Delaware tribune. [volume] (Wilmington, Del.) 1867-1877, 1870-03-03
From the New York Independent
Getting Married.

A GIRLS EXPLANATION OF THE DIFFICULTIES.
A great deal is said and written nowadays
of the reasons why young men are afraid to
marry. The most frequent Of these is, that
the girls of this generation are too extrava-
CANT
Now am u girl ; and from my stand
point see some things which older and per-
haps wiser heads have failed TO notice. Dear
| brothers and friends, let me tell you how 1t
| seems TO me.
| That we are extravagant admit But who
makes us so Did it never occur to you that
| this outlay in dress is to Please the gentle
men And does it not please you :? Is not
| the girl who makes a fine show most sought
| after Ofoourse, there are exceptions-girls
| who do not care most OF all for dress, ana
men who in their admiration of ladies look
ut something beyond this. But, after all, Is
| it not the most common remark" Is she
not stylish r. What fine appearance
that girl makes" And SO it pleases their
vanity to be the escort of such attractive
ones.
For myself, dress rather plainly. Per
haps could better afford to put on this style
than m my who assume it. But my taste
does not so lead me and then, too, knowing
the sins which love ofdress will drive women
to, try in an humble way to set better
example.
Besides, want my gentlemen friends to
feel that one girl, and, if they will but see ii,
hundreds besides, do not care for dress Tor
themselves. Ambitious parents desire lt,and
short sighted young men admire it !. and so
often they appear frivolous, while really their
thought is Tar beyond. And let me tell you
how am tried sometimes. To save the eX-
| pense of carriage for the opera, don my
.. lace bonnet and walking suit. Now, my
friend sits beside me, and should be thinking.
g This is q sensible girl She comes to hear
Q the music. eau afford to bring her several
times for what a carriage would cost once
/, for these butterfly women"
! All. no. he does not look so far as that ;
e but, whether he means the comparison OF
: not, calls my attention TO the most gayly'
i attired ladies', saying admiringly,. "iiow
! becomingly that lady Is dressed. VIVA,
), do not say to him what am now telling
n you but feel it all, and am almost resoly
ed the next time he invites me-if he doe'
10 again-to go to all this extravaganza.
e But SO much show in public place doe
ID not suit my taste and then do not wish |,
:, be one to frighten my friends from that hol
~ ~ liest and best of earthly relations, the mar
N ried life.
,e One thing more. We often hear youni
v, men say, sAll that girl wants is money;
10 man has not that, he may pass on" Yer
d. true of some girls; but is it not the reyers
10 as often true? These snowy girls, who's
y, parents spend their. all to marry them OF
be arc taken while the true parents, VIII
a wish their daughters to be chosen for the
ill real worth, and so CONCEAL the possession
rd wealth, find for them poor market.
'er | feel this subject keenly myself, for | hay
ID, lost a valued friend. ''Died p No; tb
,nma were not so hard. But he has gone and
AN his last look think saw resolve to bul
,as the love which he dare not speak A fe
he hints thrown out convinced me that he Il
be his business success would not warrant Il
OF luxury of a wife. And so he will so on
gu, the loneliness Of hotel life, while his hea
;n@ n.r yearns for the comforts and joys of HON
nj OH if could have told him that he
the more to me than gold and that with
AXE love should be happy without much tn
to n generous father now lavishes upon m
b." Bit no; he is proud His wife must Il
work. She must be lady, dress, and
~ ,,s gay; and until he can aif3rd this he W
!. il steel his heart against love-.
Ion. Oh, friends, brothers will you not thi
will of this? Do not expect to commence liie
'our our fathers leave off. Only choose W
with tastes congenial to your own; hap
shirt prudent for the things OF this II
and vet with aspirations beyond. Be "
"A ling 10 give up your own extravanccs; O
INK he proud of her not for " the outward ado
ing of putting on apparel, but for the or
lem ment of IA meek and quiet spirit" Be
won ashamed to be called poor. Care not
n Of the worlds opinion, but only for her VIII
We" your heart Loves. anu 80 ,mo o,sss'ne nS ~
adel- vile anu chnuioI ~ sna' ~ ,r n,,,n oh,ra,
.hern a.ni1s p,sand into ali that ia good and n
1 and sna .d nohIe