Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1860-05-05
Address to Married Persons.

The suhjoined recipe for the manuiac-
ture Of domestic happiness, is taken from
an MSS. bearing the decided marks of
age. The writer,-a tolerably good-look-
ing bachelor at the time Of writing, $50
said, l-is now living and has personally
proven the value Of his medicine. If the
thing does not work well, after a fair trial,
we may be able to get further information
from the discoverer of the secret, who wilY
no doubt wonder how the document came
to light
The duties between man and wife are va
rious and important. They suppose not
the union Of persons only, but also and par
ticularly Of affections. 1t is not the join
ing of hands but of hearts, which consti-
tutes marriage in the sight of God See
then, that no motive Of interest or conve-
nience deceive yon into a notion that you
love one another, while you do not. God
never winks at the violati on of nature, nor
suffers it to take place with impunity
But this must be the case in every mar
riage where mutual attachment is wanting.
Aud that family is uniformly cursed with
the most substantial wretched dness, where
there subsists no love between the heads
Of it. Thou, vino art the husband, must
treat thy wife with delicacy and discretion
Nothing in nature is so endearing, so win
ming, so captivating as tenderness moth
ing creates aversion SO soon, so strong, so
inveterate, as rudeness, Indifference, or dis
respect. She depends upon thee for pro-
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For thy sake she has left her friends her
connections, and all the world, and should
she meet with tYrant instead of lover,
she may repent of this day as long as she
lives. Never incense nor insult her aud
aud as thou wishest to keep thy temper and
peace, ruffle not hers for crossness and
asperity, especially when they settle in mo-
rosenesS and ill-nature, are the qualities of
a savage, not of Christian Never, on
any pretence whatever, squander that in
dress, drinking or dissipation, which thou
shoudst lay by for the benefit of thy family.
BY all the laws of God and man, of JUS
tice aud love, they have an exclusive claim
on whatever thou canst earn and every
unnecessary indulgence which thou takest
apart from them, is at their expense and
injury. Consult thy wife, especially in all
cases of difficulty, it is her interest as well
as her duty, to give thee the best advice
she can. Never keep her ignorant of thy
circumstances this has been the undoiug
of millions vf families The wife who de-
serves the name, will never fail to econo-
mize, when she knows her partners circum-
stances require it, BE not uneasy, though
the world should think she has her full
share Of influence Women of good sense
seldom abuse their husbands confidence.
And thou wilt see few happy families in
which the wife is either slave or a cypher.
! BE ye equally yoked, is the command of
God ; let neither seek basely to throw an
undue weight on another's shoulder. Suf-
fer no interference from any quarter what.
ever to interrupt yOnr harmony you are
connected for life. Nothing can separate
your fate in this world or let nothing di-
vide your affections Regard each other
with the fullest confidence; the heart spark
Of suspicion from either must forever blast
the comfort of both There can be no har-
mony where there is no faith. A wife
should not only love her husband, but on
every occasion show him all the attention
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make his home comfortable and inviting
Where the treasure is, there will the heart
be also ; and mans presence, as well as
bis heart, will always be there most, where
he has most pleasure. And III venture to
assert it as fact incontestible, that he
who finds his home paradise, will seldom
stroll into the wilderness of the world
While on the other hand, a scolding wife
and hot house have driven many wretch
ed husband to the tavern, where cards,
women aud wine, have sealed his own de-
structon and that of his family. In word,
be habitually loving and kind to one anoth-
er. Have no separate secrets, nor allow
yourself any air of mystery but open
your whole hearts to each other Conceal
as much as possible one another's foibles
and cultivate habits of affability, forbear-
anee and good nature. Never be sullen,
or in pet with each other, especially in
the presence of strangers. Say all in love,
live together as the heirs of glory and
then may the richest blessings of Almighty
God be yonr mutual portion, both in
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