Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1857-12-31

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dence column ofNoahs Times and Messenger for
this week, we find the follow queries and an
swers:
Query-"I. l have been in business in this
city a few weeks, and a business which pays
very we'll. am very anxious to get acquaint-
ed with some respectable young lady, with q
view to marrying her, should we be mutually
satisfied with each other. am about 20 years
of age, and of good moral character, but am so
situated that | have no opportunities of becom.
ing acquainted with the ladies, and wish to know
the best means of doing SO.
Answer:-We publish this question to reply
to it-not intending to engage to answer such
questions in general, but merely to say that you
are the representative ola large class in this
city, the existence of which our fellow-citizenS
in the rural districts will scarcely credit-young
men, estimable, honest, and worthy, almost
wholly without female acquaintance and asso-
ciates. Nor can we point out any general or
specific remedy, except that each one so situa-
ted must use his wits, and make his way for
himself as best he can. The chance sometimes
presents itSelfin one form, and sometimes in an
other; and if you keep a sharp lookout and dc
not wholly seclude yourself from observation,
you may find a suitable help-mate.
QWery:-"Would it be properfor n gentleman
to ask a young lady to allow him to call on her
New Yenr's day, being only slightly acquainted
with hcr!"
Enthusiastically so. Your asking the
question, ifyou stand well in point of char,
actcr, as we presume you do, would be taken
as n delicate attention, and would, we have no
doubt, be favorably entertained.
Query:-"A gentleman pays his attentions
to a young lady for sometime, when suddenly,
from some unknown cause, she writes that she
wishes his visits discontinued. He immediate
ly replies, and requests the return of his letters
on the receipts of written by her. She
receives her letters, and replies that she vii
give an answer next day. The bearer calls &C
cording to appointment, and receives the same
reply as on the proceeding day. Again he calls
when the lady answers him by saying that she
don't see why he is in such n hurry The gen
tleman has now waited some six weeks, and re-
ceives as yet no reply. What would you adj
wise in such u case? Would it be well to place
it in the hands of a lawyer"
AHSner:-The case you state belongs to a
class which it is wisest to dispose of in private
by a conciliatory course, rather than a resort to
public measures or aid of the law. So far as the
Question of propriety is concerned, if you have
returned the lady's letters she is under the
strongest obligations to return yours. We dc
not know that you have any summary or legal
remedy to recover them. 1t has been decided
that letters are the property of the writer, but
we do not know of any decision in our courts
wdich would deprive the party to whom they
are addressed of their possession and personal
custody. She or he may not part with them to
n third party, for publication or otherwise but
may, in our Judgment, retain them at pleasure.
The employment of n lawyer, to answer youI
direct question, would not be likely to avail you
and, as We first supposed, y0u had better give
your attention to moro conciliatory courses.