The Cecil Whig., 1851-08-09
SATURDAY MORNING AUGUST 1851

marriage was instituted, is, as conceive
the intellectual and moral improvement,
of the parties. The object is high, a
permanent one. The union ought to be
formed, with view to the whole life Of
man; his intellectual and moral life
his life here and hereafter. How few
look upon the matter in this light, and
enter upon it with such views. "Some.
thing Observation-Disclosures be
made to enter into every days life
Ha! say you so! They are the only
views worthy of the union of twoimmor
tai beings.-They who marry with such
views and feelings, will be married body
and soul both. The highest happiness
can rest on no sure foundation but that
which is laid in the human soul. Beau
ity, wealth, equipage-all that is out
ward-may be swept away in moment,
or, if continued, may not satisfy.
Intellectual and moral qualities are a
more sure possession. Time serves but
to improve them, and the enjoyment of
them never clogs. Marry your wife's
soul, friend, marry her souI.-Let its
qualities attract you. Then, every ac-
QUESTION which she makes, every days
experience, every book she reads, will
aid her onward progress, and render her
more capable administering to your i'm
provement and happiness Do you
want wife capable of assisting YOU to
become wiser and better, as well as to
patch your clothes, darn your stockings
or cook your dinnerl Alas! alas! how
many think woman need to know
nothing else.--Sach might almost as
well marry thread and needle, knit
ting machine, ora cooking stove.
VIII if you are mechanic, a farmer
ora day aborer! May not, ought not,
mechanics, farmers and day-laborers to
grow wiser and better! Have YOU not
veritable soul, capable of improve
ment! And do you not want a wife
with soul! Darning stockings and
cooking dinners are important affairs,
(the latter especially,) and may be Pc
culiarly SO to you. know not, howev-
er, why woman with soul-a feeling.
thinking, cultivated soul-may not do
these things There is is no good &c gsfaeslRe!n aeslRe!n,
waited views of this subject, and 90
about the business in a sensible, rational
manner, Do you say, "One can scarce
ly find the article you recommend"
Somewhat difficult, | allow. But it is
to be feared that little demand exists for
wives of this sort. Let the demand be-
come general, and the articles (speaking
after the manner of men) will soon come
to market. Higher ground must be ta-
ken, higher views must be lnculcated.
The true subject, the whole subject of
marriage must be understood and felt,
and husbands and wives must be educa-
ted in view of it, ere they can become
all to each other that God designed.
| have urged deliberation upon the
unmarried. 1t is indispensable to
wise choice. Do you remember the
old saying, "Nlarry in haste, and repent
at leisure - Pray wait till you get
few years older. You need the ri pest
judgment possible for this business. The
eyes of sixteen do not see things in the
same light as do the eyes of twenty
three or four. Seven or eight years at
this period ofyour life will improve
your vision wonderfully, especially if
you look about you. Get old enoughto
understand your wants tolerable we'll;
study your own nature. Good ones of
course. What will probably be your
vocation in lifel What qualities in a
wife will be likely to render YOU the
most happy, as years roll on? Let the
points be well looked to ere YOU make
your choice. Perhaps can sum up all
in one word.
Get companion, one who will enter
heart and soul into your pursuits, who
has the power to do so,-the disposition
to do so-whom you can trust to do so,
who can read with you if you read, -
study with you ifyou y,-who shall
possess full sympathy with you in
most or in all things, who can minis
ter to the higher and more refined wants
of your nature, and who will be likely
to stir you up to noble endeavors. A
doll or baby cannot do this. A woman,
high h-mindcd, strong minded, cultivated,
wholesouled woman, is alone capable of
it. You need mind that will travel
with your own. So shall you have
companion. There are wives and hus-
bands who yet are not companions. 1t
would be sad thingto feel that in the
highest and most delightful walks of
life, in the regions of taste, of intellec-
tual beauty, you are, though married,
alone, all alone, your house we'll taken
care of, your dinners and suppers, and
all that, wellgot up; but in the highest
best pleasure of life-alonc. Af~,,,sar