The western Democrat. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1852-1870, 1856-03-25

HOW TO AVOID THE FIRST CROSS
WORD

In the Southern Ladies' Companion for
June, happy wife thus imparts the secret
of her happiness: I'm the first place, it is
| important that you should marry the man
that you love. Without love, the first,
second and third cross word will be ant to
come; aye, and sour looks, sneers, and alter
cations too. Marry the man you love, and
after you are married do not consider that
your husband has nothing to do but to dance
attendance on you. But consider that he
has the business that is necessary for YOUR
welfare on his hands, and that if he neglects
to attend to it strictly he will become in
volved, and perhaps come to beggary. In
the next place, consider well what is your
duty, and endeavor to do it to the very
letter. Base indeed must be the man that
will be unkind or Indifferent to wife, when
he knows that she does her duty. In the
next place, cOnfne yourself in your expen-
ditures to your husbands income. 1t must
be very great cross indeed to man to
have an extravagant wife. When your
husband comes home, weary with the bust
ness of the day, have everything as neat
and comfortable as you can. Let his repast
be as good and well served up as you can,
without being extravagant. Greet him with
a smile. If he is full of conversation, en-
deavOr to be so too. If he is not disposed
to talk, do not annoy him with constant
chat about Indifferent things, but endeavor
to engage him in conversation by talking
about things that will interest him. If YOU
do not succeed, do not sit down moping in
doggerly silence, as if you had been slight
ed, and think, because your husband does
not talk to you, that he has ceased to love
you; but attend to your own business, and
when your husband speaks to you, answer
him kindly, and let him see that you are in
a good humor. If your domestic affairs
perplex you, and you are out of humor when
he comes in, do not frown on him, nor
answer him sharply. Let him see that YOU
are kind and affectionate to him, though
your feelings may be narrowed up by other
matters. Should your husband speak harsh
ly to you, do not answer him in the same
way, but speak kindly to him, and ask him |
in what way you have offended him, (if you
do not knOw,) and endeavor to do so no |
more. am convinced that nine-tenths of |
husbands will assume pleasing look, and
be as attentive as ever. True indeed is the |
proverb, "a soft answer turneth away
wrath" If you have children, govern them
strictly, yet kindly; do not let your hus-
band have that on his hands. Let him see
that you can have order in your house
without scolding, while he is present.
Never oppose your husbands will. You
nay give him your opinion on any thing you
nay think proper; but never set up your
way, and contend for it to go so. A woman
vas not made to govern, but to be help
nate for her husband. If your husband
appears cold and indifferent to you, do not
lpbraid him with a want of affection for
you; but be as affectionate to him As ever.
md even more SO. If you have a husband
hat has common share of human kind
less about him, land hope none of the
air readers of the Companion" will be so
Unfortunate as to get one that is not,) he
will soon lose all his GOODNESS, and be the
anne he was the day he plighted lasting
owe and fidelity to you at the sacred altar.