The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1843-05-04

From the Mothers Monthly Journal.
TEACHCHILDREN TO BECouRTEoUS
Aunt, can have my tent put Up 10.
day and may stay and play 10 it n said
lule boy four years old.
Yes, Jares, have no objection, il
Mary IS no, engaged. You may 20 and
tell her that your aunt would like to have
Ter put up YOUR ;eHi, as soon Us It is con
venieD,. Speak very kindly and politely
20 her, and don't be impatient # she is busy
YOU can welt little"
James, by the decesse Of his mother,
had been blt a short lime previous to the
period Of which ! speak, placed 10 the care
OF hrs aunt, cultivated. accomplished, re
fined ads, OF lovely department, and EN-.
nsn,iy christian spirit She received the
htIle boy INTO her heari, and earnestly de-.
voted herself 10 promote Il. best welfare.
young woman who had the charge Of
him IN his fathers house, WIS s'ill With
him, and WAS expected 10 render him all
neediul attention. But noticed during
several DAYS observation, that whepey.r
james bad permission to 90 to Mary for
any service, or was sent with q message
from hts aunt, hc aus carefully reminded
10 speak couuecusly. Tue tone ia which
the errand was gwen him, was always sqch
rs was Likely 70 insure his using the man
Ter enI1ined. It was moi, l. 20 and tell
Mary to gtYo you drink but "you NAV
ask Mary to give YOU glass OF water
Rseolleei 10 speak very properly. Say,
" MARY, III thank you for some water -
or some other sn,table phrase was gwen 10
a mid tore aud maDurr, the lalileuce o.
which he was likely to f.el Hhca he reach.
cd The kitchen Or lhr nursery.
| have sai1 Janes a1n; was refined and
she was emucrly so and she
and her friends moved 10 high circles, and
we're familiar With polished society. Her
true r. hnement sod he marks OF a veil bred
lazy were exhibited in the manners which
she cultivated in the chld-manners Which
he saw uniformly and uuafec,e ly worn by
has aunt and other friends for ia that en-.
lire family circle the utmost courtesy and
benevolent consideration prevailed.
Those who allow their children TO irca,
fomes!ics, or such as ,hoy would term N T
erofs, sJperclious!y, or to speak 10 Thea, ,
II tone Of command, establish, by tbs .
means certainly, q very sigh, Claim 10 the .
they assume. Ony persons
j second rate professions OF best, will be
uuod guilty Of such rudoncss. Ether their
Importance - newly acqutcd. end they
ave mistaken notions as 10 the suitable
nodes Of establishing and exercising il, or
heir iancled consequence s only TIN, wh.ch
ta'ion cfea:es, While they have rue dGg
ny Of character or msgnanimity Of spirit.
A regard TO their own credit fJr genuine
God breeding. where no higher motive ex
SIS, would be expected TO prCdI,p IN par
cts courteous demeanpf, and secure the
Of II IN their chtldiel. Add 10
bis, the atfectIonate interest with which
u persons regard an amIable, unlssupina .
hid, While the lt;Ic tyrant or arlsiocrat - s
u object Of universe! dislike, and the mo
re IS still stronger. And stronger yet =
Ill II be, when the formation or he chi1's .
IsPoslIion and habits for lie ar, taken 10
the account.
Tue llt'le boy who is permitted to rul
rough the house calling Mary, MARY.
I'VE me some water this minute" viii, ma
'ubi, 6oninecr over all whom hc dares
ias 10 treat, as long as he lives. The III
G girl, Who at The table is allowed 10 make
lown her wants in such terms az "bYead
inc, " water, David" issued in tone al
will almost inevi ably be an ~,
'r'ons woman. VIVA, parent wishes 10
ain up children to be such men and wa. a.
eni 40
h IS impossible TO conte upIarc sippre 10
rong habit IN children, wlthou, seci,o ri
at many evils flow from it. In the ore, C sI
/, instance ! have named scyeraI-d,s Ia
edit 10 the parents, ceulply that the 81
tdron will be dIsagreeable, and the forma nh
IN "a them of permanent unI ,yoly chnrac =,
's' ihe'r own unhaPpiness growing ou, -