Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1869-09-03

ASS Il -A4AN ~ Il Il
my name when our separation was
made public; once made list from
the journals of the day of the differ
ent worthless, ancient and modern, to
whom / was compared; l remember
a few Nero, Apicius, Epieurus,
Caligula, HeliOgabalus, Henry the
Eighth, and lastly, the
1 was looked upon as the worst of
husbands, the most abandoned and
wicked of men; and my wife as q
suffering angel, an incarnation of all
! the virtues and perfections of her sex.
/ was abused in the public prints,
made the common talk of private
| companies, Kissed rs / went to the
House Of Lords, insulted in the
streets, afraid to go to the theater,
| whence the unfortunate Mrs. Mardyn
( had been driven with insult. The
E.cdnli,ler was the only paper that
dared say q word in my defense, and
Lady Jersey the only person in the
fashionable world that did not look
upon me as monster. I|
BYRoN's VIEWS OF MARRIAGE.
The following are given by Capt.
Parry as the opinions Of Lord Byron
on the marriage relation:
There are" said his lordship, " so
many indefinable, and naneIess, and
nOt-tO-be named causes of dislike,
aversions, and disgust in the natri-
mOnial state, that it is always impos-
sible Tor the public, or the best friends |
of the parties, 70 judge between man |
and wife. Theirs is relation about |
which nobody but themselves can /
form correct idea, or hGCe a1,y right /
10 speak. As long as neither party |
commits gross injustice towards the !
other; as long as neither the woman
nor the man is guilty of any offence 1
which is injurious to the community;
AS long as the husband provides for
his offspring, and secures the public
against the dangers arising from their
neglected education, or from the
charge of supporting then-by what
right does it cenSure him for ceasing
to dwell under the same roof with q
woman who is to him, because he
knows her, while Others do not, an |
object of loathing? Can anything be
more monstrouS than for the public |
voice to compel individuals who dis
like each other to continue their
eOhabitatiOn? This is at least the |
effect OF its interfering with a relation
ship of which it has no possible
means of judging. 1t does not, in
deed, drag man to Woman's bed
by physical force; but it does excite
a moral force continually and effjAc-
lively TO accomplish the same pur-
pose. Nobody can escape this force
but those who are too high or those
who are too low for public opinion to
reach, or those hypOcrites who are,
before others, the lOudest in their aD-
probation of the empty and unmean-
ing forms Of society, that they may
securely indulge all their propensities
in secret. / hare suffered GmdziaglV
from this Interference; for though l set
il at defiance, l was neither too high
nor too low to be reached by it, and [
was not hypocrite enough TO guard
myself from its consequences"
CAUSES FOR THE BREACH.
Capt. Parry relates the following:
What do they say of my family
affairs in England, Parry? My story,
l suppose, ike other minor events, in
the people for day, and was
then forgotten" l replied, No!
thought, owing to the very interest
the public took in him, it was still re-
menIbered and talked about. l mem
toned that IL lrds generally supposed a
difference OF religious sentiments be-
tween him and Lady Byron had caus-
ed the public breach. SEQ, Parry"
was the reply, Lady Byron has lib
aral mind, particularly as to religious
opinions. l wish when | married her
that | had possessed the same COM
mand over myself that l now do.
Had | POSSESSED a little more wisdom,
and more fOrbearance, we might have
been happy. l wished when | was
first married TO have remained in the .
particularly till my pecuniary
were over. knew
the society of London; knew the
characters of many of those who
are called ladies, with whom Lady
Byron would necessarily have to as !
sOciate, and | dreaded her contact
with them. But have too much of
my mother about me to be dictated
10. like freedom from restraint. l
hate artificial regulations. My con- I
duet has always been dictated by my
lwn feelings, and Lady Byron was
quite the creature of rules. She was
not permitted either to ride or run or
walk, but as her physician prescribed
She was not suffered to go out when l
wished to go; and then the old house
was a mere ghOst-house; dreamed of j
ghosts, and thought of them waking.
Il was an existence l could not sup
port" Here Lord Byron broke off
abruptly, saying; 90 hate to speak
lf my family affairs; though l have
been compelled to talk nonsense con-
'erning them to some of my butterfly
visitors, glad on any terms to get rid
of their impOrtunities."