Vermont watchman and State journal. [volume] (Montpelier, Vt.) 1836-1883, 1841-03-08
MISCELLANY.
From The New York Mirror.


Walking the other day with valued friend
VINO had been confhed week by sickness TO his
room, he remarked that husband might learn
good lesson by being confined professionally to
his house, hy having in this way an opportunity
of Witnessing the cares and never ending tolls of
his wife, whose burdens and duties and patient
durance he might never Otherwise have under
stood. There is great deal in this thought, per-
hnps enough for "an editorial Men, especially
Young mei', are called by their business during the
day mostly away from home, returning only ut
the hours for meals and MS they then see nearly
the same routine OF duty, they begin 10 think il is
their own lot to perform all the drudgery, and to
he exercised Wit, all the weight OF aud re-
sponsibllty. But such man has got very
wrong view of the case /; he needs an opportunity
for more extended observation, and ii is perhaps
for this very reason that kind Providence arrests
him by Sickness that he mny learn in pain what
he would fail TO observe in health. We have
seen recently good many things. said in the pa
pers TO wives especially to young wives, exposing
their fhults, perhaps magnilying them, and ex-
pounding 10 them, in none of the kindest terms,
their duty and the Offices pertaining to a wotnans
sphere. Now we believe that wives, as whole,
are really better than they generally admitted
to he. We doubt if there can be found large
number OF wives, who disagreeable and negii-
gent, without some palpable GOODNESS short
coming ON the part Of their husbands. So far
we uve all opportunity for observation, they are
far more devoted and faithful than those who
style themselves their lords and who Ivy the Gus
toms OF society, have o,her and generally more
pleasant AMI varied duties TO perform. We
lest, then, against the lectures often and so OBJ
irusively addressed TO the ladies', and insist upon
II that they mlist-inost OF ihem-liave been writ
ten by some tusty bachelors who know no better
or 10y some nconsderate husbands who deserve to
have been old bachelors to the end of their lives.
But is there nothing TO be said The other side
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injured helii9s they are so often represented p
Men sometimes declare that their wives extrav-
agancies have picked their pockets that their
never -ceasing tongues lInve robbed them of their
peace, and their general disasreeableness has
driven them 10 the tavern and gaming table but
This is generally the wicked excuse for II most
wicked life on their own part. The fact is, men
often lose their interest and pleasure. 1t should
never he forgotten that the wife has rights as sa-
cred after marriage beforehand II good hns-
hands devotion TO the wife atier marriage will
conccde 10 her quite us much attention his gal
aniry did while lover. If il is otherwise, lie
most generally is at fault.
Take few examples. Before marriage a
young man would feel some decacy about nc
cepting an invitation 10 spend an evening in con-
rnny where his lady love had not been invited -
Aiter marriage Is he always as particular Dur
ing the days of his c0urIshp his gaanry would
demand that he should make himself agreeable
10 her; after mnrrlage IT is often thnt ia thinks
mure Of being agreeable 20 himself. How often It
happens thai ilnrrie men, after having been a.
! way irom home the livg-,Uug day, during which
HE wife has iolled ut her duties, 60 al evening
again 10 some place of amusement, and leave her
To to'l on alone, uncheered and unhappy. How
oiien II happens that her kindest Offices pass I'M
r+-Laservcd, and mre wnrded even by II smile and
her best eilurts are condemned by her fault find
! lug husband. How olien il happens even when
: The evening Is spent at home, that is employ Ell
] IN silenI readng, or some other way hnt does not
recognize the wiis's right to share even in HE ell
: joynents at The fire side.
i Look, We husbands, n moment, and remember
e what your wife was when you took her, not from
compulson, hui from your own choice, n choice
based, probably, on what you then consdeled her
superiority 10 all others. She was yuung--per-
, hsrs the Idol OF ii happy home; she was bhe
D aud gay us the lark. and The brothers and sisters
NJ her fathers iiresc cherished her US nm Object
Z Of enGearnleni. Yet size left all to jon her destiny
: with yours To make your home happy, nnd to do
+. all that wonnn's love could prompt aud woman's
ingenuity devise 10 meet youi wishes and tighten
the burdens which might press upon you in your
1 pilgrimage. She, OF course, had her expectations
TOO. She could not entertain feelings which
: promised 80 much, without forming some idea OF
reciprocalon on your part and she did expect you
you would after marriage perform those kind Of
fees of which you were SO lavish in The days of
E beirothfneni. She became your wife left her
own home for yoilrs--burst asunder RS il were the
bands of love which had hound her 10 her fathers
fire side, and sought no other boon than your af-
tections left, it may be, the ease aud delicacy of
a home Of iudulgence--and now, what must lie
her feelings il she gradually awakes to the con-
seriousness that you love her less than before
$ that your evenings are spent abroad that you
only come home at all TO satisfy the demands OF
l.. your hunger, aud to find resting place for your
y head when weary, or a nurse for your sick CLAM
j. bel. when diseased