The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1869-11-26
'Ehe Anatomy Of QuarreIlin.,

Inere Is one very singular cause OF quarrel
ing, that arises from peculiarly sensitive
and affectlonate temperament. 1t is common
to nearly all lovers, but it is frequently found
among friends also. There are some people
who cannot get on without constantly re-
iterated assurance of the love with which they
are regarded. They begin to doubt the ex-
istence of affection if it does not manifest
itself from time to time in some marked
manner; and their common method of
proving this is to get up some sort of quar-
rel, atfording opportunities for dramatic
''mal1ing-up' They are like children who
are continually pulling up the flowers they
have planted to see if they have taken
root. They are not content with recalling to
mind certain undeniable proofs of the friend
ship or love which unites them to their
friends; they must needs have some paIpable
testimony. They are anxious, apprehensive;
their faith is so independent of ordinary rea-
son that they are never satisfied with such
proofs as would be a perfect guarantee to
other peoples good sense. Yet it is not SO
much that they distrust the permanence of
the affection which they have inspired, as
that they inger for the pleasure of hearing
it find utterance. Hence the astonishing re-
petitions of love letters-the unvarying reite-
ration of a few tender phrases in lovers
talk. 1t is all very well for an outsider to
ask what is the use of repeating thirty
ulIneS III lelJor WIldG DOIu Une writer ana the
receiver accepts as an undeniable fact:
but both of them have taken pleasure in this
persistent writing of the old, old phrases,
which are so remarkably commonplace and
often ludicrous to uninterested persons By-
| and-by, however, marriage forms the eli
| max of this interchange of of assurances, and
| constitutes in itself sort of assurance which
| ought to render them henceforth unnecessary
| Now, if the young creature who has been
| transformed into wife should happen to pos
| sess one Of those restless, sensitive anxious
natures it is only too likely that she will take
| alarm at the undemonstrative and common
| place way in which her husband accepts his
| happiness. She will begin to suspect that
marriage has cooled his affection for her, and
| she will render herself wretched with the
| doubt. Some quiet evening she becomes
rather pensive, and to her husband, who is
reading the newspaper, she says:-
"Oh Tom, I'm beginning to think you
| don't love me nearly so much as you used
| to do"
"Stuff and nonsense" he says continuing
| the reading of Our Special Correspondent s
| glowing account of the performances of Fly
| ing Rein.
| In a few moments he looks round, and
| finds her gone. Recollecting vaguely that
| she had said something to him in a very pecu-
| liar tone he goes after her, and finds her in
another room, and dreadful distant in manner.
| He is very repentant; she bursts into tears;
and then he makes all those protestations of
affection that she has been dying to hear.
This is a very pretty lesson. Whenever the
monotony of married existence tires her, and
she longs for one of the lover-like bursts of
endearment Of their preconjugal days, all he
has to do is to get up a nice little quarrel and
terrify her remorseless husband into heroics.
Nor would it be fair to say that she does SO
out of mere intention to afford herself
| pleasure. 1t is probably one of the radical
characteristics of her nature to hunger fol
these emotional crises; and, once she found
out the way to procure them, it is very likely
that, inadvertently, she will have recourse tc
it pretty often. n.-IempIe Bar.