The Perrysburg journal. [volume] (Perrysburg, Ohio) 1853-1861, 1860-08-09
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ny ALICE CARRY

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| In almost every newspaper in the country
there may be found, day after day, week after
week, aud year after year. articles with such
captions as the following: advice to Wives"
"Ihc Way TO Make Home Happy" "How to
Keep Husbands Affection" aud other SINH
lar tttlcs, scores of which memory will at ence
suggest to the reader In all these appeals eter-
nat torbcaTauce is urged, as the great duty of
| the wle IN reference to the fobcs faults and
| positive sins OF the husband She is entreated,
with all the forms OF eloquence, between the
! thunders OF denunciOtion and the tenderest pa.
thoS.alwGys 10 meet him with smile--io keep
the fire cheerful aud the lamp trimmed uganst
his comlng--to have the table spread eegan tly
aud prolusely, aud all the children, be they two
or twenty, rosy with health, aud dressed as IL
! dily Ond tasteully ny possible ready to do rev.
oreuce to their isther, flying like doves to the
window when his step is heard on the walk,or
the grating OF the la ch key at the door. eff
you wan; to keep your husbands at home, say
these wise advisers "moke your home the hap
| pcst rluce in the world'--just as it tho best
and most devoted any sel'sucridc clug, aud self
obucgatiug woman that ever was born, could
make home happy independently of her hus-
bands assistance and CO. operation.
tell YOU naYl have seen it tried great
many times; and tell yen there is other tyr
auuY than that ol blood aud chains und the
wives and mothers Of our ltnd and of every land
under heaven | suppose, are staggering under
it, aud falling uuder it, aud being buried away
from 1t every day aud hour; aud thank God
there is rest aud silence down to which no ir-
ritablc growI--no tytranous exaction, can find
its way.
have seen in my life good many places
called homes--i have seen women in them do
ing all that mortality could do to make them
agreeable to the bearS who came thither to feed
--preiCrring, as they said, dry bread to beef
steak when the stcnk wus small aud the hus-
| band huugry--skimming all tho cream from
the pint Of milk Tor his conee--"serving him
first, hlm last, him midst aud without end" to
all that abstinence and rtinstaking on their
! part coud provide, aud | heve very seldom
! been RECALLED with "thank ycu,' or chow kindr
from the pampcted and petted bead of the
II house, generally have seen suarlilg Cr sullen
silence bestowed IN payment,
| Many time I've seen women turn their
d dresses bottom side up, aud inside out aud make
l them do I'LL dGCtncy could stretch itself no far
ther--chonge the flowers from right TO left OF
the Summer bonnet, md make it serve the win
ter--tnke the baby's blanket for shawl and
coutriva new coat for the boy out OF his ia tn
cr'S old one, and moreover, persuade the child
by those ingenious Arguments which only care
iul mothers know how To make available, that
the garment was altogether brighter aud better
ing said husband and lnher 70 to church, and
to tho club or the theatre in new coat and
hat. | cannot call to mind, however. any SINH
lar sacrifices and contriyances elected by such
behavior
i We all know how women violate tho com
mandment, "lhou shalt not lie" by creating
icticious atmosphere through which their chill
dren hold their father, not as he is, but as he
should be. For instance, when the husband
spends money for cigars, which shpuld have
bought shues ior a bnIe-footed child, the wrong
I'd and Disappointed httle one is told most
likely, that father forgot the shoes and will buy
| then TO- morrow
When the husband tarries long at the beer
shops and Oys er saloons, and the children grow
cIamorous for supper their gnawiHg stomachs
ure quieted by the delus.on that their dear pa
rent is in comtOrtlrss situation, coming his
lie b ood to their service; ana so ON, accord
ing to the enormity Oi the offence, is the mag
nitnde OF the ibbrlCOtion in defence.
Bal uotWith funding this nuke believe, I'll have
very often seen cloud OF discomfort brou .ht
into the mouse by the coming home Of the huS-
baud aud father It has indeed usually been
my misfortune to see that much -bcsuiled event,
the signal for hnshes TO take tie place oil fun
nud lroiic, for the iIlle girl to be set down ON
the stool, shumed out OF kissing her doll aud
for the boys rocking horse to be turned out 10
paSru ON the porch and himself shut in some
durk closet, if he sought the poor comfort of "a
wbinpr.
wish could hope that my experience was
extraordinary; | wish coud cause 10 be-
lieve there are not thousands OF women in this
very cily dying doyly, because no smile meets
their smiling, aud no appreciation their efforts
to please. -
Women have faults and falings enough of
| their own TO answer for, and that they should
| be made scapr-goats of tn bear the sins Of their
husbands aud that with smiling is an impose
| ton against which for one protest, Their
ambition is humble enough SUR ly--prSying on
| y for the privilege Of loving aud serving, and
asking no other comppasa lion than II recogn-
! ton Of that love Uni service; but when even
that is denied to them, as it irtquenuy is,
wonder for my part they are half so good as
! they are.
Men and brcihercn, think of these things,
and it you would come to pleasant homes come
! pleasantly into them
1t is n littlc thing to speak word Of com
mon Kindness, yet every one is like a seed sown
by the waysde, spinning up and bearing iruit-
some twenty, some fifty aud some an bundled
! fold"
THE PRESIDENTS HoMe.-A report has been
in circulation here for several days, that Presi-
dent Buchanan has sold his residence near this
city. knowusAs whealand, and that he has pur-
cha ed or is about to purchase property in the
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