Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1861-10-02
HARD WORDS AND KIND WORDS.
BY 7. s ,RrUUR

wsa. Who e1aeavorti 20 uskc BIS Wsv a ths
WORLD by driving everything t-sorr k.G. MCA.
.imiG people yielisd 20 lis au.>,1tvc manner.
when IN contact, snd ByosdS hun SIS much s'
possible but every Egse vhIa b. ran against
some one not inclined 10 H. heCtore8 or crowded,
and then came trouble.
IN his familv, Jacob endeavored to Ula With
.ho strong hand. Feeling and impulse, not Tea
eon and judgment, guided his conduct here. NJ
law fl0ve held he children in obedirncc 20 his
VIII; he governed by the law Of iouce.
Men Ike Jacob Bowman. who RE always
ready 10 strike hard, cannot, usually, bear the
weight q a feather in return. He YVES particG-
l-ly sensitive touching tha department OF Others
toward himself, and quickly resented q dictate
ial wurd. This sensitivoBoss was inherited by
BIS chljren. who, in consequence, vera huri
-'m the beginning, by his harsh way Of treating
hen. and led, from natural impulse, 10 resist his
WI So, there were trouble and misrule al
home Disregard Of authority and disrespect on
ole side. snd the strong arm that sought % eu-
roce submission % The other. Alas 10 such q
contest hon is no hope, foT The power Of resist
SGce Er0ws stronger daily, and will Is strength
Crel IN Ike Uto with power. Jacobs children
Ead no love for their father, and so obedience
1eSted only n fear. snd IS fear ceased 20 hold
them IN submission, restrain; grew weak. As for
- Eita she, pOoT woman iad grown very cold
Ha@A 49, [AE&-=a- Az WIS aaNaA- O. AAaa.A4|a-
aai ysry S-ufc-n; torm Of expression, she had
hardly dared % sly tha, hsr soul was her own.
Hut, a. the time cf wbichsre write. nearly fifteen
years E0m her marriage Gav, she was begiunirg
% rascr wi-h some hunneS UpOl heT h~usban6's
Uctzto1al <avS, and 10 treat hin sikh an iadic-
s7snos particularly u1noyIng % one Of hs tenn
1-Z-cu- lie cgul1 Go- s1o7n h- into sUbmi~-
s,c1 - = cG-le- C-cs- The sharp wc0i a. harsl
counsnd FL imPoseui E0u IL Fps, E0t moving
- m
NJ Bowman wgs b~vEiUuiRE. sh0cr tbs Qelol.
70 fsi Dea.iy GscouaEc3 N nrsri 10 his CHI
dre1- Tbey did M grow mo1r odcd=u. ss wears
added strength 90 bodias 4ni mil3% rs word
vas Dot o5evei ss law. though spoken ia .lCU-
der dsIv. They I'D nos shrink non his 1=son,
nor tUsubc ~ his threat Iurr were lams-zh=.
slough be s.o-mei He rzg zu5 ,bav hed-i
Inn not He punished, aai THY wee 20. T.
stTaine6.
One day, On returning home, Mr. Bowusn
Eas met BY he wife IN de han. She vas pale.
and her eyes were il tesrs. Laying her hand
upon bis arm, she drew him into The parlor.
"Whst ais yoD ~ be sskei IN bis usual r0uEh
way, yet btraying the anxiety that came over
his mind.
Sit doEI, AID / VII el you"
Dir. Bowman sat down There was g pecu-
harity IN hs vifs's voice ths., unconsciously.
subdue1 him.
"Lu's arm IS broken
s.Whatr'
Her arm is broken badly but Or. Eivards
hss been here
'Lu's arm broken. How did Jhst h~appen1'
"Jscob threw her down ~s.sirs."
Ar. Bowman started 20 his fs.t, his fsoe IL
sEsDtly fushed With anger, and advsncing one
foot said, IN g threatening tone:
Where IS Lc7'
Sis. BoWman arose, and laying bsr hand on
Inn, bore him gently back But he ives in no
yielded mood.
Why did he throw hE down stain % He
TUNED toward bic wife, gternly confronting her.
81 down again. II Is 10 time for angry pun
khment- ] think there has been enough Of that
Yvu Uus: try some othsr way, Jacob
4r. Bowman could hardly credit his ssnzss
Was this biz wife speaking How dared she adj
dress hin thus! In very surprise h0 sat dovr:
and, in 90 doing, felt q loss Of power a7 between
himself and the woman be had so long treated 81
Rn instrument OF MS viii.
"Lu and Jacob had q dispute this morning
about some dIlsd grasses thst have been in JE-
cob's room. Iu took them swsv. and ,Jsrnb Or
dsred hsr, n hs ULnstured stslo. TO put them
back again, which she refused to 20. They had
3 Httle scufHe before you went our thi5 morning.
and you, instead of patiently MIR. Bowman
started and frowncd. but his wife kept on-"aa
@AAa-L--E HLAa HF3 A-AA ana HtfA FlgA--I
caught hold Of Jacob. and, after shaking him "
olently, threatened 20 fog him i be SAID another
VOID about the grasses. Now, u hal teken
what did moi belong to her; snd If vou had ad-
Judged he case rightly, You would hgve com
PEELED her 80 give up the grasses to Jacob."
Mr. Bowman frowned sin more heavily. His
wife did not, however, heed bis threatening face.
She had, al IT once, risen to c place Of though.
and action above him, and heer pulses were
throbbing along her veins.
" But" She went Oh, having wrongg,d Jacob
N your decision, snd encouraged Lu to persist
Al her invasion Of his rights, continued strife be-
tween them was inevitable. Nv word was DOW
egiess. ! could not exert the influence required
10 produce harmony, because Your decision IN the
case excited the worst feelings on both sides. All
The morning they wrangicd and o~ontended not
withstanding, in 1.-THE hope al turning their thought
away from the cause Of trouble, / took the Grass
- from Lu and locked them up IN one Of my
when anger Is in the heart, there IS no lack !
Of causes for dispute. About two hours AGO. ia
cob, in coming down stairs, found La sitting with
her feet across one of the steps. He ordered her. !
u an angry tone, TO get out OF the way; hut angry /
words never bring ready obedience" She spoke /
something slower, and paused q moment, in order
that the sentiment might have force in the mind
o. her husband. "Lu did not stir. Jacobrtgm-
ID; but made 10 impression on the ii-natura8
girl. Then be threatened 10 pitch her down stairs: 1
and she laughed at him w;th tautaizing scorn. /
heard what was passing, but BEFORE there IVES
time for interference, JecOb BAD thrown himself
rnadly against his sister, tearing brr held from the
to which sbe clung, and hegring ber bead
on2 down the stairs. They fell together, jacob
receiving a cut on bis forehead, nd La breaking
lr ann
Mrs. Bowman paused and looked calmly ag her
husband. Sbo had drawn up her person 9s she
poke, with the dignitvo OF q CONSCIOUS pcsrcY. and
low waited for the response. Afr. Bowman had
3 new CONSEQUENCE; tbs Consciousness 81 inie-
1onty to his vita. She bad. in sobeIiy spoken.
iHect language, accused hiin Of wrong; and be
sould not gainsay her words. Nav. seltsocusa-
lon was giving them additional force.
This ia q sad husiness.' be remarked. in q
-roubled voice, as he began moving up and down
be room. Poor child did she suffer much 70
Yes, until the doctor came. After the ann
SET the psin subsilet She Is asleep now"
Where Is Jscobf'
" In his ROOM
Did you punish hn1'
Why Should / punish lin :" askcd N-a.
Why 3I Bowman XII. bis brc,rr. His
seemed uihina.
Punishment said Mrs. F7-yunso am
aiming her calmness, and splaking as tom 8
right to spesk-6U Of which was new
0 Der husband, and not a little puzzline-"is for
You have punished Jacob q grast
many times, eDd often s~a,1relv. Tor The vsrv d
'Tong done this morning"
did he ever break i.u's arm before 20 5e
handed Mr. Bowman, with rising irritation.
Tint was . consequence OF his faux. The :
.TOng lay ia his anger toward he sister, and his f,
TO annoy her. Now. / am very sure that
5nishnenta VIII not 50 10 the eest OF this dis (
You cannot alte- Too mental difpoaiton by .
pain on the BODY Fear NAV restrain l
10 outward oct for G tine, hut the viii 70 do
e ~uninpsied You dsaling with Jacob. :.
you dSA with him e al. must 20 dsepsy than !
Is O. you bsd better leave him % his own :
sn-sci0usDss-leave him 70 the pity and selErR :
-oech that aTs nov II hs mind, and not 20 ths =
'gE and seEjufdfcsaau that must take pls0s
Tuu irRiC pnnishnsrsH =
IA, If Iii. Bowman had been courageous :
70 speak saer this manner % heT bus q
nd, ysars before, how different might hsye been u
; rae 10 tbs household Hs-vas blind TO res i