Litchfield enquirer., 1840-01-09
No. g. WHOLE No. 7Os.
.MARRIAGE

tE .,,' "t "lans " me LOfu God said. E W,ll I!. make for him helpmate.'' 7 This do,-5. mesuc constitution is a distinguished char
 arac'eF's'ic of christianity, and, is esseb,isF
 "ls"e elevatlon and happiness of our. raee.s l Every young man should, theysfrFe.s;G possible contemplate being married. l lie christian duty, as well as a nFiyileoe ,o.
 Fave comnaRion to share with voS ,bs
 responsibilities, interests and enioyman,... "f life. .Ifa man is in circumstances io bs
 married he is usually less useful tc society
 aid peliraps always less happy for rcnain- ing in the single state. That he nay ke, perfect and entire, wanting nothing,he .musf
 have wife. 2sts @ y< e,t.-.t s' ag.E- ga When man lives single beyond tic proper time for being hurried, there is a P'evalcnt suspicion among the other sex .nat ne IS addicted to vice. I do not know. ! out hls Judgment is a little seyere--for l mere are some ,hacl.elors of ofunquestiouable v'riue. But ihat iherc is a foundation for general suspicion of this sort. will hardlv be questioned and the vicious tendenev of celibacy, in communities, are very geneL rally known and nowledped. 'T
 The time for marrying afler the pcr;od 'no'eated by nature has arrived, must of course vary somewhat with circumstances. As general rule, early carriages are desi- rable but lhemthey should be under. one or two conditions, either that ofA property inherited or already acqiired, e,gequate ;.,. the usual expense, ar thai of simplicity and frugality in thc style, Of living, suficient tes I reduce the expenses: witlii1 tlie pfeseae earnings. The latter is, always the 'best.-
 IS the happiest and most vir,uous state of society, m chihe husband aud wife ser out early together, make tl,eir property to-, gether, and with perfect sympathy of soul graduate all their expenses, plans. calcula. tions, and 10 their future and conGaon in,e- rest. .'1 . ,..1s'2e' s05'"f ;'3.'i'l3I'l { at l esNoth'':g delights nie more tl,an to entny. ,"e neat little tenement of,he young coup-
 le, who within perhaps two Or threS yearr
 without '''''t any resources but their own knowll
 edge and industry, have joined Heart and
 hand, and engaged to share togc,her the
 responsibilities, duiiess interests, trials and
 pleasures Of life. The industrious wife is cheerfu!ly employing her. own hands in do-
 messic duties, putting her house in order,
 or mending her husbands clothes, or rsres
 pairing aifdinner, while perhaps the ii,tla
 darling sits prattling upon the floor, or lies sleeping in the cradle-and every thing
 seems preparing to welcome the happiest | of husbands apd the. best of fathers, when
 he shall come from his toll, to enjoy tic
 sweets Of bis lit,le paradise. This is the
 true domestic pleasure, s'ahe only biiss that siirvivedf ihe fall."sI iHealib, contentmens., love, abandance. and bright prospects sara all here. g. i5 ,ssea .g9l1 gs' slf'aasig lt5
 -'dRut i, h.. lo.o,,,, ,tul n :, :. ,. s
 that man must acquire his fortune before
 he marries; that the wife must have no. :. sympathy, nor share with him in ti,e pur.
 suit of n, in Ni,ich most of the pleasure cons sists and iIlat young married people muse set opt with as large and extensive an es- tabiishmrnt, as is becoming ihose who have been welded for twenty years. ,'s | This IS very unhappy. IL fills the com- mnnIty with bachelors, who are waiting so make their fortunes, ,endange virtue and promoting vice :; if destroys the true econ. on'y and design ofthe domestic ins,itDtion; and it promotcs idleness and inefficiencv among females who are expecting to be ,a- ken pp hy,R fortune. and passiyely sustain ed without any care or concern on ,heir' part--and, thus many modern wife be- comes ,eas a gentleman once remarked, not a." helpmate,'' b0tia help eat. ,ss8iga9 | eif'TheFe is ahotheF unpleasant evil attend. ing this, especially as it bears pretty severeL l ly on. the fair sex. When bachelors have nado tlieir fortunes and become some for- " or fifty years old, they, do not usually take wives of their own age, but they thAW abandon those with whom they have hilh- erto associated. end reqnite a!l the pieass IA. l. A. with utter neglect; they then select for their compahiohs the young and hloominn and thus leave to their fate a nunierJ4g class If worthy niaidens. ..,s q .t.e,r 9,,n, ,p Great disparity in natrimony is an evil in many particulars and what is moro un- natural than to see a young Miss welded to Wan old enough to be her father He ought to have sense enough to know, GtlS less sIe is m eccentric character, she nSv. CT rmarried him for love; and she ouehtaI. SD to know, that in consenting to marry him, she in all probability consented tp make herself a -wretchcd, ,slavc---tO put her- self the power of a man who had alrea- dy;expended his first and warmest love Up. on others; and who, by his superior aess his na,ured habits of pleasiDg himself ana of having his owR way, and the self impor= ,anee which property gives. was well qaali.s fed to ac, the part of ,yrant, rather than tha. of the husband. ..@s s,sss @ x ,sF
 Ifu young man has property, he may of coarse marry at . suitable age, and adopt the style of living, whishis justified by his means. But il he is destitute of property, bc has three aiternaliycs, and he can take his choice between them. Selecting . prns dent indus.rio1s person for his wife, he may marry young and i've in style ofsiMpliei- ty adapted to his income or he can wais