The Jeffersonian Democrat. [volume] (Chardon, Ohio) 1854-1865, 1859-03-25
Male Flirts.

~ 10 a5sOiAou ny bOllc pullOhOpUBT. WI o
protends to certain amount of knowledge
OF tho human heart that any man OF ordin-
AIRY attainmcnts and possessed Of a rosolute
viii, can get any womaus Affections if they
are not already bestowed elsew here--op-
portunitios ior courtship are of course uu-
derstood. The rule is probably not entirely
universal, and perhaps not near enough to
universally to make tho exceptions unim-
portant. There is no doubt, however. that
the gcntlcr sex is generally impossible, and
men are frequently astOnished at the sue
cess OF those of their acquaintance who
seem to them particularly destitute of per-
sOnal attractions. The constant attentions
OF a man who PROCESSES degree of sinceri.
ty, are always omplimentary-and If he is
really in lovo, he insonsbly acquires re-
finement of manner which no other passion
can engonder, and refinement Of nature
which no hypocrisy can simulate. lf.added
to this, he has conversational powers, and
the tact TO make himself agreeable, it is quite
within the compass of his ability to create
enough interest in wonan's heart to rem
der her uncomfortable when his attentions
are withdrawn.
There is a great deal of Irritation which is
begun, carried on, and onded without any
definite Infections. A man is thrown, per.
haps accidentally, into the society of an at
tractivo woman-and from mere soishness
he devotes himself particularly to her for a
tIno, only because she peascs or amuscs
him. He does not formally lay siege to her
hoart--ho does not deliberately undertake
to mako conquost1N0nly to crafty his vani-
ty--Sud he does nos dream of manifesting
any special "Iutcutious." Perhaps tho lady
may appreciate some particular quality Of
! NJ col hn is Ia rn;, Il -, -
the more pleasing to him, just in proportion
as this appreciation 10 tlattering He may
! be heart whole--or if he is capable of genu.
inc affections, he may have placed them
upon another object-yet he does not hesi.
tate to be peculiarly devoted to young and
susceptible woman, upon whose heart he
leaves an indeliblo scar when he rude!y
strikes down tho castles her fancy may have
builded upon his former demeanor, by coIdly
and nditferentIy transferring his attentions
to a now victim. Although tho man is only
! chargeable with the improperly of intlict
ing a wound thoughtlessly y-stIil there is a
real wound inflicted-and he has added
somewhat to the unhappiness of gentle
being, whom he was bound by every prin-
ciple of mere manhood TO comfort and do
tend.
Ii this sofsh carelessuess is roprehcnsible
how much moro is the conduct of the gay
Lothario, who deliberately plans conquest
whose only motive is vanity, and whose
only object is the proof of his fascinating
! powers. He attaches himself resoiutely to
one young lady, and binds all his energies to
the accomplishment of u petty triumph
He processes himself happy only when in
her prescnce--and lives only upon hcI
smiles. 1t is rather contemplate, when his
pathos is assumed for effect. lie keeps
himself outside of actionable limits--is care
fully nom n-cOmmlttal-and as soon as he as
certains that he has certainly made an i'm
preston, and that the withdrawal of hi:
marked attentions will leave n scar, his work
is flushed, and he seeks q new field for the
display of his manly prowess. In the pri,
vate collections OF such q man, will bo found
a dozen or two locks of hair-bright memo
rials of brilliant victories. Here, the sunny
curl, from tho head of some gentle and
trusting child of sensibility, who probably
believed his first false whisper ;-and there,
the raven tross of some passionate woman,
who loved not wisely, but too well, and
whose life has been embittered by his treach-
cry. Verify, tho scaps that bedeck the
girdIe aud fringe the hunting shirt Of the
| Pawneo, though torn from the heads of un-
resisting women and helpless children, are
more glorious trophies than these.
There is another kind of male fiirt who
probably belongs to the most numerous
class of all. He is not false-he is only
tickle. He is highly infammable and falls
desperately in love at the shortest notice.
Such n man has no experiences to profit by
his life is succession of accidents. Dur
ing the week or month in which no is bound
in any particular silken chain, he is ready to
climb mountains, swim rivers, fight score
of Hyrcan tigers, aud, in fact, to accomplish
any impossible task, in order to win the be-
loved object. He is a strong believer II
runaway matches, and rarely gets entangleC
s in the meshes of u net cast INTO smooth wa
n ters. If supposed obstacles are removed o
I are proved not to exist, and there is moth
t ing between him and the fruition of all hi
l. ardent hopes, his passion wancs If he ha'
@ not gono too far TO retreat-or whethor hC
I has or not, he generally manages to get ou
8 of the scrape. He lives life of torment or
D account Of unreturned, and, for aught he
Q knows, uudestroyed lettors-letters which
were written while tho fever was highest
I and which might burn themselves through
' their envelopes, so fervid are they. Ht
, usually has two or three strings to his bow
and cannot find fall occupation for his exu
UOIdut pOhClSu u COuAuGu 10 OLly one ulldl
at time. 1t would soom that such mar
} could not do much damage in the world
} but he makes impressions, if only by tho
, violence of his assaults; and each sufferer
E in turn fancles herself the one able to fix
bis tickle attentions. If he ever marrics bis
Q woddcd life must be very humdrum sort
t of affair, for he is the last man in the world
to understand or appreciate connubial bliss
, Tho evils wrought in society by these
butterflies are neither few nor trivial. Nc
wounds arc so long in healing as those in
8 flicted upon the affections, and even if time
: cures the positive pain caused by disappoint
: ment in heart affairs, the result is a callous
ness more to DO deplored than actual suf
ferDg. In tho majority of cases,a heartles
woman is one who has been heartiessl,
deceived. 1t is woman's nature to trus
implicitly where she bestows her love-RD,
ber trustfuiness is her most charming attri
bnte the more guilty, therefore, is th
man who destroys it. A smiling exterio
covers many deeply SCARED heart-but I
day may come when lhese wounds will b.
revealed, when perhaps the world will b
astonished to learn how much evil littl
thing may do. For of all small things
the most dimiuutive OF all "small potatoes
is the male firt.-Bdltimore .4meTican.
Gop is Love.