The evening telegraph. [volume] (Philadelphia [Pa.]) 1864-1918, 1864-09-12

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li you ask your way, i mr. 4 o,Vays be don,
with the most extreme pol' 49, t,tins on vor
is,iS % f,Su wn'n sing persons Of quijo 10
otbrrs a. vn, W obedience 20 the law son so
s1's-i ~ Juld he done by thecd infor-
addressed oouud 10 suppiy the rc0 no 6ssort
e,so", ne can. In villages onlyater houses to
- of towns, is u allowable
! Take inquiries. connecting links
Calls OF visits are one ote together and keen
Of society they bring PISS than could arise from
| up more intimate rc0ursc. We cannot, there
| mere business iukanthropcs, that calls are too
| fore, allow, wthat they ought 10 be abolished .
wcars ONE al and even necessary when made
They are and apt0pos. Ii you come 10 settle in
| iud ciNE is usual 10 make what is termed "a
n toni CALI on the persons with whom YOU have
80. In short, In France the new cOmcris the 6rsi
10 call he Is expected to seek instead Of waiting
70 he sought. After a dinner, ball. or evening
party, you should cali ON your entertainer within
the week following. The first case Is sometimes
called a Uisitc de digesti0n.
l. is not permissible to kecppeopc waiting who
call upon you. IL would be an impcrtinence to
do so, without absolute necessity. II you are
detained by any accident, you must charge
another person TO do the hOnoTs Of the house.
until you can appear and make proper excuses
Any one who acted Otherwise would expose
himself 70 notifying lessons. A duke. belong
lug 20 one Of The first families of France, Il,od
one day on minister, who happened % b' busy
arranging the books i'm his library. The minis.
ter, unwilling o. quit his task, sent request 90
the duke 10 wait After the lapse of an hour
the minister dopucd 70 show himself saying by
way Of excuse, Il had quite forgotten you, Mon
sieur e Due
"Say, rather, that you forget yourself. Mon.
sicur le Ministrc, replied the duke
When persons who call on you take their leave.
you are bound % accompany thcm 90 the door,
unless you arc also receiving other visitors II
even you descend one or two OF the door step,
with them, the attention Is stiu greater. Riusiur
for the servant 20 show people out, white yuu
remain without stirring in the drawing ron.
alone, is quite opposed 70 French polteut,s and
has, probably given frequent ohcuse 20 iorrs suers
ignorant of our habits
The master or mistress of house should rsyer
ofiCr dinner sans Cert .1tie. A uli>tr Cucc i--
vited some people 70 dinner, ard treated them sc
mcagrc fare, ~ dessert ne said. 'NCl see. my
friends, am sdbs 0.rioUtt."
"Oh, replied one OF he hungry sufferers, -
little ceremony does no harm.
Martainv'le the author OF the "pieG De Mon
ton" accepted s dinner II The Nnt 8aI So
charmed his hosts with bis ccryerStrcn sAss.
when about % take his leave, .lsy would roc el
him go until he fixed ,irne fer coming ans
dining With them again. Every we'll sher. be
Immediately, If you like
Brllat Savarin declares that the man who re-
ceiyes bis friends without paying personal sste1-
tion 10 the repast prepared for them, is unworthy
to have friends. You responsible for the we'll
being Of the persons you invite, so long as thew
remaln under your roof
For gentleman's dinner you will have hot
side dishes, venisOn, Ct Of beef, all the courses
solid and succulent, plenty Of rUasts. No light
pastry or sweets, bus pates, hams, boars heads
and other charCuterie Of celebrity. At dessert
select cheescs, brandy cherries and plums, early
fruits, and few simple sweetmeats solely for
show. ladies dinner is different affair: cool
side dishes, courses of choice fish and game
plenty of delicate pastry, first rate vegetables Ba-
yarian cheeses and creams perfumed la yanille
and la rose, elaborate and elegant dessert, with
T iF QhaFN nnln Ill
mixed dinner must be COntriyed to suit all tastes
Note we'll the cheese at dessert, not between din
ner and dessert
When You invite French friends have at least
two or three sorts of cheese on the table, each
under a glass cover. The "Physielogie du
Gout" says IA dessert without cheese is a
beauty blind of one eye. Cut the cheese offered
you, lengthwise, instead of helping yourself to
the pointed end
Each napkin should be ticIIeted with the name
of the person for whom the place is intended
-Four glasses are the Indispensable escort of every
knife and fork the largest for vim ordinaire, an.
other for choice wines, another for champagne a
fourth for the fine wines taken at dessert and with
entremets. In the grandest mansions, fresh
knives and forks are given with every change of
plates; IN seCOnd-class houses, knives and forks
are changed at each course, and after fish; in
many, the same knife and fork serves through
out the dinner, aud are replaced by knife only
at dessert.
Before dinner the mistress of the house should
see that all arrangements are properly made. At
dinner she ought TO charm everybody BY her
grace, attention, and fiiendliness After dinner
awell-bred woman will not betray in the presence
OF her guests any marked uueasiness respecting
what is left in the dishes IL is ridiculous for q
host TO show anxiety to save elaborate confeo-
uonery which may adorn the table. It is for the
guest to plead for the sparug of those edih,cs,
which are generally contriyed to please the eye
rather than the palate.
Bread, when once handed TO you, may not be
again cut. but only broken. The black hottie
question is speedily settled. Wine may not be
decanted. The dirter, the duster the mouldier,
the more cobwebby, a bottle is when placed on
the table the better IL is the down of the peach,
the bloom of the Plum the dew of the rosebud
When bottle is uncorked, and you are about
to help your neighbor, il is polite to pour into
your own glass the first few drops (Which Italians
would squirt out on the floor, before filling your
neighbors and then afterwards TO fill your own
Eating is not SO simple an act as the multitude
imagine. Animals feed man eats; clever men
only know how TO eat. A novice in society,
sitting opposite an old marquis whose manners
bore the stamp of the highest refinement ex
claimed, "When shall eat my soup like that
gentleman = You may know mdde-class
English from middlecass French, thus: the
English sip soup from the side of their spoon
the French from the end Of il, holding the utensii
as II they wtre going to pitch it down their throat
After eating an egg break the shsl Never
wipe glass or plate with your napkin, which
would be an implied suspicion OF your hosts
CLEANLINESS. Fish must not be touched with
knife. A fork should not be laid on Its back
The master of the house generally takes his place
at he middle Of The table; the mistress sits Oppo-
site. On either side of each are placed the most
favored guests. The right is the seat OF hOuor.
AT very grand dinners the hosts do nothing.
Both the dishes and the wine are served by male
domcstlcs, who name them when they offer them
10 the guests. AZ the conclusion Of the dinner,
beware OF folding your napkin, as if you were at
home. The finger glass and mouth. .rinsng GUS
tom, (norc 10 be honUrtd in the breach than the
ohSeryauce) is stll unsettled aud debatable.
In general, Il IS obligatory 10 spend the evening
in the house where you have d!ued. In the case
Of Your being compelled to retire Carlier-aud,
for that II is strictly necessary 20 have unavOid-
able circumstances 10 alltgG as the rca,un-yOu
should give nogcc Of II before lhc rcpast, aud on
departing, manifest extreme regret. Except when
be is begged 10 sing, or when he takes any re-
trt sbm,utl, custom requires gentleman 20 hold
his hat In bis hand throughout the soiree This
usage was probably invented TO keep awkward
individuals out Of the difficulty of not knowing
what 10 do with their pendent arms.
10 is only allowable In a case Of the greatest
intimacy 10 rCclinc on sofa or diyan In every
other case you must maintain decOruus posture
and attitudes that Is without the least uoucha
lance on free and easincss. A remissnoss, which
is much 10 he regretted, tOlcrates iu men the
eros sing OF their legs, even in certain CsrcmO-
ui0us receptions. Young people will do well 70
abstain nom posture which is really too dra
uOuu-like, and which, thank Heaven, ladies' are
never allowed % assume.
III Is impTOUpT. at a sOircC, 20 express yOUr own