Worcester daily spy. [volume] (Worcester [Mass.]) 1850-1888, 1871-11-14

day, No. S91, Charles b. Ford VS.. the FItchburg
railroad company, for damages for injuries from
boiler explosion, will be put on trial, the case
having been already pretty thoroughly ventilat-
ed before the previous juries.
LECTURE BY REV. HENRY WARD BEEcHER.
The third lecture in the Lyceum course was de-
livered last evening by Rev. Henry Ward Beech
err, to hear whom the people aocked to NIechan
les hall in numbers which filled it, floor and
gallery, and also many seats on the platform.
Mr.. Beecher spoke on Glove for nearly an
hour and half in his usual entertaining man.
ner, which made the time seem much shorter
| than treaty. was. To do SO long lecture JUS
| tice in a brief abstract-especially lecture so
| full of thought and fine passages, cannot be
expected, of course; therefore we will only at
tempt TO produce few of his sayings as he dis
| cussed the charming subject.
| He said that romancers and poets had done
none too much in extoling the charming expe-
riences of early love; we look back at the rap
| turous out gushings of affection in early years.
and laugh at the righteousness Of the enthusi-
asm with which young lovers are filled; but
when he was first in love himself, he said there
seemed to him to be nothing at all ludicrous
about it; he was never more in earnest in his
life; it made all the difference in the world as TO
the point of view from which we regard the
matter. He said he never saw two noble young
hearts in love without wishing he was one of
them Love is the only faculty which has the
power to change the whole world, and make
everything possess a new beauty in our sight.
| If any man fails to observe this sudden change
of everything to new beauty, when he thinks he
is in love, he may rest assured that it
is a mistake, and he is not in love,
after all. If man is ever poet it is when under
the delightful influence OF love; if ever an
artist, then; ever a singer, then; it is not lure
or garnished bait, but reality, transforming
everything looked upon, before which faults dis
appear, and we fall down and worship the i'm
age our own love has created. Too often love is
bright bonfire before marriage, and naught
| but ashes ater-a disenehantment follows which
| is but repetition of Adams and Ewes expert
ences-unbounded joy at first, and a path OF
thorns at the end. He depored the evil philos-
| ophy which teaches that love is necessarily
short beginning in fever and burning out, and
Illustrated the sadness of life wrecked by carly
disappointment. More than any other thing
mans happiness depends upon his power
of loving and exciting love; and if he would
have love, he must submit to loves
| terms; he cannot secure it If he falls into ill.,
difference after the wedding; seeking love in
| that way is like digging for diamonds and car
| rying off pebbles while the diamonds were there
to be found with right knowledge of digging.
Love wont last through life unless nurtured
| and cared for; it needs more culture than any
thing else in the world. Too often the heart is
regarded as a fathomless reservoir containing
a supply of love for life, so the stream begins to
run small, until at last it is found that, instead
of Ia fathomless reservoir, the heart has become
cistern, and a broken cistern at that Great
artists always make preliminary studies before
beginning a spicture; and so in love, that eX-
pericnced before marriage is only study Tor
| true love after marriage. Thelove of courtship
and lovc-letters is to real love what books hor
ticuture are to actual gardening. Love must
| be judged, not by intensity, but by permanent
effects; no man can be in love all over and be
| calm aud happy-it is when half full, and fill
ing, that the waters are eXcited-when full,
calm settles the surface, and all is peaceful.
Love works on the ascending scale; first it grows
into affection, then to the Imagination, then to
| reason, and then TO moral sentiment; this by
| gradual progression, and no man is fully in love
until with the whole of his nature.
Marrying is not mating; not one in hundred
couples are married whose natures are exactly
fitted to each other; the fitting must be the
| work of the household. Sometimes this can
never be effected; we sometimes see great ma
lures and little natures brought together, whose
working will be us uneven as the elephant and
mouse pulling in the same yoke. He was
not astonished, he said, to see great
hearted men married to small-hearted women,
for men are not given to discernment and have
little social tact; but he was astonshed to see
great-hearted women tied to'small-hearted, mar
row-minded men. He illustrated the aeeting ma
ture of one kind of love by reading a letter from
Ferdinand to Miranda previous to their marriage,
and then giving an account Of their selfish mar
ried life. In speaking of lasting love, he asked
how many men can sit down beside their brown
aud wrinkled wives at fifty, and read to them
the letters written at twenty without saying
chow green we were;' he rejoiced to say there
before marriage; seishness is the devil that
leaps into that paradise after marriage and spols
the mans ideal; and woe to the unhappy man
that loses his ideal.
That love which can survive its earthly condi-
ton must be clothed with infinite patience and
Corbearance; it suiereth long, aud is gOod-na-
tured; it yaunteth not itself, and is not puffed
up. There are no perfect men or wOmen-that
| is what life is ior-tO mould perfect men and
women, for which purpose they are placed to-
gether IN the world as the clay in the potter's
will love where his affection has come to be i'll
requited. Women often, but men never, love
when loneliness is gone. The household is not
an earthly Eysium into which men are taken
like souls into Heaven; but it is the school
| where true men and women learn lasting hap
| piness. Genuine good nature on both sides
makes a loving life after marriage the easiest,
| pride makes it the hardest, and there is moth
| ing in this world so bad as religious pride for
| making mischief. Many couples live together
and yet live single lives; they court in benevo-
lence, but live in selfshness before marriage
| each wanted to please the other, and they were
| so happy that that they thought they were
perfectly adapted to each other-and
so they were, if they had kept it
up; but after marriage, from wanting to
| please each other they changed to
each wanting to be pleased. In married
life influence should always govern, and not
authority; and the controlling influence will al
ways go with the largest nature without regard
to sex. If the woman is the best manager, she
should manage, if the best economist she should
control the MEANS and if the best governor
she should govern. Affairs should be
controlled either in joint council, by
alternating, or, in extreme cases, by the one with
the largest nature; hut it should always be done
| by influence, and not by command. For a wo
| man TO fail i'm haVino Lcr nun UNIV nfteutimns