The Hillsborough recorder. [volume] (Hillsborough, N.C.) 1820-1879, 1846-12-10

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Prom de southern Christian Advocate.
.....s ,FlNILI GOVERNMENT. ,.t ... |
BY THE REV. nIsHoP ANDREW.
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We have said in peyious number ihai
the child must understand that your viii
is 10 be his laT: we now repeat that this |
is essential 10 The peace Of all concerned.
You must watch the deyelopemenl Of TEN.
per and dis, rsilion in the child, and must
sci yourself firmly and prndenily 10 cor
reel what is wrong, and give the right d.
reciion TO taste, and temper, and habit.
In accomplishing this important object,
You will very probably find yourself plac-
ed in circumstances 10 test your equani.
nifty and patience 10 the utmost extent.
You will find in the temper Of the lilile
creature before you all The peryerseness
and obslinacy Of n fallen heart; your VIC
tory over his inianlile will may cost you
many pang Of bitter anxiety and many
a tear OF anguish. Yet you musi con-
quer. Only few suggestions at this
point. The first step in this matter is TO
conquer yourselves. Children are exceed.
ingly initiative creatures, and they are al
so very keen observers, especially Of the
conduct OF their parents; hence if you
would have your children good, the first
step is 10 be good yourselves. Learn to
control your own tcmpers, and words, and
actions, and you may enter upon the task
Of governing your little ones with some
prospect Of success; and should yon des-
pair Of accomplishing this work because
Won have a high temper which it is i'm
possible for YOU 10 control, we say TO you
in the first place, Danish The word impos-
sible from your book, and say with Paul,
=. | can do al things through chriet which
s.rengtheneth me-" / Know il is too
much Cor human nature; bu, remember
there is God Of omnipotent grace whose
power is called into requisi,ion by earnest
and faithful prayer. Let your command
be reasonable, and wisely adapted to age,
and time, and circumstances, and never
make requisition just to show your au-
thority. Set before your little subjects
with afiec,iona,e simplicity the advantage
of obedience and IFS opposite. Don't be
in too great haste TO correct or to threat.
en-, but try the geniler and kinder method
of persuasion. If these fail, proceed de-
liberately, prayerfully, calmly TO the work
4 Of correction. Let there be no uphraid
! ing, no scolding, no invidious compari
sons between them and other children
This'sort Of thing usually does no good
/ but much harm. Let your corrections bt
administered in private, not before com
pany. Let the culprit see that while
sense Of duty has compelled YOU 10 thu
use Of tho rod, you have carefully avoid
ed every thing which might unnecessari
" wound his sensibili,ies or mortify him
J, Whenever you undertake 10 correct hin
for fault, never cease till you have sub
J, dued the offender 10 confession, conirl
lion, and the promise Of future improve
, ment. II may be hard struggle but a
YOU love your child don't give it over n
, you succeed. 1t may cure him at once
and save him many a score Of lashes !
{ coming time. In your administration b
]. decided and uniform let children undeI
stand from the beginning that they mu:
. obey; that your rules are settled; III;
d obedience is sure 10 meet its reward; an
/. that the penalty uniformly succeeds di'
r. obedience-and that, too, without an
i storm of threatening or scolding; and
beg leave TO record just at this point TIL
!. in an experience of nearly forty years
,; do not recollect a single case with CHI
e dren or servants in which threatening
i ill-naturcd scolding ever produced" an
good result In your administration ev'
y bear this in mind, that it is the eerfain'
and not the severity Of punishment whic
lf is effective. IL you have once pnnisht
. your child for an offence, never upbra
q him with il afterwards. ! have know
J. mothers who were in the habit OF sayn
10 whenever their children offended" that
m Just the way you al,cays do /; you new
a. do any thing rights" and then follows
70 rehearsal Of the criminal docket Tor q
u. last ten years. 0'' Z ,, e =.
"a Now this is very wrong. IL the CHI
ID has committed these many and great al
C. long continued wrongs, and you have p
/. formed your duty, the proper oorrectI
al has been administered; in which case
le is certainly cruel and unjust to bring
i'd these matters again TO mortlfy and ann
Q. him: and if, as is almost sure to be
u case, the allegation is untrue, why tn
lie YOU not only unnecessarily wound !
of sensibiiities, but knowing as ne does u
he the thing is untrue, and that the par
or knows it to be so, there is danger that
nd will lose confidence in your veraci'y, 9