Des Arc weekly citizen., 1867-06-01
Good Manners.

"Manners make the man, says the apothegm. We might add-the lady also for there is nothing more attrac- tive than grace of manner, and nothing more winning than good manners We do not refer now to etiquette, or the arbitrary customs of society, which differ with every nation, and sometimes differ in different parts of the same na- tions though etiquette and good man. ners are frequently nearly allied. Nor do we refer to what MT. Turveydrop calls "deportment," nor yet to ''courte- sy."
 Department comprehends the whole external expression of the individual, while courtesy involves rcfinement.- To have good department one must have good manners; but one will have higher department who has courtesy. Every one may have good manners only the refined can have courtesy Courtesy was born of chivalry. It is q generous virtue and cannot live in an ignoblc atmosphere. The strength of man and the gcntleness of woman be- gat courtesy, which since that day has lived upon earth to elevate and refine us.
 The real basis of good manners is q kind and sympathizing heart, by means of which we arc enabled to feel with and appreciate others. This explains why there is such difference in regard to ''innate refinement" Some people are better constituted naturally than others; are more susceptible of devcl- opmcnt.
 We all like to be appreciated; there is no exception to the rule, and we all experience a sensation of modification when we feel that we have been neg lectcd or treated with indifference Nothing sooner arouses the spirit of | jealousy, which is so predominant a l feature in human nature, than a sense of misrepresentation, especially in per sons who are gifted with sensitive nature.
 It is common failing with all of us to fancy that we are not adequately ap- preciated; but not to be appreciated at all is more than human philosophy can endure. Some persons are so dull by nature that they are incapable of ap- preciating with any niceness the feel ings of others. Such persons arc gen. orally rude, and their wit, if they have any, is always of the offensive kind.- Graham one evening, rattling away to Dr. Johnson and Dr. Goldsmith, ex- claimed.
 "Doctor, I should be happy to sec you at Eton." q shall be glad to wait on you,r answered Goldsmith. "No,' said Graham, " 'tis not you mean, Dr. MINOR 'tis Dr. MAJOR, there." "What effect this had on Goldsmith, who was as irascible as hornet" Dr. Johnson used to say, says Boswell, may easily be conceived"
 Graham was drunk-not an uncom- mon thing in those days-even Bozzy got drunk-and for this reason may be excused for his rudcness, but Dr. John sons enjoyment of the scene shows the rough, coarse nature which marked him quite as much as his intellectual ability and broad culture. It isa clear evidence how remarkable the latter qualities must have been that people could have endured the former. We do not wonder that Mrs. Boswell en- tcrtained so poor an opinion of her hus- bands governor" particularly when the Doctor tipped over the candle in tentionally and let the grease run on the carpet. Yet the rough old royal brute was in the main good man and Edone many kind things. He only de- sired to be appreciated up to the point demanded by his vanity.
 There are persons who are not stupid but malicious, and therefore take a de- light in wounding the feelings of oth- CTS, or in gratifying themselves at the ,xpense of others. Such persons in dulge in the vulgarity of endeavorine to make butts of others, or in the mean ness of talking at people, or in intro ducing subjects which must be mala' propos.
 The two classes we have referred te -the stupidly rude and the malicious
 
 fly rude-both need to be regeneratce
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