Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1861-05-04

lhe WOMAN VINO loves them i'm fenr and RI
stralnt through their whole life. I kno,
wives VINO move about their houses with
trembling regard to the moods and notion
ol thelr husbands wives who have no NOR
hoerty than slaves, who never rive an OF
derabout the house without the sam
aouot OF their authority that they woul,
have II they were only housekeepers, EN-
PIoyeu AT very economical salary. car
thlhE oil no proper punishment for such hus
oahaS except daily ducking in horse pond
nntIl reformation. Yet these asses are Sc
unconscious of their detestible habits O
feeling and life, that, probably. not one o
them VINO reads this will think that I mear
him, but will wonder where / have ly
cd to tall in with such outlandish peo
pie,
The most precious possession that eyer
comes TO q man in this world is a woman.
heart. why some graceful and most amia
Die women whom know will persist in Low
ing some men whom | also know. is more
than know. / will not call their love nm
exhlollion OF perverseness, though it looks
like it but that these men, with these rich,
sweet hearts in their hands, grow sour and
snappish, and surley and tyrancal and ex-
acting, is the most unaccouutable thing in
the world. II a pig will not allow himself
to be driven, he will follow a man who of.
fers him corn, and will eat the corn. even
though he puts his feet in the trough but
there are men-Some of them of Christian
professionalism take every tenderness their
wives bring them, and every expression of
affection, and every service, and every yearn-
ing sympathy, and trample them under feet
without tasting them, and without a look
of gratitude in their eyes. Hard, cold,
thin. blooded, white liYered, curmudgeons-
they think their wives weak and foolish.
and themselves wise and dignifedl Ibeg
my readers to assist me in despising them
| do not feel adequate to the task of doing
them justice
There is another exhibition Of perverse
ness which we sometimes see in families
There will be, perhaps, from two to half
dozen sisters in family, amiable all of
them. Now, think of the reasons which
should bind them together in the tcndcrcst
sympathy. They were born of the same
mother, they were nurscd at the same heart,
they were Graded under the same roof by
the same hand, they have knelt ut the side
of the same father, their interests, trials,
associates, standing-everyt thing concerning
their family and social llfe--are the same.
The honor of one intimately concerns the
honor of the other, yet have known such
families of sisters fly apart the moment
they became in any way independent of
each other, as if they were natural enemieS.
have seen them take the part Of friend
against any member of the family band,
and become dsgusted with one another's
society. Where matters have not gone to
this length l have seen sisters who would
never careSs each other, or by any but the
most formal and dignfed methods, express
their affection for each other. have seen
them I've together for months and years as
inexpensive of affection for each other as
cattle in a stall, more so ; for have seen
a COW affcctionatey lick her neghbor's ear
by the halfhour, while among these girls l
have failed to see kiss, CT hear tender
word, or witness any exhibition OF SiSterly
affection whatever.
One of the most common forms of per-
verseness, though one of the most subtle
and least known is that shown by people
who study to shut everybody out from
knowledge of their nature and their lite.
They make it their. grand end and aim to
appear to believe exactly what they are not,
to appear to believe exactly what they do
no believe, aud to appear to feel what they
do not feel at ALL This is not because they
are ashamed of themselves, or because they
really have anything to conceal. They
have simply taken on this form of perverse
ness. They will not, if they can help it,
allow any man to get inside OF their natures
and characters. If they write you letter,
they will mislead you. They will say to
you irreverent and shocking things, to
prove to you that they are bold and unfccl-
ing aud unthonghtful, when they trembIe
at what they have written, and rea ly show
hy ther language that they are afraid, aud
full OF feeling, and very thoughtful, If they
have q sentiment of love for anybody, they
take it as dog would bone, and go 4 dig
a hole in the ground and bury it, and only
resorting to it in the dark for private
craunching Very likely they will try to
make you believe that they live a most
dainty and delicate life--that the animals
of the field and the fowls of the air love
them, and come at their call--that clouds
arrange themselves in heaven for their bene-
fit, and are sufficiently paid for the effort
by their miration-that flowers excite
them to frenzy-a very fiHe frenzy, Indeed
and that all sounds shape themselves to
music in their souls They would have you
think that they live kind of charmed life
that the sun woos them aud the moon
pines for them, and the sea sobs because
they will not come, and the daisies wait
lovingly for their feet yet, if yon knew the
truth, you would see they sit discontented-
Iy among the homeieSt surroundings of do
nestle lie, with their sleeves rolled up
confound them .......
This variety of pervcrSeness seems very
| have seen much of it, but
do not know what to make Of it, There
is doubtless something morbid in it. 1t is
often carried to such extremes, and manag,
ed so artfully, that multitudes are deceived
by it. know of some very beautiful ma
lures that pass in the world for very rough
aud coarse / know men who have the
reputation of being hard aud harsh, yet
who are, inside, and in their own conscious
ness, as gentle and sensitive as women-
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