The Louisiana Democrat. [volume] (Alexandria, La.) 1845-1918, 1871-06-07
PGliteEesS Between Husband and
Wife.

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The transformation worked in a low
er after marriage has long been pet
subject with. sa,irists. Before the nup-
tial knot is tied the sutton is all devo-
ton. No business engagement is per-
mitted to infringe on the evenings con-
secrated to his .faRcee. If she drops
her fan, misplaces a glove, or needs
help in putting on her shawl, he is in
stantly at her side, the.most eager, the
most patient, the most delicate of SER
wants. She has only to express wish
to go to church, or to visit some place
of amusement, and 10! he waits on her
even before breakfast and though it |
rains as if u deluge had come. But
when the irrevocable vows are said |
and the honeymoon comfortably over,
a change too often comes over the OBJ
sequious cavalier. The latent selfish
ness of s'the male ANIMAL" begins to
develop itself. The wife has to pick
up her own fan, search for her own
gloves, shawl herself unassisted, go to
church alone, get to concerts when she
can. Sometimes the poor creature is
happy to win even civil answer from
her ruda, dogmatic lord. Men who
would be civil to even strange ser
want, if a woman, think it quite natural
! to be impolite to their wives.
Yet there is nothing by which even
Il selfish man can more easily benefit
himself than by being respectful, we'll
bred and considerable to her he has
! sworn to Glove and cherish" Sooner
or later an imperious or eXacting hus-
!, band makes an indifferent or careless
wife. Talk OIL love us you may, eulo-
, gize the forbearance of woman till the
language of praise is exhausted, and
2, still the fact remains that as our sex
5 has not monopoly of human nature,
feminine flesh and blood feels injustice
! finally quite as acutely as ourselves
d 1t may require years to make a "long-
Q suffering" woman as indignant as a
!. man would become in u month, but
e she will get indignant at last, her af-
q lection will as inevitably decline, and
h the sweetest boon of life will be lost tC
! the husband forever. For money
e which is falsely said to be able to pur
n chase everything, cannot purchase
: love; and love, whether at the sicl
bed or by the household hearth, doe
y what no paid service will. AS the tru
"a est happiness which well-regulate,
i mind enjoys is in the family relation
IN so there can be no true domestic felic
is ity where there is injustice on on
IN side and its consequent alienation o.
~ the other.
u: 1t may be said that ifa husband love
10 his wife sincerely there is no necessit
a for these little acts of politeness.-
ea They are trifles; we are told. But lit
ct is made up of trifles. Did the love
II, despise them once because they wel
ng trifes Was not something of his cal
Ell lier success attributable to the assidu
Nv ty and delicacy with which he pile
Ill his gratified mistress with these tr
fles9 Has his wife ceased to like sue
en- attentions7 Will she think the less
IN her husband because he shows no
81 thoughtful he is of her comfort, eve
'le in these trifes? Believe us, if q W.
ait mans affection is retained undimil
ed ished, in spite of the rudcness of h
OF husband towards her, it would be vas
AT ly increased if he exhibited q little
a: ar the lovers courtesy-if he was consl
IN crate Of her in trifles. 1t seems t
ho- strangest and most jncomprehenslt
ing thing in the world, if we look at it a
raj passionately, that selfish men THU
,et' the only persons they can neglect wi
eS- impunity are those OH whom their ha
3ct, piness principally depends. They a
het too stupidity blind, to use one OF tn
as own pet phrases, to see that politent
'th. to wives .spays." For it is only of s.
ese fish husbands that we speak. Tho
the who respect, love and reverence W
ugh man, as true womanhood ought to
respected, loved and venerated, ne
'or- no incentives to be courteous and &C
"a "a a siderate to their wives. Baltim'
Iiia s Sun.