Carroll free press. [volume] (Carrollton [Ohio]) 1834-1861, 1856-06-19
Gaoits' department,
Young Ladies' should be Natural.

Tor. furnishes the readers Of that Penodcai Tue
following which is well worthy place;
"Do other people wear them sO' ssked '
little four year old pet where We we're 'is'ung'
az We adjusted part Of bsr clothes according
% our oEs fancy. We we're almost startled
BY tie thought that so young child should
have learned the importance Of doing as 9TH '
su Go. It seems indeed to be one of the hrst
principles engraited on tie minds OfmOst chill b
drsn, that We must follow the lead Of others a.
round US, How do sthsrs do and what will
they think, not what is appropriate, right or
best, controls the mother, and the child soon
learns the lesson. Aud this seems 10 grow
with their growth and strengthen with their
strength, till they become to great extent
artificial characters. They do not live out
their oun Hpes, and hence discomfort, anxiety
and unhappinsss follow, to themselves and
those Immediately around them.
The over eager desire for dress, style and e.
quipage similar to those whom we-shall L say
h!-envy, has done incslculAble mischief, and
the same dread Of sipgularity extends to our
habits Of thought and action. We seek to con-
ceal ourselves and appear as another. 1t makes
ones heart ache to know how much Of the ap-
parent life and happiness that We see around
US, is a mockery-how much bollowness there
is in our social life, because we try to be what
others are, and do what others do, whether we
have the appropriate natural giits, and the ap-
propriate aids, or not. We seek to be something
different from what we are or should be-, and
have too little independence. We are TOO Of
: ten afraid to express an opinion or be known
ss the advocates Of reform or measure whick
others condemn.
You should take pride, girls, in having an
iadividuaL character God has given each Of
you peculiar traits and dispositions and talents
and 1t is che Of the most important duties Of
| life 10 become acquainted with ourselves, that
we may know what traits 10 foster, and what
to suppress; and having ascertained your own
powers, susCcptbilties and tastes, set your
selves to improve in your line for constant
progression, constant Improvement should be
/ counted a necessity-but it should be natu-
/. raj, healthy growth, not a mere intmation.
- Individuality iSsmOre cultivated among men,
1t than by our own sex, we believe. We regre
u that il is so, and yet are not surprised, fol
d from childhood our training is usually such al
e to make us fearful off aSoning remark Of
.. drawing down censure. We do not dare t
d DO singular, Some on the contrary, despsinl
:, this as sfectation, fall into the opposite ex
=" treme, and take particular pains to appear &c
le centric, to excite the wonder and censure @
at others. This sGeCtation Of oddity is as objeC
tonable as the opposite; the only remedy 70
either, Is to look more al the mind and hear
A and less at the outward appearance, both i
'e controlling OurselVso and judging others.
ID A wise Independence of character, wher
RS nature il followed and cultivated, belongs Il
80 the true nobility, and will be SO estimated b.
re all who are noble enough to appreciate it,
J. Teachers would accomplish more for their pu
IplEsI auu IOulel bOhSub upOH bu6 cullT6 com
y muuty. il they would take more pains to cult.
. vaIo individuality in their pupils. Children
: are not constituted alike. and teacher with
o ordinary tact can soon discover for what each
Is one has natural fitness, and while there are
) studies which all should master, theIe are some
/ which each child is quicker TO learn than
u others, and in which be should be encouraged
u 10 excel.
~ The idea that children or young people should
all be moulded to the same form, is absurd.
\ contrary to nature, and causes great loss TO
society, How often. especially in cities, are
misses compelled to practice the piano year
after year. when they have no love for :-po
car for music, when half the time thus be.
slowed would have made an excellent account.
ant, housekeeper, or proficient with the pen.
Gil or an accomplished writer. And we mipbl
ii mention many other similar mistakes and conse.
). quant failures.
Mt In England they commonly manage these
a things more wisely. For instance. if there be
g family Of daughters. while all have good oppOr
O. tnnities for education, their natural inclina
II IiOns and tastes are c'refully watched by tn
2. parents, and their education conducted accord
s. iugly; and the result is, one becomes perhap
Of proficient in music, another in painting o
ID designing, a third makes capital hOusekeep
al er,whils fourth becomes an excellent account
- ant and boOk'keeper, or having fondness 70
e out of door pursuits, becomes = scientific bo
id tSnist or geologist, or both.
How much pleaSanter to visit family thu
educated than one where all are modelled alike
ne and II the pleasure Of others is thus augment
by Cd, how much more must be that of the youp,