The weekly Ottumwa courier. [volume] (Ottumwa, Iowa) 1857-1872, 1871-05-18


Marriage, Home, Children.
Rev. DR.. Bcudder, in taking HE
farewell Of the Californians, gave
them : lecture on domestic duties
and delights III tho COURSE Of which
he said, Ii his vivaoious style:
{ Twenty -sexen years ago Yankee
girl and | resolved TO make . home.
| have heard b said that in oil such
agreements the lady takss the inith-
tive mot verbally, but in some gentle
revelation palpAble TO lovers. Ny
wife and myself have often disputed
that point. She says the assertion 10
groundless and malicious. And 4
think she Is right. / made ths nd.
vance, and was considerably fright
ened; but she helped me bravely
through it. The family rises in dig
nifty and purity as marriage 10 held
sacred. 1 think that If we could
complete chapter on the honor with
which men treat their wives, No
should have most curious history.
In ancient Babylon all the women
we're every year put up ut auction.
The handsome ones went of at high
prices, and the, money that was reals
Used was offered for doweries upon
the ugly ones. II : man got q beau.
ty he paid for her; il be got an nGly
woman he got the cash. They on
deavored to set lovliness without
money against homeliness with it,
In Greece the bride went BY night
in . chariot to the house of her in.
tended. In another ancient country
the women had q fashion of kicking
and biting those who endeavorsd "a
take them away |; although I am in.
ciined to think these kicks and bites
did not amount to much. In DAho
mey the king owns oil women, and
takes % his proportion three thous
and. Once . year he parcels out I'll
the rest of the women IN his empir,
to his subjects, just - he pleases
without consulting their wishes.-- =.
There are still lower depths than this
In some tribes the man fells the wo
man senseless to tho ground ant
bears her away. Where man be-
sunk thus low we may we'll clas
them.below the onrang outang.-
Even these homes are better than n,
homes. They are better than
wholly unregulated intermingling
Yet none of these is like 10 tha
home which is . product of Christial
civilization !; In which woman is hon
ored in the sharing Of the pures
and noblest rite, the rite Of MAI
riage; based upon mutual affection
the ceremony of wedlock being tn
VOW OF fidelity and love. Marriag
began in Eden, and il should be kep
up. In the Roman empire Their
were stringent laws against bache
lors. In Greece the women tool
lswitches and beat the old baches il
order to whipa matrimonial spiri
into them. ~
! A complete idea of home can neve
be realized without children. The,
are . part Of ourselves. We breal
ont with children just as rockets tina
shoot up break ont into stars. MAJ
is a stick and paper filled with nitr
and charcoal and sulphur, but b
does not break ont into stars of him
sele. Parental instinct is the grea
foundation of tho family ito. In tn
lower order Of animals this does no
exist. The tadpole never knows hi
father or mother. These dear littl
pollywogs grow up without care Q
father or mother. The honey-be
has good mathematical skill and
knowledge OF practical. botany, bu
it manifests no parental affection, 70
how could she care for them all 2
I appeal to every father here-Hov
did you feel when. your first chill
was born :? | felt that the nous
would not hold me. It was not BIZ
enough to breathe in. | said ~ mus
get out of this" Fortunately / live
BY the sea- respectable sized objec
to look upon. If / had lived milan
/ think l should have exploded.
/ Scion said every newly marie
couple should be put into . room x
gether and made to cat ounce, q
that their breath should be swee
and that they should not be offensiv
to each other. If every newly maj
ried couple would only eat somethin
which would make them always kin
and loving and forgivingl / believ
the difficulty is generally with th
man. He comes home grouty, hi
wife puts some nice dish before hil
at lunch, and he growls that there
not salt enough in it. She puts th
same dish on the table at dinner an
he growls that there is too much sa
In it. His wife would rather have
tooth pulled than to ask him fc
money. A bad home is Q hell upo
earth. A good homo must hav
mutual forbearance and forgiveness
There must be discipline IN q goo
| family. l believe in moral suasioI
but l also believe in the suasion {
the birch. MY grandfather whippe
my father, father whipped me, and
whipped my children, and l find
works very we'll. | do not believ
10 much birch. But / believe . littl
birch brings out the spiritual as We
at the physical circulation.
The fundamental law of househol
should be unquestioning obedience t
the parental will. A weak man VII
has no government, should marry
strong-minded woman, who will viii
all tho children and him too, il b
| needsit.
! FIGHT WITH A WoLF.-Our CORES
pondent "Billy" sends us the follow
| ing account of an interesting inc
dent that recently occurred near Nj
sons Grove and voucbes for the trut
| of it.
During tho late storm Of hail, raj
and snow, and when it was at it
height, and SO dark that perso
could not see ten feet ahead, new
conner who has settled on the rio
bottom lands OF tho West Boyer, wa
1 -os.o o,,% ,c Sc a1anv, hxy h;o m rs