Western sentinel. [volume] (Winston [i.e. Winston-Salem], N.C.) 1856-1886, 1859-04-08
It'll marry him, for I need a Home.

MANY, many times do these words sound
the deathknell to all earthly happiness;
many, many times is this the burden of a
requiem to which Heaven alone listens
when the marriage-voW is plghted; re-
quiem which the fair, pale bride would not
for the world speak aloud, but which eve
ry heart-throb thrusts home to her burning
spirit, even while in deceitful mockery she
answers the fatal "yes"
''Ill marry him, for need home''-
Poor girl! She gives her hand, but there
Is no heart IN the matter. She is clearly
aware of his untitness to make her happy;
she even shriuks, at first, with ill-conceal
ed inward loathing, from the idea of sur
rendering herselft to a man whom her heart
has not chosen. She tries to summon
courage sufficient to refuse him. But she
is conscious of her inability to depend up
on herself. She says, Gle will, at least,
keep me in a respectable condition in life
i must marry him." And forthwith she
stands at the altar and plights a love
which she does not feel She becomes
his Wife; not from a sense Of love and
duty, but from the nercenary desire to
obtain a shelter from the fierce storms
whose violence she is unable to resist by
her own powers. Helpless creature-how
deserving OF pity!
cpl marry him, for need a honne.''-
1oung lady, is this to be the motive that
decides your choice? Heaven forbid
Arm yourself with a conciousness of pow
Ell to grapple with actual life for yourself
by careful process Of self culture, pre-
pare to sustain true womanly independ-
ence, should death deprive You of your
natural protectors and supporters Pre-
pare to stand selfsupported amid the sell
fish throng that crowd life's motley stage.
ou will then be at liberty to consult your
heart, whenever a candidate for your hand
appears. You could even venture to mar
ry the man you love, even if he had no
home, with the joyful thought Of being able
to help him to get one-and what happy
home would that be!
"Ill marry him, for I need some one
to love, some one who loves and cares for
me"-this is the better reasoning. With
this your motto: this your aim, you shall
be the croWnlng glory Of your home, and
your husband shall acknowledge you to be
the good genius OF his existence and this
Invaluable power OF self reliance shall be
precious talisman of safety, at all times
and under all circumstances, and will pre-
pare yon for any crisis Or condition to
which you may be called.
''Ill marry him for | need a home" p
Yes, and miserable, unhappy home you
will have, with nothing but mercenary
love in it. Your character shall detern-
inc the question of your husbands success
or defeat in the mighty battles of life-for
many man, of high promise and golden
Sifts, has been dragged deep into despair
by week minded, inefficient wife, who
'.just married him to get a home" She
is but weakness and disease to his pinion
instead of beauty and vigor to his wings,
which otherwise would have borne him on
| to honor and fortune.
''I'll marry him, for I need a home," do
you say? Never dare to speak or think
that fatal thought again. Wake up to a
sense of your own inward strength. You
are woman-not child. Dependent
poverty is one OF the saddest and most ty-
rann;cal of human ills. Life is dreary
waste, and its storms are hearlds of certain
destruction, to such a helpless, friendless
/ child of earth as you are. Buckle on the
armour of self reliance, and feel that you
are able to cope with the world, and with
i this noble consciousness Of power you will
surely succeed. Ifadversity then be yolrs
yen will be prepared to meet its frosty
breath; if a wife,. you will be content and
happy, whether prosperous or adverse. cir
! cumstances are yours-nothing would daunt
j you, for yonr motto. would be:
ssLet come the wild weather-come seet or come
snow
We will stand by each other, however it blow:
Oppression, and sickness, and sorrow, and PAIN.
Shall be to our true-loye as links to the schain.