The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1856-1888, 1859-07-14

round of Fortunes ladder, and work up together.
Now a DAYS a young man il not always willing
to begin in this way, as his father did before
him. On the contrary he wants to begin where
his father left of; and although perhaps he
knows that his income is large enough to MAIN
tain a family in a moderate way, yet he declines
to marry, because it is not large enough to allow
of their living in s~style;' and he is too proud
to ask a wife to live with him whom he cannot
offer the same luxuries which she has been accus-
toned to in her parents home He would be per-
fectly willing to economist and live moderately :
but he cannot think of asking her to. Dlsinter-
ested young man How much he needs some
kind mentor to tell him that a woman can be
cheerful and contented and make sunshine
brighten the humble home, if it is shared with
one she loves. How much he needs some friend
to suggest that such considerations weigh really
less with women than with men, and that the future
happiness of his wife depends more upon the
husband than upon his money. A true woman
is not a Inere child, to be petted and INDUCED
and spoiled. She is a companion to her husband,
a sharer OF his fortunes, a sympathizer in his joys,
and a comforter in his universities. Men do not
compliment the character of woman by thinking
that she ought to shine only amid the luxuries OF
life,-that she can be happy only when surround
ed by the gewgaws of wealth.
Now said he, 81 want you to tell these
things to your readers and exert your influence
in infusing a little more of the hymenial element
into our society. There are plenty OF young
ladies insand about Honolulu that I've no doubt
might be induced to say yes to a likely young
man and who would make a happy home, too,
for both of them, in spite of his misgivings. And
while YOU are upon the subject" pursued he,
3. YOU had better suggest that one mustn't give up
if his first trial is unsuccessful. If he can't do
the best, let him do the next best and if he can't
do the next best, let him do the next best to that.
Why. YOU would never think it, but it is none
the less true, that1 l, myself, was refused six times,
before / could get any one to have me. Inc
seventh time, l got a wife, and you know what a
happy life we have led together since.
"Now'' he added, giving our button an extra
twist as we paused on the post office platform,
syou'v got a sort of knack for writing, and L
want you to write a piece about this, and be sure
to make everybody understand that If a man
wants to be respected, as he will then be In pro-
portion to his real worth, let him marry II a
man wants to gain the confidence OF the commu-
nifty in which he lives, to save money and learn
how to enjoy it, he had better get married and
if man wants to pass the best of his life happily,
as his Creator intended he should do, and have his
declining years cheered with a companion whose
heart beats in sympathy with his own. and whose
children will rise up and call him blessed, let
him get married. 1t is only by taking to himself
a Wife, that he becomes truly a man among his
fellow-men.'
We rendered upon the words of our friend,
which were uttered with some warmth and earn
estness, and though we could not agree with him
in all he said, particularly about the expense of
living in Honolulu. we resolved 10 write out,
literally, as near as possible, the conversation
which had occurred, and lay it before our readers,
that they may have the benefit of it.