The freeman. (Fremont [Ohio]) 1849-1850, 1850-03-16
~ Ths Literary Gazette i i paper pub.

paper, we Ind the following article, addressed
particularly to aFIusbands." which we com
mend to their serious consideration. Ii is not
only well written. but contains some whole
some truths as well as excellent advice:
no HUSBANDS.
Do you ever consider, gentlemen, how much
consideration and kindness you absolutely owe
your wives Do you ever think how surely |
Il is your duty to compensate by affectionate J
attentions the freedom and joys of girlhood ?
When one looks upon the pale sad face of
the woman, who, in addition TO her inevitable
lot of shame. and fear. and pain, and sorrow,
is crushed down by your exaclons, unkindness
and neglect; and when we consider how little
time ago that poor dropping creature, was
gay, beautiful. admired and happy girl, and
that she might be sostill; we are almost ready
to denounee matrimcny as the bane Of woman's
happiness
Look al your wife as she SITS. careworn and
pale before you, bearing her burden of pain,
and anticipating the approaching time of iney-
liable torture, perhaps death, by the most ter
rible aponv--and consider whetherit becomes
Yog, roul to find fault because your dinner
IS not quite to your tastes, or because there Is
button missing from your shirt When you
have vented your bile in open unkindness, or
cutting inuendo, and the poor sufferer ayerts
her face. to force back the tears that fill her
eyelids, or creeps trembingly from the room,
to weep over her miserable condition alone, do
Won consider that you have acted the part OF a
monster, demon worse than demon, for
you torture one who loves you, who for your
sake has given herself to suffering, which you
increase tenfold by your unkindness. Would
it be strange under these circumstances. IT
while she weeps she should pray for death; or
wish that she had not become your wife
While You are out all day, pursuing husl-
ness or pleasure, and miugling with your te-
low men, in pleasant or piquant intercourse,
your wife is confined at home attending to the
details Of household affairs, equally intricate
and absorbing as the business which occupies
vou. If you meet with vexation and difficult
ties abroad, so does she at home.
Tit is your privilege to expect that she Will
make your house comfortable, and give you
cheerful reception on your return to 1t; 1t IS
equally her privilege to expect that you will
come home in "a pleasant humor. give her a
pleasant greeting, and let her feel that the
pleasure Of her society compensates you Tor
any little imperfection in her domestic arrange
menss.
If von have met with vexatons or DISC
pointments during the day it does not follow
that you should come home in surly humor,
and vent your Gispleasures at your offending
fellows on your wife, who is in no way to blame,
and has no doubt endured as many and as
great vexations during the day as your iordly
sell. IF YOU would be received with smiles,
bring a smile as a greeting. Either leave your
IL hunor with those who aroused them, or
which Is bv far the better way, lay them be-
fore vonr wife and have them softened by her
sympathy. lightened by her advice.
Many wise persons recommend 70 husbands
snd wives the Withholding Of all troubles, from
each other. But in cur opinion sueha course
deprives wedlock Of its highest privilege, its
sweetest consolation. 1t condemns each to
bear life's burden alone, or since the heart
must have sympathy, to seek 1t IN some other
friend or relative, thus bestowing on anotheT
the confidence which is the richest treasuFR
Of welded life.
IF after day of perplexity you say to your
s wife MIs do not feel in a very pleasant humor
~ have met with losses" or am embar.
rassed. or have been overreached, Ill treated
or insulted-she viii Immediately assume hall
the burden, sootbe you with her sympathy,
and most likely suggest means OF deliver
ance. You know that your interest IS hers
OF course she viii endeavor to advance IT.
and there is hardly woman living who can
prove ungrateful to the man who treats her
with confidence and kindness.
Perhaps you viii say. My wife knows moth
ing about business Why should talk to her
of that which she cannot understand We
are sorry to be forced to admit that many
uirls are so educated that they hardly know
whether money is earned or gathered from
bushes-stiil there are very few who cannot
be made to understand the difference; and
wives of this class need especially to know
how you make your money. and what are
your profits, that they may understand how
to regulate their expenditures.
IF your wife knows nothing OF the details
of business you can tell her how much you
have realized, and how mnch you have lost;
and you viii never repent such confidence
Say to her wish to realize such an amount
for such or such purpose, and be assured
she win ask no extraordinary remittance o.
YOU until your object is realised; and wher
YOU tell her it is accomplished, her Joy and ex
ultatiou will greatly increase your own, and
vou will go forward with confidence which
viii almost ensure success. The appreciation
and cooperation Of your wife will strengthen
both your hands and hearts,
Then, if you have acted with her approval
and do not meet with success, she will hav'
no room to upbraid you, and her sympathy
will be the more earnest If you succeed, he
Joy and gatulation will greatly increase you
own.
You viii also listen with interest when sh
seeks your sympathy or advice in her domesti
enbarassments or vexations. You do nc
know how much this sympathy will bind he
to you
If on the contrary, you heave her froI
your heart by refusing her confidence, turnin
from her complaints and treating the affail
that embarass and distress her, as triaes bt
meath your notice; she viii be grieved, sh
will see your inconsistency in deeming goo
dinners, domestic comfort, and regularity, in
portant matters. and yet contemning the d.
tails that produce them. She will also fe
.l,.t ,,o,, are selfsh and care nothing for hC