The Cadiz Democratic sentinel. [volume] (Cadiz, Ohio) 1854-1864, 1860-07-04
A Word 10 Husbands Only.
LOVE YOUR WIFE AND CARE FOR HER

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l wish every husband would copy into his
memorandum book this sentence, from recent
ly published work: "a word said, line writ
ten, and we are happy; omitted, our hearts
ache, as if for great misfortune. Men cannot
feel it, or even guess at it; if they did, the
most careless of them would be slow to wound
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The grave hides many heart which has
been stung to death, because one who after all,
loved it after certain careless fashion, yet was
deaf dumb and blind to the truth in the SEN
tence we have just quoted, or if not, was at
least restive and impatient with regard to it
Many men, marrying late in life, being accus-
toned only to take care Of themselves, and that
in the most arratic, rambling, exciting fashion
--eating drinking, sleeping and walking when
ever and wherever their fancy or good cheer or
amusement, questionable or unquestionable,
prompted-come at last, when they get tired OF
this, with their selfish habits fixed as late, to
matrimony.
For while it is novelty. Shortly, it is irk-
some as strange, this always being obliged to
consider the comfort and happiness OF another.
To have something always on the arm which
used to swing free, or at most but twiria cane.
Then they think their duty done if they pro-
vide food and clothing, and refrain (possibly)
from harsh words. All, is it! Listen to that
J sigh as you close the door. Watch the grad
ual fading of the eye, the paling of the cheeks,
not from age-she should yet be young--but
that gnawing pain az the heart, born of the set
tied conviction that the great hungry craving
of her SOUL SO far as you are concerned, must
go forever unsatisfed. God help such wives
and keep them from attempting to slake their
souls thirst at poisoned fountains.
Think you, husband, how little a kind word
smile, caress, to you-how much to her,
| If you call these things childish, and "beneath
your notice." then you should never had mar
ried. There are men who should remain for
ever single; you are one. You have no right
to REQUIRE of woman her health, strength, time
and devotion, 20 mock her with shadowy ,un-
satisfying return. A new bonnet, dress, a
shawl, watch-anything, everything but what
a true woman's heart must crave--sympathy,
appreciation, love. She may be rich in every
thing else but ifshe be poor in these and is a
good woman, she had better die.
There are hard, unloving, cold monstrosities
of women (rare exceptions) who neither require
love nor know how to give it. We are not
speaking of these. That big hearted loving.
noble men have occasionally been thrown away
upon such, does not disprove what we have
been saying. But even a man thus situated
has greatly the advantage of woman in SIM
liar position, because, over the needle, wom-
an may think herself into an insane ASYLUM,
while the active, outdoor turmoil of business
life is at least sometime reprieve to him.
Do you ask me- "Are there no happy wives?'
God be praised, yes, and glorious, loveable
husbands, too, who know how to treat wo.
man, and would have her neither fool nor
drudge Almost every wife would be good
and happy wife, were she only loved enough
Let husbands, present and prospective think o
, this.