The Potter journal. [volume] (Coudersport, Pa.) 1857-1872, 1859-10-27

/ winch are IN queStlOu IL ID tnelf g0oQ-
ness, which, once settled, the rest follows
as matter of course They would be un.
true to themselves if they were insincere
or untrue to US. / have half dozen
friends. living within half a dozen miles
whom I feel farther off from than I should
from Doctor Urquhart if he lived at the
Antipodes. ella Pc z1ifsB seb 9dE .
/ WINE.-Wine! Oh heaven no 4 Would
that. years ago, the FIRST drop had burnt
my hps-been as gall to nv tongue
proved to me not drink, bat poison; as
the poor old man now lying there once
wished that it might happen to any son
of his. Well might my father, my young
happy father, who married my mother
and, loving aud loved, spent with her the
brief years of their youth, we'll, indeed
might my father have wished it for me-
CoNFIDENCE.-Tos seek and sue wo.
mans yet unwon love implies the telling
her, when won, the whole previous his
tory of her lover concealing nothing, taiI
or foul, which does not compromise any
other than himself This confidence she
has right to, and the man who withholds
it is either coward in hin self, or doubts
| the woman of his choice. as. should lie SO
doubt his wife, woe to him and to her
To carry into sanctuary of a true wife S
breast some accursed thing which must
be forever hidden in his own, has always
seemed to me one of the blackest treason
against both honor and love of which a
man could be capable.
HAppINEss.-There is more IN life
than mere happiness even as there are
more things in the world than mere marry.
ing and giving in marriage. If, from cir.
cumstances, he has taken that resolution
he is perfectly justified in having done SO
and in keeping to it. would do exact
ly the same. The character of man who
marries himself to q cause or duty, has
always been sort Of ideal of mine, like
my Max-Max and Thekla. But they
were lovers, bethrothed lovers; free to say
Il love you," with eyes and lips; just
once, for day or two, a little hour or two
Would this have made parting less bitter
or more ? / cannot tell; I do not know
shall never know aught about these
things. So I will not think of them.
MEN.-We men are strange animals
at twenty, ready to rush into matrimonN
on any prospect whatever, or none at all
at thirty, ta'ing thought better of it, re
joice in our escape; but after forty, wher
the shadows begin to fall, when the out
er world darkens, and the outer worid
feels co.nfortless and lone, then we sit and
ponder-I mean most men. Mine is an
individual aud special case, not germane
to the subject
WOMEN.-We women must be consti.
tuted differently frem men. A word said
a line written, and we are happy; omit.
ted, our hearts ache-ache as if for a
great misfortune Man cannot feel it, OF
guess at it: if they did, the most careless
of them would be slow to wound US 80.
For BETTER, For WoRsE.-When q
man loves woman, before he tries to win
her he will have, if he loves unselfshly or
generously, many doubt concerning both
her and himself. In fact, as | once read
somewhere, "When a man truly loves a
woman, he would not marry her upon any
account unless he was quite certain he
was the best person she could possibly
marry" But as soon as she loves him,
and he knows it, and is certain that, how
ever unworthy he may be, or however
many faults he may possess-I never told
you you were an angel, did l, little lady
they have cast their lot together, cho-
sen one another, as your church says, "For
better, for worse"-then the face of things
is entirely changed. He has his rights,
close and strong as no other human being
can have with regard to her-she has her
self given them to him and if he has any
manliness in him he will never let them
go, but hold her fast forever and ever
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