The West Virginia journal. [volume] (Charleston, W. Va.) 1864-1877, 1865-12-06
Love and Lovers.

ABOUT Rnat VIC moan Wncp VIC talh VI
love. Love, according to our iutcrprc>
tation, is not boru in a.night-it strikes
its roots into a more enduring founda-
ton than occasional fancy. The devo.
ton that Aourishcs only through brief
honey-moon's existence, and fades away
before life's more serious aspect, can not
be worthy Of the name. Wo want no
such hollow limitations as this. Our
love is all-cnduring, all.forsivins, all.
exteuuating. 1t extends into tt" mercst
:riaes Of everyday 'cxistcuce-it scars
up into the highest and more exalted
spheres. 1t watches the faco with ever
anxious tenderness, it anticipates tho
unspokcn wish, it is perpctualIy on the
qm ricc. Nothing is too small or incon.
scquen,ial to escape its vigilance. 1t
scws on strings and buttons before they
are fairly loose it browns the puddinSs
with artistic exactitude; it keeps the
book or newspaper ready to the hand; it
never retorts ~ told you OF 1t docs
not bang the door with masculine un'
consciousness, when headaches or weak
nerves are in the ascendant; it keeps up
all the little lovcrlikc ways Of its court
ship days it. makes tender allowances
for smoky chimneys, cross servants, and
sick babies Our love is for daily do
mestic use, something that, as the ad-
vcrtiscmcnts' say, "no family should be
without"
"Lovcrs are not husbands" say the
sage sirers of good advice. No, but
husbands should be improvements on
lovers. Should be, wo say what pity
that they are not always! Take our ad'
vice, girls, and don't marry until you
arc quite sure that all this assevcratcd
devotion is real, aud not spurious. If
you have q bad servant you can dis
charge him, but bad husband is not to
be got rid Of on any terms Getting
married on false pretenses is generally
apt to turn out rather a bad business.
We think the wise world would open
its eyes in surprise if it really knew the
reason of half the matrimonial alliances
that it sanctions every day Of its lite.
Some marry fora home; some for a posi-
ton in society; some through lacSa.
daisical desire for what they call "sym.
pathy;" some to get their stockings
mended and their bronchitis nursed /;
some to get possession Of meek house
hold slave cheaper than she can be OBJ
tanned in the Circassian market; some
to avoid the burning shame and disgrace
of dying an old maid! So tho world
goes. But nevertheless, to the honor Of
humanity be it spoken, there are still
abundance Of real genuine love-matchcs
being made there arc yet people in ex-
istencc who marry because they suit one
another physically, morally, and men
tally.
There is a good deal to be said on this
particular topic Of suitability. Do you
rcmcm Der the old provcrb-" Love goes
where it is scnt1" Congcuiality is not
to be accounted for by any human con.
! lectures or calculation. Make up your
mind that man will be suited by just
such or such style of women, and 10
and behold he destroys your whole fa-
brio Of logical reasoning by going and
marrying some one who is in all respects
Numerically opposite to your IDEAL
Just SO it is with the girls; when you
have found some one whom you fancy
to be their very counterpart, they sud.
denly astonish you by turning round
and prcterring the last person in the
world whom you would have dreamed
Of! And then, after all, these contra.
dictory young people will probably have
the audacity to be very happy together
all their lives long. We don't believe
in match. making, according to the pop.
ular acceptation Of the term. Half the
misery Of married life springs from this
maneuvcring system. Matches ought to
make themselves, and will, if you only
let them alone, Just Gs spontaneously
and naturally as little birds pair off in
spring.
Sometimes, however, in the great
whirl of society, We meet young people
who seem as it we're temporarily isolated I,
and the rcisuiug Mrs. Grundy looks
com passionatcly on and whispers mystc
riously in your year, She has bcca dis
nppointcd!" Disappointed in what? We
should rather be tempted to say she has
had providcutial escape. It is certain
ly not very pleasant to see an admlrcr
drift away. from you into some other
current; it is not agreeable to discover
that YOUR affection has been thrown
avaT on an uudescrving object; but it
| is o great deal worse to be tied for life to
a scamp. Blessed be such disappoint.
ments, say We, even though they be bitter
draushts at first. It is better to be dis.
appointed as girl than brokcn'hear'ed
as q wife!
And ifa young. man, to use the COM
mon parlance, gets "jilted." ve advise
him not to waste too many lamentations
over bis bad luck, but to enter the lists
again. A girl who triaes with the sin
cere homage of au honest heart may be
very attractive and fascinating, but she
will hardly be likely to mako good
wife, and NO counsel our masculine
friends to give her a wide berth. Be.
cause you. have been deceived onco, it
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