Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1870-11-04
Girl's Explanation Of the Dialcnltles

A great deal IL said and written
/ now a~days of the reasons why
young men are afraid to marry. The
( most frequent of these Is, that the
girls of this generation are too eN.
! travagant.
/ That we are cxtravngant admit.
Bat who makes us so? Did it ever
occur 20 You that this outlay In dress
| il to rlea~esyOu: Ia not the girl who
! makes fine show the most sought
after? OF course there are exceptions
girls who do not care most OF all
! for dress, and men who, In their ad
iniration of the ladies, look at some
! thing beyond this. But, after all. Is
! IL not the most common remark, "Is
| she not stylish % what "a fine aI.
pearauCe that girl makes!" and so 1t
| pleRscs their vanity to he the escort
! of such attractive ones.
For myself, dress rather plainly.
| Perhaps | could better afford to put
on this style shan many hO assume
/ IL. But my taste does not so lead me
aud then, too, Knowing the sins
which the love of dress will drive
women to, | try in my humble way
To set better example.
Besides, want my gentleman
! friends To feel that one girl, and, ii
! they will bat see it, hundreds besides
do not care for dress for themselves.
! Ambitious parents desire, and short.
sighted young men admire, and su
! often they appear frivolous, when
! really their thoughts are far beyond.
| And let me tell you how I am tried
sometimes. 70 save the expense oi
u carriage for the opera, | don my
, lace honpet aud walking suit. Now.
my friend sits beside me and shDuld
be thinking: This il a sensible
girl. She comes to hear the music. -
| can afford To bring her several times
! for what n carriage would cost one
I for these butterfly women
All no he dOcsn' Z look SO far as thiS;
| hut, whether he means the c0mpari-
son or not, calls my attention to the
most gaily attired ladies, saying ad'
1 miringly, How becoming that lady
is dressed" "What an elegant cos
! tune Miss - years. 1 do not say
to him what | ana telling you; but
| feel il all, aud am almost resolved
tie next time he invites me-if he
does 1t 0gain-tO go to all this extrav'
agance.
But so much show In public place
does not suit my taste, and then dc
not wish to be one to frighten my
friends from the holiestan best Oi
earthly relations, the married life.
One thing more. We often heal
young men say: "All that gir
wants Is money; If man has moi
that he may pass on.n Very true Ol
. - fha
as often true? These showy girls,
whose parents spend their all to mar
ry them off, are taken; while The
true parent who wish their daughter
10 lie chosen for their real worth, and
c0nceal the possession of wealth, ,flno
for them poor market.
feel this subject keenly myself
for have lost valued friend 80
"Died?' No; that were not hard
But he has gone, aud in his first look
| saw a resolve To bury the love which
Inc dare not speak. A few hints
thrown out Convinced me thst ht
felt his business woCld not warrant
the luxury of wife. And so he viii
go ON in the loneliness OF hotel life
while his heart yearns for the com
forts and joys OF home.
Oh ! ii ! could have told him that
he il more Ia me than gold, aud that
with his love | should be happy with
out much that generous father now
layishes upon the. But ne; lie i
proud, his wife must not work. She
must be lady, dress ard be gay
aud until he can afford this he viii
steel his heart against love.
Our friends, brothers, will you no
think of that. DO not expect tC
commence lie as your father Leaves
oil, Only choose ~ wife with taste,
cOngenial to your own; happy
spirit; prudent for the things of thi'
life, and yet with aspirations beyOnt
BE willing to give up your own ex
trpvHgances; and he proud of her
not for 1.-THE outward adorning O
putting on apparel, but for the orna
ment Of n meek and quiet spirit, ~
| BE not ashamed To he called poor. -
Care not for the worlds opinion, bu
only for her whom your heart loves
Aud so the blessing of wife and chill
dren shall be yours, and in the at
mospheTe of home your own charac
ter shall expand into all that IL good
and pure. and noble. -NGto York In
dependent.