The North-Carolinian. [volume] (Fayetteville [N.C.]) 1839-1861, 1858-10-30
NORTH CAROLINIAN
Word to the Girls.
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Girls, you want to get married don't you?
All, what natural thing it is for young
ladies who have such hankering for the
sterner sex? It is weakness that woman
has, and for this reason she is called the
weaker sex! Well, if you want to get mar
RED, don for conscience sake act like fools
about it. Don't 90 into fit of the nips
every time you see hat and pair of whis-
kers. Don't get the idea into your heads
that you must put yourself in the way of
every young man in the neighborhood, in
order to attract notice; for if you don't run
after the men, they will run after you.
Mark that
A husband hunter is the most detestable
of all young ladies. She is full of starch
and Fuckers, she puts on many false airs,
and she is so nice, that she appears ridicu-
lous in the eyes Of every decent person.
She may generally be found at church or
meeting, coming in, of course, about the
last one, always at social parties, and in
variably takes front seat at concerts She
tries to be the belle Of the place, and thinks
she is. Poor girl! You are fitting your
self for an old maid, just as sure as the
Sabbath comes on Sunday. Men will frt
with with you, and hatter you, simply be-
cause they love to do it, but they have no
more idea of making you wife than they
have of committing suicide. If | were a
young man [ would have no more to do
with such fancy women than would with a
viper
Now, girls, let Nelly give you piece of
her advice, and she knows from experience
that if you practice it, you will gain the rep
utation Of being worthy girls, and stand a
fair chance Of getting respectable husbands.
1t is all we'll enough that you learn to finger
the piano, work embroidery, study grammar
&C.; but don't neglect to let grandman.a or
your mother teach You how to make pies
and puddings, and get meal of victuals
good enough for a king. No part of a
housekeeper's duties should be neglected;
if you do not marry wealthy husband,
and if you do, it will be no disadvantage for
you to know how to instruct a servant girl
to do these things as you would have them
done.
In the next place don't pretend to be what
you are not. Affectaton is the most despi-
cable of accomplishments" and will only
cause sensible people to laugh at you. No
one but a fool will be caught by affection; il
has 4 transparent skin, easily to be seer
through. Dress plain, but neatly. Re
member that nothing gives girl so modes
becoming, and lovely an appearance, as
neat and plain dress. All the hummer,
and tinsel-work of the dressmaker and mil
liner are unnecessary. If you are reall,
handsome: they do not add to your beaut
one particle; if you are homely, they onl
make you look worse. Men don't cour
your faces and jewelry, but your own dea
selves.
Finger rings and folderola may do to lool
at. but they add nothing to the value Of
wife-all young men know that. If yo1
know how to talk, do it naturally, and no
be so distressingly polite as to spoil all 20,
say. If your hair is straight, don't put OF
the curlingtongs to make people believe i
is not. If your neck is dark, wear a lace
color, but don't be SO foolish as 70 daub OF
paint, thinking that people are so blind al
not to see it; and if your checks are no
rosy, don't apply pink saucers, for the de
ception will be detected, and you'll be laugh
ed at.
Finally, girls, listen to the counsel ofyoul
mothers, and ask their advice in everything
Think less of fashion than you do of hom
duties-less of romance than you do of th'
realities of life; and instead of trying t.
catch beaux, strive to make yourselves wortl
being caught by them.