Smyrna times., 1860-11-01
MISCELLAN NEOUS.
RON the COrnhi Monthly.
I.--sTS CT EA.1.AG1 Pzz.-P3SALS.
Ly An L. perj"ncod CagPcgoa.

liz An L yer;rncc1 ClGp.30a.
ilost women allow that in the course of
thct9 lives they have gone through AT least
0Ace tic ordeal of a " proposal" but thua tacY
feel Bound IL honor not 20 disclose circumstan-
cca Und particulars. Men natu ally enough
utterly refuse t1 detail 'ho,r c3Ncr .oEcea on
THIS subject. Their hdih or ticorsiaEa sits \,
tAc head Of their table, GHd the mys'ica words
used 10 induce T to accept that happy posi-
ton, whether INSPIRED by the feelings Of iac
moment, or gH,ucd by the light Of numcrou~
previous taI.urC., We arc ncvc: OL0%Cu 10
know. /, therefore, as an elderly matron, hop.
tor some gratitude from the f.slug generation.
if | Oiier few suggestion, and write Down i
such information On this mysterious subject as .
have stored Up IN the course Of lcrg life. (
in the first place, then Avoid too Ench
haste IN matrimonial matters. 4 c.cVcr writer
IA the SGiGrd"y Et,,e'D recommends no man /
10 marry III he lac seen Il beloved with 4
cold in her head. th;8 affection viii stand .
this test, nothing, lie thinks, can chlI i; bu.
tins writer, Gather from internal evidence in
"i5 own article, s younT and 4 bachelor, and
has evidently never made 4 sea vOyage. How.
ever, i theory IS good, SO far as i goes, aud
might: Il generally acted uNoD, prevent some
o. ihe .3crc;c"PS arising from has,y o.icr3 Of
marriage. OhC such occurs 10 me at tbs mo-
mcnt. 4 proposal was wEitten and sent By
TIE post II the days when letters travelled
quietly az the rate CT ten miles an hour on the
mail coach. The anxious lover Tor the first
week brc1taicss,y expected tie reply, but il
DID not come. Tae ncx. y eek he pincI, nnd
was a'ccpicss, stu TO answer. TIE thrd
/ " tc. ne became Indignant. \ civil achn7w-
!etgcmcnt was lns due. She was beart,ess
ava HIrt." The next week he Gcspised hcr,
ard congratulated hmseIfon his escape; and,
"ncn az ihc end OF It, he received his own let.
ter back from the Dead Letter Oiice, because
he had, IN his agitation, forgotten 10 direct IL,
he rad sc completely outiived his love that he
never proposed TO that lady at oil.
In tho second pace: Always deal with
principles. If a girl is too young to know her
OWN mluG, you had better wait Til she is older :;
and II she Is too undecided to Judge OF her own
feelings, why not choose some one little VII
ser | know 4 fine dispos tion which was
soured, and the course Of two lives materially
dafkened, by churllsh old tather, who never
told his daughter Of the declaration Of attach
neat he hsd received for her, because he con-
s.d.red the Incotle c.Icrcd 10 bo lnsuaicicnt.-
She thought her feeiinSs had been trlfied with
an the man heartlcss .ilrt. Many years aE-
,erward sne found out, 10y accident, low much
she had meJudged him, but it was then toe
LAKE.
let mo recommend young girls to ehun the
jn0u " 30 Is, even when Ile hiGg love, wrapped
Lp IN himself and his own pursuits, instead OF
LeIEg hbiC TO th,ow his mind into their occu.
ral!on5, or TO sympah;Zo with their teolings.-
Such man is either narrow minded or mar.
rOH-hc1r;ed. | once saw midd.C-agod Inva.
I'd making love 20 Young C.rl. After making
; great ciIors to secure an opportunity cf meet
ing her, he drew his char lose to hers, lcoh-
/ cd H;o her face, sighed AeuVIly, drew hls chan
i, still closer, aud, WAnic she looked Gt hIm IN as
=, ton shmonI, ana !, IN the distance, stgaiGcd my
cars to near what tender remark followed al
tbs preparation, / heard him whisper witt
great emphasis, "Who Is your DOCTOR"
= need hardly say that the proposition fa!ict
h which followed this well. judged commence
!, meat. more IardOnCbte case CT man'l
absorption IN hls own pursuits was that OF {
" very shy lover, whose one idea was horses
# lie never found courage to propose till he had
persuaded the lady To 20 IGto the stable ant
= hook at his fdvotlte horse. There he spoke
and there she answered yeS. But the was IA
tural and pardonnbie; shy man may nee,
: this van'age-ground, and feeling his own in
l. trrlor.ty IN the drawing-room, may yet b'
}. aware OF his superior knowledge and supcG.o
power in the stable, where his hor-c Is ii
. throne, and he himsclfa king.
s. IA.r.iy.- Never express strong de'crmina
e t!ons on the subject OF marriage unless yol
mean 70 break thcm. have erdom heard Al
h Ga bachelor declare that he had quite decide
Is not to marry, without feeling sure that III
:, SUBJECT VS. cn5rossrE good deal OF IN
thoughts, and soon utcrwoyd seeing his maI
riaTe announced IN the papers. Il man as
:, surcs YOU he could never marry widow, or
1t last young lady, or girl who IS fat, he is sur
Id 10 do il; and when the young glri5 who homo
me with their confidence assure me that tie
N never could marry a man who IS short, or VIII
IS can't ride across country, or who wears
It. beard, or who has only five hundred pound
'd Sterling year, or q country squire who ride
q without straps, or forgels to wear gloves,
X consider that their doom is sealed, and thi
II their husbands viii be tie opposite Of the
lis youthful ideal in these exact particulars. Br
n people fall generally cH cote 0Ht on ?e8ci
and the ,.pn G&i ofthiS generation Is certain
te " not 10 idolIzc too much Warning, ther
he fore, on this head Is, perhaps, unnecessarily
ne Rather, remind ;hcm that inauguration Is,
Yn Schiegc! tells Us, garden Of Eden within u
aIr which man fought TO dress and keep with
ry bounds, not ruthlessly fell.
NV | plead, therefore, that a little romance
still left around The proposal, even in this m
ney-making und money seeking age. Let Il
words bo spoken at a time and IN place wh!t
he imagination may love TO dwell upon, and b
lst ware of the example Of Sir @. p, q we
to known physician. lie rs said to have roll'
e. the note in vii ch bo asked for the Duchess
RI. IS hand, round phlai OF medcin". 81
ro. accepted the bitter draught, but refused Il
oil. man. have also heard that a beautiful a
led accomplished lady, who had become an en,h
hat siast in farming, with the view Of benehtii
re- her tenants aud depen ants, was "propos
cen to- in a new pig sly by an eminent agrc
ine turalist, while they were discussing the Va
for GUS arrangements and improvements viii
ew might be made in the building. Here an
lbt- crossing pursuit in common had assisted t
ern denouement; but such similarity OF taste m
ear be but temporary, as is a fraiI foundation
in lasting union.
{ Of A north country gentleman, master
A nj ~ ,Inl,ti AMI