Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1868-11-11
Sweet Lover. and Sour Husbands.


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There is nothing more comical to me, in
my iourneyngs to and fro in the earth, than
the laundering way in which most men lcgis
late their domestic affairs. Mr.. Jones, for
instance, is attracted to q delicate, timid, ner-
vous little lady, and moves heaven and earth,
and upsets several families who have a spe-
cial objection to her becoming Mrs Jones' in
order to bring about this desirable result
After an immense besieging outlay, he gets
her. We leave margin for the honeymoon.
Then commences life in earnest. The little
wife stands aghast to find that her husbands
whole aim is to transform her into the direct
opposite of that which he formerly admired.
In short, that to retain his love aud respect,
she must make herself, by some process or
other only known TO herself, entirely over.
For instance, she is 30 constituted that the
sight of blood has always given her deadly
faintness, and she was never able to assist, in
any emergency or accident where physical
pain was involved. Now this is not an affec-
tation with her she really cannot do it.
Now Mr.. Jones, with masculine acumen I'M
lmediately sets in motion series Of little tyr
annies, to force what a lifetime could never
bring abodt,-no more than it could change
his wife's hair from jet to haxen color. Does
their child lbreak leg, or arm, he insists
although other aid is at hand, that she shall
not only be present but assist in the dressing
and binding up Of the same, by way Of eradi
eating and overcoming what he calls
5 folly" To this end he uses sarcasm ridi
Guile, threats, everything which he thinks tn
! "head of the family" is justified in using, Il
force this ehid-womans nature, which ono
: had such fragile attractions for him, into al
5 uphill course, in which it is impossible for
1 ever to 90, with all the tyranny he can brin
: TO bear upon it; and thus he keeps on tryin
year after year--with an amount of pei
a sistence which should entitle him to luna
4 ties cell, and which is gradually preparin
his wife for one through modification an
wounded affection.
Again--a man is attracted to woman
= marked individuality of character. He a,
. mires her decision and selfpoise, her energ
!, and self-reliance, and stamps them, with OF
= hand on his heart, with the conjugal sea
a Directly upon possession, that which seem,
= to him so admirable conflicts with his Opt
ions, wounds his selfloye, and even thong
u guardedly and properly expressed seems
10 breathe defiance Now this woman he, to
'g strives to make over He disputes her pos
O. tons and opinions with acidity, because the
Or differ from his own, and therefore must
wrong. Perhaps he looks at her, and
\. them, more through the eyes of impertiuel
ne outsiders who have nothing to do with
as than through his own spectacles. Many
s. man will perpetrate a great injustice in b
Il own household, rather than bear the slighte
or meddling imputation that he is not its mastc
lie So year after year, this fruitless effort 60
n on, to transform a full-grown tree to lit
$ sapling, capable of being bent in any al
he every direction, according to the moldel
l.. capricious within or fancy, with not the ghc
ur of result, so far as success is concerned