American Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1855-1860, 1859-01-06
5. ..q FEMALE SOCIETY.
THE WOMAN FOR A WIFE,

o womanl lovely womani Nature mado theo
80, To tomper man; We had beenbrutos withoutyou,
Angels are painted fair 70 look like you -orw2T.
Whom said would diea bachelor, did not think
Ishould live till were married.-SHAKsPKARE.
Inmany ofthe books addressed to young
men. a great deal is said about the purify
ing and eieYating influences Of female so
ciety. Sentimental young men affect this
kind OF fresding, aud il anywhere in itthey
can|6nd countenance for the policy Of ear
ly. marriage. they are delighted Now,
while I viii. be the last 10 deny the puri
Tying and elevating influence Of pure and
elevated women, l do deny that there is
anything in indisoriminate devotion TO fe-
male society, which makes man better and
.purer. Suppose man east away on the
Cannibal Islands. and not in sufficient
good flesh to excite the appetites of tile
gentle epicufeans among whom he has
fallen Suppose him in fact, to be re-
oeived into society," and made the private
secretary ola king without a liberal educa-
tiou. Suppose, after q while, he feels hirl-
self subsiding intofs state of barbarism.
and casts around for some, redeemipg or
conse rEatise Influence. At this moment
1t occurs to him thst in the t-upk on which
he sailed ashore were q number o.. books.
be flies to the trunk, and in an ecstacy of
delight. ditcovers that among them is a
volume addressed to young men. He o.
pens it eagerly aod fluids the writer to de-
! clare that next to the Christian religion
thought will tend so strongly to the eleya.
ton and publication Of yonng men,, as fe-
male society. He accordingly seeks The
society of women, and drinks in the mar
yelous influence Of their preseace. Hs
finds them unacquainted with some oil, the
most grateful uses ofawateg and an eEi
dent ignorance ofths existence Of ivory
combs. About wbatyear of the popular
era is it to be supposed that he will arrive
ats. 9egsifaple state ofpprifsealiOp and per-
| no No&lpsrhsbsE you I'D 10 III receive force
Of this illustration. Let us get at il then.
When You'fnd yourself Shut out from all
female society except that which is be-
meath you, that society will do just as
much and no more good than that pf the
fail. .oapnlbals. especially lift be young
Il in all this society, you can find one old
woman OF sixty, who has common sense,
genial good nature, experience, soma read
ing. aud sympathetic heart, cherish her
las you would her weightin gold, but let
the young trash go, You will hear moth
ing from them but gossip. and nonsense,
and you will only get disgusted with the
world and YOURSELF. INSPIRATION tothigh-
er and purer life, always comes from above
q man; and female society can only purify
a man when it ID higherisand. purer than
heis. In theelement Of purity. | doubt
not that women generally are superior to
men, bnt tits very largely q negative or
unconscious element, and has not the pow
er and influence Of q positive virtue. .
Therefore, whenever you seek for female
society as an agencyin the elevation Of
your tastes, the preservation Of your NOR
ais, and the Improvement of your mind,
seek for that which is above you. do mol
counsel you to treat with rudeness or stud
lied neglect such inferior society as you are
obliged 10 come in contact with. On the
CONTRARY, you owe such sscjetya duty
You should stimulate il, infuse new life in
to IL. If possible, and do for, il what you
would have female society do for you:
This matter Of seeking female society
above yourself you should carry still fur
ther. Never content yourself with the
idea ofhaving common-placewife. You
want one Whs win stimulate you, keeT
you moving, show you your weak points,
and make something Of you.S Don't feaI
that you cannot get such 4 wife. Il ,., ~
livery well remember the reply which
a gentleman who happened to combine The
qualities ofwit and common sense, made
to young man who expressed q fear tba
certain young lady Of great beauty anC
attainmehts would dismiss him if be be
came serious. eis.oa6 -9g1ase ne asaa
"My friend" said the wit, ''iu6nitely
more beautiful and accomplished womer
Ithan she is, have married infinitely uglie
and meaner men than you are." Aud sucl
is the fact. Ifyo1 are honest and honor
able, If your character is spoLlsss, il yyo'
are enterprising and industrious, il yol
have some grace and q fair degree ofsense
and If you love appreoiatingly and truly
you can marry almost any body worth you
having. SO, TO encourage yourself, carr,
in your mind the above aphorism. reduce,
10 form something like the following
Infinitely finer women than ! ever expeC