Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1857-11-27

Evrpy- DAY-IirE PARAGRAPus.--In the last
number Of NoaA's Times and Messenger, we ind
the following in the correspondence column:
eIlv husband causes me much unhaPpiness
by cIandestinely corresponding with n lady, TO
whom he PROCESSES an ardent attachment SAe
knows he is a marTird man, and yet she nn.
blusningy receives attentions, AS he sun
expresses much affection for me, think ne is
led astray by an ighi&- tdtUuS, and will be lost,
like all those who follow its seductive light.
have been an aiiectionate wife to him, and have
always expressed gratitude for any kindness he
has shown; yet he sadly ncglects me. have
i,nplored him to act differently, but all to no
nurnose. He excuses his professions Of love
for another as mere gallantry and fattery to the
lady. 1t is none the less wrong, even IL SUCH Is
the case have heard him condemn the same
thing in another person, but one short year ago;
NV mind is tortured by thousand fears, and
constantly grieve for the loss of that pure, con-
iiding love once felt for him. Aiy heart is
chaos Of conflicting emotions; love, hate, wrong
and despair each try to gain the mastery W hat
shall l do to regain my peace of mind and de-
stroy the unhOly influence that surrounds him,
only to lead him to dishOnor?
ASswER.-Thcre are various remedies and
modes of redress for the evil of which you com.
plain. and which would be acceptable according
to the disposition Of the party under adyisement
Worldly counsel would suggest retaliation in
kind; and we doubt not that this on a vain or
selfish man, would infict the severest pang.-
No redress. however, not founded in principle,
can be cffectual and lasting. If, therefore, your
husband is, in other matters, man OF sense
and integrity, you may have hope that oy
proper appeal and treatment, he will come right.
IT. on the contrary, he is unstable in conduct,
unsettled in his principles, and deticient-rndle-
ALLYN a sense of duty, you can expect no per-
manent change, and as you see him doing now,
YOU NAV expect to sec him doing hereafter. 1t
is an evidence in his favor that he has been able
to secure the attachment of vile so KIND
hearted and constant rs your statement voucheS
that YOU arc; and taking it for granted he has
some good sense and good feeling, it may be adj
yiSable for Won to he little less obvious in your
afFectionatc attentions. DO not permit him to
discover how much you feel his neglect, and, IN
word adopt, to some extent, the cold-bO SyS'
tenn of treatment, and we have no doubt that :
month or two will, most cfectually, restore him
to his reason. Our advise Is, of course, given
on your state nent, and the suppositlon. that
you have not, by your own conduct, given him
cause or encouragement to depart from the path
Of affection and honor. His plea that ne cor
responds with another lady merely in a spirit o.
galiantry and as fnttering to the lady-takcr
apart from any other good qualities he may pos
sess--is too trifing to admit of consideration
and, standing by itself justification, is
scarcely entitled to notice of any kind
An other writer asks:
rs it proper for lady to ride with gentle
man who is driving tandem? ;"
ANswgR.-There is absolute and inheren
improperly in riding in vehicle drawn by two
horses in line, any more than in a single-norsc
vchicle but as it attracts special attention, ant
takes the lady out of that sphere Of unobseryet
privacy which belongs to her, and which sh'
adorns, a lady should not be eager to be one il
tandem excursion-as she should not place
herself in any other conspicuous or eccentri
| position.