The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1867-07-04
why Young Men do not Marry

the gift of cider or wine of any kind is
a crime as much as its sale.
why Young Men do not Marry.
Rev. Robert Collyer, the eloquent
Unitarian clergyman, recently preach-
ed sermon in Chicago on sour Daily
Bread" in the course of which he dis
cussed social q questions, and explained
why young men do not marry:
"when one said lately in the presence
OF a frank, outspoken young woman in
this city, that the reason why young
men did not marry was that their
wives would not be content to begin TO
live in homely fashion, after they had
been raised in luxury, she replied,
"the woman is quite as willing as the
man to do that, and L know of no wo-
man in the circle OF my acquaintance
who would not be content, for the sake
of the man she loved, to cast her lot
with him and make his interest in every
way her own.' l believe the young
woman spoke the truth! When hear IA
man living in chambers and
constant in his attendance at play
and opera say Il dare not marry, be-
cause know no woman would be con-
tent to live as one should have TO live,
1 say to myself, it may be true, but 1t
looks very much like old Adam, who
ate the apple and then turned around
and laid the blame on the woman. Let
this be as it will. Here is the dismal
fact staring us everywhere in the face,
and in no place more painfully than in
our own city, that Tor social, conyen-
tional, or still worse reasons, the best
youth of the country is held back from
its most sacred duty as well as its most
perfect felicity-fulls into that sad mis-
take of long engagement, III which
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hardest always on the woman; or the
Young man shuts his eyes and his heart
when the spirit walking among the
golden lamps whispers to him of some
maiden, That is thy wife, and says
No, not yet for many year to come
and so marries at last away on in life,
when both lives have become set in their
own fash on, and their love is hardly
long enough to give them the kindly
mutual forbearance toward what Is
dissimilar in character and disposition,
until they can become
.self-reverent and reAerencing each
Alike In lndiViduRllties.
and so the best OF the days Of the best of
our youth go by and lind i dare not
wait upon Il would
sin the name of all that is sacred, 1
ask why this is, and get for my answer
we cannot afford it, The young far
mer can afford it on the prairies; the
miner on Superior; the woodmnn on the
peninsula; the carpenter ut his benchi
the smith at his anvil; the operative at
his frame or loom; the lonRshoreman
and the sailor. That cluster of men
down there in Pennsylvania, and those
in Yorkshire whose mere young men
were with me long years ago, lost no
time and asked few questions, because
some night instinct told them they
must do that or rworSe--worseina in any and
thnEp pnnIH lnnF "a it, and
can remember, as lift were yesterday,
how speedily these found the wife and
went 10 housekeeping in one room or
two, as they could manage it, and make
the hammer ring with new music, and
gradually got their house and house
hold goods, and the world has never
failed them, no, not for day; but
through dark future and bright, and
sickness and strength, they have found
the deepest experiences of their life
each with the other,.fpr Great Heart
and Interpreter go tosether on this pill
grimage. and now they see their chill
dren coming up to manhood and wo-
manhood about them, with the fresh
ness OF their own youth in their hearts,
and know, though probably they can
not tell, the deep content of life or
dered after the fashion God gave them
when he created them man and woman.
"But here are men with noble pow
ers, with faculties that will insure them
greater place, living in the most
plentiful land on the globe, evening
themselves through the years of their
youth with that poor lost tribe of bal
let-singers, the loneliest of all those to
whom God has given u chance, and
when you get at their real reason 1t is
either one or the other of these. They
cannot believe what, il they have lived
in the country, they have seen twenty
times 10 be true of the birds that sing
about US everywhere; that new exigen-
cies tap new energies, and the little fel-
low, who, y few weeks ago, had quite
enough to do to take care OF himself, is
now caring for nest-fulI lust as sue
cessfully. They do not believe that the
Maker who has made their life of
itself a natural prayer for daily bread,
has provided that the answer shall be
equal to the cry; or when they pray
they mean by daily bread, board for
two Mt the Sherman, the privilege to
attend- parties three times a week,
throughout the whole winter, take a
trip to Saratoga in summer, and miss
no chance at any other pleasure, how
ever expensive. Let 1t be that or a
shred of that which makes this fatal
falling in the flower of the youth of
America-the men from Harvard and
Yale and all of their fine Quality-Rud
the thoughtful cannot but deplore the
education that can so curse the fair
manhood and cause the blossoming OF
youth to come to such an untimely
end.
The New York Tribune says: The
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