Carroll free press. [volume] (Carrollton [Ohio]) 1834-1861, 1854-09-28
VINO Make the Bes. wives .

by all means, marry woman with money
say careful fathers 10 their sons :; 'you'l find
il as easy as not 10 get suitable wife who has
a little fortune Give me beauty, grace snd
secomplishmeHis.' is the mental answer Of en-
lhusiastic youth, 'snd leave mereenary eon'id-
erations 10 baser souls
We submit that neither is right. II is in6n-
itely more important hat young man should
choose healthy, amiable and intelligent part
nsr. than that he should select either beauty
or an heiress. The latter has usually expensive
habits, and by the time she has been married
twenty years, has cost her husband the amount
Of her fortune in superauities. Besides. heir
esses are generally brought up in idleness,
spending their time in reading novels, lounging
about on the sofa, or acquiring taste for fash
iansble dissipation; SO that they are either alb
surdy romantic, or out OF hed!!!h from want Of
exercise or from late hours, and therefore en-
trely unfit to make good wives. Beauties, or
the other hand, mostly are vain or giddy, il not
both. II wives were designed for playthings,
or had no purpose beyond being ParlOr orna-
ments, beauty might be desirable, just as pic
lures are, or fine furniture. The man who mar
ries an heiress sacrifices his independence, and
ends by finding he is out of pocket also. The
lover who weds merely for beauty, ties himself
10 doll, which has not even the merit Of being
sure to keep its painted cheeks s-
Those women make the best wives who COM
bne common sense with good temper, who nave
been brought up to help themselves, and who
bring sound constitutions, equable spirits, and
sincere affection, as dowry to their lovers
A wife should be her hush and's best friend
she should be competent to counsel him in
difficulties, to cheer him in sorrow. to render
his every day hearth the pleasantest spot to him
to be found anywhere. If she has confirmed
i'll health, she cannot be all this to Kim; neither
can she if she has crooked temper, or habits
Of Incidence, or is deficient in practical sense
The woman whose whole heart is devoted to
show, to company, or to idle accomplishments,
may possibly make an Interesting belle, but she
is sure to prove very indifferent wife. We
would not have young girls neglect the beauti-
full entirely; but that which adorns should be
made subservieuLto to some more solid suporstruc
ture. To know how to play the last new al
yet be ignorant how to compound the last ne'
pudding, is surely unpardonabIe. A mai
might as well neglect to learn business, as
woman refuse to acquire knowledge of hous'
keeping.
i II is useless to disguise the fact that girls arr
too often directed to attract lovers rather thar
to retain the affection of husbands. This is es
pecially true of the daughters Of families abov'
the necessity of daily labor. Mrs. F., the sue
cessful mechanics wife. makes virtual sav'
of herself, by drudging late and early, in OF
der that Auna Maria may be'brOught up, as sb
phrases it, like lady, The young miss, &C
, cording, is crammed with music, dancing
! f rench, and other fddle-faddles,is told alway
to carry her shoulders back and never TO rom
and is taught to consider work as degrading
What sort of a wife can such creature make
i II she marries anybody but rich man. he
| idle and expensive habits keep him always poo
t If she catches prize, which, perhaps, one
, thousand may do, ten to one she soon DISCUS
I her husband. In another case she is alway
I out of health, the consequence Of want ofe'
e ercise in girlhood and, if she has offSpring,e
P tails her weakness naturally on her progeny :
' . Physicians do not hesitate to say that larg
q proportion of female inValids of the prese'
r generatiOn-and their number is known to
/ Iegion-owe their complaints to the follyot p
is rents in neglecting to bring them up ProPeH
4 --Pha. Ledger.