Martinsburg gazette. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1833-1855, 1846-03-05
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THE SIN AND FOLLY OF SC0LDiNG.

THE SIN AND FOLLY OF SC0LDiNG.
|. 1t is a sin against God. Ii is an evil and
only evil. that continually. David understood
! both human nature and the law of God. He
says Fret not myself in any wise to do evil"
That is, never fret or scold, for it is always a
sin. fyou cannot speak without fretting and
scolding, keep silence.
2 IL DESTROYS dbectiol.---No one ever did,
ever can, or ever will love a habitual iretter.
Pathfinder, or scolder, Husbands, wives,
children, relatives, or domestics, have no affec-
ton for peevish, fretful fault-finders. Few
tears are shed over the graves OF such. Per-
sons of high moral principles may tolerate
them-may bear with them. But they can
not love them more than the sting of nettles or
the noise of musquitos. Many a man has
been driven TO the tavern, and TO dissipation by
peevish, iretful wife. Many awife has been
made miserable by peevish, fretful husband.
3. II is the ba,e Of domestic happiness--A
fretful, peevish, complaining, faulthmder in
family is like the continual chaiing OF an in
famed sore. Woe to the man, woman or
child, who is exposed to the influence Of such
a temper in another. Nme-tenths of all domes-
tic trials and unhappiness spring from this
source. Mrs. ID. is Of this temperament She
wonders her husband is not more fond of her
company. Thather children give her so much
trouble That she cannot secure the good will
of young people. The truth is, she is peevish
and fretful Children fear her, but do not love
her. She never yet gained the affections of a
Young person, nor never will till she leaves off
freuing.
4. IL defeats heend Of Family Government
Good family government is the blending ofau-
thority with affection, so as to secure respect
and love. Indeed this is the great secret of
managing young people. Now your fretters
may inspire fear, but they always make two
faults where they correct one. Scolding at a
child, sneering at child ,taunting child, trea-
ting the child as though it had no feelings, in
spires dread and dislike, and foster those very
dispositions, from which many Of the faults Of
childhood proceed. Mr. G. and Mrs. +. are
of this class Their children are made to mind
but how? Mrs. +. frets and scolds her chill
dren. She is severe enough upon their faults
She seems TO watch them in orderto find fault
She sneers at them. Treats them as though
they had no feelings. She seldom gives a
command without threat and long-running
fault finding commentary. When she chides.
it is not done in dignified manner. She raj
SEES her voice, puts on a cross look, threatens,
strikes them, pinches their cars, snaps their
heads, SC. The children cry, pout, sulk, and
poor Mrs f. has to do her work over pretty Of
ten. Then she will find fault with her hus-
band because he does not fall in with her ways,
or chime with her as chorus.
| 5. Frettng and scolding make Hpocrites.
! As fretter receives confidence and affection,
so no one likes to tell them any thing disagree
able, and thus procure for themselves frettng.
| Now children conceal as much as they can
| from such persons. They cannot make up
their minds to be frank and open-hearted. So
husbands conceal from their wives, and wives
! from their husbands. For a man may brave
lion, but he likes not to come in contact with
with nettes and mosquitoes.
! 6. IL DESTROYS one 'speace Of mind.-The more
one frets the more he may. A fretter will al
ways have enough to fret at. Especially if he
or she has the bump of order and neatness
largely developed Something will always be
out of place. There will always be some dirt
somewhere. Others will not eat right, look
right sit right, talk right; he will not do these
things so as to please them. And fretters are
generally so selfish as TO have no regard for any
ones comfort but their own.
7. II is a mark Of rulgar disposition.
persons have so much gall in their disposition,
are so selfish, that they have no regard to the
feelings of others. All things must be done
to please them. They make their husbands,
wives. children, domes,ics, the conductors by
which their spleen and i'll nature are discharg-
ed. Woe to the children who are exposed to
! such influences. 1t makes them callous and
unfeeling, and when they grow up they pur-
sue the same course with their own children
or those entrusted to their management, and
| thus the race of fretters is perpetuated. ANY
person who is in the habit Of fretting, orsneer-
ing, taunting their husbands, wives. children,
or domestics, shows either bad disposition or
else ill-breeding. For it is generally your ig-
norant, low-bred people that are guilty ofsuch
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