Rutland herald. [volume] (Rutland, Vt.) 1823-1847, 1843-04-11
THE EDDIE WIFE.


The first year OF young womsns welded life
is generally the most unhappy, and the mos, try.
ing one she experiences. However n,ently we
may have studied the character OF our sfisnsod
in all its narrow winding., still shall We find when
we become wives, that we have something yet to
learn. BY actions are the affections on either side
shown, end although II IS in the power and the
nature Of woman TO rnanif,s, her devotedness BY
thousand little attentions she must not repine il
she receives not the like
The feelings Of the other sex are no, so sofl and
exquisite as those of our own if they we're we
might possibly be happier; and we may for mo
ment wish we were so, bu, we shall not retain 50
selfish II desire if we reflect how much more unG,
they would be by such constitution 10 bear thc
crosses and buticts ofthe world
1t is said tha, lovers quarres are bu, the renew.
al OF love, but II is not so in truth. Continued dif
ferences and chickering's will undermine the .,ron-
ges affection, and wife cannot be too careful to
avoid dispute upon the most trivial subject indeed
II is in the every day occurrences whic tries tho
love and temper of the married life; great occa.
sons for qua rrels seldom occur very wish must meet
with attention, and the first thought Of a woman
should be the pleasing and providing for her has
band. 1t is impossible to cnumerne all the little
incidents which may annoy married men, or the
little unobtrusive pleasure which it is in the pow
employmonts, she must bear his pleasures on her
mind She must act for him in preference to her.
sell, and she will be amply rewarded by witness
| ing his delight in her and his home To wo.
man who loves her husband with all the devoted.
ness Of hor nature, this will be a pleasure, not a
task and to make him happy, she will never
grudgs any sacrifice of self
The greatest misery woman can experience
is the changed heart, and the alena,ed affections
Of her husband but even in that painful case she
must not upbrad she mus, bear with patience and
fortude her great disappointmenls she must re-
turn good Tor evil to the utmost and her consola-
ton will be the consciousness that her trials have
not their rise or continuance in any decline Of az
fiction or duty on her part.
| Some women, in order to win back their hus-
bands wandering love, have resources to attempts
to arouse his jealousy, but they are much mista.
ken in pursuing such a course. A man however
debased his conduct entirely forgets the love
he once bore TO the wife of his youth there are
moments when feelings Of tenderness for her will
return with force to his heart to reap the benefits
OF such moments, the injured, Grgiving wife mus.
still be inshrined IN the purity of their former
tunes
husband will excuse his fault to himself, and
in some measures, stand exonerated in the world
if the wife relax in the propriety Of her conduct.
while on the contrary, the gentle forbcaraDce, the
accompanying patience, and the unobs.ructive
rccti,nde Of the woman he INJURIES will deeply
strike to his heart and do much to win him back
10 his former love, and the observance oil the vows
he brealhed at the altar where his hear, was devo-
ted TO the being from whom has wandered A
Kind look, an atleconate expression half uttered,
must bling his wife 10 his side and she mus, with
smiles Of tenderness, encourage the returning sf
fiction carefully avoiding all reference to her suf
ierings or the cause oftbem
This will not be difficult for good, sensible
woman TO perform Our love, which before mar.
rii ge is constrained by the modesty and reserve
natural to our sex, increases in isTvency and depth
afterwards II enables 10 bear uniel the orld's
scorn all is swallowed up ia H. An aft ctionss
wife clings 10 her husband thTo' poverty ond rich.
IS; and the more the world reccdes from hun, the
more firmly will she stand ty him she will bo
his comforter when all earthly comforts have slid
from him Her devoedncss will he bis rock when
be has no other support she will smile at tho
frowns Of he world she will not heed It's censurcs
he IS her all and 10 love are all other feelings 10
be forgotten or absorbed No sacrifice will be
too great-lhe fainiest smile will no, be regarded
too little quick at feeling unkndnoss. we are AFRO
at feeling tendenrss end very lrfing creum.
stance is sufficient to awaken or sill the pain II
our heart, and bring us misery orhappinsss La.
dies Garland