The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1851-12-09

whose christian name is Rodman.
Vermont and Mississippi will each
have Foot there, but this silI bo
balanced by the Morehcad Kentucky
sends. - Charleston Nescs. gst
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/ That house will be kept. in a tur,
moil where there is no tolerance Of
each others errors, no lenity shown
to failings, no meek Submission to in.
juries, no soft answers to turn aw,ay
wrath. If you lay a single stick OF
wood upon the andirohs and apply
fire to it, it will 60 out; tut on an,
other stick, and they Millgburn; add
half dozen. and you will have
grand confasration. There are 9th,
cr fires subject to the same conditiens.
lfohe member of family getsirto
a passion and is let alcnc, he Wilt
cool down, and possibly be ashamed;
and repent. But oppose temper TO
temper, pile on the fuel, draw in Tho
other members Of the group, and let
ono harsh answer be followed by
another, and there will soon be d
blaze which will enwrap them alI III
its lurid splcndors. The venerable
Philip Henry understood this well,
and when his son Matthew, tho Com,
mcntator, was mat sEeso
lines to the lllel
love ore aa9fsef;;1Sl Il liE
ssHnd ses '.a 81 lS:sl 4
You ntscr botastssge gether uIigFy beIs
II one speak FIRE, t''o,her with water
come; q
Is ono provoked bero,lcr soft or
dumb.''' =.
So thought the excellent Bishop,
Cowper, of whom ;tlyis
cedotes is related 4 BE-
tgooft niss s
his health by closs eoniiaeniea &, sol
one day, like kind hearted assic;oas
wife, she went into his libraryyifin his
absence, and gathering up all the
manuscript notes he had been eight
years collecting for his dictionary,
threw them into the fire. When he
came home, she told him what she
had done. Assured of the kind mo:
tive which had prompted her to this
act of Vandalism, his only reply to-
her was, "Woman, thou hast put me
to eight years study more X r,
This it must be confessed, is carry
ing meekness about as far as flesh and
blood can ordinarily be expected ito
90. But ever q less measure of this
quality would be found q great soda,
tive to these ebullitions Of passion
which ruflle the serenity of house.
holds. Allied with q sound judgments
and with true affection, it would aim
at shutting out from the circle such
topics Of conversation as were known
/! to produce an irritating effect upon
any of the group. Z;
The same spirit would restrain d
family from pushing question, on
| which they differed to the point Of, q
| pcremptory decision. 1t would ad.
monish them when the ice was begin,
ming to quivcr and cracklc, and show:
them where they must stop, unless
they meant to break through, There
are too many who refuse to see, or
at least to heed, these Indications,
and whom nothing will arrest but an
actual plunge into the wintry wave.
They will insist upon their point with
such pertinacity as to bring down as,
length that terrible "You shalE,s,,, on
"You shall not,' which in conjagaI
life is as freezing as bath in Decem-
Der. Happy are those families where
discussions never reach this crisis
1t is said that in the business meet.
ings Of that exemplary Christian So.
cictv, the "Fricnds," there is no vo.
ting. The Clerk gathers the views
Of the members from their observa.
| tions, and frames a corresponding
minute, which unless excepted TO,
| stands, without vote, as the act Of
the body. This is safe principle fof
households. Tho opinions of those
who wear the purple can usually be
got q: without vote, and voting
sometimes creates difference Of feel.
ing, where there was simply a diver
sity Of sentiment. DR.. Boardnaa.
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To THE YOU'VE LADIES. Il have
found that the men who aie really
| the most fond Of the ladies, who cher
ish for them the highest respect aso
seldom the most popular with the ser.
| Men of great assurance, whose
tongues are highly hung, who make
words supply the place Of ideas, and
! place compliment in the room Of SEM
timent, are their faroritcs, A sine
respect for women leads to respectfu.
action towards them; and resi- ectfni
lis usually distant action, aud this
great distance is NJ stakcn hy them
fpi neglect or want oi interest. r.-.ai6I
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