The Columbian fountain., 1846-01-31
Choosing a Wify.

Grant Thorburn, of New York, an old
married man, and one who ought to un-
deista nd what he Whites rom long eXpe-
rcuce, in series Of articles dire cted par
licualIy to the young merchants OF his
own ely, gives the following advice con-
cerning the choice of a bride and the hus-
bands conduct to his " lie after marriage.
We hav. been requested to publish 1t by
gentleman of the oldschool, who de-
clares to Il $ that he has seldom found so
much truth and CONSCIENTIOUS advice pre-
sented in so small compass
IN choosing a vile, let h,r be family
not vain of III cir name or connections, baI
remarkable TO-" their simplicity ol manners
and integrity 0. life. Let her be alike free
kfrom delormity and hereditary disease; nei.
ther fix your ewes on a celebrated beauty
she isiapt 10 be Toe proud OF her pretty face,
oal afraid to soil h er delicate hands. The
woman who washes her own silver Spoons,
China cups and pattt RS, and performs Other
light services in the family, Is always the
most healthy, the II ost happy, and the
most contented for thus, SHE gains the
appreciation of her husb. md and offIer own
conscience. The woma n who leaves her
family four or five hour every day,run-
ming from shop 10 shop, nd making calls,
is always unhappy; for co. 'scienee says
you have been sowing Il ne wind, you
shall reap the whirlwind. B eauiy is a We
ry desirable Ingredient in cho, 'slng wlIe;
you will be proud of your han, isome wife
when you introduce her to frie. nj; but by
all means find out if you can, WIN tther she
is oain Of her beauty. If you fin,i she is
daily washing her (already J pretty IA &c with
milk Of roses, and patent cosmetics that
she is daily pouring water and Mac tssar
oil on her (aready) glossy har--ii this is
the case, it is rather an alarming symptt N.
A handsome woman never looks SO well as
when she don't know il.
Good nature is another necessary virtue
in a good WIFE, This, though, is not 40
essential. as man must be consummatta
blockhead il he cannot lead, not drive, a
woman by fair words good manager is
another indispensable qualification. After
marriage, if woman does not pique her
self on her knowledge OF family affairs, and
lay out money to The best advantage, let
her be ever SO sweet tempered, gracefully
made, or elegantly accomplished, she is no
wile.for man of business. When people
are harnessed in the yoke matrimonial, they
must draw together. It's mans duty to
give to lis wife; it's the wiie's duty to use
1t with the most scrupulous economy.
Having now resolved to get married, do
not distinguish your wedding day with too
much ostentation, nor suffer it 10 pass with
out proper acknowledgement Let it wear
sober smile, such as would become your
partner and you for life; not 10 be convuls
ed with rolous laughter, that leaves tears
in the eyes and heavlness at the heart as
| soon as the fit is over Moderation in all
things is the very essence OF life; neither
Gy to the mountains nor linger about the
springs; the money thus foolishly spent
would paw for all the coal you would burn
next winter, proceed in the easy and usual
tenor Of your way, prosecuting yourregular
business with all the sober realities on your
back, for remember that the harvest iasIs
not all the year. Continue TO treat your
wife with the same cheeriulness on your
brow, the same tenderness IN your eyes,
the same obliging turn in your behavior
| with which you were wont to treat her III
the days Of your courlship; If you do this,
her love will never change. Above all
sh6n.s, never lot her imagine il a pcnance
fcs you t. stay al home, or.lhat you prefer
! any other company whatever TO hers; let