The Columbia herald. [volume] (Columbia, Tenn.) 1850-1873, 1869-11-26

RCulIltil W ucuO VI HuIlOis
If ne had occasion to punish them,
makA them yield entirely then let the
time after. 1t is quite common, / am sorry
to say for parents to delay forgivenness'
thinking, if the child reflects on the enOr
nifty of its transgression, it will prove a
benefit Here you make great mistake,
harden than otherwise. When child
asks to be forgiven, do it at once. When
his little heart is melted and ready to con-
fess his fault, should you not be ready to
forgive have seen child denied a good
night kiss, from father or mother, for some
fault committed during the day or evening,
when the child had already done all that
was required of him-that is, acknowl-
edged he committed the act, said he was
sorry, and promised never to repeat the
offence. In such course consistent !?
Think of it. 1t may seem a small matter
to you, but you know very little about
children if you think it a small matter to
them. The feeling to a sensitive child,
that father or mother is not willing to
give him kiss is trouble to his mind as
great as the trouble man in business
might ell when he retires at night
thinking the morning may find him bank
rupt.
Again, never show preference for one
child over another; let your love be as
equally divided as possible, and in all your
acts be guarded, that they may have no
possible chance to imagine that you love
one better than the other. Never speak
of the faults of your chilpren before others
than your own family. How often you
hear mothers or fathers speaking unguard
edly to some friend in the presence Of
their children, like this: al really no not
know what we are going to do with James;
he is so dull, it seems as if he never would
learn anything Now, here is our little
Julia, not more than half his age; she
commits to memory a dozen verses from
the Bible every week, to repeat at Sunday
school she learns every thing so readily,
while James can scarcely learn three
verses"
What is the effect of this? Oftentimes
the boy is mortified; he is ashamed to
meet that person again; he feels discour-
aged. This is downright unkindness.
Pray do not do it Your very bright little
girl may make snowy, superficial woman,
while your dull boy grows up thorough
ly practical, sound-minded man.
Do not be in hurry to teach children
to read; better let them get start physi-
cally than to tax their brains too early.
Children of six or seven years are quite
young enough to begin to read. They
NAV learn their letters before, and per-
haps few little words, but do not cOnfine
them to book earlier than this. Some
people take great pride and delight in the
precociousness of their children. /
greatly prefer to see child lit
tie slow at learning than unusu-
ally quick. You will find many
of the greatest scholars Of the past and
present are made up of such as were once
considered dull boys and girls A good,
sound mind, good judgment and fixed
Christian principles, are only acquired by
slow, careful study and experience.
Children should be allowed to act and
feel like children. They should be in
dulged in all kinds of harmless sports.
Lei them romp in the open air as much as
possible; encourage them in all active
sports which will tend to strengthen and
develop them physically. Go out occa-
sionally and join with them: nothing is
more gratifying to children than to have
grown people step down from the pedes-
tai of their dignity and frolic with them:
Life is too short and real to try to crowd
happy, careless children into manhood.
Let Them retain their youthful, jubilant
feelings as long as possible; take every
reasonable means to increase their pleas
ures, then win they look back to the days
of their childhood as the happiest of their
life, and ever reverence the name OF Ia
ther and mother. There can be no stereO-
typed laws to govern children, because all
cannot be governed alike. Different tenn
peraments and dispositions require differ
ent treatment. The parents eught to be
the hest judges. In short, whatever you
do, act with decision, without sternness,
with kindness without too much indui-
gence, act carefully and prayerfully, leay-
ing the result to the future and with God.
-HearM and Home.