New-York daily tribune. [volume] (New-York [N.Y.]) 1842-1866, 1848-01-08

and moreover il must be made 10 dischsree pune.
tually. even 20 its own inconvenience the duty Of
feeding the live fsvOrite, and chershing ne doll
This leads on naturally 70 chershing an4 forbesr-
| ing love Of the baby brother or sister; snd next
perhaps the parents may be surprised ~ az offer
Of affection Ia sickness which never showed Itself
| while they were in health. A child who receives
caresses carelessly or runs away iron them TO ca
ress the kitten. (which, perhaps ran' away Ia It's
turn will come on tiptoe 70 his nrthers knee
when she is i'll, and stroke her face, or nurse her
foot IN his lap creep up into her e.sy chair, and
nestle there quietly for al hour 81 tine and yet
| perhaps this same child will appears Indifferent
as before when his mother - well aiain, and does
not seem to want his good Offices
From home. the affection may nex be led lit
tie farther abrosd This must be dine very eau
tiOusiy. and the expansion OF benoolence by no
means hurried or made a task OF. knew a little
srl who at four years old was full domestic be
nevolence-capable Of DENYING heEeii noise and
amusement on fitting occasions, sn' never happier
than when waiting on and cherishng sick per
son. One day she seemed SO much interested
about a poor woman who had cone 10 beg that
her mother took her into consultation about what
could be done for the woman en- her children.
When told how nearly naked the poor children
were. and how they had no more cgthes TO put on
though the weather was growing oolder and cold
err she was asked whether she would not ike 10
i
est voice she said d" No" ~he case was again
represented to her; and when, With some little
shrinking she again said DO. her mother saw
that she had gone rather toe far snd had tried the
young faculty Of beney0leOc beyond It's strength.
She watched and waited, md IS repaid Ia her
daug hter warm domestic affections oOexist with
more than ordinary benevolnce
This benevoence is the third form in which we
have already seen what is 'alled love. Can any
-. az rl.@
between these three the owe that lesds to mar
rage fondness for objects which can be idohZed
and benevOence which has no iOndness IN H. but
desires the diffusion Of happiness, and acts indie
pendenily OF personal reards None OF these
yield the sort Of affection which the heart OF the
parent desires, and which is essential u family
happiness child may Kill rs pet bird. or ca
with kindness. and 20 out into the street IN the
early morning. with It's hafpenny IN It's hand as
have known a child doD 70 10 good with Il TO some
body "A child may have these two kinds OF love
strong in him. and yet she. but weak attach
ment TO the people about hn. This attachment Is
another kind of love from those We have been con
sdering Ii is all-Importa1tio the character OF the
individual. and to the happiness OF the family CIR
Gle and IL is therefore of consequence that rs ma
ture should be understood and its exercise wisely
cared for.
IL is some time before the infant shows attach
ment to any one. There many signs oil hope and
fear in an infant before it gives any token OF alice
ton. ts arms are held out first 10 its nurse and
she usually continues the one 10 whom the child
cngs, aud from whom It will not be separated.
Beyond the nurse, the chllds attachments some
times appear unaccOuntsbe. IL will be happy
with some one person IN the house, and make
difficulty Of going To any one else and thereason
of this may not be plain to anybody. Happy isthe
mother If she be the one; and a severe trii 1t IL
10 a loving mother when she is not the 0ie. Vi
course il the misfortune be owing 10 any fault IN
herself-ii she be irritable, stern. or in any way
teasing to the child-she cannot wonder that he
does not lOve her. If she be tender, gentle, play
fol and wise and still her child loves s1me one
else Ia the house better it IL sore trial certainly
but IL must be made toe best OF. OF course the
mother will strive to discover what is IN another
person that attaches the child and If she can at
tain the quality. she will But IL Is probably that
which cannot be attained by express eiiorts-s
power OF entering into the little mind, and meet
.e its thoughts and feelings Some persons nave
this power naturally much more than others and
practice may have given them great facility IN
using il while the sense Of inetperlence. and
the strong anxiety that young mother has
may easily be restraint on her faculties IN deal
ing with her child. have heard the mothers oil
large families declare lin the most private CONVEX
sationl ia SO many instances, that their younger
children are Of higher quality than the older and
this from an age so early as 10 prevent the dtfer
ence being attributed 10 experience in teaching
that have been led to watch and .hink on the sab
iect aud | think that one powerful cause is that
the mother has naturally more freedom and play
fitness and tact in her Intercourse with her young
er children than with the elder, and thereby hxes
their attachment more strongly aud there are no
bounds to the good which arises from strong alec
tons in a child. Happy the mother VINO is the Oh
iect Of her ckids strongest love rom the begin
ming happy, that IL, If she makes a good use OF
her privilege. She must never desire more love
than the child has to give The most that 1t can
give will be less than she would like. and far less
than her own for II bat she will not obtain more
bat only eDdanger what she has, by making the
child conscious of his affections snd by requiring
tokens which do not manifest themselves sponts-
neousy. Ii should be enough tor a mother that her
child comes 20 her with his little troubles and
pleasures, and shows by bis whole behavior that
she is of more importance 10 hun than any one else
in the world fit be So there will be times when
he will spring into her lap, aud throw bus arms
round her neck aud give her the thrilling KISS that
she longs n have every day and every hour But
the sweetness Of these caresscs will be lost y hen
they cease % be spontaneous and the child VIII
leave OF sprnging into the lap, II II is - be teAseo
for kisses when there. There are lew products Oh
the humsn mind which are 10 be mad good upon
comvulsion and affection east oil all knew G
Little boy who was brought home from being ~
nurse IN the country aud shown 10 his conscien'
tious anxious bat most formal mother The child
chung 10 his nurses neck, bid his face on ner
shoulder aud screamed violently. Bat bis mother q
voice was heard above his noise. saying soemu'y,
Look AZ me, my dear Nurse is going away,
and YOU will no, see her any more. iou must los Q
me now" Whether she taus gained her cnud .
love M readers may conf ecture.
The mother VINO Is first ia her cnilis affection IL
under the serious responsibility Of impsrting Tie
,reasur. 10 others She takes her whole household
into her own hart and she must open her lltie
ones heart T. take IN all likewise. See must asso
clate all IA turn IA his pursuits AMI pleasures, III
hi, love has spread Through the house aud ne can
be happy and cherished IN every corner Of H.
The mother who sees some one else more be
loved than hersef-the servant, perhaps, or an
elder child Of her 0Rn--must Dot lose heart. much
l... tanner or all is lost IL Is possible that her
,nrn may never come, bat II IL lar more pr0beo
that IL will If she Knows bow 70 wax ior ~ che
must 90 On doing her part as perseveringy and. u
II msy be- as Cheerful as u her nesrt vas satisfied
and sooner or later the child VIII discover never
20 forget, what friend she - Moreover, # reT
mind aud manner are not such az 70 win a child
in mis- early infancy, they may SUIT his neecs at a
l.,sr STAGE of his mind. ! have oossrved-trat the
mothers who are most admirable az some seasons
nj their cbidren's lives fail of az others. l nave
seen a mother who had extraordinary skill Ia
bringing oot and training her cniidrens faculties
before they reached their teens. and sno was all