The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1869-06-30

as too much like the SuppleDnentlng OF oenc-
safer in boredom than in any diversion from
herself as the sole centre OF her huspahos
pleasure. s -.
The home life stagnates in England, and in
very few families ia there any mean between
dissipation and this stagnation. We can scarce
" wonder that so many husbands think fnatri-
rnony mistake as we have It in our inguiar ar
the time when they we're unfettered and not
bored or that their free friends, who watch
them as wild birds watch their Gagged compap-
ions, curiousIy and refectively. come to share
their opinion. Wife and home, after al, make
up but part OF a mans life; they are not bis
all, and do not satisfy the whole Of his social
instinct; nor is any one woman the ooncen-
nothing i that is beautiful, or in Its It's way Dc.
sirabley on the outside. Besides, when with
his wife q man is often as much iso-,
lated as when alone, for .oa any % real com ON,
women take a living interest in the
lives OF men, and fewer still under
stand them. They expect the husband to
eympathlze with them in the kitchen gossip
and the nursery chatter, the neighbors' doings
and all the small household politics but as o.
race they are utterly unable TO comprehend his
pleasures, bis thoughts, his duties, the respon-
sibllities Of his profession, or the bearings of
any public question in which he takes part.
But even If this were not &c. and granting that
they could enter fully into his life. and sympa-
thize with him as intelligent equals, not only
there would still be the need Of novelty, and
still the certainty OF boredom without it. For
human lite, like all other forms Of life, must
have due prop rtion OF fresh elements contin-
ually added to keep IL sweet aud growing, else
it becomes stagnaht and stunted, as everything
else would be. And daily intercourse unde-
niably exhausts the moral ground. After the
remain mentally fresh to the the other unless, in
deed, one or both be Of the Iarest order of
mind, and Of q practically lnexhaustible knowl-
edge. Save these exceptional instances, we
Intercourse. We know every thought, every
opinion. and almost every square inch Of in;
formation possessed; s We n nave heard & Tho old
VIII lead up to them. and at what point they
will begin, we have measured the whole sweep
OF mind. and have probed it's depths; and
though We may love and value what we have
learned, yet We want something new-fresh
food for intere st. though not necessarily new
love for the displacement Of the old. But this
Is what very few English women can under
stapd sts a. or VIII allow They hold SO intensely
jealous OF mans pursuits il they think these
take up any place IN his mind Whloh might elee.
be be theirs. They must be good for every part
must be his only source Of interest. suffering
no other woman to Share hrs admiration or OBJ
tam pip friendship. though this would not
touch his love for themselves or interfere with
their rights. But this is a hafd saying to them,
keep aItieht grasp ON the marital collar. and
suffer no relief of monotony BY judlcious
ioosening or by generous faith in integral
fidelity. The practical result Of which is that
most men are horribly bored at ONE, and
that the mass OF us really suffer from the DO
mestic stagnation to which national customs
and the exclnslveness Of our women doom us
as soon as we become family men. It must,
however. ia fairness, be added that most men
obtain some KIND OF compensation, and that
very few walk meekly in their bonds without
at times slipping them of, with or without the
Of their wives f9rl