St. Mary's beacon., 1861-04-18

e falling ~ love a reality? II Il be.
We ought to be able to say what kind of
reality. Of course, everybody knows
that people do fall in love. or say. or
think. they do. Therefore. it might be
said. the thing is 80 far real. But that
answer is unsatisfactory. Not TO treat
the matter ethically or metaphysically. in
a strict or technical sense. let US examine
what We really mean when we speak Of it,
and bow far it is true. or ev:n possible.
There is no question az to love itself being
al affection of the mind and An instinct
Of man. The question rather il. 10 it a
mere instinct aud more or less involunta-
ry? Can wc--mu.t We fall in love? Or
is love under our control? Can VIC love,
or refrain from love at our will! More
young ladies' and not few weak young
gentlemen, and some old fools, have made
fatal mistakes in life, from a supcrstitious
belief in love at first sight, and from sup
posing that falling in love had controlled
them like fate We arc really most
anxious to add ts the happy poetry of
your life We wish that you may love
onee. love ever" Therefore We say
don't fall in love. Be very cautious, and
keep your heart. till very worthy fell
low---we don, say necessarily handsome
ffor handsome women especially know
what is the real vaue of beauty but a
,nau. noble f.llew. gentleman. 4
Christian, offers To you his heart, his hand,
his home; and then set your heart upon
him. aud love him with all your soul
You don: object to that arrangement. We
know Well, then, it is not likely to be
carried out or ever to succeed in your
case. if you are only eager to watch some
ons--if you are rsady to fiirt With every
coxenmb. You must really, aud stead
fsstly. be very passive. and keep your hear,
all di.engaged for .hs, sxeet ex l~cted whis-
per and embarrassed declaration of love.
A "masron" might have given o'h"r
sdvice, or givcn it in another way; and
we are going TO ,eil Yea what shc preps
bly, do1s not know Strange as it HAY
appear to you. We assure you that, even
in this case, you will truly b.. the tirst
tn iov":: Were the secret Of mans heart
known. it would be found that he really
csnno, love. in the full sense of that sacred
word. till he is lived. Womaa nsvs
ought to love till she at least thinks she is
loved. Man loves in order to b. loved;
woman. to bestow her love. When man
admirrs the beauty and grace of woman
I've speak not Of the mere sensualist). his
desire 10 not 50 much to indulge HE love-
Of these as that he may be- loved by the
possessar True woman chiefly feels
longing to best"w her heart and lavish all
her sweet. attractive grace upan the mar,
who sdores or worships her. II is this
distinction in the character Of the passion
Of love in man and woman that renders
reciprocal affection, and those mutual at
fractions Of which We have been speak
ing. so complete. and perfect. aud con
gruous II is this difference between msn
aud woman that naturally assigns to each
their proper part in the everlasting bond
they contract. '.lIer desire shall be to
her husband" rather than his to her,
and he sAall rule over her-s loving rule,
however, while both are true to their OBJ
legations of love. lit is not god for
man to be alope;" he requires the solace
abe gives as Ibis heipmase;" while she
has her joy in thus watching :al hel. ing
and being devoted to .'Ler lord"