Democratic banner., 1845-02-15

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expression. and which is the index
on the countenance Of all the sweet
emotions OF The soul; and this loveil-
ness is enduring. grow ing even brigh-
ter with age, and shining with a glo-
rious lusire. like IA sanity halo, around
the face of ] mother or wife in old
age. This beauty u~nhappily is not
that which is generally sought for by
sui,ors; but where il is, be sure that
the lover is one ola hundred, for he
seeks that pearl of grea, price--a
beauty of the soul, which shall not
fade away, but begun here will be
completed in Heaven. How much
is IL 20 be regretted that man does not
think more of this moral and mental
beauty than OF that mere loneliness
of feature and complexion which is
all of the "earth earthly and which
is too often accompanied by vanity j.,
hearllessness, ill-lemper and a selfish
eharacleri
But after all the evil lies with our
sex. /, has become so much a mat
Ter of couIse for girls To he married
at eighteen, that few care 10 pass
beyond that age, and many show Il
silly eagerness 10 cur d husband
IN time.
Let, however. onr sex set their
faces against these early marriages;
and then the lover, who has been
first atirac ed by a pretty face, will
be retained by an admiration Of your
good qualities. This will be the or
Iy way 10 secur your happiness;
for. after all, unless you are loved for
your qualities OF mind and heart, and
not for those OF person, The affection
OF your husband will wear away,
sooner or later. The lltlle discom-
forts Of real lie are like drops OF wa
ter falling on a rock. which, however
hard, yields at last to constant atiri-
ton; and a beautiful wife, with an i'll
regulated mind, is certain to lose
her husbands respect, even before
she loses his love.
We repeat, at eighteen fsw wo-
men are competent 10 enter the mar
ried stale. Their characters are gen
orally uniformed; The first novelty d
society has not worn off, and they
are usually attracted by qualitie. OF
person and manner, rather than Of
heart and intellect. Let any wo-
man, who has lived beyond that age
look back, and call TO mind the sort
Of individuals she liked at sixteen.
and those she admired at twenty. and.
IN nine case. cut of ten, it will be
found that a radical change has come
over her notions on the subject. and
that wha, pleased at the earlier aye
Is positively dIstasteiul at the latter
n And yet how many women
marry from Impressions formed at
slxteeni Happiness in unions arts
lng under such circumstances, comes
by chance. # II comes al all; and
even content ~ onl. acquired by
long and bitter schooling of tie hearl,
10 adapt itself 10 its i'll chosen lot
At that ;rlv age the sterling quail
ties Of the man are 90 often over.
looked; gilt bauble pleases, when
real ore IS overlooked.
Ii IS so, too, with The other sex
When fascinated by mere beauty of
face or person, n gentleman chooses
a girl OF eighteen rather than a ma
tured woman, he runs Il great risk,
through his own haste, of matching
himself TO n unified for happiness.
1t is a throw of the dice whether she
makes a suitable partner or not
Blinded by the glare OF personal
charms, he has married her. ignorant
of or Indifferent 20 her mind and
heart; and when he wakes to a knowl-
edge of her character. he too often
finds heI, not the perfect creature of
his romantic dreams, but the spoilt
child of fortune. And years of IN
happiness to both ensue, until Ter
character has been corrected by time.
Happy is it for each ifthal day comes
before all hope of mutual love has
faded from their hearts. Alas! fire.
quentiy, ere such period arrives, the
husband or wife. or both, have sought
for happiness in the world: and then
the domestic hearth is left deso!aie
until the grave closes the sad story.
But even admitting that there may
be some OF II sex, fully competent
in mind and heart at this early age,
to assume the responsible duties of a
wife and mother, yet, the time allow.
ed TO form an acquaintance with a
loven is necessarily so short, in a
marriage formed at this ,er;od elf,