Memphis daily appeal. [volume] (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, 1860-03-25
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Why YOUNG xxx HEHAIN sfNsLE
Frcm ne Crayus for Harhf
No nan Of much observation or delicate ep-
preciadon Of character can lock into our snclai
lcircIes and not discover a democratic Tulgarty
not much inferior 20 that pervading oar pol!n-
cal cabsia Our women, though sn1rt and IN
lteHivent. are too prone TO an il-brec pertae3s
which rather urcFokes The angularities of the
intellect thar the more elevated feelings OF the
heart. To be dependent on or subordinate te
man IN any Of The relationships Of life Is to
our women a feeling Of degradation, something
against which their natures rebel. This saw
age instinct Of Independents leads them 70
sEun the Inequalities 90 ~inseparable from
every happy hone, lest miuistration Of then
might In some way be coupled with mental at
tributes, or din the tinssl OF their wardrobe,
or the gloss Of their upholstry. With a good
disposition and the proper training, every wo-
man OF sound mind and body can Be useful,
"ntle but very few can adorn or add lustsr to
les Ia which they move.
the cIrO- al charms or treat originality OF
Great psrsu- excuse a woman's neg
mind NAV pometimes s-,Nortant ohces
Isct Of the more humble ", atone for
Of life. but can. however, In no wsy . the
the injury which this neglect does - 81
economy q life. Hitherto the easy acqua.
ton OF wealth and the many new openings
for the daring enterprises Of Young men, have
kept our social circles from being ov~ercrowded
hv spinsters . but the times are fast approach
ne when our Young men viii hesitate to as
sumo the tryirg obligations OF married lie
upon the mere commercial prospect OF making
I money By risky speculations. Young men -
character and education, az in Europe VIII
Z rather live single and maintain their own per-
I sonal independence and dignity, than draw
families around them and become their mate
/ rial siares. Besides, the future is destined TO
give 10 ceIibaev a dignity and virtue which Il
has not Tad in the past. i is for time alone
to vindicate its rights
In The growth and prosperity Of clubs, IN The
Increasing disposition Of yonng men to assoei-
| A. with each other apart from the other ser,
in their constant presence at places Of public
amusement without ladies, may be seen The
/ evidences Of increasing celibacy. Ibis must
/ have a tanning, humbling effect upon women
must wen them Of their savage Independence,
and render them more true to their social obi
cations, more alive to The necessity OF beeom-
Ing. net heuratively, but really, social angels
Humility, modesty, diihdences are three OF me
NEST beautiful qualities in q women, and are
ren.rafv found only in natures as noble and
l elevated bv inheritancs as bT cultivation Our
social circles are barren and chaotic without
them orderly refined and eoitying Win uhem-
They are a. highly important in the doctrines
Of Christianity as theT are in our secular
civilization. adon our homes as well as our
] nnblir assemblies, promote harmony and put TO
resi- mauv Of the discordaHt elements Of our
natures. Our youth, however, are very desu-
tuta Of then our teachings and practices, our
social srrsnrsments and r~iValries, our pride
and ambition, are vsry foreign 70 their growth,
ifnot poisonous 10 their maturity The afee-
tons Of the heart have no outlet-have no soil
70 grow fn-have no sustenance from our su-
psrhcisi and materislistie education
In the narrow, dry and contracted e%ounten-
sncsr Of cur Young people, IN the csre-worn, [
wrinkle4 and thought tangled looks. are to be
seen the ravages wrought BY the vitiated con
diti1n Of our unusually raw social system. he
black shadow Of our daily obligations is con-
startlv resting on us, is frstting away The best
impulses OF our lives, and disturbing and bar
rowing up the midnight hours allotted to re-
pose. We banker after riches, we sigh out
our souls for positions, we pine for aristocTatic
or gold-gilded connections. we shudder at our
own lionel ness when the world ceases to be
noisy around u.s. when our vsnityis not uekled,
when or self-importance is not Inflated By the
circle in which we move, without ever think
ing Of the impassable gulf between all iris
and our true destination Es Christians and
members Of a civilized community. Need we
wonder, then, II the social keys seldom yield
higher tones than those relating to the kitchen
and It's inmates, to the low gossip and frivolous
conduct Of a certain clique Of fashionable
gipsies2
We are glad to know our women 20 to
church, admire their ministers, and participate
usefully in everything pertaining to both, but
see no necessity on their part to be constantly
talking on the subject; we are glad to know
they have a good doctor, a good music OF art
teacher. but cannot tolerate an eternal tongue
rafting about them we are glad to know that
mothers have had their daughters highly ae-
eomplished and fathers their sons, but could
do without a parental shower Of words on the
matter: we are glad to see fine furniture, fine
houses, efficient servants, fashionable millinsrs
and dressmskers, but hate al weaTisome
speeches and tantslizing discussions about
then. The few hours set apart for social re-
creation and communion might probably dis
psnss with such matters they are foreign 10
them, and ought 70 Be delegated to other
times and places. The conversation Of women
ought-at least, II not nstructive-to be re-
freshing and entertaining, ought 70 cast new
life into the care-Worn souls Of business and
professional men. Their qusulousness, their
loneliness and their taWdriness loosen the
bonds between them and men, and begst a want
Of manly sympathy FOR them upon which alone
thew can securely rely.
II parents are not able OF willing 10 give a
marriage dover to their daughters, and have
them nursed thereby in ahueHt ease, they
ought at least 10 feel the religious obligation
Of giving them a good domestic training and
a thorough disciplinstion in everything relat-
ing to household management and household
economy. These useful qualities are seldom
without an important bearing upon The union,
happiness, and general well being 81 every
family, and tell powerfully upon the prosperity
and moral conservation Of our Successors.
They are az gold compared 20 the fashy and
superficial accomplishments OF most 81 our
Young people, and serve as pillars Of support
when reverses oTer-aks Us ana the thorns q
adversely spring up about our pathways.
How afteE do the voung-H he dreamy, the TO-
mautfc, enter upon the stern and trying duties
Of married life without knowing anything
about them? How often, consequently, does
marriage become the grave Of an their cher
ished bones, the prison % their idealized lib
critics, the chsrHel house Of their most beautiful
feelinEs2 Though women may worship the
mundane, there is something in their immortal
souls which viii never let them be content with
if alone; It is their social mytt ology which
they must cast aside before ascending to a
higher sphere Of existence and faith.
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