Weekly Trinity journal., 1859-12-17

IFrom the San Franciseo Nstionall
A Talk with the Mnidcns ofSan Francisco.

A very excellent institution Is matrlmony.-
With the female sex it is the sweet fra'non Oh
earnest hops. and moral physical development
,matu.ina ssfe concentrating fromearpest child
hood. Every thought of giddy girlhood is ting
ed with nuptal aspirations. AS advancing wo
manhood rounds aud moulds her ripening proper
tions-- .tH
Comes a youth with Haunting feathers
With his flute of reeds, stranger,
Beckons to the fairest maiden,
And she follows where he leads her,
Leaving all things for the stranger
And the merry.soued Minnehaha is u type of
her sex in this regard the world over. She can
not resist the summons of the bnrly male whose
sinews are strong. Her greedy ear drinks up
the modulated love plant and with affected re-
uctance and trembling footstep she follows her
stout wooer to the new dwelling. She brushes
from her heart as web of gossamer, all fal pie
ty, aud skaters in atoms the old household gods,
in her pursuit of new home and the husband OF
her choice. Marriage with the female is beaut-
full destiny. In its observance are hatched forth
sanctfed domestic relations which form the su-
perstructure of modern society. interviewer
with it are the existence aud progress of good
laws and religious culture and the advancement
of the human race. Some pleasant theorists urge
that earthly marriages are preudes to spiritual
unions in the skies. 1t may be so. Marriage is
the harmonzing of discords. Physical strength
consorts with weakness. Jagged and rough ad-
blending of softness With rough and shaggy ma
lures. In fact the modern psychologist deduces
the bappest matrimonial results from the com
bnation of most dissonant properties. lie would
unite the lght-hared with the raven-hued the
choleric and nervous temperament with the lynn
phatc the intensely ugly with great beauty OF
nerson The nupta vow, he insists, is the aka
Ii that coalesces proportionatcly to the dissm-
larity of the ingredients. Perhaps the physioo-
gst is right, and perhaps, too, we have fingered
too long IN our eyordium upon these matrimoni
al generalites. We proceed now to localize our
theme.
After all, there is not such wonderful dearth
of unmarried females in our city of San Francis
co. The same restless and wild spi,it of adven-
ture which has urged to these shores the male
masses, has likewise ruled the tender SEX But
the single girl, when once arrived, becomes fas-
cinated with the charms of our Pacific metropo-
lis She is won by the unsoiling pavement the
glitter of female vestmcnts through the window
of the tradesmen, the whrl of the soree dance,
and the glare of the theater. She hates the mud
dy canyon aud the dry mountain summlt of the
interior She cannot fraternize with the blue
shirt and the unkept beard of the coarse miner.
In her olden home, atar to the eastward, she has
dreamed of corpulcnt hills bellied out with fat
mineral, and of streams red with the blood of
gold. She has dreamed that woman upon Cali
foInin soil, was more precious than the otto of
Asiatic monarchs. She came here as Princess,
or Peri. She thought that men would struggle
for her person, did olden warriors for the Tro-
jan Helen. The bodest, and the highest and the
noblest, and the richest, would be at her feet
No mountains no valleys for her. She will lin
ger in the city Of mart, Of JOY, and lofty build
ings in the city whose feet are washed by the
Pacific wave. SO she comes here and finds thou
sands of her sex who have fingered here for
years, still painting for nuptia! joys, and whose
hopes have near faded into despair. There Ia no
lab, fl,a Gn, In in nnr ct ND how
few marriages transpire. Erin and Germany
commingling as they should. They basll in jo-
cund honcymoOns and rear healthy offspring,
while the American ssterhood pine away in won
derment No swccthearts, no lovers, no mar
riagc bells. no troops of pratting children. Aud
why il it =? Dear ones, we intend to talk plain.
| iy to you.
We shall launch at these fair cmigrants few
bitter truths. The lapse Of year or two has in
duced mighty change in the matrimonial phnse
in California. Labor is remuneratve and hon.
orablc here. Your young mechanical townsman,
with whom you cOnsorted at home, but whom
you hout and despise in your new abode has
been gathering much and varied knowledge by
rough attrion with his fellows Travel and
selfreliance are the true schoolmasters. lie has
gained information better than that contained in
books. in your fanastica and unfoundcd am
btion you may pass him upon our thoroughlarcs
with haughty tread and unrecognlzed lie ont
scorns you in his heart. He will soon depart and
return again, aud upon his arm will lean a mod
est girl from yonr own native village and that
girl will laugh mellowly at your silly aspirations
In the preponderanco Of your sex ia the olden
States you would have esteemed yourself fortu-
nate had the brcklayer OF your native town
thrown his uncouth person at your feet. You
Fave made few days journey on an ocean stea-
mcr and you have grown into a Scmele. None
but the Jupiters Of the laud must approach YOU
in loves guises You will mate alone with the
opucnt merchant whose warehouse holds argo-
sizes of goods, or with the rich landholder Per-
haps emergency may arise that will lead you to
an alliance with some drOwsy Judge or dissipated
lawyer. You are destined to wealth or place, SO
you flatter yourself.
Sweet and errng sisterhood, you mistake your
position sadly. You have reached a soil of stir
ring intelligences The petticoat is respected
proportonately as it envelopes cultivated sense
and disposition to industry. Your matrimoni.
al prospects have frightened but little by emf
grafton. You blast them entirely and forever in
your effort at alliances superior to your condition
in life and your limited Intelligence. You must
betake yourself to household labor. You are ac-
cuet0med to ii, and why your alicctations in this
land of toll ? You will do well, If by modest
department and earnest respect you win to your
arms the brawny mechanic and the stout. .lmbcd
tiler OF the soil. He Is your superior ia every
regard. You despse him Why he does YOU
honor to make you the mother of his children
He is quietly pursuing the road to Independence
Your chief error lies in your belief of the sola-
ted condition Of this State of ours You should
recole;t that but few days travel conveys him
to land stuffed and over1owing with bright
eyed and intelligent madens who are beckoning
rich merchant and lazy judge equally with busy
artisan aud plodding agriculturist to their round
arms aud beating hearts. Your airy assumption
will condemn you to life OF solitude aud neg
lect.
Then do we advise these dear creatures not to
assume part beyond their merits They can all
marry, and well too, but in their proper station
Thus do we talk to the madens of San Francisco
In word, VIC commend less crinoline and less
pFetensOns