The weekly Anglo-African. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1859-1861, 1860-04-14
LOVE A WIFE AND CARE FOR A
WIFE.

1 wish every husband would copy into
his memorandum book this sentence, from
recently published work; "a word said,
line written, and we are happy; omitted,
our hearts ache, as if for a great misfortune.
Men cannot feel it or guess at it; if they
did the most careless Of them would be
slow to wound u.s."
The grave hides many heart which
has, been stung to death, because one, who
might, after all, have loved it after a GER
tain caree-s fashion, was deaf, dumb and
blind to the truth in the sentence we have
just quoted, or, if not, was at least FESTIVE
and impatient with regard to it. Many
men, marrying late in life, being accustom-
ed only to take care of themselves, and
that in the most erratic, rambling, exciting
fashion eating, drinking, sleeping and
waking, whenever their fancy or good
cheer and amusement, questionable or I'M
questionable, rompted-come at last,
when they get tired Of this, with their sell
fish habits fixed as fate, to matrimony.
For while it is novelty. Shortly, it is
strange as irksome, this always being
obliged to consider the comfort and happi-
ness Of another. To have something al
ways hanging on the arm, which used to
swing free, or at most, but twirl cane.
Then they think n ir duty done if they
provide food and clothing, and refrain
possibly from harsh words. All, is it !?
Listen to that sigh as You close the door.
Watch the gradual fading of the eye, the
paling of the cheek, not from age-she
should yet be young-but that gnawing
pain at the heart, born of the settled con-
viction that the great hungry craving of
her soul, as far as you are concerned, must
go forever unsatisfed. God help such
wives, and keep them from attempting to
Stake their souls thirst at poisoned foun-
tains.
Think you, her husband, how little a
kind word, smile, caress to you, how
much to her. If you call these things
childish, and beneath your notice. then
you should never have married. There
are men who should remain forever single
you are ono. You have no right to re-
quire of woman her health, strength, time
and devotion, to mock her with this
shadowy, unsatisfying return. A new
bonnet, a dress, shawl, a watch, anything,
everything but what true woman's heart
must sympathy, appreciation, love.
She may be rich in everything else, but if
she be poor in these, and is good woman,
she had better die.
There are hard, unloving, cod MONS
trosities Of women (rare exceptions who
neither require love nor know how to give
it. We are not speaking of these That
big hearted, loving, noble men have occa-
sionally been thrown away upon such,
does not disprove what we have been say
ing. But even man thus situated has
greatly the advantage Of woman in SIM
liar position, because, over the needle, a
woman may think herself into an insane
asylum, while the active outdoor turmoil
of business life is at least somewhat re-
prieve to him.
Do you ask me, "Are there no happy
wives2' God be praised, yes, and glori-
GUS, loveable husbands, too, who know
how to treat woman, and would have her
neither fool nor drudge Almost every
wife would be good and happy wife were
she only loved enough Let husbands,
present and prospective, think of this
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