Cedar Falls gazette. [volume] (Cedar Falls, Iowa) 1860-1895, 1863-05-22
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SECOND MARRIAGES.

SECOND MA RRIAGES. e..H
r.- .rr- sr. BY EMMA NAY. .... .'w
Who ever knew good to come from second
marriagess Doesn't such an event start up
from their slumbering all tho meddlesome
faculties of . " first wife's relations;" and
don't they come prying around once too often,
to sec il you use her silver, her household
linen; or treat their beloved Sarah's children
with becoming tenderness more than with
the rod Of correction? Don't they espy out
all your faults, and some you have not, and
tell your neighbors that they" know thing
or two about dear brother.in law Silneon's
domestic relations which would astonish
them if they were at liberty to tell9" Don't
they insinuatc, with their eternal surmises
and conjectures, that said Simeon's wife has
dreadful temper; that ''she abuses in more
ways than one the dear little lambs which
their beloved Sarah left to the cold charity
and unkindness of step.mother ?" Isn't
second marriage likely to lead one into a
deeper slough Of despond than ever poor
Christian struggled through and isn't these
bigger than giants, and "worser" than
roaring lions to stumble over9
1t may be somebody's duty to take COM
passion upon forlorn widowcr encompasscd
with hungry children who must be fed, and
who no,o and then need stitch taken; but
it requires large heart to take in, charitably
not only the man and his incumbrance but
the fault-finding, never satisfied relatives OF
the frst wife, who expcnd all of their SYM
pathy upon your husband, and all of their
venom upon you. II you are an angel, you
are above their spite, but if particle of the
earthly clings to your garments and you
stand before them a woman, then I pity you.
When a young and widowed friend Of
mine. not long since, vowed herself into the
keeping of an ancient widower, with nearly
the patriarchal number in his household, |
said to her, God bless you in your choice
tho l haven't the least i,lea that he will"
could command no faith for such an occasion,
but felt in duty bound TO offer my best wish.
es and congratulations in the letter if not in
the spirit. ... -a. ..s 10
Because woman's earthly hopes and ex-
pectations are all wrecked, ere yet she with
her chosen companion have scarcely left the
green, bright shores Of youth to cross the
ocean of time, is there any reason in her pro.
curing passage in an old weather beaten hulk
which is liable at any moment to sink?
1t is sometimes thought that because wo-
man has once loved, love is necessary to her
existence,-and so it is; but it is the affcc.
ton, such as mortals entertain for angels,
not earth love, which ought to aspire to
Heaven, seeking its affinity in earth h-iovo.-
How can the affection we have bestowed up.
on one of Gods creatures, the better part Of
which has passed ap the beautiful way thro'
Heavens gates, be returned to us? Can we
give what we have not? Can the heart
which has once plighted its faith to one whom
God has crowned an angel, come down from
of its throne and breathe new vows? "In
Heaven as on earth, he who has gone before
me is my husband /" once said true wo-
maa, when second marriage was proposed
to her. And her faith in the old loye-her
belief in its endurance, even though the river
Of death separated the two for awhile, saved
her from life Of misery. have known
women, and have known men who have
been blessed for years in truly happy mar
riage, who have never ventured second time
upon the turbulent and deceitful sea of mat
rimony. This getting married is a lottery
investment with but few great prizes, and
ne1er a blank; but sometimes these neither
prizes nor blanks are as hard to dispose of
as the elephant drawn in certain lottery
/" Faithful through life and IN death" should
be woman's motto. Men are capable Of max
ing their own rules and proverbs, but not Ca
pable Of living up to them.
BOY ENTERPRISE.
Boys Of energy and enterprise, are the
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