The miners' express. (Dubuque, Iowa) 1849-1854, 1850-08-14
Counting VS.. Attentions.

An old paper says: This is subject which
always important, is becoming peculiarly so, and
we design to call the attention of the young peo-
pie occasionally in hope ofarrestng an alarming
and destructive evil.
aYoung ladies' are bound TO fall in love as soon
as possible, and bound to be bound to partner
for life, as soon as the necessary prellminares
can be made-such as getting lover, fascinating
him thoroughly, being courted, having the ques-
ton popped, getting the wedding garments in
array, and inviting friends to see them prettily
married. The young man is bound to be gallant
and polite and admire without stint all the pretty
Young girls known and unknown, to dotf the bea-
yer, offer his arm, invite to ride, pleasant sauncr
in short, to all and sundries, indeed to show
his devotion and gallantry towards the sex, until
some enchantress throws her spell around him,
and he sinks subdued, into common place, in
different, careless Benedict.
'sNow out Of these things grow difficulties
A young man admires pretty girl, and must
manifest it; he cannot help SO doing for the life
of him. The young lady has tender heart,
reaching out like vine tendrils for something to
cling to; she sees the admiration, is fattered, be
gins soon to love, expects some tender avowal,
and perhaps gets 50 far to decide that she will
choose white satin under thin gauze, at the
very moment the gallant that she loves is popping
ten miles off Now the difficulty lies in notpre
csely understanding the difference between po-
lite attentions and the tender manifestations of
signing and love Admitting beautiful girl, and
wishing to make wife of her, are not always
the same; therefore, it is necessary that girl
should be on the alert to discover to which class
the attentions paid her by handsome and fash
ionable young gentleman belong, 1t is hard to
draw the exact line of separation between polite
attentions and downright counting, but our great
age and extensive experience have enabled us
to observe enough to aid the young and artless in
deciding the matter.
ssFlrst then-Ifa young fellow greets you in
a loud, free, hearty voice-if he knows precisely
where to put his hat, or his hands-if he stares
you straight in the eye with his own wide open
If he turns his back to speak to another--lf he
tells you who made his coat-if he squeezes your
hand-if he fails to be very foolish in fifty ways
every hour, then don't fall in love with him tor
the world; he only admires you, let him do or
say what he will. But he be merry with every
one else, but quiet with you'll he be anxious to
see that your tea is swectcned, and your dear
person well wrapped up when you go out in the
cold; if he talks very low and never looks you
in the eye--if his cheeks red or if he be pale,
and his nose blush, it is enough; if he romps
with your sister, signs like pair of bellows,
looks solemn when addressed by another gent. e.
man. and in fact, in the most still awkward, stu
pid, yet anxious of your male friends, you may
90 ahead and invoke the shaft of Cupid with
perfect safety, and make the poor fellow too hap
ply for his skin to hold him.