The Baltimore County union. [volume] (Towsontown, Md.) 1865-1909, 1867-03-30
A Model Letter.

To please the ladies we publish q few extracts
from letter OF Patrick Henry, the Statesman
aud christian, to his only daughter We know
that our lady readers will be edited 10y the per
usal
MY DEAR DAuGnrEa You have Just entered
into that state which il Tepleie with happines
or misery. The issue depends upon the pru'
dent amiable uniform conduct which wisdom
aud virtue so strongly recommended, on the one
hand, of on that Importance which = want Of re-
teciion or passion may prompt on the other
| lou Rfeallied 10 man ofhonOf, Of talents aud
Of open, generous disposition You have there
fore 10 your power, all the essential ingredients
oi domestic happiness u cannot b, marrcd II
you now reflect upon that system Of conduct
which !Ou oggh, Invariably to pursue IL you
now see clearly the path from which you will re-
solve never TO deviate. Our conduct 10 often the
result of within or caprice, often such will give
us many pang, unless we see beforehand what
IS always most essential to happiness
The FIRST maxim you should follow Is never to
attempt TO control your husband 10y opposition
by displeasurc, or any other mark OF anger 4
man of sense, Of prgdcncc, Of warm feelings can
not, and will no, bear an opposition Of any kind
which Is attended with an angry lOOk or expires
sion. The current Of HE Affection IS suddenly
stopped his attachment is weakened he begins
~ iecl n modification the most pungcui lac IL
teliiilcd even 10 his own eyes, and he assured,
the wife who once cNciics ihOse sentiments in the
breast ui the husband, will never regain the
high ground which she might and ought to have
retained
Whsn he marries her ii he is a good inan, be
expects To find In her who is not 10 control
him-nut take from him the freedom Of acting
as his own Judgment shall direct but one who
will place such contilsnre 10 him ~ tU believe
that his prudence Is hi, best guide Little things
what are n reality Hcrr trilrs ia themselves us.
tan 4
er permit them to be- subject of dispute yield
them with pleasure, and with smile ofa;ieciion
lie assured that one Difference ou,-weighs them
al thousand ur ten thousand times 4 dilIef.
enee with your husband ought TO be considered
rs the greatest calamity--as ono that IL 20 be
siudionsly guarded agAins, il is demon which
must never he permitted to enter a habiiation
where all should be- peace unimpairrd confidence
aud heartfelt, affection. Besides. what can a wO-
man gain by opposition Or indifference? Nothing.
Hut She loses everything; she loses her husband
respects Tot her virtues she loses his love- and,
with that. all prospects Of future happiness -
She creates her own misery. and then utters idle
aud silly complaints, bu, utiers them 10 vain -
The love oi "a husband eau he retained only by
the high opinion which he iHieriains OF his wife,
goodncss OF heart, OF her Amiabe disposition. of
the sweetness Of her temper, Of her prudence, Of
her devotion TO him. Let nothing upon any oc.
easion, ever lesson that opinion On the contra.
ry It should augmen, every day he should
have much more reason TO admire her for those
excellent qualities which will cast a lusire over
viriuous woman when hef personal attractions
are no more.
Has your husbrnd s;aid cut longer than you
expected When he returns receive him as the |
partner Of your heart. Has he disappointed you
IN something you expected whether Of ornament
or furniture or Of any conveniency Never |
evlnce discomfort rec1ve his apology with cheer |
tulness. Does he. when you are housekeeper |
invite company without informing you Of IL, OF |
bring home with him frcindl Whatever may BE- |
your rcpasi, however scaniy IL may be- or how |
iinprac;ieable il may I've TO add 10 H. receive them
with pleasing counienanee, adorn your table /
Vista cheerfalness give 20 your husband snd |
company Hearty welcome IL will eyince .uv,
'nf your husband, good sense IN yorrseli, and |
that ioliiencss Of manners which acts "a the /
nosi powerful charm II will give L. ,hc plain.
csi fare Rest superior 10 .,i that luxury can /
toasi. Nevcr be- disconiru'"i IN any occasion
o; this nature
In the next plac, a. yuui husband success tn
hs profession viii depend upon his popularity /
aud as the manners of n ~iir have az iii;ic iniu.
cnce 10 extending ut .cssonin- 'i- r.si.cci aud |
esteem ~ Ushers iot h,t husband ,Ou should |
take care 10 he aiihr and polite to the poorest |
~ vel the fichrsi. \ rscr,ci haug ghtuess is y
suie Indication o; a wca, mind and gn.cciing |
heart.
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docs not deItnd upon wealth 40. u Is not TO be l
found ! wealth but in minds property TEN.
Pcrcd All united 70 CUT respective situations -
Competency Is necessary, all beyond that point /
ideal. DO not suppose however, tina, | would |
not advise your husband to augment his proper
~ by all honest and oommendable means | would
wish to see him actively engaged in such par-
sni' because engagement, scdulous employ
mrni, ia obtaining somc audablo end Is essen
,ial 10 happiness. In the attainment Of a fortune
by honorable means, man derives satisfaction
ia sclf-appausc, as well as from the increasing
estimation in which he is held by those around
him