Wheeling times and advertiser. [volume] (Wheeling, Va. [W. Va.]) 1839-1849, 1843-05-04


LADY'S DEFENCE OF CoQUETRY.-By
Mrs Tore Home. Iaa English Lriy l-Coquetry.
indeed. according 1, my accep,atnn. OF the tenn, Is
strung and universal desire 10 charm and capuvaie,
perfectly distinct from Eng lsh exclusive mode
1t Hurting Coquetry leads woman 60 be graceful
and amHbie with her female iucnds. mining IN
her manners To- all around her and 50 fond Of eC-
s"nce and refinement. that she Would be rs much
shocked Io appear IN the solitude of her chamber in
an nniidy psCHoir. or III shaped slippers, To be
l'l dressed IA The most brilliant hall ON. , CO.
quee never Giris she is too well bred To he exclu
sive, aud has too much tact To wound the feelings
81 many 10 CRAFTY the vanity of one. She has
de'ire To please that is uuive rsa; aud if To
thopso an emblem Ga cnqHeiry should lin contra
dIcion TO the remark above uolcd) select the lower
most lavish OF sweets and profuse of blOs,om-rhe
hiac for instance. that loads the air with perfume.
or a. g may, that deCOraies every hedSe.
IL Is the cOquetry ol the women that gives tn"
charm tn french society and IS The cause Of that
lude scri5ahe gaze and sweetness ofmanner which
accompanies them ia the most advanced age. and
even 10 the grave. So far from considering This
injurious 10 the morality Of women. cOnv inccd
hhh the manners AMI m irn, of England would be
improved If we N re- embed our fair nelghborS
IN their universal desire 10 please desire which
extends through all the relations 81 life, and Includes
IN the immensely Of its range husbands. children.
fienlS. acquaintance. and iuicriurs. The
margIng"s with actresses. dancers, nnI women of
had character, which are 81 frequent IN England,
are comparatively unknown in France, where The
woman Of society possesses oil the graces that can
capiylte and fix the Affections, and has, therefore.
nothing To fear from unworthy rivals. Nor does
she relax ia victory; sc wisely connnes TO cultivate
those powers which frat Commanded admiration -
She gains experiences from maurer years, and there.
fore them, FAR fram diminishing her aIITnc-
iions, Only confirming and increasing Them teaching
her To rivei the chains she wore in early youth nd
10 assert her graceful empire the last she has no
fear oi losing the captive she has once CENTRALIZED;
like lIoTare's Phyllis
"Gra'n ieRst conpede vinctum."
look upIn coqueiry very safe and excellent
Ingredient in wUmaa's character II is like the
flames OF |esuvus. which do hut little harm. and
save The beautiful campaign Of Naples from being
destroyed by earthquakes. coquelte has nu
knowledge of The mJnrmania of passion. the living
IN one thought, agreeable and self possessed, and il
her love of admiration sometimes exposes her TO
oensure. at least il calls for sacrifice in herself
and awakeus no remJrse in others. Can we say the
same of lnvel
The elect Of coqueiry ia women, where il is 81
general rs to give a tone to all social intercourse
- certainly beneficial 10 man. Ruusseau says " II
est ccnvenu en- France on IN homme ne refusera
rIen a aucune femme ful meme Ia sirnne." and
we ran well imagine how oil the bitternes and
oi "ll-n Is ucatn OF love- the
curse Of marriage, and the desruc nf friendship
must b. iessened in country where a constant de
sire TO please side is met o. The other b,
that poue and gentle gallantry which has becom,
| The universal language, ~ which woman. at every
age, is addressed Perhaps this csniesy moi real
ly valuable, certainly not 80 precious as true anc
uIdiyded af .ctiDn. but love is an ing1r Of the pu
rest metal, aud can he given bat To one, when ben
ten ont mo the golden leaf uf coqueiry il
larger space, ighIens and glIfrers thousand oh
iecis. and is of every day use.
The severity with which speak of coqueiry
appears To me unjust and ungraiefu. II woman
has beauty or merit, why should they be diminished
or perhaps entirely DESTROYED. in The eyes Of those
she most desires To please becaTse her desire is APP
parent IT, on the contrary, she is unhap lily with.
Oui any attractions, should she not rather be encou.
ragged ia The elf'rs she makes Ia supply, by every
art Oi manner, thse charms which nature has denied
herr She may moi, indeed. he qualified To Practice
the glance ef command. The lrown of pruhi biiior
10 receive The Tribute Of signs and praises. or h,
sopthed with the gentle murmnrs OF amorous iimidi
L.. but still she may be n coqueIIe, grace iul in he
manners, elegant in her dress. cheerful ia her tenn
per. and good humoredly anxious inat her SINAI
nluery Of char MS should make as imposing n dispa,
rs possible. The general enjoyment Of society mus
he increased by her innocent exertl1ns please
need we doubt they will obtain their reward
IL IS moi all men who arc won by
"MItrons Of CornelIa's men.
Or the light airs Of Egypis graceful Queen"
and many iInid spirit which would quail uEde
The lowering glance OF The Mother of The Gracchi,
aud shun the CIrcean enchlnlmani Of aClerpllra
may find amusement a1l pleasure in the humble az
fractions Of lively and amable cOqueile.