Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1845-07-11
For Young Ladies' q Gentlemen
THE BAsENEss OF SPORTING WITH FEE.
MALE AFFECTION.

MALE AFFECTION.
Man cannot act more perfdous part
Than use his utmost efforts to obtain
A confidence, in order to deceive
Honor and integrity ought to be the leading
principles of every action in life. These are
virtues highly requisite, notwithstanding they
are too frequently disregarded. Whatever OBJ
ects individuals in quest of sincerity in pro-
fession, steadiness in pursuit, and punctualty in
dschargng engagements, are indispensably in
cumbent. A man of honest integrity and up
rightness in his dealings with his fellow creatures
is sure to gain the confidence and applause of all
good men: whilst he who acts from dishonest and
designing principle, obtains deserved contempt
No one ought to make efforts or pretensions to
win lady before he is, in great measure, GER
tain that her person, her temper and her qualih-
cations, suit his circumstances and agree per-
lecty with his own temper and way of thinking.
For similarity ofmind and manners, is very nee
essary to render the bonds of love permanent, and
those of marriage happy
"Marriage, the happiest state of life would be,
If hands were only joined where hearts agree"
The man Of uprightness and integrity of heart
will not only observe the beauties of the mind
the goodness of the heart, the dignity of sent.
ment, and the delcacy of wit, but will seek tc
fix his affections on such permanent endowments
before he pledges his faith to any lady,
He looks upon marriage as business of the
greatest importance in le and change of con-
dition that cannot be undertaken with too much
deiberation. Therefore he will not undertake it al
random, lest he should precipitately involve him
self in the greatest difficulties. He wishes tc
act a conscientious part and consequently canno
think Notwithstanding it is too much counter
anced by custom) ofsportng with the affections
of the fair sex, nor even Of paying his addresses
to any one till he is perfectly convinced his ovr
are fixed on Just principles
All imaginary caution is certainly necessary
! beforehand; but after mans professions of re-
card his kind services and solicitations, have
made an impression on the female heart, it is nc
LONGER a matter OF Indifference whether he per
severes in, or breaks off lis engagement. Wher
the matter is brought to such CrIsls, there is ne
retreating without disturbing her quiet and tran
guilty of mind, nor can any thing but her los
of virtue justify his desertion. Whether mar
riage was expressly promised or not is of little
Specification. For if he has solicited and obtain
ed her affections on suppositon that he intended
to marry her. the contract is in the sight ofheav
en- sufficiently binding In short, the man who
basely imposes on the heart of an unsuspectin!
girl, and after winning her affections by the pre-
vailing rhetoric Of courtship, ungenerousy leave
her to bitter sorrow and complaining, acts a yer.
dishonorabe part, and is more to be deteste'
than common robber For private reachery i
much more heinous than open force and none
must not be put in competition with happiness