Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1867-11-01
What style Of a. Man Ii
Attractive to Women.

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All men, unless there are some who
have no sclf-respect, desire TO be at
tractive to women, and use various
means to accomplish IT. One swHgs 4
cane, wears fancy neck-ties, buys the
latest styleof hat, whether able or not
puts his feet into thin, shiny, tight
boots, and iancies, ala n. 4. WINS
that he is winning hearts.
Another talks largely about business,
MS plans, his speculatlons, htS travels,
ana ms common sense, thinking tlia'
after he has impressed women with
sense of his greatness and their little
ness, that half the victory is won.
Another raises his lat about foot
from the head OH windy days, anu bows
his body about three leet toward the
earth; rushcs to pick up hahdkerchlei
as though the fair owner was drown
ing and he was about to save her; ncv'
er speaks of any matter but what he
supposes will please her, and he almost
invariably suDposes wrongly puts
compliment here and there; ignores lhe
fact that there are vital Interests To ootil
ss regards society, city, and country,
ana talks of the last concert, tileatrc,
opera and marriage. Neither SEX eveI
mentions babies. 1t is unfas hiona6lt
to be seen showing any interest III them
aud by-andhy, the whole thing Is be-
coming SO questionable, we shall nave
40 American children, except lew
born in the extreme country, or III
back alleys, whose mothers did not
learn the fashion i'm time. Neatly tht
whole population will be Dutch ano
Irish.
Another, works hard nil the week
boards In cheap place that lie may
save five or eight dollars, spends two
for concert, three for ride, and three
more for supper, using that dollar he
took from the employers drawer so as
to have a surplus i'm case of an emer.
gcncy, paying all this for girl, who
accustomed TO il for q half-dozen years
from half-dozen sources, never ex-
presses or feels any gratitude. He
keeps his pockets full of confectioner.
les TO be generous, and this young lady
and that say, "lsn't IL fun to ride with
Smith?p but never say, Wouldn't IL
be fun to get Smith for husband!'
They say, rather, 81 don't believe he
will support wife very well; he spends
too much!" There Is much sentimen.
tai talk and sentimental affection, and
really much pure love, but young wo'
men, for the most part, have, and right.
ly, too, "tbread-and-butte side 81
the question, and are always asking
"Can he support me?'
Some men, in the above way, and
some I'm higher and better, are doing
these things with one aim, viz: tne adj
miration of society, which is to say the
admiration of women. That women
like some of these things, is not for q
moment disputed. They like q neatly
kept nee k, a well-combed head, good
fitting boot. They like 10 have a man
talk just enough about himself TO sllO "
that he has some sense and some busi
ness power. They like hat raised
slightly, and bow As though men hon
ored the sex because they had mothers
or sisters, or wives. They like to have
man occasionally give them an inex
pensive ride, or take them to concert
or supper, if they, by so doiug, are
not going beyond their means; but they
never respect him for doing that. In.
deed, they think men really foolish
lacking sense and Judgment, in spend
ing so much upon them when it should
be saved for a family In the future, th,
head of which every man living eX
poets some time to be. They like I
man who talks to them as though they
were intelligent human beings, or al
though he desired to make them such
who Introduces science, or art or trav
ell. Whatif they are not conversan
with such matters, you cannot afford ett
dwarf your mind 10 make it cofnpan
ionable with theirs.
An erroneous idea has ,crept into so
ciety, that IL is not polite to speak up
on any subject with which the other j.
not familiar. 1t may be thus between
nien and men, and wofnen and women
but never between the sexes. Every
man of knows ulaS women
are like children in this respect-glat
to learn, lad to be made the recipients
of knowledge, proud that sensible, edu
Gated men take time and pains to talk
with them sensibly. Men might feal
that women would feel a sense of shame
ut their ignorance; ON the contrary
they pacify themselves by saying, "W,
are women. and, therefore, not expect
ed to know such things.n | was at
tea. table where an edIeated youna
man happened 10 mention Cicero. Til,
hostess, "a lovely woman, aud an excel
| lent housekeeper, presided with rea
grace at the neatest Of tables, inquired
aWho?u as though the name wa
strange to her. He, with o manly
Kindness, in way that never ilItimat
ed that she was ignorant, spoke of TIN
great orator. and Of the exciting time,
| i'm which he lived and acted, aud thus
Roman history was made q delightful
topic of conversation.
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