Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1844-09-19
NJ MARRIAGE.
BY MISS LEE.

Marriage is accused Of all the evils
Of life ; al unjust accusation marriage
- good 1t l. our methods of education
winch are bad Whatever, therefore,
would mend these methods would render
the state OF marriage more happy
What is required ? Only very simple
thing, bul which has no. been tried ::
wv To accus,om Us from our childhood to
all the thoughts and sentiments which
n,- to Gil 10 our lives. would wish,
after all, 10 fix the attention of young
girls on the choice Of their husbands
educate them for this choice impress
deeply in their souls the character OF,
true love, in order that they may not be
deceived by whatever has only lis appear
auces.
Are they not made Cor loving Should
not this happiness extend ,ts,ii through
ont their whole life Is i, not, ut the
same time, their supremacy, their power,
and their destiny Aud yet the old
conventional nrelufices which abhor
love still "v,ts IN lamhirs Mothers
forget, ~ tn" presence OF their children,
the perIls with which Tins narrow edura-
which thrir ignnrance gives birth, and
the weakness whrrh follow ihcsr liIu-
SONS. TO open the sou! nf yonng glris
10 true love Is, 90 arm them against the
corrnp'ing passions which usurp i!s
name and here, the advantage IS two
fold, Tor, by cNnlting The loving faculties
at tho soul, you III some measure palalyze
no , ,h.
Examine the first choice or a young
girl tAmongt all the qualities which
please her IN lover, there Is perhaps
not one which would be suitable IN a
husband /; and, in fact she frequently
sees little more Of him she loves than the
beauty of his form or perhaps the cle-
gance ol his dresg Is not this, then,
the most complete coudemnalipn of our
svsirma of education From an apprc-
hension d too strongly affecting the
heart, we cOnceal from women all that
- worthy oi love &; we allow the sense OF
the beautiful that exists in them 10 be
lost among fu'Ilhies the outside pieases
them what Is within Is unknown. When,
therefore, after having been united for
six months they took for The delightful
young man whose presence charmed
them they are often very much surprised
to find in his place only an impcrtlnen,
fellow or fool Yet this Is what IL
commonly termed in the ord marriage
Of inclination.
IL is true, that in the present state Gf
our manners, young girls are seldom,
called upon To- make their choice /; their
imagination Is occupied, not with the
husband but with marriage. So il re-
suits ihii most girls have marriage for
ihcr inject, without thinking much about
tie" husband. On their part, the parents
SEX tn match the fortunes their ann,
lhry .gv, - ~ secure the fututIty OF
tari rsitJru, npJ absorbed IN this idea,
ia'N boa, ot marriage as an affair 0l
'o.n'nrtr" ls of y thing winch gives
position IN the world forgetting that it is
likewise q Thug which causes happiness
or unhapliucss Thus our foolish Wis
dom has succeeded IN dctaching love
iiom marriage: we have made n bargain
by which gnls purchase the power OF
regulating the expenses of their house
hold, of going oHi alone, aud OF seeking
IN the circle around them that half OF
their soul, that deal being which youth
dreams of, and will possess.
For, how much spever our education
may succeed IN supptessing our incllra.
lions, they cagnol destroy them man
and woman are the same being, whom
nature uncouquerabIy tends to unite by
love
The actual system is then but decop-
ton; II removes the danger from the pa
iernal roof ~ transport " to that ol The
husband Singular education The CHEF {