The Potter journal. [volume] (Coudersport, Pa.) 1857-1872, 1862-07-23
A Word on COurtshEp.

A Word On COurtshEp.
There are certain young ladies in the
world who hold peculiar notions as to the
attentions they receive from gentlemen.
They seem to think that If a man is polite
and agreeable to them, if he happens to
take pleasure in their society, and visits
them two nights successively, he is bound
to propose marriage. Strange to say,
some mammas labor under this delusion.
A short time ago, friend of ours visited
a young lady three or four evenings IN
succession, and as he was leaving the
house for the last time, the mother called
him quietly into the parlor and asked him
what his intentions were. Our friend
promptly responded that be had no in
tentions whatever, and politely wishing
the old lady good night, left the house
forever.
We live in fast age, and it would al
most seem that conrtship must be con-
Quoted in the same railroad speed as
other things.
Marriage is serious matter, requiring
long and earnest consideration. Two
young people may be everything that
could be wished for; they may be ami
able, afectionate in disposition, and yet,
because their tastes do not assimilate,
they willliyea very unhappy life together.
How are these young folks to find out
each others temper and disposition is it
not by time in each others company be.
fore marriage? There can be no doubt
that the numerous unhappy marriages
which arc made in the present day, arise
from the fact that the courtship is too
short. Marriage is not regarded with
sufficient reverence; it is often hurriedly
entered into and speedily repented. Truth
compels Us to state that this is caused in
great measure by our young ladies. AS
we have just stated, they appear to think
that if man is polite and agreeable to
them, he is in love, and is bound at once
to declare his intentions. They forget
that in seeking for wife man ought to
look for something more than bright eyes,
a brilliant complexion, and white shoul-
ders. These are all very well in their
way, but beauty is eVanescent, and the
day will come when other qualities are
found necessary to bind household to.
gether.
There should be congeniality of mind
temper and disposition; there must be
mutual dependence and forbearance, all
) of which cannot be discovered in the
short courtships of the present day. A
girl, too, should remember that patent
) leather boots, well-fttinG coat, and un-
czceptionable whiskers, are not the only
things requisite for her future happiness.
Her lover may be 'perfect duck" but
it is absolutely y necessary that he should
have little manhood about him, or four
weeks of matrimony will dissipate her
dreams and she will be compelled to set
tie down to the conviction that she has
married dolt whom she must despise
The attributes of true manhood are not
to be discovered in two or three inter
views. 1t requires months to find out a
persons character and disposition. Com
plant is often made by ladies that gen,
tlemeu are not polite to them, and do not
show them that respect which is due
their sex. We are ungallant enough to
believe that the fair sex have only them
selves to blame in the matter. II they
would allow social intercourse without
expecting anything more from their Wis
itors if they would put down politeness
and agreeableness for what it is worth
if they would not read proposal in every
compliment paid to them, they would
enjoy life more; they would have much
better opportunities Of judging mans
real character, and by entertaining large
number of visitors, increase their chances
of meeting with those who assimllate tc
themselves in disposition, who would
make them loving, affectionate, and de.
voted husbands, ds,-Famiiy Journal, Bait,