Southern sentinel. [volume] (Plaquemine, Parish of Iberville [La.]) 1848-1858, 1851-03-15
70 Wives.

| L ne nfSt inquiry OF woman aller Wal[IaRe
should be, elbow shall continue the love
have inspired! How shall l preserve the
heart have won!
l. Endeavor to make your husbands ha'
bitation alluring and delightful to him, Let il
be a sanctuary to which his heart may always
turn from the calamities of life. Make it re-
pose from the cares, shelter from the world
home not for his person only but for his
heart. He may meet with pleasure in other
houses, but let him find pleasure in his own.
Should he be detected soothe him, should he
be silent and thoughtful do not needlessly dis
turb him. should he be studous favor him
with all practicable facilities, or should he be
peevish, make allowance for human nature,
and by your sweetness, gentleness and good
humor, urge him continually to think, though
he may not say it, "this woman is indeed
comfort to mel cannot but love her and ro-
quire such gentleness and affection as they de-
serve"
3. Invariably adorn yourself with dclicacy
and modesty. These, to man of refinement,
are attractions the most highly captivating;
while the opposite never fail to inspire disgust.
Let the deicacy and modesty of the bride be
always in a great degree, supported by the
wife.
g. If it be possible, let your husband sup
pose you think him a good husband, and it
will be strong stimulus to his being so. AS
long as he possesses the reputation he will
take some pains to deserve it; but when he has
once lost the name he will be apt to abandon
the reality.
4. Cultivate and exhibit, with the greatest
care and constancy, cheerfulness and good hu-
nor. They give beauty to the finest face,
and impart charms where charms are not. On
the contrary, gloomy, dissatisfied manner, is
chilling and repulsive to his feelings; he will
be very apt to seek elsewhere for those smiles,
and that cheerfulness which he finds not in his
own house.
S. In the articles of dress, study your
husbands taste. The opinions of others on
this subject are but very little consequence, if
he approve.
6. Particularly shun what the world calls,
in ridicule, "curtain lectures" When you
shut your door at night, endeavor to shut out
at the same moment all discord and contention,
and look on your chamber as retreat from
the yexatons of the world, shelter sacred to
peace and affection. How indecorous, offeI-
sive and sinful it is for woman to exercise
authority over her husband and to say: II
will have it so. 1t shall be as like" But |
trust that the number of those who adopt it,
this unbecoming and disgraceful manner, is so
small as to render it unnecessary for me to en-.
large on the subject.
I. Be careful never TO- join in jest and laugh
against your husband. Conceal his faults,
and speak only of his merits. Shun every ap-
proach of extravaganza. The want of econo-
my has involved millions in misery. Be neat,
tidy, orderly, methodica. Rise early, break
fast early, have place for every thing, and
everything in its place.
8. Few things please man more than see-
ing his wife notable and clever in the manage
ment Of her household Acknowledge of cook
cry, as we'll as every other branch Of house.
keeping, is indispensable in female, and a
wife should always endeavor to support with
applause the character of lady and the house.
wife.
s. Let home be your empre--your
thoughts, your plans, your exertion. Let it
be the stage on which, in the varied character
of wife, of mother, and of mistress, you strive
to shine. In its sober, quiet scenes let your
heart cast its anchor, letyour feeling and pur-
suits all be centered. Leave to your husband
the task of distinguishing himself by his valor
or his talents Do you seek for fame at home,
and let your applause be that of your ser
wants, your children, your husband, and your
God. s s.-s.g .