The organizer. (Oxford, Miss.) 1845-18??, 1849-04-14
POPPING THE QUESTION.

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him, and there are few who do not
find their moral courage tasked to the
utmost.
Many a man who would lead a
forlorn hope, mount a breach, and
"seek the bubble reputation even at
the cannon's mouth" tremble at the
idea of asking a woman the question
which is TO decide his fate. Ladies
may congratulate themselves that
nature and custom have made them
the responding party.
81 In a matter which men have al.
ways found so terrible, yet which,
in one way or other, they have always
cOntrived in some awkward way to
accomplish, it is not easyIo give in
structions suitable to every emcr.
gency. r<
A man naturally conforms to the
disposition Of the woman he admires.
IL she be serious, he will approach
the awful subject with due solemnity
If gay and lively, he will make it
an excellent jOke-if softly sentiment
tai, he must WOO her in a strain Of high
wrought romance, aud if severely
practical, he relies upon straight for
ward common sense.
There is one maxim Of universal
application. Never lose an opportun.
ity. What can woman think of a
lover who neglects onel Women
cannot make direct advances, but they
use infinite tact in giving men occa-
sions to make them. In every case 1t
is fair TO presume that when woman
gives a man an opportunity she ex.
poets him to improve il; and though |
he may tremble, and feel his pulse |
and tingling through every
limb; though his heart fills up his
throat, and his tongue cleaves to the
roof Of his mouth, yet the awful ques
lion must be asked-the fearful task
accomplished.
In the country. the lover is taking a
romantic walk by moonlight, with, the
ady of his love-talks OF the beauties
If the scenery, the harmony of nature
ind eXclaims-
"Ah Julia, how happy would ex.
stence prove, II | always had such a
.s..,r.. II
She signs, and leans more fondly 4
N the arm that tremblingly supports I
er. ID
"My dearest Julia, be mine for. q
yer p
This is a settler, and the answer, /
yer so inaudible, makes or undoes i
i'm quite. "
"Take pity on a forlorn bachelor" q
avs another, in a manner which may d
6 either Jest or earnest-"Marry me d
t'once and put me out Of misery" d
"With all my heart, whenever you a
re ready" replies the laughing fair. S,
joke carried thus far is easily made b
arrest. il
A point is often carried by taking a h
ling for granted. A gentleman who d
as been paying attention TO a lady, n
lys-- "a
"well, Mary, when is the happy n
ay?" ii
"What day, pray :" she asks with a al
luscious blush. d.
why, every body knows we are n,
,ing to get married, and il might as OF
ell be one time as another; so when to
all il bel" ri
Cornered in this fashion, there is no VI
treat. CO
Jane, | love you viii you marry nc
ei" would be somewhat abrupt, in
ID frankly given. "Yesl' would be er
ort and sweet for an answer. tr
aElIen, one word from you would W
AXE me the haPpiess man in the al
Iiverse." -.... nc
II should be cruel not 70 speak it, CO
en-, unless IL is avery hard one,,n III &C
ut is a word Of three letters. and at
swers the question. WiliyOu have M
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The lady, Of course, says eyes. IN "A
s she happens % prefer word Of 20
" two letters, and answer @noE IL
And 50 this interesting and terrible lin
ocess, in practice as simple a. L Il pa
theory, is varied in a hundred Ways fai
,ording 20 circumstances and The on,
nous dispositions. 20
Dne timid gentleman askt-"Have ha'
! any objections 70 changing your Tn
nelT and follows This up with an un'