Smyrna times., 1870-03-23
MiSceIIuRe ~ eOU us.
Unmarried Ladies !.
A TALK WITH AND ABOUT THEM-A VITAL
Topic

1OPIC.
After woman reaches the age of twenty-five
years, and remains unmarried, the society in
which she moves, usually takes her :" to do
about 1t, as if the chief end, object and aim OF
a woman Is to get married, and that If she fails
so to do, there can be but two reasons why she
does not, one being that she has had no Oppor-
tunity. and the other that she has been dis
appointed in love, "a lover having died or
having married somebody else.
| Every observing and intelligent person knows
that the number of women who remain un-
married from want OF an offer, is cOmpara-
lively few. Indeed, unless his observation has
been more extended than mine, he knows of
none. Thousands of women are unmarried to-
| day because they not wiling TO accept such
men for husbands as other women We're quite
willing to, and did, accept; neither are the
majority of unmarried women, living single,
tOmbstones to dead lovers or living married
ones.
A few live unmarried from choice, and
would not IN lrry to any consideration.
! These are mostly professional women, whose
ambition to excel in their chosen vocation Is
paramount to all other possibilities. Some re-
main single from pure selhshnesS, others be-
cause OF dread OF what matrimony comprchendS,
= and Others from a variety of reasons. But
: while many women remain unmarried, hun
+ dredS marry from fIShi0ndJie fright-not that
: they desire FROM their hearts So to do, but be-
n cause they lack az UOmdHly strength and In
d high moral courage and because they fancy
j. that marriage will cut the knot of their troub-
: les, which usually consists of worry about the
a future what will become Of them, and what
i they will become, if they dan marry.
: | have faith in men believe in marriage
/ but if there is an individual on the earth thai
n ] especially honor, it Is that man or woman
y whose soul Is SO welded to honor, truth puri
q 1
to the promise of any reality short Of that, of wha
. ntdrrioge ought to be, has no temptation what
e. ever for them
ps la Women have forever been slaves more t,
as custom than to mans tyranny" Men ali
= and abet in perpetuating this slavery. Faith
as ers rest easier on their death-beds if thei
E. daughters are all married. There is such
IS responsibility lifted off the father or brother
he r the nearest protecting kin, when the daugt
ed ter or sister is finally married, transferred t
lr' the personal property OF another man. So tn
py state of society has been such for many year.
or | am glad to record that it has greatly in
ed proved in the last few that a girl choosing
remain unmarried beyond twenty-five years
age, has been a martyr to the most il-natureC
ma. as well as vexing catechising, viz. =" VIII
Of don't you get maricd?' you'll be an oil
By maid before you know it, and what then ?
ate Tta hope you don't intend to allow yourself
the the that" And if the girl has allowed herself
bile bile become an old maid, some old grandfath
ths thinks 1t a great pity" Foolish and though
and less as such talk is, it has nevertheless pow
ain that sends more women into Wedlock than low
lTee In Its best sense, draws in.
1Se Te nthe hrst place it is just as respectable
tied be maid as to be wife. 1t is vastly ma
rter Respectable to be happy maid than mi
two married wife. AS the bachelor said 0It
and much better to be laughed at because Won a
t6e not married. than to be unable to laugh becau
the you are. Two day S reading of the cure
said newspapers Will convince the most skenti,
i,aaS that to be married is not always to be happ
by very great ways. Divorces speak a Ii
guage that cannot be gainsayed And t
= number of people who ought to be dirorced.
OF cause man joined those together whom q,
rd from the beginning to the end of eternity. n,
'lce er meant to put together, but put them !" as,
ont der as is the East from the West, is overwh
last mingly large.
the 1t is terrible mistake for anybody to ma
aux to think that no woman's life is a tsucce,
ar, outside the pale of wifehood. 1t is not whs
Ired woman is to one individual, but what she is
lass society, or the world, that constitutes her
ira gest and best value, her true success.
led, There is but one thing that should ever
All a wedding ring on d&oman's finger, and I
hlte is love-
lght Never marry man, my sister, because h
pred mice, or because your friends advise
pure or because he is so good, so moral, so hi
ear toned, such a true Christian, and all
little other desirable things that are commonly 9
posed to make man lOvable, and which is
counted 80 strange" if woman don't
un- him; don't marry a man because he will
the you independence from your relations. .
the from work; don't marry him for bis mou>ta
open or shirt bosom, or we'll shaped boots d
ther marry a man from sense Of gratitude or y
don marry man " to get rid of him ;" d
mar one you try to love, under the plea
ather perhaps you'll learn to love him afterwa
emily don't marry a man for the sake of spiting :
t but other person; and finally, dom for Heay
man sake, land Heaven is love,) accept a man
Cause you don't think you can ercado an1