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The Sin and Folly of scOIding.

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"FREr NOT THYsELF TO EvIL."-Psalm 81, 3.
L. Il isa sin against God. 1t is an eyi
AMI only evil, and that continually. Da
vid understood both human nature and Tho
law of God. He says, "fret not thysell il
any wise to do evil" That is, never fire.
or scold, for it is always sin. If yor
cannot speak without fret,ing or scolding
keep silence.
2. 1t destroys affection. No one evel
did, ever can, or ever will love an habtu
al fretter, falt-fnder, or scolder. Hus.
bands, wives, children, relatives or domes
tics. have no affection for peevish, fretfu
fault-fnders. Few tears are shed over tn.
graves of such. Persons of high mora
principle may tolerate them-may beal
with them. But they cannot love then
more than the sting of nettles or the noise
of mosquitoes. Many man has beer
driven to the tavern, and to dissipation, by
a peevish fretful husband,
3. IT IS THE BANE OF DOMESTIC HAPPI
NEss.--A fretful, pecvish, complaining
fault lt-fnder in family, is like the continu.
al chatting Of an inflamed sore Woe tc
the man, woman, or child, who is exposed
to the influence Of such temper in an
other. Nine-tenths of all domestic trials
and unhappiness spring from this source
Mrs, Ais of this temperament She won
ders her husband is not more fond of her
company. That her children give her so
much trouble: That domestcs do not like
to work for her. That she cannot secure
the good will ofyoung people. The truth
is, she is peevish and fretful. Children
fear her, and do not love her. She never
gained the affections of a young person, moi
never will till she leaves off fletting.
A. LII DEFEATS THE END OF FAMILY Gov
ERNMENr.-Good family government is the
binding of authority with affection, SO as
to secure respect and love. Indeed, it is
the great secret Of managing young peo
pie. Now your fretters may inspire fear,
but they always make two faults where
they correct one. Scolling at child,
fretting alta child, steering Mt u child,
taunting a child, treating n child as though
it had no feelings, inspires dread aud dis.
like, and fosters those very dispositions,
from which many of the faults Of child
hood proceed. Mr.. @. and Mrs. #. arc
ofthis class. There children are made To
mind; but now? Mrs. +. frets and scolds
her children. She is severe enough up
on their faults. She seems TO watch them
in order TO find fault. She sneers at them,
Treats them as though they had no feel
ings. She seldom gives them a command
without threat and long running, fault
finding commentary. When she chides, it
is not done in dignifed manner. She
raises her voice, puts on cross look,
threatens, strikes them. pmches their ears,
snaps their heads, DC. The children cry.
pout, sulk, and poor Mrs. f. has to do her
work over pretty often. Then she will
find fault with her husband because lie
does not fall in with her ways, or chime
with her as chorus.
a Q. FRETTINo AND ScoLDrNG MAKE HYPo-
critics. s.-As fretter never receives con-
fidence and affection, so no one likes to
tell them anything disagreeable, and thus
procure for themselves u fretting. Now,
children conceal as much as they can from
such persons, They cannot make I'D their
minds to be frank and open hearted. So
husbands conceal from their wives, and
wives from their husbands. For man
may brave lion, but he likes not to come
in contact with nettles and mosquitoes.
o. IT Destroys OEE's PEACE or MINp.-
The more one frets the more he may. A
fretter viii always have enough to fret at
especially ifhc Or she has the bump Of or.
der and neatncss largely developed. Some
thing will always be out Of place. There
will always be some dirt somewhere. 9th.
ers viii not eatright, look right, talk right
And fretters are generally so selfish as tc
have no regard for any ones comfort bu
their own. l
7. 1T IS A MARK OF A VULGAR DIsposI
TIoN.-Some persons have SO much call il
their disposition, are SO selfish, that they
have no regard for the feelings Of others
All things must be done to please them.-
They make their husbands, wives, chill
dren, domestics, the conductors by whicl
their spleen and ill-nature are DISCHARGED
Woe TO the children who are exposed [,
such influences. II makes them callou
and unfeeling, and when they grow u,
they pursue the same course with thei
own children, those entrusted to thei
management, and thus the race Of fretter
is perpetuated. Any person who is in tn
habit OF iretting or sneering. .taunting thei
husbands, wives, children, or domestics
show either q bad disposition or else i'll
breeding. For it is generally your iono
rant, loE.bred people that are guilty o
such wings.