Carroll free press. [volume] (Carrollton [Ohio]) 1834-1861, 1855-05-24
Gables Department,


One Of the most frequent sources Of trial 10
Al American housskeeper, Is the kitchen heip-
Either no help can Be obtained, or y = OF =
yery poor quality. In the country The hrst OF
these is perhaps the greater evil, u the city
the latter. So long a. immigrants from other
lands continue 10 swarm to our shores, help Of
some kind viii doubtless be abundant, but the
aversion of foreigners generally to farming
LIE. and their desire 70 eongregate together,
make h difscuIt TO place them where most
nssdsd-in our small villages Snd rural dis
kricts.
Work in some one elae's kitchen has come
70 be considered 90 msnial that few americans
will engage in Il. TO those Who have been
brought up with the cry always in their ears
'All men are created free and equal the nsees-
sarily subordinate position Of servant, is Pc
euIiarly irksome, the more 80 as in maay fam.
lies their position Is rendered far more unpeas-
ant that necessity requires. More comfort TO
both parties might often be secured by a
change in The treatment OF dOmesties, and new
ones sOHld more readily be procured altar such
change than before.
Too htie thought Is generally given to this
Subject. There is perhaps no relation in life
where more wisdom, patience, pFiAeiple and
self-conlrol are required for the proper dis
charge Of duty than this. Numberless duties
are required Of hired hslp. while the employer
seldom inquires whether she may not owe
soms other return besides food and wages
Let the Golden Rnls' always bs remembered,
and let US Oitsn think how should like TO have
daughter or sister treated we're she obliged
Ito work out
We do not mean that they should be placed
on an equality with the family-ws should not
under ordinaiy circumstances expect that for a
daughter, but their comfort should be consid
cred in numberless instances where It is over
looked.
Be not too exactng but remember that liks
yourselves they are liable TO become weary Of
I'm.
Do not consider part of your business Ia
lind fault with them whenever any occasion
will warrant. The same principle which should
govern us in the care Of children is applicable
here-msnifest your appreciation for every
thing that will bear II, and eensure as little as
Ipossible. Treat them perseveringly Is though
lyon supposed they intended to do right, even
Though you know il be not the case. and in
stead of finding fault when q thing is done
wrong, wait II possible. till it is 10 be done a.
gain. then remind them Of their previous forget.
fulness, and explain your wishes anew, aud
lyou viii be fer more likely TO accomplish
permanent improvement.
Never raise your voice or speak in an angry
or excited manner-speak deliberately and
calmly. however great the annoyance, or ifyou
cannot control your voice, be silent till you
can, and you viii not only have gained great
victory over yourself but remedy the evil far
more surely. Add praise for something well
done at the same time that you censure, ifposs'
Ible.
A fresh hand is often little help 10 an over.
worked housewife, but exercise patience. &c
about with them and show them few days i
necessary, and under proper management even
The moat stupid will improve.
Frequent changes are often q great annoy
ance, but the privilege Of change is as great
for the houswife as the girl. II they can dc
better elsewhere, they have the same right to
go, that persons employed in any other relation
have. Always treat them kindly and consider.
stOly, aud d. them favor when you can aud
and they will be less inclined to leave.
Much is saiG about WOman's working poor
ly paid in comparison with mans and this ia
true; yet how few are willing TO increase the
wages Of their girls even 90 Slightly: If you
do not make them equal to man, give them
WhAt you :onsider fair, and in addition always
give them time for attention to the wardrobe,
for improvement Of the mind by reading or stu
dyingf for visiting with friends, DO, better make
some definite arrangement about this, giving
them their evenings or certain portion
of the afternoons for this purpose, aud much
good feeling will thereby be secured. - Ohio
Cultivator.