Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1865-03-18

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The best uovernmcnt of. chilcren Is that
which trains them properly to rule ,hem.
selves. A boy Who refrains from wrong
only or principally because he fears the
rod. a In fair way TO ruin, when he has
erowu TOO large TO be whipped restraint
vii be zone and he will hssten 10 gaa'ify |
bis passions all the more 6erceiy because.
Of the previously enforced denial Of indul
peuce. The constant effort OF parents
should be 70 teach children that nconven
snce, pain and misery are the natural con.
sequences OF transgression, Merely re.
pea,ipg this day sfrer day to child will
not be sufficient 10 implant Il asa princi
pie Of action. Itmsy be thus impressed
on the memory but not on the life. Chill
dren learn to avoid physical danger. frs
by oxperieneisg ihe pain resulting from it.
No child will let fre slone merely from
being told that IL will burn; but after he
bas once or twice felt the smart. he will
not only shun the flame, bu, he will be more
likely TO heed future warnings, both of his
and others sgainN which hisIpsrtns may
caution him. II his constant experience be
that the trnnsgressiou Of the commands
and disregard Of the connsels of his guard
ians are inevitably followed by evil conse
quences which be can feel. and that h.
pain Is the direct result of bis infrsclion
be will ul imately be convinced OF the so.
perior wisdom Of those in authority over
him, and Of their just and kind motive it.
imposing restraint. l slwsys whip n,
bov when he disoheys me, ard yet csrnc'
make him mind, was the reply Of psren,
10 ,be writer. when aigipg the necessity OF
proper disiplne. In this csSs. and II is
one Of thousands, pain follows The DISC
bsdience not as o direct result but as an
arbitrary snd Temporary Consequence
The boy might f sl that perhaps the whip
ping came merely because the father was
dispIeased, and console bimsef with the
reflection that OF some day he won!d be
too big to whip. Or, as is more frequent
" the case, the thought might be l will
look ont and not get csugh, pex, time As
On Illustration Of another and better made
of irestement, take the following, which
occurred under the writer's notice. A LADY
had placed o quantity Of grapes in elose
for keeping untl she could preserve them
Her little boy found them and silly belpet
himself so libsrsly that the loss vas notice.
He was called to account, plead guilty, fo
the proof was strong. and received not
whipping. but the following just sentence
81 en- sorry you chose to take your shar
Of the grapes silly and disenestly. when b,
waiting little you could have enjoyed then
with the rest Of ns ard without fear O.
shame. OF course you csnnot expect an,
more, baving eaten ycur .po' tiop, and
shall not allow you 20 have them.n The
sentence was faithfully carried cut Every
time the preserved grapes came on the
little fellow felt not only the deprivation OF
the luxury, bat be could trace the natural
and just connection between his sin and its
punishment. and the lesson was remembered
loHger than severe whipping woud have
been. A hoy who should refuss to bring
water, or cut wood, or milk ihe COWS, or
do similar work, would he more successfully
treated by heing denied his share in the
benefit OF these operations, than by scoldinu
or whipping. Thus in most cases of disc
pline, the punishment may be SO directly
connected With The oAcnse, that The chile
will wish 10 escape the effect by avoiding
the csuse, and learn 10 do This habiiually
and when this is done long step is gauet
toward The practice Of self gosernmeat an,
% foundation of good principles is laid 70
his continuance in we'll doing when paren
aal control can no longer be exerled.