The weekly hawk-eye. [volume] (Burlington, Iowa) 1858-1860, 1859-05-10

Then the reality 10 unveiled. What !
called the GLORIOUS fun" OF life has come
an end Without money, without habita :
economy, v'thos. ia faculty Of Gavin
money. or 1..ng wisely what 10 earned. viii
rosltive habits Of wrong or useless spending
nxed BY the practice Of years, and with ,
reputation corresponding to his habits. wha
now shall be done What prospects open
At the very best, with few exceptions
nothing but an inferior position for life.
Couple these things with the idle extrava
CANT manner, in which 20 many Of only
moderate means. seem anxious to educate
their daughters, teaching them only to b.
bnrthens to be borne, and we have state q
;hlugs whose sad significance it would be
wise to study.
How arc such young men and women "a
enter into the marriage relation, with any
reasonable prospect Of happy and prosperous
homesI In order to succeed, the first lesson
IS, to unlearn the whole experience Of the
previous life, or at least to get rid of its re
suits, thing not often, or easily done. The
idea OF two young persons uniting hearts,
hands, and efforts for the purpose of building
up together home and fortune, seems to be
discarded by most
A home endeared and consecrated by the
memories Of early struggles and self denials
for each other and their children, followed
BY devoted success, browning manly and
womany effort, a training which puriies the
heart an d lays the foundation Of firm and
lofty character, "a discipline which created
the power and the glory of our early Amer
lean homes, these are becoming impossible in
our present methods Of life,
Those frugal homes of our country, and
especially those which, far from the city,
nestle in the sunny spots Of hill and plain
and valley, where mutual love makes labor
light, snd self-denial pleasant, these are the
spots where children are trained to habits Of
Ind 1sfry and economy so that when able to
earn Tor themselves, they have already learn
ed the art OF saving, an art far more difficult
than that of obtaining money.
Very many ofour successful men who are
now in middle life, and in prominent posi-
tons, seldom had in their boyhood as much
as dollar at time in their possession, or
II they had, 1t was long and carefully hoard
ed tor the purchase ofsome useful article.
In such homes they learned industry and
economy together, and in such schools our
noblest men and women have been trained,
they who have been the preserving salt Of
our country.
But now amidst the false life, of which we
see so much in our cities, when the Christian
rule of economy is scorned, young man
must have fortune earned or heired, or
some lucrative business at command or what
hope can he have in the married relation !?
salary, probably, will not sup
port himself alone how then shall he add
to this the fashionable charge of wife p
ne idea OF helpmate in wife seems faded
out OF good society she is one to be support
I'd, in che opinion of many. Under such
circumstances, too marriage is often delayed
until on both sides, the young affections have
run to waste, and the freshness of the heart
is gone.
The course Of fashionable life, and the ex-
pense for the qualification of pride and vanity,
tend to divest home Of the holy baptism of
early love- and sink to lower level the idea
81 WIFE, Substitute as society seems di>pos-
20 to, woman to be maintained, TO- wife
who ould be helper and support;let a no
tel take the place OF a home, with it's charmed
circle OF domestic cares, trials and joys, and
add the modern views Of divorce; and the
whole basis of Christian marriage. home and
family, are swept away, Gods hottest and
dearest institution IL subverted, and what
have we left but the idea of woman kent
according to law for time, until one or the
other tires of the contract, or has discovered
some new affinity?
We think that unless expenses are among
the chief causes of failure and crime with
young men, and that fashionable extraya-
gance is subverting the very basis of Ameri-
cam homes.