, 1863-04-09
ADVICE TO THE GIRLS.
BY Aunt Mary.


Mr. DEAN GiRIs:-I suppdse tod will not be
ture even from one cailing herself your aunt /;
but as she will endedvct to give you good advice,
she trusts you will kindly pardon her plainness
Of speech, and also give her an attentive hearing
In the first place, must beg Ot YOU to bahish
all idea Of matrimony from your heada ill you
have lain aside bbs, candies, &c. For the life Of
me, I never could tell why girls should be so
much more obstinate upon this subject than upoh
any other. Why, if the least chit Of school.
girl once sets her head upon getting married, she
carries oil before her; and the parents may quite
as well give cheerful consent, for, in case Il Is
withheld, en- elcpement comes Immediately Upon
the tapis
Honestly believe that nowadays. when q young
girl marries, she has some sort Of vague idea
that little palace will spring up for her In some
she, Nith the object Of her affections, Is TO dwell,
subsisting upon such delicacies as can be pre-.
pared without any trouble on their part; and, In
short, that the life she is to lead after marriage
is to be one Of unclouded happiness Now you
viii all say, have no doubt, that this Is highly
absurd, and agree with you; yet tit shows plainly
that children will think upon this subject, as upon
any other, mixing Cinderella and her wonderful
slippers in with their castle-building, as proof
that such things hare been and can be again. ]
can tell you, my dears, such things should not
be; there Is 90 much misery and suffering in the
world, caused By these early marriages. yet they
ere becoming more frequent as the world grows
older. II Il 50 happens that the man be honor.
able and conscientious, they may get along
smoothly enough, 50 far as peace between man
and wife Is concerned but IT. In addition to her
other heavy cares, the husband be exacting and
IN natuFed, then heaven help the poor child, for
her iate 10 maFtyrdom.
have always thought Il . grand sight to see
. woman, strong In her principles OF right and
Womanly nobility, bowling her head before the
atSF, and taking upon herself with thoughtful
EOss and solsmnity, the name Of wife; that name
which brings with it such strange mingling Of
care end happiness We feel insilnctiVely, as
We look upon her, that she realizes the import.
ance Of the stop which she Is taking, and Is pre-
pared to do her duty. But Of ell distressing
things % look upon, defend me particularly from
that Of seeing poor, giddy, light hearted, light
headed little girl whose proper place Is the school
room, giving herself Coz life into the keeping of
. man Old enough, perhaps. TO have stood god
iather b her. For my part, | always pity the
poor thing, looking 20 smiling and happy nov,
IoF an sure 10 Be drawing pictures 70 myself
Of spoiled dinners sharp looks and sharper words,
besides many other Ike troubles which will dim
those bright eyes and make out Of this happy,
eare-iFeo girl aheart-WsAFy woman, old and faded
before her time. "a - = 1 T..ias pHas
I Iesn cen you, young misses, who are disposed
10 marry while you are yet children; that the
care Of house, . half dozen noisy children, ill
heAlth, &c., will never constitute perfect happiness
ljr yonj and you had Ear better drive men, mat
Timony, and 81 such matters from your minds
~ several yeaFs, and In the meantime leaFn from
your mothers the art Of making and baking good
bread, also q compounding nicsly-lavored coliee,
los ESst assured these branches. with several
otheu q similar nature, condnce not Q liit'o 10
IN 'ths open 81, make YOU oWn dresses, sew
buttons % Jour broiheTS coats; In short make
yourselves 30 generally useful end happy ag 10
have no timo l6F thinking about getiing married,
and by-and b. you will not only b Ga enough,
but II evOEy way fitted 70 become wives and
molhora. Ititp pulefa efia 70 iah of4 HiiN "a
( Iaupposs yO6 win aIl ~ that am . sour Old
maid, and sIt my unFOmantie ideas down 70 that
score. uWSll, you my BE- right; but old inalds
wW have thsiF opinions yoa know and -
havo been bod enough 70 express mine upon
member of the ether bsx would FSad bic brethren
. short chapter, pointing out to them The duties
dsVolving upon them, % eass they takos Wiees
Who don't know how 70 keep house, and can't
live away from their mnnImasj though I sup.
pasSit eould have but little effect, for every nah
in the Territory would apply ittO bic ntlshbcss
and 90 u would droD, t3l ,tua1ffh itn'lt n o
But one thisg 3 etF,nins rltIs--.thsy cannot
marry yOu without your consent; and BY doing
right youfg1lgoA 700 my prevent their doing
wrong Wait tlll lou are . little older before
yoa 6hy YES, aud sss u IN after yeaFs, you
are not brought % say ths. ~Aalt Mary vas
right nltof plLy no aNN hsisFs1a nMiHol II
OEInFla, Mt, March sod, 1900 s pa
EAult MIry wfilss inisIliksntIy and eofTs1tly
"a DE ibove subject. which W regard = vsll
ehossni and " hopp hsF sdyies maY b thought
fully and Wisely weighed BY thoss 10 whom q b
addressed. PFomst6Fo and uneqeaI mtfsieass
irs TOO olsn productive d nisssy sBa wretch.
sdnsss. and sll ~ restraints not & ptslsnt
imposed aButws sboula b plsaIsd b hsE
again from Aunt Mary. 1aaa;l rs ~ 10 4ils
'l--.lfloI ~ ss..sas.- - ltss f-telf
Tns ADnlMslRasIoa.-aP aPrtutlcs, of the Louis
vills Journal uiters the fdIiONins opinion Of the
present sdlinlstFation: sPrida dosnatism, ana
es0tism, have entered too largely into The admin
isiEAlion Of our public Affairs, and thoss Who
conduct them do not seem wiling 70 learn rom
expsrisnce O. 70 guide their future movements
bV The reelected llsbisof he past Msn Of cum-
manding lntsllsots TIE Webster may have piartsd
themselves frhlY upon Al DOCTRINE points, and
declared that they would lake noslep backwards,
but lng1e of Inferior mindsi uho eropo about
like Bind men 70 find footing o. % experiment
upon The policy they should puF1oo, wouid find
ifprndsnt ~ he country and profitable 70 thom-
selves % take at least two steps backwards for
every one they have made toward their ideal
mode Of goveFning the country. II the country
was Ike The IFiihman's pig, and could b tempted
70 80 the right way % ofnafkel only By driving ii
ths wrong eay, " shOdld soon reach ths haven of
r,,e.en-l sAiesy' ~ - iis .iiatssss6.l