The Jackson standard. [volume] (Jackson C.H., Ohio) 1847-1888, 1853-04-14
Rules for Persons about to Marry.


drawn up by a gentleman for the guild
dnce Of his son and the lady whom his
son was about 10 marry:
/. When people are making love, eve.
rything is so fair and SO bright that they
are disposed to think each other some
thing more than human, and scarcely
liable TO the fralties Of human nature
Perhaps il would be we'll If people would
divest themselves of this nation because.
by SO doing. il might prevent disappoint
ment after marriage, when contact must
necessarily make them acquainted with
many irailtes, which the most perfect hu
man being cannot be without.
2. Want of money is generally looked
upon as one Of the principal sources oi
unhappiness in the married state but
Coldrdge the poet, said-''if you show
me one couple who are unhappy from
want Of money, | will show y ou ten who
are unhappy from other causes" He al.
luded TO incompatbility OF temper, or
what is more to the point, neglect OF
managing temper and temperament in a
proper manner; for il is certain that il
people take the trouble, they can make
themselves agreeable 10 each other, so as
to live in harmony even un,ier any cir.
cumstances.
3, 1t has been wisely said that those lit
tie courlesies and attentions which peo.
pie pay TO each other before marriage in
order to gain affection, ought TO be con-
tinued after marriage in order to retain
it. If it is worth gaining il is worth re-
tanning.
4. Husbands and wives sometimes ex.
press great desire 10 be able TO rule
their partners. Ii connot be questioned
that those persons rule with the most alb.
soute sway who are most beloved. 1t is
not true that those officers in the army
and navy who are the most liked by their
men are the most readily obeyed q! The
same principle holds good in domestic
life.
5. Money is a useful and valuable
thing, and ought not TO be thoughllessly
spent. DR.. Johnson said that the end and
aim Of every mans ambition ere 10 erect
himself comfortable home. There can.
not be a prosperous home where there is
an extravagant wife. On the other hand,
an extraVagant husband has power to
bring ruin and deSolation upon his wife
and family, without their having the legal
ability to restrain him. A wise economy
is great virtue.
6. A good wife makes q good husband;
and so, also, a good husband makes a
good wife.
7. Beware Of the first quarrel. An an.
gIy word spoken in heat may do incalcu.
liable mischief. 1t may endanger that a..
feclion which was established by dint #
many acts Of attention before marriage,
and which is worth more than gold to
man and wife.
8. 1t is not in the nature Of things that
two people should live constantly together
and not offend each other sometimes
not Intentionally, perhaps, but inadvert.
emily. Every unintentional offence ought
to be easily forgiven; for where no wrong
was intended, no great wrong has been
inflicted. 1t would be well, however. il
persons studied no! to give offence, even
unintcntionally.
8. Never refuse the offer OF reconclia.
ton.
TO- Always forgive when forgiveness is
asked for. e.
II. Surely some persons are In error
who fall into state ofiislless Indifference
after marriage, and fancy that there is no
necessity Tor iulther trouble about love
and affection, and all that sort of thing.
Ii is said in No. 3 that the affection which
was gained before marriage by acts OF
politenesS and many little attentions is
worth retaining after marriage by con
tinuance ofthos5 attentions. 1t is certain
that love heightens every joy; and with.
out love no Joy can possess its true sweet.
ness. II this be so. it need no argument
to prove how necessary 10 happiness it is
to cultivate love.
12. The mistress is at the head Of the
domestic department. The servants take
their cue from her. If she superintends
her household with industry and care,
they follow her in performing their duties
well but il she failsin the virtue Of actiy'
i,y, confusion soon enters her house.
IS. Take everything we'll that is well
meant. Owing TO the weakness OF human
nature, few people are able 10 perform
great and good deeds. But a good in.
tention shows good heart.
IA. How few there are who can bring
themselves to acknowledge an error, even
when their own conscience tells them
they have committed one. But every
right thinking person must kno" tha, il is
nothing more than an act Of common jus.
tce to repair an injury where an injury
has been inflicted, and such as we should
all Of US expect from our neighbor. Peo
pie sometimes imagine that when they
confess 10 another that they have done
them wrong, they are giving that other
an advantage over them. This, howev-
er, is a great mistake. BY SO doing they
not only do allow the other TO gain an ad'
vantage over them. but they gain an i'm.
portan, advantage over their own Stubborn
ness. Any one may be proud Of such ID
victory.
Is. "Bear and iorbear" is an old say.
ing. II merely means that we should
bear with the faults and frailties Of our
partner. and forbear TO give way TO our
own. These few words contain much
good advice.
l6. How sweet is the time Of courtshiP
when love noes prosperously! Ii mutu'