Liberty advocate. [volume] (Liberty, Miss.) 1835-1866, 1840-06-04

tained id the epistle, Or 10 intimate that the
parties we're fundamentally engaged. The
letter bctrs the impress OF these facts upon lie
face. me writer, and the individual to whom
liz was addressed, belonged to highly respecta-
BILE famiEes and soon after their union, they
both pefshed in the wreck Of the Pulaski,
in 1898. We have been placed in possession
ofthe original, as momento Of the unfortunate
sufferers Central Register.
| c. NOvEMBER Z, 1885,.
ArfEct1oSArE M**".
| The time is not far distant, when we shalt
be, without some unseen and unexpected decree
OF Heaven. joined in the connubial bliss Of sol.
emn malrimony. Is not this theme o: happy
imaginatoha On my part, am sure il is; but
at the same time, one of the most vital impor.
lance, and involves more deep and permanent
interest and contemplation, than any event or
my. life. Here might, with proprety, enquire
why it is so. Because il Is no momentary or
transient occurrence, only to exist for tempo.
rary time, and then vanish from our minds, a.
u moment OF pleasure, or as the bursting bub.
BILE on The face Of the deep blue sea. This is
not The case; and therefore calls forth much
very serious thoughts and deep meditation.--
This one act Of our lives, is to exist for life
most certainly this is true; then of what mo-
ment is i. to US, that such a connexion should
be formed with the utmost care and calm delib.
Grafton. Can any thing on earth attract our
attention more seriously than this? No.
What has induced US TO form this connexionf
Has il been merely for the sake Of vain plea
sure, or TO crafty some vain and delusive pas
sion OF our mlnds!--or to crafty nature in her
many wild and speculative propensitiesi can
assure you that this has not been the case With
myself; and should be quite sorry to learn
that you have pursued the course pointed on;
TO you by the iancifI paintings Of nature, and
the visionary imaginations of transient plea.
sure. Sincere devotion and unfeigned love for
you, has been all and every thing that has ey.
er prompted me TO this act, aud sincere.
lily hope that this has been the case with
you.
| There are duties OF marriage which begin
before the marriage itself, in the provision that
lis made for matrimonial virtues and happi.
ness; and he who neglects the means Of yirtu-
Gus love, in a state OF which viriuous love is to
be the principal charm, is far moro inconsidsr-
-IotOi o"o iIOi0 SuhhyJ tuou eiio hOcuiOos Pto
Iducsr OF misery, who forms q matrimonial
fIconnexion, without the prospect Of any meansof
subsistence, sor one who is to exist with him,
ony 10 suffer with him in indulgence, and for the
iIliite sufferers who. are afterwards TO make in
diligence still more painfully felt. He who has
vowed to love one to whom he pledges love, on.
i " because he knows that she is worthy Of such
a pledge, will not afterwards have reason to
complain ofthe difficulty of loving the unwor.
thy
II, however, it be necessary for man TO Be
careful! TO whom he engages himself by vow
SO solemn, il is surely not less necessary for
the genter tenderness Of woman. She, too,
has duties to fulfil, that depend on love; and
when she engages TO perform them where lore
is not felt, she is little aware Of the precarious
ness ofsuch pledge, and ofthe perls to which
she is exposing herself. 1t is truly painful,
then, to see in the the intercourse ofthe world,
how seldom affection is considered as neces-
sary matrimonial prelimnary-at least in one
OF the parties, and in tho one TO whom il is the
more necessary; and how much quicker the
Judgment Of fathers, mothers and friends, is
10 estimate the wealth or the worldly dignity,
than the wisdom or the virtue, which they pre-.
worldly dignity may render only weaker and
more miserable, but whom wisdom might coun-
sci and cherish. 1t is painful to SEQ Que, who
has in other respects, perhaps many, moral or.
cellencles, consent as an accomplice in this
fraud TO iorego the moral delicacy, which con.
dennis the apparent sale of affection that is not
TO be sold-reoice in the splendid sacrifice
which is thus made Of her peace-consigns her
person to one whom she despises, with the same
indifference as she consigns her hand-a pros
tltute Tor Gold, not less truly because the pros
titulon is to be for life, and not less criminally
a prostitute, because to the guilt and meanness
Of the pecuniary barter, are added 10 tho guilt
OF mockery Of tenderness that wishes TO de.
coive man, and the still greater guilt Of per.
Jury, that in VOWS which heart bellies, would
wish to deceive God, on whom it calls to sane.
ton doceitl
When marriages are thus formed, it is not
for the sufferer to complain, If sho find that she
has acquired few moro trappings OF wealth,
but not a husband. She has her house, her car
riage, and the livery machines that are paid 70
wait around her and obey her:--she takes
ranks in public spec,acles, and presides in hcF
own mansion in spectacIes as magnificent; she
has obtained all she wished TO obtain; and
tho affection and happiness which she scorn.
cd, she must leave to those who sought
them.
There isH place on the earth, il hath been
said, whore pure Joys arc unknown--from
which poteness is banshed, and has given
place TO selhshness, contradiction, and half