The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-05-08
Titcomb's Letters 20 Young
Married People,
NlMhtt TWO
Prom the Springfield Republican,


Young husband this letter Is for YOU
Have you an idea that you have anything
like q jest comprehension Of the nature Of
the being whom God has given you for
companion II YOU have you labor under q
very serious mistake You may live with her
until, amid gray hairs and grandchildren,
you celebrate your golden wedding, and then
know but tithe Of her strength aud tender
ness, believe in such u thing as sex of
soula 4 sSg-g a. -j>Wniness flows 10 her
from sSurSrT nd't1rodgh rhauuel, different
from those which give origin oud conduot 10
the happiness of man, and, IN q measure, viii
continue 20 do so forever Her faculties
| bend their exercise towards different issues
her social aud spiritual nature demands
different alimcut What will satisfy you win
not satisfy her. That which most interests
you IL not that in which her soul finds its
most grateful exercise Her love for you
may bring her intimately into sympathy with
your pursuits, through all their wide range,
from a holy driven political contest to break
ing up a piece of wild land, or even 10 the
cultivation Of On uuthrifly whisker but q
will only be- because they interest the man
she loves above all others She Is otrnatcd
by motives that do not affect you at all, or
not to thc cNtcut that they DO her lf she
be- led into siu you rcuouncc and dcnouncc
her as a thing unclcau yet through all your
dehauchcry, your untruth 20 her, your hcasty
drunkenness, your dishouor, your misfortune,
she viii cling to you. There is in her heart
q depth Of tenderness Of which neither YOU
nor she herself has any conception. .'0nlN
the circumstances and cNigcncics Of life viii
reveal It and this is why a healthy female
soul is always fresh and new. Louefcllow,
in his Spanish Student" gives hint Of this
and pretty deep onc-in the language he
puts into the mouth of Prccosa's loycrj-
What most prize In woman
/ her affections not her intellect
Tho intellect b. finite hut the affections
Aro iohm'.and .'"no, be exhausted.
'Thc world OF affection, b. IN, world e.
Ngt that fm'n ambition. In lnrhs3sul'nf,e.
Which most hocomcaA wumnu tslW aud Adl,
Thou II t'st %, The drcsidc ~ lhc heart
Feeding IL, hamc %
"lhc affections are infinite, and cannot hc
exhausted :" and it is through her affections,
aud through the deepest of all affections, thar
hnppiucss come, to the bosom Of your wife.
The world may pile It's honors upon YOU un,
! Ill your brain goes wild with dclrious excite.
mrut wrutttI mUy pour into yuur Golfers
through long years OF prosperity YOU may
enjoy the fircst rewards of enterprise and
. -excellencei hui if all these things nre Won
hy dcpri,ing your wife Of your socicty-hy
driving her out Of your thoughts, and by in.
tcrrcrug with the constant sympathetic com
muuon Of your heart with hers She cannot
rbuJ frci-rBdT what curieho, YOU ihpo'crshe'
her, and that YOUR gain whatever il may be
is at her expense She may enjoy your rep
u,a,ion and Your wealth, your successes and
good fortunes, but YOU aud your society az,
things tha, are infinitely more precious to her
She depends upon YOU, naturally and bl
force of circumstances, Friends may crowd
e around her but ir YOU come not, she is moi
satisfied. She may ho,c spread before her
4 thousand dclicacics but il they are uusharcc
g with you, she would exchange them oll fo,
u anoraugc which YOU bring home to her as At
evidence that YOU have though, of her, TIA,
dress YOU selected when in the city is Ia,
. dearest, though she may acknowledge to her
self that she would have chosen different col
ors and material. In short, it is from YOU
. heart, and the world coming through YOU
heart, that she draws that sustcnancc ant
support which her deepest nature Graves.
/, Now, how are YOU dealing by this wife OF
:, yours DO you say that YOU have all yo,
can attend to in your business, and that sh,
must look out for herself2 DO you forge
y, that she lives in the house away from th
exctcmcnts of the world which so much in
:, tercst you, and that the very sweetest excite
; mcnt of the day is that which throws tn
warm blood in her heart into rddcs as sh
u hears your step at the door ? Do YOU forg"
, that she has no pleasure in public places un
less YOU are at her side Are YOU unmind
. ful that she has no such pleasant walks a
those which she takes with her hand upo
Your arm Dv1ou ignore the fact that sh
l. has claim. upon your time2 DO you fail .
le remember that YOU took her out of plensan
X family circle, away from the associations oI
&c her childhood AZ d that she has no society i
al all the wide world which she prizes so highl
" as yours? Doyou forget that YOU owe you
first duty to her, and that you have no righ
st to give to society or to your own pleasur
t. the time which necessarily involves neglec
IN of her? To come TO practical points
'g one of the aims Of your life to give TO you
r. wife a portion of your time and society, $
IN that she shall not always be obliged to 81
ne alone, and 30 out ulone'
D" There are some poor specimens of your Sc
in the world who not only do not feel thG
,c their wives have any special claim on thei