The Manitowoc tribune. [volume] (Manitowoc, Wis.) 1866-1878, 1869-05-06
THE TRIBUNE.
xBEECHER 0NyEARLY MARRIAGE,
COED EASets Of the Practice, and Bad
, ~EAtCtS OF d Boarding House Life.

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COED EkSets Of the Practice, and Bal
Ehects OF Boarding House Life.
- s from late Plymouth Church sermonsl
At no after period, perhaps, in thei
lite. do young men need the inspiration
of virtuops love. and The sym patty of {
companion In their self denying toll a.
when they first enter the battle for theil
own Snpport. Early marriages are per
manent morals, and deferred marriages
are temptations to wickedness. And yet
every year it becomes more aid more
dthcait.- Concurrent with the reigning
ideas Of society, for young men to enter
uponthat matrimonial state which IS the
proper gaurd of their virtue, as well as
the Source oftheir courage and enterprise.
The battle Of life is almost always at the
beginning. There it is that man needs
wedlock. But wicked and ridiculous
public sentiment puts man who Is IN
society, or out IF society, for that matter,
largely on the ground of condition, and
not of disposition and character The
man that has means whcrewith he can
visibly live amply, is in good society, as
a general rule. The man that has virtue
and sterling manliness, but has nothing
withal external to show. is not usually
considered in good society. Ambitious
young men will not. therefore. marry
until they can meet their expenses; but
that is deferrlng for years and years the
indispensablevirtue. Society is bad where
two cannot live cheaper than one! And
young men are under bad influences who,
when in the very morning of life, and
better fitted than at any later period to
grow togeather with one who is their
II Iaho rra1 FROM,
rying, through scores of years from mere
prudential considerations; the heart and
life are sacrificed to the pocket. They
are tempted to sacrifice ambition for love.
when at last, over the ashes and expiring
embers of their early romance, shey select
their wife. 1t is said that men who wait
till they are forty or forty-fve years of
age, select prudently. Alas for the wife
who was not first a sweetheart Prudence
is good; but is prudence servant orqueen
Prudence is good; but what is prudence?
Is it the dry calculations Of the head
jeagued with the packet? Is there no
prudence in taste, Dor prudence in the
Inspiration Of generous love? Is there
0 prudence in the faith by which, band
i, two young persons go dow into the
ruggle oflife, saying, Come veal, come
oe, come storm, come calm, love is a
'atch for circumstances, and we will be
to each other Woe be to that socie-
In which the customs and the manners
the times put off beyond the period of
,mance.za and afiiancing the wedding.
gu have adjourned the most important
cular act of a mans life. You have
journed out of Eden Into the wild
ness The girl, next infected land even
omen falD with the public spirit, too
ten waits to be wooed by those who
N place her again, in the very begin
ng of her welded life, where she vas
hen she was broken off as branch
ON the parental tree. But graft
lould always be willing to be a graft,
I'd wait till it can make its own top by
gitimate growing. And woe is the day
hen every girl says, Il will not marry
nth my husband in the beginning has
much as my father had at the end of
is life For she what is she? Who was
that Jupiter won in shower of gold?
Whoever it was, that is the type. She
hose heart is won by abundance; she
,ho is bought into matrimony by house
nd land; she who marrles for genteel
,ealth-she it is that jupiter seduced by
old.-For all wedlock is adulterous in
hich it is not the heart that inspires
marriage. Noble is that young spirit
hich, seeing and Toying and choosing,
nd silently biding her choice, is won and
losen, and giving herself freely, roman
c-lly, if you viii, tGod be thanked for
lie romance goes down to the level OF
er husband nothingness aud poverty,
lat she and he may, with willing hands,
-om the bottom build up their estate
ilessed is that woman who sees that in
Ding down she is going up, and that 1t
the losing OF life that saves it. Blessed
that woman who carries with her into
aarricd all that she learned IN the refine
nent of her father family; who proves
hat she is woman in this; that gentle
ness, and praise, and abundance, and
luxury even, ministered to the better
parts Of her nature, and prepared her to
SO forth and minister earnetly and per-
manently in the midst of difficulties.
Thousands there are who, when once they
are called, and know their master, Love.
go cheerfuly out with the yc ing man
and take part and lot with han. Oh!
that young men would trust them DO
more, and prove them better, and see if
this is not So How noble thing it is
to see the cultured, the polished, and the
refined go down to the very beginning of
things, led by love, fed by love, and at
last rewarded by loye!
Live together alone, if you have to go
into the desert for it. and feed on herbs!-
Abhor Sodom and Gomorrah-or board
ing houses! Men sometimes speak of the
meagre and pinched fare These are not
worthy of notice 1t is not these It's
that men learn selfindulgence there
Men learn there not to be householders
And ali that various discipline, all that
ministra.ion of care, all that drill of con-
tr.vance, al! that social independence, all
that subtle atmosphere, Understandable and
unanayz.ed. which belongs to the soli-
tary household, they miss. No man and
woman can make husband and wife,
father and mother, and householders on
tie pattern of their fathers, who begin
and continue their married life III this
hot-bed style of existence. And yetthey
are unwilling to take house that they
can afford; and they cannot afford to take
the house that they fan would live in,
because furniture is so dear, and virtue
is cheap; because society requires a GER
tain amount of appearance, you know;
because it would not do to go to the out
skirts of the town! A log cabin is better
for young married people than the Fifth
Avenue Hotel would be if they had the
whole oft for nothing! What you get
for nothing is the least valuable to you of
ANYTHING. What-yon earn is all value.
Under these influences, the whole of life
written IN the wrong key. Men having
started on the false principle, they do
not get over it. They are perpetually
tempted to overlive by their very affec-
t;oneas If there Ia anyfhinp that an hon