The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1859-06-04
why thoy Don't Marry,


An exchange paper in the Middle States,
specializing 90 ihla Lublrcii remarks" II
has been observed that there are more uu-
married mon aud women in THE age Than
any chat ihe history uf lho pact has given
any account o. ln other words lhs ienden-
cy Of cellhacy Was never greater ihpn ui
prescott, Undoubtedly the observation b a
true one, and il 10 Galoulated 90 give rice 20
serious reflections Hs % the causra which
have combined a. produce this unnatural
and unhappy state of things, II cannot be
asrdbed 90 lhe young pieO, for Ne a'swer
ION Va iheY inrline ns hfdruuH toward the
lruder seKrAs their iaibrlh lil te'nir lhtm d
nor a. a want Of seuslbiliiy and appreciation
oh tho past gi the young women, inr nov
ab il ever hHs been, marriage IL Che Hlpha
md omega uf their thnughts, the frat end
lhe last. Il occupies their waking hpurs
md fills up the measure uf their dreams.
Il hulh been so from Iho b,gipninE aud vii
be- 30 lIIl the end, -
krrug, then, tliat both sexes are willing 8
sceBgThat under whatever Disadvantages of
u bad education, stupid policy, the arlihri-
alities Of society, the glaze Of romance, the
nonsense Of fashion, whatever things may
happen, that nature Will aatert her supremacy
mud urn The trArh plWays kindly towards
each ulhrr lt may well be asked Why with
perpetual attraction they do not marry II
is au unfortunate state of things, aud the
blame should be- placed whore it properly be-
longs
Il b. always deemed uugallant % say any
thing tlat b. not ilutcUug,uud agreeable Go
tht ladies, We irar ihat both sexes huvr
been injured by this prrdispostinu 10 ssy
home phrases oG the one hand and 90 eN,
t---4-r'r-rTT urrIfr- f-TTrrTTy r. WIA-
..N D..
che principal Ingredients, aud Truth is aoWp'
times dissgrrab.e. We shall 10, aside A,t.
terry altogether on The present occasion and
praCui few plain truths ior the coHtidera.
lion oi the frN, however di-Hgrccahlr thoN
NAV bG our position il that the reasons
"NAy they don't marry are tracetb.r all, 60
ihr women, 90 thclr prrWcIuus LuuEiug up,
Go the VNttu,nguut habits they have formed,
snG their general inrapbciiy 20 attend 20
household dutIrs or take upon themselves
lhr responsibilities ol maicru, and II family
government.
Young men Who arc about entering upon
the business uf lite. who are destined 60 be-
the fathers OF the nest generation, want
something more in the companion OF thr,f
lives than painted doll, They want some
ihlug moro than "a delicate lspiug romantic
thing who cannot move Except with un air
ui lupuuG Who diuwla through the hours og
the day iu puiniIcss lus,liudo doing nothing
bat cat and dress and dream the time away,
lud only bloom 10 the night along siec Of
uthrrs, ns useless as herself, making the hulny
hours hidcuus hN rAecmhIc drumming ON %
piano, accompanied. with rNrcrnblr singing,
Houjiug through % waltz, and flirting with
young men, who, true Co their nature, love
lhr furry vision she presents, but Tor uo tthcr
purpose thHu the grauicntIou OF th" hour,
while u.l the time she is thus wasting hrr
bloom and fragrance nud precious health
hgr poor scrub 90 mother may hc luCNrj
ln sleep which her exhausted nature demand.
This Kind OF "a woman will not make mon
happy, nor Wiil ANY man. except be b. us tai.
,uluus as herself offer her honorable mar,
uarr. Men want 90 see lea their wives SOME
ghmmcr Ut least Of common sense. And
/ they want 10 see some evidence that they ur,
/ competent Co III ul the head Of household
/ liut how is IL with a majority OF young wo.
mcn They turn their hacks upon domcs.
uC dgtics aud know nothing Of domestic Joys
/ As soon Gs they can get rwuy from thcil
J mothers care th,N rush Inio shops and acto,
rics and trades II has got TO bee 80 nov
e. t4s-,t -i.ili l4l4. .AlhA nl nnr oung women d.
not know enough about The kicbc6 CvUu II
make q cup of coilre or 20 cookS n beef steak
or hroil q muckcrel, Indeed, in too man,
cpses, it would be- deemed an insult to ash
them the question IL they knew how TO cook
/ Instead ol home duties they are fierce after
accomplishments. not thinking or not know
ing that what they call accomplishments be-
cntho dcitcts unless they are associated will
those home graccs, which most adorn a wo
man.
Young womon, it they would preserve
themselves fresh and pure and fit to hecom,
what God designed they should be, helymatc
Tor man, should CNcreI>o stronger TryrrITU
ing influence over their minds than has bcer
! the fashion of late years, should cease 1,
took upon marriage only as the means of
greater extravaganza aud wider scope of
pleasures and upon a husband only as IN,
golden goose who pays for them. Deepen,
upon it that, while nmusements and eXtraNa
gancc are regarded hy the women as lh
chief objects of life, they will find men who
will CRAFTY thrm-but not for marriage. 5,
long as hurried men who have been so un
happy us to be- caught 10y such chat, prcscn
II wuelul example and warninF, those who ar
out will keep out of the silken moose.