Bellows Falls times. [volume] (Bellows Falls, Vt.) 1856-1965, 1871-09-08
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ful. She has similar tastes TO himself.
She is equally as vain and shallow.
If he is not, neither is she happy when
she has no one to flirt with, though un-
like him, she will Airt with enc she does
not care a putton about. Ii is matter
Of the utmost Indifference to her how
many hearts she lacerates she is never
better pleased than when she is making
poor fools jealous about her. She will
look languishingly on one if she mag
ines she can thereby stab the heart Of
another. In general way she is ac-
complished. That is to say, she can sing
and play tolerably, converse in an ag-
reeable, though shallow, vein, and make
herself lively. But she has never read
anything since she left school more solid
than novel, and it is "a matter of con-
siderable doubt whether she knows how
to make pudding, or sew a button on a
shirt. Certainly, when in company, she
would deem it positive disgrace to as
sert she was capable of humble accom-
plshments. Her cheeks would blush,
and her eyes flash, if such things were
asserted of her She is not proud of
what she cannot and will not do. 1t is
difficult to understand why it should be
deemed discreditable for young lady to
be able to do things for herself other
than choosing bonnet or embroidering
an antimacassar; but it is so, for all
that.
1t is remarkable, but, nevertheless,
true, that, as a rule, flirts (both male and
female) do not marry quickly. The
chances are, that girl who becomes en-
gagged and disengaged, as it is the GUS
tom for firts to do. ultimately settles
down into a confirmed old maid, and
very sour old maid, too. She, most pro-
oably, becomes thoroughly discontent-
ed woman, who makes many enemies
and and few friends. She has no re-
sources within herself, for the one great
pleasure of her life has gone from her.
She can no longer ffirt. If she does wed
as general rule she develops into the
most virulent wasp, makes her husband
miserable, and brings up her children
badly.
1t is not very difficult to find reason
why firt does not marry. Sensible
men admire something besides pretty
face and engaging manners. They love
intellect, common-sense, and heart
three qualifications which, generally, the
fiirt does not possess. She strangles
whatever healthy human nature she pos
sesses; but the true woman allows her
affections full play, and is not ashamed
of them. She will not lead man to be-
lieve she cares for him when she does no
such thing; she will not hirt with
him Just for the sake of firt-
ing. She has truer conceptions of what
is right, and possesses a good deal more
common sense She has derived her ed
ucation from something else than three
volumes novels and the society of emp
ty-pated fops. She can be thoroughly
merry, bat she knows how to be merry
without being idoiotic. She can do
something else than merely indulge in
the suggestive "chaff" which firts de-
light in, though she has no objection to
joke and poke fun. She would not be
ashamed to confess she looked after the
the domestic arrangements of house.
She may attract less attention in draw
ing-room than the firt does, because she
is less noisy and obtrusive; but, for all
that, she will get married sooner, and
make her husband better and truer
wife. She may excite less admiration,
but the one man who loves her will love
her with his heart. A genuine woman
does not desire to be loved by more than
one man, nor does true man care to Sc
cure the affections of more than one wo-
man. A true woman does not care for
the spooney young man. She disliKes
his foppishness, the vapid compliments
he pays her, and his efieminacy. He
quickly finds this out, and leaves her in
in peace. Thus, if he ultimately gets
married, it is to firt, and the "happy
pair" lead the jolliest cat and dog life
imaginable. He often, however, devel-
ops into crusty, misanthropical, fop-
pish old bachelor, and becomes so disa-
greeable and conceted that he is uni
versally hated by everybody but him.
self.
There is no use denying that flirting
is under certain conditions, extremely
pleasant. So many people would not in
dulge in it were it not so. But it is fre-
quently productive Of disastrous results,
and confirmed firts are people who
should be studiously avoided by those
who at all susceptible. There have been
many lives chequered and darkened by
their Vaccinations. Flirting is, some
times, quite legitimate. Lovers must,