Kanawha Valley star. [volume] (Charleston, Va. [W. Va.]) 1856-1861, 1859-04-05
For lie Kama vita Valley Star.
BLAckHAwK HeLLow,
March 2lst, Il

Mr.. TAR;-My hast communication
was oh Che subject0of Southern genlle:
men encouraging Northern institutions,
when we Of tile Sonh have just as good,
and even better, Twill NV change the
subject, (al.hough Twill, In al probabil
ity, recur TO il again, )from that to some.
thing that will give confidence to bash
full young gsatlemea. gendemen in cen
Establishments. 10 .foRs, whiskered and
mustaehe aprighis. bipeds, who pride
themselves more on the hair of their.
faces. than good common sense. 4
Ii il truly painful to see . young man
who, from his studies, and general read
ing, Sit. folding his hands and feel that
even id company be IL q stranger, ON ac-
count |of7his. bashfulness, whilst some
giddy, half witted concern. who cannot
Tell de capital Of his STATE, is fiourishing
Ike green bay tree the first class is
10 be pittied, whilst the second is 10 be
DEPRECATED.
| Now the FIRST class, for their benefit, I
will give them their true position. and
| il carried out, viii lead 10 renown fol-
ilow ii, and be- not ashamed to act 10 ac-
c6rdance. I. II
"A modest and |viruous young man
| on first going into society, is apt 70 be
rely1perplextd upon the question, how
Ito make fimssif Agreeable to ladies'. He
need NOT be ashamed Of his pArytexity.--
/ We wers once acquainted with . gentle
man Of distinction i'll public life, the faith,
lei Of several accomplished daughters
who could not even tp his fiftie,h year
Ietl ersaa drawingIroom when ladies were
4 present, without painful embarras sment
1t is certainly i good sign in young
man I'D stand in some awe Of the beanti
fful SEX. A person of coarse and yulgal
mind, who thinks more of himself than
his best friends think of him, and WIKI
knows little Of the worth of a good NO
4 man 3. heart. PUSHES fearlessly IN wher,
an Irving and an Addison would blusl
A 10 tread II IT VIZ he }.4
H How well we remember q little Incl
4 dent OF our early days. which helped ri
/; TO OVERCOME our basbfal dread OF Tie so
ciety vi ladies Seated By the. side Of
|, beautiful girl Of seventeen. and over
Iwhelmed with conscious Of our ihhabil
lily to say anything 70 her which sh
would care to hear We CHANGED to OBJ
serve that she, TOP, was trembling viii
embarrassment. What a comforting dis
coyeryl We felt AS D coward feels whe
lie finds that hisE enemy is completed
more ter,or-s,ficksn ltlIat himself. Ad
} dressing ourselves 10 tho task Of divertini
! our fair acquaintance, We soon forge
our own fears in sympathy with hers
. Bear this in mind young gentlemen, VII
blush and s,ammer in the company {
ladies; The girls are as much afraid {
!, you as you are OF them
Il A You are awkward In your manners
you think. II y5R think 50, il is hkel
J That YOUR fair trends think otherwise
ior t6s really illIbred fellows that "
!. have known have never suspected the
in breeding. Andaftef All. what's good
! breeding but habilttal good nature TIL
Y simple TACT thar you ,pish 10 please is
Iproof that you possess. Or will soon ac
ii Lquire the power 10 do 20. The gG0
4 heart and wellinforned mind will 500
/. ieiye grace 70 the demeanor, or viii j
7 abundantly atone for the want Of il. lh,
!, It's absence will never BE- noticed. b
! sides, the girls-tliat Is! the most of thei
like 4 man who His simple in his MAI
tners, provided they see that there is sui
/. fstanee md worth iii him. Graceful maj
ners and ready wit are bashful. blashin
j. youth, that, both iii Che society OF la1it
9 and of men. You win Pass iuthe long raj
e | for what you are worfhr-no more-r-r
I less. The Art Of Pleasing, therefore,
4 nothing more than the All of becomir
] and honest, kind, intelligent and higl
" minded man.. Such a man. be he grac
iul As Chesterfsla, OF awkward as Cal
: ban, all worthy women trust and love.
= Yours BIACKHAWK.