The western Democrat. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1852-1870, 1855-12-25

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If such you should happen to find.
o, do not misuse her,
And nevcrrelIlse her,
When proper her wishes may be;
/ And thy cost, care and trouble,
She'll recompense double,
BY the kindness she'll lavish on thee
My DEAR FRIENDS Il am not speaking
of horses, but | do intend to say that a wife
is as nice a creature TO work IN double har-
ness, if you use her properly, as q person
need wish to drive, but to possess. Yes,
she works well, if rightly served and badly.
if abused: she won't put her foot over the
traces, nor hold hard on the bit, with pro-
per treatment but with severe and unjust
management, she shows the spunk charac-
| teristic of her sex, and which l, for one,
take the responsibility to admire. She ex-
poets to be treated like a human, at least
and when a brute of husband endeavors
to make her his slave, and kick her about
like dog, it must be supposed that she
will throw herself upon reserved rights-a
broom-stick, pair of tongs, or particu-
lar lover.
My friends, a wife should be cherished
dearly. Consider the amount of love laid
out to get her, in the first place-the cost
Of attending the preliminaries-an the af-
ter expenses so cheerfully betrayed. Con-
if you can, that she is not worth preserving
and protecting as pearl of great PRICE
You take her for better or for worse, Just as
you buy colt. If she prove better you
to be worse, you must consider it your mis-
fortune and bear the burden as well as you
can. The predicament was no fault of
hers; she didn't ask you to take her but
you popped the question and she replied {:
''Here, sir, | give myself away-now take
me as | am ~ SO, you see you are bound
to cherish her, under any circumstances, let
her be good or bad-a direct descendant of
the devil, or a legitimate offspring of hea-
ven.
My worthy hearers: after you have got a
wife see that you continue to love her sim
cerely, if not as warmly as when you first
breathed into her ear the tender sentiments
of your heart. Cling to her with all the af-
fectionate tenacity of hop vine and when
the tempest winds of trouble blow, cling
tighter still, like coon to a limb in a hur-
ricanc. You must love her, and love each
other, if you would keep fresh and bright
the fairest blossoms III the boquet of connu-
bial bliss, and see little jumping-up- John
nics ever and anon springing in your flower
beds of domestic joys. But | know how it
is with you young husbands; your love is
too apt to boil over in the beginning, and
put out the ire-then the liquor grows cool
by degrees; and sometimes it gets so low
in temperature, that if thermometer were
introduced, think it wouldn't stand Il great
ways from freezing heat. You walk into
matrimonial Eden, and imagine that double
breasted joys, and india-rubber pleasures
are forever to attend you; but, directly
you fail afoul of the Fruitful yourself al
most to a surfeit-and then say in your in
wards, This place isn't near so nice as /
thought it was don't know but that /
would as soon be a bachelor again, perhaps Il
little sooner" O, you easily Gupcd vic
tins of disappointment! you must not raise
your anticipations of conjugal felicity of
quite so high pitch. Bring them to lit
tie lower standard, and you will be as much
surprised at the true pleasures, and com
forts attending thereby, as | was at the en-
joymcnts of a turtlc-soup party the other
day at my friends, the Mcssieurs Burnham
on the BloOmingdale road, about three
miles beyond Corporal Thompson's, quar-
ter of q mile beyond Mr.. Grifin's, half a
mile this side of Col Struckman's Strikers
Bay,) and within a mile of Capt. Trusdell's
(Abbcy Hote!.) 1t is a good thing to be
particular in pointing out locations.
Nv hearers be faithful to the wife pay
her all the attentions you possibly can.-
Don't fiddle about among other wives. be-
cause if you do, you will stand chance,
Ike my friend, Gen. Scott, of being expos
ed to t4yo fres-one in front, and the other
in the rear BE at home evenings, and at
all times WHen Sne mas proper IISlI 10 GA
pect you; be kind and indulgent to her, as
you value her and your happiness; for if
you foolishIy oppose woman in her ways,
you face an enterprising and energetic tor
nado. You must not take advantage of any
slight friling of her nature but if you find
flaw, instead of making the crack wider by
picking and punching, you must cover it all
over with the soft, soothing and all-healing
plaster of patience-abd you win find that
it is her disposition to mend, rather than to
make breaches. o, do not, beseech you,
my dear friends, never misuse your better
halves! They were never fashioned nor