Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1871-09-15

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From the New York Tribune. ss aa taa
iga la. Words to Young Men. ~
In the scores Of letters that every
week are sent I'm to this column, moi
few are from young men who ASK
advice, counsel, assistance, In the
most important choice a young mar
is ever called upon To make--tl,t
choice OF companion for life. We be
lieve that s.. gIi4 t..s..-...aFt lev
| the crowning race an
OF those that eye TO eye shall look
On knowledge: under whose command ibq
r. l. Earth and Earsh's, and IN their hand
ls Nature, like an open book, -A17
must spring from wise marriages
from welded pairs In whom the
union is as much spiritual aud intel.
lecyual as II is physical; from nup.
tials where the torch lighted mt the
Hymeneai altar blazes on and on and
on, until Its radiance In duench.
ed I'm the valley and shadow
where all earthly ties are discovered,
In society this subject, most vital tu
the real progress OF humanity, Is the
fruitful source OF banter and merry.
making. While we would not strike
one note OF joy from the peal of the
marriage bells, we would that mar.
riage were regarded as q sacrament
rather than ~ a chance In a lottery.
In this, young men must take the
initiative, for, according TO our code
of etiquette, young women have only
the veto power. If men have high
ideals Of eonjugal life, if they MARI v
In order that may be wiser aud MOI e
virtuOus as well as happier, young
women will be forced TO rise to the
required standard, In order that,
when weighed In the delicate bal.
ance OF judgment, they may not be
found wanting. ,.-s..e ..,ssg -.'5s
The Vicar OF Wakefield chose his
wife ''ss she did her wedding. gown,
not for q fine glossy surface, but Tor
such qualities as would wear we'll I"
Thus IL came to pass that they ever
flowed each other tenderly, and their
fondness increased xs they grew old. ~
The difficulty with most young men
10 that they allow their fancy to sway
their Judgment; they fall In love
with a pretty face or a fine figure or
a handsome fortune. and then set to
work to sum up the reasons why they
should link their destiny to that OF
the girl they have chosen. This ac-
tivity of the judgment should take
take place before the mind IL logged
by the warm tinted mlsts of love. -
Not but that you ought to love. O
young man, love with your whole
heart, love until death do part you,
but let that love aEEE
- have hi. seat in reason
s..., -. And be iudieions," As.
In selecting horse, would you not
pay attention to her practical points; !;
would you not make sure that she Is
not spawned, CALLED, foundered, that
she has no heaves, does not kick In
the harness or bite In the manger,
that she Is not halter breaker, and
does not run away? Will you be
more careful In the selection of a
horse than In your choice of q wife ?
III you marry q girl that you know
has consumption. or heart disease or
insanity In her blood, who is extrav-
agant, ill-tempered, selfish, imper.
fectly educated, you have only your
self to blame IL you find marfisge to
be a long uphill journey. The rose
tints OF the honeymoon fade In the
first twelvemonth after marriage or
merge into the "a s-g.a}f a...s.-#
''sober certainty OF waking bliss
III the marriage has been so fortu-
nate that every physical tie has Its
counterpart-that, as the lapse of
years cools the blood the growth of
mind 10 mind aud soul 70 soul In
ereases--you will find heaven begun
below the rapture Of the honey.
moon will be succeeded By the meas-
ureless and ceaseless ocean swell of an
evey-eugu1entipg tenderness. aud you
tote curve exemplified In your lives
1--we souls ever approaching each
other, never TO meet. ct
b Ifyou marry merely for that " hlch
fades With the rose on the cheek,
that passes away with, the, plump
ness OF youth or the effervescences
of high animal spirits, when the
flush 10 oil faded the music sll dead,
the aroma gone, how final will be
the dasenchantment! Nothing In
room OF all-no ideas, no hopes. no
wealth Of experiences nothing but
the dull ache Of home-tiriven woes.
That which Il OF the earth Is earthly.
Flesh and blood shall not inherit the
kingdom Of heaven. Friendship
may warm into love, but there are 10
back ward mutteriDgs OF discovering
power that will reverse the charm
and cool . mere physical fancy beck
to serene frisndship, The wave
goes on and on, filing the Dardan-
elles And 4usnlng4hD N1aters of the
Golden Hprp, Or DIS away on those
dusky waters where Medea scattered
the bleeding members Of that bright
faced boy. glTsB tlFfg 1EFTTE = !.
There are those, both men and wo-
mon, who marry from sordid. base.
merceuary, selfish motives, TO such
the words above have no meaning
are inteuded - hape none. - When
younk Indjes ash 10 1Whotnz shaIl
marry ~ our invar1sbis rnswsr 4.
Marry the man OF whom ysU csn
say e ycuf ccy my scn. Be like
your fAthsr.' In Ike manner we
earnestly advise young nasn 10 seek
such companions IN life ~ VIII be
Indeed helpmeeta. cO- -lal,Drers, eQuals
and whoee qualities they will releice
to see reproduced In the children God
may give 20 thenaT TT w \ e,
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An rexcurrtUl party. from 0Indiana
came % eslsf 1t Oslisjoos1 recentiy.
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diana, with the object Of running
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