The weekly clarion. [volume] (Jackson, Miss.) 1863-1882, 1870-09-29

Few will admit that they need any advice
in the honeymoon; fewer still will take it.
Most young persons think. "Well. it Is bard
ii we may not be left 10 ourselves at such a
/ season :! And yet, perhaps. IL we took the
/ experience of the many on this subject they
would admit that the honeymoon has been
he time OF all others when they have been
least able to helP themselves.
1 Is il too much 10 say that during those
4 two months the happiness or the misery of
/ two Young lives Is very nearly settled p
/ Well, perhaps. that is too much 10 say, for
errors and conceptions may be lived down.
/ and habits may be formed or broken after
| the honeymoon, in the course of years. But
| still much is often decided. we will not say
/ in the first few months, but even in the frs;
! few days. Little things are decided In little
ways, and neither understands that il is the
little rift within the lovers lutte" that has
| begun TO show even on the first day.
Patience. patience on both sides are need
ed-bnt especially on the mans side. for he
Is the stronger vessel. and knows life. At
the bottom of her heart his young wife
wants 10 please him; but she cannot bear
him out of her sight-he must account for
every moment. His ways are incompre-
hensible. Why does he want TO go out for
ten minutes after dinner for strollI Why
does he prefer spending an hour or two
down stairs with an old friend at night to
going up into the drawing-room Why
does he want to see the papers at the club,
instead OF going out after bard day In the
city for little afternoon shoppingi Man
Is mystery to many "A Young girl for the
first few months after marriage. She has
not learned that mans interests are and
must be various. How should she suppose
that husband had any other desires than
to make money aud dance attendance upon
his wife? She has never cared for ANYTHING
but love and bonnets. She cannot under
stand that dress, and even matrimony, are
only episodes In a mans life, although they
compose the sum total of many a woman's
We heai good deal about Incompatible
" OF temper-we believe very little in It,
The sexes are almost indefinitely Plastic
People quarrel more from errors of iudg-
ment than from any other cause. You can
live with body If you understand him
ana you can manage ybody If you know
him. prortd'ng you mean well, have a decent
heart and are willing to be patient and
70 make some sacrifices for love-
Newly married women are no doubt very
trying sometimes to their husbands: but II |
is the fault more of their social training
and the want of education than any
thing else. Men should remember how
much girl has to learn, and how much
alas! men have to unlearn. when they frst
begin the married life. We venture to say |
that II all newly married couples were TO |
make contract not to quarrel for six 4
months, they would seldom have any seri- /
Gus quarrels in after-life.
You can get into the habit OF living peaca-
bly, and happily. and that habit is quite as
difficult To break as any habit we know Of.
Let there be no long poutings; let there be
no long, careless Indifferent fits. When a
girl sulks noLteSse oJlige, throw that nasty
cigar away! Nov, sir, 20 up and kiss her:
If she still sulks kiss her again-she won't
be able to hold out long against that mode
Of attack, and five minutes after she will let
you have your smoke, or go down to the
club. or anything else.
If little storms arise--and they will arise |
let them be brief. Don't let us sleep over it,
and wake up the next morning and cudgel
our brains to remember who ndgged last
This kind of thing is mean, it is ungener-
Gus, and it is silly. But If there f. a differ
ence, let Annabel and Ralph both speak
their minds; and let Annabel have a good
cry, if that is her method of winding up
and then a good hug; aud let Ralph see
that it be all made up before dinner, or be-
lore bedtime, or we cannot be responsible
for the consequences