The Lansing state Republican. [volume] (Lansing, Mich.) 1855-1874, 1865-03-01

n houses are built. coal burned. and al the
paraphernala Of home established. .-flsir
= happtHeSS. Better cold coffee. smoky lea.
+ burnt meat, better any Inconvenience. any
: loss. than loss OF lore: and nothing 50
surely burns away love rs constant fault
: finding
For Ault-hnding once allowed as a hab-
L between two near and dear friends comes
IN time 10 establish chronic Sorenesss So
that The mildeSt. the most reasonable snr-
geStion. the geniest implied reproOr oc-
casions burning irritation; and when this
morbid stage has once set In. the restora-
ton OF love seems well nigh impossible.
For example: Enthusius having got up
tins morning in the best OF humors. m The
most playful tones begs Hermione not 10
make the tails of her oS quite SO long: aud
hermione fires up with
Aud, pray, what else would Mt YOU
wish me 10 do. Perhaps you would be 50
good, when YOU have leisure. as 10 make
vut au alphabetical list OF the things I'm me
that need correcting"
Ny dear, you are unreasonable"
" dontt think So. | should ike 10 Get
10 the end OF the requirements OF my lord
aud master sometimes -
silly '
" Please say something original nv
dear ! have heard that TIL II has lost tie
charm Of novelty"
Come now, HermiOne don't iets quar-
rel"
My dear Sir. who thinks OF ouarrellings
Not l; I'm sure was only asking 10 be di-
recied trust some time, ii live 10 be
ninety 10 suit your fastidous taste. I
trust the cOdee IS right this morning. alif
the Tea, dfa the toast. and the sleak. aad
the servants. and The front hall mat. and
Inc upper-story hall-dOOr. and the base
nent premises; and now suppose am 10
be trained IN respect 10 my general educa-
ton shall set about the tails 10 nv gS
al once, but trust you viii prepare a list Of
any other little things that need emend-
alton"
Enthusius pushes away his coffee, and
drums on the table.
II might be allowed one small critl-
cism my dear, | should observe that il il
4 not good manners 10 drum on the table
said his fair opposite
Hermlone. You are enough 10 drive
man irantic" exclaims Enthuslus. rushing
out with bitterness in his soul. and a deter
ninatlon 10 take his dinner at Delmonico's
Lnthusius feels himself an abused man
and thinks there never was such a sprite
ol woman, the most utterly unreason-
aple, provoking human being he ever met
Win. What he does not think Of is. that
" II his own incOnsiderate, constant fault
lndlng that has made every nerve 50 sensi-
i've and sore that the mildest suggestion
OF advice OF reprOOf on the most indfIer-
ent subject Is impossible He has not 10
he sure, been the guilty partner in this
morning encounter; he has said only what
is iMr and proper, and she has been un-
reasonable and cross, but, after all. the
ia t IS remotely his
When Enthusius awoke after marriage
go lind in his HermiOne in very deed only a
bird, a star, flower, hut no housekeeper
/ why did he not face the matter like an hon
est man, Why did he not remember all the
line things about dependence and useless
ness With which he had filled her head for
a year or two, and in common honesty ex-
act no more from her than be had bar
gained fOrg Can bird make a good busi-
ness-managcry Can flower oversee Biddy
and Nike and Impart 10 their uncircum-
cised ears the high crafts and mysteries Of
elegant housekeeping
Ii his little wife has 10 learn her domes-
tic role OF house hold duty, as most girls
do, by thousand notifications. a thous-
and perplexities, thousand failures. let
him, IN ordinary fairness, make il as easy
10 her as possible. Let him remember with
what admlring smiles, before marriage he
received her pretty professions Of utter
he.plessness and incapacty in domestic
matters, finding only poetry and grace in
! what, alter marriage, proved an annoy
ance.
And II a man finds that he has a wife in
adapted 10 Wiiely duties, does il follow that
Tie best thing be can do is 10 blurt out
without form or ceremony. all the crifi-
cisns and corrections which NAV occur 20
/ him m the many details Of household life
/ lie would not dare speak with as little pre-
lace apology, or circumlOcutiOn, 10 his bu-
slness manager. 10 his butcher, or his ba-
ker When Enthusius was a bachelor. he
never criticised the table al his boarding
house without some reflection. and study
lng 10 take unto himself acceptable words
whereby 10 sOilen the asperity Of the cri-
tclsms. The laws OF society require that
a man should qualify soften. aud wisely
! time his admOnltions 10 those be meets in
the outer world OF they Will turn again aud
rend him. But to his own wife in his own
( house and home. he can find fault without
! ceremony OF sOitening So be can; and be
can awake, IN the course Of year OF two.
70 find his wife changed woman. and his
I home uncomfortable. He may fnd. too that
unceremoniOus iault-nnding is a game that
4 Two can play al, and that q woman can
/ hOOt her arrows with far more precision
and skill than a man.
But the fault lies not always on the side
/ oi the husband. Quite as Often is a devO-
/ ted, patient, good tempered man harrassed
and hunted and baited by the incOnsideraie
fauit-fnding Of a wife whose principal tai
ent seems - lie in the ability al first glance
4 10 discover and make manifest the weak
( point IN everything.
We have seen the most generous, the
most warm-hearted and Obliging Of mortals
under this sort Of training. made the most
Inor0-e and dlsODlging Of husbands sure
/ 70 be- found fault with, whatever they do
they have at last ceased doing. The dis
appointment Of not pleasing they have
abated By not trying 10 please.
We once knew a man who married a
spoilei beauty whose murmurs, exaction.
/ and caprces were Infinite. He had al last
as refuge 70 bis wearied nerves, settled
down into habit Of utter disregard and
neglect, NJ treated her wishes and com
plants with equal Indifference, and went on
wiihhis life a. nearly as possible as II she
uld not exist. lie silently provided for her
what he thought proper, without troubling
himself - notice her requests, or listen u
her grievances. Sickness came bat the
heart Of her husband was cold and gone:
there was no sympathy left 10 warm her.
Death came and be breathed easy a 4 man
released. he married again. "a woman
with no beauty, but much love aud good
ness, "a woman who asked little. blamel
seldom and then with all the tact and ad-
dress which the utmost tboughtfulness
could devise, and the passive, negligent,
husband became the attentive, devoted
slave Of her will he was in her hands as
clay in the hands Of the potter: the least
breath or suggestion Of criticism from her
lips, who criticized 90 little and so thought
fully, weighed more with him than many
OutspOken words. So different is the same
human being, according 70 the touch Of the
hand that plays upon him
z5- Al q recent examination OF the
Chief Engineer Of the Fire Department, ia
New York city, il appeared that there are
l25 engine, truck aud hose carriages. some