The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-04-03
Timothy Titcomb'R Letters 10 Young
Womon.
NUMBER I}UF

/ Of marrying o man simply bccause you love
him, You may love man Wha haa personal
habits that viii make you miserable You
may love a man n lazy or 30 inefficient that
your whole life viii be necessarily u coaiuu-
q ed struggle with poverty, You may love o
man who hasno adaptation 10 you-who Is
surly and stupid and unresponsyoi who can
give no satisfactory return Of your affection,
and who will rcpulse every demonstration Of
your fonducss, You may bye o man who II
supremely selfish, When you.become bound
for liid 10 man, he should be- one Who eau
make you happier than you would be- alone,
There are doubtless some instances Of love
SO uuhlr and no sclfucridciug that II witty
come poverty and want with the object Of IL
desire, as being Ear better thhn riches without
IL, ] viii not quarrel with this, | only say
that generally competence Il do rot. mean
wealth. Is necessary 10 that degree Of COM
fort without which love falls Of ia sweetest
exercises and most. grateful rewards. Love
for o man is only one reason why you should
marry him. There may be- q round dozen of
reasons why you should not,
the whole, It falls iu love Ia the most uuac-
couulablc way, lis hard thing to reason
with, and amuch harder thing 10 reason about
yet there are some things which may bee said
to those whose Judgment Is not yet blinded
by passion that contemns reason, Noa
should marry man TO whom you viii be viii
ling TO bend, or one whom you know you can
manage without his knowledge, or with his
consent Tbs instances are very rare IN which
two strong Wills can harmonic Ia close COM
.pauiouship, They must both he governed by
principle, and be- mutually iorbcari.g from
principle ] ha,g.sccn noble instances ofthis
but not often, The law Of nature is that the
wife shall bend 10 the hushaud-.that her will
shall At last bc subject yet there arc nstnn-
ccs of true affection between man and woman
when the suhicction on the part Of the man
becomes the law of nature, the womun's iudg-
mont being the best, aud her will the strong
est, In these cases, the female mind posses.
scs masculine characteristics apd the male
'miul feminine chnructcristics and il il just
as propcrthat her mind should govern In these
instances as that the male mind should gov
crn in oibrrs Butihere Is somcih - uunat
urnl in this, after all-or something should
say. uul of the common order of things. ia
woman sincerely believe that there is no man
TO whose will she can GLADLY subordinate her
own. let her seek out feminine man. and
make suit for his haud. \ noted female VOC
calisl, whom all Of us love, had the credit Of
doing this. Tie gave up even his religion for
fJfJii fi5a5'
presume that she governs him, and have
yet To learn that tho union is not thoroughly
happy one. After all, il the lady were
graceful subject Of kingly intellect, cannot
help thinking that she would be in more
natural position, and onGi which she would
be happier than she IS now.
You arc placed in position of peculiar
temptation. You have ambitions to be some
thing more than pretty, accomplished and
loyed-at least, some Of you have. You want
a career. As woman, you see that YOU can
mot have one, strc through matrimonial
connection. You wish to do somcthug-to
be somethinE-to be the mistress of an cs-
I tablishment or TO be associated with one who
has the public eye or the public consideration.
1t is thus that wealth and position come to
you with very great temptations. a man of
wealth or a man of power offers you his hand,
and, unless he is absolutely rcpulsiyc, he will
generally get it, You will try to love him, or
learn to love him, or think you love him; or
fsaEhaps ytst' viii -tee-trr, or II vUrrtiv
view of the whole <hing, aud marry him for
|,,h Of d,
Now all this marrying for money, or for po-
sition, or for any other consideration, when
genuine love is absent, is essential prostitution
| know of no difference between selling ones
/ self for n lifetime and that sale of the soul and
body which is made in the house of her whose
steps take hold ON hell. If you find Yourself
willing to give up yourself to man in alifc-
long connection for the house he gives you,
for the silks and furs with which he clothes
I yoti, for the society into which nc introduces
you for the position with which he cndows
you then, whether you know it or not, you
become the sister of the drab whom you so
/ inconsistcnty spurn iromyour side. In fact
the motives that have made her what she is
may be white by the side Of yours Marrying
| for love may seem to be very silly thing to
a woman of the world but marrying without
love, for consideration, is wicked, Love
in cottage" is laughed at by very "judicious
people, but it is very sweet thing by the
side of indifference in palace, | know Of
nothing more disgusting in all Gods world
than that merccnary tie which, under the
name of marriage, binds woman to the boz
som of one who bought her with his money.
| know what the world says about this mat.
ter, and very heartily dspise the world for
it. When | ask the world if Jane has made
out well, by her uni1n, and am told that she