The daily Madisonian. [volume] (Washington City [i.e. Washington, D.C.]) 1841-1845, 1843-10-03
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PARENTAL COUNSELS TO A YOUNG MAX
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PARENTAL CoUNsELs TO A YOUNG MAR
RlED COUPLE.
.Mess,s. Ediiors--The following is extracted from
letter written by the Hou. C. A Wiekliie, fosimas-
ter General 10 his son Robert aud his wife sooo al.
ter their marriage, when the, were on The eve OF
leaving his paemal roof for Kentucky, where the
son contemplated establish himself 10 the practice
of the law. Having derived much satisfaction as a
parent in its perusal, aud not doubling IL viii be
highly esteemed by those who about 10 settle IN
The AMI interesting relation Of husband and VIE,
send il to you for publication. All ages and condr
tons may be benefited by practising the pure prln'
cipes of morality and religion II lnculcaes ana the
earnest and siieetonate advice Il gives.
! MIR. Wcklfe, in the circle Of his family, adorns
! his precepts by his examples
| Very respectfully, yours
WAsulsGron, March oath, l6%3.
Nh beloped Chidren--You have united your desti-
nv and pledged yourselves in the presence OF an all
seeing and merciiuI God 10 love and cherish each
other. la order that you may be aile 10 keep your
mutual vows, conjure YOU 10 look and pray TO your
Heavenly Father to give you strength and suTport =
constant reliance upon Divine Providence, In all
that we do in this life rs duty enjonei upon US by
| his commands and the man or woman who iorgets
has her dependence upon his Almighty power may
flourish for season, but or later their deeds
| viii be frowned upon.
! Much, very much, depends upon your personal de-
| portment towards each other; mutual confidence
! and habtual kindness re all important 10 domestic
happiness. respect for others opinions should
| ever be cherished. The husband who does not
| suit his wife in all Of his important concerns, no
matter TO what relations of life they pertain acts
| foolishly Her opinion should be respected and de-
ferred TO in all matters and particularly those which
connect themselves with household affairs
| If the wife differs in judgment with her husband
and maintains her opinion ~ reference TO any matter
in which her happiness is equally concerned with his
no matter how confident he may be, he should not
| act contrary To her wishes
II he Is about to engage in any enterprise, pecun-
AIRY political, she should be consulted and in nine
cases out of ten, the best he can give TO an
application 10 become surety is that he will consult
his wife, and il she has objections, then he will
consent 10 be bound. If had adopted this COURSE il
would have saved me thousands In the course Of
time, incidents will occur in your family about which
! you will very naturally entertain difference of OBI
Mon That difference should at all times be express.
ed With Kindness of inner, and feeling and marked
respect for each others judgment.
| Never buy what you do not need, and avoid in
! dehtedness much possible.
! You will think II strange for me to tell YOU that
you should cultivate fondness for the society of
each and never under any circumstances give or
seem TO give, preference for the company Of an
other
Regular hours are all-mportant to domestis com
FORT TO health and happiness. Early rising " hen 10
health, contributes 10 continue and confirm that
health, and is important to those who depenI upon
their exertions for living. The constitution OF man
Is best satisfied with eight hours repose; and the
mander of the day should be devoted to useful en-
ploymen and the service of our Maker.
" Remember the Sabbath day and keep il holy -
Is divine commandment pray YOU my children,
learn early its importance. 1t was q remark of my
venerable mother, often made to me, that " no good
ever came OF Sunday work, aad have usually found
1t to be So Even II persons do not belong TO any
church, regular attendance upon divine service
chastens the feel ngs and better fits and prepares
them for companions.
/
Avoid, my sou, dissipation of all kinds and eschew
/ the company of the Wild and evil disposed as you
would the pestience. You have no londness
for drink, and it would be great point gained if YOU
were at this early period of life never TO taste ardent
! spirits or Intoxicating drinks.
/ In your department towards your fellow men, be
frank, candid, open hearted, honest and Just IN all
your dealings; and never permit yourself to DO an
act which your conscience condemns or which YOU
would not feel willing should be expos 10 the pub
lie view, in all your dealings, whether private public
! or ofhcal Take no advantage of your fellow men
IN any contract, and never be tempted by the hone of
gam To withhold from your neIgbbor that which of
right and justice belongs TO him. Never insult a man
Intentionally and II you inlure him by word or deed
IN due season and apt manner make to him the
oende homo abh. IL you respect the rights Of Others
you VIII soon learn how 10 respect and maintain our
own. Never permit yourself to get out OF temper ;
but learn 10 command that and 10 regulate it, Pc
tulant man Is neither agreeable nor useful BE pa
tent M difficulties and submissive under the chastise-
menus OF an oNefrulng Providence. The profession
you have selected, is one OF great responsibility, and
of high honor and distinction In lis pursuits fame
may be obtained, IL honor he consulted cannot in
this letter venture upon all the advice and rules ne
cessary to insure respect for The lawyer honesty in
dusiry, punctuaty, and fidelity should always be
conspicuous traits Of his character
prompt attention to business, kindness and dign
ty OF manner, are not incompatible with free and
frank intercourse with the world.
IL you meet with your fellow man in poverty, aud
unable TO pay you for YOUR professional labor do
refuse on that account TO engage for him The re-
Election Is ennobing that one has aided professionally
an Honest poor man. Never neglect the cause Of
the widow and the lltheress
have (without meaning TO bossi) done much for
those thus bereaved in my prof, ssion, without fee or
pecuniary reward, and am the poorer for IT,
One other admonition give, and enoin lis strict
observance never use your clients money, but nay
it, you collect u, TO the uttermos farthng
hat the God OF all grace may smile upon you both,
and crown YOU his, in this aud the next world, the
prayer Of your fond father
c. a. WICkLIFFE
ROBERT and ANNA WIcELurE
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