The Evansville daily journal. [volume] (Evansville, Ia. [i.e. Ind.]) 1848-1862, 1853-03-14
MODERN CALAMITY.

Calamity" in which he has given some hints,
which we wish could be impressed on the
heart of every women. The book was re-
printed in America some years since, but we
think was never much read. So the gem we
Fave selected will be probably, new-at any
rate, it is pure, and of inestimable value.
"Joseph Paine, of Bread-Street Hill, mer.
chant, one of the Directors of the South Sea
Company, was the only pattern of consistent
gallantry have met with. Though bred a
Presbyterian, and brought up merchant, he
was the finest gentleman of his time. He
had not one system of attention to females in
the drawing-room, and another in the shop
! do not mean that he made no distinction
But he never lost sight of sex, or overlooked
it in the casualties of Instantaneous sit
uation. have seen him stand bear-headed
smile, if you please-to poor servant
girl, while she has been inquirng of him the
way to some street-in such posture Of un-
forced civility, as neither to embarrass her in
the acceptance, or himself in the offer of it,
He was no dangler, in the common accepta-
ton Of the word, after woman; but he rever-
enced and upheld, in every form in which it
came before him, iOomanhood. have seen
him nay, smile not-tenderly escorting
market-woman, whom he had encountered in
a shower, exalting his umbrella over her poor
basket of fruit, that it might receive no dam
age, with as much carefulness as if she had
been a Countess. To the revered form of
Female Ed he would yield the wall, (though
it were to an ancient beggar-woman,) with
more ceremony than most men afford to pay
their grandmothers. He was the Preux
Chevalier of Age-the SIR Cal'dore, or Sir
Tristan, to those who have no Calidores or
Tristans to defend them.
"He was never married, but in his youth
he paid his addresses to the beautiful Susan
Winstanley, who, dying in the early days of
their courtshp, confirmed in him the resolu-
ton of perpetual bachelorship. 1t was dur
ing their short courtship, he told me, he had
been one day treating his mistress with a
profusion of civil speeches-the common gal
lantries, TO which kind of thing she had hith-
erto manifested no repugnance, but N this
instance with mo OBJECT. He could not OBJ
tain from her single smile in return. She
rather seemed to resent his COMPLIMENTS
He could not set it down to caprice, for the
lady had always shown herself above that
littleness. When he ventured on the follow
ing day, finding her little better humored,
to expostulate with her on her GOODNESS of
yesterday, she confessed, with her usual
frankness, that she had no sort of dislike to
his attentions: that q young woman placed
in her situation had right to expect civil
] things, even highhown compliments said to
her; that she hoped she could bear this flatter-
ry with as little injury to her humility as
most young women; but that little before
he had commenced his compliments, she had
overheard him, by accident, rating, in rather
rough language, young woman who had not
brought home his cravats quite at the appoin-
tel time; and she thought to herself-.As
am Miss Susan WinstanIey, and young la
dy, reputed beauty, and known to be for
tune, can have my choice of the finest
speeches from the mouth Of this very fine gen.
tleman, who is counting me; but ii had been
poor Mary, Che millinery and had failed
by bring g home the cravats to the appoin-
ted hour, though perhaps had sat up half the
uight to finish them, what sort of compli-
ments should have received then! And my
woman's pride came to my assistance; and
thought, thatifit were only to do me honor,
a female, like myself, might have received
handsomer usage; and was determined not
to accept any fine speeches, to the comprom-
Use of that sex, the belonging to which was,
after all, my strongest claim and title to
them.'
"Ithiak the lady discovered both generos-
ity and just way of thinking, in this rebuke
she gave her lover; and have sometimes inn
agned that the uncommon strain of courte-
sy, which, through life, regulated the be-
havior OF my friend towards all womanhO0d,
Unfortunately, owed its happy origin to
this seasonable lesson from the lips of his
lamented mistress.
| 81 wish the whole female world would en-
terrain the same notions of these things that
Miss Winstanley showed. Then we should
see something of the spirit of consistent gall
lantry, and no longer witness the anomaly
OF the same mana pattern of true polite
ness to sister-the idolator of his female
mistress-the disparager ard despiser Of his
no less female aunt. or unfortunate-still fe-
matchmaker cousin. Just SO much respect
as a woman derogates from her own sex, in
what ever condition placed, she deserves to
have diminished from herself on that score
and probably will feel the dimunition, when
youth and beauty, and advantages not insep-
arabic from sex, shall loose their attrac-
! ton.
i "What a woman should demand of man
in courtship, or after it, is, first respect for
her as she is a poman; and, next to that, to
be respected by him above all other woman.
But let her stand upon her female character as
upon foundation; and let the attentions in
cident to individual preference be so many
pretty additions and ornaments, as many and
as familiar you please, to that main struc-
ture. Let her first lesson be, with sweet Su-
san Winstanlcy, to reverence her ser."
i WHO IS Mr.. DoBBix!-The ". Y. Err
press, in commenting on Gen. Pisrce's Cabi-
net, says of one of them:
Then there is Mr. Dobbin, a nice little
dapper laughing man, from North Carolina.
We hear that he was "ire-eater" there
that is to say, Secessionist-but that is a.
bout all we know Of him. The tune OF
"Gee up and gee no, Dobbin," everybody