The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1843-01-30
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or, BsRy aarAMe;anAOthe Trials.
'TORY FOR TIE MARRIED, AND ALL
WHO EXPECT no BE.
RY LADY OF MARYLAND.

"Mary," said my cousin Ellen Layton, as she en-
tered my apartment morning, wrapped in coaks
and furs sufficient enable her to brave the rigors
Of Russian winter, 81 am going 10 pay short witt
to our grandma her. What say you to joining mel"
''lfmy mother can spare me, shall be delighted
to do so,' replied u and accordingly, l sought my
kind parent, and without difficulty, obtained her per-
mission to accompany my invoritc cousin
Our grandmother lived in small village, but
few miles from the city in which Ellen and resided
Consequently, few preparations were necessary for
our Wit, aud within an hour were on the road.
What nice fire the good old lady had to welcome
us, aud how comfortable she looked in her little back
par'or, with her plain cap and brown silk gown
seated in her large arm chair and busy occupied
with her knitting She received US with her usual
demonstrations Of affection, and in n little while we
were quietly established, each in her respective cor
ner by the ireside.
After dinner the old lady commenced a series of
questions, more than one of which had reference to
the approaching marriage of my cousin Ellen. Iiav-
ing at length obtained from the bushng girl II con-
s'ion that, in little more than nonth, she would
become wife, venerable relative volunteered in
return, several pieces Of sage advice respecting
her conduct in the position she was about to
occupy.
"Remember,'' said she, "my dear child, that yonr
duty and happiness are inseparuby connected, and
though it is possible that you may fail in securing the
latter even by the most conscientious discharge OF
the former, yet you will even in that case live the
apl roval of your conscience. But it more than
probable than by steadily pursuing the right path you
will render both your life, and that of your hus
band, as happy as, in this sub!unary state, are
permitted to be- Endcavour to make your husband's
home cheerful Remember il is his retreat from tie
and vexations which he is compelled to encoun
in his intercourse with the world, aud whatever Of
storm and tempest may assai him without, he has
right Ia expect perpetual sunshine in his domestic
haven But above all things, my dear Ellen, do not
expec, TOO much DO not look Cor the devotion orthe
lover to continue in the husband Such IN eApecta-
ton will most assuredly end in disappointment, and
will prevont your apprcrntins properly, that tranquil
and sincere affection which, after marriage, takes the
place OF the rapturous en- husia>m Of the lover.''
My grandmother here paused wiped her spectaces,
adjusted her knitting, and then resumed with some
thing like sigh.
"l'uch Of the unhappiness OF my life has arisen
from the eXtravagant eXpeciaii,n formed in eaiiy
youth, and which continued to cherish, until repeated
ds:ppontm. MS warned Of their Iallccy"
o.,ged To ask whit disappontn'cns she referred
to, and perhaps the good cd lady OWNED my wishes,
FOR after "a few moments silence, she ssid-
ssNly experience may perhaps be useful to you at
this period Ellen, and if you desire it, will relate
surh of the Incidents or my past life may have the
effect Of moderang expectations, which, though nat
uraI to your youth and neyperience, are doomed to
| certain disappointment''
| Ellen EXPIRE scd her willingness to profit 10y her
| grundmnhers experience, and who dearly low
ed Old sto les, told by old people, drew my chair
ucurer an prepared 10 listen with all due attention
| MY GRANDMOTHER TRI Ms.
81 need not tell you,'' she began, ''any pnr'icu
lars Of my fanny. You know that was one OF sew
cral children and that my parents, though not rich
were comfortable and independent in their circun-
stances. My father died when was a very small
child and my mother left sole guardian at hn'
children She busng, managing woman
with much activity Of mind and energy OF CHAR
actcr but much occupied by the arrangement
various affairs, which my fathers death devo'Ve'
upon her, to pay much attention to the formation
her chi'drens characters, evenhad she been f'ted nl
nature or education for the task we i've" ~
Aourishing country town, and received the nes
the place Afforded; but education was not $" well un
ders,ood then as it now is, and mine was oil III mos
superficial kind
During the ten years that passed at school,
learned little more than read and WRITE he mrs
accompl shment enablcd me TO devour every th'ns
romance whether of prose or poery''h came i" ~
,v,v The second to inde vouInlnous ep'sties 70
scbool felew whose character was somewhat sitn
, 90 rms. GUN and whose residence was IN the conn
a.. Soma miles distant from mine learned nothin
nj home. was not taught the necessary domest'
accom- plishmcnts, for my mother though notao'
housewife herself, could not bear The toll OF impair
ting instruction to her children; and so lar as wa
concerned. dare say the task would have been iri
some and laborious enough for as lived entirely
the clouds. it would have been very difficult FOR N
to descend from my airy castles to the h'mey reg''