Martinsburg gazette. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1833-1855, 1847-01-14
miscellany.
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THE TEMPER AND THE TONGUE.
OF SPEECH.

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THE TEMPER AND THE TONGUE.
RAsHNEss OF SPEECH.
give me the heert that iaiu would hide
w ouid isin another's fault efiace
How can il pleasure human pride,
To prove humanity but bases
No let as reach higher mood,
nobler estimate Of man;
BE earnest IN the search for good,
And speak Of all the best we can "
We sometimes since ventured 10 offer word
of reproof in relation to the habit Of speaking
harshiy, hastily, or without due reflection
The evil is so common, and is often attended
with such eyd consequences, that we will be
excused for referring TO it again. II may be
said to form one OF the mos. serious annoyan-
ces of social life. And. when a family or
circle is troubled with an individual who is
afflicted with the infnnity alluded 10, who IS
in the habit, either from rashneSs. thenghtless
ness or bitterness oidisposrtien, oil making un.
kind, unieelmg or violent remarks, the vice at
times becomes almost iBsullerable. Hearts are
wounded the sensitive are Xecited and stung,
old grets are revived, frall,ieS are subjected TO
an improper scrutiny, and thus pain is caused
in various ways. individuals have no right.
even under the plea OF iraukness and candour,
70 make Use OF harsh ani irritating language
TO aiiaGe 10 subjects Of a delicate or unpleas.
ant nature--to revive the recollection of errors
repented. or even to reproach in bitter and
ylntlcrye spirit the exhibition ofeylsilng frail-
ties. Some persons, too. are in the habit Of
getting MO an undue excitement. on public
am prirate questions. and while in this state,
OF @enJdnclng the objeetsof their passion with
a degree Of lua,evolenee and rancor SO strong.
Is u be quite painful TO the listeners. A friend
informs us that a case OF this kind occurred
few days ago IN an omnibus. The vehicle
was well crowded with ladies and gentlemen,
when a somewhat exciting subject became the
theme OF conversation between two Of the lat,
:er. They talked cody enough for a little
while, bat soon the temper OF one OF the par
ties was reused. his language became stronger,
his manner, voice, and the expression OF bis
coanlenance, changed with his words, and he
poured forth a torrent Of inyective so bitter and
burning. that the other passengers Were not on.
~ astopiShed hEt sadly annoyed-and alltunI-
ed upon each other looks Of coDgtatnlation,
when tue hot.tempered individual pulled the
sting tia; checked the vehicle, and took his
departure. His manner was most unpleasant.
The same sentiments might have been express
sed with Tar more emphasis and effect, in
camer, miIder, and yet in sufficiently deci-
ded spirit Butthe impression made was, that
the eXeitable one possessed very unhappy
and tyranncal temper, and that the less the
lovers OF peace, quiet aud courtesy had 10 DO
with him, the better.
But there is another description OF rashness
oil speech that deserves 10 be noticed and rebu-
ked. A gentleman informs us that year or
two ago he attended quite brilliant party in
nelghboring city. In the course of the even
ing, he was conyersing with friend, when a
somewhat fippant acquaintance came up, and
pointing 10 lady on the opposite side Of the
room, exclaimed in a half whisper, but sufii-
cenly loud 10 be heard by the ihree-"Who
is that frlgEltuly ugly female talking 10 Mrs.
Pr
THAT" replied the Intercepted, at once
panied, mortified and confused, sis the wife of
my friend Mr.. B."-and he Immediately bow
ed to the gentleman with whom he had been
conversing. Fortunately, Mr.. B. was man
of good sense and manageable temper. and
was thus able TO appreciate insoence and pup
pyism al their true value. The mprudent
and impairment youth stalnmered out an apol-
ogy; but he was evidently so abashed and
overwhelmed by his bunder, that he scarcely
knew what he was saying. The incident af-
forded him lesson, however, and for a time
at least, the effect was salutary. The true
doctrine in all matters of conversation, is beau
tiu!ly expressed by clever poet Of the pres
ent day:
"Nay, speak no lila kindly word
Can never leave a sting behind,
And, oh ! TO breathe each tale we've heard,
Is far beneath noble mind.
Full of better seed is sown
ny choosing thus the kinder plan
For if bat little good be known,
Still lei us speak the beat we can
This rule is plain and simple. If we can
not speak well and favorably of an acquant-
ance or friend, let us remain SILENT II we
cannot say something calculated to cheer, glad
den and delight, let us at least moi pursue
contrary course. Our duty is TO afford as
much pleasure, and TO produce as much good
as we can, in the world, and il our means
with reference to these subjects be limited, we
should at least endeavor to restrain the evil pro-
pensides OF our nature. 10 curb and control the
demons of scandal, jealousy, ill-will and all
uncharitableness. Wea have infrmtics and
iailings enough. We all requre the exercise
of generosity and forbearance. Our impeglec-
tons, although invisible TO ourselves, may be
quite glazing to others. When, therefore, we
indulge spirit Of generous and charitable for
beaance IN relation 10 the errors Of the rest of
of the world, we in some degree at least emit
tie ourselves 10 a similar judgment with reer-
ence 10 our own. Nothing is ever lost by
kindness and charity. No heart is pained--no
sensblity is wounded, by words of courtesy,
beneyo!ence and good breeding, while rash
word, violent expression, hasty or an I'M
happy remark, may inAict keen pang--may
cause wound that viii tester and rankle for
years.
''Thep speak no i'll but lehient be,
To Others fallIngs as your 0wn
II you're the first a fault 10 see,
Is, moi the FIRST 10 make IL kaown.
For IT,. is bui passihg DAY,
No ~ may tell how brrf is span
ihrn oh she i,ftls sine stay
Lt's speak If all the b - we can .
Philadelphia Eng
The HAPPY GlRL.-We find the following
in the Boston Post;
GAY, she is a happy grl--we know BY her
fresh looks and huoyant spirits. Day IN and
lay out she has soinething TO do, and she takes
mold OF work as if she did not fear TO dirty her
hands, or soil her apron. Such girls We love
and respect, whtreyer we meet them N pal
ace or a howell Always pleasant and always
kind. they never turn up taeir noses before (
soar face or SANDER you behind your back,
They have more good sense and better EN-
1loyment What are flrts and hustle bound |
rrls in comparison with these2 Good for |
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