Daily national Democrat., 1860-04-14
DaiIu National 9rmutrat,

c,.,.r,oxs HER sEx.-A Marysville lady
..nonding with the S. F. Times, takes
.1;tor TO ask for bis severe reflections on
w. ovtravagances Of the fair sex in Calfor-
=. She says, very truthfully, that the ex-
..orocanoes m of women appeal more forcibly
,he eve. The rustling silk and the shin
-, ;ewelrv cannot fail to be seen and noticed
hnt I the money which goes for wines and
.;,,.rs ct cetera, vanishes unseen and un'
.'nrted Men are to blame, too, she says
ho costliness Of the decorations of the
..v on oocount of the undisguised ndmira
,,on which they bestow upon these decora-
",ns Now. there we take issue with this
cf.ir ladye." Not one man in fifty knows
,rbstber ladys dress be a superb brocadt
~ IN ordinary silk, or whether she have OF
uo,,iton lace or less costly material They
onlv know whether she appears elegant, OIL
neat or graceful in her attire, and if she
dress with taste, she will be called wei
dressed" or beautifully dressed" though
Ana year nothing more than the ordinary
material What we mean by "ordinary ma
,oriop ia that which is not positively coarse
NOR sunerlatively fine, but medium Of the
two Many ladies imagine that gentlemen
ora odmiring their costly dresses, when il
reality they are only admiring the TASTE
with which they are adapted, and the gen
eral ease and grace of the figure. Ladies
themselves and dry goods clerks can prOba'
bly tell how much this or that lady's dress
IA worth and what was the cost OF her ooh
net or the snowy revealments OF her grace
fully lifted skirt. but the great majority o
men know nothing at all about it, and care
less They only know that the lady is hand
some, graceful, elegant, lovely, and can tel
whether she was tastefuly dressed or not
but that is ALL Ask them, if she had on a
brocade or tarlton or whateverelse>you-
call it, and they couldn't tell you, if they hat
70 he hung for it. The ladies-God bless
'ec-can be assured that the men care pre-
cious little indeed at what cost so far as that
i.eoncerned) |. feminine is dressed, so she
look, wells beautiful waman in calico i.
worth M re in the eyes Of the other sex than
an ugly one in brocade The wealth of love.
illness far exceeds the mere trash of silver
and gold OF that which the silver and gold
purchased.
As taste Of this lady correspondence
quality asa champion of her sex, we give
the concluding portion of her letter to the
Times;
We're young men to show less admiration
Of the costly decorations of our sex-were
they to do, what they do not do as a general
thing pay more attention to those who dress
simply and live quietly-were they, bv in
Producing literary subjects to try to raise the
tone of conversation, they would soon find II
great change would take place in even our
fashionable society. But, allow me to ask,
hr, how many of our young men could sus-
tain conversation, say for half an hour, on
literary subjects? 1t seems to me. that in
one point, you take an extremely selfish
view of the case. What right has Il Young
man. whose income is but 81 300 u year, to
ass the d lighter OF wealthy parents to leave
her luxurious home and share his meagre in
Gomez You doubtless will say the right of
love But is ant this a selfish exercise of
that right2 If she loves him truly she will
resign all these lnXuries, and though she may
"crecly wish at times for accustomed pleas
ures or qualifications, she will not wound his
feelings by repining. But this does not
make IL any the less selfish on his part No,
Ie man of moderate means should seek II
wife of modei ate means. and thus avoid the
evils you so touchingly describe. Also, you
Ignore the fact that, in these United States,
@ there is no landed aristocracy, there are
several different aristocratic circles, each
claiming for itself preRminence mean the
nOneyed, fashionable, and literary. Now.
you will find. generally, those who aim for
tsinction by fashionable attire, etc, are the
least worthy of the three, and are commonly
aIed snobs. To this class your remarks ap.
ply, and to no other
No, Mir. Editor, our women are not all. bv
any means, as you describe. There is such a
class Must confess, but they are looked
upon both with sorrow and contempt by the
fur greater portion; and allow me to saw,
that from my heart ! pity you, I at your
acquaintance is limited to that circle. No.
California can. / believe, boast of rs many
selt-denying, industrious, frugal, and intelli-
gent women as men.