The Hillsborough recorder. [volume] (Hillsborough, N.C.) 1820-1879, 1843-09-21

- n"ss cnphg, gFaun 0pi0 No.
mah's ss'aie: and ysu are rot q rsm.ia
siways single. losr mother and / would
have you happy. bssanse our haptins.s
depends On yauts. The hsrpiness &C
siiiaons ouRg a0msn. Is 10 make a. ho
ntsi man harps: ne must. ihrrslors, think
81 marrying you. We musI lslnk ef his
beiimes, Tor your fsle lhr0ugh lie 3. pends
on yonr marriage; and ne cannos think
loa much upon u.
Nslh'ng. perhaps. is mnrs dlIlirulllhsn
The ehuice % gaad husband. except per
hars Tie choosing q good vile. You.
Suphy. siil be ,hIs rare aoman; snp will
be The pride q our lives. and our happi-
ness IN old age. Bot. however great msri,
you may have. here sEs men who have
still more. There is no man who oashl
not 10 think Il an honor 10 have yun; there
are many whom il would do You honor
70 obtain. Among This numb,r The busl-
nsss j. 20 find oEe suitable % ynu. 10 eel
acquainted Nth LIm. aud 10 make him
acquainted with sou.
Tm gTeaiesi Happiness OF marriage, de-
ponds an so many points ol pgrsemsni,
that il would be q Fully 10 tank 10 Cad
ihem all; ihe most important must be
made sure Of. preferably 10 The resi-; il
The Others can be procured too, SO much
The better; Il they cannot. they must be
overlooked. perIee, happiness i moi 90
be found IN this sorld; bni the greatest of
mIsiorIunes. and Ina, which may always
De avoided. Is to be unhappy b. ones own
fauh. ~
There is suilabieness which may be
called natural; there 10 slso sult.blents s.
arising from the institutions Of men, and
. sullsblencss that depends wholly on
opinion; Of lhe two last. parents are the
proper judges Of The fret. The children
slime can Judge. Ia marriages made by
The an horny Of parents, those suii.ble
Desses that arise from civil institutions
aud opinions ave alone minded; The ma,ch
IS are not between the persons. but be.
tween their rank and fortune but both
these are subject to change: the persons
alone remain The same. 10 al places, and
aiall times; The happiness or unhappinrss
Of the marriage ,iate depends. in spi,e Of
fortune, On personal suilsbl, ness.
Your mother Vas woman OF famil, /;
| had large fortune; these were the soe
considerations that inaut need our parents
tn jnin us together. haze lost ms Tor
tune, she has lost her rank; forgot By her
family: shsi doth is signify to her that
she was barn lady! In the mrds, Of
"ur distress. the union Of our hearts made
up Tor every thing; the conformity Of our
taste made us choose this retirement. We
live happy IN our poverty; each lie 10 the
uther friend and companion. Sophv
is our common treasure; we thank the
Almighty ir giving her, aud 'ak,ug
away every thing else.
You see. my dear child. wlither Pro.
violence bath broughlns. Those consider
atoms which occasmned cur marriage arc
vanished, and that whlch was accounted
a. nothing makes Ill our happiness.
It's for man and vile 10 suit them
selves. Mutual inclination ought TO be
their first,ie; their eyes. their hearts ough,
tn be their FIRST guides; Iur as their PHI
mary duty, alter they are joined .oge,h-
er, is TO love one another. so to love, or
not To love does no. always depend upon
us; this duty necessarily implies another,
namely, 10 bsgm with lo'ing one snolh-
er before marriage. This rs law OF na.
nre which COMMIT be abrogsted; those
WHO have restricted It. by many civil laws,
have more regard TO The appearance al or-
der than 10 the happiness or the morals Of
the Pea ,,ie. You see. my dear, that The
morality We preach To you, is not difficult:
1t tends only 10 make you your own mis-
hcss, end To make us refer ourselves en-
s'rely To YOU Iur the choice Of your bus
band.
Alter giving you our reasons for l'ar-
ing you al full hber'y to make your own
choice, j, is proper TO mention those
which ought 10 induc" you TO use il with
prudence. Snphy, you have got good ma
turr, aud good sense, much integrity aud
pie,v, aud lk"se qualifications which a
woman ought 10 have: and YOU are nst
d,sagyeeable, hu, YOU have no for,une;
YOU have the best rirhes indeed, but yuu
ant lhuse which are most valued by the
werld. Do not aspire, therefore. TO what
YOU cannot attaln 10; aud regulate your
ambition no. by your own judgment, or
Your mothers and mine, bul by sbe uplI,.
ion uf mankind.
IL Noting were to be considered but
merit equal TO your own, | know not
" here | should Sc, limits To Your hopes;
but never raise them above your 10 tune,
whirh, you are 10 rsmember, Is very
small. You never saw our prosperity;
YOU were born alter We failed in the world.
You have made our pnver,y pleasing 10
Us, aud We have shared m II without pam.
Never, child, SEEK Tor that wealth which
We thank Heaven, fnr taking from US; we
never tasted happiness until We lost our /
riches. ,--~~
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