Bloomington herald. [volume] (Bloomington, I. T. [Iowa]) 1840-1849, 1842-02-11

EARLY MAnR,AGEs.-We happened to hear
q long argument the othef evening upon VIC
policy of early marriages.
1t is unnecessary to repeat the pro and con-
i, is unnecessary for us to hear il; because I'M
der ordinary circumstances, and IN ordinary
situations. there can be but one side to the
question, AS soon as mans mind is natureo
enough to make his choice, and at twenty-five
or three il is if ever, he should be ready 10 be
married, The common arguments against ear
Nv matches, that the husband cannot be ''worth
enough" pecuniarily, is not only fallacy In
itself. Int productive Of false calculations and
homes on the part Of the bride, and OF the tEn-
dencv to produce the very distress 1t Is inten-
ded to avert.
When one weds now, it is presumed as a
natural inference that he has the income OF the
.sexpectation' which will warrant the couple
in extravaganza. He may be honest enough
TO tell his wife to the contrary-and she may
have good sense sufficient to indicate to her
what is her proper course in relation to expen-
ses. But the whole round Of gossipping ac-
quaintance are not so easily put otf-and the
couple are thus reluctantly beckoned, persua-
ded, and driven into fashionable extravaganza,
upon first setting out. They strive TO step at
once into competition in style of living and ex-
penses, with people of fortune, and to apt the
misnamed inequalities of those who entertain
ed them in their own state of single blessed.
ness.
If couple are so weakminded as 10 think
they must pursue such course as this, il is
no matter how late they maryland better late
than never. If they can make up thire minds
10 a sensible and moderate estabiishment-if
they understand their character, and have
strength of mind to abi6e by good resolution,
the earlier they MARRY the better. The cost
of almost any one vice or folly into which
bachelors are betrayed, by lack of employment
and home, the follies into which they run to
supply that place in their hearts and in their
time, which good wife fills SO happily; the
unnecessary bachelor expenses in which they
indulge from mere ennui, would more than
twice support family
Marriages in the middle ranks are much
more happy than those Of the extreme poor or
the extreme rich. By the middle ranks, we
mean those who have a trade, profession or
and an opportunity to make provisions against
the day of reverse. Such persons from the
great body Of our industrious population-the
great body Of onr intelligence, and the true in
dependent portion of the community. They
enjoy the golden mean, and escape the tyranni.
cal dictates Of senseless fashion on the one
hand, and the pinchings of object poverty on
the other. They can contract marriages when
they please, without any reference to any thing
bnt their own situation, wishes and happiness,
and their union is therefore the most felicitous,
and made with the least parade.
Dictatorship, especially in cities, is posi-
ton Of more danger and exposure, than men
are capable Of occupying with safety. The
best Of US need monitor and guide-after
the direct influence of mother becomes lessen
ed, OF the son is removed from it.
There is nothing like wife for guardian
angel. The influence Of an ~intended" mar
be powerful--that of wife, as far as moral
influence can be, is omniscient. The influence
Of woman before marriage, may be constant
the presence and influence Of a wife is omni-