Eaton Democrat. [volume] (Eaton, Ohio) 1843-1856, 1854-06-29
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THE UNYIELDING WIFE
THE EFFEcrs OF ILL TEMPER.
by A FARMERS WIFE.

Before proceeding 10 the subject matter o:
this paper, allow me, my young friends TO ex.
hor, you To pause long and strive earnestly Of
self culture and self control, before TAX ng
step which involves your all of earthly happl-
ness, as we'll as that of the individual whom,
before Heaven, You promised to honor, love,
and cherish, during your sojou'n in state
where mutual concessions are constantly de-
manded. My female fr ends, though the cho-
sen companion OF your life may not be all you
had, in the ardor of your affection, painted
him, he is still The man you are bound TO love,
honor and obey, and TO your keeping, in
great degree, is committed his reputation, bis
,useinlneSs in life, his social tastes ana fire
side enioyments. Mutual improvement isun-
doubtedly one of the ends OF the institution of
marriage hut any attempt at correction or re-
proof should be mingled with kindness OF
manner If the contrary course is adopted, the
desired effect is worse than lost, and frequent
" the seeds Of good already Sown in the
heart, are, by haIshness and severity, stifled
in The germ, and The noble feelings which had
begun 70 expand are blasted by the heat Of an
u6governable temper.
Years ago, when in the freshness and buoy
ancy of girlhood, was about TO become the,
bride of him who had ever siriyen to make
me happy, received letter from my moth
er's sister, earnestly urgingme to spend few
DAYS with her, as she wished particularly TO
see me. Accordingly wen., and was cor
daily received by Aunt Clara and the family
of her son, with whom she resided. One day
during my visit, Aunt Clara told me she mad
heard of my intended marriage, ard, feeling a
deep interest in my welfare, she had deteImin-
ed TO give me history Of her married life, be-
lieying that it might convey useful lesSon.-
Whether she thought she discovered the same
traits in my character that caused the ship
wreck OF her happiness, cannot say; but
lei that pass. She said on account of the sad
memory and unhappy feelings il would neces-
sariy awaken, she, had reduced The narrative
towriting, whichi nigh: perise at pleasure.
AT early dsv ayaied myselfof her kind.
ness-her manuscript is here copied:
Being the Oldest of six children, my parents
had always been accustomed 10 rely on me
for much assistance, which, had | been the
only child. they would scarcely have consid
cred me able 10 render. My mothef's time
was almost wholly occupied with household
affairs, SO that at sixteen years OF age the care
oftwo little sisters and three brothers devolyed
upon me. Nature had endowed me with an
indomitsble will and passionate love of power
which required stronger curb than the occa'
sional reproofs which my ebulltion of tempe
called forth. Among my brothers and sister'
my word was law, and when issued com.
mand, land that was the form in which my is.
sues were exercised,) exacted the strictest
obedience. l do not think the children could
have loved me. very much, for my passionate
instructions must have engendered that feal
which casts out love. .sf
AT length change came over ne-a pas.
son took possession of my heart, which fol
time overpowered all baSer passions--ceeJ
say that passion was loyel My whole hear
was devoted to an object worthy OF bette
disciplined one than could bring him.
As ifto prove the assertion true that ever!
person loves his opposite, the object Of my at
tachment was mild, with disposition full ol
kindness and charity, always choosing to suf
fer wrong rather than contend with an antago
mist, .,ss.a,vs~,,, sr.s...--,,,. .s., sprg,
Intending to relieve my parents from provi
ding some of the necessary articles o! house
keeping, engaged to take charge Of distric
school, which was managed by board o
trustees, who were authorized to employ ant
pay the teacher, being more or less controlled
BY them. Their occasional interference, to
temperament like mine, was exceedingly irri
tating. One day returned from school in
yery angry mood, asserting thatI would Meth
er submit to the dictates Of the trustees or an
one else, when my eldest sister said, with al
ssarch smile: s,.s ,.ssr, -
f'What will you do when you are married
You will then have to '.loye, honor, an
y sobey."'s -. ~ 38 0H5a1NJ9 y
asMy temper was not in the least softeaed b
the question, and replied very emphaticall
that when was married it was my husband
4ssdpty 10 make me. happys Andif heidi not cDn
1Sf rm 70 my wishes, / should endeavor 10 max
nm. Foolish wayward girl as was, to re
solve in my own mind that would abideib,