The Hillsdale standard. [volume] (Hillsdale, Mich.) 1851-1909, 1857-08-18
HILLsDALE, MICH, TUESDAY, AUG. Is. 1857.
Married Poiiteuess.

There is much Of truth ne we'll ms of tha
kind of philosophy which comes into ever,
day requ sition, helping to strengthen ant
brighten the ties of affection, in the subjoin
ed brief article:
"WiI you" asked pleasant voice.
And the husband answered, "Yes my dca
with pleasure"
1t was quietly but heartily said; the tone
the manner, the look, were perfectly natura
and affecionate. We thought how pleasan,
that courteous reply; how gratifying il mus
be to tho wife. Many husbands of ten year;
experience are ready enough with the courte
sizes OF poitcncss to the young, ladies Of their
acquaintance, while they speak with abrupt.
ness to the wife, and do many rude little
things without considering them worth an
apology. The stranger whom they have seen
but yesterday is listened to with dcfarence,
and although tho subject may not he Of the
most pleasant nature, with ready smile
while the poor wife, il she relates domestic
grievance, is snubbed, or listened to with it,
concealed patience. o! how wrong this is
all wrong.
Does she nrge somc request-"Oh don't
bother me" cries her gracious lord and mas.
ter. Docs she ask for necessary funds for
Susy's shoes, or Tommy's hat-"Secms to
me you are always wanting money" is tho
handsome rctort. Is any li'tlc extra demand
ed by his masculine appetite, it is ordered,
not requested, "Look here, want you to do
so and so--just see that it's done," and off
marches Mr.. Boor, with bow and n smile
Of gcn'lcmnnly polish and friendly sweetness
for ever casual acquaintance he may chance
10 recognize.
When we moct with such thoughtlessness,
our thoughts revert to the voice and manner
of the friend who said, "Ycs, my dear. with
pleasure" 81 beg your PARDON" comes rs
readily to his lips, when by any little awk.
war1ncss he has Disconnected her, as it would
in the presonc, Of the most fashionable stick
Ter for etiquette. This is because he is
thorough gentleman who thinks his wife in
all things entitled TO precedence. He loves
her bcst-wly should he hesitate TO show it,
not in sickly, maudlin attentions, but in pre-
ferring her pleasure and lenoring her in pub
lie as well as private. He knows her worth,
why should lo hesitate to attest it9 "And
her husband he praised her," saith holy writ;
not by fulsomc adula,on, not by pushing her
charms into notice, but 10y speaking rs oppor-
tunity occurs, in II manly way of her virtues.
Though words seem but little things, and
slight attentions almost valuccss, yet, de-
pend upon it, they keep the flame bright,
especially if they arc natural. The children
grow up in n better moral atmosphere and
learn to respect their parents as they see them
respect each other. Many boy will take
advantage of n mother he loves, because he
secs often tho rudcncss of lis falhcr In.
sensibly he gathers to his bosom the Same
habits and the same thoughts thcy engcndcr,
and in Lis turn becomes the petty tyrant.-
Only his nothcr-why should he thank her ?
father never docs. Thus the home becomes
the seat of disorder and unhappnoss. Only
for strangers are kind words expressed, and
hvpocritcs 90 ont from the hcarthstone fully
prepared 70 render justice, bcncvolcncc and
pel!.oncss to any and every one but those
who have The jpstcst claims. All! give us
the kind glance, the halp homestead-the
smiling wife and courteous children Of the
man who said so plcasa ty, ayes, my dear,
will rlooeurno -