The Bloomfield times. [volume] (New Bloomfield, Pa.) 1867-187?, 1871-08-15
'Disagreeable People.

NEAN people are very disagreeable
WI to honorable, high-minded persons.
A liar is contemplate, and beneath the
notice of truthful, pure-hearted men and
women. a news-pedlar or scandal-dis-
tributer is certainly the lowest order of
the three, and to be avoided as one would
avoid pestilence or plague But mean
er, more contemplate, more poisonous
than either, are those people who come
to you wearing the mask of truth and
honesty to torture your hearts with disa-
greeable truths. There are people among
the acquaintance Of every person whom
they know to be incapable of telling
lie, yet they always manage to torture
your heart by some disogreeable truth
One can meet false accusation or i'm
piled falsehood with the silent contempt
it deserves, and be none the worse for its
having been uttered. But how can one
manage those terrible people who wear
the mask Of friendship, and at the same
time manage to place you in perfect mis-
cry. They come to you when you are at
peace with all the world, and yourself in
particular They chat pleasantly Of the
weather, the news, and every little item
of mutual interest for awhile, but some
how, in the most natural way, chow you
are never able to remember) they intro
duce the unwelcome subject that is to
leave such heartfelt sting, after they
are gone. 1t may be some cruel thing
one of your neighbors or friends has said
about you, or it may be something vague
ly limited at, not explained, but that
truthful, frank, open-bearted friend RI
doesn't believe n single word of it, only
repeated it to show you how abused peo-
pie can be, etc, smiling serenely at the
"good joke" and finally going away,
leaving your sky that was so cloudless
when they entered your presence, over
cast with shadows, and all its brightness
faded Philosophers may tell US to be
above noticing these little things, but l
know it to be fact that cruel words will
leave heart-ache, in spite of the most
heroic resolutions to care nothing for
them. What excuse can there be for the
misunderstanding meddler who comes to
us repeating what a friend has said, in a
hasty moment? Does that person think to
prove that the true friend is the one who
brings to us the bones from the table of
scandal Indeed the sages of the past
left us the proverb: The dog that
brings a bone will carry one one )" and a
true friend will not repeat anything to
wound the feelings of another, unless by
SO doing the benefit to the wounded heart
is apparent and unmistakable. Deliber-
alton and reflection have established in
my mind the belief that it is not ones
friends who repeat to them the unkind
remarks others make about them. |
have my idea Of true, pure friendship,
but there are few hearts capable OF ap-
preciating real sentiment, in this busy,
whirling restless age of the world.
1t is not safe to trust what you have
not tried, an yet it sometimes takes years
to prove a friendship true. How are we
to manage those beings who profess
friendship for us, settle themselves costly
at our fireside, partake of our hospitality,
and pretend to defend us from the SIAN
ders of our enemies? They tell us every
thing anybody says about us-although
it is a mystery how they know so much
and while they deny any suspicion in
their own hearts, as to the truth of what
they have heard, they are serene in con-
templating the indifferently concealed
misery which they have given by their
communication. People who dare be
original, are sometimes severely criticised,
and if they have one of these serene
smiling, disagreeable friends, to report to
them all the criticisms of the world, il
their heart is the least sensitive, they
have prospect Of being miserable q
greater portion Of the time, for bitter
words will leave sting.