Weekly Delaware State journal and statesman. (Wilmington, Del.) 18??-18??, 1869-02-05
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read In their faces the unspoken scorn as the
result OF their scrutiny: "You think you
nave done 1t very we'll but you have made
fright OF yourself and | am much better
than your Watch the dlsdain OF the mora
admired among them; and how excessively
naughty for attracting so much attention
they think that Ada or Amy about whom
the young men cluster. How bold she isl
how ovcrdressed she isi--how affected she
Island, oh how ugly she isl Sometimes,
u they arc deep, they will overpraise her en-.
thusiastically; but the ruse is generally loo
transparent to deceive any one, and simply
counts for what it is-a clever feint that
doesn't answer. 1t IS quite study 10 watch
the way In which girls shake hands to-
gether, or take hanes in dances. The
limp, cool, impairment way in which they
just touch palms, then let their arms fall as
II paraiyzed, tells volume 10 those able 10
read the lettering. In dancing they very
frequently do not take hands at all, but lust
brush the tips of the fingers, or make show
OF doing so, and SO pass on in the "chain. ~
10 press perhaps more than cordially the
next male hand that grasps theirs. II NAV
Dc all very right and quite according TO the
to watch, nevertheless
Only women OF a certain age are really
friends together. School girls are lovers.
gushing, sentimental expansive lovers =
unconsciousiy rehearsing for the real drama
to come by and by; and young ladies. when
out, are rivals, undergoing deadly pangs
because of bigger chignons and shorter pei
ucoats, ana yet more audacious tournures.
and larger following of admirers. but after
these turbid waters have run t6emselves
clear, then they can become friends; and OF
zen some of the sweetest experiences of a
woman life arc those she has had from The
love, the confidence, the faithful sisterhood
OF some dear second SELF" whom no fear
disturDs, and from whom no petty jealousy
can sever her, ''
Another small sin of ours is our desire of
a.uaoing attention. There arc many wO-
men VINO would rather be infamous than OBJ
scure, and who prefer the traditional thrash
| ing OIL the Russian to immunity and neglect.
Ihey VIII do anything TO attract notice and
think the "wallaowern position worse than
the pillory. There is nothing Of a noble
amoltion IN this; quite the contrary; II is the
mere restlessness OF small egotlsm, the mere
ieVer oil vanity, the same feeling which, in
another form, makes certain OF us refuse 10
grow old, and have recourse 10 an expedi.
ent, no matter what, rather than confess to
gray mars and wrinkles. Neglect is worse
than death to most OF us; and notoriety is
our version OF Fame, as admiration Is the
sum oil our ambition. Even Madame dc
Siaei would have exchanged her bralns for
Ma1sme ue kecamier's beauty; and poll the
wnr,u Oh woman honestly, not one in a thou
SAND would dissent from her choice.
Another OF our small sins is am sorry 10
| say,-one that | alluded 10 before. slinpl-
ness. IL seems to me that the race of large
hearted, open-handed women IS almost dy-
ing out cannot say has died out, for,
thank GOD know one or two beautiful ex-
amples still left to us, where generosity is
not extravaganza, nor economy meanness.
But, granting exceptions as we all know
them, the small, stingY ways of woman in
general are very painful, very rssping
lney seem 10 have increased in exact ratio
with the personal extrayagance OF the time;
as, indeed, y very easy to understand For
money is a liked quantity, horribly inelas-
tlci consequently, the more we spend on one
thing, the less we have for another; the
more liberal we are to ourselves, the closer
we must be TO our neighbors; and lavlshness
on the right hand must needs include tight
purse-strings on the left. | by no means
flnu iault with the household economies of
women,-such and such odds and ends
and the little self-denials OF "gOing withonl''
such and such pleasant superhuities.-b
with the habit of beating down, the hgglng
about pence with the poorest Sellers aud
gtudging payment OF the wages due for labor
hnd the almost universal desire among US TO
deprive the retail traderman of his rightful
profits. There is scarcely a woman who
does not think that she ought 10 buy her
goods at trade price, and who does not re-
gard the percentage of tue middle man as so
much swindled out OF her own pocket She
calculates to n fraction tile worth OF the lace
aud ribbon on her bonnet, but she does not
take into account the expenses OF her milli-
ner's establishment and her need OF earning
now IN the bright days oil her power enough
whereby to live when the dark hours come,
and she is no longer able to bake hor bread
ny her daily labor. This grudging how ever,
Is only In the case of the ''liltle milner,"
combining to the article OF dress which might
DO applied to every tradesman dealt with.
Given name like that of Madame Elise,
aud the cost is not calculated. Here that
mysterious thing called style, or name, floats
the percentage, and takes II out OF the cate
CORY OF peculation. That makes it distlnc-
lion; which is another matter altogether,
and thing that must be paid for. Where
fore we all pay, willingly, for the name and
favor OF our respective Mesdames Elise, but
gFowl and dissect untiinchinglY when tho
"liltle mllliner" sends In her humble ac-
count. We went wild short time ago
about the cooperative stores, but | never
heard that we did much good with them, or
that we got our goods Tor less than their
market value. We will go miles in search
OF bargains; and spend the difference twice
over in cab-hire, under the impression of
saving hugely; and one OF the most persist
ent applications of our 'tables' is the exact
number of pence due 10 cabby, with the
stern resolution 10 die at the stake rather
than give that extra sixpence outside the
legal fare.
Many other little sins are there in full
lofce among us,-sns which weaken our in
huence and destroy our power; sins which
hurt our ownselyes more than they hurt our
neighbors, and which cat into our nobleness
more than many others of larger dramatic
scope and more deadly social effect And
among them is one very patent to certain
/ bold speakers,-our impRtience at rebuke,
and the kind Of Dalai Lama sanctity which
: we assume for ourselves. We must be wor.
D shipped as the supreme of creation. Burns
, pretty little bit OF gallant nonsense about
, the "prentice hand, aud masterpiece must
Q be taken as gospel truth; we must be dstter.
ed and coaxed and adOred; taken care OF
and given our own way al the same time;
allowed to compete with men on their own
: standing, yet treated with the chiyalrous re-
spect due TO the unprotected and fought for.
We must have no hard work laid upon US,
I because we are feeble and delicate, but we
q must have the same salaries as those appor-
| toned 10 the hai dest workers among men
else we cry out at the injustices OF men, and
talk rubbish about the prejudice attached 10
women's work. we may neglect our ow N du
Q ties and blsspheme them, and yet be suffer
cd 10 snatch the Offices OF men; we must mol
: have hard word said Of us, but we may
. everywhere argue the brutality Of men, on
a their selhshness, their hardness, their dis
a honor, and their cruelty. And all this we
, call the rights Of women, aud nOuncc and
c nuut when cast in our one-sided suit These
s arc bitter truths 10 say of ourselves Bul
3 il is the truth which makes the bitter
5 ness.-EUery Saturday.
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D SECRET MOVEMENT AGAINST TuRKRr.-
k Vigilance Committees and secret associa
g tiuns are springing up all over New Yorl
o city. Their objects are as varied as the cir
- cnmstances Of the men who compose them
V The Cuban expedition engaged atleniion ,
= few weeks ago; but il has been supercode,