Litchfield enquirer., 1859-03-31
MISTAKES ON MATR1MoNY.

f There are two mistakes about it. One is that which Dr.. Watts has sanctioned in his cele- brated lyrie-that souls were paired when sent into this world, and somehow have got mixed and jumbled up, scarcely any one getting bis true counterpart, or have any chance of doing so; and that hence are the jarrings of the married state Many people lay of their mseries upon this mystic fatalism and think, if they had only had their true partners, they should have been supremely happy. Now the 1 truth is, there are no persons but those regene- rated, or becoming so, who can be brought into any intimate relation, least of all the most inti- mate, without drawing out all the mutual points of repulsion in their character. ]. We are not sent into the world paired and nicely fitted to each other without any agency ] of our own we are brought here with selfish 1 natures to be subdued. and angelic natures to l be unfolded from within and this is done through constant watchings, selfdenias and l rfforts Let two persons, then, with hearts in- tcnsrly natural, be brought together in the mo sacred of all relations. They think they are matched. They are SO. But it may be | either for draw-game at self or for walking, eq"as passibus, OH the heavenly road. If they begin ill earnest life of regeneration, internal evils, as they come successvely into the con seriousness, will be denied. and have all their jagged points filed off, and finally will be cast out entirely and whereas their union at first I might have been only external, it may become more and more internal and at length it may become so perfect that, for aught we know, | they may appear in the spiritual world, ns Mr. | T. l.. Harris says like one person instead of two. At any rate, they may become together, a complete humanity, whereas, apart, they would be a humanity haved and split in twain. On the other hand, suppose regeneiate life does not begin, but selfish and worldly living rather. Then the jagged points of two selfish natur will begin to show themselves, and they will grow more protrusive, and make the dlsunion more and more complete. This will, appear at first rather insel s.l ly under exter. nals, but it will grow to terrible reality. At first they will only wish to look at the moon through separate windows but very soon it will be as Hood says, aud they will want sepa-' sa'e moons to look at and lastly, there will be no moon at all, for all the romance of life will have departed and its soft silyery light will have gone out in total darkness
 The other mistake is that of supposing the fhappest marriages must be union of congen- ial tastes and pursuits. Just the opposite, we think, is true. What does one want of anoth. CT who is just like himself, and is not comple- IT, ntary Of his own imperfect being? As Mir. Emerson puts it, "they must be very two be- fore they can be very one" The more two the 1 better. Ideal men want practical wives--ideal l wives want practical men and then, the earth-side and heavel-side of life being put to- gether, it rounds to 6 glorious completeness. But they must be put together by iDterpreta- ton, and not by soldering or, as Swedenborg says, they must be conjoined, and not adjoined.
 Monthly Religious Magazine. JUsr IN THE NICK OF TME-The census. taker of whom the following anecdote is told, certainly timed his visit at one place most op. portunely. In the exercise of his vocation he stopped at 8 certain house, rang the bell, and directly was confronted with the proprietor. who appeared somewhat fustered and agta- ted. A dialogue eusued: s. Will you be kind enough to furnish mo with your name for the censusY'
 Certainly, my name is"--
 1 Have you any family !''
 "Yes, wife and servant"
 Any children ?"
 Wait moment, I'll go and see 1"
 In the course of five minutes, the proprie. tor returned and joyfully remarked
 Yes, you can put down one boy"
 The employee returned his acknowledgements, and moved off to gather information else- where. About half an hour afterwards he was returning through the same street, when he heard hail from the house of the gentle man above referred to, and going up to the gentleman, remarked, Sir, you eau put me down for two children" ,.
 QUESTION. Gan you, or any of your read. CTS inform us who wrote Shammah in Search of Freedom? ?' Certainly the author should not be ashamed of the production ... | We are not able to state who the author of that most excellent work s If we were ask. ed who would be most likely to write just such a book, we should say that we know of no one of whose characteristic style it par. takes so much as Lydia Maria Child. She has been ill the habit of giving her name free. 1 ly to the public, and, but for this, we should run the risk of guessing" it was from her pen. The style, the choice of Oriental char acter, the inner impressions, the glimpses of Swedenborgian faith, are all very much like her. We repeat the question-Who wrote Shammah.- Chester Co. (Pa.) Times. ss Mrs. Burlington, after listening to the read ing of an advertisement for a young lady's boarding school, said
 i For my part l can't deceive what on airth education is coming to. When was young, if girl only understood the rules of distraction provision, multiplying and replenishing, and the common doneiator, and knew all about the ry- CTS and their obituaries. the covenants and dor. mitories, the provinces and the nmpires, they had eddicatios enough. But now they have tn demonstrate supposition of sycophants and of crcnses, tangents and Diogenes, and of paralle. iogramy, to say nothing about the oxhides, CO., costics, and abstrase trrangles P Thus saying, the old lady leaned back in her chair. the knit. ting work fell in her lap and for some minutes