Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1859-09-21
For the Advertiser.
A few Words to Women, as Maidcns
and Wives.

Girls if you wish to marry, fit yourselves to be-
coma wives When man marries it is feasible
TO suppose that he expects to get hcipmate-n
partner in ovcry relation of life; one wis" will
rejoice with him ip his prosperity and happiness,
and synpathizc with him il Sorruw; confidential
fricud- -dsiutcrcsted uectionatc, and solicitors.
who will dispel gloom aad cast cheering in
Aueucc throughout his dwelling. bis other, h"lier,
and better self. But in nine CAGES out Of ten what
docs he gel? Why little more than money
spending machine walking advertisement for
dry good merchants and millinerS-a dilutiun of
tie list Of accomplishments taught ut boarding
Schools. Is it any wonder then that men are be-
coming shy OF matrimpny aud look upon it as
sort of swinila, in which they seldom get even
! the half Of what they bargain for! Is il any
wonder that young men are aEuid to tic them
selves for life to girls who will never he any thing
but an expense to them? Is it any wonder that
marriage is OH the decline, and old maids und old
bachelors are more numerous than when our
grand parents were young
repent it, girls if you wish and expect to mar
ry fit yourselves to become wives. Don't turn up
your noses at the idea Of being useful, get the
bronm and dusting brush, use them vigorously for
an hour or two, step about hriskly and pa, things
in their proper places. d. this every morning
it will make your eyes brighter, your checks more
rosy, your step more clasti; and is far better
crci.e than lolling back in II carriage for morn
ing drive, or lingering ls:lc:sly over piano
Don't scorn the culinary ar, learn to make good
bread and cake, nice custars and puddinss; learn
to boil, bake and fry mcas properly 1t is not
vulgar to know how to cook and it will save you
world Of vexation in after years. 1t matters
little what number of servants you keep, it is ne
cessary that you should learn how to do these
things in order that you should know when they
aro properly done. Beside, you may have to teach
| your servants in days to come, and how can you
possibly teach others that which you do not un-
derstand yourselves? Don't think that your edit
cation is finished when you leave school. You
may consider yourselves very accomplished, sing
and play diyincy, speak French like native, and
dance like Sylph. You may set horse like
Dianna, and pride yourselves Un your skill in
drawing and painting. All these things very
well, but men when they marry look for something
beside accomplishments. Sensible men like prac-
teal wives; and even men who arc not sensible
enough to like practical women have to eat You
cannot charm away their appetite with brilliant
y executed piece of music, neither can you call
badly cooked dishes by French names, and by SO
i doing render them catahlc.
Practice sewing rs you would any other branch
of education. learn to patch and darn neqtly
never allow yourselves to throw away garments
because there is hole or two in them they &C
fine things to practice mendug on.
These things may appear 20 be of little conse-
qucnce, but they ought to be just as much IL part
Of every girls education, as grammer or history
It makes but little difference ut what fashionable
College or Seminary you hare graduated, if you
lo not know how to cook, wash and iron, make
and menl garments neatly, and above all keep u
house in order. why you arc not marriageable.
And, you lalcs who are married, surprising
tha; you have never had the opportunity Of learn
ing to manage domestic affairs, commence this
branch Of your education at once. Consider that
the old ndagc better late than never" will apply
admirably in your case, nnd never dcsist until
you become proficient. You Will he likely to make
some failures at first, but don't let thai discourage
you try again and keep trying until you succeed
to your satisfaction. If you have servants TO do
the heavy work we'll and good, that will not pre-
vent your being present. You will find that one
third will he saycd by your Icing there. for even
the few servants who are not really dishonest arc
, provcrhially careless an,l wastciul. Every lady
should be familiar with her kitchen, should meas-
ure and weigh, give her orders and sec them exc
cutcd. Try this IlaM for one month, and think
You will iGl that you arc much tho Sancr. l
consider it the duty Of cverY wife to study her
husbands interest When WOMAN narrirs she
takes upon herself these responsibilities and it is
neither right nor proper that she should shrk them
OF on servants. Every lady whose health will
allow of ill., should be her own houselccprr.
Don't expect, young ladies when YOU marry
that ycu can have your own say entirely. This
will be impossible. Always stand ready to give
up ut least half your wshe; to your husband;
and il lie is y reasonable mar that half will salts
! fy him. And, after having been married twelve
or fourteen years, should he declare you prricrr'
| and call you an Angel why you need m"t con-
| tract hin. Men are not perfect they have. !
think, as many faults as women. The great secret
of Happiness Ii married life j, fnr each ~ overlook
the faults ns the other. \ wife should study the
disposition of hcg husband, and Iip.n'+ing he
cor,cs horde sometimes little cro.S-all ln.n do,
even Mr.. Lavender does, and know llr is une OF
the kin,lcSt ana ueSt Of mem-wcll, rs said be-
fore. should your husband com, home little onr
Of sorts, dont appear 10 notice ii; meet him wiz:
plsasant smile, and kind wari. lf he is hHn-
sry place hs pc: dishes nicel' served up before
him chat cicrrfully with hin; while he is eating;
let lin sre that you are doing your best to make
him comfortable and take ny wo-d FOR it lie will
cumc out Of the srlks, and in less than IN hour
he as pleasant az possible Niaeiy nine eases out
of a Hundred wll yiell rcariilr to this treatment.
Another very essential thing in promoting TO-
nestle hnyrpness Is the care of yonr husbands
wardrobe. Very few man have tcmpers that are
nr,of against bntonlc:s shirts Don't fail to guard
aga;nt this source of annoyance. really believe
I have srwcl on nj least Il half bTshcl of buttons
since married, though have been married u
long tilnc,--t!irtcen years anil more: harc% round
half ,ussn children, and still Mr.. Lavender de-
cG-cs that uuv honey moon is not half over. lie
expects it to last us long wcfiyc. and 'lont
why il shurll not. I aln sure have no ohjec-
tiuns.
BE consirleratc Of your husbands feelings. Never
npp.a. to know more than lie does: no matter
how mach woman kn"ws she shcull never feel
suneriar 10 her husband ! oa,c heard Ur Il Finely
educated girl WIN married an litcrntc man WHO
coull not even write his name. In signing some
documents Tie bridegroom male his nark,--:hr
bride, though fine scholar made her mark also.
There was Il world of 'lc;icacy and consideration