Tama County Republican. (Toledo, Tama County, Iowa) 1867-1872, 1868-05-22
WHAT FRANK THOUGHT ABOUT
MARRYING.
BY MARY v. SPENCER.

BY MARY v. SPENCER.
"And when are you and Kate going to be
married."
The speaker was one Of two young men,
smoking segars in private room.
"If you mean Kate Kelso, never. II is all
very well to dance With such . girl, but no
poor man would think Of marrying her."
"why not Frank? She IL handsome, accom-
plished in the very best set, dresses exquisi
itively, and will have fortune when MI.
Kelso dies.
"Look here Charley, do yon think I'm .
fool1 can't afford to marry Miss Kelso; and
it is just because she is in the fashionable set
dresses exquisitively, and has expectations
from her father. am only beginning to
succeed at the bar. It is q long time, as you
know from your own experience as physi-
clan, before large income can be earned in
. profession. As yet am not earning such
an income. Miss Kslso, has been brought up
,luxuriously. Her father keeps a carriage,
goes to watering places every summer, and
entertains constantly when at home. Kate
/, is 80 accustomed to the excitement of society
has been 90 much admired and fattered, has
had her every wish anticipated, that the pro.
sale life Of a wife, on . narrow income, would
soon destroy any little romance with which
she might enter in the married state. Her
very dresses, my dear fellow, would eat up
half my earnings
II think you are hard upon her, Any true
woman, if she marries the man she loves, will
cheerfully submit to sacrifices for his sake?
$50 it is said, and SO, in justice to the sex,
most of them at least, try to do. But Char.
ley, old fellow you and know, from our own
experience, that habit is stronger than good
resolutions. A man, brought up in luxury,
can never live rs cheaply, if he gets poor, as
the son of . poor mau. Nor can woman
either.
A rich mans daughter is not the girl for a
poor mans wife. II isn't her fault; its her
misfor
.But you lose sigh; of the fact, that Kate
will inherit share o. her fathers property
"But what's to be done2 We all expect to
marry some day; and there are no girls e1-
cept girls like Kate or Susy."
II beg your pardon. There are plenty of
them. Of course; to find the right kind, you
must, am afraid, generally go outside of the
fashionable set. Fori it is only the daughters
and wives of rich men that can afford to be
fashionable. Other woman hayen't the time
to waste in receptions and parties, day after
day, and night after night Nor can any but
the rich afford to dress in the extravagant
manner in which fashionable women in large
cities like this, nowadays. If you wish .
wife, you must look elsewhere for one, unless
you are a millionaire.
"Where would you look?"
'There are plenty Of families, thousand Of
them in Philadelphia and tens of thousands
in country towns and villages, where the
the daughters are well educated and yet have
been brought up to help themselves. I know
Of one daughter who has taste that way,
who makes all the bonnets she and her sister
wear. Another capital dressmaker. Al
attend to household affairs. They make cake,
prepare desserts, and could have no doubt,
bake bread. Yet they are as quite as intelli-
gent as Kate kelso and her set. No man,
with the right feeling, wishes to max Q his
wife drudge, But we men; have to work
and why should not women take their share?'s
We'll, since you have been speaking of it, I
can recall such families also. But they don I
60 to balls, and dance the German
"No the daughters Of such families, are
taught to think home virtues better than mere
women for wives, and not gaudy butterflies
al shall be curious, Frank, to see your
wife,"
"f you will csme with me tomorrow eve,
will introduce you to the young lady, who
has promised to fill that position. She is the
daughter Of o widow, and has been brought
up economically, brought up like the gi rls
have been describing to you. She does not
afford it; though from her connections, she
could, if she wished, 60 into the very best
But do not think she regrets it. AS for her
real accomplishments, her knowledge Of liter.
ature aud music, and art, she is as far above
Miss kelso as heaven, is above earth, In fact
Charley, how can fashionable girls be accom-.
plished; at least ia the true sense of the word
They are up all night at balls, and sleep half
even if they wished to; but, as a class, they
don't wish to. All they think Of, or talk about
is their beau or dresses. It's chatter, ohat-
ter, chatter, and nothing else. We dance with
them, but we don't to pretend to love them =
A little gossip is all they are up to. Now
md then we will make morning call, but
who thinks of spending an evening with them
"Come, come, you are to severe. good
many of them arc brilliant takers, at least,
find them So
"Yes the best Of them, at ball. But if you
marry one Of them, you viii find my dear fell
lew, that she keeps her brilliant talk for So
ciety, and is as stupid as stupid can be 1t
home. The champaign foams for the public.
and for you the stale wine is left. tell you
Charley, am not . bit more severe than the.
ruth compels me to be. don't wonder men,
in what is called good society, marry 90 rarely
A wife in such circles, II too expensive lux.
ary. A girl instead Of your helpmAte is .
clog oh you. We have to do all the work and
hey get al the fun. That's why young men
DO not marry --and there's the whole Of it,"
So ended the conversation. Harry married