Weekly Delaware State journal and statesman. (Wilmington, Del.) 18??-18??, 1869-02-05

science OF cooking seems TO me to open ul
an almost illimilable field for the enorgie
and education of women; and II the prepar.
aiion seems great for tho result, and the bes
mode OF broiling mutton chop too mean al
object for varied and extensive study, W,
must remember that the best mode Of broil
ing a mutton chop is part of the means by
winch the best kind Of race is mads, ant
that food is potential humanity. And l dc
not think that any womsn could find tha
too mean an object for the exercise of hei
| faculties.
Again, with children where is the wo
man who sincerely studies the best mode o
| educationf who brings to the task Of forminl
the characters OF the young any sound phi
losophy, any accurate observation The
mother who thinks Of her responsibilities al
they are in spiritual truth, ought to under
stand all about the constitution OF children
their tempsrs, moral and intellectual ca
pacities, symptoms Of disease, and thai
moral and physical dangers and temptation.
which opens rather wider field thar
most women have wilt eHough to plough,
She ought TO know how best to feed them,
how beat to clothe them, how TO conduct
and manage them, so that the good in them
may be brought out and the bad repressed
but as rule she knows nothing OF II at all,
and for the most part leaves her children 10
the care Of servants, to be Ill treated or spoil.
ed according 10 the humor OF the women and
The state OF their digestive organs. Many a
broken constitution axd shattered nervous
system date from the early days OF mamma q
neglect and nurses talk; but this is not one
OF the small sins of women. 1t ia one oil
their largest and deepest and most shameful
"a sin, indeed, that cannot understand.
For II motherhood does not include the COM
panjonship OF the children, If it does not
mean the training, by love, Of their young
minds, and the rendering their lives happy
Dy Judlclous care, what can IL meani and
where IS It's pleasure, It's value, its signifi-
cancer To be mere human rabbit is not
to be mother.
All these things women have II in their
power TO do II they honestly wish to enrich
their lives. But they do not honestly wish
this. They are like children themselves,
Impatient OF their own assigned work while
grasping at that which their elders are doing,
Ihey neglect their own part Of life, Or hand
1t over to bad delegates, while they are
swarming about tho mems offices, and at
tempting 10 eater into competition with
them without one qualification for the strug-
gle. And what but a sin can we call the
iruitless endeayor which includes discomfort
with ordained dutiesf 1t is only mlsdirec.
ton OF power, rather it 10 that frank selfish.
ness OF the Frsncbman, "Ote-tei, que ie m Y
mets, which does not mean the race 10 the
swirl, or the battle 10 the strong, but simple
spoilation OF ano.her's gains, and reaping
Wuerc we have not sown. For my own
part, think there should be free trade in
work, and that the best hand should be
chosen irrespective of sex; but in that case
women would prepare themselves for high
class work better than they are prepared
now, and come into the aroma armed TO win.
not only supplicatipg TO be favored. Our
present excuse is, our want OF teaching: but
that very phrase is confession OF inferiorlty
which cannot accept. Who taught meni
Did they not build up the various precessss
OF thought for themselvesf and yet here are
women, who can read and study at their
own will, whimporing about their wrongs
in mol belng Taught! Let them teach them
selves. If we had any real stuff in use. and
were not merely so much wax in the hand,
of others, we would do this for ourselves.
and ask no help in that which we are able
10 do alone, nor leave 10 follow on a course
whence we are not barred. The fuss we
make about certain of our wrongs. which
we ourselves can remedy, is one OF the most
Illuminating things about US. II we are In
mental chalns--which We aro-wby do we
mol break themf Is it likely that our iailers
VIII do this for usf II we really resolved on
setling ourselves free from the trammels oil
ignorance, TO deliver up ourselves into the
glorious liberty of knowledge and reason,
we have the power 10 do so, and only oui
own suplnoness keeps us bound.
A small sin, with sometimes large resu,ts.
is tile iaial habit, 80 common among US wo
men, oil letting out our own personal secrets
and family histories. We do not betray Tho
secrets lntrusted to us where We think We
may 40 harm, save indeed, for some fierce
revenge, when we would slay the life had
we the courage. Failing which we onIy
slaughter repute. But we tell our own Sc
crets,, we chatter about our family and oui
friends, ana In the most artless way possible
put ourselves into the power Of one aftei
anoiher oil our intimates, and trust implicitly
10 the reserve in others oil which we have
confessed ourselves destitute. There ar,
I very few women who are really reticept
Even silent women can be brought at last ts
the CONFIDENTIAL point; while with impulsiv,
women, the well planted artillery OF din
ner hour will be sufficient TO blow every atop
OF their defence work 10 pieces; and a man
who cares to know the arcana of his COM
panlon may, If sho is of this kind, get from
her tho whole of her life history between tn,
soup and the grapes. / have known thii
uone. we give ourselves up TO the impuls,
oil the momenti and, how much soever W,
may afterwards regret our foolish unreservt
al tne time we arc powerless to prevent il
This inability TO calculate CONSEQUENCES i,
one of the basic differences of sex-at least
so 1t seems 10 me; and 1t goes through tn,
whole OIL the feminine nature. No true wo
man-woman, and nothing more-woult
make good slrategisi; but many, If the,
had the physical strength, would be flrs
rate at brilliant dsshes, guerilla surprises
and isolated ambushss The same delec
comes out in the want OF close reasonin,
power, Characteristic Of US as a race. d,
not think that want is due simply to tn
differences OF oieducation between US and men
and that 1t we we're taught tho formula O
logic we should therefore learn TO reason
and leave of Jumping TO conclusions accord
ing to the way we have now.
And, furthermore, think il would be
bad day for men II we did learn TO reason
The great hold they have on US now is b
the supremacy Of our instincts, and what w
are pleased to call our 'intutiye perception.
over our reasoning faculties; and II ever W
cast aside the superstitious and impulsiv
parts of US, We shall then give the "woman
spaniel and walnut tree" theory its fina
deathblow; and men will have to meet us o
different terms from those of the present OF
der OF things.
One OF our small sins Is our small Jealous
ly of each other. 1t is wrong to say this
women cannot be friends together; we ca
true, firm, enduring friends; but doub
If any young womsn's friendship ever exi,
ted free from jealousy. II We nre not ieal
Qua about mon We arc about women, an
guard our rights against division with III
vigilance Of house dog guarding his do
main. No man can understand the unreE
ing pettiness OF Jealousy that exists botwee
woman iriepds; no man knows il for his ow
part, and no man would submit TO ii lroI
his friend. But VIC accept 1t patiently
knowing whore tho shoe pinches from ID
shape OF our own feet As wives aud lover
we are perhaps the most exclusive and th
} most jealous women IN the world. There
scarcely a wife in England who would allo'
her husband 10 admire any other woman, /
: make OF any other friend, OF 10 show fran
, pleasure In her society. There would L
= poutlng or tears or tantrums according
} individual disposition, and tue whole hnl
J mony OF the household would be swept b
, the boardi the practical upshot OF which
! hat MAJ ls.