The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1857-04-09

as tyrannous, and the general current sets
so strongly against these occasional barriers
rs to tend to uproot them and and bear
them out to sea among the drift wood of
the flood. In the case of Miss Boxer, to
which we have referred, the young lady is
admitted to be Of an age TO decide for her
self. Whether she has chosen wisely her
future husband and protector. time alone
can prove. But we DO not sympatllise the
less with those who nurtured her IN her
childhood, and drew around her all the COM
forts which wealth could command, and
who, however mistaken they may have been
In some respects, could certainly have no
other object i'll view than a sincere desire 10
promote her welfare and happiness 1t
may be that she will succeed eventually in
raising her coachmaa husband to her own
level, but the chances are that she will fail.
1t is far more likely he will drag her down
to his; and thus the parents suffer first from
the daughters disoLcdicnce, and suisse
quenty still more severely from tie self.cn-
tailed wrctchedncss Of their blasted hopes.
l-Journul Com.
POLITENEss BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE.
The transformation worked in lover af.
ter marriage, has long been pct subject
with satirlsts. Before the nup,ial knot is
tied, the suitor is all devotion. No bust.
mess engagement is permitted to infringe on
the evenings cansccratcd to his Jfuncec. II
she drops her fan, mispaccs a glove, or
needs help i'll putting OH her shawl, he is
instantly at her side, the most eager, the
most patient, the most delicate of servants.
She has only to express wish to go to
church, or to visit some place Of amuse-
mcnt, and 10 lie waits OIL her even before
breakfast, and though it rains as If del
ugc had come. But when the irrcvocabl.
VOWS are said, and the honey moon COM
> tortably over, change too often comes
over the obscquious cavalier. Tho latent
sclfsllness of the male animal begius to
develop itself The wife has to pick up her
own fan, search for her own gloves, shawl
herself unassisted, go to church alone, get
, poor creature is happy to win even civil
answer from her rude, dogmatic lord. Men
who would be civil to even strange ser.
want, if woman, think it quite natural to
uc unpolite to their wives.
f Yet there is nothing by which even sell
] fish man can more easily benefit himself
: than by being respectful, wcl-bred and con-
siderate to to her lie has sworn to Glove
, and cherish" Sooner or later an imperi-
, Gus or exacting husband makes all indif-
b. tercnt or careless wife. Talk Of love as
: you may, eulogize the forbcarance of wo-
Q man till the language of praise is exhaus
, ted, and still tie fact remains, that as our
c sex has not monopoly of human nature
j feminine flesh and blood feels injustice
: finally quite as accutely rs ourselves. II
r may require years to make a long suffer
a ing" woman ms indignant as man would
8 become in a month, but she will get indig
: nant at last, her affection will rs inevitably
: decline, and the sweetest boon of life be
!, lost to the husband forever. For money
} which is falsely said to be able to purchase
r everything, cannot purchase love; and love
G whether at the sick bed or by the house
hold hearth, does what no paid service will
AS the truest happiness which we'll reg
!, uiated mind enjoys is in the family rela
tions, so there can be no true domestic fe.
. licity where there is injustice on one side
and its consequent alienation OH the other
, 1t may be said that if u husband loves
; his wife sincerely there is no necessity fol
these little acts Of politeness. They arc
, trifcs, we are told. But life is made up
Of trif1es. Did the lover dcspise them once
t because they were trihes? Was not some.
, thing of his earlier success attributable to
the assiduity and dclicacy with which he
piled bis gratifed mistress with these trihes
Has his wife ceased to like such attentions
Will she think the less of her husband be-
cause he shows how thoughtful lie is Of her
} comfort, even in these trif1es Believe us,
) if a woman's affection is retained undinin
ished, in spite of the rudeness of her hus-
band towards her, it would be vastly in
creased if he exhibited little Of the lovers
courtcsy-if he was cousiJerate of her in
, trif1es. 1t seems the strangest and most in
, comprehensive thing ip the world. If we
3 look at it dispassionateiy, that selfish men
think the only persons they can neglect
, with impunity are those on whom their
hppincss principally depends. They ore too
, stupidity blind, to use one of their own pet
phrases. to see that politeness to wives
"pays." For it is only Of selfish husbands
that We speak Those who respect love,
and reverence woman, as true w0maphood