The examiner. [volume] (Louisville, Ky.) 1847-1849, 1848-08-19
PeIitruess.
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Il iso g,accfvl habit fos ebiIdfen to say to
each olheI, s.WiiI you nave the goodness: =
and, 81 thank you" lido not like 70 see
prim, artificial children; there are lew things
| dislike so much as a miniature beaux,
or belle. But the habit Of good manners
by no means implies affectation, or restraint.
Ii is quite as easy 10 say. "Please give me
a piece Of pie" as to say, al want piece
ofpie. ~ :,
The idea that constant politeness would
render social life too stiff and restrained,
springs from false estimate Of politeness.
True politeness is perfect case and freedom.
Il simply consists in treating Others just as
you love to be treated yourself. A person
who acls from this principle will always be
said to,have s'sweet, pretty ways with her:
Ii is Of some consequence that your daugh-
ter should know how to enter and leave
room gracefully; but it is Of Prodigiously
more consequence that she should be in the
habit Of avoiding whatever is disgusting or
offensive to others, and Of always prefering
their pleasures to her own. If she has the
last, very little intercourse with the world
will teach her the FIRST.
believe nothing tends to make people
50 awkward as too much anxiety to please
Others. Nature is graceful; and afiectatior
with all art, can never produce anything
half so pleasing. The very perfection oil
elegance is to initiate nature as closely a
possible; and how much better it is TO have
the reality than the imitation. | shall pro
bably be reminded that the best and most un
affected people are often constrained ant
awkward 10 company TO which they are IN
accustomed. I answer, the reason is, the
do not-tmS themselves; they are afraid tina
they shall not do right, and that very fes
makes them do wrong. Anxiety about tn
lopinions OF others letters the freedom Of nj
Itnre. At home, where they act from with
themselves, they would appear thousan
times better. All would appear well. if the
never tried TO assume what they do not pc
sess. Every body is respectable and plea
: ing so long as he is perfectly natural
will make no exception-na,ure is alwa!
GRACEFUL. NC IilOol SCSinucu anu NiAC Aio
, ignorant have some charm about them, |
} long as they affect nothing so long as thu
speak and act from the impulses Of the
: own honest hearts, without any ankle
! what others think Of it.
+ Coarseness and vulgarity are the effect
q education and habit they cannot be char
, ed upon nature. True politeness may
1 cherished in the howell as well as in the p'
ace, and the mos. battered drapery cam
q conceal its winning charms.
S As far as consistent With your situati,
$ and duties, early accustom your children
e an intercourse with strangers. have Sc
!, young persons who were respectful and I
e lite at home, seized with most painful a
e unbecoming bashfulness as soon as gu
o entered. To avoid this evil. allow ciSidr
It to accompany you as often as possible, WI
y you make calls and special visits. Dc
?, sional interviews with intelligent and Gu
Ie waited individuals have a great influence
Ne early character and manners, particular
" if parents evidently place high value up
d acquaintance Of that description. | HI
ID known the destiny Of whole family gre
he ly changed for the better, by the friends
e Of one Of its members with person Of
re perior advantages and correct principles
n Mothers Assistant.