The Lansing state Republican. [volume] (Lansing, Mich.) 1855-1874, 1865-04-12

naOitlng some hish- distant, unapgr0acha-
bic mounialn-tOp u goodness whence she
IS always looking down with reprovinr ewes
on naughty boys and E.rls They wonder
how Il Is that so excellent mamma sboul5
have children who, .et them Try 10 be good
IS hard as they can, are alwars sure 10 do
something dreadfu! every day
The trouble with Mrs. Stanlfast IS no-
that she has high standard and not that
sne purposes aud means 10 bring every one
! up 70 L, but that she does not take the
/ right way. She Eas Sc, il down that 10
blame wrong-doer Is the only way 70 cure
wrong.
She has never learned that il IS as much
her duty 10 praise a. 10 blame and thar
F people are drawn 10 do right bv being
/ praised when they DO il, rather than driven
by being blamed when they do not.
Right across the way from Mrs. Stand
fast Is Ms. Easy, Z pretty little creature
Win not 1.-THE Of her worth merry
/ pleasure-l0ving woman, Of no particular
lorce Of principle whose great object m
lie Is 10 avoid lts diSagreables and to secure
is pleasures.
Little Mrs. Easy IS adOred by her husband
he children, her servants. merely because
Il Is Der nature 70 say pleasant things u
every one. IL IS mere tact Of pleasjn-
Wllch she uses without knowing Il. While
Mrs. >tandfast, surveying her well-set din
ing-tao.e, runs her keen eve over every
thing and al last brings uD with. Jane
look at that black spot on the salt-spoon
l am astOnished ~ your carelessness ."
Mrs. Easy would say, "Whv. Jane where
asa You learn TO set . table 50 nicelv9 All
looking beautifully, eXcept-ah. lets see
Just give rub 10 this salt-spOon: now
al IS quite perfect" Mrs Standfast's ser
wants anu Children hear only Of their fail
ures; these are always before them and her.
Mrs. Easy servants hear OF their successes.
ole praises their good points; tells them
they are doing well in this, that, and the
other particular; and finally exhOrts them.
on The strength Of having done so many
things Well, improve in What is vet lack
ing Mrs. Easy's husband feels that he Is
always hero IN her eyes, and her children
leei mat trey are dear good children. not
wlthslanding Mrs. Easy sometimes has her
little TINS OF dlspleasure, and scOlds roundly
wlen something falls out as il should not.
The TWO families show how much more
may De done by very ordinary woman
through the mere instinct Of praising and
pleasing than by the greatest worth. Dietv.
ana prhciple, seeking 10 lit human nature
Oy 4 lever that never was meant 10 !ifi il
by.
The faults and mistakes Of Us poor human
beings are 50 often perpetuated bv despair
as by any other one thing Have we not
all Oeeu burdened 10y q Consciousness OF
faults that we were slow 10 correct because
we ielt discouraged? Have we not been
sensible Of a real help sometimes from the
presence Of friend who thought well Of US.
believed IN Us, SET our yitues in tie best
light, and put our faults in the back
ground
Let US depend upon il, that the flesh and
blood that are in us-the needs. the wants.
the spondencies-ar in each of our fel-
lows, IN every awkward serya.t and care
less child.
Finally, let Us all resolve
First 10 attain 10 the grace or SILENCE.
Second, 10 deem all FAULT-FIND1NG that
does no good SIN; and 10 resolve when
we are happy ourselves, not to poison the
atmosphere for our neighbOrs by calling on
them 10 remark every painful and disagree
able feature Of their daily life.
lhlrd, 10 practice the grace and virtue Of
PRAISE We have all been taught that il is
ouI duty 10 praise Gcl, Dul IeW or Us nave
reflected on our duty to praise men: and
yet FOR the same reason that we should
praise the divine goodness it is our duty 10
praise human excellence.
We should praise our iriends-our near
aud dear ones; We should look on and
think OF their virtues till their faults fade
away; and when we love most, and see
most TO love, then only is the wise time 10
speak OF what should still be altered.
Parents should look out for occasions 10
their children. as carefully as
they seek to reprOve their faults; and EN-
plOyers should praise the good their ser
wants 90 as strictly as they blame the evil
noeVer undertakes 10 use this weapon
VIII ma that praise goes farther in many
cases than blame. Watch till a blundering
servant does something well and then
praise INN for 1t, and You Will see a new
nre iighted III the eye, and often YOU Will
nhu 'hal IN that one respect at least You
nave secured excellence thenceforward.
Nnen you blame. which should be SCI +
dom, let It be alone with the person. Qul- +
e1y, CONSIDERABLY, and with all the tact
you are possessed Of The fashion of re- /
proving children and servants in the pres 1
ence OF others cannot be too much dapre- /
Gated Pride, stubbornness, and selfwin T
arearoused 10y this. whilea more private re- 4
pT0oI might be received with more thank /
fulness.
As . general rule, would say. treat
In these respects just as YOU would
grown people; they are grown people in
aud need as careful considera-
ton OF their feelings as any OF Us
Lastly, let Us all make bead roll Z holy
rosary OF all that is good and agreeable in f
our position, our surroundings our daily '
.ot' oi all that IS good and agreeable in our 4
trends our children, our servants. and
cnarge ourselves TO reDeaeit daily, til the
habit OF our minds be 70 praise aud 10 com
mend; and so doing, We shall catch and
XII one Little F0r who hath destroyed .
many tender grapes.