Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1864-09-03
ANSWERS to Correspondents"
The vaEarIes of modern CourtshIps.

The VRBRrIes OF Modern COurtBhlpG.
From the Boston Post. 40 7.aiI
Many of the peculiarities of modern love
and courtship are made public aud re-
Vealed in the frequent appeals to newspa-
per editors for the decision of knotty ques-
tions, which, though apparently simple,
no doubt greatly puzzle the young inqni-
rers who are just learning the lessons of
life. The columns of the New York Ledger
and other papers which devotea portion
of their space to answering the inquiries
of correspondence show through what a
wide range of topics they extend, butnear-
ly all are hinged upon the great central
epocho Of life. matrimony. The bashful lover
comes to the editor for some ray Of hope
or promise in the future, and to inquire by
what magic means he may gain the affec.
tions of the young lady In " hose presence
he has that topgue-tied, fish out of water
feeling which he regards as the infAllible
indication of rising love, aud which forever
prevents him from making the speech he
has carefully committed and rehearsed in
private. "'i'l 'ar,' 49,
The modest maiden who thinks she has
been too long passed by for others no bet
ter than she, writes to inquire if it was
right that George should ego" with an
other girl after. having "gone" with her,
and doubtless experiences great satisfac-
ton at being told that she 10 fortunate to
get rid of yone SO fckle. 1t is noticeable
that contented people whose course of true
love runs smooth seldom or never figure in
these columns. 1t is only in what they
are pleased to call moments of "soul dark
ness" and "heart despondency" that youth
tul lovers breathe forth their yearnings in
utterances like this. "Despair"-the very
signature speaks uuutterable woe-writes
Ihat-"a young lady has behaved very i'll
TO me. have kept company with her for
two or three years; every one considered
us engaged, and besides she has often told
me abe loved me. u
H'And yet, ,as we were walking out togeth-
er the other evening, she told me she
thought our love was Rll.nonsense, and that
we had better give up all thoughts about
it. Now, she has gwen me great deal
of encouragement In times past, and 1 think
a great deal of her, and 1t seems as though
it would kill me if should have TO give her
up" In the only light in which "Despair"
could look at it, his situation Was truly de-
plorable, but the unprejudiced giver of
advice at once explains that the young lady
only meant to hint that the departing lover
had been altogether too slow, and that If
he could go with her two or three years
without making marriage proposal after
she had confessed that she loved him, 1t
IL was no wonder that she began to think
that his love was all nonsense.
A "gushiug" young man, whose ardent
affections will undoubtedly hurry him into
speedy matrimony, says: "There Isl young
lady whom Hove with my whole soul, with
love amounting almost to idolatry. The
only drawback is, she is so cold, and does
not display that affection when We are
I ~ ,k,o
tic of her love. She asserts that she loves
me as she never will love again, and says
that her coIdness is something which she
cannot help. Do you not thiUk that a lit
tie effort with practice would disPel these
cool actions2"
How different the disposition of this
young man from that OF. "Lena,n whose
lover she says, is engaged to Eve other
young ladies besides herself, but is the soul
of honor in everything else.E She is will
ling TO take her chance among the six ex-
pectant brides, and will be greatly 'trinm
phant if she can secure the prize. elena"
would mot be pleased with another of the
writers, whose letter is before US, who
thinks that he was Laughed at the other
evening on making his first appearance 10
society, at large and fashionable party
He SAYS: ''I knew very little of the customs
and habits of such an aristocratic gather
ing. / have been Laughed at a great deal
hsiIce, but for what cannot imagine SO,
will tell you, as far as remember, exactly
what transpired during the evening, in the
hope that you can tell me where the laugh
comes in.,--. -e,,.
II entered the parlor, and was taken up
aud introduced to the lady of house. To-
stead of Just speaking one or two words
and leaving, l remained . short time near
her, when she quickly Introduced ma 10 q
young lady by her side. Her Introduction
was made very quick, as If she wished 10
get rid of me. Well, I'inVited the young
lady to dance the frat dance with me,
/ which she did. We then promenaded until
tb, next dance, which also invited her to
dance with me, which she did, after which
We commenced 10 promenade as before.
at last began to feel as if were keeping
her too long, as great many 10 the room
smiled every time they lsaw US pass; yet ]
was at q loss to know what 70 do; when
suddenly the lady OF the house brought
another young lady up aud introducing me,
/ took number one Away. BY this time.
assure yon, / felt so embarrassed could
hardly stand, and after saying few words
TO the young lady Hen her with her friends
i and came home.Hi ~ $3.50 tsg - :
| "A great many young men on hrst gotng
into society don't know what 70 DO Win
their hands, but this young gentleman had
q. young lady put upon his hands and
ldidn't kow to get rid Of her. BE knew thai
lhslWas retaining her company loDgeI thar
either desired, but unable to drop her in