Herald of the times. [volume] (Newport, R.I.) 1830-1846, 1840-12-17
A CHAPTER FOR YOUNG HUs.
BANDS.

Walking the other day with valued
friend who had been confined a week or
TWO by sickness TO his room, he remark ed
husband might learrS good lesson by
beng occasionally confined TO his house,
by having IN this way an opportunity Of
witnessing the cares and never-ending
tolls ot The wife, whose burdens aud du-
tics he might never have otherwise un-
dcrstood.
There is a great deal of this thought,
perhaps enough for an "ediioriot -
Men, especially young men, are called
by their business during the day mostly
away from home, returning only at the
hours for meals, and as they then see
nearly the same routine of duty, they
begin TO think that it is their own lot to
perform all the drudgcry, and be exerci-
sed with all the weight al care and re-
sponsibility. But such a man has got
very wrong view Of the case he needs
an opportunity for more extended obser-
valion, and it is perhaps for this ve,y
reason that a kind Providence arrests
him by sickness, that he may learn in
pain what lie would fail to observe in,
health. We have seen recently good
many things said in the papers to wives,
especially ioyonng wives, exposing their
iaulis, perhaps nagnllying them, and
expanding 10 them, in none Of The kind
est terms their duty and the Offices per-
tanning to woman's sphere" Now,
we believe that wives, as a whole, are
really better than they are generally ad-
united TO be- We doubt il there can be
found large number Of wives who are
disagIeeable and negligent, without
some palpable coIdness or short coming
on the part of their husbands So far a.
we have had an opportunity for obscrva-
tlon, they are far more devoted and faith \
ful than lhose who style themselves their 4
lords, and who, by the customs of socie 4
iy, have other aud generally more pleas /.
ant and varied duties TO perform. We
protest then, against these lectures so Of
ten and obtrusively addressed 10 the la
dies, and insist upon II that they must,
most oi them, have been written by some
fusiy bachelors who knew no better, or
by some inconsideraic husbands " no de-
serve to have bcen OLD bachelors to the
end OF their lives. But is there nothing
Ia be said on the other side Are hus
hands 50 generally the perfect, amiable,
injured teings they ave SO often repre-
sented' Men sometimes declare that
their wives extravagance have pickle d |
their pockets, that their never ceasing 4
tongue. have robbed them Of their peace, 4
aud their general disagreesbleness has
driven them to the tavern aud aiming
table bat this Is generally the wicked
excuse ior most wicked life on their
own part. The fact is men often los,
their interest in their homes by their own
neglect ~ make their homes pleasant and
Interesting. II should never be forgot
ten that the wife has her rights, as sacred
after marriage ~ bofore, and a good hus
bands devotion 20 his wife after mar
rIsge will conceGe In her quite a.
much attention as his gslla0try did while
n lover. lit is otherwise, he most gen.
orally is Ut fault.
Taks few examples. Before mar.
risRe young man would feel some deli
escy about accepting an invitation a.
spend an evening 10 company where has
love" had not been invited. AZ
.e, rsyriasc il 30 always az psriiculorl
DnIng toe days of co1risni2, hi. gsIlsn'. d
n y cu.s demand that hs should nah f.