The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1869-01-13
The Tyranny OF Married People.

From The London ReUieW.
We think it was Lamb who made a pathetic
complaint against the endearments an1 ex.
changes of married couples IN his presence. In
hts quaint sty e the humorst let out that on such
occasions he felt entirely subdued, awkward,
and desoate, that he also experienced a seuse
OF injury and as If there were au indirect attack
made upon his peace of mind. We should say
that most persons of siugle views would feel
very much as Lamb did under similar circum-
stances; but there Is another situation, not ofso
pronounced kind, IN which bachelor is often
made conscious OF certain social advantages
possessed by married man.
Even in good circles visitor may observe
constant flashing OF signals between the married
guests. 1t is perhaps needless to Temar6 that
such messages are confined, where there Is pro-
priety, to wives and their respective husbands;
but, in any case the TACT of these going about,
combined with the consciousness that he, of all
assembled, has nothing in common with the
notions that prompt them, render the bachelor,
ii not Tor moment unhappy, at least 1mpelled
to fall back upon those cynical consultations
which have been specially designed Tor cell
bates. He may note that if he addresses
remark to Mrs. A, who sits next him, MIR. A.
at the other end of the table seems to
otsympathy which we must leave mesmerists or
Mr.. Home to discover. When Mrs. A. replies,
A. looks up with glance OF intelligence,
although his attention Is due, and Indeed Is
given, to the conversation of those IN his
immediate neIghbofhood. You must know that
what you say aud whatyo do will be subjected
on your departure 10 u Uudl CTiCiClSn WINCH
has the dangerous advantages OF beiLg neither
| puOlic nor responsible, and which, beng the
| sum of two experiences, one male and Que
| female, often possesses an accuracy terrible for
| the subject OF it TO contemplate. For instance,
! supposng you are the sole bachelor at a
country house. A few of the men remain up to
smoke a last cigar, having been almost audlby
cautioned (you can either hear or see the
notice. against oVerstayiDg short leave OF
absence.
One by one they disappear, except, perhaps,
an extra polite or courageous gentleman who ls
good enough to see you suffering from aim
sense of injury, and remains longer than the
rest. AT length he goes, and you are lett. Next
morning you may be perfectly certain that If
you were thought worth a discussion, you have
been thoroughly weighed, measured and done
for IN that mysterious coDclave at which there
are no witnesses. Ii you only study or draw
out the men little, ten to one you will get
rom them what they have said; for there are
give you a quiet prod of the bodk.n, they
| are proud OF. But the WlVes-sWeet
| hypocrites ! conceal their opinion from most,
though if you watch their faces off guard, you
catch a glimpse of it. Here, without doubt, the
married man has a social powor tar beyond the
| isolated ami ''Wild-ass' independence OF the
! bachelor. 1t has been settled that the wife
| selects her husbands friends after marriage.
| She weeds them at her own taste, and plants
Others more in accord with her sentiments
And indeed she does this constantly, to the end
OF the chapters; aud, as rule, she is right in
| her instincts. For woman in this way acts IL
| a great measure from instinct, aided by the
direct knowledge which she extracts from hel
husband, and which has been, perhaps, i'm
parted TO him in bursts of confidence never
intended for conveyance to her.