The Wyandot pioneer. (Upper Sandusky, Ohio) 1853-1868, 1854-01-19
THE UNYIEL DING WIFE
Or. the Effects of IlI-Temper.

BEFORE proceeding to the subject mat
ter of this paper, allow me, my young
friends, to exhort you to pause long and
strive earnestly at self-culture and self
control, before taking step, which in
/. wolves your all of earthly happiness, as
we'll as that of the individual whom, be-
fore Heaven, you promised to honor, love
and cherish, during your sojourn in
state where mutual concessions are con-
stantly demanded. My female friends,
though the chosen companion of your
life may not be all you had, in the ardor
of your affection, painted him, he is still
the man whom you are bound to "love,
honor and obey" and to your keeping, in
great degree, is committed his reputa-
ton, his usefulness in life, his social tastes
and freside enjoyments. Mutual i'm
provement is undoubtedly one of the ends
of the institution of marriage; but an at
tempt at correction or reproof should be
mingled with kindness of manner; if the
contrary course is adopted, the desired
effect is worse than lost and frequently
the seeds of good already sown in the
heart, are, by harshness and severity,
stifed in the germ, and the noble feelings
which had begun to expand are blasted
by the heat of an ungoyernable temper.
Years ago, when in the freshness and
buoyancy of girlhood, was about to be-
the bride of him who had ever strren to
make me happy, I received letter from
my mothers eldest sister, earnestly urg-
ing me to spend few days with her as
she wished particularly to see me. Ac-
cordingly, went, and was cordially re-
ceived by Aunt Clara and the family of
her son, with whom she resided. One
day, during my visit, Aunt Clara told n1e
she had heard Of my intended marriage,
and feeling deep interest in my welfare,
she had determined to give me history
of her married life, believing that it might
convey a useful lesson. Whether she
thought she discovered the same traits in
my character that caused the ship wreck
of her happiness, I cannot say: but let
shat pass. She said on account of the
sad memories and unhappy feelings it
would necessarily awaken, she had re-
d,,ceJ the narrative to writing, which /
might peruse at leisure.
At an early day L availed myself of her
kindness-her manuscript is here copied
Being the oldest ot SIX children, my
parents had always been accustomed te
rely on me for much assistance, which
had been the only child, they would
scarcely have considered me able to rem.
der. My mothers time was almos
wholly occupied with household affairs
so that at sixteen years of age, the care o
two little sisters and three brothers de
yolyed on me. Nature had endowed m,
with an indomitable will, and passionat.
love of power, which required stronge
curb than the occasional reproofs whicl
my ebullition of temper called forth
Among my brothers and sisters my wor
was law and when l issued a command
(and that was the form in which my issue
were exercised, exacted the strictest ODE
dience. I do not think the children coul
have loved me very much, for my pas
sionate instructions must have engendel
ed that fear that cast out love.
AT length change came over me,
passion took possession Of my heart ,whic