Martinsburg gazette. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1833-1855, 1845-01-16
REFLECTION ON MARRIAGE,

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REFLECTION ON MARRIAGE,
Ga no subject do the young people dis
cover a greater variety OF sentiments.
than on the subject Of Marriage. You
shall see some who centre their whole
happiness in that state Of life; and. sc-
cordingly, as soon as they are marriages.
Bile, or rather before that time, they Join
themselves in The silken bonds OF wedlock,
passing, their after years in such sweet
serenity Of life that il may well be COM
Il pared 10 the smooth current oil a stream,
where not a rock OF piece Of wood appears
10 obstruct lis equal flow. Their are 9th
ers who are not so forward to take that
fatal leap, afraid Of quicksands or shoals:
or, perhaps they are harder to please.
having their fancies cheated by the imsg.
nary pictures which they met with 10 nov
els. Such whether male or female are
very apt to defer making choice Of a
partner, till they have very Justly scquir-
ed tho cognomen Of Bachelor, or Old
Maid. Tina, these are no, happy, till
they have got the better Of their singu.
iartles, and settled themselves in life; or,
in plain language. have married, howev.
or late, we are certain: as ar instance.
we can testify TO the fact. There 10 q
third class, who are very anxious 10 get
married early, and have fixed their sf.ec.
iions upon the objec. Of their wishes, but
are deferred from consumssing their union
by the fact that they are too poor to be.
gin lie. the apprehensions Of such are
ia some measure Unsuitable, though Ne
are in doubt whether they nigh, not have
as fair chance Of growing rich married,
as single; for the wife, by her prudent
mana cement might even contribute there-
to.
! When married couple are not happy,
we think the fault is more in themselves,
thar IN the state OF lifs into which they
have entered. Though not married
man, we are convinced that many pre-
cautions are necessary, on both sides, in
the first stages OF married life: unIi the
tempers of both man and wife may have
become accommodated TO each other. Il
is necessary that they enter, impercepti.
bly,, into sort off treaty in regard to
theH tempers, habits aad inclina,ions,
each making such concessions. as pru-
deuce and the desire Of pleasing may di.
rect. They must lay an embargo on
their tongues, il the occasion requires il;
they must, in no instance whatever, give
way to the tempest Of passion; they must
smother in its bud the least appearance of
Miniature. When they have thus restrain.
ed themselves for while, from views of
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pers and habits, though ever so much at
variance at first, may happily strike to.
getber and form union so Justly, as il
both had been cast in The same mould
Then as thing Of course, will follow he
happy agreement Of the marriage state.
Young ladies. in order 20 be agreeable
after they have become wives, should UNI
derstand and practice housekeeping
Without this Indispensable knowledge,
we venture to say, they cannot make their
husbands altogether happy. Let them be
ever SO accomplished, or ever so hand.
some in their persons, that neatness and
order in a family which every Intelligent
man looks for, would not be willingly
missed for the formal behaviour of polite
ness, or the delicate frame and the rosy
lace Of beauty. Indeed these would do lit.
tie execution in the eyes Of sensible hus-
band, il the sphere in which they appear
were no, of a corresponding character.-
How would picture look, though drawn
by the most eminent arts, in the world,
liz it was incased 10 an old wooden
frame, sadly colourod, covered over with
dustl ~
AS the nice Projections Of the one
would be overlooked on account of ,s
disadvantsg eous position, SO would those
OF the other. For our part, we can new
er look upon a woman with pleasure,
though her beauty is ever so great. il ev-
erything around her convnces US that shs
is slattern.