, 1869-03-14
CONCERNING WIDOWS AMI
THEIR VARIETIES.

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THEIR VARE TIES.
From th~ sa'ard.y RI. sv.
There are widows aud widows, There ~.
these who nFe bereavcd, and those who are
releaEed; those who lose their sup;n,r:, a,,i
those whose CHAINS are broken; thp,s who
are eug L In desolatlon. and those " hu ynlr
up Tito freedom. o. the drs. VI viii mt
speak. Theirs IS SORROW too sac,rt To h.
publicly handled, even With sympathy; hus
the second demands no such respectful rcti-
ccuce- The widow who Is no sooner reIea,ed
from one husband than ehe ploss fer aru.ssr.
and the widow who ieaps into liberty vTrt
The grave ,.a, Of a @ EsoleF; not lover. are ,air
vorite subjects for authors to exercise their
wits on !; aud while men are waat tLey ars--
laughing animals, apt to see the hutr,,r .Tirv
In i1congrultY, and With spice u! thr ticyif
70 sharpen that same laughter Into satirc-
they will remain fasortte subjects, trssic as
the state l. when widowhooa i titerer than
mere outward condition.
There arc maay varieties Of The wldow, aud
all are not beautiful. For one, there /, thu
widow who ~ bent on remarrsins whethrr
men Ike it or not-that thicg oi prry who
deIour that awtnl crtaturc who bears down
on her victims With 3 riRor in her assaults
that puts 10 hight the popalsr fancy about
the weaker sex and The di+!rbu.lon Ut
power. No hawk poised over brood of
hedge blrd., no shark cruising steadily
toward shoal Of ANAL iry. no p;r4,icll craft
sailing under q Tree fag, and accountable 10
no law save success, vas ever morr form.da-
b}e to the weaker things pursued than il the
hawk widow bent on ztmarr9iag. she knuwa
50 much there Is not mauGurre ny which
a victory can be stolen that she has no. mas
tered; and she Is not afraid of even the must
Desperate mtaEures. When ste has orce
hJ4 q nfev ~
bold one who could escape her, Generally
left but u'eacrely provided fer tu worldly
Rocds-else her game wonld not lie SO dill
enll-ehe makes up ioH her poverty here by
her wealth Of bold resources, and by the
courage n It'll which sle takes her own for
tures IN hand, and, with her own, those Of
her more eligible masculine associates She
Is woman Of purpose, and lives for au crd
tnd that end Is Femarriage. With the most
favorable settlement practicable On the oc-
casion. If fate has dealt hardly BY her
though maE be compassiouatcly BY her sue
cess1ve kp0uses-nnd has landcd her III the
widowed sta,e twice OF ths!c-. she Is in no ws-e
dnunted, and as little abashed- she merely
re6te after certain time OF anchorage. aud
goes out iutu the OPEN world again for rep
Of perpeiui,y OF weeds, and, though she
may have cleared her faI century with 4
margin besides, thinks tue suggestive
orange blossoms Of the bride definitely more
desirable than the lruitlrss heliotrope OF the
widow. II one lnsoaud is taken, she rsmem-
bers the old prcvcrb, and renects on The
many, quite as good, who are potentially lett
subject to her choicc; and, somehow. she
mauaEee. Il has been said that any woman
can marry arg man If she determines to do
50. and toNows On the Nte 81 her aetesm!Na-
tfon With tccacity ard common sense. The
hawk wldow e1emplifies the truth Of this
saying. She determines upon marriage, aud
she usually succeeds the question bclua one
OF victim only, md not Of sacrifice. '.ne has
to fall to her share ; there Is TO help for il.
which Is strongest to hrcak her bonds.
which crsf.fest 10 clip out OF them!
which most reso1ute rot to beas
item trcm the beginning? This .hc strax-
R}inE coyey must settle an1urg themselves
the best way they can. When the hawk
ix.a' But all cannot be aared. uae has to
be caught, and the choice Is deternin cd
partly By chance, ard partly By relative
etr;rEsh. Wsen the widow Of experiences
and nd, 5.,o!ye g hsars down ne9u her PREY, t9c
nothing struggling and eptashng are Just
IS futile one among the crowd has - come
to the slaughter, like Mrs. Bond'a ducks, aud
to assist at bis o~n fDuaola'son The bebt
thing be can do Is to make hatd.ome sur
render, aud to let the world OF men and
brothers believe he rather Likes his position
than not
Tbs widow of the Wadmsn kind IL no cree
turc Of prey, neither shark nor hawk; Ut the
worst she Is bnt ccofnc doye, mak1nE Just
the sueetest little roise In the world, tho
Ahouts, and TO chow that she Il lonely aad
feels r. she sits close, wa1tlng to bo found.
and does not soInp and dash about Ike the
hawk sts1erhnod neither does she pretend
that the Is unwilling to BE- found, s1sll less
depy that sutt warm Fest, well lioed and
tnug'y ehtate1ed, Is better than lonely
blnncb, stretching out cu.niortless and bare
into the bleak wide world. she, TOO. Il al
most sure to get what she VANS, with the
advantage Of being voluntarily chosen aud
Iicd Of y. man who is always mildly but
thotouehly happy In hrr married. life un-
| less, indeed, her hushanh should be =
brute, which Heaven forelcnd. She lives
IN peace and bland contentnent while the
tates permit, snd when he dies she bp1ies
him decentlY and lamenta him decorous,y :;
but abe thtnks it folly to apend her life in
weeping br she eide Of his cold grave, when
&c: tears can 90 no good to either Of them.
hather she thinks It proof OF her lave for
happlntss. that she should elect 10 give him q
success or. H6r blessed experience in the
past has made her ttustful III the fu.ure aud
because she has found one man faithful she
thinks that all are Ahdiels- As a rule, this
tIPt Of woman does an6 men pleasant,
aud bg her own nature insure. doues,ic
happiness. She is always ,endefly. ami
never psssfopatgly, In lore, cycu with
the husband she has loved the best she
EiFes 10 to no excstses, to tho right or to the
left; her temperament Is Of that eerepe,
mot might Bind which does not fatigue oth.
ets TO: wear ont lis posses5or; without am
bit!op. or the power TO fling herself into apy
absorbing occupa ion, she ltyes only 70 p!,sa.e
81 be pleased at h.me : ard 1t she Is not q
vile, wearing her lleht frtiers loylnyly. aud
p{GU1 ha t.
AS some women arc born mothers, aud other.
are born NUS. 20 Is the Wadnau woman a
aoin ~ite, AID shines II no other character
Or capacity. But In this she exccl,; apd.
Aro*ng this. she sticks to her roe, how fre-
changed.
Even hard mau Is moved ut the sisht OF
. pretty young widow in the funeral blsch Of
lNsn neI hfst 9tlei. sitting apia: with a patient
not OF the world, though n Il. Her io.s Il
700 recent to q: nit OF any thought Of re para
ton and Jet Whist man does not thl9k Of
that Tine Of repAntlon? ind If she Is mora
than usually charming in person, and wen
ot, himself - the best rspalrer rhe couid
tske? Then, IS time gGes Tn and she glide9
gracefully into the era Of mitigatcd grief,
how beautiful Is her whole manner, how
tasteful her attire! The most exqut-ite
colars Of the rampant kind look Eartsh
beside ter dainty tints, and the untempered
1tir1h OF happy girls Is coar=e beside her
faint tubdutd admission Of moral sun-
shine. Gtnya As tender as doves bstsst !.
.seal pnEples which hare q glow behind
their Gloom stately silks Of sombre black
softly Vailed By clouds OF gauzy whIte-all
speak Of passing time, aLd the gradual
blooming Of the spring aftcr the sadneas OF
TIE winter; all $ noolize the flowers which
afe growing ever on the sod that covers the
dear departed all hint 1t the melting Of the
sunereal gloom into 3 possible bridal. She
begne, too, to take pleasure IN the cid il
milIar things Of lie. She steals into quiet
hack seat 1t tho opera, she just
walks through 4uadsil1e: she sees
no harm In q frfe or tlower show, il Prop
erly companioned. Winter does not last fur-
I eTez, and 3 lifelong mouruipg ts weaEtsouae
prospect she goes through her deGEees II
| accurate order, and comes out At the eoea
| radiant For when the faint hhadows cxst b3
the era Of mitlgated grief Jade away, she
| The widow par tzeeileate-the blooming wsd
| ow- young, rich, cay and Tree with the werlt
| on her nde, btr fortune IN her hand, and tn
ba1l at her foot. She Is the SEetst w0u q
| alive; freer even than any old maid t.. b
| found
Thu Irssn Il n1dsnsx Song.
H BERxAnp nAK1ox-
| TtorSh lofty sset11s's noun, rims
! WhtYe savage gIanceut fflZLs:
1teush tti1ht b: Enz'snd's lo5 a:air.,
| AND fertile be htr p ana.
When mid tht7r ersf1s va der,
OF thet th.Ik tie 3tl:e>
Acc t&crs 10 mr. rho ieat er
M GTSn I'LL