Shepherdstown register. [volume] (Shepherdstown, Va. [W. Va.]) 1849-1955, 1859-08-27
THE Right Training of Women.

an arncIe on fenlale GuucauOh, from
which We take the following passage;
"Much remains TO be done in winnow-
ing out of peoples minds ridiculous ideas
.of certain purely FICTITIOUS style of llv-
ing, without which i, is impossible TO
keep house. There are plenty Of young
men who have yet 10 unlearn The foppeIy
OF expenses disproPorIioned to their
means, and the sOrddness Of luXares
which feed, not self-respecl, but glutlony
and pride. The possibility must be Sc
cured TO daughters and younger sisters
growing up to be rational, appreciatlve
companions girls who, if they ever
married, will choose and value their hus-
band for what he is, and be interested in
his calling and his opportunities for Oh
servali0A women who will estimate the
grave and sweet realities OF wife AND
motherhood, beyond any accident Of pre-
cedence or superlLiiv. By dismlssIng
'fslse and foolish notions of respectable
ity, by refusing the cheap destinations OF
pallrv education Of display, by dlSconn-
tenanCing restraints Misdirecled or too
rigorous, by cultivating an intelligent and
careful foresight in assisting young peo-
| pie 10 prepare themselves for The eXerHon
and cost of one day being the centre OF
peaceful, hospilable home in these and
other ways much may be done to remove
iobsuuc,ons 10 that gradual acquaintance,
a -, A. att IN.
ment, which lead on TO happy marriage.
"ln The meantime, 1t may be we'll 10
think. with no. only the sympathy, bu'
the veneraiion they deserve, of many a.
mong those who will never marry 10
assist in multiplying the too few occupa-
lions suitable 10 women, or open TO them;
above ALL not TO preach by implication or
Ioiherwise that a womsn's life need ever
be Graw(ed to ncgallon or consumed
miserahly away by causes absolutely out
Of her control. There are women strong
enough 10 keep their wonaaly dignity and
sweetness, and to organize around them
the moral elements, at sll events, Of an IN
dependent existence. They whose steps
are feeble need The more 10 be helped, {,
rather than hindered. in The slrngg Ie with
their lcinter and more yielding self. II
they fall here, is it al all certain that IN
welded life their lot would have been
auspicious Alas how many ialleT-
ing will has bent and 'givrn' bene alh
sangune, unfui6lled resolutions, 10 re-
claim and humanize the husband, who
has pulled the wife down instead TO hls
own mean and wretchcd level ! Marriage
is no, iollery out i. Is n,ere wiIiiuI
blindness to forget that, in al lis higher
aspects, ii may be wofully inverted or
appallinely debased. Not all the grand
provision Of tender ties and gracious IN
suncls which surround one Of the greaeet
Of Divine ordinances, will make people
pure or happy who insist on being Peev-
i.h or frivolous, or worldly, sensual and
deviisb.
"Nedded life is great and holy mys
terry, and a source of power for good, OIL
ten far beyond estimation; butunless there
be a. least one soul filed with unselhsh
love, and strong in an unAagsing faith ,'he
formal union of TWO Persons Is no guar
anlee whatever for a will ennebled or sf-
feclons enlarged and clesnsed. And the
faith which so works by love can make
sunshine in a shady place, without an in
fanl's or husbands eye TO look into.
The harmonies of developed and uans-
figured womsnhood have been set many
a tine TO other music than that of wedding
bells. She who is enlhroned never, un.
der any roof. in a mothers holy sover-
eignly, may cam the right in many a
house Of compelling every soul 10 love
her. She will create or find an stmo'-
phere in which to keep, uuwi'hered and
in foil pulsation, the heat out OF which
are lhe issues Of life Her hands will
redeem The time, and her brain not be
idle. Living singly, yet not solitary,
when she dies it will not be ill, 'smoIe,
by many a touch Of gratitude and cheer
ful, revenlsl sympathy, 'lhe chord of self
has, trembling, passed in music out OF
sight