Wilmington journal. [volume] (Wilmington, N.C.) 1844-1895, 1850-11-08
From the phlladalphin Inquirer.
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Their hearts, their fortunes and their beings blend
Marriage is said to be a lottery. 1t would seem
so indeed in some cases. the contrasts extra
ordinary, and the circumstances novel; But so
solemn compact, SO sacred in the eyes of Heaven
and the Law, and calculated to affect for better
or for worse not only the temporal but the eter
nal happiness of the parties, should not be thought
OF lightly, or determined upon rashly. We fear
that in too many marriages, worldly considerations
are permitted to exercise controlling influence
Hands are united: not hearts. Pecuniary objects,
and not harmony of sentiment constitute the motive
power! Matches are made with reference to an
establishment and not to life Of peace tranquility
and happiness The best affections, the highest
sympathies trifed with, and sacrificed, if not
sold while the glitter of fashion and the pomp and
vanity of worldly display conceal the breaking heart
within. Hence the frequent divorces-the unhappy
homes, the lonely and deserted wives the dissoute
and reckless husbands. On the other hand, how
many rush into matrimony who do not duly consider
its responsibilities who take note of the future
Controlled by sudden fancy. Influenced by a wild
impulse they hasten ON, and fined too late that
they have assumed position to which they are in
adequate that the struggles and trials of the world
are fearful that more nerve patience, and persever
ance are necessary than they can command. The
excitement too, the deluson may have passed away
and they surprised to find imperfections in the
angel Of their idolatry. They forget that they
themselves are human fallble, full Of errors, and
thus they cannot make proper allowances for others
They become petulant and peevish; harsh and bru-
tai and the rosy and sunny home that was pictur-
ed In the day of Dreams is converted into scene
OF strife, and anger of passion and diScOrd. They
find themselves disappointed, sourod. The prospect
has changed and instead of discovering the in
themselves, instead Of pursuing magnanimous and
manly course, they turned upon the gentle one,'
into whose they { so lately poured fond vows
and earnest protestations, and make her the
o all the bitterness and yexation! Alas for the
victim under such circumstances. How, day after
day, must her fairy dream fade and the whitening
reality of long life of sorrow loom before her =
How, in her quiet hours, she must remember her
early hOme and the lavish love that she enjoyed
beneath the paternal roof At times, too she may
recall mothers iore-and feel disposed to unbur-
then her heart and communicate the secrets of her
soul to the being who watched over her cradle -
And yet, why disturb, why agonize unnecessarily
why communicate sorrow that will only pain and
wiring without the means of affording relied
But there is another side to this picture. There
are gentle ones who forget or neglect their duties
and who, by GOODNESS and asperity, make home
scene eff perpetual discord The husband is welcom-
ed with frowns! Complaints uppermost.-
Nothing satisfies Toll on by day or by night and
still the murmur is the same. peevish, frettul
spirit seems to have taken possession of the better
half and after struggling in vain against such
constant source of disquiet, the husband abandons
his home in despair and seeks elsewhere for COM
partnership at least for exemption from perpetual
faultfnding. How fearful this mistake on the part
of young wives-how they trfe with affection how
they peril peace of mind The outdoor world is
full of care and anxiety The struggle for the
means of subsistence often taxes all the energies of
body and mind. The competition in trade, the RI
valry in business, the vicissitudes of chance and
change the peris of misfortune the treachery of
friends! Alas these seldom enter the ordinary
Elections of thoughtless wife, especially if she be
vain, proud, and devoted to display. Her idols are
false PRIDE inflated ranity and desire to erceL and
if her husband do not minister to every within of the
hour if he hesitate to comply with her demands for
funds-if he venture to demonstrate against unnec-
essary xpendltures--anger, passion and nvectve
are by no means unusual. He may at the moment be
pressed to the earth by some sudden monetary ex-
igency, may require the exercise of extraordinary
moral courage to maintain his position and sustain
his character-may need consolation, encouragement
and incentive to exertion and instead find reproach
es, angry looks and harsh insinuations at home =
How many men have been maddened and ruined by
these circumstances!
How in some sudden moment of excitement, have
they abandoned the control of their fortunes
and yield to the dark impulses of despair Partners
in trade bound by the law of sefinterest to say
nothing of higher and nObler considerations to assist
and sustain each other by every honorable means
How much more incumbent, there fore, is such po-
Icy in partners for lfe and between those who have
united themselves for better or for worse,-between
man and wife, who have linked themselves not only
on grounds of affection and principle but to GER
tain extent have made their destinies one! How es
sential the wisdom and duty of mutual forbearance,
mutual assistance! How important that each should
strive to contribute to the happiness of the oherto
soothe the sorrow: and to share the joyto counsel
and encourage in moment of adversely, to re-
train and subdue in the hour of prosperity The
bond of marriage when entered into wisely thought
fully kindly and generously is indeed the bond of af
fection of concord and of happiness But the obiga
ton is mutual, and while every husband of right
mind and right heart will endeavor to provide tc
the best of his ability for the necessities and the
comforts of the being of his choice the wife should
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look and the manner of love that subdued and won
She should not forget the honor, the interest, the
happiness and prosperity of the head of the house
hold" and the source of all its comforts J!
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