Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1858-06-02

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the lesson of which | speak, they are a
blessed thing. Half the ills OF society
originate in the fact that is burdens are
unequally borne. and that the duties ofin-
dividuals 10 it are not diScharged.-
Therefore | say 10 every young man,
begin early To do for the social insiiiu-
tions in which you have your life. If
you have intellect and accomplishments,
give them TO the elevation and delight OF
the circle in which you move. II you
have none of these, show an accommodate
ding disposition bv attending the sewing
circle and holding yarn for the girls
Do your part, and be man among men.
Assume your portion of social respoa ST.
biIity, and see that you discharge it well
If you do not do this, then you are mean.
and society has the right 10 kick you as
much as it chooses. You are 2 sneak.
and have not claim uPon your neigh
bors for a single polite word.
Young men have all noticed how ca
silly some oftheir number get into sOcie-
", AMI how others remain out of good
social circles always. They are very
apt TO think that society has not discharg-
ed its duties 10 them. Now, all social
duiics are reciprocal. Society, as it is
called, is far more apt 10 pay its dues TO
the Individual than the individual to So
ciety. Have you, young man, who are
at home whining over the fact that you
cannot get into society done anything 10
give YOU a claim 10 social recoguiiion?-
Are you able TO make any return for So
cial recognition and social privilege? Do
you know anything? Wha; kind of coin
do you propose 10 pay, in the discharge
of the obligation which comes upon you
with social recogniIionl In other words,
in return for what you wish to have soci:
ty DO for you, what can you do for socie-
ty? Thisis animportant queslion-more
important 10 you Than 10 society. Tie
question is, whether you will be a MEM
ber of society, by right or by COURTESY
If YOU have SO mean a spirit as 10 be con-
tent to be beneficiary of society-re-
I ceiyc favors and confer none-you have
no business in The society 10 which you
aspire. You are an exactinc, conceited
dot
You ask me what society would have
of you. Anything which You possess
that has value in society. Society is not
particular on this point. Can you act in
charade? Can you dance? Can you
tell a story well! Have you Travelled,
and have you a pleasant faculty of tell
ing your adventures? Are you educated
and able to imparl valuable ideas and gen.
eral information? Have you vivaciiy in
conversation! Can you sing2 Can you
play whist, and are you willing 10 assist
I those 10 a pleasant evening who are not
able 10 stand through party? Do yon
wear a good coat, and can YOU bring good
dress into the ornamental department OF
society? Are you up 10 anything in the
way of private theatricals? If yoa do
not possess a decent degree ofsense, can
you talk decent nonsense. Are yon a
good beau, and are you willing 10 make
Yourself useful in waiting on the la
dies on all occa-ions Have you a
good sell of teeth, which you are willing
10 show whenever the wit of the company
gets of good thing! Are you true,
straightforward, manly fellow, with
whose healthful uncorl upted nature ii is
good for society 10 come in contact In
short, DO you possess anything of any So
cial value? If you do, and are willing
to impart it, society will yield itself TO
your touch. If you have nothing, then
society, as such, owes you nothing.-
! Christian philanthropy may put its arm
around you, as lonely young man,
abou, 10 spoil flr want of salt, sugar, or
something, but it is very sad aud humli-
aling for young man 10 be brought to
that There are persons who devote
themselves 10 nursing young men, and
doing them good. II they invite you tc
tea, 90 by all means and try your hand
If in the course Of the evening you can
prove 10 them that your society is desira-
bic, you have won point. Don't be
patronized.
Young men are very apt to get into
morbid state of mind, which disinclines
them 10 social intercourse. They become
devoted TO business with such exclusive.
ness that all social intercourse is irksome.
They 20 out 10 tea as if they were going
10 Jail, and drag themselves to party as
to an execution. This disposition is thor.
oughly morbid, and to be overcome by
going where you are invited, always, and
at any sacrifice of feeling. Don't shrink
from contact with anything but bad NOR
ais. Men who affect your unhealthy
minds with antipalhy, will prove Them
selves very frequently TO be your best
friends and mos! delightful companions.
Because man seems uncongenial TO you.
who are squeamish and foolish, you have
no right to shun him. We become char
liable by knowing men. We learn to
love those whom we have despised, by
rubbing against them. Do you not re-