Abbeville press. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1860-1869, 1861-03-08
MARRIED POLITENESS

and brighten the ties Of social affection, IN
the anhjoined brief article taken from the
Ladies' Enterprise
will you 2 asked pleasant voice.
And the husband answered Yes, my
d, ar. With pleasure 1t was quietly, but
heartily said The tone, the manner, the
look. were perfectly natural and very af.
fectionate. We thought, how pleasant
tar courteous reply, how gratifying it
mus be to the wife Mary husbands OF
ten years experience are ready enough
with cnurtesies Of politeness to the young
lies of their acquaintance, while they
eak with abrn:;tness to the wife, and do
many rude little things without consider
n them worth an apology. The stran'
ger, whom they may have seen yesterday
is listened to with Difference, and although
the subject may not be of the most pleas
ant nature, with aready smile; while the
poor vile, if she relates domestic griev.
ance, is snubbed, or listened to with i'll.
concealed impationce. o. how wrong
this is-all wrong.
Does abe urge some request7 %,
don't bother me2' cries her gracious lord
aud master. Does she ask for necessary
funds for Susys shoes or Tommy's hat?
Seems to me you are always wanting
money! is the handsome retort. Is any
little extra demanded by his masculine ap.
petite, it is ordered, not requested.
Look here, want you to do 80 and
so; Just see that it's done;' and off march.
es MIR. Boor. with bow and smile of
gentlemanly polish and friendly sweetness
for evory CASUAL acquaintance he may
chance to recognise.
When we meet with such thoughtless>
ness and coarseneSs, our thoughts revert
to the kind voice and gentle manner of the
friend who said, Yes, my dear, with
pleasure Il beg your pardon comes to
his lips when by any little awkwardness
he has scance I'D her, as it would in tho
presence Of the most fashionable sticIler
for etiquette. This is because he is q
thorough gentleman, who THINKS his wife
in all things entitled to precedence. He
loves her BEST why should he hesitate to
show it; not in sickly, maudln attention,
but in preferring her pleasure, and honor>
,"g her in public as well as in private.
lie knows her worth why should he
hesitate to attest it2 And her husband,
he praiseth her, said Holy Writ; not by
tulsone adulat,on, not by pushing her
charms into nstice, but by speaking, as
opportunity occurs in manly way OF her
virtues. Though words may seem little
things, and slight attention aluost ,value>
less' yet, depend upon it, they keep tho
flame fright, especially if they are natu.
raj. The children grow up in better
moral atmosphere, and learn to respect
their parents as they see them res pectilg
each other. Many boy takes advantage
Of mother he loves, because he sees Of.
ten the rudeness of his father. Insensibly
he gathers to his bosom the same habits,
and the thonghts and feelings they engen-
der, and III is turn becomes the petty ty-
r ~. Only Ills mother, why should he
thank her? Father never does. Thpa
the hondsH beromes the seat of disorder
and uqhoppibess. Only for strangers are
kind words expressed, and hypocrites 20
out from the hparth>stone fully prepared
TO render justice, benevolence, and polite.
Eess'to any ous and every one but those
who have the justest CLAIMS Ah ! give
Us The kind glance, the happy homestead,
the smiling wife and courteous children
ot'the 'kiudifriend who o'said so pleasantly
tyss, nay dear, with pleasure .:,s
g. 1i"'afg 2, ,;75'577 TAcr. -
. Fact tonsists in so quickly adapting
ourselves to changing circumstances, that
we arB enabled to say and do the fittest
thing at the proper time, and that with
an animation and grace Of manner, GER
tain life and earnestness, which previous
knowledge and preparation could not
have given. 'slt;sesms to arise from con.
fitenre'in one's self, inducing such perfect
-eif:posssssion' that, even. accidents go EN-.
oarrassngs that. ordinary rnostalsl are. al.
lenced and pnweriess; only tend to ad.
'sance'the idssrestsrof' thethappy possessor
OF this peculiar power. ,ssss1,- ....,
OLA lad In one4of~pubiice schools, ono of
green, ,Erin'ss squick.witted ssous 4was called
npou'to speaak. ar one afithe exaninat,ans.
sToanlska shis spseshe ars ,stseativs, .he had
sommitted itstot msmory. aud with. an a,r
otagtass. iadapspdepce, he bowed to the
sndia9ce esi and iB, tones of embryo mani,
nsss,. nseeeeded NTH sh.s we'll. prepared
tasks kar. ga, time. an went well !; but
hat presently @ Lis brew grew elouded, si>
aspfss isll .pRa9 his lipsi 1or an instant he
ls.soysr 9 kacAf tthsa ttsa vanishing Z, ,t6snght,
4hsa hpal9g it iR vain, with & genuine.
as,;th n! agaks9i9g t#ipk .af tths sxs, aid
hsssa q e S5 sfs bssa snd ~ sss Rasssi fss 6sh
fssssf ssaes ri ssd sa %a sSss so 3.
{ el!siSsef asas ss His i low ox na aany boys