Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1860-12-14
VOLUME 2S, NO 4.
Learning a Child to Govern.

The other day father drove up 10 q
neishbor'. house. and while he was nlking
he allowed his boy. two and q half years
old. 10 alight from the carriage and run
about with two or three other children in
the street. The child had such good time.
that phon his father called him bo did not
wish to 60. 50 he shook bis head and did
no. move m inch. Ills father bade him
come again. 10 which he replied "ugh,"
With shake OF the head. all OF which IN
d,ca,ed that he was fully decided TO have
hi. own way. Had tie father 'colded him
and alisbied from tho carriage To compel him
to obey the little fellow would probably have
.cimperod away as fast as possible. In.
stead OF doin; this, however. the father re-
sorted to thi. cIpedicn, leaning forward,
and pointing 10 the stop Of the carriage.
" Come, a" said he. "and pot your foot on
the step a, father does, and get right in"
I, was a new and pleasing idea to the ehlld.
and at once ho len his plays, ran to tho
carriage. when his father added "hks
hold OF my hand, and pot your little foot
on the step. and you will get IN" With
grost delight he obeyei. and was soon on
the seat prai,ling over the wonderful feat
he had performed.
Two things, probably Influenced the child
to obey. Tho hr't was Morally. l, was
new thing to get into a vehicle this wav.
and children. as well - their parents. arc
fond Of new 'hings. Ilc had Away. been
taken up and put on the 'sat, as other
packages not human are disposed or, only
with additional care and il was great
rarity to ascend some other way.
The second thing tha, Influenced him
vas, doubtless. 10 do 'ridi oiier p,op', DO.
hi, /. characteristics Of children. They
desire 70 Do a. their fathers and mothers, or
elder brother. and sisters DO. III, b. the
ll,in: II ba.ke, of wood, or moving
wheclbarrov load of dir, or stones, the hoy
o' two. three. or four year. old will want to
try. I,i,of little use - tell him be can
not 10 Il. The cHpcrimen, only will con.
vince him. The child has seen Others get
into the cnrriisc readily. and i, was treat
ior him n 10 the same.
The father nigh, have easily had trouble
with hi. 10y. 1.-The hal spoken 'iernly u
him. and proceeded to take him to the car.
riase by force. a race of rod or -. before
be overlook him. would have been the con.
,equencc. AMI screaming and kicking would
hly, followed. enough % satisfy all behold
ere. Perhaps the climax Of the affair would
have becn whipping. How much bc.iar
il wa.. both flr the father and child, that
another way Of securing obedience WAS
adopted in those circum'iAnce.. We say
in tho-s circ1m.'ancc.. because thi. eHpe-
dent might haze failed in Others.
I, ia, imporian, for parents to rsmem.
bcr the consideration, that evidently inau-
cncrI tho boy In th, instance. I, may bo
of-ryicc t. them frequently in di'persins
rrown, from the brow Of childhood, with
ont the use OF the roI. They have all no.
tc,,i how the mention Of any,hiu; new AMI
interesting hn. often turned the fre,luInr-s
ani subhnrnns.. " 4 child 10 smile. and
dlciIiiy. Perhaps a child two or three
years old i, CRYING Justify because some
thing j. denied him. and hls mother says
80. Charlie, come here and see the chick
ems, at the same giving him place nt tho
window &, zee the chickens in the yard.
Ora horse 'ras'ins by when the disorder
and crying begin, and she say. "See that
horse, Charlie, how Ia, be goes, " placing
him at the siniow. TO see. Ia tn. way
hi, mind is diverted from bis trials, and
what otherwise might terminate in a seold.
ing and punishment, is turn,i TO smiles
peace.
Often tho proposal OF some new play,
calling hi, attention IN new way 10 an old
toy will accomplish the Object desired.
whers this can he done, it j. preferable -.
severity Of manners or treatment. The 81.
version Of ehild's attention irom the things
that are trial. or occasion OF stubborn
uc,s. at the ,imc. has often accomplished
more than the 6e'cc,t look or the mos, i'm.
posing rod. Happy Home.