The weekly Panola star. [volume] (Panola, Miss.) 1857-1881, 1871-11-11

ffIl1 ihf HtliiWNfs WV
"'shen GIRL marrIes, why do
people talk Of her choiccS In
ninety nine cases out of a hundred
has she any choice2 Does not
the man Qrobably the last she
would have chosen) select her2"
A very clever correspondent his
sent us a letter containing this in
quiry; and she makes out her case
ably. She says: IL have been
married many years; the match
was considered a very good one,
suitable in every respect---ase, po-
sition and fortune. Every one
said had made a choice. Why,
my dear Mr.. Editor, ! loved my
husbaad..when | married him be-
cause he had by unwearied assidu.
ity succeeded in gaining my ailec-
tions; but had choice been my priv
ilege | certaiuly should not have
chosen him. AS | look al him in
his easy chair, huge dog at his
feet, a pipe peeping out Of one Of
the many pockets Of his shooting
coat, | can but think how different
he is from what | would have cho-
sen. My first penchant was for q
fashionable clergyman, perfect
Adonis; he was q ilatterer, and he
cared but little for me, though |
have not forgotten the pang Of his
desertion. My next was barris-
ier, a young man Of talent, smooth
insinuating manners; but he too, Of
ter talking, walk ng, dancing and
flirting, left me in the lurch. I'll
ther Of these would have been my
choice had ! SO chosen; but my
present husband chose me, and
therefore ! married him; and thi'
i, / cannot help thinking must be ths
/, way with half the married folk
Of my acquaintance
1 There il both sound sense ant
atruth in this; but Is il not bette
= that men should chose than the.
shouldbe choscn2 And Is not gu
correspondent probably much hap
! pier with her present husband
/ shooting jacket, pipe and dog in
cllsivc, ,tshan she would have bee
with either the fashionable clcr
gyman Or The clever barrister9-
J Men are proverbially incopstan'
!. !. and after marriage, when the troubl
!. and inconvenience Of children ar
beginning to be felt, and whc
a (most trying time Of alDthe vii
q begins to neglect her husband fo
q her children, unless there was orig
I inally very strong attachment 9
4 the husbands side, there i litt
!. chance Of happiness. A wife'sa y
4 fection, on the contrary, al rays i
creases after marriage, and eys
'S IL she were Indifferent before, 4
er well-disposed woman can he
y loving the father Of her childre
= Children, on her side, are 4 BOZ
I, I, of union; and though she may y
ID pear, for them, to neglect some
those little attentions which NJ
ot seem naturally to expect, il i on
on because the child il more helpls
~ being Of the two, and the true v
man always takes the side Of tho
who are most feeble.
ne II Is astrangc but melancholy fl
that when young girls fancy the
dy selves III love, they arc seltlem
% ever happy II they marry the obi
ne Of their choice. The fact ID, III
VIZ most cases, they find the kusba
Ter they have chosen quite 4 differ
70, person IS al individual from
J = imaginary object be had appear
az a lover. The imaginatioD
ast most girls Il stronger thay
cw Judgement; and as soon IN 4
in idea of love Is awakened ii I fem
.re heart, the imagination y set n w
to fancy A lover, and al pos blc I
In possible perfections are ass(mb
M together II the yonng gifl's vi
" to cndow the object Of her sec
", idolatry. The first man whosol
w pearanco and manners attract 4 1
'cn on her entrance into secretly 4 /
" orally invested by her VIII tho \
'ee of these secret thoughts, md
y fancios herself violently III !,
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