The Richmond palladium. [volume] (Richmond, Ind.) 1855-1875, 1871-05-06
The True Relation of the Sexes.
BY MRS. JULIA A. CARNEY.

A~OWs o0AA q SChSA~AAo" AsASAAs',
as he handed me into a Philadel-
phia street car, 'don't you expect
any poor tired man TO give up his
seat for you. Remember. yon are
q believer in woman's rights!'
Yes. SIR l responded, gaily,
'and in the rights oil tired men,
also.'
The car rolled on. There had
been no hope OF one less crowded
had waited, SO thankfully &C
eepted its standing room, as l had
two miles to 60, and the twilight
shades were gathering.
A gentleman arose and politely
offered me his seat. l was little
surprised at this. for several young
and fashionably dressed young la
dies wsre standing, and my first |
impulse was to decline, but the
thought Of my little boy restrained
me, and accepting it, with thanks,
] gathered the tired child to my
arms, where he was soon in a quiet
slumber. AS I watched him, my
mind reverted to tie animated but
playful discussion which the arri-
val Of the car had interrupted.
The previous assertion of my
friend that the suffrage once given
70 woman, she would lose all claim
to gentlemanly courtesy required
to me in all its absurdity, and with
my usual saucy defiance of all con-
ventionalities, l addressed the gen.
tleman who had so kindly given me
his place.
81 suppose l owe this seat to
not?'
Not exactly, madam he replied.
You owe it rather to your own
pity for poor tired men, There
are so few ladies who ever think of
them
A shade of bitterness was in the
tone. The face was grave, even
to sadness, but it lighted up again
as he added:
i had allowed these ladies to
stand because they were young and
gay, and / was tired with a long,
busy day in my store, but when l
heard tho banter of your friend
and your reply, l resolved to give
you my seat
i waited, however, to see if you
would act up to your creed Of wo-
manly independence, or if, like
some others, you would pass along
the car, looking at every gentleman
there as if he were bound in honor
to yield you his place, and then
take it, if given, without even u
look of gratitude. When you qui-
city took your stand. as if it were
your right to assist yourself, l felt
it was also my right to assist you
This is The whole theory of the
woman's question, as l believe it,.
It is woman's duty to be as self
reliant and as independent, both in
puree and feeling, as it is possible
for mortals to become 1t is her
dearest right to accept a brotherly
assistance in every honorable I'm
dertaking.
It is mans duty to assist and
protect every worthy woman to the
extent Of his ability. l will GO
further and add, of every unwor.
thy one also, il she be in distress
and that he should keep his own
purity so spotless that he can dc
his and have his motives un-
doubted.
This I hold to be the true rela
ton Of the sexes. Man is physi-
cally stronger than woman. 1t i,
the right of the weaker to accep
assistance from the stronger, ant
> as mind is far above matter, thi
involves no inferiority or degra
. dalton.
1t is the beautiful little poem O
Katie Lee and Willie Gray, as it i
e, acted out in most families. VIII,
, has not sympathized with the nobl
boy in his resolution,
, "And I'll carry so will,
, Katie's basket up the hill?"
, Who has not loved her for he
a truly feminine reply, half refusing
. half consenting,
:, "You may help me if you will,
With the basket up the hill?'
> And when, in after years, I'll
= cradle basket swings between the,
with its pretty inmate to be carrie
;. in the arms of mutual welded low
up the hill of life. We feel that th
= poem is the true rendering of th
= universal law.
: A clerical friend, not long sine,
in performing the marriage ser
> vice, used the words. Love, hone
. and protect instead of the oil
= form. When afterward asked
= this was not mistake; when az
= dressing the lady, he replied, N,
= good wife protects her husban
!, more than he can possibly protc,
:, her.
I am always UNNECESSARILY vexe
- 10 hear man talk of supportin
= his wife, as if she did not suppo
= him; if she were any way worthy ,
!, . the name, in far higher and be
. ter sense than q mere MAINTENANCE
e 1t is SD thing when the que
!" ton of the ballot, instead CT beir
. discussed with reference to huns
:, rights and national policy, beco u,
:" a source Of antagonism betwe,
the sexes.
= Not alone to husband and viii
:. but to all true womanhood, is
- said, what God hath joined t
- gether, let no man put asunder.'
:, The Mormon creed, that on