Des Arc citizen., 1866-05-12

HUSBANDS AND THEIR HABsTs Some hus- bands never leave home in the morning with out kissing their wives, and bidding them ssgood-byc, dear,'' in tic tones of unwcaried love; and whether it be policy or fact litsy has all the effect of fact, and those homes are .gen- orally pleasant ones, providing always, that the wives are apprcciative and welcome tho discipline in a kindly spirit We know m old gentleman who lived with his wife. fifty years, and never loft home without the kiss and tho "good-byc, dear Some husbands shake hands with their wives and hurry off as fast as possible, as though the. effort were q something that they were anxious to forget, holding their heads down and darling around the first corner. Some husbands before leav- ing homo ask very tenderly, s.What would you like for dinner, my dear!" knowing all the while that she will select something for his particular palate, and off he egocs. Some lus- bands will leave home without saying any thing at all, but thinking q good deal, as cvinced by their turning round Ut the last point of observation, and waving an adieu at the pleasant face, or faces, at the window Some husbands never say word, rising from the break fast table with the lofty indifference of q lord, and going out with q heartless dis regard of those left behind. It is n fortunate thing for their wives that they can find sym pathy elsewhere. Some husbands never leave home without some unkind word or look, ap- parently thinking that sucha course will keep things straight in thcir absence. Then on re- turning g-somc husbands come home jolly and 'happy, unsoared by the world 1; sulky and surly with it's disappointmcnts. Some htls- bands bring home q newspaper or book, and bury themselves for the evening iniitscontcnts. Some husbandsare called away every evening by business orsocial cngagements; some dose in speeches. stupidity on n sofa until bcd' time. Some husbands are curious to learn of their wives what has transpired through the day; others are attractedby nothing short of n child's tumbling down stairs or the house taking fire. ssDepcnd upon it, ]" says pr. Shooner, .sthat home is the ihappiest where kindness and interest and politeness and att tcntion arc thcrulco on tho paftofthe husbands
 -of course all the responsibility rests with thcm-and temptation finds no footing there.
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 PRAISE YoUR WIFE.--P 'aisc your wife, man; for pity's sake giseIher q little encour- agement; it won't hurt her, Slie has made your home comfortable, yonr hea.th bright and shining, your food agreeable: for pity $ sake tell her you thank her if nothing Inore She don't expect it; 1t will nuke Ter eyes open wider than they havc these ten yearss butit will do her good for all That, and you too. M s Fs.
 There are many women to-day thirstipg for the words ofpraise, tlc language of encour- agetnent. Through summer heat, through winters toll, they have drudged nncomplain- ingly, and so accustomed llave their fathers, brothers, and husbands become 10 their mos notonois labors, that they look for and on them as the, do the daily rising of the sun, and it's daily going down. Home every day may be made beautiful by an appreciation of its very holiness You know that, if the floor is clean, manual labor has been performed to make it so. You know, if you can take from your drawer clean shi t whenever you want it, that somebody fingers have ached in the toll of making it so fresh and agreeable, so smooth and lustrous. Everything that pleas es the eye and the sense has been produced by constant work. much thought, great care, and uniiring efforts. bodily and mentally.
 It is not that many men do not appreciate these things, and feel . glowsof gratitude for the numberless attentions bestowed upon them in sickness and health but they don't come out wiha hearty ssWly, how pleasant you make things look, wife ', ors ssI nm much obliged to you for taking so much pains t'' They thank inc tailor for giving them "fts:" they thank the man in q full omnibus who gives them seat they thank the young lady who moves along in he concett room in short, ihcy thank everything out or doors De- cause it is The custom, and come home, lip tfer chair back, and their heels up, pull out the newspaper glumble if wife asks them to take the baby, scold if the f.c issg gone down, or, if everything is just right, shut their mouths witt, a smack of satisfaction, utneycr say sI thank you" @ssgi
 Hell you what, men. young and old, if you did but show an ordinary civility toward the common articles of housekeeping, yoalrWives If you gave them the hundred and sixteenth part of the compliments you almost choked them with before you were marrietl--fewer women would seek for other sources of afcc- iion Praise your wife, then, for all the good qualities she has, and you may rest assured that her deficiencies are fully counterbalanced by your own. sd
 A CONSTANT TrENcoATs-rThe New York Herald sets itself upslo give advice to the Southern people. The advice may be good,, but the South is suspicious. It is notorious that for months and years before inc war the Herald was the noisiest advocate of sSouthern RightsY anywhere to be found north of Mason and Dixon. For many weeks prior 10 the breaking out of hostilities. it patted the South on the back--bade the secessionists go ahead, that they were right, and their cause just and holy in the sight of God and man. But when the actual collision came, the Herald notonly bascly deserted those it had encouraged to