Public ledger. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1865-1893, 1871-03-18
A Few Words to Newly Married
Young People.
From Cassel's Magazine.

From CassePs Magazine.l
Few will admit that they need any ad-
vice in the honeymoon; fewer still will
take it. Most of young persons think,
WELL II is hard if we may not be left
to ourselves at such a seasonl" And
yet, perhaps, if we took the experience
of the many on this subject, they would
admit that the honeymoon has been the
time of all Others when they have been
the least able to help themselves. Is ii
too much to say that during those two
months the happiness or the misery OF
those two young lives is very nearly set
tled2 Well, perhaps, that is too much
to say, for errors and misconceptions
may be lived down, and habits may be
formed or broken after the honeymoon
in the course of years. But still much
is often decided, we will not say in the
first few months, but even the first few
days Little things are decided in
little ways, and neither understand it is
the little rift within the lovers lutte
that has begun to show even on
the first day. Annabel is eighteen, but
she has been brought up in bottle,
knows nothing of the world, is about as
Ignorant and prejudiced and pretty little
creature as you will. Annabel dislikes
smoking; not because the smell of to-
bacco makes her i'll, but because her
mamma taught her that smoking was a
bad habit. Ralph, who had lived rather
a free life, but is reformed, loves Anna
bel dearly. and is on his marriage trip,
and longs for cigar as they speed hour
after hour toward Edinburg Annabel
| frowns for the first time. The next day
the same scene recurs, but this time
Ralph is little impatient, but he still
Yields with kiss and in excellent taste.
But when the train stops for twenty
minutes he gets out alone, ! watch him;
| can see something has gone wrong.
He is thinking, "Ah, horrid bore not
to be able to have a smoke. Never
knew how fond l was Of smoking.
BY Jove | will smoke /" Patience, pa
tience, on both sides, but especially
on the mans side, for he is the strong
vessel and knows life. At the bottom Of
her heart his young wife wants to please
him, but she cannot bear him out of her
sight-he must account for every move
ment. His ways are incomprehensible.
Why does he want to go out for ten
minutes after dinner for stroll? Why
does he prefer spending an hour or two
down stairs with an old friend at night,
to going up into the drawing-room2
Why does he want to see the papers at
the club, instead of going out, after a
hard day in the city, for little after
noon shopping? Man is a mystery to
many young girl for the first few
months after marriage. She has not
learned that mans interests are and
must be various. How should she sup
pose that husband had any other de-
sires than to make money and dance at
tendance upon his wife2 She has never
cared for anything but love and bonnets.
She cannot understand that dress and
even matrimony are only episodes in a
mans life, although they compose the
sum total of many womans. Newly
married women are, no doubt, very try
ing sometimes to their husbands; but it
is the fault more OF their social training
and the want of education than any
thing else. Men should remember how
much girl has to learn, and how much,
alas most men have to Gilearn, when
they first begin married life. We venture
to say that if all newly-married couples
we're to make a contract not to quarrel
for six months, they would seldom have
any serious quarrels in after life.