Marshall County Democrat. (Plymouth, Ind.) 1855-1859, 1856-10-30
Who Men Should Marry.
BY MRS. PEARSON

If you are mechanic, farmer, or fol
lower of any profession, -by which you ex-
pect to support yourself and your family,
and get rich if you can, surely it is of the
utmost importance that you should marry
woman capable of assisting you in your
efforts. She should, therefore, be posses
sed of sense; goodness, and industrious and
frugal habits. Do not, therefore, suffer
yourself to be dazzled by the tasty dress,
or fall in with pretty face, or run crazy
after accomplishments, though none of
these are to be despised when accompanied
by solid sense and useful requirements
Suppose, now, as you are just beginning
life, you marry young pretty creature,
who knows nothing of housekeeping or
plain sewing. You must Immediately hiie
one or more servants, and your wife will
not be able to direct them or even to decide
whether they are prudent and capable
Whereas, if you have the right kind of a
woman, size will take pleasure in doing the
little work required by two persons, and
will always be neat and cheerful at the
same time. Thus you will save the wages,
he board, and the waste of the hired girl
who in so small family is useless and
troublesome supcrnumerary. Your wife
wife will be more healthy and cheerful for
the light labor and care of her little house
hold; and depend upon it, an experienced
wife does better than an experienced ser
want SO take woman's advice, every
man of you who earns his living by the la
Dor of his hands or head, and expect your
wife to perform the little duties Of your
household. 1t will not injure her health
or impair her beauty, but it will save her
from thousand foolish imaginings, it will
prevent her poluiing her soul with the vile
trash Of the novelist, with which idleness
intends to kill the precious hours of exist
ence, it will prevent her becominga gadder,
and a scandal monger; it will keep disorder
and waste from the kitchen, and sorrow
and shame from your soul. At the time
an increase in your family renders help
necessary, your wife will be we'll qualified
to oversee and direct, and will know what
her expenses ought to be, and to Judge what
amount of labor q woman - oblo 20 nan
form. Her habits ofindustry and manage
ment will be learned and she will be a
help to you as long as you both live
Meantime it will be your duty to make her
confident in all things. Tell her of your
success, her JOY will make it doubly pre-
cious to you. Tell her of trials, rebuffs
and disappointments; her sweet sympathy
and gentle word of hope and cheer, will
take all bitterness from your heart. Every
sorrow thus shared will strengthen the bond
oflove, and knit your hearts more intimate
ly together, and in the perfect confidence of
such a blessed union, you lean upon each
other, and know no fear, no bitter griet.
Suffer no ridiculous pride to induce you
to assume the appearance of wealth, which
you do not possess. Prove Spur inde-
pendent and true nobility by living within
your means, and letting the world know
1t. you know girl who will be to you
such a wife rs | have been recommending,
you need not fear to marry at once. You
will find the expenses of your househould
less than you now pay for the cold COM
forts of bachelorship. And there are plen-
ty of girls, who Notwithstanding false edu-
calional theories, will feel happy and hon
ored TO fill this true woman's sphere at
your side. Active duly is ever agreeable
when it has II worthy object. We enjoy
self respect, sense of our importance in
the world, AN inward appreciation in the
! discharge of four duties, which when crown
ed with loving approval of our dearest
friends, constitute the most perfect happi-
ness. Therefore, if you would have your
wife good and happy, make her your con
fdent and assistant, and be assured YOU
will find yourself prosperous ane possess
inga fullness Of content, which is far bet
ter than passionate and fuctuating bappi-
ness.
Can there be anything more deplorable,
more contemplate, than the too common
hypocriiical misery of keeping up appear
ance? And how many are condemned to
this constant struggle, deception and fear
by assuming false position at the com
mencement And what did these persons
ever gain by their abject slavery to cast
Merely the passing notice of few fashion
ables, who doubtless. sneeled at the pre-
tentions which they tolerate. BY daring
to appear what they really are, you may
command the respect of all classes. BY
assuming to be what you are not, you will