Wisconsin tribune. (Mineral Point, Wis.) 1847-1854, 1850-05-10
To Young Women.

Some one oath said, that -'mntrimony, is
with woman the great business Of life. where
as, with meu' it is oaly an incident" an inn
portant one to be sure, but only one among
many to which their attention is directed, and
often kept entirely out of view. Now, this
difference gives the other sex q great ndyan.
tage over you; aud the best way TO equalise
your lot, aud become as wise as they are, is to
think rs little about it as they do.
The less your minds dwell upon lovers ard
matrimony, nle more agreeable and profitable
viii be your intercourse with gen lmen. If
you regard men a intellectual beings, who
have access to ceatain sources of knowledge
OF which you are deprived. and seek to dee
rive all tie benefit you can from their pecu-
iiai attainnents and experience-if you talk
to them as one rational being to another, and
never remind them that you are candidates
for matrimony-you will enjoy far more than
you can by regarding them under that one as
pect of possible future admirers and lovers
When that is the only absorbing thought. you
have not HE proper use Of your flcul les
your manners are constrained and awkward
you are embarrassed and made 10 say what is
i'll judged, silly, and out of place. and you de-
feat your own views by appearing to great
disadvantage.
However secret you may be in these spec
ulations ynu are continually thinking OF them
and attaching undue importance to the nc
qnaintance of gentiemen,it will most certainly
show itself in yonr manner and conversation.
vii lot, IL.
peciel contempt by the stronger sex.
Since the customs of society have awarded
to man the privilege of making the first ad-
vance towards matrimony it is the safest and
haFpiest way for woman TO leave the matter
entirely in his hands. She should be so edu-
Gated as TO consider that the grent end of ex-
istence-preparation for eternity-may bee
qually attained in married or single life, and
that no union but the most perfect, one is at
H!l desirable. "Matrimony should be consid-
cred as incident in life, which il it come at
all, must come without any contrivances of
yours and therefore you may safely put a
side all thought OF it Till some one forces tho
subject upon your notice by professions of a
particular interest In YOU.
Lively, ingenious, conversabIe, and charm
ing little girls, are often spoiled into dull bash.
ful, silent young ladies'. and all because their
heads are full of nonsense about their beaux
and lovers. They have a thousand thoughts
and feelings which they would be assumed 10
entertain; aud their prc-occupa,ion with a
subject which they had better let alone. pre-
vents their being the agreeable aud rational
companions ofthe gentlemen oftheir acqrain-
tance, which they were designed to be.
Girls get into all sorts cf scrapes bv undu.
ofmind; they misconstrue the
attention into marks Of particular re.
gard, aud thus nourish fancy for a peIsoo
who has never once thought of them but nm
agreeable acquaintance. They lose the en-
oyment OF party, ifcertain beaux are not ther.
whom they expected to meet; they becom.
Jealous o! their best friends If the beaux are
there and DO not talk to hem rs much as thew
wish; every triiie is nlagnifIed into sonetbing
Of imPortance-fruiifaIs source of fmisery-nnd
things of real Importance are neglected. f,r
And all this gratuitous pains-ta-
AIng defeats It's own end, The labor is alt in
1ain; such girls are not the most popnlar.
and those who seem never to have thouobt n
bout matrimcny at all. are sought and prefer-
ID before them. We may add the advice
nat young women should never consider il n
serious misfortune, even If never married
here IS nothing direputabIe, while there mav
'e much happiness ia the condition of an old
naid.-[ Mathew Carey.