Carroll free press. [volume] (Carrollton [Ohio]) 1834-1861, 1849-06-22
Sporting With Female ARectIOns,

Honor and integrity ought to be the LEADING
principle Of every transaction in life. They are
virtues highly requisite. notwithstanding they
are too frequently dsregarded. Whatever Dur.
suits individuals are IN quest Of. sincerity in
profession, aeadiastness in pursuit, and pune.
'aalhy in discharging engagements, are indispen-
slbly incumbent.
A man Of honest Integrity, and upriphtness
in his dealings with his fellow creatures. is sure
10 gain the confidence and applause Of all good
men; whilst he Who acts from dishonest or de-.
signing principles, obtains, deserves contempt.
Dishonest proceedings, in word or deed. are
very offensive to, and unjustifabe in the sigh,
ol God and man, even 10 trivial, but much more
50 in consequential affairs.
The most perfect upngh!ness is highly re.
quisiIe between man and man, though il is too
oiIen disregarded; and is much more so between
the sexes.
Every profession Of regard should be without
assembling. every promise preserved invoIate.
and every engagement faithfully discharged.
No one ought TO make any offers or pretensions
TO a lady before he is, 10 great measure, Ger.
tain her person, her temper, and qualifications
SUIT his circumstances and agree perfectly with
his own temper, and way of thinking. For an
adaptation Of mind and manners is very neces.
sary to render the bonds Of love permanent, and
those Of marriage happy.
The man Of uprghtness and integrity Of heart
will not only observe the beauties Of the mind.
the goodness Of the hear, the dignity Of senu-
ment. and the delicacy Of wit, but will strive 10
fix his affections on such Permanent endow.
menIs, before he pledges his faith 10 any la.
dy.
He looks upon marriage as business Of the
greatest importance in life, and change Of con.
dition that cannot be undertaken with too much
reverence and deliberalion. Therefore he will
not undertake it at random, lest he should pre-.
cipitately involve himself in the greatest diff.
culties.
He wishes to act conscientious part. and con-
sequently cannot think. Notwithstanding il is
too much coun;enanced by custom,) Of sporting
with the affections of the lair sex. nor even OF
paying his addresses to any one ill he is per-
iectly convinced his own are fixed on his lust
principles.
All imaginable caution is certainly necessary
beforehand, but after mans profession of re-
gard, and kind services and solicitations have
made an impression on a female heart. it is no
longer matter of Indifference whether he per-
severes in, or breaks off his engagement.
For he is then particularly dear to her, and
reason, honor, justice. all unite to obligate him
to make good his engagements. When the mat
ter is broughtto such crisis, there is no retrea
ting, without manifestly disturbing her quiet
and tranquility of mind, nor eau anything but
her loss of virtue justify her deserlion.
Whether marriage has been expressly prom
ised or not, it is of little signifcation. For il
he has solicited and obtained her affections. on
the supposition that he intended 10 marry her
the contract is in the sight of heaven sufficient
ly binding. In short, the man who basely i'm
poses on the heart of an unsuspecting girl; anC
winning her affections by prevailing rhetoric o.
courtship, ungenerousIy leaves her 10 a biuer
sorrow and complaining. acts a very dishonor
abe part; and is more to be deested than com
mon robber. For private trecchery is much
more heinous than open force; and money mus
not put in competition with happiness.