Shepherdstown register. [volume] (Shepherdstown, Va. [W. Va.]) 1849-1955, 1870-05-07
Getting Married.

teS' b'edA ueel 10 sdiu shu "ihSu
now s.days Of the reason why young
men are afraid to marry. The most fre-
quen, OF these is. that The girls OF this
| generation are 100 eItrsvsgant.
That we are exrsvsganiI admit. Bot
Who makes US so Did il ever occur to
you ,hs, this outlay in dress is 10 please
you Is no, the girl that makes fine
show the most sought after ! OF course
there are piions-girls who do not
care most Of all for dress, and men who
in their admiration Of ladies', look a,
something hey ohd this. Bu. after all, is
i, no, The most common remaik-"ls she
not stylish :" "Whaia fine appearance
lha, girl makes" And so il please. their
vanity 10 be The escort Of such attractive
ones.
For myself dress rather plainly. Per.
hsps could better afford 10 pu, on style
lhsn many who assume H. But my taste
does no, SO lead me and ihen, 100.
knowing the sins which the love OF dless
will drive women to. try in an humble
way 10 set better example.
Besides, wan, my gentlemen friends
TO feel that one girl, aud if they viii but
see it, hundreds besides, do not care for
dress for themselves. Ambitious parents
desire it, and short sighted young men
admire, and so often they appear irivo.
lus, when really their thought is far be.
yond And let one tell you how | am
tired sometimes. TO save the expense
of a carriage for the opera, | don my lace
home, and walking suit. Now, my
friend sits beside me. and should be think
ing This is a sensible girl. She cones
to hear the music. can afford 10 bring
her several times for what a carriage
would cost once for these butterfly wo-
men.
All. no. he does not look so far as this
but whether he means the comparison or
not, caIls my attention 10 the most gaily
aiiired ladies, saying admringly, "flow
becoming that lady is dressed" "Whst
an elegant costume Miss - wears"
do moi say TO him what | sm telling
you; bu, feel it all. and am almost re-
solved the next time he invites me-if he
does it sgain-to 60 10 all this exnava-
gance.
But so much show in public place
does not suit my taste. aud then | do TO,
wish TO be one 10 frghten my friends from
the holiesl and best Of earthly relations,
the married life.
One thing more. We often hear young
men say. "All that girl wanis is money;
il a man has no, that he may pass on
Very true Of some girls. but is no. The
reverse as often true These snowy
girls. whose parents spend thsir all TO
marry them off. are taken While the
true parents who wish their daughters TO
be chosen for their real worth, and con-
cesl the possession Of wealth, fnd for
them q poor market.
l feel this subject keenly myself, for
| have los. . valued friend. "Died 7"
No; ,ha, were not so hard. But he has
gone and in his fret look think saw
a resolve 10 bury the love which he dare
no, speak. A few hints thrown out con-
vnced me that he felt his business sue
cess would no, wsrrsn, the luxury of a
wife. And so he will 60 On in the lone!-
ness OF hotel life, while his hear, yearns
for the comforts and joy Of home.
Oh If could have told him that he
is more to me than gold and that with
lis love should be happy withou, much
that q generous father now lsvishes upon
me. But he he is proud. his vile must
not work. She must b. lady. dress and
be gay and uRnl he can afford this be
will steel bic heart aasisst love.
Oh, friends. brothers, will you moi think
of this Do not expect 10 commence life
as our fathers leave of. Only choose a
wife with tastes congenisl 10 your own
shappy spirit, pruden. for the things Of
this life. and yet with aspirations beyond.
Be willing 10 give up your own ex,ravs.
gsnces; and be proud Of her not for 1.-THE
outward adornng Of putting on apparel,
but for the ornament OF meek and quiet
spirit" Be not ashamed 10 be called
poor. Care not for the worlds opinion,
but only for her whom your heart loves.
And 90 The blessings Of wife and children
shall be yours and IN the atmosphere
OF home your own character shall expand
into all that is good. end pure, snd noble.
~. I. IndfDendeni.