Oregon Republican. [volume] (Dallas, Or.) 1870-1872, 1870-12-24
Domestic Happiness.

One great cause of unhappiness in
the domestic circle, is the deception
used by both parties before marriage.
| The endeavor on the part of each TO
hide his or her real character, and to
appear to the best possible advantage,
not thinking that after the hymenial
knot is tied. that they will appear 10
each other in their true character.
The yonng gentleman, IN essaying to
secure the love of his inamorata, never
ushers himself into her presence unless
he is in "prime condition." by this
We mean, unless he is in good humor,
good health, and we'll calculated to in
ierest and please. And while proceed
ing to her place of residence, if possible,
he procures bouquet of her favorite
flowers, choice book, q periodical of
which he knows she IN fond, or some
other token Of his regard. With these.
he would of course find her, or at least
soon cause her to assume, a pleasant
appearance and under these circum-
stances the two pass few hours, during
which they mutually exchange those
expressions of tenderness, which are
common amcng lovers.
In this way they pass on for months,
and in some cases for years, their only
study being TO deceive, aud their only
and inevitable doom TO be mutually do
ceised. Where courtship is prolonged
for years, the friends of both parties
commend their exercise OF judgment
and discretion, and justly TOO, in the
matter, and il they do marry, the world
says +" their alliance was founded upon
good qualities that each perceived in
the other" This in right and proper
but the difficulty is, the gentleman has,
in many instances, If not in ell, created
In the lady desire for positions in life
which ID 10 impossible for her TO ever
attain, enjoyments which she can never
procure, and excited expectations which,
in the very nature of things. 10 impossi
BILE for her TO ever realize. He has pic
turcd TO her the bright side Of life alto
gether, without ever saying one syllable
Of its dark phases he has shown her
the sunshine, without ever mentioning
the clouds; he has allowed himself 10
dwell altogether upon the romance,
without bcstowing q thought upon the
realities of life. The unavoidable result
is, the lady, when the vail is drawn
aside, and she sees matters in their true
light, is disappointed, thinks she has
been deceived, finds fault with her COM
pauion, and, in many instances, yields
TO the legitimate results, and becomes
gloomy and despondent; and following
this, as natural sequence, are unhappy
marriage, domestic discord, and, often
desertion. at h9s
Some will say, the lady should
have mind of her own, and not allow
herself to be deluded in such man>s
ner;" but in the great mass of cases,
she 10 young and inexperienced, with
false views OF life and its responsibili~s
ties, learned from novels, and what she
observes in short experience in the,
dizzy vortex OF fashionable life. These
are both calculated TO mislead her, until
she has reached the point in age and
experience, which viii dispel those.
dreamy fancies, and show life in It's
reality. To avoid these unhappy re-
suits, we need . few radical changes.
Ladies and gentlemen in their inter-
course with each other, with % view TO-
wedlock, should cease to endeavor TO.
deceive each other, bnt act their true
character. We do not mean By this
that the young gentleman who delights
IN obscene language and vulgar asser-
tions, should indulge in conversations
and habits of that nature, while in, the
presence Of ladies, but rather, on the