Gallipolis journal. [volume] (Gallipolis, Ohio) 1837-1919, 1852-12-02
a chapter for ,he Young Husbands.

"A Chapter for Ghe Young Husbands.
Walking the other day with a
valued friend who had been confined
a week or two by sickness to his
room, he remarked that husband
might learn a good lesson by being
confined occasionally TO his house,
by having in his way an opportunity
OF Witnessing the cares and never
ending tolls of his wife. whose
burden and duties and patient en-
durance he might never have other
wise understood. There is a great
deal in this thought, perhaps enough
for an editorial. Men, especFy
Young men, are called by theiI t6si-
ness during the day mostly away
from home, returning only at the
hours for meals, and as they then
see nearly the same routine Of duty,
they begin to think that il is their
own lot 10 perform all the drudgery,
and to be exercised with all the
weight OF care and res ponsibiliiy.-
But such a. man has got very
wrong view Of the case; he needs
an opportunity for more extended
observation, and it is perhaps for
this very reason that kind Provi-
dence arrests him by sickness, that
he may learn in pain what he would
fail 10 observe in health. The fact is.
men often loose their interests in
their homes by their neglect TO make
their homes interesting and pleasant.
II should never be forgotten that the
wife has her rights-as sacred after
marriage as before-and a good hus-
bands devotion 10 the vile after
marriage will concede TO her quite
as much attention as his gallantry
did while lover. If il is otherwise,
be most generally is at fault.
Take few examples. Before
marriage a young man would feel
some delicacy about accepting an in
vitation to company where his fady
love- had not been invited. After
marriage is he always as particular
During the days Of courtship his
gaIIantry would demand that he
Should make himself agreeable to
her: alter marriage it not unfre-
uuently happens that married men,
after having been away from home
the live-longAday, during which the
vile has toiled at her duties, go al
evening again to some place OF
amusement and leave her TO toll on
alone, uncheered and unhappy
How often il happens that her kind
est Offices pass unobserved and un-
rewarded even BY a smile, and her
best efforts are condemned by the
fault finding husband. How often it
happens, even when the evening is
spent at home, that il is employed in
silent reading, or some other way
that does not recognise the wiie's
right to share in the enjoyment even
OF the fireside.
Look, ye husbands, moment and
remember what your wife was when
YOU took her, not from compulsion,
but from your own choice--a choice
based, probably, on what yon then
considered her superiority to all
Others. She was young, perhaps the
idol OF a happy home; she was gay
and blithe as the lark. and the broth>
ers,and sisters at her father freside
cherished her as an object of en-
dearment. Yet she left all 20 join
her destiny with yours; 10 make
vour home happy, and do all thai
womaasn,s love could prompt and
womap.s iaiegrity could devise, 10
mset your wishes, TO tighten the
burdens which might Pressup you
inyoat pilgrimage. She, Of course.
had her expectations too Shscould
not entertain feelings which promise
40 much, without forming some idea
Of reciprocation on your part, and
sbs did expect you would after mar.
riaes perform those kind Offices oI
vbich YOU, were so lavish in the days
n hs,rothment. She became your
wife: left her own home for yours