Ellsworth American. [volume] (Ellsworth, Me.) 1855-current, 1867-09-06

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and so they live. and wear oat physically.
and rust mentally and their husbands lay
them in their graves, and say 'she was a
good housekeeper; (high praise, but not
at all that should be said y and marry. it
is to be hoped and prayed, some one who
will take time to be their intellectual equal,
and thus command, one might almost say,
their homage. Every thing needs doing in
its time and place. Ifa man is ignorant.
and chooses his wife to be also, if she acqu-
esces heartily, let them 60 on together but
God pity their children. II he ever gives
them any. Where one is Intelligent the
other must be. or he or she sinks below the
level of affection, and is lost out of the
heart; person may be with you. and yet
you feel no presence.
A woman who gives all her time to her
house and her husbands physical wants,
degrades herself in his eyes and in the eyes
of her maker.
A man will love and keep in blessed
memory woman who comes into his heart
and head as well, and is conpan on in
mind These things we never forget those
that pertain to animal comfort pass away.
Thousands of womenar intellectual when
they marry then the mental process ends.
The brain cramps. and the girl that is q
companion. at wo,nanllood is meie drudge
and the faults mostly her own.
She will educate the man her love can
mould him. God give her fshe lets that
or him make slave Of her. He does not
mean it; he does it unntent9nally, but it
is SO easy to be caressed-and cared for.
She sits at his feet. forgetting to lay her
hand upon her head, and she never rises
from that position. Teach him by silent
teaching twomen should teach little by
w0ris) that his daily wants should be cir
cumscfibed: place the spiritual before the
animal; compress your household rounds
and take out IA little time. Some things
are done daily which have no need; some
extra sweeping; sDne extra ornaments OF
apparal Save all that time for improve
ncut. indeed let some things remain un-
done that your mind may keep pace with
his you love. and are living to serve
When American wives and mothers shall
have learned that there is something be
yond dress and housekeeping. mind
which shall kee in check ehildren's way
warduess and husbands downward ten .
dencies, which shall keep warmand ardent
"a noble affection based upon respect, then
there will lie fewer divorces, less SIM
Men do not leave home for other society
for lack Of aifection--ther wives love
them as ever--but in nine cases out of ten
it is because wife fails to be his conpan-
ion; fails to lead him by and through her
intellectual growth. She cannot have pow
er with hiiA. because she Is not power in
herself
Young ladies, be educated!
You say flirting does well in school 1t
is ,.lcasant. There is u zen delight in
III iecllnS that one is admired, yes, aud by
more than one: by a band of brothers,
cousins or friends Dut there comes time
wneI youth and pretty faces go by. Then.
where Is the cnarn! If You let all the
ney days pass IN ld;cness. where is your
,,ule TOR improvement in the future p
Even young ,Den admire il pretty face and
yUuiuiul form Il thousand times more if it
mas with TIA mind whose treasures only
Years of study can bring to light. How
beautiful that one should study through
hietlu,e ana say at It's close. 'Each Year
| uuseaied new fountains ot truth and hove:
e;ici Year size was w lle an unfinished
NUtu.ue.
,lake your home cheerful by music, by
pictures chesciicu by your own hands by
ia,icy worh II there Is time. but II there Is
uuL do not do 1t. Every arllcle need not
itad should not be etnDsuld"rcd-some of
Is we'll too .uuch Is IL waste of time
Fu,a young lady 20 give ali her Time to the
neglect % Duoks, oi real friends, OF house
huid dutles, and the Thousand Ut suffering
poor, Is Il s:ll.
Bv prompt! punctual!
NotnlnS can wear upon others more, or
mar their happiness more, than always be
lug Obliged to wait for YOU. With proper
dispatch and IL Reasonable woAlau's amount
of tine Bestowed upon dressing, there is
seldom need of being IL mo.hent too late
1t YOU have friends. eXeusc yourself frank
y and politely. Telling the truth in that
manner can never be rudeuess. If you
naye little tine to beautiiy yourself. then
take little. Help others and forget your
self. The very deed will make you all the
pretticr a want ot proinptness Will make
yourself unhappy by your own delays.
make everybody frcttui aud ncrvuus-do
direct violence 10 Gods law by living Tor
sell, wasting precious tlne, ant wearting
the world muicu he had pat you IN to
brighten
BE a.ni!
Llttlc words that make up the greater
part ol lic. are IA woman special prerog
.tye aud special duty. One accent oi
kindness has turned the scale that held IA
hf.-unc uttelauce has made man IL III nd
ar an ansel-ouc smile has gladdened i.
" .,ulr ioufney-oue kiss has saved frotn
prrditlot,. Ne admire, we venerate man
who is KIND. God bless all such. But !.
woman must be kind.
BE wonn,uly
AS man Is manly and brave, so be
woaianly IN the highest sense; brave for
the ri.nt, firm against the wrong. efficient
IN every duty. guided aud guiding, loved
and LOVING. controlled aud controlling. BE
what you can be aud ought To he or 1t We're
better you had not lived.
BE cheerful.
There are plenty of shadows on the noun.
taius and in the valleys, in the dense count-
ing roouis, IN the laDor and sweat Of the
field. IN the culdurss and selfshncss of the
word. There mus be- ght somewhere.--
Plants pale and slckrn IN darkuesS do
mrn. Lille weighs upon them. Woman.
be- light 10 tlie.n be their sunshine. 1t is
"a hard matter to shine through the TEN
pest of your own struggling Soul-do not
thluk ol II God has gwen hard matters
to wOnen--not because she sinned. but be-
cause lie knows who hest eau bear the,n
and best execute Ills designs. BE cheer
iul everywhere. brightly cheerful at the
couch Of birth. merriIy cheerful at the nup.
tial couch, calmly cheerful at the couch ot
death