The home journal. (Winchester, Tenn.) 1858-188?, 1859-10-27

! wish every husband would copy
into his memorandum book this SEN
tencc, from recently published
work: "Women must be constituted
very different from men. A word
said, line written, and we are happy {;
omitted, our hearts ache rs Il for a
great misfortune. Men cannot feel
it, or guess at ii; II they did, the
most careless Of them would be slow
to wound US So"
The grave hides many n heart
which has bee. stung to death, be-
cause one who might, offer all, have
loved it after certain careless fash
ion, was deaf, dumb and blind to the
truth in the sentence we have just
quoted, or il not, was Mt least rcstive
and impatient with regard to it. Ma
ny men, marrying late in life, being
accustomed only to take charge of
themselves, and that in the most crratic
rambling, exciting fashion, eating and
drinking, sleeping and walking when
ever and wherever they fancy, or
good cheer and amusement, question"
able or mquestionablc, prompted
come at last, when they get tired Of
this, with their selfish habits fixed as
fate, to-matrimony.
For "A while it is a novelty. Shortly
it is strange as irksomr, this always
being obliged to consider the comfort
and happiness of another. To have
something always hanging on the
arm, which used to swing free, or at
most, but twirl u cane. Then, they
think their duty done if they provide
food and clothing, and remain Uoss-
bly) from harsh words. Ah-S III
Listen to that sigh as you close the
door. Watch the gradual fading of
the eye, and paling Of the check, not
from age--she should be yet young
but that gnawing pain ut the heart,
born Of the settled conviction that the
great hungry craving of her soul, as
far as you are concerned, must go for
ever unsatisfcd. God help such
wives, and keep themIrom attempting
to slakc heir thirst at poisoned loun-
tains.
Thinh you, hcu husband, how little
II kind smile, u caress to yOu, how
much to her. Ii you call these things
Childish" and beneath your notice,
then you should never have married.
There are men who should remain
forever single. You are one, You
have no right to require Of a woman
her health, strength, time and devo-
ton, to mock her with this shadoWy,
unsa,isfying return A new bonnet.
Il dress, a shawl, Il watch, anything.
everything, but what true woman's
heart most cravcs-sympathy, apprc-
citation, love. She may be rich in cv-
erything else, but if she be poor in
these, and is a gUoi woman, she had
better die.
There arc hard, un!oving, cold mon.
strositics OF women, Carc cxceptions)
who neither require love, nor know
how to give it. We are not speaking
of these. That big hearted, loving,
noble men have occasionally been
thrown away upon such, does not dis
prove what we have been SAYING
But even a man thus situated has
greatly the advantage Of woman in
a similar position, because, over the
needle, a woman may think herself
into an Insane Asylum, while the ac'
tive, outdoor turmoil of business life
is at least a sometime reprieve to
him.
Do you ask me, 'Arc there no hap
py wivest' God be praised, yes, and
glorious, loveablc husbands, too, who
know how to treat woman, and
would have her neither fool nor
drudge. Almost every wife would be
a good and a happy wife, ,cere she on
ly loved enough. Let husbands. pres,
ent and prospective, think of this.
Fan"y Fern.
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