The Tiffin tribune. [volume] (Tiffin, Ohio) 1848-1859, 1859-01-14
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can never be done a. home.
''Haye you good schools hors9" ask
ed
"Toloraty good 1suppose she learns
as much ffom books At home as anywhere
Ibu, she viii novet be a hdy or &c Tor cen
ted soci ty till she goes on somewhere. +
But her father won't hear word about
III, and that e WON'T BE- any kind Of use'to
her. aud all that Strange, how little
q man knows shout such thidgsl"
Mrs. G. who thus gave expreesion TO
her sentiments, was an ola lsisnd Of mine
whom was visiting. aud this eonversa-
ton Occurred she evening Of my arrival,
tafter her husband aud children were ia
bed, and we were having little uondden-
ual chat.
! had not seen Della Ann for some five
years. but remembered her well, as q pref
| ty, lively. rather self-willed young lady
oftwelre, who was great favorite in
tbe Camily, and bade fair to grow up into
a handsome. attractive woman; and IL
was with no small interest 4 looked for
ward TO meeting her. uuH U
The next morning We sat down to
break ast at an eatl7 hour bat Miss
Della Ann did not make her appearance
till we were nearly through. l was sur
prsed to see what tall young lady she
had shot up into, and how very pretty
sl,e had become Her puie, brilliant
compexion, her soft blus eyes, aud curl
ing brawn hair would have made quite a
belle Of nsr IN some circles; but, alas,
with the Conviction Of her extreme pret-
tiness came another equally strong. that
her manners really did need Improvement
and that a chongv in many Of her habits
would be most desirable.
She was dressed In dying morning
wrapper Of gay colored ohints, with a
brilliant red border, so far from clean that
my eye tarned away from It's greasy spots
with disgust; her hair had lrizEy un-
combed look; her teeth and nails had been
shocRingly neglected, and we're now act
ually filthy, though several costly rings
wore enoircling her fugers at that early
hour. She sat down at the table without
so much as saying GOOD morning" to
her parents or brothers, and looking at
Everything before her With very. dis
satisfied turn.up of her pretty nose,
found fault with the Office, which she
supped with loud noise, and finally, af-
ter swallowinge few mouthfuls, pushed
away her chair without saying word
aud left the room, loudly slamming the
door after her
"a boarding school to teach you man
ners yopng lady'' I mentally exclaimed
What you want is good ,homs training,
one which should have taught you to rise
early; wash your face aud comb your
hair properly, and clean your teeth anC
nails; to dispense with red borders anC
finger rings, and dress yourself in cleal
calico: to greet your family with a pleas
ant smile, and a cheerful good morning
to drink your coffee aud hold your knit
and fork properly, and partake Of wha
was set before you without any disparag
= ing comments.--this would have done in
fnitely more than any boarding schoo
ever can, toward making you a lady"
Alas, what can boarding schools do
when building on such foundationl-
Whai, but add few superficial airs and
graoes, l;ttlo smattering OF French and
music, little more fondness for dress
and outside show, which shall make th,
innate yulgarity all the more conspicuous
1t is sad 70 see the false ideas Of refine
ment and geutihty which exist in many
New England homes. To make lady o
the daughter is often the great end an(
aim for which great sacrifices are made
and yet so train her, as to make her total
| ly uureiined aud vulgar, in dress, man
ners and feelings. 10 be lady. seems t,
mean in the vocabulary an eXpensively
fashionably dressed young female, VIII
looks with contempt on the useful hom,
occupations, and dawdles round the hous
with piece Of soiled embroidery in he
hands; who plays few tunes on Che pi
ano or guitar. aud who has been taught
few coGyenital phrases, and effects a Ger
tain style aud air, which imply vast su
periority over those around her. lady
) Oh, it is downright desecration thus l.
apply a word so significant Of all that !
! gentle and kind aud modest word
) that first Of all, is synonorlous with neat
ness aud aimiability and thOughtfulness Q
those about us.
} Ii mothers, ambitious foe their daugh
t ters' success in life, would only under
Q stand that TO make them refined and lady
! like, they must educate them for It a
home instead Of relying on the tlnsele
ornaments Of a boarding shool education
that underlying all external graces o
manner thtre must be foundation c
: modest, refned thoughts, anc womanl,
!. fealings &c make them such as shall pleas
: the high1r classes Of society, we Nigh
S hope fct better things Timothy Til
e comb's letters TO young ladies should b
: studied by parents as well as daughters
e ana the sound, common sense truth
t lney utter. be received and carried iht
2 their daily lives. ""
= We know young woman may be moo
Q est. neat aud refined in feeling, Withor
having the grace Of manner which woul
Z charm stranger, but one who Is sucl
J. and truly simple and unaffected, viii ue'
{ er disgust or repel the most fastiaiou
G and when known will always obtain r
: spect and esteem from the truly guilty.
: tod portion Of the community.
. Phersis no farm house Ia Massachi
e setts whore the daughters ofa wise, pail
y taking mother may not grow up ,ladyslil