New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1872-01-06

sight OF a shabby overwOrkcd whc WHOM
they could not relieve, and shabby chiiure"
to whom they could give neither culture nor
refinement. The mere possession oil VIC anu
children, instead Of being reward, wo"iu aau
TO the ehagrin and discomfort, when "O"i'
grow more bitter with the intensity oil 'nelr
love- How many of tho delicate, pretty giriS
who Gil our streets, too. are fit to do thclf
grandmother's stcnt" of work at WASH
tub, churn, or broOm9 Weak oach'
and dyspeptic stOmachs are facts not
to be sneered or scOldcd away. Inc
young people in town realize the SITUATION
they are not willing to remain sin gle, 80 they
shrewdly look out for rich partners. lhey
are anxious to put love into tacir lives, if pos
siblc, but regard it necessity to put
money in their purse at the same time. Where
is the remedy Marriages grow to be more
matter of stocks, furniture, and dress, win
every generation. The children, born OF much
luxury and little love Of born at all), become
moro feeble in mind and body aud shorter
lived, until foreigners who judge us from our
citic5 NAV well question whether Americans IL
the next century will inherit America. The
problem is just this: How can a young man
and woman, with the necessities Of educated
and refined people and not strong health,
afford to marry and bring up children on a
small incOme7
The answer is here First, by discovering
that the necessities of education and re-
fnement do not depend on money for their
qualification. Turkey carpets, silk dresses or
coats bought on Broadway have nothing to do
with the hight Of their owners lives, no do they
contribute one whit to their culture or good
breeding. What will contribute to them, and
give high caste to their own lives and those
of their children, are some high motive in
living. and cleanliness and beauty in their
daily surroundings. Now, pure love and sound
common sense are the rarcst earthly motives
which any man can bring into his daily work,
and cleanliness and beauty the cheapest OF
household plcnishng. We know young
couple. who, during the war, married with an
outfit OF 800 year, an utter disregard OF
fashion, much love- and an absolute faith in
self-help and the help Of God. They have
never lacked a necessity or comfort of life,
and their snuggcry of a home, which
opens daily to the best people in Bos
ton, is remembered by every guest as
one would remember a heartsOme, beautiful
picture. Yet there is not Turkey carpet or
costly painting in it, Any pair of true lovers,
who will put aside fashion and conventional
0pinii9ggs for common sense and good taste,
may Marry with like chance of success. In
the West of course, and in country towns.
more tangible comfort is procurable for a small
income than in the seaboard cities; but some
thing is lost in absence from the headquarters
of art, music, literature, whose qualifications
here are cheap as daily air. In the cities, too,
an educated wife has thousand chances OF
helping her husband. In this point, indeed,
lies the second answer to the problem. Our
girls can never go back to the wash-tub or
broom; but in a few years we believe they Will
al 90 to the pencil or brush, or BURN, to some
headwork or handicraft, and so prove them
selves help meets of another kind than their
vigorous grandmothers but quite as helpful;
and then the gates Of marriage need no longer
turn on golden hinges.