Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1846-09-30
From the Boston Stnr

"COURrING" VS.. "ATTENTloN.'
This subject which, always important,
is daily becoming peculiarly so, and we
design to call the attention of The young
people occasionally, 10 the hope OF arrest
ing the progress OF an alarming and de-
slruclire evil.
Young ladies are hound TO fall in love AS
soon as possible, and bound TO be bound 10
q mariner for life, as soou as The necessary
nreIimiuaries can bc made-such as get
ling lover, fascinating him thoroughly,
being courted. having the question pLpped,
ee,,ins the wedding garments IN array.
md siayitinsrf friends ID see them mnfeHify
married. The young man is bound TO be
gallant and polite. aud to admire without
slim, all the pretty girls known and un-
known-,osdoff the beaver, offer l''e arm
inv;,e 10 the ride, the theatre. and the
nIeasau, saunter-in short, to do all the
sundries needed losshow his devotion and
oallan,ty; .,owards the sex until some en-.
chafI,ress ahrowssher spells3around him,
aud he sinks. subdued, into a common
place, Indifferent, careless Benedict.
Now, out of these things grow difficul.
ties. A Young man admires pretty girl
and must manifest il he can't help doing
so for the life Of him. The young lady
has a tender heart reaching out like vein
,endrils for something to cling to, she sees
the admiration; is fastered, begins soon t'
love, expects sometender avowal. and gets
so far as TO decide she will choose while
satin under, "A Thin cause, &C., at the very
moment that the gallant she hall loves ~
noppipg the question 10 another dahIsel
ten miles of. Now the difficulty lies ia
not precisely understanding the difference
between polite attention and the tender
manifestations of sishiug love. Admiring
a beautiful girl, aud wishing to make a
wife of her are not the same thing, and
therefore it is necessary that dalnsel
should be upon The alert to discover TO
which class the attentions paid her by
handsome and fashionable young gentle
men belong. I; is hard TO draw the exact
line of separation, between polite alien
lions and downright courtIng, but our
great age and extensive exaerieHce hsve
enabled US 10 observe enough TO aid the
young and arlless maiden, in deciding upon
this matter. ...-
First, lten-;if young fellow greets you
in loud. free aud hearty tone-li he
knows precisely where TO put his hal or
his hands. il he stafes you straight 10 the
eve with his own wide open-if he turns
his hack TO you 10 speak to ano!her-li ne
tells ycu who made his coat-if he squee-
yes vour hand-if he eals heartily in your
presencs-ifh he fails to talk kindly TO your
moiher-ir he sneezes when you are sing
ing, critcises your curs, or fails to be very
foolish in fifty ways every hour, then don
fall in love wiiffhiin for the world, he only
a;ln,i;s;es you, lie, him do or say what nc
NAV. But if he be merry with every one,
bn, quiet with you-if he be anxious 10 see
that your tea is sufficiently swee,ened aud
your dear person we'll wrapped up when
You 20 out in the cold-if he talks very
low and never looks you STEADILY in the
eye-ifIhis cheeks are red-or if he be
pale aud bis nose bu, blush, it is enough
if he romps with your sister; .sighs like a
pair of old bellows, looks solemn when
you are addressed by another gentleman,
and ia fac, is the most stitl awkward, stu
Did, vet anxious Of all your male friends,
you may go ahead aud invoke the shafts
Of Cupid with perfect safety, and make
the poor fellow TOO happy for his skin to
hold him. 81 80
4 There are also "a thousand other mino,
| particulars which lady's wit will need
no prompting upon, but The foregoing are
sure aud safe iests. There is so much
| trouble made ID the world for, want Of un,
derstapding this, liza. we lave Kindly. vol.