The New era. [volume] ([Portsmouth, Va.]) 1845-1847, 1846-04-23
RULES FOR ladies.

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is spoken. gond breeding requires that the CONVEX
sation should he carried on. as far as possible en-
! lreiy in his language Even among your must
| Intimate friends. nsver address any one in Ian
| guage not understood by AZ the others 1t is as
bad as whispering. t F..
II upon the entrance of = visiter you continue
conversation begun before, you should always
explain the subject 10 the new cDmer.
II is sometimes flatiery To. accept praises
IL is an error to imagine that men are less in
toxlcated with flatery than woman. The only
uiHerence is, that esteem must be expressed Io
women, but proved 10 men,
Never attempt to take The lead in conversation.
1t YOU are entitled TO it, you will sum get it with
ont striving after it.. and it will be more rraciously
acknowledged by your doing.
Few things agreeable or more diff
cult, than TO relate anecdotes with entire propre-
ty. They should be introduced gracefully have
ut connection with the previous remarks. and be
IN perfect keeping with the company the sub
ject, and the tone of conversation they should be-
short witty and eloquent, land they should be new
but not far fetched
In rapid and eager DISCOURSE when persons are
excited and Impatient, repeat nothing but the
spirit aud soul OF story, leaping over the par
iicnars. There are. however, many places and
occasons In which yon may bring Gus the details
with advantage, precisely. but not tediously -
When you repeat true story, be always extreme
ly exact.
Never talk at people hut if you must tellyour
opinion, talk 10 them at once
Do not repeat the name of the indiv iduaI In.
whom you are talking, and never address any one
with the name Mr. or Mrs p unless you add the
whole name; IL gross imperiinence
IL Is allowable in some to conceal our SEN
lImens; but we ought never to do so for the pun .
Pose of deceiving others. Make it a rule never
To give utieTance 10 falsehood: in all circum-
a nd Whatever he al
to truth To he detected in any subterlug is 10.
subject Yourself 10 continual suspicion; for no.
credit can ever be gwen To who has once been,
convicted of unirrilh Though. neither truth.
nor sincerity ohIige To speak what we think in.
all cases. we should in case say what we do.
not think
Avoid the habit Of employing French words in.
conversation. In general society, never quote
from any author unless IN English. 1t is not con
sIdered good taste for "A lady To say Yes, SIR
aud mo- SIR, to a gentleman, or irequently To in
irodnce the word Sly at the end of her sentences
unless she desires 10 be exceedingly reserved to-
wards the person with whom she is conversing
The voice of a woman should be well moduIa-
ted. and she cannot take too much pains in learn
ing the true pronunciation of the words she uses.
whether English or foreign. She should by ALI
means avoid affected tone of voice-neilher
speaking too loud nor yet too low The former
may bring on Ter lie accusation of rUdeness:. the
latter SntJect her to the charge of Whispering.
which Is az all times an invidious thing
In conversation avoid such phrasesas NV dear
sir, or madam unless they are addressed 10 per-
sons with whom you are very intimate.
The desire of pleasing is of course the basis of
social conversation. Those who enter society
with the intention of producing an effect and of
being distinguished, however clever they NAV be-.
are never agreeable. They are always riresome,.
and often ridiculous. ',n
A recent writer on etiquette has said that the.
whlms and eaprices Of women in society should
Of course, be tolerated by men, who, themselves.
require liberation for greater inconveniences But
this must not be carried too faE There are Ger
tain limits to empire which, if they themselves
forget, should be pointed out to them, with deli
cacy and poliIeneSs XUH should, be the slave of
the ladies', but not of their fancies' A. ladv
should. therefore, be very careful not TO make an
unreasonable request sg her warmest adnirer. for
he may Iuse his esteeG, Tor her while he is obev
ing her caprjces.
Every woman shonld pay due Difference to the
aged, aud especially in her own house devote her
self TO the entertainment of those advanced in,
years. The old are generally compnented bv
The attention of the young and the latter will not
find 1t difficult to render their conversation soree-
able TO their seniors.