The States and Union. [volume] (Ashland, Ohio) 1868-1872, 1868-04-15
.Miasband And wife. :

The questlo Of liyi1g, in anatrimony,
within the Hm1ts OF an ordinary income,
IS said TO be poser With, the, most of
iaseabie men at the present time -
FhewoHeay tits aneged, sfIaye Become bsa51n IS SO
adverse hDGseMifery and so extfava-
CAN'T that oaly1the rich can afford ito
marry. Hence. tho increasing sdIsipehna-
! tion en- the part of men TO Tedlock, and
the consequent disturbance of social con-
| Gitions Lfe women would be- sensible
heipmeats, instead of idlers andyspend4
thrifts, say the snarlipg bachelors and the
social philosophers, this cancer oofrour
civilization would soon disappear men
/! would marry ami won, en- be given. IN mar
riage, and society once more become a.
busy hive eff husbands: ardT house wives,
Instead of restless swarm of unwedded
men and minated maids. - -,...-f
There is some truth behind this. dia-
tribe against the women, and we do Eot
propose to comb tooAcruelly the already
fallen crests7 Of the GROWERS against mai
rimony, out equity demands a plaip state
ment Of the other side, Of the case.r Ifi
husbands were always Sensible, il they
really cared more for homelys virtue than
for the lady hood of fashionableidressfpat-
ade, they would have far less cause for
complaint. When lovers: are as ready. to
kiss the cook" as to salute the rosy dam
sci in the drawing room, they win find j
we eimagine, that inaidens are not allrml-
linery. It would be an admirable enter
prise for, some smart Yankee school
marin, of suitable homelinss, to prepare
lecture on the Mismanagement Of Court
ing. IF Anna Dickinson was notf1 too
pretty and saucy, aud much tooAambitipus
for distinction, the mission we suggest
would fit her very well On, platform
furnished as Kitchen, with the prepara-
tion of breakfast going on, and a wash
tub to turn to, while the potatoes should
bake and chops broil, our lecturers lin a
short calico gown, with sleeves rolled up,
might hold forth with the combined pow
er of Phillips and Blot, pointing her dis.
course as she turned the chops aud rub
bipg out her knotty points on the wash
board. s -nr I 81 .
The gist of the woman's reply to the
charge of their not being housewives, but
idlers, would naturally be that they have
done no more and no less than was exA
pected of them They were sought for
the pink in their cheeks and the white
ness of ther hands, for the effect of the
millinery and the impression of the man.
ners, and not because they could keep
house Their lovers had no ideas above
superficial qualities. On entering the
home, or what should have been the home,
the new husband folded his wife's hands
in the parlor, summoned theiIrish brigade
from the intelligence Office, ordered sup
plies-at the discretionso 13tiaget,5and
gallantly undertook to attend to the bills
at his Office What could the woman do
but read novels, gossip and yawn, trife
with needle work, 60 on parade at parties
and in church, and generally keep up the
appearances which charmed her lord r.
II it cost good deal Of money, was it
her fault? 5Fv~~a-z-l a 4,li - .9as9' O.
If idleness and dress and kitchen mis-
management made her clearsbill of ex-
pense, and of very large expense to her
husband, was the chief blame hers p
| Suppose she had been "visite1," in the
courting days, by a young man in cloths
no better than he could honestly wear,
and that his sentiment had been mixed
| with ever SO little common sense. Sup
| pose the honest, plain youth had sought
womanly sympathy with his manly aims,
and the solid comfort of good wife;
what if he had said, frankly, "We must
begin in small house, and depend as
much as possible on ourselves, until we
can get we'll ahead with the world" In
that case, is it not possible that the .wo-
men might have been equal to the emer-
gency, and been seen in the dough al, OF
ten as at the piano? .,.-.9..5,5