Sunbury American and Shamokin journal. [volume] (Sunbury, Northumberland Co., Pa.) 1840-1848, 1846-04-11
The sin and Folly OF scoiding.
"Fret not thyself in any wise to do evil"

Psalms xxxvIT.l2
l. It is sin against God 1t is an evil ard
only evil, and that continually David under
stood both human nature and the law of God
lie says Fret not ,hyself in any wise to do
evil That is, never fre, or scod for it is al.
ways sin. If you cannot speak without fret.
ing and scoding, keep silence.
2 IL destroys ofection.--No one ever did,
ever can, or ever will love an habitual fretter,
fault finder or scolder. Husbands, wives, child.
rem, relatives, or domestics, have no affection
for peevsh, fre,ful tault.fnders.--Few tears are
she'd over the graves of such.-Persons of high
moral principle may tolerate them--may bear
with them. But they cannot love them more
than the sting of rettes or the noise of musqui.
toes. Many man has been driven to the
tavern, md to dissipation by peevish, fretful
wife. Many wife has been made miserable
by a peevish, frctlul husband
3. IL is The bane Of domestic happiness
frctful, peevish, complaining. taut.finder in a
tamlIy is like the continual chafng of an in.
[ famed sore. Woe TO the man, woman or child
WHO'S exposed to the influence of such TEN.
| per in smother. Nine tenths of all domestic
trials and nnhappiness spring from this source.
Mrs. ID. is of this temperament She wonders
her husband Is not more fond of her company
! That her children give her so much trouble
! That domcstics do not like to work for her
That she cannot secure the good will of young
/ people. The truth is. she is peevish and fret.
! iul. Children fear her, but do not love her
She never yet gained the affection of young
person, nor never will. till she leaves off fret.
| ting.
A. il defects The end Of Family Govern
ment-Good family government is the blending
authority with affection, so as TO secure respect
and love- Indeed this is the great secret OF
managing young people. Now your frc,ters
may inspire fear, but they always make two
faults where they correct onc. ScoldinC at
child, lretting at a child, sncering at a child
'auntlrg child, treating the child as though it
had no feelings, inspires dread and dislike, and
foster those very dispositions, from which many
of the faults of childhood proceed. Mr.. G. and
and Mrs +. are of this class. Their children
are made TO mind but howl Mrs +. frets
and scolds her children. She is severe enough
! uron their faults. She seems TO watch them
in order to find fault. She sneers at them
Treats them as though they had no feelings,
She seldom gives a command without a threat
! md n lNnrr T,rI,
When she hides, it is not done in dignified
manner She raises her voice, puts on a cross
look. threatens, strikes them, pinches their ears
snaps their heads, &c. The children cry, pout,
sulk, and poor Mrs. +. has to DO her work
over pretty often. Then she will find fault
with her husband because he does not fall in
with her ways, or chime with her as chorus
>. FreHiny and scolding make Hypocrites
AS !retter never receives confidence and af-
lection 50 no ono likes to tell them anything
dlSngrceab!e, and thus procure for themselves
a fteuing. Now, children conceal as much as
they can from such persons. They canno,
make up their minds 70 be frank and openhear-
ted, 50 husbands conceal from their wives and
wives from their husbands For a man may
brave lion, but he likes not TO come in contact
with nrttics and musqr,oes
o. Il destroys ones peace Of mind.-The
more one ircts The more he may. A fretter
will always have enough to fret at. Especially
il he or she has the bump of order and neatness
largely developed. Something will always be
out Of place. There will always be some dirt
some dirt somewhere. Others will not eat
right, look rigli, sit right, talk right he will
not do these things so ns to please them. And
fretlers are generally so selfish as TO have no
regard for any ones comfort but their own
7. Il is a mark Of vulgar disposition--
Some persons have so much gall in their dispo-
sition, are so selfish, that they have no regard
to the feelings OF Others. All things must be
done to the feelings OF others. They make their
husbands, wives, children, domestcs, the con.
ductors by which their spleen and ilI-nature are
discharged Wo to the children who are ex.
posed 10 such influences. II makes them cal
lous and unieeing, and when they grow up
they pursue the same course with their manage
ment and thus the race of tretters 10 perpelu-
oted. Any person who is in the habit ofire.ting
or sneerlng, taunting their husbands. wives, chill
dren or domestcs, shows either bad dsposi-
ton or else lll.breediug For it Is generally
your ignorant, low bred people that are guilty of
such things.