Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1870-06-08
Getting Married.

4 great deal is said and written now-a-
days Of the rea on why young men are afraid
to marry The most frequent of these is,
that the girls Of this generation are too ex-
travagant
Now am girl and from my standpoint
see some things which older and wiser
heads have failed to notice. Dear brothers
and friends let me tell you how it seems TO
me.
That we are extrayagant | admit. But
who makes us so ? Did it ever occur to you
that this outlay in dress is to please the gem
tlemen Is not the girl who makes fine
show most sought after2 OF course there
are exceptions, girls who do not care most OF
all for dress, and men who in the admiration
Of ladies look at something beyond this. But,
after all, is it not the most common remark,
" Is she not stylish What a fine appear
ance that girl makes" And so it pleases
their vanity TO be the escort Of such attrac-
tive ones.
For myself, dress rather plainly Per-
haps | could better afford to put on style
than many who assume. But my taste
does not so lead me and then, knowing
the SINS which love Of dress will drive wo-
men to, try in an humble way to set a bet
ter example.
Besides, | want my gentlemen friends tc
tell that one girl, and, if they will but see it
hundreds besides do not care for dress fol
themselves. Ambitious parents desire it, anc
short-sighted young men admire it ; and SC
often they appear frivolous, while really theii
thought is far beyond And let me tell yoJ
how | am tried sometimes To save the ex
pense Of carriage for the opera, | don my
lace bonnet and walking suit. Now my frienC
sits beside me, and should be thinking, "Thi
is a sensible girl. She comes to hear the mu
sic. | can afford to bring her several time
for what a carriage would cost once for thes
butterfly women"
All no, he does not look so far as that, bu
whether he means the comparison or not, call
my attention to the most gayly attired ladies
saying admiringy, " How becoming tina
lady is dressed" What an elegant costum
Miss - wears" do not say to him wha
am telling you now but feel it all, an
am almost resolved the next time he invite
me--if he does again-to go to all this ex
travagance.
But so much show In public place doe
not suit my taste and then do not wish t
be one to frighten my friends from that holi
est aud best Of earthly relations, the marie
T life.
One thing more. We often hear youn
men say, Z" All that girls want is money;
a man has not that, he may pass on Yer
true of some girls but is not the reverse a
often true? These snowy girls, whose pa
, rents spend their all to marry them of, ar
taken while the true parents who wish thei
daughters to be chosen for their real wortl
! aud so conceal tho possession Of wealth, fin
for them poor market.
: felt this subject koeniy myself for hay
] lost valuable friend Died ?" Mo- thi
were not so hard. But he has gone and
/ his last look think saw resolve TO bur
{ the love which he dare not speak. A le
3 hints thrown out convinced me that his bus
ness success would not warrant the luxury
= wife And so he will 90 on in the loneline
] Of hotel life, while his heart yearns for I'll
/ comforts aud Joys of home,
0 Oh ifI could have told him that he is MOI
to me than goldi and that with his love | shoul
e be happy without much that a generous f
NlNl INV iiNlohNo upon i'uN ~ ~
d proud His wife must not work. She mu
!, be lady, dress, and be gay and until
n can afford this, he will steel his heart again
love.
l. Oh, friends, brothers, will you not think
n this2 DO we expect to commence liio
o our fathers leave Off Only choose wi
n with tastes congenia to your own; happy spi
n it; prudent for the things of this life, and y
with aspirations beyond. BE willing to gi
up your own extravagonces, and be proud
her not for the outward adorning of putting
apparel but for the ornament of meek al
quiet spirit BE not ashamed to be call
poor Care not for the worlds opinion b
N only for he whom your heart loves. And
l. the blessing of wife and children shall
10 yours; and in the atmosphere of home 20
IS own character shall expand into all that
Of good, pure and noble.