The Union and eastern journal. [volume] (Biddeford [Me.]) 1854-1858, 1854-03-03
MISCELLAN NEOUS.
THE UNY1ELD1Ne WIFE
The Evil Effects of an nj Temper.

l 1 Il T. U N Y Il u N u w r T.
The Evil Effects of an III Temper.
BY FARMERS WIFE.
Before proceeding 10 the subject matter
OF this paper, allow me, my young friends,
TO exhot you 10 pause long and strive ear
nestly Il, self culture and self control, before
taking step which involves your all of
eauhly happiness, as well as that of the
individual whom before Heaven, you prom.
iso TO love, honor and cherish, during your
soiourn in a stale where mutual concessions
are constantly demanded. My female
friends, though the chosen companion oil
your life may moi be all you had, in The ar
dor Of your affection. painted him, he is
still The man whom YOU are bound 10 "" love,
hoEor and obey,n and 10 your keeping, in
grea, degree, is committed his reputation,
his usefulness in life, his social tastes and
freside enjoymen,s. Mutual improvement,
| is undoubtedly one Of the ends OF the insil-
tuiion Of marriage; but any a,temp, n, cor
reciion or reproof should be mingled with
Kindness of manner; il !he contrary course
| is adopted the desired effect is worse than
lost, and frequently the seeds of good al
ready sown in the heart are by harshneSs
and severity, stiled in the germ, aud the
noble feelings which had begun 10 expand,
are blasted by the heat Of all ungovernable
temper.
Years ago, when in The freshness and
buoyancy of eirlhood, was abou, 10 be-
come the bride of him who had ever s,riven
10 make me happy, ] received letter from
my mothers eldest sister, earnestly urging
me 10 spend few days with her, rs she
wished particularly 10 see me. According
| ly went and cordially received by Aun,
Clara and the family Of her son, with whom
she resided. One day during my visit,
Aunt Clara told me she had heard OF my
intended marriage, and, feeling a deep in-
tereS, in my welfare, she had determined
TO give me the history of her own married
life, believing that il might convey a very
useful lesson. Whether she thought she
discovered the same traits in my char
aclcr lha, caused the shipwreck Of her hap
| piness, cannot say, bu, lie, ,ha, pass. She
>aid OH account OF the sad memories and
unhappy feelings il would necessarily
awaken, she had reduced the narrative
TO writing, which might peruse a, pleas
ure.
At an cally day | availcd myself of her
kindness--her manuscri pt is here copied.
Being the eldes, of six children, my par
cnis had always been accustomed 10 rely OH
me FOR much assistance, which, had been
the only child, they would scarcely have
considered me able 10 render. My mothers
time was almost wholly occupied with
household affairs so that a, sixteen years
of age, the care of two little sisters and
three brothers devolved OH me. Nature
had endowed me with an indomilable will,
and passionate love Of power, which re-
Quired a stronger curb than the occasional
reproois which my ebuliton of temper
called forth. Among my brothers and Sis
iers my word was law, and when issued a
command, (aud that was The form in which
nv issues were cXercised,) exacled the
striclcst obedience. ! do not think the
children could have loved me very much,
for my passionate Instructions must have
engendercd that fear which casls out love
Al length change came over me, a pas
sion took possession of my heart, which ior
time overpowered all baser passions
need | say that passion was love! My
whole heart was devoted 10 all object wor-
thy OF better disciplined one than could
bring him. As if 10 prove the assertion
true, that every person loves his opposite,
the object OF my attachment was mild, with
disposition full of kindness and charity,
always choosing TO suffer wrong rather than
contend with an antagonist.
Intending 10 relieve my parents from pro-
viding some of the necessary articles Tor
housekeeping, / engaged 10 take charge Of
n district school which was managed by Il
board OF trustees, who were authorized 10
employ and pay the teacher, being more or
less controlled by them. Their occasional
interference was 10 a Temperament, like miEc
exceedingly irritating.
Que day returned from school IN very
angry mood, asserting that would neither
submit 10 The dictates of The trustees, or any
one else, when my eldest sister said with an
arch smile:
"What will YOU do when you are mar
ried You will then have 10 love, honor
and obcy.m
My temper was not in the least soiencd
by this question, and replied very empha,-
ically, that when married, il would be my
husbands duty 10 make me happy, and If
he did not conform 10 my wishes would
endeavor 10 make him Foolish, wayward
Girl thai was, 10 resolve in my own mind,
that would abide so absurd n deiermina-
Is..l an IL.
llucnce pride and obstinacy would exert IN
causing inc 10 adhere 10 this expression OF
perverted will.
Joseph and were a, length married. 1t
seemed 10 me that had never been so hap.
py before; weeks passed as days. Sur
rounded by an atmosphere OF love aud kind.
ness, my faults were not called cut, aud Jo.
seph, in his mistaken iondness, thought me
ali that his warm hear, and noble nature
could desire.
Soon after the marriage, we commenced
housekeeping in neat pretty house jus,
suited 10 our wants; | was enabled nearly 10
furnish il with the avais Of my years teach.
ing and the kind assistance OF my mother
and sisters. Neatness and order were very
largely developed in my habits, and for
some time nothing whatever occurred TO
mar the happiness Of our daily life. One
evening had 10 wait longer than usual Tor
Joseph 10 come 10 tea, and suffered long
suppressed feeling of inpalience 10 belray
itself in the peevish tones in which l ex.
claimed rs soon as he entered the dinning
room, "lhe Tea is all cold why did you
not come belore!p ''l could not my dear,
as there was no one 10 stay in the siore,"
was the mild reply which should have put
the suhjec, 10 rest, as | knew iha, Joseph's