New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1860-03-24
MAtyNERS"


.a,yicss Of the Young Mems Christian Union. The
susiect W. Manners"
hr. j sERsos said:
GwsrIEsES AND LApIKs-The soul which aninstoe |
Al existence comes to the saraoe in million iovr's
pss out It's hands and organs end is not iess sig''
antly public in the function, the habit, the gesture
che creature than in Its last form OF arcuate Spec
This silent and subtle Language we call manners MOI
what but how. Life presses. statue has no
tongue, and needs Good tableaus DO not 2tsi
defamation. Nature tells every secret wSn' gss
bat 10 rsp che tells il all the time by attitude, oy
tara by the unien by the face, by the parts Va To
face and BY the whole action OF the macnihe liz
visible carnage action The iodv'onAi a.
ing from his organization and MS WIZ - -
-ws ea1 manners" There is always pest way " |
doing everything If it be TO boil an egg MsaheLs Ie
the happy ways of doing things Each Wans ~
al oenips of love new repeated, and hardenso into
n.s9sshe form and varnish with which all the rou-
tne Of life is washed and its details adorned lheee
are very communicable men--meu VINO eaten tneI
manners one Of another. Consoelo III romance
6oasts Of the lessons che had given mobiles IN manners
from the stage, and real stage Talma Taught
NaDols on the ar of behavior. Genus invents hne
usnnsrs, which the baron and baroness copy very
Fast and by the advantage of the palace better the In
esrucon they stereotype the lesson they learn lpto
mode. The power OF manners ia incessant-an eye
ept "a uncomfortable IS fire. II is not an occasional
srpament but like the face, is never put OIL Ine
nobility c3nnos in any country, be disguised no more
IN republic or democracy than IN Kingdom NO
man can resist their influence. There are ceNam
manners which are learned IN good society OF
shat force that, il a person have them, he or
abe must be considered everywhere welcome,
theueh without be luy wealth, genius. Every day
bears witne,s 10 their universal supremacy. People
who would ebtrude If allowed to act freely do not
now obtrude. Dssgreeabe sights aud apoe ais 10 con-
eeoutness are prevented. Men walk as II they were
among Gods to deserve that which belongs 10 hlgh
stats ef nature and culture Your are under
observation all the time, and by committees te sus-
pected. police in citizens clothes are but awarding
or denying you very high prizes at moments when
Won lte think Of II. All II is very well to talk OF
utilities j. ia cur which associate Ms. In the
hours of business we 60 70 him who knows, or does
this OF that which we went, and we DO not lei our
tsstes or feelings stand in the way; but the moment
th, sctyty is over and we return 10 the ndOent state
we wish 70 90 to these whose manners do rot offend
us-~hoee social tone chimes with ours In youth,
when the imagination rules, II we CONSIDER no Y lm-
pressve are the forms behavior Of those around,
10 the susceptible person, 1t seems az II manners
claimed dspropoIhonste attention, us9rpng the De 81
thoughts and hours. Here are some lines OF poet
who seems strangely TO have exaggerated these allu-
SioDs;
Grace, Beauty, and Caprice build tbs golden portal
49, rssi md lofy coaptensnoe Is euchantins food
Ye need not 60 70 them.helI oIns Deet your s9oe
The sresn grass is looking glass wherein their traits are
Little b. saws to them 80 dances his in bis breast
hsiT Tranquil en bin Of wit ofword: aud rest
Tie much 4 dseeed Ends sleeps
When we reflect upon their persuasive and cheering
force, how they recommend ana prepare, ana VA v
people togetbsr--how in all clubs, manners make
members bow manners make the fortune OF the aDbi-
tous youth, how for the most part his manners marry
him and how for the n ost part be marres manners
NJ when you think what secrets they rev6 n, what
al high Lessons and inspiring tones of characer-and
~ conider also what curious diynaticn is required
in Us for the reading of this fine telegraph,
you will what ran .e the subject has and think
worth exploring under the heads of convenience,
POWER and beauty. Their first surface is very low,
where they az the minor morals. But is the begin
CIV litv IN max rs
We prize them for their eminent convenience to get peo,
pie out of the quad aped state, to get them washed and
clghed and eet up on end, 10 slongh their animal
husks, and habits, and compel them to be clean, to
oveIGwe their fpite and meanness, and teach them
90 sti6e the base thought, makes them know how
much happier generous behaviors are. That behavior
the laws canuot reach Society is infested with rude,
bruitisb, cynical restless sud frivolous persons who
prey uponlhe rest and whose public opinion conceu'
frated into good and FORM is accepted by the
good seDee of all ii can reach. have seen con-
doctors and rulers at public or private table
who like terriers, conceive il to be due 70 dog
to do the konors Of the house to bark.
Have seen men neigh like horse when you con-
tradct them say something they do not quite under
stand Then there is the perseverDg ttlker who gives
YOU his society in large saturatiug doses Then the
pitieIs OF themselves are dangerous class. Then
there the frivolous elassn short every stripe OF ab-
surdy. These social infections which the ma9ls
trste cannot cure or defend you from and which must
be ntrused TO the restraining force OF custom andprov
erbs, and the familiar rules Of behavior impressed
upon the young people IN tner nursery anu hciiOOi
DAYS. In The West when you reach the Mississippi
River you will find in the hotels they print among the
rules OF the house. that gentleman be permitted
10 come the table without bis coat and in the same
country in the pews of the Church you will see little
plaeards pasted up pleading with the wOfshipsr
againtt the fury Of expectOTation. Charles Dickens
attempted 10 under AXE the reformation OF our Amer
can manners think the lesson was not quite lost |
a. that il held up bad manners 30 that the |
ehuIs could see the evil although the book itself had
its deformities They ought not 10 print in reading
room the caution TO strangers not to speak loud TO
persons who look fine engraving that it should
be handed like eobwebs, or like butteriy's wings;
and TO those that look at statues, that
they must not touch them with q cane but even
in the perfect civilization Of this city, aud fthe capital
of New-England, such cautions considered not
quite needless in the Astor, the Athenaum and the
city libraries Wayl1nd narraes the following story
reigning Duke, returning from the chase in after
the dinIeF was b. found the too hot for him.
and or epea the window. Some ladies' who were thinly
clad were sitting nesr, and he shoulders felt the cold
Goethe went tptOes in his quiet way not TO disturb
the reader and shut it softly. When the Duke turned
round end saw the window was closed, his face be-
came overloaded that bis commands had been die.
obeyed. 4" Who has shut the window that opened :"
he said TO tie ssrgants Not dared 10 cast gauoe
at or reply to him. But Goethe approached bin |
quietly ana reveIentally and said: Your highness
has the power Of life and death over al your
subjects upon me let II be pronounced" Ire
Duke lang bed, and the window was opened no more.
Manners are fictitious and grow out Of circumstances
as well az out Of character If you look at the picture
of pafricaus and peasants of different countries you
will see how well they match the same classes III our
towns. The modern arstOcrat is not only well drawn
In Tit ans Venetian Dcges, and on Roman coins and
statues but also IN the pictures winch Com |
modore Perry brought home from Japan. Ma
tnre draua fha CANA linea all the globe. The