The Ashland union. [volume] (Ashland, Ashland County, Ohio) 1854-1868, 1860-04-04

Locked up in womans love. 7 scent the air
VI blessings. when l come but near the house.
What delicious breath marriage sends forth
The violet beds not sweefef. 49, Z
MIDDLETON.
I have often had occasion to remark the for
titude with2whieh w~omen-sustain sthe-mos
overwhelming reyerses of fortune. Those dis
asters which break down the spirit of a nan
and PROSTATE Ihimsin the dust, seem to cal
Ctorth all the energies of the softer sex, ant
give such sintrepidity and elevation to tn
eharacter, that at times it approaches tosub
z 6mitg- Nothing can be more touching thar
50 70 behold a soft, tender female, who has beer
all weakness and dependence, and alive t.
every trivial roughness, while treading tn,
prosperous paths of life, suddenly rising il
= mental force to be the comforter and support
Of her husband, under misfortune, and abid
) :. ing With unshrinking frmness the bitter BLAST
~ Fofs adversely. s F9t
b''qa As the vine, which has long twined it
graceful foliage about the oak, and been lift
ed by it into sunshine, VIII, when the hardy
-bos plant is rifted by the thunderbolt, cling around
- u with its ,c~aressing tendrils, and bind up it:
80 shatteted boughs; 80 it is beautifully ordered
4ss by Providence, that woman, who is the mere
dependant and ornament of man in his happy
~sAhouya, should be his stay and %solace, Eher
ss- smisss1 with sudden calamity; winding her
self into the rugged recesses of his nature
tenderly supporting the dropping head, and
, ist binding up the broken heart.
1'.tI was once congratulating a friend, who had
around him a blooming family, knit together
81 in the strongest affection. az can wish you no
-. better. lot, /" said he, with enth ,siasm, ethan to
have a wife and children. If you are. prosper
Gus, there they are to share your prosperity, if
otherwise, there are they to comfort YOU
"a. And, indeed, I have observed that a marriedman
falling into misfortune is more apt to, retrieve
his situation in the world than q single one
partly because he is more stimulated to exer-
ton by the necessities of the helpless and be-
go -lovo1a hosn 49, ruh1s 6o~apI ,,oon l1po CO.. crhcio
:aStenee;5 ut chiefly because his spirits are socthed
and relieved by domestic endearments, and his
self-respect kept alive by finding that, though
all abroad is darkness and humiliation, yet
there is still a little world of love, at home, of
which he is the monarch Whereas a single
man is apt to run to waste and self-neSlect, to
. fancy himself lonely and abandoned, and his
xlheartto fall to ruin like some deserted mansion,
= for want of an inhabitant. =
These observations call TO mind a little do
nestle story of which i was a witness. My
Intimate friend, Leslie, had married a beauti-
p full and accomplished girl who bad been
brought up in fashionable life. She had, it is
.rtrue, no fortune, but that of my friend was
= ample; and he delighted in the anticipation of
INDUCING her in her elegant pursuit, and adj
=, minlster1g to those delicate tastes and fancies
that spread a kind of witchery about the sex.
"Her life" said he eeshal be like a fairy tale"
= 1.-The very difference of their characters pro
duced a harmonious combination; he was of a
romantic and serious cast; she was all life and
gladness. i have often noticed the mute rap
- ture with which he would gaze upon her in
company, of which her sprightly powers made
her the delight; and how in the midst of ap-
5 plause her eye would still turn to him as if
there alone she sought favor and acceptance
= When hanging on his arm her slender form
,contrasted finely with his tall, manly person :
The fond, c~on6ding air with which she looked
up to him, seemed TO call forth a flush of tri-
umphant pride and cherishing tenderness. as
IF he dotted on his, lovely burden for its help
a~lessnesss Never did a cnuple look forward on
the fowery path of early and well situated
marriage With a fairer prospect of felicity.
1t was the misfortune of my friend, however,
TO have embarked his property in large specu
%lations; he had not been married many months,
when by a succession of sudden disasters it
was swept from him, and he found himself re-
duced almost to perjury. For a time he kept
his situation to himself and went about with a
haggaid countenance and a breaking heart
His life was, but a protracted agony; and what
rendered 1t more insupportable was the ne
cessity ofkeeping up a smile in the presence of
his wife; for he could not bring himself toover-
wheln her with the news. She saw, however,
with the quick eye of affection that all was not
we'll with him. She marked his altered looks
and stuffed sfghs, and was not to be deceived
by his sick'y and vivid attempts at cheerful
ness. She tasked all her sprightly power and
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but. she only drove the arrow deeper into his +
soul. The more he saw cause to love her the
more t%orturing was the thought that he was
soon to- make her wretched. "A little while, !
thought he, and the smile will vanish from that
cheek--thes song will die away from those lips {
the lustre of those eyes will be quencbed
with sorrow;, and the happy heart which now t
beats lightly in that bosom will be weighed c
downs like mine, by the cares and miseries of c
the world. l
AT length he came to me one day and re- &
lated his whole situation in a tone of deep de- s
spair: When I heard him through, 1 inquired, c
TDoes- -yoar, wife know all this?" At the t
question he burst into an agony of tears G
For Gods sakeI'. cried he, eff you have any C
pity on me, don't mention my wife; it is the /
thought of her that drives me almost to mad 7
ness."
9@And why not ?" said 1. @she must know :
it sooner or later, you can not keep it long o
from her, and the Intelligence may break up
on her in a more startling manner if impaired r
by your self; for the accents o thoseawe love t
soften the harshe tid:ngs. Besides, you are il
depriying yourself of the comfort of sympathy; e
and not merely that, but endangering the on p
IL bond that can keep hearts together, an un- "
reserved community Of thought and feeling s.
She will soon perceive that something is Sc g
cretly preying upon your mind, and true love a
Will not brook reserve; it feels undervalued d
and outraged, whenever the sorrows of those "
1t loves are concealed from it" "
""Oi but my friend! to think what a blow 1 j
am going to gi=e to all her future prospects. N
How I am to strike her very soul to the earth, 1.
by telling her that her husband is a beggar ST
that she is to forego all the elegancies of life al
all the pleasures of gay society-to shrink
with me into indigence and aobscurity! To E
tell her that 1 have dragged her down from E
thesphere in-which she might have contipued b.
to move in constant sbrightness-the light of d,
every aeye-the admiration; of every heart :
How can she bear poverty?-she has been the 81