Fayette County herald. [volume] (Washington [Washington Court House], Fayette County, O. [Ohio]) 1860-1???, 1871-05-18
From Waverly Magazine.
AT HOME AND ABROAD.

1t would be amusing, if it were not |
often sad, to witness the different man
ifestations of character by the same
person. We have known those noted |
for courtesy abroad so coarse in their |
expressions, so uncOuth of manner, |
so brutal of voice and act at home, as
made 1T difficult to reconcile the two |
characters. We have seen men Law |
ishly generous when called upon for
public contributions. and meanly penu
rious in their own domiciles, when
asked for fifty cents to buy new
broom with. We have heard a voice
modulated to lowest music, and in an
hour -afterward, raised to the shriIlest
pitch of most violent anger. We have
seen fairies transformed to furies by
the closing of a door, and the assumed
smile and all the simulated sweetness
depart with the last visitor, and frowns
and black looks dis figure the face just
l efore so lovely.
Why is so much done for the world,
so little for the home, the best resting
place of all? Why seek to please
strangers, who have no sympathy with
our inner lives, who do not compre
hend our convictions, and the motives
| from which we activity for them do
we don our best attire, assume our
best manner, display all our material
wealth and intellectual requirements
| What benefit do we derive from their
approval that is sweeter than that
given by the dear hOme-circle Is it
for love, or benevolence's sake that
we present our rooms at their best,
our table with its costliest supplies,
our dress with all its accessories, our
learning with all its display?
1t is from pride, meanest motive of
a human soul. 1t is to hear others
praise our lace and damask curtains,
our new sets of furniture, our gildiugs
and trappings. It is to have our riches
exaggerated by report, our banquets
blazoned in print, our lberality in pro
Viding choice and expensive entertain
ments trumpeted about; it is to feel
like the country youth, who, for the
first time in his life, was invited to a
social gathering. He dressed his hair
as elabOrately as possible, and oiled it
well with some perfumed preparation.
Said he, in the midst of the evenings
entertainment, eff you smell anything
very nice, that's me- So thinks the
man or woman who sacrifices so much
for show, but they do not confess it.
All the party giving and party-going !;
the calculation of presents received,
and to be returned in like measure; the
dressing, the Weariness, all the toll
that knows no compensation it is
'-vanity and veyation of spirit at each
step, but it is persisted in.
If the elegant department put on for
occasions were the habit of life, then
it would be the outgrowth OF choice
refinement of soul, and would be adj
mirable, manifesting itself in the use
OF chOcie language, of natural grace
of movement, of low voiced speech
4 of Tenderness of touch, in short, OF
harmony at all times. Such person
, at the head Of household, would be
revered as father, idolized as a moth
er, enshrined as sweetest and best, il
sister or friend, brother or companion
= But men are too apt to throw of
] their varnish of politeness with theil
! best suits; women, to cast away thei
society manners with their every dress
;. little children, to grow rude and tall
a slang, as soon as the company has de
y parted. All the social graces are cul
= tivated for the smiles of strangers al
the amenities of life kept for a cere
+ monious display for the observation O
. persons that have no interest in us
) and for whom we care not three straws
= Very false estimates of character ar
formed in society. There, all is smoot
# and Velvety, the speech, the football
4 every motion is studied; every wor
h carefully reflected upon before it is u
% tered. o, that we were as careful {
\ home! Then no cross words Of al
cry, hasty impulse would wound th
Il mothers heart with the sting of tt
i child's ingratitude; no careless, disr,
| spectfuI answers serd a shadow to IL
,e fathers brow; no angry retorts an
=. careless chickering's, high words of r
ii crlmination and loud words of faul
n finding, take place between brothe
q. and sisters. Insincerity is the gre
o. lack of society, as it is. 1t is wrOr
Id to hate but it is worse to pretend co
+ diallty, and stimulate friendship whe
+ none is felt. 1t were well for us if v
or kept the Arab custom of holding hi
-, forever sacred, who has eaten of o.
Of salt. In our day, even the table
which we are invited guests is scam,
in by us s'with a critics eye" We s
n home and find fault. We discuss, wi
or severity, the person whose hospitali
20 we have enjoyed we dissect them, S
cially, intellectually and morally, al
INF smile at the superior wisG ON dictatil
he our words. We kissed last night, t
day we rend the character; that is
I'D la mode; they do even so to US.
And the examples of SANDER, of en-
he and detraction, the mean jealousy, t
unworthy spite, the treachery of it
asst will not the listening ears of t
fer young, before whom we speak L
net guardly, and act out our true selv
drink in the poison we distill? A
rec will it not water plentiful growth
nd like and greater vices in our childrel
ht- hearts?
no Is it the mere fact of being well o
,e's ten up by the tailors and hairdress
let that constitutes the gentleman Is
en- entitled to the name who dances
to tendance on the young and beauti
of the fairer sex, while he keeps in
ice serve the coarse jest and the brainl
vav witticism for the older women? Is
gentle, and true man, who is
aw. F'splendid dancers, - the obseqious c.
he alier of fair and wealthy DANES,
En-. who repulses with brutal speech
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