The Tiffin tribune. [volume] (Tiffin, Ohio) 1848-1859, 1859-03-18
TIFFIN, OHIO, FRIDAY, MARCH IS, 1859.

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woman, can always make herself happy;
find innumerable duties, interests. amuse
ments; live a pure, cheerful hfe SO can
some men-but very, very few.
| Scarcely any sight is more pidqble
than young man who has drilted on to
past Thirty, without home or near kindred
with just income enough To kccp him re.
Speotably IN the position which he suppo
ses himself bound to maintain. and To
supply him with the various small luxu.
ries--such AS thirty guineas per annum
in cigars. &c,-which have been habilu
Al to him. Like his follow mortals. he is
liable enough TO the unluoky weakness of
falling IN love, how aud them but he
somehow manages 10 exdnguish the pas.
sion before It gets fairly alght; knowing
that he can no more venture to ask girl
in his own sphere to marry him or to be
engaged to him, that he can coax the
planet Venus out Of her golden west into
the dirty, gloomy two .pair-back whore
his laundress cheats him aud his nndady
abuses him; when perhaps he occasion.
ally emerges gloriously. all studs aud
white neck tie--to assist at somo young
beauty's wedding, where he feels in his
heart he might once have been the happy
bridegroom-if from his silence she had
not gone desperately and sold herself to
tho old fool opposite, aud is fast becom.
ing, nay, is already become, FOOLS clev.
er mate--a mere woman Of the world.
And he--what a noble idea he has got
of our sex, from this and other similar X
periencesl with what truth Of emotion
will he repeat as he gives the toast of
"the bridesmaids" the hackneyed quo
iation about pain and sorrow wringing
the brow, aud smile half-adoringly, half
pathotically at the ministeriug angels who
litor around him, and 90 home avouoh.
ing "What charming person Mr.. So
and.so. | wonder he never gets married" !"
While Mr.. So-and-so goes home sardon-
ically minded, to his dull lodgings, his
boots and his cigar, or--he best knows
where. And in tho slow process or in
eviiable deterioration by forty he learns
to think matrimony decided humbug
and hugs himself ia the conclusion that a
virtuous, high-minded, aud disinterested
woman, If existing at all, exists as mere
tUeuS natur06-not to be met with by
mortal msn nova. days. With a grunt
half sigh, halt sneer-he dresses and
goes to lhe opera--with afriend's "bone"
Of course, poor fellowl--or settles him
self or the sofa to French novel, and
ends BY 6rmly believeing us women to be
what We are painted therel
Gool God-the exclamation Is too sol.
emn TO be proiane-if this state of things
be true, and il is true, and have barely
touched the outer surface Of its unialh-
omably horrible truth---what will the
next generation come Lo2 What will they
be-uot our cities and Kingdoms, but OUT
men and women2 The possible result
even in practical, to say nothing of
moral light, is awful to think upon.
Can il not be averted? Can we not
since while the power Of the world Is with
men, the influence is undoubtedly with |
us-can We not bring up our girls more
carefully and less showily Jess depend
ent on luxury aud wealth? Can we rot \
teach them from babyhood that to labor
is higher thing than merely to enjoy;
tina; even enjoyment itself is never SO
sweet as when it has been earned. Can
we not put into their minds whatever be
their station, principles Of TRUTH simplic-
ty of taste, he!pfulness hatred of waste;
aud they being firmly rooted, trust to
their blossoming up 10 whatever destiny |
the young maiden may be called to? We |
should then not have to witness the ter
rors that beset dying beds when family
of girls will be left unprovided for, nor
the angry shame when some thoughIess
young pair commit matrimony, and rush
lgnorantly into deceit, poverty and dis
grace from wbich-::JaeiLiS deScsRsus Aper-
ai--all the efforts Of too late compassion.
ate relative can never altogether uplift
hem.
Revertheless-and / risk this declarn-
ion without fear of its causing a general
'ush to the register Offices, or the publ
'ation, at every out.ol. the. way church in
he three kingdoms Of surreplitious bans
between all theunderaged simplstons who
choose to fly in the face Of providence by (
upon.
Nothing week and that uncertain
very, "--neyertheless, taking a life as \
whole, that it consists not in what we q
laye' but in our power Of enjoying the a
same; that there are things in il nobler /
md dearer than ease, plenty, or freedom /
rom care--nay, even than in existence 1
tself; II IS not Quixotism, bat common :
iense and Christianity, TO protest that t
owe IS better than mere responsibility Q
nat, IN this present day--puuing aside /
hose cases where duty and justice have /
claims higher than either love or hsppi- 4
is many an instance Of COW L
rdly seldshness, weakness and lalseness S
committed by young people Of both sex.
s' under the name Of Yirlue. which is a O
much blacker crime before God, and Of g
ar more fatal result to society--to socie- [
at large, than the worst Of these i'm d
rovident marriages. I
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