The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1868-11-14
MISoELL A M e o v S.
CYcrcr Mems Wires.

As general rule, clever men marty badly ln
sense. Ibis il equivalent 10 say ing that all mrn
marry badly for there y no man Who does not
believe himself to hec!escr. Wesptak just nov,
however, oi mrn who acknow lodged b, the
public OF even b, their friends aud Acquainian-
crs to be Oi exceptional faculty, Of great at
tainmenis, or OF disiing ushcd social powers. The
raTesi thing ia life Is to hnd married couple
IOssrssng the samc marked characteristics. unless
indeed. they are bound together by common
link OF dullucss. We seldom hud a husband aud
wi'e Who afc bath Oi them equally calculated Tor
their winning address. 81 their conversational
ability, or their acquaintance With Augustc Com
'r. OF their facility ~ ycfsc.wriiing Or private
tira'ricals. Still more srdum do We hnd u man
NhO IL Possessed of brilliant intellectual faculties
tITrieh 10 wJmtn whO comes near his level.
We do not speak Oi liz fHry men exclusively. Hl.
ihuuRh their marital misioriunss too often make
up the bulk Of their biogHphirs. The general
experience Ot any mau ~hO mixes freely with VA
IiOGs grades O' people, aud Keeps his eyes open
the ahIlr, i that clever IMAM il almost sure To
have n dull ~iir. Further. II the man baveCI-
erIiiOnally iasiidiuus tnsirs, the woman is ire
purntiy marked out b, the vulpAIiiy other drrss,
ct MANNERS. or conversation. une 10 apt To- con.
elder that in sny tOleTabr soyittt II will be i'm.
possibl- iu meet with person whu does hot know
hos Ia mnuAsc the letter II that haIlucinAtiun
IL desitOyrd, II will bc by clever name wife.
The reason isUbvious. Clever men marty ha'i-
man 10 society by their own intellectual vigor.
They consider they have enough brains for two.
Oi course, no man actually goes into mnrriageior
the purpose oi trying such txpcTitueat -
but the consciousness VI having such u power u a
pr,dislvsing cause towards the result Nor does
u ncccessafi! argue vanity Un the part " clev-
vF inau that lee should br aware Of his own intel
lvctuai value. The Chauccs are that ia Judicial
faculty he Is nO greater fool than his neighbors
aud IL they can recognize the exceptional power
of his mind, is IL likely that be himself will re-
uaain ianOrant Of il? Nothing eau bc more alb
suFd than the popular notion that when a mans
brilliant qualities are the talk OF his social circle
0i his country. hr himself should exhibit an
idiOiic isnutanCv ~; them aud gain credit for
hismock mOdesiy Doubtless, there many
men who's profoundly concons ~ the possession
Oi all sVtts Of brilliant qualities aud faculties which
are quite invisible to thrir friends aud nsighbors;
but at present we are not talking OfuincompoOps
The clever nan does not marry n stupid wO-
iuan out Ot au Illogical preference fur stupidity.
But looking out tor wife he Arrogates 10 him
self certain liberty OF choice which nen oi small!
et parts would scarcely dare 90 assume. man
whO stands live feet slX, has rcd hair, upturn-
ed nOs-. au itascible temper, aud no brains 10
spr.k ~, is generally hrssed 10y Providence with
s1mr din desire oi marrti wife who will lend
10 his household the charms OF grace aad amia
biliiiy which h- could never give H. lie wishes
90 stand veil Nth his friends he wishes 20 be
thOueut u ut-Fttlf l1Niilou 10 tutlT dinner Ia
blss, aud doubtless u anxions that he should be
able TO ask them io his own house without regard.
ing their coming Hs too great favor.
iii ! could only get wife who would do all
this for me T. he sighs Naturally he takes eyc-
~ prrcauiiOn ia choosing bis mate, that che shall
pOssees those eoInpcnsaiing qualities. IL would
be absurd to say that this man sacrificed his free
dom oi choice the altar Of society. Society
does not care rush whom he or anybody else
mafries But the attitude OF society towards The
lady after she Is married is very important TO him
And IL Il for his own comfort that he maFries q
woman whom society is likely 10 admire and love
Again and again We visit houses which would be
unhrarAble but for the mistress OF them and
quite rs often We meet with men whom everybo-
dy would shun if they had no, dexterous wives to
smooth down their offensive angles, and give \
charm to their not very desirable company. The
men who thus marry generally forget their de-
prndcnce on their wives. They &c, accustomed
10 the good graces OF society, and look upon them
as tribute 10 their individual worth. Sometime
ago there appeared in Punch witty picture-we
think u Was Du Mautier's--ofa small gorilla
looking inan who had escorted his wife, a very
handsome woman, down TO the seaside. lie con-
6des 10 his friends, II We remember rightly, the
embarrassing Circumstance that the people OF the
watering-pace call him and his wife Beauty aud
the Beast" and adds that he can't understand Il,
''for poor Jemima Is not 90 very bad-looking,
you know" The picture aud It's legend-whieh
il is quite probable, We have maugled in iransa-
ton give happy notion Of the modest assump-
ton Of good many husbands.
Now, u,an Of intellectual ability is apt TO put
society altogether out OF the question. lie will
marry whatsoever woman seems good unto him,
aud let society strike what attitude II plcnses after
wards. So Tar as the relations between society
and hiinsclf are concerned, society, not be, has
hitherto been the wooer. lie Is not unwilling 10
remain within bis presen, social circle; but, II
circumstances should induce him 10 leave II, he
will 20 With equanimiiy, confident that he carries
with him the power u being company to himself
wherever he may wander. This Is generally the
drs, challenge that he throws down. II Il Is ac-
eepted he then says, Good, prefer my wife 10
my acluaintAnces let than depart in peace,
shsll not suffer But II is very rarely indeed
tha, society takes the trouble TO say anything
about . mans choice Of a prospective wife and
the chances are that our intellectual hero while
iuliy determined 20 please himself. has an inward
eonsiction that he aud his wife together will
naks Il Ill right with socisty. n she cannot
meet his iriends on equal terms II she cannot
talk about mod.'H literature. or speak Italian 10
this OF that celebrated refugee, OF give q pro-
nounced opinion upon the equality of the seIes,
or venture 10 say word about the pictures In
the dining room be come tO her rescue
aud route her foes? Besides, be does not marry
hsr that shr should do Intellectually what be can
do we'll. IN artistic and literary conversation he
eau 40 euuuEu tot uotu huu atItty VIII tuttt-
fore have no right TO al that Ms. aud Mrs. A.,
or r., or H.. are undesirable aequainianees.
Before turning to look Al the manner In which
socety cotutorts itself towards clever men wives
one other reason may be advanced why clever
men, ~ . rule, marry stupid women. Two Of q
trade never agree, SAYS the proverb. The young
painter who dreams VI securing 10 himself for =
mate beautiful creature 6lled with the same ideal.
;sms ~ himself with divine passion for color,
aud keen enjoyment Of natural groups OF form.
could eoua he driven out Of his senses u be were
90 be constantly beside a woman who would crit.
iciss hs uuaalshed work, dahble among bic col.
or.tubes and talk, sd aagsegSi, Of pieturrs and Of
nothing but pictuFrs. There Is no man living
proof against the weakness NJ dslighiing 10 over.
ave hIs wife with the esotcric mysteries Of bis
usofesslon Whether he be lawyer or an artist
W an author, he loves 10 erush her
With resulis, Of the methods Of which she knows
nothing. Every husband 10 more or less mys.
terry man TO her By hls prowess but how ls that
possible " she know the process By which be has
arrived at his professional skill II is true that
10 some professions notably Ia the musical and
theatrical professions inter-marFiages are com
saon but there the object Of marriage may he
said 20 be ~ much professional - domestic
when The leading ,snoF marFies the chief con,ral.
20 of an operate company, the chances are that
ths mzich has not besn suggested 50 much by the
possible spiritual communion Of two souls hunger
dag after melody, as by the possible advantages
"a hs rrapsd IN che matter os engagements. Men
10 not Ike wongu 20 ksoS TOO mech Of thslf
business o. profsnsion V 10 say, they do no,
desire that their wives should become aequainted
With the technical details % their work. 80
uan who y brilliant talker doe not maSry
womau whoss tonobs goa peTpstually The do
nestle result would Be hldeoNs. Nor does . wri.
Isr marry q woman who writes, nor painter q
woman Who paluls. Aud The exceptionally bril-.
llant aud pFonouuced man, called upon 10 choose
between . brilliantly Intellectual woman, Who
will contest the palm VI conversational superi-
toFity with him in society, aud qnlet, modest un.
aslumlBe, not 70 sAy dali WomsH, VII aluosl In