The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1856-1888, 1860-10-04
Love N wife. and Care for IA vife.

We wish every husband would copy the following
into his memorandum -bCOk-iu iHdeiibis ink "WO-
men must be constituted very differently from men.
Il word said, a line written, and &c are happy; omit
ted, our hearts ache a. if for great misfortune Men
cannot feel 1t, " guess at it; If they did, the most
careless Of them would De slow 10 wound Us 20. The
grave hides many = heart which has Been stung to
death because one who might after all have loved it;
after a certain careless fashion, was deaf, dumb and
blind 70 the truth in the sentence We have just quoted,
or, If not, was 1t least FESTIVE and impatient with re-
CARL 70 IL. Many men, marrying late in life, being
accustomed only 10 take care " themselves, and thar
IN the most erratic, rambling, exciting fashIon-eat-
ing, drinking, sleeping ami walking whenever their
fancy, good cheer and amusement, questionable or
unque=tionable, prOmpted-c0me AT last, when they
get tired Of this, with their selfish habits fixed a. fate
TO matrimouy. For q while 1t i novelty. Shortly,
il is strange as irksOne, this always being obliged to
consider the comfort and happiness Of another. 10
have something always hanging on the arm which
used to swing free, or, at most, but twirl a cane.
They think their duty done if they provide food and
clothing, and refrain, possibly, from harsh words.
All, is il: Listen to that sigh as you close the door;
watch the gradual fading Of the eye. the palIng OF the
cheek, not from age-she should be yet young, but
that gnawing pain at the heart, born Of the settled
conviction that the great hungry craving Of the soul,
as far as you are concerned. must 20 down forever
unsatisief. God hep such wives : and keep them
from attempting % slake their souls thirst at pol
soned fountains Think you, her husband, how little
q kind word, a smile, caress to you, how much to
her! II you call these things childish and be-
meath your notice. then you should never have mar
ried. There are men who should remain forever sin
gle. You are one. You have no right 10 require Of
a woman her health, strength, time and devotion, to
mock her with this ~shadOwy, unsltisfying return. A
new bonnet or dress, q shawl, - watch-a.ything but
what a true wOuan's heart must crave sympathy,
appreciation, love. She may be rich in everything
else, but If she be poor IN these, and Is good woman,
she had better die. There are hard, uHlOving, cold
mOnstrOsIties Of wOmen-raree xceptiOns-whO neither
require love nor know how 10 give 1t. We are not
speaking Of these. That big-hearted, loving, noble
men have occasionally been thrown away upon such,
does not disprOve what We have been saying. But
even q man thus situated has greatly the advantage
Of n woman in a similar position, because over the
needle n woman may think herself into an insane
asylum, while the active, outdoor turmoil Of bushes.
life Is at least a sometime reprieve TO him. DO You
ask me, Are there no happy wives : God be
praised, yes, and glorious, lOyeable husbands, too,
who know hOw to treat q woman, and would have her
neither fool nor drudge. Almost every wife would be
; good and happy wife were she only loved enough.
Let husbands, present and prospective, think Of this"
Lddy.