Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1867-06-14

The real basis OF good manners Is A
kind and dsympathixing heart, by means
of which we are enabled to feel with
and appreciate others. This explains
why there is such difference In people
in regard to s'innafe refinement ~
Some people are better constituted nat
urally than others; are more susoepti-
BILE of development. - We all like to be
appreciated. There issno exception to
the rule; and we nll experience sem
sAtion Of modification when We feel
that we have been Neglected or treated
with ipdiherence. Nothing sooner
arouses the spirit Of Jealousy, which Is
20 predominant feature In human ma
ture, thansa sense, Of n0n-appreoiation
especially In persons who are gifted
with . sensitive nature. 1t is a COM
mon milling with all Of us to fancy
thatiwe are not adequately appreciated.
but not DO be appreciated at all Ia more
persons are so dull by nature that they
are incapable or appreciating With any
nicenAss the feelings Of Others. Such
persons are generally rude, and their
wit, If they have any, Is always Of the
offensive kind. Graham, one evening,
rafting away to Or. johnson and DIR.
Goldsmith, exclained, Doctor /
should be happy to see you at Eson. y
shall be happy to wait on you,u an
swered Goldsmith. mo- said Gra-
ham, 'etis not you I mean, DR. Minor;
'tis DIR. Major there.p srWhat effect
this had on Goldsmith, who was as
irascible as d 'hornet,u DR.. Johnson
used to add, says Boswell, "may easily
be conceived. Hd Graham was drunk
not an uncomm0n thing in those days
-even Bozzy got drunk--and for this
reason may be excused for his rudeness
but DIR. Jphnson's enjoyment of the
scene shows the rugged coarse nature
which marked him quite as much as
bis intellectual ability and broad cul-
ture.s It is o clear, evidence how re-
markable, the latter qualities must have
been that people could have endured
the sformerl We do not wonder that
Mrs Boswell entertained so poor nm
opinion of her husbands governor, y
particularly when the Doctor tipped up
the candle Intentionally and let the
GREASE run down apon tie carpet. Yet
the rough old royal brute was in the
main good man, and did many kind
things. He only wanted Ito be appre-
ciated up 70 thelpoint demanded by his
There arepeople who are notst pidbut
malicious, and therefore take pleasure
ia wonnding the, feelings of others, or
Ia gratifying themselves at theiexpense
or others. Such persons indulge I'm the
vulgarityof endeavoring to make butts
of Others, orin fthemean ness of talking
at people, or in introducing subjects
which must be aaaiapropos.
The two classes we have referred to-
the stupidity rude and the maliciously
rude--both need to be regenerated and
renewed. % Nothing less will enable
them either to appreciate or acquire
good manners. -
1--WE have often noti ced a point in Ell.
quette which seems expressly adapted
to the protection Of the rights of both
sexes. We allude to the custom which
requires the gentleman to return the
bow " hen d lady and gentleman, pre-
sumed dacquaiRtances, meet In thestreet.
The philosophy of the rule In this, for
there Is sound philosophy In manners
were the gentleman to bow, first II
would be In the power Of the lady to
ignore the bow, and thus Inortify the
gentleman, twho might have only i'm.
tended q politeness. The lady bowling
first, the gentleman, In Difference to
her, must return the bow; thus the
lady is1 protected. lFurther,a she Is
guarded, from the intrusion of impu-
dent men upon her acquaintance, and
men likewise are assured against the
rudeness of pert women liz the lady
does not bow, things remain as they
were !, neither is injured, neither can
take exception. Harper for Nay. a..