Anti-slavery bugle. [volume] (New-Lisbon, Ohio) 1845-1861, 1848-04-07

NV VI
Forgive and forget, Herbert
No, | will neither forgive nor forget
The thing was done wantonly. | never pass
by a direct insult
Admit that ii was done wanionly but
tits ! doubt. lie is an old friend, long tried
and long esteemed. He could not have been
himself; he must have been carried away
by some wrong impulse when he offended
YOU
'lIe acted from somethingi in him Of course
I'VE all do so. Nothing external can
touch our volition, unless there be that with
in which corresponds TO the impelling AGENT
VERY well. This conduct of Marsion
shows him TO be internally unworthy Of my
regard shows him 20 possess a trait Of cha
racter that units him TO be my friend. |
have been mistaken in him. He now stands
revealed in his true light, a medn-spirlted fell
low.'
Don't use such language toward Marston,
my young friend
He has no principle. He wished TO rem
der me ridiculous and do me harm. A
man who could act as he did cannot possess
a spark of honorable feeling. Does a good
fountain send forth bitter walers1 Is not a
tree known by its fruit! When a man seeks
wantonly TO insult and injure me, | discover
that he wants principle, and wish 10 have no
more TO do with him.
Perhaps said the individual with whom
Herbert Arrest was conversing, sit is your
wounded self-love, more than your high re-
gard for principle, that speaks SO eloquently
against Marston.'
MIR. Wexford -
May, my young friend, do not be offended
uiII mn NAnr ro,r, ,,,. ,-Il ..-.II .z.
make mine. ] have lived long enough TO get
IA cool head, and understand something of the
springs Of action that lie in the human heart.
The best, at best, have little to be proud of,
and much TO lament over in the matter of high
and honorable impulses. 1t is far easier TO
do wrong than right; far easier to be led
away by our evil passions than to compel our
selves always 10 regard justice and judgement
in our dealings with others. Test yourself
by this rule. Would your feelings towards
Marston be the same if he had only acted
toward another, as he has acted oward you !
Do not say nay from a hasty impulse. Re
fleet coolly about it. If not, then ii is not so
much your regard 10 principle, as your regard
to yourself, that causes you TO be so bitterly
offended
This plain language was not relished by
the young man. 1t was touching the very
thing in him that Marston had oifended-his
self-love. He replied, coldly-
AS for that, | am very well satisfied with
my own reasons for being displeased with
Marston; am perfectly willing 10 be respon-
sible for my own actions in the case. / will
change very much from my present mind, if
| ever have anything more to do with him.
God give you a better mind, them repli-
ed Mr.. Wexford. 1T is the best wish | can
express 10 YOU
The two young men who were now at va
rance with each other had been friends for
many years. As they entered the world, the
hereditary character of each came more fully
into external manifestation, and revealed traits
not before seen, and not always the most
agreeable TO others. Edward Marston had
his faults, and so had Herbert Arrest; the
latter quite as many as the former. There
was a mutual observation of these, and mn
tual forbearance toward each other for consi-
derable time, although each thought more
than was necessary about things in the Other
that ought to be corrected. A fault with
Marston was ~quickness of temper, and a dis
position 10 say unpleasant, cutting things
without due reflection. But he had a forgiv
ing disposition, and very many amiable AM
excellent qualities. Arrest was also quicl
tempered. His leading defect of characte
was selfesteem, which made him exceeding
" sensitive in regard TO The conduct of 9th
ers as affecting the general estimation Of him
sell. He could not bear to have any freedom
taken with'him in company, even by his hes
friend. lie felt it to be humiliating, if no
degrading, He, therefore was a man Of ma
ny dlslikes, for one or another was ever,
\ now and then doing or saying something tina
hurt more or less severely his sel(-esteem.
s Marston had none of this peculiar weak
ness of his friend. He rarely thought abou
the estimation in which he was held, an
never let the mere opinions of others infu
ence him. But he was careful not 10 do an
thing that violated his own self. respect.
The breach between the young men occu.
red thus: The two friends were in compan
with several others, and there was present
g young lady in whose eyes Arrest wished
appear in as favorable a light as possible.-
He was relating an adventure in which |
was the principle hero, and in doing 50, e.
aggerated his own action SO far as TO anu,
: Marston, who happened to know all abo
the circumstances, and provoke from him sou
= remarks that placed the whole affair in rath
a ridiculous light, and caused a laugh at A
nests expense.
The young mans self-esteem was deep
wounded. Even the lady, for whose ears 1
narrative had been more especially give
. laughed heartily. and made one or two liz
remarks; or, reiher heavy ones for the ca
of Arrest. He was deeply disturbed, thou
~ at the time he managed to conceal almos! {
~ ,irely what he felt.
- Marston, however, saw that his thoughtle
% words had done more than he had intend
&c them to do, both upon the company and up
VI the sensitive mind of his friend and wait
~ only until he should leave the company wi
~ Arrest, to express his sorrow for what he h
~ done. But his friend did not give him Il
opportunity, for he managed TO retire aloI
- thus expressing to Marston the fact that
was seriously offended.
IA Early on the hext morning Marston call
Gu at the residence of his friend, in order
make an earnest apology for having offend
~ him, but he Unopened not to be IT home.
On arriving Al hIs Office he found a note e.,