The Hillsdale standard. [volume] (Hillsdale, Mich.) 1851-1909, 1855-07-24

IL not to be lamentedl and would it not tend
moro to woman's happiness in tho sequel. were
those attentions wthheldl would net sit in
| Judgment on my brethren, but we are some.
times forced to draw conclusions whether we
will or not. ~
ga person with large social faculties, be.
nevolence, &C., would be moro likely to form
strong attachments granted. and we would be
much moro likely to.have said strong attach
ment returned. Here is where much of the
mischief lies. And IL the attentions assume
an apparent seriousness, which is apt TO be tho
case with person of such a development;
woman not being able to discern the counter
felt from the real, is thrown off her guard, the
reciprocston is the same as if the type was
the reality, and consequently unhappiness en- =
sures
The gentleman replies:
can but admire the ingenious answer in
which you hayo handled The sahje uador
consideration, and, were the question as you
have endeayored to shape it, which of the two
was most to be consurod, tho male, or female
flirt, i should doubtless abandon the discus
sion, nor attempt to contend with one whose
ability so admirably qualities her to defend
the cause of her own sex. But this is not the
way understand the question. We do not
differ SO much on the magnitude of the offence
as upon the particular acts that are to be con-
strued into n fliriaton. Different commenta-
tors, and different states of society prescribe
different rules Of soeiability. The old fash
ion prescribed rules of Puritanica sociable-
ness, would contrast as widely with the lively
and free socabilities of the French, as the an
cient Dutch mode Of courtship does with our
modern arislocratic bargain and sale manner
of rming matrimonial engagements. tt
lfthen, the same acts Of attention and cour-
tesy are differently construed by different in-
dividuuls, according to their proeoncoived no.
tions of proprioty, or the peculiar develop
mcnt of their affections, whom bDt ourselves
are to be the Judges, how far, or TO what extent
wo may bestow attention on another, without
being censurable or called firts Are we to
assume towards those of an opposite sex, a
cold, Indifferent, unsocal attitud !, isolating
ourselves from society, or with prescribed ex-
aetness and measured accent, ciothe such ex-
preston and thought according to certain con-
ventional forms of society. for fear we shall
"crcate reciprocity of feeling which would
be the innocent caase Of much after Misery
by throwing woman off her guard SO that
she may not always be able to detect tho
counterfeit from the real:' No! for myself
! wNnld much rather be occasionally The VIC
tim of misplaced confidence and affection.
ana suffer Tho fnll- fcnalty Of nirIca tower.
than to be always suspeeling always quarrel
ING against mistOking genuine attachment fronl
the spurious coin. Knowing that circumstsn.
tisl evidence, however strong, is often decep-
tive. especially is it apt TO lead the public
astray, know of no way in which VIC can
consistently unite on the foregoing pledge, cx-
cept by choosing mutual friend whose visual
organs are rot clondod by tho grccn-eyed
monster, or disturbed by q ''cross eyed condi-
ton" Of self interest so rs to prevent judging
correctly OF our " sins Of omission ard COM
mission" ard tho fai,hfuIncss with which we
each adhere to our Pledge