Martinsburg gazette. [volume] (Martinsburg, Va. [W. Va.]) 1833-1855, 1845-03-06
THE WEDED STATE.
IT'S WISDOM, VIRTUE, AND polio

Associate IN my neaft 10 De,
With holy thoughts and things
Yet one among them ever brings,
Such gushing feelings on its wings
Such memories of Love and Care
OF Trust and Faith 10 days that we're
or Hope and Joy for time to come
OF Truth, of Chastity, and Home
That OF all Others thai feel,
love the best, in or veal:
1t is not Sister-Loyer-Bnde;
It's dearer far than all beside
In all the oheguered way of life,
Her hand in mine, III whisper-RYe"
We think that some of our young men
make sad mistake, in relation to mar
ried life. The timid and nervous among
them fancy that to marrv, is TO involve
themselves in all sorts of pecuniary res
possibilities, without in any degree in
creasing their chances Of worldly pros
perity. This is great error. We see
illustrations of this folly almost every day.
In our view, the cases are rare, where a
man becomes a good and useful citizen,
until he has entered into the matrimonial
state. If he have good qualities, married
life will bring them out. II he possess
energy and ability, he will find ii necessa.
ry to exercise both,- when, in addition to
his own worldly welfare, that of another
and a gentler being is made dependant
upon his efforts. Thousands of young
men, inclined for gay society and Of a
somewhat disspated disposition, have
been saved by prudent marriages. Thou
sands again, who shrank with apprehen-
sions from what they regard as the add
tIonal obligations Of married life, have
hurried on, careless and reckless OF the
world ard of reputation, until they in
volved themselves IN intemperance, pro-
flgacy aud ruin.
In poEt Of economy, we believe that
matrimony is decidedly preferable.-
Where one wealthy bachelor will be
found in the world, nineiy.nine men of
family may be counted, who have amass-
ed large fortunes. The prudent counses
OF good wife, her advice and assistance,
are quite as important in accommodating
means, as the energy and activity of her
husband. Nay, in many cases these are
found sill more essential. This is espe.
cally true of men Of genius, impulse and
enterprise. Such are not apt to detect
the difficulties of life, the hazards of rash
undertakings, the roguery of pretended
friends, and the hollow. he artedness of the
multitude.
But when they submit view of their
worldly affairs to their better halves, and
consul; with them, the quick and intu-
live perceptions of woman at once detect
circumstances or probabilities, which had
before escaped the notice OF the Husband;
and thus disaster and ruin are often pre-.
vented. MatrImony, moreover, calls up
thoughtlulness and reflection, stimulates
energy, and makes man aim at anC attain
his true position IN society. 1t is an easy
thing, comparatively speaking, for an in.
dividual of ordinary powers, to get a
respectable livelihood, TO obtain sufficient
means to live with propriety and decen-
cy. Such being the case, those among
the bachelor tribe, who are somewhat
disposed to incidence, or who need extra
stimulus, in order 10 induce them to de.
years in mediocre sort of way, careless
of the future, because they have neither
wife nor child to lean upon and look up
to them; and satisfy themselves with a
mere humdrum sort of existence, in which
so many of our bachelors pass friendless
and unlamented into the grave. But a
married man occupies nobler position in
society. He must not only live Cor him.
self, but for his family. He must not on
Y seek to obtain a mere substance, but
to acquire influence or property, with the
object OF assisting the beings OF his love.
If his vile be true to her dulles, as part.
ner and mother, she will also strive to
brighten The reputation Of the family, to
secure for it character for virtue and
integrity, to save somewhat Of the caro-
ings of her husband for a rainy day,
and to live in such manner that their
children shall refer to their memories
with affection, pride and pleasure. The
delights, too, of sympathy, Of intercourse
between father and son, mother and
daughter, the general features which
characterize happy family circle, the
amusements Of childhood and of youth,
the Joy which anmates and excites the
mind, as we see the germs of intellect un-
fold, year after year, in the pledges of
our affection, cannot be appreciated by
the lone, the selfish and the unmarried.
What, moreover, can be more lamectaDle
than time worn, neglected, an unloved
bachelor! One who, when he shall be
about 10 pass through the Valley of the
Shadow of Death, shall have no gentle
heart TO mourn over his grave, no son or
daughter to cherish and embalm bis me-
mory. But even before death, should he
live to be an old man, his latter DAYS will
in measure, be sad and gloomy. If rich,
he will be puzzled to know how to dis.
pose OF his means, or will fancy that eve.
~ act of good will or kindness is prompt
ed by mercenary motive. II poor, he
will be neglected, if not despised. la
brief, it is our duty TO enter into the mat
rlmonial state, on various grounds, while
such policy is also dictated by wisdom,
virtue and self-nterest. How frequently
docs it happen, that individuals who are
too keen for gain in pecuniary sense,
determine TO marry-hut postpone the