Des Moines courier. ([Ottumwa] Iowa) 1848-1854, 1852-09-23
CHATTER FOR YOUNG HUs-
RANDS.

BANDS.
Walking the other day with valued
friend who had been confined week or
two by sickness to his room, he remark
ed that husband might learn good les
son by being confined occasionally to his
house, by having in his way an opportu-
nifty of witnessing the cares and never-en-
ding tolls of his wife, whose burden and
duties and patient endurance he might
never have otherwise understood. There
is great deal in this thought, perhaps
enough for an editorial. Men, especi-
ally young men, are called by their bus
mess during the day mostly away from
home, returning only at the hours for
meals, and as they then see nearly the
same routine of duty, they begin TO think
that it is their own lot to perform all the
..drudgery, and to be exercised with all
the weight of care and responsibility,
but such man has got very wrong
view the case; he needs an opportun-
4ity for more extended observation, and it
lis perhaps for this very reason that a
kind Providence arrests him by sickness,
that he'may learn in pain what he would
fail 10 observe in health. The fact is,
men often loose their interest in their
homes by their neglect TO make their
homes interesting and pleasant. II sho'd
never be forgotten that the wife has her
righis--as sacred after marriage as before,
and good husbands devotion to the
wife after marriage will concede TO her
quite as much attention as his gallantry
did while lover. If it is otherwise, he
most generally is at fault.
Take few examples. Before marri-
age young man would feel some deli
cacy about accepting an invitation to
company where his lady love- had not
been invited. After marriage is he al
ways as particular? During the days of
courtship his gallantry would demand
that he should make himself agreeable to
her; after marriage it not unfrequently
happens that married men, after having
been away from home the live long day,
during which the wife has toiled at her
duties, go at evening again 10 some place
of amusement and leave her TO toll on "a
lone. uncheered and unhappy. How
often it happens that her kindest offices
pass unobseryed and unre warded even by
smile, and her best efforts are condemn
ed by the fault-fndng husband. How
often ii happens, even when the evening
is spent at home that it Is employed in
silent reading, or some other way that
does not recognise the wile's right to
share in the enjoyment even of the fire.
side.
Look, we husbands, moment and re-
member what your wife was when you
took her, not from compulsion, but from
your own choice-a choice based, proba-
bly,, on whatyou then considered her So
periority to ali others. She was young,
perhaps the idol of happy home; she
was gay and blithe as the lark, and the
brothers and sisters at her fathers fire.
side cherished her as an object oil endear-
ment. Yet she left all to join her des-
Tiny with yours; to make your home hap
Ply and do all that woman's love could
prompt and woman's ingenuity could de-
wise, to meet your wishes, TO tighten the
burdens which might press upon you in
your pilgrimage. She, of course, had
her expectations too. She could not en-
terrain feelings which promise SO much,
without forming some idea of rec,proca-
ton on your part, and she did expect you
would alter marriage perform these kind
offices of which you were so lavish in
the days of betrothment. She became
your wife; left her own home for yours;
burst assunder as it were the bands of
love which had bound her to her fathers
fireside, and sought no other boon than
your affections; left, il may be, the care
and delicacy of home of indulgence,
and now, what must be her feelings, if
she gradually awakes to The conscious
ness that you love Der less than before;
that you only come home at all TO satisfy
the demand Of your hunger, and to find
aresting place for your head when weary
or nurse for your sick chamber when
diseased?
WIZ did she leave the bright hearth of
her youthful days! Why did you ask
sher to give mp the enjoyments OF a happy
home. Was II merely to darn your
stockings, mend your clothes, take care
of YOUR children and watch over your
sick bed. Was it simply to conduce to
vour own comfort Or was there some
understanding that she was 10 be made