Jeffersonian Republican. [volume] (Stroudsburg, Pa.) 1840-1853, 1841-02-24
A Chapter fer YOung Husbands.

Walking the other day with valued friend
who had been confined week or two by sick
ness 10 his room, he remarked that a husband
might learn good lesson by being confined
occasionally TO his house, by having in this
way opportunity of Witnessing the cares aud
never ending !oils of his wife, whose burthen,
and duties, and patient endurance he might
never otherwise have understood There is a
great deal in this ought-perhaps enough for
an editorial" Men, especially young men,
are called by their business during the day
mostly away from home, returning only at the
hours for meals; and as they then see nearly
the same routine of duty, they begin TO think it
is their own lot to perform all the drudgery, and
to be exercised with all the weight and care
Of responsibility. But such man has got
very wrong view of the case; he needs an op-
portuLlty for more extended observation, and it
is perhaps for this very reason that kind Prov
idence arrests him by sickness, tha: he may
learn in pain what he would fail to observe in
health We have seen recently good many
things said in the papers to wives, especially
to young wives, exposing their faults, perhaps
magnlfying them, and expounding to them in
one OF the klndest terms, their duty and the
Offices pertaining 10 woman's sphere. Now,
we believe that wives, as a whole, are really
better than they are generally admitted TO be.
We doubt if there can be found large number
Of wives who are disagreeabv and negligent,
without some palpable coldneSs or short COM
ing on the part of their husbands. So far as
we have had an opportunity for observation,
they are FAR more devoted and faithful than
those who style themselves their lords, and
bn bp tha nG haVp nd
generally more pleasant and varied duties to
perform. We protest, then against these lee
lures so often, and so ohrusivey addressed to
the ladies', and insist upon it that they must
most of them--have been written by some fus
ty bachelors who knew no better, or by some
lnconsiderate husbands who deserve 10 have
been old bachelors to the end of their lives.
But is there nothing to be said on the other
side! Are husbands so generally the perfect,
amiable, injured beings, they are so often rep
resented? Men sometimes declare that their
wives extravagances have picked their pockets;
that their never ceasing tongues have robbed
them Of their peace, and their general disagree
ableness has driven them TO the tavern and gam
ing table; but this is generally the wicked ex-
cuse for most wicked life on their own part. |
The fact is, men often lose their interest in their
homes by their own gecl to make their homes |
and pleasant. 1t should never be
forgotten that the wife has her rishts--as sa-
cred after marriage as beforehand good hus- |
bands devotion to the wife after marriage will
concede to her quite as much attention as his
galanry did while lover, If it is otherwise,
he most generally is al fault
Take few examples. Before marriage a
young man would feel some delicacy about ac-
cep,ng an invitation to spend an evening in
company where his lady love had not been in
vled After marriage is he always as particu-
Iars During his days of cOurtship his gallansry