The Hillsdale standard. [volume] (Hillsdale, Mich.) 1851-1909, 1860-05-01
Love a :, ife and Rule a Wife.


I wish every husband would copy into
bis memorandum-book this sentence, from
arecently published work -" Women must
te constituted very differently from men,
A word said, line written, and we are
happy; omitted, our hearts ache as if for a
great misfortune. Men cannot feel it, or
guess at it; If they did, the most careless
Of them would be slow to wound us so. !"
The grave hides many heart which has
been grieved to death. because one who
might, after all, have loved it, after a GER
tain careless fashion, was deaf, dumb, and
blind 70 the truth in the sentence VIC have
just quoted, or if not was at least restive
and impatient with regard to it. Many
men who marry late in life, being accus,
toned only to take caro- of themselves and
that in the most erratic, rambling, exciting
fashion, eating and drinking, sleeping anil
walking, whenever their fancy, or good
cheer and amusements, questionable or un-
questionable, prompted come at last, when
they get tired of this, with their selfish hab,
its fixed Ms fate, to matrimopy. For awhile
it is a novelty. Shortly it is as strange as
irk .oae, this always t-eing obliged to con
slider the con,sdrt and happiness Of another.
To have something always hanging on tho
ann, which used TO swing free, CT at most
but TO twirl cane Then they think their
duty done, if they provide food aud cloth
ing, and refrain (possibly) from hard words
Ah! is itl Listen to that sigh as you close
the door. Watch the gradual fading o
the eye, paliDg Of the check, not from age
she should be yet young-but that gnsw
ing pain at the heart, torn of The settled
conviction that the great hungry craving o.
her soul. as far as you are concerned, mus,
60 forever unsatisfied. God help such
wives, and keep them from attempting tc
slake their souls thirst from poisoned foan
tains!
Think you, her husband, how littlo s
kind word, smile, caress to you, how
much TO her. If you call these things
childish" and "beneath your notice,
then you should never have married.
There are men who should remain fore, @
single. You are one. You have no righ
to require Of wor an her health, strength
time, and devotion, TO mock her with thi
shadowy, unsatisfactory return. A new
bonnet, dress, a shawl a watch, anything
everything but what of all woman's hear
most craves-sympathy, appreciation, love
She may bo rich in everything else, but
she be poor in these, and is q good wife, sh,
had better die.
There arc hard, un,owaI], ugly, mon
stros ties Of women, (rare exceptions,) VIII,
neither require lore nor k2ow how to Civ
it. We are not speakipg Of these. Tha
bighearted, loving, noble men, havo occa
sonally been threwn away upon such, doe
not dispo~e what we have been SAYING
Bet even n man thus situated has great
the advantage If womaa in a similar pc
sition, because over the NceAle, wOrna
may throw hcsof int: an iusare asylum
while uho anxiety CT rrrnc:l of business life
is at lc,st 4 sort of rcprGvc him.
Do you ask me. 'Arc there no happ
wivesi" God be pr'piscd, yes, and glor
Gus, lovcabln husbands. too, who know
how to treat n woman and would have he
neither fool nor drudge! Almost ever
wife would be good aud merry wife, wer
shc only loved enough. Let us husband
present and prospective, think of this
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