Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1841-12-30

what he wishes me To- do, unless he tvlla
me; and yet he seems often dissatisfied
at some neglect Of which ] am not con-
scl0us, unit! when too late to remedy II"
Poor Mrs. Wharton i! with the best
intentions, the kindest feelings, and the
most devoted love for her husband, sho
was yet ignorant Of some Of those W,nob
duties, without which, happiness cunnot
be attained. Educated AT n fashionable
boarding school, she knew little Of the
a"'"Hl mechanism Of life. She had gone
through the regular routine Of studies
aud accomplish'ne nts--had been brought
out into society ~ duo inrm, at the agc
OF sixteen, aud after two years spent III
the eXcllemenis OF the gay world, had
given her hand To the most agreeable,
rather than io the richest oi her suIors,
prel"rrlng love IN II cottage, with Charles
Wharton, Ia indifference III n palace,
with her wcallhicr lover. She wnS sin,lr
ly wnrm.heared, aifrciionaie, cheerful.
tempered girl, whose reflective powers,
if Shc had them, had never been culliva-
ted, and whose plant character was yet
To be moulded by future circumstances.
Her husband had grown up IN the midst
Of an old fashioned domestic circle. Ilo
had seen his mother devoted 10 her
household duties, governing herself a
others by regular system which mad"
every care seem light, becawe each trll
in lis allotted place, and To its allotted
person. lie had observed his sisters
acquiring all the elegant refnemenis Of
a finished education, while they Eradu.
ally learned, from example, rather than
precept-the wonanly habits which are
only to be gained in a well-ordered
household. lie had been SO accustom-
ed to nealness and order, that he scarce
ly noticed their presence, but If he was
accidentally thrown into circumstances
where they were wanting, their absence
soon taught him how essential they were
TO his daily co.nlort. In short, he was
the son OF sensible and good molhor,
and her influence had made him worhy
OF as sensible and good "A wiie-Mary
Lees pretty face aud frank simplicity oi
character, had attracted him, when he
first entered society. Her unalicrable
good humor was an additional charm,
aud when he found her posse sscd Of a
fund of sound practical good scnsc,
which needed only time TO- developc it.
sell, he hes,atod mol 10 ot;tr Ia her ac-
cepiance his heat and hand During
the first intoxica,ion Of youthful love, he
could see no defects in her character, no
spots in the sun which shed so much
lcht upon his existence. Her cheerful
smiles, her bright face, her bird like
voice, all acted upon him like cUchnnt-
mcnr, and with degree Of enthusiasm
which usually ends in di appointment,
lie exalted her into an object oi adora-
ton. He was ten years her senior, md
the light hearted gIrl received his hom-
age with an eIalion of spirit which tend
ed to increase rather than subdue the
levity Of her disposition.
! wonder If IT ever occurred 10 dis
conenied husband that much of his mar-
ried life might be attributed To this over
estimation which is so generally charac-
tcris,lc Of the days Of coultship. Tomnn,
love is but the interlude between the
acts of a busy lile-the cares of bnsi7
ness, or the severe studies of a profess
sion are the duties OF his existence, while
the attentions which he bestows on tho
young and fair being whom he has shn +.
sen to share his future lot, are the actual
pleasures of his life. lie comes to her
weary with the sordid anxieties or tho
| oppressive Intellectual labors in which
! he has been Engaged, and he finds her
| ever the gentle minister to his happiness,
! while the atmosphere which surrounds
her, is one of such purity and peace,
that all his better nature is awakened by
her presence. What marvel, then tha,
he should make her the idol Of his
dreams, aud enthrnne her on high in his
Imagination, as the good genius Of his
llo Wiluly blind To every defect in
her character, he views her through the
| medium of his own excited feelings, and
thus, lilo one who should pretend ia
Judge Of the real landscape by brholdina
lis reflection in Claude Lorraine glass,
he sees only the sohencd lneanenis ol
the actual being. Then comes the hour
OF discnchaniment ln The familiar IN
tercourse of welded life he classes To
! be the woishipper ut the IDOLS shrine.
Tho lovo still exists, perhaps even ia
creasos in lis favor, bot tho blind wor-
! ship is at AN end she IL now his fellow
traveller through the rugged and dusty
path of life, and she must bear with hun,
( the hca, aud burden of the dpy. Shp
has been taken among her companions,
and set on high as an object Of sdors-
! ton, the intellect OF man has been hum
bed before her, and her very capricss
have been laws to HIM. l. il TO be won
dered at, If she cannot al once resign
her queenly station, and become the gen.
tic and submissive and fort caring ~os
man Is II strange that the roproVf or
! the cold rebukc ol him who once tapg hl
| her lhut she wRs all perfection, should
sound strangely IA her ear, and fall with
bitterness upon her heart The change
which takes place IN mere manners OF
hun who was The devoted lover, is hard
To understand. "l cannot describe,' v
said lady, who was by 40 menns re-
~ arksble for scnstiveness Of lerline, 81
canned describe how unhappy felt The
first time after my marriage, that py