Fayette County herald. [volume] (Washington [Washington Court House], Fayette County, O. [Ohio]) 1860-1???, 1871-03-02
the WIFE FOR YOUNG
FARM
BY FAITH ROCHESTER,.

BY FAITH ROCHESTER,
All seem to agree that farming
cannot be carried on very profita
bly, by man who has to depenc
upon hired labor and hired super
vision inside of the house. why
not2 Because no ordinarily paid
housekeeper will look after the
odds and ends with sufficient econ.
omy. Then au extraordinary house
keeper, who does attend to all the
little details that save expenses,
and add to the profits of farming,
should receive more than ordinary
compensation, should she not
Even though she goes by the name
Of "wife." "But a wife" you say,
twill do all that for love, not for
money" Yes, she will indeed, for
iore. There is no telling how much
a woman will do, if she is sure of
husbands love. and if she loves in
return.
But, my dear young farmer, on
the lookout for a suitable helpmeet,
| want to whisper a few sisterly
words in your ear Don't marry
just for the sake of getting house
keeper. Do you not see that it is
the worse kind of cheating to tell a
young woman that you love her,
when you are really intending to
make of her an unpaid upper SER
want? Not that | want you to pay
your wife a servants wages. 1t
would be bettert to give her the rank
of a partner in the concern. But
true marriage is not a mere bus
mess trfn action 1t is a love af-
fair. True love is amenahle to rea-
son. When any person Of the Op-I
posite sex attracts you, ask your
self what part of your nature is
moved, and whether the influence
you feel is eleyating or lowering.
Love is somethingh more than mere
sexual passion. IT is more than
mere fancy. It's choice in which
heart aud intellect are agreed.
With this definition of love in
mind, should say, instead of Civ
ing catalogue Of peculiar virtues
farmers wife should possess, mar
ry the woman you love, if, after an
intimate acquaintance, you both be-
lieve, on reasonable grounds, that
you can be happy together. Learn
each others tastes, habits, plans,
hopes, and seriously consider how
you are going to "kecp the pot
boiling" All the better for you
both, if the one you marry has a
practical knowledge of household
affairs, before her marriage; but if
she is a good and sensible woman,
and if you are Il good and sen,ible
man, you may he able TO get along
very happily, though she has all her
experience of housekeeping to get
after marriage, / would not adj
wise any young couple to try this.
but far worse mistakes are pos
sible.
1t is a hazardous thing to rest
your hopes Of happy married life
upon the quality of bread and but
terra woman can make. Some per.
feet housekeeper may make you
the most wretched of men. And
it is silly thing to be scared out
of matrimony BY any young wo-
mans wardrobe. Let her know
the good and sensible girl that you
love-iust what your circumstances
are, and she will conform to them
without a murmur; that is, if she
loves you as | suppose. You will
he surprised to see how long she
makes her dresses last without look
ing old fashioned and shabby. If
you love and marry a woman who
is essentially y silly and selfish, you
will have to take the evil fruits Of
such a character, and this is why
say make character the tcst--not
accomplishments of any kind, nor
exterpal circumstances though all
these things should be duly consid-
cred.
1t is possible that your manhood
- which is of rather more import
nnce than your farm-may find Its
hest compliment in the womanhnod
OF the one who has decided talent
that calls her awey from the bust
ness of housekeeping. Shall she
bury her talent foryour sake ? Have
YOU such genius for the business
you have chosen as she has for her
art, whatever that may be? Per
laps You can arrange matters so
that each can follow chosen voca-
tion without interfering with each
other. Most people, in giving adj
vice to young farmer, would say,
Seek wife who is Healthy, ener-
getic, thorough, practical and ami
lble. On the whole, after all these
dare not give advice
rot even the advice of Punch to
hose about to marry-"Don't"
For how do / know what expert
.nce is best for you?
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