Urbana union. [volume] (Urbana, Ohio) 1862-1872, 1870-02-02
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NUMBER XIII.
BY LADY GAY.

TALK about sickness, poverty, disease
and all the ills that flesh is heir to-,
but to me, the greatest on the list is
TEMPER
1t may be that the men OF UFbana are
as free from this fault, as they are from
refusing money TO their wives, if I
thought so I would put "a spider in Mr..
Gays dumpling" and start to Ohio to-
morrow: for like the poet I am ready to
exelaim:
" 0! for a lodge IN some Uast l0ader-
ness" where I could hide from the ebul-
litions Of temper that I witness daily.
Now there is some, little excuse for a
woman, poor weak woman to break
out occasionally, with a gush of temper
but for a man, to allow himself to become
a slave to his temper, until he is a ac-
tually "a hiss and a by-wOrd" in the
community where he lives! It is simply
ridiculous. My lip involuntarily curli
when think Of it, to say nothing of the
inclination my nose takes upward.
Every time a man flies in pet, and
showers a torrent Of abuse upon his fami-
| ly, he IOosens the hold he has upon the
respect and affection Of his wife and
children. for who can love an i'll con-
trived porcupine, who the minute you
come near him swells out his quilts ready
to gOuge you at the first motion.
Even with dogs we feel a sort of re-
verence, for the dignified New Found
land, when compared with the fierce
little flee that makes the ear ring with
his spiteful, sharp bark. We know the
New FOundland has a high and brave
nature that will never brook insult, but
we never found it Out'by his snar.
have naturally an awful temper, but
I take care not to make my children, and
every one else quake when they see me
coming, and rejoice when they see me
going. am too much afraid of causing
everybody to wish me dead.
Temper has broken more hearts, and
made more domestic trouble than every
thing else put together. Iheard a learn
ed gentleman say that mems tyranny
was measured by the power they possess
and believe it; this is why I think it
is so little and contemplate in a man to
make his family miserable just because
he has it in his power, by giving vent
to his temper.
I was with a young married couple
not a week ago, that is, they have not
been married more than five or six years,
and did not hear either speak to the
other pleasantly, during the whole time.
I expostulated with the wife, in an un-
der tone as I could take that liberty
and told her, she ought to conciliate her
husband, and if he came home out Of
temper, to sOOthe him by little blandish-
ments brush his hair, or some such at
tention, and she would soon see a mark
ed improvement in his temper, and ae-
knowledge that I had often eombed my
husbands head, soft and gentle , when in
my heart I felt like jerking every hair
out by the roots.
But s-h-O-o! I had as well tried to
turn the course of the Big Mama. She
Indignantly replied. "If he never gets
his head combed till I comb it, he'll 90
with it tangled to the grave L wouldn't
be that deceitful neither ~
do not call this sort of domestic poll
cy deceit. It is a pity but more husbands
and wives would adopt it. There must
be mutual fOrbearance, or no happiness,
and in the generality Of cases, there is |
very little happiness between married
people unless the 1Oife does the most of
the "giving up"
By the way had forgotten!
1 heard that some one told the Editor
Of the URBANA UNION, he believed
Lady Gay" was a man.
Gracious goodness That I should
ever be suspected Of being one Of those
things!
Now let it be understood that I am not
a man, ond wouldn't be, for George Pea
bOdy's fortune.