Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1858-12-01

you don't take half care enough of that
poor dear fellow, who never looks so
well as he did before he was married
Yes, poor dear girl! it must be owned
you have good deal 10 bear on your
side also.
Daughters and sons-in-law being al
ways expected TO be perfect-the daugh
ter or son by blood being of course nat
urally so in the parental eyes-causes of
nece>silya few pa nlul disenchaniments
on the part of the motier-in-law. She
for!ets that she must take her share Of
the difficulties which are sure TO arise,
so long as human beings are a little less .
than angels. and earth is not domestic .
par disc She had best early reconcile .
herself to The truih-pain III. yci Just and
natural-that she has no longer the first
ghl to her child. Wien once young
pair are married. parents. as we'll as rel I
alive, and friends, must leave them 10 I
make the best of one another. They /
two are touni together iHii>solubly, /
and no interference u: a thi,d parry can
ever mend what is irr mediabie: while
even in things remediablr. any strong
* email influence is quite as likely to do
harm as good
a wife, be she ever so Young, igno
rant, or foolish, must be sole mistress in
her husbands house, aud not even her
own parents or his have anv business to
Interfere with her, more than ~ an oc-
casional opinion, or bit of affec.ionate
counsel, which is often better not given
-Il! asked for
And in the s'rangeness, the frequent
soli.ul =, the countless difficulties Of new
Iy married life, no doubt this advic,
would be eagerly sought for, had il not
ben overmuch intsuded at first. a
girl, taken out of her large. merry fam
ily, 10 spend long, lonely days in an un
tam liar house, he it ever so dear; or en-
terin5, inexperienced, upon all sorts Of
family cares. would frequ nlIy be tha,.k
ful 10 her very heart for the wisdom and
kiniress OF new mo.her, If only The
mojher hid early teken pains 10 WIN that
confidence which. 10 be given, requirr s
winning. For neither love nor uust
comes by instinct; and in most Of these
connections by marriage where tie very
fact OF s!ran- ers being sud ienly brought
TO, ether, and desired 10 like one anoth-
er, Distinctly rcl.nes them the other
way-this love and lIust, if long in cosl-
inc, frequently never comes at all
Very civil may be the outward relations
of the parties. but heart warmth is not
there. II is always my husbands FAM
lily not my family my daughters
husband or, my sons wife--never
ing SON and my daughter The low
: ing pairiarchal union, which both sides,
elder and younger. ought at least to
strive to attain. becomes first doubtful,
then Lopeless. then impossible.
One secret, original c-use Of this is
the faculty most peo,le have of seeing
their rights great deal clearer than
+ their duties. About these ri .hts' there
are always clouds rising: and one of the
promin nj causes OF di>uuion is often
that which ought 70 be the. very bond Of
u'ion-lhe gran chi dren.
Now. if woman has light on earth.
it certainly is TO the manage ment of heI
own chIl.ren. She would not be half a
won an it in that mater she submitted
10 ans body'S advice or opinion coulrary
10 her owe; or if in all rhings concern
ing that undoubled possession my baby,
she were no; as fierce as a ligress. and
As hard as rock One could forgive
her ary rebellioa or indignation at un-
warrantable interi.r, nee from her moth
eT in-law, or even her oau mother
And with justice. for il she have any
Common sense al all, she may, with less
Experience, have as clear practical judg
ment as crandmamms. whose wisdom
belongs TO a past neration, and wEost
memory may not be quite accurate as tC
) the times when she Wa youn9 Yet II
tie dau- hter in law has any right feel
iny, she will always listen patiently, an
: be grateful and elling to the utmost o
her power. Nay. rheie win spring uE
new sympathy between her AMI The old
lady, to whom every new baby face IN y
bring back whole tide OF long ,,iumber
. ing recollec'ions--children grown "
and gone away. Children undudIul or es
, tranged--or. lastly. liil!e children!
graves. The most irritable and trying
r of mothers-in law is sight venerable
aud touching, as she sits with 'lhc baby
across her knees, gossiping about 'ou
children of iory years ago.
Bat, speking Of rights, the wife ba
D limits even to hers, Surely the 'prima
= elder curse must rest upon the woman
who voluntarily or thoughIlessly tries t
SOW division between her husband ant
, his own flesh and blo1d--above all, be
+ tive him and his mother And putin!
aside the sin of it, what poor, jealou
n coward must she below weak in he