The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1859-03-17
MARRIED POLITENEsS.


There is much of truth as we'll as of that
kind of philosophy which comes into eve
ry day requisition, helping 10 strengthen
and brighten the ties Of social affection, in
the suhjoined brief article, taken from the
Ladies Enterprise:
will you? asked pleasant voice.
Ard tho husband answered, Yes, my
dear, with pleasure.'
1t was quietly, but heartily said the
tone, the manner, the look, were perfectly
natural, and very affcctionatc, We
thought how pleasant that courteous reply,
how gratifying it must be to tho wife.
Many husbands of ten years's experience
are ready enough with the common courtc-
sizes of poiteness to the young ladies Of
their acquaintance, while they speak with
abruptncss TO the wife, and do many rude
little things without considering them
worth an apology. The stranger whom
they may have seen but yesterday, is listen
ed to with Difference, although the subject
may not be Of the most pleasant nature,
with ready smile; while the poor wife, if
she relates n domestic grievance, is snubbed,
or listened to with l'y-concealeI impa-
tience. Oh how wrong this is-all
wrong.
Does she urge some request? go, don't
bother me-" cries her gracious lord and
master. Does she ask for necessary funds
for 'Susie's shoes or Tommv's hat 2"
"Secms TO me you are always wanting
money" is the handsome re,ort Is any
little extra demanded 10y his masculine APP
petite, it is ordered, not requested.
Look here, want you to do so and so !;
just see that it is DONE" and off marches
Mr.. Boor, with a bow Of gcn,lcmanly polish
and friendly sweetness for every casual ac-
quantancc he may choose to recognize
When'we meet with sucl houghtlessncss
and coarseness, our thoughts revert to the
kind voice and gentle manner of the
friend who said, "Yes, my dear, with
pleasure" 81 beg your PARDON" comes rs
rapidly to his lips, whcr by little awk-
wardncss he has disconnected her, as it
would in the presence Of the most fashion
able stickler for etiquette.
This is because he is thorough gentle.
man, who thinks his wife in all things cn-
titled to his precedence. lie loves her best,
why should he hesitate to show it; not in
sickly, baudlin attention, hut in prcfcrrng
her pleasure, and honoring her in public rs
in private. lie knows her; why should he
hesitate to attest it? "And the husband,
he praise,h her." saith the Holy Writ; not
by fulsomc aduation, not by pushing her
charms into notice, but by speaking, as op-
portunity occurs, i'll manly way, of her
features. Though words may seem little
things, and a slight attention seem almost
valueIess, yet depend upon it, they keep
the flame bright, especially if they are nat
ural. The children grow up in better NOR
al atmosphercs, and learn to respect their
parents, as they see them respecting each
other. Many boy takes advantage of
the mother he loves, because he sees often
the rudcncss Of his father. Insensbly, he
gathers to his bosom the same habits and
the thoughts and feelings they engender,
and in his turn he becomes the petty
tyrant. Only his mother-why should he
thank her! Father never does. Thus, the
home becomes the scat of disorder and un
happiness. Only for strangers are kind
words expressed, and hypocrites 60 ou: from
the hearlhstone fully prepared to render
justice, benevolence and poIiteness to any
but those who have the justest claims
All! give us the kind glance, the happy
the smiling wife and courteous
children of the friend who said so pleas.
ant'y-"Yes, my dear-wi,h pleasure"
Management Of Chilelren.-All parents
and others having the control and manage
ment of children, should remember that it
is difficult to make a child really under
s1ahd precisely what Is meant by truth and
honesty. 1t is not every departure from
veracity in child just learning to speak, or
every misappropriation of property into
which it may slide, that should be branded
with the opprobrious name Of falschood or
theft. The culprit may DO clear of any
bad intention and ignorant Of any fault, al
though the fact may be clearly proved
Caution, discrimination and much kindness
are therefore requisite in correcting these
evident faults, while advantage should be
taken to inform the understanding and
quicken the conscience, as to the broad
difference between right and wrong. With
those children who are the most sensible of
this difference and on whom tie puiit of