Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1867-02-22
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The Day After a Marriage.

The following, both in sentiment al d
fact, will find ready echo in the hearts
of most parents. 1t is from the Vide
World:
The departure of son from beneath
the pateInai roof does not present any
spectacle OF desulation. Masculine life
has from infancy all individuality, nn
independence, all eNoliCisin, SO to say,
which Is essentially wanting To female
existence. When II son ;,taudons his
parents to create Tor himself IL separate
Interest, THIS separation causes but lit
tie interruption ia Their mutual rela-
tons. ~ man mar!ies, and still main
tains his friendships, his habits, and his
fiilal affections. Nothing is changed
i'll life; it's only an additional tie.
Ills departure is consequently u mere
simple separation; while the departure
of Il young girl, To become wife in Il
few hours, is IL rea! deser.ion--a deser-
ton with all It's duties and feelings
about IL. IN one word, the son is Il
sapiing which has always grown apart
from tie trunk; while the daughter
mas, on the contrary, formed an essen
tiai portion of it, ana to dctuch her
IRON her place is to nuti!ate the tree
itself. You have surrounded her youth
With unspealiaDie tenuerness--tiie eN-
haistiess tenderness OF your patcrnal
ana maternal hearts; and she, ia re-
turn, has appeared to pour forth upon
you both all equally mex haustuble
gratitude; you loved her beyond ali the
world, ana she seemed to cling to you
with ~ pioportionate affection. But
one day, an ill-OMened day, man ar
flyes, invited and Welcomed by your
selves and this man OF your choice
carries oil to his domestic circle your
gentle dove, lar from the soft nest
which you had MADE Tor her. On the
morrow you look around, you listen,
you wait, you seek .or something which
you cannot find. The cage is cmnty :;
the tuEeiul lnnet has flown; silence
has succeeded TO its melodious wurb-
lings; IL does not come, as 1t did only
Oh the previous morning, nuttering its
periumed wings about your pillow, and
Nothing remains but u painful calm, a
painful silence, n painful void. The
chamber of the absent darling offers
only that disorder which is so mel
ancholy for Il mother to contemplate;
not the joyous and impatient disorder
OF occupation, but that of abandon
ment. Maideniy garments scattered
here anu there; gir!ish fancics no long
ef priced; chairs heaped with hal.-wOrn
dresses drawers ieit partially open ami
rausaCheu TO their remotest corners; u
bed III which no one has slept; Il crowd
OF charming triiieS, which the young
girl loved, but which the young wife
despises, ana which are Uttered over
the carpet, like the feathers dropped by
the Ilnnet when the hawk made the
timid bird its prey. Such is the de-
pressing sight which wrings tears from
the mothers heart. Nor is this all
trom this day she occupies only the
second place IN the affections OF her dc.
parted IDOL and even that merely until
the happiness oil maternity shall have
taught her tor whom she weeps to as
sign to her one still lower. This man,
tins stranger, unknown few months,
II may be but few weeks, previously,
has assumed right over those aiiec-
tons winch were almost entirely her
own; lew hours Ut tieeting, and 1t
may even be OF assumed, tenderness,
have in Il great degree suiliced to eiiiice
twenty long years of watchiulness, OF
care, Of seii.abnesation and they have
not only rent away her right to be the
first and bcst-beloved, but they have
also deprived her of the filiai caresses,
the gentle attentions and the adored
presence of the hearts idol, whom she
las herself given 10 him for life. Moth
ing is lett to Tie mother but the attach
ment Of respect. Ii she loves him, she |
leaves her home without regret 10 fol- !
low his fortunes 10 the end OF the |
world; Ii she does not love him, she /
wall still perform the same duty with |
Nature ana law alike ini- |
pose the obligation on ner. and her own |
heart must decide whether it will con-
,titute her JOY or her trial but in eth
ar case the result 10 the mother is the |
came. Nor can that mother reproach |
her with this painful preference, for
she haas reared her in the conviction of /
he necessity Of marriage; She has her
'elf offered to her its example in her
'wn person; heaven itself has pointed
I out as duty whose omission is cul-
,able: and, therefore, far from ventur-
ny 10 wish that the lost one should re-
tore to her all the tenderness which
ime and habit may enable her TO with
iraw from her husband, the mother is
,ound, on'the contrary. to pray that
hey may every day become dearer to
uch other, even at the expense of her
'wn happiness. This misfortune is the
Mothers last blessing.