The Opelousas patriot. [volume] (Opelousas, Parish of St. Landry, La.) 1855-1863, 1858-08-21

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Tween you, under any circumstances.
eithet pr nor mother, neither brother nor
lister, er friend nor neiglbor, has any
td ~,terfeee with your relations, so long
at least. as you are agreed. Yoa twain are to
be one aesh-identifed in objects, desires. syr
pathies, fortunes, positions everything. Y
to know no closer friend. Now | care IL
how pure and genuine may be the love which
has brought you together, if you have any
character at all. you will find that this perfect
union cannot be effected without compromise
Human character, by a wise provision.
Providence. is Infinitely varied and there are
mot two individuals in existence so entirely
alike in their tastes, habits of thought and ma
tural aptitndcs that they can keep step with
one another over all the rough places in the
path of life. So there must be a bending to
one another. | suppose the brides are few
who have not wept once over the hasty words
of a husband not six months married and /
suppose there are few husbands who, in the
early part Of their married life, have not felt
that perhaps their choice was nota wise one.
/. Breaches of harmony wi occur between i'm
perfect men and woman but all bad results
may be avoided by a resolution, well kept on
both sides, to ask the others pardon for every
offence for the hasty word. the peevish com
plaint, the utnsharcd pleasure-eyerything that
a%dkens an unpleasant thought, or wounds a
uansitiiity iVbis rn,,, rot inn ,,,pyt In n,nrlo ~
once and if you have d frank and worthy ma
ture, d quarrel is impossible. Ny opinion is
that hilie,y-nine one-iiunaredths of the unhap-
lutte fanlt, and not, primarily, the misfortune Of
the parties. You can be happy together if you
will but the agreement to be happy must be
mutual. The compromise cannot lie all on one
side. 1t is u mulish pride i'll men. and a SEN
sitive will in women, that mikes the principal
difficulty in all unhappy cases. say to every
man ard woman, if you have done anything
which has displeased your companion, beg her
or his pardon, whether you were Intentionally
guilty or not. 1t is the cheapest and quickest
way to settle the business. One confession
makes way for another, and the matter is closed
closed, most probably, with the very sweetest
kiss of the season.
BE frank with one another. Many a hus.
band vile and go on from year to year with
thought in their hearts that they hesitate to re-
veal to one another. lfyou have anything in your
mind concerning your companion that troubles
You, out with it. Do not brood over it. Per-
haps it can be explained on the spot, and the
matter forever put to rest. Draw your sonls
closer and closer together, from year to year.
Get all obstacles ont of the way. Just as
soon as one arises, attend to it, and get rid Of
it. At last, they will all disappear. You will
become welded to one another habits ard
frames Of mind and pecnliarities of dlsposition /:
and love, respect and charity will take care of
the rest. l insist on this, because it is the
very first essential thing. | insist on it, be,
cause believe that if there be sufficient affinity
between two persons to bring them together,
and to lead them to unite their lives, it is their
fault if they fail to live happily, and still more
and more happily as the years advance. Twill
go SO far as to say that | believe there are few
women with whom a kind, sensible man not live
happily, if he be so disposed and | know that
womar is more plastic in her nature and more
susceptible to love than man. So, when ] hear
Of unhappy matches, | know that somebody
is to blame.
This intimate association of husband and
wife-nay, this identity-can never be preserved
while either is blabing of the other. A man
who tells his neighbor that his wife is extrava-
giant, that she is w~astefnl, that he never finds
her at home, that she will never 90 out with
him, or that she is or does anything which he
desires her not to be or do, does a shameful
thing, aud a cruel thing besides making an ass
OF himself. A woman who bruits her husband
tanlts, who tells the neighbors how much he
seeks the society Of other women, how much he
spends for cigars, how late he is out at night.
how lazy he is, how little he cares for what
interests her, how stingy he is with his money
and all that sort OF thing, sins against herself
and consents, or voluntarily enlists, to publish
that which is essentially her own shame, A
husband and vile have no business to tell one
another's faults to anybody but to one another,
They cannot do it without shame. Their
grievances are to be settled in private, between
themselves and in all public places, and
among friends, they are to preserve towards
one another that nice consideration and entire
respecttulness which their relation .enioins.
For they are one in the law ; and for Il man or
woman to publish the truth that they are liy-
ing in the relation of au unwilling lover and n
compulsory mistress. Isn't that Disgusting
enough
A great deal of evil might be prevented be.
tween You If yon would allow your affection to
give itself natural expression. | know of Inns.
bands so proud and stiff and surely that thew
never have a kiss or cares or Il fond word for
the wives whom they really love. know such
husbands who have most lovabIe wives-wives
to whom a single tender demonstration, that
shall tell to their hearts how inexsressibly
pleasant their faces aud their society are, and
hoN" ioundIy they are loved, would be better
than untold gold,-wiveS to whom caresses are
s~eeier than mamma, and fond words more must.
cal than robn-songs in the rain. They 90
through life starving for them-bearing buds
o! happiness upon their bosoms that must be
Kissed INTO bloom, or witber and fall. Yet the
cast iron husband goes about his business with.
OUT even a courteous good morning" eats bis