Cincinnati daily press. [volume] (Cincinnati [Ohio]) 1860-1862, 1861-12-30

is, Il they have any taste for the pOetioaI and
any feelings to express. II not, the soOner
they get to paJ ing taxes and ordering dinuer,
the less will their course in life bs fufiled.
The person who really suffers from engage
ments is the intended mother in. Law. II is sh.
who Is constantly on the watch and in oonstan,
anxiety, without any romance 70 keep her upe
What are the notes aud verses, in hne manly
hand, to herr She has trouble on trouble to
bear up against. She has TO care for the 70.
spectsbiities, to decide what her daughter may
be seen doing, and what mott when she ought
TO appear, and when not; who is to be KEEP in
formed of all that goes on, and how. She has
to er dure the coDdoling congratulations ofdesr
friends who intimate n conviction thai the mar
riage will never take place. She has to repeat
a thousand times the version Of facts which she
has settled on as calculated TO put the best
front on things. She has TO guard the interests
Of all those members of her family who are not
engaged, and 10 keep their chances in life still
open. If her daughter is unhappy, shs has to
receive her condolences, to cheer, console, and
reason. If the lever is too intrusive or too
negligent, she has to admonish him without
making him enter OF marriage with settled
hatred of ber. Mothers who love their daugh.
teri, and who are capable Of undergoing anxiety
in patience, will undergo all this, and smile
under it, But those who are nervous, or who
have only that limp feeling of intermittent re-
gard which is often the only emotion daugh-
ters awaken In q mothers breast, either can
not or will not bear this burden. They begin
to tease, discomfort, and worry their daughters,
as the tedium Of the affair tells upon them.
They can not forgive her for bringing them into
q less pleasant position than they can fancy.
If only the girl had married some one who
would have taken her away directly he had
fallen in love with her IL is impossible to say
that On engagement which throws the mamma
into such state is good thing. There may be
ptnalties too heavy to pay for the development
OF poe,ical feeling aud the delights OF loving
vitbout thoughts of cooks and nurses; and one
Of toese psnal les is the unhappiness or the un-
kit dness Of mother.
Even where the mother bears her lot sweetly,
and where an engagement, protracted in hope,
offers every opportunity for theblos'oms of ro
nance 10 spIiUg up, the young couple should
| al ways remember that they unavoidably give a
grea, deal OF trouble. The lover, especially,
| should move coptipuslly with the meeknes
proper to a man who is convinced he is a uui
sapce, The love making OF engaged psople is
very ipcopveDient. They want clear room t.
themselves, they believe that no one notices
their most patient oveItuTes, they think that
any thing like regularity of hours would be Ia
dicrous TO them. The lady has, indeed, sus-
picion of the feelings with which her relatives
regard the process which is 80 interesting to her
but it is very hard for the lover to realize he il
bore. Young men never see any Household Id
difficulties. DiDner grows for them; is no
cooked by o fend who adds insoleuce to q love
of perquisites and Irritation. Bedrooms olear
themselves, furniture repairs itself. If thu
thought occurs that things must be done BY
somebody, they content themselves with gen
eral persuasion that every thing can be arrangel
: by simply giviug a cad halfa crown. The cas-
with which they confront household dificultis
is immeasursbly increased when they come int
F the house as triumphant lovers. They ar
: happy, and why should any one else be un
happy? The people who are in love, are borI
to rule, and the people who not, are des stinet
to be slaves while the love making is going on
No hing but the most assiduous reflection coult
fix 10 their minds that, however little they MAJ
care for it, they are disarranging the who'll
course of family life, causing daily and hourl!
anxiety, and sowing prolific crop of tiny diff
culties. There is no moral in this. 1t does no
show that engagements are, on the whole, bAC
things. The nuisance may be amply compen
satsd by deep and substantial happiness diff
fused through the family. Only, if he coult
but see the whole truth, the new conner Woul,
be inclined to feel grateful for the patience tina
is exercised toward him. The best Of all ar
rapgemens is an engagement long enough t.
give The poetry of love its full swing, and no
so long as to tire ou.the patient suffering Of th
lady's relatives.