Cleveland morning leader. [volume] (Cleveland [Ohio]) 1854-1865, 1859-01-05
CLEVELAND WEDNESDAY MORNING. JANUARY 5, 1859.

are far too apt to relax from the proprieties of
social life. Careless language and a careless
attire are too apt to be indulged in, when the
eye of the world is shut off, and tue ear of the
world cannot hear" If we suffer ourselves to
lie overcome by this danger, we need not seek
to appear well when we most desire it. We
must have a high idea of what we may be, that
we may continually strive for advancement -
The higher you aim the higher you will
reach - is a remark of Fenelon, that fairly i'm
printed itself on my mind, and it has helped
me many times to set my standard, where,
without its influence, | never could have plant
ed it.
We should not be satisfied with anything but
the best to which we may attain. The snares,
and labors, and WEAKNESS of life often tempt Us
To dlscouragement, but we must be of good
courage. We must remember that we cannot
afford to lose any good we have obtained We
must not suffer our manners to deteriorate, but
rather let them improve, that we may be able
to elevate others who have possessed fewer ad-
vsntages than ourselves
have no liking for paror with closed shut
ters and doors, reserved for special occasions.
and 50 seldom used that the family hardly know
whether they arc at home or abroad when in
it. A parlor should be cheerful, family room,
made as beautiful and attractive as a persons
taste and means can make it. Every parlor
shouldbe as individual as the person who oceu-
pies IT. | would not willingly resign house
into the hands of an upholsterer. / might avail
myself Of his experience, but | should wish nv
own taste to preside over it. 1t always nivcs
me pleasure to enter house unlike Others. i
have been interested in observing how much /
can judge of family, merely by the house they
live ln The simplest cottage may be made
tasteful and attractive. 1t does not REQUIRE
wealth TO give an air of refinement Il requires
little more than an innate sense of the beauti-
full Some of tue log cabins of the West have
left an iudelible impress on on my mind, as
among the most picturesque dwellings, / have
ever seen. One in Northern Ohio with its
overhanging roof, and its graceful drapery of
vines. and the dear old grandmother with her
neat dress and plain cap, standing in the door
as passed, has never been supplanted in my
memory by any city palace or country villa :
Were ] an artist, should transfer this pieture
to canvas. would rather live in such home.
surrounded by fine country, than in aBy stiff,
ugly house built and furnished without taste
While parlOr should not be shut uD from
sunlight and daily life, would yet have If room
beyond others in dignity. certain attention
to dress should be required of those who enter
it, The dress used for labor is SCARCELY snnro.
pirate to the parlOr; but when the duties Of the
day arc over, think every family should attend
somewhat to their personal appearance. and
pass the evenings away together away from
she signs Of toll which the other parts of the
house present | know it requires an effort 10
do this, but think the influence on oursalvcs
and on our children will more than COMPENSATE
for the trouble.
The parlOr is place for lounging. Always
paIPavOr Ia affrII, n
ways into chair, with your dress all on one
side of it. Do not be in the habit of nnttino
your feet on chairs and sofas. I have SON .
young lady ensconce herself in an arm chair
with her feet upon the upper rounds of another
when gentlemen and ladies' were present. with
as much nonchaiance as she would have done If
IN the privacy of her own room. She could not
have gwen more decisive proof of Ter IN
breeding than by the independent manner IN
which she thus seated herself
DO not take possession of the most comforta;
bic seat in room, unless you are an Invalid
or an aged person. DO not appropriate a seat
considered as belonging to another. and esne-
cialy, do not retain it until that ro-,,,, =,
proaches you, OF seats herself elsewhere; aud
do not drop into it the moment she has left it
This is exceedingly annoying
Do not 90 about humuinS or SINGING, in an
NeAISA Ro'NoA - HNe-9S. OeSp lufOug0 the nails
quietly. Keep your hands off the balusters and
walls in going up and down stairs, unless YOU
arc so feeble that you need support. 1t is
enough to make nice house keeper nervous. to
hear the sound of the hand slipping over the
bright varnish
Let your manners be kind and respectful, but
never be Patronizing Let your efforts to please
be so simple and natural that tbev nav be
agreeable. Be observant and attentive to the
little wants of those around you. aFs ~
Cant phrases are an abomination, and should
rarely, If ever, be used. l confess, don not fee
ashamed ofmy ignorance, when 1 cannot un
derstand what they mean. Use the best Ian
guage IN common conversation @
Introduce, under ordinary circumstances, gen
tiemen to ladies-not ladies to gentlemen. Dt
not give double Introduction, as, s'Mrs. More
head, Mrs. Green: Mrs. Green, Mrs Morehead'
I-one mention of the name is sufficient. AS ,
general rule, introduce the younger to the old
er. Age is always entitled to respect. Thus
if Mrs. Morehead were the younger, or in lowe
rank, say "Mrs. Morehead, Mrs. Green" em
Phasizing Mrs. Moreheads name 1t is oftel
well to mention the place Of residence when in
Producing strangers, as that will naturally sug
6 gest subject of conversation, without bein,
compelled to resort to the state of the weather
a DR.. Lyons Office is removed from 8
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