Litchfield enquirer. [volume] (Litchfield, Conn.) 1829-current, 1844-12-19
From tie Penmsy7Onn;a Enqsaiyer. J. q
CONCEALMENTS AT HOME HUSBAND
.t5 y se AND WIFE,
A CASE t1Rold REAL Lffr.

5i5 aes AND WIFE.
5sg ~ A CASE FROM REAL LffE. ~
We heard case of pecuniary ruin q few dayS
since which the narrator attributed to disposition
on the part Of the husband to conceal the real state
Of his financial affairs from his "sbetteR half" The
parties had been married only few years. The
fair one was young. lovely and fascinating-the or
nament Of gay circle, fond Of display, Of society,
and Of making figure in the world. Her husband
doated upon her. and at the time Of her marriage
He purchased fine house, furnished II in splendid
style, and started forward in dashing manner
His wife dressed not only with elegance, but in
the most expensive style. She was ambitious to
move in the best circles, and believing that her
husband could afford it, she lived at the rate of
several thousand dollars year. Shortly after they
were married the husband met with several seri-
GUS losses but they were in the way Of husinesgs
and although they alarmed him for the moment,
they produced no serious effect upon his mind
He was naturally cheerful and sangnine and he
could not muster courage enough to inform his
vile Of his pecumiary disasters. His view was that
she could not mend the matter-that it was pity
to annoy and disturb her by the disclosure. and that
IN the end he would recover. But his affairs con"
tinued to grow worse and seeing this he often de-
termined in his thoughtful moments to tell the
whole story to his wife, and thus to induce her 10
be more economical as well as to make less display
in the eyes of the world. But he still lacked the
nerve. His wife had formed many new associates
leader In the gay sphere in which 81 e moved, was
everywhere admired, and her mistaken husband
could not or would not wound her pride and pain
her heart, by disclosing the condition Of his failing
fortunes. The worse his affairs grew, the more
studied were his efforts to conceal them at home.
With this object, he resorted TO many new expedi.
ents to obtain funds, borrowed money at high rates
Of interest, disposed o. bis goods and his property
sacrifice, and finally found himself in the hands
Of the Sheriff. The biz W then tell upon his young
hnI
such result. True, at times, when she felt she
was rather extravagant, she has ventured to apol-
ogse TO her husband and to ask, rather indirectly
than otherwise, as to the condition Of his business
But the subject was painful one to him, and he
avoided it with singular delusion. He had mar.
led her as rich man, he had commenced life in
liberal style--he had in measure induced his wife
to become gay and extravagant; md thus he per.
sisted in the weakness Of deceiving her, and con.
cealing his gradually deprecating fortunes until
too late. Then she was all agony and remorse
Then the true woman, and her fidelity in his hours
Of gloom, exhibited in all its beauty and truth.
She approached him. It 10 true,for his concealment
but it was in any but an unknd spitit. She had
her on, and thus while mingling in the fashions
and friyolies Of life, she had overlooked the real
state Of her husbands finances, and disregardeda
thousand indications Of change, which now flashed
upon her with vivid truth and warning. Tho
young merchant in telling the story Of his reverses
to friend admitted his folly, confessed the mad
ness that induced him to conceal the real state of
his fortunes but acquitted his wife Of oil censure,
at the same time remarking that she had In their
adversely, exhibited qualities which had endeared
him to her far more than those which she had dis.
playsin the gay, the dashing and extrayagant por.
tion Of her life. The lesson" he added, Sc has
been bitter one in asmomentary point Of view,
but n has had itsuses. II has taught me to apprc.
sings Of the in with door world, and to contrast
them favorably, even in changed circumstances,
the gddy trifing and wild excitement of the meie.
ly fashionable empty and cold"
Are there no cases Of concealment, such as we
have described, smong ont readers 10 it not too
frequently the way ofthe world, to assute con-
dton Of prosperity that does not exist, at least
TO hold from those who should know them, truths
o: importance to the well-being Of the parties
corded. Is there not stubborn pride IN cur nature,
which would rather suffer than confess Are
there not hundreds of couples In this community,
who are comparatively strangers in thought Are
there not many husbands who are pursuing the
same course that we have described above, and who
while they 6eplore and regret the extravaganza and
expensive mode of living pursued by their wives,
permit those wives to remain.in ignorance as to
their income, resources expenditures and pros
poets Be assured, gentle reader, that frankness
and confidence are essential to the married life,
and that those who commence the welded condi-
ton by system Of concealment, will sooner or
latter repent and with the utmost bitterness, the
folly Of such course. ...
Solemn Coasiderafions. ~ Understand we'll tho
force of the words "A God A Moment An
Eternity! A God who sees thee a moment which
flies from thee an eternity which awaits thee -
A God whom We serve 90 i'll moment Of which
yc profit so little an eternity which ye hazard so
hastily.
JUMP UP, GIRLS!
The editor Of the Portland Express, in dis1btrs.
| ing upon early rising. talks in this wise /" Up
with you /! Mary, Elizabeth, Anna, Eliza, Ellen,
Abbey, Sarah, Olive, Caroline, Henrietta, Lydia,
! Jane, Louisa, Maria, Lucy, Nancy, Mariet, Ruth,
Hannah, and all the rest Of your girls arotselalse
up-rse, and see the sun rise, and brush away the
dew from the beautiful grass. You not only lose
you depress your spirits and contract sluggish hab.
| its.
What If you are sleepy I Jump out cRbed-Ay
| round--stir about, and in few moments you will
| be as bright as lasks.
| Wewould'nt give straw for gifis who won't get
| up in the morning. What are they good for !A-
| Lazy dumpsh creatures Our advice to young men
| who are looking out for wives, would be-never
choose female who dozes away the precious
morning houEs."
SPECIMEN OF A FOURTH OF JULY
GRAFTON.
The following 10 given BY some contemporary as
q tall fourth ct July Grafton: .45
"Americans! This il great country-wide---
| lie Is yet destined to re-annes all South America
recover possession ofthose British provinces which
nff fhirfoas,