The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1870-08-09

-tdYoElte auQ.5 IA tIn6i 1ut t.SHibB lo tter
triumpbs. she probably asts pulled up, BY her
husband UNLESS she is 10 India, or wherever
else wo men are at a premium and mistresses
iofthe sitnatian,) and Subsidies into. the best
and most domestici kind 1oE "brood'nR hen.
However that may be, marriage which is the
great: Transforming agent OF a. womans char
scter, seld 7m leaves her.in the same line, !ns
before; though sometimes Of course the foolish
virgin develops into the frieky ma,rou. and the
girl who begins hfe as a gentlemsns favorlte
ends it ae mature siren. .ylsj; ~ i -. .
There are two kinds of gentlemen g faVorites
the bright wome1, VINO amuse them and the
,sempathetlc. ones who love thern.H But these
last are Of doublfui-.what country, people
! call Nchaucy" kind; women who SHOW thelr
feelings too openly, who fall in love too seri-
ously, or perhaps unasked. altogether: being
| more likely to irritate AMI disgu4t than 10
charm. But the bright, animated women who
know. how to talk and do. not preach. who ssy
innocent things in an saudacious way and au+
dacious things IN an innocent way. who arc
pudence,; !Ghick. TO follow: g. lead when shown
them; .apd who know tbe difference between
badinsge and eaInestness, flirting and serious
| tenttons-these are the womenlked by men, !
and whose social success in no visa depends
on their beauty. 0f.one thine the clever NO
man wbo.wants to be a genilemen's iavorite
must always ;bs careful-to keep that halt step
i
superiority. of wit, sssaa ra.st not; shine 80
much of lIer own lightas by contact with
theirs; and her most brilliant salies ought 20
convey the impression OF being struck out BY
then rather than Of being elaborated By her.
self clone: suggested by what had goae be-
fore; If lmprovedson for their advantage. Else
she offeDds the masculine seif.love,' never SLOW
Ito take IRE, and gdias an element of hardness
and self-aeserton Incompatible with her
character OF favorite. Not that men dislike
| all kinds OF f-self-isserIioD. The irrepresslDle
little woman With her trim waist and jaunty
air, pert, pretty, defiant who laughs in the
face OF the bury policeman who could eiteh
| whom ropes and. barriers ;are things TO pe
skipped over or dive6 under. as the case may
| be-she who is all founces and selt-sssertlon
| like q little bantam; IS also most frequently
! gentlemsn's favorite, aud encouraged IN her
| saucy forwardness. Then there is the grace
tul, fragile, swan-1ecksd woman, who gene
ration ago would have been one Of the Della
feelings. and ofa ielleacv so refined that ma.
ture would have had to be yelled and toned
down to the, 5nblued ksy prop for the grace
ful to accept. a'NhwLlays' she p.unTes boldly
| into the midst of the osttremen1ousrea
ls an ardent advocate tor womau's rights, and
perhaps goes ont ION, the RAMPAGE Oh plat
forms aud tIa, like, 10. advocate doctrines as
| little in harmony with the kind of being che
is ss would be e diet Of horSefesh and brandy.
But she gets be. following; and men who Do
not agree With her delight .:o.ses' her OH On
her feTorite topics, just. as Toneo like to see
their little girls pay with their dolls an repeat
10 the harmless dummy the experiences whica
have been real TO themselves. These two
l,c,asscs OF salf-aSsertion are mere piay9 TDicn
amuse Eaep; bu, Wien 1t comes TO reality.
aod is DO longer p.ay-when man IS made
o'feel small, useless, insignificant BY the side
| OF 4 won an-be meets then with. something
he neither likes, nor easily torgiVes; and II
such q woman hal tie beauty or Venus. she
| would not be o gentleaeps fayorlte OF the
| right sort Though some Of course would ad-
nire her immensely. and do their best to spoii
and make q fooI of har..
| a Sentlemea's faror!te of the right sort
mast, among other things, be sell nu Ill the
accdence o. flirting, aud know how to take
it OF exactly Its proper value. She must bs
able TO accsp: broad compliments or Eore
subtle love-makipg, without either too serlcus
IN acceptance or TOO grave a dcprscla;lor.
This is gieI: art, and one that. more than
any other, p.: S men at their case, and sets
the machinery of pleasant intercourse in har-
nonions action. Never to show whether she
is really hit o. nos; never to give fcp occa-
sion fora boast, or an enemy room for pity
ing sneer;to take everything ID good p. r.,
aud 70 be qu:ca ip giving as in receiving;
to be never of har guard, Eever to throw away
her arms, and to conceal any number of foxes
that may be gnawine at her beneath ber cloak
this kind OF flirting, in which most gentle
m!n's fayorites ale adopts, ls an art that
reaches almost the dimensions Of science.
Aud 1t is inst that IN which your very intense,
your very earnest and sln1efe women are ntt+r
failures. They know nothing OF badiuage, but
take everything al grand serieala; and when
you meau to be simply playful and compliment
airy, imagine you in tragic earnest, and think
themselveS obliged 30 frown down o c5mp!i-
ment as q liberty. or else they ceptIt with e
passionate pleasure that shows how deeply it
has struck These intense and very sincere
women are not, as q rule, gsntlemen's fayoI1teB.
unless they have other Qualities of such .
pleasant and seductive kind as to excuse the
enormous 6lunder they make OF wearing their
hearts on their sleeves for drawing-room DAVIS
to peck at, and the still greater b.under OF
coDfoundinc 1--we: making with love. They
are good-tem ,ered they probably are, of the
race of popular women; that is, liked by both
men and women; but they are not gent:emen's
fagori es par ercellence, who moreover are
never liked by women ut all.
Women are quite right 10 one thing, bard as
it seems to say it.. Gentlemens tayorlies.
whom women dislike and distrust, are not usu-
ally good for much morally. They are often
false and inslncere, superficial, snd possibly
with very low aim in life. Aud the men
know oil this but forgive il tor the sake Of the
peasantness which is the grace and charm
that shadows or rather brightens, all The rest;
having oftentines indeed haf-contemptuous
tolerance Of their sirs as not expecting any.
thing better from them. Grant that they ore
talse, tina. sail peri!ously near the WED. are
shiPty and unrrusLwurthy, what OF that !? They
are not hvortes because OF their good qaa!i-
ties, only because OF their peasant ones-that
subtle .jene SaiS quot OF old writer's which
stands one in such good stead when one is at &
loss for al Analysis, a1d which ia The only
term that expresses the st:onS yet indefinite
charm which certain women possess for men.
1t le no. beauty; it IS MOI necessarily clever
ness tasea IN the sense Of educatIou, though
it must be keeuress if los d,pth OF intellect
and smartness If not the power OF reasoning;
it certainly is moi goodness; Il is not always
youth, cor yeL warmth OF tceling-thou2h Oil
these things cope in as characl eristic5 in their
turn; built is companIonsbp and tina power OF
amusing. Sill, what is It that creates tt!s
power, this comp mpanionsbipp smart, pert,
fippaut little mlu1, as women call her, with
shrl!l voice anda ssucy Eir, may be the sntlc-
mems favorite OF one set; o refined, Giuceful
wonau, speaking softb. and with pleading
eyes, may be the favorite OF ano:ber; third
may be q biuot, off-handed young person,
given to speaking her mind 30 that there shall
be no mistake; fourth may be o silent ana
se smingly shy woman, fond OF sitting out
10 retired plaoes.and WitE reputation Tor nir!-
ing Of gquiet kind that sets the wonfn's nm
gers tlneling. There is no settlod rule anyhow,
and all kinds have their special sphere CT shin
ing. according to circumstances, But Wndt'
ever they may BE-, they ire usefu! in their gon-
e1ation and valuable for such work as they
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