The national Republican., 1867-07-24
REPUBLICAN,, WEDNESDAY MORNING.
why Young Men do Nes Marry.

why Young Men do Not Marry.
Rev. Robert Oollyer, the eloquent Uni
tartan clergyman, recently preached SER
mon in Chicago on "0ur Daily Bread, in
the course Of which he discussed social
questions, and explained why young men
do not marry: ...r.. .. ....
When one said lately in the presence OF
a frank, outspoken young woman in this
city that the reason why young men did
not marry was that their wives would not
be content to begin to live In homely
fashion, after they had been raised in lux
ury, she replied: "The woman is quite as
willing as the man to do that, and know
Of no woman in the circle Of my acquaint-
ance who would not be content, for the
sake OF the man she loved, TO cast her lot
with him and make his interest in every
way her own" believe the young woman
spoke the truth. When hear man liv-
ing in chambers and constant in his attend
ance ut play and opera say, 81 dare not
marry, because know no woman would
be content to live as one should have to
live" say to myself it may be true, but
IL looks very much like old Adam, who
ate the apple and then turned around and
iulu tnt Oh tiit WOluuhs ltt thib
be as il will. Here is the dismal fact star
ing us everywhere in the face, and in no
place more painfully than in our own city,
that for social, conventional, or still worse
reasons, the best youth Of the country is
held back from its most sacred duty as
well as its most perfect felicity-falls into
that sad mistake Of q long engagement, in
which the pain and disappointment bear
hardest always on the woman; or the young
man shuts his eyes and his heart when the
spirit, walking among golden lamps, whis-
pers to him OF some maiden, "That is thy
wife," and says, mo, not yet for many
year to come" and so marries at last way
on in life, when both lives have become
set in their own fashion, and their love is
hardly long enough to give them the kindly
mutual forbearance toward what is dis
similar in character and disposition until
they can become
Selfreverent and reverencing, each
Alike in individualities,
and SO the best Of the days of the best Of
our youth go by, and find 81 dare not
wait upon IL would"
In the name Of all that is sacred, ask
why this is, and set for my answer 1--WE
cannot afford it." The young farmer can
afford it on the prairies, the miner on Su.
perior, the woodman on the peninsula, the
carpenter on his bench, the smith at IL
anvil, the operative at his frame or loom,
the 'longshoreman and the sailor. That
cluster Of men down there in Pennsylva-
nia and those in Yorkshire, who as mere
youths were with inc long years ago, lost
no time and asked few questions, because
some right instinct told them they must
do that or worse-worse in any way and
every way they could look at it; and SO /
can remember, as il it were yesterday, how
speedily these found the wife and went to
housekeeping in one room or two, as they
could manage it, and made the hammtr
ring with new music, and gradually got
their house and household goods and the
world has never failed them; no, not for O
day; but through dark future and bright,
and sickness and strength, they have found
the deepest experiences Of their life, each
with the other, for great heart and inter-
prefer go together on this pilgrimage, and
now they see their children coming up to
manhood and womanhood about them,
with the freshness Of their own youth, tell
the deep content Of life ordered after
the fashion God gave them when he ere
ated them man and woman.