New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1848-01-08
From the [Londonl Peoples journal.
HOUsEHOLD EDUCATION.
CARE OF THE POwERs-LovE
BY HARRIET nARIISEAU.

BY
CARE OF THE POwERs-LOvE
1t appears to me- that much disappointment in
the results OF education, as in other departments
OF life arises from the confusion we fall into about
human notwithstanding up things which do not
belong TO each other, and then being disappointed
at a mix ed result For instance, we speak OF love
as If it were one affection most of two kinds.
one II passion and the other an affection whereas.
there are many kinds of love, distinct from one
another as hope and patience Beside what is
commonly called the passion Of love, there are
other kinds which differ as essentially from one
another as from this. 1t is commonly but as
think, hastily supposed that child's love Of her
doll is the same affection which will be xed here
after on schooellow, on her parents and on sui
fering fellow creatures Ii is supposed TO be the
same affection, employed on different objects and
the parent is perplexed and shocked when the
little creature who cannot be parted from doll
shows indifference toward her family, and has DO
sympathy with beggar, or a sick neighbOr. II
the parents will put away their perplexity and
dismav and set themselves to learn from what is
before their eyes, they may discover what will
comfort and direct them
With the passion OF love- as 1t is called. We have
nothing to do here but 70 give an anecdote by the
way A little girl was telling story to her iather,
when they fell in with the kind OF perplexity l
have spokenoi She told OF knight who once loved
a lady, and of all the hard and troublesome things
the knight did TO crafty the wishes Of the lady
and how, at last when the lady did not choose 10
marry him, he carried her OIL and shut Ter up In
castle. and gave her every thing he could think Of
to make her happy but she could not enjoy all
these fine things. because she pined 10 get home.
"Oh % said the father. she did wish to get out,
then" Yes she begged and prayed of the
knight to let her 20 home: but he loved her so
much that he would not Well bat you said he
did every thing he could to crafty her why was
that 2" q Because he loved her so much What
he did everything TO please her because he loved
her so much and then he would not let her 60
home as she wished, because he loved her so
much How can that be- The child thought Tor
a while, and then said ' suppose he had two
loves for her: and one made him do almost every
thing that she liked aud the other made HIM ant
that she should DO what he Liked"
If parents could see thus plainly the difference
between the several kinds Of love which their chill
dreu should experience II would be well for all
parties. A mother who intensely loves her little
prsttler is mortified that the child appears TO have
but very moderate love for her In return; and she
comforts herself with the hope hat the child alec
ton will strengthen as 1t grows, tIl It becomes
fair return for her own. She does not perceive
that the child already entertains an affection much
like her own, only. not for her bnt Tor something
else little girl who had 10 lose her leg promised
10 try TO lie still II she might have her doll
clasping her doll. When II vas over, the surgeon
tbouehtlessly said Now shall cut of your dolls
leo - "Ohi no. MOI cried the child. in an ago
nv of mind far greater than she had shown before:
mot my dolls leg don't hurt my doll And
she could hardly be ooniortsd- Here was an afisc
ton the same as the mothers.-and as strong and
true but Of different kind from that which chill
dren eau ever feel for parents tor il is purely in
stinctlye, while the love of children for parents
Is made up of many elements, and must slowly
grow out OF not only q natural poS er Of attachment
but long experience OF hope. reliance, venefatlon
and gratitude.
This instructive love is pretty thing 10 witness;
as in the case OF avery little child who had pas
s,opate love of flowers. She would silently carry
out her little chair in the summer morning, and SIT
down in the middle Of the howerbed. aud be over
heard softly saving. Come. you little Hover
ooen. Won little flower When will you open your
pretty blue ever This is charming aud so II Is
10 see an infant fondng kitten. or feeding the
brood of chickens and girl singing lclsoy 20 Der
doll. Bat il must ever be remembered that tbs 10
the lowest form of human affection tl II is trained
into close connection. with the higher sentiments
Whatit is when left 10 irseli-and 1t will too prob
ably be LEFT 70 itself by parents VINO are SATISFIED
with any manifestation OF affection IN cnlldr IN -
what it is when iefl TO itself may be seen IN some
disgusting spectscies which occasionally meet our
ewes among the mature and the old. We see Il IN
the Young mother who spOils her child-who loves
her child with o. low love that she INDUCES II to
;,s hart We see Il in the aged mother who loves
her manly son as a bear loves its csb;-ony with
mora seIfshness for she cannot consider bis good
hn, lsv;shes ill-humor and fondness him by
tnrns. We see it in the man who gives his mind
10 the comfort Of his horse; and never look or
word to hungry neighbor. We see X IN Ine 20.
man who opens her arms 70 every uoS OF a. 1n-I
cor,es near her. whose eve brightens and whose
cheek nantes while she feeds her cananes thoasn
she never had a friendship, nor cares Tor any
human being bur such as are under I'VE Yeas
old. n
Thus low is this instructive affection when len
to itself Batit inestimable when linked on 20
other and higher kinds OF love. and esPeciay "
that which is the highest OF all and worthy "
gather into itself all the rest-bencvolencc IL Is
easy 70 form this Ink when its formation Is desred