The Evansville daily journal. [volume] (Evansville, Ia. [i.e. Ind.]) 1848-1862, 1850-11-01
From lie Philadelphia Enquirer.
The Chances and Changes OF Life.
MAR RAGE.

The Chances and Changes OF Life.
MARRIAGE.
As Wooded love is founded on esteem,
Which the lair merits of the mind engage,
Fol those are charms which never can decay;
But time, which gives new wilderness to the swan,
Improves their iustre."
Some days since friend pointed out 10 US
an active and atiuent old bachelor" as
remarkable case OF disappointment in love.
Impossible J" we exclaimed, for we had
known the Individual for years. and never be-
lieved him to have been guilty for even a mo-
lnent of tender sentiment towards the sex.
Nevertheless, our friend assured us that more
than thirty years before, he had known Of the
existence OF !" an engagement of the most
devoted kind. 1t was broken of by some
irIfing misunderstanding. which. at the time,
SO controlled and preyed upon the feelings Of
the now old bachelor, that he wept like a
child, and for weeks was wholly unnerved
and unnamed. Still he WAS ''perverse Of
spirit" would not permit any interference,
gradually recovered his selt-possession, and
thus, at once and forever, terminated his i'll
innate acquaintance with woman. His first
love was his last, and his history was thus
unfortunate. He is now perfectly indepen-
dent IN IA pecuniary sense, but is ''ulone In
which at his time OF life, render marriage al
most impossible. And yet we repeat, mere
irife separated the lovers, aud thus altered
their fortunes. How often is this the case
The chances and changes in matters Of the
heart are indeed extraordinary. Truth how
ever, is far stranger than felton, as regards
the origin oil many marriages. The glance
of n moment, the acquaintance OF an hour,
first interview, sometimes shapes the destinies
OF two human beings for Lille
We recently heard Of the case of very
worthy gentleman Of this city--a wi1ower-
who had occasion to visit one of the towns OF
oil the interior on business, and with the OBJ
jcct oil renewing the lease Of some properly
The iarmer himself was absent, but his
daughter, a fresh and animated young woman
oil twenty, received and entertained the land
lord aud in the course Of the hour which
elapsed before the arrival Of her father, SO
won upon HIM by the artlessness of her man
ner, and righteousness Of her expressions.
the brightness OF her glance. and the beauty
of her Smile, that he sought aud found an ex-
cuse TO visit his property again and again,
and finally concluded with an offer of his
hand. Ii WAS promptly accepted, and the
tenants daught-s was speedily transferred
as young bride to All elegant mansion in
one of our principal streets, Ia which she does
the honors with no little credit TO herself, and
the choice Of her husband.
We may mention another case by way Of
contrast aud admoIilion. A few years since,
Que OF the most enterprising and honorable OF
oui young merchants Tell desperately in love
with the daughter Of a worthy citizen, and
after no little difficulty, for bis life had been
devoted TO trade ruther than iashioH-,o the
Tougher, raiher than the gentler portion OF
crealion-succeeded in obtaining an i.itroduc-
ton. He needed a wife, and his purpose,
therefore, was serious. Unfortunately, how
ever, the young lady had been taught to re-
gard a fashionable exterior and d fippan,
manner as well essential in an admirer, and
on the very first night of the introduction, che
INDUCED in vein Of mocking satire, half in
, Jest aud halt in earnest at The expense Of the
young merchant, and thus sadly wounded
his feelings, panied his heart, and d .ss pated
his love dream! She meant nothing hars!
or unkind, and lnteuded the whole affair as a
piece Of amusement. But size discovered her
error when too late, and thus drove from her
list of suitors one who possessed all The lead
ing essentials OF go0a husband, rix:-intel-
lgence. integrity, industry, activity and afiec-
ton. She Is stil belle, IA faded belle, but
time. Alas! how many young ladies' commit
"A similar mistake How many waste the
precious hours OF youth upon idlers and hang
crs on and turn away coldly aud sneeringly
when the industrious, the active, and the
thriving. venture To present themselves. An
affinity Of taste Is oil course essential TO some
extent. A mere marriage vi convenience
iD which "hdDds alone Consent and hearts alb
hor," should be avoided and denounced by
the good and the wise, no matter what the
apparent worldly advantages. But there Is
u happy medium. We snouid not look for
Perfection. We SHOULD be willing TO bear
and iorbear. The disposition may be too
tame, as well AS too violent. A slight con-
trasl at times, Is by 10 means un:avorable.-
Esteem. regird, confidence and affection
should be Tie great objects, but all other
requisites should not be lost sight Of The
young being who leaves her fathers house.
and confdes her fortunes for veal or for woe
. to The hands oil another, should, as ii preiirn-
mary step, scrutihIze the character OF the oh
ject oil her preference, aud with no little care
is he man in the true, the elevatiug sense
Does he feel his responsibility in Undertaking
G TO provide Tor partner for lhe2 Has he
thought over the matter calmly ? And is his
action based us we'll upon reason as upon al
iectlonI TlIcse are natural aud proper III
iauiries. And with regard 10 age, We adopt
aud endonse The language of Baron Hum
boldt in his Letters 10 Female Friend F"
|, "WheHever there exists much discrepancy in
poiat Of age, il Is impossible that that free
q dom OF Intercourse should take PLACE which
tends to lie mental elevation ala happiness
!, Of both parties, or that thai pure stream oil
thought aud sentiment sheuld flow between
!. them WHICH peculiarly constitutes all that i
# blisstul in the intercourse betwixt the two
!: sexes"
A mutual fame IL delightful. Nothing or