Carroll free press. [volume] (Carrollton [Ohio]) 1834-1861, 1847-09-03
THE wISEST CHOICE.
BY LYDIA JANs PEIRSON.

present intend 10 put on uymen chaln az souic
future day. Now, as | am empowered to ques'
ZION, call on every one Of you 10 tell me, out
of what trade or profession she intends TO choose
husband. Miss Mary, how is your llege lord
to earn his daily breadi"
81 shall never marry a man who IS obliged to
follow any avocation for his bread, Mrs. En-.
MONS" the beautiful girl replied, sco"niully.
"You are proud beauty, Mary" reioined the
other, "and can undoubtedly marry fortune, il
YOU are so resolved; but mark me, do not give too
much for your whistle. Will you marry money
too, Julial"
81 intend to marry man" laughingy answer
ed the brght.eyed creature interrogaled, 81 shall
not look for money, wisdom or fame"
"Ah Julia. permit me TO say that wife and mo-
ther finds many things necessary to her comfort
beside mere man. You should at least require
in him good disposition, integrity and industry"
mo. no; lsha ask only the man Of my choice"
cried Julia; "all for love is my motto"
"Shall give you my opinion Of love, Julial"
30, certainly whatever you may say will
doubtless be edifying to youngmad caps like me"
"WelI, love is far from being the delicate angel
Of young girls fancy. In woman il is COM
pound Of sympathy and devotion. There is no
fish women, but such cannot love. am speak.
ing of woman in her true character, not of those
anomalies and carricalures that sometimes dis.
grace the sex, just as miIdewed and cankered ro-
ses appear upon the richest tree. A woman may
admire an indifferent man, but never until he ad.
dresses her in language of affection, can she be
said 10 love. If his passion awaken her sympa.
thy, it will probably keep pace with his ardor,
wrapping him in beautiful tissue Of fancy work,
broidered with every device of tenderness and
bliss, while self scarcely filings a shadow on the
background.
"But love in mans nature is compound Of
selEwill and pride, He meets with a woman
whose beauty, celebrity, or perchance feminine
tenderness, engages his attention. He resolves
TO possess himself of her at all hazards. Ask
him why he is so ardent in pursuit of her. he will
invariably reply, Il cannot be happy without her.
Here lies the secret of his own happiness. Per-
chance there is some opposition: his will is arous.
ed; his omnipotent will. He will have her: aye,
although her mothers heart break for the ingrat
ilude of her child, and the outraged spirit of her
father pour out its bitterness in a withering culse
upon his dsobedient daughter: although he knows
that he is taking her from happiness, to plunge
out her. he will have her. If there be rival suit
ors, his pride is aroused. Shall another be pre-
ferred before himl Shall any man living bear
off the prize on which he has fixed his choice!
He obtains her-and so long as she ministers TO
his happiness, submits TO his will, and continues
a creature of whom he can be proud-all is well.
/ will not reverse The picture.
'Woman's love, in its most lecitous state, is
a taking up of heavy cross, in martyr-Ilke de-
votedness. Consider what either of you must
forego when she leaves her girlhood's home; and
fancy, for you cannot realize, what you must en-
dure as mother, nurse, and house-keeper."
"Mercy on US, Mrs. Emmons, you surely do
wrong to destroy all the beautiful fancy colorings
of hope and love, by letting thus into the home
ly realities of domestic liIe."
81 know thatn is very Questionable to speak
truth, or to let young ladies know that life has
aught besides roses. Yet trust me, it is better to
enter life with rational knowledge of our duties
and in expectation of the trials that await US, thar
TO marry in anticipation of perfect happiness, anC
to be obliged to learn that our lot is submission
endurance, and confinement with all The excru.
ciating varieties Of pain and care. Be assured
that woman was not created 10 be admired and
worshipped. She was made be man sreasonable
companion; help, not toy for him: and how
evel he may in the spirit Of gaIlantry affect a diff
ference, and humble submission, still that fiat o
Gods rests on her. Thy desire shall not be un.
to thy husband, and he shall rule over her,
See younothow mercy tempers justice even here
While the Eternal doOms woman to servitude. hi
endows her with love so deep, so holy, disin
terested, that it fills her bosom with an indweIhne
light and happiness, which utterly exclude ,ht
backness and bitterness Of subjecton, if he tC
whom she has given the lordship over her be wor
thy of the sacred trust. Suffer me, ladies', to of
fer one word of advice here. Never marry {
man who can in any instance depart from truth
or violate hisword. You cannotreverencea a mar
whom you cannot honor, and how can you hon
or liar and deceiverl | value sincerity above
every othervirue. Whatw you choose, CIaral'
al will endeavor to win substantial farmer
and make myself little paradise of sweet flow
srs and green trees around my neat cottage.
will then eat my own fowls, cheese. and butter
and preserve the fruits, that have reared ant
gathered; and have MELONS and strawberrie
from my own garden fordessert. ] will be queer
OF my own domain, and teach my children to b.
honest and industrious.
"Well done, Clara! heard Young Bartlett
declare that you were born for an empress, but
did not divine that his farm was your future EN-
pire. What say you, Lucyl"
''If any gentleman condescends to solicit m,
partnership. shall insist that he prove his inteG
rity. and disinterested affection for me. Further
1t is TO me immalera whether he be miIonair
or merchant, or an artisan of some quiet ant
ceanly trade"
"The humble shall be exalted, Lucy. Iprog
nosiicate much happiness in store foryou. Now
Janeue, it is your turnl"
81 shall look for lawyer, Mrs. Emmous, A
our great men have grown out of that profession
Our Judges, our senators, our presidents were a
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