New-York daily tribune., 1851-07-15

naturally sr,pucse. would apply itself with great
advantage 10 The management of domestic al
fairs. So | persuaded II wlll be tonnd. not
wlthstandlng tie sneers md saws about blue
stockings literary ladies' domestic every day
duties and all that
Some peoples ideas Of domestic duties seem
10 be entirely clrcumscnbed Blythe walls OF their
kitchens Such rnost suref, think that the
chief end OF man' IS 10 feed, clOthe and sleep
well, or that woman was designed 10 be the ser
want Of mans lever appettes, and not comPah-
ION OF his whole being. And has she indeed no
higher mission than tins j. this the help de
signed by Providence as meet for man Is thls
y0ur view OF the matter Go 1--we Ia Turkey,
iuend. Turn Turk You shall have souiieSs
women for this world, and hour Tor the next,
If (Islamism be true repeat it, be not afraid OF
mental culture If you can appreciate It IN
wife. by all means seek 1t IN her.
And Intellectual sympathy Is perhaps deeper
than any other, and Will bind friends more strong
ly together than aught beside. Ii Is a sympa-
,hy between the highest faculties OF our nature,
the immortal part. You cannot ENJOY the hign-
est happiness Of which you are capable with 4
wife who IS not able 10 meet TO some extent the
higher wants of your nature; with whose spirits
YOURS cannot IN most cases blend. You cdhnol
truly marry outward beauty, or money, or iands,
or houses. You have soul, and cannot loln II
TO these things You can really marry ohH
human soul, harmonzlng IN the tasteiul ana
beautiful with your own.
A few words 10 the married. Are you Just
married. Then the recollection of the days of
courtship are yet fresh. Keep II up. DO not
cease to court because you are married, the very
reason of all others why you should continue to
do so. Your opportunities for this now are far
better than they were before Be Just as careful
of each others feelings and just as socltous TO
retain each others good opinion as before. FIX
up as smartly for each others society as before
Go night on doing all that Is gallant and hand
some as before Your lover, madam, was gen,
tleman Your mistress, sir, was lady Shall
not the husband and wife remain the lady and
gentleman Do not forget your bow, sir, nor you
your courtesy madam. Give the best OF these
10 each other Do you, madam, study your hus-
bands tastes and character Understand INN
funy II YOU are wise, (thls is secret.) you
NAV manage him altogether and he, good man,
will know nothing about II. If he be gwen to
reading and study, do you read and study with
him if possible If he IS fond OF having things
snug and quiet, do YOU take great deal OF pans
to have things so lnclte him to all that is good
and noble You will find your account IN II
Are you Ill married Are YOU suffering the
consequences of thOughtlessness Matches OF
thoughtlessnesS are by far the most numerous
in the world, and you, perhaps, are among the
multitude Well, you need much OF the = mar
tyr spirit You must make the best OF II. One
by your advice and influence from doing IN
this matter as foolishly as you have done If
YOU have children, save them from the rock on
which your hopes have split. Do not marry
your son or daughter to human body with
farm, or so much bank stock lolned on to IT,
You can fuse gold with gold, and you can min
gle dirt with dirt but unless you possess crea-
tive power YOU cannot blend the lmmaterlal with
the material If young man comes to court
your daughter do not consider IT good match,
merely because he may be we'll TO do III the
world How many marry for home but 10y
no means find it sweet one. Only think OF
a fine sensible cultivated, intellectual girl, tied
to plodding, utilitaran sort of fellow, who
can no more appreciate her than did the cock
the ewel which he scratched up. Horrible
Make good use of your own experience IN this
matter, so shall you turn your folly to good ac-
count
Are you well married; really well married!
Sit down and sing the old song of few happy
marriages. You can well afford to sing You
are OF the few who have got into the narrow way
OF matrimonial felicity. Providence has smiled
Il want to say laughed, broadly laughed,) upon
YOU You have many pleasant smile and good
honest laugh at home, ii warrant. How should
like TO drop in some evening, and spend an hour
or two at your comfortable fire-sde, Just for the
sake OF seeing a ueil-manied couple raTa 8c's
truly leave you TO your enjoyment.