The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-09-18

tiful beliois in human nature; ii her manner
towards her parents and brothers and sisters
be the Hamo when visitors are absent as when
tnoy arc present; If her interest in literature
anu the arts be not assumed; and if she is, II
brief, an angel i'll disposition and soundly
cultivated woman in attainments, no study q
tho brothers character will destroy or nlt,r
ones regard for her. On the contrary, yhn
he sees oil these good qualities DISPLAYED M
their raw matcrial-when the youth of ipgdl-
uou5 pardon betrays tho same tine attribstfs,
his sister exhibits, tho lover feels assuredo
tue wisdom OF his choice. He Goss forwardto to
tho inevitable goal with courage aud hope.
The period OF hesitation is ovor, and rivals are
On tho other hand, tho brother may unYit-
tingly tell tales Of tho most disastrous knd.
Oneof tho chief tests OF q character is itsro-
gard for truth; and veracity is 30 much q mt.
Ter OF hablt-so much dependant on tho olu-
cation-that all tho members OF a familyare
likely to havc notions on the subject more or
less similar. or course, we do not mean That
intentional lying is likely to accrue from
may holp towards it; bu: that habit OF Ttor-
ing inaccurate Observation-Disclosures throuEh n
transient wish oil making mattors look phas-
ant TO ones eompanlon. or whether through
certain intellectual iasclnation for dramatic
points, which misplaces what is for what might
De-ls one OF tho commonest of human fail
lngs. The brother will show you whether that
tendency has beou largely devoloped in the
tent IN his Innocent Misrepresentation. To
please you, perhaps, ho will profess all ardent
admiration for some mutual acquaintance, and
say how much that acquaintance is admired
nnd liked by his (tho brother's) family; and
then, next day, having forgotten all about the
matter, ho will call tho acquaintance n tiresomo
old fool, whom his sisters detcst. Another re-
lated point on which he will yield much ihpor.
tint information to tho anxious lover is tho
extent to which tho family has been brought
up Tor show"-whothcr that exceeding cOnr-
tesy aud perfect amiablity of the sster is
be presumoj, has been taught, il his sister
has been taught, that tho chief duty iuslife is
10 look well in tho estimation Of friends. and
he will display in tho most ineejious
ditions have thought requisite tor that pnr- ,
pose. Ho will profess love for intellectual
and artistic pursuits which you SEQ he docs
not feel merely because 1t is right and pr opcr
that lie should do SO. 1t ho has bceu tausht
the conflict between his own naturo and the
assumption. Play with him mt bilIiarts, and
Ill fits and starts he Will exhibit an astonish.
lug candor in confcssing to "ilulics"-nbyious-
ly priding himself OH his honesty, and h hoping
that yon admire il; and tho next minute YOU
VIII ti"d him rclapsinc into his real self, and
making statements about intended Ecannons''
which are calculated TO strike you with awe
and wonder. In many similar directions tho
brother may be ied to give cvidenco unyn fa1ni-
ly qualities, irrespective OF those chance lights
which you may obtain from his direct asscr-
tions.
But the grand point in which he is an al
most inialhblc guide. is temper. We know
OF lew more interesting amusoments-cven for
those who are long past tho ago ut which con-
jugal results could hang upon tho pursuit :
than the noting Of the strange rcscnlbiances
and differences between tho family deposition
rs 1t IL exhibited in n son, and the sarle as il
is exhibited in daughter. These minute
shades OF discrepancy, tempered BIZ all tho
VARYING conditions OF sex, age and opportuni.
1y 1orn sSrt Of pyaicsSb per
regarding, the interestis indefinitely 3acreasod,
There, ,:S not a tit Of querellous $SsxtKayducss
in The brother that DOCS not beget qualn, in
the heart OF the sisters suitor, and there Ia
nothing which rcjoices the latter so much as
to observe courageously considerate attitude
in the temper aud deposition OF the boy or
man. In the case of tho brother there are no
petty feminine disguiscs to conceal the true
state OF affairs, and the lover rapidly forms an
intimacy which is full OF surprises TO him.
Anxiousiy does he inquire whether this his
possible brother. in. law is always governed by
the absolute indecision Of Judgment and way
looks with dismay upon the brothers peevish
irritabiity, and is so shocked uy his intractabIe
and obstinate folly as scarcely 10 bo ablo to re
monstrate. Perhaps there are two or three
brothers, all gifted with the irascble and child
ish temperament; and, perhaps. both father
and mother aro dangerous subjects TO .tlepl
with. when the soup is cold or the dressmaker
dilatory.
With oil these indications, it is possible that
his faith in his own sweet friend should not
be troubled. How, he asks hims self, could such
perfect hower have sprung up in this hot
house OF angry passions2 Angels do not con-
the appearance OF an incongruous visitor pro-
yokes suspicion. This young brother, for ex-
ample. is tho incarnation OF bad temper, and
even seems conscious of it. He confesses to
I'm nuisN Trnkn .l~
having kept himself AMI his family on tenter-
hooks during dinner simply through a at of
sulkiness. IF he gets bad hand at whist,
ne hings down tho cards in q passion, and
favorite stroke ut billiards, ho dashes his cue
on the table, cuts the cloth, aud sits down,
morose and red-faced. He makes no effort
to, control himself; and in these child
him OF that sister in whom you arc int forest I'd.
He Will tell the truth about her, or, rather, ho
Will tell what his ungovernable passion, vent
ing itself upon eyery object Of his contem plq-
It's small matter what the boy saws; but it
is u grave mat; ;er that such rungovernablo tenn
p.rs should be in a family. Insanity, s,rofala,
dips9mania arc not tho only hereditary all
guard against. Besides tho disease OF an in
hammab.e temper. there is that OF Inconsistency
OF the affections, which is as often as not q
purely physical defect. There are persons whose
siSS'iobo al iJaeISutiy UefUlU permanc0cos
to expect them to remain constant through
any period OF absence or trial is to expect q
blind man to soc. They are gifted or cursed
with a facile and transitory nature. which natu-
rally cllngs to the object neat est lit, and vet
does not cling pertinaciously. HALF dozen
words, single look, railway Journey, an in
troduction--any ono of tho ordinary incidents
Of ife-may transfer the unsubstanlinl and
treacherous regard Of such persons to other
objects. Nor can wo blamo them. They are
not necessarily voluntary agents. Their radi.
cal weakness causes them to shift their uucer.
tain love; and II would only be useless hypocri-
sy, possibly attended with direful results, for
them to pretend that it hal not shifted. To
assume tho virtue or conaiancy Is q CRIME.
While to be honestly inconsistent is to accept
ones misfortune.
Here, also, the brother Is invaluable. The
lover watches him closely to eIceyo whether
he shows symptoms OF that perpetual indcci-
sion OF the affections Which has produced so
many tragedies In domestic life. He regards
this young mans hiItations With his sister a
friends with peculiar interest. Tho lover oil.
most feels that his own fate is dependent on
tho amount OF honesty aud constancy which
this youth evincos; and reads in tho actions
and Son imcnts OF the boy the horoscope Of
his own future. All this takes place when tho
lover Is as yet undecided. and tho study is the