Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1852-06-10
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MAxIMs To.MARRY BY.

MAx1Ms TO MARRY BY.
The following maxims to marry by, ad
dressed to single gentlemen, are copied from
very old number Of Biackwood, printed so
long ago that old Exit North" must have
been something of beau at the time he
wrote them: II
"Now, in making marriage, as in making
love-and indeed in; making most other
things-the beginningGft is the difficulty.
But the French proverb about beginnings
C=t lie premier PASCAL coue"-goes more
literally to the arrangement of marriage; as
our English well illustrates the condition Of
love, "The first stepjover, the rest easy"
Because, in the marrying affair, it is particu-
larly the first step that costs -as to your
cost you will find, it the step happens to go
the wrong way. Andmost4men, when they
go about the business u weilock, owing to
! some strange delusion,sbegin. the affair at
the wrong end. IheyIake a fancy to the
white arms-sometimes only to the kid
goves-or to the neat5ancles of peculiar
school girl; and conclude from the premises,
that she is just the very. woman to scold a
houseful of servants;sand to bring up a
dozen children T'his@iss a@eonvenient de-
duction, but not always a 'safesone.
"White arms and lleat' ANGLES, bring me,
naturally, at once to alavery important con-
sideration of beauty. Eor don'tsupposc be.
cause caution you against alEday-disabili.
tcs, that want to fxssYou with, a worthy
creature whom it willpake you extremely
i'll every time you Iolk At Ier.E-For the
style of attraction, phase yourselves, my
friends. | should handsome figure
if you don't get both antages-is better
than a merely pretty :sss Good eyes are
point never to be overlooked. Fine teeth
full, proportioned !fmbs7zdon't cast these
away for the saLcsof .sip;aleetouch Of the
Rsnlalla a9cy {; asonlet6ins ;,: q,
dimPles rather deeper on one side than the
other.
"It may, at some time, be matter Of
consideration, whether you shall marry a
maid or widow. AS to the taste, | myself
will give no opinion-I like both; and there
are advantages peculiar to either. If you
marry widow, | think it should be one
whom you have known in the lifetime of her
husband; because, then ad actu nd posse
form some notion of what your own will be.
If her husband is dead before you knew her,
you had better be off at once; because she
knows (the jadcn what you will like, though
she never means to do it; and depend upon
it, if you have only one inch Of pcncha'u,
and trust yourselfto look Mt her three times,
you are tickled to a certainty.
Marrying girls is nice matter always
for they are as cautious as crows plundering
corn-feld. You may stalk for a week,
and never get near unperceived. You hear
the caterwaulng as you so up stairs, into
the drawing room, louder than thunder; but
it stops-as if by magic! the moment Il
(narriageablc) man puts his ear to the key
hole.-l don't myself, profess upon princi.
pie, see any objection to marrying widow.
If she upbraids you at any time with the
virtues Of her former husband, you only
reply that you wish he had her with him,
with all your soul. If woman, however,
has had more than three husbands, she poi
sons them-avoid her.
"In wdow.wiving, it may be, question
whether you should marry the widow of an
honest Man or a rascal. Against the danger
that the last may have learned ill tricks,
they set the advantage-she will be more
sensible from the contrast) to the kindness
of gentleman and a man of honor.
think you should marry the honest man.
widow; because, with women, habit is al
ways stronger than reason.
But the greatest point, perhaps, to be
aimed at in marrying, is to know, before
marriage, what it is you have to deal with
You are sure to know this, fast enough, af.
terwards BE sure, therefore, that you
commence the necessary porqusiions be.
fore you have made up your mind, and not
as people generally do, AFTER Remember
that there is no use in watching a woman
that you love; because she can't do anything
do what she will-that will be disagreea.
bic to you. And still less in examining S
woman that loves you; because, for the
time, she will be certain not to do anything
that ought to be dsagreeable to you.
have known hundred perfect tigrosses az
playful as kittens-quitc more obliging thar
) need bc-under such circumstances 1t j!
not bad way-maid widow-when yor
find you are fancying woman, to make he
believe that you have an aversion to her. !
she has any concealed good qualities, they
are pretty sure TO come out on such an oc
casion.
"Don't marry any woman under twent,
she is not come to her wickedness befor
that time. Nor any woman who has ret
nose at any age; because people make OBJ
r scrvations as you so along the street.
, , 'casts of the cye-as the lady casts it upol
you-may pass muster free under some cir
cumstances- and have even known tbos
, who thought it desirable; but absolut
squirting is monopoly of vision whc
ought not to be tolerated" ed."-BLAcKwooD.
. Our west there has been on a certain sid
lill large hole, which is not an uncommon
p thing in that section of the country. TIL
4 bank is said to have recently caved off, an
Q left the hole sticking out about ten feet