The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1849-11-23
Young Mems Department.
From, the New York Organ.
A autumn Evenings with Young Men.
BY UNCLE BEN.
EARLY MARRIAGE.

10 regard 10 the expediency OF marrying
while young, opposite opinions are honestly
entertained bv persons Of judgment. Oue
cla.s. impressed s'ih the great Inconvenience
OF HAVING family TO provide for ~lihou, con
s'dersble means; and con,,der,ng also tho
msny casualties and dIssppo,ntmen,s to ~h,ch
oil ere liable, would advise all candidates for
mstrin,ony TO make haste slowly-ge, ahead
a little IN the world fret. and De in condl
ton to encounter sickness, lack of employ
meni, and the wants OF a family, before a..
sunIn2 marriage responsibility.
IT very often happens, ao9e'er, With those
exceedingly prudeD, people Who determine
10 postpone marriage ull they have sufficient
nesns-'ha, by The time they get means they
are too old. TOO b,cheior,z.d. odd, whimsical
aud hard to suit, ever to &c, marneh. Or IT
they do venture their necks into the moose,
'hry find themselves 90 set 10 their bachelor
~sys. that II 10 next TO impossible to take
naturally and gracefully 10 their ne . relation.
II I VAS young lady should say ono" IA,
to these old young men. should be afraid
should never recover them from The queer
nsiions sDd ways which men almost inva,ia.
bly, contract while living 10 b,chrlorhood.
Our sdmnsble sculptor Hiram Power,
writing to friend Of aha, people call the fol
ly o. marrying ~thou, the means OF supper.
ting 4 family. expresses frankly his own lear.
when he found himself 10 this very position;
but, he adds, 9th characteristic caLdor and
good sense
"To tell the truth. however, firmly and
b..
have TO support them. They have coui.
PEELED me TO make exeriious that l hardly
thought myself capable Of; and often, when
On the eve Of d'spaIr'ns, they have forced me.
like coward IN corner, 10 fight like he
re-. not for m, sell, bu! for my wife and u,e
Dne-."
Tbs fac. is that the expense OF ma,ritnony
need no, be more Than the expense OF living
~ many ofyour young men do, aud If all The
oose change which they waste IN thousand
says sere economically managed by a nee
y lie, they would find tba, il would cost less
OF tao than for one-,hat Q man could &C. |
uslly save money and have The niee wife be.
'ides.
One OF the strongest reasons in favor Of ear
Y marriages Is derived from the fac, tina, the
earlier in life . couple are united the more
esdly and the more perfectly do they ss.im,.
ate IN tastes, manners aud hab,is Of thought,
nd consequently the more likely are they to
'e happy IN each other. The happiness Of
married life depends upon the oneness Of The
husband aud wife, mi ~ legal sense merely
v che fy, but in respect TO their views and
ceilings and tastes. But If their union is de
syed TILL their tastes and habits s,e formed
ever will become one in the latter aud bet.
er meaning OF The term.
Another reason oily young men should
marry early, 70 tina, nothing 10 this wo, Id con.
',bues more TO moral purify and manly char.
c,cr. One Of The mos, d. c,lmInating obser
ers Of humin character has SAID, that no de. J
INTO estimate OF young mans tu.u'e con
uct aud standing can he formed. until ~e
nov what kind Of . wife he will nsrry.- ,
young mau Of any soul aud principle will
'ske effort TO sustain himself and advance
imself IN society which he would 40, b. like 4
, 10 make under other circumstances. He d
III be kept from associations end habits 10. 4
} which he nigh, be iusens,b!y led we're he c
nder no nsrtisge relation. And in various :
ays ~hlch need no, take room to specify,
,s fact of having the interests and happiness r
. worthy and loving woman IN hls keeping. 9
I'll pfomp, any young man who Is no, q I
Iu,e. to make strenuous exeriions TO rise TO q
opor and nj lience in tho weird.
In shor', marriage, to young man, 10 I
'efy,hna. TO elderly men ii may be poll. :
c or espeden,-,o men IN middle life It may
, a comfor, and o solace. But 10 young L
en- 1t is salvation itself temporarily. Il Is A
70 great srrlng Of manly aud honorable effort. d
10 the safeguard against a Thousand temp II
tons and iolI'cs, aud, IN the highest sense T
Solonon's declaration, that young man Fl
no ,ds good vito, finds a good thing. C.