Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1867-02-15
openly resist it when the opportunity

openly resist it when the opportunity i
L favorable.
Once on the line between Cincinnati
> and st. Louis-iong distance-on whief
a traveller going the whole way Woult
naturally desire to make himself as com
Portable as possible, q venerable gentle
J. man with long white hair, who, II ap
. peared, was an eminent judge, and had
served with distinction in the senate o
N the United States, was quietly seated II
s a corner of the car in which every place
was occupied, engaged in residing news
. paper. When the train stopped at one
of the intermediate stations, crowd OF
persons, male and female, poured IN al
n both ends-glad OF standing room If they
b could procure nothing better. After the
. usual amount Of bustling and jostling,
= the majority passed on TO the next car ;
but one woman, hot and blowsy, with a
S carpet bag in her hand, remained be-
p hind. The venerable judge, if he had
not the best place, had the place which
$ took this persons fancy, and thinking,
. apparently, that he would be gallant
i enough to oblige her, she walked boldly
up TO him, tapped him on the shoulder,
and said Z" I want q seat"
The old gentleman looked up and
lquietly replied, with a very Judicial tone
=
try II YOU cannot find accommodation in
the next car. This is full. If any gem
lleman chooses to give up his seat tn
you he can do So shall not. l am ahs
old mani am on a long journey.
came 10 the depot ttbe statiOn) earlier
than others in order that 1 might secure
a place. I have secured il, and shall
keep it. In conclusion, let me inform
you that, in my opinion, your chance OF
obtaining "A seat would be much greater
if you would stand patiently until some
one saw your distress and v0luuteered 10
I relieve III There was buzz OF ap-
! piause from everybody within hearing,
I 10 which the women who had gained
/ their own seats by right of first posses
/ sion, took audible part. The aggressor,
who was by DO means handsome, who
| had sense enough to see that in that We
| hjcle public opinion was against her,
retired with all convenient ceierity into
another.
We come now to the last, though not
I perhaps to the greatest, OF The causes that
! produce the forwardness Of woman, so
muCl more conspicuous in America than
elsewhere. II is loudly proclaimed in
the states that all labor is honorable.
such Is The theory, tOSwhich, however,
neither men nor women conform IN
practice. II is honorable in man 20 dig
in a garden, TO plOw field, 10 fell timber,
or to split rails, TO pack pork, to be
{ tailor, a shoemaker, a mechanic, or han
dicrafts man OF any kind but it is not
thought honorable or consistent with the
dignity due 10 q man who has . vote to be
domestic servant. The women, IN the Z
same way, will consent 10 be factory
girls, railway clerks, seInpstresses dress (
makers, OF drapers' and miiiners' assist I
Mill % doc I T..
hecOme cooks, hOusemaids or chamber I
maids. The very word " servant is Oh !
jected to as Synonymous with slave, and I
service becomes 90 help' in the language J
of these proud republicans. The word 1
MASTER suffers tIesame exclusion from I.
die vocabulary, for the same reason: for .
master sayOrs Of slavery.
The master ofa household in the north I
ern states is the b0ss,n by which name !
the servants or helps - always speak Of I
him and the mistress Is invariably adj /
dressed by her name, and never as " mis- I
trg-s, - or 90 missUs,n or " madam Oue I
servant OF help" never asks another if /,
" missus rang the bell, but il Mrs. Jones .
or Mrs. Smith, As the case may be, ring
il. When spoken TO by the mistress, (
they 20 not reply yes, ma'am,' or " no .
Ina am, " but " yes, Mrs. Jones' or " no .
Mrs smith, Even an employer OF |
other domestic labor is not recognized as
master. There are boss BARRIERS, boss
builders, boss carpenters, boss tailOrs,
but no masters Of those or any crafts
The consequence OF this iuyeterste dis
Ike 10 domestic service, and to the social
inleTiprity implied IN il, is that none but
the newly arrived Irish and the negroes
viii consent to do the work Of the house,
the Kitchen or the stable. The negroes
"a mot s.af-f i'm srs rfTs
numbers TO supply the want Of "help,u
and the Irish are so ignorant, so ins0lent
and SO eXtravagant, as 10 be the plague
OF every household which they enter.
They take situations as prOfessed cooks,
without being able 30 boil an egg or
potato They waste thrice as much food
is thyy consume, and their dirtmess and
want uf order and system, natural 10
them in their original novels of Come
mara, or other piggeries in which they
may have been born and bred, become
most provoking and unnatural in their
new sphere OF life. Ia consequence OF
this sore affection, housekeeping in New
York, Baltimore, Philadelphia, Bos-
Ion, Cincinnati, Chicago and others,
is SD disagreeaJle to the man who likes
n dinner well cooked, even il il should
be plain, and 50 offensive 10 the woman
who desires 10 have some little enjoy
meut of her life, that in sheer despera-
tion husbands and yavas, who ought TO
be- able 10 keep up Al establishment OF
their own, betake themselves 10 hotels
aud boarding houses, where uuhappily
they incur worse dangers, aud suffer
greater evils than those from which they
have attempted 10 escape. No man Is
idle in the United States. Every one
has his work to DO, and his fortune 10
push, so that the married woman, living
i'm the hotel or boarding house, is left 10
herself at sn early hour iu the morning,
and sees nothing Of her husband until he
comes home to dinner.
This, Of course, happens in England as
well Us iu America, 10 the great majority
of people But IN England the married
NomaL San ais ays occupy AeI time IN
the management Of her household and
her children, and can only contrive 20
lind leisure for reading, music and other
when her domestic duties
have been discharged. Not 50 the 4,
American Eo,aau liEiDg il the hotel
or boarding house. She has no mar
keiing to do, no household expenses
10 eC0ncmizc, no ser wants to govern, ,
nothing so occupy her attention but the
care % her own person. She dresses 1
several lines a DAY, in new costume {
for every meal for IS she hos 10 be seen
and criticised by her own sex, as Well a.
by the men IA whose prHsep'r she break
fasis 0r dines, she has 10 make as fash
iunabls and gay an appearance over her i
earliest as over her latest repast. If the {
weather he very fine, she promenades in Q
the fashionable streets, and goes shop
ping to the great dry sO0ds stGTes,h OF
the ieweler--or II this be over for the /
dav. or the Gather not 20 her mind, she
50 pufs. 7
sits in 3 rocking Chair-oDe Of the great
est social curses Of the eouutry-and
chats with some other listless idler Cf her
oRn sex or, still rocking herself, reads
the last new noVei.
The only privacy that life Of this
kind allows TO married couple IS that Of ,
the slefuug chamber. And that women
living such life, always ia the glare of
uuhliritv. and with nothing to occupy ,
their minds or their time, should remain
as timid or modest in their manners as
people who live at home, and employ
their minds IN wholesome pursuits, is
scarcely to be expected. The young chill
frpn who are forced TO lead this kind of
life are as greatly 10 be piled as their
mothers. Their only Fairgrounds are
the long corridors or staircases Of the
hotel, unless the mother takes them to
the square or park for an occasional holi-
dav in iue weather. by constant asso-
ciati0u with their elders they become
prematurely knowing, and little ladies
nine or ten give themselves the airs and
indulge in the coguetries that at eighteen
OF twenty might b. pleasant enough, but
which In such children are painful 70
witness. The girls are INDUCED in Jew
eirv when yet infants, and little creatures
unable 10 walk have rings on their fingers
and bracelets on their arms.
4 boy or girl Of nine or ten years of
are, living with its parents at a hotel,
thinks nothing Of coming down 10 the
breakfast table by itself Il is amusing