Virginia free press. (Charlestown, Va. [W. Va.]) 1832-1916, 1845-01-23
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BY MRS! SANFORD.

The hLst year OF young woman
welded life is generally the most unhap-
py, and the most trying one she experien-H
ces. However Intensely We may base
studied the character Of our sfhahced,
however well Re'have imsginedFw we know
il in all its narrow windings, still shan We
find when we become wives. that we
have yet somethingto learn. BY aEiions
are The affections on either sidt clown.
aud although il is in the poweF and ma
ture Of woman to manifest her deFated-
ness by thousand little alteniions she
must not repine iiishe receives not the like.
The feelings offihe other sex sre not so
soft, and exquisite as those ot,our own ; il
they were, we might possibly be happier,
and we may for a moment Wish they
we're so. but we shall restrain 50 selfish
desire, if we.reHect how much more unfit
they would be by such constitution to
bear the crosses s butfetings Of the world.
Fl is said that lovers qusfrels sfe but
the renewal OF love. but il is Aotsso in
truth. Continued differences and bick-
erinEs will undermine the strongest affec-
ton, and q wife cannot be TOO csfeluI to
avoid dispuies upon the most trivial sub.
-jertS indeed i is the every day occur
The married NE; gFs s '0Ss sa1 .esfPrI q
rels seldom occur. Every wish every
prejudice must meet with attention. and
the first thought ola woman should be
the pleasing and providing for her hus-
band. 1t IS impossible TO enunsraie all
the little incidents which may annoy mar
tied men, OF The little unobtrasiys plea
SIRE which it is 10 the poxeF Of akwiie to
give but throughout her lifein employ
ment, she must bear bis pleasures on her
mind. She must act for him refer
ence 10 herself. and she will be Amply re-
warded by witnessing his. delight in< her
and bis home. To woman who loves
her husband with all the deyotedness ,ot
her nature, this will be pleasure, not a
task !; and 10 make him happy, she will
never grudge any sacrifice Of self.
The greatest misery woman can ex-
perience is the changed heart. and alien
ated affections Of her husband. but even
in that painful case she must nat upbraid,
she must bear with patience md iorti-
tude her great sappointment,lthe must
return good for evil 10 the UTMOST. and
her consolation will be the Consciousness
that her trials have nottheirI rise or con.
tinuance 10 any. decline Of affection or du.
ty on her part. i k
Some women, in order 10 triLg back
the husSsnd,s ~~~~Issi.ss ls~sss nayo TO.
course TO attempts to arouse his Jealousy i;
but thew are much mistaken id pursuing
such a course. A man. howe ser debased
bis conduct, never entirely Ibfgets the
love be once bore 10 the btide of his
youth there are moments when feelings
Of tenderness for her will rsturn with
force 10 bis heart; 10 reap shs benefit OF
such moments, the injured, foFglvi6g wife
must still be enshrined in lbs purity Of
former times. A husband Tif1 excuse his
fault himself. aud in some measure stand
exonerated inihe worldfif lhswiie relax
in the proprieiy of Der conHuct, while
on the contrary. the gentle fPrbearance,
the uncomplainipg patience, 4nd The un-
obtrnsive recsitnde Of the woman be ia
lures. will deeply strike 10 hik heart, aud
do much 10 win back 10 BIS lsra1er love,
and TO the ebssrvssce ofEthe VOWS be
btesthed at Ne 4ftar where bis heart was
devoted 10 he being from whom it has
wsndere9 A kind look, aiFekiionate ex-
PRESTO half uttered. must bItns bis wife
10 Inside. aud ste must with smiles Of
teplerness encourageahe returning affec.
Ton, carefully avoiding all difference to-
De. sufferings or the cause 6fihem.
This viii not Be difficult fof firtuous 20, |
melslo perform. Dur love EhirA before
is constrained bS ile modesty !
and reserve natural 10 psS Fsk. increases
in ferVency and depth 4iierFifds It en-
lbles as to bear upfii The Worlds scorn
III Is swsllowe8 up in il. AoaGsciionsie
wife clines o Der husband through pow
srty sad riches; and the mote TIE world
iecedei from him the more sitinly will she |
'land By him she viii be b1s comforter
Hhen all earthly comforts have slid from
lin. Her deyoiea1ess uilIIbs his rock. |
Ehsn be bss no other s1pRo1 she will
mile at the lroWns Of The n1fld she will
lot heed lie censufes he 3 her all and
q 1--we are al other thinss p BE- forgot
en or absorbed.