The Camden weekly journal. [volume] (Camden, South-Carolina) 1853-1861, 1855-05-15
Golden RuIcs For Wives,

10 NlvES.--JIie flrst inquiry OF 4 man after
marriage should be, "llow shall preserve the
heart have won!'
]. .Endeavor to make your husbands habita.
ton allurng and delightful to him. Let it be
TO him sanctuary to which his heart may
always turn from the calamities of life. Make
it repose from his cares, a shelter from the
world Il home not for his person only, but for
his heart. lie may meet with pleasure in other
houses but let him find pleasure in bis own.
Should he be detected soothe him; should he be
silent or thoughtful do not hcedlessly disturb
him; should he be studous, favor him with all
practicable facilities; or should he be peevish,
make allowance for human nature, by your
sweetness and good hunor. Urgc him coutin-
ually to think though he may not say it this
woman is indeed u comfort to me; cannot but
love her and requitesu gentleness and affection
as they deserve.
2. Invariably adorn yourself with delicacy
and modesty. These, to a man of refinement,
are attractions the most highly captivating while
their opposites never fail to inspire disgust Let
the delicacy and modesty Of the bride be always
in great degree, supported by the wife.
8. If it bepossibe let your busb md suppose
you think him good husband, and it will be Il
strong stimulus to bis being So As long as he
thinks he possesses the reputation, he will take
some pains to deserve it, but when he has once
lost the name, he will be apt to abandon the re-
ality.
4. Cultivate and exhibit, with the greatest
care and constancy, cheerfuness and good hum
or. They give beauty to the finest face, and
impart charms where charms are not. On the
contrary, gloomy, dissatisfied manner is chill
ing and repulsive to his feelings; he will be very
apt to seek elsewhere for those smiles and that
cheerfuncss which he finds not in his own
house.
5. In the article Of dress, study your husbands
tastes. The opinion of Others on the subject is
of but very little consequence, ifhe approve.
G. Particular shun what the world calls in
rdcule curtain lectures. When you shut your
door at night, cndeavor to shut out at the same
moment all discord and contention, and look on
your chamber as a retreat from the vexations of
the world shelter sacred to peace and affection.
How indecorous, offensive, and sinfn it is for a
woman TO exercise authority over her husband,
and say will have it so. 1t shall be as like.
But trust the number of those who adopt this
unbecoming and disgraceful manner is SO small
as to render it unnecessary for Inc to enlarge on
the subject. :,
7. 30 careful never to join in a jest or laugh
against Your husband. Conceal his faults, and
speak only of his merits. Shun every approach
to extravaganza. The want ofeconomy has in-
volved millions in misery. BE neat, tidy, order
ly methodical. Rise early. breakfast early have
place for everything ana everything in its
place.
S. Few things please man more than seeing
his wife notable and clever in the management
of her household. A knowledge of cookery, as
we'll as every other branch in housekeeping, is
indispensable in lfeaale, and wife should al.
ways endeavor to suppor: with applause the
character of the lady and the housewife.
O. Let hom, be your empire-your world.
Let Il be the stage on which i'll the varied char
acter of wife of mother, and of mistress you
strive to Shine. In its sober, quiet scenes, let
YOU; heart cast its anchor let your feelings and
pursuits all be centered Leave to your husband
the task of distinguishing himself by his valor
or his talents. DO you seek for fame at home
and let your applause he that Of your servants
your childN,,, your husband your God.
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