Gold Hill daily news. [volume] (Gold Hill, N.T. [Nev.]) 1863-1882, 1869-12-08
GOOD BREEDING.

Those who value the repose OF lie
than its struggles will prefer TO
arrange their line Of action so a. to Sc
cure the elements of enjoyment and cul-
which it Offers, instead Of rest
les,ly pushing forward into some other.
The idea that there is something ignoble
in this aequiescence ought to be dis
carded. When it does not form an e1-
cu,e for apathy and incidence, it often
displays a higher order of intelligence
and character, and a truer sense OF what
is esssntislto a happy existence than is
entertained by those whose aims and
ideas are absorbed 10 the problem OF
how to rise in the world. But one OF
tho prime conditions Of happiness in
any sphere, especially social and dome'-
tic, is tho cultivation of refined aud
gentle manners. There is no reason
WHY q man who has to toll all day and
live BY the labor of his hands, should
be coarse and rough with those with
whom he is thrown in contact. Rude
ness does not make friends on the con-
trary, it alienates both friendship and
love. There is such q thing as a man
being too rude with those nearest and
dearest TO him, aud thus lowering him
self in their eyes. There are thousands
Of men in this country who have not
vet learned how much happier they
would be in their families if they were
kind, gentle and courteous toward their
wives, sisters and daughters. Scarcely
a dsy passes without the newspapers
recording instances of gross ill-treat'
ment committed by men upon theil
wives, even to the extent Of murder
It will probably be long before we shall
be free from these occurrences. Bu'
there is much domestic misery and dis
cord, which not before the public,
and much Of this is oceasioued by coarse
manners, and indulgence in low, sensual
tastes. If good manner could tnke thu
place Of these, how different would the
case DO, and how much hHppier-nay
richer in a pecuniary sense, would such
families fud themselves. Politsness Is
the cement OF society. II IS singular
that it should be found among savages
as much as among civilized nations
" Savages," says the Shepherd in one
Of the Noetes Ambro:idnG, Gas far as
manners arc concerned, are your only
gentlemen. Who ever heard tell o 9
Red Indian takin' the word out o your
mouth, or contradiction 20 in q Loud
voice, or tolliu' you that you were III
icuorsmus? Nae Red Indian, whether
Cherokee or Iroquois or Mowhawk, eve
disgraced himself by insultiu' you IL
that gate" It may be that fear of tn
tomahawk from each other, or Of tn
rifle from the white man, may have pro
| duced this politsness, and it has become
inherent, Just as the practice Of duelint
made gentlemen punctilious toward eacl
| other. There is n considerable amour
of native p%olitsusss among the French
workmeu and the Irish %pessantry, Blu
it is lamentably wanting among thu
~uneducated classes, Of England. As tn
latter become possessed Of politiGa
power they will probably learn NOR
and more to respect themselves ant
each other, and it is the consciousness
Of the possession Of this power in il
fullness that makes the mass Of GU
native population forbearing and cour
teous. Their education, too, has mucl
to DO with it, and in this respect the.
have a marked advantage over thei
less fortunate brethren in Europe
There are many in all ranks who ma,
become gentle by culture, and be traiue'
to respect themselves and others. WheI
they have learned this they will carr.
iuto their homes the temper which the.
have been induced to form, and acquir
the demeanor which it is proper t
exhibit out Of doors.