The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1856-06-05
M Is EEL u q III 3OWS
PREMATURE MATRIMOEY.


not solely as the means of keeping up
population. or rs Il mere social and econom-
cal convenience, but as blending of two
spirits into onc-tl,e masculine represent
'ng wisdom, and the feminine allcction-
When there is Il true spiritual affinity be-
tween the TWO, then the design is accom-
s,lishcd.
Premature marriages are among the
greatest evils Of the times; and it would
not be bad idea in these days of re-
forms, if an anti-marryingi in-;l-hurry So
ciety were instituted. Nowadays, people
leap into the magic lte-ci;clc with no
more consideration than they would par
take Of dnner--litt!c thinking that,
when once in. they are there until their
end comes. There is little, sometimes, of
mutual analysis Of disposition and compari-
sons. They seem TO iuncy that, if there
are any discrepancies, the fatal Gor,lian
knot, which can be seldom cut and never
united, will llarmonzc all.
The numbers who have rr!t this truth
the numbers still feeling ii to their hearts
corc-;rc inc,Ilcul,llc. They recognize it
is the great mistake Of their lives. The
chain is not to them n silk one but Il cable
of iron, that ti-',trns around them more
and more, crushing out all hope and energy,
substituting hate for love and eating ont
with lis rust, the very inner lie of the
soul
Boys and g''s nov marry TO greater
extent than ever before, Instead Of waiting
till they become full grown and maturcI
men and women. Thc Young dandy, as
soon as he gts "u, OF short jackc:S, and
finds Il little furze gathered OH his upper lip
and the Young miss, us she cmcr"rs from
the nursery a:,l abbreviated lrocks-tilink
they are qualified To ao>'llac the most solemn
responsibilities of lie. And So if Pa"
AMI Ma" wont coMscn:, they post of to
some Grclma Green, and there lake oblga-
ton, that, il ninctvninc cases out Of Il hun
drcd, they wiz. never cease bitterly to re-
pent.
Marriages should never he the result of
fancy. Tie bah ro"m nnl the cvcnin"
party rarely dcvrlo,c real character. Tn
der the cxhiiara,iny influence of the dance,
the glare ol the lights, and merry squ!l,
ani joke. the ,ii,soute young nan may a!,-
pear amiai'c, and the s.;,;tc,nly sco!l love
able. Matches made at such places Or
under si.nilar circumstances, are not Of the
class that originate in heaven. They are
more generally conceived in the orl,osi,c
place, and bring forth only iHiYuity. The
true way to lc:Iin each other is TO do it 1T
home, in the pa.lcr, in the kitchen, and on
occasions that test The temper. We see
the result Of these unions in tie almost
Gaily divorces that are ,,kin. place, in the
running away Of l,,sAan,ls. leaving their
W. es, an'l children to S:arve, and in the
c'"peuicnt of wives. Not only this, but
wc witness it in l,r"!;rm spirited mcn, ma,!c
old in the prime of l!!e, struggling on for
mere fov,! and clothing anl shelter, aud in
woman cross, dirty, s!u;t;> and wrinklel.
1t would he quite inp,>S;!'lc for us to
depict faithfully the niai;iiu''c OF physical
and mora! evils that result from these sinful
marriages for sinful they are. They ruin
the body, corrupt the morals, and s!uiliiy
the mnnd. Aud the result does not stop
with husband and wife. There are the
children. They part;.kc Of the ircl'!cncss
and the vices Of the parents, both physical
and moral, and go oul into The busy world
stun,cd and gnarlcd. God pity them!
We would not bc understood rs speak
ing against the institution of marriage. 1t
is holy, beautiful and bcnclicicnt. But let
every one take his mate or none. Let not
the brave eagle pair with the stupid owl.
nor the gentle dove with the carron crow.
Like should have like. 1t is u glorious
sight to see two old people who have wealth
cred the storms and l'asllcd in the sunshine
of life together, go hand in hand, lovingly
and truihiu!ly, down the gentle dcclivity of
time, with no angcrs, nor jealousics, nor
hatre'ls galncred up against each other,
md looking with hope and joy to the ever
lasting youth of heaven. where they shall
be one forever. That is the true marriage
for it is the marriage Of spirit with spirit.
Their love is woven into woof of gold,
that neither time, nor death, nor eternity
can sever.
EH The fast youths Of Schenectady
""'> ,ked after by the City Fathers
'ho have passed law "to
per assembling of boys"