Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1868-12-09

| o. how sad it is to witness scenes similar to
this, and vet how often they transpire
How much suffering they cause, mere
contemplation of the case cannot explain
How unnecessary they are p. how easily they
might be avoided
! The needless contradictions, insinuations,
and Sights of married couples are the source
ceur of the lover is laid aside for the frigidity
and Indifference of the married No real
happiness can exist where real respect is not
| felt and practised more towards each other
thau towards other persons, no matter who
they may be. In company, at home, and in
society abroad, their politeness and respect
for each other should be marked and hearty.
| The husband should be more polite and
gallant, and, with respectful delicacy, honor
his wife in the presence of other people
more than other ladies'; while the wife 8
sweetest smiles and warmest glances are due
to her husband, and must be shown with an
earnestness and constancy that springs from
real feeling This is the conduct of honest
lovers, and do they love each other less
than before marriage? l think, however,
that these manifestations of affection ought
! TO be confined to marks of respect and honor
! in the presence Of others. There are many
disgusting exhibitions Of the nearer relations
of married life that ought to be reserved for
the sacredness Of their own private room.
The course of conduct is to temper our pub
lie relations with superior respect, Difference,
and honor, aud our private with fervent, yet
delicate, manifestations of affection and love.
Some men think it weakness to show any
great respect for their wives in public; that
gallantry towards them is not expected Of
them | was painfully amused at the con-
duet of very worthy man Of this kind ut
the opera not long since. happened to oc-
cupy seat Immediately behind them, and
entered and passed out of the main ball with
them. From the time they alighted from
the carriage at the door and returned to it.
no conversation occurred between them.
lie was all smiles and affability to his friends
whom he met and saw, and had pleasant
word for everybody but his wife.
In going in he kept two or three PAGES be-
fere her, occasionally looking back to see
that she made her way through the crowd
without being lost or insultcd; while
she marched, or rather waded her way
through the dense mass of people with
solemn face and in silence. W hen they
passed out of the house, the same distant
demeanor was observed. In the cloakroOm
Mr.. D. stood at the door nearest the hall,
and az soon as Mrs d. moved towards him,
stalked down staire, looking over his shoulder
every few minutes to see If she actually
following him They certainly experienced
no mutual enjoyment in the splendid music
and superb acting, commented on so freely
bv others. Each were mOtiOnlcss. and made
no remark expressive of delight, except to
friends. Perhaps no one noticed this. Other
scenes, less extreme, but similar to this,
could be seen all over the house
Husbands would leave their wives, and
walk from one part of the house to another
TO chat, smile, and exchange critical remar ks
with other ladies, while their wives sought
sympathetic delight in the eyes. gestures
and comments Of brainless beaux. How
much more enjoyment my friend might have
had in the double delight Of his better half,
and she in the sage aud perhaps correct
criticisms of her husband
This want of polite, conslderate. and
respectful attention not only causes pain at
the time, but its evil effects are accumulated
to a grave decree in after life, by causing a
permanent difference to spring up and mature.
The book is really valuable, and one
which the " lords - as well the ladies
:. Of creation : can proftably read. For
sale by WILDER.