The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 1850-1873, 1871-03-10
A Few Words to Newiy.Narricd Young
PeOpIe,

| Few will admit that they need any
advice in the honeymoon fewer still
will take it. Most of young persons
think, "Nell, it is hard if we may not
he left TO ourselves at such season"
And yet, perhaps, if we took the ex-
perience of the many on this subject,
they would admit that the honeymoon
has been the time of all Others when
they have been the least able to help
themselves. Is it too much TO say
that, during those two months, the
happiness or the misery OF those two
young lives is very nearly settled!
Well, perhaps, that is too much to say,
for errors and misconceptions may be
lived down, and habits may be formed
or broken after the honeymoon in the
course of years. But still much is
often decided, We will not say in the
first few months, but even the first
few days. Little things are decided
in little ways, and neither understand
it is the little rift within the lovers
lutte that has begun to show even on
the Iirst day. Annabel is eighteen,
but she has been brought up in bot
tie, knows nothing of the world, is
about as Ignorant and prejudiced and
pretty q little creature as you will.
Annabel dislikes smoking, not be-
cause the smell of tobacco makes her
ill, but because her mamma taught her
that smoking was a bad habit. Ralph,
who has lived rather free life, but is
reformed, loves Annabcl dearly, and
is on his marriage trip, and longs for
4 cigar rs they speed hour after hour
toward Edinburgh. Annabel frowns
for the first time. The next day the
same scene recurs, but this time Ralph
Is little impatient, but he still yields
with kiss and in excellent tasie. But
when the train stops for twenty min-
utes, he gets out alone. watch him
| can see something has gone wrong.
de is thinking, "Ah, horrid bore not
10 be able TO have smoke. Never
knew how fond was of smoking.
BY JOvc, will smoke" Patience,
patience, on both sides, but especially
on the mans side, for he is the strong
vessel and knows life. At the bottom
of her heart his young wife wants to
please him, but she cannot bear him
out of her sight-he must account for
every movement. His ways are i'll
comprehensive. Why does he want
to 60 out for ten minutes after dinner
for stroll? Why does he prefer
spending an hour or two down stairs
with an old friend at night, to gong
up into the drawing-rOom? Why
does he want to see the papers at the
club, instead of going out, after hard
day in the city, for little afternoon
shopping? Man is mystery to many
a young girl for the first few months
after marriage. She has not learned
that mans interests are and must be
various. How should she suppose
that husband had any other desires
than to make money and dance attend
ance upon his wife? She has never
cared for anything but love and bon
nets. She cannot understand that
dress and even matrimony are only
episodes in mans life, although they
compose the sum total of many wo-
mans. Newly-married women are,
no doubt, very trying sometimes to
their husbands; but it is the fault
more OF their social training and the
want of education thah anything else. |
Men should remember how much a
girl has to learn, and how much, alas
most men have to unlearn, when they
first begin married life. We venture
to say thatifall newly-married couples
were to make contract not to quar-
rel for six months, they would seldom
have any serious quarrels in after life.
-CdsSeps Magazine.