The Ottawa free trader. [volume] (Ottawa, Ill.) 1843-1916, 1853-08-20
Advice TO Girls,

The following shor: discourse, by Nell,
Graves. is so replete with common sense tba
We publish it:
Girls. you want to get married. don't you
All, what natural thing it is for younY Iad.,
10 have hankering for the sterDer sex! IL /,
"A weakness that woman has. and for this rea
son she is called the weaker soxi Well, if YOU
wan, to get married, dnn't for conscience SAX,
act like fools about IL. Don't 90 into connp'ion
hts every time yon see II hat and pnir Of whl,
ker,. Don't get the idea into your heads that
you must put yourself in the way of every younp
man in the neghborhood in order to attract no
tice, for II you do not run after tho men they
will run after you. Mark that.
husband hunter is the mos. detachable Of
all young ladies. She is full ofstarch and puck
ers she puts on 80 many f,lse airs, and she i.
50 nice that she appears ridiculous in the eyes
OF every decent person. She mar. generally be
found at meeting, coming in Of g ,se about the
last one, alwaysa at social parties. j. invariably
taklngs front seat at concerts y, ,oe tfies to be-
the belle Of the place, and thinks sls il. Poor
Gull You are fixing yourself for an ed maid
Just so sure as the Sabbath comes on Sunday.
Men vii! filrt with YOU and hatter you, simply
because they lcve to do il. but they bav. no
more idea OF making you a wife than they have
of committing suicide II We're a young man,
| would have no more to do with such fancy
women than would with a rattlssnake.
Now girls, let Nelly give yosa piece Of her
advice; and she knows from experience that NJ
You will GAR the reputation Of being worthy
girl., and stand fair chancc ofgetting respec
table husbands. !. is all well enough tba, you
learn to finger the piano, work embroidery.
study grammar, &c; but don't neglect gran'ma,
nor fan to let your dear mother teach YOU how
to make bread or get meal Of victuals good
enough for king. No part of = houseksepers
dutle, should be neglected fyou do not fnd
wealthy husband, you will need to know how to
do such work, and if you do, it will be no dis
advantage for you to know how to oversee a ser.
want girl. aud instuct her to do tLess things as
you would have them done.
In the next place. don't pretend to be what you
are not. AhtctatiOn is one Of the most dysuica
bIe of Accomplishments and will only cause
sensible people to laugh at you. No one but
fool viii be caught by atfrctaton-it it has trans
parent skin easy to be seen through. | dress
plain, but neatly. Remember that nothn. gives
a girl so modest, becoming and lovely appear
ance rs n neat and plain dress. All the Hurnme
ry aud tInsel work Of the dressmaker and MILL.
her are unnecessary lfyou are really hanG.om
they do not add to your beauty one par,icle-ii
you are homely they only make you look worse.
Gentlemen doat cuurt your lace and jewelry,
bu, your own dear selves
Flngerrings aud fpl1srnls may do 10 look al.
but they add nothing 10 the valus of wife, all
young men know that
you know how. talk naturally, and not be
SO dl-tre-slngIy polite as to spoil all you say.
II your hair Is straight don't put on the cur.
ling tong| to make people believe YOU have ne
gr" blood IN your veins. II your neck 10 black
wear lace collar, hut don't be so foolish as to
daub on pant thinking that people are so blind
ms not tos-e II; aud # your cheek IL not rosy.
don't apply pink saucers, for the deception will
he detected aud become the gossip of tho neigh.
bmhooi
Finally. girls, listen to the counsel Of your
mo'hcr-, and ask their advice IN everything
Think less Of fashions than yru do Of kitchen
dn'ies--less nf ruinInccs than you do of the Re.
alltlss Of lIle--and instead Of trying to catch
beauz, strive 20 make yourselves worth being
caught BY them.