The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1859-09-08
THE RIGHT TRAINING OF WOMEN.

"eh 'cHIaiuS lo Ue uone IN WinnOW-
ing out Of peoples minds ridiculous ideas
OF certain purely Fictitious style Of liv-
ing, without which it is impossible to keep
house. There are plenty of young men
who have yet to unlean the foppcry of
expenses disproportioncd to their means.
and the sordidness of luxuries which feed
not selfrcspect, but gluttony and PRIDE
The possibility must be secured to daugh.
ters and younger sisters growing up to Lc
rational, appreciative companions; girls
who, if they ever married, will choose and
value their husband for what he is, and
pc interested i'll his calling and his oppor-
tun'tles for observation; women who will
estimate the grave and sweet realities Of
wife and motherhood, beyond any accident
OF precedence or superiluity. BY dismiss
ing false and foolish notions of rcspecta-
blllty, by refusing the cheap destinations
of paltry education Of display, by dis
countcnancing restraints mislirccted or too
rigorous, by cutivating an intelligent and
unassumng mode of intercourse, by care
ful foresight in assisting young people 10
prepare themselves for the exer,ions and
cost of one day being the centre Of "a
peaceful, hospitaLle home; in these and
ether ways much may be done to remove
distractions to that gradual ac1uaintan ce
and that unaffected respect and attachment
which lead on to happy ma rria:e.
In the meantime, it may be well to
think with not only the sympathy, but the
vcneration they deserve, OF many among
those who will never marry; to assist in
multiplying the too few occupations suit
able to women, or open to them; above all
not to preach 10y implication or otherwise
that Il woman's life neeI ever bc dwarfcd
to negalon or consumed mscrabIy away
hy causes absolutely out Of her CONTROL
There are women strong enough to keep
Their womanly dignity and sweetness, and
to organize around them the moral eIe =
mcnts Of All independent existence. They
Whose steps arc feeble need the more to be
helped, rather than hindrcG, in the strue.
gle with their fainter and more yielding
self If they fall here, is it at all certain
that in welded life their lot would have
been ausp:cious Alas how many n
f'Itering will has bent and given beneath
sanguine, unfulfilled resolutions, to reclaim
and humanzc the husband, who has pulled
the wife down instead TO his own mean
and wretched level; Marriage Is not lot.
terry, but it is mere wiful blindness to for.
get that, in all its niger aspects, it may be
wofully inverted or appaIlingIy dcbased.-
Not all the grand provision Of tender lies
and gracious instincts which surround one
OF the greatest livi'g ordinances, will make
people pure or happy who insist on being
pccvish or frivolous, or worldly, sensual or
deviish.
" Welded life is great and holy mys-
terry, and Il source IF power for good, often
far beyond estimating; but unless there be
at least one soul filled with unself,h love
ana strong in an unlagging faith, the for,
NAL union of two persons is no guarantee
whatever for will ennobled or affections
enlarged and ceanscd. And the faith
which so works 10y love can make Sunshine
IN shady place, wilhou. an infants or
husbands eye to look into. The larmo-
nIes OF developed and transfgured wo-
manhood lave been set many time to
other music than that Of wedding bells.
She who is enthroned never, under any
root, in mothers holy sovereignty, may
earn the right in many a house Of compcll-
ing every soul to love her. She will create
or find an atmosphere in which to keep I'M
withcred and in full pplsation, the heart
out of which are the issue Of life. Her
hands will redeem the time, and her brain
not be idle. Living singly, yet not solitary,
when she dies it will not he till, 'smote' by
many touch of gratitude and cheerful,
reverential sympathy, the chord of self
has, trembling, passed in music out Of
sight"
Niagara.-For many days I fingered in
the purlieus Of Niagara. l often walked
from the Suspension Bridge along the
Canadian ehore, getting at every turn a
new glimpse of lovl,ness and on other oc.
casions have sat for hours on Prospect Tow
er, with no companions but favourile book
and the eternal music of the Falls. In
storm, in slime, in moonlight, and in mist
in all weathers and at all hours-I have
fcasted on the beauty and tranquility Of the
scene; for, as soon as the ear becomes &C.
customed to the roar of the waters, they
descend with lulling and soothing sound.
And when I was compelled to take my fare
well look and travel to new regions,