Saint Mary's beacon. [volume] (Leonard Town, Md.) 1867-1983, 1871-01-19

men do.
The first detection of this kind is .
pang the young wife never fcrgets bu4
she has many more. and vet more bitter
ones, when the detection takes personal
shape, aud some pretty little attention is
earelessly received without its due reward
Of loving thanks. Perhaps some usual
form of caress is omitted in the hurry of
the morning~swork, or some gloomy an-.
ticipatioa Of professional tnesaLle saak6s
him oblivious Of her presence, or frcttcd
by her importuna'e attentions. he .buries
himself in book, more 70 escape being
spoken to than for the books own merits.
Many a woman has gone into her own
room and had good cry" because her
husband called her by her bap.iSmal name.
and not by some absurd nickname, inyen-
ted in the days Of their folly, or because,
pressed for time. he hurried out of the
house without going through the usual
formula Of leave-taking. The lover has
merged into the husband security has
taken the place Of wooing; and the wo-
man does not take kindly to the transfor-
nation. Sometimes she plays game,
anI tries what flirting with other men
viii do. If her scheme does not answer,
and her husband is not jealous, she is re-
yolted, and holds herself that hardly used
being, neglected wife. She cannot ac-
cept a compliment the quiet trust which
certain cool headed men of loya! kind
place in their wives and his tolerance Of
her flirting manner. which he takes to DC
manner only, with no evil in it, and with
which, though he may not especially Ike
it, he does not ;ntcrfcrc-seemS 10 her in
difference rather than intolerance. Yet
the confidence implied in this forbcarance
Is in point Of fact 4 compliment worth al
the p,tjt> SoiH> ever invented, though this
hearty faith i jus; thc thing that annoys
her, and which she stigmatizcS rs neglect.
If she were to go far enough she would
find out her mistake. But by that time
she would have gone too far to profit by
her experience.
Nothing is more annoying than that lis
play of affection which some hu bands and
wives show to each other in society. That
familiarity of touch, those halfc0nccalcd
carcsses, those absurd names. that pyodi-
gality of endcaring cpithcts. that devoted
attention which they iaunt in the face of
the public rs kind Of challenge to the
world at large 10 come and admire their
happiness, is always noticed and laughed
at, snd sometimes more than laughed. at.
Yet TO some women this parade of love is
:hc very essence of married happiness,
aud part Of their dearest privileges. They
believe themselves admired and cnvicd,
when they are iiliculcd ard s.ofcl 1t:
and they think their husbands are models
for other men to copy, when they are ta-
ken rs examples lor al 10 avoid iien
who have any real mlnliEcss, however,
ito not give in TO this kind of ching:
though there are some. aS ciIlmina,c and
gushing rs women themselves. who like
this sloppy cffuSiycncss Of love, and car
ry it on into quite old age, tondling the
ancient grandmother with gray hair a
lavishly as they had foniled the youthful
bride, and seeing no want Of harmony in
calling a withercd old dame of sixty and
upward by the pet names by which they
had called her when she was slip of
girl of eighteen. The continuance oflovc
from youth to old age is very lovely, very
cheering; bat even 4" John Anderson,
my Jo," would lose its pa.hos if Mrs.
Anderson had ignored the difference be-
tween the raven locks ana the snowy brow.
This public display Of familiar affection Is
never seen among men who pride them
selves on making good lovers as cettain
men do-thoSe who have reduced the
practice oflove-making to an art. science,
and know their lesson TO Il letter. These
men are delightful to women, who Ike
nothing 50 much as being made love to.
as well after marriage as before but men
who take matters quietly, and rely on the
good sense Of their wives to take matters
quietly too. sail around these scientific
adorers for both depth and manliness.-
And if women knew their best interests
they would care more for the trus. than
the science.
All that excess Of fiattery and petting
of which women are 50 fond becomes a
bore to n man it required as part of the
daily habit of Life. OUt in the world, as
he is harrassed by anxieties of.which she
knows nothing, home is emphatically his
place of rest. where his wife is his friend
who knows his mind. where he may BE-
himself without the fear OF offending. and
relax the strain iha. must be kept up out
of doors: where he may feel himself safe,
understood, and at ease. And some wo-
men, and these by no means the coolest
or the loving. are wise enough to under
stand this need of test in the mans hard
er life. and, accept the quiet of security as
part Of the conditions of marriage, con-
tent themselves with the uniemonsira.ive
love into which the fever of passion has
subsided Others fret over it, and make
themselves and their husbands wretched
because they cannot believe in that which
is not forever paraded before their eyes.
Yet what kind of home Is il for n man if
he has TO walk rs If on egg-shells, every
moment afraid Of wounding the suSccp;i-
bili;ics of woman who will take nothing
on trust. and who has to be continually
assured that he still loves her, before she
viii believe that to-day is as yesterday =?
OF one thing she NAV be certain: no wife
who understands what il the best kind of
marriage demands these continued atsen-
tons, which, voluntary offerings OF the
lover, become enforced tributes frsan the
husband. She knows that, rs a wife
whom ID IS not necessary 20 court or fat
ter. she has nobler place than that which
is expressed by the attentions paid to =
mistress. Wifehool. ike all assured con-
ditions. does not need to he but;ressed up
but less certain position mus. be sup