American citizen. [volume] (Canton, Miss.) 1864-1890, 1866-07-07
From the n. o Times.
Advice Of an Old Maid to Young
Men.

were taught that it was the very
height of impropriety to make young
men our chief subject OF COnversa
ton, yet the young ladies do it witt
impunity nowadays. Just heal
them. "What a handsome young
man that one is. intend to set my
cap at him." Another one says "Oh
he is only a mechanic, young DR.. B.
is rich, will marry him if can only
induce him to ask me-" Still auOth.
er feels il she does not say so, j
L has make me an offer Of mar
riage. | won't be an old maid so
shall say, yes for | may never have
as good an offer again" What dol,
an old maid know about such things
as love and marriage, some ore asks.
Well [ will tell you, | have had
some experience in the first and last.
I-ahem--I was in love once myself,
but (well | will tell the truth, how
ever mortitying to my prde) the
creature made transfer OF his heart
and soon after his hand to another,
but since that time | have learned
wisdom and only mention this cir
cumstance to prove that | did once
have a heart and may have now for
all you know to the contrary. If ev,
er / had married | do not think
could have sat down in idlenesS
while my husband tOiled to support
me in luxury. But | don't pity half
the men, all have to say iS-"boys if
you will marry the silly, behounced,
becurled, painted dolls that repre-
sent one-half the women of the pres
ent day, you may expect in less than
ten years from the time you commit
ted such an insane act to become,
instead of the noble, generous-heart-
ed, loving man you now are, a little
peeviSh, stoop-Shouldered, care worn
misanthrope. You will find all your
fond dreams of domestic happiness a
miserable delusion.
But don't let me discourage you.
There are some noble, generous
hearted girls in the world, who would
he willing to give up the silly rounds
of fashionable life and make your
happiness their constant study, and
in that find their own perfect felicity
girls who would make their homes
their Worldwide would sigh for no
other need Of praise or admiration
than that bestowed by their kind and
devoted husbands. But remember,
dear boys, such women don't live in
every house, so beware. Although
there may be no happiness like do
nestle, neither is there any misery
like unto domestic misery, While
4 nOble-hearted, cOngenial spirited
as wife, would assist in
your struggles and tolls, one of the
silly, frivolous creatures with which
he market matrimonial is over
StOcked) would, on the contrary,
lrag you down to her own miserable
evel, for you cannot elevate her
shallow soul, and nine cases ont of
en- the truth of my words are vpri-
led. Are such women fit mothers
or future generations ! Are they
to rear, to educate for fu-
ure usefulness and honor, the next
of rulers and statesmen
or our beloved countryl God for
id that our country's honor should ,
Yer be in the keeping OF such men
IS their offspring would be.
Remember, young men, pure and
loly principles, a true and gentle
leart and Spiri;, can alone render
woman permanently attractive and
worthy of your love.
But / am getting too serious, You
will begin TO think l have some de-
ign upon some of you. Iassure you
have not, and please give me the
redit of being diSinterested. may
possibly "like" some of you, but /
ave not confidence enough in you
o "love" you. l expect the girls {
will give me 'tts' for my plain speak ,
ng, but the good ones need not take I
'ffence-my words are not for them. ,
those whom the shoes fit may wear {
hem, and, ii possible, profit by my
words. Render yourselves worthy a ;
7ood mans love before you think of
marriage. II