Delaware inquirer. (Wilmington, Del.) 1859-18??, 1860-04-14

| with The kindness Of real love. You wer'
created TO learn to be fellow angels in th'
house You were placed to walk together o.
your path TO heaven. TO give an assisting han'
when a weak one stumblcs, TO cxhort th'
slothfnl. 10 cheer the weary, 10 warn agains
dangers paths and dangerous foes, 10 encour
age the struggling to rejoice together whel
you gain glorious prospect, to animate eael
other to your daily progress and often TO tast
by anticipation the triumph you will hay'
when all the dangers Of life are gone by an'
heaven is forever your home Remember tn
charge of Joseph 10 his brethren, ''Sce that "
fall not out by the way IN your acts an'
your words, let there be seen upon all you
fringe, the ribband of heavenly blue.
We come now, 10 stilr dearer connection
which would often be more blest II the spiri
OF this divine command were moro faithiI'
carried out. ). the
In that most sacred Of all human ;rtanre
marriage union, it is of the highest In iii the
that the blue ribband should appYet. some
demeanor Of husband and wits tender and
times the domestic hearth isant Of the gentle
happy than it might be, f9 love. When that
amenities Of truth spokich attracts congeniRl
mysterious sympathy induces ardent thought
soulH TO each Other the earnestness Of affection
in the young loh, only all that ia amiable.
presents tonagniiier of the excelencies Of
Each nndfnd no imperfeciion can be seen.
the otpen the hopes Of both are crowded by
Anlson, a long vista Of happiness Is bcheld,
p6nged with an endless succession of joys
And blessings Yet both parties have failings.
The perfection fancy has painted, will in many
respects be found to be oyerdrawn. The bloom
of outward beauty will wear off. Possession
will deprive many attractions OF the exaggera-
ted value for which they were chiefly indebted
TO passion. Both are probably young, both
imperfect, both are human. Hence, there come
discoveries of faults and shortcomings which
belong to us all which have been before unseen.
And now is the opportunity for the manifesta-
ton of real love, in having patience with the
loved one. If they have loved wisely, the viz
tues of each other, and that mutual adaptation
Of feeling, taste, and character which has
drawn their souls to desire union impossible
with any one else, have been the chief attrac-
tons; and for their sakes, they can well afford
to bear with some defects. Instead Of being
astonished 10 find that the mere mortals we
have married have some Of the failings OF our
fallen race, we should take kindly the Oppor-
tnnities of showing that ours has not. been
the selfish passion which desires only its own
qualification, but rather the holy affection that,
iorgetful Of self, seeks chiefly the happiness of
those we love. To assist, and be assisted, 10
form angelic characters in each other, these are
instituted. And to accomplish these ends we
must have faithful, bnt friendly eye for the
imperfections Of each other Weshouldscarce-
" notice the unpleasant effect Of faults in re-
lation to our personal qualification, but he
quick sighted to perceive the injury they infict
upon the door. 'sWho is so blind as He that
is perfect" says the prophet, in reference to
that Divine Mercy which sees not our sins SO
far rs they are directed against Him, and con-
dennis them, only as they are fountains OF mis-
cry TO ourselves.
Our Lord washed His disciples feet, and
said, las have washed your feet, SO must We
wash one another's feet And il to assist
each other, to remove imperfectons from our
conduct, which is spiritually washing one an
others feet, is duty we owe TO our ordinary
Christian friends how much more is It a duty
to assist in removing the spots which soil the
characters of those we have undertaken to love
and to cherish. Yet what tender care this
duty needs The true wife, or husband, cam
mot bear to think that the deeply-prized love
Of the other is being lost. Noticing fault
rudely, betrays the appearance of dislike, and
wounds deeply. Sometimes, sclf-love will
creep in between married partners, and the
struggle for power will take the appearance Of
opposition to faults. Then lacerated feelings
are poured forth in bitter expressions Then,
quarrela arise, long animosities arc inaugura-
ted, which take from home its sweetness, ban
ish all those tender endearments, those happy
condolences, those heartfelt reliances on each
other, those fire-side pleasures which consti-
tnte enrth's nearest likeness to heaven. Then
Oppositions are engendered, determinations are
heard, hateful everywhere, hut intolerable from
those we love. Distrusts fears, and anxieties
intrude, where only confidence should reign,
and home becomes the saddest abode OF misery.
All this has happened, will happen, if we are
not careful in our married life especially, 10
speak the truth in love. There, above all the
blue rihband shonld be seen upon our gar
ments. Sweetness in our goodness, and ten
derness in our truth, should be the incossant
law Of married partners to each other. a fear |
fulness of injuring the feelings Of the other,
A friendly, kindly touch, when any mental sore
requires attention. A determination to do
nothing, which does not manifest u constant
affection. A Difference to each others wishes.
A manifest active effort to promote the others
happiness. These are the dispositions which
can alone preserve and complete that choicest
of all Divine Blessings genuine conjugial
love
When misunderstanding has been sustained.
and bruised affections manifest how deeply
they ARE hurt their pain should not be treated
lightly lie would be thought cruel who
tramplcd on the inllamcd foot Of another yet
singing words ofbtterness, tannt and reproach
under the deluson that it is necessary TO blame
where fault has been committed. The first
necessity is to bring ourselves into a state of
real kindness aud affection then ascertain If
the supposed fault be as real rs it appeared.
And if So then ask the Lord for wisdom, first
pure, then peaceable, to speak the truth in
love. While our ribband is blue, to take care
that 1t isssoft and warm. How desirable this
is in our intercourse with Others In our in
tercourse with these who are TO form with lis
tho happiness Of heart and home, IL is inds- |
And, yet il is not ~ all uncommon for nm |
wise married partners, so far rs to neglect this
divine commandment MS to he all smiles 10 |
others, and TO reserve their GOODNESS for those 4
whom they should most iondly cherish. The |
husband open, smiling aad sedulously polite |
10 amy other lady, will he reserved, negligent, |
and unkind 10 the heart which /
should be TO him above all price. The wife,
NIL radiant with smiles to others, attentive to
their minutcst wishes or comforts will not
trouble herself to retain or regain the affections
of that one, ON whom all her real happiness |
depends. The gentle concliating word for
which her husbands heart, beneath firm cx-
terror, Is longing, she will not speak, The one,
she won BY gentlcne5s and grace, and all the
feminine virtues, she will not preserve By
craving in those virtues but rudey repels
And the heart whose lantcst throb She once
valued beyond ali earthly riches, she rndely
hrows away.
q, married partners, tenants of the same
iome, who should be all in all 10 each other
or time and for eternity never neglect in your
Ientiments yonr spirit, your acts, and yonr
words TO each other, to let there be visible on