The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-05-01

does a shameful thing ana efutl thlng' De-
sides making an ass Of himself a woman
who bruits her husbands faults, who tells the .
neighbors how much he seeks the society Of 1
other women, how much he spends foF /
cigars, how late he is out at night, how lazy
he is, how little he cares Tor what interests
her, how stingy he is with lds money, and all |
that sort Of thing, sins against herself, and /
consents, or voluntarily enlists, to publish /
that which 10 essentially her own shame. 4
husband and wife have no business 20 tell
another They cannot do IL without shame. !
Their grievances are 20 be settled In private,
between themselves and in all public places,
and among friends, they aye TO preserve tow
ards one another that nice consideration and
entire respectfulness which their relation en-
joins, For they are one in the law and foi
a man or woman TO publish the truth that
they are not one In fact, il 10 acknowledge
that they are living in the relation Of an un-
willing lover aud compulsory Mistress
Isn't that disgusting. enough
A great deal Of evil might be prevented be-
tween you II you would allow your affection
TO give itself natural expression. know Of
husbands so proud and stiff and surly that
they never have kiss or a eaross or ford
word for the wives whom they really love-
know such husblnd who have most lovable
wyes-wiyes to whom single tender dem
onstration, that shall tell to their hearts how
inexpressibly pleasant their faces and their
society are, and how iondly they are loved,
would be better than untold gold,-wives to
whom earesscs are sweeter than mama, and
fond words more musical than robin-songs in
the rain. They go through life starving for
them-bearing buds Of happiness upon their
bosoms that must be kissed into bloom, or
wither and fall. Yet the cast iron husband
goes about his business without even kind
good morning" eats his meals with immense
regularity, imugines that he is an excellent
husband and entertains profound eontemp,
for silly people who are fond Of one another.
Heaven be thanked that there aro some in
the world TO whose hearts the barnacles will
not cling Heaven be thanked for the young
old boys and the young old grls-boys and
girls fore,er-who until the evening Of life
falls upon them, interchange the sweet caress-
cs that call back the days Of eourtship ard
marriage Thank Heayen that my wife can
never grow old that so long Rs lock
udorns her temples, brown or gray, my finger
shall toy with. it, that 40 long as | can sit
there Ahall be n place for her on-my knee.
and that 40 long as can whisper and she
hear she shall know by fond confession that
her soul is next to mine--linked 10 mine
mine
Iwish in this letter to impress upon you
the idea which few married people APPARENT
Tty thoroughly comprehend, thut yUu=hus'
band and wife are one,-that you have no
separate interests, that you can have no sep
aratc positions in society, that you should
desire none, and that is within your ability,
and is most imperatiyely your duty TO be
happy together. In order TO be what you
should be to each other, and in order to be
happy yourselves-in your own hearts-you
should begin right You should be willing
: at all times to bear one Rnother's burdens
and, in fact know of no better rule for ac-
compishing the end seek for you than by
your constantly studying and ministcring TO
I the happiness of each other, SelfShness is
the bane of oil life, and especially of married
| life and If "a husband and wife devote them
selves to one unother's happiness, relinquish'
ing their own selfish qualification for that
end the task is aeeomplished-the secret
solved The path OF such pair is paved
with gold. Their life is song Of praise
All good angels are about them, bearing con
solaiions for every sorroM, aniilntes for exc
~ bane, rewards for every labor, and strength
for every trial. That is essential marriage
and, as Paul Dombey said when Mrs. Pipchir
told him there was nobody else like her
"that is a very good thing
suppose there is a modcum of romance
in most natures, and that If it gather abou
any event, it is that of marriage. Most pso
pie marry ideals. There Is more or less OF
fictitious and failacious glory resting upor
the head of every bride, which the inchoat
husband sees and believes in. Both mel
and women manufacture per'ections in thei
mates by happy process Of their imagina
tons and then marry them. This, Of cours
wears away. BY the time the husband ha
seen his wife eat heartily Of pork and beans
and, with her hair friLLled, and her oldes
dress on, fun Of the entcrpris" Of overhaulinI
things, he sees that she belongs to the sam
race with himself And she. when her hus
band gets up cross in the morning, and un
dertakes to shave himself with cold waite
and dull razor, while his suspenders dnngl
at his heels, begins to see that man is yer
prosaio animal. In other words, there
, such thing as a honeymoon. of longer Q
!, shorter durationj and while the moonshin
lasts. the radiance of the seventh heaven car
not compare with it. Lisa very deliciou
little delirium--a fehrile mental disease