia Morton, or Nina Howar,
or some rolage beauty lays siege to him, an
> insinuates that he is unhappy at home, 81
, is 30 sorry, and he begins to think himself
martyr. From this stage to positive neglec
] 10 iuuuciuv, W SSiais'"h- 'hS ''"sS -
short one and easy.
II any of the lady readers Of the Post ha,
borne with the Table Talker thus far, an
the paper is yet intact and unconsumed, !
a1ecti0nately pleads with them to say
all this is not true, sadly and prosaicall
true. You, or You, or you, or any OF you
{ fair ladies, know nothing Of this in your Ow
persons. lie il aware that you are mol
charming since marriage than before, TIL
: your homes are pleasant and your husbans
coustant-they would be brutes were the
, insensible to such beauty and so much ami
: bility. But isn't it sal about poor Marth
: Smith?
By taking thought, though woman ma
. not be able to add one cubit unto her stature
: she can make her home pleasant and hi
life happy. She will find in her husban
J many imperfecticns, many asperities, man
faults. 1t will depend, in the msjority I,
cases, upon herself whether these will |
! harmlessly overcome or diverted, or wheth,
they will be stimulated into poeitive vice
J If he finds her Always neat, though It may il
: volve q little trouble, always Cheerful
} though she may have headache, or thong
| he was cross and unjust, she will retain b
love and her beauty till her dying day. tt
} weaker, yet the stronger; supporting thong
J leaning upon him; guiding hin wisely viii
, she seems only fattering him for momen
!: she will realize the dream of the poet.
"Her husbands mind, erfoee, will tovar
her sway,
Il Anc circle her With music. Happy he
With such . woman. Faith in all things hi
Comes easy to him, tho he slip and fall
| lie shall not stain his soul with clay.'
! WASHINGTON.