The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1867-10-07

night Apeno In tue uuuallDHeu euI-
I brace Of some friend of their husbands,
men will begin to open their eyes upon
l the terrible wreck they are making of
/ society to-day. II is true that wine has
been offered young men by the delicate
I hands of women. God will never for
give such, but II men half knew their
Z manhood they would have power to re-
{ fuse, and be doubly respected. Men
seem not only unable to refuse women,
but unable TO refuse their own SEX or,
Z II refusing, do II with '.Sot this time,
{ thank you'll" or, "I am too busy Just
7 nowi" SO, living lie, and killing their
own Influence over those very parties
I AZ the same time. There is some appre-
I citation OF truth and right inIthe world,
I but very little brave standing up and
doing better for IL. Col. Clarke, Pro-
! lessor OF Amherst College, Massachu-
{ sets, whose name was so honorably
[ known in the war, did noble thing at
a large dinner party, given by Edward
l Everett. Being offered wine from that
/ gentleman's own hand, he refused II,
! to the surprise and apparent lndigna-
| ton Of all present. If II was an open
rebuke TO them, II was only. adhering
! to the right! Tosueh an act, by whom
soerer performed, all women feel like
I kneeling.
Women dislike men who match PEN
mics, play mumbie-Peg and marbles
( (ali three may be classed under the
same head, as much as men dislike
Z women who play with rag dolls.
Women have the most thorough
| contempt for a man who, on any occa-
| sion that offers, tries either 10 earess
/ her. or slide his arm about her waist,
or kiss her after he has waited upon
I her home. Such a man would steal
\ her virtue il he dared, and, in a ma
jority Of cases, goes where those things
! are purchased rather than stolen. l
would as quickly brand as villain
a young man who took such
| liberty with a sister of mine, as one
] who had openly insulted her. Indeed,
l this Is an open insult, and V hen lady,
| through fear OF losing his friendship,
! or from affection for him, receives II,
1 IL, she nWardly ceases 10 respect him,
( saying, with truth, III he caresses me
unIaWfully, he does SO to all others
] whom he can" If q woman does allow
/ il, she must be YerdAnt. or she is not to
/ be trusted; but men have learned this,
| and never marry q girl they'can tondle
before she is their OVID. -"rr
1 Women dislike n man who pays COM
pliments. There Is a young profess
sioual Christian man, not a thousand
/ miles from Cleveland, who, though
having a lovely wife, calls upon unmar-
! ried ladies, talks to them about their
! bright eyes, winning ways, &c, thus
I making people believe that he Is either
a fool or a hypocrite. II a married man
\ wants 10 be thought .'perfectly SPLEEN
1 did" by all the young ladies OF the
4 town, let him be thoroughly devoted to
4 his wife. Let them see him put
shawl about her shoulders, scarf
/ about her throat, bring chair for her
when she is standing, take care lest she
| over-eXerts herself; let him make her,
1 a nd all others about her, feel that 10
I him she Is the one woman oil the world,
and they Will be pointing. TO him as a
model, and saying, as | have heard
them say, What a pity that all the nice
men are married! Isn'tshe fortunate?
1 wish could have husband just like
l him"
/ Women hate, and the word is very
/ tame, an immoral man one who lures
unsuspecting girls 10 ruin, or one who
pOllutes himself with those already
putrid with sin. A man who Lramples
on the virtue of the sex should never
be allowed TO touch the hand, or face,
or form OF pure woman. Such men
/ are received in society by some women
because they, like their brothers, like
to see how pefr they can come to pre-
Cipice and not be dashed into piecesi
but the majority receive such men into
their company ignorantly. They hold
I asps in their hands without knowing
I 1t, and are poisoned in innoceDcy. 1t il
strange that such men can come before
/ n sex whom they have foully wronged,
and be as gallant as though their
| hands were not stained by blood, as
| truly as though they put daggera in the
I hearts OF a dozen girls. The time viii
come when those who bring disgrace
upon families, and life long misery
4 upon their victims or early deaths by
| attempted abortions, will be looked up
/ on by the law as murderers, and pun
| ished accordingly. While there is no
sight so beautiful in this world as a
| young mother caressing lovely child
| for whom a fond father labors every
day. and goes home at night to clasp
through their sleep, SO there is not hing
SO piIIable rs young mother strug-
CLING day amer day with her weak,
Tired hands TO support her baby, feed
Ing her own strength to 1t, loathed by
women, jeered at by men; no father to
love 1t or her, her prospects of happy
home and a kind husband gone forever,
just TO give a season of pleasureto the
i wrech who spends his money freely
upon fashionable young ladies' and
perhaps at last after having ruined
himself mentally and physically, mar
patiently for life. There are no words
strong enough TO express the disgust all
feel for a man who, is faithless TO his
pure wife and Innocent children, and
receives loye he has no longer q right
10 claim or they right TO give. Wo-
men never marry such men IL they
know,it, any more than good men mar
ry bad women; and when it comes af-
ter marriage, they bear with it usually
till death relieves them OF their suffer-
ing.
What kind of a man, then, is attrac-
tive to women?
The answer can be given in few
words: God has so made the sexes that
woman, like children. cling TO men,
lean upon them for protection, and care
and love; look up to them as though
they were superior in mind and body,
they make them the suns OF their sys-
TEN, and they and their children re-
YolVe around them Men are gods il
they but knew it, and women burning
incense at their shrines- Women.
therefore, who have good minds and
pure hearts, want men to lean upon.
Think of their reverencing adrunkArd,
II liar, fool, or a libertine!
| II man would have II woman do
him homage, he must be manly in
every sense; true gentleman, not
after the Chesterfield school, but polite
because his heart is full OF kindness to
all; one who treats her with respect,
even Difference, hecspse she is woman:
4 who never condescends 10 say silly
things to her; who brings her up to his
level II his mind is above hers; who is
never oYer-anNions TO please her, but
| always nxious to do right, who has no
time TO be frivolous with her; always
dignitied in speech and aGtsI who peyer
| spends too nucn money upon her;
never yields to temptation, even II she
puts IL in his way: who Is ambitious to
make his mark in the world whether
she encourages him OF not, who IL
never familiar with her to the extent o {
being an adopted brother or cousin;
who Is not oyer careful ahont dress;
always pleasant and conSideFALe, but