Civilian & telegraph. [volume] (Cumberland, Md.) 1859-1875, 1864-10-13
MISCELLANEOUS.
vAGARIEs OF MODERN cOURTsHIP.

Many of. the peculiaritics of modern love
and courtsb'p are mada public and revealed
in the frequent appeals to newspaper edi'ors
for the decision Of knotty questions, which.
though, apparently simple. no doubt, greatly
puzzle the young nquirers who are just learn
ing the lessor, OF life The columns of the
New York Ledger ard Other. .paPpers which de-
vote portion of their space to answering the
inquiries e 3 e correspondent show through what
a wide range of topics extend, but nearly oil
are hinged upon the great central epoch Of life
matrimony. The bashful lover comes to the
editor for some ray of hope ISr promise in the
future, and 10 inquire by what magic means
he may gain the affections of the young laay
in whose presence he has that tohgue-tied,
6sh-out-of-the- water feeling which he regards
as the infalible indication of rising love, and
which forever prevents him from making the
Speech which he has carefully committed. and
rehearscd in private. The modest maiden
who thinks she has been too long passed by
for others no better p aah she, writes to inquire
if it was right that George should Ego" with
another girl having "gone" with her, and
doubtless experiences great satisfaction at, ,te!
ing told that she is fortunate. in getting rid of
one SO 6ckle. 1t is noticeable that ccntented
people whose course of true love runs smooth
seldom or never figure in these columns. 1t
is only in what they are pleased to ca1l mo
mcnts of " soaal-darkness" and :" heart-dcspon-
deucy' that youthful lovers breathe forth their
utterances like this. Despair"-the very
signature Sscaks unutteriable woes writes
that" A young lady has behaved very i'll to
me. have kept company with her for two
or three years every one considered US as en-
gagged, and besides she has often told me she
loved Inc. And yet, as we were walking out
together The other evening. she told me she
Thought our love was all nonsense, and thai
We had better give mp all thoughts about it.
Now, she has given me great deal Of en-
couragement in times past, and think great
deal of her, and it seems as though it would kill
me if I should have to give her up" In the
only light in which Despair could look at
it, his situation was truly dePiorabtle, BIT the
uuprejudiced giver of advice si sat Once Once explains
that the young lady only meant, to hint that
the despairiug lover hal been altogether too
slo&, and that if he could 60 with her two or
three years without making marriage, pro-
posal after she had confessed that she loved
him, It was no wonder that she began to
think his 1oye Vas all nonsense.
A gushing" young man, whose ardent
affections will undoubtedly hurry him into
sp@ty matrimony. says: "there is young
lady whom love with Ill my soul, with love
amounting almost u idolatry. The only
drawback is, she so cold, and does boot display
tsaat Affection when we are alone, which /
think would pe characteristic of her lote.-
She asserts tssat she loves me as shs hever
will love sgaih; aHa says that her coldness
is something which. she cannot help. Do you
not think thass i little effort with practice
would dlspel these cool actiohsf'
How different the disposition of this young
man from that " !. rena." whose lover. she
says. is engaged to five otbsf young ladies' Be-
side herself. but {: he soul ;sfhonor ii tssss,3
ihtng else. She is Willing ty take Bst chance
sinong the other e1pestaht Brides. and viii
Ds greatly triumphant ii she, Can. secure the
pfiks: "Lena" would not Be Pleased with
RnsWefs, of tho writer's. whose letter is be-
fore Us; Who thinks that be was laughed at
the other evening on making his 6fst atfear-
ance in society 1t large and fashionable par
ty. He says: II knew very little Of the cdiss,. iss.
tvms and habits off ssach In aristocratic gather
Ing. / have been laaghea at great deal
siHys, but for what cannot imagine; SO. I
viii teii you As far as I remember exactly
What traRGbiFsd darins Tie evening, IN the
hope that YOU SUI tell me where tie laugh
comes in / sHtered the pstlor; aAd *s,
taken up shd ihtFOdHssd u the lady u tGe
house. tHtteaa Of just spe4tins ons Sf txe
Words and leasihk; / rshBziRsd I iRoft time
near hsf:~ he'd sEs quickly Introduced me t.
. young lady BY byr side. Her introduction
was made very qaiek, ~ II she wished to ge