The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1870-03-31
G. citing Married.
A Girls Explanation of the Difficulties.
From the New York Independent.

| A great deal is said and written now
a-days of the reasons why young men are
afraid to marry. The most frequent of
these is, that the girls of this generation
are too extravagant.
Now am girl and from my stand
point see some things which older and
perhaps wiser heads have failed to notice.
Dear brothers and friends, let me tell you
how it seems to me.
That we are extravagant admit. But
who makes use so =? Did it ever occur to
you that this outlay in dress is to please
you? Is not the girl who makes a fine
| show most sought after? Of course
| there are exceptions who do not
care most of all Cor dress, and men who
in their admiration of ladies look at
something beyond this. But after all, is
it not the most common remark k" Is she
not stylish? }" "What fine appearance
that girl makes" And so it pleases their
vanity to be the escort of such attractive
ones.
Cor myself dress rather plainly
Perhaps could better afford put on this
style than many who assume it. But my
taste does not so lead me; and then, too,
knowing the sins which the love of
dress will drive women to, | try in an
humble way to set better.cxample.
Besides want my gentlemen friends
feel that one girl and, if they will but
see it, hundreds besides, do not care for
dress for themselves Ambitious parents
desire it, and short sighted young men
admire, and so often they appear frivo-
lous, when really their thoughts are far
bevond And let me tell you how am
fr1o cd copo otip1ac tn cova oha aynopca Of
a carriage for the opera, / don my lace
bonnet and walking suit. Now, nv friend
sits beside me, and should be thinking:
" This is sensible girl She comes
to hear the music. ! can afford to bring
her several times for what a carriage
would cost once for these butterfly wo-
men"
All, no, he does not look so far as that
bat, whether he means the comparison or
not, calls my attention to the most gaily
attired ladies, saying admiringly, How
becoming that lady is dressed" "What
an elegant costume Miss - wears. "
do not say.@sto him what am now telling
you; but feel it all, and am almost re-
solved the next time he invites me-if be
does again--to go to all this extrava-
gance.
But SO much show in public place
does not suit my taste; and then do not
wish to be one to brighten my friends
from that hottest and best of earthly rela-
tlons, the married life
One thing more We often hear young
men say, "all that girl wants is money;
| if man has not that, he may poss on"
Very true of some girls but is not the re-
verse as often true? These snowy girls,
whose parents spend their all to marry
them off, are taken, while the true par
ents, who wish their daughters to be
chosen for their real worth, and conceal
the possession eff wealth, find for them a
poor market.
feel this subject keenly myself, for l
have lost valued friend. "Died?"
No; that we're not so hard. But he has
gone; and in his first look / think saw
resolve to bury the love which he dare
not speak A few hin4s thrown out con-
WINGED me that he felt his business sue
cess would not warrant the luxury ola
wife And so he will 90 on in the loneli
ness of hotel life, while his heart yearns
for the comfort and JOYS CT home
| Oh !! if could have told him that be is
more to me than gold and that with his
love should be happy without much that
generous father now laylshes upon me-
But no; he is proud. His wife must not
work. She must be lady, dress and be
gay and until he can afford this he will
steel his heart against love
| Oh, friends, borthers, will you not
think of this Do not expect to COM
mence life as our fathers leave off Only
tchoose a wife with tastes coDgenial to
your own; happy spirit; prudent tor
the things of this life, and yet with aspi-
rations beyond. Be willing to give up
your own extrayagances, and be prrud OF
her not for " the outward adjoining OF
putting on apparel, but for the ornament
of meek and quiet spirit BE not asham-
ed to be called poor. Care not for the
worlds opinion, but only for her whom
your heart loves. Aid so the blessing OF
wife and children shall be yours; and IN
the atmosphere Of home your own char,
acter shall expand into all that is good
and pure and noble.
/ - - HAnnHaV