The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1858-01-16

rearing Oi chll0rcn-ihe hpllehti most frllRhl-
ful most liguined and the most honorable
office God ever bestowed upon human be-
ing In the meantime, the man il out en-
gagged In business, lie comes In daily CON
tact with minds stronger and sharper than
his own, lie grows and natures, and IN ten
years from the date of his marriage he be-
comes In reality, a new man. Now II he
wa, 80 much Of a fo0 az 20 marry q woman
because she had pretty form and face, or
sweet eyes, or an amiallc disposition, or q
pleasant temper or "tn," he will find that
ho has passed entirely by mis- wife, uud that
she Is really no more Of O companion for him
than baby would be, think Il was Bul-
wer who said that "rnat most 20 be priced
Ia woman was her love-" or "words 10 that
effect" ln marriage, | take love for granted
and what most prize In woman is "sconoe," "
know Of hut few sadder sights IN ttis world
than that Of mates whom the passage ofyears
has ms-mated. \ woman ought 10 have q
long start Of IA man, and then, ten 20 one,
the old man viii come out ahead, IN the race
Of long life,
There Is great trick in getting a smart
sifc. II involves, IN the first place, harm
less piece Of imposition. A really intelligent
woman, aud one nho possesses the most
desirable qualities, is almost uniformly
modest, and holds her charms in modest
estimation, Therefore, man takes her AZ
q decided disadvantage, She has not actually
any adequate idea of the article she has to
dispose oC A man who goes into un opera
ton Of this kind Is really spceuatug ON a
private dispatch, sent in advance Of the news
telegraph 10 the associated press, Now,
what women most admire IN men Gt is not
always, perhaps the subject Of thcir highest
rcspcctl is gullan,ri,-u"' the gallantTy Of
court, aud fops, but holducss, courage, de
vo'ion, decision, and refined ciyiliiy. \
man, bearing wins ten women whore hi,
boots and brains win one. II q uIau stand
before woman with respect Tor himself and
frarlrssuess Of her his suit is half won. The
rest may stfcly be left "a the parties mos,
interested Therefore, nc,sT bc afraid Of =
woman. They are the most harmless and
agreeable creatures in the world To man
who shows that he has F1t mans soul in
him. If YOU have not got the pluck to come
up to q scratch like this, YOU have not got
that in YOU which most plcascs high'soulcd
woman, and you may as wen r5tk0 fury TIM
girl who sits across the tuhlc at YOUR board
ing house, and wears square finger nails and
bcau-catohcrs.
But don't be- in a hurry about the matter
anyway Don't Rct into a fcycrsh longing
Tor marriage. IL isn't crcditahlc TO YOU
Especially don't imuginc that amy di'nppoint
MINT II isrrl ,lliel- -Asf.ge Yet
are twtnty-onc years old, will be OF an!
material damage TO YOU. There comes before
me, as | write, vision Of my own ninctceI
two turtle doves or two young pigeons
sitting on a rainbow for six blessed weeks
dreaming Of happiness and heaven, Ihcl
there came a great wind out Of the north
and We were parted-onc sliding down on
segment OF the arc, aud the other swccpiul
the curve Of is complement. thought a
-rt1r time that-rvrry- hrrrr IN tr,--%-r,At-'ytr
broken. Several new consultations bccam
visible to the naked eye. The earth was
blank There was a strange beauty in col
Of rope, and deep water was charged wit
wonderful f,scinations. But recovered, and
| think, fell in love something like min
times after that, with similar results In
truth i--that before a man is twenty FIVE year
old he does not know what he wants, himself
So don't bc in q hurry. The more Of ma
YOU become, md the more Of manlncss yo
become capable Of exhibiting in your associu
ton with women, the better wife you will b
able to obtaini and one years possession oI
the heart and hand Of really noble spccme
Of her sex, is worth nine hundred and .ninct
nine years possession Of sweet creOtur
with two ideas in her head and nothing nc'
to say nbou, either offhcm. SO don't be i
hurry, say again. You don't want n wifi
now, aud YOU have not the slightest idea OF
the kind Of Wiic you will want by-and.hS
Go into female society if you can find tina
which will improve YOU, but not otherwis,
You can spend your time better. Seek tn
society of good men. That is often NOR
accessible to you than the other, and it
through that mostly-thnt you will find you
Way to good female society.
One thing more not the least ihportan
but the last in this letter. No woman with
out pcty in her heart is fit to be the oompar
ION of any man. You may get, in your wife
beauty, amiability sprightlncss, wit accom-
pGAhpents, wealth and learning but if tina
wife have no higher love than herself am
yourself, she ia a poor creature. She eanno
elevate you above mean aims and objcct'
she cannot educate her children properly, sh
cannot in hours of advcrsity sustain an
comfort you, she cannot bear with patienc
your petulance induced by the tolls and veS
ations Of business, and she will be never sur
against the seductive temptations of gayet
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