Bellows Falls times. [volume] (Bellows Falls, Vt.) 1856-1965, 1870-04-29
Aliscellany.
Sensihle talk to Girls.
OR woMAN's IDEA OF GLOVE"

OR WoMAN's IDEA OF :" LOVE.
There is a note lying upon my desk
which / find it difficult to answer. 1t is
from very youthful person requesting
advice upon a delicate love question:
But it is absolutely impossible to teach
young folks anything. Age may exhort
and wisdom may hold forth-experience
is the only Mentor whose teachings take
effect. What a pity it seems that we
cannot shield these breezy pates from
the worlds rough knocks. If we could
only gather them about us and tell how
there are pitfalls just yonder, where the
grass seems greenest-that much of the
blooming turns out to be nettle, and
every rose along the earthly path hides
its thorns-how far less crying there
would be in the world, how many more,
standing upright, with faces heavenward.
When answer this dainty letter and tell
"Jeanette" that she really must not al
low Moses" to kiss and fondle her in
miscellaneous love-making, how much O..
my advice do you think the wise young
person will take? Justasmuchas accords
with her own inclination-no more. J.
wish could gather multitude of young
girls about me tonight and give them g
grand-motherly lecture which should not
fail of effect. 1t is delicate question to
handle, but who can hold peace, when
we see May blossom girls, who should be
fresh and bonnie as the spring time, worn
carelessly in smutty button-holes, or IDLY
fingered and tossed away-a flower still,
perhaps, but withered. There is too
much retailing of loves hottest commod-
itiesamong us. Keep yourselves "chaste
as unsunned snow" girls. Allow no IA
miliarities, even SO much as hand clasp
beyond the formalities of friendship,
that are not sanctifed by holy betrothal.
A gown oft handled you know is sell
dom white, and wilted roses are not gen.
orally in great demand. A great many
young girls fancy themselves in love
when they have no more idea what love
really is than day-old kittens. Love is
not an explosion, it is growth-some-
thing to be tested, yet never found want
ing-weighed, yet never short of balance
measured, yet never limited. When
you find yourself growing nobler, and
less selfish in work-a-day living-when
hard duties blossom into beauty, and
straight lines curve into grace-when
you can be happy though the breadth Of
horizons lie between you and the object
Of your thoughts and hopes-when for
him, you seek to crown yourselves with
all that's gentle, comedy and sweet in
womanhood-when you are patient with
vexing baby brothers, and CHEEKY with
Bridget, helpful to mother and loyal to
God-you may call it loving. But ii
you depend for all you know of love up
on physical presence alone-caresses,
VOWS and hot-headed demonstration-bet
ter build upon quicksand than trust to
that which is naught but personal mag
netism-a shallow sea, full of hidden
snags
One word more, and will talk about
the weather and street crossings. While
you shun frequent firtations, and those
counterfeit love affairs which are to your
freshness what fingers are to..peaches--
despoiling Of bloom-steer clear, on the
other hand, brotherly and sisterly" af
fections, or Platonic friendships. Put .
fve-year old urchin in thejam closet ant
expect him not to devour your jam, Of
turn cattle into clover and anticipate
your clover heads will be untouched =
but don't think young folks can brin,
fire near snow and the snow not melt
Have no gentlemen friends--no "broth
err" Write upon your list only cordial
pleasant acquaintance, and by and by
louer, if Providence sends the right on,
but nothing between. Keep yoursel
distant as the snow on high hills, ant
let men come to know that it is as i'm
possible to fondle or "handle" you
young girls, as it would be to disarrang,
the stars. or trail heavens feecy cloud
in dust. So shall you reign royal in wo
manhood, and none shall take you
crown from you.-Letter TO Chicago JON
nal.