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On the contrary, when he secs al
these good qualities displayed in thcil
raw matcrial-whcn tho youth of ill
gcnuous pardon bctrays the same fine
attributes, 4 triilc less harmonizcd and
polished, which his sister exhibits, tho
lover feels assured OF the wisdom o
his choice. lie goes forward to tho
inevitable goal Will, courage ANA hope
The period Of hesitation is over, nnd
rivals arc biddcn to beware.
On the other hand. the brother may
unwittingly tell tales OF the most dis.
astrous kind. One Of the chief tests
Of characteris is its regard for truth
and vcracity is SO much Il matter OF
habit-so much dependent on the cd
ucation-ihat all the members Of Il
family arc likely TO have notions on
the subject more or less similar, ~
course, we do not mean that intcn-
tional lying is likely TO accrue from q
certain kind Of bringing-up, however
much it may help towards it ; but
that Il habit Of uttcriny inaccurate
Observation-Disclosures through tran
sicnt wish Of making matters look
pleasant to ones companion, or whcth-
CT through certain intellectual fas-
cination for dramatic points, which
misplacc5 what is for what might be
lis one Of the ccmmoncst Of human
fai!ings. The brother will show You
whether that tendency has been large
ly developed in the family. lie has
not the skill to be conSistcn in his in
noccnt misrcprcscntations. 70 please
you, perhaps, nc will profess an ar
dent admiration for some mutual ac-
quaintancc, and say how much that
acquaintance is admired and liked by
his Ohe brothcr's) family and then,
next day: having forgotten all about
the matter, he Will call the acquain-
tancc tircsomc old fool, whom his
sisters dctcst. Another related point
on which he will yield much impor-
tant information to the anxious lover
is the extent 10 which the l;;mily has
Eccn brought up 'ior show''-whcth-
CT that exceeding courtesy and per
feet amiabi'ity OF the sistc" is Il natu-
III! OF acquired product. lie, too, it
may be presumed, has been taught, if
his sister has been taught, thai the
cllief dn;y in life is TO look well in the
estimation ofirienis, and he will dis
! play in the most Ingenious E,shon
the means which the family tradi,ions
have thought requisite for that pur-
pose. lie will profess a love for i'll
tcllcctual and artistic pursuits which
you see he does not feel merely be
cause It's right and proper that he
should do so. II he has been taught
to assume sincerity US !, virtuc, he
VIII bctray the conflict between his
own nature and the assumption.
Play with him ut billiards, and in fits
and starts he will exhibit an aston
| 6h:n scandor il conlcssing to ':nukcs''
obviously priding him self on his
honesty, and hoping that you admire
il ; and the next miuutc you will find
him rclapsing into his real self, end
making statements about intended,
"cannons" which arc calculated to
strikcyou with awe and wonder. Tn
many similar directions, the brother
may bc led TO give evidence upon fam
lily qualities, irrespective Of those
chance lights which you may obtain
from his direct assertions.
But the grand point, i'll which he is
an almost infalliblc guide, is temper.
We know Of few moro interesting
amusemcnts -cvcn for those who are
long past the age ut which conjugai
results could hang upon the pursuit
than the noting Of tho strange rcsem-
blanccs and differences between the
family disposition us it is exhibited in
a son, and the same as it is exhibited
in a daughter. These minute shades
Of discrepancy, tempered by all the
varying conditions Of Sex, age and op,
portunity, form sort Of physical kal-
cidoscopc pcrpctually Offering new
combinations. And when it is your
brothcr-in-law whom you arc regard
ing, the interest is indefinitely increas-
ed. There is not a fl Of qucrcllous
waywardncss in the brothct that docs
r not bcget qualm in tho heart Of the
sisters suitor, and there is nothing
which rcjoiccs the latter SO much as
to observe couragcously considoratc
attitude in tho temper aad disposi,
tion ofthc boy or man. In tho case
Of tho brother there arc no petty fem.
inine DISCUSSES to conceal tho true
state ofaffairs, and the lover rapidly
forms an intimacy which in full Of
surprise tohim. Anxiously does he
iuquire whether this his possible broth
er-in-law is always governed by the
absolute indccision of judgment and
wayward temper which he sometimes
exhibits. He looks with dismay up
on the brothers. peevish irritability:
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