The Arkansas banner., 1849-10-30
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T soms one hash nast. "sssut masrimeny Is with
 weea the gFcss basiavse q llss wieFeas with asel
 a is ealy se inesaent,' aa laspessant sue. ,o be
 aare, bat only aae amamg EAany to wAioh lheir ut-
 tsasea is darsessd aaa often kept ealireiy out oI
 view during several years o tlseF early llfs New,
 this dif<repee gives the her great sdraa,agr
 over you; and the best way Co eqnalEc yaaE lot ai
 beeensc as wise as they arc, is to thiak as li,ie aheaG lt they dc.
 The less your miBd dwells upen lovers and ss.st.
 rlf.,ony the more agreeable ana profitable wllI le | your intercourse with gentlemen If you Fegaru
 men latelieesaai beings, who have access to eer.
 iaia sources of knowislge oi which rom are de-
 pfyed, aNd seek 10 derive all the benefit yoa can from their peculiar atasanents and experience If yea talk to them as rstioaal being should with smother, and never remind tesn that ysa aFs can didates for matrsmeay--yeu viii si1ay far mere th.u you csa by regarding ihem asdss lA@t one ss- pect of possible futare admirers aud lovers. Whoa that Is the rolliag and absorbing toaght you have
 no, the proper of yoas faeahise; your Inamaers are eena,fained and awk ard. yaa are easy emhar-
 rassed and made to say what s Hi-ladgpd, ssly aad oat Of place; and yoa defeat yoar own views by appearing lo q great disadvantage.
 ] However secret you may be ia these speculations 1 if you are Continually thinking of them. and at. taching undue i'apcrtance 10 the acqnaiatance of gentlemen, II will most certaay show itself ia your nsaunerS and conversstioa. and will betray weak that Is held a especial contempt by the stronger sex,
 Since the customs of society have awarded ,o man the priviiedgs of making the first advance to-. ward naatrinopy, it ts the safest aud happlesf way for woman 10 leave the matter entirely ia his ha.s She shoald be educated az to consider that the great ead of existence preparation for eterntsy-- may be edBally attained in married or single llfe and iat 10 anion but the most perfect aae is at at desirable. Matrimony should be considered ss s,, incident in life. which, fiji come al ali, must come without any contrivsHcs of yours; and therefore you may safely put a~tdr at thoughts of il till some forces the subject upon your notice by pEofas- sions ef particular interest in you.
 Lively, Ingenious, coaversabie. and charmlur little girls are often spoiled Into un bashfi se ut yonag ladies'. aud all bcesuse their heads full of soasease about beaax aud lovers. They have a thousand thoughts aud feelings which they would be ashamed to confess, though not ashamed to en- teFtatn; and their pre- occupation with sabiect which they had better let entirely aioue, prevents them being the agreeable aud rational companions of the geauernen of tlieir acquantsnes which they were drsigued to be. 4b
 Girls get into ali sorts of scrapes by uadue pre- 1 occupation oI mind: they misconstrue the cum
 mouest attentions into marks of particular regard. | and thus nourish n fancy for person who has 1 never thought o( them ba. agreeable seq quaiHtance. They lose the enjoyment Of party. if certain beaux not there whom they expected
 to meet; they become jeaeps of their best friends l if the hesax there and do not talk 10 them as
 much as they wish, every triAe Is magnthed Into something of uportance-a fraisfal source Of
 misery-sad things of real importanee peglcc 1 ted for ehimeras. And all this gratsiteus paints
 taking defeats it's own sndsl The labor k all in
 vain; such girts not the most popular and those who seem uever. 10 have thought about usatrmeHy
 at all, sought and preferred before them. We
 may add the advice. that young women should mol
 consider n serious misfortune, even if never mar. ried: tisere Is nothing diarrpatsbIe, while therr may be much happiness ia ths eeadiiioa of aD old maid.