The Union and journal. [volume] (Biddeford, Me.) 1858-1882, 1861-09-13
usasos in Fashionable Society.
MARRIAGE.

When man marries Il is presumed that
oil his bachelor acquaintanccship ends. He
can renew his friendships by sending cards
or invitations, but where he neglecb 70 do
so, the party neglected may DO sure that no
further intercourse Is desired. There arc
various reasons for this. In tho first place,
bachelor need not DO 30 particular In
his choice Of companions as aman Of family
who has social reputation to achieve. For
amusement, while unmarried, he may a..
sociate freely with those whose morals and
habits would not exactly accord with the pro-
prietics Of domestic life. After marriage his
reputation must be unexceptional II he ex-
expects to be recognized among persons Of ro-
finement. There Is still another reason why
he may discard bachelor acquaintances. A
newly.married pair may wish to limit tho
circle Of their friends, from praise-worthy
motives Of economy. When man frat sets
up in the world. the burden Of an extensive
and indiscriminate acquaintance may be felt
in various ways. Many have had cause TO
regret the weakness Of mind which allowed
hem to plunge into vortex Of gayety and
expense they could Ill afford, from which
they have found It difficult to extricate them
selves, and tho effects Of which have proved
q serious evil to them in after-life.
Ladies', after an engagement to marry.
should be cautious Of receiving any attentions
whatever from gentlemen. Lovers are natur.
ally jealous Of any such attentions, however
innocent or frivulous.
If, after engagement, a lady should wish
to go to place of public amusement, or 10
q concert, or even an evening meeting. sho
should not accept an invitation to SO witha
gentleman other than her lover, except II DO
near relative. such Us her brother or On
elderly uncle. To go with any other gcntle-
man, except by permission OF her intended
husband, would be exceedingly improper.
1t is the lady's privilege to name the day
for marrige, and the lover should leave tho
arrangement exclusively to her. Hc ought
never to urge her to hasten the event con.
trary to her wishes, rs the lady may have
reasons that he cannot appreciate for moro
remote day for the nuptials than no desires.
The bridal outfit, which Is furnished by
the relatives Of the bride, usually consists Of
clothing and necessary family linen. Somo
opulent fathers will add to these house and
furniture. Jewels arc not usually comprised
in an outfit. They arc presented by the
bridegroom. Bridal presents consist Of any
useful or ornamental articles for the use Of
the bride, whether to adorn her person. for
the toilet, or for housekeeping. Sometimes
dress patterns are given, but they are not ap-
prupriatc, as the colors may not please her.
The bridegroom should wear black drcss
coat and trowsep, white vest and black
cravat. Let us entreat him not to commit
the solecism against good taste Of wearings
white cravat, which gives an incxprcssibly
silly look to the most Intellectual counte-
nance in this world.
The bride may have one or half dozen
brides maids at her choice. No particular
number being 6xed, II is often determinedby
the number Of sisters or Of intimate friends
she may have. The bridesmaids should bs
dressed in white, oil alike, and wear orange
flower bouquets.
If there Is q bridal breakfast, or collation.,
the bride should retain her bridal dress until
that Is over. She can then put on her travel.
ling dress.
After the departure Of the newly.married
couple, cards arc used, and wedding cake
forwarded to their numerous friends. The
cards usually contain an appointment Of .
certain day (or two or three days Unnecessary
when they will bc Eat home" 70 receive VS.
It's Of congratulations. Cards and cake arc
also sent to distant frienis--thoe residing
even hundreds Of miles away. The cake y
often omitted and the cards sent by mail. .
When bride attends the FIRST party aftsr
marriage, she usually trims her hair With.
orange flowers.
A newly married couple Is not expected 70
give parties at their house for the fnt ycari
hut after that time they must no iongeS
play the part of exceptional beings, but
blend with the herd, and take rs Others DO.