Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1845-10-23
For b WsbaRds and Wives.
Whispers to Husbands.

The happiness Of the wife is committed to the
keeping Of the husband Prize the sacred trust
and never give hor cause to repent the confidence
she reposed in you. In contemplating her char,
acter, recoect the materials human nature is
composed of, and expect not perfection.
Do justice to her merits, and point out her
faults; | do not ask you TO treat her errors with
wisdom, genteness, and love.
Do not Jest about the bonds of a married state
Make it an established rule to consult your wife
on all occasions Your interest is hers; and
undertake no plan contrary to her advice and
appreciation, then if the affair turns out i'll, you
are spared the reproaches both from her and
your own feelings There is sagacity a pen
etration and foresight into the probable conse-
quences of an event. characteristic of her sex.
that makes her peculiarly calculated to give her
opinion and advice.
If you have any male acquaintance, whom
on reasonable grounds, your wife wishes you to
resign, do so. Never witness tear from your
wife with apathy or Indifference. Words, looks,
actions--all may be artificial but a tear is un.
equivocal it comes direct from the heart, and
speaks at once the language of nature and sin.
certify Be assured when you see a tear on her
cheek her heart is touched, and do not, | again
repeat it, do not behold it with GOODNESS or in
sensibility
Let contradiction be avoided at all times
Never upbraid your wife with the meanness
of her relations; invectves against herself are
not half so wounding. Should suffering of any
kind assail your wife, your tenderness and affec-
ton are particularly called for A look of love,
word of pity or sympathy, IS sometimes better
than medicine
Never reproach your wife with any personal
or mental defect; for a plain face conceals ;
heart of exquisite sensibility and merit, and hel
consciousness of the defect makes her awake tC
the slightest attention.
When in the presence of others, let your wiie'
laudable pride be INDUCED by your showing that
you think her an object of importance and pref
erence. The most trivial word or act of atten
ton and love from you gratifes her feelings; anc
a man never appears to more advantage than b,
proving to the world his affection and preference
for his wife.
Never run on in enthusiastic enconiums OF
other women in presence Of your wife; she doe
not love you better for it. Much to be condemn
ed is married man who is constantly rambln!
from home for the purpose ofpasslng away time
Surely, ifhe wants employment, his house ant
gardens will furnish him with it, and il he wish
es for society, he will find in his wife, children
and books the best society in the world. Their
are some men who will sit an entire day will
their lips closed This is wrong, you should con
verse freely on all such occasions.
Be always cheerful, gay and good-humored
When abroad, do not avoid speaking to you
wife,
Few women are insensible offender treatment
They are naturally frank and affectionate, an
in general there is nothing but austerity of look
or distance of behavior, that prevents those ami,
bic qualities from being evinced on all occasions
When absent, let your letters to your wife
warm and afectionate. A woman's heart is pt
culiarly formed for tenderness, and every e.
preston and endearment from the man she love
is fattering and pleasing to her
, A husband, whenever he goes from hom
should always endeavor to bring some little pre-
ent to his wife,
: In pecuniary matters, do not be penurious,
: too particular Your wife has an. equal rig