The Arkansas banner., 1849-01-02


 vlncea me soon that T0m wEre not the person thought had mafriss; Iadeed, saw shai plsalS. before lcft you first. Instead of tender. al3sc. tionate, and kind wife. wiling to sacrifice her own pressure Tor her husbsnd's comfort, you eviaosd perfect indifference ton my wants; if sick you neAer attempted 10 Barss. or to show any tender. ness Of hearti oh the cqAiraFy, yen seally sought your own comfort, and acted, eyidently uerhans without design, as ihcngh bofcft of feeibgjust as heartless woman woaId do. This uait you have obsesyed tn all your inieFceuFae. and HaOsi especial y wiie in isiip.
 Your manner in company and out of company Is Ahk~. pretty much; and. if mast speak out it is vulgar. ceseless, naughty, and forward; eschewing all tnose tlc delicate traits, SO beautiful in woman; ana, II dared 10 marx them, or point cut the i'm Ptarsnsnt necessaFy 3ou would esrter tctf me f was ssolding, or insult uaa hy your impndent and improper manner of speakias to me, or by aa iS- difference, far worsc and more calculated to wear out one's patience.
 Instead of being industrious and prudent. as ali ladies are, you refusea t1 sew, and distinctly de- clared ie me you knew asshlng sbeat aress- -naking and yes sasd Oeiors marriage you Bever learnsd G when II seemed. from good authority you had and knew all about fl. What did or what does all this mean forbear comment. Your eayetess, tsy, hanging about manner in your room, and about house. especially in inc farepart of the day. takiny # altogether, Is highly rsPfeseasbis, and worthy of severe Fcbuke, and you cannot deny it. The man. l ner in which you abuse your dresses, throw away your clothes, tear and rip about, destroying every thing in your way, all among the items that disgust gentlemnn, more than anything in lady | especially wife.
 Instead of showing confederation for your grand mother, and consolidating her. your neglect of her. and Waiter and Gal, aud indeed all your rulaious with your most impudent and insulting way to us s fs to say the least of 1t, among the points l dislike in F. l Your behavior to ntlemen--anythinp but dig. nihed, taking their rings and wearing them, and sometimes even their watches, and you choosing their society rather than mine, I also demur at though not Jealoas, you have said and hInted at several times am jealous, 1t is true, but ii is of | my wile's character and reputation, and my own i also But 10 enumerae all the items would be too great task; but now to the point. And frst your husband has made up his mnd and settled the question, and laid cown certain principles by which he means 10 nbide and they are like the laws of the 1 Modes and Persans, they cannot be altered No power save Gods, will change my firm resolution 10 abide by the plan laid dogn this puper. Choose now your course.
 Then, first: Frank will have, no matter how hard it is for her to come to it-she will have repeat it. to change her whole coarse of conduct with me- ana 10 persue a. path widely different from lhe one she has presumed to take. She will have 10 turn learner, and to harken 10 advice and to be respect fni-mild, unnssnming. industrious, retiring and respee table shall never return 10 F.. die first wil--trayel 10 the ends of the earth from her. rather than live as have done the last few weeks, never never; So help mo Heavenly Father, and keep mo faithfu.
 And now, if you will aceesd to the following terms, moi carielessly, but serousy--not to break 1 them the next moment, will remain with YOU. your loving, kind. and respectful husband tiII death If not, we part forthwith
 | You will ask your m9tIger's and rrandmothcr's pardon for your disobedcnt and dsEespectful inau- ner and conduct to them promising never 10 re- | peat it again while you live with me 2nd ou will promise to address tnc crossly or pet,lsly again when am adrIsing you; and, as you gre manners of society. you viii be directed, md coun- seed by me in stt these particulars, that will cdu- | cate you to appear among your compeers 1 You will promise to learn, which you never vel have done, to take care of yonr woTrisa, riendn ne ara making, a ir--; fart of every day, and put. ting up carefully ail tlle articles of your rbo.n-- learning 10 be tiiy and neat ia everything about l yoa
 You will promise to give up yonr vain and fool. ish manner of dressing yourself, iossing hours oH yonr head and skin, not your person, and whitcnns l your face and neck, Ike an aclress rather than | | iadyi ia word, You hsve sense to do better than you do. and you W Il eassiy learn how to please me | if you will. All ask, is companionablc ady-- that will study the duties of wife, and act up to | them This Y. can do, If sae please to do it Finally. if F. loves her husband, he will have proof Of her atfecon sy answering this letter by | Moncay 8 sta2e H sAe auSwcrs me ilke Vile and lady, her husband will come 10 her arms, on Tues day, please God But. If il so please her to rebel | Mir Mafht bids her an everlasting farewell 1 One thing more; among The very things which dsgusted, hur', and outraged my feeiing, is $. entire and utter disregard of religion, her not even reading Gods word, aud aying mo every reason to believe that her prcfesson o tho altar of cd be- ] fore marriage, was deception.
 1 l have written the above, calmly, honcstiy--nol to inure your feelings F.. but to opsn your eyes to ! the precipice upon which you stand, aud the evi! consequences of your course. lpresume it will cut l you 10 the heart 10 have me write 90; but better come to the point at once It is a solemn thing to be marred-bui il Is awful to disagree, to live like cat and dog -and l never shall do it Altercation agsia between us, will drive me from you, be as- surcd of it. Avoid it then in tiilc and remember,
 II we live together il must be in love and union or not at all. will endcayor not to be too exacting. l will make all due allowanee for your age, aud girlish habits but fos bad temper. iaipudeni and insulting language --fsoae whatever, for your age instead of being an apology for you, is the re- verse. Ii you are young and girsish, much the | greater reason for your being under loving and l proper control. stronger aFgameat l should thak in proof of the necessity of yonr coming dow from your high and naughty manner, and giving m those affected airs which will make ycu If ih,y have fnot already, the laughing stock of all gentesi and wsl bred persons
 fhaye not written in anger--mosc in sorrow, assures yoa-grievcd 10 the heart at the necessity which eoapeis 10 read you such harsh lessons; but hoping 7t will do yea the good you need l will waitsRatieniiy your answer; upon that answer will settie-ih question between forever Don't for amomeIt even dreaInithat any artihee, poutiGg, mysteries sTen, ything else, will alter my re.oIution, or -Ahange my purpose one whit; no not title. Frank must to my terms bear to be advlsed--cssse all humbuggery, be a lady and q wfe, treat me respectfully. and my opinions, or---fsrewei. fo.esers
 God bless you, SEvLAHD. From tAs Homc yoHYaqi.
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