Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1860-03-09

u eftraNagint, thatsh1 u wastctul' tn't h'
never finds her at home. that she will never
% out with him. or that she Is or does any.
thing which he desires her no, to do. does
shameful thing. and a cruel thing. beside,
making an az Of him.elf. A woman who
bruils her husband, faults. VII, tell. the
neishhlfs how much he seek, ,hc society OF
Other women, low much Do spends Tor CO.
sar.. how late he o ou. at night. how lazy
be is. how Ii,,ls he cares or what interests
her. how s,insY no !, wi,a ais money, AMI
that sort OF thing, sin, ag,in't hirslli, aud
consents. or inyolun,arily enli,t,, to pub.
lish that which 4. essentially her own shame,
4 husband and wife have ~ bushes, b tell
on, anothcr's faults TO anybody bat 10 ou'
another. Their grievances are 10 b. set
lied "a private, bitwcgn themselves and IN
public place. aal among friend, they ara
TO preserve toward. one another that nice
c5H..I .aiion aud entire r,.p,i,lulna's
which their relation enjoins. For .hey are
one IN the law aud Tor a man or wjman
10 publish the lac, tha, they irs not one In
hct, {. 70 ackn1~leis, th,, they are Law
ins in the relation or an unwilling lover
aud a compulsory mistress. l'n't that dis
gushing enough.
\ gr,nt dcL ofevil mig, b' prevented
between you II you would allow your ar'e-
tiOn to give itself natural expression. |
know Of husband, - proud and ',iG anl
.ariy ,hai they never haSea kiss or a ca
re,s VI fond worl Cor their wiv5' whom
they really love. know such husbands
Who have most loyelble wiyes-wiyc, 70
whom single icnd'r demonstration, that
shall tell to their hearts how insIpro oSIbly
plr..n, their face. AMI their .,5ieiy are,
and h,S fonily they are loved, would bo
hotter than untold snll,-wVcs % Hh'n
cars.,cs arc srce,ar than mama. and fond
word, more musical than robin.sonss In
,ho rain. They 81 through liii striving
tor thcm-''arns bad. Of happiness upon
thgir b1.oms thar mus, b. ki.s u into bloom,
o. wither anI anI hll. V, the cast iron
u.'.ni goss about hi, business without
even rlurleoa. "s,,l morning." eats
hi, meal. with Immense regularity. pro.
vide, Tor hi' family cIomPlarily. imasinc'
that t. ian excellent husband. ani enter.
t,..a profound c,ntsnp, Tor silly people
whr are fond of ono 90 .'i'r. Haven b.
THANKED thli there arc sumo in the world
,p whose heart. ihc bim,cl'. will not cling
lea, ~ thanked Tor The young olI hoy.
aui a.. y,4n: oli srls--hny, aud girls or.
c,-r--aho un;il the cy'nins of lIi' falls
up,n thcm. interchange the sweet carc,'rs
TIA. call hack the days Of coIrslip AMI ear.
ly murn:,' Thank Haven nv wife n'v.
G., .tow' old ihl. - long a' lock ai,rn'
t,r temples, br1Nn or gray, my finger shall
tly with It, that - long "a, | can si,, theirs
hall b, a place for her On ms knee and
,h.l - long rs can whisper AMI she hear.
.he .hal know ny fond confession that her
soul is mex, 10 mino-'inkel 70 mine
mius
lvi,h in ;ii, letter & impress upon you
tbc ilc4 which lew mar, r',r,1 appir-
cnily thoroughly c,urr..ruI, that you
the husband aaI wit--aro OHe--that YOU
can have NJ ssparatc p'.i,ions in so'isty,
that you should desire none. and that u ;.
within your ability. aud il !, most imperi-
lively your duty, 10 be harry together.
In 1Flir TO be what YOU should De 10 each
other. and in order 10 be happy yours Ives
-m your own heIrts-you should begin
right. You Oh bIlll be willing at oil time.
10 bear one ano,asr's 5urden'; aud m fact
| know OF m hcilcr rule Tor accomplishing
the end seek Tor you than by your con-
.iantly studying and ministsring to the
happine.. Of each other. Selfshns's is the
banc Of all lIle, aud especially Of married
lfe and II husband and wife devote
themselves to one another. happiness, re-
linqui,hing their own selfish Qualifications
for that end-thc task Is accomplished-the
secret solved. The path of such pair is
paved with gold. Their life is a song OF
prals,. All good angels are about them,
heaIing consultations iUr every SORROW, an
tidote- for every banc, rewards for every
labor. aud strength for every trial. That
/, essential marriage aud. as Paul Dom
hey said when Mrs. pinehin told him ,he.c
was nobody else like her. "ihai is a very
good shius."
Isuppo,l there is molicum Of romance
in most natures. and that II 1t gathers
abcu, any event /, is that Of marriage.
Most people marry ideals. There Is more
or lee. Of aeiious and fAllacious glory rest
ing upon the head Of every bride, which ev.
cry inehao,c husband sees and believes In.
Both men and women manufacture pcrlec-
tions in their mates bya happy process. Of
their imasinations. and then marry them.
Thi. of course wears away. by the time
the husband has seen his wife eat heartily
Of pork and beans. with her hair frizzled,
aud her oldest dre,s on, full OF the enter
prise Of ovcrhauling things, he ,ess that
she belongs to the same race with himself.
And .he, when her husband gets Up cross
m the morning and undertakes to shave
with cold water and dull razor, while hi.
suspenders dangie at his heels. begins to
Gee tha, man is a very prOsiac animal. In
other words, there is such thing as a
honey. moon, OF longer or shorter duration