The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1849-08-22

studying it q little they will find it con-
tains some excellent admonitions.
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!. C0IHrting, va. Attention.
ssThis is a subject which, always i'm.
portant,i is becoming peculiarly SO, and
we designto call the attention Of the
young people occasionly, in hope of ar
resting an alarming and destructive
evil.
Young ladies are bound to fall in love
as soon Us possible, and bound to be to
o partner for life, as soon as the neces-
cary spreliminaries can be made..-.such
as getting o lover, fascinating him thor.
oughly, being courted, having tho
question popped, getting the wedding
garments in array, and inviting friends
to see them prettily married. The
young man is bound to be gallant and
polite and to admire, without stint,
/ oil the pretty young girls known and
unknown; to doff the beaver, offer
his arm, invite to the ride, the pie
asant saunter--in short, to all an
sundries indeed to show his devotion
and gallantry towards the sex, until
some enchantress throws her spell
around him, and he sinks, subdued; in
to o common place, indifferent, careless
Benedict.
Now out Of these things grow Difficult.
ties. A young man admires pretty
girl, and must manifest it; he cannot
help doing so for the life Of him. The
young lady has atender heart, reach.
ing out like vine tendrils for something
to cling to, she sees the admiration, is
flattered, begins soon to love, expects
some tender avowal, ond perhaps gets
30 far rs to decide that she will choose
awhile satin under thin gauze, &c.,
at the very moment the gallant, that
che loves, is popping the question
(good! ha! ha! to another damscl ten
miles off. Now the difficulty lies in
not precisely understanding the differ
ence between polite attentions and tho
tender manifestations of signing love.
Admiring beautiful girl, and wishing
to make wife of her, are not always
the same, and therefore, it is necessary
that a girl should be on the alert to dis
cover to which GLASS the attentions paid
her by handsome and fashionable young
gentlemen belong. IL is hard to draw
the exact line of separation between pc-
lite attentions and downright courting,
but our great age and extensive expert
ence have enabled us to observe enough
to aid the young and artlcss in deciding
this matter.
First then---.if young fellow greets
you in loud, free and hearty voice
ifhe knows precisely where to put his
hat, or his hands.---if he stares you
straight in the eye with his own wide
open---ifhe turns his back to you to
speak to another--if he tells you who
made his coat-if he squeezes your hand
1.-The oats heartily in your presence
if he fails to talk very kindly Of your
mother---if he sneezcs when you arc
singing, or criticises your curls, or fails
to be very foolish in fifty ways every
hour, then don't fall in love with him
for the world; he only admires you, let
him do or say what he will. But if he
, merry with every one else, but quiet
with you; ifhe be anxious to see that
your teais sufficiently sweetened, and
your dear person well wrapped up
when you 90 out in the cold; if he talks
very low and never looks you in the
eye; if his cheeks are red, or if he be
pale and his nose blu, it is enough; if
sle romps with your sister, sighs like o
pair of bellows, looks solemn when you
arc eaddressed by another gentleman,
and in fact, is tho most still, awkward, !,
stupid, yet anxious Of your male friends,
you may 60 ahead and invoke the shaft
Of Cupid with perfect safety, and make
the poor fellow too happy for his skin
to hold him."
The young ladies in some parts OF New
Jersey arc said to be 30 tender hearted, that
when poor fellow Is distressed for the want
of d wife, they place themselves in his way
that he may have chance to make one of
them an offer.
The tone of good company is marked by
the absence Of personalities. Among well in
formed persons, there are plenty OF topics to
diacuss, without giving pain to any one pre-
sent--without submitting to act the part of
q bun, or of that still poorer creature, the
wag that plays upon h;m.
There are some minds which we must
leave TO their idiotism.
Mrs. Gummy was rending the papers
tho other day, when she held up both
hands, and declared that the insane com.
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