Wilmington journal. [volume] (Wilmington, N.C.) 1844-1895, 1852-03-26
NIaxims to Marry Nv.

Maxims to Marry BY.
! The following maxims to marry by, addressed to
single gentlemen, are copied from very old num-
Der of Blackwood, printed long ago that old Kit
North must have been something of a beau at the
time he wrote them
Now, in making marriage, as in making loye-and
indeed in making most other thngs-the beginning
1T is that is the difficulty. But the French proverb
about beginnings" C'est lie premier pas qui coute"
goes more literally to the arrangement Of mar
rage; as our English yell illustrates the condition
OF love-" The first step over, the rest easy Be-
cause in the marrying affair." it is particularly the
first step" that costs 'as to your cost you will
ind. II that step happens to go the wrong way
And most men, when they 60 about the business of
wedlock. owing to some strange delusion. begin
the affair at the wrong end They take fancy to
the white arm, sometimes only to the kid Gloves
or to the neat ANGLES of peculiar school girl and
conclude from these premises, that she is just the
very woman of the world to scod housefu of SER
wants, and to bring up dozen children This is
convenient deduction, but not always safe one.
White arms, and neat ANGLES, bring me. naturally,
at once to the very important consideration of beau
ty: For don't suppose because caution you against
all daydishabilles, that want to fix you with
worthy creature whom it will make you extremely
i'll every time you look at. For the style Of attrac-
ton. please yourselves, my friends. should say
handsome fgure-if you don't get both advantages
| is better than a merely pretty face. Good eyes
are point to be overlooked Fine teeth full,
we'll proportional lmhs-don't cast these away for
the sake of single touch of the small pox mouth
something too WIDE or dmples rather deeper one
side than the other.
! 1t may, at time, be matter of consideration
whether you shall marry maid widow AS to
the taste, myself will give no opinion like both
and there advantages peculiar to either If you
marry a widow, think it should be one whom you
have known in the lifetime of her husband because,
then ab acu ad posse-from the suferings of the de-
funct, you may form some notion of what your OWE
will be. If her husband is dead before you knew
her. you had better be off at once because she knows
(the jade y what you will like, though she never
means to do it and, depend upon it, if you have
y inch of penchant and trust yourself to look at
her three times. you tiekled to a certainty.
/ Marrying girls is nice matter always; for they
are as cautious as crows pundering a corn-feld.--
You may stalk" for week, and never get near
unperceved You hear the caterwauling as you go
up stairs into the drawing louder than thun-
der; but it stops-as if by magic the moment a
(marrag eable) man puts his ear to the key-hole-I
don't myself profess upon principle any objec-
ton to marrying widow. If she upbraids you at
any time with the virtues of her former husband.
you only reply that you wish he had her with him,
, with all your soul If woman, however, has had
more than three husbands: she poisons them; avoid
, her.
f In underwriting, it may be a question whether
you should marry the widow of an honest man or a
rascal. Against the danger that the last may have
learned i'll tricks, they set the advantage-she will
! be sensible (from the contrast) to the kind
ness Ol IL Seul1eludn anu q Hail o' HoioI tulnA
you should marry the honest mans widow because,
with women, habit is always stronger than reason.
But the greatest point, perhaps, to be aimed at in
marrying, is to know, before marriage, what it is
you have to deal with. You to know this
: fast enough afterwards. Be sure, therefore, thai
Y you commence the necessary prequistions before
you have made up your mind, and not people gen
e orally do after. Remember that there is If
: watching woman that you lore; because she cam
e do anything-do what she will-that will be diSa
Il greeable to you. And still less in examining a wo
: man that loves you because for the me: she viii
: be quite not to do anything that ought 90 b.
S disagreeabe to you ! have known a hundred per
j. feet tgresses playful kittens more obi
n ging than need be-under such circumstances.
e is not bad way-maid or wdow-when you fine
n you fancying woman, to make her believe tina
you have aversion to her. IF she has any con
r cealed good qualities they pretty to com
out su oh an occasion.
- Don't marry any woman under wenty-she is no
: come to her wickedness before that time. Nor an
- woman who has red nose at anyage because pee
pie make observations you go along the street.
b cast of the eye'-as the lady casts it upon yo
= may pass muster under some circumstances and
70 have even known those who thought it desirable
- but absolute squirting is monopoly of vision whic
:. :, ought not to be tolerated. -Blackacood