The West Virginia journal. [volume] (Charleston, W. Va.) 1864-1877, 1869-05-19
4 Free Purse SIS. Pin-Moncy.

4 Free Purse IS. Pin-Monci.
Looking over nj article upon dairy
ing, In IN agricultural paper some time
ago, the closing sentence seemed I" M
to invite attention from others beside
those TO whom twas particularly ad
dressed. The paragraph was this
"Whcrc dairyinS is not the special
branch Of farming, let tho good wife
have al the butter money, and do no,
borrow from her and forget to pay.
All which proceeds upon the poru'
lar ialacy that the husband il L" lar"
charge and control OF the purse, and
dole ont what The wife has courage L"
auk for. unless she is so favored Is 10
have resources OF her own.
Ny wife and | do things differently.
out Of regard TO the requirements Of
Him who joined us together. God or
,lains perfect intimacy and oneness
between those who enter into the mar
riage relation. and inspired his apostle
to say to all such (Eph. ): 33l: Let
every one Of YOU in particular so 10y"
his wife even rs himself, and tho wife
zee TINT she reverence her husband.
Now. it any man knows how much
he loves himself. he has 4 guide rs to
tho measure OF love he should have 10
his wife. Let him exhibit this, and the
reverence toward him will be forth
coming. or that marriage was not
"madc in heaven.
Ny salary is 10 me and mine what
many mans inrm is TO him--thc only
means OF support. In the disposition
OF Il, there il always = mutual planning
and consultation. The necessary "N-
pcnsr- Of food anil fuel require no N.
v,iing. But, what can my wife afford
TOR clothing. and what can What
shall the children have: What new
furniture shall VIC get! What books !:
All these. matters come under careful
consideration, and our two heads work
under the inspiration ofour two hearts.
80 completely blended into one that
the strife mainly is to what each eau
induce the other TO appropriate "Ht "i
the common fund. We practice mn-
tual selt.tlcnials, for the sake Of each
other and Of our children, having :hc
same sympathies, aims, and purposes.
She lends me her wise counsclS in my
work, and has saved me many Il mis-
take and trouble, and given many
suggestion Of real value and advantage.
And | do all can 10 make her house.
hold cares rest easily upon her. This
free participation in common duties.
laborS and cnjoymcnts, and in the
means OF support with which God ia
vors us, would be tho same were il
riches, rs it is poverty, that il our p"-
sition. All OF ones is all Of the others
in our view and practice, and the re-
suit is absolute happiness, so far aN this
can make it in our household.
You, huSbandmcn do not keep your
wives confined TO the house in person,
cares, duties. sympathics and pleasures.
Take them with you over the farm,
that YOU may plan and enjoy together.
If you can possibly avoid it. never buy
al advertised machine without seeing
it, nor listen to q pcddler of patent no.
tons: nor sell or buy horse, COW or
sheep; nor build corn house; nor in
crease your estate, nor reclaim waste
land or clear up woodland-do nothin.
to enrich or bcautlfy your farms. with.
out having i good chat about it all. be-
forchand. with your wives. They like
such summoninS to council. And YOU
will be astonishcd, perhaps. to find that
their suggestions will open new views
TO yourselves, bringing result, iaI
greater than you alone would have
gained. Meantime, make the bank
book and purse rs free TO them ~ tt
YOU. Let them know when you spend
money, how much, and why. Civ,
them the freedom OF marketing alu
shopping ~ they will. but be sure to
question them rs to their purchases
and rcprovc them atlcctionatcly for not
buying more things and better. This
places responsibility where it will ne
yer be misused. There will be no en-
travagancc or waste. The desire "t
you both is TO- prosper, and when your
wives know precisely how the case
stands, they will prudently cconomizc
and strive to do with less even than
YOU would have them. Seeing that
their husbands love them even rs the!
do themselves, they will grandly rev.
crence you in return. No call for PIN
monov, therefore: rs 4 kind OF gratu'
ity to your wives from the butter
cheese, wool. honey, and what NOT
which you do not care much for. Tn,
whole farm shall provide for thom ~
freely and beautifully MS for your
selves.
Excuse me. Mr.. Editor. for prcachin:
10 your readers; but our farming pop
ulation is the largest OF any. aud II:
Won propose TO reach ont ~ wiLrl!
within it rs possible, these suggestions
may benefit those among whom ',hi'
,.ro..t;cc ,uoat cStcnSivplv OrcvuilS