Vermont phÅ“nix. [volume] (Brattleboro, Vt.) 1834-1955, 1858-03-27

you consider him beneath your notice. You
plant in his heart Immediately prejudice against
yourself. You disturb him. You hurt him,
and this, too, let me admit very frequently with
out design. You are sensitive yourself. and are
afraid he has forgotten you. You think, per-
haps that he would not like to notice you, and
would not like to have you notice him. There
is a good deal of this kind of thing, doubtless,
but it is all wrong. There is no man who will
not return your how, and feel the better for your
smile and if the Young man receiving the at
tention is poor, and has his position in the world
to win, and feels that he has not as many at
fractions. personal or crcumstantial, as others,
you have made his heart light, and awakened
toward yourself feeling Of cordial good will,
akin, in many instances to gratitude.
A young woman who is afraid of compromis-
ing her position by recognizing men out of her
set or out of certain line Of genteel occupa-
tions, shows by how frail a tenure she holds her
own respectability In fact, she demonstrates
herself to be regular goose. ! could name to
YOU women who have not only recognized but
Il commanding position in the best society, who
are as uniformly and Systematically polite to the
clerk who sells them silks, as 10 the pets of their
circle who have bow and smile for all with
whom they have ever been thrown into person
al relations, and who, by this very politencss
more than by any other selfcxprcssion, vindi-
cate their place among those whom society calls
ladies. There is kind word for them in every
young mans mouth; and no young man would
ever think of prcsuming upon such politenesses
for the indulgence of an offensive familiarity.
such women have sacredness i'll his eyes that
no other women possess and he would offend
them In no way. for the world
The advice have given YOU in these matters
is partly for the benefit of your sex and partly
for mine. believe that there should be far
more rational mode of intercourse between
young men and young women than at present
exists. believe that every legitimate attrac-
ton that your society has for Young men should
be free and unconstrained. | believe that there
is no good reason why young married woman
should be more attractive to a bachelor than
yourselves, and that in the degree in which they
are more attractive, do YOU wrong yourselves
and the young men ofyour acquaintance ! be-
heyc that it is well for YOU. and well for young
men, that they should be attracted to YOU by
frank behavior on your par, which will place
them at their ease and exercise upon them all
that good influence which pure. strong, out
spoken female nature is so well calculated to ex-
ert Young men and young women to use
catch phrase of the day, are q" in the same boat"
But few years will pass away before they will
be the bosom companions of each other, and the
fathers and mothers Of the land. 1t matters
everything to them that they understand each
other; and TO this end. in my judgment, an in
tercourse between them should be established
upon very different basis from that which is
now maintained 10y society. IL should be more
simple, more ample, more natural. more trust
ful. and more heartily considcrate. There is
nothing in the history OF the race to prove that
anything has ever been preserved or won to ,ir-
tue by system of essential falschood. or pol
icy OF arbitrary constraint. Many Il girl feels
this, and will feel it to her diving day. To tie
Young woman up to the mcanly cautious CON
vcntionalisms Of the day, is to prepare her as a
helpless sacrifice to the first designing villain
who insinuates himself into her confidence.
Many woman groanS to-day in bondage to II
drnnkard. q libertine, or dolt, who only need
ca To nave been allowed to know men better TO
have secured proper companion.
say. then, TO YOU, Young women reform this
thing altogether 1t is in your hands / give
you the idea leave you to carry it into prac-
tice. You do not need that | should tell YOU
how to do it. If you are not vicious, there is
nothing for YOU, in Your mind and heart. to con-
ceal BE simply yourselves, taking all possible
care 10 make yourselves what YOU should be.
Learn to think kindly of all Young men, save
those whom You have reason TO believe possess
black hearts and foul intcntons-thosc who are
enemie, of your sex and social purity ..lreat
every Young man well. both for his sake and
your own. You shall thus be the light of many
eyes, and your kind heart. thorough good man
ners, and transparent nature. cannot fail to at
tract to you those whose true nobility is the
most strongly touched by that which is best in
womanhood.' One of those will become YOUR
companion, am inclined to think. if human ma
ture. meanwhile do not suffer some remarkable
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