The Bolivar bulletin. [volume] (Bolivar, Hardeman County, Tenn.) 1865-1888, 1867-01-19

Young Nan, You're Wanted.-A lady
writer under this heading hits off the young
men as follows:
A woman wants you. Don't forget her
No matter if you are poor. Don't wait to be
rich If you do, ten to one you are unfit to
be married. Marry while you are young
and struggle up together. But mark, young
man, the woman don't want you if she is to
divide her affections with a cigar, spittoOn
or whiskey jug. Neither does she want you
if you don't take care of her and the "little
after-thOughts which are pretty soon to
follow. Neither does she want you because
you are man, the definition of which Is
apt to bean animal that wears bifurcated
garments on his lower limbs, quarter sec
ton Of stovepipe on his head, swears like
a pirate, and Is given to filthy practices gen
orally. She wants you for 4 companion, a
help mate-she wants you to have learned
to regulate your appetite and passions; in
short, the image of God not In the likeness
of a beast If you are strong in a GOOD
purpose, firm in resistance to evil, pure in
thOughtand action, as you require her to be
and without which inward purity neither of
you are fit for husband and wife if YOU
love virtue and abhor vice, if you are gen
tlemanly, fOThearing and kind, and not loud
talking, exciting and brutal, young man,
that woman wants you; that modest, fair,
cheerful, right-lOoking, frank-spoken woman,
we mean who fills your idea of maiden and
wife. 1t is she that wants you-marry her
when you like whether she is rich or poor;
vel trust you both on the above conditions,
without any further security.
Allow us, under the head Of 4" Young WO-
man, you're Wanted" to reply: A man
wants you. Don't forget him. No matter
if you are poor. Don't wait to catch a rich
fellow Ten chances to one, If you do, you
are unfit to be married. Marry some good
young man, and then, with hands clasped
and hearts united, struggle up together But
he Will not want you If you divide your af-
fectiOns with a sOap-lO5k dandy, a ten feet
waterfall, a low-necked dress, and a noodle
dog. lie viii think his bargain a hard one
if, after he emarries you, you neglect the little
afterthoughts,' and prove unnatural
mother by putting them out to be nursed
upon the bosom Of strangers. Neither will
he want you if you shall discover more pleas
ure in the flash novels of the daY than IN his
society. When he marries, he does not
wish to contract holy alliance with one
who Is innocent of all knowledge Of the art
of housekeeping, but amazingly learned in
the matter Of infnitissimal bonnets, per
suasive cOrsets, high-heeled CATERS, tucked
skirts, balmorals, filters, and "such like ="
nonsense. lie wants you for companion
"a p-eat-meat-he wants you to have
learned to regulate your temper, your vanity
your household; In short, he wishes you to
be as good as gentle, as innocent as EVE,
when she sprung from the side of ADAM, a
glowing blushing, loving +" thing of beauty"
If you are not all that-if you think you
cannot renounce every girlish folly-every
cherished vanity-every frivilous habit of
mind or body, he does not want you. He
wants soul, selfsacrifcing, warm, assur-
ing cheerful, hopeful, happy. When his
head aches las ours does now, most prodi-
giousIy) ne wishes to have the electric fin
gers of love press upon the swollen, throbbing
veins and arteries. He wishes to hear in
the hour of his woe, the sweet voice of af-
feetiOn. He wishes to look into eyes that
remind him Of his dreams of bliss beyond
| life's cares. Oh, nO-a harsh tone, cold
look, an unsympathizing eye, would kill the
| poor, suffering innocent young fellow. No
doubt in the world of it. Young woman, in
! that case you are not wanted.