Wisconsin tribune. (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1847-1854, 1852-11-25
A Chapter for Young Husbands.

Walking the other day with a valued friend
who had been confined week or two by sick
ness 10 his room, he remarked that husband
might learn good lesson by being confined
occasionally to his house, by having in his
way an opportunity of Witnessing the cares
and never ending tolls of his wife, whose
burden and duties and patient endurance he
might never have otherwise understood -
There Is great deal in this thought perhaps
enough for an editorial" Men, especially
young men, are called by their business dur
ing the day mostly away from hume, return
ing only at the hours for meals. as they then
see nearly the same routine of duty, they be-
gin TO think that II Is their own lot to perform
drudgeTy, and to be exercised with all lhe
weight OF care and responsibility. But such
man has got q very wrong view of the case;
he needs an opportunity for more extended
observation, aud il is perhaps for this very
reason that kind Providence arrests him bv
sickness, that he may learn in pain what he
would fail to observe in health. The fact is,
men often loose their interest in their homes
by their neglect to make their homes interest
ing and pleasant. 1t should never be forgot
ten that the wife has her rights-as sacred
after marriage as beforehand good husbands
devotion to the wife after marriage will con-
cede to her quite as much attention as his gal
lantry did while lover, If il is otherwise,
he most generally is at fault.
Take a few examples Before marriage
young man would feel some deicacy about
accepting an invitation to company where his
"lady love" had not eninvited, After mar
rage is he always as particular During The
days of couTtship his ga,lantry would demand
that he should make agreeable 10 her
after marriage It not unfrequenuy happens
that married men, after having heen away
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the wife has toiled at her duties, 60 again al
evening to some place Of amusement and leave
her to toll on alone, uncheered and unhappy.
How often it happens that her kindest Offices
pass unobserved and unrewarded even bv
smile, and her best efforts are condemned by
the fault finding husband How often it hap p
pens. when evening IS spent at home, that il
is employed IN silent reading, or some other
way that does not recognize the wife's right
10 share in the enjoyments even Of the fire.
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/ Look ye husbands, a moment, remember
what your wife WAS when YOU took her, not
+ from compluslon, but from your own choice
4 "a choice based probably on what YOU then
considered her superiority TO all others. She
was young, perhaps the idol of happy home ;
she was gay and bliihe as the lark, and the
brothers and sisters at her fathers freside
cherished her as object Of endearmeut-
Yet she left all TO join her destiny with yours ;
I to make your home happy, and do all that
woman's love could pTomt, or woman's
! ingenuity devise, to meet your wishes. 10
/ Tighten the burdens which might press upon
/ you in your pilgrimage. She of course
7 had her expectations too. She could not en-
/ terrain feelings which promised so much
/ without forming some idea Of reciprocatiou on
your part, and she did expect you would after
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/ you were so lavish in the days Of belroihment
+ She became your wife, left her own home
+ for yours; burst ssunder, as it we're, the bands
/ of love which had bound her to her fathers
/ freside, and sought no other boon than your
affections left, It may be, the care and De-
/ icacy Of home Of indulgence, and now,
what must be her feelings, If she gTsdually
awakes to the consciousness that your even
/ ings are spent abroad, that you only come
home at all to satisfy the demand OF your
hunger, and TO find resting place for your
I head when weary, oS a nETse for your sick
chamber when diseased
Why did she leave the bright hearth Of her
youthful daysl Why did you ask her to
give up the enjoyments Of a happy home
Was il simply TO darn your stockings, mend
yoar clothes, take care of your children, and
watch over your sick bed ! Was it simply
TO conduce 10 your own comfort Or was
there some understanding thar she was to be
made happy in her connection with the man
she dared 10 love
Nor is it a sufficient answer that you re-
ply that you give her home, that you feed
and cIolhe her. You do this for your help
you would do II for indifferent house keep
or. She is your wife, and unless you attend
TO her wants, and IN some way answer the
reasonable expectations you raised By your