The Daily spy. [volume] (Worcester [Mass.]) 1845-1850, 1850-06-28
From the (Engish) Christian Witness.
ON MARRIAGE
Intended for the Married and the Unmarried.

| have heard great DEAL at divers times, about
the ordanings and eadings of Providence in connec-
ton with this matter. 1t has been suggested that
! Providence may wisely ordain the unon-no, will
not say union,-the contract of opposite qualities IN
marriage, that thereby the greatest amount OF good
may be distributed The learned shall instruct the
ignorant, the refined polish the rude, the liberal dis
pense the gains of the coveous and Il might almost
as well add) beauty reflect some of Its attractveness
upon the face of uglness. This is very comforta
Bile doctrine for to preach who feels himself bad
| ly mated. Men love TO throw their sins upon the
shoulders of Providence if they can, on circum-
stances, on the devil himself Ii is an easy
way of getting over piece Of egregouS folly. No,
no, friend, just blame your own precipltancy or
thoughtlessness, and let Providence 60 clear Asfor
circumstances, very likely you moulded them TO suit
| your own views and crafty your own passions.
do not believe that Providence intended you to have
any other than one of the best of wives ''A pru-
dent Tor good) wife is from the Lord You see
Scripture is plainly against you. If your wife be
not good one l. e., adapted to your nature and cir
cumstances, you cannot regard her as sent to you
from God, except as punishment for your sins
Had you taken the requisite pains, you might have
found one just adapted to you If there has been
any leading of Providence in the case, very likely
you took the lead yourself This sort of leading of
Providence is rife in the world
shall now address myself particularly to the I'M
married, and more especially to the shall
not say with St Paul, 'sSeell not WIFE | sup
pose you to be thinking about the matter, perchance
to be- Seeker" Yet would say seek not, I'M
less thou seekest rightly tell thee, FRIEND ii is the
most important step of thy life, thou mayest here
after find. Pause, therefore, and consider little
Think what thou shouldst love most, and what thou
shoudst be likely to love the longest. Believe me,
you can love just as deeply, and far more safely, if
your reason and Judgment have considerable TO say
ilt1r nCfaO H.. 4
the deepest, strongest and most lasting kind and |
am sure that reason is no enemy to this If you
suffer yourself to be blinded by show and gilt
ter, and are at the same time led by some blind Gu
pid, you, at least, will be likely to IS fall into the
ditch" | have known those who have regretted
that, IN the choice of wife, they were led so much
by passion, and sottle by reason were so thought
less In matter OF SO great Importance. Many, very
many, bestow far more pains in the choice of a
house, horse dress, than in the selection
OF wife or husband The house must be carefully
examined, the good points Of the horse looked after
and the dress turned over and over but compan-
ion for life the sharer of ones joys and sorrows the
manager of all our domestic concerns,-this is moth
mg--hit or miss-here goes say, be not hasty in
this business. olS-think before YOU commit
yourself A knot of this kind is easily tied but
like the old Gordian knot, it cannot be united
Death alone cut it, and | would not have YOU
think him long in coming
) One of the great objects for which marriage was
instituted is, conceive, the intellectual and NOR
al Improvement of the parties. The object is a high
} permanent one. The union ought to be formed
With view to the whole life of man his intellec-
tua and moral life his life here and hereafter
How few look upon the matter in this light and en-
ter upon 1t with such views g Something transcend
ental,-Ut oplan,-can't be made to enter into every
day life" Ha say you so They are the only
views worthy Of the union of two immortal beings
They who marry with such views and feelings will
be married body and soul both. The highest happi-
ness can rest on foundation but that which
is laid IN the human soul. Beauty, wealth, eouip
age, all that is outward, may be swept away in
moment, or, fcontlnued, may not satisfy Inellec-
tual and moral qualities are more sure possession
, lime serves but to improve them and the enjoyment
OF them never clogs Marry your wifes soul, friend
marry her soul. Let its qualities attract YOU Then
. every acquisition which she makes, every davis ex-
perlence, every book she reads, will aid in her on
ward progress, and render her more capable of min
sterng to your improvement and happiness. Do
you not want wife capable of assisting YOU to be-
, come wiser and better, as well as to patch your
clothes, darn your stockings, cook your dinner p
Alas alas how many think a woman need TO know
nothing else. Such might almost as well marry a
thread and needle, knitting or cooking
: stove What II you are a mechanic, farmer or a
day-laborer! May not, ought not mechanics farm
ers and day-laborers to grow wiser and better p
Have you not veritable soul, capable of improve
ment: Anddo you not want a wife with soul p
Darning stockings and cooking dinners are important
AFFAIRS (he latter especaly,) and may be peculiarly
SO to you. l know not, however, why woman
with soul,-a feeling, thinking, cultivated SOUL
may not do these things. There is no good reason
why you should not take the most elevated views of
this subject, and go about this business in sensible
rational manner. Do you say, ''One can scarcely
md the article you recommend Somewhat diff
cult, allow. But it is to be feared that little de-
mand exists for wives of this sort. Let the demand
become general, and the article speaking after the
manner of men) will soon come to market. Higher
ground must be taken, higher views must be incul
Gated. The true object the whole object of mar
rage must be understood and felt, and husbands and
wives must be educated in view of it, ere thew can
become all to each other that God designed.
have urged deliberation upon the unmarried II
Is indispensable to wise choice Do YOU remember
the old saying, marry in haste and repent at lei
sure" Think of that. If you are very Young.
pray wait till you get to be few yeas older You
need the rpest judgment possible for this business.
Inc eyes OF sixteen do not see things in the same
light as do the eyes of wenty-three or four. Seven
or eight years at this period Of your life will improve
your vision wonderfully. especially if you look well
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