The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1864-12-22

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may not replace il until she tells you. Not 10
| return bow n kind is arrogant; not 70 return Il
| at al ia an insult which may lead 10 fsAl con-
sequences. In bank, on the Continent, IL is i'm
| possible TO keep the hat on as We do In
| synagogue Il is irreverent 20 take It of At the
| baths Of L'uk (Swiizerland) you are admitted
| gratis to see ladies and gentlemen bathing to-
getber in the interior basin on the sole condition
| Of shutting the door after you and taking of
your hat IfyOu omit either form, score OF voices
will sOCn call You 10 order. so much for the
spectators the bathers there are forbidden TO
enter into religious cOntrOyersy-a prohibition
| which seems needless, as, practically, all arc
| Baptists
In several Northern and German capitals,
when yCu do Obgisance IN the streets 10 pissug
| kaiscis kings grand dukes, or reigning serene
| highnesses and trunsparcncies, you are expected
not to pass on yourself while you take your hat
of but to stand stock still until the act Of rever-
,uCe is completed. Not to salute the lady at IA,
counter, or the assembled company, on entering
a cafe restaurant, cercle, cstamiUet, or public
room, is, in foreign parts generally, very capital
omission.
Napoleon privately lectured Prcfet Of the Seine
iorUumiug 90 the Tuilleries In hired carriage lul
| ne OTCnly scOldCd q lady for appearing before
him in a dress which he recognized as an old a--
quNintauCc, asking her whether her husbands
pny was not sutliCign' to buy new gown. lhiiet
now invited to Con pegne or FUntlineblCau for
week are expected never 10 wear the same morn
uR or evening dress twice, which amounts TO
fourteen new dresses for the visit, az least; for il
lady choose to wear three dresses dav u pthiug
is easier than 60 find opp pIrtunies Of dis1layiug
them. Say that lady moving In high Partisan
society can Cun'riye 70 manage with the very
M, der1te allowance uf only i've new dresses per
week during three months season, d. makes
little total of sixty dresses Calculate The cost Of
these at minimum price, and it still comes TO
heavy amounts reckon il at maximum, and it
is enough 90 make q R1thsChid look grave.
Ihe SWcdes, on the contrary, not being rich, try
to make a respectable appearance by q small eX.
pCnditurC. At the ball given at the Exchange Of
fu D 10 q IN an fho N1gV Np4r
Day, by the bOurgeOise, in which every trade is
repre-, ened, the rule Is that all the ladies, tho
queen included, appear in black; because every
tOdy is supposed to have the means of buying
black silk dress. A black silk dress, il is taken
for granted, s to be found in every citi1encss'
wardrt be. COlOred ribbons trimmings, flowers,
feathers and Jewels may be suporaddtd ad hbi-
tnl lady may put on at that ball ten thou
sand pounds worth Of diamonds, il she have
them but a black top and skirt must be the
groundwork Of the whole.
On the same economical principle the maids Of
honor and ladies-in-wsttng on the Queen Of
Sweden must dress in black when on duty (cX-
Cept on occasion of n wedding or Chrlstening);
when not in attendance they may wear black, or
not, as pCasCs them best. Their distinctive
mark from other ladies is white satin sleeves,
barred with black.
No one is fond of making calls. Calls arc GER
tainly great waste of time. Still, calling must
be done, and, therefore, may as well be done
properly. There are a few members of society
whose time is valuable, and fully occupied
medical men, authors, lawyers, stitesmen-
who, by q rcbelliOus effort, emancipatc them
selves, generally from making or returning calls.
They get their calling done by their wives, or leave
| it undOne.
was once present in a foreign capital when a
| lady-a British subJeCt-managed on some trtng
grounds to get the English minister 10 call upon
| her at her hotel He came attended. On disCOv-
| ering the slight Importance Of the case, he was
very stiff and curt, and on leaving slammed the
door after him so loudly that every one on the
| same floor Of the house could hear It. However
frivolous the ady's preteXt to induce him to come
| might be- was he right in expressing his opinion
| by slamming the door
In France no wedd ing-cGrds are sent; but tho
parents of the bride and bridegroom distribute
letters of fare part to such wide circle-to per-
| sons with whom they have the slightest acquaiut-
ance-that the object would appear 30 be less
ciyility than public advertisement of the cir
Cumstance. Thus people in business send letters
| of fare part to distant persons and customers
with whom they have merely business connec.
tOns. A quite sufficient acknowledgment of the
attention is to return your own card by post in an
| unsealed envelope. As soon as pOssiDe-sOme-
| times only two or three days-after the wedding,
| the new. married couple call on the friends be-
| ginning with their nearest relatives, with whom
| they wish to live on terms of intimacy The calls
| are duly returned, and matters then settle down
| into the regular routine which Is supposed t)
| occur after 'the ena" of the third volume of a
| fashionable novel.
week is the utmost limit for returning a
| formal visit; to exceed it gives great otense
| When General ROstolan, strict disCiplnarau
| succeeded the Duke of Reggie as COmmander. in-
| Chief of the French forces in Rome, he called,
| accompanied by his staff, on each of the five
| cardinals who then formed the Provisional
| Executive Committee.
Eight days elapsed; not an Rmincuce stirred;
| the Geueral awaited them In vain. On the niuth,
| he sent them word that if they did not call on
| him in the coarse Of the day he should feel him
| self obliged, very much 10 his regret, to assert
bis own dignity and the respect due to his official
position, by sending Pieq"etot fsot soldiers to
fetch them.
A French .jage de pair, or other magis-
trate, will call at your door with knock as
| unpretcndng as the postmans. Violent tugging
| at the bell is only permitted when the bell won't
| speak without il. common inscription outside
Office doors Is, Enres sans traPPee, Come in
| without knocking" The drolest notice of the
| kind on record occurred during the first French
| Republic. II inculcated the social equality and
Fraternity of every citizen, thus icon est ct TOT.
Eermez Ia porte, s'H uo,'s plat. Here people are
! addressed as thou and thee. Shut the door if
you please"
| When the person on whom you call Is absent,
| or not visible, you leave your yistngtcard-a
| happy invention. IL is usual to turn up the
| corner or end OF the card when delivering IL 70
the servant; about the Interpretation of which
| mysterious fold learned doctors are no. agreed.
| 1gOgOs says that, should there be daughters or
sisters residing with the lady called on, 1t is done
TO signify that the visit is meant for them also.
| Mullcr's "Poitesse Franchise" informs us that it
its intended to show that the call was made in per-
| son. Perh0ps, originally, it may have been
| meant as a proof that the caller was not one Of
| those genteel mendcants who seSd iu their card,
| and ask TO have il back again, for future use,
after they have pOckeed their halt-a-CroYn.
As a card may be substituted for call, calling
resolves itself into three degrees Of comparison
| the superlatiye, when you call, enter the house,
| and pay your compliments personally; the COM
paratiye, when you drive TO your fiend's door
and leave your card without quitting your car
riage the positive, when you simply send your
| card by the hands of a servant A card is thus
| mwCpahc Gala call administered In its
| mildCst form il is the nfnite,imal element of
calling. The two latter modes are common in
| Italy, and possibly may have reached us thence.
| Young single ladies abroad are no. allowed to
| have independent cards all 70 themselves. They
take their place on their mammals family Omni-
| bus card, thus; -
Madame ct MadsmoiseAe d 4 . C.,
One particular class Of visits cannot, on the
continent, be neglected OK avoided uImcly, those
| of New Years Day. A considerable wide margin
che close of the month) is allowed for paying
them; but the sooner they are paid the better.
| The most respectful New Years yisits-those, for
instance, TO grandparents are made on the eve
Of the day. To intimate friends, Or superiOrs, at
| a distance, you must write to those in the same
town or near neghborhood you must present
yourself personally to all Others, whether distant
or near, you are expected TO send your card by
post. IL is troublesome cere emony, but IL affords
a capital opportunity for recOntilng cOOlness and