, 1869-06-13

I'D them 1t Jour last gathering: SUI. y 9 GuMG !
scIuds tnen, tfsy Wiu come doru upon {oa to-
sd certainty they are Of the ftauker E!nd, aud
sk you seriously, perh1ps pathetlca1F, aoH t1ey
ort they III meet ynn coldlT, or pass yon oJ !
sithout seeing you; and will either dt'!1 into
permanent cs1raugeuent or come tonnu AE. @ -
,inn1i and the spount OF tenacisY in their chase-
er. They have lost their friends naany times Tor
% worse offence lnan this, ,~,.+
nc. 1hef demand Etslt for yis1t, laVltauop. iot
nTttatlon, letter for etter- Though fou may oe
,serw he1naed with serious Eotk, @ Ssae .ney s nas
han thctr aoelal duties and the!r soclal noef1es-
yet You must render polnt for point VIA taem,
m ihtir side II you want TO retain their aequAIn.
taucc at nIl. And theY must be aAwafs myfea
.poe!ally and nds1dnally even a. 10 Jonr ohea
|eel1nes VII be hurt. Tuey snneI 90 liberties 70
be tafen With them, and theJ tase nons nn. WIZ
ohers counting - froee-c9ss epeess re snss
md vou eoasse yau think that manners ans
foeon are pleasanser than those whtea Pat them
selves eseruauJ IN Stays md stla gs1s;s n9sk;am,
t1;E than eoa.z suit. They viii not 80 into your
house @ to walt for 5on, however Intimate tneI my
oe aan i5a5 1ou Went mo sbes
they Il Yea ea,!. shey sun, ea7c 1hef esds and sala
mssner se of @ going, and Keep lind q
oren house for luncheon casaals. They do not
o ns srr pr ot ' II, snel nne and
they viii not be luncheon casuals; 70 they turn
away E1tmly, and Il you want 70 see mem 5on
sheiT @ .easis'seness ] s,oesned down md tneiF dns
sssa n aass
When people OF nne feelings nre poor their
sensI,i4enessts Indeed cross both for themselves
4 kindness. OF DO ihem service, they ny out at
son for pat.unzlng them. and say you hunalate
them BY treating them as psupcth 1on nsy oo
you dare not attempt With Jonr poor friends
cured With nne feelings; and little Offices OF ktnt~
whsa = se1 ,0u&a sest
asnse1su, @ u II to meddle Win iasa when peoT. They
ass Al bad u sney nave become ,, sncesssfui 7sna
Jtasr Joal attention to them is ume.seT-
ise, howlng to the rising sIn. Torshlppinz the
out when they wcte poor: Why, were ron not
cap IN band when they vent bnrebeadedc Why
have you waited untll they NeEa successful he
bear now pittes tnr>e sensitive folks SIC when
the1 have come Gus inta the sunlight of success
s5 5ssSs as o H. o. oas Ct Iii
when their rnme WAS still to make - If the
World could recognize iss prophets beie.c they
serf dcllcate point with people Of inc feelings,
supposine always the previous struggle 70 rave
hecn hard; and treu u there RAs eeen
no strQer,c TO speak OF, then there are douhts nf
migtyinRs 80 TO whether they are liked toE them
selves OF not nnd morbid eptcnlattons on the sts.
b1lt{ and asoluts ys'1e o. sne position ~ dnsy aoa
| 1nlseR Of what wonld be the result Y they lost
| ther 1are, or wealth, poattcA power, or social
ihcir success hangs, and their enc feelings i'm
| ralc.l. The act Of wisdom moat Impossible TO le
performed b. these sclf-tortufes Is the phnosophic
acceptance ct life - anu Of wings n sae5 isst
! naturally tp their sh&1p-
| women remarkable for 1ne fecaoQs are atso r.
massabc for that uueasy asirast .ns1 lasaaans
| ind uaY,ne- Aa wives or love'. ttRs never tske
4 man 5 love, cucc expressed and loyalty aetet
penee @ e they ar alvs1s pouune Or ben nann9 the:a
81 tsnder accusati;1a ;a,s. or ,nr sorrSsfg Ss.e1
oa 1sen at as e10 @sy ve eean ee F
10 msn ~ dutter1ag to hi5 vanity, but which pa!
hn aissr sho tn1 1ms 5ns eaa a sy anoy % ys
before il existed. Another characteristic Will
rentlest re1aonstsance,, the MOST shaduwJ fauli
fsa1ttng rebuke Of any g1nvry throws then
INTO hysteres on the spoi but esen seqqssi ~,
or to abesain from doing thar which they aav'
r.ed themseIvss 70 do, Ia more thsa they cae @ en-
Win Them ID tbs fool pa1atse Of pesfecs ncss< o
Won Art made 10 feel yourself an unnitlEaa ~
brute You have teiore rou the two alternative
|
Tim, might be eaa!ly rrmeited, or 81 havlnl
your wife s0bblnE N her own room, or golng abo7
! fhe house With red eyes and m expression OF e!
sspetptIaR patience under Gi-treatment r.
worse TO bear than the most Passionate felalia
t,bn- Indeed, women noaE nc diraden oroadl
sg taey arc iound faat win; which. r1,a ode 80
/ ton OF thOpe Woodeu Women y no ttdon'E care.
Voc Eho can e aesept w. rt,mse soodte1percy. ans
| SIMPLY Try ~ anenfl failInR OF break on m m
4 1Eattr mn
the rod without aFgrava'tnr neeEnesa Fos thefs
are women who can make their meekness !
or violence cauld give, Tue. do not CT. Eeitas
do they complain, 1ut they exaHRefoic tne!f sue
~ 59n ,Se1 ~ nes rner ss aa sol ii su
: hurnbly .thty speak to JOG in 50 suttued rolc'
when they speak 10 you AZ al, which Is rstel5 an
I poIntedl1. hu11ng away II yon are going to ne
D them about the house, on the rzetezt OF eelt
hateful 70 yoas s,eht and DUNG yoa sssS.ss
. oeten,ationsq careful that the thing Of which y
e mildly complained under come clrrumstanc
i ce.. rpas YOU are forced 1t la4t out Of Jour e
;. tn nctnentA and obliged TO come TO An eIr!Au
: ton. You ask them what 10 antss, or whas I
- answer you i Nothing, with an Injured .
70 ! or MI nfseeted surpf1se at 5oaz query .Wn
% hayshiy ! They are cure they hare done all III
could 10 please you. and sney d not knov wt M
right you hare to be rexed With them asatn- r.
|
annoy you; they have only tried 10 ohey you, .
to do az you otvcred, and yet you are not s7t
WV IS It Tat I1ey never "a eau please yo1 wnases
they DO. You get no nearer your end by tnls y
Of th.rs: and The only way 10 hEtng youf Gs!se!
Ia bitterly, hut snally end by kissing and making
r. You have 10 50 through the process Sotn,
y; else. save sudden dsaseF G5 a. a. ane1psct m 3;
o. but n cannot alwaya command cataclEsns
It. godsends, aud as the nis, arc DANGEROUS and
TO fns1 ccstly, the short aud easy method remain
Is IS 10 hare . dtcls,Ye nnderstaniing,' VII
ed means scene AID domestic tempest, With s'no'
calling until the next kline.
.ss Sometimes the nne feelings are huzt bY
to grrster hartar1s@ than that which IS contained
~ = ioke- Women With nne feelings are seldom
Or o1ase 1oke and !o9 vi heaE taem sslat1nG,
ia nrrt=st bit Of nonsense son dung on At rsntt
.es Win no mt re Intention 81 woandiuc taecn {.
.. aanes N ths aess5: s. ~ $
Of 40, ssp INT 5oq ~ h.ss ;s s ,ne,
eut you eau hope for Is tsst tho friend 10 whom &
IL, deta1 their grievance .tl see through them
T. nae ieenes g xhea ese.s tnen,,ei
the IN exceeding irritation At moral and inse1ec
ec- differences Of ortaiou-1ne feelings bound y
IN. having taken certain mosai and ,heola5eN u
tn under their especial patronage and holding Al
r. 1ssss. n 11ngoent pe,Soaa pas. ,s
COS to make everJ one else uncomfortable
e. e. % aeo unson.c,oas @ % sssI You might 3 ven
her living IN a rrg.o q o: steelHaps And Spring g
up and set . walk hlntfold among ph talls md VI
aud holesL fcu hing your dare-s1nne here, tho. q
4 eare!essiy, and thinking no eva, and up starts
4 Of Etree,. who s~ea11 Jon have 'ntsred him u
one r.chp9 av particular importance to It. but you
q tue enc fet1tnR1 which oppose It. and unles
9a 70 snTs fSs y1a si9s,s sst e
Icre | apd AZ nue fttnp91 art orly bad temper1 uI
oa,,. snosH nss sea ;oa ,ss Ssr mo9es D5eso'
ssSSse'ss rsSef people na .aan ID 1aetr % aneue.s
no FEELING By ,ne4r hasattenee q ps,n. Nd Tue
~ ~ 70 mac nors
,ne the theory of uerrou. differences. An1 who u
me means "a organization me IN Koifsn nsrp
ele- Feasibility. The oldest part Of the bushes
'ow- the sublime contempt these senaases nAFt
pre- other person. patience and endurance. and
iru~ much ncre refined and touching tneJ ;aiak
d IS orn pucr11e eenspllity. Bat this Is ehaIac
ss ,i es ene Of 7nssF &c saaaess tes iae
the ns1n.s aaa s,:'a e
sup 6rsdes were Always called spades and not
def- eued down 70 agricultural lnNcmeuta, VIC ah
hsas eps nst fSs',as aseb sais non
tare and ,he world be the Etchet bJ tuss 10 nnch
N ie ton OF u2tn-
1 or ---
ted;
) arc eo7esp<'luens " sas La1aon 1fhNks, VT
and froru Florence. te4S Hae tpIo sla3 9H1nee ato
uub "a tflA tna ~ iuss oeen neid before tho
long. retton 1s1nunslut hltAn- n2s e1cted strong
even eff pE tne u o4aAtaG E1Cutb2nces dtscln5ed
. are II the k9me tlme Elses strange idea Of IN
pure E7se &c sNen Au.s luuM Ibefts tnAT De S1olat
,a+,.- bearing the rather remarkable name OF Car
esas. OF Aiafun, and whose husband had aband
IgtcAl hers btta1e enamouIed Of an EnRllshmau n
the Edmund Howard. Hho lived N Alan, and
Goth. lessons In English. Hts position IN the LeEn
lieIr. capital seem8 to hare been good, bu
Seu- Abnntso6ed u for her safe, md they naf
.nder loRc'her, and early ii the present year He,
d. BY Venice While iht9r her family, weicn lo1
very ytATs tad t1ken no notice Of her. suddenly ap
Nd n 70 the Nnan police to hare nes ofon9ns -