Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1859-01-05


does not lore him, she Is not his wife in ehzrac-
ter and feeling, any more than If she belonged
10 somebody else, and he makes great mistake
II he thinks because he loves her and has got
the Law on his side, 1t Is all right There must
be perfect union OF the two. 4 man Is not
complete alone; he has an identity, to be sure;
50 has one side Of him an identity. You can
see out Of one eye, and hear with one ear, but
IL takes two eyes and tEo ears, and al the other
functions Of the body double, 10 make com
plete man And then il requires him to be
united 10 feminine organization TO make him
complete again. So II requires two minds, male
and female, 70 produce . proper focus Of
Judgment II requires the union Of both 10 pro-
duce one whole, complete mind. Man was not
made TO 20 through the world alone. When God
made him, be say that he had not done enough
and he just vent 10 WORK aGd made another
70 60 along with him, and that was Z woman.
suppose he made her little better than m.n-
because he could just as well as not-he had
more experience. ILaughter.l Hence woman
Is little more perfect than man, if she acts like
4 woman; ii she does not she is worse. 4 bad
woman Is great deal worse than bad man,
and good woman good deal better than good
man. 50 woman Is not complete alone she
does not feel that she is complete.
-AnUther thought: Some have an idea that II
they have the organ Of Amativeness large, it is
bad sign 1t is not so. It is right the other
way. have found more groSsneSs, coarSeness,
and want Of trutbfalneSs on the part Of those
in whom the organ was small than those IN
whom II IS large. Those who have the organ
large are more careful in marriage than those
who have it small. Where it IS large in a man
who thinks his wife IS not true to min, it almost
sets him crazy. Let woman know that her
husband Is not true TO her, and if she has
strong love. almost the first thing she would DO
would be 10 jump off the Suspension bridge and
drown herself / tell you those in whom this
l. ~. Ns.a
it be perverted when large and there is icen-
tiousness, and grossness-
Happy marriages consistin proper adaptation.
a great many would take that which is far sd
peTior to them, and sacrifice it for their own
good / want to impress this principle on the
minds Of young men, not to marry 50 far be-
yond themselves, as to produce inequality
Man ought TO be in a position to make y oman
enjoy herself or else she is sacrifice to him.
Ia what does this adaptation consist Itconsists
in twO things: physical adaptation and men
tai adaptation. Or to be more distinct, / would
say that the temperameBts must be diiiereut--
IL would do for man like Henry Ward Beech
er 10 have wife good deal like himself ex-
cept not quite enthusiastic. IL Yankee Sulli-
van had man led fighting character like him
self il would have been rather unfortuuate--
Jenny Lind and her husband is good marriage
Some persons are so imperfect that they could
not support a wife if they had one Some are
made 70 spend money; 1t costs much more TO
support some than others. ldeaiity, sense Of
beauty and refinement, cost great deal, The
idea that wish to convey is this: that man
with masculine organization, should marry =
woman with a feminine organization. Two
masculine minds and two femenine minds would
not do. think Douglas in his second wife has
one very vel adapted 10 him. She looks alter
his effects and attends TO details whereas he has
not the faculty to do so. Her common sense Is
very strong, while he has more uncommon sense
than common sense. Laughter
In studying TO be adapted to each other, we
should avoid criticisiHg IS far possible Some
men marry supposing they are marrying per
fiction, and when they discover their 1nistake
begin to find fault. do not mean to say that
women should not he criticized something's by
their husbands, but the lsHy is everything
Men should always notice the good in their
wives, and speak Of their faults gently. Some
times we need 10 be put in mind Of these things
in orler TO know whether VIC do them or not
The wife ought to be interested in the same
things that the husband is, his business, purse,
and enjoyments. But TO shorten on this point,
two persons With large heads and small bodies
ought not to marry. There would be too much
brain for the body. Two persons with large
bodies and small heads ought not to marry; b.
cause the result is too much animal on the
part Of the child, and not enough mentality to
consume the vitality that is generated. a man
with a small head ought not TO marry woman
with large head IL Is generally LEFT Tor men
to take the lead; but in such case she will
think she can guide the ship better than he
Two consumptiTe persons ought not 10 marry,
and was going TO say one ought not We
transmit the consumptive tendency TO our chill.
dren; especially If the mother is cousumptive,
the children very liable to be so. We ought
to have some regard for posterity. So with
persons who have scrofuous tendencies, ten
denotes to insanity, any hereditary tendencies.
We ought not marry for any limited consid-
Grafton. Some marry for money. Money is
good enough in its place, but when you Inarryfor
money, say the fellow out West did-"IIallo."
says his friend, Il hear you are married; whom
did you marry ;" ~ married S40,OOO-I for
get the other name" [Laughter.l We ought
not to marry for beauty alone; for beauty soon
takes wings and flies away. We should not
deceive each other in marriage. Il is not often
done, but 1t is done sometimes. Men have
their wLiskers dyed, ard women their busts
padded, and some do not know the difference
We should do our counting after marriage, rath-
er than before Those young gentlemen who
DO their cOurting all beforehand, do not do
enough Of it afterwards. We ought to be just
polite to our wires as were to our sweet
hearts \ husband can afford to be more polite
TO his wife than to unmarried lady. Wives
have some privileges. | viii mention one or
two, and bring the subject to a close
The general supposition is that woman must
wait til she IS asked. Now, it is the privilege