The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1870-03-17
Receiving Attentions.
Z FROM Moore's Rural New Yorker.

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Is From Moore's Rural New Yorker.
! We rejoice in the freedom which exists
in this country between the sexes. AS
compared with the relations found inrfor-
eign countries, it is very broad but in
its breadth there is much mutual benefit.
Particularly would we say to young
men and young women, deal frankly With,
one another, let there be no falseness be-
tween you; study each others characters
in the light of truth and honesty; mingle
together without prevarication or deceit
fulness; for SO shall you grow worthieE
of each other.
| But there are considerations touching
this desired intercourse which neither sex
should lose sight Of. The question OF re-
ceiving attention is perhaps most weigh
| ing with young women. From whom,
and to what extent, may / receive atten-
tions ," it becometh every young lady to
ask herself Her own good sense will
anwser wisely, in general, if she but ex-
ercise it. That many do exercise it, we
are glad to know. That q few are care
less in this respect we feel tolerably GER
tain; and it is for these that we write
, Will they bear with us while we offer
some brief suggestions?
In the first place, no young woman
should accept erpensioc attentions from
young men. This is generally Under
stood, in so far as relates to presents and
the like Few girls will receive. costly
gifts from admirers; and this is we'll.
But many, declining gifts, accept what
is equally expensive, and think nothing
of it. 1t is because they do it thought
lessly that we now ask,a hearing What
is the wide difference between book and
boquet, or some bit of jewelry, costing
five or ten dollars, and sleigh-rlde, or q
box at the opera, costing fully as much,
that the one should be refused, and the
other accepted with thanks? The young
mans purse is depleted the same in eithN
er case and this matter is, after ALL
matter of dollars and cents in q degree
too little appreciated. ad
There are young men undergoing pris-
on discipline to-day, who were led into
or me by this very thoughtlessness Of
young women. Opera-boxes and bou-
quets are common things in town, and
the dear ladies pronounce them ssuperb."
Therefore they must be had" reasons
admiring ADoLrHUs and fer the getting
he sacrifices all his ineager salary, cheats
his laundress, swindles his landlady and
defrauds his employer. Rides, and sup
peers, and ball tickets aar customarygn
the country, and these though less expen-
sve than their substitutes or duplicates
in town. foot up rouhdly if largely ln-
dulged in, and consume that substance
which GEORGE The youthful farmer should
be putting aside to buy farm with or
which JOHN the social clerk should be
saving up wherewith to by-and-by stocka
store OF his own. lGngEtU0 To4 eaasfsa
"Excnse me; but from princiDle de- .
cl inc all invitations necessitating much
expense, and this trip you propose will
cost several dollars was the reply of a
young lady wesohce knew, to ttemping
tender of days pleasure. We honored
her for it. 1t was atrue woman's ans
wer, and worthy of the sex How many
in her place would have made it? We
know of one man,-to-day an honest cit
izen, GoD be thanked who lost five OF
the best years OF his life in penibentiary
because a young woman accepted atten-
tions from HIM more than his income,
and that made him defanlter There
are others like her. To such we would
say Take heed for in your carelessnoss
you are doing grievous SIN. navy"
But do you anawerthat a young man
must be weak and worthless who will
thus run into crime to please any woman?
Weak but not always worthless. Weare
all weak The first man ruined his pros
poets to- please the first woman and me
has had imltators without number, ever
since. ITO make life more pleasant Tor
womanknd is as worthy AS any human
desire can be; but the deer creatures are
responsib bic if this qualification cost them
any man s honor or welfare. And this
personal possibility ne would impress
upon all, as the applica ion of our per-
haps already over long sermon Having
made the application, our sermonizeing
| shall for the present cease g589 hra