Daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1859-1865, 1859-12-08
Love a Wife and Rule a Wife.

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fiwish every husband woull copy into
his MEMORANDUM book this sentence. from
a recently published work :--uWonien
must be constituted very: differently from
men, a word said, a'line written, and We
are happy; omitted, our hearts ache as if
for great misfortune. Men chnnot feel.
1t, or guess at'it; ii they did, the most
careless of them would be slow to wound
US so.'' Gsttg ~
The graves hide many a ahcart which has
been stung to death, because one who
might, after all, have loved it after a GER
tain careless fashion, was deaf dumb, and
blind, to the truth in the sentence we have
just quoted, OF if not, was Mt leastrestive
and impatient with regard to it. Many
men, marrying late in life, being nccus-'
toned only to take care of themselves, and
that in the most cratic, rambling, exciting
fashion, eating and drinking, sleeping and
walking, whenever their fancy, or good
cheer and amusement, questionable or un-
questionable, prompted, ,come at last, when
thoy get tired of this, with their selfish
habits fixed as fate, to-matrimony For
aWhile it is a novelty. Shortly. it is
strange as irksome, this always being
obliged to consider the comfort ana happi-
ness of another. To have something al
ways hanging on the arm, (which used to.
swing free, or Mt most, but twfrl came
Then they think their duty done if they
provide food and clothing, and refrain
(possibly) from harsh words AhAis it?
Listen to that sigh as you close the door
Watch the gradual fading of tho eye, and
paling of the cheek, not from age;-she
should be yet young-but that gn;Iwing
pain at the heart, born of the settled con-
yiction that the great hungry craving of
NJ nS.f e
go for ever unsatisficd. God help such
wives, and keep them from attempting to
slake their souls thirst at poisoned foun-
tains. f5 ~
Think you, her husband, how little a
Kind word, a smile, carcss to you, low
much to her. If you call these things
"childish" and "beneNthy your notice." then
you should never have married. There are
men who should remain forever single.
Iou9re one. You have no right to require
OF a woman her health, strength, time,
and devotion, to mock her with this shad-
owy, unsatisfying return A new bounet.
dress, shawl, q watch, anything. evcry-
thing but what n true womnns heart most
craves-sympathy, appreciation, love-
She may be rich in everything else, but if
she be poor in these, and is good woman,
she had better die
There are hard, unloving, cold monstrosi-
ties of women (rare eXceptions), who nci-
ther require love or know how to give it.
We are not speaking of these. That big
hearted, loving, noble men have occasion-
ally been thrown away upon such does not
disprove what VIC have been saying. But
even man thus Situated has greatly the
advantage of II woman ina similar posi-
ton, because, over the needle, n woman
may think herself into an insane asvium.
while tho active, outdoor turmoil of bust
ness life is at least n sometime reprieye
to him.
Do you ask me, care there no happy
wives ~ God be praised, yes, and glori-
Gus loveable husbands, too, who know how
to treat a woman, and would have her nei-
ther fool nor drudge. Almost every wife
would be a good and hanpy- wife were
she only loved enough. Let husbands
present and prospective, think of this
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