Wyoming democrat. [volume] (Tunkhannock, Wyoming Co., Pa.) 1867-1940, 1868-06-24
A GIRLS FIRST OFFER.

There are two deplorable extremes, into
one of which young girl usually falls on
receiving her "'first offer"
The worst and most frequent OF these is
that Of fancying herself in love, when, IN
reality, she does not care fg for her
lover. The other consists in coquettish
pride which leads her, against the dictates
of her own judgement, and the incIlnations
of her own heart, to reject siutor, how
ever worthy.
Now, when a man offers woman his
hand, with all the accompanlments OF his
heart. and name and fortune, whether
these be exalted or lowl ly,-he pays her
the highest compliments in his power
Undoubtedly she has right to feel COM
piimented, and she must be untrue to her
womanhood does she not in some measure
feel so, even though her suitor be beneath
her regard and the compliment will be
valued very much in proportion to her
estimate of the man. ~. #. ..
But take young girl, whose magma
ton is colored with the hues of summer 5
sun rising. whose dovelike soul is waiting
on quiveIing wing for loves first mes
sage whose gentle heart pulsates in an
ticipation of loves ecstasy. When, IN her
Maymorn, one comes offering her the
sweetest and brightest of lfe's fragrance
and beanty-does she pause to see If there
be any dust on his garments, anY stain on
his hands, any film on his eyes, any base
ness on his heart
No Intoxicated with the perfume and
bewildered with the beauty, he stands IN
the radiance of her rising sun, and sees
the lover beneath its golden light.
Many woman has blighted her own
life, and that of the one she loved, by in
dulging passion for coquetry! Having
charms of which she is fully conscious :;
empowered perhaps, with all the advantages
of wealth, position and accomplishments,
she proudly measures her power, and
says
81 am equal to great copquests; and
shall ], thus carly, submit to be conquer
ed! | have cords with which to lead
many captives and shall | yield my hands
to be mauacled? / have power to bring
the proud head low-to melt the heart OF
stone.-to wiring the nerve of steel; and
shall put my head on the block-my
heart in the crucblc- my own nerves In
the vice? No when / have had sur
felt OF these delights-then-"
But the time referred to in the long fu-
turity of the little word then seldom
comes to the coquette. 1t will always be
then The accepted time is never
GEAR when once we have let the opportuni'
ty pass. Why will not women be warn
ed?
Assuredly, to be loved implies some de-
gree of lovciness, and she NAV be pardon
ed for feeling gratiied with this highest
of all compliments-this subtleness of all fiat
tery. But why should she unhesltatingly
throw herself into aims that may be ex-
tended only to ensnare her ! On the
other haLd, why does she turn proudly
from the embrace of one who may be fit
ted to meet every want OF her woman
hood?
Young girl, answer these questions to
your own heart and when you receive your
" first offer" be not so flattered or sclf-de-
ceived as eilher to accept or reject with
out careful deiberation. ~. ..
Don't imagine thBt this is the last ''chance ,
you will ever have neither for the sake of
flirting throw it away.