The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-05-08

II ! we're Jew And not particularly iona pl
bacon, should say that be was hog 10 his
own house, lie is there domneering, pee
wish, oxactng and hateful, / have never
known him 10 speak an aacetionale or pleas
ant word to the best Of wives Nothing Is
ont Of place In the house for which she II not
rcproaehed IN fretiul and insuldng language,
Nothing goes wrong Out Of doors for which
be does not take revenge, or show his spite,
by finding fault with the companion Of his
lift lie cnticises her cooking and her per
soual appearance, aud, In short, lets Of upon
her wounded but patient ear all the foul ac'
cumulations Of his miserable nature and
most contemplate disposition, Although
some powerful impressions received Ia early
l,fc have Induced me TO oppose coporeal pun
ishmcni on principle, have sometimes won
der whclhc, should be entirely inconsola-
Bile II ho should, sometime, be cowhidcd,
kicked, cudcd MANNED and otherwise shame
fully cntrcatcd, But this Is an extreme case,
sou say Well 4 ought 10 hes but Nill you
just stop ior moment and ask yourself
where IL j. that you show the worst side of
YOUR nuturc'. Where IL Il that YOU feel at
the greatest liberty TO exhibit your spleen, to
give way to your frcllulncss, 10 speak harsh
wcnlTIo make little hateful spccchc, that
are contemplate from their uuproyokcd bit
trrncs,2 Is il among your fellows, and in
the society Of other ladies that you take occo-
sion to say your mcnncN ihings' No, sir
YOU 20 home to Your wifei YOU go home
from those who care no more for you than
thcy do for thousand others, to the woman
whom IN the presence of cd and men YOU
have promised to love aud cherish above all
others, to the woman who loves YOU, and who
regards you os better than all else earthly, To-
a woman who is unprotected save by you,
and wholly unprotected from you and spit
sour spleen into her ear, and say things to her
Nhch If any one else were To- say would Sc
cure him wcll-dc,cr,cd Gaming Aie YOU
not ashamed Of lhisa You say things to her
which you would not dare To say to any 9th
cr ludy, however much YOU might bee pro,ok'
rd You say rhcm=ob courageous friend :
because nohod, ha, rbf right TO cowhidc YOU
for H. Isn't that%fa,c and manly as the
good mother, -,f - an have told us q thous-
and limcs, "dont YOU never let me hear Of
YOUR doing that again" ltisut pretty II
Is mcfTuhly wicked and dnstardly.
Tint husbands md -v-ivr- tt,ry entertain
perfect wmpalhv, :herc should be The closest
confidence between them. ! need not tell the
wife to give her husband the mcSt perfect
confidence, in all affairs, She does this nat
uully, If her husband do not rcpulsc her
= hut YOU, Young husband, DO Hot give Your
wife your confdencc-you do not make her
YOUR couGdcnt-you have an idea that your
/ business is not Your wifc's business. So YOU
p weep rriur trnr1rirHi --rsrrr--r-r-rr,.-
thing-to yourself Numhcrcss dismrhan.
ccs oc married life begin exactly at this point.
/ Your wife receives the money for her person.
al expenses, and for the expenses Of the house,
at your hands. Nod do not tell her how
hardly it has been won with how much ditli-
Guilty YOU have coutrivcd lo get it into your
purse, aud how necessary it is for her to be
economical. You often deceive her, on, of
genuine love for her into the belief that YOU
are doing well and yet, you wonder the wo-
man eau give ten dollars for hat and thirty
dollars for cloak. Perhaps you chitc her
for her cxtravagnncc and So. in course Of
time, she comes to think you have got mig.
gardly streak in YOU, and very naturally re-
beds against il. She will not be- curtailed in
expenditures. Sh" dresses no better than
her ncighhors. So you run your fingers
through your hair, and sigh over the fact tha,
YOU have got an cXtrayagant wife, while She
in turn, wonders how it is possible for low
ing husband to bc 40 selfish and stingy. Thus
-ife,-peEAaps, hostility ef fealiaF- aHd
interest is established, which might have been
prevented by a free and full statement ofyoui
circumstances This would interest her in
and identify her with, all your trials. 1t i,
entirely rational and Tight that your wifi,
should understand the basis of all your re
quremcn,s Of her and, when she does this
the chances are that she will not only be eco
nomicnl herself but will point out leakages in
your prosperity for which YOU are RESPONSE
BILE rather than herself 1t is possible that
you have a companion as much troubled 10y
figures as the thild-wite, Dora, was. II 80
ann sorry for youi if so, very luckily she vii
do what you rcquirc Of her without a reason
understand perfectly the desire of young
and sensitive husband te give his wife all tn,
money she wants. You would fulfill he
wishes in all things especially would you al
low her those means that will enable her tt
crafty her tastes IN dress and household
cquipage. You dislike to appear unthrifty
inefficient or mean, and YOU are willing /,
sacrifice much, that no care, no small econo
mics, no apprehension of coming evil, shoul,
cloud the brow of the one you love. Well,
honor this feeling for it has its birth in
t sensitive, manly pride but it may 60 too ia
+ very much too far 1t has carried many
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