The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1850-01-18
Counting vs.. Attentions.

Counting vs.. AttrntiOns.
An old paper says: This is subj &C, which,
always Important, is becouing peculiarly 30,
and We d-s'sn to call the attention OF the
= Dung people OCCASIONALLY. in hope Of arrest.
in: On alarming and destructive evil.
Young ladies' aIe bound to fall IN love as
soon az possible, and bound to be uaucd to
partner for life a. soon as the necessary pre-.
liminaries can 10 nsde-such 40 getting a
lover, fascinating him thoro'ly, being couf,ed,
having the question popped, getting the we'd.
ding garments in array, and inviting friends
10 sec them pfe,,ily married. Tho young
man 10 bound 10 be gallau, aud polite aud ad
mire w,hou, stint, all the pretty young girls,
known and unknown; 10 doG the beaver, Of
fer bis arm, invite 10 the ride, pleasan, seun
TERN short, TO all and sundlws, indeed TO
show his devotion and galsntry towards the
ser, until some enchaniress thro~s her spell
around him. and be sinks, subdued. into a
SOUhpu P'dICi 'cuiutIcuii CdIct5s bFus uiC'' ,
"No~, GU, Of these things grow d.ffieu!.
,ies. young man I'D aires a pretty girl,
end mus, manifest il; he cGnno, h,I dong
for thc, lie Of hin. The yonng lady has .
snle' heart, reaching on, like vine ;cndr.ls
for something TO cling 20; she sees the adm.
ration. is ALTERED. he. lbs soon 10 love, expects
some tender avowal, and perhaps Gets 8, for
as 10 decide that she will cao 5, white satin
under Thin gsUz', at the very moment tie
gallant that she loves is popping the qres.
siou good ha ha to another damsel ten
miles of. Now the difficulty lies in no, pre-.
c,sely understanding :hc difference between
polite attentions and the tender manifestations
Of sighiog love. AGmring beautiful girl,
and Wishing 10 make a wife OF her, are no,
a'wavs the same and therefore, i, is neccs.
'sry that girl should be on the alert to DIS
cover 10 which class The attentions paid her
BY handsome and fashionable youag gentle.
man belong. l, ia hard to draw the sxac, line
Of separation between polite attentions and
downright counting, but our great age and eS.
pe'ience have enabled us 10 observe enough
to aid the young and ar,'ess in deciding the
matter.
=" FIRST ihen-lf young fellow gree,s you
in loud, free, hearty volce-if he knows pre-.
cisely where 10 put his hal. or his hands-if
he s'ares you straight in the eye WITH his own
vide open--if he turns his back to speak to
ano,her-lf he tells you .ho made his coat
II he squeezes your hani-if he eats heartily
in your presence--T he faiis TO be very fonl
ish 10 fifty ways every hour; then don't fall
in lore with him for The world he only ad.
mires you. lei him do OF say wha, he will
Bot il he be merry with every one else, Lu
quiet with you-if he be ANXIOUS to sec thu,
your lea lie sweetened. end your dear person
well wrapped up when you 90 out IN the cold !;
il he talks very io~ and never looks you IL
the eye-if hls cheeks are red, or if he b.
pale, and his nose blush, Il is enough; # be
ronps With your SISTER, sighs like par OF
b-llo~s, locks solemn when YOU are address.
I'd By smother gentleman, and IN fact, 10 the
mos! s,ill. awkward, stupid. ye, ANXIOUS OF
your male friends, you may go shoad and in.
woke the shaft Of Cupid With peffec, safety,
and make the poor fellow loo happy for hl.
skin to bold h'm."-Erchaoge rpsr.