Litchfield enquirer., 1861-11-28
"I did," she answered coolly. :" He's not a dandy l suppose.'

"Yes, admit it bu: wasn't Lima Fortso1 the belle of the evening, determined to attrac him? Hadn't he just returned from Paris, ant all were expectation as to whom he would pay most attention? Don't interrupt me, for wan the ring
 Reconcile your statements first.'
 "Well, incorrigible man, suppose say that being fond of variety, I found in him phase o existence that never had examned-dissected him as curiosity.
 "Proceed"
 "Well as I said, gentlemen tire of beauty af ter tbe first few sentences. Seeing some plain yet agreeable and animated girl, they are intro duced. They think that she has no designs on them-that, thank Heaven, here is one that will not expect you to be always dosing her with tlattery, or making love to her. q believe they think none but beauties have any right to be either vain or silly, but that is mistake in our favor.) By becoming indifference, with gen. t'e courtsey of manner, you can commence con. vcrsation on commonplace topics. Some re- marks, not too deep, or peculiar; some opening on subject that with quick tact, you will find agreeable to them begins the impression. They are insensibly interested, and sorry when some one relieves them. You meet again; frank cordality without any exhibition of preference "a dignifcd gayety of manner, quiet enjoy ShC oi tilCH COi' Ci SOUii cSCdUllSueo easy friendship between you. He never thinks of love, not he. Yet he notes your many vir- tues your amiability your usefulness ill the home circle, and begins to think that ugly girls makes the best wives after all. You know the lines, uncle,
 "Good .ture will the conquest gain,
 Though wit and beauty sigh in vain."
 How interesting matters now become? Men have an ideal notion of falling in love, by which some captivating woman. graced with every men tai and personal charm. takes their hearts by storm, and they surrender without hesitatton.-- Being as they think fully steeled by this truly ideal notion, they imprudently venture near the attractions of their ordinary acqaintances with out fear No danger of their falling in love with any one whom they know. o no :! a Irritation is well enough, but when they wish wife they wish such and such qualifications. It really makes me laugh at their expectations when think of what they have to offer in exchange.
 But to the point-for we have been going from it half the time. A man must not be start led into love 7; they must unconsciously persue the easy way of linking, until they are too far going into loving to retreat. An unconscious artessness, the slightest imaginable preference (acted, not exprcssed) joined with the necessity your society has become; and if you could not give small flavor of jealousy, why he wakes up to the fact that his time has come,' and pro- poses
 Altogether, it is a delicate affair to manage It takes great tact to do, and yet not overdo the matter-to show just sufficient indifference, with occasionally shade of preference as it is re- qujrc'l-the point i',.ipg to commit him and not yonr eff. 50 that you can be totally unprepared fo" anything of the kind and get cleverly out o: it on the plea of high nst,ecm etc, and you excite no suspicion of being anything but a sin core, whole soHlrd wolna and one whom he will always feel an attachment for, though he re- grets, etc. A-,
 fou title wre;ch!"
 "No such thing. am fond of society. deter i'incI to enjoy myself, and like to have gentle men friends"
 lou make them such by an odd process"
 1t don't hurt them they are either accus- toned or indifferent to it. Besides, tell the truth when l say have never loved any of them 
 Except whom? Bless me, what is all this conclusion and hesitation about? whisper it Tn my ear l; but whom?
 Except Harry, and I promised last night to marry him. m."-Lddy's Book.