Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1866-04-21
Courtshp as 1T should Be.

Choosing q wife is no such puzzling
enigma as it used to be, before the lights
of modern science shoDe across the nine
teenth century of ours If you marry an
angel, and discover afterward that she is
something very far removed from the
supernal, you have only yourself to thank
for it. You may have read the dormant
existence of those very repellapt traits OF
character that broke upon you like thun.
derbolts in conformation Of lbe pretty head,
the shape of the polished forehead, The
cure of the stately neck. You might have
seen the fash Of temper In her eyes, the
acerbi.y Of her close lips, tho iron will OF
the square chin. Nature inscribes her
character plainly enough 10 face and
brain; and, il you did not take The trouble
TO read the signs and tokens. why, you
have only TO make The best of The bargain,
Nor do we believe in long courtships -
Jacob must have. been q very remarkable
individual not 10 have got heartily tired
of Miss Rachael long before those fourteen
years OF ordeal bad TRANSFERRED; aud we
have no proofs that Rachel was not wan
ing into confirmed old maid while Jabob
was earning her. Don't wait to make your
fortune young loyerl If you ore not rich
in money, you have stores of strength and
youth, and warm, fresh love; and with
these gone, you would be poor indeed.
though you reveled in the wealth OF John
Jacob Astor A man never falls in love
but once. He has fancies, likings, friend
ships based on genuine esteem, but the
celestial flame comes once only 10 life.
time. Therefore. if you love woman, and
she is worthy of your affection, marry her,
and trust 10 God aud your own strong
right arm to bring the world to recognize
the wisdom of your choice
AS for oil the current nonsense on the
subject Of Selecting @ wife," our shrewd
opinion is that it is only nonsense. Fancy
yonng gen eman prying into bis inamo.
ratU'o house b;fo,e breakfast TO ascertain
whether or not her collar was pinned
correctly, or her hair brushed geometrically
straight. Picture him descending upon
her oil sort of certain and uncertain hours
to lind out whether she made bread or
played the piano, and if there was any
dust on her center-table. If he has not
judgment enough to make his election with
out any such extraneous aids, we opine
that bis intellect can scarcely be of the
very highest order.
Yet there are keen diseppontments in
this business Of matrimonial choice. A
man who marries pretty girl under o
sort of transitory euchanlment, is very apt,
when the honeymoon is over, to discover
that she is only mortal after ALL and con,
slider himself rather in the light of
wronged individual The pretty girl too,
begins to see that her lover is neither more
nor less than man; it is poss be that
she has her momeuts Of grave reflection on
The subject. Thea it requires consider
able amount of philosophy to s4rviye the
first months ofmatrimony without what are
called cloves quarres" Yet there is
owe strong enough and deep enough to
bear up all imperfectionS and Shortcomings
On its rcsistless current. Now aud then
We chance on marriage based on Just
such love as this, nniou whose links /
brighten as the years go on, and are |
'emented even more strongly 10 the world |
where there is neither marriage nor Civ.
ng in marriage"
While there are summer and winter. |
seed time and harvest, there will De
20 -petnal repetition Of the sweet old story
of love and couTtship. 1t is as it should |
be. Let there be no false modesiy, no
misplaced hesitation on the subject. God |
neni his children to be happy in the spring
lime of their lives; shall We hide away The |
good gift9 of love and appreciation which
He has given us?