Litchfield enquirer., 1841-01-28
FEOaa tSe iFESelai PalldSiSia Q ,kEE. erHtNCS O1e YESTERDAY

How thef presence aR6 6tahtS once vIVfly ShOne
 AS tho things of to-day iHsIheif varying sUne. 'n
 All. why should the ines Sf afIeeiGl grow tliS, q
 That efe eruver % deepondhs taSls ~l'la.'' 3.!"
 n lhq cold cml 0f abeence; and tune Pass RWHy, gr
 We may ehrink from the thought Oi etuness nS~, And Iepeat each Kind word as u charm or 2 VOW;
 But the SteheSy Oi Is is fast cha ging it's shades,
 And the often renew et of necessity fades. 5 >,Sg
 Yet still we must cling t ESn tncshOrrs shrine,' ii
 And recall Us pale ,dFeass wle ticir shado"s de- |Luuoi cliDes iV YaHi ,1u .fsiJT9xp yatiGDH JUt And rel4claply feel .hfi pass oeF the sOp
 we may sieii and SfousS as half walking fr5n sleep
 And reflect fos asOuneht i0 saMrOwtO weep; ' li3l
 But the tiss gathers i;sts and dagkuess on, A9s despte q opr wpkilg ;he ''sdonA IS g9Hs ,1dI ' 'iiy'}1'' ntJh0G9i 2Ao0ff buu ,iSit'''i1 A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS.
 Walking the other day with q, valued friend who had been confined a week or. two by sickness 10 his Teogl,, he remarked that u husband might learn a good lesspp by being confined occasionally 10 bis, house. by hay ing, ip, this way an opportunity ot witAcssilg the cares and Beyer1 ending ioils of his wife, whose burdens and duties and patient endur rance he might never have otherwise under stood, There is,A great deal in this thought, ,peEhaPs enough. for an 1" ,editorial." I Men, especially young men, are called by their business during the day mostly away. from h9ineY returning only at the hours for meals, and as they then see nearly the same routine of dpiys they begin tO think that it is, their own lot to, perform Ill, the drndgery, and tO be exercised with all inc weight of care and responsibility. + But such q man, has. got . very wrong view of the case |, be needs m opportunity for, more extended ;obseryatioH, and it is perhaps for this, very reason thata kind pRnvlN0aNn0 nj hSro osNknncc
 that be may learn in pain what he would fail 10 observe in health, i've have seen rscept
 ly good many things said in the papers to wives, especially to young wives. exPQsing thelr faults, perhaps nagnifyigg them, and expOpndipg 10 them in nope Of the ,kindest terms, thsiE duty and the offices pertainipg to, :; a;womanrs, sphere Now, we believe ihnt wives, asa whole, are really better than they are generally admitted [, 10 be-, We doubt if there can, be found a large number of wives who are ,disagreeable and negli, gent, without some palpablee coldness pr short coming on the part of their husbands. So, far as we have had an .opportnRity tor eb; seryaiion,; they are far more, devoted and falbfpl than those who fistYleg theplselyes iheir lords and who ,hY the customs of socir ety, have other and generally mpre pleasant aud 5vqried duties to perform. We protest eAASYSi SA NAbfs4 ~ DObsuT siyely addressed to, the ladies. and insist "p. on il that they must-most of theM--haye becn ,WHitteN by, some fpsiY bachelor who knew no better. or by some inconsiderate husbands who deserve to .hpye heenh old bachelors to the end of their lives. But is there nothing to be said on the other side t-- Are husbands so generally the epertect. ahii- able, injured beings they are so often repre- scented Men sometimes declare that their wives' 'extrayagaDee have picked their pockr cts, apd their neycr-ceasing tongues have robbed them of their peace, and their gene ral disag bleness has driven them to the tavern, and gaining table j. but this is gene rally the wicked excuse for 2 most wicked ten lose their interest in their homes by their own neglect to make their homes interesting and pleasant. 1t should never be forgotten that the wife has her rrights-as sacred faiter marriage as bsfore-and good husbands devotion to the wife after marriage will con, cede to her qufte as much, attention as his gallantry did while a lover. If it is other, wise, he most generally is at faulf. a.,, Slncn
 .' Take a few examples, Before. marriage a young man would feel some deliescy about accepting an invitation 10 spend, ap evening in company where. his {" lady love- had not been invited. A{ier, marriage, $ he always as particular1 During the days of conrtship, ,his gallantry, would demand that he, should make himself agreeable !o her i; after marriage it often bappens that he thinks more of being agreeable to bimself- How ofien ii happens that married meni after having been, away from home, the livelopg day, during which the wife has toiled at her duties. go at evening again 10 some place of amusement and leave her b t0ila on alone, pncheersd and unhappy. How often it hap pens that her kiDde9 offices pass unobsery. ed, and nnrewarded even by . smile, and her best efforts are condemned by the faplt, finding husband. How ,ofien, fi happens, eyen when the evening is spent at home, :hat 1t is employed in silent reading. or some oth- CT way that, does not recognize the wife's right to SHARE in eenjoyments even of ihe fireside. m. H. .,,sa. ,'1.,r 10 ala.,.3l ,ai
 Look. ye husbands, a moment and re. member what your wife was when you took her, not from corDPH|si0n, but from your own choice; 9 choice b9sed. probably, on what you then consideEeh her superiority to. all
 others. She was yDung-perhaps the M0l of a happy home; she was gay and blithe hey fathers fireside cherished her as an ob-
 ,cct of endearment. Yet she left all to join
 her destiny with yoSrs: to make your home
 happy, and io do all that wOman's love, could
 prompt, and womah's ingenuity devise. to
 meet your wishes aud to Tighten the hnTdens
 which might press upon you in your pilgrim age. She. of courSf. had her, expectations 100. She could notentertain feelings which
 promised so rsouch. without forming some
 idea of reciprocatidn on yOuf part, and she did expect you wosld after marriage per- form those kind ofiifes of which you were so
 lavish in the days q bet,oihment. She be-
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