The Cadiz sentinel. [volume] (Cadiz, Ohio) 1864-1911, 1865-05-31
s. CADTZ OHIO; WEDNESDAY, MAY 81, 1865

friend. She did not reply, aud Fanny
went on:
There is wrong in this. On what ground
of reason are we TO be exempt from the
common lot of useful work? We expect to
become wives aud mothers Is this our
preparotiun2 Can you bake loaf Of sweet,
light brcad?''
NO"
MORGAN |. Or roast surloin?"
"Nn"
''Or troll steak? Just think of it, Aice
We can make little useless embroidery, or
fancy knitting: can sing and play, dance
and chatter-but as to the real and subStan-
tial things of life, we are ignorant and help
less. And with all this forsooth, we canhpt
think of letting ourselves down to the level
and condition of virtuOuS and intelligent
young men, who, in daily useful work, are
earning fair independence. We are so
superior that we must have husbands able
to support us in luxurious idleneSS, or We
will have none We are willing to pass the
mm to whom love wobld unite us in the
tndcrest bonds, because his income is
snail, and marry for position one from
whom the soul turns with instructive aver
son. Can we wonder that so many are un-
happy"
But eight hmthed dollars, Fanny
How is it possible for married couple to
live in any decent style, in this city, on
eight hundred dollars ycar?"
They may live in very comfortable
style. if tn, wife is willing to perform her
part.
, What do you mean by her part, Fanny
'We viii take it for granted that She is
no better than her hu band. That, having
brought him no fortune beyond her dear
sell, she cannot claim superior privileges.
'WclR'
He has to labor hard through all the
u"H, 'welI?"
Under what equitable rule is she ex-
cmpt.
None. She must do her Part, Of course,
if there is anything to do it with. She
must keep his house, if he can afford
house. But if he only have eight hundred
dollars year? Why, rent alone would CON
srnle half or more than hall of that. There
would be no house keeping in the case
They must board. "
And the wife sit in ideness all the day
long?"
She would have nothing to do"
sewing machine, earn few dollars every
week? or engage in some other useful work
that would yield an income, aud so do her
par?'
Yes, she might do something of the
kind; but if marriage Is to make 'workirs
of lis, it were better to remain single.
And live i'll unwomanly dependence up
on our parents and relatives? No, Alice;
~ f.,I, AZ
subject, and AS think and talk see it more
and n, ore clearly. Our parents have been
weak IN their love for us; and society, as
constituted has given us wrong estimates
Of things We should have been required
to do useful wolk in the house hold from
The b. ginning; and should have been taught
that idleness and seII-indulgencc were dis
credltahe. Our brothers are put to trades
and professions, and made to cunprch, nd
from tie beginning, that industry is honor
able. and that the way OF useful work is
the WAY by which the worlds brighteet
places are to be reac he'd, But we arc rai-
scd dalntly and uselesSIy, and so fitted for
our duties as wives and mothers. Our
plidc and seize tccm are fostcrcd; and we
crnIc to think OF ourselves as future queens,
VII, are tn be miniStered to in all things,
inst. al Of being a ministrant, in loving self
orecttllness, to others. No wonder that
IN anti-marriage sentiment is beginning to
p cvai! among young men of moderate in
comes, in all our large cities. lhc fault is
IN us, Alice. The sill lies at our door. We
demand too much in this CO. -rartncr.hip.-
We arc not willing to do our share Of work
Our husbands must bear all the burdens. "
Alice sighed heavily. Her friend CON
tinued:
Il have read somewhere that the delight
of Heaven is the delight of being useful
And it seems to ne as | dwell upon the
thought, that the nearest approach to hca-
ve1ly delight here must be in that state in
to which ii wife c. mes when she stands by
her husband side, and ont of loveior him,
removes one burden and another from his
shoulders, and 80 lightcns his work that
miles take the place Of weaIincss and the
shadowinqs Of care. If he be rich, she can
hardly have so great privilege; but if they
are alike poor, and know how to moderate
their desires, their home may become an
image of Paradise. Eight hundred dollars!
Alice, if yon were really fitted to become
the wife Of Harry, you might live with him
doing your part, happier than a queen.
hat is, might take in work and earn
money, if We board; or,-but housekeeping
is out of the question"
mo, it should never be out of the oues-
ton. in marriage, ] think"
but house rent alone would take half of
our income.
''That does not follow"
ut does for any house that l would con-
sent to live H..
80 pride is stronger than love. But
pride has its wages as well as love; and the
one is bitter while the other is sweet 1t
is this pride of appearance this living for
the eyes of other people who do not care a
penny for us, that is marling the fair fabric
of our social life. Fine houses, fine fulni-
ture, fine dresses, parties, shows, aud costly
Injuries OF all kinds, are consuming domes-
tic happiness and burlening fathers and
brothers in all grades of society with en-
barrassment and wretchedness. Alice, we
must be wiser in our generation.
That is, coop ourselves up in two or three
little rooms, with our eight hundred dollar
a-ycar husband, anddo our own cooking and
house-work. Is that it, my pretty one?"
Alice, you do not deserve a good man!
You are not worthy to wed Harry Peasants
and | trust you will pass him by, should he
be weak enough to offer you his hand He
can afford to marry girl of your expecta-
tions; he must content himself with one
who, like himself, regards life as real, life as
earnest; and the way OF use and duty the
way to true honor and the highest happi-
ness.
From the Cincinnati Commercial, Abolition
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