The Ottawa free trader. [volume] (Ottawa, Ill.) 1843-1916, 1866-02-24
For the Free Trader
The wifc.-A COmpaniou.

| For the Free Trader.
The Wife-A Companion.
In view of the deficiencies in the cultur
and training of the young ladies of GER tail
classes of society, and in deploring the fash
ionable depravities which render so many 0
them wholly unfit far that noble and exalted
situation IS wife which their creator intends
them, and which everv candid, honest-hear,
ed young lady expects to fill, there is on,
subject which has never received the consid
Grafton which, on account o. its momeutous
Importance, it justly demands, viz, a wife in
,, the capacity Of companion to her husband
Few young ladies', even at mature age
fully realize the import ,nce or responsibility
Of that station in life which they assume on
the celebration OF those ceremonies which
bind them "while life shall last" not only in
love and honor, but in companionship 20
their husband.
The fond and afectionats husband may
reasonably experience deep and earnest anx-
ietJ lest the changing condition of worldly
circumstances should render him unable TO
provide for, or the cares of business cause
him TO neglect, those sacred interests which,
in love and honor, are entrusted to his care
and projection. No less important, however,
is th. sense of responsibility resting upon
! the wife in view of her ability to psr--etuate
or destroy those feelings of mutual ,oxs ard
endearmens ~aalch alSue can render life
cheerful and happy, and the marriage cons
lection worthy of the honor and sanction of
| Heaven.
Screly there is no young lady, who possesses
a vir.uous, sincere and noble mind, with the
principles of christianity ana benevolence in
her heart, but earnestly resolves that as far
as her ability extends, the state Of matri>
rnony iEto which she is about to enter, shall
be one of true and lasting happiness by a
! perpatuity OF those stron, and deep, warm
/ AMI earnest emJtions o: love, Tenderness,
and .acrel trust which haze bounl the hearts
of their subjects inseparabiy together. But
! does she realize That she may Increase that
very essential abititY, aui thereby strengthen
her honorable resolution aui render her
worthy .exertions FOR more evidence to the
desire end Does she consider that in the
name and character of wife IS eubodie that
Of associate anl companion? If not, she
may in future years re ,iize, to the sorr5w of
her heart, that the fame on Loves altar 10
SLOWLY bn; surely burning down, I'LL at length
the few scintilations OF it's dyiag enhers are
]
! reviving the renembrances OF past joys and
lost and ruined homes. Bat justice rJrbds
that | shoud dwell on schus gloomy.
wretched picture OF wellel lie. Such +
condition can never exist where motives of
generosity and r.gt-l for nr.ual int erests
are manifest. Bat let US consider what is
expected OF a wife as a companion: 4 re-
hnea susceptibility and sensitive apprecia.
tion of the various circumstances, in which
her husband NAY lie placed. even with regard
to business matters, aad in times Of pacuni-
ary embarrassment and difficulties, will in.
, sure her regard which will constitute ner 4
most happy source of advice and consultation
| at such times. That implicit conidence re-
posed in her will often occasion such consul
tations when, in part the subject may be one
OF such nature anl i'm p)riaace that il can
! not be entrusted to another On such occa-
sions, how gratifying it is 20 man to feel
tha. the ADVICE OF his cnn.i lential friend (;he
one who ha. the fc.t and strongest claim
10 bis confidence, is c.lc::latcd br il, clear
conception of the circumstances CT ths cas-.
and its influence Of religious principle. and
magnaaimous emotions, - have 4 most
beneficial effect IN enabling him - encounter
the difficulties with that firm aud manly
spirit which shall eventually surnouu, the
barriers 10 his present happiness.
Wha. fDrcible contrast to him who, on
divu,grng To hi, wife 4 matter ot sonsidera-
BILE Importance and the cause of great per-
plexity. having received only al expresson
Of wonderment Or regret. drops the subject.
in disappointment, a, well as anxiety, with
the mental comment: How absurd to consult
. r0D,an such n subject
My dirinterested lady reader, y agin such
comm IN; justly applicable - ali matters oi
business Importance on which {. ttiJ is con
suited, bit remember il sounds murn better
| for go" to make it thha your ha,Jaai. A
wife's society is desirable ani b neicia in
| exact proportion as her moral and in,.llectu.
| al influence entities her % the Respect.
admiration and regret of her husband You
| will probably say, witho experiencing such
emotions, he has com nitted an error by mar
| rying her. bu. At the same time YOU will
remember before So doing his .oc;.! inter
course was limited to occasional evening
hours and that moonlight iufasu,tion which
as wond .rtul tendency to reuder him
TO her faults . little blfni
To hT foilics very kind
He had then 20 means of knowing how \
| closer intimacy, especially under greatly,
perhaps unplcasant.y, altered circums ms,auceg,
effect that impression which was perhaps
! necessarily as..raeable in its novelty. By this
;n,iin lie that \ IN ms love
il ant TO b. fic.,e or trLIslcm', pu' 'fal u 10
| possihI, for him To experience sach a feeling
| without givias the m .rter that consi lrration
| that would enslre its stahiitv. Bat lear
have expatiated on this subjee, to AN extent
! likely to diver, Tai her than induce your at
ten,ion and consideration 50. in conclusion n:
I will only reminl you Of the necessity Of,
and request scrupulous regard for, those
reanisite requirements and quail ihca''ons
which will constitute you an object of sincere
and enduring devotion through the esteem
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