American Lancaster gazette. [volume] (Lancaster, Ohio) 1855-1860, 1858-09-02

Of slippers lie before tho fire. ready for his
feet so much the better.
Then. again the desire to be pleasing in |
person should never leave wife for adsy. !
The husband who comes home at night
and finds his vile dressed to receive him
stressed neatly and tastefally because she
wishes to be pleasant to his eye-cAnnot,
unless he be a brute. iieg,e her or slight
her graceful pains taking. ILis compl
ment to him. It,,displays a dssire'to MAINTAIN
the charms whish first sttrac'ed him. and
TO keep 10 tact the sllken bonds which her
tasteful girlhood had fsstened to his fam
cy.
l have seen things managed very differ
emily from this. have known an undres-
sed head OF "horid hair" worn all day
long because. nobody but the husband
would SEQ H. have seen breakfast dressed
with sugar plantations on them of respect
able size, and most dsagreable sickness.
In short, have seen slatterns, whose kiss
would not tempt the hungriest hermit that
ever saw woman and was sorry for it. l
have seen them with neither collar nor
zone, with a person that did not possess a
single charm to a husband with his eyes
open, and in his right mind. This is all
wrong, young wife, for there is no being
in this world for whom it is so much for
your interest to dress as for your husband.
Your happiness depends much on your
retaining not only the esteme Of your hus.
band, but his admiration. He should see
70 greater neatness, and no more taste in
material and fitness, in any woman's dress
than IN yours; and there is no individual in
the world before whom you should always
appear with more thorough tidiness of per-
son than your husband Ifyou are careless
in this particular, you absolutely throw
away some Of the strongest and most char
ming influences which you possess. What
is true OF your house, If your house be
disorde.ly; if dust cover the table, and In
vite the critical finger to write your prop
er title; if the furniture look as if it were
tossed into room from cart; if your Ia
BILE cloth have more intimate acqusint-
auce with gravy, than with soap, and from
cellar to garret there be no order, do you
blame husband for not wanting to si
down and spend his evening with you?
should blame him, OF course. on genera
principles, but. as all men are not as sensi
bic as l am. should charitsbly entertain
all proper excuses.
Still again. have you any thing to TALL
about-anything better than scandle-witl
which to interest and refresh his weary
mind? / believe 10 the interchange ofcar
resses, as Ihave told you before. but kisses
are only the spice of life. You canno
always sit IN your husbands knee. for il
the first place 1t would tire him. and in tb
second place, be would get sick of it,
You should be one with your husband
but never in the shape of parasite. II
should be able to see growth in your soul
, independent of him; and whenever he feel
4 that he has received from you a stimuli
n TO progress aud TO goodness. you have re-
s freshed him, and made a great advance
into his heart.
He should see that you really have
strorg desire TO make him happy, and rt
> tain forever the warmest place in his re
q spect. his admiration and his Affection
> Eater into all bis pleasure with interest,"
Z Sweeten all his troubles with your sympi
. thy. Make him feel that there is one e'
a always open to the revolution OF his exp
). riences,and there is one heart that will ne'
). misconstrue him, that, there is one refue
: for him in all circumstances, and that
q all Weariness Of body and soul, there
i one warm pillow for his head, b,neat
a which heart is beating with the same III
;. varying truth and affection, through 4
|, gladness and sadness the faithful chr,
nomometer suffers no psrtuabation of il
" rhythm by shin or shower. A husbrn
: who has such wife as this, has little tenn
II tation to spend much time away from hon
n He cannot stay away long at time. II
4 may ''meet a men," but the man will nj
h long detain him from his wife. He ma
,a u go to''the post-ofice, F" but he will not ca
upon tie friends wife on the way. +
Il can do better The great danger is th
- :, he will love his home to well--that he wi
,t neither be willing to have you visit yo,
~ aunta and cousins, nor, without groa
:, accept an invitation to tea at yonr neigl
IL boris. tt TIMOTHY TITcoMB.