The Hillsborough recorder. [volume] (Hillsborough, N.C.) 1820-1879, 1861-05-01
UsAGEs IN FASHIONABLE SOCIETY.
LErTERs ON INrRopucrIoN.

these are OF two kinds. First, as 10 Ouss
ness. Second, those d friendship. For ex |
ample : II you have a friend going 10 dis.
tant place to transact certain business, il
may be necessary for him TO form some &C
luaintances there for business purposes only.
You have, perhaps, correspondent there
yet you are not sufficiently intimate to ask
him to entertain your friend; but as matter
OF common courtesy, he cannot refuse 10 ac-
cept him as business acquaintance, Tor
which purpose you write letter similar TO
the following:
NEW YoRK, goth September, 1860.
Mr.. A. ]. HooPER:
Dear Sir The bearer Of this is nv friend George
Jones who goes 10 New Orleans TO effect 4 settlement
with the assignees Of the late firm Of Corning q Co.
As he will be stranger your city, have taken the
liberty 10 introduce him 10 your notice, aud any a,ien
ton or advice You may give him will be duly apprec
GEORGE LAW.
Mr.. Jones presents his letter 10 Mr.. Hoop
er, and if the latter chooses TO consider II
strictly business letter. there is no breach
of etiquette. He can invite Mr.. Jones to his
house, or not, as he pleases.
Ordinary letters OF introduction, however,
are considered as certificates Of good social
position, and proves that the writer knows
the bearer to be a proper person to be admit.
ted into the family circle OF the person 10
whom the letter is addressed. But vet il is
not often the case that such letter will do
more than give the recipient an invitation To
dinner, unless he should prove TO be an IN.
commonly agreeable acquaintance. Letters
of Introduction are therefore sometimes ia
cetiously termed "tickets for SOUP" and
many people will not make use Of them at al.
for that reason. The following is form Of
such letter, though in special cases il NAV
be written In more urgent terms:
WasHrxsrox, Sept 10Th, 1860.
Dear Sir The bearer Of This, Mr.. Edward Everett
pn esteemed friend 81 mine. i about 70 visit Londoa
for the first time, and will consequently be stranger
in your metropolis. Any attentions which you may
extend 10 him will be gratefully appreciated BY
Your friend and humble rervaai.
JAMES BUCHANAN.
Hon. JoHS RrssEII.
1t is not customary 10 deliver friendly
letter ofintroduction personally. You should
send il 70 the person to whom il is directed,
on your arrival, accompanied BY your card
Of address. If he desires to respond 10 the
request Of your friend. he will either call on
You personally or give you written invita-
tion to visit him. A neglect to call would
be considered BY some people mark Of Ill
breeding, though il really is not, as the per-
son addressed may consult his own conyen-
fence or feelings in the matter. Nor i ~
compelled to invite you to his house unless
he IS so disposed. A simple return Of his
own card is all that is required. and then
YOU can call on him at your leisure.
A letter Of introduction should never be
sealed by the person giving it; but the re-
cipient should seal it when he sends il TO the
party 70 whom il is addressed.
In Europe il is always customary for any
one with letter Of Introduction to make the
FIRST call; but here We are more conslderate,
for We think that stranger should never be
made to feel that he j. begging for our at
tentlons-that he possesses a certain drliea-
ey that would induce him not to intrude IN
al he Is positive that his company would b.
agreeable. Hence III you desire to welcome
any one recommended to YOU By letter from
your friend, call upon him with all possible
disPitch after YOU receive his letter Of intro.
duciion.
sALuTATIoSs.
II you meet friend in the street. or in any
public place, do not call him By name loud.
~, =, All, Brown, how dive do II i
NOT even necessary 10 speak his name at al
so that strangers may hear, as modest people
do not desire 10 attract notice from any one.
Aecost yoar friend quietly, and 10 low tone
Of voice.
Should You meet lady Of your acquaint.
snee IN the street, or in q public place, IL j.
not necessary that you should speak. Or even
notice her, unless she first recognizes yog.
You should. however, give her ample opPur.
tunity 70 see that YOU are aware OF her pres.
ence. II he bows, you should take Oft your
hat. Or rather lit L from your head. a mere
touch Of the bat will not answer. There are
90 doubt many difIiJent young ladies who do
not appreciate the necessity VI making the
first demonstration when they meet their
male acqusintances; but such should remem.
Der that their se1 is always paramount. They
are 81 liberty 70 bow. or not, - they please,
while gentleman would make an almost IN.
pardonable breach 81 good manners should
he neglect 70 respond to the least possible
nod Ct q lady.
salatatiOns should yary 10 style wiih per.
sons, times, places and circumstances. YOU
will meet a friend with shake &c The hand
and an inquiry after his health. and that 81
his family, i you have oeen Introduced there,
To slight acquaintance you will respectful.
y boE without speaking. o. family recognize
him 10 any other way. Bot 10 no case
should you refuse 10 return recognition u
this KIND made by any person whatever.
Even 70 your enemy. L i in bad taste % De-.
cline recognition should he s,lBte ,ps. IN
.parssly setlIed places Il Is customary 70 "a
lais everybody you meet With bpn. and
The custom y - excellent one, a. il shows
kindly feeling and a good heart.