The Jeffersonian Democrat. [volume] (Chardon, Ohio) 1854-1865, 1865-12-01
Sporting with Female Affection.

Man cannot act a more perfidious part
Than use his utmost effort to obtain
A confidence in order TO deceive.
Honor and integrity ought to be the
leading principles of every transaction in
life. These are virtues highly requisite, not
withstanding they are too frequently disre.
garded. Whatever pursuits individuals are
in quest Of, sincerity in profession .steadfast.
ness in pursuit, and puDctuality in dis
charging engagements are iDdispensably in
cumbeut A man of honest integrity, and
uprightness in bis dealings with his fellow
creatures, is sure to gain the confidence and
applause of all good men; while he who acts
from dishonest or designing principles OBJ.
ta!Ds deserved contempt. Dishonest pro-
ceedings, in word or deed. are very often
sive to aud unjusti6able in the sight of God
and man, oven in trivial, but much more so
in consequential affairs. The most perfect
uprightness is highly requisite between man
and man, though il is too often disregarded,
and is much more 90 between tho sexes -
Every profession of regard should be with
out assembling, every promise preserved
invlolate. and every engagement faithfully
discharged. No one ought to make any Of
sers or pretensiOns to lady before he is, in
great measure, certain her person, her
temper. and qualifications suit his circum.
stances, and agree perfectly with his own
temper and way of thinking For o similar
ity of mind and manners is very necessary
to render the bonds of love permanent, and
those of marriage happy.
Marriage the happest state of life would be,
II hands were only join'd where hearts agree
The man Of uprigbtness and Integrity of
heart will not only observe the beauty of
the mind, the goodness of the heart, the
dignity OF sentiment, and the delicacy of
wit. but will strive to fix his affections on
such permanent endowments before be
pledges faith to any lady.
He looks upon marriage as business of
the greatest importance in lie,and a change
of condition that cannot be under ertaken with
too much reverence and deliberation.-
Therefore he will not undertake it at ran.
dom, lest he should precipitaiely involve
himself in the greatest difficulties. He
wishes to act conspicuous part, and con,
scquently cannot think Notwithstanding it
is too much countenanced by custom) of
sporting with the affections of the fair sex,
nor even of paying his addresses to any one
ill he is perfectly convinced bis own are
fixed on just principles.
All imaginary caution is certainly neces.
sary beiorehand; but, after a mans protes.
sion OF regard, and solicitations have made
an impression on female heart, it TO- no
longer matter of indifference whether be
perseve,es in or breaks off his engagement.
For he is then particularly dear to her, and
reason. honor justice. all unite to oblige him
TO make good his engagement.
WheE the matter is brought to such a
crisis, there is no retreating without mani.
testify disturbing her quiet and tranquility
of mind; nor can anything but her loss OF
virtue justify hor desertion. Nhether mar.
riage has been expressly promised or not, i!
is OF little Specification. For, if he has so.
licited and obtained her affections. on the
supposition that he intended to marry her
the contract is. in the sight of Heaven, suffi
centIy imposed on the honest heart of ar
unsuspccting girl, and, after winning hel
affections by the prevailing rhetoric Of
courship, leaves her to bitter sorrow and
complaining he acts very dishonorable part
and is more to be detosted than common
robber. For private treachery is much
more heinous than open force; and money
must not be in competition with happiness