Delaware gazette. [volume] (Delaware, Ohio) 1855-1886, 1859-01-07
oUR HUSBANDS

Man, who has his type in Adam. is predes-
tinedto be the husband by his mental consti-
tRtien Is well as by his physical organization,
He IS sstrong, and hisyery Strengths unblessed
and unappyeciated mt il set off and harmonized
by the companionshi of his gentler and more
graceful mate, He IS N arked mainly by hard
Intellect and stout viii, and he tends to merely
ufi1itarisn calculation and coarse self reliance,
apart from the feminine intuition and faith
that make him more a man by integrating his
ffagmeutafy nature by union with womanly
ssnsibiIity. Woman is his chosen edueator.-
This fact he proves from his cradle or in his
mothers arms; and he can never forget it so,
long as fis car is open to any gentle word from
sister OF daughter. But of all women who ed
ueate him the wife IS chief, and it is she who
ought to bring out all the better infiusnees of
his mother BY her fidelity and lis devotion.
We really believe that men are, in this main,
educated by their wivesin the leading practical
aims and affections of daily life and we believe
It none the less for being well aware that, on
the whole, the husband as the more deter min
sdswill. This very fact fixes the wife's infu-
snee, since determined will does not yield to
o. . Of its kind. but is rather hardened by OPP
position; while it surrenlerss with comparative
ease to gentle Influences, that make up, by inn
pCfJuQ1by A1Q SOItHeSS, w HaG LDty lack ID II 1T
dihood. Petticoat government is an establish
ed institution, and the husbands who boast
most Of their liberty, may be all the more snug
u tfed to the apron string, because they do MT
feel the strain by venturing beyon d the inexo
rnble limits ofthe tether. We are not of the
ssestic school of philosophers, nor are we dain-
ty sentimentaiists, and we see no reason, eth
srbsfore God or man, to be ashamed of any
wife to each other: yet we are quite as little
inclined 10 the aboIninable materiaism that
regards the attraction mainly sensual one.
The best loyeripens long after the bloom of
beauty and the lust of strength have lang uish
ed;and the essential fitness Of the masculine
and feminine character for happy union is
never so obvious as in the declining years of a
couple whom God has really joi ned toget her
in amarriage of the mind and heart. .ss.isiIl
We know that the common facts of human
experience are hardest of all to define, ard we
may be mistaken in deciding upon.s the eause
of the force of collateral circumstances and |
uneonseious ass eiatians in modifying our
tAou Oh Is and feelings and so easy is it, for ex
ample, for q man 10 call himself patriot who
Is willing to sfghtin defense of his own prop
efEy ofSto regard shimsel as a model husband |
orsfather becahse he is proud of a sons talents
era vise- s Or daughters beauty. Bnt we are
quite confident that tie element of masculine |
ehafacseIs that makes man by eninenee hus
band is his natural reed Of feminine protcc-
tion. lie needs a. wema n to, protect him in
deers Just as much as the woman needs a man
tosprotect her out Of doors. The woman is
born with an Instructive co nvi ction that she |
can look after an secure his happiness.
lteis really quite affecting to see how soon a
precious little aughter feels this instinct; and
In her mothers absence, she sits at the head
of the table, and in a Thousand ways com forts
the fatIer as only tie womauly heart can d o. |
Rvery true man needs. this feminine comfort !
in.sthe nearest form; and even if wealth can
surrounti him with luxuries, he Is i'll at ease
until gentle presence smiles u pen lis dwell- |
ing and makes it. hone :. Men. by themselves, /
are. never at home, no matter how we'll housed
on fed. TIL cares and passions of tie world
are st II driving at tdin uif tbs ne element
of #olnanly grace ard tenderness comes to
soften down, BY mild and magnetic violet tone,
the@reddy glare of the masculine horizoh.-
Wits tho woman whom he loves and respects.
man is.with his best prosee or and this .wos
man must be his wife,. for none other can he
asonce love and respect 50 deeply and tender
3y. She, to him is sacred as mother and daugh-
ter, while dear to- him as they cannot be, in q
nearness as hallowed as It is aft cctonate.-
Her mind is the natural counterpart of Ills |
own, and when with her he hasa sense of be-
ing protected from the cares and temptations
efatheswofld as nowhere else.-Dr. esg ood, in
Harper,s Monthly. a.. i -
sea AsGAPITAE ssRMoN.
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