The Jackson standard. [volume] (Jackson C.H., Ohio) 1847-1888, 1857-02-12


ing. All these things she would bay
rlghtcd herself, but she never had moncy
for Joe's carelessness left him al#aTs
debt, and those debts were an excuse f.
everything. lie was meantn all It'll
things. lie, would let ten dollars 90 t
waste outside for want ef.a hours care
: yet scoId her or the children for wastin,
a goose quill Or lucifer match, or hal
sheet of paper ina letter. Easy and goot
natured for the most part yet turbulen
and abusive, when things went wrong TO
him as they usually did. Iydia'8 goot
humored, joyoas disposition and gentle
ness of spirit gradually wore out to him
though she was pleasant, as he used tc
say, to every one else. Now. to worry i.
grown a habit, and as he takes it easy
never trying to please her in any one
thing.
1t is no use,' he says, Ito try to please
her. She will fret. Ifhe mends the els
tern she would find fault about the roof
and if he stopped the leak she would wan
the spouts put up, and if that was done
she d remember that the garden was be.
hind time, and when that was brought up,
the door yard would need moving or ma
nurlng, or the trees pruning, and so its
no use Poor wretched man. lie never
tried putting all to rights at once, to see
its effect. So for twenty-five years poor
Mrs. jenkins has toiled almost Gay and
night to keep along and by dint Of fret
ting, coaxing and toiling has raised a
pretty respectable family. But they all
think mother scolds' and her reason for
all this quadrupled labor, is worn out
nervous system, face wrinkled and old,
spirit broken, and the name of Fretfu
Housewife. Who is to blame? | ask
you candidly and seriously. gentlemen, if
you could either of you be patient and
forbearng at all times, if you had to live
with such man as Joe jenkins? He is
lazy, dogmatical, sovenly, and cold
hearted. Lydia is exactly the reverse.
There, there she is now driving the COWS
out of the cabbage, and there he is, as
usual down by the grocery smoking his
pipe, and talking to old Phelps. He's
half drunk. | suppose somebody will
say his wife scolded him into it.
Hang his lazy picture said the first
speaker, i believe all he does is to talk
he's good at that The other got up and
walked away, signing;
Lydia ain t all to blame
He was thinking no doubt of what
might have BEEN
There are great many Lydia jenkins
in this world-fretful woman, who get a
hard nathe simply because somebody else
never lives up to duty-good house keep
ers, good wives, good mothers, good
fault TO be found with
hem, but that they scold.'
Look at the other side of the picture
Husbands, that are perhaps men of mind,
md character, and even wealth, yet SO
,areless Of little things, so thoughtless of
wife's comfort and happiness, and so
eariul of her acting herself, so as to re-
strict her 10 just what they think neces-
'ary; and would be offended and feel their
lignity infrihged tipoh, tere she to take
he responsibility of hiring man to chop
Ter wood, or spade her garden--thus
;urbing and fretting minds as earnest and
as their own, and filling their
'aths with little annoyances, that make
he whole life bitterness, simply because
hey know and feel that these things are
il so unnecessary, and might be remov-
d without an effort by the very hands
hat place them in their way.
1t is much easier for most minds to
ear great Affections, than to be cheerful :
nder constantly recurring petty vexation, ,
nd it is a noticeable fact, that most fret
ll women bear unavoidable trials with ,
atient forttude. There are peevish, fret q
ii women, hosts Of them tina! have no +
xcuse but morbid temper. But in h
ldging Of the character ola woman, of h
HON the world says: she does nothing .
miss. but scold' look at both sides Of the .
uestion, and see who is to blame.
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