The Cecil Whig., 1851-08-09

be sacrificed, if intellectual cultivation
exists to any extent. | do not believe it
1t is foul SANDER on the sex. Yo,
will generally find that those womer
who possess the best cultivated minds
are the best managers at home. | ad
NIT exceptions.-They do, however, bu
prove the rule. And why should it no
be so The best disciplined and mos
highly polished mind, one might natu
rally suppose, would apply itself will
great advantage to the management o
domestic affairs. So | am nersuaded i
will be found, notwithstanding the,sneer
and saws about "blue stockings" Glitter
ary ladies'" domestic everyday du
ties" and all that.
Some peoples ideas of domestic du
ties seem to be entirely circumscribec
by the walls of their kitchens. Such
most surely think that the "chief enc
of man" is to feed, clothe, and sleep
we'll or that woman was designed to be
the servant of mans lower appetite, and
not companion of his whole being.
And has she indeed no higher mission
than this I Is this the "help" designed
by Providence as ''meet' for man Is
this your view of the matter! Go live
in Turkey, friend. Turn Turk. You
shal! have soulless women for this world
and houri for the next, if Islamism is
true. lrepeat it, be not afraid of men
tai culture. you can appreciate it in
a wife, by all means seek it in her.
And intellectual sympathy is perhaps
deeper than any other, and will bind
friends more strongly together than
aught beside. 1t is sympathy between
the highest faculties of our nature, the
immortal part. You cannot enjoy the
highest happiness OF which you are ca
pable with wife who is not able to meet,
to some extent, the higher wants of your
nature; with whose spirits you cannot,
in most cases blend. You canno! truly
marry outward beauty, or money, or
lands, or houses. You have a soul, and
cannot join it to these things. You can
really marry only human soul, har-
monizing in the tasteful and beautiful
with your own.
JUST hafr fay rrasarFs iath4 4hg. riedoueA,rcYqp
the days of courtship are yet fresh.
Keep it up. Do not cease to court be-
cause you are married, the very reason
of all others why you should continue
to do so. Your opportunities for this
now are far better than they were be-
fore. Be just as careful of each Others
feelings, and just as solicitous to retain
each others good opinions as before.
"Fix up" as smartly for each others So
ciety as before. Go right on doing all
that is gallant and handsome as before.
Your lover, madam, was a gentleman.
Your mistress, sir, was lady. Shall
not the husband and wife remain the la
dy and gentleman Do not forget your
bow, sir, not you your curtsey, madam.
Do you, madam, study your husbands
tastes and character. Understand him
fully. lfyou are wise, Ohis is a secretly
you may manage him altogether, and he
good man, will know nothing about it.
Ifhe be given to reading and study, do you
read and study with him, ifpossible. If
he is fond of having things snug and
quiet, do you take great deal of pains
to have things so. Incite him to all that
is good and noble. You will find your
account in it.
Are you ill-married! Are YOU suf-
fering the consequences of thoughtless
ness! Matches of thoughtlessness are
by far the most numerous in the world,
and you, perhaps, are among the multi
tude. Well, you need much of the "inar-
tyr spirit" You must make the best
of it. One good thing you may do: you
may prevent others, by your advice and
influence, from dong in this matter as
foolishly as you have rome. fyou have
children, save them from the rock on
which your hopes have split. Do not
marry your son or daughter to human
body with a farm, or so much bank
stock joined on to it. You can fuse gold
with gold, and you can mingle dirt with
dirt; but unless you possess creative pow
er, you cannot blend the material with
the immaterial.
If young man comes to court your
daughter, do not consider it good
match merely because he may be "well
to do" in the world. How many marry
for "home," but by no means find it
"sweet" one. Only think of fine,
sensible, cultivated, intellectual girl,
tied to a plodding, utilitarian sort of a
fellow, who ca@rpo more appreciate r 4
than did =" f7'-f, 'NA;;ch S
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