The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-03-02
GETTING MARRIED.
How ft Looks to the Bridegroom when
the Day has been Fixed.
from the London Leader.l

The prospect Of marriage, like religion, az
eroises, as rule, q very soothing lnnuence
upop the mind. or course, we AL know tnat
religion soothes human nature down INTO q
kind of spiritual sickness. which is always
enyiabls. End not always attainable, even by
the deyout: but whv the prospect OF marriage
should always produce calming effect ID not
ess,ly copiectured, at all events, BY those who
want the kpack ef knowing hos to reconcile
experience with imagination. Tie Truth. We
suppose muss be that man becomes resign
ed wLeu once his marriage day has been hxec-
he is con. .cious that the event ls inevitable.
The pleasing pertur baton OF tne perloo OF
courtshlp IS at all end.
In a little while he feels that you shall see
his name under the births and before the
deaths. The sense Of duty OF looking happy
and feeling pleased is upon hun. he does not
shrink at the condition OF prenle dltatcd matrl-
mony. He Is very anxious 10 look happy, and
when Congratulated at every turn by bis
friends, processes himself very much pleased.
But he is not pleased. and he is not happy. A
good deal OF a"xle:y 10 generated by tins con-
stant contemplation of the day that ls newt
able. Many dubious r, hections upou the MIN
ute concollltan,s Of marriage annoy him. DE
will have first Of all, 10 get married, that Is 10
nav. he will have to stand buttoned up ID
frock-coat some twenty minutes or more-hea.
ven send that the bride doesn't want chola
service l-be;orc O clergyman, subject to the
pry : glances OF his dear relatives and friends
asscmh'ed ti witness, and, by their presence, to
solemnlae, If you will, the service.
Lie" ~ wa. navo to receive tne consratula-
tiors OF ever, body In The "tstry room-a ter
rife or;leal Thel. he will Lave 10 walk down
the church, amidst the whispering and wou-
dcr1pg ga2o of rows of strangers who have
strolled INTO the church to witness the pro-
oeedines. Tuen he will have to push bis Aay
through crowd of gaping children, nurses
and peram bulators. into his carriage. all this
kind Of thing is delightful to women. but to
men and to nervous men IN particular. 1t is
one of the greatest determents to marriage.
But the bridegroom's misery does not end With
his getting iuto the carriage. Tho SILLY coaoh-
man and tootman have encumbered themselves
with en- nous conspicuous fayors. ana ne Is
dragged through the streets, creating a'most
as much wundermeut as q new lord may or III
gilt coach.
But all this is tr firg, compared to what ls
to follow. Ii the bride lives III square he has
the Satisfaction ot seeing tho ne ghborlnS bal :
copics crowded 10 catch glimpse OF them ell
terng the hoGse. If she li,o- iu street. the
windows aro flied with heads, whilo servants
grin through the area ratings aud crack many
horr. bic iokesit there are few nen about. Ii
she lives III the country. band Of hinds aud
yokels josile each other ab ut the gateway and
raise h0.rse cry OF welcome Wien the Car.
riase stops. One would think that matrmony
WsS Lew l0VentlOD, ouu tuat tulS mdITlap.t
was the fist experiment.
After the bridegroom has gone GRACEFUL,
through the ordeal If being courtcsied to b,
several Of tho sci wants Il the house, whose
faces arc II fattd with the various congra ulat
ory explt ssions. he has again to endure tn'
shaking OF hauds ana the epasmodic assur
snces II god wishes that follcw the arriva
of the resi- OF the patty. Then comes the break
fast. A wrcciled old lady. who has been III
intimate friend of his family for twenty y, ais
strivts for long time unsuccessfully to ca'cl
his eye; when caught, she e1cla;ms IN a lout
voice that the expects great things trcm him
when be returns thanks. Hang herl He sit
in great misery, trying to look uncorosrne,
and cheerful, waiting for the moment wheI
the father Of the brido shall propose thei
healths. ,,,.
fast speeches banished The rlsibg OF tin
father Is always preceded by some momen's
silence. Everybody sympatLizes with very
body else. Tic thln man at the head OF tiie
table is salow, and his eyes bleared. Ner
Yousness has wrought this unpleasant effect
He knows he will have to return thanks for the
bridesmaids, and more than once he inquiries
earnestly Of himself what he has done to merit