American citizen. [volume] (Butler, Butler County, Pa.) 1863-1872, 1866-05-30
Communications.
A Few Words to "Unknown."

(POr the Ci tizen.)

A Few Words to unknown"
You appear to think "The readers Of
the Citizen we're startled by the publ
cation of the "gn at Calamity" at Peters
vile. You say the conjectures were
'smany," and varied" as to whom the
writer was. But the appearance Of your
article caused great wonder among the
"Ladies," at least, as to what "gentle-
man" In this civilized and christian land,
would express himself in such manner.
have no doubt, but "Betsey Jean" can
defend herself, but I wish the privilege
of also saying "a few words" IN reply to
your communication. 1t has always been
one of my peculiarities, to defend sour
sex" when [ hear them attacked in what
| consider an unwarrantable manner
This l think you have done, when you
make the assertion general, that ,Ue mar
ry for money" not for "love." You
speak of Glove" as a mere Hmatter of dol
lars" and ."cehts;" you consider that true
love no longer exists in the heart. My
friend, this is a sweeping declaration, and
l beg leave to differ with you, will ad-
init that sometimes such things do occur,
but 1 have good reason to believe they
are "The exception, not the rule" and
in my humble opinion there are ladies OF
the present generation, who possess hearts
and who love as deeply and devotedly as
did the ladies' of "Ancient Greece" pro-
vided they meet with an object worthy
of such love.
1t is mockery to call that feeling, love,
which rises sin the expectation of rich
husband" 1 think either ladies or gen.
tlemen who marry for riches, do not pos
sess the "wisdom of Solomon" They
are certainly very shallow and they gener-
ally reap their reward, but we have no
reason to believe all ladies SO foolish.
All OBJ serving persons know that the
gentlemen are as apt to think "All gold
that glitters," as we. Who has not no
ticed that if one of us possesses few
thousands, how attentive the gentlemen
are to that one, while others equally wor-
thy (minus the thousands) receive no at
tention at all. And would we not con-
clude from this that "rich wives" are as
much ofan acquisition as''rich husbands"
We conclude from your manner OF
writing, that you speak from experience,
that you are engulphed in the matrimo
nial breakers of martyrdom," and will
suppose you shave caught tartar and
that you are now floating on the ''seeth-
ing Ocean of Eternal Misery" If so, |
sympathize with you.
But who is to blame il the matter! Ii
Gas you think the ladies are looking out
for "rich husbands" should not man Of
good sense be sharp enough to see thr'o
their designs2 Should he allow him
self to be "duped" by managing mammas'
and "marriagable daughters 7" And il
he is entrapped, why should he think all
others as miserable as himselfY and that
all ladies are like his "Tartar~ Had
you been more particular in selecting
wife, your ideas of "connubial happiness"
might have been very different.
1 am certain there are ladies' who would
prize gentleman more for his worth, than
for his "gold." Who would consider
good principles, industrious habits, and
good, honest, afectionote heart, of more
value than "the mines Of Golconda."-
And if there are some who would be will
ling to barter soul and body for "gold,
YOU should not include all, nor should
you conclude
s'Love Is a hollow cheat,
/ And all who strive TO win
Win meet with sure defeat"
l. / 49,.