The Middlebury register. [volume] (Middlebury, Vt.) 1850-1882, 1857-11-04
A lady who writes to the N Y. Evening
Post as "a merchants wife" thus gives
advice to Wife dom

Post as " q merchants wife, thus gives
advice to Wife DOM
These are stormy times, indeed
such as we have n,eer known before
Our husbands are in the midst Of the
din and strife of business, or, rather, Of
the downfall of all business Little do
we know of the perpleTisy and destrac.
ton, the despair and agony, the torture
and dismay, which repd their hearts du.
ring such seasons OF peril. Let US then
patiently bear with every caprice of tenn.
per-witb irritability, taciturnity, seem.
ing wan sofsympa.hy ,abstracted thoughts
even with the hasty.worj. There are
great diversities of disposition. Some
men can smile and be tender when their
thoughts are ever so distracted such
are the favored ones. Others have no
caresses for the fireside while their cares
are at the ooupting-house Reproach
not such even in thought Their hearts
may be as tender and true Make your
husbands home bright and cheerful in
spite of his worried. anxious faco, and
though you see 1t not, bis care 10 tighten
ed. And then, should the dreaded blow
fall--should those nightmare words 'sus-
pend failed,' be appended to the hith
erto honored aud spotless fame--listen
for the first football, place your hand,
never so lovingly, on the throbbing tenn
ples-fAd the aching head TO your bo
som in its fondest embrace-whisper the
words which your life's study have taught
are the dearest, and already the demon
Of despair!is exercised, and angels of hope
are near to aid. Yes this 10 the hour Of
our blessed privilege-worth more than
q lifetime of the worlds flattery.
"And now will begin the duty Of cheer
fnN conomy-ohesrful because it is du
~, and because lightened BY Affection.
The keenest psng to your husbands
heart, as he has contemplated the wreck
Of his fortune, was the thought you must
suffer privation. Show him now the side
Of your character Re perhaps never knew
before. Let him feel that this is not the
trial to hush the voice Of your song. An.
tieipa,e him in every necessary rstrsneh.
ment. Throw your quick perceptions,
your ready ingenuity, your willing 6n-
gers into the work. Bring from the
wardrobe the articles laid aside as use
less See how well they will serve the
needed purpose. You will be surprised
at yourself and at your resourcea Do
not array yourself in the sha66iest attire
and with the air Of q martyr give your
husband to understand that you are
ready to be offered up Ifyou are gifted
with lovliness Of person, it is precious
now to adorn the simplest attire-if you
are plain depend upon it, with that look
of cheerful love you have new charm to
your husbands eye, ! do not believe
there is a woman in the United States
whose husband has been enjoying an in'
| come Of over three thousand dollars q
year, but could array herself becomiugly
for at least a twelvemonlh without the
purchase of single article. Pledge
yourselves to your own consciences to in
duIge 10 no personal luxury until your
husbands honor is spotless and his anx.
ieties at rest. Ii is crying shame
that a wcman's heart should turn, even
in it's private lodgings, towards those
things which honesty forbids she should
possess These would not be luxuries
to true woman's taste they would
sicken aud disgust Before pisLy days
there will be claims on our sympathy
heart.rendiug enough We must gird
ourselves with charity of the tenderness
aud most judicious character, II you
have q dollar to spend, hoard up Al
least the half for the suffering poor
d, our utmost, there will be want ant
sorrow, such as we have never seen bs
to.s. Nay God in heaven relieve it,"