The Camden journal. [volume] (Camden, S.C.) 1836-1851, 1840-08-01

small delicate attentions
which your sex, when disposed, know SO
we'll how 10 pay, and which are so highly
priced by my own. But ] find that am
writing an essay myself. and must there
fore stop, lest should grow tedious. AL
low me, however, MIR. Editor, before |
close, to ask the husbands Of Camden to
give the article perusa, as l believe it
is calculated to do good. l do not know
whether the "Dispatch" is edited by
lady, or not: if it is not, it must be by a
married man, who to say the least is on
very intimate terms with "his better half,'
as he seems fully to comprehend all our
motives Of action.
MATILDA VICTORIA.
To MAKE WIVES LOVE THEIR HOMES
ANp DAUGHTERS TOO.
a great deal has been said, here and
elsewhere, about the stay at home duty Of
wives; and the Obligation under which they
live, to make home pleasant and COM
Portable, attractive and all that. The in
ference from this one sided preachment
and caution is, that men have nothing to
do in the matter; and that nothing depends
upon them in relation TO the comforts of
what is intended IL be TIC pleasant place
upon earth. Women are scundly rated
for gadding, as if they had no right 20 be
seen oat Of doors; while men may treat
their houses as mere cook-shops and
places where lodgings are provided for
them-coming in only to their food and
to their beds, and nobody questions either
their right thus to neglect their families,
or the propriety and policy Of such neg
lect.
When man thus contemporary treats
his home, and ev;nccsin every action bis
preference for any place except his own
fresiIe, what arc we to expect of thc rest
Of ",he folks" but that they should emu
late the father of the family, and despise
home, too! If they make it comfortable,
it must be from selfish consideration en-
tirely; for nobody cares any thing about ii
for more than an hour at time. All the
efforts of the wife to call attention to i'm
provemenis and alterations in the house.
hold bcir. lost, or, al most. responded to
in the language and tone OF Indifference,
she becomes dispirited; and naturally
learns TO put small estimate upon what
receives but small consideration from
others. OF course she must "gad" or be
Wives and religion are treated very
much alike in this world. B0th, to use
IL iiibcrnicism, are conceded the ono
hing ncc.ful-and both are neglected.
70 both 4 great deal Of lip worship is
1ail-and towards both, to do human !
nature justice, there is great deal OF
warmth of heart. 1t is, however, but an
abstract feeling sentiment By fits and
starts, which comes over one when he is
melted By adversely, or chcerea by extra
ordinary good fortune. Ii comes out upon
great occasions, but in the daily walks Of
ifc, where its influence should be seen
md felt it is hidden thing. If a man is !
lying himself, he calls upon his maker
with as much fcrvor as if he had never
orgollen him: and IL his wife is at the
ooint Of death. iia nja..cs himself Is busy !
md anxious as if he lad never forgotten
lcr. The same feeling, equaiscd through
lis life, would prevent mans terrible
anxiety at the hour of death; and proper
md attentive care Of his wife. at all times, !
md under all circumstances, would leave
lin no necessity to be over anxious to
ltone for usual rcmissncss when she is in
langer or distress.
Every married man who does not know
hat his wife's whole soul is in her house
ought to learn it. If such be not her dis
position, he vii! stand IA fair chance to be
Unhappy; unless, indeed, he can find scmc
means to alter hcr tastes. oT TO CONFORM
lis kouschoid anG his ours is to her Pc
;uliar mental conformation. Waiviig
ucl., as extraordinary cases, and taking
Yomen as We usually find them, The mar
led man should consider his house as his
vifc's empire; and if he would obtain and
,eep a hold upon her sincere affections,
lc must learn to feel All interest in al lhat
he does within her proper sphere. The
eriest trihe that takes place at home by
cr direction is conducted with view to
rs comfort and his wishes. Men do not
hink Of this sufficiently. Their cares and