Staunton spectator. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 1849-1896, 1850-10-30

Their hearts their fortunes and their beings blend
Marriage is said to be lottery. 1t would seem So III,
deed in some cases. the contrasts extraordinary a
the circumstances so novel; But solemn compact, So
sacred in the ewes of Heaven and the Law and SO cacu
ted TO effect for "beer" or for "worse" no! only the 'e-
poa but the eternal happiness Of the parties should not DC
houpht Of lightly or determined upon rashly we lear
that in too MANY marriages. worldly considerations are per
mtted TO exercise controlling influence Hands are uheo'
not hearts Pecuniary objects, and not harmony o se'
ment constitute the ''motive power" Matches are maze
with reference to ran establishment and not 10 e Vi
peace, tranquility and happiness The best affections '
HIGHEST sympathes are trihed with, and sacrificed II not
sold while the glitter Of fashion and the pomp and vanity
of worldly display, conceal the breaking heart within
Hence the frequent dvoceshe unhappy homes, the lone
" and deserted wives the dssoute and reckless husbands
On The other hand, how many rush into matrlmony VINO
do not duly consider its responsibilities, who take no noe
of the future Controlled by sudden fancy inuen ceu
by wild impulse, they hasten and find "too iae'
that they have assumed position to which they are mad
eouae that The struggles and trials of the world are tear
m that more nerve patience and perseverance are neces
s,rv than thew can command The excitement too, the
deuson may have passed away and they are surprised to
get that they themselves are human abe full OF errors,
and thus they make proper allowances Tor olhers
They become peuan and peevlsh harsh and brutal and
the rosy and sunny home" that was pictured In lhe DAY
of dreams is converted into scene of se and anger oil
nassion and discord They find themselves disappointed
soured The prospect has changed and instead OF dscoV
erino the cause in themselves instead Of pursuing mag
nanimous and manly course, they turn upon the "gene
one into whose they $50 lately" poured iona vows
and earnest poesatons and make her the source o all e
bitterness and vexalon Alas for the victim under such
circumstances How day after day. must her larry dream
fade and the whered reality of long life OF sorrow loom
before her How in her quiet hours, she must remember
her early home and the lavish love that she enjoyed be-
meath the pa,erna roof! At times, too, she may recall
nobe,s lore-and feel disposed TO unburlhen her heart,
and communicate the secrets of her soul 10 the being VINO
watched over her cradle And ye why disturb, why ag-
onze unpecessary-why communicate sorrow that will
only pan and wiring without the means of atordng relief
Blu, there is another side to this picture There gen.
lie ones who forget or neglect their duties, and who' oy
codness aud aspery, make home scene perpetual dis
J The husband is welcomed with frowns Complains
ara ever uppermost Nothing satisfies. Toll on by day or
h., n;rbt and still, The murmur is the same. peevsh, a
eru spirit seems have taken possession oi Inc oe'er
half and after struggling in vain against such CONSTANT
source of dsquet the husband a5andons his nome IN oes
mir and seeks elsewhere for companonshP or at least or
exemption from perpetual (aullfndng How fearful tins
mistake on the part young wves-how they TITLE win
afecton-how they peril peace OF mind! Inc outdoor
world is full of care and anxiety The struggle Tor Inc
re,rs Of subsistence often all the energies OF oody
and mind The competition in trade, the rivalry In bus-
tho v;cisstudes of chance and change, the pers OF
misfortune the treachery of friends
Alas these seldom enter inlo the ordinary reflections of
tbouuhess wife, especially if she be vain, proud and de-
voed to display Her idols are false PRIDE ytatcd oaa'ty
and desire to erce and if her husband does mol minister
IN every whm of the hour, if he hesltaes 10 comply WIN
m demands for funds-f he ventures to demonstrate a.
,ps unnecessary expendues-anger passion and invec'
~ ora nv M means unusual. He may at the moment be
o.sod r., She earth by some sudden monetary eAigency,
ore the exercise of extraordinary moral courage to
,. bis ,ositon and sustain his character--nay need
l,;o, encouraoemen and incentive TO exertion, and
instead find reproaches angry looks and hash "snualocs
,t bome How many have been maddeneo ana ruined
uner these circumstances How in some sudden moment
6 have they abandoned The control OF her own
G,unes and Welded TO the dark impulses OF despair Pa-
nes in trade are bound by the law Of sefnterest to say
nothing of higher and nober Considerations TO assist and
sustain each other by every honorable means Flow much
more incumbent therefore, is such policy IN partners Oh
f and between those who have united themselves or bet
Tor or f,r =between man and wife, who have linked
themselves not only grounds of affection and principles
I'm, t certain extent have made their destnies one How
essential the wisdom and the duty of mutual iooearance
mutual assistance How important that eac should strive
to contribute to the happiness of the oiher-o sooihe the
sorrow and to share the joy counsel and encourage in
emf Of adversy restrain and subdue IN the hour Of
prosperity The bond of marriage, when entered INTO wise
y houghtfuly, kindly and generously is indeed le nond
Of affections of concord and of happiness But Inc oogaon
is mutual and while every husband of right mind and gh'
heart will endeavor to provide to the best Of his ability oF
the neresstes and the comforts Of the being OF his choice
the wife should not forget the smile owecome at nghtal'
the look and the manner Of love that subdued and won-
She sbopd not forget the honor, the Interests the happiness
and nrospey s'of the head of the household, ana 'he
source of all lis comforts Phil Eng
THE FIRST AMERICAN oENsUs.-We nave oIe"
permtted to examine the copy OF an ancient anu Valu
able record, which shows the. population anu prop