St. Charles City Republican intelligencer. [volume] (St. Charles City [Charles City], Iowa) 1857-1861, 1858-09-09
HOW TO CHOOSE A HUSBAND.


your hand possesses good sense
good common sense and that this
is improved by education. He need
not be very learned man, but the
more useful learning and varied intel
'igencc he possesses the better |
place these requisites first, because
they are the necessary foundations of
other excellencics-''l is the mind
that makes the man"
The second important point is Truth
fulness-he must be a man of truth.
The apostle when he saw in vision,
in the solitude of Patmos, the new Jc-
rusalcm come down ont Of Heaven,
declared that it contained none who
loved or made a lie. Equally impor-
tant on earth is it for excellence of
character in the man Of your choice,
that he does not love lie. If he de-
lights in falsehood in Jest, it is bad
sign. would not implicitly trust the
habitnal liar in jest. Pride may pre-
serve in him the appearance of truth
fulness when i'll earnest, but inasmuch
as he loves lie, and is therefore ex-
cluded from Heaven unless he reforms
and amends, you had better dismiss
him.
The third requisite is good con-
science void of offence towards God
and towards man-one who inquiries
/ in relation to the various preSentimcnts
( of life lis it right2 Is it wrong I
and steadily endeavors to act in ac-
cordance with the right.
He must be temperate, having fix
cd resolution avcrsc to all alcoholic
drink, and he must be guitlcss Of to-
bacco in all its forms. Let him be of
cheerful and aifcCtionate tempcra-
mcnt fearing God and loving his fcl-
bowman If he is fond OF little child
rem and kind to them it is Il good ign.
If he is kind and tender to all the
brute creation dependent upon him,
YOU may Judge him favorably. need
not say that he must be dutiful son
to both father and mother, for the
character have described could not
he otherwise Neither need | add
/ that he must be guiltless of profauc
language, for such an one not only
will not swear, but will not be I'M
der any temptation to pollute his lips
with an oath. He will regard swear
/ ing as ungentlemanly, and unretiued,
/ and worse than useless, and above all
he will be impressed by tue fact that
it is contrary to the law of his God as
issued upon Mount Sinai, and re en-
acted with additional sanctions by
Him of Calvary. Industry and en-
ergy of character are important char
acteristics--a the good book hath it,
/ diligent in business and tcryent in
spirit The amount of property in
/ present POSSESSIONS is not important, for
/ he who possesses these qualifications
will certainly rise in life--he cannot
be kept down--he belongs to that
! class Of whom an ancient holy man
| said -" have been young and now
am old yet have | not seen the
righteous forsaken, nor his seed beg
ging bread"
In relation to the exterior and per-
sonal appearance, young ladies are i'll
general keen judges but perhaps
! .
might suggest that he should be neat
in appearance, but not to excess-not
/ dandyficd monkey, but man. And
if he is farmer, and you cross his
path when he is attired in ovcrhauls
and coarse boots, you need not be
ashamed of him, but may like him the
better.
And now, young lady, if you know
of such Il man about your own age,
who loves you, and you love him, and
if you on your part possess the requi-
site feminine qualifications counter
part to such a character, and you
both have arrived at the right age.
| advise you to get a fathers and
mothers consent, and bind yourselves
in the marriage covenant. | will not
hesitate to insure you such a measure
of felicity and enjoyment of life as may
consist with the nature of man.