The Tiffin tribune. [volume] (Tiffin, Ohio) 1848-1859, 1859-03-18
MARRIAGE.

once to me "that Harry and ought tc
marry Upon lessthan four hundred-pound,
a year.
"No, certainly, my dear, because you
marry for so many peoples benefit be
sides your own. How, for instance,
could your acquaintanoes bear to see mo,
reen curtains, instead Of the blue and sill.
yer damask you were talking Of? And
how could you give those charming it,
tie dinner parties which, you say, are in
dispensble to one in your position, with.
out three servants, OF boy in buttons
as well? Nay ifyou went into society at
All, Of the Kind you now keep, a fifth of
Henry annual income would melt away
i, dresses, boguets, and white kid gloves.
No, my dear girl, l can by means advise
yoa to marry upon less than four hun
dred year"
My young friend looked up. little
doubtful il 1 were in Jest or in earnest.
aud Mr.. Henry yave vent to an impatient
sigh. l thought-"Poor thugs!" for
they were earnestly in love, and there was
no earthly reason why they should not
marry. How many hundreds more are
thus wasting the best years of their life,
the best hopes Of THAR youth, love. home
usefulness, euergy--and God only knows
how much besides-and for what? Eve
ming parties, dresses, and gloves, a 6ne
house, aud blue silver curtains7
Yet woman Of the world would have
said that this couple we're quite right;
that If they had married and lived after.
wards with the honest prudence thai
alone would have been possible to young
man Of Mr.. Henry's independent charac-
ter. they must have infalliby gone down
in society, have dropped out Of their nat
ural circle, to begin life as their parents
did, as most middle class parents have
begun life, narrowly and humbly. -
Though without much fear of positive
starvation, they must have given up ma
ny luxuries, have had to learn and prac-
tice many economies which probably
never had come into the head Of either
lady or gentleman; and yet love might
have taught them as it teaches the most
ignorant They would undoubtedly have
had to live, for the next few years at least
not for society at large, bu. for their own
two selves aud their most immediate con.
nections
And very likely Henry would have
done it. for young fellow in love will
do nightly heroic things; some, espec.
tally hard worked professional men, be.
ing weak enough to believe that sung
fireside, where cheerful faced little wife
has warmed his slippers and sits pouring
out his tea--even il obliged to make sun
dry intermediate rushes up stairs TO quiet
something which obstinately refuses to
go to sleep-is preferable to handsome
solitary club dinner, wine and cigar
party. or a ball at which he reYels till 3 !
a. NJ, in the smiles of a tarletan angel, |
whom he may ask to waltz ad libilum,
but dare not ask for his life--or for his !
honor which is dearer--ask any other
question, until he has got gray hairs and
a thousands pounds a year. Dares not,
for the worldly fathers. the still more
worldly mothers, nay. the young daugh-
ters themselves, who, under their inno-
cent muslins, are hardening into prema-
ture women Of world, would stand aghast
AT the idea of Glove in a cottage" Such !
an out.of-date, absurd. preposterous
thingl Which it is-for the people who
bring to the said cottage the expectations
and necessities Of hyde Park Gardens or
BelgraVe Square.
Yet, on the other hand, il is hardly !
possible to oyer-calculate the evils acorn
ing 10 individuals and TO society in gen.
eral from this custom gradually increas
ing, Of late and ultra prudent marriages.
Parents bring up their daughters in lux.
uTious homes, expecting and exacting
that the home to which they transfer
them should be Of almost equal ease; for
getting how next to impossible it is for
such home to be offered by any young
man Of the present generation, who has
10 work his way as his fathers before
him. Daughters. accustomed 10 a life of
Ease and laziness, are early taught 10
check every tendency towards "a roman
ic attachmenp'-the insane folly Of low
ng a man for what he is, rather than for
what he has got; of being content to fight (
.he worldly battle hand-in-hand with one (
hat is worthy clasping, rather than set
lie down in comfortable sioth, protected
md provided for in all external things -
oung men-but words fail 10 trace the
ot Of enforced bsehelorhoOd, hardest