The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1856-1888, 1870-02-12
To Young Men.-Be Wise.

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tion Monthly. published by the Young Mems
Christian Association of New York, we find an
article headed 50 Be Wise" containing advice to
young men, from which wecull a few paragraphs j
a WORD ABOUT DRESS.
Be wise about uour dress. 1t is your first in
PRODUCTION, by which you are mentally measured
by the gentleman as he opens the cover of the
other-in riting-wh you hand him. DO not
be slovenly. When you have made a name for
all that is noble, you can afford TO be SO, out not
now. Never be filthy, for reasons of every kind.
! Never be snowy. 1t is all wrong if the most
memorable thing about you when you have gone
be an amazing breastpin, or a surprising vest. 1t
will be much better if the gentleman s. really
does not remember how you were got up" 1t is
a pretty good rule never to be in the van of the
fashion, and never to hold on to style which
nearly all other men have dropped. Here, but
not everywhere, the Latin proverb is in point
80 In the middle you are SAFEST
USE OF MONEY.
Be wise about your money. Specie is much
like other metal, and greenbacks are paper print
ed carefully, and sometimes very filthy. But
money represents all that you buy with it, ana
tho want of it often means painful shifts, sore
temptations, bitter regrets. Never live on the ex-
IRENE edge Of your income. Save a little. 1t
will teach you self-control. Don't learn to feel
unhappy until you have bought something, when
you have three dollars not immediately wanted.
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borrower is servant to the lender" Be sparing
in laying out on yourself, and generous when
comforts for g the old folks at home,'' or the
young sisters, are concerned. Give of all you
possess to God, on principle and plan. As the
Sabbath, given honestly to God, biesses all the
week from Monday morning till Saturday night,
SO the proportion given to God makes all that is
left go farther.
Never bet, never gamble in any form, even in
the lottery at a " church fair" Tell the most
charming canvasser for it, that ii is not fair, and
that you are 90 principled " on it. In her secret
heart she will not respect you less-perhaps will
wish her brother did likewise. Gambling is a
short cut to destruction. One hears of a lucky
chance that set up or kept up a scamp, but only
now and then of the dozens whose means leaked
out invisibly-nObody knew how-no one but the
scOundrel that plucked the silly pigeons. " What
is hit is history, what is missed is mystery
Do not assess yourself with taxes for tobacco or
drink. Numbers Of excellent people pass through
life irreproachably without either of these. Is it
true that retailers of drink sell over the counters
to casual callers fourteen hundred and sixty mil
lions of dollars worth? we amend the question
that they take this sum for drink over their
counters yearly? Young men of the United
States, yOu could save much of that with benefit
to yourselves and your country.
HOW TO GET FRIENDS.
Be wise in the selection of your friends. Some
l know may say " selection why we have no
room to select we have hardly any, and must
take what we can get" [ am aware it is SO with
many. and at this point l would say q word TO
young men so situated.
You enter a city with perhaps one introduction,
and that possibly to a clergyman whose time is
too fully occupied to admit of his doing much to
help you socially. How shall you form a circle
of friends? Join yourself on other and proper
grounds and fill your place to a church, in all its
church-work. The church a0antS you and some
will notice you, in the course of time. They will
introduce you to others, and so the number will
grow as fast as it is desirable, having regard TO
your means, your time, and the need you have
for self-culture, which requires some hours at
least of each week. Go to the Young Mems
Association, and congenial companionships will
grow up naturally, and without effort, in your
own line of life. You will get as many friends
in this way as you require, for be sure of this,
young men, one of the most abused words in our
current speech at this moment is the word
. friend" For every twenty instances IN which
it is used, g acquaintance - should be employed,
and even that should be qualified by the adjective
50 casual" The English poet satirized her who
had her dear five hundred friends" Poor
woman! She had not probably five friends. But
there are those who number them by the thousand,
to the real benefit of no mortal, but the engraver!
Make a few real friends one a year will be rapid
progress. You will come to have their circle as
acquaintance and get friends out of them.
As to the elaborate efforts that young men are
sometimes tempted to make to 9 get introduced -
into : good society," in many cases the result is
bad. Expenses, late hours, frantic efforts to be
at home and agreeable in it, disregard of legiti-
mate business, and neglect of natural associations,
with heads turned by occasional success-are the
too frequent results. | have known young men
struggle by the dear-bought aid of the tailor and
even dancing-1naster, as they thought, upward.
The contempt L felt for them at first turned into
pity, as | saw their humiliating failure, not only
as to the real business of life, but even as to their
poor and silly ambition. Young men! be thor
Ough, self-respecting, upright and modest, and
people will find you out and become your friends,
in sufficient numbers for all your interests. When
you have found them, stick to them. There is a
sweet and Uncommon pleasure in saying of any
true man, "w have been friends for twenty
Years"
MAKE YOURSELF WANTED.
Remember you want to have good positions
Of trust, of Influence and of afluence. But the
community wants men of intelligence, trustworthi-
ness and faculty, just as much as you want the
places. Acquire and maintain these qualities.
and. that gold watches will lie about the streets
and find none to pick them up, is about as likely