Nashville union and American. [volume] (Nashville, Tenn.) 1868-1875, 1868-11-06
MEN or FLBPERIOD.
Feminine Blast Against the sterner
Sex.
A lady writer contributes the following

sex.
A lady writer contributes the following |
to Harper's Bazar:
have been thinking for a lcng time of |
writing to you or subject SO very near
to my heart; for believe when we have |
thoughts that clamor for expression, and |
yet are too secret to be mentioned even to
nearest and dearest, we are expected to
tell them to the newspapers; and for my
part it is such q strange thing for me to
have thoughts at all, that am anxious to
display them to the world as quickly as
possible. fF5ltF fIssI
/ am not sure, after all, that mine are
thoughts, but only feelings leave it to
you to decide l honestly confess that,
as have had pretty good time in my
life for twenty years or so as demoiselle,
l am not unwilling to look forward to a
sweet little home Of my own, with prets
ty library, nice conservatory, and Vas
rious notions | viii not stop to talk about
now, all preceded by the sweetest trous-
seau doting mother could give her
daughter out of limited income. But
dear mamma is nothing of manager,
and it costs great deal to get married
nowadays, when men are so fearfully inc
dOlent and ruinously extravagant, and
our people around here are not million"
aires. Sol really do not know what am
to do unless you will befriend me
with a little advice and some informa-
ton.
know q great many excellent young
gentlemen, whom am very sure | could
bring to my feet that's the story~writing
phrase isn't it p with word; but as DR.
Holmes John patheticaAy remarks, ''Mar-
rage isn't for them" No sensible girl
could think for moment Of trusting her
future in their hands unless she mas a nils
lion or two year Of her own; when peo~
pie have that they can give themselves up
to any absurdity they wish. Whattheir
cigars, their pipes, their clubs, their utter
ignorance of all domestic affairs, the men
nowadays, though very pleasing visitors
and charming beaux, are deplorably un'
suited for husbands | have heard my
! grand mother say-dear old lady she was
| a wonderful woman could cook and spin,
and make cheese as easily as you could
dance the gallop. went five times tt. church
of Sunday, and never saw railroad,
read q dozen newspapers or heard Of the
Atlantic cable in her life; one of the wo
men of the past era, whom all good people
now deplore-well, I have often heard
my grandmother say that my grand
father when he was a young man sawed
his own wood, put in his own coal, carried
his own bundles mended his own fences
and with his own hands built his own log
cabin; if he had been travelling he would
have wheeled his own trunk to the station
If we only had such men nowadays
If we had, then good, pleasant, well-breC
girls would not have to sigh in single
blessedness for want Of millions, billion:
and trillioIs to support matrimOny with
But the good old days are gone. NOwl
DAYS, if ones coy lips do let slip thu
frightened yes, such an array Of tailor
bills, and porters bills, and carpenter
bills, and the man that puts in the white
fuel bills, and all that sort of thing, aris
before ones eyes that indeed, even though
he pays them, one is really staggered
for how is one to keep up appearances
have pretty bOnnets, and pay theNdress
maker, let her sew and turn and ecOnO
mize her best, when she IS yOked to :,
useless mate? | am sure that | nee
not enlarge upon this text-we wome'
have all heard something like it ever sine
we were as tall as a cookery book. 1t
"the beam in their own eye which on
Young meD do not seem even to dream O
If Won should chance to know any hand
some high-born, high-bTed, young gen
tleman Of unexcCptional habits, VII
dresses in the best material and in pertel
: taste Il am not fastidious, but | hay
? nerves. holds high position in the bc'
} society, reads Latin, Greek and Htbrey
and speaks all the modern languages flu
: emily. whohas, in short, all the modern az
complishments and thorough educatIo
: mo superficial smattering Of this, thi
! and the other for me) with perlet
knowledge fall the arts and sciences
who never stepped on ladys dress, nj
made a social blundcr, who can sa
wood, bring water from the we'll and WI
is in fact frst-class carpenter, tarme
coal HEAVIER, coachman, mason, pictur
hanger, gas.ftter and plumber, beside
| his regular profession; who never has b
collar rumpied or his hands hard or sole,
whatever he is doing-if you know such
J one, frugal, industrious, intellectual an
good tempered, l should like well to kno
and be supported by him. For | am nj
, exacting. | believe in humoring q hu.
, band when he knows his place, and IT
ligiousIy tries to save all the money b
can to pay his wife's wants; and l al
not one Of those who would insist on h
never smoking cigar, or once in Will
when ! haven't any one else to take m
, going to the opera withme OF for a drive
, for we are provincial people, and do NJ
often hear a genuine song bird
What DO you think about 1t ? Won
you speak about it to some Of thos
modest young gentlemen who rcquil
. that the woman they marry shall not b
out of her teens, shall be simple as
dove, gay as linnet fresh as 4 morning
glory, wise as Cornelia, discreet as 81
sannah, a superb musician, frst-clas
cook, a belle Of the first water, a hoHst
keeper of more than Napoleonic talen
a brilliant conversatiOna!ist, and mel
ehambermad and nursery gOyerness, an
with the most profound respect and hun
bic submission to her natural lord an
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