The Perrysburg journal. [volume] (Perrysburg, Ohio) 1853-1861, 1857-02-05

WlIe Is now Responsible Tor his good behavior.
Now, sisters, don't believe word about all this
nonsense Of managing Don't women know that
man starts in his matrimonial career with the
firm persuasion that his wife means to get the
weather guage of him, and isn't he perpetually on
the alert to hafle her efforts Doesn't he frown to
keep her in awer Doesn't he fnd fault with tn Z.
coffee, upset the oh airs scold at the weather look
glum, ject his pudding, attempt oathiug, all to
impress upon her plastic mind that he is a per-
feet monster of man, and must be treated gin.
gerly lion of ferocity whom it isn't we'll to
rouse and does mt his pretty fool of wife live
in drea1 of ature who is at heart as tame as
kitten, love Of man, only he thinks il
best to assume airs lest his authority shou id
be questionedH Hasn't Shakespeare given ev.
cry woman an inkling of all this sham in the
character Of Petrucio, b" and doesn he take the
tiger out of poor Kate in twinkl,ng, making he
talk not in the least like a strong minded wo.
man %
Managing let alone is the word. Give aman
his own way if you wish to make him miserable
Seem resigned, put on the "ill-use1 look if you
want to drive him mad. Be meek Griselda be
piously forbearing-seem as if you never could
and never should be anything anybody again
to the last day of your life, but an echo to him.
woman looking up" dependant. hanging like a
wited cabbage leaf over rail- or a scorcheI vine
over trellis and if your husband does mt 10 his
soul sicken and tire of you, he must be, as Words
worth has it,
"The most enduring man Of men"
Managing husband !" our cotemporaries are
quite in a fever pver the phrase Just as they are
about a"woman's sphere" Never attempt to man
age. If you do you'll have the worst of it. Sup.
pose you love your husband which is not an un
natural supposItion. even in this age why then,
all you have to do, is to be yourself. If he was
by your indvdualsm, he is to be kept by it lso
Suppose the coffee is bad and you are oor hous,
keeper confess as m ch and try to learn, but do
not 80 off into scene and get up a cry about it
II he is dull tyrant, leok upon it fact, and
then try to live nobly Yourself Crying an fret
ting, and talking about it wont mend matters. If
he provides you bread and raiment and you are
willing to be his wife, do not talk about it to him
it is the last degree OF meanness fora woman
to take gifts and thon look them in the mouth. :"
Suppose he gets up in the morning, looks black
sulky, makes the children "step round I" and moth
ing Will please him--must you try to manage him
get suiky yourself, b1rst into tears, remonstrate
and have sort Of family row 7 By no means--
Look the very pink Of neaness and good ORDER.
Garry rose in your b jsum, be the very i'm ser.
sonltion Of womanly and maternal self-res pect,
and all this not to shame him, but because it is
yourself to do SO AMI ii peace and harmony do
no. come to your household, he must be brute
of man. Never manage. Be. not seem, wife like,
and if your relation is not one utterly at war with
your own nature, ali will be we'll. The husband
will learn lpIp 9th tbp a uif i ~ ia, Il
though the law makes her su,h. II. will learn a
true sense of justice, which is to reverence the
soul Of his wife, jIst as God ha, compounded it
lie will not sfflee his image there in order
stamp thereon his own, lie will love her for being
too much hers,lf
) Sbme OF our brother editO- have accused us Of
writing to create antagonism They mistake US
altogether. The antay yonsm exists already, be-
ca Sc the position of women socially and politi
cally is a false one. We aim at a more entire
unity. at a lovlier harmony. We desire to see ali
this miserable cant about womans depend
ence," her sphere" DC. do ne away with We
desire her to be nobly ack lodged as the friend
and companion other brother. We desire to have
all this matrimonial trick, management, caio cry,
ef'rcaching, bIckering, discomfort yield to an
honorable and beautiful recognition Of man and
woman. husband and wife, whom I" God hath
joined together" and whom the short ighteduess
of man. in his imperfect development. has put
asunder We advocate marriage as the highes.
happiness to beings great enuugh and good enough
to know how to reverence its sanct ties and We
oppose divorce, because every argument in favor
OF the dissolution of the marriage bond is an
argument against the bond itself--a blow at
the marriage institution. We do not ask for
change. other than is comprised in granting to
woman the rights of citizenship all other aspects
oil life will find their natural adjustment as we ad.
vance to higher culture. ..