Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1871-01-27

occasion Tor UeIlclOuS IaNIHS, uCCohic W
lime and use, and the wearing realities
of business and the crowdiGg anXieties,
pueiile annoying In the ordinary English
man, whoiJ not poet by nature. when
NIL the world was young" by reason OF
his own youth. and the lever of the love
making time was on him, he was quite rs
romantic as his wife. But now he is So
herring down; lie is fast becoming Il pro-
sale thing To him; work is taking the
place of pleasure, ambition OF romance :;
he pooh -poohs her fond rcmcmbIances
Of by. gone folies. and prefers his pipe in
the warm library to station by the
open window, watching the sunset be
cause il looks as it did on that evening.
and shivering with incipient catarrh. All
this is very dreadful to her; women, un.
fortunately for themselves, remaining
young and keeping hold much longer
than men do.
4 Good Cry. The first detection of
this kind is pang the young wife never
iorgets; but she has many more, and yet
more bitter ones. when the DETECTION
takes personal shape, and some pretty
little attention is cal e,cssly received with.
out its due reward of loving thanks.
Perhaps some usual form of carcss is
omitted in the hurry of the morning :
work or some gloomy anticipation oi
of her presence. or lrcttcd by her im-
Fortunate attentions. he burics himself in
= book, more to escape being spoken to
than for The books own merit. Many a
woman has gone into her own room and
Lad Il good cry" because her husband
rallcd her by her hapti-mal name, and
lot by some ablu,d nickname invented in
the days of their folly or because pressed
l,r lime, he hurried out of the house with.
cut going through the established formula
oi leave taking TIC lover has merged
in the husband; security has taken the
! lace of wooing: and the woman does
not take kindly to the transformation.
{. pmetimes PLAYS dangerous game and
I les what flirting with other men will do.
] her scheme does not answer and her
husband is moi made iealo1S. she is re-
roltcd and holds hersell as hardly used
being. neglected wife. She cannot
b ,cep: rs = compliment the quiet trust
" hich certain cool. headed men OF loyal
lind place in their wives; ani this toler
ancc of her lriing .nner-which he
takes 10 bc tnInncr only, with no evil in
il, AMI with which, though lie may not
like it. he does not Interfere
seems to her Indifference rather than
toerencc. Yet the compliment implied
in lhi, forbcarance is in point OF fact II
worth all the pciitS si)RS ever
invented. though this hearty faith Is just
he thiag winch annoys her and which
she stigmttizes as neglect, Ii she were
to- - lar enough she would find out her
mistake. Bat by that time she would
have gone too far TO profit by her eS-
pcrienco.
Nothing is more annoying than that
display of affection which some husbands
nld wives show to each other in society,
that familiarity OF touch, those ha'I.con.
praled c;,resseS, those absurd games, that
OF endearing epilhets tha; dc.
voted attention which they Haunt in lhc
tace OF the public rs kind OF Challenge
to the world ut large to come and admire
their happiness, is always noticed and
laughed nj. Yet to some women this
parade OF love il the very essence oil
married happiness and part OF their dear
est privileges. They believe themselves
and envied. when they are
ridiculcd and scoifcd at; and they think
their husbands are models for other me n
10 copy, when they are taken as examples
for all 10 avoid. Men who have any real
however. do not give in 10
this kind Of thing though there are some
rs elreminate and gushing as women
themselves. who like this sloppy elusive
ness of love, and carry it on into quite
Did age. iondIing the ancient grand
mother with grey hair rs laviShly as they
had fondled the youthful bride, and see
ing no want OF harmony in calling a
y ithered old dame OF sixty and upward
by the pet names by which they called
her when she was a slip Of girl OF
eighteen. The continuance of love from
youth to old age is very lovely, very
cheering; but even John Anderson my
oTwould lose its paihos if Mrs. Anderson
had ignored the difference between the
raven locks and the snowy brow. This
public display of familiar affection is
never seen among men who pride them
selves on making good lovers; as certain
men do-thoSe who have reduced the
practice OF love. making to an art, a
science, and know their lesson TO \ letter.
THESE men arc delightful to women, who
like nothing so much As being made love
hal l,ut
men who take matters quietly too, sail
round these scientific adorers for both
depth and manliness. Aad if women
knew their best interests they would care
more for the trust than the science.
Women are fond OF petting. All that
excess of fatlery and petting of which
women are so fond becomes u bore to