Liberty advocate. [volume] (Liberty, Miss.) 1835-1866, 1843-07-29
NILS CELLAN ROUS.
CANDoR OF HUSBAND AND WIFE
A WHISPER TO THE HUSBAND.

The happiness Of the wife is committed
10 the keeping of the husband. Prize
the sacred trust, and never give her
cause TO repent the confidence she has
n reposed in you. In contemplating her
character, recolect the materials human
nature is composed Of, and do not ex'
pect perfection.
Do Justice to her merits and pointSout
her faults; for | do not ask you to treat
n her errors with Indulgence, but then en-.
deavor to amend them with wisdom, gen.
tleness and love.
Do not Jest abou! the bonds Of mar
ried state, Make il an established rule
10 consult your wife on all occasions
Your interest is hers; and undertake no
plan contrary TO her advice and approba.
lion; then lif the affair turns out i'll, you
are spared reproaches both from her and
your own feelings. There is in woman
an intuitive quickness, sagacty, a
penetration and foresight into the proba-
bic consequences of an event, that make
her peculiarly calculated to give her O..
pinion and advice.
n If you have any male acquaintance,
whom, on reasonable grounds, your wife
wishes you to resign, do so. Never wit
ness tear from your wife with apathy
or Indifference. Words, looks, actions
\ all may be artificial; but tear is une-
4 quivocal fit comes direct from the heart,
\ and speaks at once the language of truth,
nature and sincerity! Be assured, when
you see tear on her cheek, her heart is
touched and do not, Iagain repeat it, do
not behold it with GOODNESS of insensibili-
4 ty.
Let contradiction be avoided at all times.
Never upbraid your wife with the
meanness Of her relation: invectives a.
gainst herself are not half so woundng.
Should suffering Of any kind assoil your
wife, your tenderness and attention are
particularly called FOR. A look oflove, a
word Of pity or sympathy, is sometimes
better than medicine.
Never reproach your wife with any
personal or mental defect: for plain
face sometimes conceals heart Of ex
quisite sensibility and merit, and her
con seriousness Of the defect makes her
awake TO tho slightest attention or mat
tention. When in the presence of OH
ers, let your wife's laudable pride be in
dulged by your showing you think her an
object OF Importance and preference -
The most trivial word or act of attention
and love from you gratifes her feelings;
and man never appears to more ad-
vantage than by proving to the world his
affection and preference for his wife.
Never run on IN enthusiastic encom-I
4ums on other women in presence oil your
wife; she does not love you better for It,
Much 10 be condemned, is a married man
constantly rambling from home for the
purpose of passing away time. Surely u
he wants employment, his house and
grounds will furnishshm with il, and It
he wishes for society he will find in his
y wife, children and books the best society
in the world.
There are some men who will sit an
entire day with their wives and scarce
ly word escape their lips. This IS
wrong; you should converse freely on all
such occasions. Be always cheerful, gay
and good humored. When abroad DO
not avoid speaking to your WIFE Few
women are insensible Of tender treat,
ment. They are naturally frank and al
feclionate, and in general, there is moth,
ing but austerity OF look, or distance Of
behavior, that can prevent those amIable
qualities from being evinced on all occa.
slons.
When absent, let your letters 10 your
wife be warm and affectonate. A wo-
mans heart is peculiarly formed for ten
derness; and every expression and en-
dearment from the man she loves IS nat
lering and pleasing TO her
A husband whenever ne goes from
home, should always endeavor to bring
some little present to his wlie,e4
In pecuniary matters do not be penurl-
Ous,or too particular. Your wife has an
equal right with yourself to all your
worldly possession. Besides, really a
woman has innumerable triilng demands
on her purse, many little wants which
it isnot necessary for a man tobe INFORM
ed OF, and which even if he went 10 the
trouble Of investigating he would not un-
\ derstand.
A WHISPER TO THE WIFE.
Study you husbands temper and char
acter; and be it your pride and pleasure
| 10 conform 10 his wishes. Check al once
I the first advances to contradiction even
\ Of the trivial nature Beware Of Inc
''ylRST dispute. ,oa
~ Whatever would have been concealed
Us defect from the lover, must win
greater diligence, be concealed from inc
husband. The most intimate aud lender