The Lancaster ledger. [volume] (Lancaster, S.C.) 1852-1905, 1855-01-17

simplicity OF childhood u overlay it with
gaudy attire, ever after deemed indispen-
sable. Then comes the French attendant
and the child is consigned to the care of a
person who is to use a language in com.
mon with that child, and with which, in
many cases, the parents are entirely igno-
rant, or only partially acquainted. What
an instrument of evil at the same time
often exposing them to the mode of ex-
preston and pronunciation of IT, e unedu-
Gated and unrefed, for their first knowl-
edge of that language, with provincial
or nasal sound.
The second stage, is Of the young girl
or boy just entering school, where they
carry the cultivated love of display; they
imbibe, also, a Ia tc for an artificial mode
OF life, from the eXtravagantly furnished
houses in some instances) where they are
nominally sent for intellectual and moral
improvement, and where the girl or boy
who has not been favored Of fortune, feels
for the first time, discomfort at the health
ful plainness of their own homes all that
is artificial takes the place Of thA simple
regimen, so necessary to strengthen the
mind and character. The question now
is, (which is the most fashionable
school"
Then comes the next stage, when the
girl or boy, or rather the grown-up child,
all finished, enters society, "parrotted"
wit few French phrases, with no knowl-
edge of tie literature Of that language, a
little more of music, (tor that, we are sor-
ry to say, has become more mcchanical.)
but without true sclf.depenlence sprin ring
from firm principles, a cultivated heart
aud simple religious life Is it to be
wondered at that she loses her maidcnv
reserve and womanly strength, and be-
comes the loultalking, rude girI-whis,
the boy becomes etfcminate, opinionated
aud Irrevcrentl What do they know of
reserved rights, when nightly, in the dance,
IN almost every circle, there is such AN a
buse of the manifestations which belong
to the most sacred and beautiful feelings
of our nature!
Now appears the darkest side of the
picture; from this preparation, we are to
look for the wife and mother, the husband
and father, even before the dawn Of wo-
manhood or manly character! She is to
mould and influence the future men and
women of the country, and to be the com
panion, the sustaining friend, the helper,
of one whom she should bless, rather than
curse-she, whose person and house
should be ornamented with Christian and
feminine graces, and who should have so
much regard for the dignity of her hus-
band and herself, rs not to he wiling that
he should sacrifice the best porto of his
life at his place of business, to minister to
her endless artificial wants, to prevent her
from living upon the bounty of the mcr-
chant, the upholsterer, the dressmaker and
the miilincr. Then would divorces be less
| frequent, places Of amusement and de%ra-
ding crimes less frequentcd, the home a
place of improvement and happiness, and
| the child undetrauded Of its rights, for
"heaven lies about us in our infancy"
We will here quote from faithful pic
ture OF an interesting writer, for we love
TO dwell on the character of true woman
and consider it her highest privilege to
! grace and gladden. her home TO a
man who knows the world, anil under
stands what he should hope from it. what
he should do in it, nothing can be more
desirable than meeting with wife who
will every where cooperate with him, who
will every where prepare his way for him,
whose diligence takes up what he must
leave, whose occupation spreads itself on
every side, while his must travel forward
on its single path. Order in prosperity
courage in adversely, care for the smallest,
and a spirit capable of comprehendng
and managing the greatest; these are
such qualities as we find in the women oi
history-that cIearness of view, that ex.
pertness in all emergencies. that sureness
in details, which brings the whole so ac-
curately out"
The young man growing up under more
elevated influences, giving some portion
Of his time to intellectual pursuits and to
retirement,wiII gradually be forming taste,
to make the home happy, and will be
wise enough to feel, that If he does moi
sacrifice himself in the countingroom OF
Office, he will leave Eairer Inheritance to
his children, and one which is indispen.
sable to an entrance to happier home
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