Abbeville press. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1860-1869, 1861-03-15

PoLITENEss AND GOOD BRxgprHe.

P0LITENEss AND GOOD BREEDING.
Good-bFeeding, Or true politene.e, is th
art of showing men, by external signs, th
internal regard we have for them. It arise
from good sense, improved by good com
paoy. Good breeding is never to be learn
ed, though it may be improved, by th,
study Of books; and therefore they VIII,
attempt it, appear stiff and pendsntic.-
The really we'll bred, as they become SO b,
use and observation, are not liable to affec
ton. You see good-breeding in all the,
do' without seeing the art of it. Like 9th
er habits, it is acquired by practice,
An engaging manner and genteel ad-
dress may be out of our power, although
tits misfortune that it should be so. Blu,
it is in the power of every body to be kind
condescendiug and affable. 1t is in the
power of every person who has anything
to cay to a fellow being, to say it with
kind feelings, and with sincere desire to
please; and this, whenever it is done, will
atone for much awkwardness in the man
uer OF expression. Forced complaisauce is
foppery; and affected easiness is ridicu.
lous.
Good breeding is, and ought to be, an
amicable and persuasive thing; it beauti.
fes the actions and even the looks of men.
But the grimace Of good breeding is not
less odious.
In short, good-breediDg is forgetting of
ourselves so far as 10 seek what may be
agreeable to others, but in so artlsss and
delicate manner as will scarcely allow
them to pereeipe that we arc so employed :;
and tie regarding of ourselves, not as the
centre of motion on which everything else
is to revolve, but as only one of the vheels
or parts, in vast machine, embracing 9TH
er wheels and parts of equal, and perhaps
more than equal importance. It is hence
utterly opposed to selisbnesa, vanity or
pride. Nor is it proportioued to the sup
posed riches and rank of him whose favor
and patronage you would gladly cultivate {;
but extends to all. 1t knows how to con-
tradict with respect; and 10 please, without
adulstion.
The following are few plain directions
Tor attaining the character of well-bred
man.
!. Never weary your company by talk
ng too long, or too frequently.
2. Always look people 10 the face vbsp
'ou address them, and generally wheR they
ire speaking to you,
8. Attend to a person who is ADDRESSING
7ou. Inattention marks trifiue mind.
Ind is most objectionable piece of rude
less. I. is even an afront: for It is the
anne thing Rs saying that his remarks are
lot worth your attention,
4. Do not interrupt the person who is
'peakiug by saying yes, no or hem, at every
it is the most useless thing that
IAN be: An occasional assent, either BY
Vord or action, may be we'll enough; but
ven a nod OF assent Is sometimes repeated
Ill it becomes dhgustiDg.
s. Remmeber that every person in com.
ANY likes to be the hero Of that company,
Never. therefore, engross the whole conver-
alton to yourself
9. Learn to cit or stand still, while an.
ther is speaking to you. You,will not Of
ourse be 90 rude as to dig in the. earth
nth your feet or take your penknife from
'our pocket and pair your nails but
here are great many other little move
nents which are scarcely less clownish.
Z. Never anticipate for ANOTHER, or Aelp
am out, as it is called. Ibis is quite rude
flair, and should ever be avoided. Let
lin conclude bis story for himself. It is
ims enough for you to make corrections
y additions aftsrwstd, If you deem bis ac=
cunt dessctiver. It is also 6 piece Of i'm
'o'iteness to interrupt another in his re-
parks.
o. Day as ttlie OF N9aSscT and N0uf
Tiends % possible.
8. Make 1t . ruls never TO accuse, with
mt due consideration, any body or sssocia.
ion Of meR. 'z' =
10. Never s.y to sppear more viss o.
famed than the rest Of ths Gompany.-.l
lot thst you should eSsct ignorsnoe; bail
udsavor to rsmsin within your ownpropsr
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