The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1867-11-13
SaAlloersoll gutelLigenfcr.
Husbands at Home.
A RAcx SKETCH FOR THE LADIES.


respondent of the Louisville Courier, ad-
dresses the following to "Yuba DAM
another correspondent of that paper
There are many ladies, we dare say, who
think with Mrs Spangle, if they do not
speak out. To all such this letter will
prove great treat:
first met Spangle at country fair.
We were introduced to each other about
ten. o'clock in The morning, and if you
will believe me, 1 did not get chance to
speak to any other gentleman that day.
I never saw fellow SO struck at nrst
sight. T don't think he saw horse, or IN
fact anything that was on exhibition that
day but me, although there were present
many, of the most beautiful and accom-
-plshed young ladies of that section OF the
eountrv' AS he wasextremely good look
ing. of good family, and of unexceptlona-
bic habits and character, l OF course, felt
Aattered by his marked preference.
had to take him to dinner, and introduce
him to pa and ma and the whole family.
He made a good impression. In fact
spangle can shine when he tries. re-
member the fact with pride. Well, it is
the old story. He became infatuated, and
obtained my permission to visit me ut my
home and spend day there in just two
weeks from the day we met. During
these two weeks received daily long let
tiers from Simon, closely written and cross
written. Il wish l had kept them.) AT
length The day Of his visit arrived, and
10 and behold, the servant girl awoke me
in the morning with the pleasant infor-
nation that Spanglc was waiting for me
in the parlor Here was lover for you.
Well, we'll AS said before, it was the
old story ever recurring, ever sweetly
told, and ever listened to by willing ears.
Suffice it to say that from that day | saw
no~peace until [ became Mrs. Spangle.
Our honeymoon was, 1 suppose, like all
honeymoons, short and delicious.
And then came the realities of life. 1t
is my belief that this is the most trying
period of woman's life. However kind
and attentive her husband may be, a
Young wife, when she enters upon the ac-
Qualities of life, has disclosed to her a
state Of facts cf which she has little or no
conception before marriage. When she
leaves an atmosphere of romance and ad.
ulation and enters upon the realities OF
life, it is like stepping out of garden of
summer flowers into the regions of per-
petual winter, and unless she brings all
her good sense and philosophy to her aid.
her affections will become chilled, and she
will regard herself asdisappointed if not
deceived, woman tor the balance of her
life. It is the hope that our experience
may be of benefit oyoung wives that
induces me to reveal some of the domes-
tic incidents and infelicities Of twelve
wears of married life.
-, After our briefholiday,. Spangle-to use
his own cxpression-took tilt at the
world, determined to wrest from it not
only competence, but u fortune that
would place me in the most beati6c atti-
tude to be- obtained by opulence.
The dear fellow did work hard, and if
he, met with obstacles, and difficulties, and
trials, the world never knew it. He re-
served them for his freside, and. although
he did not accuse me as the cause, yet he
reeounted them in a tone and manner so
different, from the joyons and buoyant
language of courtship, that I could but
feel was in some way or other account
able for bise troubles. Although | never
seriously doubted his love for me, yet he
certainly permitted many excellent OPP
portunities for manifesting it to pass un-
improved. Before we were married, he
seemed to have perfect mania for hold
ing my hand, and | used to wonder if he
would ever give me the opportunity TO do
any needle-work after marriage. But,
bless your soul! after marriage, when op-
portunities for indulging in that delicious
pastime were abundant, it seemed to have
lost it's charm. Poor, foolish me! / was
often aggrieved at his apparent coolncss,
and would ask him twenty times 4 day
if hedid not love me. "Why, certainly l
do, my dear little puss; thought you
knew it," Yes, he thought | knew it.!
Perhaps did. also knew that we had
plenty of -four and bacon in,the pantry,
but that knowledge did not satisfy my
hunger.
1t is true that this affection manifested
itself sporadical!y with all the warmth
aud ardor of tho old days; but these
ebullitions were the exceptions. The
rule was, 81 thought You knew it." Yes,
girls, when you get husbands they will
expect you to know it, and my advice to
you is, that you get all the counting you
want before you are married, for after
that event what little caurting is done i'll
the family will have to be done by the
wife.
Wehave six children, all beautiful and
good. Spangle takes u great pride in
them, loves them, and growls at them like
q dear old bear You must not think that
Spangle regards the ''new comcrs" as bur-
dsns, Quite the reverse. He goes into
ecstacies over each one; dilatcs upon its
beauties and perfcctions for five minutes,