The daily phoenix. [volume] (Columbia, S.C.) 1865-1878, 1871-07-13
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WHOM en)olns on" the 7l1dieS' H rather;
wills and whlnA. But the5 saFft Of .liYYim,g,
togather in harmony is q very difficult
art; and without confuting Che positions
0f the authors of the Gf5EesaId rules,
we offor the following as substance
Of ,whnt wife likes ina husband.
Fidelity is her hearts f{rst.ahd most
just demand. The.act of. infdelity o
true ,,wifo cannot forgive; it rudely.
breaks tho ties that bound her heart to-
hiss and TINT tic can mover more exist. 8,
Ehe, first: place in. her husbands
affections no true wife antlearn;to do
without. When she loses that, she has
lost her husband; she is widow, and
has to endure the pnngs Of bereaye-
.ments, intensified by the presence Of
what she no longer possesses. There
is o diving mummy in tho house, re-
minding her Of her loss in'tho most
painful manner,
IA woman likes her husband to cx-
Gel in those qualities which distinguish
the, masculine from tho feminine being,
sucii rs strength, courage, fortitudc and
Judgment She wants her husband to
be wholly man. She cannot entirely
.lovo one whom she cannot entirely re-
spect, believe in and rely on: A wife
dearly likes to have her husband stand
high In regard of tho community in
which they reside. She likes to ,be
thought by her own sex fortunate
woman in having such n husband as
she has. She has q taste for the respect
able, desires to hive good-looking
front-door, and to keep Eup a.good ap-
pearance generally. Some wives, it is
said, carry this too far, and somc hus-
bands, we know, arc dangerously com
plaisant in yielding to the front-door
ambition of their wives. But good
husband will like to crafty his wife in
this respect, as far MS he can, without
sacrificing more important objects.
Perfect sincerity wife expects; or
ut least has right to expect, from her
husband. She desires to know tho
real state Of the case, however it may
be concealed from the world. It
wri1gs her heart and wounds her pride
to Ms6oser that her husband has not
wholly .c6nfded in her. a man. may
profitably consult his wife on almost
any project; it .is duo to her that he
should do SO, and she is glad to be con-
suited: .;, :g7,{t.{
Above most other things, a wife
Graves: from her husband appreciation.
The great majority Of wives lead lives
Of. Eeyere and anxious toll. With un-
imaginable anguish and peril to their
lives they become mothers. Their
children require incessant csres aO Only
;tf1n: aye Of GOD watches liko. l. moth
er's," says. Fanny Fern in that chapter
Of "Ruth Hall'' which depicts with
such power and truth mothers ago
nizing anxictics. And besides her ma
ternul cares, wife is the quccn-regcnt
Of household kingdom. She has to
think, and plan, and work for every
BODY If, in all her -labors- and cares,
she feels that she has her husbands
sympathy and gratitude, if he helps her
where man can help woman, if he
notices her efforts, applauds her skill
and allows her deficiencies, all is we'll.
But to endure all this, and yet meet
with no. appreciating, word, or glance,
or" act from him fer whom and for
whose she tolls and bears, is very bitter.
A wife likes her husband to show
her all due respect in the presence Of
others; she cannot Bear to be reproved
or criticised by him when others can
hear it. Indeed, it is most wrong in d
husband thus to put his wife to shame.
We cannot help secretly admiring the
spirit Of that French woman, who,
when her husband had SO wrongcd her,
refusdd eyer again to uttet!a word, and
for twenty years lived in the house a
dumb woman. We admire her spirit,
though not her mode of manifcsting it..
Husbands owe the most profound re-
spect to their wives as the mothers Of
their children. No man has the Slight
est Claim to tho character OF gentle
man who is not more scrupulously po-
lite to his wife than 'r6 any other;
woman We refer her; to the essen
tial of politcncss, not it's forms; we
meanr zPInaaesS Nc and jqstieesss siP little
A wife likes her husband to be con
siderate. Unexpected kindness and
unsolicited favors touch her heart. She
appreciates the softcncd tread when
she is 4 sick; l she enjoys TBS gift from a
distaneg and ovcrytfiheitAat Proves 70
her that her husband thinks Of her
comfort and good.
tfdaBhnds, reflect on these stiiihes.
Y6dF wife has 'eonfided her hdbpinSss
60 y6as':.Yoh can make it ufsppak ABLY
wrctched If Won nre ionob1c VIA shnrf.