Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1863-04-14
rhe Art OF wifo Preservlng.

a woman must make herself obvious to
herihusband, or he will drift out beyond
her horizon. She will be to him very
nearly what sheswills and works to be. If
she Rdapts herself to her children and does
not adnpt herself to her husband, he will.
fall into the arrangement, and the two will
fall apart. do not mean that they will
quarrel, but they will lead separate lives
They will be no longer husband and wife.
There will be a domestic alliance but
no marriage. A predominant interest.
in the same objects binds them togeth-.
er after fashion but marriage is some
thing hsynhd that If Woman Wishe and.
purposes TO peTtue friend of her husband,
ii she would be valuable to him, not simpti
ly as the nnrse of his children and the.
directress of his household, but as a
woman fresh and fair and fascinating, to
him intrinsfcally lovely and attractive, She
should make an effort for it. Il is not by
any means a thing that comes of itself, or
that can be left to itself. She must read,
and observe, and think, and rest up
to 1t. Men, rs general thing, will
not tell you SO. They talk about hay.
ing the slippers ready, and enjoin wo-
meu to be domestic. But men are
blockheads,-dear, and affectionate, and
generous ckheads,-benevolent, large
hearted, and ohiyalrous,- ,-kind, aud patient
and bard; working,- but stupid where
women are concerned. Indispensable and
delightful as they are in real life, pleasant
aud comfortable as women actually find
them, not one in ten thousand but makes
a duuce of himself the moment he opens
his mouth to theorize about women. Be-
sides, they have no axe to grind. The
pretty things they nculcate-slippers, aud
coffee, and care, and courtesy-ought in
deed to be done, but the others ought not
to be left undone. Aud to the former
women seldom need 10 be exhorted. They
take to them naturally. A great many
more women bore boorish husbands with
fond little attentions than wound appre.
'ciatiye ones by neglect. Women domesti.
cate themselves 10 death already. What
they want is cultivation. They need toll
be stimulated to develop large, compre.
,hehsiye, catholic life, in which their do 1
nestle duties shall have an appropriated
niche, and not dwindle down to narrow
and serviie one, over which those duties.
shall spread and occupy the whole space
There are ,womenless foolish. They see
their Husbands attracted in other directions
more often and more easily than in theirs
They have too much sterling worth and
profound faith to. be yulgarly jealous
4uSSs tettE. CuOtu1uS. ike ienalu6. OF. crime
but they feel the fact of their own pre-. oc.
cnpation with homely household duties
precIudes real companionship, the inter-
change Of emotions. thoughts, sentiments,
q living and palpable and vivid contact of
mind with mind, of heart with heart
They-se others whose leisure ministers
to grace, accomPlishments, piquancy, and
attractiyeness, and the moth flies towards
the light by its own nature. Because heis
q wisei aud 'virtuous and Honorable moth,
he does not dart into the fame He does
not even sccrch his wings. he never
thinks OF spch thing. He merely circles
around the pleasant light, summing himself
in lit without much thonght one way
or another, only. feeling that it IS
pleasant but meanwhile Mrs. Moth
sits at home in utter darkness,
meadiug the chtldren,s clothes, which is
not exhileratihg Many 3 woman who feels
that she possesses her husbands Affection
misses something. She does not see1re.
his feryor, his admiration. His love is hon
est and solid, but little dormant, and.
and therefore dull. It does net brace. and
tone, and stimulate. She wants not the
love only, but the keepness aud edge and
flavor of the love; and she suffers untold,
pAngs. know il. for l have seen it. It
isspot a thing TO be uttered. Most women.
d6snot admit it even themselves; but ,it is
revealed BY a lift Of the eyelash, BY quiv
er of the eye, by q tonesof the voice, BY 4
trick OF the fnger, GGik Hqnsilto,. s. ~.
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