The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1849-11-09
Young Mems Department.
From tie Ner York Organ.
Autumn Evcn'ss with u Dung Men
BY UNCLE BEN.
SOCIETY OF THE OTHER SEX.

BY UNCLE BEN.
il SOCIETY OF THE OTHER SEX.
One of the leading influences by whie
the character Of young men is affected.
E female society. Our opinion is decided
that il is almost without exception high
advantageous TO young men TO seek the so
cie,y ard friendship Of estimsLle person
Of the other sex. Whatever may be Oh
Jected against early marriages on the scort
Of prudence, i, must be admitted that 10 thu
society Of intelligent and vlrtuous females
young men acquire Improved sentiment.
and manners. and are eTectuaIly guarded
against forming coarse, vulgar, aud vicious
habits sEd associations.
There is no period Of life wien the mild
and amiabe rflience of the CENTER sex is
so much needed, and at no other time IS
that influence SO powerfully felt. Young
men associaiing exclusively or chiefly with
young men, Stimulate each other TO folly
and excess, and he is the best fellow no
can carry excess TO the iarthest limit
Or let young man shun association with
those Of his own sex aud age, and he will
become morose, melancholy, or perhaps
bashlul, awkward, or sill worse mlsan,hro
pic. 10 either case, the Influence upon h.
character and habits is unlavorabe.
But lie. Dung man devote portion OF
his leisure 10 we'll chosen female society,
and he will coon realize the advantage Of
II, IN The oiening Of his manners, the re
fnement Of his tastes and feelings, and the
ease Of his address. lie will lose his relish
for coarse and pre- h'ga'e companions and q.
musemens, and will be satisfied with that
cheerful and innocent h,lafity, which among
young men exclusively, is apt to generate
INTO rudo end boislerous inertia eni, if not
dissipation.
The Difference, respect, politenesss, and
general desire 10 please, which Young man
Will feel towards a young lady, he will
learn 10 exhibit towards all with whom he
holds intercourse. His manner in all com.
pa0Ies thus becomes subdued ard gentleman
ly. In addition TO this, the ba bit Of ming.
ling with female society naturally creates a
desire TO possess their esteem, end this sup
pies new motive for the practice of all
those virtues which constitute a msnly.
honorable, and esiimable character. Many
q time will the young man fnd himself re.
strained from folly aud vice by The consid.
era'ieH that he has q character TO sustain,
not only With young men like himself, bu,
with the sex whose good opinion he values
more. Many a chiyalrous aud noble deed
is prompted 1ow. as well as 10 The oden
TIME, by the though, lha. woman is scan.
ming our course.
For these and other reasons, We would !
advise young men 10 form friendships 10
liberal extent among sensible and estima
BILE young ladies, and TO endeavor 10 de.
serve their esteem and respect, not by play.
ing the ladies' man, bu, BY substantial worth
Of character. We know there are many
Y Dung men who profess 10 think very light (
y OF female intelligence ard friendship, and .
y no seem 10 regard 1t as mark Of mani.
ness to speak disparagiugly Of the sex. We
always stand in doubt Of such young men.
There is something wrong, and generally
rotten about tina. young man
no sneers 81 the society or females.
We are quite wiling TO take another step,
md no, only advise The cultivation OF fe.
male friendships, bu, in ordinary cases We
hiuk young men do well 10 SEEK out their
uture partners for life. Even where III NAV
De bes,to postpone for years the marriage
iulon, it will do no harm to form an engage
nent. In thousands Of cases, love for an
Intended wife is the grand safeguard agons,
vice and temptation, aud The most aefful
Stimulus TO industry, economy, and perse.
'erance. Besides 1t promotes stability of
character, aud guards young man agains,
becoming that most contemplate OF beings,
, male coquette.
For our own par, we are seldom fright
ened with any VISION OF famine aud wan,
when we hear of young people actually get.
ling married before they have laid up store
Of wealth. Worse things than that are
lone every day. And Tor aughl we have
ever seen or known TO the coultary, Young
people seem to &c, along abou, as
well as II they had waited few years long.
En- People talk abou, the burden of wife
and family, jus, as if loving, industrious
wife did not share instead oflncreasiny the !
load of life; just as though most men did .
not waste aud spend more before marriage
than siler.