Bellows Falls times. [volume] (Bellows Falls, Vt.) 1856-1965, 1870-09-02
Getting Married.
A GIRLS EXPLANATION OF THE DIFFs.
CULTIEs.

are afraid to marry. The most frequent
of these is, that the girls of this genera
ton are too extravagant.
That We are extravagant / admit.
But who makes us so Did it ever occur
to you that this outlay in dress is to
please you Is not the girl who makes
a fine show, the most sought after ? OF
course there are exceptions-girls who
do not care most of all for dress, and
men who, in their admiration of ladies,
look at something beyond this. But, af-
ter all, it is not the most common re-
mark" Is she not stylish ?" What
fine appearance that girl Makes" and
so it pleases their vanity to be the es-
cort of such attractive ones.
For myself | dress rather plainly
Perhaps could better afford to put on
this style than many who assume it.
But my taste does not SO lead me and
then, too, knowing the sins which the
love Of dress will drive women to, / try
in my humble way to set better exam
pie.
Besides, want my gentleman friends
to feel that one girl, and if they will but
see it, hundreds besides, do not care for
dress for themselves. Ambitious parents
desire, and short-sighted young men ad-
mire, and so often they appear frivilous,
when really their thoughts are far be-
yond. And let me tell you how / am
tried sometimes. To save the expense
of carriage for the opera, l don my
lace bonnet and walking suit. Now, my
friend sits beside me, and should be think
ing g. This is very sensible girl. She
comes to hear the music. | can afford
bring her several times for what at.
carriage would cost once for these but
terAy women"
All, no, he does not look SO far as this
but whether he means the comparison or
not, call my attention to the most gaily
attirel ladies, saying admirably, How
becomingly that lady is dressed" "What
an elegant costume Miss wears"
| do not say to him what / am telling
you; but | feel it all, and am almost re-
solved, the next time he invite me--if he
does it again-to go to all this extrava-
gance.
| But so much show in a publ place
does not suit my taste, and l do not want
for, one to frighten my friends from the
holiest and best of earthly relations, the
married life.
One thing more. We often hear young
men say, All that girl wants is mon
ey if man has not that he may pass
on" Very true of some girls; but is
not the reverse as often true These show
girls, whose parents spend their all to
marry them off, are taken while the
true parents who wish their daughters to
be chosen for their real worth, and con-
ceal the possession of wealth, find for
4 tuotu pOOT ludTket.
/ feel this subject myself, for / have
lost valued friend. "Died 2" No =
that were not hard. But he has gone
and in his first look ! saw resolve to
! bury the love which he dare not speak,
A few hints thrown out convinced me
that he felt his business would not war
rant the luxury of wife. And SO he
will go on in the loneliness of hotel life,
while his heart yearns for the comforts
and j.ys Of home.
Oh! if / could have told him that he
is more to me than gold and that with
his love Ishould be happy without much
that generous father now lavishes up
on me. But he; he is proud, his wife
must not work. She must be lady,
dress and be gay and until he can af-
ford this he will steel his heart against
love-
Oh, friends, brothers will you notthink
of this. Do not expect to commence
life as your fathers left off, Only choose
a wife with tastes congenial to your own
happy spirit; prudent for the things
of this life, aud yet with aspirations be-
yond. Be willing to give up your own
extravagances; and be proud Of her not
for " the outward adorning Of putting on
apparel, bat for the ornament of a meek
and quiet spirit"
Be not ashamed to be called poor
Care not for the worlds opinion, but on
ly for her whom your heart loves. And
so the blessings of wife and children
shall be yours and in the atmosphere of
home your character shall expand into
all that is good, and pure, and noble
Neac York Indepenent.
TALE-BEARING.-Never repeat sto-
ry unless you are certain it is correct,
and not even then unless something is to
be gained, either of interest to yourself
or for the good Of the person concerned.