The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1867-10-17
Husbands at Home.
A RAoY SKETCH FOR THE LADIES.

le pondent Of the Louisville Courier, address
W the following to Mr.. 'Yub a DAM The
. are many ladies, we dare say, who thin
,. with Mrs. Spangle if they do not..speak GU
/. To them this letter will be a great treat
first met Spangle at a country fair w
g were introduced to each other about
J. o'clock in the morning. and, if you will bt
. lieve me, did not get chance to speak
any other gentleman that day. | neve
saw fellow SO struck at first sight. don
r think he saw horse, or 10 fact any thin,
Il that was on exhibition that day but me
although there were present many of tn
e most beautiful and accomplished young la
D dies of that section Of the country. AS h
: was extremely good looking, of good famiI,
and Of unexceptiona habits and character
. |, of course, felt fattered by his marked
preference. had to take him to dinner
and introduce him to pa and ma and the
whole family. He made a good impression
In fact Spangle can shine when he tries
remember the fact with pride Well, it is
J the old story. He became infatuated, and
obtained my permission to visit ME at my
home and spend day there in just two
weeks from the day we met. During these
two weeks received daily long letters from
Simon, closely written and cross written
q wish had kept them.) At length the
day of his visit arrived, and 10 and behold.
the servant girl awoke me in the morning
with the pleasant information that Spangle
was waiting for ME in the parlor Here
was lover for you
Well, well. AS said before, it was the
old story ever recurring, ever sweetly told,
and ever listened to by willing ears. Suf-
flee it to say that from that day | saw no
peace until | became Mrs. Spange Our
honeymoon was, suppose, like all honey
moons, short and delicious.
| And then came the realities of life 1t is
my belief that this is the most trying period
| of wOman's life. However kind and atten-
tive her husband may be, young wife
when she enters upon the actuaities of
life, has disclosed to her a state of facts of
" Lich she had little or no conception before
marriage. When she leaves an atmosphere
of romance and adulaton and enters upon
the realities Of life, it is like stepping out of
garden Of summer flowers into the regions
of perpetual winter, and unless she brings
all of her good sense and philosophy to her
aid her affections will become chilled and
she viii! regard herself disappointed, if not
a deceived woman, for the rest of her life |
1t is the hope that our experience may be of
benefit to young wives that induces me to |
reveal some Of the domestic incidents and |
iufeicties Of twelve years of married life |
After our brief holiday, SpangIe-to use
his own expression q tilt at the world
determined not only to wrest from it COM
petence but fortune, that would place me
in the most beatitic attitude to be obtained
by opulence.
The dear fellow did work hard, and il he
met with obstacles, and difficulties, and tri-
ais, the world never knew it. He reserved
them for his Preside, and, although he did
not accuse me as the cause, yet he recount.
ed them in {. tone manner so different
from the joyous and buoyant language of
courtship, that | could but feel | was some
way or other accountable for his troubles
Although | never seriously doubted his love
for me, yet he certainly permitted many ex-
cellent opportunities for manifesting it to
pass unimproved. Before we were married,
he seemed to have perfect mania for hold
ing my hand, aud used to wonder if he
would ever give me an opportunity to do
auy needle work after marriage. Bot, bless
your SOUL after marriage. when opportuni-
ties for indulging in that delicious pastime
were abundant, it seemed to have lost its
charm. Poor, foolish me! | was often
grieved at his apparent GOODNESS, and would
ask him twenty times a day it he did not
love me. "Why, certainly do, my dear
little puss; thought you knew it." Yes,
he thought knew it! Perhaps I did. /
also knew that we had plenty of -four and
bacon in the pantry, but that knowledge did
not satisfy my hunger.
1t is true that this affection manifested
itself spasmodically with all the warmth
and ardor of the old days, but these ebulli-
tons were the exceptions. The rule was,
81 thought you knew it." Yes, girls when
you get husbands thew will expect you to
know IT, and my advice to you is, that yon
get all the counting you want before you
are married, for after that event what little
counting is done in the family will have to
be done by the wife.
We have six children, all beautiful and
good Spangle takes great pride in them,
loves them, and growls at them like dear
old bear. You must not think that Span
gle regards the ''new comers' as burdens
Quite the reverse. He goes into ecstacies
over each one; diates upon it's beauties and
to think it ought to be laid away to grow
up, and be no further trouble to him until
they want to marry. If one of them has |,
the beIlyache and cries at night, SpangIe
thinks that the pain is special hardship to
him, because it keeps him awake q few
minutes. The fact is undeniable that the
best men are selfish brutes SO far as babies
are concerned.
al, 3 III Al Il. |
dren have Spangle is the biggest baby.
'Ts true he was through most of the all
ments have enumerated before | got him,
but II Q thousand other respects he still is,
and always will remain in that chronic
state of babyhood which ever attends over
INDUCED and spoiled husbands When we
first married, my old baby would almost
break his back to pick up my fan, and he
would kill fly in minute if the fly mani
tested disposition to alighC on my nose.
Now have to almost literally dress him
in the morning. have to get his boots to-
gether, one of which he generally kicks IN
der the bureau, the other under the bed. |
always have to find his cravat. If 20 to
bed first, in the morning find his clothes
scattered across the floor as only man can
scatter clothes. He would never put on a
clean shirt if IT were not spread on chair
before him. His sleeve buttons are taken
out and put n by me, when taken out aud
put in at all. I do not believe he has
combed his own head since we were mar
ried. He can't even wash his face properly
without being told, like any other child. If
[ did not wash him, his ears and the back
of his neck would be sight to behold.
Albeit he has no patience for others who
have pains and aches, yet you ought to see
him when anything is the matter with him.
He tears, and groans, and grunts over
slight attack of collie in manner to keep
every one awake in the house At such
times he always believes he is going to die,
and will not suffer me TO leave him for
moment.
Yet with all bis faults well, you know