Spirit of the age. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1849-1865, 1860-08-08

forget or abjure this politeness in public
places. This was my position; and it was
based upon the hypothesis that the Editor of
the Southern Waterman was making his re-
marks in a spirit of kindness, candor and
truth. And in this connection, feel constrain-
ed to say that the Editor of the Reporter does
the Editorof the Southern Waterman mani
fest injustice, when he says-he does not
know in what spirit he offered the lady his
seat, and %insinuates that Sit might have been
done very reluctantly, and in an ungraeious
manner" &c, when he expressly states that
he was in a hurry to show the aEacrity with
whichhe didit.
The Editor of the Reporter says he has
been a great traveller, and has always received
a proper acknowledgement from ladies for
courtesies extended to them. No doubt of
it, but this does not disprove the assertion
of the Watchman's Editor, who says he has
not. But | do not intend to let the5Rc-
porter misrepresent me, in his eager haste
to play the fattering Cavalier to my sex. |
have never admitted what his astute mind dis
covers to be inferred from the interrogatory
Are Ladies Naturally Polite % l have new
er dreamed Of answering it N the affirmative.
l have only admonished my sex that in such
cases we are too apt to be neglectful of that
politeness which is so natural to us, and
which We dispense with so much grace at
home.
As to real gentlemen" offering courtesies
to "Teal ladies'" and all that-thatis begging
the question They are presumed to be such,
when we meet them in respectable places, and
it will not do for you, Mr.. Reporter, to take
shelter under the plea that she is no lady who
will be guilty of these breaches of politeness.
| am no great traveller, but Ihave been about
some, andl have not unfrequently seen real
tadies omit, forget, | presume, to make pro-
per recognition Of courtesies extended to
them. And my object was to correct this
MougAtlesSness, which men wereto be excused
for attributing to heartlessness and rudeness.
Read the remarks in the Age of July 25th,
friend Moore, and you will see that Mrs. G.
has not been guilty of endorsing "a SANDER
upon her sisters" But we are not perfect,
and we have the good sense to know it. We
sometimes commit errors, and we have the
candor to regret them and we regard that
gentleman to be our truest champion who viii
kindly and frankly point out our indiscretions
in a friendly way, rather than he who would
Haftar ne with tha idoo that ,ro I;t-o a. r.:
"can do no wrong" We know better thar
that.
Now SEE THE OTHER SIDE.-Who would
believe, after reading the above twaddle, an,
fulsome panegyric of the Ladies, that tn
same writer, in the same paper, would hav
the edrontery to thus wantonly Islander them
as he does in the annexed paragraph. Wer
these real ladies'" who thus excited hi
wonder and admiration ? If they were, hoy
few real ladies' there are in the world, az
cording to his own confesSion-for it was tn
'norelty' ofthe scene that excited his wonder
This paragraph contains a Islander upon GU
sex, and we call upon Cavalier Moore for
!. r~etrazit, a~nstGater. Only TWO young ladie
out of all his acquaintancesa Tam no gre.
traveller but ] know a great many mo-
than two hundred young ladies who hel
their mothers on such occasions. Liste
to tbe insinuating Islander:
t WHAT WE RECENTLY SAw.-We saw, recen
t ly, two young ladies-accomplished young |
S dies, who have been to boarding school ar
4 who can play on the piano, and who ca
: draw, and talk French for aught we kno,
S actually making themselves useful by asst
!, ting their mother in the dining room, cuttin
carving, and overlooking the servants, on Il
J. occasion when there were largely over Il
e ordinary number of guests at the table. Tt
e is true, whether the reader believes it or M
and We record the circumstancefor its nc
s city. More than one or two sent admire
It glances after them as they fitted airily al
is cheerfully around the table, directing the 81
it wants in their duty to the guests; and MAJ
is doubtless drew in their minds, pictures
he the utiL dutci, in some future happy hon
where these lovely house keepers will be t
a presiding spirits.