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The trivial causes that annually bring 50
many parties befose oar Legislature for the
purpose Of being legally and forever sepa-
/ rated, ought to inculcate few healthy, prae-
tical Instructions They cannot fail to sug-
gest to cbservant persons the characteristic
| fact that almost al serious difficulties BE-
tween married parties grow out Of the most
insignificant beginnings, that might have
been, and ought to have been, swept out Of
existence at the outset :.
| While much comes TO light in the investi-
CATION Of the cases Of applicants fer divorce
that is eminentiy amusing, not to say ridden
lous, we think that the commencement of all
the difficulties will in most instances be found
| to be Of like character Avery little merry
Gus excitement, aeelnpaniea with a few
tears, and afterwards resolution to be
little spunky, just to prove Tho depth of grief,
| trifing neglect and afterVaEds in the pro-
cess of events growing and decided aver
sion--these, and the like of these, in ma.
jority of the cases brought out to public no
tice, are the kind and amount of feeling and
treatment that soon effect d confirmed alien
| alton and final separation R parties, who
with ordinary pains could have gone " down
life's hill together with uniFnpaired lappi-
ness. III
In too many cases of marFiagnpne party
is apt to expect to find the other perfect. -
The husband looks for traits id his wife which
he has long since despaired of ever discover
ing in himself; and. the wife often calculates
on finding model in the character of her
husband which is morally inconsistent with
human nature. Much of the, torture of the
disappointment met with on both sides might
be removed, if the thousand and one dis.
guises, not to call them deceits, which are
practised with SO fatal success BY both par
ties before matrimony, were all torn away.
II two persons will not use their practical
common sense in their acquaintance with
each other before marriage, they must expect
to find a mass of rough experience in store
for them after its contamination If par
ties who desire to join their fortunes for life,
have any good senses they ought to employ
it in making discoveries with reference to
each others disposition. Hi
More than half the little chickering's that
constantly arise between husband and wife
under the infrmities Of human nature would
all die out of themselves or dryup like thin
grass before the geAial warmth sof natural
affection, if they were not studiously, but in
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Almost mistaken manner, paraded before the
attention Of others Weknow that q bruised
spirit needs sympathy and consolation. -E
That is natural But what sort Of sympa.H
thy is that which mere busy bodies snow one8
who take advantage of tile confidence rel
posed in. them only to widen The breach thew
have discovered, and to swell the torrent Of
passion they know they could never dimins
ish Those who are least interested Id tho
niatter-those who create andireport scandal
for their own qualification busy bodies and
fast takers who insinuate themselves where
they should never be allowed to go-thes&
ofeGhe tsntnp yiir,t-
ton between married parties, and their triis
umph is only complete when the rupture has
could have less to do with The family Inat
tiers of others, there is but little doubt that
those matters would take much better care
Of themselves H H
The married state is by nd means state
Of perfect happiness We mist enter upon
itresolved and expecting to have to I" bear
with one anothers infrmitiesp We are but
mortal, and they who generally expect and
demand the nearest approach to perfection
in others, will generally be found to have d
very indefinite idea of the term themselves.
The nearest we may go towards real happi
ness in the married and SOCIAL state is bg
practising a system Of mutual forbearalce
and concession. If more Of this were prae
tised, and less brooding oysr wrongs ana
neglects, too often imaginary were INDUCED
in, we should hear far less of troublesome
divorce cases, and see much more of unalloyel
enjoyment in families = Hartford CoardHH