Delaware State journal and statesman., 1869-09-28
IFrom the Fireside Companion.l
WOMAN DON'T ALLOW 1T.
BY HATTIE HATEFUL.

"
On the contrary, very few married women
are trncly worthy of that sacred name Es-
pecially unworthy is that wife who listens
10 the disrespecful or sighting words OF
another referring 10 her husband, and does
not resent the insult. But there's many a
married woman who has good home, and
receives as much attention as the majority of
wives, and yet is quite fattered il told that
she is either too good, too handsome, too
stylish, or too refined for such man as her
| husband. Some women think il c0mpli-
ment to be told by an acquaintance that
their husband is unworthy OF n wife so per-
fectly charming as themselves But il
wouldn't be hedlhy ior any one t, tell me
that | was too good for my husband 1t is
no credit 10 you, foolish wife, for people to
believe you to be too good for yonr husband.
No credit to your taste or judgment, for in
the light see the coniugal relation, husband
and wife are one. And he who condemns
my husband, condemns me. Do you never
hear women say, My husband is not on
very good terms with sO,and-so; but treat
him MS well as ever" To all such wives as
this, would respectfully say that their com
mon sense is not sufficiently matured. Don't
you know that any man will respect you
more If you stand by your husband and
frown upon his enemies, than if you come
over To the side of those who speak against
him, and listen 10 them with sign ot ac-
| quiescence, when they tell you how much
superior are you to him who loves and cher
ishes you first in his heart even though he
be all mworthyY | always pity woman
who weeps over the dead body OF her hus-
band, which must soon be put away from
/ her sight forever. But still more can pity
that wife who can calmly listen 10 words
spoken against her husband, and not resent
the insult always feel ms though l should
like to deny my sex when witness things OF
this kind
Did you ever hear of a man so low and
! degraded that he wouldn't fight for the wife
| of bis bosom, even if she was as low and de-
| graded as himself? | never did. A wife
may be one of the worst of her sex. She
may have injured her husband beyond re-
| parGtion But let any man tell that husband
| that his wife Is not as pure and good as the
best, and see if that man don't find himself
in condition to be picked up before he
| knows it. And this spirit admire in either
husband or wife.
" What ~ says one would you advise
as to knock each other down in defence oil
our husbands good name ?" Not in the lit
eral sense of the term, madam but you and
| beth know that just behind our teeth we
carry weapon more powerful than the most
brawny fist. Let woman, or man even,
asssil your pet fashion or folly, and sec il
you don't find a weapon to silence that one.
Let a woman hear her lavori'e minister dis
paragcd, or her iavolile style of bonnet CON
demned. and hear if she can't defend Dci
case But insinuaie that her husband is tou
narrow minded, or too stingY, or too old, and
unsocial 10 mate her perfect disposition, and
ten chances 10 one she'll agree with You,
Just ns likely as not, she'll run on with Il
lengthy detail of series of petty domestic
annoyances, which 90 10 prove the truth ol
your statements. For shame, wife Fol
shame moi 10 stand brayely beside your hus
band, and resolntely defend him from tht
breath of his slandcIous enemies. II is tht
duty of every wife to do this. No matter il
il is her most cherished friend, who turns
her tongue upon the husbln of that wife
she should lei friendshipgo 10 the winds, il il
clashes with love and duty. No true wifi,
\ wiz aNuw voicc 10 r|Narcss her in a friendll
tone, il it has ever spoken unkindly OF he
husband, and the wrong remains unac
knOwlcdged and unforgiven.
Now, | don't care what anybody say
about me. But when ii comes 10 speaking
i'll of those who are near and dear TO me,
begin TO feel the spirit Of old Adam stronl
within me. l don't know now ii might be
but rather think l might fight n little 70
the honor of one who was us near to me as
husband should be to the heat of his wife
Fight with that "wOman's weapon bchini
the teeth wear.
| was once amused by little dialogue be
tween two women, who were standing b.
the register in church, at noon. Says one
"They do say that your husband actually
refused to allow you 10 go TO the G. A. II
ball last night"
Looking her friend calmly in the face, tn
wife replied
, II is true. He did"
"Wel l never think 1t was real meai
of him. And never thought he was hal
/ good enough for you. You sacrificed your
self when you married. Throwed yoursel
I away. Everybody knows you are too goo
Q for him, there Why wouldn't he let yo
go ?" continued Mrs. Impudence.
a A CLEAN of the eyes betokened the feeling
0 of that wife as she answered
"If you knew your place, madam, yo
would never speak lightly of man, 10 hi
wife. My husband refused 10 attend the ba
YOU mentioned, and refused to consent
. any of our family going. But he had goo
reasons ior so doing, and willingly ylelde
my desire To attend, when learned his reG
: sons To the contrary"
"Oh ~ sNid the confused sympathizel
: while the wife continued
: "And regarding your remarks about m
. . husband being inferior 10 me, in social qua
II tiles, must say that I am astonished I
your presumption. My husband is as goo
as any other person, male or female, eve
: created, and since you SO candidly avo
. your dislike, ii would be as well for you
!, consider our acquaintance at an end"
y u "Dear me You entirely misunderstar
= me | wouldn't lose your friendship for Il
r. world" apologized the meddler but 81
's u spoke to deaf ears, to nil purposes.
u could not restrain my desire to test
my appreciation oil the beauty OF that wife
:. affection for her husband, and although 81
was stranger to me, stepped forward an
extended my hand, which she graspC
4 warmly, and although no word was spokt
:" between US, we understood each other, ar
!, !. in the weeks that followed we commence
- an acquaintance that is to-day iriendsh
.. strong and true. Its just the truth. that
woman gains no honor by speaking scprl
/, fully of her husband, and If any one OF Il
Y acquainlances should presume to menti
- even u fault oil my husband, I'd SLAP ih'
. Ioce if I wpnt TO the Uousp OF Correction