Fayette County herald. [volume] (Washington [Washington Court House], Fayette County, O. [Ohio]) 1860-1???, 1867-12-12

II there is ever a time In the M,
II men or women, when the soul
should bo kept unsoiled by aoydid
feelings, II is when they stand upon
the brink Of n great change. IL
cannot hut degrade the emotions Of
a new husband aud wife 10 come
down from the exaltadoh Of pure
resolves, TO count the cost Of their
presents, and compare the amount
with that received by Mr.. aud Mrs.
Smith at their bridal. II any gin
should be regarded with sacred
delicacy, they are Wedding gifts; q
public exhibition of them will wash
the dew from the finest nature; itis
such natures that should lead, In
stead Of following custom, That
coarse natures are corrupted by the
fashion, is proved by the acted lie
of hiring silver for pretended pres
ents,--a thing which Is done in
It is not generosity which is eul-
tivated by the exhibition, but an
unhealthy love Of appreciation Is
stimulated. This propensity has
its uses, but its abuses also when
human nature is so weak, it belongs
to the strong to guard from customs
which must sweep away the virtue
Of many. A young couple who
have not money enough to pay a
mouths boardi in advance, are load
ed with silver plate, which Is the
only stock ready for housekeeping,
and wholly unsuited to their cir
cumstances. A barrel of -four would
be Of more service than a gold-lined
soup ladle, but common sense is
one Of the most preposterous things
to be found in polite society, and
its monitions have grown 80 ludi-
crous, that one dare not venture
upon the eecentrieity of exhibiting
them. We do not want to go back
to the condition in which our grand
parents lived-a condition of undue
physical toll without relaxation or
intellectual development, but we
want people simple, brave and true;
increased culture sboHld develop
| individuality; instead Of this, the
7 tendency seems to be, to do every
thing # er the same pattern When
people meet together and think OF
\ the T" cloud of Witnesses who OBJ
serve them from above, rather than
4 from the dressing room, they will
conduct with such a true transpa-
rency, that there will be no social
Lives revealed at the judgment-seat.
! Life is made up of little things.
There is a minority of persons who
! take genuine pleasure in the custom
we condemn; these are some OF
the recipients, and those related to
them, and such individuals as may
possess ample means, and generous
| hearts, and desire to publish the
fact. Many sensible persons have
given allegiance to the fashion from
mere thoughtlessness; every per-
son has a responsible influence, and
4 does something towards strength
ening or weakening the prevailing
habits Of the aye We are not yet
allowed to vote, but every woman
who sets herself againsta a bad habit,
and uses her heart and mind in fa-
vor of all that is truly benevolent
4 and sensible, does a service to her
country Nothing addssuch abso-
lutte strength and beauty to the
> character as to have the standard
of fashion supplanted in the mind
BY that Of purest and highest right
S the very pain it costs us to with,
e stand allegiance from the standard
of our companions, is mellowing
h and elevating. We can differ from
c others with few words and sof'
I words; we can even see clearly tha
r Others can do conscientiously anC
d dEinnocently, things which have be
+, come totally wrong for us to do. no