Smyrna times., 1869-08-04
Bored Husbands.

The honeymoon at last draws to close, and
the relieved bridegroom gets back to his
old haunts, to his work, his friends. his club
and though he takes to all these things again
with a difference, still they are helps and
additions. This is the time of trial to wo-
man. If she gets over this pinch, and is SEN
sible enough to understand that human nature
cannot be kept up at high pressure, even In
love, and that man must sooner or later come
down from romance to work-a day prose, from
the passionate lover to the cool and sober hus-
bandit she can understand this and settle
into his pace, without fretting on the one hand,
or casting about her unhealthy distractions on
the other-she will do well, and will probably
make pleasant home, and thereby diminish
the boredom of life. But, unfortunately, not
every woman can do this; and it is just during
this time of the mans transition from the
lover to the friend that 80 many women begin
to make shipwreck of their own happiness and
his.
They think to keep him a romantic woer
still, by their tears and their pIosaic inditer-
ence to the little sentimeutaitles once so eager
| y accepted and offered they try to hold him
close by their hattering but somewhat tlresome
eXaction; their jealOusies-very pretty, per,
haps, and quite as hattering-1re infinite, and
as baseless as they are infinite all of which is
very nice up to a certain point and IN the be-
| ginning of things, but all OF which get awtully
wearisome as time goes on, and man wants
both q little change and little rest. But
women do not see this; or seeing 1t, they can
not accept it as a necessary condition OF things;
| wherefore they 60 on in their fatal way, and,
by the very unwisdOm of their own love, bore
their husband out of his. Or they grow sub
stantially cold because he is superhclally cooler
and think themselves justified in ceaslng tc
love him altogether because he takes their love
for granted, and so has ceased to WOO 1t:
If they are jealous, or shy, or unsoclal, as Sc
many women are, they make life very heavy
by their excusiveness, and the mOnasuc char
acter they give to their home. A man married
to woman of this kind is, In fact, hous'
prisoner, whose only hours of freedom lie be
yond the four walls Of home His bachelo
friends are shut out They smoke, or entlc
him to drink more than his wife thinks is goo
for him or they induce him to bet on the ra
> ces, or to play for money at whist or billiards
or they lead him in some other way of ottenc
r abhorent to women. So the bachelor friend
: are shouldered out, and when the husban
| wants to entertain them, he must invite ther
s to his club-if he. has one-and pay the per
y atty when he gets home. In few years tim
: his wife will be glad to encourage her son
8 friends to the house, for the sake OF the daugf
: ters on hand but husbands and sons are In
:, different category, and there are few father
It who do not learn, as time goes on, how muc
# the mother will allow that the wife refused.
: If bachelor friends are shouldered out OF tn
o house, all female friends are forbidden an!
it thing like an intimate footing, save those fe
is whom the wife thinks specially devoted to he
J. self, and of whom she is not jealous. An
1t they are very few.-Pdrton.