The Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1863-1886, 1865-10-12
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. The institution Of Marriage is an
ancient one, to the beauties of which
many can testify. With few excep-
tions all look forward to the compile
ton of thSif matrihohial alliance with
feelings ofgladness. Who docs hotat
some day intend to be married? But
who of the many candidates, under.
stand fully the true idea Of the insti-
tuition theSspurpose to enter l!pdI !.
Catholics hold marriage as
as one of the sacraments Protcstants
hold but two, rejecting this with four
others, but in doing this do not under
value the institution. None bWan or
dainGd minister Should solemnize it.
There is somo change then in the re-
latioh of the two, after. once beirg To-
gally and "equally yoked together. +"
Tho change may not be uiSiJle, but
still there is Some change. Love then,
too, must be diffcrent-nay not be so
much in degree, as in kind but there
is a difference, may love all men as
men; 1 may love all women as ,romen.
/ love my parents as my parents. But
| cannot love my mother as | do my
lover; nor again my lover as my wifc
In the case of mother and wife, 1 be-
lieve there is o difference in degree as
we'll as in kind; for we are told to leave
father and mother and cleave to the
wife. But in case of our intended
wifo and real wife, the difference is Of
ten only in kind. Ill (not to speak
of others), were to be married to,mor-
row morning at six, | think would
love her who is to be my wife, as
much at Eve as at scvcr,i but in diff
ferent way; for at seven she would be
my wife and as such | would love her.
She would be myself and | would be
herself. In fact there would be but
one sell, and that would be our SELF
|"Iwaia one fesh." ..,,f +,
But there are cases where men (wo-
men too) love less after than before
marriage. Then whero is the zone
fesh?" The power of making the two
ono does not liz alonein the objective
institution Of matl.imony, but in part
in the subjective relation of the party
to be welded, d" '' Hi'' aH.0 .0.s'
The sacramenss profit nothing except
they be accompanied with faith. SO
the words of the minister are of no
avail, except they arc ready and will
ing to bo lone flesh; )" except they love
each other. Justthen as one eats and
drinks damnation, by eating ard
drinking unworthily, so q man and
woman really separate themselves the
farther, by trying to join together that
which from their very nature, can
never be yokcd, Who has not seen
the misery Of such "unequal yoking."
Marriage is q solemn institution,
and it becomes each ono TO see to it
| Well that there be no laundering in the
matter.
Here the Question Of long and short
Fcourtships comes in. Circumstances
to some extent even here, alter cases.
In this respect, too, | go with those
who prefer catichisation to tho more
rapid modo Of conversion. '"'' ...- q
/ care not how young two persons
be classed together for catichisation,
so th6y are not conHrmed-married--
beforo they have attained the proper
| age. % = '. ',.'. ~ : =. '-.,'l
Ancicntly parents selected wives for
their sons. l would modify this sSs-
tom before adopting it. Let them Sc
lect for their sons at the age of ten or
fifteen, girls Of. u corresponding age,
and let them be trained up in the
same family With the view Of becom
Jog husband and wife at the proper
time. ''r. e.. "
If at Tho end Of one years cati3hisa-
lti6n it will be found that they will not
| yoke, let them bo separated. The
same at tho end of the second, third
or ninth year Of their catichisation.-
But if at the end of the tenth year, or
| when the man had reached the age Of
twenty five, it be found that the ten
drills Of the two Hearts had so entwincd
each other that to cut the tendril of ono
would cnrsc the other to wither, then
let them be married, and You will IN
deed have tone hesR.1 .p} b5a., r.
know this system has its share ol
objections, but Of what system may
not tho same be said !? So many blum
ders have Of late been committed in
this channel consequent upon tho close
of the war, thSt moro than before is il
necessary to preach sound doctrine
and only those arc true apostles who
regardless of the stake, are willing tc
oppose hcrcsy Wherever found. Sucl
an apostle is f CARPENTARIUs.
SAD AccISENr.-Col. M. NJ. Granger
formerly Of the 122d Ohio, met with {
sad accident on Thursday night il
getting off the cars a,, short distance