Whig and tribune. [volume] (Jackson, Tenn.) 1870-1877, 1872-01-13
Wy YoUNa MEN MARRY

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WHY YOUNG MEN MARRY.
Do young men marry because
they see the girl of all the world
that they think they would choose
for companion through life? No,
but because they are tired of living
IN hotel or boarding house, and
think that they should like to have
q home of their own; and to please
a passing fancy, and so he says to
the girl: "Will you be my wife?"
while the girl, in the majority of
cases, has been deprived of her
right to choose or to reject, and so
she accepts, while the man in his
vanity suppOses that the girl cannot
/ live without him. Poor, innocent
young man! he will learn better
when he is older. Laughter
WHY THE GIRL MARRIEs.
The girl marries just exactly as
! the man marries-fOr home and a
support. She is idle, and she wish
es some one to take care of her, and
she thinks she will have more liber-
! ty as q married woman, than in her
| fathers home. She will OBJ
tain a position in society, and,
above all other reasons, she marries
because she breads the name of old
maid, and she marries the first offer
| she gets because she is afraid ii will
be the last. Laughter.l
BRAINS AT A DISCOUNT.
Men do not want a girl with
4 brains in her head; they do not want
a girl with clear, cool, dispassionate
/ judgment-those they call strong
minded mOnstrcsities. No they
say, " want little, clinging vine,
a delicate flower, little fragrant
rose to put in my buttOn-hole.
/ Laughter. As for woman who
can stand on her own feet-nO, it
makes me feel altogether too small" !"
| So women naturally train them
selves for the marriage market. The
/ poor girl gets married for a home,
! the rich for an establishment, the
ambitious for a place in society. The
! poor girls do not fit themselves for
independent action in the world and
| so they get married, in the majority
| of cases, for a home and support.
/ She does not say this outright, but
4 down underneath she says this. She
/ accepts you because il is the first Of
I fer she has had, and she fears il will
| be the last. She does not want to
| die an old maid, and therefore she
! takes the first offer she can get. This
/ is not the view / take of marriage; l
want little vine to cling around
me, little flower to put in my but
ton-hOle, something that l can look
7 up to- You say to poor girl, mar
ry for home; to rich girl, marry
! for an establishment; to the ambi-
| tiOus girl, marry for advancement.
/ But neither of these girls ask the
question, if she is fitted for the
| sphere she is about to enter. She is
/ required TO marry for an establish
ment, and if she fails she loses caste.
/ 1t girl attempts to do anything for
/ herself, she is SET down as strong
minded. AT watering-places, the
! womsn most sought after is the one
who has the longest string of scalps
in her girdle. The girl who can
| show the greatest number of con-
! quests, is the most admired. | as
seTt that in these cases of fiirtations,
J man is more wounded than woman.
She can gather the broken strings
together, and grid herself on for new
/ conquests. But a man who has laid
at the feet of the woman he loves all
his best hopes, and finds them shat
tered, goes to destruction, discard
ing all efforts TO reclaim him. a
true woman will wait till she finds
the man of her choice, and then
place her whole heart in his hands,
surrcndering herself to him.