, 1843-02-04
From the Ladies' Garland, for January. Is43
THE Welded LIFE.
BY MRS. SANFORD

happy, and the most irving one she ey
PerIences. However intensely w,
may have studied the character of GU
aflanced, in all its narrow winnings
sun shall we find, when we becom,
wives, that we have yet somethin.
to learn. BY actions are the affec
lions on either side shown, and al
though Ii is The power and the natur,
oil woman to manifest her devoted
ness by a thousand little attentions
she not repine i! she receive.
not the like.
The feelings of the other sex are
not SO soft and exquisite rs those o
our own IT they were, we might pos
sihly be happier, and we may for q
moment wish they were so, but we
shall restrain 81 selfish a desire, If we
reflect how much more unfit thew
would be by such a constitution to
bear the crosses and the bullets of the
world.
1t is said that overs quarrels are
but the renewal of love, but il is not
SO In truth. Continued differences
and chickering's will undermine the
strongest affection, and a wife cannot
be too careful TO avoid disputes upon
the most trivial subject; indeed, it is
The everyday occurrences which try
The love and temper of the married
liie; great occasions for quarrcls sell
dom occur; every wish, every preju.
dice must meet with attention, and
The first thought of a woman should
be The pleasing and providing for her
husband. 1t Is impossible to enumer.
ale all the little incidents which may
annoy married men, or the little. on.
obtrusIve pleasure which il : in the
power "i Il vie 10 give; but through.
"ut her lie and en.ploymentssh she must
bear his pleasures on her mind. Sine
u act i"r hun IN preference to her
eai iov'Th.nhe.sthg uhs aUengm. rHY'asd.
and his humP. i" Il wonIn Who
loves her iusb nd viii al the d.,O
trdnes> al tlrC Hatu;r. this will be Il
pleasure, not Il t.>k; aud la make ian
happy, she VII never grud.e any
>acritI:e al sell.
lac greatest misery a woman cin
experience Is the changed heart. and
lie ;illen,Ied aIlectI"Hs OF her hu,
band; but even 10 that plIGfnl case
she must not upbraId; she must bear
with patience and tnrtIlude her great
disappointment; she must return good
Tor evIl 10 the utmost. and her con
-uidtIOn viii be the consciousness that
ner trials have not then rise or CON
tnulnce IN my decline Of affection
or duty on her part.
Some women, in order 10 win back
their husbands wandering love, have
recourse 10 attempt TO arouse his
jealousy; but they are much mistaken
10 pursuing such course. A man,
however debased his conduct, never
entirely forgets the love he once bore
% The wife of his youth; there are
moments when feelings of tenderness
or her will return with force to his
leart; to re1p the benefits OF such
moments, the injured, forgiving wife,
must still be enshrined in the purity
If former times. A husband will ex- I
use is1auli to himself, and, in some I
MEASURE, stand exonerated in the {
if the wife relax in the pro- /
,riety of her conduct; while on the ,
ontrary, the gentle forbearance, the ,
accompanying patience. and the I'M
b,rnsive rectilude of The woman he
will deeply strike to his heart, s
nd do much to win hun back TO his n
primer love. and the observance oil =
he vows he bfeathed at the altar j.
,here his heart was devoted to the v
eng from whom he has wandered. |;
kind look. an afiectionate express b
on half uttered, must bring his wife Fl
, his side. and she must with smiles n
tenderness. encourage the return b
g affection. carefully avoiding all re- Y
renee TO her suf1erings or The cause o
/ them. O
This will not be difficult for good, d
.nsible m to perform. Our h
We. which before marriage IS con- ii
rained by the modesty and reserve a
Mural 10 our sex, increases IN fei- v
,ncv and depth afterwards; 1t ena- ~
rs 10 bear unfelt the world h,
all is swallowed up IN 1t. An p
r~.c:iona,e wife cIings I" e nus. bi
md through poverty and riches; and
e more The world recedes o h'm'
e more firmly will she stand h!yh'm; e.
. III he his comforter when a'' o.
r,hlv comforts have slid from h'n. J o
dev.t.dness viii be ms r OK us
,,., he ba. M ufhrr supports she Z.