The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1865-10-26
EJr thc lateil;qenccr.
Coartahip and Marriage.

and PHILOSOPHERS nave given 10 kiaiiNinW
concerning this interesting subject; and
how slow the progress of the world in
learning the lessons inculcated from the
earliest dawl, cf Time!, Mankind have
advaaeed in every branch OF knowledge
and in "a wonderful degree diminished
many of the ills which cling to human
nature; j; But alas they are still ignorant
in the science of the heart, and-still com
nit serious errors in selecting companions
for life. The celebrated. Plato, evon in
hisday, saw5the sad mistakes committed
bysinexperienced youths and girls, and he
auecommendeel the study Of physiognomy
to those who would be blessed in their
marriage State. a. How noble" says he,
IS that science which teaches man how
ne may win "a woman's heart, and
choose . congcnial spili! for a compan-
5dsn.s asd Socrates taken Plato's hint,
doubtless he would have been saved from
many of the. sorrows which hovered over
his life, and depressed his genius. Fliny
has also ventured TO point opt'a remedy
forsthc -ill.assortca matches Of the young.
..To win d noble heart.p says he, "re-
ouircs as much art as to take @ castle.
It must be approached with caution
sometimes it is necessary for yoltQ re-
treat. How manyarc doomed to wretch
sdncss and .:.liscry, simply because they
are isnorant hew TO gain over such a
heart s.s would be treasure, to them"
I.amartinc suggests the. study OF Phlos-
ply to those who are inexperienced in
tbs courts Of Cupid Much, very much,
will depend upon the time, the place, and
tho circumstances By which youy arc sii:
yaanded, whether you arc successful in
winning the object of yonr affections or
not. II it is night, and the moon is she'd
ding her pale, silvery light over Nature,
and the place a retired spot surrounded
by beautiful scenery, where
"Boon nature scattered, free and Wild,
yEach plant orgaovcr,; the mountains child
.sucl. combination viii inspire love.
where thcnpst eIoqnept langnagc, under
other circumstances, would fa;: to awaken
eFel, a tender regard. Having inspired
aeye in the .sosom of the fair ono, it row
tehooycs the young. man to bccontinaal-
Is on the watch, lest lie offend, by his
oyeranSious zeal, the lady The would win,
and thus lose the much desired prize.
Few ladies' can pardon such; ;condnct in a
lover. lie must also bear in mind, that
too much familiarity breeds contempt,
and for this reason,5 must not spend all
his leisure time in hersocicsy. No lad.'s
patience cangbear up fo'ss, when her pri-
yate hours are intruded upon By her beau,
and slo is compelled to sit and listen to
his silly nonsense. until she heartily wish
es he was in Halifax; But rer6um sg1icit.
With these hints, I will speak Of some Of
the abuses of Marriage, and endeayor to
point outya remedy.
This subject should be approached with
reverence. of the abuses Of this grand
institution, the sad proofs are before our
I eyes, every day Of. our lives. We see do.
ncstic broils and -feuds in households
whore wo werss. led to expect all would
bo peace and happiness How often are
our most sanguine hopes disappointed in
the.Siaalriages Of those who gave fair
promise be blessed in this sacred alli-
! ance.? Soon, bitter strife and altercation
cnsue, while home loses alliits attraction,
And Che unfortunate persons are doomed
to drag out i miserable existence. in Bit
tcrrcpcntance.1 This.is no:faney picture.
It.is.the sruths Nor can it be prevented
when boys and girls are taught to regard
marriage rs a-bargain, or a something g.to to
brig bril- money and give them. position in
society, Few very few, marry for love.
Marriage is too often disguised under the
high-soupding names Of honorable ali
ance, excellent match, etc. So long as
tue Creators laws are thus violated, the
unhappy persons who take ssthis step,
must reap Their reward. There is anoth-
er barrier .,is to the. happincss of many who
enter 4his sacred alliance, viz: total
i.Galai'eeos cachSothers dispositions ana
temscsaalents. Many boys and girls meet
for the first si,nc; exchange a few words,
and they ere II love- When they part
they ssel e!isagrccaBic, and imagine that
they can. never bcshaPi.y until they arc
,;,,;t ,rr:;t1rc. Il.ifed to iacE otll-