Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1858-05-14
MARRIED POIIrENEss-

There is much Of truth, as well as of that
KIND philosophy which comes into every day
requisiton, helping to strengthen and bright
EN- The ties of social affection. in the subioin-
cd brief article taken from "The Ladies' En-
terprize
"Will you;' asked pleasant voice
And the husband answered, Eyes, my dear,
with pleasure
1t was quietly, but heartily said; the tone,
the manner, the look, were perfectly natural
and very aiIectionatc We thought, how
pleasant that courteous reply; how gratifying
1t must be to the wife. Many husbands Of
ten years experience are ready enough with
courtesles Of politeness to the young ladies
OF their acquaintance, while they speak with
abruptness to the wife, and do many rude lit
1le things without considering them worth an
apology. The stranger, whom they may have
seen but yesterday is listened to with defer
ence and altho the subject may not be of
the most pleasant nature, with ready smile
while the poor wife, if she relate a domestic
grievance, is snubbed, or listened to with un-
concealed impaticnce. O how wrong this is
all wrong.
Does she urge some request; 80. don't
bother me 7! cried her gracious lord and mas
ter. Does she ask for necessary funds for
Susy's shoes, or Tommy's hat Seems to
me you are always wanting money % is the
handsome retort Is any little extra demand
cd by his masculine appetite, it is ordered,
not requested.
Look here, | want you to do so and so
just see that it's done !" and off marches Mr..
Boor, with bow and smile of gentlemanly
polish and friendly sweetness for every casual
acquaintance he may chance to recognize.
When we meet with such thoughtlessness
and coarseness, our thoughts revert to the
kind voice and gentle manner of the friend
who said, "Yes, my DEAR with pleasure. -
II beg your pardon comes as readily to his
lips when by any little awkwardness he has
disconnected her, as it would in the presence
of the most fashionable stickler for etiquette.
This is because he is a thorough gentleman,
who thinks his wife in all things entitled to
precedence He loves her best why should
he hesitate to show it not in sickly, maud
lin attentions, but in prefering her pleasure,
and honoring her in public as well as in pri-
vate. He knows her worth why should he
hesitate to attest it, And her husband, he
praiseth her, saith Holy Writ; not by full
some adulteraton, not by pushing her charms
into notice, but by speaking, as opportunity
'NNNAos III "a AiNiiA1 ways VI lNl NlIAuths-
Though words may seem little things, and
slight attentions almost valueless, yet, depend
upon it, they keep the flame bright, especial
ly if they are natural. The children grow up
in better moral atmosphere, and learn to
respect their parents, they see them re-
spectng each other. Many boy takes ad-
vantage Of mother he loves. because he secs
often the rudeness of his father, insensibly he
gathers to his bosom the same habits, and
the thoughts and feelings they engender, and
in his turn becomes the petty tyrant. Only
his mother, why should he thank her father
never does. Thus the home becomes the
seat of disorder and unhappiness. Only for
strangers are kind words expressed and hy-
pocrites go out from the hearthstone fully
prepared to render justice, benevolence, and
politeness to any one and every one but those
who have the justest claims. All give me
the kind glance, the happy homestead the
smiling wife and the courteous children of
the friend who said so pleasantly Yes, my
dear.-With Measure