The weekly North-Carolina standard. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 186?-1869, 1867-02-20
Boarding.

Halls Journal Of Health treats medically
OF the effect of boarding. In enumerating
the evils of boarding house life, it says
"The body becomes sleepy and dull /; the
mind losses its elasticity and SION begins to
waste itself in worrying about the merest
trifes very little inconvenience is magni-
fed and looms up in mountainous proper
tions."
One of these called on US recently, lady,
we'll educated, elegantly dressed and in per-
feet taste, and-merely t., look at-any man
might be proud to call her his wife. The
moment she entered our office she began to
whine at an amazing rate, declaring that she
was in state of perfect physical and ment-
al prostration. 1t was very natural for US
to INQUIRE into the cause of such a hopeless
condition. She was boarding. A generous
husband had surrounded her with every
thing calculated to afford her enjoyment
She had no children to annoy her. Her hus-
band was at his place ,,f business from 10 A.
NJ. to 3 P. NJ, and the remainder of his time
was al her service. She went to the races,
attended the opera, visited her friends; and
vet she pretended she was in perfect state
of PHYSICAL and mental prostratlon J.
Into this great gulf of perdition will they
arrive at no distant day who arrange to go
to boarding as soon as married, instead of
housekeeping. A more Improbable mistake
cannot possibly be made by the newly mar
ried it is more mischievous in winter than
in summer, for in warm weather the young
wife can walk on the street, or drive in the
park, or visit among her friends, but in the
winter they are cooped up in one room, and
spend hours at the window-pane, gazing list
lessly out upon the street,-afraid of the cold,
vet detesting the confinement, while o great
part of the time, the husband being at his
business, the mind of the young wife is the
prey of thousand disquietudes. At one
time she thinks her friends are sighting her !;
at another. she becomes envious of others
who seem to he able to dress more elegantly
than herself, and she begins to make unfav-
orable comparisons to herself and to her hus-
band as to their worldly condition, and she
becomes moody, or petulant, and complains,
and the husband wakes up to new discov-
ery. and as unwelcome as it is new-that
his wife is not happy; not happy in him !;
not happy in herself not happy in her social
position. No man can doubt that in going
to housekeeping, the prospect of q happy,
thrifty married life, is Enthusiastically more
promising than in the health and heart-de-
stroying practice of living the first twelve
months of married life in hotels and board
ing-houses. Very few young wives are safe
in any public associations. The papers
abound in cases of infdelity to martial en-
gagements by lately married girls being
thrown into the society of men of leisure,
their husbands being engaged in their busi-
ness pursuits. The mere dandy, loafer, or
gentleman of leisure, has opportunities of
taste, and dress and address, above that OF the
mere man of business, to turn away a wo-
mans heart from her husband by the mere
fact of causing her at first, without implica-
ting himself, to draw unfavorable compari-
sons against her husband as to personal tidi-
ness. One of the most splendid weddings
that had ever taken place then, in New
York, resulted in separation, and a broken
heart, and a premature grave within lew
years, by the wife's continued twitting hel
husband, when they were walking on Broad
way, or on the Avenue, about his want o.
taste in the selection of his apparel. why
don't you how as Mr.. Blank doesY" HI
gloves are in perfect taste: yours are such a
q coultryfnaR would select"
These thiaga grew upon her, while the.
allie nated him, and living as they did at th
fr.ess hotel in the city. with uncounted goi'
s.t their command, and nothing to compe
their attention, away from triAing things
their minds dwelt upon them, magnitie
them, allowed them to see nothing else, wit
the result of a separation under circun
, stances which were infinitely worse tina
death, for then the grave would have close
over every sorrow, whereas life was spares
, with its long years of agony. --ts-.