Watertown republican. [volume] (Watertown, Wis.) 1860-1906, 1868-03-25

"FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE"

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cussion and comment, made matter of
bargain, and liable at any mohiehetoErude
exposure in Shameless divorce suits, is
very sad tolook 2up6r. But for theafrm
belief that 50 much sagitatio,r indicates
the approach Of healthful reform, and that
after the turmoil and f4rment is over, we
shall get clear wine of a new order of
things, noting could be more utterly
hopeless.
All, If Ole could but drill few ideas
into the young heads wno so heedIessly
rush into marriage, thinking far more of
the bridal veil and jewels than the long,
long, weary life, which cannot be CLOSED
over, but must be lived day by day, hour
by hour every trial, every sorrow, every
pang, endured-liyed through and con
-quered or yielded to --.-.,-..,..,
All, il. they would but remember chat
life does rot end at the alter, as it does
in romances; that il fact, it generally
begins there; that, instead Of being the
end Of career, it is the first deep note
of a beginning, to which their life has
been but a preludet 9a .5D9md4-9g
All, ,sif they could bui appreciate the
soemnifJ of the promise, . For better, for
worse"
To see the thoughtlessioss With which
young people marry is, TO & thoughtful
person, simply horrible. In general the
bride is filed with her, own importance.
In copr tship she has been the idol, and
she, Of course, expects to be SO still. She
has probably some sentimental ideas Of
being a Performer; sho1ld her husband
prove vicions. She expects to tEaia his
habits with uniformed. character herself,
she modestly expects to form his charact-
er And, through all, She, in heT h4aft,
expects to be adoreds; expects to beztho
central figure around which all shall re-
volve. -a+r.s@ 10 r.-z....-q a...f e.. ...s
The bridegroom, too, what does he ex-
pect !? .''
Al, well, We know that TITS drilled
into US from our cradles He expects a
model house a neat, smiling wife !; but
tons always on, and dinner always prompt
and good. In fact, he expects perfect
ly devoted and charming Servant. 7''.,-
what chance is there for happiness be-
tween these two, each Of whom is bound
up IN self-each of whom expects to sit
still and be adored? No need to tell the
RESULT Our divorce suits answer. ~ 20.
'4 Marrying with these ideas, of course
they are unhappy. The young wife
makes up her mind, IN a month or 50,
that she has made a mistake; and hence--
forth the world holds no happiness for
rer.s 1t drives her Into one of several
things ;Ia9either into fashionable society
to divert herself with its novel diversions
Of flirting, etc., etc: (see divorce suits,
or into frenzied housekeeping, which is
harmless, though disagreeable or intoTa
Weaks Whining g woman, a most detestable
phase of female possibilities. Or,lif.she
be thoroughly noble, It makes Of her,
after Tong years which we will not paint
Ia grand, glorious woman, such as oc4
casionally blesses our sight on earth. aa,
ID the. husband, it drives. either to
and entertainments away
from home, games, wine or fast horses
or to tyrannical house master, crushing
and grinding all individuality under his
iron heel -..:.....,....4 q,
Now hero is fatal error. Neither of
tie two seem to realize that this is the
tarning point in n'their lives. This choice
is to decide whether they will be wretch
ed, half living objects, aud, ere, long,
candidates for divorce, or whether they
will take their wretched life firmly in
hand and bring order, and even beauty,
outof, Its fragments. Many live their
whole lives and never find this out.
OTHERS discover it too late to effect much.
All if one could butl ecallall-these halt
ing couples, and say to them these words.
My poor friends you made mistake
in marriage, probably, but you make
worse mistake now in yielding to your
disappointment and folding your hands to
be unhappy the rest Of your lives. p.
.i'<You are unfortunately bound for life
to an unconEenial partner, bat one honor
able, one manly and womanIy course. is
or en- to you. First make up you, minds,
decjdzdIg,- that it is irreyocable, and then-
try to make the CALLING chains as. toler--
able as you can. ss .@57 j. 1.aa ri
" Resolve-togather, if possible; if not
alone-that if you, cannot be happy, you
will at least not be in torment that if
you cannot love, you will at least respect
and Use common politeness to each other.
Resolve that you will not expect the
other to give up his or her own life and
live yours, nor will you be constantly on
the qUi 0tpe to find fault, but you viii sfy
to hllmor each others t..stes In a word,
endeavor to treat 3odr fellow chain bearer
as you would. treat any lady or gentleman