The Hillsborough recorder. [volume] (Hillsborough, N.C.) 1820-1879, 1846-05-07

In company, Ihoush none are {" free. .
ystsll are "sqasl." Al. thersI"rr. xhom
you meet should be treated wiih respect.
although inlerssl may dselsis lsssEd eaeh
diisreht degrees of sHsnmon. Il 10 dis
nspseIlui 60 The insiIsr 90 shun sny ol
her guest; thnse whom she has honol-
ed by admitting n your acquaintance.
hycu meet any one ~hom yon net
er heard oi bslJTe ~ The t,ble uf gsnsle-
man. or IN the drawing room Of lady.
you may c inverse . iih hlm or her With
ensife PEoI rely. The form II s. inuoiur-
Iien 10 no hing mare than at lemslt BY
. mutual lrisnd. that two persons are BY
rank and manhrrs IL srqnainiIners inr
one another. Al Ills mas he presumsd
f,om the fsc'. that both meet II resi- erla.
bel house.
Men Of all sorts Of occupations mees
in sOcirty. A. they 20 there 10 unbend
their mlnhs aud escape from lle letters OF
business. yon shnuld nerer. a. an essuine
party, speak 10 man shout hls prsles.
sinn.
II, in paying a morning visit. you are
not reeogized when you enter. mention
your name immediately. If,o cell to ,i.-
hone member o. the family. sud ynu ind
Others only in the psrlor, introduce your
s,lf To them. Much awkwsrdne.s may
occur 'hrough defect Of silsnli' 60 Ihls
poin'.
II your 'i.it is merely one &C ceremo-
ny. do not wait tho long; if The parry 10
not At home. leave your card. This
equslly 'nnlle' you 10 return visit as il
you mad found her al home.
Visits 81 cen mony, although made sfIer
noon, are called morning visits.
Ia ordinary sIsit.. ltaVe a single card;
but If there be residing IN The family .
married daughter. an unmarred sisier. q
guest. or any person IN di,tiuci situation
from tie mistress Of the house. and you
are acquainted With them, leave separate
cards for each. Some ladies iold down
one corner Of a card when they wish 10
denote that their Welt IL ouly TO one msm.
Der, and two. three. or even four corners,
when II il 10 the same number Of persons;
but The custom is neatly obsole'e.
II you accidentally forget the name OF
the person you are sddres.ing. the easiest
and most polite mode OF discovering IL, 10
without eonsusint TO eek him bis name.
making some casual remark sboni the
difficulty Of remembering names. aud your
unfortunate aptitude TO forget them,
When . lady visits you for the fret
time. her visits should be returned within
three days, or al the latest within week.
When you are invited 10 Q party. YOU
should call on The person from whom The
invitation eamr. on The third OF iour,h day
alter the part, has taken place. TO leave
your card. wishoa, inquirIng il The lady 10
o. home. 10 sufficient.
1. 10 III bred 10 ussr your veil over
your face while paying q visit.
Visits Of coincidence are made the week
after . dea,h has occurred 10 the family
YOU are visiting. II you sss related 10
the afflicted person, call Immediately
Visits ri congratulated after a marriage.
birth. &c. shoUll DO made within fort.
night.
Forswsll visits should be made only 4
few days before your departure from .hs
city. II 10 only necessary 10 leave your
card with p. =. G. Pour prendre con.
gee. or P.D. A. Pour dire Adleu,) writ.
zen upon il.
Only TAO visits . year are due 10 per.
sons with whom you are not very vel
acquainted.
II you do no, wish TO receive a visit,
you run less risk Of giving offence by
desiring your servants tn say that you are
d" not ., home." than BY sending word
that you are engaged. The former form
has been objected 10 on the plea that il
was telling tslsehood, aud teaching our
servants to DO The same. Blu, il is easy
10 explain to domestic that "not al
home" is understood as "not at home 10
compsny-not in the parlor 10 receive
company" aud The mode Of expression
being generally understood in society, il
cAnuot be accounted falsehood.
To peep through The blinds Of win.
dow, or over The baunIslers. when the
stree. door bell rings. is decidedly vulgar,