Orleans independent standard. [volume] (Irasburgh, Vt.) 1856-1871, 1869-05-18

many seek separation who would otherwise
endure the infelicities of their married
state. Again when divorces are so COM
mon, and mean so little dishOnor, and re-
quire so little effort, the. public mind be-
comes educated to endure if not approve
it, and many little household broil which
might have been healed by forbearance
and effort, and would have been, were sep
aration far more different than it is, has
been egged on by haughtiness and hauteur,
till it becomes incurable.
Other laws than these directly dealing
with divorce have also educated the people
on this matter. The most influential are
doubtless those that allow and encourage
the husband and the wife to hold separate
interests in property and other things. The
more their interests are one, the more es-
sential is it that they live together, and
think and feel alike, and the less cause
will there be for discord. 1t may some
times seem unjust to have the brides dow
cry swallowed up in her husbands estate,
to lose her name in his, to yield her Occu-
patton and her home for his, and her judg-
ment and will to his, when circumstances
are such as to admit but one possibly to
exist, but this may be far better than the
two to compete and contend the one against
the other. There are cases where the law
requiring the signature ola wife separated
from her husband to make deed valid,
may have saved her husband from making
bad bargain but Oftener from making a
good one. Many unhealing sores have
come of it, and the education this and 9TH
er similar laws have given to public feel
ing on the unity, or rather disunity, of the
marriage relation, has had more to do with
the multiplication of divorces than all the
laws prescribing how they may be ch-ain-
ed.
The remedy for this great evil must
spend its main force in educating the peo-
pie to regard the union Of husband and
wife, and the family of which they are the
equal and united head, as something sa.
cred, divinely hallowed The law mus
teach this, the pulpit must teach it, as the
bible does. Those who perform the mar
riage ceremony must teach it, by making
that service instructive, solemn, impressive
as an oath in the presence of Almighty
God from which one cannot, on the peri
of his soul, go back The schools mus
teach it. The family itself must teach it
the parents to the children not in word
alone or chiefly, but by their united for
bearance, kindness, love, endearments
showing how blessed it is to live in and 70
each other, to spend and be spent for tn
other, to yield ones will wishes, judgment
tastes, labOrs, life even, for the others good
not by one insisting on getting these iron
the other, but each striving to gre them
the other. Our platforms and politics mus
teach the several and inviolable unity O
the household our literature and our poe
try must teach it. Our philosophy an
theology must teach it, And again we re
peat it, all good and wise men and wome
must live it, live in it, and live it out, an
thus show to the world that there is no 9th
er way so honorable and noble in itself, @
sweet and blessed in all its influences a
to sanctify and make honorable that Go
given home, the foundation, bond and ten
pering of which is "What God hath jOir
ed together, let not man put asunder."