Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1869-04-09

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every day :; It's wonder Mr., Courtney
caught him at home this morning, and he
wouldn't ii he had come half hour later.
Why, he has not asked me to go with him
a half a dozen times in dozen years |
do not think"
lis it possible, Mrs. Johnson? Why, |
should feel very sad if | thought my hus-
band would ever be so ncglectitl of my
happiness"
'Oh. as for that. don't know as Mr..
Johnson thinks he neglects me he knows
have 50 many cares on my mind that it
would be almost impossible 10 leave. In
! fact. he's not 50 much TO blame, now
when think of it. The first year after |
was married he used 10 ask me 10 60
with him very otten--well, until after our
Sammy was born; for some time after
that my health WAS very poor, and having
the care OF him did not care for going
as had previously. Husband used 10
tell me il would do me good to get away
from the baby awhile and get the fresh
air. But / was so afraid something would
happen to the little treasure during my
absence. that it was seldom he could pre-
vail on me to go. Then when Sammy
was old enough 10 leave and needed less
care, little baby girl stepped in among
US, and then it was the same story over
again until | suppose he got tired of be-
ing refused, and thus ceased TO disturb me
with invitations"
But your children are so nearly grown
up should think you might enjoy some
of the privileges and pleasures of your
haleyon days again"
''Oh, | don't know. We always have
so much to do here; he always keeps
a good many farm hands at work and il
| left my work all to hired girls we should
be without food in a very short time;
they are so wasteiul."
DO not leave all your work TO the
girls; but to leave the work 10 them occa'
sion;.lly would do all good. They will
see that YOU place confidence in their SER
vices, and will certainly try to DO rs well
as they can during your absence; and you
will gain rest and strength and be better
able to perform your duties"
At this time my husband came TO the
door with Mr. johnson, and rose to take
leave. was somewhat acquainted with
our host, 50 said 10 him. Next time
YOU drive over 10 our house, please in
vite YOUR wife to ride over with you"
We'll" said he, ''if it would do any
good. would like to invite her often;
but she has no time TO 20 anywhere
turning to her-''do YOU. wife,
But you can invite her; said !, before
she had time to reply; "wont you now?
There will be no harm done, and think
she'll come"
lie promised to do as requested, and
we took our leave. On our WAY back |
asked Lewis if he supposed the time would
ever come when he would cease TO in
yite me TO go with him?
Not while You accept the invitations"
was the reply. But can imagine how it
would be if, when ask YOU to 60. you
should refuse me time after time. I'm
pretty sure should get tired OF hearing
the old song, Il can't go. I've so much
TO do : and after while should cease to
desire Your company"
Il believe that's the srcret OF so many
complaints" said /, of women always be-
ing obliged to stay at home
That's just it; the fault is their own.
More than two-thirds of the women of
our land, who complain of neglect on the
part of their husbands arc themselves to
blame for great share of that neglect"
why, Lewis, that's Il very sweeping
assertion; two-thirds reaches a very long
way"
II know it but just note it for yourself.
See if, when you 60 back to the first cause
of the majority of them, you will not own
that they were at the first to blame. do
not doubt but that SOME men are negli-
gent; and some are not careful to give
their invitations when it is convenient for
the wife. Neither did they know before
they were married what work was to be
done vet the fair ones would manage to
be ready at the appointed time. Work
could be laid by then: why not afterwards
as well?
'But. Lewis, just think how much bet
ter your dinner might have been, if | had
stayed at home, than it will be now
Don't you think would have shown my
love for you better than in going with you
because / shall enjoy this glorious morn
ing in the open air if | had stayed at
home and made nice plum-puddiug and
broiled you nice steak? As it is you'll
have to put up with cold dinner to pay