The daily national Whig. [volume] (Washington, D.C.) 1847-1849, 1847-10-20
A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS.


] A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS.
Walking the other day with valued friend who
had been confined week or two by sickness TO his
room, he remarked that husband might learn a
| good lesson by being occasionally confined TO his
I house, by having in this way an opportunity of wit
Messing the cares and never ending rolls OF his wife
whose burden and duties, and patient endurance he
might never have otherwise understood. There is
great deal In this thought, perhaps enough for an
editorial" Men, especially young men, are called
BY their business during the day mostly away from
home, returning only nj the hours for meals, and as
they then see nearly the routine of duty they
begin 10 think is their own lot to perform all the
drudgery and to be exercised with the weight of care
and responsibility. But such man has got a very
wrong view of the case; he needs opportunity for
more extended observation and 1t is perhaps for this
very reason that kind Providence arrests him by
by sickness, that he may learn In pain what he would
| iail 10 observe in health. HT. @
| We have seen recently good many things said in
the papers to wives, especially to young wives ex-
posing their faults, perhaps magntying them, and
expounding TO them, in Of kindest TERMS their
duty and the offices pertaining TO a womans sphere
Now, we believe that wives, us whole are really
better than they are generally admitted to be. We
doubt II there can be found great number of wives
who are disagreeable and negligent, without some
papabe GOODNESS short-comng on the part of their
husbands. So far us we have had opportunity for
observation, they far more devoted and faithfu
than those who style themselves their lords and who
by the customs Of society," have other and generally
more pleasant and varied duties to perform. We
protest. them against these lectures SO often and SO
obtrusively addressed to the ladies' and insist upon
1t that they must-most Of them-have been written
by some fusty bachelor who knew no better, or by
some inconsiderate husbands who deserve to have
! been old bachelors to the end of their lives. ,h
But is there nothing to be said the other side
Are husbands generally the perfect amiable injur-
ed beings they are so often represented Men some
times declare that their wives extravaganza have
picked their pockets that their never-ceasng tongues
have robbed them Of their peace, and their general
disagreeabeness has driven them to the tavern and
gaming table, but this is generally the wicked excuse
of most wicked life on their own part The fact is
men often lose their interest in their homes by their
own neglect to make their homes interesting and
pleasant 1t should never be forgotten that the wife
has her rights--as sacred after marriage before
and good husband devotion the wife after mar
rage will concede to her quite us much attention as
his gaantry did while lover lift is otherwise he
most generally is at fault
Take few examples. Before marriage young
man would feel some dcllcacy about accepting an in
vitation TO spend an evening in company where his
lady-lo had not been invited After marriage is
he always as particular During the days of court
ship his gallantry would demand that he should make
himself agreeable to her; after marriage it often hap
pens that he thinks more of being agreeable to him
SELF. How often il happens that married men, after
having been away from home the live long day, dur
ing which the wife has toiled at her duties, go at
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course had her exDecfatOns too She c0uld mt en-
4 terrain feelings which promised 90 much without
forming some idea Of reciprocation ON your part.
and she did expect YOU would after marriage perform
those kind offices Of which y6u were so lavish a be
/ DAYS of betrothment u
She became your wife left her own home for
vours-h,rst nsunder as Il were ,he bands of ,ova
which had hound her n her fa,ber,s freg;de ND
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Why did she leave the bright hearth Of her youth
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