Abbeville press. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1860-1869, 1868-08-07
What Style Of a Man Is Attractive to,
Women.

All men, unless there are some who
have no self-respeet, desire to be attractive
to women, and use various means 10 accom-.
plish it. One swings cane, wears fancy
neck-ties, buys the latest style of hat
whether able or not-puts his feet into thin
shiny, tight boots, and faucies, la N. P.
Willis, that he is winning hearts.
Another talks largely about business, lis
plans, his speculations, his travels, and his
common sense, thinking that after he as
impressed women with sense of his great.
ness and their littleness, that half the VIC
tory is won..
Another raises his hat shout foot from
tho head on windy days, ard bows his body
about three feet toward the earth rushes
to pick up a handkerchief as though the
fair owner was drowning and he was to
save her; never speaks of any matter but
what he supposes willplease her, and he
almost invariably supposes wrongly; puts
a compliment here and there ignores the
fact that there are matters Of vital interest
to both as regards society, city and country,
and talks of the last concert, theatre, opera
and marriage. Neither sex never mention
babies. 1t is questionable to speak of
them, questionable to have them, unfash-
ionsble to be seen showing any interest in
them aud, by and by, the whole thing is
becoming 50 questionable, we shall not
have any American children, except few
born in the extreme country or in back
alleys, whose mothers did not learn the
fashion in time. Nearly the whole popu-
lation will be Dutch aud Irish.
Another works hard all the week, boards
in cheap place that he may save five or
eight dollars, spends two for concert; three
for a ride, three more for supper, using
that dollar he took from his employers
drawer 30 as to have surplus in case of
an emergency, paying all this for a girl,
who, accustomed to it for half dozen years
from half dozen sources, never expresses
or feels any gratitude. He keeps his pockets
full Of confectiouaries to be generous, and
this young lady, and that, say, "Isn't it fun
to ride with Smith ?" but never say,
'Wouldn't it be fun to get Smith for
husband 2" They say, rather, 81 don't
believe he will support wife very well,
for he spends too much" There is much
sentimental talk, and sentimental affection,
and really much pure love. but young
women, for the most part lave, and rightly
too, q "bread and butter" side of tho
question, and are always saying, can he
support met"
Some men in the above way, and some
iu higher and better, are doing these things
with one aim, viz: the admiration of socie-
ty, which is: to say the admiration of wo-
men. That women like some of these
things is not for moment disputed. They
like a neatly kept neck, we'll combed
head, a good fitting boot. They like to
have man talk just enough abont himself
to show that he has some sense, and some
bueiness power. They like hat raised
slightly, anda bow as though men honored
the sex because they had mothers, sisters or
wives. They like 70 have man occasion
ally give them an inexpensive ride, or take
them to concert OF supper, if:they, by SO
doing, are not going beyond their means !;
but they never respect him for doing that.
Indeed, they think men really foolish, lack
ing in sense and judgment, in spending so
much upon them, when it should be saved
for family in the future, the head of which
every man living expects some time to be.
They like q man who talks to them as
though they were intelligent human beings
or as though he desired 10 make them such
who introduces science, or art, or travel
What If they are not conyersant with such
matters, you cannot afford to dwarf you,
mind to make it companionabls with theirs
An erroneous idea has crept in society
that it is not polite to speak upon any sub.
5ect with which The other is not familiar. Il
may LIE thus between men and women
but never between the sexes. Every
man Of observation knows that wo-
snen are like children in this respect
glad to learn, proud to be made the
recipients Of knowledge, proud that sensi.
bic educated: men take time and pains to
'salk with them sensibly. Men might fea,
that woman would feel sense of shame a.
their ignorance; on The contrary, they
Pasify themselves by saying, "We are
WOMEN, and, therefore, not expected to
know such .thinga." 4 was at tea-table
where an educated yonug man happened te
mention Cicero. The hostess, a lovel,
woman and excellent housekeeper, presid-
ing:wilh real grace at the neatest table. in
qasied "vho r IS though the name wa
strange to.heK Hswith aImanly kiudnsss
in way that never intinatsd that she wa
Ignorant, spoke Of the great orator and tn,
exciting timss.iu which he lived and acted
and thus Roman history was made a de.
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