The independent press. (Abbeville C.H., S.C.) 1853-1860, 1858-08-20

Married Politensss.

There is much truth rs well rs of that
kind Of philosophy which comes into every
day requisition, helping to strengthen and
brighten the ties of social affection in the
suhjoined brief article taken from the LA.
dies Enterprise
will YOU asked pleasant voice.
And the husband answered, Yes, my
dear, with pleasure
1t was quietly, but heartily said the tone,
the manner, the look, were perfectly natur-
al and very affectionato. We thought, how
pleasant that courteous reply, how gratify-
ing it must be to the wife. Many husbands
of ten years experience are ready enough
with common courtesies of politeness to the
young ladies of their acquaintance, while
they speak with abruptncss TO the wife, and
do many little rude things without consider
ing them worth an apologN The stran-
ger, whom they have seen but yesterday,
Is listened to with Difference, and although
the subject may not be OF the most pleas
ant nature, with IL ready smile while the
poor wife, If she relates domestic rrie-
vance, is snubbed, or listened to with illy-
concealed impatiencc. Oh! how wrong
this is-all wrong.
Does she urge some request? 'Oh, don't
bother me " cries her gracious lc I'd and mas
ter. Does she ask for necessary funds for
'Susle's shoes or Tomny's hat; Seems to
NE you are always wanting money! is the
handsome re;ort. Is any little extra de-
manded 10y his masculine appetite, it is or.
dered, not requested.
Look here, want you to do so and so !;
just see that it's done and off marches Mr.
Boor, with bow of genllemanly polish and
friendly sweetness for every casual acuuain-
tance he may choose to recognize.
When we meet with such thoughtIessness
and coarsencss, our thoughts reverts the
kind voice and gentle manner of the friend
who said, 'lcs, my dear, with pleasure 4
beg your pardon comes rapidly to his lips
when, by little awkwardncss. he has dis
concerted her, as it would in the presence
of the most fashionable stick Ter for etiquette.
This is because he is thorough gentle
man, who thinks his wife in all things enli-
tied to precedence. lie loves her best,
why should he hesitate to show it; not in
sickly baudlin attention, but in prefcrrng
her pleasure, and honoring her in public
as well rs in private. He knows
her; why should he hesitate to attest it?
and her husband, he praiselh her. saith
Holy Writ; not by fulsome adulation, not
by pushing her charms into notice, but by
speaking, as opportunity occurs, in manly
way of her virtures. Though words may
seem little things, and slight attention
seem almost vaueless, yet depend upon it,
they keep the flame bright especially if they
are natural. Tho children grow up in bet.
ter moral atmospheres, and learn to re-
spect their parents, as they see them rcspec-
ting each other. Many boy takes ad-
vantage Of the mother be loves, because he
sees often the rudeness of his father. In
sensibly he gathers to his bosom the same
habits, and the thoughts and feelings they
engender, and in his turn he becomes the pet
ty tyrant. Only his mother? why should
he thank her? father never does Thus tie
homes becomes the scat Of disorder and un-
happiness. Only for strangers arc kind
words expressed, and hvpocrites 60 out from
the hearth stone fully prepared to render
justice benevolence and politenass 10 any
one but those who have the justest claims.
Ah give us the kind glance, the happy
homestead, the smiling wife and courteous
children Of the friend who said so pleas
antly-'Yes, my dear-with pleasure