The Lancaster ledger. [volume] (Lancaster, S.C.) 1852-1905, 1858-09-08
Married Politeness

There Is much OF truth as well AS as
that kind of philosophy which comes
INTO every day requlstion, helping to
strengthen aid brighten the ties Of social
affection, III tho subjoined Lref article
taken from the 'LsIies' Euterprise.'
Wiil you" asked pleasant voice.
And the husband ansM cred, Yes, nv
dear, with pleasure
IL VAS quietly, but hesrtiy said; the
tone, the.mHnncr the LOOK, were perfectly
natural ana very aifecticnate. We thou.
ght, how pleasant tlat courteous reply.
how gratifying it must be to the wife
Many husbands Of ten years experience
are ready enough with the common cour.
tes'es OF poi'tcness To the young ladies Of
their acquaintance, While they speak
with abruptness to the wiie, and do many
little rude things without considering
them worth an apology. The stranger,
whom they may nave seen but yesterday,
is listened 10 with Difference, and althoph
the subject may not be Of The most pleas.
ant natm2, with ready smile while the
poor wife, r!she relr.es domestic griev-
ance, is snubbed, or listened to with lily
concealed impa,ience. Oh. how wrong
this is-ail wrong.
Does she urge some requestl 30,
don't bother mew cries her gracious lord
ard master. Does she ask for necessary
funds for "Susie's shoes or Tommy's hari"
-"Seems To me you are always wartinp
money is the handsome retort. Is any
little extra demanded by his masculine
appetite, 1t is ordered, not requested.
Look here, | want you to do so and
so Jnst see that it's done;' and off mar
c@es Mr. Boor, with bow Of gentleman.
, ly polish and friendly sweetness for every
casual acquaintance he may choose to
recognize.
l. When we meet with such thoughtless
ness and coarseness, our thoughts revert
to the kind voice and gentle manner Of
the friend who SAID, Yes, my dear, " ith
pleasure Il beg your PARDON comes as
rapidly to bis lips when 10y little awk.
wardness he has Disconnected her, a. il
would in the presence of the most fash.
ionahIe stickler for etiquette.
This is because he is thorough gentle.
man, who thinks his wife in all things en-.
titled TO precedence. lie loves her best,
why should he hesitate TO show il not in
sickiy, oandHn attention out IN pre-
ierTing her pleasure, and honoring her
in public as well as in prvete. He
knows her; why should he hesitate to
attest III And her husband, he praiseth
he-, saith Holy Writ; not by fulsome ad-
uIation, not 10y pushing her charms into
notice, but 10y speaking, as opportunity
occurs, in manly way, Of her features,
Though words may seem little things,
and slight attention seem almost value
less, yet depend upon it, they keep the
flame bright especially iflhey are natural.
The children grow up in better moral at.
mospheres, and learn to respect their pa
rents, as they see them respecting each
other Many hoy takes advantage OF
the mother he loves, because he sees often
the rudeness Of his -Iusensibly he
gathers to his bosom the same habits,
and the thoughts and feelings they en-.
! gender, and in his turn he becomes the
! petty tyrant. Only his mother, whv
should he thank bert father never does.
( Thus the home become the seat Of disor.
der and unhappiness. Only for stran.
gers are kind WORDS expressed, and hvp
ocriies go out from the hearth stone fully
prepared to render justice, benevolenet
aud politeness to any one but those who
have the jnslest claims. Ali give us the
kind glance, the happy homestead, the
smiling wife and courteous children of,bt
FREED who said so pleasantly-'Yes, my
dear-with pleasure