The Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1863-1886, 1869-01-21
What Makes q Woman Truly
a Hclpmcet to her Husband.
BY OLIVE LOGAN.
In the first place. LOVE.

1H iHC uIoI PioOO' bV' h'
Without love as q first plank in
the platform there is no use what.
ever in discussing the question. -
The platform won't hold together
without that plank, whatever other
timber there be in it.
But love is not enough ..
Tits very sad, but it is truo-and
as trite as true-that love won't
boil the pot" and what is worse,
it won't put that into the pot which
makes it worthy the boiling.
A boiled pot wouldn't be very
nice eating without "fxin's." 4.
The begga< who made a deli
cious soup, just by boiling a stone
in his pot, had to pct IN a little
salt to season it, and bit OF beef
to give it a flavor, and a few veg.
e.ablcs to tone it up ] ?.
SO if even love would "boil the
poi" love would not bo sufficient,
unless it would fiji the pot, too.
Love is the prime requisite 30
successful endeavor on a wofnan's
part 10 be her husbands true
holpmeet. but love alone is very
far from being al that is required
There arc countless thousands
of women who lore their husbands
truly. and who are no more help.
meets TO them than il they were
wooden women, whitfield out With
u jack.knife.
Tho first and greatest misfortune
women have to encounter is that,
in marrying, most men don't ask
themselves whether the object of
their choice is fitted 10 be q help
meet. A man generally marrcs
because he wants somebody to
love him and carcss him. lie also
wants his wife to look pretty, and
be bright and cheerful, that other
men may envy him his possession.
But that sort oftlIing won't last
through the vicissitudes of life
time. -'''' 'h -.
When years roll on, and misfor.
tunes come, and the silly little
loving wife has become firmly
rooted in her dawGliDg habits. he
savagcly turns on her and re-
proaches her for not being a help
meet.
There is nothing bnt misery
for her, poor creature, after that.
Tbereiore,.th other plank in our
platform is this: '. .-I .L
To be a true helpmeet to her
husband the women must have the
ability to earn her living inde'
pcndently.of him. u5If''
No woman can earn her own liv-
ing by baby tending. I
| mean Of course, by tending
her own babies. If she adopt the
profession of a nurse, tho case may
be different 'f"'H
When you talk with intelligent
men on the subject of skilled labor,
you find that they have but one
opinion as to the best way of get.
ting work done thoroughly.
They tell you that the man who
is a jack Of all-tradcs is master
of none.
They tell you that the man who
makes great success in life is the
man who masters one field of labor
compIetcly--who educates himself
up to tho highest point Of sklliul-
ness in that field alone. .. .
The best editors in this country
are men who have been bred to
their work in that college of editors
tho printing Office.
The worst editors are those men
who have taken up cditorship after
having given trial to mercantile
life, or farming or medicine, and
who will most probably drop edi-
torship by.and.by for the law, or
perhaps the stago-and do as i'll in
these again, being thoroughin none.
1t stands TO reason that the best
baby tender must bc the woman
who oducatcs herself specially for
that pursuit. q ,.'a''" ..
How many women who become
mothers do thIsHo1t -.",Ff'
And of those women who have
bent all their energies to perfect
themselves in the art of baby-tend.
ing, how many con earn their liv-
ing by it? ''~ ..-.:. 2a'
laiIaoa e. III. saw .ailV .'
/ once lived in house with n
young couple who had a baby OF
about ten months old-a great fine
strappiug fellow, as heavy in ones
arms as a load OF iron, and yet un-
able to walk. ...u...1llH
\ The father was a book keeper in
storo on Broadway, at a salary
Of thirty dollars wcek. They
paid twenty two dollars a wec!
for their board, which, the husband
said, was us reasonable as he could
7 find for room, as comfortable as
the one they occupied-though, l
|, considered it far from oomtortaoie;
r 1t was o small back room, dull ana
cheerless, on the third floor; :,
Three times. o day this delIca'e
young girl (tho baby's motner9
was obliged to carry that strap
I ping .ohildup and down iour palss
of stairs. TO mcals--tor tho dining
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