New-York daily tribune., 1849-06-08
Letter from Betsy Blake.

Yron = go-. Joa'a-i
GysrLyNEs. IL isn't queer that gentlemen
think they know eyery thing and ought . be
looked ~ 70 b. their wiVes thought Oi tbs be
cause like the pieces Ia yOCr valuable paper
about mothers making Themselves young enoaEb
T. 10 into company whsa their daughters are get
ting old. ~
really believe that husbands would think
great deal more Of their siyes d they only nave
some sort o. a character. aud not depend upoh
kh>D for what they know and think m almost
sare If / ever married sHy Que, ] shofd Try T.
please them very much, aud % everything y
maze them hapyy that was reasonable, ard saw
wasrigbt. But dOat see why woman shouldn't
have a character Of her own as well "a man, for
,he hss soul jast like his Christian folks say snd
no she shouldn't take any pattern 10 follow alto
ge;ber, any more than hfs wiling 70. Win no
oaense 10 husbands II perfect patterns could b.
fOand such are IA bOoss that hagnt any trg,n
perhaps II wouldn't be dangerous - let q husband
lead 4 wiiss thoughts aud sc,s ast as he pleased.
Bot ss II is, MIR Morris and Wins, perhaps il
wouldn't be quite safe. Husband says % IS
great deal more strony sometimes without any
bJdy's hardly knJxlng Il, than the little voice %
the heart which whispers something about the
gresiSpirtuai Bridegroom who O1gntto be looked
- first.
Ira sure wouldn't have anything % 10 with
"WonSns Rights or any Oi those public societies
that want wives aud mothers y leave their houses
Rnd babies, and talk y nations about Yha, tney
should d., because the men are great des better
for tbs, 0o doubt Bus then d nave wives nave
gentle, but some sort Of decided character a.
home, and give w what would pieDse her, Tor her
husband bat not whit God called her 20 say or Do.
Some wives thilk they ye done their duty beauti-
i0lly hen they We made themselves nothing bat
sOrt Of echoes 20 their husbands. Bot m sure
real echo IL only pleasant when the voice ina;
gives the sO1ud IA sweet, and makes music be-
tween the bills, and - d tine husband he@t is 20
1. nth Nsa 4 u ia
very holy and right But ! sho0dnt wsnt to BE-
the echO oi any wrong words ii 1 vas any body
wife because there wouldn't be much cuance %
making the voice any purer iitbai ihessIHe power
u make harmony, Vhst1er t "ss ro.sh " t'i~
bope nobody 1il 20 D. work and say 'it
GOOD iiea ~ BErsY BfAKI sDDJt saying just
what you think / egcss I'D have M o"n +" ~ iof
once q" becansc-witicut shes very cafciai u
nov her way Is ught-ihat Houldn be tao
wife.
II mothers hay'n't any character Of their owa,
they can helg the chIdleu form any, bat have q
send them 10 Father 1hO il their pattern. u
appears 10 me that " Father has enough % d.
Oot-d0ors without regulating 0H tie clafactrrs in
the house, and therefore woman should kno"
what she thought and beloved, aud have some
sort Oi order about her religion aud mind, or else
she II be dreadl1iiy puzzled how - get along - IN
her growing up girls, who are 80 apt ~ md or AT
their mother knows Don't sou think, Mr.. Morris [
Rnd Wills, tust thus way would brng hosbah1s /
mud wives more together than u would driFe th"m
asay from earh othcrf IL seems 10 me As u o I
real husband would respect The mother o hs giris /
and boys Just far rs she knew b0~ to gave them
the love ia her heart and the knowledge IA her /
mind.
Then there = another thing winch Is about the /
same. Mothers SIT dOND al home and pat hgares /
on their chldrsns clothes, w0rkuE Them al up /
with braid, as 'vc seen 80 maHy times, aud yet /
say they cant get any time 70 read No" iIs /
wicked n declare that God DO Of furnish time /
enough Tor them to grow holy aud wise When |
tDc they u spend a good many weeks working Z
worsted picture that j. NJ Of any real use, aud put
a thousand more stitches IN Il baby's gown than /
xre really needed to make II strong Some Pe0. /
pie that do NJ put these embroidery stltches ~,
which are just like beautiful little thieves 20 stea
nway hours, say they have 80 many babies the! /
have 10 be basy from morning t night, only At .
plain sewl ing and they can't afford 10 give IL q
poor people who would like 10 earn money hon
est'y by helping them. But I've seen such folks /
give hso or SIX dollars tor little glra sk dress /
when sweet pretty muslndclsines eau be bad /
nowadays cheap, and 10 me look great desl /
more childike and pretty. The diliefcace would /
more than pay Tor having Il made Up, aud 50 help /
some poor woman that se~s, while the mother /
took the time tD put some stitches into the gar /
ment which will be - carefully examined at the
:" Gliding 10 zee # it's white aud pure.
When mother says she has q time ~ make
her mind ready to 40 out into company with her
girls, aud stl higher 20 make her mind ready u
90 into the company of Heaven she Is teltng
dreadful uptrutn because ns putting work lntO
fOunccs and tucks that = the real reason. do Mt
wonder that girls make cOnhdants OF anyb body that
seem to open their hearts to them. Tor mothers
generally make them do Il, by shutting theirs up,
or showing them fol- Of mere needles and thread
It does NJ look 90 me a. If that beautiful time
which people expect can be very near, ~hiIe
mothers go so fast asleep In mind over sewing aud
extra fixing up. / meas to be very modest when
l wish they d just fee. the little jog OF
BETSEY BLAKE.