Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1859-11-30

for man of small means to marry fashion
able young lady, whose idea Of married life
consists in an elegant cquipagc, magnifcently
furnished house. and superb wardrobe; Sc
ries of party-giving and party-soing, and all
other expenditures In keeping. Unless the
lady possesses wealth where are all these
things to come from2 And yet fashionably
raised girls of the present day anticipate oil
these things, and are contentwith nothing less.
They expect to spend thei: summers at some
fashionable place Of resort their winters in
town-a box at the opera, another ut the The.
atre-balls and parties innumerable,- their
life is made up Of fashion, show and excite
meut. I would sny to all men of moderate
means, be wise in time, and leave fashionable
women to men who are able to support their
folly and extrnvagauce. can assure you,
one and all, it is solemn thing to be married
and not matched mistake for life is no light
matter. In looking for q wife try to find q
woman who is willing to marry your circum-
stances and live within your income who will
not only take you for husband, but will also
try to be wife to you in every sense ofthc
word good, clever, sensible girl. If she is
pretty, or wealthy, or even both, well and
good ; ;if she is neither, you may still find of.
ter marriage that you have gained o prize.
If men could bring themselves to think more
of mental and domestic qualifications, cheer
full disposition, amiablc temper, and kind
heart, and less Of pretty face and graceful
form, the majority of them would have better
wives. A truc-hoarlcd, purcminded woman,
let her be plain or pretty, tall or short, stout
or slender, is always lovely; Face aud form
have but little to do with real beauty. Men
are many times accused of marrying woman
for her money, and in point of fact they would
not dare to marry til. same woman without
it, being fully aware Of her anticipation OF fu.
ture splendour and luxury, and knowing full
we'll that an extravagant girl will be sure to
make doubly extravagant married woman.
True there are men who would not marry
any woman living unless she possessed wealth.
They marry the money and take the lady with
it as they would the mortgage on pm estate.
Still must say that believe the number OF
such men to be less than is generally sup.
posed. If a man marrics wealthy woman
certain set of people will be sure to say, " he
married her for her money" whereas he would
have married as readily if she had been poor.
Money in such case would be rather an OBJ
lection than an object. Don't be afraid to
marry woman VIII, is little bit CT q "blue
stocking" or in other words Slightly lilera-
ry.' The generality of men, are know, a
little afraid, or perhaps I should say jealous OF
such women, thinking that they may devote
time to writing that should be more proiitably
employed in overseeing the cook, making pies
and puddngs, or sewing on the the buttons
that arc always OIL. Danish all such fears,-
Believe me, no right,minded woman will be.
come Indifferent to her husbands comfort
nor careless of her household affairs, though
she may ut the same time be very fond of her
pen. 10 some, writing is a recreation; and |
hold that even wife may scribble little oc-
casionally without ncglcctiug her domestic
duties.