Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1857-03-18
MARRIED POLITENESS.

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And the husband answered, "yes, my
dear, with pleasure"
1t was quietly but heartily said the
tone, the manner, the look, were per-
fectly natural, and very affectionate.-
We thought how pleasant that courteous
reply! How gratifying it must be to
the wife! Many husbands of ten years
experience are ready enough with the
courtesies of politeness to the young Ia
dies of their acquaintance, while they
speak with abruptness to the wife, and
do many rude little things without con-
sidering them worth an apology. The
stranger, whom they had seen yester-
day, is listened to with Difference, and
although the subject may not be of the
pleassntest nature, with ready smile !;
while the poor wife, if she relsles do
mestic grievance is subdued, or listened
TO with i'll concealed impotence, o! how
wrong this is-all wrong.
Does she urge some request" oh
don't bother mel" cries her gracious
lord and master. Does she ask for \
necessary fund for Susy's shoes or Tom
my's hat-''seems to me you're always
wanting money % is the handsome re-
tort. Is any little extra demanded by his
masculine appetite-it is ordered, not
requested. Look here, want you to
do SO and so-jus; see that it is done;"
and off marches Mr.. Boor, with bow
and smile Of gentlemanly polish and
friendly sweetness for every casual ac-
quaintance he may choose to recognize.
When we meet with such thoughtless-
ness and coarseness. our thoughts revert
to the kind voice and gentle manner of
the friend who said, yes, my dear, with
pleasure" Il beg your pardon" comes
as readily to his lips when by any little
awkwardness he has disconnected her, as
it would in the presence of the most
fashionable stickler for etiquette. This
is because he is a thorough gentleman,
who thinks his wife in all things entitled
to precedence. He loves her best why
should he hesitate 10 show it, not in sick
ly, maudlin attentions, but in preferring
her attentions, aud honoring her, in pub
lie as well as private. He knew her
worth, why should he hesitate to attest
it! "And her husband, he praises her."
saith holy writ; not by fulsome adula!ion
not by pushing her charms into notice.
but by speaking. as occurs, in manly
way, of her virtues. Though words
may seem little things, and slight atten-
tons almost yalueless, yet depend upon
it. they keep the flame bright. especially
if they are natural. The children grow
up in better moral atmosphere, and
learn 10 respect their parents as they see
them respecting one another. Many
boy takes advantage Of mother he loves,
because he sees often the rudeness of
his father. Insensibly he gathers to bis
bosom the same habits, end the thoughts
and feelings they engender, and in his
turn becomes the petty tyrant. Only
his Inother-why should he thank her,
father never does. Thus the home be-
comes the seat of disorder and unhap-
piness. Only for strangers are kind
words expressed, and hypccrites go out
from the hearth stone, fully prepared to
render justice, benevolence and polite
ness, TO any and every one but those
who have the highest claims. All! give
US the kind glance. the happy homestead
the smiling wife and courteous chill
dren of thesfriend who said so pleasantly,
eyes, my dear, with pleasure. - Ladies'
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