Port Tobacco times, and Charles County advertiser. (Port Tobacco, Md.) 1845-1898, 1853-09-08

er, and to live economically ana Wltnln MS
means, he must be assisted by his better
half; otherwise penury will soon come in
to the household, and with it discord and
uphappiness. The parties should consider
all the facts and chances beforehand. They
should determine 10 live for themselves rs-
thcr than for the outdoor world, with a view
to their continued and permanent happiness,
gence of a silly and false pride.
Marrimony should no, be considered as a
mere condition Of bargain and sale. High
er and holer principles and purposes should
be associated with ii. 1T is sometimes ne
| cessary ,ha, sacrifices should be made; but
these, when the subject is rightly under
stood, are more than compensated for by
reciprosily of feeling, mutual confidence,
and sympathy, and lhe interchange of af7ec-
tion. But the bride should not expect all
The sacrifices to be on one side. She may
be called upon to yield something also
something in dress, in gay society, In many
attentions, and in frequent intercourse with
the outdoor world. She may have been
brought up indulgently and extravagsnlly,
and her contemplated husband, however de-
vo'ed and generous, may not possess the
means TO keep up this system to the same
extent. She should see and realize this fact,
and make up her mind and her conduct ac-
cordIngly. Then the two will commence
life understanding and rely ing upon each
other, and constantly anxious to promote
their mutual fortunes and happiness. Let
another and an opposite course be pursued
and the consequence cannot but be disas-
trous. Let the young wife, forgetful of the
true position of her husband, waste his sub
stance, neglect her household, and appear
more anxious 10 attract attention IN the la.
shionabIe promenades than to form the pre-
siding spirit Of the domestic circle, and the
dream OF fidelity, truth, confidence, and con-
nubial bliss will soon vanish, never to re-
turn. Our correspondent, however, who is
evidently sincere, must not be too faln
hearted. The giddiesl belle sometimes makes
the mos, devoted wife. Women often talk
wildly and exiravaganily, withou, meaning
much. They either intend TO frighten the
! limid, or 10 lest their courage and sincerity
The frs. great study is to touch the heart
that once accomplished, and all The rest vii
] be comparatively easv.
| A woman who truly loves her husband
will seldom lrifle with his prosperity or dis
regard bis counsels. But, alas for the de.
Iuded victim who marries model of extra
vagance, sparkling coquelte, or giddy
| ashionable-and who neither secures hel
respec, nor affections. He binds himself fo'
! life to the careless, the Indifferent, the proud
and unleellng-and thus makes his home
not a constant resource and a perpetual re-
treat, bu, spot 10 be shuoned and avoided
Misgivings, misunderstanding, recrimins-
ions will take place daily and hourly, and
the matrimonial cup, which was looked to
as The source Of unmingled bliss, will be
realized as full of bitterness and disappont.
mcnr. And yet "il is no, good 10 be alone .
Women, too, in The grea. ajori.y of cases
are Welding and trac,able, and the vast mul-
,ilude may be won by attention, kindness
confidence, and truth.