Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1870-11-04
GlrI,s Ezplanatlnn Of the Dlrlenltics

Girls Explanation Of the Difficulties
A great deal is said and written
now a-days of the reasons why
Young men are afraid To marry. The
/ most frequent of these il, that the
/ girls 0f this generation are too ex-
/ travagaut.
! That we are extravngant admit.
| Bat who makes us SO? Did it ever
! occur 20 you that this outlay in dress
Is to pleasey0u IL not tie girl who
makes fine show the most sought
after? or course there are exceptions
! girls who do not care most of all
! for dress, and men who, In their al
! miration of the ladies, look ut some
| thing beyond this. But, after all, is
| 10 not the most common remark, "Is
she not stylish ~ What fine ap.
| pearauce that girl makcsw and so il
| pleaScs their vanity to be the escort
of such attractive ones.
| For myself dress rather plainly.
| Perhaps | could better afford to Eut
ON this style shan many Who assume
/ il. But my taste does not so lead me
aud then, too, knowing the SINS
which the love of dress will drive
women to. try in my humble way
to set n better example.
Besides, | want my gentleman
| friends To feel that oue girl, and, ii
they will but see it, hundreds besides
do not care for dress for themselves.
Ambitious parents desire, and short.
sighted young men admire, and so
often they appear frivolous, when
really their thoughts are far beyond.
And let me tell you how | am tried
sometimes. To save the expense al
carriage for the opera, don my
lace bonnet aud walking suit. Now,
my friend sits beside me aud should
be thinking: This il a sensible
girl. She comes tn hear the music. .--
can afford to bring her several times
| for what n carriage would cost one
for these butterfly women"
All no he doesn't look So far as this:
but, whether he means the compuri~
son or not, calls my attention to the
most caily attircd ladies, saying adj
miringly, "How becoming that lady
Ia dressed.n "What an elegant cos
tune Miss - wears" [ DO not say
to him what / am telling you; but |
the next time he invites me-if he
does 1t ngGin-tO so to all this eXtrav-
aganCe.
Butso much show in public place
does not suit my taste, and then | do
not wish to be one to frightcn my
friends from the holiestand best of
earthly relations, the married life.
One thing more. We often hear
young men say: "All that q girl
wants is money; If II man has not
that he may pass on Very true of
some girls; but il not the reverse
MS often true? These showy girls,
whose parents spend their all to mar
ry them off, are taken; while the
true parent who wish their daughter
to be chosen for their real worth, and
conceal the possession of wealth find
for them n poor market.
feel this subject keenly myself,
for | have LOST a valued friend ---
"Died ?' No; that were not hard.
But he has gone, aud in his first look
! saw Il resolve to bury the love which
he dare not speak. A few hints
thrown out Convinced me thPt he
felt his business woUld not warrant
the luxury of wife. And so he will
go on in the loneliness OF hotel life,
while his heart yearns for the COM
forts and joys Of home.
Oh II could have told him that
he IL more to me than gold, and that
with his love should be happy with.
out much that u generous father now
| layishcs upon me. But he; he l.
! proud, his wife must not work. She
must he lady, dress ard be gay ;
and until he can afford this he will
steel his heart against love.
Our friends, brothers, will you not
think Of that. DO not expect to
commence liz rs your father leaves
oil, Only choose u wife with tastes
Congenial TO your own; happy
spirit; prudent for the things of this
life. and yet with aspirations beyond
BE willing to give up your own ex-
ravugances; and be proud Of her,
not for 1.-The outward adoTning Of
putting on apparel, but for the orna-
ment Of meek and quiet spirit. -
BE not ashamed to he called poor
Care not for the worlds opinion, bat
only for her whom your heart loves.
And so the blessing of wife and chill
drcn shall be yours, and in the at
mosphere Of home your own charac.
ter shall expand into all that IL good,
aud pure. and noble. NcW York In
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