M'arthur Democrat. (McArthur, Vinton County, Ohio) 1853-1865, 1859-03-03
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From the American Agriculturistl
HINTS On DEPORTMENT AT HOME.
BY ANNIE HOPE.

NCthing that affects our influence
is Of little importance. Our position
in society depends much upon oul
manners. A lady is known more by
her manners than by her dress. Silks,
velvcts and laccs can be bought by
money. The proprietes Of life arc
learned only by a delicate tact, and
an acquaintance with good society.
Home politeness is rarely consider.
ed as OF SO much Importance as tire
ally is. We are too often inclined to
treat strangers with more respect than
those Of our own household. Child
ren, especially, are supposed TO have
no particular claim upon our polite.
ness, and are often treated with as lit
tie consideration as the dogs which
they pet. Ii we would have our chill.
dren civil to ourselves and to others
we must be civil to them. A request
is often better than 4 command. A
kind "thank you," is u return the
smallest favor may claim. Children
and servants are entitled to our po-
liteness as well as guests and strang.
crs.
If We would be civil abroad, we
must be civil in our own home. We
must cultivate the beautiful in onr
daily lite. We must seek for the per
feet in our manners, as in Our morals:
and no where should we seek to shed
such radiance as when surrounded
by those whom we love, and who look
up to rs as patterns of what they
should be. Home should be the sane
tuary of all that is hOliest, of all that
is attractive and charming. There
we should be the most agreeable and
lovely, and there we should endeavor
10 develope our idea of perfection.
If we always practice what we
know, We shall ever be learning more.
Ii we allow ourselves to become care
less in our manners and mode OF life,
it will soon be obvious that we are
tending to barbarism. We can scarce
ly be too particular in regard to our
manners in private. y true lady is a
lady everywhere-in her own room as
surely as in tue most fashionable par
lor.
"The greatest danger in home life"
writes Timothy Titcomb, "springs
from its familiarity. Kindred hearts,
gathered at common freside, are far
too apt to relax from the pToprieties
Of social life. Careless language and
o careless attire are too apt to be in.
dulged in, when the eye of the world
is shut off, and the ear of the world
rannot hear" If We suffer ourselves
to be overcome by this danger, we
need not seek to appear well when we
most desire it. We must have high
idea Of what we may be, that we may
continually strive for Advancement
THE higher you aim, the higher you
will reach" is remark OF Fenelon
that fairly imprinted itself on my mind
and it has helped me many times to
set my standard, where, without its
influence, never could have planted
it. .....
We should not be satisfied with
anything but the best to which we may
attain. The snares, and labors, and
weariness Of life often tempt us to dis
couragement, but we must be Of good
courage. We must remember that
we cannot afford to lose any good we
may have obtained. We must not
suffer our manners to deteriorate, but
rather let them improve, that we may
be able to elevate others who have
possessed fewer advantages than our
selves.