Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1857-11-18


we have termed them, cvcry-day-li life paragraphs
The first is from prudent father, who has an
eve TO an eligible match, and who asks:
"Do you consider man keeping corner
grocery where liquor is sold, suitable match
for a Young lady who is member of the church,
and yery religiously inclined? The above queS-
tion ask in reference tony daughter, who is 70 1
wears of age, and who seems to think her |
chances, on that account, to make a better match
are gone. She never cared great deal for the /
man. but having a natural aversion to being
calIed an odd maid, she favors his advances"
ASswIK-We do not see an objection to the
match in the fact that the proposed husband
keeps a grocery nor because that grocery hap
mems to be on a corner. The question of the
sale of liouor raises another issue, which VIII
be disposed of according to the views OF party.
on that specia! question: Inc other features Oh
YOUR communication are such us we can take
into account, as they involve in, an nnmTstaka-
bic way, the personal comfort and happiness OF
your daughter. To marry merely to get one
off from ones own hands, md to avoid single
life, is the last plea under which matrimony
should be engaged in. 1t is running from the
bear into the sea-fying from that which may
mr. may not be an evil to an association which
is begun in mistake, and must end in misery;
for affection, and certain compatibility or sym
pathy of disposition and tastes, are the lndlS'
pensible key and beginning of happiness IN the
marriage relation. Your daughter should not,
if she be sensible woman, trouble her head
with the Continuance the consideration OF
"better or worse" matches, but should keep
guard upon herself against falling into any such
deIusive matrimonial sophism. Let her seek TO
ioin herself to- one whom she can love and re-
spect, and if she will but carry this light with
her in her intercourse with our sex, she cannot
go far wrong.
The next comes one from a man who has evil
IDENTIFY seen the Eldphamtine phase of married
life. He proceeds at length thus
have been several years married, and have
always tried to please my wife to the best OF my
ability, but cannot, although believe that she
knows am very indulgent She is of an in
tensely Jealous disposition, carrying her pa
roxysms so far at times as to violently assault
me: and this without a shadow of real cause
Within the past year she has sought revenge
against me for imaginary wrongs, bylcaving me
and going to her family, who reside in distant
CITY, The last time this occurred went for
s GsiTr' a 2n4 fh eu WrRongw6en knew was ight-
for the purpose Of getting her back, and not
let the world know that we had parted. Again
she has done the same thing on the most trltilng
provocation. | should be willing to support her
where she is if was satisfied with her family;
but her sister, who is much older than my wife,
and the constituted head Of the family, is a wo-
man ofknown bad reputation, of violent temper,
and incorporate habits, and my wife Is natur-
ally subjected to her example and influence.
would ask if l have no remedy in such case
Is not deserti0n under these circumstances cause
for divorce, or can not exercise legal infiu-
encc over her in some way, without forcing her
into submission by Withholding money from her,
which course on my part, might drive her to
criminal means to obtain it 2"
| ANswER-You state case difficult of solu-
ton, as the trouble as you represent it. lies not
! Il hOfi in
ference in temperament and disposition. Are
YOU quite clear that you do not furnish, by IN
nocent and yet inconsiderate conduct and acts,
material for the peculiar temper of your wife to
fasten on? Are you attentive to her as you
should be- and do you not occasionally CRAFTY
your vanity by INDUCING in a little harmless,
though quite obvious and yet significant tllrta-
ton with pretty woman who is not your wife?
Do YOU spend all of the hours you should ut
home? And, have you taken all propersteps to
conciliate to yourself the good will OF your
wife's family, rs you admit that they have
considerable, if not controlling influence over
l. her? Would it not be worth your while to take
some pains to have that influence cast in your
favor? Practically, if your wife desert you will
| fully and without cause on your part, you are
not bound for her support; but the difficulties
you mention are not sufficient, in law, TO con-
Stitute grounds for divorce. Reconsider your
own conduct as We have suggested, and the
whole matter may present itself to you in new
light, and possibly lead to permanent good
understanding. ss @
The answer is very good one, bnt still it
must read like '.cold comfort to a man in the
fix above stated. Our advice would be that of
the elder Weller to ''Samiver-''tahe pizeN."
| "a. ->SOsS---
INTERESTING TO Pork EATERs-Dr Dixon,
the racy editor of the scalpe dissects the dietic
qualities of porkcr as readily as he le>hes into
the anatomy of diseased humanity. Either the
doctor is right, or Moses of old is wrO,s;
| The wisdom of the Jewish law whic prohib-
its the use Of pork, will soon be aclln 'wlcdgcd
by all rational beings. That swine afflicted
with scrOfula and tubercles, we have repeatedly
shown, and every killer of hogs well knows it;
the indigestibility of the flesh is acknowledged,
and, if people were enlightened, the hog would
he raised for his fat alone. This is available in
all cases instead of whale and other flesh oils
a few excepted of the finer kinds for eating.
Mutton and beef, if our farmers ever become en-
! lightened may probably take the place of the
| hog, aud would add greatly to the health and
dignity of the farmers household. Hog hus-
banCry is dehasing. The influence of pork eat
| ing on the farmer is degrading Good hISban-
dry would furnish other facts for the farmer, to
say nothing of butter, which the present cata-
logue of greascs cereals aud enlightened irrisa-