The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1867-03-08
LOVE, COURISAlP, AND MARRIAGE.


LECTURE by THE REV. D. II. MILLER DELIVERED
LAST EVENING AT THE NORTH BAPTIST CHURCH.
CAMDEN, n. J.
Last evening the North Baptist ChuFch
Second and Pearl streets, was filed with a very
select and intelligent audience, to listen to the
first OF course OF lectures given under the
auspices of this church. The one delivered
last evening was by Rev. D. Henry Miller
and was replete with happy hits, which
were appreciated by the audience in frequent
bursts of laughter or applause, according to
their nature.
The lecturer was introduced by Mr.. Gold
smith. He spoke substantially as folIows:-It
IS no laughing matter TO be in love-love such
as the unmarried talk about. Love Is a mystery
SO great that no human power can give its
origin. IT is so deep that the sOundings are
hey Ond the reach Of all. It is a height so high
that tens of thousands have grown dizzy in
their attempt to fly 10 its summit, and have
fallen the victims of love-loye hopeless, love
deCeitiul.
Men, and women are in love and not satisfied
with beng so, they love each other. You might
as well attempt to live without air and light as
to place tetter upon loVeI or barrier around
the lovers in every community. 1t is of all
affections the most impertnent, as it is the
most determined. 1t breaks through the con-
ventona rules of society and through the we'll
regulated community. 1t laughs at bars and
saddest prospects and the most forbidding
clouds, and with the violence OF untamed fury
1t dashes onward to the full enjoyment OF that
paradise pictured III fancy. Love acting the
part OF a magnet, there is no such thing as
keeping the lovers separate.
Love is universal passion. We have various
kinds OF love. Such as love of self and kindred
and character and possession, but the love of
the sexes is q universal love. These other
kinds OF love are limited, but there IS no limit
to mans love for beautiful woman, or for
womans love for true man. 1t is dangerous
thing to fall in love at first sight We have an
instance IN the case of one of the ancient
writers, who fell in love with a beautiful woman
at first sight, bur was very much chagriDed
when he was informed that she was another
mans wife.
All is not love that is called so. 1t is
clothed well, 1t looks well; but it lacks the
heart to give it the sound of the genuine metal.
Love must have time to grow and strengthen.
1t is the most sensitive of plants 1t will not
do to neglect it, 1t is the stepping-stone to
future enjoyment. The following toast is very
sXpressive:-"The ladies ! their eyes kindle the
only flame against which there is no insurance"
Deception in courtship is expected. young
man visits young lady. She lisps out-'I am
glad to see You," while at the same time she
wonders what in the world brought him there,
ana how loug he is going TO stay. as she expects
a visit from Mr.. Tompkins, of around the corner.
A woman can deceive man easily.
The young ladies OF modern times may be
well versed in physiology, and phrenology
and psy Chology, but they are--at least great
many of them-lgnorant OF cookology, bake
ology. and houseKeepingology by far the most
important
Affection is too sacred a thing to be trihed
with. 1t is too holy tor base deception. 1t Is
said that mans love is like the morning
glory, beautifully bright for one hour, and
shriVeled up, if not dead, the next. If were
to describe courtship, would say 1t was that
period between the attachment OF affection
and the perfection of that attachment. The OBJ
ject of courtshlp is to pave the way for mar.
riage. Courtship is personal affair, and should
be attended 10 personally.
A courtship resulting from honest love will
make happy marriage. 1t will fill the house
with music. Fidelity should be maintained at
all times. The fckle or inconstant lover, or in
constant lady, will, in all probability, make a
fckle husband or inconstant wife, Marriage
was the first ordinance OF Heaven, and was
instituted tor the happiness of the race. What
word in our language carries along with 1t so
many Interesting associations as that OF "wife?'
Around that word are concentrated all true
ideas of earthly bliss. 1t ls at once expressive
of the dearest and most sacred relations that
can exist on earth.
Bacnelors are less worthy of sympathy than
the old maids. The happlest marriages on
record are those between parties who started
with a good stock OF affection, and an earnest
desire TO help each other.
Contentment is what is needed. A gentleman
in New York had despatched one of his em
ployes 10 visit the store OF certain other gentle
man in a Western town with vie " TO find out
his mode of living. The employee arrived a
the others store and inquired for his residence
Fe was informed it was back of the store. HI
approached that portion of the building and OBJ
served the man and his wife seated opposite
each other, with napkin spread across thei
laps-a substitute for a table-while they wer
eating their breakfast When he returned Il
New York he told his senior IF he had the leg
IN table which hls friend had he would no
take SIC, 900 Tor them" Laughter)
The lecturer continued at some length, AM
was frequently interrupted with applause
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