Oxford Democrat. [volume] (Paris, Me.) 1833-1933, 1859-08-19
PARIS. ME-,
The Sin and Folly of scolding.

| 'ifet not thlreli 10 do eEh. '-fs, NNN1ihZs
l. IrEA SIN AGAINST Con. II is evil
and only evil, and tha, continually. David
understood both human nature and the law
Of God. lie saws. " Fret no, thyself in any
wise TO do evil" That is, never fret or
,coli, Tor 1t is always sin. lfyou eanno,
speak without fret,iug or scolding, keep 81
lence.
.. IT DEsrRors Affection. No one ever
did. ever can. or ever will love hahitual
fretter, hult.fnder, or scolder. Husbands,
children. wives, relatives. or domcstics. havo
no affection for pSevi.h, irriful faultGnd.
ers. Few tears are shed over the graves of
such. Persons Of high moral principle may
tolerate ihem-may Tear with them. But
thcy cannot love them more than the sting
of nettles, or the noise Of mosquitoes. Ma.
nya man has been driven to the tavern, and
to dissipation, by a pccvi'h, frc,lul wife,
Many a wife has been made miserable by
peeyi.h. fretlul husband.
3. IRIS TnE B,NE or DoNrsric lIArrI.
MSS. \ irctiul. pcrvish, complaining fault.
finder in a family. /. like the continual cha.
Eng Of an nhamed sore Woe TO the man.
woman, or child who is exposed to the in.
luencc Of such a temrter in another Nine.
tenths Of all domestic trial. and unhappi.
ness spring from ,hi. source Mrs. \. is Of
this temperament. She wonders her hus-
band i. no, more fond Of her company. That
her children give her - much trouble. Tha,
d)mc,,ics DO noe like 10 work Tor her. That
she cannot secure the good will OF young
people. The truth is. she Is pcevi.h and
f'y,iul. Children fear her and do no, love
her. She never gained the affections Of a
young person, nor never will, I'LL she leaves
ID frcuins.
I. II DErEATs rH END OF FAuLr Gov.
rENNy>r. Good family government is the
blending authority with affection, - as TO
secure respect and love. Indeed. It /. the
great secrc; Of ofmanaelnc young people. Now
your fretiers may inspire fear, bat they al.
ways make two faults where they correct
one. Scoldins at child. frc,iing at a child,
snrcring at child. taun,ing child. treat
ins a cmld as though IL had NJ ceilings, in.
.prre- drrad and dislike. and fosters those
very dispositions from which many Of the
faults OF childhood proceed. Mr.. q. and
Mrs 7. are Of ihi. class. Their children
ar made 20 mind hut how Mr. f. frcts
and scolds her children. She i severe
enough upon their faults. She seems to
watch them IN order to end fault. She
sncrrs at them. Treats them as though they
bad M feelings. She seldom gives them a
command without a threat, and long-run.
ming, hulthnding commentary. When she
chidc-, II i not dome in a dignifei manner.
She raise, her voice, pats on a crus- look,
threatens. ',rikc- thcm, punches their ears,
snap. their heads. etc. The children cry
out. pout, sulk and poor Mr' +. has 10 do
her work over pretty often. Then she will
End fault with her husband, because be d,cs
not f.ll in with her ways, or chime with her
.. chorus.
.. FRr1TNG Am ScorpNG MAKE IIrro-
cRirrs. ~ irrtier never receive. conf.
dencc and affection, 80 no one Ike. To tell
them anything d,sasreeable, aud thus pro.
cure ior themselves freitins. Now chill
dren conceal a. much As they can from such
persons They cannot make up their minds
90 be rank and open.hesrioi. So husbands
conceal irom their wives. wives from their
husbands. For man may brave lion,
but he likes not to come in contact with
ne,tlcs and mosquitoes.
6 II DESTROYS ONE's PEACE OF MISp.
The more one irc,s. the more be may. A
frettcr will always have enough 10 fret at,
especially IL he or she has the bump Of or
der and neatne-. largely developed. Some.
thing will always he out OF place. There
will Away. b. some dirt somewhere. 9th
ers will not eat right. look right, talk right.
And frettfrs are generally so selfish as to
have no regard for any ones comfort but
their own.
:. IrIsA Max or vULGAR DISPOSITION.
Some persons have - much gall in their dis
position, are - selfish, that they have no
regard for the feelings OF others. All things
must be done to please them. They make
Iheir husbands, wives, children, domestic',
the conductors by which their spleen and
ill.nature are discharged. Woe to the chill.
dren who are exposed to their influences.
II makes them callous and unfeeling; and
when they grow M, they pursue the same
course.