Daily evening star. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1852-1854, 1853-06-09
Letter on Matrimcny.

Letter on Matrimcny.
Colonel Tate, Of the Columbia Pa
Democrat, gives publicity to the follow
ing letter, which had been handed him
by the person to whom it was addressed:
DEAR SIR Il received the news of your
marriage with infinite delight, and hope
that the sincerity with which | wish you
happiness, may excuse the liberty take
IN giving you a few rules, whereby more
certainly to obtain it. see you smile at
my wrongheaded kindness, and rejecting
on the charms Of your bride, cry out in
rapture, that you are happy enough with
out my rules. know you are but after
one Of the forty years which hope you
will pass pleasantly together are over,
this letter may come in turn and rules
for felicity may not be found unnecessary,
however some Of them may appear i'm
practicable.
Gould that kind Of love be kept alive
through the married state, which make
the charms Of a single one, the sovereign
good would no longer be sought for; in
the union Of two faithful lovers, it would
he found. But reason shows us that this
is impossible, and experience informs us
that it never was SO: we must preserve it
as long, and support it as happily as we
can. When violence of passion subsidies,
however. and d more even and tranquil
affection takes its place, le not hasty to
censure yourself as Indifferent Or to la
nlent yourself as unhappy: you have lost
that only which it is impossible to retain,
and it vero graceless amid the pleasures
Of a prosperous summer to regret the
blossoms OF transient spring Neither
unwarily condemn your brides insipidity,
till you have recollected that no object,
however sublime, no sounds, however
charming, can continue to transport us
with delight when they no longer strike
us with novelty. The skill to renovate
the powers of pleasing are said indeed to
! be possessed by some women in an emf
nent degree, but the articles of maturity
| are seldom seen to adorn the innocence
Of youth you have made your choice and
ought to improve it.
Safety follows quick upon the heels Of
possession; and to be happy we must al
ways have something in view. The per-
son of your lady is already your own and
will not grow more pleasing in your eyes,
doubt. though the rest of your sex will
think her handsomer for these dozen
years. Turn therefore your attention to
her mind, which daily grows brighter by
polishing. Study some science together
and acquire asimilarity of taste while you
enjoy community of pleasures. You
well, by this means, have many images
in common and be freed from the necessi-
ty Of separating TO find amusemcnt.-
Nothing Is so dangerous to welded love,
as the possibility ofeithel' being happy out
Of the company of each other endeavor,
therefore, to cement the present intimacy
Oh every side.
! Let your wife never be kept ignorant
OtyourncOme, yOureXDcnSeS, your TREND
ships, Or aversions: let her know your
very faults, but make them amiable by
your virtues considerall concealment as
breach Of fidelity; let her never have
anything to find om in your character,
and remember that from the moment one
OF the partners turns spy upon the other,
| they have commenced state OF hostility
Seek not for happiness in singularity;
and dread a refinement of wisdom as a
deviation into folly. Listen not to those
sages who advise you always to scorn
=. the counsel of woman, and if YOU COM
ply with her requests pronounce you wife
ridden. Think not any privation, except
Of positive evil and excellence: and do
not congratulate yourself that your wife
is not learned lady, or is wholly ignorant
how to make a pudding. Cookery and
learning are both good in their places,
and may both be used with advantage
With regard to the expense | can only
observe, that the money laid out in the
purchase of distinction, is seldom or new
er profitably employed. We live in an
age when splendid equipage and glitter
ing furniture are grown too common to
catch the notice Of the rr1eaneet cpeeta+cr.