Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1861-08-17

the result OF suspicion inaJ lnPy hT6 HoJ
quite SO good as other people, a belief that
other people understand the fact Far be
it from me to deny that their suspicious
touching themselves are well grounded
but this is no reason why other people
should not speak to them politely There
is class Of men and woman who are al
ways looking out for, aud expecting, sllghtS
f.om those whom they suppose to be their su'
periors They get suspicion that a certain
mau feels above them so when they pass
him in the street, they shy at him-go round
polite to them They are martyrs, as they
suppose, to unjust social distinctions. They
act as if they were painfully uncertain as
to whether they are men and women or
spanies.
Now by the side of the person who car
ries an unSuspcious, sef.respectful open face,
into any presence, such people as these seem
unworly of the lace TO which they belong.
1t is not the bold, brassy self.asscrting
man who is their superior, because his sort
Of offensive forwardness originates in even
II worse state Of mind aud heart than the
habit of shying. When a mau SHES, he on.
y suspects that he is inferior to his surround
ngs When man Extensively puts himself
forward, and talks loudly among his betters
he knows he is mean and knows he is not
where he belongs. You will find profes-
sional gambler to be loud mouthed man,
who not only does not shy at his betters,
but who seeks all convenient opportunities
for associating with them The shying man
is one who has not much respect for himself,
who is enviOuS and jealous of others, aud
who, however strongly he may protest
against the charge, has the most ahject re-
spcct for social position and arbitrary so.
cuI distinctions. If he see a man who
either assumes or seems to he above Kim, it
is a reason in his mind why that man should
not notice him. The result is hat decent
men soon take him at bis own valuation,
and notice him no more than they would a
dog and they serve him right.
know of no more thaukleSS task than
the attempt to assure shying people that
we love them, respect them, and are glad
to continue their acquaintance. The in.
stance in which Old school mates meet in the
jou ney Of life with sickenng GOODNESS.
in consequence Of changed circumstances
and relations, are of everyday occurrence.
Two persons, who separated at the school
house door in dawmng mauhcod, with equal
prospects, come together latter in life.
One has risen in the world, has won hosts
OF friends, has been put forward by them
into public Office, perhaps, and has acquired
a competence. The other has remained up.
OH the Old homestead, has had hard life,
and has won neither distinction nor wealth
The fortunate man grasps the hand of the
other with all the cOrdiaIty of his nature
aud Of his honest friendship but he meets
Il reserve which may be almost sulen. He
strives to call up the scenes gone by--the
old school sports-the school companions,
boys and girlS--the old neghborhood friend,
ships but they will not come. All attempts
to touch the heart of his former school.matc
and bring him into sympathy through the
power Of association, fail. The poor fool
suspects his friend of putronizing him, and
he will not be patronized. Feeling that
his friend has got along in the world better
than himself, he cannot understand why he
should be regarded as an inferior and
treated as such. Thenceforward, the for
tunate man must seek the society of the I'M
fortunate man, or lie will never have it,
The former may give practical recognition
OF entire equality, TO the best of his ability,
but it will avail nothing, for the latter will
not "toady" to his friend, nor be patronized
10y him. At last, the fortunate man
becomes tired Of the effort TO make
his unfo unate friend understand him
and he kicks him and his memory aside, and
calls it friendship closed forever, without
fault upon his part.
have often wished that it could be un.
derstood by these people who are so an.
certain in regard to their position and so
suspicious that everybody has the dsposi-
tion to slight them, and so much afraid of
being patronized, and so averse TO the
thought of 'toadyiug' that they stand stifily
aloof from the society which they envy,
and so much offended with people for feel
ing above them, that their sentiments and
feeling are sufficient reasons for society to
hold them in contempt. There is lack Of
selfreSpect-a meanness-in their position, |
that is. really a sufficient apology for treat.
ing them with entire social neglect They !
habitually miSconstrue those among whom |
they move they are exacting Of attention !
to the last degree they are always uncom.
Portable, and they are ready to take olfense
at the smallest fancied provocation. have
nov in my mind an artizan whom bad oc. !
casion to get acquainted with dozen years
ago and l have compelled him to speak
to me every time have met him since. l !
really do not know what he had done to
make him regard himself so contOmptously,
but think he has never to this day fully
believed that | have the slightest respect
for him. He has tried to dodge me. He
has SHE'D repeatedly, but, have compelled
him to make me good natured bow, till
he begius to like it think, till he expects
it, at least
Many children are bred to the idea that
certain families are socially above them
The are taught from their cradles to cou.
slider themselves in certain sense inferior.
How few American children are taught that
there is no degratOn in poverty, and that a
humble employment and an obscure posi-
tion are entirely consistent with selfreSpect,
under all circumstances, in whatever socie-
ty. l do not mean TO say that they have
not heard their parents remark that they
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