Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1853-12-28
Caoies Impairment,
AFather's Advice TO his Daughter.

AFather's Advice to his Daughter.
WRITTEN SHORTLY AFTER HER MARRIAGE
From The pen Of Bishop .Mslison, Of Ir.
ginia, to his daughter residing IN Rsch-
mond.
AIY DEAR: You have just entered into
tina, state which is repIete with happiness or
misery. Ike issue depends upon that prn
d-nt amiaale, uniform conduct, which wis.
dom and virtue so strongly recommend, on
the one hand. or on that mprudence, which
a want of reflection, or passion, may prompt,
on the other.
You are allied to a man Of honor, oi tal-
eots, aud of an opeu, generous disposition.
Ynu have, therrfpr, in your power, ;'sl the
essential ingredients OF domestic happiness;
it comet be married, if you reflect upon that
-systen Of conduct which you ought sarar'a.
hly 10 pursue-if you now see clearly the
path from which you witfresoye uever to
deviate. Our conduct is often the result OF
within or caprice, often such as will give
as many pans, unless We see 'e!orc hand.
what is always the most plal:eworihy and
sEIe most essential 10 happiliess.
The first n,axia, which you shonld i'm.
press deeply upau your mind, is, never TO
attempt to control your husband by orpo.
sitiun, by displrasure, or any other mark ol
SINGER A man of semsr, of prudence, o'
warm feelings, cann"t, and will not bear an
opposition uf any kind, which is attended
with an angry look or expression. The cu'-
4 H. Ia, %,
his attachment is weakened; he iegns to
feel y modification the nust pungcnt; lie is
belttled even in his own eyes; and, he as.
sured the wife who once cxcitcs those scn.i.
ments in the breast of Il husband, will never
regain the high ground whir', she mi sht and
ought to have retained. Vixen he u,arries
her, if he be y good man, he expects from
her smiles, not lrowns; he expects to find in
her one who is not tn control hm-not to
take from him the freedom of acting as his
own Judgment shall direct bat one who will
place such confidence in him as to believe
that his prudence is his best guide. Little
things, what in reality are mere trltlcs i'll
themselves, often produce chickering's, and
even quarres. Never permit them TO be a
subject Of dispute; yield them with pleasure,
..ith smile of affection. Be assured that
one difference ou,wcighs them all Il thou.
sapd or ten thousand times. A difference
uith your husband ought to be considered
as the greatest calamitv-as one that is to
I've most studiousl y guarded against; it is {"
demon. which u,uSt never ho PERMITTED to
enter hahitatinn where MI should he peace,
nnimpaired confidence and heartfelt! ;;firc
ton. Besides, what can :, woman gain by
her opposition or her difference! Nothing
But she loses everything, she loses her hus
bands respect for her virtue, she i"Srs his
jove, and with that, prospect Of future hap
rincss. She creates her own misery, and
then utters idle aud silly complaints, alters
tlen in vain The love of husband can
be retained only by the high opinion which
he entertains OF his wifr'S goodness, Of her
amiahie disposition, Of the sweetness OF her
temper, of her prudence aud of her devotion
to him. LIE, nothing, upon any occasion,
ever lessen that opinion. On the contrary,
at should augment every day; he should have
much more reason to admire her for those
excellent qualities which will cast Il lustrc
over a virtuous woman, when her personal
attractions are no more.
Has your husband stayed ont longer than
You expected When he returns receive
him as partner of your heart Has he dis
sppointcd you in something you expected
whether nf ornament or furniture, OF any
convenience! Nerer cvincc dseontcnt, re-
ceive his apology with chcerlulness. Does
ne, when you are housekeeper, invite com
pany without informing you of it, or bring
home with him a friend? What ever may
be your repnst, however scanty it may be
however impossible it may be to add to it
receive them with pleasing counlcnancc
adorn your table with cheeriuueSs. give tc
your husband or your company heat wei
come it will compensate for every other de
ficiency; it will evince love for your husband
good sense in your sell, aud that politenes
of manners which acts as the most power
ful church it will give 10 the plainest fare :
zcst superior to all that luxury can boast
Never be discontented on any occasion o
this nature.
In the next place, as your husbands sue
cess in his profession will depend upon hi
popularity, and as the n:anners ct a wIl'
have no little, influence in extending or les
sening the respect and esteem Of others fo