Smyrna times., 1870-02-23
Don't Stay Too Late.

One of the advantages of being ''past thirty"
is that one now and then can put in a word of
good, motherly advice to the other sex. So I'll
begin at once, and say to any single gentleman
reader of Hearth and Honle who chooses to
hsGen-Don't stay too late.
At the store or office? No. You know very
well | don't mean that. | am not fighting
imaginary dangers, but real ones. | mean
simply, don't stay too late when you go to
spend aquiet evening with young lady. It's
not fair it's shOrt-sightcd; and its pretty sure
to wear out your welcome. Even if the poor
thing is eventually to allow you to stop until
death do you part, that's no reason why you
should beStOw too much Of YOUR tedOusneSS
upon her at the outset When she really
wishes your visits to be longer, you II know it:
and even then be chary Of the moments after
eleven. AT any rate, don't suffer yourself to
be mlSlGd by the usual commonplace forms of
detention that, in nine Gases out of ten, arise
from sudden Consciousness on the lady smart
that she may have been betrayng her weari-
ness rather too plainly. 1t won't hurt YOU to
be longed for after you are gone but beware
OF ever causing girl to give sigh of relief
when the hall door closes after you. There's
a sandman for the parlOr as well as for the
nursery, and after certain hour, except in
special cases, whenever he finds the eyes too
we'll drilled to SuccumbtO his attacks, he sprin-
kles his sand around the heart After that
your best efforts to please are wasted Every
word VIII CRATE, every winning attempt of
yours be met only with the silicate of emotion
at best. | Know all about it, I've received
yOung-gentIcmen callers in my day; YES, and
enjoyed receiving them, if ever girl did. I'd
think all day that perhaps John, for instance,
might come III the evening, and on these oc
casiOns I've gone down to tea with a rosebud
IN my hair and happy flutter in my heart
Yes, and We started at the ring of the door
bell, and when at Inst he came ln smiling and
bowling, We looked just as if | didn't care a
single bit. There were others, too-nOt Johns
by any means, but friends who were always
welcome, and whom it was right good and
pleasant to see. But that fact didn't make
nulla nd void all somni6c law; it didn't make
father and mother willing that the house should
be open till midnight; it didn' make it deSira
bic that should feel rebuke in everybody,
Good morning when, with thrObbng heaC
and weary eyes, | came down late to break fast
No, you may he Shure it didn't.
Therefore. | learned soon to honor those who
. knew enough to 90 when half past ten came
while those WHO didn't know were the ban,
OF my existence. How they would linger anC
' SklrmlSh, aud stand up and sit down and NOV,
about and look at the clock. aud in a THOUSAND
G tOrturing ways say Good bye without goinl
r forgetting that could not turn them out O
t the room, yet Judging by that token that thei
;. presence was nectar and balm for all wearneSs
), Now, never think that these friends stait
| from klndllneSs to their weary hostess--not a
i ALL They staid because they didn't kno,
! enough to go. They liked the warm room pei
L hapS and dreaded the cold street, but bevooC
# that they lacked the simple grace of taking her
v selves OFT promptly and handsomely All
d what gift that is in man or woman, to kno,
c when to go, and knowing it, to stand not upo
the order OF going, but to go at once | kno
u a few such persons. They radiate peace an
Is reSttulnesS, or they sparkle and scintate {
IS they arouse and inspire yOu as the case may b.
An hour glldes away, then another, and in tn
v midst Ot another you are conscious only of gel
Df tie " Good by" flash, and they are gone The
n hundred things rush upon yOu-yOu wish yo
OF had asked them this, or told them that, go
lie think how pleasant it was to meet them an
er you long to see them again.
d. 80, dear single gentleman, whoever an
wherever you are, the next time you go out
1t spend quiet evening with lady, rememb,
&c my words. Young girls are human; they r.
* qulre rest and sleep; they are ameanabe
lg the benefits OF domestic system and order thC
We have precious heritage If Strenth, health an
er good looks to guard. Above all, if they al
true, sensible girls they secretly respect a m,
he who does not yield to the temptation to ling
tt pat a reasonable hour In word, thous
1t they may be glad to see you, an evening vi.
by is not species of eternity.
or Don't go too late, and don't go by inche
lSt GOod-by' is the flower of a welcome.
sst you wish it to retain its aroma the fewer leay
lt 1t sheds the better. Hearth and Home.