The Jeffersonian Democrat. [volume] (Chardon, Ohio) 1854-1865, 1859-05-06
"Ill Marry him, for I need a Home. "

Many. many times do those words round
the death knell to all earthly happinuss /;
many, many times 10 this the burden Of u
requiem to which Heaven alono listens when
the marriage vow 10 plighted Il requiem
which the fair. pale bride would not for the
world speak aloud, but which every heart
thrOb thrusts home TO hcr burning spirit
even whilo in decoitful mockery she answers
tho fatal "yes"
IN marry him. for neod homo -
Poor girl she givos her hand, but there is
no heart in the matter. She ia clearly aware
of his unfitncss to make hor happy she even
shrnks, at first, with i'll concealed inward
loathing from the idea of surrcnderiug hor.
self TO man whom her heart has NOT
chosen. She tries to summon courage suf.
fcient TO refuse him. But she 10 conscious
of her entire inability to depend upon her.
self She says Tho will At least keep mo in u
respectable condition in lite--I must marry
him." And forthwith she stands at the altar
and piights u love which she does not feel.
Sho becomes his wife; not from n pure
sense of l"vo and duty, but from tho Inrr.
ccnary desire 10 obtain u shelter from the
tierce storms whose violence she 10 unsbl"
to rosist by her own powers. Helpless
croatnre-how deserving of pity
I'll marry him. for need home."-
Yonng lady, is this To he the motive that
decides your choice? Heaven forbid. Arm
yourself with u consciousness of power tu
grspple with actual life for Yourself. BY u
careful prncess of self.culture. prepare II
true womanly Independence, should death
deprive you of your natural protectors and
supporters. Prepare to stand sef.supportrd
among the selfish throng that crowd litos
-.
to consult your own heart, whenever u can.
dids'u for your hand appears. You could
even venture 10 marry the man YOU loved
even it ho hsh no home. with tho joyful
thought of being sbla to help him TO ger
one-snd what happy home would that
b.
I'm marry him, for need somo one to
IoSe-some ono who lOves mud cares for me
this 10 tho better reasoning With this
your motto. this your aim, you shall 10 the
cro~ning glory of your home, and your hus.
band shall acknowledge you to be the good
genius of his existence; and this invaluable
pawer of solf-roiance shall DO precious
talisman OF safety, NJ oil times and under
all circumstances. and will prepare you for
any crisis OF condition to which you may
! bu called.
I'm marry him, for need home"--
Yes, and miserable, unhappy home you
will have, with nothing but merccuery lov,
IN it. Your character shull duiernIne the
! question of your husbands success in che
mighty battles of life-fOr many u man, OF
high promise and golden gifts, has been
dragged deep into despair by n weak minded,
| In"tfcent wife, who Just married him to
get home" She is but weakness and dis
ease to his pinion, instead of beauty and
vigor TO his wings, which would otherwise
have borne him on to honor and fortune.
"Tll marry him, for nond home" do
you say? Never dare TO speak or think hat
fatal thought again. Wake 10 10 sense OF
your own inward strength. SYou are y wo.
man-not a child. Dependent poverty ia
one of the ssddost Of human natures i!ls -
Lite is a dreary wGsts, and it's storms are
heralds of certain destruction. to such q
helpless. fTiendless child of earth as YOU are.
| Buckle on the armor of self reliance and
| feel that you are able to cope with the world
and with this noble consciousness and pow,
| you will surely succeed. II adVersity be
yours. you will bo prepared TO meet its frosty
breath if "a wife, you will DO content and
happy. whether prosperous or adverse cir.
cumstRnces are yOurs-nothiEg would daunt
you. for your motto would be -
Let come the wild weathers-come sleet or como
snow
We will stand by ench other, however il blow;
Oppression Rnd sickness and sorrow and pain
Shall be TO our true love, as links to chain"
-Chdttnnogd .9dpT tiSSr.