The register. (Monroe, La.) 185?-1861, 1860-05-03

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wHrYOUNG OBSERVATION-DISCLOSURES j
No mapiofmdch observe sion Or sdslfcate ap
preciation of character can look into our 70
cial circles and not discover I democratic vul
garity not much inferior TO- that pervadine
our; political ,cabals. Our women, though
smart and, intelligent, are too prone TO an Ill
bred pertness which rather provokes the sngu
larities Of the. intellect than the more ,eleva
ted feelings of the heart To be dependent OF
or subordinate to man in any of the relation
ships Of life ig to our women a feeling of deg
relation, something against which their no
lures rebel This savage instinct of indepen
dence leads them to shun the hospitalities 6,
inseperable from every happy home. lest minis
tration of them might in some way be occu
pied with menial attributes, or dim the tinse
of their wardrobe, or the gloss Of their uphols
try. With good disposition and the proper
training, every woman Of sound mind and body
can be useful, while but very few can adorp OIL
add luster to the circles in which they move.
Great personal charms or great originalit,
efmind may sometimes excuse woman's ne
glect of the more humble yet important Offices
Of life, but can, however, in no way atone fol
the injury which this neglect does to the econ
omy of life. Hitherto the easy acquisition O
wealth md tho noonv nou, onap;,,rs -, Az
daring enterprises of young men, have kept
our social circles from being overcrowded by
spinsters but the times are fast approaching
when our young men will hesitate to assume
the trying obligations ofmarried life upon
the mere commercial prospect of making mon
ey, by risky speculetions. Young men o.
character and education, as is in Europe, will
rather live single and maintain their own per
sonal independence and dignity, than draw
families around them and become their materi-
al slaves. Besides, the future is destined ia
give to celibacy dignity and virtue which II
has not had In the past. 1t Is for time alone tc
vindicate its rights.
In the growth and prosperity Of clubs, in the
increasing disposition Of young men to ascoci
Ute with each other apart from the other sex
in their constant presence at places of public
amusement without ladies, may be seen the
evidences of increasing celibacy. This must
have tanning, humbling effect upon women
must ween them Of their savage independence,
and render them more true to their social obi
cations, more alive to the necessity of beconl-
ing, not 6guratively, but really, social angels
Humility, modesty, df6dence, are three of the
most beautiful qualities in women, and are
generally found only in natures as noble and
elevated by Inheritance as by cultivation
Our social circles are barren and chaotic with
out them orderly, refined and edifying with
them. They are as highly important in the
doctrines of Christianity as they are in our
secular civilization, adorn our homes as we'll
as our pnblic assemblies, promote harmony
and put to rest many Of the discordant elements
of our natures. Our youth, however, are very
destitute Of them our teachings and practices,
our social arrangements and rivalrics our
pride aud ambition, are very foreign to their
growth, if not poisonous to their maturity.
The affections of the heart have no outlet
have no soil to grow in-have no sustinance
from our superficial and materialistic cduca-
tion.
In the narrow, dry and contracted counten-
ances of our young people, in the carc-worn,
wrinkled and thought-tangled looks, are to be
seen the ravages wrought by the vitiated con-
dition Of our unusually raw social system.
The black shadow ofou daily obligations is
constantly resting on u.s. is fretting away the
best impulses Of our lives, and disturbing and
narrowing up the midnight hours allotted to
repose. We banker after riches, we sigh out
our souls for positions, we pine for aristocratic
or gold-gilded connections, we shudder at our
own lonelencss when the world ceases to be
noisy around us, when our vanity is not tickled,
when our self-importance is not inflated by the
circle in which we move, without ever think
ing of the impossible gulf between all this and
our true destination as Christians and men,
bers of civilized community. Need we won
der, then, if the social keys seldom yield higher
tones than those relating to the kitchen and it's
inmates, to the low gossip and frivolous con-
duct of a certain clique Of fashionable gipsies I?
We are glad to know our women 20 to
church, admire their ministers, and participate
usefully in everything pertaining to both, but
see no necessity on their part to be constantly
talking on the subject we are glad to know
they have good doctor, good music or art
teacher, but cannot tolerate an eternal tongue
rattling about them we are glad to know
that mothers have had their daughters highly
accomplished and fathers their sons, but could
do without a parental shower of words on the
matter we are glad to see fine furniture fine
houses, efficient servants, fashionable milliners
and dress Makers but hate all wearisome speech
es and tantalizing discussions about them. The
few hours set apart for social recreation and
communion might profitably dispense with such
matters; they are foreign to them, and ought
to be delegated to other times and places. The
conversation Of women ought-at least, if not
instructive-to be refreshing and entertaining,
ought to cast new life into the care-worn souls
of business and professional men. Their quer-
ulousness, their Loneliness and their taxdriness
loosen the bonds between them and men, and
beget want of manly sympathy for them upon