The Lansing state Republican. [volume] (Lansing, Mich.) 1855-1874, 1865-03-01

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things DO not suit him.
Let my courteous reader ask him-Or he,
self II he or she does not experience a r,
lief ana pleasure IN finding fault with q
about whatever troubles them.
This appears Al first sight an anOmal
IN the provisions of Mature Generally "
are so constituted that what il is q pleasur
i 70 US to 90 II IS pleasure 10 our neirhbor
10 nave rs do L Is pleasure 70 give. an,
/ a pleasure 10 receive Il IS a pleasure 7,
love. ana pleasure 20 be loved: a pleasur
4 70 admire pleasure 10 De admired. |
+ Is pleasure also 10 find fault. but not
+ pleasure 10 be found fault with. Further
more, those people whose sensitiveness q
temperment leads them 10 tiud the NOS
Iault are precisely those who can least bea
70 be found fault with; they bind heavy bur
dens and grievOus 10 he borne. and lav then
on other mems shoulders. but they them
selves cannot hear the weight of a finger.
Now The difhcnlfy in fha case j. ihis
there are things IN life that need 10 be al
tered, they must be spoken OF 20 the peo
PIE whose business II is % make the change
This opens wide the door Of fault-lDdinn
10 well-disposed people and gives them
latitude Of conscience 10 impose on Their
fellows all the annoyancies which they them.
selves feel The father and mother OF a
family are iault-hnders er ofics0. and u
them how's back the tide Of every separate
lndiViduals complaints in the domestic cir
Gle, III often the whole air OF the house is
chilled and darkened by a drizzIing scotch
mist OF querulousness. Very bad are these
mlsts Ion grape-vines, and produce mildew
many iair cluster.
Enihuslus falls in love with HeFmione.
because she looks ike a mOOnbeam. be
cause she Is ethereal as a summer cloud.
sp"rfnetle He commences forthwith the
perpetual alteration system thar precedes
marriage He assures her that she is too
good for tins world. too delicate and fair
Tor any OF the USES OF pOor mortality. -
that she ought 10 tread on roses, sleep on
the clouds-that she ought never 10 shed a
tear, know fatigue. or make an exertion.
but live apart In some bright. ethereal
sphere worthy OF her charms. All which is
duly chanied in her ear ia moonlight walk :
or sails. and so often repeated that sen
sihe girl maS hn oxcu-ci n,. bt.Iv,In. tiAl
little OF II may be true.
Now comes marriage, and il turns out
that Enihusius is very particular as 10 his
coffee, that he is excessively disturbed II
cannot be comfortable with any table ar
engagements which do not resemble those OF
his notable mother, lately deceased IN the
odor OF sanctity; he also wants his house
IN perfect order al all hours Still be does
not propose 10 provide a trained house
keeper. II Is all 10 be ELECTED by means OF
certain raw Irish girls, under the superin-
tendence OF this angel who was To tread on
roses. sleep on clouds. and never know an
earthly care. Neither has Enthusius ever
considered il part of a husbands duty 10
bear personal Inconvenience in silence.
He would freely shed his blood for Her
mione, nay, has ofien frantically proposed
the same in the hours Of cOurtship. when
OF course nobody wanted il done, and il
could answer no manner OF use; and thus
10 the idylicfdialogues OF that period sue
ceed such as these
Ny dear this tea is smoked: can't you
get Jane into the way OF making ii bet
ter 90
Ny dear have tried; bat she will not
do as tell her"
Well. all know IT, other people can
have good tea, and should think We
might"
And again at dinner
My dear, this mutton IS overdOne again
II Is arrays OyerdOne
Not always. dear. because you rec0llect
on Monday yOu said Il was Just right"
Well, almost always"
" Well. my dear the reason to-day Was. !
had company in The parlor, and could not
60 out 10 caution Bridget, as I generally
DO Its very difficult 10 get things done
with such a girl.
" Ny mothers things were ALWAYS well
done. no matter what her girl was"
Again: Ny dear You must speak 10 the
servants about wasting the coal. ] never
saw such consumption Of fuel in a fam
lly OF our size or, " Ny dear how can YOU
lei Maggie tear the morning paper" or.
60 Ny dear, | shall actually have 10 give up
coming 10 dinner, il my dinner cannot De
regular or My dear | wish YOU would
look az the way my shirts are rOned ii is
perfectly scandalOus' or. Ny dear You
must not let Johnnie finger the mirror In
the parlor ; or, Ny dear, you must stop
the children from playing in the garret" .
or, My dear You must see that Maggie
does Mt leave the mat ont on the railing
when she sweeps the front halil" and so
on, upstairs, ln the lady's chamber In at
tic, garret, and cellar, ''my dear" is 10 see
that nothing goes wrong, aud size is found
FAULT with when anything does.
Yet Enthuslus. when occasionally be
finds his sometime angel in tears. and she
tells him he does not love her as be once
did, repudiiates tie charge with al his
heart, aud declares be- loves her more than
ever, and perhaps he does The only
thing Is that she has passed out Of the
plane oi mOOnshine and poetry into that ~
actuaitles. While she was considered an
angel, a star, a bird. an evening cloud. OF
course there was nOthing 10 De found fault
with IN her; but now that the angel has be-
come chief business partner IN an earthly
working firm. relations are different. En-
thusius could say the same things over
again under the same circumstances but
unfortunately now they never are In the
same circumstance. Enthusius j. simply
a man who is in the hadit Oi speaking from
impulse, and saying a thing merely aud
only because be feels it. Before marriage
he worshipped and adOred bis wife as al
ideal being dwelling in the land 0f dreams
and pOetries. and did his very best 70 make
her impractical and untitled % enjoy the
life 10 which be as 10 Introduce her after
marriage. After marriage be still Yields
unrenecungly 10 resent impulses, which
are no longer 10 praise. but 10 criticize and
condemn The very sensibilty 70 beauty
and love OF elegance which made him al
mire her before marriage now transferred
10 the arrangement Of the domestic mean
age, lead him daily 70 perceive a hundred
defects and lind hundred annOyances.
Thus far We suppose an amia5le su5miss-
i've wife, who Il only grieved not provoked,
who has no sense Of Injustice aud meekly
strives 10 make good the hard condition
Of her lot. such poor. little faded women
have We seen, looking tor all the world ike
plants that have been nursed and forced
into bloom in the steam heat Of the con-
servatory, and are now sickly and yellow.
dropping leaf by leaf IN the dry dusty
parlOr.
But there Is another side Of the picture.
where the wife. provoked and indignant.
takes up the fault-hnding trade in return.
and with the keen arrows Of her woman's
vii searches and penetrates every ioint Of
the husbands armOr, showing herself full
as UNJUST and for more culpable in this
sort OF conflict
Saddest Of all sad things il i % see two
once very dear friends empiOying al that
peculiar knowledge Of each other which
love had given them only 70 harrass and
provoke, ,-thrusting and piercing with Z
certainty OF ain that only past habits Of
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