Orleans independent standard. [volume] (Irasburgh, Vt.) 1856-1871, 1864-10-07
Conjugal Duties.

A woman must make herself obviou
!, to her husband, or he will drift out be
: yond the horizon. She will be to hin
, very nearly what she works and wills t.
: be. Unless she adapts herself to hel
!, he will fall into the arrangement, ant
the two will fall apart. do not NEAR
that they will quarrel, but they will leat
separate lives. They will be no longer
husband and wife. There will be a do
nestle alliance, but no marriage. A pre-
/. dominant interest in the same subjec
/, binds them together after fashion bu
marriage is something beyond that. /
a woman wishes and proposes to be the
friend of her hnsband-if she would be
/, valuable to him, not simply as the nurse
of his children and the directress OF hi:
household, but as u woman, fresh and
fair, and fascinating, to be intrinsically
lovely and attractive, she should make an
effort for it. |; is not by any means a
thing that comes of itself, or that can be
left to itself. She must read, and OBJ
serve, and think, and reach up to it,
i, Men, as general thing, will not tell you
so. They talk about having the slippers
ready, and enjoin women to be domestic.
But men are ckheads-benevole
large-hearted and chivalrous--kind and
patient, and Woodworking, but stupid
where women are concerned. Indispen.
sable and delightful as they are in real
life-pleasant and comfortable as women
generally fnd them-nos one in ten
Thousand but makes a Ounce of himself
the moment he opens his mouth TO theo~
rize about women. Besides, they have
an axe to grind, The pretty thing they
inculcate-slippers, and coffee, and care,
and courtesy ought indeed to be done,
bat others ought not to be left undone.-
And to the former, women seldom need
10 be exhorted. They take to them
naturally. A great many more women
follow poorish husbands with fond little
attentions than wound appreciative ones
by neglect. Women domesticate them.
selves to death already. What they
want is cultivation. They need to be
stimulated TO develop large, compre-
bensive, catholic life, in which their do
nestle duties shall have an appropriate
niche, and not to dwindle down to mar
row and servle one over which those
duties shall spread and occupy the whole
space.
There are women less foolish. They
see their husbands attracted in other di.
rections more easily than in theirs.-
They have too much sterling worth and
profound faith to be vulgarly jealous
They fear nothing like shame or crime !;
but they feel the fact that their own pres
with homely household duties
precludes real partnership, the inter
change of emotions, thoughts, sentiments,
a living, palpable and vivid contact OF
mind, of heart with heart. They see
others whose leisure ministers to grace,
accomplishments, piquancy, and attrac>
tiveness, and the moth flies toward the
light by his own nature. Because he is
wise, and virtuous and honorable moth,
he does not dart into the flame. He does
not even scorch his wings. He never
thinks of such thing. He merely cir
cles around the pleasant light, summing
himself in it without much thought one
way or another, only feeling that it is
pleasant ; but meanwhile Mrs. moth sits
at home in darkness, mending the chill
drens' clothes, which 10 not exhlirating
Many woman who feels that she pos
sesses her husbands affection, misses
something. She does not secure his ia
vor, his admiration. His love is honest
and solid, bu. little dormant, and there
fore dull. 1t does not brace, and tone,
and stimulate. She wants not the love
only, but the keenness, and edge, and
flavor Of love, and she suffers untold
pangs. know it, for | have seen it,
1t is not thing to be uttered. Most
women do not emit it even to themselves,
but it is revealed by the lift of the eye
lash, by tie quiyer of the eye, by the
tone of the voice, by a trick of the fin
ger Gail Hamilton.
A PEACE SPEECH.-J. II. Wood.
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