, 1870-12-11
IMPORTANT HINTS TO WIVES
How TO Heap Conss OF Fire on Your
IIu&bAnosM Head.
Efor,n Cbamhfrss go.,vn1F

How TO Heap Conss OF Fire on Your
1Iu>band'. Head.
From Chambfys' JournaL
We all know that revenge IL bad passion:
q cou1so and cruel instinct, which haa the bs,e-
ful power OF inteprifyiug every other evil pro-
pensity. and By the side Of Which not ~ much
as the poorest, palest little rirtue seems able
to live and rear ita head In rudo times, and
whenever society ie in chaotic condition, and
law tut m iupotent weakling, murder il the
relves, With An asenger OF blood not often
sleeping at his post, ata with social poliiy
less fierce. il also more false, We employ SLAM
L mare getting Il good thing; We break or =
profitable marriage by secret in.inua'ions; We
t1pearth all the skeletons belonging to tho
enemy and his family aud put them up for
public iE spectipn in the mlrket-place; We be-
tray the secrets intrusttd to us in the weak
nees Of fond moment; We hint at thus, and
ne iutinuate that sometimes We make bOlder
AID more concrete accusation; and wien we
bave done all We eau to ruin the man by whom
We fancy ourselves aEg1ieved, wo feel that We
have had ou1 revenge, and are content. This
is revenge in the nineteenth century, in ooun-
irieB where law in como sort dominates pas
eion, and impulses are kept In check by fcsr
Of The policeman and the prison van.
But there .re other forms Of taking revenge;
md among tho meat Ingenious ia that OF heap
ing Goals OF fire on this head OF an offender
e1aggerAt,Dg the viltues Of obedience, and
patience, and forgiveness till they become ln-
st1uments Of torture instead OF gracious gifts
Of b1easipE, aud essentially vices II pouinslly
virtues. Yet it Is difficult to complain Of this
exaEgeratioo. because Of the holy texts and
wiae words HhereWlsh 1t is defended. 1t, how
ever, you disregard this defence work, aud say
that il IS possible to ba too good. too viHu0us.
and tllat anv qralitv, even Of those named
specially Christian, il carried ont Of the
bounds OF common eense and into the region
Of excess. becomes vice, you are set down
a. heathen outright: yon must bs content
10 bear the stigma OF irFeligion because Of
on the other band, you give in without
Struggle. 5uu know that hsnceforth youI
DOOM Is etalcd, and that your tormentor has
the best Of it, and will keep what he has
that nil you hnve to do now is to accept
patiently the btaping up Of burning Goals
uhich will: 70 the end Of time, be piled on
This taking revenge By heapine up Goals OF
6rc may be shown in many ways LIST rs
lake one, by no meAns uncommon in Ger
tain kiru Of home-that Of excessive And e1-
ceerive md exaggerated patience during, and
on your part, and Of m unIelendng obedience
10 your tranrient wishes. il they have been
pttulartly expressed. Most people are Ut
tines afflicted With peevish bumors And you
are not exempt from the ordinary feelings
Ct humaIity.. But your humor was
temporary, and E, yoa a are heartily .shsnea =. ID
you dlj and when it has pAased, and you
arc again in yc1r right mind, yon wish for
1othiDe 20 much As candid oblivion on both
sides. You arc rssdy to make ans apology
th.t may be needed, aud you would bear
meelly even An nuneon. promising rating. il only
It might et.d in frank forgiveness and forget
$,tr Rat M
e1re, and cannot forget; and takes good care
that neither shsil .ou. 1fyou plunge head
folrupst into an apology. YOU are stopped
With the 1oftiest, the most intense expression
Of n,eekne+s and forbeatance- ''My dear.
/ aepreratirelr, "why say = word about iii I
t., and hope ehaIt have strength given me
| TO do it. 80 pray cay no more." Perhaps With
! customt d to it :"
This IL the revenge which your eo.l-heaper
| lakes: and it ia severe one. No renon-
STRANGE, 10 anger, no it Of sulka eyen wouii
| be 70 bad A. that sanity, statuesque, resigned
| Patience. which makes you feel brute in
| yLur OWE esce, and eh0we you that You are
patt all redemption in the eyes Of othera.
Arothsr form Of Goa. Al.beaping il m e1agsez.
ated attention to yous hAsty woFds: S4y you
have found faul: with your wife or housckeep-
er, for eomesbing that has gene wrong in he.
special depart ment ray even that. because OF
Rteupora1y detar cement Of your health. With
arrangement OF temper to correspond, the
fault found was dieproportioued to the offence
committed yet all you meant to inculcste wAs
the necessity Of . reasonable reform in o1iehi
misdenelnor. acd better ordering in an aBai1
| Of minor management. Your heapsr up ol
bnrntrg Goals il determined that the reform
rhall Eot be reasonable, aud in that its exceat
shall be 5our punishment. You have com
ml,ted tie offence Of demonstrating aeains!
/ afs f11 ffR hor 1f.
SOD cthitg which has bcen very wassefn1. auc
b, you'd al harmony with your means you1
coal-heap per atiuts herself in elemental CON
forts, sigidly cuts hereelf OF {rom her fr,el
bacon ii brt akfa.t and her glk>s Of vine d
dinner On the plea OF not being able to shos!
il and it you remonstsate with her, and tel
l,tr ehe IL ridiculous, rhe answers meskt
that you told her to keep down the bills
and she does not know in what else to re
tretch-As she wxa eure no oEe can keel
house more economically than she does -sh'
has begun with herself-" At the same tion,
tlublte yuur most expensive !uxuries, which
are you1s ou,s. She neycr complains, 70
member: shc only makes herself oetenta
,iously urconto ostab]e With pAtienee a
| cs:enihtit u. III her kels-uartsrdon.
II ycu think 10 o'clock too late for break
fast, and growi At the delay and di-eomfor
cn+ nj, firm the noetponement Of ycut - n
sils" askirG why You cannot hare thing
earlier the sbole house is alive and astir =
;: and yonr *ife Ect- mp Uor = fe< morn
irE-) at and thinks che has doue her out
hs you. and o.eyen you. II on eay tha: lyin
on scfs n adipe French novels Is not you
idea Of good housekeeper, hencefo.th sh
r1ureee into all kinds 1t menil employment,
Ioer about in rusty old goen with = dus,t
in her band ann wheu you want her to tax
avalk. is sure 70 he IN the kitchen. wnense
, | she euergfs With dz5s ct paste e:i:kiny to hs
| irgers. or ehe comes in with her face tlu-he
. | bv - etAutinE over the fte.'' xhfu rsth.
, y atefs visi'c1s call. and you have special re'
i sons for ~ishtnS her to look nice. Bn: ho
t can you complain Of her obediepce7 Hss II
4 ehculd Granted but <ou did mt Ak b
. to turn over half dnzen 4, once, or to nal
e 20 much futser IN the process.
: O.e erea: weapon OF \ woman in this kit
!, ot te<re1 warfare. this heaping up OF burnit
4 coal. is to prttend to be afraid Of her hu
I any wteh he Hav hive expressed, but to d.
\ with certain afleetation OF fear. ~ it
I we're the ogre Of whom she was in mort
Il dread, though eueet1y reeigued to her fate
4 the tan'e as It be wefe tytant, whose go
y suF crt rcgation, Ill the time she Is qniyrI'
il with tear aud Anticipating the worst. T
i ct,ldrer play large part in this special ua
10 neE Of eoal-eearirg Tou are ressonsoly 10
II ut them, but yto do not think 1t nee. ssssF
lS Elve up ~ Tue gravity OF Hfe. n! toe tmp<
II satce Of business TO their plea.ures. 4
~ ven do not thirk it hurts them to
d :, uhbfd it they ara troublesome, \
: ,.ut in their right place, the bac1g7ou.
d. il they are forward andin the Tay- You ca.
d bome hAsTas-ed and cisturhed. Things
d, lp< king black in sbe city; your difaealt ca
* from which sou bad hoped 20 much. ii |
tcepissl yesterday. thtestens 10 prove i Il
D. u1e; scu lest your care in ceurt to-day By
he ov.rsteht; one Of the tboua.nd Anxie.ies
ct ahlcb professional ueu Aze subject has Inv
a. ed ,our p acc Of min d and 1nhaed your te
ID ref; apd you tsn YOUR wtfs iuitahty--xe :
h- e1.ns tbs isritAtiity-that you xish
a. a~ould ksep The Children quies and not
IL | them make such 4 confounded noiee-
~ | From that DAY fos1aed Ypp aIO khotr ekIt