Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1857-07-30
HOME.


around us for theme on which to expatiate, when
on the opposite pavement an object arrested our
eve. It was q young mntron leading two little
daughters just blooming into girl-hood. There
was nothing novel in such an exhibition, but still
there was something in the chastencd beauty ot~the
mother, the airy buoyancy Of the little fairies by
her side and the fond maternal and daughtery ati
fection which was patent on their countenances,
that instantly recalled the associations of Home
and the beauty and attractiveness of the married
state. And pursuing these reflections 1t was but
natural for us to think of the responsibility and
various duties incumbent on the parent. Do not
understand us to say that any more responsibility
rests upon the husband or wife than upon the-soli-
tary bachelor. But the duties Of the parent can
not be evaded, without the most palpable evils
ensuing. Yet how few know those duties and
comprehend the full measure Of their moral res
possibility?
Often have we seen young men with apparently
fair prospects making their first essay in the real
tiles of life, faltering and failing at the very out
set Often have we seen the ominous shrug Of
the shoulders, and heard the prediction that he
must soon fail. Aud men have wondered why it
is so, why any man, with ordinary talent cannot
succeed respectfully at almost any business. But
education is Just as necessary for business and the
various trades as for the professions and literary
success. True, different education is required,
but the same imperious necessity exists for some
education. And that parent is just MS culpable
who ncclects to teach his son or daughter habits
of findustry, economy and business, as he who
neclects to teach them the alphabet and unfold to
them the riches of mind And so when we hear
friends whisper to each other those fearful words
"He drinks !"-our mind instantly reverts to his
home and the question involuntarily suggests it
self-has he been trained up in the way in which
he should go? Has he been taught that greatest
of all lessons-self.denial Has he been made o
moral hero? Can he bear more placidly the SCOTS
and eers of the vain and frivolous than the ashings
of conscience? Unless he has been indoctrinated
with moral heroism, he is still unfit fer the rough
his final destiny.
So likewise when we behold the frivolity and
piddiness of fair ladies' whose beauty of physique
might lead US to expect the goodness of an angel,
we feel certain that home education has been neg
lected, and the young heart, rich in every natural
grace. suffered to run riot The unadorned truth
is, that young lady of practical, common sense,
and fashionable accomplishments, is o. rara ari,.
The usunl way is to teach the accomplishments,
and leave it to their future husbauds-when they
get them-to instruct them in the practica' duties
of the wife. Unfortunately, too many husbands
are ignorant of their own and but Unqualified to
tutor Others so that it IS not at all surprising that
refractory student should provoke an ill-natured
preceptor. The consequence is that Home, is not
the "Sweet Home" which fancy had pictured out
with its daily routine of little bisses and joys and
sunshine. And friends come and look into that
cozy dwelling and wonder why they should not
be happy, and 60 away and abuse the unfortunate
husband or the unfortunate wife, just as they
chance to espouse the cause of one or the other
But their home-education was neglected and now
they know not how to begin the practical duties
of life. The poetical visions Of their young minds
fade like wreaths of snow, and the realities of life
disgust when they should be a constant source OF
pleasure But let not this picture of an unhappy
home lead US to infer that the chances for happi-
ness in the single, are better than in the married
state. 1t is true that great many ladies, and
great many gentlemen, are unfit to marry but
they are liksw Use unfit to live singly. Their home
is doomed to be unhappy whether it be the solita-
ry dormitory of the bachelor, or the cottage illu
mined by the smiles of beauty and enlivened by
the prattle of bevy of children. But notWith-
standing, we love to pursue our first reflections
and picture out q Home where common sense,
kindness and love, shall blend harmoniously to-
gether to realize the idea of domestic happiness