Star of the Kanawha Valley. [volume] (Buffalo, Va. [W. Va.]) 1855-1856, 1855-01-17
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1 rs Ats s;,Gegaiasf God. II b evil and
only evil, and TINT continually. 2 David
nndefstp5d both human nature and the
law Of Odd, He Fret not thyseli
n any Mise 10 do evil Il IL you qknnot
speak Without fretting Or scolding, keep
:. Ist.sroys e6stsion. No onecver did,
ever cafE or ever will love an Ehabitual
fretter, fault-fnder aud solder tHus-
bands, wjves, children, rehtivcsy or do
mestics, have no affection Or peevith, fret
ful ihult.fnders. Fewtcafs are shed over
the graves Of such. Persons Of high NOR.
al principle may tolerate them-may bear
with them; but they cannot love them
more thHn the sting Of nettles Or noise OF
mosquitoes. Many a man has been driy-
en TO th4saycrn, and 70 dissipation, By .
peeyish, jretful wife. Manysa wife has
been made miserable by peeyish, fretful
husbands tDA Ete
8. HiS Me Bnns n dcmestie happiness
A fretfuls peevish, complaining fault-fnd-
er in a 9mily, is like the continual cha.
fing Of OH infamed sore. Woeto the man,
woman, Sr child. who is Exposed 70 the in
fiuence of sucha temper IN another. Nine
tenths of1all domestic trab and unhappi-
ness spi4ng from thissourcc! Mrs. y. is
OF this temperament. She wonders her
husband Is not more fond Of her compa-.
ny-that her children give her 70 much
trouble--that domcstics do not like 70
work fof her--that she cannot secure tie
good. will Of young people. The truth is,
she is sd peevish and fretful. Children
fear her pnd do not love her. She new
er gained. the affections Of q young person,
nor neycl win till she leaves off fietting.
4. n dsfedts The end cf family gorerR.
ment. God family government is the
blending authority with affection, so as 70
secure respect and love. Indeed, il is the
great secfet of managing young people
Now yolF .fietters mayinspire fear, but
they always make two faults where they
correct ofe. Scolding ct a child, fretting
at a child sneering at a child, taunting a
child, treating child as though it had no
feelings, snspires a dread and dislike, and
fosters these very dispositions from which
many ofthe faults OF childhood proceed.
Mr.. q. AID Mrs. +, are Of this class. - -
Their chisdrenare made to mind: but how?
Mrs. F: Gets and scolds her children
Sheis seyare upon their faults. She seems
to watch Shem in order 10 find fault. She
sneers at. thcm--treats them as though
they had 5no feclings--seldom gives them
a commaSd withouta threat, and long
running sRult-fnding commentary. When.
she chides, II is not done IN a dignitied
manners sshe raises her voice, puts on a
cross lodi, threatens, strikes them, pinch
es their ears, snaps their heads. DC. The
children ery, pout, skulk, and poor Mrs.
F. has texdo her work over pretty often.
Then shewill find fault with her husband
because he does nolIfall in with her ways,
or chimeswith her as chorus. II:
s: Frstting and scoiding make hRporrites.'
As frettefs never receive confidence and
affection, 40 one likcs to tell them any
thing disagrecable. mud procure for them,
selves f@tting. Now, children will con-
ceal as mach rs they can from such per-
sons. They cannot make up their minds
to be frank and open-hearted. So hus-
bands coaseal from their wives and wives
from their husbands. For o man may
brave Ion, but he likes not to come in
contact iRith nettlessa and mosquitoes.
6. n destroys one's peace Of mind. The
more onessfrets, the more lie paay. Afret-
ter will always have enough tofret at, es-
pecially IL he or she has the bump of or.
der and neatness largely developed. Some
thing wia alwaysbe out Of place. There
will always be dirt somewhere. : Others
will eat right, talk right, look right;
he will nit do these things so as to please
them. and fretters are generally SO sell
fish ns tG have no regard for any, ones
comfort But their own. Al. .... Il
Z. Hisa mark Of a vnlgar disposition.
Some pefsons have 30 much gall in their
dispositions, are 50 selfish, they have no
regard fcr the feelings Of others. All
things nust be done to please them. They
make their husbands, wives, children, do
mestics, She conductors by which their
spleen atl ill-nature are discharged. Woe
to the csildren who are exposed to such
influence. It makes them callous and I'M
feeling, md when they grow up they pnr-
sue the Rme course with their own chil-
dren, oFthose entrusted to, their manage
ment, and thus the race OF fretters is per-
petuated. ANY person who sin the hab-
itof fretlng or 5sneering, haunting, their
husbands, wives. children, or, domcstics,
shows either q bad disposition, or else i'll
breedin1. For Il II uenorallv vour i,,no.