Worcester daily spy. [volume] (Worcester [Mass.]) 1850-1888, 1851-11-27

Ing the otner day win valuable friend, who
had been confined week or two by sick
ness In his room, he remarked that husband
might learn good lesson by being occasionally
confined to his house, having in this way an op
portunlty OF Witnessing the and never end
ing tolls of mis- wife, whose burdens and duties
and patient endurance he might never have 9th,
erwlse understood. There is great deal in thu
thought, perhaps enough for an editorials
Men, especially young men, called by their
bushes, during the day, mostly away from home,
returning only at the hours for meals, and as they
then see nearly the same routine of duty, they
begin to think 1t is their own lot to perform all
the drudgely, and to be exercised with the weight
Of care and responsibility. Bnl such nan has
got wrong view Of the case; he needs an OPP
portunily for more extended observation and
it is perhaps for this very reason that kind
providence arrests him by sickness that he may
learn in pain what he would fail TO observe in
health.
We have seen recently a good many things
said an the papers to wives, especially to Young
wives, iexposing their faults, perhaps magnfying
them, aud expounding to them, il none Of the
klndest terms, their duty and the offices pertain
IN to wonan's sphere. Now, we believe that
wives, as whole, really better than they
are admitted to be. We boubt if they can be
found greater number of wives who are dis
GOODNESS, or short-coning on the part OF their
husbands. So far as we have had an opportuni.
ty for observation, they far more devoted and
faitl full, than those who style the selves their
lords Jan who by the customs of society, have
other and generally mole pleasant and varied du-
ties to perform. We protest then against these
lectures so often and SO obtuseiy address ed 10 the
ladies', and insist upon ii that they nIus-most of
them--have been written by some fusy bache-
Tor who kows no better, or by some inconside-
rate hush nis who deserve to have been old
bachelors TO the end OF heir lives.
But Is there nothing to be said on the other side?
Are husbands SO generally The perfect, anidbe,
injured beings they are often represented? Men
sometimes declare that their wives extravaganza
has picked their pockets-ihat their never.ceas-
Ing tongues have robbed them Of their peace, and
ELF general disagreeableness has driven them 10
the tavern aud gdmlng-tabe, but this is generally
the wicked excuse for most wicked life on their
own part he tact is often lose their interest
in their homes by their own neglect to make their
homes interesting and pleasant 1t should never
be forgotten that the wife has her righis-as
sacred after marriage as beforehand good hus-
bands devotion TO the wife after narriage will
concede to her quite as much attention as he gal
lantly did while lover. II it is otherwise he
most generally is at fault
Take few examples. Before marriage a
young man would feel some delicacy about
accepting an invitation to spend an evening in
company where his lady love had not been invl,ed
Alter marriage, Is he always as particular! Dur
ing the days Of courtship his gallantry would de-
mand that he should make himself Agreeable to
her; after marriage, it often happens that he
thinks more Of beng agreeable to himself. How
oilen 1t happens that married men, after having
been aw from home the live-long day, during
which the wife has tolled at her duties 20 ia the
evening to some place of amusement, and leave
her to toll on alone, uncheered and unhappy.
How often it happens that her kndest Offices
pass unobserved, and unrewarded even by
smile, and her best efforts are condemned by the
fault.hnding husband.
How oiten It happens, even when the evening
Is spent at home, that it is employed in silent
reading, or some other way that does no, recog
nlze the wile's right to share in the enjoyment
even Of the Preside.
Look, ye husbands, moment, and remember
what your wife was when you took her, not
rom compusion, but from your own choice;
choce based, probably, on what you considered
her superiority to all others She was yonnp-
perhaps the idol of happy home, she was Cav
and bllthe as the lark, and the brothers and sis,
ters at her tather's fre-side cherished her as an
OBJECT OF endearmen She left all to ion her
oest'hy win yours; TO make your home happy
ana TO DO all that wanan's love could promn,
and woman's ingenuity devise to meet your
wishes, and TO tighten the burthens which might
press upon you in your pilgrimage. She. Of
course, had her expectations too She could not
entertain feelings which promised SO much with
out forming some idea Of reciprocation on your
part, and she d. expect you would after ,narrl.
age, perform those kind offices of which Won
were so lavish in the days of your betrothmen,.
She became your wife left her home for Yours
burst asunder. as il were, the bands of love
whch mad bound her 10 her fathers Preside, and
sought no ether home than your afectonr: Ier,
It may be, the ease and delicacy of home Of IN,
dugence---and now what must be her feelings
y she gradually awakes 10 the consciousness ,Iai
you love her less than before; that your evenings