Thibodaux minerva. [volume] (Thibodaux, La.) 18??-1858, 1855-04-14
Hints for Husbands.

upon the LADIES' rather apJect SUBMISSIVE ~
.ho;r husbands will and whims. Iron rules,
nj Golden ones, we should call them. But the
art Of living together in harmony is very
a;a;cnlt art; and, instead of confusing the posi-
.;ons of the author of the rules aforesaid, we
offer the following, as the substance of what a
wife likes in husband:
Fidelity in her hearts first and most just
a.m.nd. The act of infdelity, true wife
us forgiye-it rudely breaks the die that
Ssnrd her heart to his, and that tie can never
more exist
The first place in her husbands affections no
..ra wife can learn to do without. When she
Laos that. she has lost her husband; she is q
,.;dow. and has to endure the pangs of bereave-
,,ant intensified by the presence of what she no
ianoer possesses There is a living mummy in
che house, reminding her Of her loss in the
most painful manner.
,r.,t;es which distinguish the masculine from
ttSo feminine being-such as strength, courage,
sort;tude and Judgment. She wants her hus
hand to he wholly MAN. She cannot entirely
love one whom she cannot entirely respect,
believe in, and rely on
wife dearly likes to have her husband stand
h;ob in the regard Of the community in which
thew NAV reside. She likes to be thought by
ber own sex fortunate woman in having such
a husband as she has. She has taste for the
respectabe, desires to have good looking front
door. and keep up a good appearance generally.
Some wives, it is said, carry this too far; and
some husbands, we know, are dangerously com
PLEASANT in yielding to the front door ambition
Of their wives. But good husband will like to
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Without sacrificing more important objects.
Perfect sincerity wife expects, or at least
has right to expect, from her husband. She
desires to know the real state Of the case, how
ever it may be concealed from the world. 1t
wrings her heart and wounds her pride to dis
cover that her husband has not wholly confded
in her. A man may pro6tably consult his wife
on almost any project it is due to her that he
should do SO, and she is glad to be consulted
Above most other things, q wife Graves from
her husband appreciation. The great majority
Of wives lead lives of severe and anxious toll.
With unimaginable anguish, and peril to their
own lives, they become mothers. Their child
rem require incessant care. Only the eye OF
God watches like mothers, says Fanny Fern
in that chapter of "Ruth Hall I" which depicts
with such power and truth a mothers agonizing
an1ieties. And besides her maternal cares,
wife is the queen-regent of a household king
DOM She has to think and plan for everybody
IT, in all her labors and cares, she feels that
she has her husbands sympathy and gratitude;
if he helps her where q man can help woman:
if he notices her efforts applauds her skill, and
allows for deiciencies-all is well. But to en-
dure all this, and yet meet no appreciating
word, or glance, or act, from him for whom she
tolls and bears, is very bitter
q wife likes her husband to show her all due
respect in the presence Of others; she cannot
endure to be reproved or criticised by him when
others can hear it. Indeed, it is most wrong in
husband thus to put his wife to shame; and
we cannot help secretly admiring the spirit of
that French woman who, when her husband had
80 wronged her, refused ever again to utter
word, and for twenty years lived in the house
dumb woman. We admire her spirit, though
not her mode of manifesting it. Husbands owe
most profound respect to their wives, for their
wives are the mothers Of their children. No
man has the slightest claim to the character of
a gentleman, who is not more scrupulously
polite to his wife than to any other woman. We
refer here to the essentials of politeness not to
its forms; we mean kindness and justice in
little things.
A wife likes her husband to be considerate.
Unexpected kindness and unsolicited favors
touch her heart. She appreciates the softened
tread when she is sick; she enjoys the gift
brought from distance, and everything which
proves to her that her husband thinks Of her
comfort and her good. 3.+
Husbands, reflect upon these things. Your
wife has confded her happiness to you. You
can make her life proudly happy, if you are
kind and wise. You can make it unspeakable
wretched, if you are ignoble and short-sighted.
Let the contest between husbands and wives be
this: Which shall do the most for the happiness
Of the other.
DANCING MEN FURNISHED TO ORpEH.-The
following is part of letter from the CORES
pendent of the Courier des Etats Unis:
ra There is at Joubet st. No. 238, an Institute
where they furnish to order young men to dance
at parties and private balls. The hard times,
the war, the exchange, the industrial enter
prises, in fine, for the last ten years, has
chased the young men of worth from the pleas
ures of the polka and quadrille, SO that the
balls are supplied only with female dancers, and
families giving dancing parties are Obliged to
invite school boys, which explains Why so many
are given on Thursday, the day on which the
lyceums and colleges are closed. You can hear
on all sides, ladies demanding with anxiety Of
their friends, who wish to introduce to them q
gentleman-" Does he dance?" This is of more
Importance than name, rank, or anything else.
When this deplorable situation was once asser-
tanned, there was formed, under the direction Of
. famous dancing master, special Institute,
which furnishes, by the hour or by the night,
young men from 20 to % years Of age, Of fine
shape, well dressed, and Of decided dancing
tendencies. They are generally young dry
goods clerks, whose awkwardness has been re-
moved by intercourse with ladies at the counter
They simply know how to compliment them on
their toilettes, which caused them to be con-
sidered BY the ladies, very amiable and quite
witty. They are clothed, gloved, ruffled, booted
and presented, stomach empty! They cost .
iouis head, and with . dozen you can have
quite IN animated dance. Wednesday last the
Institute Of Joubert street furnished one hundred
and twenty-six 70 the divers hops Of the Chausse-
d,Antin. Az it appears, that comprised its
whole number They are now hurrying up re-
cruits, Madam having engaged for herself
alone thirty for the 10Th Of this month, twelve |
naxen-haired, twelve with black hair, and six |
bald-headed gentlemen. g
The bald hesded ones cost Is francs head.
they are taught digni6ed air, and are ex-
pected to represent young magistrates, lawyers
snd young men Of promise worn out by midnight
soiL There Is . fne looking old soldier, who
hss been decorated with the ribbon Of the !" Le-
g'on OF Honor" who will not furnish himself
vannA H.. ~ e.