Muscatine journal. [volume] (Bloomington, Iowa) 1849-185?, 1853-11-25

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Beware, also, how you speak of husband failin
your female friends. If ycu do this but once,
will find that those faults magni6ed in your eye
and you have unconsciousy wakened The sacred I'll
of msrried life. There is sometimes certain lgl
bsdinage ameng married people, which, to say IL
least is productive of good and sonetim.s leads
positive evil. 1t may be like
"An arrow sent at random,
/, But finding mark the archer never meant"
Let me give an example from real life. ga
yo1ng girl is visiting some friends, xho have bee
married eight or ten years, perhaps She is fond O
society, and, as the wife is necessarily much at hom
with her little ones, the husband politely attends the
visitor to the concerts lectures evening parties, an
so-forth.
All this is not displeasing to lady whe loxes he
children, and has learned to prize the quiet Joys
home; she goes, too, when she can, but fnds it NJ
sacrifice to remain in the nursery when duty calls
Indeed, she pleased to that her husband retain
the gallaatry of his youth, and looks with Wife
pride upon him, and tha young visitor leans light,
upon his arm.
"We will return carly" says the husband, a. tn,
wife sits in rocking chair ~th babe in her arms
She replies, cheerfully, "don't hasten on my &C
count. shall not be lonely"
There is perfect confidence between that husband
and wife, nothing has yet occurred to mar it
Pity that light jest should do that which years Of
care and trial have failed to produce.
The gentleman and the visitor return in fne sprits
from the concert the piano is opened the wife orders
Refreshments, and merry hour ensues. They sing
laugh and jest. The husband jokes the lady about
certain young gentleman who seemed so eager to as
sumo his place that evening and one thing follows
another, TILL at last he says, "No, Mary, dom mar
~ him. shall want wife, one Of these days, per-
haps. Julia, my dear, what say you to my second
choice2"
This seems rude and usfeeling but it was uttered
as joke, and was taken such, for the wife knew
that she held the first place in her husbands heart
Sac had proved his love, and she rested upon it as
rock but nevertheless, the unfeeipg words struck
chord in her heart which vbraed to tones Of deepest
sadness.
While she smiled with the lip, there was q tear
forced back to its fountain. These words haunted her
for years.
"How could he speak 80 lightly of my death7" she
would often ask herself and II was not until she lay
upon bed Of sickness, with little hope Of lfe that
she venursd to tell him how much sorrow those idle
words had given her. He had forgotten the circum-
stance, and could hardly be made to believe that he
had ever been guilty of such folly and rudeness But
most tendery did he watch by her bedside and in af
ter years Proved by his increased devotion to her. who
seemed almost raised from the dead that as only
al ks.
We believe husbands are more addicted to such
'kcs than wives, and We would kindly caution them
womaI q heart is sensitive, and where heffsetious
ale concerned sccretive poisoned arrow may ranhle
there for years unknown TO you. Heaven help You
you find at last that it your hand which sent i'll
The breach widened daily between Mr.. c. and his
wife, the parties with sketch of whose domestic life
We commenced this article. The doctor, as we have
said, loved his profession be devoted all the hours
which be could spare from active practice to bis study
Medical journals, reviews, new cases Of instruments
manikns, colored Autographs o. all parts Of the human
frame, not in the symmetry of its natural proportos
but distorted BY disease accident, filled his study
and thinned his purse, leaving little for such books or
pictures as would have sued his wfes less scientific
TASTE oace or twice he made feeble sf rs to nterest
her in bis Fursuits but the very sight of skeleton
made her faint, and medical book was Immediately
carried to the study left by chance on the paror-
time passed, TO. when h:r little girl was bu. two years
old the mother gave birth to twin boys. Now, if
never before, the neghbors said "the doctor was
fussy and notional" He required the most exact and
functoas attention be paid to his boys-the NOR
ming and the evening BATH the daily exercise, regular
hours feeding and sleeping and no anodynss at the
risk of his great displsasure.
"Maybe this is right enough, said Mr. Sloan, ,whs
lived near them, and the moth.r of six robust,
ruddyfaced boys; "its we'll enough, If one can have
strength and help. Ny babies all come up somehow,
but never had rules about it; nursea 'em when
they cried ashed em wheE they got dirty and give
eu peppermint and SCOT tea when they had the eholic.
Your husbands 'masin particular, Mn. G., and don't
knew nothin' about wemans work, OF be wouldn't
expect you regular the clock with three children,
and only one girl to help He forgets there's washin'
day, and bakn' day, ard ironin' day. Lawful sake
If he should see my Tim roin about the AoOr, Mon
day, with an old woolsn frock and crust of bread
In his mouth, he'd think the child would have fit of
sickness; but he's fat and healthy as q pig The
long and short Of it is, Mrs. c., you must learn to
have mind of your own, and take no notice Of the
doctors whims and notions
But she felt that her husbands plan were best, IL
they could only be exscuted and she strove with her
one inefficient girl and her three little ones to crafty
his taste for system and fulfil his directions a. to the
management of the childr.n. They were poss bill ties,
bat no expected Of his wife that which never has been
and never will be accomplished.
The doctor was seldom with his family now, for his
practice and his study demanded nearly all his time
but he came Is regularly his profession would allow
to his meals, and he was disturbed il he did not od
them as punctaal as himself. More frequently than
ever the bread was heavy, and the meat indgestibs
from overlooking. Sissy could eat no dinner because
she had been ted between meals; and an old cradle
"a very useless thing, he averred was found in the
kitchen, and Betsy rocking and singing with all
her might to hush the loud cries Of one Of the boys
40, dear !" he would exclAim, IL do wish, Emma,
you would try to understand the laws of health, and
be more systematic; the health, and perhaps the life
of our children, depend upon attention to these little
things"
Poor Emma had heard this 20 often that she was
weared, and, If the tuth be told, was becoming
ind fsent. She had struggled to perform what the
doctor called wife's duties, till her pale face and
wasted form ought 10 have told him that she had
task beyond her strength. But he needed it not he
was engaged in writing treatise on the "causes of
tube cuar Diseases, and he had little time to waste
just then upon the sad, pale face of his wife.
1t Is not strange that in that wife's heart thers