Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1860-06-13
From the Sunday Times.l
Wbv YOu Marry!

A female acquaintance of ours, who cx-
pected to be bride last Monday evening,
received, instead of wedding, billet
from her intended husband, informing her
that he was suddenly called upon to go in
to the country for his health, and was not
exactly aware of the moment when that
health would permit him to return! We
regret to say, for the sake of the craft, that
the suddenly afflicted young man was Il
printer AS the young woman he wss
about to cspouse is unimpeachably reputa-
bic, his detection caused no little specula-
ton among her friends, as we'll as bitter
humiliation to herself; but, apart from the
empty language of gossip, it seems to he
the general impression that the fugitive
from mntrimony was frightened from the
altar-frightcncd by II contemplation OF
the possible expense of supporting his wife
in accordance with her pOst-nuptial antici-
pntOnS. The young lady jauntily alluded
TO "pi-anncr" as one OF the necessities OF
domestic economy the allusiOn came TO
our printers cars, and, Mortified ut the
household picture it produced, he inconti-
nently fled, 81 traitor to his love, his faith.
and his promises of II marital future!
We uarratc the above as q simple fact,
and not as 81 f,nciful theory; but our object
iu doing it is to ask how many young men,
who fully appreciate the advantages Of" "cOn-
nubial hlcsscdness," are deferred from an
enjoyment of them by this very fear Of an
inability to meet the extraordinary cXpcc-
tationS of the young women with whom
they are willing to interlink their fortunes!
4 piano is nothing, as II mnttcT OF expense
to those whose means it cannot seriously
affect, and whose social condition cXacts
musical resources; but the parties we have
referred to both belong to the industrial
class Of our population, and earn respect
able subsistence by their daily labor. y
piano to them would he Il supcrtiuous
luxury, and although it is probable that
the fair spinster had no serious intention
of indulging in the purchase of such an
instrument, and only desired to Pique her
female associates with an aiiectation ot a
little mock elegance, her imprudcnce cost
her II husband! How many other young
women are Iust rs uncousciously throwing
away husbands by similar imprudcnccs?-
How many arc, in their vanity urthOught-
lcssness, daily and nightly uttcring notions
of silly cxtravNgauce which, in the hands
of malice or garrulity, are made the ready
means of dismaying many a loving he'rt
in its view of matrimony?
1t is 81 common complaint now, both here
and in Great Britain, that while the ohitu-
ary columns of the newspapers continue
as crowded as ever, the marriage column
dimshes in interest most surprisingly
Death triumphs, as usual, over all things
mortal, but Hymcn appears to have degen-
Grated as ~ conqueror both in dignity and
authority He has shrunk from Philip
of Mnccdon to Morrissey of Troy, and no
one counts his victories. But why is this?
Men fall in love just rs readily now as they
ever did-so do women; but the neCcSsI-
ties of the times compel men to think even
when they are in love. Those necessities
have no such effect upon too many women!
The worst of is that the vast array OF
Young women who labor for living, and
should therefore think most, are those who
think least They absorb all their roman
tic notions of life from the demoraliZing
scnsa1ion-st0ry sheets of the day. They
learn to call common sense 'old togyism,
and n iudicious economy meanncss OF
spirit. They would all be scwing machine
Lady Arabcilas, or book-toldIng Laura
Matildas, and they expect their Adoniscs
to be noblemen in deep disguise, and theii
husbands to he Monte Christos, working
at Il trade only to conceal the sources Of
the wonderful wealth they are dying TO
lavish upon the "object of their idolatry."
Now, how can sensible man i'll humble
life, make up his mind to marry woman
with her mind so depraved by vicious
reading, and her tastes so corrupted by
luwlcss fancies? And how can II woman,
thus spoiled, hope to possess herself OF
worthy husband, or appreciate him ii she
gets one?