Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1867-11-01


their remarks upon mincralogy. He
told her of his cabinet, and his knowl-
edge of the science, and she, who had
heretofore talked brilliant nonsense
while everybody listened, was now a
pleased listener, remarking to q friend,
afterwards, that she "adInired him be-
cause lie could talk sensibly." Other
men could talk i'm the sameway, but
they had never used their power before
her.
. There arc some things that women
dislike. They dislike neckties of tho
huesof the rainbow. A plain black suits
ninety.nine women out of one hundred
like best, because the latter gives one,
to some extent, the air of a man-the
former the look of fop. They have
contempt for man who spends more
than very small amount of time
before his mirror, or takes look ut the
hang of his coat, or the ut Of his gloves
and pantaloons as he walks down
town. They can do all that Is ncedful
in that line. They expect to lean up
on men, therefore they dislike those
who are obliged to lean upon canes or
lamp-posts for support. Men who use
canes, other than because they are de-
orepit should get some nice, strong
minded woman to lean upon, whose
arm they can take. 1t is to he hoped
that employers willnoticc this growing
weakness among young men, and give
them longer mornings for rest. Wo-
men dislike smoking, notwithstanding
some young ladies affect to enjoy cigar
smoke, and "haven't the slightest Oh
lection to men smoking in their pres
ence." All men have not learned that
women can say great many things
they never mean. Women, with their
tact, are about as Opaque to men as
smoked glass, while men, with their
| frankness, are about rs transparent to
women as window glass. No clean wo-
man would ever kiss u woman who
smoked, for any amount of money that
might be offered her; nor would one
ever kiss man whose mouth was like
a spittoon in a hotel, did not his sex
! shield him. Give men the same at
fractions, one smoking, and the other
not, and I'm hundred cases out of a
hundred she will choose for husband
the one who never used tobacco. .arE
Women despise swearing or yulgarity,
the twin sister of profanity. No gen.
! tleman whose lips are tarnished by such
language should ever be caressed 10y a
pure woman, or 10y little children.
Such lips, like Tuner caustic. discoloI
all they touch. Men who tell obscene
stories, or talk in innuendocs, are not
worthy to he the pride or strength o
any woman.
i Women hate man who drinks in
toxicating liquors, whether In the shape
of choice wines in dainty cut-glasses,
or poor brandy In earthen jugs. You
viii say that the scenes enacted ut Sar-
atoga this summer have given the lie tC
this; that drunken women were almost
as common there as drunken men. Ii
IL SADLY true that some women with q
desire To be brilliant before men, to he
genial and friendly, with little respect
for themselves and still less for men,
with tight dresses and loose morals,
make themselves bcastlike. Much has
been said about women being examples
I to men in this respect, but If men are
the head, and women are to look uts tG
them for protection and knowledge
| then they must expect that women will
copy their doings. When, in thus inn
! itating, wives shall he drunk every
other night and every alternate night
spend in the unhaliowcd embraces o
some friend of their husband, men W i'll
begin To open their eyes upon the terri.
BILE wreck they are making of society
to-day. lt is true that wine has been
offered young men by the delicate
hands of women. God will never for.
give such, but If men half krew theil
manhood they woald have power TO re.
fuse, and be doubly respected. Men
seem not only unabled to refuse, wo
men, bat unable to refuse their own
sex; or, IL refusing, do it with "Noi
this time, thank you!h or, ~ am toe
busy just nUwp' so, living lie, and
killing their own influence over those
very parties at the same time. There Il
some appreciation Of truth and right In
the world. but very little brave stand.
ing up and doing better for 1t. Colonel
Clarke, Professor of Amherst College
Massachusetts, whose name was so well
known In the war, did A noble thing ri
u large dinner party given hy Edward
Everett. Being offered wine from that
gentleman's own hand, he refused 1t, to
the surprise and apparent Indignation
of all present. liz it was an open re-
buke to them, Ii was only adhering t.
the right! To such an act. by whome-
soever performed, all women feel like
kneeling.
Is Women dislike men who match pen.
nies, play humble. peg and marbles (al
three may be classed under the same
head, as much as men dislike women
! who play with raacdolis.
! Women have the most thorough con.
tempt for IA man who, Oh any occasion
| that offers, tries either to caTress her oi
slide his arm about her waist, or kiss
her after he has waited upon her home
Such man would steal her virtue il ht
4 dared, and, i'm majority of cases, goes
where those things are purchased rather
than stolen. Il would az quickly brand
as villain young man who took such
a liberty with sister OF mine rs ono
who had openly insuited her. Indeed,
this is an open insult, and whena lady
through fear OF losing his friendship
or for affection for him, receives IL, she
inwardly ceases to respect him, saying
with truth, eff he caresses me unlaw
fully, he does so 10 all others whom II,
can.'1 If woman does allow. it, sh.
must be verdant, or she is not to bt
trusted; but men have learned this, ant
never marry girl they can fondle be
fore she II their own.
II Women dislike man who pays com
lpliments. There is u young profcssiona
clIristian man, not ~ thousand miles
from Cleveland, who, though having ,
lovely wife, calls upon unmarried ladies'
talks to them about their bright eyes
winning ways, De-, thus making peo
Pre- ucffcNc tlat ue 10 citneT iooi vi
hypocrite. Married people cannot b,
too careful. Ii o married man wants I,
be thought 'perfectly splendid by al
the young ladies of tile town, let hin
be thoughtfully devoted to his wife
Let them see him put swawl abou
her sholders, a scarf about her throat
bring chair far her when she is stand
ing, take care lest she over.exerts her
self; let him make her. and all other
about her, feel that to him she Is TIL,
Ione woman of the world, and they will
be pointing him out as a model, ans
saying. as | have heard them say
"Wbat pity that all the nice men are
married! Ism she fortunate! j Wisl