Keowee courier. [volume] (Pickens Court House, S.C.) 1849-current, 1849-06-23
ETIoUETrE ron GENrnEMEN.


we find the following chapter from new
work on etiquette:
In the intercourse Of social life the inn
portance of little things is very great.
Trifies are capable of expressing great
er degree both Of regard and disregard
than larger actions. If you are attentive
in trivial affairs it is said your regard ex-
tends even to the smallest considerations
if you are neglectful in light and unimpor-
tant matters, it is observed that you have
not enough respect to be civil even in the
minutest concerns. That person who
picked up the hat of Mr.. Madison at the
flight of Bladensburg exhibited an abase-
ment of fla:tery which it would have been
difficult TO exceed; and that minister who
refused to take up Napoleon's when he
dropped it in the council chamber as
test of the consideration he was held in,
displayed thoroughness of Indifference
which assured the Emperor that his fate
was sealed.
We shall here set down, without or
der or connexion, some points of etiquette
necessary to be known and practised by
him who would be well bred in manner.
AT an evening party you should make
ter you have saluted the lady ofthe house,
and bowling to every lady with whom you
are acquainted. If, also, in any public
room, or place of exhibition, you see any
person whom you know, you should go
and speak to them.
If you meet ladies or gentlemen whom
you do not know at morning visit or a
small evening party, where you sit next
20 them and are brought into contact
with them, converse with them with the
same readiness and ease as if YOU had
known them all your life. Moreover, if,
in walking with one whom you are ac-
quainted with, there are others in the
group whom you do not know, you should
address them precisely on the same terms
on which you speak to your friend On
such an occasion the topics should be
wholly free from embarrassment. A shy
or awkward demeanor towards strangers
in such position is the certain mark of one
not familiar with the great world.
If you are presented to a lady at an
evening party you should call upon her
soon after.
AT an evening party never put tea
cup, wine glass, glass of water, or cup of
lemonade back upon the same waiter
from which you took it. That waiter will
be handed to others, and it will be disa-
greeable TO them to survey an array of
half empty cups and glasses, and perhaps
inconvenient to distinguish which are
fresh and which have been used Anoth-
cr waiter in every respectable house, fol-
lows the first one, for the purpose of re-
ceiving the cups and glasses with which
persons have done, and upon it alone
should they be placed
When the servants are engaged in
handing tea or doing other special service,
You should not withdraw any of them
from that duty by sending them from the
room for any thing elst.-as for glass
of water, piece of ice This is particu-
larly important at a small party, where
there are few servants; and where their
absence will be more inconyenient.
If, in walking, you meet friend, ac-
companied by one whom you do not
know, speak to both. Also, if you are
walking with friend who speaks to
friend, whom you are notacquainted with,
you should speak to the person; and with
as much respect and ease as if you knew
the party If you meet man whom
you have met frequently before. who
knows your name, and whose name you
know, it is polite to salute him.
At dinner, there should not be much
conversation during the first course,
while the meats are receiving attention.
AT least, during that season the remarks
which are made should be brief and quiet,
and not upon earnest or exciting topics.
Long stories should be avoided, for the
listeners have other organs than the ear,
which they are wishing to exercise at
that time. Alta later part of the enter
tainment, discourse is agreeable
If you are at small party where tea
Is made in the room, you should not en-
ter into conversation with the lady who
presides at the table, and you should not
draw your chair close to her. She has
need OF all her attention in arranging and
preparing the tea-waiters, and she also
requires room for her arms.