Mountain Democrat., 1857-04-18
NUMBER 5.
All About STarryin~.

The world IL just now in the midst Of
its wedding season, and it is favorable
I time to whisper . word in the ears Of the
fiutter;ng expectaDts. II Is really not 90
much an object for jesting as for serious
thought. We look upon it in that light,
and have saved some capital reflections
from Che Sandusky Register, and for
which we give credi: to the graceful and
practical pen OfMrs. Victor:
1t is mournful fact that this world il
full Of young men that want to marry and
dare not. Deny this, as some will, it is
nevertheless true, as we can easily show.
In this town, for instance, there are some
thirty or forty young men, well-tO"dO in
the way of salaries and business. yet who
refuse toStake the step which they all
want to take, but do not, and whys
Now, the first question to be asked by
any sane man is, can properly support
a wife if take one? Then he counts the
cost Of living as the woman of his prefer
ence would wish, and 10 he finds to his
amazemcnt that his income is vastly too
small to support even modest modern
establishment; and somewhat Saddened by
the reflection, he plungcs into labor, and
courts business with an assiduity that
takes away his health eventually, in hope
Of attaining an income that shall enable
him to marry and have home Of his own.
And this is the secret Of all the hard an.
ending toll Of Vfc-Ayoung men of to-day
who are fast approaching thirty years Of
agc-this is the reason Of so many disap-
pointed men and waiting women, deny it
or hide it as you may.
But, says some good woman, you do us
injustice, for any woman who truly l0YeS
man will adapt herself to his circums
stances with the greatest pleasure. But
what man of any sensitiveness, or high
sense Of honor, would take woman from
easy circumstances and-S pleasant and
well-furnishcd home, TO adOrn his little
four rooms and do his housework, as the
first principles of economy would demand
Of himY Few will do it; for, though the
woman signifies her willingness to take
up with such experience, we are all such
creatures of circumstances that there
would be complainings on her part, even
tually, and sickness from over-exertion,
and unhappincss from many cares-all Of
which would render marriage anything
else but pleasant.
And SO the young men very wisely
think, preferring few years more Of sin
gle loneliness, in order to obtain money
enough to support modest house Of be-
tween twelve or fifteen hundred dollars 3
year expense, rather than to place mod
ernly educated woman into the house Of
six hundred dollars q year, where she
must do her own work.
Now, what is the remedy? Plainly
that women must fit themselves to be such
wives as the young men must have. Else
the young men must fit Themselves to be
such husbands as the women want, and
spend the very choicest years Of their life
in the dismal drudgery of q ceaseless toll,
breaking down health, happiness, energy,
only to give themselves up to marriage
when the best manhood is gone. The
women must choose for themselves which
it shall be, for the matter is solely in their
hands, Let mothers say to their daught-
ers, put on that calico gown, 90 into the
kitchen and prepare dinner, take charge
of this household, and fit yourself to be-
come wife and a mother@et the Young
women cheerfully consent to such service;
and instead of lavishing all thought, and
time, and money, upon the adornment Of
the body, seek to accustom the hands to
proper industry and to school the mind to
proper tastes-thcn there will be no long,
er complaints that young men "cannot
afford to marry" and VIC shall have beau
tiful, modest houses all around us, and
women will have loving husbands, and
life shall once more have something Of the
truthfulness and virtue which it had in
the days of our blessed fathers and moth
crs, when it was wOman's ambition to be-
come the head of the house and the moth.
er of noble children.