Delaware gazette. [volume] (Delaware, Ohio) 1855-1886, 1866-09-21

/ little Things Suppose, after waiting Sab
bath morning ten minutes, while the bel
Is tolling, Deacon Tupper makes the
tront-door utter pretty loud oath as he
goes ont Who swears, the deacon OF
Mrs, Upper ?"
Mr.. Murray looked sober, but not in
! cllned to answer, so / went on p" As for
! Tom, have no more doubt that the first
oath he uttered was from his mother 5
heetOriug, than if [ had been there to
| hear 1t. She has never been a true moth
er to him; she has done nothing but
praise herself and blame him. You
should have heard her talk with Jennie.
on the way In which she discharged her
duties. I wonder why it is, that your
truly valuable women, your GOd-sent,
God trained God loving mother, never
inclines to speak the first word of self
appreciation while a mother who neg
lects every duty, and knows nothing Of
her childrens' existence, except that they
are aunOyances, Is always Ioudest, and. in
truth, alone IN praising herself Mrs.
Tupper-and ] have heard others do the
same-calied God to witness how faithful
she was IN discharging every responsible
lty, aud how utterly she had sacrificed
herself, aud how ungrateful and unruIy
her children we're"
Don't be too hard on her, said Jeu-
ME kindly, again.
I am sure I do not wish to be; but I
have no patience with these women, who
ruin whole families, and then talk as if
they were martyrs. [ knew a woman of
this kind, who fairly drove a talented
man into his graVe-a great man who
would have been good, had it not been
for her and l knew another such woman,
who tried her best to do the same. but
the man rose above it, literally making
this worst Of all crosses his crown"
The true evil, said the minister,
speaking at last, " OF such a woman, she
processes to be a Christian, is the Hire
pute which she brings upon religion. I
suppose there really is not in all my par
ish family in which the children have
so little respect for any thing of relig-
ious nature as In Deacon Tupper's. I see
no row of faces so vacant and discourage
ing, when l look round on a Sabbath as
those find in his pew and if there is a
disturbance Ia meeting, / always know
who is making it; yet l have tried in vain
to reach this evil every effort I make
for their good fails"
/ heard you urging upon the deacon,
the necessity of and the comfort he would
find in prayer. [ thought you were a lit
tie too pressing but / understand it all
now; he has no refuge but in prayer
Such a wife as his is helpless. hopeless,
sent as trial, thorn in the flesh. You
may talk year to correct a habit or alter
taste and you may think once, during
every day, that you have accomplished
your object but be sure she is not NOV
cd you will find her on the three hun
dred and sixty-ffth day just where she
was on the first Obstinacy in trifies is
part Of her nature, | would rather be
missionary to the Feeiee Islands than the
pastor Of such family.
Jennie is younger than [ am; but she
is a minister's wife, so she feels at liberty
occasionally to preach to me. Now, she
said
Kitty there is truth in what you
say but invective is SO easy, Inever hear
one person oOndemning auother in this
wholesale way without wanting TO ask,
Where Is the remedy There is no use
in dragging faults into the light to leave
them there. One ought always to have
either a mantle of charity prepared to
drop lovingly over them, or cure that
will comm nd itself to the good sense Of
others. If these sef-made, foolish Wo-
men, as you call them, are so culpable,
then pray tell US how the thing IS to be
prevented
Now there never was person who ran
full tilt against moral grievance, who
was ready to answer this question 1T
had been very easy to expose poor Mrs.
Upper; indeed | thought | deserved
great deal of credit for having spared her
when | might have said SO much more,
only for fear Mr.. Murray would rather
despise me as a slanderer of my sex and
I hesitated, think I blushed when [
found my glibness bad foFsaken me bat
I rallied as I saw queer look settling in
the corners of Mr.. Murray's mouth.
Remedy of course, there is a reme-
dy, [ said boldly. Let every woman
discipline herself Let her acquire early
sensible, right views of life. Let her
learn that she is neither au angel nor
drudge. Make her feel that iu this ear
nest world she has an earnest part to play
lift her above the petty emplOyments
which form so great part of her daily
care, by showing her that nothing Is petty
which makes home happy and good
that is what is wanted; glorify a woman
work to her. It isn't Ieddy's old torn
pants that she spent so many weary hours
In mending She has been implanting IN
that boys heart, with every stitch she has
taken love of neatness and order, a
spirit Of refinement, which one day, hum
BILE as the means now seem, shall help to
make him the true gentleman. Lucy had
become confused and troubled over that
difficult lesson lit Is trying to put aside
the book from which the mother is de-
irving SO much pleasure and profit, and
teach the child but Lucy will learn to-
day lesson which shall open the door Of
her mind to a whole world Of intelligence
and cultivation That is nothing but a
crying baby, whom the hired nurse should
quiet, but the nerves of the family are
unstrung by it, and when the mother
bushes It, even though her husband has
come home weary from his business, and
should take it quite as much as she, yet
she does her duty more nobly. She Is
greater and a better woman than Florence
Nightingale, amid the sick at SOlterino.
A ! 1t Is these very small duties cheer
fully and faithfully performed, these little
crosses humbly borne, 50 little that no
one sees, admires, and says, Behold the
martyr that make the true heroine. |
do not wish to exculpate man from all
the sin there is prevalent in the world. l
believe he does his full share but do
wish women would In the sanctity of their
homes look well to themselves, and be
sure they are not responsible in some de-
gree for the sins which one day they
must beWaIl.
The others were silent; thought I
had succeeded in my answer, st least par
TALLY, and so I asked Mr.. Murray to go
on with the reading which l had inter
rupted but he had become interested 10
the question, and said, with that dogged
common-sense which is the worst Of all
antagonists
+" That sounds we'll, Kitty, but will you
tell me who is to glorify this work. l
am sure if | were to feel myself obliged
every time | see Jennie looking pale and
wearied to go into minute inquiries as TO
her ooeupatiou, aud to trace the connec-
tion between it aud something great aud
rIo,fC,rs IN the fufrra Shpuid have q
harder task than in any OF the practical