The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-06-30
BORED husbands.
Frem tho Saturday Review.]

"a. ard that, ance wedded tc the beloved Oh.
ect there is sure to be smooth sailing and
s&alcyon seas to the end Of time. 1T sounds
kery cynical and shocking to question this pret
~ belief; but unfortunately for US who live II
khe world as it ts. and not as it is supposed tt
<be, we find that even union with the beloveo
object does not always insure perfect content
.8nent in the home, and that bored husbands
+hre by no means rare.
The ideal honeymoon is Of course an Elysiar
kime, during which nothing works rusty or getf
put Of joint; and the ideal marriage is only 6
lifelong honeymoon. where the happiness il
more Ct cure and tho love deeper, IL more sober
but the prose reality Of one and the other hat
bitten terrible dash Of wear1ness in 1t, ever
binder the most favorable conditions. Boredom
begins In the very honeymoon itself. At frs
tsrti9g 10 married life thero are many dang ers
10 be Spccuntered, not Q shadow OF which wa.
oQ be seen in the wooing. There are odd freaks
90 Sg aa's 20 @eS bens
Sed fer lie. Of never being able to be alone
Tein p1ver free and without responsibilities
are sr misuaserstsndings to-day and the
ger than mans hand, which may prove te
the tetnpest that will destroy all; there Is the
hrest 6f, travelling, and the awkwardness ol
The E nsp IL sas the
iown in vile and . cottaRe7or their month
Bhere isthe ''sad safety which all men fee
tier time whom they have had one compan-
on only, WITH no outside diversion to cause q
lose, ana the relieved bridegroom gets back
g his old haunts to his work, his friends. and
Iis club; and though he takes to all these
hiDgs again " with difference" still they are
Relps aud additions. This is the time OF trial
: woman II she gets over tnis pinch, and
p senHble enough to understand that human
nature cannot be- kept up ct high pressure,
ven lnn4Qye, aid that q man must sooner or
pier come down from romance to work-a-dsy
rose. .FoM the passionate lover 10 the cool
md Heber husband-n she can understand
Dis, and,settie into his pace, without frettlng
me one hand. or casting about tor un-
p we'll and will probably make q plea
bnt ant home and thereby dinn,nisn the
oredom OF life. But, VI fortunately, not
very woman roman IAN Do this and it is just
bonn the'lover to the friend that 80 many wo.
ben begin to make shipwreck Of their own han
fness and his. They think 10 keep HIM a 70
fantic wooer still, BY their tears at his prosAlc
aold him close by their fattering but some.
yhat hreeome exactioas; their jeaIousies-
lefty. perhapss and quite as flastering-are
nnite ana a. baseless as they are infinite; all
the beginning OF thugs but all OF which
PTS awfniiy wearis0me as time eoes On, and a
an wants both . little change and q little
8st. BHb women do not see this; or, seeing il.
4ey cannot accept it as necessary condition Of
pings; wherefore they go on in .helr fatal ,vay.
Ad, by the very unWisdom Of their own love.
pre- their husband out Of his Or they GROW
Rbstanttally colo because be is superfioialIy
2oler' ani think themselves justified IN ceas-
loo it. 'N s 7'7A = ~
II they are jealous or shy, or unsocial. as SO
'any tSois women are. they make lite very heavy
&cter they give 70 the b ,me. man marne ed
woman OF this kid ,is, In fact. house
isoner. whose only heurs Of freedom lie sbes
ENDS ate shut out. They smoke, or entice |
m to drink more than his wife thinks is good |
him; or they induce him to bet on the
Rrby. or to play for half crowns at whist or |
liards; Or they lead him in some other way |
offence abhorrent to women. 80 the bache- |
s friends are ehouldered out, and when the |
psband wants to entertain them he must in. !
Re them to hi, ciub-lf he has one-and pay I
IL "Wsa Ws 1 s e. saa asRe @ asg
3 son'syoung friends to the house, for the I
Re Of the daughters on hand; but hug
ds s "a 4sa1s sons are are h ,4Ss.s different o can
ther Viii allow tina, the wlrfe refused. II
chelor friends are shouldered out OF the |
use al female friends are forbidden any
8nR like an intimate footing. save those few
Aom the wlfe thlnks speoa ~ devoted to her |
y and Of whom she is not jealous. And they
very tew. There are perhaps no women IN
q world so exclusive toward their husbands !
are English women. A husband Is bound to
e woman only, NO doub. !; but she thinks him
10 bound to have no affection whatever out
he the house and family. Hhe meets an in
ligent woman pleasant to talk to, of agreea-
pmauners and ready Wit, and il he talks TO her
y consequence with anything like persist ency
interest, he oHsnds against the uawritten
fsation oonsista in putting IN. yes or no with
eraSle accuracy OF aim. thinks herself
Rhted and III t,sed. She may be Young and
btty, and dearly loved for her own special
ought toward his new frlends or any other
bmaD. in the remotest degree tren shing on
y allegiance 10 her; out the fact that he finds
basure, though only Of an intellectual and
Rma6, that he feels an interest in her lfs,
ooses her. tor his friend. OF hnds community
pursuits or sympathy IN IDEAS makes his
2Fo by Just 90 much y victim and aggrieved.
nd yet what miserable mon0tOnous home is 1
ht TO which she wonld coniins hirni / He 10 at
Office all day badgered and worried with
Fious business 0smplic CATIONS, and he Comes
l3me tired, per6aps orose--even eii.conducled
sbande have that way Hometimes. He fiDds
s wife tired and crpss TOO; SO thst they begin
- evening t01ether mutually o. odds, she
lated Dy SnaAll cares, and he dlS8urbed by
&c enxieties. Or he finds her -preoocupled
- absorbed in her OWN nnrscss. and quite
einciuoa to mako any diversion for his sake.
R'ly enough % sing and play % hum IN the
love-mak,nR days; but abe refuses nov.
her she has some ne0dlewOrk TO do. which
= ght have baeu done during the day wien he
> out, OF baby Is asleep in the nursery, and
hsio in tho drawing room would disluIb bum
ht all events she cannot sing or play tonight;
p even II she does-he has heard all her
bces SO ofepi II he is no, reading man.
pss long dull. silent evenings are very try
X. She wOIks and drives him wild wiLh the
= Ck of her Ne6<iIeS or 0h0 read, th0 last new
vel. md he hates novels, and gel 9 tired to
ath when she insists on telling him oil aDout
sto' y and the characters; or she chooses
: evei 1n for letter-writipg and Il the noise
htr peg scratching over the paper does not
flia.e him. perhaps IL sends hlm to- sleep.
ben at last b. .s Lot bored. But duh objeet-
% anu vRcant rs tier evenings are fls wife
bu,d n6t hoxr OF any help from without to
: Re just that l,ttle hllp whiob would
eve'' boredom nd not create ceremony.
be would think her lite had gone to
bOea, aid that only a so alton, was sbefoIe
Z II ns, limited tNAI his hLIne wan doll. and