The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1870-10-10
GRAND STREET METHODIST CHURCH.
Matters Matrimonial Lessons for Yomuz
Ladies' and Hints for Young GentIemen--
ssllyes Courtship and matrimony.n ta

Matters Matrimonial Lessons for Young
Ladies' and Hints for Young GentIenen.--
sEyes CourtshiD and nlatrimony.o
The Rev. L. I. Hendricks, pastor, preached
very instructive sermon yesterday at the Metho.
DIST church. Grand street. Brooklyn, forming
one OF q series, continued from Sunday to Sunday,
on the subject OF 'Eve-courtship-the principles
which should govern the parties" The church noe
being fashionable one the attendance was almoss
exclusively confined to the ordinary congregation
but there were some three four dozen gentlemen
among them evidently inquring old bachelors nor
belonging to the nock, who went In the hope OF
hearing some new light thrown upon their be-
nigbted intelects respecting matters SO fraught
with interest to those leading the cherries and so
lated existence OF what Is ironically called single
blessedness.
The preacher having announced the subject, read
the text-Proverbs XXI, 30:-"Favor Is deceluui,
and beauty vain; but woman that feareth the
Lord she shall be praised'-proceeded to speak or
the necessity for those who have yet to enter the
matrimonial state to be-
GUIDED BY CORRECT PRINCIPLES.
He said, they who have no fixed principles to gov.
ern their conduct are exposed to q thousand evils,
and liable to commit thousand mistakes. Good
principles are as important in this business In
any Of the occurrences Of life. The merchant cannot
hope TO succeed In his undertaking who does not
mariner cannot pass the great solitude OF
the ocean without proper principles Of action
No young man should enter on the perous pursuit
Of matrmony without having settled principles by
which he Will govern his conduct TO the end. No
young lady should trust her frail bark upon this
settled and often tempest-agated sea without some
good principles to guide her amid those untr1ed
and unknown peris, and which will prove anchors
to hold you amidst the rush OF feeling and the as.
sauts OF temptation: The principles which should
guide female are-nrst. with respectto her own
duct, and second, with respect to the character OF
the man with whom she may be united in wedock
NATURE AND COMMON SENSE
dictate modeSty in cOnduc. to the female. Let ain.
certy characterize all your intercourse with the
posite sex. Avoid all duplicy. Let nothing pro.
coed from your lips or be observed on you thar
would give you
THE REPUTATION OF COoUETrE.
Do not let him finger IN miserable suspense, but
let him know your sentiments II you really wish
ways. There ID certain species of easy familiarity
In your behaviour that may satisfy him he has moth
ing to hope for; or you may get common friend TO
explain. 1t Is important TO ascertain whether O
gentleman, who has the appearance OF being
lover fails TO speak explicitly from the motive I
have mentioned or from having another attach
ment
DO NOT MARRY FOP:
there Is nothing will ensure him decent stand
ing In the community. That class Of men are known
by their conversation and outward habit, and then
their attire proclams them to the passing stranger
Avoid o spendthrft. III he Is one you have no Sc
curity that he will not, at no distant day plunge
you into all the trials OF poverty. Though he may
have Doundless fortune, will you marry man
who will bring upon you not only poverty but DIS
gracef How many females have TO lament having
united themselves TO men OF fortune with the know
| ledge that they were prodgals and pronigaief In
time the immense fortune disappears, Ike snow be-
| fore the summer sun. Ladies,
DO NOT MARRY MTsER: -
such man may be rich; but his riches VIII yleld
you little else than misery. and you VIII be In q
thousand ways mortified by such connection
l reading among gold and pearls, yet forbidden ID