Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1863-10-21

five years. Am poor, and consequently
have to work pretty hard for living. This
l am willing to do, and have done ever
since I got married. i someithree years
since became sick, and it was about eight
months before 1 WAS able 10 do anything
II became necessary for me to employ sew
eral different physicians, and of course It
cost me not a lille. and as had but little
money 70 commence With, fell in debt
sinee which time have been working very
hard to clear myself. But II have no en-
coursgemept. Sly wife seems 70 De very
inconslderate she seems to think the debt,
which was pretty large, should have been
maid within q month or two and that
onpht TO have money ahead. She cant
see where it all goes to- She has a very
Jealous disposition, and mother 70 help
her on. Many a night, after have work.
ed hard ali day, and went home tired and
almost sick-for my health IS not good
having perhaps been ten or fifteen minutes
later than usual, have met instead OF
pIeasant, cheerful conUteuances one that
better represented fearful black cloud
inst ready TO burst forth its thunder and
sharp lightning; turning signihcant
glance at the clock with latter long
nause,l We'll, what's the excuse tonight ?
/ suppose somebody had to be called on
before YOU could come home Z q, have
Thought this the uukindest cut of all, after
have worked few minutes later to finish!
something happened to be doing. She
thinks she ought to have the handling of
ali nv money, aBdI think not, as she new
er has a place for anything and very sell
dom has anything in its place. have,
known her 10 say she had not twenty cents
In her pocketbo0k and di9nt know how,
she was going to get along for one day,
when had Just picked her pockethook OH!
the f1oor and fonnd between four and five
dollars in it, She makes no secret in say
ing she hates me, and her mother once
SAID to me in her presence that she-did not
think any man, or set Of men, had any bu-i
s,uess to make law requiring marriage
VOW to be binding; that when couple get
married and afterwards found that they!
were not calculated for each other, they
had q perfect rigbt-tO marry again, and to
keep on doing so uutiI they found some
one they did like; and my wife has reiteF-
ated it more than once, not only in my
presence, bat in the presence OF oilers
She has also said to me that she believed
a woman was better off as mistress than
as wife. She says am cold, 60, when
really her actions and language so disgust
me that it would be impossible for me to
feel any other way. My mother is a wild
ow pretty well, advanced in life, and has
worked very bard to bring up large fam
lily of children. for one appreciate her
for her motherly kindness TO me, and feel
it nv duty to do all can for her, which is
but little, in her declining years. This my
wife objects to, aud says she ia as able to
work as am, &c. might enumerate my
grievances, but have trespassed upon you
already / intend 10 leave my wife, but
,,..x.t hos I rinht 9iI
AnSwer.-We Commisserate your cOndi-
ton very much. II there be such a thing
as "Heaven on earth, /" il is when a married
couple, thoroughly loving each other and
each others good qualities,
strive aud earnestly strive to
make each other happy. If there be such
a thing as a PandemOnium on earth, II Is
when a married couple exhibit all the pc
culiarities of what grammarians call
conjunction" and having lost
the affection they once entertained for each
other, spend their private moments in do
mestic feuds and their public ones IN mu-
tual upbraidings. To disembarrass them
selves of such misery is the duty Of every
such mismated couple. If they cannot
live happily together, let them eudeavor to
secure comparative happiness by living in
a state of separation. Inyour case, friend
@. s. j., your wife is especially unreason
able if she objects to your doing all You
can for the comfort of your mother. Your
wife also asks too much in demanding the
charge of your money, and in attempting
to become ''master of the situation" iu your
own house. presume that you are not
without faults yourself, and that yoa occa-
sionally do give her some cause to complain
of your "coldness," &c. Under these cir
cumstances we can easily perceive how
you have estrauged your hearts from each
other until a thorough reconciliation has
become Improbable, and without such
reconciliation you can have but little hope
of ANYTHING but family discord. Perhaps,
then, it will be better for both of you to
submit to separation. Allow your wife
SO much week out Of your earnings, and
let her go her ways with her evil advisers
promising that should she, by any act of
her own, dishonor you, you will stop her
allowance Immediately.
Ouestion-"I have been in the hosiery
business with my, Their for one year, and
am doing trade of four hundred. q week,
making twenty per cent. profit What
want to get ats this: could keep wife
any way decently without making slave
of her2 for never want to marry without
can keep wife in proper circumstances.
l have tried to make it as plain as could
10 YOU aS oeilofS !Ou " oV tuS uA0SH
sensible men ut answering such questions
that know Of"
-Answer-If you mean that, by twenty
per cent. profit on "$400 q week" you and
your partner nett $50 week, one half of
which is your own share, we reply that
you are abundantly able to keep q wife in
more than merely s'decent" circumstances.
Forty dollars week will support wife
and family without extravagsnt preten-
sions in the most reasonably handsome
manner, and much less sum ought to do
it where no improvidence in permitted and
a just economy is practtced as a domestic
duty. II all depends, however, upon the
kind of wife you may select. Some la
dies will beggor the most prosperous man
in short period with their exaggerated