Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1864-12-15

child in position, she mRrries the first man
that holds out the golden specter,- II mean
scepter, but. perhaps the frat will do just
Rs we'll.
EATHBss AND DAUGHTERS
Every man who has daughters is either
aDle to support them or he is not. II he
Ia, he ought to do it ina way that shall
make them feel as little trammelled as pos
sible. He should so treat them from first
to last, that they shall feel that they are
dear and pleasant to him, his delight and
Ornament. So far from wishing TO be rid
of them, he finds his balm and solace and
Hest of life in their society, their interests
and their ministrations. While he con-
templates the contingency OF their MARI
age, and makes what preparations Bueh
IS hin ganGy may require, Il Bh0uId be well
understood that he contempIAtes It only as
q contingency; and that all his wishes and
hopea will he best met by their hAppiuess,
whether It is to be promoted by life awsy
from him or with him. If they are SO de-
hcient in amiability, capability, or adapta-
bility that his home cannotbe comfortable
with them i'm it,-thRt, 30 faritrom being 0
reason why he should be eager to part with
them, 10 the strongest reason why he should
earnestly endeayor to keep them with him.
Almost without fail, their faults lie at his
home is TO be made miserable ythem, it
should be the one which has made them
HEissrfc. On theother hand, II they wish
TO 90 from hts roof to follow paths of
their own, he ought to aid and encourage
them - far as lies in his power. 1t matters.
not that heis able and. willing ID supply
their every want He is not able,
if they have immortal wants.
vents which the parental heart and
purse cannot isAtisfy,-waut of activity
want of q plan, want of some work which
shall engage their young and eager ener'
gies. However liberal, kind and fond he
may be, in their fathers house their posi-.
ton must be subordinate, and it may we'll
happen that they shall wish to taste the
sweets of an independent, lf-helping,
self. directing life. They. wish to feel their
own hands at the helm; they wish,to know
what responsibility and foresight and plan
ming mean. They are drawn by strong,
jinexplicabls attraction to certain direc.
tions; and as he values not only their hap
piness, but their salVatiou-their love for
him, their health of body and mind,-he
shall give them ample room and verge
enough, He shall not Rbate one jot or
little of fatherly affection. He shall not
attempt 70 persuade them from their in
clination till he finds percussion OF no
avail, and then in a fit of angry petulance
bid them "a. /. aud leave them 20 their own
destruction. He shall give them such aid
as can be made AVAILABLE He shall sur
lrouud them with tiA love,y If NOT with his
care, He shall, above all, show them that
his arms are always open to them, 1t
Though weakness or wearineas they faint
by the way. -
Ifa father is not able to support his
daughters in a manner compatible with
comfort and refinement, he should see TO
il that they have some way opened 10 which
they can do it, or help do it, for them
selves, in a manaer consistent with their
dignity and self respect. tis very rarely
that human being Ia born without pos
sible power in some one direction. The
field which is traversable to women Is much
more circumscribed than that which -
tfaVersed by mene yet L have somewhere
/ read statement that the number Of en-
lployments in which women of the United
States are actually engaged is, think,
g-eatar than i've hundred. II this Is 30,
| or anything nearly so, men surely haye no
need TO "marry Off their daughters IS an
Ieeonomicai measure. Out of five hundred
ooeupatious,a a-woman can certainly choose
ono which, though noTPerhaps that which
4 enIists her enthusiasm sis yet better than
Ithe debasement of herself which an indif.
ferent marriage necessitates. It is better
| to be uot,wholly Esll-placed than to be
WHOLLY i'll placed.
| coMFARA4IyE WAeHs.oy NEH AID woxES
One great obstacle iu the way Of NO:
man's attaining strength 10 her lack Of
Iperseyerauce. OF the many pursuits pos
lsible to women, few are embraced TO any
great extent, because girls are said TO be,
4 snd probably are, unwilling 70 bestoW up,
: Ion trade or a profession the study and
thought which are Necessary 70 insur'
skill Bat this i e result ss e ven .sl ,!.. g :