Litchfield enquirer., 1847-05-20
From Me United States Gazette.
Hints for Wives.

HSa"h"SShs 4N4N\u WA luO NOuIIOIk OA ~ married life depends upon the lady great deal more. perhaps, !han she is aware of. Sho scarcely knows her own influence how much by sympathy-how much ny unremitted kindness and little attention. Toacquire snd retain such in- huence, she must, however. make her con- j"gal duties her first object. She must not think that any :hing will do for her husband-thas any thing is good enough for her husband-that it is not worth while to be agreeable when there is only her husband by-ihat she mny close her piano. or lay aside her brush, for why should she play or paint merely to nmuse her hushahd7 No-she must consider all these little arts of pleasing chiefly valua> hle on his account-as means of perpetu> atin5 her attractions, and giving perma- nence 10 his affcction-she must remem> Der ,hnt her duty consists no, so much in great and solitary acis-in display of the sublime virtues t0 which she will only be occasionally called; but in trifles-n a cheerful smile, or a minute attention nat. urally rendered, and proceeding from a heart full of kindness, and Q temper full of amiab'lity."
 In looking over late paper, I met with the above raluable hints on the duties of wivcsto their lerds, pointing out the mode in which they were to secure, in the bus band, the chivalric devotion which had characterized the lover. The most infi,l, hbie specific, or the one most strongly in> sisted upon in rules of this kind, is a " smiling eountenancc." No matter what wife's nnnoyunces may have been dur. ing the day, her coun,enancc mus, always be wrrathed in smiles on the approach of her husband.
 Being one of those fortunate individuals who have hitherto escaped the moose, I have had leisure 10 give these subjects iha, profound reflection which characterizes those situated like my self.
 "For if there's any thing in whch shine
 'Tis in arranging all m, friends affairs.
 Not having of my own domestic cares "
 It has often occu, red to me, therefore tha, it was rather singular that all this good advice should always come from one side. How is it that there are SO few guide-posts {" point the way ,o innocent young gentlemen, who have recently sub. m;ttrd their neck tO "ihc moose and hal> tcr?" Why is il not ofiencr insisted ups on, that the husband should always res turn to his Preside with smile. md en> denvnr ,o sooihe the pertuhcd spirit. that has for hours heen subjected 10 the ,hou- sand annoyances of the nursery and the kitchen!
 There is many an unfortunate Mrs. Rogers among my acquaintance, with Chine small children, and one at the breast" who need all the soothing tens derness fi'st bestowed ny inc lover. to en. able them Co forge. the troubles so wear ing to tho nerves-by the way, it has sometimes occurred to me whether it was no, Mrs. Rogers who was ihe martyr. and homes, John, most fortunate individual, 10 get so we'll "out of the scrape." of be- ing obliged 10 make adequate provisions for the filling those len smnll mouths, and the clothing those len small bodies.
 Compare for moment, the lot of hus~ band and wife, in what Is called Ca well regulated family ;" the former takes his seat n, the break fast table, where his taste and comfort has been silently consulted. 50 far as is practicable-on his wife de- wolves the care of preparing tho "nine small children" to take their seats there also, and in some degrec of regulating their conduct. Breakfast ended, the hus. band goes forth to his workshop. his coun'cr. his counting house, or his office 1: greeis pleasantly his acqu1intanres by the way, and passes the day among the ever varying scenes of every day business life. The wife, meanwhile, amid incessnn: claTor, must renew the ircadmill task of yesierdsy-must wash the snme G.ccs. make tho same beds. sweep the same rooms; mus, give directions for the suc . ceeding meals, and perhaps assist in pre- pairing them must settle disputes in the kitchen. and qua're's among 'he nine fallen little sons and daughters of her Adem-and amid all these occupations must find accasi ionai moments to "s,itch' stitch, stitch" tho innumerable garments, patched in family.
 L., her look 10 it, according 10 tho sa- pien. and oft reiterated advice above al. luded to. that she gets through all this in time t0 clOthe her harrasscd and care> worn vissage in those "wreathed smiles." i" so indispensable toward maintaining the good.hurnor of her liege lord. He too has had his troubles to encounter, for from trouble no one is exempt-but noi of that