The eastern clarion. [volume] (Paulding, Miss.) 1837-1863, 1861-04-19

BEAurY AND MANNERS As ELEMENTS OF
SuocEss.-We make the following ex-
tracts from an article on Success" in the
Cornhill Magazine:
Il has been said that ''any man may
have any woman" The meaning of
which hold to be, that the persevering
pursuit of any object must eventually be
crowned with success. Labor omaia viHeit.
as the eopy-book text has it, as the pro-
verbs OF well nigh every country have it
in other words. To set your minds res
olutely upon the accomplishment of any
purpose, is to 20 half way TO its attain
ment. Now, ii commonly happens, to
pursue the illustration wherewith cem-
menced this passage, that they who are
most successful with women are not the
handsomest men. And the reason of
this is obvious. Handsome men rely over
much on their handsoments. To use a
metaphor, rather expressive than ell
oauent, they expect that all the pretty
women will Jump down their throats."
But pretty women will not jump down
| their throats. This process of deglutition
= 81 Affected by them. They have no
! fiAl.Ila 81 NsiaR quietly absorbed. They
must hE MOu-A- AahOIloueiN anu
with a becoming sense Of what Is due TO
them. Are we to think that we have
l only to sit quietly in our easy chairs, to
twih our moustaches Beauty is q d.
vine Gift let whatsoever Possesses il be
thanixfuf.- But siadNue de Stael was 4
woman, and | am now writing about men.
/ Every body knows that men eaze more
about personal beauty in the other s~4
than women do, and for this reason-thal
| pleasant sights and sweet sounds, anC
/ everything soft and gentle, is delight
and a rsfrrshment to them.
But the ordinary environments Of wo
men are soft and gentle. They lead com
paratively passive lives, and that which
most fascinaies them in the other sex, i
a sense Of active powers. What is soft
! ness and smOothness to them? Bles
them, they like the grit. Even the hare
| lines on a mans face-tbe pallor, nay, tn
lees interesting sallowhess Of his cheek
are interesting TO them IL they denote
power. repeat that personal beau
81 is q great gift, even to man. But
is only as an accompaniment to othe
gifts that il contributes TO success
Everybody knows what Wilkes, the ug
hest man in England, said to Townsend
the handsomest. And II was not mere
idle boat.
Whether you govern best by preserved
dignifivd demeanor, or BY an open, cherr.
manner may be a question. Each ha
It's advantage, and each is very effectiv
in its occasional deyiations into the sys
TEN Of the other. The genialities Q
stern men. and the asperities of genia
ones are each very impressive in thef
way. Indeed, the question Of manne
in connection with my present topic Q
discourse, Is one Of such high importance
that cannot summarily dismiss it. d
not say that il Is "a thing 10 be studied
To lay down any rules on the subject
vain thing. People who shape thei
outward behavior with elaborate design
generally overreach themselves. Moth
ing but really Natural manner Is ger
orally successful in the long run. Nov
the natural manner Of some people
good-of others, hopelessly bad, thong
there may be little difference in the goo
beneath. Il Is hard that we should
preiudiced by what is merely superici'
but we are have it said that this
not prejudice, for the manner il the on
ward aud visible sign OF the man. b.
there are very excellent people in III
world with manners the reverse Of plea
ant-people shy and reserved, or bru~qu
tnd boorish, with whom personal II
tercourse is by no means a delight.
Others. again, there are, with whol
half an hours talk is like an invigo
ating bath Of sunshine. In this la
there Is an element Of success. There
another successful manner too-or
which impresses every one with q sem
Of your power. II you have both ma
ner at once gracious and powerful, yC
have everything that you can wish as q
outward aid to success. A thorough
good manner will often do much to ne
tralize the i'll effects Of an unpreposses
ing appearance. But an ill-favored cou
tenance may be q stumbling blsck at u
outset that Is never surTnounted. 1t 7
pels at the first start. There are Peep
described as ''unpresentsble," who ha'
giants to contend against at their fir
start in lie. When they have on
made their way in the world, the insi
: nifcance or groiesqueness Of their I
pearance is a matter Of no moment. Ma
! indeed, we may not unfairly assign son
additional credit to the man who b
forced his way to the front, in spite
, an physical defects and personal dra
backs. But il is an awful thing for
Young beginner to have TO confer
against the impediments Of q bad faC
. an insierifcat or ar ungainly figure, al
a bad manner in the presence Of othe