The Yazoo City weekly Whig. (Yazoo City, Miss.) 18??-1855, 1854-06-02
eH0IoE OF HIIsB ANna

i e s an axiom. that young Girl seldom.
marries her FIRST love nay, Sic aarely
has anychoice At All, ana marries some man
who has chosen her at first sight, this
seems wrong, JET hr. Loudon, the celebra-.
ted English writer philosophically says no
lit IS rjght-ard being d widow, her ex-
perisnce is worth something, in addition to
her powers Of observation, She asserts
that men should choose rath = than women,
and here's her argument;
Men are inconsistent. and after marriage
vhenthe trouble and Inconvenience Of chill
tdren are beginning to be felt, and when 1.-THE
most trying time Of all) the wife begins to
neglect her husband for her children; I'M
less there was originally q very strong at
.taeh6sent on the husbands side there is
little chance Of happiness.
a Wife's affection, on the contrary. always
increases after marriage; end even if she
were indifferent before, no -well.disposed
woman can help loving the father Of her
children. Children, On. her side, are 8 bond
Of union, and though she may appear for
them toneglect some Of those little atten-
tons which men seem naturally to expect,
it is only because the child is the more help
less being of the two, and true woman al
ways takes the side Of those who are the
most feeble.
Il IS a strange but melancholy fact. that
when young girls fancy themselves in love,
they are seldom if ever happy. if they mar
~ the obje ct Of their choice. The fact is
in the most cases they find the husband they
have chosen quite a different person. as an
individual. from the imaginary object he had
appeared Is a lover The Imagination IN
most girls is stronger than the Judgment;
and as soon as the first idea Of love is ava
kened in the female heart. the imagination,
is set TO work to fancy a lover, and all pos
sible and impossible PROJECTIONS are assem-
bic together in the young girls mind to
endow the object Of her secret. idolatry.
The first man whose appearance and man
ners attract a girl on her entrance into So
cieiy, isgenerally invested by her with the
halo Of these secret thoughts. and she fan
cies herself in love with him. No wonder.
then, that if she marries she is miserable
The object Of her love has vanished never
to return; and she finds herself chained for
life to man she detests, because she fancies
she has been deceived in him.
On the Other hand, the man who with
very pardonable vanity, fancied himself
loved for his own merits, and who was per-
feetly unconcious Of the secret delusions Of
the girl, becomes, when he finds her chang
ed after marriage. quite indignant at her
caprice The friends and relations on both
sides share in the same feelings-awhat
VII uld she have?'' they cry, s'she married
for love, and see the consequence,
The consequence are, indeed. in such
eases. generally sad enough. When the
first delusion is dissipated, and the truth in
ali It's naid ana stern EeaiIIys comes IoItn
from the VEL that has been thrown around
it, both parties feel indignant at the false
position III which they find themselves. Mu-
tual denominations take place, each accus-
ing the other Of deceit aud ingratitude.
while the apparent injustice Of these accu-
sations, which is felt by each party alters
nately first wounds the feelings, and then
if repeated, rankles in he wound until it
becoms incurable.
TIE LOFTY AND THE LoWLy The Wash
ington Union INDUCES in the following SEN