Weekly Trinity journal., 1864-11-12
Hints ON the Duty Of Husbands and wives
Hankering to Visit aHome,,

Friends, especially relatives at the East often
do US in California great and agpravating
wrong, wrong in many cases almost unendur-
able, yet most thoughtlessly done on their part.
Being thousands of miles away. we can revisit
them only at great expense in both time and
money. rms expense the most of US cannot
meet, while OF the few who can the vast major
ity can do it only at great inconvenience, or even
severe hardship. Still constantly from the East,
parents brothers and sisters writing to people
here, especially to wives whose husbands
toiling under difficulties, and with anxieties
never thought of by others, urging them to make
a visit to the East. Often have we heard of
these urgent appeals coming from aged fathers
and mothers there to daughters here, in such
language as this We are growing old and
we fear we shall never your face again do
come and visit US once more before we die
To what powerfully sensitive cords in our ma
ture are such appeals addressed, often most
cruelty agitating the feelings of loving daugh-
ter whose Woodworking. industrious husband
can scarcely tell what to do, as he sees the wife
of his affection longing or even weeping to visit
Eastern parents, while band of little children,
dependent upon him for food, raiment, education
and all parental, aid surrounds him, and he
knows he can do only part of his full duty to
them for want of greater means. Must he take
much of his little store and give to his wife, the
mother of the little ones, to spend in the enjoy
ment of visit to father and mother, or family
relatives at the the East while he is left toiling
on year or SO alone and his children must
suffer for life because his means for their educa
ton are gone, spent on that wife? Or shall he,
towards the wife he loves better than self, ap-
pear unsympathizing and hard of heart refuse
her request, lessen the regard of her relatives,
diminish her love for him, and entail upon her
sorrow for all the years of her life? Oh, cruel,
cruel is this alternative, often forced upon him
by Eastern relatives, and also cruel is that wife
that presses it upon him.
We have seen in California some of the noblest
of men, true husbands and fathers, whose whole
being seemed nerved up in anxious doubt and
perplexity in circumstances like these trying
their very souls. And we have known them to
sacrifice much, send their wives East and exhibit
an experience of sorrow vastly more deep than
the JOY of the wife was high. We have known
them acting as if the sacrifice had broken the
cords of affection, and their conduct bOrdered
on abandonment. We have known the wife to
return and we could plainly that the warm,
sweet openness of affection surely dimin-
ished for life, and they too, were afterward less
like husband and wife, but rather man and wo-
man in permanent partnership together.
ENGLAND NO LONGER FIRST CLASS Power
The London correspondent of the Philadelphia
Inquirer says Lord Palmerston has recently made
some significant declarations in explaining the
policy Of the British Government. In discuss
ing the affairs of America and Poland, he said
England would go to war-would have gone to
war several times during the last five yeafs-if
she dared She dare not, he says. She has not
the power. She has not the means. She has
only an army for defensive purposes. And
again, in treating of the Danish question, he
said in substance THE German armies
too strong for u.s. Our object is defense, not
aggression. We can hold our coasts with the
help of the volunteers, but must never again
venture battlefield in Europe" This is
really the effect of what the Premier did say,
and almost the exact language he used. No
other possible construction can be put upon it.
and the result is that Lord Palmerston has dis
tinctly and formally abdcated, the part OF
Great Britain: her position and character
frSt-class power.
Az ExAMPLE.-Imagine Sheridan addressing
his army beyonnd Winchester: Boys, am re-
quested by the Chicago Democratic Convention
to say to you that after your four years of fail
ure to restore the Union by the experiment Of
war, the sympathy of the Democratic party is
heartily and earnestly extended to you -
9 Beyond Winchester " would be a mighty I'M
safe place for the Chicago Convention about that
ti;ne-S T. IjibYge