The North-Carolinian., 1855-07-28
Behavior at Watering Places.

If 4 traveller were to visit an \ Ancrican wa
tcrina place at the height of the season, We
fear that lie would conceive poor idea of our
polite,ess generally. lie would find so many
peOple puttin. airs, many rendering them
selves absurd with pretcnson, many exhibit
ing q mere vulgar love Of display, that he
would infalibly become dsgusted and over
looking the really we'll bred, would pronounce
us all q set Of conccited puppies
Foremost at such places he would find the
would-be exclusives, Who fancy they are prov
ING their geatility by violating all the ordinary
iconrtcses and customs Of life To he singular,
I they think, is to be aristpcratic and they
stultify themselves by affacayint IN
At church, co11ing doM.sS1o dial,er u 9 dis:
and. mop m i ufbsiri1g COS
tune. Or he would see such persons affecting
to be dlSyustcu with everything they eat, and
pronounciny excellent accommodate tons '.abso-
lutely wIctched." Have people any business
away from home with such ridiculous airs ?
Watering places are essentially democratic,
and have been so considered ever since Beau
Nash ruled at Bath. The general comfort
demands that all should be atfabe, especially
as an acquaintance, formed at such resorts, is
understood, among really wel-bred persons,
not TO involve an intimacy in town, unless by
mutual consent
Next i'll prominence are the YOsSips and tale
bearers These arc always busying themselves
about other peoples affairs, retailing small slam
ders, winkny inuendocs, manufacturing false
hoods. They pry among servants and children,
poison the Judgment OF their listeners, and Sc
duously aim at setting everybody 10y their ears.
Next come the vu gar pretenders, who, by dnt
OF extravaganza and show, hope to be regarded
as people of consideration. Then there are
the empty fashonabes, who follow slavshly
what they fancy the latest mode, and deridc
al! who differ from them in dress, manners, or
style of acting. They will laug'ncrucIly to her
face at an innocent girl, who dances more ela-
borately than they have been taught to- forget
ting that, ut the Court of st. James, their pol
ka> and schottislics would be considered insult
fcrably low. 1t is the mark of radically base
and vulgar heart to find matter for ridicuie in
everything except vice or crime. No class of
persons is really less well bred than those pre-
tenders to fashion.
But the ladies are not only offenders. 1t is
a common thing, i'll going to Il Watering place,
to sec men rush into the cars monopolizin" all
the best seats. Or they snatching the
cholccr vlands, at a steamboat dinner. from
under the very eyes of the ladies for whom
they were intended. Or they drive recklessly
past-nay, almost orer-nurses and children
walking on the beach Or they keep inyv lids
awake at night, and offend the ears of ladies
10y their bacclanaIian shouts and songs. Or
they puff their cigar smoke i'll the faces of
women Or they suffer unprotected female
almost to Starve at table, by bribing the wait
erS to bring every thing to them. Or they
.ormondzc like gluttons, to the infinite disgust
of all persons less bcastIy than themselves.
People at watering places should remember
that there is public resort where their foilles
more easily detected for every one has
leisure to observe his nciyhbor. To be natural
at1abIc and courteous, is, therefore, the only
safe plan. Generally, when people put on airs,
they deceive nobody but themselves, and in
stead of exhibiting their Importance, they only
betray their Stiffness and vuIyarity