The Bolivar bulletin. [volume] (Bolivar, Hardeman County, Tenn.) 1865-1888, 1872-09-13
Living Together.
From Halls Journal OF Health.


The art of living together" pleas
urably is greatly promoted by the
Labitual exchange Of the little cOurte-
sizes of life they are never unim-
portant, never unacceptable, are
always grateful to the feelings, and
are a constant well-spring of agree
able feelings in every household.
Shall brothers aud sisters be less
careful of the feeling of one another,
than those of a stranger? and as
between husband and wife, should
there be less effort at gentleness OF
| department, or suavity of manner,
and courtesy of expression than is
extended to outsiders, who have no
special claims and may never be
seen again? Shame upon any mem
| Der of any family who neglects those
afIectionate attentions, and those
suavities of department towards the
members of the household and even
to the lowest servant, which can not
fail to elevate the giver, and to draw
from the receiver those willing and
spontaneous reel Procatiesw which make
of family associations q little heaven
below.
Fault-fndingis an apple of dlscord
in multitudes of families. There are
some pei sons who, from ugliness of
temper arising from bodily Intirmlty,
or adherent blight of nature, are
forever finding fault, either at some
thing said or done ; If not IN the
family, then out of it. Somewhere
or something is always wrong with
them In every remark they make
there is vinegar and bitterness their
whole nature seems to be in a cen
dition of chronic snarl; their adj
iectives are of the most sweeping
character everybody IS liar or
swindler" or scoundrel, even II
their shortcomings are of the slight
est character. Such persons are de
moralizers of the community In
which they live, and of those with
whom they associate and as to the
family in which they reside they are
, a perpetual storm, a tornado, and a
- curse. This complaining, tault-ind-
r ing qrait does not assume these Al
gantic proportions of enOrmitY al
: once, but always comes by degrees
3 and long practice. Let the reader
I fear falling into this great cOndem
: nation let him be 30 fraid of it from
, this hour, as to resolve never to find
fault with anybody or anything, OF
: characterize any ones conducr fol
. omissions or commissions, until he
:. had slept on it, thus giving the
o clearer Judgment on a renovateC
' brain an oppOrt unity of more dis
g passionate exercise,
D Let every person of intelligence
J. refinement and culture, bear in mine
5 that in '1iviUg toge her. with Others
t pleasantly, happily, it is of essentia
# importance to practice the virtues o
c uniform gentleness F.; Difference, auC
:. courtesy, remembering that one o
> the most cardinal points IN The pro
9 molten of domestic enjoyment ant
=. of family happiness Is to cultivat
h self-sacrlfce; for it is this whicl
) cherishes love IN the heart of tt
, giver, ami kiudles It in those TO
n whom the selt-sacr,fce IS made; or 4
r frame the principle in a phras
r which all can comprehend, remem
+ Der and apply, that is the mobiles
s heart In any household, which give
IS to the others the first choice, an,
IS leaves to others the best places an
:. the best things.