The tri-weekly standard. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1866-1868, 1867-02-14
Boarding.

Halls Journal Of Health treats medically
of the effect of boarding. In enumerating
the evils of q boarding-house life, it says =
"The body becomes sleepy and dull; the
mind losses its elasticity and SION begins to
waste itself in worrying about the interest
trifes very little Inconvenience is magni
fed and looms up in mountainous proper.
TONS"
One of these called on US recently, lady,
veil educated, elegantly dressed and in per.
feet taste, and-mcreiy t., look at-any man
might be proud to cali her his wife. The
moment she entered our office she began to
whine at ar amazing rate, declaring that she
was in state of perfect physical and ment-
al prostitution. 1t was very natural for US
tn INQUIRE into the cause of such hopeless
condition. She was boarding. A generous
husband had surrounded her with every
thing calculated to afford her enjoyment
She had no children to annoy her. Her hus-
hand was at his place If business from 10 A.
NJ to 3 P. NJ, and the remainder OF his time
,ras al her service. She went to the races,
attended the opera, visited her friends; and
vet she pretended she was in perfect state
Of phvsicial and mental prostratlenl
Int this great gulf Of pertlition will they
arrive ut no distant day who arrange to go
II, boarding as seon as married, instead of
housekeeping. 4 more improbable mistake
rannet possibly he made by the newly mar
ried it is more mischieyous in winter than
in summer, for in warm weather the young
wife can walk on the street, or drive in the
mark. or visit among her friends, but in the
winter they are cooped up in one room, and
spend hours at the window-pane gazing list
aessIy out upon the street afraid of the cold
vet detesting the confinement, while q great
part of the tame, the husband being at his
business the mind of the young wife is the
prev of a thousand disquietudes. At one
time she thinks her friends are sighting her
at another, she becomes envious of others
who seem to I've able to dress more elegantly
than herself. and she begins to make unfav-
orabIe comparisons to herself and to her hus-
band as to their worldly condition, and she
becomes moody, or petulant, and complains,
and the husband wakes up to a new discov-
ery. and as unwelcome as it is new-that
his wife is not happy; not happy in him ;
not happy in herself not happy in her social
position. No man can doubt that in going
TO housekeeping, the prospect of a happy,
thrifty married life, is Enthusiastically more
promising than in the health and heart-de-
stroying practice Of living the first twelve
months of married life in hotels and board
ing-hsuses Very few young wives are safe
in any public associations. The papers
abound ia cases of infdelity to martial en-
gagements by lately married girls being
thrown into the society of men of leisure,
Their husbands being engaged in their bust
ness pursuits. The mere dandy, ioafer. or
gentleman Of leisure, has opportunities of
taste, and dress and address, above that of the
mere man OF business to turn away wo-
mans heart from her husband by the mere
fact of causing her at first, without implica-
ting himself, to draw unfavorable compari-
sons against her husband as to personal tidi-
ness. One of the most splendid weddings
that had ever taken place then, in New
York, resulted in a separation, and a broken
heart and premature grave within few
years. by the wifes continued twitting her
husband, when they were walking on Broad
way or CA the Avenue, about his want of
taste in the selection of his apparel "Why
don't YOU bow as Mr.. Blank does ?" His
gloves are in perfect taste: yours are such as
q countryman would select"
These things grew upon her, while they
alienated him, and living as they did at the
finest hotel in the city, with uncounted gold
at their command, and nothing to compel
their attention away from trifing things
their minds dWelt upon them, msgnifed
them, allowed them to see nothing else, with
the result of a separation under circum-
stances which were infinitely worse than
death, for then the grave would have closed
over every ssrrew, whereas life was spared
pith its long years OF agony.