True American. [volume] (Steubenville [Ohio]) 1855-1861, 1855-10-31
Hints for Husbands.

enJ"lns on The ladies rather ahjecl sub
mission TO their hus bands will and whims,
But the art of living together in harmony
is a very different art and, instead of
coniuling the position of the author of
the Rules aforesaid, we offer the follow
ing, as the substance of what a wife likes
in husband.
Fidelity is her hearts first and most
just demand. The act Of infdelily true
wifi cannot torgive-ir rudely breaks the
ties that bound her heart TO his, and that
lie can never more exist.
Thcfrs placcin her husbands affections
no true wife can learn to do without.
When she. loses that, she loses her hus-
band; she is widow; and has to endure
Inc pangs of bereavement intensified by
the presence of what she no longer pos
sesses. There is living mummy in the
house, reminding her of her losses in the
most painful manner.
A woman likes her husband to excel
in those qualities which distinguish the
masculine form from the feminine being,
such as strength, courage. forilude and
iud dgment. She wants her husband To
be wholly MAN. She cannot entirely
love one whom she cannot entirely respect
believe in, and rely on.
wife dearly likes TO have her hus-
band stand high in the regard of the COM
munty in which they reside. She likes
to be thought by her own sex fortunate
woman in having such husband as she
has. She has a taste for the respectable,
desires to have good locking front door,
and to keep up good appearance gener-
ally. Some wives, it is said, carry this
too far and some husbands we know,
are dangerously complaisant in yielding
to the from, door ambition Of their wives.
But good husband will like to CRAFTY
his wife IN this respect, as far as he can,
without sacrificing more important OBJ
jecls.
Perfect sit ceriiy wife expects, or at
least has right 10 expect, from her hus-
band She desires to know the real state
Of the case, however it may be concealed
from the world. Ii wrings her heart and
wounds her pride to discover that her
husband has not wholly confled in her.
A man may profi'ably consult his wife on
almost any project; it is due to her thai
he should do 81, and she is glad 10 be
consulted.
Above most of things, wife Graves
from her husband his appreciation. The
great majority Of wives lead lives of Sc
we're and anxious toll. With unimaginA.
bile anguish. and peril 10 their lives, they
become mothers. Their children require
incessant care. 'Ony The eye of God
watches like moher's,' says Fanny
Fern, in that chapter of Ruth Hall which
depicts with such power and truth a
mothers agonizlng anXieties. And be-
sides her maternal cares, wife is the
qucen.regenl Of household kingdom.
She has to think, and plan and work for
everyuuuy. II, III all ner IauUrs anu
cares, she feels that she has her husbands
sympathy and gratitude; if he helps her
where man can help woman if he
notices her efforts, applauds her skill, and
allows for her deficiencies, all is well.
But to endure all this, and yet meet with
no approaching word, or glance, or act
from him for whom and whose she tolls
and bears, is very bitter,
A wife likes husband TO show her all
due respect in The presence of others
she cannot bear to be reproved or CRITICS.
ed by him when others can hear it. In
deed, it is most wrong in husband thus
To put his wife 10 shame; we cannot help
secretly admiring the spirit of that French
woman, who, when her husband had so
wronged her, refused ever again to utter
a word, and for twenty years lived in the
house a dumb woman. We admire her
spirit, though not her manner of mani
testing H.
Husbands owe the most profound re-
spect to their wives, for their wives are
the mothers of their children. No man
has the slightest claim To the character of
gentleman who is not more scrupulous
ly polite to his wife than to any olber
woman. We refer here TO the essential