American Republican and Baltimore daily clipper. [volume] (Baltimore, Md.) 1844-1846, 1845-10-30

CHOOSING A WIFE EIceiient .4dvice Grant
| Thorburn, of New York--an old married man
and one who ought to understand what he
writes from long experience, in series of ar
ticles directed particularly to the young mer-
chants of his own city, gives the following adj
vice concerning the choice of Il bride and the
husbands conduct to his wife after mar
riage:-
In choosing a wife, let her be of a family not
vain OF their name or connections, but remar-
kable for their simplicity of manners and nte-
gritty Of life. Let her be alike free from defor-
nifty and hereditary disease; neither fix your
eyes on celebrated beauty-she is apt to be
too proud of her pretty face, and afraid to soil
her delicate hands. The woman who washes
her own silver spoons, China cups and platters,
and performs other light services in the family,
is always the most healthy, the most happy
and the most contradiction thus she gains the
appreciation of her husband and of her own
conscience. The woman who leaves her fami-
| ly four or five hours every day, running from
shop to shop, and making calls, is always un-
happy; for conscience says--you have been
sowing the wind, you shall reap the whrlwind.
Beauty is very desirable ingredient in choos-
ing wife; you will be proud of your handsome
wife when you introduce her to friend; but by
all means find out if you can, whether or not
she is rain of her beauty. If you find she is
daily washing her already pretty face with
milk of roses, and patent cosmetcs-that she
is daily pouring water and Macassar oil on her
already glossy hair--if this is the case, it is
rather an alarming symptom. A handsome
woman never looks 50 we'll as when she don't
know it.
Good nature is another necessary virtue in a
wife. This, though is not so essential, as a
man must be a consummate block ahead if he
cannot lead mot drive,) u woman by fair words.
A good manager is another indispensable qua
lilicaton. After marriage, if woman does
not pique herself on her knowledge of family
affairs, and laying out money to the best ad-
vantage, let her be ever so sweet tempered
gracefully made or elegantly accomplished, she
! is no wife for man of business. When peo-
pie are harnessed in the yoke matrimonial,
they must draw together. Its mans duty to
give to his wife; its the wife's duty to use it
with the most scrupulous economy.
Having now resolved to get married, do not
distinguish your wedding day with too much
ostentation, nor suffer it 10 pass without proper
acknowledging Let it wear sober smile,
such as would become your partner and you
f Tor life; not to be convulsed with rotous laugh
ter, that leaves tears in the eyes, and heavi-
ness at the heart as soon as the fit is over
, Moderation in all things is the very essence o.
life; neither fly to the mountains nor lingel
about the springs, the money thus foolishly
spent would pay for all the coal you woulC
burn next winter; proceed in the usual and ca
sy tenor Of your way, prosecuting your regular
business with all the sober realities on your
back, for remember that the harvest lasts not
all the year Continue to treat your wife with
the same cheerfuness on your brow, the same
tenderness in your eyes, the same oblgng turn
in your behaviour with which you were wont tc
treat her in the days of courtship; if you do
this, her love will never change. Above all
: things never let her imagine it penance fol
you to stay at home or that you prefer any
company whatever to hers; let her share with
you in all your pleasures. BY these and SINH
= lar acts of kindness, you will secure her love
and gratitude at once, and she will say size is
the happiest woman upon earth.