The Ottawa free trader. [volume] (Ottawa, Ill.) 1843-1916, 1847-10-22


nubial concord and domestic peace? mean
no such thing--on the contrary SO much de-
ponds on your mutual endeavors, that with
out the husbands the wiie's cannot succeed.
But the path have pointed out for you to
take, is the Surest, nay the only one to be
pursued to produce or continue IN nam me
disposition 10 Il corresponding course Of med-
stTes. Can that be called a sacrifice which
promotes domestic bliss? AS well may he
be said to sacrifice his money who gives 1t
FOR larger sum.
"You win be disappointed if You expect
your husbands face always to be the sport
ing-placc Of smiles and graces, or his mind
at all times attlned to the soft melody OF
harmonious strains
'As well expect eternal sunshine, cloudlcss
skies,
As men forever temperate. calm, and WISE
Sickness, disappointment, and perpleNity IN
his business, and thousand nameless eau
ses. cannot but sometimes operate to disturb
his mind. depress his spirits, and beclond his
visage; producing, perhaps, unusual tact
turnity. or n strain of language not remark
able for its meliiiluent cadenceS. Tins is
not the occasion on which he is to be met
with corresponding department onthe part
of his wife. II is rather the time when the
exercise Of all her philosophy is indiSpenSa-
Hc,-a time when her temper Is to be tried,
her heart probcd, and her affections put to
the test; the time when, by her kind, soft,
aud sympathizing language, and a counte-
nance and conduct bearing testimony to its
sincerity, he is 10 be comlOrted at least with
the reflection, that he has friend III advcr-
sty as well asin prosperity, partner in his
sorrows as in his JOYS. | may possibly be
singular in the opinion, but l could never
entertain the fullest confidence even in the
rirtUc of that female whose sympathieS could
not be excited by the sorrows ofothcrs; and
surely a wife can never appear so interest
ing and aniabc in the eyes Of her husband,
.aS when he sees her melting with kindness
! to him. and sorrowing for his sorrows. In
short. it should he the object of yonr unre-
mitted attention, 70 make him feel that his
/ home is n rlace Of refuge from his cares, a
sanctuary from the frowns OF adverse for
tune, aud he will seek it as naturally as lie
would desire his own felicity. But when a
/ husband ceases TO regard his home as the
happie>t place on earth. he will shun il a
he would fly his troubles and, as it offer
happens. will take the road to ruin, and seek
at the alc-house, the eamiHg-table, or more
indecent places, a refuge from domestic
broils, the consequences Of which, thougl
often seen. are too disgusting for detail.
SIT could not be deemed a compliment Il
your husbands taste, to suppose that he vii
be Indifferent to your dress, or pleased 4
sec yon careless in this respect, either a
? home or abroad. Those wives have not re
fected much, who think slip-shod slater
J hazards nothing Of her husbands gootopn
ion; or that the lack of ueatness in dumos
tic dress is not tt certain indication CT her in
dolence and the Discarded aspect OF her bab
itaton. lfyour husband loves you he coul,
not but feel somewhat Of disappointment
! should the personal appearance Of his rit
+ be much inferior to that Of the GiH he court
= cd, orto the generality Of those females Wit
! whom You may happen TO associate. III
, cannot but make comparisons. and il shout
l be your care that they should not result j,
your disadvantage.
: "EXtravacancc in dress should also b
E avoided aSll calculated 10 increase the res
I probability Of married lady. and it some
10 times occasions surrnises uow!Sc cr5ditabl
, TO the female character Indeed. you ought
: by consulting your husbands wishes in thi
$ reSp6 CT. TO leave him not doubt that YOU
S dress is fashioned 10 meet his appreciation
. more than 10 attract tic gaze or gain In
e admiration Of any or every other person
! Il may be thought, perhaps, By some, tia
. the dress Of the wife is, 10 the husband.
S matter Of very triiiur consequence: but re
t ly upon lathe lftct Of Regarding lis opir
: ions ON This subject, Is not always who'll
: lninpo,tdnt.
b "Nm have doubtless seen and hear
= enough to know, that nothing short Of Grim,
: can more impair the responsibility OF amai
c ried lady. than often being seen at publ
Y places unattended by her husband. Shou'
{ yours have 10 desire to be thronged vii
C company at home. nor disposition to seek
r abroad; or should you unfortunately aspir
It to live in style Inconsistent with his fee
d ineS orreSOurceS. | have already said cnoug
i 10 show you that no action Of yours Savo'
ing of opposition, no look souled with di'
c appointment, nor expression hncturcd vii
!; roproach, will dispose him the more 10 Gra
If ify your wishes. That such means cann'
y succeed with man of sense aud spirit,
:. as obvious a. the indscrctiun through whiC
: they are adopted.
h "Abrupt contradiction Of any one. thouG
h sometimes the effect of an uuguardCd M
d ment, is generally regarded as sure ind
If cation Of low and vulgar breeding; but sue
:. conduct in wife towards n husband, sc
Y dom fails 10 render him ridiculous md h
d contemplate in the estimation of nil wi
1f may happen to witness such an instance
IT her folly end imprudcucc. Much of q
10 respectfully Of the wife is reflected Ere
4. the husband; aud when she, by her udi
n erection, lessons his. she is sure to sink h
n own in public estimation.
ID "To concldc---Ihavc Voluntarily and PC
ii hapS oiliciously offered youmy counsel, nj
e the best my Judgment can afford. My m
I'll tive is your good but il depends on you
III SELF whether or not il viii be useful to yc
IL But keep this letter by you. and If at the c,
re otthrcc or four years. you shall think yo''
If self not benefited Ivy It's contents, you ha
j. my assent to burn it.
at sThat the blessings Of health, peace o
L. prosperity may attend you through life,
10 the sincere wish and earnest hope cf yc
f. friend, THOS. HERTTELL."
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nc at takes the Yankees 10 do up COURT
- in business like fashion. 'PlcdSe dRSt
e. me right straight off, said one Of them II
ld postscript TO his first love letter. olitn
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