Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1843-08-10

when no speak Of the ''m"st grner",is OF
men," of the "bsst friend he ever had inl
the world % Oh, the tome oi az injured
man, 10 be sure of n man stow 60 resent,
reluctant 10 speak out, hut deeply Injured
"Ah my dear madam he remarks to
Mira. Blab," though, a. you do, once
| would have siaked my honor "n that
mans friendship and liberal'iy but The
mean mind, you know, wtH betray iiseii
Only think Of his refusing to give young
Scamp "a relation of mine bv marriage
who wants n few suits of clothes, such a.
simple thing a. an Introduction to hlsI
tailor - "Shamc - cries Mrs. Blab, on
the part Of the whole town 4: "thisto you,
too, who have been such friend to HIM
who have ever spoken Of him so highly
TO whom he is under so many oblga-
tiOns ~
The receiver Of the ninety nine good
turns is not ungratrinl al an earlier stage
al .hc obligation. His gratitude never
breaks down until it is past the point
where the demand for II is higher than
ever
lie has been so long accustomed 4"
receive fayours, that d temporary stop
page siuns him; and he RECEIVERS hI.
senses only To feel that he has been
cruelly iI-trea,cd. Hitherto, io ask has
been ia have the denial therefore, seems
50 strange, 50 wanon, so unToVoked,
that ii cancels the recollection OF every
debt. and turns honey ia'o gall.
la
disappointment breathing IN every word,
inputing to an absent person every dis
ubliging quality, II IL not nncharltable to
surmise that the absentee had done him
many good turns end then slopp"d.-
When we have listened "A hong hour to
fierce raier, who, having fastened hls
teeth ou the character OF an old acquaint-
nncr, tears II 10 taiiers - win" Is ready to
swear that no particle of klodllness or
generosity turks within the man-wh"
rates him as the representation OF all
meanness aud c"vetousness 1T Is not al
ways unfair to ask, "iiow long IL It
since you inst hrgaR 10 horrow OF h'm (:
and on what day ihis week did he decline
10 lend you the guinea -
Whenever ! find any one unusually
bitter and bois,erous in his drnunclaions
of "man's inhumanity To man, exhibited
in case Of personal experience, the de-
caiIner appearing as the victim, am apt
enough tn think, snow, here Is gen
tIemnn who wanted The hnndredth good
turn, bu, could not get it,"
IL behooves us surely to take care,
when we censure another as incapable oi
rendering single service, that we d."
not mean the hundrcdh. MANY honest
natures, that would blush to be deficient
IN the acknowledgement Of kindness,
have been precipiia'cd, 10y m unexpected
refusal, into a total unconsciousness OF
countless benefits received. There is,
il must be owned, something eXaspcraiing
~ this sudden turning off at the hnndrcdlh
turn. One Is uneasy at receiving ninety
nine oblg atioDs and n point blank denial
Custom has become oar second nature,
aud repulse seems a wrong. We ie el
thar our benefactor ought to have no will
in the matter that he has u right TO com
ply with our modest lille application to
give large party expressly to please a
few particular friends Of ours wbsn' he -
To ask. Non compliance dashcs us dow n
from the high ladder, when we Eave at
tained the last stage but one. just at the
top Ct the steep ascent, we slip and roll
10 the bottom when we least dream of il.
We had made sure and feel sore, Ell In
Brute, We cry. The well that was al
ways brm-iull-to find not drop in II
at last A.! The tree that dropped ITS ripe
fruits for us as we approached, to be bar
rem suddenly F: Why, the well that was
always empty, the tree that never bore
~ all, are taken into favour in preference.
There H. forgiveness for the man who re-
fused AT first TO stir a foot IN our cause and
keep his word but there is none for him
who having walked thousand mites to
serve IA. now declines to move an inch
at the bidding of our caprice. Our self
love is wounded by the discovery that
we canno, dictate to him and with pride
hurt, we inconsistcnily humble ourselves
10 tho dust degraded by the disavowal
nf obligations we can no longer com
lnaBd.
Even when the spirit Of exncton de-
featcd after many victories, expresses It's
sense oi disappointment III mlldcr and
less revcngeGul iorm, it still fails not to
draw distinction between the one who
was never obliging, and the one who was
always obliging I'LL now. TO the prejudice
ofihe last. A favour is received from an
unexpected quarter: "This." we cry,
"is mos, kind, most generous, most noble !;
he nerer did ne good tmn Jejore." a
favor is withheld IN quarter where ii
was anticipated :-"ThIs," we cry, "is
unkind to the last degree, most unworthy,
most pi,iful he nerer hesiiaied 10 render
me kindness BEFORE" Non-desert in the
one case makes the single good deed lus-
trious desert in the other gives to the
solitary refusal the blackness Of an ire
parable injury.
No man can be perfectly sure that he
has noi within him the seeds Of ingrati-
ludc until he has been refused the hun
drrdth good turn. lftrue there, he is a
true man.
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