Wheeling daily intelligencer. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1852-1859, 1852-12-20
hg . q NUMBER 90
: Sci 1E1 .RIEF
MATcH-1GAKIlTa.
BT mrs. n. s. NICHOLS.


than invetefate spirit 81 mate ling thatper-
vhdes every atom of society," The Importance of
securing Husband and avoiding the stigma 4 1T
Etached to old naidiSn is inetileatgd on lie mind
;Fofthe young woman as hef ftsi and most d.
gent duty. She her parents, friends and acauafn
Itances Joinfih admitting The good SENSE and good
fortune of such Of her companions as marry early
Eof make wealthy matches, while me ror3antic
lcfsature who has the good hafdihood to tefass
H'good ofers held up as an ob of reprobation,
and her conduct Il tcoidemngd Ss the height Of
folly. No M matter what the mental, moral q pef-
Sonaf qualities OF the aspiiant may he i Able
and likelyto be 'igo6d proyidef5', ii woman i
bound to accept him and c6nsidet herself fyefy for-
ltuhate. Ionee heard IT seropsly said, in discus
sing themerits Of famored match, that ..sWindler
might make d avery good husband, decidedly better
than NO husband al air - = = .'l
It is painfn1Iy 1aaierous, to observe the Ta1ions
manifestations ofthis spirit-to SEQ with what un-
wearied politeness fathers and 1nothefs play tie
agreeable to unfemarkable young men whose chief
merit consists in their being, bachelors-to see
young widows eagerly inviting their female friends
70 come often and visit them socially and bring
their beaux; and, above ALI to see the total indf-
ference with which most young ladies treat those
who are not marrying men. Theyseem to consider
II perfect waste Of time to talk to an old bachelor
or married man, and prefer listening TO the most
Yapid nonsense from the lips of one whom their in-
agination can convert into lover, 70 Joining IN
rational cany ersation which can have oefectupou
their hymeniaI prospects. Some persons from a
sense of propietY endeayor to conceal their match
making plans under the veil of hospitality; bntoth
eH come out boldly. For instance, an old lady
with a daughter-f fun house, not long since asked
friend of mine, Mr. A., introduce some bachelors
to her family, informing him that he; eldest dangh
ters were manageable, and that each at wedding
would be made mistress of small house and a cou-
pie Of negroes.
Mr.. A. accordingly introduced Mr, B. who on
his first visit spent the evening, and was very
much pleased with the young ladies. Being no Ro-
meo, buta cool moderate man, he,let several days
elapsewithout repeating hisI visit, whereupon the
old lady, getting uneasy, wentto the office ofMr.
a. to enquire why his friend had not called again.
and ifhe was displeaseda What is to be expected
of women educated in such SCHOOL, They, are
almost certain to cultivate only those accomplish
ments which arc convertible only into matrimonial
capital. They play thepiano forte, sing dance,
and talk small talk, while mere domestic acquire
mants are generally neglected. sme.os
m Some parents, however, belong 10 the new school,
whose motto isthat the way %to a1man's hearts
through stomachi' have their daughter initiated
into the nysteries of the kitchen, in which case
young men are frequently to dinner, and al
ways sinformeho of course, Dthat certain dishes were
prepared-or, if at all arstocratc, superintendent
-by 'smy or our daughter" This over.anxietyto
secure HUSBAND and ESPECIALLY rich ones, besides
Its injurious effects female character, is the
cause of nine tenths oflthe unhappy marriages We
see-now hurrying its possessors
from dread of never gttting other chances, and
again inducing them TO refuse those whom they
reallyprefer, andswho are perfectly unexceptioDa-
BILE from false ambition. The remedy for all
this lies in culiyating their, minds aud heartsiin
Iiteaching them that wedlook is not always bles-
sing! that iflenteredupon from unworthy motives
it likely to become curse, and thatat is far bet-
kterto remain sipglelthaRto marry for the puFpose
Iof betteriUg ones condition. ~ Ail; aff aafs
EHuiazs ss--..-s-r--=ssr-=-- SAD II
kyiGT Toneofonr exchanges gisesth following hoy
Ito be miserable; es,hnaa5 a.ii 'Elaras 10
b. Sit 1.-THE window end look over the ,WAyatyoqt
neighbor's excellent mansion which he has recently
built aud paid for and sigh out, ttohIthatI were
,uGet angry withyour neighbOr and think you have
tnot friend in the worlds Shednitear 6ttWoItake
ID walk,iu acknowledgement continually saying Il
yourself "when shall Lbe buried he1e9H 5eis A1OA
so5Sign noteiwith asfriend ndneTer5 forget you
kindness, and every hour in the day whisper ta
Iyoutself, Iwonderif will -pay;t that notel's-
Think, every body meansto cheat you. olosell
scrutinize every bill you take and doubt its being
Egenuine, tilllyou have putthe ownerto greatdeai
luftEouble!s Believe every dime passed you bbq
la sixpence crossed, and express your doubts abou
bgettng lid ofitifyou do take it. .5i .zeIa: 7l4
m Brood over your miSfortunes your lack of talent
land believe that atno distant dayYou will lcometl
kwant the poor house ceveribe insy your mind
with all dhs horrors poverty and distrez. 4eosl
L lTBen you will liemiseEable-= we may 80 speai
I,-+to your hearts eontent-sick at atheart and atye
rance with all the world.I ss. 50 tels h3.s .esa
lnra1 nj = - - -.- 5es. U
bglSFuDs AND Bus1Nrss. In learning. concentrate
Ethe ensigylof the mind principally on the s'udyi
kthe attention divided amcDE SeYeral sLudiess /
Weakened by the division; beside II Is not gfVsf
Ito man to excel id many things. ButRhile Eons
study claims your main attention, make OCCASION
Ea excursions into the fields Of literature and sci.
Eehcs, ana eolfseenateT FoE the improvement 81
Eyont fa3eFite pursuit! hda alsf5a 80 s's - 3.se
syrbe ufiOip Of. of.coutemplati3e habits constructs
ftbe useful and perfect character; contem-
relief to action; action gives relief o
Ecohtemplah6n.ls 70 man unaOouStomsd toBpeca-
hlati6n IS confined to harrow!roaiihe of heticnta
man spe6aiati6n constructs visiouary tie
Eofies which have no practical utility. i ss,s1l'
4sRicsllence ina faId success in,iba-
tsiness.ats 4orte5o obtained only peseveEing In
Eadstfy3 None Shc4hints himself above hisESoed-
ttionia sdseeed IN IL, f6t We cannot give ouEat-
tentoa to what our self Importance despises.
None eanrbe stnitieiit ii profession who deaotes
bhis mental eueEgsfo q pursuit to ~
IsaceG 9lovsI failure ID what Ne'ne
Ielect saf saIepthasIf Illseasias. iql z.s9eI