The Arkansas banner., 1844-11-13
WnMAN AND MARRIACE.


 WOMAN AND MARRIAGE.
 l have speculated a great deal upon matri- mony. have seen young and beautiful wo- men, the pride of gay circles, married, as the world says-wclIi Some have moved into costly houses, and their friends have all come and looked at their furniture and splendid arrangements for happiness, and they have gone away and committed them 10 their sum- ny hopes ehecrlully without fear. Il Is na- tural to be sanguine for the young, and at such times am carried away by similar feel ngs love to get unobseryed into "a corner and watch the bride in her attire, and with i her smiling face and soft eyes moving before me iu their pride of life, weave d waking dream over her lualrc happiness. and persuade myself that ii witt be true. think how they will sit upon the luxurious sofa as the twilight falls, and build gay hopes, and niufmur in low tones the now forbidden tenderness; and how thrllmgly tic allowed kiss, and the I.beaatiluI .eadearments of welded life will make even their parting joyous, and how gladly come back from the crowd and the empty mirth of the gay 10 each others quiet company. l picture to myself that young creature, who bushes even now. at his hesi- taling caress, listening eagerly for his foot steps as the night steals on, and wishing that he would come; and when Ae enters at last. and, Witllan affection as undying as his pulse lolds her ta his bosom, l can feel the very tide that goes flowing through his heart, and gaze with him Oil he graceful form as she moves about him for the kind offices of aflae- ton, soothing all his unquet cares, and ma king him forget even himself i'll her young and unshadowed beauty.
 l go forward, forward for years, and see l her luXufiant harput soberly away from her brow, and her gifIish geaces riPed into dlgni- ! ty, and her bright loyeliness chastened with l the gentle meekness oI maternal aiieetion.- Her husband looks on her with proud eve, and show her the same tefvant love and i the delicate attentions which first won her, and fair children aIe growing up about them, and they go on full ofhonor and untroubled years, and are remembered when they die
 say love to dream thus when gQ to give the young bride joy. l. Is the natural tendency of feeling touched by loveIness, tha fears nothing for itself; and II ever yield to darkened feelings. 1t is because theIight Of l the picture is changed. am not fond of dwelling apon such change, and 0lI not mn4utely now. allude to it#only because l trust that my simple page will be read by some of the young and beautiful beings who daily move across my path; and would whisper 10 them, as they glide by joyously and confidently, the secret of aa uHeIouded iuture.
 The picture have drawn above is not pe- culiar. It is coIored like the taucies of the bride, and many, oh. many all hour will she sit. with her rich jewels laying loose in her fingers, and dream such dreams as lhase.- She believes them too-aHd sHe goes on for a while undeceiyed The evening Is not too long while they talk of plans for future hap pHess, and the quiet meal Is still a pleasant and delightful novelty of mutual reliance and attention There comes soon, however, time when personal topics become bare and weafisome, and slight attentions will not alone keep up the social excitement. There are long intervals of silence, and the husband, first, in lis manhood, breaks in upon the hours they were wont to spend together-H l cannot follow Ii circumslanlially. Then come long hours of unhappy restlessness, and terrible misgiYngs, of each others worth and affection, till by and by, they can con- ceal their uneasiaess no longer, and go out separately to seek relief, and leau upon the hollow world for tle support which one who has promised to be their lover and friend could not give them!
 Heed this, ye who are winning, by your innocent beauty, the affection of hlgh-minded and thinking beings. Remember that he will give up the brother of his heart with whom he has had ever a fellowship of mind, the society ot his coiempofary runners in race oi fame, who have held with him stern com panionship; and frequently in his passionate love, he will break away from the arena of lis burning ambition, to come and listen to the voice ol the eharner.' 1t will bewilder him al first; but it will not long. And then, think you thatan idle blandishment will chain the mind that has been used for years to all equal commumon3 Thing you he will give up for a week dalliance, the aniI4atng theme of men, and search into the mysteries of knowledge3 Oh, 10, lady believe ne, no Trust not your influence to such light feters. 7 Credit not the old-tashoned absurdi.y, that Homan's is a secondary let, ministaring 10 lie necessity of her lord and master Ifyour Immortality is as complete, and y6ur gift Of mind as capable as ours, would charge you 10 water the mudying bud, and give it a heal thy culture, and open it's beauty to the sun; and then you may hope that when your life Is bound with another, you will go on equal ly, and in friendship that will peryade eve " earthly interest.-,N ?. UHGa.
 
 4 CHLD TO BOAST oF.-A farmers wife, in speaking of the smarness, aptness, and intelligence ol her son, a lad s years old, to a