Dallas herald. [volume] (Dallas, Tex.) 1849-1873, 1869-08-07

/ ahu must uNhAAiNS ANNiA NNAA W
/ life, arc those which show them
selves ia common sense, in geo |
Judgment aud that kind OF patient
courage which enables them 10 bear
small crosses and gr,s, trials alike
with dignily and good temper, = .
What good is there in ones wilo's
being an accomplished malhmeti'
elan, a deeply read lholosian, il she
cannot keen the accounts square,
knows nothing of tho management
of children, lets herself DO cheated
by tho servants aud the trades peo-
pie, has not her eyes upon tho dirt
aud disorder, and gives way 10 u
flettul temper on thc smallest pro-
vocationy The pretty fool who
spends half her time in trying on
new dresses and studying the effects
of celors, and who knows nothing
beyond tho last now novel and the
latest fashions, is not more disas-
trous wiio than the woman Of pro.
found learning whose education has
nothing practical. They stand Mt
the opposite ends Of the same stick,
and neither end gives tho true posi-
ton OF woman. Indeed, if one
must have fool in ones house, the
pretty ono would be tho best, as, at
least, pleasant to look at, which is
something gaiped. The intellectual
fool, with her head always in books
and questions" and her children
dropping of like sheep for the wan,
of womanly care, is something more
than flesh and blood can tolerate.
The pretty fool cannot help herself.
1fnature was but step mother TO
her, and lot out the best part of her
Wits while taking such especial care
of her face, it is no fault of hers
but the intellectual fool is NAL
administration of powers, for which
she alone is responsible; and in this
particular alternative between
beauty and brains we would go in
S".,t for beauty without a shadow q of
Ball rooms and dinner tables are
the two places where certain women
most shine. In the bail room Hebc
is the queen, and has it all her own
way, without fear of rivals, save
such as arc Of her own class. A
very few men who care for dancing
for its own sake certainly will dare
with Hccato if she is light on hand,
keeps accurate time, and manages
her feet with scientific precision
but to the luck of youths, Hcbc,
who jerks herself into step every
second round, but whose lovely face
and perfect figure make up for
everything, is the partner they all
besicge. Only to those exceptional
few who regard dancing as ser.
Gus art would she be a bore with
her three jumps and hop; while
Hecate, waltzing like an angel,
would be divine, in spite Of her
high cheek bones and light green
eyes a few de tete. But at the din
ncr table, whore nan likes to talk
between the dishes, a sympathetic
listener, if not of absolute irighlful
manners, to whom he can air his
stalest stories and recount his per-
sonal experience, is preferable to
the pretty girl, ifa simp!eton, and
able only to show her small white
teeth in q silly smile, and say eyes"
and "indeed" in the wrong places.
The ball room may be taken to rep
resent youth, and the dinner table
maturity. The one is the apothesis
of mere beauty, in clouds of white
muslin and heaven Of flirting; the
other is solid enjoyment, with brain
to talk to and beauty to look at, in
tho just proportion that makes the
perfect. A we'll ordered dinner
table is n social microcosm and
being so, this is the social rband of
the arrangement. .. ..
Every woman is bound to make
the best of herself. The strong
minded women, who hold them
selves superior to the obligations Of
dress and manner, and all tho pleas
ant little artificial graccs belonging
to an artificial civilization, and who
think any sacrifice made to appear
ance just so much waste of power,
arc the awful creatures, ignorant
creatures, ignorant of the real mean
ing of their sex-social Gr@ want
ing in every charm of womanhood,
and to be diligently Stunned by the
wary. The making the best Of I
themselves is very different thing
from making dress and personal
vanity the first consideration in
life. Where women in general fail,
is in the cxaggeration into which
they fall on tais and almost every
other question. They are apt to be ]
either dcmireps or devotecs, rights /.
Or firts, fashionable to an extent !
that lands them in illimitablc folly,
and drags their husbands names
through the mirc or they are so }
iowdy that they disgrace a well t
)rdcrcq drawing room, ana IN an !
evening party among the nicely
iresscd women, stand but as living ]
sermons on slovenliness. If they a
ire clever, they are too commonly \
blue stockings, and let the whole
,ouschold go by the board for the i
,ake of their fruitless studies and {
f they are domestic and good man I
lgers, they sink into mere servants, /
lever opening a book save their Z
laiIy ledger and mohgcr's bill aud "
he butchers prices. They want G
hat fine balance, that accurate a
and knowledge Of re Fl
ults, which goes by the name of 8
common sense, and which is the b
,est manifestation of brains they h
an give. and the one which men Il