The daily dispatch. [volume] (Richmond [Va.]) 1850-1884, 1866-05-25
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SO explained as to save my sex from the
/ charge Of vanity, which, on this account, Is
so freely hurled Mt us. Let NJ see. A feel
ing of weakness and dependence Is an es-
sential characteristic Of true woman.
Like the trembling, helpless ivy, which un-
consciously reaches out for support, she
deeply feels the need Of sympathy and
help. She knows that the power to please
/ il necessary to win admiration. Men will
love her only when, and so far as, she can
nlease them. Their admiration is the proof
of their pleasure. Hence her tirelcss am
hilton is. by every lawful expedient, to gain
their smile of applause. How can TINS be
done9 She is alive to the fact that nothing
i so pleasing to men as q wOman's beauty.
Her common sense tells her also that
beauty is enhanced by suitable decoration.
| And this, in my view, explains her Iond-
ness for dress. Ii Is modest bid for ad-
mraton. 1t shows, not her vanity, Dnt
! her subseryiency to the lords OF creation.
1t is her confession of felt dependence;
! / know that some women are vain. Iney
are made so by the hattery Of men. AS
soon az the voice of praise ceases, their
vanity expires. The spirit Of self-conceit
rarely takes deep root in the heart OF
woman. Sometimes she is lulled into
monentary forgctfulness Of her frailty by
the soft notes Of admiration. Then she
boasts of her power, and is vain. but little
cases are not numerous, and when they ,
arise, quickly pass away.
As rule, it is not vanity that makes
woman fond of dress. The truth is, that
she does not care for dress on its own &C.
count. AS a sufficient proof of this fact,
many woman who, before marriage,
dresses with studied care, afterwards, to
please her husband, gives up her finery, and
dresses with plainness.
The truth is, that women dress Just in
the way the world prcscribes. If men
| fanced coarse and plain attire, they would
at once adopt it but, as general thing,
thev do not llkcit. Hence, woman dresses
| finely. She knows that it is popular and
pleasing: she enjoys it from belief that
| it will heghten the charms of her person
and gain admiring notice.
Most of all does poor girl feel desire
to dress with taste and beauty. Destitute
of wealth, which brings so many advan-
tarcs. and almost makes beauty unneces-
s,rv. she kecnly feels that, if not beautiful,
She has nothing to recommend her. Her
charms must he exhibited 10 the best ad-
vantage. Gladly would she call on fashion
To adorn and bcautify her, but she cannot.
She has not the means of dressing fashion.
ably. Her poverty is an enemy, whose
grinding heel is on her. Dependent mainly
upon her personal comcliness for winning
! favorable notice, she is unable TO present
herself handsomely. Her form, berett OF
| half its charms by exposure and labor,
loses the rest by being clad in the faded or
inferior garments of poverty. Does she
not feel this Is it not source OF humlli-
alton, if not nf envy, to see others decked
! in the splendors of fashion, while her outfit
ONLY excitcS contempt, or, at best, neglect.
Her condition is unSpeakably trying, and
| solitude often marks her tears of anguish.
/ \ poor girls anxiety about the future is
another source of trouble. 1t is different
with the girl that has wealth. She is, cir
cumStantially ut least, Independent. To-
great extent she can use her life according
to her own choice. Ii not disposed to
marry, she can be comfortable without It.
! Her wealth will secure her useful If not
| devoted friends. If, as is generally the
| ease, her preference be for married life,
offers will not be wanting. Ii in marrying
she fail to obtain true lover, she will at
least not likely fail TO find one who will
make her respectable and easy.
4 poor girl. How dark her future! No
ray of friendly hope beams over her path
way. What is to be her doom? IL she re-
main, from necessity or choice, unmarried,
only tricudlcSsness and want await her.
She must drift into some subordinate posi-
ton. where, without reward or honor, she
will wear away sorry existence.
If she marry, the probability is that she
will bc the reluctant choice Of one who
vainly sought beforehand "to do better y;
or else of one who, though he loves her,
can only reward her by Installing her into
the sickcuing drudgery of domestic life.
Love in cottage may be tine thing
POLITICALLY considered, but it grows out OF
all beauty when it includes the additional
idea Of having no servant, and all the
house work to do.
What lot for girl. There is no sweet
tomorrow of which she may nationally
dream. The wheel of fortune which bears
others t. Happiness is crushing her to the
dust. The memory OF merry chlldnood
is her only comfort. Hope is no friend to
her.
.. These things may bear with peculiar
weight upon me. / have known the COM
forts and luxurics OF an easy country
home. As | look to the past | see the dis
tant heights of joy and plenty from which
misfortune hurled me. The review tears
open atresh the wounds which | received
in the fall, and makes me sick with grief
and despair. How can be patient and
contentcd in my present state?
Dear me, how long my letter has grown!
close abruptly.
STRUGGLE.
=. S." Stranger" says that my allu-
sions to the gamblers in my last letter
greatly excited their ire against me. He
propose that | shall in my next give my
opinions in full Of the gambling profe ssion.
lie is not member of the church, 6nt Is
Il g,ntlelaan, and Of course despises gam.
Jliny and ganbiers. | shall crafty him,
especially as he promises to give me many
materials for the letter. 5.