The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1849-11-28

spend your earnings in that way; they arc lit
tie enough, indeed, and ought not to be spent
in.po,s of beer, so badly as we are of. am
sure / have privations enough to suffer, with
out your ill-,empcr, and every thing going to
wreck and ruin about us, because you won't
put hand to mend what's broken. You are
very different man, William, that you are,
to what you were too years ago, and am sor-
ry,-yes, | say it, and mean it, am sorry
that | ever married YOU" y
"Alas! and has it como to this alrcady!--
Changed, indeed, sadly changed, are you both
and every thing around you wears an altered
aspect; the furniture which made your cot
tage SO trim and comfortable never properly
your own, because never wholly paid for, hut
gone piece by piece, some seized for rent
some sold or pawned to procure the where
withal to furnish, however scantily, the daily
bread, and repenish the empty cupboard. In
dustry, and thrift, and perseverance, both of
you lacked; you had never tested your capa-
blIties OF enduring cares and prNations; you
knew not The strength o! your own or each
others minds and affections, the compatibility
or otherwise, OF your tcmpcrs and dispositions
and if all had gone on smoothly with you, and
you had not been subjected to any great tri-
ais and temptations, probably you had gone
down to your graves chcrishing the belief
that with, and for each other, you could have
endured, without rcpining and without cs-
arrangement Of heart, any amount of sorrow
and suffering 10 which you could have been
in this life subjected You launched without
proper prccaution and preparation upon the
untrled sea OF Inatrimony-
"fouth at the PROV, aud pleasure at the helm
without stores, without chart, or compass, and
contrary TO the advice OF more experienced
mariners; you set sail on sunny morn with
What you londly deemed a propitions wind,
upon that vOvc;yc which has no termination
but death; and where are You, what arc YOU
now! scarcely out OF sight of the shore, with
but very small portion of YOUR lic-yoyapc
over, wishing yourselves back again, apart,
untrammclled; destroying instead OF promo
ting each others comfort and happiness, and
almost cursing that state OF companionshp,
which should be to you a source of mutual
JOY, and a cause of mutual thankfulncss-
You have married in haste" and now you
are "rcpenting at leisure"
Shai! we pursue the theme, readers! Shall
wo describe more fully how this ll-matchcd,
because too early matched, couple, sank, by
degrees, into the lowest state OF poverty and
abjcct misery! How, what they imagined to
be love, pure, fcrven,, and enduring, proved
shortlivcd passion, quite cxtingnishcd by
the blasts OF adversely, which but serve to
render more intense and impcrshabc, the
flame OF true affection. Shall we speak of
bitter words and angry rccriminations. utter
ed by those lips once rite with vows of love
and tenderness! OF looks o! rage, and hatred,
and defiance, from eyes once bcamiug with
londness and pleasures Shall we tell OF
sacred duties neglcctcd--of health and
strength undermined, and dcstroycd--ol en-
crgcs and talents pros:itutcd To the v!cst
purposcs--o( early lessons of virtue and NOR
,alIty iorgottcn--of religion dcspscl and in
sultcd-oI children arruycd against parents,
and against each o'hcr--in short, oi crime
and wrc,chcdncsS, such as is to be found in
the lowest phases Of human degradation! Nay
this were unnecessary, for all OF you can cali
to mind some instance Of an early and i'm
providcnt marriage, which has led 10 nearly,
if not entirely, similar results. We, there
fore, leave this skctcli--this mere outline
To be filled in with such details as every ones
experience can supply, and earnestly hope
that al! will have an abiding conviction the
deep wisdom OF the provcrb, which says
Marry in haste aud tcpsn, ut leisure"