The Tipton advertiser. [volume] (Tipton, Cedar Co., Iowa) 1856-1962, 1857-09-12
A Good Mother.

A good mother, instead of being a
woman of the world, leads As retired a
fife in her own house as nun in her
convent. We ought, then, to act in the
same monner with regard to young VIC
men before they are married, as is custo-
mary with those who are to take the veil
Let them. enjoy all the pleasures of the
World before they renounce them, lest
the false images their imaginations might
portray of unknown pleasures should one
day lead their hearts astrap, and destroy
the happiness Of their retirement Mo-
theirs, treat yoar daughters az your dom-
panions, cultivate in them good sense and
an honest and upright heart, and then
you need not conceal anything modest
woman may know.
DO not read your daughters hug lee
lures on prudence and chastity, but make
them feel that by fulfilling their duties
they will cEsure their own happiness
Show them that it is their interest to
conduct themselves with propriety; teach
them to distinguish between men of worth
and men Of the world inspire fhtm with
respect for The one, and contempt for the
other; let chem wish to awaken low, by
meriting the esteem of the good and by
these means you will most etFectualy rcn-
der them all you can desire.
Teach your daughters that both their
happiness and the establishment of their
rights as women will depend upon the
fulilmcnt of their duties. Is it hard
task to love in order to be beloved? To
make themselves agreeable that they may
be happy? TO render themselves esti-
mable that they may be esteemed? To
respect themselves that they may be re-
spcctcd by others? How charming, how
engaging, how respectable are these
rights How dear to the heart of man
when woman knows how ia exercise
them properly J. Nor is il necessary to
wait for old age to enjoy them. A wo-
mans empire is coeval with her virtues
Her beauty, her charms, her attractions,
scarcely begin to open, ere she governs
by that sweetness and that gentleness
which render her medesty irresistible.
The roughest, the most unfeeling man,
must be softcned when in company with
an amiable and sensible girlGn the bloom
Of life, who speaks little, but is attentive
to what is said, whose manners are gen
tie, whose conversation is modest, whose
beauty does not lead her to forget her
sex or youth, who interests every one by
her timidity, and who gains the esteem
Of the whole world by the respccttulness
of her department
Though We have said that woman
snould be perfectly feminine, and attend
to the duties of her sex, il does not fol-
E low that she is to be kept in state of
ignorance, or that hen whole knowledge
is to be confined to the Infringement of
the house. Shall man make a servant of
his companion? sliah he deprive her of
the pleasures of society, the mere com
:, .,etely to enslave her? Shall he pre-.
ut her feeling or knowing anything
J hall he make her mere automaton ?
Surely not Nature did not mean il
when she gave woman such acutencss
and penetration. On the contrary, it il
+, intended that they should think and
+ Judge for themselves, that they should
4 have their attachments and aversions,--
that they should acquire knowledge, ant
:, adorn their understandings as we'll al
: their persons. These are the arms will
g which they are furnished to supply thci'
: want Of strength, and to enable them tt
- govern mankind. Women should lcarl
many things, but these should be onl,
such as are suitable aud useful to them
. \ young woman should endeavor
. above all, to gain and preserve the cs
s teem Of her husband; she should no
- only wish him to love her, but to an
~ prove her conduct, and should publicI,
i Justify his conduct by respect paid to hi
y, wife.