The Fremont weekly journal. [volume] (Fremont, Sandusky County, Ohio) 1867-1877, 1871-01-27
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A friendiof nine, 3 young man Of
great energy and good principles,
became st the proper and usual time
OF life devoted to a young stranger
IN our city. She was quite poor,
socially below him, not pretty, but
sIsarently sensible and well man
nerd. She had overworked, and
was out of health. No pains were
spared to bring back the red to cheek
and lip. She drove daily, received
handsome presents from him, visit
ed his friends for months, and made
his life for two years delightful. We
who thought he would have,made
a very nice son-in-law for anv of our
mothers, wondered how the plain
stranger could win and hold him.
He had been much admired, was
agreeable to everybody, and yet al
ways true to her. Business pros
pered, the time drew near for their
marriage, when he received a letter
from her stating that she HDidn't
love him well enough to marry him !!
She had no other lover, it might
hssssbeen a gulish freak, but the
condition of her own heart found
ont too late, ruined another.
His genial, frank nature seemed
entirely changed. He was gay and
reckless; married in a few weeks a
very wealthy girl, squandered her
money, and to-day sleeps in a for
gers gravel f
A young professional man in q
neighhoring city, of talent, position
and the finest address was about TO
IqaFy q young lady of culture and
beauty. The home was purchased
and nearly furnished, when the al
most husband received her new de-
cision that she 'sdid not love him as
we'll assshe ought for her life COM
pahioptp Chagrinlahd disappoint-
ed affection broke up all his plans.
He withdrew from his profession
and left the country, Perhaps he
was weak, but no one can say he
would not do b similar thing until
be has been placed in a like circum-
stance.
Not so bad, say you, as for q
young man to win q poor girls heart
from virtue, and then desert her.
True, there is nothing so fendish
as this, and yet two wros gs do not
make a right. In the latter case it
is usually deception from first to
last, and a woman with much tact,
unless too quickly blinded by afec-
ton, can see through it. In the for
mer it is freakishEess or amisguid-
ed use Of power, This girl feels her
control greater at this time than she
has ever known before, or than she
viii know again. She sometimes
grows giddy ia her exaltation. She
forgets principles or results, and
toys with hearts in a way that after
years will surely punish. Perhaps
she becomes engaged to two or three.
She pleals- excuse for her sin by
SAYING. Il never thought" as
though a sensitive woman could ev-
er help but think. She forgets that
her power is heightened by youth:
and may end with it. She forgets
that when q man offers to work for
her, and care for her, and be a slave
to her ia a thousand ways, although
she may receive many offers of mar
rage, she seldom receives more than !
one undivided heart in a lifetime |
There are exceptions, and they al |
ways make one sad The persons
who marry, having one attained face |
hid away in their hearts, are in great
Danger Of losing the complete union |
real affection gives. Such a breaker
of promises robs some other wo-
mans heart, Iiy winning love she
will not keep. She lessons respect
for her sex, and makes all men pro-
pertionately less noble husbands.
We have no patience with this
lack of mind or lack of principle.
call it by any name, so frequently |
found among women. Ifit is counted |
womaDIy to be ignorantly innocent, |
it is not womanly to cause sorrow
and sin for life time, She ought |
not to give her promise too quickly;
to refrain from pledges till they can
be kept at all hazards, is the only
proper Wsy. To be engaged two or
more years, and then ascertain that
that you are unsuited to each other,
is worse than foolish, it is wics ed
There may be instances when one
party has out-grown the other intel |
leetuslly, and aehange may possibly |
be wise. This more often happens
on the mans side than the woman's.
Itis said of DR.. Hawes, that after
being converted when a clothier, and |
Snd determining TO study for the |
ministry, he visited the young lady |
TO whom be was engaged, and con-
veyed to her his fears that ia his
new relation she might not be the |
proper person for him. He begged |
to be excused from keeping his part |
of the agreement. Her reply that
"she hadloved him as a clothier and
had not the slightest objection to
loving him as a minister" settled
the matter, and he was glad hun
dre6S oftimes in after life that the
afable, good woman did not excuse
him.
1 call to mind two other like cases
among the most prominent men Of
the nation and they have kept their |
pledges. Women never seem to con
suit about these things. They send |
q message, and the result is certain
ty. They never think that their
word has been given, or that there
is another party to the transaction.
Their power seems absolute.
They and their mammastry all
sorts Of expedients, parties, sleigh
rides, New Years calls, etc, to get
young men entangled into their nets.
After-theyJ are even in they are very
much like the new watch Just pur-
chased. The fair owner, who has
teased for it for months, kisses it
and lays it under her pillow the first
night, and after this puts it away in
her drawer, satisfied with possession.
They are glad to lay these young
men aside, to be used as escorts on
certain occasions, and after they
have struggled for homes and Oh
tanned them, they ascertain they do
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