New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1853-01-31

q mighty sSair sfcr ani' EAppasrse.) p; the wife
was mistaken. Tho Marriage ceremony, aser all DC y
changing the whole course of . persons life New
thcugtfs, new feelings, and new dunes Snse II the
ehtpee be fortupsfe they VII shine hike stars on the
dusky coast, lighting the lonely vuysger Ger tne way
But q the change be unfortunate, IL viii be Ike the
glocm Of the ocean, where the stormtssed bark has
been wrecked and fuRdes, hopes blssted forever
Marriage y no Epcurean drcsm Ii = happiness or mis-
ery II IL what An,obso, IN Websters play took IL 20
be- Some one asked him, What do you think OF Mar
races he ret he'd look upon II NOT a. Purgatory
il is either Heaven or hell there 10 third place in IL
The motives for " hich people marry has grcs, deal
70 do with their after happiness. Some women marry
20 escape from home; some marry for position in
society. And there are men who many for equally sb-
surd reasons. Some men there are who marry for
beauty and lock upon their wife q mere toy. man
think 20 hang. trnket around his neck and behold
il a miilstope Some men marry for money He who
does So has this advantage be can know VIVA. he gets
Laughter II a man can feed upon husks, Il v well
for him 10 see that his troug well filled Then again
there great diversity of opinion a. % the proper age
10 nsrry have my strong doubts Whether very early
marriages are advisable t seems 70 me that differ
enee between the ages OF the parties Is desirable How
great difference there should be, Is not so easily dec
Sed Nineteen years y too great hiatus fifteen will
do There is some very good advice upon this point in
shskspere's Twelfth Night where the Duke Gays to
Viola
Nv HE upont young though thou art thine eye
Hath ssyd upon souae favor tasfir loves
Hath it not boy =
y-rolr-A little, by your favor.
Dwke-What kind OF woman ist'
n.E~-she, l. NOT worth thee then. What years faith
EioIa-Abcut your years. my loid.
Dnks-Too old by Fesven; let sill thc woman tsAe
An elder than berselfi 80 wears abe 70 him
So SWANS she level in her husbsnds heart.
For boy. however do praise ourselves
Our fsncies more giddy and uniform,
More longing, wsyerins, sooner Loot aud worn
Than womens are.
Tioii-I think IL well my lord -
Is.k. iaft Inv love ~
Or thy affection cannot hold the bent;
Forworen are ~ roses; whose tir DOVER,
Berg once dsplay'd doth fautaat very hour
Women should marry when between twenty and
thirty wears Of age but the former than the latter
lApplnusel Lord Bacon says that man nnds hiInsen
years older sitter marriage In tins there Is mueh
truth. Even newly married persons, oil proper year,
nvsi feel their weight besrug upon them Ike the lapse
Of time There is one species OF msr,mony condemned
begging pardon for speaking Of II here, should ap
pear personsl 10 any, refer 10 the wedding OF ns sa
10 the Young This should never be. in Tome there
was a strict law sgainst it. This law the Ler PsPa,
strictly forbid such marriages There much tru'n ID
the saying.
MAY and December can never agree
Among the instigstions 10 the commission OF Aatr+
mony is Beauty. Now think that beauty has much
less influence with sensible men Marriage
than is at first thought Man wants partner IN whom
he feel that there VIII be something iet ensr het
beauty shall have departed Stil t would be folly TO
assert that beauty Is 10 be wholly dsregarded FOR ~
Keats hes beautifully sung
A thing Of beauty Is Joy forever
Psram cunt 20 all considerations of beauty should ever
be regarded, first, smiabIiy second, good pr neipes
third good sense fourth good breeding and nth good
education
Passing on the lecturer remarked that the ntroduc
ton OF steam among us and the rapidty with when
the locomotive whirs our Journeys had sPohed
all the romance OF wedding There IL no gonst
Niagara nowadays by the slow stage coach, wherein
you could enjoy the soi social converse OF the honey
moon Or should you wish to go 70 Europe you OF
course cannot 60 by slow sailing packet bur must
take the wheelpropccd steamer. Indeed, so great 70
the change in this regard that might well exclsm,
with Milton;
"Of mans first d sobelience, and the fruit
OF that forbidden whose mortal taste
Brought steam into the world-all our wo-
Sing Heavenly uEse"
ANer n few more remarks, tho lecturer said that he
considered this TO be the great blessing OF Msrrsgc-
that IL does away with solhshness II delivers Us
from the mere forms OF mum and tnr endears oo'n
partes and turns slsvah dudgery into free analogous
service Most properly has Marriage been said 20 be
tyne OF the union between the Church aud our Lord
And it has been well said that to Adam Paradise was
home SO to his descendants home Is Paradise ZAP
plsuse.