Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1843-08-10

Blessed are they who have favors
to bestow for they shall be Stunned Of
no man -
Thus spoke my cynical friend the
other day, when he had just yainly
sought an audience of some great per-
sonage, who, besieged with suppliants
was unappronchable accordingly.
My cynical friend knew little of man
kind People who have iavorsto bestow
will always be Stunned by two classes.
BY those, frst-who, out Oft false pride
aud all enormous seli.conceit, regard
every acceptance of a favor as COIN
promise of indie ependence I; and who as
sociac the instinct Of gratitude for kind
ness rendered, with degrading adms-
sion Of ineriority. Next by those who
having been laden with bounties and SER
vices, freely bestowed, on ninety-nine
occasions, are refused the expected and
customary boon upon the hundredlh.
As the malignant nature can never
forgive the Innocent being it has injured,
so the unerateful nature cannot forgive
the generous nan who mas served it
Strange, that among the inconsistenclo
of which we are made up, one SO gross
as ingraiitude should be found, seeing
that the grateful feeling implies, not a
sense Of inieriority, but the conviction
that somebody has thought us worthy Of
sympathy, and entitled by desert to kind
ness.
Not less strangely Inconsistent is it,
that one who is thankful in his heart for
a single service, should be ungrateinl
for ong-cont.nued series. Such, too
frequently, is he who fails to obtain tho
hundredth favor.
Show him, at the outset Of your ac-
quaintance, a little courtesy-ofler him
your opera glass or your snuf-box---
write him what is called a civil note
when there is no absolute necessity for
doing so, and he will trumpet your
praises as one.of the most gracious OF
mankind. Proceed from smal! civiliiips
to essential benefits Heap favor upon
favor on him f; 90 ont of your way 81
evince an anxiety for the promotion of
his interests, the qualification of his de-
sires extend your disinterested kind
ness from himself to his family F; get an
appointment for his eldest boy, and re-
concle a high family to match with
his daughter invent nev hair dye cx-
pressly to accommodate his wife, and
lose d guinea night with him at whist,
the whole season round bind him more
tightly in obligations to you, and hear
him proclaim you, nine times day for
nine years, the best friend he eyer had
in the world-.hc most generous ofmor-
tails, the n0blest Of beneiactors and
then, at the very moment he is your own
for ever, only just refuse To lend him
your gun, or your horse-or tell hnn
that you could not think Of writing To
the Review To solicit a puff of his new
pamphlet-tha!s all
How, in such case, will tue graie-
tul fellow, to whom you have rendered
the nincty-nine good turns, turn round
upon you He will teach you, IN n"
time, curious lcsson---that IT takes
years to confer obligations, but on Y mo-
ments TO forget them. Why, he will
undertake TO forget, on the very spot.
all that you have done lor him--al that
he has said OF you He will, ut the
shortest notice, rccollect nothing con
cerning you but your refusal to 'obligo
him in the very trlling matter wherein
he had calculated upon your assistance
You dragged him on, of the river
once, saving his life at the risk of your
own you Zen, him a thousand pounds
YOU introduced him 10 all the connexions
IN which he finds The best charms OF so
cicty. Does he remember one oI these
little incidents No he only rccollrcls
that you yesterday refused to buy a
share or two in the crazy speculation no
was so rashly concerned IN.
lou snatcled him out of n gamblers
net, Just in time 10 save him from ruin ;
you chwaIrousIy upheld him when ho
was lraduccd, and effected his admission
into the club, when an extra blnckball
would have had danning effect upon
hls reputation. Doeshe now bearihcse
little services vividly ~ his mind : No
lac only bears ia uiind that you positive
ly decline 10 take his three gauky niece,
In the oppra and distinctly relussd To-