The Caledonian. [volume] (St. Johnsbury, Vt.) 1837-1867, 1840-09-22
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'"g which is reple,e with happiness or muse
'"'' 'rlo ;ssue depends upon that prudent, ANN
~ ;c,,,, conduct, which wisdom and virtue SO
"'' w., ,.,ommend, on the one hand, or on tba'
"''s' ,,hicb want Of reflection or passion
NAV prompt on the o'her' :,
NV; -, allied TO II man of honor, OF talents, ana
~ oooo, generous disposition You have' there
" '' ,our mower, all the essential ingredients OF
WV" tonnipess il cannot be married, IT you
nnon that system Of conduct which
.,uh, invariably to pursue-ii you now see
!,a,rlv the path from which you Will resolve never
1,io,c Our conduct IL often Inc result OF
.,,;r mr. ,,prce; often such ms will give US many
Unless we see lbs foreliand what is always
n., n,ois,wor,hy, and the most essential to happi
ness -
rho first maxim YOU should allow is, never to
.,oro0, IN control your husband by opposition, by
,,.,oo,urs or any other mark Of anger. A man
.r,,.o Of p,udcnce, of VAIN feelings, cannot,
and will not bear an opposition Of any KIND, winch
i. attended by angry look or expression me
,.,o, of his affection is suddenly stopped; his at
,,,bmeut is wenkeued he begins to feel north
,,,oa the most pungent; he is hetttled even III
ts avn eve; and be assured the wife who once
syc,,s those sentiments in the breast of husband
will never regain the high ground which she m'gh'
md cuqh, 10 have retained When lie marries
her, il he be a good man, he expects to lind her
ana who is no, to control hin,--not to take from
him the freedom of acting his own judgment
shall direct but one who will place such
confidence in him, as TO believe that his pur
dente il the best guide. Little things, what IN 'e'
aIiry are mere lriles in themselves, often produce
chickering's, and even quarrcis Never permit them
to BIZ a subject of dispute y icld them with pleasure,
with n smile Of affection. Be assured that one dill
icruncc ou,weghs them all a thousand Or ten thou-
sand times A difference with your husband ought
10 he considered as the greatest calainity-as one
hsls 10 be studously guarded against; 1t Is DEM
which must never be permitted 10 enter tahab
i,nlOn where all should be pence, unimpared con
fdeucc, aud heartfelt affection. Besides, what
can woman gain by opposition, or indifference!
HOthIng. But she loses every thng; she loses her
husbands respect Tor her virtues; she loses h's
love- and, with that, all prospect of future hapri-
ness She cIeates her owl misery, and then ulters
idle and silly complaints, hut ulters them in vain.
The love of husband can be reganed only by the
Mgh opinions which he enterlains of his wife s
goodness OF heart, Of her amiabc disposition, OF
her sweetness, Of her prudence, Of her devotion 10
him. Let nothing, upon any occasion, even lessen
that opinion On the contlaiy, he should have
much more reason TO admire her for those excel
lent qualities which will cast lnstre over vrtu
Gus woman " hen her personal attractions are nc
more.
yo liz. lIll "A 4
'eds When he returns, receive him the partner
OF your heart iias he disappointed you in some
mig you expected, whether of ornament or of fur
niime, or any convenience? Never evince discon-
tent; receive his apology with cheerfuluess. Does
he, when you are housekeeper, invite company
without Informing you Of it,or bring home with him
A"end Whatever may he your repast, however
scanl' Hmay be, ri how impruclcabIe it may be
"'dd to it, receive them with pleasing counten'
Hnce adOrn your table with cheer fullDess, give to
your husband and to your companya hearty wei
come; 1t will more than compensate for every 9th,
detlcency; it will evince love for your husband,
soOa sense in yourself, and that poteness of man
"n which acts MS The most powerful charm! 1t
VIII give to the plaines fare zest superior to all
wat luxury can boast. Never be discontinued on
my occasion Of this nature
'u'''vate your mind by the Ternsal of those
'''NS which will instruct while they amuse. Do
NV ueV"'n much of your time to novels; there are
u" winch may be useful and improving in Civ
"'she tone to our moral scnsibiity, but they
' " Nlate the taste and TO produce disrelisl
substantial intellectual food. Most plays have
same cast; they are not friendly TO the delica-
""'ch Is one of the ornaments of the female
raw. I,D'' History, geography, poetry, moral es
,.;,, s'aphy, travels, sermons, and other wei
religious productions, will not fail TO en-.
Oroo.t, '' understanding, 10 render you more a
O'' companion, and to sxhalt your virtues
M ueVoId oil rational ideas, of religion, ha
,,..: Tor her virtue; it is sacrificed to he
sOye,n;' whose voice, not that of God is her onl,
,,.;, principle Besides, in those hours of CT
Min u" which families must be exposed, whor,
,. Sne md support, lift be not in her just reflec
upon that all-rulng Providence which gov
la, "e universe, whether maintained or nnima
~. VIII only Md, that manimated happiness doe
'spend upon wealth.; no, it is not 10 be foun