The weekly north Iowa times. [volume] (McGregor, Iowa) 1857-1867, 1863-10-14


A wom,n must make herself obvious to
her husband, or he will drilt out Beyond
her horiz,n. She will be to him very
nearly what she wills and wos1s ~ BE- Il
she adapts herself to her children and does
not adapt herscle 10 her husband, he viii
fall into the arrangement, aud. the two win
fall apart. / do not mean that they viii
quarrel, but they will lcad separate lives.
There will bs a dOsaestic alliance, but no
marriage. A predominant interest in the
same object binds them together, after .
fashion but marriage il something beyond
that. II a woman wishes aud proposes e
be the friend Of her husbaad---if she would
be valuable to him. not simply the nurse
Of his childrcn aud III, dircctrcss Of his.
household, but as woman fresh and faic
AID fascinating, to him, intrinsicalIy lovely
and attractive, she should make an effort
for it. 1t i not by any means a thing
that comes itself, or that can he left 10 IL.
SELF She must read and observe, and
think, and live up toi it. Men, as gcnsrst
thing, will not It'll you SO. They talk
about having the slippers ready, aud enjoin
women to be domestic. But men are block.
heads dear. affectionate, ard generous
block ockheads-bcnevolent, large.hcar.ed. snd
chivalrous- kind patient, and hard working
but stupid where women arc conccrned.--4
indispensable and delightful as they are I'd
real life, pleasant and comfortable as wo;ncn
actually find them, not one in ten thousand
but makes a Ounce Of himself the moment
he opens his mouth to theorize about wo-
men. Besides they have an axe to gyiqd.
The pretty things they slippers,
and cot See, and cart, and courtesy ought.
indeed, to be lone, but the. others ought
not to be left undonc. And to the former,
women seldom need to be exhorted. They
take to them naturally. great many
women bore boorish husbands with fond
little attentions more than would spprcciA.
tive ones by neglect Women tlomes,icate
themselves to death already. What they
want is cultivation. They need to be stiu.
ulatcd to, develop large, coWpxeheasivc
catholic life, in which their domestic duties
shall have an appropriate niche, and not
dwindlc down to q narrow and servile ono,
over which those duties shall spread and
occupy the whole space. -
There are women less foolish. They see
their husbands attracted in other directions
more often and more easily than in theirs
They have too much sterling worth and
profound sense to become vulgarly jealous
They + ar nothing like shame or crimes
but they feel the fact that their own preoc.
cupation with homcly household duties
preclules real companionship, the inter-
change Of emotions, thoughts. sentiments
living and palpable and vivid contract Of
mind with mind, Of heart with heart. They
Sc. others whose leisure ministers to grace.
accomplishments, piquancy, and attractive.
ness, and he moth flies towards the light
by his own nature. Because he is a wise
and viruou> and honest moth, he does not
dart into the flame He d,cs not ever
scorch his wings. lie never thinks Of such
a thing lie merely circles round tho
pleasant light, summing himself in it with.
out much thought onc way or another, on.
ly fe, Ing that it was pleasant; but Raean-
while Mrs. Moth sits at home in darkness.
mending the children's clothes, which is
not cxhlara,ing. Many a woman who
feels that she possesses her husbands af-
fections, misses something. She docs not
secure his fcrvor. his admiration. His lovo
is honest and solid, bnt little dormant.
and therefore dull. 1t does not brace, and
tone, and stimulate She wants not tho
love only. but the kcenness, and edge, and
flavor of the love! and she suffers untold
2angs. know, for have seen it. 1t il
not thing to be uttered. Most wonen
do not admit it, even to themselves; but it
is revealed by lift Of the eye.lash, by a
quivcr Of the eye, by tone Of the voice, by
trick Of the finger.