The Cecil Whig. [volume] (Elkton, Md.) 1841-current, 1849-04-21
A Fircside Sketch.
Domestic Tvrannies,

Domestic Tyrannies.
Nothing is more common in the circle o
ones acquaintance. than 10 find grevou.
suffering inflicted upon families by the url-
leasonableness, bad temper and tyraGnica
disposition ofsome member of The flock
or, as it may be, upon one by the same
qualities III the rest. Almost all other sour
ces of misery become insignificant in app
pearance, when conlrasled with this class
Of woes, for there is none from which re-
use or even temporary anchor is more diff
ticull Of attainment. Ii is like being chain
ed 10 a stake for continual inficton of ,or
ment.
The good are the most submissive to
snch evils. Possessing leas, Of the spiri,
OF resistance or reprisal, and perhaps vene
rating the Very source of their veXations,
they are apt to suffer on aud on, rather
than even let their troubles be known, till
sometimes spirits and health give way, and
hey sink into the grave, victims TO fire.
side pest, Another thing telling sorely
aeains, this order ofsuf1erers, is their shrink
ing dread of that notice of the world
which follows upon anything like afracus
in domestic matters. Anxious 10 maintain
respectable appearances, they chas'en their
faces into an air Of plessau,rv or injihi,r.
erce, while the canker is slowly eating its
way into their hearts. How many cases
of this kind would come into view, had we
an AsmodeuS 10 uncover the aboaes OF
men, and tell US how matters actually stood
with them!
Most persons may svmpathze in the
feelings which promp, ,hi, submissiveness,
and 10 admire the heroism of the sufferers.
A II must feel too, with what delicacy and
caution they would require 10 consider and
treat such Cases, lest they should, by an al,
tempt to rescue the sufferer, break ties wh ,ch
il might have been better 10 keep inviola,e
or induce li-h, feeling in regarding the
ties Of relationship in general 1t neverthe
less appears that we may be carried too
far by our anxiety to preserve family bond s
nnhroker, and that. while due reverence is
paid 10 the ruIo, some allowance onght to
be made for exceptions. II certainly is q
! fact IN nature. that the various individuals
of a family are constituted with every diff.
iereut tempers and dispositions. Some
are morose and sedale, ohels kindly and
cheerful. Some tend to adop, views on the
more solemn class Of subjects very differ
rnl fiom others, are thus led of ulo very
peculiar ikings ard associations, TO which
the rest have no sor! Of affinity. Some are
naturally dogmatic and overbearing, mus,
always have their own way, and manlfes
constant disregard for The feelings OF OH.
ers, while their associates, from The cradle,
are as remarkable Tor their gentle DISPOSE
liors and hab,tGaI coutro OF self Such
being the case ii seeme unreasonable to eX
2ectttIal consanguini'y should necessarily
bind group of morals TO Intimate and
! cons ant association. True. ii is well when
unity Can be inspnsb,e to the lnty of bear
ing and forhearng 'olhe very utmost, in
order to preserve even the semblance oil
peace, since the semblaace is almos, the
first requisite TO the reality. Yet, again, il
( il shaliappear ,la, Il total incompalibily
exists, and that mo.e evil is incurred Than
avoided by the consequent suffering, then
we would plead thai humanity nor only
sanctions. but calls tor dispersion or sep
aration. lie; hose who cannot live happ.
y together, live happily apart. and let soci
ely regard amy apparent eccenlrIcites OF
the kind, with tina, tolerance which is de
manded with regard 10 all the relations oil
life, by the very diversity Of nature which
the Creator has seen ii,o implant in u.s.
II cer,ainy can be no true offence TO A who
lives in harmony with his circle of relations
they happening to be amiable-ll B,
having some who are ofcontrarions temper,
cannot do so. B, in these circumstances.
seems rather entitled 10 the sympathy and
support of A, in any attempt he may make
inoilensivey 10 remove from the annoy
ance
The first contention which every worthy
person must fee! 10 such cases, is with hin
self. He shrnks from The idea VI such W
breaks, as VIC lalive Of every sacred aesocit
tons. II may be asked if these sacred a
socia,ions are fiuinely maintained, or cal
be maintained at all. under a sense of con-
slant wrong and insult, or at least unJe
continual innocent suffering. Does ii no
seem better that We should avoid the har
assmeni, and endeavor 10 cherish the al
,auhment to better purpose in a difieren
sphere Of daily life. But then he is no
les> toiicilous ,hat the world should hsv