The Rutland herald. [volume] (Rutland, Vt.) 1850-1852, 1850-12-19
THE EVERYDAY MARRIED
LADY.

!, nigh, be supposed t!a, the every
day married lady was formerly the cr-
cry-dsy young lady. aud has now snere-
y changed her condition. Bu, this is
10, tie case, for noihins is more com
non than TO see tic most holiday SPINS
tel, settle down into the most working
day mairons. The married lady, III
fact, Of the species We would describe.
la, no descent in particular. II you
can imagine n pupa coming into the
world Of itself without any connection
with the larva, or an image unconscious
Vi tho pupa, that is the everyday mar
ned lady. She is born al the altar, con-
jurcd into life By the ceremonial. and
having utterly los, her individual exis-
,ence, becomes from tha, moment noun
Of multitude. People may say. Oh.
this !. our old acquaintance, MissSmiih.
ta ,ha, IS only calling names, for the
identity is gone. II she is anything Mt
all but what apper'ains TO the present,
she is the late Miss Smith, who has sur
,iyed herself, and changed into fam
lily.
We would insist upon this peculiarly
Of the everyday married lady that
her existence is collective. Her very
language is in the plural number--such
rs we, ours, and US. She respects the
rights Of paternity so much. as never 10
permit herself To talk Of her children
ns peculiarly her own. Her individl-
al,ty being merged in her husband and
their actual or possible offspring, she
has 10 private thoughts, no wishes. 10
hopes, no fears but for the concern.--
And this is all the better for her tran
gully for although par, Of her hus-
band, she does not quite fancy that ht
is a part Of her. She leaves at leas
the business 10 his management, and !
ahc does advise some, and suggest ol
occasions,she thinks that somehow thing
will come out very we'll. She feels tha
she is only passenger; and although
as such, she may recommend TIE skip
per 10 shorten sail when wcathering
critical point, or, for the sake OF safety
10 come TO anchor in the middle OF th
sea. she has still a certain faith in HI
skill or luck. and sleeps quietly in ~
storm. For this reason the evcry-ds
married lady is comfortable in the fig
urc, and has usually good round feature
Of her own. The Miss Smith she ha
survived had a slender waist and sma
delicate hand bu, this lady is yer
tolerable armfnl, and the weddins'rin
makes such hollow on her finger, tia
one nigh, think i, would Le difficult
&c, Of.
The every day married lady is con
monty reported to be selfish: but I'd
is mistake. At least her selfshne
embraces the whole family circle it h
no personality. When the wife OF
poor man, she viii 81. up half tho mig
sewing aud darning. bu, no, a stich 4
herself; thai can be done at airy TIM
but the boys mus, 20 comfortably to &
school, and the girls look gen,eel on =
street, and the husband--,o think OF n
Brown wanting button on his shiT
She looks selfish because her eye 10
ways on her own, and because she tai
Of wha, she is always thinking abou
bot how can ope be selfish who is =
pe,nally pos,poning herstlf, who dr.
ses the plaines,, eats the coarse.', a
sleeps the lcas, Of the family :
never puts herself forward IN eompa
unlcss her young ladies want backin
bu, We, she never feels herself ov
looked, for every word, every f'a'
bestoxed upon them. is comman'cs'
electrically 10 her. She IS, indeed
sach perfect rapport VIII, the eopce
il.ai il is DO lneommon th.ag for he'
60 home eLuekling with amuse'n'
oyerposered with de,ish, from ia
al wL,ch she had not once oPened
lips This 10 the party which she !
nounees 70 have 4" gone of well II
observan, people fancy 'hs, the caic'
ton Is made on the score Of The Jel
and ice. and singing and dancing. an
90, ard influenced by . secret comp
sen 9Th hsr avn s<h ,aV n Arte but