Grant County herald. [volume] (Lancaster, Wis.) 1850-1968, 1870-07-12

past thirty" is that one now and
then can put in a word Of good moth
erly advice TO the other sex. So pu|
begin at once, and say to any single
gentleman who chooses to listen
Don't stay too late.
AZ the store or Office /? No. You
know very well don't mean that
am not fighting imaginary dangers
but real ones | mean simply. don't
stay too late when you 70 TO spend
quiet evening with Il young lady.
1t IL not fair it is short sighted aud
II IS pretty sure to wear ont your
welcome. Even if the poor thing is
eventually to allow you to stop IN
TIL death DO you part, that is no rea-
son yon should bestow too much OF
your tediousness upon her at the
outset When she really wishes your
visits to be longer, You'll know it
and even then be chary of the mo-
ments after eleven. AT any rate,
don't suffer yourself to be misled by
the usual commonplace forms of de-
tention that, nine cases out Of ten.
arise from sudden consciousness on
the lady's part that she may have
been betraying her WEAKNESS rather
too plainly. 1t won't hurt you any
to be longed for after you are gone
but beware of ever causing u girl to
give sigh of relief when the hall
door closes after you. There's
sandman for the parlor ms we'll as for
the nursery, and after certain hour,
except in special cases, when he finds
the eye too we'll drilled to succumb
to his attacks. he sprinkles his sand
around the heart. After that your
best efforts are wasted Every word
will CRATE, every winning attempt of
yours will be met only with the sill
cate Of emotion at best. | know all
about it. I've received young gen
tleman callers in my day !; yes, and
enjoyed receiving them, if ever a girl
did. I'd think all day that perhaps
John would come in the evening. and
On these occasions I've gone down
to tea with rosebud in my hair and
a happy nutter in my heart. Yes.
and I've started at the ring of the
door-bell, and when at last he came
i'll smiling and bowling, I've looked
Just as il | didn't care a single bit.
There were others too-not Johns
by any means, but friends, who were
always welcome, and whom it was
right good and pleasant to see. But
that fact did not make null and void
all somniiic law; it did not make
father and mother willing that the
house should be open till midnight
1T didn't make it desirable that |
should feel rebuke in verybody's
Good morningl" when, with throb-
bing head and weary eyes | came
down late to breakfast. No, you
may be sure it didn't.
Therefore, | learned soon to honor
those who knew enough to 90 when
halt-past ten came while those who
didn't know were the bane of my
existence How they would linger
and skirmish, and stand up and sit
down, and move about, and look at
the clock, and in o thousand tortur-
ing ways say goodbye" without
going-forgetting that | could not
turn them out Of the room, yet iudg-
ing by that token that their presence
was nectar and balm for all weari-
ness.
Now, never think that these friends
stayed from kindness To their weary
hostess-not at all. They stayed be-
cause they did not know enough to
90. They liked the warm room,
perhaps, and dreaded the cold street,
but beyond that they lacked the
simple grace of taking themselves off
promptly and handsomely. All
what gift that is in man or woman,
to know when to 60, and knowing
it, to stand not upon the order of
going, but 20 at once. | know
few such persons. They radiate
peace and rostfulness, or they sparkle
and scintillate, or they arouse and
and inspire you, as the case may be.
An hour glides away, then another,
and in the midst of another you are
conscious only of a gentle Goodbye"
flash, and they are gone. Then
hundred things rush upon you-you
wish you had asked them this, or
told them that you think how pleas
ann it was TO meet them, and you
long to see them again.
So, dear single gentlemen, whoever
and wherever you are, the next time
you go out to spend quiet evening
with lady, remember my words.
Young girls are human they require
rest and sleep they are amenable to
the benefits Of domestic system and
order they have q precious heritage
of strength, health and good looks
to guard.
Above all, if they are true, sensible
girls, they secretly respect a man
who does not yield to the temptation
to linger past reasonable hour. la
word, though they may be glad to
see you, an evening visit is not a
species of eternity.
Don't 90 late, and don't 90 by
inches. Goodbye" is the flower of
welcome. If you wish it to retain
its aroma, the fewer leaves it sheds
the better.-Hedrth and Home