The independent press. (Abbeville C.H., S.C.) 1853-1860, 1859-06-10
TIE RIGHT TRAINING OF WOMAN.

out peoples mlnGS ridiculous lneas oi
certain purely fac.,iou. style of living, with S
out which it is impossible to keep house.
There are plenty Of young men who have
TO unlearn the foppery of expenses dspro. {
portioned to their means, and the sordidness
Of uxuries which feed. not self,respect, but
guttony and pride. The possibility must
be secured TO daughters aud younger sisters
growing to be rational, apprccia'ive COM
panions; girls who, if they are ever mar
ried, will choose and value their husband
for what he is, and be interested in his call
ing and his opportunities Of observation
women who will estimate the grave and
sweet realities Of wife and motherhood, be.
yond any accident of precedence or super.
fluffy. BY dismiSsing false and foolish no.
tions Of responsibility, by refusing the cheap |
destinations Of pal,ry education Of display,
by discountcnancire restraints ms,lircc,ed or
too rigorous, 10y cu,iva,ng an intelligent
and una>Suming mode Of intercourse, by q
careful foresight in assisting young people
to prepare themselves for the exer:ipn and cost
of one day being the centre Of peaceful
hospitabe home; in these and other ways
much may be done to remove Instructions
to that gradual acquaintance and tha, un-
affected respect and attachnen, which lead
on 10 a happy marriage
In the mean time it will he well to think.
with not only the sympathy, but the vener-
alton they deserve, of many among those
who will never marry to assist in multi
plying the too few occupations suitable to
women, or to open to them; above all, not
to preach, by implication or otherwise, that
womrn's life need never he dwaricd to a
nega,ion. or consumed mi-erahly away. hy
causes completely ont OF her control. There
are women strong enough. to keep their
footing in the world singly, without n loss
of womanlv dignity and sweetness, and to
organize around them the moral elements
Mt all events, of an independent existence.
They whose steps are feeble need the more
to b. helped rather than hin,lcrcd in til.
struggle with their faining and more yield
iny self. Ii they fall here, is it at all Ger.
tain that in weldcl life their lot wo' ID
have been auspiciousl Alas! how man,
q faltering will has been bent and given
beneath sanguine, unlufiled resolutions t.
reclaim and humanize the husband wht
has pulled the wife down instead 10 his owl
mean and wretrhed level Marriage is no
a lottery, but is mere wiful blindness Il
forget that in all its higher aspects it ma
be wofnlIy inverted or appaIhngly dcbased
Not all the grand provisions Offender lie
and gracious instincts which surround on
OF the greatest Of divine ordinances wi
make people pure Or happy who insist o
being peevish or frivolous, or worldly, sci
sual. Or devilIsh.
Welded life is a great and a holy my
terry, and source Of power for good, ofte
far beyond estimation hut unless there l
at least one soul filled with unselfish low
and strong in an unflagging faith, the 70
NAL union between two persons is no qua
antee whatever for a will ennohled, or a
fec,ions enlarged or cleansed. And Il
faith which SO works 10y love can make
sunshine in a shady place without an i
fan.'s or husbands eve to look into. II
harmonies of developed and transfgur'
wohanhood have been set many time
other music than that of wedding. BELLS
She who is enlhroned never, under al
roof, in mothers holy sovereign v, m;
earn the right, in many house, of col
pelling every soul to love her. She "
create or find an atmosphere in which
keep unwithered "the heart out of whi
are the issues of life" Her hands will
deem the time, and her brain not be id
Living singly. yet not solitary, when {
dies it will not be till "s,note" by man,
touch of gratitude and cheerful, revereu
sympathy, the chord of self has trenb
past in music out Of sight"
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