The examiner. [volume] (Louisville, Ky.) 1847-1849, 1847-12-11

To WIvES.-1he hrst inquiry oil wo-
man after marriage should be, elbow shall |
continue the love | have inspired! How
shall preserve the heart have won?'
1. Endeavor to make your husbands
habitation alluring and delightful to him.
Let it be to him sanctuary to which his
heart may always turn from the calamities
of life. Make it a repose from his cares,
a shelter from the world, home not for his
person only, but for his heart. He may
meet with pleasures in other houses, but let
him find pleasure in his own Should he
be detected, soothe him; should he be silent
and thoughtful, do not heedleSsly disturb
him; should he be studious, favor him with
all practicable facilities; or should he be
peevish, make allowance for human nature,
and by your sweetness, gentleness and good
humor, urge him continually to think,
though he may not say it, ''this woman is in
deed comfort to me: | cannot but love
her, and requite such gentleness and afec-
ton as they deserve.
2. invariably adorn yourself with deli
cacy and modesty. These, to a man Of re-
fnement, are attractions the most highly
captivating while their oPposites never fail
to inspire disgust Let the delicacy and
modesty Of the bride be always, in a great
degree, supported by the wife.
3. II it be possible, let your husband sup
pose you think him good husband, and il
will be a strong stimulus to his being so.
As long as he thinks he possesses the rePuta-
ton, he will take some pains to deserve it;
but when he has once lost the name, he will
be apt to abandon the reality.
4. Cultivate and exhibit with the greatest
care and constancy, cheerfulness and good
humor. They give beauty to the hnesl
face, and impart charms where charms are
not. On the contrary, gloomy, 6issatis
fed manner, is chilling and rePulsive to hi:
feelings; he will be very apt to seek else
where for those smiles and that cheeriulnes'
which he finds not in his own house.
3. In the article of dress, study YOU
husbands tastes. The opinion OF other
on this subject is of but very little conse
quence, if he approve. :,
6. Particularly shun what the world
calls. in ridicule, curtain lectures. =
!, When YOU shut your door at night endeav
or 10 shut out at the same moment all dlscort
and contention, and look on your chambe
as a retreat from the veIations OF the world
a shelter sacred to peace and affection.
How indecorous, offensive and sinful It IS
for a woman to exercise authority over he
husband, and to say, IL will have
so. II shall be as | like :" But trus
the number Of those who adopt this unbe
+ coming and disgace(ul manner, is so small
/ as to render it unnecessary for me to en-
t large on the subject.
I. Be careful never to Join in a Jest an
laugh against your husband. Conceal hi
faults and speak only Of his merits. Shul
: every approach to extravagance. The wan
r of economy has involved millions IN ms
> eY. Be neat tidy, orderly, methodical
4 Rise early. breakfast early, have Plae
: for everything, and everything in its place
: s. Few things please a man more thai
/ seeing his wife notable and clever in tn
a management of her household. A know
; edge Of cookery, as every other branch
D housekeeping, is Indispensable in female
II and a wife should always eDdeavor to sur
! port with applause the character OF the lad
and the housewife.
/ 9. Let home be your emPire-yor
i world. Let il be the scene Of your wishes
! your thoughts, your plans, your exertions.-
Il Let it be the stage on which, in the varle
e character of wife, OF mother, and Of ma
J. tress, you strive to shine. In its sober, qui