The Louisiana Democrat. [volume] (Alexandria, La.) 1845-1918, 1867-01-30
Small Talk and Suggestions to
a. Husbands.

Small Talk and Suggestions to
Husbands.
From the Rochester IN. 70 Unionl
Dear me,,."I hope I don't intrude" when
offer little advice gratis tothe sterner
portion of humanity. Unaccustomed as ]
am to public speaking l find the present
task Illustrating in the extreme. I feel like
an archin who meditates an attack upon a
melon patch, longing, yet anxious. Now.
l p'tch into my own sex regardless of
consequences, and because Ifeel privileged
to do so, as am lone Of 'em."
but, notwithstanding; inasmnct as-but,
l feel that am treading on dangerous
ground, when I "pitch into man. the
@noblest work Of Godm Still, I hone a
few words will, like vaccination. "take !"
husbands should remember that weman's
sphere OF life, after she becomes 9 wife
that's rhyme, though I'm not a poet-ist,)
ls narrowed to her own homh. Custom and
society-the Mother Frundys Of ones OK
lstence-exact that a wife depends on her
half as an escort to all places Of amusement
amp otherwise.
Now, that, in my opinion, is decidedly
one.sided. / don't Ego inn for stronS.
mindedness, women's rights, petticoat gov.
eminent, or any such COMPOUNDED nonsense!
No indeed But do wish that females
could exercise more freedom of action than
the starehed principles Of pfopriety will
allow. However, l suppose they can't So
that's a useless wish. The only thinpto he
done is for the husband to be thohohtfn1
and attentive on all occasions. How many
wives become heartless and careless in
behavior through neglect on the part Of
the half. l- = -
1t is too true, that with some husbands
possession 'spoils the charm, and the fair
recipient of the lovers attention is often a
neglected wife before the first year has
passed. WHY'S this thus9 Because lovers
are too apt to look upon young ladies
whom they intend honOring by a change
OF name, as angels: This illusion Is pain.
fully dispelled after marriage.
They find the "angely only woman of
flesh and blood, who requires yards of
material for drapery, hoop skirts, water.
falls aud numerous bonnets dnrino thu
season, and who can talk nonsense and
gossip as fast as Patchen can trot! Women
are all angels inman's estimation before
marriage, hence the reason that their
halves oftimes wish them in heaven so
soon after. Now l think the making of a
good wife depends quite as much with the
husband as the training of the husband
does with the wife. -
In the first place it is the duty of the
half to confer with the wife on ali matters
Of Importance pertaining to business or
otherwise. Now do dare say some men
will turn up their noses at that suggestion,
for man labors under the pleasant delusion
thata woman knows nothing Of business.
Granted. But like the anxious servant
girl who applied for the situation Of wet
nurse-can't she learn9 Of course she can.
Sit down with your wife and talk to her.
Let her see that you really look upon her
as your companion
Remain home as much as possible in the
evenings. Talk to your wife sensibly and
truthfully at all times. If matters 90
wrong at your place Of business, don't vent
your wrath upon the innocent waterfall.ed
head ofyour wife. Be kind and gentle to
her. If she is inclined to be ugly and
snappish, try not to mend it; remember she
may have household annoyances to en-
counter which often ruiile the best Of tenn
pers. Watch your opportunity, and talk
to her gently and kindly show her In
what way she can please you most, and il
she loves you, shell do as you require!
Be attentive to your wife in the most
triAing thing, for triaes 90 to make the
most important matters Of our lives. A
good wife depends solely on her husband
for attention, and if you are wanting in
that, the result is generally one of two
things /; she seeks attention elsewhere, or
home is rendered intolerable by domestic
broils. Dear me, if you men would take
the same pains to please their wives which
you did to please their sweethearts, the
task Of rendering home happy, would be
as easy as rolling down stairs.
There Is one thing | must speak Of and
that is Some husbands rile their better
halves by paying more attention thai the
law Of marriage allows to Others of the sex.
Now, if there is anything that will raise q
wifes dander, it is to see her half spread
himself, and put {" toematum on his hair
for any woman excepting herself. Oh,
wouldn't / like to catch Thomas James
talking sweet to anything that wore hoops
and waterfall {? ! think there would be
small pieces Of skull and hair laying around
if I ever found out anything of the kind.
But Thomas James is all right, / can
trust him as far Us any woman can trust
her half, which is just as long as / can keep
my gimlet eyes on him. AS q parting ben
ediction, l would suggest that wives get
up an eleventh commandment, which they
shall repeat to their halves morning, noon
and night, in order to impress it fully on
their minds, Thou shalt love no other NO.
man but me-" Suggestively yours,
MADSE MOORE.
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