Green-Mountain freeman. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1844-1884, 1844-06-21

to his aid and does not, like reckless tyrant, |
strike rudely upon the strings which, though well
attuned, are yet tenderly arranged and extremely
susceptible.
B. on the other hand, has wife naturally amia-
Bile and domestic Yet he fails of domestic happi-
ness by fault entirely his own. He makes no al
lowance for her, and demands subservient atten-
ton to caprices which, if not wanton, yet they are
unreasonable. Uneasiness, vexatiOn and dlsSatls-
faction ensue-and now, with family of children
subjected to their constant influence there IS very
apparent to all, great want of mutual cohhuence
and harmony of action. Family governments OF
course, has been, to great extent abandoned, ana
while thew still live together, and seek to appear
publicly reconced, mutual distrust has poisoned
the cup Of their domestic happiness, and alienated
| fear, permanently, the sincere affections which
they probably plghted at the nuptial altar.
WHY this difference? The cause is obvious.-
1t lies principally in the conduct of the husband,
B. has lived out of his family, and though perhaps
not originally disposed to do injustice to his wife,
he has failed to cherish and make her the partner
of his counsels. Her trials have not secured his
sympathy, and have therefore, oppressed her with
their undivided power. He has, moreover, eX-
pected too much from her, and in his disapolnt-
ment upbraided her imagined neglect, and wound
ed if mot broken her spirit.
A. has always been careful to provide for the
wants of his family. This he has regarded as his
duty. Having engaged to cherish and suppor
his wife, he is ever asslduous to relieve her iron
embarrassment. In his zeal to get rich, he does
not, like too many forget the wants in detail of hi
family. He goes out from his firesde as the cen
ire of the world to him, and returns to it before
he can rest. To defend, rear, educate, and rende
his family happy, is the first earthly duty recog
nzed by him in his diary of "thngs not to b.
omitted" Then he is careful and assiduous, also
in offices of personal attention to his wife. III
does not permit the familiar terms OIL which the
live to superseds the ceremonies Of an exact pc
likeness. His familiarity Is always mingled wit
personal respect. His attentions are unltorm
rendered. The same regard and preference whlc
separated him from others, to ask her hand, ap
propraes him to her through life. She is neve
left to suffer the paug of suspicion by any wanto
act pracced on her sensbtes. If anxiety sci
ties on her brow, he, too, is anxious until it is re
moved. He has no malignlty Of heart which WI
allow him to sport with those senslblIltles or lace
rate them. He inspires her confidence by his oW
generous and unwaverng confidence extended
her, and by avoiding whatever can give her pail
In family government, whether in the discipline
servants or children, she receives his cordial SUI
port. If in his opinion, she has erred in this d.
partment of duty, he does not upbrad her hefo
her family, and thereby weaken her authority b
advises her in private, that the evil may be pr
vented rather than aggravated. He is ever reat
to give liberal construction to her conduct, al
thereby prepare her to extend a generous and co
iding Interpretation to his.