Kanawha Valley star. [volume] (Charleston, Va. [W. Va.]) 1856-1861, 1857-01-06
Katy Cswslip', Ransis,..

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into the world for q purpose; that pur-
pose is matrimony, and the sooner all
you that arc eligible set about getting
husbands, the better for yourselves
and those who will continue to be Gig
ar-sucking, toddy drinking, miserable
cast-aways. Winter is congenial to
wedlock, and it is coming, with its
long, cosy freside evenings its bust
ling parties and frolicsome balls, and
a gay girl with her wits about her,
need not ethe spring flowers above
ground without an engagement on
hand, if she but half embrace the
chances certain to be offered her.
"Look before you leap" is q good old
grandmother's saying; but, girls, don't
throw the half Of a good chance away;
it may not offer again. When your
fish is fairly hooked, don't play him
too long, or he may break your line,
but wind away on the reel, steadily,
and with a good will; when you have
got him nearly to land, let mamma
give him q slight jerk, then slip your
hand-net slightly under, and flop he
finds himself in it. Cook him almost
directly. Men are very like fish, they
don't keep fresh long after being
caught. A. "A <
Have nothing to do with erratic
>hipeds with no fixed intentions. Such
fellows there are who will loll on your
sofas, turn leaves in yourmusic books,
fill your heads with silly nothinguess
and at the same time monopolize you
for all the fancy dances, play waiter
behind your chairs at supper, do your
humble servant at theaters and con
cert rooms, and serenade you though
a two or three years. campaign. Have
nothing to do with them. Whistle
such danglers of. Cut them dead az
ter taking them on trial o winter and
summer, and begin fresh on a novelty.
If "A man does not come to the popping
point, after q winters dancing and
a summers ice-creaming, he won't do
it at all. lie is not a marrying man,
you had better, for your own sakes,
hand such over to your younger sis
tiers, who are just out Of their short
dresses and pantalettes, smelling nice
and fresh of bi cad and butter-who
have time to waste on triaes; YOU have
none. +
Mind, l don't say, Don't wait for a
man if you are sure Of him. Never
care if lie is poor and worthy. Your
father was O poor man, ten to one,
when he married your mother. II
you love the fellow, and he merits it,
love on; wait till he is in position to
make the pot boil, and keep it boil
ing; and then some fine afternoon,
when your father is happy in himself,
and at peace with the world, throw
yourself upon bis heart; wait till his
dinner lie digested, and then put dear
Harry's love for you straight at him.
Decentralization ID the thief Of
time" Don't let the men procrastin-
ate. Make them clearly define their
positions. -. .-ss.
"To be, or NOT to bel That's the question"
Eadmire warm heart, Strengthening
girl; one who, when her love is well
bestowed, is not ashamed to let the
the world see her Happiness; but l
hate match making nlammas, and de-
spise girls who spend four or five
years of their lives in waltzing with,
and knitting purses and working slip
pers for a set of fellows whose hearts
are in their tailors' pattern books
These are the men that are killing the
purposes OF your lives; they are steal
ing away that fresh goodness Of heart,
and pure impulse Of thought and ac-
ton, which every girl should bring
her husband as q dowry. They will
hang around you until you are thirty,
if you make UP well, can bear the test,
of gas light, and have friends in aset
they cannot afford to cut. They will
keep away from YOU, plain. honest
and sensible men, Qualities the dang
lers cannot lay claim to- who would
make your old aye happy; Look for
one OF. this latter class-then you will
preserve your pure, womanly natures;
your love for him will spring up
again tenfold I'M your children, and
be perpetual in your husbands CRATE
full heart. If you cannot find such
men, and live on alone with yourselves
until You are word hacked why then
victimize one ofthe danglers. When,
he is stated, and proved the vanity of
all things, he will come to you, marry
him, and do the best youcan with him,
and think yourself web eff.
But marry, girls, marry; your mis-
sion is matrimony. Think Of forty
five in spectacles, with q cat, knitting
chess-board and chronic
rheumatism--and shudder. Dream
Of this, and Of . home firc-side, dear
Harry romping with Harry, Jr., You
teaching a small copy Of yourself her
letters, mother rocking miniature
masculine in the cradle, and Viola,
sweet little Viola, your eldest, play
ing Sweet Home" on the piano.
Look on that picture ofold, lone, for
gottenforty five, and shudder. Dream
IN Il by niplit. and by day, too, and