New Orleans daily crescent. [volume] ([New Orleans, La.]) 1851-1866, 1853-06-15
EATR1MoNY-M0DERN ExTRAvAeANcE

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EATRIMONY-M0DERN EXTRAvAeANcE
A correspondent who has 'long been in
search Of wife," complains sadly of the ex- |
travagance Of modern times and says that he
has '' more than once been on the point Of offer
ing his heart and hand, but has been deferred
| by the prospect of an exchange for worse, and
not for the better" This is old story, and
one that we have commented on again and
again. The complaint, noreyer, is well found
ed, and the extravaganza which characterizes
the modern modes Of living in reputable society
has doubtless been the means Of making, not
only many old bachelors but many old maids.
| The fever is up just row, and every one seems
anxious to outstrip his neighbor. The prudent
and the tmid look on, not only with caution, but
with apprehension They are unwilling t. take
the plunge, to submit themselves to the respons-
ibility. They become acquainted with tho young
and the fair, are charmed with their society, and
would readily take them for better or for
worse" but they know the actual position of
their pecuniary affairs, they are aware of the
uncertainties of trade, and they listen with
surprise to the extravagant views that are ex-
pressed in relation to matrimonial establish-
ments, according to the claims and pretenslons |
OF "a large portion of the gentler sex Of the
present day.
Nothing will suit them but an abundant for
tune on the part Of those who aspire to become
their protectors for life And in this doctrine.
too often, they trained. as il were, by their
parents They are taught to dress extrava-
gantly, to speak extrayagantly, and to boast
,, extrayagantly. In brief the object seems TO
be, to elevate themselves, not only in pecu-
MARY, but social point of view, above ordinary
c mortals and to speak of the rest of mankind
sneeringly and as inferior beings In most cases
these pretenders having nothing in particular
to boast of, are empty, inflated and arrogant,
and merely assume to themselves positions to
q which they are not entitled. The effect, how
$ ever, is pernicious, not only upon their own for
IS tunes and feelings, but upon those of their
o friends and admirers. They seem anxious to
d marry au establishment, rather than as mat
ter Of heart, feeling and reciprocity. And
while they are fitted to tiutter and bask in the
/ smiles Of prosperity they are utterly disqual-
l. fed for the frowns of advcrsity. They may do
we'll enough as eompdn MONS in the hour of sun
ID shine, but not so m the day OF trial and Of
IN storm We can conceive Of no more important
ma matter than proper manner Of beginning life
l. or starting out in the world. The moment that
he individual enters into the condition Of matri
r. mony, and thus becomes responsible for the
in maintenance of at least one other, he shoulC
at govern himself accordingly, and with reference
un not only to the present moment, but to futur
ci | probabilities and contingencies. In order to d
in this, however, and to live economically an
of within his means, he must be assisted by hi
NO into the household, and with it discord and un
ne happiness The parties should consider ali th
ID facts and chances beforehand They should de
a. termine to live for themselves rather than fo
he the outdoor world, with view to their contin
he ued and permanent happiness, rather than t.
h : the qualification ard indulgence Of silly and
ok false pride.
re Matrimony should not be considered as mer,
ch condition of bargain and sale, Higher and ho
or ier principles and purposes should be ASSOCIATED
la with it. 1t is sometimes necessary that sacri
,at fees should be made but these, when the sub
&C. ject is rightly understood, are more than com
les pensated for by reciprocity of feeling, mutua
the confidence and sympathy, and the interchang
ed. of affec ion But the bride should not cxpec
ior all the sacrifices to be on one side. She may b
called upon to yield something also-somethin
in dress, in gay society, in many attentions an
u- in frequent intercourse with the outdoor worlt
Ise- She may have been brought up indulgently an
extravagantly. and her cont mpatcd husban'
llc- however devoted and generous, may not posse
on the means to keep up this system to the san
ork extent. She should see and realize this fac
en- and make up her mind and her conduct accord
tire ingly Then the two will commence life, under
G of standing and relying upon each other, and col
ght stantly anxious to promote their mutual fol
i of tunes and happiness Let another and opposi
the course be pursued, and the consequences cann'
-ere but be disastrous, Let the young wife, forge
to tul of the true position of her husband, was
|
S in pear more anxious to attract attention IN Il
the fashionable promenades than to form the pr
eti- s;diug spirit of the domestic circle, and Il
# so dream of fidelity, truth confidence, and comm
Ders bial bliss, will soon vanish, never to retur
mp Our correspondent, however, who is evident
$ of sincere, must not bc too faint hearted. I
nts giddiest belle sometimes makes the most deyot
all wife Women often talk wildly and extrav
Iva gantly, without meaning much They eth
tes. intend to frighten the timd, on to test tn
the courage and sincerity. The first great study
L be to touch the heart; that once accomplish
pre- and all the rest will be comparatively easy.
We q \ woman, who truly loves her husband, W
nses seldom triilc with his prosperity, disrega
ury, his counses. But alas for the deluded yiet
|. the who marries model of extravaganza, a span
ID so ling coquette, or giddy fashionable. and W
rail neither secures her respect nor affections.
mple binds himself for life to the careless the nu
fol- terent, the proud and unteclirg, and thus nal
may MS home, not a constant resource and perpet
viii retreat, but spot to be shunDe1 AM avoid
,cifc Alisgvings, misunderstanding, rceriminato
cur will take place daily and hourly and the m
The limonial cup, which was looked to as the sou
olent Of unmingled bliss will be realized as full
,rous bitterness and disappointment And YET, ~
that not good to be alone" Women, too, in the gr
with majority of cases. are yielding and tractal
IS in and the vast multitude may he won by att
ton, kindness, confidence and truth. Phi
delphia Inquirer.
, was =-
ford, SYMPToMs.-Whcn You meet n friend, ao
wn- dinner time, near his own house, and he sta
The gossipping with you the door step, with
the any demonstrations to enter, you may. take
as q symptom that your company TO dinner
the not particularly desirable
per- When you drop in for a hGg' hours chat q
ition friends house. in the evening" and after
united have been there three mortal hours, your fri
,mbi- yawns and looks at his watch, and his
to be packs up her needle work and says, in poii
head soiloauy, Well, believe it is about tim
n this give over for tonight, you may take 1t as
every infallible symptom that you are bore, and
man sooner you depart the better.
ne In When in delherative assembly you S,
riding member rise, and preface his remarks by
.lition emphatic declaration that he intends 10 oc
clown the attention of his hearers but one single
lrties. ment or that he has s only one word tt
such a relative to the subject under debate, you
regard it as an unerring symptom of an un
ally long and perhaps tedious and P
eco harangue, covering the whole subject under
e who cussion, and many things beside.
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