Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1853-07-11
The First cross Word.. -.

In the Southern Ladies' Companion for June, a
happy wife imparts the secret of her happiness
Nothern ladies', we imagine, will not object to-
hear it, and compare. notes with their unknown
Southern friend. The article is entitled GLOW TO
avoid the First Cross Worl.''
emit frstplace, iii important that you should
marry the man that you love. Without love, the
first, second, and third Gloss worlswilI be aptito
come; az nd sour looks. Sneers, and alterations
too. Marry the man you love; and after you are
married, dn not consider that YOUR husband has
nothing to do but to dance attendance upon you.
But consider that he has the business that is neces
sary for your welfare on his hands, and that If he
neglects to attend 10 strictly, he will become in.
volyed, and perhaps come to beggary. In the
next place, consider well what is your duty and
endeayor 10 do it to the very Letter. Base indeed
must be the man that will be unkind orindiferent
10 wife, when he knows that she ID, es her duty.
In The next place. confne yourself in your eXpen-
ditureS to your husbands income. 1t must be
very great cross indeed5to man, to have an ex-
travagant wife. Whenyour husband comes home,
weary with the business OF the day, have every
thing as neat and comfortable as you can. Let
his repast be good and well served up you can,
without being extravagant. Greet him with a
smile. If he is full of conversation, endeayour to
be so too. IL he is not disposed to talk, do not
annoy him with constant chat about Indifferent
things, but endeavorto engage him in converse
Ton by talking about things that will interest
him. Ifyou do not succeed, do not sit down mo-
ping in doggerly silence, as ifyouhad been sighted,
and think, because your husband does not talk to
YOU tnat ne mas ceased 10 love you; but attend to
your own busne S, and when your husband speaks,
TO you, answer him kindly, and let him see that
you are in good humor. IL your domestic af-
fairs perplex you, and You are out of humor W hen
he comes in, do not frown on him, nor answ er HIM
| sharply. Let him see that you are kind and atfec-
tionate 10 him, though your feelings may be har-
| rowed up by other matters. Should your husband
speak iIarshly TO you, do not answer him in the
same way, but speak kindly 10 him, and ask him
i'll what way you have offended him, (if you do
| not know and endeayor to do SO no more. | am
convinced that nine-tenthS of husbands will as
sumo pleasing look, and be as attentive as ever.
True indeed is the Proverb "a soft answer turneth
away wrath If you have children, govern them
strictly, yet kindly; do not let your husband have
that on his hands, Let him see that you can have
order in your house without Scolding, while he is
present. Never oppose your husbands will. You
may give him your opinion on anything you may
think proper; but never set up your way, and con-
tend for 1t to go So A woman not made 10
govern, but to be helpmate for her husband. II
your husband appears coo and Indifferent to you,
do not uPbraid him with want of affection for
lyon; but be rs affectionate TO him ever, and
even more so. II you have q husband that has a
common share OF human kindness about him, (and
| hope none OF the fair readers of the Companion
he will soon lose all his codness, and be the same
as he was the day he plighted lasting love and fl
deity to you ut the sacred altar. In conclusion
will say that have endeavored to walk up 10 the
above rules, and few people can boast of more
happiness in the married state than can. This
is the eighth yeor since we married, and three
bright-eyed, iair-haired children sit around our
heatth-stone, and our love for each other, il
| changed at all, is increased.''