Wyoming democrat. [volume] (Tunkhannock, Wyoming Co., Pa.) 1867-1940, 1867-12-18
Why Young Men do not Marry.

Rev. Robert Collyer preached sermon
in Unity Church, on Our Daily Bread"
In the course Of his sermon he discussed a
social question Of general interest and great
importance. Some extracts will show
what the question is, and what Mr.. Collyer
thinks about it. .... .......
There is another and worse perversion
of that which this prayer expresses, in the
| baleful determination of the flower of the
youth in the country toward late marriag-
es. When one said lately, in the presence
of a frank, outspoken young woman in this
city, that the reason why young men do
not marry was that their wives would not
be content to live in a homely way, after
they had been raised in luxury, she replied:
''1he woman is quite rs willing as the
man to do that, and know of no woman
Of my acquaintance who would not be con-
tent, for the sake of the man she loved, to
cast her lot with him and make his in cv-
cry way her own / believe that the
young woman spoke the truth.
When hear man living in chambers
and constant in bis attendance at play and
opera, say. i dare not marry, because |
know no woman who would be content to
live as one should lve," say to myself, it
may be true, but it looks very much like
old Adam, who ate the apple and then
turned and laid the blame on the woman.
Let this be as it will. Here is the dismal
fact staring US everywhere in the face, and
in no place more painfully than in our own
city, that for social, conventional, or still
worse reasons, the best youth Of the coun-
try are held back from its most sacred du-
", as well AS its most perfect telicity-tails
into that sad mistake of long engagement,
in which the pain and disappointment
bears hardest always on the WON IN, or the
young man shuts his eyes and his heart
when the spirit walking among the golden
lamps whispers TO him of some maiden,
g That is my wife," and says, No, not yet
for many year TO come"-and SO msrries
at last away ont in life, when both lives
have become set in their own fashion, aud
their love is hardly long enough to give
them the kindly mutual forbearance tow
ard that which is dissimilar in character
and disposition, until they can become
"Sef reverencng and reverencipg each
| Alike in in1iyidualities."
And so the best days of the best of our
youth 90 by aud find l dare not" wait
upon g would"
In the name Of all that is sacred, ask
why this is, and get for an answer, We
cannot afford it, The young farmer can
afford it on the prairie the miner on Su.
pcrior; the woodman on the peninsula
the carpenter at his bench the blacksmith
at his anvil: the operative at his frame OF
loom the long shoreman and the sailor
That cluster of men down in Pennsylvania
and those In Yorkshire, whose young mer
were with me years ago, lost no time AND
asked 10 questions, because some right in
stinct told them that they might DO worse
worse in any and every way they could
look at il; and as | can remember, as if il
were yesterday, how speedily those found
the wife and went to housekeeping in 6
room or two. as they could manage it, ant
make the hammer ring with new music
and gradually get their house and house
hold goods, and the world has never faileC
them--no, moi for day but through dari
future and bright and sickness and strength
they bave found the deepest experience
of their life, each with the other, for Grea
Heart and Interpreter go together on thi
pilgrimage, and now they see their chill
dren coming up to manhood about them