Litchfield enquirer., 1844-04-11
SYMPATHY BETWEEN MOTHER AND
CHILD.

BY JACOB AnBOTTs
Sympathy 10 very distinct from love- There may
Be strong love with little sympathy. 1t is true
they very 8lten accompany each other. Among
equals berhars one seldom exist without the other.
But Neen the parent and the child the instinct
live affection on the one side may be powerful,
hile there is no common bond of union and conse-
quentiy there will be very little return Of love ON
the other.
To sympathize with child is to understand,
and appreciate and in some measure to PGrtGke Of
his feelings and desres-in all the various circum-
! stances which awaken them. She who svmpathi-
yes with child acquires a vast ascendency over
his mind This is the secret Of the magical infu-
the young, and which many think they would give
anything in their power to possess. The secret 10
in sympathy. II consists in just understanding
how children think and feel. and in sharing
those thoughts and feelings. Expressed thus In
general terms it seems very simple Principe
treatment which the child receives at Its parents
hands.
have said that there is often very little SYM,
patty between the parent and the child. 1t 10 not
surprising that this should be SO. In fact we may
almost consider il surprising that it should be 9TH
erwise Everything tendst to produce total dis
similarity in all the habits Of thought and feeling
which characterize these different periods OF exist.
ence. The child enters upon life dazzled and de|
lighted with the novelty and brilliancy Of the
whole scene around him. For the mother. the
novelty has gone-the brlliancy has faded, and the
world is decked to her in sober colors winch every
| year has less and less Of charm. The child is
thoughtless and gay. Having no responsibilities
to bear Providence has formed it incapable OF feel
| inc the burden of responsibility. The mothers
heart is full Of care. heavy load rests upon her
continually which makes her eye restless and con-
tracts her brow. The enid 10 full OF instInct.ye
gladness AMI glee. II, is happy at nothing. He
laughs from the mere pleasure Of laughing, and
| finds everything resource ofplcasure and play
| The mother is thoughtful and sedafe. Time mas
sobered her. Anxieties have sobered her ana
perhaps sorrow. The child is full Of imagination
and yiyacity, everything is seen metamorphoscd
and magnified The sofa and the chair to it's eyes,
are gay carriages and spirited horses it sees cas-
ties in the fire. and lions and tigers on the wall
10 boundless exranse Of verdure, anc the congre-
CATION at church a countless throng TO the motn-
er the congregation is thin. the lawn - TOO con-
tracted. the wall is mere wail-and me 'Isn,.ure
plain furniture, far below the standard Of her ann
bition. And 80 in regad to moral vision. The
mother ia remoye from all temptation to take sweet
meats frtiyely-to tell falsehoods-to strike those
that displease her. But the body, full OF appetites
| and impulses all new and growing IN strength
| Observation-Disclosures with the necessity OF restrain
ing them, is continually going astray snd the
| mother Judging his transgressiOns by the same
standard with which II would be proper to measure
her own is astonshed and vexed at ms faults, ana
wonders that her injunctions and the plain princl-
niles of duty are capable Of exercising over his
heart SO little control all these things combine to
separate the middle aged from the young IN heart
ana feeling. The mother loves her child-she pro-
tects him-she watches over hm-but often sne
does not understand him. There 70 no naEmo-
nv or sympathy in feeling. The desires ana nopes;
and fears. and endless imaginings OF ihe yootnIol
heart she does not appreciate, and OF course ooe1
not share.--Mothey's Magazine Of .aPr6.
Discovery Of an hsfevesfyg Does.n.ent eo''fg. ~,
;ne ne GieS,eGloey Of the Legaye Famsly.-Ihe
Chsrleston Courier states that short time since'
while a servant was digging hole for the snser.
ton of post, in gzrden in Anson street, On 70.
/ Sormerly the property Of the Legare family, ana
now owned kyT their concessions. the spaIs 1917
the depth Of three feet, struck nara SUBSTANCE.
supposed 10 be brick. but which on oeang oFocSns
IN. proved "a be ANAL Cblong iron oe3. IN goSo
preservation divided In the center eno iastenea y
| sprinas. The date Of the box 10 1882 showing
10 he i6Q yeass old. On opening the boxs roll q
parchment was found. not In the ieast decay. wisn
Ire manuscript perpectly legahle. u proved % pe
ths @snsalogiceltre of ihe fsgare family Icfwhch
the late Hugh 8. Legare was deseenuan.J ".i ~;
their origin In the year ore TO solomon, wno nj
grated % this county, with the numerous ~
Huguonuis, alier the revocation o. tne 49, J.
Nantz On che upper part Of che roll are y" ~ 49, -
10, coFOnat and coat Of arms, end Oh saTn 49, =
the coat of arms 10 an account at the lnpy -
lin, Tia name YVES originally written 49, 49,. ~
aaFass Il thea Ooums 10 have baen moorA~ -