Boon's Lick times. [volume] (Fayette, Mo.) 1840-1848, 1848-01-01


me give my experience for the benefit of
those who are TO come after me.
We had been married lust ten DAYS,
and had begun to feel that was really
wife, and had a right TO say and do a
little as l pleased, when Mr.. Smith said
to me as we sat quite loyer.like on the
sofa in the evening:
81 met Miss Williams as l came home
this evening""
"For mercy's sake, Mr.. Smith don't say
Mss when you speak Of married wo-
man. 1t is excessively vulgar" | was
not aware that | had spoken in a very Of
fensive way, but ] noticed an instant
change in Mr.. Smith. He replied with
some dignity of tone and manner.
Il ask your pardon, madam; but didn't
say Miss. am not quite so ignorant as
all that comes to-"
ooh, yes. Mr.. Smith, but you did say
it," l replied, quite astonished at this un.
expected denial
Excuse me for saying that you are in
error" he returned drawing himself up.
| never say Miss for Mrs.
why Mr.. Smith You always say it.
| have noticed it hundred times. be-
lieve | can hear pretty correctly"
"ln this instance you certainly have not"
Mr.. Smith was growing warm, and |
felt the blood rushing TO my face. A rather
tart reply was on my lips, but | bit them
hard and succeeded in keeping them closed.
A deep silence followed. In a little
while Mr.. Smith took up newspaper and
commenced reading, and found some re-
lief for a heavy pressure that was upon
my bosom. in the employment of hem
stitching fine ocket.handkerchief
And this was the return had met for a
kind attempt to correct a mistake of my
husbands that made him liable to ridicue
on the charge of vulgarity! And to deny.
too, that he had said Miss" when had
been worried about it for more than year.
1t was too bad!
After this Mr.. Smith was very particular
in saying, when he spoke of married
woman to me, "IHiSSeS." The emphasis
on the second syllable was much too strongly
marked to be pleasant to my ears. was
terribly afraid he would say "iNiStrcss,"
thus going off into the opposite extreme of
vulgarity.
This first attempt to put my husband
strai ght had certainly not been a very
pleasant one. He had shown, unexpectedly
to me, humor that could by no means be
called amiable; and by which was both
grieved and astonished. made up my
mind that | would be very careful in fu-
ture how | tried my hand at reforming
him. But his oft repeated she she,O ii to
me-" and "obleeged," soon fre,ted me so
sorely that was forced to come down
upon him again, which | did at a time
when | felt more than usually annoyed. l
cannot remember now precisely what |
said 10 him, but know that put him into
an ill-humor, and that it was cloudy weather
in the house for a week, although the sun
shone brightly enough out of doors. His
"She,o ii TO me-" and "obleeged," were, how
ever, among the things that had been after
that So much was gained; although there
were times when half suspected that
had lost more than had gained But |
persevered, and, every now and then, when
| got "worked up" about something, ad.
ministered the rod of correction.
Gradually could see that my husband
was changing, and, as felt. for the worse.
Scarcely year had passed before he would
get into pet if said the least word to
him. He couldn't bear anything from me-
This seemed very unreasonable, and caused
me not only 10 sigh, but TO shed many
tear over his perverseness. From the
thoughtful, ever considerate, self.sacriicing
lover, he had come TO be disregardful of
my wishes, careless of my comfort, and
indifferent to my society. Still felt by no
means disposed to give him up; was by no
means inclined TO let him have his own way.
II was clear to my mind that had rights
as well as he had; and possessed resolu-
ton enough 10 be ready to maintain them.
His self-will and Indifference to my wishes
reused in me bitter and contentious spirii
and, in an evil hour, | determined that
would have struggle for the mastery.
An opportunity was not long delayed.
The Philharmonic Society had announced
one of its splendid concerts. A lady friend,
who had frequently attended these con-
certs, called in to see me. and, by what she
said, filled me with a desire to enjoy the
fine musical treat that had been announced
for that very evening.
When Mr.. Smith came home to dinner
he said, before | had time to mention the
concert
"Mary, I've taken fancy to 60 and see
Fanny Ellsler tonight, and as there will be
no chance of getting good seat this after
noon, took the precaution to secure tick
cts as came home to dinner. would
have sent the porter with note to know
whether there was any anything to prevent
your going tonight, but he has been out all
the morning. and concluded that. even if
there should be some slight impeachment in
the Way, YOU could easily SET il aside"