Camden journal. [volume] (Camden, South-Carolina) 1852-1852, 1852-05-28
MaximS to Marry by.


to single gentlemen, are copied from very old
number of Blaekwood, printed so long ago that
old Kit North must have been something Of a
beau at the time he wrote them:
"Now, in making marriage as in making love
and indeed in making most other things-the
beginning it is that is the difficulty. But the
French proverb about beginnings-"C'st lie pre-
mer pas oui coute'-goes more literally to the
arrangent of marriage; as our English well illus
trates the condition Of love--rrhe first step over
the rest easy Because in the marrying affair,
it is particularly the first step that costs'-as
to your cost you will find, if the step happens to
90 the wrong way. And most men, when they
90 about the business of ofwedlock, owing to some
strange deluson, begin the affair at the wrong
end. They take fancy to the white arms
sometimes only to the kid gloves )-or to the
neat ancles of peculiar school girl; and conclude
from the premises, that she is just the very wo-
man of the world to scold houSeful of servants,
and to bring up dozen children! This is con-
venlent deduction, but not always safe one.
"White arms and neat ancles, bring, me, nat
uray, at once to the very important considera-
ton of beauty. For don't suppose because 1
caution you against all day-disabi1ites, that l
want to fix you with worthy creature whom it
will make YOU extremely i'll every time you look
at For the style of attraction, please yourselves,
nv friends. l should say handsome figure
if you don't get both advantages better than
a merely pretty face. Good eyes are point
never to be overlooked. Fine teeth-full, well
proportioned limbs don't cast these away for the
sake of single touch Of the smallpox; mouth
something too wide; or dimples rather deeper
on one side than the other.
at NAV, at some time be a matter of consid-
Grafton, whether YOU shall marry a maid or
widow. As to the taste, myself will give no
opinion--I like both; and there are advantages
peculiar to either. If you marry widow, think
it should be one whom You have known in the
lifetime of her husband; because, then nd ac'u ad
posse-from some notion of what you own will
be. Ifher husband is dead before you knew her,
you had better be off at once; because she knows
(the iade9 what you will like, though she never
means to do it; and depend upon it, ifyou have
only one inch of penchant, and trust yourself to
look at her three times, you are tickled to Ger
tn1ntv
Marrying girls is nice matter always; fer they
are as cautious as crows plundering a corn-tield.
You may stalk for week. and never get near
unpercicved You hear the caterwauling as You
90 up stairs, into the drawing louder than
thunder; but it stops-as if by magic. the mo-
ment a (marriageablc) man puts his car TO the
key-holc-I don't myself, profess upon pri ci-
pie, SEC any objection to marrying widow. If
She upbraids you at any time with the virtues
of her former husband, you only reply that You
wish he had her with him, with all your soul.
If woman, however, has had more than three
husbands, she poisons thcm avoid her.
"In underwriting, it may be, question
whether YOU should marry the widow Of an hon
est man or rascal. Against the danger that
the last may have learned i'll tricks they set the
advantage-she will be more sensible Qrom the
contrast) to the kindness of gentleman and
man of honor think you should marry the
honest mans widow; BECAUSE with women, hab-
it is always stronger than reason.
But the greatest point, perhaps, to be aimed
at in marrying, is to know, before marriage,
what it is you have to deal with. You are sure
to know this, fast enough, afterwards BE sure
therefore, that you commence the necessary per-
QUESTIONS before YOU have made up your mind
and not as people generally do, after. Remem-
Der that there is no use in watching Il woman
that you love; because she can't do anything
do what she will-that will be disagrceable to
you. And still less in examining woman that
loves you; because, for the time, she will be
quite sure not to do anvthin t ought to be
dsagreeable to you. >nown hundred
perfect tigresscs as pl as ttcns-quitc
more oblging than need ue-under such cir
cumstances 1t is not bad way-maid or
widow-whcn you find you are fancying wo-
man, to make her believe that you have an aver
sion to her. If she has any concealed good
qualities, they are pretty sure to come out on
such an occasion.
"Don't marry any woman under twenty-shc
is not come to her wicEedness before that time.
Nor any woman who has a red nose at any age;
because people make observations as you 60 along
the street a cast of the eye'-as the lady casts
it upon you-may pass muster under some cir
cunlstanccs and have even known those who
thought it desirable; but absolute squirting is a
monopoly of vision which ought not to be toler-
DR. BRowNLow PRIVATE SECRETARY OF Gov.
JoSEs.-We copy from the Knoxville Whig, of
April 18th the following choice moroccan. Won
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