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tians and Mexicans, the Turkish LOal
on the Spanish, is considered create
exercise of mind than to know fresl
salmon from stale, and how to lay il
household stores with judgment. Blu
the last is just as important as the first
and even naOsss- -s0s far the OccasiOna
pill, however valuable, is not so valua
BILE as the daily pudding, and not al
the accumulations made by lucky spec
ulation or of any use if the house-ba:
which holds them has hole in it.
Once women thought it no i'll com
4 pliment that they should be considered
the depositaries of the highest mora
sentiments. If they were not held tn,
wiser or the more logical of the two sec
tions of the human race, they wer,
held the more religious, the more an
gelic, the better taught of God, and thu
nearer to the way of grace. Now they
repudiate the assumption as an insult
and cali that the sign of their humilia
ton which was once their distinguish
ing glory. They don't want to be pa
tent; self-sacrifice is only euphem
ism for slavish1 Submissions to manly
tyranny; the quiet peace of home j:
miserable monotony; and though they
have not come to the length of renoun
cling the Christian virtues theoretically
their theory makes but weak practice
and the womanliness integral to Chris
tianity is by no means the rule of life
of modern wOmanhood. But the cd.
dest part of the present odd state Of
| things is the curious blindness Of women
to what Is most beautiful in themselves
And granting even that the world has
! turned 80 far upside down that the one
sex does not care to please the other,
still there is good of itself in beauty,
which some of our modern women
seem to overlook. And of all kinds OF
| beauty that which is included in what
we mean by wOmanliness is the great
est and the most beautiful. A woman
ly woman has neither vanity nor hard
ness. She may be pretty, most likely
she is, and she may know it; for, not
being a fool, she cannot help seeing it
when she looks at herself in the glass !;
but knowing the fact is not being con-
scious of the possession, and a pretty
woman, if of the right ring, is. not vain,
though she prizes her beauty as she
ought. And she is as little hard as vain.
Her soul is not yet given up to ribbons,
but neither is she Indifferent to eXter-
nails, and to dress among them. She
knows that part of her natural mission
is to please and be charming, and she
knows that dress sets her of, and that
men feel more enthusiastically towards
her when she is looking fresh and pret-
ty than when she is q dOwdy and a
fright. And, being womanly, she likes
the admiration of men, and thinks
their love better thing than their in
difference. If she likes men she loves
children, and neither shunts them to
the nursery siding, nor frets over her
miseries when forced to have them
about her. She knows that she was
designed by God and nature for mo-
ther, and sent into the world for that
purpose mainly, and she knows that
rational maternity means more than
simply giving life, and then leaving it
to Others to preserve it. She has no
newfangled notions about the animal
character of motherhood, or about the
degrading character of housekeeping.
On the contrary, she thinks populous
and happy nursery one OF the greatest
blessings of her state, and she puts her
pride in the perfect ordering, the ex-
duisite arrangements, the comfort,
thoughtfulness, and beauty of her
house. She is not above her meter as
a woman, and does not want to ape the
manliness she can never possess. -
Sve has always been taught that, as
there are certain manly virtues, SO are
there certain feminine ones and that
she is the most wOmaniy among wD-
men who has those virtues in greatest
abundance and in the highest perfec-
ton. She has taken it to heart that
patience, self-sacrifice, tenderness, qui-
etness, with some others, of whom
modesty is one, are the virtues more
especially feminine; just as courage,
Justice, fOrtitude, and the like, belong
to men. Passionate ambition, virile
energy, the love of strong excitement,
seIf.assertion, fireceness, and an undis-
ciplined temper, are all qualities which
detract from her idea of wOmanliness,
and which make her less beautiful than
she was meant to be-; consequently
she has cultivated all the meek and
tender affections, all the unselfishness
and thought for others which have
hitherto been the distinctive property
of woman, by the exercise of which
she has done her best work, and earned
her highest place. She thinks 1t no
degradation that she should take pains
to please, to soothe, to comfort the man
who all all day long has been doing
irksome work that her home may be
beautiful and her life at ease. She
does not think it incumbent on her, as
a woman of spirit, to fly out at an inn
patient word, to answer back mo-
mentary irritation with defiance, to
play Roland to his Oliver; her woman
illness inclines her to loving fOrbear-
ance, to patience under difficulties, to
unwearied cheerfulness under such
portion of the inevitable burden as may
have been laid OH her; she does not
hold herself predestined by nature to
receive only the best of everything, and
deem herself affronted where her cross
is bound on her shoulders. Rather,
she understands that she too must take
the rough with the smooth; but that,
as her husbands way in life is rougher
than hers, his trials greater; his burden
heavier, it is her duty-and her privil-
ege-to help him all she can with her
tenderness and her love and to give
back to him at home, if i'm a different
form, some of the care he has expended
while abroad to make her path smooth.
In a word, the womanliness which we
all once loved and have still a kind OF
traditional belief in Is the wOmanliness
regards the wishes of men as of some
weight in female actiOn-that holds to
love rather than opposition; to rever-
ence, not defiance; that takes more
pride i'm her husbands fame than in
her own; that glories in the protec-
ton of his name, and i'm her state as
wife; that feels the honour given to-
her as wife and matron far dearer than
any she may earn for personal PROV
ess; and that believes in her consecra-
tion as helpmeet, not in a rivalry
which few generations will ripen into
O coarse and bitter enmity. si. -tld-I
Wanted, Pastor.--He must DC IT,
reproachable in his dress, without be-
ing an exquisite married, but without
children; young, but with great cy-
pericnce; learned, but not dull; elo-
quent in prayer, without being COLO
quial or stilted; revercntial, but not
conventional neither old nor COM
monplace; brilliant-prcachcr, but
not sensational; know every one,
but have no favorites; settle all dis
putcs, engage in none; be familiar
with the children, but always digni-
fed; be careful writer, a good ex-
tempore speaker, and assiduous and
diligent pastor. Such person, to
whom salary is less an object than q
"field of usefnlness,D may hear of adj
yapfa0eous npeniaU by atidressiuO etc.