Jeffersonian Republican. [volume] (Stroudsburg, Pa.) 1840-1853, 1850-09-19

weakness" "the scepre of love" Our literature
is teeming with particular directions about the mo-
dus operandi. If Mrs. Brown wants new car
|; pet she does not ask Mr.. Brown directly and ex-
plictly about the state of their finances. and the
propriety Of the chase; but she contrves TO call
with him at the Jones,'' where superb one has
just been put down. She must talk about Jones
carpet, side long looks at their own faded one,
sigh, look sad, speak with melancholy cadence,
and always address Mr. Bown as my DEAR
Partcula. attention must be paid to his dinner
his coffee must be in fine order, and his slippers
just at hand: but still soft melancholy must reign
on placid face of his injured wife as she walks
mou,nfully over the old carpet. All this time no
thing must be said but Brown must feel that the
sunshine OF happiness can never beam upon the
face of Mrs. Brown, until it reflects from bran
new carpet. When the carpet comes, the lady
has managed her card,-ii is that much of gain
TO her. no matter if it should be heavy loss to
him. Their interests are not one. The business
of the firm is not joint stock out door matters
are his business,-in door interest are hers.
Upon this principle majority Of married lives
are based and the phrases il assumes almost
infinite. The more tyranical and domineerng
husband is, the more cunning and deceltful wife
must become to manage him, unless she yield and
sink into abject slavery some few do. But
to the case in point. The sorrows of a wife OF
five months are not to be approached lightly. We
! have heard much about honey moon" but have
an idea the honey is all in the moon-that the i'm
aginary happiness is all moonshine. Observation
leads US 10 think the first year OF married hie Is
more generally unhappy than any after period
! that there is in fact more Intense wretchedness
/ cr she before.
or is after capable OF enduring in Lifetime
] Our advice would be to all Suffer and be
strong" watch and wait until you have grown ac-
customeG 10 your new position. You are in
transition state and should take no very positive
step, because you will seldom act wisely. Above
all things never make con6dant like this writer,
who will aid you TO see your wrongs, whose o.
pinons of men will lead her TO take it for granted
your husband is wholly in fault, When you are
unhappy try to think the fault your own, for very
likely it is so, either in whole in part, and it is
natural for love to take blame rather than lay il on
the beloved object just as II is natural for love to
wish 10 suffer for another. Then never utter, new
er act lie. Never put any show of seeming
never any art of duplicity cajolery, or
wheedling for any purpose, or with any one. DO
not understand by this that any "art of affection"
is wrong-that coazing and endearments are de-
grading. 1t is right to kiss father, or husband,
or brother in return for any favor or,-no, not as
1
wish. only let the object be fairly understood
Deal candidly,--speak truth in all sincerity. With
a husband this candor should be commenced be-
fore marriage, and it should be both sldes.--
We believe that much more suitable selections
would be made in the choice of partners were the
parties 10 reside in the same family circle for a
time, during which both should be engaged in their
usual avocations. Each should make it point
OF honor to make the other acquainted with his or
her faults or foibles. Then cOurtshp would not
be dream, and marriage the awakening. AS il
is, most marriages are commenced in deceit on
both sides, and consummated like any other piece
Of acting IN a stage scene, where the bridal cost
ume is the chief attraction. The happy couple
find out in week, that each has been most eyre
glousY mistaken In the other, and If they are pru-
dent, they live in suspension Of hostilities" for
life
Most OF our unhappy marriages are of this class
and what 10 do with them, how 10 mend matters,
is the question +! But better late than never
Commence a system of truth and candor-of fair
dealing and never, for any emergency, depart from
it. This is applicable to both but more espec- |
ally to wives-and do not surieit your husbands
with caresses. Do not teach to think him all you
reserve, modesty and decacy Of girlhood were
mere traps. Courtship is represented as heav-
en- of enjoyment; be you prolong his until the
last day Of his life, if you live so long.
1t is no uncommon thing for newly married peo-
pie to do like children, get sick on sweetmeats; and
then after the fair wife, for want of something else
TO do, has twined her arms around dear Charles"
neck, until it is WEAKNESS 10 both I; she placed
herself upon his knee and kisses his :" beautiful
eyes" by way Of variety. There is no time of
woman's life when the want of some regular pur-
suit is SO much felt as just after marriage. 1t is
generally the time she has least do, and it is the
very time when pursuit of absorbing interest
would save her from world of mistakes and mis-
cry. The husband has great deal to think about
Now, that ne has wife TO provide for. his busi-
ness becomes douby interesting. If she was do
ing anything before this, she is sure to quit it
she goes to board, or if she keeps house. her fur
niture is new, her family is small She has cloth
ing enough made up for year. No sewing, no
visits to misunderstanding to think about
but her Charles, and nothing to do but caress him
-"hve for him." Well, the Great Creator, when
he made woman, did not make her for this purpose
did not make her for this alone-did not make
her for an appendage TO man-"s creature to love
and be loved" and nothing else He gave her all
the faculties of mind and body that belong 10 a
distinct and separate existence. All the facul
tes save she one oflOving, are lying dormant-that
one, from over culture, becomes a kind of over
grown mushroom. Tie course of nature is per-
verled' and misery is the result No doubt there
is great variety Of causes but large amount of
all the unhaPpness of early married life, could be
amellorated If not cured, by something TO do."
and by as much dignity and reserve as would pre-
vent the diety-fhe dngel,--"the ruling destiny of
my fate Of yesterday, from being converted into
the tame kitten Of to day. But now we have com
commenced We must make this the subject of an i
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