Muscatine journal. [volume] (Bloomington, Iowa) 1849-185?, 1853-11-25

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'ciousness that her nsighbors thought her husbar
"precise and fussy" annoyed her. She dwet upon
when sewing in her quiet sitting room, or whom bu,
In her kitchen.
Her husbands practice about this time increase,
and with 1t also his ambition to excel in those branch
e. most nearly connected With his profession. Nov
It never entered his scientific head that the iii
Of domestic affection must be supplied with fuel,
the fame would diminish. Ho was careful to kee
bright the Goals in his abratory furnace bat he fol
got the fresde which conjugal love should oarefull
guard. He married from no mercenary motive /; b
believed il true affection which led him to seec
his Emma from the rest Of the world, and he had NO
the shadow Of doubt that her whole heart was hi
own. He had now and then vishsd she was NOR
fond Of scientific pursuits, yet 1t never occurred tohu
that she viewed him in any other light than the YER
mode of husband-for such he intended to be.
He could see seme trifing deficiencies in her, to b
sure, but be believed that her affection was such as &
blind her to all defects in his own character An,
here we find them. couple "happily married" as tn
world would say, and, for aught the world knows
and as far as ou'sle appearance would Indicate en-
lying more than common share of cenjuga felicity
But there 10 sadness in that house, little cloud il
the horizon, which may spread till it darkens tn,
whole sky, or may fade away like the light mist oi
morning. We have taken this instance because it i
SO common, and because there is in 90 many hemx !
m DOT of bitterness, marring the ,y and beauty Of
married life. 1t may not be tho cuisines" of Mr.
G. or the sensatveness of his wife, but something
riva-some bad habit INDUCED, peculiarity un.
checked, which EN- 5ters life, and sometimes leads to
separation We have not taken, as we might, the sad
picture of the drunkard's home where all eonjugal
happiness and love are drowned in liquid fire. With
such we weep and pray, and leok forward with hope
to the day of our nations devsrancs, by the power
of law, from this curse which has made so many
homes wretched. Neither have we introduced our
readers to the esde of the gambler the adultersr or
the modern fanatic, who laughs at the sacredness of
marriage, but still lives in the family relation These
gangrenes Of society need desperate remedies and
skiiifu physician Our business now s with the little
foxes that spoil the vines; with those homes whore
the pasuo-spot is small that it considered hardly
presentabe to the priest.
We have been astonished to observe how much con-
jagal happiness has been msrred by bad habits or
want Of mutual coLflencs. Sometimes when we
have heard of the separation Of married couple or
tho remark that certain persons did not live happily
t'gehsr, our thoughts have gone back to the little
cloud, once no larger than man hand, and We have
mourned as We thought how easily it might then have
been chased away.
We sometimes feel that if wc are evor so blessed as
to arrive at Heaven, and given angels mission
on earth, We would chosse were it in our power to
carry concl and peace to the hearts bound by
thscgs tics of wediock, bat sundered in spirit But
n Raak f.nhla
few words to those married people Who now and then
6nd their borix IN darksned by Storm.
Scattered throughout the pages of the NJ her.s
As'st' like the golden sands in the soil of Calfor-
n nre directions to young ladies to the choice of
for fs and advice to the best method of
preparing thcmscvs. for the duties of wife and moth
or. So frequent and good has been this advice
that sh-uid hesitate long before venture to add
thcieO bu' my dear married Friends let ne whisper
a few words to you. The calls you happy, and,
1T they JUICE by appearances, they Judge rig tly; ;
for when ghhors inter, are not all nast:c Jars
as they are called, and harsh words, hushed for the
time being9 1t is when pcrplsxed with the annoy
ance of every day life-the care of children, sick
pia5fuf or turbulent, as they by turns-or when
with small income, we must manage to supply the
nnmerou' wants OF an increasing famy--when busi-
ncs hurrcs and household hels needed and not OBJ
tanned, or if obtained, is careless and troub
when pccunary losses depress the husband, or wear
moss and care steal the smile from the wfes cheek
1t is at such times need to draw from that fund Of
COZ Jugal affection which should be constantly
lating interest as the years OF welded life pass.
See that young couple at the altar The blooming
girl In satin and ge-blessoms; the groom in his
fresh coat and white gloves. How bright the future
locks TO them, and how faultlsss they saem to each
Other Talk to them as yeu will, they cannot be
made to beieve that they have of char
acsr which will call for patience and for bsarance or
that the love which shapes their paradise must be &C
eompaned with pinc,pe-.frm religious pri ciple-
OF they may bo driven from that Eden which seldom
opens second time to receive the self banshed exiles
It Is enough that they protesting Chrisans; they
must learn to make that religion practical, iicing,
eraydoy concern. 1t must lead them to Danish sus-
picon, not thinking evil, and return soft answer for
hasty and perhaps angry words. There will time
oome-it comes to all-when married life wears very
sber hue 70 the young couple; when they pause and
look back upon the careless free days Of single life
No situation is free from perpexities, and He who
Instituted the family relate has sent joys to overba
ance oil the trials Of lot and be assured there ia
more happiness in married life, where the parties are
united in heart and principle than in any other con-
diti0n.
And, may add, that an unhappy married couple
are made doubly wretched BY the bonds which unite
them. The same soil which yields the richest pro-
ducts beneath the hand Of the skiliful hpsbandmsn,
Is also most axuriant in weeds when neglected. Our
Father In Heaven was merciful when He gave Adam
IN nspmeet-"compassiona like God" when He
allowed that hslpmeet to wander from Paradise with
him, hand in hand, to 60 forth md tho gloom and
the thorns and brsrs Of . world upon which they
themselves had brought the curse. And We believe.
also, that, " woman FIRST led man to sin, she has
gracousy been permitted the largest share in winning
lost world back. mean BY this that her gentle
persuasion, and her more impalsive, ENTHUSIASTIC ns
ture. are better fitted to win to right and duty
than the sterner sex. Think NOT then, that speak
aught derogstOry Of womans tights, when assert
that in the fret domestic difference which springs up
between them, where no duty Is ooncsrr ed, it il most
becoming that sne should bs the arst to yield. Let
hsr do 1t gracefully and quietly. and she has made
conquest greater than be vho wins battle. woman
who governs her temper is more respected by the
Other sex than she who can command an army or dis
ouss politics. They can do the one, but, alas they
know how much easier il is to guide ship in storm
than to curb evil passions.