Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1860-11-21
From the New York Sunday Times j
TALE SENSE To1AD1Es.
ny RUTH.

ny RUTH.
wonder why it is that gentlemen are
SO afraid to talk sense to ladies? Is it thnt
they are fearful of embarrassing us with
subjects we do not understand, or that
their intellects are kept for State occasions,
and they only bring them out to air when
they can do it with ecIat, and the pomp
of circumstance? !, for one, have some
times felt sensation bordering upon
gratitude, when some gentleman, in a
particularly gracious mood, has condescen-
dcd TO stoOp down and lift me up into this
seventh heaven oflearning and wisdom, in
which they so constantly dwell. Unused
as Lam to that atmosphere, am, of course,
tlazzled and hewilderca, aud hastily and
despairingly call together my scattered
senses, eutrcating OF memory to assist nc.
with all the little knowledge may have
of classics. histories-modern and ancient
sentimental literature, and solid
Sometimes, have been astonished at
! the ease with which have passed this
trying ordeal; Mt other times have been
let down so Suddenly, that the jar has
| we'll nigh shattered my hclicf i'll the supe-
riority of mans intellect over wOmau's
What pity it is, however, that, in some
way, either from the great first law, or one
man.has made etimpossihle-to defy, gcntlc-
men and ladies cannot form Erirndships
With each other which might be'mutunllv
so improving. The former, minrlinr
always with the world. coming in con-
1 tact so constantly with mankind. ncces-
| sarily possess certain knowledge the
! latter donot, aud which, when Impaired
| to them, gives them AN amnnnt of self
reliance which they need; and we, sitting
/ by the fresidc in our peaceful household
ways, half dreaming our lives AWAY,
/ dwelling more often on the future, poet
] Using more than tlIey can,. impart to- them
i refinement, which, without our society,
j they could never in the same degree COM
prehcnd-thOUgh | might safely except
I poets, and men oftine temperament.
These, from the moment they open their
eyes upon the world view it in different
| light from other men; and they have done
as much 10 make woman understood hv
| her sex as she has herself. Yet, people
often abuse this class for their improve
dent liberality and incompetence to earn
/ money. But | confess to a sort of rever-
/ enceafor him who will not sacrifice everv-
| thing in order to "mnkc haste to be-
come rich;" who can, sometimes, altogeth-
er forget these things in his aspirations
after the true and beautiful; who so loves
| uAluLc lu1l TIC sizes 6itCu OlilUC OF grass or
half hidden flower, hears the sOftcst note
of bird, or gentlest sigh of wind, observes
every cloud of the sky, and lovingly
counts the stars; who, being altogether
manly, cnn carry that manliness with him
his most minute investigations of Gods
| glorious works. Did you ever meet gem
tieman-such one as I,write of-with
whom. though you are aware of his intel
Iectunl superiority, you feel perfectly at
case? With who you could converse so
freely and pleasantly; who drew yon ont
| of yourself so charmingly, turning with
apparent carelessness thoughts and ideas
! up TO light, that you were not before
aware that you possessed; who quietly
studies you, younever knowing it till af-
ter times; exhiliarUting you in so subtle a
way, that you forget how you stand to-
ward each other, until that inexorable
boundary line makes it distinctly visible
again, and the fat which has gone forth is
4 traced in living characters over against
the wall Which divides you, and the
world looking on, says: '.These two must
not thus enjoy themselves; it is our duty,
by insinudtions orinucndoes, either to sep
crate them, or, by Law, to bind them Sc
| curely to each other"
Forthwith, Irritation, matrimony, and
their train are brought forth in battle arr
ray, and, astonishcd. as maybe the inuo-
cent cause of this hustle, they are gencr-
ally putto flight, being deprived, thereby,
of many an hour of pleasant intercourse,
and of 81 friendship which would brighten
many dark day in life. There are many
people TINS intellectually ysattractive; but,
if the sex be different, aud this sympathy
indulged, there is forthwith prepared a
sumptuous feast for Gossip. She is a
gournand, but no epicure. She must de-
YOUR forever, but she cares not what
do notapprove of desperate Irritation,
such as my friend defines it: kissing,
clasping of hands, and such arrant nom
sense; butif an occasional call upon n
lady, IL sensible conversation, and a parti-
ality for each Others society, because of a
j similarity of taste. is. Irritation, then that
word has charm of which ] was never
before aware, and should be pronounced
an improving and agreeable pastime 1t
would be useless to attempt to defend my
sex altogether from divers imputatiOns.
such as breaking hearts, &C., for some of
| them consider quite capable of doing so.
Yet, there are many instances in which
they are harshly judged. for they are often
called fckle when they are bnt va5nlv
seeking the ideal. In the actual world
they Often see the Etce or the figure which
comes mp to their standard, and immedi-
ately invest him. who possesses them, with
e:ery noble attribute; but, alasl to expe-
rience disaPpoiptmenti finding him un-
worthy of that wealth of love which they
know themselves capable. But women
still seek on, still. deludes herself into the
fbclief That at last she shall find the reali-
szation of all she hHs dreamed OF, and