Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1860-05-17
For the Yorkville Enquirer.
LETTERS FROM EFATHERs--No.4 4.

snow you tne n3 my sWnoie tamiiy Is III irou oe-
ing proud, vain and e1trayagsut; and, at the
same time, not having money enough to keep
ssthe mare growing" Management was, that
the class Of aristocracy merely wealthy, and
nothing else, is extremely selfish that; conse-
quently, the poor man gains position among
them only by the hardest struggling; and that,
IL he Iooses his money after making it, he must
falLa fat and dead fall at once, and no help for
it have been unfortunate enought to belong to
this class Il is the classI euyied when young;
the class wanted and tried to enroll myself
amongst; and succeeded -for Providence gen.
orally rewards us, according to ourwishes and
exertions. Every other idea With me and my
dear wife, was subordinated to the acquisition
Of money and The display of opuiepce. .'ourre-
ligion was only q kind, Of humiliation, or condo
Iseension, on our part, that served toshow of
OUT apomp and circumstance to the best ad-
vantage; asdark bsck. .groundssre the bestfor gay
and brilliant pictures, and dark ground is best
for fashy embroidery. We educated dour daughters
more for the display Of extraneous attractions
than fol; substantial mental culture and real re-
.fnement. IusEsrs in building cur home and
furnishing it, and indeed, every thing we did,
we had both ears shut to 1propriety sand good
sense, both eyes open to hecharnsof "Vauity
Fair, and our whole heart giyen over to Che
..lustsof the eye ahd tie prida Of life. =
The kind Of training received iu- sshome es-
tablished on, and guided BY, such debasipg ideas
rs these, is entirely unftsfor girlsszho. occupy
the position mine Ndosnow. Letme devote this
letter to the illustration Of this point ! say my
daughters are educated to- live iiyesp Of ease and
afiuenee; but they are really poor girls: They
are parlor toys; but they ought 20 be t'sewing
machines =, They ought .toS be Nbees, but they
are butterflies. among the flowers Whereas
they ought to make and save money, they spend
it, Iashonld be extremely glad to see them cook
little; but they only eat.' would sssoon at
tempt to go through the eye o. q needle, as to
get them to thread one and use it. The fact is,
my dear wife and have. slowly, but certainly,
instilled into my daughters, minds o feeling Of
shame and repugnauce to altdomestic employ
ments. * - ''as4 >' - saaf's 70 'S''
II wish you look q. this matter not in its
bearings upon the whole family but upon my
marriageable daughters simply; Three Of them
are old enough, aud willing enough, to marry, if
they only could have g Spsssabls opportunity.
But, in spite of my: high spirits when 4 wrote to
you last, fear Jane and Eliza, especially, are
destined fora long time yet, "to 'Waste their
sweetness on the desert air" Their beaux from
the city have been to ride with themonc again;
but from theirboisterousnessan fast driving, as
they come and go,I am inclinsd'to think they
are ''fast young men, catharine's prospects
are somewhat brighter. She was fortunate
enough, by her beauty and loyeabieness-sor she
has both-to move, two or three years ago, the
young heart OF the printerI mentioned last
week; and by the little help she is begin
ming to- be to her mother, both in the housea and
the Kitchen her housewife qualities are receiv-
ling some development. She, I hopean trust,
will yet be possessed of habits and tastes and
qualifications to make 8 poor man Q wife.
But Jane and Eizsare acceptable TO no class
Of beaux that lean conceive of They are not
, rich, to attract the avaricious; they are not
educated, to please the scholar; they have no
industry, economy and household management,
TO suit the poor man, or the wealthy man Of
business. The mere gentleman of leisure
doesn't want them; he is generally D fortune.
seeker, and wishes wife whose means win sup
| port him in life ofesse and Incidence. In
! short, men generally marry for either wealth
and accomplishments combined-or talent
and real education-or character and habits Of
industry; and neither Of these classes Of men
would nay daughters make . good wife. It a
common saying, in reference to marriage: "0h
tif was to fry, Ireckon could get somebody u
But I aui coming to doubt this in Jane and
fEfiTa's case for they have been trying these
six or eight years, and have not succeeded yet
My honest opinion is, that all girls, rich or
poor, should know something about the duties
of the household and kitchen-the dairy and the
vegetable garden. Riches take=to themselves
wings and fly away. 1t cannot be any harm for
any woman to understand oil about anything
and everything that the most business woman
has to do in life. If she is, or becomes poor,
such knowledge proves blessing to herself and
family; if rich, all her lady-like accomplish
| III fba ID o1
servable, if she has a domestic and business
turn. will speak Of this again. 49,.
Benjamin was decidedly tipsy when he returned
from ths,city last evening, only at the late hour
Of ten. I sent him at three, in hurry, to get
some things for me; he met some Of his associ-
ates; went to bar-room; drank = gambled, I
H fear and so, did not come back till that late
hour Of the night he forgot, at that, two or
three things that told him to get When a
young man begins to drink and carouse and dis
sipate, you can no longer put any dependence in
him. -
Benjamin is old enough now, to begin to be q
great help tome tried to give him finished
education bnt after the trst two or three years
Of study he became tired; concluded the name
Of scholar was not worth the labor and depriva
ton necessary K. obtain it. and thenceforth grew
from bad to worse, until now he is yagabond
and a "prodigal son." I say he might be a
great help to me. he might go to our grocery
and attend to my part of the business there sc
that could devote my whole attention to my
general business and the retrievement of my for
tune. But instead Of that he usually gets ur
about nine o.. ten o'clock; breakfasts |; hang,
laround the house, yawns, frets, and plsguss th'