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A Well-Ordored Family.

| A writer in Bltckwood's Marazinc thus
describes the intolerahlc oppression of lv-
Ing in family governed 10y !iailllle rules:
: once spent Il week in one OF these wcIlor
dered families it WA, great punishment to
me- hope, also, in some degree, to my
entertainers. The iron rules OF that house
was "a place for every thin" and every
thing in its p'a"c' ! wasn't. The dis
! gree my somewhat vagr:,n, hal.its led me
: mt" there, WAS 'iralfui. The very first morn
'''S, opened l'a,rr-'aiIia's newspaper which
was always laid in one particular spot on
the ai'tk':>. table. never To b. violated by
any hn'i hnt his. There | stood. with inv
baci; t" ;hc fire, coming the ont spread
sheets, and nodding cheerful good morn.
! ing t" nv host when he entered. had
! III" I:ni'iI;I""'i even to read to him(out of
! his ""n i'np"r) the last Indian de>patch-
very i'nIi,rlv. as | thought-an,l to rcuuest
his a s!>i"ncc 10 drcipier the possible place
+ intc'ricd 10y IL dozen letters which the tele.
graph clerk appeared to have selected at
random. 10 do him Justice, he bore this in
road on his rights with tolerable outward
! compo>nrc; but WAS formerly made aware,
on The !Ilst opportunity, by Mrs. T., of the
outrage | had committed, and made to feel
as uncomfortable as | deserved. Then +
'"i. my handkerchief on tho drawing room
: floor, one glove on the Iibraray table. An
| "'hcr on the gov"rn"S>' p,ra>o!, (which GER
t"n!y, was not tn place forit and how it
! got there, have no conception,) and was for
mai'y presented with each articlc Separately
! 'n: Az account o; lis discovery, in the pres.
cncc OF tic whole family assembled for din.
llvr.
One day, the whole house hold WAS under
! street cross examination as 10 who had come
into the drawing room with dirty shoes.
| was the culprit, of course, but | was too
great Il coward to confess besides, the lady
! knew perfectly well who it was, bu, was 10
lite enough TO entertain til. fiction that such
conduct WAS impossible in any wcll-brcd
| person; 1t must have been one of the chill.
dren "fthc house-maid's, Of course and The
whole investigation was intended for nv sol
einn warning and improvement, lust as til v
used to whip Il little boy v;caro,lsly to s,,ik,.
terror nto Inisbchaviny little princes.
| Then the terrible pnnc'uallty which made
slaves OF all o.! us, and kept me always look
! lng II: my watch, and always afraid Of bcinr
late ior something, rs indeed was onc,. for
dinner, III spite Of all precautons-four
! minutes and half exactly. SllrIl | ever
forgot IL ! If they only had had the cl.ar
l'y to SIT down Quietly without me-if they
had put me off with NO soup, cold fish, and
| the last ragged cut Of the mutton-if th.v
hnd sent me to bed without any dinner at
! a!l, as once happened to me when WAS :,
, I'lic boy, or inflicted upon me any other
r"a5"''ah!" and hn'lanc form Of punishmrn,:
h"f, no; there they were, all waiting for me
III the draw'ng-room, all standing up, the
door set wide open, aud the head of liz"
family "l"nin" fire upon me at once. before.
was we'll imSi,-c it, with now Mr.--.
will YOU take i'll Mrs. P.?" OF course.
hammered and stau,lncrcl we. ::n anoloyv
-'Iul'c uninten,ional.' aud SO forth. Oh.
OF Course, she knew it must be quite uni,,-
tentional-onIy'-in -whsper-"Mr
L. did not iIk'. waiting for his dinner
Woman's Thoughts Of Women.
clever English woman named Mrs
bou'chor, III a recent treaties on "Women
ana work III this country, Is pointcdly
sarcastic on the ccnsuraLi,. MANNER in whicl,
parents educate their daughters for matri
mony here, instead of for the great business
Of life. We f;,ncied that we had uttered
some bitter truths on this subject but our
observations weie As the "huncy Of hybIa'
to the pointed, direct, emphatic truths she
rnunciatcS as the result Of personal investi,
cations. She speaks in this wise of the
c"nln't OF IN American papa:
al he can live in some style, he counts ON
his daughters marrying; aud il he cannot
he probably s"l< them to some relative in
a ci'y' who rcci"v"S them ior long visit
III The hope OF getting them off, Many
thousands OF young girls come to the cities
t" stay with brothers, uncIrs, or fren,ls for
thiS purpose. a worse preparation for any
serious life cannot be conceived. Years OF
d!eness are often passed in this way-vears
spent in nothing but dressing and disSipa-
ting. And what does it lead to ? Marriage
probably; but what sort of marriages can
be formed by young girls looking at the
world from such n false position With
such beginning to life, it is almost impossible
the girl can ever become a noble human be.
ing"
There is caustic and, we cannot help think.
ing. remarkably near the truth. we are
compelled to witness fearful illustrations OF
this pride every day of our lives. No won.
der spinsterdom is becoming moreand more
populous, "sras>widowhooI" so numerous
Sensible men dare not marry these dolls and
'neilirl"nts, and The precipitate who do wed
them have no resource but subsequent fligh,
or an appeal to justice.
II do not blame bachelor,
If he leads. a single life;
The way the girls are now brought up
He cant support wife, as
Aud ifthe moral portion of the commu.
nifty, instead of confining itself to the dep.
recation: Of so;many spasmodic attempts ia
amend all legislation on the subject of mar.
riage laws, would devote its energies as as
slduously to the day Of fitting the young
women ofthis generation to become the wor.
thy and honorable mothers ofthose who must
be American sovereigns in the neat, the re.
suit could not but be grateful to themselves
and advantageous. To humapitv