True Democrat. (Paulding, Miss.) 1845-18??, 1846-02-25
4 BacheIoy's Complaint Of Married
People,
BY CHARLES LAME.

mites OF married people, to console myself
for those superior pleasures which they tell
me have lost by remaining as am.
lcannot say that the quarrels ofmen and
their wives ever made any great impression
upon me, or had much tendency to streng-
! then me in those anti-social resolutions,
which | took up long ago on more substan
tial considerations. What ofienest ofFendS
me at the houses of married persons where
| visit, is an error of quite different de-
scrlption-it is that they are too loving.
Not too loving, neither; that does not ex-
plain my meaning. Beside, why should
that offend me? The very act ofseparating
themselves from the rest of the world, to
have the fuller enjoyment of each others
society, implies that they prefer one anoth-
er to all the world.
But what | complain of is, that they
carry preference SO undiSguisedy, they
perk 1t up in the faces of us single people
so shameIeSSI y, you cannot be in their com
pany moment without being made to
feel, by some indirect hint or open avowal,
that yOW are not the object ofthiS prcteren-
ce. Now, there are some things which
give 10 offence while implied or taken for
granted; but expressed there is much of
fence i'll them. II a man were TO aCcoSt the
firsthomeIy-leatured or plaindresSed young
woman of his acquaintance. and tell her
bIuntly, that she was not handsome or rich
enough for him, aud he could not marry
her, ne would deserve to be kicked for his
III manners; yet no less is implied in the
fact, that having access and opportunity of
putting the question TO her, he has never
yet thought fit to do it. The young wo-
man understands thisas clearly as if it were
put into words; but no reasonable young
woman would think of making this the
ground Of IA quarrel. Just as little right
have married couple to tell me by speech
es, and looks that are scarce less plain than
speeches that am not the happy NAH
the lady'S choice. 1t is sufficient that |
know am not: | do not want this perpet-
ual reminding.
The display of superior knowledge or
riches may be made sufficiently mortify-
ing; but these admit of palliative
knowledge which is brought out to insult
me, may accidently improve me; and in
the rich mains houses and pictures, his
parks and gardens, | have temporary
change at least. But the display of mar
ried happiness has none ofthese palliatives;
ii is throughout pure, unrccompcnsed,
unqualified insult.
Marriage, by its best title, is a monopoly,
and not of the least inv!dions sort. 1t is the
cunning of most posSessors of any eXcu-
sivc prvll, &c TO keep their advantages as
much out ofSight as possible, that their less
favored neighbors, seeing little of the ben
eft, may be the less disposed TO question
the right. But these married monopolists |
thrust the most obnoxious part of their |
patent into our faces.
Nothing is to me more dstusteful than |
that entire compIOccncy and satisfaction |
which beam in the counteuanceS of a new |
ly married couple-in that of the lady !
il tells you that her lot is dis |
posed fin this world; that yOH can have
none nor wishes either perhaps; but this |
is one of those truths which ought as said /
before to be taken for granted, not express.
cd.
The excessive airs which those people
give themselves, founded on the ignorance |
ofus unmarried people, would be more
they were less irrational. We /
will allow them TO understand the mystic
ricS belonging TO their own craft better
than we who have not had the happiness
TO be made free of company; but their ar
rogance is not content within these limits.
ia single person presume TO offer his opin-
on in their presence. though upon the most
Indifferent subjects, he is Immediately
,lleuced as an incompetent person. Nay,
D young woman ofmy acquaintance, who,
he best Of the Jest was, had not changed
Der condition above fortnight before, in
4 question on which | had the misfortune
10 differ from her, respecting the properest
mode TO breed oysters for market, had the
assurance TO ask how such an old bachelor
Is could pretend TO know any thing about
.uch matters.
But what have spoken Of hilher TO is
nothing TO the airs these people give them
elves when they come, as they generally
10, 10 have children When | consider
low lite Of a rarity children are-that
very street and blind alley swarns with
hem, that the poorest people generally
ave the most ofthem, that there are few
Marriages that are not blest with at least
me Of these bargains; how often they turn
mt 10, aud defeat the fond hopes Of their
larenls, taking 10 vicious courses, which
nd in poverty, disgrace, the gallOws, &c
cannot for my life tell what cause for