The new Northwest. [volume] (Portland, Or.) 1871-1887, 1872-09-13
Hints for Husbands.

There is an article aflOat in the papers
entitled "GOlden rules for wives" which
enjOlns on the ladies quiet submission
to their husbands wills and whims.
But the art of living together in har-
mony is a very difficult art; and without
committing the position of the author of
the Aforesaid rules, we offer the follow
ing rs the substance of what wife
likes in n husband:
Fidelity is her hearts first and most
just demand. The act of infidelity
true woman cannot forgive; it rudely
! breaks the ties that bound her heart to
MS, and that tie can never more exist.
The first place in her husbands affec-
ton no true wife can do without. When
she loses that, she has lost her husband;
she is 4 widow, and has to endure the
/ pangs of bereavement intensified by the
presence of what she no longer possesses.
| There IS living mummy in the house
reminding her of her loss in the most
painful manner.
a woman likes her husband to excel
in the qualities which distinguish the
masculine from the feminine being, such
as strength, courage, fortitude and judg-
ment. She wants her husband to be
wholly q man she can entirely respect,
rely on and believe in.
\ wife dearly likes to have her
husband stand high in the regard of the
community in which they reside. She
likes to be thought by her own sex a
fortunate woman in having such hus-
band as she has. She has taste for the
respectable, desires to have a cookbook
ing front door, and to keep up good
appearance generally. Some wives, it
Is said, carry this too far, and some hus-
| honlz a. tnoVr~ a. do mo-
placent in yielding to the front door
ambition of their wives. But a good
husband viii like to crafty his wife in
this respect, as far rs he can, without
sacrificing more important objects.
| Perfect sincerity q wife expects, or at
least has right TO expect from her hus-
, band. She desires to know the reality
of the case, however it may be concealed
from the world. 1t wrings her heart and
wounds her pride to discover that heI
husband has not wholly confided in her.
y man may profitably consult his wife
on almost any project; it is due to heI
that he should do so, and she is glad tC
be consulted.
z Above most other things, a wife crave:
her husbands appreciation.
I'll The great majority of wives lead live.
of severe and anxious toll. With un
imaginable anguish and peril to thei
Lives they become mothers. Their chill
dren require incessant care. ''Only til,
eve of God watches like a mothers ,
says Fanny Fern in that chapter il
"Ruth Hail. which depicts with sucl
power and truth a mothers agOnizin!
anXieties. And besides her materna
r cares, a wife is the queen regent of
: household kingdom. She has to thinl
: and plan, and work for everybody. II
= in all her labOrs and cares, she feels tina
! she has her husbands sympathy an
! gratitude, if he helps her where a ma
|. can help a woman, if he notices he
= efforts, applauds her skill, and allow
. for her deficiencies, all is well. But {
; endure all this, and yet meet with II
: approaching word or glance or act froI
: him for whom she tolls and bears,
!, very bitter.
a wife likes her husband to show hC
- all due respect in the presence of other
!, she cannot bear to be reproved or cri
icised by him when others can hear
# Indeed it is most wrong in a husbaT
: thus to put his wife to shame. We cal
not help secretly admiring the spirit
- the French woman, who, when her hu
- band had so wrOnged her, refused
= utter q word, and for twenty years liv
:. in the house a dumb woman. We a
> mire her spirit, though not her mann
- of manifesting it. Husbands owe {
;s most perfect respect to their wives as {
Il mothers of their children. No man h
e the slightest claim to the character Of
- gentleman who is not more scrupulOus
:, polite to his wife than any other wOma
= We refer here to the essential of pOlit
- ness, not its forms; we mean kindne
y and justice in little things.
\ wife likes her husband to be consi
=. crate. Unexpected kindness and uns
:, licited favors touch the heart. She a
;, preciates the sOftened tread when sic
i she enjoys the gift from distance, al
- everything that proves to her that b
= husband thinks of her comfort and goo
;s Husbands, reflect on these lit
:, things. Your wife has cOnfided h
n happiness to you. You can make II
is unspeakably wretched if you are ignoh
# and shOrt-sighted. Let the contest b
i tween husband and wife be this-whi,
: shall do most for the happiness of ii
other.