The true northerner. [volume] (Paw Paw, Mich.) 1855-1920, 1858-03-12
LESSON SECOND.

LESSON SECOND.
Suileness and pouting, are however eiica
cious-and their effiacy can not be pos
itiyely relied upon-must have alterna
tions of fretfulness, petulance and scold
ing!
For rthe introduction of these aucHrotiue
into treatment no definite rules can be
laid down. If, however, the wife have
an ordinary degree of discernment and
tact no difficulty will present itself. Al
outline Of conduct may be indicated not
withstanding.
a very happy method of Tightening
domestic infelicity has been fonnd to be
frequent references to the wider liberties
and dearer pleasures of girlish days
Entreat your young lady friends, as often
as you can find opportunity in tue pres
enee of your husband, never 50 marry SC
long as they live; intimate, with mystey.
ious and terrible vaguencss, that all
the invention of torture arc dwarfcd in
comparison with the ideals Of married
'ifrs,- Coy, ie 49, T.. I>.A ..--..., l.l.4s
would be-if you could but have your
days of freedom back again, and shake your
head and sigh, This is all calculated to
awaken uneasy emotions in the bosom of
your husband, which will presently COM
municate themelves 10 yourself When
asked if you 60 here or there, do thus or
50, answer, regretfully, that you oScd to,
and indicate that you arc not pernsttied to
do any thing, or go to any plS,c, since
you have put on marriage bond. # your
husband asks you to sing or read to him,
as in the days gone by, answered that you
have nothing to read; say outright, you
don't want to sing; yawn, and indicate
in all ways that reading and singing 70
him are old stories If he manifests dis
position to converse, talk of what you
used in your fathers house, and make
frequent mention Of the privations you
never expected to haveto suffer. No matter
what the humility of your former state
or what the elevation and affluence of
your present one, there may be elected
unfavorable contrast, if you bend your
energies to the searching of them out.
Abstain rigidly from the use of any Of
those little courtesies by which the regard
Of your husband was first won, neglect,
to slovenliness, if you will, those personal
renovations and adornments which the
eyes of your girlhood delighted in; slip
pers down at the heel; stockings soiled
and wrinkled about the ankle hair un-
eombed and morning dress with tassels,
ribbons, and laces flying, have been
found to be effectual methods of aliena-
ting regard. To insure complete success
the morning dress must be worn all day !;
at dinner an old shawl or cloEk may be
thrown over it with good effect. What
ever your husbands S order of beauty, de-
preciate it by talking admiringly of per-
sons of an entirely different style-espec-
tally of old sweethearts-and to those YOU
may refer very often, intimating that yoc
have had thousand, any of whom it is
reasonable to suppose, you might have
been infinitely happier than you are.
When you find your purse empty don't
say any thing about it, that being one Of
those things that husbands are expected
to know without any earthly intimation
Refuse all his invitations to go out with
out regret or apology; continue to wear
the old morning-dress into the evening,
and, after this sulkinoss has been preserv-
cd in for three or four months, select
some Sunday morning when your
husband is preparing for church in quiet
and congenial frame of mind, smother
your eyes in n towel and get down to the
enjoyment of n good cry! After a littlo
experience no difficulty will be found in
the getting up Of one Of those pleasant
little family episodes. Crowd into your
memory all the sights, disappointments,
and vexations of your whole life, and
keep clearly in view the effect to be
wrought upon your husband, for, when
he thinks, good, cunning man, his harvest
is ripening---come like s frost" In
other words, when he presents himself
with hat and gloves in hand, ready for
the morning service, ana inquiries il you