The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1868-06-27
"NO Cards"



J on taking up morning paper, the first thing
do--and does not every woman the same 7-i,
I 10 glance down the cnlumn o. Marriages aud
/ Deaths, 10 see IL any whom ! know have pass
I cd through either VI these most momentou.
| rpochs ia human life. Occasionally meet with
imiirr name II may be- that uf an old school.
mate or early friend aud many "a pleasant &C..
collection prompts the tear VI regret for the de-
parted or the hope Of happiness fot the welded
Sometimes ] find recorded here the death ol
one whom but lately saw IN the enjoyment oi
health, aud surrounded by cVery ihing that
serves to make life desirable OF the marriage OF
some Young couple concerning whose courishit
Mrs tfuakcf declared thousand iimcs thai
!, never would come To anything" But, whcih.
cr these things BE- so " not, the pcfusal Of thi.
column ALWAYS furnishes food tor reflection Tn.
der ihc head at deaths We frequently find
'curiosiii,s of iiirrituTr, which make Fssliru.
lous ihc sublini,y Of gricf aud occasionally,
though 'aT too seldom see appended 10 mar.
fngr notices the words. NO Cards"
Ia these days. when the reign Of Fashion Is al.
mos, supreme, II costs somewhat Of a struggle
ior the generality OF young people To act 10 def.
anrc OF her laws, especially when those laws are
delightfully."- ia accOfd With their own wishes
Excepting that uf being born. and that OF dying.
marriage Is Ihe most important event in life, and
this Tact Is usually iclt by those who are about
10 take upon themselves its vows aud rrsponsi.
bili,ics II is popular institution, and the ma.
jorii! "f Young people desire 10 make their wed.
ding as popular an Oceason as all the appliances
Of Fashion can render il. but the majority OF
young people do not belong TO the highest cir
eles, where alone the capricious queen holds un-
disputed sway Let Us leave her laws for those
who are bound 10 obey them. while We consider
whether you Young clerk or book. keeper, aud
you, young lady, Who intend 10 marry q book
keeper or clerk, had not better append 10 your
mnrriage notice the dissylabe conclusion, NO
Cards -
Setting aside the bare cost Of the cards which
will be any here between ffiy and three hundred
dollars, according To style and quantity. look a.
the expense Involved in a brilliant wedding aud
the consequent reception. Of course the time
aud labor spent ia preparation are not taken into
account. nor DO ask you to consider the sum
total fOT the bridal tour which, whether long or
short, will be considerable. At the lowest figure
the cost is from three to five hundred dollars
more than IL would have been had the parties
been conienied with plain ceremonial and mo
Cards. To be sure, five hundred dollars ism I
much hen you can count your tens Of thou sands
But tO young couple jus, setting ou, in life II is
very considerable SUN. Five years hence they
eau realize 1t better than now At the end Of
that time many young wife Is broken down
with care and toll, much OF which might have
been spared her had she been willing To forrgo u
stylish wedding.
But, objects some calculating young lady.
the presents one gets more than cover the cost
Well. admitting that they DO, that is Just
wha; don't like. aesrr begged in my life
No Kind Of hon u cOn;Tiyance, no manner Of
fashionable suh'"riuge, no sort Of preiext how
ever plausible, rln make IL respectable. Should
queen Fashion decree that stand at the street
corner with my band ouistrciched aud placaTd
on my breast, or tina, send out cards, saying
iha, a, -Gch a time would be al home to receive
anything thar people had a mind TO give me, |
would be equally as obstinate ia the latter case
rs IN ihc former Look at il which way you will,
j., is neither more nor less than begging. Ger
tanly. ii on. fancies il, the mos, pleasant way
is 10 io it elegantly aud politely. But fashions
bile hcggary dOrsn pat rs well AS genuine n,endi-
cancy. II YOU want To- make il profitable, you
had better rrocur" a iaiirrel gown and baske; /.
and II you can hirr a small baby a, a reasonable
price pet dlv Nou will sucUeed Handsomely no
doubt.
Bai seriously, the gifts seldom cover the ex.
pense. The actual and immediate cost may be
returned ihreeiolI. but in the long run YOU are
the loser suppose your wedding cost you five
hundred dollars and your gifts amount to As
many thousands how much will it cost yoa To
live in style corresponding with them Book
keep.ing.'y and clerk.ing-iy speaking, when will
you be able to do IL Five hundred dollars would
help you materially on rrnl-lay. Will wedding
presents 10 this 4 clerk on q salary Of twelve
hundred wa- married recently, and had ten
thousand dollars worth of presents. wonder
villa, he did with them The presentation Of
gifts at wedding is ono ~ the most beautiful of
all social customs Hut lci them be the voluntary
Offering OF friends and relatives who have q ten
der interest in 'h' yonng couple, and wish 10 be
remembered y, ,hcm Then, even the most In.
significant articles will he fraught with swee, 40.
sociaiions. and To say nothing OF the money say.
ed the recipients will be ic better able tn enjoy
ihy gifts 'or not having begged them.
IN combustion have only 10 "a, that when
yoa ace a marriage notice with the addition Of
Ma Cards you may safely conclude that the
parties are people OF taste aud culture, and in all
probability, Of wealth. For am sorry 10 say ,
Il is only the rich who think that they can afford
To wear patched boots and only the wealthy who
dare To- be married with "No CARDS - PhTrao-
h-yici Journal