Litchfield enquirer., 1860-09-13

| Ieeing, ma under somewhat careless eXte rior,-and that her temper was cast in na ture's finest mould All this I know, ane much more; and doubt not that MT. How ard will see these things as clearly, and ap preciate them as highly as 1 do. So chee1 up, my dear Susan, and instead of spending this weening time from your child, in sombrt forebodings be grateful to kind providenc, for giving her such a husband and trust hel confdingIy to lis care"
 While the mothers heart was thus anxion! concerning the future happiness of her daugh ter, MT. Howard and his youthful bride were as happy as the dearest friend could wish them. They had been married but week or two; yet even in so short space of time appearances indicated that Mir. AtwooPs prediction was likely to be verified. Heller had never been half as happy in her life be 1 fcre,-and never before was she half so SC date. She learned by experience that tho happiness of the heart is neither noisy anG mirthfal; that it induces seriousness rather than gayety. Her husband was perfect in her eyes. True, he was ratler grave for SC young man, and smiled but seldom; but when he did smile, it was like the break ing forth of a sun beam-inparting light and gladncss. But grave or otherwise, he was all that she wished him to be. Her respect for him equaled her love; both were entire He treated ncr with a dignfed tenderness, that left her nothing to ask.
 But time knows 10 indulgence not even to the most happy, who would gladly lay a finger on his flight to lelgthen the golden moments. The first months of welded life soon haste away; hccting months they are, and rush by to join tIe past eternity, and in their train come the cares, the dulics the trials, rercharcc the miseries of life
 The youthful bride commenced her married life with determination to please her hus- band in everything department, her aI- barrel and her housekeeping. About the first two, she felt no anxiety that which had won, would certainly retain him; and she would be careful not to fall into that sItc:cs of negligence, which but too often follows the marriage ceremony, and which is so well calculated to produce col,lncss, ifnot disgust Her domestic arrangements were a more s,rinus matter. She was but little more than eighteen, and though her cduca- tion in this particular branch had not been neglected, she yet had little skill in that de- parimtnt where experience is so>important. She made mal'y mistakes, and would have made many more, but for the near neiglbor- hood of her motEcr, vhcm she frequently consulted and whom shc found better Chan twenty books on domestic economy. But l,!en did her best and hoped in time that that would become easy which was HOW SC difficult. A. before said, she received to please hvr husband ill all things, and doubt- va not for an instant tEat Ee would be equally solicitors to please her. On ono 'ro'nt, s!tc anticipated d;firrcrce. Hrrpa- rents had so plainly told her of her faults, and had la'orct' so sedulously to correct tlle,n, that sic vas conscious of being far from what se ought to be; consequently, Ter hnshanG would have much 10 overlook and forgive he, on the contrary, was so correct $" perfect. that she would have !!tlie Of nothing to excuse But he had loved her, ad sought hcr for wife, knowing h-r to be d very imperfect creature, and would rot that love lead him to pardon all crrors--the more readily, ns thcy would not be w!itul :! nqncsiionably it would.
 With views and feelings and designs Ike these, Helen Howard began her married life :; and she conforlned to her plan as nearly, perhaps, as ones action ever conforms to ones rcsolution-ones practice to one's theory. True, she did not ind herself
 Sailing on a summers sea,
 When not breath of wind flies OCT it's surface.
 Some of her cares were irksome; some of Ter seIf-f|enials not 8 little painful. She found Mr. Howard exceedingly particular. This, however, did not surprise her; it was what she had antici pated. How could one so perfect in all thngs-p principles, manners, tnste-fail of being particular? But then it made it difficult 10 please him; and oiteutiIles, she was in donht whether the thing she de- cided to do, or the manuer of doing it, would be agreeable to him or not. When possible, she always consulted him on points where she supposed he would have any choice, bat ire quently she was obliged to act, when to con suit him was out of the question; and some how, it seemed to Helen, that almost every thing she did according to her own judge ment or taste, was directly adverse to his.
 She had not lived with her husband many months, before she learned that by a partic- ular closing of his lips, she could tell when he was displeased. For herself, she was g child in feeling, mild in temper, gentle and fascinating in manner; and after shc had be- come acquainted with the pecuiiarites of MT Towards disposition she would, in his moments of displeasure. twine her arms around his neck, ask for an explanation, cotl- fess her fault, and beg forgiveness. An af fcctionate kiss from him would dissipate all her uneasness, and lead to fresh efforts to please.
 Mir. Howard did not always wait to have his displcasure or disapprobation detected As time rolled on, and the bride was lost in the wife, he was not slow very plainly to tell her when he saw aught amiss; but the same process of reconciliation followed and al was we'll again. Though MT. Howard could blame, he never praised. He was of the opinion that praise is always injurious. He was not alone in that belief. Many persons seem to think that even the most meritec commendation must induce vanity and pride Pity it is that some who have embraced thi: view were not equally afraid of continua censure, or even of islander and detraction!
 Let no one think from the preceding pic ture that Helen was an unhappy wife. Sh' was far from it. No one could be unhappy who loved and respected a husband as sh' loved and respected Mr. Howard, and wh' doubted not that her affection was recipro cated. There were only occasional cloud that crossed the landscape, making the re