Delaware weekly Republican. [volume] (Wilmington, Del.) 1841-188?, 1857-09-03

| II nlsbocome q very common remark amonl
tnose VINO are very scrupulous observers o
men ana things, that there are more unmarried
young men aud women in this age than any tina
the history of the past gives any account of
IN other words the tendency to celibacy was
never greater than at present Let us apply
TINS assertion to our own section of country and
aiter having proved the verify Of the express
sion, endeavor to give a few causes for thisap-
parent departure from that state of existence
mnch the Divine author of Man instituted for
All rational creatures. There are large num-
her Of farmers; merchants and mechanics. rang
ing In age from twenty three to thirty years,
VINO are absolutely in need of sbetter-aalt''
10 snare with them the Joys which the matri-
uiohlal State is calculated to bestow, To speak
ol the more practical part of this institution
lhey (tarmers particularly are in want of a
oopJuGal partner to assist in carrying on suc-
1eessiuly thelr business operations, without re-
GteuoS 10 their necessities in social point of
view. Indeed ii seems almost useless for a
Young man TO engage in the culture of the soil
wlthout having previously entered into cove
naht with that one who is to take charge of the
domestic affairs, and ''keephis house in order. y
Dut now different is the reality of things =
behold for moment the number of farmers
VINO appear wholly indisposed to consider the
supJect IN any light. Why IS this We pro-
pose to answer. In the first place there must
be somo attractions in society which will fond
10 iacilltate that intercourse which must be
generated in order to stir up the Intent affec-
TONS between the sexes
, EvenlDg parties are given, the gay. the
lively, the fashionable, and the CANDY attend
Out all this is insufficient to arouse the hidden
ynipathles OF our nature which evolve eternity
III tnelr duration. The young man is pleased
WIN some dlshing belle, arrayed in the most
ostentatious costume. and is nsmitten." Bnt
u Is not character which has risen to captiya-
tloh' Appearances are all that elicit his adj
lliration' IL may be her pretty face, her gol-
ueh curls, her flashing eye, her delicate hand
81 snowy neck neck, or graceful carriage. A
httle parley OF nonsense Cnsues, about fashions.
parties, beaux and bellies. Then an appoint
heht ior ahother meeting, walk or visitto a
helghbor follows. Report soon becomes cnr-
rent that they care ongaged'' and many snecn-
lations are made as to when that ehappy day',
shail arrive. Meanwhile they have another
meeting and they gradually be come more init
mately acquainted with each other. The Young
man nhas ne does not love her, but her plU-
mage or features had excited his tanciful imag-
I ation.
AS ne progresses little further in the study
OF human nature he finds that she is diSnosei
10 indulge In extravagant apparel, and does not
uhuefstlnd the art Of housekeeping. Hence
ne concludes, and naturally enough, that unless
nis marriage should result in the adoption of Il
-, slyle Ol living, unless II
snoulo tent TO diminish rather than increase
ms expenses, and last, though not least, unless
ne could truly and devOtedly love the ono 10
Whom he had paid attentions, il would be pol-
!cy lSr MN TO remain in a statB OF eellbacy I'M
III ne should meet with one who would be more
hkeIy to accommodate herself to his circum
stances.
it will be seen then, that the novelty of mat.
rimOnlal engagements Is attributable not so
hnch To tho lack OF intercourse between the
young as to the almost entire deficiency on lie
part OF the fair sex in those Accomplishments
which every wise mau seeks in order 10 realize
the highest felicity of whichthe marriage state
is susceptible.
Things should not be so. For of all the in
situations that affect humanity on the earth.
none IS more important than MARRIAGE And it
should DO the chief study OF young women to
make themseivesworthy OF that alteration which
The opposite sex is capable of bestowing. Be-
sides, the young man who marries not, leaves
one who might have made him a happy and
useful companion, to pine in maidenhool of
heart, through all the weary days Of life, to be
less useful in society than she might have been.
had he performed his duty to himself and her,
IL becomes the stern Obligation of all to pre
pare for u life of usefulness, to make them
selves acquainted with that employment which
is lifted to ennoble any sphere or station, and
when tile proper age arrives at which u matri-
momal alliance may become benefit nnd a
blessing, then reciprocal relations will sprinp
up by spontaneous action and hearts will he
united which "no man can put asunder'' and
pointed union. ~
McDoNouGH, Del.