The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1868-11-06

narbv and Joan iop-trot sort OF existence; With
the second one there Is not even the roma0ceto
begiL with. For lev men-so few as 10 be o1t
OF court-make q love-mateh twice in their
lives. The first marriage is contracted In the
ardor of youth; the second is mostly a caicula-
ton. Either the wido Is weary of so itude,
and has been bab tuated 10 the househol1 order
over which mistress presidea; or he sees the
chance of q wealthy alliance; or he has property,
but no her, and must needs have one; or he
wants somebody to look after his little com
forts. There are hundred mercenary pleas
for second marriage TO one plea OF affection.
True love-we mean, now, true love in its
flaming bachelor state, n )t the Darby and Joan
Jog-tIot : seldOm burVive5 In man after
thirty. The truest, taithfuliest, hottest, aud
most bisstUIly uncomforab love of all Is
cslf-love, which seldom lasts after seventeen.
All subsequent pass Ons are m ere imitation OF
this-not malt so absorbing, not a third so blind,
not teLth so pure. Tue calf Outliges it's
calidom, gets the better OF sDoor iness, laughs at
II, and few years later tres To produce it over
again. But he never succeeds. Tue taurine
passions are mere stage play. He may per-
suade himself that he is desperately in love with
the dear grl, that she is an angel, that II she
jted HIM he would do somelh hing desperate go
mad, emigrate, blow out his brains, perhaps;
but iD his iU1 er soul he knows tnat this is all
a mere pretense; that hIs heart is not as
Teging furnace, but tepid as mIldest shaving
water; that his pulse would not hear her aud
beat had he lam Tor century dead-indeed, 1t
does not even quicken nov when she enters the
room. He sees her faults-none clearer; and
nothing in his love like the wild adoIIng passion
OF the sChoolboy-that comes bat once IN
life, and the love which is bold enough TO pro-
pose and Callous enough to treat of settlements
Is mere earthly imitation OF it. How much
baser, then, second marriage, which means q
hitieth lovel Ii in,o the first there entered
some element of caution, or more isuDbe
shTewdness, the second Is wholly compounded
OF these and OF a sel6shness which Is pareut of
them. Toe motives which lea1 bachelor to
propose are mostly single hearted enough; he
really loves the girl, and tries to do all he can
10 make her happy. But the wido wer enters
the race with the intention that she shall make
him happy. He is the first party to be con-
sidered, not she. And there are few single
an alliance with once.marred man, who do
not fully understand this. When a woman
accepts wldower she must feel the second
baud nature of the bargain, There is no
SS c%Ses. the VOWS ne are ps1tude,, Sas are the ca
resses have been rehearsed be- ore. What
worn.out pump the human heart is SO far as
love making Is concerned, after ten or fifteen
years of married life Is there anything more
pathetic than forty wooing thirty-three, and
counterteiting the languors Of twenty? Or any
thing more cynical than the sight of bright
eyed maiden who imagines she holds IN thrall
that Uieur nlouStdChe OF heart which has sur
Vlved the wear and tear of q matrimonial cam
palgD? But, as a rule, she does not imagine
anything of The kind; she accepts the situation
at lis true value, knowing that the wIdo wed
affections are so much Warlour street lumber;
knowing that another woman has been before
her and extracted all the pith and mario
of romance, leaving the husk 10 the
second wife. She bargains, therefore, for
position, and not passon, marnes him
for his money, or his title, or his status,
or because she may not have another offer, or
tor any other mouve that may be don't nant-
love being the last and least Will she do
true wife's duty by him; will she be second
mother to his children; will she ''order all things
duly like Lady BurleIgh the First? Let the
poor little nee ected hearts that have sobbed
themselves to sleep ON their pillows make reply.
times q careless one, sometimes an ind fftrently
honest ope always an Inferior one. For you
will 6pd the rule hold good that there Is but one
true love in lie and one married love: the first
holds precedence, the after Que weadens in
arthmetcal progression. When wido VS. and
wldowers pair, the sight has always the SAVIOR of
hucksters bargain. On ne reutent pdSa ses