Spirit of the age. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1849-1865, 1860-06-13

on with an evil delusion that your husband deserved
our anger, when he really most required your love. o
is the cancer which feeds on those unspeakable emo =
ons you felt on the first pressure of his hand and lips. !.
alling can alone be fulfilled. Il your husband is has n
your example of patience win chide as well as teach :
eglect may impel him to destruction. Your soothing @
viii redeem him-your s~oftness subdue him-and the :
natured twinkle of those eyes, now filed beauti- .
uly with priceless tears, viii make him all your own" 7
Daily Progress. I
All a is very well; but, Mr.. Husband, Z,
will you answer our questions with that b
promptitude which you exact of us? Will
you swallow our advice, as complacently as
you expect us to swallow yours? Now, then,
how did you feel the first time you CRASHED
your teeth in the face of your trembling little
wife, just because one stupid button mouM
come off in the wash, and roughly told her
she ought to pay more attention to your
things and when she tearfully exclaimed,
"Oh, Charley, / didn't know it !" like great
bear that you are, you roughly replied that,
at was her business to know? Say, sir,
how did you feel when you saw the great tears
standing in her sweet eyes, the very same eyes
that you had lauded so highly in those pafnly
days of courtship, when she was an angel and
you-tried to be polite. How did yos feel
the first time you went off to a lecture with
out asking her to go with you and when
you found her weeping about being sighted,
you coolly asked her III she had takeaeoldfe
Had a fairy transformation into a Hotter
Tot could you have felt more comforA.ots or
civilized?
How did you feel yesterday when you went
home to dinner, and met your wife's smiling
face at the door-the very door you had
slammed to so suddenly on leaving-the very
face that had been sufused with tears for an
hour after your departure ? Tell us, did you
not think of your ~unmanly conduct? Did
you not feel that a key hole would have been
, welcome Judgement for your guilty head ?
: Do you not shudder at the thought Of what
; you are
e Now, Husbands, We mean to differ from
. you in one respect, we mean to be reasonable
: in our requirements of you, and we desire to
e have a rational confah with you this very
morning, for in truth you have written and
!, said so much about woman's duty meanwhile
neglecting your own, we fear.) that we must
o confess to being heartily tired of it; and as
} none of the married ladies will call you to taw
1--WE suppose they are afraid to try it, having
. tasted oflordly d~iscipline,) why, we'll eyenat-
tempt it ourself.
n Now, sirs, we admit that it is a wife's duty
to keep her husbands clothes in order, to re
r. place missing buttons, darn his socks, and
lie even patch, if necessary - then she should
Dr. ahoays be cheerful, no matter in what state
4 her feelings may be, she should answer yor
kindly, no matter how naughty you acees-
O. her and whom you neglect her she shoult
lie not notice it, but love you, toll for you, and
- smile on yoa, just the same. Woman's du
Id ty is plain-we have laid it before you-yel
nod and smile assent-our sentiments pleas
or you, we know.
p,Ssas. te~e cans ab4ae frowns.. a woftgo
Va you: What as gour duty2 Don't get III
easy; we're going to administer a little Who'll
some advice, palatable or notl Please tai
go it; it may do you good; at any rate it won
sn make you any oorse. Now, be kind to yo,
wives. If a button is off, ask her to sew it
MS for you; if your dinner is half raw, eat it ar
ary be thankful that it is not entirely so; if yo,
80 wife scolds you land she won't if you'll
9in obedient(, be silent and humble, it will pr
re- vent family jars. If she wants a new dres
get it for her. Give her everything she want
noo if you can afford it fyou cannot, tell her
gently; she'll be satisfied when she sees tn
adj you do your best, and that you have b
"S, happiness at heart, she'll be willing to we
: 70 her old dresses another season. She kno
snse that new fnery will not bring happine
Unwavering kindness and forbearance fri
tha you, will make her happier than the rich,
be- gifts that you can bestow, and a loving SIN
from your lips, reflected from her brow. "
q be brighter and beautify her face more tI
tbis the ~costliest tiara of jewels that you co,
xist- place upon it. Ifyou would keep the 70
blooming on her cheeks, let not the canl
worm of chilled affection and neglect en-
col into her heart. Would you preserve the j
eallv Gus brightness of her eyes, cause not the
nuch of Wounds love to rise within them. Wo
: ca you have her spirits light and elastic, Il
c;ne e nurse her feelings tenderly, and verify, ,
# it's will reap a rich reward; you will inevita
t re- be a cheerful man abroad, and a happy
nave at home.
9son, w
was We might go on and occupy a whole D
to of the Esprit" butremembering that "a w
tors, to the wise is sufficient. we desist tsierefr
loa .ne Humbly hoping that our feeble discourse n
be a lead you to reflection, we subscribe ours
Most Respectfully yours,
,6cial AInIn
May
f. S.-Never, upon any account, MARI
woman who has not brains enough to man
1t de- 10. h... -. -.
wing tha ;ntorsoronoo &c oHtou~e~1n "" ''
correspondents, who rail away about WON
~ duty, because they are at a loss for a sub
of his Let's have no more of it; throw down the
is in and take to the plough, if you cannot fir
m Is better subject to write upon, is our advic
! do them. You make so "much ado about n
such ing" you do not understand the case
hould string long sentences together about
aston. which you but imperfectly compreh
Dcn'tlet it trouble you. Weknow our d,
our reason teaches it us-we learn it from
9arlng mothers, and from a still higher and D
80 e.. source-our Bibles.