Vermont phÅ“nix. [volume] (Brattleboro, Vt.) 1834-1955, 1840-05-29
PHOENIX.
ADVICE TO YOUNG LADIES.
BY MRS, FARRAR.

must carry your good manners everywhere
with you. II is not thing that can be
lad aside and put on at pleasure True
poiteness rs uniforui disintcrestedness in
tribes, accompanied by the calm sefposses,
sion which belongs to a noble simplicity OF
purpose; and this must be the effect of a
Christian spirit running through all you do
or say, OF think ard unless YOU cultivate
il and exercise il upon all occasions and tow.
aids all persons, il will never be part of
yourself When you try to assume it for
some special purpose, il win sit awkwardly
upon you, at your utmost need. Ii you are
not polite 10 your washerwomau, you are in
great danger of not being so 10 the lady
whom you most wish to 'propiliate; you can.
not be sure OF possessing yourself; rude
ness OF manner, occasionally INDUCED. will
Steal upon you unawares The charm,
which true Christian polileness sheds over
person, though not easily described, is
felt by all hearts, and responded to by the
best feelings OF our nature 1t is a taisman
of great power, to smooth your way along
The rugged paths OF life, and to turn tow.
ards you the best side of all you meet.
This poiteness is very essential to the
right transaction Of that great business OF
woman's lie. shopping. The variety affor-
died BY the shops off city renders people
difficult to please. and the latitude they take
in examining and asking the price OF goods
which they have no thought Of buying, is
so trying TO the patience Of those who attend
upon them, that nothing but the most per.
feel courtesy of demeanour can reconcile
them to it. and then it is hard enough 10
ber. Shopping in The country is quite a
different thing it is serious business, des-
patched with all convenient speed. at the
end Of a long lide or walk. and, if the coun.
try store does not contain what you want,
you must take what you can get. and make
the best oil it. Instead OF being assiduously
waited upon and pressed to buy. you can
hardly get the busy owners eye or ear, or
find out the price Of the articles you really
wish TO purchase; the customers, on fine
day. are so numerous and the attendance so
scanty, There is very little pleasure in
such shopping, and very few of the tempta.
tons which belong TO what passes under
this name in a city, where it is often "a
vorite pastime young ladies'. 1t furnishes
an excuse. in their opinion, for entering all
the finest shops, and looking at all sorts oil
pretty things They like the consequence,
which they fancy they derive from being
the purchaser of some article, which is to
them a great affair, and to which they at
tached SO much importance, that they will
spend hours, and walk miles, to get par
iiculir shade OF colour, or the precise form
and texture. on which they have set theiI
hearts. Too much time and too many
Thoughts are often lavished. in this way, on
trn-s and 10 this respect and 10 have some
consideration for those who wait upon their
caprces. Ii, when you wish to buy pail
OF gloves. o. belt, or bonnet riband
you go into twenty stores, and tumble oveI
the goods in each, and take up, the time
and try the patience OF twenty people. think
how disproporlioned is the trouble you give
TO the want in question. Some persons be
have 10 shopping, as il no one had rights
or any feelings, but the purchasers as i
the sellers Of goods were mere automatons
put behind the counter to do their bidding
they keep them waiting, whilst they talk o
other things with friend; they call TO
various goods, ask the price, and try Il
cheaper them. without any real intention o
buying. A lady who wants decision D
character, after hestating and debating
ill the poor traders patience is almost ex
hausted, will beg him TO send the articleto he
house, for her 10 examine il there and. alie
giving him all this trouble. she will refus
to purchase it, without any scruple or apollo
CIV. Some think they have right TO ex
change articles at the place where the,
were bought; whereas, that privilege shout
be asked as favor. only where you are
good customer; and then, but rarely. Flo
the sake OF buying a common calico dress
some girls will run through all the dry
goods stores theycan find, tumbling over
counler-full Of printed goods in each; ash
ing for patterns at every place. and yet ne
make up their minds TO buy either The
are so puzzled by the variety, they cann'
choose. Now. would il not be far better, !
confine Yourself to two or three stores wher
you are known, and where you can rel
ueoa what is said, and where they have b.
one price2 II is great mistake, to SUI
pose that you get things cheaper, for dea
ing with persons whom you ca
bee, down in their prices, for such person
always begin with asking as much mol
as thew mean to abate, Of a customer WI
is in that habit. When you have quite d
cided on the price of goods you prefer, as
ing for a pattern Of that, to see hit Will was
well, is all very propeI II your dealing
are confined to lew places, and 10 persoI
whokuowyou. youcanwitha bettergracea
them, sometimes, to wait upon you in vain
but, when you have given strangers muc