Saint Mary's beacon. [volume] (Leonard Town, Md.) 1867-1983, 1871-01-19
MARRIED LIFE AND ITS SWEETS.

Marriage. which most girls consiicr the
sole aim of their existence and the end of
all their anXirtics. is often the beginning
Of set If troubles which none OF them cx-
pcct, and which, when they come, very
few accept. with the dignity Of patience or
the rcaSuuahlcncss of common sense
Hitherto the man has been the suitor. the
Noocr: il has been his mci.cr to make
love, To utter cXtrayagant professions. to
talk poetry and romance of an cmucntiy
unwcarab!c kind. and To swear that feel
ings which by the very nature of things it
Is impossible to maintain at their present
state Of fever heat will bc rs lasting as
life itself, and never know subsistence or
diminution. And girls believe NIL that
their lovers tell them. They believe in
sslc .!hsorpsica ofthe mah'aF~hole Gfe'in the
love, which at the most. cannot be more
than part Of his life they believe that
things will "a on forever rs thcy have be-
gun. and that the fire and tcrvur of pas
sion will never cool down t. the more
manageable warmth Of friendship. And
in this belief of theirs lies the rock on
which not few make such pitiful ship
wreck Of their married happiness. They
expect their husbands to remain always
lovers. Not lovers only in the best sense.
which Of course all happy husbands are 10
the end Of time, but lovers as in the old.
fond, foolish counting days. Thcycxpect
a continuance of the old romance. the poe
try, the exaggeration. the pctits soins, the
microscopic attentions, the absorption Of
thought and interest, the Capitalization Of
his happiness i'll her society. just As in the
DAYS when she was to be won, or 4 little
later, when being won, she was new in
the wearing. And, rs we have saii be-
fore, 4 wifc's first trial. and her greatest.
is when her husband begins 10 leave of
this kind of fcrvid love-making, and set
ties down into the tranquil friend instead
1t is in the nature of most women to re-
ourc continual assurances. just rs it is
with children; and very few believe i'll a
love which is not frequently expressed :;
while the ability to trust in the vital
warmth Of an affection that has lost lis
early fcvcrishneSs is the mark Of a higher
wisdom than most Of them possess. 10
make them thoroughly happy man must
be always at their feet; and they are .ieal-
GUS of cvcrything-even Of his work
that takes him away from them. or gives
him occasion for thought and interest out
side themselves. They are rarely able 10
rise to the height Of married friendship ;
and if they belong TO q reticent and quiet
going man-a man who says, Il love YOU,
once for all, and then contents himself
with living life of loyalty and kindness,
and not talking about it-they fret at wha:
they call his coldness, and feel shorn Of
half their glory. and more than Lalf their
duties. They refuse to believe in that
which is not daily repeated they want
the incense of fattery, the excitement Of
love making: the danger is that they
will get some one else 10 :. understand
them. and feed the sentimentaity which
dies Of iuanition in the quiet serenity Of
home.
Moonlight and bouquet Of the earliest
flowers carefully arranged and teudcrly
presented, and the changing lights on the
mountain tops. and the exquisite song 81
/ the nightingale-at two o'clock in the
morniac-and all the rest of those vague
and suggestive delights which once made
the meeting places of souls. and furnished
occasion for delicious rawlings, become, by
time and use. and the wearing realities o!
busiacSs. and the erowding prcsSurcs Of
anxietics. pucrile aud annoying to the or
dinary Englishman. who is not poet BY
nature. when AL the world was young
BY reason of his own youth. and the fever
of iove-making time was on him, he was
quite as romantic as his wife. But now
he is SOLDERING down: life Is fast becoming
very prcsaic thing to him; work is Ia
king the place Of pleasure. ambition ofro-
nance: he rcch-poolss her fond rcmesn'
brancc of hygone soll;es: and prefers hi:
pipe in the warm library te station b,
the open window, watching the sunset be
cause i. looks as il did ON tina. evening
and shivering with incipient ca;arrh. Al
this i very dreadful TO her: women. un
fortunately for themselves, renla;aias