Bellows Falls times. [volume] (Bellows Falls, Vt.) 1856-1965, 1869-12-10
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The Anatomy of Quarreling.


There is one very singu ar cause Of
quarreling, that arises from a peculiarly
sensitive and affectionate temperament.
1t is common to nearly all lovers, but is
frequently found among friends also.
There are some people who cannot get on
without constantly reiterated assurance
of the love with which they are regard
ed They begin to doubt the affection
if it does not manifest itself from time to
time in some marked manner; and their
common method of proving its existence
is to get up some sort of quarrel, afford
ing opportunities for dramatic "mak-
ing up" They are like children who are
continually pulling up the flo wers they
have planted to see if they have taken
root. They are not content with recall !
ing to mind certain undeniable proofs of
the friendship or love which unites them
to their friends; they must needs have
some palpable testimony. They are anx-
ious. apprehensive their faith is SO in
dependent of ordinary reason that they
are never satisfied with such proofs as
would be a perfect gu arantee to other
peoples good sense. Yet it is not so
much that they distrust the performance
of the affection which they haveinspired,
as that they hunger for the pleasure of
hearing it find utterance. Hence the as
tonishing repititions of love letters-the
unwearying iteration Of a few tender
phrases in lovers talk. 1t is all very
well for an outsider to ask, what is the
use of repeating thirty times in letter
what both the writer and the receiver
accept as an undeniable fact but both
of them have keen pleasure in this per-
sistent writing of the old, old phrases,
which are so remarkably commonplace,
and often ludicrous, to uninterested per-
sons. By-and-by. however, marriage
forms the climax Of this interchange Of
assurances, and constitutes in itselfa sort
of assurance which ought to render them
henceforth unnecessary. Now, if the
Young creature who has been transferred
into a wife should happen to possess one
of those restless, sensitive, anxious ma
lures, it is only too likely that she will
take alarm at the undemonstrative and
commonplace way in which her husband
accepts his happiness. She will begin to
suspect that marriage has cooled his at
fection for her, and she will render her
self wretched with the doubt. Some qui-
ct evening she becomes rather pensive,
and to her husband who is reading the
newspaper, she says:
"Oh, Tom, I'm beginning to think
YOU don't love me nearly as much as you
used to do"
"Stuff and nonsense!" he says, con
tinuing the reading of Our Special Cor
respondents glowing account of the per
formances Of Flying Rein.
In few moments he looks around, ant
: finds her gone. Recollecting vaguel.
that she had said something to him in
very peculiar tone, he goes after hel
finds her in another room, alone, AM
dreadfully distant in manner. He
very repentant she bursts into tears
and then he makes all those protestatior
>" of affection that she has been dying
hear. This is a very pretty lessor
Whenever the monotony of married e1
istence tires her, and she longs for one c
F.! the loyer-like bursts of endearment G
their preconjugal days, all she has to d
is to get up nice little quarrel, and te
{ rify her remorseful husband into heroic
: Nor would it be fair to say that she do'
so out of a mere intention to afford he
!. self pleasure. 1t is probably one of Il
!; radical characteristics of her nature
y hunger for these emotional crisis; an
& once she has found out the way to pr
= cure them, it is very likely that, inadve
tently, she will have recourse to it pret
S often.-Tenlple Bar.
The editor of an Iowa paper call
ON his Chinese washerman and tried
coax him into taking hold of his und
' garments. The reply of John wa
~ "Printee man dirty; shirt wash Ii
Is ID; TO get cleanee; scrubee skin
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