Port Tobacco times, and Charles County advertiser. (Port Tobacco, Md.) 1845-1898, 1853-05-12

(, be swallowed A very few bslI-rooms
will afford The means of introduction and
selection of acquainsnces and the inter-
course which, by imparling real know
ledge of the dispositions, will give The hest
f,clires for choice, will be ,ha, which is
Withdrawn, by one remove and another,
from gay metropolitan ssemblies-frs', to
domestic socieiy. Our present manners ad-
nit, perhaps. too much freedom of inter-
course in public, too little in private. The
light familiarity Of festive meetings is carried
far enough. further than tends to attach !;
bul The graver intimacy is wanting. Milton
| complained, ,ha. 10 his time, choice in msr
rage wss difficult, because there was MOI
that freedom of access, granted nr presum
ed as NAV suffice for perfect discerning
ill too late" 10 our age the freedom oi
access is sufficient; bul The access is. for
the mos. pari. at times aud places where
nothing can be discerned but the features of
restless and vb.fI;ng life. And if Milton
could say, 'sWho knows not that The BASH
full muleness Of virgin NAV nflimes hide
all HE unllveIiness and natural sioih which
is reslv unfit for conversations" we, on The
other hand, Who csnnot reasonably complain
OF The bashiul muleness oi the virgins, may
be in our own way perp!exed in the attempt
to discover wl,a, is the life lha, lies beneath
those dancing and s!ancing oulsides Of
which we see so much.
!, may be observed, ! think, that women
Of high intellectual endow and much
dignity of department have the greatest diff
ficul,y in marrying, and stand most in need
Of mothers help. Aud this not because
they are themselves faslidious, for they are
often as little so es any, bul because men
are not humble enough to wish 10 have
their superlnrs for their wives.
Grea, wealth in a woman tends to keep
q, distance both the proud and the humble,
leaving the unhappy lveb bait to be snapped
a. By the hardy and greedy. If The wealthy
lalher of an only daughter could be gifted
with knowledge OF hal parental care and
kindness really is, j, is my assured belief
lha, he would disinhert her. It he leaves
her his wealth, The best thing for her TO do
is to marry the mos, respectable person she
can find Of The class of men who marry for
money. An heiress remaining unmarried is
prey to all manner of ex;ortion and iDpn-
siuon, and with The best intentions becomes,
through ill-adminIs,ered expenditure and
misdIrected bounty, . corruption 10 her
neighhorhood aud curse to the poor; or if
experience shall put her on her guard, she
will lead life Of resistance and suspicion.
TO the in ury Of her own mind and nature.
In the case, therefore, Of either high en-
dowmenls OF great wealth in daughter, the
care OF parent il peculiarly needed To null
tply her opportunities of making good
choice in marriage; and in n case can such
care be properly pte.ermisted.
DUE MATURITY FOR MARRIAGE.
When the mother takes no pains, the
marriage Of the daughter, even if no, in it.
self ineIig ible, is likely to be unduly defer
red. For The age al which marriages are
efalon. Aristotle was of opinion that the
bridegroom should be ,hir,y-seven years Of
age and the bride eighteen alleging physi-
cal reasons, which | venture 10 think ex-
ceedngly inconclusve. Eighteen for the
bride is The least TO be objected to, and
would yet be rather early in this climate
A girl Of that age may be moi absolutely
unprepared for marriage but she has hard
Iy had time for that sincere end yearning
ahec,ion which is TO be her bes, security
after. Blu, whether or moi the gir. is To be
considered manageable al eighteen, know
u" good reason, moral or physical, why the
man should withhold himself ill seven-snd-
thirty, and many excellent reasons agalns,
il. Some few years Of seniority on the part
of the man do conceive to be desirable
and on this well as on other grounds,
the woman should marry young Tor if the
woman were to be past her frs, youth and
the man 10 be some years older, il follows
that The man would remain longer unmar-
T'ed than it is good for him to be alone.
The woman should marry, therefore, ra-
ther before than after that eliminating pe-
rod OF personal charm, which VARYING in
different individuals, is but short period in
any, and occurs in early youth in almost
all. She should marry between tw enty and
thirty years Of age, but nearer The former
VIA" 'o 'o'e' P0''"o. NOW Tue man al
such an age would probably lack those grav-
er traits o: character which are no, ONLY be-
coming but necessary in The married life
and the more SO when marrying a wife e.
qusIly young. For, when two very young
people arc Joined together in ms,rimony, j,
is as if one sweet pea should be pu. as
prop to another. The man, therefore, NAV
be considered most marrisg cable when he is
nearer thirty than twenty, or perhaps when
he is li'le beyond thirty. If his marriage
be deferred much longer there is some dan
ger of his becoming hardened in celibacy.
10 the case of serious and thoughtful man,
it need not be deferred SO long; for, in such
a case a remark made in a latter IF ToJ