The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-06-30

a. too much like the supplementl9g oi !eA0
ienoies, and thinks her married happiness
herself as the sole centre. OF her husbands
pAISs Ths home life stsgnates in England, and in
very few families is there any mean between
dissipation aud this stagnstion. Weoan scarce
" wonderthat 90 many husbands think matrl- l
monys mistake as we have II in our insniar =,
Isp ta gsen thew Iers nniettered and not
horad or that their free friends, who watch
Them, az wild birds watch their Gagged compap-
ions. uuriouslV and ;Tehectively. come 70 s1AIe
tbe1r oomions -W1fe and home, after Oil; MAKE
up but.bart: Of atnsn's life; they are uos.EH
all, and do not satisfy the whole OF nis soc,ai
instinct; nor Is any one woman to msn .I Ieayng
naibiro that is beautiful, or in its way &C. M
sirahIe on the outside, Besides, when wltn
h;s ,1sifeJ. a man is often as much lso-
lated as when alone, for any real COM
uanionsh1p there ID between them: rev
women take a -hsins inseresS at;l, M nndars ;sne
stand them. They expect the husband to
sympathlze with them in the Kitchen gossip
and the nursery chatter; the Beighbors' doings
md all the small household polilic ssbut as a
race rhey are utterly unable to comprehend his
pleasures, hfs thoughts; his duties, the respon,
siblitieB Of kfs profession, Or the bearings q
question In which ss tssss Par. .Sst
they could enter faIly into his lite, and sympa-
,thiEa With him ss telhgent equals, ip2t Only
as compass onate saints or loving chudren,
there would: stlll be the need OF novelty nno
sriAthe certainty of boredom without lts I for
human lite, like all other forms OF lie, must
have due prop Ition OF fresh elements conIn
It becomes stagnart and stunted, as everything
else would be. And daily intercourse ande-
niably exhsusts the moral grouud. After tne
close conpanfmshlp Of years no one can re-
remain mentally ffeeh to the other, unless, IN.
deed, one or both be Of the Isrest ORDER OF
mind, and OF . practically inexhaustible moNl-
edge. Save these exceptional instances, we
must all OF necessity get worn out by constant
intercourse. We know every thought, every
opinion, and almost every square inch OF IN;
formation Possessed; We have heard the ola
stories again and again, and know exactly RhAt
will lead up to them. and at what point they
willibegm, we have measured the whole !es~eeP
OF mind, and have probed it's depths; aDd
hoqsh " may s love and pdsSs gsSs rss nsyss - psl
food for iItsre st. though not necessarily 4 new
love for thed spaacemept OF The old. But This
M What very lew English woman can under
stand or will allow. They hold soinsensel'i
nv. the doctrine ct uoit y thsstbey are even
Lfsslo1s q: sIinan s pufeuRe q they think these
tlke up Any place u hts mmd Hnicn mIRut eies
bs, theirs. They must be good for every part
81 his lie: aid that the poorest OF them all
must b. his only SOURCE bt: interest. suffering
no other womanto share his admiration or oo.
tain his friendship. though thus would not
touch hsssf0veefor themselves or interfere ~Itl
theT rights. But this is q hard saying TO them,
spd' 'onstRey lcsnnot receive; therefore T, thes
SAHer no relief Of rnbnotony by judicious
loosening or by generous faith in integral
fidelity. The practical result Of which is tfst
most men are horribly bored at iome, and
that the mass Of us really suffer fron the dof
nestic stsgn,tion to which national customs
spd ikSexciaslyeness Of our women doom rs
SEsoosa as ve become family mep. 1t must
however, ip fairness, be sdded that most men
obtain some KIND Of compensation and chat
very lew walk meekly in their bonds without
as times slippin9 them of, with or without the
concurrence Of their wives. .-.n