The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1870-06-18
A Married WOman's Experience.

to ''put the best side out" or to appear to
the best advantage, and if we don't carry it
too far, it will ever be to us as taisman
commanding respect of the intelligent and
refined. But there is a degree of gentility,
which, if we go beyond, will make us APP
pear ridiculous; and it is easy enough for
any discriminating mind to perceive when
person is affecting to be genteel. Now,
it is perfectly natural for young people of
either sex, when in each others company to
try to appear amiable, courteous and at
tractive-to find their hearts entwined
around in one beautiful net work of love-
and then, how every word and action is
measured, and expression studied; and
what self conscious pride they feel when
they know that they have won the love and
admiration of each other. But to come
more to the point in hand.
How apt we are to think when we see
young gentleman all attention to his lady
love-studying everything for her convent
ence and pleasure, that lie as a perfect gentle
man, and will be devoted husband; but
ah! how deceptive are appearances. l
have no doubt of there being great many
men who remain the same affectionate,
adoring husbands that they were at first,
or as courteous as before marriage; but
| speak from my own experience, which is
strengthened by observation; and l have
no doubt of its general applicability for
there are too many who, after they have
caught the bird, care less whether it is fed
as dainty or its plumage kept in as good
condition
When the writer was young and remained
unmarried, her husband was one of that
sort Of 'perfect gentleman" who never
seemed happier than when doing for her
some deed of kindness. When, for i'll
stance, we were going mile or two-"I
mustn't walk, must ride" but now it is
better to walk" walking is healthy sx-
erclse' Then if, when walking out, and
we came to gutter, or difficult place to
cross, he would run to get beard to lay
across it, for me walk on; but now he leaps
over, and walks straight on, and leaves me
to get over the best way can. Then when
travelling on the cars, and we came to our
stopping place, my husband would always
jump off first, and assist me, and take my
! satchel, &c, but now he gets off, and walks
along, and leaves me to help myself and
follow on.
When going to church, or anywhere else,
he would open the door and gate, and close
them after went through, but now he
darts through himself, and lets them swing
to after him, and proceeds-and by the
time l get through, my husband will be
some rods in advance of me, and l am
obliged to call for him to stop, or run to
overtake him. Then, if we were at any
public dinner, or festival my husband was
always by my side to wait on me to any
thing | wished; but now he leaves me, and
seeks the company of some of his old
chums, and seems to forget that he has a
wife at all.
So very negligent had my husband be-
come that | thought it best to mention it to
him-net for my own sake entirely but Oh
lbs account, and for fear that the people
would observe it and attribute it to disaffec-
ton; and now the reader will laugh when
| | tell him how kind and attentive lie was
to me, (or time after that.) For sam
pie will relate an instance that occurred
the next time we were invited out to din
ner. We had but just sat down to the
table, when my husband wishing, l pre-
sumo, to redeem himself, helped me to an
enormous piece of pie! I looked around
at the company to see if any observed it,
and then thanked him, but I could not help
thinking that he was then ocermucA pie
Gus in his attention.
never said anything more to him about
his negligence to me when in company
When we were married he called me by the
very pretty name Of Jennie but it soon
changed to Jane las that is my name,
and now, he as often calls me, "look here
or "say," as anything else.
have already mentioned enough to show
how apt men are to become Indifferent as to
the many little acts of courtesy and kind
ness towards their wives; they seem to
think it is too much like condescending to
things beneath their dignity, to be social
and communicative with them, and that we
are in duty bound-from the fact of our
connection with them-to overlook what
ever we see amiss in them, especially if we
have any regard fer keeping peace in the
family"
1t is of no use for the wife to practice the
same Indifference, as retort towards her
husband, that he does to her; for they
would not only create barrier between
them, but would soon find that an almost
inseparable iceberg was chilling the very
air they breathe; and it is impossible to re-
gain the same feeling of love and trust that
first bound them together. 1 was about to
say to the young ladies-beware that you
don't get husband after the sort that I
have here described; but then how can you
know until you have tried them? and then
it is too late to repent; but if such should
be your lot, you must be thankful it ANT
any aoorse.