Indiana American. [volume] (Brookville, Ind.) 1833-1861, 1853-10-07
THE UNYIGLDINa WIFE;
or tie Ksfsects OF ui-Temper.

III Ola 4&14l4t&AG W ~ II
or the E,fsccts OF Ili-Temper.
nj FAkAER's WYE.
before proceeding IN the subject matter OF
this paper, ALLOW nie, my young ir'eais' 70
exhert you 10 pause long and strive earnest
~ n self control, before taking step which
involves your all OF earthly happiness a.
well ~ thai Of the individual whom, before
Heaven, You promise TO honor, love aud
cherish, during your sojourn IN state WHERE
mutual concess. oss are constantly demanded.
NV female frieuds, though the chosen CON-
utnlou Of your life NAV not be all you had.
In The arior Of your affection. painted hin,
hs n ~i,ll the man whom you are bound TO
Live honor and ob~v," and TO your keeping,
la great degree, IS committed his r-puta
tlan. his usefulness Ia life, his social taste
and hr~sids euIOynients. Mutual improve
s,.-nt IL undoubtedly one Of the ends Of the
institution Of maria &c; bat any attempt nj
e,nectIon OF reproof should be mingled with
Kindness Of manner: IL the contrary course
is adopted. the desired effect is worse than
lost, aud frequently the seeds OF good already
sown In the heart are, by harshnrss aud
severity. stilird IN the germ. anu the aobls
feelings, which had begun 10 expand, are
blasted by the heat Of an ungovernable tenn
perl
Years AGO, when In the freshness aud busy
ancv of eirlhood, was about 10 become the
bride of him wins had ever striven la make
me hsppv received letter from my moth.
sr.s eldest sister, earnestly urging iae 10
soeud few days with her as she wished
particularly to ses Accordingly | went,
and was csrdialiy received by Aunt Clara
and The iamily OF her son, with whom she
resided One day. daring my visit. Aunt
Clara told me she had hea I'd Of my intended
marriage, and feeling deep interest In my
welfare. she had determined 10 give me u
history of her own married life, believing
that il might convey useful lesson. Whrth
rr she thought she discovered the same traits
Ia my character that caused the shipwrecA Of
her happiness. cannot say, but let that
pass. She said, on account Of the sad MEM
.ries aud unhappy feelings il would Decsssa-
rily awaken, sh- had resinced the narrative
10 writing. which ! might Prruse at pleas
ure.
AT an early day avsiied myself Of her
kIndncss-her manuscript Is here copied
Ring the eldest OF six children my.parvnls
had always been accustomed 10 rely me
for much assistance, which had | been the
only child they would scarcely have consid-
ered me able To render My mothers time
was almost wholly occupied with household
affairs, so that al sixteen years Of age the
care Of two little sisters aud three brothers
d.volyed on me. Nature had endowed me
with an indomitabie will, and a passionate
love o. power which required stronger curb
than the occasional reproois which my ebul
Iltions of temper called forth. a mong my
brothers and sisters my word WINS law, anu
when Issued command, land that was the
form In which my power was exercised sx-
acted the strictest obedience. | do not think
the children could have loved ne very much,
for my passionate inhuctions must have
enrcndered that fear which casts out love.
Al length n change came over me; pas
sion took p, session Of my heart. which for a
time overpowered all baser passions-need |
saw that passion was lovsl My whole hear,
wss devoted o an object worthy Of a better
disciplined one than cculd bring him. As
" 10 prove the assertion true, that every per-
son loves his opposite. the object Of my at.
hchment WA mild, with disposition full OF
Kindness and charity, always choosing TO suf.
fer wrong rather than 10 contend with an
antagonist
Intendingto relieve my parents from pro-
sldlnQ soma Of the necessary articles for
house keeping. engaged TO take charge OF a
district school which was managed by a
board of trustees, who we're authorized g.
smplay and ply the teacher; being more or
less controlled by them. Their occasional
Interference was, 10 a Temperatures, like mine
exees lingly irritating
one day When returned from school In a
very angfy mood, asserting that would
neither submit tothc dictates Of tho trustees or
any one vlse, when my eldest sister aald.
with an arch snllel
"What will you do when YOU are mar.
riedf You will then he We TO love honor and
obey
NV temper was mol In tho least soilened by
the question, aud ! replied very emphatically
that, when married, II would be my hus.
bands duty 10 make me happy, and II he
DID not conform 10 my Wishes | should en-.
Geavor 10 make hln Foolish, wayward gir
thai | was, To resolve, Ia my own mind, thai
would bblde BY IN absurd determination
How iiuir did | reflect how much influence
pride aud obrtinucy wonld exert ia causing
Inc 10 adhere 10 his expression Of perverted
will
Jauira aud were al length married. II
sernled to me had never been 10 happy be-
fore: weeks passed ~ days. Surrounded by
.un atmosphere OF love aud kindness, my
faults we're not called out. aud James la his
mistaken ioudacss though, ina oil that his
warm heart aud noble nature could desire.
Soon after aarriag- We commenced house
hepplpg IN q neat, pretty house. Just suited u
our wants, was cnablsI nearly 10 furnish
II with The avslla Of my years teaching. anc
thr klnd assistance Of mothers aud slstera.-
Nealns-a aud order wurr largely developed
IN my hshit., aud Tor some ume nothing oc
eurfsd To mar the hipplnTs- Of our daily lite
.unr evening had 10 walt longer thaH u'ua
iof Janea TO cone 10 tea, aud suffered onl
suppressed feeling OF impatieac- To hctraS
iisell IN the PceviHh tone In which uxelsim
ed, rs soon Us he entered the dining room
''the tea Ia all cold, Why DID you not com.
before1" 81 could not. my dear. as ihsr,
was no one 10 stay In the store" was th,
mild reply which should have put the subIec
90 rest. as knew that James business mus,
necessarily occupy his whole time, he being
head clerk Ia the establishment with which
he h connect. ID expecting Ia the course Of
two or three years. 10 be taken into partner
ship, therefore Il wa nsce.W v for him 10 b,
active aud attentive. All this | knew, but
like 20 many wives. took it'll. interest Ia
business atlalru, aud would not counilsr tha
he had any claims paramount 10 my couve
ulsnce.
Small matters like Those should have bee
borne patiently, bat Ia tho absrnce OF nm,
greater trouble. suffered thousand lfIllInl
things To annoy and lrrtate me TO that degre,
That threatened TO "tarn over new loaf,
which was but another way Of saying, anIes
| eau havs thing. my own way, | shall Civ,
my husband a irsson. lie bore my oft relt
Grated complaints about, what appears to m,
now 10 have heen tFiies Ugh, rs all. wlthou
resentment. offering good reasons, texcusr
/ called them,) for not complying with m,
wishrs.
One day, after had approached him will
thinking more OF his busln-ss than Of his wifi
be ross to 90 out aud a. he did 90 he tufne
10 me with look that should have sent re-
pcntance to my heart, aud fixing on me thos
liquid grey eyes, expressive more OF sOrros
than OF anger, Clara" siid he, iii You fin
Hso Troublesome waiting for ne, do not wal
any more, bat take your meals aud clea
away the things without regard TO me-
When he hai gone, the temper that shoul
have been easi b-hind me prompted me-
take him NJ his word. Accordingly, whe
the tlme came, | prepared the evening m.s