The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1869-12-15
INV LECTURE Br H:HsY WARD BEacHEa.

The "HOusehOido-IIoves Mnrringe, Divorce.
From the Hartford Courant. Dec. AL
Allyn Han was packed LIST evening to hear the
Rev. Henry Ward Bescner on ..THe HouseholJ.n IL
Is a new lecture. first delivered here, ani Mr..
usually Is, The lecture was carefully prepared full
OF beautiful passages and pervaded by Inc MODEST
Christian PHILOSOPHY IL Ia sale to say that the vast
audience, who were delighted by it for an hour,
went away with refreshed ana ennoDled ideas OF the
life OF the household which they wlil not soon
Mr. Beecner SAID that hew sorry for any man to
whose ear tneie IL any wofo IN tue English language
sweeter than nome. Growth cllangetn all lhings
but our opinion OF home. II IL the paradise OF
memory. me one altar where light never goes QUO
is home
The history begins In love, aud It's unfolding and
It's constructive elements are the true outcome Of
affection. Mr.. Beecher dweit aC length upon this
MODEST part OF mans nature, and specialized upon
tine reason why the unfolding OF tins passion IN the
young soul, so serious an ailar to man or woman,
should always have u ludicrous side TO spectators,
why the enthusiasm Of lovers ALWAYS covers wit and
raiery. the jeorng world re1ards love as q bon.
fire. that bIazes for moment and goes ont IN
ashes. Would that one could discover the art Of
The lecturer condemned the philosophy that said
to the Young, You expect too mucl "a love- IL IS
undertaking love. lie would say to every Ingenious
youth, God mas made your happiness IN this ne
TO depend more upon loving tnan upon al ether
the lecturer proceeded with mingled humor ana
pathos, to snow now IL II that love and that only
makes the household happy aud that IL Is only by
sacrifice OF SELF That Two beings welded can grow Ia
rst step in the household Is to learn the art OF lv
ing Intimately together. When the Illusions OF
Imagination vanish then comes the task Of asslmiia-
ton often lifelong work. but 10 be perseyered In
at all costs, Tor only 80 can tue victory c0mc-0ny
by love and generous good nature can tue ADJUST
ment Of two independents souls take place. Mnrriase
never mates. lime alone eau do tuat. Love Is
sch00nasIer aud carries discipline as we'll IS IN
struction 10 i've well together requires an effort rs
seifdenylng as oiilicult a. cross-Dearils as any
otner religious act Of lilo Women often, mea
never, love when loneliness Is gone.
Iho household Already II mas been 10 the world
than church or government or law. IL Is Gods
own grand natural Institution. Two hearts inds.
sOlubly joined Tor better or Tor worse and by love
overcoming unlovellness-thIs Is Gods foundation
OF the household.
the day, Mr.. Beecncr said:Men must overcome the
causes Of unhappness within the household, or el56
81 q 70 s,S M am sy en o t uTor Uu
put II upon society ut large. ihe remedy must D0
applied at Tho door OF entrance into wcdlock, and
NOT ~ the point OIL exit. III there were command
IN Christianity, II men were LETT 10 frame statutes
solely W Tue hight derived IRON experience IT would
soluble except Tor ds50iving vice anu crime.
As It Is, in the growing laxity OF the
d mountain pool between two cascades. Men
plunge into it headi0ng wnri around the sparkling
circle anu 60 on 0oIsierous aud troubled way.
Tnis IL tho wild way Of animal nc Inc Lords way
IL tue way OF sell sacrlce. The housenoid ~ C0u's
school, wnere Two hearts are to be smut up aud for
bidden " go out until they nave adjusted ali their
diiierenccsand tnon they Will not wish 10 20 out.
1he orator proceeued 10 speak of the Improvement
Of tho household IA the recent ages anu 10 attribute
N largely to tho education aud Developments Of
women. IL IS ~ be made perfect IN the perfection
sc na unu s"na be- from car 10 Uarl ann ,mS
how wealth Is well spent 10 enrich and adorn 1t.
lie sgctched tue family NE to-day OF well ordered
household ami showed that IL Is on higher average
tnan ever before In history. Ignorance used to Ne
thought tho mother OF devotion; 1t Is by many now
peieved that ignorance promotes ielnaie deiicacy
and grace. But reason Is at the foundation OF love
wntcn endufos; aud education anu the Guilty. atluu
Of all tho powers will ennobc tho household iife