The North-Carolinian. [volume] (Fayetteville [N.C.]) 1839-1861, 1859-02-19
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Quarrelsome People.


Quarrelsome People.
Some people are like soap bubbles. they float
along very peacefully, and may be even orna
mental than otherwise, but let one just touch
them with the tip Of ones finger, and they fly
into atoms, and fill ones eyes with minute par
ticles OF soap suds. Or if we ascend into tn.
realm Of animal nature for a comparison, they
may be likened to Kittens which are playful anc
amiable and graceful so long as we pass ou1
hands over their backs from their heads down
wards, bat If we happen to reverse the action
they sneeZe and yowl and stick their claws into
us They do not allow to be too intimate
with them. and if We play with them at all, it il
with some trepidatiOn, and a constant and
watchful remembrance of their little foible.-
There are two kinds of quarrelsome people
One class is only ill-tempered-the other is i'll
natured both are bad enough, but the latter
is the worse. We may learn to excuse the ir-
ritable man, and to pity his infrmity of temper,
but, if we are tolerably good natured ourselves,
we do not sympathize with those morose human
porcupines whose quilts are always brstling
fercely, and who are never happy unless they
quarrellng. There plenty of examples
of both classes all around u.s. and everybody
knows where to Gnd them among his own ac-
quaintances.
Business men quarrel most frequently concern
ing business matters. Trfing disputes about
the most unimportant things grow into noun
tains so huge that there is no possibility of pass
ing them to effect a reconciliation. 1t is said
that there is never a quarrel in which both are
not to be blamed, and, with certain limitations,
there is no doubt that this assertion is true
Occasionally, men have qnarrels thrust upon
them but the instances are extremely rare in
which a little patient explanation, or candid
admission, (if an error over-si ght has been
committed,) would not have kept the peace and
done violence to no principle. Sometimes a
man may be impertinent, and even inclined to
be abusive but if he is not too large it is better
to kick him than to crafty him by retaliating.
But it would be better still to kick him only
" in the minds eye," and to dismiss him as civ
lily as possible. Nine times in ten the choleric
gentleman will be ashamed of himself when he
gets cooler, and time in hundred he will
acknowledge his error 1t is remarkable that
the most violent quarrels orig mate i'll disputes
which neither party would ever dream OF ap-
pealing to the civil tribunals to rectify.
We have another popular kind of pickering
which we call family quarrels." These some
times last for generations. In this Democratic
country have plenty of Montagues and Cap
ulets, but no Romeos and Juliets to stab them
selves to reconcile the deadly feud. The origi-
for gore, which would be positively frghtfu
only it never indnlges its longings. These fam
iy feuds are too ridiculous to talk about The
idea Of John Smith hating John Brown because
their fathers or grand-fathers Gf they ever had
any trod on one another's toes, or because
they cheated each other, is infinitely disgusting
Probably the most universal ground of quar-
reing is politics. There but few modern
politicians. Although the questions which sep
arate parties are not generally those in which
the masses need take any special interest. at
least not enough interest to awaken hatred and
engender strife, still partizans are violent. In
our day, sub-treasuries, distribution of public
lo,, dc nit Po, he
dead issues. We all remember how we used to
fight for and against them, and how cordially
we hated one another on account of them and
even yet, though these old war cries are dead
and buried, we have not buried all the hatchets
we used to brandish. OF all kinds of squat
bling, political quarrels are the most common,
the most bitter and the most foolish.
But no sort of quarreling pays. It is always
more profit to have the good will and good
opinion of any man, than to count him an enc
my. The humblest man has some influence,
and it is far better to have that on our side
than against US. If we quarrel with one who
cannot him self aid or injure US, he may have
relatives or friends whose good word might
one day be useful Or if he is such perfect
=" outsider" as to have neither friends, relatives
or influence, it seems like a small business to
quarrel with SO forlorn an individual More
over, it is unbecOming in men to fight about
words or names or obsolete ideas which were
never worth discussing. Amiabiity is so lovely
a virtue that men nstinctively admire its fortu-
nate possessor and when he comes in contact
with a cross grained, quarrelsome individual,
his own good nature shines more brightly by
reason of the contrast.
This spring season is good time to make
up ancient differences. We may safely promise
largely increased enjoyment to him who becomes
reconciled to an old foe. 1t is not wise to
nurse quarrel and to keep it warm by brood
ing over real or imaginary injuries. And the
road to peace is very plain and straight if we
have been hasty, or unkind, or inconsderate,
there is nothing manly and honorable as a
prompt acknowledgment of our fault or folly,
and none but brute will refuse proffered re-
conciliation. On the other hand, if we have
be en- injured, let US remember that We also
need pardon for many offences, and we will not
find it hard to withhold our forgveness.-Bal
timore american.
VIRTUES OF RED PEPPER.-The Scientific
American says Put three or four Jumps of
sugar, with half teaspoonful of Cayenne pep
per, in a tumbler, and fill up with hot water
when the sugar is dissolved, drink. 1t is not
only pleasant to the palate, but warns the
whole body more effectually and quicker than