Sunbury American. [volume] (Sunbury, Pa.) 1848-1879, 1867-11-23
IEhe Married Life.

Unhappy marriages, how frequently they
now occur. Each and all OF us have near
and dear friends whose married lives are
not happy ones. Sometimes We are prone
to think that the spirit of love deserts its
cap:ives as soon as the marriage ceremony
is performed. Still this cannot be, for ma
ny of our friends have long been married,
and each year of their married life seems
only to indicate their love for each other.
Hence VIC must believe that
True love, still born of Heaven, is blessed with
wings,
And tired of earth, it plumes them back again
thus do inortals lose it.
Nature seems to haye intended that all
welded couples should enjoy happiness.
Deprive the bird of the society of lis mate.
and watch the genuine sorrow that follows.
A dove is said to have left its nest and died
lingering death apparently, because its
companion had been killed by some thought
less boys. And the universal expectation
OF all young people is that their married
lives will be happy ones Deluded dream
ers They imagine that they are different
from other people, and that when they en-
ter the portals of matrimony, love, peace
and prosperity will ever be their attentions.
Such ones had better by far consider them
selves the same as Others, but form iron rcso-
lutions to do differently from other married
people; resolutions that will keep them
from the dangerous coasts on which so
many have been wrecked and ruined.
Unhappy marriages depend upon many
causes. In this fast age there is too much
deceit practced by the young Of both sexes.
Previous to marriage, many try to appear
more intellectual, more handsome, or more
ls-l, oil Il,
enough to appear well in each others So
cicty is in the highest degree commendabe,
and is always to he expected. All this can
he done and still no gross deception prac
ticed.
Disguised as it may be, all happy unions
must depend upon moral worth. Moral
worth has its orr gin and foundation in the
heart. and it alone can throw a lasting and
transparent lustre around the married life.
Wealth and honor alone combined cannot
bring happiness. But two loving hearts,
animated by pure and upright sentiments,
will form pleasant union in spite of the
lack of riches or rank. Depend upon it
that love brought into existence by q moon.
light stroll. strengthened by deceit and FASH
ionanle displays, and finally consummateG
through the influence of intriguing friends,
will fade in after life almost as fast as the
flowers which compose the biiGal wreath
Iiasty marriages, based upon pretended love,
are but mockery of disappointed hopes
and thwarted auticipations. Family affairs
erected upon unloying hearts are but vast
monuments of misery to those who are COM
PEELED to assemble around them.
Marriage is civil contract" II is q
reality and not poetical fancy. Men and
women are machines, and are all somewhat
alike. They are not the ideal images which
poets and novel writers would have us be-
leve. Our lovers are just about the same,
or perhaps not quite as good, as our bro
thers and sisters. Hence but few need ex-
pect perfect happiness after the wooing and
winning is over.
But disappointed hopes are not the only
cause for unhappiness at the freside.-
Wives and husbands are each apt to become
neglectful. Many a good husband has un'
consciously lost the love of his wife by in
| attention and carelessness. Their business
absorhs all their time ana attention. They
seem to think that if their wives have plenty
of money to spend they ought to be happy
! With some wives plenty of cash is the SIM
| qua non cf happiness; but, thank God il
| is not true of all. Some wives must bt
loved. A heart. felt kiss and an afiectionatt
good bye in the morning are worth more to
them than all the greenbacks in existence
We have heard of an old gentleman who fol
| fifty years never left home without the kis'
and Good bye. dear" and while his bom'
was typical heaven, peace and prosperit!
had always smiled upon his efforts in life.
Married life brings its joys and its sorrows
There seems to be less beauty in it than IL
the single state, but it is far safer |; it is NOR
ioyful, or more sorrowful, according to cir
cumstances. Happy marriages are mora
saving banks in community. Singh
Young men, especially, arc like a ship at Sc
without a rudder. To them it matters bu
little whittier they are carried. No helples
beings depend upon them for support n