The star of the north. [volume] (Bloomsburg, Pa.) 1849-1866, 1850-02-21
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accomplishing something, and there is so
little hope of influencing Il mother, by any
advice, 10 adopt any system with her chill
dren. So much has been said on the sub.
ject-the most solemn considerations have
been so much urged and dwell upon, with 50
little effect, that it appears like talking 10 the
wind. But my last ''ie;tc. 10 country girls"
brought the to Il dead stop felt like one
who, in walking, come suddenly IN contact
with stone wall. might beg of girls TO
treat their mothers with love and respect, but
when | know these mothers have taught
them: from infancy, TO disregard their wish
es and diSobey their commands, what great
hope can have that the grownairl will read
ily unlearn the lessons of her childhood p
The lack of til:al respect has become ma
tional characteristic with us. America is no.
ted, over the civilized world, for diSobedient
children and the cause ol The evil lies TOO
deep 10 be generally remeded in three gen-
eralions. This cause is the want Of physical
aud intellectual strength in mothers. Onr
women arr celebrated for their fragile health
and leamJW dependence on the stronger sex.
There is no country, know any thing of.
where women are so pelted, so ilatcred, so
protected as in America They are shut up
inclosc rooms, arlilcially heated, with moth
ing 10 do but study how they may sill Garh.
er compress and dis;ort their diminuiive. an
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concocting rich gravies and pastries TO des-
troy heir own and their friends digestive
organs They are pale.taced and feeble
peued and protected TO death. without cner-
gy or sel(-rcliance enough to- command the
respect Of tter children. any more than The
strength To give them healthy existence at
Grst. No reformation can be wrouoh in the
mode Of managing children that does not
commence in the physical and mental edu.
cati"n of mothers. The woman who eats
rich supper and sleeps all night in a close
room, will get up in the morning, irritable,
nervous, weak-qui;e unable 10 bear the
noise of children, who are nervous and irfi.
table from the same causes, or boieerous.
with Il greater degree Of animal spirits. The
mother knows well enough it is her duty 10
make her children obey. 10 restrain their pro.
pcusitcs 10 vice, TO study their dispositions,
and cultiva'c their virtues but how is she 10
do il. with her head throbbing. and the blood
struggling sluggishy through her veins p
She may have read all the Mothers Maya.
zines, and Mothers Companions, and list
cned 10 hundred sermons and lec;urcsupou
her duties aud responsibilities, but how will
that cure The dyspepsia and The back ache,
the headache, pain in the left side, and IA
goneuess' in the right? Until all these are
cured the mother is not able TO bear the
noise and trouble of the children A father
considers his duty performed if he spend his
time in accumulaiiug wealth for them, while
personally they remain strangers TO each 9th
er His attention is altogether taken up with
the affairs of his counting room or work.
about, aud which he thinks it point Of hon
or 10 keep from her knowledge, until bank,
rdpicy forces him 10 conlide his secrets, or
his death leaves her an easy prey to some
swndler in the shape OF an executor or adj
mihis;ralor. He is i'll equal ignoranc" ot l.er
department of labor-he m management of the
house and thIlrcu-unleSS when il is forced
upon his notice 10y pelulant complaints. They
are not help-mele for each olher-not uni.
ted in sympathy of pursuit: but in some
sense arrayed in antagonlsn. But it is not
my present business 10 trace the in,ricacies
of Ike conu.al relation, but only 10 mention
this arrangement as one that depriveS chill.
den Of the careful superinend"nce OF faith
ers. 1t is not good for man to be alone,
neither is il for woman. The father and mo-
ther of family should be nncd III The go
vernment of l.. 1t should be Il part OF eve
~ fathers business 10 spend a considerable
portion of time with his children. 1t should
be mothers duly TO understand the bJ-i
ness upon which her own and her chiidrens
support depends. We know no business in
which q sensible woman cainot assist her
husband, if not by active cooperation, at
icdst U( y d'lhitS dIlNl Il
rately silly woman will gain common sense
by perscvering attempt of this kind: This
common sense will aid her in MANAGING her
children, while a division of tho't and labor
that would give fathers part Of the bus.
ness that IS now left to mothers, and give
mothers part of theirs in tuin, would greaI-
ly tend 10 obviate the WEAKNESS of tread
mill existence, such as so often fall, 10 the
lot Of both. The mutual sympathy in each
others pursuits, aud beal1g of each others
burdens, would tighten The cares of both
produce more harmony, and command more
respect from their children. Children are
keen observers No one can exercise prop
er control over them without possessing
.oodly share of their affection and respect
To gain this, one must generally deserve it,
at leas, il would be easier 10 deserve il real
ly, than 10 keep up such a scanning as will
win and preserve it. If woman is inferior
IN mind, or r moral qualics-if her hus-
band or any one else treats her as toy-a
doll-a thing 10 listen 10 petty nonsense, or
an upper servant 10 make puddings and pies,