Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1856-12-16
EVENING STAR.
HOW TO GET MARRIED.

Ine DrOaQ nlgnWay OF mhtrlmODy. hopee
long deferred have been consumma ted at last;
hearts long united have been united for age.
1t is proper that this beautiful and solemn
ceremony which thus joins together man and
woman, {" tn death do them part" should be
attended with certain degree Of etiquette,
regulated by certain rules Of behavior, which
are the inevitable result OF t5- state o. re-
fncment to which society has advsuS~d, and
we take this opportunity to lay before our
young readers, quoted from the columns Of
the New York Home Journal, a few remarks
upon this subject which perhaps they will frd
useful when their wedding day comes round.
First, after fixing the time and place, and de-
Gliding upon the number of bridesmaids and
bridesmen, comes the question of appropriate
WEDDING CARDS.
The latest fashion is to send but one card,
which is a large one, being three By four and
half inches in size, and from very fne card
paper without enamel. A little above the
centre Of the card is placed in conspicuous
letters, the name Of the church at which the
| marriage is TO take place; and just below il,
and within parenthesis, or between brackets.
is tho name and number of the street at which
the churcA ;g situated; just below the latter
line, IS one naming the day and hour of the
ceremony. On the IoTa- corner, at the left Of
the card, is placed the names Of the afianced,
the name Of the gentleman compiling the
upper line. Both the card and the envelope
are white and of the same size, the latter
being like the former, without glossy poli'h or
enamel
In case they do net intend receiving, they
send cards only to tbeir relatives acd near
friends. But in case Of receiving immed =
ately after the wedding, it is proper to enclose
two cards, the one like the fist described,
and the second containing the address of tho
brides mother, OF Of the place az which The
reception is to be given, indicating the time
also upon the same card. But in case the re-
cepuOn is to take place after the bridal tour,
| then three cards are enclosed in one envelope
one containing the name Of the brides mo-
theT lat whose house 1t is most proper t. TO
ceiVeJ as the upper line; below which state
AT Home" and name the date ard hour as
| the third line and below, at the right, near
| the bottom Of the card give the name Of the
street and number Ct the dwelling. The other
two are the visiting cards of the BRIDE and
bridegroom
If the marriage ceremony is not 20 be SOL
| emnized at the church, the wedding should be
| solemnized at the house Of the mother Of the
bride; in which case two or three cards will
| be enclosed, the mothers being the same as
above described, and the bride and bride
grcOm's will contain merely their names. But
| upon the card inviting to the reception, in
stead of Miss being prefxed to the brides
| name, it will be that Of Mrs TO her newly
chosen one.
The following is a very good description cf
an appropriate
BRIDES DRESS.
The dress OF white taffetas, is cut high and
| surmounted with narrow lace collar; and
| below it, half high, 1t is encircIed with h
| white lace berthe The body closes up the
| front with pearl buttons Of the watch shape,
| and Just above the waist, on the stOmacheT,
| is placed boquet Of orange flowers and fo-
| liage.
The skirt, in dem train, is covered en- tab
| lier-th at is, leaving an apron form visible Of
the silk dress in front The sleeves are COM
posed Of two ruf1es, which extend half way 10
the elbow, and are caught up at the inside by
| delicate silver cords and t8ssels. From under
the short sleeve proceeds lace one, which is
| formed into two or three puffs, extending te
| the white kid or white silk gloves Pearl and
cameo bracelets. White silk stockings and
| shoes.
| The hair is divided into three tresses. as de-
| scribcd in the Home Journal Of October H.
and the long white lace veil is gathered in
| the centre, and passes over the head to each
! SIDE, irst above the back knot Of the hair, &C
| as to disclose the hair above the reck, and at
| each side OF the knot, and over the ears, a
| cachpeigue is formed by plating the veil, and
| ornamen.irg il with orange buds, flowers and
| foliage. But there is no ornament in the
| front tresses, which form two rich releaux.
Mr. C. z Harvey, in his work on - man
ners and habits" gives the following formula
for proceeding:
| AFTER ARRIVING AT CHURCH
"The marriage train advances towards the
altar in the following order: The lady gives
her hand to her father, or to one who repre-
sents him, then follow the gentleman and his
mother, or one who represents her; next the
| brdemaid and bridemaH, followed by the
members Of the two families in couples. The
| other and more custom is for the groom to re-
ceiye the bride when she lights from her car
riage in the street. As the train advances
towards the altar, the company present should
respectively arise from their seats, and stand
till the relations are seated in the front pews.
The latter should arrange themselves in the
| same order as acquaintance The couple
either stand or kneel at the altar, according
| to the custom of the church in which they are
| married; the bridemaid at the left of the
lady, and the brideman at the right CT the
gentleman The bridegroom stands or kneels
at the right of the bride, and bears her right
| hand upon his Here the ceremonies vary
| according to the usages Of different denomi-
nations. After the benediction or the prayer,
as the order is, the married couple usually
| salute the assembly and receive the oompli.
ments of their friends. Immediately after
| the solemnization it is customary for the pa
/ rents and new relations TO salute the married
lady; but all salutations are improper in a
church edifce. When returning from church
| the husband gives his hand to his bride.
| ANOTHER OF THE BETS PAID.-Mr. Batch
| eller, who at the time the Perley POore apple
wager first became public, offered, in sim
liar spirit of frolic, to draw a barrel of beans
| from Sutton TO Worcester, Massachusetts,, il
Fremont was not elected President of the
| United States, paid the forfeit on Wednesday
| of the present week, with a sturdy consistency
| worthy of a better cause and graVer matter
| The vehicle was a common sled, the beans
and vehicle weighed $40 lbs,, the distance tC
be traversed was over eleven miles, and the
" animal IN the shafts" was encumbered with
| snow shoes. Mr. Batcheller, however, had con,
trived to make his tripa paying concern by
betting $500 he would perform it inside o.
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