Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1844-01-18

I floor. However he nigh, be dane
! ing man. in Europe, where P'"p'o dance
ltl their knees c-.i mem, he knows 'ha'
| IN This Aosre-io-grow-ol old country II would
iop commented hsrshly upon, especially
# he has II wife, for whom it is expected
Ibis overflow of spirits should be reserved
/ As he don't dance, he would like T."
converse. The old ladies talk Of nothing
bm their daughters, and the daug ghters,
IIhf not dancing, think II would repel Il
probable partner to seem much occupied
II IN conversation. lie looks around for II
sofa and lady who don't dance. Sofa
there is none, and in IA chair IN the cor
Il nrr perhaps there Is one lady who is
neither Young nor old-rdra 0ris He
/ approaches her, aud, we'll nis damned
! ag ainsi the wall undertakes u converse
lion not audible Che standing aud She
sitting unless kept up n, scream. -
| Alier half hour oi this, the lady, II sh'
be discreet, remembers that "it looks
particular" To be engrossed more than
hall an hour by one gentleman, and look'
or says so. The middlc-aged man slides
along the wall, gets back into the crowd
ed receWioD.room, talks n little 10 tn,
chaperons, comes back and looks on AZ
the Waltz, and so passes he three hour
iill supprr-o0 his legs The ladies take
m hour TO sup, and, about three o'clnck
he gets u corner for some oysters and
champagne, and between ihn, aud four
O'Clock gets home To- bed lie IL IA bu-
sness man aud rises at eight, and b,
three o'clock the next day he looks and
feels M IA man naturally would who had
bunl his candle at both eDds-for nOh-
ing.
\ IL il not wonderful that there are no
cnnvcniences for conversation IN society.
for there really is no conversation to pr"
vide for. The want would create the
supply. 1t is one Of the most peculiar oi
our couniry's features that conversation
is moi cultivated as "A pleasure. When
American women leave OF dancing they
think they have done with society I'LL
they re.appcar to bring out their daugh
.crs All the agrcrablencss "l their md
die life the most attractive and delight
lnl portion of lie too, perhaps - Is cxpend-
ed on an apprrciailve husband VIII"
wants and uses II all Not at all as n
dlsparagenc TO this state of things, per-
haps You will allow me- to mention a case,
that may be somewhat parallel, which
has turned up IN my zoolog'cal reading
! "These lille insects lihe coccus, OF the
} family galiiDSecia) are remarkable Tor
many peculiaIilIes IN their habits and
conformation. The males have long,
large wings The temales have no
rings, bat ~, certain period o' their Ut"
; attach themselves to the plan, or 'rc"
which they inhabii, aud remain thereon
immovable during the res, Of their eXls
: tence." "As soon as tho eggs are pro.
duccd, they pass Immediately under the
female parent, whose body becomes their
= stationary covering and guard. BY de-
grres her BODY dtles up and ilaItcnS, aud
: forms a sort of shell, aud, when life L.
quite extinct, the young insects leave
: their hiding place" " Nh,,her socieiy
7 has not some claim on m--wheth"I
: their minds would not be kept from mar
\ rowing by conversation with agtcaabl
: men whether the one exclusive erand
p OF the lovellesl portion ol humanity is a.
= rear children, are questions which IN this
country must he handled very g'ngerly--
I at least IN pint. ! may be permitted ,'
. 90 on and say show they do IN Spain,
Y however.
r A middle-aged man in London may OF
may not DO dancer. There Is no com
: mcnt either way-bn he must be some
d hing dancer or good conversa,lonIst
= or he is dropped as "unberine up the
e.. party" Few men can afford to be see,
. by the mistress Of the house TO be una
= muSed and unomuS,ng. A cultivated man
+, then, who don't dance, gets an hour o'
, two of pleasant society IN the early part
| OF the evening at the opera. IL there !,
small party afterwards he prefers II t'
r ball bu, il he goes to the ball he finds
that he pleasnntcst people there are the
married women. They do not sh together
without room for u gentleman between
then, bu, every lady is bodily approach.
. able, and with Irtlle management b,
car get a comfortable seat beside any on,
= whom he may know and prefer. II he
= find her interesting, and talk to her the
= whole evening there is no scandal unless
| there are other corrobora,ing circumstah
ces indeed, the openness oi the a,ien
lion would rather discrcdlt any uniavora
: bic comment. IL there is n new lior
D present, or any attraction peculiar to on'
D person, a small circle Is formed ln a cor
ner, or group stand around and let The
n conversation he managed by the persons
e most Interested, like listening to music -
= You could seldom 60 to party 10 Lon
e don without hearing something wonl
: 'teling to a person no, there, aud Sociei,
n (not he ne'rspapers) has the first use an,
: enjoyment of all news and novelties o
: every description. Newspapers ar,
= stale to man actively convcrsnnt in ,h'
e best society Of London People coIIcc
j, news, aud see sights, and invent theories
r aud study and think have matciia
d for being brilliant in society, and for ~
It other motive. An haJiiue Of the bes
houses grows well informed by absorption,
. only if he keep his ears open. .4nd hi
entire society IS ca'ding IN .Nco York.
.cl One of your intelligent CORRESPONDENT