Mineral Point tribune. (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1869-1938, 1869-07-24
Courtesy in Married Life


There Is magic in the little word
"'Home ;" Il IS mystic circle which
surrounds com forts and virtues new
or known beyound its hallowed pre-
cincts. The Vicar of Wakefield thus
describes the etiquette of his honse-
hold 1.-THE little community TO
which / gave laws was regulated in
the following manner We al as
sembIed,,early, and after;we had,salut-
ed cash other with proper ceremony
flor l always thought it fit TO keep up
some mechanical forms ofgood breed
ing without which freedom ever de-
stroys:: friendshipl we all knelt in
gratitude to that Being who gave
another day. So, also, when we
parted for the night"
Tie old wears precepts and exam
pie, in this regard, are worthy the
| respect and imitation of the rising
generation. True courtesy should
guide US even i'll the most tTifling
matters and the voice of prayer and
| thanksgiving should be heard with
| in the house
/ The first year Of married life is gen.
orally considered the hardest. We
| incline to doubt that statement. To
| be sure, the young couple are now
| forced to become acquainted with
each others northumberland we
ali have some that are dlstastefui to
| everybody but ourselves. While
engaged they are only company
TO each other - after marriage, they
must be seen in every day colors,
and learn what tints wear best. Ii
has been said that every young
couple who desire To make a good
start in life. must keep two bears in
/ the house, and feed them we'll
namely bear and torbear.
Between husband and wife there
should he no strife for supremacy
/ The husband IS by heaven ordained
/ head, but each should study the
others foibles as we'll "a virtues
/ being gentle towards the first, and
giving honor to the last.
Daily we see Young people accept
! ing the duties of the married state
who are utterly unedueated for the
/ life upon which they enter so
thoughtlessly. The young wife has
been tenderly shielded from all cares
or fardships of real life The young
hus band may know more OF the
trough and tumble" of life-may
have better studied men and their
WAYS but unless brought up with
sisters. he knows little of woman.
Ifhe has a naturally tender, kind
and loving heart, all viii be well.
He will "feedn his bears
The trite old saying that mo quar-
rel can stalk about on one Leg con-
tains a good deal of wisdom. Would
that husbands and wives would bear
it in mind that''a soft answer turneth
away wrath" The mightiest rivers
have ktheir sources in the small
streams, and the bitterest domestic
misery has often arisen from some
trifiing difference of opinion, when
the 'soft answer would have
smoothed all ripples in the matri-
monial current.
When we see how large proper
ton of the children of this age are
entirely undisciplined, at home. can
we wonder that strife and heart
burnings in married life seem on the
increase Unless children can be
taught self-control and unselfishness
before they leave the home circle, to
become the light and life Of another
home, We cannot hope that their
lives Will he happy or their dwellings
the abodes of peace.
Much Gnhappiness Would bc avoid
Ell if husbands and wives would only
be as we'll bred and as polite to each
other after marriage as they were
before. 1t would seem, often, as II
their good breeding was laid aside
with the marriage dress. AS child
rem grow up around them, they fol-
low in their parents footsteps. If
the mother is Needless of the fathers
wishes, and wanting in proper defer
ence to his judgment, her sons and
daughters will soon adopt her ways.
If the father is Indifferent or careless
to the mother, meeting her remarks
with ridicule or sneers, you may look
fer the fruits of his example in the
children