Weekly Calaveras chronicle. (Mokelumne Hill, Calaveras County, Cal.) 18??-1874, 1867-11-02
From the Cleveland LEADER
What Style of Man is Attractive to
Women,

Women.
All men, unless there are some who
have no self-respect, desire to be attrac-
tive to women, and use various means
to accomplish it. One swings cane,
wears fancy neck-ties, buys the latest
style of hat, whether able or not, puts
his feet into thin, shiny, tight boots,
and fancies, a la N. P. Willis, that he
is winning hearts.
Another talks largely about his bust
ness, his plans, his speculations, his tav-
els and his common sense, thinking that
after he has impressed women with a
sense of his greatness and their little
ness, that half the victory is won.
Another raises his hat about foot
from the head on windy days, and bows
his body about three feet toward the
earth; rushes to pick up handkerchief
as. though the fair owner was drowning
and be was about to save her; never
speaks of any matter but what lie sup
poses will please her, and he almost in
variably supposes wrongly; puts COM
pliment here and there; ignores the
fact there are vital interests to both as
regards society, city and country, and
talks of the last concert, theatre, opera
and marriage. Neither sex ever men
tons babies. 1t is questionable to
speak of them, questionable to have
them, questionable to be seen taking
any interest in them and by.and-by,
the whole thing is becoming so unfash-
ionable, we shall not have any Ameri-
can children except those born in the
extreme country, or in back alleys,
whose mothers did not learn the fashion
in time. Nearly the whole population
will be Dutch and Irish.
Another works hard all the week,
boards in cheap place that he may
save So or So, spends two for a concert,
three for ride and three for supper,
using that dollar he took from his en-
ployer's drawer so as to have surplus
in case of an emergency, paying all tbs
for girl, who, accustomed to it for a
half dozen years from a half dozen
sources, never expresses or feels any
gratitude. He keeps his pocket filled
with confectioneries, to be generous,
and this and that young lady say, Isn't
it fun to ride with Smith p but never
say, Wouldn't it be fun to get Smith
for husband ? They say rather, II
don't believe he will support wife
very well; he spends too much" There
is much sentimental talk and sentimen-
tai affection, and really much pure love,
but young women, for the most part,
have, and rightly too, "bread and but.
ter side of the question, and are al
ways asking, "Can he support me p
Some men, in the above way, and
some in higher and better, are doing
these things with one aim, viz A: the ad-
miration of society, which is to say the
admiration Of women. That women
like some of these things is not for a
moment disputed. They like a neatly
kept nook, a well combed head and a
good fitting boot. They like to have a
man talk just enough about himself to
show that he has some sense and some
business power. They like hat raised
slightly, and a bow as though men hon
ored the sex because they had mothers
or sisters or wives. They like to have
a man occasionally give them an mex
pensive ride, or take them to a concert
or supper, if they, by so doing, are
not going beyond their means; but
they never respect him for doing that.
Indeed, they think men really foolish,
lacking sense and judgment, in spend
ing so much upon them when it should
be saved for family in the future, the
head of which every man living expects
some time to be. They like a man who
talks TO them as though they were in
telligent human beings, or as though
he desired to make them such, who in
PRODUCES science, or art or travel. What
if they are not conversant with such
matters, you cannot afford to dwarf your
mind to make it companionable with
theirs.
An erroneous idea has crept into So
ciety, that it is not polite to speak upon
any subject with which the other is ig-
norant. 1t may be thus between men
and men, and women and women, but
never between the sexes. Every man
of observations knows that women in
this respect are like children; glad to
learn, proud to be made the recipients
of knowledge, proud that sensible, edu-
Gated men take time and pains to talk
with them sensibly. Men might fear
that women would feel sense of shame
at their ignorance; on the contrary,
they pacify themselves by saying, "We
are women, and, therefore, not expected
to know such things" l was at tea
table where an educated young man
happened to mention Cicero. The host
ess, lovely woman and an excellent
hetsekeeper, presided with real grace
at the neatest of tables, inquired who"
as though the name was strange to her.
He, with manly kindness, in way
that never intimated that she was igno-
rant, spoke of the great orator and of the
exciting times in which he lived and
acted, and thus Roman history was
made delightful topic of conversation.
| saw the same young man talking
with famous belle. By tact he drew
their remarks upon mineralogy. He
told her of his cabinet, and his knowl-
edge of the science, and she, who had
heretofore talked brilliant nonsense