The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1849-04-07
From the Pennsylvania Mqu'rer.
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THE MANNER AND THE HEART.

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THE MANNER AND THE HEART.
Who will not givo
Some portion Of his ease, his blood, lis wealth,
For others good, is poor frozen ciurl.
JOANNA BAnIE.
1t is in vain that we would cnldly gaza
On such rs smile on us; the heart must
Leap kindly back to kindness though disgust
Halt. wean'd 1t iIoin all wor,l'i.-'s
BYnoEs Chile Harold.
Ls7lfyouug people could lea Use to the prop
er extent, the advantages Of courtesy of manner
tone and conversation, they would cultivate the
quality as one Of tie gentlcr viIurs--oue loo,
circulated not only to swecten and brirItcn Tie
social circle, but to assist and promote prnspcr-
lily in the commercial and business world. Many
a heart has been won by an act of civility, by u
| kindly word, generous act, an expression Il,
| once astablc and polished. II is so easy too, to
lie courteous. Let the system be adopted IN
early life, and it will soon become habitual, and
adorn and beautfy the character ike grace.
The courteous man can be detected at n glance
His voice, his look, his mannor-alI partakc Of
the gentle and. tie reGncd-whila his smile i /;
frightened with the sunshine of the heart
There are. moreover, a thousand little civilities
in which the courteous disposition is made dis
tnct and palpabe. Scarcely day goes by, that
we are not indebted 10 friends and neirhbors for
some act Of kihdness-some unsolicited favor,
trtiing in Itself, perhaps, but which nevertheless
indicates the temper and the heart, and should
he responded to IN like spirit. 1t is related of
Hen. Washington, that courtesy was one Of the
most beautiful attributes his character TIE
rich and the poor, the humble and the exalted,
were recognized b. him in spirit of Kindness
and good will, and ha would return in the
prompIes, manner, the bow of the humblest in
.l,,, lF,nl ,tfti! !. 4,
this indeed is the Characteristic of the truo gem
tleman, OF all who recognize no distinction save
lhcse produced by vir'ue in contrast with vice,
by kindness in opposition TO harshnoss. 1t is.
However, amusing sometimes to observe the
dcierrence winch is paid by narrow minds TO the
rich, simply because they arc rich. They win
bow, cringe and finlier before millionaire, as
If he were superior being, while poor man,
however meritorious, will he regarded by them
hot only with Indifference and contempt but
sometimes with insoonce. They do not under
stand the true nature ofcouresy They cannot
appreciate the ml!der and gentlcr virtues 1t
Citen happens TOO, that exactly in proportion as
IA man accunlnates wealth, lie becomes imperi-
Gus, tyranniCal, rude, and discourlcous He
iances that money gives him privilege above
ordinary lie, and he says in manner, IL not sub
stance. 81 am one ofthc favored sons OF fortune
and have therefore u right to be rude and over
bearing"
Let us not be misunderstood We would not
have an individual, no matter what his position
in the community, play the parasite and by af-
ieclaton or excess Of politencss. degrade himself
and lecome an object of red,cule There are
limits even to courtesy. Manner and compli-
ment may be overdone. A constant reference
to the same topics and frequent acknowledge
meht Of sight avors is ever in bad taste, willie
iusome hatterv is not only hypocritcal. but Of
'cnsvc and insulting to the cultivated and cor
rect. There is a medium IN all things, Coure-
sy, to be effective should be easy, graceful, and
natural. 1t should, IN some sense, be involun-
tary, spring from the heart, tho feelings, and
the sensibilities. 1.-THE world at large were on
~ courteous, life would receive new charm,
Many circle, how discordant. would be made
harmonious and happy, and much irritation, ILL
Will and bitterness of feeling would be avoided
We some days since heard a young lady conf
plain because of supposed slight on the part Of
an acqua ntance.-The matter was incurred in
to, and it was ascertained that the complainant
was really the Offending party, that she had ne
elected Vtrous acts OF courtesy that were due,
had treated her friend with indifference, neglect
and marked GOODNESS, until the latter, panied and
mortified: had supposed her Society was not a
greeable or desirable, ana had acted according
~ Occurrences of this kind are quite common.
i"o VII - t'"t tuo many OF US are clspoSHu 10
enact more than we are willing to accord. We
see dlscourtesy IN others, and are not able to
recognize it m ourselves. We could point out
more than one individual in this city, w.o is in
the habit Of turning aside when he meets II
friend or acquaintance, simply to avoid the
trouble OF an interchange of compliments; while
others again vii! pass on. apparently distracted
in thought, when the real objec, is 10 escape mo-
tico. Sad errors these, and they lead in many
cases to serious consequences. Nothing annoys
a man so much as suspicion or belief that an
acquaintance desires to shun or avoid him. he
may care little about tho intimacy in general
sense, and may be quite willing TO terminate it
ut once. But seli-prde will not permit, with
IMMUNITY, contemptnous termination, and the
imagination, ever vivid on such occasions is apt
to conjure up thousand causes for the slight
whether w'ltu' or accidental, and to stir up feel
lngS o! Indignation, not to say revenge 1T is
Often," says torcible writer, mot the great but
the little acts of inci,ility, that are treasured
up and remembered" And this is strictly true.
'Trfes, light as air. sometimes color the
whole future of a mans life. Harsh things said
even in jest, often rankle and tester for years
while kind words and courteous acts are ever
recalled, and dwell upon with pleasure,
Sweet as refreshing dews, or summer showers,
To the long parchng thirst Of dropping flowers;
Grateful as tanning gales to faintng SWANS;
And soft as trickling balm to bleeding pains,
Are courteous words.
DRAINING.-On the subject of drain