The Rutland County herald. [volume] (Rutland, Vt.) 1852-1855, 1854-06-16
WHOLE NO. 30SS.

ttfiNE tNA " hbf RAitth ihNthAff Wv
men el Intelligence and rsfnemsni, ~
much the greater is their pleasure. "
is because they will no longer be chokei
with The mere dry hssks Of eonvowa.
iicn which society sGofd, them She,
they Nv lis assemblies. and s-sk those
~ith whom they msy have in,vrcuarse
that l. Nj least real, tboeeh Of ini,Tsor
quality The men who thus long ter
substantial mental sympathy, and Siil
50 where they can set il, src oAen. IN
deed, much better nj The core ihan tho
men Who ate copicnt Wiih the insnities
Of Eluvrd and scented party goers--
men who feel no need TO come morally
nearer TO their fellow creatures than
they can come whilst standing. lea-cup
In hand. answering trihes with lrihesi
aud " ho, by feeling no a,ch need provo
themselves shallow .ihooghlrd aud cold
hearted II is true, tina, some who shun
drawing-rooms do 40 from inability TO
bear the restraint prescribed IVY gen.
uine refinement, and that they would
be greatly improved by being kept un-
der these restraints. But Il is moi less
true thn,, by adding TO the legitimate
restraints, which are based on conye-
nicncc and regard FOR others hos, of
Fictitious restraints based only ON con.
yrntion. the refining discipline, which
would else have been borne with hene-
| fit, l. rendered unbearablc, and 30 miss
es its end. Excess Of government in
variably defeats itself by drieing away
those To be governed And Il over all
| who desert its entertainments IN disgust
either ut their emptiness or their form
ality, society thus loses ils salutary in-
auenee--if such not only fail TO receive
that moral culture which the company
Of ladies, when nationally regulated.
would give them, but, In default of other
relaxation, are driven into habits and
comphnionships which often end in
gambling aud drunkenness, must we not
shy that here, too. Is M evil not TO be
passed over as insignificant 7
Then consider what a bliehiing efiec,
these mutitudinous preparations aud
ceremonies have upon the Intercourse
they propose 10 subserve. Who, on
calling to mind the occasions of his high
est social enioyments, does moi find them
TO have been wholly Informal, perhaps
impromptuf How delightful picnic
of friends. who forget all obsersances
save those dictated by COOL naiora -
How pleasant the little unpreiending
gatherings OF book-societics. and tho
like or those purely accidental meet
Jugs Of few people well known to
each other Then, indeed, we may seo
that "a man shsrpeneih the countenanee
of his friend" Cheeks nush, md eyes
sparkle. The witty grow BRILLIANT, and
even the dull are excited into saying
good things. There is an overflow Of
topics and the right thought, and Tho
right words to pot il in, spring up un-
htthEhls blNNf
now serious converse. and now jokes.
anecdotes, and playful rnillery. Every.
ones best nature is shown overyone's
best feeling are in plca.urnblc activity
and, for the time, life seems well worth
having. Go now and dress for some
half-past eight dinner, or some ten
o'clock "at home = and present your
self in spotless attire. and with every
hair arranged 10 perfection. How great
; 10 the inverse ratio Of the preparation.
These figures, got up with such fnisl,
and precision, appear bat halt alive
They have frozen each other by their
primnes- and your faculties feel tho
numbing effect Of the atmosphere the
, moment you enter II. All those thoughts.
, so nmble and so api awhile since. have
= di-nppearcd--baye suddenly acquired
, a pretcrnatural power of eluding you.
/ If you venture n remark to your neigh'
Dor. there comes n triie reJOiner. and
b there II ends. No subject y0n eau hit
upon oull,ses bslfs-dozen sentenees.--
, Nothing that is shid exeiies any real in
b ,eresi IN you and you feel that all you
. say Is listened TO with apathy. By some
} strange magic, things that usually fiss
e pleasure seen 10 have lost all ebnrm.---
/. You have a taste for art. Weary of
E frivolous lslk, you turn 10 the table and
+. Gnd that the book Of engrayings and
e the portfolio of photographs are as Hat
A a. tlir conservation. You are iond OF
a music. Yet the singing. good ~ u a.
=. you hear with utter indifference aud
' say Thank you" with - sense d being
|, profound hypoerife. Wholly At ease
!. ilsoash you could be, for your Own part
e yoa lad that your sympsihis' will moi
> le, YOU. You see young gentlemen feel
n ing whether ii,eir ties are properly Hh-
il juslea looking yacnntly around and
o eonsid ing what they shall do merit
You see ladies siil,as diseonsolsiely'
r. waiting COR some one To speak 10 Them
II and wishing they bad the ~bsre~'th n
a occupy their fingers You sss the boat
b. es, standing about the doorway. Keep
a a fariiiioas smile on her face. and rack
a ine her brain 10 iisd the requisite n"ah'
= ings slh which 10 greet her ggssla NJ
s. they enter Yos sec namssfirss if"'''
,e a WEAKNESS sud embarrassment and
;. II you have any fsat,s fssiing. bs''
n | osnDoi fail so produees ssBss a al'e"is
- n gi-,,,l.,. 4. ..,,tci.tay a surSafil