American union. [volume] (Morgantown, Va. [W. Va.]) 1855-1859, 1857-05-09
ALL ABOUT MARRIAGE.

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| This world is just now in the midst of
its, wedding season, and il is "A favorable
time tn whisper a word in the ears .nf
the huttering expecian,s. 1t is really
not SO much an Objects for jesting as
for serious thought. We look upon il
IN that light. and have saved some Cap.
ltal refecliors from tho Saudusky Reg
isler, and for which we give credit to
the graceful and practical pen of Mrs.
| Victor ! @i .a ,1sH9 ~ 'a19a..gs 3d
Il is monrnful fact that this world
is full of young men that want to mar
ry but darenot. Deny this as some will
! 1t is nevertheless tue, as we can show.
In this town, for instances, there are
some thirty or forty young men, well to
/ DO In the way of salaries, yet who re.
iuse to take the step which they all want
to take, but do not aud why : ~. 5,,
T. Now, the fist question to be asked by
any sane man is, can properly support
wife if take one Then he counts
the cost of living as a woman of his
preference would wishi and 10! he finds
10 his amazement that his income is
vastly too small to support even mod
est modern establishment and some
what saddened by the reflection, he
plunges into labor, and courts business
with an assidul,y that takes away his
health eventually, in the hope of OBJ
tanning anincome that will enable him
to marry aud have a homo of his own.
And this Is the secret Of all the hard un.
ending Toll of the young men Of to-day
who are fast approaching thirty yea,s
OF age-tllis Is the reason of so many
disappointed men and wailing women,
deny it or hide it as you may. ggJ n5
But says some good woman, you do
us inj ustice, for any woman who truly
loves man " i'll adapt herselfto his cir
cumstances, with the greatest pleasure.
but what man of any -sensitivenes. OF
hiSh sense OF honor, would take wo
man from easy circumstan nccs and a
pleasant and we'll furnished home, 10 a.
dorm his little four rooms and to do his
! housework as the first principles Of o.
economy would demand Of him Few
would do it; for though the woman
isignihes her Willingness to take up with
ruch experience, We are all such ctoa.
lures s3otlcircumstahcest tba at Ihere would
be- complaining on her part, eventually
and sickness fiom over-excIiion; and uu,
happiness from many cares-all ofwhich
would render marriage anything else
but pleasant q 80 - fri F.1r -
And so the young men 3very " isely
think, preferring a few years Of single
loneliness. in orderto obtain money e.
nough'to support a modest house of be.
tween l200& 500 year expense,i alber
than to place modernly educated wo.
man into the house of six hundred dol.
lars year, whore she mus, do her own
| work. H ral gga,.fr-f .,.jY -
! Now, ~hal is The remedy Plainly
that woman must Fit themselves to be
such wives as the young men mus, have.
! Else the young men must fit themselves
to be such husbands as the womeH want
ana spend the very choices, years OF
their life in. the dreary dtudgery of a
ceaseless toll, breaking down health,
happiness, energy, only, to give up To
marriage when the best manhood is gone
The women must choose for themselve 6
which it shall be, for the matter is
solellyin their hands. Let mothers say
to their daughters, put on that calico
gown, go into the Kitchen and, prepare
dinner, take charge Of the household,
and fit yourself TO becofne wife and
mother-T~let The young women cheerful.
ny consent I'd such service /; and instead
of layishing all thought and time, and
money, upon the ailornmen, Of the BODY
seek TO accustom the hands To proper
Industry and to school the mind To prop
er tastes, then there will be no longer
complaints that young men 'cannot az
ford 70 marry, and we shall have6eautifuI
and modest houses oil around US, aud
woman will have loving husbands and
life shall once more have something
OF ne trusbfulness and virtue which il
had in the day Of our blessed fathers
and rnothers, when it was wor,an'6 am.
bition to become the head of the house,
and the mother of noble children. ....
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