Anti-slavery bugle. [volume] (New-Lisbon, Ohio) 1845-1861, 1861-04-20
woMAN's TRIALS.

CLICK OIL n shoemaker's hammer. FROM mothlhgl
till night, 1t seems never ct rect. The shoemaker
leads a laborious life, but how sleadfast and calm
lie drives the peg, and be knows it will go in. He
made so many shoes yesterday, he will make so
many to-day. At just such a time he gill 80 home
to dinner with just such on amount Of work ae-
eomplished. But bis wife, busy in her kitchen,
has a baby who is governed BY no laws, and uP-I
sets all her calculations. II he sleeps through
the morning, she will spring through her
washing, and ironing, and boiling, and baking;
but il he awakes, as he probably will, at the most
critical moment, everything has to give way. 10
is Of no use to plan, for q chubby FIST knocks
down all her arrangements. Her baby is the most
despo.ie of all tyranis; he has not the slightest re-
gard for public opinion. Il is Of no manner Of
Importance to him, whether tho fire goes out, and
the room gets swept or not. If he wishes to be
rocked, be must be, regardless of consequences
Then very likely there are three or four more little
ones who must be washed and dressed, and fed,
besides having dress and food prepared for them
If they are all in the soundest health, they need
lconstant watcbfulness; for children are unlike
pegs. They WON'T 20 where they belong. They
are constantly making little dives right and left,
and getting ioto mischief. Pick them out Of the
sugar-6rkin, and they tumble straightway into the
molasses jug. If there is a cistern on the 2reni-
SEES, they will be sure TO pitch in, head first, sooner
or later; and If there is DO %cistern, it shall go hard
but they will find a tub Of water somewhere, big
enough to sit down in. Scissors and knives
Everything that has an edge to it, draws them as
If they were made Of steel. A porverse prompt
ing moves them to pound every thing that can be
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according to the respective sensibilities of the OBJ
ject. So it goes, even when they are we'll; but
when, besides this, we think Of the great army Of
measles, and scarlet fever, and chicken pox, and
mumpe, and choiic. and cholera infsntum, and in
incubation, and teething that lie in wait for Ihe
young immortal and his mother, the prospect is
appalling; for the brunt Of it all comes on the
mother. What is true of the shoemaker and his
wife is true of the blacksmith and his wife, and
the tailor and his wife. | know that there are
occupations that are more complex, and demand
the exercise Of all the powers. But the merchant
and the lawyer, however absorbing and ~perplex-
ing may be their avocation, have to do With grown
up people. The merchants clerks are often quite
as gentlemanly and well educated as himself. His
brother merchants are acute and solf-involyed, but
reasonable. The lawyers client may be ignorant
and stubborn, but be is an accountable being, and
swayed by a homely but powerful logic; but the
wife is the mistress Of servants incredibly ''rag'
and inexperienced, even when well disposed, and
and the mother of terrible infants. Let a man try
to work with such tools and such incumbrances,
and soc how he succeeds. Asa sa
1t is true that a mans responsibilities are in
one sense greater. If he makes Q misstep, he
Brings down with him partner, clerks, wife, ane
lchildron, sometimes shaking even Church ard SO
cietyj while the woman may let this, that end tn
lother duty slip, without the sky's falling. But o
the other hand, it is the greatness of the matter c
stake which supports the man, and the littlenee
that dishearteus the woman. She has the sam
round, perpetually changing, yet perpetually til
lsams-of little cares and dutios, which cannot
dispensed with, ye. which never seem to amour
to anything. L, is all very well to caiOle her wit
''fashiOning the young mind" and training Il
hand that is to guide the world" and "modelir
the greatness of the next age" and all that sort
thing, but it is o long way to the next age, al
when the future statesman comes crying to h
mother with Spalding's Prepared Glue stuck q
over his face and hair and clean apron, and b
fingers bleeding from the cuts Of the broken BIZ
tile, it is difficult to perceive.
the spirit
Which shall rule mems minds, and make the
bow,
As to one God-throred amid his peers"
Now if capital punishment is ever justifaLlo,
is when a man comes home from his Office, or she
or field, to his nervous, hurried. anxious, care-wo
wife, and harshly or coldly asks why dinner is
ready, or what in the world she let's those chlldr
make such a noise for. I see q great deal Of {
vice given to women about meeting their husban
with a emile; but what manner of value ha,
smile on the lips, if there be not a smile at
heart; and what manner of man is be who wal
his wife to crush back all her tears into her o.
bosom, and put on a mask for himH Is maria
Z to be a keeping up Of appearances? Can love
retained only by a masquerade? Is o hus5a
something that must be ~daintily fed, and gingeI
managed-from whom the thorns must be hidd,
and for whom the roses must blow, and if til
won't blow, wax flowers must be manufacture
Nonsense! At the basis Of true marriage,
truth. 1t is life, and not dilettanteism that Clio
on the household hearth. If man has manic,
be wants his wife just as she is. Her whims, $
rows, v~exations and all. He does not want to
wheedled by a papier macho image, gotten up
the ~occasiOn. If things have gone smoothly, a
Z che meets him with q smile, he strikes an att;tul
and is as the English say, Jolly" But if John
is croupy, and the baby is cross. and Bridget |
given notice of leaving next day, he is not Z
enough to expect her to forget all this, or ras
enough to wish her to gloss ii over and decoi
him, by pretending to be happy when she is n
ne, There are many times when it will be better
m him and better for her, that be should open
D. arms and lie. her have "a good cry. there, a
At even If be is a little and babyish,
won't hurt any thing permanently, This "
.es soOthe and calm her i~rritated nerves, and they "
nd talk il over, and SO love will bridge the cbas
ed and tunnel the mountain, and chain the lions,
for the heart that loveth is not only willing b
10 able. And the wifely tenderness will be made
en- strong and grateful, that when the husband com
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