Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1868-12-24
FEMININE AMENITIES.

Prom the Saturday Review
mans foes axe those of his own housahC.I
srd the keentst eneInies Of women are women
it--l--lNss. No one Inf'ict such hurniI a.
non g.. = woman "a a woman wnen she choses:
foe y he art OF hign-banded snubbiag belongs
!" iEfE, ;Eat OF subtle wOunding is peculiar
f-niHtG6- and - practiced by the bet bred of
IN So Women are always more or less ar
iagoEI1ftc ~ each other. They are cre-a-tOus
~ Is HONS snd cumulative in fOIIies ont thew
CanEOt combine; hey never support their weak
s,stvrs; they shrink from those who are stronger
L3n the average. sra At they would speak Tue
uL'h boldly. they Guild confess to a radical
contempt fC- each Others intellect, which per
maps = the raj reason why the sect OF the
"rmanciPatnU" COMMANDS 50 small follow
ing. Half dCg-u ordinary IT a I'D yO,.qtiCr
'enanCIIajl-1' doctrines would d D more TO-
wards leav-ning tie whole buIk of wonaa-
kiLd than any number Of hTst-class womsn
" here they do stand ~ zach Otner il Is from
instructive or PERSONAL affection, rather than
from class solidarity. And this is one of the
most sirikIEg distinctions OF sex, and one
cause, among Others why men have the upper
hand, and why they are able To keep 1t. GER
'SlDly there are reasons. sufi GENTLY good, hy
women do not more readily coaIescs: and one
l. the immense differences between the two ex-
Uemes-the silly being TOO silly % appreciate
The wise, and the weak too weak 10 bear tie
arnOr of the strong. There is more difference
between the outsiders among women than
there IL between those among men; II a fe-ni-
nine Characters OF eXaRgeraUOn maKiug a
gap which III medium or average man ills
The ways Of women win eacl other more than
all elee show the great difference between tLeir
sc men could not do, tut they axe also NOR
rude tC each other than any man would % 10
hIz fellow II is amazing 10 see the thIuss -aay
ca n DO and VIII Oedr-tniDEs which no ns9
would dream Of standing, aud which nc raau
VOEid dare % attempt. This l. b.caus.. hey
a-e not taught % respect each other, az: D.
cause they have no fear CT CONSEQUENCES. If
one woman y Insulted by another. she cannot
dtrand satlsfac lon knock the Offender
down. and IL is unIadyIIke 10 swear and cal
names She mus, bear what she can oAly repay
lE kind. rIt, Z, Go her lUsrica, she reyrys IN a
TnaLLt- ULtru aOiy effective ana 10 TIE point.
There . nothing very prOC CunCed at1ft the
feminine mode % aggression and recitation,
and ye- = y elCQue"t, and sufficient sor Its
purpose II may - Gully ssars. a shTug, a
toss ui the Eeac. but women can tErOw An iu-
tLsilY u Gisdaln INTO the sImpies gesture
Vhlch answers The whole end perfectly The
unabdshtd serenity amt uDfiiL ching cJnstapcy
Win v hIch one won can stare down
aEsther y II ItStlf art hat REQUIRES a GER
tain amount OF natural grEIGs,as well as careful
ct.nyaiion She puts up her eye-giass-nOt
IeIng short sizhtsd-and surveys the enemy
star GIIg two feet from her with Il Sublime
Contempt for Ler Whole condition. or with s
.khli E-oIe sublime Ignoring Of her existence
>altCErtEer, that 10 words could give. II the
sLt 10y Is sensitive and unused to the kind OF
ching, she Is absolutely crushed, destroyed for
the time, and reduced 10 tie most pitiaO stare
Of self-abassment. If she Is of a tOughar fibre
ana has had some eIperienc@ of feminine way
are, she TeturEs the stare with a correspond
ing amount II contempt or of OblIy IOusnrss
and IRON tbai uCIG- n a contest Is O-guu which
never C-ases, ana - nIch Continually gam. ia
bitterness The st'.-e i the weapon OF offence
most II use among women, and Is specially
favored by the expeTI-L ced against tie younger
al Ies- seasoned. IL Is enc of the Ius;in Live
AIMS naive 10 the sex, and We have only .
WIryh the introduction OF two girls 20 each
ether 70 see this. and 20 learn how, even IN
youth. u begun the exercise which time and
Use Iaise 10 such deadly perfecuOn.
In tEe Conversations OF women with each
ether We again meet with examples OF their
peculiar anieBl-irs 10 their own X. They
L-yrr refrain from showing how muca th-y
.t.-N ont n duct H1lf ne
LIinsIsst veil If pOlogy 10 hide their rudsnsss;
end they Interrupt TuthlessIy. whatever the
cub, q IN hand may b.. Oue lady vas giving
another a minute account OF how the bride
looked yesterday when he was married. u Mr..
a, Of somewhat formidable repure. aud with
" Len. n report. was ~ be trusted, Der listener
bad hat sUndry passages which made the
-.eTfiC1 Of his lLarrIage VIGOROUSLY sore
subject. s'Ah l See you have taken that old
sI,k vi ICh Madame Josephine wanted 10
Fam OF on ne last year" said TIE tor
jared listener brusgU-ly, br-akIGg into the
LaTTatIye without lead OF any kind; and
The speaker was sileEced. In this
. vas the interchange Of doubtful cOur-
fs>ies- wherein neItHar deserved pity,
but u make disPaTasIng remark about Il
vCUl @. vas thoroughly feminine IL amer OF
Te- alIa.lJn. and one that would not have
toHcb'l man- Sacn saaits wonIa tat
I.-.', a ag=i. - the TuE ged skin Of the c0ars-r
. cess re-, md the date OF pattern OF bat "
. ,---A -.Oult not have tod much against TIM
loss q: lover. But as most women passion
a. g. care Tor dress, rleIr toilet - one VI tErIr
TC= s. ulL cradle pHr's- Asa n ID - De IN
fashion aole, hey tolerate anything 10 each
v,h-T rather tc~u shaDbiness or eccentricIty,
.s+u y b. Il Ii,turesg n; hence a sIrcasuc al
lLsICu 90 the soc IF a lew yards of SIX Is = re-
ty-n wound u considerable depth Waen Cley-
Th@ introduction OF woman kind belonging 20
= tayOrIfe Dsrle acquaintance Of lower social
C. uoIti, = arOrcs sPeGdld opportunity Tor the
GI-ylsy - f9raiDine ameni:y. The Presentation
rot ~ rel 1s-q. yet H. l. resented tntru-
sION- and the smaller woman Is made % feel
bar ne has Offended. "AnOther daughter.
g. a. NO1 must have - Dozen daughtars
surely. "A peersss said disdainfully 10 a COM
El.arr " bonn personally she liked, out whose
I.anIiy she did not want TO know The po'r
mar had but two. and this was ths intTOdnciiOn
Of he second Very painful 10 hlgh-sPlrited
eeut,ewOman must b. h way in which a
. superior creature Of This kind receives her, IL
nat of the same set as herself The husband OF
. tie inferior Creature may o. "ddored, as men
are aGored ~ fashionable women who love
Cr!y themselves. and car. only for their own
tIersurss Artist man o. letters, J>au sdbrsur,
- i the passing idcl the tern Orary toy of oer
tain circle. and bis wife mas 10 Be tolerated r
. Dis sake, and S2caUss she is lady a 10 nj TO bs
presented. though an outsider. So they pa
IrOnIze her tili The poor woI1an's blood Is On
mr.. or they snub her till sns hiss no moral
L consistency left IN her, and y reduced 70
' mrre mass % pulp. They keep hez IN ano' mr.
room while they talk 20 their inmates; or they
admit her into their circle, where she Is mace
o. feel ike GENTLE among the faithful wner-
citl er tlsy leave her unspoken 20 altogether, or
Else speak 10 her on subjects quite apart frea
-sFrral conversation, as n she was lncaptcle
Z understanding them on their own ground
Ley ak her 20 elmer without her husband,
aBo axe care thai there Is no one TO meet her
when che wosld like 10 see; bat they ask MIN
when tH.y ~ their gr inde I, AM express
th,I deep regret that his wife (uninVited)
cannot accompany him. They know ever
turn and t~Ist that can huInilats her IL
che has pIsieHsions when they choIse
70 cemOlIsb. hey praise her toilet Tor
its good taste D. simplicity, Whso
shs thin Ks she II q the L Lest on an oceA-
zion On whic0 no one ean BE- TO- fine; tnvy tell
her that pattern O. h,I- IS peT.ect, and made
lust Ike thu dear duchsss's famous dress last
season, when she believes that she has bla-
dame JCseprine's last, freshly irnpoItef fgom
Paris: tLey celebrate her dinner az the very
VERT Ca of a refined tGyniiy dinner withoo.
paraCy r cost, thOuga e. aas al ben Gat from
he crack cOnfecSiOneT aaI tn Igh IAs bill
FOR the ertertanment Will cause many u dsy
Of family pinching. Tnes@ are the things
which women say 10 one a. other wnea they
vlsh 70 pain and humiliate. sui witch pain
ard humiliats some more tan .0ld a po-t-
I, i've disgrace. For some w Len are distress
rbglJ sensitive about these Lttle naIi,Is. ghelr