The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1871-04-17
CHURCH OF THE MESSIAH.

The Question Of DIarriage-A Sermon for
YouDg Men by tho Rev. George III. Hep.
worth.
Tho Rev. Mr.. Hepworth delivered the sixth Of his
sermons to young men last evening at his handsome
church. The special subject was Marriage" and 1t
Is almost needless TO say that the church was
crowded and the sermon eagerly listened TO.
Mr.. Hepworth's text for the sixth lecture In his
course to young people was taken from hebrews
KILL, wharfage Is honorable In ALL" He said
marriage Is OF the institutions of God. 1t is the
Incoming into the heart OF both man and woman OF
q new and higher experience. 1t Is the revelation
OF new duties and responsibilities aud they are
duties which enlarge the compass of our powers and
increase faith in God and in all things beautiful
and true. man Is o better citizen when he
becomes good husband and father Still there are
circumstances under which II Is an act OF moral
herosm to live unmarried. The world has standing
joke for old bachelors. and It's sharpest satire Is
flung at those whom it Is pleased to call 'rhe per-
manentIy unmarried" Now, while 1t Is the duty
OF every mau and woman to build q home for them
selves, there are instances Of both sexes crushing
down the instincts OF their natures because some
old Iather mother needs their services. have
great respect and admiration, ne said, for SUCH
heroic men and women. On the other hand think
1t great mistake of judgment when religious instl-
tutions encourage ceiibacy as the
NEAREST ROAD TO HEAVEN AND GOD.
Converts and monasteres would do better to
make good wives and husbands OF their inmates,
and Introduce deeper religious element into the
Church, than to teach men and women that home
Is not the hottest place in the world still, there are
SO many unhappy UNDERSTANDINGS OF body and
fortune rather than OF soul and sympatny-that
some plain talk on this matter may be of service to
young men. There are so many divorces nowadays
that we are led to the irresistible conclusion that
there is something wrong in the way we look at
marriage. NO allct0n Is greater than the union Of
| man and woman who are not suited TO each other,
and no blessing Is greater than the union Of man
I'M 10 hv atso
LIFE's UNEVEN JOURNEY.
| bearing each others burdens and increasing each
| others joys. true man Graves the sympathy OF
| good woman and his happiness cannot be complete
Without II; good woman needs the protection and
| watchful love Of true man, and beneath Its IN
fluence will develop into rarer and nober being.
First-Keep the romance OF your youth as long as
you can: but In so important step marriage use
| your common sense. believe in romance; IL Is as
much part Of youth as ambition is part OF
| manhood. Still, common sense IL very i'm
portant element in your views OF the
future Mere romance IL apt to ultimate in misery.
When man is so desperately in love that he begins
to write poetry and 10 quote those lines OF Moore be.
All, ever thus from chldhoods hour,
| I've seen my fondest hopes decay,
and meditates suicide unless everything goes ON rs
he expects to, may be pretty sure that his love
n ne tninKs his own experience the most peculiar
that ever happened--a time when he regards him
seif as the most abused and unfortunate person in
Exceptional CASES" HAPPEN EVERY DAY,
and are q part OF the necessary experience of the
period. Now, though delight in the abandon OF
such a romance, In which the hero forgets every
thing the universe except the person OF his nero
Inc, cannot help feeling that when man and wo.
make up their minds to live together all the rest
OF their lives, Il so serious step to take that it
nrSyeruy and nom The standpc,nr OF
sense l know that this may seem to be here
tical to some OF you, but the unhappy unions
that are to be seen everywhere prove that IL Is
better 70 be careful now than TO repent at your lie.
sure. Secondly, In the name Of Heaven beg you
the acquisition Of money nor place once enter your
| thoughts How can nep reprmandng society 7
Does II not too often happen that mothers are on
"A GOOD MAron,v
and though loving their children and Wishing them
to sacrifice the hottest feelings OF the heart to am
bitions And are not our girls too often brought up
their second duty IL % love him II they CAM The
girls OF the period irt their hearts away and when
they become wives ind themselves untitled for
Of admirers. but o TRUE ana noble woman
ness Is to follow. wlie hoowness OF society In
this matter 10 something appalling man nova
heart, ana both man ana woman are destroyed by
the bargain. | heard girl say. the other day, Il
love him; but he Is poor and can't afford to marry
| Years aRo girl was willing TO accept man and
his poverty; now, Il must be man and his money.
Then, the couple began In humble lodgings ana
| worked their way up together; now, the girl must
be supplied after marriage with all her father has
been able TO give her, and as much more possible.
The consequences are too sad to look upon.
GARNET WITH THE MAN you LOVE
IL better than palace without affection. The cur
rent literature Of the day Keeps this false feeling
alive. In many OF the novels which we devour the
heroes and herones are unsnited TO each other and
the ialsest ofta so-caled PHILOSOPHERS that OF afn
ties-the invention OF the evil one-is brought In 10
repair the damage. Lastly, when you build home
for yourself live In 1t, and work to make the asy
4 lum OF your troubles and the hottest apot on tie
| eartn. How frequently after marriage the husband
/ seeks relreshment at the club house and the wife
! becomes
| SOCIAL BUTTERFLY
Before marriage the two were turtle doves, and
after they two bears. II Is curious, but II some
times happens that home is place to be cross IN,
aud 10 vent oil your bad temper In, while society
ENJOYS ~ yVW sweetest sinles and ~ your