The weekly Lancaster gazette. (Lancaster, Ohio) 1852-1855, 1855-01-04

by all means. marry woman with mon
ey, say carefulfathers to their sons; you'll
find it as easy as not 10 get suitable wifi
who has n little fortune Give me beau,,
grace and accomplishments, is the menta
answer Of enthusiastic youth, and leave
mercenary considerations to baser souls
We submittbat neither is right. It i.
infinitely more important that young mar
should choose healthy, amiable and in.
telllgent partner, than that he should sc.
lect either a beauty or an heiress. The
latter hrs usually expensive habits, and by
the time she has been marriedtwenty years
has cost her husband the amount Of her
fortune in superfuitics Besides, heress-
ess are generally brought up in idleness,
spending their time in reading gnovels, ,loung-
ing about on the sofa, or acquiring taste
for fashionable dissipation; so that they are
either a6surdly romantic, or ont Of health
from want of exercise or from late hours,
and therefore entirely unfit TO make good
wives. Beauties, ,on the other hand, most
y are vain and giddy, if not both. Ifwiyes
are designed for playthings, or had no pur-
pose beyond being parlor ornaments,a "A beau
ty might be desirable, just as pictures are,
or fine furniture. The man who marries
an heircss sacrifices his independence and
ends by finding he is out of pocket also
The lover who weds merely for beauty, ties
himself to doll, which has not even the
merit of being sure to keep its painted
cheeks.
Those women make the best wives who
combine common sense with good temper;
who have been brought up TO help them
selves, and who bring sound constitutions,
equabe spirits, and d sincere alfectiUn,as \
dowry to their lovers. A wife should be
her husbands best friend-she should be
competent to counsel him in difficulties, to
cheet him in sorrow, to render his every
day hearth tic pleasantest spot to him to
be found anywhere. IF she has confirmed
i'll health, she canno. be all this to him;
neither can she if she has acrooked temper,
or habits of Incidence, or is deficient in
practical sense. The womanwhose whole
heart is devoted to show to company,
or to idle accomplishments, may possibly
make an interesting belle, but she is sure
to prove very Indifferent Wewould
no. have young girls neglect the beautiful
entirely; but that which adorns should be
made subservient to some moro solid su-
perstructure. To know how to play the
last new air, yet be ignorant how to COM
pound the last new pudding, is surely IN
pardonable. An man might as well neg
lect to learn n business, as woman refuse
to acquire knowledge of housekeeping.
1t is useless to disguise the fact that
girls are too often directed to attract lovers
rather than to retain the affection of hus-
bands. This is especially y true ofthe daugh-
ters of families above the necessity of daily
labor. Mrs. F., the successful mechanic S
wife, makes a virtual slave Of he,sclf, by
drudging late and early, in order that An
ma Maria may be brought up, as she phra-
ses it ikea lady, The young miss, ac-
cordingly, is erammed with music, dancing
French, and other fiddle faddles, is told
always tocarry her shoulders back. and
never to romp, and is taught to consider
work as degrading, What sort ofa wife
can such creature make. If she marries
anybody buta rich man, her idle and ex-
pcnsive habits keep him always poor. If
she catches prize, which, perhaps, one
in thousand may do, ten to one she soon
disgusts her husband. Tn another case
she is always out ofhealth, the consequence
of want of exercise in girlhood, and if she
has offspring, entails her weakness natural
ly on her progeny. Physicians do not
hesitate to say that large proportion offe-
male invalids of the present genaration-
and their number is known to be legion
owe their complaints to the folly of parents
in neglecting to bring them up properly
Phil. Ledger.