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should be classed with that mediocre ex
ssllence in poets which, . Horace says, "i'
intolerable to gods and men,"
We have often noticed point in sti.
guette which seems expressly adapted to
the protection ofthe rights and feelings
of both sexes We allude to the custom
which requires the lady to speak hrst'
and which requires the gentleman to re.
turn tho bow when lady and gentleman
presumed acquaintances, meet in the
street. The philosophy of tberule is this
for there is sound philosophy in manners
we're the gentleman to bow first 1t would
be in the power of the lady to ignore the
bow, and thus mortify the gentleman who
might have intended only a,politeness;
The lady bowling first, the gentleman, in
Difference to her sex, must return the bow;
thus the lady IS protected. Further, she
is guarded from the intrusion Of impudcnt
men upon her acquaintance, and men
likewise are assured against the rudeness
Of pert women. If the lady does not how,
things remain as thew. we're; neither is
injured, neither can take exception.
In nothing are good manners more ap-
parent than in the mode of differing in
conversation. Observe the perfect courte-
sy manifested by the we'll bred man or
woman. The difference only acts as
stimulus to the conversation. Indeed it
may be considered rather pleasant than
otherwise, awakening the powers OF both
thetalkcrs. and giving life to the scene.
Arguments and debates are generally to
be deprecated i'll society. for they are apt
to run into harshness and no one is con-
vinced. Arguments and contradictions
are the favoiite. modes of the ill.manner-
ed. It is better to treat the ill-mannered
as Dante did the contemplate spirits-1
mot talk about thom, but observe and
pass on. ~r 4
II II is often discussedswhether MANNERS
are better in the country or in the city.
In the citylthere is more,style, more fin
ish. more tournme,;s while in the country
there is more heart, more sympathy, moe
geniality.. moro franknesi.- The women
of the city are more apt to he, owing 10
have had greater advantages, more cult
waited than their sisters of the country
In the practical affairs of life, however,
they are not SO well informed. Ladies in
the city walk better, dance better sing
better, play better, and speak more for
eign languages than the ladies of the
country but it is questionable whether
they can keep house as well, or do many
other things as we'll as those who are
compelled to rely chiefly upon themselves,
People in the country are usually better
read than those in the city. Perhaps it
is because they have more time, and are
less attracted by various amusements and
pleasures. '
Manners, whether in town or country,
will. vary according to the character OF
the individual and tho measure of breed
ing, with the degree, of good sense and
good taste. They who think that blunt
ness is honesty will be rude to the end:
they who think aonsiderationitbe father
of courtesy will progress toward refine
mcnt. Manners are not matter of
slight importance Regarded at large,
they are as Burke remarks, '"what vex or
soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or dcbase,
barbarize of refine US, by constant, stea-
dy, uniform, insensible operation, like
that of the air wc breathe TO-" Refine
ment in manncfsis one Of the marked
proofs of the advancement ola nation and
the culture Of ~thepeople, the ancients
had manners, and ,veryesbad manners.
Refined ia some Of their tastes and habits
they were brutal ia many oftheir ways.
Courtesy, as we have said, grew out Of
chivalry, politcness is the offspring Of
culture. Good manners commend them
selves, and, like good wine, uesd,ao bush.