The Middlebury register. [volume] (Middlebury, Vt.) 1850-1882, 1858-09-22
MISCELLANEOUS.
w by They Don't Marry.

Why They Don't Marry.
An exchange paper in the Middle
States, speculating on this subject, re-
marks" 1t has been observed that there
are more unmarried men and women in
this age than in any that the history Of the
past has given any account of. In other
words the tendency Of celibacy was never
greater than at present. Undoubtedly the
observation is true one, and it is calcu-
lated to give rise to serious reflections as
to the causes which have combined to pro.
duce this unnatural and unhappy state of
things. 1t cannot be ascribed to the
young men, for we answer for it, they in.
cline as ardently toward the tender sex as
their fathers did before them nor to
want of sensibility and appreciation on the
part Of the young women, for now, as it
ever has been, marriage is the alpha and
omega Of their thoughts, the first and the
last 1t occupies their waking hours and
fills up the measure Of their dreams. 1t
hath been so from the beginning and will
be so till the end.
Seeing, then, that both sexes are will
ling :; seeing that under whatever disad.
vantages Of bad education, a stupid pol.
icy, the artiacialities of society, the glose
Of romance, the nonsense of fashion, what
ever things may happen, that nature will
assert her supremacy and turn the sexes
always kindly towards each other, it may
we'll be asked why with this perpetual at.
traction they do not marry. 1t is an un.
fortunate state Of things, and the blame
should be placed where it properly be-
longs. .
1t is always deemed uDgallant to say
anything that is not aatterlng and agree.
able to the ladies. We fear that both
sexes have been injured by this predispo-
sition to say homeephrasss on the one
hand and to expect them on the other.
Flattery is mixture into which nonsense
and lying enter rs the principal ingredi-
ents, and truth is sometimes disagreeable.
We shall lay aside aattery altogether on
the present occasion and present few
plain truths for the consideration of the
sex, however disagreeable they may be
Our position is that the reasons why
they don't marry" are traceable all to
the women, to their pernicious bringing
up, to the extravagant habits they have
formed, and to their general incapacity to
attend to household duties or take upon
themselves the responsibilities of mater
nifty and of family government.
| Young men who are about entering up
on the business Of life, who are destined
to be the fathers of the next generation,
want something more in the companion Of
their lives than a painted doll. They
want something more than delicate,
lisping, romantic thing, who cannot move
except with an air of languor, who drawl.
through the hours of the day in pointless
lassitude doing nothing but eat and dress
and dream the time away, and only bloom
in the night along side of others, as use.
less as herself making the balmy hours
hideous by execrable drumming on a pi.
ano, accompanied with execrable singing
floating through waltz. and flirting with
young men, who, true to their nature, love
the fairy vision she presents, but for nc
other purpose than the qualification of the
hour, while oil the time she is thus vast