The new era., 1860-06-07
Love aWife and Care for a Wife

| wish every husband would copy in
to his memorandum book this sentence,
, from a recently published work "a
word said, line written, and we are
Happy: omitted, our hearts ache, as if
for a great misfortune. Men cannot
feel it or guess at, it; if they did, the
Imost careless of them would be slow,to
wonnd US. /"
The grave hides many a heart which
has been stung TO death, because one,
who might, after all have lovedf after
ia Certain careless fashion, was deaf,
dumb and blind to the truth in the SEN
tence we have just quoted, or, if not,
was at least restive and impatient with
regard to il. Many men, marrying late
an life, being accustomed only to take
care OF themselves, and tina. in the most
Ierratic. rambling. exciting fashion,
eating. drinking. sleeping and walk
ing. whenever thsr fancy or good cheer
AMI amusement, questionable or un-
questionable, prompted come at last,
when they get tired of this, with their
selfish habits fixed as fate, to matrimo-
ny. For while il is novelty. Short
ly, II Is strange as irksome, thus always
being obliged TO consider the comfort
and happiness Of another To have
something hanging on the arm, which
used TO swing free; or at most but twirl
a cane. Then they think their duty
done # they provide food and clothing,
and refrain (possib!y) from harsh words.
All, is it, Listen TO that sigh as yon
close the door. Watch the gradual
fading OF the eye, the paling Of the
check, not from ugc-she should be yet
young but that gnawing pain at the heart
born irom the settled conviction that
the great hungry craving o her soul. rs
as far as you are concerned, must 60
forever unsatisfed. God help such
wives, and keep them from attempting
10 sake their souls thirst at poisoned
fountains
Think you, her husband, how little
kind word, a smile, caress to you, how
much to her. 1fyou call these things
childish, and 'beneath your notice."
then you should never have married.
There are men who should remain for
ever single /; you are one. You have
no right TO require of fwoman her health.
strength, time and devotion to mock her
with this shadowy, unsatisfying return.
A new bonnet, dress, shawl, watch.
anything, everything but what a true
heart must crave sympathy.
ppreciation, love. She may be rich in
else, but if she be poor in
hese, and is good woman, she had
ett er die.
There are hard, unloving, cold mon
'rosities of women, (rare exceptions)
rho neither require love nor know how
give it. We are not speaking of
lese. That big-hearted, loving noble
zen have occasionally been thrown
way upon such, does not disproye
hat we have been saying. But even
man thus situated has greatly the ad
antage of woman in similar posi-
on, because over the needle, a woman
ay think herself into an insane assy.
IN, while the active outdoor turmoil
business is at least sometime re-
'ieve To him i7u ~ f9eW laa5
Do you ask me '.Are there no hanpv
lves!", God be praised, yes, and glo-
ous, lovable husbands, too, who know
wv to treat a woraan, and would have
ither fool or druid ge. Almost every
fe would be good and happy wife
ere she only loved enough. Let hus-
nfs, present aud prospective. think of
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