Daily Ohio statesman. [volume] (Columbus, Ohio) 1855-1870, 1861-11-07

tue soul turns With instructive. aversion. C ,
We wonder that 60 many are uDbappy7' -''
'"bat eight hundred dollArs, Fanny! How 4
ltpossoie Tor married couple 20 live Ia an
ascen' atyIs 10 this city, on eight hundred dol
anTAey may live In very comfortable sty!e
II the wife is willing to perform her part - 2
| 1"What do you mean BY her part, Fanpy2"
"We will take it for granted that she Ia nc
better than her husband; that, having brought
him no fortune beyond her dear self, she can.
no. claim superior privileges" ssV :
8."syell7" > h vi S5 yu wa.
2nHe S.s TO work through all the day"
E"uodet what equitable rule 10 she exemptY'
"None! She must dober part, or course, II
there is anything to do With. She must keep
bis house, If ho can hG0rd house. Bot II he
have only eight hundred dollars Jeatf Why,
rent alone would consume half or more lhs a
half OF that. There would be no housekeeping
ia the case They must board' % ~
{, "Aod the wife cit In idleness all the day
long -" bag '-s,3' Sew org ~
"sbe would have nothing to DO" l
"Couid she not teach3 or by aid Of a sewing
machine earn feN dollars every week2 or en-,
gage In some otner useful work that would
"Yss, she might do something Of the kind
but II marrisge Is 10 make 'workies' of ne, a
were better 10 remain eiDgle"
"And livein unwomanly dependence on our
parents and relatives No, Alice; there il a
false sentiment prevailing on this subject, and
as thiuk and talk | see 1t more and more
sissrIy. Our parents have been weak 10 their
loy6 fog pc; dnd society, as constituted, has
given us SfcHg estimates Of things. We should
have been required 70 do useful work in the
household. from the beginning; and should
have been taught that idleneSs aud sell iodul'
Eence we're dlsofeditable. Our brothers are
quito trades a. d professions, and made 10 COM
preheDd, from the beginning, that Industry ia
hoLotable, and that the way Of nsefrl work is
the way by which the worlds brightest places
are to be reached. But we are Farsed dsintily
and uselessly, and co fitted for or duties as
wives aud mothers. Our pride aud self esteem
are fostered; and We come to think of ourselves
as future queens, who are to be ministered to
in all thiDgs, instead of being ministrant, 10
loving undergraduates, TO Others. No won.
der that az spt.merrisge sentiment Is begin
Ding to prevail amengsE young meD of moderate
incomes. 10 all our larger cities. Toe fadlt Is
Ia uS, Alice. The Sin lies at our door. We
demsOd too much In this partnership. We
are not willing t. do our share of work. Our
husbands must bear all the burdene."
Alice sighed heavily Her friend continuedi
IL have read somewhere that the delight ol
heaven Is the delight Of being useful Aud II
eesmB to me, as l dwell upon she thought, tbaj
the nearest approach to heavenly delight be:t
must be that state into wh: :ch q wife comes wher
ehe stands by her husbaDd'a side, and out 0
love for him, removes one burden end another
from bic shoulders, and go lightens bis work
that smlles take the place Of weariness snd the
shadowings Of care. II he be rich, she Can
hardly have so great o privilege; but If theJ
are alike poor, aud knew how to moderate their
desires, their home may become an image ol
Parsdise. Eight hundred dollars! s!-Alce, II
you we're rellly fitted to become Harry's wife
you might live with hin, doing your part hap
pier than qaeen."
"That is, must take In work, If we board
or-but housekeeping is out of the question"
"No, II should never be out Of the question
in marriage, / think" sd.
"Bot house-rent alone would take half Of oui
income" la o.5 .. 0.
"That does not follows
|. "It does for any house would enrsent Il
live in."
$50 pride IL stronger than lovc. Bot prid
has It's waRes as we'll as love, and the ons 10 Bit
Ter while the other is sWeet. IL is this pride Q
Ihppearsnces, this living for the eyes of othe
people who do not care penny for US, that i
marring the fair fabric of our social life. Fin,
houses, fne dresses, parties, shows and costl'
luxurits of all kinds, are consuming domestic
happiness, and burdenng fathers al d husband
Ia all grades OF society, with embarrassment
and wretchedness. Alice, we must be wiser Il
our generation" .-.. -. t.. a..
"That is, coop ourselves up In two or thre,
mean little rooms, With eight hrndred dollar
year husbands, aud to do our own cooking anC
housewoIk. 10 that it, my pretty ouei"
"Allce! you do not deserve q good man Yol
are not worthy to wed Harry PlessaLti. and
trust 5ou will pass him by. should he be veal
enough TO offer you bis hand. He cant afjrt
% marcy girl of your expectation; he mus
con -sct himself with one wno, like himself, re
cards A.. g real, Life as earnest; and the wa
Of uss and dp, - the Wsy to true honor ana III
Highest happiness. '..' q --