Delaware gazette. [volume] (Delaware, Ohio) 1855-1886, 1860-03-09
ROVE A WIFE AND CARE FOR WIFE.

] wish every husband would copy into his
memorandum book this sentence, from a re-
Gently published work: Women must be
constituted very differently from men. A word
said, line written, and we are happy; omitted,
our hearts ache, as if for great MISFORTUNE
Men cannot feel it, or guess at it; if they did,
the most careless of them would be slow to
wound US so."
=. The grave hides many heart which has been
stung to death, because one who might, after
all, have loved it after certain careless fash
ion was deaf, dumb and blind to the truth in
the sentence we have just quoted, or if not,
was not at least restive and impatient with re-
gard to it. Many men, marrying late in life,
being accustomed only to take care of them
selves, and that in the most erratic, rambling,
exciting fashion, eating, drinking, sleeping or
walking, whenever their fancy, or good cheer
and amusement, questionable or unquestiona-
Bile, prompted, come at last, when they get
tired of this, with their selfish habits fixed as
fate, to matrimony. For while it is novelty.
Shortly it is strange as irksome this always
being obliged to consider the comfort and hap
piness Of another To have something always
hanging on the arm, which used to swing free,
or at most, but twirl a cane. Then they
think their duty DONE if they provide food and
clothing, and refrain possibly from harsh
words. All, is it? Listen to that sigh as you
close the door. Watch the gradual fading of
the eye, the paling of the cheek. not from age
she should be yet young-but that guawing
pain at the heart born of the settled conyic-
tionEthat the great hungry craving Of the soul,
as far as you are concerned, must go for ever
ul,satisfed. God Lelp such wives, and keep
them from attempting to slake their souls
thirst at poisoned fountains.
Think you, her husband, how little a kind
word, smile, a a.pss is 10 you, how much to
her! If you call these thing childish. and be
meath your notice. then you should never have
marrie.lp There are men who shoull remain
forever single. You are one. You have no
right to require of woman her health
strength, time and devotion, to mock her with
this shadowy, unsatisfying return. a new
bonnet, dress, a shawl, u watch: any thing.
everything but what a true woman's heart
must sympathy. appreciation and love.
She may be rich in everything else, but if she
is poor in these, and is a good woman, she had
better die.
There are hard, unloving, cold monstrosities
of women. (rare exceptions,) who neither re-
quire love nor know how to give it. We are
not speaking of these. That big-hearted, low
ing, noble men have occasionally been thrown
away upon such, does not disprove what we
have been saying. But even man thus
situated has greatly the advantage of woman
in similar position, because over the needle,
a woman may think herself into an insane
asylum, while the active outdoor turmoil of
business life is at least sometime a repricve to
him.
Do you ask me, q Are there no happy
wives?" God be praised, yes, and glorious,
lovable husbands, too, who know how to treat
woman, aud would have her neither fool nor
drudge. Almost every wife would be good
and happy wife were she only loved enough
Let husbands, present and prospective, think
Of this.-LoGdon Journal.