Litchfield enquirer. [volume] (Litchfield, Conn.) 1829-current, 1844-03-21

Observation, and u % pTnae 1ot TINS very reason
that kind Providence him By sickness, that
he may learn in pain, what Be viii fail to observe
in health. We have Sesn yeently good many
things said in the papers y Yivea exposing their
faults, perhaps magnfying thehJ md expOunding to
them in none Of che kindest t4ms, their duty, and
the Offices pertaining tosa wolian's sphere. Now.
We believe that wives asa while are generally bet
doubt il there can be found large number Of
wives who are dsagrseable and negligent, without
some palpahle GOODNESS or ghort-coming on the
part Of their husbands. So Is - we have had an
opportunity for 0bservNtions tiny are Ear more de-
voted and faithful than thOse who styl themselves
have other and generally moDePleasant and varied
duties toperform. We protest. then, against these
lectures 90 often and 20 obrusSely addressed to the
ladies, and insist upon it that they must-most Of
them-have been written BY some fnsty bachelor
who knew no better, or BY some inconsiderate hus-
the end Of their lives But 70 there nothing to be
said on the other side! Are Husbands sogenerally
the perfect amiable injured beings they are 90 Of
ten represented! Men sometime declare that
their wife, extrayagances have picked their pock
ets-that their never ceasing tcngaes have robbed
bleness have driven them to the tavern and gamb-
lingtable; but this 10 generally the wicked excuse
for most wicked life on their own part. The fact
ID men ofken lose their interest in their homes by
their own neglect to make their homes interesting
and pleasant. Il should never be forgotten that
the wife has her righas-ss sacred after marriage as
before and rood husband,s divotion to the wife
after marriage will concede 4 their happiness
quite = much attention a. his gsllantry did while
lover. If it 10 otherwise, be most generally is at
fault. '. /, lin ,e..,,
Take few example, Before marriage young
man would feel some delicacy shout accepting an
invitation to spend sn ssasssssg company where
riage is he always 90 particular: During the days
of courtship his gallantry wolld demand that he
should make himself agreeable TO her; after mar
| rage it often happens that he thinks more Of be-
| ing agreeable to himself. How often it happens
that married men. after having been from home
at her duties 60 at evening again to some place Of
amusement, and leave her to toll alone, uncheered
and unhappy. How oftenit happens that her kind
est Offices pass unobserved. and unrewarded even
by smile. and her best efforts are condemned BY
fault-6nding husband. How often It happens, even
when the evening is spent at hotne, that it 10 en-
ployed in silent reading. or some other way that
does not recognize the wies right to share in the
enjoyments even Of the ireside.
Look, We husbands. moment, and remember
what your wife was when you took her, not from
compilation, bnt from Your own choice, based prob
ably, on what you then considered her superiority
to all others She was young-perhaps the idol Of
a happy home; she was gay and blithe as lark,
and the brothers and sisters IL her fathers reside
cherished her as an object Of endearment. Yet she
left all to join her destiny with yours; to make
your home happy, and to do all that woman's love
meet your wishes and tighten the burdens which
might press upon youi 10 your pilgrimage She, Of
course, had her expectations too. She could not
entertain feelings which promised 90 much, with.
out forming some idea Of reciprocation on your
part, and she did expect you would after marriage
perform those kind Ssss e which ys rsss e
! YOUR wife left her own home Tor youfs-burst q
sunder, a. it were, the bands Of love that had
bound her to her fathers 6re-side. and sought no
other boonshan your affections; let i may be. the
ease and delicacy Of home Of indulgence-and
now, what must be her feelings if she gradually
awaes to the consciousness that You love her less
than before: that your evenings are spent abroad,
that you only came home at all to satisfy the de-
mands Ct hunger and to find resting place for your
head when weary: or nurse for your sick cham
bea when diseased?
Why did she leave the bright hearth Of her
Youthful days! Why did you ask her to give up
the enioyments of happy home! Was 1t simply
to darn your stockings, mend your clothes, take
care Of your children, and watch over your sick
bed? Was it simply to conduce to your comfort !!
Or was there some understanding that she was to
be made happier in her connection with the man
! she dared to love?
Nor is it q sufficient answer that you reply that
you give her home that you feed and clothe her.
You do this for your help; you would do it for an
Indifferent house keeper. She 10 your wife, and
unless you attend to her wants, and in come way
answer the reasonable expectations you raised by
your attentions before marriage, you need NOT won
der if she be detected, and her heart sink into in.
sensibility but if this be 90, think well who 10
the cause Of it. We repeat it, very few women
make indifferent wives ssfd per Ceilings have not
met with some ou.wapA thew may l s.ea
did opinion fhatennesseee used bvthe p qiances Of
domestic misery Is VII hg !As same -iS'~s'',,.
TEACHING rjis' ssSa4s TO SpEAx-The schools
for the deaf and .mb. in Prussis. Saxony and Hol-
Land, says Mr.. Mann, in his abe report, seem to
me decidedly superior to any in mis- country. The
point Of difference 10 fundamental. With ~, the
deaf and dumb are taught to converse BY signs
made with TIE fingers. There incredible a. il
may seem, they are taught to speak, with the lips
and tongue. That person, utterly deprived of
the orraIss Of hearing-who indeed never knew the
existence &c voice or sound-ShOsd be able 70 tGtk
seems almost to transcend the limits probability
and surely that teacher Is entifl to the character
Of great genius. - well a. benefact0r, who con-
ceived, md successfully execut6 asplan, which,
even aftef Il thewOrId win scarce
ly credit. To the countries lat named, It seems
almost absurd 70 speak Of the Daa1sb. There are
hardly any dumb there; and the sense Of hearing,
when lost, is almost supplied By that Of sight.
It 10 great blessing to deA mute to pc able to
converse in the language Of signs But i j. obvi.
Gus that, q soon q he passes ont Of the circle Of
those who understand that language, he j. q help
les and hopeless a. ever. The power OF utteEing
articulate sOunds-of speaking . others speak-.a-
lone restoEeshim to society. 1naI this can De done
ard substantiaiy in all cases, have had abundant
vroof-Oay. though an entire stranger. and speak.
-, . f,-.:sD lanGaaee I have been able 20 hold