Arkansas intelligencer., 1849-07-07
.Etiquette for Gentleman,

Etiquette for Gentlemen.
In the column of tho National InteIigencer de-
voted 10 notes New Books, we find the following
chapter from new book on etiquette:
In tho intercourse of social life the Importance
of little things is very great. Trlies are capa BILE
of expressing greater degree both of regard and
disregard than larger actions. 1fyou are attentive
in trivial affairs it is said your regard extends even
to the smallest considerations if you are heglectfuI
in light and unimportant matters, 1t is observed
that you have not enough respect to be civil even
in the minutest concerns. That person who picked
up the hat of MIR. Madison at the fight of Bladens.
burg exhibited an abasernent of hattery which it
would have been difficult to exceed and that mi
mister who refused to take up Nopoleon's when he
dropped it in the council chamber as test of the
consideration he was held in, displa yed thorough.
ness of indifference which assured the Emperor
that his fate was sealed.
We shall here set down, without order or con.
nexion, some points Of etiquette necessary TO be
known and practised by him who would be well:
bred in manner.
At an evening party yot should make a point
of going all around the room, after you have sa.
uted the lady of the house, and bowing 10 every
lady with whom you are acquainted. If; also; in
any public room, or place of exhibition, you see
any persons whom you know; you should 90 and
speak 10 them.
If lady is going 10 her carriage, OF is alone in
any public place where it is usual or would be
convenient for ladies TO be a,te nded, you should
offer her your arm and service, even if you do not
know her. To do SO in private room, as In the
case above mentioned, might he thought liberty.
If you presented 10 a lady at an evening
party you should call upon her after.
When you receive card of invitation YOU
should return an answer Immediately, in the same
hour that you receive it. This is a point Of con:
duct which good breeding good feeling, good sense,
l md 10, q
yet is often violated. -
If a lady accepts an invitation, nothing but ihe
most cogent necessity, amounting TO an absolute
prevention, should be permitted to interfere with
her keeping her word. To decline at a late period
after having accepted, is, we believe, invariably
felt to be a rudeness and IN Insult, ard it will be
| resented in some civil way.
voting gentleman should lwaya accent The
invitation Of lady, whether he is intending TO 90
Or not, Unless absent from town, Or illness, or
some such matter will prevent his going: and then
the reason should be stated in the note. Ii is so
much matter of custom OF of course for young
men 10 sccept, that bare refusal would excite
surprise. If you do not 60, you should call the
next morning and leave your card by way OF
apology. II the party is large there is no very
imperative duty upon you to GO, though it is GER
talnly more proper and genteHianlike TO do SC
after accepting:
AT an evening party never put tea cup, wine
glass, glass of water, OF cup Of lemonade back
upon the same waiter from which you took it.
That waiter will be handed to others, and j. will
be disagreeable TO them 10 survey an array Of half
empty cups and glasses, and perhaps inconvenient
to distinguish which fresh and which have been
used: Another waiter, in every respectable house.
follows the first one for the purpose of receiving
the cups and glasses with which persons have
done, and upon it alone shotld they be placed.
In passing lady liz the street, who is accom-:
panied by gentleman on the outside, there is the
same reason for your taking the inside that there
would be for you to walk on that side if you were
with them: You should take that side, then, unless
| the compliment Of giving him the WALL
When you salute lady or gentleman to whom,
you wish to show particular respect in the stree,
you should take your hat entirely off, and cause
it to describe circle of at least ninety degrees
from IFS original resting;place. The inferior
classes of men, as you may see If you think fit to
take notice Of them only press the rim of their
hat when they speak to women of their acGuain.
iance. . .-.
If, ia walking, you meet friend, accompanied
by one whom you do not know, speak to both.
| Also, if you are walking with friend who speaks
to friend whom you are not acquainted with,
| you should speak to the person; and with as much
respect and ease as if YOU knew the party. IF you
| meet man whom you have met frequently before,
who knows your name, md whose name you know
| it is polite TO salute him.
| If you have paid compliment to one man, or
have used towards him any expression of partcu-
lar civility, you should not show the same conduct
to any other person in his presence. For example
if q gentleman comes to your house and you tell
him with warmth and interest that you fare glad
to him. he will be pleased with the attention
and will probably thank you; but if he hears you