Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1864-04-13
Something" for the Girls.

lAe Daiiy 11SessoosP p""sss. = -
at Selma, Alabama, and amid all the ex
element of the war, finds time and space
for some very excellent advice to the girls
As girls are very much alike, whether in
Alabama or Virginia, the suggestions Of
our contemporary will not be considered al.
together NAL a1'apropos here in this gallant
little "Cockade City, where, truth requires
us to say, there are great many very good
ard very pretty girls; and where too, we
shall say it, there are no doubt mary, ,who
would not object to taking unto themselves
partner of the masculine gender. ,BelieY,
ing that it can do:no harm, and may do
much good, we reproduce the Mississip-
pian's article, whichis as follows:
You all want tosibarry, don't you-girls
AT least Yousare making your calculations
to do so some day, are you not? Of course
you are-yous all expect to marry, and the
| expectations of most, if not all Of you, will
doubtless be realized You want good hus-
bands, too. We hope you may get good
ones or none at all. Better live and die
toldsmaids than3to pair yourselves off with
worthless young men. Now, we think we
can putyou'in the right road to get good
husbands. That's just the road you have
been wanting to find for some time, but
some of you have missed it long way
We.will now pointit out to you, and if you
follow in it, ten to- one you will find just
such husbands as you5desire. -,
The important thing to be donesis to rem
der yourselves worthy Of good husbands
You must put of2the ways of children
You must study to make yourselves useful,
as well as ornamental. You must for a
time at least, lay aside the fashionable &C.
complishments of life, and study those
things which will be of use to you after
marriage. A young man who is worth hay.
ing is not easily caught He must see
something in young lady to commend her
besides beauty. of person or useless accom-
plishments. You must set it down as a
fixed fact, that a young man who is willing
to marry you, knowing you to be destitute
of useful accomplishments, is not worth
having, and you should discard him at
once. just take it for granted that that
young man is as incapable of managing and
providing for a family, as you are of assis-
ting him. Therefore, to secure good hus-
bands you must prove yourselves worthy of
them.
There are some girls who become very
anxious to marry, and they put themselves
forward a little, farther than prudence or
smodssty would dictate. We would not
accuse any Of the young ladies we are now
talking to of being guilty of immodesty or
forwardness, but we have seen some in our
day whose manners were anything but plea
sing to lover of modesty. And now,
girls, We want to get you to talk to that
class for us, as it is not probable that an
article in a newspaper would have any ef-
feet. upon them. When ever you see q
young lady who is very boisterous-who
talks and laughs very loud when in the
company of young gentlemen-you ought
to take her aside and advise her to be lit.
tie more modest-for she is certainly lower
ing the dignity of your sex. Tell her that
such conduct Is seriously injuring her in
the estimation of.all worthy young men,
And should you ever see one SO far forget
herself as. to talk or laugh in church, be
sure to reprove her kindly for it. A, gen.
tie reproof may be of great advantage to
her-it. may cause her to reflect, and see
how iunbecoming her conduct is.
Remember, young ladies, that your girl
ish days will soon be over. Very soon you
are to become the wives and mothers of our
country. You will ere long be called to fill
the stations now occupied by your mothers.
How very important then, that you get
good husbands, and prepare yourselves to
make good wives. Good old Paul left some
excellent advice to the ladies on record. 1t
was to this effect that, "woman adorn them
selves in modest apparel, with shamefaced-
ness and sobriety; not with braided hair,
| or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but with
works."
Now, however anxious girl may be to
marry, she should never hang out sign to
that effect. We have seen-and so have
you, no doubt-goung. iadies whose every
act bespoke as plain as tongue could speak,
"You can have me, sir, for the asking
Or, in other words, her actions were'a con-
tinual repetition of the following line:
"Oh should like marry.'
Whenever it becomes known that young
| lady is in the market, and is exceedingly
anxious to get herself off at any price, she
at once 'depreciates in value, and young
men who really want wives become indif-
ferent about her. They may firt with her
for a time-but none of them want her for
q wife. They set no value upon prize
that is so easily taken. Therefore, girls,
you can all see the necessity of putting a
high price upon yourselves. When girls
set the proper value upon themselves, and
keep themselves in the proper sphere, they
will not have to seek husbands by exhibi.
ting themselves with the sign "to let,"
/ sticking out, but they will be sought after
by men who want good wives, and who are
/ capable of taking care of them.
ssy a negro went into menagerie, in
which was large babbooa in cage. He
approached the cage closely, while the bab