The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1855-08-18

| scion OF ariStocracv. In line, TO visit lady
alone, Hmoves all letters, banishcs all un-
necessary restraint, and renders one decided
ly comfortable TO do SO is good thing
a devilish good thing boaum Drum.
In visiting, one frequently encounters sar-
castle young ladies'. On such occasions the
gentleman should pbscquiously bow to their
supcriors wisdom and wit. 1t is not sup
| possible case that man Of twenty-five or
thirty could have more experience or real
Sc. than young lady, s,ventccns wise in
Such an idea would be an absurlity -molum
orum! Consequently all Sagacious Misses
should neglect no opportunity of attacking
all dignilied gentlemen with antique bon
mots and concoct.d good things. All gen
tlcrnen should wave their dignity and spare
the lady's feelings by the appearance of sur
passing humility and absolute awe.
In visiting. convcrsatio should he sustain
cd though pauses are often agreeable. Some
men imagine they must pour forth a stream
Of words otherwise they will be pronounced
dull and undressing. Sensible women do
not think. On the contrary, they rather
like pauscs. Thus they have opportunity for
reflection, and time to analyze their own emo
| tiols and the remarks of their visitors. Such
| pauScs, however. must he rendered stupid
A calm nreh.c air should be visible III the
faces of all present, and whoever resumes the
conversation should do it with grace and cc-
gance. ! have known fools to attempt it and
they made a poor thing Of iL-a dcvilisli poor
| thng-mdlum orum.
In calling upon bride. ceremony must be
observed. 1t the visitor calls alone. he must
not omit presenting his card in proper man
her. If there be several visitors, the bride
must be honorcd with the card of cach.-
Some little suggestions, too should be made
to the servant about the delivery of the card
lie should be instructed to approach the bride
defcrentially. handing her the cards one by
one and making his salaam, or bow, with the
delivery Of each. AS soon as the visitors en-
ter they Should scat themselves with mathe-
NAUTICAL prcc So, and permit a stately pause
to enSue. In the interesting int ran the
gentlemen might ruminate on matrimony,
and the charms of a honeymoon. After suit
able silence, the eldest and most vouablc gem
tleman present should disturb the stiffness
| with sapicnt observations on wcdlock, and
particularly on her marriage. He should
conclude his discourse with something jocu-
lar, at which his companions should stimuli
taneou>ly smoker. A graceful callnncss being
thus obtained, the conversation may become
general. and the weather especially may be
discussed. After an interesting hour thus
spent, they can appropriately retire with
suitable obciSanccs and complaccnt chucklcS.
To call on bride in this manner is a good
thing--a dcvilsh good thng-bonum Drum.
| There is nothing ridiculous or cercmonio,ls
or silly in such a proceeding, and it is well
calculated to win the brides favor, if she be
an intellectual lady. Especially will the
matter of the cards conciliate her. 1t is all
enormous insult to call upon lady without
card. In some of the States it is a Dcnitrn.
| tiarv offence DR. Samuel johnson, were he
alive, could not be permitted to eschew the
card custom. We might indulge the ponder
Gus photographer in many of his whims: but
we would bind him to the laws of etiquette.
| The old horse might kick, but we would
curb him in. Edward Pinkncy, however,
and Henry Clay have been informed, ven
turcd to call upon some of their lady -acquain-
tanccs without cards, and suffered, was
told, i'll consequence of the cnormity, no d.
intuition whatever of political renown or
| legal reputation. My informant, however,
was great liar, and did not credit him
1t certainly must have been a lic-malum
0Uum
Upon the introduction Of stranger great
attention should he bestowed In the first
place, the name Of the lady, and his own.
should be pronounced by the introducor in
very low tones, so that hcithcr of them can
possibly hear the name given. This will
| produce magnificent awkaIdncSS, highly
entertaining when the stranger addresses q
remark TO the lady.
| 1t is customary with us, but nevertheless
wrong, for strangers to he introduce / 10y their
gentlemen acquaintancts. Ono Of the par
enls, son c ono of the la " S relations is the
proper pei son to bestow All introduction upon
stranger. Then the ceremony becomes
| pleasant to him, and he feels at once recogni-
zcd by authority as an es Unable aco,mintai c :.
But custom has esta bllsh,d pell-mcll intro
dncilo IN TINS progressive republic. So we
must make the best Of it as it is, and although
we oppose, we must assert it to be good
thing-a dcvillsh good thing-bonum oUum.
AS soon as our friend makes the acquaintance
through our instrumcntnlity, of the fair lady,
we should ut once rest content, with our ef
forts, and throw the gentleman on his own
| responsibility. II he bushes, and is still as
the blessed calmness of Il summer eve, let him
thus remain. If lie becomes restless and
pcrturbcd. by no means throw out any imta-
tory remark calculated to soothc his dismay-
I'd spirit. Oiltr no suggestion, ask no qucs-
ton, but let him repoSe i'll his cnvablc posi-
ton, careful meanwhile that placid smile
floats upon our lips, beautiful as the silyery
cloud upon october's ruddy sky. Bonun
ouum!
Engrossing the conversation is vice so
rare in this country that it is scarccy me-
ccssary to rcbukc it. Occasionally. however
innoc,l young gentlemen. out of sheer con-
dcscenson to the elder and more unattrac-
tive visitors (whcn the parlor is full y play
the regal in discourse. They place upon
their Juvenile shoulders the burden of render
ing every body comfortable and calm.
Sometimes in these their very commenda-
bic and insnuating Efforts, they rush up a.
ganst slag in the 81 ape Of some intellec.
tial gentleman, and. being vital, they are, of
course, slightly injured. 1t should be sug-
gested to very youthful gentlemen, that it
requires brain to elicit and retain the pleased
attention Of MISCELLANEOUS companies. Brin-
sley Sheridan had decided talent in that way,
and posterty rcckons Thomas Jefferson an
elegant conversational. But my very young
friends, they We're maturcd men of reil,arka-
bic mental calibre. Their contemporaries
were delighted with their marvellous wit and
most princely humor; but odds fish your
conspicuous vanity without genius to support
and iesalizc it, your abominable presump-
ton without wit to authorize it and your
awful ignorance without an idea to llumne
| it, render very poor indccI vo,,r cl,;,ns IN