, 1870-10-30

ste. ltornance nnd lec1.,,ty.

FFum 9he N.7nfcnS S1f3ri1y Rer1tr.
Marriage, which most sitl. cai.silc. the sole
attn nf thei- existence al the end Of ali their
anHietlet, j. often the .csiu.ing of 4 &c: OF
Troubles which none among them expert, and
WITCH, when they come. very few h:cep. with
tie dignity OF patience or the rcasouab;.ne.s
Of ccnron seEgc. Hitherto the man las
been the euitor, The wooer; it has been his
,netier to make love. to utter extravaganl pre-
fess'oos, to talk poetry and 1omaucs OF an
eminentlr unwearab!o kind, and to swear that
feelings which By tho very nature Of things it
is impossible to maintain At tAoir
present I,s,aE state of 1t heat ,..,; i ns be
girls believe sll that their lovers tell them
They believe in the absorption OF the ma2'a
whole life IN tho love which, ut tile mo6t, can
not be more than p1tt OF his life; they be-
iievc that things will go on forercr al they
hssc begun, and that tho fire and fer7or of
passion will never cool Joan to tho 1aoro man
ageahle warmth Of friendship. And in this
teliGf O! theirs lies the rock On which not
few make euch 1itiful shipw1eck Of their mar
ried happiness. They e1pect their husbands
tho test! seusc, which. OF course, Iii happy
husbands are to the end Of time. but lovets
as in the cid fond, foolish, caurtiug
days. They expect a continuance Of the ro-
nance, tho postIy, tie e2aegeration, tho
1shts solns, tho microscopic atscntion., tic
l nkSGkltltu VI lBCuEuI NNU l0tefekt, t1a cGQ-
tra3iza:ion OF bis harpines. in her society.
| Just ~ in the dars when she WAS still to 10
| won. or, little later, when, being won. sae
| vas rev in the wearing. And Al We aaid bc-
FIRE. wlfe'a first trial, nud her greatest. il
when her husband begsns to leave or THIS
| Lind Of fcryid !ore-mskiue. and eestlee down
into the Tranquil friend instead.
| It is in the nature Of most women to REQUIRE
continual nsscraucea. just as it is with
children; and very few believe ia 4 love which
i not frequently expressed; while tha ability
TO tt.'st in the vital warmth OF M affection
Ct higher wisdom thsn 1nost Of them possess.
To make them thoroughly hhrpr man must
be always at their feet: and they arc Jealous
ct tvcytllirG-tyen Ct his work-ttat takes
linn away from them, or gives him occasion.
5or thought aSd Interest outside themselves.
hight Of married friendship; and il
they belonE 10 reticent and quiet
! l@'1E mali nan who ears 81 love
{ you once fer aIl, sna then contents himself
with Irving life Of loyalty and kindness, and
rot talking about it-they fret 1t what they
cf half their glory antt more than Lalf ts,eir
dues. They refare to believe in that which il
ret Gaisy 1etea:ed. they want the incense of
Ga':ery, tho excitement Of 'ove-n1akios: anl
II thfte dtsires IT. not 1,inia.c;ea to by thtiz
hurs ds. tho danger is ths: they will ge.
l
;lo :entimerta]ity which dies OF insniticn In
tic quiet ee1enitv OF home. Aoaulights. aod
9 bouquet OF the eat:icet flower. carefully IT.
ranged and ttlde1ls presented. aul thu
changing Lights on Ito mountain tops, md the
exquisite song Of Tie nishsinsaIs-it O'Clock
! in the mornius-ard al the rest ef s''oss
vague AID suggestive deli ghts wii.:cl one:
u.sGe Ike r,sesing-pl7cts Of souI., cnd fur.
.'ie!ed ccsasicn for dclicicns ravi:sa. btcu.ut
" time and nset and the wearing re2,i:ies o1
lrEntss, and the crov6ing pressure Of al.xic
ties, puezile a1d annoying to the Ordinary
Enslishraan: who i. n:t roas by
Ean,: Ea.n,e; h. Mhsn Na,sa, al ~ t;,o world Va
and tho fercr Of the lovs-makiug tlme wa on
him. Ec was quito as romantic As Lls wife
Eut noT hc 5s SOLDERING down life IL fast be.
ccnaing veg psosaic thlrg to him work j:
taking the plseo Of pleasure, ambition OF 70
NANCE; he pooh-poohs her fond renrm-
hrancss Of bsEone folliee, and prefers Ills pipe
IN The warm library 10 : station by the opcl
window, watching sruset because it LOOKS a.
1t did On H0t evening. and shiye,iog with in.
eipient cataFrh. Al this Is very dreadful ie
her women, unfortunately for themselves,
it7a'r,Psg ,ssr 5oanS un and k@epas hold mu'l
The first detection Of this kind is pang
the young wife never fcrgets; but she has
1n.Dy more, and get more bitter once, whea
tie detection takes q personal shepe, .nd
sc!ce pretty little attention ia c41eleasly re.
ceived xit1ort its due reward Of loving
tEarks- Perhaps some usual form Of caiesE
IL omitted IN the hurry OF the mornings work,
Or como gloomy anticipation Of professional
t:oulfe makes him obhvious Of her presence,
Or, fretted By her impo1tunate attentions, be
eusies himself In 4 book, more 70 escape
Icing spoken to than for the backs own ue.-
its. Many woaAn has gu1e into her own
room and had = good crs" becanse her hus-
bard called her by her baotiaul name. and
not By some absurd nickname Invented in the
Gays & their folly; or because, pressed fut
time, he hurried out Of the house Without go
irE through the established formula OF leave
takirg- The lover his ms.ged in ths hua-
land: security has taken the place Of wooing ;
and the woman does not take kindly to the
transformation. Sometimes she plays
dangerous game. and tries what flirting viii,
othcr men vii do: Il her scheme does not
answer, and her husband Is not made jaA-
ious. she is Teyolted, and holds hcrself that
tardly-used being, neglected wife. She can
not accept as compliment the quiet trust
which certain cool headed men OF loyal
kind place in their wivos !: and hia tolerance Of
her flirting. nanner-which he takes to be
msnnar only. With no evil in it, sud with
which, thoueh he may not especially like il,
| he does not inteffefe-eeeIns to her in
difference father tbnn tolerance Yet the con-
f3dence implied in his foKbeAsarce is, in point
Of fact. \ compliment worth all the pfais soins
| EfeE MSeukEU, &1UuKu l4ua HeAIIF IAltQ Ia 1uSf
the thing which anaovs her, and which nhe
s,igmatizes ~ uegleck- II ahe we're to 10 fas
enough, the would find ont her mistake. Eus
r. that time she would have gone too far to
profit By her experience.
Nothing Is more 2nnoyiug thau that display
Of s1eet,on which sone husbands and wives
thow to each other in society, That famil-
isrity Ct tonch, those halt-coneealed cazeases
shose ahsu1d names, That prodigslity Of en-.
de,ring erithttr, that devoted attention which
they haunt in The face Of the public as kind
Of challenge to the world at large to come and
admire tEair happiness, is always noticed
than hughed ut. Yet to somo won,
en- this parade OF love ia the yer5
esserce OF married happiness and part oi
l.ir dearest privilege. They believe them
selves nd,nirod and euvie1, when they are rid
icultd and Bconed At and they think thei,
huet ands Are models for other men 10 COPY
wten they ne taken as examples for Ill Il
avoid. Men who have any real mantiues
bo~ ever. do not give in To this kind OF thing
though there are Some, as eYeminAta ani
gushing IS women Themselves, who Ike this
sloppy eilusiIenesa of love, and ca1zJ
it On into quite old age, fondling u1t
ancient grandmother with cray hail
IS 1avishlY "a they had fondled tht