Daily Ohio statesman. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1855-1870, 1865-05-09
NUMRER 266. er
ZINC DemonstraIIonsI of ,lkdsciiil,o,sn,
MRS. HARRIEr nEEcHER ardME.N

BY MRS. HARRIET BERCHER sTOwE.A
How much more we might make Sef DIR
family life, of ourffiendships J if ever secret
thought OF love blossomed intoca deed
We are now speaking merely Of personal
caresses.g These may or may not be the best
language of affection. Many are endowed
with delicacy, a fastidiopsn ness rpfJ pbySieal
organization, which shriiEs away from too
much of these, repelled and overpowered.
But there are words and looks, and little
observances, thoughtfulness, watclfful little
attentions, which speak of love, which
make it,manifest, and there, Is scarcely q
family that might not bericher IN heart
wealth for more of them.
d! 1t Is a mistake to suppose that relations
of course love each other beeanse.t they
are relations. Love must be cultivated, and
can be increased by jddicioiis culture, sas
wild fruits may double their bearing nnder
the ehand of a gardner !, and love eau, ,dwin-
die and die out by neglect, as choice Hover
seeds planted in poor soil dwindle and grow
single. q 'i191i7br97d sfEd isdi snoHl1as
Two causes in our Anglo7Saxono nature
prevent this easy language and flow of ,ex-
preston which strike one so pleasantly in
the Italian or French life I; the dread of fat
- terry, and observation-disclosures 9ciisuL
=, "Lperfectly longed to tell Sos osand-so how
l admire her, the other day., says Miss X.
"And why in the world don't you tell
"oh, it would seem like flattery, you
know" anna .yof 81; Do .,qsrer-f5 yFrq.f
Now what is flattery? s,.s.lf,.j .,.,h
Flattery is tnstntere praise given from In
tereeted motives, but the sincere utterar1ce
afriend OF what we deem good and love-
a, ly in him. s'--ri 10 .orfG'.af adt 10
And SO, for fear of fattering, these dread
fully sincere people go on side by side with
those they love and admire, giving thenall
- the time the impression of utter indifference.
Parents are so afraid of exciting pride and
vanity in their children by the expression
OF their love and appreciation, that child
sometimes goes sad and discouraged by
their side, and learns with surprise, in some
chance way, that they are fond and proud
of him. There are times when the open ex-
preston Of fathers love would be worth
more than church or sermon to boy; and
his father cannot utter it, will not show it.
The other thing that represses the utter
ances of love is the characteristic shyness
of the Anglo-SaXon blood Oddly enough,
race born OF two demonstrative, outspoken
nations-the German and the French-has
an habitual reserve that is like neither.
There is powerlessnes of utterance ia our
blood that we should fight against, and
struggle outward toward expression. We
cln educate ourselves to it, If we know and
feel the necessity we can make it q Christ
ian duty, not only to love but to be loving
not only to be true friends, but to show our
selves friendly. We can make ourselves say
the kind things that rise in our hearts and
tremble back on our lips-do the gentle and
helpful deeds which we long to do and
shrink back from; and, little by little it
will grow easier-the love spoken will bring
back the answer OF love-the kind deed will
bring back a kind deed in return-till the
hearts in the family circle, instead OF being
SO many frozen, icy islands, shall be full
of warm airs and echoing bird-voices, an
swering back and forth with a constant
melody of love. . sct ... ,...r-. ,.'f DO