The Shasta courier., 1867-02-23
small Talk and Suggestions to Husbands.

Dear me, = hope L don't intrude" when
l offer little advice gratis" to the sterner
portions OF humanity. Unaccustomed as |
am to public speaking, | find the present
task Illustrating to the extreme feel like
an urchin who meditates an attack upon
melon patch, longing, yet anxious Now, |
pitch into my own sex regardless of conse.
quences, and because | feel privileged to do
so, as | am lone of 'em." But, notwith-
standing, inasmuch as-but feel yes, |
feel that am treading on dangerous ground
when | "pitch into" man, the "nobest
work of Godl" Still, l hope few words
WILL like vaccination, take" Husbands
should remember that woman's sphere of
life, after she becomes a wife THAT'S rhyme.
though m not poet-ist) is narrowed to her
own home. Custom and society-the Mother
frundys OF ones existence-exact that a
wife depend on her half as an escort to all
places of amusement and otherwise
Now that, in my opinion is decidedly one
sided. don't go in" for strong minded
ness, women's rights, petticoat governments,
or any such confounded nonsensel No in
deed But do wish that females could ex-
ercise more freedom of action than the
starched principles Of propriety will allow
However, | suppose they can't, so that's a
useless wish. The only thing to be done is
tor the husband to be thoughtful and atten-
tive on all occasions. How many wives be-
come heartless and careless in behavior
through neglect on the part of the ID 1t
Is too true, that with some husbands posses
sion spolls the charm, and the fair recipient
OF the lovers attention is often a neglected
wife before the first year has passed. Why
is this thus? Because lovers are too apt to
look upon young ladies whom they intend
honoring by change of name. as angels =
This illusion is painfully dispelled after mar
riage.
They find the ''angel' only woman of
flesh and blood, who requires yards of
material for drapery, hooped skirts, water
falls and numerous bonnets during the
season, and who can talk nonsense and . gos-
sip" as fast as - Patchen" can trot Women
are all angels in mans estimation before
marriage, hence the reason that their LIS
often wish them in heaven so soon after
Now | think the making of good wife de-
pends quite as much with the husband as the
training Of the husband does with the wife.
In the first place it is the duty of the ID to
confer with the wife on all matters of impor-
tance pertaining to BUSINESS and otherwise
Now | dare say some men will turn up their
under the pleasant delusion that woman
knows nothing of business. Granted. But
like the anxious servant girl who applied for
the situation of wet nurse-can't she learn
OF course she can. Sit down with YOUR
wife and talk to her. Let her see that you
really look upon her as your companion
Remain home as much as possible in the
evenings. Talk to your wife sensibly and
truthfully at all times. If matters 90 wrong
at your place of business. don't vent your
wrath upon the innocent waterfall ed head
of your wife. Be kind and gentle to her,
If she is inclined to be ugly and snappish.
try not to mend it; remember she may have
household annOyances to encounter which
often ruffle the best of tempers. Watch your
opportunity, and talk to her gently and
kindly show her in what way she can please
you most, and if she loves vou she'll do as
you require
Be attentive to your wife in the most
trihing things, for trifes go to make the most
imr ortant matters of our lives. A good
wife depends solely on her husband for at
tention. and if YOU are wanting in that, the
result is generally one of two things she
seeks attention elsewhere, or home is render
ed intolerabte by domestic broils Dear me.
if you men would take the same pains to
please your wives which you did to please
your swcethearts, the task of rendering
- home" happy, would be as easy as rolling
down stairs. There is one thing | must
speak of. and that is: some husbands " rile"
their better half by paying more attention
than the law of marriage allows to others of
the SEX Now. if there is anything that will
raise wife's dander, it is to see her ID
spread himself. and put g toematumi on his
hair for any woman excepting herself. Oh
wouldn't like to catch Thomas James talk.
ing sweet to anything that wore hoops and
waterfall Wouldn't /, though? | think
there would be small pieces of skull and hair
laping round if ever found out anything Of
the kind. But Thomas James is all right
| can trust him as far as any woman can
trust her ID. which is just as long as can
keep my gimet eve on him. As parting
benediction. | would suggest that wives get
up an eleventh commandment. which they
shall repeat to their l-2s morning noon and
night, in order to impress it fully on their
minds, g Thou shalt love no other woman
but me.'
Suggestively yours MADGE MOORE.
-Rochester (N. y Union