Daily evening star. [volume] (Washington [D.C.]) 1852-1854, 1853-06-09

Election, but the following consideration
| ought to make amends. The age we live
in pays, think, peculiar attention to the
higher distinction of wit, knowledge and
virtue, to which we NAV more safely,
more cheaply, and more honorably aspire.
The giddy firt Of quality frets at the re-
spect she sees paid to Lady Edgecombe,
and the gay Ounce sits pining for a part
ner, while Jones the ocutaliSt leads up the
ball. said that the person of your lady
would not grow pleasing to you, but pray
never let her suspect that it grows SO:
that a woman will pardon an affront to
her understanding much sooner than one
to her person is well known: nor will anv
of US contradict the assertion. All cur
attalnments, all our arts, are employed to
gain and keep the heart of man: and
what modification can exceed the disap-
pOintment, if the end be not obtained? {?
There is no reprcof however pointed, no
punishment however severe, that a wo-
mans spirit will not prefer to neglect: and
if she can endure it without complaint, it
only proves that she means to make her
self amends by the attention of others,
for the sights of her husband
For this and other reasons it behooves
a married man not to let his politeness
fail though his ardor may abate but to
retain, at least that general civility to-
wards his own lady which he is so will
ing to pay to every other, and not show
wife of eighteen or twenty years old, that
every man in company can treat her with
more complacence than he who SO often
vowed to her eternal fondness. 1t is not
my opinion that young woman should
be indulged in every wild wish Of her
gay heart or giddy head, but contradic-
ton may be softened by domestic kind
ness, and quiet pleasure substituted in
place of noisy ones.
Public amusements are not indeed so
expensive as is sometimes imagined, but
they tend to ALLEVIATE the minds of mar
ried people from eoch other.
A we'll chosen society of friends and
acquaintances, more eminent for virtue
and good sense, than for gaiety and splen-
dor, where the conversation of the day
may afford comment for the evening,
seems the most rational pleasure this
great country can afford. That your
superiority should always be seen, but
never felt, seems an excellent general
rule. \ wife should out-shine her hus-
band in nothing; not even in dress. If
she happens to have a taste for the
tritling distinction that finery can confer,
suffer her not moment to fancy, when
she appears in public, that Sir Edward
or the Colonel are finer gentlemen than
her husband. The bane of married hap
piness among men in general has been,
that finding themselves unfit for polite
lie they have transferred their vanity to
their ladies, dressed them up gaily, and
sent them out gallanting while the good
man was to regale himselfwith port wine
or rum punch, perhaps among mean COM
panions. This practice produced the
ridicule thrown on them in all comedies
and novels since commerce began to
prosper.
| But now that | am so near the Subjects
word or two on jealousy may not come
amiss, for though not q failing of the
present ages growth, yet the seeds of it
are certainly too soon sown in every
bosom for us to neglect it as fault of no
consequence. If you are ever tempted to
be jealous, watch your wife narrowly,
but never tease her, tell her your jeal-
ousy, but conceal your suspicious.
Let her IN short, be satisfied that it is
only your odd temper, and even trouble
some attachment that makes you follow
her: but let her not dream that you even
doubted her virtue seriously, even for a
moment. If she is disposed towards jeal
ousy Of you, let me beseech you to be al
ways explicit with her, and never myste-
rious be above delighting in her pain,
nor do your business, nor pay visits with
an air of concealment, when all YOU do
might as well be proclaimed perhaps in
| the parish vestry.
But | viii hope better than this Of your
/ tenderness and of your virtue, and will
now release YOU from lecture you have
SO very little need of after few more
words
Pray make my compliments and best
wishes acceptable to your bride.
Treat your wife always with respect ;
it will procure respect to you, not only
from her, but all that observe it.
Never use sighting expression to her,
even in jest for Sights in jest after re-
! neated handvingS are ant IN end IN anoer