Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1846-09-30
Ernm tie Boston StAr.

COURrING" VS.. "A AfIENIloN. .
This subject which, always important,
is daily becoming peculiarly SO, and we
DESIGN to call the attention Of the young
people occasionally, in the hope OF arrest
ing The progress Of an alarming and de-
slruclire evil.
Young ladies are bound 10 fall in love as
soon as possible. and bocndto be bound 10
. mariner for life, as soou as The necessary
nreIimiuaries can be made-such as get
ling a lover, fascinating him thoroughly.
being courted, having the question papped,
getting the wedding garments 10 array. .1l.i,!, .
4 and sinyiting ffsscntisstd see thefn pfeitify
married. The young man is bound TO be
gallant and poliie. and to admire without
s,int all the pretty girls known and un-
Lnown--,o sdoff the beaver, Offer the arm,
invite TO the ride, the theatre, and The
pleasant saunter-in short, TO an all 'ne
sundries needed ,oshow his devotion anu
pallantry@towards tho sex n1t'l some en-
chan,ress .ihrows her spellSaronnd him,
and bs sinks, snbdued, into common
olace. Indifferent, careless Benedict.
Now. out ofthese things grow dlfficul.
ties. A Young man admires a pretty cir!
and must NANTES, it he can't help doing
so for the life OF him. The young lady
hae q tender heart, reaching out like vein
,cndrils for something TO cling to, she sees
the admirarion; is fattered, begins soon to
love. expects some tender avowal. and gels
90 far as 70 decide she will choose white
satin under, Thin cause, &C., at the very
momen, that the gallant she halt loves, Is
manning the question 10 another damscl
ten miles off. Now The difficulty lies ll'
mol precisely understanding the difference
between polite attention and the tender
manifestations of sighiug love. Admlring
beautiful girl, aud wishing to make a
wife of her arc DOT the same thing, anu
therefore it is necessary that datnsel
should be upon The alert TO discover 10
which class the attentions paid her by
handsome and fashionable young gentle
men belong. 1t is hard to draw the exact
line of separation, between polite alien
lions and downright cour,ing, but our
grea, age and extensive experience have
enabled US 10 observe enough 10 aid the
youag and arlless maiden, in deciding upon
this matter. ....-s
First, ,hen-if young fellow greets you
in loud, free and hearty tone-it he
knows precisely where to put his hat OF
his hands. if he staies you straight iu the
eve with his own wide open-if he turns
his back to you 10 speakto ano!her-li he
tells ycu who made his coat-if he squee'
yes your hand-if he eals heartily in youl
presence-ifhe he fails to talk kindly to your
moiher-if he sneezes when you are sing.
ing, criticises your curls, or fails to be very
foolish 10 fifty ways every hour, then don,
fall in love wiiffhim foif; the world, he only
a;inIi;F:ees you, .Ie: him do or say what he
may. But if he be merry with every one,
but quiet will, you-if he be anxious 10 see
that your tea is sufficiently sweetened aud
your dear person we'll wrapped up when
YOU go out in the cold-if he talks very
low and never looks you steadily in the
eye-ifI Ihis cheeks are red--or if he be
pale and bis uose bu, blush, it is enough
ifhe romps with your sister sighs like
pair of old bellows, looks solemn when
you are addressed by another gentleman
and 10 fac, is the most sti1 awkward, stu
pid, YET anxious Of all your male friends
you may 90 ahead and invoke the shait'
Of Cupid with perfect safely, and make
the poor fellow 100 happy for his skin Il
{ hold him. - T, ~. ......a
:. There are also "a thousand other mino
4 particulars which lady's wit will neett
no prompting upon, but The foregoing ar!
sure aud safe tests. There is SO muct
trouble madein tbsworld for. want Of un
derstapding this, that we, lave Kindly vol