The Anderson intelligencer. [volume] (Anderson Court House, S.C.) 1860-1914, 1860-09-18

ner disproportionate to their dement's,
those who offend us by pretensions of
any kind. We are apt to fancy that they
despise us whereas, all the while, per-
haps, they are only courting our admira-
ton. There are people who wear the
worst part of their characters outwards (;
they offend our vanity; they rouse our
fears; and under these influences we omit
to consider how often scornful man is
tender-hearted, and an assuming man.,
one who longs to be popular and to please.
AIDS TO coNTENTMENT.
Many unhappy persons seem to imagg-
inc that they are always in amphitheatre,
with the assembled world as spectators;
whereas all the while, they are playing
to empty benches. They fancy, too, that
they form the particular theme of every
passer-by If, however they must listen
to imaginary conversations about them
selves, they might, at any rate, defy the
proverb, and insist upon hearing them
selves we'll spoken Of That man has fall
len into pitiablc state of moral sickness,
in whose eyes the good opinion Of his fel-
low men is the test of merit, and their
applause the principal reward for exer-
ton. A habit of mistrust is the torment
of some people. 1t taints their love and
their friendship. They take up small
causes Of offence. They require their
friends to show the same aspect to them
at all times; which is more than human
nature can do. They try experiments to
ascertain whether they are sufficiently
loved; they watch narrowly the effects OF
absence, and require their friends to
prove to them that the intimacy is exact
" upon the same footing as it was before
Some persons acquire these suspicious
WAYS from natural difidence in them
selves; for which they arc often loved the
more; and they might find ample com
fort in that, if they could but believe it
With others, these habits arise from a sci
fshncss which cannot be satisfied. And
their cndcavor should be to uproot such
disposition, not to soothe it. Content
ment abides with truth. And you vii
generally suffer for wishing to appearoth
er than what you are whether it be
richer. or greater, or more learned. The
mosl, soon hncc lns IN instrument OF tor
ture Fit objects to employ the intervals
of life are among the greatest aids tc
contentmcnt that man can possess. The
lives of many persons are an alienation
of the one cngrossing pursuit, and a sort
of lstless apathy. They are either grind
ing, or doing nothing. Now othose who
arc half their lives ferccly busy, the re-
naming half is often torpid with quies
cencc. A man should have some pursuit:
which may be always in his power, ant
!, to which he may turn gladly in his hour:
Of recreation.
And if the intellect requires thus to b.
provided with perpetual objects, wha
must it be with the affections? DEPEND
upon it. the most fatal idleness is that o
thc heart. And the man who feelsw
!, Of life may be sure that he does not low
his ftlow creatures as he ought. l hav
t no intention of putting forward specific
{ for real ailiictions, or pretending to teacl
, ,.n4n.d methods for avoiding grief. A
{ lone. however, as there is anything to b
f ,,one in = matter, the time for grievin!
,i,..ul il has not come. But when tn
subject for grief is fixed and inevitable
! sorrow is to be borne like pain. 1t is on
!, " Il paroxysm Of either that can justif.,
: us in ncglccting the duties which no be
reavcment can lessen, and which no sol
row can leave us without. And we may
y remember that sorrow is at once the lot
the trial, and the privilege, of man.
y HOW TO TRANSACT BUSINESS.
o In your converse with the world avoi'
: anything like Juggling dexterity. Th
proper use of dexterity is to preven
h your being circumvented by the cunnin!
d of others. 1t should not be aggressive
0 Concessions and compromises form
large and very important part of ou
Al dealings with others. Concessions mus
t generally be looked upon as distinct dc
f feats; and you must expect no gratitud
h for them. am far from saying that
may not be wise to make concessions, bu
: this will be done more wisely when yo'
understand the nature Of them. Ii
making compromises, do not think t'
1 eain much by concealing your views ant