Carroll free press. [volume] (Carrollton [Ohio]) 1834-1861, 1844-11-22
FEUDS AMONG FRIENDS AND RELA.
TIVES.
RECONCILIATION.

It is surprising to notice from what tri-
val causes, serious difficulties will some
times arise. A word, Jest, the hasty ey-
paession OF the moment, has, in many Ill
stances, broken the friendship OF years,
and tepn the Il st cause Of bitter, renorse-
less and undying teud. Alas! iorpoor hu-
man nature. The prejudices and pas loHs
Of the heart, the selh7hIess and maleVO-
lence Of men, are too often the sources, not
only of uukindness and pain to others, but
of perpetual disqujet and unhapp'ness to
themselves. There are in the Wo ID, too,
individuals who appear TO take delight in
| fomentng trouble, in increasing m-uade.-
standings, in widening and imparting ad-
duional rancour TO difficulties between
friends. These malignant hypocrites ioy
they deserve no better appelatlon, general
" profess to he extremely anxious to ad-
! lust the trouble, to restore the confidence,
and reconcile the feelings Of the excited. /.
| They, however, at the same time. contrive
by an arttu word o, half admitted In
sinuaton to emhitter and inurate both
parties, and thus to convert into little bet
! ter than fpnds, individuals who few
years, or perhaps a few months before,
would not have hesitated to make any sac
crifce for the assistance Of each other. 1t
! is, moreover, a strange perverslty IN many
minds, to he unwilling to acknowledge an
error or repair a wrong. Theyare natural
" perverse and dogged, and by some
. strange process Of reasoning, endeavor to
convince tn amselyes that they are acting
under the influence of principle and honor,
when in fact they are governed by very
different motives. "Elessed are the peace
nakers!" How often moy truly henevo-
lent friend, one WHO is disposed TO do
what is right without any malignant mo-
tive, one who really wish wei ,ltoaIl about
him, and to mankind al alGC, STEPS in,
/ and by the exercise Of prn rCe; modera-
ton and iorhearaNce, reco7"''eg difficulty.
How truly phi'anthropic Is thcepirt which
animates such a mind! How much better
thus to heal and adjust, than by contra.
ry course, to irrtate and perpleX! The
work of reconciliation is truly Christian
1t is calculated to bring peace to many Q
troubled breast, to sooth and give balm tc
many an aginted mind and wounded hear
Ito convert hatred ino love, harshncss IN
to kindness, aud to make us by reflector
on the past, ashamed OF our moments 0
pptulance and passion, and anxious Il
avoid such errors and imperfectiOns for tn
future.
What nobler task could an individual he
engaged in, than that of bringing oCetho
friends and relatives who had been Iorl
separatod--separated TOO by some trivia
cause, by some hasiv word, hy some harsh
expression or alusion, which at the time
was not meant to offend or wound. 1t is
so ensv at times, and especially when one is
peevish, fetiu and out Of hunor, t. I'M
agin insult where nothing Of the kind was
intended We all, too, have peculiar
moods We have our hours Of gloom, dis
contentand dissatisfaction Atsnch times
we are universally sensitive. The slight
est thing will stir MS into a passion, or r-
duce us to utter something harsh or COM
planning. Itis at such moments 'hat DIM