New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1852-12-18
The Marriage Observation-Disclosures TO Mr.
NEw-YoRK. Friday. Nov. &c, 1882.

assault upon him. maze by tie Editor OF The Yer
IOTk ObstTr0. On the Marriage Question. Perhaps It
would be discourteous TO say that in relation 20 the
issue OF the conflict between these parties, am quite
Indifferent. Ny own opinions dIaer considerably from
those svowed by either OF the nts Ny curiosity
If TiqUed however, by the positions assumed by Mr.
Jdmcs 70 see how he VIII maintain himself aud md
my ELF given over 10 a sort Of hope don't ntrude
propensity TO Ark questions. Without veaturng on
poleics may perhaps be allowed as third party the
SOcratc privilege OF prOpounding difficulties AM EEK
ing or further information 1t was ssying Of Daniel
Webster that III a thingi to be done, wise man
should be able TO tell hon it is to be done Hence
cannot but hope that Mr. James may be able 10 remove
some Of the darkness which closures my perceptions
the tenlbilny Of hi petitions. confess that, com
pairing my rcvollec;ions of his earlier wrtngs in The
HdrJinRcr and The Tribune upon the 5jsct with
the somewhat rampant aud eroc0us morality o. recent
article in 1Ac Tribune in revi W Of the book Of Dr.
Lazarus, called Lore VI Marriage, which attributed
to bis zen. said to myself Ny friend Mr. James, Is
certainly coming up on both sides Of the same ques
ton" But now stand corrected. This still more re-
cent manifesto defines him with respect to hs position
If tie position Itself proves susceptible ofdeintion. II.
j. cordial aud enlightened rc-pecer Of marrage-
a champion ind. ed. Of the institution Of mlrrage-5ut
a. the same time he il in favor Of entire freedom o. d.
yorce provided only the parties guarantee the state
aeliust the charge Of their ohprng lie Is surprised
that an intolcenrnan should other security for
the faithful union of husband and wife than that wI,l
defes from the uOlicc Office" Bv freely IL thinning
Divorce within he limits Of complete guarantee to -o
cicy against the support Of offspring. you DO acc1r!la,
20 him. "VlaCe the uiuromcnt 10 mutual hlely no
longer in the base legal bong ace Of the parties merely
lut IN their ecproca inward sweetness or humanity.
a. 1. 81. 90. ia
lie s saying good word for rrage AS has ever been
fad beneath tie starr lie Indignantly rcpuiilte a
Utilization Of doctrines with tie laXer KIND OF m1rali
ty or the Inac enlargement o. marital privileges
by certain religious aecfaihns whom he scOruuly pro-
uounces destitute Of sense for better cnu'e
90 fey be enables u 90 discover han that their views
difcr fmnhi-, and whom be informs u be- moved by
the divine eau lccturci for their dsJrt -ly lyes.
As Mr. Yro.csse- himself ready AMI aqt 30 ia rl-; me
public, and dcsrCus wnal 90 t0rwar! " me GOO time
GO miulr by reforming tie abuses OF t4e institution o.
Marriage latter myself that be cannot OBJECT % r.
levne a few doubts and honest hcultiss which per
pick NY understanding OF bis doctrine upon te subject
Thee doubts and difficulties are stated the following
list Of queries
What locs Mr. j. understand 70 be the essential AMI
defSr,irrr clement of Marriage. the kernel sins
ana non Of lie Marriage institution a1er the complete
removal OF tie characteristic feature OF legal bon
dalc or outward force 10y uerepeal hhll laws san r..
toning and enforcing il, and after the feature oil
nccessary pcTpc,uiy is removed by the entire
freedom to end tie relation by Tie VIII OF ne
parties at any instant, Noah Webster informs us That
10 mann j. "a Join aDd woman for ye and con-t.
fe th IN man and vie according 10 the lars AMI cts1nS
Of q nation" Now. any CONSTANT from custom Il a.
much an oHtrard J0roe a. IA con-raint 10y iaH' AM
in cnle both these species Of constfGint are re.
moved that l., II the man End woman n9e J.inei
with 10 reference 10 either, bit simply with res nj
20 thoir mutual or individual choice AM wi7Ae',
the union occurring not Toy DE huttO De- dissolved ~
tie OPTION OF the pnrie -hoh lnns OIL lAe r'.llu N
Le eliminated, reminding one OF the oit-qu't'i expur
cation a tie tragedy OF Hrmlct /, seems g. me- tn'n
that I'm cutie N order - call Tor new spccA'a'on Of
the essentials If matgmony. But an i1r, i-As tl't
Mr. J. It'll provides fer he ghost OF legal ne ID the
how'd IN be Given ~ guarantee 90 Society Against ne
urroit Of offspring. This brings me to ny sec2nI
query
2 WHY. the maintenance Of the unsvervlng con
sffpey Of husband aui vie can be- s.iely lh.tsi 70
the eardilnfhp Of "t1eir reciprocal inward s"es'h,s
on humanity" with no bas' leHl bondage suprfrid
c4-vyiv may not the AMI malicn1nce Oh % -pfh-
he wiz equal safety. inIu-tt likewise o. ma. s-il'
oi-,,rrl .,s.sitces or humanity" without the III.
f.gr NON of q base legal bondage, or " ou-Ntri
f.!,e' J. tie first ol thcso social re.dons my van
,tffv not only, but with positye adTants'' DC us
rhfrred of accountability 20 the polte once WY lJI
the .,c.rdi WHY, indeed. De- 40 the trouble ahi ex.
nero Of maintaining police Office az all Inie-l' II
,nlerst nd Mr. r.t;y after imposing tlls Ailfai.9 On
urou the absolute freedom % divorce, or noiAef fl
mon the extinction Of lc-pl marrage-er sra1 noies
- pcrhara let the whole truth IN tnot be- hnSto DC
tuoGtn 81 Culy-hc again dispetcs WIKI INC i''A1-on
IL Il. and deliver The parental relation over 70 t-.9 @'
gfGllIlts 20 MAltA re i4hf lltfsNti'4s W.
i-,i ? tud IL subsequent paragraph oi the -aIn'
g,fle the following sentence II l. obvious % every
lope-t mind that II our conusa, PGreqat an
soc,rl nes generally cen be s-Ieiy dl-'Hfs
-. ne tfr,iy diGb0iic element ~ OHrlr1
cr, fIey must iustsuty become trensiIrei ~ n Pr
own inward divine and irresli.lle lo' rhle- II .e
il Tot Marriage only, but the IA mt nance ~ 'u''hS
.so ", ID, l. 10 be Iutr-c~ % tie " inward s"ettbes
~ l,,ru,rifv a tie individuals 20 whom the relation
srrts's which secus 10 NE nu h IA more cois-t ehi
Wv Of g matter, nasmuca as, II tHe PRINCIPE = goa
foi auyl.Ig in one case a. = certain. ci- a.! lpp-.
ile ir tie oner BI- here, again, We come 9. - inc
rcirt hnvc made alCye-tle query whether N-It4l-i
oischar I'd of al llW, custom or necessary p'rp-tlty
Ieunint Marriage a. all and 30, WHIST tie ei-enil'i
ana Clarsc-tr.-tic elem ~ oi sncn AlrrA-ei OP'H
which point crave further it'o Tir'Icn-
q II lie inception aid the dlssolutlol Oh A-.F.a-e .
tote Ter 10 She up-on % tie plr.e, Oh suh z =
are s'.tcd ay Mr. j. = he eNI as.on or l-! ',-- -
tferfiri sle, 10 be abandoned % Tie I-o-e l-T p.
yate and ir0 .,idunl Judgment u TIE sam. 49,. -
LOGICAL difference 20 the same principle 4-l j. 20
II rrorc than two parties are iaAen INTO u
pmtuor5hp TIT degree o. Aecnse 20 y. =, -
tkcviscf o. are wc st 20 retain ponce once % ~
$40 sverr -urh ca-es We are aware tlA, in 70 .i''
differed in theory and practice IN divers Nss. ~.
tous-btiWlen Ionosauy andf oiyg ny, y. 2, x -,
and n arcstra-ut.. both u custom aid u "a" -
- ,csil is NJ y may d@er in like manner a. IN " M,
tier /. 10 haruen under the rev r's t1lef ~ i.
the standard Of pruprieiiesi l. Mr.. jane. delu'-l
Of ~t.ordery lie % Be ~ delnitloh % ls ~, :,
H. Il not Nj James definition, waose theA -
/, he lf-ii % 10 rAieA ran simply IN rrfHt y ~
,.cn =, eiaeG Of rigt, 70 pe erTei'e q A. -,
laholi tls Interference y >ociah or-Na'li -. -
uirg-of otlsr ineirid as; This Lst Z ''-I' -
reis about the most we!ghy gu1s.iSh Vo-- - =
Ing human society ever Lsked, ana ~ -
T man who Ike Mr. james, atiefni = - - -
:; -, i,,irr nj so.al dfculrss should De pr ii1-
70 sr.wer BY some broader geae-aza,3n .l .I ~
which relste. t. single one Of tie socAl y. IN
souae principle more susceptible o. delA O 49, s-e
ersl reference 10 hunaniary seni3a - - 4, or
sorle ects which the individual i authorize - -
tito Go. ~ he own option, aIi N Isl-i I'm NJ
cher nliviual. have right 70 interfere y :. -
,or I'm zftbcr he shsN 20 persolAly . ne pos
stFce cr send boy There are CERTAIN % 80,
directly authorizing interference, res-'b 80 -, IN
strsiut On the part OF others ia - that %
h. .peb an act What now Is The eesI Al " J,,s
- NIL social science, &. understood :! ~ ~.
- q. mining hetween these lNo - -. -.