The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1849-02-24
From Chnmher-' Iournal
There are Faults on Both Sides,

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nv Tne LArr MRS, JANIS GHAY,
Perhaps there hro no disngrermenlr u,
! WHICH lhn cnniepdinF parties ag.i ga hard Ia
100 rccopciied ~ -tofc Designated 'fniuily
qunucls' nm ibis II lho casr ID u question
Involving hmultiiuie OF considerations ou
uuly Que or Two of which we con briefly
touch Tor The preroul, II May proceed iu
some dcgter irnui the same prnriplo on
which u grounded tho old ndhgcl 'l'nmil-
inrity breeds contempt lie IL MS own 70.
lnlion' surely have riglG :, nd'i-o him.
SHE h my own cousidi Il II lufd lfOuc cuu-
uoI speak oho'r mud freely To 20 urnr con
uecli"n' forgetting tbHt Tho very pdis.oluhlo
uniuro Of tic Iio existing between Tho parties
I NJ, NJ ~ a nihrrlHRc, M eNtra rcntnu for hnl
l"rbenrauco which should over ho prRciiccd
between man aud man ignip, there nrr
I ufcn in families cishiug Interests, requiring
1 ,he exercise uiIusticc, kiudncFr, md impair
tally 10 adjust tlIrm satisfactorily. and these
uuu,,es are by no means 80 common AZ
Homo less spuuiic orrs 30 small portion
Ji The qunrrrls IN families begin from This
soprcc. hut u family qunrrclH nTc bitter and
vindiclvc, there H. another less open species
ofwarihrr perpeiuully going ou IN some fam
lies, which N not 80 enslly defined or even
20 easily recoucilrd. "A shyncsK,' "a cold.
l'bT lN'HN Wlf ll' lfilNa ny winch " ~
designated; aud Il consists IN u thousand little
unchnrtnblc nets and feelings, in which both
PARTIES ARE generally pretty equuly to blame.
The ihct OF who was the original nggrcsrur,
or wh0t the aggression was, n lost IA the dis
tHncc; but each has multitude of complaints
To make of the other, aud this continued TN.
plensautncss H.. thus kept up nud fumcuird
hy tie commission of many faults ON both
sides. In illustration tnhc the following true
story;
Jamcs aud William Bolton were brothers
residing ia flourshing manufacturing town
tho eldest aud youngest ofH large ihniiy q,
tho intermediate branches OF which were
scattered through ihn four quarters Of the
world. james tie elder. had ulso passed ~,
good portion Oils early life abroad and re-
turning to lils nnilSc country with a consid-
cradle property. bQd been drawn 10y the
't'oggin OF n"'n'll IL lion, Or; to- ,sii, ami
SECONDLY to sGitlc Ia Tie locality where his
only ucnr relative NOW in England VAS al,
ready residing. William had he1u married
r,r Two or three Ncnrs, nud WIS the taller OF
Two children u boy and girl lie had mar
':!"d tmdy Of small rcad"moCSY i;sGrc,ty,
which had boon very useful 10 him IN tt bus.
mess requiring moro extensive cnpitnl
than lac had himself possessed; aud she he
ing what Is usually called clever manager
IA shrcwd, motive domestic pcrsonngc
was considered that William Bolton had
tiiatlr M excellent match. Whether n'wus
the sighi OF his hruthcr's domestic happiness,
or that lac thought house Of his+owu would
be prrErruhlo la The lodgings lac now occu.
t,ied, know not. hui before lac had been M
home many months, James Bolton nnnounr-
ed to lis brother TINT he wns disposed 10
injury; mud withiR n year after hR return To
England he had led TO the hymeud altar
lndy not 80 young as To bc denonunlcd girl,
Net scarcely 80 old NJ to he reported ola GER
laiM~Sc. Mrs. William Bolton, who for w.
rious rNYsons was not fully satisfied with tic
match, NaH quite sure that five years might,
withou, lnIuslice, be- added to the thirty the
lady owjrd to, and wondered she did not
wear ciIs. IN would look 80 much ihorp re-
spsetilfir, my ,ieHf, considering youE broth
+-r- ee-, e4te remarked "a t.sE- AIaAlanli.
BE this - it may, ia the course ofu few
years Me-. James hccHme the mother VI
numerous aud thriving family, While Mrs
Willinni'S. with the addition oin lHIle girl
boru in the same year with Mrs. James sec
ond, reunined unchanged But hy the tine
ten years of matrmony hud gone over the
head of ti4s elder brDther,-nnG of The Shy.
nesses,' the 'nplcnsnniness' so -nnaccounin.
bic, so apparauily lnscrutnbl6, To which al
ludeJi IN the beginning OF this Story, had H.
risen between the families, mud seemed rath-
er Ia increase thnn to diminish with ench
succeeding year. Not between the brothers.:
their affections was undilninished; their
greetings as kind md cordial as ever. Bul
they seldom met, az IL secretly conscious of
the disunlon amongst the allied powers,
aud never alluded to the circumstance.
Mrs. William Bolton wns indeed curious
compound. She was, as we said, shrewti,
managing aud active; she was tolernblv we'll
informed; had beenn good daughter To in
hrm parents, was an -ittectorpte wife and u
doing mother. Besides this she had Il kind
aud warm heart, aud would have given, To
use cotimon expression, tho very clothes
OIL her hhck 10 succUr the distressed for
whom her feelings were Interested But She
was i''iF 81 prejadices, sorini moral md no
iitlchi, and gwen Ia express herself on unny
orcnsions more strongly ihpn-the occnsion
warranted; this she chilled mn honest sbeakinr
Of her mud, while many considered il ns
rude nnd abrupt. She was Of n GOOD family
liar husband Indeed the only ~. l..r- ir,-i,-
they had all been Ia professions bofure; nud
she had rather lowering den of rrn,le.-
She kept little cOmpany-;tlSt, because she
son, n woman who had n family To- look after
had something else TO do Than gsd about; sec
ondiy, because there were few in her own
sphere whom she liked well enbugh TO pu
herself ont of the way to visit; Mud she had
not The lens, idea of amy duty <ho owed to
society, which SHOULD mike 6er spend her
time with those she did not care5iar There
were, however, n chosen few who rnn nearly
parallel TO herself in prejudices which they