The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1858-03-25
MARRIED POLITENESS


that kind of philosophy which comes into
every day requsi,ion, helping to strengthen
and brighten the ties of social affection, in
the subjoined brief article taken from the
Ladies' Enterprise -
"Will youl" asked pleasant voice.
And the husband answered, ayes, my
dear, with pleasure"
1t was quietly, but heartily said the tone,
the manner, the look, were perfectly natural
and very ailectionatc. We thought, how
pleasant that courteous reply, how gratify-
ins it must be to tho wife. Many husbands
OF ten years experience arc ready enough
with the courtcsics of politcncss to the
young ladies OF their acquaintance, while
they speak with abruptncss to the wife, and
do many rude little things without consid-
"r"s them worth an apology. The stran-
ger, whom they may have seen but ycstcr-
day, is listened to with Difference, and al
though The subject may not be of the mott
pleasant nature, with u rca'y smile; while
the poor wife, if she relates Il domestic
grievance, is snubbcd, or listened to with i'll
concealed impaticncc. O! how wrong this
is-all wrong.
Does she urge some request? go, don't
bother me - cries her gracious lord and
master Does she ask for necessary funds
FOR SuSy's shoes or Tomny's hat (: "Scc,ns
to me you arc always wanting money is
the handsome re,ort. Is amy little extra
demanded by his masculine appetite, it is or
dcrcd, not requested.
"l.ook here, want you to do so and so ;
just see that it's done; - and of marches
Mr.. Door, with Il bow and smile of zen
tlcnianly polish and friendly sweetness for
every casual acquaintance he may chance
to recognise.
When VIC meet with such thoughtlessncs,
and c"arsenc<S, our thoughts revert to the
kind voice an,. gentle manner Of the lricrl
who SAID, "lc>, my dcar-with pleasure" :"
.! beg Your par'lou," comes us readily To-
his lips when by amy little awkwarncss he
l';is disconnected her, us it would in the
presence ot the most fashionable slicklcr for
etiquette. 1i> is lrca,,Sr he is Il thorough
gentleman, who thinks his wifi. in all thine,
entitled to precedence. lie loves !cr bes, :;
why should he hesitate to show il; not in
slckly, maudlin attentions, but in prcferin-
her pleasure, and lonoring her in public MS
vel rs private. lie knows her worth !;
'v'''' 60. 80 CAV,
.., should lie hesitate tc attest: IL. "iiau
her husband, he praiscth her." saith HOLY
Writ; not by iulsomc adulaiion, not by
pushing her charms into notice, but bv
speaking, as opportunity occurs, in manly
way, of her virtues. Though words may
seem little things. and slight attentions al
most vauclcss, yet, depend upon it, they
keep the flame bright, especially if they are
natural. The children grow up III Il better
moral atmosphere, and learn to respect their
parents, as they see them respecting each
other. Many boy takes advantage Of
mother he loves, because Lc sees often tn.
rudcncss Of his father. lnscul,ly he gath
ers to his bosom the same habits, and the
thoughts "nd feelings they engcndcr, and i'll
his turn becomes the pretty tyrant. Only
his mother, Why should he thanL her? faith
cr Never does. Thus the home becomes
The scat Of disorder and unhappincss. Only
Tor strangers arc kind words expressed, and
hvpocrltcs 20 out t. ON the hearth stone
fully prepared to render justice, Lcnevolence.
and politcncss to amy one and every one
but those who have the justcst claims. All
give us the kind glance, the happy home
stead, the smiling wife and courteous chill
dren Of the friend who said SO pleasantly,
'ies, my dear-wilh pleasure"
AlHgator's Nests.-They resemble hay
cocks, four feet high, and five in diameter
at their bases, bcin. constructed with grass
and heritage. First they deposit one layer
Of eggs OIL Il floor of mortar, and having
covered this with second strattfm of mud
and heritage, eight inches thick, lay another
set OF eggs upon that, and so on to the top,
there being commonly from one to two
hundred eggs in nest. With their ia Is,
they then beat down round tho nest the
dense grass and reeds five feet high, TO
prevent the approach Of unseen enemies.
The female watches her eggs until they
are all Matched by the heat of the sun, and
then takes her brood under her own care,
defending them and providing for their
subsistence. DIR. Lutzcnbcrg of New Or
leans told me that he once packed up one
OF these nests, with the eggs, in a box for
the museum Of St. Petersburg, but was
recommended before he closed it to see that
there was no danger of the eggs being
Matched on the voyage. On opening one,
young alligator marched out, aud was
soon followed by the rest, about n hundred.
which he fed in his house, where they went