Gallipolis journal. [volume] (Gallipolis, Ohio) 1837-1919, 1855-03-01
[From Life Illustrated.l
HINTS FOR HUSBANDS.

entitled Golden Rules for Wives.
which enjoins upon the ladies a rathel
abject submission to their husband.
will and whims. Iron rules, not colder
ones, we should call them. But the ar
Of living together in harmony is very
difficult art; and, instead of confutine
the positions of the author of the Rule,
aforesaid, we offer the following, as the
substance of what wife likes in hus.
band.
Fidelity is her hearts first and most
Just demand. The act of infdelity a
true wife cannot forgive-it rudely
breaks the tie that bound her heart tc
his, and that tie can never more exist.
!, The first place in her husbands affec-
tons no true wife can learn to do with
out. When she loses that, she has lost
her husband; she is a widow; and has
to endure the pangs of bereavement In
tensifed by the presence of what she nc
longer possesses. There is a living
mummy in the house, reminding her Of
her loss in the most painful manner.
"A woman likes her husband TO excel
in those qualities which distinguish the
masculine from the feminine being, such
as strength, courage, fortitude, and
judgment. She wants her husband to
be ewholly MAN. She. cannot entirely
love one whom she cannot entirely re-
spect, believe in, and rely on.
A,wife dearly likes to have her hus-
band stand high in the regard of the
community in which they reside. She
likes to be thought by Der own sex a
fortunate woman in having such hus-
band as she has. She has taste for the
respectable, desires to have a good-look-
ing front-door, and to keep up agood
appearance generally. Some wives, it
is said, carry this too far; and some
husbands, we know, are dangerously
complaisant in yielding to the frOnt-door
ambition of their wives. But a good
husband will like to crafty his wife in
this respect, as far as he can, without
sacrificing more important objects.
Perfect sincerity a wife expects, or at
least has right to expect, from her
husband. She desires to know the real
state Of the case, however it may be con-
cealed from the world. 1t wrings her
heart and wounds her pride to discover
that.her husband has not wholly con-
fded in her. A man may profitably
consult his wife on almost any project;
it is due to her that he should do so,
and she is glad to be consulted.
Above most other things, a wife
Graves from her husband appreciation
The great majority of wives lead lives
of severe and anxious toll. With un-
anguish and peril to their
own lives they become mothers. Their
children require incessant care. Only
the eye of God watches like mothers,
says Fanny Fern in that chapter of
Ruth Hall which depicts with such
power and truth a mothers agonizing
anxieties. And besides her maternal
cares, wife is the queen regent of a
household kingdom. She has to think,
and plan, and work for everybody. If, |
IN all her labors and cares, she feels that
she has her husbands sympathy and |
gratitude, if he helps her where man
;an help a woman, if he notices her eff
iorts, applauds her skill, and allows for
her deiciencies-all is well. But to en-
lure all this, and yet meet with no ap-
word or glances or act from
lim for whom she tolls and bears, is
very bitter.
A wife likes her husband to show her
IL due respect in the presence of others;
she cannot endure to be reproyed or
criticised by him when others can hear
i. Indeed, it is most wrong in hus-
band thus to put his wife to shame; and
We cannot help secretly admiring the
spirit of that French woman who, when
ler husband had so wronged her, re-
used ever again to utter word, and
or twenty years lived in the house a
lumb woman. We admire her spirit,
'hough not her mode of manifesting it.
Husbands owe the most profound re-
peet to their wives, for their wives are
he mothers of their children. No man
has the slightest claim to the character
Of a gentleman who is not more scrupu-
ously polite to his wife than to any
1ther woman. We refer here to the es-
'entials of politeness, not itsforms; we
mean kindness and justice in little
hings.
A wife likes her husband to be con-
'iderate. -EUnexpected kindnesses and
unsolicited favors touch her heart
She appreciates the softened tread when
'he is sick; she enjoys the gift brought
rom distance, and everything which
proves to her that her husband thinks of
Ter comfort and good.
Husbands, reflect upon these things.
Your wife has confined her happiness to
,ou. You can make her life proudly
Iappy, if you are kind and wise. You
an make it unspeakably wretched, if
7ou are ignoble and short-sighted.-l
4et the contest between husbands and
wives be this: Which shall do most for
he happiness of the other.
AMUSING ExcUsE.-Mrs. Noodle tells
II camp-meeting in Canada, at which
,he people were worked IN to a very