New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1854-12-01
CALIFORNIA WIDOES.

II ca Lct0y Of IA " Y. Irtoaas.
SIR: II 10 20 you, uho sdvoca,e the rgb.s ~ the
t0,le, srd deDOuDcs the wrongs done them tia,
appeal behalf OF a class 10 the community, oomnony
osnod California WidoSs.'
Ire Bible ,pesks 81 tsose Who are widows Indeed,
sne hen 70 toe ch ,rify q lbc brethren;
bvt ihese poor pegleed souls have place in their
Fynnp.ihy or compassion. Toeir 'sition in society
is lookod upon as being extremely amu.iDg and they
are treated accordingly. No one seems 10 think they
have any cause io' sorow, or stand in any need Of
eOpsclatiOn.
No widow indeed, spoken Of in Holy Wit,
ever reqaiJed TO be ciroumspec.. If one Of US
IL Fad or depending, it is said directly, "Mr. -
turned out very differently from her expectations;
"he is poor stick, Of er all" On the other hand,
II one is gay or cheerful tits mysteriousy whispered,
without doubt, he had COED reasons for going to
"Califorpia" "She doesn't seem to care much
about bis absence, at all events"
Each Of MS must pretend that che feels awfally,
because her husbands business engagements
such as 10 keep bin so long absent. Each C4lifJr-
MIA widow must pretend That Der absent spouse is
doing wonders out there, land no doubt he is if the
truth we're kDowBl. She must bear from bin every
mail at all eveDfs and receive check Of $50 every
month. These some Of the demands made by
society upon California widows.
l. for one protest against the position we occupy.
1 see no sense in our acting like a community Of
bypocrits public opinion making any such sb
suTd demands. feel CO Ifosnt my experience is a
fair specimen of DDe cares ont of ten OF California
widows, and will give il for your OBLIGATION.
lem young, gooc looking interesting lady, as
near a. / Gun sscertsin tue decision of the public,
which 10 the tue standard 10 all cases, social civil
ard religious. had the misfortune TO marry man
who is incapable OF alpre ciatDg my wit, or being
cheYmed with my beauty. 1 must confess his lord
chip IL over forty, ana am scarcely tseny i've and
some allowance ought to b. mace for difference in
Taste; but that is only additional reason why he
should have been more attentive 10 me. should
have been the 10 run OIL and leave hn but no
took just much to please him if he had been
the most nere suing in the world. made believe
/ was glad 10 zee him when be came home from the
store: got biz slippers for him 10 due form kept the
buttons his SHIRTS and bis stockings well-darned
ied to talk 10 bim To the best of my ability, bat he
only rewarded IDe by saying, - ID keep still, my
"eesr; want 10 resd THE TRIBUNE" II | remon-
srated and begg,o bin to listen to something of in-
tefest, he adde0, " What makes you so silly, which
Is soft way Of saying hold your tongue" and
obeytd, of course and Jet him read or smoke to his
entire sasfoction-oDly put up all the windows il it
Was cold 90 Greenland.
One day he came home from the store rather more
sociable than usual aud said very composedly, " Our
Expectations have turned ou differently from what
" we anticipated Or IN other words, we have failed,
I" and am goisg TO California ia the mex, steamer
We have failed Yes, thought |, you have failed in
than one sense Of the word. | failed when |
married YOU that is certain and shall fail of getting
rid of you after you are gone have nothing better
to do now than TO board with old maiden aunt Of
my husbands, and keepup appearances. Ii get a
letter once month 90 well II get check of so
twice year it is ar much ever receive, and the
oldmaid keeps bin Gully informed OF all nay move
ueDts appeal TO nv sister WIDOWS If this is not q
striking lkebe,s of their several cases.
We have been unfortunate "a to unite our in-
terests with class Of VITO incapable of appre-
cistpg beauty, wit, kindness suy of the macy
graces with which richly gifted; men who care
for nothing but to smoke cigars and Drink champagne.
How can ladies Of refined taste be- expected to love
such set of blockheadsl It's out Of the question.
California is just the place for them, and they have
sense enough to underst4n the fact aud be cd the
fret opportunity There they can smoke and drink to
theiI entire satisfaction without the restraining IN
huence Of their wives
My object is to have some law passed with regard
to these interesting husbands, that when they cross
the Istbmus We shall be free from their )htro Then
we can have some satisfaction in trying to make the
beet Of bad barp ain. We 90 rs we think proper
and not be responsible 10 some old gump out in Cali
fofnia for our acts trust the so-called Californll
"WidOws" will sci d petition to our Legislature,
and thus obtain a redress of their grievance
CALIFORNIA WIDOW.