Lamoille newsdealer. [volume] (Hyde Park, Vt.) 1860-1877, 1867-04-24
GOOD MANNERS.

all--Bosto9, Journal.
GOOD MANNERS.
The following from Hsrper's Magazine
for May ID seasonabie, and will repay
attentive perusal -
".Manners make the man," says the ap.
ophthegm. We might add---the woman
also for there is nothing more attractive
than grace of manner, nothing more win.
ming than good.manners. We do not refer
now to etiquette, or the arbitrary customs
of society, which differ with every nation,
and sometimes differ in DETERRENT parts of
the same nation; though etiquette and
good.manners are frequently nearly allied.
Nor do we refer to what Mr.. Turveydrop
cllls "deportment;" nor yet to courtesy" !"
Department comprehends the whole exter-
nal expression of the individual, while
courtesy involves refinement. 70 have q
good department. one must have goodman
ners; but one will have higher deport-
ment who has courtesy. Every one may
have good rnanoers ; only the refined can
have courtesy. Courtesy was born Of
chivalry. 1t is generous virtue, and
can not live in an ignoble atmosphere,
The strength of maa and the gentlcness
of womon beeat courtesy, which since that
day has lived upon earth to elevate and
refine the relations of both.
The real basis Of good manners is O
kind and sympatbizing heart, by means
Of which we are enabled to feel with and
appreciate othera This explains why
there is such difference in people in regard
to "iunlte refinement" Some people are
better constituted naturally than others
ure more susceptible of development We
all like to be appreciated there is no ex-
ception to the rule and we allexperience o
sensation of modification when we feel
that we have been neglected or treated
with Indifference Nothing sooner arouses
the spirit of JEALOUSY, which is SO prelcm
ipant feature iu human nature, than
sense Of Mons appreciation. especially in
persons who are gifted with sensitive
nature. 1t is common failing with oil
of us to fancy the we are not adequately
appreciated /; but not to be appreciated at
all is more than philosophy can endure.
Some persons are so dull by nature that
they are incapable of appreeiating with
any nicepess the feelings of others. Such
persons arc generally rude, and their wit,
if they have any, is always of tho offeD-
sive kind Graham ono evening, rafting
away to DR.. johnson and DR. Goldsmith,
exclaimed: "DOctOr,l should be happy to
see you at Eten." II shah be glad to wait
on you," answered Goldsmith. "No,
said Graham, "'tis not you mean, Dr.
Minor : It's DR.. Ng6r there. "What
effect this had on Goldsmith, who was al
irascible asa hornet" Ilr johnson used
to adj, says Boswell, "may easily be con
ceiyed." Graham was drunk--not an un
common thing in those days; even Bozzy
got drunk--and for this reason may b,
excused for his ruJeuess but DR.. John
sons enjoyment of the scene shows tn,
rugged coarse nature which marked hin
quite as much as | Is Intellectual ability
and broad culture. 1t IS clear evidence
how remarkable the latter qualities mus
have been that people could have endure,
the former. We do not wonder that Mrs
Boswell entertained SO poor on opinion
of her husbands governor, particular.
when the Doctor tipped up the candle in
tentiohally and let the grease run dow
upon the carpet. Yet the rough old roya
) brute was in the main good man. an,
did many find things He only ,wanto'
TO be appreciated up to the point deman
ded by his vanity.
\ There are people who are not stupi
butmalcious. aud therefore take pleasur
10 wounding the feelings Of others. or i
gratifying themselves at tho expense Q
others. Such persons indulge in the vul
garity of endcavoripg to make butts 9
|, others. or in the meanness Of talkin
at people. or in introducing subjects whic
must We ma'aprcpos.