The penny press. [volume] (Cincinnati [Ohio]) 1859-1860, 1859-11-04
"Pll Marry Him, for Need Home"

Many, many times do these words sound
the death knell to all earthly happiness;
many, many times is this the burden of a
requiem to which heaven alone listens
when the marriage VOW is plighted; re-
QUEEN which the fair, pale bride would
not for the world speak aloud, but which
every heart throb thrusts home to her
burning spirit, even while in deceitful
mockery she answers the fatal eyes"
''lll marry him, for need home"
Poor girl she gives her hand, but there is
no heart in the matter. She is clearly
aware his unitness to make her happy;
she even shrinks, at first, with ill-con-
oealed inward loathing, from the idea Of
surrendering herself to man whom her
heart has not chosen She tries to sum-
mon courage sufficient to refuse him; but
she is conscious of her entire inability to
depend upon herself. She says, "he will
at least keep me in . respectable condition
in life-l must marry him" And forth
with she stands at the altar and plights q,
love which she does not feel. She be>
comes his wife; not from pure sense of
love and duty, but from the mercenary
desire to obtain shelter from the fierce
storms whose violence she is unable to re-
sist by her own powers Helpless Great
ure-hew deserving of pity!
"Tll marry him, for need home" !"
Young lady, is this to be the motive that
decides your choice? Heaven forbid!
Arm yourself with consciousness of
power to grapple with actual life for your
self Bya careful process Of selfculture,
prepare true womanly independence,
should death deprive you of your natural
protectors and supporters Prepare to
stand selfsupported among the selfish
throng that crowd life's motley stage. You
will then be at liberty to consult your own
heart, whenever candidate for your
hand appears. You could even venture
to marry the man you loved even if he
had no home, with the joyful thought of
being able to help him get one-and what
a happy home would that bel
"Pll marry him, for l need some one to
loye-some one who loves and cares for
me"-this is the better reasoning With
this your motto, this your aim, you shall
be the crowning glory of your home, and
your husband shall acknowledge you to
be the good genius of his existence; and
this invaluable power of selfreliance
shall be a precious tallisman of safety, at
all times and under all circumstances,
and will prepare you for any crisis or
condition to which you may be called.
"Pll marry him, for | need home"
Yes and miserable, unhappy home you
will have, with nothing but mercenary
love in it. Your character shall deter
mine the question of your husbands s ssc-
cess in the mighty battles Of life; for
many a man of high promise and golden
gifts, has been dragged deep into despair
by weak minded, inefficient wife, who
'just married him to get a home" She
is but weakness and disease to his
pinion, instead of beauty and vigor to
his wings which would otherwise have
borne him on to honor and fortune
I'LL marry him, for need home" do
you say? Never dare speak or think that
fatal thought again. Wake up to a sense
of your own inward strength. You are
woman-not child. Dependent poy-
erty is one of the saddest of human ma
ture's ills Life is dreary waste, and
its storms are heralds of certain destruc-
tion, to such helpless, friendless child of
earth as You are. Buckle on the armor
of selfreliance, and feel that you are
able to cope with the world, and with
this consciousness and power you will
surely succeed. If adversity be yours,
you will be prepared to meet its frosty
breath; if a wife you will be content and
happy, whether prosperous or adverse
circumstances are yours-nothing would
daunt you for your motto would be-:
"hetcome the wild weathers-come sieet or come
sif-.f N4Ai1t "a
We will stand by ehch other however II blow:
Oppression SP,, and sickness, and sorrow and pain,