The Evansville daily journal. [volume] (Evansville, Ia. [i.e. Ind.]) 1848-1862, 1857-02-18

Mr. SABIN's LEcTURE.-The following COM
has been handed US for publica-
ton. We commend it to the attention Of
married men generally:
TO the Editor of the Journal: The an
Of Mr.. Sabn's discourse upon
'WOman," called out a large and fashionable
audience last evening. l had thought the
subject almost exhausted, so numerous have
been the attempts to make us understand
what We are. Nothing particularly new was
advanced; everybody acknowledging years
ago, that we're either angels or devils-which
the gentleman did not say.
Some funny things were said, which brought
down the house," that is, the male part of it,
principally, Of course, at Our expense. Their
delight was SO vociferous at mention of some
OF the little peculiarities Of our sex, that l
began to wonder why there was no one to VOL
unteer lecture upon the noble character Of
man; no public expose ever having been made
of him, except as political animal. There
are doubtless many married ladies like my
self, who feel that there are many phases in
his every day character which we only know
and appreciate. 1t is true, there was slight
cusing himself in staying away from home out
of business hours, and of how easily We were
cajoled by these excuses. Also, we were
generously admitted to be his equal in many
respects, in connection with some jOcose re-
marks about his pockets" which 1 am sure,
few of us practically understand. Now, the
truth is, that here is a rife cause Of much OF
the discomfort that woman feels, and one of
the causes Of this striving after their rights SO
much ridiculed by the sex IN power.
Woman, as general rule, has no equality
Of right az her husbands purse lie holds the
strings, and | am persuaded, that in at least
six cases out of ten, halt dollar or dollar is
doled out to his wife more grud gngly than it
would be given III aims to a street beggar.-
A married woman, whose husband occupies a
respectable position in business, is prevented
by that very fact from making any exertion
herself to supply her daily wants. Her very
regard for him is one drawback to so doing,
for who does not know that man is regard
ed with sort of reproach by his fellows, il
he permits his wife to labor, (aside from her
acknowledged duties) for her support, unless
he be disabled by disease. Then how quick
ly does the wife put her shoulder to the
wheel, and work for him. Does man imagine
that a woman's love for him makes pecuniary
dependence upon him the less disagreeabe?
| kaOlo it does not. And the hateful neces-
sity imposed upon SO many wives of actually
begging for a dollar for pair Of gloves, or
money to buy pins and needles, is as CALLING
to her as the most AFFECT slavery would be.
How noble man looks, after having been
besought for means to purchase some re-
Tor tha Ia p,tlx xvha ha
luctantly hands out two dollar bill, asking
"where in the world the last went to-" and
to make this 60 as far as possible" and the
next moment give thirty or forty dollars fol
membership in some town association, for his
own pleasure, or because his friends wish it,
Husbands! you have little idea of the effect
your stinginess, your closeness, is having, moi
only upon the disposition of your wives. but
upon her loJe and respect for you. No woman
can respect or love husband who keeps hel
so degraded in this pecuniary sense. Her self.
respect is constantly wounded and he, rs the
cause, does not excite the most tender or Low.
ing thoughts. Degrade woman thus, and
| do not blame her for running in deb
wherever your credit is good. Give her wha
she deserves, and what you would pay any
one cheerfully who does half she does, anc
she will be as careful of your honor in money
matters, and as prudent in expenditure as yor
would have her. Give her an allowance &C
cording to your means, that she may be a
liberty to give quarter in charity, or feel thu
pleasure that sell. denial bestows, in order Il
benefit worthy object, without coming t
you to beg for it, or after it is done, to b
brought to account to you for it. DOES not
man promise to honor his wife, and "love'
her, and is it either honoring or loving her. Il
shut up his purse, denying her what she re
quires and deserves, because he labors t
make it? husbands. be true TO your own ma
lures, be true to your wives, give her her in
disputable rights" in this respect. Max,
her an independent woman if she is you
wife, and your approving heart, and her con
tented face, will be n greater reward than
generous man will desire. a WIFE.
FEB. 18th, 1867.