The River Falls journal. (River Falls, Pierce County, Wis.) 1857-1861, 1860-04-04
Mistellantous,
A Glimpse into FL ONE Matters
why young Men remain Sin
a# -r gle.

our social circles from belng oyereroWded
by spinsters; but the times are fast APP.
preaching when our young men will hes
itate to assume the trying obligations Ct
married life upon the mere commercial
prospect of making money by risky spec
ulations. Young men Of character and
education, as in Europe, will rather live
single and maintain their own personal
independence and dignity than draw
families around them aud become their
material slaves. Beside, the future is des-
tined to give to celibacy dignity and
virtue which it has not had in the past.
1t is for timo alone to vindicate its rights.
In the growth and prosperity of clubs,
in the increasing disposition of young
men to associate with each other apart
from the other sex, in their constant pre-
sence at places Of public amCssments
without ladies, may be seen the evidence
! of decreasing marriages and increasing
| celibacies. This must have n tanning,
humbing effect upon women, must ween
them of their savage independence and
render them more true to their social OBJ
/ legations, more alive to the necessity of be-
coming, not figura;ively, but really, social
angels Humility, modesty, diffideuco
are three of the most beautiful qualities in
a woman, and are generally found only
| in natures as noble and elevated by in
| heritance as by cultivation. Our social
circles are barren and chaotic without
them: orderly, refined aud edifying with
| them.
In the narrow. dry and contracted
codntenances of our young people, in tho
careworn, wrinkled and thought-tangled
| looks, are to be seen the rayageS wrought
tv the vitiated condition oil our unusually
raw social system. The black shadow
OF our daily obligation in constantly rest
! ing on us, is fretting away the best i'm
| pulses of our lives, aud disturbing and
narrowing up the midnight hours allotted
| to repose. We banker after riches, we
SIGH ont orr souls for positions, we pine
for ariStocratic or gold giidcd connections,
| we shudlor at. our own loneliness when
| the world ceases to be noisy around Us,
when our vanity is not tackled, when our
self-inportance is not inflated by the cir
Gle in which we move, without ever think
inc ofithe imyassable gulf between all
this and orr true destination as Chris
tains and members of civilized commu-
nifty. Need we wonder, thea, if the So
ciaI KEYS seldom Weld higher tones than
those relating to the kitchen and its in
mates, to the low gossip and frivilous,
conduct of a certain clique Of fashionable
gipsies.
We are glad to know our women 90
to church, admire their ministers, and
participate usefully in everything pertain
inc to both, but see 10 necessity on their
part to be constantly talking on the sub
ject; we arc glad to know they have a
good doctor, q good music or art teacher,
but cannot tolerate an eternal tongue rat
Ting about them; we are gal to know
that mothers have had their daughters
highly accomplished and fathers their
sons, but could do without 8 parental
shower Of words on he matter; we are
glad to see fine furniture, fine houses,
efficient servants, fashionable milliuers
and dressmakers, but hate all wearisome
speeches and tantalizing discussions about
them. The few hours set apart for social
recreation and communion might profita-
bly, dispense with such matters; they are
foregn to them, and ought to be delega-
ted to other times and places. The con-
yersation of women ought-a at least, if
not instructive-to be refreshing and en-
PERTAINING, ought to cast new life into the
carewern souls of business and profession
al men. Their querulousness, their
loneliness and their tawdriness, loosen
the bonds between them and men, and
beget want of manly sympathy for
them upon which alone they can secure
ly rely.
If parents are not able or willing to
give marriage power to their daughters,
and have them nursed thereby in affluent
ease, they ought at least to feel the relig
ious obligation of giving them a good
domestic training and a thorough disci-
plination in everything relating to ho1se-
hold management and household econo-
my. These useful qualities are seldom
without. a important bearing upon the
union, happiness and general well being
ofevery family, and tell powerfully upon
the prosperity and moral conversation of
our successors: They are as gold COM
pared to the fiashy and superficial accom-
plishnents Of most of our young people,
and serve as pillars of support when
reverses oysrtake us and the thorns Of ad
vcrsty spring UP along our pathways.
How often do the young, the dreamy,
the romantic enter upon the stern and
trying duties of married life without
knowing anything about them how
often, consequently, does marriage be-
come the grave of all their cherished
hopes, the prison oftheir idealized liber-
ties, the charnel house Of the most beau
tifui feelings. Though woman may wor-
ship the mundane, there is something in
their immortal souls which will never let
them be content with IT alone; it is their
social mythology which they must east
aside before ascending to a higher sphere
of existence and faith.