Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1849-07-04
ETIQUETTE FOR GENTLEMEN.

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work on etifuaslei:
In the intelt61rse, Of social life The i'm
por,ance Of litEes things is very great.
Triles are capa6la of expressing great
er degree bu,isnf- regard and disregard
than larger aclicas.. II you arc attentive
in trivial a6;Iifsilsis said your regard ex-
tends even to i|iesmalles, considerations;
if you arc negIssifal in light and unim.
portant matlealsitsis observed that you
have not endusllfespecl TO be civil even
in the niinnesls concerns. That person
who picked up ihe hat Of Mr.. Madison
at the flight ofsBlandensbdig exhibited
and abasement offatlcry which it would
bavo been dilTicatto exceed .and that
minister vino rtfGsed to lake up Napo-
Icons when ne ,dfopped it in the council
chamber as ndcsfoflhe consideration he
was held in, displayed j 'horoughnrss Of
Indifference wl,fcAassured the Emperor
that his lae wassealed.
We shall llereSset down, without or
der or connection, some points Of etiquette
necessary TO bn 99nown and practiscd by
him who would be. we'll bred ia man
ncIS.
At an evening aar.y you should make
a point Of going all around The room, at-
ter you have satdled the lady of the
house, and bowipg. TO every lady with
whom you are acquainted. II, also, in
any public MIR place of exhibition,
you see any pelssn whom you know,
you should 90 aihidgspeak TO them.
If you meet:ladies or gentlemen whom
you do not knowalsa morning visit or a
small evening party, where you sit uex,
% them and .ateSbrought into contact
With them, c.'iverse. them will, tho
same readiness anilsease as if you had
known them all yolrlife. Moreover, If,
in walking wi:l, one whom you are ac-
qiainted with, tlief.s.areS Seibers in the
group Who yoti'l legiotk know, you should
address, The sameterns
on which you speak 10 your friend. On
such an occasion the topics should BIZ
wholly free from embarrassment. A SLY
or awkward demeanor towards strangers
in such position is the certain mark OF ono
not familiar with the gIeal world.
If you are presented to ii lady at an
evening party YOU should call upon her
soon after.
Atan evening party never put tea
cup, vine glass, glass of water, or cup Of
lemonade back upon the same waiter
from wllichyoutookit. That waiter will
be handed TO others, and it will be disa-
grerable 10 them to survey an arr.y Of
half empty cups and glasses, and perhaps
inconvrnicnt to distinguish which are
liesI, and which have been used. Anolh-
er waiter, in every respectable house,
follows the first one, for the purpose ofre.
ceiring the cups and glasses with which
persons haye done, and upon il alone
should ,hey be placed.
When The servants are engaged in
handing tea or'doing ntIler special service,
you should no, withdraw any Of Them
from that duty by sending them from the
room for any things eIse-as for glass
of waller, piece Of ice. This is parlicu-
lary important at a small party. where
there are few servants; and where there
absence will be more inconvcnient.
H., in walking, you meet a friend, ac-
companied by one whom you do not
know, speak to both. Also, you arc
walking with friend who speaks to Il
friend, whom you are not acquainted
with, you Should speak 10 the person ;
and with as.mnch respect and ease as il
you knew the party. II you meet a
man whom You have mel frequently
before, who knows your name, and Whose
namo you know, ii is polite 10 salute
him.
AT dinner, there should not be much
conversation during the first course,
while the meats are receiving attention.
At least, during that season the remarks
Which are made should be brief and
quiet, and not upon earnest or exciting
topics. Long stories should be avoided,
for the listeners have other organs than
the ear, whicli they are wishing to ex-
ercise al that time. At later par, OF
the entertainment, discourse is agseca-
bic.
If you are at small party where tea
is made in the room, you should not en-
ter into conversation with the lady who
presides at the table, and you should not
draw your chair close 10 her. She has
need Of all her attention in arranging and
preparing the tea-waiers, and she also
requires room for: her aims.
When you take coffee, tea or soup at
table, you should make no noise in sup
ping, nor other unnatural smackings OF
The mouth, for this is decidedly vulgar.
The most tender-hear,cd man we ever
saw was shoemaker, who always shut
his eyes and whislled when hesrun The
eawl into sole.