The New York herald. [volume] (New York [N.Y.]) 1840-1920, 1842-08-28

| her father wanted TO know If had taken the medi-
cine for If had not, he was not coming up stairs.
Hurt at his speaking OF me TO our child, simply
| answered. Tell your pa you told me- and she went
TO bed / said till about o'clock, when fearing
| he would get cold living on the sofa, Qor il was Bit
ter weather,) went down stairs, after making Sc
veral Intellectual attempts 10 take 1t; Tor had be-
come, the phrase is, set against II. In vain en-
treated and explained, and at last asked him If he
would be satisfied If / took IT, and he saw thar
could not retain it; to which ne said, NO, should
s,caLow 1t and keep ii there" lie returned with
| scom my fears that he would take cold, as my OBJ
stlnacy alone he said, prevented him from being IN
| his own comfortable room; SO ! left HIM, telling
him would go In spare room, which / did, and
begging hun 70 SO up stairs. / passed two bi'ter
idol OF him and though day by day saw him rob-
bed OF some charm with which my fancy had IN
vested hun, twould have been my happiness
still to have closed my, eyes and continued
to dream on The awakening was too bit
ter. at last, resoute in despair, and urging to
myself that he could not well reract as he
the head and master, again went to him, silently
and re-swallowed it, till the determined retention
OF II succeeded, and sunk faint on the sofa. |
had been for some weeks considered by an able ply
slclan and Mr. Barry In great danger of losing my
iife had swallowed a large peach stone, which
caused internal obstruction and unless nature aided
me, human aid was unavailng. Some days could
be up, and again was in dreadful anguish and con-
fned to my bed: this was the reason OF the physi-
scribed."
AT bed time he brought her more sulphur, and told
her she should take i TWICE a day as long as he
thought necessary. 81 told him ] should take no
more, and turned over on my pillow: He left the
room. | thought about il, concluded was right,
and remained alone'
When she went down to breakfast next morning,
she found that Mr. Barry had already taken HIS and
gone to the woods to cut firing He returned with
aload, but did not come in TO see her; his dinner
was kept warm against his return second time.
He refused to go where his wife was but eat it in
to say something about his days work, &c. he re-
pulsed me roughly glanced at the servant, and
asked hm IN a low tone to come up stairs that we
could not talk before Dolly. He said there was no
use IN talk he would never go up stairs till be-
haved myself. said ! meant to, and he followed
me- then wept very much; told him how much
suffered from his anger how wretchedy sick, in
my situation, the thick mixture made me that he
knew had but one chance for liie-a few weeks
would soon decide, and begged him to get some
sulphur and mix il with milk, that it would not
cause such distressing nausea, and would take it
so long as he said So His anger at this request
awful he reproached me with equivocation, said
that had deceived hiri, that the very children and
servant sand was wrong and was going out, when
yielded, made hum the required promise, and from
wards told me that if had not yielded he would
never have lived with me--that he was determined
to leave me, and that might have remained gone
home, Just as 1t suited my pleasure. From that
dlsobeyed his ORDERS y
Many similar scenes, as to command and submis-
sion, shewn after the arrival of the family in
New York a serious one about fortnight after her
first child was born. which was on the 18th Oct.
lSS6-aso one on the occasion of their girl dolly,
who had come with them) going to leave ION ac-
count of the work being too hard. Mr.. Barry ac-
cused his wife of ilI-treating.her "My answer was
she went. What she did pleased me- In the
course of 1t he told me to hold my tongue, called
me insolent, and asked me how dared to answer
him. | was at least free-born and this stilled my
trembling. Icalmly told him had right to defend
myself; that insolence was from an inferior to a
superior, but that was an equal. This was the
word too much. He appeared absolutely demo-
niacal: When'he could speak he Gid, and exclalm-
lag there could no more be two equals in house,
than two Gods Almighty in the universe, and l
should find il so'-left me-"
This was when they kept house in Morton street
For some days afterwards she could only see him at
the breakfast table, when he would talk pleasantly
to his daughters, but slight his wife, and make his
daughters act between them In passing and receiv
ing his cup. She says, /" after week thought
would purchase peace on any terms Mr. Barry
came in, and wen to room on the same floor with
mine. waited till heard him lay down and then
went to him. Iwept, hung over HIM, Itook all
the blame, and all in vain. His only answers were,
'leaye me- Isay leave the room !; you are my equal,
you know > and as resisted and pleaded, he start
ed up seized his clothes, and declared If did not
go out OF the room, he would so out OF the house.
fuge from madness. Another week passed on. Once
onl y did he answer me-"
But we find we are making very long story of
what we at first intended should be avery short one.
Suffice it say that the wife complains Of harsh lam
guage and conduct being exercised towards her on
repeated occasions. once or twice when Mr.. Barrys
son, Hoosa Ia fine young man OF twenty two who
had returned from Europe, andwa living with them
in Morton street and one or two others of Mr.. BIS
relations were present. There are also general
charges as TO nemperance, but only one instance of
such has been adduced: about ten O'Clock one eve-
ming when he returned to his home, threw himself
on sofa, and had evidently taken too much wine,
he did not appear 10 know Mrs. b. when talking TO
her, calling her by another name, not Eliza nor
Lice as was his usual custom, and so spoke and
acted as evidently to have caused touch OF jea-
lousy to his wife, she finally humoring him in the
idea that he was talking TO some other woman, and
assisted him to his room. On the whole, however,
the charges in this respect do not appear TO have
much weight, and: seem rather as Filings up, than
otherwise, in the general scene Her first suspicion
as to intemperance was in the early part OF 1887.
In respect TO business matters, II appears that Mr.
Barry, with the assistance OF Mr. Mercein (who adj
vanced, from time to time, $500 in cash and en-
dorsed to still larger extenD bought out the stock
and stand of Messrs. Woram Il Haughwout, crock
eryware dealers in the upper part Of Broadway, and
commenced business in that line. This was in the
fall of 1896 The undertaking, however, proved to
be an Improbable one, and, in September 1897, he
was compelled TO make an assignment to Mr. Scharef
and Mr. Mercen for the benefit of all his creditors
and the stock and stand were resod to the parties
from whom they had been bought In the latter part
of 1897, Mary M. Barry the child who has been the
subject Of so much litigation, was born.
During the winter of 1898, Mrs. Barry proposed to
her husband that she and her children should go to
heI fathers, in Laght street. and that he should take
his first wie's children back to the house of their
grandfather, at Liverpool, N. S. He was willing
TO accede to such an arrangement, except so tar as
related to Mercein, their boy, who he declared should
go with him wherever he went, and she might take
her brat" to her fathers. He was determined not
Canada She had no idea, however, Of giving up
either OF her children, if she could help it, and laid
open the whole of her troubles she states, to her
parents Her father applied to G. w. SANFORD,
cent ground did not exist in the treatment his daugh
ter had received. to procure legal separation. and
the answer was favorable. When Mr.. Barry found
that his wife determined to leave him, she says
he changed his ground impored her by the most