Delaware gazette. [volume] (Delaware, Ohio) 1855-1886, 1862-07-18

think am warranted in saying that the
mental resources of large proportion Of our
American women never Increase after mar
rage, while cases in which they diminish are
very numerous. 1t often happens that when a
couple are married, her school education is
quite as good as that Of the man, her talents
equal, to say The least, her family better, and
her position in society superior. But the
change in her life and occupation is so COM
blete, that she soon looses much of the knowl-
edge she hxs acquired. She would gladly re-
tain it, but it passes from her like retreating
tide. 1t is crowded out by new cares and
duties, aud thoughts on new subjects. A few
Years only pass away, before moods and ten
ses, levers and laws, solids and fluids, flights Of
rhetoric, chips of logic, and stray equations
dance through her brain in confusion, forming,
with every attempt to bring them into order,
nothing but Kaleidoscope figures. Not so
with man. lie has occasion TO use the knowl-
edge he has gained, aud furthermore he con-
tinues in some manner, the pursuit of science.
His education was but Just begun, perhaps, at
the time they were married. lie goes on ex
ercising and improving his powers, increasing
in knowledge aud strength and ability. and
twenty years of welded life have not rolled
over their heads before there is q frightful dis
partly between him and bis companion. Then,
probably, he will begin to talk want Of con
genialifg, and all that--he has vile that can
not appreciate him, and he may come to the
sage conclusion that it is very dangerous for
a man OF great capacities to marry at all
All the time The wife has been engaged in
cooking dinners, and nursing children, ard
miuistcring 10 the physical necessities of her
family, ('hcy have beeu too poor to have any
helpl and when she has time to think which
seldom happens, the unwelcome conviction
forces itself upon her, that their home is no
home for her husband Lit is only place where
he eats and sleeps and gets his linnen washed
and mended. Bat she could not help it.
He has been free; she has been fettercd-
Society invited him to a sumptuous intellectual
banquet she was shut out and starved for
food, and now the public delight in his ample
proportions, while it looks with contempt up
on the gauEt, shrivelled being at his side
Now would say to The young woman, if this
is to be your experience, ii, in the language oil
Sidney Smith, your "swift vanishing woman
hood is to wrinkle itself up into despised old
age" for heavens sake, do not marry young
But how is the result Of domestic cares to be
avoided responds the inquirer. These duties
and the maternal also, must be performed by
women. Certainly. We cherish them as an
essential part of liies labor aud ask no ex-
emption from their responsibilities. But it
docs not follow, therefore, that a man has a
right to convert woman into mere satellite
of the dinner pot" while he engages in some
improving pursuit. A man of small business
often keeps one or two clerks, while she with
many heavy and pressing duties, keeps nc
servant whatever If a man is unwilling to
become q drudge himself, let HMM make
one of his wife. All we ask is equality. Le
husband and wife cast in their lot together
and if poverty stare them in the face, let no
its principal evils be felt by her alone lie
their sacrifices and selfdenials be of similar
character. Mrs. J. Eli=cbcih Jones.