The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1868-11-21
In 1ndiysis Offhe 1fuersi0n Obtain
inDfO Second Marriages.
[Froln The I.ondon Leader. ]

The sentiment Of the age is, not without reason,
opposed TO second marriages. lfmatrimOny were
essentially the social partnership which some phi.
losopher would fain make it'll Il we're simply
form OF conyenani binding the parties To love,
honor, aud obey, till divorce do part ihem-if il
were modelled on the plan OF that rcformer who
wanted 10 add rs prOviso to the Prayer Book
vow, $50 long rs We both shall love there
would be no reasonable objection 10 en,. Fins into
a sc1nd third, fourth, fifth partnership on tho
sime elastic footing. Such q dspcnsition, in
decd, would realize the view Of the late Allah
Mcnkcn, tia, IL is well TO marry young and ~.
ten. but, unfortunately Tor the tefOrncfs and
philosophers, aud all the other nice theories male
and female philanthropic, fTec-loving aud sitong.
minded, society persists in regarding marriage ns
much more solemn and spiritual contract than
this. Much as II may vcx the clears cling intel.
lcct of Bradlnngh. society insists upon import.
ting the proyidcaiial element inln the husin-ss
aud making Heaven witacss ~ q contract vol.
UNFAIRLY entered into Tor eternity. Perhaps
cciy j. very wrong for all ihis-~rong ~ going
10 church ~ all-vX,rrmciy wrong To sHhsciii" io
that iaavcr about 'uisakius all Other, and r,V.
ing only unto him or her. ns The cnsc uia, ir. ~
doubt they order ,hrse thing better in franor,
where the legal ceremony IL the principal onr.
with chafch blessings thrown IT. ~ rIiorsm II
We ruull un', yet mtfiict quietly aud wii,uui
iu.. a. thvy lu 10 the opera. where Hn ardent
ba.,o ira. au unwilling snpranO Ia si'lr.'ah.,.
hnl Is un tie point ~ consama,ins the usn-s-
With ih.' aii ~ ~ No'T'o And pad al bluiiins
i.,prr. the social scnnomisi would rej",r Mean.
Whic. h"w'Nrr, sucieiy goes Oa getting mar iui
At tie Eiglc. aud tiyricd AZ the Cunnunicn T.,
ir. Hud ACCEPTING blessing ir"ui Ia,ss. uf pr
sons. unr assisting thr other With = thorti 'n,c,
we'll nrin
..rl' ,".c, hat srra,i,,i ,hrousi. E.lrn.
That '1Ilif Wedding day.
,ii tie organ played cut the p,if iu Nrni
,i."u Wedding Nurh aud all VS., ,rca .ia. .r,
luecanity complete |; j. hnid. after all 'nI.
iu attempt 10 !i,s.ri,ic she frliginh. fium i..,.
Iuryly suri..l naiuf, Of Tie pr"cc.diug lat h~
bridc,.I"oin. y he hc given to phi'"s pliic, IT,.
'uiry. iry 'uii.luchir them IN his wi!r IIr.,.r,
Let him ,sin l., "i..' rsiug. After all ~, .i"tt
wr ate nat mnrrird "a the sight al lien,rn ani az
that. IL uul, . 'froh n J.arl,r Ne have ,ip;-
it uttered iniU sufi oi iatinrrshp Nuu kn""
like uit asspriaiinu with Old Jones ia the uilirr
l,' him attempt Ills vein OF Inu. ,iiziu aui
liun bis wife rrll, he will tr nblr to csiim,'r
the routcd tciins 81 society ia lhc matter Tiii,
then is ~. .ldrii which dicti,rs that scniinru'-
aversion 80 second marriages, which u no' H. .,.s
=, neral iu that u is ,clduin put into words M,i-
imony being. from III, seniuIen lal point - VieA
. body ru.inr,s u hond which IL not uuly grave
!, 10 regulate this lie hut 10 aiI likelihood tuc,-
,st an iuiiIcnrc ovcs the life TO come, thr in
th-tNitAs tNt iuifttit -NaNs lbf NtFt slctttst
-o admitting into the spriiual-pa more ihnil
utc partner is sufficiently obvious 1t savots ~
IstcLical polygamy. Il take Beatrice, ,i,s
licnclicA, "as the one participant in my veal 90
my woe ! take her f0f time and for eternity 90
But in year OF no Beatrice dies, and then Bri..
rlick chooses Laura ~ the one participant for
tine and eternity and IL he survives Laura there
Is poihiug 20 prevent him adding third aud
fourth 10 the firm. Now, at each new bcirOtil.
III ,s.Nt t.ssas f.ff
holy cui,rs second marriage with the .am,
reverence ureifnes,nes orafdor Nth which hecon.
'iacici he fast lie is older and colder :ami..ar-
iy with the estate has bred indifference III, being
~ his side is HOta trembling, pure little soul
whom nj his strong chiyalrous nature rush.-
forth 10 protect, but nice sort OF person. who Is
going 80 look after his servants and SEE that his
linen Is kcl' in good order. Even with the frs,
wife romance ended by setting down into bar.
b. y-aud-joa job-,ro; sort Of existence; With the
s;caal one ,hese Is no. even ;he romance 90 !.s-
gin with. For few men-so fea as 10 be out of
rouri make a love match twice IN their lives .
The FIRST marriage is contracted in the aiior Of
Youth the second IS mostly calculation. Eth.
" the wdower is weary OF solitude and has been
TO the household order over which a
mistress prosides OF he sees the chance of
wealthy alliance or he has property. but no heir
tnl must needs have one or be- wants somebody
10 look after his little comforts. There are hun
lt,l mcrccnary pleas Tot second marriage 10
lnc Plea OF affection. True lOye--we mean now,
rue love iu It's flaming bachelor state. rot the .
Joan dog-tfot-seldom suryiycs ia "a I
n,n after thirty. The irucsi, faiihfulest hotties,
,nl most blissfully uncomfortable love of all is I
'tl'.lovc which seldom lasts after sevcaiccn. All
.Uh.rqucnt passions are a mere imitation OF this I
mot halt 30 absorbing, not - third so blind, not
tcn,l. 20 pure The calf ouilives its cal'tlom.
gels the hcIi,r Of spooniness. laughs -, IT, and a
ew wears later 'ties 10 produce il over again .
lgi hc never succeeds. The ,auFinc passions are I
mere stage play. lie may pesuade himself that
be Is desperately in love with the dear girl that 4
'hc is an angel that il she jiiti him he would I
10 something dcsperaie-go mad emigtatc blow /
lui his brains, perhaps but in his inner soul he
SHOWS that this is all a mere preience that his 4
lcari is NJ, as raging furnace, bu; iipid as mild
81 shaving water that his pulse would MT hear |
Ter and beat had he lain for a century dead-in. |
Iced, IL does not even quicken now when she en-. 4
cfs the room lie sees her faults none clearer /
nd he intends TO correct them one day There /
& nothing in his love like the wild adorng pas
ion Of the schooboy that comes but once in 4
ilc and the love which il bold enough TO propose |
nd callous enough TO treat OF settlements Is a |
mere earthly imitation Of Il. How much baser.
hen, second marriage, which means n iifiieth |
Owe II into the first there entered some element
II caution, or more gnobly shredncss the second |
, wholly compounded of these, and Of selfish. /
irss which Is parent ofthem. The motives which |
cad bachelor 10 propose are mostly single 4
icaricd enough he really loves the girl, and 4
rics 10 do all he can to make her happy Bu, the !
Sidowcr enters the race with the intention that
hc shall make kini happy. He is the first party
% be- considered, not she. And there are few
inglc girls, and certainly no widows, conleIupla.
ing au alliance with q once married man who |
10 not fully understand this. When a woman
.ccepts a widower she must feel the second hand
nature Of the bargain. There is no freshness
Ibout il ; all the bloom has been rubbed of; the
igns are rcchagess, the VOWS are platiades, the
arcsses have been rehearsed before. What u
worn out pump the human heart Ia, 10 Ear as love
making is concerned, after ten or fifteen years Of
married. life Is there anything more pathetic
han forty wOoing thiTty-thTec, and counterfeit.
ny the langours Of twenty? Or anything more
. ucal than the sight OF a bright eyed maiden
= no imagines she holds in ihral that r,saT s,gs.
ifehc % heart which has survived the wear and
tar of . matrimonial campaign? But as a rule
he does not Imagine anything OF the kind she
Iccepis the situation at It's true value, knowing
hat the widowed affections are so much wardour
ircci lumber knowing that another woman has
itcn before her aud extracted all the pith and
narrow of romance, leaving the husk 10 the Sec
,nl wife. She bargains, therefore, for position
nd not passion, marries him for his money, or
as utlc, or his STATUS, or because ehe may not
ave another offer, or for any other motive that
my be- dominant-love being the last aud least.
Nill she do true wife's dulh by him will she
e a second mother to his children will she '0r-
Ter all things duly" like Lady Burleigh the
inst let the poor little neglected hearts that
lavc s0bbcd themselves TO sleep on their pillows
make reply. As the second mamma Is 10 the first
10 Is the second wife II may be n cruel edition,
oinciimcs a careless one, sometimes an indiiier-
atty honest one, always an inferior one. For
'ou will End the rule hold good that there &, but
,nc true love In life and one married love the
iIsi holds precedence, the after one wcakens IN
progression. When widows aud
Tidowcrs pair, the sigh, has always the savor Of
! haskcrs bargain. On ne rssi,ni Pa' II ses pre-
Hisrs dmoHrs.
4 DoNESuc fAncE N osg ScEsE why u II /
ay son, that when you drop your bread and but.
cr, II u always on the butiercd side 2
4 don't know. II hadn't ortcr, had II The
strongest side ought 10 be up, and this Is the