The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1868-10-03

life. there eau be no doubt that "a prudent ant
sensible marriage adds 10 his weight aud respec
| liability.
As for myself ieli the gravity of marriage Il
be % great that had been In n position To matry
for some years befoFe could fairly make up ms
mind TO Il but when got the bank, began io
see distinctly that the inferior social status Of
single man was altogether inappropriate aud un-
becoming TO my position.
| In choosing wife was guided just by the
same principles which have guided me 10 the
other affairs Of life. and which have led mr, not
altogether discrrditablc venture io hope. II I
did not marry Tor love ~ IL is called at lcas,
did not tire ofmy wife Al the cud of three nunihs
II did not tell her before We were married that
she was an angel, was never unciyil TO her NJ.
terwArd.
chnose nv vie because. having known her
Tor several yeats she appeared io he prudent,
srnsblr, and economical. aud likely to manage
my housc crrdiiabiy and, on the whole, my
expectations wsrr reasonably we'll fulfilled.
may add that she was good looking. viii
frankly confess that regard rs an advantage Ia
woman We were not blessed with ant family
aud when she VAS called away from mc last year
] did feel very queer aud lonely. Hut when two
agr- 10 juurn,y through life together. il Is plain
that une mus; lie first. ! dedicated such an
amount ~ tine io griri ~ lhe world has seen III
To f'quirr aud sanction tut ! lid not allow
"srfN W rAhh lNhb " htiu hfuNfufufHi
condition. The IL riod o:lceiiinair gri-f having
txpir'ti. ! rrsuni,d M attention To- hus ness aud
am not ashamed tn say tha, was able to re-
'nmr ny interest In il
GussIriNG
Th-it ATE ,Link, irw coiHnun haiti, more
fatal 10 business frpuiatiUn tbaa haiti - chat.
irtins. When hear Young man starting in
hie read, to deliver his Upininn ~ = m1neni's
n"i.cr un the qursiions % the day mark him as
a.. \ a. 80 -. =
srni hur,ness Il" No iuan should presume io ru.
~" il' attention 81 tie COMPANY ~ tlk uh-
les hi. age and p".iiiun air n.atkrilt srI~tl"f
No ANN t.r man should ever talk To the company
EEL that caii not give i,p great weight iu This
'mi" fiahl truth. by talking. you no, "nl. al.
low Others 20 take mole Of cur vaniii, ami weak
he s",- aud Ne al have our share. uny some are
clr,cf,r ~ biiing them ihau ";lirfs--u u, D., the
nri- 'a,I ~ talking. you aIfOut t,,-u 81 ayr aud
pos iinn. and thus make thsm iniisl~ s.i ,u l.lp
you. They think ahd think rightly. that II Is
iof age in talk and tor youth io listen Hat r,en
a;nunI those Of your own standing. Young man,
with .ugr way IT, make, BE- advised. Sa,uIr has
given ,us t~O ears hgep both iu!l, employ ed
iUu ha'e but one tongue let tfjuy plrn,, Of
leisure.
RELIGION.
ifCon' n'ofnity ia details be desirable iUr i.iusr
who Mi.h 80 do we'll IN the world j. IS sifictl;
For al, the To ialk irrr,rfeniy - OF conduct
himself aiih leviiy toward, nny institution Of
church oi state, Is What bare never bcrn able
iU Tolerate aud IL Is "A siy le of conduct which
am glad TO cay, society 10 certain TO visit with
lis scVcrcsi displeasure Busy as We usei 20 be
IN the Office all the week WHEN Was y Young
nan, rejoice 10 say that never was once will.
fully absent from church, either forenoon ur a.
icFuuon and, higher Considerations apart, !
may say ,hA, know ONO better way torn Dung
man to show that be possess steady and tracta-
ble spirit deserving adyAncemt at aud encourage
mrnI than b. regular attendance al church. NOT
10 know anything which tells more Justly
sgains, Young nau prospect ia bu,in,ss than
Neglect oi the ordinances Of religion.
ENTERTAINMENT
I have said that cultivated silcnccin ia company.
,., took not 10 be mofosely iaciiurn. |
listened with deicicnce and interest to the con
ycfsa,ion OF my elders and social superiois and |
was always ready TO laugh at joke, provided it |
was proper and harmless. And when my age |
and po.iion became such as 20 call on u!r 10 1
lead he conversation. ! could anus the roung /
fellows. too, With harmless tale aud an,riutr |
What have always avoided, both as junior and 1
senior, was the delivery Of views ana opniuns
| never. in ms recollection. said word io the |
prejudice Of any one, or ever said word which /
could hurt the feelings or prcjudicts OF any res
pectable member II society Ny aim was always |
10 impress ihuse whom met with feeling that |
| was sound, cautious good-icmpefti man OF |
husinrss, and c'Lr'mc'' ans.
HOIsEs
IL have u taste for any thing bc,idrs businrss |
il is what | believe no man ever suspected. | /
am fond OF horses and What is more, am "a |
good juige uf "a horse. But no one ever heard |
int talk oi horses. Even since NY success in bu- |
sness became decided have not INDUCED my |
self in keeping horse. The Young man who I
wants TO succeed viii do well 10 follow my ~. |
ample II he allows himself even to talk about |
any amusement for which he may have ~ taste, |
IL is astonishing how soon he may have . repu- |
talion fIed upon him for being knowing in il. |
lie will have plenty % rivals eager tu talk Of him
as n good shot. a good fisher, knowing in horses
--Leing well aware tia, such = reputation IL GER
tain To ie mo- ''Jntluus probably fatal, to his
bn.it'.s If,si",is
rUsaiA" ASD SMOKING.
When , ,uun. man, | Wa u member Of a de- |
batting soci,i, "a uut town ! never spoke except
when III. husiu,ss ui tie society was CONCERNED. |
My reason for bcing n member Was that good
man, men OF Influence belonged TO il, with whom
! had thus an opportunity Of becoming aequaini.
ed. Ny friend S,n was distinguished member
and rreoll,ct coing TO his lodgings one night
out o. curiosity, When he had meeting of his
choic,s, ftirnds They were drinking toddy-a
comp silioh which hate Indeed, haieall spir-
it. and as To smoking, it is n method ofemploy-
iu. lime wh,h has always seemed TO the suitable
on,. Tor those Of weak intellect. ! was prevailed
On | rr,nenll'cr. toir. apiPc-faugh Il Was the
first tine aud the last. They tried to encourage
me io ''pcrseVere ht holding out the prospect
that T., so doing should become a smoker 10
time. Dare cay might have succeeded in max
ing ny sell slave 10 an expensive and idotc hAb-
il had chosen hut that should. by learning
TO smoke. be putting down the smallest item TO
~. = -
| could net see much less did ! see that any bal
nncc Wns thereby likely TO accrue io PROFIT. !
thought II Rs well 10 reserve m perseverance, for
somewhat different objects So much, suppose,
for not being smart Hut the talk was the won
drifYl thing. What was love ?'-"Did men
act from tree will or from necrssity ?"-and |
fame, that they drank whisk -and-waier, smoked
their vile tobacco. aud muddled the small modi.
cum ni brains which God had given them, two or
three nights ~,ek in this way. lfihere Is any.
thing iot which, from my boyhood, have found
IL difficult, TO hide m! contempt, itisa man occu-
Us lug himself wth poetry, netaphy ysies, aud such
stuff il stead ~ giving himself TO the honest and
ohV ious work ~ life, and pockeiing the honest
pat tisni for IL. well remember how my clothes
smell of tohaeco nex, morning, and what fright
was 10 lest our master should notice this
was, however, at the Office as usual half an hour
before regulation time, and eau remember that
get "a job to do which would have fallen 10 Sam
had he hsen there in time II put halfa sover.
sign In my pocke,-a sun no, TO be despised In
those days.
viNALk.
Nos do not mean 10 say, In giving the above
sketch Of my own animus that men have not ar
rived At fortune whose mental inachinefy would,
II dissrcied, show very different arrangement
Of wheels and pivols Sheer Audaciiy will some
times do wonders, especially IN life Yet think
my own plan has BEEN about NJ SURF and ~ easy
q one as can be followed II I were TO name one
advantage Of mind which | have had over other
men, should say II Is ihis-l vas . scnsiLle fcl-
low az dyoHHg HsaH. By reason of pride, conceit
or being over-anibiiious, you wi. often see u man
between his twentieth and twenty .ffh year com.
init an error which be never has q chancr of re.
trieSing. Opportunity gone is gone forever. lie
is thrown OF The eline-shunned- - 30 TO sIetk, aud
the rest Of lite Is embtiefcd not only by the con-
sciousness Of failure, but by the consciousness
that he has only his own vanity 10 blame for the
failure. Generally ! have noticed the causes ola
mans failure are distinctly visible 10 every one
but himself have known men with capital
httaineaa hrada aud ufth all the fneltna lion IN