The workingman's advocate. [volume] (Chicago [Ill.]) 1864-1877, 1870-03-12
FROM ILLINOIS,
GARDNER, Feb. %, 1870

-. Ed,.Or OF the wonEnsNAEs ADvOCATs.a
In reply to Mrs. NJ. WynkOOp'S sta
.ement / would say that, to me- the
IDEA comes like this. The looseness Of
our marriage VOWS, the tendency to
freeIovism, and the frequency of dsvor-
oos are caused from different DISPOSE
lions. and from different tracing.
There are so many get married ncw-a-
DAVIS before they know what they are
doing, and then, when it is too late they
rue +; but in my idea this is owing to
their mothers. They are so anxioas to
oet them out into company and get
them acquainted with the young gentle
men: and then when they have found a
suitor, they never ask is he a religious
man. or does he drink, or are his grin
ciples good, or is he fond Of company
lint if be has fine suit of clothes and
ring on his finger, and can maSe
GOOD show among the fashionables he
is all right, and they get married, and
soon after she begins to see she has not
cot the right one and begins to find
fault. and then q dispute arises land
nothing but divorce will do; because
there was no love there, for wherG the
treasure is there the heart will be also.
Now. Z would say, all you mothers
who haze daughters coming to wolaan-
hood. in Gods name, try and bring |
them up in such a manner that when
they become wives and mothers they
will be what God ordained they should
be-an help-meet for man, and NOS an
examination to his household. Train
them no in the fear and admonitioh of
the Lord.
IF there was less time speEt in
fashion and folly and more speIat in
bible reading, there would be more
rood wives and fewer divorces. Ft is
an old saving and true one, just az the
twip is b, Mt, the tree is inclined. The
reason tina the workingmen's wives do
not seek divorces is because they don't
want them; and for this reason they
get married because they truly love
each other, and for that reason they
cannot find fault. They are willing to
bear each others burdens, and coElfort
one another in time of trouble f; aBd if
we would be happy here, and happy
hereafter, we must love and serve God
with our whole heart, soul and mind,
which is his.
Iwould say in answer to you that
the workingmen are the best men in the
world, for we need no argument to
prove this, for would ask, what would
the world be without them (? For me,
would rather be the wife of a work
ingman, than the wife Of king, Tor |
have no one to please but my husband
and my God, and the world may say
what they will but | cannot agree
with you about the foresight Of wemen
for you make no exceptions. There
are some very smart women liz the
world, there is no doubt, but SOME of
them are too smart they can look right
over their domestic duties to attend
to the next door neighbors; they will
gossip about from door to door all day,
till almost time for their husbands re-
turn; and then they are in sPch a
hurry to get all set to rights before he
comes they are out Of patience; not
smile to greet him as he comes in
weary from his days labor and If you
call this woman's foresight you can see
further than me. / think il the
women would look to their own inter
est a little more there would be a diff
erent kind Of society. Let us strive to
do what we can to help our sisters and
brothers while we have an opportunity,
for FIVE i'll do our best / think 1t will
encourage the men. think we have
few good men and women in this
vicinity, but the long cared ones out
number them, and they have not
strength to rally. There are three
classes of men and women here, and
it is hard to do anything with them.
But ! think some of them can look a
good ways but they don't say much
they will muster one of these bright
days and overthrow those politicians,
land sharks, and specializing gamblers,
and shine as pure gold. II. l..