The Manchester journal. [volume] (Manchester, Vt.) 1861-current, 1870-08-30

IHUr FLBrs ANp FALsE When
elown follows the will-o' the-wisp 10 b
discontinue, We blame The foolish ~ Al
and Dol the misguidiag light Aud *
Il mon, sill b. 80 vain and unthinki ii.
as 70 Imagin that every pleasant seaat
adores them because she does not suu
them, and designs to marry them be
cause she youohsaios to chat, who's
fault Is II when the presumpuous love
Is informed With cold polteness iha
ais position is that ol friend only =
The real mistake consists in conceiyins
! aothing possible between the sexes but
love, People rush into tho error that
woman must either be discourteous e
a man or in love with him; the posi-.
blhty Of her entertaining a proper and
healthy friendship for fifty Of the OPP
poslte sex never seems TO strike the
world. Now the so called tlirt is emi-
nent free from all the charges that are
usually aliedged against her, She is
open aud undisguised. Her aflabiity is
known and commented on from the fact
that she conyerses without hesitation
and laughs without constfaint she
wears her heart upon her sleeve;
there is no coucealment, no attempt at
reservation, no affectabon Of reserve. 49,
The really designing woman is of an
other cast Her plots are darkly laid
and darkly carried out. Her demeanor
IS stald, her style irrepoachable.
She gives side glance and looks down."
She encourages, not with the open inyi.
tation Of an assault, bat with the covert
aifectation of retreat She leads ON
quietly, but without appearing to do so,
and the world is kept in ignorance Of
her plans till her discretion is rewarded
und a prize secured, So anglers catch
fish quietly concealed cautiously.
Bus lie who chatters on the bank ,haunts
his rod and line, and hutters his bril-
liant hues, fails if he thinks to net.
Flirting is to marriage what free trade
is to commerce By it the value OF
woman is exhibited, tested, her capaci-
ties known, her temper displayed, and
opportunity offered of judging what
soit Of wife may probably become.
Those who assume the prudish air, and
chide the young lady that does nothing
else than NOPE or turn aside, or sim
per Eyes" when spoken to, are the pro-
tectionists who know their goods can
not compete in the general market, and
therefore, strive by artificial means to
keep the bidders from an open choice
1t is good for both sexes; the men know
what they will marry, the women have
looked around them before they decide,
There is nothing more prejudicial to
the happiness Of married life than the
Ignorance which most>girls have of the
other sex. To boardng-school girl
Signor Fascinati, the singing master, is
a god, and elopes with him. After two
years she finds him rogue. The>man-
nfacturers daughter, who meets the
Hon Adolphus Landless at her first
country ball, lis struck with his attentions
and catches at his offer at once. Had
she seen more of the man, she would
have known how shallow his brains and
how deep his debts before she linked
herself to him, to indnre misery for
life, or cast her affections on some fu-
ture acquaintance, and to incur the
peril Of the divorce court. Solon was
right when be proposed that the sexes
should exercise together in the gymna-
stun; a thorough knowledge and
reer footing between young men and
women is one of the greatest safe
guards against ill-advised choices.
1t is often asserted that marriage is
the one object Of n womans life, for
which she lays her self out, to achieve
which she makes any sacrafce. But
is like religion, not an act,
but condition. 1t is not thing TO be |
obtained like victory, once for all, but |
TO be gone through like a campaign.
Hence women who do throw their
whole heart into the single fact Of get
ling married, and regard nothing futher
all INTO an error as fatal for this life as
he doctrin Of those haptised into the
'hureh, but ignoring the life Of the
christian, must be for the next. The
mere husband-hunters, no doubt exist
imong firts, but we should rather & D.
rate them; the genuine type of firt
one who has not at present this OBJ
eet at all in view, who trusts to its
omng in the fullness Of time, but who
makes herself agreeable for its own
axe. As such we are prepared to pro-
onnce her not only harmless, but the
roper specimen Of a woman. 10 one
those mind is cultivated Alright, no
mount Of freedom, which prudes may
all iorwardness. or attempt to please
'hich old maids may stigmatize az
lan-hunting. can be in the slightest
etr.mental; she will be above their
aeers and shgmas, uniniured By mis-
presentation. unslandered by envy, &