New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1853-02-04

sc New he may be sny,hin. bat tbs. He nav be u,
terry mo- npeent 70 support the woman he HIS taken 20
hiuseE-he may be Idle snd lr,proviicnt Now here
violation OF the contrast lie promised 10 support his
wife She married him Si,h TIA, expectation ne dos
not srd cannot redeem his plelse What then ShAll
the law strip IN. and relieve nis woman rom violated
coairset. end LEI her To another who viii gaay sup
pOri her, Certainly nOt-,he whole instincts recoil
from IT, YET the case = very hsui Tor the woman who
it msy be- nnds heavy burden upon her shoulders
All but true marriage = not based upon such consi-
ders;cns and il you make the contract you must sbie
Is Issues II YOU would marry for support, conossng
thas that your womsnhood Is OF Inferior order, you
must rot complain Of disappointment bargain may
he poor one. but Il Is bargain. snd should be without
remedy.
Again she married for the sake Of position and the
husbsud j. addicted % low vices he u drunksrd,
debsuchee bis wife gains ANYTHING but an enV.sole
position through marTsge. she might nave mSde Q
betieronc Tor herself Weat then Shal the law come
IN. snd help this ambitious woman 70 The position she
coyet Ky no means. She took HIM Tor DETER, Tor
worse and although proves 20 Be only for worse,
by which means has broken the contract As she made
H. they should sbde the consequences OF q contract
made nom low motive,
so in all other aspects OF the res,ioa II the sent
ments Of marriage Is deeper than nieiy 20 the Mar
rage bed and this has bc,n vO.ati do not see that
the State has anything O. DO with the matter The
contracting parties take each other with the baxarl
human inhrnties and do not see that the State has
suyth,us 20 do with their obGues least OF all should
il take the Office OF surveillance ant 90 peering into bye
places IN search Of proof and then open the revolving
details 20 corrupt and shock community The parties
should be compelled 10 keep their Degrading secrets 10
Themselves and bear them a. best they may part
IL the cCntiu encies 81 the contract What has the
public 10 do with what IL purely matter between the
parties would admit o. Divorce least OF all for un-
fshiHnCss: because IN the case o husband and wife,
each hes he other 50 in his her keeping that IL
seems 20 me that the State has les right 20 ine-mcdde
here than in csses Of which il now takes no account
What right have parties assuming obligations on every
variety Il motve- ambitious commercial interested,
and yyna II %
grounds that lad hte to do with the contracts The
Jaw provides Tor the acknowledgment of the relation t
desires il should be pure the contract nvolate but
cannot vouch tor the parties.
would saw guard the conditions of contract. De
msnd equality in the contracting parties, but forbid ID
yOrcc in too would have erased from the statute
book People marry q, their pcnl az best let them
abide the consequences. We have right 10 insist
upon form for the good of society and then inerpose
s and butts 20 annu that form Marriage good or bad
II il Is Divine in is nature Il cannot be set aside by hu'
man laws ft be a civil institution, we should beware
how We undermine human faith by sanctionng breach
uf contract Ii you provide tor the escape OF few in
dydua from tie bond you prepare the way tor the es-
care OF mary II YOU say that the contract may Do
abridged IN time 10 one you admit il may be TO ALL
The ouly plausible prCteN tor divorce might be found
in the those who marry for the sake OF children
aud disappointed in this expectation but even this
falls so entirely under the selfish aspect OF our nature
that IL /. no true foundation for there Ia no lack OF
children 10 gladly inherit wealth and be admitted into
the geislites OF home.
cause contend that that Is all which be reached
By Legislation The spiritual marriage Is what tho
laws 10 inquire into and cannot therefore provide
for spiritual contracts nor divorces.
In some of our Churches Marriage IL regarded rs n
sscramen admitting OF no Divorce, except rs dspen
saton from the Pope, or act OF Parliament VI
vorcc is consequently luxury for the rich, while the
peor must pocket their injuries rs best they may In
the Episcopal Church in country, the bride Is gireN
away by parents and GUARDIAN and the husband takes
her he would bale of goods fully authentcntsd and
puts bis seal upon her In the shape Ola ng showing ny
these presents that she Is mis- property aud no doubt
he hopes 70 preserve her from damage.
The dissenting Churches accept OF the marriage cere
ny either with without religious aoJuncts. The
wife, still subordinate, promises to love honor and
obey which she may may not be able TO do tor her
husband may not be qualified 10 challenge these senl
ment in her and he, on his part, may be worthy oil all
honor love and duty aud yer she prove anything but the
plant sweet dependent creature 10 whom ne pghted
vows Women and men both may be so entirely uncon
iuga and distaste to each other that chastity may
be respected virtue between them; aud yet
IL if affair OF Il g state.
Az far ms nv own experience goes. do not find that
Women advocate divorce IL Is true II Is subject upon
which they may feel kceny; but 'as the best results OF
thought action Is denied us we are not apt 10 90 deeply
into the Investigation Woman very properly sees
that disorder and hazard follow disruption OF the lam
y ties There may be discomfort, sorrow, brutalfy;
but she feels IL better endure to train her children 10
all the virtues ia and forbearance rather
than by breaking loose from the household altar set
them tree TO their more selfish instincts.
IL is not Women, but Men, our lawmakers, who 60
about like grown bsbies whining crying over domestic
discomfort and devising laws set them free from 9th
laws OF their making. II seems % me there
deal Of chdishness ia all this II 10 true social rea-
tons underie all others The relation OF marriage In
s highest aspect is intimately asssciated with tho
sacred, .weet and ennobng characteriscs OF
nature that when disappointed there we are apt
10 teel ii the universe blank the multitunous
sea OF human tenderness dried up, and the shadow Of
our own ni,ery casting perpetual eclipse upon the
Jlessedness OF Gods beautiful light but tho Man the
Woman who Is great enough TO feel this Is great enough
10 redeem himself from the pressure and he she
v no does feel il, needs relief from the law.
The world very large; human capacities much
greater than in our Incidence and pettness are apt
% imagine the harmones OF our being infinite, would
We but listen 10 these harnODes rather than the dis
,ords II seems to that grown Men and Women
Who have taken upon themselves might find bet
for life than 10 be going about TO devise ways and
means to nd themselves therefrom Men especially,
who srogate themselves exclusively aterin belonging
% both Men aud Women LORDS Of Creation should
lOt yield the question admit that while wealth,
mbition, iame all the resources Of life and manhood
re open before them, they are stl conquered by one
" oman made miserable by one Woman dishonored,
liSgraced by one WOmsn-this MOrtecsi az the Kings
,nte that makes all slse nOthog admit the facti
'drnit Women have the power go TO make Men ieei
md such being the act Men should be ready 10 Admit
)ur equality and place Us where we cannot dodgere
ponsililities and Women should this power only
or hi h and holy purposes which she will do when she
fully acknowledged IN tho social scale; but for any
but sn evidence Of imbecity Ii the miserable hus
,snd who hDds his home dcordsnt possessed the high
manly attributes he assumes. he could infse peace and
harmony there Ii he could have wrought out an hon
,rsble destiny without the Woman he calls wife, he
,Ould do 80 In spite OF said Woman He should blush,
made conscious OF the fact that he II under the do
nin0n OF his selfish and personal nature and not go
niO Courts Of Law which ought not 10 presume ~
neddle with Mans domestic relations aud trumpet his
,wn imbecility, dishonor discomfort The people
houd rehse 10 sustain this kind Of law expense and
Jur newspapers should report the details only thy
would advertise disreputabe book or nostrum under
he hazard OF penalties.
Men are in The habit Of sayDg, "a woman's world
n the affections" This may be the case with portion
II az but not with ALL who embrace held cesStensye
1hh mems Il seems 10 me that marriage Is not de-
ened 20 be the passonsl relation only even 10 those
who claim most for the affections. One reason why
men are no more true noble and beautiful In their
jeet abroad, is because they have no nagnanIn0us
IDEAS In regard 10 home They carry the meanness, or
rrogance ar dishonesty, which finds rebuke there
broed Tu'o nersops NAV degrade each other andey