The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1866-07-31

do not take a servant who has lived years in a
place; be assured she will be mentally making
disagreeable comparisons between yours and
the family she has left, and be so settled into
their ways that she will not change to yours.
Besides depend upon it, she has oeen tolerated
in many shortcomings, for which her plea OF
long service has been sufficient or she would
not have been discharged. .
"Do not, Milly, think | am hard in writing all
this; only bring to your notice facts OF my own
and my aunts experience. can give you no
certain rules by which you should be bound IN
hiring q servant as there must be many eXcep.
tlons, and with all possible care much disap-
pOintment on both sides will doubtless ensue,
which the mistress at least must patiently bear.
"When servant first commences her duties,
the greatest orbearanCe must be exercised by
the mistress, consistent with her spoBen orders
or directions. Avoid telling too much at once;
one thing only at a time: but trust not that IL
will be performed to your satisfaction unless
you see that it is So | was once staying in
apartments with most amiable iadv of fifteen
hundred a year income; one day she said,
have asked Margaret to light the fire in my
bedroom at seven this evening; wonder if sne
has done it and she rose to leave the room.
'0h y said |, you may be sure she has" i am
not sure at all, she laughngly replied; my expe-
renCe has been this: the first Is to do 1t your
self, and, falling this, to see that it be done.
The latter is less trouble than to trust and
reap disappointment Another friend,
whom kno to be the best manager OF a SER
want have ever met with, mentions that, in her
hiring, for oneimonth she accompanies her maid
every day through all her duties, and until the
girl is perfect in the ways OF her mistress and In
the manner of doing the work. II this plan
were generally adopted, with the few exceptions
which must necessarily exist, there would be
greater degree OF comfort where now there Is
utter discomfort; but OF course, this is premis-
ing tnat the mistress is herself properly edu-
Gated in her duties; otherwise she cannot teach.
The remedy for the universal outcry respecting
bad servants is in the hands OF the mtstresses;
then must first De themselves taught, uten teach
He2r 0OnneSt1cS
"There is always a certain number of good
servants to be found, but they rarely fall TO the
lot of midde-class people, and when discovered
are cherished beyond price, so that where linn
tied incomes cannot be stretched they are to the
m9iority unattanabe.
"Be careful to say but little in giving your or.
ders to domeslics; that little must be said in all
kindness, but with 6rmness
Encourage in them no tattling about others
affairs, but in every other respect act as parent
to them, feeling ior their pain, allevating it as
much as pOss ble listening TO the details of their
families, and-in young girls especially-to
every particular respecting their lovers; guide
them, appeal to the feelings, constantly and
practically place before them the purport of the
Divine maxim, DO as you would be done 6y.'
II they waste say, would you have done this ii
you had to purchase these thiDgsN II they tell
untruths, endeavor to reason with them, to
show the utter impolicy, the uselessness of their
fTaud-that confidence cannot be given where
such tendency exists; and though there is no
make them one whit better, still yOur duty must
be performed, whatever they leave undone.
'In giving orders care must be taken that
they are practicable; otherwise a Girl will be
mentally defiant, and soon show 1t openly. To
overwork girl is cruel, whether it arises from
thouPhtessness or design. Housekeeping really
becomes a science when every nerve and
thought are exerted in adapting the means to
the end. There are many ways In which mis-
tress may quietly assist her domestic without
the latter really observing it. 1t is a bad plan
to commence with calling girls attention to
the fact that you are helping her; she will then
neglect her work and depend upon you, at tune,
perhaps when it may be inconvenient. Every
day should have its portion OF work performed,
80 that at the end of the week the whole house
will have been cleaned through l know you
have the habit OF rising early, without which /
should be hopeless OF giving you help. 1t is
altogether bad plan to call servant: she will
then depend upon you, and you will become
her slave. The habit OF early rising will grow,
and she will soon fall into it,
GAS you dress your children yourself and do
not trouble Bridget in this matter, l have
nothing to say about it, excepting that if you
did not you would be compelled to keep another
girl as Bridgets plan is mine also OF cleaning
the knives, two slttingrooms, and passages
before eight o'clock. 'Iis true your little tea-
ther brush and silken duster are requisite in
both rooms; but this work. am sure, does not
redden your hands or require you to put on an
especial ugly wrap tor the occasion. nave
admired you for this, and thought the children
on the rug, Gro wing with delight TO see mamma
fitting here and there and ch'rping and chat
ting and growing with them, as perfect pic
tuIe as one would desire. In such moments |
have envied you eDvied you the bliss OF your
little ones. This is a subject resolutely set my
face against dwelling upon; so to continue
wish that in the lew moments you are often
waiting TOR Fred, you would decide upon the
dinner arrangements for the day, and write
them down on a strip of paper. 'Tis true your
dishes may be few in number, and very simple,
and Bridget certainly always recollects; but the
time may come when it will be Bridget no
longer, and in the worry of change and a new
face, you will be sadly perpeXed TO recollect
even what you intended for dinner. Just write
your bill of fare for every day thus. Suppose
we begin with Sunday-dlnner for this day, of
course, being arranged on the lay previous:-
SUNDAY. To order or get.
Roast beef. Fish.
Yorkshire pudding. Outlets,
Potatoes. Potatoes.
HOTsel adlsh sauce. THURSDAY
A tart or pudding. Soup made from the bones
MONDAY. of beef, aud thlckened
Cold beef. with ScoIch barley.
Roast potatoes. The top OF the beef that
Salad, dressed. vas sal ed stewed with
Whole rice pudding with carrots, and an onion
out eggs. with tour cloves in
. To order or get serted,
Lettuce, etc. Potatoes.
Potatoes To order or get.
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