Catoctin clarion. [volume] (Mechanicstown, Md.) 1871-1940, 1871-12-30
A TALK WITH THE GIRLS.
Don't be in Il Hurry to Marry.

ii A lady of intelligence and observe
:; ton has remarked, II wish ] coul
!, . impress upon the minds of the CIR
=; that the chief end of woman is not
# get married youmg."
If the girls could only be brougl
G to believe that their chances for
happy marriage were better afte
twenty-five than before, there woul
be-much less misery in the world tina
there now is. To be sure they Nigh
: not have SO many opportunities t
, marry after that age as before but a
} they do not want to marry a grea
many at once, one being sufficient, j
is necessary that one be satisfactor
in every respect; and as girl grow
older, if she thinks at all, she certain
: ly becomes more capable of judginy
what she needs and what would max
her happy, than when younger,
How many girls of twenty would
think of accepting the man they woulc
gladly have married at sixteen? Ane
at thirty, woman who is somewha
independent and not over anxious t(
marry, is much harder to please, anc
more careful in her choice than one O.
twenty. There is good reason fol
this. Her mind has improved Will
her years, and she now looks below
mere appearances in Judging men,
She is apt to ask if this man, who is
very polite in company, is really a
kind hearted man? Do his polite ac-
tons spring from happy, genial ma
ture? Is his attractive demeanor put
on for the occasion, and laid off at
home as he lays off his coat?
A very young girl takes it for
granted that men are always as she
sees them in soclety-polite, friendly
on their good behavior; and if she
marrleS in early youth the one who
happens then to please her fancy, she
learns to her sorrow that, in nine cases
out of ten, a man in society and a man
at home are widely different beings
Five years at that season of life pro-
duce great change in opinions and
feelings. We frequently dcteSt at
twenty-five what we loved at sixteen
We advance from the tafv- candy and
peanut age, to the era of gum-drors
and marronglaces, and even in after
years lose our warnings lor those
dalnties. SO is it with our taste for
books. At sixteen Go,hY'$, the Lui
ger, and Mrs. Southw ,rth are the de-
light Of a girls heart, and she fairly
revels in the love affairs of the most
beautiful of women with the most he
role Of men, while Their hair breadth
escapes thrill her heart and their ma
nltold sorrows bring tears to her eyes
As she grows older, if she develops at
all, that style Of reading gradually
loses its charm, and she finds more
satisfaction in something little more
solid, till at length her taste has
changed entirely, and useful and ell
tertainlng works form the staple of
her reading. OF course she continues
to read novels, but she reads those Of
a different and grander class than she
perused with such exquisite delight at
sixteen.
Similar changes take place in the
moral and spiritual nature. Why
should we expect to feel the same in
after life, after we have learned to /
distinguish between the false and true,
the bad and the good, any more than
we should expect to like dime novels
VIXEN we have become acquainted with
Dickens and Thackeray and Snakes
pcarc'
How few comparatively, are the
schoolgirl friendships that extend into
ater life? How few of our intimate
IS in society do we love as
we'll after twenty years have passed ?
How few even of our own brothers
and sisters do we not see faults in that
Ne could wish eradicated Consider
ng this how is it possible for any one
% feel surprised when Il couple who
marry during their teens, grow to
owe each other less and less as years
oils by ? When both grow alike,
whether it be rapidly or slowly, for
ward or backward, there is some hope
# their ever seeing each other with
he same eyes; but when one pro- .
,resses and the other retrogades, it
yer remains the same, a difference
prings up between them and in time
he one looks down upon the other, 5
ceiling superior, though perhaps the ,
ceiling is unconfessed. while the other, {
nab!e to perceive the real cause of ,
he trouble, grows at once TO hate I
hat was once loved And so it !
Appens that those who love ut SIX I
zen are indifferent at Twenty-Five, i
nd frequently are divorced at thir- c
TIiS trouble would never occur if !
cry ed. marriages We're froWned '
pom; If dispositions tastes, and cir /
Wrr" consulted instead Of a
he mere passing fancy; and if girls
ere encouraged TO wait until their :
lind& We're more matured and they |
lW life with clearer vision Il
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