Lamoille newsdealer. [volume] (Hyde Park, Vt.) 1860-1877, 1867-04-24
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Nothing less will enable them either
to appreciate or acquire good manners.
In conversation We often here good
breeding and politeness used intsrehan,
geably with good-manners as phrases of
the same import. Yet there is differ.
ence in these words. Good-brceding, like
department, is large expression. To be-
we'll bred one must have been brought up
in certain way. have had certain alvaa-
tsges and opportunities, and inproped
these advantages and opportunities. 4
vell-bred person will be polite person
necessarily. But person may have
good manners yet not be polite; for the
manners may be good according to tie
opportunities. Politcness springs from
cultivation. It's development will depend
upon capacity and opportunity. Some
people have no capacity for naaners. seme
can be drilled into behaving themselves,
while others exhibit a natural adaptation
to assaiDing an og reeable deneanoR. Hev
often do we hear it said, $50. and 60 is O.
boor; you can make nothing of him.
and again, "What pleasant manuers Mrs.
So-and-ao has l'--"Yes. they are natural
to her," There is innate refinement, and
there is native grace, and when these are
cultivated the result is very charming,
opportunity and importantly" said an
lrisbman who fell from grace, ''are too
much for poor humanity When nature
and association are against man Tur+
veydrop will hardly make him pass mus.
ter in review where manners is the or
deal. ......
Good manners refer to personal inter-
course whether the persons are present or
absent. They involve respect. ease, frank.
ness. consideration, 50 that you always
behave toward others, reserving to your
self the right to select your acquaintances,
and to determine the measure of the &C.
quaintanceship, as you would wish they
should behave unto you. Whoever culti-
Yates such principles of action will be,
according to the position in the world he
occupies, the pcsscsser of good. manners.
Those woro the principles which govern
ed Robert Burns, who born peasant, mo,
led with case in the society of his day, from
the hut to the castle, whose associations
reached from the eomwopest aud most il.
hterate to the most distinguished and
most cultivated in Scotland Such, too,
were the principles of the Ettrick Shep-
herd, who boasted that be had moved in
every grade of society, and had found
himself so much at home in each that be
could not tell to which he really belonged.
When Alton Locke found himself at Lord
Lyndale's, not a little nervous in 80 new
sphere he received from friend piece
of advice: BE natural" 1t was as
good advice as could have been given,
10 be kind, sincere, unaffected, is to b.
we!l-manuered.
Respect, consideration. kind feeling.
have great deal to do with oiling the
wheels of the world. 1t is singular how
often we fad those who should know
what good manners require apparently in
different in regard to scme Of the customs
OF life which should never be neglected.
Clergymeu even, who should set an ex-
ample Of good breeding, are often grossly
negligent in the matter of replying to let
ters The very persons. too who are most
regardless Of others interests and feelings
are the most prompt to take olfense. Let
one of those distinguished people who
never can remember or find time to write,
address letter to another upon some sub
ject requiring an answer and find no no.
tice taken of it. and the deeply injured
individual will quite fail to recognize that
he is receiving some of the coin of which
he has dishursed so much. People ought
not to forget what concerns themselves
aud have no apology for forgetting what
interests others. If t'were only mat
ter Of feeling, still feelings should be re.
garded.
Society is becoming sadly vulgarised
by the introduction Of slang, so that the
pure speaker is raro.n 1t passes for wit
or humor with some people, especially
with those who are incapable Of either,
very much as conceit passes for clevorness
with the unintcllecsual and uniformed.
Sobriquets are among tho vulgarisms
which should awaken disgust What can
be more rude than to apply names and
epithets to others, thus rendering them
subjects of tidicule. Satire is allowable: I:
Q it can be fudulged in face to eaco and
. need not ruffle feather. It shows q
{ want Of cleverness to allow satire to de-
: generate into sarcasm. Sarcasm may be
( permitted under certOin circumstances.
: for asa distinguished President Of the