The Planters' banner. [volume] (Franklin, Attakapas Co., Lou.) 1849-1872, 1853-06-02

duu WIlHhleu woman
But, aunt, virtues are nothing
earthly"
Perhaps"
"How can gentleness and mildness
ever become hateful?n
So soon as they degenerate into in
sipid listleness and insolence."
And manly courageq 2"
Becomes imperious rudeness."
Aud modest diffidence 2"
Turns 10 fawning humility"
And noble pride 2"
To vulgar haughtiness."
And readiness TO obIige? O.
Becomes habit of too ready friend.
ship and servility."
Dear. aunt, you almost make me
angry My future husband can never
degenerate thus. He has one virtue
which will preserve him as he is, for
ever. A deep sense, an iudestruc,ible
feeling ior everything that is good and
noble, dwells in me also, hope. as well
as in him. This is the innate pledge
and security for our happiness
"Bnt If il should grow old with YOU !:
if it should change to hateful eXclta-
bility; and excltability is the very
worst enemy 10 matrimony You both
possess sensibiity. That do rot de-
ny; but beware lest this grace should
degenerate into an irritable and quar-
telsome moral"
Well, dearest: if might never be-
come DID,:
Vert thou always as fresh and
beautiful as to-day, still thy husbands
eye would. by custom of years, be-
come Indifferent 10 these advantages.
Custom is the greatest enchantress in
the world, and in the house one of the
most benevolent fairies. she renders
that which is the most beautiful. as
well as the ugliest, familiar. The wife
is young and becomes old f; il is Gus
tom which hinders the husband from
perceiving the change. On the con.
trary, did she remain young, while he
grew old. il might bring consequences.
and render the man in years Jealous
1t is better as kind Providence has or
dered it. Imagine that thou hast
grown 10 be an old woman. and thy
husband We're ahlooming youth, how
would thou then feel.''
Louise rubbed her chin, and said, II
cannot tell"
Her aunt continued, "Bnt | will call
thy attention to secret which,
:. Thus is IT," interrupted Louise,
hastily, i" that is it which | long so
much TO hear"
Her aunt said, Listen 10 me atten-
lively What now tell I have proved.
1t consists Of two paris. The first part
Of the means 10 render marriage hap
py, of itself prevents every possibility
Of dissension, and would even at last
make the spider and the fly the best of
friends with each other. The second is
he best and snrest method of preserv-
ng feminine attractions"
"Ahm exclaimed Louise.
"The former half of the means, |
hen: in the first solitary hours after
he ceremony; take thy bridegroom
md demand a solemn VOW OF him, and
give him VOW in return. Promise
me another sacredly, never, not even
n jest. 10 wrangle with each other
never TO handy words or indulge in the
east ill-humor merely 10 tease--it be-
zones earnest BY practice. Mark that!
Sext promise each other sincerely and
never to have secret from
ach other under whatever pretext,
With whatever excuse it might be-
'ou must continually, and every mo-
nent see clearly into each others bo-
ON. Even when one of you have
ommitted a fanlt, wait not an instant.
ut confess it freely, let it cost tears,
mt confess it. And as you keep no.
hing secret from each other, SO, on
ne contrary, preserve the privacies of
onr house, marriage state, and heart,
-om father, mother, sister, brother,
unit and the world. You two with
lod's help. build your own quiet world
very third or fourthsone of whom you
raw into it with yon will form party
nd stand between you two. That
nould never be. Promise this to each
Iher. Renew the VOW al each tempta-
on. You will find yonr account in it.
our souls will grow, as it were, To-
ether, aud al last will become as one.
b, if many young pair had, on their
edding day, known this secret, how
ANY marriages were happier than,
las. they are n' +
Louise kissed her aunt's hand with
rdor. !" feel that il must be So
there this confidence is absent, the
arried, even after wedlock, are stran-
srs who do not know each other. II
lonld be so !; without this there can be ,
, happiness. And now, aunt, the best /
Of female heauty?"
. See, dear heart" continued the
Int, there are virtues which arise |
i Of mere experience. These grow
4 with time, and alter because by .