The western Democrat. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1852-1870, 1864-07-19
PREMATURB MATRIMoEy.


means OF keeping up population, or as nero 30.
eial and economical convenience, but as the blend
Ing OF two parts into one-the masculine reprc-
senting wisdom, and the feminine affection. When
there is spiritual affinity between The two, then
the design is occOBplished.
Premature. marriages among the greatest
evi Of the times; aud IL would rot be a bad idea
ia these days Of reforms, If an anti.marryihe.iu.n
hurry society were instituted. Now.a.days. peo-
pie leap into the magic life circle with no more
consideration than they would partake Of a dinner.
little thinking that, when once in, they are there
un;il their end comes. There is little, sometn,es
Of mutual analysis Of disposition and 'eomparison
of taste and affections. They seem TO fancy that
it there any discrepancies, the fatal Gordian
knot, which can be seldom cut and never united.
will hurmonize all.
The numbers who have felt this rruth--tho num-
oers stu feeling 1t in their hearts core are nca-
culable.' They recognize il az a great mistake or
their lives. The Chain is not to them silk one,
bat cable of iron, tightens around them more
and more, crushing out oil kope aud energy, sub
sttuting hate for love and eating out with It's rust
the very inner life Of the soul.
Boys and girls now marry to greater extent
than ever before, instead of waiting ill they be-
come fuii grown and matured men and women.
ne young dandy, as soon as be gets out Of short
jackets Gnd hnds little fuTze gathered on hi up
per lip-and the young miss, as soon as she eutr
ges from the nursery and abbreviated ffocks-
thlnk they are qualified 10 assume the most solemn
responsibilities 0t life. And if "Pa" aud ana
w6n consent they post off to some Gretna Green,
aud there take obligations that, in nino.y L.i1e
eases ont Of hundred, they will never cease Bit
terly to repent.
Marriage should never be the result Of fnpev.
The bail room aud the evening rarity rarely devcl.
ope real character. Under The exhilarating iufu.
ence OF the dance, the glare Of the lights and the
merry squI6 aud joke, the disolute young mau may
appear amlable, aud the slatternly scold loveabe.
Matches made at such places, or under similar cir.
cumstances, are not Of the class that originate Ia
heaven. They are more generally conceived in
tho opposite place. and bring forth only iuiquity.
The true way to learn each other is to do il ut
home, in the parlor, in the kitchen, and on occa-
sions that test the temPer We see the result Of
these unlous In almost daily divorces that are taxi
ing place, IN the running away Of husbands leav.
I"g their wives and children to starVe and in the
clOpement of wives. Not only this, but we wit.
pess 1t IN broken spirited men, made old in the
prime of life, struggling on for mere food aud
Clothing aud shelter, aud in women cross, dirty,
suttish and wriukled.
1t would be quite impossible for us 10 depict
faithfully the multitude Of physical aud moral evils
that result from these sinful marriages-for sinful
they are. They ruin the body, corrupt the morals,
ana stutify tire mind. And the result does not
stop with husband and wife There arc the chill.
dren. They partakc of the feebleness and the
vices OF the parents, both physical aud moral aud
20 out into the busy world stunted and gnarled.
God pity them!
We would not be understood as speaking against
tEe institution Of marriage. 1t is holy, beautiful
and bepehcent But let every one take his mate
or nooe. Let not the brave eagle pair with tho
stupid owl, nor the gentle dove with the carrion
crow. Like should have like. 1t is a glorious
sight to see two old people who have weatherCd
the storms and basked IN the sunshine Of life to-
gether, 60 hand in hand, lovingly and truthfully,
down the gentle decvity OF time, with no angers,
nor jealousies, nor hatreds garnerc1 up against
each other, aud looking with hope and Joy to the
everlasting youth OF heaven, where they shall be
one forever That is the true marriagc-for il Is
the marriage OF spirit with spirN Their love il
woven into woof of gold, that neither time, nor
death, nor eternity can sever Exchange Pdper.
NOBLE SENTIMENTS FROM A NORTHERN La
DY-A lady in Iowa writes 10 her brother, q SOL
dier in the Coutederate army at Mobile, as follows
Oh, how long for the day 70 arrive When hos.
tiIies will cease; and the Southern CohfedeTacy
will be crowned With the glorious wreath ofTicto-
ry, having achieved their indepeaae gnd secur.
ed themselves from The YHnkse tyrnntsl pray fer
venty that tie South NAV snccesd and know they
will for God syith them, and they must succeed.
II were in the Sou.h would make clothes for
the soldiers wish I were uear you, for know
I could aid in maki0g you comfortable 1t is need.
less for me 10 say 20 you 10 be cheerful amid all
tho prigations and hardshps you have 70 undergo;
Tor knowledge Of the holiness Of tho cause ia
which ya arc engaged is sufficient 10 silence the
cry Of complaint dissatisfaction.
The Souti's all il At stake! EevoT--ncver givs
up 70 be slaves Of the Northern desPJ,, My heart
ihrobs in anxious expectations of the happy results
o-ihis springs campaign. Victory must Ia yourG
The noble soldiers Of the South Oasnot be permit
ted by almighty, mercU1l and just God 10 spin
their blood much longer, fighting with the worth
less scum ofthe North II.
How m.ny hearts thc hateful Abolilionisls have
ra1c 10 ,blccd l cannot beaf 70 look st one Of
th2m much less to speak 70 one Of them.
ESGEAED AND TIE CoSFEpERACY Our
readers may rccollect recent item Of English
rews, tLst that government he'd scnia oommiss-
iouer with dispatches 70 the Confederate govern
:nett. Fron.the London Index, received by the
Wilmington Journal it appears that tho ConmaD-
der Of the Federal B!ockadng Squadron on Char
lesion pcreDptorily refused to alo" the coinoiss-
Ioucr 70 cuter that port. He returned 10 Bcrmu-
ia. whore the British Consul took his dispatches
and forwarded them 10 Lord Lyons at Washirg--
ton. he formally requested permission to forward
them through the lines, which was refused by Be-
ward. who said sit would not Be agreeable 70 the
q s. for England to hold any intercourse what.
sver With the Confederate" Lyons meckiy sab
nittcd TO the insult, Is usual