The Manchester journal. [volume] (Manchester, Vt.) 1861-current, 1867-12-24
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. ENANAt'lAhAnf att.ItAttNttHH AhtatAeF'f'.tNf
line. No parents can mould aud fash
ION the course and characters 81 their
children % the higher types of honor
and goodness, unless they baye main
tanned kind bat firm government in
+ the home circle. Nor viii the various
members of the family love and res
pect each other unless each has q just
regard for the position and rights Of
all the others
The father has his sphere, duties,
rights and responsibilities, so has the
mother, ~ the sons and daughters,
and each and all others connected with
the family. There must be some well
understood regulations to be observed
or confession viii ensue The child
/ has rights. as well as the parent; and
servant as well as the master or mis-
tress, and their rights should no more
! be invaded than those of parent or
master, otherwise the government be
comes oppressive and unjust, rather
than of right and moral force You
take from "a child, forcibly, what really
belongs TO him, or compel him TO ser
yico not properly his own, simply be-
cause he is child-and you compel
him and you foster in him the worst
Of passions, destroy his respect for you,
and lay the foundations Of oppression,
injustice and wrong in his character
If restraints and exactions are made,
considerably, upon the younger and
more dependent members, will all the
more cheerfully yield due respect and
obedience to those whose right it is to
direct and control True, the exact
line of duty may not always be precise
| " defined; but parent understanding
each ones sphere, will be quite suflic-
lent to those disposed to do right
And if any question or dissatisfaction
arise, the head of the family can decide
and set it right.
That love is always the nobler and
better which is mingled with respect. r
Parents must make themselves respect
ed by their children, if they would Sc
cure to themselves the purest and best
of filial alfec ton. Unless they are re-
spected, they are not likely to be obey
ed; and, what is quite as bad, ifho does
not respect his parents, he will not res
pect himself or others; his moral sense
become weakened, and the rame-work
of n disssolute and vicious character is
rapidly constructed. 1t is the duty Of
the parent to see that his person, his
character, and his authority be respect
ed in the family. not for his own sake
more than for the general good, and
the welfare of each particular member
But let It be understood that no father
or mother can be respected, or secure
good order in the household by scod-
ing, blaming, threatening or furnishing;
no exhibition Of passion, or arbitrary
exercise Of power will do it. This may
make a parent feared, and secure a
reluctant obedience, but nothing more.
There may be passion, but no control,
and no government follows, and no re-
spect.
In order to be respected, one must
deserve respect Not oven father or
mother can long be respected, unless
their character and conduct command
it. 1t is one OF the saddest pictures in
all that sad gallery of unhappy house
hold life, where children cling with in
stinctiye affection to parent and try
to respect but cannot, because of that
parents many faults. Yet a family
must be taught--taught this as well as
other things II is not enough to say
"They ought to know how to act, and
what TO say, without being told. They
must be told. II child speaks improp-
erly, his attention should be called to IT.
He did not, perhaps, consided how il
seemed or sounded II he persisted Il
should be more seriously impressed On
his mind. Be sure the fault, whatever
il be, be corrected at once Tares dc
not root themselves out, nor die till they
have ripened hnrtful seed. Rules, and
laws, and regulations need not all th'
time be talked about But when fore
eetfullness or disregard Of these, dis
turbs the domestic harmony, then SEE
to it that the remedy be speedily apph
, ed.
Good order viii restore happiness Z
the household. Respect and affection
, intermingled, mutual night REGARDED
and duties done, will secure peace, VIZ
tue and prosperity to the family
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