Smyrna times., 1855-05-30
4tllsctllanrous Atlatttr
Hints to Husbands,

HlnLS TO Husbands,
There Is an article aloat in the newspapers
entitled A." "GOldGn Rules for Wives" which en-
JOINS upon the ladies a rather abjrct subluis-
sion to their husbands VIII and whlms Iron
rules not golden ones, we should call theIn.-
but the art OF living together in Charity l. a
very difficult art and instead Of cOulutinp the
position OF the author aforesaid, we offer the
following as a substance OF what a wife likes
III husband.
Fidelity Is her hearts first and most lust de-
man. The act OF lnhdclty,a Il true vile cannot
torglve-lt rudeiy breaks the tie that bound
her heart to hIs, and that tie can never more
exist
The first place III husbands affections no
true wItc can bear to do without. When She
loses that, she has lost her husband. She is ;;
widow; and has to endure the pangs OF bereaye-
ment intensified by the presence of what she
no longer possesses. There Is lvnn mummy
IN the house, reminding her in the most PAIN
tui manner of her loss.
y womSn likes her husband 10 excel in these
qualities which distinguish the masculine from
femenIne bemg--such us strength courage for
ttude and judgement. She wants her hus-
band to be wholly MAN. She Cannot entire
~ love one whom she cdunut entirely RESPECT.
believe IN aud rely on.
a wife loves 20 have her husband stand hich
in the regard of the community in winch they
! reside She likes to be thought bv her own
sex Il fortunate woman III having such nus.
band as She has She has a taste tor the res
pectablc desires to have rood looking front
door, and to keep up good appearance gener-
| ally. SOme wives 1t is said, carry this too far;
| and some husbands to know, are dangerously
comp isant IN yIclding 10 the front door anIbl-
ton of their wives. Bat rood husband viii
like to crafty his wife IN this respect, as far
| rs he can, without sacrificing more important
| objects.
Perfect sincerity wife expects, or has
right to expect, from her husband. She de-
Slrcs to know the real state of the case, how
ever II may be concealed from the world. II
wrings her heart and wounds her pride to dis
cover that her hustanl has not wholly confided
IN her. A man may prohtaby consult his wife
on any subject; 1t Is due 10 her that he should
10 80, and snc is glad to be Consulted
Above most other thugs, a wife Graves from
her husband appreciation. The great majority
OF wives lead lives of severe and anxious
toll. Are they mothers! The chillren re-
qulre lacessaIt care. Only the eye of God
watches like mothers says Fanny Fern in
| that chapter of Ruth Hall" which dpnicts
with such power and truth a mothers aponi-
Zng anxletIes. And besides her maternal
cares; a-"lie Is queen regent of household
| kIngdOm. She has To think, plan and work for
| everybody. If, IN all her aburs and cares she
IeclS that her husbands sympathy and gratitude
II ne helps her " here Il man can help woman,
II he notices her efforts, applaud her smiles, and
allow Tor her drhcICLcIes--alII is we'll But 10
endure all this, and yet meet with no apprcc ia
| ting word or glance or act, from hun for who
az whose she toIls and bears 1t very bitter.
n witc likes her husband to show her all due
respect III the presence OF others; she cannot
enuurC to Oe re ,royed or criticised by him when
others Can hear 1t. Indeed, it is most WRONG.
IN husband thus TO put his wife to shame; and
we cannot help secretly admirng the spirit OF
the French woman who, when her husband
had so wronged her, refused ever again to Ut
ter word, and !or twenty years lived in the
housed dumb woman. We admire her spr,r-
It, though not her mode Of expressing it. Has
bands owe the most profound respect to theiu
wives, Tor their wives are the mothers of their
children. No man has the slightest claim to
the character OF gentleMan, who is not more
scrupulously polite TO his wife than any other
woman. We refer here to the essentials of DO
hteness, not to It's form; we mean kindness and
justice in little things.
A wife likes her husband to be considerate
Unexpected kindness aud unsolicited favors
touch her heart. She appreciates the soitened
tread when she is sick; she enjoys the gifts
brought from distance, and everything which
proves to her, that her husband thinks of hel
comfort and good.
Husbands, reflect upon these things. Youl
wife has conlided her happiness to you. Yor
can make her proudly happy, you are kin,
and wise. You can make her unspeakably
wretched, ii You are Ignoble and short-sghted
Let the contests between husba nd and wife bt
this: Which shall do most for the happines,
E of each other.