Madison Whig advocate. [volume] (Canton, Miss.) 1839-1841, 1840-05-16

tell you whether the girl who refused
you would have been worth having had
she accepted. | am speaking of verbal
communications only, as nobody ever
writes who can speak. 1t is usual, in
cases of refusal, for the lady to say. that
she is deeply grateful for the honor you
have done her-but feeling only friend
ship for you she regrets that she cannon
accep, your proposal, &c. have heard
the words SO often that know them by
heart. The words, however varied, sig
Nifty littie-it IS the tone and manner in
which they are pronounced, that must
guide you in forming your estimate OF
the cruel one. If they are pronounced
with evident marks Of sorrow instead Of
triumph, showing unfeigned regret for
having caused pain which she could not
alleviate--if her voice is soft, unbroken
and tremulous-her eye dimmed with u
half formed tear, which it requires even
an effort to subdue, then, say. you may
share in her sorrow, for you have pro-
badly lost a prize worth gaining-but
though you grieve, you may also hope,
if you are man of any pretentions, for
there is evidently good feeling to build
upon. Do not, therefore, fly out, and
make an idiot Of yourself, on receiving
your refusal, submit with d good grace,
solicit a continuance of friendship, to
support you under a heart crushing af-
Fiction you have sustained. Take her
hand at parling-kiss il frequently, but
quietly-no outre conduct of any kind
Jest little at The expense Of your own
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deprive her Of the honor Of the victory
Rise in her estimation by the manner ia
which you receive your sentence; let
her sorrow be mingled with admiration,
and there is no knowing how some
things will change. These instructions,
you will perceive, are not intended for
every one, as they require skill, tact,
quickness, and feeling, in order to be APP
preciated and acted upon. If you want
these qualities, just make love. purse in
hand--it is a safe mode OF proceeding,
and will answer admirable with all ranks
from Almack's TO the Borough There
is only one class with whom il will an
swer, and that is the very class worth
having.
''If, on the other hand, the lady refuses
YOU III u IeddS ultiG dnu WSii uCilFCASu
speech, which had evidently been pre-
pared and kept waiting for you. then
make your bow and thank your stars for
your lucky escape. If she admonishes
your inconsiderate conduct, bids you
calm your excited feelings, and support
affection IF she triumphs in fact, and is
condescendingly polite, then cut caper
for iov, and come down in the attitude Of
job Bologna's fying Mercury, for you
have cause to rejoice. If the lady snaps
al you, as much as TO say, ''You are an
impairment fellow, (which may. some
times be true, though it should not exact
ly be told-ihen reply with few stan
zas Of Miss Landon's song:
''There is in southern clines a breeze,
That sweeps with changeless course the seasi
Fixed to one point, oh faithful gale!
Thou art not for my wandering sail''
If she burst out in a large fit Of laugh
ter, as once knew lady to do, then
Join her by all means, for you may be
sure she is an iIl-bred hayden, or down.
right idiot Bat, if unable to speak,
grief, at having caused you pain, makes
Der burst into tears, as little Swedish
girl once did when such proposition was
made to her, then join her if you like,
for the chances are that you have lost one
worth weeping for.