Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1845-07-24

yer the clearesNsky, Somehow or other can
hardly define the reason that there are SO few
wives who at all appreciate the trials which their
husbands have to undergo in their struggles with
the world, or who seem to think that, after COM
ing home chafed, perhaps, and tretted from irrlt-
ating contact with selfish men around them, they
need soothing quiet and tender ministrations,
such as only wife can give. Yet, SO far as my
observation goes, but few husbands are strength
ened at home for the renewed struggles ofthe next
day. The wife has her own troubles and domes-
tic distractions to worry her mind, and instead of
rejecting that these are trlhes compared to wat
her husband has to encounter, and from which
he has retired disprited, it may be, and worn
down, dns them in his ears and frets upon her
little stage, until the poor man feels that life has
not single quiet spot Of repose in all its dreary
desert. A certain writer, speaking on this sub
ject, says, most truly Mo spirit can long re-
sst bad domestic influences. Man is strong, but
his heart is not adamant He delights in enter
prize and actlon--but to sustain him, he needs
a tranquil mind and whole heart. He expends
his moral force in the conflicts of the world His
feelings are daily lacerated to the utmost point of
endurance by perpetual collision, irritation and
disappointment. To recover his equaniInity and
composure, home must be to him place of re-
pose, of peace, Of cheerfulness, of comfort, and
his soul renews its strength and again goes forth
with fresh vgor to encounter the labors and roub-
les of the world But if at home he finds no rest,
and there is met by a bad temper, sulIness or
gloom or is assaiIed by discontentment, by com
plant or reproach, the heart breaks, the spirits
are crushed, hope vanishes and the man sinks in
to total despair Alas, alas how many spr-
it is thus broken could point to dozen cas-
es within the narrow circle of my own observa-
ton. For one, when marry it will be after
have scanned the habits, feelings and character
of the woman | choose with microscopic close
ness"
"All right, Of course. But do you expect to
find wife any more perfect as a woman than
you are as mani"
81 expect to find wife who will love me-
That ought to cover the Whole ground"
alt ought to do so certainly; and it would, il
women were as perfect now as when created
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their creation five had no moral perversions
we should not be irritated end disappointed in our
intercourse with the world and should not, there
fore, come home with exhausted strength, to re-
cruit ourselves for a fresh struggle. Nor would
women, were they not also morally perverted,
fret as you say, upon their little stage and meet
their husbands at times in mood as little con.
duclve to domestic felicity as that brought home
to them by their very patient and loving lords"
This conversation took place between two
young men who were much together and between
whom warm friendship existed They usually
talked to each other with freedom and familiarity
The name of one was Belding. He it was who
looked for perfection in a WIFE The other, nam
ed Carson, had clearer views on all subjects than
his friend, His regard for and consideration Of
Others was higher He looked more to his duty
ofstriving to bless, than to himself as recipient
of everything. Each had, unacknowledged tC
the other, made choice of wife, provided the
maiden so chosen did not object to the selection
In making this choice, each had been governed
by his ruling affections. Bedding sought per
feet character, and turned from one and another
successfully, until he had found woman who
seemed almost faultless. Her features were reg
ular and beautiful, her face calm, her voice even
She never exhibited strong emotions or betrayed
any weakness. Clara Lyon was in the eyes o.
her lover perfect woman.
Carson, on the other hand, did not expect
faultless wife. He did not ask how far the wo
man he chose would be able to lay aside all
thought of herself and consider only him bu
rather looked right to her heart, and sought tc
determine its qualpy-to see if he could love her
and If she were capable of loving him This de-
termined, natural perversions of character were
next observed. But the true heart the upright
will, the loving, confding disposition of Anna
Williams over-baanced all these.
FShe shall be NINE We will love each 9TH
er, bear with each other, and help each other a.
long the rough paths of lfes weary pilgrimage "
he SAID. with warm glow about his heart
The maiden gave consent. Marriage soon
followed The friends began new life They
had taken to themselves, in the language of Bel
ding, blessing or a curse! Let us see
Conscious defect Of character when accom-.
panied by pride and love of appreciation, leads
to the assumption of an artificial exterior, which
is opposite to the real internal Clara Lyon was
naturally impatient, this led her to assume u.
inform calmness of manner. She moderated her
tone ofvoice, and controlled the muscles of her
face without really rejecting that she was, BY SC
doing, only accumulatng her natural defects and
perverseness within, instead of correcting them
and letting them pass of. Little things fretted
her, bat pride, not principle, made her conceal
all this. She hid her defects, instead of fighting
against and expelling them.
A man of truer discernment than Bedding
would have soon detected all this But his false
views had taken from him the faculty of close
discrimination
For few months everything went on pleasant
!. " enough, Home was sweet spot to the young
husband. His wife was ever ready to greet him
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