Weekly Trinity journal., 1870-07-02

DO NOT.
That many of those whom society calls oul
leading young men never marry, or do not
marry till they reach an age when their char
acters are too fully established for them ever to
make desirable husbands, is Il truth that is grad
ually but surely breaking upon the hearts OF
fathers and mothers When we see women
reaching the age Of twenty-five and upward in a
single state, we know that they have not been
sought, or circumstances have not thrown con-
genial persons in their way, or they were too
difficult to please, until the day went by on
which they ceased to be pleasing. But with
men the case is different. 1t becomes young
women to inquire into the cause of this tendency
toward celibacy, both because it is a woman $
place to fill the positions of wife and mother,
and she finds her full happiness in no other
sphere, aud because this lack OF marriage wrongs
her, breeds corruption in society, makes men
unconscious of their manhood, and prevents the
carrying out of Gods prmeval law-the replen-
ishing of the earth. Inquiring into it, they will
find the sin lying at their own doors.
That men really prefer male companions and
cigars, or clubs with late suppers the society
OF harlots, to a fondling and fondled wife and
pretty babes, cannot for one moment be granted.
1t would be a label upon the sex. No man lives
who does not admire refined woman, with her
gentle manners, her sweet voice and her musical
laugh No man lives who does not long to be
the pride and strength of one noble woman ; to
be the centre OF one home system to be the
north star to some drifting ship. Why, with
this choice in his heart, does he go so diametri-
cally opposite?
The majority of our worthy, talented young
men are poor. They struggle for education with
their own hands, and win it; while on the CON
trary, the majority of our educated and accom-
pllshed young ladies are Iich, or their fathers
have means by which they have acquired these
accomplishments. Very few women, when OBJ
Ilged to support themselves from the salaries
they receive, ever able to earn much more
than their daily bread. Such, God bless them,
often get good, noble husbands, aud always
ought to have, but they can seldom win the in
teIlectua. An educated man. nine times out of
ten, wants an educated wife though he may not
wish or look for one whose strength of mind
equals his. What shall he do?
Wealthy girls show too often by their words
and their choice that they seek wealth to match
their own that money stands before brains to
Them They give young men to understand by
their extravaganza in dress, their careless waste
of 1t, and their cutting remarks about poor
clothes and poor dwellings, that they would
never be willing to commence at the foot of the
ladder and climb with some noble soul to the
top. They often encourage young men in fool
lsh expenditure for them, seldom or never saving
by their actions - It's not necessary to utter
everything in words" Put your two dollars in
your pocket as IA little stone in the foundation
you ought to lay for future wealth, instead Of
hiring carriage; | can walk As well" They
manifest little economy-One of the chefest vir-
tues in woman-and decidedly attractive to
every man. They profess often dislike for work
OF any kind, especially homework, and nothing
sooner disgusts young man in his heart with "A
woman than this. He marres her, expecting to
work for her day after day for over three hun
dred days in the year, and not for one year only
but as long as he lives earning all the money
he can for her, buying home for her. and she
not raising her hands to do one thing to HELM
him. 1t is no wonder that such one-sided af-
. fairs do not please men-they do not please God
either He never intended that one should be
the slave and the other the king or queen in
married HE. One would suppose that Il woman
could find no higher pleasure than the working
for and with man who had risked his fortune
and reputation with her, than in cooking a meal
for him with her own white hands, after the
work of the day. Not that woman should al
ways do their own kitchen work if they are
able to hire it done, they may do good by the
act, because servant girls must have work and
wages but man prizes Willingness in woman
to do 1t If necessity requires, aud in most cases
necessity does require it, that II man may, in his
youth, earn something for less propitious cay
Young women show too much iondness for
Parties ana irlVoIlues generally, to warrant the
bellet that they will be true to one home and
one man. No one ever yet heard Of man even
II ever so vile, who wished his wife to be over
charming to any man save one, and that Une
himself
Again, young women are too delicate in health
10 oe OF much help to a man in the struggles of
lie. Ihey need to be cared for more tenderly
tnan ne has time, money, or patience to rive
and so, knowing that he shall receive no assist
ance IN sustaining himself from day to day, aud
tearing lest sick wife shall keep him poor dis
courage his heart, and thwart his ambition he
resigns All nope OF ever knowing the joys Of
husband and father, and becomes in time, ac-
cording as his emotions or passions govern him.
dyspepuc, or man of the world No man
win ever so many Golfers filled, wishes to have
SICK woman as an appendage, and If he is poor
he certainly cannot afford to have one. If there
were real necessity for this feebleness among
glrls-tbere is reason for it often among married
women, which, were their husbands manly, they
would know how to remedy-it might be mems
du'y to marry them, and their fathers of
burden, and build up their own characters to
an almost superhuman manhood by such beauti-
1ul self-sacrhce. One cause of this frailty is
lack OF proper exercise, for which their mothers
are III good part responsible; and another, lack
OF proper diet, about which they should have
been taught from their bahyhood ; and a third
canse is tight lacing, for which they have their
own precious selves to thank. Three-fourths of
all the weakness Of women at the present day
are Attributable to this monstrOus pactice ANY
woman OF any sense knows how natural waist
would look If allowed to grow as God intended
She knows, too, how that constant pressure upon
the heart, through which all the blood, of the
body ought 10 pass, and freely, once every two
upon the liver, which should have un-
obslructed action that the impurities Of the
body may be carried off upon the lungs, which
should have space to enlarge very much beyond
their natural size upon the wonderfully y-made
back kbone, The railway of the brain, which, when
Dandnged by whalebone aud steel, having no