The Manitowoc pilot. [volume] (Manitowoc, Wis.) 1859-1932, 1859-08-12
CORRESPONDENCE,
70 the Editor Of the Pilot :

As am about to make an important
enange IN the history Of my life, by leav
ing the State of Wisconsin, and enterinr
The congcnla4 stdte Of Matrimony, you can
imagine my anticipated happiness. and
pardon the liberty that have taken in
soliciting an insertion in the Plot. Of .
few ideas for the especial benefit Of the fair
ladies Of the Badqer State, for whom
entertain The most exalted opinion.
Woman, in my estimation, was original
y made for the convenience and hanpiness
of man. Her greatest interest and higbast
destiny is judicious and we'll selected
marriage. And she who postpones or ne
elects this tuliilmcnt Of her mission, mere
ly to CRAFTY thirst for the cav vanities
OF the world, has but a slight appreciation
OF the true beauty and duty of life. and
has never been moved by the noble impui-
ses Of woman's higher nature. | am no
| stranger to the provoking aspirations ofthe
female heart. | have seen the power os
womans ambition for dstinction-T have
seen them when they experienced, appa
rently, the sweetest intoxication of genera.
admiration. can make due allowance for
the buoyancy OF youthful spitits, and rrc-
perIy estimate the enchanting influence of
present joys and prospects yet ahead. |
know the extent of the supposed sacrifice
IN exchanging the position of an dolized
belle, for that of wife blessed with the
love of but enc man. | have carefully
weighed all these considerations, and have
seen many fall victims to their delusiyu
frauds 3. What an unmitigated absurdity to
refuse to marry man whom YOU love,
merely because he is your first suitor?-
Why DO him injustice because he is the
first to appreciate your merits, and the bold
est and most honest in declaring his III
tentions Why sacrifice your interest to
the qualification Of false public opinion,
or the whim of your own foolish fancy -
Legions of professional beaux and lean for
tune hunters may ever be at your bid, ca
ger to tighten your cares and feed yotr
vanity, but a lady Of sufficient capacity of
mind would certainly profess contempt
for these, and would sooner "waste her
sweetness on the desert air" than marry
one. Then why discard worthy lover
for the purpose Of pleasing and gaining
admiration Of those for whom you entertain
such disrespect? You need not hope to
elicit praise from any others, because moth
ING is more certain than all men worth
marrying regard her as a cheat who starts
out with the idea Of captivating everybody.
They deem the desire for so extensive d
Jurisdiction an unfavorable Indication, and
prefer those to whom Il smaller sphere III
after while would be less tormenting. OF
course, no girl should marry unless well
satisfied of the entire safety of the move.
ment Marriage is woman's most import
ant act OF life. and should never he entered
into with blindness to its Consequences
But when one is conscious of her own af-
lection, and convinced Of the genulnehess
of that of her lover, when neither dispar-
ity OF age or circumstances, nor an opposi-
ton Of opinion or disposition, forbid tho
union, let it not be prevented by such tri-
fling considerations as a desire for further
conquest, or a too strong adherence TO tie
maxims and customs Of life. How many
girls have been robbed not only of good
husbands, but of after health and hapri-
ness, by the pieasurabIe, but deceptive pleas
of better chances" and more fun"
For her protection, woman has been en-
lowed with disposition to conceal her
love, and to do otherwise would be an evi-
dence Of the want Of proper delicacy. But
this advantage is security enough, and all
arts Of dissemination, evasion pretended or
conditional rcjections, are refined hands
full Of dangerous risks. AS for examplif-
cation, ! have seen her, who wanted a bet
ter chance, driven to the mortifying ex-
tremty of takihg any she could possibly
get-whie she who rejected her first suitor
in the world will doubtless afterwards weep
over her sad mistake. J..