The Emporia news. [volume] (Emporia, Kan.) 1859-1881, 1869-07-30
COURTESY IN MARRIED LIFE.

There is a magic I'm the little word
''honle = IL Is u mystic circle which sur
rounds comforts and virtues never
known beyond its hailoWed precincts.
The Vicar of Wakefield thus describes
the etiauette of his household THE
little community TO which I gave laws
was regulated i'm the following manner
Ne all assembled early, aud after we
had saluted each other with proper GER
emony Qor always thought il lit to
keep up some mechanical forms ofgootl
breeding wiibout such frecdom ever de-
stroys friendship, We all kncIt in graf
itude to that Being who gave another
day. So, also, when we parted for the
night"
The old Wears precepts and example,
in this regard, are worthy the respect
and imitation of the rising generation.
True courtesy should guide us even in
the nIosttriiiing matters {; and the voice
of prayer and thanksgiving should be
heard within the house.
The first year of married life is gen
orally considered the hardest. We in
cline to. doubt that statement. To be
sure, the Young couple are now forced
to become acquainted with each others
northumberland we all have some that
are distasteful 10 every body but our
SSltCS" w tlt
ly company TO each other" after mar
riage, they must be seen in every day
colOrs, and learn " hat tints wear best.
Ii has been said that every young coup
lie who desire to make good start in
life, must keep two bears III the house.
ana feed them well-namely bear and
forbear.
Between husband aud wife there
should be no strife for supremacy. The
husband is by heaven ordained head,
, but each should study the others fOibles
as well as virtues being gentle towards
the first, and giving honor to the last.
Daily we see young people accepting
the duties of the married state who are
utterly uncducated for the life upon
which they enter so thoughtIessIy. The
young wife has been tenderly shielded
from all cares or hardships of real life.
The young husband may know more of
the rough and tumble of liie-niay
have better studied men and their way
but unless brought up with sisters, he
knows little OF women. If he has Il
naturally tender, kind and loving heart.
all will be well. lie will feed" his
t'bears."
The trite old saying, that ''no quarrel
can stalk about OH one leg" contains a
great deal of wisdom. Would that hus-
w IVES W OulNl DttlT IL Ill
that ''a soft answer turnctlI away wrath.
The mighticst rivers have their sources
in the small streams, and the bitterest
domestic misery has often arisen from
some tri1ling difference of opinion. w hen
the soft answer would have smoothetl
all ripplcs in the matrimonial current
When we see how large u proportion
of the children Of this age are entirely
undisciplined. at home, can we wonder
that strife and heart burniIIgs in mar
ried life seem OH the increase? Unless
children can be taught self-c0ntrol and
unseltishncss before they leave the home
circle. to become the light and life of
another home, we cannot hope that
their lives will be happy or their dwell
ings the abodes OF peace.
Much unhappiness would be avoided
if husbands and wives would only be as
well bred and as polite to each other af-
ter marriage as they were before. 1t
would seem, often. as if their good
breeding was laid aside with the mar
riage dress. As children grow up
around them, they follow i'm their par
ents footsteps. If the mother is heed
less of tire fathers wishes. and wanting
in proper Difference to his Judgment.
her sons and daughters will soon adopt
her ways. IL the father j. indifferent or
careless to the mother. meeting her re-
marks with ridiculc or smeers, you may
look for the fruits of his example in the
children.