American Republican and Baltimore daily clipper. [volume] (Baltimore, Md.) 1844-1846, 1846-10-10
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8" Obedence is very small part of conjugal
ty, and, in most cases. easily performed.-
UGH of the comfort of married life depends
on the lady; great deal more, perhaps, than
e is aware of. She scarcely knows her own
huence; how much she may do by persuasion
how much by sympathy much by I'M
Emitted kindness and little attention. To ac-
ire and retain such influence, she must, how
Ter, make her conjugal duties her first object.
he must not think that anything will ivf
3 pr husband-that any wine is good enough for
Or husband-that it is not worth while to be
zEreeable when there is only her husband by
bat she may close her piano, or lay aside her
Eush, for why should she play or paint merely
/ amuse her husband2-No-she must consid-
all these little arts of pleasing, chiefly valua-
e on his account-as means Of perpetuating
5 er attractions, and giving permanence to his
&fection-she must remember that her duty
insists not so much in great and solitary acts
lin display Of the sublime virtues to which she
8 i'll only be occasionally called; but in triaes-
/ cheerful smile, or minute attention ma
Zlrally rendered, and proceeding from heart
BILL of kindness, and temper full of amiabi-
zty."
In looking over late paper, | met with the
! bove pallabLe hints on the duties Of wives to
T heir lords, pointing out the mode in which
ley were to secure, in the husband, the Chi
alric devotion which had characterized the
&pver. The most infallbe specific, or the one
host strongly insisted upon in rules of this kind,
| "smiling countenance." No matter what
wife's annoyances may have been during the
av, her countcnance must be always wreathed
smiles on the approach Of her husband.
Being one of those fortunate individuals, who
ave hitherto escaped the moose, nave had
leisure to give to these subjects that profound
! detection which characterizes tn, Sc situated
ike myself
"For if there's anything in which | shine
IT'S in arranging all IN friends affairs,
! Not haVing OF my own domestic cares"
1t has often occurred to me, therefore, that ii
WAS rather singular that all this good advice
Should always come from one side. How is il
that there are so few guide-posts to point the
|way to innocent young gentlemen, WHIT have
recently submitted their neck to "the moose and
Fhe haltar?" Why is it not oitener insisted up
lon, that the husband should always return to
his fresde with smile, and endeavor to soothe
Fhe perturbed spirit, that has for hours beer
subjected to the thousand annoyances OF the
nursery and the kitchen?
There is many an unfortunate Mrs Rogers
among my acquaintance, with "nlne SINAI
children and one at the breast" who need al
1.-The soothing tenderness erst bestowed by the
lover, 10 enable them to forget the troubles Sc
wearing to the nerves-by the way it has some
times occurred to me whether it was not Mrs
Rogers who was the martyr, and honest John
most fortunate individual, to get so well "ou
of the scrape," with being only obliged to make
|adeouate provision for the filling those ten
small mouths, and the clothing those ten small
bodies.
Compare for moment the lot of Husband
and Wife, in what is called "well regulated
family the former takes his seat at the break
fast table where his taste and comfort has beer
silently consulted, so far as is practcable-oi
his wife devclves the care Of preparing TIN
stnine small children" to take their seats Their
also, and in some degree of regulating thei
conduct. Breakfast ended, the husband goe
forth to his workshop, his counter, his count
ing house, or his Office, greets pleasantly hi
acQuaintances by the way, and passes the da.
among the ever-vaIying scenes OF every day
business life. The vile, meanwhile, amid in
cessant clamor, must renew the treadmill tasl
of yesterday-must wash the same faces, max
the same beds, sweep the same rooms; mus
give directions for the succeeding meals, am
perhaps assist in preparing them; must settl
disputes in the kitchen, and quarrels anon
the nine fallen little sons and daughters OF he
.fdam-and amid all these occupations mus
find occasional moments to "sttch--sttch-
stitch" the nnumerabe garments needed in
} family.
Let her look to it, according to the sapien
and oft reiterated advice above alluded to, tina
she gets through all this in time to c,othe he
harrassod and care-worn visage in thos
'wreathed smiles so indispensable towar
maintaining the good humor of her liege lore
He too has had trouble no one is exempt-br
not Of that petty harrassing kind, that al