The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1858-01-21

'ie ee9t"o'isillllcHt, heartily thankful that we
were not born Mussulwomen, nor under the
martial or summary penal jurisdiction of !.
Moorish cadi.
ALL ABOUT MARRYING.
The world is just now in the midst Of its
wedding season, and il is Il favorable time
to whisper word in the ears Of the flattcr.
ing expcctants. 1t is really not so much in
Object for jcsting as for serious thought
We look upon it in that light, and have
saved some capital reflections from the San
dusky Register, and for which we give credit
to the graceful and practscd pen of Mr..
Victor:
1t is mourntul fact that this world is full
of young men that want to marry and dare
not. Deny this, as some will, it is never
thclcss true, as we can easily show. In this
town, for instance, there arc some thirty or
forty young men, we'll to do in the way of
salaries and business, yet who refuse to take
the step which they all want to take, but do
not; and why ?
Now the first question to be asked by any
sane man is, can properly support wife
II take one Then he counts the cost of
living as the woman of his preference would
wish, aud 10 he finds to his amazcmcnt
that his income is vastly too small to sup
port even Il modest mo,,crn establishment.
and somewhat sad'icneI by the reflection,
he plunges into labor and courts business
with IN assiduity that takes away his health
eventually, in hope Of attaining income that
shall enable him to marry and have home
of his own. And this is the secret of all the
hard unendng toll Of young men of to-day
who are fast approaching thirty years Of
agc-tl''s is the reason Of SO many disap-
pointed men and waiting woman, deny
or hide it as You may.
But, says some good women, YOU do us
injustice, for any woman who truly loves q
man will adapt herself to his circumstances
with the greatest pleasure. But what man
OF any scnsitivcness, or high sense Of honor,
would take woman from easy circumstan-
ces and pleasant and weIl.furnisled home
to adorn his houscwork, as the first princi-
pies of economy would demand of him
Few will do it; for though the woman sic-
niles her willingness to take up with sucl, en-
pcrlcnce, we are all such creatures of cir
cumstances that there would be complain.
lngs on herpart, eventually, and sickness
from over cxertion, and unhapp;ness from
mary cares-all of which would render mar
rage anything else but pleasant.
And so the young men wisely think, pre-
ferring few years more of single Loneliness,
in order to obtain money enough to support
amodest house Of between twelve and fifteen
hundred dollars year, where she must do
her own work.
Now, what is tile remedy? Plainly that
woman must fit themselves to he such wives
as the young men must have. Else the
young men must fit themselves to be such
wives as the young men must have. Els,
the young men must fit themselves to be
such husbands as the women want. and
spend the very choicest years oftLeir life in
the ceaselcss toll, breaking down health.
happiness, energy, only to give themselves
up to marriage when the best of manhood is
gone. The woman must choose for them
selves, which it shall be, for tho matter is
solely in their hands. Let mothers saw to
their daughters, put on that calico gown, 90
into your hansehold and fit yourselves to
bsecome;a wife and mother; let the young
women cheerfully consent to such service
and instead of lavishing all thought, and
time and money upon the adornment of the
body, SEEK toeaccustom the hands to proper
industry, and to school tie mind to proper
ltaste-then there will be no longer com.
!plaints thatyoung men Cannot afford to
marry and Wp shall have beautiful, modest. .
wives and ilssiIg husbands, and life shall
.oncs more lave Something Of the struttLful.
liess and virtue Which il had in the DAYS "a
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