The weekly pioneer and Democrat. [volume] (Saint Paul, Minn. Territory) 1855-1865, 1860-07-13

Dy q poor thing. None whatever. 1t
should be considered an objectionable in.
suit and no poor man who really loves
lady will address her, if he be gentleman.
No poor gentleman has any business with
wife-none whatever and they (poor
gentlemen) should not be allowed to wait on
ladies at all, but be compelled to give all
their time to business to make money, to
making her a good husband. And every
gentlemen who has intelligence, and is sober,
Industrious and agreeable enough to make
fortune by the time be gets to the marriage
able period of life, viz !: from thirty.6ve to
forty-fve, and if he does not by that time
accumulate fortune, let him slide along in
poverty all alone.
Poverty and matrimony are not congo
nial, but antagonitic and whenever and
wherever they come together then and there
is an explosion that never fails to blow love
through every hole in the house to the winds
that poverty leaves unrepaired. Don't mar
ry poor gentleman, whether you be rich
or not. Don't marry a gentleman under
thirty years of age. even if you be sweet
sixteen. If you do, fifteen chances out of
twenty you will repent doing so; but marry
a gentleman who is between thirty-6ve ano
forty-6ve years of age, who is pleasant and
agreeable, sober, of good standing in socie-
ty, without unpleasant connections to be
thrown with, and who has money enough,
and you will enjoy life beyond any doubt
whatever.
The poorest match lady can possibly
make, is to marry the son of rich man.
What think you of that? 1t is fact, be-
cause they are the poorest and most helpless
of all gentlemen. 1t is true, the sons of
wealthy gentlemen are gentlemen we'll edu-
Gated, &C., and it is also true at the same
time they are least capacitated to take care
of themselves. The always keep an eye on
their fathers wealth, and the young lady
who consents to marry one of them, never
fails to fix both Of her eyes on the said old
gentleman's 8 wealth before even the question
is popped. After the marriage they find
the wealth still In the hands of the old gen.
tleman, who holds on to the dimes as tight
as ever won't give but a pittaDce, and
won't die. I can't undertake to describe the
disappointment, grief, despair. Then it is
scuffle, scuffle, scuffle, with the poor things.
And it is always the case forty-f times out
of fOrtysix instances. If he does not give
his property to his SON before his marriage,
he aUilL not after. Well, they scufle and
scuffle on for some fifteen or twenty years.
l forgot to state, if the fair victims father
has dollar or two he could not we'll take
out of the world with him, his death is
prayed for too-and during the while the
poor son of the rich man embraces the bot
tie, to enable him to stand up to scufling.
Ultimately the old folks die-property all
made over to grandchildren Where is
the poor wife? Who has seen or heard of
her since her marriage?
Don't marry gentleman because his
father is rich, unless he be pretty we'll to do
independent of the father. The sons of rich
gentlemen are, generally, poorest of all gen.
tlemen, and therefore the very last gentle
man to be accepted. Don't marry gentle
man unless he be pleasant and agreeable to
you, and he be rich. A gentleman is rich
when be is able to support you in the style,
etc, enjoyed by those with whom you will
associate, without being under strain, and
to lay up right smart besides. Don't mar
ry gentleman under thirty five years of age.
If widower presented himself, and is all
right, except he did not make an affection
ate husband before be was thirty-fve, accept
him-make you good husband to cer-
tainty.
Who ever knew an instance where the
disparity was some fifteen or twenty years,
and the gentleman rich, the parties didn't
live together pleasantly, delightfully."-, and
happy all the while? Not one instance to
the contrary out of ten thousand. The dis
parity should not be less than fifteen nor
more than twenty years. This, doubtless,
will be considered new doctrine, but it is
true. Look around you and you will see.
Lastly, young ladies, marry before you
get to be twenty-four or twenty five years of
age, for after that period you will find it
rather hard to make a prudent match, and
any other match is folly y-worse than folly.
Any other than prudent match is an out
rage upon yourself and upon the poor thing
you wed. Any other than prudent match
is just to perpetuate misery, living woe. If
you be poor, better remain single in pover~
ty, than to be the abject slave of poor
gentlemen. If happiness be the object of
your marriage, do not marry gentleman
under thirty-6ve years of age, who is not
intelligent, of good position in society, and
who is not rich. Young gentlemen of the
present day do not make good husbands,
even when rich. The why and wherefore
they do not, as in former years, will not
undertake to say, but, nevertheless, it is a
fact.-WIDow.