The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-11-30
MANNERs o" TIE PERIOD.
The Freedom of modern SOFIA, Life.

'.Shircy Dare concludes y fashion leitcl In
the Chicago Republican with The following:
Somebody wants u chapter on what may he
termed inilmatr etiquette. This Is touched by
such inquiries as we see in The correspondents
column of la,iirs papers, where Lucia wants to
know II she Ought To allow gentleman TO kiss
her when she comes home with him from con-
cert, AMI Caroline is dubious whether she
onght to correspond with her friends bctroth-
cd in secret. One can't bur ursympathizc with
the yOrr:s ladies' knowing how incOnsitlcratc-
ly some one has neglected duty toward them.
Mothers nrd guardians seem often To fancy
That knowledge how to conduct ones SELF in
the delicate t!ilcmmis Of life comes by In
stnci. Girls leave boarding school AMI
go into s0cicly with the vagueSt of
notions about their relations To IL, and STUN
bic through It's small difficulties, hiding their
elnbar;assmenis MS best they, can, Keeping
brave front to The last, while the world never
gucsscs the secret Lortl,rcS they undergo in
iring matters. Oflcn enough for mere rest
less craving for novel condolences young
latieS seek public instead OF private advice,
when their mothers or friends aro quite ready
ana competent TO give them nll the help they
need. k'it there Is Il great deal Of trini that
bescts young girls nj the age when they feel
nllulrmcnts most kecnly, which the best parents
forget TO provide against. They ought 10 re-
call their own debates OF etiquette In youth,
and teach their children prudence before they
necn IL: Forcwarne1, torcarmctl.
his girl ofSsYtc tceifs In nor tarlrtan ball dress,
EARNING her slippers before, the fire, whiting
for her escon--ir girls ever do any Of The wait
Ing. ''You're looking swccly fresh Tonight!
AMI as fresh in heart us In dress, ! hope. You
are 10 stay SO, do you hear, n,ddahcn You
are not To let people hold You close whom you
waltz nobody his any business 10 touch you
I'LL you lave lover or husband of your own
don't want my girl talked about Remember,
nobody has The least right, on any pretcnce
TO do more than tonch your fingers, or lay his
hand on you In the permilted freedom of the
waltz. unlcsr he is your relative or going
10 bc.''
And after that she would probably sit In the
conservatory, letting handsome Jack, the fast
flat ana lady killer, slip his arm by degrees
from the back OF her chair, lift her losket from
her bare neck, and kiss her hand, I'LL he dared
kiss her lips, and gather her close TO him,
which wonld probably be the sixth time they
mot, at iarthGst. You see men nnd women
Ike such things.
It's right they should rm not going to belle
the blood Tint beats in this wrist one instant,
10 say they should net. Only one may have
some choice rs To whether one Will accept
Garesses from the wholesale stock OF natural
liking, or the special reserved fund, of pre-
cious preference. Suppose, young warm
hearted girl, that as you lean on that broad
shoulder In the half-lt paror tonight, think
ing how nice 1t Is TO have somebody fond and
protecting, and how dear you seem 10 be to
him, suppose you should. by some Invisible
magnetic sense, be made aware of all the
cheeks that had res ted OH that shoulder, and
MI the forms that arm cncircled It's fortunate
you don't know these things. II might lead
you, however, to keep yourself more sacred
for some one who will love You as entirely as
you love this man, who "l,Scs life as 1t
comes" and by force Of habit, If not by incllna-
ton, could no. remember one woman SIX
months II his happiness depended OH i.
Did you ever see the od-fhshioned hook on
etiquette called The Young, Latly's Friend ?"
Good Mrs. Farras will never guess tho benefit
that straightforward, wholesome book of nd
vice has been to girls. She knew the cluss
such frank words us these quote from memo
ry. "You are to allow no personal freedom
from gentlemen Of your acquaintance. Ii
ilnger Is put ont 10 examine Il lOckct or chain
oil your dress, draw back aud take II Off for
ins ;ion II yon choose. The reason for this
rule H. clear TO those who are better acquainted
with the world"
The reason is perfectly clear TO every ono
WHO comes to twenty-five years Of age cut
side reform institution. 4 man of Society,
who dealt In occasional roughncss OF speech,
said once In parlor bcfurc ladies', that hc
would never marry then New York girl of
fashion. for the class allowed themselves 10 be
handled TOO much. girl who protects herself
from The freedoms Too much In vogue In socie-
~, increases her OWN value II she only knew
u, WIN those she may have 10 rcpSc. don't
believe In priidishness or suspicion, but | do
belicvc that when men and women are not
content with friendship that can be expressed
ny frank, Kind eyes, and cordial, brief hand
a,,IuhcS, ant! Clehr WOruS, ono is not ashamed
the world should hear, they should know what
intoxication they are sharing. 1t strikes one Gu |
riohsiy to see Indies forgetting their hands in n
mans clasp, while they are talking so carncstiy:
there Is great deal of expression I'm tic nrni
ness of two conycrsaiionjts, OF which tells n |
little more than people are aware of. Il's nil |
right ana ian0ccnf, of course blit ifpcoDle nro
properly Indifferent 10 each others hands. whv
not observe cdnrCnaMceS, and drop them whci, !
The cordial saIutc Is performed! You never
see Rev. Mr.. Surplcc hold any hand In his bnt |
[hai OF young Rocket, the curaic, with tho |
melancholy large black eyes, and you never
sce grave legal gentlemen crushing the lloilnccs
ni equally glnvc and Interesting spinstcrs.
Tlcre is fine distinct line bcLwecn tho cordial |
commerce of good will and hcaven-warm alice
ion, That binds the human family together,
lnd these leatlngs of attraction that with
nent.
There IS one rule that settles n thousand
l,ieTies OF the nature we arc considering. |
" Whatever Is secret may be safcly cl Untouched.
lIlc touch, The look, the intimacy, The corres.
,0ndcnco that needs TO be secret, has some
hlng wrong about Ii. II you are sure thera. Ia
70 evil In your motives, for hcayen,s sake
ono out and avow your friendship, your de-
lgn, Whatever 1t may be. You make the :
'oria plircr and sci precedent by your frank
ess that tears away thousand iiypocrisics,