The Charlotte journal. [volume] (Charlotte, N.C.) 1835-1851, 1841-07-29
WHAT IS GENTLITY I

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call gentleman from o man whom they do
not consider to be one. II is true, however,
that every body has not the same standard
for gentiiiy, aud VIA, one nigh, consider TO
DO geuteel another might consider to DO
very far from il. Ii is, therefore, impossible
10 give such deiinlicn TO geniiliiy as
would accord with the ideas of every one
or, il such deGnition could be given there
would be wide difference of opinion as TO
tho rules that might be laid down for car.
ryius It out. Ii we were 10 venture an
opinion on the subject, no would say that
geuilhty IS that department, whether at
home, in society, or 10 the street, which a
tue result Of desire to avoid saying or do
ios any thing tha, could give offence TO
others. A strict observance Of this law
would undoubtedly secure for IFS observant
the respect Of all with whom be would be
broush. into contact, and il carrying 1t in,
to practice. if he aims at the highest stand.
ard oil gentility, he must consalt the taste
of tho most refined aud even the most fas.
tidlous, or else BIO may fall short of bis OBJ.
ject, and DO considered as genteel By one
set Of persons and vulgar by another A
man who should act up to tic following
standard could hardly fail to be considered
as gentleman by every body, although
We are free to ADM; tina, be might BIO con.
sldered by many as rather too much Of one :
Il IS not gcpteel TO swear.
Il is not geu;eel 10 indulge il l!ceniious
conversation.
Il IS mol genieeito talk loud IN company
Il is cot genteel to laugh loud.
II is not genteel 10 Interrupt others IN
conversation.
It is GOT geuteel 10 be quick and abrupt
in conversation.
Ii is not gcntcel to pass your opinions in
a dogmalical aud positive manner.
It's not genteel to give force TO your as
sertions by hammoring on the table, or by
any extraordinary ges.iculation. Asst you
we're iniallible.
/ II IS not senieel ut az evening party
where Refreshments are served, to Gil lady
4 plate With lerrdplns, or oysters, or chicken,
or salad as il she had eaten no dnuer.
| Il Is Dot gonleel to slam door in going
10 or out Of room where there arc no 9th.
er persons.
| II is not gentee to smoke cigars in he
street, as some respectable persons are Of,
ten seen to do.
| It's not genteel for tpeealedum to turn up
bis nose al tptedledee in company.
! Its moi genieel to talk al concerts or lee.
lures 50 as 10 prevent others from bearing.
|. is not genteel 10 whisper ia compcng.
j 10 mol gcnteel at a table to begin bo,
fore the rest Of the company are helped.
Il is not genieel to cat fast or put large
quantity III your mouth al once.
Ii is not gonieoI to finish a meal until
others have hau lime 10 make some pro.
grese with theirs.
Il is not genteel TO eat SO slow as to eat
after others are done.
/! is not genteel when you are nvtled 10
a party to meet stranger, to 20 away be.
fore Tho stranger.
Il is not gonteel if you be tina, stranger
TO wait an unreasonable time before you take
/ your leave.
1t Is not genteel 10 salute gentleman
whiIo walking in the street with lady
with nod Of the head.
! Ii is not genteel to contradict others.
/ K IS not genteel to lean back in chair
in company.
Il is not genteel to rub your head, willis
seated on sofa, against the newly prepar
ed wall of pahor IN which you are Wis
tier.
Ii le not genteeI to stand before FIRE
place and intercept the heat from Others
who are as cold as yourself.
4 II isnot genieel in company TO comb you
hair with your fingers.