Middletown transcript., 1871-04-08
Popular 1t(isfellann.
Before and After Marriage.
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90 NiN'h UlS iecl Adld aHu TfltlGn un-
Oh this subject in all ages. that | doubt il
anything more remains 70 be said never.
thrless, q, ! have one or twp questions re-
Iiilng thereto 10 PROFOUND, nnl few
virHs OF my o"n torNTrs-, shall not
b. dctrrc hy til im3wlrlgc lh.t what
shall say has alec, y hrcu expressed in
some way nr uth"l, AL far bcltpr than
dare hope 70 cxprc. it.
First Of al. wi,h to ask why il i, that
,wcclhcarls cease To lr angel, as sonn as
thcy become wives. Nay. to - farther.
why j. il that in the transformation th,y
not ou!' ...c al their aug lie attributes.
but become the most rouuy npacc Of NOR
tai?
W. ARE quite prepared 10 inl our l5y.
rr's ryr-, alter hc has merged into the
hu.laal upvuiug hy .,Ucs 10 the fact
lAut We are MT the creatures ol celestial
mould he believed u We have even l,-
,uiei him beforehand, that h. ne.t cer.
Hiuly would awastu 10 the trulh after
having iittd ID daily communion with u,
enough q !inl on our umprrieciian>, and
uur iip. hny, boon sealed with his,ts. AMI
nur silly hearts mlla L. ihrob cxul,iuely
with tho assurance that what We might IN
aur humility tenn tailiu4a. he, ia lis
hpuuil-., love, will consider virtues Of
eruwuiug merit
l. it any wonder, then, la, it Is II
painful shock TO Us to find ourselves IL
time virtually declared lielr lc,s lesrrt-
ing Of tn tri,ius attentions and mimi
acts Of cuertt.5 of everyday !iie, than aus
Of those by ~huu wc ar surrounded?
l. il moi a notorious fact. that when any
difficulty exists in deciding whether two
person oi"ppn>tc srNes are man and wife,
or only laycr,. sttirt attention TO their
deputtmen, toward each other nj once set
ties the point: Hoe, MT cstry on know.
that should tho lady wish To cbgugc ber
scat, aud tn uilemn fail II rlac her
ehai t her, er Ia PICK Up hr hanilcr-
chicf. il shr dfep il, 10 open the door for
her ii She ,lc,if, IL layp tha roam, or i
perform lrz u eth ar tiing acts Of At
teuiion, in.i.ui.ani in themselves, but
always promptly tanlafri by the lover.
,ha vnc, Of the warlI without fear of re.
inlaton. at onea lanlly declares him 10 b.
her husband,
! have seen gill. Who as fi.nrccs were
fliPpahl, eaprieirus. and cxncting in tht
hast degree, leading their lovers such live,
that have wondered at their long suffer.
ancc and iorbearance. mriamnrphuscd into
Us true aud devoted wives ns need be: vet
strange inconsistency. receiving. when at
their worst, Car mnrc Difference and out.
warl manifestations of love, than they do
aftcy this saving change has been wrought
in them.
Our husbands may tell US that We are
learer TO them, that they love us more
truly aud inn1ly after marriage than be.
fore, but our hearts cry out increasingly
for the proof. Why are kisses anl cares
ses at 50 much premium with them be-
fore marriage than they ever are after?
Why are they then lavisbed upen us. ii
We permit. even to the extent of some.
times annoying us. and now dolcd ont as
parsimoniously as though each one were
worth its weight in gold! II such things
are all nonsense" now, | think it would
20 hard with our .licga lords to prove
that they were anything else then
1t may be proof of weakness in us TO
admit that these things are much very
much to us. and the Withholding of thcm
keenly felt. but for ono make no at
tempt to yaeate the position assigned me
by prayiicnoc Of the weaker YES
scl," aud confess without hesitancy. that
in my d iuion deeds Of kindness, loving
words, ani tcudcr smiles 20 very far in
deed toward making up the . sum of hu-
man happiness
We are taken from our homcs--it may
be from the midst Of loving sisters and
brothers. and tender devoted parents. and
we enter upon tho un,ried existence with
hearts overaowing with love for him
whose yoice would lure us to tho fatherest
end Of the earth with whom. in all sin
cerity. we avow ourselves willing to share
tho lowliest OF cots, and to whose comfort
we are dcsirous OF ministering with the
hest Of our abilities; but We expect our
jnl,ors 10 be liehtcncd by love. and when