The weekly clarion. [volume] (Jackson, Miss.) 1863-1882, 1871-10-12
MEN As HUSBANDS

Mrs. Mary A E. Wager, who has ev-
identity got the wrong man for husband,
contributes the following to the Phreno-
logical journal:
That husbands. as a rule, do their wives
intentional Injustice do not for moment
| believe. hut that wives suffer immeasurably
! from Injustice horn of heedlessness- OF
| thoughtessness, and a lack of heartfulness
| know 70 be only too true. Ia the knowledge
| that CONES from unprejudieed observa alton
/ and the Unsought and voluntary cOBfiden-
ces of many vile are TO be relied upon.
/ One is net 10 infer from this that married
women Te given TO turning their hearts
I out like ( pocket and unfolding their we'd
ded relationship most sacred of ALTO the
gaze ndcriticism of even very dear friends.
| The reverse of this is the rule. But there
are score ofconfdences which are escapes
rather th.n positive confessions, that are
forever ryealing TO Us a great deal more
of dissatisfaction than we want ID know
| about. 1 is a wifely weakness" to endea-
vor TO OnceGl the husbands faults; TO
manufacture excuses tor his shortcomings
and try md cheat herself into believing she
is all in oil 70 him, when every indication
points tothe reverse; in short. she fancies
somehow that she was born TO be his moral
and spiritual waterproof. The records are
full OF wmen clinging TO husbands who are
worse than beasts. while many widow
yes withdreadful solemnity the anniversary
day of TIE death ola husband who was
brute, all whose life seemed specially de-
voted to makeing her miserable. These
things SIMPLY illustrate the fool woman
will mae of her self when covered by
idiotic bit customary notions of duty.
A graf deal of nonsense has been talked
and written about the happiness of the home
depending upon the wife. just as much
H. i'm
when ht assumes or demands the super
balance f power. Home is where women
thrive perish; and that it be a garden of
love anGunshine, or desert of i'll winds, |
and barfn OF love and sympathy, depends |
upon thehusband more til an he may at first !
imagine He stamps domestic life with its !
vital, Characteristic principle. To suppose |
that the reflection or utilization of this |
principl will be more beautiful and worthy |
than thprototype is to expect figs to grow |
on thises.
Ii all larriage bonds were inscribed with /
the "Glden Rule" for an in1ex iblc law,
would tere not be harmony where now is 1
discord Would not at least civil courtesy
abound mcng married people as well as
among tere friends!
Do hUbandseVer consider how suDremelV, |
disgustigly hateful it is to wife to be
treated.eld, aud considered like child to
be entrgted with no dignified trust; to
have mney doled out i'm certain amounts
10 De DCl acCOunlaDle lot every eXpenul-
ture mie; to be always Obliged to defer
to the hsband's sense of propriety and of
expediecy; to regard her just rights as
'-husba1's kind and loving iadulgeRce;" to
be consisted simply for the sake of appear
ance; II be the recipient of smiles and
courtess before strangers. and just the
reversexhen alone to feel that she is sup
ported her husband, like fine carriage
horse carry the baby while he trots on
ahead 20 mend his stockings while he
smoHeSn her face and reads to himself;
to stay home while he goes abroad; to
be ''myiearedr and my loved" only when
he wars something he never deserves; to
never how the state of their mutual finan-
ces /; if Svo. king woman, to carry wood and
water, lille he leans by the hour over a
gate Pot talking politics; to be up night
after Ight with sick children, while he
sleeps sound as a brick; to be ignored
when re homestead is sold; to be hungry
for sympathetic partnership; for tender,
loving aresses as of the courtship days; for
heartysxpressed appreciation, but never
gettingthese; to hear hundred times a
year, ny wife, my darling, God bless your |
and nevr hearing it? An, well the cata-
logue is 90 long. The remainder stands in
long columns in your own soul, if you will
only opa it aud look in.