Spirit of the age. [volume] (Raleigh, N.C.) 1849-1865, 1854-10-25
OCTOBER Is.
TaOirs' department,
Wriaen for the Spirit cfthe Age-Rateigh.
FRIENDSHIPS TRIUMPHS.
BY LORA.
TcoSrISUsD PROM oUR LAsT.]
The Answer.

n Won will allow me 10 take up the latter part
,o,r letter FIRST, dear Mary, l can only re-
n,ot that such n step as you detail, when surroun-
- nv similar circumstances, does indeed involve
oreat and important moral principles. In stand
p aloof or stepping boldly out from the ranks
-Ah snnnose the society around us, we should
~sigh impartially our own motiyes-look with az
.sasai.Jiced nm eve as possible into our opp0sers,
and deduce from-their respective effects, when ac-
tel cot upon the world, that course which Is right
and proper Re be pursued. Your remarks stun TAR
,her coibcide with my feelings upon this point, for
,hsra bas never appeared to me, in such a case, the
tthertv az n choice at all As women, educated for
vasnonsible positions in life, we are unworthy to
tboss %nosiions indeed, if there has not been strength
ENOUGH impaired during that term OF mental dis
oipline. 10 advocate those sentiments and 1--we cut
,hat life which our developed moral powers ap-
we've The smallest amount Of practical observa-
lion vfp sorve TO convince us that there is no mag
!. nover In cold. when separated from the false
and DEGRADING estimate placed upon II, to furnish
those elements Of character which alone 60 to make
the houeskman or the consistent woman.
tod knows, II il enough 10 make the heart bleed,
40 hear of the uukinduess and insult to which the
poor Of our sex are subjected. They may be the
ambodiment Of every female virtue, the recipient
OF each beauty and grace, but all this only serves
z 70 render thsnA uAogaronspteugNA tatBet ler ine
shafts 81 temptation, without lifting them TO thai
-osn.cl which they more justly merit than mem
b.rs IA that circle which hourishes above them
n We do right and act the wise and consistent
christian lady, what praise is our duel The prin'
ciples Of nUrility have besn Impressed upon oui
ratad. trom earliest years. We have been careful
H. aaJ Economically educated. We have listen
a. "A been constrained 10 adopt the views o
~ wise aud good. How could we avoid then Inn
En-, ,boge sentiments which are calculated to Sc
no,ce ar conscience to ourselves, and the wei
Lsing 81 society, at the same timer But we can
=, s,nnose that the childhood Of Emma Gale wa
..ssn5 mid any such opportunities OF improvement
hs,radation. aud woe, and sin, and shame Wer'
about bor early years. Perhaps she can even yo
remember when tho darkness oil tnose u1ys pesai
a. ,o1b,r about her home-when she hrst learned =
s.sL.r,re that step which should have been a CLEAN
oSIght throughout his dwelling. she might nav
bnon trained BY a yirtuous mothers hand, ana ye
vhat must have been that mothers agony upon
dcntb red. to reflect on the cares and troubles I
s.L;oL ~ was leaving her child exposed. VIVA
mnstbavs beeu that child's loneliness after she wa
laid away in the grave-and what strength OF Prln
eiple md purpose musthave been requisite III one >
yannv. "a sustain the character which you have CIV
an her. OH I should suppose the young Iemsie
of your little village would have cherished SO giau
10 sucb an opportunity Of proving to the worl
tbair annreciation of the truthful and good In the
own sex. would love to imagine them Vlem
with each other in noble zeal to convince the snrlhI
inc and sensitive girl, that u fathers SIN shoui
as5 E,tyisited through them upon her head, but th
the well defined virtues Of her young me wei
srougb Ia stir the deeps Of their nature into whit
mono but the better angel should dare 10 nave WIN
ii we err, dear Mary, let it still be upon the sn
Of conscious right. II we are TOO enthusiastic q
impulsiye. let us be sure that our zeal Is e1pehu
- .nch causes aswill not shrink from investigate
nj crow more lucid and distinct as the light
truth deepens more intensely upon them. lou
as we are, inexperienced as we may De, we hn'
full we'll life is no gorgeous gaia day alouej VI
let us even now prepare ourselves lot those comm
,-Ltch - know come alike under some form to
ali. Lot s learn to reflect as each day passes
,ybotber IL has been spent in such pursuits as 81
call up sensations Of pleasure, when ou age
threading our hair with grey and marking MS l
rows on our brows. -
vet h IAN to be friend and adviser still, you m
allow me to caution you, least your interest may 4
YOU too far. In your kindness TO tine poor outca
daughter, do not forget what IS due TO those
NAV disnpprove of your course. Sell rlgnteousl
miSbl oohstraip YOU TO turn from them with sec
and draw vour garments close, least they be sol
by contact but God, who causes tne sun 10 81
ON the wicked and the good aud sends ms ram u
the Just and unjust, also enJolnsus 70 love our :
mics md prpv Tor thUse who dospitefully use
reraecute ma. In addition to al tAis, you must
member how much more good you can achleve
vnur own cause by the indulgence OF a liberal
kindly spirit toward your opposers. Ihey may d
learned different lessons rom those that nave !
Taught YOU. They have lived and acted peru
undsr widely a Herent circumstances from those
have been about your life. Make all due ahoWa
for these differences, and remember always,
thore is some good in every heart whist on
other hand none are wholly and entirely good.
think if 1 were you, dear Mary, L should
make nv call upon Miss Feushaw, and treat
with that respect which n stranger IN your P
has a right to expect. Nay, it would be well
YOU 10 20 somewhat prepared to meet coiuness
She should see proper to visit 1t on your heaa;
she is in the wrong and act unbehtting the lad.
certainly is not a efficient excuse for yod to
into the same course and perhaps in yourlnte
for vour poor protoge you were really forgettul,
at lenst neRlectful, of what she considered her
or claims. II is well indeed to be decided on
point, but still show your companions that tho
bound from a high and holy principle to res
the poor girl who richly merits it, you are as IN
ested as ever in their pursuits, and as sollcitous
before for their happiness.
have written SO much upon this SUBJECT tn'
have 40 time left to tell you how much l pity )
disappointment in Mr.. Lawrence, or how N
more / regret the prostitution Of those talents
advantages which should glorify God and alo
the advancement of His holy kingdom. 1 |
lived very quietly since my return home oWlnt
mothers illness, and have therefore no leaVe
transeribe for you from tho book OF experienc
Moreover this letter must go.in this evenings Il
and the hand that travels over the face OF the c
admonishes me that tune is not retarded to CIV
the pleasure Of a longer letter. Heaven bless
dear Mary, forever and ever, is the prayer of
Your old friend, ALIC