The River Falls journal. (River Falls, Pierce County, Wis.) 1857-1861, 1859-01-12
Sflistfllaafous.
TO YOUNG MEN,---NATRI-
NTONY. sc.


| 1.-THE following extract from the limo
thy Titcomb letters was published some
time since but can never grow old.1
In the element of purity I doubt not
that women generally, are greatly supe-
rior to men, but it is very largegy mega
tive or unconeious element, saisA Las not
the power and influence of a positive ex-
istence.
Therefore, whenever you seek for fe-
male society as an agency in the elevation
of your tastes, the preservation Of your
morals, and tho improvement of your
mind, seek for that which is above you.
| do not counsel yousto treat with indif-
ference or rudeness such inferior female
society as you are obliged to come in con-
tact with. On the contrary, YOU owe
such society duty. You should stinu-
late it, infuse new life into it, if possible,
and do for it what you would have female
soc ETY. do for yourself.
The matter of seeking female society
above yourself, carry still farther. Never
content Yourself with the idea of having a
commonplace wife. You want one who
will stimulate you, stir you up, make
something of you. Don't fear that you
can't get such q wife. very well remem-
Der the reply which gentleman who
happened to combine the qualities of wit.
and common sense, made to young
man who expressed fear that q certain
young lady Of great beauty and attain
ments, would dismiss him if he should
become serious. aMy friend, infinitely
more beautiful and accomplished women
than she is, have married infinitely ugle-
and meaner men than you are And
such is the fact IF you are honest and
honorable, if your character is spotless,
ifyou are enterprising and industrious, if
you have some grace and a fair degree
Of sense. and if you love appreciatiugly
and truly, you can marry almost any
body worth having. Sc, to encourage
yourself. carry in your memory the above
aphorism reduced to form like his;
Infinitely finer women than | ever ex-
pect to marry, have loved and married
infinitely meaner men than | am
The apprehensions of women are finer,
quicken than those sITts.z- " it'll
equal early advantages, the woman is
more of q woman at eighteen, than the
man man at twenty one. After mar
rage, as general thing, the woman will
cease to acquire. Now I donot say that
this is necessary, or that it shonld be the
case, but simply state general fact.
The woman is absorbed in family cares,
or perhaps devotcs from ten to twenty
years to the bearing and rearing Of chill
dren-the most dignifed, delightful and
honorable occupation of her life. This
consumes her time, and in a great multi
tude Of instances, deprives her Of intellec-
tual culture.
In the meantime the man is out enga-
ged in business. He comes in daily con-
tact with minds stronger and sharper than
his own. He grows and natures, and
in ten years from the date of his mar.
rage, becomes, in reality, new man.
Now if he was so foolish as to marry
woman because she had a pretty form and
face, or sweet eyes, or an amiable dispo-
sition, or pleasant temper, or wealth,
he will find that he has passed entirely
by his wife, and that she is really no
more of companion for him than child
would be. | know of but few sadder
sights in this world than mates whom the
passage of years has mis-mated. A wo-
man ought to have long start of man,
and even then ten to one, the man will
come out ahead in the race of long
life. 3
suppose that in every young mans
mind there exists the hope and expecta-
ton of marriage. When young man
pretends to me that he has no wish to
marry, and that he never expects to mar
ry, [ always infer one Of two things; that
he lies, and is really very anxious for mar
riage, or that his heart has been pollu-
ted bv association with unworthy women.
In thousand cases we shall not find
three exceptions to this general rule
A young man who, with any degree of
earnestness, declares that he intends pew
er to marry, confesses to brutal nature
or perverted morals.
But how shall good wife be won p
I know that men generally shrink from
an attempt to obtain companions who are
their superiors; but they will find that
really intelligent women, who possess the
most desirable qualities, are uniformly
| modest, and hold their charms in modest
estimation. What such women most adj
mire in men is galIantry, not the gallant
ry of counts and fops, but boldncss, cour-
age, devotion, decision and refined civility.
A mans bearing wins ten superior won-
en- whero Lis boots and brains win one.
If q - man stands before a woman with
resp for himself and fearless of her, his
suit is half won. The rest may safely be
| left to the parties most interested. There
! fore, never be afraid of woman. Won
en- are the most harmless and agreeable
creatures in the world to man who
| shows tfat he has got a mans soul in him.
If you have not got the spirit in you to
come up to test ike this, you have not
got that in you which most pleases high
souled woman, and you viii be obliged
to content yourself with the simple girl
who, in quiet way, is enleavoring 10
! attract and fasteu you.