The daily Minnesota pioneer. [volume] (St. Paul, Minn.) 1854-1855, 1855-09-29
Woman and Marriage.
RY wAsHINGToN IRVING.

| have epeculated great deal upon matrimony.
have seen young and beautiful women, the pride of
gay circles, married. the world says, well! Some
Of them have moved in costly houses and their friends
have all and looked AT their fine furniture, and
their splendid arrangements for happiness, and they
have gone away aud committed them to their sunny
hopes cheerully, and without fear. 1t is natural to
be sanguine for the young, and al such times ! am
carried away by similar feelings. ! love to get I'M
observed into a corner, and watch the bride in her
white attire, and with her smiling face and soft eyes
moving in their pride OF life, weave waking dream
II of her future happiness, and pei suade myself that it
will be true. think how they will sit upon the lux
urous sofa the twilight falls and build gay hopes
and murmur in low tones the now forbidden tender
ness and how thrillin9ly the allowed kiss and the
beautiful endearments of welded life will make even
their parting joyous, and how gladly back from
the crowd and the empty mirth OF the gay to each
others quiet company. l picture TO myself that
Young creature who bushes even now at his hesta-
ling caress listening eagerly for his footsteps DIS the
night steals on, and wishing that he would come
and when he enters at last, and with affection
undying his pulse, folds her to his bosom, can
feel the tide that goes flowing through the heart and
gaze with him on that graceful form she
about for The kind Offices of affection, soothing all
his unquet cares and making him forget him
self in her you g and unshadowed beauty
go forward for years and see her luxuriant hair
put sobery away from her brow, and the girlish gra
ripen into dignity, and oveliness chastened with
band looks on her with proud eye, and shows her
the same fervent love and delicate attentions which
first her. and her fair children are growing about
them, they go full Of honor and untrOlbed years
and remembered when they die
| say love to dream thus when 90 To give the
young bride Joy 1t is the natural tendency of feel
ngs touched by loneliness, that feels nothing itself;
and if ever yield darkened feelings, il is because
the picture is changed. am not fond of dwelling on
such changes and will not infinitely l alude
Al lNo
read by some of the young and beautiful beings who
daily move across my path, and would whisper TO
them they glide oyously and confidently, the secret
of an unclouded future.
The picture l have drawn above is not peculiar.
1t is colored like the fances OF the bride; and many
many hour will she sit with her rich jewels lying
loosely in her fingers, and dream such dreams as
these. She believes them, too-and she goes on
while undeceived. The evening is not too long while
they talk of plans for happiness, and the quiet meal
is still pleasant and delightful novelty of mutual
lance and attention. There comes soon, however,
time when PERSONAL topics become bare and weari
some, and slight attention will not alone keep up the
social excitement. There are long intervals of ST.
lence, and detected symptoms of WEAKNESS; and the
husband frst in his manhood, breaks in upon the
hours they wont to spend together l cannot
follow it circumstantially There come long hours OF
unhappy restlessness, and terrible misgvngs of each
others worth and Affection till, by and by they go
ont separately seek relief and lean upon the hollow
world for the support which one who was their lover
and friend could not give them.
Heed this, ye who winning by your innocent
beauty the affection of high minded and thinking be-
ings. Remember that he will give up the brother Of
his heart, with whom he has had fellowship Of mind
he society of his contemporary runners in the of
fame, who have held with him s,ern companionship;
and frequently in his passionate love, he will break
awaysfrom the arena of his burning ambitions, to
rome land listen to the voice of the charmer." 1t
will liewilder him at first; but 1t will not long. And
hen, think YOU that an idle Establishment wi change
miIH that has been used for years. to equal COM
munt In! Think you that he will give up for weak
laIliasce animatng themes, and the search into the
nyster of knowledge. Oh no, lady! believe me,
no! Trust not your influence to such light letters.
Credi the old fashioned absurdty that woman s
secondary lot, mnisterng to the necessities of her
lord and master. If your immortality is complete
and your gift Of mind capable ours, would put
no wisdom of mine against Gods allotment. l would
charge you water the undyng bud and give it a
healthy culture and open its beauty to the sun; aud
then you may hope that, when your life is bound with
another, you will go on equally and in fellowship
hat shall pervade every earthly intees