Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1857-04-09
Married Politeness.

There is much OF truth, as we'll as OF thai
kind of philosophy which comes into everyt
day requisiton, helping to strengthen and
brighten tho ties of social affection, in the
subjoined brief article;
"WiIl you? =" asked pleasant voice.
And the husband answered, Yes, my
dear, with pleasure"
1t was quietly. but heartily said /; the tone,
the manner, the look, were perfectly natural
and very affectiouate We thought, how
pleasant that courteous reply; how crafty.
ing it must be t. the wife. Many husbands
of ten years experience are ready enough
with the courtesies Of politencss to the yoang
ladies of Their acquaintance while they
speak with sbruptness to the wife, and do
many rude little things without considering
them worth an apology. The stranger, whom
they may have seen but yesterday, is listened
to with Difference, and although the subject
may not be of the most pleasant nature, with
ready smile, while the poor wife, if she re-
late domestic grievance, is snubbed, or lis
tened to with ill-concealed impatiencc. o!
how wrong this is-all wrong.
Does she urge some request "Oh, don't
bother mel" cries her gracious lord and
master. Does she ask for necessary funds
for Susy,,s shoes or Tommy's hat f" Seems
to me you are always wanting money!" is
] 1.-The handsom retort. is any little extra de-
1 handed by his masculine appetite, it is or
dered, not requested. . Look here, want
you to do SO and SO just see that it's done y
and off marghes Mr. Boor, with bow and
a smile Of genremanly polish and friendly
sweetness for everyeausal acquaintance he
may chance to recognize.
When we meet with such thoughtlessness
and coarsness, our thoughts revert to the kind
voice and gentle manner Of the friend who
said Yes, my dear, with pleasure" II
beg your pardon" comes as readily to his
lips when by any little awkwardncss he has
= Disconnected her, as it would in the presence
of the most fashionable stickler Cor etiquette.
This is because he is thorough gentleman
who thinks his wife in all things entitled to
precedence. Ho loves her best; why should
he hesitate to show it, not in sickly. maudIin
attentions, but in preIerring her pleasure
and honoring her in public as well as private
He knows her worth, why should he hesitate
to attest it !! And her husband he praised
he's said holy writ; not by (ulsome adula'
; ton, not by pushing her charms into notice
but by speaking, as opportunity occurs in u
manly way, Of her virtues. Though words
may seem little things, and slight attentions
f almost vaIue'ess, yet, depend upon it, they
y keep the fame bright, especially if they arr
y natural. The children grow up in better
moral atmosphere, aud learn to respect tbci
: parents, as they see them respecting eacl
other Many boy takes advantage OF (
!, mother he loves, because he sees often thu
y ruacness Of his father. Insensbc he gather
= toAis bosom the same habits and the thought
= = and feelings they engender, and in his turf
r becomes the petty tyrant. Only his mother
why should he thank her father never does
! Thus the home becomes the seat of disordc
r and unhappiness. Only for strangers ar
!. kind words expressed, and hypocrities got GU
J.. from the hcarth-stone fully prepared to rem
IS der justice, bcnevolence, and poitencss TO an
one and every one but those who have tn
!. ustest claims. All give US the kind glance
4 the happy homestead the smiling vile an
. courteous children of the friend who said :
J pleasantly, ".Yes, my DEAR with pleasure.