Gold Hill daily news. [volume] (Gold Hill, N.T. [Nev.]) 1863-1882, 1867-01-12
WEDDING DAYS

WEDDING DAYS
The habit Of celebrating golden we'd
dings and silver weddings, or the tenth
anniversary Of marriage, or fifth or first,
in Q public and ostentatious manner,
has been carried TO some very ridicu-
lous extremes. To mere acquaintance,
who have v known Mr.. and Mrs.
Jones in any other relation than as mar
ried folks giving occasional and hand
some entertainments, who do not even
know or care how many children they
may chance to have, or what are their
names, who know nothing whatever OF
their family life different from that of
Fifty other families Of the same circle, it
seems, and it is, very ridiculous to be
called upon to take part in some cele-
bration of an anniversary Of this sort.
Where . nero business acquaintance
exists with the husband, or a calling
acquaintance with the wife, it is espe-
cially out of place to expect any peculiar
s~ympathies, and therefore mi should
be demanded.
But, on the other hand, those who
have known either of the parties before
marriage and since, and in proportion
to their intimacy, in the more strictly
family circle, may be properly gathered
round q couple on anniversaries OF the
sort, and their sympathies will be an
increasing pleasure, and one not with
out its utilities all round. I-EEE
There is much danger when persons
have been married a few years, and the
cares Of business and i'll health, and of
children, have furrowed their cheeks
and robbed them of early sprightliness
and beauty, that their vivacity and
habit of eommemorating joyful anniver-
ssries with . becoming cheerfulness will
be lost. Life may become so monoton-
Gus as to be much like death. ,.P..-
Let any man who has been married
twenty years look back, and if he has
entered on that tie with anything like
reasonable expectations and Intentions,
and been met in the same spirit, he will
become conscious that very far the
largest share Of his happiness has
sprung up from the marriage relation.
Thousands will feel that it has made
new men of them, with brighter hopes
and better expectations and ~realizations
than they could have believed possible
and all will feel that it has given them
the truest and most elevated and worthy
objects for which to live.
A man sits down in his own easy arm
chair, and finds around him a large
household TO be kept up, half a dozen
children to be educated and provided
for-many cares he had never dreamed
of-but also a circle Of choice friends
whom he has learned through his life,
properly to appreciate, Of dependents
whose wants it is his happiness to sup
ply, and q sense Of faith in Providence
for Q thousand moro necessary things
that are the sources of his real happi-
ness and hope. Both the cares and the
pleasures all tend to make him q more
powerful, influential, successful, and,
on the whole, happy man than he could
have become without just that very dis
cipline. Marriage is a divine institu-
ton, so adapted to all that makes hu-
a life civilized, social and happy,
that mono but He who created US could
have devised this tie. Every possible
deviation from its full and true nature
and spirit occasions a loss of good to
society, and produces positive evil to
the world.
Upon it depends all the training of the
young by the joint care Of both parents
and the proper provision for them as
they start out in life. AL the progress
Of society and all the success Of every
other tie depend chiefly upon this, so
that all States and nations have been
successful just in proportion as, for the
life of both, n man has truly and low
ingly lived with the wife of his choice,
each striving to make the other happy.
That lore which began most freely in
mutual choice has nov become the
chief and most important and religious
of dsaes, and the. day Of marriage, the
union of those two, becomes far more
important in the feeling of most than
their own birthday. It is the birth Of
so many new hopes, new feelings and
Of q new life, so generally, and n OF
ones own manly choice, that it becomes
increasingly dear, and should be so re-
membered as to give q now elasticity
and spring TO married life.