The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-03-02
GETTING MARRIED.
How it Looks TO the Bridegroom when
the Day has been Fixed.
IFrom the London Leader. ]

The prospect of marriage, like religion, ex-
! ercises, as rule very soothing infiuenoe
upon the mind. or course, we all know that
religion soothes human nature down into
kind Of spiritual sickness. which is always
enviable, and not always attainable, even by
the devOut; bat whv the prospect Of marriage
should always produce @ calming effect ls not
easily conjectured, at all events, by those who
want the knack of knowing how to reconcile
experience with Imagination. The truth, wo
suppose musL be that man becomes resign
ed vixen once his marriage day has been fixed
He is conscious that the event is inevitable.
The pleasing perturbation Of the period of
courtshlp IS at ali end
In little while he feels that You shall see
his name under the births and before the
deaths. The sense Of duty Of looking happy
and feeling pleased is upon hum. He does not
shrlnk at the condition Of prone ditated matri-
mony. He ls very anxious to look happy, and
when Congratulated at every turn by his
friends, professes himself very much pleased.
But he is not pleased and he is not happy. A
stant contemplation Of the day that is newt
able. Many dubious reflections upon the min
ute concontitants Of marriage annoy him. He
will have. first OF all, to get married; that is to
say. he will have to stand buttOned up in q
frock-coat some twenty minutes or more-hea.
ven send that the bride doesn't want choral
servicei-beiore a clergyman, subject to the
prying glances OF his dear relatives and friends
assembled to witness, and, by their presence to
so!emnize, il you will, the service.
1Lo. NC VII, nave to receive the oongratula-
tiops OF evor, body i'll the vestry. room-a ter
the church, amidst the Whispering and Won
dering gaze of rows OF strangers who have
stroled into the church to witnes, the pro-
ceedings. Then he will have to push his "ay
through crowd of gaping children, nurses
and ambulators, into his catriage. All this
kind OF thing is delightful to women, but to
men and to nervous men in particular it is
one OF the greatest determents to marriage.
But tho bridegrOom's misery does not end with
his getting intO the carnage The silly COACH
man and tootman have encumbered themselves
with On u nous conspicuous favOrs, and he is
dragged through the streets. creating almost
as much wonderment as o new lord mayor in a
gilt coach.
But all this is tr.firg, compared to what is
to follow. II the BRIDE lives IN squsi he has
the satisfacuon OF seeing the neghboring bal :
comics crowded to catch glimpse Of them en-
tering the house. 1t she lives in o street, the
windows are filed with heads, while servan ts
grin through the area ratings and crack many
ehe lives IN the country. o band Of kinds and
yokels ]ostle each other alb ut the gateway and
raise hoarse cry OF welcome when the car
r1a2e stops. One would think that matrim ony
Yves Lew invention, and that this marriage
was the first experiment..
After the BRIDEGROOM has gone gracefully
through the ordeal Of being courtesied 70 by
several OF the servants Of the house, whose
faces arc inflated with the various conrrai Mat
ory expressions. he has again to endure the
shaking OF hands and the spasmodic assur-
anceS OF good wishes that follow the arrival
Of the rest OF the party. Then comes the break.
fast. A wretched old lady. who has been an
intimate friend OF his family for twenty years.
etrives for long time unsnccessfnlly to catch
his eye; when caught, she exclaims in loud
voice that she expects RTSsS thsipgs from him,
when be returns thanks. Hang herl He sita
In great misery, trying to look unconcerned
and cheerful, waitlne fos the moment when
the father Of the bride shail propose thu elf
healthe. a.
fast speeches 'banished The rising of the
father is always preceded by some moment's
silence. Everybody sympathizes with every
! body else. The thin naan Mt tho head OF the
youeaehs has wrought this unpleasant effect.
Ho knows he will have to return thanks for the
brldesmaids. and more than 0noe he inquiries
earnestly OF himself What he has done to merit