The Ashland union. [volume] (Ashland, Ashland County, Ohio) 1854-1868, 1857-01-28
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ALL ABOUT MARRYING.

The world is just now in the midst of
its wedding season, says the Ohio CuL-
tiuator, and it is a favorable time to
whisper a word in the ears of the aut-
tering expectants. It is really not SO
much an object for jesting, as for seri-
GUS thought. We look upon it in that
light, and have saved some. capital re-
fections which we clipped from the San
dusky Register, a while ago, and for
which we naturally give credit to the
gracefukand practical pom of Mrs. Meta
Victoria Victor:
1T is a mournful fact hat this world
is full of young men who a to marry
and dare not. Deny this, as some will,
it is nevertheless true, as we can easily
show. In this town, for instance, there
are some thirty or forty young men,
wefl-teldo in the way of salaries and
business yet who refuse to take the step
whieh they ALL WANT TO TAKE, but do
NOT; aud Why !? The large majority of
them have salaries ranging from $500,
to 500 per year, and a few have $500
and $1,000 per year. Now, the first
question to be asked by any sane man is,
can | properly support a wife if take
one? Then he counts the cost of living
as the women of preference would wish,
and To- he finds to his amazement that
this income is vastly too small to sup
port even a modest modern establish
ment; and somewhat saddened by the
reflection he pluuges into labor, and
courts business with an assiduity that
takes away his health eventually, in
hope of attaining an income that shall
enable him to marry and have a home
of his own. And this is the secret of all
the hard, unending toll of the young men
of to-day who are fast approaching thirty
years of age-this is the reason of so
many disappointed men and waiting
women, deny it or hide it as you may,
But, says some good womsn, you do
us injustice, for any ome who truly
loves a man will adapt herself toshis cir
cumstances with the greatest plesure.-
But what man of any sensitiveness, or
high sense of honor, would take q wo-
man from easy circumstances and a
pleasant and well. furnished home to
adorn his little four rooms and do his
housework, as the first principles of
economy would demand of him? Few
will do it; for, though the woman sig
nifes her willingness to take up with
such experience, we are all such crea.
lures of circumstance that there would
be complainiDgs on her part, event
ually; sickness from o~ver-exertion /;
nd u~nhappiness from many cares-all
Of which would render marriage any
thing else but pleasant. And so the
young men very wisely think, preferring
q few years more Of single loneliness, in
order to obtain money enough to sup
port a modest house of between twelve
OF fifteen hundred dollars a year expense.
rather than to place a modernly educa-
ted woman into the house of six hun
dred dollars q year, where she must do
her work.
Now, what is the remedy? Plainly
that must ft themselves to be
such wives as the young men must have.
Else tie young men must st themselves
70 be such husbands as the women want,
aud the very choicest years of
their life ii tie dismai d~rndgery of a
ce7ssiess toll bes4king aomn health,
h4PPiness energy oaly 70 give them
selves up 10 marriage gtisn the best of
their inaahasd is gone. The women
must chooses for themselves which it shall
be, for the matter is SHELLY in their hands.
Let mothers say to their daughters,
put on that calico gown, go into the
kitchen and prepare dinner, take charge
Of this household, and fs yourself to be-
come o wife and q mother-le the young
women cheerfully consent to such SER
vice; and, instead Of lavishing all
thought, and time, and money, upon the
adOrnment of the body, seek to accus-
tom the bands to proper industry, and
to school the mind to proper tastes
then there viii be no longer complaint
that young men " cannot afford to mar
ry,n and we shall have beautiful, mod.
est houses all around us, and women
will have loving husbands, and life shall
one more have something of the truth.
fitness and virtue which it mad in the
days Of our blessed fathers and mothers,
when it was woman's ambition to become
the head Of the house, and the mother
OF noble children.
-N%N-- M
Il There is a man out west 30 for
getfal of faces, that his wife is compelled
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