Fremont weekly freeman. [volume] (Fremont, Sandusky County, Ohio) 1850-1853, 1850-09-28
Sin and Folly of SceIding.
"Fret not thyselfin in anywise TO do evil. ."-Psal
XXXii. 2

"Fret not thysef in anywse TO do evil."-Psalms
xxxii, ?.
1. 1t is evil, and only evil, and that contin-
ually. David understands human nature, and
says "Fret not thyself in nywise to do evil"
That is, if you cannot speak without acolding,
keep silence.
2. II destroys afection.-No one ever did,
ever can, or ever will love habitual fretter,
fault finder or scolder. Husbands, wives, chill
dren, relatives, or domestics, have no affection
for peevish fretful fault-fnders Few tears
are shed over the graves of such. Persons of
high moral principle may tolerate them-may
bear with them. But they cannot love them
more than the sting of the nettles, or the noise
of mosquitoes. Many a man has been driven
to tavern, and to dissipation by a peevish,
fretful wife. Many wife has been made mis-
cradle by peevish, fretful husband.
8. His the Bane Of Domestic Happinesa.-
A fretful, peevish, complaining, fault-fnding
person in family is like the continued chaing
of an infamed sore. Wo to the man woman
or child, who is exposed to the influence of
such temper in another. Nine-tenths of all
domestic trials spring from this source. Mrs.
D. is of this temperament. She wonders that
her husband is not more fond of her company
that her children give her so much trouble;
that domestics do not like to work for her;
that she cannot secure the good will of young
people. The truth is, she is fretful and peev-
ish Children fear her and do not love her.
She never yet gained the affections of young
person, nor ever will till she leaves of fretting
4. II defeats the End Of Fanaily Govern
meat-Good family government is the blend
ing authority with affection, SO as to secure re-
spect and love. Indeed this is the great Sc
cret of managing young people. Now your
fretters may inspire fear, but they always
make two faults where they correct one
Scolding at a child, treating child as though
it had no feelings, inspires dread and dislike,
and fosters those very dispositions from which
many of the faults of childhood proceed. Mr..
G. and Mrs. F. are of this class. Their chill
dren are made to mind; but how? Mrs F.
frets and scolds at her children. She is severe
enough upon their faults. She seems to watch
them in order to find fault She sneers at
them-treats them as though they had no feel
ings. She seldom gives Them command
without threat and a long, running, fault
finding commentary. When she chides, it is
not done in a digni6ed manner. She raises
hervoice, puts on cross look, threatens, strikes
them, pinches their ears, slaps their hands, &c.
The children cry, pout sulk, and poor Mrs. F.
has to do her work over pretty often. Then
she will find fault with her husband, because
he does not fall in with her ways, or chime
with her as chorus
5. Fretting and Scoldiing makes Hypocrites.
AS fretter never receives confidence and
affection, so no one likes to tell them anything
disagreeable, and thus procure for themselves
y No Ill IL,
as they cannot make up their minds to be
frank and open hearted. So husbands con-
ceal from their wives and wives from their
husbands. For man may brave lion, but
he likes not to come in contact with nettles
or mosquitoes
6. 1t Destroys Ones Peace Of Mind-The
more one frets, the more he may. A fretter
will always have enough to fret at Especial
ly if he or she has the bump of order and
neatness largely developed. Something will
always be out of place. There will always be
some dirt somewhere. Others will not eat
right, look right. talk right-he will not do
those things so as to please them. And fret
ters are generally so selfish as to have no re-
gard for any ones comfort but their own.
Z. His a Mark of VMgar Dispositions
Some persons have so much gall in their dis
position, are so selfish, that they have no re-
gard for the feelings of others. All things
must be done to please them.
They make their husbands, wives. children,
domestics, the conductors by which spleen and
Immature are discharged. Wo to the children
who are exposed to such infuences-it makes
them callous and unfeelng, and when they
grow up they pursue the same course with
their children, or those entrusted to their man
agement. and thus the race of fretLers is per-
petuated.