The Lambertville press. [volume] (Lambertville, N.J.) 1858-1???, 1859-01-06

as beautiful and attractive persons taste and
meanscsn make it. Every parlor should as in.
dividual as the person who occupies it. would
not willingly resign house into the hands of an
upholSterer ! might avail myself Of his expert
ence but Ishould wish my own taste to preside
over it. 1t always gives me pleasure to enter
house unlike others. ] have been interested in
observing how much I can Judge of a family.
merely by the house they live in. The simplest
cottage may be made tasteful and attractive
It does not require Wealth to give an air of re,
fnement It requires little more than an innate
sense ofthebeautifnl !, Some ofthe log cabins Of
the\West have left an indeIible impression on rlg
mind, as among the most picturesque dwellings
/ have ever seen. One in northern Ohio, with
its overhanging root, and its graceful drapery Of
vines, and the dear old grandmother with her
neat dress and plain cap, standing in the door as
passed, has never been supplanted in my mem
DRY by any city palace orcountry villa We're I
an artist should transfer this picture to cam.
vas i would rather live in such a home, sur,
rounded by fine country, than in any sits, ugly
house. built and furnished without taste.
While -parlor should not be shut up from sun
light and daily life, would yet have it room,
Beyond Others in dignity. A certain attention
to dress shouldbe required of those who enterit
The dress used for labor is scarcely appropriate
to- the parlor; but when the duties of the dayare
over l think every family should attend some
what to their personal appearance, and pass the
evenings together, away from the signs of toll
which the other parts Of the house often present
I know it requires an effort to do this but think
the influence on ourselves and on our children
will more than compensate for the trouble.
/: The parloris no place for lounginga Always
endeavor to sit gracefully Do not drop side
ways into chair, with your dress all on one
side of it. Donot be in the habit of putting
your feet On chairs and sofas. have seen q
young lady ensconce herself in an armchair,
with her feet upon the upper rounds Of another,
when gentlemen and ladies were present, with as
observation-disclosures as she would have done it in
the privacy Of her own room. She could not
have given more decisive proof Of i'll breeding
than by the independent manner in which she
thus seated herself.
|. Do not take possession of the most comfort
able seat in room, unless you are an invalid,-or
all aged person.. Donot appropriate scat con-
.sidercd as belonging TO another; and, especially,
do not retain it until that person approaches you,
or seats herself elsewhere; and do not drop into
it the moment she has left il. This Is exceeding
" annoying. -
Do.not go about hurnnling or singing in an
other persons house. Step through the halls
quietly. Keep your hands off the balusters and
walls in going up and down stairs Unless you are
50 feeble that you need support It is enough
to make q nice h6uSekeeper nervous, to hear the.
sound ofthe hand slipping ever the bright VAR
nish.
Let goq- manners be kind and respectful, but
never be patronizing Let your efforts to please
be so simple andnaturah that tAeynay be agree.
able. Be observant-and attentive to the little
wants Of those around-you:
Cant phrases are an abomination, and should
rarely, if-eTer; be used j confess, do not feel
t ashamed ofmy ignoronce when cannot Rnde.-
stand what they mean. Use the best language IN
| common conversation.
/ Introduce, under ordinary circumstances, gen.
tlemen to ladies-not ladies to gentlemen Do
notgive double introduction, as, " Mrs More:
head, Mrs. Green: MIS-. Green, Mrs: Moreleada1
-one mention of the name is sdffeient. AS 1
general rule, introduce the younger TO the older
Age.iz always entitled 10 respect. Thus i
Mrs, A4rehead were the younger, or in lower
rank, say: !" Mrs. Morehead, Mrs. Greenjp
emphasizing Mrs. MorehggEd's name It's often
Wellto mention the place of resi- lencs when in
Producing strangers, as that will naturally sug-
gest sal ject Of conversation, without being
compelled to resort to the state Of the weather.