The Wheeling daily register. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1864-1878, 1867-02-14

The Day sner q Marriage.
The following, both in sentiment and
fact, will find a ready echo in the hearts
of most parents. 1t is from the Hide
UOrd:
the departure Of son from beneath
the paternal roof does not present any
spectacle of desolation. Masculine life
has from infancy an individuality, an
independence, an exorcism, so to say,
which is essentially wanting to female
ex;stence. When a son abandons his
n.rents to create for himself a separate
interest. this separation causes but lit
tie interruption in their mutual rela-
tons. A man marries, and still MAIN
tains his friendships, his habits and his
flial affections. Nothing is changed in
life; it is only an additional tie. His
departure is consequently o mere sim
pie separation; while the departure of a
young girl to become a wife in q few
hours is . real desertion-a desertion
with all its duties and feelings about it.
In n word, the son was q saphng
which has always grown apart from the
trunk; while the daughter has, on the
contrary, formed an essential portion of
it, and to detach here from her place is
to mutilate the tree itself. You have
surrounded her youth with u~nspeaka-
BILE tenderness-the exhaustless tender
ness Of your paternal and maternal
heart; and she, in return, has appeared
to pour forth upon you both an equally
inexhaustible gratitude; you loved her
beyond all the world, and she seemed to
cling to you with a pr~oportionable af-
lection. But one day, an ill-omened
day, a man arrives, invited and well
coined by yourselves; and this man OF
your own choice carries off to his do
nestle circle your gentle dove, far from
the soft nest which your love had made
for her. On the morrow you look
around You, you listen, you wait, you
seek for something which you cannot
find. The cage is empty; the tunsful
linuet has flown; silence has succeeded
to its melodious warblings; it does not
come, as it did only on the previous
morning, fluttering its perfumed wings
about your pillow, and awakening you
by its soft caresses.
Nothing remains but a painful calm,
q painful silence, q painful void. The
chamber of the absent darling offers
only that disorder which is so melan-
choly for a mother to contemplate; not
the Joyous and impatient disorder Of &C.
cupation, but that Of abandonment.
Maidenly garments scattered here and
there; girlish fancies no longer priced;
chairs heaped with half-worn dresses;
drawers left partially open and ran
sacked to their remotest corners; q bed
in which no one has slept; q crowd of
charming %tritles, which the young girl
loved, but which the young wife des-
pises, and which are Uttered over the
carpet, like the feathers dropped by the
linnet when the hawk made the timid
bird it's nrey. Such is the depressing
sight which wrings tears from the
mothers heart. Nor is this all; from
this day she occupies only the second
place in the affections of her departed
idol; and even that merely until the
of maternity shall have
her for whom she weeps to as
sign to her one still lower. This man,
this stranger, unknown.a few months,
it may be but a few weeks, previously,
has assumed a right over those affec-
tions which were almost entirely her
own: n few hours of fleeting. audit may
even be assumed tenderness, have Ill a
great degree sufficed to efface twenty
long years of watchfulness, of care, of
self-abnegation; and they have not
only rent away her right to be the first
and best beloved, but they have also
deprived her of the flial caresses, the
gentle attentions and the adored pres
ence of the hearts idol, whom she has
herself given him for life. Nothing is
left to the mother but the attachment
of respect. If she loves him, she leaves
her home without regret to follow his
fortunes to the end of the world; if she
does not love him, she will still per
form the same duty with resignation,
Nature and law alike impose the obi.
CATION on her, and her own heart must
decide whether it will constitute heI
Joy on her trial; but i'll either case the
result to the mother is the same. MOI
can that mother rcproach her with this
painful preference, for she has reared
her in the conviction of the necessity o.
marriage; she has herself offered to hel
its example in her own person; HEAVIER
itself has pointed it out as a duty whose
omission is culpable; and, therefore
far from ~venturing to wish that the
lost one should restore to her all the
tenderness which time and habit may
enable her to withdraw from her hus
band, the mother is bound, on the con
trary, to pray that they may every day
become dearer to each other, even al
the expense of her own happiness. This
misfortune is the mothers last blessing
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