The weekly north Iowa times. [volume] (McGregor, Iowa) 1857-1867, 1865-12-20
. Written for tho Chicago Literary Messenger.
."Eor Love-" #tE
BY AGNES LEONARD.

rid themselves Of secret pangsIehat come "for
! loves sake" ,.,.... ..t....s.,..
The world is mad about IT, Collectively it
is very cold and sneering, yet. individually, it
10 very impulsive, and bot-hesded, aud insane
on the subject. Persons, who ought to have
lived long enough to know better, say those
who have arrived at the maturity OF twenty
and upwards, instead Of being candid enough
to testify against the immense humbug, couh .
terfeit youth aud freshness by affecting to be-
lieve in love, and add their mite towards
swindling the unsophisticated, by inducing them
to invest largely in the article How pathetic
they are with their pleasant. alliteration Of
| poetry and passion. How they bring changes
| on the human hearts unworded mysteries, and
| the deep souls unfathomed caves, etc, ETC.
How they write books to prove that two per.
sons can be profoundly miserable and bound
lessly happy, on account Of each other. How
they decry womanly independence and prate Of
wonlanly gent!eness and tenderness, and grow
enthusiastic over "womir love" A woman
must be so constant, and gentle, and affection:
ate She must keep close to that charmed cir
Gle known as 'her sphere" though she should
get dizzy as . top travelling around it. She
must be young and pretty, and marry her frss
love, OF course, and adore him all the days Of
her mortal existence.
I've seen few such. Madame A., Who
was young, and pretty, and amiable, married
for love, and frat love at that and her advice,
| after twelve years Of married lie, il this; !;
"Marry for love IL you csn but dout marry
without money One may love a man ever az
mach, and still be not totally insensible to tri.
| umphs of millinery Then. too, it Is tying to
| the best of men to have their wives want muney
| when it is'ut come.at. able Marry money,
| however you settle it about love-" This, from
q woman who would, doubtless, have "died in
spring.iime," and gone gently to decay under =
half acre or 80 OF violcts, had she been disap.
] pointed in her youthful affections
Madame B-was seventeen and an heiress
| when she married her first love, man somr-
where in his thirties Of course her friends OBJ
jected, and she became more determined in
proportion to their opposition. Consequence
a marriage. Alter fourteen years of welded
bliss, (Y madame advises her unmarried lady
friends something after this fashion Select
a husband before you are so blindly in love
with him that you cannot see his faults. Low.
ing a man is all very well-itter m,rri ,ge-but
falling in love without any earthly reason for
so doing, and getting married in haste, to re-
pent at leisure, is not exactly my idea Of hap.
pness. Yet suppose if | had mt married Mr.
B, and had been unhappy with any other
man, should always have fancied my ua.
happiness resulted from not marrying my first
love" ."-v Z. sl...-
And this, after fourteen years experience,
living with ''frst love !" satatsa7
OF course all women are not 50 candid.
There are hypocrites who declare welded life
felicity, and themselves ''as much in love as
ever" For these "whited sepu'chres" have
no words. The true state Of their feeling Isl
doubtless sufficient punishment for the crime Of
their false assertions. #." &at
One more "romance in re al life, !" and have
done quoting from my observation. d.
Madame C-was beauty, a village belle,
wealthy and in her teens. .,
Why should she not marry her "first love-"
And, loving the most fascinating of men, why
not be happy =? True, ho was somewhat older
than she might have chosen; bat SO handsome,
intellectual, and altogether irresistible. And;
If she ventured to wondered why he could love
her, so unsophisticated and specifically edu-'
Gated. why, of course, his graceful aud ardent
assurances, that hearts was more than heads,
and that woman's affection was more to be
priced than her genius, were sufficient to reas-
sure madame, and make her relinquish the
vague idea of Improvement that came sternly
across the blue mist of loves dreaming. OF
course. she believed him. Hadn't she read,
all her life. of the priceless gift of "womanst
affection p Wasn't "woman,s constancy''
the theme Of every poet, plinter, and psehy-a
liner the world had ever known! "Woman's
constancy ~ She got that into her head. She
knew what that meant 1t meant, of course
she must love him, and only him, all the days
of her life Well, she Thought sue could do
that. He had handsom. eyes, beautiful
hand, an air diStjn jue, and brains enough to
keep the common herd staring ut hun with
admirinS astonishment How easily madam
subsidized from her honey N BON > transports into
matrimonys cheerful com 'lacency. Charlie
loved her and of course that was enough. No
necessity for her studying, Or reading, or try
ing to interest him, Or even taking pains to
know his moods aud humor them. lie loved
her, and she loved him. No necessity for any
farther exertion. "Womans love and
woman's constancy-that is all she has to re-
member. 81 .. g.. I Ia. srr
Consequence is, some fac morning Madam
C-awakes to the conviction that her hus-
bands eager restless, craving intellect s SEEK
ing food somewhere else !; since his higher na- Z
ture is starved at home, it boards out, and only
comes home to lodge. 1t lies dormant, sleeps
when in her society, but leaves her the mo-
ment it is awake AMI hungry. She may bs /.
angry with the attraction that takes him from ,
her. She may annhllate that attraction, yet
her husband will seek another The mlfd
must have food ; the soul must have compan...
iou.hip, and no complaining Or sullenness can
reconcile it to isolation. ......s s.,. q
When oh when will woman learn that it IS
not ali of happiness to marry, nor all Ut misery"
to be an old maid when will mothels real ~
that their daughters must be somesan besides /!
simply graceful aud supertcially accomplished
toys When will they awaken to knowledge
OF the fact that woman must be edxcateA
thoroughly aud severely, in order to retain for,
life time the whole heart Of man OF intel
lect ? Legal ties may restrain j mans actions;
may guard his lips AMI keep him in the narrow
circle allotted him, yet his mind, Infinite in its
cravings, wanders ever, on Invisible wing, to
the mouutan-heights OF his aspirations, and she
who cannot follow him in these soulful ghts,
must be deprived not only OF the highest hslrll
man enjoyment, but must be crowded out OF
his husbands mind in proportion to the superl.
orty of his intellect. And so, while ne Is faltn-
ful in the discharge of every duty, observant =
even of every wish manifested by his wifss it,
hs tind her deficient in those mental endoW-t
ments that are, to one Of his temperament,
necessity he is restless, nervous and 30 unsat-'
istied as to either Gey the world, xnd ssek IN q
telIectual compauiouship away from home, OF .
to endure in moody discontent the amount OF
enoyments to be derived outside OF soul. At
ter time the poor wife realizes this realizes
with a heart breaking convcuon taat"wonAn. s.
ly affection and ''coustancy" avail nothInSs /.
ana upon her head falls the mothers sin IN not
impressing upon her the necessity ct mental eGI'"
ture. When, oh when will woman learn thAs
the Chief end and aim OF life is not matrim09Is >
an that she must prepare herself lntellectual,
if she would be happy after marriage When
this is learned then will the number OF divorces
and unhappy husbands and wives be greatly
diminished Then will homes be made happy
husbands reliabls, msa and women ornaments
to society, and the world move rapidly Oh
towards the millennium OF its perfection. .'ts.aao
------- ID . -nlI
Hon. Fitz Henry Warren, OF this state'
has accepted the position Of minister To-
Guatemala. '4' ''' #.@lsl..1.
Gen. Fitzpatrick will leave for Chill early
in January next $500 "a sa'n
President Mahony says that Fenian