The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1870-08-09
MEMS FIVORITES.
From the Saturday Review. J

We of,an hear woman speak with o certain
curious dlsdalp Of one Of themselves as en-
tleuau's fayoIite; generally adding that gentle
men, tavorltes Sre never liked BY ine'r own sex,
and giving yon to understand that they are
m1uTes rat ber than d. herT7se, a9d objections-
bic in proportion to their attractiyeness. They
never can understand why theS should be 50
attractive, they say; and ho.d it as one OF the
rnfathomable myste1es OF mems bad taste-
the girls to whom no man addresses bali
dozen words IA the cou!sa OF lie evening
beng far prettler and nicer Than the fivorite
with whom every body ID talking, and tor whom
all ure contenGlng. Yet see now utterly they
are neglected, while she is surrounded with
adalrers. Eus ;ben she ls an artful little dir;
they say, who lays herself out 20 attract, wiki:
the others are content to stay quietly IN the
shade until they ere SOUGHT. And they speak
as if to attrac: mems admiration waB siu,
and not one OF the fual causes OF woLlan. as
we'll az one OF her chief social duties. TEere
is always war betweon the women who are
centlemeu's flvorites and those who are not;
and If the last dslige the first, the first despise
the last, and 60 ou. of their way TO provoke
them; thing not difficult to 90 when woman
gives her mind to 1t. a gentlemens faYcrite
IS generally attac cd ol the score OF her mo-
ralltv, not to speak OF hcr manners, which are
...~ououncsd az bad as can be; while. low p.et.
= aoeaVsr u.n I'm r,a7 trims. ner, her own se4
decry her, aud pick ber 10 pieces with such
effect that they do not leave her eng e
charm. She is assumed to bo Incapable ot
ANYTHING like real earnestness Of feeling, ot
ANYTHING like trne womanliness, TO be ignorant
ofthe higher rules OF moaesty, to be tsst or
sl;. according 10 her speciality of style: and II
YOU listen 10 her Glss ector you will lind 10
time that she has every fault incidental to u
frai bumauity, while her noblest virtue IS il
all probability ''kind OF go d nature" which
does not count for much. Ia rat1Tp, the 1ayo.
rite sdee1s at the wallfower, whom she calls
stupid and splsetul, and whom she rfjoices TO
annoy by the excess of he- popularity; notbin.
pleasing her 30 mu ,h as to make herse!t 'ook
worse than she is IN the way OF mems hiking.
event II he 10 carry off the one eve lamb be-
longing to q wallh3wer, and brand him as OF
her own uutltudinous herd. The quarrel Is
n deadly one as regards the com6atants, Dns
il has very little effect on the bystand-rs; for
notwithstanding the faults and trailses CT
which they hear so much, the men Il )ck round
rhc one aud m ike her the puclic iaVorlts OF
the se Il; wh.Ie probably tho prize match OF
the circle chooses stupid wal flower tor l'le,
and the favoritc who has ridlculed the sue
cessruI prizeholdcr scores OF times, ano %uo
wo,1d give ten years of her life to Ee in her
n,acs. has to swallow her confusion rs she best
can snd accept her discontinue as u she
liked If. Ii q favoIi;e begins her career un-
married, she most frequently remlns unmar-
We'd TO the eud. fulfilling her mission OF ch"rm-
ING all and fix ne none tlll she CD 1es t! the
age when her sex bas no mission ut AL 'auo
~ married she has probably developed i'ter
the event; IN her homage having bs1n shy ii
obseryanL wallaower.. Quietly waicalas tnG
methods Which utcr she hs., 80 ally dlppilei.
und taking lessoas from the very girls who
q ,ecoed it over her with an lnsoicnt su2reml-
cy Which mere tn ID oil else; sbs no!ea,