Fremont journal. [volume] (Fremont, Sandusky County [Ohio]) 1853-1866, 1855-11-02

AueIe 10 ai dIUcle dhOat IN the papers
entitled "Golden Rules for Wives" which
enioins on the ladies a rather abject sub
mission to their husbands wills and whims
But the art Of living together in harmony
Is very different art ana without confut-
ing the position of the authors Of the afore-
said Rules, we offer the following, as the
substance Of what wife likes in husband ::
Fidelity is her hearts first and most Just
demand The act Of in6deiity a true wife
can not forgive--it rudcly breaks the ties
that bound her heart to his, and that tie
can never more exist.
The first place in her husbands affections
no true wife can learn 20 do Without
When she loses that she has lost her bus
band she is a widow, and has to endure
the paugs of fbereavements intensified By the
presence of what she no longer possesses.
There is a living mummy in the house, re-
minding her Of her loss in the most painful
manner.
A woman likes her husband to excel in
those qualities which distinguishes the mas
culine form from the feminine being, such
as strength, courage, fortitude and Judge
ment She wants her husband to be Who'll
" aMAN. She cannot entirely love one
whom she cannot entirely respect, believe
in and rely on.
a wife dearly loves 10 have her husband
stand high in regard of the community in
which they reside. She likes to be thought
by her own sex a fortunate woman in hav-
ing such a husband as she has. She has
taste for the respectable, desirous TO have
a good looking front door, and 10 keep up
a good appearance generally. Some wives
1t is said carry this too f4r; and some hus-
bands,we know are dangerously compla;sant
10 yielding tot front door ambition of their
wives. But good husband vii! like to
CRAFTY his wife in this respect, as far as he
can, without sacrificing more important OBJ
jects
Perfect sincerity wife expects, or at
least has right to expect,from her husband.
She desires to know the real state of the
case, however it may be concealed from the
world 1t wrings her heart and wounds
her pride to discover that her husband has
not wholly conGded in her. A man may
pro6tably consult his wife on almost any
project; il is due to her that he should do
SO, and she is glad to be consulted.
Above most other things, a wife Graves
from her husband appreciation. The great
msiority Of wives lead lives Of severe and
anxious toll. With unimaginable anguish
and peril to their lives they become moth
ers. Their children requi ineessant care.
"Ouly the eye of God watches like a moth
ers," says Fanny Fern. in that chapter Of
Ruth Hail." which depicts with such pow
er and truth mothers agonizing anxieties.
And besides her maternal cares, wife is
the queen regent of a household kingdom.
She has to think, and plan, and work for
everybody. Il, in all her labois and cares,
she feels that she has her husbands sym
pathy and gratitude, il be helps her where
man can bel woma7, if he notices her
efforts, applauds her skill, and allows her
defciencies-all is we'll But to endure all
this, and yet meet with no apPreciating
word, or glance, or &C; from him for whom
and for whose she tolls and bears is very bit
ter.
A wife likes her husband to show her all
due respect in the presence Of others; she
cannot bear to be reproved or criticised by
him when others can hear it. Indeed, it
is most wrong in husband thus to put his
wife to shame; we can not help secretly
admiring the spirit of that French woman
who, when her husband had so Wronged her
refused ever again to utter a word and
for twenty years lived in the house dumb
woman We admire her spirit though not
her mode Of manifesting it. Husbands owe
the most profound respect to their wives
for their wives are the mothers of their
children. No man has the slightes claim
to the character of a gentleman who is not
more scrupulously polite to his wife than
70 any other woman. We refer here to
the essenliais of politeness, not It's forms, we
mean kindness and justice in little things.
A wife likes her husband to be consider
ate. Unexpected Kindness and unsolicited
favors touch her heart She appreciates
the softened tread when she is sick; she
enjoys the gift from distance, and every
thing that proves to her that her husband
thinks of her comfort and good.
Husbands reflect on these things. Your
wife has confded her happiness to you
You can make it unspeakably wretched, il
you are ignoble and short sighted. Let
the contest between husband and wife be
this-which shall do the most for the happi-
ness Of the other.-LJe Illustrated.