New-York tribune., 1870-04-16
BR0OKLYN WOM4NS CLUB.

wOMAS's IDEAS on GENTLE COURTESY WITH
GLANCE Al TIE MFARLAND TRIAL.
The Club-roOm was crowded yesterday after
by members and their guests The report OF the
Board OF Directors read and accepted Mrs Barney
read statement OF the business deaderata of the Club
Miss Emma Marwedei the kindly, siinpehearted projcc-
tor OF the womau's Horticultural school, presented her
circular for consideration The President thought the
plan spec ally good one a. would take into
the open air aud give them the better health they de-
poraby needed. GoOd-breodng. and it, Essentials,
was discussed by the Club. Mrs Field thought that
golden rule Mrs. Bulard observed that II must nave
been in referring 70 this rule OF unse.hnesh that Ed
ward Everett said that ABRAHAM Llncoin va the pes
bred he had ever met The PRESIDENT thought tAat
the principle OF goodbreedng IL As deep as human ma
turc itself A. mechanics there Is constant effort To
get rid OF friction 80 the most Ierfect con
stantly endeayOr- TO dispose of frctioh PEOPLE must
tirs Thp foundations Of courtesy she thought, were
reverence and justice; reverence for humanity for the
az the cnIfru rule. Courtesy kept too much like
srd,y othesfor occasions. L. is in the family among
intimate friends, that II i. most wanted An untold
amount spiritual strength i wasted IN keeping qnet
in restraining temper under d,cordant circumstances
merry member gave her ideas VI the Eemehte OF Good
Another mrmber made pleasant little speech gorfy
-r9cefy told the story Of Louis XIV and Lord stair
The President said that rankness l. often gwen as an
excuse t lof S Sd W6 cdresy member re-
peated the speech Of the NewYork editor who enoned
enter their Offices with: NOW I'm going tO De uNsA
with yOuW -,
Mr. Bureigh thought that frankness often passed the
point OF i'll nature one may say almost anything with
ont being ibred IL actuated by real spirit OF kind
meas The princplrs OF gOOd-breedng require that
shall be actuated by that spirit IL never does souI
much good to point out It's faults until tits looking ior them
With All It's own energy. IL l. never worth while
10 distress people by frankness IN defining their faults
until they are themselves ready to realize them Much
good done by pointing out their virtues snow
them that you apprcc!ltye Of the good things that
are in them. We want a Endier atmosphere, and
that ia why / wish women TO DO brought
into closer contact with each other They supply to
each other the sympathy and appreciation that they
peculiarly need Whether suffrage IA OF consequence or
not association certainly Justice is generally
snubDed like poor relation while charity u eGtOled
They are relations than thought Ihe mghest
qualify ~ charity Is clearly the faults or those We
love aud spite Of them-not to shut our eyes 10
are accused OF having very little OF IT.
We estimate good breeding as Just
proportion OF QuaDJes-the lack or defines
an excess OF something The senses have their rights s
well as everything else. The eye, the ear, the nose must
not offended by unpleasant sights, sounds, and odors
to compel people look at you whether they Wsh W or
not Good breeding Will yet be visible III clothes ana
fronts she surprised every day 70 ma
how very little have away from barbarian Moth
ing had more enphatcay convinced her OF Liis thah
that the stealing from locked receptacle and bringing
into court OF wu's private letters by her husband eA
cited no attention and reprObatOn. Loud apphuseI
The question OF prison work was introduced mem
her thought that prisoners should be Obliged 10 WORK
While urI for The benefit " their destitute families
Referred 10 the Committee on Prisons. ,
In vas announced that Miss Virginia Townsend WonId
lecture the benefit Of the Club On tht evening Oh
Aurl %, 1T the Brooklyn Athen8um SUBJECT queen
Catharine de Medici and her Times"