The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1843-12-08
THE Welded LIFE.


life IS generally the most unhappy, and the
most trying one she experiences. liowey.
or intensely We may have studied the char
ac,er Of our niliinced in all its narrow wind.
ngs, still shall We find, when We become
wives, that We have yet something to learD.
BY actions are the affections on either side
shown, and nl,ho' il is in the power aud the
nature OF vomau TO manifest her devoted.
ness by thousand little attentions, she
must not repine If she receives no, the ike.
I The feelings of the other sex are not SO
soft aud exquisite as those Of our own; il
4 thty were, we might possibly be happier,
and We may for moment wish they were
so but We shall restrain so selfish desire,
# we reflect how much more unii, lhey
would be by such constitution to bear the
crosses, aud the buGets Of the world.
Ii is said that lovers quatrcls are bu,
the renewal Of love, but II is 10, 50 40
truth. Con;nued differences and bickor.
ngs viii undermine the strongest affection,
and wife cannot be too careful 10 avoid
disputes upon the most trivial sui jet 10
deed it is the every day occurrences Which
Try the love aud temper Of the married
life great occasions for quafrels seldom
occur; every Wish, every prejudice must
meet with attention, and the FIRST thought o.
woman should be the pleasing and pro
yidins ior her husband. Il is Impossible 10
cnumerale all the lille incidents which
may annoy married men, or The lnIie Tn
obtruslye pleasures which Il IS IN the pow
or o. a wife to give; but throughout her
lie end employments, she must bear his
pleasures on her mind. She must act cor
hlm 10 preference 20 herself, and she val
DO amply rewarded by witnessing his de-
light 10 her aud his home. To woman
nho loves her husband siih oil The devoted
ness Of her nature, this viii be n pleasure.
no, task aud 10 make him happy she Sill
never .rudge ans sacrifice OF itself.
Tho greatest mIscry woman can cxpc
rcnco IS tito changed heart, aud the alien.
alcd affection Of her husband d; but even 10
,ha, painful case she must not upbtald. she
must bear will. patience and iori!tado her
erea; disappoin,menis sho must return
good for evil 10 the utmost, and her couso.
Iailon will he the consciousness that her
trials have not heir rise or continuance 10
any dcchae Of aiitclion OF duty on her part.
Some women, 10 order to win back their
husbands wandering love, have recourse 70
attempts to arouse his jealousy Jul they
arc nueh mistaken 10 pursuing SUCH a
course. 4 man, however dcbased hts con,
dGct, aever entirely forgols the oye hc
ouce uorc % Tho wife Of his youth, there
are moments when feelings OF tenderness
Tor her will return with force 10 his heart .
70 reap lie benefits Of such momenis, tho
INJURED, lotgiyng wife must stu. be cnshnn
ed IN tho purity d former tines.
A husband will excuse bis fault 10 him
self aud, 10 some measure, stand cxhoner
u,cd 10 tic world, Il the wife relax 10 the
proprety Of her conduct while, on Tie
{ contrary, The gentle iorbearauce, the On
complaining patience, and n6ob'rusIye
tccuiude Of the woman DO Injuries, w','
deeply strike to ms heart, aud DO much 70
win back to his former love, aud the obser.
vance Of the VOWS no Lreaihcd at the altar
whefc his heart was devoted to the beng
from whom il has wandered. A kind look,
an uilHNtlbHAec NApit5Sibu iatA N''~'NNi
must bring his wlio TO his SIDE; and she
must with smiles OF tenderness, encourage
tho returning affection, carefully avoidIng
al references u her sudeflngs or the cause
Of them.
This will not be difficult COR q good, sen
siblo woman 10 perform. Our love, which
before marriage is constrained by the mod.
esly and reserve natural 10 our sex, 10.
crease 10 iyryency and depth afterwards; il
enables US TO bear, uulelt, the worlds scorn
al ia swallowed up in It. An adectonate
wife clings 10 her husband through power.
IS and riches and the more the world re.
cedes from hm, the more firmly will she
stand by him; she will be his comforter
: when all earthly comforts have slid from
him. Her dcvo.cdnoss will be his rock
when he has no other support she will not
heed lis censlres; he is her all, and 10 love
arc all other feelings TO be forgotten or ab
sorbed, No sacrifice will DO too great
the fain,es, smile will not be regarded TOO
little, quick at feeling unkindness, we arc
also quick at feeling tenderness; and very
trllling circumstance is sufficient TO awaken
or still the pain Of our heart, and bring US
misery or happiness.