Buchanan County bulletin. [volume] (Independence, Iowa) 1869-1891, 1871-04-21

regulated intermingling. Yet none
of these is like to that home which
is the product of Christian civiliza-
tion; in which woman is honorcd
in the sharing Of the pur-
est and noblest rite, the rite Of
marriage, based upon mutual affec-
ton, the ceremony of fwcdlock being
the VOW Of fidelity and love. Mar
riage began in Eden, and it should
be kept up. In the Roman empire
there were stringent laws against
bachelors. In Greece women took
switches and beat the old patches
i'll order to whip a matrimonial
spirit into them.
A complete idea of home can ncy-
er be realized without children.
They are part Of ourselves. We
break out with children Just as
rockets that shoot upwards break
out into stars. Man is a stick and
paper filled with nitre and charcoal
and sulphur, but he does not break
out into stars of himself. Parental
instinct is the great foundation of
the family tie. In the lower order
Of animals this does not exist. The
tadpole never knows his father or
mother. The honey-bcc has good
mathematical skill and a knowledge
of practical botany, but it manifests
no parental affection, how could she
care for them all? l find it hard
work to care for half dozen. With
many Of the animals and insects,
parental instinct ceases with simple
multiplication of themselves. See
how, in the torrid zone, birds build
their nests way out at the end of
limb, SO that the monkeys cannot
seize their young. The monkey has
to take q back seat, and looks at the
nest and grits his teeth, but he dare
not-he dare not try it. The hum
ming bird builds its nest Of non
conducting materials, so that the
thunder storm cannot spoil it's eggs.
1t knew the mysteries of thunder
long before Benjamin Franklin bro't
down spark from a thunder cloud.
| appeal to every father herc-how
did you feel when your first child
was born? / felt that the house
could not hold me. 1t was not
big enough to breathe in. l said:
i must get out of this Fortunate
~, l lived by the sea-a respectable
sized object to look upon. III had
lived on the inland l think l should
have exploded.
Solon said every newly married
couple should be put into a room to-
gether and made to eat of ounce,
SO that their breath should be sweet,
and they should not be offensive to
each other. If every ncwly-mar-
ried couple would only eat of some
thing which would only make them
kind and loving and forgiying!
believe the difficulty is generally
with the man. He comes home
grouty, his wife puts some nice dish
before him at lunch, and he growls
that there is not enough salt in it.
She puts the same dish on the table
at dinner, and he growls that there
is too much salt in it. His wife
would rather have a tooth pulled
than to ask him for money. A bad
home is 4 hell upon earth. A good
home must have mutual forbcarance
and forgiveness. There must be
diciplinc in good family. l be-
lieve in moral suasion, but I also
believe in the suasion Of the birch.
My grandfather whipped my father,
father whipped me, and | whipped
my children, and l find it works
very well. l do not believe in much
birch. But l believe little birch
brings out the spiritual as well as
the physical circulation. The fun
damental law Of 4 household should
be unqucstioning obedience to the
parental will. a weak man who
has no government, should marry =
strong-mindcd woman, who will
whip all the children, and lick him
to, if he needs it.
Parents should be very sensitive
i'll regard to the different DISPOSE
tions Of their children. The father
should be the governor, but he
should also be the friend and play
mate of the children. BE elastic.
Forget that you have a backbone.
Do not let yourself be stiffened with
the rheumatism Of dignity. Let
your children be familiar with you.
Let them pull your beard and nous
tachc, if you have any. Cultivate
wit and humor in children. 1t is a
necessity. There is no wit like the
wit of 4 child. In Il family with
which | am intimatc-very intimate
there are two little girls. One
day they had little brother-a new
brother. Some foolish person had
told them that angels brought little
children. They went in to see their
new brother. He had red face.
New brothers have way of being
red-faced. When they went out,
the younger of the girls said: Sis
ter, did You see what red face our
little brother had?' The other re-
piled with great Importance: 'Sil-
ly child! don't you know that when
the angel brought him down, as lie
passed the sun he forgot to put a
veil over his face, and so he got red;
but he will get over it,"
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