Edgefield advertiser. [volume] (Edgefield, S.C.) 1836-current, 1841-01-28
.EfiSCeLlNneOaES.
a CHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUS.
BANDS,

w aiming tHc otliei udJ WIFI Ndiucu
friend who bad been confined a week or
Two by sickness 10 his room, he remarked
that a husband might learn good lesson
by being confined occasionally 10 his house,
| by having iu this way an opportunity of
! witnessing, The cares aud never ending tolls
OF the wife, whose burdens anu dulles aud
patient endurance he might never have
Otherwise understood. There is great
deal in this thought, perhaps enough for all
"editorial." Men, especially young men,
arc called by their business during the day
mostly away lrJm home, returning only
al the hours for meals. and as they then
see nearl y The same routine Of duty, they
begin to think that il is their own lot 10
perform all the drudeery. and to he cxer-
ciscd with all the weight Of care aud re-
sponsihlily. But such man has got Il
very wrong view ofljc case he nccls an
opportunity for more extended operation,
and it is perhaps Tor this very reason that a
kind Providence arrests him by sickness,
rha, llc may learn in pain what lie would
fail to observe in health. We have seen
recently good many things said in the
pnpers to -~:.>-, ~sl,vvtutry ~ yuutIS
wives, exposing their faults, perhaps mag
utr> t"S ', IA, $500 --r,....s;.,s.-." ,l.a.n-
none of the kindesl terms, their du,y and
The utliccs pertaining to woman's sphere
Now, wc believe that wives, as whole
arc really better than they arc generally
admitted 10 he. We doubt if there can be
found large number Of wives who arc
,'iSacrceablc and negligent, without some
ialpablr GOODNESS or shortcnming on The
par, o.! .Iu ir husbands. So far as we have
had an opportunity for observation, they
are far more dcvoled and faithful than
these who stylc themselves their lords,
and who. by the customs of socicry. have
other aud scncral!y more pleasant duties
to perform.
We protest then against these lectures
so often and 50 obtrusivcly addressed TO
the ladies, aud Insist upon it that they
must-most Of 'hem-havc hrcn written
by some fusry bachelors who knows no
better. or by some incOnSidcrutc husbands
who deserve to have heen old bachelors 10
The end nr their lives. But is,here nothing
to be said on the other side Are husbands
so generally The perfect, aniiable, inurct
beings they are su often represented! Men
sometimes declare that their wives extra
vagances have picked their pockets, that
their never ceasine tongues lave robbed
them Of their peace, and their general dis
a2rccahencss has driven them 10 The Ia
vcrn aud gaming table; bul This is general
!v The wicked excuse for !, most wicked
life on their own part. The fact is, men
often lose their intrres, in their homes by
their own neg lcct lD make their homes u-
trresting and pleasant. 1t should never
be forgotten that The wife has her rights
as sacred after marriage as beforehand
good husbands devotion To The wife after
marriage will concc,ie 10 herqurc as much
attention as his aallantry did while lover.
81 ii is otherwise, he most genel lilly is at
fault.
Take few examples. Before mar.
ringc young man would feel some dcica-
cy about accepting an invitation To spend
an evening i'll company where his +" lady
love" had not been invited. After mar.
riaee is he always rs particular? Dur
ing The days Of conrtslIip, his gallantry
would demand that he should make him
self agreeable to her; after marriage il
often happens that he thinks more of being
agreeable to himself. How often it hap.
pens that married men, after having been
away from home the livelong day, during
which the wife has roiled at her duties, 20
al evening 10 sumo place of amusement.
and leave her 10 toll on alone, unchcered
and unhappy. How ofcn it happens
that her hinlcst Offices pass unobserved,
and nnrew arded even by a smile, and
herbest efforts are condemned by her fault
finding husband. How often it happens,
even when The evening is spent at home.
that it is employed in silent reading, or
some other way that does mol recognize
The wile's light 10 SHARE in The enoymepts
even OF the tireSidc.
Look, ye husbands, a moment, aud re.
member what your wife was when YOU
took her, not from compulson. but from
your own choice, a choice based. probably.
on what you then considered her superior
ity to all others. She was young; per-
haps the idol Of happy home; she was