Glasgow weekly times. (Glasgow, Mo.) 1848-1861, 1850-05-23

idlers and hangers on, and turn away
coIdly and sneeringly when the indus.
trious, the active, and the thriving ven.
ture TO present themselves. An affinity
of taste is Of course essential to some
extent. A mere marriage of convent.
ence--n which "hands alone consent
and hearts abhor," should be avoided
and denounced by the good and the
wise, no matter what the apparent
worldly advantages. But there is
happy medium. We should not look
for perfection. We should be willing
to bear and fJrbear. The disposition
may be too tame, as well as too violent.
"A slight contrast at times, is by no
means unfavorable. Esteem, regard,
confidence and affection should be great
objects, but all other requisites should
be lost sight of. The young being who
leaves her fathers house. and confdes
her fortunes for veal or for woe TO the
hands of another, should, as a prclimi.
nary step, scrutinizc the character of
the object of her prefcrment and with
no little care. Is he q man in the true,
the eIevating sense Does he feel his
responsibility in undertaking to provide
for partner for life Has he thought
over The matter calmly And is his
action based as well upon reason as up,
on affection! These are natural and
proper inquiries. And with regard to
age, we adopt and endorse The language
of Baron Humboldt in his Letters to
Female Friend :" Whenever there
exists much discrepancy in point of age,
it is impossible that that freedom in
tercourse should take place which tends
to the mental elevation arc happiness
of both parties, or that that pure stream
of thought and sentiment should flow
between them which peculiarly cons,i-
tutes all that's blissful in the intercourse
wv "iAt Wv WV SNAIe.
A mutual flame is delightful. Moth
ing on earth is more essential to happi-
ness in the marriage state. For thus
two souls unite
Like streams Of meeting ffvers,
Whose blending waters are no more dstin-
gu>h't,
But roll into the sea one common food -
Notwithstanding, "ai is not gold that
glistens." The FUTURE should be thought
of as weIl'as the pRrsryr-the cares
and responsibilities as well as the ad.
van'ages and enjoyments. The union,
it should be remembered, is not for
day or year, but for life, let it change
as it may, in sunshine and prosperity
amidst darkness and adversely. But
the young aud inexperienced are not
apt TO think of these things. Hence
they should rely, to some extent al least,
upon parental counsel. The middle
aged and the still more advanced have
experience, which is wisdom. They
have passed through many of the fiery
trials of human existence, and they are,
therefore better prepared to Judge and
TO advise. The permanent happiness Of
their offspring should of course, be the
real object. This cannot be secured
,oHh gold and 0ithom affection-neiih.
er can blind, wild, improvidcnt love,
without talents, means and industry.
"keep the wolf from The door, the
frown from the brow, and sorrow from
the heart. Still, we repeat, there is a
happy medium. We should not look
too high nor stoop TOO low. Selfrcs.
pect is essential, for it is difficult for
any woman, however fond or confidng.
to love husband whom she canno, re-
spect. In the language of an old ster.
ling poet:
" There have been wedlocks joys of swift de-
| cay,
Like lightning, seen at once, and shot away;
But theirs were hopes. which, all unfit to pair,
Like fire and powder, kiss'd, and fiash'd to air,
Thy soul and mine, by mutual courtship won,
Meet like two ningling flames, and make but
one,
Union of hearts, not hands, does marriage
make,
And sympathy ofmind keeps love awake"
WHAT OUR YEARNINGs PRopnEsY-
1t is pleasant, it is ennoblng, to reflect
that the yearnings Of The human soul
after ideal purity, beauty and blessed.
ness, are in themselves prophetic indi,