The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1854-05-24
Popping aEao question.

The t"!l'wing from, " Every OncS's
Book contains som, suggestions on
subject i'll respect to which good ad.
vice is particularly desirable:
There is nothing more appalling to-
u modest and sensitive young man,
than asking tho girl he loves, to marry
him, and there are few who do not find
their moral courage tested to the ut,
tern OSt.
Many-u man who would lead q for
Iorn hope, mount a breach, and seek
"rcputation in the cannnu's mouth .
tremblrs at tho idea of asking a wn.
man the question which is to decide
his fate. Ladies may congratulate
themselves that nature and custom
have made them the responding party.
In = matter which men have always
found SO terrible, ct which, one way
or other, t;icy have always cortrivcd
in some awkward way to accomplish !;
it is not easy to give instructions suit
ed 10 every emergency.
A man naturally conforms to the
disposition q the woman he admirers.
lfshe is serious, he Will apprna h the
awful subject with sormnity-ii'
softly sentimental, he must WOO lcr in
u strain oi high wrought romance. and
If severely practical he relies upon
straight forward common sense.
There IS one maAin, of universal an.
pllcati"n. Never loose an opp"rlm,i-
~. " hat can Il wonnan think of Il
lover VII" nrH!ec,s one? Women
cannot make direct advances, but
they use i!tinite tact i'll giving men
occasions to use then,. In cvrr> ease
II Is tar [" presume tat when wu.
1nan SivcS man a'i "i'r"rtmi'y She
expects him to improve i, and ,!unyl
he may trcinhlr, and !cri his pulses
thr"bbng and tinglc through every
limb; though his heat fills up his
thr"at. and his tongue cicavcs L. the
root ct his 'u"nth. yet the nwtuI ,,mrS-
ti"n must be askrd--,hc lr;,rius task
accomplished.
IN the country. the lover taking Il
romantic walk hy moonlight, with the
lady of his love talks OF the scenery,
the harmony OF nature. and cxclaim--
"Ah Julia, how happy would rxi lcncc
prove If ! always had such companion.
She CHS and lea $ more tu!di. ON
tho arm that trcin pIinyiy supports her.
My dearest Julia, uc mine !,,,e>er.
This Is Il settler, and the answer,
ever SO iuaulibie, makes or uudurs hun
quite.
Take pity on q Cnrlorn bach, lor, says
another, in manner which NAV Lr
either jest or earnest marry me at
once and put me out oi my misrry.
With all my heart. whenever ,nn
are ready, replied tie laughing far. 4
Joke carried thus far is easily made
earnest.
a point is often carried by taking Il
thing for granted. y gentleman wh,
has been paying his attentions to a
lady says, Well, Mary, when Is the
happy day? What day, pray she
asks with a conciuus blush
Why every budy knows we are
going to get married, nn, it mig..t u>
well be one time as another, 50 when
snail II be
Cornered in this fashion there is
no retreat.
Jane | love you! will you marry
me ? would be somewhat abrupt, ami
a frankly given Ycs!." would be TOO
short lur an answer.
Ellen, one word from YOU would
make me the happiest man in exist
ence.
| should be cruel no, TO speak
1t then, unless it is a very hard one.
1t is word Of three letters, and
answer the question, Will you marry
me?
The lady ofcourse says yes, unless
she happens to prefer a word of only
tw" letters, AID answers No.
And SO this interesting and terrible
process, in practice simple as it is in
hundred ways according to circum
stances and the various dispositions.
One timid gentleman asks, Have
you any objection to change Sour
name and follows this up with anotn.
er which clenchcs It's Significance, how
would mne suit you
Another asks, VIII you tell we what
most wislLtn know
Yes. it !can.
The happy day when we Shall be
married ?
Another says, My Eliza, we must do
what the world evidently expects we
shall.
All the world is very imper,ncn,
| know it-but it can't be hclppd.
When shall ltcll the parson to be
ready
AS a general Thing, a gentleman
need never be refused. Every woman
except a hearlI' ss coquclte, finds the
means of discouraging the man
whom she does not Intend tn have
before the matter comes tot G uoint
OF u declaration.
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MILcn Cows.-lt YOU desire tha,
your miIch COWS should Weld literally
to the pail. y"n must feed them u..
something better suited to The Sccrc.