Civilian & telegraph. [volume] (Cumberland, Md.) 1859-1875, 1864-10-13

| dlu we tnen pTomenaueu uLth Tue next
dance, which she did, after which we cop'-
menced 70 promenade as before. at last
began to Feel as though had been keeping
her too long. as a great many in the room
smiled every time they saw us pass yet l
was at loss to know what to dsa when sud'
denly ths lazy of the house brought another
young lady up, and, intrpdpced me, taking
number one away. By this time, /, assure
you, 7 felt SO embarrassed 1 could hardly
stand, and after saying few words to the
young lady left her with her friends and
came home" A great many young men on
frst going intp society ,aa9n,t know what to Do
with their lands, but this young. gentlemen
had young lady put upon his hands and
diJp'tt know how to get rid Of her. He
knew be was retai6ing hGr ,caHpany lon- p.
ger, than either desired. but unable to drop
her il q, graceful manner, he was compelled
to remain until seme !ohe kind person relieved
the seqh5g fady, and put him in additional cu,-
.tarrassment BY, placing anether under bis
charge. Whether people were really tpSsh-
ing at him, as he says, may be very much
doubted. II know they were talking Of me >
F.sasys shdk, in tbe play,, for they laughed
consumcdly." And many young man ~. whSsln Sl
in company, has passed 2 gay group almost
unnerved by consciousness that he was the
object of the p,irtt' when even the fact of his
nrosonoo ,yos not ,ot;oed NSo ,on,,r man
whose letter is quoted above is the represen-
tative of a large class whose ideas of their
own Importance ;;r ARE greatly; lRey:3sa the gen.
eral estimate of the community, and will only
learn wisdom by increase of'y years ard an cx-
pcrience of their own weakness. Could it be
any but conceited puppy who would parade
such story as the following. and ask for i'd
vice upon it? "Ohio says tlat as he was
going home with girl from singing school,
not long since. she remarked, in reply to az
observation of bis that he thought it was
rcsptendeut night, t6st she thought he was a
resplendent goose. This remark says Ohio,
touched me very nearly, aud asked her for
al ezplqTpstiPn Ta which she ,PeremptorjIlyy. r.
fused to v0schsafc, saying that she thought
what she had said *ns so plain that it re-
quired no explanation and explain she would
not, did not, and to this day has not. Now,
'sir, what do you SLY q such conduct on her
part? Would not be warranted, Under the
circumstances; in discontinuing my visits to
the Young lady unttl sash a time es she ,skall
see fit to explain the remark as to my being
rcspelendent goose 2"
Advice upon etiquette and the minor mo-
rails is always pleasant to read though seldom
followed, and i shou be rather for exgsp-
tonal cases than to meet the common exigen-
cies which all soon learn how to encounter,
we select few of the most extraordinary
specimens Of this species of counsel which we
have h6tvced. Two ladies asked gentleman
the time; he being busy told them to take
out his watch themselves and look, and they
inquired if it Would not be improper II them
to do so. certainly it would" is the reply.
Some young lady must have felt much re-
lieved At being told by our moraIist that "a
girl is under 70 obligation to ahswer letters
addressed to Her by strange men, whether
they be in or out of the army" The young
men who remain at home will be pleased with
the assurance that the soldier boys caphot set
up an indisputabe claim to- the attentions Of
all the young ladies in The land. .,
Seventeen is informed that she QUILT
not to make advances. either in writing or
otherwise, to any mas whatever, even though
It i Zap year. But the practice Of advcrti-
sing for lovers is now SO prevalent that it is
doubtful ifshse, viii heed the advice, The linn
itations upon the privilege of kissing are very
sbly discussed by several correspondents.
Nobody seems to Uphold or defend the pro
hiscueus kissing which many practice, while
one one editor expressed the opinion that "no
lady should allow gentleman to kiss her un-
iii ahet %arriagc," A rule 50 stringent as that
would, Of course Ind 10 10 faSor with either SCI,
and, after discussing the right of young
man to kiss a young Iadx " whose % affections he
has engaged. one correspondent puts the case
in practical way that few could answer bis
inaaifics With truth and consistently aivo-
cate The restriction he opposes. Il would
say" he writes, '.tp any married man who
agrees to .Sduit doctrine "Did you ever spend
any time IN lie society oof her Who became
your wife before the dayof m,aifririagc? If so.
ala You then holdthe dfiin,ion That You how
advocaatei Did you ever take d sfeigh.ride on
pleasant night in cutter only large enough
for two, and have to pay close atteBtioh to
Keep tie robes stoGld some one' Did you
ever ever stroll through pleasant groves by moon
light, aHd Hind yoiair arm enccircling i slender
waist, almost. inawares7 And lastly, When
taking yout leave at half past eleven o'clock
P. NJ. did You take parting glance at the
dark Blown curls that clustered SO finely, and
look Into tie brown eyes that loSkea 50 low
ihgls Tito yoursi Did you do all this and
remain true to your doctrine? And did you
thihk Of snythids improper or did she fol an
instant suppose that you did 7" He might al
so have. asked, Were you evst. at a Sanitary
Fair where ( young lady. with attractions
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