The Arkansas banner., 1843-09-23
MISC ELAN EOU s.

A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS.
 Walking the other day with valued friend who had been confined week or two by sickness to his room, he remarked that a husband might learn good lesson by being confined occasionally to his house, by having i'll this way an opportunity of witnessing the cares and never-ending tolls of the wife, whose burdens, aud duties, and patient en- durancc, he might never have otherwise un- dcrstood. There IS a great deal in this thought, perhaps enough for an editorial , Men, especially young men, are called by their business, during the day, mostly away from home, returning only at the hours for meals, and as they then see nearly the same routine of duty, they begin To think that il Is their own lot to perform all the drudgerv, and to be exercised with all the weight of calc and responsibility. But such d man has got very wrong view of the case; he needs an opportunity for more extended observa- tion. and it is perhaps for this very reason that kind Providence arrests him by sick ness, that he may learn in pain what he would fail to observe i'll health. We have seen recently good many things said in the papers to wives, especially to young wives, exposing their faults, perhaps mag nliying them, and cXpoundin. 10 them, in none of the kindest terms, their duty and the offices pertaining to .woman's sphere. , Now, we believe that wives, as whole, are really better than they are generally admitted to be. We doubt if there can be found a large number of wives who are disagreeable and negligent, without some palpable cold ness or short-commg on the part of their husbands. So far as VIC have had an oppor- tunity for observation, they are far more de- voted and faithful than those who style thcm- selves their lords, and who, by the customs of society, have other and generally more pleasant and varied duties to perform. We protest. then, against these lectures so often and SO obtrusively addressed to the ladies. and insist upon it that they must-most of them-havc been written by some fustv bachelors who knew no better. or by some inconsdcrate husbands who deserve to have been old bachelors to the end of their lives. But IS there nothing to be said on the other side: Are husbands so generally the perfect, amlable, injured beings they are so often represented? Men sometimes declare that their wives eXtravagances have picked their pockets, that their never-ceasing tongues have robbed them of their peace, and their general ,lisagreeableness has driven them to the tavern and the gaming tab }; but this is generally the wicked excuse for most wick cd life on their own part. The fact Is. men often lose their interest in their homes. hy their own neglect to make their homes inter- estlng and pleasant. It should never be for gotten that the wife has her rights-as sacred after marriage as beiore-and good hus- bands devotion to the wife after marriage will concede to her quite as much attention as his gallantry did while lover. If t is otherwise, he most generally Is at fault.
 Take few examples. Before marriage, d young man would feel some delicacv about accepting an invitation to spend an evening i'll company where his s.ladye-loven had not been invited. After marriage, Is he always as particular; During the days of courtship, his gallantry would demand that he would