The Camden weekly journal. [volume] (Camden, South-Carolina) 1853-1861, 1853-12-20
MaxiInS 10 Marry bY.

ago that Kit North" must have been something
of beau at the time he wrote them.
Now, in making marriage, as in making love
and indeed in making most other things
the beginning it is that is the difficulty. But
the French proverb about beginning le-
premier pas qui coule'-goes more literally to
the arrangement OF marriage; as our English
well illustrates the condition oflove-"Ihe first
step over, the rest is easy Because, in the mar.
rying affair." it is particularly the "frst step
that 'custs'-as to your cost you will find, If
that step happens to go the wrong way. And
most men, when they go about the business OF
wedlock, owing to some strange delusion, be-
gin the affair at the wrong end. They take
fancy to the white, arms, sometimes only to
the kid gloves) or to the neat ancles ofa pecu-
liar school girl; and conclude from these premI.
ses, that she is ust the very woman of the
world to scold a houscful of servants, and to
bring up dozen chdren This is a convent
cnt deduction, but not always a safe one.
White arms, and neat ancles, bring me, nat
uraly, at once to the very important conside.
ration of beauty. For don't suppose because
caution you against all disabilities, thatl want
to fix you with worthy creature whom it will
make you extremely i'll every time you look at
her. For the style of attraction, please your
selves, my friends. | should say a handsome
fglre-if you don't get both advantages-is
better than merely pretty face. Good eyes
are point never to be overlooked. Fine teeth
full, well proportioned limbs-'don't cast these
away for the sake OF a single touch ofthe small
pox; mouth something too wide, or dimples
rather deeper on one side than the other.
1t may, at some time, he matter of consid-
Grafton, whether you shall marry maid or
widow As to the TASTE | myself will give no
opinion-I like both; and there are advantages
and disadvantages peculiar to either. 1fyou
marry widow, think it should be one whom
YOU have known in the life, time of her husband;
because, then ab actu all posse-from the sui.
ferngs of the defunct, you may form some no.
ton of what your own will be. lfher husband
is dead before you knew her, you had better
be off at once; because she knows (;hc jadeD
what YOU will like, though she never means to
do it; and, depend upon it, ifyou have only one
inch Of penchant, and trust yourself to look at
her three times, you are ticklcd to Il certainty.
Marrying girls is nice matter always; tor
they are as cautious aS crows plundering corn
field. You may stalk for week, and never
get near unperceived. You hear the caterwaul
! ing as you 60 up stairs into the drawing room
louder than thunder: but it stops-as ifby mag
ic. the moment (marriageable) man puts his
ear to the key.hole-I don't myself, | profess
upon principle, see any objection to marrying
widow. Ifshe upbraids you at any time with
the virtues of. the former husband, you only
reply that you wish he had her with him, with
ali your soul. If woman, however, has had
, more than three thousands, she poisons them;
avoid her.
In widow.wiving, it may be question wheth-
er you should marry the widow ofanhonest man
or rascal. Against the danger that the last
may have learned i'll tricks, they set the advan-
tage-she will be more sensible Qrom the con-
trast) to the kindness of a gentleman and
man of honor think you should marry the
honest mans widow; because, with women,
habits is always stronger than reason.
But the greatest point, perhaps to be aimed
at in marrying, is to know, before marrying,
what it is you have to deal with. You are
sure to know this, fast enough, afterwards. Be
sure, therefore, that you commence the necessa-
nv perluisitions before you have made up your
mind, and not as people generally do after
Remember that there is no use in watching a
lady that yon lore; because she can't do any
thing-do what she will-lhat will be disagree
able to vou And still less in examining a
woman that loves you; because. for the time,
she will be quite sure not to do anything that
ought to be disagreeable to you. have known
hundred perfect tgresses as playful as kittens
quite more obliging than need be--under
such circumstances. 1t is not bad way
maid or wdow.-when you find you are fancy.
ing woman, to make her believe that you
have all aversion to her. Ifshe has any con-
ccaled qualities, they are pretty sure to come
out on such an occasion.
Don't marry any woman under twenty-she
is not come to her wickedness before that time.
Nor any woman who has a red nose at any age;
because people make observations as you 90
along the street A east of the eye'-as the
lady casts it upon you-may pass muster
under some circumstanccs-and | have even
known those who thought it desirable; but alb
solute squirting is Il monopoly OF vision which
ought not to be tolerated.-BMckwood
The strict honesty of Bob Simpglass deserves
to be regarded as example to his brethren OF
the Happy. .good,ltllow Society The other
night having walked over Cambridge bridge in
zig gag course; curious and wonderful, he
hove up against the toll house and giving the
toll. .gatherer two cents, he exclaimed:
"Iere-ic-is my contribution to tho sup
port of the bridge"
ayes, and there is one cent over, said the
tender.
zone cent over" said the tender.
Zone cent is the regular toll ic-ic -aint
it!
ayes, sir"
"Well, then owe you two, any way-tor
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