Sauk Rapids frontierman. [volume] (Sauk Rapids, M.T. [i.e. Minn.]) 1855-1860, 1857-02-12
AN ENTITY: OR, THE LITTLE
s COuRTE.SIES OF LIFE.

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1.-THE beauty Of courtesy ID the ordinary
transactions Of life. The subject III an
important ore, although II may No. seem
50 to the hasty and inconsiderate Many
| a man has lost 4 fortune in consequences
Of little courtesy. Amenity Of man
ner and propriety oflanguage should be
constantly cultivated They lpssess q
magic and a charm that arr admirably
| caicuIaicti to soothe and conciiliate II
| is almost impossible to conceive how, at
times, kind word or gentle look
touches the heart. The effect, although
instantaneous, lives and fingers for years
| There are many little and compai atively
| Insignificant acts, that nevertheless dcvei-
OPP character and exercise influence
II, therefore, courtesy be constantly
adhered 10 and carfuily practised, the
effect cannot but be great. And If it be
as regularly violated and eglected, the
evil influence must be pernicious. There
are many persons who forget or neglect
to answer letter. They are INDECENT
and careless by nature-and they thus
persuade themselves that such an. omis-
SIGN is Of no Importance. Nevertheless,
a prompt response is absolutely due, as
well to gentility and propriety, as good
feeling When, too, an invitation is
given Of a kindly or complimentary
character, the omission to respond is an
absolute rudeness. 1t betrays, in the
first place, cool indifference to the
party extending the kindness, and in
the second, want Of ordinary good
breeding With many. such an omis-
sion or neglect is regarded as an insult
and is treated accordingly. Several
years ago, n gentleman who had an in
Itimate friend, took to himself partner
for life. The friend at the time was A
married man, and he put himse!fto con-
siderable trouble as vel! as expense, to
extend to the bridal party every pos
sib!e civility. He attended the wedding
in person, called subsequently with his
lady, and invited him TO visit his house
whenever they might feel so disposed.
For some cause OF other, which was
never discovered, the bride forge. or
neglected to make single return visit.
It was an errsr, perhaps Of ignorance,
perhaps Of Incidence, perhaps Of incivili-
ty but, trifing as the oversight appar-
emily was, it made deep impression,
and in the end led to GOODNESS between
the friends, who had been cordially init
mate for years. And thus it often hap
pens. On a still more recent occasion, a
| gentleman from neighboring city, who
is somewhat sensitive In such matters,
was overlooked by friend when issuing
cards for party. The matter was rem
dered more unpleasant, from the fact
that all the immediate acquaintances Of
the gentleman who was overlooked par
ticipated in the social festivity, while
several expressed surprise at his abb
sence. The slight was unintentional,
and was 50 subsequently explained. =;
And yet the fact that be was forgottsn
on such an occasion, was anything but
complimentary. All these things may
be weak, and vet we must deal with hu-
men nature as it is. Nay, it is not only
our policy, but our duty, to be friendly,
kindly, and courteous with those With
whom we are called upon to associate,
either in bushes or on a more social
footing. The little courtesies Of life
cost us nothing, and yet their value can
scarcely be over-estimated. Amenity Of
manner has a power that's felt more or
less in every walk or sphere. It i'm:
parts an additional lustre to beauty,
while it robs deformi'y Of much Of its
repulsion. who, indeed, cannot point
out some fo.cible illustration !? i fire..
quentIy happens that some Of the plain .
est Of the sterner ser, SO far as physical
advantages are concerned, are among
the most attracting and fascinating with,
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the gentler. Examine carefully into the
matter, and the secret Of their success
will be found ia alnenity Of manner and
courtesy Of department. They are con-
stantIy striving to please They avoid
every thing harsh, unkind, s. malicious,
and exert all their power to interest the
mind, to touch the feelings, and to af-
ford pleasure. They never yiolate an
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