Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1871-01-27
Stlttt Storp.
THE SWEETS of MARRIED ID
LIFE.
IN WHAT THEY CONSIST AND HOW TO PRE-
SERVE THEM.

| Marriage. which most girls consider
I the sole aim ot their existence and the
end of all their anxletics. i often the he
I ginning OF a set of tro Iblcs which none
amon" them expect, and which, when
they cume. very lew accept with the dig
nity Of patience or the rcaSontblencss "t
common sense. Hitherto the man has
/ been the sutor. the wocr il has been his
( meter to make love, 10 utter eStravagant
professions, 10 talk poetry and romance
of An eminently unwcarable kind, and To
swear that those feeling which, by the
very nature OF the thing, it Is Impossible
to maiGtsin at ;her present state Of fever
heu. will be l,stin. as lite itself, aud
never know sub,idcncc or diminution.
And girls believe all their lover, tell them.
They believe in the absorption ol The
mans whole lite IN the love which at the
most cannot be more than ! part OF his
I life; they believe that things viii 90 OH
! forever ~ they have begun, and that the
I lire and lervOr OF passion will never cool
down to the manageable warmth Of
friendship. And in this belief of theirs
I lies the rock on which not few MAKE
such pitiful shipwrecS of their married
happiness. Tney expect husbands TO re-
main always lovers Not lovers only in
I the best sense. which OF course all happy
husbands are to the end OF time, but low
+ ers a. in the old, fond. foolish, courting
days. They expect 4 continuance of the
romance. the poetry, the eSaggeration,
the petitS SONS, the microscopic attentions,
the absorption OF thought and interest,
the Capitalization of his happiness in hcr
soci,tv, lust As in the DAYS when she was
was still to be won. or. Il little later. when
being won, she was new in the wearing
And as We said before. a wi!c's first trial,
and her greatest, is when her husband
tcgins To leave OF this Kind of lervid
Ioyc making aud settle down into the
tranquil fiend instead.
Lore must be frequently expressed. 1t
is in the nature Oi most women Ia re-
qujrc continual assurances, just as it is
with children; and a very few believe in
a love which is not often told while the
ability to trust in the vital warmth cf an
affection that has lost its early lcverish
ness is the mark OF higher wisdom than
most of them possess. To make them
thoroughly happy man must bc always
at their leet, ard they are Jealous OF every
thiug-even of his wOr&-lhat takes him
away from them, or gives him occasion
tor thought aud interes: o"tside them.
selves. They are rarely able to rise to
the height of married friendship; and it
they belong To a reticent AMI quiet going
man-a man who says Il love YOU" once
Tor all, and then contents himself with
living a life of royalty aui kindness,
and not talking about it-ihey fret at
what they call his cOldness. and feel them
selves shoIn OF half their glory aud more
than half their dues. They refuse to be.
lieve in that which is not daily repeated.
they want The incense of flattery the ex-
element of love making, and il these de-
sires ale not ministered to by their hus-
bands. the danger is that they will get
some one else 10 understand them, and
iced the seutimentality which dies OF
inaniiion in the quiet serenity of home.
Moonlighis aud boquet OF the earliest
flowers carefully arranged and ienderly
pesented. and the changing lights on the
mountain tops, and the exquisite song OF
the niahtingaie-at two o'clock in the
murning-amd all the rest oi those vague
| and suggestive delights which once made