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The Advantagcs % aIarriagc

Tho following Is irom Michelets book,
"I'Amobr." or this work, the New York
Post says,
Miehelet's object in writing Il. was TO
promote amorg men 80 sympathetic a
knowledge Of woman's nature, Of her NOR
al, mental and physical constitution, her
habits Of thought, feeling, motives and hel
cesaities, as 20 remove the principal cOus-
cs Of matrimonial unhappiness. The de-
sign is good ono3 and Il is carried out
with as much delicaoy as Is consistent
with the thoroughness aud hinutehess
which the author deems the subject to ro-
quire, In few cases where he enters
upon the physiological details of tho dis-
chssion, they are wrRpt in hazy spiritu-
ality Of expression which betokens a sim
core wish to avoid pandcring to a morbid
and prolane curiosity, and those who are
old enough to appreciate his intentions
viii find some well considered practical
suggestions eouohed under the poetic in-
ilation Of his style,
The author says that more than twenty
years were employed in compiling tho ma
terials OF his book, and that he has avail.
ed himself Of the disclosures Of large
number Of persona Of both sexes, as we'll
as Of the counsels Of eminent physiolo-
gists.
THE ADVANTAGE OF MARRIAGE.
Fortunate is he who resouos a woman,
who frees her from the physical fatalism
in which she Is held by nature from the
weakness imposed on her by seeluslon,
from so much misery, so many drawbacksl
Happy he who instructs her, elovates her
and makes her his ownl For in doliver-
ing her, he also delivers himself
In this mutual deliverance man must
Of course, take tho initiative. He is strong
or, in better health Especially is not hav-
ing to endure the great malady Of mater
nitY), He has a solid education. He is
favored by the laws. He has tho best oo-
cupations 70 himself, and earns much more
than women. He is his own master; Il
not suited In one place, he can 60 to an.
other. Poor Andromeda, alas must die
on her rock; Il she were clever enough L
free herself and get away from il, We
would say, "she is an 6dventurer.n
But once delivered by you, dear Perse.
us, from what will she not rescue you IN
returnl Lot Us enumerato;
From the servitude Of your base pas.
sions: II your home is happy one, you will
not 20 under the smoky lamps Of ball
garden in quest Of love nor TO the stree
for intoxicOtion.
The servitude of weakness: You will
not drag yourself feebly along, like you
pitiful comrade--that young old man, 81
pale, debased and broken down, whom The
women ridicule True love will preserve
you from this, and concentrate you
strength.
Tho scrvitude Of melancholy: Ho whC
is strong, and does mans work--he who
in going out to his daily toll, leaves a
home beloved creature who loves AM
thinks Of him alone, is by that very fac
inspired with cheerfulness, and he is hap
py all the day.
The servitude Of money: Receive 70
truth this exact mathematical maxim
. Tpo persons spend less Than one.
/ see many bachelors who remain sucl
from sheer fright at the expensiveness o
! matrimony. and yet spend infinitely NOR
than married man after all. They liv
/ very dear at the cafes and restaurant,
and at the theaters. Havana cigars
9 smoked all day, and an extravaganza c
necessity.
why 90 they sraelss1--0Ta faEgnt
; they say. Nothing can be more disastrous
We should neusr forget. Woe TO hin
who fOrgets evils, for he never seeks thei
antidotes. The man, the citizen who for
gets, ruins not only himself but his coun
; try. A blessed thing it is to have by you
, heurth-stone a leliable and loving woman
to whom you can open your heart, will
} whom you suffer. She will prevent yol
from either dreaming or forgetting. w,
J must all suff r, and think, In that is tn,
truo life Of man.
Some men call themselves bachelors
: But arr they really sol l have lonl
sought, but have not yet found tina
mythical being. | have discovered tha
everybody is married; some by temporary
! marriage only, II is true-secret and shame
ful these. These marriages of hourly du
ration, which are the utter degradation o
the woman, are not effected ut less cos
, to the man. It is easier to feed a whal,
than Dame aur Camelias.
II the wife hasno female friends whost
rivalry incites her TO extravaganza in dress
she spends almost nothing. She reduccl
all your expenses to such degree tha
the formula given above is no longer cor
I rect, We must not say 1.-TWO persons,
but "four persons spend less than one. -
She supports the two childrln beside.
When the marriage is judicious, enter
ed into with forethought, when the family
does not increase too rapidly, the wife
far from being hindfanoe to liberty, o
: action, is, on the contrary, its natural anC
essential element. Why Is II that the
} Englishman emigrates 80 easily, and e
so much advantage for England herself
Because his wife follows him. Exceptin
Sickly climates, like India, the Englisl
woman we may say, has sown the whole
Garth with solid English colonies. II Il
the strength Of the family which viii
them has made the power and the grand
eur Of the nation.
TIE MAN SHOULD EARN ENoUeH FoI
BoTH.-It Is the paradise Of marriage thai
the man shall work for the woman; that
he alone shall support her, take pleasure
in enduring fatigue for her sake, and save
her the hardships Of labor, and rude con
tact with the world. I
lie returns home in the evening, har
assed, suffering from toll, mental or bod
ly, from the weariness Of worldly things
from the baseness Of men. But in his re-
ception at home there is such an infinite
kindness, a calm so intense, that he hard
ly believes in the cruel realities he hai
gone through all day. "No," he says
"that could not have beenj Il was but ar