The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1867-02-21
The Day after Marriage.


The following, both in sentiment and
fact, will find ready echo in the hearts of
most parents. 1t is from the Wide World:
The departure of q son from beneath
the paternal roof does not present any
spectacle of desolation. Masculine life
has from infancy an individuality, an indie
pendence, an exotism, so to say, which is
essentially wanting to female existence.
When son abandons his parents to Gre
ate for himself separate interest. this
separation causes but little interruption
in their mutual relations. A man marrles,
and still maintains his friendships, his hab-
its and his filial affections Nothing is
changed in life; it is only an additional
tie.
His departure is consequently mere
simple separation; while the departure OF
a young girl, to become the wife in few
hours, is real desertlon-a desertion with
all its duties and feelings fresh about it.
In one word, the son is a sapling which
has always grown apart from the trunk
while the daughter has, on the contrary,
formed an essential portion of it, and to
detach her from her place is to mutilate
the tree itself You have surrounded her
youth with tinspeakable tenderness-the
exhaustless tenderness Of your paternal
and maternal hearts; and she, in return,
has appeared to pour forth upon you both
am equally inexhaustible gratitude; you
loved her beyond all the world, and she
seemed to cling to you with proportion
ate affection. But one day, an ill-omened
day. a man affives, invited and welcomed
by yourselves; and this man of your own
choice carries off to his domestic circle
your gentle dove, far from the soft nest
which your love has made for her.
On the morrow you look around you,
you listen, you wait, you seek for some
thing which you cannot find. The cage
is empty; the tuneful linnet has flown
silence has succeeded to it's melodious
warblings; it does not come, as it did only
on the previous morning, futtering its
perfumcd wings about your pillow, and
awakening you by its soft caresses. Moth,
ing remains but painful calm, a painful
silence, painful void. The chamber OF
the absent darling offers only that disor-
der which is so melancholy for mother
to contemplate; not the joyous and impa,
tient disorder of occupation, but that OF
abandonment. Maidenly garments scat
tered here and there girlish fatcies no
longer priced; chairs heaped with half
worn dresses; drawers left partially open,
and ransacked to their remotest corners !;
bed in which no one has slept; a crowd
of charming trifes, which the J 5oung girl
loved. but which the young wife deSpises,
and which arc Uttered over the carpet,
like the feathers dropped by the linnet
when the hawk made the timid Bird Its
prey. Such is the depressing sight which
wrings tears from the mothers heart. Nor
is this all; from this day she occupies only
the second place in the affections OF her
departed idol, and even that merely until
the happiness of maternity shall have
taught her for whom she weeps to assign
to her one still lower. This man, this
stranger, unknown a few months, it may
be q few weeks previously, has assumed a
right over those affections Which were al
most entirely her own; few hours OF
Aceting; and it may even be of assumed
tenderness, have III small degree suificed
to efface twenty long years Of watehful.
ness, of care, of selfabnegation and they
have not only rent away her right to be
the first and beloved, but they have
deprived her of the tilial earesses, the gen
tie attentions and the adoIed presence oi
the hearts idol, whom she has herself
given to him for life. Nothing is lett tc
the mother but the attachment of respect
Ii she loves him, she leaves her home
without regret, to follow his fortunes tc
the end of the world; if she does not love
him, she will still perform the same duty
with resignation. Nature and laws alike
impose the obligation on her, and her owr
heart must decide whether it will tonsti
tu-c her Joy or her trial; but i'll either
case the result to the mother is the same
Nor can that mother reproach her witt
this painful preference, for she has rearec
her in the conviction of the necessity o
marriage; she has herself otfored to hel
its example in her own person.; heaven it
self has pointed it out rs duty whose
omission is culpable; and, therefore, FIJI
from ventuling to wish that the lost one
should restore to her all the tenderness
which time and habit may enable her tc
withdraw from her husband, the mother
is bound, on the contrary, to pray that
they may every day become dearer to each
other, and by each other, even at the ex
pense of her own happiness. This mis-
fortune is the mothers last blessing.
TENAc1TY OF L1FE.-A remarkable in
stance of the preservation of life without