Litchfield enquirer., 1860-02-09
LITCHFIELD, THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 9, 1seO

managed. In thlS country the theater fol
 the display and study of manners is not
 courts, but the dress-circles of good society ! where men resort after the toll of the day
 These drawing-rooms are not the best places
 for earnest youth. A foreigner, on enter
 ing one, thought all the women were suffer ing for chairs. Here we meet diversity o character. ELSIE has cold which she
 caught on the day of her birth and has not
 yet got rid of GERTRUDE has fine manners
 but BLANCHE, who has no manners at all, is
 far more agreeable because of her esprit
 Society soon detects those unfortunates who
 are not in unison with it, and either ridicules
 or neglects them. Necessity is the law of
 all who are not selfpossessed, and some poor
 imbeailes, of weak mind, go through society
 on cringe. EURIP1DEs, says AsPAs1A, has
 not the fine manners of SOCRATES, but we
 can pardon slight infringements of the rules
 of good breeding in those who can move our
 souls. Manners require time. Still through all this lustrous varnish the reality looks
 out the vhat is seen through the hoao. In
 individuals of character we do not regard the manners but are engaged in considering
 the substance. There are swarms of pro- fessors, doctors, etc., whose regulations are tender and need careful handling. As when a police official enters Parsian ballroom, many be-diamoned costume seeks the shade of some obscure corner, so it happens in so- ciety at the advent of the man who has re- ceiyed the fatal gift of penetration. The cause of the popularity of the novels-the literature of manners-of the present day is that they go beneath the surface. The old romance entertained us with the adventures of the boy who wanted wife or a castle, and when he attained one or both, the poor reader has the door shut in his face and is left standing out in the cold. The highest compact possible between man and man is "let there be truth between us forevermore" The great event of life is, when one meets superior whom we can admire and love- Still we cannot afford to lose the pleasure of alone in the world. There was stroke of magaanimity in NAPoLEoN's cores. pondence with his brother, who accused him of forgetting the affection they had borne each other as children: at forty" says he, " affection partakes of the maturity of the intellect" Beauty is the finish of things auu GU ooou oo u uuA oCCo iV uC ASCo. N1uu- ners have the same effect as beauty They must have as their fountain the good heart seeking to scatter joy around. We should be as courteous to men as to pictures and place them in good light. -One topic which should never be introduced in conver- sation is ones distempers ;--don't leave the sky out of the landscape. An old man said: " when come into the room I study to make humanity more beautiful to you." Hos- pitality is the heroism of manners and exists
 in perfection among the Arabs Gen. DUMAS relates an anecdote of an Arab chief who had shown him much attention during his sojourn in the desert and to whose little boy the General had made many presents On the evening prior to his departure, the chief gave an entertainment in his honor which passed off very joyously but without the presence of the lad, who, his father said, was asleep. As Gen. DUMAS was leaving the next morning, the chief came to him and said: I tried to make you happy last even-
 ing and have favor to ask in return. My son, whom I told you was asleep, had just fallen, while playing with his mother, and now lies dead. Yesterday l dissembled my own grief and restained the cries of my wife that your festivity might be uninterrupted. l ask you now to aid me in the burial of my child"