Randolph County journal. [volume] (Winchester, Indiana) 1864-1865, 1865-08-17
THE RANDOLPH JOURNAL
hoEsE DEPARTMENT.
HOW TO TREAT Our WIVES.

fessional pursuits is, perhaps, the
grand cause of arrangements be
tween married lives. In France,
there is a saying that tobacco IS
the tomb OF love'-French love
problbly. In America, business Is
the tomb Of love. 1t Is hard, il
not impossible, for two great pas
sions to live i'm tile heart at the same
time. Il is as difficult 10 love wo-
man and mammon, as II is 10 serve
God and mammOn. The love oil
a nan for his wife must be the
grand, enduring, all suboTdinatlng
passion Of his life, or woman Is
defrauded OF her right The man
who, when his wife is won, turns
the whole interest and energy OF
his life into business, making that
an end which should be a means,
is married only in name. There
is no narcotism OF affection like the
strong love and ceaseless pursuit Of
money. Turning gradually away
from the quiet society OF their
wives, aud the enjoyments OF their
homes, most men yield themselves
TO the pursuit OF wealth, and in the
fierce excitements of their enter
prise, lose a taste for the calm de
lights Of domestic life. At the
close Of a days labor, they bring
home wearied bodies and worn
minds. Nothing is saved for their
homes or their wives. Their even
ings are stupid and fretfuI, and the
pillow and forgetfulness are wei
coined as a release from eanui.
Mr.. Jones is quite likely to be
what is called an "excellent pro-
WIDER" lie takes a certain degree
of pride in dressing his wife and
family well, furnishing them with
a good house, and surrounding them
with creature comforts. He fan
cies, indeed, that by doing this he
is testiying his regard tor Mrs.
Jones, and proving his love for her
in very tangible and substantial
way. 1t is in vain that Mrs. Jones
assures him that she would like
more of him and less OF his provis-
ion. Ii is in vain that she tells
him that if he would give her more
OF his society, she would gladly ex-
cuse many OF the good things which
he sends her as substitute. He
does not believe in "love in a cot
tage," and for his life can not tell
what Mrs. Jones finds TO complain
OF. He is a man OF business, and
thinks complacently that he has
surpassed the nonsense OF youth
and the tame delights of early we'd
lock. He has come to like strong
ilavors, and knows, although he
knows not why, that his heart is
growing dead within him. The
charms OF Mrs. Jones fail TO move
him. The old feeling of tenderness
dies out of him. Her sympathetic
bosom is no more his refuge and
solace. The love OF gain over
shadows his love OF Mrs. Jones,
aud the pursuit OF gain leaves him
no time for Mrs. Jones.
In the meantime, what is the
position of Mrs. Jones? Shut up
in her house all day, with no absorb.
ing love of Mr.. Jones, she passes
her hours in the pleasant hope of
meeting her husband at dinner, and
spending her evening with him.
She is rearing Mr. Jones' children,
aud, after all the care which they
require, longs for sympathy and
solace from him to whom she has
given, once and forever, her whole
heart. His smiling approval, his
appreciating praise, his endear-
ments, will pay for everything.
10 All these are her right. Failing
get these, she grows sad, and, in her
heart, questions the honesty of the
love which her husband has pro-
fessed for her, questions the tie that
unites them, questions her destiny
with sorrowful foreboding. She is
driven in upon herself, and feeds
upon herself. All, the thousands
and millions of wives who, slowly
arriving at the consciousness that
the cares OF this life and the deceit
fulness of riches have hardened
their husbands hearts, or stolen
them, have settled them down into
a hopeless round of duties, and died
at last athirs., ave, starving, for
the love which was pledged to
them at the altar
But let us suppose that Mrs.
Jones is not the sort of person to
succumb thus readily to her lot.
Suppose Mrs. Jones is a spirited
woman, who will not submit tame
~ 10 this hard issue Of her married
life. She will do one of two
things-become Mr.. Jones' accu-
ser-a thorn in his side-a rebel, or
she will institute a life independent
of Mr.. Jones. Ii Mr.. Jones will
defraud her of her rights, by making
money, she will take her right in