Southport telegraph. [volume] (Southport, W.T. [i.e. Kenosha, Wis.]) 1840-1850, 1845-05-20

he first novelty of society has not worn
o 1T; and they are usually attracted by
q ualities-of person and manner, rather than
of heart and intellect. Let any woman,
who has lived beyond that age, look back,
and call to mind the sort Of individuals she
liked at sixteen, and those she admired at
twenty. and, in nine cases out Of ten, it
will be found that radical change has
come over her notions on the subject, and
that what pleased her at an earlier age is
positively distas,eful al the later one. And
vet how many women marry from impress
sions formed at sixteen! Happiness in
unions arising under such circumstances.
comes BY chance, il it comes al all; and
even content is only acquired by long and
bitter schooling Of the heart, to adap. itself
to its i'll chose lot Al tina, early age the
sterling qualities of the man are too often
overlooked gilt bauble pleases, when
real ore is thrown aside.
II is so, too, with the other sex. When
fascinated by mere beauty Of face and per-
son, gentleman chooses girl Of eighteen
rather than a matured woman. he runs
great risk, through his own haste or joining
himself TO one unified for happiness. 1t
is throw OF the dice whether she makes
suitable partner or not. Blinded BY the
glare Of personal charms, he has married
her, ignorant Of or Indifferent to her mind
and heart; and when he wakes 10 know
ledge of her character, he too often finds
hers, not The perfect creature Of his roman.
tic dreams, but the spoil, child Of fortune.
nd If 10 hot
until her character has been corrected by
time. Happy is il for each if that day
comes before all hope of mutual love has
faded from their hearts. Alas. frequently,
ere such period arrives, the husband or
wife, or both, have sought for happiness in
the world and then ;he domestic hearth 10
left desolate until the grave closes the sad
story
but even admitting that there may be
some Of our sex, fully compclon, in mind
and heart at this early age TO assume tho
responsibilities of IA vie and mother, yet.
the time allowed 10 form an acquaintance
with lover is necessarily SO short, in u
marriage formed at this period of life, that
there is little certainty OF happiness. AT
most, the intimacy could not have extended
lOi iuJic tuou q (CdI VI t"U. us, lu-
deed. would be sufficient in most cases, il
Tie judgment Of the lady was matured; but
"a sixteen how few can boast Of this, even
N' at eighteen they are so fortunate as 10
possess 1t.
We cannot but think, then, that early
unions are fruitful cause of unhappiness
in the married life. If gentleman truly
loves a girl, he will wait IA year or two
rather than lose her, and no woman will
ever repent putting him 10 such probation.
The acquaintance should be long before
entering into so solemn a contract. A lady
should think deeply and seriously on the
matter, and not hurry into an engagement
with childish eagerness, merely TO boast Of
having a beau sooner than others Of her
age. Recollect, marriage is TO endure for
life. Father and mother, homo ard family,
are allt be deserted for the husband; you
are 10 share his fortunes and follow his
footsteps, even if they lead you TO distant
lands; in poverty and dshonor, even in
disgrace you are to cling TO him. Then,
how important that you should really lovo
him, and that your dispositions aud tastes
should be congcnial. If you enter into tho
married state houghllessly and improperly,
you weave your own doom Of unhappincss.
If you sow the storm. you shall reap the
whirlwind.