The Potter journal. [volume] (Coudersport, Pa.) 1857-1872, 1859-05-12

Or, when of any performance which, Ia
any wise, completes with her own, she
: affects to be inexpressibly disgusted, COM
! menting: What BORE / thought it
never would have been over"
When one can not ccnscientiously ap-
prove, it is wise to be silent, unless re-
mark be imperatively necessary in order
to correct wrong impressions.
6. Another general obligation which
we owe to society, is to guard well our
example. Nothing is more potent over
the minds Of people than the reignng
model. There is proverb, that one wise
imam in a company makes all the others
wise. Cicero likewise advances a similar
idea 3" Be a pattern to others and then
all will 90 we'll for as a whole city is in.
fected by the passions and vices of great
men, so it is likewise reformed By their
moderation"
This is equally true ofwoman If the
leader of society of ladies be frivolous,
fashionable, and proud, how directly will
lit appear that there are numerous imita-
tors who attempt to copy the example |!
Or if she be wise, discreet, humane, and
elegant. all will aspire to like her. Let
one leading woman neglect her home and
family for frequent conspicuous appear
ances abroad, and not only will her own
babies cry and her own servants acquire
bad habits, but there will be general bed
lam throughout her set If enc wife ex-
pends enormous sums for dress, the other
wives ofher acquaintance will accuse their
husbands of parSlmony and cruelty, if
they can not equal or excel her in extrav-
laeance. a 81. 9..
/ This is more especially true of those
ladies whose positions qualify them to be
examples; yet no one is without decided
personal in.Iuence Of this description.
Not an act is without its direct moral
I bearing on others. Therefore, We should
ever be impressed with the importance of
so conducting ourselves in all things that
we shall not have occasion to blush at the
reflection which our light casts upon 9TH
ers. No true lady, who cherishes proper
moral responsibility, will ever say to her
self or others, g will do thus or So wear
I this or that, or talk in this or that man
ner, for any one. | am an independent
person, aud it is nothing to me what 9TH
ers think Of me, or what they will propose
TO initiate If choose to take this ex-
traordinary course in life, | have right
so to do" @
! No one can thus shake off the respon-
sibility which God has attached to every
rational life.
! T. Another important obligation, which
4 is often neglected for the reason that it
has general as well as particular signG-
cancy, Is that of correct appreciation of
the services rendered to US by others
The more advanced society is in clvili-
cation, the more will be done to exalt the
condition of woman. This is right but
it too frequently happens that our sex be-
come, in a measure, lusensible tc these
favors, and acquire the habit of receiving
them as a matter of course, even trom those
} who are strangers and unGcr no recoguiz-
ed obligations to bestow such cOui tesies
A woman, who aspires to be fiue lady,
will sometimes incommode stranger In d
public place, to great degree, even de-
: manding of him those conditions, which
] she knows will cause him no little sacri-
fee of personal convenience, with an air
of haughtiness, whose language is,
have a right to this, and much more"
\ Sometimes they nod or essay thank
you;" yet too often they seem unaware
of the extent of their obligation These
women are certain that they were made
to be waited upon and brushed like "queen
bees" Al they have to do is to accept
favors. and others should thank them for
their graciousness in condescending to re-
ceive their attentions.
!. This failure of appreciation is too often
seen in all the various relations to society
One friend will perhaps assist another, so
that she is enabled to accomplish some
! highly desirable object; but no sooner is
it well over than the favor is ignored
The recipient takes on airs with the friend
and attributes her success to her own skill
/. and personal ability In numerous cases
she eventually proves decided enemy,
openly ridiculing her former friend
Slgual examples of this most unworthy
conduct are recorded in history, and par
tleularly in the biographies Of women.
/ The Duchess of Marlborough, maid of
1 honor to Queen Anne of Great Britain.
was thus rewarded. Having introduced
into the royal household an obscure rela-
ton, who afterward married one of the
pages OF the court, not only did this wo-
man set about injurng her benefactress,
but eventually succeeded in supplanting
her in the Queens graces. Not content
with this, she became the instrument of
overthrowing the power of her patrons
i husband. the Duke of Marlborough, while
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