Fremont journal. [volume] (Fremont, Sandusky County [Ohio]) 1853-1866, 1854-08-25
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ness 10 his room he remarked that a hus
band might learn n good lesson by beinl
confined occasionally to his house and hav
ing in this way an opportunity to witnes
the cares and the never.cnding tolls of th
wife, whose burdens and duties and patien
endurance he might otherwise never hav,
understood. There is a great deal in thi
thought Young men especially are callec
away by their business during the day re
turning only at the hour Of meals; and a,
they SEQ nearly the same routine of duty
begin to think that it is their own lot tc
perform all the drudgery and to bear al
the weight of care aud responsibility.
But such man has very wrong view
Of the case; he needs an opportunity foi
more extended observation and it is per.
haps for this reason that Providence arrests
him by sickness that he may learn in pain
what he would fail to observe in health.
Now, we believe that wives as a whole
are really better than they are generally ad
mitted to be. We doubt if there can be
found large number of wives who arc
disagrceable and negligent without some
palpable coldness or shortcoming on the
part Of their husbands. But is there moth.
ing to be said on the other side? Are hus
bands so generally the perfect, alniable, in
Jured beings they are so often represented
Men sometimes declare that their wives
extravnganccs have picked their pockets
that their ceaseless tongues have robbed
them Of their peace, and their general disa-
greeabIeness has driven them to the haunts
of dissipation but this is generally wicked
excuse for wicked life on their own part.
The truth is men often lose their interest
in their homes by their own neglect to make
their homes interesting and pleasant. 1t
should not be forgotten that the wife has
her rights-as sacred after marriage as be-
fore and good husbands devotion to the
wife after marriage will concede to her quite
as much attention as his galan;ry did while
he vas lover. If it is otherwise, he most
generally is at fault
Take few examples. Before marriage,
a young man would feel some deicacy in
accepting an invitation to spend an evening
in company where his lady love had not
been invited. After marriage is he always
as particular? During the days Of court
ship his gallantry would demand that he
should make himself agreeable TO her after
marriage, it often happens that he thinks
more of being agreeable to himself How
often do married men,. after having been
away from home all day. during which the
wife has toiled at her duties 90 at evening
to some place of amusement and leave her
to toll on alone uncheered and unbappv
How often do the kindest offices pass uno5-
served and unrewarded even by smile
while her best efforts are condemned by
iaut-fnding husband? How often even
when the evening is spent at home is it
spent in silent reading or some other way
that does not recognize the wife's right to
share in the enjoyments of the ireside?
Look ye husbands a moment and re.
member what your wife was when you
took ner, not from compulsion but from
your own choce-a choice based probably
on what you then considered her superiori-
ty to all others. She was young-perhaps
the idol of happy home size was gay and
bllthe as The lark and her brothers and sis
tiers at her iather's iireside cherished her as
an object of endearment. Yet she left all
to join her destiny TO yours-to make your
home happy and to do all that woman's love
could prompt and woman's ingenuity devise
to meet your wishes, and tighten the bur
dens which might press upon you in your
pilgrimage She, of course had her expec-
-ations too. She could not entertain feel
ngs which promised so much without form
ng some idea of reciprocation on your part
md she did expect you would after mar
'iage perform those kind offices of which
you were SO lavish in the days of betroth-
nent.
She became your wife-left her own
lome for yours-burst asunder, as it were
he bonds of love which had bound her to
ler fathers freside and sought no other
boon than your affection--left it may be,
The ease and delicacy of home of indul.
5ence; and now, what must be her feelings
t she gradually awakens to the conscious
less that you love her less than before
hat your evenings are spent abroad-that
'ou only come if at all to satisfy the de-
nands of your hunger, and to End a resting.
'lace for your head when weary or nurse
or your sick-cbamber when diseased p
Why did she leave the bright hearth of
youthful days? Why did you ask her to
1--WE up her enjoyments of happy home
Vas it simply to darn your stockings, mend
our clothes, take care of your children, and
watch over your sick bed? Was it simply
o conduce to your comfort? Or was there
ONE understanding that she was to be
made happy in her connection with the man
he dared to love?
Nor is il sufficient answer that you reply
hat you give her home-that you feed
nd clothe her You Go this for your help
ou would do il for an indifferent house
eeper But wife is more than a house
eeper. She is yow wife;- and unless you
ttend 10 her wants, and in some way an
wer the expectation you raised by your at.
entions before marriage you need not won
Ter If she be detected and her heart sink in
o insensibility; but if this be SO think well
Vho is the cause of it.
We repeat it; very few women make in
ifferent wives whose feelings have not met
Tith some untoward check by the indiffer-
nee or thoughtlessness Of their husbands.
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