The weekly Lancaster gazette. (Lancaster, Ohio) 1852-1855, 1854-11-02
Premature MarrImony.


dence not solely as the means Of keeping
up population, or as a mere social and e.
economical convenience, but as the blending
of two spirits into one--the masculine rep
resenting Wisdom, and the feminine, gGec-
lion. When there is a true spiritual atfini-
ty between the two, then the design is ac-
complished. Such an affinity, We believe,
may continue in the other life equally as in
this. .I
Premature marriages are among the
greatest evils Of the times; and it would not
be bad idea, in these days of reforms, If
an MISUNDERSTANDING society were
instituted. Now days people leap into
the magic life-circle, with no more consid-
Grafton than they would partake Of a dinner
little thinking that, when once in, they !
are there until their end comes. There is |
but little, sometimes no mutual analysis Of
disposition, and comparison Of tastes and
affections. They seem to fancy that, if
there are any discrepancies, the fatal Cor !
dian knot, which can be seldom cut, and |
never united, will harmonise all.
| The numbers who have felt this truth
the numbers still feeling it to their hearts
core-are incalculable. They recognise it
as the great mistake of their lives. The
chain is not to them sken one, but ca
bic Of form, that tightens around them more
and more, crushing out all hope and ener-
gy, substituting hate for love, and eating
out, with its rust, the very inner life Of the
soul.
BOYS and girls now marry at greater
extent than ever before instead of waiting
till they become full grown and matured
men and women. The young dandy, as
Soon as he gets out Of short jackets, and
finds little .faz gathered on his upper lip
and the young Miss, as soon as she e
merges from the nursery and abbreviated
frocks--think they are well qualified to as
sumo the most solemn responsibilities of
life. And SO if "Pa" and ma" won't
consent they post off to some Gretna-
Green, and there take obligations that. in
ninety mine cases out Of hundred, they
will never cease bitterly to repent.
Marriage should never be the result of
fancy. The ballroom and theeyening par
ty rarely develop real character. Under
the exhilerating influence of the dance, the
glare of lights, and the merry quip and
. Joke, the disolute young man may appear
5 amiable, and the slattemly scold loEeable.
: Matches made at such places, or under SIM
{ liar circumstances, are not of the class that
originate in Heaven. They more general
: Iy are conceived in the opposite place, and
= bring forth only iniquity. The true way
to learn each other is to do it at home, in
q the parlor,, in the kitchen, and on occasion:
: that test the temper. We see the result o
q these unions in the almost daily divorce
+ that are taking place-in the running ava,
q of husbands, leaving their wives and chill
Q dren to starve-and in the elopement o
IS wives. Not only this, but we witness it il
J. broken spirited men, made old in heprim
.. of life, struggling on for mere food AM
!. clothing and shelter, and in women, cross
o. dirty, sluttish and wrinkled.
? 1t would be quite impossible for us to de
,r pict faithfully the multitude of physical an
,e moral evils that result from these sinful a
ID liances-for sinful they are. They rui
> the body, corrupt the morals. and stultif
ar the mind. And the result does not sto
= with husband and wife. There are II
of childrcn.g They partake of the feebleneI
t. and vices ofthe parents, both physical an
o: moral, and go out into the busy wor
ut stunted and gnarled. God pity them!
m We would not be understood as speakir
against the institution of marriage. 1t
holy, beautiful and benifcent. Butle tev
ry one take lis mate, or none. Let not Il
!. brave eagle pair with the stupid owl, n
~ the gentle dove with the carrion crow
On Like should have like. 1t is gloFio
ar sight to see twoold people,who have weat
ss- cred the storms, and basked in the su
'ur shines Of life together, go hand in han
IN lovingly and truthfully, down the gentle d
AL clivity of time, with no angers, nor je
les ousies, nor hatreds garnered up against ca
ell other, and looking with hope andj to
'ur everlasting youth of heaven, where tn
es' too shall be one forever. That is true m;
al- riaee-for it is the marriage of spirit W
are spirit. Their love is woven into a wool
EN- gold, that neither time, nor death, nor ct
Ian nity can sever-1He Eclectic. . ,