The Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, W. Va.) 1865-1903, 1866-02-05
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discussed. The material of the discus
sioudsa coevalt with Paradise, and the
ideas, therefore, are not startling foI
it is asserted, or rather assumed, that
the feat of securing a wife does not seem
to be; a difficult one. The hunters are
linphfiIous, and the game not over shy.
| Whatfmu utual desire fails to accomplish,
'selfishness effects, holding, as 1t does,
pride and will among its reserves
liEveryday life proves that il Is not dith=
cult to obtain u wife. The land is filed
with homes, and in every one is wife.
All kinds of men-tall, Eshofti large,
lsmalI-;- good, bad; generous, mean
clean, dirt ty4ministers merchants, law
yefs, dlietors, citizens, ,sho oenak kers, pTin-
ters, tailors, Puddlers, miners, soap
| boilers, ,,scayengers, soldiers, sailors,
dairymen, sfishmen, lnmbermen, farm
ers, fidd1efs, furriers, butchers, bakers,
! candlesticS-mak kers, and we have heard,
some editors have wives, nine out ofeFr
| ryten ofwhom we're secured without
any measurable degree of persuasion.
| '.willn', y so it is not necessary to sug-
| Eest to men any thing on the treatment
| of their wives before marrying them.
Anteeedently they are polite, kind and
| considerate. With conSumate. strategy
they prefer request, and affect to con-
slider it an inesMtiniable ~ favor II 1t Is
| granted. p. .fiiIsis .pf-.E RaJ.iJ -Hlisil II
! FIt Is Charitable to believe that men are
not always deliberately wicked and
Ixanton initheir conduct 70 their wives
| hFter InhrriaGe Ge-only weak. r, y, f-s.s &
...Wo1ld It be strange il your wives,
| looking, back to your early. deeds and
! dnys and seeing how much or how lit
tIelof genuine affection your attentions
| represented, should find their souls eS-
| ceedingly hilled with eontempt2 Yes,
litwould be strange for women nre not
! like men. They see through you, but
theystiek to you, ike fly TO a window
pane.' ~. gs.5,E. .,ff-i..l. .sf,4 e; - -
| : fIwhat delightful "reminiscences Softhe
/ days ofyoung love and courtship are
| ,tt the command of every young wife in
| the land ! The pleasant rides, the
sweet ices and slices, the dainty gifts,
\ timed with houghttuliadapuon to hol-
! tdays and birthdays, the tender courte-
/ sizes, the corteouS tenderneSSeS, the EN-
/ dearments, the Observation-Disclosures name
| less attentions that advertise the mas
I culinespassion to the feminine idol are
/ matters which many, perhaps most
wives, remember wi tn a sigh, because
] they afeamong pleasures forever past,
| and because they were pledges of undre-
! ing devotion that have not been re-
| deemed. AJ2 n IE6 gI5T l3E4 :.
| / Leaving the records of divorce aside,
/
ability which render marriage mock
cry and misery, and making all possible
| allowance forthe follies and fOibles Otthe
subordinate party to the marriage con-
tract the fact still remains that men,
multitudes and majorities of cases,
grow hpathetic toward their wives, and
| linconsiderate OF the peculiar need oil
their natures. A thousand cases con=
| tribute to this result, and men often de-
| scend into coldness and downright inl-
politeness without knowing the process
which leads them there, or suspecting
the fact itself. Let us look at some OF
\ these causes in brief detail ~ ,laJ-l'.
Il The first foe that marriage meets is
\ marriage itself. While the pursuit Of n
4 desirable object is in progress, and fail
| iure possible, every faculty Is strained
j towurd attainment, and every availa-
bIeauxi iliary is brought to bear upon
| the same end. There is excitement in
| it-often excitement the most intense.
| 1t niatters nothing whether the
/ object sought be ~ uwoman or a
4 wager. Ar man knows 5lthat 10
/ win a woman of his choice he must
| please her $50 he makes it a business to
please her. He is indefatigable in it,
! His love is honest, or he thinks it il
| Weeks, months, years pass, perhaps,
before the object of his affection is Sc
cure to him. When nlarrIage consum-
| mates his desires and aims, he is atthe
end OF a1ong and exciting race. Pos
session brings'@ reaction. Safety
| breedsI SindineFAnce This is in ac-
cordance with the laws of the human
mind. Tt would be the same if he had.
| sought, long and found. ut last great
wealth or high position or anyotherp prize
| for which men strive. But this comes
as sort of shock, from which there IS
earlier or later recovery. ..t.5J 2 J
II Mr.. Brown having possessed himself
ofthe object of his desire, suddenly
Iitinds dIis freedom restricted, which, of
| course. is irRsome in the extreme TO a
\ nature who has hitherto enjoyed his
''franchisen so liberally.I This condt-
| ltion of affairs is likely to be, In a meas
| lure, one of the seq quitOrs of marriage, is
! never u subject OF serious or any other,
contenlplatiod until aEtAr the consum-
! nation of his bliss. Waking thorough
I ly to the cohScfousneSs that he is a mar
\ ried man, he finds in his house aper-
| son who has anlabsolute Glaimaon his
attention, his time, his affection, and
his service. BE is surrounded by new
| coadftions.' All his movements must
| start from a new Icentre. Brown, be-
/ fore nurriage, could harness his pony,
I and drive W katever his iimPuls might
direct, but after marringehe IL obliged
\ to remember that Mrs. Brown IS IN the
! house and would Z like to Accompany
| Hmm fact, considering the ways to5
wards which the ponyiss head Is turned
| aud, the old companions who dive on
! the way, that Is not wholly agreeable to
\ Brown Anew and on all such ncca-
sioIis a Troublesome item, COMES into
| his c,ilcu latiOns..j, Mr., Brown is no
! Iongeb single, he IS double. His. life,
which was once a skein of silk, has be-
| cons' a stick of twist and. the strand
which he contributed cannot be separ;I7
| ted from its fellow without smart. He
| finds himself tied to Mrs. Brown for
/ life, and finds that certain freedOmOf
| movement which, he enjoyed before
MARRIAGE ecahf0t, with prOpriety, be
enjoyed after marriageI This troubles
Mr. Brown a little. He has half a mind
| to REBEL w hat business has a woman
to interfere with men? Perhaps he re-
bells with u whole mind. Thousands
doHnnd Dy the faiIure.1to adapt theni-
selves nationally to their new condt-
tions. inaugurate life of discord or in-
| difference. t.lllsL
Absorption in business and profess
sionaI pursuits is, perhaps, the grand
! CAUSE of estrangemen between married
Hives. In France there Is a saying that
tobacco is the tomb of loye.n French
tlove, probably! EIn America business
| is the tomb OF love. 1t is hard, if not
| live in the heart at the same time. 1t
lis aSidifficult to love woman and MANI
tmon as II is TO serve God and mammon-
The love of q man for his wife must be
/ the grand, enduring, aH-subordinating
pasesio OF his life, or women is defraud-
1 ed of her right. The man who, when
/ his wife is won, turns his whole lie
Y into business, making that an end
which should only be u means, Is only
tism OF sIfecti0n Ike the strong love
\ nd fsf5l sfiIasS T1tiFsti flS of an oueY Turn