Nebraska palladium. [volume] (Bellevieu City, Neb.) 1854-1855, 1854-12-20
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more solemn engagement into which men
can enter, ihan that Of the marriage rcla-
lion, although practically It Is regarded as
ono Of ordinary Importance. Too frequent
Iy it is a question Of bargain and sale, en-
cred into from motives Of policy in the
acquisition Of wealth, or distinction. The
solemni'y of the matrimonial contract, be
comes doubly apparent when We consider
he obligations and duties incumbent upon
men and women as parents, and rs the in
structors Of that generation which is rap
idly following them. and 10 which must soon
be transferred, their responsibilities and
duties as citizens, and members Of the So
cial organization in which they may live.
II we glance around us upon the great
multitude Of mankind, we see many i'm
properly connected families. There are
many excellent women linked to miserable,
worthless, uncompanionaLle husbands
And numerous good men may be found
united 10 women, in no way suitable to oct
in the relation Of wite. These facts, in
deed, present the most inseparable Difficult
ty TO the manner of educating children,
heretofore pointed out. Harmony be-
tween, and the good example of The pa
rents are indispensable pre-requi sites tie
The proper culture Of the offspring. If
the seed Of instruction be choked by the
thorns and brumbles of a pernicious exam
pie, it can produce no fruit. This is one
Of those laws peculiar 10 human nature,
which should receive the special attention
Of the parent. All contention and dis
cord between husband and wife should
also be carefully avoided this can only
be accomplished by placing the matrimo-
NAL connection upon a different basis
Love or affection is supposed 10 precede
marriage, but upon what does love rest {?
What is love9 | answer that love IS o
sentiment, that 10 be permanent must re-
pose upon a perception, a mutual percep-
lion Of the virtue in both parties. A sym-
etry Of form, a beauty Of countenance, a
felicity Of action, may, indeed. throw a.
round lis object an additional charm, but
these latter qualities are fleeing, transito-
ry, eyascent, and unless it Iepose upon
a just conception Of each others WORTH
upon a knowledge Of each others dis posi-
ton, mutually 10 bear up against the "iils
to which flesh is heir" and 10 strew the
rugged pathway Of life with the flowers
Of kindness, and forLeararce, It will pass
away like sn evening sunbeam, and leave
q long black night Of domestic misery Il
follow. Lis the part Of the good TO sp-
Prccia'e good in others. The ,]irtuou,
mind is always pleased with virtue
HieE-minded, honorable conduct in either
sex never FAIRS TO commend admiration, snt
become the basis Of pure md exalted al.
lection between men and women. An,
conduct in either party tending 10 lessee
he respect Of the other, dimimshcs love
because any object unworthy of respec
never csn command tie affections. An,
hence. whichever conduct, develops itsel
after marriage, The result Of which is {,
establish d doubt of the existence Of lhosI
qualities upon which love or affection i
suppoied 10 rest, kIndles tie fame Of dis
cord, which consuming domestic happi
ness, ends, perchance, in separation o
crime. To make the sexes worthy Of eac
other-to cultivate the exercise Of correc
thought, and sound judgement in The selec
lion of a companion for life, and 10 rende
them the professors of such q~uAlitle
themselves as well as 10 make them goo
husbands and wives, seems a desideratur
ofthe highest importance. In a large ms
jorty Of cases, at present, the marriage II
.aiion is left 10 regulate itself. Youn
people come together, seeing only the 20.
ished side Of each other. The superfci.
( pOli;eness Of the world, prevents a deept
E insight into The character and capabllily {
either party 10 create happiness in the dc
nestle relation. No sort Of infatuation I
surps the place of substantial love, an
Perfecung itself in marriage, er.ds in mi,
cry.
Apart from the w~retehednoss of fam
lies SO created, 10 tie example set BY soc
parents, and their almost entire negleI
r properly 10 instruct their children, ma
be traced the most deplorsble evi
which daily result in the most a~troeiol
crime, and finally terminate in the sta.
1 priSon, or the gibbet. Ii we reject for
moment upon tie idea meant by the ter
love- it's believed that as exiting b,
tween husband and wife, il cannot naiui
ally extend itself 10 more than one obieo