The Lincoln County herald., 1871-06-22

There 10 . tendency, We think, - The
present day to put children too forward,
not 90 much for the sskc Of showing OF
their ordinary merits 10 90 sdmifisg
world, a from the better motive Of aecus.
toming them to the oonyersation Of grown
people and The ussgss Of society, aud Of
Inspiring them with con6dence, ease, ssd
sell. possession. No doubt these results
ere invaluable bot the mistake which
many people make 10 10 forgetting that
children are something like dogs, which
require to be very we'll trsined before
thoy can safely be recommended to the
familiarity Of strangers. And IL 10 to b.
remembered that the moment children
cease 70 respect aoy grown up people
with whom they associate, not only 10 the
whole Intercourse lost at once. but rosl
injury 10 inflicted on the moral tono Of
the child. For this reason children
should be brought a. little % possible
into the society Of men and women who
cannot command their respect while Of
those that can, the influence should be
hedssd round BY oil the numerous impal-
pable barriers which judicious parents
know perfectly we'll how 10 interposs
between children and the popular aud
careless Of their adult play fellows. Tho
confidence which well-bred children at
once repose IN an eligible stranger, with
out being either rude or troublesome, 10
charming to everybody who has any nat.
ural taste for their society.
But closely alliod with the mistaken
license allowed to children in matters like
the above, is the disposition 10 laugh st,
and thereby to encourage, oil traits Of
singularity, odduess or s6ectation which
children may exhibit, % marks Of genius
which ought not to be repressed. or oil
the dangerous errors into which parents
may fall, this, in our opinion, is the worst.
For nothing 90 soon hardens into second
nature ss juvenile ecceutricity; and few
things are moro injurious to success il
life than marked oddities Of manner and
gesture when they reach the point Of
grotesqueness. Tho msjorisy Of tho
world agree with Mr.. Peter Msgnus
they don't see the necessity Of originals.
And what is more, 90 many "originsls"
arc only sham ones after all. That 10 to
say, their singulsrity is merely . habit
which they cant shake oG, and il only
partially innate. When you SEQ child
doing anything queer, surprising. or un.
couth, however comic or however clever
it may seem, never laugh At or applaud il.
Children naturally very seifwilled, and
With real natural peculia avities, can soon
be broken Of tuch tricks. If treated with
absolute indifference. Bat soon lot the
idea 6nd its way into their brains that
such sallies, naughty though they be. are
regarded ss marks Of genius, and the
mischief is done.
To come back to tho point from which
We started-the management, namely Of
young ohildren-there is one thing to be
laid down let there be no divided rule
in house. Don't let the children SEQ
that the father means one thing and the
mother another in their bringing up.
They see the difference, il it exists, in .
moment; and when they do. farewell to
all parental influence. Husbands and
mothers may talk too freely before their
children, forgotful Of their rising intslli.
gence. Aud, indeed, nothing is moro
common than to got wink from tho
head of tho house, implying that you are
to be upon your guard before Johnny or
Tommy, who is listening open.moushed
to your witty narrative, while he the
next moment will offend against his own
precaution in the most barefaced manner
by plunging headlong ioto your domestic
controversy, in which, to speak meta.
phorically, knives are freely used on both
sides.