The Hillsborough recorder. [volume] (Hillsborough, N.C.) 1820-1879, 1848-04-05

!p4lirnily doinr wisi she Iho1ghl 70 Re
right. and aas 6nally snreeEslul 10 snolh-
80 The unhappy sIlild. 10 her husband.
with whosn size Ess converting On thsl
evening about Ihs nair INTO wliirh Ellen
had fallen. she said ..---... ...."~
. ! hnd q rsy hard 20 gei alnng with
her. She mrs my Psiienre almost be.
ynnd endurance Snmsiimes II Il Impns-
sihle 10 bear with her CRYING. and silrnrr
! u BY punishment. Bui | abserEe that il
ran produce cheerful state by amusing
her and grlling her mIrrssled in some
play OF employment. she Telalns her even
temper much longer Than when she has
been stopped frum CRYING BIZ threats or
punishment. II | only had patience with
her. could get along better. Bun. u 10
80 hard 10 have paiienre with a freIlul.
ever crying child"
or the mental exercises through whirh
Mrs. Fleetwood passed. Miss Martha
Spencer knew nothing. She saw only
the real and supposed Errors Of her mode
Of government, and slr"ngly condemned
them. Her doctrine Was. in governing
children, . implicit obedience must be had
NJ all hazards" Az al hazards, as she
generally expressed or Ihnughlil, Was on.
" meant for extreme or extraordinary ca.
ses. Obedience she believed 10 be n thing
easily obtained BY any one who chose 10
enforce il. No where. II must be owned.
did she see children as orderly and ohe-
iii nj as she thought they should be. Bot
that she did not hesitate 10 set down 10
the fault Of The patents. Her influence
in the family uf her sister was no, good.
To some extent she destroyed the free
dom Of Mrs. Fleetwood. and 10 some ex.
tent disturbed the government Of her GILL.
dIen by interfering with II, and attempting
10 make the litile ones do as she thought
best. Her interference was borne abnu,
as well as il could be by her sister, who
now and then gave her a ga piece oI her
mind," and in plain, straightforward terms.
Mrs. Fleeiwood's usual remark, when
Martha talked about what she would do,
If she had children. was good humored
one, and generally something after hi.
fashion
.t,ld maid,' children are the hes. in
Eihe:werld. I know. They never cry, are
never disobedien,. and never act disorder.
Ily." 80
Martha hardly rrlishsd this mode oil
"stopping her or" bui il was generally
effective. though sometimes il produced =
slight ebulli,ion.
a R sa bs es ssaafss II !syGF q
Martha was wooed. won. and married ~
a gentleman named Laurie, who removed
with her to the West.
"There is some prospect at last" Mrs.
Fleetwood said to her husband. with a
smile. on the occasion Of Marlha's wed.
ding, "of sisters being able To bring into
practice her theories in regard to family GO.
vanment. I only hope The mothers chill
,lren may be az good as the old maids"
- doubt If they WILL" remarked the
husband, smiling ia turn.
1--WE shall see"
Years passed, and Martha, now Mrs.
Laurie, remained in the west. Her sister
frequently heard from her by letter, and
every now and then received the announce.
uent OF fine babe born TO the proud mt
Their. who as often spoke Of her resolution
to her do duty towards her children, and
especially in the matter Of enforcing obedi.
ence. She still talked eloquently Of the
right modes Of domestic government, and
the high and holy duties Of parents.
"l.et me be blameable in wha, | may"
she SAID in one of those letters, /" it shall
not be disregard to the best Interests OF
my children"
IL hope not, indeed" said Mrs. Fleet
wood, alter reading the passage TO her
husband. "But those who understand
the true character of children, and are sen.
sible of the fac, tina, they inherit from
their parents all the evil and disorderly ten
denotes not fully overcome in themselves.
feel too deeply the almos. hopeless task
they assume, 10 boast much Of what they
will do with their children. A humble.
reserved, even trembling consciousness oil
the difficulties in the way Of the parent,
is the NEST promising state in which pa
rent can assume his or her responsible
ties. TO look for periec. order and ohe-
dience is 10 look for what never comes.
Our duty is 10 sow good seed in the minds
of our children, and to see that the ground
he KEEP, as free from evil weeds as posi-.
Bile. The time of fruit is no, until reason
is developed; and we err IN expecting
fruit at an early period. There will come
the tender blade, green and pleasant 10 the
eve, and the firm, uprigh. stalk, with its
leaves aud its branches: and flowers, too,
after awhile, beautiful, swee, smelling flow.
ers; but the frui, oil all our labor, OF all
our careful culture, appears not until rea-
son takes the place Of mere obedience,
and the child becomes the man. This
/. view saves me from many discourage
ments; and leads me, in calm patient
, hope, to persevere, even though through