Spirit of the age. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1849-1865, 1859-05-11

both of mind and heart, met with al ever
step in society.
The close observer will, find IN one
immaculate beauty of features, m another
beauty of form ana carriage. But the two
in no wise resemble each other. In some
be will find brilliant minds companioned
with cold and indifferent hearts, in others
warm and affectionate hearts corrugated
with some human frailty. A.critical OBJ
servance of these things, for three or feur
years, is very sure to lead man to the
conclusion that woman is the most imper-
feet of all Gods creatures; aud If such
man does net marry very soon, YOU may
set him down as doomed "old Bachelor
And here is one reason for his becoming
and remaining one.
Like the Sculptor and Painter, he col
lects each trait of character from that wo-
man in whom he finds it most perfect
Having done this, he, like the German
philosopher who was requested to give
just description of camel, shuts himself
up in his study and reconstructs an ideal
woman, combining. in, one, the several
traits which ne has collected, it NAV be
from fifty different others. Hence his ere
alton is not what woman really IS or might
be, but what she ought to be, to suit his
fancy--a guam pLusculam paragon of an
gelic origin--a woman, as Moore says
"WhOse heart can love without deceit
Most carefully is this idcality folded and
laid away in the sacred receptaces of the
mind, to be brought forth only to be COM
pared with and to disp&rage, by marking
their faults, the realities.
OF course this imaginary being must be
perfect in features form, carriage intellect
heart observation-disclosures have dispo-
sition and temper so mild and placid, that
it will lull the tropical tornado, and heart
so warm with affection, that it would melt
the mountain glacier land this, Mrs Edi-
tress, is why we men folks, and especially
bachelors, hink'you women are SO very
imperfect.*)
As before remarked, this closet creation,
| is nicely laid away in one corner of the
mind, which now has. sufficient control
over the heart to tell it when and where to
love, and when and where not to love, and
be obeyed. But, mirabiLe dictu, sometimes
it says "love," and the heart is perfectly
obedient, but when it leaks out that the
/ object is pecunie inopia and my obser-
vation has convinced me that men ere
more mercenary in matrimonial matters
than the ladies, OF has some other imper-
fections, the mandate goes forth, Heart,
thou shalt not love- which, also, must be
obeyed.
/ Numerous follies like this OUertake ~
him who supposes that human nature can
! be, and sometimes is perfect, .and never
finding the anti-type to this chimera of the
brain, he drags out weary and burden
some !;fe, and then dies-a Bachelor, "un-
, wept," &c.
Another reason why Bachelor remains
l a Bachelor is, that circumstances which he
l cannot control at the time, prevent his
marrying: When ne ought to do so he
5 cannot, and very soon he lays himself
E away in Bachelors Hail. whence hera
e ly emerges to seek female society,". and
b when he does, he's covered with dust
r. buttons off his linen, the absence of which il
t supplied by pins and pegs or ten penny
e nails.
e While in ladies' company, he is Sc
t charmed that,
Thoughts ou thoughts, ntIess>shrong,
G Rush, chasing countless thoughts along"
1 through his mind and, if he has formed
!. any ideal wife for himself, she is buried be-
meath oblivion's veil, and very soon he con.
) cludes that he will get married. With his
D D mind filled with these most delectable
thoughts of domestic felicity, he turns bis
d footsteps honeward, cogitating absorbedly
!. e upon the subject and half resolving to gt
I Immediately and invite one of these en-
r chantresses to enliven with her talismani,
S influence his lone and dreary home. Hi
;, meditations grow more and more intense
and he becomes almost poetic in his sen
e timentality.
= But alas when he reaches that place 0
81 stag, for it cannot be called a home, il
=, !, gloom, cold fire place, naked table-for h
Il forgot to give orders for supper befor
oi leaving-and must. sis in the cold, till it
cooked, with a thousand and one othe
things combined, blow those happ
thoughts in as many directions as Noa
sent the freight of the ark.
Thus his situation chokes up the aditt
e. of those gentle, kind and tender feeling
which are so necessary to full appreci
~ ton of and correct reflections on that gel
VI W tie and soothing creature-WoMAN.
u CAMDEN.
hel sThers are a hundred B(o)ushals of such carps
~ asyou, but not peck of brains an inch Of go
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