Litchfield enquirer. [volume] (Litchfield, Conn.) 1829-current, 1851-11-20
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itself known. Its easy and na,ural, rs
sa,nes no consequential airs, and makes
no vain or noisy pretensi"ns. The true
gentleman. or lady, is known even by hi.
raanner vi addressing those whom clslo
or fasMon regards As. his int,rors. Here
he always speaks with kindness. c"n>'d
ei.ya il sufficient that they should serve
without being in>ul Cd. r. ,ze
The pemp'us p'. tender is 'ou'l: hos,
ferrous, oserbearing 10 his department to-
wards "seryants." his interiors, in order
to show his importance andto make up
for n conscious infer.ority for himself, he
mist assume u pretended superiority over
others.
There is one rule which, il strictly OBJ
served, would oe sufficient guide in all
cases %" Never do, nor say. any thing to
give offence, or unnecessarily to wound
the feelings of others; or. as it was long
ago expressed by the highest possible
authority, "Do unto Others As you you'd
have others do unto you" in like circum.
stances.
But it is not my design to write a dis
ser,atiou on politeness. There are few
things. however, in the daily affairs OF
life Ia. which | wish TO call the attention
of the young; though not inapplicable
to some whO are older.
LIST. When ut your neighbor's house
lin cold weather. do not monopolize the
whole, or even the m 'st Of the cnmtoris
of the fi.e, 10 yourse These belong 10
the family a well as 10 YOU. and if they
are polite tn y will readily give what it
woul not BE- polite in vo, to claim.
cd. Al the table do not sit so close
that you are constantly shaking it, nor
so tar from it tina: you are in danger Of
dropping your food before it reaches
yOur mouth. t,f ~s6
81, Do not thrust out your elbows so
as to annoy those that sit on each side Of
y"u. ~ q s'1
4.h. Do not thrust out your feet so as
to disturb others who may sit opposite
to you Keep them to yourself. '9 4
5th. Hold your knife and fork BY the
hondlf. and NOT BY the blade, as il the
handle were Of no use; nor yet by the
extremity of the handle. as it you were
afraid Of selling your fingers. The form.
er elbows vulgarily, and the latter affec.
tatien a,i.' jit 'a'1a
9th. Do not gormandize as il you were
afraid you would not get your share.
18th. IL with private family, or in
private boarding hou>s. do not begin t."
eat till all are served. unless by permis
sion from the head Of the table.
9Th. Consider which Of the contents Of
the table are Intended for food. and which
for dessert. Call for the former till you
are satisfied. second, or even third
time but of the latter take only what Is
offered to you.
9th. Never call for "more" Of any
thing when you see there is but little Of
it leit, (this is often very embarrassing to
one who serves;) bat make up the de"
6ciency with something else Of which
ahere is grea'er supply.
10th. Ifyou discover any thing wrong
as pin. hair, thread, etc.. m your food.
n do not act 50 as to make it conspicuous
10 all the house. but put it aside quietly.
18th. When u plate Of bread, cake. etc.
is passed to you, do not sslect lhe largest
or best pieces. but take what lies nearest
60 YOU, unless there is some very special
and Daanifsst reason for doing Otherwise.
Do not always be the las. 20 leave the Ia
4 Bile. $3.50, 49,
leth. II any thing happens in the IA,
mily, or in company, that is cmbarrass
Sny, or Notifying 70 any Of those pre-
sent. do not wound their feelings by
laughing al ill., Or Otherwise inyi9pg AT
tehtion to a.: but rather excuse IT, OF
nre,en,l no, u notice it. . =
II close with one or two questions. Il
il polite for young ladies 70 #, rm 4 lins"
"A the upper irons steps OF a church, OF
othsr public building. where many arr
Vr.~sins out and 10. SO IS to'leave barely
room At one end Of the step. for 0tI,sfs
t1spass without running over. the flair
Landing occupants fgwssa ~ ssarls I.
q In iU polite foe three or fOur yOuag Ia