The weekly north Iowa times. [volume] (McGregor, Iowa) 1857-1867, 1864-01-20
WHOLE NO. 379.


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We do not endorse the article that 70
lows, but "the views of respectable vic
ow" on the all.important subject are Gel
tainly entitled to great respect. Mayb
she is right-if she is not our readers ca
find all the fault they wish and publis
their objections in the columns of tn
TINES.
TIE VIEWS OF WIDOW ON MARRIAGE.
A lady should not marry gentleman
who is not her senior by at least fifteeI
years-twenty would be safer for il tn
disparity of ages be less, in one or tw
years after marriage the husband will b
sure to regard his wife as an old woman
and neglect her-in other words, care moth
ing for her, and though they may live to
gether, and the world may think alrs vel
| with them, contented and happy. &C., tn.
poor wife will rue her nuptials sin secret
in silence, and in tears" OF course All
only speaking in general way-,here ar
exceptions in all cases.
Gentlemen do not love, nay, even like
old women; and unless there be fifteen OF
twenty years difference in their ages, thu
wives will be regarded as old women one OF
two years after marriage, and the husband;
will spend every hour they can from home
day and night too; and worse than that
and the least the poor wives trouble them
selves to find out where they 60, and more
particularly, what they do, the better 70,
their peace of mind their happiness
Their happiness - they will never dream
of happiness. But with proper disparity
of ages--ffteen to twenty years-the wife
will ever be considered young, ever be treat.
ed with marked attention, kindness, devo.
ton, love, and the wife will love the hus.
band, whether she loved him before mar
riage or not, and Of course will be happy,
enjoy life, &c.
Next, lady should not accept, that is,
should not marry gentleman unless he is
rich. Indeed, she should not allow a poor
gentleman to address her, because it isn't a
compliment to lady to be addressed by a
poor thing. None whatever. 1t should be
considered an objectionable insult and no
poor man who really loves lady will ad-
dress her if he be gentleman.
No poor gentleman has any business with
wife-none whatever; and they-poor
gentlemen-should not be allowed to wait
on ladies at all :; but be compelled to give
all their time to busines, to make money,
to enable them to make some lady happy
by making her good husband. And ev-
cry gentleman who has intelligence, and is
sober, industrious and agreeable enough to
merit sweet, interesting wife, can make a
fortune by the time he gets to the marri-
ageable poriod OF life, viz from thirty five
to forty five; and If he does not by that
time accumulate fortune, let him slide
along in poverty, all alone.
Poverty and matrimony are not congen
ial, but antagonistic: and whenever and
wherever they come together, then and
there is an explosion that never fails to
blow love through every hole in the house
to the winds, which poverty leaves unre-
paired. Don't marry poor gentleman,
whether you be rich or not. Don't marry
a gentleman under thirty years of age, even
II you be sweet sixteen. Ifyou do, fifteen
chances out of twenty you will repent do
ing so; but marry gentleman between
thirty-tive and forty-tive years Of age, who
is polite and agreeable, sober, of good stand
ing in society, without unpleasant connec-
tons to be thrown with, and who has mon-
ey enough, and you will enjoy life beyond
all doubt whatever.
The poorest match lady can possibly
make is to marry the son Of rich man.
What think you of that? 1t is a fact, be.
cause they are the poorest and most help
less of all gentlemen. 1t IS true, the sons
OF wealthy gentlemen are gen lemen well
educated, &C., and it is also true that at the
same time they are the least capacitated to
take care Of themselves. They always keep
an eye on their father'e wealth, ard the
young lady who consents to marry one of
them, never fails to fix her eye on the said
old gentleman's wealth before even the aues-
ton is popped. After marriage they find
the wealth still in the old gentleman, who
holds on to the dimes as tight as ever;
won't give but a pittance, and won't die.
| can't undertake to describe the disappoint-
ment, grief. despair. Then it is scuffle,
scuti1e, scutiie, with the poor things And
it is always the case in forty five times out
Of forty. six instances.
The does not gius his property to his son
before marriage he wM not after. Well.
they scuttie Oh for some fifteen or twenty
years. forgot to state, if the fair victims
father has dollar or two he could net we'll
take out of the world with him, his death
is prayed for, too-and during the while
the poor son OF the rich man embraces the
bottle, to enable him to stand up to scuf.
fling. Ultimately the old folks die-prop
erty all made over to grandchildren
Where is the poor wife who has seen or
heard Of her since her marriage?
Don't marry gentleman because his
father is rich, unless he be pretty well to
do, independent of the father. The sons of
rich gentlemen are, generally, poorest of all
gentlemen, and therefore the very last gen.
tlemen to be accepted. Don't marry
gentleman unless he be pleasant and agree.
able to you, and he be rich. A gentleman
IS rich when he is able to support you in
the style, &c, enjoyed by those with whom
you will associate, without being under
strain, and to lay up right smart besides.
Don't marry gentleman under 35 years of
lge.
II widower presents himself, and is all
right, except he did not make an affection.
ate husband before he was tn irty five, and
he be thirty five, accept him-make you
good husband to = certainty.
Who ever knew an instance where the
disparity was some fifteen or twenty years.
md the gentleman, rich, the parties didn't
i've together pleasantly, deli ghtfully and
happy all the while? Not one instance to |
he contrary out Of ten thousand. The
disparity should not be less than fifteen nor
more than twenty years. This doubtless
will be considered a new doctrine, but it is
rue. Look around you, and you will see.
Lastly, young ladies, marry before you
get to be twenty-four or twenty-five years
# age, for after that period you will find it
ather hard to make prudent match, and
ny other match IS folly worse than folly.
Any other than prudent match is an out.
age uDOn yourself and nnop tho Door th;,o