The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-07-16

withih earSh0t. flirting Not necessarily. It |
gehna all about his adniratlo9 tor her sister
Grace, or Angelina may be c5nfesaing to Henry |
whas Charley said to her last night, which I
makes her lower her eyes as she IL doing now. |
vousiy. May be, IL not likely. So chat sitting |
away in corners and whispering together is not |
ne9essa5iy Fl flirting though i may look like il
This goes fss'deoided flirting in the code Of the
ball room. But il the two keep well tOgether2 |
II they are really fond Of dancing, as one OF the |
ane arts combining science and enjoyment, |
though outside the ''marble halls" they might |
be deadly enemies -Montagues and Capulets, |
wlth no echo OF Romeo and Juliet to soften |
their mutual dislike. SO that not even dane |
sary 10 unmistaks BIN evidence, any more than |
sitting away in corners, heeing that equal ekill
and keeping well in step are reasons enou yh |
f0ri PEI petual partnership, making an idea of
outward siga ar symbol Of firtiue which may
asns 1S s 90 anS
phantasm, q proteus, impossible 10 seize or to
uoPlc5 with accuracy. Ore thing, however, we
San sss ssyMIfhat - taking git.a and attentions. Of
tacit understanding. may be certainly held as
cconstsitpang c ap important element Of flirting.
But this is flirting on the woman's side And
mere you ara being continually taken In. Your
80 swes and SEEMS 80 aateransy xG0 siad to
see you when you come, who takes an your
presents and acted expressions of love with
tne most bewitching gratitude and effuslop,
the thread and will not be caught il she does
not wish to be caught. At the decisive mo-
'mens me when you think You have secured her,
sns sna makes ,a, q bound and is sway; then turns
tear and pretty asseveration viii declare she
never understood you TO mean what you say
So% hs1e fo ~ sD9g; and that ySa
sseas isss s9$ yssy ssssa sdssa ssa
are cruel; because you haye believed her hon.
eat; q cr9eI hecanse you dtdp9t zee through the
clothed her eelashnesS; cruel. because che
was false. That is woman's ioglc when brought
TO book, and forced to oohfess that her. pre-
you onto your destruction simply beeause it,
pleased her vanity to make you her victirn
Then there are airts Of the open and rollicking
KIND, Who letyoq 80 far, very far indeed. when
aar, as il you hediwiltully transgressed known
and absolute boundaries girls and women
who lead You on, all in tho way Of good fellow
ship, to k!ock you over when you have got just
far enough to lose your balance. That is their
form OF the art. They like to see how far they
can make man forget himself, and how much
stronger their own deluaive enticements are
sense. And there. are airts Of the artaui and
Nsthl waters" kind. something like the male:
alrts spoken of, Just now; sentimental little
pussea perhaps. pretty young wives with I'M
hd means soured or scorehed. nt Just mellow,
ed and refined them. Or they may be OF the
satstArly ciaess creatures 30 very frank. 90 very
ggisteray aud confding and unsnsmcious o.. evil,
THAT really You scarcely know now to dssi with
them ct all And there are dirts OF the scien-
t,Ac kind, women who have studied the art
TO an art; and who are adopts attention II due
70 sna TSy according
and using each with deadly precision. From
such may d kind Providence deliver. lusl Ae
the tender nnefciee Of the wicked, go Ate the
scientifc firts-the women and the men who
play bowls with human hearts. for, simply
the stakes OF whole lfe's hapniness. = -
IT used t0be an old schoplboy maxim that
no real gentleman could be- refused by 20
lady. because mo- gentleman could presume be-.
no iady would or could give more encourages
ml,nt than she meant. What are we to say
them ri our airts II this maxim is true 2 Are
they really .no gentlemen" and EMO lAG,es." {"
according TO- the lannon's formula OF the
kitchAn Perhaps 1t would bessid so IL gem
tlehood meant now, a. it meant centuries ago.
the real worth and virtue Of humanity. For
nisting With intent is = crnel, false and 3
uesy ana sssSooa Teqs s waen sioa
that visiated an claims to gentlehoods And
| yet the world would bo very dnll without that
innocent kind OF nonsense winch often goes by
thu name Of firting-that pleasant something
which is more than mere acquaintanceship
and lessthAn formal loverhood--that bright
and animated intercourse which makes the
hours pass 80 easily, yet which leaves no bitter
pang Of self-reproach, that indefinite and un-
defnable interest by which the one msn or the
one woman becomes kind OF microcosn for
the time, the epitome OF all that is pleasant
and OF oil that IS lovely. The only caution to
be observed is. not 70 20 too far.