The Highland weekly news. [volume] (Hillsborough [Hillsboro], Highland County, Ohio) 1853-1886, 1861-03-21

lut ""Ih WHICH WOulu ylClu an lncOmCi
aud so do her part2"
"Yes, she might do something Of the
kind, but if marriage is to make work.
ers Of us it were better to remain sin
GLE
"And live ia unwomanly dependence
on our parents and relatives! No. Al.
ice, there is false sentiment prevailing
on this subject, and as I think aud
talk, | see it more clearly. Our parents
have been weak in their lovt9 for as;
and society, as constituted, has given us
wrong estimates Of things We should
have been required to do useful work iu
the household from the beginning; aud
should have been taught that idloucss
and selfindulgencc were discreditablU.
Our brothers are put 10 trades and pro.
iessions, and made to comprehend from
the beginning that industry is honora
Bile and that the way Of useful work is
the way by which the worlds best places
are to be reached But we are raised
daintily and uselessly, and so untitled
for our duties as wives and mothers. -.
Our pride and sclf-esteem are fostered
and we come to think of ourselves as
future queens, who are to be miuisterod
to in all things, instead of being minis
trants, in loving self forgetfulness lo
others. No wonder that an anti-marri
age sentiment is prevailing amongst our
young men of moderate incomes, in all
our large cities. The fault is in US, Al.
ice The sin lies at our door. We
demand too muah in the co partnership.
We arc not willing to do our share Of
work. Our husbauds'must bear all the
burdens"
Alice sighed heavily Her friend
. continued:
"I have read somewhere, that the de-
light Of heaven is the delight of being
useful. Aud it'secms 10 me as dwell
upon the thought, that the nearest ap-
proach 10 heavenly delight here is that
state into which a wife comes when she
e stands by her husbands side aud, out
{ Of love for him, removes one burden
r and another from his shoulders, and so
. liShtens his work, that smiles take the
. place Of wcarness and the shadowings
r of care. If he be rich she can hardly
S have so greata privilege; but if they are
alike poor, and know how to moderate
their desires, their home may become
il an image Of Paradise. Eight hundred
% dollars! Alice, if You we're really fitted
] IN become Harry's wife, you might live
with him, doing your part happier than
any queen"
2 "That is, must take in work, and
a earn money if we board, or-but house.
n keeping is out of the question"
mo; it should never be out Of the
C question ia marriage, think"
S But houso-rent alone would take
- half Of our income
}, "Thot does not follow.
r. cit does, for any house I would con
C sent to live In. -
S go pride is stronger than love. But
O pride has its wages as well as love; and
q the one is bitter while the other is sweet.
N It is the pride ofapPearance, this living
p for the eyes Of other people who do not
e care penny for US, that is marring tho
fair fabric Of our social life Fine houses,
J. ine furniture, fine dresses, parties,
f shows and costly luxuries of all kinds
are consuming domestic happiness, and
burdening fathers and husbands, in all
It grades of society, with embarrassment
Vt and wretchedness. Alice, We must be
!? wiser in our generation"
l. That is, coop ourselves up in two or
u three little rooms, with our eight hun
dred-a-year husbands, and do our own
cooking and housework. Is that it, my
pretty one?'
"For shame, Alice. You do not de-
t. serve a good man. You are not wor
IS thy to wed Harry Peasants, aud I trust
g you will pass him by, should he be weak
% enough to offer you his hand lie can 6
e. afford TO marry a girl of your expetta-
d tlons; he must content himself with one
k who, like himself, regards life as real
ol life as earnest; aud the way of use and
It duty the way to true homer and the
(, highest happiness, -.ta -.
e Suppose you take him, Fanny, said
s. Alice, half spOrtively, half petulantly.
Is She was weak, proud vain girl
e "If he should offer himself perhaps
.e | will.
,, "Oh, then, if he knees at my feet
y will refer him to you, as one likely to
.e make him a good cook and chamber
= maid"
j. "Do if you please always liked Im
ry and | don think lt would take much
; effort on my part to love him, lie is
4 great deal better OF in the world than I
is am, having an income Of eight hundred
3" dollars year, while have nothing --
lo On that sum am sure we could livoiu
In comfort, taste, aud happiness, / would
not keep a servant to wait on me so
J. long as | could do the work cf our lit-
tie household Why should j keep a
le servant any more than he? would
{, End mental creation and bodily health
ID ia the light labors our modest homo
I- would require Neod we care rs To
what the world would say? Aud what
would the world sayF
10 "Ihat your husband had no business
to marry ir he couldn't support his
,.l wife," ..I
3 Not by any means Alice. Tho
Wbfia would say 'Ehores sonsiblo
4 40 Or you and a wife worth hay
hfing W6iN endorse them for happiheas
r AID prosperity? And what g more,
ht Ali6e, Others wodld be encouraged to
lt act the same end thus D.
~ mude happy ihio fe EIl
o. take Harry so BE- olsi8 los Show