Yorkville enquirer. [volume] (Yorkville, S.C.) 1855-2006, 1856-07-10
NO. 90.
THE SIN & FOLLY OF scoLDING.

THE SIN & FOLLY OF scoLDINa.
1. It's san against Goa.-It is sevil, and
only evil, and that continually. David un-
derstood human nature and the law ofGod.
He says, "Fret not thyself in any wise to do
evil. That is, never fret or scold, for it is
always sin. If you cannot speak without
fretting or scolding keep silence.
2. 1t destroys afection.-No one ever did,
ever can, or ever will love an habitual fret
ter, fault-fnder, or scolder. Husbands,
wives, children, relatives, donestics, have
no affection for peevish, fretful, fault-ind-
ers. Few tears are shed over the graves Of
such. Persons of high moral principles may
tolerate them-may bear with them. But
they cannot love them more than the sting
of nettles, or the noise of mosquitoes. Ma
uya man has been driven to the tavern, to
dissipation, by peevish, fretful wife. Ma
ny a wife has been made miserable by a pee
wish, fretful husband. - S.
His the Jane Of domestic hoppiness.--A
fretful, peevish, complaining, faultfndipg
person in family, is like the continual cha
fng of an inhamed sore. Woe to the man,
woman, or child, who is exposed to the In
fuence of such temper in another! Nine
tenths of all domestic trials and unhappiness
springs from this source. Mrs. Dis of this
temperament. She wonders her husband is
not more fond of her company; that her
children give her so much trouble that do
mestics do not like to work for her; that she
cannot secure the good will of young people.
The truth is she is peevish and fretful.--t
Children fear her, and do not love her. She
never yet gained the affections Of a young
person, nor ever will, till she leaves off fret
ting. -,
4. II defeats the end Of family govern
ment-Good family government is the blen-
ding authority with affection SO as to secure
respect and love. Indeed this is the great
secret of managing young people. Now.
your fretters may inspire fear, but they al
ways make two faults where they correct
one. scolding at child, sneering at a:
child, taunting a child, treating a child as
though it had no feelings, inspires dread and
dislike, and fosters those very dispositions !
from which many of the faults Of childhood
proceed. Mr.. G.. and Mrs. F. are of this
class. Their children are made to mind
but how? Mrs. f. frets at, and scolds her
children. She is severe enough upon their
faults. She seems to watch them in order
to find fault She sneers at them. Treats
them as though they had no feelings. She
seldom gives them command without Q
threat, and long, running, fault finding
commentary. When she chides, it is not
done in digni6ed manner. She raises her
voice, puts on a cross look, threatens, strikes
them, pinches their ears, slaps their hands,
&c. The children cry, pout; sulk, and4
poor Mrs F. has to do her work over pretty
often. Then she will find fault with her
husband, because he does not fall in with her
ways or chime with her as chorus. ::
S. Fetting and scolding make hypocrttes.
AS fretter never receives confidence and
affection, so no one likes to tell them any.
thing disagreeable, and thus procure. for
themselves fretting. Now children con,
ceal as much as they can from such persons.
They cannot make up their minds to be
frank and open-hearted. So husbands con-
ceal from their wives and wives from their
husband. For man may be brave as a lion,
but he likes not to come in contact with net
ties and mosquitoes.
8. 1t destroys ones peace Of mind.-The
more one frets the more he may. A fretter
will always have enough to fret at. Especi-
ally if he or she has the bump of order and
neatness largely developed. Something will
always be out of place. There will always
be some dirt somewhere One will not eat
right, look right, talk right; he will not do
these things so as to please them. And fret
ters are generally to selfish as to have no re-
gard for any ones comfort but their own.
7. His mark Of vulgar disposition.
Some persons have so much gall instheir
disposition, are so selfish, that they have no
regard to the feelings of others. All things
must be done to please them. They make
their husbands, wives, children, domestics,
the conductors by which their spleen and i'll
nature are discharged. We to the children
who are exposed to such influences 1t
makes them callous and unfeeling, and when
they grow up they pursue the same course
with their own children, or those entrusted
to their management; and thus the race Of
fretters is perpetuated. Any person who is
in the habit Of fretting at their husbands,
wives, children or domestics, shows either
bad disposition, or else ill-breediug; for it Is
generally your ignorant low bred people that
are guilty of such things.
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