Delaware gazette. [volume] (Delaware, Ohio) 1855-1886, 1858-09-17

are you if, of his own choice, he take the en-
/ ioyment you offer in the place of 6Bythfns
which the outside world has to give. ! sup
pose there are few men, who. wkSn the wuri
is over and their supper eaten, do not have I
desire to 60 down town $40 meet man,
or visit "the post oface.' There 10 G ast
uraf desire in every heart to have every day
an kour of social freedoas-=a few minutes
at least or walk ia the oPef air, and Coz
tact with the uafnds or ekiser HeeBe This is
entirely Ageeraf aass ffecessar1 thing; and
yoa shou4d encourage rather than seek to
prevent it, unless your husband is inclined
to visie bad places and associates with bad
companions.
/ Precisely here is dangerous point for
beth husband and wife. The wife has been
alone during the day, and thinks that her
husband ought 10 spend the whole evening
W Rh her, The husband has been confined
to his labor, and longs for hour of free
| dom, in whatever direction his feet may
choose to wander. Perhaps the wife thinks
he has 30 business to wsader at all, and
that his custom to wander To widely and too
long. She complains, and becomes exact
! ing. She cannot bear to have her husband
oul of her sight for moment, after he quits
| his work. Now if there be anything in oh
| this world that W rA ssake a husbanf hate
! his wife, it is u constant attempt on her part
TO monopoaize stl his leisure, time ard all
! his society, TO cHytail bis freedoHa, and a
/ tendency to be forever frettang his ears with
the statement that ''stc 10 nottiag of coerse' ~
that be ''does noe care @ny sl4aag about her"
and that he dislikes his home. Treatment
like this will just as certainly arouse oil rile
peryerseness of q mass nature as spark
will ignite gpupowder. injustice srG incoE-
siderateness will not go down, especially
when administered by II mans companion.
lie knows thai be loves hSs ho1fe and that he
needs and has Alright to a certaia amount Of
his time, away from home; and if be be
treated as if he possessed no such necessity
and right, he will soop leoxH so be all that
his wife represents him TO be. tell yoe
that a man wants very carefa handling.--
| You must remember that he can owe no drt-
tv to you which does not involve duty FROM
ou. You have the charge of the home, and
| if you expect bin 10 spend portion, or at
/ all OF his evenings in it, you must make ii
attractive. If you expect u man, as mat
ter of duty, TO give any considerable amount
of time to your society, daily through long
series of years, you are to see that society is
worth something to him. Where are your
accomplishments! Where are your books!
Where are your subjects of conversation!
But let Us take up This question separate
ly: How shall awife make her home please.
ant aud her society atirac.iyel This is
short question, but the full answer would
make book. | can touch only few points.
In the first place, she should never indulge
in faullfindiDg. II man has learned to ex
pect that he will Invariably be found fault
with by his wife ON his return home, and
that the burden of her words will be COM
plant, he has absolutely no pleasure to au
ticpate and none to ehj W. There is but
one alternative for a husband in such case
either to steel himself against complaints,
or be ha rrowed up by them, and made snap
pish aud wuspsh. They never produce
good effect, under any circumstance what
ever. There should always be pleasant
word and look ready for him who returns
from the tolls Of the day wearied with eurn
ing the ecessares of the family. II q
pretty pair os slippers lie before the fire,
| ready for his feet, so much the better.
Then, again, the desire to be pleasing in
person should never leave wife for dav.
The husband who comes home at night AM
! finds his wife dressed to receive him-dress-
ed neatly and tassefully, because she wishes
to be pleasant to his eye--canuot, unless he
be brute, neglect her or slight her grace
full pains taking. 1t is a complaint TO him,
1t displays desire 10 maintain the charms
which first attracted him. and to keep in
| fact the silken bonds which her tasteful
| girlhood had fastened to his fancy.
have seen things man iged very differ
emily from this. Ihave known an undressed
| head OF sfhorrid hair' worn all day long. be-
cause nobody but the husband would see it.
! have seen breakfast dresses with sugar
! plantations on them of very respectable size
an most disagreeable sickness In short
have seen slatterns, whose kiss would not
tempt The hungrieSt hermit that ever forswore
woman and was sorry for it. | have seen
them with neither collar zone, with a
| person which did not possess a single charm'
TO husband with his eyes open, and his
| right mind. Tins is all wrong young wife,
| for there is no being in this world for W HON
! it is 50 much for your interest to dress as for
your husband. Your happiness depends
much on your retaining not only the esteem
| of yunr husband, but his admiration. He
should see no greater neatness, and no.more
taste in material and fitness, in any wo-s
mans dress than in yorrs; and there is no
| individual in the world before whom you
should always appear with more thorough
tideness of person than your husband IF
you are careless in this particular, you atso-
| luteIy throw away some OF the strongest asaG
most charming influences which you pbs.
sess. What is true OF your person is also
true Of your house. If your house be disor-
i Derby; if dust cover the table, andinvi.e the
critical fisgeF to write your proper tillei if
/ the furniture look as it it were tossed into a
room from a cart; if your table cloth have a
! more intimate acquaistance with gravy than
1 with soap, and from cellar TO garret there
j be no order, do you blame a husband, for
not Wanting to SIT dow n and spend his even
ings with you. Z should blame, him of
course, on general principles, but, as all nse n
are not 80 sensible as { am, should eiastr;9-
ably entertain aal proper excuses.
S1ilf AGAIN., have you anyttang to tafk :
bout --anytkiRg better than scandal with
which TO interest aud refresh his weary
niiudF ] believe in the interchange ot
Caresses, as have told you before, but kiss
es are only the spice of lie. Ytu cunnoi
always sit on your husbands knee, for in
the first place it would tire him, and in the
second place. he would get sick of il. You
should be one with your husband, but new
er in the shape of u parasite. He should
be able TO see growth in your soul, inde.
pendent of him; and whenever he feels