Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1858-04-21

possesses the desirable qualities, is al
most universally modest, and holds her
charms in modest estimation. There
fore man takes her at decided Gisad
vantage. She has not actually any ad-
equate idea Of the value Of the article she
has TO dispose OF. A man who goes into
an operation of this kind is really specu
latlnS on private dispatch, sent in ad-
vance OF the news telegraphed to the as
sociaIed press. Now. what women most
admire in men Git is not always perhaps
the subject of their highest respec1 is
gallanlry-not the gallantry OF courts
and fops, but bolduess. courage, devotion
decision and refined civilily. A man.
bearing wins ten women where his boots
and brains wins one. Ii man stand.
before woman with respect for him
self, and fearlessness Of her, his suit i.
half won. The rest may safely BE- lef
to the parties most interested. There
fore, never be afraid of woman. They
are the most harmless and agreeable
creatures in the world, to a man who ha,
got mans soul in him. Ii you have
not got the pluck 10 come up 10 scratch
like this, you have not got that which
most pleases high souled woman, and
you may as well take Lucy, the girl
who sits across the table at your boarding
house. and wears square finger nails and
beau catchers.
But don't be in hurry about The
matter anyway. Doa't get into fever
ish longing foi marriage. Ii isn't cred
table to you. Especially don't imagine
that any disappointment in love which
may happen before you are twenty one
years old, will be OF any material dam
age 10 you. There comes before NE, as
write, vision of my own nineteen
two turtle doves or two young pigeons
sitting on rainbow for six blessed weeks
dreaming cf happiness aud heayen.-
Then there came great wind cut of the
north, and We were parled-one sliding
down on gmeut of the are, and the 9TH
er sweeping the curve OF its complete
ment. | thought at the time that every
bone in my body was broken. Sever al
new consultations became visible To the
naked eye. The earth was a blank
There was strange beauty in coil Of
rope, and deep water charged with won
derful destinations. But | recovered,
and, | think, fell in love something Ike
nine times after that, with similar results.
The truth is. that before man is twenty
five years old, he does not know what
be wants himself. So don't be in hur-
ry. The more Of a man you become,
and the more of maniinass you become
capable Of exhibiting in your association
with women, the better wife you will be
able to OBJ ain; and one years possession
Of the heart and hand of really noble
specimen Of her sex. is worth nine hun
dred and ninety nine years possession of
sweet creature with two ideas in her
head and nothing new to say about eth
er of them. So, don't be in a hurry, l
say again. You don't want a wife now,
and you have not the slig ghtest idea what
kind of a wife you will want by and by.
GO into female society if you can fad
that which will improve you. but not
Otherwise. You will speni your time
better. Seek the society of good men
That is often more accessible 10 you than
the other. and it IS through tha: m os'Iy
that you will fad your way to good fe
male society.
One thing more: Not the least import
ant, but the last in this letter. No wo
nan without piety in her heart is f! TO
De the companion of any nan. You
nay get in your wife beauty. amiability.
wit, accomplishments. /
wealth and learning, but if that wife i
ave no higher love than herself aud
-ourself, she is a poor creature. She z
annot elevate you above mean OBJ i
ects, she can not educate her children
roperly, she cannot, in hours Of adver-
ity sustain and comfort you, she cannot !,
ear with patience your petulance indu
ed by the tolls and vexations of bust 4
ess, and she will never be sure against h
lie seductive temptations OF gayety and a
ress. Then, again, a man who has the ii
rayers of a pioui wife, and knows that +
: has them--upheli by heaven. or by
refined sense Of obligation and graft.
de. can rarely become very bad y
an. A daily prayer from the heart of fr
pu and pious wife, for husband en-. u
'ossed in the pursuit of wealth OF fame, "
chain Of golden words that links his VI
me every day with that of God. He m
ay snap ii three hundred and sixty y-6ve he
mes in year. for many years, but the Ju
snces are that in time he mark the uE
ndered flament, and seek to re-unite WI
EN- in one everlasting bond. an
Do not flatter yourself that friendship "
thorizes you TO say disagreeable ne
ings 10 your intimates. On the con.
.ry, the nearer you come into relation wa
III a person, the more necessary do ve
Il aud courtesy become. Except in -;
ses of necessity. which are rare, leave ~
ur friend to learn unpleasant truths lar
m his enemies; they are ready enough Mo
tell them. prc