Ellsworth American. [volume] (Ellsworth, Me.) 1855-current, 1858-05-28

happiness to the hearts OF their nus
bands.
Try the prescription, ye men with
sickly, toiling exhausted wives, whose
pale faces haunt your homes like ghosts
of former blessings. Pity them wisely,
and hold them back, while you may,
from the low resting places under the
green turf towards which they are descen-
ding with rapid feet.
-[Eron ths Kennebec Journal.l
Coed Manners.
Keep on the Hight idc of crowded or
narrow sdewalks and always pass to tie
right, women aswell as men; the custom
of regarding the vail side as the court
side is obsolete. The advantages Of
following this rule would be felt in State
street every Sunday.
AS corollayy to tho above when q
gentleman gives lady his arm. it should
be the right one, so that the jostlings
OF the crowd may fall on him rather than
on her. The New York Tribune says
it should be tho left, in order that he
may have the risAt one free to repcl an
assault; the rea1n is specious, for in
the case spccif6, he would need his
left arm as mud as his right, in fact
would need theag both and his directions
to the lady would be to let 60 his arm
and make sail. But granting for the
argument, that h tie contingency Of the
Tribune, it would be better to have the
right arm free n opportunity for using
that arm might not occur in a lifetime,
while as often as one couple passes
another, the propriety Of the first method
would bel perceived, at least by the
lady.
When a stranger comes to town to
reside and wishes to make acquaintan-
ces, it is for him to take the initiative,
either by presenting letters of introduc-
ton, by sending cards to those of his
own age Or younger,or by calling directly
upon those who arc older and inviting
them to visit him, In strict justice, it
would not be obligatory on any gentle
man to comply with such invitation, for
that would render the invitation a virtu-
al infringement of the right which every
one has of selecting his own acquintan-
ces; but no one possessing ordinary hui
rnanity would fail to DO so, without good
and sufficient reasons. Besides, he has
a point q appni in the minister, through
whom he can obtain introductions to
others. 1t is easy for well-bred man
to extend his acquaintance where there
are anv people to extend it to. There
is d tradition in the rural districts, that
proffers of service should be rendered by
old residents to newcomers; this may be
proper in sparsely settled countries and
under certain circumstances, but the rule
of society is stated above. 1t is always
in order undoubtedly,to do service to a
human being, but the surroundings must
indicate Enthusiastically that it is q service
like rescuing a man at sea, Or joining a
party for mutual defence against robbers.
1t would hardly be considered a service
to Join a pic ME invited, or to take the
valse in London of a French refugee.
Never introduce people to each other
except at the request of one person and
! Dy PERMISSION VI tho oIHCi, h'tA'iS 10
more disagrecable to gentleman than
10 be introduced to people, or to have
people introduced to him. without his
consent.
No lady has a right to invite a gentle
man to party at her house upon whom
her husband has never called; no unmar-
ried lady has right to invite a gentle
man to a party at her fathers house upon
whom her father has never called; in ell
ther case it is the husband or father who
has the credit of giving the entertainment
whatever it may be; and upon him alone
devolves the duty Of securing agreeable
male acquaintances for his house. Well
bred people and all who take an elevated
view of things, consider that it is he who
accepts hospitality and not the one that
tenders it, who confers the obligation.
When gentleman calls upon mar
ried woman, her husband should return
the call; it is the same as if he had called
upon the husband. A wife ranks with
her husband; it is the husband who set
ties their social position.
None but funkey would take pleas
ure in the society of a man who neglects
to perform his share Of the courtesies of
life.
When saluting gentleman, pronounce
his name; substituting the word sir, as in
good moruirg sir indicates want of
breeding. OF course it is proper to salute
in that way strangers whose names are
unknown, or those whom one wi she's to
treat as such.
1t is the duty Of the superior to rccog-
nize first; this is the reason that ladies
are required to do SO, knightly courtesy
regarding them as superior to every gen
tleman, whatever his.rank; who the snperi-
or is, there is no difficulty in acertain-
ing, for other things being equal, age
decides it. Offering the hand, being an
act of grace, belongs exclusively to the
superior; when therefore brisk young
man sleeps up to a grave, disnitied old
gentleman, or to a lady and holds out
his hand, he is usurping prerogative
which does not belong to him. In the
summer of 1919 the writer of this was
sitting with some half dozen others in
the ante room of The Secretary of the
Navy, at Washington, when Daniel
Webster entered; every one rose with the
exception Of an army officer, who was