Iowa voter. [volume] (Knoxville, Iowa) 1867-1874, 1871-01-26
Home Manners.

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Woods Household Nagasi,.e, are the foun.:
dation and the ,superstructure of good
manners everywhere else, ! The idea that
it is Of littlesmoment how we behave at
LONE, provided we are courteous and po-
lite in company, is radically wrong one,
Persons often allow themselves to be i'll
bred at home, thinking that they can put
on good manners when they choose, and
appear as we'll abroad as others; but, I'M
consciously, they are continually bctray-
ing themselves. Few things are so sub
servient on habit as those ever'occurrifg
little properties, graces, and amenities OF
social life which 60 to make up the we'll
bred man or woman. The expression,
tone, carriage, manner, and language of
years cannot be changed in day, for some
special occasion. The requisites Of good
manners are so multitud;nous, 1t Is impos.
sible to- give them all; and each, like the
snow flakes which form the avalanche,
though important, is. SO minute in itself,
that it is difficult to select any as s'most es-
scntiai.p. Good manners, at home and else.
where, are but the outward manifestation
of love- and that spirit = which suilereth
long and is kind; which enyieth not;
vaunteth not itself; is not pulled up; doth
not behave itself, unseemly; seeketh not
its own; is not easily provoked; tbinketh
no evil; rejoiceth not in mighty; beareth
all things believeth all things; hopetll
all things; endureth all things" Z y. t.,.g,
The vel. man and, WOMAN express
by their manner that they regard the
judgment, feelings. tastes, wishes, con-
veniences and pleasures OF bthtrs as high
ly as their own. They strive to avoid all
habits which offend the tastes. all ex
pressions which shock the sepsiblities OF
wound the feelings Of those about them
and all needless violations of the, customs
and conyenti0nalities. Of society. ~ ia
The following particulars will fall under
and illustrate The above general principles
1st Avoid oil expressions which tend to
irritate, embarrass, rnortify or pain any
member of the family n.y. f,
I'd. Never ,allude to any fault or falling,
unless with the prpqSe to benefit, and
then in private. b.,e.l,. ;,
3D.. Avoid sarcasm, bitter words, sore V
subjects, and reference to any personal de-
formity. ~
4th Do not ridisule, nor hold the opin-
ion of others in contempt. r......,..
9Th. Give attention when addressed, and
do not interrupt nor speak when another
is talking. VI
9th. Never contradict
7th. Never scold.
9Th Keep your temper.
9th. Never speak in loudor quertilous
tones, nor order in arbitrary or arrogant
manner, child or servant
10th. Use no slang phrases, nor ride,
disrespectful, profane or inaccurate Ian
guage. ~ \,
= nth. Never omit the "pleasc ~ and
''thank YOU "goed night and good
morning" nor fail to gratefully aeknowl-
edge, by some word or look, every act OF
Kindness and attention. These little
words oil the harsh machinery Of life
wonderfully. t1 - aoiiH9',91A #li i@g
18th. DO not enter. even your nearest
relations private room without knocking.
n 18th. Never slam the doors, sit in the
windows, hum, whistle, or sing in the halls
or passage; nor scream to persons out Of
windows and up stairways. la - fl51
14th. Teach children to offer prece-
dence to each other, and to their snperiors,
to avoid awkward positions and move
lnents and not To indulge In aisagreeabie
or filthy personal habits, such as yawning,
scratching the head, picking the nose,
hawking, splitting on the floor, Cleaning
the nails in company, etc, etc, .5J m !.
18th. Hold the person and personal
possessions of another sacred. 7s,, Y ~
He who observes this rule will not tickle,
nor pinch, nor punch, nor poke his friend
or brother; will not, unless he has special
permission, open his letters, rummage his
drawers, mark his books, finger his clothes,
nor use his private property. ~