Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1860-06-11
Fs (wRITrEN FOR THE srAR.
Who Lady Should Marry, and Who Lady
should not Marry. &c

Ta - tWRIrrEN FOR THE srAR.
Who Lady Sheuld Marry, and Who Lady
should not Marry. &c.
ITAS FIsIcs Of a WidOe on rae Ss5jeef-eritieisnqs
ef IehioA Is respectfully trcued
lady should not marry a gentleman who
Is not her senior by at least fifteen years
twenty would be safer; for if the disparity of
ages be less, in one OF two years after mar
mage, the husband will be sure to regard his
~he as an old woman, and neglect her-in
other words, care nothing for her; and though
they may live together, and the world may
think ais well with them, contented and
happy, &c, the poor wife will rue her nun.
nals "in secret, in silence and in tears" Of
course am only speaking in a general way
there are exceptions in ali cases
Gentlem an do not love, nay, even like Old wo-
men; snd unless there be fifteen to twenty years
difference IN their eses, the wives will be re-
gsTdoE 81 Clc A".nen in one or two years after
marriage, and the husbands will spend every
hour they can from home, day and night teo;
and worse than that-and the least the moor
wives trouble themselves to snd out where
they go, and more particularly, what they do,
the better for their peace Of mind-their han
Piness. Their happiness they will never
dream of happiness. But with proper dis
parity of sges-ffteen to twenty years-the
wife will ever be considered young, ever be
treated with marked attention, kindness. de-
votlon, love; and the wife will love the hus-
baud, whether she loved him before marriage
or rot, and Of course will be happy, will enjoy
life, &c. ~
Next. q lady should not accent that is
should not marry a gentleman. unless be be
rich Indeed, she should not allow a moor
SeRtleEaaR to address her, because IL isn't a
compliment 70 lady TO be addressed bv a
poor thing None whatever. 1t shesld be
considered an objectionable insult; and no
poor man who really loves . lady will address
her. If he be gentleman.
no poor genuecaan has any business with n
"de None whatever; and they-poor gentle
men-should not be allowed to wait on ladies
at alt but be compelled to give all their time
70 business, to make money, to enable them TO
make some lady happy, by making her a good
husoanu- And every gentleman who has in
telllgence, and is sober, industrious and agrsa-
aeie enough to merit a sweet interesting wife
&c 2 make fortune by the time he gets to the
narriaSeable period Of life, viz:-fr0m thirty
h'e 70 forty-hve and if be does not by that
.lme accumulate fortune, let him slide along
In poverty, all alone.
Poverty and matrimony are not con,sr;.I
eHt antagonistic; and whenever and wherever
Oaey come together, then and there is an ex
ploslcn that never fails to blow love tbrougb
every hole in the house TO the winds. that nov.
erty leaves unrepaired Don't marry A moor
gentleman, whether you be rich or not. Don't
marry gentleman under thirty-fye wears of
age, even if you be sweet sixteen. If Won 40
htteen chances out of twenty you will repent
doing so; but marry gentleman who is be.
tween thIrty-hve and fOrty-fye years of ace
who Is pleasant and agreeable, sober, of FOOD
standing IN society, without UNPLEASANT con-
nectiOns to be thrown with, aud who has monav
doubt whatever.
Ihe poorest match lady can possibly make.
Is to marry the son Of a rich man. What think
you OF thatf 1t Is a fact, because they are the
poorest and most helpless of all gentlemen. II
Is true, tne sons OF wealthy gentlemen are gen
eFa'iy wei educated, 90, and il is also true at
tae same time they are least capacitsted TO
take care of themselves. They ALWAYS keen
an eye on their fathers wealth and the younp
lady who consents to marry one of them. never
fAlIs to hx both Of her eyes on the said old
gentleman's wealth before even the question
Is popped After marriage thew find the
wealth still IN the hands of the old pentle.
man, who holds on to the dimes as tiSht as
ever; won't give but a pittance and wont
die cant undertake to describe the disap-
Pointment, grief, despair. Then it is scufHe.
seu1ie' scuine' with the poor things. And it
Is always the case forty live times out of forty-
SIX instances. II he does not giUe his pron-
STty TO htS son before his BlnTTiape. he ,-,tY
Rot attey. Well, they scufle and semitic on
for some fifteen or twenty years. 1 forgot to
state, If the fair victims father has dollar or
Two ne could not we'll take out of the world
during the while the poor son of the rich mar
embraces the bottle, to enable him to stand mn
TO seufhing- Ultimately the old folks die
property all made over to grandchildren !,
Where is the poor wife who has seen or heard
OF her s1ace her marriage? .tF.F
Don't marry gentleman because his father
rs rich, unless he be pretty well 10 do indenenL
dent Of the father. The sons of rich gentIsper
are, generally, poorest of all gentlemen. and
therefore the very last gentlemen to be accent
ed Don marry q gentleman unless he he
pleasant and agreeable TO you, and be be rich
A gentleman Is rich when he is able 20 support
you IN the style, &c, enjoyed by those with
WnoIn you VIII associate, without being under
a strain, and to lay up right smart besides
Don't marry a gentleman under tbirty-6ye
years Of age.
III a UIdower presents himself and is All
right, except he did not make an affectiopate
husband before he was thirty-fye. and be be
thlrty-hVe, accept him-make you a good bus
band to a certainty.
W ho ever knew an instance where the dis
parity was some fifteen or twenty vesrz ana
the gentleman rich, the parties didn't live To-
Sether pleasantly, delightfully."- and hannv all
the while Not one instance TO the cantrarv
out OF ten thousand. The disparity should
not DC less than fifteen nor more than twenty
years 1hIs doubtless will be considered n
new doctrine, but II is true. Look around YOU,
and you will see 'N'
Lastly, young ladies, marry before YOU get
70 be twenty-four or TWENTY-FIVE wears Of ,ye
for after that period you will find il rather
hard TO make prudent match and auy other
match is folly-worse than folly Any other
than a prudent match is an outrage upon
yourself and upon the poor thing You wed.
any other than a prudent match is Just to
PerPetuste misery, living woe. If you be
PooL, peter remain single in poverty, than to
happiness be the object Of your marriage. do
nos marry gentleman under thirty-f fve years
OF age, who is not intelligent. of GOOD nosition
in society, and who is not rieb Yo,,n, gsntIs-
men Ronao Of the present day do not make good hus-
Sanus, even Wnen rieh; The why and where
undertake to say, but nevertheless Il i f.D, NV
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