Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1871-03-08
BEGINNING MARRIED LIFE.

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by substituting quarters at a hotel or
boarding house. Such results are
greatly to be deprecated. if marriage
and home are worth preserving a. in
stitutiOns OF God. When and how TO
begin married life, becomes therefore
a question Of no small importance,
and should never be left to the decis-
ion Of either caprice or fashion. On
this question Mrs. Beeeher gives some
very sensible advice in the Christian
Union, from which we Quote the fol-
lowing:
We are no advocate for very long
engagements, OF unreasonabIy early
marriage, but we do believe that the
happiest marriages are Of those be-
tween whom love was early plighted,
and that close observation will prove
that such are the most likely to stand
the test of time, and pass through the
many rough and hazardous paths of
married life, with the most cheerful
fOrtitude. Those who have DELAYED
marriage until their habits have be-
come too firmly established to Weld
kindly to anOther's wishes or peeuli-
arities, have not, we think, so sure a
prospect Ofa pleasant and harmonious
life. We would sooner trast an early
Z union to carry the welded pair down
I to peaceful old age, not only without
losing the love that first united them. {
but with the firm hope that it would
/ grow brighter and brighter, until that
I perfect day, when both having passed I
over the river, shall stand with clear
er vision and purified affection before /
the throne Of God.
When school old3ts are over and the |
young man enters upon his chosen Z
occupation, and the maiden leaves her /
schOOl-rOOm % return to her mothers I
care, then we believe that an engage
ment, f0rmed with pure love for the .
basis, Is a great safeguard. It pro- I.
tects the lover from many tempta-
tions, by which young men away
from home are beset, especially in the .
city. They have little society, save .
such transient companions as may
cross their path, and who will, per- .
maps, seek to entice them TO find .
pleasure in low and unrefined, If not .
in really impure and sinful courses.
In the evening, after the days's work
Is ended, time hangs heavily on their
hands; they crave something, they
know not what, and are easily en- !
trapped.
Now while true love will teach a
man to turn from such pleasures in 7.
disgust, it will also save the maiden
any desire TO indulge in the flirtatiOns
and eOquetsries with which CAV and
fashionable society tempts young and
unguarded girls to degrade themselves.
An engagement does not always pre-
vent this, we are sorry to say. but
pure lore will prove an unfailing pro-
lection.
Neither do we believe an engage
ment should be prOtracted after the
lover has entered upon his business or
profession, until he has accumulated
sufficiedt wealth to keep his bird in a
golden cage.
Begin real life together. That is the
true way-all the sweeter and happier
if you begin small. The less style
and display there is, the more time
each will have to study the home
character of the one they have ac-
cepted as q companion for life, and
the better opportunity to learn easily
how to "bear and fOrbear, ITO tone
down such peculiarities as are not
conducive to mutual confidence and
harmony. In all characters there will
be such peculiarities-it is quite right
there should be-but by Carrying the
same Centleness and courtesy into do
nestle life, which was so easily aud
given in the days Of court ,
ship, yielding a little, giving up' /
one to the other, the early welded be- I
come assimulated, and fad in their {
union an ever-inereasing joy, which /
I later marriage, when the habit be- {
come fixed and unyielding, seldom
realizes.
"But to begin in a small way, with
limited means, subjects one to much ,
irudgery and many deprivations; be. i
Iides we lose caste. Those who knew !
Is in our fathers house, surrounded
with cOmfOFt and luxury, would :
scarce deign to notice US if found in !
so at variance with our c
parents mode of life.
Such friends are scarcely worth the {
You have outgrown baby Z
hood and childhood, and having en-
cred upon mans and wOman's estate.
urely do not always expect TO be I
.radled in your parents arms, but if {
'Ou are OF any worth YOU should Y
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Its rough ascents, or flowing slopes, - q
trOd together, and in love, will in Q
ure genuine happiness, and we often Q
hink one stores up rs much real
'leasure while passing through the :
Ough places as when walking among :
he flowers We know that the retro =
pection is often a source Of unfailing
Many, we are aware, find great de- 1
ight in selecting the house that is to
e their home, and furnishing it rs d
labOrately aid tastefully as their C
leans will permit, perhaps even be- n
Ond q safe limit, and then surprise
lg' tbs bride BY ushering her into o
his unexpected establishment. The Z,
surprise is doubtless effected, but i
Though the annoyance may be con- D
called, in nine cases out of ten we Y
enture to say it is keenly felt. When h
ossible, both should act together in il
the house, or it may be Of
rooms, ~ where is to be their home, 7
nd the taste and judgment Of both be il
Onsulted in selecting the furniture, Il
-hieh they expect to have before eyes "
ally. In examining and consulting u
lgether frequently, they modify each n
theirs taste, and in the end are far IL
etter satisfied than if either had done D
he work alone. b
The money for furnishing a house q
; often provided as a part Of the brides a
utfit, and of course, if she chooses so ! O
D consider the matter, it is "hCr TigITl n
D select the furniture, wi;hou; con- T,
llting anOther's taste or wishes. But b
he older we grow the more we are a
atisfled, that ''Hly rights should be 4
rased from the matrimonial dictiOn- "
~, and ''Otg' rights substituted. b
0NATHAN'S HUNTINGEXCURSION. v
'Did you ever hear Of the scrape that c
and uncle Ezekiel had duekini ont 1
n the Connecticut asked Jonathan Il
imbertOes, while amusing his old q
'utch hostess, who had agreed to en- h
,rtain him under the roof of her log o
)ttage Tor and I'm consideration or y
ran new tin miikpIn. a
No, / never did, do sell il, - was G.
le reply. "
"Well you know that l aud Uncle Oi
eke took il in our heads on Saturday C,
fternOOn to go a gunnin' after ducks n
l fathers skifi; 50 in we got and cl