The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-08-10
FLATTBRE
From the Saturday Revlew.l

.s5.s a. FLATTRRE
-','s-aa From the Saturday Eeview.l
Nothing ID 80 delightful as fattery. 10 heal
and believe pleasanl fctions about ieseiI y
q temptation 100 seGuctlve fof.Weal mortar,
TO res;at. as the typical legends Of all mytholo-
=. Rics and the private histories OF most lndlso'
mails chow; in consequence OF which, home
= truths. to one used to ideal portraiture, come
like drauehls Of .'bitter cup: 70 the dram.
= drnker. Apd fattery is dram.drmkpg; and
yet not quite without good uses to balance 1t:
.undenlabie evil. If only it be exaggeration, and
q matter Of course The presence OF virtues po
iential TO the Character but NOT always active
and prsises for what might be II the persor
chose 70 live up to hissbest.
The f1,tteries OF men to women and those OF
women to men, are very different IN kind and
n direo.i.u. Men fatter. women Tor Wnat they
= are-for their beauty, tbel- grace, their sweet
ness. their charmingDess IN general, while
woman win Aatter fiian for what he does
Yor bls speech IN the house last night, OF Which
sbe unlel stands little; tor his boIk, OF Which
Ia und .rslr ruds less; or for his pleading. o!
who she understands nothln8 at al. NOT
that thus signifies much on either Hde. Inc
!. most u,lnteliectual little woman "a ine WoIid
sokss braIns. enhnRh 10 ioos mp M your lace
RE- '..Sss,,si,ul- I ehaIming-so cIeger, vague.y
eketching The outline Of q hymn OF PRAISE to
!. which yoLr own vsnlty supphes the .verslcies'
For Won must have on exceptionally stropg
head il YOU can rateth skeicl OF its real value,
and see fofe5oqrreR how utter neanlpgiess "
day. sucgesifnY TO your acutest renders grave
66fIS.a as 10 your cRn power Of comprehend.
Tgyo5rseif; or you msy be the most subtle
mSthematiciap. 10 follow whom IN your
labyrinth Of reasoning requires perhaps the
SrsreasSo, der of braips to be met With; but you
Will nevertheless believe any narrow-broweo'
,z1maA A.heatcd woman VINO tells you IN Q low,
!, sVect voice. WITH q gentieuplflnS OF her eyes.
I snd Suggestive curve Of thehp that she has
found yod; both iutelligible snd charming fand
that she quite agress4 With iyous and shares
your every sentiment. u she furher tells you
thst ~ her hfe long she has hou&nt IA exact-
Niths S4ns Wy bur Mas. Wholly una@s s5ss,ioa 5S sa
her want and, translated into wqrdslhsr vague
ideas, and il che says this with reverennal
hnd Of efnsiveness, You are done ior, 30 Iar as
your critical pewer goes; and should some
candid friend. whom che has not nattered, tel
you with brutal frankness that your Dewltchlng
lt3la Aatterer has neither b:ans nor tne eau-
,esfion to understand yon, You VIII sec DIM
down as q slanderer, spitefui and malignant
md call his cand0r envy, because he mas not
; bean 30 lucky as yourself
There "A one Kind OF flattery which is COM
mon 10 both men and women, and that 10 the
.eTrressed preSefenceo of sex. Thus! when men
vsnt to Aatter women, they see how infinitely
sssv. and Sofnen viii say the same to men. Or
if4Sey 40 mol say Il, they win acs it. See set
: ~ noyo an. .aconefernted together without the
RShf ofa msily couatenance among them.
T6ey will taIk to each other certainly; and one
or two Mn nj away together aud dicuss their
m,yate affairs with animation; but the great
mass Of them ara on.y halt vltafxad while
cw1tIg the advent OF the men TO rouse them
into .iife and the desire to please. No man who
goes mn first and earher than he was expected
II m the dinner table, can fail to see the change
WHOM comes over those :weSriod, limp. ind,f-
ferent looking faces and figures ss soon as he
enters the room. He Is like tae prince whose
Dliss voice. up the Hieepfn2 beauty and
m her court; aid can any one say that this IL
I. not fattery Of The, mdst dgniAed kind? TO be
the Pygmslion even for amoment, ana ior ne me
sNeAkest order OF eoul1 gSme,og apont .ie
greatest pleasure taas nd. maa oTp ~ fstss,v No
Some women, indeed. not only show tneI 5
preference for men, Pas openly cootess y, ana
confess at the same nme 70 ,o.sy @ conSsaps Tsass
or ora1noIrence Dr tne sScie.! VI M'Hoa ho.. man
mo Esnerauy women "no are y. ;et"1,.c.,,ai CU
peenles, or VINO nave mys.sry yh;as SIe sUJ con.
Peesenslons, ol Wnn uespHo n,osass thnnseivss
IA 81 teiH ~ otSer women becsuse OF their
narfowness sn0 @ Saap'uIy .i,c bv thsir hesntv or
~ tney ss1 TU~el No nss,, tn receive e1,
tneM t.'a ."u. ora na Den and thns their nrefer.
1as.enlV9a u0m a,9, se ,,rch 10 eriaennce Wo-
onse ~ nos nN'y - oJ 4, I'd. NJ yhereyer slse
% ,sn muU - NV =; Ne minority IN society. are Of
;Ssa s;nS.s s.na 'nothihn is more amssfpe to
tnn,, A, whso thav f3rst come home than the at