Ashtabula weekly telegraph. [volume] (Ashtabula, Ohio) 1853-1873, 1860-05-12

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Self respect is conservative quality, aid q
is Indispensable to the preservation of char
acter Says one, speaking of young men,, 3.
"He who cares not what Others think of
him, is half ruined" The remark is true,
aud applies with more force to young ladies
than it does to young men, Not that ei-
ther sex should seek the appreciation of
Others for its own sake alone, for this would I
be ambitious pride and vain-gIory, instead
of self-respect. This latter quality is That
jndicious regard for ones principles and
practice which is necessary to maintain an
unspotted character Young men who
have it not, become reckless, abaudouedyr
proagate. They make haste to ruin II 0tss
Now, self-reSpeet is more valuable to
young lady, because her character is q more
delicate fabric. Au act that will scarcely
have a stain upon the reputation of a young
man, will blast young lady's character in
| the public view. Society is SO construct
cd by the Great Architect, that female
character cannot withstand so hard shock
as that of the male sex. 1t is well that it
is so, as we might show, if this were the
place. 1t gives woman moral position
and influence, that tend to elevate aud re-
| fine ;he sterner sex.
! 1t follows, of course, that a young lady
cannot mix indiScriminately in society, and
join in all the amusements and frivolities of
the day, without running more or less risk.
Excess of interest even in innocent pleasures
will evince degree ightness that will
prove iojurous. Making little or no dis
tiuction between the kinds of amusements
enjoyed, will lead to similar results. The
inference will be, among discriminating OBJ
servers, that "a good timeo is valued more
highly than good principles, and this will
depreciate the character at once. In like
manner, when young lady accepts the at
tentious of almost any young man who
comes along, to escort her 10 concerts, par
ties of pleasure, balls, and other places, she
lowers herself in public estimation. She
SHOWS that character is a secondary consid-
Grafton with her, at least when she is drawn
by the destinations of social pleasure Here
is lack of selfreSpect-an absence OF that
jealous regard for her reputation and infu-
euce, without which she will lose caste with
the best part of society. She cannot ex-.
pect to share the good opinion and conf
dence of others, unless she studies more to
merit the same. If she will not respect
herself, she ought not to think that others
will respect her. This is true Of both sex
es Any person who desires the respect of
those around him must respect himself.
This is his only ground Of hope. There iss
never an exception to the rnle--not one.
SO that young lady has no reason to com,
plain that her social position is too low,
when she has not sufficiently respected her
self.
The moral sentiments are Of the FIRST i'm
portance to young ladies. They are expect
ed TO look at the moral bearings of all
questions whether the male sex do or not.
What is pure and lovely and Of good re-
$ port" they are expected TO adopt. Some
disregard of moral questions with young
men Is tolerated by social laws, bat it is not
q tolerated i'm the others sex Hence if young
> ladies do not respect themselves so much
= as to regulate their conduct by pondering
h these moral points, they will fall into dis
. repute. For example, let the subject at
# issue, be, the attentions OF young Ran OF
u known immortality. He proposes TO escort
Z a young lady TO this aud that piece Of en-
n tertainment. lie is intelligent, handsome,
aud wealthy, perhaps, but Of loose pfinel-
Is plies. She knows exactly what his reputa-
:. ton in the community is. Now, the main
S question for her to decide, is moral one.
u IL is not one OF mere social prudence. IL
|. is whether She is not obligated to make q
IS distinction between good aud bad prinei-
Il plies, when she accepts or declines the prof.
/" fered attention. Here selfrespect comes
% in, and says, See that you make no com
id lpromise Of yonr own principles show tnat
cn you place moral rectlnde higber ihap In
A. ltelhgence, wealth, or personal beauty txk'
NJ hibil your own pure sentiments II decliaipg
he to associate with their Oppo'iteN A young
nj ladv who should thus obey the dictates Of
! !. true seIfrespect wiz not fail to stand high
All in the confidence OF all who knewa her
We Tho loose young man who Is srejected wil
,as respect her more in his heartsg II Is npl
du in any hnnan heart that Is decent 20 Do
o1 despise such just and honofeble dc
zy eislon. tis sDot being TOO partieplaF}
.ts Yonag ladies mast be particular i thel
OK would preserve their character untarnlshed
ON Many are not particular enough, and tho
give occasion for the repreAchlul irsipua