Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1861-04-01
GETT1NG mARR1EDBAR1Y.

Its Advantages and Disadvantages.
It's Comparative Effects on the Nan
ana the WOmnn--n0rricd Life Gem
eE"Ay Consluercd.
From a communication in the Cincinnati CONNER.
Cial.l
Eli H---.s= Ezsz'EEs "a TugIrrVr.. suruP 1tr
your issue of the 22drinst., advising Young
people to "get married" The tone of the
article was good. though about the pro-
prety OF an curly marriage there is an
honest difference of opinion. 1t seems to
be best for mau-thcreby he learns encou-
Omy, trugality and stability. Mauy are
thus saved who would otherwise drift out
like worthless weeds on the wild sea of
dissipation. Home and wife and children
are objects to develop the best part of
mans nature, they center his affections,
they stimulate his ambition, and thus pro-
mote his success in the world.
The cares of domestic life often bear so
heavily upon woman, that she gains far
less by marriage. 1t is true she has that
absorbing sense of unalloyed happiness
that belongs only TO the union OF two
youRq hearts, y of which the article speaks,
but aside from her atfectionaI being, the
other parts of her nature are frequently
left to dwarf and dwiudle. | think am
warranted in saying that the mental re-
sources OF ~ large proportion o: our Ame-
rictn women never increase after marriage,
while cases in which they diminish are
very numerous.
1t often happens that when couple are
married, the school education of the wo-
man is quite as good as that of the man,
her talents equal, to say the least her fam
lily hetter, and her position in society SUI
perior. But the change in her life and
occupation is so complete that she soon
loses much OF the knowledge she has
acquired. She would gladly retain it, but
it passes from her like retrcating tide
tits crowded out by new cares and duties,
and thoughts on new subjects \ few
years only pass away, before moods aud
lenses, levers and laws, solids and fluids,
flights of rhetoric, chips OF logic. and stray
equations dance through her brain in con-
fusiOns, forming, with every attempt to
bring them into order, nothing but gro
tesque, kaleidoscope figures
Not so with the man. He has occasion
toruse the knowledge he has gained, or
furthermore hecontinues, in some manner,
the pursuit of science. Ills education was
but just begun, perhaps, at the time they
were married. He goes on exercising and
improving his pOwer5, increasing in knowl-
edge and. strength and ability-twentv
years of welded life have not rolled over
their heads before there is frightful dis
parity between him and his companfon.-
Then, prObaby, he will begin to talknbout
II want OF c0RytRi0iiy, and all thut-he has
wife who cannot appreciate Kim, and he
may come to the sage conclusion that il is
very dangerous for man of great cupaci-
ties to marry ut all.
All this time the wife has been engaged
in cooking dinners, aud nursing children,
and ministering to the physical necessities
of her family, (they have been too poor to
have help and when Sue has time to think.
which seldom happens, the uuwelcome
conviction forces itself upon her, that their
hOmeis no home for her husband-ir is
only place where he eats and sleeps, and
gets his linen 5wnshed and meudel. But
she could not help it. lie has been free
she has been sttsfe@s stafSasdf SSaasfeff5 f5F f66 and
now the public delight. in his ample pro-
portions, while it looks with contempt
upon the gnunt and sbriveled being at his
side.
Now would say to the young women, if
this is to be your experience, if, in the lam
gunge of Sidney Smith, your swift van
ishing womanhood is to wrinkle itself up
into despised old age" for heavens sake
do not marry young!
But how is the result of domestic cares
to be avoided? responds the inquirer
These duties, and the-maternal, also must
be performed by women. Certainly. We
cherish them qV an essential part of life's
labor; and ask no exemption from their
responsibilities But it does not follow
therefore, that man hns right toIconvert
an intellectual and gifted being, or any
other, into mere satellite of the dinner