Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1858-06-01

with even the best-those who are too homes
to seek pleasure in otherpeople's wives an,
husbands too faithful to entertain the idea 70
moment Of playing quits" who haven't tn
slightest intention of being cruel or cross, in ar
way-would be startled at the suggestion of no
being modelcouple-do their dnty, inihe main
to one another very welfare much alarmed
either fall sick, terribly grieved if either fall dead
Bury him or her with sincere tears-wear hon
est Grape for months, or years, if nothing pre-
vent-and then-may be pay the last compli
ment of wedding ''another, like my dear" Z
ven with these best specimens in nine cases ou
of ten, what is the usual style of procedures-
Do not clouds as big as q mans hand, fly abou
in the sky, before even the "honey moon" goe.
down, may be,-and the little stars hide under
the clouds, and the soft breezes blow up int
rather cool stiff gales, and the refreshing dew
refrigerate into biting little frosts-tbugs gene
rally beginning to indicate that "a change ha,
come DER the spirit of their dream" In wore
that the old Serpent has erept into their Para
disc. "Their eyes are opened" and they begir
to know each other too critically. Their limo.
cent trust and love must be getting at some mis-
erab!e snake shift"-of fig leaves Then they
quit Eden, and we hear nothing more of them
except through their progeny. Or if this pic
ture uses them up too briefly and tiguratively
let's go back to the dark of the honey moon, and
say, after little while, yawning becomes more
fashionable than kissing; little unkind cuts anc
Jokes come in lieu of flowing compliments, best
looks and talk are put away for company cast
blame oftener than loving glances; tread on the
toes of each others faults, instead of bowing ou,
eff their way as they used to do-harp on little
underlined provocatives mot very appreciative
when little favors are done, but vastly dscom-
posed and fretful if left undone; rarely feel in
full good humor to pay the other whole-souled
broad-mouth compliment. Those compliments
which once-but we will not revert suffice to
say Gas the greater includes the lessO the trans
cendent Hebe is degenerated into plain Phebe
the Venus becomes "Vinous," by fermentation
and poor Minerva might stand in the domes-
tic glossary as o technical for nervous disorder
for all the sense there is in it. Then, to com
plete the reduced match, there is nothing left OF
the Jupiter but some thunderbolts; of Mercury,
but his purse and if the Apollo has not Ito use
the execrable pun of our funny friend) gone on,
into something more like Apolyon, he at least
shows the cub-foot. And so it is, and so it is.
Now surely, of all the Protean shape love can
assume, this is the most unaccountabe and un-
necessary. 1t really looks as if he were satisfied
when lie saw their hands joined-and left the
lob to their own inishing-or as fthe courtship
day were gay carnival, where all wore masks,
and marriage the necessary, but joyless Lent
thereafter, What can be the cause2 tbs surely
no part of Hymen's appointed Office, to break
Cuppid's spells-though it does prove at times a
great awakener." No: you may smile if you
please, bet we caDdidly believe the whole secret
is contained, like the heart of some great man,
in a very small case. Tis simply here. Having
secured their ends, they relax their efforts
love traps were vastly interesting-but nets to
hold affection cost rather more, and continuous
effort. The sweet little winning ways and
words-the tasteful toilet, the general express
sion of Difference, tenderness, and Kindness, are
put aside tho entrance of husband and wife,
being the signal for the "sweet-hearts," to take
up these trappings, and go hence. The success
fu husband cannot waste. Gas he thinks) mere
pretty speeches and fine looks, on what is al
ready secured to him. So, tuckng her beneath
his arms, be strides on after some unobtaned
object of interest or ambition. The little wife
having accomplished what she was bred and ed
ucated to consider the ne plus ultra of her exist
ence, takes no more pains to be pretty, accom-
plished or amiable, and unless some "ioddling
wee tnln8 claim ner care, unoS very lltie W III
terest the residue of her time. What mis-
take! What PROCLAMATION Of noble and di-
vine institution! And all without meaning.
A dear old lady told us not long since, she
had been married for fftytwo years, and in all
that time no unloving or even Indifferent word,
look or $50 far as she knew thought, had ever
passed between herself and her husband.-"Beau
tiful tribute" we exclaimed, "and how have
you been able to effect this9" by love, and
by politeness," she rejoined-and there is the
entire secret. The manner cannot be dispensed
with any more than the matter. Cupid is not to
be dressed up in court suit-but at the same time,
you are not to disfgure him by slovenly clothes
and slip shoes-though familiarity might seem tc
justify it. Love and politeness," those are the
two vestals that will always keep the holy fire
burning-if not cracking and sparkling as al
frst-yet calm and steady; by whose inge
hand to hand, and heart to heart, can be truly
fulfilled that Doblest of destinies-
"To make happy fireside chime
To weans and wife,
That's the true pathos and sublime
OF human life.'