The Hillsborough recorder. [volume] (Hillsborough, N.C.) 1820-1879, 1850-10-16

all the young husband knew, was, that
Ne was a lover Of his wife and Of ham
and eggs. lie retailed domestic goods;
and had salary of FIVE hundred dol
lars per annum; but they paid one
hundred and fifty for rent-and the
thonsandandone expenses ofhousekeep-
ing in the shape Of" small items" ate
up all the salary. and left nothing for
contingencies. The second year did not
work as well as the first. The wife
was taken on hsr feet by q ~little re-
sponsibility." who absorbed great deal
Of time and money; the woman got
along poorly, nurses and physicians
must be paid, and Benson become dis
couraged. The "pretty face" sadly
altered; the red cheeks became lily
white. the infant was sickly, they were
greatly in debt. and one cold day last
winter. Ellen Benson called to know
If ever employed a tailoresss She
would resume her trade, and find some
time to work in nights. and while the
baby was asleep. Benson stayed out
later than usual. che always lad work
at the stores" but alas, sountsrfeiting
proved his ruin, and the wreck Of do
nestle peace was the portion Of Ellen's
future life.
"There are % many ill-assorted mar
r&ges," says my maiden aunt !" il
makes me sick to move about in the
world A great deal Of concealed un-
happinessSag great many men who tyran-
nize over their wives. a great many
who restrain them in all comfortable
enjoyments, besides great many wo.
men who are thsiftless and inefficient
l--tee lazy to work. or oversee others,
whose only desire is to appear like q
painted doll, that az take this view
Of life, il seems as il such marriages
are only curse upon posterity. 1t IL
painful to record what one sees and
knows. A wife who viii cry and pout
all the forenoon, because she has no
been furnished with dollar to attent
Fanny Kemble's readings; and hus
band that falls in rage with his wife
because she said Monday was an unfi
day TO give dinner party, deserves nj
sympathy, and generally speaking. &c
none, save from some winking, whin
ing, meddlesome character who love
to make and retail domestic troubles.
!; But why should such unhappines
, exist No two can always think alike
. and why because one dissents, shoult
there be such . fusss Some peopl,
have such dispositions that they ough
never to marry. a
| What lives, for example, would thos
maiden ladies' have led with man, VIII
quarrelled about the teapot, each de
claring it was hers, and while one pull
: ed the nose, the other pulled the han
. die, till il become pretty soon useles
to both. A ft emblem this, Of many |
. domestic jar. In many cases it is o
the smallest consequence which yields
We only want the plant disposition
manifested.
| And then there is q great deal Of un
real happiness, to which the true nam,
is not given, because the pursuit is un
worthy. Some wives are made forev
er miserable by looking upon other,
furniture or apparel, which is bette
than they can afford. They are peev
ish after visiting at such places, an,
have days Of depression, or fit Of tn,
"blues, ;" because so and so has riche
cloak, or more expensive satin dres
| than they.
Some husbands, too, envy their neigh
Dor the fine horse he driyes--the pesi
tion wealth gives him in securing bow
and favors in political life, and he tell
you champagne and dinner parties, no
merit, made that man. What If it did
: He is not necessarily happier than yo,
for he who rises upon any other thar
the true standard. namely, positive
worth, is always upon sandy founda
tion.
The best recipe for domestic enjoy
, mcnt, is to keep ones temper unrufiled
then, a sunshine plays over every disa
greeable view of life, and We are born
quietly along over difficult and steel
places, and at the end Of our journey
we are spared the remorse which al
ways hangs over a disquieted and rui
,, , fled disposition.
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, THE AMBIGUOUS SPEAKER.