New Orleans daily crescent. [volume] ([New Orleans, La.]) 1851-1866, 1855-07-06
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Dear Crescent some time since one of our city papers
fromA French cmarking upon Amer
loan ladies' losing their bloom and beauty early and
giving various reasons for It, There reason how
ever that 1t did not advance and think very mpor-
tant one Attend any Of public balls sorees and
you will see young girls from twelve to fourteen years of
age, laughing and chatting with gentlemen with all the
OF young ladies who have been In society for
years At when the constitution is formed the
health strength matured they forced forward like
hothous plants, into premature blooyoung ladyhood
There is childhood for them when they should be In
the nursery playground they grading the room
Frsaoh and English girls particularly latter gen.
eral rule, do not leave the sohooroom at ago when
American girls frequently matrons and mothers with
all the realities of life before them and the
sponsibties of marriage TO encounter Here girl has
the good sense to await her twentieth year before bsso
ing wife she Is styled old maid and set down
member 81 that much abused class off humanity spnsters
How much better to BIO healthy, blooming, good-hu-
mored old maid, than scky, fretful neglected wife
Our young women hre too frequently educated to think
the great dssideratum Of m the thing needu is to
be married. if happily, it swe if not it SO anything
Is better than to be old maid 1t really looked upon
as reproaoh almost disgrace to remain single And
nov often do We see our maidsnR married without one
idea OF the duties they take upon them without due
knowledge Of domestic arrangements Mothers seem to
think that keeping by nature their
attend to Is to be satisfied that their girls San dance the
polka, enter room gracefully and play the piano No
need to know how bread made shirt put together
that ali comes intuitively most certainly Two young
people meet at dance together pass pleasant
ing wine excitement and music all their aid to hasten
by old Time on silver wing They part mutually pease
perhaps dream Of each other and If thrown together again
shortly fancy themselves love- talk deal Of senti
they have at last met with eongena spirit
and aft
ion enter the solemn state of matrimony without ten
minutes SOBER serious thought upon the subiectthe
girl half influenced by the thought Of how pretty she will
look In orange flowers and white satin the youth by the
idea being envied by his boysh Acquaintance as mar
man who has won the prettest girl Of the season. No
thought as to each others habits and dispositions After
few weeks of nonsensca folly when the novelty of their
situation has o they wake up to full reality that
as not gold that gitters and that there such thing
as marrying in haste to repent ssure The bride Ia
expected at once husband friends to attend to her
domestic duties though had been regularly sdu
Gated to them and with very probably limited amount
on which to live. Her cares commence What wonder
she fades She must toll herself direct and manage her
mind worried and annoyed she cannot make fine ap.
pearanoe eight hundred year al her neighbor on
Thousand or twelve hundred-for Americans upfortn-
naey are very seldom willing to live within our means
with perhapsa young family growing to add
TO her that at twenty looks ct least ten
Cider The husband seeing his wife fadng growing pale
sieky and being too with her noreas
ing duties to attend closely his individual comfort as
formerly becomes neglectfu gradually falls into his
bachelor habits and adds her troubles Nothing fades
wfes cheek sooner than neglect She left home the
long evenings through, with, perhaps, sick child or
nervous headache thinks upon her gsh days when Time
Flew BY with rapid wing the days Of her oourshp the
devotion of her lover young husband compares the
present with the past and 1t won't very well the com
she sheds tears and wishes 1t in power
to return to the palmy days when mother did all the
thinking She can now sympsthi2e with that mother
Who perhaps has gone through the experience It
has always seemed strange to that mothers will let
their daughters take such serious ties upon them without
thorough preparation Why let them by bitter ex-
perience that there something necessary for DO
mestc happiness than to dance the polka play the plano
and read novels and poetFy7 All very well their way
Accomplishments but not substantals. No matter how
pretty wife may be- she cannot take care Of her hus-
bands comfort keep buttons his shirts cook steak
darn his socks and yield her will she will soon lose the In
fuenee her beauty may have given hsr Her husband will
tire Of his home, and seek other places amusement
And thus 1t is that American women fade SO early Pre-
mature marriage induces care and care makes
the heart sick anxiety fades tho complexion weakens
the health, and old when they should pro-
perly be entering upon the active stage Of life.
But enough Of this. have my letter out to a
greater length than anticipated when commenced and
with hearty good wish will bid you goodbye for the
present. CaEscEsrA.