The Cadiz sentinel. [volume] (Cadiz, Ohio) 1864-1911, 1864-05-25
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or the rooms OF faSs .riass "a so,SethisS
better suggests itself. The first step in 70
liteness is to make such efforts, and they are
duty. In society you owe them to Your
host OF hostess, who does not, Of course,
like to sec a gloomy or embarrassed guest. +
And you owe them as all times, Id al ph.
ces to eyerg holy, ss a mater of poii-
nese, =
STARING AT IApITs
a very common form Of vulgar impi-
denoe is the staring at ladies', 10 do 30 in
any pUb!ic place is ungentlemany, but TO
avail ones self of a vicinity which cireuhr-
-Staposs reDler, unavoidable, iS.can.emplble,
Rgpss = hotel talhe, or in otatlbns, deserves
10 be arrested, Ignorant young men frc-
quentlydo this, under the impression TINT
it is not really diSagreeahle. to other sex, and
that they are, in fact, paying a species of
compliment Could they know the vexa-
ton and annoyance which is often masked
under the air Of ealmhessgwith which their
insolence is received, they Would think diff-
erently, | have heard, at hotel, of IN
stances in which ladies delayed their meals
for hours subjected themselves to annoyan-
ces; and even left the house, in order to
avoid the presence of some conceited puppy
who possibly imagined that he was recon
mending himself to their good graces.
TALKING ABOUT ONE SELF.
Avoid uerV frequent conversation on any
subject in which you are VIGOROUSLY interes-
ted If you have a speciality in politics,
religion, or in any other direction, it will be
often toenough referred tobyxdthers With
ont your introducing it. If you are physi-
cally strong or handsome, or accomplished
in any art, do not make strength and beauty
and your favorite Abilities even indirectly,
frequent subject Of discussion.
Beware of peculiar form of vanity which
consists in making condolences of your pri-
vate affairs to many people, and in binding
every acquaintance to solemn secresy as to
this or that matter relative to yourself or
friends Weak people often think by such
| confidence to attract intimacy, but the CON
fded-in seldom fail, on reflection, to attrib-
ute it to mere vanity.
OF all tollies, never seek to make capital
in general conversation by communicating
to any mortal whatever, your misfortunes,
grievances and losses. Whatever momen-
tary sympathy you may attract will in too
many cases, be entirely neutralized ON the
T, fatal sober second thought of those in whom
you may con6de, This is pitiful vanity
indeed, which would sooner expose its de-
teats from fortune than not talk of self =
More absurd the TconfesSdngof your private
fault and vices = a species of~Nanity frc-
quent enough among would-be romantic
people of school which is now becoming
generally ridiculous. On this subject a
French writer has well remarked that you
should always avoid mention Of yourself,
since, if it be an eulogium, people will re-
gard it as lie! while, if you cri5icise your
self, they will take you at your word, and
accept it as an article of faith. = 5 rFe
| In shorts never allude many way, or un-
der any circumstances, where it can be
avoided, to your own excellencies or de-
fects.
vCLGARIsMs.
1t is very vain to use strong and emphatic
assertions, such as I" kno,c, am positire-
y certain" Yes but Ihappen to know
all about it. " 1t is intolerably conceted,
and in most instances irritates, without ex-
citing the slightest respect for your declara.
ton. e Always substitute Il think, Il
believe, -" ltscems to me, 8 Excuse me,
but think ia-have heard, etc 1t is not
enough to limit your words in this respect,
you should never. emphasize the voice too
forcaibly;. One may say, " beg your pardon
sir, with an expression equivalent to a
flat and insulting contradiction.
Still more vain and vulgar is the use Of
such expressions as HIM p "Pshaw p
Much You know about it !" Stuff and
"Fiddiostica$!" !" The:e expressions, and
others like them, of a strongly dis ,entent
nature, should never be uttered by any ont
Isunder any cireamstances whatever, Hhsy
are all rude, as is indeed every word and ev-
cry emphasis which directly expresse es denia
of any assertion.