Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1857-05-01

A LADY oS THE Mss BoKRR MARIGGR-The
nice appreciation Of thefemale mind, when dis
interested, is seldom at fault in judging social
relations and assigning the tone bearingof per.
personal conduct This gives value TO the opinion
Of Mrs r. S. Nichols, in the Miss Boxer mar
riage case, a transcript Of which we find in the
Hunterdon Gasette:
No occurrence OF n private nature has ever
created deeper public interest than the recent
marriage, in New York, Of Miss Boxer to her
fathers coachmaa, one John Dean. It is claim
ed that Hiss Boxer IS 4 refined, intelligent and
cultivated young lady; that she is competent to
teach music, aud is mistress of several Lam
gnagcS-that she is, in short, all that gentleman
could wish his daughter to be, with ono excep-
ton, to wit: singular partiality for an unre-
ftdcd, uncultiVated coachman. Divers have
been the opinions expressed in regard to Miss
B. S conduct. Many have praised-nany have
blamed her, and not a few have been puzzled to
know how it all was brought about; which par
ty, in fact, took the lead in this singular court
ship. Our opinion is that Miss Boxer must
have taken the initiative steps, ndthat, too,
pretty decidedly, for this is not a romantic age,
when pretty page may marry his mistress, or
gentlemen go about disguised as menials in or
der to win the ladies Of their love, but u down
right sober, utilitaTian PERIOD though silly girls
are still found who do sllier things to the aston
ishment of the world at large, and of their
trusting parents in particular. We have no
sympathy with the so=called romance of Miss
Boxers marriage, though genuine pity is
awakened at the thought of years of untold
misery which she has in all probability brought
upon herself There must have been something
radically wrong, either in the moral training or
the mental organization Of a girl in Miss Boz
kcrs position in life to lead to such a result us
is now confessedly before the world.
A young lady, high-bred, polished, and of
great womanly delicacy, encourages rough,
coarse, unintellectual man, filling mental sta
ton in her parents household, to approach her
as lover, and finally clopes with and marries
himl ltiSnot because he is poor, or that he is
IN lower station in life than herself that makes
this affair so monstrous in the eyes Of those ac-
customed to look beyond the present into the
future; it is because of the total dissmiarity of
feeling, taste, opportunity and endownlents
And yct Miss Boxer cannot become to us re-
fined woman. No refined woman could have
borne to have been addressed in tho language
of love by an unrefned, coarse-natured man, to
say nothing of her living under the same roof
with him, and beholding him condemned to
herd with those she esteemed SO much beneath
her, while she queened it up stairs in another
sphere. No refined and right-minded woman
would have flung away fathers and mothers
love, or treated them SO diSingenuouSy, after all
their kind care and affectionate guardianship, Us
did this young lady in question. No delicate
minded woman would have subjected herself
and her private affairs to the rude remarks and
pitiless animadversions of an excitement-hunt-
ing public, as this newly married Mrs. John
Dean has done.
Marriage, to bring happiness to the parties
interested, must be union Of tastes, feelingand
sentiment, there must be congeniality of spirits,
something near equality of mind, aud certain
ly that sympathy of pursuit, which equal edu-
these, there can be no permanent happiness in
life; but after the novelty and blindness of pas
sion wear away, certain misery must follow,
which is always sure to fall most heavily on the
weaker party.
Clandestine marriages seldom bring happi-
ness; the woman who sacrafces home and a
fathers and mothers affection for a lover, un.
less the parents are unusually unreasonable, ge-
Morally reaps that reward which follows in the
footsteps Of ingratitude and disobedience.