Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1840-12-17

himself agreeable 10 her; after marriage
II II often happens that he thinks more oi
being agreeable 10 himself. How often
it happens that married men, after having
| been away from home the liyelong day,
during which the wife has tolled at her
duties, 90 nj evening again 10 some pace
II of amusement, aud leave her 10 toll on
alone, uncl,-ered aud unhappy. How
often II happens that her hindest oihces
I pass unobservcd, and unrewarded even
/ by q snlle, and her best etturls are CON
| de med by the fault finding husband. -
| How often il happens, even when the
evening is spent at home, that II is EN-
pioy ell in silent reading, or some other
way that does not recognize The wile's
\ right 10 SHARE IN The ENJOY ment even Of
the fire side.
! Look, ye husbands, II moment and Ic-
member what your wife was when you
took her, not from cniDpulslon, but II ON
I Jour own choice u choice based prob
ally, on what you considered her supe-
! rio,llv Ia nll Others. She was young
perhaps tho idol Of II happy home shr
VAS gay aud blthc as the Lark, and the
brothers and sisters at her fathers fire.
side cherished her "a an object ol en-
deaiment. Yet she leil all 10 ! IN h'r
destiny with yours; 10 make your home
happy, and 10 do all that woman's love
could prompt and woman's ingenuity de-
wise, 10 meet Your wishes and To- hghten
The hurd' ns which might press upon ou
IN your pilgrimage. She, ot course, had
her expectations too. She could not tn
tertain feelings which promised 20 much,
without forming some idea of recipro, a
tion on your pant aud she did expect you
would after marriage pcri"rm those kind
Offices Of which you were s, lavish IN
the days oi brlrutnmrnl. She become
your wife lcl her own home Tor yours;
burst aSunder, as II wore, The bands oi
love which had bound her To her fathers
Ieside, aud soug ht no other boon than
your affections leit, II may be, the ease
and now, what f%ist be her feelings II
she gradually awakes 10 the conscious
ness that you love her less than before Il
that your evenings are spent abroad
that you only come home at all To satisfy
The demands Of your hunger, and 10 find
il resting place for your head when wea-
ry, or nurse for your sick chamber when
diseased
Why did she leave the brigh, hearth
Of her youthful days! Why did you ask
her TO give upihe enoyments ola happy
home? Was ii simply to darn your
stockings, mend your clothes, take care
of your children, and watch over your
sick bed' Was 1t simply to conduce TO
10 your own comfort; Or was there
some understanding that she was to be
made happy in her c"nnexion with the
man she dared 10 love?
Nor is it n sufficient answer that YOU
reply that you give her home that
You feed ard cloIhe her. You do this
Tor your help; you would do it for an
indifferent housckeepcr. But forget not
that a wife is more than II housekecper
She is yo'n rife, and unless you attend
To her wants, and IN some way answer |,
the reasonable expectations you raised |
by your attention before marriage, you l
need not wonder If she be detected, aud |
her heart sink into insensiblIity; but il /
this be so, think well who il the cause Of
it. We repeat it, very few women make |
indifferent wives, whose fec lings have |
not received some outward shock, by |
the Indifference or ihoughrles ssness Of
their husbands 1t Is our candid opin.
ion that 10 Il large majority ol the inslan-
ces OF domestic misery the mun IS The
ago rcSsOr