The Ashland union. [volume] (Ashland, Ashland County, Ohio) 1854-1868, 1854-10-25
MISUNDERSTANDING.

Much uuhAppineSS is occaS oncd III fam
lilies, rot. Fsut:itrequently leading to total
alienatioti, from misunderstanding bas-
ed upon very slight foundations Espc-
ialy is thissthc case where the members
have become partially separated, and in
tercourse thereby, i'll measure, inter
rupted, SO as to prevent any ready and
willing explanation. An action mis-
construed, an uninteniioral- -affront- of
fered, a thonghtless expression made, an
which is taken by another as evidence
of loss of interest or kindly regard, be-
comes a secret stumbling block between
members of a family, who through all
their early years would have readily
sacrificed their lives in behalf of each
other; molehills grow into mountains,
abrupt with precipices, and crowned
with perpetual frost, which interpose
impossible barriers between hearts full
to overhowing with every genial sympa-
thy.
Such unhappy affairs, having their
foundations origionally in nothing, or at
least in incidents so slight that both
parties are ashamed to confess the cause
even to themselves, are more frequent
than is generally supposed. Let fam
lily of children who lire in harmony, in
the exercise of every trait of brotherly
and sisterly affection, be told that time
will come in after life when other ties,
otherr connections, other interests, pur-
suits, pleasures and pains will unloose
the chords that bind them to each 9th
er in such apparently indissoluble bonds
and they will be apt to exclaim in in
dignation, care thy servants dogs, that
they should do this great thing ?"
The natural course of events must
separate families-must dissolve fratern-
al ties, in order to give room to others,
if possible, of tender and more endu-
ring nature; but in that transformation
especially care ought to be taken that
no element of discord be permitted to in
tervene between the origional and new
relation In the close connection, fol
instance, which certainly ought to exist
| petween parties that enter into conjugal
ties, many defects of character will
likely be hidden from each other which
are apparent to less blinded vision
and brother may feel tinge of selfish
pain, or sister receive slight shock Of
wounded sensibility, that the other turns
from them to the husband or the wife
| forgetting that they themselves will dc
the same thing.
A little mutual forbaerence, a few
kindly explanations, determination OF
both sides to do to the other as eacl
would like to be done by, will in al
these cases, as in every other event o
human life, remove all difficulties, ant
enable brothers and sisters to 60 on har
moniously to the end of lif's uncertain
journey. Let the prayer be acted up
on
r O. The mercy I to others show,
I7r That mercy show tonne y .5s
and all trouble of this nature will speed
| lily vanish away Intercourse must o
necessity be partially interrupted; dis
tant residences, different degrees of sue
cess or failure, other ties and connection
will greatly interfere with the origina
close intimacy, but what remains ma
be as tender, as kind, and as frateanal
as that which exists through all thei
earlier years; and that it be such is
solemn duty each member of a famil
owes to the memory of their dead parent
to themselves, and to each other