The daily dispatch. [volume] (Richmond [Va.]) 1850-1884, 1869-07-07
Bored Husbands.

The honeymoon at last draws to close,
and the relieved bridegroom gets back to
his old haunts, to his work, his friends, and
his club; and though he takes to all these
things again "with a difference" still they
are helps and additions. This is the time OF
pinch, and is sensible enough to UNDER
stand that human nature cannot be kept up
mt high pressure, even in love, and that u
man must sooner or later come down from
romance to work-a-day prose, from the pas
sionate lover to the cool and sober nus
bandit she can understand this, and settle
into his pace, without fretting on the one
hand or casting about for unhealthy dis
fractions on the other-she viii do well, and
will probably make pleasant. home, and
thereby diminish the boredom Of life. But,
unfortunately, not every woman can do,
this audit is Just during this time of the
mans transition from the loverattos the
friend that 80 many women begin to make
shipwreck of their own happiness and his.
They think to keep him romantic
wooer still by their tears ut his prosMc IN
difference to the little sentimentalities once
so eagerly accepted and offered they Try 10
what tiresome exactions; their jealousies-
very pretty perhaps, and quite as Halter
ing-are infinite, and as baseless as they are
infinite; all of which is very nice upto Il
certain point and in the beginning OF things,
but all Of which gets awfully wearisome as
time goes on, and man wants both q HUE
change and little rest. But women do not
see this ) or, seeing it, they cannot accept II
as q necessary condition of things; where
fore they 90 on in their fatal way, and by
the very unwisdom of their own love bore
their husband out Of his. Or they grow
substantially cold because he is specifically
cooler, and think themselves lustlfled IN
ceasing to love him altogether because he
takes their love for granted, and SO he
ceases to WOO it,. ILL, .,,ssA L4.s,
If they are jealous, or shy, or unsoclal,
AS somany women are, they make lie very
heavy by their eXclilsiveness and the
monastic character they give to the home.
A man married to woman OF this KIND Is,
in fact, a house prisoner, whose, only hours
of freedom lie beyond the four walls OF
home. His bachelor friends are shut out.
They smoke, or entiee him to drink more
than his wife thinks is good for him or
they induce him to bet on the Derby, orst TO
play for half crowns at whist or Billiards, OF
they lead him in some other way OF offence
abhorrent to women. SO the bachelor
friends are shouldered out, and when the
husband wants. to entertain them, ne must
invite them to his club--if he has 'one--and
pay the penalty when he goes home. INA
few wears time his wife will be glad to en-
courage her sons's friends to the house for
sake Of the daughters on hand but hus-
bands and sons are Inc different category,
and there are few fathers who do not learn,
as time goes OH, how much the mother will
allow that the wife refused. If bachelor
friends are shouldered out OF the house, all
female friends are forbidden anything like
an intimate footing, save those few whom
the wife thinks specially devoted to herself
and of whom she is not Jealous. And they
are very few.-London Saturday Ren'e,e. <