The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1849-11-16
Young Mems Department.
From IL, Neto YORK Oygan
Autumn Evenings with oups Wen.
coUl TsuIP.

IL ,his number Of py familiar and ds.ul
tory remark. to ouns mcn, shall rGer some
,usgesieus IN regard to couttshia. lave
.iteads nttna'cd p'etiy d,.'Iacils as cp'n'ua
hsl there - TN reason '0f alarm o' suf!eif
"a tie fact that "a yosag baa muuie-'s fond.
oes, cor the society Of the gcaI.c s'S o. t'co
q be ial. 10 love ord nsttics 5000 @uftHs
sfl. b. there ~ 1n Transaction 10 Nh,Ch
a Dung m4n can ca-s.e. t,Ai cati- mole ~
discreet, cool ds,"so', add ier',c!i} uprshl
aud honorable dealing. thsn couf ,htp.
Oar .asge.lIous may be unto d d IN The
ioiiosins particulars:
In lilo 6-si Place young men Should never
suffer lheWtsses TO b. clftied away b. me &c
ex'e nal beauty OF pte,ii0sss. There IS Ger.
"a MY uoihug more attractive to III, csc ih 40
'emaIc bseefy. Bot II IS poor lhi12 TO i,li
~ love ai'h and bad Up oUs cauh'y hsapnt,'
sith. Under the mos, tuvorsbl' cneuu,,su-
ces II must soon fadc and wiiber, ahd lhtr
What are We TO d. with her Shoin va married
tor her looks. not FOR herself. Nan, reasons
might be gwen shy It IS MOI wise TO b. caught
by u,ere beauty. Ole IS. thai ~ yrfy man,
ca acs beautiful voaieu lack those HI. her qnal
lies sheh We look Tor 10 good wI's. lhr
admiration their beauty s,trncts makes then
yam, and leads to mnuy ohst eyis. A yogn
lady who kuo~s that her p'iucipel merit 81
power 10 lttldcEcc oGhefs hos 10 her moral
soth and mental accomplishments, ~di o.
course s,tive TO excel ~ these respects.
/ Beauty is alnos, alsays vefy cxAriing-
nonody can value 1t higher than rs pOssessor
/ nd yet nobody can saus'y her uaiess he IS
tmates i, as highly as she does. Sac $ apt
, TO think the most OF those sbo think he mos
Of her beauty. Sic will want TO DO much
abroad 10 shoS her beauty. She viii uetc
means TO sdarn and keep It IN repair. Ant
It - not comfortable To have such perscf
| for ~lfe. especially # one is not rich.
1 Do not, therefore. cour, girl Tor her
I beauty, uarss YOU can hud QUE who has a
su.pcloo tina, she is beautiful, OF Who y'ue,
/ other qaal.ues more highly than tho ouisatt
Appearance.
/ Do no, seek for wea'th under the euise o
seeking for vito. YOU may possibly vii
fortune aud u good vie together but II 4
moi probuhs. Tbs chances are many agaIns
one tina, property acquired IN this way WI
be source Of dIsquIeluJo and unhapp'ness
Any marked inequality IN tho condition OF Nh
parties is usually fruitful of owl.
Beware Of committing yourself TO wit
who will be too proud TO conform TO your CIR
cumeances IN life. II you are mechanic
| keep clear OF all those young ladies' who fam
at the idea Of Gssocla,ng with mechanics.
BE cautious Of all young ladies' who 'hlnl
II di-graceiul to work; who p,Ida themse'vc
on their ignorance OF household duiies--an'
who would be shocked II any gentleman sus
pecled them of having made l4ef or a PIC.
There ure good many such ladies', and !
IS pity any body should marry them 'xacp
the knights and cavaliers Of tho novels the!
read
Whenever you seok for lady love, lool
among those who have boen accustomed Il
our own mode Of life and your own condi
lion IN society. Look for ono possessln.
those qualities which will stand all the chang