Staunton spectator, and general advertiser. [volume] (Staunton, Va.) 183?-1849, 1843-10-05
From the Philadelphia Inquirer.
DIVORCES, C0URTSHIP, MARRIAGE.
ILL-AssoRTED MATCHES.

Liberation, and the knot once tied, and sanct
fed as well by the laws of God as of man, th
husband should not be permitted to put ava
his wife, or the wife her husband, for any bu
the most important considerations. Nothing
as 1t seems to us, is more calculated to un
!, hinge society, to corrupt the heart. and tc
weaken the obligations between parent and
child, than discomfort and discord in welded
. liie, as consequence, efforts at disunion and
divorce. Perhaps great error may be attri-
bnted in the first place to hasty marriages, and
III the second, to an indisposition after mar
rage IN the parties to amend their faults Of
temper, and TO overlook imperfections of
character in each other. How many ill-as-
sorted matches arc there in the worldi How
many couples enter into contract for life,
VINO know little or nothing of each others
character, mind or mfirm,ics. How many,
moreover, are there, who, imperfect them
selves, cannot overlook or forgive the inn
projections of others What rashncss, what
improperly, what wrong, characterize the
system OF courtship, too generally car
RED on IN this country How frequently do
we discover that matches made i'm a moment
oi,haste, and influenced altogether by mercen-
airy motives, terminate in the most frightfhl
family chaos. Young people are too apt to
look at the world through false medium.
Young females especially are taught in many
cases to believe that an carly marriage is the
great aim of woman's ambition. lover is n
darling object of their dreams, long before
they have passed their teens. Mere lads arc
! sometimes permitted TO address them for
years, without the ability i'm the first place TO
decide as to the nature of their own feelings.
as TO the trials and vicissitudes Of the world,
or as to their prospect for discharging the tlu-
TIES which devolve or the head of family.
pn n,,tc Nts< l.
They permit their daughters to associate with
those whom they would not choose as hus-
bands for their children, and yet are surprised
when, under such circumstances, attachments
are formed, and runaway matches take place.
1 hey SUBJECT the young and inexperienced to
influences, which are calculated 10 touch the
hearts and bewilder the minds of such, and
yetare Mortified when the result is love-scrapc
and an iladvised marriage.
But Older heads are frequently involved in
marimony, without due considerations Too
lew seek Tor reciprocity of taste, DISPOSE
ilon, morals and manners in the partners of
their matrimonial gagcments-Impulse, mo-
meniary feeling, hasly fancy, or mercenary
motives govern and control too many court
ships in this country. Some one has said
mat "Ill-assorted matches are generally early
ones, aud that courtships carried on under the
sanction OF friends, are seldom broken of. exc
cept IT be wise they should.'' There is TRUTH
and force in this. We see it realized almost
every day. Sometimes, we admit, parents arc
too obstinate, and consult ambition, rank in
lille, and pecuniary considerations, rather than
Tie real welfare and true happiness of their
children. But these instances are rare, verv
rare The happiest marriages in the vast ma.
IJority oil cases, are those which secure tho
brightness of parents approving smile:
! lOnpPr IF a.,
world than their children, and feeling too, that
IN the Joys and sorrows of those children they
VIII deeply participate, and live over, as it
were a second life, the father and mother are
seldom apt to form an erroneous Judgment
we would not have mammon TO enter too
largely into considerations connected with
mairlmony. Far better for female to be
Dressed with husband, who, kind and untir-
ing III his attentions TO her. is also temperate,
intelligent, prudent and active-who never
feels happier than when at home, or in the
pursuit OF his proper avocation,-Car better.
we say, for woman TO choose such COM
panlon, than one more affluent, but less devo.
TED, upright and industrious. In the one case
she Will possess sources of constant depend-
ence, while in the other, the first cold storm
| OF misfortune may reduce the pecuniary means,
and at the same time dissipate the dream of
affection. Fredcrika Bremen draws an admit
rable portrait of husband in her story the
Neighbors ''Thank Godr' SAYS her heroine,
when abiding TO her husband, who with
rough exterior, is described as possessing
superior intellect and noble naturc-"Thank
God that Lars Anders is no gloomy secret:
Ills soul is clear and undisguised as Gods
daylight, and this constitutes the blessedness
oi united life and the peace of home'' Again,
on the other hand, contrasting lawful and
unlawful object of affection, she says
Gle reats her harshly, but she bears all in
| savlsh servility. How deep must a woman
have sunk before she can suffer herself to be
so treated, and, like hound, creep fawnne To
the foot which kicks it away! How unlike
TO this spirit of a slave is the free, bat iinasz
Stunning mind, with which an honoured and
beloved wife devoes herself TO the object of
her pure devoton!''
! We will only add, IN the language of true
philosopher, that "a lovers quarrc! has often
times spared many a matrimonial squabble.
and were both parties to weigh duly their mu-
( tnal un6ness before uniting themselves, what
loads Of misery might be a9erled.'
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! WORD TO YOUNG MEN.-Every yotIne
man should remember that the world has
! honored industry. and always will The vul-
gar and useless iGler. whose eneroies of mind