The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1868-02-29

hotf army NotuAANt MttNCNa SUI tgaAgtef ~ Wi
rs the imbeciles Of both sexes crying out against
me nevertheless, stand 10 the point, and mail
my coloTs 10 the mast In defence OF it-that Il u
right, proper, aRd delicate for woman 10 ehooss
her husband aud the man thus Distinguished
by her choice will feel himself ennobled aud sanc-
tilted, aad will reward such . woman with ten
fold tenderness and reverence.
lam By no means wlilIng to have Il understood
that counsel women ~ 20 about popping the
question" TO men here aud there likean army Of
Erenadiers; FAR from IL. A man rarely pops
tie QUESTION ill he ID pretty well assured Ia bis
own mind as To- the kind Of response he will re-
ceive aud ~ all cases a refined woman prevents
lover from explaining himself where she is bent
upon denial Of his suit.
Literature Is full VI heroinrs who are practising
after the fashion OF the renowned Spartan boy,
and we follow them through innumefable pages
Of vapd srniinrnt, where they are living aud act.
i'g myIiads uT lies IN oid-r TO uphold . theory
false Ia fact aud false 10 ntturr.
The twn srxr> One IN scientific point of
view, aud there 10 no lnsiii 10 n woman Who las
her nsri on the altar ~ pride uerrly for the sake
Of pride. u Is no worse Tor n woman io be re-
jected Than tor a mau Ia l,r so; II men aud NO.
men were high aud true, they wonld each regard
the other Ia pure 80 holy light that these 90
ings forth az ihr heart would be- too sacred ever
to be revealed they would be too solemn for
jest. too deeply real for gossip. They would be-
laid away, shrou,ird like many q human hope,
dead hut bsaniiiul Ia the lone chambers Of the
soul, O. be hooked upon rrVrrenily, just ~ 80
many ~ us garner 10 same secret receptacle
leai bud lock y, hair whose history Is known
Only ~ "a aud the angels.
u, s,uT women I've Tree not only to reject but
to rhu'-r. also. Men aud women are likely to
do ih'. siih"ut any great expenditure Of lan-
RusRr, iUr the vocabulary Di love u more express
sive shan wofds.
lh-vr known several women VI refinement aud
intellect who owned that their husbands were
rather sought after by lheui than otherwise, aud
these maichrs were certainly among the happiest
ludes NAN in this way Into marriage, she feels
bound to make his condition happy one.
W en ] was n child, QUE Of my mother
friends was tall, very reverend, but most ele-
giant woman, who rarely went from home, and
was tar from entertaining company there, ~ was
the custom In that part Of hsspiiable New Eng
land. She belonged TO the highest rank Ia point
Of wealth aud birth, was handsome and highly
intellectual, and yet, with all these advantages,
she wrecked more than one life for lack of nerve TO
20 through with what she began in fine spirit
There we're two brothers In the same town ia
which she lived, very dinrrrn, ia character and
inferior io herself In rank, but both very eslima-
be men. The elder was plain, plodding. dull,
and pains taking, but an honest and church. going
inan, whom no one could say word against,
nor would 70 out Of the way 10 praise. Ills pane
was William. Now this worthy man had hardly
ever appeared in any society till his brother
George, who was In the navy, came home on u
furlOugh.
George had the peculiar dash nseparablr from
the navy-was manly. generous, brave, and ac-
eomplished. lie might not have been 4 model
man, rs dull people accounted his brother, but he
was above censure and reproaeh Of any kind, and
La. o. \ c..s Iii. -. Al.
loved him. Sheshad good reason for believing
the sentiment TO be mutual; but as the family
was rich, Mghty, and exclusive, she was well
convinced Tat nc would not make any advances,
and she resolved, being old enough to have a
right TO think for herself, 10 write him in way
no, 10 be misunderstood.
Accordingly she did 50 but, unfortunately,
lover. anu addressed her letter 10 William Instead
Of George. Nothing could exceed the surprise
and delight Of the little man upon receiving this
letter. lie prepared himself Ia the most seduc-
tive manner 10 call upon the lady, letter Ia hand.
She was aghast? Recovering herself rs best she
could, she fAltered out
% Your name is William, then p
The poor innocent was not penetrating. lie
was full Of unexpected rapture, and she-she, too
snare Of her own folly, forbore TO do 50. She
married him.
George, indignai, aud yet more 10 sorrow than
In anger, joined his ship, and never saw her
again. lie persisted at sea.
The lady took up her selE.imposed burden with
a strong, brave spirit. She made poor William
a faithful, dutifnl, but certainly rather naughty
wife, whom he never ceased TO admire and boast
about She kept her secret buried In her own
breast til he had gone the way Of all the earth,
anil then, fading her own end approaching, she
revealed H. in a I'll of weak confidence 10 her
eldest daus liter.
Now here was a woman living q lifelong lie,
but incapable OF dying with u upoa her
science. How much nobler, how much better
worthy OF true woman Il had been, TO have
owned to the truth bravely, and so abide the Is
sue
In choosing a husband, u 10 easier TO say what
n woman should not choose than 10 say what she
should for the best must and will depend on
best known 10 herself II she IL
q strong woman, she may venture 90 marry .
weak man but u weak herself let her beware
Of this, for she will pat her own life out Al last
aud ten 10 one do the same ungraeious Office for
her husband while woman Of nobler proper.
tons will be more forbearing, and make up, also
for some Of his deficiencies.
LET not any woman marry man with insane
blood Ia his veins
Let her not marry one drformed at birth the
and accidental destruction Of any tqem-
hers by war or otherwise, may excite her com.
passion and be no impedimen, 10 deep affection,
but a congenital defect becomes hereditary, aud
by the laws of our being will be- Fepugnant 20 q
wholesome-minded woman.
She tan not aud will not marry a drunkard.
She should not marry diseased, sickly man.
Neither will wise woman marry an old man
Tor the true idea of marriage u the union Of you,
and health aud beauty a thorough complete
ness Of spiritual, mental, and physical life; and
everything short Of this 10 al but nauseous 10
pcnetraiive miud, OF violation Of
immuiable laws.
She will not marry = man younger than her.
self not simply for the reason 20 often advanced,
that woman grows old sooner than . man,
which is true emily because ofthe abuses Of society
for q woman Of sound health and cheerful mind,
unswayed BY the vulgar and wicked passions OF
envy, jealousy, and mailer. carries In her own
breast fountain Of perpetual youth and beauty.
Let Der be temperate In all things preserve her
person fresh as a ross her mind undwaried BY
prejudice or disease; hspsoul, with all liz anec-
lions and impulses, pure aud loving, aud she
may 20 onward 20 her eighty, ninety, or hun
re,l years. generally beautiful 10 the last, 81 ZOE
reverence and admiration, aud worthy 10 fit Tor
one Of Michael Angeles Sibyls.
Moral obliquities u many kinds are 20 iniang-
lille that, unless carried 10 that excess which
shows the besl part Of manhood utterly corrupt
auu oepthsNus - No".u y NV "a...sJ ~ -" "
Of them, aud she should be unwilling 10 listen 10
common scandal; she must not trust 10 any spy
or iuformer, bot rely upon bic truth and her own
intuitions.
N she expects TO 6ud Chevaller BAyards, aud
Admirable Cfichtons, and Immaculate Jossphs
ready for her asking, she willmoss likely remain
without husband. She can only hope for an
approximation 10 the ideal but u she u true
hearted. sincere 10 the core, uuseldsh aud lovely
IL her awn iifp nhn will L. aufe Ia make The dear
Que WHOM she allows ~ he bead Of the repuhlic
al hous not only happy man, but progressive
~ good man, growing iuto spiritual insight, ad.
vanciug 10 dignity aud mauly worth, for she will
h. his hsiT mate 10 building This house.
This is plalu talk, bot thu sublsct demands u,
aud the world Is altogether too squeamish IN
regard 10 Il, and ~ nadness, deiornity, drunk.