Fayetteville observer. [volume] (Fayetteville, Tenn.) 1850-1966, 1852-02-19
Ladies Correspondence,
desirs. Berry 8 IFaaace:

: lie who writes,
Or makes u feast more certainly invites
His judges Than his friends III
the inlportuna lie promptings Of ~
own spirit prompt me to advanced a
few hints, as to the primal cause lofI
uncouthne and lack Of refnemd ut
in the manners Of those '1ords lof
create N. !" AS l am one of Bo al
melanf chilly moralizers-accusto I'D
to seek out causes when | see an
effect, aid as it is conceded poll
that W on ben give tone to society, q
very lit e reflection will show US til at
those irre gulalities SO much deplorFd
in the of her sex, must argue SID
defcie ne y am Pig our own. Subj
being tho case, let US forbear critifi-
sing the gentle until we place the
stethesc@pe of truth to the condrlc let
Of orr s&x, and when We can detd let
no unsQu nqness there, and can repd rt
ourselves ''sans reproach,'' l am Will
ling to turn our whole forces III BATH
array against the deformities Of the
other side. Let US be candid. +
We find it a lamentable fact, Il at
though we have the power vested in
ourselves Of being what God Gesignbd
US .'i;lirest and best Of all His
works we have made cur sex vefy
little more than mere moving sig ns
to hang dry goods upon Tie nat
ural impulses and aspirations Of I he
mind are stiadd until wholly ami hi-
lated, and every energy Of Mi pd a I'D
action bent to the close. observance
Of Fashions code; while ignorance OF
everything else sits Ike a nightmare
dpon the intellect, closing up all ia
tionality, and forever burying many
a gem Of thought which would haF e
sparkled from the lips Of beauty. l
do n OF say that allwomen have Civ
EN- themselves up to @little things :
but few will deny that 1t is by f;lr
too generally the case; and the indu-
ence eNerted in society thereby is
melancholy indeed. Why is it that
our social circles are so often invaded
by ill-natured faull-linding and ridi.
cule? Why is there such tendency
ITO deepen scandals inns
With all The kind mcndaciiy Of hintsi''
and while
E ION Eagles wings immortal scandals fly
INiruous actions ARD bur born-and diei'
H Candid reflections Will tell us thai
as some excitement is necessary tc
the human mind and we have lefi
; it an uneultiyated waste, until oul
hearts have become tainted-and as
ignorance and vpIgarity go hand il
hand-we cannot understand orr re
ceiye pleasure from any thing, e2
cept something which bears an atlini
ty to our darkened understandings
We shut ourselves out from The
highest and purest enjoyment-in
tellectual res5urces-9hich purify
the heart, elevate the mind, sand re.
fine the feelings; and So to CRAFTY
! the natural yearning for excitement
We have to resort to petty and vul
gar things, which pure hearted Yo.
man Should scorn, as to o. low for the
dignity other nature. Then to ayeid
such a state Of NATTER let US read
for believe me, we viii fl hd more wis
dom, more goodness, pun Ter thoughts
in the records which the great and
wise have left as, than among our
selves. Then we will be more capa-
bic Of moulding the manners Of the
other sex, and becoming companions
for men of sense. Then, too, those
women who have departed from the
usual custom, and cultivated their
understandings, will not be 50 widely
misunderstood as is sometimes the
-stbjccting them often to Ill
natured comment, because we DO not
understand to appreciate them
They can then find agreeable COM
panions among their female acquain-
! tances without much difficulty. AS
l wish to renew this subject again;
and being matron Of some expert
eace, desire to give some hints bv