The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1857-07-30

OF \alencIcnncs laccs in general, and on
that which trimmed her dress in particular,
and, warming with her subject, made it
finally to appear that we were under infin-
ite obligations to Madame Flourish for tho
opportunity Of paying tins bill and buying
collar to match the Valencicnncs. Mrs.
Jones was SO earnest and sincere, that I
thought it would be a pity to break her
charming deluson. / resolved, therefore,
to smoke second-ratc cigars for the next six
months, and indulge the dear creature in
her wishes; and she looks so lovely, and
seems SO happy in her new dress and collar,
that, to confess the truth, l don't regret
what have done.
Nevertheless, rs IN abstract proposition,
L still hold to the secret opinion, that pay
ing eight dollars for making and trimming
dress that cost only nine doesn't exactly
show knack for economy.
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IIho is Gcntleman.-A gentleman is
not merely person acquainted with Ger
tain forms and the etiquette of life, easy
and sclt-posscsscd in society, aLlo to speak
and act and move in the wo Id without
awkwardncss, and free from habits Which
arc vulgar and in bad taste. A gentleman is
something much beyond this; all that
which lies at the root of all his case, and
refinement, and tact, and power of pleasing,
is the same spirit which lies at the foot Of
every Christian virtue. 1t is the thought
full desire Of doing, in every instance. as ho
would that others should do unto him. lie
is constantly thinking, not how he may
give pleasure to others, on the mere sense
of pleasing, but how he can show respect
for others-how he may avoid hurting their
feelings. When lic is in society, lie scrupu-
lousIy asccrtains the positions and relation
of every ono with whom he is brought in
contact, that he may give TO each his due
honor, his proper position. IIo studies
how he may avoid touching, in convcrsa-
ton, upon any subject which may nccdlessly
hurt their feclings-how he may abstain
from any alnsion which may call up dis
agreeable or oflcusivc association. A rcn-
tie man never alludcs to, never even an.
pears conscious of, any personal defect,
bodily deformity, inferiority of talent, of
rank, or reputation, in the person in whose
society lie is placed. lie never assumes
any superiority for hin.self-he never rid-
culcs, never snccrs, never boasts, never
makes display of his own power, or rank,
or advantages such as is implied in rid.
culc, or sarcasm, or abusc-as lie never in
dulscs in habits, or tricks, or incInations
which may he offensive 10 others.
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Heoih and Beauty IN Womam.-At
eighteen" said foreigner, "a young
American woman is tho prettiest in the
world; but at thirty, mon Dicu, she is
already old and ugly. Though there were
some of a Frenchman's exaggerations in
the remark, there was also substance of
truth. Why is it that the beauty of our
females fades so soon? Or, to 60 at once
to the real issue-for beauty is only per-
mancnt where there is health-wly is it
that our women, rs compared will, the
women Of other temperate climates, are so
delicate and fragilc9
The answer may be made in few words.
1t is because they neglect air and exercise.
Weakness, lassitude, and fading complex
ion, rs inevitably follow Incidence and con-
fincment as the willing Of a plant results
from its deprivation Of light. 1t is law
of our existence, that we must take daily
exercise if we would continue health. 1t is
fact in physiology, that a pure atmos-
phere is indispensable to vigorous vitality.
All the refinement Of civilization, all the
resources Of science, have failed to supply
a substitute for fresh air and exercise. The
poor and rich stand on the same platform
in reference 10 this necessity of our nature.
The lady in silks and satins can buy no
cosmetic SO efficacious as the sunshine and
breeze which arc poured out at every step
of her humble sister.
Tile Model Lady.-The model lady puts
her children out to nurse and tends lapdogs !;
lies in bed till noon; wears paper.soled
shoes; pinchcs her waist; gives the piano
fits; forgets to pay her milliner; cuts her
poor relations; goes to church when she has
new bonnet; turns the cold shoulder to
her husband, and fiirts with his friend :"
never saw a thimble; don't know darning-
needle from crow-bar; wonders where pud-
dings grow; eats ham and eggs in private,
and dimes on pigeons leg in public; runs
mad after the last new fashion; doats on
Byron; adores any man who grins behind
moustache; and, when asked the age Of
her youngest child, replies :" DonIknow,
indeed-ask Betty p