Smyrna times., 1860-11-08
ROW TO CURE LOVE.
by an old Maid.1

cure you from being in love with him.
The man was IN love with married my sls-
ter and really thought that should die; but
no human creature guessed my woe.
On the wedding day, when | stood at my
SISTERS side, as brides maid, and heard the |
solemn words that gave TO the little, unthnk-
ing girl beside me the princeIy locking and
gifted man, who stood we'll nigh delGcd in my
imagination, was wrung by such deadly PAIN
that ! c"G.d not bear it; and scarcely was the
ceremony finished ere fell ia anting, and was
caught in the brldegroom's arms.
"Why, Elsie, are you SICK Z" heard him
sag, as consciousness, only momenlarIly sus-
pended, began to return.
"No," said |, as soon al could speak, #" but
told you | never could stand up in those
shoes"
Blessings be on tight shoes forever! NO
body thought of doubling that they were the
cause otmy faint
Wei, my sister, who was poor little goose
III household matters, would have me to live
with her. tried to avoid such fate in every
way could, but in vain. had to comply with
her wishes in this respect. All but 1t was
hard and bitter work fer me to see all that
saw, and hear all that | heard between those
married lovers. Many and many time was |
obliged to fly to my room to hide the tears
! that would gush as | contrastcd my situation
with that ofmy pretty sister.
Oh how forsaken, desolate, and unappreci-
ated used to feel. | was really pitahle. Be.
cause the love of my sisters husbs nd had not
come 10 me. was dlsgusted with the very ef.
fort to live, and wished thai | were dead.
But had sense enough left to be aware that
this state Of feeling must some how or other,
be overcome; and | soon had reason TO be
I ful that lot
from them.
For had | departed, taking with me the
ideal character which my fervId Imagination
had bestowed upon Jasper, | know not how
could have learned TO regret HIM.
| had exalted him in my thoughts to an at
tltude of unaPproachable excellence, and had
in true young iudy fashion, concluded there
was not on earth another like hrm.
! But the intercourse of daily practical life
rapidly cleared trom my eyes all this agreea
ble illusion, and began to see in Jasper Just
man, Ike other men, very aXacling, and very
troublesome about The house.
1t was long time before came down t
the bare fact Every pose lble way that a 70
mantle und lively fancy could take to continu
it's demigod on the pedestal mine took
i but slowly, surely he came down, snd in
D., years time | found myself quite calm and con
2 tcntented in my maiden estate, not exactl
owning that | was glad had not got Jasper
: but very far indeed from regrettIng that wa
9 not his wife.
J. Poor Ida she could not come any wher
"a near meeting the demands her husband mad
on her time and patience, and she was conse
Guehtly obliged to turn him over to my care.
is Now Jasper, you must know, thought h
n was rather genius, and he also thought tn,
r all the world ought to be delighted to ministt
=, to hlm.
u 1t was" Ida Ida Jane Jane !" all the tin
he was IN the house, and soon as he had g
,e all he wanted, instead of sitting Gown vii
= his poor little wife, to talk with and cheer h
up,-tor her health and spirits were rath
'e pOOr-aWay lie went TO his own enjoyment. al
she saw him no more until midnight. lie hi
i never anything to tell hOr-ncver anything
say-unless he would talk very sweetly al
y toolishly, making her really vexed al
G. asha med.
"Oh, be off with you" she would say "yt
:, never treat me as though had common sens
y you won't talk at all to me as you do to ever
nd body else, and you needn't think you ca n ma
w it all up by flattery, and Stiffness and kisses
q. Jasper never got angry. lie cared too lit
Al for poor lda's scoIdlng to do that. lie wou
merely keep on with his nonsense as long
the fit was on, and then he was cir to busEe
ad or to pleasure, and none to hinder hn.
,r. There was never any positive unkindness
- his part towards his wlfc-only utter negle
'1' IJa BY and by ceased to feel this. She learn
* to expect nothing from her mate-to give
* everything to his ways-and for her there "
tranquility, if not happiness. She knew I'll
she was not neglected for any other womt
iiu and that satisfied her. Her only rival IN /
OF thoughts and affections of her delighted hl
Ies band was his own superalive self.
oh AS tor me. the reactlon in my mind wos CO
plete; and in a few years time | found
much difficulty in preventing myself from
The ter disgust aud dislike toward the selfish E
nj. worshpper, as | had before found in restra
Of ing my love tor-what supposed to be Ja
=. er.
"o have never married, and never intend
marry for, TO tell the truth, | am not qu
aid disinterested enough to make up my mind to
- foot, ball, or to go through the married v
"' mans purgatory, for the sake ofany man Il
by have yet seen. My experience with
u. once adored Jasper has convinced me that
keep away from man that one loves is not
ont way TO cure aR attachment. The truest "
ire. is to get thoroughly well acquainted with
In. learn to look at him as he really is, and y
of love will, in most cases, turn TO contempt.
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,ort Ir is fOnnd that for nnrsons 10 orOuiNa