Spirit of the age. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1849-1865, 1858-07-28
From the Georgia Temperance Crusader.
THE WIFE.

life, =
Are nOurished with love by the hand of the {
wife. !
Listen, wife; do you know what they /,
are-rose-buds ofkindness?-notthe bright {
buds that blossom in your fower-vases-
true, these are 10 b%eautify home, and to
gladden. the husbands eyes-but the rose
buds of kindness, hat blossom in life, are of
a different nature; they differ from the
others, IN that one affects the senses and
creates pleasant emotions, while the other,
touching the heart, converts the pleasing
emotion into a passion attended with de-
sire to reward the author of the action.
1t is not enough that home is surroun-
ded by beauty and comforts that elegance
and refinement preside over the household;
there must be kind words, kind looks and
kind deeds. Does your husbands coming
in with a dark and clouded brow bring a
shadow upon yours? Do you become
discouraged, begin 70 despond and murmur?
If so, loves flower will begin to wither
they should be "nourished with love by the
hand of the wife" Murmuring, despon-.
ding wife, try this plan when your husband
comes in again with a troubled look: Let
him see, without any display on your part,
how, during his absence, you have studied
his pleasure. Does he love the easy-chair,
with dressing-gown and slippers, in which
to rest after the days toll is over? Then
give them to him I; let them be ready for
him put aside your work or book and as
sist him. Is he affectionate and loving ?
Then take his hands and warm them in
yours lay one hand tenderly on his fore
head, brush back the hair gently, soothing
ly +; whisper words of kindness, but let no
murmur escape thy lips no account of do
nestle cares that have been worrying you
through the day should grate on his tired
senses. There are Very many wives who
will answer to these suggestions, "Never
such tenderness would ruin any man, anC
cause him to make a slave of his wife,
All you haven't tried the experiment, or
it you have and it has failed, l fear you
made a bad choice in selecting a husband
you either accepted a Grabbed old bache
Tor or a selfish, self-conceited man that can
not appreciate woman; one that ncve
!, loved his mother and sisters, and that don
7, deserve a wife but ever such an one migI
be reformed, were the right influences e1
; erted. Few persons are constituted so colo
hearted as to resist the winning fascination
: Of woman's kindness and love. Don't
p afraid to pet him if he is worthy a W,
v mans love, it will, instead of spelling hir
! increase and elevate his love for you, an
in return for your kindness, he will sa
q with as much fervor as did Adam to Ev
h my %fairest, my espoused, my latest found,
Heavens last, best gift-my ever new delight
(! Woman is SO constituted as to exert oy
y man a winning power; her dependen
and weakness make her an object of 10
= and solicitude, and awaken emotions
love that an independent, tyranical spi
st could never awaken in the heart of m;
r Woman's province is the affections the
Is alone should she rule; in these alone shot
u she desire to excel. Man himself has
knowledged his indebtness to woman
~ what lg sl is ch liSt et8 AID 9Ef ffRBf9 i III h 4 fasfbs Be-
tributed to the tender nourishing of
~ rosc-buds Of kindness by the hand of Low
- The wifes responsibilities are not a fe
-. upon her depends the happiness of !
~ husband her devotion and kindness lig
III en- his cares and elicit his love in return,
IL her unkindness and peevishness sour
temper and cool the ardor of his Affect
-, 1t IS so natural for man to look to won
ny for kindness, that he must ever be dis
pointed when it is not found. Kindr
from a woman and a wife receives a cha
'.o no other hand could give it. Although
woman's duty to minister to the Wa
,oI and pleasures of her husband, the flu
Oco pleasure ; she, too, must be a loved
~ cherished object, else she would be div
ing only in the suburbs of the MARI
state, while it is her right, her pecu
b., privilege, to share equally all the ioys
These, a good wife will have; for o
-bt wives make good husbands. Like OsboI
.m l pity from my heart the unhappy +
who has a bad wife. "She is shackIes
oro his feet a palsy to his hands a bur-
Gov on ms shoulder smoke to his eyes Vi
or gar to his teeth a thorn in his side
dagger to his heart"
Woman was created to be the helm
~ OF man in every relation of life to ST
alike his joys and sorrows. If she VIC
increase her W happiness, let her d
~. strew, with the fresh flowers of affec
Nv and kindness, the narrow and rugged D.
",i way of life.