The Kenosha telegraph. [volume] (Kenosha, Wis.) 1860-1888, 1864-08-11
P0liteneSS.

oHfs manners gere warm without insincerity. ard
,sPoliteness is defined as polish or elegance
Of manners gentiiity; good breeding
ease and gracetulness of manners, united
with a desire to please others, and careful
attention to their wants and wishes There
are but few persons to whom you would not
olive mortal offence if it were animated TO
them personally that they lacked this quah
fication: and no matter what their rank o.
wpaltl, NAV be, they all claim, each an"
every one. man or woman that they Know
how to be polite But at the same time, tins
universal claim does not establish the tact,
nor does it prevent every day the most I'M
,,,arrantabIe acts OF rudeness on the part OF
many persons whose ariStocTatlc bearing
aud nosition in the world make it surprising
that with so much care, trouble and tact to
nrove themselves on the pinnacle OF superb
pritv to the rest Of mankind, they should so
carelessly neglect the one and only thing
! that wo1ld make them what they are try
/ ing so hard to appear to be-
/ we scarcely pick up paper that does not
contain some hit upon tile rudeness OF Wo-
men. the selfshnoss aud supercilIousnesS
shown bv them, particularly III travelling;
# IS sp0l[en Of in the streets, III the cars, Ia
the omnibus where she will enter with all
the airs of a supposed queen, take.w what IS
not q RIGHT. the seat of any gentleman pres
Ient, allowing him to stand, perhaps the
half or whole of his journey without even
90 much as thank you, but much more often
with AN impatient toss Of the head, that
causes the blush Of shame to rise TO the
: brow Of many a gentleman Men nave an
instructive politeness Tor women anu u lS
bu+ seldom We see one who is 50 great boor
as to forget himself III tins respect An mo
while they gladly give way to our sex SIN
they cannot help but manifest lhe usSuS'
they feel at the lack OF politeness tor sucl
favors received. Many man would con
slider himself richly repaid for any inconye
nience to himself by quiet, grateful lady
like thank you, sir; and certainly II Tie
favor is worth receiving, 1t Is worth uankS
Be above receiving tavors II you DO no
feel under some obligation for them. | d.
not believe real lady will enter any piac
that she sees full OF persons and wiltiil i
icrowd out Others Who not only have th
first right but have paid forsuch right. I'M
is often the case IN church or lecture room
you will see at times, when every seat Is ful
some woman who is seifshiy bent on salts
ffying her curiosity at no matter what dis
content to others, erowding out without
: particle Of modesty or scrdple, gentlemen VIII
have a just right to their seats, and who ar
Obliged to stand for an hour on their feet 70
some woman to whom they are under n
obligations, aud without the least idea 0
her part that it is any favor. | think me-
are to blame in encouraging such false lde
3 of politeness or rudeness. Nonen shout
be expected from the superior refenmer
they lay claim to as women to set an e7
ample in this respect, and still they lacE
: and do not cultivate, what in man is a
= instinct It is also on the street, with bolt
faced assurance, neither taking to the rigl
OF the left, crowd off every gentleman the
meet, and that when there IS room for
least dozen to pass without any discon
fort to these helpless UNPROTECTED womer
One would think, to see things, that me
=, were becoming ladies, and women rufian
Of course there are many true ladies; this
not intended as a sweeping condemnation
regard to the whole sex, but to very larG
part of them; and I assert, ] do not THU
but what this class do what they consider
be womanly. But there is one fact, they
not know or appreciate what it's to be sc
tlemanly I viii not say that wish eth
party to change with the other; for heav
help US if the men should become lady-lh
TAssEE TIME
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