The Camden journal. [volume] (Camden, S.C.) 1836-1851, 1850-06-07
SHADY SIDE OF TWENTY-FIVE.

| am not one Ol tHoSe ptTsuhS WI" 'ho"S
butt of old maids on the contrary, know more
esiimable women belonging TO their class than
do out of it, Nevertheless, ] cannot help
scoldng little at young ladies on the shady
side Of twenty. FIVE, who have not been able to
find husbands, and all from their own fault
And how so? Why, just this way. They
spend DAYS, weeks, neutrality-suspicious. in to-
tai intellectual idIeness. They never think
there is anything for them to do except wash
and mend their clothes, clean houses and look
out of The parlor window. They have tried
again and again to get beau. and when they
have 90; some likely young gentleman, they
have lost him just as they have become ac.
quainted with one another, for no other reason
Than ,ha, said young gentleman has found out
that his lady has no ideas in her head except
other peoples ideas, and these of the poorest
assortment. She has no opinions about things,
and likes and dislkes according to the freak OF
the moment. Now she is all fum-now as cross
and Grabbed as the wife Of Beelzebub. He
cannot understand her humors. She is afraid
10 expose her ignorance, and endeavors to con
ceal it from his searching glance. She cannot
do it, try ever so hard. In his walks, in his
visits to exhibitions. in her department at home,
he sees that she is suffering from mental tor.
Dor, and what is worse, that she Is making no
cffor, to throw il off, She never thinks that
man wants companion in wife-not a block
mt doll. He reads studies, observes, she
don't take the hint. She never thinks ot either
reading, study or observation. She knows
there was an American Revolution some time
ago when, she does not know, nor whether II
happencd in this country or some other. She
is aware that there is such city as London
and such place as California. but whether they
are in Asia, Africa or the Fast Iidrs, she does
no, know and never thinks ofinquiring. She
has heard nf the name of Bonapartr-Possihly
of ,ha: of Waxhng'on--hut does not know
whcihrr the former was Frrnchman, italian
or Turk, nor whether the latter was President
of the United States or not She reads only
the oySslorics in the papers, perhaps the g"s.
sip and scandal-hut ask her if she saw IN" in
,cres,ing scientific disGnv"ry--lha narrative oi
high daring and noble rn'erprise--'he memoir
of Howard, n Fry, Dx-Oh. M she did not
see these. So you sec Mr.. Editor, the young
lady won't do for the young gentleman. Now
she does not think of improving her oPpornn''
ties 50 as to he re- tly for another snil-not she.
Thinking has never fnrnrd part of her intel
lectual action, and no doubt, Mr. Editor there
is intellectual action without thought. The
mex, beau soon finds ncr out. of he go"s.-
She sits down and nopps, and never thinks 1t
is her owu fault. How can sec, indeed? ? The
pnnr creature never thought at ail--she went
by her feelings.
Now, young Ia los, take my advice. I'm.
prove your leisure moments. Read the history
of your own country at least. Study arIthme'
TIC enough to be able to hrlp the little "rrspon.
sbi,ies" that will come, in their lessons.--
Learn something nfthe duty which is incnm.
ben, on all prospective moIhers--to teach and
bring up their little ones in the way they should
go--noi the way You went. Don't delegate to
others the duty Of teaching the first lesson, the
first prayers, The first ideas, which the little ones
should ret from you Remember, Ioo that you
are member of society, and that if yon ar" not
of some use in it, if you cannont by Your exam.
pie help in any, the smallest degree, to Improve
lha, society, that you are no better than rot
ten limb on huge tree. You bad better not
br, than be.