The Vinton record. [volume] (M'arthur, Vinton County, Ohio) 1866-1891, 1867-01-31
Suggestion to Husbands.

TO the sterner portion of humanity.
Unaccustomed as / am to public
speaking, i find.the present task
Illustrating in the extreme. | feel
like an urchin who meditates an
attack upon a melon patch, long
ing, yet anxious. Now, | pitch in.
to my own sex regardless OF conse.
quences, and because feel priv
legged to do SO, as am one of'em"
But, Notwithstanding, inasmuch
as-but, Ifeel-yes, Iteel that |
am treading on dangerous ground
when / "pitch into'' man, the "no-
blest work of Godp Still, | hope
a few words will, like vaccination,
take Husbands should remem-
ber that womah's sphere of life,
after she becomes a wife (thats
rhyme, though Pm not a poet-ist),
is narrowed to her own home
Custom and esociety--the Mother
Grundgs of ones existence--exact
that a wife depend on her half as
an escort to all places Of amuse.
ment and otherwise. sgibs.g aifJ
Now that, ipimy opinion, is de-
cidedly, one-sided. l don't go in'.
for, strong-minded women's.
lights, petticoat government, or
any such confounded nonsense |
No, indeed !l But | do wish that
females could exercise more free
dom of action than the starched
principles of propriety will allow.
However, | suppose tney can't, so
that's a useless wish. 1.-The only
thing to be done is for the husband
to be thoughtful and attentive on
an all occations. Howmany wives
become heartless in behavior
through neglect on the part of the
half 1t is too true, that with some
husbands possession spolls the
charm, and the fair recipient of the
lovers attentionis often a'neglect-
ed wife before the first year has
passed. Why is this thusa Be.
cause lovers are too apt to look
upon young ladies whom they in
tend honoring by a achange of same
as angels. This Illusion is painful. !
ly dispelled after marriage. 4 |
They find the 'angel'.only a w6. !
man of flesh and blood, n who re-
quires yards of material for drap7
cry, hoop skirts, waterfalls, and nu-
merous bonnets during the season,
and who can talk nonsense and
gossip as fast as 'Patchen' can
trot! Women ARE all angels IN
mans estimation before marriage
hence the rearon than their Us Of
tentimes wish them in heaven so
soon after. Now l think the max
ing of a good wife depends quite as
much withthe husband as the
training OF husband does with a
wife. In the first place it is the
duty of the ! to confer with the
wife on all matters of Importance
pertaining TO business and other
wise. % Now i dare say some men
will turn up their noses at that sug-
gestion; for man labors under the
pleasant delusion that woman
knows nothing of business. Gran
ted. But--like the anxious servant
girl who applied for the situation
Of wet nurse-can't sue learn? Of
course she can. Sit down with your
wife and talk to her. Let her see
that you really look upon her as
your companion. Remain home as
much as possible in the evenings.
Talk to your wife sensibly and
at all times. If matters
go wrong at your place of business
lon't vent your wrath upon the in /
locent waterfall-ed head of your
wife. j. Be kind and gentle to her.
f she is Inclined to be ugly and
try not to mind it; re- {
member she may have household |
lnnoyances to encounter which Of ]
en- ruffle the best of tempers.- $
Watch your opportunity, and talk !
o her gently and kindly; show y
Ter in what way she can please /
'ou most, and if she loves you, |
he'll do as you require. , '
Be attentive to your wife in the S
most trifling thing, for trifles go to
make the most important matters I
Il our lives. A good wife depends t
olely on her husband for attention '
nd if you are wanting in that, the t
esult is .genarally one of two
hings: she seeks attention else
vhere, or home is rendered intoler-
BILE by domestic broils. Dear me, q
you men would take, the same {
'ains to, please your wives which /
ou did to please your sweethearts, Q
he task of renderin Or shoma, hannu i