The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1854-05-24
Popping the question.


i he ti'!l''wing from, +" Every Ones's
Book, contains somt suggestions on
IL subject in respect to which good ad.
vice is particularly desirable:
There is nothing more appalling to
modest and sensitive young man,
than asking tho girl he loves, to marry
him, and there are few who do not find
their moral courage tested to the ut
tern OSt.
Manyaman who would lead for
lorn hope, mount breach, and seek
"repntation in the cannou's mouth, :"
tremblrs at tho idea of asking a wo.
man the question which is to decide
his fate. Ladies may congratulate
themselves that nature and custom
have made them the responding party.
in q matter which men have always
found so terrible, yet which, one way
or other, t;:ey have always contrived
in some awkward way to accomplish !;
it is not easy to give instructions suit
ed 10 every emergency.
A man naturally conforms to the
disposition o the woman he admirers.
lfshe is serious, he will apprua h the
awful subject with soIrmnty-if
softly sentimental he must WOO Ter in
strain OF high wrought romance, and
IT severely practical, he relies upon
straight forward common sense.
There IS one rnaAin, of universal ap.
plicati"n. Never loose All opprrluii,
~. What can a woman think of Il
lover VII" nrg!ects one? Wnnren
cannot make direct advances, but
they use iutilitc tact in giving men
occasions To use them. In every case
tits tar t" presume tat when wu.
1nan gives ;lai ai. opportunity She
expects him to inr:"vc it; and .llongh
he may trcmhle, and icri his pulses
throbbing and tinge through every
limb; though his heart fills up his
thr"at. and his tongue cIcavcs l., the
root ct his 'u"uth. yet the awful purS-
ti"n must be askcd--thc fearful task
accomplished.
in the country, the lover taking u
romantic walk by moonlight, with the
lady of his love talks of the scenery
the harmony OF nature. and exclaim-
All Julia, how happy would rxi ,cncc
prove itl always had such companion.
She CHS and lea IS more, tuldly on
tho arm That tremblingly supports her.
My dearest Julia, be mine forever.
This is q settler, and the answer,
ever SO inau0bie, makes or undurs hun
quite.
Take pity on q Gororn bach, lor, says
another, in manner which may be
either jest or earnest; marry me at
once and put me out OF my misery.
With all my heart. whenever on
are ready, replied the laughing la'r. A
joke carried thus tar is easily made
earnest.
A point is often carried by taking a
thing for granted. y gentleman wh,'
has been paying his attentions to a
lady says, Well, Mary, when is the
happy day What day, pray ? she
asks with a conciuus blush.
Why every body knows we are
going to get married, and it mig.t as
well be one time as another, 81 when
shall it bee
Cornered in this fashion there is
no retreat.
Jane love yen! will you miarry
me would be somewhat abrupt, and
a frankly given Yes j." would be TOO
short iur an answer
Ellen, one word from you would
make me the happiest man in exist
ence.
should be cruel not to speak
it then, unless it is very hard one.
1t is word Of three letters, and
answer the question, Will you marry
me?
The lady ofcourso says yes, unless
she happens to prefer word Of only
two lettcrs, aid answers No.
And SO this interesting and terrible
process, in practice simple as it is in
a hundred ways according to circum
stances and the various dispositions.
One tinid gentleman asks, Have
you any objection to change your
name2 and follows this up with anotn.
er which clenchcs its sign ficance, how
would mine suit you?
Another asks, VIII you tell we what
most wisllto know?
Yes, il Ecan.
Ihe happy day when we shall be
married
Another says, My Eliza, we must do
what the world evidently expects we
shall.
All the world is very imperti,cn,.
know it-but it can't be helped.
When shall lteIl the parson to be
ready?
AS general hing, a gentleman
need never be refused. Every woman
except hearll' IS coqnclte, finds the
means Of discouraging the man
whom she does not intend tn have,
before the matter comes tot point
of u declaration.
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