Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1871-04-02
About Women.

One of the great reasons why q
young man should court the society o
the ladies more than that of his OWL
sex is the selfish one that it is for his
own benefit. Among men only, men
have every latitude, whereas with
women they are compelled to be re-
spectfuI. Most youngsters think the
''slap-yOu-On-the-back' and ''hail-
! fellOW-Well-met' style is perfectly
proper in the society Of males, but
none OF them is so rude as to address
a lady with other than a respectful
and deferential manner. As a rule,
the men who avoid female society
| have dull perceptions and frequently
| gross tastes and a tendency to the i'm
| pure. The habit of assOCiating with
/ the other sex is a sure cure for these
! tendencies. Thackeray, in One Of his
Roundabout Papers," says: ut is
better for you to pass an evening,
once or twice a week, in a lady's
draWing-rOOm, even though the con-
~versatiOn is slow and you know the
girls song by heart, than in a club,
tavern or pit Of a theater. All amuse-
ments of youth to which virtuOUs WO.
men are not admitted, rely upon it,
are deleteriOUs in their nature,
and the greatest benefit that comes to
a mar from a WOman's society is that
he has to think of somebody to whom
he is bound to be constantly attentive
and respectful"
When the ladies of the United
States, who are battling so energeti.
cally for the rights that the tyrant
ma continues to deprive them Of,
are weary with the warfare and de.
sire a brief season Of peace and tran
qUillity, they cannot select a more
soothing picture for contemplation
than that presented by the Kingdom
of Sweden. 1t is true that the fair
SWedes have not made much noise in
the world, and are lamentably desti-
tute of revolutions, suffrage organiza-
tons, feminine aspirants for high cleo
tive Offices, and many other things
that here are regarded as of vital i'm
p%Ortance, but, at the same time, they
have achieved very much in their
own behalf. Quietly, but surely, they
are gaining admission into nearly all
the walks of commercial and profess
siOnal life. They are to be found in
large numbers, not only in the stores
and offices, but in the banking houses
and postal and Geographic depart
ments. At Gottenburg, a medical
college, with which is connected afull
course of clinical and anatomical lee
lures, has been established for the eX-
elusive use of females over seventeen
years of age, while at the national
capital institutions have been inaugu-
rated for the education Of those am
bilious representatives Of the fair sex
who desire to practice law or preach
the Gospel.
The girls seem to have changed but
little since the earliest days whereof
have any knowledge. The philOs-
Ophers of old used to give them the
seedlings which they get from
those of to-day. Epictetus, who lived
many centuries before the days of
hoops and paniers, or Of WOOdhulls
and AnthOnys, tells US that when
girls r grown up they begin to be
cOurted and caressed; then they think
that the recommending themselves TO
the affections of men is the only busi-
ness they have to attend to, and so
presently fall to trucking and dressing
and practlclng all the little engaging
arts peculiar to their sex. In these
they place all their hopes, as they do
all their happiness in the success Of
them. But il is fit they should be
given to understand that there are
other attractions more powerful than
these, and that the respect we pay
them is not due to their beauty so
much as to their mOdeSty, innocence
and unaffected virtue; and that these
are the true, the irresistible charms,
such as will make the suresi and most
lasting cOnquests." This has been the
substance Of all the preaching from
the days Of Epictetus to those of Su-
san Anthony, and yet no positive re-
has been effected. Is it worth
now to try the AnthOHian phi
lOsOphy, and see what effect that will
produce?