The Portsmouth inquirer. [volume] (Portsmouth, O. [Ohio]) 1849-1855, 1850-11-11

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, disposal Of themsel selves--botb had III 5 q I,
IL PET Ned was recognized by friend N ~,
put as the recognition was al on one side
ne concluded TO let matters take theft own
course, and results proved that love AFFAIR.
, are pe'ter lett alone--except some times. Z
u a1's5 Husbands and Wives e2 ata
4 THEIR ERRORS AND THEIR btrlEs. ~
i but happy they, the happiest Of their lind i
~ m nun eehue stars uniie, and in ono fate,
roI nearss' y, lneir fortunes, and their beings
n blend w '4pi tjtsht~ - dnltf-I S-T -TeN
Marriage is said to be d lottery. II Il ornld
seem 50 indeed in SOME cases, the contrasts
are so extraordinary, and the circumstances
50 novel; But SO seldom compact, So sa-
cfed In the eyes Of Heaven and tbe Iaw
ana SO calculated to affect for better or for
'woise, not only the temporal but the eter-
nai happiness Of the parties, should not he
inougnt OF lightly, or determined upon rasb.
y. we Tear that in too many marriapes
worldly considerations are permitted to 81,
ercise controlling influence Hands "a
united, not hearts. Pecuniafy objects ana
. aoI harmony OF Sc entiment constitute the
motive powerv Matches are made viii
reference to AN establishment and not to
a. me pi peace, tranquility and happiness
Ine pest directions, the highest sympathies
are ,flhed with, aid sacrificed, il not soId
while the glitter Of fashion and the NOM
ana vanity OF worldly display, conceal the
breaking heartwithin. Hence the freouent
divorces-the unhappy homes. the lonely
and deserted wives, the dissolute and racL.
less husbands. ''t Sa''iA ~ - '0sA- ~
i on the other hand, how many r,,sb INTO
malaf.lmony, who do not duly consider its
|fresponsioilities, who take no note Of the
iutufes Controlled by sudden fancy and
lnnuenced 6yawild impulse, they hasten
o1' an9 nnd, too late, that they have assnm-
zee position to which they ore inadeouafe !.
ana the trials and struggles Of the world are
SO fearful, that more iierye, nafiedcs MA
perseverance are necessary than thew can
command. The excitement, too. the deI,.
sion, may have passed away, and tbey Are
surprised TO find imperfectlons in tbs snaei. alJ
q. o. !neis @ idolaty. They forget that thew
themselves are human, fallible, full, Of er-
Tofs, and thus they cannot make proper al
iowances Tor Others. They become petnlent
ana peevlsh, harsh and brutal, and tbe srosv
ana sunny home that was pictured In tbe
day OF idreams, is converted inlo scsns a. ~ -
strife and anger, of passion and discard.
,IIhey lind themselves disappointed soned
Ibe prospect has changed, and instead ~
discovering the cause in themselves ;nstsad
OF pursuing a magnanimous and rosnI,.
uJulse' .aSa iney turn upon the gentle one into
whose ears they so lately poured fond VOWS
ana earnest protestations, and make her the
source OF all the bitterness and yexation
Aias lor the victim under such ciFcumstan.
Ces9 HOW, day after day, must her fairy
dream iade, and the whitening reality Of |
long life OF sorrow and gloom before 6eril
how,'in her quiet hours, she nal,st rs man.
Der her early home, and the lavish lave that
sne enjoyed under the paternal roofl5 EfI
times, too, she may recalIa mothers 1--we
ana leel disposed to unburthen her heart.
ana communicate the secrets Of her soui
being who watched over her cradle
and yet, why agonize .unnecessaiily-wby
COMMUNICATE sorrow that will only main and
wiring, without the means Of affording rel;ef7
\ But there Is another side to This S;cti,,e
There are gentle ones who forget or neglect
theirduties, and who. by coldness and as.
penty, make home a scene of perpetual dis.
cord. The husband is welcomed Win
lroWns U y Complaints are ever uppermost,
Nothing satisfies, Toll on, by day or BY night
and still the murmur is the same, IA peey.
Isn, a lgettul spirit.seems to have taken DOS.
session OF the better half and after strnp-
Cling in vain against such constant so,,rce
Of disquiet, the husband abandons his ho,osE
in dispair, and seeks elsewhere for eompan.
Ionshlp, OF at least, ,for;exemption from 'ner.
petua fault -fnding. How fearful this mis-! \
lake on the part OF young wives how tbey
tribe with affection---how they peril i,ears
ofl mind The outldoor world is full Of care
ma snxlety,,, The struggle for the means Of
subsistence often taxes all the energies ofl
body and mind. The compe titfot. II trade 4
Inc rivalry In business, the vicissiludes Tof
chance and change, the periIs of misfortImes
he treacbery of. friends! Alas these sal
iom enter into the ordinary reflections of /
houghtless wife, especially il she beI IN
proud, and devoted to display, Her ;dols
ire false pride, inflated vanity, and a des;ra
9 excel and i her husband, do not minis
"a 70 every whlm Of the hour ifhe hesitate /
. comply with her demands for fuDds~;fE
le venture 70 demonstrate against unyecesI
ery expenditures--anger, passion and in.
'ectlye are BY no, means unusual III
he may at the moment be pressed to tbe
arth BY some sudden mumentary exigenir,.
nay require the exercisaaof cxtmofIinSSs
moral courage to maintain his position and
uStain his frhara III y " ! 4 / . - -nN Q