Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1868-01-11
ASHTABULA OHI0 SATURDAY, JANUARY H. 1863

the accomplishment of it IS one of the
most bliSstul, in life. And it is thing
not to be rushed into hcedIessly, but to
be dealt with soberly, diScreetly religi-
ously. 1t is anything bat fantasy, or
passionate oulburst, or a matter Of cal
culation. 1t is a thing of moral judg-
ment 1t is . duty as high as that which
lifts itself between yoa and the face OF
God.
After giving him this advice. Isaac
blessed Jacob, and sent him away to Pa
dan-aram, to get a wife.
Now there is another part to this bis
tory. When Esau saw that Isaac lad
blessed Jacob, and sent to Iadan-aram
to get wife and forbid him to take 4
wife Of the daughters of Canaan he went
and married a Canaanite. He married
out of spite. And there have been i
great many people who have married
from rebound OF passion. But never
heard Of one who was glad Of it after
ward do rot know what sort Of a
time lie had, but you can suspect what
sort OF Il time she had, after marrying un-
der such circumstances.
This is atypical instance. 1t is not
the only time in which Il man has over
slaughed his own happiness out Of spite
to somebody else. There is great deal
of this vet. There is Il large band of dis
ciples, think, who ought to be called
sons Of E$0".
Two neghborS have premises adioin-
ing. They quarrel One builds a barn
III the place most inconvenient to himself
and in place where, under ordinary cir
cumstauccs, he would not have thought
of building it, on purpose to cut oil his
neighbours prospect. lie submits to eX-
tra labor and annoyance for ten years,
Just for the sake Of spiting him any how !!
4 man shuts up road that he himself
wants, Just for the sake OF compelling his
neiglibor to 90 five miles around instead
of three He subjects himself to any a.
mount Of Inconvenience because it vii!
spite his HcighJor that he hates.
Two men quarrel. They, in order to
spite each other, follow each other up
and down in society, that they may get
hold Of something by which to injur each
other They spend more time III making
themselves meal. and wicked and disa-
grecaJIe for the sake Of spiting each
other, than would be sufficient to resist
all temptations and build up honorable
achievements in lie. But then they like
TO spite each ether.
Mon Will report damaging stories, AID
make themselves the common sewers ci
the village, for the sake OF spitirg some
body that they dislike 1t matters not
how foul or uEcleIu the story may be, if
i, only hurts tie person at whom it is
Il med.
Sometimes families seem to be organiZ-
ell oil this principle, and the husband is
perpetualIy acting in such way as to
spite his wife and she is pcrpetually
acting in such Il way to spite him
They Inconvenience themselves for the
sake OF spiting each other.
Political parties do the same think. !
think that for twenty years in Indiana
the United States Senator's were never
chosen by the party in power. The ether
party, combining with few in the dom
inant party, defeated the man OF THEN
choice. SO that for twenty years the
Senators that were sent, were sent for
the purpose Of spiting the party that sent
him.
And still the same thing goes on. The
same thing has Leen done, and / doubt
not through time. mary thinge Will be
dole, for the sake OF spiting somebody or
something. 1t is not the law of poIiti, 5
lit is the law of human Eaturc. 1t is
the spirit of old Esau il men, which led
him, when he found that his father DID
not wait lis brother to marry in Cana
an, to say: ''Ihat is the reason why
will DO it. viii spite my father, that
has treated me so Stlahbily, by marrying
one of the inhabitants OF Can; an" That
spirit flows on i'll ten thousand channels
yet, and il is 10 more lovely now than it
WAS then, although it is in very respcc-
table places and is looked upon with t;lv-
Or by many, aud possibly by some that
are here, who are conscious that they are
acting wrongly, imprudentiy and unwise-
ly, for the sake OF spitinga neighbor. 1t
is the very archway in which Il nlan acts
to spite himself i'll the end.
They that enter into this sacred state
ought to hold themselves bound 10 90 it
on the Scriptural ground-not upon q
calculation Of secular advantages. Hap
PLY, in our time, all the romantic senti-
ments revolt at the idea of marriage
connection formed for secular reasons-
The public sentiment Of this Christian
country would deride and condemn a
man who should desecrate the sanctity
of life by selecting a wife for peauniary
or ambitious reasops For. although
sometimes, among the innumerable
chances OF life, a man acting from consid-
erations Ike these may find wife COM
ing to him, contrary to all reasonable ex-
pectations, as 4 joy and blessing during
the whole Of his days, yet, ordinary, sLch
calculations result in barren and unfrui:-
ful affections, i'll dry and arid married
lives if not IN contention, in nlisrule and
uahappiness.
4 Nor should the fancy direct the selcc-
ton. There can be nothing less sound
or stable than that of following the fancy
Of ones eye. In the pleasure Of the hour
one may be attracted to another from
reason that constitute strong primary
influence, bat that are not founded OH
qualities that last.
Neither should you form q marriage