Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1868-07-08

7openins before her whose sunshine should
never know cloud nor shadow more lsc.g
@es s Husband and, Wife,
Aa5his chapter On therelaAonsS of hos
bands anf wives, Mr.. Alger has passage
so admirable, and introduces also quo
tation from Chaleaubriand, which has al
ways seemed to US SO unrivaled for truth
fnlness, that quote asfew passages
Let husband be the true and pure
guardian ofshis family, laboring always
to adorn himself with the god-like gems
of wisdom, virtue, and honor; let him;
bear himself in relation. to his wife with
gracious kindness towards herfadlis, With
grateful recognition Of her merits, with
steady sympathy. for her etrials,- with
hearty aid for her better aspirations, and
she must be of arviles stock if she does:
not revere him and minister unto hint
with ali the graces and sweetness Of her
natures Fs sES Il
Let wife in her whole intercourse
with her husband try the efficacy of gen
tlcness, purity, sincerity, scrupulous truth,
meek and patient torbearanc inyaria-f
bic tone and manner Of deferc,iee, and if
he is .not.a brute he :canlnot help respect
ing her and treating her kindly, and in
nearly all instances he will end by loving
her and living happily with her.
But if he is,yulgar and vicious, despo-,
tic, reckless, 50 as to have no devotion
forthe augustsprzes and incorruptible
pleasures of existence; If she is,an un-
appeasable termagent, or petty warrior,
so taken up with trifing annoyances that,
wherever she looks "the blue rottlnda of
the universe sinks into housewifery
roemz:2ifsthe presence ofgeach acts as
d morbid frfitant on the nerves Of the
other, TO the destruction of comfort and.
the lowering of selfrespect, and the drain
ing away of peace and strength, their.
companionship must infalibly. be COM.
panionship in wretchedness and loss.
The banes of domestic life are little
ness, falsity,Nulgarity y,s.harshness, scold,:
ing,vociferation, AN inccssantl issuing Of,
superf1uous prohibitions and orders, which
are regarded as imperlinent interlerences
with the general liberty land repose, and
arc provocative Of ranking or exploding
resentments.. The. blessed antidotes that
sweeten and enrich domestic life are re-
Ghement, high aims, great interests. soft
voices, quiet and gentle manners,r mag
unanimous tempers, forbearance from all
unnecessary commands OF, dictation, and
generous allowances of mutual freedom.
7Eoye makes obedience lighter than liber-
tY. Mau wears a noble allegiance, not
asa collar, but,as garland. The Graces
are>never so lovely as when seen waiting
on the Virtues; and where they thus
dwell !, together, they make heavenly
No affection, save friendship, has any
sure, eternity in Friendship ought,
therefore, yalways tosbescultivated in1oyel
itself, as its only certain guard md pre-
seryatiye. not less than as the only suffi-
cling substitute in -itssabsence: "A. couple
joined by love without friendship walk
on gunpowderwith torehes!in their hands.
ShalI1 venture to depict the sad decay
which love4naturalI suffers, andsthe re-
demptive Transformation which it some |
times undergoes Z? Twill do jitsbys trans /
lating a truthful and eloquent passage;
from Chateaubriand :5esas- 3gts rs $50 ,sa's'yi
eat first our letters are long, vivid, i
frequent. The day is not capaciousl
enough -forsthem ~ We write at sunset;
at moenrise We race a few more lines, /
charging its chaste and silent .slight,to-
hidelour. thousand desires. We watch
for the first peep, of dawn to write what
we believe We had forgotten to say insde-
licious hours: of our meeting A thou.
sand vows cover the paper, where all the
roses of Aurora are reflected thou
sand kisses are planted on the words,
which seemiborti from the first glance Of
the sun. Not:an idea, an image, a reve.
RE, an accidental disquietude, which has
not itsletter,, Eo! one morning, some
tains .,.aost .imperceptlble steals on. the
beauty Of th;s passion. Like the first
wrinkle on the front Of an adored woman.
{ .ssss'The breath and perfumezof love eS-
pire inSthesespages of youth as an, n,even-
ing breezesdies upon the flowers. We
FEEL . but, are unwilling tot.contess it.
Our letters become. .fewerland shortersare
filled with news with descfi ptions. with
toreig matters; md, if any thing hap,
pens ia, delay them, we areless disturbed
Onthee subject of loving. and being loved, |
i9e have grown reasonable. We submit
toabsence without complaint. Ourformer
vowsprolong themselves; here are still
the same words, but they are dead. Soul
is wanting in them. slloyesyou, is mere
ly an expression of habit, necessary !
form, the have the honor to be of the
love letter EEittle by little the style
freezes where it iNamed. The post day
no longer eagerly anticipated-is rather
dreaded; writingthas become a fatignessge
"Weiblush to think of the madAess
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