Jeffersonian Republican. [volume] (Stroudsburg, Pa.) 1840-1853, 1841-02-24
No /.

would demand that he should make himself
agreeable TO her; after marriage it often happens
Ihst ne thinks more OF being agreeable to him
self. How often 1t happens that married men,
after having been away from home the livelong
day, during which the wife has toied al her du-
iies 90 al evening again TO some place Of amuse-
menl, and leave her TO toll on alone, uncheered
and unhappy. How often it happens that her
| k!ndes: offices pass uuobserved, and unreward-
ed even by smile, and her best efforts are
condemned by the faui-6nding husband. How
often II happens, even when the evening is spent
at home, that ii is employed IN silent reading,
or some Other way that does not recognize the
wife's right 10 share in the enloyments even Of
the fireslde.
Look, ye husbands, moment, and remom-
Der what your wife was when you took her,
not from compulsion hut from your own choice;
a choice based, probably, on what YOU then
consider her superiority 10 all others. She was
yOung-perhaps the idol of happy home, she
was gay and bilhe as lark, and The brothers
and sisters at her fathers 6reslde cherished
her as an object Of endearment. Yet she left
all to join her destiny with yours; to make your
home happy, and TO do all that woman's love
could prompt, and wOmai's ingenuity could de-
wise To meet your wishes and tighten the bur-
dens which might press upon you in your pill
grlmage. She, of course, had her expectations
too She could not entertain feelings which
promised SO much, without forming some idea
ol recIprOcatiOn on your part, and she did ex
pect you would alter marriage perform those
kind Offices of which YOU were SO lavish IN the
days Of betrothment. She became your wife!
left her own home for yours--burst asunder, as
1t were, the bands of love which had bound her
TO her fathers hresde, and soug hI 10 other
boon than your affections; left, it may be, The
ease and delicacy of home of indulgence
and now, what must be her feelings if she
gradually awakes to the consciousness tEai
you love her less than before; that your eve
nings are spent abroad, that you only come
home al all to satisfy The demands OF YOUR hun
ger, and to find resting place for your head
when weary, or nurse for your sick chamber
when diseased
Why did she leave the bright hearth of her
youthful days! Why did you ask her 10 give
up the enjoyment of happy home! was it sim
ply to darn your stockings, mend your clothes,
take care OF your children and watch over your
sick bed! was il simply TO conduce to your own
comfort! Or was there some understanding
that she was to be made happy in her connsc-
ton with The man she had dared to love-
Nor is it sufficient answer that you reply
that you give her home; tha, you feed and
clolhe her. You do this for your help; you
woulddo il for an Indifferent housekeeper. She
is your wife, and unless you attend 10 her wants,
and in some way answer the reasonable expec-
talions you raised by your attentions before mar
rIage you need not wonder if she be detected,
and her heart sink into inseIsibiity; but if this
be So think well who is the cause of IT, We
repeat it, very few women make indifferent
wives, whose feelings have not met with some
outward shock by the indifference or thought
lessness of their husbands. Il is our candid
opinion that in a large majority of the instances
of domestic misery the man is the aggressOr.---
n. Y. Mirror.