The Pacific commercial advertiser. [volume] (Honolulu, Hawaiian Islands) 1856-1888, 1859-07-14

As Va were vending our way .down town.
a few days since, on q bright July morning, we
wege accosted by a gentleman with the remark
that he would like to furnish as with a subject
for an editorial article. We expressed the hap
piness with which we should listen to any sug-
gestions, although we could not promise to act
upon them.
WELL" he responded, '' the subject to which
I alluded is, matrimony."
.sAh, said we, sententiously " that is a
very solemn subject"
Yes" he replied, s.and the more reason that
an article should be written about it. Every
body he proceeded, acknowledges that one of
the chief ends of man is to marry and perpetuate
the race. The destiny of man upon earth cannot
be perfected without marriage, any more than
the destiny of a pile of bricks can be perfected
without mortar. | regard the institution of
marriage as the most valuable of institutions
second to none that are, or ever have been and
one which is essential to the preservation of social
happiness, civilization, and human harmony.
Why, between you and me, l have no doubt that
it is to be the great agent of the coming millen-
ium in fact, I think the universally of the
marriage tie uiH be the millennium"
We shook our head, rather doubling the force
! of his remarks, and he, warming with the sub
iect. proceeded Can there be" he said, ANY
earthly happiness more perfect than that pro-
duced by the union of two sympathetic hearts,
confding, the one to the other, depending each
upon the other, and mutually pouring into each
other that great measure of love which renders
such a union perfect? Can there be a condition
-, Jo.;,,bla than that which leads
man to II throw away the selfish individuality which
governs his single life and form ties that bind
him more closely to his fellow men-which give
him an object to live for and a companion to live
with-whi surround him with the comforts
and grateful responsibilities of welded life?
Whv,'' said he, with the air of one who is bring
ing forward an incontrovertible argument, : did
YOU ever know a widow, or a widower, who vol
UNFAIRLY remained i'm that Unfortunate condi-
ton ?;
:. But" we Intercepted, do you think that
mutual love and domestic harmony are the Inc
vitable consequences of marriage? Did you
nsger hear of such a thing as family jars"
"a said he, 81 you have me there. L adj
nit that all marriages are not happy. In fact,
there are exceptions to every rule. Mankind are
vet far from perfect, and when two uncongenial
spirits are thus united, as is sometimes the case,
mutually unyieIding and accommodating, their
happiness cannot be supreme. But then such
cases are rare. The human mind is naturally
plastic and when two of them come in contact,
they fit themselves to each other. The corners
wear off. Attrition snooths away the rough
nesses. And in ninety-nine cases out OF a hum
bred where union is founded upon mutual respect
and love, a happier and more perfect life is the
result. Why, there was my old school-fellow,
Jack tout-onee Of the most awkward, ungainly
and practical mortals that were ever cast in
Natures mould-he married a little girl as diff
ferent from him as the day is from the night
a little rosy-chceked, curly-haired romp OF a
thing, that did nothing but laugh from one
weeks end to another. and knew as much OF
housekeeping as 1 do Of bonnets. Everybody
laughed at the match and called it absurd. Jack
ought to have taken, they said, Libby Jones, a
bony-framed, strong-minded maiden of thirty
five. But the fact is, Jack and Norah loved each
other, though nobody would believe that such
a thing could be and when | last visited them,
some ten wears since, Norah was one of the
most charming little mothers L ever saw, and
Jack by the magic touch of Hymen, had been
transposed into a thoroughbred gentleman and
as for their love to each other, why, turtle-doves
offer no comparison.
sNow." proceeded he, his benevolent face
beaming with enthusiasm, 50 it is n well-known
fact that the number of unmarried men, of young
men particularly, among our Honolulu popula-
is disproportionately large. In fact, If a Bene-
dick Society were formed here, such as l have
seen in other places, and each member was
obliged to wear the half of a pair of scissors, as
a badge of his incomplete condition, the price of
hardware would Immediately go up. This is the
condition of things that ought to be remedied.
This is what 1 want you to take hold of and
write about"
But, my dear Sir" said we, " there is one
argument which you seem to forget-the expense
of supporting a family here in Honolulu. You
know that a large proportion of the young men
that you speak of, are hardly able to support
themselves and how can one possibly support
two upon an income which barely sufices for
one2"
sThat." he replied, : is the point l was just
coming to; and | wonder that a sensible man,
like yourself, should be deceived by so fallacious
a system of logic. The truth is, that many of
these young men you speak OF actually spend
more, every year, on themselves and their pleas
ures, than would suffice to support a family COM
fortably. To enable their incomes to supply the
wants of married life, it would only be necessary
to economize, avoid extravaganza, and trust your
happiness to the charms of domestic pursuits
rather than to those outside pleasures, which in
amount of real enjoyment cannot compare with
the happiness of home. The fact is, a young
bachelor is apt to indulge in luxuries. He needs
them to console him for his lonely condition and
a large part of his income goes for things which,
if a married man, he would never consider neces-
sary. For example, in order to find occupation
for his idle evenings, he .joips some three or four
societies of different kinds, which cost him per-
haps a hundred dollars a year he smokes, at a
moderate estimate, say fifty dollars worth of
cigars; he spends a hundred and fifty dollars
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