Evening star. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1854-1972, 1854-12-18
EVENING STAR,
GOLDEN RULES FOR WIVES.

10 WIvEs.-The first inquiry of a
woman after marriage should be, "H How
Shall l preserve the heart have won2n
l. Endeavor to make your husbands
habitation alluring and delightful to him
Let 1t be to him a sanctuary to which his
heart may always turn from the calami-
ties OF life. Make it a repose from his
cares, a shelter from the world, home
not for his person only, but for his heart.
lie may meet with pleasure in other
houses, but let him find pleasure in his
own. Should he be detected. soothe him
should he be silent or thoughtful, do not
heedlessly disturb him; should he be
studious, favor him with all practicable
facilities ; or should he be peevish, make
allowance for human nature, by YOUR
sweetness and good humor. Urge him
continually to think, though he may not
say it, this woman is indeed comfort to
me; l cannot but love her, and reuuite
her gentleness and affection as thew de-
serve.
2. Invariably adorn yourself with deli
cacy and modesty. These, to a man of
refinement, are attractions the most high
ly captivating, while their opposites
never fail to inspire disgust. Let the
delicaey and modesty of the bride be al
ways, in a great degree, supported by
the wife.
3. If it be possible, let your husband
suppose you think him a good husband,
and it will be strong stimulus to bis
being so. As long as he thinks he DOS
sesses the reputation, he will take some
pains to deserve it, but when he has once
lost the name, he will be apt to abandon
the reality.
4. Cultivate and exhibit, with the
greatest care and constancy, cheerfulness
and good humor. They give beauty t.
the finest face, and impart charms where
charms are not. On the contrary, a
gloomy, dissatisfied manner is chilling
and repulsive to his feelings; he will be
very apt to seek elsewhere for those
SMILES and that cheerfulness which he
finds in his own house.
5. In the articles of dress, study your
husbands tastes. The opinion of others
on the subject is of but very little conse-
quence, if he approve.
6. Particularly shun what the world
calls in ridicule, curtain lectures"
When you shut the door at night, en-
deavor to shut out at the same moment
all discord and contention, and look on
your chamber as retreat from the vex-
ations of the world a shelter sacred to
peace and affection.
How indecor0uS, offensive, and sinful
it is for woman to exercise authority
over her husband and say, "I will have
it so. 1t shall be as l like" But trust
the number of those who adopt this un-
becoming and disgraceful manner is so
small as to render it unnecessary for me
10 enlarge on the subject.
I. Be careful never to join in q Jest
and laugh against your husband. Con-
ceal his fau.S and speak only of his mer-
its. Shun every approach to extrava-
gance. The want of economy has in
volved millions in misery. Be neat, tidy,
orderly, methodical. Rise early, have
place for everything and everything in it's
place.
8. Few things please a man more than
seeing his wife notable and clever in the
management of her household. A knowl-
edge of cookery, as well as every other
branch in housekeeping, is indispensa.
BILE in female, and wife should always
endeavor to support with applause the
character of the lady and the house wife.
9. Let home be your empire-your
world. Let it be the stage Oh which, in
the varied character of wife, of mother,
and of mistress, you strive to shine. In
its sober quiet scenes, let your heart cast
its anchor, let your feelings and pursuits
all be centered. Leave to your husband
the task of distinguishing himself by his
valor or his talents. Do you seek for
fame at home, and let your applause be
that of your servants, your children, your
husband. your God.