Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1861-04-16
Beauty and Manners as Elements of
Success.


We make the following extracts from an srti-
Gle on "Succees," in the December number o,
the OornhiIl Magazine
1t has been said that ''any man NAV have any
woman" The meaning of which I hold to be. that
the persevering pursuit of any object must event
ually be crowned with success Labor. omaha
oiaacst, as the copy-book text has it. as the pro.
verbs Of well-nigh every country have it in other
words. To set your minds resOlutely upon the
accomplishment OF any purpose, is to 90 hall
way to Its attainment. Now, it commonly han.
pens, to pursue the illustration wberewith ]
commenced this passage, that they who are most
successful with women are not the handsomest
men. And the reason of this is obvious. Hand
some men rely over much on their handsoments.
To use metaphor, rather expressive than elo-
quent, they expect that all the pretty women
will Jump down their throats." Bat pretty
women will not jump dow their throats This
process of deglutition is not affected by them-
They have no notion of being quietly absorbed.
They must be won-bravely, laboriously and
with becoming sense of what is due to them.
Are we to think that we have only to sit quietly
IN our easy chairs, to twirl our moustaches p
Beauty is divine gift; let whosoever possesses
it be thankful. Madame de Stael, one of the
most gifted of mortals, said that she would sur
render all that she possessed in exchange for it.
But Madame de Stael was a woman, and / am
now writing about men. Every body knows
that men care more about personal beauty in the
other sex than women do, and for this reason,
that pleasant sights and sweet sounds, and
everything soft and gentle, is delight and q re-
freshnent to them. But the ordinary environ
ments OF women are soft and gentle They lead
comparatively passive lives, and that which
most fascinates them in the other sex is sense
of active power. What is softness and snoth-
ness to thema Bless them, they like the grit
Even the hard lines on mans face-the pallor
nay, the less interesting sallowness of his cheek
ARE interesting to them if they denote power
| repeat that personal beauty is a great gift
even to man. But it is only as an accompia-
ment to other gifts that it contributes to success
Everybody knows what Wilkes, the ugliest man
in England, said to Townsend, the handsomest
Aud it was not a mere idle boast.
Whether you govern best by reserved, dig
niied demean0r, or by an open, CHEEKY manner,
may be q question. Each has its advantage,
and each is very effective in its occasional devi-
ations in the system OF the other. The geniali-
ties OF stern men, and the asperities of genial
ones are each very impressive in their way
Indeed, the question of manner in connection
with my present topic of DISCOURSE is one of such
high Importance, that cannot summarily dis
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studied. To lay down any rules on the subject
is a vain thing. People who shape their out
ward behavior with elaborate design generally
overreach themselves. Nothing but really
natural manner is genuinely successful in the
long run. Now, the natural manner of some
people is good-of others hopelessly bad, though
there may belittle difference in the good beneath.
1t is hard that we should be prejudiced by what
is merely superfcial-but we are. have heard
it said that this is not prejudics-for the man
ner is the outward and visible sign of the man.
But there are very excellent people in the world
with manners the reverse of pleassnt--people
shy and reserved, or brusque and boorisb, with
| whom personal intercourse is by no means de-
| light
| Others, again, there are, with whom half an
hours talk is like an invigorating bath of sum
shine. In this last there is an element of sue
cess. There is another successful manner, too
one which impresses every one with a sense
| of your power. If you have both manner at
once gracious and powerful, you haye every
thing that you can wish as an outward aid to
| success. A thoroughly good manner will often
do much to neutralize the i'll effects of an un-
prepossessing appearance. But an i'll favored
countenance may be a stumbling block at the
outset that is never surmounted. 1t repels
at the. first start. There are people describ.
| ou Us uuproS0utaDl6, VINO nave giants 10 con-
tend against at their first start in life. Wher
they have once made their way in the world
the insignifcance or grotesqueness of their ap
pearance is matter of no moment. Nay, in.
deed, we may not unfairly assign some addi-
tiOnal credit to the man who has forced his way
to the front, in spite of all physical defects and
personal drawbacks. But it is an awful thine
for young beginner to have to contend agaiDs
the impediments of bad face, an insignificant
or an nDgainly figure, and bad manner in the
presence of others.
STATISTICS OF MORMON POPULATION The
Valley Tan copies the following statistics of Nor.
mon population The population of Mormon:
in the United States and British dominions ir
1856 was not less than $4,000, Of which $4,000
were residents in Utah, 5000 in New York
State, 1000 in California, 5000 in Nova Scotis
and in the Canadas and 5000 in South Ameri
ca. In Europe there were $4,000, of which 3D.
600 were in Great Britain and Ireland, 5000 in
Scandinavia, 2,0GO in Germany, Switzerland and
France, and the rest of Europe 1000; in Aus
tralia and Polynesia 2, 400; in Africa 100; and
on travel 300. To these, If we add the differ
ent branches, including SareDgities, Rigdonites
and Whitcites, the whole sect was not less thar
10000. In 1857 there appears to have been 8
decrease in the population of Utah, the number
being only 81, ,622, of which 1000 were children
about IL 900 women, and II 900 men capable o
bearing arms. There are 2,368 men with eight
or more wives; of these, 13 have more than
nine wivae 720 mon with wivoo 100 u,tl