American Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1855-1860, 1859-01-06

to marry, have loved and married men in
fnitely meaner than | am.'
- The apprehensions Of women are finer
and quicker than those of men. With e..
qual advantages, the woran is more Of a
woman at eighteen than man Is at twen>
.ty one. After mariage, as general thing,
the weman ceases to aequire. Now, l do
not say that this is necessary, or that it
should be the case, bat simply state q
general fact. The woman is absorbed in
family cares, or perhaps deyotss from ten.
totwenty years to the bearing and rearing
ofebildren--the most digniied, delightful
and honorable Office other life. This con-
sumes her time. and in great multitude
Of cases, depriyes her OF intellectual cnl-
ture is
In the meantime, the man is cut engag-
ed IN business. He comes in daily contact
with minds stronger and sharper than his
own. He grows and natures, and in ten
years from the date Of h.s marriage. be-.
comes ia reality q new man. Now, Il be
was so foolish as to marry a woman be-
cause she has a pretty form and face, or
sparkling eyes. or an amiahle /, disposition,
or'apleasant temper, or wealth, he will
find that he has passed entirely by his
wife. and that really she ism more Of a
companion for him than child would be.
l know Of but few sadder sights in this
world than that Of mates whom the pas
sage Of years has mis.msted. A a woman
ought to have long start OF man, and
then, ten to one. the man comes out ahead
in the race Of long lie.
l suppose that in every young man S
mind there exists the hope and the expec-
tation Of marriage. When young. man
preteuds to me that he has no wish TO mar.
ry, and that he never expects to marry.
always infer one Of two thin. S, that he lies
and is really very anxious for marriage, or
that his heart has been polluted by associa.
tion With unworthy women. In thou.
sand cases we shall not find three exeep-
tions tolhis rule. A young man. who
with any degree of earnestC ess, declares
that he never intends to marry. confesses
10 brutal nature, OF to perverted mbtals
But how shall coed wife be won? l
know that men naturally shrink from the
attemptto obtain companions who are their
superiors. but they will 6nd that really in
telligent women, who possess the most de-
sira BILE qualities, are uniformly modest and
hold their charms in modest estimation
What such women most admire in men is
galantry; not the gallantry Of courts aud
fops,, but devotion. boldpess. courage, de-
cisiona and refined civility. A mans bear-
ing wins ten superior women where his
boots and brains win one. II man stand
before a woman withssrespect fpr himself
and fearlessness OF her, his suit is half won
The rest may Isaloly be left to parties most
interested. Therefore never be afraid oi
a woman. Women are the most harmless
and agreeable creatures intbe world, to o
man WHO shows That be has got, man
soul in him. II you have not got the
,spiritin you to come up to the test like
this, you have not got that in you which
most pleas9s high souled woman. and
you will be obliged tocontent yourself witt
the simple girl. who, In a qhiet way is en-
dsavoring 10 attract and fasten you.,s
But don't be in a hurry about the mat
ter. Dou' get into a feverish longing fol
marriage. isn't crediiable to you. Es.
pecially don't imagine that any disappoint
mcnt in love, which takes place before yor
are twenty one years old, win be Of any
material damage to you,7f The truth is
that before man is twenty-five, he does
not know what he himself wants. Sc
don't be in a hurry. The more ofa mar
you become, and the more OF 'manliness
| you become capable of exil biting in you
association with women. the better Wlf,
you will be able to obtain; and one year I
possession Of the heart and hand Of a real
ly noble specimen # her sex, is woftl
nine hundred and ninety-nine years pos
session ofa sweet creature with two idea
in her head, and nothing new to cay abou
ither3ofthsnly "Better fifty years Of Eu
rope than a cycle Of CaIthayH So dom
| be in hurry. | say again. Ytu don
want a wife. now, and you have not th,
| slightest idea Of the kind Of wife 20,
will want by and by. Go into female SO
ciety, if you can fnd that which will i'm
prove you, bat1oe otherwise. You cat
spend your lime better. That is oftel
more accessible TO you than the ether
and il is through that. mostly, that yol
will find your way to good female society
If any are disposed to complsin Of tn
injustice to women. Of advice like this. ant
believe that it involves wrong to ber,
reply that pot the slightest wrongis inten
dsd. thorough appreciation Of a GOO
woman, on thepartofA young man. is on
OF his strongest recommendation TO he
favor. The desire ofsucb man ID. pos
sess and associate his life with such q Wo
man, gives eyidencetof qualities, aptitude
aud capacities which entities him TO an
woinanls consideratioh andrespect. Ther
is something good in him; and; howeve
rude in manner and rough in person, b
odly needs detAlopement 10 boCome s%ol
| thy Of her, III some reepeets, at least.
shall not quarrel witha woman who d.
sires husband superior TO herself, for
know il will be we'll for her to obtain sue
an one, IL she will! be stimulated BY COZ
tact witha .highermipdtoa br ader d,
ivelopement. AT the same time, ''Tsfmu
believe tha; man 10 marry his inferior,
q Ito call upon himsslfa great misfortune;
deprive himself Of one Of the most elevI
/ ting aud refining influences which can po
sibly affect him. l therefore believe it
be the true policy Of every young man