Sunbury American. [volume] (Sunbury, Pa.) 1848-1879, 1850-11-02

| "bvt happy they, the hoppcst OF their kind,
Whom gentle stars unite, aud in fate
Their hearts, their fortunes and their beings blend
Marriage is said 10 be lottery. 1t woul
seem SO indeed in some cases, the contrast
are SO extraordinary, and the circumstance
so novel. But so solemn compact, so sacre
in the eyes Of Heaven and the Law, and s
calculated TO affect for "better" or fo
"worse," not only the temporal but the eter
nal happiness of parties, should not be though
OF lightly, or determined upon to rashly. w,
lear mat IN too many marriages, worldly con
slderalons are permitted 10 exercise a con
trolling influence. Hands are united no
hearts Pecuniary objects, and not harmony
of sentiment constitute the stmotive poweru
Matches are made with reference to Can es
tabishment," and not 10 life of peace tran
guilty and happiness. The best affections
the highest sympalhies are trhed with, anc
sacrificed, if not sold, while the glitter of fa
shion and the pomp and vanity of wordl,
| display, conceal the breaking heart within
Hence the frequent divorces-.,he unhappy
homes, the lonely and deserted wives, the
dissolute and reckless husbands. On the
other hand, how many rush into matrimony
who do not duly consider its responsibilities,
who take no note of the future Controlled
BY a sudden fancy, influenced by wild i'm
pulse, they hasten on, and find '',oo late,'
that they have assumed a'position 10 which
they are inadequate, that the struggles and
trials OF the world are fearful, that more
nerve, patience, and perseverance are neces-
sary than they can command. The excite
ment, TOO, the delusion may have passed
away, and they are surprised TO find imper-
fections in the angel of their idolatry. They
forget that they themselves are human, fal.
lible, full of errors, and thus they cannot
make proper allowances for others. They
become petulant and peevish, harsh and bru-
,al, and the "rosy and snnny home," that
was pictured in ''the day of dreams," is con-
verted into a scene of strife, and anger of pas
sion and discord. They find themselves
disappointed, soured. The prospect has
changed, and instead of discovering the cause
in themselves, instead of pursuing mag
unanimous and manly course, they turn upon
the "gentle one," into whose ears they ESQ
lately" poured fond vows and earnest profess
tations, and make her. the source of all the
bitterness and vexation. Alas for the VIC
tim under such circumstances How, day
after day, must her fairy dream fade, and the
withering realty of long life or sorrow loom
before her How, in her quiet hours, she
must remember her early home, and the
lavish love that she enjoyed beneath the pa
ternal roof! AT timc7, too she may recall
mothers lore-and feel disposed TO unburlhen
her heart, and communicate the secrets of
her soul 10 the being who watched over her
CRADLE! And yet, why disturb, why agonize
unneces 'rly--why communicate a sorrow
that will only pain and wiring without the
means of afiording relief2
But there is another side to this picture.
There are gentle ones who forget or neglec,
their duties, and who by coldness and asper.
ity, make home scene Of perpetual discord.
The husband is welcomed with frowns
Complaints are ever uppermost. Nothing
satisfies. Toll on, BY day or by night, and
still the murmur is the same. A peevish, a
fre,ful spirit seems to have taken possession
''of the better half,n and after struggling in.
vain against such constant source of dis
quiet, the husband abandons his home in des-
pair, and seeks elsewhere for companionship,
or at least for exemption from perpetual fault
finding How fearful this mistake on the part
of young wives-how they trihe with afiec-
tion-how they peril peace of mind The
outdoor world is full of care and anxiety.
The struggle for the means of subsistence
often taxes all the energies of body and mind.
The competition in trade, the rivalry in bust.
ness, the vicissitudes of chance and change,
the perils of misfortune, the treachery of
friends Alas these seldom enter into the
ordinary reflections of thoughtless wife, es-
pecialy if she be vain, proud, and devoted
to display. Her idols are false pride, infa-
ted ranity, and desire TO ercel and if her
husband do not minister to every whm of
the hour, if he hesitate TO comply with her
demands for funds--if he venture TO remon.
s,rate against unnecessary expendilures-an
ger, passion and invective are by no means un-
usual. He may at the moment be pressed 10
the earth By some sudden monetary exigency,
may require the exercise of extraordinary
moral courage TO maintain his position and
sustain his character-may need consolation,
and incentive to exer,ion, and
instead, find reproaches,angry looks and harsh
at home! How many men have
been maddened and ruined under these cir
How in some sudden moment
Of excitement, have they abandoned the con-
troll of their own fortunes, and yielded ro dark
impulses of despair. Partners in trade are
bound by The law of self-inleresi, 10 say no.
thing of higher and nobler considerations 10
assist and sustain each other by every honor.
able means. How much more incumbent,