Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1852-09-15

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exccntric or unreasonable, without mani.
testing violence, either of manner or of
language, and :.ssurcdy without impnnsng
the motives or assailing the integrity Of
those with whom we happen to differ. We
know of nothing more commendable or
desirable than camess, frankness, and
courtesy. These qualities, constantly ex-
crciscd, are admirably calculated to soften
the asperilies OF life, and to impart charm
to the occurrences of every day intercourse.
The "gentle seq" too, should be espe-
cially careful in the cultivation Of temper.
Women yields up one of the loveliest at.
tributes Of her nature, when she torgets
the quiet, winning way that so endears, and
endcavors to maintain her influence and
sway through the agency Of harshness and
violence. An evil temper. propensity to
quarrel n disposition to be dissatisfied. Il
spirit of contradiction, are bad enough III
man, but in woman they are terrible. They
destroy many Of the softer and sweetcr il.
Iusions which we delight to associate with
the female character. they dissipate one Of
the most potent of the magic spells which
naturally belong to her gentle sphere. They
turn into bitterness and gall the currents OF
feeling and Of sentiment, that before were
all harmony, devotion and affection. How
many household is made scene Of per.
pctual strife, by the curse of any evil tenn.
per, possessed and exercised by Que of the
leading spirits of the family! All such
seem determined to be perverse, and never
contented, when others are calm, tranquil
and happy. Thus thSir very presence has
the effect Of a shadow. 1t chilIs and dark
ems all within its influence. Silence and
apprehension take the places of cheerful
ness and vivacity. Silence, because it is
dangerous to speak; and apprehension, be-
cause storm may always be expected
when the evil temper is in the ascendant
The greater the effort at conciliation the
worse the success. Affection is repelled a;
impertinence, aud frankness as impudence
Even look or smile is denounced ant
rebuked, and thus even the children uncon
scous y oxult, or at least feel relieved o
their restraint, when the exciteable, the
petulant, and the perverse are among tho
ahsentees. The example of such temper
is most pernicious. 1t impairs the natural
ingenuousness of the young. renders then
suspicious, distrustful and hypocritical, ane
gives them false views of life. They can
not understand the many contradictions ant
inconsistencies which are constantly pre-
scnted to them. They are thus taught t'
doubt and distrust, especially, as is often tht
case, when the gentler partner, for the sake
of harmony, is apt to resort to concealment
The truth is withheld, fearful that its utter
ance will create dfficulty-provoke storn
and thus falsehood is indirectly inculcaied
The harsh of temper and the hard o
manner are rarely companionable. The.
make poor friends, unpleasant associates
aud unenviable husbands or wives. Th
destiny that is united with theirs, is subject
ed to constant anxiety, annoyance and pain
One Of two choices is essential-eithe
passive obedience, and thus forfeiture o
every thing like independence and self-re
spect; or frank opposition, and thus an ope'
and perpetual war. We believe that man
men have been driven to ruin by the irascbl
spirit of their wives, while many wives, OF
the other hand, have been subjected to live
of misery, of slavery-by the iron despot
ism of their evil.temperod husbands. A
this moment-how many families-rlcl