Cincinnati daily press. [volume] (Cincinnati [Ohio]) 1860-1862, 1861-03-26
H-nsdsonsr,ss and tanner. as Element

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We make the following extracts from an
article on Success in the December number
of the Co1nhiH Magazine: d
1T has been snid, that "any man may have
any woman The meaning of which | hold
70 be, that the perseyering pursuit of any OBJ.
- ject must eventually be crowned with sue
cess. Labor omhid ViRcit as the copy-bOok
text has il, as the proverbs Of well nigh
every country have It in other words. To
set Your minds resolutely npon the accom-
plisbment of any purpose, is to go half way
to its attainment. Now, it commonly hap
pens, 20 pursue the Illustration wherewith
] commenced this passage, that they who
are most successful with women, are not the
handsomest men. And the reason of this is
obvious. Handsome men rely overmuch on
their handsoments.
To use a u metaphor, rather expressive than
eloquent, they expect all the pretty women
will Jump down their throats.' Bat pretty
womtn will not jump down their Threats.
G This process OF deglutition is not affected by
them They have no notion of being quietly
absorbed. They must be wOn-bravely,
laboIiously, and with a becoming sense of
what is due them. Are we to him that
we have only TO sit quietly in our easy
chairs, to twirl our moustaches2
Beauty is a divine gift let whatsoever pos
q sess it be thankful. Madame De Stael, one
of The most gifted of mortals, said that she
would surrender all she possessed in eX-
ctauve for it. But Madame De Stael was q
woman and l am now writing about men.
Every body knows that. men care more
about personal beauty in the other sex than
women do, and for this reason, that pleas
ant eishts and sweets sounds, and every
thing soft and gentle, is a delight anC
refreshment to them.
Ems But the ordinary environments of womer
are soft and gentle. They lead comparatively
d passis g lives; and that which most fascinsteS
them in the other sex is a sense of active
power What is ~softneSs and smoothness
- 10 the N q Bless them, they like the grit
Even the hard lines on a mans face-the
pallor, nay, the less interesting sallowness oil
his chetk-are interesting to them if they
denote power. Irepeat that personal beauty
81 is q great gift, even 10 q man. But it is only
as al accompaniment to other gifts that II
contributes to success. Everybody knows
what Wilkes, the ugliest man in England
said to Townsend, the handsomest. And il
was nota mere idle boast.
Whether YOU govern best by a reserved
digmfed demeanOr, OF by an open, CHEEKY
:, manner, may be a question. Each has It's
advantage, and each Is very effective in its
occasional deviations into the system of the
other. The genialities of stern men, and
O. the asperities of genial ones are each very
impressive in their way. Indeed, the ques.
ton of manner in connection with my pres.
ent topic of discourse, is one of such high
importance, that | can not summsrily dis
miss il. | do not say that it is a thing to be
studied. To lay down any rules on the sub
ject s a vain thing. People who shape
their outward behavior with elaborate de-
sign generally overreach themselves.
Nothing but a really natural manner is
genuinely successful in the long run. Now,
the natural manner of some people is good
of others hopelessly bad, though there
may be little difference in the good beneath.
IL is hard that we should be prejudiced by
what is merely superficial but we are. |
have beard it said that this is not prejudice
for the manner is the outward and visible
sign Of the man. But there are very excel
lent people in the world with manners the
reverse Of pleasant-people shy and reserved,
or brusque and bOOrish, with whom per-
sonal intercourse is by no means a delight.
Others, again, there are, with whom half an
hours talk is like an invigorating bath OF
sunshine. 10 this last there is an element OF
SUCCESS. There is another successful man
ner, too-one which impresses every one
with a sense of your power. If you have
both q manner at once gracious and power
ful, Gu have every thing that you can wish
as an outward aid 10 success.
A thoroughly good manner will often do
much 10 ueulralize the i'll effect of an UMPIRE
possessing appearance. But an ip-.avored
countebance may be a stumbling block al
the Outset that is never surmounted. II
Iepels at the first start. There are people
described as ''unpresentable," who have
giants TO contend against at their first start
In lie. When they have once made theiI
way in the world, the insignifcance or gro
tesquthess Of their appearance is a matter
of no moment. Nay, indeed, we may not
unfairly assign some additional credit TO the
man who has forced his way to the front, in
spite Vt al ply sicSldefectsand personal draw
backs. But it is an awful thing for a young
beginner TO have to contend against the i'm.
pediments of a bad face, an Insignificant OIL
sn urgsinly figure, and a bad manner in the
presence of others.