The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1854-05-24
Popping aRac Question.


i he following from, q" Every OneS's
Book" contains som, suggestions on
" subject in respect to which good ad.
vice is particularly desirable
There is nothing more appalling to
modest and sensitive young man,
than asking tho girl he loves, to marry
him, and there are few who do not find
their moral courage tested to the ut
tern OSt.
Many-u man who would lead for.
lorn hope, mount a breach, and seek n
"rcputalion in the cannom's mouth,
tremblcs at tho idea of asking wo.
man the question which is to decide
his fate. Ladies may congratulate
themselves that nature and custom
have made them the responding party.
in q matter which men have always
found so terrible, yet which, one way
or other, t'ey have always contrived
in some awkward way to accomplish +;
it is not easy to give Instructions suit
ed 10 every emergency.
A man naturally conforms to the
disposition the woman he admirers.
lfshe is serious, he will approa h the
awful subject with sole.nnity-ii
softly sentimental, he must WOO cr in
strain oi high wrought romance. and
If severely practical, he relics upon
straight forward common sense.
There IS one maxim of universal ap.
plication. Never loose an oppurluni.
~. " hat can a woman think uf Il
lover VIII" nrSlects one? Women
cannot make direct advances, but
they use infinite tact in giving men
occasions to use them. In cv.r1 ease
It's fair t" presume tat when a wu.
lnan gives man an opportunity She
expects him to improve it; and .lunyh
nc may trcmble, and icci his pulse,
throbbing and tingu through every
limb; ,l.'ngh his heat fills up his
throat. and his tongue cicavcs l.. the
root ct his su"nth. yet the awful ul,rs-
ti"n must be askcd-,hc fearful task
accomplished.
IN the country, the lover taking Il
romantic walk by moonlight, with the
lady OF his love talks of the scenery,
the harmony OF nature, and rxclaim-
All Julia, how happy would cxi ,cncc
prove it'l always had such companion.
She $ CHS and lea S more iundI, on
tho arm that blinyly supports her.
My dearest julia uc mine forever.
This is Il settler, and the answer,
ever so inaulibie, makes or unducs hlu,
quite.
Take pity on q i"rorn bach, lor, SAYS
another, in q manner which may bv
either jest or earnest; marry me at
once and put me out OF my misery.
With all my heart. whenever You
are ready, replied the laughing far. a
joke carried thus tar is easily made
earnest
A point is often carried by taking n
thing for granted. a gentleman VII,
has been paying his attentions to a
lady says, We'll, Mary, when Is the
happy day? What day, pray ? she
asks with u conci"us blush.
Why every body knows we are
going to get married, and it miy.t rs
we'll be one time as another, 50 when
shall it be?
Cornercd in this fashion; there is
no retreat.
Jane love you! vii! you marr;
me ? would be somewhat abrupt, aud
q frankly given " Yes J." would be TOO
short Tor an answer
Ellen, one word from you would
make me the happiest man in exist
ence.
should be cruel not to speak
it then, unless it is very hard one.
1t is a word of three letters, and
answer the question, Will you marry
me?
The lady ofcourse says yes, unless
she happens to prefer word of only
two letters, aid answers No.
And SO this interesting and terrible
process, in Pracllce simple as it is in
a hundred ways according to circum
stances and the various dispositions.
One tinid gentleman asks, Have
you any objection to change Your
name 2 and follows this up with anotn,
er which cIenehcs It's significance, how
would mine suit you?
Another asks, Will you tell we what
; most wish to know?
Yes. il Hcan.
Ihc happy day when we shall be
married
Another says, My Eliza, we must do
what the world evidently expects we
shall.
All the world is very impertincnt.
| know it-but it can't be hrIped
When shall ltell the parson to be
ready?
AS general Thing, gentleman
Iced never he refused Every woman
except heart!' IS coquclte, finds the
means Of discouraging the man
whom She does not intend tn have,
before the matter comes To t point
of q declaration.
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