American Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1855-1860, 1859-01-27
ls. lFromths Amsrisaa Agrisaltarist. .
Hints ON DepOTtMent .at Home
BIZ ANNA HOPE.

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Nothing that affects our influence is Of
little importance. Our position in society
depends much upon our manners. "A ID
dy 10 known more by, her manners than
oy her dress. Silks, velvets and ,laces
can be bought BY money. The properties
Of life are learned only by delicate tact,
and an acquaintance with good soci-
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Home politeHess is rarely considered as
Of 80 much Importance as Il really is.-
We are too often inclined To- treat stran-
gers with more respect than those of our
own household. Children, especially are
supposed to have no particular claim up
on our politeness, and are often treated
with as little consideration as the dogs
which they pet. II we would have our
children civil to ourselves and to others,
We must be civil to them. A request is
often better than command. A kind
"thank you," is return the smallest ia
vor may claim Children and servants
are entitled to our politeness as we'll as our
guests and strangers, gs v
IF we would be civil abroad we must
be civil in our owa homes. We must
cultivate the beautiful in our daily life -
We must seek for the perfect in our man
neRs. as In our morals; and no where
should we seek TO shed such radiance
as when surrounded by those whom we
love, and who look up to US as patterns
of what they should be. Hcme should
be the Sanctuary Of al that is holiest, of
all that is attractive and charming. There
We should be the most agreeable and loye-
lyi and there we should endeator to de.
velope our idea Of perfection.
II we always practice what we know,
we shall ever be learning more. If we
allow ourselves to bacome careless in our
niannets and mode Of life, il will soon be
obRiods that we aretending to barEarism
We can scarcely be too particular in re.
gard to our manners in private, A true
lady is a lady everywhere--in her own
room as surely as in the most fashionable
parlor. fp' aeait F..
.'The greatest danger ii home life,"
writes Timothy Titcomb, "springs from
its familiarity. Kindred hearts, gathered at
a COMMON hreside are far too apt to relax
from the proprieties Of social life. Care
less language and q careless attire are
too apt to be INDUCED in, when the eve
of the world is shut off. and The ear of The
world cannot hear" II we suffer our
selves to be overcome by this danger we
need not seek to appear well wheo we
most desire 1t. We must have high l.
dea Of what we may be, that we may con-
tinually strive for advancement. .'The
higher you aim. the higher you will reach,"
is sremark of Fenelon that fairly imprin-
ted itself On my mind. and Il has helped
ude many times to set my standard. whSrs
without its influence, | never could have
planted il. y
We should not be satisfied with any,
thing but the best to which we may at-
tain. The SHARES, aud lAbors, and weari.
ness 0! life often tenpts US to Idisuour-
agement but we must be- Of good courage.
Wemust remember that We Cannot afford
to lose any good We may have obtaiued =. Z.
We uiust not suffer our nianners to deteri-
orate. but rather let them improve, that
we may be able TO elevate others who
haye. .Possssssd fawer advantages than our-
selves.
! ihAve'n0 liking Tor 9 parIor with clo-
sed shutters and doors reserved for special
occasions and 30 seldom used that the
family hardly know whether they are a
homeor abroad whsn In ii. A parlor
should be cheerful family room, made as
beautifal and attractive as persons
taste aud means can make II. Every par.
lor should be as individual as the psrson
who occupies il. / would not willingly
resign 4 house into the hands OF an uphoi.
stersr: 1 might avail myself Of his ex.
perience. but | should wish my own taste
to preside over IL. s.a.g = ... ~ 'z.'tae3.-6