Gallipolis journal. [volume] (Gallipolis, Ohio) 1837-1919, 1851-01-16

as our own.
We ask the married to read j
D carefully; remember its sentiments
D cherish its truths, make OF them prac
D tical rules Of conduct and marriag
D will then, and not till then, yield tn
D blessings and happiness designed b!
Y Heaven in its institution for man.
D good. We have always had thes'
: opinions-we have, always, acteC
l upon them-and they have blessed
US in married liiel
We, therefore, with confdenct
present and recommend them to oul
} readers and The public, with the ut
most confidence in their truth ano
} practical wisdomI We present them
especially TO the young and unmar-
ried of both sexes-admonish each
Iif he or she be not capable of acting
in accordance with these wholesome
suggestions, live singlel Enbitter
the life of no one, by erroneous views
and bad temper. A good temper is
like the fragrance Of the flower; cor
rect views like the soil that supports
and nourishes the flower!
Memphis Express.
Hzs5ands and wIves-TheIr Errors and
their Duties.
''But happy they, the happiest of their kind,
Whom gentle stars unite, and in one fate
Their hearts, their fortunes, and their beings
blend!"
Marriage is said TO be lottery.
II would seem so indeed in some ca
ses, the contrast is so extraordinary,
and the circumstances so novel. But
so solemn a compact, so sacred in the
eyes of Heaven and the law, and so
calculated to effect for "better" or
for "worse," not only the temporal
but the eternal happiness OF the par
ties, should not be thought Of lightly
or determined upon rashly. We
fear that in too many marriages,
worldly considerations are permitted
to exercise controlling influence
Hands are united, not hearts. Pc
cuniary objects, and not harmony
Of sentiment, constitute the "motive
powerI" Matches are made with
reference to san establishment" and
not to a life Of peace, tranquility and
happiness. The best affections, the
highest sympathies are trihed with
and sacrificed, if not sold, while the
glitter of fashion and the pomp and
vanity of worldly display, conceal
the breaking heart within. Hence
the frequent divorces-the unhappy
homes, the lonely and deserted
wives, the dissolute and reckless hus-
bands. On the other hand how
many rush into matrimony who do
not duly consider its responsibilities,
who take no note of the futurel-
Controlled by a sudden fancy, inhu-
enced by a wild impulse, they has
ten on, and find "too late" that they
have assumed position to which
they are inadequate, that the strug-
giles and trials Of the world are fear
full, that more nerve, patience and
perseverance are necessary than they
can command. The excitement, too,
the delusion may have passed away,
and they are surprised to find i'm
projections in the angel Of their idol
airy. They forget that they them
selves are human, fallible, full of er-
rors, and thus they cannot make
proper allowances for others. They
become petulent and peevish, harsh
and brutal, and the "rosy and sunny
homes" that was pictured in "the
day Dreams" is converted into a
scene Of strife and anger, Of passion
and discord. They find themselves
soured. The prospect
has changed, and instead Of pursuing
a magnanimous and manly course,
they turn upon the "gentle one" in
to whose ears they $50 lately" pour
ed fond VOWS and earnest protesta-
lions, and make her the source of all
the bitterness and vexation. Alasl
Tor the victim under such circum-
,tancesI How, day after day, must
her fair dreams fade, and the wither-
ing reality of a long life of sorrow
Dom before herl How, in her qui-
Of hours, she must remember her
early home, and the lavish love that
she enjoyed beneath the paternal
roof At times, too, she may recall
a mothers loUe-and feel disposed to
her heart, and communi-
cate the secrets OF her soul to the be-
ing who watched over her cradlel
And yet, why disturb, why agonize
communicate a :
sorrow that will only pain and wiring
without the means of affording re- |
lief
But there is another side to this ,
picture. There are gentle ones who
forget or neglect their duties, and
who, by coldness and asperity, make ,
home a scene Of perpetual discord. ,
The husband is welcomed with i,
FrownsI Complaints are ever upper .