Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1854-11-29
iature precincts of home, are WORTHY to

| iature precincts Of home, are worthy to
be compared TO the best examples of anil
| itafy tactics The heart is ever prone
to love, while the mind continually en-
dearors to assert its own supremacy, a. d
domineer over every mind with which it
is into contact. Thus arise the thou and
diff repees which disturb the peace of
families and wreck the highest hopes Of
earth. 1t is idle to argue the possibility
OF realizing perfectly ideal state of So
c;al existence, but there is no harm in
inquiring whether there are any metbois
| of making the social relations more hsr-
monious than now. For some of the
thoughts here preseated. we are indebted
TO an essay in The Friends in Council, ~
an anonymous volume, published by
James Munroe, Boston.
In the first place, ifpeople are TO live
happily together, they must notefancy
that, because they aso together, all their
ives have been exactly similar, and tina.
! they are to be of he same mind for ALI
tde future. We are not So expect 4 s,n-
gle person 10 agree with us in all uoints.
| and we must not bt y,ixg-' if W. laJfo
drive our own tastes and opinions inio
those we live with. In order to live ON
intimate terms With a2y one, we must
entertain proper respect FOR him, anh
he willing IN some instances TO waive our
own preferences when they conflict will
those OF our friends. Di Bal,s. tf-r.-
the nature Of mind iJ.-l I.s... IL So. ,x-..
we might as well coGp84. ,.as-i z;.z,u-
into the clear evening say, .whv ali tbess
| stars, why not all one star 2" as to find
fault that every mind is not the exact
correlate to our own. Easily derived
from this general principle are the tol-
loving rules: Never interfere unreasoD.
ably with others never -idicuis their
tastes; never question and re question
! their resolves do not indulge in PEI pet
ual comment on their proceedings; avoid
set topics of dispute, around which angry
words tester till a rank quarrel breaks
out; and do not hold too much to logic, and
suppose that everything is to be settled
by sufficient reason. DIR. johnson saw
this clearly with regard to married peo-
pie; when he said wretched would be
the pair above all names of wretcheduess
who should be doomed to adjust by
reason every morning ell the minute de.
tails OF domestic day."
Another important rule is, not to let
familiarity swallow up courtesy. There
is no place where real politeness is gf
more value than where We are apt to ro.
gard it superhuous. We ought never TO
trif1e with the feelings of others, or to
omit those delicate attentions in daily in
tercourse which We lavish upon strangers
and those whose favor we would win.
1t is proper to speak to our associates
more plainly, but not less kindly, than
to strangers. Again, we must not ex-
pect too much from the society of our
friends. They do not live for us alone,
any more than we do exclusively for
them, and we cannot commend them at
all times to our pleasure
If YOU would be loved as companion.
ignore all unnecessary criticism upon
your associates. The number of those
who have taken out judges patents, is
very large in society, aid they al drive
most prosperous business. But no one
chooses to live between the glasses of a
microscope, even though fool be looking
in. One Of the most vexatious kinds of
Is t''-tl - -ISESGQ VarlptE
which commence with introductions a.;
these Had | been consulted, >" "Had
you listened to me" "You alwavs would
have your own way, and a legion of
such like expressions which are not de-
signed to scoth a perturbed spirit.
The graf Law Of socla. l;fe is DO
unto others as you would that they should
do to you" Study in all things to con-
ciliate, and cherish continually that char
ity and forgiving spirit VI hich you would
have exercised toward you. Cheerfully
acknowledged merit in others, and in
turn you will always receive that kind
consideration which you desire. When
you cannot consistently praise, by all
means remain silent, unless there be a
manifest wrong, deserving censure.
AS general rule it will be found that
our greatest sources of unhappiuess are
within ourselves, and If We fail to live
harmoniously with others, we shall &C.
more wisely to set about Correcting our
own faults than to picl; flaws in th-;r
characters. Make the fountain pure. and
the stream will flow clearly along, even
though it must pass .-s -aiA forests,
lonely chasms, and rough shores
lCou;.try Gentleman.