The Delaware herald., 1854-06-28
Written Cor the Herald.
The Bache elor.
BY CHARLIE.

BY CHARLIE.
"WHILE he haE hand to labour he will live
reputable; and while he has pen he will live
defended, though the feelings of his heart may
appear to be desolate ut times. Will he not,
Charlie !"-Zekel.
/ should rather think that he wculd. Ishould
think that the motives which prevented him
from entering into an unfavorable alliance
with the gentle sex, would also stimulate him
to industry and perseverance; and would, con-
sequently develop that manliness, independence
and native energy of character that chooses
rather to brook the "fiaunting jeers" of the |
thoughtless, and walk earth unloved and un-
cared for, sooner than have the radiance of
woman's love beam.o'er his path, and irradiate
his heart, when he knows, by thus acting, that
another will not be sharer of his grief and
sorrow.
There is many a noble heart and many gift.
ed intellect, that never found a spirit-mate"
on the shores of time; and many, very many,
(some have known,) whose talents and refine
ment would adorn the domestic circle and who
could honorably fill the various relations con-
nected Herewith, who shrink from the thought
of wooing another to share life's rough, dark
dark scenes with them. They are, as my friend
intimated, generally, q will not say, always,)
those who are endowed by nature with that Pc
culiar sensitiveness of feeling which involun-
tarily shrinks from the touch of coldness, that
obtrudes not itself in the circles of the giddy
and thoughtless, but seeks its pastme and
amusement in life's sequestered vales,"
i "Far from The maddenmg crowds ignOble srifc."
would not advise celibacy, if favorable op-
portunities present themselves for entering into
matrimony; for, think, with Randolph, d" a
man, to be happy in age, mnst have home,
wife and children" Buta man had better live
and die bachelor than to marry woman that
he does not love. Oh ! say you, but he can
love. How do you know! Did you ever try
TO school yourself in the science of Love p
Did you try to persuade yourself that you could
master and control the feelings and emotions OF
the heart! Ifyou never did, and are not over
scrupulous in these matters, Just try it the first
opportunity, and if you don't find it very diff
cult thing to do, then I'll own that the results
of my experiments on this subject are not fail
u criteria.
' 1 don't censure people for not marrying, my
. self l know that there is class of thought
{ less people who talk of the bachelor as though
' he was something beneath the notice, and un
: worthy of the countenance of refined society
And | know, too, that many who are married
C would be better, wiser and happier, if they ha'
i have "looked before they leaped." But the
1t must get married, that's the ultima thule O
their aspirations And one half of them know
e about as much of the duties and rcsponsibilitie
Il of the marriage state, ts | do of the Chimes
- language.
s. happen to know something about the man
ner in which one-half of those, who are maj
% riGd, train up their children. God pity then
= and their children too, Isay. What's filed tn
u country with the thousands of irresolute, spi
IS itless and imbecile mena What fills your pul
W. lie schools with scores of indolent and ragge
e children! Where can you find solution
these questions, save in the frequency Of thoi
re- thoughtless and premature marriages betwee
~ those who know as little about training al
ng morally educating their offspring, as those wi
uE are born blind know of colors.
lat Oh! say you, people are happier and mo
;a- useful to society after they are married.! Son
Ut of them are, and some of them are not. Ev,
ed the few that are better satisfied, have but
ius obscure perception of the increased respon
ths sibility incurred by such alliances. When tn
m awake up to consider the fact that their respo
ese sibility to God, and to society, increases in
re- jusi ratio with their opportunities and adva
iet tages for usefulness, they will find that it a.
'na requires greater exertiens and more circul
spect life, or else, they will be accountable at I
tne Judgment bar for the moral undoing of tho
Sis- whom they were bound to provide for and ed
eaa cate. When considerations Of this character
ilh termen from entering intomatrimonaia allianc
my / do not censure them but, when prodigali
en- dissipation or liceatiousness, destroys the
VII sire and extnguishes the relish for the emf
una ment Of domestic happiness--in such cases
ihe would not wish to screen the bachelor from
It's contempt which he deserves. / do not know d
rae society is injured by his neglecting to com
"a, with the established usage, for, fsuch were M
s- ried, they would be about the same; and tits VI
the probable that others would then be sharers
and their disgrace and iDfamy. II they are incli'
to dissipation, the fewer their alliances and
'ne sponsbities are, the better it is for society,
hey the duties of them all would probably be
elected.
the Roseyille, Del, June, 1854.
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