The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-04-03


eaio iHio hcir cairA1iiom, They learn carly
10 aim at wealth or position 90 primary and
suprcmoy desirable things 4 brilliant
match, Ia the eyes Of the world aloncs for
low morals, uncougenial tasts, and luke-warm
hearts
Nav, ir you must make calculations, lotme
help sou. Make genuine affection the first
thing, This II absolutely indispensable, II
takes precedence Of everything else, You are
not a. liberty 70 consider anything before this
A union based upon anything else, H. na |
have already told YOU essential prostitution,
Il Is against naturo-.nguinst Gods most wise
and benevolent intentions, YOU can make no
union with q man not based on this, that will
give you happiness, Friendship alone will
not do, Esteem alone win not do, The idea
Of giving yourclfto o man simply because
500 eslecm him, and respect him, Il disgust
ing, The union Of the current Of your life
with that Of O man is the great event Of your
history, and II this bc not through those nat
urn alliuilics, sympnthics and pmlmlitics-
thai passion Of your soul which Heaven in
tended shuuld.bc called into exercise by man
hood -Lsthcn ~ Il only q conventional union,
and no union Ia fact Love, then, say, is
the essential thing, and yet love, 40 l have
said before, Is only one thing There may be-
iu the man who cNCitcs the hulicst and slrun-
gcs passion Of your nature, many things
which, if you value your own purity, even
should lead you to pluck that puvsiun from
your breast, and turu your back upon its ob.
icct, that Gods light may rest upon your brow.
even II sorrow makes darkness in youl heart
II IS hard 10 examine character. and profit
by the study, after the heart has become the
seat Of an absorbing passions bat Il Is iudis-
pcnsubly necessary TO DO Il sometimes, II Is
GT better that the passion bc excited by the
influence Of character, disposition and bearing,
but when study become, necessary, il should
be entered upon con,cioutiou,lyi for lhr.scc-
oud requisite for a happy union is sound
character, \ woman possessing the best cl-
cmru.s Of womanhoud cannot bc happy with
o man who has not % sound character lie
may have o good Disposition he may be- in
lclligcnt, hc hIiy lave wealth and huHbr, but
rcancci aud she must ultimately lose her
respect ior him. When respect Is gone, she
may love, she may pity, she may forgive, hu'
she cannot be happy disposition comes in
for consideration in the third place aud world.
li cIrcumstnuccs m the fourth, or perhaps still
lower in the scale. might speak of another
thing rUquisitctu happiness in tho highest
degree, but viii not now and hcrc
In the consideration Of worldly circumstau.
ccs, 6o wise. ECwombcr that il your loyoH bo
intel igcnt healthy, the master Of business
or a profession, he stands many more chances
TO die in the nossessinn Of NcaliA-nl-r-i.-.-l-
tcucc thau he would 1t rich now, and without
settled business and settled purpose.
have watched the results of many matches,
and have seen ten which started with for
tune To bc acquired, turn out well in a world
ly point of view, whore ! hprc seen one result
happily, starting with thcrorunc made. If
young man /, honorable, intelligent, indus
trious and manly in every respect, and you
love him, marry him. There is no power un-
der heaven that hasa moral right 20 stand
between YOU and your happiness, Many
poor girl who married for money now pines
in poverty and coycts the position of girls
whose wiser choice she once contemncd.-
| speak in this way for two reasons The first
is that it is not only your right but your duty
to consider whether life of certain poverty
with the man you love. The second is that
when you take this matter into considcration
YOU should make your judgment upon sound
basis Wealth in hand without business hab-
it's business tastes and business interests. is.
the most unreliable thing in the world. 1t
may even spoil a good lover, and in time
transform him into loaicr or sot. On the
contrary, good business habits, good charac-
ter, enterprise, ombition-all these combined
are almost sure TO secure competence and
success. If you would ely on anything, rely
on these for they are the only reliable things
Misfortune may deal hNrshly with these, but
that is the business of Providence.
fancy one reply that may be made TO all
this wise talk Women practically have COM
parativcly little choice in the matter They
grow up from the cradle with the idea that it
is a horrible thing to live and die an old maid.
That, in the mind of half the girls, is the most
terrible thing in all the world. They can /
abide anything better than that. So they
feel q kind of obligation to jump at the first
offer, they are SO much afraid they shall never
have another. Let them remember that
life is much worse than an minated |
life. believe that marriage is the true con-
diton, and that no man nor woman can fully /.
enjoy life unmarried but | know they will
be more unhappy if they are badly matched
than If not uaatchcd at all. But women have
more choice than they think, and would have
still more than they do if their intercourse
with young men were placed upon the basis