Preble County Democrat. [volume] (Eaton, Ohio) 1857-1859, 1857-10-01
Two Ways of Managing n Hus-
band.

1.-TWO Ways Of Managing n HuS-
band.
| Few things are more common in do
mestic life than for the husband and
wife to strive for the mastership and
thus human beings who ought to assist
each other, and dwell fngether in affec-
ton, frequently pass aslite Of discord in
rendering each other nnhappy. The
husband who is not greatly influenced
by prudent and affectieqates helpmate
is unworthy, and the Efa who so far
forgets herself as to try S-seIe her hus-
band, wili~not increas0 her happiness
by usurping his authority. The hus-
band, when he is aware that his wife
has more prudence, Judgment, and tai
ent than himself, does well to avail him
self of them by leaving to her the man
agemeut of affairs requiring the cxer-
else of these qualities. It is a purely
selfish motives that actuates either hus-
band or wife to rule each other, and yet
this motive, unworthy as it is, exerts its
baneful influence in ten thousand times
ten thousand hearts.
Mr.. Connor was well-meaning man,
of very little energy of character, and
was completely under the control of his
wife. Mrs. Connor was continually
boasting no man should rule her, that
she took care to let her husband see
that she had spirit, and that she could
make him do what she liked at any
time. Poor Mr.. Connor submitted to
this thraldom very patiently, rather
than contend with her, for when he did
try to contend with her, she got into
such dreadful passions that she actually
terrified him half out of his senses, and
he trembled like one in the ague; to Sc
cure his own peace, therefore, he con-
sented to her ruling him, and rule him
she did in everything.
Mr.. Cooper, neighbor, was fond of
laughing at Mr. Connor's weakness.
Would l." he often said, ''be such a
poor, spiritless being as to be ruled by
my wife? No, never! Poor Conner
dares not say that the sun shines, with
out asking leave of his wife; but my
wife knows pretty we'll that my will
must be obeyed."
Now, this very positive, ovnrbearing
disposition on Mr.. Cooper's part ena-
abled his wife to manage him easily
If she wanted to stay at home, she pro-
posed to go out, when he Immediately
determined not to stir a foot out of
doors, to show he was master; if she
really wished for a walk. shs.<had only
to request him to allow kex-ts Enish
what She was engaged in wis III doors,
when he would put on his liSk and in
ii dictatorial manner tell her1o put on
her bonnet. -.
Mrs. Conner and Mrs. Cooper once
agreed to have days pleasure; it was
therefore settled between them that
their husbands should take them to a
place of popular resort, about twelve
miles distant. 1t was only necessary
for Mrs. Conner to express her inten-
ton in a determined way, when her
husband, to avoid a quarrel, would
agree directly to drive her over. Mrs.
Cooper, however, went another way to
work She was determined to go, and
commenced to her husband as follows:
Would you believe said she, ''that
our ncighbors, the Connors, are silly
enough to spend whole day in a visit
to Boxhill? They mean to go to-mor-
row."
Says Mr.. Cooper-''I do not know
that there is anything so silly in it; if
I felt disposed to go there or anywhere
else, would 50" aar.
-"Ccrtainly," said Mrs. Cooper, 'you
might 60, but you would not be so un-
reasonable as to take me there against
my will
Against your will, indeed - said Mr.
Cooper, "a wife ought to have no will
but that of her husband; if thought
proper for you to go you should GO
Excuse me- said Mrs Cooper, ''you
have had your own way too much; if I
were determined not to go. you would
find some trouble in persuading me-
Trouble in persuading you" said
Mr, Cooper, ''then am resolved to go,
and you shall go too. 1 will have my
way, Mrs, Cooper, and no wife in the
world shall control me; so tomorrow
morning prepare for Boxhill, for wheth-
er you will or not, there shall you go"
Mr.. Cooper" said his wife, Il know
when you take n thing into your head.
you will have your own way; 1 never
yet met with so determined man.