The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1845-08-11
Scraps from the Note Book OF Laurie Todd.
Dedicated (ieithoit peniissioal 10 the Young Mems
Mercantile Library Association.

lhave sometimes thought, my trend, tnattne bes
csions of the brain lost 10 the public, throug
the tlmldity or bashfuIness of OF the most re-
fined and intellectual men and women IN Inc coun
try. They under-rate their own productions, an,
are afraid of being sneered al. though presume
not 10 class myself with either the Intellectual o
the refined-yet having the building OF alinos
every house which now composes this great metropo
lis, think ! must have been slow, indeed, not Il
have learned something from the experience Of HI
men and manners of the last half century: be
sides think il is the duty of every man and woman
who knows any thing whereby they may bene6
their FELLOWS, 10 say so. So much for an apology.
young attorney among my friends in copying an
instrument, began, Know one woman by these pre-
sents," &c: Hisparner IN passing, glanced on the
apparent mistake. "Stop SIR you must say. Know
all men," yc. 60 never mind replied the junior,
III one woman knows, all men will soon knows" SO:
as speak to young men, there 10 no doubt but AL
young women will hear OF it--5esdes, It they DOM
ks my advee, n won't cost them much; as intend,
life and hsaIh being continued, to send forth IN the
columns OF the Herald weekly bulletin OF these I'M
portant discoveries in domestic economy; there
fore they have only to nay sixpence on Saturday tor
the Weekiv Herald where besides the news of the
week, they viii find anecdotes, bon mots, and bio
graphy together with the sage sayings and doing.
aforesaid; which sayings, OF a column and half
according 10 ratio OF the contents of the Herald
won't cost the reader over three-quarters of cent
Ia taking retrospect while sat in my door IN
the cool OF the Uacksons funeraD day. | thought
were TO live my life over again, would iusI man
age my treaty of peace with the iasses after the same
mode and form which Ipursued fifty years AGO /:
therefore, my young friend, will Just describe The
process and say unto thee s'go thou and do like
wise" When emerged from the hut wherein
nrst drew breath, looked on the DAUGHTERS of men
and saw that they were fair. resolved that as soon
as could earn one shin0 sterling 10 cents) per
day, would enter into copartnership for life with
one OF those beautiful articles. What God makes
beautt Is tor man TO admire Perceiving bv sta
tlstlca tables, that the God of nature sent the same
number OF men and women annually into the world
therefore thought II must be his law. that eyerv
man should have his mate at once, and leave conse.
quences and provisions for the fifure 10 Him who
hangs creation on his arm, and feeds her at hs
board II is forty-eight years since ratified thai
treaty OF peace, love and amiiy. and never for
moment did | repent II : nor did ever lack a Loaf
In the pantry u dollar in nv purse: If God Sent
another mouth, He always sent food to iii it, With
regard 10 courtshlp-it Is the easiest thing in the
world love Is the language OF nature the veriesr
foo II ne can't pronounce the word, can speak
with his eyes, and women are nice interpreters
When first thinking of these important affairs I re.
solved never to spend hour IN the private CONVEX
satlon OF any young woman, till | was determined
on taking 10 myself a wife; and in the next place
never TO spend hour with any, excep, she was tn.
one, whom, above all others in the world wished
to make my wife GA this principle practised, and
lprospered There ls nothing to be gained hy dam
hing after sensible woman for a twelve month
talking fiat unmeaning stuff words without know
ledge You mistake the sex, If you expect TO gain
their tavor oy this means while you think they
laughing al your small wit, they are only smiling a,
your great folly If you wish to gain the esteem Of
sensible woman, (and let me tell YOU they have
more wit, IN general, than half of the men, you
must speak TO her in the words of truth and sober
ness After three four strings Gas the portrait ma
Ker says,) tell her your Intentions at once. like a
man, not like blubberng school boy: and If there
Is seven ounces OF common sense in your carcass,
she VIII be yours IN one month and If YOU behave
hike man OF sense, while you walk together b,
the way. the honeymoon will never wane but grow
brighter and brighter till you put up at the last inr
Dy me way SIDE the grave. Having now got mar
liz nj IL
and cherish your wife leave politics. WING and tory
10 the pure democracy, they will make as MANY pre-
sldens for You, gratis. will serve for life time
your circums tances easy and thou are fond ~;
outdoor ainusements, let your wife he your con
slant coinpanon-it as unkind humanity and unpolItf
10 cave her moppng alone, while thou art abroad
hndi9g thy own pleasures: If is thy lot TO earn tn
bread by the sweat OF thy brow, when the labor !;
the day IS past, devote the evenings TO the compap,
OF Thy WIFE If there is extra cares 10 prevent
walk together IN one Of the beautiful parks or 90 l.,
near arctuFe(where Is gratis)-'hus you will lean
sotnethlng, and make long evening seem shorl
II thy wiie Is engaged IN reparing thy garments o
smoothing thy linen, then sit by the table Gone can
die will serve both) and read TO her the news of tn
gay, some useful book II children 10 be cared
u,stay home and do your part if one il fretful TAX,
I on your knee and sing to 1t "Auld Lang Syne;'
ii the other sirs in the cradle, put your foot on the
recker-this will tighten the cares of your partne,
and bring smile on the face you are wont to sd.
mire verify, in this house there is peace-I speak
from forty-eight years experience
make another remark, II which my experience
bears me out say there Is true happiness In
the families of the sober, industrious and intelligent
Journeymen Carpenters In New York-and we Eavr
thousands OF such-than is 10 be found in ten time.
ten thousand OF the dwellers in Park Place Lero,
Place, Clinton and College Place, or any othel
place, where men and women trample on the law,
OF Nature--laws made by the God of Nature whicI
must DE obeyed or penalty incurred Though true
happiness dweJls chiefly with all sober iourneymeI
mechanics, have singled out the Carpenter for tn
following Reconnaissance, 90 where he will hav,
ing saw, axe and hammer, he will find employment.
II work IS slack In winter, he makes boxes IN hi
own house tor crackers segars, and shipping stores
The real comforts of life being easily obtained h.
can 1--we as well as those who are in gilded palaces
Masons, and others who can't work in time Of frost
have not this advantage. The prudent mechanic par
ucpates with his partner, 10 all the Joys and
oil the fdfn'iy-the rich, having thought of NOR
row, strangers to the fnestfeengs of natures their
wealth. procures them substitute for every thing
me child IL taken from the embrace of its mother 70
the arms OF hreIng. thus severing the link of ma
ternal acknowledging the child of its natura
right, and the mother of one OF the klndest ctiops
Of her heart In this the wife of the peasant is hap
pier IMAM the mother OF prince. speak of Jour
neymen mechanics because | know from expe.
rieace, that his wants and cares are less frequent
ana much lighter, than thos- OF his master The
former performs his work and receives his wages
tne latter carries load OF care on his shoulders
ana not the least is, where 10 get money 10 pay his
men on Saturday. | think if every man knew hi,
hclgnoors troubles, we would find that God has
uivided what is termed physical evils in very eona
ratio The rich man has more than heart can wish
Dut see hum IN the interior of his palace-take
glance at the recesses of his heart-he is racked
with PRIDE, envy govt, dyspepsia, and thousand
imaginary and artificial wants, which never yisi
the habltation of the poor
As am speaking Of young men of moderate CIR
cumstances, who expect, and no doubt many of them
WIN become merchant princes 10 the next genera
iion--l advise you to take wife, as the first and
pest step, In commencing business II yours is i
, ~, business 1t possible have your dwelling under
me same roof-and ii there is room AT the back o
Tue store, SO much the better Have the door thai
LOOKS In the store made OF glass, so that when YOU
.d Ju. on business, your wife can sit and sew by
suo WINDOW, and see what is going on in the sore
lever leave your store except on business
a.orse ioot, or hurdle races, fishing, fowlinp
ST., saiung parties will never pay your rent
ohould you meet with an accident. winch os,sn