The Emporia news. [volume] (Emporia, Kan.) 1859-1881, 1869-05-14
EARLY MARRIAGES.

Mr.. Beecher believes in marrying
early-and his reasons are good ones.
We clip from Plymouth Pulpit, s'..,-
Atno after period, perhaps, in their
life, do young men need the inspiration
of virtuous love, and the sympathy of
companion in their self-denying toll
as when they first enter the battle for
their own support, Early marriages
are permanent mora!ities. Snd deferred
marriages are temptations to wicked
ness. And yet every year it becomes
more and more difficult, cpncugFent
with the reigning ideas of society, for
young men to enter upon that matri-
monial state which is the proper guard
of their virtue as well as the source of
their courage and enterprise The bait
tie of life is almost always at the be-
ginning. There il is that man needs
wedlock. But wicked and ridiculous
public sentiment puts man who is i'll
society, or out of society. for that mat
ter, largely op the ground of condition,
and not of disposition and character.
The man that has means wherewith he
can visibly live amply, is in good sOci-
ETY., as a general rule. The man that
has virtue ana sterling manliness, but
has nothing external to show, is not
usually considered in good society.
Ambitious young men will not, there
fore, marry until they can meet their eX-
penses; but that is deferring for years
the Indispensable virtue. Society is
bad where two cannot live cheaper than
one; and young men are under bad in
fiuences who, when in the very MORN
ing of life, and better fitted than at any
later period to grow together with one
who is their equal and mate, are de-
barred from marrying, through scores
of years, from mere prudential consid-
erations: and the heart and the life are
sacrificed to the pocket.
Woe be to that society in which the
customs and the manners of the times
put off, beyond the period of romance
and affiaucing, the wedding. You
have adjourned the most important sec
ular act of a mans life, You have adj
journed it out of Eden into the wilder
ness. The girl, next infected (and even
women fall) with the public spirit, too
often waits to be woOed by those who
can place her again. i'll the very begin
ming of her welded life, where she was
when she was broken off as a branch
from the parental tree. But a graft
should always be willing to be graft,
and wait till it can make its own top by
Legitimate growing. And woe is the
day when every girl says, sIwill not mar-
rytill my husband in the beginning has as
Noble is that young spirit, which, see
ing, and loving, and choosing, and si-
lently biding her choice, is .wop and
chosen, and giving herself freely, ro-
maptically, if you will, God be thanked
for the romance) goes down to the lev
ell of her husbands nothingness and
poverty, that he and she may, with
willing hands, from the bottom build
up their estate. Blessed is that woman
who sees that in going down she is GO
ing up, and that it is the losing of life
that saves it. Blessed is that woman
who carries with her into married life
all that she learned in the refinement
of her fathers family; who proves that
she is a woman in this; that gentieness.
and praise, and abundance, and luxury
even, ministered to the better parts of
her nature, and prepared her to go forth
and minister earnestly and permanent
Iy in the midst of difficulties. ThOuS-
ands there are who, when once they are
called, and know their master, Love, go
cheerfully out with the young man and
take part and lot with him. Oh that
young men would trust them more, and
prove them bettey and sec if this is
not SO.