Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1861-11-16

There is much more misery L
thrown into the cup of life by do-
megtic uukindness than we might
at first suppose. In thinking of
the evils endured by society from
the male-violent passions of indl-
viduals, we are apt to enumerate I
only tho more dreadful instances
of crime but what are the lew
murders which unhappily pollute
the soil Of this Christian land
what we ask, is the suffering they
occasion--what theif demoralizlng
tendency, when compared with
the daily illusions OF Nl-humor
which sadden, may We not tear,
many thousand homes? We be-
lieve that an incalculably greater
number arc hurried to the grave
by habitual unkindness than by
sudden violence; the slow poison
of churlishness and neglect IS, OF
all paisonsi the most destructive.
III this is true, we want new de-
finition for the most fragrant of
all crimes; a definition which shall
leave out the element of time, and
call those actions the same, E.
quahy censured by the righteous
government of Heaven, which pro-
ceed from the same motives, and
lead to the same result, whether
they be done in a moment, or
spread out through a series OF
year. Habitual unkindness Is de-
smorahzing, as well as cruel
Whenever it fails to break the
heart, it hardens it. TO take a
familiar illustration a wife who
is never addressed by her hush
and in tones of kindness, must
cease. to love him, if she wishes to
be happy. 1t is her only altern-
ative. hanks to the nobility of
our nature, she does not always
take it. No for years she battles
withcruclty, and still presses with
affection. the hand which smItcs
her; but IL is fearlully at her
own expense Such endurance
preys upon her health, and has
tens her exit to the asylum of the
grave. If this is to be avoided,
she must learn to forget what wo-
man should never be tempted to
forget-the vows, the self renun
ciating devotedness of imPassion-
ed youth /; she must learn to op-
pose Indifference to neglect, and
irepel him with heart as cold as
his own. But what a tragedy lies
involved in career like this =
We gaze on something lnhnitely
more horrible than murder; we
see our nature abandoned to the
mercy of malignant passions, and
the sacred susceptibllties, which
were intended to fertilize with the
,watess of charity the pathway ol
life, sending forth streams of bit
tcrest gall. A catalogue of sucf
cases, faithfully compiled, woulC
eclipse in turpitude and horror
all the calenders of crime tina
have ever sickened the attention
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The obligations of gentlenesi
and kindnesss are as extensive al
the claims to manliness; thes,
three qualities must 60 together
There are some classes, however
in which such obligations are o
special force. Perhaps precepI
here will be presented most ap-
propriately under the guise of an
example. We have now before
our minds eye couple whose
marriage tie was, a few mouths
since, severed by death. The hus-
band was a t ong, hale, robu.
sort of man, who probably nevel
knew days illness in the course
of his life, and whose sympathy
on the behalf of weakness or suff'
ering in others, it was exceedingly
difficult to evoke; while his p ut
ner was the very reverse, by con
stltution weak and ailing, but with,
al a woman Of whom any man
might and ought to have beer
proud. Her elegant form, heI
fair, transparent skin, the classica
contour of her refined and expres
sive face, might have led Cano
via to have selected her as a mod
el Of feminine beauty. But, alas
she was weak she could not wor
like other women, her husban
could not boast among his shoI
mates how much she contribute
to the maintenance Of the famil,
and how largely she could affoI
20 dispense with the fruit of hi
labors. Indeed, with noble II