Clarksville chronicle. (Clarksville, Tenn.) 186?-1872, 1868-06-26
From Aigcr'e irriebdship OF woman.l
HusssnA rad wiGe.

I III hiS ChdpttT Oh bfle tciuttVftS VI
husbands and wives, Mr.. A1ger has n
passage. so admirable, and introduces
also quotation from Chateaubriand,
which has always seemed TO us so am
rivalled for truthfulness, that we
quote few passages:
Let husband be the true and pure
guardian of his family, laboring al
ways to adorn himself with the god
like gems of wisdom, virtue, and hon
or; let him bear himself In relation
TO his wife with gracious Kindness to-
ward her faults, with grateful recog-
milton of her merits, with steady
sympathy. for her trials, with hearty
aid for her better aspirations, and she
must be of u vile stock If she does not
revere him and minister unto him
with all the graccs and sweetness of
her nature.
Let wife In her whole intercourse
with her husband try the efficacy of
gentleuess, purity, sincerity, scrupu-
lous truth, meek and patient futbear-
auce, an invariablc tone and manner
of Difference, and if he is not brute
he can not help respecting her and
treating her kindly, and in nearly all
instances he will end by loving her
and living happily with her.
But ii he Is vulgar and vicious, des-
potic, reckless, so Us to have no devo-
ton for the august prizes and incor-
ruptible pleasures OF existence; III she
is an unappeasable termagafitD or n
petty worrior, so taken up with tri-
fling annoyances that wherever she
looks +" the blue rotunda of the uni
verse sinks into a housewifery room;"
if the presence of each acts as NOR
bid irritant on the nerves of the other,
to the destruction of comfort and the
lowering of elfrcspcct, and the sirain-
ing away of peace and strength, their
companionship must infallibly be ~
companionship in wretchedness and
loss.
The banes of domestic life are little
hess, falsity, vulgarity, harshness, vo-
ciferation, scolding, an incessant issu-
ing of superfluous prohibitions and
orders, which arcregardcd as imperti-
nent interterences with the general
liberty and repose and are provoca-
tive of ranking or exploding resent
ments. The blessed antidotes that
sweeten and enrich domestic life are
refinement, high aims, great interests,
soft voices, quiet and gentle manners,
magnanimous teinDers, forbearancc
from all Unnecessary commands or
dictation, and generous allowances of
mutual freedom. Love makes obedi-
ence lighter than liberty. Man wears
Il noble allegiance, not as collar, but
as a garland. The Graces are never
so lovely as when seen waiting on the
Virtues; and where they thus dwell
together, they make a heavely home.
No affection, save friendship, has
any sure eternity In 1t. Friendship
ought, therefore, always to be cult
waited i'm love itself, as its only certain
guard and prescrvative, not less than
as the only sufficing substitute in it's
absence. A couple joined by love
without friendship walk on gunpow-
der with torches in their hands. Shall
1 venture to depict the sad decay
which love naturally suffers, and the
redemptive transformation which it
sometimes undergoes? 1 will do II by
translating u truthful and eloquent
passage from Chateaubriand i....
"At first our letters are long, vivid,
| frequent. The day is not capacious
enough for them. We write ut sun
set; at mooIirise we trace n few more
lines, charging its chaste and silent
light to hide our thousand DESIRES
We watch for the first peep of dawn
| to write what we believe we had for
gotten to say in delicious hours of our
meeting. A thousand Vows cover
the paper, where all the roses Of Au-
rora are reflected; a thousand kisses
are.plantcd on the words, which seem
born from the first glance of the sun.
Not an idea, an image, n reverie, an
accident, u disquietude, which has
not its letter. Lo one morning,
something almost impertcptible steals
on the beauty of this passion. Like
the first wrinkle on the front of an
adorned woman.
''The breath and perfuhhe of love
expire in the pages ofyouth rs an even
ing breeze dies upon the flowers. We
feel it, but are unwilling to confess It.
Our letters become fewer and shorter,
are filled with news, with descrip-
tions, with foreign matters; and, If
anything happens to delay them, we
are less disturbed. On the subject OF
loving and being loved, we have
grown reasonable. We submit TO alb
sence without complaint. Our for
mer VOWS prolong themselves; here
are still the same words, but they are
dead. Soul Is wanting in them.
love you, is merely an expression of
habit, a Necessary form, the l have
the honor to he of the letter.
Little 10y little the style freezes where
il infamed. The post day no longer
eagerly anticipated--is rather dread
ed; writing has become n fatigue.
"We blush to think of the madness
we have trusted to paper, and wish
we could recall our letters and burn
them. What has happened? II Is ~
new attachment which begins where
the OLD ends? No: ID Is love dying I'M
advance OF the object loved. We arc
forced to own that the sentiments of
man are subject to hidden process,
the fever of time, which produces las
situde, also dissipates Illusion, under
mines our passions, withers our loves,
and changes our hearts, even rs 10
changes our looks and otr years.
There Is but one exception tn this hui
man iniirmity. There sometimes 0c-
ours in "a strong soul fovc firm
enough 10 transfer itself into impas-
stoned friendship, 10 as 10 become q
duty, and appropriate the qualities Of
virtue. Then neutralizlng the weak
ness Of nature, it acquires the ilnmor-
tally Of principle
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The following Is tile exact language
used by the Chief Justice in conver-
sation with prominent Democrats re-
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