Public ledger. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1865-1893, 1870-11-03

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vas % or;,e es raman,;c az his wife But
now ba /. sohor;ag dawn. lie Is fast he
canine eom ~ a nrnsa;c tb;no ~ him. work is
tat;ng tha niaoa ~ nleasnre ambition of
samaeoa. .as .ne Pa0 a ,onblrnoobs :, her fond re-.
,nan,hrano ~ brrane roIl;es and nre.
sars he ,,;no ba warm iibrarv 10 n
station hr hr'tb tba oman window watching
,ha snn.o; haeonsa n looks az II aid on
Iofsvan;ng and sh;verinc with incinient
ca,arrL Ar tb;s Ia yarv dreadful M bar.
woman nnfortnnsteIv for themselves re.
ma;n;ng Young and keening hold much
Longer fban men do, -
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coop ohi.
The first detection OF this kind is
pang the young wife never forgets; but
she has many more, and yet more bitter
ones, when the detection takes per-
sonal shape, and some pretty little at
tention is carelessly received without It's
due reward OF loving thanks. Perhaps
some usual form of caress is omitted In
the hurry Of the morning work, or some,
gloomy anticipation of professional
trouble makes him oblivious OF her pre-
sence, or .fretted by her importunate at
tentions, he buries himself in a book,
more to escape being spoken to than Tor
the books own merits. Many a woman
has gone into her own room and had a
good cry because her husband called
her by her baptismal name, and not by
some absurd nickname invented IN the
days Of their folly; or because pressed
for time, he hurried Out, OF the house
without going through the established
formula of leave taking. The lover mas
merged into the husband; security has
taken the place of woolng; and the wo-
man does not take kindly to the trans
formation, aud sometimes plays dan
gerous game, and tries what flirting with
other men will do. II her scheme does
not answer, and her husband is not made
jealous, she is revoltedd, and holds her,
self that hardly used being, the neglected
wife. She cannot accept as compli'
ment the quiet trust which certain cool
headed men of a loyal kind place in their
wives; and this tolerance OF her flirting
manner-which he takes TO be manner
only with no evil In 1t, and with which,
though hVmay not especially like It, he
does not ihterfere-seems to her lndiffer-
ence rather than tolerance. Yet the
compliment implied in this forbearance
is in point Of fact a compliment worth
all the petits soins ever invented, though
this hearty faith is just the thing that
annoys her, and which she stigmatizes
as neglect If she were to go far enough
she would find out ner mistake But by
that time she would have gone too far to
profit by her experience.
Nothing is more annoying than that
display of affection which some husbands
and wives show to each other in society.
That familiarity of touch, those half
concealed caresses, those absurd Names
that prodigality of endearing epithets,
that devoted attention which they faunt
in the face of the public as kind OF
challenge to the world at large to come
and admire their happiness, is always
noticed and laughed at; and sometimes
more than laughed at. Yet TO some
women this parade of love is the very
essence of married happiness, and part
of their dearest privileges. They believe
themselves admired and envled, when
they are ridiculed and scoffed at; and
they think their husbands are models for
other men to copy, when they are taken
as examples for all to avoid. Men who
have any real manliness, however, do
not give into this kind Of thing; though
there are some as ef'eminate and gush-
ing as women themselves, who like this
sloppy effusiveness of love, and carry it
on into quite old age, fondling the an
cient grandmother with gray hair as
lavishly as they had fondled the youth
fui BRIDE, ana seeing no want OF mar
mony ID gaining withereu oiu ualne vi
sixty Dy the pet names Dy whicn tney nag
called her when she was slip OF glrI
OF eighteen Inc continuance OF love
from youth TO ola age IS very iovely,
very cheering; out even Jonn = Anuersoh M
my DO wouia lose lts patno,s II Mrs. an
derson mad ignored the dinerence pc
tween tne raven loehs anu the snvwy
prov. lnlS puulc u.spiay Vi ,,an aanh,rial n,ha
ahecuoh Is never seen anohs ni1h wno
pride themselves on mahlng goou ioVers'
as certain men uoLthose ci wno nay &c,
duced the practice ql ioye,ihahihg W an
art, a science ana know 'helr lesson 70
letter lhese rt 'heu are uehsus,1i snh W
women, VINO nke no'nihg ~ an rnuon 40
peing MADE ioVe 10, as wen aiter mar
rage as DelOrei DuI men VINO lhhe llat