The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1848-12-05

as you have undertaken the management of your own
you might choose to make such arrange
ments as by enabling us TO live entirely SEPARATE
would also restore NE to my children, from whom
terably grevous to me, and who must suffer In many
ways from my absence. In proposing this arrange
msnt TO you namely an entire separate establishment
though In the house, must explain the motives
that lead to suggest this plan You have apparent
ly lost all affection and regard for me. and have at
tanned such state of Indifference towards me that
you can see and speak to you would to
Of our servants, or q common acquaintance while in
every essential ofintmate intercourse, affection con-
fdence, kindness uttery>e stranged, and have
little In common, whether Of sentiment or interest,
rs two people who had never seen each other till
yesterday. This state of things appears perfect
" agreeable, or at least, endurable toisyou-
II is not to me. told you the other day.
repeat It, together with my reasons for not being able
day Having loved you well enough to give you my
life, when it was beet worth giving-having made you
the centre Of all my hopes Of earthly
loved any human being as have loved you, you
be to me like any other being 1t Is utterly
impossible that should ever regard you with indif-
ference. My whole existence having once had you for
its sole object and all Its thoughts hopes, affections,
and passions having in their full harvest been yours
should forget this that should forget that you
once my lover and are my husband and the father of
might in evil hearts and by evil means be turned to
hatred but be sure it never can become indifference
in any nor in me can it as certainly ever become
hatred. cannot behold you without emotion; my
heart still to my voice, my blood in my veins
to your footsteps and If this emoten is to be Of
perpetual pain sudden violent, intense, almost in
toerabe pain judge how little an endowed by ma
ture with a temperament fit to endure severe and
incessant trial. My intercourse with you, If not
necesfary communion which life Of intimacy brings
furnishes perpetualy occasions Of suffering greater
/ appealed to your humanity, when after pro
longed season OF this species OF mental torture,
found myself from a combination Of moral
to be upon the point of destroying myself
entreaed you to save me from the horrible state of
nervous malady into which this very kind of inter-
course with you had thrown me. God knows your
answer was hardly tat of man, much less of friend
OF tband However, 1t Is to avoid paroxysms Of ex.
Sfenieht sprnging from nervous irritability, which
feel might lead me to the most fatal results aud which
arise in great part from physical causes not under my
you II you ,ti refuse me an entire recon cation.
dare not expose myself to influences which have not
strength to resist and If my intercourse with you Is
not to be of kindness and cordality cannot at
tempt to make it what, my part 1t can never be
one of indifference and careless estrangement. My
disappointment Cries aloud in my heart whenever
YOU and the recollection Of the pact gives such
bitter pognancy to the present and such terrible
gloom to the future, that my senses seem ready to
forsake me at the sight of the piteous wreck Of my
whole existence laid ut your feet-remember with
what entire faith and love- IT, however. you will not
same roof with my children upon shese terms, have
but alternative let-to hire lodging II possible
nthe same house With my father II not as near to
k0in6possible and take I'D my abode either with or
Gloss tem. 1t will be indepe nsably necessary that
u should get servant as have human being to
i could dispense with q maid, and have done so at
your desire, cannot alone ss now am, do without
one, These necessary expenses Of my maintenance,
sumo, anticipate my becoming barthen to any Of
!. my own family, nor. indeed, should for q moment
Fbave to make; and should not receive an answer
from you before Monday. shall conclude that it is
the one you with me to adopt and shall act accord
iDgly.
/ 81 hear with great pain that you are ILL dare not
come to you for fear Of annoying and irritating you
but ] implore You to lot me come to you
and be with you while you are suffering and helpless
oh Pierce, love you dearly; pray let me come and
you. am miserable to hear Of your nlnsr-only
ssnd me word that may come pray prsy4do, dear
Pierce" ="
You have 80 repeatedly Hnd harshly repealed my
attempts to be reconcied to you, that nothing but
Of duty would give courage to ad-
dress You again. But our mutual friend Mrs -,
to whom suppose you have expressed your esstv OF
feeling With regard to me- has earnestly urged me to
mske snothsr appeal to and assured me that she
thought our present infringement was source OF as
thstysp preferred present mode of living
friendly and that, moreover in the state ofsepar-
sas.. ss ss t. na
desirable for youxo be reconced to and that after
such declaration on your part, any further At
selfish indulgence Of my own earnest wishes II,
however, Mrs B has understood you rightly
you are not happy and satisfied in our present
mode of living any than myself and the duty OF
again attempting to regain better and less miserable
condition for both Of forces itself upon my miad-
hardly know what 1t is that you require of me
in order to be reooncled to me- When, during
Sromse It pas that You exactsd from me- you replied
hat you desired none and again, last night, Mrs
- asssred me that you had told her that COM
pliapas was all that you expected from me. Compli-
aSSs with your wishes and obedience to your will, in
esery respect in which they do not interfere with the
s% T'say
extreme for all my faults both Of omission and
commission towards you and my sincere determine
ton endeavor not again to offend or pain you H.
therefore, my promise Of compliance and obedience In
all things where my conscience dees not forbid them
may satisfy pray accept IT, ana let me ssnn snd
again treat In heart and soul have never ceas'
ed to be- your true and devoted friend and loving wife
you to consider that have been moved to write by
the representations of your friend, who seemed to
sha my love % n",y to- and
deavor to obtain the answer which she represented
yours a. likely to return"
DEAR SIR At your request | inform you that my
intention is to in the course Of this month int
the house have taken. About the nrst Of July shall
90 to Newport for two months.
| It has never been q wish of mine to separate m!
children from their mother the partial separation ths
has existed between them since November last na
to be separated from me- formally expressed In ne
note to me, dated 9th October, 1S43. You now IN
form that It Ia MIS- Buffers wish to rer ain Will
her children and that If propose to her to accompany
them into the house have taken, that she will do SO
shall not thwart her wish, provided she Is prepared
conduct herself in such q manner ms an inmate o
every family Is bound to do.
Since November last she has been in the constan
practice of abusing in the strongest language u
every person that would listen to her ana her most
innate associstes have been chosen from persons Wit
have taken a voIe mt and bitter part against me-
should she again become member OF my family ant
an inmate Of my house, all this must cease -,
In order that she may be under the same roof|wit
her children. | propose to her to accompany them
the house have provided tor their home. II Is ne
cessaryp however In order to protect myself and 9
insure domestic privacy, that certain conditions
annexed to this proposal These that ali acquain
lance and intercourse of whatever kind, whether b.
word er letter. shall at and forever cease between
Mrs Butler nd every member of the Sedgwics family
and that hereafter she shall treat them In every re
spect as entire strangers, and ss If she had neve
know them.
That Mrs. Bntler will not keep up an acqusintane