The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1842-06-02
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From the Lady's World of Fashion for May.
THE MALE FLIRT.

BY ELLEN ASHTON
"Isve you seen Mrs. Gordon since she
returned from Europe said James Ew
ing TO his friend Henry Afford, as they
stood OF the steps Of the Aston House.
Her wldowhood has not impaired her
charms; she is even more beautiful than
when she left here two years ago."
Indeed and she has returned, pre-.
sumo, immensely rich. Her husband was
you know, millionaire"
Yes he died but short week after
they landed at Hayre, leaving her all his
immense wealth. He Will be a fortunate
man who WINS the widow and she a!rea
ty hes crowds Of suitors. lf | remember
Alright Harry, you once had sort OF llIrla
ton with her, and was among those who
thought you, rather than the rich Powell
the favored one. Why, in the deuce, didn't
you perseyere 7"
II was too poor" SAID Afford, with q
shrus Of the shoulders, and she was no
richer. 1t would have been madness 10
marry
Then why did you pay her such at.
lention :" asked Ewing IN some surprise
for many months YOU were constantly By
her side. always thought that some ilt
lie dllierence-a lovers quarrel you know
had separated you, and that each wa.
too proud to make any advances subse
queutly."
lie. US step into my room, and | vii
tell you. Egad, IT'S wonder you hav'ni
seen the truth long ago. thought you
/ knew more OF the world"
The two companions were soon seated
10 Affords room when he began
i "Emily Maxwell was, you know, splen
did girl. But she was poor. | saw ant
admired her Yet my circumstances woulC
not permit me TO marry. Now young fel
lows like myself, who have access TO GOOD
society and are yet wthou, the means Il
support a wife, must either fly the compa
/ ny Of the dear creatures altogether, or else
indulge 10 what call innocent flutallon-'
lnnocen, r
" Yes innocent-why, my dear fellow
you start as if bomb had rolled under
/ you chair, you needn't be so alarmed al
my words. All | mean TO say is this
that, because one can't marry one isn't
therefore to be deprived of love, don't
mean exactly your serious love, but sorr
Of half real, half testing feeling, such as one
experiences toward girl he is flirting
With. You talk with her, walk with her
read with her, sing with her, aud in short
hor g II. l.
but when you find you are ia danger oil
7 getting seriously in love, then you back
out, and seek some new beauty TO flirt
with. One may thus have all the little e1.
elements OF a courtship-the pique, the
soothing, the lat,ered vanity, the one par
tlcuIar angel TO whom you chat in hall
whlsper-wlhout the danger Of involving
/ your honor by az engagement"
a" But surely there IS danger in this, il
not to yourself, at least TO the lady,"
"Oh no-you are a novice, see, in
these matters, The lady has the sense TO
sec lha, YOU are only flirting, since YOU
never seriously make love to her-,hat is
you do not tell her you love her, for when
man does that, hold be is as much
bound TO 90 forward aud marry her as he
IS to pay deb, Of honor. If promised
TO marry girl would consider /, binding
and keep the promise religiously. have
no charity for scoundrel who breaks an
engagement. But these innocent filrta
tons are different things. Why-what
would the world be worth if one couldn't
take moonlight walks with she girls, or
have some one whom you visited, you
know, especially. If you think the maj,
ter's getting serious Tor her, of course
you'll blck out. Meantime, however, a
man s fool if he don't have some one with
whom he is tlirtiog--Iis better than lem.