Gold Hill daily news. [volume] (Gold Hill, N.T. [Nev.]) 1863-1882, 1867-01-05
KEEP UP FAMILY r1rs

perience that is utterly wasted by the
separation in habits, feeling and society
Of the aged from the young, and parents
from children. The impatience OF
many young men to get away from
home, and from the home circle, cuts
t,co ways; it reflects on the parents for
not having made the home life more at
tractive, and it still more augurs i'll for
the future prospects of that impatient
youth who longs to get away from the
eve and from the heart Of family ties
and regard. It is still more dangerous
| for young women thus TO long n to
act against the counsels and wishes OF
the family head.
No doubt it sometimes makes Q youth
strong to be thrown upon his own re-
sources, and often outwardly both man
" and successful; and where such steps
are taken under the family and parental
counsel, it is generally the best thing
for giving self-dependence. But where
there is already too much Of that, 1t
produces an impotence Of control and
an immaturity that are certain to pro-
duce an after weakness and crudity in
the plans Of life rarely recovered from,
and which family counsels would have
supplied. Comte, the great French
philosopher, comes round to the Chinese
| idea, which is the most ancient, that
the family is the centre and essence OF
all civilization. Naturally a youth
should be a member of his W home
circle till prepared to 60 out from it
with the full parental blessing, to form
the germ of a new and independent fam
ily. All the artificial arrangements Of
boarding, and especially of young men
or women leaving their homes and club
bling together without family ties and
restraints, are dangerous and mischiev-
Gus, because a deviation from the great
laws of nature. They may and should
be remedied in part as circumstances al
low, but the closer to nature the nearer
to right.
The company Of ones W family is a
thing that nothing can quite supply the
place of. No doubt other company is
good, too, at times. Even a lively and
pretty cousin will make a young man
spruce up and put on his best manners
as a sister cannot. But for a constancy,
a sister and the company of the home
| circle, where the character and habits
| Of all are known, is safer and happier
for a young man than any other. 1t
saves from dissipation and bad but fas-
cinating company-from extravaganza
in dress, which is now the ruin of thous-
ands of both sexes. There is a purity,
q moderation, and a character about the
home circle that would ave thousands
of our smartest young men from lives
Of dissipation and early graves, of ruin
and dishonor. Besides, it preserves the
life of the old. Parents, whose chill
dreu have gone from them, feel that
they have nothing to live for. No so
ciety is like that Of their wi children ;
no interests bind them to life so much
as watching for the prosperity of their
family, and advising and blessing the
plans of the young with the experience
and assistance of aged wisdom and the
weight of influence.
The business experience Of the aged
brings with it a double security and
honor to the young. It is a great thing
to be the architect of ones own fortune.
But it is a safer and still more estima-
BILE thing for a parent to feel that he
has a wise son to inherit his wisdom
and experience and property, and carry
out his plans. A fathers counsels,
even where somewhat dogmatically
given and pertinaciously old fashioned,
it is no disgrace to a son to submit to
and respect; and few are willing to make
sufficient sacrifices in youth fully to ex-
haust the utilities and design of family
ties. The old fable Of the bundle of
twigs and their strength is seldom ap-
preciated by young America.
In marriage this is remarkably the
case. By all mea let it be, first Of all
and above all, the union of two good
hearts, by their W choice and love.
Yet of the twenty young women which
most young men feel in the course Of
experiences that they could make them
selves happy with, that one that the pa
rents already love by anticipation, and
| long for and counsel-that brothers and
sisters will unite in giving the warmest
welcome to as a member Of the family
| circle-that is the oas who will bring
with her a dowry of blessings and good
will and respect and elevation that will
make a man always proud Of his wife,
and happy in her, whatever may betide.
In this sense a perfect marriage is a new
union of all ages.
In religion itself, while each one must
ever act with a supreme regard to con-
science and to duty, yet it is a great
| advantage to have such views, plans
and social worship as shall unite the
whole family in one. Religious az
tremes tear families apart; but that
piety which binds all in love and charity
which restraints all cursing and swear
ing and bitterness of speech in old and
young, and unites all in praises, prayer
and effort-thst family religion is the
truest and most acceptable to the Au-
thor of our being.
HUSBANDS AND WVEs.-Men should
-. .La;. v;vae In all matters of i'm