The Cadiz sentinel. [volume] (Cadiz, Ohio) 1864-1911, 1864-05-25

uftfDDS OF tshking Wen, nat ~ COMMAND
,meaas Soi sseeeas which, fwhen saips,sa BY
scsmnaon sense Is sflliy elstsl 70 alIatraAtIr
ggs Afforded hy birth and foftune combined.
With 1t the woman OF moderate persona It,
IL tractl9Rs can draw around her aamisefs,
sasShshe the nsSe hcanss remaias o wa1+aow-t
no CTS gs1aE z ri tai1ysoS yirs 1l=ca -1co7 /,
g z2a,tATTEssr7aNt Is coxvERsaIIoNLalE Il
The best talkers are the hest listenerS =:
-. an AXIOM. which has boon repeated In one
form OF the other, in every cultivate Ian
guase- > The datr ofpaying attention to
ghas pther people ssy i a faadalneat]l law
OF the social code. You may be able to
and thrill with yonr eloquence all this
s~~Al not save soa from being frequently
positive annoyance, unless you have OCCASION
ally what Sydney Smith desired Ia loqua-
ciocss iernan--a fe,o Aoshesof silence p.
As To PERSONAL APPEARANCE. a
2e4 InawciEknewn French work on.conver-.
fation, the frst three chaptes are devoted to
7ltAg teeth, the mouth, AMI the tongue. To
Is those who wonld excel in the art the sJig
gestions may not, however, be amiss that as
& regards personal appearance, there should
b. neither striking defects nor effects. Not
80 oRly should the teeth, as the French writer
suggests be scrupuloaslY neat, and with
them the minutest details of the entire per-
! 500, bat che halr-and dress should be strictly
/ Within the average limits of the fashion of
the day. The reason for this is manifest
tho should be nothing to distract the eye
or divert the attention from the expression
OF the ccuntenauce or from the words of the
- --- person conversing, fheshghtest neglect of
= aralnessis quite enough with tile majority
$sofssreaned people, to Haingle feeling oetlis-
gust with the most favorable impression,
2 even though they may be quite unconscious
n q nf fhn
Tor such defects often open to us, We Know
not why, a long train of offensive association.
Neat toilets and good clothes are to be com
" mended, since they are in certain sense
compliment TO all with whom you associate.
but tor 2 man, jewehgs and striking ~orna-
sn1ents, gay colors and all that attracts the
eye, from serious drawbacks People Of ex-
o. psrenoe in the world, especially intelligent
and shrewd women, are prompt to form con-
clusions from foppish eccentricities Of dress
q which are seldom to the credit of the wear
sr; snd though they may pay tribute ofad
mHahon to the ornaments in themselves, it
VII always be discounted from the respect
Z aoe TO TIE mind Of the one who wears them.
l9T.TFss % sGxUDY DRESS q Il -
sni perfectly aware that with many men
the tendency TO gaudy color and display Is
n trrepresslble Perhaps it is we'll that such is
the case, since it is matter of such impor-
tance that the weak minded may be prompt
" known whenever met, and VIC may, there
fore, regard the tendency as equivalent to
the provisions Of nature by which we are Gu
{gAbled to distinguish parrots and macaws
from the birds of plea santer temper and song
A lady being asked what opinion she had
formed ola certain young gentleman, re-
piled: DO not ask me! can remember
nothing OF it all but horrible great red cor
al ball on his cravat, which rolled against all
my ideas, and knocked them all down like
nine pin5p'
OF EdorIsM N CONVERSATION.
r., ,Neyer speak of your peculiarities Many
persons acquire gay habit Of merry boast
!, mg,ror OF humorous gasconaling so called
from the Gaseons, brave aud talented poo-
pie, who however, utterly destroy all respect
for their real merit by their habits or vannt-
ing. lie who would avoid vanity should
have absolutely nothing to do with it--not
s-eyen to barlesque it, Self is our most in
e}l5.ls' tna,, AMI be who boasts in nn-wiil
coon find earnest thoughts gliding into the,
current OF lis jests. In short, avoid every
thing which may suggest, however remotely;
to those with whom you converse, the sus-
p;cioa that YOU think OF the effect you pro-
duce
Do not in conversation refer toc freluent-
Il b comes in which you are figured; to gr eat
people whom you know; to your travels,
your successes, or to anything on which you
may be supposed to congratulate yourself
it s,ible avoid securing often to trains Of
!thought and assecsations connected with
tsswith your :'staOhg POINTS, since most peo-
lle, and especially women, are very apt at
detecting vanity. Do not, however as some
do, scrupulously avoid all mention whatever
ofyeur experiences and fortunes. There are
men who carry this to al absurd degree Of
-afectation, and abstain from the slightest re-
ference to their travels, or what they have
secn, or Of which they were part. This is
only vanity i'll q more refined form. Many
honest folk expect from a traveller On
any Other who has achieved what's TO them
a. least celebrity, some entertaining anec-
dotes which they themselves may cite. Such
,seNscllept souls can 40 more comprehend mo
tiYes for reserve than an Arab would similar
rodesty in hadji Mecca. Whenever you
can appropriately and modesty draw upon
experience for an illustration, do 80. Rely
uponit, that opportunities will not be want
ing.
r., Do ~. talk so as to display your wealth,
or your habitual familiarity with it, or with
rich people. Thissfsgusting form Of vanity
is very common in the United States, and
gives an excellent standard for ascertaining
the real social position and character OF ma
ny Who are well guarded against uetecLlOn IN
other respects. 1t is.an insidous fault, and
one full Of temptation in circles whore mon
tsy-gotting Is the chief OCCUPATION 1t dis
plays itself in the affection oftorgetting what
getting what some expensive article costs,
aud in.sspeaking Of expenditures as. trihes,
when theWare reallymatters OF serious con
sideratiofh: . II is betrayed in the vulgar
habit Of never allu1ing to awealthy mauswith
out speaking Of his riches, or a respectable
family in Ii m)1erase circumstances, without
declaring they arc 'pooras job When you
are yourself web of, such atstyiet ofirefer-
ence to others, especially before those who
are not 50 PROSPEROUS, is traly eontemptible,
even when no hint is intended, and, no
loffense givea. This form Of vanity is also
seen in the habitual endeayor to create the
impression that one s mind at leas, is taml-
lar with luxury Such people Tux of moth
ing but gems AMI diyanS, Tokay and costly
steeds, sable and three-ply velvet. Others
roll over with relish the names Of the mil
lionaresao of the day, and will prize their hay
ing been in company with some great Shy
locks agent, as though there were some
thing gi[ding ii the very neighborhool Of a
man who deals in large sums. There are
men wllo in relating an anecdo:e Or q wager,
never plaee the sum less than " ten thousand
dollars p and like them are the woman
whose friends dianen,ls are always said to
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