The Hancock Jeffersonian. [volume] (Findlay, Ohio) 1857-1870, 1864-05-27

it, that opportunities will not be
wanting.
DO not talk so as to display your
wealth, or your habitual familiarity
with it, or with rich people. This
disgusting form of vanity is very
common in tie United States, and
gives an excel ent standard for ascer.
tanning the real social position and
character OF many who are well guar.
dcd against detection in other res
poets. 1t is an insidious fault. and
one full of temptation in circles where
moncy-gctung is the chief occula-
ton. 1t displays itself in the aficc.
tation OF forgetting what some eX
lpensive articles costs, and in speak
ing Of expenditures as triiles, when
they are really matters OF serious
consideration. Ii Is betrayed in the
vulgar habit of never abiding to q
wealthy man without speaking of his
riches or to respectable family in
moderate circumstances, without de.
iclaring they arc poor as Job. -
When you are yourself well of, such
Il style Of rcferenccto others. espcc-
tally before those who are not so
prosperous, is truly contemplate,
even when he "hiut is intended, and
no offence given. This form of van.
ity is also seen in the habitual cndea-
vor to create the impression that
ones mind at least is familiar with
luxury. Such people talk nothing
but gems and divans, Tokay and
costly steeds, sables and three ply
velvet Others roll over with relish
the names of the millionaires of the
day, and will prize their having been
in company with somo great Shyiovk' >
agent, as though there were some
thing gliding in the very neighbor
hood OF n man who deals in large
sums. There are men who. in rcla.
, ting an anecdote or II wager, never
: place the sum Mt less than ''ten thous.
and dollars" :" and like them are the
women whose friends diamonds are
always said to be worth thirty thous.
and The same vanity is displayed
IN volunteering to tell the price ol
everything in your possession, OF
asking that of articles belonging &c
others--a thing which should be done
rs seldom as possible. and always
with an apology-or, at least, with
that straightlorwardness which in
: some persons speaks of itself press.
ing reason, devoid Of all curiosity.
, BEHAVIOR IN SOCIETY.
: IF your language be good, youl
knowledge creditahle, your persona
appearance devoid of eccentricity
and if you have learned to avoid ma
, king j., ourself conspicuous" there i:
I no reason why you should not b,
firm and assured apyu here. Do no
: vex yourself with thoughts of inteli
ority, hut "be yourself to yourself,
and n little familiarity with the worlc
; will teach you the absurdity oftimid
itv. Ease rapidly brings grace, if an,
effort whatever be made to say anC
= do things in kind and conciliatorI
| WY.
Exercise your attention and YOU
thoughts when in company. II yol
= find that bashfulness and embarrass
mcnt without cause occasionally aillic
you in society, Danish them by find
ing something to do or say forthwith
Do not stop to argue with yourself
but act promptly. Ask for an intro
; duction to anybody, and talk of tn,
weather, or the walking, or the room:
I or any tribes, till something bette
suggests itself. The first step il
politeness is TO make such efforts, anC
they are duty. In society you ow,
= them to your host or hostess, VIII,
does not, of course, like to see ;
! gloomy or embarrassed guest. Ant
! you owe them at all times, in all pla
ces, to every body, as a matter ofpo
likeness.