The Union and journal. [volume] (Biddeford, Me.) 1858-1882, 1864-04-29
20, 1864.
Listen, Girls I

Seventeen years ago there was fair girl, x
purc. 80 lovely SO refined. that she still rises tt
NV mind as almost AKIN to angels. She va
voocd and ultimately won by young man o
considerable wealth. He. sported hne team
delighted in hunting, and kept fine pack o.
hounds. He neither played cards, drank wine
nor used tobacco. He had no occupation, nc
calling, no trade. He lived on his money, the
interest of which alone would have supported
family handsomely. never saw the fair bride
again until few days ago. Seventeen years
had passed away, and with them her beauty and
her youth, her husbands fortune and his life
during the latter part Of which they lived In q
log cabin on the banks Of the Ohio river, near
Blennerhasset's Island |; whole family in one
single room, subsisting on water, fat bacon,
corn-bread. Tho husband had no business CO
pacity. He was gentleman Of education, Of
refinement, of noble impulses /; but when his
money was gone he could get no employment,
simply because he did not know how to do any
thing. For while he foundered about, first
trying one thing, then another, but "failuro'
was written on them oil. Ho however finally
obtained situation the labor was great. the
compensation small 1t was that or starvation.
In his heroic efforts to discharge his duty 90
ceptably, he overworked himself and died, leay-
ing his widow and six girls in utter destitution.
In seventeen years the sweet and joyous and
beautiful girl had become broken-hearted,
carc.worn, poverty stricken widow, with q
houseful of helpless children.
Young woman II o rich man asks you to
marry him, and has no occupation, or trade,
or calling. by which he could make living II
he were thrown on his own resources, you may
give him your respect, but "give him the nit
ten."
Whatever may DO young mans qualities, II
he is fond, very fond Of going to the theatre,
"refuse" him.
. II young man shows by his conversation
that he Is an admirer Of fast horses, and is pref
ty we'll acquainted with the qualities and "time"
of the best racing nags OF the country, when he
asks your hand, give him the "mitten" only.
Ifyou ever hear young man speak Of his
father or mother disrespectfully or contemptu-
ously, do not encourage his attentions (; he will
do the same of you, and in many ways will
make your heart ache before you die.
If you know young man likes to stand
around tavern doors, at the street corners, and
about groceries, cut your hand of rather
than place 1t in his he Is worth only the
"mittcn."
Ifyour suitor can tell you great deal about
cards seems familiar with multitude Of
''tricks" which can DO performed with the same,
and Is himself an adept In such things, let him
win oil the money he may from others, but let
him not "win" your heart, for he will close IT,
in year, and leave you broken one in Its
place. .r...
II you know OF "nice young man" who will
certainly DO heir to large estate, who is Of
"highly respectable family" who seems to be
at home as to the usages, customs and propri.
cites of good society, and yet who Is indifferent
about attending church on the Sabbath-day,
who speaks disparagingly Of clergymen, who
talks about religion In patronizing. way rs ga
very good thing in It's place" particularly for
old women, weak young girls and children,
never marry him should he ask you. Such q
man can never warm woman's heart will
never twin0 around It the tendrils Of true af-
fiction. for he is innately cold, unsympathising
and selfish, and should sickness and trouble
come to you, he will leave you to bear them
alone.
Idleness, the art Of having no occupation,
will always and inevitably engender moral and
physical disease and these traits will bo more
or less perpetuated In the children born to such.
The brunt of these calamities has to be borne
by the mother. and In the bearing up against
them, how many q noble-hearted woman has
sorrowed, and grieved. and toiled herself into
a premature grave, may never bo known, but
the number cannot be expressed In few figures.
Therefore, my sunny faced daughter. you do
not want to grow old Before your time, to live
q life Of toll and sorrow, and then prcmaturely
die, give not your hand. but only the "mitten"
to young man, however well born or rich.
who has not Legitimate calling by which he
could "makc living" II he were by some for
tuity LEFT pcnniless.