The Sumter banner. [volume] (Sumterville, S.C.) 1846-1855, 1849-08-22
"CourtinE, VS.. Attention"

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portant,i is becoming peculiarly so, and
we design to call the attention Of the
young people occasionly, in hope Of ar
resting an alarming and destructive
evil.
Young ladies ore bound to fall in love
as soon rs possible, and bound to be to
q partner for life, as soon as the ncces-
sary preliminarics can be made..--such
US getting lover, fascinating him thor
oughly, being courted, having the
question popped, getting the wedding
garments in array, and inviting friends
to see them prcttily married. The
young man is bound to be gallant and
polite and to admire, without stint,
all the pretty young girls known and
unknown; to doff the beaver, offer
his arm, invite to the ride, the pic
asant saunter--;n short, to all an
sundrics indeed to show his devotion
and gallantry towards the sex, until
some cnchantrcss throws her spell
around him, and he sinks, subducd; in
to a common place, indifferent, careless
Benedict.
Now out Of these things grow Difficult.
ties. A young man admires pretty
girl, and must manifest it; he cannot
help doing so for the life of him. The
young lady has tender heart, reach
ing out like vine tenlris for something
to cling to, she sees the admiration, is
fattercd, begins soon to love, expects
some tender avowal, and perhaps gets
so far as to decide that she will choose
awhitc satin under thin gauze, &C.,
at the very moment the gallant, that
she loves, is popping the question
(good! ha! ha!) to another damscl ten
miles off. Now the difficulty lies in
not precisely understanding the differ
encc between polite attentions and tho
tender manifestations of signing love.
Admiringa a beautiful girl, and wishing
to make wife of her, are not always
the same, and therefore, it is necessary
that a girl should be on the alert to dis
cover to which class the attentions paid
her by handsome and fashionable young
gentlemen belong. II is hard to draw
the exact line of separation between po-
lite attentions and downright courting,
but our great age and extensive expert.
ence have enabled us to observe enough
to aid the young and artlcss in deciding
this matter.
First then-if a young fellow grects
you in loud, free and hearty voice.
if he knows precisely where to put his
hat, or his hands---if he starcs you
straight in the eye with his own wide
opcn---ifhc turns his back to you to
speak to another.---if he tells you who
made his coat--if he squcczes your hand
-.-ifhc cats heartily in your presence.
if he fails to talk very kindly Of your
mothcr--if he sncczcs when you are
singing, or criticises your curls, or fails
to be very foolish in fifty ways every
hour, then don't fall in love with him
for the world; he only admires you, let
him do or say what he will. But if he
merry with every one else, but quiet
with you; if he be anxious to sec that
your tea is sufficiently swcctcncd, and
your dear person well wrapped up
when you 90 out in the cold; if he talks
very low and never looks you in the
eye; if his cheeks are red, or if he be
pale and his nose blu, it is enough; if
he romps with your sister, sighs like a
pair Of bellows, looks solemn when you
are addressed by another gentleman,
and in fact, is the most still, awkward,
stupid, yet anxious Of your male friends,
you may go ahead and invoke the shaft
Of Cupid with perfect safety, and make
the poor fellow too happy for his skin
to hold him."
The young ladies' in some parts Of New
Jersey arc said to be so tender hearted, that
when poor fellow Is distressed for the want
of wife. they place themselves in his way
that he may have a chance to make one of
them an offer.
The tone Of good company is marked ~
the absence of personalities. Among well in
formed persons, there are plenty OF topics to
dlscuss, without giving pain to any one pre-
sent-without submitting 10 act the part of
bHu, or OF that still poorer creature, the
wag that plays upon hm.
There are some minds which we must
leave to their diotisn.
Mrs. Gulnmy was reading the papers
the other day, when she held up both
hands, md declared that The insane com.
mittce had reported oyer two hundred ca :
seS.
PERSONAL THEATRIcALs.-'E
has his own theatre, in which he is mana
ger, actor, prompter, playwright, scene
shifter, box keeper, door keeper, all in
one, and audience into the bargain
Hare's GuesSes at Truth.