The Charleston daily news. [volume] (Charleston, S.C.) 1865-1873, 1867-08-02
Conversation OF O Party OF New York La
dies with Mrs. Brigham Young, Jr.

dies with Mrs. Brigham Young, Jr.
A lady correspondent Of the New York World
reports conversation between party of ladies
and Mrs. BRIGHAM YOUNG, JR., at the st. Nicholas
Hotel. Tho letter is piquant and interesting, and
without vouching for it's truthfulness, We copy the
following paragraphs:
Now this wife question being the ono We are
particularly interested in in fact the object Of
our visit, we made the best Of our opportunity OF
putting questions. "Now, Mrs. Young, did you
ever See wife really, truly, Enthusiastically happy
who had to share her husbands affections with
another woman or other women2" we asked, III o
tone Of great eagerness She playfully said some
thing about real, true, unalloyed, unmitigated
happiness being a rare and unexceptional thing. !.
Was she diplomatist2 was that the way Of
turning our attention from the subject in hand
'sAre all the married gentlemen OF your acquaint-
ance blind to all the beauty lying about them, or
are they proof against it, and do they all live beau
tifg exclusive yes% or course % we admitted the
ty-how could We do otherwise, when it is we'll
known? She asked: 'sDo their wives know it Z"
"Yos, sometimes it comes to light; often they sus.
pect it when it is never Prevedl but put then " what
that ?--wp think that everything that hurts the
husband hurts true vile, and none OF you will
surely maintain that it does not injure man NOR
ally to be guilty ofdecet-of systematic and sustain
Cd falSenOOQ. NetnlnK Cnat1I WOulu duecG oven MS
childreps children, and his furthest neighbors for
not only has every act it's rays Of influence but his
moral attitude is affecting others for good or ovil
whether ho sleeps or whether he ploughs. Now,
inasmuch as man is not exclusive in his tastes
and it is for wise reasons that he is not so-we
must not try to make him confor n to our idea Of
his needs or his destiny at the risk making him
30 weak as to give in to us, or SO can as to de-
ceive U.s." "But man mustn't make conform to
his ideas of our needs and our desh :" said the
zll., rhnv, r0Fn~ {n hnfp,,
''Man does not do it my dear. replied 8, Young.
"Woman's sphere is destined by n, re, The
civilizations of tho world are unanim, on that
point, no matter ON what else they may n; her
sphere is power; her destiny to replel-. h tho
earth, This, ii women would only realize it, is a
high and noble destiny. 1t is the one ambition of
the Norman wifo to be mother in Israel. Our
children are all pledges of love to our husbands,
and jewels in our crowns Of honor as wives.
"But, arc not the wives OF one man Often jeal
Gus Of each other Z" asks tho irreprcssiblo young
Miss. Sometimes; but it is not q feature of our
domestic life," Madame replies. s"The wives OF
| each household arc rs sistcrs-sisters in family
and in faith They sometimes indulge in little
playful rvalrios as to who will get the first kiss or
who can pull him or coax him away from the 9th.
ors; but as rule they always give precedence to
| the first wife. Tho ladies Of overy gentleman's
household not only afectionate one to another,
but they are courteous to point of etiquette not
often witnessed among the ladies of the best So
ciety ho1e,"
Ono Of tho ladies asked if their politeness was
not the result of despair-f they wore not 30 Sub
dued" that acquiescence to everything or anything
was natural. Sho replied that they all entered the
state OF matrimony knowingly; that no force OF
persuasion, beyond what lovers were won't to enl-
ploy ell tho world over, was ever brought to bear
on any one; that the demcanor of women was
about tho same after that it was before marriage;
if it was subdued first, it, as rule, continued 80,
if tho woman remained without children; if she be-
came mother, she was very likely to assert her
self. That life in o community OF industry like
theirs was not just tho one calculated for senti-
mental moodiness and saint-like subdued airs.
They were too practical for that; and besides the
only women who might at all feel themselves njur-
cd were the first wives of converts, to whom the
| thing was strange and who, preparatory to leav-
| ing tneir own country, made their husbands prom
Use that they would never take unto themselves
any other wives. These men, under increased
light, and sustained by public sentiment, and led
on by pubic example, often insisted on their
rights, and SO convinced their wives as to make
| them wiling but it was but natural to suppose
that among such diversity OF people and of nation
some of them, not so well grounded in the faith
would afterwards regret having given their
consento.but oven their regret wore off in
greater amount Of happiness than did Gentle
settlements of equal or greater advantages
The cause of this was doubtless three-fofd-
first that the people were united reigiously
secondly, the households were individually so
united; thirdly, the public opportunities for
and arc made 80 prominent. The theatre is 0
place Of nightly resort. The schools occupy
good deal OF the time and attention OF the people
for children arc feature of the place. The
bathing, horse-racing and social visiting comes
in, and attending lectures, going 10 church, boat,