New-York tribune. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1866-1924, 1869-12-18
BEECHER ON LOVE. HOME MARRIAGE,
AND DIVORCE.

Tie Boston Advertiser says Of Mr.. Beechers
lecture in the Old Bay State Course in Boston, Thurs
day evening that given to audience croWdlng
Music Hall 10 its utmost capacity, and that "the as
course was admirable both regard to depth OF Thought
and sentiment 10 wealth OF graceful and apt imagery
and from the many sdedness with which was treated
We select from The Advertisers report few notable
passages
The lecturer began by saying that he sorry for any
man TO whose ear there any sweeter word than tha
OF Home" His must have been sad history 70 Whoiu
ITS sound mad music. After Few feehg aiuSIos ~
the nexpressble attractions Of home he SAID that te
secret of tender memories was to he found cy III !e
divine nature Of that love whose SEED was plaheS III
childhood and whose growth was the tree OF ire, Not
wthstanding the universal grace and wtchng peaug
attending the dawn of early love- yet ths very IGt %
furnished food for mrth and ralery III might pe au
by cync that tins was KIND OF revengS d tb ny
grown people for having been deceived ana Iooleu
selves. There were some persons however, WIZ lau
been in love all their lives who had no grIage 70
and yet young love was just as tu OF Dlr 10 lHe ~
was the grumblers-with its innocent wles s nous
sympathies its tunes TO come ana 60 as u II hau tle
whole ocean behind it, its generosity. its apoundlng
hopes and its poetry Yet If he recolected Alright when
he was in love there nothing luderOus about IT, lie
never earnest in his ife twas the point OF we"
that made the difference. -. -.
The power of love must be measured not by It's inten
sity but by its efectsby It's bencence IN bringing INTO
play higher Of motives. by the faculties II I'M
folded byIts skill in harmoDZing different natures, Oie
completed. The Orchardt knew that blossoms were NOT
c6uld love with all his faculties II he could,
there would be less power ofOye equally
strength When love brought together two inherently
adapted each other two who had been urea IN sne
furnace Of affection in wide experience without
which there was no true manhood wOmanhood, then
possibly love might begin at the wedding without such
tho yWared but marrying was
not mating Not once in a hundred times did two natures
brought side by side harmonic in every part vi 80
thing We're people ignorant than OF human nature
Very and fruitful natures were often EIDE 10y sue
Guisitely sensitive with intensely tough. ,
He then spoke Of the amount OF discipline OF mutual
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married life Men said 10 fall into love Ihey ana
fall apd many never rose again. They should not iai
they should climb. Marriage was schooI "heIo hen
should 20 for reconstruction. ,,., -, ,
The lecturer then considered other conditions OF wed
lock and remarked that he had seen royal woman
marry a pigmy, and in score OF years she h9d so
nursed him that It not Islander To the SPECIES 70
RED Only those were thoroughly married whose ma;
lures reciproca-meetlng reason win reason hd
moral affection with moral afectOn-so that both Inled
and both served The real victories OF loyeWere those
With reference to the question Of divorce he said that
married people should earntto overcome their troubles
within the household. Discipline and suffering ana SELF
control and mutual forbearance additional sacred
inonv Facile divorce might help few sufferers
was at expense OF society at large The remedies lot
the possible troubles OF marriage should De az he dOo OF
entrance and not at its exit He deprecated the growing
laxy of public sentiment IN this matter The household
should be school where two hearts shOnld lntegehy
adjust their differences and then they would not wish to
He then controverted the opinion that the family tic
and tle family influence had degenerated. He main
taned IL was never so full OF glorious promise today
He then contrasted the modern family under Christianity
with 1.-THE family under Judaism and PaganiaIn, and
showed how the richness and refinement and dyershed
sources OF happiness OF the former had Increased.
This he ascr6ed to the gradual rise OF woman
from state Of yassalage 20 her present position. 49,
He then drew some powerful arguments from TINS
with the view to show that when woman elevated her
self TO perfect equality with the glory, the beauty
the goodness and 10y OF hOmelfe would be Immensely
increased There would be nobler motherhood, nObier
children and nObler men. At every step woman took
toward equality with men, men had cried out that she
would her decacy; and those cried the oudes who
had done most 10 destroy that dencacy TWAS lOr the
sake OF the household that he pleaded for nOber educa
ton a larger liberty for woman. Whatever they had
they would bring back the home. Every duty OF the
household would be better done under Increased inteh