The New Orleans crescent. [volume] (New Orleans, La.) 1866-1869, 1868-11-11

The TINE FOR MARRYING.-We VIII suppose
and luckily the supposition is not hazardous one,
but perfectly confoTmable to general experience
that fret love is by no means last love, but actu
ally ccmesto be regarded, by retrospective vision
that it is perhaps not wholly disinterested In the
view it takes, as scarcely love at all. 10 other
particular period Of life essentially transitional
one. ct whit b. unless he Is o true philosopher
and he never is just at that time, though he in
varisbly regards himself as such-the indepen-
dent male 10 rather ashamed OF ever having been
in love and utterly refuses to be subject to women.
He Is above that sort Of thing now. He does
not " ant to marry; indeed he would not marry
for worlds. He has no objection 10 the fair sex.
On the contrary, he Is extremely and conspicu-
ously partial to them, but 1t lie In deliberately
desutory way. We have an invincible objection
to saying anything that may sound offensive to
women; but We are speaking historically, and
are describing the masculine attitude towards them
under certain ephemeral circumstances, without
In any degree commencing it. Therefore Is 1t
that we state that the average man. during what
NAV be called the period of suspended animation
in his existence regards women rather "a the
jucundd than the id0neG ritB. and more in the
light of dolls than of the deities they once ap-
peared to him, or than in that of indispensable
companions, he will eventually come to consider
them. He finds them-nearly all of them-both
pretty and agreeable; and when he has nothing
else TO do be instinctivey flies to their fsscina-
ting but by no means perilous society. He
his eloquent incidence, and occasionally gratides
his vanity. On the whole he Is grateful to them,
and be would indeed be monster were he
o herwise, for they make life intensely though
quietly pleasant for him. He always speaks well
of them, better indeed than they speak OF him !;
but-peThsps we ought to say. for-he never pro-
poees to marry any Of them. Imagination has Ion z
ceased TO be his guide. and he has not yet fallen
into the hands Of any other and less Eighty
familiar. He is Just now his own philosopher and
friend, and be picks bis way through life. encum
bered though it be with infinite snare with almost
supernatural securitI. Clearly IL is superfuous D
inquire If this be the period at which man should
marry, since he is 30 sverse as positively to be
unable 10 take the steps which lead TO his doing
so. He will not fall in love. More than that, he
cannot. And we would never recommend so
serious consequences unless preceded by Its
legitimate cause.
Happily, however, fckleDees is not the exclu.
sive Characteristic of extreme youth. nor is love
the only pursuit in which mankind displays their
Unsuitable mania for change. They grow tired
OF not loving almost as soon as OF its opposite,
and continued liberty is as irksome TO them az
continued thraldom. Woman 10 general, that was
to our typical human specimen so charming q toy,
ere leDe becomes an intolerable bore. and the
society that recently filed the vacuum Of exist
ence now does not increase ii. He has said all his
good things; bis wit is exhausted his vanity is
satiated; his very Incidence is oppressed with
fruitIess frivoliy his digestion has shown signs
of its existence he would not swear that he has
felt q tinge of govt, and he t1Oad swear that his
attention has been called 10 two or three hairs Of
inbarmonious gray; and, following in the wake Of
ipnumeTable ancestors, his now really manly
bosom yearns for the domens et pldcens u1Or-
20 be a householder and q husband. He has
evsded rases and taxes of Life quite long enough.
and it is time that he should be put on the matri-
monjsl register. Now is his time now the turn
Of the tide of which he spoke. Woe to him II he
allows il to pass The very minutes are precious.
Once more, Just in youth, he actually wishes to
be married, and the wish throws him into q condi-
ton for being once more deluded. But his re-
juvenescence is only partial and. accordingly,
most luckily for him and for everybody concerned,
his deusion will be limited. IL will be
Just enough to permit Of his fancying somebody
or other rather divine, tempered by the half-sup-
pressed suspicion that she will turn out, after all,
TO be tolerably human. In such mixed mood,
he Is most likely 10 choose both wisely and well.
But let him choose both wisely and well. But let
him choose quickly; for his rejuvenescence, be-
side being partial, is likewise very trsnsitory
ard should he wait till the recovered wish to marry
deepens into desperate sort of feeling that he
fears he never will and that be does not know
whom on earth to select, he will find that his
heart has forever fallen into the scar and yellow
leaf, and that marriage, If he ever accomplished
il, will at best be rnskesbift. This. then is the
time for marrying when the curfew bell Is tolling
announcing that the fires Of youth must be extin-
gushed. The passionate fame OF early manhood
burns too ftfuly and fercely for the domestic
hearth; II troubles more than II warns. But il is Just
Is il is expiring. In obedisnee 10 asovereiyn law.
and whilst it yields sufficient light for discrimi-
mating choice, that selection should be made OF q
companion for the curtained evening of life.
waiting till 1t IL completely out. man viii have
to choose in the dark. Thus. even safety is the
wise mans friend and in nothing does Il show its
friendliness more than this. and II quits him the
moment il has performed its celestial mission and
linked him to . wfe.-lImperisl Review.