Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1864-12-15
WIVES THAT AHn sTRANeERs.


II neighbofis is mSrfied, they tell Of Il. II
battle is fought, Of village burnt down.
they communicate the fact; bat for any
Interchange Of thought or sentiment or
emotion, for any conversation that Is invig-
Grating, inspiring, that causes Q thrill or
leaves q glow, how often does euch thing
occur between husband aud WffeR What
intellectual meeting is theFe,-What shock
Of electrieities when . definite domestic
question is 70 be decided, the Wtfe's judg-
ment may be sought, and that is better
than q solitary stumbling on, regardless Of
her views or feeling but this sort Of bread
and-butter discussion Of ways and means Is
not the gentle, animated play Of c0nVeFsA-
tion, not that pleasant sparkle which en-
liVens the hours, that trustful confidence
which lightens the. heart, that WELDING Of
weapons which strengthens the arm, that
sweet, instructive hBlf-unVeiling which
increases rAspant--.- and .deePans love
and fills the heart with ine3pressible ten
derness. Yet there is no nobody in
the world with whom it 10 30 impOF.
tant for man to be intimately aequaint-
ed as his own wife, while such intimate
acquaintance is the exception rather than
the rule. Every one sees them going on
each in his own path, each with his own
inner world of opinions aud hopes aud
memories, one in name, miserably two In
all else. Men often have too much conf.
dence In their measuring lines. They fan-
oy they have fAthomed q souls depths
| when they have but sounded its shadows.
They think they have circumnavigated
the globe when they have only padded in
cove. They Trim their sails for other
seas, leaving the priceless GENE OF their
own undiscovered. To many q man no
voyage of exploration would bring such
/ TFaFV nd AZ
tiOnate search into the resources OF the
heart which he calls his own. Many aud
many Q man would DO amazed at learning
that In the tame household drudge, in the
meek, timid, apologetic recipient Of his ca
| prices, In the worn and fretful invalid, in
the common place, iusipid domestic weak
| ling he scorns an angel unawAres. Many
Q wife is Wearied and neglected into moral
shabbiness, who, rightly entreated, would
have walked sister and wife of the gods
Human nature in certain directions is as
Infinite as the Divine nature, and when .
man turns away from his wife, under the
Impression that he has exhausted her ca
pabilities, and must seek elsewhere the
| sympathy and compsnionship he Graves or
go without It altogether, let HIM reflect
that the chances are at least even that he
has but exhausted himself, and that the
soil which seems 70 him fallOw might in
other hands or with a wiser culture yield
most plenteOus harVests.
WHY MEE MARRY.
Men do not marry for the purpose Of
making women happy, but to make them
selves happy. A girl looks forward in her
marriage to what she will do for her hus.
bands happiness. A mau, to what he will
enjoy through his Wffe's ministrAtions.-
tHe needs a wife, say the good women who
I.eFs born and bred ip these opinions and
do not suspect theiE gTessness. 1t Is
grand good mAtch5 a0n't know anybody
that needs a wife more than be- said one
of these at little gathering, speaking of
recent marriage. 'WhyP inuOcently
questioned another woman, who was sup
posed to have somewhat peculiar views
concerning these things. %, you never
want anybody to marryP burst out choF-
US of VOices,-Which was surely very
broad Inference from one narrow monosyl-
liable. But why does he need witeF per-
sisted the questiOuer. For sympathy and
companionship,' triumPhantly replied the
first woman, knowing that to such motives
her interIOcutor could take no exception.
But third woman, not knowing that any
thing lay behind these questions aud an
sWers, and feeling that the originalj posi-
i ton was but feebly maintained by such
unsnbstantial things as sympathy and COM
pauiopship, being also near neighbOr OF
\ the person in question, and acquainted with
the facts proceeded 70 strengthen the case
by adding, well, he WAS all alone, and he
want very we'll, aud he was taken sick
one night aud couldn't get anybody TO take
care of him! But Why not hire nurser
| We'll he did, and she WAS very good; but
she wouldn't do his washing Only wait
long enough, aud you are toleFRbly sure 10
get the truth at last. It was not symPa-
thy and companionship, after all, that the
man wanted; it Was his Washingl
soMB LsAIEHT MIsGIvINGs,
Every day occurrences reveal In men
traits Of dIsinterestednessS consideration,
all Christian virtues and graces. Ny heart
nisgiyes me when think Of 1t all their
loving kindness, their fOTbsarance their
luustinted service, their integrity aud OF
the not sufficiently uDfrequent instances In
which women, by fretfulness, folly or SELF
ishness, ,irritate aud ALLEVIATE the noble heart
which they ought to prize above rObiss.
have not hitherto made single irFele-
want remark, and / will therefore indulge
lfu the luxury of one now, tits this: Coo
sidering how few good husbands there are
lin the world, aud how many good women
there are who would have been 20 them .
crown of glory, and a royal diadems had
4 the coronation bat been effected, bat who,
instead, are lUosfng all their pure gems
down the dark, unfItbomed caves Of some
bad mans heaFt,-considering this ac-
count that woman 70 whom has been al
lotted good husband, and wAo eau do
no better than spoil him aud his hap
piness by her own misbehavioE, guilty
| If not Of the uupaTdoBble sin, At least
of the uupardouable stupidity. hit were
relevant, / could easily make out long
list OF charges against women, and Of ex.
cellences to be set down TO the credit Of
, men. But women have been stoned %
death, or at least 70 coma, with ehAfses
0lreody; and when you would extrieate q
, wagon from q slough, you pat your shOul-