Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1856-08-20
Por the In.ellIgencer.

lore with himselE) What are his prospects IN
life, and is his moral and mental nature Of that
ounlity which are calculated to win respect and
esteem?
Does he make it habit to get on "a bender"
once a day or once week or once month and
when in that condition offer insult to himself and
the friends about him? Is he fonder of idling
the sunny hours of younger life away, IN pref
erence to earning the bread of honesty by the
labor of his hands?
Has he proper appreciation Of the Pilgrim
age before him, which leads through flowers and
thorns to the grave, and in every groan and
smile, in every rebuff and success, teaches that
'lifoi is real ifeis earnrst and him but sinking
stran upon the ocean Of timer
Has he learned that all things of earth arc
made but to deceive; that through trial and trib-
uiation we may become strong in the faith OF
our own might and thus enable us TO overcome
such difficulties as would startle weaker heart
and frighten timid soul?
In short, if Charlie is sober, temperate, in
tellectual. clever fellow, with sensible amount
If ambition, and enough of pride to overcome
III reasonable obstacles there need be no fear in
his case that money will weigh down the mighty
strength Of true rwoman's love?
j know that there be some ladies, like many
men, who care more for gold than they do for
love; but such ones are not for you, Charlie, nor
any other sensible man. Let them alone, and
thank heaven every day of your life that you
have been shielded from the sting of serpent
whose bitei is death to all happiness and hOPefor-
ever. Obi when it comes TO this-that a wo-
mans love is to be bartered for that which may
pass away in the twinkling of an eye; for that
which too often brings but sorrow and care to
the pure and holy heart; for that which steals
away the quietude of sacred life and setsthesoul
on fire with parsimonious fagnes!-tnay we not
pray heaven to save US from such fate2
No, no, Charlie, do not think for moment
that noble hearted girl would ever stop on pas
sion's brink to ask if the moneys paid for her
sacred love. l told you before that the
hearts in all women's bosoms were made for the
dwelling places of affection; and You must be-
licyc nc. told you before that q fearful, trem-
bling heart was not the one to win pretty lady's
love, and you must believe thattoo. toldyou
that to attain to great ends, we have sometimes
tomsc great measures; and that to give up n
chase because you could not win the prize in
few weeks was folly. And you must believe
that also.
But tus look at the matter in another light
1t may be that you are poor; and would like to
get rich very suddenly. What plan is better
than marrying fortune? So you presume to
act upon the idea, and Look out for lady who
has s'the dimes" She is beautiful and fSscina-
ting, and all that. You are poor, tolasably good
looking and young. Now what are your
chances? You expect in the pride of your
heart to walk right in, and take possession, and
yet have not single piece of artillery, piece OF
conventional artillery, TO storm the walls with.
The consequence is that you are not very apt to
succeed So you turn away and conclude that
all women are mercenary, and never intended to
love. Forgetting that such sentiment as of-
fSction had no dwelling place in your o0on Heart.
You were worshipping IN idol Of gold, and not
the lady for herself alone.
Charlie is like the most of men, expects q
great deal for nothing. He thinks that lis age,
beauty C?l and medium talents are an equivalent
fora few hundred thousand dollars. Is strange
that he or they should find themselves sadly
mistaken sometimes? All! we ladies have a
hard time of it If poor-nobody feels inclined
TO marry us. If rich-we must ever be on the
4ui tire and drive back our affections for fear
some one should losc US for our money alone
OF the two extremes or rather mediums,
should think the latter were the better. For
though lady in moderate circumstances may
never marry, she can at least live in quetness
and comparative comfort But if rich, and in
duced to wed, tho probabilities are that hcriour
ney to tho grave will not be very long, nor even
the most flowery road. She may love with all
her soul, but her husband was dazZled by hel
wealth and worshipped it instead Of her.
What world! aye, what world! 1may
be young or may be old, but in the years that
have fallen-thank Heaven S-ligbtly on my
head, there have been some sad truths forced
into my heart; some sad sights, often, too often
placed before my eyes. Much money and much
beauty are both alike curses to lady; for both
must pass away, and leave nought but the sou
behind And if that be imperfect and unaP
preciated-ohl what wrctchedness and misery
will follow in the later years of married life
We NAV talk of bellies and coquettes and all the
witchery of some ladies, but if they marry OF
their beauty alone, there is ever so much sor
row in store for them. Who does not know
that plain, sweet looking girl makes the bes
wife? Who does not know that her beauty, 81
simple in its very simplicity is calculated tt
win upon the heart day by day, and make W
through life the FIRE on loves burning ALTAR
AS / am a lady, do tell thee this Charlie
win you heed 1t? And more than that, lie
me advise You 10 seek out just such an one, ant
make her your wife. Remember that if yOl
have not wealth, you should not expect to fint
it in, through or BY the lady whom You we'd
Indeed you have no right to expect it, aud vii
be much better off without such a load abon
your neck, to draw down your worthy pride
and make you feel abashed in the face of homes