The Yazoo Democrat., 1854-09-27

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a1t W.sdom's lips formed Of fcndshp's heart
There is no,hing SO we'll calculated 10 toucl
Iond win. asa sipceful manner. II serves 10 EN-.
betlish aud beautify the outward man, and in
some deS,ee 10 adorn and dignifv. not ONLY the
social bel The intellectual chaIocIef. What pol
ishis TO The diamohd manner is 10 tile individ-
ual. Itbeiall ems tle Soue and he charm. One
easy mannef; alwavs quiet eJceful md self
possessed-always bland. courteous. ond copti-
vatin3. connot fail TO secure friends and make a
lfayolable impression What indeed is more de-
ligh;frl ia youth than manner which at once
lucknow led3es respect for Sc, ndieo; ;es modesly
and dscre' ion. and at The same lime is flee from
the awkWard end uncouth ali, which TOO of,en
defoces aad disf3ues. A polished manner is
esseniial TO every tue gentleman. He must not
only understood and be able 10 govern himself,
but he must appreciate the feelings the circum-
stances, and the position OF others Ii is, how-
ever, quite an easy tosk 10 he ailabIe and courte
Gus, wien once The habit is permitted 10 grow,
and thus becomes identified with character In
the course OF ali address that was lately deliver
ed at The Anniversary OF The S lie Normal School
at Albany, DIR. Horatio Potter contended that
manner should bea leading feature in education
/ He described it as the ':outward expression Of
the mDd, not merely OF lis know ledge or strength
Of reason, but OF tse degree 10 which ii had been
softened and humanized by culture, and OF The
point which il occplied in the scale between bar
barism aud perfect civilization" And this is
emphatcally true. How often are we carried
away by the force of first impressions! q single
look will sometimes liager in the soul for wears
We may have heard OF an individual ogain and
again, have become faniiar with his heart and
character by letter or through tlle representations
of others. and have thus Gormed SORT OF friend
ship or attachment, and yet much OF this may
be dissipa; at single interview, Though the
Influence of an awkward, mal-dpT6pos, uneasy
and ungaceful monner. Who cannot point oul
;, some young gentlemen OF hisacquainiance, who
is perpetualy blundering inio di EIicultes, dlem-
mas, and awkward p-edicamelis, simply III con-
sequence OF an nabrupt. brusqne, uncouth and in
elegant manner. He can neither stand al ease.
walk with grace, nor speak with elegance-and
this, Too, despite the fact that his heart may be
good his mind may be well informed. aud his
acquaintance with the world may be compare
lively extensive. 1t is either his misfortune or
his fault 10 be awkwsrd in manner. and this will
often prove stumbling block ia life. and especi-
ally among lhe fair dsuah;efs OF Eve. who in
srch matters are SO observing. so critical. and SO
ssdiricaI. These Iatierqueliies we are aware,
uoiust and unseherous under The circumstances,
for some Of the nob!esl hearts that ever animat-
1 ed The human frame, are 10 be found within
awkward FORMS and associated with ungainly
figures. Better, too, have The principle than the
manner-better the heart within than The form
without. Nevertheless, bOtH are desirable, and
hence we argue in favor Of a manner that com
bines ease, agace courtesy and possession
one that not only wins respect. but that pays il
! one that expresses by lis very movement q
proper appreciation fof The taste, the feelings
, and even The prejadices and passions OF others.
Who, for example, that is properly cultivated
can admire The coarse, The rude. and he vioeni
the clustering the nsolent, the reckless and
The bold? The manner is in some sense the mir
ror of the mind. 1t pictures aud represents the
: thoughts and emotioas within. Il indicates no
onlv The condition of the Intellect, but The snir
e of courtesy and proprety. IL is, says Dr. Pot
/ ter. sthrough the manner, more than almost ii
S anv o,her wav, that we con inpally impress enc
a alinduence. favo.ably or unGaso5ablv, those Ina
, are about us. We cannot always be enaaacsi il
expressive action. But even vaien we are silent
even when we are mol in actio5, there is some
, ding in our air and manneF5. which expresse
: what is elevated orwbat.is low. what is human
4 aud benignant or what is Coarse end harsh.
5 Let us not be misunderstood>s We would nc
= check or restrain the ushings oE ouieless hear
or The overaowings Of joN,us spirit. Sti9
l. there is a wide difference beiwTen the boisiero
IS and the frank. between The afe@ed end Tue geni
. al. between the heart that is &rltiealed and ex
: ufts because it is rough. AtYction moreosc
: should be carefully guarded asSanst. II is an e
ror of little minds. lis wSykness rather thu
= poish:snd vel il is Too ofteE elstaken by thos
I who indulge in il for the lat'eG The charm
I manner consists in its simplicity, its ease an
I grace. It not only becomes. 6at it adorns.
/ not on " bealifes, bot it subdues aud win
Q. Take Two persons for example. who are equal
= other respects. Let them be OF similar position
!. Iin Iife equal ia fortune equal in good looksan
: like IN disposition. Eut let them differ broad
5, and distinctly in mspner. aud the conirsst wi
u strike every beholder There are indeed man
& who cannot enter room where half dozen il
n dividuals, male aud femaleare assembled
IS out displaying some awkwardness, perpetralir
le some blunder.or uttering some misiimed remad
1 The difficulty with most of such is, that The
), cannot command or control themselves. The
t,acame excited and confused. and This excite