Marshall County Democrat. (Plymouth, Ind.) 1855-1859, 1858-04-29
The Proper Time to Marry,
"HAIL---WEDDED LovE!"

We believe that some Of the most distin-
guished philosophers an closest observers
of human nature, have recommended early
marriages, as, in the long run, calculated
to prove the most advantageous TO both
parties. There are two sides to this deli
cate question, AMI we believe that the great
error in this country is disposition to
marry tco young, or before the mind is full
ly developed, or the judgment sufficiently
ripe TO make proper decision. There are,
however, various arguments, proand con.
We p:eceiv by some statistics just publish
ed. that in the city of Boston, during the
last year, three males under twenty one
years of age, chose partners whose ages
varied from twenty-five t. thirty years,
while four hundred and twenty-five, whose
ages varied from twenty one to fortY-fve,
sought partners under twenty. Of the
males more than thirty-fve per cent. mar
ried between the ages of twenty five and
thirty, and, over thirty four per cent. be-
tween the ages of twenty-one and twenty
fac. Of the females more than forty four
per cent married between the ages oftwen-
ty and twenty five. The general rule seems
to be, that males marry be,weent the ages
of twenty and thirty. while females enter
into the silken bond betweent the ages of
twenty and twenty yfve. There are, Of
course, many exception.
Hasty and inAiscreet marriages cannot
be too carfuIly guarded. They produce
nothing but diappointment and misery
That the welded life, generally speaking;
is the condition Intended for both sexes,
is beyond all doubt or question:; nature
has so ordered and those who, with the
means, steady shun matrimony, connot be
said to live up to their duties and obliga-
tons. A distinguished journalist Of N.
Y, used to remark playfulIy, yet forcibly,
that ''he seemed to re-live i'll the life oi
every child that was born unto him, while
the mpanionship of his wife was con-
slant source of calm, sweet. and exquisite
delight" A happy marriage one of af-
lection, harmony and taste-is indeed a
blessing, while discordant union, II we
may so speak, ia a constant anxiety and a
curse.
The many divorces which take place in
he United States show that there is sad
want of forethought and reflection OH the
part of hundreds who unite themselves for
better or for worse. There are, doubtless,
in most of such cases, faults on both sides,
and the man or woman who expects to re-
alze the dreams of youth, and who cannot
practice the virtue Of forbarance, sadly
mistake poor human nature. While how
ever, we would depreciate hasty or prema-
ture marriages, we believe that in such
hallowed contracts, delays are dangerous,
especially if they be protracted beyond
reasonable limits. And yet in our hum
BILE judgment, it is never to late to marry,
unless The facilities be exhausted, the frame
be enfeeble, and age be present with all its
infrmilies.
Dull times exercise sad influence upon
matrimonial affairs. We fear. TOO, that ex-
travagance of dress and fashion, to which
too many of the fair sex of this country in
dnlge, deferes hundreda of active and en-
terprising young men from encountering
all the risks and responsibilities involved
in the selection of partner for life. Far
better to begin moderately and econmical-
ly, to save something from year to year,
than reckless spirit, with chance Of an
early fall. Mutual forbarancc is absolutely
essential in the marriage state. Nothing
is perfect in this world, and we should
make allowance for the errors and infrmi.
ties of each other. This essential, indeed,
In all the relations of life. None are infal-
lible, and this being the fact, we should
not look for iufallibility even in those we
love best and esteem most.