Fremont weekly freeman. [volume] (Fremont, Sandusky County, Ohio) 1850-1853, 1851-11-15
MtsrGlIa ms.
The Cross Husband.
DE- MRs. 3. c. lovERINe.

! found her conFulsed with weeping.
My dear Laura exclaimed Mrs. Marston
in astonishment how happens It that you
who were the most cheerful light-hearted Of
maidens, have become an unhappy wife p
Has your brief experience in married life
been.so b;tter?'
oh, no. replied Laura. drying her tears
and endeavoring to appear cheerful my
husband is one OF the best men-Ee loves me,
and our child is great source of Joy and
comfort. 0, no, my experience has not beer
bitter'
4 am glad to hear it, rejoined Mr. Marston
But it seems SO strange TO see you weep
! Why before you were married, your heart
was as light as robbins in spring. You
were all smiles-and l believe you never
knew what it was to shed tears.in sober ear
nest,
True said Laura, smiling family, 4 was a
! gay and thoughtless creature. believe was
too happy ] ought to have been made to
know something about the cares of life, before
marriage. AS it was, l entered matrimony
as child flies joyously into garden full Of
flowers, only to find there are sharp thorns
among the roses, and bees with dangerous
stings among the sweet thyme
In what have you found the sharp thorns
and spiteful bees Of married life to consist p
asked Mrs. Marston.
Nothing worth ng-nothing of i'm
portance, replied Laura, blushing. Indeed,
ought not 10 think Of my little troubles
But what are these little troubles :? insist
ed her companion. Come, l shall give you
no peace until you tell me; and am great
teaseT you know, when choose to be. Does
Mr. Carwell spend his evenings away from
home p
80, no.
Does he fiirt with other ladies p
NO, indeed He is very attentive to me-
He never visits without me-
Perhaps, then, he is loo attentive. Hus-
bands sometimes are, am told sthough am
sure the accounts we have of such mortals,
must be altogether fabulous
I think so,
1t must be then, that Mr.. Carwell does not
provide well for his family. But know he is
not penurious.'
'PenuriousH exclaimed Mrs. Garwel. he is
the most generous man alive, l have every
thing could desire
'Ah!it is the extreme which troubles you,'
said Mrs. Marston. i see your husband is too
extravagant. In his eagerness to make you
happy, he neglects to pay the butcher and
baker: and frequent visits from certain unwel-
come acquaintances annoy our sensitive ma
ture- Its indeed very provoking to have ones
attention called dozen times dag to some
small bills
I beg you don't suspect Mr. Carwell of any
such neglect interrupted Laura His bills
are all promptly settled
Then your domestics torment you. If they
are ili-natured, or stupid, or lazy. or dishonest,
turn them away
4 have been very fortunate with my girls,
| am happy to say
Thendo tell me what troubles you have. ]
can :hink Of nothing else. should say you
are the haPpiest woman in the world, if had
not caught you CRYING
1 tell you l am happy. I have no trouble
that is, no serious trouble, except when MIR.
Carwell appears--I can't explain myself, but
you know, suppose, that men arenot always
in good humor.'
Ha, ha! / have got it at last' cried Mrs
Marston. i see it-so your husband is cross
sometimes, is hep
@. not exactly cross-O, noh murmured
Laura. Indeed he is very kindshearted; but
he has got into way of finding fault with ev-
cry little thing-that is, everything except
me, all this, too, without knowing half the time
what he says. He scolds about the cooking,
without suspecting how much he hurts my
feelings; for / oversee it myself, and try hard
enough to please him. added Laura, while
tears gatheredin bereyes.
In short rejoined Mrs. Marston, he is a
downright cross husband
%, no..
Yes he is. Don't attempt to defend the
wretch But, if as you say.he loves you, and
finds fault more from habit than from any set
tied i'll WILL he is not past help. have known
men like him. They are naturally petulent,
but they generally have no idea how cross
they sometimes are. They can govern
themselves if they like, though; they are not
incurable.'
My dearest Mrs. Marston, said Laura, with
an earnest face, you really appear to under
stand my case, and if you can suggest any
method Of curing George of this fault finding,
you viii remove the only obstacle in the way
OfmY porfect happiness.
'Ah, my dear Laura, you don't understand
the men as well as l do! To root the rank
weed out of your husbands heart, you have
oulJ W COHNlHCe bsiu tnAG II is theEes anu QeLl-
onstrate how hateful it is. .Nowif you say to
him kindly, George, don't pray you, find fault
with everything, he will reply-kissing you,
perhaps he never 6nds fault without
reason, and go on, as thoughtless as eyer,ven-
ting bis spleen at everything
But you would not have me reprove him
in an unkind manner?'
No. indeed-that would make him worse
still. say you must demonstrate to him the
hatefulness of his habit of fault-6nding.'
'ButRo
why. when he finds fault, you must help
him. If he scolds at his coffee, you must
show disposition to throw it out of the win
dow. If he complains of cold room, you
must shiver and shake, and scold the girl for
not keeping better fire, When he calls the
bread heavy, you must suggest the idea of
using it as clock-weights 10 save the expense
of lead. In short. you must either out fret
him, and lind ten times as much fault as he
does, or drown his voice in the petulent tones
of your own Show him how nerfectIv mis-