Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1869-06-24

with willing hands, from the bottom build up their
estate. Blessed is that woman who sees that in
going down. she is going up, and that it is the los
ing of life that saves it. Blessedis that woman who
carries with her into married lfsal that she learn
ed in the refinement of her fathers family; who
proves that she is woman in this, that gentle
ness and grace and abundance and luxury even min.
stered to the better part of her nature, and pre-
pared her to 60 forth aud minister earnestly and
permanently in the midst of difficulties. Thou
sands there-are who, when once they are called,
and know their master, love, 20 cheerfaly out with
the young men and take part and lot with them.
Oh! that young men would trust them more, and
prove them better, and see if this is not 50. How
noble thing it is to see the cultured, the polished
and refined, go down to the very beginning OF
things led by love, fed by love- and at last reward
ed by love. 20 ..t.'
Live together alone, if you have to go into the
desert for it, and feed on herbs Abhcr Sodorn
and Gomorrah-or boarding.housesl Men some
times speak Of the meagre and pinched fare.
These are not worthy of notice. 1t is not these
1t is that men learn selfindulgeuce there. Men
learn there not to be householders. And all that
various discipline, all that ministration Of care, all
that drill of contrvance and that social independ-
ence all that subtle atmosphere indescribable and
unanayzable, which belongs to the solitary house
hold they miss No man and wor'an can make
husband and wife, father and mother, and house
holders, on the pattern Of their fathers, who begin
and continue their married life in this hot-bed
style Of existence. And yet they are unwilling to
take house that they can afford; and they can
not afford to take the house that they fain would
live in, because furniture is 70 dear and virtue is
cheap; because society requires certain amount
ofappearance, you know; because it would not
do to go to the outskirts Of the town! Aleg cabin
is better for young married people than the Fifth
Avenue Hotel would be fthey had it for nothing
What you get for nothing is the least valuable Of
anything What you earn is all value Under
these influences the whole of life is written in the
wrong key. Men having started on the false prin-
ciple, they do not get over it. They are perpet-
ualy tempted to overlive by their very affections
If there is anything that an honorable aud sensi-
tive mans nature feels and cannot stand 1t rs the
silent comparison, on the part Of the wife, by a
look even, Of the way in which she did live, and
the way she does live. How does this drive men
into dishonestiesl How does it drive them out Of
simplicity and out Of bold willingness to live ac-
cording to circumstances! How does it teach them
to live for other peoples eyes, and not for their
own actual needs! How does it teach them to be
more subject to vanity than love? Such life is
hollow. ostentation takes the place Of sincerity
And so, ere long, man is educated to be rogue,
and steals And woman takes on unvirtue BE-
cause that pays the bills Of extrsvaganee quicker
than anything else. - -;