The Camden journal. [volume] (Camden, S.C.) 1836-1851, 1850-06-25
TO WIVES.

The first inquiry of a woman after marriage
should be, "How shall | continue the love [
have inspired7 How shall preserve the heart
| have won2"
l. Endeavor to make your husbands habita-
tion alluring and delightful to him. Let it be
to him a sanctuary to which his heart may al
ways turn from the calamities of life. Make
tia repose from his cares, shelter from the
world, home not for his person only, but for
his heart. He may meet with pleasures i'll
other houses, but let him find pleasures in his
own. Should he be detected, soothe hims
should he be silent and thoughtful do not heed
lessly disturb him; should he be studious, favor
him with all practicable facilities; or should he
! be peevsh make allowances for human nature,
and by your sweetness, gentleness and gUod
humor, urge him continually to talk, though he
may not say it, "this woman is comfort to
mel cannot but love her and requite such
gentleness and affections as they deserve"
2. Invariably adorn yourself with delicacy
and modesty. These, to man ofrefinement,
are attractions the most highly captivating;
while their opposite never fails to inspire dis
gust. Let the delicacy and modesty Of the
bride be always, in great degree supported
by the wife.
8. Ifit be possible, let your husband suppose
you think him good husband, and 1t will be
strong stimulous of his being SO. AS long
as he thinks he possesses the reputation he will
take some pains to deserve it; but when he has
once lost the name, he will be apt to abandon
the reality
d. Cultivate and exhibit with the greatest care
and constancy, cheerfulness and good hu:
NOR. They give beauty to the finest face land
impart charms where charms are not. On the
contrary, gloomy, dissatifed manner, is chill
ling and repulsive to his feelings; he will be
very apt to seek elsewhere for those smiles and
that cheerfulness which he finds not at his own
house.
S. In the article fdress, study your hus-
bands taste. The opinion of others OH this
subject is of but very little consequence if he
approve.
g. Particularly shun what the world calls,
in ridicule, "curtain lectures" When you shut
your door at night, endeavor to shut out at the
same moment all discord and contention, and
look on your chamber as a retreat from the
vexations of the world shelter sacred to peace
and affection.
How iudecorous, offensive and sinful it is for
a woman to exercise authority over her bus.
bands, and to say Il will have it so. 1t shall
be as likew But trust that the number Of
those who adopt this unbecoming and disgrace
full manner, is so small as to render it unpeces-
sary for me to enlarge on the subject
7. Be careful never to Join in jest and laugh
against your husband. Conceal his faults and
speak only of his merits. Shun every approach
to extravaganza especially if you are not more
than we'll off, The want of economy has IN
volved millions in misery. Be neat, tidy, or.
derly methodical. Rise early, breakfast carly,
and have place for everything, and everything
in its place.
8. Few things please man more than sce-
ing his wife notable and clever in the manage
ment of her household. A know ledge of cook
ery, as well as every other branch in house
keeping. is indispensable in female, and wife
should always endeavor to support with ap-
plause the character of the lady and the house
wife.
When mans skull is very thick, tits hard to
r,t ;do,s into If. but when once in. of course