The Ohio union. [volume] (Ashland, Ohio) 1849-1854, 1853-06-01
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Speak Kindly,

4 aud wives, parents and children, brothers
0 and sisters-a constant watchfulness ought
to be maintained over our words and &C.
S lions, in order to avoid iuaicting unncces,
sary pain. How frequently does it occur,
that a word unkindly spoken, or an act un-
kindly done to those we once loved, but
who have since been removed from US by
the hand OF death, viii haunt our memory
long aflerward like an evenging demon,
causing US poignant and vain regrets l.
Years after the circumstance has pasaed
cut Of our minds end the mind ofthe friend
we may have grioved or wrouged, If some
sudden calamity beials him, or soine un.
expected calls him away from
earth, and removes him from the scope Of
our ability 10 make redress, will the ava.
kened memory of the rnaind act or Word
cloud the melancholy reflections Of or va
king hours, end even haun, cIs trcnms.
But the most bitter and poignant reflections
arise, when we have parted in uraindness
from SON one connected with no by the
tenderest ties; aud then no opportunity
occurs 10 eject a reconciliation, the per.
sou We have injured is removed lro@ us
suddenly by death. Then the pc.
riod of vain regrets Snd uns,Gillng self
reproach. What vould we give for a mo
ment of time To ask and Ohtain one yurd
Of forgiveness frrm the loved one we hrys
wronged! but, alas! TOO late! loo late!
TheeSperlencs al an acquaintance, rrll.
ted b hm>elf not long ago. illusl aIes
most iorcibly the above position. He had
been In ing, he SAID, away from hone eev-
eral months, and was on u visit Of 4 UreS
or two, at his fathers house. The father
was a rlan of The most Incorporating
integrity, and cherished strong, though
honest Prrjudlces againsl a!l lght or tran
slent amuSemcnls. lie had never allowed
his children, Shlle under his control, To
attend dancing parties or shows, Or to min.
gle IN the sports which most men regard
AS un0hjecuunsble. or al lrasl rot 4Ilngeth-
er TO be condemned. The consequence
Was, that The children. as is usual uadrr
similar circumstances, we're fond af indul.
ging Ia the interdlcled plsssurrs, sad acre
APT, when opportunity did Occur, IL carry
'hem too far. They felt tina, thsir father
was prompted by u siCcere conviciian of,
and a desire 10 discharge the du'ies Of
parent who feels the weight of hi. respon.
sIbi!ily to God; bot they felt aiso that l.,
was unnecessarily stringent IN he inlerpTe.
tain Of what he considered rghl or Urhny.
As : consequence, they did net h~tsitsle,
when circumstance favored it, to avsde
their fathers mandates upon the subject,
aud even, vhen they dared TO sci them al
defiance.
81 shall never forget" said the narrator,
"nOr cease to regret tie incidsns of NV
last visit home during Eiy fathers lie.-
There Eas TO be = ball at the neis hboriug
tavern, by no means . reputable rlacr.
and i, wac 10 come OF The evening before
was TO return 10 my employment in 3 dis
ianl Town. Feeling ny sell em~sncipsted
from parental control, (Er l had just reach.
ed my majority and pfiding IA, s,lf upon
The idea Ihat | vac nnW Master Of INV own
actions, | signifed my intention to hr pres.
tnt. My Ia her, az usual, forbade NV at.
tendance. answered hun IN anger, sta
ung that his al horiiy over mt. VA. hence.
forth ended; that he had treated ~. ike :
boy until now; but since | la | reached The
age al which The lac permitted me 10
think and act for myself, | Vas dctrrnnnrd
10 assert my rights. even went 81 far.
and was so unjust to my IA her, as 10 mi.
male thst 4 desire existed on his paT to
l!ranIse over us. Iron a love oi patterned
authority. lie VAS man of strong aud
naturally irritable feelings, hut IN. motives
w.r always MIhe pure,t Gmd; and nv
cunscience smOte mt as ! uttered the sen. I
Ilment which my PRIDE would moi ppfmi,
lnr IN recall"
IAN angry blush passed over his conn'c. {
nance al such an unusual reception Of his I
commands, but he checked himself instan. |
lNsrusly and answered ruh unusual {
mIIdness; "CharIes, | may have erred in ,
many points touching the government NJ /
NY children. but | have endeavored To do {
m! duty as parent and asa man. The {
time may come when you will be sorry for |
what You have uttered lu-da, ~ I
"And that time did come more speedily 4
than even he anticipated. They were i
pheuc words, and even at this lale tay, !
they haunt me in my dreams. c
81 went 10 The ball, but did not enioy I
myself; was j%ovial, and luIl OF Vle,; my 4
thought ne in unusual good spls kv
It's but ii wss all Ieigned and hollow heaftsSf
ed as a sepuIchrr. "Ohafles the time nav |
when you will be sorry for wha, you /
have uttered to day!' rung in my ears. 6
"l' was near morning when the party
up and | returned home, ,ded in c
spirit, exhausted IN ply steal energy, and
down with excitement. went IN
bed, and fell into a troubled sleep. which ,
until near noon. When [ arose a 4
d zzIness d. pain IN the head mcapacitalpd q
me lrnm uen al exer,lun; still IhiJ re. 4
solved ere ! left home IN the atleruO IN. To i
NY ianli to my father. | met him y
at the dIhnsf table, but no illusion was e
by eillier Of US 10 the incident of the pre. c
vl0us day; and when We arose from the i
liable It was near The hour at which IL WAS 4
necessary for me to take the coach. Iiol. c
lowed my father into our little parlor, Y
whittier he had gone. as il deylrous of AT. a
lord'ng me an opportunity to speak with G
him alone; but was ashamed to confess q
was wrang. and merely said that a
must bid him god bye, as The coach was 8
q
Have you nothing more 10 say, Char.
he inquired. .
mo" answered, and we parted. s