Delaware weekly Republican. [volume] (Wilmington, Del.) 1841-188?, 1857-03-26
Two Ways of Managing Husbands.
BY pERctE II. sgLToS.

Few things are more common in domestic
life, than for the husband and wife to strive for
the mastership and thus human beings, who
ought to assist each other, and dwell together
in affection, frequently pass life of dscord In
rendering each other unhappy. The husband
who Is not greatly influenced by prudent and
affectionate helpmate is unworthy Of her, and
the wife who so far forgets herself as to try to
rule her husband, will not increase her happi-
ness by usurping his authority. The husband,
when he is aware that his wife has more pru-
dence, Judgment, and talent than himself, does
well to avail himself of them by leaving TO her
the management of affairs requiring the eXer-
else of these qualities. II Is purely selfish
motive that actuates either husband or wife to
rule eacs other, and yet this motive, unworthy
as it is, exerts its baneful influence ia ten thou
sand times ten thousand hearts.
MIR. Conner was well-meaning man Of very
| little energy of character, and was completely
under the control of his wife. Mrs. Conner
was continually Boosting no man should rule her
| that she tooS care to let her husband see that
| she had spirit, and that she could make him do
what she liked at any time. Poor Mr. Conn0r
submitted to this thraldom very patiently,
rather than contend with her, for when he did
try to contend with her, she got into such
| dreadful passions that she actually terrified
him half out Of his senses, and he trembled like
one in an ague to secure his own peace he
consented to her ruling him, and r1le him she
did in every thing.
Mr.. Cooper, neighbor, was fond OF laugh
ing at Mr.. Corners weakness. "WOuld j )" he
often said, "be such poor, spritess being as
to he ruled by my wife No, never! Poor
Conner dare not say that the sun shines, with
out first asking leave OF his wife; but my wife
knows pretty well that my will must be obey
ed" Now this very positive overwhelming dis
position on Cooper's part enabled His wife to
manage him easily; il She wanted to stay Mt
home, she proposed to 60 OUT, when he imme-
diately determined not to stir foot out Of
doors, to show he was master; ii she really
wished walk, she had only to request him tC
allow her to finish what she was engaged il
within doors, and he would put on his hat, ant
in dictatorial manner tell her to put on he
, bonnet.
Mrs. Conner and Mrs. Cooper once ageed t.
have days pleasure, it was therefore settlet
!, between them that their husbands should tax
them to place Unpopular resort, about twely
miles distance. 1t was only necessary for Mrs
Connor TO express her intention in q dctermin
I ed way, when her husband, to avoid quarre
, agreed directly to drive her over. Mrs. Coope
! however, went another way to work. She WI
> determined to go, and commenced to her hG
band as follows -.,Wogld SeI 6slsySste MI MI
5n5ngl TO spend whole day id visit TO Blu
: Springs; they mean to so Tomorrow" Say
Mr.. Cooper, 81 do not know there is anythin
: so silly in IL; il j felt disposed to go there
anywhere else would CO." "Csrtainly," sal
Mrs. Cooper. ''you might 60, but you woul
: not be so unreasonable as to take me ther
It against my will" against your will indeed
u said Mr.. Cooper ''a wife ought to have no wi
II but that of her husband if thought prop
!, for you to go, you should 60" excuse me
IL said Mrs. Cooper, ssyou have had your ov
y way too much; il l were determined not To
I, you would find some trouble in persuad
NJ me-" "Troublo in persuading YOU" sa
{, Cooper; stthen / am resolved to go, and "
re shall, GO too. will have my way, Mrs. Coop
70 and no wife in the world shall control me;
tomorrow morning prepare to 60 to t
OF Springs, for whether you will or not, thu
ID shall you CO." "Mr. Cooper" said his wi
81 know when you take thing into your he
"a you will have your own way never yet n
70, with SO determined man."
hu "Well," retorted Mr.. Cooper, 81 will ha
IN my way, and to show you that will, | v
have chaise at the door at eight O'clock"
the morning Mr.. and Mrs. Conner set off, q
Ia sosn after the Coopers MIR Cooper fully
ler terhncd to convince his wfe that he was 10
eH ter, his wife secretly delighted to think h
ite well she had managed him.
zee There are too many wives, who are either
WI Mrs. Cooper, or like Mrs. Conner and
'ot many husbands, who either drive, or are driv
my Seltislness on one part begets sellshness
are the other. A tyrannical husband makes
wife either broken-spirited or cunning.
my exacting wife changes even good husb<
into dissipated or unmanly one. There she
w BIO mutual consideration for each other s wis
s.a on both sides; and without this, indeed, I
y or permanent happiness, in the married sta
MY is impossible. Neither husband nor '
gly should ever think Of managing the other.