Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1858-04-21

r es, their heads frowzy and worse with
: sublime self-denial of the use of ivory
combs, and engaged in picking their
} teeth over the last missionary. About
what year in the popular era is it suppos
ed that he will arrive at that degree of
perfection which will make him a mice
yo1ng man?n
Now perhaps you do not perceive the
: force of this illustration. Let us get at it,
then. When you find yourself shut out
fiom all female society. except that which
is beneath you, that society will do you
just as much and no more good than a
fock of South Down ewes, especially if
1t be young. If, in all this society, you
can find one old woman of sixty, who
has common sense, genial good nature,
experience, some reading. and sympa
the'ic heart, cherish her as you would
her weight in gold. but let the young
trash 90. You will hear nothing from
them but gossip and nonsense, and you
will only get disguised with the world
and yourself. Better a thousand times
get an old hat and petticoat worn by
your mother or grandmother, and hang
them up in your room, and then read
books. Inspiration to higher and purer
life always comes from above man,
and female society can only elevate and
purify man when it is higher and pur-
er that he is. In the clement of purity,
l doubt not that woman generally are
superior TO man, but it is very largely
negative or unconcious element, and has
not the power and influence of a positive
virtue.
Therefore, whenever you seek for fe
male society, as an agency in the eleva-
ton of your tastes, the preservation of
your morals, and the improvement of
your mind. seek for that which is above
you. | do not counsel you to treat with
rudeness or studied neglect such inferior
females ociely as you are obliged to come
in contact with. On the contrary, YOU
owe such society duty. You should
slim mulale it infuse new life into it if pos
sible, and do for it what you would have
female society 10 for yourself And this 1
matter of seeking female society above
yourself you should carry still further.
Never content yourself with the idea of
having a common place wife. You
want one who will stimulate you, stir
you up, keep you moving. joke you on
your weak points. and make something
OF you. Don't be afraid that you can
not get such a wife. l very well iemem-
Der the reply which gentleman who
happened 10 combine the qualities Of wit
and common sense, made to young
man who expressed fear that certain
young lady of great beauty and attain
mems would dismiss bin, if he should
become serious. "My friend" said the
wit, Infinitely more beautiful and ac- .
complished women than she is, have ,
married infinitely uglier and meaner men .
than you are." And such is the fact |
II you are honest and honorable, if your {
character is spotless. if you are enterpris- +;
ing and industrious. if you have some ;
grace and fair degree of gumptiOn, and |
if you love appreciatingly and truly. you {
can marry almost any body worth your I
having. So, to encourage yourself. car 9
ry in your memory the above aphorism +
reduced TO form something like this 7
Infinitely finer women than l ever ex 4
pect TO marry, have loved and married Il
men infinitely meaner than | am" n
Let us get at the common sense of this.
The aPprehensions of woman are finer a
Ind quicker than those of man. With m
,qual early advantages, the woman is b.
more of woman at eighteen than the N
nan is man, at twenty one. Alter 81
marriage, as general thing. the woman W
eases 10 acquire. She is absorbed in hi
amIly affairs. or, perhaps. de, otes from y(
en- TO twenty years TO the bearing of ca
hildren-lhe holiest, most delightful, je
most dignfed and most honorable Office pr
rod ever bestowed upon human being sit
d the meantime, the man is out engag. be
d in business. He comes in daily con ce
act with minds stronger and sharper ne
ian his own. He grows and natures, th
nd in ten years from the date Of bis dr.
larriage, he becomes, in reality new pr
Ian. Now, if he was SO much of a fool he
5 10 marry woman because she had a I
reity form and face, or sweet eyes, or tue
4 amiable dispositicn, or pleasant tenn ma
.r, or "Iin," he will find that he has a :
assed entirely by his wife, and that she gro
no more of companion for him than is
baby would be. think it was Bul. nal
er who said that what most he priced ma
woman was her love- or words 10 ef- tim
It. In marriage. l take love for grant cha
+. and what most prize in woman is sun
conce." l know of but few sadder the
hts in this world than that of mates ,
iom the passage of years has mis- mat aut
. A woman ought to have long thin
ri Of a man. and then, ten to one the tral
man will come out ahead, in the race wiz
long life. cas-
There is great trick in getting you
art wife. 1t involves, in the first fror
zee. harmless piece Of imposition 10