Columbia Democrat and Bloomsburg general advertiser. [volume] (Bloomsburg, Pa.) 1850-1866, 1860-04-14

Vi inuulgence, III Is readily granted. FER
haps she wants time for fancy needle-work
or some other employment that pertains to
pleasure or display, and therefore children
are allowed to do what otherwise would
be forbidden. 1t takes time to correct the
faults of the young Work must frequent
ly be laid aside and domestic matters inter-
rupted, in order to do it. This is often
too great sacrifice for parent who wants
every moment for something else.
But it matters not what is the cause of
this indulgence, the direful fruits are the
same in all cases. 1t provokes children
to wrath
4. Parents provoke children to wrath by
undue severity. While it is true that over
indulgence leads to ruin, it is also true
that over-severity does. This is particu-
larly the case with severity that is the re,
suit of passion. Some parents seldom ad
minister punishment except when angry
50 long as their patience is not tried, and
their affection is not crossed, they allow
their children to do many wrong things
with impunity. But when your patience
is exhausted, and anger RACES, they fly to
the rod, and use it unsparingly. The child
readily perccives that passion is on fire.
He knows very well that he is punished
because his parent is enragcd. Then he
concludes thad, if it is right for his father
to whip him in anger, it is right for him,
though child, to receive it with q like
spirit. So he becomes surly, angry, and
vlndictive. The father of Madame Roland
was passionate uneven man. and often
subjected her to almost brutal treatment.
The last act Of this kind, on which her life
seemed to turn, occurred when she was
seven years old and it was done to COM
pei her to swallow medicine. Years af
ter she referred to it in the following Ian
guage: 81 experienced the same inhexible
tirmness that | have since felt on great and
trying occasions; nor would it, at this mo-
nent, cost me more to ascend undauntedly
the scatfold, than it then did to resign my
self to bl utll treatment, which might have
killed, lut could not conquer me-" In
this case, undue severity, the result of an
ger, provoked a spirit of angry dctcrmina-
ton, which thousand rods could not sub
due. The case of Byron was similar.
His mother never punished him unless she
was angry, and then her punishment was
barbarous. His young spirit was aroused
against her at an early age, and he grew
up without particle of love for her, and
the end you know. Punishment inflicted
in wrath can do know good, but evil. 1t
may secure temporary and formal obedi-
ence, but th2 heart i, injured thereby. 1t
Is driven to un.lial thoughts and plotting.
SAID boy, about twelve years old, to la
dy who was admin toring wholesome coun-
sci to him in view Of bis having stolen some
of her money; said he, after having listen
ed attcntively and seriously. 'My parents
never talked to me like that, If they had
shouldn't have been SO bad boy" On
the next day he called to see this lady a
gain, apparently grateful for her timely
words. His were Christian parents, who
supposed, probably, that severity only
could cure him Of his stealing propensity
He is thought, however, to have perpctra-
ted two thetts for every whipping. 1t is
one Of those cases which show us that dis
position must be studied, if we would
properly control the young. Another case
might have been curde by just such severi
~ lItHluenI lnaC Will save one cnlld
will spoil another.
There is,a golden mean between indul-
gencc and severity to be sought out if pos
slblc. He who can discover and observe
it, has one of the secrets Unsuccessful fam
lily government, lie will find necessarily
involved therein the control ofhis own tenn
per, Sclt-government is the beginning
nd Intip pf al
be it i'll the family or state. He that is
slow to anger is better than the mighty
and he that ruleth his spirit than he that
taketh a city, Napoleon may achieve
glorious victories at Magenta and Softer
ino, when he is not fitted to govern a child.
3. Parents provoke children to wrath
by Furnishing them for wrong doing with
out regard to their motives. Children of.
ten do wrong things ignorautly and acci-
dentally. When the boy, George Wash.
ington, cut the apple-tree with his new
hatchet, We was Ignorant Of the conse-
quences. He did not know that such cut
ting would kill the tree, Some fathers
would have punished him at once, without
stopping to see whether the boy understood
what he was doing. A little child is al
lowed TO mark an old book with pencil
for amusement, 1t fills some of his child
ish hours with JOY. By and by he takes
the best book from the parlor table, and
delaces it in the same way, for which he
is punished, or severely reproved But
possibly he has received no instruction that
teaches him why he can detace one book
and not another. He did not mean to do
wrong. There was no evil intention in his
heart. Why, then, should he be punished
Or reproved Instead Of either, explana-
ton and counsel is what the case demands.
But faults of accident are more common
than those of ignorance and they are fire.
quently punished, when the child may be
actuated by the best of motives. A chill
is allowed to play with ball in the house
until window is broken thereby, when
termination is put to the sport by immediate
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