, 1866-02-25
Ianifs' Column.
Extracts from Mrs. Blanks Journal.


EXITaCB HUH MIss OId4Aa SV"AfaA>
JANUARY.
yexcd rny husband this morning By refusing 70 re-
scye Eew Tears calls He declares that grow more
unocl1bie eyery year. sad dare SAY 1t IL trnt; but
how can help it? The New Tesr brings nc onlyne
cate., and s,1 sing ''wtth do!orous pitch" the
same cid eo1s Of "sutch, stitch. sttteht"
A cali this afternoon from Mrs. bright sne Is 10
younger than and perhnps no pretter. yet WIS coz
seious Of contraAt not at tl to my advantage. How
fre.h, aHd handsome, md hBppy she looktdl How
faded, aua cartwo5n. aud sad fett Whist L. the Sc
crtt Of the difference. Wouder4
Ard hard at work, IN mIdwinter, upon garments
which .hould have been finished L. the nrst Of The
sou Poor little Ella is ait1 wearing her thln e1mm
annc1s, because the older children must at least be
made respectable for school, and cannot do ere1y
thing at once. do my best, set seem to be always
pursuing my work. never able to ore1take 1t. =.
Little Ellie sick tonight. tossing IN her sleer hot
with fever. sit By her crib, sewing upon the flannel
sk1 ut las and feeaiDH so1n1y thas the want Of them
has causcd her illness. Fer how could Ihelptt7
FEBRUARY.
Tickets the opesa eent Unexpectedly By fiend;
but my husband did not como hoUe so was unable to
them fof want Of escort Got only this by way
Of comfort, when he did return: allow could Know
you wanted to go7 Yen neyer 20 anywhere. And
what Is the nse OF my coming home to sit alone down
Don't blame me tor your disappointment; 1t Is your
OVID flull" Is tins tue, reolly, and An then 40
much to b1Ame7 God knows it IL not for my pleasure
that ut alone evening nfter evening. plying the
weary needle not for my happiness that know him
teesinE his enoS In people End things apart from
me. Yet what can do? ntt not hard alternative
when one has 10 choose between negleciing onea
band CT ones children?
Nothing pleasant to record this evening, which Is,
s1aa! nothing new. Busy ali day with the oeed1e :;
f{nnAu %,fI
very cheerfupy; considered "cross" In consequence
aul tempted to deserve the lille By being 10 reality
% marriage and maternity necessarily mean slavery
TAKING NJ daily hfs for example,. the answer would
MARCH.
Have accomplished little or nothlng this week.
owing tolIlue Elles Illness. She has been lust sick
enough to wans continual petnx and nursing and Of
course 1t Is only who do It her BAtisEactIon.
Why is 1t that children always tyrannlze over their
mothers Wonder2
Looked wofa1ly this morning toward the Pile Of
work Which has accumulated du1lng Elie's Illness.
Stockings 10 darn, trowaefs to patch aprons to mend
frocks to make shFts to cut out! 0ne pair Of weary
hands to do II aone heavy ht8rt to bear all tue COM
p!Elnts end annoyance That arise when IL "a done.
There Is Ffasou for all things 1t u kaid. but confess
cannot soc why my life should be wasted Ia this
hore1ezs sort of toll. Honla not complain II the
suits were adequate to hG labor; bnt lAFe little
TO show for my days work 80 much moro than can
possibly DO IL left undone. Yet give myself wholly
10 these houaeold dutle even to The neglect Of what
feel to be better things. ME ulnd IS narrowed down
TO the range OF my worsh,skes, my aspirations
tned 10 the circle Of my needle; get even that poor
ambition meets pcrpekna, failure
ATsEsIL.
Refused an Invitation to 20 to the Philharmonic with
Mrs. lsriGht who looked surprised when gave want
Of time as an EXECUTE. She scens to have plenty Of
time for coinE out though oneNond think her family
cares would contne her ~ much NINE Perhaps she
ncHlects heE children to take her pteasutGt When
mother goes ~ unsny operas and co1cefts and lee
lures reads ali tho books, entertains company.
and all that sot Of thing ss vcr apt to be the ease
that thecbdrrn's stocklnEs arc not tazucd or thrs
pessIcoats mtndcdi -
Worked Slice ear1y morning and TIL near m!dplcht
on spring dFess for Arue to wear 10 scho0. laH 10
bed at and leave 1t undnlshed with the plea
Eant anticipation OF her disappointment tomorrow.
"Shf II 10 tired Of WEARING thai old mtfluo! Ana no
wonder. The children known by one dress before
bare time to make them another: although they
have 6upeEtnouH work on them either. Arnicc
plains sometimes. poor child OF her untried froeks
snd anawer her with mid noraites hbout the beauty
Of slmpcttr ard the Sin Of vanity. which silence.
ier rrfschlas ghat would not practise, except
MAY.
Almost unhappy record to-day. Came down to break,
FAST worried and irritable. and found Arthur holding
b. exclaimed eagerly, a. IIarry Warren has given nc
this dear little bird h!s mother let me choose the
prrttieat one In the ncst!' and what arc you going
10 do with 1t r. asked inpatenty, some estl spirit
making bis happy excitement utterly dlstazefll Ia
me- "Thy, keep It OF coprscl FOUL get me cage
ftT 1t, pape. wou't Fou? I've wished for bird 50
fonG and bis tmpfor11g look at ma shou1d have been
enough to 1tspet the hateful feeling. But not &c.
answered hasttly: mo such thing. Your father can
not afford to buy cages, while 70 naoy things arc more
needed. Carry tho bird hack again; cans be both
cred with it." Almos. before the speech was ended
had repented. But It was too late then to recall It
Arthur VIA too rsoud to femonstrate. and Without
wnrd marched out Of the room, coming back no more
1Iy husband RHve me ond iook-thet WIS all. The
cal passed in Ieerable slences the day has gone BY
rs wretch cdiy: Arthur aEoided me IN proud resent
meEt-my OWL conscience my soEeat punishuene
JUNE
Spent The afternoon shopping On Broadway snd ca
nal street. Getting Into the stage, tired aud heated
my hands fnt ofsna parcels, and ny spfita detected
IN the rceo1l lection of how much money bad spent
A1d how little had to show for It, encountered 3rs
bright aud two OF her children, III three looking pro
volinRfy like their name! TncJ were dressed &c
chsrm1nFy, In the freshest Of Spring httre snd had
been to The Academy Of DestEu4 *IIsd visited tht
Exhibition this yehr7 Was not delighted with those
lovely girlfaces Of Wenzle1s? those delicious little
Landscapes OF sbatucks? ?" and on. and 70 o. TIL
:elt more detected fhsn eV In INT painful conscious
ness & contract, nor to ny adyausaee. that II
Dtght's presence alwaJs fofees on me. She take i
eastly. wish had her secret.
Poor E11'e gone 10 bed In tc41s- She aud her y,
were invited to uelen ErtEhsa birthday party, hu,
toil-si1 incaut!y named E1ort Mel cFilusey-had, -.
nprointment. fought 10 hays uFessed her d,, +.
nso as ent lev csa l. with 10 many human dolls W
JULY.
Rsidect'A evening ont, and took her place =.
nnrscry, to EuxSd the s!ectfEE children. 4 + =
halfiudtc1ous, half rlttfnl took possession Of MT
sat there sewinE-a wish that wss servant 1nst4>, =
ml1t1ess. tAat might have the privilege ofAtlea
evening IN tho week 10 srend ss pleased Rdtcutuas
ofcouzsc nevertheless It IS painfully true that d
not have Is much time for recreation ~ my own seE
vnnt5.
Third of July, snd tomorrow the awful Fourth mus
be endured, With Its multiplied DIseiea Of gunpoW
teriun-mad. frightened babies, servants " Gu ramp
are" cetera ct cetera. Wish could hAv6 escaped
lilo 1hn county ~ Mrs bright Old but AlaB therr
mountain Of sewing to he ryelled before affair
to the breezy hills and shady woods that sigh for
Haby EEows thin aud setful-the heat seems unusu
hfly oppressive this sumer-And his father is Yer1
Impatient to get tho children cut Of town. "How 1ong
before Jon can be rcsdy?" he asts almost daily an
sssanlnG eEcsy nerve 70 get through the necessary
work, hut IL will be AUGUST before can have tht
Children teceauy provided for.
AUGUST.
Ont Of to~n at last. through much tr1bnlat,on. Ml
husband declared that the children mus: wait lon
ger, II they went without clothes; packed M wha
remained ot my work to tlntAh ID the country. and
started oTyesteTday. The Journey very unpleasant
owing to and lato1eable c.owd!ng. but boarding
house promises to be comfortable, and the country
around IL beautiful with ample range for the children
Found ITO my hdvaetase} that Mfs. Bright and he,
children had been hero since the first of July and Wa
afhyortte 10 the house. Under her direction more at
teuton vas paid us than shouio otherwise have re-
ceiyed; and In many ways she has been exceedingly
Kind 1remcmoer Ito mr. shamcl that hare some
times Ind uucha3taole thoughts about her. .
There IS remedy. We are told, for arery evil nude
the sun Mrs. Bright asserts, with Encouraging conf
dence- TINT Wheeler Wilson Is the remedy In mi
case have seen for myself how easily her household
carek sit upon her. Ihave also that her ehildzel
chine Is efficient helper as her experience sec,n
TO prove what price would be too deat 10 pay Il?
SEPTEMBER.
husband, and lnd to my satlsactton that he heartily
approves OF IT. 4 Iltttc economy In other cxpendl
tures wilt enable rs to purchase ono, and my heart
already shtenea in anticipation OF tho burden OF NIL
work. For tho last week. At least, will give mysel
up 10 the fnll enjoyment Of thesc lovely September
days. With their misty skies and Iainy turning leaves
Will roam the fields with the children In search o.
Wild grapes. take swimming lessons In the river, Join
''crabbns parties" ami bob for reels.' Also, will
explore the windugs aud hidden spring or that laugh
ing brock In the woods, and In some cool green nook
with rlrrIuc water &1d mUruuttpy leaves about me,
viii read Jean 1nse1ow+s poems. Who cal tell? Per
hnps the time Is coming wher shall hnre leisure Il
read when please. Just now, IN idle honr with
volume OF poems scelns the rarest luxury. 'se9
4. nc again. ard the burden Of household carea
aewsng, fatl honse-c,eanuG. pIckue aud pEesesv!na
snd!o; The M ellEsn 70 school and getting se,tet