Hillsdale Whig standard. (Hillsdale, Mich.) 1846-1851, 1851-03-04
From the Philadelphia Enpuirer
Husba nds and Wives--Their Errors and
ar their Duties.

Their hearts their fortunes aud their beings blend!
/ Marriage is said 10 he q lottery. ltwould
seem so indeed In some cases. the contrasts
/ are so extraordinary, and the circumstances
so novel. But. so solemn a compoct, so sa-
cred ia the eyes Of Heaven aud the Law,
and 80 calculated TO affect for ''be,ier' OF
"worse," not only The temporal but the eter-
nal happiness of the parties, should not be
thought Of lightly. We fear that 10 too ma
nv marriages, worldly considerations are per
! mitied TO exercise a controlling Influence =
Hands are united. not hearts. Pecnnlary
objects, and not harmony OF sentiment. con'
srtute 'rhe motive power' Mstrhes are
! made ith reference To IAN embellishments.
and not 10 life of peace and tranquility and
: happiness The best affections. the bright
es; sympathies are trhed with, aud sacrificed,
! if not sold. while the glitler Of fashion snd
| the pomp and vanity Of worldly disparity,
conceal the breaiiog heart within. Hence
the frequent divorces 1.-The unhappy homes.
the lonely and deserted wives, the dissolu,e
and reckless husbands Ga The other hand,
now ,ranv rush iuto malrinony who d0 nor
dulv consider its responsibilities. who iake
no note Of the future! Controlled by sod
den fancy nfueoced by wild impulse, they
hasten ia aud fnd 200 late that they have
assumed positiou 20 which they are made
Quaie that the struggles and trials of the
world are fearful that more nerve, patience
(, ard perseverance are necessary than they can
command. The excitement, TOO, the de'u
sion NAV have passed away and they are
( surprised to find ,mpetieclions in The augel
( Of their idoleIry. They forget that they
themselves are human, islhbiuy iul! Of 81
} upI m fpak al
/ lowance for others They become pe,tish
: and peegish, harsh and brutal, and the rosy
\ aud sunny home thai was pictured In 'iho
} day of dreams,' is converted into scene OF
I strife and anger, of passion, and dlseo'd -
\ They iOd themselves disappointed. so"t"d.
! The prospect has changed, ard instead oidls
covering Ihe cause 10 themselves, instead of
/ pursuing msgnsninous aud manly course.
they tprn upon the gentle one into whose
ears they so lately poured FOND vows and
I earnest prolesIstions. and make her he
! source cf all The bitterness and vexsron
/ Alas! for the victim under such circninitan-
cesl How. day after day. must her fairy
! dresms fade, aud the wltherlng reality ot
| long life OF sorrow loom before hei! How,
! 10 her quiet hours. she must remember her
! early home. aud the lavish love that she en-
| joyed heneaIh The psetnal root Al times
| Icu. she may recall mothers love--and ieel
| disposed to unhurden her heart. and commn-
! nicaie The secrets, of her soul 20 The beng
who watched over her cradle! And yet. why
disturb. why agonize nnnecessarliy-why
! commnncate a sorrow that will only pain
aud wiring, without the means Of atfordng
| relief
But there is another side of this pectuTe.
! There are gentle ones Who forget or neglect
their duties, aud who by coldness ard asper-
i'y, make home a scene of perpetual discOrd.
| The husband is welcomed with trowus,-
Complains are ever uppetmost. Nothing
satisfies. Toll on, hy day ar by oight, and
stfl the nnrmut is The same. a peevisb,
freriu spirit seems Ia have taken possession
of the better half and alter struggling in
vain against such constant source of dis
gust, the husband abandons his home 10 dis
gust, and seeks elsewhere tor companion
ship. or at lerst for exemption from perpetu-
al fault 6ndingl How fearful this mistake on
The part Of young wives--hOw they iritle
with aifeclion--how they peril peace of mind.
The outdoor world is tnll of care and anx-
ieiy The Struggle fJr the means Of sub.
sisience often taxes all the energies of the
body and mInd. The competition in trade,
the rivalry in business, the vicissitudeS of
chance and change, the pens Of misfortune,
the ueachery of friends! Alas these sell
dom ener into the ordinary reflections OF =
fhoughtess wife. especially il she be vain.
proud. and devoted 10 display. Her idols
are false pride, inflated rGniiy, and a desire
10 ercei! and if her husband do not minister
10 evetv whim Of the hour. Il he hesiates TO
comply with her. demands Tor lunds-if he
ventures 10 demonstrate against unnecessary
expenditures---spgef passion and lnvec,ive
are by no means unnsVal.
He may ~ that moment he pressed ~ earth
by some sudden momentary exigencv, may
require the exercise Of. extraordinary moral
courage 10 maintain his postum and sustain
his character, may need consolation. en-
couragemeut aud incentive 10 exef,ion, and
instead, finds reproaches. angry looks and
harsh insiuuations AZ home. How macy men
have been naddrned AMI ruined under these
circumstancesl How IN some sudden mo- (
mont ofexcfcmeut, have they abandoned the 4
control of their own fhttGnes, and yielded 10 /
the dark impulses of despair. Partners ~ I
trade are bound by the law Of self interest, I
10 say nothing Of highrr and nobler ccnsid- /
crations. 10 assist and sustain each other by 4
every honorable means How much more
incumbent. therefore. is such policy in part
ners lor life, and between those who have u0i-
ted themselves. not only on the grounds OF
affection and principle, bot 10 = certain OK
tent have made their deslnies one How es-
sentisl the wisdom and the duy OF mutual
forhearauce, mutual assis,anoei How inn
potiant that each should strive 10 contribute
10 the happiness oi the other--io soothe the
sorrow, and to share the loy--to counsel and
encourage in moment Of adversely. TO ~
strain and subdue ~ the hour OF prosperity
The bond of marriage. when entered into
wisely. ihouehtiuIly. kindly. and generously.
is indeed the bond of affection. Of concord
and happiness. But the obIicstIon - mutu.
al, and while every husband of . right mind
and a right heart will endeavor TO provide TO
the best Of his ability for the necessities aod
comforts of tho being Of his choice. the vile
should not forget the smile of welcome at
night fall. the look and the manner OF love
- .,on Cha ohonlH nOf for.