The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-05-29
Timothy Titcomb's Lotters 20 Young
Married People.
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that this ono shall hear such character.
II Is doubtless general experience that a
husband and wife aner living together for a
time, become IN q measure tired Of one auoth-
er's company. Before marriage, they were
essential 10 each otheri after long months
Of intimacy, a sense Of monotony ereeps up
on them, and q separation for few weeks is
regarded hs desirable, or not 10 be regretted.
The husband would like a little more free.
dom the wife, perhaps, pines for the asso-
Citations Of her free and careless girlhood.-
When this feeling comes upon a married pair,
the time for temporary separation has ar
rived, and the quicker Il Is instituted the bet
ter The object and end Of Il Is 10 prove TO
butn that they cannot be happy when separat-
ed. The first week will pass OF very pleas
antlyi the second will find them rather long
ing for one nnothcr's society again the third
will burden the mails with tender cpistlcs In
which the romance and ardor of eourtship
will hc revived the fourth Wlll convince the
wife that she has the dearest husband in the
world, and the husband will carry his pack
age Of letters in his breast pocket and sigh
the fifth viii find o day set for the greatly
longcd-for re- union, about which both will be
thinking all the time, and the sixth will bring
the wife home with all her precious beauty
and baud-boxcs and such meeting will take
place as wdll might make an observing
old bachelor commit suicide, Wen, they
have learned a lesson which they will remcm-
bcr as long ns they shall live. II is proved
10 them that they cannot be happy apart, and
that separation will always hc a calamity. o
Various circumstances spring up in the
course of life which seem TO dictate a tempo
raiy separation, on the score of economy or
profit 4 man will desire TO go into dis
taut city, for a sojourn Of months and perhaps
years, that he may buy and sell and get gain.
The wife may not 60, as il would interfere
with the profits, This is one case and there
may be thousand others in which policy die
tatcs like temporary separation. My coun'
sol is to regard all such inducements for sep
aration as temptations Of the devil. 1t is
morally degrading for husband and wife to
Live apart from each other II is the rupture
Of q sacred tic--the denial Of a sacred pledge
the breaking up Of a relation into which
| religion, affection, and habits Of thought and
| life have all become intimately intcrwoyen
leaving both man and woman loosely floating
among new influences, and freed from the re-
straints To which their lives had become con
/ formed. Separation for the time being de
stroys the comfort and withholds the rewards
of married life. 1t is long, drcary, monot
onous or anxious episode, for whi,h neither
fame nor money can compensate. 1t is this
or w0TSCj Tor, certainty nothing can compcU
on either side which proves that separation
is not calamity A broken bone, too Ions
left without setting, can never again make
firm junction. Separation which shows tina
a pair cannot live apart is well; separation
which proves that they can, is one of tn
worst things that can happen. Therefore
say to every man, that the circumstance
should be most extraordinary which willlca,
him at liberty to break up his home, or just
fy him in separating from his wife. If yo
cannot take the wife Of your bosom with yor
you are to believe, generally, that your plan
have not the favor Of Providence.
1t is the habit Of some husbands and wive
to have intimate friends whom they cheris
and correspond with, Independently. ! hay
known very good husbands to carry on lim
ed nirtatons with girls, to be the rcpostoric
of secrets belonging to such, and to act q
their very agreeable next friends. Yer
, pleasant connections, these, to young hui
! band, who has time 10 attend TO them, bt
very dangerous in the long run. Similar col
, nectons on the other side of the house ha,
! made great deal of difficulty since the worl
began. They are very harmless things I
, first; but there is nothing but danger in Il
+ intimacy of amarried heart with an unmarric
- one, unless there bc other relationships whie
g Justify il. a man or woman who, from Il
most innocent motives originally plays wit
n such an intimacy as this, is toying with a Vel
. dangerous instrument. 1t leads to the {
4 tablshment of secrets between husband AZ
-, wife-itseIf bad thing-and too frequent
leads to theiY estrangemcnt, more or less pr
q nounced. You shall never write letter,
give occasion for the rassjpt of one, whiC
d you are unwilling to show TO your compa
} ion Under none but extraordinary circur
# stances should you consent to receive n s
p. cret from a friend which he or she may
!. unwilling your companion should know.
~ you haze friends, they should be the frien
T of your companions and this should be CO
,e ried outside of the circle Of your intimaciC
d You have no business with a friend who !
id fuses to be your companions friends al
,e again, you have no business with triel
1t whom, for valid reason, your companion !
lie fuses to know You may have come toget
,d err from different classes Of society. I
p wife or the husband may be prescribed 10y
Is class, while her or his companion may be
"a taVorlte tbs same Cass. n husband or