Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1871-06-07
A Word for Parents.


when they are under the influence OF the pas.
zion which they call love and are determined
to marry the object of their desire
Say what you will, and do what you will,
! 'cW hare him " said one girl, and she did
have him, with ntcmporance, poverty, beg
gary, insanity and death to close the scene.
Would you marry him if you thought
these stories were true2 said a Christian
minister to a young relative, who was COM
mtting her heart to the keeping Of one
against whom evil charges we're brought by
mutual friends, who had opportunity to know
the truth
" No, would not said she but no one
could convince her Of the truth Of the state
ments. Twenty or thirty years of pain and
sorrow aud broken heart and broken spir-
its have done the work for her at last
Would you marry him if you knew he
drank liquor said a woman to a fair young
girl
certainly I loould-marry him aud re.
claim him, was the answer, and she did marry
him and ere she had passed a month with
her husband she was advised by her friends
to leave him, and after year and half Of
abuse and sorrow, she returned to her fathers
house--a poor, wrecked shadow Of her former
self fleeing from her brutal, drunken and
adulterous husband to save what little life she
had left.
Ten thousand girls stand on the verge Of
the same abyss to-day, and nothing you can
say, or | can say, will affect them in the least
except to hurry them on to their terrible
doom
Why is it2 Partly because they have
never yielded their wills to parental control
and have always had their own way, and
partly because their parents have never warn.
ed them Of this danger, till it came upon them
like an oycr-running food. Parents do not
win Or encourage the confidence of their chill
dren. Old people forget that they were ever
young aud young people do not remember
that they may yet be old. Mutual confidence
is needful to mutual comfort or improvement.
If the mother would say to her daughter,
in early life, long before the dangerous period
comes, My child, there will come time
when new feelings, impulses, instincts, and
emotions will sway you, and when the oppo-
site sex will awaken in you passions which
often prove stronger than judgment, reason,
tluence Of some young man you will be liable
to lose your selt-control, and be swayed by
his will, and think his thoughts, and feel his
feelings and say Yes to his requests, be.
cause it is his will and mind that makes you
speak the words he desires to hear all this
will come and you will be liable to be swept
to ruin by the force Of an influence which
you do not understand, and can neither con
troll or resist, and which may be strong il
proportion as its source is vile and worthless
and your only security from it is to place
your future in the hands of God and watch
your paths and thoughts, and avoid even the
outer circles of this dangerous whirlpool, by
investigating, and judging first and loving
afterwards; and only yielding your affections
when and where unbiased judgment will dc
clare that it is safe and right to yield them"
If such warnings and instructions as these
were given from day to day in early life, how
many young girl would ponder the path o
her feet, and walk carefully that abe nigh
q escape the ruin that attends so many in thei
wayward course.
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your children Prepare them to right
; estimate the new instincts and emotions o
maturing ne not oy JOKING anu hectorln
mem Dut Dy wise, ioVing courses w
'nelr commence anu keep II, rreSerVe thel
n from the rude gaze and mocking laugh, an
let them feel that it is the safest thin
they can do to show their first ove-etter t
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