San Andreas independent., 1857-04-18
COurtship and Marriage.
THE BRIDAL CHAMBER.

late; and at the hour of retiring, the bride
is to be. conducted to the bridal chamber
by the bridesmaids, who assist her in her
night toilet. The bridegroom upon re-
ceiving notice, will retire without farther
attendance or ceremony.
The practice of kissing the bride is not
SO common as formerly, and in regard to
this, the taste of the bridegroom may be
consulted, as the rest of the company fol-
low the example of the groomsman; but
the parents and very near relations of the
parties, of course act as affection prompts
them
The chamber frolics, such as the whole
company visiting the bride and bride
groom after they are in bed, which was
done some years ago, even at the marriage
of monarchs, and the custom of throwing
the stocking, etc. are almost universally
dispensed with.
AFTER MARRIAGE.
After marriage the bridal party usually
travel for week or two; upon their re-
turn, it is customary for the bride to be
at home for few days to receive visits
The first four weeks after marriage consti-
tute the honeymoon.
You need not retain the whole of your
previous acquaintance those only to whom
you send cards are, after marriage consid-
cred in the circle of your visiting acquain-
tances. The parents or friend of the bride
usually send the cards to her connexions );
no hoe
his former associates whom he wishes to
retain as such. The cards are sometimes
united by silken cord, or white ribbon,
to distinguish those of a newly married
pair from ordinary visitors but it is doubt
ful whether it be III good taste.
A married woman may leave her own
or her husbands card in returning visit !;
the latter only would be adopted as re-
source in the event of her not having her
own with her.
A lady will not say :" My husband" ex-
cept among intimates-in every other case
she should address him by his Christian
name, calling him Mr.. 1t is equally good
ton, when alone with him, to designate him
| by his Christian name.
ACQUAINTANCE AFTER MARRIAGE.
When a man marries, it is understood
that all former acquaintance ends, unless
he intimates desire to renew it, by send
Ing you his own and his wife's card, if
near, or by letter, if distant. If this be
neglected, be sure no further intercourse
is desired
In the first place-a bachelor is seldom
very particular in the selection of his COM
panions. So long as he is amused, he will
associate freely enough with those whose
morals and habits would point them out as
highly dangerous persons to introduce into
| the sanctity of domestic life.
Secondly-A married man has the taste
of another to consult; and the friends of
the husband may not be eequally acceptable
to the wife.
Besides = Newly-married people may
wish to limit the circle of their friends,
from comnlendable motives of economy
When man first /" sets up in the world,
the burden of an extensive and indiscrim-
mate acquaintance may be felt in various
ways. Many have had cause to regret the
weakness of mind which allowed them to
plunge into vortex of gayety and expense
they could i'll afford, from which they
found it difficult to extricate themselves,
and the effects Of which have proved Sc
rious evil to them in after life
When man is about to be married, he
usually gives a dinner to his bachelor
friends, which is understood to be their
congo, unless he choose to renew their ac-
quaintance.