The Abbeville banner. [volume] (Abbeville, S.C.) 1847-1869, 1854-02-02

hor own misery, and then uttcrs idle aud
silly complaint, utters them in vain. The
love ofa husband can be retained only by the
high opinion which he cntcrtains of his wifc's
goodness, Of her amiable disposition, of the
sweetness of her temper, Of her prudence
aad OF her devotion to him. Let nothing
upon any occasion, ever lessen that opinion.
On the contrary, it should augment every
day, NC should have much more reason to,
admire her for those excellent qunliticse
which will cast lustre over n vrtuous
woman, when her personal attractions arc
no more. 55.s
Has your husband stayed ont longer
than you expectedi When lie returns, re-
ceiye him as a partner Of your heurt. Has
ne disappointedsyou in something you cx-
pected whether of ornament or furniture,
of any sonyenience Never evince discon-
tent, receive his apology with cheerfulncss. 1
Does ts he, when you are housekeeper, invite
company without informing you of it, or J
bring home with him friend g. Whatever
may be your repast, however scjnty It may I
oeiihowever impossible it may be to add to
1t, receive them with a pleasing counten-,
ance, adorn your table with cheerfulness,J
give to your husband or your company
hearty welcome; 1t will compensate FIR
every other deficiency; it will evince lovc !
for your husband good sense in yourself, apd<
tnat politcness of manners which acts as
the most powerful church; it will give to
: the plalnest fa.e n zest superior to all that
luxury can boast. Never be discontented
\on any, occasion of this nature.
y In the next place, as your husbands sue
fess III his profession will depend upon lis
Aopuiaflty, and rs the manners of wife
lave no little influence in extending or les-
I Mining the respect and esteem of others for
If husband, you should take care to be af-
.. We and polite to the poorest rs we'll as
richest. A reserved haughtiness is a
|; 1 indication of weak mind and an un-
$ f({pg heart.
!, WITH respect to your servants, teach them
I tdFpect and love you, while you expgGt
: frdf them a reasonable discharge of their
; reTftive duties. Never tease yourself or
the Ivy scolding; it has no other effecA
u thaiP render them discontented and inn
!, , Rsgs,ftnt' R|;sn,ta Adm0nisA thea with calm
= CuWatc your own mindFbyf the perusal
i Of tl8 books which instruct while they :.
. amusk DO not devote much of your time
o tdnoE; there are n few which may be.
!. useful improving and in giving higher
d tone t8our moral scnsibility but they
|, tend toetiats the taste, and to procure
: aisrelisf flor substantial, intellectual food.
t Most n4ys are of the same cast; they are
Fpt trle4dly to the delicacy WHICH is one Of
t!e ornaments Of the fetntle character.
History, Geography, Poetrys Moral Essays.
Il Biography, Travels, Sermons and other well
: irltten religious productions, will not fail
al enlarge your understandings, to render
= 70, most agreeable companion, and to,
!, ekH your virtue. Il woman devoid Of
rT6nal ideas of religion, has 10 sccurii Il
! {; her virtue; it is sacrificed TO her pasZ
l sins, whose voice, not that of God, is hes'
. o'y governing principles. Bcsidcs,.is
: : tose hours of calamity to wlicl, fk"" &
/ Ast be exposed where will she find s"'
It be not in her just reflections upon
9 Et Gall ruling Providence which governs
j re universe, whether animate or inaminatc.
if' Mutual politeness between tho most in
climate friends is essential to that harmony.
kilich should never be once broken or inter.
! tuPted. How important then is it between
Gan and wife? The more warm the at
ta,nent, the less will seiIhAr partner bear
I to slastigllse treated Iith the smallest
dcgie6S 70T inattention. Tins
; politene Gen, if it be not in itself vir-
> iue, is 4 Cast the means Of preventing di.
!. contcntAnd even qnarrels; it is the oil O
hremoves nsperites, and give
,,Aso serything a smooth and pleasir
l e|e; d. sa1 that matrimonial, hap.
epcnd upon wealth no.,
Il u .Sesf3HAd in wealth; but in ml
ebpesd and united to our rH,
tivSSi Competency is necelE
alf hey Sud POINT lis ideal. IT'S,
suppose, h5&eFer, that -IIssWould n1haJ
4 your husband to augment his prf yeye
all honest and commendable meA
would wish to see him actively engaas
such pursuit, because engagement, a
ulous einploymcnt,in obtaining some
able end, is essential to happiness. Int
attainment Of fortune by honorable NEAR
particularly by professional exertions, a m
derives particular satisfaction, in self
plause, as well as from the increasing e.
nation in which he is held by those 4
him. y
! -tn rs-fn -17s,sttssgss,esn,..s S.tonr do,t
Econcerns, let prudence and wise ecot
prevail. Let neatnsss, order and iudgm
Ebe,seen, in all your; different departnei
EUnite lberality with a jHst ffrngality: alw
Preserve something for tie hand Of chaA
Eneyers let your door be- closed to the.
ofsuffering humanity our servant
particular, will have 8 81 strongest
upon your charity, liem sbe vel
] well lfclothed, nursa kness, andi