The Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1863-1886, 1867-08-22
For the Lancaster Gazette.
Frailties.
NO. 10.


NO. 10.
Men learn, and understand, and
see the wrong, and the right, and
FIX for themselves a course Of con.
duct that is to avoii. the blundcrs
and follics of life, and bring them
manliness, and peace, aud self sat
isfaction, and sSen utterly forget il
all, or fail in the requisite stamina
to carry oGt what their rational de-
liberations have decided to do.
| wish my pen might be effective.
if but to limited extent. in
Strengthening others to do what
they and /, and all, every day
confess we ought TO do, and what
we ought not to, but which we all
more or less, continually fail to do.
There are thousand wealsnceses
that continually beset US and make
us less men or women; but some
how We don't see them, or il We do
We strangely fail so avoid them.
In themselves they appear trivial:
not Of much importance one way
or the other. We don't think that
by doing this or that, or neglect
ing to do this or that, we damage
any body; and We don't; but we
damage ourselves, because we don't
know how Others look at the mat
ter; or perhaps We fail from sheer
faulty to study the force Of little
things.
There is not in all society mnch
of sympathy for each others mis-,
fortunes or infrmities. We do not
all Of us realize that. There is no
provision in tie public stock Of pa
tience for the appeals that every
body almost are continually in the
habit of making &c it, by detailing
their ihdrmities, their perpleXl-
ties, their hardships, and how this
or that one has wronged them, or
how their business has gone wrong
by the fault or neglect of others,
and generally what a hard time
they have to get along. No body
wants to hear one word Of all this,
and itpersons wonld only perceive
thatit requires all the patience and
philosophy, and forced politeness
that their auditors can summon to
endure the infiiction to the end,
they might save themselves a great
deal of hard talking. 1t is a breach
of politeness, and besides not Sc
curing either sympathy or aid,
makes the complainer appear un.
worthy and little, and throws him
helplessly into the hands of those
he thought to confde in. Who but
your wife, oryour doctor, can have
the patience to look at the sores on
your legs. or your indamed eyes,
or hear of the pain in your back,
or your head, or the cramp in your
stomach Who cares whether you
have an appetite for your break
fast or not, or is interested in your
detail Of the nightmare that terri
fed you so last night? And ifyou
allow yourself to be telling people
that you can hardly get room
and that you believe people don't
care; and that you. amt treated
like others or like you ought to
be; why you are only making a
fool of yourself; and you will soon
find that those who might have
stood up for you, try to get from
your company into others moro n
greeablo to them.
Have you ever imagined thai
you were helping yourself by tell
ing your creditors that you have
been disappointed in getting money
or thai yon have met with losses
or your business is dull; or tha
times are hard, and it costs so mucl
TO live; why, all that is exastly
what they don't want TO bear, wha
they want is the money you ow,
them. IT, you think it worth Will,
to say any thing about it, tell ",
have no! get the money, but will
get IL as soon as you can. A cred
itor would rather hear that thar
all your poor mouths"
Have but few confdants, ant
those of such only as are interested
in your enterprise, or your pecuni
AIRY success in some way. Tel
your wife or your husband, o
your doctor of your bodily all
ments, but nobody else, unless
sympathising friend calls TO Sc
how you are. All your sPiritua
, maladies you may coufde to you
priest If you have one, or TO on
who says he cares for your 500
Keep all your own secrets, that il
where it is nobody's concern bu
!, your own. But don't be too sc
cretiVo, except where the matter
strictly private TO yourself, 10
healthy public sentiment will dc
eide that no man should be s
shamed of what he is about, an
, besides, there is danger of aequil
ing the reputation Of Discrimination
The age admires stoics. DELTA.
James A. Cutting, inventor OF tn
ambrotypc, died last week in tn u,
Worcester Insane Asylum, II