Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1871-08-15

relative had on earth than to have liv,
through SO many years as | have passt
through without the smiles of Alice. AS "
know, my first wife died, and | was left vii
two little children. Being thus circumstance
L was compelled to marry the second time {
account OF the children. So | have been ma
ried to two ladies, both very estimable wome,
but | loved neither of them. I tried to b,
and in truth was very kind to both of m
wives As you know have always had plent
around me and was able to crafty their want
as far as money could do it. But it was a
ways done as mere matter of duty, my hear
was not with them. They could never increas
my happiness In anything, neither could the
palliate my troubles, because my heart was nc
united with sthelrs. My marriage with then
was merely union of hands and not of hearts
1t would have been quite different had | beel
married to Alice. She would have been par
of myself. Our spirits would have been a
one. Our souls would have commingled :
Every pleasure of hers would have been
pleasure to me; every trouble would have beer
divided between two, thus making it doubl,
easy to bear. No, Sam, my advice to al
young men is to marry the girl they love il
their youth, let her condition or rank be wha
1T may, they will lead happier lives My opin
ION u.s. man never loves but once, and if ht
always be void In his life that cannot b.
filed
"Pshaw Mr.. Smith, you talk idly. Some
men love half dozen times When l wa
young L could love every pretty girl saw.
Such men, Sam, never loved at all. Theil
natures were not capable of loving and if they
should marry, the feelings which they call love
would soon wear out, and then they would be
ready to fall In love with some other pretty
girl with their wives sitting by their Sides
Such characters ought never to marry at ALL -
well, Mr.. Smith, supposing your idea to
be true, that man never loves but once,
what would become of man if he could not
get the girl he loved? Would you have him
1--we out life of single wretchedness merely
because particular girl could not fancy him
and agree to be his wife? My idea is that he
should look out for another one. He should
act upon the old adage that, there are as good
1sh IN the sea as ever were caught out of it. :"
A new pain will destroy an old one When a
married man dies his grave is nothing but a
cradle to rock up, new love in his widow
heart for some other man, as we see exempli-
led all over the world. have heard of folks
lying of broken heart because of disap-
pointed love, ladies especially; but | have al
ways thought that only those died who never
had second opportunity of marrying. A new
owe would soon cause them to forget the old
'nes. tell you, Mr. Smith, you are wrong
you have incorrect ideas about the nature of
nan In that particular and you are still further
rom the mark in regard to the nature of
women. They are as tickle as the wind. They
nave no fixed principles in their character at
Ill, but are merely creatures of circumstance.
They are just what circumstances make them
md no more.
Il would be very sorry to have that opinion
If them assure you, for [ have always re-
sarded woman who is true to the man she
owes, one who loves constantly, deeply, and
as the noblest work of God. 1t
S very sublime principle in her nature, and
me that should be appreciated by the oppo-
lite SEX.
''But [ tell you, Mr.. S., there are no such
women. You cans find them anywhere in this
World. Ii a woman were like that, she could
lot be considered as belonging to the present
ace of women. She would be a different crea-
ure from what We find woman to be- You are
reating in your own mind what you would like
or a woman to be, and [ wish all women were
uch, but your believing them to be so, does
lot make them So We must take women as
We have to take everything else, just as We find
hem. AS remarked before, they are crea-
ures OF circumstances only, and We can make
hem just what we would have them to be by
egulating the circumstances under which they
re placed. A woman will be as true as steel
o you if nothing interferes to prevent her,
long as you can crafty all her wishes she
S perfect angel but when you cannot do
hat, she changes. | have heard, when pov-
rty comes in at the door love jumps out at the
window, and in my opinion that is about the
way 1t Is. She will cease to love you when she
inds you are unable to satisfy her wants. She
owes you for her own sake, and not for yours
She loves you because you are of use to her,
" hen a woman's husband dies he is no longer
# any use to her, and she readily falls In love
With some other man, who promises to take
Ter to the fashionable watering places, give
Ter trips and plenty of money, &c., which
which you make it. but is based upon man S
apacity to crafty her desires. Did you ever
,now poor girl to refuse to marry rich man
ct him be never so unprepossessing, if he has
he yellow dirt it is all she wants.
II admit, Sam, there are many such cases
n the world, but such characters ought not to
,e placed with true women. | know there are
rue women and men too In this world, and
'ou do them great injustice by giving the same
character to all the race. A true woman diff
ers as much from such as you have been de-
crbing, as the true coin differs from the coun-
erfeit If woman should love her husband
ruly, she will never cease to love him though
le should die. And if she should be courted
afterwards she would tell her suitor, that she
could never love him-that her love was
,uried."
did you tell your wives Mr.. Smith, that
Iou did not love them p
II never told them that did or did not"
hot n = n ,1l, thnr -
marry you?'
Il simply made the proposition and they
Jaw that [ was wealthy and readily acceded to
ny proposal.
Is not that just what have been trying to
show to be their nature? They are always
'eady to marry if they can make their condi-
ion in life better by it, 1t is not for your sake
hat they marry you; but for their own"
Il have said before, responded Mr.. S., that
here were many such women in the world as
7ou represent them to be, but deny that all
are such. [ also said | did not marry my
wives for love, but as suitable arrangement,
both for them and me-.
''Do you think, Mr. S., that true woman,
as you understand the term, would marry a
man processing to love him when she did not p
mo, she would not. She would tell him
that if she married him it would be merely to
make better arrangement for herself and
there would be no deception
played-it would be an honest bargain which
they would have right to make.'
''And that is the sort of bargain that you
made with your wives, did you?"
"Yes, [ did not profess to love them, for
loved Alice Page, and if l had professed to
love them would have lied
"You seem to be very conscientious man
Mr.. Smith.
Yes, have always tried to be so.'
"A nd Won reaIlv heliava that man can new