The Democratic pioneer. [volume] (Upper Sandusky, Ohio) 1845-1853, 1849-04-06
POPPING THE QUESTION.

There is nothing more appalling to a
moderate young man, than asking the
girl he loves to marry him, and there are.
few who do not find their moral courage
taxed to the utmost.
Many man who would lead a forlorA
hope, IN cunt a breach. and 'seek the bau-
BILE reputation even at the cannon's
mouth tremble at the idea of asking
woman the question which is to decide
his fate. Ladies may congratulate thems
selves that nature and custom hare made
them the responding party.
10 a matter in which men have always
found so terrible; yet which, in one way
or other, they have always contrived
trived in some awkward way to acccom.
plish; it is not easy to give instructions
suitable to every emergency.
A man naturally conforms to the lis
position of the woman be admires, Ifshe
be serious, he will approach tho awful
subject with due solemnity-if gay and
lively, lie will make it an excellent joke
--if softly sentimental, he must WOO her
in strain of high wrought romance, and
II severely practical, he relies upon
straight toward common sense.
There is one maxim OF universal appiiS
cation. Never lose an opportunity.
Wnst can woman think Of lover who
neglects one? Woman cannot make di-
rect advances, but they use INFINITE tact
in giving men occasions to make them. In
every case it is fair to presume that when
woman gives man an opportunity, she
expects him to improve it; aud though he
may tremble, and feel his pulse thro bins
aud tingiing through every limb; though
his heart fills up his throat, and hia tongue
clerves TO his mouth. yet the awful ques-
ton must be ssked--!he fearful task ac
complished.
lu the country, the lover is taking a
romantic walk by moonl ght, with the la.
dy Of his love-talks OF the beauties Of the
scenery, the harmony of nature and ex.
claims
'Ah! Julia, how happy would existence
Wove, Ialwsys had snch companion
l She sighs, and leans more fondy on the
arm that tremblingly supports her.
MY dearest Julia, be mine forever! &
This is a settler, and the answer, ever
so inaudibe, makes or undoes him quito
Take pity on forlorn bachIor,' says
another, in a manner which may either
jest or in earnest-'Marry me at once
and pnt me out OF my misers.' with all
my heart, whenever you are ready replis
ed the laughing fair. A joke carried
thus far easily made earnest.
A point is often carried by taking =
thing for granted. A gentleman who has
been paying attention to a lad ,, says
'Well. Mary when is the happy dsy!'
'What day, pray! she asks with con.
scious blush.
why, every body knows we are going
to get married, and it might as well be
one time as another; so when shall it beg
Cornered in this fashion, there IS no res
treat. Sa=
Jane, ] love you! Will you marry ma!'
would be somewhat abrupt, and frankly
GWEN 'Yes!' would be short and sweet
for an answer.
Ellen, one word from you would make
me the happiest man in the universe.
Il should be cruel not 10 speak it then,
unless il is avery hard one.
1T is a word Of three letters, and 40.
swers the question: Will you have me,
The lady of course says yes unless she
happens to prefer word Of only two let.
ters, and answers, 'Do.'
And so this interesting and terrible
process, in practice as it is 10 theory, is
varied in hundred ways, according to
circumstance and the various disposi>
tious.
One timid gentleman asks H we YOU
objections to changing your name?' and
follows this up with another which clens
ches its igni6cance--'How will mine
suit youl'
Another says-rMy Eliza, we must do
what all the world evidently expects wa
shall
'AlI the world is very impairment
Il know it--but il cant be heiped.--
When shall tellt the parson . be ready!'
As general thing, gentleman need
never TO be refused. Every woman, ex.
cept heartess coqnette, inds the means
ofdiscoursging man whom she does not
intend 10 have, before the matter comes
/, o the point Of declaration.