Herald of the times, and Rhode Islander. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1846-1849, 1847-11-25
Popping the Question.


Book" contains some Suggestions on u
subject in respect 10 which, good advice
is particularly desirable;
There is nothing more appalling to Il
modest and sensible young man, than |
asking the girl he loves marry him,
and there are few who do not find their
moral courage tasked TO the utmost.
/ Many man who would lead torIorn
hope, mount n breach, and 'seck the
bubble reputation even at the cannon's
mouth" trcmbles at the idea OF asking a
woman the question which is to decide
his fate. Ladies may cOngratu uIate them
selves that nature aud custom have made
them the responding party.
In matter which men have always
found so terrible, yet which, i'll one way
or other they have always contrved III
some awkward way to accomplish 1t is
not easy to give instruction suited to-
every emergency.
\ A man naturally conforms TO the dis
I position Of the woman he admires. If
she be serious, he will approach the
awful subject with due solemnlty-lf gay
and lively, he will make it an excellen,
joke-if softly sentimental, he must WOO
her in a strain Of high wrought romance,
and ifseverely practical, he relies upon
straight forward common sense.
4 There is one maxim Of universal ap-
plicallon Never lose an opportunity.
| What can n woman think Of a lover who
neglects one! Woman cannot make
| direct advances, but they use infinite tact
in giving men occasions to make them.
In every case it is fair to presume that
when woman gives a man an opportunl-
ty, she expects him to improve 1t; and
Though he may tremble, and feel his pull
ses throbbing and tingling through every
limb though his heart fills up his throat,
and his tongue cleaves to the roof Of his
mouth, yet the awful question must be
! asked the fearful task accomplished
| In the country, the lover is taking a
/ romantic walk by moonlight, with the
lady of his love talks of the beauties OF
the scenery, the harmony of nature, aud
excIaims, ,-"Ah! Julia how happy would
existence prove, if always had such
companion %
| She signs, and leans more fondly on
the arm that tremblingly supports her.
| Nv dearest Julia, be mine forever
II This is settler, and the answer, ever
so inaudible, makes or undoes him quite.
Il Take pity OH a forlorn bachelor, says
another in a manner which may be either
! Jest or earnest, marry me at once, and
and put me out Of my misery.
/ With all my heart, whenever you are
ready, replies the laughing fair. a Joke
carried thus far is easily made earnest.
A point is often carried by taking a
thing for granted. A gentleman who
has been paying attention to lady, says,
| Well, Mary, when is the happy day !
What day, pray ? she asks with a con-
scious blush.
| Why, every body knows we are going
to be married, and it might as well be
one time as another so when shall II be p!
| Cornered in this fashion, there Is no
retreat.
| Jane, ! love you, will you marry me ?
would be somewhat abrupt, and frankly
| riven " Yes I" would be short and sweet
for an answer.
| Ellen, one word from you would make
me the happiest man in the universe
/ should be cruel not to speak 1t then,
unless it is very hard one.
1t is word Of three letters, and an
swers the questlon-WilI you have me -!
The lady Of course says Yes, unless
she happens to prefer a word OF only
1.-TWO letters, and answers No.
\ And 50 tins interesting and terrible
! process in practice simply as tits in theory
! is varied ia hundred ways, according to
! circumstance and tie various DISPOSE
Itions
II One timid gentleman says, Have you
any objections 10 changing your name !
/ and follows this up with another which
Iclenche, its significance; /; How would
/ mine snit you
Il Another asks, VIII you tell me wha, |
most wish to know.
| Yes, if | can.
! The happy day when we shall be
! married
Another says, Ny Eliza, we must do
what all the world evidently expects we
| shall.
Il All the world is very impertinent.
Il know it-but IT can't be helped.
when shall tell the parson to be ready u!
! As a general thing, a gentleman need
J. never be refused. Every woman, except
heartless coquette, finds the means oj
dlscouraging a man whom she does not
! Intend To have before the matter comes
to a point OF declaration.
II INFLUX or PAUPERIsM.-The N.Bruus'
i wick papers furnish appalling accounts o.
1.-THE deplorable sulicrings OF entlre cargoe'