Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1870-03-20
Husbands.

A lady writes in these words to the
editor Of the New York O6sesUer-
VIII you allow me TO say to those
who are not aware Of the lacts, that
the New Testament man lived in the
Garden Of Eden, a noted locality in
the northern part of Asia. UnfOrtu-
nateiy, the pattern Of this man was
lost, about the time Of Adams fall
Since then, men have been modelled
after n PetruchiO, who said OF his
wife she is MY goods, my chattels,
my horse, my OK, my anything, and / d
JglU be master OF what IS my own"
1t is limited by some Of the knowing
mes thar the lost pattern viii soon be
found; and those who admire the
New Testament man, may certainly
expect him to make his appearance
shortly after the commencement Of
the millennium. The many disep-
pOiurmeDts resulting from ignorance
Of the above facts, is my only apology
for mentioning them. / was well ac-
quainted with a lady Of talents, edu-
cation and mature Judgment. She
was a professor Of religion, and about
to marry a nan Of respectabihty, who
was also a professor Oh religion. One
of her friends suggested the pFOpriety
Of retaining a right 10 the Use OF her
own property after her marriage. she
rejected the ulumatum with scOrn,
saying, cam 1 afraid to give my
property where I give myself?'
Shortly after her marriage her hus-
band refused 20 provide things de-
Gently and IN order, neither would he
allow her to use the property, once
hers, for this purpose. In ansWer to
the prOffered sympathy OF a friend,
she quietly replied, " II i were to live
nv life over again, / would do differ
emily" The case was just this: she
thought she married a New Tesla
ment man, but she was mistaken.
1 would like 70 say, in connection
with the above circumstance, that /
honor and esteem unmarried ladies
for their talents and virtues, but L
have very little respect for their Opin-
ions touching matters wherein they
have no personal experience. Miss
Milford speaks Of WOman's sphere
and mission very prettily and poetic
ally, but not truly. A true woman
will feel that there is "rOOm for hap
piness on a throne, y as well as in a
cottage, if duty placed her there
And a throne is nO5 the only station
in life where a woman feels that she
''belOngs to her husband, without pos
sessing him." II, as Miss Milford
says, "WOman's glory is only re-
fected glory" the husbands Of Dor
cas-, Lydia, Phebe, Tryphena, Try
phOsa, and the beloved Persis, must
have been exceedingly brilliant, al
though Luke and Paul make no men,
ton of them.
And another sends the following to
the Yonkers u. Y Statesman, about
wives:
Why is it," asked a lady, " that
so many men are anxious TO get rid Of
their wives?1 Because," was the
reply, so few women exert them
selves after marriage to make their
presence Indispensable to their hus-
bandsI''
When husband and wife have be-
come thoroughly accustomed to each
other, when ali the little battery Of
charms, which both played OF so
skiIiuliy before the Weuding-day, has
been exhausted, too many seem to
think that nothing remains but the
clanking Of the legal chains which
bind them together. The wife seeks
to develop in her affection no new
! attraction for her husband; and the
latter, perceiving tqpstls, begins to
brood owe an uncOngeuIality which
does not exist, into insurmOuntable
obstacles in the way Of his earthly
felicity. This is the true secret. The
/ woman who charmed before mar
riage can charm aiterward, if she viii,
though not of course By the same
means. There are a thousand ways,
dear ladies, if you viii but study
them out, in which You Cau make
home so attractive that your hus-
bands will uncOnseiOUsly dislike to
absent themselves from it. II this
way, and only IN this way, It would
seem K the writer, can YOU make
yourselves the particular dsfies of do
nestle Paradise. This done, YOU
may quietly laugh at all attempts to
ALLEVIATE their affections and iuclina-
tons, and with those viii always 90
their active Judgment. Such an ex-
perience OF married lie as the author
Of these few lines has enjoyed now
nearly iOrty-hve years, should be of
some importance 10 the marrying and
recently married generation. There
can be no good season why we cannot
be so 'IJOined together" that not only
man cannot put Us asunder," but
that u whole lie long may be one
"honey mOon."