St. Mary's beacon., 1858-10-21
SELECTED MISCELLANY.
Good Manners-Ticir Want and their
Infinerca

1E"rc ar" r,' 4 :'w whp ar. accustomed t.
R>sr"ia'" u" !IcI II pa.!''Ec>S w:tl Ir.tcgl> IA
and hypocrisy; auI TINS err 'l,cuua opinion
,xerts an unii g;Hn,'c influence u,n,:I tnr
manners ard ~oc.,! bearing If millions.
SAY Wntcrt"n1ic Influence Tor tie reason that
every ,a,!~" Z. cuAracu'~s and vrlgaritY de-
serves - DC Gr"Py dcn"rol.
Few characteristics are worthy cf !;,,cr
t,tItuaii'n thIn tru" pnl!teneaS, dl2riii,d a,i
Irnt"el department. aud that Il N" shrui.
laiStakc Ily int,rt,yu let me r"mIrl: tiat Ly
iIc tcrnl p"illcIcsa | mean In"tnUg Gar high
cv or n"Ll"r than may seem t. attach 10 the
iici There is i"ucii that la,>se> with ;hc y
I,oraLt ard dishonest n p"!i;'.c-s w,lrh De-
serves l.Ot the naIne a;I s,.uld Gnd 40 adj
vocatc among sober AID ir.:,ilset.t people To
hJw with grace and smile vi.h cuuIi,llisauce
u AssIIlric rlanncr Of Suavisy a..d kindness
which has No DeYeI oenC" no heart in IT, to
put on the MANNER uf Courteous Ucarin. merely
Il serve purpose, and 20 10y i: aside whcucv-
sr tho occaIun that called il forth WAS paS>c,!
by, il the mere counterfeit OF the manners ui
wei! bred aud ;;rlttccl society. Dancing as
tors, fops, amd riris may Lc excused .ur tac
practice Il this spurious stvl" Of pn;cncSS, bui
taat which respectable and intr. gent people
should hc tau.;.,t in all our schools. j. a. r;:.-
like this god is unlike its cheapest ouu!I-
tcrirt. Il !iaa is origin in the heart. ]:
the Development aud exercise uf onward
manifestation. the practical application of the
royal law, ~ hatSoever We would that men
shvaId ID unit: y"u, do vuu even 50 them
As NC wIah others to treat Us Nt.l kin>. res
poet, showing regard Tor our feelings ard 4
'testTe t;r uIr hanp'ucsS, - AhoGit axe o;.r
naEner toward them. This spirit will ever
inlucc EcnUiuc courtesy A.! poli;.n",s as i
characteristic Ci huluah intercourse. Aui til"
J. e>.eS!on and exerri>" Il til. spirit anon.
al people wu,l., - far e. inlu",. the Iii snc>t
WeIl-Gclng nf S,cctv. DI,scl.>...n ,ti.c Lit-
t,vncss, Al! nuta"erlres otgr spl.rces Il
ni>ery would srlinm arise
But tho Tendency Of things At the present
day is NOT III the direction Of this temper aud
t,re Of hearing. but Gec:!enly tuc reverse.
And IN tais respect, as IL regard 10 health,
there rnal!ii,>tty has tecn rapl>i progress IN
tho wrong "tc-tipn dur!h. Tie ldal t~el..,
years.
Phrcnuin@i,'A affirm that tie organ Of rcver-
encc is muln less prominently developed upon
the oraIia of cur Youth than upon parents
iowrve! this may be, it requires but h;!e in
VeStigat:on - L.axe the discovery that Inu,l"
Amc:!ca acknowledge no su?crl"rs wi;ilil tn"
circle OF lis acqnanttuC". He has hear!
much n"Nsensc IN regard 10 the unparalleled
CREATURES and glory Of the American ler,.!e
tier wisdom and rr"wcSS, Their vast and over
wh"!Inlig superiority I" All otEcr nations. INA;
he htS come 10 -" absurd conclusion that
I've are TIE pc 1pie aii wisdom vii! ,}fe with
us" And unfortunately fir him. he has IL
some way dedCccd ;Ae conclusion that ainanc
oil the thirty nIll,lcu> of wise Inen aul h.rr,
who make UP ::.;s great nation. nn nrc IS
quite wt:e and heroic as his own ii,i,l Idua!
self. This elevated scli-eS.ination leads him
L. take on a.r< not az nil expressive Of respect
for the opinions Of others. To treat them de-
I"rehtiay Nou.d he I" treat himself with iu-
L,gnrv. Tbs temper Of necessity leads IL
coarseness and r.,eness OF Gearing, t. gross
violations OF all the principles vi true courtesy.
OF genuine pol!teu.:SS.
In regard T. this mater the schools sf our
land have not been faul;lcss. Tie new rae
oI teachers doubtless have done much 20 f,s-
ter this evil. People whn are now forty years
OF age very well remcin!or t..ai in t. ":r sch !,
days the practice Of pol:teneSs in form a: least
VAS requirement Ictich EOnc c0,.'d GiSyrJG,,i
tcith imp4njty. No boy entertained such iu.,
and apprec!ativc ideas Of the virtue whirh
there is IL the rel Snd icrule rs he hai been who
guilty Of what the teacher held TO he an in
fraction Of the rules Of good manners. When,
going or returning from school. the children
net any per>cs who were their elders, ticv
ranged themselves IN I!ne upon one side ot
the road and made ohcisarcc. AMI when ~;
in the streets during their recess however vo-
clfeEu,lsy interested in their ptSiim.s, IL 2
traveller made Lis appearance whose approach .
diu not cause an imn~iia:e huSh 4 v.,,rs an! .
suspension Of exciting sports. Tic tribute Of
bow vas chrorlulIr PAID, and not till he ht,.
passed beyond their immediate nri.hhorh,4I .
did they resume their Pays. When they en-
tered or left the scho"l-room. when i!ny
retired from the place cf recitation. the
bow and tic courtesy were tie preliminary and
finale Of the performance
Although '!.:s practice in itsclf corslrrc.l.
was Of little worth, yet, token of respect
fulncss, as sign Of good will. il was of high
value. Il wa< an outward manifestation or
symbol of an inward state or spirit which 1t
would lc well fur all 10 possess, and which
Sh'''sd l~ aseidunnsly cultured in the minds of
a." yUrrg.
bnt %hcTe, n nj: "rr hand, ,les ,hi. go.sl
e@fprl'atc now prevail? Whese are tlls