The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-05-15

hhoulu hcF no greater nfhlhtha ana no more
taste Ia material and fitness, In any womAns
dress, than in yours and there is no indiyid-
ual Ia the world before whom you should al
ways appear with more thorough tidness
Of person than your husband, II you are
careless in this particular, you absolutely
throw away some Of the strongest and most
charming influences which you possess, What
Is true Of your person 10 also true Of your
house. II your house 10 diaorderly II dust
covers the table, and invites the critical fin
ger To write your proper title II the furni'
ture looks IA II il were tossed into the room
fIum a cart II your table-eloth has more
intimate acquaintance with gravy than with
soap, aud from cellar 10 garret thae II no or
der. do YOU blame husband for not wanting
TO sit down and spend his evening with you
| should blame him. OF course, on general
principles, but as all men are not sensblc ~
| am, ! should eharitably entertain all proper
excuses.
Still again, have you anything TO talk
about,-hnythirg better Than scandal-wilh
which TO interest and refresh his weary mind
believe IN the interchange Of oaresses, as
have told YOU before, hut kisses are only the
spice Of life. You cannot always st on your
husbands knee for, in the first place, It would
tire him, and In the second place he wonld
get sick of IL. You should be- one with your
husband. but never IN the shape Of parasite.
lie should be able to see growth in your soul.
independent Of him and whenever he truly
feels that he has received from you stinu-
lus TO progress and TO goodness, you have
refreshed him, and made great advance into
his heart lie should see that you really have
strong desire to make him happy, aud to re-
tain forever the warmcst place In this respect,
his admiration and his affection. Entcr into
all his plans with interest Svecten all his
troubles with your sympathy. Make him
! feel that there is one ear always open To the
revelation Of his experiences, that there is
one heart that never misconstrues him,
that there il one refuge for him in Hll
circumstances, aud that in all w'eari-
nesscs Of body and soul there is one
warm pillow for his head beneath which
heart is beating with the same unvHrying
truth aud affection through all gladncss and
ness and sadness, as the faithful chronomoter
suffers no perturbation Of its rhy thin 10y shine
or shower. A husband who has such q wife
as this, has little temptation to spend much
time away from home. lie cannot stay away
long ut time. lie may meet man." but
the man will not long detain him nom his
wife. lie may go TO 1.-the postofliec," but he
will not call upon his friends wife on the way.
! lie can do better. The great danger is that
| he will love his home too woll-that he will
neither -be-aillias -to-haxe ynn- n-Xisit your
aunts aud cousins nor, withou; groan, ac'
cent an invitation TO tea at your neigh
boris. -
But leave this special point to which l
have devoted my space somewhat improri-
IDENTIFY. There il one relation which you bear
to your husband, or one aspect Of your rcla-
ton TO him, to which have not alluded Suf-
Rciently. You arc not only the wife Of his
bosom-the object Of his affections, but you
have business relation with him--you are
his helpmato. To very great extent you
are dependent upon him, but you are his as
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cally, and to aid, so far as you can, in saving
and accumulating il. The woman who feels
that she has a right to spend every cent that
"the old man" allows her, and that all she
gets out Of him is hers TO lavish upon her
vanities, takes very low view o. her rela-
tons to him. 1t is simply the view of mis-
trcss, and is utterly honorable-utterly
mcrcenary. The money which he puts into
your hand endows you simply with stew.
IeEdshiP- You have no right TO waste IL, or
TO part with it. for anything but such values
as are consistent with his means, You have
consented to be a partner of his life and you
have no more right to squander his money
than his business partner has. Il is your du-
ty to husband il and happy are you if your
companion has such confidence in your faith
fulness to him and his interests that he puts
money into your hand always willingly, be-
lieying that it will be parted with judiciously.
and With discreet and conscientious regard to
his means and abilities. II your husband has
no confidence in your economy and discre-
ton. and consequently stints you, and abso-
lutely feels obliged to place you in the posi-
ton of favorite dependent aud pensioner-
a playthng or housekeeper for whom he
/ has got to pay--you are not happy by any
means. F ,HI 5..dlT
You can do very much in your character
of helpmate to tighten your husbands cares,
and relieve him from anxieties If he finds
You looking after his interests, buying eco
nomicslly the food for his table, and never
wastefully sacrificing your old dresses in con
sequence of your thirst for new, always count
ing the cost of every object which you may
desire, you relieve his mind from a load of
care which no man can carry without embar-