The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1856-1888, 1860-05-17


T~ vo-t t~Is Hs sw-ss-1f MlDpLs7o~.
have often hal occasion to remark the fo5titude
with which women sustain the most overwhelming
reyerses o: fortune ThC=. disasters which break
down the spirit q {. man, and PROSTATE him in the
dust. seem o. call forth al the energies u the softer
sex. ami give such intrrpiiIty ami elevation o. the
character, that 10 times u approaches 70 subiiuity-
Nothing can Lr more touching than To behold = soft.
tender female. VIII hal been all weakness and depend
enSe. and ahve 70 every trivial ruu-uUr--. while
treating the prosperous paths q life. suddenly rising
IN mental force 10 te the comforter and support Of her
husband under misfortune, and abiding with III
shrinking drnuess. the bitter blasts q adversely
~ the vine, which has long tSiUei IL graceful
foliage about the oak. and been Iiaei by it into sun
shine, viii. when the ha-iy plant i fled by the
thunderbol,.c cling round il with its caressiug tsulrils,
aud bind mp IT, shattered bouEhs: - i it beautifully
ordered BY Providence. that woman who l. the mere
dependent and ornament Of man in his happy hours,
should Oe his stay and sJlIcs when suitieu with sud
den calamity; winding herself into the rugged recess
ses Of his nature, teuderiy supporting the dropping
head, and binding up the broken heart.
I was once eOngrltula;iug = friend, who had
AROUND him q blooming family, knit together IN the
strongest affection. Il can wi>h you no better lut,'
said BE. with enthusiasm, than 10 have a wife and
children II you are prosperous, there they are 10
share your prosperity; Il otherwise, there they are 10
comfort you And, indeed, l have Observed that =
married man filling into misfortune i more apt %
retrieve his situation IN the world than . single one;
partly because he = more stimulated 10 sVe-ti0u by
the necessities Of the helpless and beloved beings who
Gercr1 upon MN Tor subsistence uIt CIfeuF because
his spirits are s,othei AMI relieved by domestic en-
dearmsnts. and his self respect kept alive by finding
that, though all abroad = darkness and humiliation.
yet there : still a Little world u: love 20 home. OF
which he : the monarch Whereas a single man =
apt 20 run % waste and self neglect; % fancy himself
lonely and ablri1nel, AMI heart 70 fall 90 ruin like
some deserted mansion, for want OF Ar ichabitgut-
These observations call @ mind q itrIe domestic
story. Of which | was once = wires Wy intimate
friend. Leslie, hal married = beautiful ami accom-
plished girl. who bad been brought u2 IN the midst
Q: fishioEabls life She had. IL j. true, no fortune,
but that Of ny friend was ample ;aui he delighted IN
the anticipation # INDUCING her IN every elegant
pursuit, and administering to those delicate tastes
and faucies thar spread 4 kind q w~itciery about the
sex "Her Afe." said he. 'shau be ike I airy
tale"
The very difference in their characters produced an
harmonious combination; be Tls q a romantic and
somewhat serious cast she was All life AMI giaine-s-
2 lave often noticed The mute rapture with which he
would glz, upon her in company. Of which her
spriehtly powers male her the delight; ani how, IN
the midst OF applause, her eye would still turn 70 him,
ss IL there alone she sought favor and acceptance.
When hanging on his arm, her slender form cUntras-
ted finely with his tall, manly person The fond con-
filing air with which she boxed up to bin, seemed
20 call @rth q flash q triumphant pride and cherish
ING tenderness, - II he dotted CT his lovely burden for
its helples=ness Never did q couple set forward on
the fCNery path Of early and we'll situated marriage
with = fairer prospect Of felicity.
Il vas the misfortune q ny friend, however, TO
have embarked his property in large specuIations; he
hal not been married many months, when, ty a sue
eess0u q sudden disasters. IL was swept from him,
and he found himself reduced almost % penury. For
n time he kept his situation TO himself, and went
about with 4 ksgrari coaEteuauee, and a breaking
heart His life Wa hut a prOtractei agony; AID
what rendered IL more insuPportahle was the neces-
sity q keeping up a smile in the presence OF his wife;
Tor be could not bring himself TO overwhelm her with
the news. she saw. however. with the quick eye Of
affection. that al was not well with him She mark
81 h- altered looks and s;isei sighs, and vas not TO
be deceived By hi sickly aud vapid attempts ~ cheer
Fufrg-z - ru-Laf all har GrrTrN-f- ruuqrE unl
tender blandishments 70 win him hack TO happiness;
but she only drove the arrow deeper into his soul
The more be saw cause 20 love her. the more tortur-
lag was the thought that be was soon 20 make her
wretchei- \ little while, thought he. and the smile
will vanish from that cheek-the song will die away
from those EpS-the lustre Of those eyes will be
queuched with sorrov: and the happy heart which
now beats lightly in that bosom, will be weighed
down ike mine, by the cares and miseries Of the
world.
At length ne came TO me one day, and related his
whole situation in = tone Of the deepest despair.
Wen l heard hir3 through, 1 inquired, Does your
wife know all jhis:' At the question he burst into
an agony of tears. "For Gods sake ." cried he,
''if you have any pity on me don't mention my wife
it Is the thought OF her that drives me almost TO
madness -
And why not :" said L ..She must know it,
sooner or later; you cannot keep it long from her and
the intelligence may break upon her in q more start
ling manner, than If impaired by yourself; for tire
accents Of those We love soften the harshest tidings.
Besides, you are iepriying yourself Of the comforts of
her sympathy; and not merely that, but endangering
the only bond that can keep hearts toEether-an IN
reserved community of thought and feeling. She
viii soon perceive that something Is secretly preying
upon youI mind: and true love will not brook re-
serve; It feels under-vaiued and outraged, when even
the soETOTs Of those II Loves are concealed from it,
80 but ny friend TO think what a blow I am 10
give 70 all her future prospectS-how am | 20 strike
her very soul 70 the earth, by telling her that her
husband Is a beggar I, that she Is 10 foreEo all the
elegaucies Of lfe-all the pleasures Of gay society-tO
shrink with me into indulgence and Cb-curity To
tell her that ] have dragged her down from the sphere
in which she might have continued 10 move in con-
slant bEightnesS-the light Of every eys-the admira-
zion CT every heart How can she bear poverty she
has been brought up in all the reinsments Of opu-
lence- How can she bear neglect: She has been the
idol Of society. o it Will break her heart, 1t viii
break her heart.
saw hs grief vas eloquent. and I let it have it,
foE. for s9rrow relieves itself by words. when MS
paroxysn had s~ubsiiei. and ne had relapsei into
m0oiy silence, ! resumed the subject gently, and
urgei him 20 break his situation ~ once 20 his wife.
He shook his heal HOurnfGliy but positively.
But how are you 20 keep 1t from her: II Is ne
eessary that she should know il, that you nay take
the steps proper 20 the alteration Ci your ciTCumstau-
es- You must change your style . liyirz-nay,'
a pang TO pass across his c0untenance,
don't Jet that afiIct you | an sure you have never
placei your happiness in outward -how-you have
yet friends, warm friends. who vii not think the
worse Of you ar being les spie- diliy lodged; and
surely 1t does not require . palace to be happy with
Il could 1--we with her he cried. convulsfvelv.
Sin a howell ] could 20 down with her into poverty
and the dust 2 I could c1uII-T0i bless her.
erred he, bursting into a transport Of grief and ten
dernssz.
And telieye ne, my friend said 7. s'eppiugup
and grasPing him warmly By the hand, believe me,
she can Be the sane With YOU Ay, more; u Will be
n source q pride AMI triumph % Eer-it will call
forth ali the latent energies All fervent sym2athies
Of her nature; for -he will re0ice b prove that she
loves you FOR yourself There = in every true wO-
mans heart a spark Of heavenly IRE which lies dor
mant IN the broad daylight q prosperity; but which
kindles MP, ami beams and tllzes in the dark hOurCf
adversely. No nan knOss what the wife Of his
bosCm I5-no nan knows What = m7uisreriug angel
she Is-unul he has gone with her through the fiery
trials Of this world"