The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1870-06-21
acknowledgement.
Advice to Women.

A good many women arc, III these days
trying TO earn their own living without
: any, or with very slight, preliminary
preparation for the task. Their callings
bring them necessarily In contact with
business men, who are busy men; and this
: lack Of training often Injuries their ad'
vancement, by their want Of tact in deal
ing with men We propose here to offer
a few Hints TO Women about to Engage
in Business, and this, therefore, is lee
ture for women only; no men admitted,
under any circumstances.
Call upon a man Of business in the
hours of business; transact your business
and 70 about your business: This is the
brief but wise counsel, dear sisters, which
you will find displayed in large print on
many Counting-rOOm walls. Please 10
remark that this is nOta joke. A business
mans minutes arc precious. lie has not
nearly as many as he needs II he has
any to spare at any time, he knows what
J TO do with them. Do not, therefore, scare
q poor ovcrburdened iellOw-creature out
of his wits by demanding whether he has
half all hour to spare, or by asking when
he will be at leisure, or by Offering TO wait
till he has nothing to do. II you have
business, plunge into the middle Of 1t, and
despatch it quickly.
Moreover, when you visit an office or
COunting-rOOm Oh business, prepare your
budget beforehand, so that you may make
your statement briel and pertinent. Do
not Oblige u busy man to crOsS'cxamine
you as to your purpose; do not go with
halfdefned or dimly formed wishes.
Learn TO take Eyes" or mo" for an an
swer. A busy man has 10 decide rapidly;
il he is fit for his place, and il you have
stated your wish or proposition clearly,
he can decide at once lie says Eyes"
and your affair is settled; or he says mo"
and It is. also decided. But when he says
Eyes," and you keep him ten minutes or
half an hour detailing IFS and JWtS, besure
he regrets his consent; and if he says mo-"
and you plead with him to take it back,
be sure that though he may be polite as u
French dancing.master, he regards you as
bore.
Again-learn that every business is
necessarily conducted in certain way,
and has certain forms and rules, which
cannot well be violated. They may seem
absurd and unreasonable to you; nay, they
always do appear so; therefore you almost
always plead that in some way, in your
case, they shall be relaxed, or broken
through; and too often you gain your
point, Just that once-for what man can
resist woman? But though you may
prevail, you lose by it in the long run; 1t is
remembered against you; and when pres
emily you drop out" and somehow get
no more employment in that quarter, you
may know that it is because you have
Tashly violated this rule.
When you enter IN office or Il counting
room, forget, if you can, that you are IL
woman. To the business man you are
approaching, you are only a machine, de-
SirOus to be set in motion; he is only u
machine; all about him, for the time be-
ing, are only machines; and machine
has no heart; it makes no allowances; it
eXacts the uttermOst; it demands the
best, with the least waste Of time. DO
your work promptly and thoroughly, pre-
sent it with few words; learn the customs
of the calling you enter, and conform 10
them; or il YOU do not like them try
something else But do not attempt to
change them-at ieast by pleading.
This is tho way to success Those OF
your sisters who have learned it are too
busy. and too prOitably engaged, to make
much noise about it; they have their
hands full, for there is abundance of room
in the world for firSt-ratc workers; for
machines that are prompt and regular,
that turn out good work, and are never
indisposed. Try TO remember that when
you engage in business when you enter
the labor market, you necessarily come in
competition with men. Men are slaves
they must work, for they have families to
support, or fortunes 10 make, or enter
prises to advance, and they lo not expect
TO marry. That is to say, marriage will
only compel them TO work more persist
emily, and force them 10 be more prompt,
more accurate more regular These men,
these slaves under the lash Of all kinds Of
necessities, you have for opponents; they
cannot give place to you if they would,
Tor they are in the labor market, just rs
you are. If theywork harder, better, and
for more hours than you do, they will
beat YOU; and your sex cannot help you.
One man succeeds beyond another just
in this way 1t is not luck, it is not good
friends-lOr though friendship may push
man along, it cannot keep him from
falling back. 1t is hard work, unmiti-
gated, unCCasing. thorOugh; il is because
4 works harder, and better, and longer
than z, that he stands at the top, while q
grumblcs at the bottom of the ladder.
You cannot eat your cake and have 1t;
try to get that homely provcrb by heart,
and you will have done much for success.
In another and more comfortable world
this will doubtless be changed, and we
shall all rejoice. But in thiswOrld, which
revolvCs once in twenty.fOur hours on its
axis, and circumnavigates the sun once
in Il year, everything is fixed, regular, I'M
deviating; and most things are unpleas-
ant, and the opposite OF what reasonable
and sensible beings would like them to DO,
Finally, If you get good offer, marry.
Thus you will exchange many masters
for one; and if you have the least tact
you will presently be master OF that one,
without his in the least suspccting it,
There are, on the whole, few things n
woman can do so well as marry. Posi-
bly, this is because her sex have been for
so many thousand years trained to that;
possibly 1t may be that this is, after all, her
true calling; but, however that may be, il
Is certain that, as society is now Consti.
tuted, and will for some time to come re-
main, it Is the calling III which woman
on the whole has the greatest promise Of
success.
Brooke County.