The Fremont weekly journal. [volume] (Fremont, Sandusky County, Ohio) 1867-1877, 1867-11-22
w eddings.

Faith, in the Independent, discour-
ses thus of "Weddings::"
Did any of you ever think of an in
slant what reason prompts nine-tenths
of the girls to marry, anywhere from
eighteen to twenty-five? Is it because
they are ''dead in love" with the OBJ
ject of their choice? "Nothing of the
sort;" rather from this truth-that
they'd "die before they'd be old maids"
Then, too, it's grand, nice thing to
have an elegant new wardrobe, not to
mention the sensation they would make
when they are married. Shame colors
my cheek at the remembrance that my
own sex are not truer to their higher
principles in this matter. And, much
as l dislike to say it, will, in justice,
to the race, affirm that more men mar
ry for love than women. The grand
mistake of both parties is this: They
marry for halcyon days alone; they
think of naught but the ruby y-hued joys
they may quaff while the sun shines.
The evil days--when the bright cheeks
are pale, the teeth gone, hair thin and
gray-are not reckoned as part of their
lot. They query not of their own
hearts, "Is your love and devotion wide
and strong enough to endure to the
endp No: it's not these thoughts that
fill their minds. Its our house or car
riage, the servants we will keep now, or
some time, when the papas die and
leave the pockets. Isn't it SO, girls and
boys9 The woman rarely hears the
'still small voice" that asks, Should
your husband prove unsuccessful in his
future business career, could you with
bonny sweet smile, say, "Never mind;
we'll climb the hill together; and, do
ing your part well, make life blessing
to both? No; she doesn't entertain that,
or the still more important query, 'If
temptation assail the partner of your
joys and sorrows, and he, proving weak,
fall into error, is there love and devo-
ton enough to sustain you without
flinching till you win him back from
sin and dissipation ?" The conflict will
be fearful and long; hence, be prepar-
ed, my sisters, to conquer in these
struggles, if they are sent upon you,
ere you promise to Glove, honor and
obey" And the husbands he quite
sure that, if the wife fades early and
loses much of her girlish beauty, or if
the hand of disease is laid heavily up
on her, and she becomes lifelong in
valid-is this man sure he can resist
the tempter and remain devoted to his
early love! appear, answer man and
wife" We young folks are not wholly
to blame; nay, indeed. Our fathers
and mothers are greatly at fault. They
bring us girls up to suppose that we
must marry and start in life just where
they are ending it, and that it would be
positive abuse to permit US to wed a
man who would allow us to keep house
in anything less than two stories, with
the same number of hand-maids.
Well, there are not many of us who
could do with less; for the proportion
is small of those who know how to per-
form well the slightest household duty.
Save your hands, girls; always dress
up early in the morning, and keep so
all day, lest you fail to marry fortune.
The boys are no better of. A family
is deeply afflicted if their promising son
their hope, Joy and pride-casts ap
admiring glance even on an honest girl
who sustains herself. No style, no for
tune, "No nothingp "Spare us this
disgrace, my sonr' And he generally
complies, and marries Flora, the dear
girl who has "nothing to wear" No
matter if the pas and mas did use to
work; that's by-gone-so let it remain.
Oh, indeed, there's SO much to say that
one needs huge book wherein to place
it all, and l tremble lest I've already
wearied you with that which l assure
you is meant only in kindness. But I
leave you now to your own reflections,
hoping some grains of good may fall in
rich soil, and bring forth some tempt
ing fruit