Western Reserve chronicle. [volume] (Warren, Ohio) 1855-1921, 1856-10-01
.Gboitt Mlistellanpy.
q 4 cHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS.

Walking the other day with valued
friend, who had been confined week or
two by sickness TO his room. he remark
Ss7ed that a husband might learn good
lesson BY being confined occasionally to
his house, having in this way an oppor-
:, tunity Of witnessing the cares and never
= ending tolls of the wife. whose burdens
issand duties and patient enduring he NIGH
never have otherwise understood. There
lisa great deal in this thought. perhaps
- : enough for an editorial" Men, csPec
-. tally young men, are called by their bu-
= siness during the day mostly away from.
home, returning only at the hours for
= meals; and as they then see nearly the
same routine of duty, they begin to think
s'Gthatit IS their oa n lot To perform all the
drudgery, and 10 be exercised with all.
:, The weight of care and responsibility :
sss But such man has got very wrong
view of the case; he needs an opponuni-
IS ty for more extended observation, and it
si is perhaps for this very reason that a
as kind Providence arrests him by sickness.
- that he may learn in pain wiat he would
: fail to observe in health. We have re
Gently seen good many things said in
the. pagers TO wives. especially young
wives, exposing their faults, perhaps
magnifying them, and expounding TO.
- them, IN none of the L ndest terms their1
duty and the Offices pertaining .'wo
: men 5 sphere Now, we believe that
: wives. as a whole, are really better Than
= - they are generally admitted to be. We
:. doubt if there can be found large num-
Der Of wives who are disagieeable and
sss negligent, without some palpable cold
'''s'ness or short-coming on the part of their
- husbands. So far as we have had an
opportunity for observation, they are far
sase more devoted and faithful than those
e--xhe-siyle- themselves their lords, and
who, by the customs OF society, have
other and generally more pleasant and
.s,szxaried duties to perform. We protest,
ssathen, against these lectures so often and
SO so obtrusively addressed 10 ladies, and
insist upon it that they must-most Of
~ ,hem-hsye been written by some fusty
bachelors who know no better, or by
some inconsiderate husbands, who de-
serve to have been old bechelors to the
END of their lives. But is there moth
r. ing 10 be said on the other side ? Are
husbands SO generally The perfect, amia-
bic, injured beings they are so often
represented !? Men sometimes declare
that their wives extravagances have
picked their pockets, that their never
sa' eeasing tongues have robbed them Of
their peace. and their general disagree
= ableness has driven them to the tayerns
and gaming table; but this is generally
the wicked excuse for most wicked life
- on their own part. The fact is, men Of
= ten loose their interest in their homes by
= their own neglec, 10 make their homes
interesting and pleasant. 1t should new
t,seer be forgotten that the wife has other
- rights--as sacred afer marriage as be-
fore-and good husbands devotion to
his wife after marriage will coneede to
=; her quite as much attention as his gal
lantIy did while lover. If it is other
- wise, be most generally is at fault.
g .s~ Take few examples. Before mar
risge young man wouldfeel some delica
cy about accepting an invitation to spend
.as an evening in company where his ''la-
dye love" had not been invited. After
$50 marriage is he always as particular -
s.s During the days of courtsIrip his gallant
: ry would demand that he should make
- himself agreeable 10 her; after marriage
il oftens happens that he thinks more of
'-F' being agreeable to himself How often
ithappens that married men. after hav-
:. ing been away from home The liyelong
day during which the wife has toiled at
81 her duties. so at evening to some place
of amusement. and leave her to toll on
alone, unhappy. How often it happens
that her kindest Offices pass unobserved, !
-bs and unrewarded even by a smile, and
= yheI best efforts are condemned BY the |
fault finding husband. How often it
..ss happens, even when the evening is spent
= =. at home, that It is employed BY silent .
=, = reading. or some other way that does
not recognize the wife's right to SHARE
inthe enjoyments even of the fireside
4 Lock, ye husbands, a moment aad re
y. member what your wife was when you
:. took her. NOT from compuIsion, but flom
ls ,your. choice; choice based, probably. |
1soh what you then considered her superb
sority to all others. She was ycung-
perhaps the idol of happy home: She
was gay and blithe as the lark and Tie
brothers and sisters at her fathers fire
= de-cherished her as an object of en-
dearment Yet She left all 10 join her
: destiny with yours; TO make your home
happy, and 10 do all that woman's love
: could prompi, ,an1 woman ingenuity de-
= wise, to meet your wishes and to tighten
:. the burdens which might press upon you
ssfn your pilgrimage She of course had