The Madisonian. [volume] (Washington City [i.e. Washington, D.C.]) 1837-1845, 1840-06-02
GET MARRIED.

II sa SIA MARhlED.
The editor Of the Norwich Aurora asks of his
readers me very important question, sswhat Is
the use OF getting married % A few Thoughts
must give our reasons why all men should ee,
married
The great object of human life is happiness
10 thls end, man bends every action, and gives
birth TO every thought. II he tolls, he tolls for
the accomplishment of this purpose only; if he
begs or bestows favors--if he receives or admi
nisters the blessings Of fortune-ifhe courts no
pularlty, seeks for fame, or spends his whole
me In accumuiatng wealth, he has but one
grand active propelling principle within him,
ever prompting TO thought and deed, and that is,
desire for happiness:
So our beings end and aim
Man is social being, formed for society and
intercourse, and the very elements of his nature
are opposed TO life of solitude and 'ssingle bes-
sedness." He delights in having one boon COM
panion, in whom he can confide with all the
faithtulness and freedom of his own breast II
is therefore with view to his social happiness,
for the enlargement of his domestic comforts,
and for the pleasure Of sharing his enjoyment
and cares, that he selects that companion from
the opposite sex. The sexes are treacherous
among themselves, but seldom to each other.
| certain writer remarks that marriage en-
larges the scene Of our happiness ormisery; the
marriage OF love is pleasant, the marriage Of in
terest easy, and the marriage where both meet
happy" II is even SO. But though there are
cases where men are so blinded by the object of
their pursuit as to overlook discrepancies and
disparagements which afterwards prove vexa-
tious-s il reason that there is no ssuse i'm get
| ting married2' Man has the elements of hap
piness within himself, which, when rightly ex-
ercised, never fail to produce il. Ii remains
with him altogether to comply with the requisi-
tons OF nature, and support her institutions, to
fulfil the laws of God, and effect the great object
Of his own being. In complying, however, he
is assured Of a happiness which he cannot 9th
erwise enjoy, and which he cannot other
wise obtain. Therefore, il he values his hap
! piness--if he is a judicious man--if he IS not
selfish and misanthropic, he will act out the
principles Of his nature and get married. There
| is no man but feels the influence of woman, de-
lights in her society, and worships, 10 certain
degIee, at the shrine Of her charms Of personal
beauty and brilliant mental requirements.
Mature has given her an influence over man,
more powerful, more perpetual, than his over
her; from birth to death, he takes help and
healing from her hand, under all the most touch
ing circumstances Of life her bosom succors
him in infancy, soothes him in manhood sup
ports him in sickness and in age. Such infu-
ence as this, beginning at the spring Of life and
acting IN all Its most trying moments, must de-.
teriorate or improve mans character-must di-'
1
the moral and intellectual graduation Of women.
Thus, upon her improvement in particular, de-
| ponds human improvement in general"
| Setting aside individual happiness, and all the
pleasures of the social circle the comforts Of do
mestic life, the cheering Of the smile and voice
that greet the husband and the father, the nature
OF society urges strong strong reasons why
men should get married. Because human i'm
provement the good Of the world, depends upon
woman in her proper sphere. Our first les
sons are the instructions Of her lips, and our
earliest impressions are taken from her exam
pies. Thus il is that we carry into society her
influence which extends throughout all ranks
and classes Of mankind.
Woman's influence, therefore, not only sheds
a mild and cheering lustre over the hearts Of her
friends around the fireside of her family, and
within the narrow sphere in which nature
has placed her, but upon the whole world. II
enters the haunts Of vice, and drags forth the
victim of the bowl, dashes il from his lips, and
restores him to reason and to a virtuous life
1t prevents the prostitution of those qualities,
which ennoble, dignity, and elevate man above
all other things.
II prevents crime in its thousand forms, and
makes man virtuous, when he would otherwise
be vicious. 1t carries peace and prosperity where
trouble and adversely would reign, and gives
birth to thousand pleasures that would other
wise never exist.
The young man who is fond of the society
Of vrtuous females has better capital for his
character, than birth of wealth could give
him. He is looked upon as moral and virtuous
young man, because, generally speaking, only
such take pleasure in the refinement of female
society.
Take it all in all, therefore, marriage is neces-
sary, for mans happiness, for the true formation
of his character, for the peace of his home the
comfort of his heart the JOY of his youth, and the
solace of his years.
In fine man nerer becomes a member of
society until he is married. Unmarried, he is
looked upon with disgust. He has no home, no
| abiding place, no anchor to hold him fast but is
a mere piece Of foat-wood on the great tide of
time. His interest is not with society, farther
than the accomplishment of some selfish object
is concerned, and he cares not for the welfare
of the generations springing up around him, and
who are TO live after him. He becomes embit-
tered in his feelings against all mankind, misan-
thropic, parsinomious, morose, and irascibe.
| To our friends of the Aurora, and TO all young
men who are looking after happiness, we say,
therefore ''GET MARRIED"
If you are DESTROYS of wealth, get married.
4 for good wife promotes habits of industry and
economy and prevents great many unnecessa-
ry expenses which cannot be avoided in single
life.
IL you are looking for stations of distinction
and honor, get married. for good wife will
seek to advance her husband in the prosecution
of all honorable purposes, and lend him that aid
and encouragement which he can derive from
no other source
II you would become good citizen, get mar
RED, for he IS alone worthy Of the title, who is
connected to the great family OF man BY the
ties of husband and father.
II you are fortunate, get married. for good
wlie VIII increase your prosperity and render
lun tttrtpo voIf -, al.