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ueepest interest and Solicitude Of your fu
tnre prospects aud you will, am sure, per-
NIT ~ elder sister to make few suggest.
ions, which may proove useful to you aud
which q! Any rate have their origin 10 sister.
/ affection. SO much has been said iu prose
aud verse, by the wise aud foolish Of your
sex aud our owu, TO instruct teO,Aaa 10 her
anties, that it IL truly q worn out topic -
Unless VIC have turned 4 deaf ear 20 the
VOICES OF the dead aud the living wo can
never plead ignorance in sxtenuatioh Of our
errors, although l grant that in this ss in
ali thingsr We need line upon line have
often wondered why no one ventures TO bin,
TO the nob1ey ser, that they too m gbt 10 ma.
ny cases seek out q more excellent way -
Methinks bear you cay, 'is il not sincere
aud devoted affection a sufficient warrant
for discretion aud happiao.s in married life D
Doubles that, in union with true religion.
isthe surest, nay the oniy true reliance. vet
reeoileet bow natural error is to humanity
when We hrst embark in the ocean Of life,
with calm sea, n smiling sky aud loving
friends watching US from the shore, all seems
80 auspleious that 10 is difhcalt to feel that
We eau ever need chart or beacon light, but
by and bye come the rude gust aud the an.
! CRY wave, when We are glad to welcome their
freiudly aid
Perhaps you may think some Of my sug
! gestions trivial, but il is mostly in kifie
! hHgs the danger lies, for knoW your sin.
eere affection aud correct principles will
! guard you from all fragrant errors Of omis.
sion or commission.
! Beware the fashionable folly Of treating
! your wife With less atteLtion than any other
/ woman,
Hrrnuae C,rs 9th n n,.r-f.I
shou!i ssen Hnsbaekiet n he can
Any ahectisDate wife is gratifed by de.
monstratiOu Of thoug ghtfuluess Of her comfort
aud eonv 'nieBce Keep up those little hab
its OF attention aad civility when yuu are a
husband, which were indispensable m n Low
er III you we're possessed Of a Cue estate
free from mortgage aud With an undisputsd
title, you would not be so foolish for ali that
as to neglect the boundaries leave fences
down and gates open then why not as care.
fully guard the boundaries Of eivility and
good temper in married life II your wife
should sometimes hint 10 you that some hab.
h needs correction or that you have a fault
OF which perhaps you are uucon nseious. don't
compass sea aud land TO prove that she is
mistaken, or that the fault is hers, not yours,
ccndeseend to afmit that you may be guilty,
ana be manly enough 70 manifest by greater
earefainess In future, thai you eau at least
bear mild reproof With good humor.
Never interfere iu domestic ArranRements
If your wife needs advice In regulating the
affairs Of her household, she will ind female
friends experienced aud willing 90 eulighte
her woman Who possesses good M.
derstaDding aud meutAl cultivation may rise
to some comprehension Of her husbands af.
fairs may even aid him By her advice or
Pinion, but man must never descend 20
meddle in household matters, and the mi
putie OF laundry aud harder You may
smiie aud thIuk this an odd piece Of advise
but you doR't know 10 what you may be
tempted; IL is habit that men not seldom
fall toto Neither expect that boeiuss you
are she master Of the house, that YOU can
control circumstances, and have all things
/ just az you could wish at all times Men
/ often seem TO think their own case md en-.
| joyment the only legitimate aim Of the fam-
| ily arrangements, 20 expect exemption from
I every annoyance, and almost that the very
laws Of nature will bs reversed to meet their
wishes os their Wbims There are accidents
aud exigencies 10 the lot Of man as we'll a.
I Of woman, and they should be met with
I ehcsrfuluess aud equanimiiy
! Some men are evidently Displaced ifthey
/ ever sec a sad or earewOrn e0nnteuauee AZ
| their dresids; youAg men 10 particular. who
! have yet 60 learn that even married life is
not all eoskesr de ,ose grant that an AZ.
feeiionate wife viii try 20 govern those feel.
J ings which cause the shade upon the brow,
! sud will for bsT husbands sake make an II
J fort 10 DO cheerful, bat II she have sometimes
i heavy lFsaft, stink not 10 effort cheerful.
/ ness by foproaoh 4 little genilsssss aud
I sympathy WOuld heal, where upbraiding will
bat make deeper Hound know that "a co
have their y0zatiOns.aud often heavy respon
sibilities aud cares, in eueounteripR the
rough aud tumble of life bat then they are
/ made of sterner stuff 20 meet H. aud they
would Involve themselves IN the sane exar.
ton and turmoil 20 enrich then selves 10 they
we're unmarried. Bat EomA gives up all
! for her husband aud hsr family, her withor.
T ed bloom, her anKiaus careful days, Der
uatchful uights, are for 90 selfish end n
Sometinss the oil Of Joy baras dim b. L.
uieut Kind sbi gentle until u trkiuilrs -
Eysn u oriiaary health and eligible sircum
stances are tho lot Of wenau in Ter mar.
Tisd bis s,ill n she be devoted sifs. her
I thoughts and often her hsods to- afa the
hvelJag day employed ia your behalf You,
10 che hustle % business or msutal ougr1ss
meut must uecesssfily lag ssids iamciiate
thosghts ~ hcr aud youf mutuai domestic
Interests, bus Jour aifo Wbiles away The
ionE bsufs of Jour absesnoe 10 sfddyipg your
Hoifaro, ani ibs good order 0f your house
bold Perhaps iho isy is spshi .n prepsr
Jog comforts for Jour wardrobe NJ q siIra-ies
for youF iablg, ani you return bone % had
y auii. % discover some inadycrtsnt omission
sni this one exception oblit. rates fh q iLsa.
sani thiags which have been uAtebfang fe.
bsmbsrsd OF such unFess9usbls8esi. ob
beware
Perhaps there are n1t tuo other such gs.
" laps ofstfifs, ss iaUafisHo aod rssytataa.
ftoa. ihey slnost alusys gs toEsthor and
PsTaona are noFs ready 70 soknouisdrs any
halt tbaa "a iapstieni anFsasousb be temper.
hhasbau9s aud wives uoald snly isafu 20
bsas sud foFhsar - fssiine lhst ihs ped a
ii is aitsfaai --thsgs vouid ~ 81 ed - ssa
iuial strife
10 sea uould babitasllg ausll % ths val
uabls qusiiiios sai Sftass sf ttsir wives.
hey souid aato = Freat siiitian % ths
fsnd ef aatrimssiai happioess f1f dec Z
gifs possess e clear mihd cod souud ia3r
msnf isi tsr hasbsn1 sysii biussif II hsr
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